I hate the way 'daddy issues' has become a weird sexualised aesthetic trend but the memes have made me more open to poking fun at how much of a cliche I am. I've luckily never been abused but I had a new dad every few years growing up because sometimes shit just happens and juggling between them clearly affected my relationship with men. I've since mellowed but for years I would bend over backwards to be everyone's special darling whilst emotinally distancing myself and treating all men interchangeably. I'm starting to become paranoid that my childish interests could just stem from how I often infantilised myself as a teen to be the least threatening stepdaughter as possible (think 'The Orphan' lol). On the plus side it's nice that I grew up seeing that oneitus is bullshit, love isn't a reason to stay with someone that hurts you and also that you can find love more than twice in your life.
I believe most people have baggage no matter how great their parents are though and even if you have the perfect childhood you might still become a shit person. It's easy for someone who wasn't abused to say but you can't use past trauma as an excuse for everything you do, there is a clear difference between unpacking your upbringing and just living in it forever.
>>67824Many girls from all sorts of lives struggle with using sex as validation so even becoming self aware about it is a big step anon, but since you have a supportive partner I hope that you can open up to him about this and trust him to work with you. Your story is really impressive, I wish you the best