/g/ - girl talk

I am struggling a lot. I'm gonna talk about sex stuff so here is the TMI warning.
For most of my life, I have always been a person with a very healthy libido. It might sound stupid but I always really valued my sexuality even if it's just been me by myself (i've always been 4b/celibate). And maybe people with low libidos might not understand, but the sexual aspect of myself felt like a really important part of me and the experience of being alive in general.

I'm not exactly sure what happened, but within the last few years, I can't find my attraction to men anymore. It's like something clicked into place and I became so disgusted by the "male soul/ essence/ vibes" that even their bodies became unattractive to me. Simultaneously, I went through a very weird situation of crushing extremely hard on a very androgynous woman, which really (confusingly) re-lit my internal flame for a while. But I unfortunately got double mindfucked when she did a 180, found a man, and had a baby in under a year. That really broke me, and I can't think of her that way anymore. So I'm left once again in this place where I am not feeling attraction to anyone, my libido is mostly gone and what little it manages to flare up, it's not connected to anything so there's no way to take advantage of it. And it is really making my life feel so empty.

I keep wanting to delusionally believe that maybe I can find another woman I could be attracted to, but I've known my whole life I am straight and one anomaly hasn't changed the fact that I don't find other women attractive. So I've tried to re-ignite my interest in men; watched all the actors and youtubers I used to thirst over, tried to get back into my old 2D husbandos, I keep all the sexy men and man bodies threads unhidden and always look at the photos anons post (which I used to like) and just… nothing.

I was totally fine being celibate before because my fantasy life was fulfilling and I felt like I was still living a normal life. But now I feel broken and empty like I’m living a half life. I miss my “sex life” so much. And I don’t even understand what happened.

>>581413
Sex drive changes with age and you probably need more for it to get going now like an emotional connection

>>581195
I should really finish this anime Queen Mari's too entertaining.

>>581413
wow anon, was literally casually scrolling down /g/ when I saw this - I've almost gone through the exact same thing. Sadly, I don't have much advice but I hope you can have some comfort knowing you're not alone.

>How long have you been consciously celibate for?
3 months

>What made you decide to go celibate?
I became celibate because I’ve experienced, time and time again, what it feels like to be in relationships where my boundaries around sexual integrity and respect were ignored, dismissed, or outright betrayed. I once naively believed in full emotional and sexual exclusivity (for both sexes) not just in body, but in desire and attention.

In my most recent (likely the last) relationship with a man, I was clear about what I needed to feel safe, respected, and truly loved: no porn, no thirst-following, no secret lusting after other women online. I tried to pre-empt this problem I’ve had with many men, by communicating my no porn boundary early, transparently, and gave my partner the freedom to walk away if that wasn’t something he could honour. He chose to stay, he agreed and then broke those promises again and again. He never admitted anything, I’d always have to play detective to find his pathetic lusting, and every time he excused himself and made me out to be a prude.

I gave everything. I was adventurous, present, loyal, and sexually devoted. But no amount of love, trust, or passion was enough to stop him - or ANY previous partners - from objectifying other women behind my back. I was grieving betrayal after betrayal while being gaslit into thinking my pain was overreaction. I was left feeling like a placeholder, or even a fleshlight, while the real focus of their arousal lived on their screens. He would screw his eyes shut during sex, or do me from behind. God knows what porn scenes he was replaying in his head. After 2.5 years and constant betrayal, sex became a chore and he would complain how it wasn’t like it was at the start. Well yeah, you ruined it you asshole.

Worst of all, I carried the emotional labour of his lust, dishonesty, and guilt. I had to cry, explain, beg, forgive. Even after the most vulnerable, painful moments (including an abortion on my own birthday) he watched porn and I was still expected to tolerate the same disrespect. Somehow, he always had an excuse like (“I was struggling about the abortion too!” “I don’t know what that is, I never watched that”) and I was always supposed to understand.

But I’ve come to understand something too: I don’t need to settle for a version of intimacy that breaks me. I don’t want to hand my bodPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>580987
We have less stigma around sex work than ever, but women still aren't signing up for it. At most they're signing up for no-contact onlyfans, not actual sex work. Are you stupid? or are you projecting because you think taking it in all three holes is just another tuesday?

>>581058
nta but there are way more women in hardcore porn now than there were in 2000, also places where it's legal like germany end up with giant brothels. unfortunately the destigmatization of prostitution/porn and sex "work" does end up with more women getting involved (I say unfortunately because I don't think SWers should be stigmatized because it makes it harder for them to get out of it, I think johns should be stigmatized more)

>>581443
You’re reducing the prevalence of sex work to just “stigma”, which is not accurate at all.
Idgaf if I won’t be stigmatized for it, I’m not gonna suck off some retard loser for 10 fucking bucks.
If you take away the stigma of eating shit I’m not gonna start eating shit here and there, tf.

>>581447
I'm just gonna go out on a limb here and guess you're probably not eating shit behind closed doors for free either, but feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. you probably still have sex in your private life though and if you don't lots of people do. the problem with prostitution is that it's monetizing something that shouldn't really be monetized in the first place and when monetizing it becomes normalized it creates a lot of problems.

>>581898
Also it preys on poor women hard. Remember feet finder commercials, where someone was short on rent but totally made loads of money selling feet pics? Even strip clubs use to advertise for women to "secure their financial future". Moids finding hungry women on the verge of homelessness and offering them food or housing in exchange for sexual favors, and somehow people will look at the poor, desperate and ill woman over the moid using womens vulnerability as manipulation

>>579984
Wouldn't agree with that but you do you

Does this thread have any actual butches posting or is it just being camped by rage addicted trolls who have an autistic vendetta for them?

People will say "butches still exist", but the only butch-looking women I ever see are 40+ hamplanets, and if I get to know them, they're either taken or straight (and therefore not butch). I have a certain normalfag athletic interest, that's equally popular with women and men, but there's no one who looks like me. I'd say maybe I should try a "manlier" sport, but my job is as traditionally male as it gets, and same shit. It's not like my city is that small either - the troon population is huge.

>>579994
Anon is right, this argument is always retarded. Majority of women that look good in menswear don’t have a V shaped bone structure… they’re just thin. Your V-shaped equivalent just gets called a bulldyke.

i'm so tired of damn near every piece of media about butches nowadays (movies, documentaries, photography exhibitions) always featuring at least one or two who have had their tits chopped off. nothing more jarring than looking at a photo collection of "butches" and there's randomly a fat shirtless one with the worst scarring you've ever seen. it's repulsive.
i sympathise with women who have body image issues but it's hard for me to consider these types genuine butches. i dunno, hating your healthy breasts so much you get unnecessary surgery doesn't equate to being a proud butch woman to me.

this >>560363 for the next threadpic, please!

>>581383
>you don't know me and you know they don't actually give a fuck about you.
Exactly. It's all performative. And if you get to know them and get in a relationship with them they'd be literally cardboard cutouts, devoid of any interesting personality worth sticking around for. The AIs or fictional characters are literally more human than this kind of people.

new thread >>581389

>>581383
>They always talk about how sad and lonely we must be like kek you don't know me and you know they don't actually give a fuck about you.
I love how these moids talk as if they're this prize to be desired instead of mommys little mistake that no one wants to put up with LOL

>>560363
Please. Zenshuu was for the yumes!

>>579413
Your average fakebian experience. I hope you’ll find someone who eats your pussy out nonna.

>>579418
Kekkkk

>>579563
She seemed too masculine to be a fakebian, I think she was just picky as fuck and bad at sex

>>581310
all of ur experiences suck so bad. the girls you're with only know sex through porn

>>581128
is that why Japanese bras are usually functionally useless and more concerned with stupid lacy designs?

>>581128
>scammy salons that sell “bust up” treatments
I’ve seen a lot of posts/videos on the japanese side of the web like vidrel that advertise exercises/massages to increase your breast size which is obvious bs. Apparently they also sell supplements/gummies in japan that promote bust growth but I’m also skeptical about that one.

>>574330
>>579003
Hi nonas! I had a breast reduction three years ago and it is the best thing I ever did for myself. I started at approximately a 32F, my breasts were fairly saggy and concealed my figure. I don't wear bras anymore, just bralettes, and post-reduction breasts don't measure quite like a natural breast, so it's hard to say exactly what size I am now, but I'm much smaller and the shape has changed dramatically. I tried on an old bra for fun and was a bit baggy but almost fit, but because there was no need to lift them anymore it was superfluous. I'd guess I'm around a 32B or C now.
Recovery was pretty painful for a couple of weeks, it helps if you have someone around to help you with physical tasks. I had my GF stay with me for a few weeks, she did things like help me get dressed and chores that required lifting anything heavy. I'd honestly say the most difficult part was sleeping. I'm a side sleeper and you can only sleep on your back during recovery. I probably slept on my back for about five weeks. A mastectomy pillow was my best friend. I had no drains, I just had steritape and had to wait for it to peel off.
Scarring on the breast itself is not really visible unless you look quite closely, you can see a bit of a line under the breast but it is camouflaged into the fold of skin/slight overhang. One of my nipples did heal with a little lopsidedness and my surgeon fixed it for free in-office under local anesthetic, looks great now. My only truly visible scarring is along the sides of my body; because I had so much tissue removed the scarring had to extend to my sides. It's pretty faint, though, and frankly my quality of life is so improved I just don't care. If I were more consistent with scar tape maybe they'd be even more subtle but I'm just not that concerned with it. YMMV with regards to your personal preferences.
As far as expectations, advocate for yourself fiercely and you'll probably get something quite close to what you want. If you have the luxury of picking a surgeon, look closely at their results on Realself or their website. I was personally very concerned with the nipples sitting strangely, in a lot of breast reduction post-op photos you can see they're often unnaturally high and centered on the breast. I brought in photos of other women's resultsPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>581204
They look smaller in the after picture kek

>>581214
>>580938

Thanks for the replies nonnies! You've given me a lot to think about.

>>581091
Fucking pop-up stores and cafes are the bane of my existence. I can't justify spending 10x the price on an acrylic stand on mercari because I can't zoom over to Japan to buy in person.

>>581091
Please post a pic, I wanna see

I’ll make a new thread

new thread
>>>/g/581158

>>576223
Have you tried wearing 2 sports bras?

>>576228
Lol you comedian

>>576223
I suffer from the same issue and have recently bought a bra from M&S called a "Flexifit™ Non Wired Crop Top". Honestly at first glance I thought no way would it work for my 34G UK size boobs as it has no wires, but it's basically a crop top made entirely of very elastic material so it kind of sucks everything in and flattens it down. It's comfy too. It wouldn't work for high impact activity as a boob might slip out, but it's good for day-to-day. Not sure if you can one in your country but something similar might work.

>>580937
Thank you for taking your time to reply to me. An anon from another thread suggested kinsesiology tape and I decided to go with that. In where I live it's very hot and humid in summer so I don't want to wear anything that is too thick or made from synthetic. I also have sensory issues so I want my breasts to just stick to my chest without being able to move. So yeah I'm considering to replace bras with tape

>>580940
Ooh interesting. Let me know how it goes. I tried something similar once (not with kinesiology tape, just duct tape, which was painful to remove so would not recommend) and my boobs kind of folded up weirdly (maybe they are just particularly strange shapes though). It would be a dream to not have to wear a bra and be able to wear tape instead.

>>531853
>Unless you're talking about an opioid addiction.
I'm not thankfully

As part of a mortgage application I need to get life insurance. Any history of getting help for addiction, alcoholism, chronic illness etc disqualifies me. It's funny you mentioned anxiety because I found about this from that. Red flag. I'm a risk.

>>531857
Damn, that sounds like real hell. How are addicts supposed to recover if getting help ruins their lives almost more than being an addict does? What happened to physician-patient privilege? That's plain dystopian.
Maybe you can try to self-medicate by ordering online, don't know if I'd advise it though because the medical part is one thing, but it should come along with psychological support which is almost as important.

>>506614
hey, ive been drinking regularly for about 7 years now and I'm trying to quit and sucking at it despite going to therapy idk if you want to be chat buddies or something. I'm 28 recently moved back to my home country,my moid is probably soon to be exmoid as he is currently on a 4 month long midlife crisis induced hike and I'm trying to find a new job so I can move out and not be an emotional terrorist to my mother but I think I need to get sober first. I've managed to stick to just 0,2l of spirits most nights. i haven't been on lolcow or 4chan in years.

Day One of trying to return my drinking habits to those of a normal person went well! Experienced some uncomfortable palpitations twice, but I took a hit of my prepared "medicine" bottle (a small amount of vodka in a large amount of water) and they were quelled. Can't believe I have a four day weekend and instead of drinking my face off, I'll be California sober and batch cooking to feed this malnourished yet still fat body.

Does anyone else struggle more during the summer? I notice my drinking increases substantially in the summer months versus the winter. I feel more regret about it during this time as well. In the winter months I have an easier time seeing it as “social” drinking. I’m sure I’m just lying to myself though.