Have this ex boy-crazy friend from highschool, all her exes were shitty but she'd put up with it until they just confessed to her that she's a shoe-in for another woman they actually liked.
I made it very clear to her that I hated all of them when she was with them and that she should stop being a doormat for men and to get some self-respect (in a nice way) but I'm pretty she likes victimizing herself and loves attention more than anything in this entire world.
She doesn't have any other thing/hobby/interest to obsess over other than k-pop, anime and consumer things like above.
She's now with this guy she met on Omegle who pressured her into sex before marriage which was the one thing that she kept as a principle and excommunicated the rest of my friends and has a yes-man tif friend to go and buy bdsm gear in public and play Valorant with and she still isn't happy about the fact that her boyfriend doesn't listen to her (because she makes it her selling point that she is a doormat). I hope I never talk to her again but I will bring up kinks just to hear her talk and laugh at her.
>>2266279if a lot of their niceness feels transactional/like peer-pressure (I'll do this so you should do this)/if they do things infront of others to look good.
If you feel (uncomfortable, ignored, shamed) and you can't place why, don't ignore it and keep a tally on your phone so you don't doubt yourself.