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No. 70049

Post ringspo

What gems do you think are worthy of an engagement ring besides diamond?

No. 70059

stupid waste of money. invest in stocks instead

No. 70069

Moissanite is an affordable alternative to a diamond, and just as good quality. Its a 9.something on the moh's hardness scale, the fire is twice as sparkly, and its a lot cheaper. (around $500~$1,500 for the stone depending on carat size). then it can be placed in a setting of your choice. Reddit has a lot of useful reviews and vouchers for moissanite. its lab grown so the cut will always be perfect, and if you're not into the whole blood diamond trade, its a nice alternative.

No. 70070

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I'm not interested in ever getting married, but if I were I think I would prefer a moonstone ring. Do you guys find that tacky?

Idk it's my favorite stone even though it's nothing flashy or expensive, but I think it can still look elegant if it's simple and small. I especially love teadrop shaped ones. Pic related is dreamy to me.

No. 70071

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I want the ring Aidan gave Carrie in SATC season 3. It is so gorgeous it hurts, I also love the Elisabeth Taylor ring that Harry gives Charlotte. Both are very expensive, sigh.

No. 70073

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i love these rings from japan. they're disney princess inspired

No. 70081

Personally I find most wedding rings to be a bit tasteless and tacky. Especially if they're particularly expensive and heavy on the bling. One of my old friends was tagged on the fb of this jewellery designer and they're just so stunning. Lots of nature inspired pieces. Understated and kinda unique http://www.sarahbrownjewellery.com/products

Almost makes me reconsider the whole wedding thing. Always felt it all to be a waste of money and effort

No. 70082

I think it's beautiful personally. The average same old wedding ring is far more tacky to me.

No. 70083

Can someone explain to me why american are so crazy about engagement rings? I mean many women want them to be super expensive right while they don't really seem to care about the actual wedding ring
Just curious only know this stuff from media so it might be not true at all

No. 70084

It's an industry who've been marketing the importance of engagement and wedding rings for decades.
I'm eurofag and I would be livid if my BF spent three month of salary or whatever in an engagement ring. Better put that money in a nice trip we can both enjoy or toward a buying a place. I've never seen anybody flashing an engagement ring in my country, tho.

No. 70087

White topaz and birthstones. Some are more expensive than others, though. Half-infinity bands are nice, so are vintage rings.

I think spending a bunch of money on a ring, unless it's really goddamn special, is wasteful and unfair, especially if only one person in the relationship is getting a ring.

I like having a ring, but it's not a huge deal to me if it's expensive or not; it's the thought put into it. The pressure on a big expensive ring is more from the older generations or people who are more image-obsessed.

sage for no1curr

No. 70088

i have a (red-toned) ruby in my engagement ring. everything i envisioned having a clear stone i just felt… bored. i'm super happy with my choice, it suits me much better than a diamond would have. every day i look at my hand i feel a little hum of happiness

No. 70097

I've been married for 6 years now. I have a simple wedding band (no stone, just a platina ring), and I've never felt that the ring being a bit drab had any influence on our marriage. You can have an expensive ring and a shit marriage, so idk why the price of the ring is so important to Americans.

No. 70099

No. 70110

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Sapphire. Lab-grown is a better choice because it is flawless and cheaper, and has less ethical concerns attached. The only thing is to make sure it is a dark shade of blue; some lab-grown sapphires are lighter than natural sapphires, which is not ideal. There is a historical precedent for the use of sapphires in engagement rings.
I would not want a partner to spend too much, but I'd like something I can wear forever. Putting a down payment on a house is also important to me.

There's nothing tacky about it. It's only a 6.0 on the Mohs scale, so a setting that will protect the stone is important.

Moissanite is great for anyone who wants a clear gemstone in their ring, either as the main stone, or an accent.

Honestly, I'd rather elope. I want to be married, but I have no desire for a wedding.

De Beers has marketed heavily, and continues to do so. Media over-emphasizes the importance of an engagement ring.

>I'm eurofag and I would be livid if my BF spent three month of salary or whatever in an engagement ring.
I would be, too.

No. 70142

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i think eloping would be so romantic. imagine running away to greece or something and getting married there, just the two of you.

No. 70143

The best replacements are probably corundrum(ruby/sapphire) because they’re hard enough to withstand daily wear. Opals are really prone to scratching, fracture and craze, moonstone and related feldspars are beautiful but are much easier to scratch.

Topaz and emeralds are probably strong enough but AFAIR they’re a bit brittle.

Created stones like moissanite are basically superior to diamonds and you aren’t getting fucked in the wallet over false scarcity. If you do get a diamond don’t get fooled by bullshitty terms like “champagne diamond”, “chocolate diamond” it’s an inferior stone with inclusions and not worth it unless you genuinely love the stone.

No. 70145

The sad thing is I really like "champagne" and other traditionally imperfect diamonds/stones, but there's been a big price increase recently because now they are being marketed differently (the ones with inclusions are now called "salt and pepper" or something? they'll come up with something that sounds prettier later I guess). My wedding ring has a diamond with a lot of inclusions in an off color (kind of greenish-brown) that I really like and got for cheap but I get the feeling the price for these kinds of stones is going to skyrocket soon.

I agree about ruby/sapphire being good, sapphires even come in a lot of colors including clear.

Also the stereotypical American woman demanding a big engagement ring honestly seems like just that, a stereotype. I really get the feeling that stereotype was created to push men to buy bigger rings due because they think that's what women want. I have never met any actual woman that said she wanted a big diamond.

No. 70173

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I personally love simple white gold rings with round-cut, small solitary diamonds. I think they look elegant and much nicer when there is a nice effect to the band and less tacky than a cluster of diamonds or a huge one.
Not to mention they don't break the bank, but look awesome. White gold matches any skintone imo.

No. 70177

I really wanted a non traditional ring with ruby or sapphire instead of the basic white gold / diamond.

I know this probably sounds ungrateful but it was really hard to hide the disappointment when my fiancé gave me the latter lol.

No. 70181

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Bf and I aren't really religious, plus we have no desire to blow thousands on an elaborate wedding ceremony. Yet I do enjoy the rings as a symbol for commitment. Tbh it would just be nice to have a piece of jewelry that's thoughtful (and yes, expensive) that my bf would pick out just for me.

I think sapphires are underrated.

No. 70186

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I've told my bf that I want a moissanite ring. A smaller stone, simple yellow gold band.

Not being mined by slaves under horrid conditions is important to me. Plus they naturally only occur in meteors, and I think having a "space stone" is really romantic, even if it is lab grown.

No. 70187

I'd want a yellow gold band with an emerald and maybe some accent stones. I know that's not the "popular" color scheme but whatever. I think those colors will look nice on me.

No. 70195

To everyone ITT saying that they find expensive rings tacky and wasteful: stop being so goddamn reformist. It's an ancient tradition that developed organically in europe but also many other countries, stop trying to mess with things that have been going on for centuries before you were born. People like that want to replace old symbols that have heavy emotional value with worthless commercial honeymoon trips or home decorations. What a fucking wasted existence it would be if everyone thought like that.

No. 70198

It's just personal preference. No one is trying to 'mess with' anything.

No. 70209

Expensive diamond rings aren't an ancient tradition, its literally just marketing to sell diamonds by de beers. Up until the 1930s, people just bought the rings they could afford.

Also weddings used to be literal slavery, selling your daughter to a man bc she wasn't worth keeoing around like a son was. Should we go back to that tradition too?

No. 70219

girl u sound like you ended up with my ex who bought me a lab made diamond and a meteorite necklace for christmas. both common and cheap af. for the loser who wants a woman that has her own wealth the he can have

No. 70226

Not sorry. They're a tacky status symbol however you put it. Give me understated any day

No. 70227

lol are you deluded? Obviously the choice is an expensive ring vs a "worthless" honeymoon trip or a home decoration. Clearly people can't choose to spend their money on anything else.

Moissanite looks beautiful!

No. 70233

whats even worthless about a fabulous holiday or setting your home up to be comfortable for your life together.

Hope to Christ that's actually a delusional male r9k user tbh

No. 70238

Pretty sure it's a male tradcon lmao.

No. 70244

Idk as an engagement ring but imo chrysoberyl (alexandrite) is a highly underrated gemstone. It's an 8.5 hardness (just under corundum at 9) so it's fairly durable. And the coloring is beautiful! Alexandrite shifts from green to red in different lighting. Idk why it's not more popular.

No. 70247

moissanite is not common lol, nor "cheap". Cubic zirconia is cheap, like only a couple dollars. Moissanite is priced as this anon >>70069 stated, at least a grand for the stone. Obviously not as expensive as a 10-30 grand diamond, but still not "cheap". Can't you just let people like things? holy shit lol. gtfo pls.


At first I started to some what agree with your answer, there's nothing wrong with the traditional ring and nothing wrong if someone's personal preference is expensive taste in rings. However, I disagree that honeymoon trips and home decor is "worthless". Atleast a honeymoon can give you an experience to travel outside your small ass bubble/comfort zone, and with the money saved from opted for an affordable ring, actually buy a home and decorate it. Hell, half the users here are ~kawaii uguuuu otaku's~ who decorate their houses with weeb anime shit and japanese stuffed animals. so shut the fuck up lol.

No. 70251

Imagine having a honeymoon instead of a stressful wedding.

No. 70260

Because real alexandrite is one of the rarest and most expensive gemstones. Most of it is fake, not even man made alexandrite, but a different stone.

No. 70275

oh touched a nerve lol

No. 70276

also dear $500 is not much in £. give it a rest

No. 70278

Holy shit, the above anons nearly had me sold on this stone until your rant. I can't trust the opinion of a mad person, I'll stick to diamonds I guess.

No. 70279

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Sometimes I worry that I might have tacky taste.
>I want this teal sapphire gemstone with a white gold band like pic related

No. 70280

yall are triggered lol.

I don't really like gold rings. I think they look old or just more suited for older ladies when I think of them? I prefer platinum settings or white gold since its not yellow in color

No. 70281

have fun being being broke lol. if one triggered rant from an anon on a gossip forum is enough to sway your opinion, that's foolishly hilarious. >>70280
triggered indeed.

I personally like gold rings. I think they look victorian or vintage in a classy way.

No. 70282

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Woo a thread I can contribute to, I got engaged recently :^)

I have always told my bf/now fiance that I hate engagement ring tradition so much. It's just a huge chunk of money to participate in a rat race where girls compare their rings as proof of love. Ages ago it was traditionally the bride-to-be's birthstone set in a ring so the diamond trend is relatively new, and retarded. Pic related is similar to what I got - I always said I wanted something different, preferably vintage looking, and no more than idk €700 because otherwise I'd always look at it and think of it as money that could've been spent on a trip or experience.

I fucking love it so much though, I love nontraditional stones. It's a very dark sapphire, almost looks black in person and looks great with my tattoos. I can't believe some people ITT are so fucking enraged over the discussion though.

Also >>70251 and >>70142 this is what we are doing! We are eloping together in our city and going directly on a plane to a honeymoon afterwards.

We aren't huge on family because we just don't have great ones and why invite a load of people to your wedding when it will just stress you out and cost you money. On my wedding I purely want to think about my SO and any money I have I want to spend on our honeymoon.

No. 70286

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Congrats anon! I recently got engaged too, this is the one I'm getting. Currently in talks with the designer though to see if we can get the stone over the flower instead of under, though I think it's pretty this way too. Ever since I was a little girl I was obsessed with that flower ring from the cartoon Robin Hood so I was really excited to see this.

We're also planning on eloping then honeymooning. The stress and money involved with a wedding just seems like too much shit to handle.

No. 70294

>We're also planning on eloping then honeymooning. The stress and money involved with a wedding just seems like too much shit to handle.
I want to do this.

No. 70300

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basic bitch engagement ring 2017

No. 70302

I actually really like the "Basic bitch" designs tho…

No. 70316

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I don't know if I would ever buy a diamond, but something cute like this that would accentuate the engagement ring would be nice.

No. 70326

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I just want something simple, high-quality, and doesn't snag on my hair or clothing.

With that said

>>I'm single, in my late 20's and haven't dated in 3.5 years sooo…

No. 70332

Anyone else work in healthcare? I love looking at fancy rings but I can't imagine how annoying it would be to constantly have to worry about it while washing hands and putting on gloves that could rip. All I can think about is the amount of bacteria those rings would be harbouring by the end of the day.

No. 70341

there's nothing wrong imo with not wearing your ring to work. it is expensive, and no sanitary for that kind of work environment. I know a guy who is an electrician who takes off his ring to avoid dangerous situations since the medal is conductive.

No. 70344

I thought you were supposed to take off more elaborate rings. A lot of people in healthcare wear them on a necklace or leave them at home, nothing wrong with that.

I think this is really pretty. I like elaborate bands, and I don't think they look tacky irl because you don't tend to look at them too closely (either you or people looking at it) so all the details aren't as magnified, if that makes any sense.

No. 70346

Just get the ring you want. Even a simple ring is a no-no, so you shouldn't be wearing any ring anyways. At least in my work we aren't allowed any jewellery, even simple ones. We can't even wear nailpolish.

No. 71364

Honestly as long as the band is cute I don't care about the stone as much. I kinda want a rose quartz in it or something like that.

No. 71375

The Cinderella one is adorable damne

No. 71390

wow thank you for that link
her weeding collection is gorgeous and just what I was looking for

No. 71393

I hated how all the women reacte to Aidan's ring, I thought it was very pretty compared to the typical tacky American engagement rings you always see.

No. 71394

Lol, nice try De Beers social media marketing team

No. 74628

I live in LA, and a lot of girls like to boast about getting 2+ carat rings. It might be depending on where you live.

No. 74630

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I've always liked the idea of something like this. A stone in the middle is fine but I really like me an incredibly ornate band.

No. 74631

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Is it weird I would prefer an earring set?

I'd lose the ring for sure

No. 74633

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Nah, if you’re likely to lose a ring this is honestly a way better idea.

I’ve had so much trouble finding a band that I like, all the ones I find are much too thick. I want a really skinny band like pic related but can only find them in overseas online stores.

No. 74640

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I think I’d be happiest with something cute but basic like pic related. I obviously plan to be married for the rest of my life and I’d rather have something “boring” than a cool style I’d move on from (which would be typical of me)

I don’t care a whole lot about stones or carat specifically but I want it to be mid range price, which is probably higher than my boyfriend is thinking. We plan to elope so the wedding costs will be basically nothing - just the legal fees, no fancy venue, expensive dress, hairdresser, food/alcohol costs etc, which is normal in our culture. Also, as I said I obviously intend to wear the ring for the rest of my life, so I think it’s worth spending a little extra on it.

Saying all this, my boyfriend will probably buy me a cheap ring that I don’t like, but I’ll marry him anyway because love

No. 74642

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Engaged anon here, I have something like pic related! It's really cute and delicate, suits me better than a flashy huge gem would. Plus, I feel like the tons of tiny diamonds are super elegant.

Not to mention
>the diamonds signify how many years we'll be together

Shit was so sweet and corny.

No. 74643

Congrats Anon, that's super cute!

No. 74645

Thanks, anon!

No. 74651

What about lab-created gems? Those are much cheaper, and more ethical than a lot of mined gems. Not cubic zirconia or anything, but lab-created diamond (or whatever other gem you might want).

No. 74659

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my husband knows i'm not a fan of silver and that full gold is too harsh with my skin tone, so he got me my two favorites–rose gold with a rose quartz gem. it looks a lot like this one here…

No. 74660

i want to add that it's so dainty in person–nothing obnoxious and in your face!

No. 74661

Mojssanite is a good alternative. affordable, and very close to a diamond in durability. also its lab created :) there's some discussion in the earlier posts

No. 74671

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The market crashed today anon.

Anyway, I’m a sucker for Old style Cartier

No. 83066

Several of my coworkers recently switched over to silicone rings and it's gotten me thinking about doing the same. Anybody here got one? They're supposedly way more comfortable, especially if you're fitness-inclined like my fiancee and I or frequently pregnant like my coworker. Not to mention obviously cheaper given the lack of stone. I was looking at some by a company called Enso. They've got a line with a fairly convincing metallic-look in both thick and thin bands, and although the brand name is stamped on the inside, there are also little channels on the inside to let air in to allow your finger to 'breathe' more.
Given that my man and I are fairly simple/minimalist in style and active as I mentioned, this seems right up our alley. That rose gold thin band…

No. 83071

Everyone I know is doing this too. It's a trend, I guess, and A LOT better (ethically and on the wallet) than traditional rings. I'm not engaged or married, but I would consider a silicon ring for sure.

No. 83108

Is the gold a good shade? Looking for a good public transportation ring.

No. 83111

Just checked them out. Sorry anon but they look cheap and childish to me. I don’t think strangers would really notice, and if you like them, then go for it. But if it was me, I’d want something far more symbolic and significant. Enso looks just like all the others, like QALO, Rhino, groovelife, etc. I don’t doubt they all use the same manufacturer. So don’t stress that part too much. If being active is your main concern then there are guides to help with that

No. 83112

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>Sorry anon but they look cheap and childish to me.
This. I don't understand the trend. I'd get it if they looked like traditional rings but they're literally just rubber bands. You could get that in Claire's lol. But fair enough if someone really likes the look of them or if they require them for their place of work, it's a good option.

Anyway, my ultimate ring is the Claddagh ring. It's just such a classic, historic design and has such great symbolism. I actually own a few already and bought one as a kind of "promise ring" with my bf a few months ago for my birthday.

No. 83113

Damn I didn't know claddagh rings but they are cool as fuck. Would it be cringey for someone not Irish to buy and wear them though? I totally see myself getting my bf one.

No. 83122

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I don't see why not, anon. There are variations like the Fenian version or the fede ring which originated in Italy, if you feel weird about it lol. Pic related is both variations. You don't really see those two often so it's be something really unique. I think the fede ring would go really nice layered with another ring personally.

No. 83129

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No. 83135

Totally hideous. I don’t think rings should be expensive but cmon, at least not made out of the same shit as my $2 spatula. I’d much rather wear no ring than this ugly cheap shit lmao. It’d be too embarrassing. >>83112
I don’t love the look personally, but there’s some really gorgeous claddaghs out there and the symbolism is so special. It seems like a really good solution if you don’t like or want a stone (or you can have a heap of stones in them. Fuckin ideal guys)

Either way it’s more interesting than a solitaire.

No. 83162

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I have a cut unset fire opal left to me by my great grandmother and I've told my boyfriend that I want to design a ring with him, something simple like pic related. I'd be open to getting the stone recut a bit too, as it's just an oval and I like teardrop opals. I'd like a proper wedding too but ideally a quite small one consisting only of the people we actually want to be there. It'll be at least 5 years before any of that starts to matter though so it's just something I like to dream about

No. 83164

Opals are gorgeous but a terrible stone for a daily-wear ring.

The stones are like a 3.5 on the mohs scale. They are prone to fracture, chipping, scratching, and crazing (turning all milky white)
Anything that you want to wear more often than special occasions you need a stone that’s ranked at a 7 or higher.

Decent jewellers will tell you this but more and more people are neglecting to tell people that their beautiful opal rings aren’t meant to stand up to frequent wear and will likely require a few replacements.

TLDR get a sapphire or harder. Your gorgeous ring will not last with regular wear.

No. 83171

Thank the Lord I'm not the only one who feels like this. My boyfriend is looking into one because he's an active type and doesn't wear jewelry at all, but I just think it looks so trashy and cheap. I told him that he could get one for working out, but that I refuse to let you walk around in a piece of rubber found on ebay for $3, especially for the ceremony. Rings for guys are cheap anyways, I spend more on cat food per month than I would for a decent ring for a guy.

Thank you so much for making me not feel like a snobby bitch for turning my nose up at that shit.

No. 83172

It is not snobby at all. If my boyfriend and I have to take out rings off in the future due to our work, someone active can take their rings off when they are execerising.

No. 83185

Anyone here have issues wit their ring spinning? I have a solitaire black diamond, and the cut is rather large… but that causes it to constantly spin around. The size isn’t the issue, because I have large knuckles so any smaller I wouldn’t be able to fit it on, and sometimes if my fingers swell (like in the morning or whatever) it sits fine…. are there any solutions?? Or is this my fate forever lol

No. 83208

It’s not snobby. Shiny plastic is shiny plastic. Nobody is gonna be thrilled.

If a ring is something you can’t wear on a daily basis there are loads of other options that are tasteful and don’t have to be expensive.

No. 83235

My hands are too ugly for rings - I have thin, long fingers with large knuckles. I have a circulatory issue that means my hands swell sometimes in the summer. Idk what to do about a ring - I never wear rings, period. The last one I wore was at age 10 or so.

I think I'd rather not wear a ring (who knows what size I'd need anyway), but then I'd have to explain to idiots why I'm not wearing one.

No. 83241

You could always put a ring on a chain and wear it around your neck. I prefer that anyway since I work a lot with my hands and I hate when the rings I'm wearing scrape against everything I touch. Plus you'll avoid nosy people wondering why you don't have a ring.

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