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>>584766Encouraging GNC women to mutilate themselves, fat worship, sexual trauma obvious from every post, etc
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I miss my wife
No. 584782
>>584768What you wanna do is to date people who 1. Have a job 2. Work or study towards a money-making field.
The more focused on the material, the less likely people are to be into any of the pathological empathy stuff. I've met some cool women in economics, engineering, sales and stuff like that, though I wasn't looking for serious dating. Avoid academia, social work or anything adjacent. They will tend to be quite apolitical, which you may see as a plus. But take into account that they likely have little to non lesbian/bisexual "identity" so to say.
Now you tell me, how do you get hookups? kek
No. 584825
Has anyone else resigned themselves to the very likely possibility of being a kissless hugless virgin for life and never knowing the touch of a woman? I live in a pretty conservative area, my family & most people I know are old-school religiously homophobic, and if anyone found out that I was into women I feel like my life would fall apart and I would have nothing. It would be a complete disaster. I’m too afraid to ever do anything close to flirting or showing romantic interest in a woman, let alone getting into a relationship, because I’ve done a mental cost-benefit analysis and have decided that the possible repercussions are too high. Also, I don’t know if I would even be able to get a woman who I’m attracted to. I’m not ugly, but I’m not that hot either, I’m pretty average looking, solid 5/10. Most women are heterosexual, so I have a reduced dating pool because of that. Not to mention I’m socially awkward, have no game, cant make eye contact, & don’t know anything about sex. The risk of embarrassment or inadequacy during sex w/ a woman, which would result in her losing all respect for me, is another reason to not try to find a relationship.
In summary, the risks:
>getting outed
>public embarrassment after being rejected
>failing at sex
>relationship drama/possibility of toxic relationship
>inability to deal with someone else’s emotional needs
do not outweigh the possible rewards:
>sexual pleasure
>emotional fulfillment & connection w/ another person
Anyway, despite all of that stuff, I focus on a lot of other things in life (academics, hobbies, my fledgling career, etc.) and I have goals I want to achieve and hopes and plans for the future. I don’t have a large social circle, but I have good relationships with the few people I’m close with. So overall I feel pretty good about my life. It’s just that being with a woman is not part of my expectations for life, and I’ve mostly made peace with that. Most of the time, I don’t think about it at all because I have other stuff going on. I feel worse about it when I obsess over it and make it a big deal when it’s really not. A real life relationship might not live up to my fantasies and expectations of what I want anyway. I’d rather have nothing than a disappointment
No. 584875
>>584825Oh, please. Awkward average looking women have been fucking each other and falling in love for thousands of years. You are not a uniquely unsexy lesbian, sorry.
>The risk of embarrassment or inadequacy during sex w/ a woman, which would result in her losing all respect for me,What even is this mindset. If you met a woman and had sex with her, and she didn't know what to do because she's a virgin, Would you lose all respect for her? You need to get out of your head and go join a pickleball team or something.
No. 584929
>>584919>>584922Thank you, I've been considering this because it really feels like now I should match her interest or cut it before it gets weird for both of us. Which is sad because in my head all the normal steps of getting to know someone would be wonderful with her but that's just my imagination. The worst thing is that I actually did what
>>584924 said on the second date because it was already feeling too forward for me. It was a serious conversation about boundaries and going too fast, even too serious for a second date kek in which I was sure we compromised and she understood, because we hooked up and it was fun and friendly. But after that day I started receiving the most loving and basically commited messages (and even some jealousy). I'm glad you three gave me serious advice instead of repeating that lesbians are always too fast because that always makes me feel pressured to not date normally and wait for love to come around first.
No. 584984
>>584972(I'm about to go to bed so this may be all over the place)
My sister and her wife had the same amount at their wedding including me, the dance floor was so empty I gathered the children (on her wife's side of the family) and taught them how to dance kpop moves kek (and because the DJ had only a selection of licensed music I couldn't request any kpop, so we were all dancing to Britney and Abba and Baby Shark) my sister and I are not close but I think she was grateful for that kek.
Rejection from family is rough, my dad and both sets of grandparents have all established they won't be coming to my future wedding either. It's schizo behaviour, for context mine kept bringing up how they felt disgusted or disappointed. One would even ask me to do a job for her, and then hold money in one hand while telling me "I don't believe two women can be a family! And should not be allowed to have children!" She knew I was struggling with money after cutting off support and yet had the audacity to behave like that, I was naive enough to think her hiring me was her way of reconciling but then would bait and switch and act homophobic. She would attempt do this sort of thing often in my teens and early 20s, in general my grandparents made themselves very hateable and I no longer speak to them of course. One grandpa even offered a lot of money to my mum for him to stay in her flat (that I was also living in) so he could avoid hotel prices, but then he went and attempted to hit me during an argument so she called it off. Homophobic people are not emotionally balanced and have warped social standards.
It will be endlessly frustration if they decide to keep in contact and act like nothing happened (my dad tries this despite being aware of how my grandma acted), or they very well may die alone and stuck in their ways (2 grandparents already have, and we did not exchange words on their death beds or anything), even my friend abroad's mother is behaving self righteously homophobic and now none of her kids will speak to her, and despite being siblings they all struggle to speak to one another because all they know is pain. (My friend has a long-term girlfriend and her brother is gay, unsure about her sister)
Which is why it's actually good that you're able to put words to your feelings. This experience you are going through is currently very highly emotionally charged, but doesn't mean it will be this way forever, nor is it the be all end all for you because you now have the world together with your wife. You have these opportunities to build new relationships and not end up like my friend's siblings who feel disconnected from one another.
Even during the times where you feel like an injured animal licking its own wounds, I'd suggest angrily writing down your feelings or making voice-recordings on your phone of yourself crying or yelling your frustrations out (which I have found quite effective). You want to aim for a balance of activities to distract you, and letting out your feelings when appropriate. You may become hypersensitive and on edge at the slightest thing anyone says, but be aware that is just the unregulated adrenaline and you don't want to be misdirecting your rage onto unsuspecting people. Any time I felt overwhelmed with people I excused myself to a toilet and then ranted in my notes app or voice recorder. These little things kept me sane. At the time I was also dealing with a course and was scared I wasn't going to graduate.
Things turned out well. I believe they will turn out well for you too. I hope your wedding is full of love and you have a wonderful life nonna. Sending you hugs.
No. 584996
>>584984Thank you for staying up to type that
nonny. Your words are really helpful to me and I decided to screenshot and save them. I think you're spot on with the unregulated adrenaline. I've even thought about getting some meds for that.
>>584976Thank you, she is very miserable indeed and it seems she was happiest when I was single, lonely and depressed but living in her house with her.
No. 585166
>>585088You’re comparing apples and oranges here.
Caring what my family think of me is not the same as seeking validation from strangers.
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>>585091need a wife like sally so bad.
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>>584611latin american women are and always will be leagues above women from u.s. women, cope harder amerifatty.
>>585166not to be rude and i'm sorry about your situation but what did you come here looking for? validation? you're advocating for a miserable and anti-lesbian life for yourself. all i can say is i hope you start putting you first, it's sad to live the 21st century like women don't have lives outside of their families. it sounds like you're a conservative/have been indoctrinated by conservative ideology
No. 585284
>>584316Yep. Going full on with armchair autism but based on my personal experience it's because the places that don't tolerate gendershit attract polilez trad-leaning women who are either hurt by the worst trad-leaning men (be it their dads, brothers, other men in their lives) and/or have severe mommy issues (which warps their relationship with other women) and want a safe space where they can lick their wounds, but can't leave their conservative mindset at the door. So they get grossed out by butches existing because ewww they're visibly degenerate dykes, but also have a retarded one-sided rivalry with other lesbians. Like the age-old question about dildos and straps, according to them you're not a real lesbian if you enjoy penetration despite vaginas literally being built with nerve endings to be stimulated. Just useless bickering over things that
shouldn't matter and co-signing the troon gender mentality despite apparently hating it so much, but in the end them being "gendercrit" is often fueled by homophobia rather than the desire to remove gender roles altogether.
No. 586609
>>586605 I'm definitely not asexual, not even low libido, just bad at receiving sometimes (I mentioned ten to fifteen, and my sexual life started 14 years ago). Never touched a man sexually. But thank you for replying, it's basically what I figured whenever it happened (that she's going to feel unwanted to some degree).
Repost because I forgot to add that I thought it was clear that I was talking about not wanting to keep going at the moment/the act happening and not stopping having a sexual or romantic relationship.
No. 586611
>>586605she obviously means during sex, not in general. wtf?
>>586602guilt tripping you is super weird and selfish. things like this are what destroy a person's relationship with sex over time
No. 586612
>>586602‘Stop’ as in stop having sex entirely for the rest of the relationship? Or ‘stop’ as in you went along with it thinking you might get into the mood before realizing you just don’t feel like it after all?
>I could only really stop twice out of like ten to fifteen times, and it was because my girlfriend at the time had already climaxed and was tired.This sounds weird at best and very concerning at worst. Also I’m wondering if you’re upfront about how this happens sometimes before you start dating a woman.
No. 586617
I'm sorry, I didn't think I'd need to explain the details before posting. I just wanted to know how everyone else thought it was the most tactile way to receive a "let's stop here this time".
>>586612Stop because I had done what I wanted to do at the time (usually getting her off and doing acts that are more mutual) and didn't really feel like receiving oral or something else. It's not a rule, I'm not a touch-me-not, it's just that sometimes I feel good and nice with everything that has already happened and would rather cuddle without her feeling that she needs to get me off.
>>586614Do you think it's really often? It's not rhetorical, I'm really curious. One of the relationships lasted 5 years, and the other, 3. With the woman I'm going out right now, once, and I'd say it's because we don't know each other very well yet, so she really wanted to please me, but I was already pleased with everything else that day.
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>>586617Ok, I’m glad that the situation isn’t as dire as it first sounded to me. But still, if you want things to stop so you can cuddle, just say something like ‘hey that was really good, I think I’m done, can we cuddle’ or whatever. Make it less “sudden” (and if she insists because she thinks she’s the problem, tell her you’re already satisfied) and you’re good to go. If she still ignores this, then she is the problem.
It’s not good for you that you don’t clearly put your foot down. Stop having sex past the point you want to have sex, take care of yourself better wtf
No. 588326
>>588267i'm afraid to tell you there's no way to log off from real life. people my age irl are really this annoying.
>>588323i agree with you, i only said that because they're so pressed about what i wear like it's a great betrayal if i decide to lean more androgynous than full on butch. curiously i don't see mascs acting this territorial over their looks
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>>589781This is so beautiful to me, also seems intimate for some reason to grow a baby from someone you love’s egg cell. If they ever manage to create sperm cells from women’s stem cells that would make it even more incredible, and I’d still want to carry her egg tbh. But there’s also a very very low success rate of producing a completely bimaternal embryo.
No. 590197
>>586578Yeah, I have no interest in straight women. I don't relate to pining over a straight woman at all, no matter how well you get along or how beautiful you find her.
I'm not the type to crush hard in general either, though. So I think that's why my feelings don't ignite over something that's not even possible.