/g/ - girl talk

>>113123
Also cringed about the uwu kitten part but yES. Kinky dating is exhausting.

I recently had a weirdly horny phase and ended up creating a tinder profile that was basically just me very blatantly seeking sex. Since I’m a bit of a brat I wrote a bio that was a bit provocative. The amount of guys that were like
>Oh I can dom and spank you if you want ;)
… I ended up deleting just a few hours later.

There was a tumblr (I don’t remember the name, unfortunately) that collected ‘I’m the domliest dom you’ll ever meet so pls be my sub this is an order’-messages etc and I could relate to pretty much all of them.

Also the amount of guys that think a good way to assert dominance is by just sending a dick pick (optionally with a command)…

God I’m glad I don’t have to deal with that atm

i want so badly to be involved in BDSM but i'm just scared. i'm 20, only had sex with 2 men i was in relationships with and engaged in (uninformed) bdsm with one of them. now that i'm single and living in a city for the first time over the summer i really want to get into the "community" i guess but i'm just completely uninformed and scared of the unknown.
+ i've never tried to have casual sex before due to deep rooted social anxiety etc. i dunno if i'll even like it or not
i've just always always been into BDSM since age ~11 or something (fuckt i know) and it'd be a dream to be able to do a scene
also concerned that the community is mad lifestyle oriented. i do not want BDSM to cross over into my personal life at all.
should i just make a fetlife and force myself to try?

>>114727
Doesn't hurt to give it a try. I'm also 20 and starting at BDSM now though I have a more specific situation than just dom/sub.
Be VERY attentive if you are looking for a maledom. So many guys are just looking for an easy opportunity to hit and torture women and are nasty mysoginistic fucks. But there are good ones too, of course. Not everybody wants it to be a lifestyle, all those things need to be communicated.

>>114727

Go to a munch in your area, and meet new people. And have your big girl panties on for the inevitable manipulative types there looking to take advantage of you - the ones who will compliment you for "being so mature for your age", for being "a real sub", the ones who are in a corner by themselves and who do not have obvious close friends in the scene.

There's a type of dude that crops up in BDSM bars all over the globe, and is there to be a shitty, manipulative, gaslighting "dom", and I've yet to see a scene without one. They prey on noobs and those unsure of themselves, so keep yourself safe and make friends at your local munch first and take the temp of the scene. Good luck!

>>113123
I know a lot of people are judging for the "uwu catgirl" thing but I need to get this out

I'm really into petplay and my current bf is the only one who has ever actually been into it properly too. My last bf was a little into it but was extremely dom, really wasn't good with the emotional side of the relationship and I couldn't deal with it.

pls no bully but now I have fox ears and a tail and cute collars and I'm so happy! I know it's ridiculous and a bit weeby and I guess a bit furry but goddamn I'm so happy. He's so gentle with me when I need it and our entire sex life doesn't revolve around it, sometimes a little vanilla is amazing.

But fucking hell, I'd honestly die if anyone else in my real life ever found out, we've very discreet and not one of those cringey gf-on-a-leash couples, I'd be mortified. I don't know how people do the "BDSM Community" stuff, I guess I'm just really private about that kind of stuff. More power to you if you enjoy it though!

>>115443
When I lived that lifestyle it was obviously part self esteem affirmation and drunken arousal, but I also just enjoyed the stuff that goes alongside one night stands like fake deep conversations in dark empty places and just spending unexpected moments with a stranger. I liked those first minutes of arriving in someone's room and finding that, when you thought they were one kind of person, the things that they had said otherwise. Maybe that is just more self esteem bullshit but I kind of enjoyed the competitive aspect of getting someone you find hot to admit they're interested in you before you say it. I found one night stands much more enjoyable once I learned to confidently say no when I didn't feel it, and leave immediately or kick them out if the guy wasn't respecting that.
Now I'm older I hate people that are trying to manipulate me into sex so I don't think it's something I'll do again, but it fitted into that hipster kid time in my life.

I don't do it but, unlike some anons, I can understand the reasons. I wouldn't say it's only to feel like a bad bitch or to act like men.
After all, orgasm or not, it's a form of intimacy.
I've learnt people need a lot of it. I'm coming from a loving home, but we would rarely express it verbally or physically. So I feel like maybe that's why I don't need intimacy, as long as I know I have loving people in my life and can feel their love in the way of acts etc. But observing some girls I know, they need intimacy to live. They need touch, closeness, they feel miserable without a boyfriend, when they're single they get really touchy-feely with friends, some can't even be alone in a day… So I can somehow understand it. It's just a human need that has to be satisfied. If they can't get a long-time partner, what can they do?
Maybe that's soppy, but I can imagine that some people just want to be held, even for one night

>>115520
Like any other self-medicating behavior it'll probably just make you feel worse since you'll realize it's just a simulacrum of real affection.
>>115511
Men can just lie to themselves/others that it's for muh physical pleasure easier for biological/sociological reasons. Interestingly I've noticed that casual sex doesn't really "damage" women like society would have you believe (they are usually already dysfunctional going into it) but I have seen it significantly worsen men by making them more sexist, paranoid about cheating and giving them sexual insecurities. Probably because it's easier for the average men to convince himself it's a good idea and then he'd be even more confused when it makes him feel worse due to social stereotypes. But they have to put on a show that it makes them feel empowered and then women see that facade and believe it and want that for themselves.

>>115520
I understand where you are coming from, I really do. I have posted here about how I have engaged in casual sex too and realized it wasn't that good and stopped. But this kind of intimacy we crave can't be satisfied with casual sex. It's like putting a band-aid on a broken bone.

>>114929
>>115030
this was exactly me, wasnt popular at all, the weird girl in school, then i start hooking up with random guys from tinder and i feel so special getting so much attention from guys, then they all ghost me after sex and i feel miserbale

Observe character traits and actions of "normal" people and try to include them in your behaviour. For example, format your text like a normal person instead of
like a
poem
for some reason

and use normal ways of describing things, like "spread your DNA" is not a turn of phrase that is pleasing to the ear. It's all about observing and mimicking. It takes time but eventually you'll get to a point of seeming to be like a "normal" person. Don't expect instant results. Also you should aim for other non neurotypicals, a popular Stacey is not going to have the empathy and patience required to deal with any unusual behaviour.

I hope this was
useful

Do you ramble like this irl OP because your post nearly put me to sleep

>>116819
>you're not taking the placebo right? most of us don't take them.
Can I ask why?
>complete pill noob

>>116718
Yeah, hormonal IUD's or shots. More cost up front but cheaper in the long run since you only get them once every few years. Talk to your doc about it…

I had bee taking Min-Ovral (the pill) for around 8 years and with me moving over seas I eventually had to switch to a new brand. I was absolutely terrified since I had a bad experience once with going off brand. I took the generic brand of my regular and for 10 days straight I felt as if someone was hacking away at me with a meat cleaver. It's been 4 days so far and only slight discomfort if not, barely anything. I asked the walk in for something similar and she gave me Evelyn. So far so good!!

Anyone here have pmdd and tried stopping their period with bc? Is it any different than taking the pill and stopping once a month? I want to ask my doctor about it and already made an appointment but am curious about other's experiences.

>>117056
I don't have PMDD but I took Mirvala for about 2 years. I was initially prescribed the one that has the week of placebo pills. I have extremely heavy periods that cause me to be anemic, so my main goal of taking birth control was to stop my periods somewhat.

I started off taking the placebo pills at the end of my pack (so, taking 7 days off), but I ended up taking the pills continuously instead and was prescribed the one without the placebo pills (after asking my doctor about it, which he said was OK for me to do). When I took the placebo pills, I still had a monthly period. Once I started taking the pills continuously, I got my period about once every 3 months, give or take.

However, for PMDD, I don't know if I could recommend taking the pill for that. I actually had to go off of the pill because it made my moods extremely bad. I was constantly bloated (I literally could NOT lose weight), had weird milky-smelling sweat, my occasional periods lasted for weeks (they were extremely light, but the blood was very thin and almost black), and I just felt horrible overall. I was constantly irritated and felt sad all the time.

I ended up getting a hormonal IUD which is a bit better, and my body is still getting used to it. The high(er) dosage of hormones that are typical of the pill really did not do me any favours mental health wise.

Now for my question: I had a Kyleena IUD inserted around November of last year. Ever since then, I've had serious pains in my pelvis, specifically near my tail bone (so, at the back). I can relieve the pain somewhat by massaging the spaces between my tailbone and my spine. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this any cause for concern? I don't really have any other terrible symptoms, just cramping (is it normal to still have mild cramping almost half a year later?).

>>116768
Hey anon, thanks. I'm not expecting much but I'll look into it. I was working mostly for Gotranscript as an editor but honestly, the money's not worth it so I'll try this out. If there's no shitty audio and strong foreign accents involved, I'm in.

>>116885
Nope, it's a different one, but the Texkings seems like a similar gig, though not available in my location. American one that I found is called Chatoperatorjobs.com

Sure you can find threads about all of these companies in reddit and elsewhere, no matter how strict their policies are.

>>116889
I actually tried Gotranscript myself, but I was so ridiculously slow doing it that I gave up, it took me like more than 2 hours for a 10 minute file, pathetic.

>>116891
It's really good that you gave up. The pay is insanely low for the work that you do and the editors are getting way more aggressive and unfair with ratings these days. I started way back when you could have easily climbed to the editor status in matter of days which meant better pay for presumably less work. There was a larger number of files with decent audio quality and the editors were okay most of the time. Now, it's pointless. It's difficult to maintain a good rating with editors being nitpicky and being an editor isn't that great either because it's more difficult to raise a bad rating (a lot of clients have high standards for the shit audio they give). Rev as terrible as it is at least pays a bit better and there are interesting files to choose from. I have completely stopped doing any transcription or captioning work. The crisp clear audio files are given to the AI, the potato recorded focus groups or foreign people speaking in English are now the staple of human transcribers. Sadly, there are people willing to work with such files and for such a low pay.

sorry for the vent.

Neevo is worth joining. There aren't always tasks available as they come pretty sporadically, but when it happens, one can make an extra buck. I got $244 last week and will be getting even more this week.

>>116768
Do you think it would be possible to earn at least 200 euros per month like that? I'm kind of in a tight situation but online jobs for europeans (not from UK) are scarce.

Loved the Sarah Silverman Program, it cracked me up so many times.

>>101746
I have always disliked that bitch and it was gratifying to have my instinct proven correct re: her comments on Louis CK

There are definitely a lot of unfunny women in stand up though. Whose whole thing is just ohh she's kinda hot but also burps loud and makes dick jokes. But I just don't really like bro humor regardless. The anon who said relatability in comedy matters was on point.

Side note, I recently decided to stop giving unfunny people polite laughs/chuckles and so far more women have made me genuinely laugh than men have.

>>83742
https://youtu.be/vTd0crm1rt8
Everything else itt that was posted didn't even make me chuckle once but it did make me cringe. The one I posted however? It is art (I am shocked) and it is funny (I am laughing uncontrollably hard at her)

But to be more serious: Female comedy never really existed in history and nowadays is not properly developed (yet?). Charisma in males and females seem to be entirely different in proportion too. Partly due society that's to blame both the genders and partly due biological nature. Even if men weren't shit and women weren't a little bit less shittier, most males can't really get to be an oil painting that easily but the average woman can get beautiful with a quick fix and if she worked as hard as a groomed lifting guy on a strict diet r9kroties refer as "chad" they'd be goddesses compared to chad.

I say give it a lot of time before we notice actual funny female comedians. Non-comedian funny women aka your friend that everyone would find funny? They exist in some quantities too.

Moved to >>>/m/34079.

>>115340
Add tea tree oil to your machine and let it run empty.

Wash your stuff with a few drops afterwards

I have a cat and it’s the only way to get smell out

>>115341
Mildew is very well possible but if so it’s coming from my walls not my washing machine.
Ugh… welp. Thank you.

>>115345
Thanks, I’ll try that

Anyone here into "natural" or non-toxic cleaning? I made my first vinegar spray and actually really like it, I'm using it to clean the faucets, sinks, countertops. It helps with the hard water stains on the faucets. I used 2 parts white vinegar to 1 part water and added orange essential oil. It does smell a bit vinegary but the citrus seems to mask it pretty well. I still use "toxic" or abrasive cleaners too as needed, I just like making my own cleaners or using ones with few ingredients. Bleach is a godsend as far as harsh stuff goes. Back on non-toxic, does anyone use Castile soap? I'm curious about it but wasn't sure how well it works.
I also tried a stain remover made from hydrogen peroxide, dish soap, and baking soda, and it worked pretty well on old perspiration stains! If anyone is interested I'll look for the link to the recipe I used. I just like feeling a bit more self-sustainable or environmentally friendly using stuff that's easy to manufacture.

>>115585
sage for samefag but I forgot about the word filter on toxic, making me lol

>>115345
Well it's good you wash the oil out. Tea tree oil can be toxic to pets.

"Tea tree oil contains various types of chemicals called terpenes. These are the chemicals that make the oil effective against bacteria and fungi. They are also the toxic agent. Terpenes are rapidly absorbed into the body whether taken orally or on the skin. This means topical application of concentrated oil can result in the same toxicity as accidental oral ingestion. Given the tendency of pets to groom, especially cats, the toxicity risk of topical applications is amplified."

So uh, just be careful anons out there who want to use the oil but have pets.

I'm still struggling with that myself.

But I've found that keeping a small schedule works best to prevent inevitable workload that comes from putting things off to the last minute. List at least one thing you have to do for each day of the week. After that's done you're free for the day. List the rest days too that you specifically allow yourself to take care of your mental health, doing whatever makes you feel relaxed. Personally I like to go stare at ducks to nearby pond as watching animals just do their thing is a good reminder that there's more to life than feeling sad and inadequate.

It's tough, but try to be kind to yourself. Some are slower to learn the ropes in adulthood than others and that's okay.

I'm determined to become better and better in my field (2D artist, illustrator), and hopefuly reach my dreams one day.
I may be distant, but I really do care about people and I'm just bad at expressing it.

I've been through a lot and have trouble trusting a lot of people, but it makes me a stronger person who knows how to keep herself safe and see true genuineness in others..

Despite my problems, I'm smart and well-liked. I'm pretty even if sometimes I can't stop nit-picking my face or my body. I'm a better and more healed person than what the people who still blame me and think I could never change. Someday I will do something great, I don't know what, but something.
>>115209 I feel this. I'm glad you've found genuine people, anon, and stay strong.

I'm finally getting help for bpd after years of refusing and lashing out with really toxic behaviour. It's only been a month and already I can feel everything improving, and this wouldn't be happening right now if I hadn't been disciplined enough to recognise that I need medical treatment. Sometimes I chastise myself and convince myself that I'm making it up and that I'm just damaged and worthless, but in moments of clarity like this I'm really proud of myself for taking the first steps towards improving myself. At the core, I did this because I care about myself and don't want to give up. I'm proud of me.

I have slowly managed to undo my emotional numbness towards myself and others around me over the last seven years. Though it was painful to realise I had been unpleasant to socialise with- i.e friendships remaining surface level cause I never asked or told about personal stuff- I put in effort to change myself. Feels nice.

>>115244
I don't understand the charcoal thing but it sounds bad. Please stay safe. Your problems can be solved without harming yourself

(sorry if I'm misreading the post)

>>115247
It's a suicide method.

>>115244
Killing yourself will ruin your kids life worse than leaving your partner will.
Get help,reach out to an emergency suicide prevention line now if you don't have any close friends. Then speak to your school about your home life and mental health issues to see if you can extend or resit.

Last time I cried was 2 hours ago over my granddad — who's like a father to me — possibly having to go into hospice soon. I feel like I jinxed everything somehow by asking him in December if he'd be around for my 21st birthday (which is next month) and since then he's rapidly gone downhill. I've been helping take care of him since I was 17 and it'll be the first major loss in my life.

Last time I cried was a few weeks ago, when my narc mom threatened me with law enforcement, because I didn't answer her texts as I was trying to get ready to go to work. I called her screaming to leave me alone. I went no contact a couple days after that.