/ot/ - off-topic

>>2487534
Yeah I can't blame her. It would be a terrifying experience. Can't easily leave. Just the thought is scarying me.(sage your shit)

>>2486058
Dumb Pick me get banned

Pointless virtue signaling

>>2487831
I keep reading her name as Oscar Wilde kek

>>2487843
Thank God I'm not the only one

>>2486957
this thread is for mental disorders, retard.

>>2487406
My dad is like this. He thinks everyone who's wronged him secretly knows each other and is conspiring against him. His logical reasoning isn't even wrong but the results he reaches are wrong, which is why it's so hard to argue with him too. Like damn, I couldn't imagine being so self-absorbed I think everyone's out to get me. You're not important, bro.

>>2486933
So, BPD traits. The diagnostic code for this stuff is usually on a spectrum of mild to severe. Maybe not the full thing but it's got that flavor.
>>2486953
>real adhd is only diagnosed with a brain scan
Yes but nobody uses brain scans these days for a reason. And yes it's a neurological disorder but so what? It fucks up people's lives, fucks up their lives, messes with communication, interpersonal relationships and skills, et cetera.
t. adhdtard if that even matters. It's in the spirit of this thread, autists are also complained about and they're not a mental disorder, who cares

>>2487629
This thread is full of people talking about autism and ADHD, which are in the DSM and can broadly be lumped in with 'mental disorders' especially since many of us don't believe most people diagnosed with ADHD even have an inborn neurological condition. ADHD gets diagnosed the same way any mental disorder does, with a DSM-5 checklist and an assessment by a talk therapist, mostly based on the patient's self-report of symptoms and feelings and the clinician's perception of the patient's behavior, so other than some scientists claiming you're born with it (they also believe this about many PDs, schizophrenia, etc. by the way) it's essentially indistinguishable from a mental disorder. There isn't a brain scan or test that can diagnose it, it's just another 'do you check these boxes?' condition like depression or anxiety for all intents and purposes.

>>2487635
>Yes but nobody uses brain scans these days for a reason.
I really don't know where people got this idea but ADHD is not diagnosed with a brain scan… some scientists are trying to develop brain scans that can diagnose it (without much luck) but since it's definitionally a DSM diagnosis with subjective behavioral criteria, it definitionally can't be diagnosed with a brain scan, theories about a neurological cause (which also exist for 'mental disorders') notwithstanding.

I hate people with anxiety disorders so much theyre so toxic in the worst way possible. Like theyre not overtly shitty but they talk about how much they hate themselves all of the fucking time I cant stand their constant whinning and self deprecation. Theyre literal emotional vampires they suck all of the joy and self confidence out of you with their constant bitching and moaning. I hate them so much like holy shit theyre worse than narcs worse than bippies. So pathetic, whinny and covertly narcissistic.

I can't believe I'm saying this but honestly I don't think men are entirely at fault for choosing to wear beards, because I keep hearing stories about shaved men being rejected by women for looking "too young". Although this is still part of the ugly male psyop, certain women clearly have an obsession with older looking men and it's worse that usually they're all "baddies" with bearded gym rat masculine boyfriends so young moids are more inclined to listen to their opinion rather than the one of average women. A lot of young men when they want to get the attention of a mature, older woman start growing beards.

>>2487715
>hearing stories about shaved men being rejected by women for looking "too young"
In what hellhole is this occurring and how old are these men/women? At least where I live clean shaven men (or at least men with at worst like a 5 day shadow type of stubble) are clearly preferred by the vast majority of women, especially attractive/young women. The fact that attractive women generally prefer clean-shaven, long-haired moids is so obvious that I've seen entire male friend groups start growing their hair out and shaving like a pack of dominos when a single moid in their friend group does it because they notice how much more female attention the 'feminine' moid gets. I know there are certain specific subcultures of roiding gym men and tiny 'omgimsuchasmallgirl' gym girls where the older moid with huge muscles and beard + self-infantilizing bleached blond fillers+nosejob anachan type of couple is fairly commonplace, but that's really a tiny subset of people.

> A lot of young men when they want to get the attention of a mature, older woman
How frequently does this actually happen in your experience? I know some young men do like older women but overwhelmingly in my experience most men prefer younger women after they're out of their teens.

>>2487728
I live in a balkan country, here the beauty standards and expectations lean more towards looking as mature as possible, for both men and women

>>2487734
Makes sense nonna, my condolences. Let me guess all the men there shave their heads even if they're not balding.

>>2487759
Nah, this is the only good about them, most of them have actual hair on their head. Balding is not as common as in other european countries

>>2485591
>I bring little keychains because I prefer to sold out than bring them back home
But selling out is pretty bad though, it sounds good on paper but it really just means you could have sold more of it because the item was good. Having just a couple left is ideal because then you know you had enough for every person who wanted one. There's nothing more annoying than someone asking for something that's already sold out, that's a lost sale and a disappointed customer!

>>2485469
I remember these were really common at anime cons in the 2000s. Anyone selling these in 2025 shouldn't even be accepted into AA

>>2485763
AAs should really be more exclusive to ensure quality and to make people strive to get better.
I see too much shit like >>2416834 it makes me wonder if the general public lowered their standards. I was raised on deviantart and yes, people now use deviantart as a joke but back in the day everyone looked up to the major artists and the desire to be like them made people improve until some of them got even better, I've had enough of these slightly average (where the average is drawing a smiley face) artists that only rendermaxx because of tiktok but have no grasp of line/construction skill. This stuff is cheesy as best like a drawing of an OC of a middle schooler is and now is the AAs average artist. I'm not the best artist around but I got my fair share of sales and public because I can say that I can do both fanart and both original stuff with how deviantart shaped me in my anime phase, now the top artists are doing this >>2417053 , they're famous for some reason and new people look up to them and then when they reach their level, which can be done in a month, they simply stop. When I go to a con, I can see who's stagnant because has some kind of self blindness/lazyass and who's getting better and better, because the artstyle naturally shifts. It's sad to see and I wish I could make fun again of people that follow those "how to draw manga" tutorials instead of seeing them worshipped because they do fotm slop.

>>2485469
These are mental hospital arts and crafts kek. I always see moids with ponytails and ravers with fried brains selling these

>>2485804
I agree and disagree. I don't want AA to be just for big amazing established artists, I want it to also be for people who are new so they can try it out too. But there still has to be some level of quality there. Ideally these newbie people wouldn't sell much, making them realize they need to up their game or quit.
>now the top artists are doing this >>2417053 , they're famous for some reason
Social media I think. Even if they're shit, if they're entertaining to watch people who are likely on the same level find them inspiring they end up buying to support them. It can be intimidating to watch someone who is far beyond your level, so I can see the appeal of a low level artist. So they see these artists and think "wait, I could do that too!" even tho 99% of them will never even try selling the dream keeps them watching.

It's a friend's birthday soon and I don't really know what to get her since we aren't very close, is it okay to get her some jewelry which will go with her engagement ring or is it considered tacky/in bad taste? I wouldn't get her something as expensive of course.

>>2487714
Jewelry is tricky and a very personal thing. Also, she might take it as an insult because some people consider costume jewelry to be tacky, unless it’s obviously a joke gift.

>>2487717
I don't think she would take it badly, we had dinner a few days ago and she was wearing the rainbow cake fimo earrings I gifted her some 10 years ago, so she at least values my gifts no matter their price. I'm seeing her soon so I'll ask her directly, I won't able to attend her wedding so I thought it would be a cute way of saying I'm supporting her.

>>2487544
I think she would understand that I only want to catch up briefly. That approach sounds like the best one, just end things on a friendly note and nothing more

>>2487544
I think she would understand that I only want to catch up briefly. That approach sounds like the best one, just end things on a friendly note and nothing more

>>2487435
I'm not sure what the exact residency requirements are, but apparently she has Canadian residency.

She became the candidate on April 8
https://x.com/MeghanEMurphy/status/1909789634324049955

Bank accounted frozen the same day, and Vancity told her it was on government orders.
https://www.meghanmurphy.ca/p/just-when-i-thought-the-canadian

>>2487537
Last I checked she is a Canadian citizen (so I think establishing/re-establishing residency should be supereasy) but I'm just surprised because I thought she was currently full-time living in Mexico (which the article you linked seems to confirm) so I wouldn't think she'd want to run for election in Canada. Maybe she's bored in Mexico.

Thanks for the sources anon (although mods might nab you for not screenshotting so if you still can maybe delete and repost). But holy shit that's scary. I thought they could only do that during the emergencies act invocation and not in perpetuity.

>>2487543 I think she's still been coming back to Canada fairly frequently for prolonged stays for speaking events, networking, hanging out with family, etc.

Unfortunately to most normie Canadians she's just some fringe online personality they never heard of that might be a troll. Hopefully she can get someone to validate her claims to give them more credibility, maybe Justice Centre for Constitutional Freedoms or Canadian Constitution Foundation, or even just the National Post or a Conservative politician.

If they really just froze her bank accounts without giving her any justification or recourse, that's really worrisome, especially in combination with Bill C-63 that they tried to pass.

>>2487435
>I'm not even a suburbanite. I live right in the middle of the city centre.
Yeah, I get what you mean. I brought up suburbanites because when I was living in downtown cities, I'd work and study with people commuting in from the suburbs. I found that the suburbanites were the first to jump to defend any negativity re: homeless. I found that they were so blinded by ideology that they couldn't comprehend that the majority of the homeless in Canadian cities are voluntarily homeless and that they are mostly violent criminals. I could say something like, "gee, I hate that I have to walk by 3 hobos shooting up in public to get to the Loblaws," and they'd go on a monologue about how addiction is a mental disease, how the homeless can never be at fault for anything, about how the system is unfair, etc., etc., they could never just be like "yeah ikr lol fuck them" like my neighbours in the city centre. Since the suburbanites didn't experience life in a city, but they only understood it through the lens of ideology, there was a major dissonance for them on what the homeless should be, according to social media, and what the homeless actually are, according to personal experience.

>Carney shouldn't even be viewed as 'new,'
It doesn't matter to the majority. The majority of people are stupider than you could even imagine. They don't know who Carney is, they don't know what the Century Initiative is, they don't know what the WEF is. They don't care about any of that. What they care about is the colours and the faces. Liberals are red and Conservatives are blue. Carney is new and Pollievre is old. That's genuinely what it boils down to.

>>2487598
I still think she's by far the most famous/well known GC feminist personality in Canada even if a lot of people don't know who she is or think she's a fringe whackjob. It's not like most Canadians will take anyone running for the PPC seriously but if she's correct that the government was responsible for the debanking that's seriously disturbing especially since we're not under the EA anymore and they're not supposed to be able to debank you for political reasons in 2025.

>>2487631
>I found that the suburbanites were the first to jump to defend any negativity re: homeless.
I've noticed this too, the less exposure they have on the daily to the homeless population the more likely they are to coddle and defend them and use words like 'unhoused,' but I was actually pretty shocked that several men in our building's group chat were also calling them 'unhoused' or 'houseless' and ripping into the women living in the building (including one social worker woman who used to work for years at a homeless shelter) for saying we feel unsafe with them in the building and there's also young children here. Never change, Canadian men whose entire identity revolves around being "nice" (but not to the women saying they don't want to walk in on an angry crackhead masturbating when they come back from their work shift at 1am). Speaking of which my bf just told me today he witnessed the fourth liquor store robbery on our street in like two months and the woman working there just said "fuck this I'm leaving this country." You're right though there's nothing I love more than wealthy suburbanites condescending to people like us who live in city centers and have to deal with these schizos scaring us on the daily with their "poor dear unhoused, they are so cold!" spiel.

>The majority of people are stupider than you could even imagine.
Yeah I'm starting to realize this especially now that I keep noticing people literally have no idea who Carney even is and seem to be fine with the fact he openly identifies as more British than Canadian.
>That's genuinely what it boils down to.
I keep hoping that as things get worse and worse people will finally wake up from this mindset becauPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>2474173
>I graduated at the beginning of this year and have been looking for a job since several months before I graduated but still haven't found one.
Honestly, the job market has been absolutely awful and competitive. The hiring process is even worse in recent years due to the use of AI. Now you have to make sure your resume passes through the AI first before it reaches an actual person. Look into any articles on crafting your resume with that in mind. Back when I graduated, it took me a while to find a position too. I recommend applying to posts that say they require 1 or 2 years of experience regardless of the amount that you have. My first job in the field I chose to work in listed "1+ years of experience required." I only had a few months of experience from my internship but got the job despite not having anything close to that 1 year requirement. It really is a waiting game, but you'll find that job eventually if you push through it. You'll be alright.

>>2474173
I mean you're both right, right? Dedicating 40+ hours of your life each week to a job sucks ass and not being able to support yourself also sucks ass. It's both true.

Hope you find a job soon!

>>2477115
I think people underestimate just how shitty it is for your mental health to be unemployed though. I can see the other side too - if someone's been working nonstop for many years and have savings then taking a planned break (if you're confident you can get another good job after the break) can probably be really good for you especially if you have specific things you want to accomplish during that time, and a lot of people burn out. But bedrotting all day really isn't good for anyone and ceases to be satisfying to most people after a few days. NTA but I think she's just baffled that people could enjoy the hell that is having no way to make money and no secure future.

>>2477115
AYRT, I agree that both are bad but I think that people tend to forget about the negative aspects of being unemployed (I blame the 'femcel' memes and subcultures online like picrel that glorify being a NEET). Also, thank you!

I've been writing about everything that happened at my job since I was hired on my phone app to have a more global vision on everything that happened and so much insane bullshit happened so far I feel like I should just jump ship but the timing isn't right yet. I don't have to worry about money, but I want to have good references for later. My manager doesn't expect me to leave at all, I told her in January or December I plan to stay the whole year at least so I'm worried she'll become salty if I quit this summer when the company is already understaffed.

>>2486167
No it doesn't. There's a huge overlap between autism and adhd, while tourettes is a completely different condition. Having both tourettes and autism/adhd at the same time is extremely rare.

>>2487669
Yeah, but I don't ever mask. I basically came to realise at the age of 20 that I don't make eye contact while talking (well, I do while listening, but my eye contact was me looking at the other person and zoning out while they talked)

>>2486975
I have also noticed that those people completely lose their shit around actual autists because they aren’t getting the reactions they want, even though stuff like eye contact avoidance, monotone speech, and social disinterest are completely expected from us.

>>2487669
I think what anon meant was a book for learning how to mask? Though I don't think you can learn it from a book, but that it's something that happens semi-naturally. If you just learn the real social skills, that's it, just learning a social skill! I think masking is when it's kind of "off" and only done to hide your problems or finding an unusual way around it. Like shoving all your trash into the closet when cleaning instead of actually cleaning, or throwing out the whole room including furniture so now it's clean but you did too much.

But yeah rather than masking, what autists need is ways to learn social skills. I also really want something like that but it's hard for an average normie to understand how to teach an autist and the current online (fake) autist crowd is against anything that conforms to normal social standards so nothing like it is being produced.

>>2487699
No there isn't.

My sister met someone in art school who was dating an Asian-American guy for like 6 months and then went to Japan to get a Japanese boyfriend, succeeded, then dumped her Asian-American boyfriend.

>>2484609
just do what that alicecookie girl did, join a sugarbaby app kek
or find a kyabakura job asap if youre ok with an ugly moid, you can probably find one with money

>>2487387
>>2484609
Excellent. I can't wait for the latest addition to the Kabukicho Hoes thread.

>>2484609
I know several women irl who married Japanese guys and who currently live in Japan but they usual met them in Japan as exchange students in university or with dating apps and aftrr graduating they found jobs in Japan way before getting married. Most of them married for love and for one of them it was a shotgun wedding and she barely talks to her husband.

>>2487272
Stacy

>>2483745
Domo will be coming back now that the zoomies on pinterest have found him.

>>2487596
he's been in hot topic this entire time for the past 3 decades

Anyone else remember the Game Boy Advance Video carts? I thought it was incredible that I could watch full color/motion cartoons and movies on a handheld device kek.

>>2487499
‘Industry plant’ is the new internet phrase that needs to be shelved until people learn to use it properly. Like no shit most people do not rise to fame 100% organically, that’s how marketing works.

>>2487431
thank you! I will definitely check out Volcano Princess. I can't wait for work/stress to let up for a little bit so I can play.