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ok I made a mistake I meant to copy paste>>If I ask him to not masturbate for a week he'll do it
the not watching pron thing is good
I didn't want to be TIM but basically we sometimes don't see each other for a whole week and we both agree to not masturbate so we can keep our sexual energy for each other
none of my ex bf ever agreed to that before.
>Genuinely loves me for who I am - I'm a thinker, whilst he's a doer, but still listens to my philosophical rants and engages with them as much as possible
>Invested in understanding how to support me with my bipolar as soon as we started dating, still supportive 4 years later
>Has never judged me for my past, also never gets funny about it (has an admirably small ego)
>Is an incredible and involved father to our 1 year old, especially in comparison to other fathers I know
>Provides so I can work part-time and raise our kid
>Have trauma surrounding sex which he is very considerate of; doesn't watch porn and, if I'm having a bad time, will stop mentioning sex altogether until I'm okay again
>Is a smart, thoughtful, caring, truly nice guy, who also happens to be very sexy and attractive heart eyes
Honestly, I feel so lucky to be sharing my life with this man and to have had his child.
>>113327> he’s kind of a sub except in bed
can we please stop applying terms like subs and doms to normal non-bdsm relationships
In bed my favorite position is missionary and my husbands is cowgirl(their is no or doms or bottom in this )
This thread hurts to read :(
especially this one >>113331
I'm so jealous
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this thread is depressing me. i want romance in my life. i feel like every guy i meet is obsessed with fucking and dumping.
I don't know what to say
Its mostly luck finding a good guy as majority of men are shit
Yah, so fucking what? Plenty of men (and women) out there aren't even capable of bare minimum. Sounds like you're bitter that other people are happy. >>113370
I met mine by taking a complete chance on someone I met randomly and wouldn't have usually gone for. If the vibe is good (and the idea of getting physical doesn't turn your stomach obv), give them a chance.
No man ever took an interest in me until I was 24, and I found my bf on tinder.
He's seriously out of my league, even if he doesn't see it that way.
Just make an effort with your appearance anon, my photos weren't even that great.
Good luck, you'll find him one day!
Pretty sure this is the same anon from another thread who went on about how paying for everything for your spouse and buying them gifts on the regular is "the bare minimum".
I've noticed this is a pretty common cope for lonely people.
You're living the dream anon!
Wish you the best!
>>113438>>6’4 which is great since I’m taller
How tall are you ?
also are you two deciding to have kids
oh I may have misinterpreted what you were saying a
I assumed you were saying you were taller then him
I've been almost seven years with my boyfriend and I still think he's the best thing that has happened to me.
> takes care of his looks (goes to the gym, buys nice clothes for himself)
> smells divine even when sweating
> is funny and still tries to make me laugh all the time
> intelligent and likes to challenge me, great at speaking about feelings and thoughts
> still takes care to remember anniversaries and having semi-regular date nights and buys me flowers and chocolate every once in a while
> is a sub in bedroom, let's me have my way without being a dead fish
> has supported me through bipolar disorder, doing extra chores when I've been too depressed to do my part, buying me surprises to lift my mood, even gone to therapy with me when I first started going there to show support
> has promised me that I can be a stay-at-home mom when we get a child and that I can stay home even after that to pursue my dream of becoming an author, which he knows won't be easy (honestly though I think I will just work part-time if possible, I don't want to strain our relationship with money issues)
Our relationship has always been very steady and loving, we've had only one fight in all these years. I love him so freaking much, he is my best friend.
nta but>only had one fight in 7 years>a hassle
>>113671>is a sub in bedroom, let's me have my way without being a dead fish
Can I ask what exactly happens in the bedroom ?
like do you do any femdom stuff or is it normal PIV with oral
Oh I thought by "sub" you meant you would take charge more,or be the on top not full on femdom
I don't think I could ever be with a man thats into femdom
Aww anon, that's so sweet! I wish my husband wrote a poem for me. He's pretty good about the comfort food though.
What kind of accent does your bf have?
Thank you, I would have never thought of writing one myself before, maybe you could drop a hint or write him one first? Even just a little funny one.
I don't want to be too specific but a local manly kind of accent, so it made him shyly reading a poem even cuter.
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he isn't conventionally attractive hence we were 'just friends' at first. but his personality, devotion and the little things he does drew me in.
>fell in love with me at first sight
>platonic friends first but later fell for him when he confessed he loved me all those years ago
>doesn't play video games or watches tv/movies unless i force him
>shares a hatred in anime with me
>has niche hobbies - reading, writing, poetry, cooking/baking, outdoor activities like hiking, kayaking canoeing, gardening, guitar
>does whatever i tell him to do - literally anything
>i.e. i told him to write smut/romance novella for me even though he's against all forms of pornography
>writes songs, stories and poems for me whenever i feel down
>does majority cooking and cleaning; he'd do all of it but i feel bad and help out sometimes lol
>learns recipes for me after discovering what types of food i like
>will go out in the middle of the night to curb my cravings for a french fries
>obliges in my creepy fetishes despite being über vanilla (i.e. cross dressing in women's lingerie, licks my weird erogenous zones like feet and arm pits)
>gfless and kissless virgin
>shy prude who hates nudes - i kept trying to send him nudes of myself while we were LDR and he told me he'd rather wait and see me in person
>only attracted to me (idk if he lied about this but this is what he claims)
>works out and eats right so he looks good for me
>lets me dress him up to my tastes
>gets interested in my hobbies and invests time in them i.e. watches my dumb tv shows
>accepts my decision for non-penetrative sex (medical reasons) even though he has a rather juicy dick that's gone to waste
>will never let me give him a BJ
>his favorite thing in the world is to give oral because it 'shows' his love, devotion and appreciation for me
>cheesy hopeless romantic
>not afraid to show his sensitive feminine side
>gives long massages without expecting me to massage him back
>randomly caresses me softly - just rubs his hands up and down my body while we're lying in bed and plays with my hair
>always compliments me even when i feel hideous
>accepts my flaws: acne, stretch marks, cellulite, overweight, hairy (i don't shave sometimes and i turn into bigfoot), moustache on upper lip
>will take my last name instead of the other way around
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you are living the dream
To all anons with awesome boyfriends, how’d you meet him? Help.
I need to find my perfect bf >>113802>>113313>>113323>>114315
this is absolute bait but honestly goalz
>against anal >will never let me give him a BJ
Is this that same guy who doesn't eat fruit?
Must be his twin.
There was an anon who posted in multiple threads about her socially inept bf who did nothing but exercise and read. And she also just casually threw in there that he didn't eat fruit.
Actually…I'm pretty sure that was necessaryspeed4? I guess mods would ban this anon if it was her.
I love this thread because like >>113424
I hate gushing over my bf with even my taken friends since they're in kinda shitty relationships atm and I feel bad.
>is literally my ideal physical type and ridiculously attractive/out of my league imo; I'm still crushing on him to an embarrassing extent 2 years later>is an amazing cook and does all of the cooking for both of us, regularly makes me breakfast in bed>buys me whatever I want or need (makeup, skincare, food, crafting supplies, weed, etc.)>surprises me with "just because" roses, chocolate covered strawberries, and plushies on a regular basis >writes me long love letters that he hides in beautiful cards for every single holiday >loves and respects women, hates misogynist bullshit so he's relatively picky with his male friends (but also doesn't have a bunch of thirsty female friends)>is a loving, supportive brother to his siblings and is always looking out for them; same with his friends>I've got adhd/anxiety and a chronic illness and he's constantly doting on me, helping me with my medications, going to appointments with me, buying me gifts whenever I'm having a really bad day/week health-wise>amazing with children and animals>buys and does everything for our dog who's just as obsessed with him as I am>very physically fit and takes great care of his body; doesn't care that I'm not kek but is always super supportive and helpful when I try to actually hit the gym>has a really clever and fun sense of humor and is always making me laugh>excellent listener, not just when it comes to serious relationship/personal things, but also actively placates my autistic screeching about shit I like>insists (bc I'm constantly wondering even though he doesn't give me a good reason to) that he doesn't care that I'm still a (penetrative) virgin due to medical and other reasons and is constantly bragging about how sexually satisfied he is in our relationship>speaking of which, huge dick that I can't wait to actually put to proper use >no degenerate kinks or fetishes, but will try/do anything I want in the bedroom >always wants to have sex whenever I do, but never throws a tantrum or makes me feel bad at all if I'm not in the mood>is always telling me how beautiful/gorgeous/sexy he thinks I am despite how gross I feel like 99% of the time >supports all of my hobbies and interests, even if they clearly aren't his thing he's always so sweet and enthusiastic about them >very neat and organized, always keeps our place super clean even when I've made the mess >rubs my back until I fall asleep every single night>never judges any of my overt weirdness and genuinely finds it cute and endearing>highly empathetic and gives me and my friends great advice and consolation>wants to support me financially while I pursue my dreams (writing/art) >helped me take care of a sick, dying relative for months before their passing>we've both lost a parent, so we take really good care of each other when it comes to grief and similar traumas>does a ton of work around the house, fixes our computers, car, etc. by himself >will drop everything to help me with anything at all or just be there for me if I need him>insanely affectionate; always kisses, hugs, cuddles me, and tells me, and anyone who will listen, how much he loves me and can't wait to marry me every single day
I'm gonna stop there because I sound insufferably spoiled - tbh most of this is a 2-way thing, but I just wanted to focus on him obvi - but yeah, I love him so much and can't believe he's even remotely real. I'm so fucking lucky.
'Not my nigel' is a phrase used to describe women's defensiveness against feminist critiques of men because their
boyfriend/husband is great and not sexist and it doesn't apply to them. Like, for example 'men are bad' 'well my nigel isn't!'.
Anon using it in the subject is just tongue in cheek, it doesn't mean 'good boyfriend'.
What bugs me is that if roles were inverted everyone would be angry at what an abusive
relationship this is. This is sad and worrying and you're the worst.
This actually sounds like a ticking time bomb, like one day he'll get fed up of the power dynamic you have. When you find a man who is a people pleaser like this: don't take advantage
My first bf was basically like this and I fucking broke him by thinking that dynamic was 'so cool'
You're either a liar or an abusive
cunt. You don't deserve him.
Shut the fuck up anon. You sound bitter and triggered
as fuck. Who hurt you?
Lmao bragging about not eating fruit>>125134
this is too wholesome
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I’m pretty sure this is you anon
These both sound amazing, truly ideal tbh.>>125166
I think it depends, we don't know if he's actually a people pleaser or if he just has that dynamic that with her. Besides if you have good communication you shouldn't be breaking anyone.
It sure ticks alot of the boxes on what we know about Pheebs..
The no penetrative sex thing.. if there's a medical cause then get help cos it's not a realistic expectation for a young guy to truly accept that long term, resentment will pop up eventually in a no bj and no sex relationship ..
why is everyone so angry over what i put in my post? >>125155>>125161 >>125172
i don't see how abusive
i am in it. maybe it's because i left a lot of information out, worded things strongly and just wrote what i find are the most endearing sides of him. he is a pushover for me only but i don't take advantage of him. he's just considerate and thoughtful, doing most of the things he does out of his own accord to make me happy. >>125166>>125227
i'm not quite sure how to describe our dynamic but i really enjoy teasing and flirting with him over how prudish he is. there aren't any power-play dynamics and i don't know how my post implied that?>>125119
all of this is not bait and is actually true believe it or not.>>125252
i have a tilted uterus and vaginismus so PIV is super painful.>>125206oof
… i actually have a waist
I've spent two decades dating with similar medical/PIV issues and you can often make it years into dating someone before they tell you the truth. I was married to one perfect seeming partner for two years before I was suddenly informed it was a make or break deal. That was after 5 years together and lots of communication on the issue. That pattern repeated itself (minus the wedding) for two more long term relationships. I found online communities where alot of women are in the same boat. It's not a failure on our part but it's a harsh reality, often several years in it can become an issue, even after marrying and buying a house together etc
I think couples counselling before marriage is important when certain types of intimacy are off the table. Not trying to be negative but looking back I wish I had more realistic views in my twenties
Hi I'm >>114315
Honestly, I met him a year before we dated and we hung out from time to time. He was from a streamer's discord and was the only one up late enough to talk to (since he's European). I thought he was funny and kinda cute. He asked me out kinda saying it like a joke and wasn't expecting me to respond positively.
Our relationship was a little awkward as first but I got to know him more and it was nice. He's honestly the funniest guy I know and hearing him talk gives a smile to my face :). Our relationship is getting stronger and stronger. It's the heading towards our 2 year anniversary and I am visiting him soon. Eep I'm excited.
Not everyone who disagrees with you is a man, retard. It sounded like she puts no effort into the relationship and he's doing all the work.>>125357
You should get treated, anon. Unless he's asexual, he's not gonna put up with no PIV, especially since he's against anal.
..And he refuses BJs
There is treatment for vaginismus, I've successfully had it and have dealt with cervical issues on top of that, I don't know why some women are so quick to say 'oh well no sex for life'
He gives her oral though? The tell-tale sign of a man being gay is being repulsed by cunnilingus or touching a woman's genitals.>>125606>>125613
Eh, I think if someone doesn't want PIV they shouldn't have to train themselves to like it for someone else. Most men wouldn't do the same thing for women if it was painful/uncomfortable. Sounds like they are compatible since they both don't seem to mind no PIV
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My Nigel is perfect for me. Brags:
>gets turned on the most from giving me oral
>is actually amazing at oral and is the only guy to make me cum from it ever
>hard worker at his job, is building a great career/accomplishing his goals
>is humble and not some egomaniac like most guys
>very thoughtful and kind to everyone he meets, is well liked a d respected by everyone he knows
>we have all the same hobbies and the same sense of humor
>never lets me buy my own food
>doesn't want kids
>DMs private dungeons & dragons games just for me
>always compliments me and loves my natural body (doesn't nag me to shave etc)
>doesn't judge me even though my room is like pic related
I could go on forever really. Hes just so good!!! I feel so lucky and tell him a lot and he gets really shy and loves the attention. So cute
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My Nigel made me this
Eh I'd rather a guy get an erection just from smelling me than nu males who can't even get or stay hard
Eating ass isn't everyone's cup of tea but I like it and oral on my ass and pus is a def for me, everything is better when you let yourself be nasty
Most men willing to go down on women are also willing to eat ass, but sadly there seems to be surplus of young men who are afraid of giving basic oral sex to women, so obviously eating ass would be out the question for them.
This doesn't include men who are bothered if the woman is smelling or tasting bad, which even then is fixable with diet and giving up smoking, drinking, drugs, etc.
Most men willing to go down on women are also willing to eat ass, but sadly there seems to be surplus of young men who are afraid of giving basic oral sex to women, so obviously eating ass would be out the question for them.
This doesn't include men who are bothered if the woman is smelling or tasting bad, which even then is fixable with diet and giving up smoking, drinking, drugs, etc.
In my experience a good deal of men are dying to eat ass and it's women who are turning it down about half the time, at least that's what my group of friends share
I don't like receiving it and have had to explicitly state to guys that I don't want their tongue wandering after noticing guys go ahead and do it -right after I say not to-
i thought so. who uses the terms 'chads' and 'betas' anyways if not men?>>125629>>125630>>125631
he's definitely not gay or trans. i make him wear girlie things because i like men wearing stuff like that and i'm bisexual myself. i just did it as a joke to see if he'd actually did it and he actually did surprisingly. he told me before we became a couple he used to fantasize about going down on me all the time and never once thought of bjs. he actually fantasized about eating me out more than PIV. >>125606>>125539
like all men, he eventually wants to lose his v-card so i'm hoping i can deliver once i get my medical problems figured out. i'm in a bad time in my life rn to worry about all that so i've been delaying it to get it fixed. for tilted uterus, i heard you just can't do positions from behind because it pokes the cervix painfully.
>>126193>basically a cat with opposable thumbs
This sounds like an actual healthy relationship. Good on you anon
They're not scrotes she's just abusive
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>super socially competent, people like to be around him
>has a lot of hobbies, made a career out of his guitar hobby
>is a fulltime carer for a severely disabled guy as a job (have a lot of respect for the patience this takes, and how genuinely proud he is to be helping someone who needs it)
>great at oral, loves giving and is never sexually demanding in return.
>focuses on my wants in bed, respectful and gentle- no real fetishes but we have a very ''mild'' femdom dynamic
>cooks and cleans, accommodates my specific dietary needs without any complaints.
>despite being a farm-raised swede in a family of picky eaters, he loves trying my countries food and loves when we experiment with cooking.
>gave up porn and took time to read up on the problems with porn after we discussed my issues with it
>discourages his friends from consuming porn, vocally expresses that it's exploitative
>has lots of female friends, listens to us often.
>when an acquaintance spoke out about his close friend/roommate raping her, he immediately believed her without question, moved out and cut off the rapist.
>respects my strong beliefs on feminism and goes out of his way to read up on it too since he sees how much it means to me.
>raised well and loves his mom, when we visit his parents he always works extra hard to clean up/help around the house so his mother can have a break (she has 5 other kids)
>proud of everything I do, is always telling his friends about how cool he thinks my job is/how much he loves me
>we never fight, he never raises his voice at me and we always come to a healthy compromise when we have disagreements.
>has a genuine understanding of fashion and a very distinct style
I love him!! He is so devoted and respectful, I cannot believe sometimes that I've found someone so compatible with me. I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
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I know that it's a cliche thing to say, but when I'm with him it really does feel like the outside world and all of my worries melt away - like it's just me and him in the world!
I really do love everything about him. I love his weirdness and how he teases me. We have the same hair colour and almost the same eye colour and quite similar personalities, so we always joke that we're actually aliens from a different planet, heh. I love dumb things like that. He's genuinely like a guy from one of those silly otome games. I've been learning how to flirt in French recently because of him (he's fluent in it) , and now we can hold full on conversations in French just flirting with each other. I can't even hold a 'normal' conversation in French, but ask me to flirt with you in French and I'll be able to, all because of that dork. We get along so well. I really believe that true love exists now, and for all anons reading this, I really wish the best for you and for you to find it too if you haven't already!! I know I'm gushing and I'm kind of sleepy but he just makes me so happy it's unbelievable. Anons, the world is good sometimes. REALLY good. I feel like what I'm writing right now isn't even enough to just express how good he is, how much we get along and just how well we click together like?? Is this real life??
Life without him would be so boring and it's not as though I need him or anything (that's a bad mindset to have) but it'd be like having a cake without icing. You can still enjoy it, but it's missing it's colour. I'm so sure about him. I really hope that this works out, everything feels so natural to me. I'll try my hardest for this to work out.
>>131264>how did you meet?
I'm not gonna lie… we actually met on R9k
At the time we were both insanely lonely, and he started a thread about wanting to make friends. I wasn't interested at first but he sounded really nice and welcoming in his thread so I asked for his discord tag! We both don't browse it anymore and he's not like most typical anons there for the record. I know it's an odd way to meet. We talked for months and just developed feelings for each other naturally. Found out he didn't live too far away from me, met up, and just completely fell in love! We're really considering moving in with each other and getting engaged in the next couple of years.
>Did you ever experience any hardships?
My first relationship was very abusive
, and I think anyone's first romantic experience leaves a mark on them for life, unfortunately. I know that he loves me, but sometimes I find it so hard to believe that I have him and that he loves me because of untreated trauma or whatever.
It's not his fault at all, it's my own insecurities. But compared to most others, I think our relationship is relatively argument free and I can't really think of an instance. Sometimes he has doubts because of the distance and he's just the type of person who looks at things that can go wrong, but I think everyone has some worries in relationships.
Thank you for your kind words, anon! I hope you get to experience this too!
I'm so happy for the both of you, thank you for sharing! also I'm so sorry you had an abusive
relationship before and I'm so touched that your bf can nurture and give you all the love that you always always deserved
I think he'd be considered conventionally attractive
He was pretty popular in Highschool and never struggled to get a gf if he wanted one
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I was browsing the old 'fetishes you're ashamed of' thread and came across this and realised this is exactly what my boyfriend is like. I feel so incredibly lucky. He really is the ideal bf to most girls. I'm so happy that I snatched him up lol
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very happy anon here- for a long time I was in an incredibly toxic relationship with an abuser who would threaten self harm and suicide to keep me, even months after I admitted that I wasn't feeling the connection anymore. I would tell my therapist that after that I'd never be brave enough to be in love, but actually, I ended up with the most wonderful boyfriend and I still don't know how I got so lucky.
He supported me through the messy aftermath that came with the abusive relationship, we're both aspiring illustrators, I felt socially alienated as a child because of aspergers but he has it too and I feel like we're two awkward aliens that seem to really get one another without much thought. He's a mind reader, he's so motivated and aspiring and he encourages me in all my goals, he makes me laugh so much and we can talk about anything. Intimacy with him is warm and being with him makes me feel right at home. He's incredibly caring and thoughtful, something I was always (admittedly) cynical about in men for a long time. I guess I just hadn't found the right person until I met him.
I really am so happy I got to meet someone so full of life, I don't get that awful little trauma response niggle at the back of my head with him and we get along so well that we never fight, just lots of good heart to hearts. A cute bonus is the little doodles he will leave me to make me smile, or when we draw together and talk for hours without a care in the world.
I can't wait to see him after lockdown.
That he dated women his own age, doesn't excuse the fact he jumped on the opportunity to date someone who's 1. a teen and 2. less than half his age. An opportunity he specifically chose to create by setting his age range as low as he could. Something he should have never done in the first place because an adult man of 41 years of age has no business dating a just barely legal teen(!!!) That's not "being open to meeting someone younger", that's predatory and a huge red flag.
The huge gap in life experience, stage of life, brain development and maturity is inexcusable, it's never for the right reasons. If you think otherwise you're either in denial and kidding yourself or extremely naive.
These reactions are pretty understandable given the tiny amount of info you have about the situation. But 18 is not a child & of all the billions of people in the world, not every single relationship with an age gap is going to be unhealthy. This might be cringe but we are literally in love (this is from someone who didn't believe in it before). Neither of us expected to have this connection we thought it would be a one time thing, but we've been living together for years now & both are lives are improved by our relationship. I was a druggy dropout before we met & now I'm at uni, have a job, so much more stable & happy because of how being with him makes me feel.
Honestly I'd rather be with him than some pornsick insecure scrote anyday.
Gtf outta heeeere
Hope you enjoy your wilted senior citizen desperately clinging to your youth when you're a grown flourishing woman in your 30s stuck with a 50-something limp dick manchild. In all seriousness though anon this is sad, you are
mentally still growing and your brain won't even be done developing until your mid-20s. Your "love" knows this and could give a shit, he got to bang a barely legal girl who is now growing more and more attached to him. Trust me, when you yourself are in your 40s you will look at teenagers as the children they are and be disgusted that this "man" wanted to be sexual with one. Sorry you're going through this and sorry you're so blinded to it right now. Been there, thought my relationship was "different" and "special" too. Hope you get out sooner than it took me and get to enjoy a relationship with someone your own age someday.
He's done the whole marriage & kids thing already, had a vasectomy & never wants to get married again so won't be trying to get me to do any of that shit.
Since we met he's gone out of his way to make sure I'm financially independent because he wants me to be my own person & free to ditch him at any time (not that I want to lol).
He's sane and aware of the issues associated w/ big age gaps & tries to avoid them. Like he knows I value his opinion of me too much & tries to discourage that etc etc
>>162575>dominant in bed, makes me feel smol & feminine which I've never experienced before meeting him>You being 18 & him being 41
Gross, obvious predator
Lay of the molly & stims anon
I've been doing it ~monthly since I was 15 but still getting good grades in a STEM subject at a fancy uni rn.
Sensible dosing and supplements go a long way but maybe I am slowly giving myself brain damage to be fair, at least im having fun lmao
After a series of only dating men who use me for sex or do nothing for me I finally found my ideal guy
>takes me on interesting dates all the time: cake decorating, baking classes together, picnic by the lake, dinner on a boat, etc.
>takes interest in all my hobbies and helps me with them
>used to be into lolita and he would regularly buy me dresses every month
>if we go to the mall he loves seeing me try on things and then buys me them
>brags about me to his family and all his friends
>his mother said something a bit rude about me and he immediately stopped that shit and stood up for me
>takes care of me on my period and makes sure he always has tampons, pads, chocolate, and a heating pad at his place
>whenever I'm craving a food or constantly change my mind on what I want to eat he goes for it
>is super encouraging, hypes me up for even small accomplishments
>if I'm venting about something he'll get really upset with me and it makes me feel really good
>super protective, gets angry even if other guys stare at me for too long, not aggressive but willing to throw hands for any guy who disrespects me
>helps me take care of all my animals, if I'm having a depressing day he'll come over and care for them and me
>super understanding about my mental health issues, even left work immediately when I was having a panic attack to come over and help me through it
some minor things that previous boyfriends didn't ever do that I didn't realize i'd appreciate so much
>always carries my bag
>if it's raining and he has no umbrella, he'll put his bag or whatever he's carrying over my head
>always makes sure he's walking on the side closest to the street
>drives extra carefully when I'm with him
>always makes sure he has "girly" scented shampoo, conditioner and body wash for me
I'm a mess and I never thought I'd ever have such an amazing guy. I feel lucky every day.
>>162636>Tried to be a responsible adult in a mature relationship and failed, abandoning original partner and kids
Yes a true catch.>>162640
This dude sounds genuinely great, happy for you anon. Where did you two meet?
This is a 23 year age gap. By the time you're in your prime 30s, he will be 60 and basically geriatric. In your 50s, do you want to care for a 70-going-on-80 year old by yourself?
You know why he wants you financially independent? Because he has no intention of supporting you. You don't want marriage and children? Good for him, because he has no intention to make commitments like that to you anyway. You're a NSA plaything while he tries to forget the wife and child life he left in the dust and who no doubt still collects money from him.
You're his messy spazz teen girlfriend he gets to fuck to feel better about himself, and hell you even indulge him in a monthly coke and molly bender so he can feel young again. By the way, a monthly coke and molly habit is NOT normal or 'off drugs.'
Get some self-respect.
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I can't wait for when he gets an old man neck vagina so I can lick it <3
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Boyfriend is a cutie patootie. He always tries to make sure that I have enough attention from him and doesn't hesitate to initiate physical affection. Cuddling him is the best. The other day he went birding/hiking by himself, so I asked him for a few twigs so I could make a Christmas star and he brought back a garbage bag full.
>I also like how he pats me on the head sometimes
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>start flickin the bean, fantasize about all the hot shit bf has said during sex, you know, pretty standard dirty talk
>invariably also remember the time he got teary eyed seeing me naked and said he has never seen anything so beautiful
>remember how he always tells me my eyes are so huge and pretty, my nose is such a perfect nose, this silly christmas jumper looks so hot on me, my butt is the cutest
>remember how much he loves holding me tight and just kissing me all over after making me cum, licking me, making sure I'm feeling good and safe
>suddenly crying too much to masturbate because of how loved I feel
I had severe body dysmorphia from previous relationships with coomers and an abusive guy who would pick apart every detail in my appearance, plus reading years of trp material. I didn't think anyone would find me desirable, or be interested in my pleasure or touching my body at all, I only saw myself as disgusting and thought that all anyone could see in me was flaws. I never really told my bf about this because I didn't want him to compliment me just to make me feel better, and I didn't expect him to even stay attracted to me after really seeing me because he's a chad looking guy himself, but he has always been so loving both physically and emotionally. Recently I've slowly started feeling good about myself and seeing my body through a more realistic lens. I guess his hotness also helps, if he didn't genuinely think I was attractive he could easily get any tinder stacy.
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>i was his first everything
>has a lot of friends but does not interact with females more than necessary
>works out almost daily
>does the cooking does the cleaning and does not let me lift a finger, have to force him to let me do things for him
>is the independent type but very affectionate when we're together
>animal and children magnet, would be a far better parent than myself
>has a likeable personality so I'm not embarrassed showing him off to my friends
>doesn't watch porn and never developed fucked up habits before meeting me
> has a huge dick and is loud in bed which is just chef's kiss.
>perfect balance of masculine and gentle
and the best part…
>patiently listens to my radfem spergs even though he may not agree with all of it and is always open to discussion
Good taste anon.
He shall also be 2d husbando tiers of attractive and mine forever.
No talking or looking at other women even while I'm not present. bahahahaha
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why are all the good traits the most of you are saying about your boyfriends shit like him being a doormat and buying you everything and 'he never watches porn' (you guys good?)
why not "he engages with me in my interests" and "he lets me do nice things for him", because instead im hearing "he puts up with me talking at him like a wall" and "he refuses to let me do anything myself" which is,,, guys. come on. these aren't relationships. where is the emotional give and take? shouldn't your favorite parts be things that have emotional meaning and not "he spends a thousands dollars buying me makeup"?
a lot of this sounds like guys who have low self esteem and you're taking advantage of them. seek help.
this should not be the 'ideal'. you two should be equals, not this fucked up power dynamic a lot of you are describing. and i don't buy the 'lol theres stuff i didnt mention1!!'
He actually watches movies I recommend him.
I can see on Spotify he checks out the songs I listen to.
When he visits/stays over, he brings fresh groceries.
Kisses me on the forehead for goodnight and good morning.
After a year, he still gets several boners just by being around me (lol sorry if that's cringe, but a lot of my friends warned me with months passing the lust drops. Which didn't happen yet.)
Drives me home or from train station so I don't have to commute with a heavy suitcase.
Cooks, or we cook together. We take turns in making breakfasts for each other.
Took care of me when I had covid, and early in the relationship I got drunk and vomitted all over his room, also flooded the bathroom… he tidied it all up and never complained, just teased me to hell about it.
Asked his friend to recommend me at his firm so maybe I'll finally get a job!!
We have almost the exactly same love language. We both don't care for gifts at all so I don't have to stress over getting him something nice for occasions (this actually gives me a lot of anxiety).
He struggled with mental health before so he's understanding with mine.
He's a feminist and a leftist. Has some "male-y" views still, but willing to listen and change when I explain my view.
Loves to listen to me playing guitar. I'm very basic, but he has no musical talents so he's so impressed and always asks me to play more. I've never played for anyone, it's so weird for me that someone actively wants to listen to it, lol. It's a nice feeling.
Doesn't have a big social media presence.
Always does foreplay, always tries to get me off first, is a good kisser.
Of course there's stuff that annoy me, but overall, I can't believe I found this man on tinder, and the first time I met someone off it.
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salty about a year old post cuz your boyfriend ain't shit?
ok, let me tell you about my boyfriend then>sporty and tall, got me into doing sports again>bald, luckily he sports a Jason Statham look that fits him, I don't care I like bald guys (maybe becuz my father was bald too)>earns somewhat less then me, but isn't bothered by it and I'm not either>he does all the cooking because he's more talented and creative at it while I do the dishes and most of the cleaning, I'll let him do the dirtier or physically hard works around the house though>gives great massages, has very good, strong hands>he's a racist, hompohobe, hates minorities and feminists, obviously we don't agree in most things politically, but I don't argue with him anymore because arguing with him makes me anxious as he's way more knowledgable in these topics than me and the last time I tried he debunked the wage gap with the data I gave him from the company I work at>he used to watch porn, but he's against it now, not because of me, but on principle>has never eaten my pussy, I give bjs when he asks for it rarely, but I suspect it's because I'm not good at it, he has a big dick and it's tiring for me>he is faithful, wants kids and a family and I think he will be great father as he is good with kids and animals like him>he likes memes and internet culture, sometimes he has black homour, sometimes he's childish like me, he's fun to be around>once he noticed how much thinner I was on a high shool picture he made remarks about my weight which upset me very much and we got into a big argument over it, since then he's more careful with his words>generally very calm and rational and he's great at calming me down whenever I'm upset about something>he WOULD BE a great listener if he could stop with his bad habit of interrupting, he does this to everyone, not just me, it's the way he is, he associates very quickly and likes to add his thoughts on remarks on the spot, I kinda accepted it, but it still makes me mad when he does it>he listens to my advice and needs if he finds them reasonable, I think I enriched his home decoration and general outlook, and his garden a great deal and he improved my diet and health a lot by his cooking, we are challenging each other and growing together
Despite all the fairy tales in this thread I love this man with all his flaws and wouldn't trade him for anything, becasuse this is what a real boyfriend sounds like, unlike these I suspect half-imaginary, half closet gay beta doormats. You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
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>>173174>nigel thread >bald racist homophobe boyfriend>doesn’t eat you out
Ok nice. I can't wait for you to divorce rape him.
Also>You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
Then why am i happier than you? I can show off my boyfriend but you can't. KEK.
>>173197 >together for 7 years, have weathered many storms
I've never reached the 7 year mark so just wondering if you think the '7 year itch' is really a thing? Or if there's a different year that you thought was the tough one
I honestly seem to get the 2 year itch. Don't know what that says about me lol
Because > "he engages with me in my interests" > "he lets me do nice things for him"
are very common things? most relationships are based on compatibility in terms of hobbies/interests so i wouldn't mention it tbh. and i don't think there are many people out there who would reject someone being nice to them either.
Gtfo and go back to tumblr lmao
First L. Naked mole rat ass, lmao.>(maybe becuz my father was bald too)
We've known for years that the ugly bitch, Freud, was 100% trying to normalize his own fucked up family trauma, distorted sexuality and mental illness by projecting it mainly on women (with a strange focus on gentiles). Stop pretending this is rational or healthy. >earns somewhat less then me
Second L.>he's a racist, hompohobe, hates minorities and feminists
I really should've just stopped reading at bald, huh? Lmao it's going even more downhill. And you're dating him whilst in the process of being ignorant, so you just seethe in anxiety whenever these topics come up. A mess.>has never eaten my pussy, I give bjs when he asks for it
LMAO why even post this? What is there to like about this? What do you want us to say? "Based anon, my bf's never eaten my pussy either, I love only ever giving oral and never receiving"? Did you want us to mock you?>once he noticed how much thinner I was on a high shool picture he made remarks about my weight which upset me very much and we got into a big argument over it
Massive L. He really called you fat, realized his fuck-up when you didn't internalize it like he wanted you to, and now sticks to more subtle forms. >generally very calm and rational and he's great at calming me down whenever I'm upset about something
Kek, the calm, rational anti-feminist racist homophobe>he WOULD BE a great listener if he could stop with his bad habit of interrupting,
LMAO you just said–>he listens to my advice and needs if he finds them reasonable,
"If he finds them reasonable", and let me guess, you listen to his advice way more than he does with you, right?
So, you have the nerve to tell us all this, essentially insulting yourself, and then claim anons with better relationships than you are dating men who don't exist, and if they do exist, they're gay. Got it, kek. What a fucking cope. >You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
Are you sure you're not just talking about yourself? You're dating a bald, racist/homophobic broke scrote who called you fat, won't eat your pussy, and won't stop interrupting you. Nobody wants that, unless they're actively looking to self-harm.
>>173174>has never eaten my pussy
Why are you listing negative traits on a thread that's made for listing positive ones. What are you on?
>becasuse this is what a real boyfriend sounds like, unlike these I suspect half-imaginary, half closet gay beta doormats.
Oh lol. Read thread descriptions before you sperg out anon. It's meant to be a bragging list! Of course anons aren't listing off negative traits like you are. You're missing the entire point of the thread.
Here's my brag
>full head of hair despite being older
>snappy academia dresser
>does hassle chores like dishes and trash unprompted
>doesn't fight me when I do ask him to do something, and he actually does it
>does his own laundry and takes care of his hygiene
>goes to work diligently and is liked by his coworkers
>always asks me if I want snacks or food, sometimes surprises me with things anyway
>verbally and physically affectionate
>always affirms his attraction to me and validates my looks even though I know I'm not conventional
>doesn't care that I'm weird and likes it in fact, he laughs at my jokes
>frequent sex, mostly missionary while we embrace and look at each other, no degen shit and he never asks me for blowjobs
>I don't ask him to eat my pussy because that doesn't get me off, but he will use a clit toy on me if sex doesn't always get me off
>doesn't watch porn and admits he hasn't felt desire for it ever
since we began our relationship
>never puts me down and is sensitive to emotions
>wants marriage and kids with me and has set timelines, bought me the exact diamond and wedding ring I wanted despite it being over his typical price range
>wants to be healthy for me and our kids and really tries
>isn't rich but he wants to provide me things to the best he is able because he loves and values me that much
>drives me places (although tbh I prefer to drive cause I love my sports car and he has shitty eyesight ngl)
>appreciates my cooking and compliments it frequently, sometimes he helps cook with my instruction and at the least will clean up everything when we're done
>we both have mutual interests and even the same college degrees and honors societies
>public announcements of his love for me, isn't afraid to show it
>polite and decent, supports my feminism
I just feel genuinely loved and cared for, in a way I've never felt in past relationships.
It sounds like the same scrote but post 691513 throws me off because when she's trying to describe his looks, she mentions that he has hair, but in this thread she's saying he's bald.
Possible she could have lied in that older post as a cope, because we would have laughed harder if she admitted she was dating a bald
37 year old racist /pol/tard.
He sounds fucking ugly. What's the point of being with an old asshole who's not even attractive?
Like don't you want your "master race" man to actually be a representative? Lmao.
>You can't get everything you want and even if you could, you wouldn't want it.
Incel larping as woman happy with her mediocre boyfriend falls out of character KEK
You are never going to get women to stoop so low for men like you, scrote
We're married now!
I thought it wouldn't be possible but he's even more loving with me than he was before. We're going for a baby after we get vaccinated for covid.
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it's me again, back with greentext and still smitten as I was when I posted this
> big, soft and bashful but also has this firm side that comes out when he's caring, for instance he knows my joints and back are bad so if I'm overworking at my job or freelancing he'll be lovingly firm about me needing to rest more, he's really thoughtful and the right mix of assertive but also thoughtful, I really love that about him, he's like a house husband> same sense of humour, joke that we're almost like the other but we have comfy differences too that make the relationship interesting> turns out he might be demi like me, really passionate sex life blossomed between us unexpectedly, he is endearingly into me and it melts me> both art grads so we have doodle dates together and he leaves cute drawings for me while I'm at work or he wants to leave fuss> delighted that his family and me get on and always includes me, his sister and her bf invited us to come play Minecraft with them and it's been really fun> really passionate about making comics together and the most supportive person>is really caring towards his family, especially his sister and mum, this is refreshing when my abusive ex disrespected women, but my partner is incredibly respectful > no social media addictions> thinks I'm the most adorable girl in the world and genuinely means his compliments> pretty quiet and stoic around people he doesn't know but he's like an excited puppy when he opens up about his interests> makes me feel looked after and heard and despite the lockdown he'll find ways to do sweet things like orders me pizza when I'm sick or overworked, we sleepover call and he'll whisper sweet nothings to me until I fall asleep and then he sleeps happily> always really appreciative of my efforts and I don't think there's been a day he hasn't expressed this, thinks he's the luckiest boyfriend > we can be silly together and comfy but we can also sit down and have mature conversations, as a result, to this day we've never had an argument and both of us like to address things comfortably and can't stay annoyed at the other because we love eachother too much> incredibly honest, has never kept secrets from me or vice versa, endearingly will just turn around and talk about his feelings and always wants to tell people the truth> more mature than he realizes, I think> has never had an ex or anything messy with any girls in the past and has worried sometimes that he might be inexperienced but he's always been so good to me as a boyfriend> stubborn in the good way, dedicated and passionate> used to have communication issues and that was the only issue we've ever had, once we talked about it he grew with me through it and this issue resolved, and he cares about growing together which I thought was a green flag> kind to animals> likes anime and games but isn't a degenerate or overly obsessed with them, more into cartoons> really hot, gets a little more teasing when he flusters me for someone so bashful, gap moe af> always compliments you and makes you feel noticed, takes interest in your day and very easy to chat with> typically end up chatting for hours, little hypeman> humble and kind> doesn't care if we have kids or not and has never and would never pressure me> really smart and intelligent> doesn't care about gender binaries, will happily swap clothes and likes the same comfy fashion> big spoons me when I need it the most> encourages me in everything I do> gets horny over me over the slightest thing like my scent or wanting to be close to me, lovingly feral
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Just visited my guy during a work lull when he's been slammed like all day
>mfw he instantly gives me a bowl of icecream
My boyfriend certainly isnt perfect, he's even quite average compared to some of my friends bfs but at least he has a full had of hair at 35, loves eating pussy, makes more money than me (but tbh, i am a student…), isnt racist, isnt feminist but also isnt anti-feminist, also doesnt watch porn, knows how to cook AND to clean (he's in fact cleaner/neatier than me), never pointed out my physical flaws ever,… Like this isnt even bragging, its the bare minimum. I would unironicly rather kill myself than to be in a LTR with a man like your boyfriend.
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I wonder where can you even meet a guy like this?
thank you noni
he's usually very proud, confident and boisterous, he just melts into a puddle at the slightest teasing
I feel like he could act like a turbonormie if he wanted to he just refuses to out of some strane principle that only makes sense to him.
I think he's much happier being a tanned reviewbrah with strong hairy arms
I should have written cuddle instead od hug now that i think about it
He was only like that early on before we had sex and when we just started having it and he still blushes a little when cuddling turns into me teasing him and foreplay
But i think you're right i might be wearing rose tinted glasses
it's just so good and liberating to have someone be into you that much when you are short fat and thin haired like me
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I'm a newfag so here's hoping I format this right, if not you'll just have to forgive me for being retarded lol.
>fell in love with me at first sight
>was addicted to porn before we got together, felt constant guilt about it so we set up a lot of accountability apps on his devices bc he wanted help getting clean
>readily lets me check his phone/laptop but I don't often feel the need to because he lets me know when he's struggling
>shares the chores but honestly does more than me and he doesn't mind
>makes a point to work through any conflicts we have, clear communicator and quick to forgive
>loves to go down on me and gets turned on by it, but doesn't ask for it in return bc he knows it's different/much more unpleasant for girls
>"sorry I haven't shaved my legs in a while" "I literally didn't even notice"
>Likes to workout, feels ashamed if he hasn't recently
>Giant freaking shoulders
>Likes to sleep snuggled up next to me
>Loves kids and comments on how cute babies are
>Does things for me all the time, likes to make my life easier
>Promises that once he's done with school he'll work so hard that I won't have to if I don't want to
>Shows genuine interest in my hobbies, incredibly encouraging and never dismissive
>Just looks and me and smiles without saying anything
>Not into feet or anything (he's very vanilla) but sometimes he'll just give my foot a kiss and I'll be like "ew why? that's my foot" and he says "I don't care, every part of you is clean and pretty"
>very kind and outgoing, likes to make friends with everyone he meets
I could go on. I just really love him. He's not perfect, but neither am I and he has really put a lot of work into our relationship.
The reality is that the vast majority of men have been exposed to or are addicted to porn.
He wanted to stop and needed help with accountability. He was very serious about it and willing to give up whatever he needed to and now he's clean.
I can understand where you're coming from and I'm not trying to argue. It might sound silly to need apps but it's what worked for us and our relationship has really done well from it.
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>practically obsessed with me, as am i with him
>interested in all my retarded artsy shit, wants to become involved in my hobbies
>makes me genuinely happy, talking to him is my favourite thing
>actively supports my ED recovery and expresses that he is proud of me
>amazingly talented musician
>has the most adorable voice
>dresses very nicely, similar fashion to myself
>listens to me sperg about things i enjoy, shares many of my ''autistic'' interests, especially euro military shit
we plan to move to a scandi country, preferably very isolated, doing gay artsy stuff in a cute cabin. that has always been our dream since we first met. we bonded over the life we dreamed of and it's becoming a reality, seemingly so. i am so fucking happy.
pic related (me typing this)
>>212694>Works out twice a day, huge chest and arms
Don't tell me he skips leg day nonny
! Does he have a beefy upper body with skinny chicken legs?
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Picrel made me think of this thread. My Nigel is far from perfect but he adores me, as someone with body image issues the way he consistently genuinely loves my body never gets old, and we've been together for years. >>212694
The anons nitpicking your excellent sounding Nigel is classic lolcow - enjoy your new wardrobe nonita!
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>Literally a genius with computers, built me my PC.
>Is a talented filmmaker and downloads all sorts of rare films for me and our friends to watch.
>Spoils me with designer clothing, and makes sure to take me on impromptu dates every week (dinner or movie)
>Shares almost my exact political ideology, only he is more aggressive and I am more nurturing.
>Tears through books like War and Peace within a couple weeks, never isn't reading a book
>Doesn't really use social media, still remains popular with cool people who I would never meet if it weren't for him.
>We never run out of things to talk about when we are together. Could just talk for hours, even after almost 4 years.
>Adores my family.
>Makes me laugh really hard
>Thinks I'm smarter and hotter than him (not true).
>Plans to marry me and have children, even though we are only 22 and just graduated college.
>Supports my delusional ambitions.
>Naturally lean and strong, has dark brown hair and thick dark eyebrows.
>Is always horny just like me, wants to have passionate crazy sex.
He has flaws but this is about bragging and I am crazy in love, so I won't write them
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My time to shine and brag about my himbo hubby! We've been married for over 7 years. Yes nonas I'm a veteran nonita. I'm definitely lucky for this because I'm quite a reclusive and average nona.
>Better and cooking and cleaning than me, and isn't tired of doing it so he does most of the domestic work. However I prefer to do deep cleaning and organization so it balances out.
>Conventionally attractive, great voice and charismatic it's honestly annoying, but he also acts like my bodyguard.
>Not a coomer and loyal to a fault.
>Knows how to make money and has time to be my chauffeur.
>Gives me nice back rubs.
>Loves working out and helps be my spotter and personal trainer
>Great with technology and computers and literally does maintenance, upgrading, fixing, and cleaning for everyone he meets for free.
>Not overly obsessed with gaming or otaku culture
>Very loving and affectionate, not afraid to give hugs and kisses
>Not afraid to deal with periods and cleaned up my puke when I was sick
>Is a himbo and his fashion sense is a hit or miss, he's a savant
>He doesn't know he's good looking
>Doesn't get depressed and has a sunny disposition which doesn't make sense to everyone else
>Poops a lot, but maybe if he didn't poop this much he'd get fat
>Eats everyone's food without thinking, and if you had an office fridge with missing food, he might be the culprit
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I wish I could score a Nigel. Alas, my reclusion restrains me.
>plays the piano, guitar and sing for me (all very well)
>wants to take dance classes with me
>likes things clean organized (a little bit too much, might even have some OCD, since he makes sure everything is straight and well kept before going to sleep. Literally make the bed first thing in the morning and spends minutes to see if its straight and the sides even)
>wakes me up with a kiss and "good morning" everyday
>gentleman, pulls the chair, opens the door for me, walk outside on the sidewalk, unfortunately almost always split the bills, kek
>don't usually judge people
>eats me out
>loves to play vidya and watch things with me
>likes to study, speaks 3 languages
>always saying I look wonderful
>hates makeup, says I look better "natural"
>never lied to me (at least that I know), says it's stupid and encourages me to always be honest
>often plans picnics for us to have a good time and look at the sky, silently, sometimes falls asleep
The only weird things I can say it that he was very concerned about my past before we started dating. Said we probably wouldn't be together if I had had many relationships before, also said he's an ex-coomer. I don't know what to think about these.
>>220334>said he's an ex-coomer
Unfortunately men who have never been coomers are unicorns. The majority of "good" guys have been at some point in time due to the misogynistic society we're raised in and normalization of porn but have reformed either due to realizing the harms of the industry and/or not wanting to develop ED. Although I also find his concern over your history a little odd. Men like that typically have a madonna/whore complex or were slutty themselves in the past, but if he's been good to you otherwise I suppose it doesn't matter. >hates makeup, says I look better "natural"
Also eh to this. It's great he likes your natural face but there's no reason to put down your use of makeup at the same time.
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>>220373>Men like that typically have a madonna/whore complex or were slutty themselves in the past
He was a virgin when we met, said the only romantic experience he had until then were hookups on high school. I thought it was for religious reasons at first, since it's not uncommon to see him praying once in a while, but he was honest and said it would make him feel insecure.>It's great he likes your natural face but there's no reason to put down your use of makeup at the same time.
Fortunately he never put mine down, since I don't like to wear much to begin with. I think he was talking about picrel level.
>>220575>I just call men those words too kek
Kek, I forgot it's different in english. It wouldn't work in my native language, sadly.
This double standard is ridiculous, but I see where it comes from. Unless you're very, very ugly, it isn't hard to get men (to have sex, of course, because to find a good man is always difficult), but it isn't that easy on their side. Hence the suffering experience male trannies go through when trying to hook up with women, the huge (and increasing) amount of incels, misogynists, etc.
But there are some few men who wouldn't stick their dicks on anything (I think). Other than religious reasons, I've met some who weren't comfortable with that level of intimacy before some good months of interaction, at least. I'm like this, too. One night stands are at least… Weird.
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I complained about realizing I had no milk for my coffee and my boyfriend surprised me moments later by showing up in front of my house with a gallon of milk! It was midnight. He's so sweet and impulsive and I've since learned the grocery stores are open later than I thought.
I drink decaf so don't judge.
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I love my boyfriend… The silliest part of all of this is that he is extremely obsessed with me, I simply don't allow myself to accept it. Just yesterday we were lying in bed and he was playing with my hair, saying: "I love you, [my name]… You're such a special girl, I'm so lucky to have found you. You're the girl I choose." He really does love and cherish me. He has supported me when I was sick and emotionally distressed. He has seen me cry so much, and of course he does not mind. He does not think I am ugly or bad or crazy. I know that is the bare minimum, but he genuinely thinks I am beautiful and knows how lucky he is to have me. He wants me around, he always says how happy he is to see me again, how I take his breath away whenever I open the door to let him in, how it fills him with warmth and happiness when I smile and look up at him. He says he loves me and he loves me so much. Some weeks ago before bed we were brushing our teeth together and he said that I looked so cute, and he held my face like a doll's, and when we returned to his bedroom he held my face again and looked at me and he was clearly emotional but composed, and he smiled and said that he will really miss me when I leave (I am moved temporarily), that it all suddenly hit him at once in that moment. He really loves me… He loves me! I can feel it, I can tell, I just know it in my heart. He loves me
I told him this was the case, and he said "No, it's yours now. If something happens, I want you to keep it."
I casually told him my favorite flower was hydrangea 2 days ago, and I had a bouquet of hydrangeas show up on my door today>>221757
that's so sweet and romantic
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>Understanding and calm, never hateful, never yells no matter what
>Assertive/Confident when needed & knows how to do it without being as ass
>Isn't afraid to be dorky
>Cuddles almost daily even after several years
>Perfect sex, spicy but never too coomer, dislikes porn
>Gets along with my friends great, but doesn't get too close either
>His friends are very fun to be around and are always welcoming
>Likes my style & I can do whatever I like with it and he is supportive
>Helps/Compliments unprompted just because he wants to
>My exact type visually, the only one I've met like that
>Doesn't use social media
>The most intelligent person I know
>I admire his career choice
>Same world views & goals about our future
>Same taste in media & he has cool hobbies overall
>Only plays video games socially
>Respectfully chaotic energy, takes me on his adventures
>People assume I'm way younger than him when he is younger than me. Not his fault obv
>Gets grumpy when hungry
>Tends to ignore his feelings of sadness too much
I used to be in an extremely abusive relationship before we met. I feel so lucky and thankful. Been living together for a few years now and we've never fought or gotten mad at eachother even, it's incredible. I always thought it was a given that people would get angry at me for anything and just a part of my personality but I guess not. We met on okcupid and our percentage was nearly a 100. (Reposted for a typo)
Samefag I need to sperg more. When I complain about something and he'll quietly fix it the next day or so… it makes me feel so listened to and it's such a cute surprise. I know it's him of course, but he'll joke that kind fairies fixed it for me when I wasn't looking kek.
When I had a fever a couple days ago he took such good care of me. He's also extremely good at eating pussy
I hope you get it one day then nonnie
He sends me a love letter every night when I've gone to sleep.
It makes me so happy to wake up every morning to a paragraph of love.
The one he wrote me last night went into detail about how proud he is of me for focusing on my studies.>>222814
I met my nigel on a Discord started by mutual friends; he joined via Twitter, and I knew him for a couple years.
We played games together every now and then, and I started talking to him more somewhere along the line.
I think the best bet is making friends in communities where you have interests and letting those friendships blossom into a romance.
>>227649>long distance, barely got to see each other in the last 1.5 years (for a week maybe?).
so you don't really have a relationship and idolize an illusion >but despite that, never makes me feel like we HAVE to have sex.
cause he's fucking others lmao, you're in an open relationship, you just don't realize it yet
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>>113428>You're living the dream anon!>Wish you the best!
Sorry, I'm just feeling a bit sour
Are you still with him now or are you seperated? The best way to come to terms with if the worst case happens imo is to make sure you've got some sort of financial backup/security or a friend/relative in case you need to leave (if you already live with him)
Apart from that, the best advice I was given is that a man's actions do not reflect upon my character or value as a woman. I think women are definitely taught to internalize things done to us and act as if we could have done something to fix/stop him, but that's not the case in reality.
If a moid wants to cheat or lie, that's 100% on him, I always tell myself that I am not responsible for other people's shitty actions.
Most men don't think this way though - they're coddled and enabled from birth to get away with horrible stuff and pin it on others or try and diminish/dismiss the effects of their actions. The worlds worst coping mechanism, I suppose.
It's really hard to describe for me personally but I know exactly what you mean as I have been cheated on multiple times in the past. I think it's generally wise to keep a small part of yourself wary and open to any possibilities and outcomes in a relationship…I trust my partner, but at the same time if I have a gut instinct or a recurring thought that something is up I won't ignore that and I'll investigate it. But I also force myself not to go looking for trouble or assume things that aren't even there.
It's a really thin line to walk because you naturally don't want to completely put all your trust in one person and be a doormat but at the same time you don't want to become paranoid and assume the worst about them.
It's really important to find a balance I think. Enough trust that you're comfortable around them, but not entirely dependent or reliant on them. A lot of that starts from within: taking care of your own money, health and a backup plan in case the worst happens. That's how I think of it anyway.
Tbh when someone is a liar no amount of device checks can protect you, there are SO MANY ways nowadays to protect yourself from having your messages read or anything like that, moderately clever cheater could get away for ages.
Still I can't shame you anon because at least this sliver of sense of safety is good too. I don't do it but I honestly don't care if my bf ever goes through my messages / computer / whatever because there's literally nothing there, and I think this is how relationships should be like - not necessarily constant snooping but easy access anytime you want to.
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when my bf and I got up I handed him a homemade card and made strawberries dipped in chocolate. My bf didn't get me a card, but told me he had something planned for us. At first I was skeptical, but it turned out to be one of the best Vday's ever. >First stop was this greenhouse that looked rundown until you go inside, and it was filled to the brim with all sorts of plants.
He said "I know you despise watching flowers wilt, so lets grab a few for you to enjoy longer". I got zero flowers but a few fun succulents. Next time I'll go, I'll sneak some photos. I imagined all the nonnas lovin' the vast amount of plants, a few cats and some hoppin' lil lizards.>Next stop, Turkish food (Delicious!!)>3rd, Coffee at a cute little shop I've never ventured to.>4th a homemade candy shop.
We ran out of time to go to a spice shop (we love to cook). But it was all so very lovely. He also rolled j's for us on for the day, and so I was high on love too. ♥
Hes never one for cards or classic displays of affection, but he shows his love and care in the details. So very happy to have him in my life.
Spoiler, the little doodle that I made and eventually turned into a card. (not an artist)
Valentine's Day is our anniversary so we always do something special.
We had a breakfast date, we shared some pancakes. We went home and napped together, then after that we went outside and got our flower bed cleaned out, rose bushes pruned, etc. Then we went for a walk in our neighborhood
For dinner this year we decided to go back to a family owned Italian restaurant, we spent another Valentine's Day there and we love pasta.
It was so much fun. I love being with him, and we always make each other laugh.
We went home and I just knew. Honestly I knew all day, and even before.
I walked into our bedroom. On the bed there was a box, a rose, and a card.
My heart was racing and I was already crying and I opened the card and couldn't even focus on the words.
But at the end of the card, I saw that he wrote "my love, turn around"
I did. He was on one knee. I sobbed, sobbed so hard haha. My knees shook.
He asked me to marry him and I said yes.
I feel so happy. I love my baby so much.
After he held me cause I couldn't stop crying. Then we got tipsy on champagne, and watched the Batman animated series till we fell asleep.
I'm so happy.. I hope every one of you ladies enjoyed your Valentine's Day.
Aww,that's so sweet. If you read a post that you think is awesome just write "based", I think that's it pretty much>>231897
Oh my god I didn't even read this post to the end because I was reading it until the " my love, turn around" and then it said post too long, click to view the rest. I was 100% sure the rest was going to be a troll post you know like the ones that make up a story to make a your mom joke at the end or something so I didn't read it thinking "ha, you're not gonna get me this time". Congratulations anon I am so happy for you. What a wonderful memory and you will be able to tell a wonderful story about it for years to come.
how do you even find a fairytale man likr this>t.a poorfag student>>234091
my thoughts exactly
The psychology behind most male fetishes reveal character flaws imo, so it is actually lucky for him not to have any because there’s nothing to uncover. You can still have fun varied sex without cringy, attention seeking stuff like voyeurism. Isn’t it better to have a guy who just likes lingerie or something rather than sailor fuku? This is coming from someone who would actually be happy with a pervert, (so long as it isn’t stuff I’m against, obviously).
> dressing up and breeding like cavemen
I can’t even guess what you’re referring to here?
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Okay, and what do anon's preferences in a partner have to do with you?
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>Fell in love with me without knowing how I look like (online)
>Hot (I knew how he looked like before I trusted him to show my appearance) strong & in shape & my type physically. Very well groomed.
>Thinks I'm the hottest woman alive and loves my little quirks in my appearance/mannerisms that I didn't even know I had. He also loves my body (and tells me about it) which is so nice because I've been insecure about it my whole life.
>Secretly geeky like me but very charismatic.
>Has same outlook on life that I do.
>Way better cook than me and I'm proud of my skills.
>Very career focused and has told me that if I don't want to work he'd make enough to support both of us and kids if we have them. +He respects my aspirations and career path. Has told me that he will adapt to the circumstances because I'm the most important person in the world to him.
>Recognizes and verbalizes that I am intelligent and perceptive.
>Very relationship focused and verbalizes that decisions he makes are for both of us, not just him because I'm his future.
>Does not watch porn because I turn him on more than anything (he had reduced his consumption before we got together so I know he's genuine)
>Very easy to communicate with, he's a mature adult who accepts his faults when confronted with them.
>Trusts me 100% (first time dating someone who does) because we both understand that the odds of finding someone who matches like we do are so low that neither of us would do something to ruin what we have.
>Has told me things about himself that put him in a bad light and has clearly learned from them. Very transparent.
>Shows me texts that he gets from his crazy exes whenever he gets them for us to laugh at together (he does not reply)
>Does not feel awkward talking about past relationships to him because we both have learned from bad and good ones unlike my exes who would rather me ignore the past completely.
>No jealousy because exes are exes for a reason and we're better for each other than anyone either of us have dated.
>Surprises me with ice cream and sweets when I'm having a hard time or whenever.
>Drives me wherever I want whenever I want.
>Gives amazing massages.
This one's for life nonnies, your girl finally made it. Sucks that some of this stuff is rare (for me at least) but I'm glad it's paired with someone who is basically a male version of me.
I agree. When I was still retarded and kind of a libfem at the start of my relationship I thought it was weird that my boyfriend doesn't want me to dress like a schoolgirl and call him daddy, doesn't want to choke me or spank me or anything. (I was very inexperienced and thought those were normal things to do) and now that I am older and not retarded anymore I realize that that's actually HEALTHY and you don't want a man who is into degenerate fetish shit cause those men are pornsick and they hate women.
We have perfect vanilla sex and I am so happy that I don't have to degrade myself or put on a stupid show for him like I thought guys want. And you can still experiment and do freaky stuff once you have been together 20 years and need to spice things up in the bedroom cause things got boring. People who start out doing all kinds of kinky shit are blowing their load early and are destined to burn out. If you can't have wholesome vanilla sex with your dude and both be satisfied, he's not the one.
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i had a really big fight with my nigel.
>get really bad pms to the point of being delusional
>i really screamed hard at him for a dumb reason
>have persecution delusions
>think world is against me
>he said fuck it im done with you, get out
>just meekly walk away because i am shocked and have no reply
>chases after me
>im sorry anon i didn't mean it
>we both cry and apologise
>he just holds me
>"i only said that cause i was scared anon"
>my heart fucking breaks
>i scared a scrote with my psychotic behaviour
>we go shopping and he buys me a new dress and fried chicken!
>watch movies and cuddle all night
>"i bet you're getting your period tomorrow anon, i will get u some weed to relax"
>mfw i do
I need to go to the doctor lol
PMDD with persecution delusions, really? Never heard hormones can cause them. No way vitamins alone can cure them either.
OP needs a doc, not otc vitamins.
Sage cause a big blog but I am grateful
Thank u Nona’s I went to the dr a few weeks ago for a check up and he said I had to have 3 vitamin d tablets per day (weird, I’m indoorsy but it’s not like I never leave the house) so it definitely could be related. I’m for sure going to bring up pmdd now because it happens every time (I can have restraint with the yelling luckily but it just got the best of me this time)
Nigel can pretty much predict my periods because as he puts it >you’re just so so so sad with no reason
The delusions are like, I just project my own self criticism on to others and read way too hard into what they are saying, thinking everything is negative, and I often feel like people are following me home when I go to the grocery store. This only happens one or two days before I bleed. And it’s hard to realise that’s what’s causing it even though it’s every time because it just feels so real
Integrate faggot. No emoji use, no extra space after reply post number.
God we need a Hellweek so bad
>Gets me gifts he knows I will like, pays attentions to my tastes
>When cooking, he doesn't cook anything I'm intolerant of. Even he if he likes it himself, not even using that as an ingredient. This may sound basic human decency but I'm talking about even minor stuff that could even just make my mouth itchy for a minute.
>Asks me if I have plans for the next time we are going out, if I'd like to go somewhere and he takes me. He knows I have problems speaking for myself so he actively asks me if I want to do something.
>Cooks, cleans, takes care of his looks.
>Is very honest about what looks good on me without being disrespectful. I like honest opinions and not being a simp in general but if I like something and he doesn't he just says I have to decide myself and his opinion "doesn't count" (this sometime makes me laugh)
>Is patient. I have a learning disability and seizures, he would open and take stuff from my hands if I'm not feeling alright. English is not my language so I'm sorry if this sounds rude but is like not having to worry if I drop stuff while having a seizure. I don't drop on the ground myself so I just need to sit but he knows I worry about stuff I'm doing at the moment so he just picks up pans when I 'm cooking and so on and makes sure I am okay with no oil burns or something.
>Likes to play with me. Board games, party games, anything. Likes to watch when I play games he doesn't like.
>Always available for the women of the family, says his dad is a bit of a manchild (lol)
>He doesn't expect sex or affection. He even told me that if it's difficult for me, for my seizures or comfort, we could even go on without sex, it doesnt matter.
>Doesn't drink, except for a small beer in the weekend at dinner time. I hate people who drink.
>Tells that everytime I'm around he has this urges of holding me because he thinks I'm cute. Tells the others, without me present and I knew this because one my friends told me, that he "choose the best" aka me.
>Makes me laugh. Knows what makes me laugh.
>Tells me to have a nice day if he goes out or I go out and actually means it, then texts me if I'm okay during the day.
>Smart, intelligent. Great common sense.
>Doesn't tell me that I have to shave. He's fine with any of my looks.
>Will hug me in his sleep.
>Takes my advice seriously.
>NEVER dismissed my cognitive capacities (short term memory, movements) or intelligence and never raised his voice at me. Would talk stuff out instead of bottling shit up. Ties my shoes since I can't do it.
>Landed a good job and would keep it, is serious about it and likes when he comes home and I'm there. he says that he waits for me.
>If he has to travel somewhere very far, he brings me with him and pays for everything. He did this even when he wasn't still financially stable
Sometimes I feel bad. I struggle with a lot of self worth problems due to previous relationships and I always told him that if I am too much, to leave me immediatly, but I think that, if we've been together for 6 years, it means something.
Maybe he is babying me too much but again, I'm comfortable with him, I feel nice and calm, that's what that matters. I'd like him a thousand times more than a simp who just idolizes me and then has tantrums if I don't give him enough attention. I used to be with people what would get mad if I had to take my meds because they would feel like I was broken or retarded.
Was he raised in a big family? Or had lots of siblings? He gives me those vibes, nice catch nonny
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I know this is basically the bare minimum kindness but my previous bf didn't bother with it at all before so I feel really appreciated.
I have an illness where if I get an attack, I need glucose so my bf got me a huge bottle of cherry Lucozade even though it made him late for work. He has also tucked me into bed really tightly and placed the cat between my knees so I'm really warm.
I feel poorly as fuck but I really appreciate how he will do the small things for me. Most people in my life just get annoyed or think I'm overreacting, even my own mom yelled at me when I was throwing up and had the flu and couldn't get out of bed. My bf doesn't even question/doubt anything, I'm really grateful for that.
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It's okay anon, I'm on the heels of a failed relationship where I wasn't valued enough and it's left me feeling pretty empty. I've come back to this thread a few times to remind myself that sweet, healthy relationships actually do exist in the world. Whether or not I ever get to enjoy one it's nice to hear about women actually being appreciated, supported and adored. I'm glad you're so happy with your partner and hope you keep posting.
How is calling someone a sand stuffed cunt and berating women for having standards >>247396
by replying to a literal 2 year post in a fit of rage creative? She's either a pickme who's angry women dare to have healthy relationships with respectful men or a scrote who's upset women get treated nicely.
>>247755>Insults with any semblance of originality can't come from women
Your reading comprehension is actual dogshit. The only way someone could have a knee jerk reaction to that comment like you did is if they have a deep seeded fear of dying alone because no one would rather spend time with you instead of being single.
Go back to therapy and take your anxiety medication. I'm sure you never work hard at anything.
Please ignore the retarded baiter, it seems like they get off on being edgy and acting like we are going to die alone or something because anons post cute little moments with their bfs here. I come to this thread to read about women getting treated nicely, not to see scrote tier insults or some weirdo telling everyone they're femcels who are going to die alone even though most people here already have a bf/gf.>>247820
Yeah its probably a man who's upset women here are getting treated better than he ever will because he'll never work on himself and improve.
Look, you obviously didn't check who I was initially replying to, but the truth is the opposite. Someone shits on and belittled happy and cute relationships, and I made the assessment only a bitter femcel would post that.
I wish all the best to everyone who isn't so miserable to try to put down other peoples happy relationships.
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He wants to wait until marriage like me and he is ambitious and driven and admirable he likes to build things he is extremely chivalrous he has goals and a good job and he loves to play with my hair we can gaze into each others eyes for hours we danced endlessly to cheesy 50s love songs and cuddled and we went to the thrift store and I love his open-mindedness and unique style and vision and he is responsible and respectful and he is talented he plays multiple instruments extremely well and he is so handsome and so kind and respectful and patient and he is a great kisser and he is so sweet and he actually truly loves me. we are both eighteen and in a very silly way, I always worried I would never experience romantic puppy love like in the books and movies, because I have been raped and pressured and whatnot in the past. I thought I was ruined, and was foolish to think so. because I found him and he found me and this is real love. I never want to forget today nor the other days. I really really am in love. I feel butterflies looking at him, which I never felt for anyone else before. I feel seen and respected and desired and understood. he values and respects me. he's amazing. he wants to wait until marriage too. he loves so gently. he is so gentle yet reliable, like a very strong and deeply rooted tree. We were making out and we both got quite aroused but he made sure we stopped in time. he held me, he played with my hair, caressed my face. we gaze into each others eyes for agesss. he calls me sweet petnames and fawns over me and makes me blush. he wants me to be his girlfriend. he's so sweet and romantic. he goes the extra mile constantly. opening doors for me, holding out chairs, carrying me to the bed so we can cuddle, even though I can obviously walk. brushing my hair out of my face, driving all the way to me even though it's over an hour away and he has work in the morning, driving back despite having left already just to give me the note he made of our first date, because he knew I wanted it, and kissing me goodbye one last time. kissing me so softly and tenderly or with great passion. he's so lovely, he looks so amazing, he's so handsome, he's so wonderful. he told me I'm his dream fantasy girl, that he is the luckiest guy in the world to have me. and I feel the same way. he is my dream guy and I feel so lucky to have met him. I'm so happy to have met him. I'm on cloud nine. I am inhabited by butterflies. I am so happy. I tend to hate guys my age. but yes, he truly is different. He's a unique soul.
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I love his smile his laugh his eyes his arms his cheeks his hands his facial hair body hair head hair every hair everywhere everything his glow his skin his scent his voice his cadence his demeanor he's so soothing so energising he's so perfect he's everything he's the whole package he's sunshine and he's sunset and sunrise and purple skies and pink ones and blue ones and orange ones and he's green trees and birdsong and buzzing bees and blooming flowers and good food and his smile is so magnificent and warm and healing and his laugh is enchanting and his hugs and his personality and creativity he's such a lovely being. He loves building cars and HOUSES!!!! and he loves to play basketball he plays piano guitar bass and drums and actually plays the guitar magnificently. I haven't heard him play any other instrument yet but I can't imagine how amazing he is with his level of dedication. He is so skilled and disciplined. his fingers work like magic. He used to be a guitar teacher actually! he works a lot in an honest way. he has real goals that are very attractive to me. I love it when men work with their hands and he has so many callouses… he can solve a rubix cube in under a minute and is skilled at sprinting. he once saved a person from drowning. he adores me. he is like gooey honey in sweet tea when you're sick. he is his warm embraces. he loves how I want to be loved exactly. I have a playlist that I would listen to whilst daydreaming about slow dancing in the living room with my dream boyfriend. today I slowdanced with my dream boyfriend in the living room. He's so tender and respectful and sweet and patient but also so open and honest and direct and cooing. he calls me sunshine and pinches my cheeks and calls me cute in a baby voice and gives me kisses everywhere when it makes me blush and hide my face. he compliments me constantly and does so earnestly. we will often just face each other, laying in bed or in the grasss or sitting on the couch, and look each other in the eyes and he will carress my face and brush my hair out of it and play with it and I will hold onto him and there is music in the background or birdies chirping and we are so happy and time goes by so fast. Unfortunately I will be leaving this country for another continent in two months, so I don't have much time with him. but I will enjoy it while it lasts
I love bodybuilders. Can't comprehend when women say "Dad bods are sexxxxy"
It's just coddling males at that point. Men who build muscle have the discipline, aren't lazy sacks of nothing, and get wonderful payoff at the end ♡
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I've been stressing over not being able to afford upgrading my pc lately and my bf just said he is going to buy the motherboard and processor I really want. He really is amazing, I didn't even ask for help with it, he just offered and said it was no big deal and he wants to play more games on pc with me.
> met him in a college course
> i'm an MA student and he's an undergrad so he's 4 years younger than me
> noticed me in class and then obsessed over asking me out for weeks
> figured out my name from the attendance sheet and then told his mom and friends about me
> i am attractive but he treats me like a physically perfect goddess
> is tall and cute. physically my type.
> likes to workout and his body goals are being muscular which is always hot to me.
> he comes from a mega rich family, drives a fancy car, lives in a mansion
> surprisingly down to earth for a rich dude although sometimes he can be hilariously out of touch with poor people things
> everything he wants is paid for including gas, he pays for our dates and buys me little gifts when he sees something i like
> he remembers things about me after i tell him once
> made me take a love language test and he noted that gift-giving is one of my tops so he'll bring me food and random gifts
> on scholarship at our school and he's smart, open to debating but also agrees which is shocking bc i'm pretty radfem
> has ambition and plans of what he wants to do after school
> speaks a foreign language and said that he will help teaching me it
> unlike any other guy i've dated he LOVES that i am super well-researched and that i will go on for hours in convo about my opinions on current issues and my field; other guys would eventually get tired of me talking so much but me and my current bf have conversations that could go on forever
> whenever we're together i just never want it to end, he's just so comforting and sweet
> he's not emotionally stunted but is a good problem solver due to his upbringing as the peacemaker of the family, he helps me out a lot when i feel emotionally all over the place
> is the rare straight theater guy so he's very sure of his masculinity and not afraid to be soft or emotional
> he dresses fairly well for a straight guy, his family sometimes buys him designer clothes which probably helps
> is very understanding towards my BPD behaviors and has been so supportive and loving while I do DBT therapy
> is nerdy and makes me play his favorite games while he watches my reactions and makes comments about how cute i am while playing. he is enamored with me while i play his games which is nice because i have massive reactions and everyone typically gets annoyed by my screaming. he loves it though.
> has a huge group of friends and a great support system
> super good with first impressions, even impressed my dad by bringing our garbage can up the driveway randomly
> not afraid to talk about the future with me and likes to talk about our future plans together
> open to wherever i want to move
> always asks if i'm comfortable during sex and doesn't even need to finish, he likes all of the sex and not just the orgasm.
> he loves eating me out and making me finish.
> his dick is 7 inches long and thick as hell. no weird curvature either. he literally has the perfect dick and BDE to match.
> he doesn't get tired after sex or fall asleep on me constantly.
> is against porn ever since i told him my opinion on it and he likes to hear my opinion and learn more about it. i think it's cute because today he told me that he himself does some research on his own now about the sex industry and he had some interesting new findings. it seems like he genuinely cares for human rights or ethical issues.
> i still keep low expectations but he is surprisingly mature for his age. our age difference rarely comes up.
> his best attribute is that above all else, he is so sweet and considerate of me.
> really cherishes his female partners and would be a good husband/father. one of the only men who i think really SHOULD be a father because he has a personality and traits that i think should be encouraged in men.
most people social media stalk their crushes, it's not like he followed me around. he mainly told people about me because i'm stunning to him and he loves my look.
idk if you're trying to be shady with the "fantasy" bit, he's actually real albeit a little younger than i'd personally prefer
Sounds too perfect to be true, but congrats nonny
. Especially these things>he remembers things about me after i tell him once>made me take a love language test and he noted that gift-giving is one of my tops so he'll bring me food and random gifts>is the rare straight theater guy so he's very sure of his masculinity and not afraid to be soft or emotional>he's not emotionally stunted but is a good problem solver due to his upbringing as the peacemaker of the family, he helps me out a lot when i feel emotionally all over the place
So rare to find a guy who is not an emotional void past their ability to rage at random shit. I've often dreamed of finding a guy as attentive and empathetic as me without being one of those creepy types that uses what they find to manipulate you. Being rich, intelligent and good at sex as well is kind of wild.
i know!! either he is a psycho or i found a unicorn, i lean toward the latter because i've spent enough time with him and gotten to know his family a bit. they are very christian and he's hispanic so i feel like he was raised to be a good docile christian boy although he's secretly an atheist now. there's nothing yet suggesting he's a horrible dude deep down. i could try looking through his discord to make sure but i don't want to overstep boundaries.
we haven't been dating super long but i got to know him very well as a friend first and he struck me as the type of guy who a girl would be lucky to have as her bf. if he's actually like this then i want him to be my husband, although i know the statistical probability is very low.
i like him being younger too because i get to teach him about sex and i get to be his first experience for certain sex positions and techniques he never tried. i like going down on guys but he's happy with not getting oral if it feels degrading for me. he doesn't care for it as he's never cum from a blowjob. he also has had sex with female partners where he didn't finish, he said there's a way to hold your dick to prevent cumming and that other guys are overexaggerating and lying about blue balls kek. he seems kind of selfless in a way and i like that although i will never try to exploit it.
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>very sweet, and understanding
>doesnt have a mean bone in his body
>pretty, cute feminine face with no facial hair
>manlet, shorter than me
>perfect beautiful hands and feet
>gladly eats my pussy
>lost our virginities and first kiss together
>doesnt watch porn
>wants to marry me and have children
>buys me nice gifts
sorry for the late response nonita but i hope you read this. feel free to correct me on anything i might be getting wrong here please.
well i don't know what happened between him and his mom, but i'm guessing its some sort of abuse. maybe physical, verbal, maybe she's manipulative, exposed him to horrible people, etc. and i'm guessing he was a child when all of that happened? if any of that is the case then why is he cutting off any empathy for his younger self to stay in a toxic
relationship? im guessing he's making excuses for his past behavior like "she did the best she could" "she lost control a few times but overall she was a good mother" etc etc or he tries to "forgive" her and cope with the past abuse by saying she has changed. her changing now that she's an adult doesn't fix anything, and in fact it makes what she did in the past even worse because now she's proven that she was capable of doing better all along and she only chose to do better once her son was old enough to have the option to leave her.
think about what this says about how he'd treat and protect his own children. any excuses people make for others are excuses they would make for themselves. if he's willing to shit all over any empathy he has for his child self and continues to expose himself and his loved ones (you) to toxic
relationships, idk how good he'd be at protecting his kids in the future.
please talk to him about all of this.
made some errors sryyy>im guessing he's making excuses for his past behavior
change his to her>her changing now that she's an adult doesn't fix anything
change she's to he's
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>widower, knows the way a healthy relationship functions, cherishes the moments between us
>very respected and loved by peers
>well known and believed in our community, like dating a celebrity without violation of privacy
>actually wants to see me grow and experience life, unlike other “age gap” relationships where the men take away from the woman (i’m the age he was when he met his ex wife who is now passed)
>”handy” in everything, fixes all household problems and performs renovation on his own
>building me a new laundry room
>always cracking jokes, is lighthearted versus my seriousness
>i have a disorder that sometimes makes daily tasks difficult, he treats me like a precious flower on my bad days and comes to my doctor with me when i need tests done
>coaches me in the gym and motivates me
>scarfs up everything i cook even when it’s not my best work, always compliments it in a way that isn’t fake
>loves that it takes me forever to get ready in the morning, calls it “primping” and will sometimes just watch me get ready
>never holds my frustrated outbursts against me
>always tries to take me on walks with our dog during sunset because he likes the way the light makes me look, just stares at me on walks
>bought us a house and my dream engagement ring, as well as anything else i ask of him
>has never once taken his anger out on me, never fights with me, always comes from a place of mutual understanding and love and communicates with me amazingly
>is my best friend
muh hallmark except i’ve seen him light his farts on fire + he leaves his socks everywhere. behaves slightly more like a pauly shore character than a prince but i love him.
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together three years, engaged 5 months, living in our house almost 2 years. both of us thought we’d never find love again (i’m dramatic but his belief was legitimate) and we fell in love quickly after being friends for a while because of how simple and natural it all felt.>>251334
i reread it all moony eyed and then realized i made him look like pic
am lucky girl i hope all nonnies can find their ideal partner and live happily every after
>Tall, built like a sturdy boxer
>Consistently buys me thoughtful, high quality gifts like jewelry and hobbie-related items
>High-testosterone, traditionally masculine, but has many female friends and 0 horror stories
>Loves me to climb onto his face
>Known eachother 3 years but have been together 1 year since I reinitiated contact after breaking up for a while
>Doesn't affect anything, there is no grudge about several years ago, only deepening of trust and knowing
>Himbo, likes when I teach him about things
>Never ending patience if I'm upset
>Lets me plan holidays
>Independant thinker wrt ideology and culture, similar views and tastes
>2 years my junior but more cognitive than any other young adult man I've known
>Expresses his love for me openly with pride
>Maybe a bit autistic in the same extroverted type way that I am and it works out well, both party people
>We inspire and help eachother to improve and grow
>Talk about lolcows together
>Never horny if I'm not, beyond respectful in bed, sometimes abstains from masturbating before seeing me, I took his virginity and his cock is mine
>I just hope when we move in soon I can cope without being so needy and obsessed
>were friends during high school, had a brief fling and reconnected later in life
>tall, strong, lean
>confident in his masculinity
>loves to be outside, gets me to enjoy going outside too (otherwise i would just go full hikki)
>his body feels so comfy wrapped up in mine and he loves to give me massages
>doesn't watch porn because he feels it's disrespectful and he only wants to get off to me anyways
>good cook even though he started a fire in my kitchen one time
>wants to marry me, has lots of opinions about how our wedding should be (we agree on all of them thankfully, it's nice to have a bf that actually cares about details like that though)
>is so patient and deals with my autism, reassures me when i feel like a bother, and will listen to my sperging for literally hours on end
>supports me even when i feel like things are falling apart and want to quit grad school, he pushes me to keep going
>is literally perfect at sex, it's like our bodies are made for each other; i faked it with literally everyone else but he can make me orgasm effortlessly
>makes me feel so loved and cherished and secure; i know i don't have to worry about things ever going wrong in my relationship
>pays for all our dates
i could probably go on forever
i love him so so much
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My bf is exactly what I wished for.
>he’s autistic but very high functioning and has self awareness
>loves cute things like my melody etc
>wants to be snuggled as much as myself
>not super eager to spend money but does spoil me
>made a lot of sacrifices so we could be together (I made a lot too don’t worry)
>loves it when I cook for him and loves my baking
>actually cares about me and can understand my autism
>he’s tall and we’re gym partners
>encourages me to better myself
>is very talented at multiple instruments and writes music
>programs video games
>also uses KF lmao
The idea of a guy regularly singing about how much he loves his wife is too cute. Sounds like a great relationship and still passionate after more than a decade. I'm happy for you nonny
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if lolcow has taught me anything it's that the VAST majority of men have the capacity to be vile horrifying creatures, creations of horror beyond my comprehension.
if my real life has taught me anything it's that i am insanely lucky to have found a unicorn (straight man who is NOT: cringe, lame, a porn/ sex addict, an asshole, a leech, a condescending gaslighter, a narc, or any like cartoonish ott meme archetype that real men somehow literally become like incel/ chad/ coomer/ edgelord/ troon/ softboi/ soyboy/ ETC) and it happened pretty early into my like adult/ dating life. which i am so thankful for because i'm a disaster at dating, it's so exhausting to even think about. dating apps terrify me and the idea of trying to enter the dating scene as this introverted oversharing borderline asexual weirdo with niche interests who constantly flakes and ghosts, let alone as a bi woman because i feel like men will fetishize it and women will just question whether i’m one of those faux-queer straight women because i’ve never properly dated a girl. i would be honestly way more content just living my years out alone with a home full of rescued cats and animals than miserable and settling for a partner who sucks and doesn't actually like me.
and i truly think so much of his genuine good nature has to do with the fact that he grew up close to women (his mom/ sister) and the men (brothers) in his life were so cringe and treated him so horribly that he innately learned that he doesn't actually have to be like them. he has ZERO toxic masculinity but he's SOMEHOW not a weak-minded softboy neolib cuck either? he is a healthy middle of the road person? like that shit should be studied in labs. (although idk… a friend of his was raised similarly but single mother/ only child and he turned out okay but SOOO cumbrained that it gets him into trouble so i think sometimes it can't be helped and comes down to other shit, like personality types or being ingratiated into the wrong fucked-up side of the internet without having strong enough morals/ sense of self discipline, and also being unable to think with brain instead of dick) he is empathetic without it being faked or put-on. he has talent and realistic creative career goals and dreams that he's passionate about that aren't corrupt, he has no ulterior motives other than to find happiness. we treat each other well and are healthy and motivate each other to be the best version of ourselves while also being realistic to the limitations our flaws have on us. we constantly make each other crack up like every single day. he's never been abusive, not even emotionally. he's not cumbrained and his taste in women has always been like atypical/ unconventionally attractive types so he would never put me down for having a strong nose or any of my unconventional features because he's into them without trying to be a "i'm not like other men" man. he'd never cheat because he's traumatized by an ex who cheated on him (and i'd never cheat because other men are gross to me and other women are too perfect and intimidating to even try to flirt with lol)
we both are so similar (enneagram 9 and 4, both INFP, both ADHD, similar taste in almost everything) and i never thought it was possible to have 90% of things in common with a man. it feels wrong to say 'scrote' because he has zero scrote behaviors and literally his only moid-adjacent flaws are like, occasionally liking edgy problematic comedians and shouting when he plays video games which is not even that often (and not even in a scary male rage way) and probably being too desensitized to violence and gore from being a huge horror film stan. also possibly being an autist but i honestly think it's just the ADHD alone because he has too much empathy and consideration for others, and he has such similar issues to what i go through mentally/ bad habits. but that's truly all i can think of. if he had any red flags i'd have caught onto it years ago because men are retarded and can't hide their demons for shit and women are way more perceptive to it. and HE'S NOT EVEN UGLY???? I SWEAR. he has just enough body dysmorphia to humble him and not turn him into a cocky asshole about being like, a pretty boy type that girls have always liked. we both would likely never do any better than each other, because we’d either find a vapid hottie with nothing in common or a relatable but lame uggo. i really cannot picture ever finding better, but it’s not anywhere close to a feeling of “settling” for him. it’s just… contentment. and love. i don’t have to be someone i’m not around him and we have grown up with each other as young adults and now have become better versions of ourselves, like thanks to each other. at my darkest points he comforts me no matter what, and i do the same for him, and it never feels draining or unbalanced.
anyway thank god i found a nigel/ boyfriend brag friend because i can’t imagine spreging about this anywhere in /ot/ without anons going “he sounds totally real and not made up” or “check his hard drive” or “you literally ARE a fake bi” or “enjoy your future surprise troon/ cheater/ murderer etc” and you know what i wouldn’t even be able to blame them because why would anyone here believe that a man has the capability to be good? idk i'm just here to gush into the void because i can't believe this is my reality even though it's been years of it. i really truly think i might have offed myself a long time ago if i never found someone like him, or i'd at least be in a way worse off place in life. we recently adopted a kitten together and he dotes on her and treats her so gently and sweetly that it makes my heart hurt, my stupid dormant maternal instinct is creeping out and i can almost, aaalmost be okay with picturing having kids with him maybe in our 30s (and i am someone who was always staunchly against ever having or wanting them for myself and am more of an advocate for the majority of the population to stop popping out kids and adopt instead, but here we are. ew) i hope every other woman who likes men or wants to end up with a man has this kind of person waiting for them. this is beginning to look like a manifesto but whatever ok i’ll shut up now
Nta but op did say>He also doesn't have Instagram, which makes me happy because I swear the only reason a man has Instagram is to look at other girls.
even tho he's 100% looking at pornstars and getting off to them somewhere else. The anon you replied to has a point.
Still not impossible, I'd say at this point more likely than regular scrote acting like he's fine not getting off for two years. I guess now I'm curious, >>266627
have you two ever been sexual with each other, mutually? Or has he always been like what you're describing? I really want to believe a woman can have a happy relationship exactly like she wants, and for it to not be another case of disgusting dude going behind his partner's back to be the stereotypical coombrained waste of space
Asexual men don't exist, lol.
Sorry but there is no way a man is just not getting off for 2 years. He is masturbating and watching porn. If you really think a relationship without sex with a coomer is desirable… you are hopeless lol. Why not just be single?
Their point is that if he's not getting an orgasm with her for years on end… he's only going to be getting off to porn at a much higher rate than even the average guy.
And I get not being into PIV because of either personal taste or not wanting to worry about bc or pregnancy etc.. but not wanting to get your partner off in any way… there's no true attraction there.
The idea that sexual intimacy always has to center around PIV is more mentally ill imo. PIV will always suck ass, BC can always fail and 70% of women can't even orgasm from it alone. Who cares, imagine potentially ruining your life for an act for something that is less than mindblowing. Meanwhile, she gets unlimited orgasms and a moid who actually sensually pleases her and pays attention to her body rather than just sticking his dick in her and being done with it.>My bf doesn't look at porn,
Kek. Yes, we get it, your bf is such a pure soul.
>works as a mechanic at a distribution center, services forklifts and intermodal trailers
>texts me from his work shop, gets long lunch breaks
>likes trail biking a lot, ride with him occasionally by a nearby creek.
>He likes classic horror films, and also read a lot of classics; Count of Montecristo, The Great Gatsby
>He shaves outside, always puts his clothes in the hamper, and always cleans up after himself
>we go shopping in the afternoon for silly recipes I watch on youtube, he usually eyes the meat and booze a lot.
>one of us pretty much does the cooking, while the other usually shouts from the other room of movies on the movie catalog.
>usually we get drunk on the weekends at the park, mess around with the carousel and swing sets
>we do have a car, but it some old corolla, only use it to trek into the city for an occasional concert venue
>sex is usually whenever he wants it, but he's very versatile in fucking while standing and can lift me up
>he doesn't spend much except on his bike, pays for the toiletries and food, and when he does buy me gifts, it's usually furnishings I pick out for our small half-townhouse apartment. I get to do do interior decor. :D
Nta but I think you can skip piv and still do enough other things together that both partners are left satisfied and needs are met… I've been there. But the op isn't even having a mutual sex life even outside of piv. That's not normal if you're attracted to someone. One partner never caring about the other one finishing… that's just not healthy no matter what gender is stuck on the wrong end of the deal for years on end. And when it's a man on that end of the deal you're left wondering what his outlet has been for the last 2 years and counting. Because he has to have an outlet somewhere.
It's not feasible that it's a healthy or functional way to conduct a long term monogamous relationship. Shit's not adding up. I hope that anon is just young and that someday she finds a guy (or woman) who she'll want to have a mutual sexual relationship with becuase something is clearly missing there and it's not even about the piv part.
i love this for you too omg i thought i was gonna be dogpiled
i swear if people just hyperfixated on personal projects that fulfilled them and loved and supported each other instead of obsessing over small unimportant things men and women would get along again
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he is the first person (besides my mom), to ever actually try to understand me and why i do things how i do them, how my mind works etc. im autistic and i used to feel like no one will ever even bother to try to understand me.. obviously, sometimes we have misunderstandings and stuff, but knowing he is someone who loves me and wants truly the best for me is something i never thought i would have. i love him a lot and i just wish i could better express to him how much i appreciate him.
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i love my lil internet man he's the first guy to actually like me for who i am, not a weird coomer fantasy. we have things in common for once and he doesn't watch porn or ask me to shave either which is based. we're both cool with keeping it casual for now but it's just nice to feel appreciated by someone who isn't repulsive for once.
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i have a boyfriend but i dont deserve him. we have started dating march of last year (march 3rd) but we started to talk in january 2021. and before you ask, yes we are dating online and no i havent physically met him yet but i love this man so much. (we plan on meeting next year so it's already set in stone)
imma break it down
>late 2020-2021 depressed as shit
>regulary plays fortnite
>get a random friend request from someone i never played with
>we start playing and talking alot
>i randomly ask him if he would like to sleep on the phone with me for one night
>we then proceed to sleep on the phone everynight and he eventually asks me to be his girlfriend
>life has been much better than it was in 2020
i guess i am just lucky because he is really patient with me and i love him more than anything <3 (attached picrew is me and him ik its fucking corny idgaf)
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I love him so much. We've been together for almost 5 years now.
>met through mutual friends, he was immediately into me, admired me from afar for months before making a move because he had never been so into anyone before
>super smart and very articulate to boot, can freely discuss anything with him and we always learn more from each other, always discussing philosophy and art, thinks im smarter than him
>makes 6 figures and works from home so i get to be around him as much as i want, but both of us respect each other's need for any space
>doesnt expect me to work
>takes me on all kinds of trips around the country and world, before him i barely even left my house
>jacked nerd with wavy hair, my ex was emaciated so i feel spoiled having someone healthy and strong
>sometimes i tear up when looking at him because i'm so overwhelmed by his beauty inside and out
>drove 4 hours to leave a conference to come take care of me when i got covid, knowing hed also catch covid
>we cook dinner together almost every night, he cooks dinner for me when i'm fatigued, always does his own laundry, cleans up after himself
>saves money and seldom buys anything except necessities for himself, but buys me anything i want and even when i ask for nothing he buys me things related to my interests all the time anyway, feels surreal as someone who grew up a poorfag
>he encourages me to challenge myself and test my own limits, has helped me grow so much as a person
>always down for an adventure, open to every proposal for a trip across the world
>i catch him staring at me from across the room, and he'll come over to kiss the top of my head brush my hair with his fingers, and whispers "you're my special girl"
>high emotional intelligence, so empathetic hes not bothered by my being emotional and sensitive, always knows how to handle my anxiety and has a calming presence, loves to reassure me and stay by my side petting my hair if im distressed, redirects negative emotions into positivity but also freely lets me feel
>likes radfem feminist writers but doesnt call himself a feminist or direct attention towards himself for this
>we read together side by side before bed every night
>one day saw in the mail he had secretly donated thousands of dollars to anti sexual violence charities that work to get funding for womens shelters and rape victim charities
>loves going to art museums with me and watching weird art house movies
>keeps every drawing i've done for him, puts my love letters on his mirror
>porn free because he considers it misogynistic and unhealthy, admits he watched it a lot in the past which bothers me but its still better than most men who watch it and never stop (he's not lying, I have free access to his pc and once made sure he was telling the truth by checking harddrives, incognito caches in the terminal, public and private trackers, etc. [im traumatized af by an ex and 99.9999% of men who claim to be porn free cannot be trusted, so i just needed to check once to not feel paranoid and i later told him i did this because i felt bad about it.])
>owns up to his mistakes and doesnt enable my own but is still forgiving and patient
>doesnt use social media
>grew up with sisters and has a good relationship with his mom
>he was a virgin before me and is the first person besides myself to make me orgasm
>identical sex drives, he genuinely cares about my pleasure and not in the way that just loops back to reaffirming his own masculinity, feels like we're one in the bedroom, always goes above and beyond at making me finish, doesnt flinch at period blood
I want to be with him forever and ever and ever and ever. Writing this all out feels kinda surreal. He's on a work trip I didn't wanna go on and I'm missing him. Being in a healthy loving relationship is so soul cleansing.
it seems almost impossible to meet a man like yours, I'm happy for you. I've never met or heard about a guy like this irl so it also seemed surreal to read all of this lmao. Can I ask how old you were when you met?
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I was 19 and he was 24 when we first met. I honestly think guys who work in tech are probably your best bet for this sort of experience as long as you avoid the coomer gamer redditor aspiring-cryptobro types. A lot of guys in tech are really creative and open minded, and most in my experience are left leaning. I got lucky meeting him through friends because before that I avoided programmers/engineers/etc like a plague lol. But most of his coworkers and friends have code based art projects that they work on and they're all really emotionally mature, kind, politically involved, and weirdly fun. Eclectic people. I must sound like a techbro shill right now but I'm just saying, don't avoid them like I used to lmao.
I'm super grateful and I hope you can meet someone just as sweet to you nonna!!
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>>277161>he was a virgin before me and is the first person besides myself to make me orgasm
In the other thread you posted that he has a 16 year old daughter.
That is not my post, thank god. >>277355
I understand being suspicious, especially since only the good things are listed in my post from earlier. I could list the less than pleasant things for realism's sake but this is a thread for bragging after all. If it's of any consolation he's never called himself a feminist and I'd assume he never would (because girlboss libfem stuff). I almost actually wrote a disclaimer in my original post about how there's still stressful moments and disagreements and arguments, that it's not some Disney fantasy.
Basically, when we first started dating I had recently been assaulted and had a hard time actually containing the trauma. I was still processing everything and there were several times where I unraveled and spewed my guts to him about how much I had been hurt by men, and how much I hate that even the seemingly nicest men watch porn and get off to abuse and so on, how even porn free men are fucking haunted by the porn they used to watch. I think part of it is guilt, but not guilt for having abused women himself, just guilt over what comes with being raised as a man and having watched porn in the past, knowing the way men are raised is what results in so much violence against women, violence against the person he loves, knowing he's powerless to stop it altogether but has money so he may as well do something small like donate to these things and just try to be a decent person. I definitely struck many nerves when I was at my worst–I had moments where I resented him for having had a porn habit before I met him and it kinda fucked with my head at one point. In retrospect I'm amazed he put up with me because I was just so torn up. But I believe in his good faith and know he's just overall a really sensitive person who hates the idea of people in his life suffering, and extends that to strangers.
After I learned a friend of mine from childhood had started prostituting herself I was distraught, and the first thing he said when I told him is that he wanted to give me money to give her, since she was doing prostitution to pay rent and buy food. Before meeting me and my friend he had no exposure to anyone who had either been abused or had ties to the sex industry at all, and it shook him up a bit. It became real and it affected him a lot. He wasn't familiar with radfemshit when we met, but just by being around me he became familiar with it through osmosis and took it upon himself to do reading in private without talking about it until he had completed a few texts and wanted to discuss them.
But really we seldom talk about feminism proper, it's mostly just that he's an excellent recipient of my complaints and stories related to being a woman.
Hopefully this makes sense, I've been on lolcow all day out of boredom for the first time since 2019 and I need to sleep.
He is strong, has sexy curly hair, other men react positively to him because he is chad-like, has protected me more than once, helped get me a job (we work together and it's great, we get to hang out and babysit machines all night while we watch movies/game, has a beautiful penis, very generous, will make sacrifices for me, will listen and change if I bring up an issue (for example he does all the dishes now without me having to ask), has traveled with me on his dime, is kind-hearted and good natured, LOVES to satisfy me sexually, funny, intelligent, isn't pornsick at all, was celibate by choice when I met him 12 years ago, he pursued me, our cat absolutely adores him, great with kids, doesn't want kids (me too), will always drive and go into stores so I can chill, has helped me immensely with my mental struggles, very compassionate, I love his style of dress, gives great gifts, willing to get a vasectomy, always supportive of my hobbies and encourages me to keep at them, my family adores him, is learning to cook, does chores, was extremely patient and compassionate during sexual dry spells which lasted way longer than I'm willing to admit, loves the shit out of me, buys me treats and candy as a surprise, is passionate and fiery about world events, great body, showers regularly (kek), likes good music, is friends now with my brother whom I love very much, one time a man followed us in his car because he was raging about some traffic bullshit WITH HIS KIDS IN HIS CAR and my bf calmly told him to go home and he did, respects women, thinks troons are crazy, I could probably go on. I feel very blessed.
i've been going through a pretty rough patch and he's just been there for me through it all. i've been stuck in a depressive episode for 6+ months and i recently lost my job and i've basically been a neet for the past 2 months but he has been the most supportive figure in my life and has proven that he really just loves me for me and i've never known that feeling before.
since losing my job he's still taken me on trips to the beach and paid for everything. just the other day he bought us tickets to see a concert this weekend of a band i've loved since I was a child. he's made it a tradition that every Saturday he drives me to my therapy appointment and picks me up afterwards and buys us empanadas.
When I was having problems with my roommates he let me sleep over at his house, and his family is so warm and kind to me. I grew up in a home that when it wasn't chaotic and abusive, was just cold and lifeless, and his family is the direct opposite of that. They're always throwing parties and inviting me over and making sure I feel included and loved.
He goes out of his way to get me up and doing something when I'm being a depressed loser. When I don't want to do anything but sit on the couch all day and zone out, he'll come over and make dinner with me, or buy me a video game so he can watch me play it, or get me outside to take a walk with him.
All of this on top of the fact that this man basically worships me, will eat me out until I orgasm several times, would rather watch people get their teeth pulled out than go to the club with his friends, and will literally talk in his sleep about how much he loves me.
I feel so lucky to have him in my life. I've never known someone that makes me want to get better so intensely. I know the rule is to only want to get better for yourself, but he has done so many amazing things for me. He is such an incredible, generous, loving soul and I just want to be able to give all of that back to him. He deserves the entire world and I am determined to give it to him.
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this might be cringey but my Nigel called me a "little pea" and I think it's my favorite nickname he's ever given me hahah
In my first relationship, I could make a huge list about all the amazing things he's done so far too but right now I'm blown away that he actually enjoys planning dates, trips, surprises, buying gifts and doing things for me that I like and remembering all sorts of details about what I want and like. Wtf I'm blown away.
I thought men were awful? Compared to the slew of online dating escapades, I am blown away that the first guy I actually am in a relationship with and the girlfriend of checks off all these boxes. I have a beautiful bouquet of pink roses on my counter right now. I can't believe there are men who exist that not only want to do this stuff but enjoy it too. Thats just the superficial romantic stuff too, on a personal level he is so kind, patient, well rounded, intelligent, and so on. It is wonderful to spend time with him. I feel like I'm in a dream sometimes.
No one to share to because my female friends are in not as satisfactory relationships or going through dating hell
>quit porn on his own before we were together
>is madly attracted to me after several years, even when I don't feel pretty or lovable
>endlessly patient, even when I know I'm in the wrong. Willing to communicate and come to understandings instead of harboring resentment
>claims he will never love again if we break up or something happens to me
>almost overeager to take care of me
>always eager to experience things with me, either new stuff or experiences he's enjoyed in the past
>his sweat has an almost addictive smell to me. I seriously can't get enough of it
>pays for everything, even when I want to pitch in
>bigger than average peen
>cute and handsome
>gets along with my family and I get along well with his. His mother even refers to me as her daughter
>sweet and affectionate towards small children and animals
>not much of a gamer, doesn't own consoles and only plays the occasional PC game
>compliments and tells me he loves me multiple times a day, and is always eager to touch and cuddle me
>good eater and enjoys the food I cook, even going as far to say that some of my dishes are the best he's ever had
>texts me every single day from work, often sends me photos of sunsets or cute animals he sees on the job
>disgusted by the PUA/alpha mindset and toxic masculinity, but also repulsed by predatory male feminists
>so monogamous just the idea of poly upsets him
>brought up marriage years before I did, and continues to claim that our wedding was the best day of his life
>doesn't care what I do with my hair, what I wear or whether or not I wear makeup, he just wants me to be confident and happy
>competent cook, and eager to clean
>intelligent to boot
>thoughtful and considerate, not at all lazy or a slob
>despite being from different countries and upbringings, our politics and general life sensibilities are nearly 1:1
The only problem is that he's extremely jealous. He's gotten better over the years, but every so often he gets jealous. We also have mismatched libidos, with his being higher than mine. He's okay with just fapping though. Other than that I'm happy. I'm madly in love with this man and I'll do anything for him, just as he'd do for me.
it's me again
MY BOYFRIEND saw my BEDROOM RAMEN and still loves me. Let that sink in. The man saw my opened pack of uncooked ramen on my nightstand that I tore into like a feral animal some night at 3am and forgot to clean up before he came over made no comment of it and loves me the same.
>told his mum about me>he is tall and handsome>always smells nice>loves my OC memes and art>supportive of my career (wants to move to wherever I go)>pays for every meal>knows my history with 4chan and imageboards and finds it cute>recently helped me assemble some furniture>recently trying to move to my city
honestly most of all I think about what a flawed human being I am, what I put him through, the mistakes I make, and see that he is still there for me and that makes me feel loved. He's seen me through all sorts of ailments and stress and is still there for me. I don't know WHAT I've done to deserve this.
ah men who genuinely understand that women are allowed to hate men as a concept because we live under patriarchy == the only type of men i love.
he sounds lovely anon
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Here to post a very important update: We are finally closing our distance next month and he's staying here with me!! I'm still so incredibly happy and we've grown even more than last time I posted here. I used to be really jaded because I've got a couple exes who are scrotes through and through but I know in my heart I'm going to marry this boy.
really cute nonny
, cherish your hotdog dispensing nigel
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>appreciates and loves me for who I am, even parts I think are ugly
>sweet and empathetic when he needs to be, but stoic
>genuinely apologizes when he's done wrong
>good at teaching me things
>EXTREMELY good in bed. I feel like I'm in a smutty romance novel, makes me come without even trying hard, seemingly
>made me come vaginally for the first time ever when I could never even achieve that on my own
>values the same things as me
>hates porn–I didn't have to convince him to not watch it, he just thinks it's degenerate
>is excited to have a family with me one day
>believes in me and encourages me to pursue my passions
I posted here about a year ago about a couple of the grand romantic gestures my ex would make, but he turned out to have anger issues as our relationship progressed
I ended up posting in the vent thread like every other time we had a fight and nonnas would beg me to dump him
I have a new Nigel now and will make a Nigel brag post comparing him to my shitty ex
Moid ex>6 feet tall but was skinny fat>stopped watching porn because I asked him to>shamed me for my fetishes but liked being called Daddy kek disgusting>works a dead end office job not making much and hates it>would get mad at me for telling him his jokes hurt my feelings>would get mad when he would lose in videogames and take it out on me kek>would get mad when generally anything frustrated him like a manchild having a temper tantrum>I developed a fear of being honest with him about about any issues I had because I knew he'd get really defensive and argue about it>would throw me being CPTSD (BPD/PTSD) in my face to gaslight me whenever we had a disagreement>never told his family about me>got annoyed whenever I would talk for too long>thought my sense of humor was weird, when I'd show him something that was funny he'd get uncomfortable>his sense of humor just was making mean jokes at my expense>even early on, almost every time we had conversations it'd feel like I had to try really hard to not make the conversation die like it was forced>thought my sense of style was weird, thought it was too slutty and hyperfeminine>tried to convince me to stop using lolcow
New Nigel>6 feet tall thin athletic body type with abs>hasn't watched porn since he was 18 (he's 23) because it felt wrong>incredibly sexually compatible and has the exact same fetishes as me>pursuing a career in finance and genuinely enjoys it>says his goal is to become rich enough that he can buy me all the expensive designer dresses I want>has no temper, incredibly patient with me (he said he's gotten angry at me once because I was being mean when I had a mild BPD episode early on, but I couldn't even tell he was angry because he was being so patient and kind)>we regularly have really mature, constructive conversations about issues either of us have that are always supportive and loving and we both walk away feeling closer/understood>told his parents about me after a month of dating, and they got really hyped to meet me because I have similar interests as both of them, now they both ask abt me every time he talks to them>will ALWAYS intently listen to me talk about anything for any amount of time, says he loves what a good story teller I am>we have the same sense of humor and any time we are together we make eachother laugh a lot>effortless to be around him, we can spend entire days together and never feel bored or like we don't have something to talk about>loves my fashion sense, if I can't figure out if I should buy something I'll send him a picture and he will rank it from SSS tier to B tier (he says nothing I like is below B tier)>at this point in the relationship I feel so safe, loved, and secure that my CPTSD is basically dormant, haven't ever felt this mentally well>he thinks it's funny when I talk about how I hate moids because he also looks down on men who are pathetic and gross>I actually… admire and respect him? I've never respected a man this much>genuinely could not say a bad thing about this man
I've known my new Nigel for a few years through mutual friends
After I dumped my ex I had a what the hell moment and slid into his messages because I've always thought he was hot
Turns out he also had a thing for me and we really clicked
Kind of grateful I dated that moid because, even though he was a manchild, I realized I needed to raise my standards
I don't think I would've had the courage to reach out to my Nigel if I didn't go through that
I will come back in a year and update if it's still working out, wish me luck nonnas
That shit is honestly the worst because it leaves a lot of conflicted feelings and lingering attachment, compared to finding out about something that is a definitive dealbreaker that cuts off your sense of hope
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>im a recovering anachan, he encourages me to eat, cooks me breakfast pretty much every morning. he has done so much to help me recover
>he has a pretty high sex drive and i don't (mostly due to my meds.) i am insecure about it but he reassures me and says it would be fine if we never had sex for the rest of our lives as long as we could be together. he was upset when he found out i was going off my meds because i thought it'd make him happier. he has an alarm set on his phone and makes sure i take them everyday
>loves music, listens to random genres like peruvian polyrhythms, classical 1920s, goes to jazz bars, isn't pretentious. learning guitar, i love hearing him play and sing
>attractive wonderful strong voice
>very smart, but he doesn't think he is
>funniest person i know, he loves making me laugh when i am upset
>messy/untidy (neglectful hoarder mom), depressed anxious drop out neet. now he is emotionally stable, tidy, back in school, healthy social life and is excited for our future
>loves his mother even if she wasn't the best, knows it was difficult to raise 2 kids and an infant as a depressed widow. talks with her often
>helps out his younger sister with her hoarding/messy room, texts her when it's garbage day, when we visit he helps her clean
>empathetic, very passionate about group cohesion and making sure his friends are okay
>we both want the same things (comfy future on a homestead, maybe a kid or two)
>obsessed with me, thinks i'm beautiful, his ideal
>encourages me and my hobbies, likes looking at my drawings
we met each other online when we were 14, were friends but had a slight crush on one another, fell out of contact for a bit, started talking again when we were 18, then dated a year or so after. it has been three and a half years, i hope we can stay together for a long time.
he is so wonderful, even with his flaws. right now he is in a bad mood because he was hyper aware of the feeling of his pants on him and had to take them off and lie on the floor for a bit. he might be a bit autistic. i love him
Yeah, having a good relationship takes a lot of emotional maturity and work to self-reflect and grow.
I think the most important trait in any relationship is a strong sense of mutual empathy.
and can say that the reason my relationship right now is so good is primarily because because we both put work in to communicate openly and respectfully with one another, which I've never mutually experienced to this degree before.
He can tell me something that's bothering him which kind of stings and hurts initially, but I put those feelings aside and really try to understand his perspective.
And sometimes he does things, unknowingly, that hurt me, and he feels hurt when I talk to him about it, but he puts those feelings aside to comfort me and make things right.
We can talk about difficult things without getting angry or upset or offended or defensive, and most importantly, while prioritizing how eachother feels.
I think that's really one of the most important aspects of a relationship that brag posts don't really touch on.
A boyfriend can be great at oral sex or do amazing grand gestures, but that won't keep you happy when you can't openly communicate.
I miss him so much nonnies. I want to write a post as a distraction so I don't end up blowing up his phone with clingy text messages. We are LDR right now for my job.
>never ending patience.
He'd make such an amazing father. He never blows up at anything. I've only seen him angry once in our two year relationship.
Totally zen mode. Never gets irritated. Never gets annoyed. Doesn't get passive aggressive. Isn't confrontational. Mature and level-headed.
>responsible, disciplined and diligent
He always gets things done on time and works first, plays later.
When he's not working, he's spending his time wisely looking up practical things to improve finances or make our lives easier.
>takes care of body, face, and mind
Goes to the gym at least 6x a week. Eats well to maintain his figure. Encourages me to be fit too which is a bonus. It's so easy to not be fat if you're partner is fit and it has improved my self-esteem immensely (I was very fat when I met him). Actually READS books and enjoys learning about psychology, history, economics, politics, geography - all sorts of topics - to help him get a better sense of the world.
Takes skincare very seriously (even when he's too sleepy). I am glad because most men don't put on sunscreen and then get wrinkles super early.
>Very thick head of wavy silky hair
I like to touch his floof.
He has one of those faces that makes people do double-takes in public. Some mistake him for a celebrity. Two people have taken creep photos of him. Had a stalker when he went to college. Women fling themselves onto him and offer casual sex.
Knows how to survive in the wild. Really sexy watching him ski, canoe, kayak, forage, chop wood and build fires. Camping with him feels safe and cozy.
>comfy 6" height difference
It's nice to snuggle my head right under his chin
>completely smitten by me
He loves me a lot and reminds me through various love languages (words of affirmation, gentle touches, acts of service, etc.) Is at his happiest with me and always looks like he's in heaven when he is graced by my heavenly angelic presence~ (not sarcasm, he literally looks at peace with me)
Not the type of guy to fool around. Is committed. Won't look at other girls sexually. Won't even look at porn. Doesn't use social media like instagram, tiktok, twitter, OF or 4chan where scantily clad photoshopped male gazey women are posted frequently.
>classy and posh
Grew up in an upper-class family and owns antiques, knows random historical facts, enjoys arts and cultural things like museums, art galleries, poetry, literature, and classical music concerts. However, not stuffy, snobby and uptight.
>sex very good
Always makes sure I finish before he does
Always loves learning something new everyday. His brain is thirsty for knowledge and is a sponge that just sucks up random facts with ease. He has a spookily perfect memory and learns things quickly on the fly.
I'm jealous over this one. Mine's not nearly as high. And I feel insecure over it because sometimes I wonder if he should go with someone who is as smart as him.
>great gift giver
Actually spends time mulling over what to give to loved ones and it's always so thoughtful the way he picks his gifts out. He caters gifts to personality, shared experiences, inside jokes, and whatever else to make that gift extra special compared to just buying everyone low effort gifts like Christmas socks or joke sweaters and mugs.
Okay I think that's enough for now I might come back later and gush into the void if I start missing him again.
I just needed to happily ramble because it's been so long since I was genuinely happy. My guy was a virgin, by choice, he didn't want to have sex with anyone he didn't think he would marry. I respected his boundaries but I'm not going to say I didn't attempt to seduce him a little, I find him insanely attractive and he turns me on immensely. We vacationed together for a week recently, and after hearing him gush over how much he loved me, how lucky he felt to have me, and how he couldn't wait for us to live together we finally ended up sleeping together. It was awkward and uncomfortable and I still loved every second of it, it ended up being such a special moment and I feel so honored he did want to wait because I see how much it meant to him now.
The night before we were upstairs in the house watching it rain out of this massive window, and he just held me and slow danced with me while humming. It was the cheesiest thing I have ever experienced but it felt like pure magic. The way this man looks at me, it's unreal. No one has ever even come close to loving me how he does, I didn't know it was possible to be loved and cared for so deeply, I didn't realize what it was missing. When he just cups my face into his hands and looks into my eyes and smiles, he looks so happy just to be with me.
I feel so safe with him, my heart is home
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>met online when we were both in high school>lives 45 mins from me>slim body type, my type physically>insanely smart and i value his takes a lot>good at basically anything involving brain power, learns faster than me>learning korean and wants to travel with me>always full off energy and hyperactive>carries me bridal style if i get tired of walking or have problem with shoes>extremely hygienic (ocd)>values family and has strong morals>stopped watching porn when i asked and is now morally against it>nofap for years>huge dick>we're both celibate now but used to always finish at the same time>watch shows together and binge asian snacks>kisses me maybe a hundred times as i just laugh>accepts my hobbies/interests even though im a huge weeaboo and he's not>encourages me to gain weight since i am recovered ana>feeds me even when i reject it at first>we make each other laugh all the time>just pleasant in general to everyone>together for 4 years>i could go on
i love him + i feel so lucky
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that's really sweet. Being passionate about something and working hard to get better at it is always attractive, and I'm sure he appreciates how much you treasure him and support his hobby.
Anyway here's mine:>incredibly affectionate>always respectful>not a coomer and doesn't watch porn, sex is always intimate and loving>hot af, body is exactly my type>communicates really well, honest and mature>extremely intelligent but doesn't like to flaunt it, very humble>independent, takes good care of himself and his living space>shows interest in my passions and opinions, we never run out of topics to talk about
There's so much more than that too. After previous experiences with pornsick moids obsessed with toilet humor and wearing the same disintegrating boxers for days on end, I almost couldn't believe how genuinely different this guy is. I really believe he's one of a kind and I've never met anyone like him.
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my nigel is a ripped feeder, we're having a donut eating contest
I don't know how I got this lucky. I'm pretty sure I tulpa manifested him or something because I wrote literally all of these preferences in a journal before we met.
>Loves me more than anybody I have ever met
>Jarringly sexy. My exact type, eerily so I made an OC that looked and behaved exactly like him when I was a 13 year old making a dream bf. He relates to and physically resembles my fictional husbandos too…
>6'4, jacked, super broad shoulders, long torso, doesn't have weird lanklet proportions
>Works pecs extra hard in the gym because I love a big chest
>Long, wavy teddybear brown hair that he lets me style and braid whenever I want
>Nice jawline, but a soft pretty babyface with delicate features and a perfect ski slope nose, pale complexion, big green eyes
>Gorgeous vascular hands, nice deep voice with a gentle accent
>Moves quietly and gracefully despite being so huge
>So hot I occasionally look at him and get scared
>Patient, diligent, hardworking
>Insanely responsible. Was the singular caretaker/breadwinner of his dying father for a long time, always there at his bedside while also working and studying full time until his passing. At like, 21. Now an orphan basically
>Caring- will try to "sneakily" look after me if he detects I'm feeling blue at all, will "steal" chores and housework I intended to do
>Loves my cooking and praises even my failures, tries to cook whenever I let him [not often but he tries]
>Willing to try literally anything new with me. Eats foods he used to hate and loves them now, has never had a bad thing to say about a travel destination/activity/meal
>Romantic. Writes me poetry at least once a week, gets flowers regularly, recognizes I'm not a romantic and lets me be blunt and cold despite it
>Makes good money, always trying to make more to treat me with
>I thought he was gay initially because he was so preening and capable of engaging with feminine interests
>Actually straight, just likes fashion/colors/looking good
>Not at all a consoomer; great taste in the little media he intakes, but prefers IRL activities like hiking
>Very smart. Very very smart. Always trying to better himself and be even better read, considers himself ignorant despite being extremely competent
>Thinks I'm far smarter than him
>Admires my diligence, coldness, sense of justice, and interest in mathematics and philosophy
>Incredibly encouraging- thinks I'm even more capable than him, but doesn't expect me to do anything "beneath me" either, never pushes or expects me to work
>Offers valuable feedback on my creative hobbies, even writes b-side fiction/fanfiction for my stories regardless of how overworked he is
>Loves my art so much he's had dedicated folders of it for years pre-relationship
>Swallows his negative emotions with the intention of centering my melancholic nature/making me feel better every day, but is emotionally available enough to articulately explain them all when asked
>Met when we were teenagers, same age
>Apparently wanted to impress me from the moment he saw me write, moreso when he heard my voice; loved me for years before he knew what I looked like
>Stole me from said abusive ex as soon as it became possible, proud of it, does not consider me to have "cheated" in any sense
>Will kill my ex if he shows his face again
>No loyalty toward men, actively disdains most of them as bums, failures and scumbags; at best hopes they become better
>Far more empathic toward women- but doesn't get inappropriately close to them like a lot of feminist men do
>Hates porn, has always found it crass and disgusting
>Feebly attempted to date other women at his now-late father's request, but failed due to the weight of his longstanding crush on me and not wanting to do casual sex (I cross-checked this with his other male friends lol)
>Was KHV when we got together, I got to take his everything HAHAHA YESSSS
>Becomes openly offput when other women make advances or try to occupy too much space in my life [this is good because I am chronically jealous. working on that but still]
>Transphobic due to being a bit fruity himself
>Enjoys that I'm a deranged weirdo, consumes fujoshit with me noting its romantic and literary virtues like he's studying Dante
>Writes fanfiction with me. Also writes stories that are literally just AUs of us constantly, turning his self-inserts into husbandos for me to enjoy
>like I'm a forest spirit and he's a wizard, he's an executioner and I'm a forest spirit psychologically torturing him in the woods, I'm a biologist and he's a sexy yaoicore mythical creature
>None of these things are excessively sexual, ever, like sex scenes are not in them. It's just romance
>Nonetheless willing to go along with whatever deranged fantasy I may have. Service top with a large penis who often skips on PIV because his primary interest is satisfying me/doing a good job
>No weird fetishes thank god. Unless I count. Possibly that
>We autistically roleplay out some of the fiction stuff because we are completely shameless around one another
>We have the same identical insane sense of humor, almost every sentence is an inside joke
>Doesn't get squeamish about periods whatsoever
>Never argued, but when we have occasional conflicts of intention we clear it up immediately with graphs and shit
>I still catch him staring at me often
>Loves my big nose and weird unsexy body
>Married me as quickly as I'd let him, justifying it by saying that if he fell out of love with me or disappointed me badly enough divorce he would deserve everything that was coming for him
The weirdest part is that I hated him for years, thinking I could never have him. I bullied the shit out of this guy. But the opposite of love is not hate, I think; it's apathy, and I was just as psychotically obsessed with him as he seems to be with me. It's so weird, especially because he KNOWS I was an insane bitch for eons and still loved me anyway. I am so god damn lucky and I try every day to be the person he thinks I am.
Replying so late but Nonny
what if he’s actually a feeder that’s nothing to brag about
My nigel is dumb and might have undiagnosed autism with the way he acts sometimes, but he’s the nicest guy I’ve met.
>Has cute nicknames for me, he enjoys when I call him some too.
>Massage therapist, gives me lots of massages.
>Enjoys cooking and cleaning for me, I offer to help but he insists on it.
>Spoils me with lots of gifts when the occasion for it arises. He tries to go all out.
>Hates hook-up culture and isn’t a man hoe. He didn’t sleep around before we met.
>Hates rape scenes in movies/shows and will go out of his way to avoid them.
>Will do anything to look nice for me, he has offered to wax for me for example.
>Very attractive, has the most stunning eyes. He does need to lose a little weight but he knows that and has been dieting and exercising. I don’t mind because his face is cute.
>Doesn’t have any female friends and has agreed not to make any. I think a guy having a lot of female friends is a red flag so this is ideal for me.
>Loves me unconditionally. He loves me for my personality and values. He’s said if I ever gained weight or anything, he wouldn’t stop loving me. No offense, he had some pretty ugly exes, so I believe him.
My first ex was pornsick to the point where he couldn’t ejaculate normally. He had to be rough to do so and it was very annoying how long it took. It put a damper on my confidence. My ex also trooned out and skinwalked me, so that tells you how broken he was. I’m so grateful that I have a healthy man now.
>Doesn’t watch porn, believes it rots your brain. I wish there was more reason behind it, but I’ll take what I can get.
>Doesn’t force sex and waits for me to initiate. I appreciate this because I hate sex pests and it’s such a turnoff being expected to do it. He doesn’t get offended if I change my mind or decline later. Consent is important.
>Gets hard just from a kiss, dirty talk, or seeing me in a nice dress. This is very different for me and I like it.
>Cums in minutes. He makes sure to please me first though and make me orgasm multiple times. Just the sound of me moaning will make him cum if he’s touching himself and listening to me.
>Really enjoys giving me oral. It’s his favorite thing to do. He has a thing for face sitting too.
>Doesn’t mind my kinks. I can tie him up if I want to and do other things I’m not gonna mention.
I do wish he was a little more suave or sexy, especially with his words, but you can’t have everything. I appreciate his kindness most of all and that’s why I love him. He’s not very dominant in bed, but I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing. My ex was into abusive porn shit, so I’m glad I have a nigel that’s gentle and leans submissive. He’s dominant in that he’ll stand up for me and fight another scrote if he has to.
I feel like I don't deserve my nigel because I think he's such a catch lol.
>Never been this attracted to anyone in my life before
>Adorable manlet, fit body, perfect teeth, big dick
>Knows how to dance. Has done a lot of different physical activities (skiing, kick-boxing, yoga, climbing, to name the ones I'm aware of) and picks up on them easily
>Is a tradesman
>Very comfortable and secure in himself, zen-like aura
>Has common sense, anti-woke
>Not a slut or attention whore, was single for a long time before we met and has a low body count
>But knows how to fuck you good, best sex of my life
>Introverted but with normal social skills
>Respectful and easy to communicate with
>Is not frivolous with his money, but still generous towards me (even tho I can take care of myself, so it goes both ways)
>He was excited for me to meet his friends, family and also invited me along to meet his co-workers
>Both his mother and aunts are similar to me (a bit tomboyish), which makes me think we might be a good match
>Supports me and inspires me to better myself
>I feel like I also inspire him to do better. Sometimes I unintentionally neg him (from a place of love kek) and I can tell he takes it to heart
>Likes me despite my dorkiness, says I’m the funniest person he’s met
I don’t believe in finding your soulmate, but I feel like we could be together for a long time and there will always be something new and fun we can try together.
I can't speak to the rest of the list but>doesn't watch porn since I asked him not to. he completely understood
kek. not even trying to be a hater but it baffles me that women fall for this and then are always shocked when they find out he was lying. I hope your nigel is smart enough to hide the evidence well at least.
cope and seethe, you bitter hag.
my nigel would have absolutely told me if he disagreed with my request. he's a very stubborn, but also very empathetic, man. if he thought it was unreasonable, or even disagreed a little bit, he would have instantly let me know his thoughts on the matter. he's an extremely trustworthy person. even before i asked him to stop watching porn, he thought it was revolting to go to a strip club or simp for e-thots
and i also know he doesn't watch it because his sexual behavior has totally changed
Lmfao, all right. I’m sure you’re right and that every other one of the thousands of women who were sure their moids would not watch porn, (like >>321354
even just now) were just not as smart and observant as you, and didn’t know their man as well as you.
The pattern of women calling other women who are trying to warn them of men’s common shared behavior patterns “bitter hags just jealous of what I have” is a centuries old pattern that apparently each successive generation of women finds impossible to shake until it happens to them, at which point the younger women call them the bitter jealous hags when they start pointing it out, and the cycle continues. You’ll remember our words when your Nigel eventually slips up and forgets to clear his browser history. Until then I’m sure you’ll continue to believe everyone trying to warn you were hags.
They have free will to set the behavioral standards for "what is dateable" make it very bimbo-fied and loli-fied plus caretaking centered etc etc. Women can mold their personalities to varying degrees to fit those archetypes and get showered with cheap praise and social validation when they do so. Or else contend with the criminal elements of male kind, incels, etc. Dating is objectively a pyramid scheme since only a relatively small percentage of men are dateable. That is why this entire thread comes off as incredibly smarmy bordering on sadistic.
But nice attempt to sound smart when you are really just trying to insult me and call me weird. Nothing of substance there.
and even I don't see the direct connection between what you're talking about (although it's mostly true) and the OP post, it seems like a non sequitur to bring up here. All I wanted to say was calling other women hags for pointing out consistent patterns in male behavior is just a sad cycle that perpetuates women getting duped and it's better to know what you're getting into ahead of time with a moid.
I didn't reply to you, I replied to the anon that accused women in this thread of manipulating good men into dating them. She even admitted she's mad that only a small number of men are good and that other anons getting to date them are making her angry.
I do agree with your post though, a lot of men hide that stuff and anon calling you a hag was retarded because you're might be right.
>>321645>You’ll remember our words when your Nigel eventually slips up and forgets to clear his browser history.
With incognito mode on every browser as well as privacy browsers and VPNs they don't even need to manually clear their browsing history. Your moid might be using a special browser just to watch porn that auto-clears its history whenever you close the tabs. I remember one woman bragging in the relationship thread about how she KNOWS her bf doesn't watch porn because she "checks the router" but you can easily hide your history from showing up on the router by using a VPN, which almost all men have now.
Men are definitely smart and tech savy enough to hide their degeneracy in a way that you will never discover it. Unless you are monitoring your man 24/7 then you don't know if he's watching porn or not and personally I would never trust a man who has access to seeing naked women getting fucked, the one single thing their brain most desires, at the simple click of a button on their magic porn machines to ever not take advantage of that.
Even if your scrote loves and respects you and agrees that watching porn is bad, the second he is ever angry at you and wants to get back at you for criticizing him or whatever he is going to go jerk off to porn to punish you and feel in control and power again.
mainstream female aesthetic, as well as all subcultural aesthetics are full of winks and nods to childhood and kewt little easter eggs of symbolic neoteny. Men have married women as children for ages and our collective social and sexual ritual still suggests that in every way. behavioral neoteny, shaming women for being average sized not objectively in a preteen childs range of size (which maintains sexual dimorphism.) Its goes on and on>>321672
wrong I don't care that
much I just find this whole thread smells of cope and petty sadism and smugness to manage the lifestyle cope of being a hetero female in the first place. Like why are you advertising your boyfriend to random females online to begin with? Weird behavior. There is no point in bragging about it, although being asexual is a bit sad at least my personal and intellectual integrity is intact. Idk even if you found a unicorn completely by chance it is completely unhelpful to anyone else. Imagine if you won the lottery and started bragging about it on social media. Anyone would expect that to essentially just create problems and resentment. this thread is a gross honeypot of narcissism and pickmeism. If female socialization really does condense down to women endlessly agony aunting or otherwise mutually bragging about how great their boyfriends are.. just get me out of here. bye now.
I have literally met other moid coworkers who don't watch porn, and have said that they don't think other men should watch it either. The idea that "every other one of the thousands of women" were being lied to is literally just speculation.
There is no other reason to shit up the nigel bragging thread other than you being bitter about someone's nigel and wanting to ruin the thread.>>321665
this is the most annoying thing i see. when anyone is told that a man doesn't watch porn, people imagine that the wife is some nagging shrew who had to beg and plead his nigel into stopping and watches him like a hawk to make sure he doesn't slip up. like he's some kind of child who needs to be mommied>>321679
imagine writing an essay about how mad you are that other women are bragging about their nigels in a nigel bragging thread. i've also bragged about my career and other major milestones in my life. you just sound mad that other women are happy
>>321747>can't recognize sarcasm
are you sure they're the newfag?>>321743
he knows i use LC but isn't breathing over my shoulder and reading everything i type, so kind of.
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I like solving crossword puzzles from time to time, and got my nigel hooked on them this easter. now he wants to solve crosswords together every weekend and really enjoy it as a shared activity kek. my vocabulary is better than his, so sometimes i'll see obvious solutions but wait for him catch on just so he can feel accomplished. he's gotten a lot better since we started. i hope we can keep this going for as long as we still think it's fun. he's a joy to be with.
I'm a crossword aficionado too!
You could play Scrabble together, that's what we do
Damn nonna I practically could've written that post. I can absolutely relate to how great it feels to have a non coombrained nigel.
With this guy I also feel like if anything I'm the one sexualizing him more, ogling his body and feeling him up all the time, generally being a horny fuck about him. Comparing him to other moids it's insane how much porn ruined their character and sexual qualities, even in small amounts. I now know what genuine sexual connection feels like and I can never go back.
Samefag, back again to gush about my nigel.
I recently learned that I sometimes yelp in my sleep and will start mumbling. My bf is a light sleeper so he woke up to my nonsense. To help calm me down, he will hold me and start rubbing my head and telling me how much he loves me.
Right now we are planning to take a big trip to Europe in the winter. I think he may propose then. Crying rn.
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I love my boyfriend so much, he is so cute and handsome and caring I just keep thinking of all these small things he has done during our time together and the love just bubbles upwards
He talks in his sleep sometimes and one night we were sleeping, snuggling, he moved around so I moved myself off of him in case he needed breathing space, and he started mumbling something and said "i still want to cuddle" and my heart melted right there. he didn't remember saying that when i brought it up, that was all his sleeping self that night.
I would love to marry him, we have grazed the topic before and are on the same page, so one day hopefully we will. he shares so many life interests that are very specific and i think myself so lucky we crossed paths. I hope i could be so lucky to spend my life with him by my side
My boyfriend is amazing and everything I could've asked for.
>loves me unconditionally
>holds open all doors, gets the car door too
>buys everything, if he sees something I like or mention, he secretly goes out his way to buy it for me
>flowers each time he sees me (even though we live together)
>carries me so my shoes don't get dirty if it's messy or gross out
>ties and does up my shoes for me, doesn't let me bend down
>always tells me how beautiful I am and how much he misses me, always messages me things that remind him of me
>is great with family and kids, not socially awkward at all
>always tells me he wants me to be the mother of his children, and that he loves me deeply
>stares into my eyes for hours without saying anything to each other
>tells me I'm always meant to be treated like a princess, and that he would do anything I ask (true)
The only reason we're not engaged yet is because he knows I don't want to get engaged until 2 or so years. He tells me he wants to very badly almost everyday/often and I always reassure him that I want to as well. ((But he always reassures me he will respect my wishes. (I just want to wait a little))
But we were making love (he always calls it making love, not sex nor 'fucking') and he's so erotic and beautiful, he was whispering in my ears about how much he loves me and how he wants to be with me forever and ever, and how I am the most beautiful woman he's ever seen and how he wants me to be the mother of his children and that he'll love for me forever and ever, no matter. And that he'd do anything for me. Was calling me his last name. Hehe.
My man's is sooo in love with me, it's crazy. I didn't know love like this existed. Wow. And he's a solid 10/10 too. Ugh, nonnies, I'm so in love.
(Ps. I was also the nona posting in the irl husbondos thread so thank you to the nonnie who led me to this thread)
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My Nigel’s biggest positive is that he was raised by a single mom since like 4 and had no shitty toxic dad to imprint on him, like many men have.
He’s still a man and imperfect but he’s a great one. Very patient. Has never insulted me in 4 years, even in our worst arguments. Great communicator. Loves to cook and is AMAZING at it. Frequently compliments me and showers me with affection. Likes to go to places like museums and trying new restaurants with me. Does zero drugs and only drinks on special occasions (I’m normally fine with weed smoking but it’s been cool to be with someone who doesn’t). Drives me everywhere. 30 and still has all his hair kek. Has nice friends and family, no toxicity or shady bad influences.
>Renovating his house to suit my specific needs/wants
>Started with the kitchen, because of how much I love to cook/bake
>So appreciative of my cooking. He follows me around in the kitchen while I cook, kissing my neck and hugging me and telling me how good everything smells
>Every time I make him something new he says "This is literally the best (insert dish here) I have ever had"
>"No you cooked everything, I'm going to do the dishes. Sit down"
>Got me all new appliances and cookware when I moved in with him
>I'm an artist and he's always offering to support my art hobbies
>Says he'll buy or build me anything I need, just built me a frame from rug making, offered to get me a Glowforge
>Is in the process of building me my dream garden, with a greenhouse
>Doesn't watch porn, decided he didn't like it in his teens
>Was a virgin when I met him, by choice, he said he didn't want to have sex with someone he couldn't see himself marrying. Wouldn't have sex with me for months until he knew for sure he had strong feelings about me
>I drink cold brew every morning, and he's secretly been researching different types of coffees to surprise me with a cold brew maker and a sampling of coffee types
>We both work from home. He's equally supportive of me continuing to work as he is me quitting my job to raise kids one day
>Taking me to Japan this Fall
>Mention being sad I no longer have a cat, since mine passed. Tell him I miss the energy cats bring into the house (he already has a dog that I do still love very much)
>He starts researching cat care so we can go look at cats soon
>Willing to put my name on his house when we're married, 0 pushback on this
The only thing I need now is a proposal, and I am so set for life. The only downside is that I've become so obsessed with this man, if he ever cheats or something I truly won't ever recover. I would never come back from that and it terrifies me to think about
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This man can cook and bake, no question. The best chocolate cake i've ever had
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>loves me for me
>completely understands my autism and other mental health problems
>is always calm and rational about everything, never gets angry at or because of me
>shares all my interests and wants me to sperg out about them/will help me with them (he especially likes that I'm a woman who is interested in/can use computers as well as I can)
>shares my values and sense of humour
>feels like we've known each other forever
>is a cat person
>we hit off immediately, feels like I can tell him everything no matter how mundane or distressing
>always supports me when I'm having a depresso espresso
>knows exactly how to tease me into a melted puddle and make me feel valued (just yesterday he randomly gave me a flower when we were playing minecraft together)
>has called me his dream girl
>genuinely wants me to be happy and secure
>I motivate him to be a better person
>everything about him should be a red flag but he constantly proves me wrong
>we've both had unhealthy relationships in the past and this time we want to do it right
it's LDR e-dating right now (inb4 whining) BUT
>is seriously considering immigrating to my country once the circumstances are right
>isn't afraid at all to introduce himself to my extremely overprotective parents
>can cook and bake
>is very good with kids
>works from home, lives on his own
>wouldn't ever make me go to work (have been NEET for a decade)
>>342570>it's LDR e-dating
Kek i knew from the start. This isn't the right thread for you though.
Also why the fuck are you NEETing and discorddating men? Why not just get a real job and a real bf?
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my boyfriend got me two ragdoll kittens for my birthday and I am so in love with them, this is the girl!!
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>be relentlessly, violently abused and gaslit for 5 years despite worshipping and spoiling him
>assume all men are like this or have equivalent issues
>broadly a 10/10
>6'5 runway model, walked for comme des garcon, featured in vogue
>we both suffer the same pathology
>he's obsessed with me
>kind, never loses temper
>we are compatible in every way
>dotes on me
>has a decent job & friends
>wants marriage and kids, would still love me if i got fat
>not ran thru, not addicted to porn
>family & friends love him
didnt think blokes like this existed. no doubts in my mind about him
Based nonna. This is what you deserve, the best.>>344924
You're both so cute and adorable.
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had oral surgery recently.
>drove me to and from surgery
>bought me a milkshake on the way home
>spent all day with me keeping me company and making sure I'm okay
>changed my gauze for me, made sure I was taking all my pills at the right time
>brought me water and anything I needed/wanted
>told me he thought I was cute even with a mouth full of bloody gauze and wearing one of those cold pack things around my head
>helped me walk the first couple hours when I was still having a hard time
>cuddled and napped with me making sure I was comfortable
>basically was my extremely handsome nurse all day
You're in a shitty relationship with a low value coomer and you should dump him immediately. It's depressing enough reading your post imagine living it.
Don't waste your whole life on him.
Your self-esteem is shot to hell Nona. Your husband:
Not attracted to you and lets you know it
Probably nagged you to lose weight
Hasn’t bothered to learn cooking and made you think cooking is an occasional indulgence
Only conditionally supports you financially
Gives shit massages
My grandma always says there's more to making a relationship work than "love" and she was talk about money lol.
I hope your Nigel pulls through if both of you ever run into some financial trouble
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It takes ages for me to orgasm but my nigel gives me the best cunnilingus ever!!
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IS MY MAN EVEN REAL?
>1.5 years together.
>Fully obsessed with me, he sees me as his perfect partner and daily boosts my self-esteem.
>Traveled overseas to see me without any hesitation. I did everything so I moved in with him.
>Wants to marry.
>Not a manwhore.
>Hot, goes to the gym daily, takes care of himself, knows how to choose proper clothes and perfume. Asks me for a fashion advise and seeks MY validation.
>Charms every person he talks to. The majority of people he talks to are obsessed with him, literally crave his attention. Has a huge charisma and knowledge of people.
>Perfect listening skills and good social intelligence. Listens to me whenever I complain about anything.
>3.9 GPA in BS Biology, had published research while still studying.
>Used to be a millionaire, now still makes a lot. Works his ass off for our future.
>Cares about my opinions on anything.
>Takes responsibility over my fuck ups. Helps me not to fuck up more.
>Wrote me cute notes when we had LDR.
>Fully supports my IT career. Helps me with studying when he has some work free time.
>Got me a second monitor for coding without me asking, brings me matcha mid study sessions.
>Has a huge interest in my art hobby. Gives advice and seems genuinely excited about my art/OCs.
>Perfect in bed, makes sure I cum every time, enjoys eating pussy.
>Makes small gifts randomly without me asking. Got anime figure after I mentioned I like some character.
>Spent around 6k on jewellery for me within first year of relationships.
>Organises cute dates for us.
>My parents adore him.
>When I was lonely, got me back together with an old girl friend that I cut contacts with because of some misunderstanding in the past. Encourages me not to be a loner and helps with finding friends.
>Takes care of my chronic illness, brings me daily pills and makes sure I'm healthy. Worries if something hurts.
>My physical type.
>Hot manly shoulders and hands.
>Has the most rational beliefs.
>Highly rational person overall. Cold in business and emotionless with money but adorable around me.
>Wakes me up with kisses every time.
>Orders food if I'm tired and can't cook. Never forces me to do choirs if I'm tired.
Thank you, nonna. I understand where everyone else was coming from but your comment was the only one not saying I should just drop him. He has his flaws, but so do I and we love each other. We had a long talk about everything last night and I'm hopeful.
Thanks for your kindness
Didn't shit on him, wtf. I just said that she's enough and she's doing a lot for him and that she deserves appreciation.
Some of you literally lose your shit whenever any of us compliment or tell a woman she's doing more than enough.
>Tall muscular blonde green/blue eyed Adonis
>Practically a virgin
>Cute, wholesome, funny and romantic like Alistair, but can flirt and tease like Zevran
>Cutest and hottest way of smiling
>Obsessed with giving me orgasms, keeps getting me off even after he has gotten off already. He centers everything around my pleasure, without being a submissive faggot about it
>He thinks it's hot and funny when I call him a walking dildo or a piece of meat
>Lets me do whatever I want to him and does whatever I request, even if he first teases me about it
>Wears things to be even hotter to me
>lets me put him in cosplay
>More romantic than me, loves romantic movies and doing lovey dovey stuff
>Says sorry easily and always takes responsibility
>Good listener and empathetic
>Very accommodating and wants to make me happy
>Said early on that he thinks I'm the One and that he wants to marry me
>Good at fixing things, resourceful
>Hard worker, but also makes sure to have time for gym, studying, playing instruments, family and me
>High regular and emotional intelligence
>Anti porn, but he did read erotica. Even kinda against nudity in movies
>Have deep discussions about psychology, ethics and morality
>Gives helpful advice and support, gets really into it
>In touch with his emotions, stoic when necessary, but does fairly easily open up
>Good with kids and animals