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No. 385623[Reply]

/ot/ is a random discussion board. All personal bathroom talk should go to /g/, all media discussion should go to /m/.
Examples of a /g/ thread versus a /ot/ thread.
>plastic surgery advice/experience thread
This is a /g/ thread.
>plastic surgery deniers
This is an /ot/ thread because of the nature of the discourse.

Lolcow doesn't pander to your ideology. If a thread exists for your ideology, post it there.
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No. 458492

Any race related posts or discussion is prohibited per global rule 7.
Repeat offenders are subject to a permanent ban from /ot/.

No. 562657

Please keep COVID-19, and protesting to their respective threads. Don't derail vent, confessions, or the dumbshit thread.
If you hate a thread topic you can always hide it.

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No. 634186[Reply]

Based off of that anon saying we need threads on getting better and changing our lives (and less for self pity). Talk about:
>making friends
>changing personality for better
>getting in healthy relationships
>advice that worked for you
>plans for improving your life
Basically how to become un-whatever people whine about being in the neet threads. Sorry if bad thread, it's my first time making one.
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How do I go about changing my attitude to basically the polar opposite?
For the longest time I've been pessimistic and apathetic about life in general. Things just sort of happen to me I feel like I don't really control them. I've recognized that my core beliefs are that I am unloveable, I deserve to be unhappy, I can't do anything right, and that I am uninteresting, among other things. Also I lack enthusiasm for anything. If I hang out with my friends, I am upbeat for like 2 days then I go back into my dark place. Do I just start mantra-ing to myself that I am an interesting, talented, etc human being and that life is worth living? Would that help at all?

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I'm glad it helped anon! It took me a long time to realize I wasn't boring and lacking personality. When I started talking to myself like a weirdo I found I could ramble with the best of them. Felt kind of freeing, really. Good luck to you!

>I am unlovable, I deserve to be unhappy, I can't do anything right
I was here not so long ago and still relapse sometimes, but thankfully I'm in a better place now, and I believe you can be too. My issue with this:
>Do I just start mantra-ing to myself that I am an interesting, talented, etc human being
was that my self confidence was so nonexistent that doing the whole self affirmation thing felt like a complete and utter lie. Like, you have to have some level of self love for it to work, and I didn't, so it failed me.

What did help was CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It's the same thing a therapist would typically work with you on, but if you want to put the effort in, you can do it solo. I have my reasons for not wanting to pay/see a shrink, so I ordered a workbook I've mentioned in some other threads (https://www.amazon.com/Self-Esteem-Cognitive-Techniques-Assessing-Maintaining/dp/1572241985) and started pushing through the exercises. It really helps you see yourself in a more objective way and start breaking down damaging beliefs.

One of the most shocking things I learned was along the lines of: "Your value is not determined by what you can do or provide for other people, but in your existence itself. Your life is a result of a million coincidental factors that just so happened to come together to create you, and that is valuable. You do not have to do anything but be yourself to be 'worthy' of happiness." I started to cry when I read that. I had literally never heard anything like it before, or if I had, I didn't believe it until then. I always thought I had to accomplish great things, always put other peoplPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

No. 637630

>do you think very often? Do you have an inner monologue going on about your life and topics you ponder and all that?
Yes I do, pretty much constantly. A couple days ago I caught myself making up a conversation with my mother in my head - while actually sitting next to her and not talking to her. And it's not even like I'm doing practice talks on things I plan to say later, I'm basically just daydreaming 24/7, fantasizing about an alternative reality in which I actually talk to the people around me.

My father and my brother are always talking to themselves and I always thought that it's a positive thing that I'm at least not doing that but maybe I should really try saying things out aloud more.

>I realized that 90% of anything anyone says is just a bunch of mindless blathering (lol) to communicate their internal dialogue, externally

But I can't help but feel like my thoughts are much more lame than others, I'm scared that people are weirded out by my version of "small talk".

No. 637700

nayrt but holy shit, anon I wish I had you as my irl friend because you sound amazing! This is the kind of advice I've been looking for but never really figure out how to ask for it, so I hope keeping these things in mind will give me a push in the right direction!

Though, one of my bigger issues is that I have very shitty self-confidence and while I'm outgoing in spirit I put a lot of pressure on myself on being interesting and witty despite not having any charisma whatsoever (I come from a very outgoing and witty family that naturally attracts people but I still somehow managed to turn into an introvert, but I've managed to turned it around quite a bit so far) so I come off as pretty awkward instead. How do you handle that?

No. 637804

That's great! It sounds like you have a lot to contribute that you've just been keeping to yourself. I was/am the same way. I daydream and think so much that I sometimes miss things that are literally sitting right in front of me. I've just tried to express my thoughts more often when I'm around other people. Sometimes you end up hitting on something that they've been thinking but didn't know how to verbalize themselves, so it helps them too.
>I'm scared that people are weirded out by my version of "small talk".
Some people might think it's weird, but that's okay. We might not be everyone's cup of tea, even if there's nothing outright "offensive" about us. Making friends is a lot like dating in that regard, where you might like a person just fine, but for whatever reason you don't click. Not everyone has to love you. But at least by sharing more of yourself, you give people the opportunity to connect with you where they wouldn't have known you were similar before. If someone is judgmental towards you, that often indicates they have some a personal issue that they're unable to address, and they're using you as a sort of scapegoat. Those aren't people worth associating with in the first place, so it's good they weed themselves out!

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No. 635104[Reply]

Unpopular Opinions #33 >>>/ot/625008

Keep in mind site rules as well as recent Farmhand additions;
>Reminder that if you are a radfem/pinkpill/Terf sperg/gendercrit, the "unpopular opinions thread" is not your reverse uno to continue the discourse. Nor is it your general place to try and fight people. Ignore posters you disagree with.

If you are here to;
>sperg about trannies ruining your board, or your conspiracies that everyone who disagrees with you is a tranny - BAN.
>explain in detail why every man is shit - BAN.
>fight people who disagree with you - BAN.
>post vaguely veiled gendercrit posts to try and evade the no gendersperg rule - BAN.
>reply to someones personal experiences because you inherently disagree with their views - BAN.
>discuss your views on racism - BAN.
>have gender crit discussions - BAN.
>try and score twitter cookie points by dunking on the "bigot" terfs - BAN.

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No. 637790

Never been on it, I just exist and interact with people in the real world, you fucking freak. Happy?

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No. 637793

Bring it back for that exclusively. And to trigger fujosperg anon. She's fun.

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No. 637803

This and unironically

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No. 231531[Reply]

Are there any types of mental illnesses you steer clear away from people for having? Not the really hardcore shit like psychopathy or sociopathy, but things that people would label you as ableist for refusing to get close to someone for having.

I've been burned too many times by people with Borderline (or who check off every symptom if they're undiagnosed). The disorder is literally just a cluster of toxic traits. They're simply not capable of being healthy people to have in your life. One of the traits of the disorder is that they will act totally obsessed with you then drop you abruptly for little to no reason, usually in a really dramatic OTT way. I just can't deal with someone who has a personality disorder that is defined by a trait like that. It stays with me for years when people pull that shit and now when people are super enthusiastic about our friendship, I get worried they're going to do that. Even when they don't even have BPD. And don't even get me started on the other traits involved with that disorder.

I also can't deal with people who have EDs, whether it's one involving weight loss or weight gain. It would be one thing if they only applied their deluded view of weight to themselves, but they almost always have to drag other people into their sickness. I want nothing to do with someone who tries to make me feel like a fat sack of lard when I'm a twig. Or who insists I look better overweight than I did at a healthy size.

People with depression issues who can't get their shit together. I fall into this category, but am working hard to get out of it. I can't be around hyper-negative people who complain about their problems constantly and let their mindset cripple them long-term from any advancement, especially when I'm fighting to NOT be like that. I also don't like feeling like my main purpose in someone's life is to be the person they dump everything on.

Autists. I know this one is just mean, but being friends with them is painfully awkward. You have to be uncomfortably blunt because they don't get even the most obvious hints, plus they tend to have no filter and say incredibly mean and/or offensive shit. I'm always so anxious about introducing my autistic friends to people because they pretty much always embarrass the fuck out of me. Here's just a few of the gems of examples I have of them doing so:
>to friend with acne issues upon first time meeting her Wow, your skinPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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No. 637737

>Get a fucking life
Says the one lying on anonymous board for attention

No. 637741

did you read anything she said? i am telling her to use people better btw. her bawwing about her social conditioning makes it seem like she cares about the guy and doesn't want to hurt his feels.

No. 637746

This seems daft to say but if you aren't in a committed relationship with them why not just block and move on? Its never too late to cut people out

No. 637799

NTA but i'm not lying lol. is my story really so unbelievable? if anything, it's reassuring that her insanity is so intense that even LC dont buy it.

if i called out the cow it would reveal my identity. she's friends with my bf and is very spiteful/malicious. i'm afraid of retaliation from her end.

No. 637802

that's why she picks on you lol

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No. 637302[Reply]

Everything sux

Prev >>>/ot/630060
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No. 637772

I don't think you're a freak anon, and I think it's nice you've found something that helps you feel comfortable about yourself and makes you happy. You don't have to be "normal," and in fact I think being uniquely yourself is more interesting than trying to blend in with everyone else. Please don't believe that you are unlikable even if the people around you aren't open-minded enough to see your strengths.

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thank you

No. 637778

those other lolitas sound like cunts. but that’s par for the course. wear your shit and live your best frilly life, you could be a lardass like me who doesn’t fit into any of her dresses right now from bingeing to feel alive. embrace your over the top feminine side

No. 637787

the great shut-in is fattening everyone up, don't feel too bad
I don't even post myself, I'm jealous of fat girls who have more confidence than me
Everyone in my old comm is, and they still hang out and they're always posting pics and having fun
Being thin is fucking worthless if you're still a loser
even /cgl/ is posting good fat girl coords now and not shitting their pants over it immediately, I mean of course they do, but not immediately, and you know how much that means

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I resent the fuck out of Facebook advertisements aimed at the mentally ill. 9 time out of 10 they're month-old services with bot 5 star reviews. The 10th time it's fucking BetterHelp.

Also, if I had a nickle for every overseas spam shop I see endorsed on social media I could afford a decent sized Wish order. At least with Wish I KNOW the quality will most likely be shit.

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No. 633465[Reply]

Our collective stupidly has spilled out into yet another thread, go ahead and let your empty cranial cavity do the talking

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No. 637764

It's kinda stupid, but I posted a big life change I made about moving on facebook and it's nice to see all of the likes. I only post a couple of times a year for big announcements like that.

No. 637784

Just got myself a bass bc it has been my dream instrument since childhood. Any tips or yt channel recs? Should I pay lessons or just learn easy songs?

No. 637785

i saw somone post a video on metal family in the /m/ animation thread and i just wanna thank whoever did that because it has honestly become on of my favorite things and i cant wait for more episodes!

No. 637792

im so glad that every time i've ever had the urge to take or send nudes, especially to a guy, i never go through with it. life is hard enough without naked pictures of me in some dudes hands. i can rest easily.

No. 637800

I saved 2 lab reports for last minute and now I'm reaping my shit crop. I have a solid 3 hours to write one lab report and the other will have to be late with a 25% reduction in points.

I will not repeat these mistakes again.

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No. 607349[Reply]

Previous thread: >>581955

Last thread's milk:
>Naya Rivera's body is found, confirmed dead
>Henry Cavill's creepy attraction to underage girls continues
>Jim Carrey and Ariana Grande sex rumors, discussion of Carrey abusing an ex girlfriend who suicided back in 2015
>Jada Pickett Smith talks about cheating on Will Smith, on television
>Johnny Depp and Amber Heard drama roars on, he told a reporter to hit the wall and called her a cum guzzler, he continues to hit the wall himself
>Elon Musk said to be responsible for Heard's cuts and bruises, not Depp
>rapid cycling bipolar Kanye West spergs out on Twitter, prompting Kim Kardashian to apologize for his actions
>John Travolta's wife dies. Will he finally come out as gay? Not if Scientology has anything to say about it!
>Grant Imahara of Mythbusters dies of a brain aneurysm
>Adam Savage of Mythbusters accused of sexual abuse by his younger sister, called himself the "raping blob"
>Jizzlaine Maxwell arrested. Is pleading not guilty and offering up information to the authorities
>In light of the Jizzlaine drama, Epstein documents from the lawsuit against Virginia Giuffre leaked
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No. 637769

I support your endeavor and look forward to it

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No. 637798

is that a massive baby or are zayn's hands just tiny

No. 637805

why does this baby have such long fingernails

No. 637806

Kek what, it looks normal to me?

Insane people I follow on tumblr think the baby is a hoax like they think Louis' baby was, and I can't tell if they're serious or not kek

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No. 635956[Reply]

Confess, my daughters.

Previous thread: >>>/ot/615945
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No. 637755

I was more referring to the people who act as if sweden is heaven while countries like italy are already a shithole.

No. 637777

I'm not a ddlger but I have a collection of pacifiers

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No. 637796

I lost a baby and managed to donate everything else but hold onto them

No. 637797

Nta, but I’m so fucking sorry that happened. I hope you’re fine.

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No. 604193[Reply]

prev thread hit cap

ask your questions faggots
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No. 637565

oh tell me sonic am I cringe

No. 637589

Will we be fine?

No. 637606

Kinda want to quit my job because I fucking hate it, should I?

No. 637757

will he get in touch with me once he‘s back in town?

No. 637773

Am I going to be single forever?

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No. 222198[Reply]

Aika pistää joka /int/in perinteiden mukaan suomilanka liikeelle.
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No. 636099

Toivottavasti poisti koko roskan psykiatrin kehotuksesta. Ei tee kenellekään hyvää tuollainen mielenmaisema mikä suomitwitterissä vallitsee.

No. 636119

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She's back ja rähisemäs taas, en tiedä onko jo poistanu ku sc aamulta

No. 637719

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Onko suomitubessa mitään katsomisen arvoista? GC, paskaviihdettä tai ihan mitä tahansa.

No. 637738

Lähinnä Joni Hesselgren, tosin välillä vihakaton geneerisii suomivloggaajia ja sekin on toisinaan ihan nautinnollista.

No. 637763


<3 juufin <3

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