/g/ - girl talk

>>91861
lol i feel similarly. i'm a slob at heart and i'll sit around all day and do fuck all if i don't make myself do otherwise, especially when i'm depressed/on drugs but even if not.

luna is a dark mirror of what could happen if i never tried to self improve and a reminder that behaving like that isn't just harmless laziness, it can get you and people you care about in deep shit. back in the day parents would make up monsters and urban legends to get kids to behave and stay safe. we have cryptid luna to remind us what happens when you give up and make lying in bed getting high your #1 hobby

the anachan thread cured my severe anorexia and I'm not even kidding so thanks for that I guess nonnies.

>>359952
love a successful recovery story, good for you nona

>>359958
Thank You Nonna!

Whenever I want to get off my ass, I ponder upon Shaynus, and get off my ass immediately.
On the other hand, this website's husbando threads normalized my unhealthy attachment to a character and this made me lose interest in 3D men. Where will this path lead me? Who knows.

>>355401
Ugh they’re all so emotionally unavailable and tend to be spoiled in my experience. Wishing you healing from this curse kek

>>355420
Huh, strange, all the aquarius men I know come from broken families and hardship. But yes, very emotionally unavailable.

>>355444
In my experience they’re very good looking but incredibly arrogant and think they’re gods gift (which turns me on too admittedly ugh) they also try to make you beg for their attention and make themselves emotionally unavailable so you’ll start pining after them because it validates their ego, gooooooddddd so annoying

But tbf I’ve gotten quite a few of them to open up and they actually became obsessed with me, which is weird because I’m a Taurus and Aquas are supposed to be my worst match but we seem to have insane sexual chemistry, terrible relationship material tho they’re so egotistical

>>355401
What's your sign?

Does anyone prefer sidereal astrology and why? Apart from it being more astronomically accurate, I've heard that it is not necessary more accurate but it focuses on a different more spiritual aspect of yourself. I will say that I relate to tropical way more while reading my sidereal report is like reading a strangers report. I dont know what to make of it.

>>359028
That's good to hear abt the anxiety. I am on a low dose of escitalopram to manage my anxiety. My psych put me on it to make sure I didn't flip out on Vyvanse. Im getting tired of the vivid nightmares every night, & lack of libido (effecting my relationship yaay). I generally enjoy the Vyvanse & it helps my executive functions. My only complaint would be feeling a bit jittery & sometimes heart racing. That being said, I have been thinking of ditching the SSRI & if my anxiety spikes on the Vyvanse alone, maybe trying a non stimulant like straterra. My psych recommended this if I couldn't tolerate the Vyvanse, but it's the SSRI that's giving me the most trouble. Anyone have experience w this?

I had a flashback few weeks ago and something just snapped in my brain. My mind went to a different place and it has not come back. I can't feel my body.

whenever im conscious, my main thought in my mind is everything that could go wrong in that moment. death, fires, earthquakes, you name it. the first thought in my mind when i hear a helicopter or large airplane is 'bombers' or something, and that there's some huge catastrophe happening. i cant be in a car without constantly thinking of how i could crash in vivid detail, of every possible move the other cars could make and how we would crash. its getting exhausting living like this and i don't know if this is just psychotic paranoia or OCD- im only just now learning about it, but i took an online test (not the most accurate i know) and i scored severe. most of my thoughts are involuntary and not pleasant, and im not sure what to do about them anymore. im in a constant state of fear

>>359582
This book is a good place to start. You will understand how thoughts work, where they come from and how to let them go. Easy to read with a nonjudgmental tone. You can overcome this nonna.

>>359627
thank you nonnie, i'll start with this. i hope you have a wonderful day today, you're very sweet.

>>359047
The Rehearsal was great, I suddenly found myself attracted to him during that show, kek. Also his age went from 30 to 40 during that time span so the gray hair seems about right. from my observations Jewish guys tend to look rough after age 35

I laughed so hard at this thread here's my contribution, I know Steve Howe was never a looker, but I know some nonas here found him cute

>>359116
anyways here's him now… someone on last.fm compared him to the crypt keeper kek and it's all I can see when I look at recent pictures of him

>>359116
>>359117
aw I was so excited I thought Steve Howe nonna was back. He’s ugly as sin but she made me laugh

>>359047
He was always ugly but now he looks like a creepy old rabbi

>>355013
Aw nona I really wish you all the best in life!

>Do you mind if I ask when you started seeing changes?
To tell the full-ish story I used to vent almost daily to friends about my depression, feeling alone and suicidal etc, they were of course as supportive as they could and it made me feel better in the moment. One of the places I'd vent in was a designated vent channel in a discord group, then one day someone even more miserable than me joined the group and she started venting there the way I had about the same kinds of things - just ramped up times ten! It made everyone else (myself included) noticably uncomfortable just how miserable they were, how no kind words truly reached them, and how they'd twist it all to be bad again and again. She and I both had legitimate reasons to complain, depression IS hard to cope with.
But it made me realize that's what I was doing too, just to a lesser degree. I could see this person wallow in self-pity and hatred and realized all it did was keeping herself and people around her miserable. Instead of trying to do literally anything she just complained and gave excuses to why she couldn't even try. It frankly made me embarrassed, both for her and for myself having done the same. Every day I had kept people worrying about me. And it felt good, and it helped me cope - but only short term and in the moment and at the expense of other's energy and happiness.

I sort of jokingly decided for myself that this woman had "taken my spot" as the most miserable person in the group from me, and that as long as she was around I wouldn't behave like her or vent about anything serious. I knew I complaiend too much, this was just an excuse to actually finally stop doing it. The first half year or so was REALLY tough. I wanted to vent and complain and break down again, but as I saw that person in there being miserable I begrudgingly stopped myself. I didn't want to end up like her! During this time my friends were delighted in seeing me get "better", since I had stopped venting like before. I wanted to tell them I was still just as depressed, that I just complained less. But it was nice knowing they were genuinely happy to see me "feel better". I think around the half year mark is when I started feeling like I didn't actually "need" to vent like before. It's like my brain finally caught on thPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I wasn’t even in a relationship but I felt like this girl loved me. I was always too chicken shit to tell her how I felt then i disappeared for a year. Over the weekend I resurfaced and she totally blanked me like I was useless and embarrassing. I’m totally blindsided and obliterated. I always thought I meant something to her and for years she has meant everything to me. Anyway I’m having a day off work tomorrow to drive to the woods and let out a primal scream. Any other ideas for my pity party? Im hoping to reach some kind of catharsis because I feel just gutted nonnies.

>>358706
Write her a letter with no intention of sending it. Like just vent and scream and cry and rage, all the things that you'd never be able to say to her. Then burn it.

>>358739
Thanks nona, I will do that.

Ugh. I hate that I'm missing my ex right now.
Towards the latter half of our relationship he started intentionally treating me poorly in hopes I would just go away, but got frustrated when I asked for us to work on our relationship instead (saying I was asking for 'too much').
It infuriates me that he was leading me on by not being upfront and breaking things off if he wanted nothing to do with me.
I just feel so lonely right now. I feel I have no one to talk to and share things with. I miss the comfort he did bring when we were good, but I have to remind myself those moments were few and far between. I feel like a burden coming to my friends with my stupid, little broken heart, which they've heard about for the better part of a year when we were together as he treated me like shit.

Just wanna vent. With the weekend coming up, I have no plans and don't want to be alone with my thoughts anymore. Everyone else is out living their lives in loving relationships and I'm missing someone who's an avoidant fuckboy. lmfao

>>358990
colorwise isn't the best place to type yourself. I am the warmest toned person to ever exist, warm undertones, warm overtones, black hair that's brown in sunlight, brown eyes that are reddish-brown in certain lighting, look terrible in silver. basically, nobody with working eyes would think I'm cool-toned in any way. but colorwise typed me as a deep winter because I'm a high contrast brunette and apparently it thinks only deep winters can have dark hair and eyes and paler skin. it's also known to classify most poc as deep winters because it thinks dark skin = high contrast.

vivaldicolor, dressika and styledna are better for digital draping although you should take them with a grain of salt because things like the lighting in a certain pic can affect the result. I'd recommend just reading this article tbh and seeing how each point mentioned applies to you. the explanations of each color analysis element are explained in a way that's easy to understand.
https://theconceptwardrobe.com/colour-analysis-comprehensive-guides/seasonal-color-analysis-which-color-season-are-you

and of course doing irl drapes and seeing which colors look best on you in different lighting is the best way to figure out your season

Nonnies Im not about to say that online colour quizes aren't one of the most important inventions of the modern age, but please do manually check your tones by seeing what colour reflects off tinfoil in different lighting, as this will be the primary colour of light reflected back by your body,
- which is what ultimately dictates how your unique tone looks beside other colours in the same lighting.

Putting a layer of differently coloured make up, if opaque enough, will change your tone as this now becomes the primary light reflected back to the eye, obscuring your natural tone. Obvious, but do factor that in and do makeup after clothes if you're a Stacy. I'm not so brave.
ideally aim for the lighting of the setting you will be in, choose complimentary colours to the exact colour shown on the tinfoil test. Check veins, eyes without blinding yourself, even get creative like what are your bones and nails most complementary colours?

>>359031
I don't think tinfoil has anything to do with color analysis. This is confusing.

Just drape different colours of yourself. I've always thought I was warm bc I'm half asian, yet orange is easily my worst colour, I look ass in warm reds and yellows too, and gold is looks horrible on me. So that excludes autumn and spring. I also look way better in clear colours. Black is amazing on me, but a charcoal grey is not the best. Same with white, stark white is much beter than an off white. So that excludes summer and leaves me with winter. The to narrow it down further, I look way better in darker colours than lighter, so deep winter it is.

No test will be as accurate as looking at yourself in differnt colours. Just hold differnt coloured clothes up to your face when you go shopping.

>>349147
Im sorry but this post makes me crack up every time I scroll by it

>>358901
sort of agree but they are the most comfortable type plus they look really good for alt fits

>>358931
>they are the most comfortable type
That's a fair point, I never thought about it like that.

>>358867
These outfits are cute as fuck but they only work if you’re skinny and built like a toothbrush imo. If you’re curvy or heavy in any way adding these layers and thick fabrics and pleated skirts makes you look massive. If you’re older you can also look quite frumpy.

>>358867
I have a longer version of this skirt, how can I style it? I have it in brown and beige, should I go with a thin knitwear top and boots? I suck at styling skirts so I haven't been able to wear them, if it matters I'm skinny and have an inverted triangle body shape.

new thread

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>>301505
Thanks nonnie. I'm going to watch that mini-series now.
and you are completely right. there is a big oncoming trend of white bride dresses with floral accents, like Marie Antoinette or other historical inspired clothing. Picrel reminds me of 1900s garden party dresses. Looks more modern with the hair down but just imagine her with Gibson Girl hair or something!

>>302117
I hope you like the show nonna! I loved the fashion they showcased in it, it was surprisingly very good for a lifetime series.

Yeah, the Gibson Girll hair would totally add the 1900s flair to the dress and I can definitely see what you mean.

I really hope these kinds of dresses can make a comeback. Some of these old trends feel very timeless.

I have been lurking on bridal shops websites(just for fun I'm not engaged yet) and while a lot of the dresses are beautiful it's not something I can imagine myself wearing. I think it all comes down to that I actually don't like wearing white and I think it washes out all the details of the dress. So I started looking at the bridemaids section to see if I could find some more colourful dresses but bridemaids dresses are so simple and lack details. Stores dedicated to ball gowns just seems so rare and I haven't found any close to me. I know it will be a while before I get married but I hope that colourful dresses becomes fashionable until then

>>302502
> Some of these old trends feel very timeless.
You seem very knowledgeable in vintage fashions. I have a request for image dump of vintage wedding dresses. Here's one with a beautiful blusher veil. I wish these types of veils will come back in style but people are really into cathedral length now.

Resurrecting this thread to say me and my fiancé are planning on eloping in a foreign country within a year or two. We might have a wedding celebration with family and friends at a later date, but we want to have a stress-free intimate and romantic wedding for just the two of us. We haven't even told anyone we have been engaged for 6 months. We are also thinking of me wearing a black dress with a long black veil, and him in a white suit, bc he looks better in light colours and I in dark. Plus its different and fun. And I get to embellish him with lipstick kisses on the collar.

If we have a wedding celebration later, I would love to dress in my country's national attire and have a country side wedding with historical traditions, locally sourced foods and lots of outdoor games for everyone to play.

>>358199
>>358207
Thanks for this nonas. I was really worried about creating some kind of self-fulfilling prophecy and that if I was being overly paranoid I might never end up letting anyone in. Sometimes it feels like there’s a pressure to let someone know within the first few weeks of knowing them whether you’d be willing to date them or not and that’s not enough time for me to tell if I can trust someone. I guess I’ll just continue trusting my gut and hopefully it’ll pay off.

>>358151
Beta male detected

>>358237
incel detected

My bf (small ldr, see eachother weekly currently but less currently) has too much on professionally to be able to message like we normally would both in terms of frequency and affection, we're both in the shit mentally right now, so I'm trying to give myself as many distractions as possible, or else I ruminate on it until I'm walking around on the verge of tears all day including at work. I just can't sit with myself, and it makes me act crazy toward him too, so I'm trying to give him space. I started a new creative project, am reading, playing vidya etc, it's a little helpful but I'm still struggling, my rejection sensitivity is kicking the fuck off. It's been almost 2 months like this. Any advice on how to cope, or has anyone been in a similar position?

>>358345
samefag *weekly usually but less currently

>>357297
Samefag I think part of the reason why is because I don’t have a big fat ass. The type of men I like all seem to be into extroverted curvaceous thick women and I’m a skinny autist with no friends and niche interests. I have a weird, harsh and off putting vibe to me which men who are either alt or leftist seem to love, but the guys I’m into hate it. Also don’t even talk to me about fucking bisexual men because they can’t get enough of me but I want NOTHING to do with them.

>>357223
>We know most Americans are obese and ugly
Guess how I can tell you're a limey?

How do I attract men and women who look like this without getting a septum piercing

Every man I have ever shown interest in (out of testing the waters and not genuine attraction) has always, at some point or another, especially early on, within hours or weeks of knowing him, told me I'm "not his type," followed by backhanded compliment, "but you're cute too." I learned pretty quickly men, regardless of the type they are, engage in this form of negging to feel like they're holding the cards. I hope none of the women here feel rejected by "their type."

>>357359
nta, but it's a shared opinion of the rest of the world, obesechan(cross-thread weight sperging)