Have any anons had friendships where a friend wants to be a lot closer than you would like? I have a friend who I was roommates with for many years. Because I lived with her, I supported her through a lot of mental health crises and kept her company because she often felt lonely as she doesn't have a good relationship with her family. But to be honest we really don't have any interests in common. Now that I've moved elsewhere, she messages me multiple times a week to talk about random shit and she asked me if I wanted to start videocalling with her weekly. I made up an excuse and said I was too busy to chat weekly. I'm sure I could make the time if I wanted to, but we really have no interests in common. All she ever wants to talk about with me are the normie Netflix shows she's been watching, drama within her friend group, or things related to men. She also barely knows anything about my own interests because whenever I try to mention them I can see her eyes glaze over. It's almost as if it isn't her fault but that she just can't talk about anything that isn't directly related to her. It's tiring because I have to mold my personality in order to fit with hers to stimulate conversation, which is fine, but because of that I wouldn't consider her a close friend although she seems to want to be. I feel guilty because I know that she's lonely, but also whenever she messages me I can't help but sigh and feel like it's an obligation to respond because I'm really not interested in most of the stuff she has to say. >>161439
Yeah, I get along best with friends whenever I have a healthy distance between them. I don't know if it's because I have a horrible personality or something. I also find it hard to meet people I genuinely get along with. I think that some people are more independent than others and that they function best with a bit of space to be on their own. I know there are some girls who can see each other everyday and never get sick of each other, but even seeing my best friend once a week becomes a strain on both of us. Perhaps it is self-centered, but socializing and having fun shouldn't have to be a chore! Ideally we could meet people who we feel we can completely be ourselves around, but they are too few and far in between- at least in my experience.