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No. 393378[Reply]

A thread to discuss your attachment style, attachment issues, venting, how it impacts your life, how you deal with it etc.
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No. 440642

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One of my very unpopular opinions is that people have conflated obsession and possession with love (specifically romantic love) for so much time to the point that if one party just wants to do things for themselves for once, have some alone time or just isn’t like an open book ( I mean it in the context of people pretending from others to be vulnerable with them super early in the relationship), said party suddenly is the evil one for having normal boundaries apparently.
I think it’s unnatural that couples are expected to act like siamese twins and find that thing as goals - which is why I avoid romantic relationships like the plague and I find the platonic ones more authentic.
I have been at both extremes - anxiously attached to the point of making several fanfictions in my head that my romantic interest and even friends hate me and as a result I pushed them away and bawled my eyes out for nothing in the end. Then, I became what I hated in my first love - avoidant, which is the very attachment I have to work with. On one hand, I dislike it, but on the other, it kept me sane to be fair.
And I don’t even know if I’m fully avoidant or fearful avoidant since even basic things like having a full time job, hobbies, some alone time or family time and leaving your phone aside and not responding to texts asap makes you an evil avoidant (which is what I had experienced in my last relationship).
Glad I knew something at the age of 12 that romantic relationships are a loss of identity and freedom since everyone and their momma expect that shit. I wish I wasn’t right tho, given the very few experiences I had anyway.

No. 440765

>>440593
I can't even have sexual flings, honestly, even though I wish I could. My avoidance extends to intimacy issues too. I can live without romance but it gets in the way of my friendships too.

No. 440799

>>440642
>not responding to texts asap makes you an evil avoidant

This. Also why I don't get why people label "ghosting" via text as some evil, emotionally abusive act. Like omg I'll just maybe text you later? Or not. My battery's just drained okay.

No. 440813

>>440799
I think, in a way, instant messaging made people more entitled to other people’s time. And heck, 10 to 15 years ago that stuff wasn’t expected from you. Granted, data plans were fairly limited back then and social media wasn’t as big as it is now.
Also, what is considered ghosting is insane to me - you can ghost someone by just not answering one afternoon. Calling is an option if it really is urgent, but these individuals are above that apparently for some stupid reasons like “anxiety UwU”. Fam, you weren’t anxious when you berated me and started accusing me of cheating even for not being glued to my messaging app kek.

No. 440814

>>440799
I thought ghosting was when you completely ignored someone and never talked to them again, not just being late to respond.



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No. 439792[Reply]

What are some trends, fashion choices, and outfits you hate, and why?

previous thread: >>156715
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No. 440442

>>440368
People still wear them?

No. 440464

>>440442
My mom kek

No. 440465

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The Trumpian era was the worst era for US fashion and I live by that

No. 440617

>>440465
yes, and the checkerboard thrasher hot cheetos.

No. 440653

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>>440386
are you actually retarded? you realize sizing exists, right? ana-chan adults can fit into xl/l kids clothes but those kids clothes also come in sizes for 8 year olds.



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No. 440157[Reply]

Anyone notice all the wmxf media everywhere? And it’s always the most basic looking white guys with a bipoc girl 3points above him
Like are they getting paid to make a trend? Is it to prevent incels from going on mass shootings?
It’s so cringe and creepy to be a pickme especially with embarrassing colonizer race play(shit thread)


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No. 305399[Reply]

Post and discuss all of your sexual fantasies! Don't turn this into "fetishes you're ashamed of #2" though.
Old thread: >>>/g/182352
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No. 437928

>>436442
>so much intense sexual tension and sexual symbolism between the two characters that it feels basically the same as an actual sex scene
Holy fuck I relate hard. In 1917 (WWI movie) there's a scene where the main character, a British soldier, hides in an abandoned building and discovers a young French woman and her baby. They can't communicate with words but she briefly tends to his wounds and he sings a song to her baby. The scene is quiet and lit only by a fire and the focus is on his face the whole time and it's so incredibly erotic and no one else seems to understand!!!

No. 437935

>>437928
for the curious nonas. Can anyone recommend more scenes like this?

No. 437944

>>363306
i'm the healer

i want to be a nurse tending to a wounded soldier so bad nona

No. 437952

I fantasize about my dentist. He's very attractive and asian

No. 439355

Imagine a cerebral nerdy frustrated virgin type with brown hair, white button-down shirt, and glasses, thinks he's better than plebs who like dancing and pop music because he likes philosophy and physics, thinks he's asexual to cope with unpopularity with women, and generally considers himself to be above the base urges of the common crowd.

Imagine him being sexually dominated by an attractive black-haired jock type and having him discover - to his horror - how aroused he is at being submissive to men. "I'm ashamed of how much my body wants this" is one of my top tropes and something about it happening to someone who is a) very cerebral and b) a male who thinks he's better than other males, is exceptionally tantalizing. Bonus points if he's fair skinned so you can see his face blush red as he's pressed against the floor. Extra points if his glasses are removed against his will and he's very myopic so he can't see details well and is forced to focus on the sensation. He can enjoy it but never fully as he is too self-hating to give in to it. Optionally the jock's mean girl gf can appear and just watch him be humiliated. She is of course fully clothed, maybe masturbating, enjoying watching the uppity 'smart guy' in class be reduced to a body. She won't tell anybody about it, but every time she sees him, she remembers how well he responded to being fondled by her boyfriend, and she silently feels superior to him. I don't know why I recently want to see smart incels sexually dominated but looks like I have to make my own content.



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No. 387880[Reply]

This is a thread for women who fit the UN definition of indigenous:

"Indigenous communities, peoples and nations are those which, having a historical continuity with pre-invasion and pre-colonial societies that developed on their territories, consider themselves distinct from other sectors of the societies now prevailing on those territories, or parts of them."

This includes Native Americans, Australian Aboriginals, Samoans, Maoris,Sámis, Chukchis and Palestinians among others.
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No. 392681

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>>391577
Why do only Americans have these brainworms though? Colonization happened all over the globe but there's no spicy Spaniard x native Phillipino romance novels.

No. 392684

>>392681
Nonna Americans own Hollywood and are the wealthiest, most "popular" nation on earth. Of course you hear about their brainworms more often.

No. 395364

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Mattel made the Wilma Mankiller Barbie a young, thin half African looking woman because they think a 40 years old overweight white-passing Native American isn't marketable or something. So much for body positivity.

No. 395368

>>395364
it does use the fat doll model though

No. 395461

>>395364
>So much for body positivity.
It's a company, they were never genuine about body positivity. They'll use body positivity if it makes them money and they won't if it doesn't.



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No. 440142[Reply]

On tiktok YouTube what’s with all these pretty foreign girls with the most mid or downright hard to at creepy ugly awkward moids just because he’s white .
like 5/10 at best but he’s with a 9
Is white worship that real

What’s going on. Is it just Hollywood playing up the scrotes ego(shit thread)

No. 440146

>>440142
Green card

No. 440149

Learn how to post first underage-chan.

No. 440150

I got so excited seeing this on the front page. Yumi was my fave lolcow back in the day and I thought maybe there was new milk..
Disappointed.



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No. 440045[Reply]

This is a thread for female trannies who suffer from sex/gender/anatomy dysphoria to discuss, vent and share their experiences.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)


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No. 180491[Reply]

A thread for anons who sew. Feel free to discuss anything related to sewing, ask for help and advice or show off your projects!
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No. 437746

>>437650
Are the back pockets patch pockets? If so it might be easier to remove them temporarily and then install them again once your darts are in place. Ideally I'd try to avoid having to topstitch the pocket over any darts but it's probably achievable in lighter weight fabrics. You may also find it helpful to take in the center back seam to remove some of the excess volume as well. Keep the excess fabric as seam allowance as opposed to trimming it off in this case so it's there for any future alterations. Try pinning in a few different areas and see what fits best and remember to reflect any loss in volume in the facings/waistband of the pants as well. Some of the waist volume could also be removed by gathering at the waistband. Also, I really like finishing the tips of my darts by hand (like, the final few stitches) as I find machine backstitching on such a fine point can add a little bit of bulk or potentially get chewed on by the feed dogs on the machine. They look real nice that way. Best of luck to you and grandmother nonnie!

No. 437963

Any advice for noobies that want to make their own jfashion clothing?

No. 438045

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>>437963
It would be more helpful if you described/posted pictures of what types of things you want to make nona

No. 438938

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Does anybody have any good advice on altering T shirts? I bought a machine in order to turn my band shirt hoard into baby Ts and it is so far failing miserably. I feel like a total failure, possibly because I am heavily autistic and picking up any skill seems insurmountable to me. Thanks in advance!

No. 439743

>>438938
Get yourself some ballpoint needles. They have a rounded, blunt tip compared to regular needles that will catch the lockstitch properly onto knitted fabrics like band tees. Have a look on websites like Zlibrary for some books that specifically focus on sewing with knitted fabrics. Practice doing some cropped hems to build up your confidence before moving into making a tighter fitted tee like your picrel. I don't want to overload with info but to make a tighter fit around the sleeves like picrel it might be helpful to look at books like Metric Pattern Cutting by Winifred Aldritch, as her books offer a lot of troubleshooting solutions for getting the desired fit onto garment. There's a lot to learn when it comes to sewing so don't feel discouraged. Every tedious mistake will be a lesson! Some mistakes may be made repeatedly in my experience. It used to take me hours to set up my machine and get my thread tension into a happy place when I first started out kek.



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No. 306227[Reply]

Any talk relating to swim clubs, swimming, pools, etc.

>Would you consider yourself to be an avid swimmer? What is your experience level?

>What has your experience been like in relation to swimming?
>What does your swim routine look like?
>How do you discipline yourself to stay consistent and stick to a swim routine?
>What are your favorite and least favorite strokes, styles and/or techniques?
>Has it been easy to get comfortable and make friends?
>What are some challenges you face in your swim life?
>Have you or others that you know faced misogyny/sexism during your swim journey?
>Any advice for new swimmers?
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No. 438569

where can i buy an affordable or cheap but quality wet suit? winter is coming and i want to swim still

No. 439237

I recently got back onto swimming as my main exercise after being a slug for the past 7 years, the good thing is that you never forget how to swim (just like biking) so for now I'm just swimming lengths with no real objective set in mind. Do you have any advice on how to improve stamina? I tend to get tired pretty fast since I'm going a bit too hard at the beginning of the session.

No. 439276

>>439237
Are you changing your strokes or just doing freestyle? Doing different strokes can help increase your stamina. Are you using any props, like a kickboard or flippers? Incorporating a kickboard to train legs and flippers can increase intensity for speed and power. Do you take breaks between sets? Even short rests can help.
You might need more of a regiment than just swimming laps in the pool if you want to train for stamina. Here's a short, basic workout I've done that got me back into a swimming routine:
>6 x 100 freestyle - odd numbered laps easy, even laps moderate effort. 10-30 seconds rest between sets
You can switch or add other strokes, increase the distance, or add props to give it some variety. Congrats on getting back in the pool and have fun!

No. 439316

I really enjoy swimming. I’ve always done it for fun and it’s only been since this summer that I’ve started making a concerted effort to swim laps for exercise - apparently I can swim half a mile at a leisurely pace without getting exhausted? I’m not sure how much is a good amount of laps to strive for with each session, or what strokes I should be focusing on, or what sort of stretches I should do before or after I swim, so any advice would be appreciated.

No. 439526

>>439316
Swimming half a mile is awesome! Way to go, nonnie. How long does it take you? Imo I don't think you need to swim that much every time you get in a pool. Adding a short high-intensity swim into your regimen twice a week can be helpful. It depends on your goals, really. Are you looking for endurance, speed, or overall fitness?
If I were a beginner, I would focus on freestyle for endurance, adding back and breast for strengthening other muscles. Butterfly is high intensity and difficult, so if you want that challenge, go for it. Otherwise, I think the other strokes will help your overall fitness and toning. I add a mix of crawl, back, and breast to my workouts as well as some drills with a kickboard.
As far as stretches go, pre-swim I do some torso twists, arm circles, and leg swings to warm up. Post-swim, I do more actual stretches focusing on lats, hamstrings, and quads. I'm sure there's some videos on YT out there. Also, I like to do yoga on days when I'm not in the pool. Yoga with Kassandra has a good video for swimmers. I also like her yin yoga series for deep stretching and relaxation.



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No. 48533[Reply]

Please feel free to vent or ask for advice in this thread pertaining to sexual abuse or harassment, etc



I'm looking for advice on how to build a healthy sexual relationship with my partner after my bad past. We've been married two years and he's fantastic. But my libido is very low and I have a feeling it might be tied to poor sexual relationships I'd had before. Starting at 8 years old and then on out. I'm not really bothered by the past but I think my mind is instantly associating sex with bad times, which shouldn't be the case since my husband is lovely. But my brain instantly is telling me that I dont want to do this or that its just a hassle. Often times when we begin fooling around I get stomach aches that will go away basically instantly when we stop, like he can tell I'm not in the mood so we wont continue. I never thought much of it, I always thought it was just something I ate. But today I figured out maybe it could be anxiety related.

I just want to be able to have a normal sex life with him where we can fool around and have fun, but I feel so bad for having something -wrong- with me. If anons have any advice i'd love to hear. I'm too poor for a therapist and I've scoured the internet for advice as well
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No. 437303

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I feel like i'm dealing with it well after a while minus being completely unable to love/ not be extremely cynical about all people (or to stop excessively drinking to socialize?)? My mom and friends keep telling me it'll go away " when i meet the right man" but I feel like that "right" man doesn't exist and isn't worth pursuing, i just feel like every man will only ever see my body and how they can take advantage of it

No. 437308

>>437303
I don't think this feeling will ever fully fade. At least for me, I never stopped testing people in my head. I made all these walls around me and I will only expose myself when people pass several of my made up tests in my head. I don't see myself fully trusting anyone anymore, especially men. I always have some sort of wall keeping some distance.

No. 437444

Did anyone else develop an ED due to CSA? My abuser started just after I hit puberty so I became extremely ashamed of my body becoming more 'womanly' and started starving myself to get rid of my boobs and butt. I recovered but ended up with a really shitty abusive porn addicted moid when I was 19 who was obsessed with women with huge breasts and ass, so I starved myself even more because I was so disgusted by being sexualized and didnt feel like I could compete anyway. Few years later managed to get away from him but I'm still not recovered and totally ruined my health over this. I'm so tired. I will never get over it.

No. 437886

I feel so sad. Growing up, my dad sexually abused me. Even though I didn't recognize what it was I knew that he scared me and made me nervous. Instead, I used to fantasize about male characters and celebrities being my dads. I have this celebrity who I've been a fan of as a kid. Since I've been a fan since I was young I feel like I've really had him through it all, these father figures have been my safe space because I knew they'd never hurt me. I talked to a counsellor a while ago and she said this was my coping mechanism, a way to forge a safe space with my limited resources. I got emotional a few days ago, because one of my father figures was explaining something the way a teacher would, and I wished so bad he could just take care of me.
I always used to imagine being in the universe of my favorite shows. Everyone would love me and act like my family, and I'd disclose the abuse to someone and they'd comfort me. I dreamt of this so much. I lived in my daydreams.
I also used to watch CSA awareness videos on YouTube. They'd always end with the abuser being removed from the child, and I'd long for that to happen, but since he's my dad it didn't.
I wish this didn't happen. I have very bad parental issues now. I get attached to my friends' moms (my mom didn't sexually abuse me, she's just distant, and she wouldn't believe me if I disclosed about my dad). I used to dream that I'd get a step mother to do girly mom and daughter type stuff with. I even made up this universe in my head where I had a new mom and dad. I'm scared all the time of men raping me. As a kid I clung to girls braver than me and even now I want someone to keep me safe. I can't hate my dad because he's my dad. And the truth is what happened is not objectively as bad as some stories, he didn't rape or molest me. So I feel like I'm overreacting or faking, maybe even crying over nothing. But he scares me. I don't know how I can escape him. I know even if I do, I'll miss him. That's the part I hate.

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does anyone here feel like they have a fucked up view of their own sexual orientation because of the sexual abuse you've suffered? i worry that the reason why i don't find men arousing is because i've been coerced, assaulted, molested, raped, you name it, by them in my life and since women obviously never did any of those horrible things to me, that THAT'S why i find them arousing instead. but then i hear stories about men who were raped by other men and then wonder if the reason why they like men was also because of what happened to them and they wonder if their orientation is even real, if that makes sense.



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