/g/ - girl talk

>>176165
i'm 24 and i still wear animal beanies and shit in public lmao (i'm not a weeb or anything). you seriously need therapy as someone else suggested. where do you live?

>>176580
It's also "natural" for women to move on from her previous partner once there's a bigger chad avaliable, but moids wouldn't want to accept it. We're a little more evolved than other animals and we take different factors into consideration while forming couples

>>176580
Claiming men are destined to be shallow forever is not an argument on their behalf. Just makes them less appealing than they already are.

>>176165
please surround yourself with better people, you're overly self-conscious and i have a feeling it's because of your friend group or shit your parents have drilled into your head.

Is this how Americans think?
Never heard of "The Wall" before coming here, maybe from redpill incels on Reddit at best.
This whole thread is either bait or you all need mental assessment, maybe a padded cell. "Trauma of aging", lol.

I don't know what else to say, I'd feel bad for you but I'm over 25 and hearing how poorly people like you think of women my age makes me think you kinda deserve it and bring it on yourself.
Better kill yourself as soon as you turn 25, you don't want to end up an old hag now!

I'm currently living in a really abusive household to the point where everyone knows I might harm myself yet everyone ignores me. I'm a sheltered 22yo with no real world experience. I was raised being highly dependent on my parents and belittled by them and my brother, to the point I now feel uncapable of achieving things on my own with how insecure I am. In contrast, my brother who is 3 years older than me had his college and driver license all paid by my parents, he also just married this girl within less than a year of knowing each other and people close to him told me she only rushed him because she wants to live abroad with him (all paid and supported by my parents and he is currently receiving a big allowance while having no job and doing absolutely nothing with his degree or helping out my parents). My parents are super religious and maybe thats another reason they got married so fast. I can't stand the fact that my brother is everything my parents say they'd hate in a child and still give him better opportunities and protect him. In moments of a lot of resentment I was bitter enough to even snitch about him and his wife smoking pot in our house (which idgaf really), but i knew they'd absolutely freak out and yet they refuse to believe me and they just say I'm just envious of them (how would I not be). Since I got out of high school the only thing I've done is study for this hard af exam to get in the university of my dreams (because my parents made it clear they'd not pay for my college/uni and free uni is really hard to be accepted in my country). Fast forward 4 years, I have no mental stability to do it anymore. I've failed the 4 times even though it does take a lot to pass, I simply gave up now. I'm scared of the years passing and I'm stuck at my parents house forever. I know a lot of people dont grow up with their parents guiding them through life and I should just do whatever it takes, but I just simply dont know where to start. I'd appreciate it so much if anyone has any advice on how I can better my situation. I have no work experience or degree and I feel so stupid. What would you do in my shoes? Where can I begin? I want a job and to move out… If anyone knows how I can make money online (I'd literally do anything) until I can get a job when the pandemic is over, please.

Also, please let me know if my resentment towards my family is immature. I really can't tell if I'm beinPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>176447
anon it depends on what you want to go to college for and what other options you have. is it a career that will pay off? is a major necessary? are there jobs available for fresh graduates? do you only want this one major? do other colleges not offer loans? can you learn anything online to help you get started?

you also have to think about what jobs you could get once the pandemic is over and about your cost of living in this area. do some calculations to know how much you would need per month if you were to move out and see if minimum wage or whatever wage is the average for your job field would be enough or if you might need to save first and have roommates.

my advice would be to focus on your career so you can leave their house and start to live for yourself without all this added pressure and drama. just like you said: you ARE capable of it, even if it seems kinda impossible right now, you need to leave these past failures behind and keep trying! 24 is very young and you could have an entirely different life, your own place and better mental health in a few years. i know it seems like you wasted too much time but there is still a lot of it anon, you just stagnated a bit, it happens to a lot of people.

also can you get into therapy at all? by the way you're describing things it seems like it would help a lot.

>>176447
Hey anon, I'm from a pretty similar family background. It really sucks to be the forgotten child, regardless of how well-off your family is its all relative. Your resentment is completely founded, they seem like they aren't good parents to you especially if they've affected your mental health. My older sister got all the exact privileges you listed in your post completely free. They harassed me so much and made me feel so worthless I dropped out of high school 4 months before graduating, didn't have a job and had no future at university in sight. They harassed me for another few months and I couldn't take it so moved out, got a job and worked full-time for 2 years and used the money to go to a cheap-ish university in my country through an alternate entry program whilst working on the side. Just know it is still possible to go to uni and have a future if that is your dream, not all hope is lost. I know you said you're sheltered, but there isn't really many good ways to comfortably "make money online" online unless you're a skilled professional/consultant or are willing to become an OnlyFans shill (absolutely don't do this especially if you've got unresolved mental health issues, trust me when I say you will regret it down the road). If you've never had a job before you'll absolutely need some sort of face-to-face job on your resume if you want to get anywhere. I know it sucks and is daunting but that's the reality for the rest of us and a lot of sheltered kids do struggle to cope at first but it gets better, trust me. Best of luck dealing with your situation.

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>>173350
I'm with you anon, I cannot stand flowerbomb!

I love floral perfumes but flowerbomb is one of those scents that stay in my nose and make me feel a little nauseous.

I've found Estee Lauder modern muse to be my go to floral/woody perfume

>>172296
I have a perfume that's supposedly a dupe for This is Her called Dalal by al Rehab. It's not really my taste, but I'd still recommend it to others.

Plus, even if you don't like it, it's $5 for a thing of the oil perfume.

This or a close second would be Britney Spears's Fantasy.

I like clean and almost detergent like smells, its not overwhelming.

probably the best smelling perfume ever, but it's way too expensive, I only had a sample lol

>>176358
have not smelt this but burberry her is said to be a good dupe (same designer too), that or ariana's cloud. everyone's skin chemistry is different etc etc

>>175940
Congrats you brilliant bitch!!!

>>175954
thanks anon im so fucking excited!

After an aweful last two years with a failed postgraduate experience, shit job, sacking/no contract extension and relationship difficulties things are picking up.

>Got into a masters program in a really interesting novel science field
>Bf and I have built an amazing relationship, are celebrating 6 years together and got engaged recently
>Got out of a toxic work environment
>Favourite guinea pig's mammary tumours were successfully removed and she's still healthy 8 months after surgery when we thought we'd have to put her down
>Got a rescue rabbit this week. He's super intelligent and loving, shits in his litter box only, isn't destructive and sleeps in our bed like a cat

I read an anon's vent about their gym going issues due to corona and got a strong desire to gloat so here I am.
My neigborhood used the time since the pandemic started to build outdoor gyms in parks. We now have awesome big gyms free of charge in every block, they're being well kept, and it's so much more enjoyable than working out in an indoor gym.
I really chose well when I chose this part of city to live in, other municipalities don't give half a shit for improving their citizens' quality of life, they just pocket the money.

>>176272
Outdoor gyms are a fun warmup but they're not a real gym substitute because without any weights it's not an exercise that would help with anything past certain level, unfortunately. And they cant put weights there because people would injure themselves.

>>176260
Nta but partaking in online gossip and cheating when there's a baby on the way.. Don't exactly compare. I mean anon even referred to it as 'homewrecking' herself. Ruining a family. Directly hurting a woman and child. That's a whole other league of shittiness if she pursues that.

I responded to 'should I be a homewrecker' anon but with a non emotional explaination of the knock on effects of cheating when there's kids involved.. Thought that'd be better than getting her back up and making her defensive. But yeah god forbid someone just get candid in saying it's a thing that warrents shame. It's an incredibly shameful thing to even consider doing.

>>176218
thanks. it's been done!

>>176273
>>176276
Lmao yeah right. Quit it with the selective morafaggotry and the pretense that it's about anything other than yourselves being upset at the notion of getting cheated on.

My boyfriend knows I have severe trust issues and that lying is the biggest thing to me. He's lied to me about petty things in the past, and I warned him that it may seem like white lies but they really get to me and I feel like I can't trust him.

At the beginning of our relationship, he said he stopped looking at any porn because he didn't need it since he has me. We have a very active sex life. I dont care if he watches porn, I was just curious, and he adamantly denied it. Yesterday, we were both relaxing in the living room. I went to sit next to him and he immediately hid his phone. I kept pushing him to show me what he was hiding and he kept swearing he wasn't hiding anything. He finally opened his phone and it was a bunch of naked girls on reddit. I'm both upset he lied, and upset he was looking at that when he would always insist "I have you so I don't need it. You're the only girl I want to look at" and then get upset if I was wary about him saying that.

I'm seriously so hurt. Is this a valid reason to break up with him or am I overreacting?

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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6422848/
I found this study according to which PMS/PMDD symptoms might be alleviated by increasing vitamin D and calcium intake. Worth trying out

oh shit I also forgot, ginseng to deal with fatique, it's better than miadol and it helps keep your energy up if you bleed heavily during your period, I recommend prince of peace American ginseng tea as a cup a day during your period can keep you from feel lethargic.

I think I'm developing this. First I noticed that I become suicidal on the day right before period and it goes away as soon as the period starts. Now I've noticed that the week before my period I have overwhelming urges to binge eat. I don't know if this happened because of getting older or because I gained a lot of weight in 2019. I'm going to try to lose some weight and go outside more now that the weather's getting better.

I've never in my life had cramping BEFORE my period.
If I wake up with cramps then I'm duck walking to the toilet because it's already here.
They're bad enough that, if ibuprofen didn't exist, I wouldn't make it to work. But thankfully they work like magic.

I’m convinced I have this the more I read people’s experiences.
I don’t necessarily feel depressed but I get awful anxiety, anger/irritability, brain fog, literally not being above to focus on anything for more than 5 minutes etc.
My doc said I have to try an ssri 2 weeks before my period and b6 supplement before I can see a gyno.
I think this is all related to my PCOS, I can’t take the pill because I get migraines and it makes them worse so my hormones must be all over the place.

>>173733
That makes the two of us then

Almost lost mine at 18 but it wouldn't go in kek, I was too anxious and stuff. I'm glad looking back that it didn't happen. Even though I still kind of feel "broken" (scared I won't ever be able to). So I guess I'm technically still a virgin even though we did other things?

My then-boyfriend when I was 19, he wanted to do it before I turned 20 (he was 21 then, 1.5 yrs older than me) We were both virgins, dated for about 4 months before the deed. We bought some condoms, made sure the house was empty and went to it. The first time it couldn't go in and I literally cried because it was so painful. We stopped and decided to cuddle and eat lunch instead.

The second try I got on top and with a lot of lube it went in. I remember laying there and thinking "is this how being raped feels like?" because I felt like I was dying from the pain and wanted it to be over already but didn't tell him that (my bad)

Subsequent times got better but he was a shit lay for sure, 3/10 hope the next girl trains him well.

Lost my virginity at 19. I had been casually dating a guy for about a month at that point and we had done everything else but he was hesitant to take my virginity but then he realized he had really serious feelings for me and we did it anyway. It was in my dorm room. It hurt just a little at first but then it actually felt good which I was surprised by. I bled a fair amount. After we cuddled and watched Princess Mononoke then he bought me Thai food.

I ended up marrying him.

My experience was so dogshit kek. I was 17, nearly 18, this guy I'd been e-dating for 6 months came to see me twice and by the third IRL visit we decided to do it. He was fine looks-wise but was an absolute moid and I was a smoothbrain for ever being into him. We were making out and then he put me on the scratchy-ass carpet and I asked if he had condoms and he was like "oh I guess not can we do it anyway". That comment disgusts me to this day. I said no bitch and then he was pissed at me for a day, grumpily bought some condoms and then the next night we went at it on a sofa, I don't know why I didn't see the red flag from the first night and run. My hymen broke at some point in my early teens so that wasn't an issue but boy was he a sad root, his half-flacid penis felt like nothing and I realised just how bad PIV can possibly be. He insisted on not using lube so I was all raw and sore the next day. I did it with him because I had this stupid notion that I had to lose my virginity before 18. In hindsight, I would have much rather waited until my 20s but despite that it gave me perspective of what bad sex and men were like. That is the only positive I can take from it, honestly I'd rather forget it ever happened.

>what about you have you learned to accept?
My weight. I don't think I'll ever be lower than 140. I'm pretty sure it's just my bodies set weight. Thankfully I've never been called fat at this weight and I've gotten compliments on it so that probably has helped me to feel comfortable with it. Also love my vagina. Had an ex make me feel icky about it because it didn't look like a porn one but like my inner labias barely hang out that much and they're entertaining to tug on when I'm bored lol.
>what parts of you do you are trying to love?
My nose, it's big and bulbous. It's hard to like it especially knowing that my face would look so much better if it was tinier. I've even been told my nose looks off compared to the rest of my face.

I have basically no waist. Pic related is sort of my shape, with maybe slightly broader shoulders. I also have scoliosis so my hips are uneven.

Was an anachan and still had no waist but at least I had a thigh gap until I managed to get back to a healthy weight.

Learning about anatomy and fitness has helped me a ton to accept my body was it is.

The only thing I really really really wish I could change are my tiny beady eyes.

>what have you learned to accept
my love handles, chubby thighs, my scars and my face
>what parts are you trying to love
bulimia teeth, thinning hair, hip dips and cellulite and my weird frame

after wanting to get a boob job for years, i'm now generally ok with my small boobs. they are at least a round shape and perky, and i'm trying to see them as cute and youthful rather than inadequate and unfeminine. i also realized it's not the most important thing and even if i had surgery there would be too many constant worries afterwards. back when i was really set on the surgery i expected it to solve all of my issues with myself, but now that feels dumb and i was really relieved when i cancelled my surgery.

>what about you have you learned to accept?
Natural physique is really muscular, I have a shit-tonne of muscle mass, being 70kg at only 160cm tall. I've accepted I'll always me a size medium-large and can't wear some of the cool clothes I want to due to how strange they look on me. I have muscular arms that I've worked out to get and when I'm not flexing they look like lunch lady arms, but when I do flex they're rock solid all over and I'm really proud of that. I also have chub on my belly that has never budged and muscular legs that are chubby towards my upper thighs. I am learning to love being more masculine-presenting as well with some outfits to really embrace and showcase my physique in ways that boost my confidence.

>what parts of you do you are trying to love?
My nose is extremely prominent from my greek side of the family and I have a very long pointed chin, I look like a witch. I also have one of those double chins that never goes away, at 52kg it was still there. Whilst I've considered surgery for my face ultimately I know it is better to try to love your natural self before spending the money. My partner loves my face and always says its beautiful but sometimes all I can see is swamp witch with jawline acne and a double chin lol. I hate it but I'm still young and insecure so hoping with age I grow to accept it more.

>>175366
I think it's safer to go to a local jeweller. Not a big name like Tiffanys but just a no-name local jeweller/goldsmith that doesn't hike up the prices because ~brand~. Etsy is always risky imo. There's definitely legitimate sellers but they're mostly small one-man bussinesses with minimal conditions. You're never going to get the ring for the exchange rate of the metal but a local jeweller should give you a fair price.

Is pic related too extra as a wedding ring? I don't want it to be mistaken for an engagement ring.

>>175699
No, just be sure to clean it and get real metal so it’s not green like in that pic.

>>175699
It's not extra at all lol. It's pretty.

>>175699
What is the actual engagment ring like though? How do they look as a set?

>>175481
Sorry your male friends are like that, they sound the worse possible version of a man that can exist lol. Why are they even your friends if they just put you down?

I'd totally be your friend and chat if we were allowed to un-anon ourselves (the lolcow friend finder was stopped due to this)

>>175481
>How have you guys met your good gal pals?
Bumble BFF mostly, some FB groups (“women of city” kinda thing), occasionally at an in-person event.
>What hobbies did you meet them through/what hobbies did you get into together?
I have a few stable hobbies (pole dancing, martial arts, crafty things like pottery and painting, photography, backpacking) that I’m always willing to share with others but I try to stay open to anything from the infamous brunch to yoga, kayaking and impromptu events. The more you’re willing to try and explore together the better, and you might end up enjoying some activities you didn’t expect.
>Any tips for staying close with current female friends?
Check in texts, share something you did/send pics of something cool now and then, memes, honest random questions, “Hey I saw x thing in the city/wanted to try z, do you wanna come with?”

>>175508
>>175509
I'd totally be willing to add people on Discord/Steam but have no idea how to from an anon board without breaking site rules kek.

>>175523
Thanks for these tips I had no idea Bumble was a thing until now. I'll check it out.

>>175599
samefag, I just figured out the lolcow Discord is a thing and posted in the find friends thing. So if you're also sick of moids you can find me there.

I relate to you OP. I have a few online friends (about five-ish) that I met due to fandom but haven’t had an irl friend in more than 10 years. I used to meet a lot of people from apps like Tinder who’d say they’d be open to friendships and then ghost me and I have BPD so I guess that doesn’t help. The last time my mental illness got bad even most of the online friends stopped speaking to me. I don’t really have any advice I’m afraid, I’m just sort of posting here in hope that I’m not alone and that it can get better.