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No. 2311735 [Reply]

As the title says.
Post experiences, why you can't stand them and such.
This is NOT about your own disorder, so don't blogpost/vent, there's already a thread for that.
This thread is about mental illness you can't stand in others.
Please refrain from coming in this thread and say stupid shit like "Oh that's why nobody likes me" or "Damn seeing this thread as a [thing] sufferer makes me uncomfortable" because nobody will pity you OR to defend a specific disorder because "[thing] people are actually etc etc" because seeing patterns is not illegal. If your disorder gets posted here, cope and hide the thread, don't be a little bitch.

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No. 2565456

>>2565282
i don't think it's mental retardation either, some autists have invented revolutionary objects and theories due to obsession, more like emotional/social retardation

No. 2565815

Depressed bedrotters who say they have chronic fatigue or become munchies of some other sort. It's just tiring to see. Like girl, maybe you do have chronic fatigue and that's the cause of your depression, if so then that sucks and I'm sorry. But most of the time due to their depression they eat like shit. You cannot expect me to take your "chronic fatigue" seriously when you all you eat is Cheetos, chicken nuggets and grape soda. Get some iron, vitamins, protein and omega-3s in you for once please

No. 2566079

>>2565426
>but people being adverse to food, not putting up with petty shit, not liking cheap textures or being annoyed by unfit and uncomfy clothing shouldn't be a criteria
It shouldn't, but one of the big differences between autism and non is that normal people can at least tolerate these things, especially if they have some incentive to do so. They might not like them, but they can put on a brave face and get through the uncomfortable work uniform in order to earn a living. If someone's autism is severe enough, that same uniform will cause them to break down and be inconsolable and nonfunctional for most of the day. I don't personally think that the aversion to uncomfy clothes is autism because, as you pointed out, nobody likes uncomfortable clothes, but the complete breakdown points to a wider problem with an inability to tolerate discomfort for sake of social cohesion. That's the autism. Human bonding is not enough of a motivator in the autistic brain to assimilate the way it is in a non-autistic brain.

No. 2566815

>>2566079
I don't disagree but I just wanted to point out it's that social cohesion doesn't provide enough dopamine, they can still want to fit in and feel stressed that they don't, but their brain literally will still not provide enough dopamine as it will for idk chicken nuggets.

No. 2571442

>>2566079
Idk anon, the sensory aversion is a weird one. I have literally none of the other symptoms or telltale signs of autism, but I had extreme sensory aversions to certain fabrics and clothes throughout childhood, and even in adulthood I've seriously struggled with them. I had a fully polyester work uniform during my summer job in college that led to me having crying breakdowns (not at work, where I managed to keep it together, but usually after my shifts). I have never been diagnosed with any other mental illness and am generally healthy, but I looked into it later and apparently this type of fabric-sensitivity is not as uncommon as it's made out to be, not just in autistic people. I chose not to return to certain jobs on the basis of the clothes alone. I imagine that if I was part of the younger generation that is constantly being told "you may have undiagnosed autism if…" and believed it, I might have believed I'm autistic, despite being extroverted, having an early and complete grasp of language, enjoying eye contact, and bla bla bla. NTA you're responding to but I can imagine people might think they have autism who previously would not have thought that, because certain things like food aversion and sensory issues are probably not as uncommon as previously thought.


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No. 1714003 [Reply]

A Thread for former NEETs who escaped the NEET lifestyle and are trying to stay out and current NEETs who wish who want to get out of NEETdom

This is not a thread for wilful NEETs

Topics regarding NEETdom may include but are not limited to:
>Reasons why you became a NEET and why you want to leave it.
>Little things that motivate your escape/recovery.
>Changes that you face regarding leaving NEETdom.
>What made you slip up on your NEETdom escape/recovery.
>Asking for advice/help.
>Your success at becoming a normie.

Previous thread
#1 >>>/ot/472051
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No. 2564795

>>2564792
tu arretes de chouiner et tu réussis les rattrapages

No. 2564799

et le psy aussi(integrate)

No. 2565713

>>2549877
Honestly I was worried about this but I never had issues of being too old and being the outsider because of it. The more frequent issue was people who were like 18 wanting to be friends and hang out outside of class while I personally was not interested because of the maturity gap (and I'm not the nurturing type to take on a younger friend as a mom friend or whatever).
I wouldn't dwell on your age much. People reach similar stages of life at different rates and most people you meet understand this unless they come from extremely privileged backgrounds or have personality issues. You'll be alright.
I hooe you meet some cool people and get what you're looking for from the education.

No. 2565720

>>2565713
Samefag, want to ammend this because I wouldn't even say it's "similar stages at different rates", it's also through different routes and in different orders. I think it's important to keep this in mind because the attitude you have about yourself and your past really affects how you come off to others.

No. 2565723

>>2564792
What are your reasons? Not enough info to help you here.


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No. 569079 [Reply]

Are you learning a language? Do you want to ask for/share tips? Want to vent about grammar and complicated writing systems?Wanna share a page of your notebook you’re proud of? Looking for a study buddy? Found an amazing textbook?
Well, here’s the place for all things language learning.
All languages welcome, even English!
PS: no dumb questions like "Do I need to know how to write and speak (insert language here)???" "Do I really have to make efforts??". You won’t get banned but you’ll sound like a retard. Don’t be a language retard.
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No. 2561693

I’m learning Turkish. It’s really fun! I find some words and phrasing complicated but am so intrigued in the way it differs from English way of speaking.

No. 2565622

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It sounds so awkward using my very American name in practice conversations with the language I’m learning. Can I just… go by something else? Like how Chinese people take American names when they immigrate. Would that be weird? I’ve never liked my name anyway. Pic unrelated, but it is kind of funny.

No. 2565624

>>2565621
This is common to do when learning a new language, especially in a classroom setting. Nothing weird about it unless you go all Christian Christopher Ricardo Weston Chandler about it.

No. 2565639

>>2565622
I took a Japanese name while studying in a classroom and that's pretty common in a school setting afaik. It's fun to choose a name and learn the meaning of it and how it relates to the culture.

No. 2565836

>>2565622
Totally normal to pick a name thats in your target language. Like that another anon said, in a classroom setting it’s pretty common to do and fun. I have a very American name that’s is hard to pronounce in my target language, even in their own phonetics. So I have a name I use.


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No. 1683306 [Reply]

Post random things you ate and why. A picture of the thing you ate is always appreciated. Please don't vent about your life here.
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No. 2544411

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last year I bought fresh lychee that were so fucking bad I swore I would never shell out that money for them again. But they looked so pretty in the store so I bought a handful and they were perfect. I can't wait for fig season

No. 2563252

I had vanilla ice cream with nutella, bananas, raw oats and salt on top. I think my period may be close.

No. 2563590

Egg bacon sandwich with mayo and american cheese

No. 2564760

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Kimchi cheese toastie, at the art gallery. 10/10 will never have a plain cheese toastie again.

No. 2564784

I like eating arancini and the restaurant I went to yesterday served theirs with vodka sauce instead of marinara. Yummy


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No. 2550225 [Reply]

Previous Thread: >>2530368
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No. 2564377

>>2564364
Talk dirty to me, baby

No. 2564393

>>2564377
omelette du fromage

No. 2564435

>>2564281
That would explain why it sounds like the average /g/ post

No. 2564521

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I'm watching "echo valley" and why tf didn't she burn the abusive cringey moid!?!? There would have been so many opportunities to burn that moid, before the horses.alsodo junkies really run elaborate con scams on their own struggling parents repeatedly, instead of just robbing random wealthy people?I haven't finished it yet, so maybe there was a history of rampant pedo-based pick-meism, before the lesbian marriage that might explain this Also anons are right, ss is a really bad actress I guess. It's hard to tell on euphoria bc they're all like that

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>>2564521
samefag, it's okay anons the fictional horses got out of the barn safely. And that is all that mattered, in this movie


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No. 1507741 [Reply]

A thread for anons trying to kick a habit. Whether it's smoking, drinking, sugar, caffeine, infighting - any vice you're trying to leave behind, discuss your progress here.
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No. 2563680

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One step forward, two steps back. Almost 2 years sober from weed after many years of heavy daily use… started drinking alcohol more and more over the last year. I don't think what's wrong with me is fixable. I can't tolerate being alone with my thoughts. Even with other activities to distract myself, my brain is too loud. The only relief I have ever experienced in my life has been through drugs or physical exhaustion. They're both unsustainable longterm. I'm so tired but somehow never tired enough.

No. 2563864

>>2563680
You need to fix your brain before you can fix the rest of your life. Get therapy, try out different types until you find one that works for you. It takes time but you'll get there.

No. 2563867

When I see other people smoke I start craving a cigarette a tiny bit

it good that we don't have a culture of people selling loosies here. the thought of buying an entire pack is enough to keep me away.

No. 2564202

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>>2563680
Sometimes I feel like I was born with a void in my heart that's never going to go away. But when I fill it with socializing, volunteering, music, trying really hard at work, fun video games, books, film, birdwatching, hiking, and exercise, it helps me ignore the hole. Idk if you're an artfag but I really enjoy watching Andrei Tarkovsky films because the meditative silence really forces you to just sit and reflect on your life. I've seen a lot of therapists and never had any luck with it, so far my solution has been pushing my energy outwards into loving and helping other people. When I'm serving others, I don't think about myself, and when I'm not thinking about myself I avoid the navel gazing spirals that lead me to bad choices.

No. 2564230

I keep falling into using my phone too much to browse the internet. It's easy to ignore my phone when I'm at work but I need to figure out how to get myself more interested in working on hobbies in my down time instead of laying on my bed with my phone in hand.


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No. 2480908 [Reply]

ITT: share uneventful, mundane, or just downright ordinary events from your everyday life.

Previous thread: >>>/ot/2442735

This thread is not for sharing random passing thoughts. This thread is for sharing mundane or otherwise ordinary events that you have experienced in your life. If your post does not contain a mundane event that you experienced, then it is off-topic and doesn't belong in this thread.

Lolcow is NOT a chatroom. If you want to discuss a topic, you have to discuss it in the appropriate thread. All off-topic posts in this thread should be reported.

For anons that struggle to understand the topic of this thread:
>Examples of mundane events:
>>2423333
>>2427539
>>2431892
>>2428345
>Examples of off-topic posts that belong in different threads:
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No. 2563513

I watched Lost Highway last night and- aside from the uncomfortable sex scenes (though they're seemingly integral to the atmosphere…) I enjoyed it alot, like I can't stop thinking about it. Rip David Lynch

No. 2563663

Ordered a CD from a German record store, and another from a random Italian man selling from his house. The Italian dude shipped it and it arrived to my house in like 2 weeks max, the German one is still unknown. The Italian rando gave me a tracking link, the German record store didn't even bother. The memes about German postal being shit are true.

No. 2563713

My family is watching some Korean horror movie but with an English dub and I feel like I've heard these exact same cartoony voices in some ancient anime dub kek
Do they hire the same people even for Asian movies?

No. 2563714

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No. 2564754

>>2563513
Yeah I saw it this year at an impromptu Lynch festival in his memory and i think it's my favourite of his. Second favourite is Wild at Heart.


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No. 1952006 [Reply]

It's sakura season!
A thread for

>Traveling
Have you been to Japan? Do you wanna travel to Japan? When and where? What are your tourist recommendations? What are the overrated places? Best locations to eat and stay? Best experiences?

>General leaving
Do you live in Japan? Do you plan on living in Japan? What are the reasons for you to move to Japan? Are you currently studying, working, or both? Are you a nikkei or full gaijin? How is life in Japan as a woman? Do you plan to stay in Japan for long? The good, the bad, the neutral.

>Language
Do you speak japanese? Are you trying to learn japanese? What is your studying methods?

Etc, etc.

Share tips, recommendations, complaints, experiences or just pics!
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No. 2562850

>>2562843

No. 2562877

>>2560638
its because of tatemae that people are perceived as being friendly and nice there. really, it's a heavily-pushed social norm to always be polite and easy to deal with. some people are just starting to let their rudeness come out because of obnoxious tourists though.

No. 2563210

>>2560638
>Japanese aren't friendly. I don't even know where this stereotype came from to be honest. Both Japan and Korea have a fairly hostile attitude to foreigners
Huh really? When I went people were incredibly friendly, though I'm a white stereotype so I suppose colorism plays a part. People from little kids to old grandmas were super nice and friendly and went out of their way to help us even when we didn't speak more than a few words of each others language. Though this was just before the pandemic

No. 2563370

>>2563210
I'm not white and look racially ambiguous and people have been nice to me as well. I think knowing a little bit of Japanese helps even though my Japanese is total shit. Depending on the type of interaction it can be enough to communicate with a little bit of help from the google translation app. Everything will depend on if they believe you're making effort to fit in and not be annoying but to be honest it applies to many tourists in many countries, like how British football fans have a terrible reputation all over Europe but normal British tourists who aren't alcoholics don't. I also heard the exact same thing is happening with French tourists in Morocco and how obnoxious some of them can be, they take the "Moroccans are very nice and friendly" thing too far and ask insane things to random Moroccans on their way to the supermarket, home or work, now I'm seeing more and more people complain about them but the cultures are different so it's happening in a different way.

No. 2568371

>>2563370
I think anon is just making shit up. A poster did that up thread too and when they were called out, anon never replied.


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No. 1438031 [Reply]

A thread to discuss the disdain around cats, their owners and cat culture in general.

Cat lovers, please see this thread >>>/ot/1323616
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No. 2562001

>>2561777
May I ask why you are in the cat hate thread if you are a cat fan…? I want to know why browse something targetted towards disliking a thing you enjoy. I am a doghag and avoid the dog hate thread like the plague.

No. 2562233

>>2561612
That might be fake but semi-related something I hate about catfags is how they keep parroting how their house/flat doesn't reek of cat piss because cats use their litterbox but as someone who doesn't own cats I can IMMEDIATELY smell when someone has an indoor cat. The cat piss smell is way stronger than dogs', I can't even imagine what that would smell like if they didn't pee in their litterbox Jesus Christ. And there are studies that suggest that mammals infected with toxoplasmosis find cat pee more "attractive" which is fucking disgusting, cats are basically inducing Stockholm syndrome on their owners via literal brain worms, yuck.

No. 2562865

>>2562001
Because I saw it while scrolling? It’s really not that deep anon. The video is too disgusting not to comment on .

No. 2563206

>>2562001
Not the person you replied to. I stop here to see if there are things I can do better. Seeing others perspectives is helpful. Knowing what bothers them and trying to avoid that if possible. I don't want my cat being a problem for others. A lot of animal gripes are legitimate and boil down to inappropriate owner behavior.

No. 2564219

>>2562865
Sure.
>>2563206
That's understandable. I don't think I could stomach certain phrases directed towards an animal I care for, so it seemed a bit odd to me. Thank you for being open to explaining! It gives me a new perspective on things.


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No. 753508 [Reply]

A thread for farmers with OCD, since it seems there are a few of us in here.
Discuss your obsessions, compulsions, therapy/recovery and how you live your everyday life with OCD etc.

Some topics of interest
>How strong is your OCD?
>How does your OCD manifest?
>What do you think of the stereotype of cleaningness?
>Do you have intrusive thoughts?
>How did you figure out you had OCD?
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No. 2561139

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>>2545419
OCD and Psychosis are self-reinforcing in vastly different ways. Thats about extent of the overlap, fuck psychos and their lack of self-awareness

No. 2561143

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>>2539737
I still have faith that you will find something that unlocks courage within you to try and try again if you fail, despite the pain. It's miserable being in pain all of the time. I believe that despite that, we persevere and succeed, for as long as we try. I have faith in your well-being returning nonnie, I really hope that you can free yourself from this prison.
>>2541134
Yeah, I hope that this new focus on ERP doesn't discourage people from finding its flaws and improving upon treatment. I went from doing more structured ERP to doing it "as needed", but sometimes the breakdowns for obsessions aren't helpful. I went through a period of time being unable to focus on anything other than the possibility I had a personality disorder. It was torturing me because it was related to my own reasoning for ending a friendship. The phrase "Well, maybe, maybe not" that is usually used to defuse thoughts or give them less power felt overly dismissive for a worry that felt hugely important to "solve".
I also felt like I was going too fast or skipping over steps with guided ERP, and I quickly got into my own head about not doing things right and second-guessing my own behaviors in a therapy session. I personally felt like, regardless of some of the dud exposures, there were quite a few that were powerful enough to change the way I viewed my other obsessive thoughts and compulsions. Exposures can also be things like watching videos, interacting with different media, or saying something to yourself out loud. The exposures aren't meant to be one size fits all, but the bottom line is the same: you are going to be exposed to the ideas/objects that cause you distress, and you are going to learn in those moments what to do to lower your distress, and then repeat ad nauseum until you pick up defusion as a secondary habit. And it's really just to control your OCD, not to eliminate it. I honestly feel like ERP would have done nothing if I hadn't started taking an SSRI first. Don't even get me started on SSRIs.. it took me a while to find the right one.
>>2541236
It's difficult to "ignore" the OCD, but it's possible. It just requires you to feelPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

No. 2561238

What kind of exposure is supposed to help with sexuality OCD? I can't think of anything that wouldn't just reinforce compulsive rumination.

No. 2561712

Mine's somehow lowered down to just embarrassing cringe memories. Definitely higher frequency than typical cringe overloads in people but at least it's not vivid images of hurting people I love or other weird, irrational shit. Still annoying as hell though but at least not "harmful" anymore to me

No. 2562771

>>2561238
I don't struggle with this, so I'm really just talking out of my ass, so I apologize. I don't know if this would be helpful to you. In theory, ERP for sexuality OCD would be gradually exposing you to the thoughts or situations that trigger your anxiety and learning how to sit with those thoughts, observe those thoughts, and slowly separate them from emotional or physical reactions. That might mean your therapist suggests you purposefully do something that brings up your sexuality OCD thoughts and then either stays with you to work through it, or asks you to document and break down your thought process. You will be ruminating quite a bit during ERP, and afterwards. With the ERP sessions I've been taking, I actually had my therapist cancel on me once because crisis calls are common. Some people will do like, three separate one-hour-long sessions of ERP a week, because the exposures are so triggering. Some people will do it two times a month, or have to take it slow and eventually decrease their sessions. So… A lot of rambling I just did to say it is possible to do ERP to counter your sexuality OCD, but of course ERP isn't a panacea although people sometimes treat it as such…


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