ITT: We talk about our personal experiences with toxic people and discuss the ways we can deal with their bullshit.15 posts and 4 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.
Meaning, if there's a toxic, negative, abusive person in your life, we share and talk about tools that we can use to disarm their voice, walk away from them, cut them out, and avoid them.
Share books, youtube videos, quotes, or whatever you think might be helpful.
Are you the toxic one? You're welcomed to share how you decided to change/the tools you used to change for the better as well, but don't dare to humble brag.
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mom:>is extremly generous, but mostly when it's at someone else's cost - be it my brother(that lives in completly different town), that was told to ride her icelandic friend around the city, "buy her an amber as a souvenir" or her using me as graphic designer, since she doesn't want to pay for a work (basically forced me to make her a logo and kept calling me every day how is the progress. The whole primary/middle/high school I heard how she must be ashamed of me because of my grades and once they finally got very nice in art school she didn't give a single fuck and kept telling me to do her a favor. I remember after the call I went to the bathroom and bursted into tears like never before. Ah and ofc, I wasn't paid anything)>always when she brags me about her personal life, she hept saying "just don't tell your father" (they're divorced), dad usually learned anyway because she kept bragging it to everyone>when I was younger and my grandma was diagnosed with schizophrenia, she was arguing with dad how she can annul the marriage now, because "he was hiding his mother's illness from her">if you don't do what she wants, you're suddenly irresponsible and "used to me wiser">never apologizes, used to hit me frequently when I was 8-12 or slap me for stupid reasons because I was "problematic and naughty child">doesn't give a damn about mental health issues, my brother gained much weight after taking antidepressants and all she talks about is how he needs to lose weight>used to have meltdowns once sister sided with dad, yelling that it's because dad has more money and he "bought her"
I sometimes wonder if she qualifies as narc parent. All three of us (her children) don't ever want to live with her again (we all left our hometown). Extra points for me being closeted lesbian and her being alt-right.
Yeah I had a friend like this. I became super observant of the flow of our conversations. Eventually I started resenting him because our conversations were literally all about him and if I wanted to talk about myself I had to force my way in. It hurt a fuck ton because I was stuck in an abusive
situation with my mom's boyfriend and despite knowing that he would still talk to me about 'problems' with girls on Tinder as if it was the end of the world. After a few weeks I told him how I felt and said I don't want to be friends anymore.
Honestly it's very liberating to send a very ~calm~ letter to a toxic
person stating why you don't enjoy their company. Would recommend. You gotta reply to their reply though or you look like a weak bitch.