/g/ - girl talk

>>304490
Nonna I have no fucking clue about Kibbe myself and I wouldn't consider this all really masc, but this is what others have said is some masc stuff for romantics. In general the recommendations kibbe gives for women don't go well with gnc stuff. I ended up reading the recommendations for men with the same type I have and trying to adapt them to me.

I know all this is pseudoscientific, but there is something alluring about kibbe, for the same reason 4seasons, dyt, mbti, and enneagram is popular.

>>252183
Im 5'6

>>304921
all of those things make you sound autistic if you talk about them but mbti won't also make you look cool and hot!

>>304921
I wouldn't call kibbe pseudoscience, it doesn't presents itself as science at all, it's just analysis of the persons physical apperance. I dislike how it prescribes styles for each type tho, instead of just general kinds of cuts.

Thought I might aswell ask here but has anyone gotten into mermaiding?

I recently discovered about it last year and I have been so keen to learn more about it. I want to get a tail but they are so expensive.

I've been learning to swim for just over a year, I've gone into deep water (1.7 meters+) occasionally but I still get freaked out.

I want to get to the level where I can swim full lengths in a public pool with ease - any tips or advice?

I love swimming outdoors so much, I feel so calm and free when I do. I think it's one of the things that makes me happiest in life, so much so that my dream is to have a pool in my garden one day. Shame i'm a poorfag and britbonger, otherwise i'd have one now.

I've always loved the water, my family would call me fishie because I loved the ocean and pools so much. I was shit at swimming though because my dad taught me the basics but I didn't go to swimming lessons or anything. I took it up last year at the university pool and I watched a bunch of swimming videos to correct my technique. I usually swim 1km for a standard workout and alternate between breast stroke, backstroke and freestyle with some breaks in between to catch my breath. I can easily do 1km freestyle though if I get into a rhythm. Still trying to learn butterfly, my dolphin kick is okay on its own but when I put it together with the arm movement its like I forget how to do it completely lol. My biggest challenge was learning a breathing rhythm with freestyle, but now its my favourite stroke. I really want to be a distance swimmer because I could swim at a relaxed pace forever, its so fun and it feels like I'm transported to another world.

I want to do open water swimming but the ocean water is pretty cold where I live (anything between 12-18 degrees) and I hyperventilate when I put my face in the water. Does anyone else experience that? Its like I can't breathe out for longer than a second before I need to gasp for air. Its not an issue I have in a heated pool and I'm not sure how to fix it. I want to join an open water swimming group, but why the fuck do memberships cost so much? Its so much more than access to a chlorinated pool that actually has to be maintained lol.

My biggest regret is that I wasn’t raised somewhere warm and sunny, near the sea. My entire life I wanted to swim, surf, paddle etc but my house is thousands of miles from the nearest beach and it’s cold here too. I genuinely get depressed over it at times.

>>307392
That's cool I'm from the UK too. It's kinda sad how Topshop isn't around anymore, nothing really replaced it. Please feel free to share the mood board, I'd love to see it.

I'm so happy that whatever is this, (I think it falls under nu-goth), is long dated and looks kitschy.
Killstar really had people that think that ~ * ~ i luuv horror movies ~ * ~ is goth on a strong chokehold.

>>307532
I used to be goth my whole life until 2020 and I have no idea what the fuck happened but I suddenly just flipped a switch and started hating it. Now whenever I see Dollskill I get automatically repulsed and assume the person is annoying or an OnlyFans whore

>>307532
I used to LOVE this shit as a teenager. Maybe because it was so accessible and easy. Every single time i bought clothes from such brands, 9/10 i would either return them or they sat in my closet unworn and i would end up selling them. It's a very ugly aesthetic. Anyone trying to dress goth are 100% just buying normie clothes in the thrift store and being a little creative.

>>307581
>assume the person is annoying or an OnlyFans whore
I think the exact same thing lmao. Admittedly, i see dollskill as one of the better altwhore stores since they still sell stuff that isn't too offence and can be worn everyday. Killstar has managed to get even uglier and release the most repugnant looking clothes ever in recent times. All of their dresses always had the most unflattering fits, not even the models could make it cute. And for $80 dollars a piece. No thank you.

>>307581
Same, it’s a shame that this aesthetic has become so tainted by onlyfans. It looks cheap.

>>307257
Could be you have a low cervix, could be he has a long schlong, could be you're not sufficiently aroused. There are several factors that play in to this.

>>307279
I wouldn't worry about being "too wet", guys who complain about that usually have death grip syndrome. To any mentally healthy guy it should be a turn-on and egotrip. I don't really have any advice because my first time was a bit painful and awkward, but I wanna wish you good luck.

>>307279
>>307280
That's just a worry that neither of you should think about, I'm 27, a virgin and had friends losing their virginities as teens like anyone else as well.
But that literally doesn't matter because not having experience at something like sex before you're 16 doesn't mean you will lose your chances to have sex or that nothing will work and everything will hurt.
Honestly, if anything you should be glad that you've been lucky enough to not end up in a shitty relationship with a too young moid that death grips to mlp porn.

>>253937
Might want him to go get a physical. It might be indicative of underlying health problems.

>>307283
>I wouldn't worry about being "too wet"
nta and you're right in that any decent man won't be bothered by it, but I feel like I get too wet during/before sex with my bf sometimes and it can make it feel less good for me. I guess it decreases the friction so I don't feel his dick as much if I'm that wet, even though he's pretty hung. If I get the chance I'll sometimes try to wipe some of the excess wetness away before penetration, but it doesn't help much.

>>307385
the only reason most people don't wear dusters in montana and wyoming is because we're too poor and can't afford them

>>307218
It's like an EDM version of cybergoth style.

>>307378
Thank God. A man trying to stick out from the flock like a sore thumb is guaranteed to be mentally ill.

>>307318
Looks like a good New Vegas cosplay. This guy would kill it at the con.

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>>122641
>>126176
>>192575
all cute and have lots of personality and only need confidence and the right attitude. seethe & cope

>>307363
Lol you have those Goku eyebrows that are triangular and thicker in the middle and thin at the ends

>>307363
there's some like general rule that you're not supposed to pluck the top part of your eyebrows when shaping them but maybe you should try it. if you plucked the bottom part they might be way too arched/high, but if you pluck just a little bit from the top of the arch it might soften them and not look weird.

>>307367
This is a JEALOUS DEMON speaking. Don't listen to her blabbering. You're hot

>>307409
I never said she was ugly retard

Is this hazel? I don't see any gold or brown so I'm not sure

I'm so grateful for music. It's amazing to me that you can just listen to something and that it can make you feel such deep things or distract you from whatever else is going on in your life even though it's literally just soundwaves being played into your ear. I always look forward to my drive to and from work because I get to listen my favorite albums. It's really one of the only things I look forward to anymore.

>>291477
Me too and I'm so glad that most of the discussion around it is laughing with, instead of laughing at sexymen and the women who like them.

I'm really grateful for all the people in my life, even acquaintances.
Moved countries all by myself and was so unsure of who I can trust or not, but met so many amazing women who make me feel like less of a foreigner; Really grateful for this relatively transition.

For some reason it makes me really happy when people put in the effort and learn how to properly pronounce my name.

>>288492
Nonna it's never too late to patch things up, you sound lovely and I'm sure your dad is the same so it shouldn't be a lot of trouble.

I always wished for a dad so it makes me happy to hear that there are women (men too i suppose) out there who have good dads and love them.
Anyone reading this, tell your father/mother/whoever took care of you as a child that you love them (for me) <3

Very grateful for the beginning of the year so far, it's been really good for me in general.
I'm also very grateful for my day off tomorrow! Today was a good but tiring day, I'll sleep to my heart's content and I'm really happy and looking forward to it.

I made new friends this year and they are all going to a DJ this weekend and didn't invite me. I know because one mentioned it. We talk literally every day and yet I'm still irrelevant. How can this be

I’m currently caring for my granny so she can hopefully stay in her home comfortably and avoid eventually dying elsewhere in our severely overextended healthcare institutions.

However this obviously means I’m home with her indefinitely; aside from medical appointments or getting groceries.

I’ve been entertaining a few different raven families that will come bring their hungry screaming kids to yell outside my bedroom window now that they know I’m a trusted and verified food source. They don’t come around constantly so there’s no concern over them becoming reliant on me to feed them. Some of the ravens also like my weak attempts at whistling and fluff up all cute. Overall they are very nice Corvids and provide a nice bit of social respite and ecological study.

It’s pretty dang isolating and I mostly miss just being able to go for long walks to botanise or look at funny urban garbage. My granny and I are both loners anyway, a family tradition, so it’s not like we’re cozying up playing gin rummy all day.

Do you think it might be better for my mental health if I gave up on making friends? I guess I've never been the type of person who makes friends easily, but I do have a handful of friends so I know it's possible for me. They just all live far away. After I graduated college a few years ago, I moved to a new city for graduate school and I have had a really tough time making friends. I thought grad school would be an easy way for me to find a community of people in the city I moved to, but that didn't end up working out. My old therapist and my mom told me it's probably because I naturally don't seem very approachable or open, which is true, but I did try. It's just that me trying hard to make friends is probably still nothing compared to how most extroverts are. Plus, I don't have a ton of "normie" interests (I'm sure most of you can relate) so it can be hard for me to think of things to talk about when I'm just getting to know someone. I don't blame the other girls in my class because of course they would rather talk to other girls who automatically know what they're talking about. And now I work fulltime so it's even harder to meet people.

I wonder if it'd be easier if gave up and stopped trying to force myself to make friends. I know at this point the only way I could make friends is to approach people at events or join a club or something. It sounds so overwhelming I don't know where to start and I get so anxious thinking about it. There were a few times I worked up the courage to go to an event by myself and talk to someone, but it always fizzles out. I keep beating myself up and saying I need to try harder, but maybe I just don't have the personality to go up and become friends with strangers. I can't even make fucking small talk with the cashier when I'm at the grocery store, so how could I expect myself to get close enough to a stranger to start hanging out? Instead of forcing myself to do something that brings me so much anxiety, then failing, then beating myself up for not trying hard enough, maybe I should just accept that my life is going to be mostly solitary for now and that's how it is? But I'm also afraid I might look back on my 20s and regret not putting myself out there and making friends, so part of me thinks I should just try even harder. Has anyone actually had success as an introvert in "trying" to make friends they're happy with? Or maybe doing the opposite and accepting solitude?

>>306980
It's a difficult question anon, and heavily depends on how much you really want to have friends? Most of friendships people have are actually pretty superficial, just a very long small talk, and it doesn't necessarily sound like something you enjoy. Deep connections are very rare and while they require work to keep up of course, they happen naturally, if you have to force it then it's most likely not going to develop in this direction anyway. I'm a huge introvert with some social anxiety (worst mix) and after years of struggle - vicious circle of trying really hard, failing, beating myself up about it (much like you say you do) and feeling even more insecure about attempting further - I've started working on actually accepting my reserved personality. It lead me to a realization that all this time I was struggling for something I don't even actually want - because I don't really enjoy that much regularly hanging out with people to talk about general superficial subjects and even though in the media having a fun group of friends is shown as ideal, it's not actually ideal or necessary for me. I still long to meet someone with whom I'll be able to connect better, and every time i happen to meet new people - new coworkers, friends of friends, situations like that - I try my best to get to know them well and open up just enough to see if they're interested, it didn't work out for me yet but it's ok, maybe someday it will and that's fine. I try to put myself in new situations sometimes - like hobby meetings and so - but only occasionally and I enjoy them more feeling less desperate to meet someone there. It does feel lonely sometimes and there are days when i feel envy seeing my colleagues meet up after work or so but I remind myself that this is not what I really want to have and keep up in my life. It may sound like a cope maybe, but I really believe sorting out your priorities and needs and choosing a thing better suited to you, being aware of that choice's advantages and disadvantages, is really helpful.

Do you think it's better to have shit friends or to be lonely? I've made some mates at college but it's obvious they don't really care that much for me and I'm not integral to the group (I used to be close with some of them, but as always, they distanced themselves from me for no clear reason), they just don't mind me that much. On the one hand, I at least have someone to go out with, on the other seeing how everyone in the group gets attention besides me really hurts and I'm kinda sick of them.
I don't have many other spaces where I can befriend other people, and I have been rejected or ignored so many times that I'm just fucking tired. I don't enjoy being alone either.

>>306983
i dont floss but i brush very throughoutly and dont think i need to? idk i havent gotten any complaints about my breath after high school. do you think flossing is necessary?

and thanks for te advice on gum, i guess it really isnt a good substitue.

>>306984
If you have bad breath you absolutely need to floss. You also need to clean your tongue. Some kinds of toothpaste can give you bad breath too.

>>306976
>>306919
Have either of you thought about seeing an ENT (ear nose and throat dr.)? I had severe tonsillitis and it started with tonsil stones and escalated to me eventually having to get them surgically removed. I'd have a checkup with a regular physician just to get them looked at, mention the stones esp. if your tonsils bleed from irritation when you pop them out.

one of my tonsils is always so big but all of my GPs said it’s fine. no lady it’s not i have a testicle in my throat. i’m going to a throat doc for it soon because i looked for tonsil stones with a qtip two days ago and still coughed up a stone yesterday so there’s hidden pockets i cant get to for sure
i hate my bad breath but it does get better if i dont eat garlic and brush tongue regularly
i had really bad tonsillitis before since then i get those demonic stones
recently quit smoking too so that’s a breath W

>>307196
Yes I’m due to see one but I’m not very optimistic as most of the treatments have failed, I have tried nearly everything and keep myself incredibly clean and practice excellent hygiene with a very good diet. I’m actually starting to think I might have some genetic condition that makes me stink and am thinking of seeing an endocrinologist or enzyme specialist because it might be a problem with that instead.

To my beloved goth anons who are active on the goth/alternative scene or in similar scenes: How much money do you spend on going to clubs and concerts every month? How do you decide what events are you going to and what events are you missing? Specially if there's almost no activity in your area and missing an event probably means having to wait at least 2 months for something similar to be organised. There's a concert in february 2h away from my town and the ticket is 16€, it's not very cheap but the bands are pretty decent despite being unknown. The problem is that there's no afterparty following the concert so I'll have nowhere to go after midnight. The earliest bus departs at 7am and luckily there's a cafe nearby that stays open until 3am, so I'd only have to wander around the solitary city night for a few hours (or I could stay in the bus station having my own solo afterparty with my headphones). Bus tickets cost 7€ each trip so that night I'll be spending 30€ minimum (plus whatever drink I order in the cafe).Is it a reasonable price for going out just this time in february? I'd really like to go and have fun dancing while wearing a nice outfit for once, but at the same time I know this is a rather expensive adventure. What do you think? Any advice from similar experiences?

>>302606
I can't really recommend because I've never bought clothing online from an alternative style shop. What are you looking for exactly, nona?

>>302606
There aren't.

I'll never get to go to a nightclub like this…

Passing by to say gatekeeping is a good thing and goths need to gatekeep harder tbh.