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No. 192694[Reply]

previously on Unconventional Male Attractions… >>181517

Post men who are unconventionally attractive, gross, unattractive, average, ugly,creepy/weird, or shameful for their reputation.

For lucky thread #11, we finally have Mr. James Eugene Carrey as the main thread pic!
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eddy is simply so cute

No. 209594

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he was cute

No. 209599

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tfw when no big and strong but also incredibly kind and gentle south Asian bf

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No. 209884


Is that young Elon Musk?

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No. 153246[Reply]

Unsure if you're actually straight? Actually gay? Anything in between? Ask for advice here.

Also welcome are "late bloomers" who realized their true selves long after their teen years who'd like to share their experience and tell others what signs to look out for.

Please be kind to questioning anons, no matter how "obvious" it might seem to you what they are.
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No. 208695

Many LARP as bi to gain social credit within certain social circles, I call them TikTok LARPers. They wouldn’t come near a woman sexually with a ten foot pole. There are actual ones, of course, but they tend to be the ones who don’t put much effort into broadcasting a certain identity at all. They just go for women right away.

Also, being bi can be appealing to men. Lesbian? Unshaven surly bitch! Bi? Edgy, sexy, just the right amount of masculine but still mainly feminine.

No. 208698

go back

No. 209552

Sorry to bump the thread but nonna's I'm so confused I can only see myself in a long term relationship with a man but when I think about sex it's only ever with other women. I can't imagine having sex with a man and enjoying it. I do get crushes on both men and women though, what the hell does this mean?

No. 209568

You're straight but the male gaze/objectification in porn has made it hard for you to imagine sex with a male

No. 209576

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No. 177478[Reply]

Does anyone else ever look at vintage diets? Some of them are nuts.

I seen one posted somewhere that was endorsed by Vogue magazine that was was just steak and a white wine for every meal.

Literally a glass and some steak for breakfast, just a glass for lunch, and then a steak and the rest of the bottle for dinner.
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No. 178319

Its shredded chicken mixed with jello, mayo, and vegetables, chilled into the shape of a football

No. 178322

>tfw an aspic loving american
It is so hard to find places that sell this even though it's GOAT.

It's really good, anon. Aspic tends to be a bit softer than jello. There's kind of a mental block when you first try it because it's a texture that's more common in sweets, but it's a lot like a less fatty pate imo. It's full of collagen too, which is so good for you. /sperg

No. 178325

Tbf this stuff is all far more nutritious than a lot of the stuff we eat today. There's so much protein and collagen in these bad boys, it would give us all strong nails and glossy hair

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No. 209522

Tretinoin does exactly this, as does hydrogen peroxide.

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No. 205780[Reply]

Fashion has been more and more focused on how you can stand out from others than look nice occasion appropriate.
Most fashion-oriented people Have the-main-character syndrome ( MCS ), I was into fashion to learn how to look decent for my body type/complexion/hair and to make it feel a little personal without standing out too much because only celebrities and teenagers used fashion to stand out but maybe that's growing up in a collectivist culture's doing.

Fast fashion is now bigger than ever (armchair estimate), there was a boom in online retail shops and trends are moving faster than ever in history which pushes more and more people with MCS to consume, most if not all subcultures got watered down into consumerism despite what the initial goal and values were.

The most accepted concept of anti-fashion implies is to stand out for being weird and unconventional but the better way to do it is to dress as comfortably and normie as you can, just be a nobody, save money, save face, go unnoticed.
The people get to know me organically without making many assumptions about my outer appearance, in fact, they're usually surprised when they do get to know me, it's nice to have your personality and interests private.

It's easier in the professional field as well as it's easier to not rub someone the wrong way when you don't rub them at all.

I've been doing it for a while, been repeating the same outfits for 3 years now with an addition of a few new pieces, I have about 4 main outfits and I mix and match between and they're all focused on comfort and practicality, best decision ever and the catch is that no one ever questioned it, no one ever asked anything and I live with a clear conscious knowing that I didn't embarrass myself wearing something that was trending last year and is no longer in style.

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No. 207914

I have way too many clothes, most that I don’t wear, but I can’t bring myself to get rid of them. I’m too emotionally attached to them, I’ve never really worn them and I don’t like most of them but also I feel like I’ll hurt someone’s feelings or (irrationally) hurt the clothes’ feelings if I get rid of them?? I prefer having a small wardrobe of dependable clothing but I have too much that I just don’t wear, should I bite the bullet and get rid of them or start wearing them to dodge the weird hyperempathy thing?
My hair used to be long (covered my boobs) and it’s very very thick. I always got an undercut and asked the stylist to thin it for me. I’m not sure about long hair threads but there’s a general hair advice thread on /g?

No. 207922

I got rid of most clothes I never or rarely wore and I really can’t remember most of them. I felt the same way but once you just do it then you don’t end up missing them.

No. 207927

>the weird hyperempathy thing
So I'm not the only one then… I wonder if it started with treating my stuffed animals as living beings for too long. Now I have a hard time "hurting" inanimate objects' feelings just like you, shit's so weird.

No. 207935

Sounds like you need some Marie Kondo in your life. In her decluttering book, she describes a method of thanking your things in order to let them go.

No. 209446

great topic, i love this! if you're trying to declutter your closet, keep your local domestic violence/homeless/emergency shelter in mind or see if you have a local Buy Nothing group before donating it to shops. i just buy exactly what i know i'll wear from secondhand shops: 100% cotton/linen shirts, sturdy jeans, thermal shirts in neutral colors, basic tees, long skirts, and nice cardigans/sweaters. that comprises probably 90% of my wardrobe. other great tips are learning how to mend your own clothing or repurpose old textiles, like for rags.

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No. 136699[Reply]

ITT: post characters/actors that you had a crush in your youth but may or may not have any feelings for now

mine was Trey Parker
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No. 209356

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Terra from teen titans.
also scrolling this thread suddenly reminds my memory of Duplica from pokemon, and the overly porny fanfiction I found with her and misty.

No. 209359

Me too, even same age, and when my sister (who watched the movie with me) asked me if I liked the movie I said no because I didn't want her to catch on kek.

No. 209380

omfg, yes. I loved her arc so, so much, and tbh I'm still impressed they let her be such a genuine fuck-up and also still worthy of forgiveness. Still have a thing for grungy blondes…

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No. 209438

OH MY GOD I loved mindy, couldn’t tell if I was attracted to her or wanted to be her when I was younger

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No. 185795[Reply]

post your handbags, nonnies
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No. 207673

it's the khloe heart crossbody bag in red tartan.

No. 209183


brbing to my nearest John Lewis! I hope you can get it in a sale soon, >>207172 !

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killstar has so many cute bags

No. 209341

Does anyone have recs for cutesy bags that work for larme kei, which aren't overpriced Katie tote bags or MILK?

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No. 70049[Reply]

Post ringspo

What gems do you think are worthy of an engagement ring besides diamond?
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No. 202591

>can't afford the band yet
>the diamond really set him back

I get wanting a nice ring, but at this point your just letting jewelry companies exploit you.

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My fiance and I would both like plain wedding bands. I noticed some sites don't offer 4mm bands for women at all. Is 3mm the largest width that is still feminine? My hands are fairly average in size. Can anyone weight on the comfort of a regular dome vs a low dome ring?
My fiance has big hands. What size band is going to look right on his hand without being too much?
Can anyone recommend a retailer in the US? Normally we'd go to stores, but things are a bit different in our location right now.

No. 203657

me and my husband just got new wedding bands from zales that I was really happy with the price of, less than $300 for both together, yellow 10k gold. based on your pic if you want a thicker ring I would go any larger than 4mm. I didn't notice any difference when I was trying them on between the "comfort" and "non-comfort" options, but I also went with a 2mm ring, and I'm willing to bet if you go larger it will make more of a difference. my husband got a 5mm ring which doesn't look too small because his hands are more long & thin, but that's the absolute smallest I would go for a guy and if you say your fiance has big hands I probably wouldn't consider anything smaller than a 6mm

No. 203659

Nonies I’m pretty sure I’ll be going with a yellow gold ring and no diamonds, but can’t decide between a ruby and sapphire gems.

Ruby feels more romantic, vintage, historical, mysterious almost. Sapphires are beautiful and found in every color, but how do I choose which color?

How did you guys end up deciding your gem/color?

No. 209338

Ended up going with lab grown diamond (1 carat, F colour, excellent cut, S1 clarity) as diamonds are the hardest and least prone to scratching and it's something I will wear for the rest of my life. I wanted a ruby but when I looked into it I realized that there are way too many issues that could arise (some use fracture filling to hide imperfections, or heat treatment, which makes the stone more brittle, most mining is extremely unethical). Natural untreated rubies are waaay more expensive than diamonds actually. My bf was fine with any price but I wasn't sure if I wanted a red stone that could clash with clothing. My birthstone is sapphire but again I started to realize coloured stones are less versatile.

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No. 62165[Reply]

Post loser ex-boyfriend (or ex-gf for gayfags) stories here.

>Online neckbeards you met in chatrooms at 15, that one autist you depression-dated when you had no self esteem and then couldn't shake off, the lanklet dude who played xbox all day and couldn't hold down a job and forgot your birthday. Vent or share funny stories ITT!
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No. 209248

Every guy I've dated has been anal obsessed. My biggest regret in my last relationship was going along with it once… after that he never stopped bugging me. You think you're doing something nice and it actually creates some fucked up sense of ongoing entitlement in them

I sometimes used the excuse of my ibs to get my ex to just shut up about it but worst of all… that was no deterrent to him?? Sick

No. 209249

oh my god, yes. sometimes I would say that I hadn't done any prep and was worried it would be gross, not even necessarily trying to get out of it, and he just said "you know you don't have to deep-clean your ass every time right?" like bruh. one of those times I ended up going along with it and he got shit on his dick like I fucking told you man. for being so anal obsessed they really have no clue what goes into it, even before this the prep alone made me start disliking it a little. never again

No. 209303

>bring it up later and he acts like I accused him of rape
He has a guilty conscience. I am sorry he did that to you anon. Good thing you dumped the pig.

No. 209309

Super into anal but I didn’t want to do anything anal related and told him that. He stuck his finger in my asshole during sex. This fuck is a nurse! I felt so violated and scared. He was like 6’5. He also talked about wanting to jump off a building because of his divorce. Made me listen to depressing sad songs on the car rides. He said if I didn’t cry to them I was heartless. WTF was I thinking anons? It was more of casual dating not bf but still

No. 209372

yeah he got super offended and started saying shit like "you could have said something at any time" and just tried to make me feel bad for bringing it up at all. he's a loser and i'm glad to be rid of him.

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No. 192203[Reply]

The mother wound, or "mommy issues" as it's more commonly referred to, is something that's frequently attributed to men in popular culture, but it can also deeply affect women. I think it would be interesting to have a thread for women who have experienced abuse or neglect by our mothers to vent about how it affected us and share information on how to work through this trauma as an adult. Not intended to be a mommy hate thread, just a space to support each other and discuss this phenomenon.

>What was your relationship with your mom like as a child?

>What's your relationship with your mom like now?
>Have you noticed how her abuse or neglect has affected your relationships with yourself or others? If so, how?
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No. 207568

ayrt. It took a long time. I got a job that involved customer service so I had no choice but to force it. It was brutal for the first while, spilled all kinds of spaghetti because I was socially retarded. My coworkers hated me and thought I was mentally disabled. Sometimes it felt physically painful to force words out. This was Phase 1: Exposure Therapy lol. After a while I got more and more used to pushing through the anxiety and it got easier. Once the anxiety got to a moderate level instead of extreme I was able to do small talk and short scripts I'd memorized, but still had trouble communicating anything I hadn't practiced. I think of this as Phase 2. Once I got more confidence/exposure with the scripts my anxiety started shifting into a low/nonexistence level and now I'm at a point where I can communicate with almost 0 anxiety and no mutism.

Granted I'm still a fucking autistic robot, I didn't become a normie and I don't have a super active social life. But I can communicate comfortably and there's no anxiety so I'm a lot happier.

No. 207576

I'm the first anon and I'm living with my father who's nicer but also not helpful at all and I kinda wish someone would just swoop me away from this hellhole. I'm going to try and use any smidge of family connection I can to enter my desired industry, I can't take this shit anymore

No. 209213

Why do so many women I talk to have a mom that chose a shitty man over them?

My mom met a man on OKCupid, he was married to someone else and then he got with her. He was abusive and controlling. He started out as annoying and made us uncomfortable yet she insisted that he was our real dad and she made my 5 year old sister at the time call him daddy and we didn’t even talk to our real dad, so right off the bat we don’t like this man. A few years later he’s a full blown abusive asshole who she argues with he’s a cheater and he watches teen porn, at some point he cheats on my mom with a 19 year old. My mom even gets into an argument that me and my sis overhear about accusing him of being atttracted to us, all these fights we assume they will end. She gets kicked out of the house every now and then. She cheats on him with a bunch of guys and we have to stay with them some of them are blatantly creepy and prey on me and my sisters. My mom always accuses us of trying to steal them from her, and wouldn’t let us wear shorts around the house or tank tops.
we told her these men gave us bad vibes and she disregarded it. She doesn’t care about us, she doesn’t care about our safety. We were teenagers ffs. Anytime my stepdad is mentioned she cops out and uses the “I was in an abusive relationship” excuse but what about all those other guys? We had many chances to escape him but instead from 13 to 18 I had live with an asshole who liked to yell and berate us and make us cry which on reflex is disturbing because my mom told me that he got boners whenever she cried. I don’t get why anyone would do that. I have such resentment for moms with stepdads that their kids don’t like

No. 209229

My mom was the better one of my parents. I always considered us close and when I was a teen she got cancer. She died when I was in my early twenties and I think that's the most painful thing I'll likely ever endure. I loved her to bits, I still do. I don't like saying anything negative about her.

A few years ago while in therapy though, childhood neglect came up. I have very few memories of my childhood, there are alot of blanks. I listen to other people talk nostalgia and I can barely join in. I think 2 different therapists over the years actually started talking about childhood neglect with me. Both times I started to feel these overwhelming feelings and I abandoned therapy as I couldn't cope. I suspect that my first few years were bad and that's why I have so many blanks in memory. My mom seemed depressed in general and never addressed it or sought help. I know that around 8/9 and onwards we were attached at the hip but something was off before that and I can't put my finger on it. I just know I hate trying to think back to that time in my life. Just trying to think back before 8 sends me into a weird state. The older I get the more my brain bugs me about it though. I want to remember all the genuinely very sweet times I had with her but I know theres something else lurking underneath.

My dad was always distant, he liked my brother but he views women as these hyper emotional alien creatures so he's just a write off. He can't connect with women full stop. Surprise surprise I had weird feelings around my gender a few years ago and he hit the roof when he heard that. The phase passed in time but now I'm a 'strange woman creature' again so fuck him. I can't win. I have no parental love left in my life. Ultimately I think my mom went through a period of bad depression (bad marriage prob didn't help) and during the most vital years of my development I wasn't being provided for emotionally by either parent. My mom got better in time whereas my dad never did. Then I lost her.

No. 209251

My relationship with my mother was never great. She was frequently really emotionally abusive with me, just the most stereotypical mean girl bullying you can imagine, but my mother and for as long as I can remember. She was especially nasty about my looks and being shy and would constantly make fun of me and make cruel comments. I wouldn't say she was exactly neglectful (when it came to material objects she could be pretty generous, actually), but I couldn't really go to her with any problems or issues because she would just mock me about it, either in the moment or at some later point. I always got the feeling that she just didn't like me at a very fundamental level and because of the way she acted towards me I ended up disliking her.

She died a few days ago and I feel really strange about it. It is very hard for me to think of any really good memory, at best I just think of minor moments of kindness, usually her giving me things but I still mostly just remember her cruelty. The night before she died she called to have a last "conversation" with me which was actually a lot of ranting at me, that I never liked her and she mentioned random little things like not calling her on her birthday once. She was pretty out of it, probably on a lot of pain medication, and she did say a few nice things but it was mostly her typical self pity and acting like I was always against her.

I had long thought that I would bring up her past behavior and ask her to apologize to me (and my brother/stepfather as she was hideously abusive to them) but I didn't, I was just quiet. I don't regret keeping quiet, exactly, as I don't think saying something would have helped at all and I wanted her to die in peace, at least.

I feel very sad that we will never have a moment of understanding and the chance to have a real relationship is now gone forever. I always wanted her to like me and say nice things about me (I lived for any random little compliment she rarely gave me) and now it'll never really happen again. it's just really strange.

I'm sorry for you loss, especially so young.

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No. 198824[Reply]

Have any of you ever dated down/up (Dating someone much less/more attractive than you)?
I apways understand the down daters do it for control, is that accurate?
There’s a guy I’m really attracted to whom I feel is quite a but out of my league (I’m in good shape and not hideous, but I’m also not super beautiful either and very weird/autistic, I’m certainly never “the hot girl”), but despite that I think he may be interested in me. We haven’t been on a date yet, but we talk for hours and hours through text and I really like spending time with him (I know him through a mutual friend and see him IRL quite regularly). However, this guy is GORGEOUS and I’ve never felt so compatible with someone else’s personality before, and I feel like someone’s pulling a prank on me. Usually I’m “the weird/autistic girl” that all the boys ignore/mock, and suddenly my dream dude can’t stop texting me.
Could it be that he just wants to be friends? I thought guys ignored girls they don’t want to date? Could he be willing to date down so I’d be a desperate gf?
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No. 209083

My boyfriend is really smart and I'm really really fucking dumb. I joke about it all the time but I'm super insecure about it. I always struggle with remembering things and I get frustrated and angry whenever he asks about my money management or whatever because its annoying that he looks down on me intellectually, but he's right to. I just focus on my looks, I can be pretty if I can't be smart, but I think he's underwhelmed. He's not expressive at all and always strikes me as cold. It sucks to feel beneath somebody like that, I'd love to feel equal

No. 209098

I wish you didn't joke about it anon, in a way that's justifying your bf's terrible treatment. He sounds like an insufferable emotionally constipated ass and this dynamic where you're okay with him looking down on you is toxic. Remembering things and money management are skills that aren't even really related to intelligence, one is a rote trained ability and the other is its own entire topic that plenty of college-educated people still struggle with. In any case a partner should be patient and willing to help with kindness if there's something you want to improve, not act cold and condescending.

No. 209222

I'm glad I'm so happy and I scored so high that it seems like a larp

No. 209237

Seconding this anon. In my experience, any man who acts like your bf does isn't smart, he's a controlling dick who needs to hide his LACK of intelligence by preying on women he thinks are "dumb"/can be made to feel that way. Remembering things and money management are 100% skills anyone can learn, not the result of innate intelligence. You are not stupid, anon. And I strongly suspect he's not that smart. You deserve someone who treats you with warmth and kindness.

No. 209240

Nona please be honest with yourself. I don't believe for a second you're dumb, nor do I believe your bf to be as smart as you're saying he is. He's reinforcing your insecurities, making you feel stupid on purpose so he can exert control over you and feel superior. He's feeding his ego at your expense. You deserve to be with someone who respects you and treats you well.
Please work on loving yourself a little more. Maybe start with leaving this pathetic egomaniac.

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