/g/ - girl talk

anyone else find that skelly guys tend to prefer chubby girls or at least curvy with big boobs/butt? maybe it's just my experience but I feel like you rarely see skinny guys with skinny girls

>>204118
I’m not exclusively a skellyboy lover but damn sometimes they really hit different. I love a delicate yet masculine look

The guy I'm dating now is a little over 6 feet tall and super fucking skinny. He really wasn't my type but now I have accepted him, skinny ass and all. May you all find a lanky noodle bf too.

>>204290
i prefer the Kurt cobain hair but that’s just me

>>204372
kurt's hair was never that shitty lol

>>181866
Ravelry is a really good source. Other than that, you want double pointed and circular needles. I learned how to make a hat on circulars but eventually moved onto double points because it made the finishing of it easier. Hats are really easy and fast. Mittens are pretty easy too but they come with a thumbhole which is quite easy as well.

I go through phases on knitting, at the moment I'm doing socks in West Yorkshire Spinners Fairylights (it's a seasonal yarn, I ordered it off ebay) and they're going to be so cute!

I usually work with thicker yarn and needles since I'm from Finland and that's what I was taught to do but I'm trying to get more ambitious and try working with different weight yarn and smaller needles.

What projects do you want to sink your teeth into? I want to do a I'm a luxury few can afford-jumper from the eighties at some point etc.

I wish I had a girlfriend who knew how to knitt, I have no patience for it, but I love you all sweet ladies who do know how.

>>182365
That's sweet nonny! I hope you find someone to knit you all the things!

I knit my father-in-law socks and he's been gushing about how they are the best ones he's ever had and he's had woolen socks all his life! He might be impressed because he likes me but it still makes me happy.

I followed this video to make a shawl for my mom, now I'm using it again to make my own to match the one I made for her.

im either a theatrical romantic or soft classic, most of my answers are Ds and Es and a bit of A/B in face and hair. apparently i also have a WHR of 0.69 (32,30,43) but my BMI is like 23 and im 5'6 so it migjt change if i lose weight idk, i dress like a literal soccer mom rn kek

>>203101
that's not hourglass proportions though, that's pear. pears are way more common than hourglasses when it comes to WHRs.

Sorry for the skinnyfatness and the mess in the background but please help me figure out what kind of natural I am… Can't distinguish between N or FN.
First pic was taken from about my head height, and the second from about chest height.
I'm 163cm tall

>>204090
I think N, i dont see a lot of sharpness, width or elongation

>>204090
cute smile nona

>what gemstones do you find yourself gravitating towards, if any?
Dark blue sapphire.
>what motifs/themes do you tend to like?
I like geometric designs usually. I find overly literal representations of things (like flowers) to be corny.
>what metals do you prefer? Do you care about undertones when selecting metals?
Ideally platinum but it's pricy so I often go for sterling silver. Yellow gold is also pretty though I only wear it with certain outfits. My undertone is neutral/muted so all metals look pretty good.
>what cuts do you usually prefer?
Emerald, baguette, asscher, radiant.

>>203495
Sports clubs.

>>203495
book clubs? You gotta go out and just hang around a specific area consistently. Preferably somewhere where talking is necessary

>>174646
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>>202747
Sorry if this is newfagging, but to second what >>202869 is saying, everyone here keeps mentioning woman-only Discord servers, but no one's saying where to look for them or how to find them. Is there a lolcow Discord somewhere?

>>203544
I found the first one I joined through Ovarit. They required voice confirmation and a full interview process. Ended up joining other women's servers from members advertising in the original one (for more niche interests). Sorry, like everyone else I don't want to get doxxed or bring scrotes to women's spaces but if you do minimal searching you should be able to find some options.

I think there was a lc Discord at some point but it immediately devolved into a bunch of underage trolling and idiocy.

>>203495
That honestly sounds perfect. I don't like going out too much either, the occasional stroll around town just chatting is perfect though. Watching a movie or reading together is also really nice.

I also just have convenience friendships, but for me it's also hard because I work from home and didn't go to university.

I'm considering picking a new place in my city every week and going there - like a museum or book store. I also like fitness so I can sign up to a club maybe.

What country are you in?

>>201870
Mine stay open for way longer than they're meant to, except when it comes to helix piercings. Though helix piercings have always given me trouble, painful bumps, hard to sleep on, then close up in no time if I try to take jewelery out to relive pressure on them. I just can't keep a helix but I know pretty pretty common.

>>201883
Cartilage piercings can take up to a year to heal, yours was still very fresh

>>201876 i got my third set a couple days ago and i love them! i just have the basic studs in rn but ive been wearing simple hoops on the other two and i feel fancy af. go for it tbh if you hate it just take em out

Any tips on removing piercings? I really want to change some of my jewelry like my helix piercings and my rook but I can't for the life of me get those out! I've tried gloves so many times and all it does is hurt. i've even broken a nail once while trying to twist it off. Out of my cartilage piercings, the conch is the only one I've been able to remove successfully

>>203482
Could you go back to your piercer and ask them to do it? The only thing is they might not put the new jewellery in unless it's the grade they usually use, in case it gives you irritation or something.

>>201779
>the California cosplay scene in the mid to late 2000s was where a lot of this gross stuff started
That honestly explains so much about why these people are the way they are

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CRXIH3lI-5I/?utm_medium=copy_link

On mobile but yeah I've noticed that there is an overlap with poly "people" and autistics it's like it comes with the mental illness

>>201779
This checks out. I basically came of age & discovered my sexuality in the anime convention community while having orgies with all of my close con friends and now I don't know if I'll ever develop meaningful sexual relationships as a result.

>>138309
Not a choice? Is it 2008 again?

>>203333
are you really saying you think being gay is a choice?

>>201306
What is this pathetic shit and how was it relevant as a reply to that anon.

I'm addicted to buying coins and banknotes. There's so much variety of stuff to buy in terms of countries, time periods, varieties and errors, etc. Plus I like the feeling of owning historical items if they're old like 100+ years. I spend a HUGE chunk of my days looking at stuff on ebay. I want to block ebay but I get FOMO.

I have a really bad, mostly secret shopping addiction. I buy almost entirely designer clothing (I'm really stingy when it comes to eating out or vacations), and I spend a categorically retarded amount of money on it. I've successfully put off doing the math for a couple of years, but I finally got the courage yesterday and it's in the six figures…

Even thinking about that makes me feel weak and sweaty. I'm so fucking stupid, I could have paid for a house with that money. For someone reason I get fixated on one brand or one collection at a time, and I get autistic about getting individual pieces that I obsess over. I don't have any debt or family obligations (have been estranged since high school), and I make enough to cover my spending and not that much more.

I've tried to quit before, but it's never lasted for more than a week or so. It's hard when I'm like a magpie and need to have any shiny object that catches my attention, and films/television are filled with people wearing picturesque clothing. My bf knows about my problem, but no one else does and I'd be mortified if anyone found out I was this retarded. Idk what to do and am open to any advice.

I'm getting more and more depressed for some reason and I want to spend money to treat myself to whatever but I also promised myself I would stop buying things I won't use so I'm spending too much money on food delivery. Sometimes I think about the amount of money on things I bought when I started getting my own money and wasn't poor anymore and I get embarrassed and frustrated, I spent money on makeup I didn't even use or that weren't even my shade, the few things I used just disappeared from my room and I have no idea where I can find them anymore, I have such a hard time finding clothes my size that when I found some clothes that fit me I used to buy them and not wear them because they were either too basic or too ugly anyway, and there are so many books and video games I sold after not liking them that I got like 200 or 300€ back from that even though I sold them for very cheap last year. I'd say even if I'm doing better with spending money responsibly now it's not going to last very long.

I am doing a shopping free month, aiming for a year. I want to focus on hobbies instead of overspending on fashion. So far i have made it through a week. It kind of gives me a kick to not shop now, to look at my bank account and see that the money is still there.

>>181501
>I'm shocked this gets so many accolades.
Same, this book is being recommended EVERYWHERE. Even among (radical) feminists, who in my opinion really should know better. I understand that the rest of the book might be extremely helpful, but it's weird that it's recommended without any disclaimer. Who knows what other harmful passages may be in it? I'm not for censoring works from the past in order to not offend current sensibilities, but since it's a book for victims of trauma, I wished there was some revised version specifically for patients. They don't deserve to be directly compared to their abusers. The med professionals can keep reading the original though kek. Or IDK, maybe a new book should be written based on the valuable content from The Body Keeps The Score and modern psychology research. I don't think that a self-help book with such harmful content should be considered a go-to material for trauma victims.

>>176176
I can't relate on the stress of possibly being physically attacked in person, and I'm so sorry that you dealt / are dealing with that. I work customer service as part of my job online but sometimes I can't bare the idea of having to log in in the morning, I get stomach butterflies thinking about having to deal with bad customers. Last month I had a customer threaten to harass me and kept making new accounts just to throw insults. I've had therapy for childhood trauma but I didn't think something like my job would trigger my fear of being berated. I'm moving back home soon so I'm hoping I can take a few weeks off just to rethink what I want to do or how I'm going to handle it better.

TRIGGER WARNING
Don’t read if you’re triggered by sexual abuse
Hey Nonitas
I was constantly subjected to sexual jokes by my father (bio father as I would like to call him), he would describe his sex life in detail to me (cheated on mom) when I was a minor, told me someday I would enjoy “dick” when I told him it grosses me out, made fun my gender ever since I was able to talk by calling me camel toe, and once he fondled my boobs and said they’ve grown a lot lately.

I think I’ve avoided rape solely because I’m not his type. He’s a narc and I’ve suffered tons of emotional abuse, he would often call me ugly and said he would never date a woman like me.

I’ve always brushed it off as emotional abuse but now I think I’ve had sexual abuse as well. What do you think?

>>203131
Well he flat out grabbed your boobs and constantly made sexually charged comments at you. I'd say that's definitely sexual abuse.

Just a weird trigger I want to get off my chest.

Fucking vacuums. It's so stupid to me. I know why, and I understand why - growing up, my mom had a lot of chronic pains and issues with her back so she never did things like vacuum, she delegated that to me most of the time. So hearing the sound of a vacuum when I or my brothers weren't cleaning meant that she was awake and angry. She only ever vacuumed when she was angry.

I didn't even realize it triggered anything outside of the context of being at my parent's house until I spent the night with my friend when I was 17 and her mom vacuumed the floor above my friend's room. I can't even describe what it felt like, looking back. When I dissociate, it's like playing a VR game. Even while dissociating hard, I had to stay functional or else worse things could happen. But being in an environment that my brain perceived as "safe" - i.e., away from my mother, it's more like I stopped being able to rationalize anything. Those five minutes of vacuuming are engraved into my brain. I couldn't do anything. Luckily my friend and I had already chilled out for the evening at that point, her being on her phone and me hanging at the side of her bed looking out her window watching whatever last bit of dusk there was left. I couldn't think at all, and I was mortified that my friend would talk to me, and I wouldn't be able to talk back, or even understand what she was saying - but at the same time I couldn't even feel the fear I was experiencing. It's stupid to say, but it's like my entire existence was replaced with the sound of a vacuum upstairs for those five or so minutes. I kept trying to think and rationalize it, that I wasn't at home and this was my friend's mom, but I couldn't think. It's like I forgot language entirely. Desperately trying to cling onto some word, any word or sound, but nothing was there. Just what was around me, and that noise.

It's a ramble, but I don't know why I can't forget that. I've forgotten most all of what I experienced at the hands of my parents and still have a good relationship with them. Still very close with the friend in question, too. But that moment won't leave me, and as much as I hate how horrible my memory is, it's the one thing I want to forget. It's not even the worst I've felt due to things like dissociation or panic attacks. I don't know why it's stuPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I can’t believe I have fantasies of hate fucking a sexist cluster of pixels. FC4 was hard to finish bc of it.

>>200726
i watched stranger things just because of him. his body was great, not the dehydrated look you usually see.

>>202950
Yeah his body is exactly my type, I'm really not into overly lean guys. Muscular but with just enough fat to avoid being vascular and shredded is ideal.

>>196748
I cannot agree with this more. # #There's something about him that's so fucking smug, and I want to take control of him and give him a fucking he doesn't forget. You know he's cycling men and woman on the regular but you want to pin him down and ride him until he has the orgasm of his life and never achieves such a thing again# #

>>196748
He looks like goth Princess Diana