/g/ - girl talk

Guys might not use you for sex but their ‘friendship’ revolves sponging off you.

In hindsight, junior high school me was orbiting guy ‘friends’ who were using me as a free therapist to whine to when their gfs were not giving them enough attention.

I was best friends with three guys since the start of high school. We hung out almost every day, went out, and I really considered them close. I never confided in them because I'm a bit reserved and cold when it comes to emotions, but I never saw that as a problem since they also didn't confide in me. I wasn't the only girl in the friend group, yet I was the only one they treated like shit. Long story short, after going to therapy, I realized how badly they were treating me. They treated me like an object - a token female girlfriend. I was just a pretty accessory to them every time we went out. They never asked for my opinion, treated me as one of the guys, expected me to do all the planning every time, never agreed to my compromises, etc. Basically, the first time I stood my ground and defended myself, they all backstabbed me and started talking shit about me without even giving me a chance to defend myself. Maybe it was my fault I never confided in them, but I couldn't believe they would do the things they did. I could write an essay on how much I'm hurt and how much I hate them for it. I'm sad I lost 10 years of my life hanging out with them when I could've been making female friends.

>>392398
Honestly this is the one thing I miss about having male friends, I felt free to be extra rude and gross around them because I didn't give a fuck what they thought about me but I feel like I have to be on my best behavior around other women because I don't want to scare them away kek

>>393336
Shiiiit that is such a fucked up thing to do to someone. I'm glad you're out of that and sorry it happened. My 2 guy best friends from high school were each examples of leftist moid and right-wing moid losers, honestly. One wants me to be their quirky indie dream forever girl, and the other wants me to be their big tiddy goth gf. Of course we had some great times together, especially before Facebook really pushed our whole friend group into political chaos (crustpunk hipsters….) where everyone chose their side in the supposed culture war. What's funny is that I really would not have cared at the time if either had come to me and wanted to just fool around since we're horny teenagers and the bar gets pretty low because of that, but there's just no way a guy can ever be normal about a sexual encounter with a woman and see her as a human being afterwards. Super annoying. Luckily, one of them had a very hot girlfriend that figured out they were lame pretty fast, and was my very hot girlfriend for a while. Last one I talked to was the right wing guy 4 years ago and he said there was going to be a civil war and to get a water distiller. The leftoid blocked me to stay safe from having to hear about actual feminism when all he really wanted was to buy women and paint his nails and call it activism. As it's been said in this thread, I really do wish I had worked on making female friendships that stuck. I just was always weird and abrasive (probably autism idk) in the eyes of my female peers and I assumed they were all judging me for not measuring up. Unfortunately my past pickme self thought some level of fuckability shielded me from being judged on a deeper level. There is a certain hidden self-loathing from the woman who chooses excess male company, a certain awareness to the lack of authenticity that she can rely on to avoid difficult self reflection. After all, even if a man says you have an unpleasant personality or looks, it can just be framed as either kidding around, he doesn't understand because he's a guy, or that in some twisted way this is great because he sticks around anyway. Female judgement seems like it's coming from a direct and honest place that can't be obscured with cope. If anything caring too much about what other girls/women think can motivate a girl/woman to seek male friendships or validation. I know back then it was mostly because my femalPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>393481
nta
>what do you feel causes a woman to persue a friendship with a male?
Just like other nonnies, I found friendships with hetero males less demanding although I quickly felt how unfulfilling and inauthentic they really were. Also I wasn't expected (by them) to be as rude as they were to each other, they would get openly offended even though it was always done as an obvious joke. But they weren't really that chill with each other either, the more emotional one would get pissed quite often and then they would just brush it off. They would be quite inconsiderate and negligent with each other but I could tell it wasn't really perceived as a normal thing because they did express resentment to each other in their own ways and, moreover, they complained to me. They weren't really friends in a full sense but it seemed like they lacked the sincerety and trust, and I guess it would be GAY to openly admit it. It was just one company though, and I witnessed something similar in other friend groups but I'm sure not everyone's like that. I just don't really believe in the male friendship memes now, where you allegedly can say or do anything without filter but you still stay Real Friends. It can never be like that, ok? Words and actions matter even if you actively pretend they don't (what even matters then?). They might laugh it off but they do harbor resentment. And they think shitty communication (or lack thereof) makes their relationships superior, because what can be worse than doing something minimally uncomfortable and be a little open/vulnerable? Only they're really just lonely at the end of the day, and if they have a girlfriend or a friend that is a girl she quickly becomes an emotional toilet. Also since I hit puberty I had only one hetero male friend (not close one though but we were quite friendly) that wasn't interested in me romantically or sexually, and I think it's rare (but won't say impossible) to be genuine friends with a hetero male. Those who I talked to/hanged out with gradually started losing interest once it became apparent I wasn't going to sleep with them, and those who were """in love""" (idealizing and projecting some shit while ignoring our obvious incompatibility) grew resentful and passive aggressive and stopped talking to me at all once they got gfs. I had a gay friend that Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>393033
Fuck anyone who calls it mind beetus or whatever kek. Meds didn’t make me less retarded or more able to stick to one thing. After I stopped them I actually had more results by structuring my days a lot and doing a lot of exercise. I became a personal trainer so I can work out all day and not be a retard lmao

>>393046
>>393076
Thank you for your kind advice, nonnas. All I've read + your advice makes it pretty clear that my biggest ally will be a consistent exercise routine. I've been doing some cardio for the past 2 days, nothing big just a 15 minutes run before breakfast, and the effects on my stupid brain have been immediate. I'm in a better mood, the intrusive thoughts of being a failure have subsided and I feel like I could actually concentrate on like a logical task if need be. I'm hoping to keep it up, hopefully ascend past my retardation and catch up in life to the best of my abilities. Thank you again!

>>393076
Do you nonnies recommended getting off of adhd medicine? I’m on a very low dose and have been for 7 years. I’m also on wellbutrin…but I’m scared if I go off of the ADHD medicine I’ll struggle more than I already do academically, binge eat, and be too lazy and fatigued. I’m worried my brain will begin dopamine searching and I worry I don’t have enough resources or strength to avoid it right now. Maybe I can see how I do in summer? It doesn’t really hinder me aside from feeling too focused at times, but I’m wondering if, after all the bad side effects, I could be even better in a year? If maybe on just the wellbutrin

>>393396
>binge eat, be too lazy and fatigued
I went off of my adhd meds during covid because they were making me too anxious and I don't remember having a problem with this, BUT on days when i forget to take my adhd meds (went back on them) i have all of these issues. So maybe they're just short-term withdrawl?

>>393396
It's hard for anyone to answer that question for someone else but personally I think it's worse to go off adhd meds when you have very few responsibilities and don't need to keep a regular schedule. If you go without during summer break, it'll be a lot harder to practice discipline and then when you go back to school you will probably feel overwhelmed immediately and go back on the medication right away. I'd recommend doing a no-meds trial at the beginning of a school semester instead.

>>383475
fuck he hit the wall so bad this is a travesty

he's so crazy kek i love it

>>393466
moids who look like this are my weakness

>>393464
he used to be so cute before. I am not ready to see scott hit the wall too.

Fuck, it hurts to watch James's videos nonnies. They will never make nerds like him again, it hurts. I literally share so many interests and hobbies with him, and he's genuinely so fucking chill and cute. His wife is so lucky for snatching him while he was in his early 20s. I am never, ever going to met a cute boy who's into monster movies and kaijus and special effects, all modern fake '''nerds''' scrotes have ADHD and can't watch a single movie that doesn't have big tits and guns and explosions every 5 seconds. Dammit, i just want a cute boy i can hug and kiss while we watch Ultra Q.

How do you nerd loving nonies cope knowing that the cute, kind, autistic and chill nerd type is completly exctint and replaced by the soon to be trannoid gamergate faggot?

I'd like to keep my age private, but I am a female Pisces. My favorite song that I enjoy repeating almost daily is "I Need My Girl" by The National. I dream of being a creative director someday. Remotely, of course, because I want to travel.

My question so that I can get a reading: When and where will I meet my future wife?

Thank you.

>>393181
>And I've been listening to the ultimate silly playlist for boost energy on a loop for days.
Based, I like your vibe. I will read for you hold on

>will I get hired?
Six of cups, four of wands
Yes. You will get hired and people close to you will celebrate it with you. Happy times!
>will I get paid monthly for at least 3 years?
Ten of pentacles, king of swords
Yes, but be wise with your money. No sudden rash choices, ok? Be stern.
>will I be able to solve my financial issues?
Seven of swords, five of pentacles
No, unfortunately not all of them. You have someone in your proximity (I'm hearing family) who tends to be a leech, a beggar, someone deceitful. Careful
>will I have a financial stability soon?
Queen of pentacles, ten of cups
Yes, you will, and again it feels like it benefits others too. You like giving a lot to others. Don't be easily manipulable.
>will I be able to travel soon?
King of cups, five of pentacles
Not really, but these cards are telling you that when the time comes, the beggar in your life will try to manipulate you and you need to stay calm and be smarter than them.
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Could I get a one card prediction reading for each phase aka the present, the near future and the long term future?

I am feeling completely rudderless, and just got out of a miserable long term relationship. I’m trying to start afresh with everything but am struggling to pick myself up. I would be so grateful if someone could give me a reading. Thank you.

willing to trade a reading if anyone is interested. let me know your age, zodiac sign, and your question.
might be a little slow if work comes in.

>>393477
like seriously this >>393432 post applies to you too, can't post shit around here or hysteric bivestigators lose their minds

like if i am serious for a moment, for me the thought is all about how freeing it would be some ugly gremlin, what is my life and sexuality if not constantly being clouded by harassment and fetishization both as a woman and a lesbian? because of how fetishized lesbian sexuality is, it feels like there is always some invisible third party watching me, even during my private fantasies about women that robs me of my own sexuality in a sense, as if i can never truly exist just for myself but someone perving on me. the constant living under the male gaze is tiring and annoying so to me it is interesting to imagine myself as complete opposite of that, someone who is out of being fetishized and preyed upon. so yes i sometimes like to think what it would be like if i was an ugly fat loser man no one is attracted to instead of a woman and a lesbian.

>>391273
does anyone else here have a really hard time imagining themselves married and sharing a home with someone? not from a lack of options, but from liking being alone. i feel like i love my alone time so much that i'm not cut out for a serious long term relationship.

>>393503
I feel something in a similar way. I'm confident in my homosexuality, but I am so bad at continuing relationships with people I don't see everyday that I feel like I am destined to be alone. A part of it stems from me just not wanting to see people after I get off work because I need to recharge after acting like a nice lady for 5 days in a row. I like spending my time alone for the most part, and unless I'm imagining my life with my fictional crush I legit feel to autistic to fall in love with a real woman.

>>393297
Used to be, I no longer feel dysphoria

>>393503
Same, I'm a person who likes being alone and needs time to recharge from other people, but I also remember this occasion a couple of years ago when I was talking to a friend and he mentioned the same thing.
>"I don't see the point of constantly being with someone(a romantic partner), seems annoying and like a waste of time"
But at the time I was down BAD for a girl, like constantly thinking about her and smiling at the sight of her down bad, so I responded with something along the lines of:
>"When you actually like someone any time you spend with them is not a waste but a joy, you look up to the time you see them and actively want to spend time together"
And that's the truth, when you fall in love your entire personality and way of thinking just changes like that. Currently the idea of living with someone and constantly spending time with them seems unclmfortable and annoying to me because there's no one I'd want to do that with.
You'll find love some day nonnie ♥︎

I will get an A in my class despite having a useless lab partner.

They email me my payslip before tomorrow! pretty please dear universe? im kind and nice

I will find my card, my card will come back to me, if anyone got my card they will return it to me inmediatly.
Nonnas if you can plz help me woth this one or i might die wtf
I 100% HAVE MY CARD with me like right now and all the time

Please come here, I will get married in 2028

She didn't get an autism diagnosis, she got a BPD and anxiety diagnosis. That trans woman she is pursuing finally peaked her and she realized she threw her whole adolescence and early adulthood away for meaningless gender ideology and that none of it mattered and every trans woman is nothing but a moid playing pretend. She hates how she was such a pickme loser and feels like shit because she dropped out of community college to cam for pennies. She quit her retarded camgirl side hustle and goes back to school to earn a career to elevate her useless, but ass into an actual adult. She stopped pretending to have autism, she stopped ebegging and falsely claiming she was disabled, she stopped believing in retarded bullshit like ghosts and spirits and gender. She finally grew up and fixed her shitty, slobby life.

>>342540
Eight months late but god this is me

Weird maybe but I want a fuckboy woman to lightly manhandle me around while being selfish about it. She gets me all keyed up then makes me eat her out on my knees while she's leaning against the doorway where I finally pounced on her. Better yet, she crowds me against the wall (still on my knees) and "traps" me so I can't go anywhere or move in any way that her hand isn't guiding me in. She doesn't even let me grab onto her hips or ass at first, I have to keep my hands behind my back or something and earn it. When she's satisfied, she uses her shoe/foot to grind the inseam of my pants against my clit until I come just once compared to her 2-4 times. She's an objectively shitty hookup partner, she tries to stick her finger up my ass during sex, she makes me call her mistress and other cringe shit in bed, she always plays with my nipples a bit too hard, etc. I whine or complain at least a few times each time we fuck and she makes a big deal out of calling me a pillow princess for it (fucking idiot hypocrite). She's an asshole with a killer rack that she's always pressing up against me to get me to do whatever she says and I've pretty much memorized all her erogenous spots that make her shut up and sound sweet for once.
Once in a while though, she gets into a weird competitive mood where someone called her incompetent in some other area of life and it gets under her skin. She overcompensates by calling me over to her place and fucking the life out of me to feel in control and competent again. I can't even walk to the shower by the time she's through with me, and it's the rare time when she fusses over me and we cuddle and she makes me breakfast in bed the morning after.
But the tone quickly returns to a more casual, disrespectful hookup buddy where I insult every single aesthetic and life choice she makes and she keeps pinching my ass or groping me every chance she gets no matter if she's even in the mood or not to piss me off and get me hot and bothered to start the whole thing all over again.

>>393194
You're not alone! I love feet and shoes.
I really like the way feet look in heels, but i prefer flat open shoes where you can see toes. Heels really bring out the curve on the 'top' part of the foot.
I really want to kiss a woman's feet after massaging them (so i have an excuse to touch them kek). Or apply nail polish. Some people are really sensitive there, i dream of giving a woman pleasure from stroking her soles and toes, then climbing up her legs to eat her out after the massage

>>393161
Love your spergouts, i pray she sees how much you want and love her

>>393461
God the shoe thing sounds so hot

>>393194
i also like feet and shoes. it is somewhat scrote coded but harmless.

My cat was sleeping on his desk chair so he accepted his fate and just worked standing up

>>393269
>doesnt want gross porny misogynistic things.
>Asks to keep my used panties so he can smell them.
>Wants me to skip showers so he can smell my sweat and lick it.
>He likes kissing my feet and sucking my toes.

Doesn't he though?

>>393475
By gross and misogynistic I meant things like anal, stragulation and humiliation. But yes we're gross, youre correct.

My ex was overly concerned about my smell, taste and body hair. To the point where it made me insecure and turned off. My pleasure used to be entirely dependent on how I saw mysleld trough the mans eyes. It was all about me being youthful, hairless, submissive, kinky and willing to serve. Animals don't ruin their chances of reproducion by worrying about such. Just the smell of a female ready to mate is enough. Human males say they have preferences but they're actually just varying degrees of impotent.

I needed a gross man who gets turned on by the smell and taste of an adult woman. Like a caveman. A man that never gets bored of foreplay and vanilla sex. For me its a huge turn on that hes addicted to my smell of my used panties. Im the one with a reverse foot fetish, he is just turned on by pleasing me.

>>393475
How are those things porny or misogynistic? It's completely normal for a man to be attracted to how his girlfriend/wife smells and tastes, if not he's probably fucking gay. All the porn-addicted men you see aren't actually attracted to woman and are prissy losers turned off by any scent and body hair.
>>393498
>Human males say they have preferences but they're actually just varying degrees of impotent.
I've never seen it said this way, but this so fucking true.

>>393269
I'm happy for you nona

>>393475
>>393498
Kek sometimes i wonder if the 'leave him!!' anons cruelly lack experience when it comes to relationships and sex. Smell is a crucial part of affective bonds and lust. Women can be like this too

I think Paki-Chan is hot. No I will not elaborate.

Alice Weidel's really hot to me. Wish she wasn't the leader of Germany's premier far-right party. I love German accents on women. Her wife is from Sri Lanka, it's strangely hot kek. Racist in public/Loving to brown gf is such a good gap moe.

>>393427
I was going to ask for her facedox but i agree, regardless of her looks. I love angry strait-laced women

>>391398
Hannah's very cute. I have a slight preference for Jen though. They make an adorable black cat/golden retriever couple, i'd also love to be used by the two of them

>>393434
>Racist in public/Loving to brown gf is such a good gap moe.
no, bc i get it.

>>393427
Sorry nona, she only likes Aryan men…

>>393445
My first situationship was like this when i was younger.

>>393445