Nona, your post hits hard. Especially the part about how being ignored and growing up being detached from the people around you makes you observe all of this hell from a perspective that sees no worth in it. My mom was and still is stuck in a shitty relationship with a low grade emotionally impaired moid (my dad) and watching her sacrifice herself time and time again while he does absolutely nothing is so depressing and I would never want a life like that for myself. I understand why women allow themselves to be exploited like that because it's literally programmed into us since birth, but I hate how everyone acts like it's a force of nature that can't be meddled with. It's like all women fear that if they stand up for themselves, men will collectively take away our rights - sort of what has happened with the abortion rights being revoked in the US completely as a reaction to the popularity of feminism.
But that said, the main reason seems to ultimately be the absolute concern over remaining attractive to men: you can't be the mean bitch setting up boundaries for the men around you or he'll stop seeing you as a person. The women I know might be very staunch feminists but when they have to stand the fuck up and tell a man to stop, they immediately turn their heads to avoid ever exposing themselves as anything else but the Cool Girls. It's so depressing and disillusioning that it actually makes me want to rope thinking back to all the times I expected them to have my back only to be disappointed in their nonexistent spine. >>319422
God, yes. I'm now in my 30's and in that exact age of the women I know getting married and having kids, and I dread this every single day. Even the childfree women become those "wifeys" who lose all their interest in everything outside of their homes and just want to stay indoors with their shitty husbands or
they bring their "hubby" literally everywhere they go like he was some sort of an emotional support pet. I'm hoping that things settle when we're in our 40's to 50's and everyone has finally blackpilled on men and just want to get outside of their homes.