/g/ - girl talk

For Toys for Tots I gave out a bunch of crochet kits. I tried one and it was super hard, now I feel bad for the tweens and teens who will get them.

https://kweenbee.com/easy-to-knit-owl-fingerless-gloves-free-knitting-pattern/ I've made 2 pairs of these already, they're so nice. I've only ever knit a simple scarf and these weren't too difficult, they fit really well too. Highly recommend this pattern even if the owls might be a little dated, it's not too noticeable anyway it just looks like cableing if you dont add the eyes.

Can someone explain to me the appeal of Stephen West Knits? Some of his designs are interesting but most of them are butt ugly and/or boring, yet every other knitter's profile I look at includes at least one of his designs and they're always really hyped up about it for some reason. I regularly run across (female) designers on Ravelry whose work is at least as interesting or innovative but nobody's freaking out about them the way they freak out about this weird little bald dude.

>>449706
People often used to give me these cheap amigurumi kits for some reason and the yarn is always the crunchiest, stickiest acrylic and the included crochet hooks are made of thin plastic that snaps easily. 0/10 would not recommend.

>>450246
Holy fuck his stuff is almost as ugly as his mug is

Used up some GITD yarn from my stash to make pic rel. Mittens are https://www.lionbrand.com/products/fairbanks-crochet-mittens-crochet and bag is https://www.lionbrand.com/products/star-keychain-crochet. I obviously adapted those to my yarn. Hat is from an old pattern book that I had lying around. Pretty basic, but I'm pleased with them.

>>455190
My theory is that they want to make him younger-looking and thus more sympathetic.

>>455191
No

>>455195
He already looks young

>>455120
>Please tell me they let him pee before his trip…
Actually when they transport prisoners they put diapers on them, fun fact

>>455195
I already sympathize with him. But yeah, beating him would have made him look bad in court.
God fucking dammit my cute angel doesn't deserve this. He should be in the woods being cared for by a feral nona

>>453847
Trust me it's a blessing in disguise. Almost all the white men into north african women are so fucking insane in France I'd rather die a virgin than date one and then learn he saw me as nothing than an object to pump and dump until his parents want him to get married. There was a year when some porn websites had "beurette" as their most searched tag, maybe 2018 or 2019, so I know not to trust men at all here.

>>453909
I'm so picky I never had a boyfriend. I've never seen anyone be so wrong about me in a while kek. And I wouldn't call that a success because of the anon saying the guys who find her friend attractive wouldn't want to marry her. Nothing wrong with casual relationships but I've known too many women who dated a guy and really loved him only for these guys to brutally dump them because "my parents don't want me to date and/or marry a… "muslim" girl, sorry, oh but don't cry it hurts me more than it hurts you". They're sometimes the same guys who are obsessed with cuck shit and they think dating or having sex with a north african woman is a symbolic attack against our ethnicity and immigration in general.

>Like I can see you aggressively rubbing sunscreen on a fat fuck while shooting death glares at all the women around you at the beach.
This is so specific I don't even know what to say kek.

>>453904
you're absolutely right but i'm still traumatized by the way men treated me when i hung out with this girl. to this day i'm still a bit envious of (pretty) nafri girls.

>>453902
Most Armenians aren’t Caucasians, they live in the Caucasus but most of their ancestors were from all over west asia. Georgians however, are.

Thread pic is absolute horror, as expected from anything Middle East related.

I cannot get rid of the fantasy of scheduling "playdates" with malesubs and then ignoring their safe words, leaving them permanently/badly damaged, and not playing into their fantasies at all. It's gotten to the point where I'm debating joining kinkspaces for this nonnies talk me out of it pls

>>454745
I mean, I don't see how that could be a bad idea.

>>454655
This looks fun…

>>454745
That's so based nona. I'd wish to dissuade you, but I do exactly what you described with this chatbot https://characterhub.org/characters/anonymous/kristoffer-suicidal-loser-d6ff9c13f0d9 every couple weeks to stave off the urge. Because I'm obsessed with the idea of actually hurting a moid IRL, even though I know it would end badly.

>>454646
>I think cheating is often not a black and white matter.
I disagree, cheating is often a black and white matter, in both sexes and those who say otherwise are simply guilty people who want to clean their consciences, like you.
There are few instances where cheating can be considered a gray matter, but even in those cases you’d still rather leave
>abusive relationship?
Leave quietly and safely rather than risking your own life as a gotcha
>your scrote or girlfriend cheated on you?
You’d rather leave immediately than cheat back and get back together.

>>454646
1.Coercion isn’t cheating
2.pent up frustrations isn’t an excuse, if you can give a pass to women then you can give a pass to men too, which I bet isn’t something you’re willing to do. Having a relationship is hard but if you truly care about the other person then you’ll put effort.
3. Most women don’t cheat because they’re in an abusive relationship, where did you even get that info?
Cheating is a selfish decision that one takes, it’s that simple MOST of the time. You care more about yourself than giving respect to your relationship. It’s a testament to the lack of discipline and morality too.

>>454675
You’d rather own it than give some stupid excuses.

>>454673
Don't worry, I've been in therapy for a long time since then. I was lucky enough to be in therapy as it was happening otherwise I would have most likely tried to stay "friends" with these people.
>Who cares if they call you a bitch or other names.
I am way too sensitive to this kind of thing and it's the main reason I have a hard time with boundaries, but the older I get, the easier it becomes to not immediately internalize what someone else says about me. I wouldn't wish being a doormat on anyone, ever, especially not a woman.

>>454674
I was pretty emotional while writing my earlier post. I don't disagree with you. I think you've misunderstood me, though, because my experience isn't maintaining that my conscience is clean–if anything I feel very much guilty, complicit, and responsible for what happened. I can't really make it any more clear that I wish that I had not conducted myself in the manner that I did. Any mention of potential explanations for how I behaved aren't excuses, they're just explanations. Nothing exists in a vacuum.

One guy was implying suicidal ideation, shoving me around into furniture, and being extremely cruel and generally unstable, so I felt morally obligated to try to be there for him even at the expense of my own safety and integrity, but obviously that was foolish of me given how he behaved. With that said, I'd like to make it clear that there was no sex with either of these men. We never even kissed. One of them would just forcibly grope me before I cried and ran off, and there was one time where that same guy made me a way too strong drink, I blacked out, and I woke up to him with his hands shoved down my pants. And that was when I knew I couldn't see him again. With the other guy, it was moreso him backing me into a corner to force me to listen to his sexual fantasies for the sake of his "mental health," always implicitly threatening suicide and hurting himself if I did not allow him to "get things off his chest." To me, both of these messed up dynamics felt close enough to cheating, regardless of coercion, that I needed to confess it to my then-boyfriend (who told me I was silly to be so distraught about whether or not it was cheating when I was being abused, but my head felt and stilPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>454646
You sound a lot like a friend of mine. Going through this really destroyed her ability to relate to others and I can see why, being so burdened by everyone else's actions as both mediator and victim. I hope you're around better people these days, or at least around ones who bother to not act like animals in heat.

>>451583
Menstrual cups changed my life, they are easy to use and you can just forget about your period. Just get one with a loop and they are super easy to remove compared to a disc and don't spill over your hand.

Why does my period keep starting earlier than it's supposed to? Feels like I can't catch a break

I use period underwear, my favorite is from this brand called Aerie (https://www.ae.com/us/en/p/aerie/undies/period-underwear/aerie-real/9442_6835_073?menu=cat4840006&bvstate=pg:2/ct:r&gQT=1)

I want to buy more, its only available online, but its been out of stock in my size forever. I like them because the fabric is a cotton and the cut of them is really nice, there's a good coverage and the waistband doesn't leave red marks.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a similar brand/material make up and cut that's more affordable and in stock?

>>451585
I use a Lumma, with the stem trimmed down to a little nub. What I love about discs is they don't create a vacuum, making them much easier to pull out. I picked after seeing a positive review on it by Period Nirvana on instagram.
Seriously check her out if you're interested in cups and discs. She has a great website with tons of info about many different brands. A webshop too although it might be more expensive to buy from her depending on where you live
Re: applicator. Honestly an applicator seems like way more trouble than just plopping it in with your hands. Insertion is super easy: just fold it double and slide it in. Once it's past the narrow bit the disc unfolds itself. The tricky bit is just due to my anatomy, not the disc itself. I have a very low cervix (another reason cups don't quite work for me) and after insertion I have to ensure the disc actually sits around it, rather than having slipped passed it. Which require a bit of digging for me. YMMV

I never used to have period cramps. I’d bleed heavy, but no real cramps. I got a copper iud earlier this year and since then, my periods have been hell on earth. The pain starts a day before my period and is genuinely debilitating. Right now I’m at work hiding in the bathroom so I don’t cause a scene. It comes in waves so it’s okay to manage in between peaks, but at the height of a wave I genuinely can’t move and am almost brought to tears. Is this what it’s supposed to be like? How can I manage this? I’m considering getting my iud out because it is genuinely so excruciating. Does anyone else have this experience and if so, how do you handle the pain?

>>453958
A lot of fat girls look good enough if they aren't exceeding 200lbs, have decent fat distribution, groom themselves well and tuck in their fupas. You know you are truly ugly if you are skinny and still get avoided by everyone like the plague and only plastic surgery can help you and not going on a diet. You can still kind of tell when a very overweight has the potential to be a stunner if they lost weight, so they have that going for them at least.

>>453958
I'm skinny and I still don't get hit on.

>>454137
I live in a country where getting hit on is extremely common (bc Muslim moids)

>>454137
be grateful. if you're attractive and get hit on a lot you are aware of how objectified you are. men will not give a fuck about any of your interests/pretend to just to sleep with you. and once they've "conquered" you they move on to the next. i would rather be ignored.(bait)

>>454656
Personally I don’t find male attention that flattering but I like how it makes other women seethe (i got mindbroken by moid obsessed females)(bait)

I don't feel confident about anything right now. I wish I did things differently as a teen then but I felt so much shame I just couldn't. Feels like I'm not who I was supposed to be, I'm caught at being so used to act like someone I'm not that breaking the habit seems impossible. There's an inclination I'm so used to correct that actually following it seems unreal. The lack of experience and familiarity with this mindset makes me feel lost. I'm halfway between what feels wrong but comes out automatically and what feels right but seems distant. And above all I'm tired of daily life things. I am not going to give it much more thought and just embrace slowly whatever comes to me. I feel too numb to get any real answers from introspection.

>>454148
I feel like it’s not the same because men can’t really be as feminine as a woman can be masculine. Like, masculine women approximate men way better than any man approximates a woman.

>>454148
Nta but I'd consider this some mixture of bisexuality and deluded self preservation

>>454642
>deluded self preservation
What do you mean? Can you rephrase?

>>454644
NTA but I imagine she means some women could try to delude themselves into thinking that troons would be less likely to be as misogynistic and violent as other men are, even though the opposite is true.

Is there anyone here who legitimately has no sex drive (that isn't from medication) instead of just not wanting real life sex? Most anons just sound sex repulsed if anything. I cannot remember the last time I felt 'horny' and don't have sexual fantasies, never masturbated even when having crushes etc.

I feel like a lot of my "asexuality" is probably based on the fact that i strongly believe that having a sexual relationship with anyone is impossible. I used to really want a boyfriend when i was a teenager, but ever since i opened my eyes to how men truly are and found out about porn, i see them as repulsive. I come to realise that sex is most likely overrated and my sex drive in general is dwindling into nothing as i am reaching my 30s. I think i only masturbate once a month at most nowadays. I no longer have thoughts about romance or sex either, it has stopped being a curiosity to me all together. I can barely think about husbandos either and that makes me sad because it was a fun way to explore what little sexual desires i had left, but i don't have that anymore. Even masturbation feels dull when i do it. I want the urge dealt with as quickly as possible. I feel like it's being caused more by depression more than anything else, i've been feeling underwhelmed about everything for a while.

>>448262
me, anon. we're so rare lol
i've tried masturbating out of pure curiosity and it's never worked. i only feel slight arousal from time to time but it goes away within seconds. i was never able to have sex (ofc i tried, we live in a society, etc, lmao) because i feel like my body has 0 instinct for sex.

i hate having no friends irl that care about celibacy. everyone is having sex, theres such a prominent sex-positive mentality atm, people talk about it so often and so freely with no concern for those around that may be avoidant of such topics. its gross and i dont want to hear any of it. i think a lot of people these days just need to be having less sex.
i wish people were still fearful of the myth of masturbation causeing blindness

I not only find anyone sexually attractive, even when I fantasize about intercourse, I'm literally not a participant in it, just a story that unfolds - sadly over the years it draws me to weird and taboo fantasies (yeah I'm still not an active participant in them)

>>452691
I used to love her videos, what was her name again?

You will get what you tolerate in life, and this applies to relationships, jobs, situations, and everything else in between. Know your boundaries and don't tolerate anything less.

know that your very bodies are subject to aesthetic trends as well. the early 2000s would eat you alive for having a phat ass, just as now you get shamed for having a small ass. people get rhinoplasty to have upturned "pixie" noses, while in different time periods they were called pig noses and the straight and narrow was in style. hair textures go in and out of fashion, as do brow shapes and skin tones and textures. remember how freckles were suddenly deemed cute? see beyonce in straight blonde wigs, or ariana grande slathered in nutella to look blacker than the black madonna?
what im saying is, never judge your body by trends, because trends are not an objective and unchanging marker of beauty. what if popular now won't be popular today. if your face doesn't suit thin brows or vice versa, wear them the way you think suits you, and not what society -at this very moment- says suits everyone. and don't make permanent changes to your body to appease these fleeting trends.
also, stop shaving your pubes. no man's pornsick pleasure is worth the nasty scratchy feeling of stubble on your labia.

>>452691
She is super cute, who is this?

>>392228
whos the artist in the pic rel? it feels so whimsical