>>566581okay, but you’re misunderstanding what i actually took issue with. you can say “this is just my experience” all you want, but you literally said you can’t be in a relationship because you’d “always be missing something” unless you had both sexes. that’s not just a personal quirk—that’s framing bisexuality itself as inherently unsatisfying or broken. you made it about the label, and now you’re upset someone responded to that framing.
i’m also bisexual. i lean toward women, but that doesn’t change anything—i like who i like. i’ve only dated a woman, but i’ve had attraction and crushes on both sexes. so yeah, i’m bi. obviously bisexuality shows up differently in different people—i know that. i literally seek out other bisexual women with similar preferences, because we’re so vast. but i’ve never once felt like i’m “missing” something when i’m with someone i genuinely love. attraction doesn’t mean you’re owed fulfillment on all sides. the idea that being bi means you’ll always feel deprived unless you act on “both” isn’t bisexuality—that’s poor emotional regulation. if you can’t commit, that’s your issue. it’s not a trait of the orientation. and yeah, that sounds more like emotional or sexual struggles, which is
valid—but name it honestly.
you said you don’t date because you don’t want to hurt anyone. okay, fair. but saying “i would never be satisfied with just one sex” still feeds one of the most harmful stereotypes about bi people—that we’re inherently unstable, unfaithful, or incapable of commitment. and other bi people—especially those who’ve had to deal with that stigma—have every right to push back. not everything someone says about themselves is immune to critique just because it’s painful. that’s not hate. that’s accountability.