>>1415126>>1938081>I'm a quiet person & prefer silence, but sometimes it feels forced when I make conversation.It'll feel forced for as long as you're uncomfortable in making light conversation or small-talk. Once you get more used to it, it won't feel as forced. To improve how we make small-talk, we've to practice it. Even though it may seem banal or weird, make more small-talk with the people you see in the world. Talk more to the storekeepers, the cab drivers, the people who wait with you for the bus, etc., over time you'll notice that you become more open and receptive to conversation. Conversation is an art form, and there's lots of books to help you out (it's weird but look for books recommended for people with social disorders like autism, usually they're the most helpful and concise in their methodologies) but some good rules to follow for small-talk are:
>Comment on the weather or recent news that's popular, e.g., sports happenings, entertainment industry buzz, local events, etc..>Share something about your thoughts on those aforementioned topics, then ask a general and open-ended questions based on them, e.g., "Gee the weather is great, isn't it?" "Yeah it's really nice out!" "Got any plans to enjoy the sun while it lasts?">Keep it topical; share personal opinions or convictions for more personal conversation, i.e., in small-talk you just want to make observational remarks, e.g. "Swimming would be great in this weather" not "I'd hate to swim," or "Swimming is stupid, I'd much rather surf," etc..>Avoid topics that are inflammatory; for reference these are politics, race, religion, and anything to do with money.Making small-talk comes naturally to many people, so it's hard to give you concrete answers on how to improve your conversational skills. Over a while of practicing, you'll develop your own unique ways of holding conversation dependent on your own idiosyncrasies, humour, familiar topics, etc.. The best you can do is practice, because practice makes perfect.
>I'm starting to feel like a boring person, what can I do?My rule of thumb is every person
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