I've just come off testosterone after being on it since 2016 and am deciding to detransition.
Basically what
triggered it was starting to seriously bald, and getting into a relationship with a man. I am "stealth" and, allegedly, pass. I work in a supermarket and am almost never misgendered by colleagues or customers. I'm not saying this to be like I was the rare 100% passing tranny, but more so to point out that "transphobia" or not passing did not factor into my detransition, and that my transition would be viewed as an "ideal outcome". I know you can never really tell if you pass, but I've been living for years under the assumption that I am virtually indistinguishable from a male to the general population.
I was in that aforementioned relationship (my first one ever, at 27 years old) just chilling, feeling fully like a "gay man", whilst having PIV sex and having to go get the morning after pill because I'd let him cum in me sometimes (insane). He did say that being attracted to me and enjoying having sex with me made him realise he was Bi, which upset me a bit (I told him, "well its different for everyone, some gay men's sexuality is based around genitals and some's aren't", again… insane) but it also set some cogs turning. I kept getting UTIs too and having to go to the pharmacy and explain that yes, even though I look "like a man" I have a vagina so I do not need to go to my GP because I have UTI, please just give me antibiotics. And eventually went to the sexual health clinic to talk about birth control. I think these experiences started to break the cognitive dissonance a bit, because meanwhile I am on tumblr seeing people telling "transandrophobia truthers" that it is impossible to experience misogyny as a trans man. (this shit never made sense to me, even as a "passing" trans man, because I know most trans people especially trans women do not pass. And that women are not oppressed because they wear make up and have long hair).
I then started to really notice that there actually are massive differences between men and women, both physically and socially. I genuinely knew this as a young teenager but that tumblr brainwashing will really get ya. I realised too that I, in no way, felt or acted like a man, and that I didn't want to either. I'd been kind of ironically playing around with this before, saying I was a female-socialised man, or a "male lassie" kek, but I never wanted a
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