I've dated down several times throughout my life, mostly because guys 'on my level' tend to be arrogant assholes. The one guy that I dated (briefly) who I did have a strong physical attraction to came from Old Money, though, so he was insufferably elitist and also had mommy issues. Bonus round! he nearly died by overdosing on heroin so like, was not a particularly stable individual. But the dick was great, and we went to a lot of fun fancy parties together. The guys that i've dated who have not been lookers, there are other benefits to being in a relationship with - this is why i think it's so stupid when incels complain that their looks are the only thing holding them back. I have noticed that these 5/10 guys take getting dumped really hard, though, like in a collapse-in-a-sobbing-heap-on-your-floor-and-refuse-to-move kind of way, or a vengefully-break-into-your-apartment-to-steal-back-presents-given-while-dating kind of way. One guy threatened to commit suicide and had to be checked into a mental ward by his parents. Currently I'm quite happy with my 5/10 bf of the past 2 years, he's incredibly smart and I love his sense of humor. His job is also FASCINATING and I feel like I learn new things about the tech industry every time I ask him for updates on his projects. I'm genuinely proud to be with him even if he's never gonna be a runway chad.>>198824
OP, I would say at least make the attempt to go for it or you'll wind up kicking yourself. The worst that can happen is that he turns you down, in which case, it's fine - just zip up your ego, pay him a compliment, and keep on having good conversations together. But it's really rare for 9/10 supermodel people to find other people who are in their same 'attractiveness' category AND ALSO have good, interesting personalities. This guy very well may have dated some hot, vapid people in the past and now is looking for someone he has a stronger personal connection with. + the only way you become the 'desperate gf' is if you let him treat you like one and live. Dump that motherfucker if you feel the tide start to turn in that direction, for reals.