/g/ - girl talk

>>310747
Small amounts of exercise throughout the day. Stand instead of sit as much as you can, go for walks, do light exercise appropriate for your size and fitness level (no jumping or whatever if you're fat enough for that to cause injury), start with no weights/body weight. Cut down on processed food and snacks, don't eat out or order food more than once a week, ideally don't order food at all. Eat more fiber and drink a crapload of water. Don't bother changing your entire diet or eating habits at once, it won't stick and you'll only feel worse. Concentrate on making small changes one at a time.
And don't worry too much about making progress on losing weight. Depending on the size you are now you'll notice more of a difference in how you feel, your fitness level, and how your clothes fit. Aim to lose weight slowly and steadily, not all at once.
Good luck anon.

>>309738
Well I was prediabetic(borderline) and technically obese. Try to get a diagnosis for (pre)diabetes type 2 and/or insulin resistance as insurances are fuckers about it being used solely for weight loss, even if you are obese. I only was able to have 2 months of Wegovy before my insurance stopped covering it. Had to switch to Monjaro and had success due to a coupon they had(pretty sure it isn’t valid and I’m grandfathered in). The coupon allows for me to get it once a month until September. Keep in mind because there is a shortage, some pharmacies won’t honor your script without a full blown type 2 diabetes diagnosis. After my coupon, I have no idea what I’m gonna do. Apparently Wegovy/Ozemic/other stuff coming to market can now be covered by insurance for “maintenance”. Day after injection I am nauseous and either constipated or having the runs non stop and it’s even worse whenever your dosage is increased.

>>310140
Fasting has worked out so well for me nonny, I think it's because of my height since I'm super short. I do OMAD since I usually don't eat a lot anyways due to my stature. It's so nice to not feel bloated and chained by cooking all day. I get really hungry around dinner time and I eat a nice big meal and that's it.

fell off the wagon ladies. I was doing great with intermittent fasting for a month and going to exercise classes every week, but since starting my new job I'm tired all the time and the motivation is gone. it started with me getting sick a couple of times because my work have made it mandatory to work in the office a few days a week and people have been spreading all their germs. I now feel bloated and hungry and exhausted all the time and it feels awful. how do I motivate myself again

>>311169
Ugh I feel you nonny. Imo it's okay to take a break for some time and just try to maintain your weight or take it very slow. I've been trying to watch what I eat more and steadily decreasing how much I eat, I've gone down a few belt notches over the months and people have been commenting that I look slimmer even if I don't feel like I've actively done much. Hoping to kick it into high gear again soon though

>>310901
Nonnie's gonna eat her pussy so good she poops herself!

>>310911
Yes, I think that’s how s*x works…but she might start rotating as that also happens during the climax and epilogue of intercourse

freida pinto is so unbelievably beautiful wtf, and her voice makes me melt.

samefagging (more like samedyeking)

I think I already posted her up-thread so sorry kek. I’m sad she’s fully embraced e-thottery and started a lewds OF but she’s still hot.

>>310288
i feel you, anon. it's alright. you're worth more than your accomplishments and your body and mind are able to change. is there something you like about yourself?

>>310288
Kill your old self. I mean, if you wa t to end it anyways, why not do a radical 180 and experience that before you die? Take out a loan and go on an expensive trip, or take drugs, train for a marathon, move across the earth etc

I’m having a really hard time controlling my anxiety. I can’t breathe sometimes and it seems every day I have panic attacks. Nothing has changed in my life really so I have no clue but I did quit antidepressants a few months ago and I believe this has something to do with it. I’m going to go back on them because I can’t handle this anymore, every day is hell

Avoidant personality disorder is ruining my life. I haven't been officially diagnosed with it but I suspect that is the issue with my personality I suspect I could have a touch of 'tism as well I have been diagnosed with ADHD and functional depression. I haven't been to a shrink or medicated for that stuff since I was a teenager and I feel like my mental health has gotten worse since. I hace no friends, not even online because I pull away and ghost people before we get close. It's entirely my fault, I don't know why I do it. I'm tired of only seeing my family.
I think I look relatively normal on the outside, no suspects there is anything wrong with me so I never get offered help for this.

I really hate just thinking about all the things I've missed out on because of this stupid mental block. I've ruined potential friendships, relationships, failed classes, ignored health issues, lost out on jobs because I just can't bring myself to do things I need to at that moment.

I do want to go to therapy for this but what's stopping me is trying to get a referral that accepts my insurance or not telling anyone and trying to find one myself and paying out of pocket, but that seems expensive and I don't know if i could afford to keep going. I wanted to bite the bullet and tell my mom but then she would ask what I needed therapy for and I'd just fall apart.

Sorry for blog, I have no one to tell about this

I wish I could feel normal and have my bf date someone normal but instead he got a psychotic autist who got raped as a child and has fallout from that. It's hard out here nonitas

>>293425
this man looks fucked up

>>285211
my favourite is the Canne press interview for CRASH. He was irresistible

>>267944
that movie catalyzed my sexual awakening

>>311165
Why did you bump this thread, and why was the next one created when this thread hadn’t even reached 1100? All the Outsiders boys cute as hell though

>>311165
Mine too. Johnny is the only type of man I would ever want.
>>311173
They are!

>>310071
I've tried this, and I wasn't taken seriously. I had one professional just suggest that maybe I'll get horny if just force myself to have sex with someone (???). I went through a spell of having no libido for years straight due to physical and mental health issues, and I slowly regained it via exploring my body and building confidence in my appearance.

>>310147
>I always feel bad when people say that you're a porn addict if you can't get off with your thoughts alone
I feel like those people are projecting because using artwork or fanfics isn't nearly as damaging as live-action porn (where you don't even know if it was consensually filmed or spread). I'm currently in a period where my libido is "neutral" but erotica and fantasies that cater to my tastes do it for me, but that's likely because I'm single.

>>308115
I relate to this. I guess I can't say I'm asexual because I find men and some women physically attractive, but the idea of actually having sex is unappealing to me. I've had sex before when I was younger, and I've even used to enjoy it. I just don't enjoy it anymore, and haven't for the past couple of years. The idea of doing it just seems uncomfortable and awkward. I'm not on the pill or anything. I'm overweight though and I'm pretty sure my hormones are messed up.

>>308073
I will give this thread a chance from me, even though I don’t use the term anymore. I remember discovering it years ago, I was 14, felt it describes me because I was never interested in sex (the idea of it even repulses me), want a sexless life and felt it is my true nature. There was a time in my life when I pondered finding some asexual boyfriend for the future but then I realized it’s not really a wish I have, more a result of society’s conditioning.
During the years I also dropped the term “asexual” because I disliked a lot how the community changed. I saw it being infested with trannies, people thinking not desiring sex 24/7 makes them asexual, people making weird posts making me uncomfortable, openly speaking of kinks, etc. It was all nonsense. I also never regarded asexuality as something that needs to be a part of LGBTQ or LGB. Perhaps due to that and my personality, I fell out with my former besties (knew them for four years) because they became genderspecials, also shaming me for being a “prude” when they started to explore their sexuality more, even to the point of behavior which was rude or off-putting to me.
I still know a few smart people who use the term but not in a way that queers rendered it… So there is a hope.
I also like that this thread doesn’t have the flag I dislike (as the CC thread has), although there could be a better pic choice. But I’ll stick with it.
For me this state is good. I see no struggles. However, I wonder how it will be like much later, when my family could start wondering why I’m still single. At least I am also grateful for having a family which is quite relaxed on this topic, I was never “forced” to be interested in dating, etc. As a young woman I just want to focus on my hobbies, pursue a career, live my life.
I’m curious nonas, how do you feel about asexuality “symbols”? Back when I identified more with that term I liked them, now they’re like a bitter memory to me. I like the color purple that’s in the flag, the card symbols remind me of one of my interests but after I changed my stance on the modern take on asexuality I feel symbols are not needed. Maybe because I know they’re associated with trends I started to dislike as soon as I saw their real form (such as the cursed “trans rights”). Sometimes I also feel personally attacked in a way, I remember some fraction of asexuals on TumblrPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>311127
>I’m curious nonas, how do you feel about asexuality “symbols”?
I'm "allosexual" (I hate that word but) someone who believes that asexual isn't LGB, but I still don't have a problem with there being a symbol or flag of it. Gay people don't have a monopoly on that kind of thing. I think the issue is when people make a million flags for the made-up subcategories like "asexual but wants sex once a year" or something, it gets postmodernist. I find the jokes that dragons or cake is "ace culture" annoying, but it's just a meme.

>>311164
I think I’m either neutral toward the symbols or bitter because of what I described above. I guess that making flags become a trend there (but I still see it’s pointless with multiple microlabels as you mentioned). Maybe I dislike the “ace culture” jokes because I don’t like strong identification with a group or I dislike if they mention something I relate to, while not relating to the people using that term who promote the woke take on it.
I guess on some level, beside bad memories, is that if someone woke-leaning would learn I’m asexual, the reaction would be like “so you must also support trans rights, queers, microlabels and tons of other idiotic stuff”.
>>308108
>It's also scary how a lot of the woke asexual community promotes unhealthy relationships. I understand that wanting a relationship without sex is difficult, since most people want that, but saying it's fine to make yourself have sex to please your partner would be considered coercion in any other context.
This is something that bothered me since teenage years, when I heard of asexuals accepting that. Not all of course, but still in some cases. After all, it’s decision of the person whether they want to engage in sex with partner but… Feels wrong, knowing in all other circumstances that person wouldn’t be interested in doing that. I always considered that to be something against the nature of asexuality and a subtle way to exploit others. Or, if that person is totally fine with it, why use the term “asexual” then?
I remember finding one space where a few years later I could openly speak about it (why people normalize asexuals having sex for their partner), found people supporting my stance that it sounds negative but at the end of the day I found there were some cursed people in that space too. (Asexuality off-top but basically there came a 15-year old girl whose posting history revealed childhood rape, she was also a transmasc TIF, when I asked her about being trans and tried to tell her how it’s connected to trauma I got banned from the community. Of course, that’s Reddit for you, what should I expect.)

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okashii#5520

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hmm can't say, probably a year or so

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23

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20-25

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leech2#3628
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4ever
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20+
>How would you describe yourself?
gossipy bitch, reality tv whore, musician, basement dweller
>Hobbies and pastimes
music (writing and listening), roblox, true crime, internet drama, chans
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>>310072
I wanted to add you, but you're not accepting requests?

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Miaku#0779

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Until trve friendship knocks on my door

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25 years old

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20 to 30 I think ?
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oddeyes #2051 (i'm open to giving u my main discord later on), or darkestlariat@proton.me
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as long as u want i guess
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preferably 18-25
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spontaneous, open-minded, i dont really get friendship formalities and kind of just jump straight into talking about ideas & different topics, pretty easy going but i have a hard time letting people get close to me emotionally, and curious.
>Hobbies and pastimes
does studying count as a hobby? i love reading about history, it's been a special interest of mine since childhood and now i'm double majoring in history kek. aside from sperging about the taiping rebellion or the impacts of mt. Vesuvius's eruption i like photography, writing, video games, going to museums and writing snail-mail.
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>>311133
That's how we wanted to do that, she'd come here as a tourist and we would marry. But you need a visa to come here as a tourist, so… We could do that last year, but the visa was granted for like 10 days and to get married Finland needs to perform a check up on previous marriages or some shit and for people from other countries it takes from 3 to 5 weeks, plus getting a document for that in Russia will be another bureaucratic hell. Plus we had no way of knowing if visa even will be granted earlier, so I couldn't start the process earlier. And all of that coincided with mobilisation in Russia, lots of people were leaving the country and other shit happening and Finland stopped letting russian tourists in. She was able to at least visit me (and she liked it here so much, that was another concern), but if we decided to go a couple of days later than the date we came here, she wouldn't be let in the country. Sorry for a bit of TMI, ahah, but the way everything was set up sp specifically to fuck everything up is just ridiculous.

>>311132
Thank you so much, we really appreciate it

>>311224
NTA but people don't realize how hard it is for non-EU/non-North Americans to get visas often times. I was able to do the tourist route in Canada because they give you literal months to hang out (I even got to extend my status while waiting for the application to process) before you need to leave. Ofc I had the advantage of not being a Russian during war and Canada being chill about immigration kek.

You could think about both of you moving to a new country though I know that's also very very difficult. I'm rooting for you either way, please keep each other safe and loved.

>>311224
My neighbor sis nonna, I really hope you two will get safely together. I feel like during this time of madness in that country it may be unsafe for you, and to her, if you travelled there. But I believe you both are strong in love to bear the patience, and that you will find the way to meet again and stay together. And then I wish to attend your wedding, even if likely just in spirit as we’re just nonnas here.

>>311272
Thank you so much, this is so sweet! I'd love to have you and other nonnas who are in this thread attend the wedding if it was possible. All we can do is wait, but we're very hopeful

>>311236
Yeah, I get that, it's cool to have a passport that actually is useful, lol. There are so much bullshit to get everything working, wish more countries were chill about immigration, but it's not happening for us in the near future
Still, thank you. We are just probably going to wait and see if anything will change or not

>>311303
Asylum seeking on the basis of sexuality is a route as well, don't discount that. I'm guessing that severs ties to Russia though.

>>311073
damn nonna, double whammied my bi ass with your post

>>311073
Like, and I like the comic you bumped the thread for.

my adorable sub bf is in an interview right now and he had to get all dressed up in a suit and tie and I can't wait till it's over so I can drag him around by the tie like a leash and fuck him absolutely speechless while he still has his dress shirt on half open

>>311131
Damn nonna, that is hot. Enjoy.

>>311131
I know this is the old thread but based af post. I love it when a moid looks like a fancy businessman in a nice suit and I get to absolutely ruin him and show him his place, and in the end he's all messed up and disheveled. Have fun nona.

>>304023
It's been awful for years imo, but thank god i do not have any wishlist items and I am not really in the market for anything new in general.

What are some lolita related activities you like to do? My friend and I really dislike our local comm and feel uncomfortable during meets so we decided to become lonelitas and spend our time together. I'm planning a picnic for us in Spring and thought about doing things such as:
>embroidery
>mini tea party
>drawing/scrapbooking
>walks
It's not much but it's something. I'd appreciate suggestions for activities to do on my own as well. I'm working on a handmade headdress and clothes for porcelain dolls. Journaling seems like it would match the lolita feel too.

>>303980
I know I'm replying late but there currently is a thread up on /cgl/ called "Short hair lolita inspiration" which might have something you can use as inspo. I would link it but I'm not sure if that's against the rules

>>305957
I always thought it would be cute to make a scrapbook documenting your favourite co-ords. I know i want to do that.

God the absolute fucking state of cgl.

when i was 16 i realised i was bisexual and i told my bf at the time over text and he immediately broke up with me and stopping talking the whole day. i was absolutely crushed and super depressed until the next day where he begged me for my forgiveness because he thought being bisexual meant you wanted to be polygamous lmao

i continued being with him because i had no other friends but once i was 18 and started making friends at uni i broke up with him because i realised i was a lesbian kek

>loser chronic smoker alcoholic 40 year old
>obsessed with girls 18-25
>was a teacher on his way to getting a phd 10 years ago but hit a student and now has never held a job more than 6 months
>nor a gf more than 3 years
>pathological OCD, refuses therapy
>both shook/grabbed and threatened me
>would look at 18yo OF models on insta shaking ass next to me saying "it's their job, I can't help it just pops up"
>no relevant living family to speak of, about 3 friends
>once passed out from his heart giving out while I was riding him, blamed me
>ssri dick, ate pussy 3 times then got lazy and asked me to blow him all the time
>absolutely constant "you can't take a joke/you're so sensitive/you're overreacting/i didn't say that" after negging/saying awful hurtful shit
>looking well on his way to prostate cancer, doesn't care

I wanna alog him so bad.

>>310731
I knew it! my ex's mother was nice to me (again, just super obsessed, plus I only ever talked to her on the phone), but she definitely fit into the same neglectful category (very alcoholic). It'd be fun to make some sort of 'what cruddy ex did you have' graphic
"year-long bike trip" 100% = guy well into adulthood subconsciously panicking about how shitty his life is/having a mental break, but not willing to face the reality of how much he's fucked himself over. THANK YOU for more of his insane emails/hero's journey stuff, funniest stuff I've read in a bit. Ironically enough my ex literally went on about doing the exact same thing during his implied first life crossroads. He would wander out by the ocean in the moonlight, and sleep on the beach. In reality though, I know for a fact he played minecraft 24/7 during that time period, and if any night time beach wandering/sleeping occurred, his gangly ass on the sand at night would have the neighborhood association issuing a warning.

Oh man I am over it all now but I should have posted all the drama my exes brought me, you all would have loved it.

Try dating people with different native languages it's even more dramatic, one guy had a decent grasp of my language at least I thought better than my grasp of his but I realized he doesn't actually understand everything because I would talk about serious things and he didn't understand so he nodded and smiled like he did. I started using a translator and he eyes were wide like I had been saying this all along.