>>2467821>>2467824Yeah, I spoke to my boyfriend about it properly after and not only was he mortified that he drunkenly sided with his friend (although to be fair he was sat there upset and my autistic boyfriend had that to deal with so I get that) but in the morning he immediately realized when we texted just how
toxic about it his friend was being, I think at the time having his friend upset and not knowing the full story, it was easier for him to sympathize but he is frustratingly agreeable and sympathetic with this friend because like me he lost a parent fairly young and he was worried he'd commit (yeah I don't like his friend much anymore)
But he's been thinking a lot about it now and questioning this friend and if the friend is (clearly)
toxic. For more context he worked in the same workplace and still works there, that the friend got fired from and because it's retail and people are cliquey I think it was easy for him to initially feel bad for his friend, again, I know my Nigel is somewhat naiive.
I feel better having had a big talk with him about it, but he's been thinking a lot the last week or so about how autistically agreeable he is with this friend and he's started putting boundaries up. I've said if the guy is truly as good as you believe, he'll respect them, and he's also responded to any invites from this friend saying he isn't ready to hang out with him and that he thinks he owes me an apology and he's also been upfront with the friend that tipsy him wasn't defending me enough and that it's made him really want to grow as a person.
So, there's that, but I've told him if this ever happens again, I'm out, because I have too much self respect. His friend insists he never sexually harassed anyone but I think my Nigel is doubting him now so I guess the bright side of his idiot best friend being a twat and messaging me to fuck with me is he's losing my Nigel a bit.
Their other uni friends all live far away and he's the only local friend my bf has. I genuinely believe if he had other friends he'd not try as much, but he got bullied a lot as a child and I think his bestie is manipulative no matter how much his family and him don't se
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