>>563486Thank you. It's been pretty rough haha but I do feel much better now! But no, none of my friends shunned me at the time. They were all very supportive and kind of unsurprised by it if iirc. Most of my friends when I came out were some flavour of lgbt/queer and immediately started using my new name/pronouns. My mum initially was kind of terfy kek but then she read up on it/I convinced her, which now makes me sad because everything she said to me ("why would you ever want to be man, women are so much better" / "you will never feel or be treated like a man and will be isolated") was true. Makes my heart hurt.
What's funny is now I'm detransing my friends are clearly uncomfortable and if I spoke about how I actually feel I'm fairly sure theres a couple who might shun me kek. Woke queer people genuinely don't know how to process someone detransitioning unless you frame it as "retransitioning". Literally these are people always going on about how listening to the lived experiences of trans people is sooo important, unless of course that experience is negative lol. I basically just say that I don't feel that transition worked for me, I still felt like a woman and that I can't help that I feel like that. It clearly makes them uncomfortable because the things that were making me feel like a woman are related, unsurprisingly, to biological sex. But again I stress that's just how I personally feel, I don't know how other trans people feel (though I highly suspect many feel the same as me, or are just delusional lol). One of my friends keeps suggesting I'm non-binary or a feminine man and am too obsessed with rigid gender roles, even though I explicitly state I'm detransitioning into a masculine woman, I dont want to shave/wear make up etc. The other keeps implying I'm reducing womanhood down to having a vagina/getting pregnant/having piv sex, which I'm not doing - it's just those things were constant reminders of my biological sex and are things that women experience and not men lol. Ignoring them made me feel delusional, recognising them made me feel like a woman. Talking to older/not terminally online normies is so refreshing because they'll just be like "Oh that sounds horrible it must have been really hard to live as a man and you're right you don't act very masculine" instead of the philosophical "well what is a man really?" shite I get from my woker friends. So a
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