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No. 1470488
As the title says.
Post experiences, why you can't stand them and such.
This is NOT about your own disorder, so don't blogpost/vent, there's already a thread for that.
This thread is about mental illness you can't stand in others.
Please refrain from coming in this thread and say stupid shit like "Oh that's why nobody likes me" or "Damn seeing this thread as a [thing] sufferer makes me uncomfortable" because nobody will pity you.
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>>>/ot/854673 No. 1470641
>>1470499Dunning-Krueger effect.
Not a mental illness per se, but yeah pretty annoying
No. 1472505
>>1471643at that age bpdchans are either long gone and have only 5% chance of ever changing, or are fully recovered. no inbetween
>>1470499most people I've met like this have been religious nutcases kek
No. 1472903
Pro-mia/ana people, since half of the disorder is psychological. Seeing their "thinspo" "weightspo" "bonespo" or whatever fucking weird terms they use scares me. The people in those pictures are like half dead zombies and somehow it's attractive to them.
>>1472836The issue is that they think their low self esteem = low ego too.
No. 1473022
>>1472505It’s actually around age 30 that bpdchans start to either mellow out or take a nosedive. Early 20s is prime bpd behavior.
Personally, I can tolerate any type of mentally ill people that actually want to get better and can admit they have a problem. Bippies, autists, bipolars, anyone can become well-adjusted if they put the work in and have support. But the type of people that think they’re JUST FINE and everyone ELSE is the problem are the worst fucking people on the planet. Also people that “don’t believe in” psychiatry or therapy. They’re always the most horrible nut jobs you’ve ever met.
No. 1473195
>>1470488I'm extremely biased due to personal experiences, but people who simply won't admit their mental issues, refuse help, and make it everyone else's problem is perhaps the worst mental illness and deserve 0 pity.
I'm not talking about the ones who downright do not have access/means to get help or the cognitive capacity to do so by themselves obviously.
My maternal family is cursed with severe mental illness they deny and refuse to seek any kind of help (unsurprisingly, a lot of them are tinfoil christcucks anti-vaxers and moderately anti-medical everything). In the end, I became the scapegoat doormat, a mentally ill crippled retard myself.
This isn't to say everything is my family's fault, as I'm an adult now responsible for my own consequences, but the older I get, and the more I talk through therapy sessions, the more I realize how badly I've been damaged because of fully grown adults decisions that I always took all the blame for and hated myself for.
This type of "wah I'm mentally ill therefore I'm excused!" behaviour amplified online in the past decade or so is just as dreadful.
I'm rapidly deteriorating and might not live much longer anyway so it doesn't matter, but the fear of becoming those I despise the most and perpetuating another cycle haunts me. The pain of hurting someone because of my own monstrous nature is far worse than the pain of locking myself away and cutting all contact with human life.
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>>1473235Nta but my family does adore me ♥
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>>1473247>>1473243Haters just jealous of my reborn baby monkey steez.
No. 1473566
>>1473560no source but personal experience, but no. they just try a lot and fail.
>>1473022 is correct and based with
>>1473195>>1473039every time bpd is mentioned in one of these topical threads, the intolerable bippies come to start arguments and defend themselves while being anti psychiatry for some of the reasons previous nonnies stated.
No. 1473606
>>1473593how exactly am i projecting? what "you people" am i? the intolerable bippies who come onto this thread whenever it is mentioned? isn't that what you said?
to be on topic, munchies are insufferable. i have to deal with one regularly and she's just about gone through any and all illnesses by now, not only that but she also diagnoses other people with shit. i lost weight because i got physically ill and i got the anorexia diag from her, some guy at work she is convinced is ocd. it's like how pixielocks has gone crazy consuming mental health content where she sees it everywhere.
No. 1473890
>>1473039we get it, you're
abusive and want attention from the thread.
Anyway, autism.
It's always fucking autism.
Either they were neglected and don't know jack shit and they just expect people to put up to their shit or they were helicoptered to the point they have a meltdown if someone doesn't even know autism, screaming that everyone is ableist.
Plus as another anon said in the previous thread, the diagnosis is so fucking vague it doesn't make sense, because it's a too large spectrum where you have slightly awkward people to severely retarded sacks of meat.
I wish there was a pre-birth exam that could see autism so we could abort them like those with down syndrome.
No. 1473984
>>1473447>> They'll bitch and whine saying they have no idea how to fix themselves but if you try and give them the slightest piece of advice, you know what they do.I feel this
nonnie. This is /r9k/ in a nutshell. I was trying to understand incels but they all have this attitude.
No. 1476456
Two of the most insufferable moids I've encountered have the same pattern, I wonder if they're actually diseased with something:
-Very petulant. Everything was a disaster to them but they didn't actively do anything to be in a better situation or remove the source of discomfort, they just expected it to disappear while bitching and moaning. I'm even talking about the littlest things, such as misplaced knives on the table.
-Grandeur delusions. They're clever, intelligent, better than anyone, beautiful…but at the same time, they felt suicidal by low self esteem, this cycle would go daily.
-They wanted everyone to invite them, include them, talk to them, acknowledge them…even people who don't know them
-No interest in other people. Can't name the favourite color/food/simple things about their so-called friends but if everyone didn't know them, they would meltdown.
The last trait?
-They both trooned out.
Coincidence?
No. 1480533
Gender dysphorics by far. TiFs, Aiden, fakeboys, dysphoric women, whathaveyou, all make me cringe. It's very embarrassing and retarded. I get the reasons why they gravitate towards troonism. Society at large, their upbringing, their sexuality, in some cases, their awful pasts. I get it logically due to the circumstances she was dealt with, she thought trooning was the answer but in my heart, I think it's just very stupid and low iq.
Detransers are fine, at least they woke up. Unless they are still suffering from 'muh dyphoria', then they're stupid.
No. 1492321
>>1492309Sad part is that once a person starts they never stop thinking about it. People can go 10+ years without doing it and decide they don't care anymore and break their streak. So I have some sympathy but at a certain point you need to find other coping mechanisms, especially if you're a parent. I've read about parents that cut and I can't imagine being a child of someone that self harms, it can't be healthy to grow up watching the person that's supposed to protect you harm themselves when things get tough.
Generally speaking though I don't have a lot of sympathy for parents with any kind of mental illness, including depression. I genuinely think that if you're mentally ill in such a way that can't be hidden from your kids, you shouldn't have had them. Bad genes can be counteracted by good parenting (nature vs nurture) but if you give a kid bad genes AND subject them to your mentally ill bullshit it's an absolute miracle if they turn out alright.
No. 1492720
>>1490303Anon isn't wrong though kek.
>>1492321I've noticed mental health awareness getting wider these years, which is a good thing, but it's spawned a lot of often young parents (early 20s) who are anti-recovery and expect their own fucking children to cater to their own mental illnesses. As if a child is expected to understand your outbursts and random emotional detachments to them. Just spreading the cycle, I guess.
No. 1500108
OCD but specifically the intrusive/fixation thoughts (idk if that's all OCD or only certain kinds). I tried dating someone who had very real intrusive thoughts and rituals. And even though I cared about them a lot, it was so so hard to have literally hours long conversations where they just would not be able to let a certain thought go. We would talk things to death, she was even in therapy so we would go over every single thought and it's like she knew they would be a distortion but she just couldn't let it go or change her thinking. Truthfully it just hurt too much because she would end up getting upset that she couldn't let things go, and I would get upset over feeling helpless not really knowing how to help her.
Like for example…maybe she would see a video online of idk some scene from a movie where an animal dies. And she would get it in her head that the scene was real, and an animal was actually hurt, and she would start to panic about it. And we would then talk about how it was clearly a movie, it wasn't an actual animal, how laws are in place to make sure animals aren't mistreated on sets and there's no way an actual death could get filmed in a movie, etc etc.. basically inventing and then shooting down every possible anxious thought she would have. And then after ages of that, she would still circle back to "well, I just can't be sure the animal wasn't hurt, I just can't stop thinking about it". And until the obsession passes, it would be all she could talk about.
I tried so hard to be empathetic but I am only human and I admit that it was the main thing that broke us up. She felt unsupported when I would get overwhelmed, and I felt helpless when she had bad days or backslides.
I still think about her sometimes and I really hope she is happier now and has found some way to let those thoughts go. The hardest thing was always seeing how much she wanted to just stop fixating, and would even cry sometimes because she would get so frustrated with herself, but I know it wasn't her fault. Shit, writing all this hurt my heart even though it was years ago. :/(:/)
No. 1500120
What I hate most are the people that get a diagnosis and 100% behave like what is written on wikipedia. I've known so many of them, when I was younger it's been bpd, than ahdh and now autism, their only personality trait is their diagnosis. Had people come up to me, seeing scars, telling my that I must have bpd like they do and that I might react xyz and if I feel like abc, the whole catalogue out of wikipedia and I only nodded because I always knew that I don't have bpd, I self harmed for other reasons.
Besides that narcissists, was raised by one with hysterical and overbearing traits and a lot of suicide baiting. Told her countless times that she should go to therapy, always got the "I know, it's my fault, but I can't change" speech, day later everything was forgotten, then it would start over and over again. It took years to understand that it's not my fault and it will take years to recover from it, but I'm happy that I'm setting boundaries and if she can't change, I don't care anymore, I can overcome my mental health issues, which, to some degree, were caused by her behaviour, so she should at least be able to try.
No. 1501024
>>1500790Seconding this. Especially those who have (or often pretend to have, I think) a 3edgy5you personality disorder.
Often also found in people who blog about their mental health for all internet to see, usually with self harm or suicide threats, using up resources others would probably get more help out of and continuing to cry about how you are the most tragic character in the entire universe.
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I hate bpd fags in denial. Literally exhibit all the symptoms have even referred to themselves as bpd and still don’t believe they have it.
I know this person who does lots of drugs, destroys friendships, lies to their psychiatrist, refuses therapy despite having the money and health insurance, self harms, and then tries to play it off like she’s some naive deer in headlights type where she tries to pretend she’s normie as possible because she lacks an original personality.
I’m seething because I was fucked over by this bitch.
It’s just a huge slap to the face that she’s covered in scars and doing hard drugs and has the audacity to try to make herself look reasonable and normal when she’s so far from that.
No. 1502119
>>1501855How does that make me better? Wow I can spot people with the same bad behavioral problems as me.
You sound insecure and need to stop projecting your inferiority complexes on internet randos.
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I'm so tired of pretending troons are women. Why do people entertain this mental illness? (Rhetorical question.) It's actually clown shit that something that looks like pic rel not only can call itself a woman, but can be sexist and have it be considered funny and appropriate. Fucking Buffalo Bill faggots
No. 1510789
Petulant BPDs.
Bippies are already bad to deal with but the petulant subtype is a hellspawn.
Talk to them? You're doing it out of pity. Don't talk to them? You're ignoring them.
Do plans with them? You're annoying. Do plans without them? You don't care about them.
Will rant for hours about a minor thing that bothered them and will ruin their entire day on it (for example, a misplaced cup) and then go down on a hating/self hating spiral (misplaced cup? it means you're an egoist because you didn't put it in a easy reach for them to find thus you're the worst fucking person to them). Will not seek help because despite feeling like shit, they deep down know, as in narc traits, that crying and shouting gets them attention.
They have no empathy, they mimic emotions. They can't, for the life of them, figuring out that they're a crying baby and people please them out of exhaustion. They expect you to be little actors of their mental theatre, once you get a day for yourself and failed to let them know you're offline, they will go berserk thinking you're actively hiding something from them.
They don't love. They can't fucking love. Expect them to go out with you, act like a nice person and then, after the night is over, spewing out every ounce of hate they have just because they didn't vibe with the night. They can't take no for an answer and can't take accountability.
If you hold them accountable, they will shift the topic to "You also did this/You made me do that.".
Waste of meat and breath.
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BPD. Self explanatory, no addition needed.
EDs especially anorexia. Like OP from the first thread said, it would be fine if they kept it to themselves but they always end up bringing everyone into it, commenting on other poeple's weight (even if they're at a healthy weight or even skinny), they just can't help but to project everything. I'm no HAES supporter but have you ever seen edtwt? Literally posting pics of random fat people, not even cows, and being cunts to them. They're like that IRL too btw, my two anorexic friends cant help themselves but to comment on strangers weight and eating habits.
Had a friend with severe anxiety and BDD and OCD and she was the most insufferable person ever. I ended up being forced into a caretaker role. She would self harm on her face then call me. She would also project her BDD on me. Like one time she came over, and first thing she tells me "Wow! Your skin looks really good aside from that one pimple" (i didnt even notice the pimple before she brought attention to it). She would also say stuff like "its compforting to feel sad and miserable whe you're drunk" and would romanticise the hell out of her issues.
Also i was fine with bipolar people but I just had intense drama with a roomate who's bipolar. EMTs literally came over last night and had to restrain him because he was being dangerously aggressive towards me. He's a 40 year old faggot as well btw. Anyways his lease ended yesterday so I'm free from him.
I suffered mental health issues when I was younger but that just makes me less empathetic because I know how much of it is selfishness, manipulation, refusal to take accountability, learned helplessness etc. I'm pretty much normal now (aside from sporadic deppressive episodes in which i keep to myself and dont bother other people and still remain somewhat functional). My thought process is that if I was a crazy crazy crazy bitch and got fully better and exhibit none of the behaviours I used to, that means that other people can get better too if they try. But they don't actually want to make an effort. Most mentally ill people, AT BEST, take their meds and go to therapy and thats it. They never actually try really hard and implement hard but necessary changes. They're too compfy in their own misery.
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>>1544313Rare footage of anon calling you mentally ill vs you calling anon sociopath
No. 1544487
>>1544336I'm more of a schizo myself
>>1544343Kek
No. 1544508
>>14923212 months late and I sort of agree with you, although
>if you're mentally ill in such a way that can't be hidden from your kids, you shouldn't have had them.is a pretty naïve take. People can develop serious mental illnesses after having children, even without having a
known genetic component. It's like when people (i.e. pRedditors) say that "if you're too poor to take care of your kids then you shouldn't have had them" when one's financial situation could very easily deteriorate from when they first had children, such as when losing a job. Circumstances change all the time.
No. 1544995
>>1544513>a poor kid has high chances of living a normal and average lifePoor kids on average are more likely to suffer from mental illness than wealthier kids, are less educated, more likely to commit crimes and/or do drugs, earn lower incomes in adulthood, live shorter lives etc.
Obviously not every poor kid will end up that way, and to assume so would be disrespectful. But you really cannot understate how heavily poverty impacts the development of a child—definitely
at least in the same way as a mentally ill parent, if not more—and it's ignorant to neglect that fact. Generational poverty is real, extremely well-documented, and horribly common in society.
>t. child of a mentally ill parent that ended up somewhat normal No. 1546417
>>1545924As long as the conditions of
>>1544995 hold true regardless (as it does in the real world), the genesis of the financial state does not matter; therefore the initial claim
>a poor kid has high chances of living a normal and average lifeis unsubstantiated. There is a lot that could be argued about who possesses agency under poverty, but that would launch an endless debate that ultimately does not fit this thread.
>>1545974Yeah you're right about that kek
I'm pretty busy in school though so at least I spend a little less time here
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No. 1567182
I don't believe in ARFID, that one very convenient eating disorder.
I don't believe in it because it's always fast food, sugary stuff or things like pasta and pizza, not normal food or some weird combination of them.
I understand not liking textures/looks of a food, for example I really hate "clear" soups, the kind where you can see the bits floating in broth, it makes my skin crawl, but I don't believe at all in something that's like:
>Ohhh I'm so skinny/overweight because I have ARFID and my only safe foods are pizza, chocolate milk, hot dogs and chicken nuggies :( Ohh I can only eat those! My disorder says so!
Shut up, god. Stop being such a bitch about food, grow the fuck up.
No. 1567199
>>1566737bitch, learn out of it. do therapy, idk, figure it out or stay alone. people who hurt others don't deserve empathy from their
victims.
No. 1567354
>>1567182knew a kid who legitimately had it, he'd pretty much have panic attacks if he had to eat anything outside of some extremely bland, extremely specific foods. not all junk food mind you. he wasn't being a spoilt bbrat, it was debilitating for him. he was also legitimately autistic
that said i'm sure there are plenty of uwu neurodiverse mentally ill smol beans who pretend to have it as an excuse to live on tendies
No. 1567415
>>1566737no one is inclined naturally though. just another anti-recovery type of post common to social media. yes you went through trauma and it damaged your brain, but if you're aware enough of this fact, can you not be aware enough to change?
it's just lack of responsibility.
No. 1567448
>>1567182I agree so much. A family member of mine who is also in her early 20s has it and it's so fucking stupid. I understand eating disorders, and I can see how someone who may have other conditions might not be able to try certain foods (i.e. autism, or if someone gets an upset stomach easily). She, on the other hand, has NO CONDITIONS.
>Eliminated chocolate in elementary school because it "made her throat itch" (she has zero allergies)>Eliminated meat in middle school because she found out about pink slime (she has zero moral, environmental, or dietary reasonings for refusing to eat meat)>regularly decides she can't eat something anymore, can't just say she doesn't want it, always insists it causes her physical discomfortIt's so fucking tiring to deal with. All she eats is pizza, macaroni, and other beige foods like garlic bread and rice krispies. Her diet was 75% tostino's pizza for probably 5-6 years (not exaggerating) and she had to have her gallbladder removed a few years ago because of her shitty diet. I don't personally care anymore, but it was embarrassing for a while when we'd be at more formal stuff around our family or when I was with friends. What fucking adult takes two bites of plain pasta with marinara and refuses to eat any more because "it tastes funny?" It tastes like every marinara pasta at every restaurant we've ever been to. I'm long past feeling mortification on her behalf, now it's just a matter of suffering through her eating choices. Our family is visiting in a month and she wanted to go to a concert, I don't mind driving the multiple hours to the venue but I do fucking mind that she sent me the menu to a chain called "I heart Mac & Cheese" and told me she wanted to eat there and that she already had scouted out the locations in my city and the city we're going to.
You literally cannot escape their cruddy diet because it 100% is attention seeking. I've known people with celiacs or other dietary restrictions, and they never bring it up and usually plan in advance what/when they're going to eat so they don't burden other people. People with ARFID require that everyone caters to them, from restaurant choice, to leaving things early because they're hungry and can't eat anything, to abruptly deciding they have to eat this one thing or can't eat something else. It'll be months since we've visited and the next thing I know we're driving 30 minutes to an italian grocers for one specific product. I love her and don't want to sound hostile, I just have never ever vented about this.
Part of my animosity toward this bullshit disorder is that I grew up with her, and her eating seriously affected mine. It took me until I was 17 to start trying new foods. I don't have ARFID, I'm a little picky but I'm not a child and if there's something I don't like I'll just eat around it or politely decline (which is a completely novel idea to people with arfid). ARFID (90% of the time in someone without some other condition) is a pathetic excuse used by people who were coddled as children who still want to be coddled as adults. Her health has suffered because of it, and it has and continues to impact other people. You can tell when someone is putting on a show of trying to get better too, and people with ARFID are absolutely terrible about it because they'll go on about how they finally got the courage to try a goddamn mango, and of course they didn't like it after having it in their mouth for a whole 3 seconds because of a texture thing or because "it tasted funny," but they expect you to be in absolute awe of their stunning bravery.
No. 1567484
>>1567182there are autistic people who has it like
>>1567354 says. But in those cases you can always tell when its genuine. Also if you seriously do have ARFID then you need to see a specialized therapist that will help you eating new foods instead of going "hehe i can only eat my safe food because of ARFID". It's obvious when people fake ARFID to be quirky. Tbh being a picky eater as an adult is embarrassing at best and unhealthy at worst. I would maybe have more respect for ARFID fakers if they admitted only eating pizza was a health concern and something they where working on.
What I specially hate is when parents diagnoses their own toddlers with ARFID. It's natural for a child to be skeptical over new foods and it's the parents job to guide them trough it stop blaming everything on disorders and do your damn job
No. 1568189
>>1470499i know this post is old but i have to respond because you just described an old coworker of mine to a T. it was insane how deluded and self-obsessed he was. i remember one time we were having a promotion where you scratched off a ticket to see if you got a coupon, there were three possible choices and you got to scratch one with each card having one win. he was talking about it and said each customer had a one in ten chance of winning and i was like no, they have a one in three chance of winning, cause there's three choices. he literally stared at me and went dead silent, it was the weirdest thing in the world, like he was malfunctioning irl. then without skipping a beat he went "obviously there's a one in three chance of winning nonna, i don't know why you would say there was a one in ten chance, that doesn't make any sense, haha there's three options so there's a one in three chance, duh." i was so shocked i didn't even know what to say, weirdest fucking moment of my life. he definitely had autism but i have no idea what else that made him so narcissistic and unable to accept he was wrong that the only way he could process it was by rewriting reality so the other person was wrong. it was nuts to see that kind of delusion in action.
No. 1568591
>>1568564I have a mom with OCD and crippling anxiety. Phone calls are hard bc any time I mention doing anything, the ritualistic warnings start. It sucks because I can't even tell her about mundane activities without knowing I activated her OCD and feeling terrible about it. Now, I just pretend I do nothing, just watch Netflix and go to work. No details. I can't even tell her I drove thirty minutes to visit my friend without knowing she'll be hyperventilating about it for days.
Last year she called me repeatedly, in tears, over a period of weeks, because she had a paranoid fantasy that I died of heavy metal poisoning. This happened because of one phone call where I mentioned I was eating a tuna sandwich.
No. 1568685
>>1568591My mom has OCD, and it requires intensive therapy, and often medication, to live a normal life.
An interesting fact about OCD, is it's moreso an amplifier for everything else you have. For your mom, her anxiety is made unmanageable
by OCD. My mom has a percocet addiction, for example, and it is all she can think of because she's physically disabled and in such severe pain, if she's not heavily drugged she's either thinking about getting more oxy or how she can't do anything due to her pain.
No. 1568718
>>1568693Sometimes OCD develops or gets worse later in life, anon. The changes you experience during pregnancy could probably even
trigger it. And it's illogical like many mental illnesses, some things may not
trigger your anxiety like other things do.
No. 1568792
>>1568591AYRT. Yes it's the exact same way with my mom. I can barely tell her anything going on in my life or else she freaks out. A week or so ago, I told her all I did was get gas for my car that day and she spiraled into this rant based off some movie my brother made her watch about how I shouldn't ever honk at anybody while driving even if they swing into my lane then leave my phone in the car while getting gas or else some guy will sneak inside while I'm filling up, grab my phone, find out where I live, and kill me and all my loved ones kek. I tell her she should really try to find something to do like crafting or scrapbooking like she used to and I'll pay for it all, but she thinks she's too old for that stuff.
>>1568693I typed out a whole thing but decided to condense it into: men seek out poor, mentally ill women like my mom and trick them with false love and promises of life stability and a happy family only so they can have a being with no strong support system they can use and abuse.
No. 1569027
>>1568693My mom wasn't physically disabled or addicted to Oxy/percocet until I was 12, and now she's unable to function without it
She's had OCD her whole life, hell, I have it worse than her but medication does wonders for managing it, so long as I avoid
triggers (raw meat, human/animal waste) as much as humanly possible. With some people, especially unmedicated OCDchans, those
triggers are unavoidable and you get people who are insufferable.
No. 1569221
>>1569027Sage for possible medfag but nona, have you tried ERP therapy? It's probably not a good idea to avoid
triggers because that just makes your OCD much worse. The whole purpose of ERP for OCD is exposure to that
trigger so the OCD can't attack it anymore. Medication helps, but it only blocks out the symptoms rather than gets rid of them permanently.
No. 1569423
>>1569169I'm not sure, actually. But mine is actually far different from hers and got really severe, really fast, out of almost nowhere because of inchworms and plants, and seeped into other things quite quickly. Hers is moreso what pain she's in or if the door is locked or oven is on.
>>1569221Surprisingly, no. 12 years of intensive therapy and nobody thought to try that. My guess is that child me washing my skin off and having panic attacks was a greater concern than the possibility of me never being capable of self care. Thanks nona!
No. 1569441
>>1568591>>1568564Random moments of panic that your adult or near-adult child has had some horrible accident is an occasional thing even for non-mentally-ill mothers, have to tell you. She should work on rationalizing and compartmentalizing, but even if that's not possible, she could - and needs to - learn not to unload it on you frequently/in graphic detail.
On your end, you can tell her it makes you uncomfortable/feel negative/drained to hear every time you talk and you don't want to hear it. Then enforce that boundary.
Parents/people get all sorts of weird, especially over time and depending how life has played out. But every child of a needy or overly intense parent (or any other kind of parent)should know that it's okay to have and require boundaries even when it's going to hurt someone they love.
Your mother is an adult, struggles or not, and it is her responsibility to manage her own emotions and fears rather than to pull you into them. And that goes whether she is diagnosed with a severe mental illness, or is "just" depressed/disappointed in life/overusing substances/lonely/unhappy with what her life is.
No. 1569940
>>1569423Hopefully it'll help. Talk therapy, CBT, DBT etc. don't work shit for OCD because they're methods for treating egosyntonic disorders or traits, whole OCD is not, so they often do nothing or make it worse. Good luck nona
>>1569477I'm pretty sure if two autists or ADHDs bred the child would also be an autist or ADHD anon. Or if you're talking non-neurodevelopmental then usually complex shit like schizophrenia or bpd or bipolar gives the child a much higher chance of developing it too.
No. 1573212
>>1470488Autists and the way the internet coddles entitled autists into getting their way otherwise you're "ableist" and can't understand how hard it is to demand people change their behaviors to suit your neuroses make me so fucking mad. I have OCD and it would be ridiculous for me to say that other people are being horrible to me for not indulging my particular obsessions yet autists get away with their self-infantilizing bullshit while being some of the most
toxic bullies you will encounter if you're friends with a particularly bad one.
No. 1577415
>>1568074anorexia is so ideologically ugly, slave morality bullshit. oh im so much better than other disgusting women who give in to their appetites, im a pure clean angel aescetic because i deprive myself of all pleasure and sustainance. such spiritual loserdom, literally a holdover from ancient loser copes
out of interest, why are you chill with aspd types? the only ones ive ever had contact with are like borderline retarded, no prospects, the only goal of their tard tier manipulations is sex/drugs, and they're not even savvy enough to be polite about it. theyre like mindless scrotedrones in my experience.
>>1568383tbh ive had similar difficulties with
other sperg girls. one in my primary school was very irritating and really latched on to me because we were similar in our spergy interests, but she was unpredictable and just put me on edge.
>>1577397fuck i would love it if someone said this to me ngl. nothing makes me cringe harder than someone taking me aside for a "serious talk" because they saw my old keloids, actually makes me want to puke with embarrassment No. 1578032
>>1577485I have literallyoverathousand but they're concentrated in one place so even after many years although they're mostly white and flat the flesh is completely different, when I was barely an adult I worked a lot of technical jobs that took a lot of physical labor in really hot temperatures and when I'd move certain ways sometimes the people at work would could get a glimpse if they were on a press with me. I never talked about them and was really nice and conversational with people but the spectrum of reactions to them were just too much, and since I was only 18 I didn't really know how to process it all. I have also made sure the entirety since they happened to never purposely show them in any capacity in public or around family, friends. There was a guy that stopped what he was doing and hugged me for a really long time to the point that it was uncomfortable, I didnt like that but also didn't find out til later it was because he had them in the same spot. He started following me around after that and I was mad because I thought he pitied me. That's one of the nicer? ones I guess but mostly it was men literally twice my age and above talking about it incessantly with eachother even if they'd never spoke to me. 18 years old and a 48 year old man called me into the office and asked me to cut the new paper cards because he said it seemed like I would be good at it. The guys were snickering about it. I could handle that as a joke now and probably make a casual comment like yeah yeah come on but I look back and can't imagine doing that to an 18 year old kid. I ignored it mostly but thinking about it now, people were pretty awful. Most people don't know now and I would never talk about it because I have never felt the need to. Open and closed situation. People who feel they need to be represented or shown just confuse the dominant part of my brain that wonders why you would want to willingly expose yourself to the cruelty of other people. The only reason I stopped was superficial entirely, I and my bf at the time had pretty bad self harm tendencies and I just felt disgusted by other people's opinions. If it weren't for that I imagine I never would have stopped, if I'm being honest. Again something I would never say to anyone in any context. People love to use that kind of stuff against you, having no idea what you dealt with or how you were raised or treated at the time. A lot of times they don't realize that men also do it, through how I did it I learned about a lot of men who did the same thing. There's a cliche that only teenage girls do it, but I've known several grown men IRL with it, even more online. It's a very cathartic form of control as a child when you are being hurt in worse ways idk. I don't go out of my way to think about it anymore but it's peculiar that people will learn that one insignificant fact about you even years and years later and decide that you deserve some sort of taunting or cruelty.
No. 1588981
>>1588371I have a director who is just like this. We are dancers, dance is fluid, sometimes we end up in a different spot and that's all right. Sometimes someone attempts to be helpful and tells her we did something different last practice and she gets extremely angry.
I don't think it's narcissism but I don't know what else to call it. Constant actual, minor gaslighting (insisting she said something minutes before despite everyone saying she didn't), getting very accusatory and escalating quickly at anything someone says that goes against what she wants that very second. It's not that bad because everyone knows how she is, so it's not embarrassing when she picks a fight and you have to "lose" or back down (only way to get her to chill), but it still sucks because we can't give any input and must somehow read her mind at all times. I don't get it, the world isn't out to get you, people aren't trying to antagonize you, why does everything have to be a fight?
No. 1612513
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I think I genuinely can't stand other people with mental illnesses. This is gonna sound retarded kek, but I joined this meme page on Facebook that was supposed to be humorous and make light of our mental illnesses, past or present. I then saw some cringe PSA about how anyone laugh reacting at a post will get facebook jail, so I questioned it saying isn't that the point of the sub? Of course I get muted and now I can't defend myself against the nutters who are inexplicably angry about me questioning something. People with mental illnesses are so fragile and sensitive and it makes them really insufferable to be around, especially as someone who is recovered from depression and other crippling mental illnesses. I just wanted to look at funny memes and try to have a lighthearted outlook on my dark past, but it seems like so many other people in the throes of their mental illnesses want to stay there and attack anyone else who has moved on and improved their lives.
No. 1613350
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Men with borderline personality disorder.
Holy shit. Holy FUCKING shit!
So help you if you ever fall for their lovebombing and find yourself in a relationship with one. They are satisfaction-less, black voids where you can spend a lifetime shoveling effort and care into only to receive an iota-to-nothing in return.
Just escaped a six month situationship with one, here are some highlights:
>at least one 3+ hour fight over mundane trigger event, almost every day
>if he had a bad dream about me (i.e. I left him, cheated, etc.) he would use that against me and act like I had to make up to him over these fictitious dream events with acts of devotion or verbal reassurances
>constant mood swings, black and white thinking, never happy for more than a few hours at a time
>guilt trips, controlling behaviors, gaslighting, extreme paranoia
>talked over me and dominated every conversation with his interests, he actually didn't know a damn thing about me
>I was never allowed to be alone, especially on the phone, and he would become angry with rejection if I asked
>intruded on me in the bathroom
>always complained that I wasn't doing enough for him even if by objective standards I was overcompensating for him
>complained about almost every date, trip, and activity I planned for us meanwhile I was supposed to kiss his feet with endless gratitude for my once a month dinner date
>in fact, he could not handle criticism at all and would fly into rages if he sensed any
>constantly accused me of cheating, especially loved to accuse me of fucking my boss
>could not hold a job, employed only 1 month under the table by his bro whom he talked massive shit about
>btw said everyone in his family treated him like oh such shit until he'd catch himself in his own stories where they treated him actually more than decent, also a trust fund kid
>chronic alcoholic and weed abuser
>refused therapy or would future fake promises of going to therapy to avoid accountability
>acted like he knew better than therapists, yet adopted lingo such as 'gaslight' to weaponize against me whenever I brought up issues
>took his medications on and off and would use his intermittent use as proof that meds don't really work
>suicide baited at least 2x per week
>used my kitchen knives to cut and destroy property in rages
>would harm himself if I enforced boundaries in his attempt to train me to never say no to him and do as his will
>accused me of making him "submit" or crushing him like a can just for reinforcing reasonable boundaries and being firm
>jumped out of my moving vehicle once because I wouldn't take him to the movie theater after he berated me
>caught him watching porn behind my back but accused me of cucking him when I was charging my clit vibe
>always had sex on his terms and never mine
>impulsive spender for himself, extremely stingy and scorekeepy when spending on me even for when he owed money such as his half of rent or trips and activities we were supposed to 'split'
>escalated violence with strangers even when it would put me in potential danger too
>history of violence in general
>zero friends irl except for one online friend or two who he always argued with
>hated most of my friends and isolated me from social events especially if other men were around
>if I got called to work he insisted to go with me and would become irate if other men were there
>always tempted for me to breakup with him, when I agreed that we should he would swiftly turn it around on me and insist I would need to call police to remove him
>robbed my house on the day he left for good while I was not home, and specifically agreed to break up because I was not around to see what he was stealing
>admitted he was a monstrous piece of shit over text but ofc never did shit to change it or make amends
Men with BPD should undergo forced sterilization. They are demons. Bad enough they may darken the doorsteps of poor unsuspecting women, but they don't need to burden society further by reproducing. Too bad they're so criminally under-diagnosed because BPD is a "women's disorder."
The only reason I won't ALOG is because he'd enjoy the attention and image of victimhood too much.
No. 1613519
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I don't know why anorexics get coddled so much on here when they're so ideologically similar to trannies. It's like they willingly put themselves in situations that trigger their body dysmorphia and then get mad when it's triggered. They also love to project their own mental illness onto everyone else. They require constant asspats and validation to survive. Bulimics have more fun, they're less snooty and stuck up.
That being said, unlike anorexics, at least trannies are funny/entertaining (even if unintentionally). Same thing with ASPD and NPD havers - some of the funniest people alive, and they're fucking psychopaths, but that's exactly what makes them so funny. I usually get along pretty well with them. They're not afraid of what people think. Talking to them is like talking to a brick wall, though. They're extremely stubborn. I don't mind their narcissism because I actually take a sort of voyeuristic pleasure in listening to other people whine about their lives (maybe this is a sign of some personality disorder that hasn't been invented yet).
As everyone knows, BPDemons are called that for a reason. One day you're their favorite person and they can't live without you, the next you mean nothing to them. They're not content in their own misery, they have to drag everyone else down with them. I don't think men get diagnosed with BPD enough, though. A lot of MTF troons I know fit all of the criteria for BPD but doctors don't recognize it as such because they're male.
No. 1613537
i can let a lot of mental illness from women slide because they're women and by virtue of being born women it justifies how fucked up they can become. they usually have empathy and are capable of being better. they arent as entitled. they can carry the weight of complex suffering without chimping out, usually.
for me its male bipolars OR schizophrenics.
Bipolar men are terribly controlling down to the slightest detail. they have all the shittiness of an ongoing BPD breakdown but if they are smart, they masterfully manipulate you while manic. its all your fault, you are my soulmate, love and hate is just yin and ying, we can make so much money, this was all your idea to begin with, etc.
Schizophrenic men can display similar behaviours but they end up becoming violent while unmedicated. they go down a religious cult hole that is so common among them (but they are speshul) and if they can obtain ANY influence over people then they see themselves as jesus the chosen one.
While schizophrenic men are violent and toxic to others, the women with this disorder instead tend to harm themselves and self destruct. I will never associate with a personality disordered, bipolar or schizophrenic man. these disorders take the core of scroteism and twist to the limit, you will see the real fucking devil if you let them in
No. 1613863
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I can't deal with PTSD sufferers. Sorry. You'd think a traumatized person would not want to talk about a horrifically traumatizing event, but all of the ones I know go on about it all the time and try to make it into a competition. Also they do the same thing that depressed people do where they trauma-dump and disguise it as a "joke." You could wish them a Merry Christmas and they'll go "haha can't relate my father was an abusive alcoholic who hung himself on Christmas day 15 years ago" like ok
No. 1614410
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Autistic radfems >>>
I'm aware plenty of autistic women become furries or tifs but the ones that don't and are like this picrel are great.
>>1613519Anon are you sure they're actually aspd or npd? The people you describe just sound like wild but normal people.
No. 1614473
>>1614410I don't want to defend male autists too much, but I've noticed there's a massive difference in offline vs online autists. The online autists are insufferable, chronically depressed and fall
victim to extremist ideologies such as the alt right and/or troonism (often both at the same time). Offline autists are proper nerds, they'll sperg about their preferred topic but they don't have the unwarranted overconfidence from being online nor the selfishness of a depressed person because they spend the day doing their special interest which keeps them happy. There are bad ones there too, but they're usually about 100 times more likeable.
No. 1614549
>>1613863Actual PTSD sufferers don't talk about their trauma all the time like that. Not trying to say people who do are all faking, but the people I know with PTSD mostly avoid having to talk or think about their trauma, to the point of using code words for certain events or names that they don't want to say out loud.
I think PTSD sufferers have this reputation for trauma dumping because those people are the most vocal about it, whereas with the silent majority you won't even know they have PTSD unless you're really close to them.
No. 1615065
>>1614549jesus, that's been exactly my thoughts for idk how long. that's exactly what makes me actively avoid other people with similar issues and what's made me become basically resentful towards anyone who talks openly about whatever shit they've been through, or anyone who's just into those kind of questions or topics.
another thing that bothers me a lot is that ptsd has really made me into a shitty and gross person in seriously bad ways, but this seems very stigmatizing to admit. not to be dramatic but sometimes i wish there was euthanasia for ptsd so i could get it.
No. 1615074
>>1614549>>1615065God fucking dammit thank you.
I think that yes, it's mostly an online thing. When people trauma dump randomly either they're terminally online or cluster bs who want attention, actual ptsd sufferers don't want to recall the events and cannot say certain words, most of them are avoidant and very difficult to get close to. Some even suffer in pure silence or have this weird disconnection in between mind and body (like they would cry their eyes out but say that they're perfectly fine with a monotone voice, because ptsd fucks up with your brain and body). Panic and anxiety attacks, memory loss…this is the "true" ptsd and if there was some sort of lobotomy for that, I would get it because it isn't easy, as for my experience I wish I wasn't so fucking pessimistic and suspicious all the time. And yeah, I hate those attention seeking fucks too, because usually those who claim ptsd just want some compliments and coddling.
No. 1615148
>>1614974The ones that become self-aware learn that they need to protect other people from themselves and vice versa. In my case, that has made boundary setting a high priority and that 100% comes off as being a dickhead. It's better than the alternative.
Honestly I wouldn't say gaining and growing self-awareness has made me more manipulative, it's made me better able to control it. BPD manipulation tactics are usually subconscious, but gaining self-awareness has allowed me to become aware of it happening and to stop a lot of it.
I've been working on recovery for a decade now and am high functioning, but I'll always be an asshole. Any BPD that thinks they'll ever be 100%, even 80%, "good" needs a reality check.
No. 1615323
>>1615221Yes.
That's the point of the thread.
And it's also useful to tell apart the actual disorder from the internet versions. Why are you mad? You a bippie?
Most of the times that people come here to vent often mistake a disorder because people on the internet like to claim it as a badge for pity points while all of them have a thing in common: attention seeking behaviour. And that behaviour is not found in the disorders most of them have but its always and always found in BPD. It's important to reclaim space and call people out. Why are you mad?
No. 1615703
>>1615221What's the issue with armchairing? I hate BPD cause of experiences with diagnosed BPDs. If someone new I meet acts like a BPD then I'm not sticking around to confirm if they are.
Agreed on the second thing though.
No. 1615903
>>1615703That's totally fair, my take is just that you can dislike someone and avoid them for whatever reason without saying for sure they have x disorder. People can be assholes just because, and it looks a bit silly to so confidently declare something about someone when you can't confirm it, like when anons diagnose cows. Armchair posts muddy the thread in the same way online malingerers muddy the diagnosis they claim but that's just my opinion
To be more on-topic I'm having a hard time being sympathetic towards my bipolar friend. I had never met someone with it before so initially it was jarring to see her go from her extremes. I'd be helping her with errands and such during what I know understand to be her mania any time I could (I was having fun at first as a lot of her projects were related to building stuff) then I'd go over and all of a sudden she's sobbing and can't hold it together but still trying to finish everything she needs to do (her life circumstances don't allow her the choice to not do so), and I feel helpless because what can I do other than listen? I can't really give advice as I'm much younger than her and don't have any life experience. I feel selfish for putting some distance between us but both of it has gotten very tiring, the mania was draining me physically and the depression was draining emotionally, just very hard to watch and not be sure how to help. More selfishly since she's so much older than me it's depressing to see since I worry that's my future (not bipolar, just depressed, but still).
No. 1618189
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We don’t diagnose men with BPD enough. And I don’t mean that in a “boo hoo, nobody cares about men’s mental health” kind of way. We need to lock up these men in some sort of high security prison cell as a preventative measure and throw away the key. Imagine a typical female BPDemon with the aggression, entitlement, heightened sex drive and physical strength of a man - I can’t imagine a world in which a man with BPD WON’T become an abuser. They’re the particularly insidious kind too. They lure women into their trap by pretending to be sensitive tortured artist types. Ezra Miller, Alexis Marshall, and Marilyn Manson are perfect examples of what happens when you’ve got men with obvious untreated BPD running amok. They have an advantage over BPD women, who are usually dismissed as crazy from the start, so it’s easier for them to rise to positions of power through manipulating everyone around them, and then abusing abusing that power.
No. 1618667
>>1618189I usually avoid this thread because most of anons here are unhigned and have issues themselves but we really do need to talk about borderline moids more. Especially in normie spaces BPD is associated with pretty much exclusively women so most of people don't even entertain the idea of a male who exhibits BPD traits actually being BPD.
ALL mentally ill men are dangerous idc, even the most deranged women out there are still safer to be around than borderline moids or hell even. Even autistic or ADHD moids are unhinged but I digress. You're right on with your description. All the borderline scrotes I had the misfortune of meeting had this artsy soft boy persona and kept talking about lonely and misunderstood they were. I think the genuinely introverted, shy ones are the worst biggest they seem the most unassuming and non-threatening to normie women.
>>1618381This too.
No. 1618668
>>1618189I usually avoid this thread because most of anons here are unhigned and have issues themselves but we really do need to talk about borderline moids more. Especially in normie spaces BPD is associated with pretty much exclusively women so most of people don't even entertain the idea of a male who exhibits BPD traits actually being BPD.
ALL mentally ill men are dangerous idc, even the most deranged women out there are still safer to be around than borderline moids or hell even. Even autistic or ADHD moids are unhinged but I digress. You're right on with your description. All the borderline scrotes I had the misfortune of meeting had this artsy soft boy persona and kept talking about lonely and misunderstood they were. I think the genuinely introverted, shy ones are the worst biggest they seem the most unassuming and non-threatening to normie women.
>>1618381This too.
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>>1629116>get helpPicrel but it’s me trying to get doctors to give me benzos I literally need because my panic disorder/agoraphobia is so bad it could eventually give me heart disease (low blood pressure and 110+ bpm is normal for me, my blood work is perfect and they’ve done chest X-rays and ekgs and I’m not fat, all is clear, I’m just fucking STRESSED).
(no1currs) No. 1629197
>>1629116fair, but also stay the fuck out of my life if you insist on eating like an animal and chewing with your mouth open around me.
those are the most common
triggers, no one is out there
triggered by a fan.
also i tried getting help but it's straight up not available. plenty of shrinks don't even believe it's real and the ones that do can't do anything about it.
No. 1629281
>>1629279Ugh NTA but I’m the squidward anon trying to get benzos from the magic conch. I’m blessed to not have misophonia. The only thing I can think that would upset me would be someone shaking their leg incessantly (makes me nervous) or not having a fan on (stagnant air makes me feel like I’m suffocating). If someone got
triggered by fan noises I would never be able to be around them period.
>t. Currently sitting with three fans pointed at me from diff directions No. 1632582
>>1632518That's not depression, that's BPD and it's very under diagnosed in men.
If a male becomes an emotional leech then randomly says he's interested in you, it's BPD. They play the poor depressed angel act to lure you in to believe they're actually sensitive souls and then make your life a living hell by emotional blackmailing you. Textbook BPD.
No. 1632590
>>1632518God I know someone like this. Constantly bitching and moaning about how he has no social life
even though I'm sitting right fucking there, his life has no meaning, the world is going to hell and whatever else. When I give him a suggestion on what to do about it or how to be happier he basically says it's too much effort and he'd rather stay in his little pool of whining and misery. Don't occupy my free time then stupid bitchall, go cry on someone else's shoulder.
Yes I'm trying to ghost him kek No. 1632591
>>1632582It's not heavy enough for BPD imo because it doesn't seem to encapsulate any of the other traits. I actually theorise depression, if untreated enough, can turn bpdish though.
Also, it's probably been mentioned somewhere already, but cutters. I get the thrill of self-harm or whatever but if you're older then 25 and still do it, it seems to be a pinpoint for low emotional regulation skills because every cutter has been that specific category of mentally ill. I knew a woman who was 37 and cut while having two kids with her alcoholic husband. Sad all around.
No. 1632595
>>1632590Literally. They'll push away all the friends who actually care about them and then cry that everyone leaves them. Newsflash, if everyone leaves you, it's probably you. If you're a woman, maybe it's not intentional coming from your part, but either way it's still something you need to take responsibility for.
Even if you turn all pick-me for this type of scrote, he'll probably be like "you're just talking to me out of pity" or "we probably won't even be talking tomorrow"
Another observation is that this type of moid tends to be a porn addict to fulfil that lonely sad pity hole he has in his chest and if they're not whining about how sad and pathetic they are, they'll be trying to hit on you or make it awkwardly sexual because men are just emotional retards.
No. 1632612
>>1632518>>1632595"Name me a reason to live"
"Think of all the underage anal rape porn you have not yet watched!"
No. 1647014
People with that specific type of anxiety that turns them into controlling bullies. Like … I get it, it feels really really bad sometimes, but please figure out some way of handling it before it turns you into a scary, snappy rage person who blows up over tiny shit. Everyone ends up walking on eggshells. When this type of person feels anxious, they get to treat everyone around them disrespectfully, as though others don't feel terrible getting snapped at. Again, not all people with anxiety, just the type whose go-to reaction to the uncomfortable feelings is lashing out. I can hang with those who get quiet, become avoidant, act kinda weird, or are capable of asking others for what they need. More than willing to cater to an anxious person's needs when they're polite and upfront about what those needs are.
No. 1647066
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>>1647014A former coworker was like this and I let them bully me out of the workplace. I absolutely cannot deal with people like this because my dad would have anger outbursts when I was younger.
No. 1647232
>>1647066Same
nonnie, it wasn't my boss but the customers at a store. People who would scream at me because a piece of wood would be 50 ct more expensive than it said on the sign or something, half the time they weren't poor either (specific accent from a nearby town, filled to the brim with rich people).
No. 1647296
>>1647014Fucking hell, you just described my entire family. They're nice, caring, perfectly lovely people until something makes them anxious, at which point it's all raised voices and catastrophizing. I spent my teenage years pretty much avoiding my parents because talking to them felt like walking through a minefield. It's not that their concerns were invalid, they just had the worst fucking overreactions and felt like they had to be in control of everything for it to go right.
I also hate male autists and ADHDers specifically. Female ones are usually nice, if rather eccentric and sometimes complicated socially, but the male ones are almost always complete assholes who shrug off heinous things like cheating, pedophilic tendencies, and addictions because of 'muh disorder'. And also whatever thing makes people so sensitive that they take the least charitable interpretation of neutral comments by default and cannot take any criticism or even mild ribbing without having a meltdown about 'disrespect' while simultaneously being woe-is-me shrinking violets who expect to be approached in public when all they do is sit around and pout.
No. 1647326
>>1647014I have stopped hanging out with people with anxiety. its so draining because you have to plan everything because they can't do any planning themselves cause it makes them anxious, if you ask them what they want to do you have to constantly assure them that you wont get mad and even after that they still only response with "it doesn't matter to me".
they are projecting. im not gonna get mad over something as trivial as us not agreeing on what to do but anxious people seethe so hard if you dare to suggest something they dislike. Except they are not gonna tell you that they dislike the idea, they are just gonna act passive aggressive.
After all the planning they still end up getting mad at you because at some point you overstepped a boundary that they didn't tell you about. If they didn't wanna hang out in the first place why the fuck did they agree to come then? I dont get how people with anxiety always manages to have huge friend groups.
Like, they always whine about how they hate conversation and social interactions and other people yet they always cling themselves to huge friend groups because their emo larp is a fucking cope. They don't even stop their fucking larp when hanging out with others stfu about how much you hate us while you are hanging out with us. Just fucking go home if you feel miserable.
Also they always start the stupidest drama.
>someone breathes at anxious person in the wrong way>anxious person makes a huge deal out of it >refuses to talk to the Wrongdoer in private instead she talks to everyone else in the group and creates a rift >everyone confronts Wrongdoer who, naturally is confused over the hostility and says it was a misunderstandingThe Anxious person starts to cry
>"omg it didn't feel like a misunderstanding how dare you dismiss my feelings" >now everyone drops whatever they are doing to comfort Anxious person>"omg we are sorry for dismissing your feelings Anxious person! we shouldve known better! next time you get unjustifiably mad at on of us then tell us directly so we immediately can apologize and confirm how much of a victim you are" and then it ends with Wrongdoer as the bad guy who has to make up for causing Anxious person's meltdown because a simple apology wont do. If you dare to tell Anxious person that she should have more faith in our friendship and not jump to conclusion and assume we hate her then you're met with "omg anon be more sensitive she has anxiety she cant help being a drama lama".
Normally both parties can apologize when a misunderstanding happens and the other people in the group can be honest about the mistakes, but as soon as an anxious person gets involved in drama you
have to act like they are a
victim and did nothing wrong.
If they miscommunicate something to you then its no big deal but if you miscommunicate to them then you are literal Satan
No. 1648200
>>1648172How is yoga girly kek, does it even burn calories? I feel sort of bad for anachans but I probably wouldn't if I knew one in real life. I've seen some of those 'ed
tw what I eat' videos and the girl was complaining about her friend taking her to the beach because 'she's skinnier!'. She's doing something nice to cheer up your miserable life, least you could do is not bitch to the internet about it.
No. 1649956
>>1648169it really fucking is. they're the loudest, shallowest, most hysterical and scariest. these bitches would "steal" your personality traits, cheat, and victimize themselves. they get violent and threaten to cut or kill themselves if you don't do what their deluded mind asks them from you, then seek pity from friends and talk shit about you. they are massive leeches both mentally and financially if you live with one, they never uplift anyone after the initial stages where they get a crush on and fucking obsess over you and copy everything you do. fucking psychotic behavior. dangerous because at first it seems like a lonely person wanting friends and finally finding someone alike. after some time you can tell these types of people from normies. the ever depressed aura, moping and blaming, sudden extreme changes in appearances, lack of stability in life or incapability of independence, often proudly drug abuse, or use hypersexuality and faking disorders as a way to get attention and keep seeking new
victims to suck dry.
No. 1654959
>>1654086"He has a disorder Who makes him disobey!!!"
Nah fam he's just insufferable, chronically online and neglected by his mother. Just listen to how he talks, about ai and "not sponsored!!" content. He's being raised by men on the internet, if you don't understand rules you're either severely autistic or a prick. He's gonna grow up so fucking entitled, I can see it. Take away his tablet and see if he's still "disordered".
No. 1656426
>>1656016Unsupervised internet access, especially with how accessible and trendy political shit is on all the apps, yeah, it can turn a child stupid. he's not using the tablet to play, he's using the tablet to use ai shit that's probably being fed with a lot of fucked up things. I'm sure as hell his mom didn't taught him what "sponsored content" is.
The internet right now is not our internet anymore, kids have no concept of privacy or parasocial relationships, they just hear an opinion and go "yep, that's reasonable."
You're the basic one if you think that that is not a bad influence on his already existing disorder.
No. 1661108
I don’t know who needs to hear this but, as someone who recently got out from a relationship with a BPD moid: You can’t fix him. You can’t fix them. Drop straight away your BPD partner, because male BPD is going to ruin you, it’s like filling a bucket with a hole with your blood.
In particular, these happened:
>Never happy, nothing made him happy nor satisfied and when he happened to smile, it was for some trivial shit that he couldn’t take into account and it’s not depression, it looks like a forced bias against happiness
>Fake empathy. They use fake empathy to get stuff, wether it being goods, money, attention, support but cannot give it back because they don’t know what being “an empath” means
>The “strong feelings” thing is bullshit. Them saying that they love deeply is a massive cope to make up for their long periods of rage and sadness, they use it as an excuse.
>Their “love” is conditional. They love people only if they make something for them/are always available/if they can fix them and they try to gaslight you into bullshit like “but friends/lovers are supposed to be there for each other!” But when it’s your turn to get some support, they randomly have the big sads or big rage or “cannot deal with that”.
>Be prepared for cheating and massive jealousy at the same time. They cheat because they make up fake scenarios where you don’t “deserve” their poor concept of love so they go around and cheat and then make it about you, it’s your fault. And I got an STD for that.
>In particular for BPD and this is terrible: they just are like that. They often say BPD is made from trauma but a moid can have a perfect family, a perfect childhood and then decide to become a piece of shit. Most BPD men have no trauma, they’re faulty in the brain at birth.
>Therapy cannot fix them. Fixing them would mean doing a total reset of the brain and no one really heals from BPD, in the case of BPD men they’re also entitled to some degree and they resist therapy because they’re aware that being like that gets them attention, positive or negative (it can go from the partner being totally obsessed with him to them checking constantly if he killed himself…A lot of my worst days in my life can be traced when my partner would threaten me with suicide)
>They don’t have a personality and that’s the whole point lol. They are fake. They will wear the perfect mask, lure you in with that and then make you feel bad if you leave them because they need attention. Only attention.
>They are control freaks and want to constantly “punish” people. In particular, my partner would start shit at night and wake me up only to argue and the excuse was “I had a bad dream and now I’m angry.”
Leave them alone. They don’t deserve anybody. They’re not even aware of what they’re doing.
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Nonas, I generally only have empathy and give more leeway to mentally ill women in my life but ever since dating a BPDchan and discarded after being lovedbombed to death, I find it difficult to have any sympathy towards untreated BPD women. The timeline and horrifying shit I've endured throughout our relationship:
>broke up with her gf to go after me (yes i know huge red flag I was daft af)
>expresses her lack of empathy towards other people
>badmouths all of her friends and my close friends
>picks fights with me over random accusations, dumbfounded AF
>realises she has BPD, reads her the symptoms and encourage her to seek help
>lovebombed and idealised me obssesively within weeks/a month
>got intimate and sexual within one date
>alcoholic
>made jokes out of my sexual trauma
>into incest
>drunkenly tells me she can't be loyal to one woman and likes to fool around
>confront her about what I expect in a relationship (loyalty, monogamy) and if she can't accept that we should part ways
>tells me that she wants to be committed to me
>we go on trip overseas and visited a club
>i felt uneasy af and she fools around with the sex workers there and asks me to join in
>told her i'm against all of that and set my boundaries about it
>idealises and then devalues me within hours
>everything is fine and lovey dovey for a few weeks
>lovebombs and expresses wanting to be my gf before her solo trip
>argued with her over text bc she wasn't replying for hours
>discards and blocks me everywhere except one platform
>met up with her on her birthday and she shows zero remorse or any empathy towards me for her behaviour as i confronted her
I'm sorry but this whole experience has left me traumatised and with trust issues. I'll never go near an untreated BPD woman again for love or friendship. They are such MINDFUCKS
No. 1673622
ADHD. They interrupt and talk over you constantly, leave a mess everywhere they go, destroy other people's property, are late for everything, when something is important to them they never forget it, but if it's something important to you, it's "oops, I forgot! Muh ADHD bad memory tee hee", they simply don't value other people's time and play the victim when its called out.
Basically a raging hurricane of self-interested destruction with ZERO conscientiousness but for some reason it's one of the least criticized mental disorders. (See: this thread) They manage to escape all accountability because of it and nobody ever has the wherewithal to call them out. Like can we just acknowledge that these people have no business in the adult world, let alone being given methamphetamines on the government dime so they can talk over you even faster? Being around their manic energy is so draining. I'd be willing to bet that the majority of people with bad credit scores are ADHD, and I also think some people, especially males, use it as a diversionary tactic to conceal their narcissism. It's like the perfect disguise for disregarding other people and the RSD is just fucking narc rage, simple as.
A lot of the women are just as bad though. "OMG I totally forgot we were supposed to hang out today!!!! I'm so le quirky!" Bitch, fuck you, you're on your phone 13 hours a day so I know you saw my confirmation text.
No. 1674547
>>1673622You're taking words out of my mouth
nonny. Fr I texted one of those ADHD people on their birthday over the weekend, with the intention of giving them their present. I went to a yarn fair in April, I chose their favorite color as a yarn to crochet socks, which is not as easy as I had to redo one sock from the heel, and it still doesn't look 100% perfect. I asked them if they're home on their birthday so I can just bring the birthday gift. The literal text message I got back was:
"I’d rather nobody came by at the moment"
The person could have just gotten to the door, just taken the present, said thanks, that'll have been enough. Nope.
So now I'm hesitant to give that present ever, I might frog the whole yarn and make another project for myself instead cuz fuck em.
No. 1695266
>>1695245samefag
Honestly anyone with a mental illness who refuses any help because they want to stay a
victim. I saw a woman get torn to shreds because she explained how a "disability hack" actually would be more likely to make people sicker, of course that meant she was ableist despite being disabled herself. I've been told I am ableist for wishing I had access to therapy at an early age (I was diagnosed late for multiple disorders) and that instead I should expect the rest of the world to bend to me, and therefore I hate disabled people. I get things can be hard but most people with mental disorders can ease things with common sense like if you know lateness is a issue set alarms, but most of them love pity so
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People with ASPD, and edgetards who WANT to have ASPD. The first group are a bunch of psychologically jaded fags who are either locked behind bars for the worst possible crimes anyone could ever commit (at worst), or whiny little losers who get on Tumblr or Quora to whine about not having friends even though they don't have the empathy to keep or deserve any (at best). The second group are most likely either a bunch of angsty teenagers, or straight up autisimos who mistake their failed social lives for being completely devoid of having any humanity and self-diagnose themselves with ASPD to runaway from the realization that they failrd at building a social life because they're just stupid losers.
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this bullshit
it's a self-defeating cycle, and i don't give a shit. you push people away because you're extremely needy and demanding. grow up. go to therapy.
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Eating disorders should classified into paranoiac subtypes (the ones that need to feel in control) and narcissistic subtypes. When people post their binges/do bodychecks/post shit online about food and anything and need the constant approvation of others, that's the same thing as being an attention-seeking self harmer. Eugenia Cooney is a narc, constantly looking at herself and doing little dances to show off, the same can be said about Lucinda and in the other part, there's the HAES movement. They're all narcs, that's just rely on food and its lack of as a vehicle to get more attention. Most people talking about ED online don't have one, they're using it as an excuse to get attention like those who faked being depressed in the 2010s.
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autists … i find it hard to believe that most people who claim their autistic actually are, especially annoying cunts like picrel
No. 1840121
>>1839565So many are self-diagnosed. Even the ones who got a diagnosis may end up going to assessments like 5 times and over-exaggerate their symptoms just to get a diagnosis. Also there are faulty assessments that diagnose people in like 1 hour when in reality an ASD assessment should take a lot longer. A lot of people don't seem to realize that you can have autistic traits without having ASD. It needs to affect multiple areas of your daily life.
>>1839925You are probably lucky (or unlucky depending on how you look at it) enough to be a self-aware autist. ASD is often ego-syntonic and so autists usually lack self-awareness.
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my sister has two diagnosis, one autism,
one just Mental Retardation. if it is autism, its the worst form there is. my single mother takes care of her 24/7, and it has taken the worst toll on her. my sister is nonverbal, has not been separated from a screen (tv, dvd player, ipad, iphone) for more than 20+ years, and will literally wail and shriek when going out in public, slobber and drool all over herself, and hit herself in the face with her sharp nails (because she wont let you clip them) to the point she has scabs upon bleeding scabs on her chin and jawline. her screen addiction has caused her to go cross eyed a few years ago, and since she has to be strapped to a chair and sedated at the dentist, my mother doesnt regularly take her to the dentist, so her teeth are literally fucked. she has buck teeth and crooked teeth. when she was young, she would pull out her hair and eat it, leaving bald spots on her head. she doesnt do this anymore but i vaguely remember one night at my grandmas, we would share a bed when staying the night, and she pulled my own hair out one night and ate it. the icing on the cake is that she cannot use the bathroom herself. she has had to wear diapers all 23 years of her life, and her adult sized shits cause such a mess that, if i were her caregiver, id just put her in the shower every time she shit. it gets up her back, down her legs, on her bed, because she cannot tell my mother that she shit herself.
i feel like she is becoming more like a vegetable every single day. she used to be able to give cues for what she wanted, when she was hungry, when she wanted to go somewhere, she even used to be able to say "dada" to my father, but now she just grunts and hums, and whenever i come to visit my mother or hang out with her, she will wave her saliva covered hands so close in my face i can smell it. she cannot walk properly anymore either. at my grandmas old house, she would run up and down my grandmas stairs all day and laugh and have fun while doing it; now she needs major help ascending and descending stairs because her knees are turned inward and she waddles instead of properly walking. i cant imagine that her vision is good either due to her crooked eye.
i find it hard for me to feel any sort of true love for her as i never had a relationship with her. i never "hung out" with her because she couldnt talk, and she would just watch videos and dvds all damn day. i was also charged with taking care of her pretty much every day of my life growing up starting in my teen years, having to change her shitty diapers, feed her her shitty food, and listen to her shitty videos on full blast volume every single day. now, my mom has to do it all by herself, and i personally think she needs to put my sister in a home as soon as possible or my moms quality of life will only decrease more. my mom doesnt have time to go out and do anything because of my sisters condition.
ive heard most people in my family say they want to smack or punch my sister when she cries, my mom will yell at her "shut up" or "no one cares", or will shove her cell phone in front of her to get her to stop wailing, and i feel bad for saying this but, id probably do the same thing. i get why they feel that way about her, but its still sad to hear them say those things. my dad has completely abandoned her pretty much, he would always preach autism awareness and rep autism awareness clothing and even has a tattoo, but he doesnt see my sister maybe more than 4-5 times a year, while my mom is stuck with her all year long. after she was born and they found out what was wrong with her, it messed my dad up so bad he started taking pills to cope, which ultimately led to my parents divorce.
i dont know what the right answer is, but i would not ever want to be in my moms position. i wouldve put her in a home or some type of care the moment she could start walking. a child like her really is just too much for a family.
No. 1840242
>>1840188Shit like this is why I'm pro abortion overall all other reasons. Mental retardation also means physical problems to some extent, many people believe that mental disorders and physical disorders are two separate things when in reality, they're very much connected.
I wish we would develop tests for heavy autism and mental retardation directly in womb and while this may sound unhinged, forcibly abort fetuses who cannot survive on their own. Eugenetics is not a bad thing, the only people who love mentally retarded children are extreme munchies by proxy and narcs that feel good by the attention their token retarded child gives them. So sorry for you nona.
No. 1840259
>>1840157This happened to me frequently throughout the years. As a child. As an adult a few times. I started audio recording my family in retribution when they'd heap it on me to show to my therapist and friends.
They were horrified by what they heard.
No. 1840327
>>1840188I understand
nonnie, my aunt has a similar condition and my mom insist on bringing her everywhere we go, its specially bad when we go to restaurants and my aunt just starts screaming and crying and nobody can understand why, she also has to be fed and has trouble eating, so everytime we go out everyone is looking at us, which I know i shouldnt mind but between all the looks and how she just starts drooling all over the place i just sometimes just decline going out.
She also wears diapers and I remember one time she shat so much my whole sofa was covered in shit, and for a week my whole house stank and I had to avoid bringing friends inside the house.
I dont know how my mom has dealt with her for 50 something years and I will never know what she actually feels for her. I dont ever talk about this because im scared of getting judged by people that have never lived this situation and would just say "but its not her fault" ok ? it isnt mine either kek
No. 1840337
>>1840188My male cousin has severe autism. I don’t see him often, only on holidays, but he has a very threatening demeanor. He’s 6’3 and pretty heavy set. He has beaten his mother so bad that she will have to lock herself in the bathroom until he calms down. He has also punched my fragile tiny grandmother in the arm. If he ever went after me or my mother I wouldn’t hesitate to off him with whatever is in my vicinity. I know it’s not his fault, but I can’t help but hate him. He’s in his 40’s now and really should be put in a special care facility, but everyone on that side of the family is against it. One of these days he’s gonna kill his mother, I’m sure of it. They refuse to call the police on him when he goes ape mode because they’re afraid the cops will shoot him.
In the case of my aunt and your mother, it might just be a mother’s love, but idk I couldn’t picture myself sacrificing my entire life to raise an adult toddler.
No. 1840409
>>1840188This is awful, I'm so sorry nonna, and of course for your mom. Feels like this is one of the cases where putting her in a home would be lifesaving. 24/7 caring for a disabled person is bound to shorten your lifespan.
also kek Of course your dad's noped out of caring for her, how fucking typical.
No. 1840426
>>1840188I'm pretty sure I made a rant just like this, but about my aunt and my retarded cousin. Like I said before, I roll my eyes to the back inches of my skull when I hear women and see users confidently saying they would raise a severely retarded child, knowing full well that this would be the outcome…because
no the fuck they wouldn't. They're just saying that to look all virtue signally and rebellious in mother culture, because I seriously doubt 99.9% of all the morons saying they would do this even have the patience to raise a normal kid without having a periodic breakdown about how hard it already is.
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Nah, stop coping. Actually caring people don't have a disorder.
No. 1867439
>>1867085Nah it's serious. Look at the bpd girlies in the replies going "frrrrrrr our disorder is sooooooo misunderstoooooodd!!!"
Maybe the op posted it trying to be ironic or such, but the bippie tards flooded it with selfpity and attention fishing. They latch onto anything just to justify their "strong emotions".
No. 1867449
>>1867441Because Bippies love to victimize themselves. NPD people aren't out that much, like ASPD. Bippies are dramatic and hide behind the misunderstood label, they inhale massive amounts of coping, like they can sense on some degree that something's wrong but instead of searching for help, they blame others, they always make themselves the
victim and love to brag about how they only feel strong emotions and it's not fair!
I'd take a NPD over a BPD any day. A NPD person true, it's shitty, but it almost never slips and wouldn't do retarded push-pulls dynamics. BPDs is just NPD but retarded, they're in the same cluster but only one of them loves to being victimizied and pitied and since lately the topic of mental disorders is being de-stigmatized, they take advantage of that, by accusing everyone of ableism/insensitivitiy towards their "disorder."
BPD also makes you "catch fleas", basically since it's retarded NPD and it frequently has slips, it makes your brain so confused that it basically traumatizes you with mixed signals and you start to see that shit everywhere. While you can start to hate someone with NPD (talking about it since it's the same cluster), with BPD it's trickier because since they're retarded, really, they have the mental capacity of a child, thus making them literally retarded, they often pull the
victim card and start to cry to manipulate you to feel bad for them. Getting out of a BPD relationship, when someone is not used to their shitty act, it's hard because they make you believe that they want to get better but eventually, they don't. It's like stepping in shit, whining about the stink and checking everywhere but your own fucking shoes, so they end up in enabling circles and dismiss any help that you want to give them. Not worth the time and energy, they're failed people that deserve and need to be completely alone.
No. 1870154
>>1843077Same. Not only that but they also usually have a massive
victim complex and are more or less incapable of surviving on their own, yet they have the audacity to look down on everyone else. What use is a 158 iq if you can’t cook a meal for yourself without burning the house down? What good is it if you’re hardly capable of attending to your own personal hygiene?
Oh and I hate the way people with the mildest autism ever think they can judge the families of people with severe and complex autism? They say stuff like “I’m autistic and I never hit people so there’s no excuse!!” About someone who’s essentially a retard, or get mad at their parents for being sad about their child’s autism when the kid can’t even speak. Or they compare caring for their own child with mild autism to caring for a child with complex autism. “Well WE think little Timmy’s autism is a gift! He knows so much about space so you should be grateful for your child who’s the same age and still in diapers!!!” The autism is really showing. Same reason we shouldn’t let people with fucking Down syndrome dictate abortion laws. We shouldn’t let autists speak about autism care. They’re RETARDS. You can’t have an autism diagnoses without being a retard in some way, even if you’re otherwise some sort of Alan Turing (who was a social retard) it doesn’t make you special or better than other people, quite the opposite. If people truly understood that, there’d be far less diagnoses. People would realise it’s not a “treat me/my kid like I’m/they’re special and at the same time let me get away with whatever I/they want” golden ticket.
No. 1870157
>>1870154Samefag, because people with autism are social retards, they struggle with empathy on a grander scale. They only feel empathy (if at all) in a very singular way and when they do it’s almost always deeply personal. So they will feel endless empathy for the person most like themselves but none whatsoever for the people around them. It’s the same with people with Down’s syndrome. They see it as themselves being killed every time someone makes the wise choice to screen for Down’s syndrome. They don’t even like it when people get IVF to ensure their child doesn’t get Down’s syndrome, because they see that as hitler putting them personally in a gas chamber. Their retarded brain can’t comprehend why it could be a good thing. Why it’s preventing suffering to so many and improving the quality of society in general. Autism does not make people intelligent, they are intelligent
in spite of their autism and would still be intelligent without it.
No. 1870488
>>1867441I have experience dating a BPD person and being friends with one, and their bullshit wrings you dry. Here's some great examples of why I do not associate closely with people who say they have BPD or exhibit BPD behaviors:
>34 y/o roommate gets mad at ME because I got a refund on a return and they didn't. Like shaking crying mad. >Constant annoying begging for reassurance even if you've already reassured them>Ruining an entire overnight trip because THEY didn't sleep - proceeds to complain about everything all day. >Comes home from a club at 6 AM and starts laughing and talking loudly while other friends are asleep, acts like its the other friends fault that they didn't stay up with them>excuses all their behavior with self-diagnosed autismThis particular BPD person was dumped by a therapist because the therapist couldn't take their bullshit anymore. That's therapist-speak for "you need a stronger therapy than what I can provide" but of course this was a great chance for them to victimize themselves about it.
>calls themselves a psychic and an empath when really they're a cunt that overanalyzes things and expects everyone to emotionally sooth them No. 1870499
>>1870104Holy shit yes. The lack of self-awareness is what makes it so insufferable. Them having a full-on meltdown over a milk carton pointing the wrong direction suddenly turns into "I just like things organized and clean, imagine trying to complain about that when some people are actually
abusive!" Then they're determined to act like everyone around them is a disgusting slob for refusing to spend hours steam cleaning the carpet every single day. The anxiety is so palpable and infectious too. Absolutely impossible people to live with.
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Genuine question to BPD girls. When you take on the interests of your new favorite person, do you genuinely try to like, and enjoy the interests? Do you develop new hobbies for your FP? Is it subconscious or a conscious effort? Do you resent it?(wrong thread)
No. 1871535
>>1840188kind of an old post but interesting as i have a male cousin who is around the same age as your sister and this describes him to a T. crossed eyes from only watching things 24/7, only humming/grunting sometimes (he used to do gestures he was taught not sure if he still does), have had issues like dental problems that he cannot verbalize so it gets really bad before anyone notices. on top of all the physical health issues he gets seizures too. i think it's crazy how many people who don't know someone who actually has full blown MR don't understand two things:
1) for people tinfoiling autism is not real, the quirky self diagnosing normies and chris-chan-esque spergs have basically erased people who legitimately have this condition. my bf (understandably imo bc of "autism" being trendy now) believes that all autism is fake and i had to explain to him before we saw this side of my family that this cousin is legitimately autistic and isn't just some run of the mill sperg who only talks about pokemon, like he's literally mute. i think that was his first time actually witnessing that yeah some people have a legitimate neurodevelopmental disorder and no it's not fake or brought on by parents.
2) many people choose to ignore how fucking hard it is for families who have kids like this. the family of this cousin of mine is luckily very financially well off and it seems they have collectively chosen to publicly be as positive as they can be and laugh a lot of things off. i do believe they want to put him in a home but from what i've been told the one they want him in has a ridiculously long waiting list. but there are people like my brother who take things at face value and seem to believe that "see, it's not that hard!" for them when i actually interpret it as them choosing to not mope about it in front of everyone because it technically wouldn't help them at all.
i'm very sorry this is your situation. i think the majority of people do not know a person with serious legitimate MR/autism and they don't know a lot about it at all.
>>1840242i agree with you completely. families with these kids and care centers dedicated to them are seemingly at a loss at all times. i personally hate being around them especially when they are male for obvious reasons. i don't think it's worth it. i hope my other cousin (his brother) is not forced to take care of his brother when their parents pass away, but maybe he will be in a care home by then.
No. 1871918
>>1867441The incessant attention seeking, self-pitying, jealousy, obsession, and bitterness is like nothing else. It's worse in a way than other similar conditions because BPD is mainly caused by severe trauma. I know they all whinge about muh empathyyyyyy but I swear they have no shred of empathy between the lot of them. I've had BPD 'friends' and I swear they all want to get worse. None of them ever considered therapy because they would be made to face their own bullshit. One 'friend' that particularly traumatized me always went after men in relationships to prove that she was the superior woman, had a shitload of plastic surgery then cried because she looked nothing like her previous photos (before the surgeries she'd go through those same photos and nitpick her body and face and made me and her other friends nitpick her too, 24/7). She was a massive alcoholic and had the habit of stopping drinking in order to get sick and be hospitalized when she wanted to make her moid of the month worry about her. When she got the pity she wanted she'd go right back to downing vodka every day while going to AA meetings for validation on how she was sooo sober now. She'd livestream herself taking pills and drinking in the bath sobbing about how she was always there for us and we didn't even get her a gift for her and her current moid's one-week anniversary and whatever Buzzfeed slop she read said this meant we weren't friends. This would happen maybe once or twice a month. We'd spend hours with her on the phone, she always did this until the early hours if she knew we had work or something important the next day. She literally could not handle being seen as less of a priority than a job interview or a presentation at work. She used to stalk all of her ex-moids and their exes, she had multiple separate profiles she used, and she'd have breakdowns whenever the exes were doing OK. She was so mad after one breakup (that she caused by cheating with an engaged moid) when the ex fiancee was like 'lol trash takes itself out, still going to the Caribbean!' that she drove like 5 hours to the airport to find the woman and say she was going to blow up the plane. I don't know what happened after that but she didn't gloat about it so presumably the situation did not turn out to her liking. She had a truly awful childhood but clung to it like glue and got mad when anyone mentioned their own shit to an insane extent. Sometimes she watched the news and worked herself up into a rage because of child abuse stories, she'd get mad that babies and toddlers were battered to death by their parents because they 'got justice' when their parents went to prison and SHE never got that. She got mad at Holocaust survivors who were kids in concentration camps because they 'got famous' from their 'experiences' and 'never suffered like she did because they're still here'. The empathy and compassion oozed out of her pores.
TLDR keep the fuck away from BPD chans. I learnt my lesson with this cow, I've immediately cut all contact with anyone exhibiting signs of BPD shit after her and life has never been better.
>>1870154I worked with a woman years ago whose son was autistic and extremely retarded, he was in a group home and needed multiple specialized carers to keep him from killing himself. He was completely non-verbal except for screaming and one step away from being a vegetable but he used to wrap blankets around his head all the time and try to eat dog shit and Lego pieces and tried to run into the road to follow trucks. I don't know how he's doing now but he was almost 40 when I worked with her and she was proud that he'd made so much progress, he used to be doped up 24/7 because he chimped out at his carers and bit them and shit. Apparently more than one carer had ended up in hospital because of his silly good-natured antics. She got so defensive over him despite having to put him in a group home when he was a teenager because he tried to rape her and his sister and killed their dog when he was playing with it. She called him her sweet little angel boy and always showed us photos of him that his carers sent her, she said she'd never change him because God made him special and anyone who got rid of their similarly autistic/retarded children deserved to suffer. She visited him every weekend for half an hour at the home, never in public because he used to attack her whenever he saw her and once ripped her shirt off in a restaurant while screaming, and nobody can find out that her little angel baby is anything but perfect and TOTALLY capable of leading a normal life. She got so mad when she found out that the carers had stopped taking him to museums and art galleries and restaurants because she was convinced that he needed the cultural enrichment. He'd attacked other visitors and diners and bit a waiter at least once. He could barely chew and was at danger of choking if he ate anything that wasn't cooked to exactly the right texture and mashed. I still think she was somehow trying to get him to choke and die, but she was so entrenched in delusional cope that it's hard to tell.
No. 1873460
It's not that I can't deal with NPD but I don't really see a point in doing that. It can be ok when all communication is shallow, but when it's already come to the point where you try to keep it shallow, is it really worth it? It's so annoying when they try to seem spiritual/super rational/calm and serene/excessively sweet, when you know they're not like that at all. They can be the most uptight/overly sensitive/passive aggressive/arrogant people you've ever met. Even if they acknowledge their flaws, it's just humblebragging. Even if they're smarter than being openly toxic to you, they'll give you backhanded compliments, occasionally ignore you, "forget" about your birthday. Talk behind your back. How do I know? I know what they say about their close ones or our mutual friends, acquaintances, relatives. It's especially interesting to watch when it's something in your group chat and they come into your dms to complain about the person with whom they've just had a conversation where they acted like a totally reasonable person that's sort of "above" everything, philosophical and accepting. In the dms you learn that this person is actually soooo fucking dumb and annoying. But then it's all good and they happily emotionally dump on that same person in their dms.
Their constant need for validation, attention and praise is exhausting. Do they really need to be the smartest? The most beautiful (to the degree where strangers allegedly approach them almost in awe)? Fearless? Able to do a great number of things "magnificently", no less? Feeling everything stronger than anyone else, caring about things NO ONE ELSE cares about (but meaningful ones ofc)? I swear no one talks about themselves the same way narcissists do, even if they try to be more subtle with their self-admiration.
At the same time, I think I could actually be friends with someone with NPD if they were self-aware enough, I don't mind a bit of assholery, I'm not perfect myself. But never in a romantic relationship, fuuuuuuuck thaaaaaaat. I care about a couple of people that very likely have at least pronounced NPD and BPD traits and I used to be in a very close relationships with one, I know they're not happy and I sympathize with them, but only from afar now.
I also had a friend that's definitely a narc but I don't feel bad for this fucker. He actually did something funny though
>would constantly see other people looking at me judgementally when we were together
>sometimes these people would also allegedly mumble something rude about me and he could hear it (I could never)
>it started happening when I became more confident and he knew I wouldn't take his shit anymore. random strangers just became mysteriously hostile to me for no reason lol
>sometimes he was convinced total strangers, especially a company of friends, cared about him and paid attention to what he was saying, so he would say something "scandalous" loudly and pretend it wasn't intentional
>he was sure they were looking at him when they clearly were busy with their own thing
>he was the only one who eavesdropped on them and made little comments about their conversation. idk how to explain it but it's like he interacted with these random people and they were completely clueless. it was amusing to watch
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wtf lol
No. 1878084
>>1840188There's a level of retardation that brings into question if the person is even living a dignified valuable life, or if they're just suffering and making others suffer too. I think almost everyone having to deal with that person suffers a massive amount of guilt from finding it hard to cope with it, and you of course get nothing in return from the person as they have no awareness of their surroundings or other human beings. If it was any other person keeping another person from doing anything they love, from living their life, making them rely on them 24/7 without as much as a "thank you", using up all your bank funds etc people would call it
toxic and say you need to get out of the relationship. But you can't when it's a mentally disabled person you're stuck with. Maybe there's a certain type of person who can handle it becuase they get a kick out of taking care of helpless people, but it sure ain't me.
No. 1879636
>>1878246There are aspies who literally can't attend school even as children because of their issues. I don't just mean lazy, I mean kids who will hit and scream and do anything in order to not do what is required of them and don't respond to conventional parenting techniques. Look up Pathological Demand Avoidance, it's a form of Level 1 Autism that seems normal but requires support and is hell on the
victims and their families. This is why I'm sick of these tiktok fakers, even level 1 autists will have serious issues.
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Autism.
This is an example of how autistic people and their wranglers perpetually paint themselves as victims.
This is a very good example of how the media and radlibs like to present autistic people as victims.
The autistic mind believes that just because they don't experience the world in the same way as others, that they are 'above' basic decency and norms, exempt from societies rules.
Having autism does not inoculate you from the law, and calling a person in a position of power a lezzer is a pretty outrageous act of aggression, autistic or not, and reflects that she has likely been given no boundaries at home or school. See how the language has been carefully arranged to excuse this insubordinate, spoiled girl. 'Dragged' - it's called being arrested.
Autism does not make you the victim in every situation.
No. 1898242
>>1897255>I get so annoyed with schizophrenics. I know they can't help itSame. My neighbor is undiagnosed paranoid schizophrenic that suspects everyone in our house (an apartment block) to be witches. Before that, she was obsessed with robbers and just generally was hostile and suspicious. She's not just mentally ill though, she's always been a shitty person, and the combo is infernal (which honestly doesn't make me feel bad for being annoyed but I do try to be "wise" about it). Previously she suspected only one neighbor to be a witch, now it's my mom and grandparents and few other neighbors.
>suspects neighbors (including us) leave cursed rubbish on the floor near her door>sometimes she swears loudly when she "finds" it>sets it on fire and puts it out with holy water >(sometimes there are burnt matches and water on the floor and it's a known fact she uses holy water)>told my mom's friend that my grandparents used to go to the woods not for mushrooms but for herbs>herbs they would use in black magic rituals>that's why my grandma is so ill now (not because she's almost 90 and mortal)>also told her we spill rice under her door (?)>and leave water on the floor (exactly what she does)>she "has hidden cameras everywhere and sees everything">she's convinced we can make her daughter that has diabetes feel worse with magic >the daughter is "normal" adult woman btw but supports her delusions, looks like some shared psychosis shit>the neighbor believes she has a great flat that we're jealous of so we dream of breaking into (the flat is extremely average)>threatens everyone with her ex husband that works in parliament (=has great power), turns out he worked as an electrician in a parliament building and is actually dead for months now>tells everyone that other neighbors or their acquaintances gossip about her and tell everyone she flies on the broomstick>she's the one who's always been gossiping and making shit up, everyone just tries to avoid her like the plague because she's known to make scandals and badmouth everyoneEven though some of these things are funny, she's tiresome and annoying af and I seriously hope she won't get aggressive or decide she's a holy inquisitor and burn our apartment
No. 1914591
Any disorder which has a paranoia component to it. Wether they bpd "abandonment issues" or some shitty delusions, this in particular is personal because I, as a person, absolutely hate to overexplain myself without reasons. "Where were you last night??" "Who were you with?" what are you, my mother?
Validate their paranoias and you're the asshole that makes them spiral down into some "See?? I KNEW IT!!!" bullshit and make up random scenarios, don't validate them and you're a liar. Cannot win either way. I've had too much of these little shits, since I'm apparently a BPD magnet due to my kindness but when someone starts acting an anxious parent only because they're fucked in the head, not because they're worried about me, I immediatly leave and I don't engage with people who say that they have abandonment issues because they view every personal space of yours as abandonment and I don't want to waste my energy and time doing daily reports about what I did and where I went so they feel better, work on it, you childish little bitch, grow up. One time I was out with my nigel on our anniversary and my sister called me deep in a episode (she's almost 30) screaming and crying because she couldn't come with me and why did I leave her alone at home and such. She doesn't even live with me, she was pissed at the lack of attention and viewed it as me escaping from her or something and in the end, that's what I did. Self fulfilling prophecy.
No. 1914717
>>1914654As an autist I agree. I feel like should disagree in some kind of "not all autists"-way but that's a given and whenever people hate on autists for
valid reasons I just agree because yeah those things are fucking annoying even to other autists lol
As an autist you kind of automatically have to deal with more autists than the average person, and some of these people are a nightmare. It's annoying when I'm expected to coddle a disgusting moid autist because "he's like you, you of all people should be compassionate and nice to him" and dear god do I HATE when people try to set me up to date an autist moid just because we're both on the spectrum. I had a group therapist (for autism obvs) try to set me up with the only male around my age (most were older adults and quite chill) because that guy was sooo lonely and sad and needed a girlfriend and I was… female. I agreed to befriend the guy even though he seemed like the least nice/interesting person in the room and guess what - he ended up being a shitty troon enby who stalked me and my family for a year when it turned out I'm an evil
terf. I will never forgive the therapist for forcing an actual dangerous male into my life when she knew I was vulnerable.
No. 1916211
>>1914994>they are so lacking in empathy that they have no idea what level of empathy a typical person actually has.This has SOME truth in it, but isn't actually true. While most people who claim to be overly empathic actually aren't (and i swear most of them aren't even real autists…) there is a true subset of autists (mainly female) who ARE overly empathic, but not in the way the "fakers" claim they are. They typically do not even know they are "overly" empathic because they - like you said - don't know it's not normal compared to a normal person. They're incredibly gullible and easy for people (men) to take advantage of because they can't tell when they're being lied to. I have personally never met anyone like this who is high-functioning, and I don't wanna shill the idea that all autists are "like children" but this subset really do have a childs level of understanding of a lot of social things.
Like if you tell a child dropping their favorite teddy bear on the ground hurts the teddy they'll cry and feel awful for the teddy, even though us adults know an object doesn't have feelings so it's fine. They end up assigning strong feelings where they shouldn't, because their autism doesn't know the appropriate level of empathy to assign so puts it at "max level" when it shouldn't.
No. 1934028
>>1614974The official clinical answer? Yes, BPD's can feel genuine love and emotion, just not towards people. They have a psychopathic persona that can easily overpower their ego structure the second you, as a real person, interfere with the you that they've constructed in their heads by simply … well, not acting in exactly the way they think you should. Think of Gollum from lord of the rings. He's pretty much what being a borderline is like; they have two completely distinctive personalities that don't come into contact within their psyche.
So, while they may love you one moment, that love isn't for you … it's for how you make the borderline feel. Their love is directed at the fact that when they're around you, and you're expending energy keeping them calm, they feel at peace and is if they can function. And indeed, they can function pretty well when someone is parenting them. When you fail to protect them from their own emotional instability is when the psychopathic personality comes out, and it's usually modeled after their mother.
The reason borderlines have this weird behavior is because their parents, again the mother in 99.99% of cases, parentified them. Which means the mother made the child into her parent by presenting them with adult responsibilities. As a consequence, BPD's are desperate for a parental figure to help them emotionally mature. It's why they go completely mental if you act like anything other than a doting mother.
No. 1934100
>>1934028so it's basically retarded narcissism lol like spoiled children
>"Act like I want!! Do as I want!! Act right so I can feel safe!! Be the actor in my little mental theatre!! Or I'm gonna kms!!!"Just do it lol
No. 1934110
>>1934100in my experience it was not 'i'll kms', it was 'i will wreck
your shit'. externalized threats vs. internalized, i suppose.
No. 1934147
>>1934123
ayrt and sure, I know it's on some deeply fucked level and I was in a relationship with a BPD moid for 10 years.
I felt like a parent, I felt in charge of his emotions, constantly and that made me realize that I never want to be a mother and I know, I know that babies literally die without attention, but they are babies. They don't have the tools to be independent. BPD people can. They can go to therapy. They can learn self soothing techniques. They can learn to get up of bed and wash their crusty ass. They can learn that people are their own person. They CAN. If they refuse, it's not my business.
I've endured cheating accusation when I went out for groceries, I've endured being called cold when I was tired and needed some alone time (I think I'm on the spectrum on some degree and I think that that was a playing factor in the whole relationship, will talk about that later), I've endured being called a bitch when I didn't want to argue at fucking night when I was the only one working in the house and needed rest. I've endured abuse and being molested while I was sleeping because "Well I have my needs and you always say no!". I've endured anything. Now I don't and I won't and I can't anymore.
As I said, I'm probably on the spectrum, not yet diagnosed but I want to investigate this shit and I realized something:
1. What really made me go crazy was his constant beating around bushes. I consider myself pretty understanding, like I rarely judge people and if I do it's not personal, but more like a moral thing, for ex. I heavily dislike kinky people but as long they don't touch me/manipulate others into sex is fine like go fetch your stds but keep that shit away from me and he KNEW. He claimed to know me better than anyone else and he constantly gave me mixed signals. Something was wrong? Instead of talking, he wanted me to read his mind. I'm pretty straight forward, like if you say shit like "it's nothing." then it's nothing, full stop. When I said "okay" at his "it's nothing", he went full retarded meltdown saying that I was a cold piece of shit, rotten narc to the core while I literally asked 2 seconds prior if he was okay.
2. I'm very sensitive to stimuli, mostly sounds and touch. I don't like loud noises, I don't like to be touched. He constantly played videogame music and played his synth keyboard, when I asked to stop for 1-2 hours (the time I needed for a nap/unwind), again, another rage fit. How dare I, being so inconsiderate! And of course, when I'm in that sensory overload, touching felt painful to me.
"Omg nona, why won't you cuddle me?? Am I dirty? You don't like me anymore?"
"No moid I need some time alone because I came back from a very stressful shift (retail)"
"Then you don't like being with me??"
That was a whole new problem that he made up. Tiring.
3. I ended up in therapy due to a heavy loss in my family and started having panic attacks. He would trigger them on purpose.
"Well, this means you can control them, right?? Why even go to therapy if you can control them?"
When I asked him to also go, because on top of his narcissism there was a depressive component where he would leave rotting food in the kitchen sink and ofc I had to clean it like his mother, he cried and screamed to the point I was afraid of my life that "Well! How do you dare say that I'm crazy!!"
All of these mixed signals really fucked up my brain. Blogposting aside, I'm not trying to armchair but if an almost 30 y/o person can be so fucking self centered then it's totally a narc component that I refuse to justify. I loved him a lot and right now if he killed himself, I wouldn't care, not the edgy "i do not care" but it would be like hearing about a stranger dying. Not my problem, it's not like he had a personality to begin with but he played a lot on my anxiety. Oh, how many threats of suicide, if only they were true….
Right now I'm trying to heal but I hate that now I can't seem to love and any love I receive I view it as suspicious because "what if that person is being nice to me to trap me?"
As I said before, as long I'm not involved I do not care, but now I care about myself. These people need to be removed from society because I'm not the first and won't be the last and me being a victim of this type of shit is more than enough.
No. 1934642
>>1934348Obviously that anon is either describing the most severe cases, or are pulling facts from their ass.
I would like to remind anons that even though someone writes huge text walls with fancy words does not mean they are right or educated. There have been 0 sources to all these tall claims, other than a vague ”an education on the subject” and a claim Youtube is basically the same as formal education. An actual professional on the subject could show peer reviewed journals to back up all the claims, or at least
some of them.
No. 1934959
>>1934943No, a mod/janny deleted them.
Why would I delete my own posts lmao?
>You showed your insecurities in ways I don't think you meant to. You weren't being censored. It's not about censorship at all. No one was trying to shut you up.Uhh, yeah, sure, you got me. I'm sorry for losing my temper and becoming super insecure. You're right. I need to take a long look at myself.
Thank you.
(moid) No. 1934963
>>1934959That's fair– I thought it was a strange move, so that makes sense to me.
Genuinely,all the best to you
No. 1936052
>>1935030I feel that yes, autism is harder to dx in women because all the studies have been done to moids, but women tend to claim autism to avoid the BPD stigma. The autism label lets them be obsessed with something/someone and have mental breakdows without being seen as crazy, just a little spicy in the head. I've yet too see a woman who claims autism that is very picky with food, has a neuro disability like dyslexia, dyxpraxia, dyscalculia, is very sensitive to sounds and stimuli (most of them claim to be sensitive to sounds when in reality it's shit like explosions, alarms, nails on chalkboard type of shit, stuff that annoyes everyone) and has problems fucking socializing. These women that claim to be autistic have a shitton of friends and I'm not saying that autistic people don't have friends but it's really hard to connect with them unless you have some kind of autistic friend group which is statistically impossible. I feel that most of the times, these diagnoses gets mixed up a lot, like I'm pretty sure that half of autistic dx men are just bpd men that didn't go full retard fit on their therapists.
No. 1937122
>>1936495I think it doesn't help that autism is such so vague as a diagnosis that it's easy for everyone to claim it if they don't identify as normies. We should stop to accept that everything is a "spectrum" so people who want to feel special claim their space in a restricted community, like being a troon, being autistic is not properly define and that brings people with just one symptom that conveniently overlaps with other shit to claim to be in that community.
Afaik, autism is defined by narrow interests, trouble socializing, neurodevelopmental disorders, sensitivity to stimuli, lack or limited empathy (narc or depressive style), flat expressions, trouble in self expression, anxiety and frustration (due to people not understanding how autists work) and stunted maturity. Not intelligence, maturity.
Basically what spicy normies and people that do not want accountability do is:
>Omg I like anime and it's my main hobby, I'm also an introvert so I'm autistic!While ignoring everything else like mood dysruption, narc tendencies etc etc.
The more people insist and stuff is a spectrum meaning that you don't full need all the symptoms, the more people tend to identify with whichever stuff is trendy. Even if the existence of DID is debatable, take a look on how many people claim it just because they have an internal monologue and are traumatized (endo system also claim that you don't NEED trauma, despite being the very first symptom) which is something that like 90% of the people are. The only people who claim "bad" conditions such as schizophrenia, psychosis, suicidal shit, addiction etc are internet munchies, the same type that fakes cancer, and is often comorbid with an attenion seeking component (look out Tuna Slater for example).
I think that in a few years for now there will be studies on how the internet worsened the attention seeking patterns of some people and filled the psych wards with them, with no real cause underneath other than wanting to feel special and unique due to the hyper individualism shit that we are witnessing.
No. 1937417
>>1936052Well, autism actually does have very different symptoms between men and women.
Female aggression is self-directed whereas male aggression is other directed.
>The autism label lets them be obsessed with something/someone and have mental breakdows without being seen as crazy, just a little spicy in the head.I mean, I would disagree. Autistic men are virtually incapable of reproducing. Unless you're willing to discount the opinions of women entirely. Little bit sexist, honestly, that you think only male opinions matter.
No. 1937452
>>1937417>Little bit sexist, honestly, that you think only male opinions matterWhere did you cherry pick that? My point was that the majority of women (tifs included of course) that claim autism online, the ones that are verbal about it, most likely don't have it and claim autism only to avoid personality disorder stigma. They read the definition of autism online, see that includes "meltdowns" (bpd splits) "special interest" (bpd personality of the month) and "trouble socializing" (bpd favourite person push pull shitnamics) and "anxiety". They only pick the overt traits and not stuff like the actual neurodevelopmental disorder. You can see the autism/bpd in males because they have no shame in acting out in public and overall being piece of shit (I wonder what's the stalking ratio in between men and women) but in female it's much harder and since they're afraid to be seen as instable and get treated for bpd, they brainrot themselves on tiktok claiming autism and saying "Well, that's not an illness! Not a disorder! Just what I am!".
And that's the fault of people not studying effectively autism in women.
Dunno where did you get the whole "Then only moid opinions are relevant??"
Waffles and pancakes, nona…
No. 1941731
>>1940539samefag but I notice over half those men aren't even mentally ill or delayed, they're just moids. A man could grope and bite a woman and underage twitter users would defend him saying "aww but he's probably just autistic and stims/expresses affection like that" even if the
victim called the police or screamed to stop. If an autistic woman did the same thing and out of "affection", she'd be crucified in a mental institution.
No. 1942658
>>1942328I absolutely agree. I understand not everyone with PTSD is like that, but my ex was. She was also
abusive to me and started a smear campaign against me for a whole entire month to the extent where I had to change my number due to her brother harassing me. Also a former friend of hers had to cut her off due to her
toxic behavior. She even acted like this before she was friends with somebody with BPD whom I blocked her on everything as well.
No. 1942723
>>1942328They're the same thing most of the time. The field of psychology just isn't ready to admit that it's been diagnosing female child abuse
victims with untreatable personality disorders all this time.
No. 1942774
>>1942328I think both groups overlap with symptoms, but it like walking on eggshells for both.
>>1942658I'm so sorry you were abused like that. No amount of trauma excuses shitty behaviour.
No. 1942837
>>1942774Thank you for your kind words anon. Yeah how she smeared me was I did a thing called reactive abuse. I know what I did was wrongs but for some reason, my ex always likes to play the
victim. I also knew others like that years ago. For them, it's always somebody else's fault but never ever their fault.
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Can't stand seeing people with gnarly self harm uncovered, specially if it's fresh, it seems so self centered "look at me" and uncaring towards everyone around them, you know you're making others uncomfortable and someone in the room might be sensitive to gore, just wear a goddamn shirt, most places are air conditioned anyway.
>boo hoo do i have to wear pants now because of something i did in the past?? im all better now !!
yes its called being mindful of others and living with the consequences of your actions
>w-what about burn victims or people with surgical scars!!
If you ever had surgery you'll know doctors advise you to keep it covered if you go out because of photosensitivity, hygiene and healing, and neither burn scars nor surgical scars look like self harm because cutters usually have the terrible habit of poking at their cuts which makes them looks distinctively worse and unhealed.
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>>1945193>when it's summertimemost places have air conditioning, i doubt your average bpdchan is working as a garderner or farmer and you won't die wearing linens instead of booty shorts
>they have to feel comfortable tooyou're not owed comfort by making everyone else around you uncomfortable and making yourself the center of attention, you're being just as disruptive as weird troons wearing pigtails in public
No. 1945328
>>1945305just saying you would if you weren't so selfish and self centered
>>1945315I don't care if they're faded and not that visible but I went to uni with someone that had healed but very vividly red scars all over her arms and legs and it made one my friends who had a relative die in a car crash at the time so uncomfortable that we had to sit all the way on the other side of class.
>>1945320I used to have the same general opinion but i had the situation above happen and it dawned onto me how insensitive it is towards people who may have experienced situations that involve gashes, blood etc that were not self-inflicted, you'd usually assume the regular ol' first world is gonna be pretty safe from exposed to stuff like that and then boom some terminally online psycho ruins your day
No. 1945345
>>1945328you are the selfish, self-centered and nosy bitch here. Just don't go out of your way nosying and staring at strangers, focus on your own life because you sound like an unhinged freak.
Also
>thinking that others have to cater to your sensibilities No. 1945453
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Absolutely can't stand autism. Women with autism seem to fair better than men when it comes to interacting with them. But I can't stand the utter inability to get the most basic shit.
The worst cases sit there and do obnoxious bullshit after obnoxious bullshit and expect the whole picrel to be REAL but in reality any and everyone without autism wants these fucking spiders on society to fucking die, because compensating for their shortcomings is a drain on an already stressful life.
At least the ones irl have to be damned with masking so it's less obnoxious. Can still tell when something's off, but the constant eyes on them seems to reel them in. Online is a whole different story and they think it's cute. Fuck em.
nb4 'oooh they can't help' oh my god I don't care. Stay away from me if you have that affliction; I want nothing to do with trying to help handhold you through social interaction. Go bother someone else with your retardation. Shit.
I have too many autistic friends.
No. 1946461
>>1945568>>1945763Teehee, ha ha. It starts with me being nice, and feeling sorry for these poor bastards.
I'm retarded, definitely, but it ain't autism.
No. 1947052
>>1945143i have a lot of self harm scars myself and you are completely right, i've been saying it for years. it's truly just attention seeking and especially if you're around teenagers or older children a lot you are straight up influencing them to cut themselves. no one who parades their tumblrina uwu battle scars around in public would admit this though because they all have bpd and see themselves as some heroic survivor figure that everyone should pity and even admire, because as bippies they still expect their self destructive behaviour to be rewarded somehow and become enraged if people refuse to reward them with asspats or god forbid suggest they stop being
toxic retards. a lot of the replies you got for this post proves that they see themselves as the malala of mental illness and that they can't take responsibility for anything kek
No. 1947063
>>1945143Scarred nona here, had a very rough time growing up but if there's some thing I learned from being a True CutterTM is the immense shame and regret you feel right after. I cut for years, you wouldn't even tell because you don't want people to find out and to explain. That's one of the main things. I cut for years in hidden spots/spots that get almost always covered (near my ankle and on the side of the upper tight, it can be easily be covered with high waisted and swimming miniskirts) and when I'm around people with visible scars I feel this big disgust, I can't really explain how and why. I don't feel disgust for the scars, that would make me a hypocrite but I feel disgusted by their carelessness and attention seeking behaviour. Bippies know, and if they don't they're stupid as shit, that scars will stay there so they choose the best, most open spot because they romanticize it and want people to look at them. Cut your wrists? Arms? Attention seeking. That's it. Cosplay behaviour.
>>1945193Oh please, self harmers know that they have to sacrifice comfort. It's been 15 years since I wore shorts and I live in south europe, I'm fine. That's why "we" choose hidden spots, anyone who cuts in places that almost always exposed are attention seeking, full stop. Your comfort stops when the other's comfort is at risk, when we are out to eat/bus/anything mundane, I don't want to see your gross scars. People judge any day by appearance and I will too. Self harmers feels safe in long clothing because their exposed skin makes them aware of the scars. They burn, the skill pulls, sweats…there's no good side of exposing scars unless you want people to notice them.
As someone who used to panic in the bathroom with baby oil to make the scar heal better because there were times that I went too far and didn't want to be seen as crazy by friends and family, I shame people with visible cuts and purposely bad healed scars. They deserve it, they're on the same level as addicts who post xanax pills or some shit.
>"B-but they don't have to feel shame!"It's part of the behaviour, stop cosplaying disorders. Anything performative is shit anyway.
>"What about surgery scars/burns/incidents"They don't look the same, self harm scars are usually patternish and in one, specific, handy place. Right handed people cut on their left side and viceversa. it's a choice? Shame.
You choose to cut and now are bitching about scars? Stop or save to remove them, cover up.
You teeth fell for drugs? Shame. Choice.
Lung cancer due to smoking? Shame. Choice.
Bald spots due to trico? Shame. Choice.
No. 1947073
>>1947065Where did I say that I feel shame? I don't feel shame, I just know that people, like I do, don't want to see scars and I know that scars, esp. visible, red, scabby ones attract attention. I just want to live my life without people staring at me and asking me about my past choices, if you deny that shit you're either delusional or a histrionic person who will do anything for a crumble of attention. Pathetic.
Stop thinking that shit doesn't have consequences and your appearance isn't your business card to the world. Learn how what disorders imply before cosplaying them and then crying about m-muh scars!
People are gonna ask how you got them. People are gonna ask what did you do. People are gonna wonder what the hell you went through. If you are not ready for this, you might reconsider if that attention seeking behaviour is worth it, because no one is gonna come up to you like a prince charming, kissing your bumpy wrist like a shitty fanfiction and tell you "It's okay princess uwu You won't need to do this anymore!!". No one is gonna see your scars and say "Ohh, poor tormented soul! I can fix her!". No. People will think that you're gross. It's normal, we're hardwired against wounds but we can also tell apart accidental burn scars from self inflicted ones. If I'm near someone with a red stripy arm I'm gonna nope the fuck out because I just know that they're the type of person to use that shit against me. They're the ones that say "look what you made me doo bwaaahh!!"
Annoying.
No. 1947074
>>1947063Gonna wear singlets this summer just for you
nonnie xoxo
No. 1947083
>>1947081Is "your friend" actively self harming? If so, why aren't you helping her instead of validating her behaviour? Why are you letting her do that shit to herself? Why are you going "omg yes queen show your cut arms!!!"?
Are you friend's scars old, healed? Is "she" healed? Cool, then don't address it. It can cause relapse. Don't talk about it. Act like they're not even there.
>Btw there are multiple anons disagreeing with you.Disagreeing with what, talking about what something really implies? It's not like you have to agree, self harm behaviour is like this, period. Actual self harming, not attention seeking bpd shit. Also, like I care. You disagreeing with me won't make what I wrote less true.
No. 1947086
>>1947083>"she"…are you calling her a tranny for being comfortable with herself, wtf? As I said those scars are from when she was a teenager, making them over a decade old, and I did not know her then.
>Act like they're not even there.That's exactly what I am doing and every normal person should do
No. 1947092
>>1947086Nah nonna, I wrote "she" like that because why are you talking about a supposed "friend" lol, this sounds like "Uhmmm asking for a friend" typa shit.
>That's exactly what I am doing and every normal person should doAnd then why the fuck are you replying, we're talking about people who actively do and then make it everyone else's problem. The post you replied to was talking about "esp. fresh scars", why can't you read holy cow, I only talked about people who don't want to break the cycle and then cry about the consequences. I bet that here there are also bpd nonnas who recovered and now can see how bad their behaviour was and can clock it from a mile away, I bet that in this thread there are recovered depressed people who don't want to engage with other depressed people anymore.
If someone walks around with bloody scars either they're very mentally ill to the point they're not aware of themselves (like people who don't wash themselves) or attention seeking and that's a mere fact. Old scars don't mean shit if the person isn't in that place anymore, chill.
No. 1947100
>>1947092>this sounds like "Uhmmm asking for a friend" typa shit.No, some people genuinely care about their friends
>The post you replied to was talking about "esp. fresh scars""Especially" does not mean "only". Even long since healed scars can be noticeable if the wounds were deep enough. I've seen people stare at her which makes me angry, and a person suffering from similar issues not having any compassion boggles my mind.
No. 1947109
>>1947100>I've seen people stare at her which makes me angry, and a person suffering from similar issues not having any compassion boggles my mind.That shit is gonna always happen. Always. As I said you either stop caring or cover that shit up. I made the example about myself because since
I have trouble going out and I want less shit as possible,
for me covering them up is easier because
I notice that people stare and I don't want to deal with that but can't you really blame them? Anything unusual stands out so you either have those two options or stay at home. Complaining won't change shit. People aren't gonna ask your friend the story of her life so they can't be less judgy, people see you once in their life time, think shit like "Weird/gross" and then hop off the bus and their day goes on. If that stuff hurts you, you gotta find some solution, because it's gonna always happen. People will judge your choices, always has been, always will be. No one thinks that cuts are beautiful and you have to accept that.
No. 1947128
>>1947115old cuts, if taken seriously, usually heal in white stripes and are almost unnoticeable on pale people so that's not a problem, I don't have perfect vision myself so I doubt that that nona was talking about them. The ones who heal horribly are on people that refuse to take care of themselves and will continue to scar and pick that spot over and over and before getting to a point of no return/showing them off fresh for attention and often people notice. That's also why I said that I cut for 15 years but people can't tell,
I know they're there and that's the main component of the true disorder.
Red cuts are usually fresh or healing and being around someone who actively self harms and doesn't see a problem with it is draining. Being around someone who walks around with a new cut everyday is draining. Being around someone who shows off her scars is draining and in cases of old scars, saying shit like "Look what I did in my past teehee" is top narc behaviour.
I trust more someone who covers them up/doesn't address them because it's symbolic for moving on but if someone walks around with a bloody zebra on their limbs it's not a good catch tbh, because it's usually people who hold themselves hostages and use their body to manipulate people.
No. 1947148
>>1947073>People are gonna ask how you got them. People are gonna ask what did you do. People are gonna wonder what the hell you went through. If you are not ready for this, you might reconsider if that attention seeking behaviour is worth itbippies want and expect people to ask them about their self harm and twauma because they think life is a netflix show starring them as the troubled MC who everyone cares about for no reason. and if you don't ask them they will tell you anyway kek. they have no regard for others, they just want to sperg about their life and receive oohs and awws from everyone around them at all times.
also, self inflicted self harm scars are not at all comparable to scars from fires, accidents, shootings etc. impressionable teens can see self harm and want to replicate it because it's a part of an emo image that attracts troubled teens, kids, whatever. every cutter, former or recovered, only started doing it because they were at some point exposed to it through media, real life or the internet. literally no one gets the idea to cut themselves without seeing it somewhere else first. this is why it's unethical to show off your self harm, at least in public spaces.
people hate to admit being
victims of social contagions, just like trannies who insist they knew they were trannies since the day they were born and didn't just troon out because they fell for a fucked up trend on tumblr. self harm cows do the exact same shit and want to drag others down with them by shoving their mental illness in people's faces and calling it ~destigmatizing~
No. 1947157
>>1947148ayrt and what people fail to understand is that humans are social animals. Humans need to feel to be part of something so claiming that most self harmers do it out of attention/being part of a group is totally correct, it's the hyperindividualism paradox: you want to be special so much that you end up imitating others. You want to be unique so much that you start to look for that uniqueness in others.
What brings others attention, will bring you attention and that's why people do shit.
It's been that way with anorexia, did, troonism, anything.
I admit that I started cutting because I saw that that was possible, there was a possible way to get a fast pain response from my body without banging my head on the wall and breaking my wrists on tables. "If I cut, I'll still feel in control of what I do with my body but the blood will come out quicker."
I think that right now I feel disgust because I know how that feels like and how awful that is. When I talk about this, esp. when I used to be in a self harm "support" group, usually youngings told me
>"Well, people don't have to suffer like you!! "Then why the fuck are you cutting? It's not cute, people cut themselves to shift their pain source, not to give themselves pain and then acting surprised when that shit hurts, that's why anyone complaining about their self harm and consequences is a major red flag.
"I was stupid, time to move on, people will notice, fuck them." that's the correct way. Anyone who can't self reflect still needs some ward time and surely doesn't need access to the internet to engage with their shitty behaviour.
No. 1947234
>>1947052Im scarred, I don't have bpd, I don't think myself as an hero or brave for surviving a mental illness, I don't want asspats as rewards.I don't talk at all about my scars and my mental state. I just want to live my life quietly in my corner of the world. Wear the clothes that I like and not define my life and personality around bad shit that happened years ago (btw I already have deal with the responsabilities and still dealing with the shame and regret). It's that so difficult to understand?
>>1947063I have self harm scars in visible places because I wanted to be disgusting to scrotes and hated my femenine body due to sexual abuse. I don't think its fair that now when I made peace with my body I have to cover up because some people can't stay in their own biz.
>>1947073People who ask are really rude and should learn manners. It's not my problem they weren't educated and I don't own them an explanation of my fucking body.
>>1947128I have a healed cut with stitches and is very noticeable and other keloid scars. Still not gonna cover and limit my life due to past errors.
No. 1947263
>>1947234>People who ask are really rude and should learn manners. It's not my problem they weren't educated and I don't own them an explanation of my fucking body.This is such black and white thinking, are you sure you haven't bpd? You can't see the nuance. Kids will ask, not because they're rude, but because they kids and they don't know shit. Old people will ask, because they're worried and maybe they will think that you're being abused. People will stare. People. Will. Stare. You don't have much other options aside stop completely caring (and thus stop complaining here) or cover.
>>1947257>infantilizing a conditionA condition that by definition revolves around being emotionally stunted as an infant stage where people who have it don't even understand basic object permanence? tf
Bippies are bippies, like retards are retards.
(baiting) No. 1947267
>>1947263>This is such black and white thinking, are you sure you haven't bpd?NTA but it says a lot about you when you reply to someone with "are you sure you don't have the modern day equivalent of hysteria"
>Bippies are bippiesThat's not what it is called in the DSM-5. Opinion discarded.
(infighting) No. 1947277
>>1942690My ex was like this. Went to his house on weekends on friday night and when I left on sunday morning, he would send me a wall of text listing all the bad shit I did and that pissed him off. I let it go once or twice because I thought he was burnt out for work but in reality he was a coward with a weird little prince complex, when I told him that it wasn't like that (he accused me of purposely leaving hair in his bathroom so he could waste time - my "punishment" for him for being too work obsessed…like he made up an entire scenario meanwhile my hair was falling because its long and breaks out a lot in windy days) he would throw an autistic fit via phone, blowing it up with notifs. One day I just stopped replying. Don't care if that
triggered his ghosting and abandonment fear, in my country there's this old saying that goes "when you wash a donkey's head, you are wasting water and soap." so yeah fuck off. Sometimes I wonder how male bpds would survive if they lived completely alone, they would scream at the mirror.
No. 1947285
>>1947282Not the same thing, you can't control your acne, where it will show and how bad will be. Horrible example. You can control your self harm.
>"No I can't!"Who's using the knives and choosing to self harm? Come on.
No. 1947302
>>1947288>>1947294yes, no one can force you to take other people into consideration, that doesn't mean you should be an attentionwhore anyway. also if you're displaying your cutting scars in public you don't have any shame in the first place, so you can stop strawmanning about being "shamed" and "forced" to cover up and comparing yourselves to oppressed muslim women in niqabs. the
victim complex is real.
No. 1947306
>>1947291>Stop caring about what strangers do and think.Okay that's fair. That's something I can get behind on. But then, why are you and
>>1947302 shitting on people who don't care to cover? They clearly don't care about what strangers think, like you suggested.
No. 1947308
>>1947302Covert BPD behavior ass post. Get checked, maybe you're the one who wants attention
nonny.
No. 1947320
>>1947302Why do people who happen to have scars have to think what
might get some rando
triggered. Look away if it bothers you.
No. 1947336
>>1947306why are you replying to different anons saying different things? i am not at all suggesting people with self harm scars should stop caring, on the contrary i think it's selfish to show your scars because it can and does influence people to do the same, something every cutter is aware of since none of them started cutting until they were exposed to it from some outside source.
cutters should admit to it being a dangerous social contagion and take personal responsibility by not showing their scars around randoms, especially where susceptible teens and kids can see them. for example, teachers shouldn't be allowed to show their self harm scars in schools. and no matter how you twist it, displaying self harm scars is asking for attention, and like other anons have already stated, you cannot expect people to not clock you as a bpdfag or demand they simply ignore or overlook evidence of severe mental illness when you're actively presenting it to them.
No. 1949241
>>1947302You
triggered the self hating bpdchans itt
No. 1949296
>>1949265some people like having stuff on others so they can manipulate their mood. once a manipulative person learns your
triggers they will use it everytime to punish you. I've seen with BPD but also with normies who are simply manipulative (remember girls being manipulative doesn't mean someone is cluster B!!)
No. 1951754
Anyone here fed up with the "it comes from trauma" narrative? When people vent about their experiences with mentally ill people, there's always some shitty whiteknight that says "Itcomes from trauma!!"
yes, and? Or better, since your shit comes from trauma, why are you giving it to others? You should know how shitty that is, right?
"Abusers were often abused as children!" "Bullies are often mistreated at home!" and? Why do they make it everyone else's problem?
Without a circular definition, why should I justify their behaviour?
When my ex moid kept me up at night when I was working and he was unemployed, should I let it go because trauma?
When he threatened suicide to manipulate me, everything was good because poor thing, he was traumatized?
When he overspent MY savings for both of us, it was his trauma?
When he told me I was useless despite caring and providing for him and keeping him off the streets, was his poor traumatized child speaking?
I do not fucking care if you have BPD or any other disorder, if you see that everyone leaves you, YOU are the problem.
Since I left him, I started to sleep better. Sleep better for fuck's sake! I don't have to check if he's breathing in the morning (he used to get up and overdose on MY meds, I had to put locks in my own house), I don't have to make sure I give him a good night kiss, I can stay up late to do my own shit like crocheting or drawing after work without him crying around my house, I can call my friends and chill with them at night, I can take long baths. A 25 year old baby. Have trauma? You know you have trauma, to the point you use it against other people when they call out your shit? Cope and go to therapy, your illfitting life is only yours.
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>>1950114Picrel I saw today, made me laugh. How is this NPD or even manipulation? Telling people things they want to hear to comfort them is just basic fucking empathy and social scenarios, how chronically online are these people.
No. 1951962
>>1951953Every time I see one of these posts I just want to scream. You are not fucking NPD, you're just a lonely, possibly autistic teenager who struggles to make friends and have convinced yourself you're narcissistic rather than found new friends. You're not manipulative, you just talk to people and the concept is so new to you since you spent most of your life in your room.
Ask any of these people if they would actually do NPD things, like scream and rage at anyone in sight for the slightest perceived attack, sabotage others' successes, financially, physically, sexually abuse? They don't even leave their rooms. There's a reason psychiatrists would never diagnose you with NPD at your age and never 10 years later because by then you'd have grown out of that edgy phase.
No. 1952605
>>1951953Kek Idk but this person does seem pretty annoying and delusional and I wouldn't be surprised if they do actually have pronounced narcissistic traits - just not in the way they think/want to demonstrate. At least, this person wants to feel special, and in this case it's a "self-aware narcissist" that's actually goooooood, not a typical
toxic piece of shit. If he/she makes such a big deal out of being basic-level nice and caring, I can only imagine how it's manifested in reality. Think of self-proclaimed empaths. It doesn't seem like the same thing but something very close. I imagine they
know what you need and they deliberately make you know they take it into consideration. They also seem like an annoying overly "rational" condescending type that might use therapy speak. Plus the example of manipulation is indeed funny but I automatically don't trust anyone who justifies manipulative behavior. Or, more precisely, you should trust the part where one confesses they're manipulative and ignore the part where they try to whitewash it and blur the lines, claiming
everyone does it. Like ok, I know now that you at least want to think you can influence people and that you're in control or something and it says a lot, even if your manipulations are childish and obvious.
No. 1952955
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Moids need to be put down
No. 1955143
>>1952746>t. seething attentionwhorePeople gawk and stare at burn
victims too and may even find their appearance horrifying, the difference is that they are
VICTIMS and deserve sympathy. Meanwhile self harmers mutilate themselves deliberately to get pity points, get mad when people don’t want to see it, and have to make absolutely everything about them in a thread dedicated to talking about mental illness you hate. Deranged behavior.
No. 1955677
>>1955220Why don't you learn to read? Aircons where
>>1955477Both. BPDs do it because they want sympathy points e.g. accusing you of abusing them when it was the opposite. NPDs do it because they just want to be superior and kick you to the dirt.
No. 1955848
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Six months ago I moved in with my best friend who recently got a bpd diagnosis. It's supposed to be 'quiet' bpd and I guess it kind of is because she's not prone to tantrums and most of her impulsive self destructive decisions are easy to miss at first (like giving up her antipsychotics, starving herself one week just to binge on candy the next, etc) but I'm so tired already. We're the same age but I feel like I'm raising a preteen daughter. She's obsessed with a professor at out university, he's her fp and she frequently has meltdowns because of him. I've had to intervene many times and each time she agreed she needed to stop obsessing about him but she never follows through and starts talking about how hot he is, staring at his pictures for hours and trying to get his attention literally the next day. Her meltdowns are so extreme she ceases to function, she starts crying in public unable to speak for up to two hours sometimes and each time I'm so scared she's going to do something to herself because she has a history of suicide attempts and self harm.
Aside from bpd she has mild schizophrenia and often decides to stop taking her meds and I feel so controlling for constantly making sure she's being responsible and not going cold turkey on a whim. Oh and cooking for both of us and asking her if she's eaten anything all the time because if I don't she doesn't eat anything and faints in public. She almost fell face first onto concrete last time it happened and if it weren't for a moid friend I wouldn't have been able to catch her. This is genuinely so stressful. I feel like an asshole control freak because I keep scolding her for dumb shit she does like the starvation thing. And I feel like she's encouraged it because she's a very codependent person and asks me for help with every meaningless decision she makes (she hides the serious things that I mentioned). I feel like a bitch because I can come across as harsh when talking to her about those things but when I don't it's like she's on her way to the psych ward with all the irresponsible shit she does. She also revealed that she used to split on me very often before we moved in and that she dropped me (there was a time when she ghosted me for a few months but then came back and apologized) because she thought I was plotting against her because at the time I discouraged her from seeing a guy who turned out to be an asshole, so I can't even trust her as a friend to be there for me… Before we moved in I wouldn't have suspected she had bpd but now it's very obvious to me and I don't want to cut her off because of it, she's still important to me, but I kind of wish I had a different roommate sometimes.
No. 1956558
>>1955771he is the final boss of negging
>>1955848yeah, your friend sucks. cool pic
No. 1957617
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Parents who call their children "manipulative" and accuse them of being the mentally ill ones.
No. 1968980
>>1959761many cases of OCD and severe phobias are quite literally the result of curling and sheltered first world upbringing. if you even have the possibility to avoid things like spiders, germs, other people etc, to the point where the avoidance creates a severe phobia, you're pretty much guaranteed to be a sheltered NEET who never had to face enough challenges, so your mind just conjured up their own problems kek. same with ARFID, they might as well just call it chicken nuggies ipad kid disorder (CNIPKD?).
i have a close friend with really bad OCD and emetophobia and after dealing with her bullshit for too long i've completely lost sympathy for anyone with these illnesses. they're some of the most selfish, demanding and entitled people ever and being close to them requires you to always submit to their demands and have every single interaction revolve around them and their problems at all times. and if you don't enable their fears and phobias (which is the right thing to do since reassurance and other enabling behaviors literally hurts them and makes it even worse) they will despise you and act like you've wronged them. just generally exhausting people who drain the life force from their friends and families, much like bippies but in different ways. this goes for some specific types of OCD though, i know there's a lot of different variants and a lot of them are probably not as annoying.
No. 1969031
>>1968999>>1969004>>1969021learn to read before replying.
many cases, not every single one, and as i said, there are a lot of causes. an overly sheltered upbringing is a well known one, regardless of what you might personally think and regardless of there being tons of other possible causes. what's so hard to understand?
i don't see a lot of bangladeshis or liberians getting tube fed cause they psychologically can't handle the texture of anything other than a french fry. a problem like that only develops in privileged environments. believing otherwise is delusional and factually wrong.
No. 1969083
>>1969031watch out for the
triggered nonnies trying to cope.
It's true. a lot of eating "disorders" and personality disorders are the product of either very sheltered lives.
How come you don't see arfid or anorexia in 3rd world countries but you see shit like autism and schizophrenia?
"They don't have much food anyway!"
So it's about the access to food, not a mental illness. It's purely an enviromental fact.
No shit you don't see addicts in countries that ban drugs or alcohol. It's poor control or being spoiled, no in between but most importantly, no "illness".
>>1969051Instead of talkin in buzzwordese, prove wrong.
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>>1968980>many cases of OCD and severe phobias are quite literally the result of curlinghoser spotted
No. 1972039
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>>1971847Yesss. Ozempic celebs look so fucking awful, Bella Hadid's weight loss fucked up her back and she looks like an old lady. I see people constantly tell her that she looks better after even with her bones deteriorating and her spine slouching. who's genius idea was it to make Auschwitz-chic a thing? At least the heroin chic skinny in the 90s could be accomplished for most women via diet. Now you gotta get damn near Jesus to look good now
No. 1972372
>>1970855Being a brainwashed religious girly has nothing to do with the slave mentality of saying "omg if I don't eat this chip I'm totally in control of my body and everyone else who has a pound of body fat is obese and lame"
Anorexia is not self starving, anorexia is a narc belief of being better and being in control, the self starving is a consequence, just like binge is self control over food and throwing up.
Religious and traumatizing experience that make you avoid food is not anorexia, you don't call muslshits who do ramadan binge eaters because they fast for all day and then stuff themselves all night.
("muslshits" bait) No. 1973638
>>1972557>Mental health "awareness" was a mistake.It really was. I used to be in a support group for mental illness (psychotic shit, not pds), people were sharing actual advices on how to cope and then first it had to be limited due to zoomers wanting to fit in and actually harming the group by saying shit like "Rp post: we let our hallucinations talk!" and then closed because they were shitting up the join requests with slurs and shit about us gatekeeping and hurting the mentally ill youth.
I believe that this fad will go away but it's a dark time, the psych wards are also filled with said zoomers who are just spicy normies at best who get into circlejerking so bad that they convice themselves that they're sick, it's like watching a religious/cult mass delusion. It's not like they give up doing shit, they do shit, they just put on this helpless facade for asspats, that's why I believe that these people sure are sick but not sick of the thing they say that they have. They are all some sort of histrionic/manipulative thing because a sane person doesn't do that.