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No. 572547
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Tsubasa Masuwaka (39), obv filtered & fillered to hell n back, pivoted into beauty care. Some pics on her IG are uncanny valley tier but happy to see she's still active
https://www.instagram.com/tsubasamasuwaka1013/?hl=en No. 572672
>Adapting styles & beauty to suit your adult phase in life
I've not felt the need to do this, but maybe it's because I've never really been into the more child-like j-fashions. I like mori-kei and lolita, with the lolita I wear being largely influenced by my love for mori-kei (mostly classic and some "country" sweet, though I do dabble in gothic from time to time), so it already tends to have a more mature look to it imo. There are some elements that are perhaps more juvenile, some of the forest animals on the prints might read as more suitable for younger people, but ultimately I don't care all that much. It's my clothes.
> full time job, serious dating, kids, aging family, ect.
I wear these clothes to work; it's an office job and I'm not really public-facing. I'm already quite settled in a long-term relationship, have no interest in having kids. I think my parents have a bit of disappointment that I still spend money on overpriced, frivolous things (dresses) instead of making the move from renting to owning a house, and honestly they do have a point there, but I've also made pretty decent gains in my savings despite occasional purchases.
>Making friends in the culture that are over 30
I think this is the hardest aspect, in that many of the other 30+ lolitas ARE busy with child commitments. I'll sometimes want to organize a comm meetup on a weekday after work hours, especially if there is an event happening that I think could be fun, but their children have youth sports or other extracurricular activities to attend, which is understandable. For the few other lolitas without children, many of them show no interest in after work meetups, either due to exhaustion from work or commitments to other hobbies. None of my weeknight suggestions have ever been successful, so at this point, I've stopped suggesting these events as possible meetups and just go on my own in lolita. Additionally, a lot of the other over 30 lolitas have different interests than me. I know for our age group, getting into lolita through anime and vkei was very common: that's how I got into it myself, but I stopped being interested in those things well over a decade ago, picking up other interests along the way that aren't remotely shared by my comm members, so part of the issue is that I just can't relate to other lolitas my age as far as interests go. We don't seem to have anything in common besides wearing the same fashion.
No. 572716
>>572532>>572672>part of the issue is that I just can't relate to other lolitas my age as far as interests go. We don't seem to have anything in common besides wearing the same fashion.outside of the everyone having kids thing, this is the shittiest non-physical part about getting older
imo its really a recent generational thing too because we have so many niches to choose from, and a division of the monoculture due to technology. like we can't bond with each other the way folks in their 70s can back where there was a limited number of things in the culture to be part of.
you'd think that with all the wisdom, self awareness & confidence one acquires by now + the abundance of social media platforms itd be easier to find more folks like yourself but for some reason it feels impossible???
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Can't have this thread without at least mentioning Misako Aoki! She is currently 42 years and has been a Lolita and JFashion model since decades. She is also childfree and I believe has no partner. I remember her saying in a interview that she ist too busy being a nurse and model to have time for a relationship or family.
No. 572869
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I bought a lolita dress for the first time in nearly fifteen years. I don't wear it much (or at all) but I fell in love with the gothic print. I was kind of surprised it was new AP honestly but I think it's so cute/witchy.
I have no occasion to wear it but I genuinely felt that old rush of finding the dress and obsessing over how to coordinate it. I don't know if I'll feel brave enough to wear it out when it finally comes but at the very least it's apart of my collection.
No. 573012
>>572672>>572716I have a group of 30+ Lolita friends, and it's true we don't have much in common outside of the clothes, but everyone has such different lifestyles and hobbies it's still interesting to hear what everyone is up to. And we'll still wax nostalgically about old anime, bands, and the convention scene so it's definitely more relatable than talking to normies or even other autists who don't wear the fashion.
Most of my local comm is on the older side but occasionally a younger member will come to a meet and it's always a bit awkward. It's like we all have a collective realization that none of us know what the kid is talking about but we're all too polite to say it.
No. 573369
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I get so tired of seeing posts on reddit and other community type pages being like "I'm turning 18, and I too old to wear X?" It's borderline offensive to be reading that shit at the age of 30+ kek. Maybe if you look haggard at age 18 sure, but brainrotted idiots have bought the moid retardation that somehow women look drastically different from age 20-30. I look the same. maybe the shape of my face has changed slightly, but if I compare pics of me now from 10 years ago I can't find any difference. I don't have wrinkles, gray hair or have gotten fat. I look elegant and stylish in my himekaji coords and I'm never getting rid of my $10,000+ closet just because retards think some arbitrary number defines what I can/can't wear. It took me years of practice to get good at styling myself so why would I quit now when I'm just starting to get good at it?
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>>572532>>572867THE Misako! she's still got it
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>>573369exactly. pity them nonna, they grew up in the meitu/facetune/filter age with 7 y.o tiktok influencers doing skincare routines which must result in some form of BDD brain damage.
plenty of modern women in their 30s look the same as their 20s, just less babyish. the inevitable trauma of life starts to show ngl but the fact its marketed to us as "walled" is a psyop all because our frontal lobe developed and we're less likely to be taken advantage of or manipulated.
pic is Fanny Rosie, 36. super cute OG otome kei classical lolita blogger. she's so stunning
https://www.instagram.com/fannyrosie/ No. 574422
>>573677i think the reality is most people become busy in their 30s and succumb to life's stressors. stressful job, marriage, having children, gaining weight and not being as active. they take less care of themselves.
most people aren't as beautiful as fanny rosie in the first place lol.
No. 583001
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Late 30s Dandy kei. I wore ouji in highschool and after, but transitioned into a more cohesive, subtle look. I haven't owned brand, instead opting to make or modify thrifted items paired with relevant basics and accessories. If I like a brand item, I might seek out a similar base to edit to my tastes. Its a fine line between looking Ouji/Dandy and looking like a waiter I'll tell you that.
>Mature style icons in J-fashionEnjoying this thread. I enjoy watching Lolita fashion shows and watching some youtubers who live elegantly. She isn't Lolita, but I love
https://youtube.com/@anzukitty>Translating sub styles for everyday/casual wearFor work formal events, some outings and work "costume" events. I work in an office and can wear what I want for the most part but opt for comfort. Dressing well, in good silhouettes with an interesting or ornate accessory can accomplish this look if done right.
>Motivation & inspiration on keeping your hobbiesMy main relevant hobbies are drawing and jewelry making. I love jewelry and gaudy, sparkling items. Trying to keep up with hobbies as an adult is difficult. My main advice is make time for it.. Easier said than done. Watching old VK videos with my wife, looking at GLB or reading old forum posts are nice walks down memory lane. I still like anime but nothing new, and I enjoy video games. It's a bit lonely but I won't buy that I'm old, because I'm not.
>Vent about aging in world catered to being forever 21The topic of age and oldness is this regard is depressing. Old is 70, 80, 90 and even then, does it matter?.. Health and enjoyment of life matter. More relevantly, I wish every and anything wasn't called Lolita, and I wish that the kids acted a bit more hinged. I see less genuine interest from some and a lot of attention seeking. This has always been the case, but it flourishes today, especially with each access to poorly made clothes. As an aside, I always thought that while dressing it was almost like putting on another part of your persona. Classy, darker, cuter, aristocratic, whatever that might be. So, seeing people act up whether in brand or just faux style is disappointing. I feel like the magical "world" of Lolita and its adjacent styles are trying to be diluted because the rules of that works are being ignored. And thus the magic dampened. That said, I feel that the community has done a decent job gate keeping that out. The magic is what we make it, then.
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>>583001>I always thought that while dressing it was almost like putting on another part of your persona.I miss this aspect of the fashion a lot, and while it is still here among us older women who've been in it a while, the younger cohort lacks it entirely. I remember on lj and tumblr we'd share tidbits of info we had encountered in etiquette books, and even the GLB would often publish such information (picrel is GLB 41, but I know such info is in other volumes as well). There was a lot of focus on how one behaved while wearing lolita and making sure that the behavior was appropriate for such beautiful clothes. I suspect a lot of that ties into how "lifestyle lolita" used to be a thing. Nowadays, people are more embracing of juxtapositions, such as those "how I dress vs how I act" memes, and I think this also extends to the whole "I may be wearing a super frilly dress but I'm actually a man" mindset. There's more a focus on subverting expectations.
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Fashionable family
No. 584027
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>>573383I've seen people in their 30s call themselves grandmas because majority of the local comm members are in their early 20s. And like
>>573508 said, I feel they definitely are trust fund babies, a lot of them complain about stuff that really only mattered when you don't have many responsibilities. I was kinda shocked seeing how the median age over the years has shifted to being younger. I remember back then it being mostly people in their 30s-40s, me being in my 30s now, it feels more comfortable for me, financially, to commit to the interest.
>Adopting stylesHonestly not an issue for me. There's tons of styles that are mature in its nature, the elegant side of lolita, mori kei, cpk. Even like pic related, long sleeves and colors that aren't piercing to the eyes are fit for anyone even as a fun coord.