/ot/ - off-topic

Should i reply

Should I make a complain account

will i get the job.

Will she come back?

Should i go visit him

I hate that there's basically nowhere on the internet to talk about things if you're a woman who hates genderism. I long for a 4chan for girls, where you can have interests that aren't necessarily sanctioned by big Radical Feminist.

>>2468245
Maybe Birthday wishes?

>>2388771
that's probably because most languages distinguish between general/formal "you" and personal "you" (like french has vou and tu) english used to have "thou" for that but no one uses that anymore

>>2468282
That's… not quite how it works. And even if it was, it should still be obvious from the context of our posts that we are agreeing with what they said.
Even non-eslfags will start infights because they're too retarded to read a chain of replies or understand what a post is saying.

My mom is such a killjoy, you can not tell her anything without her adding something negative, like I excitedly told her I was going to see my favorite band live 3 times this year and she went "isn't the show the same all the time though?". Who cares, the band probably won't exist anymore in the next 5 years because the leader is a turbo boomer, I'm trying to see them as much as possible before they quit. I also mentioned I was getting a new tattoo in blackwork next week and ofc she said "yeah black is better because it's the easiest color to laser off", why the hell would you say that about a tattoo I don't even have yet? I don't think she even does it purposefully, she is naturally negative about things she doesn't understand.

what does it mean when you're only conversational when you're drunk kek do i have some kind of mental block preventing me from talking to people when im sober

>>2446253
The short answer is yes. The long answer is that maybe you don't really get along with them and while you're drunk you let their shit slide. Or maybe you are just shy. Idk I don't know you, but there are various reasons of why someone wouldn't be that talkative.

Today's day drinking excuse is that I've finished an entry course for uni. So I only have to study for an exam and have plenty of free days. Also I want to have a drunk nap. Drunk naps are objectively superior because we don't rest properly, so we half recharge and we can still sleep early at night lol. Also if I think a lot about my crush before I fall asleep there are high chances I dream about her and I really need to hug her right now.

Mfw I no longer get liver or pancreatic pain after consuming alcohol anymore. Cheers, ladies!

>>2422610
These are my shit kek, especially the blackberry and pineapple flavors. Whenever I don't wanna feel gross and bloated from beer (which I also love) these are my go-to, especially when they're tall boys.

me and my friend are drunk off malibu right now and my first thought was the drunk thread on lolcow. not sure if that's a good thing or bad thing. i love this retarded little website.

>>2469073
If people could behave normally sure, but race talk always brings in baiters and racists.!

>>2469092
Human beings are kind of ugly kek. We look like oversized naked rats.

>>2469114
A “pretty” dick still looks gross. Genitals are all ugly.

>>2469190
This might explain why humans like people who look so far detached from human form because our natural form is kind of gross

>>2469024
This was obviously racebaiting

>>2469024
don't know the context, probably should've been banned for racebaiting but self-censoring isn't allowed on here. i assume that's what that ban is

>>2469038
WRONG
>>>/ot/1633680

>>2469053
…that's still racebaiting.

>>2469038
>>2469053
>>2469071
If you can read, the ban message says "h0e" because "h0e" is a self-censored way of saying "hoe." Self-censoring is against the rules like >>2469052 said.

>>2338430
I love your list!
>Get as much things done as possible… just do as much as possible instead of going directly to the couch and scrolling. It will be 10 times harder to get up afterwards.
I read a tumblr post or something years ago that summarized this sentiment as “Don’t sit down, it’s a trap.” Sometimes I repeat that to myself to prevent me from couch and bed rotting. Similarly, the foreboding obelisks in picrel have been a good reminder for me. The quote is fine too.

The biggest change I have tried to make is replace my scrolling habit before bed with reading a book. Instead I catch up on my cows over my morning coffee. It’s a work in progress and I am not totally successful, but it’s a start.

Does anyone have any advice on how to reclaim your sexuality? And I'm not talking about trying to look hot in preparation to get fucked by men. Frankly I'm done with that shit. But my abusive ex did everything he could to make me feel asexual, ugly, unsexy, undesirable. He used porn as a way to neg my self esteem and make me feel like I wasn't good enough to arouse any man. I know that's BS because I don't struggle getting attention from men or bfs, but he really knocked my self esteem down. I went from being outgoing, bubbly, confident and happy, to miserable, hiding myself and my body all the time, trying to dull my outfits and dress as boringly and asexually as possible, not wearing makeup etc. I used to love wearing nice clothes and makeup for myself, he made me not even want to pick up an eyeliner. I miss who I was before meeting him. Is there any quick way to feel attractive and beautiful again?

>>2448291
Well, men will fuck raw chickens and burgers. Just be yourself and you will find someone.

>>2448291
I was the same and i just started going after younger guys.

>>2448291
I have had the same issues because of sexual traumas. Honestly there's no quick fix, you have to accept that he has done a lot of damage to you and it will take time to build that up. But it should be your top priority to build your self-worth back and love yourself. This is your root issue and things like not wanting to dress up, being shy, losing libido are only symptoms. Also, lacking self-worth puts you at risk of being abused once again.

The easiest thing I did to fix that issue seems kinda silly but it worked quickly : I just told myself things like "I love myself, I look good, I feel good, I'm confident, I feel grateful" while staring at myself in the mirror, atleast once a day. After a week or two my brain automatically spurs positive thoughts when seeing my reflection, instead of the usual "I look tired today, I have a huge pimple, I don't even wan't to go out". In the same vein, when I'm anxious before a social interaction, I'll repeat in my heads encouraging things like "I'm a confident, nice person, and others enjoy my company". It may sound stupid but you probably already do this with negative thoughts, and those negative thoughts have shaped your perception of yourself with enough repetition and time - the goal is to reverse that process.

Pair that with something more engaging but that you won't regret: find a sport you like, yoga, going to the gym, running, stretching or whatever. Something that will make you feel great in your body and proud of yourself. Really stick with something, even if it's just a few minutes a day. It's not an instant fix but just a month of daily activity will make you feel better about yourself, guaranteed.

Just take care of yourself in general, body and mind. Say nice things to yourself. Act like you're a mom taking care of an hurt child, so be gentle and patient with yourself. Change will come in time but you will not go back to who you were before, you'll be an even stronger and better version of yourself. This guy doesn't hold any power over you anymore, you have the power and will to grow out of this and reclaim your love back. Good luck nona, I believe in you.

>>2467742
Eikä edes sellainen ~eksoottinen~ itäkarjalainen vaan ihan perustallukka kannakselta, joka mitä luultavammin piti itseään ihan tasan suomalaisena. Niin kuin omatkin isovanhemmat. Ei tulis mieleenkään alkaa vetää mitään karjalalarppia

>>2464685
Pystyt siihen! Uskon suhun nyymeröinen. Jos tytykiki on olemassa niin pojutisu on ihan yhtä validi.

>>2467859
Joo oma evakkona tullut isoäitinikin piti itseään suomalaisena ja karjalaisena samalla tavalla kuin joku pitää itseään vaikka pohjalaisena, mutta silti suomalaisena. Koskaan ennen karjalalarppaajia en ollut kuullut, että karjalaiset ei olisi suomalaisia.

>>2468210
Omassa suvussa kyllä oltiin aika tarkkaan sitä mieltä, että karjalaiset ovat eri porukkaa kuin suomalaiset, mm. isomummi käytti suomalaisista sanaa "ruotsi." Suku oli ihan Suomen itäosista ja ortodokseja, ja sodan jälkeen saatiin kuulla aika paljon ryssittelyä ym. eli se varmasti vaikutti. Pidän nykypäivän uhriutujia aika naurettavana sakkina mutta pakko sanoa että niillä on pari hyvää pointtia mitä menneisyyteen tulee. Lisäksi Venäjällä on paljon karjalaisia joille ei tulisi mieleenkään kutsua itseään suomalaisiksi.

>>2468898
Ihan sivuhuomautus, mutta aika törkeää kutsua suomalaisia ruotsalaisiksi. Ehkä ne onkin karjalaiset, joiden pitäisi oppia kulttuurisesta sensitiivisyydestä. Kek.

>>2463505
I will look into that thank you nona

I'm starting a new job in a few days and I'm nervous as hell. I feel like I've become so maladjusted during my bouts of neetdom, I just forget how to have polite conversation. I'm excited to start but I'm also scared I might be too much of an autist for this. The people I had my interview with seem so nice and I doubt I'll be able to match their friendliness. I've been trying to make more conversation with people and see my friends more but I've been depressed at every job I've had (even a nice one) and I'm already scared of getting fired for it. I hope I'll be able to stock more than sit at the register but they say it can get busy so I don't know. Pray for me nonnies.

>>2468867
the secret of small talk is just to have questions ready to ask other people about themselves. people love talking about themselves! also, keep a list in mind (or on your phone if you need to) of stuff you did over the weekend/after work/good things you’ve been watching on TV/your hobbies etc - that way when someone is like oh so what did you do this weekend? you’ll have a vaguely interesting answer that can prompt more convo instead of just saying ‘oh nothing really, you?’. good luck! you can do this

I've officially been employed for a month and a half after being a NEET for years. I don't really like it but I like getting money in my account every week even if it's basic minimum wage.
It's still hard to think of myself as not being a NEET even though I'm working 7-4 most days. I just get there, do what I have to do, and stare at the clock till I can leave. It doesn't feel like a real job somehow. I don't know how to explain it kek but it's more like roleplaying or a video game somehow to me even though it's an actual job that's not particularly fun

>>2468963
Better to kind of disassociate with it than it being something that brings more stress I assume.

>>2456122
>most people weren't very political so not everything was through a political lens
They were but in PRIVATE which is what I miss about 20 years ago and not so extremist which is maybe more what you meant to say.

I was just thinking about this the last few days. What ever happened to the "never talk about politics and religion with strangers." rule? Now everybody has become socially retarded and does this in real life and it's so fucking inappropriate and does nothing but cause anger within everybody. It's like everyone is ragebait to each other which is why nothing is functioning as well as it did.

Social media is completely unnatural in general but it has made politics become related to everything even in shit that has nothing to do with politics really. The government has successfully used social media as propaganda and turned a lot of people who would've been normal 20 years ago into extremists simply because people often parrot what they see online. People fall for propaganda like they fall for advertisements. The more people see something, the more they start to fall for it. It's like I'm living in bizarro world today. Social media has highlighted how much people cannot think for themselves and are quick to disregard etiquettes that were set in stone because everyone is out of touch with reality.

>>2466541
They can do all this but let pedophiles walk free. What a joke. This is fucking ridiculous and of course, dystopian.

>>2434900
Late but yes, kind of. Anxiety over accidents specifically. I eat and I can't stop thinking about my teeth slicing through my tongue. I drive on the highway and think about getting in a rollover accident. I walk down the stairs and think about falling and breaking my jaw. Cutting vegetables always makes me think about cutting my fingers off. It's all very visceral and vivid, it feels more like a "vision" than a thought. I get an almost magical thinking-y feeling like it's going to happen for sure and feel panic and doom trying to come up with a way to prevent it. It's distracting and really hard for me to focus on other things, especially because it happens on a loop until the "danger" has passed.

>>2468573
How does any of that relate to ADHD. Your boyfriend from new york is dumb as fuck

>>2434900
I keep intrusively imagining the pain of getting stabbed on the tongue and the upper inner arms. Idk why those spots specifically. I know they're just intrusive crap but they're so annoying

>>2468652
>>2434900
Never been diagnosed with OCD but I’m pretty sure I have it. I also have trichotillomania but not sure if that’s related. I’m the same with accidents/something horrible happening out of my control. Sometimes when I’m a passenger in a car, it’s like I can’t stop thinking about/seeing extremely detailed visuals of what would happen if we got into an accident (doesn’t help that my current city is known for horrible drivers and deadly accidents - lots of DUIs, tons of people running red lights and texting while driving). It’s like I can see what it looks like when the glass breaks, feeling the metal cave in around me and slicing me, what it feels like to have my head slammed with force by a huge object going 90mph, what the cops would see at the scene, what my body would look like when I’m mangled and bloody with my guts or brains out on the road, the horror of seeing my partner dead, etc. Really gory shit, it’s awful. And yes same, it’s like I feel this paranoia that because I can “see” it so clearly, it must mean that it’s real and an inevitable event or something. I’ve never been afraid of flying before, but when I was on an airplane last month, I was looking out the window and couldn’t stop thinking about the horror of a plane crash, and what the aftermath would look like - my leg ripped off somewhere in that field below, my torso partially impaled in that orchard, my skin burned, and then my partner or parents hearing the news, and then I start spiraling about the vulnerability of my body “oh god my flesh is so soft and tender, anything could happen, oh no I’m scared…” and it’s like I can physically start feeling the pain. I remember seeing horrible photos online from the aftermath of a plane crash over a city and what the locals saw on the ground, and it hadn’t left my mind, I guess. I hate it and I hate that I can’t “logic” my way out of this one. If it was a completely irrational fear that would be one thing, but the fact that “yes, I and everyone else I love will die and some in sudden, horrible ways” is really fucking with me lately.

>>2468806
Another one I forgot to add: Every morning when my husband leaves for work, I have to say “I love you, drive safe!” as he goes out the door because it might be the last thing I ever say to him, and that if I don’t add “drive safe!”, then something bad might happen on the way and I failed to protect him.