>>520158100% agree that the word "lesbian" needs to stop being applied to women who enjoy (or have enjoyed) sex with men. Words have meanings, and I really wish "febfem" were more popularized as a term for women who had sexual relationships with men in the past, but now only exclusively sleep with women. I'm sympathetic to the lesbians who feel like the label meant to describe them is functionally meaningless now.
However, I also find the rhetoric from self-identifying "gold star lesbians" (especially here) to be troubling and sad. They are fully entitled to not want to date bisexuals or febfems, and to voice those opinions. But some of them take it way too far in a way that sounds awfully conservative, puritanical, and misogynistic. They view a vagina that has ever been penetrated as unclean (guess that means they would never date a rape survivor, classy), and they view any woman who has ever willingly had sex with a man as a whore, slut, or a vector for disease. I understand that they're venting their frustration with homophobia from straight women and bad experiences with bisexuals, but their beliefs and rhetoric still enforce very ugly attitudes toward women and sex held by society at large. The logic goes, if you're not GS you're bisexual, and if you're bisexual, you're a dirty whore forever tainted by cock, as if dick has some kind of magical, soul-corrupting properties. I'm sorry to bring scrotes into it, but GS gay scrotes aren't this vitriolic towards bisexual moids; no, they mostly save their nasty sentiments for women (i.e., saying we're catty, we hate sex, we're dramatic, etc). Why is it that when women experience hardship or frustration, so often we turn on each other like this?
I'm just mystified by all of this, it seems so neurotic and bitter. And frankly, the people most invested in this debate seem very young, as evidenced by anons involved using TikTokspeak like "crash out" and even admitting to being teenagers. What this tells me is that these reductive, rigid positions are in part caused by a lack of life experience, and potentially also loneliness, since right now is a very hard time to be a baby lesbian. The lesbian bars are all gone, and the scene is totally flooded with troons and spicy straights. I can see why that would be a very isolating, depressing experience that could lead someone to lash out, because they have no emotion
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