>>385177>Yes but with boundaries
This, I have a family member with an ED and I'm happy to listen to her talk about exercise but the moment she starts talking about what terribly unhealthy things she's been eating or tries to get me to agree with any other bodyshaming I change the subject. If she talks about wanting a body like mine or another young person I bore her with a rant about how society is wrong to pressure women in their 50s to unnaturally have bodies of teen girls. I don't laugh when she jokes that a skinny person must have an ED or if she makes mean comments about fat people on the street, instead I clearly tell her that I'm not taking part in her bullying anyone else or herself, she gets very defensive and angry but over time she does it less.
I used to buy into her bullshit that she was just being open about her issues but one time she laughed when I admitted my own issues, and belittled them compared to hers, and then I saw how toxic
it really is.
It's hard not to take her bait and talk about my own body issues but standing my ground is paying off and she is learning that it's just not appropriate for her to bring this stuff up.
Through doing this I have also realized how complicated these issues are. Growing up around someone that was always talking about their ED meant that I did the same because I thought it was 'good to talk about things', and I still do believe that being able to talk about your problems is important, but I worry about the damage that my own teenage outspoken bodyshaming might have had on my curvier friends.>>385264
I really recommend just gently saying "I'm not comfortable talking about this" and immediately swapping to a different topic. Give them some bullshit about how you read something about mindfulness and positivity instead of letting them trick you into opening up about your own body issues, because if you let it become about your own body issues then they will turn it into a competition.