/g/ - girl talk

Kind of an odd question but what semi-current clothing style does this type of room fit with. I ask because I don’t have a certain clothing style that I prefer but I’m absolutely in love with interiors like these and think they capture my personality well.

>>288496
So do you mean the sculptural style, texture or colours?

I feel like clothing from Aje might appeal to you if you like the sculptural side. Pic is some of their pieces so if the shapes appeal to you then check out the website.

They are a little expensive but good quality and maintain a classic 'art - gallery' semi-stylish curator look.

>>288515 new thread

>>288496
I think anything classic and natural would fit well. Slick feminine black suit, a soft flowing white dress etc

I'm grateful for hyperfixations/the ability to hyperfixate. Sometimes when I'm in a depressive slump and everything seems meaningless and I hate myself, I just tell myself "Well I'll just keep existing if only so I can read more about 'x' interest" and it works lol. The amount of serotonin and adrenaline I get when new information is released is insane. I don't have many things in my life to be proud of. I don't have like, any hobbies or accomplishments or many friends to talk to on a whim. Sometimes I feel like my life is nothing, but I've had some interests for years and it feels comforting to know that probably no matter what I'm always going to have an interest in those things and that well, at least I know a lot about something even if it's completely arbitrary and pointless to most people (and even creepy), but it's something unique to me that sets me apart. I'm happy my brain does this. It's almost like being in a relationship or a friendship where I know I can always turn to researching my interests when I'm bored or need to snap out of a slump. When I'm deep into something, I feel like I only exist to consume information and that nothing else matters (and it's a great feeling especially if I'm depressed). I do wish my brain picked something a little nicer to fixate on, but this is the gratitude thread so I won't go into that.

I am grateful for having a day off today. I feel like I really needed it.

Im grateful for music. I’ve been listening more to Ryuichi Sakamoto and ambient music albums, and I’ve found it helps pass the time in a relaxing manner.

I am extremely grateful that I can barely work out and look good. I stg I did a week of ab exercises and stationary bike 15 mins and my stomach and legs look toned already. I'm also doing as many push-ups as I safely can which is only 3 sets of 3 but that visible progress is a little bit slower going. I'm grateful for my good health and intuitive, healthy eating habits.

I’m grateful for my dad. I did some researching on 9/11 as I do every year and paid my respects to one of my dad’s friends, who died on the 93rd floor of the North Tower. He was killed instantly since the plane hit right there. His daughter, 1 year old at that time, likely does not remember him at all and it made me realize that I should be grateful to even have my father be alive. All the times we’ve fought or I’ve taken his presence in my life for granted… There are so many children who have lost their dads and I am so lucky to have mine in my life. With this in mind I really want to change our relationship for the better and be a better daughter and family member. I am sorry, dad, and I wish I came to this realization sooner. I hope I can fix our relationship and make you happy the same way [my younger sister] does. I love you.

>What decades and subcultures of the past are you interested in?
Late 60s and 70s

>How did you get into collecting vintage?
My mum was a teen/early 20s adult in the 1970s and still has a lot of clothes from that era. Our country was very prosperous back then and is a turbo shithole now so it's also a bit of a nostalgia factor for both of us, we started bonding over it and it's been my obsession ever since. I like it because it doesn't look too young or too matronly for a person my age.

>Do you go for authentic vintage or vintage inspired clothing?
Vintage inspired mostly, where I live now you can't wear full on 70s clothing without looking like a clown, but I incorporate actual vintage (my mum's hand me downs) into my outfits sometimes. It's difficult though, the cuts were very different then so it can look weird if not styled well.

>Who are the style icons you like to refer to when putting together a look?
My mum and Biba catalogues.

>>222644
ot but where are you from?

So recently on my ig recs I keep seeing pages with girls who dress in Victorian style clothing and devote their lifestyle to that aesthetic. It’s kind of nice. However it’s not my fave era aesthetically.

I was wondering if anyone here knows any igs with girls who dress mostly in 60s/70s type outfits and whose pages generally revolve around that aesthetic? I know that the toned down 60s aesthetic is very popular among influencers like Alexa Chung, but I’d really love to find more pages with women who try to make it look more authentic. I just love it.

>>288255
I hope these accounts fit what you were asking for!!
Rosenoraana
Imarriedamillenial
Vintage___visions
Aww.Sam
Keikolynn
60s70sshania
Electricleona
Emmarosakatharina

>>288259
Aw thank you so much!

>>287415
Understable, I would ghost shit out of somebody who would troon out or support tranny shit in any way.

I don’t want to go into detail about my ex best friend and how we split apart because I’ve happily moved past and don’t want to reopen old wounds. A while ago i did check on her. She’s nonbinary now and goes by he/they pronouns and I’ve peaked a bit. A part of me wonders if we never split would she still have identified this way? If she did, would I have stuck around?

This is a safe space to say it out loud I guess. I miss it. I don’t know if I miss her, but I miss what we had. One time she gave me a photo of us covered in heart stickers and I cried thinking about how much love and care she must have had placing every little sticker on the picture. I want that again but I don’t know how to be vulnerable with someone like that again.

She kept complaining she didn't have anyone, so I constantly felt bad about it and always took whatever she said or did to me. I introduced her to more people, assuming she would get better, she didn't.
She kept lying to me, she kept hiding stuff from me, she kept dismissing how badly it hurt me, and any space I asked for was met with agressiveness.
Now I regret ever introducing her to my friends, she's turned a lot of them agaisnt me, I feel so betrayed, so hurt. I don't think breaking up with a partner would hurt like this. I miss her so much, we had so much plans, we spent a lot of good times together. I feel so lonely.
It was the first time I experienced a somewhat healthy girls friendship, and it ended so bad just because I couldn't stand her making me cry all the time.
I don't think I will ever have the trust again to have a friend like that, I'm scared this is just gonna keep repeating all the time.

we met in my junior year in high school, in an art class. we bonded over our fujo interests and general otaku-lite bullshit. she was in a grade lower than i was, so when i graduated i didn't see her for a while. we reconnected at our local college a couple of years later and things were pretty good.

but then some shit happened and i was in a pretty bad place for a while over family stuff–ended up a NEET for a few years, with extreme anxiety and depression and all that good stuff–and while i wasted away in my room, she was around to play games with and to talk. sometimes we'd sit on the phone for hours talking fandom or just sitting in the company of each other while we did our own thing.

the thing about those calls with her, though, was she only ever really called me when she was going through something. she came to me when she wanted a distraction from her problems, and i was more than happy to oblige since i was pretty alone for much of my day to day life and she was my best friend. looking back, it really wore me out, playing the feel-good friend when i was so miserable myself, but i managed somehow. eventually, i would get involved with a few of her friends through voice chat in a game we all played together. you know, trying to get along with people. even joined their clan so it was easier to communicate. but then she started acting jealous. okay, i'll just stop talking to them as much. or at all. you know what, i'll just play offline so i don't get in anyone's way. and then–oh, your family is doing that thing again where they upset you? let me sit on the phone for two hours while i talk you through it. your job sucks and you need to vent? sure, i have nothing but time even though you didn't text ahead first and i for once have stuff i need to do.

years go by with this constant on and off of her needing me and not. not really giving a shit about me or my problems or even really bothering to listen to anything outside of the words of encouragement for herself. eventually, my family stuff changed around a little and i started working again last year. i moved out to a shitty little apartment of my own and work started taking up my time. i went no-contact for a while because i'm busy and i'm too physically exhausted to deal with another emotional tirade of neediness. we texted on and off, but by this point, we hadn't talked on the phone for some time. then she called me in the middle of work–who the fuckPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

My best friend since 5th grade totally ghosted me. She moved out to California to join the navy and we’d talk on the phone for the first 6 months she was there and then one day my texts aren’t getting replies at all. I go on social media and she blocked me on everything. I found out a few months after this from another friend that she apparently had a crush on me for years and that she probably just wanted to move on from me. I’m fucking blind sided because I’m actually gay too and I would have dated her if she’d fucking told me to my face instead of being vague, never confessing, and then blocking me on everything when she moved away. She was one of my favorite people in the world and I don’t get why she didn’t just tell me to my face that she liked me in a romantic way. Jfc

>>287650
I have misophonia and the biggest thing that worked for me are loop earplugs. Granted you’ll likely have to give some sort of an explanation to family members about why you’re wearing them but they’re designed to muffle background noises without totally blocking out sound. In my case I find that they dull a lot of “gross” noises.

Finally blocked the bpd soapbox guy on TikTok who preaches that bpd people only get upset in direct proportion to abuse… Bro, then it wouldn't be a disorder??? But sure, I guess the bpd "friend" who threatened to kill himself and stalked me for a year because I didn't want to date him after he SA'd me when I was blacked out because I already rejected him, was actually the real victim all along! Jesus. I showed signs of bpd (undiagnosed) before dealing with my childhood trauma and I fully admit being an irrational psycho. Bpd people who lack self awareness scare the shit out of me, but men especially.

I have what seems to be severe PMDD and every month it feels like I'm turning into a fucking depressed werewolf and holyfuckingshit i am annoying the fuck out of myself and my husband because i have literally been crying for a week this time and it's making everything worse. Trying to stay consistent with exercise but fuck. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I wanna rip everyone's face off and I work sales. This shit sucks

Anyone have absolutely no sense of self or know what they look like? I feel like I have no real identity, hobbies nothing. Until other people comment on my body I genuinely don't perceive it. Last year I became really thin and while I realized my clothes didn't fit anymore I didn't see how emaciated I've gotten until other people started asking if I'm sick.

>>288278
yes. no idea what it stems from or what's wrong with me other than what is probably very low self esteem though

>>287586
WHAT!? The only hair color, in my opinion, that can't pull off that look is algae green. I bet you'd look bad ass as Hell! Especially with glitter, it'd be a blend of cute and rock. Oh, and if you'd curl your hair it'd be CHEF'S KISS

i got this milk hoodie secondhand and im trying to find the matching hat bc its just too cute

>>288169
sorry but I have to say it.. the fabric is awfully cut, the mish mash of pieces of cats isn't cute. That hoodie has literally only 1 full cat and it's towards the side (sleeves excluded). I hope the one you got has better pattern placement.

>>288187
But the one on the right looks like it's peeking out of anons pocket, anon.

any recommendations where i can get some pants like picrel? these are from swankiss but I’d love to have more options. cute, girly, and casual. i hate jeans and plain pants, but i don’t just want skirts and shorts in my wardrobe either.

>>279899
Just hope they can stay afloat, those fucking sausages are too good

>>197533
I'm trying this out tonight, I'll let you all know how it goes

recommending sauce Stache on YT's recipes, they are very good and he aims at making everything high quality and extremely affordable (takes some prep to order or find certain ingredients if you're attempting more complicated meat analogues)

>>280768
Update: It was fine. More prep than I'd like to do tbh. Maybe next time I'll freeze a lot of tofu at once to cut down on prep time.
I also need to find a better context for it than the awful stir fry I made

I'm trying to go vegetarian while also losing weight and restricting calories to between 1,000-1,500 a day, is there any low calorie vegetarian or vegan recipes that have a lot of vitamins and nutrients in them? or does any nona have some healthy stuff I can add to other meals to get more nutritional value from them - such as adding spirulina powder to smoothies or something similar?

>>285992
About unashamedly liking "femboys" and """queer""" moids. Since it was deleted it was probably a troon.

Men with a mature and slightly sarcastic voice, with perfect pronunciation. Not too deep, not too high pitched, just a voice with a nice inflexion. Extra points if he has a good laugh. I've noticed only smart men have these voices, it's all about the tone. A big flaw in their character is easily spotted through someone's voice and verbal expression. I love some voice actors work for this reason.

>>287091
do you have examples of this? all the men with sarcastic voices I can think of just sound arrogant and annoying kek

I have a thing for nerdy and preppy guys, preferably on the submissive side. By "nerdy" I don't mean the autistic vidya gamer type, but rather someone who's book smart and well put together. Huge bonus points if they're chivalrous, makes me want to rip their clothes right off mhhhhm.

Anxious introspective guys. I feel like this is pretty weird but I just fucking love hearing them talk out their thought process wrt social situations and interaction. I think it's because I'm also quite anxious and introspective and I relate a lot to them. When I hear them go like
>I just didn't know what to do in [mundane/awkward situation] because I didn't want so-and-so to think I was an asshole but I also didn't want them to think I was agreeing with everything they said to get them to like me but I wasn't sure if they liked me already so I didn't know if I could joke around with them or…
So on and so forth. I love hearing them say shit like that. In my brain it's like… oh they're capable of thought! And minding other people's moods and opinions of them is important to them! I kind of fall in love on the spot.

>>288036
Pls nona, what will it be for me career&education-wise in half a year?

>>288122
NAYRT, I don't know about your finances anon, but no job is worth be miserable at work.
I feel that you need a lot of time for yourself and to reconnect with the people you love, which is what matters more than everything.

I think it's a great time to start new things and you may have thinked a lot about some projects/travel/meeting someone. You have the strenght to fight on.
Wish you luck whatever you decide to do.

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>>288069
will reply to you all in the new thread!

I know it's Twitter, but I saw yet another big tweet saying porn addiction is not real and just a right wing myth, and it makes me want to scream. It's true that everything can be addictive (sugar, video games, phones, etc.) but I don't understand why people are so brainwashed that they don't see that getting behaviorally addicted to watching what is usually the result of human trafficking (the vast majority of the time), to just be a non-issue or a matter of "moderation" (normally I would agree to be moderate with habit-forming things, as someone who is on a diet, but not rape on tape). And I see the argument that it's also a myth to stop people from "exploring their sexuality" - how? My issues with sexual stuff started as a teenager and gawking at images of sex didn't help me "explore", it made me more confused about what I liked, looking at porn isn't exploration, especially if you're sitting at home doing it and not trying to date people. It's so frustrating how brainwashed people are. I'm not even anti-sex or anti-erotica but the difference between that and the shit on Pornhub is like night and day.

>>287755
>And I see the argument that it's also a myth to stop people from "exploring their sexuality" - how?
Troon propaganda and pro-porn/kink propaganda go hand-in-hand, as well as pro-MAP propaganda (curious…). I've literally seen loli-addicted trannies claim that hentai addiction is a good thing because it helps them figure out their gender identity. Most porn defenders think like this, maybe not with respect to pedo shit specifically, but with porn in general. They also think the women featured in real porn are consenting to being treated like trash and that becoming like that is a result of their own thoughts and not of the endless factors that influence women to sell their bodies for money and the pleasure of males in a misogynistic society.
The reality is that becoming a porn addict, at least as a woman, puts you at a greater risk of contracting STDs, damaging your body, or being sexually and physically abused, and probably more.

>>287768
I think the OP of the tweet was a man or a TIF pretending to be a man, but telling someone to watch porn to "explore" makes no sense because (pretending we are in an alternative universe where porn is harmless) what can be appealing to look at is different from what might feel good with your body. But people are just using porn as a replacement for actual exploration with other people they met organically.

I don't think it's inherently pro-MAP/paraphilia, but you might be onto something; I watched a Youtube video where an anonymous "ex-zoophile" talked about how he was groomed into bestiality by having someone encourage him to watch it (since it's not illegal to view like CP is), and he thought he was one too because the stimulus made his body respond (something I've read from people with OCD). Porn is very stimulating visually, even if it's something you aren't into. I had (past-tense) a gay friend who was so addicted and got bored with gay porn, that he started watching transvestite and even straight porn, even though he didn't like women, it fed a feedback loop of sexual imagery that excited him physically but not mentally.

>>287779
Confession : I followed a meme page during an era of Covid where Instagram didnt care about taking posts down and there were a bunch of meme pages who’d post fucked up shit, anyways one posted a video of a lady bent down having sex with a dog it turned me on but obviously I unfollowed them and felt so ashamed. She was moaning and everything like one might in an actual regular video.

>>219524
This is great nonnie. What a positive development!