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Discuss family planning, birth, pregnancy, conception, fertility, and any other baby-related topic in this thread.
Refrain from posting if you dislike children or are childfree.Old threads
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>>310091Same except I'm 30. I've been with my bf for 4 years and we absolutely can't afford a kid. I don't see how we could make it work at this point. My
abusive ex didn't want kids at all, so from that relationship I already kind of resigned myself to the possibility of it never happening… But sometimes it makes me so depressed I just cry. If this doesn't happen for me I know I will mourn it in my later years.
No. 310149
>>310091I'm 30 and planning to become a mother in 3 years, it's definitely difficult. I'm trying to adjust my life to make it easier for me when the time does come around to getting pregnant. My bf and I are making it an effort to start a savings fund. I've been fucked over hardcore for not having credit and I'm currently finding myself penny pinching as someone who makes about $10 more than liveable wage. I don't have a college degree, but this was a career I started in 7 years ago and getting out of it when I have a child is going to reduce my funds. I know I can't reach out for government assistance, that's a trap and will fuck me over. I can only think of passive income, I'm figuring out what I can start doing now and build up from there.
My best friend also wants to become a mother and she wants to so badly not work at all and it upsets me because it doesn't seem realistic and it's going to disappoint her. Like, I've discussed this with my bf and he says the nuclear family structure doesn't exist. Corporations and the government make it impossible for a single source of income to uphold a family. You have to be lucky to make more than $25+ an hour by yourself. The majority of people in my country can barely make $15 and on top of that less than 1/3 of my countries population has a college degree, and don't get me started on paying off debt from people who've completed AND attempted but dropped out of higher education.
I turn into an anarchist when thinking about becoming a mother, the government doesn't want us to have children, they hate children because they're deemed nonproductive members of society. School sets children up to get used to the corporate world and it's meaningless hoops instead of learning to live independently and sustain a healthy and less stressful life. Young adults now just turn to expensive services to do simple things for them because they were never taught and it's too scary and stressful for them to learn how to do these things now or they simply don't realize it's possible to do it by yourself or they don't have the time because of the corporate world. Many parents can't be there for their children because of funds. They send them off to daycare facilities and right there majority of one of your paychecks is gone. It's such a trap. The world we live in doesn't welcome children and allow them to be raised by their parents, only strangers. This is why I'm working so hard now, because I want to see my children, I want to be there. I want my bf to be there too. I want to homeschool them and teach them they can achieve many things using the tools of their own bodies. I want to give them beautiful memories of the outdoors and having time spent with my and my bf and their friends and family. I don't want them to be sucked into this corporate world filled with debt and no time for leisure. It's misrable. Truthfully, I can't change everything around me, but I want to have my child to also hold hope and have optimism for the world around them.
No. 310206
>>310149Agree 100%, especially with the last paragraph. It is truly sickening. In about 40 years there will be a panic about our aging population (in the US at least) just like there was in Japan. It's completely preventable but they will do nothing to improve matters.
My goal is to have a kid by 35. My boyfriend wants 2 but that's a pipe dream lol. Ideally I would like to take the first year off from work. I know it will be hard but to me it's worth the peace of mind. I'm generally an anxious and untrusting person, and can imagine that I'd only be worse when it comes to strangers watching my infant.
No. 310521
>>310486It's either this or they end up having kids way too late and then can't go have fun at birthday parties, trampolines, running around, etc because they're in their 50s/60s with teenagers
>Inb4 the "just take care of yourself dumbass" anon chimes inUnless you're an Olympian or something, the average person in their 50s and 60s isn't going to be able to keep up with high energy ass children, just because you're not literally disabled doesn't mean you'll have the time or energy to want to deal with kids and teens
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Is it just me or do doctors seem to use "failure to thrive" loosely as fuck now? I thought it was just me, from about 0-3 months my ped always kept pressing me claiming my baby wasnt gaining enough when she reached her birth weight before 2 weeks and doubled birth weight at 4 months, she has a double chin and was super chunky and it's like ??? Are you looking at the same baby? Anyway ped would kept pressing me to feed her 2+ oz after a full feed every 2 hours, which made no sense because she was already getting what she needed from breast. Today I saw a TikTok of women showing off these massive chunky baby claiming they had failure to thrive but like wtf? These babies aren't starving to death anytime soon. Is this just a way to push formula or something?
No. 310579
>>310577I feel like not enough people take up with Medicaid, it's quite easy to get and from my understanding , all children get it in most states,
you can get it for your children even if you make over the minimum requirement.
>Inb4 how dare you rely on government moneyGovernment programs are literally made to help us, only Americans would suggest something as ridiculous as paying taxes just to NOT take advantage of some of the couple of programs to help themselves
You're totally correct though, my MIL is a hoarder and kept telling me and husband to constantly buy shit as her best advice to his, "go buy swaddles, not 2 or 3 but 7 or 8, go buy 50+ outfits, etc". The best advice I ever received is to buy the basics (bassinet, diapers, changing station, etc) and THEN just buy what baby needs from there. If baby doesn't like swaddles hey at least you don't have millions sitting around, if you just end up EBF at least there's not a bunch of random bottles to clean, obviously just buy a single item that may be in needed in an emergency such as a single pack of bottles or swaddle because you don't want to be stuck at 3 AM and you're not producing enough milk to keep baby satisfied or they need a swaddle or something
No. 310612
>>310603I feel the same but you have to understand it's only like this in LONG term ones, like 4-8+ hours daily. College childcare involves only a 1-2 hours at a time unless you really jam packed your schedule, plus they're cleaner and better trained I feel and simply not around your child enough to have a long term influence. Trusted family members and friends would obviously be the first option but it seems like most American family offer shit tier support systems or they'll expect almost twice the pay of a daycare worker to watch your kids even for an hour at a time.
Cheaper facilities meant for full term child care are shit though, some of them are so expensive parents are actually losing money trying to put their children through it. I was in daycare and I resent it since daycare workers often act like children themselves
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>2 years have passed since we started trying for a baby
>still nothing
>blood tests are normal, pap smear is normal, hubby's sperm count seems normal
At this point I'm convinced my uterus is full of bees or something like that.
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so i purchased an amazon c shaped pregnancy pillow a couple of weeks ago but absolutely hated it. it was so bulky and took up like 3/4 of my bed, plus it got flat after a week of use. i really wanted a bbhugme but the price is insane to get it shipped to canada. i luckily found it on fb marketplace the other day for $50, and omg. it is so worth the money. you can adjust the firmness and position in it so many ways. i highly recommend it! try to find it second hand if you can
No. 311815
I hope this is the right thread to ask, apologies if it isn't. But did any of the moms here(who are happy to be moms and enjoy having a child/children) like the idea of pregnancy but were ambivalent or uninterested in the actual having a kid part, prior to becoming a mother?
I'm 30, married, we're both on board to start trying in 3-5 years, will get some tests done to make sure our junk is functional before that, yadda yadda. Not too worried since my mom had kids easily in her late 30's. And while I don't mind the idea of pregnancy itself now, I kind of like it even as I get older, I can't picture myself as a mother to a child anymore than I could at 20. I don't dislike kids, but I don't really like them either. I have no maternal instinct whatsoever. Whenever I have to hold a baby niece/nephew or a friend's kid the only thing on my mind is "oh my god don't drop it". Sorry if this is rambling, but did any of you feel the same way, but got the maternal feelings when your own child was born? Every happy mom I know irl said she always had strong maternal instincts and desired to be a mother.
No. 311857
>>311751Some women's bodies simply reacts poorly to
toxic men in their life. Plenty of women in relationships with shitty men often start getting health problems from stress and there's often different omens that you need to catch, infertility being one of them. Some women are simply blessed with their bodies being able to reject shitty men from their life
No. 313731
>>313610This thread and the past few ones is a hotspot for bad advice kek
>Oh your baby can't have breast milk? Obviously you're not producing enough go buy breast milk>Can't afford kids? Just dig yourself into credit card debt>Poor? Just have kids! They're not that expensive>Have kids too late? Just take care of yourself It feels extremely creepy and predatory, and it seems super unfair young moms (who are now on their own more than ever thanks to our shitty gen x and boomer parents) that we get terrible and harmful guidance and are lost when most of us can't rely on anybody but ourselves. The fact that family coming to help out with a newborn is a privilege for most young moms instead of the norm is baffling. I just feel so cheated that I was basically camping in bed with tons of water, diapers and baby clothes due to not being able to walk around due to pain since I was all on my own but it's basically the bare minimum for parents to even stay and help the first couple of days?? Fuck me
No. 315238
>>315091I still have my second one
>>315056I haven't had a period in years due to being on an iud and now I'm on the pill so a little concerned about that
>predatory companyso is it not worth it?
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Has anyone gotten a small gift for after the birth for their partners? I was hoping to get my husband the more premium version of his favorite whiskey, but he didn't know this so he got it himself to share with people as they come by to meet the baby. He's been so wonderful throughout the pregnancy, and was an absolute saint before then too, so I'd like to make him feel a little comforted and taken care of, too. He's such a minimalist that something like a cozy robe would be an annoyance, and I wouldn't want to spend too much, since then he would feel bad instead of appreciative.
No. 315489
>>315485ntayrt and i have no stake in this game but you're absolutely psycho, letting other people you trust, (usually family) watch your baby is normal, and has been normal and even expected in most cultures around the world historically. It allows for better long term functioning for the parents. Hence the grandmother hypothesis, etc.
t. anthropologyfag
No. 315541
>>315489There's been a new wave of people (women and men) who give weird faketrad parenting advice (only to women though) that is basically that women need to have their babies attached to them like a kangaroo would, and they only ever seen to pop up when another person watches the baby so that way the mom can do something she wants to do like go to class, eat, take a shower, etc. Even if the other person is the father. It's funny because postpartum doulas will come in and watch the baby for 4-5 hours and it's bizarre to me the internet experts think they know better than doulas who have been taking care of newborns and postpartum moms for years and even decades
The worst ones are the ones who keep trying to shame moms out of postpartum care by calling it selfish if a woman takes a few extra seconds to ice her freshly ripped vagina or properly clean her c section.
I swear to God these new sexist ideologies are becoming more and more harmful to women. It wouldn't surprise me if FGM started becoming supported in the west
No. 315898
>>315895Anon I didn't have a child but my mother told me I was like that as a baby, hated eating and drinking, and on the rare occasions I ate well I would throw up and she'd lose her mind over it. I can definitely understand how you feel and how heartbreaking and draining your current situation must be for you. But please always remember that you're trying your best.
Do you have any professionals or something like that that you can contact for help? Any female friends or relatives whose baby struggled from similar issues? These issues are super common unfortunately and babies are just not cooperative in most cases. Please don't feel like you're not enough or doing something wrong, most mothers go through this.
No. 315928
>>315878Use freshly pumped milk (frozen milk has increase lipids which makes it taste soapy) and then try a few bottles (comotomo, Evenflo, Phillips naturals, etc) to see what baby likes or if it's old enough try a sippy or open cup. Also glass bottles make the milk taste better
Make sure baby doesn't have reflux either or else it could cause an adversion and if it does put rice in the bottle and get a reflux prescription. You can also put sugar water (look up how to make baby sugar water) to get baby to suckle
No. 316007
>>315901Immediately postpartum I used Depends silloute disposable underwear and I swear they were a lifesaver! Dermoplast and frida icepads were my bestfriend. For my son, we swaddled with muslin blankets because they were cheapest. If you're breastfeeding a boppy is really useful. I ordered 2 button up gowns off of amazon which were super cozy and nice to use while giving birth and afterwards! Don't spend a ton of money though because they get stained
As a newborn and infant these have been used daily:
-A bouncer/ Swing / Floor seat.
-A portable sound machine
-A utility cart for diapers/wipes/breastfeeding supplies
-A rocking chair
-Blackout curtains!
-More burp cloths than you think you'll need
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can we talk about strollers? i just bought this bugaboo cameleon set off of fb marketplace for $250. it comes with everything: a bassinet, bug/sun/rain covers, drink holder, plus some other things. i really like it and kind of bought it on a whim because the couple were very sweet and it seemed in really good condition. i have no idea about strollers, although i know bugaboo and uppababy are popular. what strollers have you bought?
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>>316254We have a Maxi Cosi Street+ I am very happy with it except the front wheels get a bit fucky when its been muddy and dirt gets stuck in the mechanism. I would probably buy something with bigger and better wheels next time. Other than that its been very practical.
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>>317250Samefag to add I use only water wipes with nothing added to them and this cream.
No. 317533
>>317520another
victim of baby fever succumbs to the horror of motherhood. RIP.
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Since the childfree people in their thread are sneering about us having issues with things like breastfeeding and all the other difficult things that come with having a baby I'd just like to say that despite how hard it is sometimes, I feel so overwhelmingly blessed by having my daughter.
I never thought I could love anyone this much and every time I see her smile and hear her do her cute baby giggles I am filled with so much love and happiness. It's so totally worth the sore nipples and backpain to watch her explore the world for the first time and learn new things every day an learning more about her. Whenever I get like 2 hours away from her I miss her already after a couple of minutes and can't wait to hug and snuggle her again. Not even when she is sick and crying all night long have I ever wished not to have had her. Seeing my husband as a dad also made me love him even more and appreciate him in a totally new way. I love having my own family and I wouldn't change it for the world.
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Women in IVF sex selection groups are straight up deranged.
Like I just want a girl child because I’ve seen how misogynistic and awful teenage moids get especially now in the era of ubiquitous porn and meanwhile these women are like 'I want a girl because BOWS and CLOTHES and PRINCESS TEA PARTIES' or 'I want a boy because my moid won’t be able to bond with a girl because he can’t take a GIRL hunting or teach her to fix the car'
I wasn’t aware that there were so many people obsessed with gender stereotypes to this degree before I joined these groups, or at least I’d have assumed that they’d mostly be extremely religious and opposed to IVF
No. 317677
>>317673Genuinely what is the point in paying all that money to choose your baby’s sex when there is a chance they will Troon out anyway?
How about don’t be a shitty parent to your kid and expect a perfect daughter because that’s what you paid for?
No. 317741
>>317640Ayrt, thanks! We currently live together but it’s only a 1 bedroom apartment. I don’t think our parents will be disappointed or unsupportive, I just worry mine will be concerned. They’re boomers who got to do everything the “right way” in that they got married and bought a house before starting to have kids. I think they’ll just worry that we’re not in as stable of a place as we’d ideally be.
Could you elaborate on needing less money than you think? Everyone I know goes on about how expensive everything is and I’m already trying to think of ways to penny-pinch, such as maybe getting reusable cloth diapers but that seems gross lol.
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>>317741cloth diapers are fine honestly, the poop is quite washable before they start solids. However you should look into maybe getting a monthly box or something that gives a better deal than buying them packet-wise. You could clean the butt with water and mild soap and keep the water wipes for maybe nighttime/when outside. A baby carrier/sling instead of a stroller. I didnt need a baby bathtub, just hold the baby on your lap while sitting down in shower while newborn, later when they can hold their head you can just hold them up while standing in the shower. In the "airplane" position it was easiest to clean them imo. Clothes if not gifted can be bought for peanuts used on like fb marketplace or thrift shops. If you breastfeed, you dont need bottles or formula. Pacifiers are absolutely optional. You dont need a changerpad let alone a whole furniture for it, I just got 3 bed mats that are waterproof (pic related) and just put it under the baby whereever she was at to change her. Instead of a crib you can put a baby mattress on the floor (make sure to air out daily) or co-sleep. I know this is frowned upon a lot but it worked for me. Oh and I made a diaper cream out of coconut and bentonite clay. Generally you dont need to bathe the baby that much either and just a mild baby soap like from burts bees is fine. No need to get all sorts of oils and lotions and whatnot. The only thing I would get that can also be seen as unnecessary was a bouncer, just so you can leave the baby somewhere while you get some cleaning or cooking or whatever done. However this can also be optional, especially in a 1 room apartment. Make sure that all the things you get are cotton/natural though this is the only thing I would watch out for. Its not worth it to cheap out on fabric and get polyester (plastic).
No. 317832
>>317798Honestly same. The last thing this world needs is more moids
I have one daughter now, and would like more children. But one of things holding me back is the risk of having a boy. I wish there was a way to only have female babies, apart from aborting once you know the sex
No. 317887
>>317767Thank you SO much for this very thorough response. I will take much of it under consideration when we really start to put all the pieces together.
>>317792Turns out I was worrying too much, unsurprisingly. I broke the news and they’re over the moon. My dad is a little worried about how we’re gonna handle everything but ultimately everyone is very happy and excited.
No. 318076
>>317980>>317980Did you not read?
>asking for pictures of her private parts >private partsNo normal person asks to see a fetuses vagina specifically. She also as a weird habit of making sexual comments towards children. Talks to her daughter about sex often, demanded that she needed to watch her daughter have sex for the first time. And also comments on high schoolers breast size. Sometimes when we were watching movies she would just randomly out of nowhere start mentioning every woman's breast size. She asks high school girls if they ever had sex with a woman. She has two assault charges towards her children. I cut her off when she asked for pictures of my daughter's vagina, which was a good choice since months later husband and his sister started revealing that she had molested both of them by claiming she needed to check their private parts. Who's insane now?
No. 318347
I am
>>317520 and I’ve settled into the idea of having a baby. While I was scared shitless a week ago of being pregnant, now I’m terrified of something going wrong. I was experiencing strong symptoms (heightened emotions, hot flashes, intense hunger, brain fog, sore boobs) but suddenly don’t feel pregnant. My symptoms have lessened and I know I shouldn’t complain, but I’m getting worried something may be going wrong. Is it normal for symptoms to come and go so quickly?
No. 318850
>>317250try doing a baking soda bath for this.
"add 2 tablespoons of baking soda to warm bath water. Soak baby's bottom for 5-10 minutes once or twice a day."
>>318347How far along are you?
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>>317250Update on the diaper rash, it's gone! We ended up buying Aquaphor because I read it was good for diaper rash and also just let her hang out on a changing mat without a diaper for 10-15mins at every diaper change so she can properly dry and get some airflow and sunlight down there. It helped really quickly.
No. 320496
>>320309Seconding the Magnesium (specifically glycinate) recommendation. OJ also helps absorption
>>320464Could you return it early? It wouldn't hurt to have if you do end up exclusively pumping. I personally have no use for a pump and prefer to hand pump if needed but i know everyone feels different. Electric ones make me feel sewercidal.
>>320227Those people are genuinely retarded and if any of them are moms they get off on being the sacrificial mother archetype.
If the babies needs are met they can cry so you can take a shit or eat something. It will be fine.
No. 320799
>>320786https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/folicacid/faqs/faqs-safety.htmlApparently there aren't any confirmed health risks reported by the cdc so far. I wonder why your doctor wants you to be on so much. Either way, you're technically not supposed to start any supplement without your doctor's approval. All the best
nonnie!
No. 321093
>>320862Thanks anon.
>>320981Do you have any genetic disease that runs in the family and affects men? You could use that as a reasoning. I think choosing sex is illegal in most countries but clinics usually let that stuff slide if you keep quiet about it just like how some abortion clinics abort babies past the official time using made up health issues.
I don't think it's bad ethically, does your husband/wife agree though? That'd be the biggest concern imo. I hope it works out for you and it all goes well.
No. 321105
>>320981I live in a Eastern European country and I’m planning to go to Ukraine to do IVF with donor sperm and sex selection. I’m a lesbian and I want a moid-free home kek
I’m probably gonna go to ISIDA clinic in Uzhgorod. From what I’ve seen one cycle costs 7-10k €. There are Facebook groups related to IVF sex selection but they’re mostly populated by weird Christian nut Americans with 7 sons who 'want a girl because they’re obedient and love princesses' or alternatively 'want a boy because their hubby-wubby is unable to relate to girls' so you have to deal with a lot of retards while trying to find information.
No. 321363
>>321201Do you just spam this to random people?
>>321296The statistic you're talking about how been debunked multiple times dumbass
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>>321296Can’t tell if you’re a scrote or a fucktarded boymommy but either way you’re living proof why women shouldn’t have sons kek
There are no benefits to male children, they’re more likely to have all mental illnesses except depression, more likely to have ODD and behavioral problems, more likely to commit crime, less likely to finish school and get a degree, and nowadays all are misogynistic porn addicts starting at an early age. Also all metrics show that lesbian couples are better parents than straight ones, mostly due to the absence of a scrote. Cope and seethe.
Also abortion is based, especially if males are being aborted.
No. 321370
>>321296Not involved in this and not a lesbian but those statistics don't show abuse between women but rather how many lesbians have been abused in total by either men or women.
>>321201Nta but kek. Why are some of you so obsessed with anons getting IVF? Bringing up religion and god on a site that's %50 porn and horny posting is so ironic.
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>>321369>The results indicate that children raised by same-sex parents from birth perform better than children raised by different-sex parents in both primary and secondary education. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0003122420957249
>Results revealed no significant differences between the 2 groups of children, who also compared favorably with the standardization samples for the instruments used. In addition, no significant differences were found between dyadic adjustment of lesbian and heterosexual couples. Only in the area of parenting did the 2 groups of couples differ; lesbian couples exhibited more parenting awareness skills than did heterosexual coupleshttps://psycnet.apa.org/record/1995-17278-001
>According to their mothers' reports, the 17-year-old daughters and sons of lesbian mothers were rated significantly higher in social, school/academic, and total competence and significantly lower in social problems, rule-breaking, aggressive, and externalizing problem behavior than their age-matched counterpartshttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20530080/
>corporal punishment is less commonly used by lesbian mothers as a disciplinary measure than by heterosexual fathers>Since the sexual abuse of children that occurs within the home is largely perpetrated by adult heterosexual males (Balsam et al., 2005; Turner, Finkelhor, & Ormrod, 2007; Peter, 2009; Putnam, 2003; Shusterman, Fluke, McDonald, & Associates, 2005; Zink, Klesges, Stevens, & Decker, 2009), growing up in lesbian-headed households may protect children and adolescents from these types of assault>When compared with age- and gender-matched adolescents of the National Survey of Family Growth, the study offspring were significantly older at the time of their first heterosexual contact>None of the NLLFS girls reported pregnancyhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3210350/ No. 321377
>>321296Do you think those surveyors went around door to door asking “any domestic violence going on in here?”, jackass? The study asked couples if either of the two had
ever experienced domestic violence.
“Lesbian relationship” doesn’t mean “never dated a man”, there are fully homosexual women who took years to realise it. You don’t need more than a braincell to see domestic violence is a male crime. The more women in a couple, the more likely you are to encounter a
victim of domestic violence.
Your interpretation is like saying girls are rapists because you’d find a higher percentage of SA
victims in a girls’ school. It’s a disingenuous narrative created to tarnish women and say that sweet evil men aren’t that bad, “you’d beat your wife too if you had one uwu”.
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>>321908I dont like my stretch marks and that my boobs are huge and sort of saggy now but husband is very happy and I can actually orgasm vaginally without having to rub my clit during sex. So you win some and lose some. But you likely won't have as much sex, as by the time you get the baby to sleep you're gonna be very tired as well. Or get ready to get jiggy with it while having your little one watching you and babbling.
No. 323971
>>323270Thank you so much
nonny, this is exactly what I've been looking for! I browsed myself a while ago but I never found any video that I thought was based in actual evidence, and IRL everyone was just remarking at "Dont do situps until it's closed, do other exersizes" without getting into details of what to do instead!?
I hope other nonnies see this post because as you said, this really should be a part of the basic information you're given pp. I wanted to have this info at the hospital damn it, before I worked out in the wrong way for weeks and got nowhere. Our bodies are bloody amazing for being able to go through such a huge change, to give life to a whole other being, and come out looking even better!
No. 325145
>>324063I'm also considering it but its not exactly the standard here. In the private health sector in my country the rate of c-section is 76%, which is absolutely insane and reflects on our OBGYNs mindsets about birth. My husband would prefer labouring in hospital as he's worried something could happen to me during labour. From what I've read, the need for interventions in labour go down significantly with planned home labour, but the risk for neonatal death varies. Some studies indicate that the neonatal death rate is similar to hospital births, while others state its higher than hospital births. Things can go wrong in any labour, but it makes sense to me that labour would go smoother (if you're low risk) in a place where you're comfortable, allowed to move, not subjected to a ton of cervical checks and suggested interventions to get you out of the labour ward as soon as possible at your doctor's convenience. On the other hand, if you're unlucky enough to have a serious unexpected complication, you're essentially screwed during homebirth. I'm really scared of being pushed unecessary interventions and being rushed through labour (emphasis on unecessary, I know interventions are needed sometimes), especially being a first time mom who statistically might experience a longer labour.
No. 326913
>>324063I had a home birth yesterday! My care provider was a practice of certified nurse midwives and I live about 7 minutes from an excellent hospital. The main downside was zero pain relief. Plenty of birth centers in the area offer a nitrous oxide for pain, as does my nearest hospital, but that's not something legally permitted in home births where I live. In the UK and probably other countries, this is an option, so that would make home birth more appealing. Nothing could have prepared me for contractions, but if I was dead set on and unmedicated in any setting that would have been the same. It was a lot more planning and preparation for me, and if my Nigel wasn't totally on board and helpful with the planning it wouldn't have worked. It was nice to be in a familiar setting, and much easier to feel confident in sticking to what you want without getting bullied by a provider. They took care of cleaning up, thank goodness. I did worry about the neighbors hearing, though, especially around 3am. It was so good to be in our own home and own bed after. I wouldn't recommend it if you live somewhere rural where a hospital transfer would take a long time, or with a provider with lesser certifications. Home birth is definitely a choice that I feel privileged to have been able to make.
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I just found out I'm pregnant with a boy. How do I raise him in a way that won't result in him trooning out or becoming an incel?
No. 327315
>>327309Lots of outdoor activities, hiking, playing in the woods taking him foraging, hunting, gardening, tending to animals etc. Skills and hobbies like woodworking, knitting, sewing, drawing, music etc is also very good.
Kids who grow up around and to appreciate nature tend to end up more adjusted from what I can tell. Gives them less instant stimulus, calms them and provides a good sense of achievement, as well as builds their muscle and hand eye coordination in a healthy way. Make him appreciate and like things rooted in the real world.
No. 327369
>>327314I know a lot of kids with no dad who didnt troon out or incelize, while there are kids with loving dads who did all that and then some…
Don't let the internet raise them, be involved in his/her life, maybe homeschool PLUS after school sport or dance so theyre not a loner with no irl world experience.
No. 327371
>>327363If this was true then we wouldn't see so many shitty kids who have a seemingly loving mom and loving dad who are desperate for help
Although the mom being naive and letting a stranger come by and *olest the kids out of sheer stupidity does have a bad outcome yeah
No. 327625
>>327371It's not just about being loving, but the parents have to set a good example and guide their children too.
>>327466Stop using "feminine" as a negative term. Just say they are childish and weak.
No. 331804
>>331800in exactly the same situation. i really want to become a mom soon, but men are horrendous.
sending support your way.
No. 332602
>>331959There is risk but not that much. The biggest concerns is simply planning your babies life around yours. Please do not bring humans into this world if you do not bother thinking about how you will plan for them into adulthood.
I see this among gen z parents as well where a lot of them are trapped or cannot grow because they are too worried about their parents or their parents never helped them prepare for adulthood (because they're worried about their end of life plans themselves)like what usually happens
No. 332621
>>331843At the local elementary schools, there are so many parents who are in their late 30s, well into their mid 40s. It's honestly rarer to see parents in their 20s, and with elementary school you're dealing with children in the 4-10 year range, so subtracting their child's age to theirs reveals a lot of them had children in their late 20s and 30s and a lot of the elementary school children reveal they're only children or even the oldest child of the family.
I think it's more of an effect of the current state of the economy and the general culture surrounding parents and actually giving birth to children. The workforce is unnecessarily bombarding the average employee with so much stress, making claims of needing more productivity to make everyone look busier than they actually are because they've employed someone who doesn't know how to do the bare minimum and would rather not discipline the individual, let them go, and hire someone else, but have everyone else make up the work for them. More employees are calling in, thus more employees are being called in to cover. Money is scarce, inflation is rapidly increasing compared to the raises we're getting. Where's the time to properly prepare for having a child when you don't feel like you're making enough and/or you keep getting called to cover because you'd like to make a few extra bucks? I hear so many people say, "There's people who have kids all the time and when they're young", but really… where are they? It's really not that common anymore.
No. 333334
>>332624Not a mother, but I've read several reports that when some women have had a baby, the baby's father becomes incredibly jealous of their own child - to the point of violence against the woman.
If you are trying to babytrap a man, all I can see the best outcome being him leaving and actually paying support, after that all the other outcomes are miserable.
No. 333571
>>332621Yes. I'm so tired of TikTok moms that are like 22 with 4 kids (most of the time they just post thirst traps). I know this one mom who's a major cow. Her entire page is thirst traps and her showing off being a trailer park mom of 4 while making the most basic crappy food possible that's very little on the child's plate. Ofc you can't question it because you'll immediately get bombarded with "stop mom shaming, she knows how much her kids eat she knows best" or some super weird and rare hypothetical that would totally explain why she isn't feeding her kids well other than she can't afford to
Tbh I have no problem with lower income moms. Living in a trailer with 2 kids at a young age? Sure, 3 is pushing it. 4 your just extremely stupid and irresponsible with your pregnancies (back to backs are dangerous) and don't care about the quality of your child's like as long as if you get clout
No. 333572
>>332621Yes. I'm so tired of TikTok moms that are like 22 with 4 kids (most of the time they just post thirst traps). I know this one mom who's a major cow. Her entire page is thirst traps and her showing off being a trailer park mom of 4 while making the most basic crappy food possible that's very little on the child's plate. Ofc you can't question it because you'll immediately get bombarded with "stop mom shaming, she knows how much her kids eat she knows best" or some super weird and rare hypothetical that would totally explain why she isn't feeding her kids well other than she can't afford to
Tbh I have no problem with lower income moms. Living in a trailer with 2 kids at a young age? Sure, 3 is pushing it. 4 your just extremely stupid and irresponsible with your pregnancies (back to backs are dangerous) and don't care about the quality of your child's like as long as if you get clout
No. 333574
>>332621Yes. I'm so tired of TikTok moms that are like 22 with 4 kids (most of the time they just post thirst traps). I know this one mom who's a major cow. Her entire page is thirst traps and her showing off being a trailer park mom of 4 while making the most basic crappy food possible that's very little on the child's plate. Ofc you can't question it because you'll immediately get bombarded with "stop mom shaming, she knows how much her kids eat she knows best" or some super weird and rare hypothetical that would totally explain why she isn't feeding her kids well other than she can't afford to
Tbh I have no problem with lower income moms. Living in a trailer with 2 kids at a young age? Sure, 3 is pushing it. 4 your just extremely stupid and irresponsible with your pregnancies (back to backs are dangerous) and don't care about the quality of your child's like as long as if you get clout
No. 333576
>>332624Does not work. Remember, men can easily leave and you will be the one now miserable because you don't have the man you were obsessed enough with to do this for and are saddled with the reality of a child you wanted for the wrong reasons. Think of your future, and thinknof the hypothetical child's future. Not worth it.
>>333334This is true, my own aunt had major drama immediately after giving birth because her husband was blowing up at her and having tantrums out of jealousy. Her sisters all had to intervene and camp out at the house all because this man was jealous of a mother tending to her 1 month old newborn.
And in case anybody has preconceptions about the circumstances under which this might happen, this was an upper middle class family in America where both parents where 35+.
No. 333854
>>333576If a moid gets jealous because of a newborn he is automatically a terrible dad, husband and person. Even just jealousy aside. Your wife got ripped open either via c section or vaginal birth and shes doing enough work to make you jealous? He shouldnt even have had time to think about jealousy
>>333574I thought about this with MrsMidwest and Abby&Matt too. They probably only do it to prove how trad they are by keeping the woman barefoot and pregnant and have no regards on how this will affect the baby either
No. 334306
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Anons now that laundress has been recalled what are some better alternatives for that delicious smell? I like noodle and boo and dreft doesn't hit the same like it use to
No. 335752
>>334306unscented free and clear is the best to use, enjoy the natural smell of your baby
>>335322I really like GUND and jellycat personally. Also nip brands are good.
I would be careful with etsy bc there's a million chinese drop shippers now.
No. 335762
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More of a Mommy talk I guess but we took our daughter to build-a-bear for the first time for her birthday and she loved it so much.
She picked out everything pink and "shparkly" and a tutu and I love her for that its so freaking cute.
When we got back I was in the bathroom and I heard her run up to her daddy and say "Daddy I'm happy"
She's just so sweet and I'm so happy we can do nice things for her like this
No. 335766
>>335762Oh my god how I want a daughter so badly.
I have such bad baby fever and I'm only 22, I've been trying my best to avoid the feels too much but I'm SO eager. I've had baby fever in the past pretty badly but this is like NEW. Oh how I want children.
No. 335770
>>335766Its the hardest and most rewarding thing I've ever done.
Though definitely never rush it
nonnie i would never want this with just any moid, you have plenty of time.
No. 335977
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When did everyone start getting normal vaginal discharge back postpartum while breastfeeding, and was it an immediate precursor to ovulation resuming?
No. 337122
>>336514Swings, bouncy seats, bassinets and things like that yes.
Definitely clothes.
Would avoid mattresses and car seats like another anon said. You can definitely get a stroller secondhand but a stroller with infant carseat combo is a good thing to look into.
I honestly have like 4 strollers lmao but i think its good to get some kind of small lightweight stroller once the bany is sitting.
No. 338338
My partner drives me up the wall sometimes when he’s taking care of our baby. I’ll breastfeed her, then he’ll take her to change her nappy while I go for a shower, and by the time I come back downstairs he’s giving her a bottle. ‘She was hungry’ like hell she was! She either wanted to play and be entertained, or she was getting overtired and needed to be helped to sleep. And then I have to pump to make up the lost milk, which means by the time she wants to go back on the breast there’s very little milk and she just gets angry. Like please man, just spend 10 minutes making funny faces at her and telling her she’s a very smelly baby, she loves it.
And on a similar note, it is so clear he doesn’t see nursing as actually feeding the baby. We had to bottle feed formula and expressed milk at the start because she was too sleepy to nurse properly and my supply dipped quite a lot. So I spent weeks pumping, forcing her on the breast, eating all the right food, drinking all the right drinks, just to be able to nurse her and we finally got to that point! All for him to say ‘shall I give her a bottle’ when she cries after nursing. Pal, she cries for more than just hunger. She’s gassy as fuck. ‘We really need to give her a bottle at night.’ Why? I nurse her to sleep and she sleeps for 7 hours? What is the issue? Why do you want to wake her (and us) to force a bottle into her? Let us sleep!
This turned into way more of a rant than I intended, sorry nonas.
No. 338354
Has anyone tried Pumping Pals, Pumpables, LacTek, or any of the other "comfort flanges" on the market? Are they any good? Are they worth it? I only pump once a day right now, but it's not the most comfortable experience even with the correct flange size.
>>337331Congratulations nona! Enjoy your little family and all the precious moments! May your daughter have a lifetime of health and happiness!
>>338338I am upset on your behalf reading that, nona. It sounds like your husband has no understanding of the effort you put into feeding your daughter breastmilk. If you have any free visits left (you should have 6 a year if you are in the US, regardless of which insurance plan you have) you could try having a lactation consultant come by while your husband is home. This place
https://lactationnetwork.com/ lets you input your insurance, location, and desired appointment times and matches you with a consultant. One thing they do is a weighted feed. Don't mess it up like I did and feed the baby right before the appointment (my issue wasn't intake level, but I was still curious to know how much she ate) because you want your husband to see that the baby is getting x ounces when you breastfeed. Usually a lactation consultant sends you to fill out an intake questionnaire asking what your concerns are, and I'd suggest telling her all of this.
No. 338363
>>338338I feel you. Not the same exact issues that you have, but the same general attitude of my husband just pisses me off. He thinks he knows everything better despite not doing any research whatsoever on parenting or babies while I have spent 10 months reading absolutely everything. So he will make dumb suggestions like "Just let her cry herself to sleep" at like a couple of weeks old and doesn't understand why I won't just let her cry and then tells me I am not allowed to be frustrated with the baby ever because I "won't even try his advice".
Whenever it's his time to watch the baby so I can shower or do chores he just plops infront of the TV and gets frustrated that this doesn't entertain the baby at all cause she is way too young to watch TV or he lets her sit in his lap at the computer and lets her smash his keyboard until she gets bored of doing that and starts crying. He puts the least amount of effort to entertain her possible so while I am doing stuff I am constantly hearing her cry and so I have to rush doing anything and am always stressed out.
Men are truly no help with a baby but they expect to be praised for doing anything at all like changing a diaper once a day. I know there are probably men out there that are different, but I don't know a single woman who doesn't have this exact experience.
No. 338451
I found out a few days ago that my wife is pregnant, and I'm worrying way more than I thought I would. I think part of it is because we were caught off guard by this. When we had our test after the insemination, it came back negative, which felt absolutely crushing for us. We decided to put trying on hold until next year due to the emotional toll it was taking. Fast-forward just over a month and my wife has sensitive breasts, her emotions feel a bit off and she's getting unusual food cravings. We tested three times to be sure, and they all come back positive. As happy as I am, I just sank into this state of panic. That night we found out we were expecting, I had a nightmare that I was a penguin with an egg I had to protect. Everything around me was melting because of global warming and I had to get my egg somewhere safe, but in the end it broke. I woke up with my heart racing and tears in my eyes, having to explain this ridiculous dream to my wife. Since then there's just been an edge to everything. When I'm exercising, I'm pushing myself harder than usual because I'm obsessing about being healthy for my wife and baby. When I'm working on my business, I'm putting in more hours than normal because I'm focusing hard on long term planning, so they're both provided for should anything happen to me; even though I've already set up financial plans for that I'm still paranoid it's not enough. I'm overanalysing everything my wife does and asking her if she's ok probably a hundred times a day. Past couple nights I struggled to sleep and just watch her instead. This horrible survival instinct nagging away at me that if I fall asleep, something bad will happen and I'll lose them both. I should be jumping for joy, but instead I'm a total wreck. Is this normal? Will is subside after a while? I'm trying to distract myself and work on nutritious meals I can make for my wife as cooking relaxes me, but it's so hard to switch off.
No. 339163
>>338514I don’t have children, but I think maybe giving her something else to help her satisfy her needs of biting, scratching and pulling could work? Like a toy or something. Or maybe find a way to make her get tired like lots of games, reading sessions, baby gym.
I don’t know, I just think she may be bored or tired and that doing those things like kicking you or pinching you are a way for her to distract herself because she gets a reaction out of you.
No. 339376
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Got my first big item - Babybay co-sleeper bassinet. I really wanna set it up to see how it looks but I’m not due til mid-November so it’ll just be in our 1 bedroom apartment taking our space for 4 months kek.
No. 339432
>>338514>>339167Say NO that hurts mommy, set her down somewhere safe and walk away for a few minutes.
She'll get it.
You're doing too much for her, you're not a clown you're her mother. She will learn to explore and play on her own.
>>338338That is so upsetting I'm sorry nonna, overfeeding a baby can be really bad for them!
>>338363Might as well leave her in a bouncer or swing at that point he is more useless than a machine
>>339158congrats
nonnie!
>>339189That's… for dogs
No. 340138
>>339640Highly unlikely that you're pregnant
nonnie.
However if this is going to be a constant worry for you, you should buy a big box of pregnancy tests on amazon.
If you're doing condoms and NFP its VERY unlikely you're pregnant.
No. 340487
>>340478Anon
please look up weaponized incompetence. That's exactly what he's doing to you. As much as it sucks to say, even teenage boys are stronger than you are, so he's lying out of his ass when he says it hurts. Unless he has health issues it's simply not possible he can't hold a baby for an hour, it's not possible. Partnered men everywhere use weaponized incompetence to get out of parental tasks and household chores, now you know what it is you don't have to fall
victim to it like so many other women.
No. 340513
>>339640Listen to these nonas,
>>340138 >>340151
Pregnancy tests are held to federal standards, so even if they're the shitty fifty cent ones, they'll still work.
No. 340960
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I might be pregnant again, had a super duper faint line on a test this morning. It might have just been an indent, but I feel super bloated and have had some weird cramps the past couple of days. I am still breastfeeding my 10 month old so I don't have my period back yet so no clue really. We've obviously not been preventing it from happening and I would be happy to be pregnant again since I want more kids and am over 30 already so I don't really have the time to wait too long im between.
Thinking of how to tell my husband, I know he will be super happy about it so I might get an outfit for our daughter that says "big sister" on it. Hope its gonna be a girl again!
No. 341102
>>340960Congrats
nonnie that's super cute.
You can definitely get pregnant before your first period, it happened to me too.
The big sister tshirt is an adorable idea though it may take him a minute to get it lol
No. 341114
>>341102Thank you! I took another test this morning and it was stark white and now I am super confused lol. I guess it was just an indent (the First Response tests used to be so good, wtf happened???) but I still
feel soooo pregnant. I guess it's just hormones going wild and making me go nuts.
No. 341898
>>340960I'm an over 30 here interested in having a baby. How was your experience?
I live in an area where everyone has babies young and people keep telling me how hard it'll be for me, so I'm nervous. I really want children though.
I just wanted your feelings as an over 30 with their first baby!
No. 342030
>>341898Another mom over 30 here. The pregnancy is going very well so far. I am in the second trimester and the baby looks healthy as can be. All my unpleasant symptoms have been mild and I get bursts of euphoria when I feel him move.
10/10 experience, would recommend.
No. 342100
>>342030Thank you, nona. This gives me a lot of hope. I wasn't sure I wanted kids but the past year I've been having these reoccurring dreams about the same son and daughter, and waking up feeling heart broken they aren't real. My husband wants children too and I feel like we're in a place where we could give a child a good life. My only fear has been my age but I'm happy it isn't a huge problem.
Gonna talk to a doctor about it this week, wish me luck!
No. 342441
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Why does no one ever talk about how good it feels to have a little fetus wiggling in your belly? It's like an internal massage. Elon Musk needs to make robotic fetus implants for women who aren't pregnant so they can get belly rubs all the time.
No. 342776
The audacity of men never fails to amaze me. For the past week, my baby has been screaming in pain at various times throughout the day, peaking at bedtime every night. My boyfriend works during the day so he never saw it until she had her evening burst and every day he would tell me ‘she’s just teething’ ‘it’s probably growing pains’ ‘she’s just tired’. And every day I would say ‘this is NOT normal, I’m going to phone the doctor’ and he would just dismiss it as just a general baby thing. I said that it seemed like she had painful reflux - arching her back, screaming in pain, painful spit up, loads of gas, crying while feeding. I started venting to my own mum and would send videos of my baby crying and my mum even said I should phone the doctor. So I phoned today and the doctor asked us to come in this afternoon to give the baby a quick check. The doctor said ‘we can both agree it seems like acid reflux’, prescribed reflux meds and literally after ONE dose, it was like I had a completely different baby. She still fussed a little but there has been NO screaming, no back arching, no painful spit up. Now my absolute nightmare of a boyfriend has spent the whole day claiming that ‘WE’ both knew it was reflux since she was spitting up and arching her back so badly and it took all my strength to not just slap that man. There was no ‘we’ in this, it was all me (with a little encouragement from my own mother). There’s no point to this story other than venting and to say that you should trust your motherly instincts because men will never understand what it’s like.
No. 344062
>>339376You should set it up to make sure no parts are missing. This is a good task to have your partner do.
>>340468That can be a hard feeling, but I can just about guarantee that you are her favorite parent.
>>343804Sounds like a troon to me.
No. 345612
>>345194Yes, I’m considering homeschool too. I used to be a teacher in my local school district, and it’s honestly so bleak and horrifying I can’t imagine sending my child there. The crime rates are high, literacy rates falling, discipline waning because basically the district doesn’t want parents to know how bad it really is so kids get away with EVERYTHING but murder and sexual assault. Kids are free to throw desks, threaten others students and sell drugs and there’s a “no kids left behind” policy that changed 0/Fs to 50s/Ds so the school doesn’t get taken over by the federal government I guess?? Anyway, there were students in my class who couldn’t even speak English and were straight D students but as long as they had a translator on their laptop and cheated off of other students they kept getting pushed right along to the next grade. I can’t imagine my child going to a school like the ones I had to attend as a child or teach at but could never afford to send him to a private school, either. We barely make enough for me to stay home now and I assume it’s only going to get harder, but I cannot put my child in public school here. We’ve considered moving to a better state with an area that has better schools and offers public-charter options when he’s older. In the meantime, I’m getting a professional certificate online and trying to study up in UX/UI so that maybe I can get an internship or apprenticeship someday that could result in a hybrid job, or at least a job that pays enough for me to get my kid into a better district/ school. It’s stressful as hell but if I choose to homeschool we probably can’t afford anymore kids and I’d really like at least one more. Your concerns are definitely
valid though- I guarantee your local district manipulates the publics view of how bad it really is and gaslights parents. They also probably hire pedophiles and are willing to cover up any weird shit that goes on unless the local police get involved. I’ve seen it multiple times. They don’t pay well enough to have actual professionals working for them most of the time, especially since the job includes so much “classroom management” lol aka being a glorified correction officer. All of that said, I live in one of the worst states education wise and in an area with high gang activity. If you look at your local crime and literacy rates you can determine if you live in an area you’d feel safe sending your child to school. Some schools in your district will be better than others, I’d find those schools and try to move to those zip codes if you do send your kid to public school. Sorry for the long response!
No. 345724
I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but once a month, maybe for a week, I become obsessed with pregnancy and all things baby. I usually am not really good with kids, but I’m polite, and try to be understanding, but I just never really want one myself. Plus I’m a lesbian, so even if I was dating, my partner wouldn’t have the right parts to get me pregnant anyways.
But when this baby week comes along, it’s all I can think of. I think about being a mother. I think about babies. I think about the amount of love I’d have for this new human being whos completely reliant on me, this life that I helped create, and how it’ll be hard, but worth it. I literally dream of giving birth to a baby girl, and holding her with my dream wife and raising her together, watching her grow into a beautiful young woman.
This part is kinda depressing, i was raped at 13 and got pregnant, my mom is against abortion, so I carried my daughter to 4 months before my body couldn’t handle it and I miscarried. I can’t help but wonder if I was older, more mature, with financial stability and less trauma in conception, would I have been a good mother? If it worked, my daughter would be 9 years old. I guess sometimes my brain mourns her and fixates on what it would be like if she lived and I had my daughter today.
Auuugh I’m in baby week right now and I’m looking up fertility clinics. I know it’s stupid because I can’t have a baby now, but a girl can dream sadface
No. 345729
>>345724Nothing is wrong with how you feel, most people dream about having a kid with their ideal partner and even as a lesbian you can still achieve that. I'm really sorry for your traumatic experience, please don't blame yourself for it and try not to say "what if", I'm a med student and first thing you learn is that babies who are miscarried are often not viable, they're the babies that'd have died in the first hours or days of the birth.
I hope you'll have a perfect partner and a perfect baby in the future, don't lose hope and never blame yourself for a situation you had no control over.
>>345689>>345194Homeschooling is a bad idea. Children should interact with their peers and socialize with them for the ideal behavioral development. Most people who were home schooled say it left them stunted both intellectually and socially
No. 345765
>>345715I've never met anyone who is/was micro-schooled, It sounds like it would be better but I don't know. Sports are not enough for socializing but it's better than nothing. You have to consider who you're socializing your children with – other homeschool kids? (I think that's usually called a "homeschool pod") if those are your children's friends you can't control their ages (always very mismatched with much older and younger kids grouped together.) Or maybe you're socializing them with "regular" kids in which case your child is going to feel like a serious outsider and have trouble relating even if they are a happy and outgoing type (it's often described as feeling like a "third-culture kid", which they kind of are.) Then they have to grow up and operate in the same world as everyone else but they have this completely different childhood, not to mention if they want to pursue a degree they literally have to learn how to go to school at 18 which is a nightmare lol
Sorry to derail, I'm really interested in this topic but that's probably more than I should have written.
No. 346523
>>345772It's really not, one of the worst thing about having siblings is how transparents parents are with their favoritisms.
>>345778In my experience only child have an easier time sharing because they don't have the scarcity mentality of kids with siblings who can't have any personal belongings (they always HAVE to share even their absolute favorite things).
No. 348209
>>348156over-healed sounds like moid bullshit. More like they stitched you up a little more "just to be sure".
Unless he meant excessive scarring, which is not unimaginable. My Ob did a pretty terrible job when stiching me up, resulting in a patch of inflexible scarring right by the entrance of my vagina. It burned eveeytime I had sex but the OB said I was probably just not wet enough and gave me some bs cream. I finally had it removed by a different gyno and after healing I'm now pain free
No. 349113
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>>348607When you say 'clipped' do you mean they just give you a little cut and that's it? No stitches? If that's the case then I'm not surprised you heal up just as tight as before
In my case the gyno removed a small crescent of tissue, then stitched the edges of the skin together. Made a drawing to illustrate, pls don't laugh. The bit that was removed didn't actually look like scarring (to me), but my gyno noticed it was very inflexible. So although removing it made my perineum slightly smaller, overall it became much more stretchy again.
No. 349213
>>337670Sorry for being 2 months late, I’ve barely had time to do anything. We did end up going to the doctor to check if her eyes are gonna be an issue, they couldn’t find anything wrong. They mentioned that the lighter one
might change to match the darker one, and it did darken, but to a darker blue rather than brown.
My wife recently asked me if I’d be willing to take medication to induce lactation, cause she’s worn the fuck out from nursing. Our baby is the hungriest baby ever, she’ll just keep drinking for 2-3 hours until she either falls asleep or my wife physically can’t take it anymore. This is switching breasts too. Doctor says nothing is wrong with her, she’s just a hungry baby
Anyways, back to lactation meds, cause I do wanna help her out, and we’re both women and capable of producing milk. Anyone know any supplements to induce milk wothout pregnancy? Ik this is a unique problem
No. 349760
>>348203It depends on ages, but lots of snacks, making sure everyone has a place on the shopping cart (or whatever) and packing a bag ahead of time helps.
>>349213There is absolutely nothing wrong with formula and you both shouldn't be killing yourself trying to lactate for the baby.
Your wife probably needs to eat better and sleep