I will give this thread a chance from me, even though I don’t use the term anymore. I remember discovering it years ago, I was 14, felt it describes me because I was never interested in sex (the idea of it even repulses me), want a sexless life and felt it is my true nature. There was a time in my life when I pondered finding some asexual boyfriend for the future but then I realized it’s not really a wish I have, more a result of society’s conditioning.
During the years I also dropped the term “asexual” because I disliked a lot how the community changed. I saw it being infested with trannies, people thinking not desiring sex 24/7 makes them asexual, people making weird posts making me uncomfortable, openly speaking of kinks, etc. It was all nonsense. I also never regarded asexuality as something that needs to be a part of LGBTQ or LGB. Perhaps due to that and my personality, I fell out with my former besties (knew them for four years) because they became genderspecials, also shaming me for being a “prude” when they started to explore their sexuality more, even to the point of behavior which was rude or off-putting to me.
I still know a few smart people who use the term but not in a way that queers rendered it… So there is a hope.
I also like that this thread doesn’t have the flag I dislike (as the CC thread has), although there could be a better pic choice. But I’ll stick with it.
For me this state is good. I see no struggles. However, I wonder how it will be like much later, when my family could start wondering why I’m still single. At least I am also grateful for having a family which is quite relaxed on this topic, I was never “forced” to be interested in dating, etc. As a young woman I just want to focus on my hobbies, pursue a career, live my life.
I’m curious nonas, how do you feel about asexuality “symbols”? Back when I identified more with that term I liked them, now they’re like a bitter memory to me. I like the color purple that’s in the flag, the card symbols remind me of one of my interests but after I changed my stance on the modern take on asexuality I feel symbols are not needed. Maybe because I know they’re associated with trends I started to dislike as soon as I saw their real form (such as the cursed “trans rights”). Sometimes I also feel personally attacked in a way, I remember some fraction of asexuals on TumblrPost too long. Click here to view the full text.