/g/ - girl talk

My boyfriend has a lot of female friends and it hasn't really bothered me much, but one of them he told me was his best friend, how his mum thinks they're dating and how they're really cuddly together, and I had really big reservations about him hanging out with her 1:1 as they'd slept together just before I met him. I never asked him not to hang out with her but I did tell him it made me uncomfortable at the very early stages of our relationship just because the last time they had hung out 1:1 they had sex and had feelings for each other briefly.

I've since gotten to know her though and she's actually really lovely. She just posts a lot of nudes on social media and sleeps with a lot of guys so I was a bit intimidated at first and wrongly prejudged her. We talk all the time and I consider her a really close friend of my own.

No, I wouldn’t say he has female friends, just as I don’t really have male friends. We have opposite sex coworkers and acquaintances but these aren’t people we hangout with outside of work. We might text them lightly or things like that but it’s always professional. Really the only exception is I have one male friend who has become his friend too, and his fiancé has become my friend as well. So when we hangout we are all together.

Him having a close female friend would be a big red flag to me, because he keeps his circle very small and his close friends can be counted on his hand. I am the same way and if I was suddenly hanging out with and confiding in another man there would be an issue.

For people who are more open with their friendships, I don’t think having opposite sex friends should be an issue, but for very guarded people like my partner and I it is most definitely a red flag.

their is this woman who is one my Husbands work colleagues and by all accounts they seem to have a professional relationship,I mean their not friends or anything just good workmates
however I started noticing somethings
like she sent me a friend request on Facebook(Husband doesn't have a Facebook account but I have pictures of him on my account)
the few times I have met her she seemed nice but I felt this disdain towards her in the way would compliment always complement my husband and felt she was belittling me
>"oh your taller then I expected"
>"I didn't except [husband] wife to look how you do"

so I'm still on the fence of telling my husband to cut off contact with her

My husband doesn't really have close friends, but quite a few casual friends are female. I'm fine with it as long as they don't hit on him. I trust him not to cheat, I just want other people to respect our marriage.

When we were dating, I asked him to stop talking to two women and it wasn't a big deal because they were just on some dumb video game but it at was at a time in his life when he would spend all day playing video games so I wasn't comfortable with their behavior. Calling him Daddy, flirting, making a valentines day thing for him, nah.

Recently, a coworker of his got our of a relationship and has been making the rounds at work trying to get one of the young guys there to date her and flirting heavily. It's awkward but I don't feel threatened by it.

Basically all I want is
1. for women to not hit on him
2. if he gets hit on, shut it down

My partner doesn't have many friends at all, much less female ones, but I'd only really be bothered in 2 scenarios:

>making these new friends via social media, like following them on IG then suddenly a friendship coming out of nowhere
>if friendships were intense, especially if they only happened somewhere I could never be (like at work), or never/reluctantly included me

Basically I don't have an issue unless it would give me a reason to be suspicious. Which is saying a lot, as I used to be the most jealous person ever. Honestly if a man's gonna cheat he'll cheat, and if you have an issue because the woman is disrespectful then it's up to you to say something and see if he'll take you seriously. If not, then…

First fictional crush in a long time, she makes my heart melt

>>112007
what is this from

>>112008
Doc Ock from Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse

"not sadako" kuronuma

Moved to >>>/m/22511.

>>88773
Depends, what are you currently using now?

I also have 3b-3c hair, and live in a part of the US where it's hot/dry this summer and humid if there's precipitation. Right now I'm using a variety of Cantu Shea Butter products for washing, styling, and as leave-in, which I can get from most supermarkets. So far my hair's been holding up quite while with moisture and staying styled this summer, even if I spend a lot of time outdoors.

(Also I never get my hair cut at salons, my mom usually does it for me lmao).

>>88782
To be fair though, I wear my hair pulled back a lot or put it in plaits, so it never really gets "poofy".

>>88782
ive been using the sheamoisture manuka honey line for shampoo/conditioner, then Elasta QP mango butter leave-in conditioner and hair smoothie. this combo worked well for me for awhile but now it's not doing shit lol.

i've seen Cantu products in the store, i'll have to try some out to see if it gets any better,thanks!

i used to wear it down all the time and it looked cute, but now i look like don king's long lost daughter lmao

what are y’alls experiences with different brands of loose hair for braiding? i’m wanting to get 26 in box braids and have always bought the brands my stylist recommends, usually kanekelon

sorry if necroing

>>111879
I bought some really cheap braiding kanekalon hair off AliExpress.

Worked a treat.

>>78673
im going to fucking kermit, i knew this person like three years ago and THEY STILL HAD THOSE BROWS, JFC

i cannot STAND j* makeup or his face in general. congrats, you smeared cheeto dust around your eyes

>>109220
His brow bone and false eyelashes just cover it up too…his face and attitude irk me

UGH. I have no idea if she's been mentioned before and sorry if she has but…it's time…

Bella Thorne does her own make up for events (and movies and TV Shows apparently) because she got scabies or dermatitis from a make up artist and has been scared ever since

She goes way overboard 98% of the time…while she is a terrible actress and it's also sad to say Shake It Up was her best work (yikes.) her music is trash but I feel bad everyone is pretty mean to her online but here i am doing it too, she actually seems like a really sweet person and I would probably be her friend…but her makeup has me BOTHERED. She has an overpriced line of makeup that is a ripoff of Juvias Place and a palette for $60 that is about in the $20-25 range for Juvias Place!!

As you can see on the bottom right corner I inserted a picture where she DIDN'T go overboard…and I have to suspect she didn't do this herself…she can look so pretty with the extra effort…if she's that "scared" take some private make up lessons or watch Youtube damn.

Sick of the pity upboats

I've been a tomboy my entire life, I still like wearing dresses and stuff, but only when it's REALLY hot out. I rarely ever wear makeup and I feel like that's mostly because I hate the oily or powdery feeling it leaves behind. Also my skin is prone to acne.

I don't think it's internalized misogyny, my best friends all throughout school were more women than men. I just think a lot of us had more stereotypical masculine hobbies, like vidya and card games. Actually, my two best friends in elementary school were the popular pretty girls everyone admired in class and they came to me whenever they wanted to talk about Dragon Ball Z and Pokemon.

I always had an equal amount of male and female friends and we all got along pretty well, maybe I rarely ever had any issues with my male friends because I'm not conventionally attractive, mostly due to having PCOS. I've had at least one male friend recently assume I was a tranny at first until I posted a video of myself talking.

The only time I ever felt I wasn't "woman enough" was in the past couple years during the troon uprising (kek). Gender stereotypes suddenly started getting pushed as truth. I didn't feel like a "real" woman because I didn't make an effort with my femininity. I felt forced to try on makeup that covered up my acne scars. That wasn't me since puberty, but suddenly I felt pressured to. I have noticed now I tend to have more female friends who don't consider themselves "cis". I hate how normalized this is becoming.

>>110798
calm down femcel

>>111394
There's nothing wrong with being a tomboy, I'm so scared about what this current TRA stuffis doing to girls like yourself. I think it's also really important to know people of all different types, so that you don't think that there's something wrong with yourself for being a certain way.

I know a woman who is overall quite chunky but strong, her hair is always just messily shoved into a ponytail, she never wears makeup. But she has such a confident and outgoing personality so it's obvious that she just doesn't care about her appearance, she is always talking about work or hikes or something cool she experienced. When I met her I just expected from all this that she was gay or some kind of solitary woman going her own way. I felt like a jerk when I found out that she has a sweet husband and a girly daughter that she carefully braids the hair of. I had never met a woman like that before and so I had just put my basic expectations onto her.

>>111394
>I don't think it's internalized misogyny, my best friends all throughout school were more women than men.
It isn't internalized misogyny to simply like what you gravitate towards, it would different if you avoided "femininity" purely out of its association with women though.
Neither makes you any more or less a women. It denies the ontological nature of a woman if you have to try to be that thing.

>>111538
nothing she said was false tho

>>111223
Your dark secret, worse than bdsm, is that you want to be taken care of in bed?

I‘m really into tentacle hentai lately, even though until a few years ago I was quite repulsed by it. Unfortunately I’ve never generally been into hentai (or even anime) so I’m really having a hard time finding material that I like. But once I found something, it’s really turning me on.

Another thing I just developed recently:
Even though I’m generally not attracted to muscular men - at all - I every so often find myself fantasizing about licking some muscular man’s hairy armpit, like pic related. I don’t even think about fucking those men, it’s really just the hairy armpits that turn me on a lot.
I’ve heard about this fetish in gay men but never anyone heterosexual, much less women.

I’m really ashamed of both because one is the stereotypical edgelord fetish and the other one is just plain disgusting.
I need Jesus in my life obviously.

>>111288
If it's any consolation I'm also a woman who found herself with the armpit licking fetish, although not with muscular men.
There's this one tiny Ecuadorian guy in two of my classes whose pits I'd kill to lick and suck. Rip.

My shameful fetish is ahegao (specifically when real girls do it). Shameful because it looks fucking retarded and I know it's not comfortable or sexy to contort your face like that when you're orgasming but the heart wants what it fuckin wants I guess.

please use the new thread >>87606

>>110993
oops, your autism is showing

>>107046
Who is she?

My least favourite part of my body are my underdeveloped boobs that can't be corrected without surgery so that sucks. Seems so rare too.
Anyway, this body is droolworthy.

>>111227
learning forms takes a stupid long time to do, and gets expensive fast

>>111227
Fake nails even with just regular polish lasts stupid long. Curing it is unnecessary imo. I have a bag of 600 press ons I got from Amazon (makartt brand I think) and polish won't chip off em for two weeks cuz there's no oil like on regular nails

>>111240
I wanted to try gel so I could do heavy designs with bling/jewelry. How damaging is the nail glue if I plan on having fake nails constantly?

>>87528
ohhh i love these! the matte with this sweet illustration, it's perfect!

>>111240
I used to do this and they looked fantastic but I'm always worried this is unhygienic compared to getting a set of acrylics professionally applied, like if germs sit in between the layers of your nail/glue/the press on? More than a professional set?

I work as a substitute teacher in a private Catholic school in a major US city. Sub pay is pretty decent ($90-120 per day depending on the district) and you get to set your own hours, so I'd really recommend it. Once you get to know the schools and age groups you can strategically pick jobs based on if you want to sit there and work on your own shit all day or actually teach.

I have a BA in International Studies and East Asian Studies, and I previously had vague dreams of working for an embassy or with immigration services, but I didn't take the right steps in school and my degree alone is kinda useless. I'm realizing I really love kids in the 2nd-5th grade range and they love me, so I'm considering going back to school to become a real teacher and supplementing it with English as Second Language stuff so I can still work with refugees and immigrants (my native language is Spanish) and maybe go teach English abroad during summer breaks.

I'm kind of lost because there's just so many things I want to do. I'm also super interested in book publishing, but I have no idea how to break into it. I do freelance drawing so I might start by trying to illustrate children's books. If anyone is in any of the fields I meantioned, please advise!

>>110853
Either they're converting their currency into USD for easy comprehension (most of lolcow users are probably [North] American) or they're residents.

>>110864
I'm about to graduate in 2020 with the same degree and also feel lost with what I wanna do, so I was happy to read this. I kind of regretted not majoring in Early Childhood education for my major, but like you I think I'll just go back and get a teaching degree/license. I'm also interested in teaching English as a second language so this is a really cool post to me! Good luck with your goals anon, sorry I don't have any advice career wise lol

>>88096
Oh hey, I should update this!

So I quit the shitshow call center job back in November. Took me about two and a half months to be hired on contract for a drug screen collector position. 15/hr, 30 hours a week.
The good news is that the company that contracted me needed so much help, and I had proved myself during the first week, that they wanted me to do some clerical work and gave me my original ask of 16/hr plus full time. I only feel slightly stupid about the 16 per hour thing because I actually could have asked for as much as 18 an hour and had gotten it, but I got put on spot when asked how much I wanted to be paid. I digress, at least I didn't lose money for switching jobs.

The work is laughably simple and stress free. I mean, when I worked for the airline I expected between 60-80 calls a day all dealing with belligerent, ignorant, and nasty people who expected me to be on top of my shit and know things way above my pay grade.
Here? I maybe process about ~20-30 people a day (my supervisors think this is super impressive and helpful), and my hours are from 7am-5pm typically. It's nothing! Most of the time I'm just trying to look busy, browsing my phone, or having a nice cup of coffee. Tbh the worst thing that's happened is that sometimes the director doesn't schedule people correctly so I'll have too many people crowding in the clinic and it gets a bit messy, but I don't much care about that. The work at the call center was back to back and horrible, but the work here is intermittent and the hours fly by.
My dad mentioned that I'm happy and can tolerate this job because it's actually a real job and not a sweatshop–which I agree.

Best of all, I've been getting a lot of respect. The company paid for my work clothes plus a really expensive bomber jacket. They hauled in a new desk just for me and I'll be getting a work laptop soon.
Here's my favorite–although I haven't had it happen directly to me yet–if anyone gets mouthy during the drug screens then they are immediately disciplined by their supervisors and security is called. No fucking talkback allowed and it's strictly enforced, whereas at the call center we didn't have rights to not speak to people who wanted to argue and be shitty.
I actually have rights here. Oh, and I like my coworkers and my supervisor. I'm making a really good impression on them and they tPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I‘m a department assistant at a large global company. Being an assistant basically just means you do the shit no one else wants to do, plus you’re very dependent on other people, but I’ve started asking for and getting into projects that intersect with what I do anyways. Pay is okay, I make 4.4M JPY/year and the benefits are fantastic for Japan. Like I have proper sick leave and can work from home quite a bit, so while it’s boring I’ll stay at least until I have children and those go to school.