/g/ - girl talk

>>111227
learning forms takes a stupid long time to do, and gets expensive fast

>>111227
Fake nails even with just regular polish lasts stupid long. Curing it is unnecessary imo. I have a bag of 600 press ons I got from Amazon (makartt brand I think) and polish won't chip off em for two weeks cuz there's no oil like on regular nails

>>111240
I wanted to try gel so I could do heavy designs with bling/jewelry. How damaging is the nail glue if I plan on having fake nails constantly?

>>87528
ohhh i love these! the matte with this sweet illustration, it's perfect!

>>111240
I used to do this and they looked fantastic but I'm always worried this is unhygienic compared to getting a set of acrylics professionally applied, like if germs sit in between the layers of your nail/glue/the press on? More than a professional set?

I work as a substitute teacher in a private Catholic school in a major US city. Sub pay is pretty decent ($90-120 per day depending on the district) and you get to set your own hours, so I'd really recommend it. Once you get to know the schools and age groups you can strategically pick jobs based on if you want to sit there and work on your own shit all day or actually teach.

I have a BA in International Studies and East Asian Studies, and I previously had vague dreams of working for an embassy or with immigration services, but I didn't take the right steps in school and my degree alone is kinda useless. I'm realizing I really love kids in the 2nd-5th grade range and they love me, so I'm considering going back to school to become a real teacher and supplementing it with English as Second Language stuff so I can still work with refugees and immigrants (my native language is Spanish) and maybe go teach English abroad during summer breaks.

I'm kind of lost because there's just so many things I want to do. I'm also super interested in book publishing, but I have no idea how to break into it. I do freelance drawing so I might start by trying to illustrate children's books. If anyone is in any of the fields I meantioned, please advise!

>>110853
Either they're converting their currency into USD for easy comprehension (most of lolcow users are probably [North] American) or they're residents.

>>110864
I'm about to graduate in 2020 with the same degree and also feel lost with what I wanna do, so I was happy to read this. I kind of regretted not majoring in Early Childhood education for my major, but like you I think I'll just go back and get a teaching degree/license. I'm also interested in teaching English as a second language so this is a really cool post to me! Good luck with your goals anon, sorry I don't have any advice career wise lol

>>88096
Oh hey, I should update this!

So I quit the shitshow call center job back in November. Took me about two and a half months to be hired on contract for a drug screen collector position. 15/hr, 30 hours a week.
The good news is that the company that contracted me needed so much help, and I had proved myself during the first week, that they wanted me to do some clerical work and gave me my original ask of 16/hr plus full time. I only feel slightly stupid about the 16 per hour thing because I actually could have asked for as much as 18 an hour and had gotten it, but I got put on spot when asked how much I wanted to be paid. I digress, at least I didn't lose money for switching jobs.

The work is laughably simple and stress free. I mean, when I worked for the airline I expected between 60-80 calls a day all dealing with belligerent, ignorant, and nasty people who expected me to be on top of my shit and know things way above my pay grade.
Here? I maybe process about ~20-30 people a day (my supervisors think this is super impressive and helpful), and my hours are from 7am-5pm typically. It's nothing! Most of the time I'm just trying to look busy, browsing my phone, or having a nice cup of coffee. Tbh the worst thing that's happened is that sometimes the director doesn't schedule people correctly so I'll have too many people crowding in the clinic and it gets a bit messy, but I don't much care about that. The work at the call center was back to back and horrible, but the work here is intermittent and the hours fly by.
My dad mentioned that I'm happy and can tolerate this job because it's actually a real job and not a sweatshop–which I agree.

Best of all, I've been getting a lot of respect. The company paid for my work clothes plus a really expensive bomber jacket. They hauled in a new desk just for me and I'll be getting a work laptop soon.
Here's my favorite–although I haven't had it happen directly to me yet–if anyone gets mouthy during the drug screens then they are immediately disciplined by their supervisors and security is called. No fucking talkback allowed and it's strictly enforced, whereas at the call center we didn't have rights to not speak to people who wanted to argue and be shitty.
I actually have rights here. Oh, and I like my coworkers and my supervisor. I'm making a really good impression on them and they tPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I‘m a department assistant at a large global company. Being an assistant basically just means you do the shit no one else wants to do, plus you’re very dependent on other people, but I’ve started asking for and getting into projects that intersect with what I do anyways. Pay is okay, I make 4.4M JPY/year and the benefits are fantastic for Japan. Like I have proper sick leave and can work from home quite a bit, so while it’s boring I’ll stay at least until I have children and those go to school.

>>110754 is right tho.

>Yandere (ヤンデレ)
>A term for a person who is initially loving and caring to someone they like a lot until their romantic love, admiration and devotion becomes feisty and mentally destructive in nature through either overprotectiveness, violence, brutality or all three combined.

The girl you described is just straight psycho. In your story she never seemed to appear nice, loving or caring. Or anything positive for that matter.

>>110779
I probably should have specified that she was sweet and showed no signs of crazy when they were dating, but that part didn't seem necessary to mention since it's not what makes the story interesting.

>>110783
Oh don’t worry, neither of the parts makes the story interesting.

>>110791
Then why bother coming in here at all? It's almost as if you have the option of ignoring things that don't interest you…

>>110764
Lmfao sadly true! Underrated post.

>>110732
If you really feel like she should know, I would bring it up to the husband instead. Give him the chance to tell her or to explain to you that that flies in their relationship if it does.

>>110734
I love that you gave bechdel test-type exemples! I agree with the first 3 ones, the other 3 ones are like… nice things to do but not "code".

>>110734
>If another woman asks for a pad/tampon and you have one, you give it to her, even if she is your worst enemy.
I laughed IRL at this because I actually was in a situation where my worst enemy was freaking out about bleeding all over herself and I intentionally didn't give her a pad, even though I had plenty, because she was a massive bitch to me the night before. My girl code only applies to women who aren't total cunts to me.

>>110734
I usually keep a stockpile of pads and tampons with me in the off chance someone asks me for one. In uni I dedicated a whole pocket of my backpack just for menstrual products lol. (ppl at my uni would regularly hand out packets of different products: pads, tampons, liners, and while most women were usually shy about taking one I'd just take them to replenish my stash)

>>110714
as for the other stuff,
my friends and I have wildly different tastes in men, so I've never had the experience, but
>ex husbands and baby daddies are always off-limits
>other exes are acceptable if a decently long time has passed
>crushes are absolutely free game, just because someone declared liking them first doesn't mean they have any claim to them whatsoever
sounds about right. though, I'd probably wait a bit if her crush rejected her outright.

>>110732
No, especially if I don't know her. I don't know her life, her boundaries, insecurities, or relationship. Meddling like that might make more problems than solve them.

>>110746
samefag, but to add onto my third reply, I think part of girlcode is to respect the other woman's autonomy. I will not say anything if I don't know the situation.

If I knew her and knew she would absolutely want to know if her bf/husband is being shady, I'll tell.

There's a lot of factors that impact it. How big a tattoo are we talking here and where is it? How old is it? What colors are used?

The older and lighter, the easier it's gonna be. It's quite expensive and painful, most say much more painful than getting a tattoo.

>>110720
Op here, i have two, one on my finger that is small, and ones the size of my forearm practically but its a very simple line drawing, so no shading or anything. Just black ink. Hopefully it'll go well as its around 3 years old. Sucksss about the price

>>110713

I got a groupon from a highly rated place in my city to get a terrible finger tattoo that unfortunately never faded over a course of ten years I'm on my second treatment and it's starting to fade a bit…i have 2 more with my groupon (which cost $60) and after will have her assess if I need more and get an estimate again!

The first time was HELLA painful…she onl.y put ice on it for about 15 seconds and just went at it…the procedure itself really only lasted about 20 seconds and I am not exaggerating…my finger was swollen for about 4 days…no ice to leave…no numbing cream for the day

Second time she left the ice on for about a minute and again about 20 seconds to treat the tattoo! She gave me an ice pack to go and its was only swollen for a few hours after that and was tender for one day.

I highly recommend to get it done. It does hurt like hell but if it will make you feel better and you no longer want the tattoo…do it!! I put off getting it done for months because I was scared.

Black is easier to take out than color though, and depending on the ink and way it was put on.

Maybe look for groupon for a good rated place in town mine was $60 for 4 sessions for a small 2x2 inch tattoo

A couple things from personal experience. Large tattoos are fucking painful, worse than getting the tattoo, but it only takes about 1 minute for a shin size tattoo. I'm guessing the small ones you describe would take 15 seconds (but they are the longest seconds I ever lived, lol). It can take quite a few sessions to completely get it removed, but it will be less noticeable after the first. You have to wait a certain amount of weeks/months between each treatment. Black ink is easier to get out than colour. I had more skin irritation afterwards when I used numbing creams than when I went without. Just go it without if you can.

I only have one regret tattoo that i'm looking into saving up to get removed. i got it done when i was 18 and it's the only one i hate because it's dead center in the middle of my chest and i cant hide it unless i wear high collar shirts.

thankfully this was more than 10 years ago and laser removal has gotten much better. I'm hoping it will only be 2-3 sessions tops.

>>110636
My point still stands, men are begging choosers when it comes to dating, millions of men could be single but all begging for specific women whole refusing to put in effort (t.incels)

Even rich Chad's don't have as high standards as most average men or incels

I work in therapy specifically with relationships. The types of men that these guys want are completely loyal to them, need you to make your lives about them, move with them if they go somewhere else, have their kids while they see other girls, and they are controlling af
They don’t tend to see their partners as people. They want something molded to their tastes/something they can show off. You also need to not have a messy past, and come off as a pure virgin waifu. Some of the earlier posts are completely on point on how one should dress, socialize and etc because they want to show you off like a show dog. These dudes also tend to be crazy, and will harass you if you’re not exactly the way you want them to be.

It’s a great arrangement if you’re a skinny, beautiful, and extremely submissive girl.

>>109480
I live in seattle and work downtown near amazon's campus and honestly there are so few single women here, and an absolute surplus of young guys getting paid out the ass for tech work. If you're decently attractive and not a total ham beast you'd probably have luck getting a not totally unfortunate looking guy whose payed quite well.

>>109480
>>110652
I want to add this strategy isn't going to get you an uber rich harvard chad. But it will most certainly get you a decent guy who will be able to more than comfortably support you long term. I'm in that sort of relationship one of these guys. I work and get to spend whatever I make on myself. I never get asked to help with bills or rent etc. I'm not being spoiled by him but he pays for that stuff that allows me to spoil myself.

>>110652
>>110654

Second this. Nerds make the best husbands. You don’t really want uber rich chad scumbag. There is a great selection of guys who use their time to programming instead of tinder. They are hard to find and first impression might be awkward but it’s worth it.

I consider myself lucky that I find nerdy guys attractive. I’m married to one and couldn’t be happier.

>>107445
In which country did you move, anon? Also, where did you start to be skilled in your job?

>>109359
This thread is so underrated. I check this thing every day, because the ladies here have inspired me so much. I can’t wait to have an update story to post here someday.

>>109371
This felt good to read. I dropped out too, but I have not gone back yet.

>What is life like for you?
I have a salaried, all benefits paid job at a small consulting/lobbying firm. I have my own office, get to go to cool events, and get to rub elbows with politicians and business people alike.
>What are some hurdles you've had to overcome?
I struggled a lot in my teenage years. I started drinking very heavily in college and dropped out after my first year. Heavy drinking led to me being put on bunch of anti-depressants, and I went through about 2 years of in-patient stays, "suicide attempts", and became severely anorexic. It was the first time in my life where I could not imagine a future, and I really did want to die.

I still struggle with self-image and doubt myself a lot. In this industry, "looking the part" is critical, and sometimes I compare myself too much to those around me. Also, imposter syndrome…
>What is your perception on how social media is influencing womens' values and path to success?
I think social media gives girls the wrong idea of how a "strong woman" should act. The loudest voice in the room is always heard, but seldom listened to. The loud women only make it so far, just like the loud men.
- What's your office culture like?
Because it is a small office, we are pretty laid back here and have fun. Attire is business professional. If I need a day off, sick day, vacation, etc… I just ask, there's no formal process.
>What advice would you give to girls interested in your career path?
There is this idea of women not being taken seriously in the workplace. However, some of the most respected and prominent figures I have encountered ARE women. They got where they are because they broke down the common issues that affect professional women and overcame them. Learn how to dress. Speak less and listen more. No, not in a "submissive" way. Too many women make themselves an open book and overshare… When you walk into a room, introduce yourself to everyone you see. I know it's uncomfortable but this is really important, and something I have had to force myself to do. Lastly, do not compare yourself to anyone else. Use others as a tool in your belt– youPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>109431
>When you fucked up like I did, knowing that what you're currently doing would make your old self proud is a really good feeling. I hope that if you are struggling too, you find solace in knowing that no matter how deep in the hole you may feel, there is always a ladder waiting to be found.

Thank you so much for these words, sister. My gpa is shit rn and this is so inspiring, I’ll def remember them when I get sad about it.

Hi ladies, maybe you all can give me some tips for my current situation… sorry if not the best thread, and sorry if it's a bit wordy haha

Currently I'm a senior in college and an intern in a professional office environment. I feel like my (female) supervisor is being overly friendly with me and I am used to/prefer more professional relationships with my coworkers. She seems to think we are friends because she's not that much older than me and I'm the first intern she has had, I think. Today we rode together to a meeting across town and she insisted on getting lunch after. I agreed bc she was driving, she's my superior, etc. She just talked to me the whole time like we were friends, about what she did last weekend and her plans this weekend and talked about drinking, complained about dating culture, etc. Typing this out it sounds like she's trying to flirt or something, but I definitely don't think she is (I've experienced that from male coworkers in the past and am now very conscious of it haha).

Any tips on how to distance myself/let her know I'm not comfortable having a close relationship with my boss? Should I just deal with it?I feel like there's a push at a lot of companies for everyone to be closer/team based and have a more relaxed environment, which could be part of this. Honestly i'm not really a fan of that and prefer more rigid structure (team building exercises, gag)

I don't want to be rude or even say anything directly bc this internship could be instrumental in landing a good full time job after I graduate. Any advice is appreciated anons

I checked out the site for the first time the other day and seemed like a really depressing feelsposting dump to me. I don't think I'll ever visit again bc my god is it a boring, sad mess.

>>105773
>>105772
A photo of a hand? Hands are what usually give trannies away

Was the imageboard made already? Sorry for the stupid question

>>105761
>said boyfriend was from r9k and they "met" during an r9k raid of CC and she openly bragged about it on the site
It's impossible to brag about such a thing. It's openly advertising how desperate and lacking in self-respect you have to be to knowingly date a dude who goes on /r9k/. What a dumbass she is.

>>108893
Her profile on Instagram is more photoshopped than a monolingual shoot

>>109017
That’s the same person? Her face looks completely different. Shooped the nose a lot, jaw, forehead length, chin, face width, bits of the mouth, …and she photoshopped her godamn tear ducts, I will never understand why that’s a “thing” to shoop in pointy tear ducts.

>>108224
Nope I totally agree. I love her style and confidence, but I don't find her face pretty, edgy, cool or anything.

>>109019
she's likely had tons of plastic surgery in addition to using photoshop excessively

Moved to >>>/ot/381271.

>>109325
eww face pubes

>tfw i'll never wake up to this
why live

I thought Kaito was so cute in smoking

>>108590
love a man who can pull off a tiny women's t shirt

Moved to >>>/m/6604.