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My parents got my dog put down today. I couldn't be there because I was working, although I was hesitant to be there in the first place. Now I regret it, but I knew it was coming for a long time anyway. My dad brought her home as a puppy on Christmas Eve in 2008, so weird to think that I was 13 and a totally different person back then. For some reason I forgot that I was basically still a child when we got her, she's been around for so long. I remember when my childhood cat passed(That I had since I was four), I found some peace in my dog who was there for me. She was so sweet and full of life. Now I'll never see her again, except in my dreams. The hardest part is seeing how torn up my mom is over it, the dog was her baby, it's the hardest thing in the world to see something so innocent and cute get old and die before you do.
Still, she's been sick since last year, so I'm glad we got an entire year longer with her. I'm glad my parents could be with her in her final moments.
We had to put a cat down on Saturday because she was 23 and in failing health, but she wasn’t really our cat. She lived on the street but had no specific owner, not registered with a vet, and not microchipped. We took her to the vet because she was incredibly bloated and in pain, and they said the options were pain management (and she’d likely pass within a few weeks) or put her to sleep. We chose to put her to sleep, knowing that she wouldn’t come back to us regularly enough to get her pain medication, and she’d most likely curl up to die in the cold outside.
We’re paying to have her cremated and getting her ashes back, we were going to scatter them in the park near where we live so she’d always be able to roam free and run around, but now I’m having doubts. I know this is unhinged but do you think we’ll be dooming her to an eternity of coldness by putting her ashes outside? She was a street cat, no matter how much we tried to coax her into staying inside and warm, so it seems untrue to her to force her ashes to stay indoors.
Then I considered keeping a small amount of her ashes at home so she’d always have a home, and scattering the rest, but then I’m worried about separating her from herself.
This is probably the most deluded thing I’ve ever posted but if anyone has any thoughts, feel free to tell me I’m crazy
You're unhinged by grief. After death all sense perception and processing of sense perception becomes impossible. What nerves in the ash will detect the ambient temperature? What neurons is the information conveyed to? All is gone.
Thanks for doing the right thing taking care of the cat responsibly.
I understand where you're coming from nona, I really do. I dealt with a lot of similar thoughts. But I think you should scatter her ashes outside. The nona above has a good point, but I view it from a very spiritual place. A very important thing for my family is that we are reunited with the earth after we die. Although we had our dog buried, cremation would have been okay too as long as we scattered the ashes. Keeping the ashes in an urn keeps what is left of them with you which can be comforting, but also in a way, traps them inside the urn. By letting scattering the ashes, you allow her to return to and become one with nature.
It will be cold out, but the sun will shine and warm days will return.