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No. 333829[Reply]

Pic is related is obviously not what I really think…but I don‘t have a lot of friends. I‘m going to social skills training to learn how to make friends. Will this help me? Whenever I sit next to a girl in class I just don‘t know what to say. I also wanna note that I‘m morbidely obese, will losing weight help me make friends? Be honest pls.
Thanks for reading my garbage blog.
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No. 334025

Good for you for doing the social skills training, that is a major step of self-care. Hard but worth it, IMO. Echoing what other anons have said about losing weight, it helped me a lot.

No. 334037

I'm conventionally attractive and socially anxious/shy as fuck and other women just think I'm a stuck up bitch.
sucks.

No. 334045

I've never tried social skills training but I've had social anxiety before and pushing myself to go places where you don't know anybody really helped because even if I didn't manage to make friends there, I still made effort and felt like I accomplished something, it made me more confident. I still haven't made any real friends but now I at least have people who I can occasionally talk to. I hate to say that luck was a big part of it because I got into a class with really nice people and it's virtually the first time in my life when I feel like people like me. All I did was basically stop trying to do anything and make friends because I got tired of struggling with my issues. I'm terrified of graduating and meeting new people because you have to be more active to establish some kind of relationship and I still have no idea how to do that.

No. 334092

tbh being a chubby girl that lost a ton of weight in high school, i did gain more friends, but i was honestly jealous of those fat girls who were very social and the life of the party. after a few years, the friends that i made after losing weight drifted away.
it's definitely all about confidence, though. not the fake confidence if you get what i mean.
i know tons of skinny girls with no friends because of how cringy they are irl despite how confident they make themselves out to be online.
i think it's very helpful to make voice diaries. just ramble on about anything for an extended amount of time. i used to do these while driving alone to and from work and still do so from time to time. doing this has helped me talk more confidently with other people and give me ideas on what to say in the future. it also helped me talk louder, which i had a hard time doing. i was always known as the quiet one. not only did doing voice diaries help with my confidence, but it helped my mental state to a degree.

No. 334101

Being overweight never affected my chances of making friends or having relationships. That's literally insecurity talking. If you are a well adjusted person and not a complete social retard, and you are hygienic, it doesn't matter if you are fat or not (unless you're like, so fat your mobility is restricted or something).

I am happier since losing weight because I am more confident and hate myself less, but I still have the same friends and the same husband I had when I was 100lbs heavier. Literally nothing has changed except I look better and feel better.



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No. 131699[Reply]

I checked around for a thread like this and didn't see one, so here is an all-purpose employment thread.

Post about your employment status, successes, woes, anxieties, rants, etc.
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No. 273246

>>272298
If it's more about keeping busy, you could sell something nice and handmade on etsy.

No. 333080

Time to revive the thread because I have a some doubts and questions. I have an internship in HR and it's going well so far. It's in as international company with a very good reputation and I got very lucky I got this internship. Problem is, I'm not specifically studying HR even though I had courses about human resources management and similar subjects. I'm actually about to get a master's degree in international business and management if everything goes well, and after that I'm not too sure what I'm going to do because working in HR seems appealing now that I finally have some professional experience, but I'm wondering if I'll find a similar job easily somewhere else if the company can't keep me after the internship without a degree in HR. At the same time, I won't have the money or time to get a new degree.

The reason why I'm worried is because I had a really hard time getting an internship last year to graduate and I had to get enrolled for a new year just to get an internship and actually graduate since I started mine way too late. Meanwhile, a friend who has the same bachelor's degree as me and nothing else managed to get a similar job in another company, except he isn't just an intern so he's paid normally, as opposed to me who makes less than the minimum wage in my country. He suggested handing my resume and cover letter to boss, but his boss didn't want to schedule a job interview because I wasn't trying to get a HR master's degree even though she herself hired a guy with a "worse" resume than mine. It only made me salty at the time, but now I'm wondering what I'm supposed to do to be taken seriously by potential employers. I've been thinking about asking that guy about it but we're not that close and he'll probably take it personally.

I know that in the end, experience is going to be more important but it's hard to get even an unpaid internship without a degree or connexions and I want my career to start in the best conditions possible.

No. 333369

>>333080
My suggestion would be to keep going at your internship and talk to the people that you go to school with. Sometimes, you can make connections that way, or at least learn about different companies. I'm not sure what country you're in but also getting a linkedin could help many connections as well. From what I've found, confidence and experience go a long way when finding a job. Even though your masters isn't specifically in HR, I think your degree is close enough. Combined with your experience I think you should be fine. Don't let your friend's boss get you down. There are plenty of other places that you'll be able to work. I've been in many internships and it's frustrating and it sucks, I'm sure that you'll begin to find (if you haven't already) that you're better at your job than your paid coworkers. Internships suck, and they are only temporary. You got this!

I'm going to launch into my bullshit now
I'm currently a licensed counselor and I start a new job job tomorrow after working at my old job (a smallish nonprofit) for 4 years. I really loved my old job for a long time until the level of bullshit became almost unbearable with leadership changes and a lot of really poor decisions that were effecting clients more than anyone else. My friend/old coworker started working at a big hospital and referred me. I interviewed and they said that they were going to hold off on filling the position that I applied for because it was grant funded until the end of the year. They asked me if I was interested in 2 other positions and I expressed interest in a specialty clinic position more than the other one. They made me do a panel interview with a bunch of doctors, which was terrifying. They called me a few days later and asked me if my heart was set on the job at the specialty clinic. Shit at work was fucking awful that day so I was feeling desperate to get out and I said that if they thought I would be a better fit in the other job (the one I didn't really want) that it would be okay with me. I also figured that I bombed the interview. Later, my friend told me that she was told by someone who was in the interview that they all voted for me and the plan was to offer me that job. I called the supervisor back and asked for clarification as to whether or not I had a choice and she told me that they were holding off on filling that position as well. I let it go aPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

No. 333681

>>333655
Working is ten times better and I was neet for 8 years before I got my first job. Just because you feel safe, doesn't mean you are. Enjoy fucking yourself up because you're scared.

No. 333748

>>333655
It's really sad that you think you're happy being a neet. It's going to stunt your mental and emotional growth exponentially and fuck up future friendships and relationships, and you could seriously hinder ones that you currently have.

Working fucking sucks, but it's life dude. Personally, it has most definitely turned me into a better person. You learn and grow as an individual with a job, but have fun being stuck in your own little safespace I guess.



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No. 307872[Reply]

Can we have a thread for any media (anime/manga, games, books, movies, music - anything) that is comforting and wholesome. No surprise OW THE EDGE please.
Just things that make you feel better when down and restore your hope in the world.
Both nostalgia and new favorites welcome!
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No. 331579

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Hyori's Bed and Breakfast
honestly binge watched both seasons whilst being depressed in bed this winter so far and it's been great. got me onto drinking buckets of pu'er tea and actually cooking properly again

No. 331581

>>330155
That anime broke me. It's depressing at times, but there is something so incredibly wholesome about Natsume as a character. it's truly a great series about the trials and tribulations of friendship.

No. 331645

AKMU's sister and brother duo feels very wholesome to me.
I love how they are not over-sexualized, look like have a healthy relationship and how they overcame a lot of difficulties growing up poor and changing countries.
This song in special is about how they were scared as children of the 'Dinosaurs', slang for loan sharks, that used to visit their home and, in the song at least, decide to roar louder than the dino to gain courage.
They also did some super cute Disney covers.

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I'm watching the 1995 bbc version of Pride and Prejudice at the moment and it's wholesome as fuck. I was always put off Austen adaptations by the nutty fanbase, but I actually really like it.

No. 333682

>>331575
Are these really wholesome? Looks targeted towards a certain group of incels.



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No. 267683[Reply]

Since "hating" on weeb/otaku culture isn't allowed in other threads, voice your distaste here.
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No. 315539

>>315531
that anon literally wrote that akchyually
>real pedos are mentally deficient and do actually see the children as equals and sometimes actually think they are being seduced by them.

It does sound like siding with pedos, in a way. Or at least with their bullshit excuses.

As a sidenote, if you were abused by a non-retarded adult, does it make him a fake pedo? lmfao

No. 315583

>>315531
When did I say that? Hit dogs will holler, I guess.
Anon said they're just "mentally deficient" and "don't understand", and I pointed out that that's BS, because it is. These people know exactly what they're doing. It's not a disability that makes you a giant kid yourself who's incapable of understanding social cues, or other humans. It's not a disease. It's an attraction to children, and some will go to many lengths to fulfill that attraction, even though they know it's wrong and can only hurt the child. That's that on that. They 100% have personal agency and control over themselves, they just don't give a fuck.

No. 315826

>>315583
Adults with the mentality of a child exist, but it's called being retarded, not pedophilia lmao.

No. 332664

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>>267683
I just got back into anime over the summer after avoiding it for 5+ years since my cousins/sisters gave me shit for liking it back when I was a teenager.
After watching a crap ton of it, and reading a lot of manga, I realized why I stopped enjoying it.
Anime/Manga in general is extremely misogynistic/pedophilic in most regards, like whenever I try to enjoy a manga they tend to be in highschool and holy shit the amount of fan service involving 14 year olds is insane! The female characters are all mary sues.

I still enjoy the story lines and probably won't give up manga, it's a guilty pleasure.

No. 333534

>>332664
Which one is the guiltiest?



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No. 332584[Reply]

Do you know what this thing is?
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No. 332743

>>332739
nah i havent been a part of the big ol bidet debate above just passed by for a quick second. squat anon kept me coming back tho. theirs was a powerful post

No. 332746

>>332743
can't argue with that

No. 332749

Why are they separate? I'd love a mini shower for my butthole but where's the soap? I'll stick to wet wipes then…

No. 332797

>>332728
I had to do the squatty potty stance yesterday night at my bf's house.

I had come to his place after being out with my friends. I was drunk and high as hell. We had eaten greasy pub burgers, and so by the time I arrived at bf's place I was ready to pop.
I waited for bf to go to sleep. Yeah. Potty time.

I went into the shared bathroom he had with his roommates and nothing was too unusual except for what seemed like some extra tp someone leftover in the toilet.
I peed and squeezed out a couple of small tidbits. Flushed.
SOMEONE BEFORE ME HAD STOPPED UP THE FUCKING TOILET BECAUSE SUDDENLY WATER WITH MY POO PEBBLES ALMOST BREACHED THE TOP RIM!!

Worse yet, I realized my body had tricked me with stealth poop; turns out the hard little bits I had squeezed out prior were merely a portent of the liquid shit that was to come. I didn't have much time left. Furthermore, this was the only toilet in the house. No plunger.

I panicked, and I was paranoid.
I didn't want to wake the house and then be accused of being the one who clogged the john. I didn't want them to know it was my poop in there! I scooted back into bf's bedroom and thought of somewhere I could shit, it couldn't be directly outside because it was an urban area.

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No. 333073

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>>332749
Here's the soap. You keep it on the bidet, ready for use



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No. 222861[Reply]

Vamos lá macacos.
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No. 332054

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EU sei que o estilo dela é genérico de instagram, mas vejam o caralho de photoshop que ela usa. O engraçado é que é desnecessário, o corpo é bonito nos vídeos.

No. 332064

>>332054
www.instagram.com/braganca

No. 332665

>>332054
Wtf está acontecendo no rosto dela, lol.

No. 332744

>>332064
>19 anos
mas nem fodendo, ela tem cara de 40 no minimo

No. 333955

>>332054
Parece que o Picasso quem pintou



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No. 331249[Reply]

This thread is for the discussion of transgenderism / trans ideology from a gender critical and radical feminist perspective. It was originally created by Admin as an amalgamation of the TERF and Transgender threads.

Gender critical and radical feminism define gender as sociological (feminine/masculine) and sex as biological (female/male). Woman is defined as an adult human female. Radical feminists seek to abolish gender as it is used by patriarchy to oppress women socially, reproductively, and financially. They strive to preserve women's spaces (such as restrooms, locker rooms, and health care providers) and areas of artistic and intellectual expression separate from men.

Trans ideology posits that one's gender is self-determined based on one's feelings and defines woman as the characteristics and behaviors traditionally ascribed to females by society. Increasingly, transactivists are conflating gender and sex and asserting that a person can self-identify both gender and sex.

Gender critical feminists strive to maintain the distinction between gender and sex. The conflation of gender and sex erases the biological reality of women, eliminates women-only spaces, and disestablishes women as a protected class. Existing laws and legislation currently being passed around the world allowing for self-identification on legal documents do not differentiate between gender and sex.

The acronym TERF (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism) is used primarily by transactivists and their allies to denigrate radical feminists and other women who express gender critical ideas. Transactivists portray TERFs as violent oppressors by virtue of their ideas alone.

Posts of related news and web articles are welcome. Posts of photos, videos, and blogs of transactivists for the purposes of discussion and critique are welcome. Please refrain from derailing, infighting, and ad hominem attacks. This thread is not intended for the general discussion of feminism, sexuality, misogyny, or misandry.

Resources:

https://fairplayforwomen.com
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No. 331255

>>331249

The resource list in the other thread is updated.



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No. 320422[Reply]

This thread is for the discussion of transgenderism / trans ideology from a gender critical and radical feminist perspective. It was originally created by Admin as an amalgamation of the TERF and Transgender threads.

Gender critical and radical feminism define gender as sociological (feminine/masculine) and sex as biological (female/male). Woman is defined as an adult human female. Radical feminists seek to abolish gender as it is used by patriarchy to oppress women socially, reproductively, and financially. They strive to preserve women's spaces (such as restrooms, locker rooms, and health care providers) and areas of artistic and intellectual expression separate from men.

Trans ideology posits that one's gender is self-determined based on one's feelings and defines woman as the characteristics and behaviors traditionally ascribed to females by society. Increasingly, transactivists are conflating gender and sex and asserting that a person can self-identify both gender and sex.

Gender critical feminists strive to maintain the distinction between gender and sex. The conflation of gender and sex erases the biological reality of women, eliminates women-only spaces, and disestablishes women as a protected class. Existing laws and legislation currently being passed around the world allowing for self-identification on legal documents do not differentiate between gender and sex.

The acronym TERF (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism) is used primarily by transactivists and their allies to denigrate radical feminists and other women who express gender critical ideas. Transactivists portray TERFs as violent oppressors by virtue of their ideas alone.

Posts of related news and web articles are welcome. Posts of photos, videos, and blogs of transactivists for the purposes of discussion and critique are welcome. Please refrain from derailing, infighting, and ad hominem attacks. This thread is not intended for the general discussion of feminism, sexuality, misogyny, or misandry.

Resources:

https://fairplayforwomen.com
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No. 331238

>>331236
imagine if you were trying to pull off a kind of con like trannies are trying to pretend like they're the opposite sex. that's a huge undertaking. imagine what kind of bank-robbery heist that'd feel like and how shameful it'd be just to try to pull off something of that magnitude. that these men can even attempt to do so is like a hard marker of fetishistic sociopathy or something

No. 331242

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I just dont know anymore, im tired.

No. 331246

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Here have some more stupidity

No. 331250

New thread >>331249

No. 331253

New thread!

>>>/ot/331248



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No. 238435[Reply]

Post wholesome images only pls
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No. 330627

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No. 330999

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anyone got any cute pics like this i could sent to my loved ones when they're working really hard on a project and i want them to know i support them 100000% and wish that they'll succeed?



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No. 269167[Reply]

Bitch about your friends here. Feel free to consult the thread on whether you should have the person in your life if you're at the point where you're not sure anymore.

>be overweight and trying to lose at least 30 lbs

>be friends with obese girl who keeps complaining about how tiny I am, that I don't need to lose weight, and how it's driving her crazy
Note that I don't even discuss it with her much, I'll just make passive comments about having to watch what I eat when she suggests we go out for bad food. I've been trying to skirt around pointing out that I'm factually overweight when she goes on these rants to avoid making her feel bad about herself, but the last one she was so offended and actually angry at me, so I think it's time to bring her into reality. Like, sorry that you're way bigger than me but that doesn't make my weight any less unhealthy?

Same friend
>shits on me for things I often later find out she's totally fine with other friends saying/doing or even agrees with
>bitter AF when it comes to money and disapproves of people spending it in anyway she wouldn't (like she'll judge you for spending money on video games but $5 every day on coffee and eating out every night for dinner is a necessity in her world)
>has straight up asked me to confront her SO about conflicts they're having that don't involve me in any way and state I'm on her side
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No. 329199

Work friend decided to talk about a exclassmate who was a bible thumper, got in everyone's face about it. Apparently he got arrested for grooming a underaged girl into kitten play. She went so into detail with this at work that I got triggered and told her to stop. She didn't listen. She was so riled up about it I left the room. I felt really sick because I was abused for a long time but this friend doesn't know about it. I prefer it that way because she tells everyone about EVERYTHING. It's not a secret anymore.

No. 330243

I have a group of friends where this one girl hates me. Her bf used to have a major obsessive crush on me before they started going out and for some fucking reason she still thinks I'm a threat, even though I'm very happy with my boyfriend and I made perfectly clear that I have absolutely no interest in his sweetheart from the very start.

She takes every chance she gets to mock and berate me. I have pretty thick skin and we make fun of eachother all the time within this group but she's just plain mean. Like for example I have a somewhat severe dyspraxia (my fine motoric skills are that of a child so I'm a messy&clumsy bitch) and me and my friends do laugh about it a lot but she for some reason thinks it's my weak point and brings it up all the time. It's starting to get really awkward to brush of all her comments like I don't mind them. My bf has lashed out at her a few times on my behalf but I really dread unnecessary drama. I can't drop her out of my life bc she's good with everyone else but damn it's starting to get on my nerves. Bitch your bf liked me like 1,5 years ago and is obviously happy with you what the fuck is your problem.

No. 330245

>>330243
She's obviously insecure if you want her to shut up tell her that

No. 330264

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>>330243
ask her the real question

No. 330473

I have this one friend who will not stop chasing the social media personality dream. It's been going on for over 5 years, it's so embarassing to watch. She literally thinks she's going to become a Buzzfeed staff member if she keeps name-dropping the company.



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