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No. 458492

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No. 512312

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Have a dumbass question that doesn't fit any other threads? Ask away!

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No. 517670

Thanks a lot for your response anon. I am sorry to hear that you had to deal with harassment. I hope you'll always be safe.

Someone else I've talked to about this told me to stick with a friends group (ideally involving an older Korean friend) as well. I didn't know Korean guys in clubs would be assertive about approaching foreign women.

I am interested in dating but I am also down for hookups with the right guy. I have heard some of these fuckboys might try to film you without your consent while having sex and that's scary, I don't want to deal with creeps. It might be a better idea to meet guys in normal events like you said.

No. 517687

is it weird to love horror stories (listening, reading them), folklore.. Etc. But hate horror films?

No. 517715

Words cannot explain how much I love my dog. I sperg about my dog here and there on ot lol. She's so fucking cute. I think we've become a lot closer in just the past year alone, and I'm so happy and grateful that I'm her owner. The way she flops against me when getting rubbed, how she likes to sit under my legs, or how she'll see me off in the mornings for work- ugh. Pets are such a wonderful addition to people's lives. I've only ever had a dog, but I imagine other pet owners feel similar neverending joy and love for their beloved pet.

No. 517737

How do I delete an IG-account? I have checked through the settings several times and I can't find the option to just delete the account.

No. 517738

I've been trying to tighten up my college application and I noticed I'm lacking a few extra curriculum activities. I've found a few that could count, but I'm not sure. Could I put my past history with the Klan on my college application essay? I'm not sure if it counts, but I did a lot of outreach and community service with them. I even ran a branch! It's not something like 'I can play the violin' so I'm not sure

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No. 517730[Reply]

Is their a female version of the coomer ?

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No. 517709

luckily i should be moving in with my bf soon.

>>Finally being able to have people over without concern is also amazing.

god, yes. my mom actually asked me the other day why i never invite my bf to spend the night over here… why on earth would i, are you not embarrassed?

i feel so ashamed about it. my bf even admitted to me that he felt a bit hurt by how i almost never let him come over. he said his family is also embarrassing, and i see them all the time. i don't know how to explain to him that his family members being a little dysfunctional while still being rich and successful is a lot more "acceptable" than my family members being unhygienic and disgusting because they're lazy slobs…

No. 517711

Anon you need a plan. Your narcissist WILL either cheat on, hurt, or leave you. It's not a matter of if, but when. I've been here so I know.

Loneliness is daunting but I cannot describe what a huge relief it is. I love that I no longer come home to pick up and tiptoe around a man who doesn't love nor desire me. I love that I can have higher standards for the next person I choose to be a relationship with, and that now I have the independence to walk away at the first sign of mistreatment.
It's no longer a question of "But who will love me?" because I know as a baseline I am deserving of love. The question now is "But who will treat me right and elevate me as an individual?" I love this question cause there's no implication that I am unworthy.

Your self-esteem has been beaten away by this narc but you can get it back! Like other anons said it's not too late to recover this situation. Find a job, save a bit, and then find a roommate. You'll feel great about yourself and this creep will be left in the dust that he deserves.

No. 517725

> Your narcissist WILL either cheat on, hurt, or leave you. It's not a matter of if, but when. I've been here so I know.

This! Been there too and yes they typically will cheat on you and humiliate you as their way of ending the relationship. They need to cause maximum damage on the way out and they usually replace you in no time. Unless you leave first

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No. 517736

i dont have any female friends that i feel comfortable around, i was bullied severely by girls all through high school and i'm a closeted bi girl, i'm only out to my boyfriend. i see girls being so affectionate in their friendships and i feel shitty bc i wish i had that but i worry so much about other girls seeing me as predatory and weird and every female friend i do have i keep at arms length bc i'm terrified of being labelled as a gross dyke. affection doesnt come naturally to me anyway idk, maybe im just a tard.

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No. 112710[Reply]

post your favorite unsolved mysteries, creepypastas, conspiracies etc.

Keep hybristophilia related posts in their respective thread >>>/pt/262979
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No. 517607

I think the dna findings point to possibly the dad doing some fucked up shit/maybe letting someone else do gucked up shit to him. The actual murder, I think there's a big possibility of it being the brother, he must've been jealous and too rough. What doesn't make sense is the timeline, the goddamn pineapple and the note with their own notepad. A) There was some sexual relations between the dad/some other men they pimped her out to, went in too rough, they freaked out and fabricated the whole note thing. B) The brother did it and the parents tried to cover it up.
I think there was definitely something very disgusting going on and wouldn't be surprised if it was some mix of these two.

No. 517684

Gonna call occam's razor here and say it was the brother. He killed her accidentally in a fit of rage after JonBenet snatched pineapple from his snack bowl and the parents covered it up for him. I don't think there are any shady child prostitution ring things at play with that case. The brother was emotionally disturbed and had hit her before in the head with a golf club, now he hit her with a flashlight and killed her. The autopsy findings support this theory as the cracks on her skull lined up with the flashlight in question. JonBenet was small enough to be killed by a blow to the head even if the brother was only 9 years old. The parents lied about the brother being asleep during the whole ordeal while his voice can be heard in the background of the 911 call. It's the most plausible theory so far.

No. 517722

Either the brother or the mother, I don't think it was a molestation thing either but a fit of rage over xmas gifts/toys (in the case of the brother) or her bedwetting if it was the mother. Either way I think the mother took that secret to the grave with her. She wrote the ransom note.

No. 517728

the podcast true crime garage recently did a like 5 part breakdown of the case that goes extremely in depth and only sticks to facts that were known and it completely changed my opinion on the case (i was originally positive the family was in on it). i highly recommend even if you've watched/listened to other jonbenet coverage.

there were three things that stuck out that changed my mind about the family being involved:

first, while there was evidence of sexual abuse at the time she died, the coroner concluded there was no evidence of long-term or historical sexual abuse. she had no scarring typical with that type of sexual abuse, and the abuse was consistent with digital manipulation but nothing further. this disproved to me the idea that the dad or someone else had been molesting her leading up to her death even though that's a popular theory. the evidence just doesn't support that unless he molested her once and then killed her right after.

second, her head injury came with no blood. there wasnt a puddle of blood when she was found, her hair wasn't matted with blood. this indicates to me that the head injury was inflicted post-mortem to ensure she was dead after she had been suffocated with the garrote. that rules out any rough accident with her brother or her mother throwing her after her bed-wetting, etc.

lastly, there was evidence that when the killer was using the garrote, he was repeatedly loosening and tightening it, presumably to bring jonbenet to the brink of unconsciousness, then let her revive a bit, then do it again. this to me is the behavior of a disgusting, sick pedophile who was getting off on watching her die. say what you want about how weird the ramsey's are, but i dont think any parent who was just covering up an accident would go that far.

a lot of the evidence that is presented as fact and sensationalized is shoddy at best or just plain misreported. the handwriting analysis wasn't as damning as the media wanted to portray. there was no sign she had been continuously sexually abused. some of the police on scene who later claimed sensing something ~sinister~ about john ramsey never indicated that in early interviews. the media circus really incentivized people to act like they had the key to solving this case even when they didn't.

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No. 517732

About the garotte, most people don't understand how long it takes to strangle someone to death, she probably passed out and then they thought she was dead so stopped and when she woke up had to start again.

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Previous thread: >>481484
A thread to let out your annoyance about topics/things that completely or mildly bother you. Express your anger ladies!
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No. 517546

It's so exhausting when anons latch onto one single thing about a cow and bring it up with every. single. thing. that the cow posts.

>"what about that diet shayna?"

>"not so thicc are you, hyojin?"
>"thought you didn't drink, momokun?"
>"what about [random islam rule], miranda constable?"

over…and over…and over. the anons are the cows. every single time an anon leaves their profile pic in a screenshot, they're cow material. incredible.

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Don't listen to the other anon, be my gf instead.

No. 517723

Oh my fucking god all these goddamn political ads on YouTube need to fuck off.

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I slowly getting the hang of it, but I fucking hate drawing mecha. You have t just add these random mechanical details of the creature comes out blocky Half the time the details have no reason it's just there to make it look 'mecha'

No. 517735

I am once again asking you not to provide financial assistance to them and use an adblock.

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No. 512957[Reply]

Not trying to vent? Not annoyed? Not asking a dumb question? Post it here.
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No. 517718

>lower lip that's bigger than the top one
What? Bigger upper lip looks absolutely disgusting.

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It feels weird seeing the method I used to slide by in math test I didn't know how to solve be endorsed on the ACT

No. 517724

Yesterday I made scrambled eggs and they were very good. They made my day better, really. I can't cook for shit so I'm proud.

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pic related as an example, I hate this and her whole mouth, the big front teeth and how her mouth slit is so big and shut at the sides but open in the middle. idk what kind of personality she has but I want to make a dent in her face.
I prefer when the lower and upper lips are equal in size.

No. 517733

glad I'm not alone, I thought the broccoli samosa sounded pretty damn nice.

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No. 517713

You are an asshole. A lot of women who go through that suffer from severe psychological issues and it isn’t a matter of them being stupid.

No. 517714

i've never posted here whining about a shitty husband but i was married to one for five years before getting out. it's never as simple as "just leaving". if it were, the relationship wasn't that abusive in the first place. narcs will do anything to limit their victim's resources. mine sold my car out from under me. and unfortunately, finding women's shelters isn't that easy. it's not like the info is right in front of you, you have to look for it. if my ex found that in my history he'd kill me. literally. i didn't have parents to go to - most don't, and that's why they were targeted. sorry that YOU were too much of a whiny pussy to move. sorry YOU didn't "just leave" as soon as you realized you should. sorry YOU didn't do shit with your life.

No. 517716

When I was with my shitty bf two years ago I was so, so grateful to have lolcow to vent to.
I needed those outside perspectives and asspats precisely for the reason that I didn't deserve what I was going through. Meanwhile irl people were gaslighting me with shit like ~*~JuUuST cCoMmUnICaATE wWiIth HIIm!~*~ and convincing me I needed to give him more chances, sacrifice to help him more than I already had, and put up with his shit because I had "problems" too (no, not really actually).
I'm not stupid. I live in a society that favors men and looks down on educated, independent women. I needed to see for myself the fucked up shit on paper to 'build my case' to leave. I left on a whim one day when he frustrated me for the last time, I didn't even have a chance to vent to lolcow first. I couldn't have done that without the tethers of my heart attachments being severed by outside farmers who saw through his shit.

Sorry for what you went through. You can vent to us, we won't think you're stupid just for being a human with feelings.

No. 517717

I had an ex that would threaten to make me homeless every time we fought..and now I see the same predicament happening to anons on here with no place to go.

Big difference between that situation and say a couple that don't even live together yet. Most of the cases I see on here are women who moved hundreds of miles to be with a guy and who have no income of their own. That shit is scary

For the last few weeks of my abusive relationship I honestly thought that my guy was planning to kill me..turns out the extra hostile vibes were on account of him having an affair but either way I'd nowhere to go at the time. Similarly I had gone into incognito mode while googling womens shelters which it turns out didn't exist anywhere near me

No. 517721

> a society that favors men

Nta but, It took me quite a while to admit to my dad that my partner of several years had been abusive. A year after the break up I told him about it and yet he would still from time to time say "oh I liked John, he was a nice guy"

I had to very graphically describe a couple of the assaults before my dad would shut up about John being nice.,. I never told him about the sexual stuff

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No. 436372[Reply]

Because you’ve asked for it!

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No. 517612

huh. i guess lilith might not have been exaggerating about being his "ex"

No. 517615


Who would ever think that she wasn't? Stalkers posted a lot about them in 2015, including text messages. It was obvious Manson had her for his sex adventures for a couple of months. Not committed relationships ofc.

No. 517630

I heard this story. Not really an ex. She was rather a groupie. They had sexual relationship I think on off in 2015. He had other side girls as well.

No. 517655


Given the way he fools women, I think it did look like bf+gf thing for her, but not for him of course.

No. 517685

It's possible. The semi famous singer Lola Blanc dedicated to Manson a song "don't say you do" basically about him fooling her using her and leaving her.
There were other girls Jordan Arentz among them who talked to the anonymous accounts and leaked them his messages, photos, videos and told their stories how he fooled them used them and then left them.

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Vent about how parents and/or other family fucked over you/your dreams by making terrible choices for you via neglect, close mindedness, laziness, totally ignoring what you wanted etc and how your coping as an adult.
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No. 516885

One thing that has been bothering me lately is how my mom allowed my biological dad partial custody of me despite knowing how neglectful and abusive he was. I think that's because of the child support money she got. Obviously she'll take it to her grave if it's true, but otherwise it makes no sense. I'll elaborate.

My parents had divorced since I was a baby. Mom had always said they were divorced because he was mean. I knew, for example, that he had multiple kids by different women. And that he had burnt down my childhood home in retaliation for my mom leaving him. That he yelled and was mean. As I grew older, my dad did very abusive and neglectful things towards me that I didn't have the experience nor intelligence to articulate. It was my "normal." The most I could ever say was that he treated me weirdly because I didn't know what abuse and neglect were as psychological terms. When a couple of his girlfriends lived with him they tended to treat me okayish. He didn't beat me, right? Yet this man never did shit for my birthdays, never came to school functions, and did nothing for me that required effort. He didn't even have a stove or fridge at his house and I shat in a porta potty until the courts came down upon him to improve the conditions. He'd play mind games with me about these conditions like "Don't tell your mom I wash dishes from a well sprocket in the unfinished basement," or "I cook our food on a propane grill inside during winter," or "You share a bed in the attic with me sealed off with plastic because of large holes in the house and I have no heat." I listened because I was daddy's girl and didn't want to feel like I betrayed him.

It took until I was a preteen to start to see through his bullshit and made demands. Teenage demands like "Take me to the movies so I don't have to spend my weekends sitting in your garage forcing me to watch you drink beer and fix up beaters while ignoring me and isolating me." Anyway, when I started to protest about seeing my father at all, he enacted crazy-making tactics (riling me up in an argument and then secretly recording me during the climax to show the courts that my mom was making me 'unstable' and coaching me against him). I was really just that angry at him on my own accord. Dad hated paying child support, but he figured as long as he had to pay it then by god, he was entitled to mePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

No. 517139

i fucking hate my dad so much. I want him dead so fucking badly. The world would be a better place without him. Everyone would be so much happier. Every time I interact with him, I just think about how much he deserves to die. This sounds homicidal af I know, but I would never do anything to hurt him. Getting him out of my life wouldnt be enough, as I'm scared of what he'll do to my mum. It's pure hell.

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How does one get over the feeling of worthlessness caused by narcissistic parenting?

I always struggle with this ridiculous underlying feeling that unless I am a billionaire with 5 PHDs, 2 shiny sport cars, and a house, I am absolutely worthless. I know and acknowledge that this stems from the fact that my Nmom constantly compared me to my peers who were more successful than me when I was growing up, berated me for the smallest mistakes I did and made me feel like I'm not enough, but I just can't seem to let go of this mindset.

The funny thing is, I moved away from home and cut all contact with my Nparent MONTHS ago in hopes that my life would get better, but now it feels like all my efforts were useless because she's inside my head.

No. 517676

Realistically your upbringing is always your baseline. You have to learn to challenge and deflect it - you will have to do it purposefully at first, but over time it will become natural to shut down that shit. Will it go away forever? No, probably not. Will you move past it and live a fulfilling life? Absolutely, if you're dedicated to putting the work in. Good luck, anon.

No. 517683

Take note of expectations vs. what actually happens. Example: let's say that nmom's voice shuts down your optimism for a piece of art you wanted to make. Maybe you have self defeating thoughts about it. Write them down, but then try your best on the art anyway. Write the results. Maybe it turns out that it was completely worth while and you feel better having done it, which you didn't expect. You'll slowly gather proof that your own truth matters more. Slowly, in theory, you will learn to trust yourself more. I have a similar struggle anon. This is just something my therapist recommended me.

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