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No. 196817[Reply]

This thread is for women who were/are confused about their sexuality. To not derail the lesbian and bisexual thread here's a place where we can discuss our past experiences. This thread is does NOT approve of conversion therapy. Try to not be judgamental of the posters here.
Previous thread with unfortunate naming here >>196243
What past experiences or influences have confused you about your sexuality?

No. 196823

There's already a questioning thread here >>>/g/153246

No. 196824

I used to think I was straight but I figured out I was lesbian a year ago. Growing up I was sexually frustrated but had no idea how to process or express it. So I just did what was considered normal, watch hetero porn focused on the woman and masturbate. Any sexual imagery is arousing when you've just hit puberty, I think. I didn't have any interest in men sexually or otherwise until highschool, when I had a crush on a feminine guy, though it quickly died when we actually interacted. I had close female friends and had "strange" feelings about them, but I chalked it up to me being below average looking and admiring their beauty. I thought I was weird about seeing them in the change room and casual touches because I was embarrassed about my body and unused to physical touch.

In college I just picked a guy to be attracted to because I thought I should get sex over with. My friends were constantly going on about how bfs are great. I thought I'd understand it when I did it. Again I didn't care for affectionate touching even though I now put effort into my apperance, but I thought that was just because I wasn't used to being touched and would become ok with it once I knew him more. But looking back he was pornsick so he didn't do any affectionate touching/non sexual intimacy. That's probably why it took to having sex to figure it out. The first time I had sex was awkward and disgusting. Friends said that was normal you're both virgins, just keep trying you'll get it. But every time didn't get better and I just felt more disgusted and wrong after. Broke up with him, and friends and internet said he was just bad at sex and it's normal for virgins to be uncomfortable. And that I should "get a more experienced person to show me the ropes". But I just wanted to forget the disgusting feeling after sex so I vowed to just not have sex ever again. Stumbled on the comphet doc one day and strongly resonated with it. Still getting over the disgusting feeling around sex so I won't be involved with anyone for a while.

No. 196825

Oh didn't know, ty

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No. 196243[Reply]

This thread is for girls who thought were fully homosexual growing up. Most of us actually dated girls, were in the lesbian scene, and had homophobic remarks made to us, so to not derail the lesbian and bisexual thread here's a place where we can discuss our past experiences. This thread is does NOT approve of conversion therapy. Try to not be judgamental of the posters here.

>When did you realize you weren't a lesbian, as you thought?

Discuss anything pertaining to it.

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No. 196808

Aren't the experiences shared if you were a "full lesbian" in your youth, then you dated a guy.

No. 196810

Ok, yes it sounds bad since your sexuality doesn't change, but I just mean a more general thread for people who thought they were one sexuality and realized they were another (not just bi/straight women who thought they were lesbians). Anyway, I thought this thread could be interesting and it sucks to see anons just infighting because OP chose a poorly worded title.

No. 196814

I see no problem with this thread being for women who thought they were gay and got confused

No. 196818

New thread >>196817 Now shut up.

No. 196819

Get reckt.

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No. 150474[Reply]

Last thread reached the limit so here's a new one.

I confess that I've always had crushes on unobtainable people, e.g. anime characters and internet personalities, more than people I actually know. I feel like the fact they're out of reach makes them more attractive, and I kind of don't mind I'll never date them as it's fun to just daydream about them as escapism.
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No. 191048

She's still your friend anon, I bet she thinks your shyness is endearing if she even notices it at all. We're usually much harsher critics of ourselves than others. Also if she went for some scrote then she's the one missing out, males are inferior by definition and you deserve someone as into you as you are them.

No. 191241

I think him & his brother are hot, kind of weird for me though because I remember when they were kids, even though I'm younger than they are

No. 196646

I followed a woman on fucking Tiktok and other social media and I seem to have developed a crush.

Losing my mind this is so stupid. I'm considering what a great pairing we'd be because we have so much on common but she lives across the continent lmao. She's not a big creator either so she could potentially notice me and I kind of hope she does. I'm embarrassed to even think that but I need to get it out there. Pathetic, almost moid-tier behavior.

I need to attend things and meet people, damn. This has happened before but the Tiktok element makes me feel especially dumb this time.

No. 196730

this guy who makes wsb tier stock market videos on youtube, his self deprecating jokes are funny and he sounds very intelligent to me since i have no grasp on what he's talking about, something about self-destructive gambling addict side of financebros is very sexy to me, not the mf wharton wolf of ws stock broker types but the ones that dump their 401k on stocks

No. 196780

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yes i have a parasocial relationship with a dead musician that nobody listens to, what about it?

are you me. but i prefer his heroin thinness in the late 60s/early 70s

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No. 114320[Reply]

In this looks obsessed world. Especially as a woman, honest people will admit our entire worth is based on our looks by society.
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No. 195596

My teeth aren't grinding together they aren't even touching at all.. I don't know why you assume that without even seeing it? Are you even a dentist/ortho yourself?

No. 195597

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i have unusually long arms and a long neck. i feel like i either look like a giraffe or similar to those funny monkeys, see picrel. there's not much i can do about it, that's why it's pissing me off so much when i see a picture someone else took of me. when i ask my mom she says i look normal, but i just know my proportions are fucked

No. 195600

I have an “ugly” friend from college. She wasn’t even funny, a bit of an autist actually, part of why we got a long I suppose. It makes me feel at ease to be around someone who can joyously spergs about stuff. I always have a good time shooting the shit with her.
Though I could tell outside of close friends, she does have a people pleaser complex. Sometimes she’d get the treatment you get but sometimes she’s naturally well liked because people, for better or worse, let their guards down around her. It depends on how lucky you are with your environment I think.

No. 196604

I don't even care about being ok looking anymore I just want to not be ill.

No. 196624

I know quite a few, just in my class there's one who is funny and nerdy girls like her a lot, one has good fashion sense, is confident and dresses kinda edgy despite being a butterface, third one is nice and could be pretty if she tried but acts kind of autistic and doormat-y.
The third one is the only one people don't like, she legitimately either gets ignored or people are cold towards her. I can't explain it but she has severe Lillee Jean syndrome, she's not that ugly on her own but her mannerisms, facial expressions and fashion sense make her look extremely home schooled and sad. I can tell she notices how people treat her, but that just makes her more desperate to be liked, which repels people even more.

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No. 189588[Reply]

>what is cheugy?
Cheugy means something that's off-trend. This term is popularized by tik-tok, some people might use cheugy to define something that is outdated, tryhard, uncool, and tacky. According to urban dictionary, "The opposite of trendy. Stylish years ago but no longer in style. Used when someone still follows these out of date trends. This may include but not be limited to fashion, habits on social media, usage of slang, etc." and dictionary.com defines it as "a slang adjective mocking someone or something as “uncool”—they are out of touch with current trends or trying too hard to be trendy."

Even though cheugy is mostly used to descrive cringy attitudes in adults (and to tease millenials), it can also be found between the current gen z. Even the word cheugy is debatably cheugy.
Some examples of cheugy:
>Using brand logo clothes
>Being a "disney adult"
>Using items that pander too hard into a fandom like Harry Potter
>Phrases like "live laugh love" or #girlboss
>Anything that might had been cool in high school or middle school but isn't anymore

Discuss cheugy in this thread!
What are some examples you can think of? Are you a bit cheugy?
Find some random cheugy examples here: https://www.instagram.com/p/BvLQHjkFudE/
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No. 196463

I don’t really think a piercing can be considered outdated.

No. 196550

They most definitely can lol

No. 196579

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This jewelry is definitely cheugy. I think a captive bead ring might actually be dated enough to be trendy now, like a yellow smiley face ball. Channel your inner Joe Boxer.

Witchy fashion is cheugy. Not the Killstar pentagram harness stuff which is outright tacky, but the way people dressed when they were like “I’m an ACTUAL witch” with their crystals, trying to pretend they weren’t influenced by AHS Coven like literally everyone else at the time.

No. 196587

Sounds like someone has a septum piercing…

No. 197190

a few years back it seemed like everyone was wearing these jackets with a striped t shirt, light blue skinny jeans, low-top converse, and straightened blonde hair

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No. 83671[Reply]

In the vein of the engagement ring thread - post your dress inspos!

And ofc if you prefer suits feel free to share as well! Just wanted to keep the title short.
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No. 193393

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been dreamin about this paolo sebastian dress for a couple years now. love it .

No. 193549

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I love Grace Kelly's wedding dress

No. 193550

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Audrey Hepburn's whimsical wedding dress

No. 196368

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I found some Edwardian and flapper style wedding dresses that might be close to what you are looking for.

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No. 149079[Reply]

I've wanted to add more piercings to my ears for a long time but can never decide which type. I think it can look very pretty when done right but I'm wary of looking trashy and overdone. Perhaps just a second lobe piercing and a helix. Post about earrings and piercings here I guess!
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No. 196089

Nta, Ime most people who have a fair few piercings wear surgical steel rather than silver. When you have that many holes to fill it makes sense to go for steel.

No. 196090

Surgical steel can slowly tarnish over time I think? That's the only difference I'd say, looks wise, they look the absolute same imo. But honestly get titanium if you can.

Both. There are apps in the playstore that allow you to put on fake piercings. It doesn't look too realistic and the apps are usually shit but they do the job. You can also get fake piercings and ball ends and glue them on kek

No. 196278

I would definitely get fake earrings, like those cuffs or magnetic earrings. So many of them on Etsy, and they look realistic. Better than editing an image

No. 196284

Plus, they don't leave ugly holes behind. Some people's piercing holes never really close up and just look like huge open pores around their mouth and nose.

No. 196334

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Anyone know how to style a small ear? I have one piercing, want to get another lobe, and a few cartilage piercings. But not sure how to place them so it doesn't look wonky.

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No. 183298[Reply]

A thread regarding baking and cooking.

Feel free to:
>share recipes
>post what you've made
>show what you want to make in the future
>ask questions about what you're struggling with
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No. 195443

Mom suddenly bought pumpkin and sesame protein powders. I guess I can use them for shakes and pancakes but is there any other use for them?

anon i know a week passed but how did it turn out? was it edible?

No. 195445

I use them instead of flour in certain recipes, particularly sauces. Like, when I make baked beans in sauce or mushrooms in sauce, stuff like that. Any recipe that calls for a congealing agent is a candidate.

No. 195452

ayrt. It was pretty good tbh. Next time, I'll probably skimp out on the frosting since the bun was already pretty good/sweet on it's own, or make the frosting less sweet

No. 196315

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No. 196366

Whoa, I didn’t know this was an option. You’re opening up my world, anon.

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No. 192203[Reply]

The mother wound, or "mommy issues" as it's more commonly referred to, is something that's frequently attributed to men in popular culture, but it can also deeply affect women. I think it would be interesting to have a thread for women who have experienced abuse or neglect by our mothers to vent about how it affected us and share information on how to work through this trauma as an adult. Not intended to be a mommy hate thread, just a space to support each other and discuss this phenomenon.

>What was your relationship with your mom like as a child?

>What's your relationship with your mom like now?
>Have you noticed how her abuse or neglect has affected your relationships with yourself or others? If so, how?
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No. 196218

Had a dream where I was having sex with my mother (eww I know). I am female, and my relationship with my mother is not great, to say the least. In fact, I could post in this thread just like everybody else…but this dream happened, and apparently it is a sign that I have to change the unhealthy psychological attachment into a healthy one (says some research on Google).

Anybody been through this and can offer some advice? Yes, I am going through therapy and I will mention this dream to my therapist.

No. 196221

Every time I look this stuff up I notice I have a lot of the symptoms, but then I doubt myself because my relationship with my mother is currently very good. Until the age of 18, however, I feared and hated her for what felt like completely unpredictable outbursts and her dismissive attitude towards the things I actually liked. Even now she still acts kind of strange: she talks over other family members' conversations, always thinks you're talking to/including her if you're holding a conversation and she's in the room, takes literally any sort of criticism/expression of displeasure/suggestion of improvement as a personal attack, and tends to assume an unhealthy amount of personal responsibility for things around the house. Growing up, she'd never let any of the kids so much as clean up spills that we made because we were "doing it wrong", and she only trusted us to do chores she hated. She's definitely not as bad as some of the others in this thread and I can tell she cares about me in her own way, but I can't help but wonder how many of my issues stem from her and her weird behaviour.

How did you find out it was bipolar/bpd and not autism? I also have an autism diagnosis, but there are definitely days when I wonder if it's not actually a personality/mood disorder.

No. 196224

All this attention-seeking behaviour tells me that your mother has issues of her own. She probably hates/doesn't like herself and it may be from some trauma from her own childhood. Maybe her own "mother wound".

Also, remember that the formative years are the most important years of a person's life. So just because now you get along, doesn't mean that you're not still suffering from how she raised you.

No. 196283

I started exhibiting far more unstable shifts in mood the older I got, and they were often cyclic, but sometimes they'd be random. My social problems were chalked up to trauma from my family's shit as opposed to autism brain, and my therapist saw I was competent in areas a lot of autistic women are not. I had to chance psychiatrists for my separate meds and my newest psychiatrist who specializes in disrupted identity cases and mood disorders was able to pigeonhole me without even me telling her the diagnosis until the end of the session. I mean I would believe it. Sadly I'm not the functional type with a lot of good output. But I'd moved out of my mothers between diagnoses so she wasn't informed of them and had no part, and I hesitated a long time with telling either of my parents about it until I felt comfortable. She didn't want to accept me for years and only accepted me because she saw information about one of the disorders in a docu or a tv show character with it. It's so sad.

No. 197345

I have no solution for you but I wanna tell you that you're not alone. I'm straight but all of my sexual fantasies involve an older woman who looks like my mom domming me, not in a degrading way.

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No. 48533[Reply]

Please feel free to vent or ask for advice in this thread pertaining to sexual abuse or harassment, etc

I'm looking for advice on how to build a healthy sexual relationship with my partner after my bad past. We've been married two years and he's fantastic. But my libido is very low and I have a feeling it might be tied to poor sexual relationships I'd had before. Starting at 8 years old and then on out. I'm not really bothered by the past but I think my mind is instantly associating sex with bad times, which shouldn't be the case since my husband is lovely. But my brain instantly is telling me that I dont want to do this or that its just a hassle. Often times when we begin fooling around I get stomach aches that will go away basically instantly when we stop, like he can tell I'm not in the mood so we wont continue. I never thought much of it, I always thought it was just something I ate. But today I figured out maybe it could be anxiety related.

I just want to be able to have a normal sex life with him where we can fool around and have fun, but I feel so bad for having something -wrong- with me. If anons have any advice i'd love to hear. I'm too poor for a therapist and I've scoured the internet for advice as well
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No. 196029

Has anyone here done EMDR? I had my first session recently and I've been feeling weird. I get little random memories of my abuse, and I feel kind of disassociated. Today I had a panic attack because I thought my coffee place had started using smaller straws, and the unreality feeling crept up on me. It's ridiculous to type out. What do?

No. 196195

i tried it but it didn't help since i don't remember my assault well anymore. it can help if you can remember it but it will be uncomfortable to face

No. 196263

There are sloppy serial rapists out there that have been active for years that haven't beenncaught because of A), the sheer evidence backlog VS the staff, and B), a lot of them get buried under other cases or the evidence destroyed bc the rapist is a cop, politician, local asshole with connections or someone important's adult child. It's literally the norm to simply not try to catch rapists because we as a society just pretend they aren't a problem, while at the same time telling all women not to get raped, not to go out alone and to carry a weapon or learn self defense.

No. 196264

Adding another point to this, the main reason those evidence kits sit on shelves forever is because of the fear of who the rapist may end up being.

If almost every woman has had a #MeToo moment, been coerced or catcalled or otherwise involuntarily sexualized, then imagine how many men must be responsible that have otherwise spotless reputations to hide behind? "No, he would NEVER do that! He wouldn't even need to! He's a good man!", etc.

No. 196266

>It's easy to say a victim is lying or mistaken about the identity of her rapist if her kit is never processed and the rapist's DNA never gets checked.

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