/g/ - girl talk

my current boss (he's the branch supervisor and i'm the branch admin assistant) is the nicest boss I've ever had by far, but it makes me nervous that he's secretly attracted to me or something. He always compares me to his wife in my behavior (but to be fair has introduced me to her via video when he works from home and says she knows about me too) and always wants to chat with me for long periods of time, he massively overshares about all topics all the time and even other people's business and drama, but also sometimes topics of conversation come back to his past "dating strategies" (I don't want to hear about it but he doesn't take my hints and he's my boss and I'm in a very low-level position so I can't be more firm) like "i never had sex right off the bat with a woman, that's crucial, blah blah blah"… but since the oversharing is a broad pattern that makes it harder to pin down bad intentions with those particular tangents. He always likes to tease me and tries to give me lots of life advice, he has daughters who are about 10 years older than me so i try to think of it as "fatherly" but I just don't trust scrotes like that, even though I do like him as a person.

Today he revealed he got me a birthday present for next week, and I'm feeling really uncomfortable about it. IDK what it is, tbh it doesn't matter what it is, I just wish he didn't. He treats me much nicer than any of the other employees (not that he's mean, just to-the-point). To be fair our personalities do mesh very easily just as people, so it makes sense we get along, but ughhhghhuhghh I just hate being "friends" with scrotes, especially older scrotes. I don't want to suddenly change my tune and become less friendly/change how i interact with him, but at the same time I want to reel this in a little bit just because it makes me afraid that one day he's gonna start saying weird things to me or something… I don't think he is, but the fear is always there.
I'm pretty ugly in the face so that makes it less likely, but still. I feel like you never know with scrotes. What should I do, how should I react to the gift next week? how can I put more professional distance between us after almost a year of employment without it being awkward or looking like I'm backtracking?

>>393951
I'd start keeping logs of all his behavior. Even if nothing comes of it, it's better to start keeping a record of all these instances in case you need it. Does he treat everyone else this way? Only treats the women this way? Make a note of that, too. I'm not sure the exact wording to use because I don't know how you two talk to each other, but something like "I don't want you to give me special treatment with gifts" is fine. If he buys everyone birthday gifts then that's just how he is.

>>393967
he doesn't seem to treat other women this way, and I don't think he's in the habit of giving gifts to anyone else. I think it would seriously damage our personal relationship if I told him what you suggest, but I wish I could say it. It's difficult to be in a position where you're so low-ranked you have nothing to stand on other than the good-grace of a boss.

i started working at a small therapy clinic as an assistant a couple months ago. i was originally excited about it, but now im starting to grow bitter and frustrated. as nice as my boss is, i can't help but get irritated every time he points out a mistake i made. like i found it helpful at first, but over time i started to get tired and stressed about it. i understand it's constructive criticism, but i can't seem to figure out why i get so pissy about it. i've had other jobs and dealt with constructive criticism just fine. it's gotten to the point that i'm starting to dread work a bit and outside of it i sometimes start thinking about how i need to do xyz when i get back in. how do i chill out and stop myself from taking things so personally?

>>393951
>>393969
Ugh that's such a tricky situation to be in.. he's not doing anything explicitly wrong but you can feel there's more to his actions than just being a decent boss and the power-imbalance makes it uncomfortable.. I'd frankly consider leaving if you really don't want to damage your personal relationship. Or live with it and sit it out as long as he doesn't cross (more) boundaries and try to limit non-work related conversations.

>>393766
One of those cases where the pet and owner lookalike!

>>392975
I want to curbstomp smug gay moids like this

>>393766
I like that the dog’s ears aren’t clipped

>>392975
All the beautiful men get molested as children by faggot pedophiles and it makes them gay.

My face is melting off. Maybe one day he'd feel comfortable enough to let down his guard just a bit and be submissive. I think that would be the most rewarding thing in the world. I want to kiss him whisper into his ear that he's a good boy and I love him and he's doing great. I want to slowly tease him and massage him and get him all worked up through being shown the affection he's been denied all his life.
I've thought it many times, I don't care if I even get off from it. I just want to satisfy him. His pleasure is mine. Once he's comfortable enough with it, I can imagine he has a bit of a teasing or even slightly perverted side. But I think our first several romps will be me teaching him, discovering what feels good to him…I just want to show love to him. I want to see his pretty little face all red and dripping with sweat and drool. I want to hear his little tail tapping against the mattress and he doesn't even notice he's doing it, giving away the emotions he tries not to show on his face. I want to see his thighs shake as I run my fingers lightly over them, not quite touching. I want him to accidentally slip up and release a deep moan when I finally touch him where I know he wants. His pleasure gives me a high like nothing other. I don't care what he wants to do or what position we're in or whether he's dominant or submissive or both. I need it all. I want him to feel good. I want to protect him. I want to marry him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I need to show him I love him. Ah, ow…

>>392951
I tried but I'm not sure if you can make out who my husbando is kek

Seeing him in a maid outfit makes me want to bully him.

>>392951
This picrew is super adorable. I made one some time ago but couldn't find it so I made another one.

joining in on the maidposting.
i like to imagine him next to me while i work. either berating me for overcooking the rabbit cartilage (im making glue, and if you boil it, it won't be sticky) or getting frustrated at me for having dirt under my fingernails and having my fingers covered in shellac or paint. other times, i imagine his fingernails being dirty as well, since he isn't afraid of dirty work. he wears gloves himself, which i hate using personally, so i do wonder if he likes keeping his hands pristine, or if he is like me, and doesnt mind ruining his hands. he strikes me as a pedantic type, though.
i wish i had a friend like him irl. sigh.

>>393984
Every single time someone says the weeb freakouts over fictional men are funny someone crawls out to "WELL ACTUALLY" it with their own viewpoint like it doesn't just make them look even funnier.

>>393992
There are options other than obsessed husbandofag screaming about wanting to impregnated by husbando-kun you know, my girlfriend is a gigantic fujo and only likes male characters but she never husbandofags for them. Meanwhile the pornsick yurifag lesbian I know started dating men KEK

>>393994
Nice fanfiction, fujolard.

Stop replying to her

This thread is the last place where I'd expect to see fujos. Why are you here

Not sure if I am avoidant or I am the way I am due to bullying and being treated like shit by my mother. I basically always anticipate to be hated and look for signs of criticism even in innocent remarks. This makes me hesitant to contribute to conversations and even if I do, I replay what I said a million times afterwards and dissect it and feel like I said the stupidest things and I feel horrible. In group settings I find it hard to follow the conversation and often zone out.

I also feel an almost schizophrenic level of separateness within myself, when I am with someone I trust and I know I won't be criticised, I can be myself and I behave in a completely different way than with people I don't trust where I'm mostly silent and morose. It feels like an inescapable situation where I feel like I have to like myself and have high self esteem in order to be liked and connect to people but until I'm liked and able to connect to people I will hate myself and think of myself as shit. Self-generated hell, basically

I'm anxious and I don't understand how people have secure attachment styles. I anxiously latch onto my partner and get told that I'm too clingy or needy, so I hardcore go in the other direction of "I am a strong independent woman and I don't care about anyone". It's miserable like this. It's always pain over partners that won't give me as much attention and I know it's not healthy either because I'm obsessive and codependent. But I don't know how to reel back without not caring at all. How are you supposed to care for someone without making it a massive priority and need?

My brain is wired wrong. I want hugs all the time, nuzzles all the time, non-stop. I am perpetually touch-starved and it's driving me up the walls.

I've tried to train myself to become used to not be so fucking clingy all the time but over 10+ years of trying it hasn't worked. I need the hugs. I'm constantly hugging and rubbing my face into my pillows while I'm alone at home. I wish I wasn't like this, it's not necessary to have or need this much physical affection but my brain doesn't care.

I think I might have anxious attachment. When I have a crush I get so obsessed and jealous and it is the only thing I can think of. I also have a habit of social media stalking to see if my crush liked any other womans pictures etc. I almost always find something and break my heart a little bit. When the person I'm talking to won't message me back fast enough I get really upset and cry about it like a little kid. Sometimes I also get angry and block as punishment which just hurts me even more or text something really passive aggressive which only pushes other people away. It is really hard to have the anger or fear get the best of me. I am just a very needy and insecure person and I don't know how to fix myself. I am already in therapy but my fear and the anger often win. Every time I care about someone or fall in love I think stuff like "they don't care as much as you do" or "you are too ugly/too stupid for them to even consider you as a girlfriend. They only go on a date with you because they are bored." "Your crush probably talks to ten other women that are way more beautiful and accomplished than you." This mindset is so ugly but I cannot help it. I long for love and someone who only ever looks at me. I have a really hard time communicating my feelings and needs. Like when someone doesn't reply to my message for a day I lash out and get angry and try to ignore the other person even harder to get back at them but what I actually want to say is "It hurts when you ignore me because you are important to me and I want to talk more with you." But I feel embarrassed about it and am not sure if I can be this vulnerable. I have a first date tomorrow and I'm already scared of rejection because I've already imagined us getting married and adopting 3 cats. How tf do I fix myself.

Fearful avoidance is tough to deal with. It's easy for me to become so attached to someone and want their attention, but it's so difficult to ask for it. What makes it worse is being with someone who doesn't reciprocate my love that I want to receive back. I start becoming codependent on men who don't know how to do so. Having a clingy man is satisfying. I just need one who doesn't have a temper. I've only been in a relationship with 4 men in my life and I'm making sure I tell the next guy I date straight up I'm considered needy, because I have needs.

>>393266
autistic? yes. but who cares? if you want to do it, just do it. life is too short.

>>393292
>big bow to the back of my hair so it looks like ears from the front
That's such a cute idea

Where can you get vintage style trousers like this nowadays besides hunting for literal 80 year old pants? Everywhere I look it's either jeans or sleek corporate office pants.

>>393938

Search 'relaxed fit wool tweed trousers for women', might help

>>393938
I like Uniqlo men's Pleated Wide Pants. The have elastic on the sides and a inner drawstring so I can tighten it.

>>393874
SAMMMMME (I was >>393756 kek) in my fantasies I can never choose between getting the strap and giving the strap, my fantasies always involve both. Although I’d like to do it in the reverse order. I feel like I’d need collected concentration to do a good job strapping her that I wouldn’t have unless she fucked me to sanity first. I get crazy and loopy like a cat in heat when I’m craving penetration. Afterwards my head would be clear enough to concentrate and my clit would be sensitive enough to be really stimulated by thrusting. yes I’ve spent far too much time fantasizing about this scenario

>>393872
Tell me about rocks…

>>393756
Yessssssss. I am always dreaming about having a big butch princess and I rapidfire switch between fantasizing about overpowering and ravishing and devouring her and then fantasizing about her going down on me and loving every second of it. On one hand, the contrast between butch, tomboyish, outgoing, dominant personality and how every feminine spot on her body succumbs to pleasure from my touch while she's flat on her back is so delicious. On the other hand, I wouldn't mind some of that aggression too. Strapping and then being strapped is such a clutch fantasy. You're a genius. I'm mad I'm single and I can't go do this right now.

I want a woman with stupid huge boobs, some real spine-destroyers, to tease and harass me endlessly in public.

I wish there was a way to be a slut online and post NSFW pics of yourself but only for other women, where scrotes couldn't see. I'm nothing special but still have a weird urge to show my pussy to other horny women over the internet kek.

>>393057
4C is not a myth. I have 4C and I want black people to stop fucking gaslighting 4c women that are hair isn’t in 5C/6C because it’s always just so fucking dry and kinky and coily. That’s the one thing I hate about being black and it makes me seethe seeing other black women with nice, softer pliable hair textures because it’s so fucking hard trying to style it, idc how much these natural hair enthusiasts try to convince us that it isn’t hard to upkeep and maintain with a modern western lifestyle. It pisses me off so fucking much, tired of 4A and 4Bs pretending their hair is 4C and shitting up the tags with their own hair that they damn well know isn’t the “bad” hair.

>>393068
I’m not convinced it only applies to certain ‘4c’ hair though, because in my experience (and in some anecdotes) my hair was completely indistinguishable from any other 4c. so what would be the distinction? if everything is the same i think it would be odd to assume they’re any different.

i have the time so i’ll spout my theory. i’ve put an autistic amount of effort and research into my hair because of how much trouble it was giving me and came to the following conclusions: 1, all moisturised and detangled hair, 4c or otherwise, naturally inclines to clumping waves/curls together; 2, the curlier the individual follicle the more moisture it needs to hold itself into clumps; and 3, curlier hair types are dryer because less hair clumps means less moisture retained.

basically what i found is that the more progress i made with my hair the more follicles bunched together and followed the same direction. it ended up progressing from typically 4c to reminiscent of 4a/4b to curl bunches the size associated with type 2/3 hair (but the curl shape looks different, more random meandering and coils upward at the tips, sort of water-like). picrel is not my photo but looks exactly the same as how my 4c hair looked when i first noticed the curls clumping after a veryyy long couple of hours trying to wash a hair mask out.

i’m simply convinced people are too busy putting money into wigs and extensions etc to experiment with research around our natural hair. current hair science is geared to caucasian hair types, from shampoos to conditioners - we don’t have the luxury of products scientists have literally researched to work for us, i would even argue this for ‘black hair products’ (like greases, they seal out moisture that just isn’t in the follicle). as a result all we have are anecdotes when there could be concrete science on this matter, especially since it seems so disputed.

saw the last reply so disclaimer - while i think locking moisture into hair is probably beneficial long term i don’t consider either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ hair. i dislike when people get trigger-happy over this topic regardless of what you say, and as i said i prefer ‘4c’ texture for certain styles. but this is my experience and, once i shared what i’ve done with my hair to friends and family who also have 4c hair, the Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>393077
What did you do to your hair anon?

I have super thick and dense, 4c (or maybe 4b. Or maybe a mix of both, idk) hair and it's always been super difficult for me to manage. Haircare has always been a confusing and mystifying topic for me. I've shaved it off multiple times out of frustration and insecurity from other other people judging my hair. The most recent being only a few months ago, so I'm currently in a phase of wearing lace wigs. Once my hair grows out a bit more though, I want to dedicate more time and effort into understanding my hair. Stuff like moisturizing, keeping it healthy, styling, retaining length etc…

The best resource on black hair in my opinion:
https://www.reddit.com/r/vindictanoir/comments/oid62r/everything_ive_learned_from_black_hair_care/?rdt=54536

Anybody else get bad eyebags? I have consistently shit sleeping habits and you can really tell. Aside from sleeping better which is a priority, anything from any nonna’s experience that worked to deflate them

>>393944
Oh also what I’m doing currently are those under eye mask patches and green tea oil. Otherwise I try to hide them best I can when I go out but the main issue isn’t darkness so much as puffiness. I feel like this is health related so hoping for some pointers, even exercise related. I went to IR light heated yoga a couple times and I think that helped too.

>>393755
Great! You'll definitely find your own groove for what works for you, but my advice is to look up a split that works for your schedule, so if you wanted to do upper body three days a week you would look up a three day split, or you could try something like a push-pull-legs split, bro split, or an arnold split just for example. These are all just ways to organize which parts of the upper body you work from day to day. You could also try a full body split! Personally I like to use a push-pull-legs. You can do nearly any exercise with dumbbells, you'll just have to google the dumbbell modification for any moves you see that you don't have the equipment for. Here are some moves I use when I'm doing my workout at home.
push:
>dumbbell bench press
>push-ups
>chest fly
>lateral raises
>farmer carry
>shoulder press
>overhead tricep extensions
>tricep kickbacks
>halos
pull:
>bicep curls
>hammer curls
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>>393954
nayrt but thx u!!

I went to brunch this morning and ate freely without thinking about calories (eggs benny with homefries, plus a mimosa). It's kind of impossible to count calories when you eat out, that might have been like 1500 calories depending on how much freaking butter they used. So I decided that this would be my intake for the day.
I enjoyed the meal and overate a bit, but still left food on the plate. I'm proud of this as in the past I have automatically cleaned my plate without really thinking about how full I feel. I successfully didn't eat anything else for the rest of the day which is a W for me. It's nice to indulge while still keeping in line with your goals.