>>296555>>296584Honestly from the sounds of things… you can't help her. Part of why my last relationship imploded was because of me being an evil
TERF. I can guarantee you that anything you say to your ex, no matter how friendly, will be misconstrued as "evil
TERF trying to sabotage me". It's fucked up that she's being used as a babysitter and seems to have been pressured to troon out but until she reaches out to you I don't think there's anything you can do. I know how it feels, as much as I hold a
lot of anger towards my ex, I still worry about her. Tl;dr is that she's using cocaine "recreationally" and drinking heavily while she's supposed to be studying for her PhD. I feel horrible, especially since I was the out of control junkie when we were together and she helped me, but now things have changed. Just try to remind yourself that you're not responsible for your ex, you can't babysit her, she's a big girl and she's got to live with the decisions she's made. This doesn't mean you're a bad person.