/g/ - girl talk

>>436212
You don't have to trip, just microdosing works wonders for a lot of the issues I had, not only depression, but also anxiety, focus, energy levels, learning, etc. afaik ketamine doesn't really heal anything in your brain, but shrooms cause neurogenesis

>>436215
How do you do that? Could you direct me to some trustworthy resources about it?

I've been taking venlafaxine since june due to recurring depressive episodes, avoidant personality disorder and anxiety. Started with 37,5 mg. I felt like shit for the first two weeks, had headaches and felt like I was playing a third person video game. At week 3 everything kind of normalized. My inhibitions were kind of down and I wasn't ruminating about social interactions anymore and people noticed it at work. I now have colleagues that want to have lunch with me and I got better at socializing. I did not know that I had a personality besides being shy and insecure. I am now at 75 mg and the doctor said that we don't have to increase the dosage anymore. I'll probably have to take the medication for a long while due to the recurring depressive episodes (had them since I was 12). I am also seeing a therapist for the avoidant personality disorder. I do have side effects like lowered libido and night sweats but to me that isn't too bad and I've always had issues with intimacy so nothings really lost.

>>436040
no but I adore it for recreational use !!!

>>266731
came back to this as its almost our seven year anniversary and felt like adding more.

>each others firsts everything
>grew up where the women in his family took care of the money and thus i manage the money
>this allows me not to have a job and buy a house in my name paid off. plus huge savings
>spending six months in europe in total that he paid for
>i can unabashedly be myself and all my retarded quirks, he loves me for me and i truly believe that
>he finds me beautiful when im haggard and i know deep down he does
>i can be the most nasty bitch but he will still be in my corner and hyping me up
>honestly my biggest supporter and cant say enough when he is proud of me
>a hidden bleeding heart, he loves cats and helping other people
>emotionally intelligent, hes introspective and humble.
>he can read me very well, we are very synced up and he can easily tell when something is off
>our values and politics align so well
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>>433327
i'm very distanced from my ex nowadays so idk a lot about him but I heard he got arrested (temporarily) and fired from his job and I saw his old friends laughing at him and posting screencaps of him having meltdowns over them trolling him. so it sounds like he is suffering

>>433485
nona, this is so sweet. i hope someday to find a love like this. best wishes to you both, seriously!

>>433855
thank you anon<3 I hope you find the one that fits right in your life as well.(emoji)

>>433485
I'm so happy for you nonna. I'm an earlier anon in this thread and we're coming up five years and the honeymoon period doesn't seem to exist because we're still so deeply in love and the butterflies happen and I just know he's my forever person. I hate moids but he's made me realise there's a couple good eggs out there.

>>433853
Same, I love it when arrogant men realize it's their true place to be used and abused by women, and all the initial arrogance and hubris was just a cope. Feels very realistic.

>>432941
Can you give some examples nona? I'd love some inspiration.

Love to see men objectified for once. Glad they gave her a whole harem for her character episode ending.

I've been single a couple of months now after a very sexually boring 2 year relationship. He was fine, just always wanted fairly tender, vanilla sex. I like having normal sex, but when I get into sexless relationships (not my first, lol) I tend to forget about that part of me that wants other things.

So I'm watching ER last night, and at one point a character that I find sexy get's popped in the jaw with a glock. he's sitting in a car, the guy who hit him is behind him, talking to him while blood runs out of his mouth. He feels it on his hands, trying his best to conceal the pain he's in, though it's not much. he's then led into a warehouse where he's asked to put his hand into an old school vice, and is forced to nearly crush his own hand the way he buckles under the pain, the fear and dread in his eyes as he does this reminded me of the sadism I possess. I forgot how beautiful men look when there's blood on their face, when they're deeply in pain. It's reawakened my interests, and now I don't know what to do with it.

>>434938
Bad idea to go abroad because if you experience any issues after the surgery, you won't be able to follow up. Some people have extreme swelling that doesn't go down without steroid shots and you need to be able to get back to the doc for that. Also not sure it would be worth the cost just for bulbousness. Depends on how much it bothers you daily, I guess. Mine was super wide (wider than my mouth) and had a big hump so it was worth it for me because the change was significant.

>>436017
Am I illiterate? how was your nose tip wider than your mouth. I think that’s physiologically impossible.

>>436028
Not the tip, I meant the nostrils.

>>426333
Unless you’ve never had a baby, a totally flat stomach is possible.
If you’ve ever been pregnant or have been a fatty mcbutterchubs, or have a hernia a flat stomach a tummy tuck or abdominal surgery might be the solution.
I have diastisis recti (or however you spell it) from 2 pregnancies, and before the pregnancies I was super skinny, till I had 2 c sections, which I wasn’t told about binding or wearing an abdominal binder, so no matter what I had a “pouch” of fat, and no matter how much excersises, fat burning treatments, dieting etc I still had loose skin below my belly button, that made me incredibly uncomfortable and the diastisis recti made my life hell (back pain, incontience when sneezing, and inability to do regular crunches without my guys coming thru the opening) yuck I know!
It’s incredibly sad that cosmetic surgery is our only relief for this shit.
I’m getting my mini tuxk with muscle repair and I’m so nervous nonies

How tf do you fix monkey lips? Aka, long ass philtrum, deep nasolabial folds, and weird maxilla protrusion

>>304881
I just asked my mom for a Revlon one-step for Christmas. I have super thick heavy hair and straightening it makes me look like snape.

>>214370
I miss cute, fun bras too. Hot Topic used to sell bras like picrel with skulls and such on them. I haven't been able to find anything like this currently sold in stores. I've seen some like this at Torrid, but I'm nowhere near a 38+ band. Killstar maybe, but they're all flimsy bralettes. I want patterned bras with structure, as of now most choices of bras are boring curtain floral or basic bland.

>>214213
Short shorts for men.

>>435925
I don't know about this one, men are largely out or shape now compared to when this was in style.

cute accessories

How do you even deal with bipolar i? I just can't figure out how to take care of myself, even though I've been through a variety of medications and therapists. My last manic episode went on for months and I still don't feel fully recovered, and now I'm worried I'm heading toward another. I am at a loss here. I'm tired of being a total piece of shit, but nothing has helped and I've been showing symptoms for years now.

>>424696
I don't know how to stop it and I'm pretty sure my BP2 is now BP1, I was going to try other therapies since traditional talk therapy combined with meds is no longer enough… maybe dbt but I'm very bad at completing my lessons last I tried.

>>424696
you need a really, really good psychiatrist that you TRUST and A LOT of medication. i found out recently that manic/psychosis episodes can be so traumatic they give you ptsd. i know i have that because i play out my manic psychosis episodes in my head over and over again and just feel guilty and hopeless and insane. but it's not true. you're a good person and you can get better. medication is by far the best way to treat bipolar and you have to continue taking those medications for the rest of your life.

My depression is getting worse and worse. I'm losing all faith in humanity. Most people honestly sicken me. I dont feel at home anywhere, I dont fit in anywhere. I feel like an alien. I have a bf but he doesnt understand me at all and gets mad when I express any kind of negative feelings, he almost always makes me feel worse too because of how superficial and selfish he is. I wonder if I should just shut myself in my room forever.

>>435920
Throw the whole scrote away first

i've never had many friends, as my family moved way too much due to my retarded dad being unable to keep one job, and he always wanted to reinvent himself somewhere new. so, i don't think i learned how to properly socialize. my parents also didn't have that many friends, besides our relatives who we varyingly saw spread out across 3 countries. i got no model for how human relationships work.

my family spent time in ukraine, turkey (parents countries) and the usa (my birthplace,) and i was homeschooled for part of the times in the usa because we lived in a ghetto area but then i also just switched schools a lot. so i would definitely play with other kids when i was younger, however, i didn't really get close to them or see them outside of school because i didn't ever feel it was permanent or that i could get attached to one place. i just made up all these imaginary friends to entertain myself, and when i was like 12 i just started spending all my time on the internet and making friends online.

in high school i was painfully shy and i didnt really make an effort to talk to anybody. i probably seemed closed-off and rude, but i literally just didnt know how to start conversations with people. i used to wish people would come up to me and start talking to me, but i'd just be on my phone talking to my internet friends during the school day lmao. in university i hoped i'd make more friends and some people would invite me to do things at first, but it genuinely did not occur to my retarded ass that if i wanted to build friendships i had to talk to people actively and invite them to do things outside of just talking in class. i think a lot of people just thought i was uninterested as i never initiated anything, even though i always got excited when someone asked me to hang out, i just expected the other person to always do it.

i dated online as a teenager and had one cringe real life boyfriend because he was the first person to ever give me romantic attention in my life, but that lasted very shortly. i dont want a relationship tbh, i dont feel like im missing out on that. i do wish i had one or a few female best friends but thats just another thing i sort of daydream about because i dont think its logistically feasible without significant effort i dont care enough to put in lol

i feel like i do not think of other people that much and dont naturally feel lonely, because of this. like i said, i'd be really happy if someone asked mePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I cannot wait for winter. There is something so depressing about waking up on a saturday & sunday morning in the summer with no plans so, I just stay home and scroll the internet and watch tv shows. I have been watching sharp objects and I really relate to Amy adam's character, listening to music to disassociate, drinking alone, etc. That is what I did last night and what I will do today. I do not drink everyday though,just the weekend.

>>426493
I had a solid friend group growing up, but I became severely depressed at 18 and by the time I felt well enough to not cry in my room all day me and my friends had just drifted too far apart. I did have one friend who'd occasionally check in and hang out with me once in a blue moon, but I haven't seen her since last year. Asked her out a few times in the last year but she always made an excuse to bail, even when we were meant to go out for my birthday. She discovered Christianity so I guess I just don't fit into her life anymore because of my sexuality and (non-Christian) religious background.
I didn't make friends in college either because I dropped out after a few months due to my mental health issues. And now I've lost all my social skills. I used to be able to hold a conversation like a normal person but now I can barely think of things to say. Even with my one friend I sometimes hung out with our conversations had awkward gaps despite us being childhood friends. And when I do rack my brains forcing myself to talk I just annoy people.
I really wish I could go back in time and smother the guy who SA'd me as a baby or something, because if he didn't exist I would be a normal twenty something with friends, a degree, and no history of mental illness.

I grew up as a only child so I'm not sure if that contributed to living a lonely life style, but I have a problem with liking people. I've always had problems relating to other people. One time a girl in high-school saw me sitting alone and made a compliment on my jewelry. She asked if I wanted to be friends I told her no. Nothing was wrong with her, she seemed nice, I just didn't want to make friends. When people force their way into my life, I feel like I make excuses as to why I don't like them. Someone could say one thing I find off putting and I convince myself that they probably suck. Maybe it's a defense mechanism due to childhood trauma and abandonment? Like I just want to get it over with. I don't know. Sometimes it is incredibly isolating and I feel like I can't talk to anyone when I do have a problem going on in life. But because I don't really reach out I feel like a burden even considering dumping my feelings on someone. It's my own fault really.

>>434572
her being christian shouldn't make her not want to be friends with you cause of a different religious or sexual background, it comes down to personal reasons like anything else

>>428556
That's real crochet anon

>>428645
Aww thank you nonna! I should be able to finish my cat this week if I don't break my two remaining needles.

Any ideas for small projects I can make while on a long plane ride? Thinking of maybe gifting it to some friends I'm meeting with.

>>428607
Nonna I wish you could see the reaction this is getting from me. I am so mesmerized. I can't crochet or knit for shit but fate simply brought me to this amulet

Can I do pic related with elastic thread to tighten up part of a garment in stocking stitch? I just finished knitting myself a sweater vest that was supposed to have negative ease in the waist but ended up stretchier than intended so now it’s a bit baggier than I would’ve liked. I’ve only seen people use this technique in ribbed cuffs and necklines.

>>431791
What kind of pieces are you looking for exactly?

Lately I have been enjoying HOWTOVENUS's designs!

What jp brands are good for high quality materials? I like girly frilly styles like >>317137 but I'm not a fan of how everything is poly, I'm looking for pieces that will last a while. Kinda sad because I had a blouse from Ank Rouge tear open a huge hole inexplicably (in the wash?)
Also trying to get back into nanchatte after a while, are there any particular brands that stand out nowadays or is buying real uniforms secondhand still the way to go?

>>434969
Pink House

>>431377
I wear otome kei as well! The advice that >>431386 gave is very useful. Definitely avoid expensive resellers on places like depop and learn how to use Mercari.jp and a proxy service. I also translate the search terms I want into Japanese because that can pull better searches. I save links to all the listings I’m interested in in a big document with preview pictures, and then when I know for certain that I want to buy a handful of items, I do it in one go and consolidate the items into one package so I can save on shipping. Also save pictures of clothes/coords you like on Pinterest or look at old otome-kei blogs and see which brands they’re wearing— you can then search for those brands on mercari.jp and browse through listings. The filters on mercari.jp are also helpful, you can go into specific categories like midi skirts or cardigans and search for specific brands or colors you like.

>>434638
lmao hell no this is not a race thing. tall poppy syndrome is far more prevalent in the west. if anything asians expect excellence in every aspect of life: whether its looks, grades, career, partner etc etc, and praise people who do well and aspire to be like them. people in the west call such folk 'overachievers' (stupid term) and think asians are weird for wanting to be the best version of themselves.

>>434579
Yeah, but I always intuitively understood older Koreans were assholes to younger ones. Even growing up, my family was very insular and tribal, so they only ever concerned themselves with other Koreans, but they also only ever harshly scrutinized and judged other Koreans. And older people already tend to judge younger people as a rule. Combine that with extreme bluntness and it's all just very tiresome. Older Korean lady I know literally addresses me as cheonyeo instead of my name because I'm an unmarried woman (I'm a lesbian).

>>434656
AYRT Yes, this is exactly what I've experienced as well down to the increasing rudeness about my single status (also a lesbian) as I get older. I know this particular issue isn't unique to Koreans but it's insane how uppity some of the miserable women ~10 years my senior get to me about how tired they are with work and kids. Like sorry I didn't choose to marry a shit traditionalist Korean guy who doesn't respect me or do his part?
Do you ever disclose that you're a lesbian around Koreans older than you, by the way? I live in coastal America and I feel like a lot of the LGB community here is not understanding of the choice to stay closeted in part of your life. I come out to a select few of my Korean peers who a) don't have professional involvement with me and b) are going to be chill about it, but outside of that I really so no reason to make my life harder for myself by disclosing what I am. And I'm not ashamed of that even though people act like there's something wrong with me for it as an independent adult. The Korean community is so insular and gossipy that it'll just be a headache with no benefits.

>>434687
I am only out to my immediate family and honestly avoid a lot of the community element. I'm not sure how it is where you are, but in my area, the Korean church is the nexus of the local Korean community, so they sort of expect you to be Christian, even if only nominally. I find it's typically only the 50+ demographic who takes it very seriously, but I don't have the energy to figure out who I can disclose to without it turning into a piece of gossip over Sunday ssam.

Why are Asian moms all like "WAAAAAHHHHH REEEE WHAT DID I DO IN A PAST LIFE TO HAVE SUCH DISRESPECTFUL CHILDREN OH GOD SAVE ME FORGIVE MY SINS" and the child is a grown adult who "talked back" kek