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No. 49996[Reply]

This is probably an odd talk, but can we talk about pregnancies, babies and all that kinda shit? I'm sure some of you farmers have kids here, while some of you are feeling the pressure to have kids and whatnot.
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No. 124842

has anyone been pregnant or had an infant while doing post graduate study? I'm doing my masters part time next year so I have 2 years to finish it (30,000 word thesis + 500 hours placement) but I want to have a baby in the next three years. If I do it while I'm still studying at least s/he will be old enough to be cared for by others by the time I'm finished and can work but I'm still not sure what's best.

No. 124847

not helpful whatsoever but my mom had me over the last year of bachelors/first year of masters. her diss grades were ok (8/10 both times, humanities degrees), however she did not have a placement requirement. Frankly i don't know how she managed as I'm currently in last year of honours and dying but I remember her saying it was a very fond time in her life despite my dad fucking off and my grandparents not helping much as her entire dorm helped her and brought me up when she couldn't. afterwards she moved back home and then my grandparents took care of me when she was working etc, so i think having a good support system is crucial to pull it off.

No. 124849

My mom had me (2) my sister (4) and was pregnant with her third child while doing her PhD. She even commuted an hour back and forth everyday to get to her classes ‘cuz our house was in the suburbs. Having a partner that takes care of your kids is what made it possible for her, that and my grandma who practically rose us. Just have a good stable support system and schooling while pregnant isn’t too stressful. Many schools also have daycare centres to look after small children too.

No. 124856

Might work in your favor because professors actually cut a lot of pregnant students and moms slack, quietly and discretely under the table of course. Excuses related to pregnancy and children tend to get the green light compared to others.

No. 124862

I have no class requirements it's literally just the thesis and the placements, which work out to only 5 hours a week so there's nothing I'll really need to make an excuse for.
my parents would definitely help. but they still have their own lives and I don't think they think of me as totally ready for this so I'd feel bad doing it intentionally. I've just been studying for so long that I can't wait to be finished and working and really don't want to have to put off work again to have a baby, but I want to spend at least the first year pretty much inseparable from them

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No. 109507[Reply]

The last thread of this is a year old, SO, NEW THREAD! Post your room inspos/ideas/decor

Selfposting welcome
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No. 124809

There’s always dead leaves to pick up, it attracts bugs and gives them lots of hiding places, feeding the plants reeks, soil can grow moulds.. it’s really not that great. A few plants is nice but living in a potted jungle sucks ass.

No. 124811

What about air plants?
Less water means less moisture which potentially means less mold/smell
Bugs/leaves might still be an issue though

Also, I hear that watering plants from the bottom helps eliminates mold/smell because the top layer is dry and there's not enough water in the soil to grow much else (because the plants only take up what they need through their roots)

or just have fake plants if you just like the aesthetic–might be nice to pair with LEDs for a magic forest type of feeling?

No. 124814

I've always lived with house plants and have literally never encountered any of these problems. I live in an appartment though, not a house. The smell of dirt is very faint and if anything it just smells like the rain, have never had bugs, have had to pick up maybe like 3 leaves per plant per year because they grow very slowly.
To each their own i guess, probably depends on the type and species of plants too, it's just curious to me that i can't relate to any of those problems.
The most annoying thing about owning plants imo is not being able to go on trips without having someone to care for your plants.

No. 124832

I've rented several places without a vent over the stove. Wasn't pleased with it but it seems common from cheapo landlords.

No. 124883

Have you ever owned plants? Learned how to take care of them properly?

When you know how to take proper care of plants and the plants fit your room's conditions, the chances of encountering these problems are small.

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No. 110770[Reply]

I am a "manly" female. I was a tomboy growing up. When I was a child I hated wearing dresses, I always felt stupid or that I would be ridiculed for wearing them. In elementary school I insisted on wearing "boys" clothes, even boxer shorts, and my parents went along with it. In middle and high school I wore pretty "gender neutral" clothing, but I was heavily into the punk scene so it was still strange clothing by average standards.
Now I'm an adult and I've tried to ignore my past and embrace femininity.
I dress pretty basic, just jeans and shirts.
I am struggling as an adult female though. I have no female friends and I don't know how to make any. I have not had any since I was a child, and back then it was forced friendship and not genuine. I have not even had a single friend for many years. The only "friends" I make that I can be myself around, are men who either want to be in a relationship with me (but I refuse, so the friendship dissolves), or men who I enter a relationship with (but I am never happy in).
I feel like I can only relate to men, but I cannot be friends with men, because men only want to fuck women.
I feel like friendships between women are not and will never be as deep or meaningful as friendships between men. I understand that this is something I will never experience, and it fucking hurts me so much.
I feel I am experiencing gender dysphoria, however I will absolutely never transition or put it out in the open.
I just don't understand what is happening in my mind, but I feel like there may be some kind of childhood trauma that I cannot trace.
Can anyone offer any help as to why I feel this way, or should I go straight to a psychiatrist? I am now 28, and I am in so much emotional pain. I feel my biological clock ticking away and I don't know where to even start with my problems.
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No. 124731

This. All my male friend have come to me with their issues, beause they feel like they can talk to me on a deeper level than with their male friends. That women understand them better than their fellow guy friends. Male friendships are definitively more activity based(doing shit together), while women connect on a more personal level

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No. 124744

thanks for nothing tbh

No. 124746

I think you completely missed my point. I am trying to explain why an adult straight tomboy might feel like an outcast. I don't think they want to be special snowflakes, but are very confused by trans ideology. It is somewhat looked down upon for a straight woman to be very masculine and you regularly get "why won't you transition" comments.
You cannot deny that trying to enter radfem spaces as a straight woman who wishes to be sexually active with men, can lead to exclusion. Libfem lesbian spaces are out of the question, because who wants to constantly hear they would make a great man?
It is a lonely existence and you barely ever come across people who are in the same situation. It's difficult to be okay with yourself. So some troon out to get a community and friends.
Personally for me it all stems from autism, so I am screwed no matter what in the friends/romance department. But I can empathize with feeling like you failed at being a woman and not feeling like you belong anywhere. So please do not attack the anons for talking about potentially trooning out or seeing themselves as NB. They don't want to be snowflakes, but trans ideology made the definition of woman being a pretty pink princess, and I hope you can understand the struggle.

No. 124779

i guess i just don't see these radfem/transbian groups out and about irl like they are on the internet. i live in a pretty diverse, large city and i don't feel like adult groups are as cliquish as you're making it seem. 90% of people that see an androgynous woman or man are not going to immediately jump to the conclusion of them needing to transition unless you're hanging out with a bunch of 4chan teenagers irl.
your autism definitely seems like it's a hindrance in the way you think other people are perceiving you. it's really not all that deep and many friendships can be cultivated without sex,etc. ever being a topic of discussion.

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No. 108748[Reply]

I have a question regarding IUDs. I've been on the pill since early 2017 and I get pretty bad side effects. My breasts swell up (they become REALLY painful) and I get extremely nauseous. I haven't been off the pill since 2017 and the symptoms haven't disappeared. I'm honestly sick of it and decided to get an IUD. Have any of you had experiences with IUDs? I am not sure whether to get the hormonal or non-hormonal one. I absolutely hate and almost can't stand the side effects of hormonal birth control, but I get very painful periods and I heard that the copper IUD makes them 10x worse. ;-;
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No. 124620

anyone here have experience taking the mini pill? (progesterone only) wanted to take the lowest dose combo pill but estrogen isn't an option for me due to migraines/increased stroke risk.

i'm fuckin terrified of gaining weight/forming acne and losing my libido. this is the first time in my life i have not been acne ridden and slightly overweight and the idea of backsliding is so depressing and scary. i know it works differently for different people but i was hoping some of you might have some exp to share.

No. 124629

Have any of you gotten hives from bc? Tried two kinds and always hives.

No. 124640

thats weird. have heard most people are not allergic to bc because they are just hormones that occur naturally in the body already. its possible you could be allergic to one of the other ingredients/binding agents though? maybe try a different brand or ask a doctor about it.

No. 124642

I did tell them that I am 99% sure the hives are from the mini pills but they told me that it's highly unlikely and got annoyed when i said but not entirely? I had to take a break between them and the hives did nearly go away. I am gonna push them on the allergy tests tho, thanks anon. It's just morifying how dumb some doctors think you are when you voice actual concerns and problems.

No. 124740

i was on n off birthcontrol for two years…
i was on the shot but it made me gain a lot weight and cause me to have the worst depression ever.
then i switched to the pills.
the last time i was on the pill was July. i'm thinking about going back on it again but i want to know what brands are good…
i don't have insurance, so i always pay out of pocket💀 i use those BC delivery services!

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No. 49328[Reply]

Alright so there are these makeup / skin care threads but I didn't see any PS one yet it's something that's mentioned a lot at /pt/ and /snow/.
I got a nose job some years ago and I'm VERY satisfied with the outcome (feel free to ask me questions about rhinoplasty if you have any concern about it). RN I'm looking forward getting jaw surgery done but I don't have much information about this procedure in Europe. Any advice?
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No. 124329

Unusual question, but are you anons aware of countries/places/offers where they remove moles in bulk for a smaller price? I'd like to laser some moles away because I get many new ones each year even though I use sunscreen and all, but here doctors ask for at least 150+ for a very small mole, it'd be insanely expensive.
I've heard that in South Korea they do laser removal for cheaper prices, I wonder if it's true.

No. 124334

Getting new moles is a sign of skin issues, or even skin cancer. Have you got a doctor to look into the causes of it? That seems more important to address than the cosmetic appearance.

No. 124348

I'm confused as to how I should feel about my saggy breasts.
I've slept with a lot of dudes and I've never had any be mean or say they dislike my breasts even though they look like what's on the left with giant saucerplate areola to boot. Right now my current bf loves everything about my saggy body.

I think I'd prefer a tighter body but I just don't bother sweating it because I know I'll never likely to be to afford stuff like this. Although I suppose if I wanted it badly enough I'd find a way to allocate the funds.

Does anyone else here have mainstream "unattractive" features but are kinda on the fence about doing anything about them?

No. 124680

God I want so many different surgeriess lmao.

Lipo for the last stubborn 20lbs I've got that refused to drop (and my jaw, which for some reason refuses to not look fat??)

Shave down my nose bump, breast reduction and lift for my unfortunately huge saggy tits.

fill out my hip dip. Idk if there is a surgery or filler for it but it makes me want to die.

brow lift, chin shave, and tucking of extra skin.

but im poor so I guess I just have to deal w being ugly lol

No. 124737

The same as you. My breasts have always looked like that, ever since delayed puberty (had ED during puberty). I haven't had many partners. One said the second time we were together that I could consider fixing my breasts. It really hurt my feelings. I know they are not as bad as many breasts out there, and I have a good body aside from this one characteristic.

I dated him for years anyway. He would occasionally bring it up. I'm not keen on any surgery that has a potential side effect of losing sensation in my nipples. Breast lift (I'd want a reduction too) is a major surgery and the pictures of it turn my stomach.

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No. 124728

do you even know what ethnic means, anon?

No. 124730

this is like the 6th "post men you like" thread. i'm ashamed.

but yeah Zayn.

No. 124732

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Can they be models?
Although realistically I'd never date a model or celeb.
We hate men but are also thirsty.

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No. 114320[Reply]

In this looks obsessed world. Especially as a woman, honest people will admit our entire worth is based on our looks by society.
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No. 124683

im so tired of being ugly/plain. nobody is honest. guys and girls both ignore me in favor of my friend to the point I stopped bringing her with me to our local lgbt bar (she likes it bc she doesnt feel threatened in there, shes straight) and when i told her she basically cussed me out and came after all my insecurities (saggy breasts, big nose, weak chin, uneven eyes) and now I feel like I'm gonna be sick.

No. 124684

What a bitch, you're gonna be honest with that asshole and she's gonna come for you all like that? The troglodyte was already thinking that about you and knew the dynamics and got off on them from the jump. I hope you remove that sordid wench out your life.

No. 124685

ive blocked her basically everywhere, another friend of ours (mutual) dm'd me bc she had been bitching abt me to them.

It just sucks. she's very petite, big warm gold/brown eyes, cute disney princess type nose and wavy blonde hair.
I'm much broader (wide shoulders, muscular legs) with dark brown hair and grey-blueish eyes. It feels like shit to find out how she viewed me, and the fact that she likely ENJOYED it makes it so much worse, and now I'm wondering if she was talking me down when I wasn't right there to hear it…

No. 124686

Halle looked more feminine and youthful with a wider nose though

No. 124771

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>small breasts, like A cup, even though i'm not even skinny but average (170 cm/58 kg, feeling a bit fat…)
>flat ass
>bad teeth from years of bulimia (yes i managed to quit but i did irreplaceable damage)
>bad nails (ugly shape)
>manly sausage hands
>literally no eyebrows, they're fucking light grey, i have to dye them for them to stand out (makes me look even more bald and ugly)
>thin ugly light brown flat hair (grows so slowly and just hangs off my head, always looks dirty, i try to do highlights but i still look like shit)
>bad skin (not acne, zits and blackheads though, fine lines…)
>extremely pale, uneven skin tone with red splotches, burn easily and never tan (this makes me feel super fucking ugly especially, i lather myself in sunscreen and still i burn and look so hideous and trashy)
>HUGE NOSE, i have been bullied so much about it, it is wide and bulbous and the profile is awful, it makes me suicidal that i can't even afford surgery
>hooded eyes, i look like steve buscemi

>no friends, female or male

>have a boyfriend but that's it, i'm constantly paranoid he finds someone better, it would be so easy for him
>bf is the only man i ever dated
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No. 90960[Reply]

I can't be the only one who constantly has to deal with selfish and clueless guys who've obviously got their idea of sex from watching too much porn.

So let's share our worst and cringeworthies sexual experiences in this thread!
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No. 122449

> foreplay is longer than the actual thing (it would be good if it didn’t get boring)
> inserts finger in vagina but DOESN’T MOVE, thinks someone can cum with that, kinda feels like he’s disgusted with fingering
> guy makes the weirdest faces during bj
> doesn’t move an inch the whole time like a fucking starfish
> always goes limp during piv, keeps thrusting desperately as if it would help at anything
> can only cum with handjobs, that take forever to end

No. 122454

Lol this sounds like my ex. He hated foreplay, and would actually give up with his fingers inside me and pout. If I gave him direction to help he'd get offended and stop doing anything. Giving him a bj felt very weird, he had no reaction or movement. Sex was terrible, and he'd only go on top or thrust from behind for under 2 minutes before complaining about his back. Then when I would get on him he would just lay there unmoving and wouldn't even hold me or anything. Worst intimacy I ever experienced. He also acted entirely disgusted by any wetness afterwards and would shove me away. Like, why you so angry brah. I remember how sore my hand would be giving him a hand job, literally had to vice grip his dick and he hated if I looked at his face lmao.

No. 122459

I expected this to be about breakthrough bleeding..but that took a whole other turn!

When I was 19 I had a fuck buddy twice my age and the day that he got all weirded out by a bit of breakthrough bleeding was the day I realised that twice my age doesn't equal mature..

No. 122484

This made me so sad, it's my relationship in a nutshell. Why aren't these guys more excited to touch their gf and have sex with them? Why do they act so unexcited when getting head or fingering a girl? Makes me long for a pervert with a warped sex drive because at least they'd be happy to finger me. Fuck.

No. 124681

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when i was 16 I was in an abusive relationship
here's some stories

>this dude is my first, just fyi

>we're gonna call him fucko
>so, before this i've never really even had a serious kiss with a dude
> we chill and watch nightmare before christmas, as a dude and his goth gf do
>starts getting touchy
>we're together and im comfortable
>starts hardcore frenching
>help idk what im doing
>groping happens
>wtf wtf uh??
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No. 124333[Reply]

lately ive been feeling quite sad and lonely abt people irl and online seeming not to show interest in me, i feel like a waste of space

>ive started to browse 4chan, made a few post and even they dont like me

>if the lowest of the low dont care for me then clearly its a sign that im nothing

anyone else feel like this any tips on how to cope ?
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No. 124388

Annon I'm on the same boat but I'm currently in the process of learning that it's me who's doing isolating.
Best advice is to step back and look at yourself and the way you interact with others, are you really alone IRL or are you pushing people away because you feel that they/you are unworthy? Are you actually putting in an effort to contribute to conversations or are you trying to bring attention to yourself?
also like many annons above said, get a hobby it's the easiest way to socialize especially if it's art related. You can go to your local community center (if you're American IDK if other countries have something similar) and join a club or activity they provide.
There's also charity work like soup kitchens if you want that quick short term boost of serotonin for feeling like your doing something good for society.

No. 124416

Wanting validation is fine and all but 4chan anon really? Maybe you lowkey know you'll be treated like that and do it on purpose so it confirms how shit you feel. If you want sexual validation, go on tinder. Or go on those woe is me subreddits, maybe even make up a crazy story, it's pretty easy to bait redditors lol

No. 124588

I got a piece of advice: "people can tell when others are asking for validation, and it's a huge turn-off." I stopped (why continue if it's having the opposite effect of what I want, right?). It was difficult. Now I feel a lot better. I get validated just as often, and it actually means something to me. 10/10 would recommend. Godspeed, anon.

No. 124601

Validation and attention is all about ego. Humans are social animals. If you try and feed the ego, you'll find it's never enough. This is why I disagree with anons who say the right path is looking inwards and validating yourself. In fact, what your ego is trying to compensate for is lack of connection to the world, belonging.

Here's my advice: pull your head put of your ass. Stop being so self-centred. Go help at a homeless kitchen. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Waltz into your local firefighter department and offer to answer the phone or do paperwork. Ask your elderly neighbour do they need help with something.

If you spend your entire time gazing up your navel, no wonder everything will seem dark and stinky. There is a whole beautiful wide world out there that NEEDS YOU. Be the force of light. Help others. It takes so little, it means so much. It changes lives. It changes you. People who do that are the ones that make this world worth living in. Go make this world worth living in.

No. 124885

Hey anon, I'm feeling a similar way. If you were to drop an email or discord I'd be happy to chat (unless youre a scrote).

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No. 110716[Reply]

Has anyone ever seen yandere shit in real life? Or had an unhealthy obsession with someone that could be classified as such?

I had a friend talked all the time about wanting to kill her ex's new girlfriend. She would write extremely detailed rants on her tumblr about it and peaked when she attacked her in the hall one day and carved his name into her arm when she was sent home. Her parents ended up pulling her out of school and homeschooling her after that. I heard through the grape vine that she regularly attempted contact with him for several years after high school to the point where he had to delete all social media.
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No. 115148

I do have these kind of thoughts that I don't want anyone around my boyfriend and that if he would die while dating me he would be mine forever and not able to be with anyone else ever again.
Also the sweeter I am and not picking unnecessary fights, in case of breakup, will make him miss me so fast when new gf starts getting moody.

Then again I know I have issues and would rather be just sweet girlfriend who is not possessive or jealous. Or if i am a jealous i try to play it down little bit and seem cute about it.

No. 124576

Oh hey. Did you perchance browse the yandere threads on r9k around 2014?

Those were amusing.

It will fade. I've had obsessions last longer than that.

No. 124585

I had this boy in my class, who I was extremely in love with. Like trembling and not able to speak first love.
My friends told me I was a maniac, because I smelled his chair, wore his gim clothes he left in class, followed him home. I even put away a hair from him.(he used my hair brush)Ofc I hated his girlfriends so much that I wanted to stab them. So I carried a pocket knife with me. For obvious reasons.
He was an ass btw. Played with my feelings for 2 years,told me that he loves me but: we can't be together,because we are class mates!
I cried trough so many nights,but I did not hate him. Just his girlfriends. I despised them with passion.
Fun fact: He is a drug addict now.
I am in a happy, healthy relationship since 2017. No more maniac impulses.
I wouldn't call myself a Yandere tbh. But that was a weird part of my life for sure.

No. 124595

>It will fade
I've kinda been waiting for more people to talk about obsessive stuff

I'd love for it to fade sooner because its affecting all aspects of my life
I was depressed before I met them, but now it's really hard to try to will myself to do anything positive because "If this person who I gave my heart and everything to doesn't want me, who will?"
And I know that a relationship wouldn't fix everything, but it would probably make me less likely to obsess over one person if I could internalize the notion that anyone could love me romantically

but of course, it gets hard to do that if you're stuck on one person

[spoiler]as far as yandere notions, I do sometimes wish that something bad would happen to their SO and they would run crying to me, but I think about how sad that might make them feel (and how unlikely it is they would come to me) so I only end up feeling bad about it all

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