No. 527309
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It's been 5 years together. In the past year he's really started to improve lots, and we were doing so well. But he just won't stop entirely, and there's no way for me to 100% know if he's doing it or not. He doesn't tell me until I find out, I've asked him to tell me and he says he will but then he says it's too embarrassing. I just want him to tell me when he's struggling so I can help. I just want him to tell me as soon as he screws up so we can try to fix whatever's gone wrong. He says I don't understand how hard it is for him. I'm starting to think he'll never, ever stop. I'm starting to think he's trying to wear me down so I just give in and let him watch whatever, but I know I can't do that. I want to ask him, what do I do? What am I supposed to do? I can't afford to live on my own, he owes me money too that he's working to pay back. I just don't know if I can do this forever. Every year I hope that when summer comes, we'll be okay and I won't have to worry about him seeing all the scantily clad young women in our college town. I hope that we can go to the water park together, or to the river. Maybe next year.
No. 527316
>>527309You break up with him and go live with a female roommate. He’ll still have to pay you back; if he refuses, you can take him to small claims with whatever text evidence you have of the debt. You already know he’s not gonna stop, why keep stringing yourself along like this? You deserve so much better and you can’t “fix him.”
> In the past year he's really started to improve lots, and we were doing so well.Or he’s just gotten better at hiding it from you.
No. 527574
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>>527309Hey nonna, I second what the other nonnas have said and I know it's harder than words can describe but I know you know deep down that you have to leave him - as said, find a female roommate and keep yourself safe. It's going to take a while to heal but you deserve to not fear summer rolling around each year. I wish I'd dumped my ex Nigel way sooner for that reason and years later I'm so much happier now and with a partner who is healthy and honest and doesn't do this stuff. It's not your job to fix him but it sounds like you've been endlessly considerate of him. There is no changing him, please get out of there.