/g/ - girl talk

>>282199
You absolutely should be pissed. If the man is this irresponsible, why link your finances with him in any way by moving in together?
>He once moved in together with his last gf who was, by his description, probably borderline and it was a disaster, but I feel put out that he is projecting his experience with her onto me
A crazy ex girlfriend story, kind of suspicious to me. Do you know more about her to really believe him?
> He's been stuck in a shitty job for 2 years because he won't apply for anything better.
Again, this is a man you want to live and link finances with? No interest in getting a better job?
>He's been living in a roach motel hovel for 2 years because he can't be assed to look for a better place.
If someone is willlingly living in a roach-infested place I would again question moving in. Do you actually think he would care about cleanliness and doing his share of chores?
>He also has depression because a family member died a few years ago… but like, everyone has to deal with those things.
If he's still struggling with grief, especially if it was someone he was close to it's understandable but he can't let his depression control his life if he wants to be in a relationship.

>>282162
being in a relationship with someone who matched my texting style and really cared opened my eyes to it being important, and if a man doesn't get that then move on.

>>282211
he's cleanly, but the place itself is fundamentally scuzzy. it isn't literally infested with roaches. it's just a really crappy budget place that's pretty disgusting and the entire house smells like mildew. but he's been living there at least 2 years and hasn't attempted to move somewhere better.
i've been giving him a break because the rental market is very expensive here, and we aren't vaccinated so he's had to put off going back for more education and a certification. he does have a bachelors degree.

He has issues but like, I have my own issues and handle them and still get my shit done. I don't know how to make him get over it and become involved. from my perspective i feel like i'm multitasking like a madman and he's just leaving everything to me to accomplish. he apologized for it the other day and felt really bad, but that doesn't make it happen and he didn't agree to be willing to do anything to help. now he's not even being responsive in text so i can make tour appointments. i feel very stressed and don't know if i should make a big deal about him helping or not. like he hasn't responded to my texts about if a time is okay with him or not. and it's been 4 hours. am i unreasonable to be upset about this? i'm also about to have my period and know i am more grumpy than normal.

his relative died at least 4 years ago, it might be 5, i dont know the exact date. i feel like he should get over it by now but dont want to say that.

>>282210
I don’t even know if I want to respond, part of me does and part of me doesn’t. My logical side is telling me it won’t achieve anything to do so, the situation won’t change and what’s done is done. My dumb sympathetic nerdy side however wants me to reply for the sake of working it out because it’s stupid enough to think the situation will change and he will better next time if I do explain my issue with him rn, which is highly stupid.

>>282212
He matches my texting style when it suits him, the later part about caring however he clearly doesn’t. Only cares about his own ego and that’s why he’s responsive when I’m mad or walking away. I wish I could meet a good egg and not an egotistical scrote.

>>282214
With what you said. Don’t respond. Don’t. You’re not going to work it out. He’s not going to do anything different. He might apologize. He might try for half a second but ultimately it will happen again and every time it does it will make it feel worse anon. He's telling you over and over again you don’t matter unless you’re leaving why would you want to be friends or close to someone who shows you regularly you don’t matter? Even if he’s got a mental health issue or some shit. That’s his responsibility not yours.

>>282185
As opposed to straight moids who only use condoms if their partner nag them and have sex with prostitutes?

>>282187
enjoy putting a cock that had shit on it into your mouth

>>277593
Nazis had the most stylish army clothes

>>282187
bisexual moids have the worst aspects of straight moids AND the worst aspects of gay moids anon

>>282185
>>282188
>>282194
eh it's hot in fantasy but yeah i would not recommend putting in practice

>>282045
of course someone like you would say this. how could you know what it’s like to want something you’ve never been without…

Would you consider it weird for two inexperienced women to date if there was an age gap? I know it's very creepy for older moids to seek out younger girls for lack of experience, but what if it's two women that are equally inexperienced? Does it still come off as creepy to you? I say this as an (almost) 24 year old that hasn't dated before and I wouldn't be opposed to dating an older woman in early to mid 30s I've had some attractions to women older but I think someone as old as my mom would be very weird for me personally Tbh I think seeking inexperience is only creepy if you're seeking it out as leverage or a 'purity' fantasy

>>282202
Is 24 and someone in their early 30's really that big of an age gap? It depends a lot on your life situation though, there's a lot of variation between people aged 24-30. A 35-year old moid and a 21-year old woman would ring alarm bells for me but if it's a woman in her mid 20s and a woman in her early to mid 30s it doesn't sound as predatory. I'd be more concerned with that big of an age gap just making you hard to relate to each other than it being an unhealthy power dynamic.

>>282202
I think it's weird and gross on the older woman's end. Being inexperienced with sex/relationships doesn't make someone an honorary young person or somehow "mentally" immature. I knew women in their 30s who purposely go out with early 20s because "they're inexperienced and need to find someone to match up with that", and that just feels like a BS excuse to live out some age gap fantasy. I missed a lot of "transitory" years of my life (dropped out of college prematurely, was outright fired from my first job and took years for me to get a new one, have never dated because I was forcibly outed once in high school) and struggle with feeling immature, but dating someone more than 2 years younger wigs me out because legal adult teenagers and early 20s look like kids in comparison to a 30 year old. I actually have talked to women in their early-mid 30s who are inexperienced and are too embarrassed to go on apps as a result, so it's not like inexperienced women that are their age don't exist.

>>282202
24 is too young for a 30something, speaking as someone who is late 20s. It's not just about sexual experience, it's also about life stages and how easy it is to manipulate someone when you know how their brain works at that younger age. I would have too much power over someone who is 24, even in minor ways. The young person tends to inadvertently look up to the older person and that would be something that makes me uncomfortable as the older party, wouldn't be able to trust the younger person to draw healthy enough boundaries when her brain isn't even done developing. If it's casual sex then it's not a huge deal especially if you're both late bloomers or whatever but a fully fledged relationship requires peers imo.

>>281524
Yeah, I used to watch another tarot card reader and sometimes when she would get a negative card she would say something more positive or flip the card right side up and say something like… "and so it shall be" I really liked that. The cards just give us an answer or guidance of the most possible of outcomes but we still have the power to change what happens. We are the writers of our own stories. I hope your bad premonitions don't happen either sending you some light and love. Besides working on healing my inner child lexapro also helped with my paranoia lol.

Also asked universe to pick a card for you and it was King of Cups upright. All about balancing your life if you want to read more! https://labyrinthos.co/blogs/tarot-card-meanings-list/king-of-cups-meaning-tarot-card-meanings#:~:text=The%20King%20of%20Cups%20is,calm%20waters%20that%20surround%20him

>>280616
Hi, nervous about everything anon here. Thank you for doing my reading, I greatly appreciate it. We just looked at apartments today and idk that anything will come of it but I don’t feel miserably nervous about it for now lol I’m happy with the cards that came up, other than swords (which is always an “oh no” suit for me). The fool and two of cups are both very welcomed!

Bump for racebaiting scrote.

It would be REALLY cool if people stopped responding to it.

>>278725
>>278805
Samefag but yeah my group changed and i talk to some other people more.
Although i'd like to know if any changes are coming that i should be wary of? Had a weird feeling the last 2 days but i don't feel that way now
Any direction i should take just in case?

I'm back to try my hand at some more channeled spirit guide readings. I'll do at least three (3) for now, maybe more. Just give me your question please.

>>282049

We’re actually really good communication wise, I think this is just me being a nervous wreck. I have a mini surprise reveal planned which is why I was waiting to tell him anyway, it’s just weird being the only one who knows right now.
Thank you! I’m definitely just being a bit crazy kek despite what it seems, I’m actually super excited and thrilled!

>>282030
Aw a baby farmer, congrats and all the best to your family!

Not my baby but my brother and his lovely wife just had a little girl, they live in another country so we are going to organise to fly over in September to meet her. I can't wait!

>>281910
Giving birth once and paying thousands=/= paying a thousand each month and having your wages scale so you can see the doctor whenever you want without going bankrupt

Anyway fucking choose one euroshits. Is America shit tier with healthcare or are you being driven to your last penny in taxes?

Did anyone take/plan on taking early maternity leave? I'm thinking of going around 33/34 weeks to have some time to myself before the birth (never going to have it ever again), just like to hear other anons experiences

>>281881
I think you need an intense form of therapy like EMDR. It will help reprogram your emotions and allow the weight of all the horrific shit you’ve gone through to be lifted off your shoulders. Carrying that stress around, even if you’re not actively experiencing it, can have severe physical effects as well. If you deal with your trauma headfirst I’m sure you will see a domino effect in the other areas of your life.

Hi anons, just going to preface this long-ass post with an apology kek, this is probably going to be very long (I can't reall tell though because I'm mobileposting) I need advice on how to become more confident in myself. I've always struggled with anxiety and self-esteem issues but I'm noticing it affecting me more recently. I do have friends and we do hang out and stuff, I do have people in my life that seem to like me and I like them. I just can't shake these feelings:
>I'm not "as much" of a person as my friends
>I tricked them into being friends with me and they don't know how lame and pathetic I am, and if they did they wouldn't want to be friends
>The only thing I have going for me is my looks. People really only like me and tolerate me because I'm good looking.
>My schooling situation was weird and very lacking and so I always feel stupid around people.
>I can be pretty good with conversation, but afterwards I get self-conscious because I was, and still am, obsessed with reading articles online and I really only have a shallow understanding of what I'm talking about and so I always feel like a huge fake when I talk to people
>I know I am lucky to look the way I do but I still don't really believe that I am all that good looking and I have a really hard time accepting and believing compliments
>always feel like something bad is about to happen; my friends will all find out how pathetic I am and drop me or they'll just randomly stop talking to me, etc.
>I can't even like attractive guys or even think of romantic scenarios with them because I don't think they'd ever want to get with me

Basically I have a really shitty self-esteem, I struggle with feeling "real" compared to other people, I struggle to accept and believe compliments, I feel like everything about me is fake or shallow, etc.
How do I break out of this sort of thinking? How do I stop the shitty self-esteem? I just don't want to be constantly zeroed in on my stupid, made up problems that seem to have no basis in reality considering that my friends do seem to like me and they think I'm funny. I just HATE that my brain is so occupied with these thoughts. I don't think it's normal to think aboutPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>282168
Read this book (you can pirate it from libgen and put it on your phone) and do the excersises (don't skip them). You're not gonna get better advice here than what's written in this book and this book systematically works through the whys, hows and solutions for low selfesteem.

>>282171
Thanks nona. I was planning on going to the library today so I hope I can find it. If I don't I will try out other books like it; books about self-esteem are a great idea. Thank you!

I got mistaken for a boy 4 times this week. Each time I go outside for a whole week I'm sure I'll get mistaken for a dude. I'm short, i have short hair, I'm lean and i wear loose clothes. I love doing sports and I usually like more conventionally male activity such as team sports and robotics, and I think that's quite stupid to say because most women are behind modern tech, and team sports is more enjoyed and soulful in female team than male teams.

Also, I was told I have the male type of autism aka Jordan Peterson one. Being from north Africa descent, i have strong features. I remember how the app giggle read me as a man, but read an Asian troon a woman. I'm tired of being called a tranny each time I voice chat because I do have this monotonous frog voice. I wish I could shine feminity. At least when I was fat my curves read better, now I just look like some Pakistani dude and each time I look at my jaw, I wonder whether to shave it like scrotes tell me to or to just troon out and become an ayden.

I get picked on by men telling me that I'm a failed woman, and by women telling me I'm a failed man. It deeply hurts me that even when it's as a joke, as a banter and I answer back, it still hurts a lot to be treated almost less than a tranny because I have ethnic features and bad socialization. The way I dress doesn't help either, but I'd rather die than be seen in a tight office dress (i have a hourglass figure and all fashion magazine tell me to dress like a Latina hooker lol), i dress, look and act like an ayden AKA I'm GNC, and it's pretty much out of the picture for me to change in order to please handmaiden and scrotes.

I'm looking for advices to learn how to stop caring about it all, I'm not even speaking about self acceptance yet or self love. Because I know it's what I should do. No matter how much fat I lose or how much hair I grow, I'll always be this way. My ex who dated me came out as a homosexual femboy last year, so I just know for a thing that men interested in me are just testing the water in their closet. It's something I can't change, at least not without surgery, and I'd be no less different than an insecure self hating ayden if I did that.

>>282017
I'M AWAKE, I'm awake

>>281353
ACTUALLY what canonically happened is that Murdoc got arrested, so they brought in Ace from Powerpuff Girls to cover for him while Murdoc was in jail, kek

>>281450
Omg amazing. Also I'm so glad everyone is onboard with the Gorillaz hornyposting this week

For some reason this nerd grew on me. I just like nerd boys, sigh.

>>278141
omg that pic of him in the last panel JESUS

does anyone else get jealous when other ppl have the same husbando? only for a fleeting moment ?

>>282033
The only two things he thinks about are fighting and eating, he can literally eat while he sleeps , so I don't think that he's the stingy type. He probably won't care if you grab something, if he didn't finish it already.

>>282015
kek what having sex with a woman wearing a dildo is not even close to having sex with a man.

>>282073
Nice

>>281926
Okay, thanks anon.
>>282015
I mean, I can't agree that being topped by a woman is basically being topped by a man. Butches aren't men or else lesbians who like them wouldn't be lesbians and would date men instead. (They aren't diet men either, they're very clearly women)
That said I absolutely want to top the butches as well heh.

Anyway, you are right that just being open about interests will hopefully net me the right people.

>>282073
>>282120
I think this is my favorite flavor of femdom. Time to manifest a competent author who'll write this 300-page reverse bodice ripper for me

>>282021
Did you miss the part about hurting men physically and making them uncomfortable? Get the fuck out of here tourist other wise lurk more before making inane comments.

>>281916
The problem isn't that he's "a twink," it's that his jaw is all creepy and fucked up looking. He looks like the emaciated dude from Corpse Bride. I'm amazed that's what he naturally looks like. Imagine coming out of the womb looking like you got botched by a Korean plastic surgeon.

You guys have just been memed into thirsting for him in the same way men have been memed into finding Kim K attractive.

>>282153
his jaw looks like that because he's super skinny. it does look kinda weird sometimes but it's really not that off-putting unless you're the kind of person who obsesses over a single facial feature.
kim k doesn't even look human how are you comparing him to that.

>>282064
i don't think he's super attractive but at worst he's just normal/average. the only reason people are calling him ugly is in retaliation to the 14 year old girls who made him seem like a super model when he started getting big in hollywood. it's not like he himself made his whole persona about his looks :/

Lamby-chan single-handedly reaffirms any possible attraction to moids.

>>282153
Is it natural though? I always thought it was some sort of filler fuckery.