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No. 391539
>>391529I know that feel,
nonnie. My husbando had just one badge design when his game released, and despite having them preordered on Amiami, they cancelled my order due to not getting any stock. I was so salty about it.
Luckily, there was some occasional doujin merch on booth, like a non-lewd dakimakura, keyrings stickers and some jewelry (one artist was selling earrings and hair slides her grandmother makes as a hobby, I'm sad I only bought one set because she stopped selling them a while back). It's nice he's one of those husbandos with a small but dedicated fanbase.
There's also like, three R-18 doujinshi of him which is a bit depressing. I did manage to get hold of an anthology that came with a little bookmark and postcards I framed lol…
I don't even check to see if there's official merch for him anymore, because the answer is always gonna be no because he's not coombait and more female-orientated.
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I don't have any merch of my husbando, mostly because the things i like are JP only and my brain is too smooth to understand how to open those magic portals but also because i've always been very subtle about my nerdy side irl and i'm not one to buy things unless they are necessary.
Despite that i've always wanted to get husbando themed things because i just really love him a lot, but i doubt that i'll ever be able to get anything official, maybe i will be able to do something on my own but one thing that makes me happy is his main color yellow, it was one of my least favorite colors but because of him i like it a lot even if it's not my favorite, i associate my husbando with it almost everytime i see it.
I thought to take another step and start to get some yellow clothes but… yellow looks awful on me kek, it somehow looks cold, i thought that maybe it's because of my blue eyes but he has blue eyes as well?
He is able to make it look so warm and calm like honey instead of looking like a lemon in a fridge, i may be struggling with it but somehow this made me like him even more, he is really that wonderful to me.
Also i hope i didn't forget to say this before but i really love that threadpic ♥
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I FUCKING NEED THIS OR I WILL DIE OMFG. Wish me lucks nonnas, I will get a job and buy this ring, yes or yes, I don't care anymore.
No. 391743
>>391737I was basically foaming at the mouth while waiting for them to release an official ring kek, mostly because I wasn't sure of which color to pick for the stone, but now I know it must be something like a topaz, citrine which are gems that I like a lot.
It would be a plus to find out what the secret message says, but I'm pretty sure they're too coward to post it kek.
No. 393206
>>393125im on the opposite of the spectrum. most of my crushes on characters happen because they have the "literally me" factor. same tiredness towards the world, same passions, etc. i see myself in them, so i like them.
maybe its a sign of narcissism on my part, or maybe its a feeling of safety in the familiar.
saying that, i see my mannerisms sometimes reflect theirs and it makes me feel closer to them, in a way. for example, after watching a show i wore a sweater vest that looks like my fav character's. i already owned it, but i put it on consciously because it reminded me of him. so now that i think about it, i am a lot like you. i just didnt realize it until now.
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>>394339>Why do you want to be him?Because I love him. It's as close as I'll get to bringing him into this world. Tbh even though I feel this way I don't really do much to imitate him I just think it would be a nice way to be closer together
and I don't appreciate that anon thinking I'm gonna troon out, wtf Anyways our very first anniversary is coming up and I wasn't too excited at first but now I can't wait because I actually have a small plan for the day and I just wish it was here already!!
I LOVE YOU STUPID HEAD!!!!!! ♥ No. 395807
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i unironically believe my self insert helped me grow my confidence from zero to indestructible. at my lowest i made my self inserts look and act nothing like me, they were just very cool and very extraneous women who embodied a life i wished i could have, but then some wires crossed and i decided to make one resembling me as closely as possible. i gradually started drawing her like i'd draw myself, first just the same eye color, then my features, my hairstyle, clothes i either own or could see myself wearing in the story, except obviously she's really awesome and always doing exciting things all the time. she was also partly inspired by various characters i like. i made her older so she has some skills and qualities i aspire to while still having the same fundamental personality and flaws. the secret to being confident is self perception, you have to think of yourself as that person, or capable of becoming that person in the near future. since i already spend hours upon hours daydreaming about my husbando adventures, i might as well harness the power of autism to benefit myself. if that seems like your thing you should try, it's very healing as the selfhelp girlies say.
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>>395807We share the same brain,
nonnie, at first I thought I was just being a narctard, but it's just a nice way to project or even manifest a nice future, it's also been something that has helped me accept myself and has helped me see some of my owm good qualities.
It's hard work but it's nice, sure I still haven't reached your level tbh, but it works a lot with making me feel better during bad days and is slowly helping me with keeping myself motivated to reward myself with husbando daydream time kek.
No. 396349
>>391736I hope you got the ring kek, was the secret message something in the game?
>>395807That's exactly how it is for me as well. I've been making my self insert to be more like me and it made me feel so much better than before. By imagining he would accept me, I accept myself as well. Might sound like a weird path I'm taking to love and accept myself, but it's the most effective I've experienced so far.
Whoever picked my drawing for the OP, thank you, it warmed my heart. No. 396520
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I forgot our anniversary because of shit that happened irl and I feel awful about it even though I know he wouldn't be upset that I forgot.
No. 396594
>>396526I know it's irrational but he's a big part of my life so I'm upset I forgot despite having a bunch of ideas for this year.
>>396531Ur right Nonna, I'll have to make it up to him later.
No. 396967
>>391604Nonnie, are you me? My man has like 6 pieces of fan art (I counted too). He is a side character from a comic book and he is dead in canon lmao.
But look at the bright side. All those people with popular husbandos have batshit fans to share a husbando with and tons and tons of godawful content. At least out guys are pure and are not tainted with tumblr brainrot like sexuality headcanons.
Plus, there is exclusivity to it. Can you say you are your man's number one fan? I know I can say it about myself. Just think about it. Nobody, and I mean it, nobody loves him as much as you do.
No. 396974
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>>391604>>396967obscure gang!
in my case i totally understand why no one but me likes my husbando. i don’t feel like i can ever mention him without everyone thinking i’m insane. he’s so insignificant as a character that if you took him out of the franchise nothing would change, the game where he’s a playable character is so shit and boring i don’t think anyone cared about it. i only know he exists because of pure serendipity (and because i was a huge sperg and needed to know who EVERY random character from the cartoon was). he actually had 2 pieces of fanart but they were tiny sketches where the artist tried to include all the characters, so idk if they count. i once found a fic from 10+ years ago where he shows up (literally just a couple of times) and it was a huge life event for me, the characterisation was somehow pretty great for the low level of writing. i honestly can’t explain it, i just love him a lot.
No. 397007
>>396967Ayrt, and you're absolutely right about the pure part. Though I wish I could find some nice Japanese fan art of him, but he's from an animated capeshit show from 2009 that wasn't very popular or successful despite being extremely good. I went through tumblr and deviantart for fan art but all I found is really low quality beginner art but oh well, at least they like him as a character. He doesn't have any haters and all the comments I saw about him are positive, praising his character development and stuff. I can't say I'm his number on fan because there's a fellow yume who husbandos him and she even made a little comic of her self insert and him on deviantart, can't find it right now to see if she's still posting though, but it's still more dedication than me even if her art is beginner art. I don't draw so I never drew him, but I generated AI images of him dressing him in different styles like he's my little doll kek, and I prepared a digital shrine for him, and a I have a folder of screenshots and gifs from the show just so I can admire his pretty face and his fit body, I wrote some posts about him here on LC, and my first ever post was in an older horny husbando shitposting thread about him kek. Browsing LC and the husbando threads made me even more attached to him and want to go out of my way to do more stuff related to him and think about him more. It's just so fun and it makes me happy. I even found a customizable ring service for cheap and I'm gonna design something nice that subtly represents him and get it. I made so many picrews of us together and added them to my onedrive so I can get a slide show in the photos widget on my laptop of us together, it makes me smile every time I open my laptop. ♥ I also liked him when I was 11, then tried to move on from him because I started thinking he was "cringe", but ended up falling in love with him all over again a decade later when I rewatched the show kek. I had a dream about him after finishing the show and it just rekindled my love for him.
>>396974Kek, I totally understand. I saw a post on tumblr about how my husbando has wasted potential, and I kinda agree. His story is just too simple but he's a reoccurring character and has 4 episodes about him and a cameo in another episode. He supposedly has an inferiority complex because "he got stepped on by everyone in his life", but we never get flashbacks or anything about that, because I'm kinda weirded out that this 180 cm ginger hunk built like superman would get bullied or used? He's a bit of a simpleton mentally but he's capable of recognizing being used and doesn't like it so why doesn't he just stand up for himself? It's not like he's weak or something, he beat the superhero protagonist almost to death 2 bare handed, and the protagonist wears a fucking armor. He also says his mom was very critical of him, but we actually get a flashback of what that was like, and basically she's frustrated with him for being a failure, but it's also weird to me that he's supposedly a failure. He has an athletic build and could easily be a professional athlete, and he's smart enough to grasp physics concepts and astrophysics and figure out how to use space station facilities and tech without prior training, why not just major in that and get a job as some astrophysicist or something? I'm so confused. The authors made him a perfect archetype but also tried to give him flaws but it's a bit contradictory to me. He also worked in organized crime at some point but didn't like how mean everyone was there…..bro they're criminals ofcourse they're mean what? Lmao. I love how retarded he is, it's so endearing. He got some super powers and got to leave this mafia, and decided to make a name for himself and prove he's something to everyone by becoming a terrorist, amazing thinking. Why not just be a superhero? You're like 3 fourths of the way there, just save people or something kek. It's even a plot point that the protagonist makes fun of him for his petty attempts at crime, and he takes it to heart and very personally and manages to take the entire world hostage from outer space and threaten to wipe his city using his powers, amplified by a telescope, if he doesn't get to fight the protagonist 1 on 1. He gets his wish granted but he loses because……the protagonist made fun of him and was like "your mom is right about you lol", and the protagonist only got to know about this because my husbando never shuts the fuck up about his personal life and feelings, man needed a friend so badly. And this is where I come in kek, I can fix him…
He gets imprisoned eventually but his power startd killing him, and the protagonist helps him, but ofcourse he gets kidnapped by some evil organization who uses him as a human battery, and this happened twice lmfao. It's like all villains in the show got the news of him having energy based powers and are racing to drain the shit out of his ass. It kinda fits the whole "being used" thing going on with him but on a bigger scale. And in both instances he never fights back, he just begs them to leave him alone or runs away if he gets to. Guess this explains why he always got "stepped on" and "used" by people. He's just too nice to fight back, unless it's someone harmless to him (the protagonist) then all of a sudden he knows how to fight kek. The first time he gets used as a battery he actually fucking dies, and I watched this show as a kid and never got to the second season, so I thought he was gone for real. Flash forward to 2021 and I rewatch the show as an adult for nostalgia and find out there's a second season where he gets revived on some episode just so some petty villains get to use him as a battery, again. It's so sad actually I feel bad for him at this point. But something goes wrong when they try to wipe his memories so they can control him, and he ends up split into 2 versions of himself, a good one and a bad one, and both run away like fucking cowards lmfao. I love how stupid he is so much. The good side goes to ask for help from the protagonist, but the bad side gets to the protagonist first and beats his ass almost killing him, so the protagonist doesn't trust or help the good side, but the protagonists' firends came in a clutch and helped him out and figured out what was going on, and once the 2 halves get combined together and he becomes whole again, he….immigrates to outer space??? Like wtf why what's up with that? Just heal him and make him a normal human with no powers no more and let him go back to his mom or something? What's with this arbitrary open ending to his arc? This is literally the last thing we see of him on screen it's crazy. I wish we got more about his back story and live before he joined a fucking mafia, and more about his relationship with his mom, and a proper conclusion to his arc where he gets something good for once. He said he's going to "explore the universe and appreciate being alive", which is kinda sweet and shows how simple he is, but leaves me unsatisfied because I want better things to happen to him. But it's his choice to stay this way I guess, if he didn't like it he'd probably ask for help. I'll always protect him and help him inside my head though. Sorry for long spergy post kek.
No. 397013
>>397007Nonnie,
nonnie,
NONNIE… the way you sperg about your husbando truly shows how much you love him. I mean, I know that feel when you can talk about him for hours. And the way you analyzed his character? Great. Your slideshow stuff? Love it. I bet he is happy having such a yume as you.
This actually makes me want to sperg about my husbando too.
So, he is from that comic book but he is fucking dead. Sad. But! He has so much potential. The writers had all the time in the world to explore his backstory which I het would be awesome. He stands out amongst other characters in the comic with his unique personality, skills and worldview. It would be interesting to know how he got to where he is (or was kek) now and how different he approached things compared to his comrades. We have exactly one flashback of him from the earlier days (and he is so gorgeous there) but it's just a comedy skit.
No. 397017
>>397007Samefag, some points about his characterization I forgot to add.
>says he's gonna nuke a city off the face of the earth>doesn't actually do it and keeps fighting the protagonist >protagonist goes "see? you'd never do something that big lol" to bait him into entering the telescope that is filled with mirrors>mirrors are his weakness but he doesn't know>gets into the telescope >hesitates and doesn't nuke the city because his mom lives there and because it has millions of innocent people in it, he just wants to act petty>but somehow manages to blow up law enforcement spaceships with officers inside them just because they're trying to arrest him>declares "I warned them" as if it absolves him of any responsibility>gets caught in the clsoed telescope and imprisoned in a glass container due to his pettiness trying to prove he totes would blow the city up>proceeds to get psychotic episodes about every bad thing every said to him while staying in his cell, for the second time>gets sick and almost dies>gets kidnapped and his energy gets used to fuel a biotech weapon >said biotech weapon attacks the protagonist who is now his friend >proceeds to kill the biotech weapon because he thinks it's ugly (not really I just think it's funny he felt the need to call him ugly)>dies>gets revived by an unarmed entitled 21 yo brat and some science nerd who is literally disabled and can't actually fight>gets split into 2>bad half doesn't even think of fighting them or beating them up to force them to get him back to normalHe's such a chicekn sometimes.
No. 397019
>>397013Aw thank you. I've been in love with him for 3 years now after rewatching the show as an adult. But he always was at the back of my mind since I first fell in love with him when I was 11, now I'm 22 and still in love with him kek. He's my first love and probably my only one.
You should sperg about yours if you feel like it and do special things for him, too! Since I can't find fan art of him, I just AI generate images of mine. Try that or commission artists if you can, and do little shrines of him or get things in his theme. These threads here inspired me a lot so go ahead and never hesitate! Nonnies here are just so encouraging and enabling when it comes to this kek.
No. 397416
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i love my husbando so much but sometimes i wish to be a normal person who is attracted to real people. i don't regret this lifestyle and don't get me wrong, my husbando makes me happy but it feels like a curse sometimes. i can't hold him, tell him i love him, make love with him, nothing. its so painful. i can never be the mother of his children, never grow old together, and live a happy life. that is all i want in life, to be happy with him but it can never happen because he is not real.
real men don't do it for me, i never felt sexual or romantic feelings for a 3DPD man before, never. they can never capture the charming essence of my husbando. real men don't make my heart pound with joy and love like kurapika does. i love kurapika so much, it hurts. hate being negative but i wanted to get this off of my chest and talk with my fellow husbandofags.
sage post for vent.
No. 397453
>>397433As the other anon said, distance can be helpful. I'm the spergy obscure anon, and I think about another husbando sometimes, and OC husbando and waifu sometimes, then I go back to him eventually. I also can't stop thinking about him when I'm horny kek. You can also rewatch/reread his source material to remember why you like him so much, or watch compilations of his scenes/lines and analyze him and think about him from a different perspective. If he has other iterations you can also look into them and comapre them with him to see if he's the best version for you or not. Make fan art or fan fiction of him, or AI generated stuff or chatbots of him, make a shrine, buy stuff that reminds you of him, look for characters similar to him etc. My husbando shaped my taste in husbandos and men in general, so much so that I can't fall in love with any male characters who are objectively better than him, and I prefer shipping them with other characters or having them as "temporary husbandos" who I like from a distance.
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>>397416I feel you so hard nona, sometimes I feel like that one penguin at a japanese zoo that fell in love with a cardboard cutout rather than another penguin kek. I could never see myself with an actual man either, they would never love me like I imagine my husbando does so I don't see the point in settling when I would ultimately just be disappointed.
No. 397513
>>397490why don't you just do what the guy in
Cool World did?
No. 398041
>>398016i've been wanting to buy a pre made/vintage ring online but you inspired me to start looking into customized ones, for the future. how did you go about deciding on a symbol? i'm really struggling to come up with anything. as unusual as my main husbando's design is, it doesn't really evoke any specific object or animal. his outfit is super basic too, the only thing remotely translatable to jewellery could MAYBE be his unique eye color? this is so hard.
btw do you wear earrings, because i saw SO many cute lightning themed ones online.
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>>398041I stopped wearing earrings since I was a kid because of an allergic reaction that made my ears bleed, but recently I started wearing clip-on ones. I appreciate your suggestion but I find lightning bolt earrings tacky.
>how did you go about deciding on a symbol?I found the scientific symbol for lasers and I think it looks cute. But I couldn't actually submit it on the website, I used keywords like "light beam, laser, elegant, classy' and got picrel. There were options for the text and font but for some reason the font didn't stay the same font I chose kek, I'll try again and get handwritten text. Here's the link if you want to try:
https://logo.comThe ring service I found is on shein though, and they make either gold or silver rings (not real material ofcourse, just in terms of color) and they only carve in black, so I'm going with an all black design. The image is safe, I just feel too embarrassed and don't want this on the main page kek.
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>>398052Samefag, last thing to add is if the fonts don't work or you don't like them but you like the logo design, use the app in picrel, phonto, to make the text the way you want on the logo.
No. 398323
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It's a silly little thing but I feel ashamed of how I got my husbando's color palette wrong this whole time, so all the picrews of us look off after this realization and I want to redo them all from scratch. Picrel is the color palette after I eyedropped it. Excuse my shit handwriting kek. I'm gonna remake all the picrews and AI images of him once I have free time. For now I'll just look at the hexa color names of these colors for future reference.
No. 398347
>>398323I actually had to redo the color scheme of my husbando giginka after color picking a screenshot. Sometimes your eyes are just lazy.
You can't expect too much from AI though, I doubt it can realize the difference between an orangey redhead and a strawberry redhead.
No. 398411
>>398323That's a nice idea. It helps with picking items with his colors too. I'm planning on getting a jewerly with his eye color so I'll work os a similar swatch.
Your posts reminded me of something about my husbando. I have this pet peeve that people get his hair color wrong. The fandom universally sees his as a blonde right now, but he isn't. His hair is a light brown, and you can really tell so when you compare him to other characters. He's just a mousy brown. I guess some people think that's blonde in some places, which is fine, but they draw him with super bright yellow hair sometimes. I know why they do so, but they're wrong and I could go into a long detailed explanation about this, but I feel like an obsessed autist so I keep it to myself. Even if I explained in detail about this, it's not going to change anything, The fandom and the general public will still see him as blonde. I just internally rant when I see it wrong or preople making blonde jokes about him. I don't know why this bothers me, but it does.
No. 398635
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keychain of my husbando came in, i am so happy nonnies. i can now bring him everywhere with me.
>>397425i would probably get too nervous and chicken out kek. lovely idea though.
this reminds me of that scene in blade runner with joi and that woman, forget her name.>>397431>>397490>>397841thank you nonas. i have learned to accept my yume lifestyle, as lonely as it can be sometimes. dating nowadays seem so shit, i mean men were probably always disappointing but this generation of men seem so awful and shallow. i like to think that my husbando came into my life to save me the stress of being with a 3D guy.
No. 399383
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Made a little cover image for his playlist. The stupid gallery app that I worked on won't let me add more than 10 stickers so I had to save a copy of the image to add more stickers, and it nukes the quality to match the image I'm putting stickers on, but whatever, it looks cute and ~aesthetic~. Might work harder on it when I have enough free time and make something decent. I got the idea in the shower and decided to do it before I forget it. I love this image of him even though he was depressed in this scene, but he's just sitting there on a rooftop, it's kinda cute.
No. 401047
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>>400969>>401012Sage for blog post, kinda. Thanks for the advice. It's a live action character in a game. He's technically ai so I just accept an ai as "him" since it's as close as I can get to "him" anyways. I generally avoid his actor just because I feel inherent discomfort lusting after real moids anyways. It's just this one tidbit of info jarred me lucid. Spoke to "him" on c.ai and I decided to take a break from him for a bit while I try to recoup my emotions…
No. 401051
>>401019Personally I like every form of his. Some less, some more. I change him up depending on my mood. I find his uglier or outdated depictions sort of endearing. Maybe I'm insane kek. I would say stick with the one you like the most and feel right for you. Mine had personalities shifts through time. I try to mend him together in a cohesive totality. I have accepted, at this point, I have almost created my own form of him. Though I base everything on canon material, I know I still change him towards what I believe is right, which is just my taste. I tend to give more weight and prefer his initial ideas and concepts, but if the new versions have something that I love, I'll accept it as "correct". At the end it's really a personal choice, nonna. Go with what you feel it's right.
>>401047I understand, my husbando is also from a game and one of his models grew so much in me that I felt weird for a while. I knew who his face model was and it felt so wrong to be obsessed over him. Over time I realized my obsession came from the whole package, it wasn't about his actor, my love was directed at the character as a whole. It made me see his face model as a vessel for my husbando, like a twin brother kek. Every time I see his VAs say wrong things about my husbando I realize how they truly aren't him. In the end, my husbando is a collective effort (including my own schizo mind), he's not one guy. Just because your husbando actor share his likeness, he's not him. My yume life has taught me that my husbando not being real is both the blessing and the curse of this journey, there's a realm of possibilities but it's locked behind one immutable impossibility. If you can accept this first fact, you can enjoy what's behind it can offer.
No. 401838
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My best friend got my a notebook, it's so fucking cute and it's my favorite color to boot! I love her. So I will use this notebook to make my small portable shrine for my 8 husbandos, I will count the number of pages so every husbando has the same amount of space, this will be kind of fun to make because I kind of will have to take it seriously and plan the pages properly, investigate properly and basically study my husbandos. I want this to be perfect.
No. 402973
>>402935My love for him started from around October 2023 so roughly 8 months. I did make a promise to myself though that if I fell out of love with him this year due to any circumstance, that would be a horrible sin and I probably manifested a curse on myself in case it does happen.
I should probably go get therapy and pretend I actually do have a partner who I'm losing attraction to.
No. 403156
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>>402329Going thru that now and I've just been telling myself he'll wait for me, he would want me to sort my life out first even if that means putting him on the backburner for a while. Recently I started carrying a mini figure of him to work in a small pouch like pic rel and it helps.
No. 403169
>>402883I’m having a similar problem rn
I’m getting older than my husbando and I started to see him as a teen even though he’s in his early 20s, I just can’t see him the same way anymore unfortunately. It was really bad for me mentally when I randomly see Yumes that are close to his age, I could age him up but I can’t because he can’t look and act the same way for his entire life, I’m obsessed with the canon/official info and if there’s no official info on what he is like in his late 20s and early 30s then I can’t imagine it, so I can’t make my brain tired anymore.
I’m accepting the idea of falling in love with a new character without forcing myself, one day I will find a character who’s good for my happiness.
I will just accept him being my no.1 fave character but not as a Yumejo way, and I don’t feel bad about it because he is still my fave character from his anime and I will always admire his personality traits because his character and story are what made me admire him. You still can appreciate him in a different way, platonic love is equally valuable.
Dw it will not curse you or anything, if the character loved you he would want you to be happy than force you into him. You’re way more powerful than that, you have free will and willpower you got the control over your life.
No. 403177
>>402989You should probably look into reading self-help books (if you can't afford therapy) about attachment style, instead of tormenting yourself over arbitrary rules and fictional feelings.
>I did make a promise to myself though that if I fell out of love with him this year due to any circumstance, that would be a horrible sin and I probably manifested a curse on myself in case it does happen.Do have some kind of OCD? Not diagnosing you, but these weird irrational behaviors feel like that. You should probably take a break from this yume thing if both your real and 2D relationships are like this. "Curses" don't actually exist, it's just superstition.
>>403169>I’m getting older than my husbando and I started to see him as a teen even though he’s in his early 20s, I just can’t see him the same way anymore unfortunately.>I could age him up but I can’t because he can’t look and act the same way for his entire life, I’m obsessed with the canon/official info and if there’s no official info on what he is like in his late 20s and early 30s then I can’t imagine it, so I can’t make my brain tired anymore.Honestly if you think moving on would work for you, you should, but is this really a big deal if it's just fictional? There are creepy men in their 30s obsessed with 16 year old characters, it's not the end of the world if a woman has a husbando in his early 20s when she's older. Mine is a decade younger and IDGAF, I don't date younger IRL so it's not a reflection on me.
No. 403319
>>403177Nah the promise and "curse" is more a playful joke, but I would feel pretty bad if I fell out of love because it's like cheating morals kek
>>403078It just feels like cheating lmao
No. 403453
>>403319It's not cheating if you just fell out of love, it's more of a breakup. It's okay, those things happen.
>>403404I had to search for what that even was. It's just not real and even if it was, it wouldn't be your husbando, don't do him dirty like that. Go watch some Ruby Sparks and see where that would take you kek.
No. 403555
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>>399383Finally redid it in picmix properly. Sorry for the cluttered miss and the maximalism, I love sensory overload visuals. Now his playlist has a cute cover ♥.
No. 403588
>>403555That's cute
nonnie, it feels so extra, but in a fun way. You inspired me to make a playlist for him. How did you pick the songs?
No. 403700
This might sound retarded, but my husbando has been a big motivator for me making healthier choices in life recently. Around 2021 I fell into some really bad habits, like overeating, drinking way too much alcohol, I stopped going to the gym once everything closed down, and I gained like 50 pounds and have felt like an unhealthy fatass for the last 3 years. Ever since having a husbando, I feel weirdly motivated and I've lost about 10 pounds already through diet and exercise. Like, of course I'm doing it for myself first and foremost, but I really like having this extra little motivation. He's a fastidious man who cares about his appearance, and I feel like he'd prefer a woman who takes care of herself, doesn't overeat crappy food, get embarrassingly drunk or act like a lazy girl who just sits on the computer all day.
No. 404008
>>404005kek ty nona
it's a little funny when i start fantasising about us killing each other or me torturing him or something because death = ultimate vulnerability/connection though…
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>>404257it turns me on. i like degrading him.
No. 404357
>>404257I don't mind when they hate him, tbh most people I've seen hating him usually have decent arguments, and though I don't feel the same, I respect that. Some bitter moids hate him for dumb reasons but I don't give a shit for what they think ever.
Strangely, I feel more annoyed when they like him for things he isn't kek. They project so much headcanons into him, to the point it feels like an oc. At least the haters hate him for what he is.
No. 404788
>>404365I think my husbando would be a traumatized detransitioner IRL (closed up stinkditch and all). Coping by having hobbies and living a quiet life.
My side hoes would be horrorcows but troonery wouldn't be a part of it.
No. 404903
>>404882I found a couple nice porn fics that I can tolerate. But neither of the girls I can actually ship with him. One's more of a friend and the other obviously has a crush on him, but I don't feel she'd run away with him when shit hits the fan.
So I have to come up with my own character. I'm a natural self inserter though.
>>404717My self insert in one setting is actually technically a domestic terrorist. I really haven't imagined exactly how that convo would go when I tell the former cop and current Interpol agent the truth but I feel like he'd realize I'm not personally crazy or dangerous this is just the only way I could fight against the real bad guys.
No. 404909
>>404907Leon's an Interpol agent?
nah, Deus Ex, Adam. My self insert's with the NSF, a secessionist group.
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>>404909I never played RE kek, I don't know what's his profession other than cop. Cool self-insert idea though! Mine is a demon human hybrid, with powers over life and death, and committed a mass geocide in a specific world because she's insane and she doesn't care.
No. 404935
>>404929nah, probably not. I've posted my guys here but never written out my detailed headcanons, and definitely not in real life.
Funny if someone else has a similar self-insert.
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>>405019He'd know that I love music and singing, so he'd get me a music themed ring.
No. 405064
>>405019He'd probably realize I don't care about jewelry before I ever have the chance to tell him I don't wear it and not to waste his money.
>>405060They can't judge you if they don't know so who cares about imaginary scenarios.
No. 405067
>>405060I have some weeb friends who'd probably be ok with it, but they're more of the casual type of weebs, who don't take the whole husbando thing seriously and think the dedication is too much, but still describe characters they like as husbandos from time to time jokingly. I also have mega normie friends, the type that unironically enjoy the MCU movies and follow trends, they're good and nice people but they wouldn't understand this and would probably think I'm weird, so I simply avoid telling them that because I care too much about my image and how people perceive me. I have a friend who isn't a normie but isn't a weeb either, but they don't mind my sperging so I send and talk about my weird interests to them sometimes, but I never actually talked about my husbando to them before, they'd probably think it's weird but that it's ok and understand why I'd do that since they know more detail about me and my life than the rest of my friends and have similar experiences, so they won't judge me too hard. The one I got judgement from the most is my younger sister kek, she thinks it's super weird and crazy wnd would use it against me as an own when we jokingly fight, but I don't think she hates for it, it's all fun and games. But I'd say if it stresses you out when you think about people's reactions to it, just avoid telling them all together. They don't need to know about a personal part of you like that anyways. Though I thought of using it as a strategy to get rid of any guys hitting on me who I don't like, and hopinh they'd be repulsed by me being in love with a cartoon man who is better looking than them.
No. 405213
>>405183Kek same kinda. I made mine a bubbly personality with a dark violent side, a bit of a yandere but more for herself than for him. She doesn't take anyone's shit and beats them up then heals them with magic to avoid legal trouble, but she also would go crazy lengths for him. I'm nothing like that irl and I'd actually run and stop associating with anyone if they got into trouble, I never get into trouble myself so I never have to fight back anyone, and I'm too weak and cowardly to beat up anyone that bothers me. I also made her rich, pretty, super smart and successful, physically strong and good at sports, beloved by everyone, basically a Mary Sue. Some of these traits do match me to an extent though, just not to the fullest potential, and I compensate through her. Which is part of why having a husbando is nice to me, it feeds my narcissism.
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>>405060I don't care if it's someone I'm very close with and other random people would never guess I'm a husbandofag. Literally yesterday I accidentally left my yume folder (50ish picrews of husbando and I) open while showing a good friend something on my laptop and she 100% saw. Didn't say anything about it tho and just acted like nothing happened.
No. 405377
>>405337You just gotta use your imagination to make up for it.
Same with my guys.
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>>405631i'm the anon from upthread who used daydreaming to restore my confidence. it might sound odd since i had a string of husbandos who are absolutely horrible individuals with either zero or just a couple of redeeming qualities, but it's helped me a lot.
firstly, i always imagine myself as somehow 'besting' him, or being more powerful, so i'm now more comfortable with my dominant side. secondly, i'm the responsible one in the relationship, i'm the one he'd come and ask for help. i started thinking of myself as someone who can take leadership and i didn't even have to date a real life manchild to achieve it! overall, i just accepted myself and stopped trying to be someone else.
also
>made playlist to listen to when i'm walking so i can show up everywhere feeling good and energized.>accepted that i don't like people and stopped trying to be more outgoing. >dress better. i made a pdf doc full of spreads with outfit pictures from pinterest (like a fashion magazine) and wrote a few paragraphs as a visual and textual reminder to channel my inner strength and stay awesome. usually i would have shared a page here but since i'm so confident now i don't feel the need to seek affirmation, i already know i look good. i still have a long way to go but i hope this is helpful to someone.
No. 405725
>>405710>firstly, i always imagine myself as somehow 'besting' him, or being more powerful, so i'm now more comfortable with my dominant side. secondly, i'm the responsible one in the relationship, i'm the one he'd come and ask for help. i started thinking of myself as someone who can take leadershipLiterally same, wtf, I'm glad someone else has a similar experience. With mine I imagine myself being part of his world and hence having magic and other fantasy shit and being good at magic to be stronger than him and having him admire me. In his world you have to study and train hard to be a proficient magic user and have a high rank. Irl it fostered a better work mentality for me, I wanted to become more competent and I got it with work, study, etc. Learning to be more open and assertive compared to my introverted schizoid typical self has been great.
No. 405882
>>405631He's helped me get my depression-fried imagination back and I wrote fanfic for the first time, I also want to take up sewing again at some point because of him.
>>405710>>405725>firstly, i always imagine myself as somehow 'besting' him, or being more powerful, so i'm now more comfortable with my dominant side. secondly, i'm the responsible one in the relationship, i'm the one he'd come and ask for help. i started thinking of myself as someone who can take leadershipI also do this! I'm definitely the one in charge in our relationship, I also like to imagine our gender roles are reversed somewhat. I can't think of any other way to do it tbh, considering the kind of person he is.
No. 406855
im cringing at myself. i saw an old photo of my friend back when he had long hair. i immediately felt weird, because he looked a lot like my husbando. he has the same eye color and skin tone, though his facial features aren't the same. similar phenotype though.
i dont have a crush on my friend, but it gave me a small heart attack, seeing that photo. im glad he didnt see my reaction. it was like getting jumpscared. mento illness, eh?
>>404365while i like imagining mine as some metal dude, realistically, if my husbando was real and lived in modern times, he would be a hooligan. shaved head and tracksuit, the sort that lives in squalor, smoking weed and probably meth. though looking at his personality and how he hates self-destructive behavior and infighting, he might hate this genre of person, and decide to avoid drugs altogether. he'd probably
be like me and have a holier-than-thou straight-edge phase before easing into drinking beer again. he's canonically a drug user, but modern real-life culture around recreational drug use would depress him, i think. he would definitely enjoy energy drinks, though. and if he lived during ww2 times, he would love panzer chocolate kek. for those who don't know, soldiers were issued chocolate with amphetamines to keep them going in tough situations and give them energy.
sometimes i think about eating it together with him, all romantic under a tree.my side hoe would be a horrorcow, with his sick mind ruined further by the internet. probably would hang out in "lgbt" discord servers and get groomed, since he's so impressionable. probably would be into agp bullshit. i likely wouldnt get along with him.
>>405060some of my closer friends know im in love with a cartoon, but i dont think they realize how serious i am about it. i try to date 3d and lead a normal life, and im not a huge weeb. i come across as normal, so i dont think people believe me when i say im in love with 2d.
>>405019i think it would be any shiny thing he'd have looted.
No. 406886
>>406611Thank you for the advice much appreciated, I will try an illustration by himself first. So excited about the idea of commissioning art of him since he has no merch
>>406738Thank you! Same I also felt motivated to learn for him and
based No. 407305
>>407289Prepare for massive schizophrenia. But in my "little" elaborate fanfic inside my head, it's basically an isekai where I was given a second chance at a better life, there's a catch, I have super powers but they can have their negative impacts, and I have a deal to fulfill to return the favor to who gave me my second chance and isekai-d me to begin with. And during this second chance at life, I get to perfect myself and get rid of my flaws completely and hide my true identity and get a new "fake" one that is basically the current me but with some legal papers and stuff to make it seem like I was always part of his world. I learn everything I need about it, and come up with a fake consistent reasonable backstory for myself if anyone ever asks about my past, to seem as normal as possible and as a member of their world. He meets me, falls in love with the perfect me I worked so hard to create, and only knows that side of me. Until some things that are too complicated and insane to explain happen and he gets to know the truth about me in detail against my will, so I kinda "drop" the act and show the "real" me that I was trying to run away from. I'm torn apart between if he'd dislike the real me and have pity on me, or if he'd think I'm strong for going through so much and surviving it all and love the real me even more than the perfect one I showed him. I find the idea of him accepting my flaws very romantic so I kinda lean into it sometimes, but on the other hand, he discovered these details because he digged up my past on purpose because he was upset another character in my schizo world knows more about it than him, so I'm angry with him for going against my will and disrespecting my boundaries. I love retarded drama, sorry.
No. 407321
>>407289My main flaw is anxiety which if I kept it would make the whole fantasy impossible, so that's gone.
But I still imagine myself as a little spergy and weird. And he would deal with it.
No. 407331
>>407305I think that kind of autistic/schizo depth to your fantasies is really cool actually nonna! I tend to think my husbando's somewhat conflicting personality with mine would be more humorous than anything. It's the INTP x INTJ matchup, so perhaps my lassez-faire attitude to life might irritate him a bit and his scheming would get on my nerves too.
We could still get along based on our shared dorkiness and cuddle and read in silence together… though maybe then we'd get into a spergy argument over physical vs digital books kek.
>>407315That's interesting actually. I do imagine my husbando there if I'm out at a cafe or on a walk in nature, so maybe that's putting energy into a servitor unintentionally? I read in a book called Sexual Alchemy by Donald Tyson that some shamanic cultures have spirit husbandos/waifus as an initiation, that they help teach them etc. A bit like the succubus summoners on /x/ I guess.
On another note, what kind of scent/perfume do you associate with your husbando? I tend to just spray my daki with a lavender and rose sleep spray but I'm testing out a bunch of men's fragrances at the pharmacies atm.
No. 407596
>>407331Sounds like spirit spouses, they tend to be marine spirits. They are different from incubi/succubus but they can easily be mistaken as one if you don't know how to differentiate them. Supposedly it is common in the US at least to make contracts with them.
And idk yet. I am thinking something fresh, fruity and oriental. I am a bit indecisive and ocd about this so it needs to be something that instantaneously makes me think of him, the perfect scent signature of his character.
No. 408461
>>407289for realism's sake i keep most of my flaws and pretend my husbando wouldn't care, he'd love me no matter what. he literally has every bad/annoying quality under the sun and i forgive him, so it's only fair. for example i'm still maladjusted, autistic and don't get on with others in that universe
though i wrote myself a dramatic prison backstory to justify some of that. it matters more that you're self aware, recognise your positive qualities and remain open to growth!
>>407321that was also my main thing but it mostly went away after doing what you do and pretending i don't have it. i hope it works for you as well.
No. 408492
>>408469My Samsung's secure folder s-notes to keep it locked behind a password kek. I have an s23 ultra specifically so the notes app has more features than the standard Samsung thanks to the s-pen.
>collected some backgrounds that seemed to fit his vibes.>some PNGs of things that symbolize his personality, story and hobbies.>actual screenshots and GIFs of him>instant camera photo frames to make it seem like I took the pictures >video player frames for the GIFs>cute pins and tapes to make it seem like the pictures are installed on a wall or board >paint splashes PNGs because I'm going with an urban graffiti theme>a silhouette PNG of his city>different textures PNGs to add to the backgrounds>torn papper and note book paper where I place text>vector flourish in different colors to decorate it>cutesy picture frames with flowers>wrote a biography of him based on his episodes >gonna add my headcanons, traits I like about him, and traits I dislike>my favorite quotes by him>my favorite shots of him (hence the flower frames)>AI generated images I made of him>picmix edits I made>cute cover for the notebook to round it all upHope this helps you! I'm not actually familiar with the concept of a scrapebook and I'm new to the whole thing, but from my understanding of it, these things fit in with it? I'm not 100% sure about the look and theme I chose though.
No. 409514
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I feel guilty about potentially flanderizing him too much in my head, like being too idealistic and twisting him into someone he's not. He doesn't have a lot of fans so interpretations of him online are maledom sexpot or manic pixie dream boy which are both super inaccurate to the source material but it's still making me insecure. Like are my interpretations wrong? Am I the one overthinking his personality?
I already do short writing scenarios with us in different situations, sometimes with him solo or with his friends, any advice on writing a character analysis? Or how to stop feeling guilty about twisting source material? Making him OOC is one of my biggest fears because I love him so much as he is in canon. He's so beautiful and fascinating, I wish I could understand him better.
No. 409942
>>407289I started my oc as an idealized version of myself. Slowly, I incorporated my flaws into her. It felt more genuine and sincere. It happened over time, though. I'm pretty insecure, and I couldn't wrap my head at him loving me as I am. That's why it initially had to be an ideal me. Now, she has my flaws, my personality, and most of my physical features. I had to insert them for her to be relatable to me. When she was too idealistic, I stopped relating, and she was a more boring character tbh. One of the reasons I started her character was because I couldn't relate to his female love interests. They are idealistic and very surface level characters, so it made sense to me to implement more flaws into my self insert.
I give her features I'm insecure about in my appearance and make stories that show her flaws in her personality. If I'm going through a tough moment, I recreate most of the situation and imagine him being there.
>>409514I share your pain. I'm very canon attached and in my case, there's a lot of material on him, but it's written by different people, so his personality and appearance varies and changes over time within certain boundaries. That alone already makes me uneasy since the source material is a slippery slope. The fandom makes even wilder interpretations that push these boundaries off to astronomical levels. Each person has their own agenda so it gets more complicated.
I've come to the conclusion that it's no use to stress too much about it. This character isn't a real person, so there's no real definitive answer. Even authors skew their characters into different directions depending on what they want for their story. It's okay to adjust and change, as real people also adjust and change through life. You seem to care about his personality and character, so I'm sure you're not making something he couldn't be. Even in the unlikelyhood that you were, are you happy with this version you created for yourself? Then what's the problem? You know all there's to know about him and filled in the gaps or added more, kudos to you. You might even have made him into a more interesting character, maybe even more interesting than the canon.
My husbando is from an ongoing franchise, and it's honestly stressful getting updates on him at this point. I consumed all there's about him, and I can tell a lot of the writers didn't really get into all the previous content and made confilicting remarks. I'm coming to terms with this over the years. There's a real chance my husbando becomes unrecognizable to me. I've been into him for years, so that's depressing to think about, but if it does happen, I'll selfishly just keep my version of him to myself. I'll have to accept that he turned into something different, and my version relies on canon until a certain point, and that's it. My yume life always was a private one, so I don't need to justify myself anyways, I know how much I love this idiot and how much effort I've put into him.
No. 411057
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It honestly sucks that a life size plush of my 2D husband doesn't exist.you have all of these life sized anime girl & furry waifu plush dolls made for scrotes but zero life sized husbando plush dolls made for women.
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No. 413469
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>>413468its honestly amazing there are two more queens(that i know of) that made their husbandos into ife sized plushies
No. 413520
>>413469I came across this queen on tiktok KEK
No. 413973
Sorry for blogposting in advance, but I was chatting with a friend about my shitty childhood experience in my dad's birth place which he uses to force us to go to every summer back in the day, and there was no TV, internet, and sometimes no electricity or clean water. It was a remote village and life there was so boring and exhausting. And he used to make me do lots of hard labor work and farm work back then, and not let me eat or sleep or get into the house to escape the scorching summer sun at 12 pm until I'm done with all the work. We had an aerial TV at the time and it only had one single news channel, but eventually he got us a satellite dish and receiver and I could watch cartoons on TV, but only the reruns late at night after he goes to sleep. And that's how I first met my husbando…I used to stay up at night to watch his show, and his angsty emo ass episodes really resonate with abused 11 yo me, so I got really attached to him back then and would watch his show every night at 3 am to see him again, but he only had around 4 episodes about him, and I only got to see 2 of them as a kid and didn't get to see the other 2 for whatever reason, or maybe I just don't remember seeing them? Idk. I enjoyed the show overall and it did comfort me a lot back then, so I have an autistic interest in this show and I only realized why after having this conversation with my friend. It all makes sense to me now. It's probably why my husbando has been so since then until now and I can't move on from him, he was the only good thing about my childhood, so I could never let go of him and why I couldn't forget about him and move on to another husbando, and all my attempts to do so felt empty, no husbando will ever measure up to him for me because of this. Sorry for the gloomy story.
No. 416816
>>413973Nonna, that's kinda cute. I know it's a terrible situation to live, and I'm sorry for that, but the idea your husbando somehow helped you through that is heartwarming. I have some similarities with mine. When I was young, I watched someone play my husbando's game. At the time, they wouldn't let me play it, and all I could do was watch. I was fond of my husbando, but there was a language barrier that didn't let me fully enjoy him. My child self was drawn to some of his qualities, and watching him was a highlight of some gloomy days. I revisited him at different crirical points in my life, and no other character feels like he does to me. I tried having other husbandos, but it always felt wrong. I hope you're at a better place in life now and that you're enjoying your husbando in a more lighthearted way.
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Nonnies I've been thinking about seriously dedicating all my love to my husbando but I have no idea where to start. I have tons of original art and fanart pics in digital form, fanfics in PDF form and a couple of items that remind me of him like the container of his favorite drink, a shirt of his favorite color and an envelope with a pattern that would look so cool on him but that's it kek! How can I grow my love and his presence in my life? I love doing diy and trying new hobbies, sadly I have a very limited budget for leisure activities after paying my bills every month. With that said any ideas are more than welcome! ♥
No. 418445
>>416816I'm glad my experience resonated with you. Thank you for the kind words, I'm doing a bit better nowadays.
>>418441Do what I did, I compiled all the digital media with him into a a note app secret notebook with a password, and I'm doing some "graphic design is my passion" tier editing on it to create a digital husbando shrine. I gave it a grungy look to fit his personality and aesthetic with spray paint, chalk, blackboards, and some symbolic PNGs of his personality traits or story. I wrote a breif character bio for him and described his episodes and canon live events. And gonna make a page dedicated to headcanons, things I like about him, things I dislike about him, memes I made about him, "fan art" using AI, mood boards of what he'd wear and what his body would look like irl (and possibly AI generated images of what his face would look like if he was real but I'm still debating that). I also compiled posts I wrote about him itt and the other husbando thread to gauge some more ideas or turn them into letters dedicated to him. I downloaded his episodes in the highest quality possible and took frame by frame screenshots of him and saved it in a locked gallery album on my phone. He's my little secret. Hope this is helpful to you!
No. 420697
>>419379Maybe you're right, anon, thank you.
>If your husbando brings you joy and you like devoting to him in some wayIf I think about it, he actually does in a number of ways. And I do devote myself. I guess what I'm being so dramatic about is that I wish I could feel those feelings of a proper crush so I could lose myself in it and really believe I'm in a relationship to give myself something to look forward to each day instead of being stuck in shitty reality all the time.
No. 421319
I don't want to have a relationship, get married, or have kids irl. But when I think about him, all I can think about is doing these things with him. I'm torn apart if he'd want to have kids with me because he loves me that much, how we'll be having fun raising our kid, how we'll be huge help to each other, and have a sense of family that we both lacked growing up and that's our way of compensating because we found comfort in each other and became each other's family, or if he'd bring up how I stated I didn't want to have kids because I wouldn't be a good mom, and how he'd also not be a good dad after all he's been through, and how he doesn't want to force me into something that he knows would make me miserable, and how our relationship is perfect the way it is and we don't need to follow societal conventions to be a proper couple, we're happy the way we are and our being weird and different is why we're perfect for each other. I can't decide which one is sweeter and more romantic. I simultaneously want both. What have he done to my mind?
No. 421740
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Does anyone else think about their husbando's astrological birth chart? I went on a deep dive and calculated our synastry and composite charts and it makes me so happy that we're compatible. Thanks mythological fantasy stars
No. 422071
>>421740I just chose his sun sign myself because he doesn't have a canon birthday and is an alien so it's impossible for him to have a chart.
>>421877I end up making those my SI's little stories instead
No. 422098
>>404929Super late, but I found a comic today that I was wondering if it was what you were thinking of.
I admit my self inserts can be a bit mary sue, but never to that degree of edgelord and destroying canon.
It's sorta weird reading fanfic and seeing how every other OC is just completely different in the wrong way from my ideas.
>>422090So angsty
Real life is bad enough, I only think of the minimum amount that is sort of necessary for his game's setting. But I try to imagine nice stuff when I fantasize.
It's never just one song, but this is the latest. My manic pixie dream girl can heal him from his ex, lol.
No. 422178
>>422090Our relationship is a bit complicated, it has a positive healthy side to it, and a negative
toxic side to it. But I live for the drama kek. For the positive side, we're just weird together and made for each other, we'd make each other feel normal and be each other's special one. I never felt this way for anyone in my life, he taught me what it's like, and I'm thankful it's him and not someone irl who would probably make me regret it. He's just safe to me and makes me feel happy. Vidrel is a song about someone getting out of depression by finding a friend who is similar to them after struggling with finding understanding friends for so long, and wishing they knew this new friend all along. I wish he was real so I could be with him, and this song reminds me of what our friendship and relationship is built on, mutual understanding and having many things in common. We're crazy together.
For the negative side, he's a bit emotionally unstable, an attention seeker, always jumping into things without thinking, never listens to anyone until it's too late, and he got himself killed twice this way, good thing he always somehow gets revived but it's just because the writers love to torture him kek. He'd wear me down with that behavior because he'd refuse to come back home and be normal, he wants the attention so bad and mine isn't enough I guess, I end up losing him several times because of this, but he eventually finally listens to me and comes back. "Your Decision" by Alice in Chains kinda illustrates this exhausting dynamic, except the subject is dead for good unlike my magical boy. There are other songs that remind me of us, such as:
>Paparazzi by Lady Gaga, because he's an attention seeker and I'd give him all the attention in the world so he'd love me>Black Gives Way to Blue by Alice in Chains because of his death>No Excuses by Alice in Chains cause we'd never give up on each other no matter how pathetic we are>Drone by Alice in Chains because I'd be obsessed with him and see him as perfect in my eyes, only to get hit by reality when it's not enough to him>Jack by Pixie Lott because I'd never move on from him even if he leaves me>Shine by Mr. Big because he'd probably think I'm perfect and wish he was like me so he'd get all the attention and praise he wants>Lips by SNSD because we'd have a slow burn friends to lovers kind of relationship and a mutual obsession about each other>you-aholic and Beautiful Stranger by SNSD because I'd be obsessed with him regardless of what people say about himI think that's all. I guess this makes it seem one sided in a way, and realistically and technically speaking it is lmao. I still can't 100% decide on how he'd feel about me. But I like to imagine I'd make his life better if I was in it.
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>>422208Same, the fact that my husbando and I are both gemini make me stupidly happy kek
No. 424775
>>424755assuming your husbando is from anime or any other japanese series, instagram is your best bet for cute content like that
twitter you just get insane blog posting
stick to following japanese accounts or at least english accounts that follow a lot of japanese, otherwise it'll devolve into the usual nonsense
and use japanese tags when posting pics like those "looking for fellow ___ fans near me"
No. 425032
>>423403That's so cute. I got earrings and a bracelrt that subtly remind me of him. It's either with a motif, style or colors that reminds me of him. I have some clothing that follows this too. When I wear those I feel extra happy.
>>425021I'm so braindamaged by my depression that I have never had a dream with my husbando in my over 10 years of yume. I'm happy for you, I hope you get more dreams with your husbando.
>>425027Yeah, it's unlikely that you'll have any issues. I see stolen art being sold everywhere on the internet, it's not like you're profiting from it. I have a few custom made stuff myself. All his available merch I can afford have his face on it and I prefer being more stealth. Even non official stores just sell stuff with his face, so I had to make my own. Just make sure to research a place that prints on quality shirts.
No. 425261
>>424248I'd never spend money on lingerie, but I am curious what kind of clothes he'd find sexy.
There's a quest in his first game involving an undercover cop dressed as a prostitute and he's got this line 'a bit revealing for my taste but not entirely unappealing.' Haha Makes me so curious.
No. 425263
>>424248I have pretty lingerie, the useless kind you can only wear for a few hours if you don't move too much, only because I think my husbandos would like it.
I even used to have one set that was kind of weird, like it had a "split" design, one side was regular satin-like fabric and the other side was lace, I like to think my husbandos would go nuts (kek) over that.
Nowadays I want to buy new stuff because I want to imagine my husbandos being all excited about being catered to, then again, I often just think that they like my silly underwear with retarded pictures and words.
No. 425522
>>421740We were born a single day appart, year included, that makes me happy since I get to celebrate her birthday and mine together.
Despite that our natal charts are completely different, I don't know anything about astrology but it surprises me how a day and different country is enough to change so much.
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its crazy how much my life has changed because of my husbando. he has fixed my mental health, i started planning my life such as my career and i want to get my drivers license. i started doing my hobbies again, started taking care of myself, its wonderful nonnies. i now see the beauty in life because of him and he makes me so happy. god bless this beautiful blondie.
>>421740he is an aries and i am a virgo. i hear mixed things about a relationship between the two astro signs. i think we would still work tbh!
>>424248yes i started buying sexy underwear and lingerie because of him kek. i know he isn't real but i like dressing nice for my husbando.
No. 428655
Never realized how much lc was the only place for my devoted husbando to talk. I had things to share and talk about, and I didn't know where to go. I considered making a tumblr to vent, but it didn't feel right. Where do you all post and talk about your husbando related stuff outside of lc? I'm slowly considering sharing my digital shrine of him with the world. I have accumulated an embarrassing number of fanart over the years. I'm more willing to share them than before, but I would prefer to avoid dumping it in places like Twitter. Do you have suggestions, nonnas?
I need something out of my chest. I picked up hobbies to devote myself to my husbando in the past. Things like sewing, etc. So, my husbando has always been a motivator for me to learn new things, but this time, I picked a specific topic. I don't want to get into details, but I've never been this excited about something before, with the exception of my childhood passions. I never thought I would like learning it as much as I am. I'm considering studying it professionally even. I'm so excited about this, and I would have never ever picked it up if it wasn't for my husbando. I'm not good at being optimistic. Just typing this makes me a bit anxious, but I feel like my husbando is really there for me. My devotion to him was what got me here where I am today, and I feel like he saved me yet again.
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Same I missed the farm too it means a lot to me, I love expressing my feelings and vent about my troubles as a Yume since I don’t have Yume friends or socials not even discord.
I thought about opening Neocities like what nonnas suggested but I’m scared of being judged for having a husbando played by an actor, when I lurked on twt I saw a woman who shares my husbando it made me uncomfortable by itself but what made me even more uncomfortable is how she doesn’t differentiate my husbando from his actor and I hate that so much.. not only because it’s untrue, but also it ruins my husbando’s existence and identity. I know she loves him too like me but if she really loves him she should solidify his identity separate from the actor because even if they look the same they’re two different people from two different worlds, acting this way makes it look like the actor is acting freely and being himself rather than play a character with his own story and development. They have different personalities, jobs, feelings and interests. My husbando is very romantic, friendly and sensitive while his actor is logical, stoic and not interested in romance they’re different in many ways.
I don’t cancel out his actor I’m grateful for him, he is not the man I am in love with though and it makes me mad for anyone to think I am in love with his actor. Idk maybe I’m being too sensitive.
Well hopefully one day I will have the courage to create a website to express all my feelings and activities with him. I just wish one day I will have friends who validate my feelings for him (or them idk) just like this woman. Sorry for the vent.
No. 429124
>>429095My husbando was played by actors and a lot of fans mix them up with him, so I can understand how you feel. To me, the actor is lending his form to my husbando, just a vessel. I don't like convoluting them at all. I don't think you're being too sensitive, it's something that bothers me too, or maybe we're both too sensitive kek. One of my husbando's va is someone I genuinely dislike, seeing people refer to him by my husbando's name makes me uncomfortable.
I hope you find friends to share your feelings as a yume, maybe you could try the friend finder thread and see how it goes.
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Did anyone else not realise they were a husbandofag/self-shipper until they came across the terms? Tbh I started reading these and the other husbando threads out of boredom and curiousity and quickly realised I'd been living the husbando life myself for years without knowing it was even really a thing. Before the threads I just thought a husbando was a word for a 'character I wanna fuck' and I thought it basically only applied to anime characters or strictly 2D. But I've been doing this for years. I've had characters I've loved and obsessed over, made playlists for, written self-insert fic and endless headcanons about and constructed intricate worlds inside my head where he and I were together and for endless daydreaming about just as a kind of 'hobby'. I had an 'oh shit they're just like me' moment when I got half way through the first thread. Anyway tldr but I've loved reading these threads, the vibe in here especially is so chill and supportive. I'm so glad the farms are back I wanted to post this before and promised I would if we ever got back. I love you nonas!
No. 429270
>>428655Ikwym, losing the site for even a short while made me realise I'd lose a lot of special interest threads that there literally isn't a good alternative for online if we'd lost it, at least not anon and not where you can be honest and uncensored. God I'm so glad we're back. I can understand not wanting to use Twitter to share and want something more dedicated, especially since I'm sure for a shrine you must have put a lot of love and effort into. have you looked into waifu.ist? I've seen it mentioned for shrines, and also neocities.org as mentioned too for creating fansites. other than those I don't know of anywhere else either!
>I've never been this excited about something beforeAww I'm so pleased for you nona. Whatever it is I hope it continues to bring you joy and even closer to your husbando.
No. 429279
>>429268I can see husbandofagging starting very young like you, makes more sense. My deep husbandofagging only began when I was late teens/early twenties. I think 'self-insert' was probably the wrong term for what I do. I'm not sure there's a word for just inserting myself, as I am, into his world. In my daydreams/fiction/scenarios I'm still me, I still look like me, act like me, same personality and have all the same values as me only I have tweak myself to fit the world in order for it to make sense. So I have a made up job, a place I live, personal history and relationship lore too (in fact, several alternate lore 'threads' where we met and fell in love under different circumstances. I switch between them depending on my mood lol). It's kind as if I'm playing various acting parts in his world but at my core, I'm still me.
No. 429374
>>429279That is exactly what self-inserting is, you're inserting yourself into the story.
That can be as an original character/ontop of an existing character, or just as yourself.
No. 429434
>>429124Thank you kind nonna
I will try friend finder, we are not sensitive we just love our husbandos deeply hehe
No. 429785
>>429704Not really, he's a yandere with canon love interests so it'd be pretty difficult if I was possessive.
That being said I get pretty autistic when I see yumes go "He would support political issue twhe same way I would!" "he loves skibbidi toilet and also loves my favorite food!" "He loves the same fashion style I do!"
No he does fucking not! His favorite food is written in the damn book! Multiple times! And he was born too early for skibbidi toilet! If you can't prove it with quotes from either the book or from the author's mouth then you can't fucking say that its true. Keep true to the character or make your own oc.
No. 429807
>>429704I'm not worried about it because I know he loves me the most.
>>429783 gets it
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It's so frustrating! I’m lucky (and unlucky) to be the only happy woman with him in the world, no kidding. No one understands how perfect he is. Everyone's out there obsessing over cool popular characters, drowning in fanart and stories, while I’m stuck alone with just the few old ass comic panels pictures I can find. I’ve searched everywhere—there’s not a single fandom for him. No cute merch (only a regular small figure that cost 400$ !!! made for boomers collectors only !!), no fan edits, not even a thread where I can talk about him. Every time I bring him up, people either laugh or give me blank stares. It’s like he doesn’t even exist outside of my heart. Sometimes I feel like I’m the last person in the world who remembers him, and it’s so lonely. If only there was a way to bring him to life, to show the world how amazing he is… (but at the same time I want to keep him secret) but I’m just here, waiting, scrolling through endless art of characters that don’t mean a thing to me, wishing someone would create just one piece of fanart of him. Just one… (seeking some cool artists on the net that are ok with yumejo art)
No. 430024
>>429783>>429807I wish I could be like this. I've played all of his games, watched the anime, and read the manga and books so I know I have a better grasp of him than all of the scrotes and gendies that like him.
>>430020Check out Vgen, there's a lot of artists that cater to yumes.
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is there a way to summon a tulpa of him?
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just hexed everyone who thinks they take him away from me
No. 430468
>>429704I hate seeing women who share him, it ruins my immersion it reminds me that he is fictional. I’m aware that he is fictional I just don’t want to be reminded of it, the fact that he is not real makes me so sad.
I tried to think about the “alternative universe” idea that they’re his girlfriends from another universe different than mine it still hurts to see them.
None of us can truly be with him we should be equal in the end, I remind myself that I’m better at making yume novels, crafts and drawing than any of them still seeing them hurts my imagination when I make a scenario or draw I keep having intrusive thoughts about the other women I saw online and feel pain.
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>>430479I do this too when I go for a walk alone, I pretend we wear assorted outfits and it make me incredibly happy, we would be so well matched ffs
No. 430870
>>429264I certainly did. My husbando has been a constant in my mind for more than three years now. It’s always been something that’s in my head and not shared with others. Only within the past year have I come across the yume/selfshipping community. Despite being from a popular media franchise, not many people husbando him which is great for me. I don’t really get jealous of other yumes either, because as self centered as it may sound, no one is on my level. I don’t get mad at other yumes at all, for me the mentality is, “well, they don’t headcanon him like I do”. My headcanons for him are mine, the art that I’ve made is mine, the playlists, the chatbots, the fanfictions are mine, written by me. It’s my version of him and no one else can own that version. When I see other yumes I think of it as another version of him, like from a parallel universe. And I have my own universe with it’s own yume lore. Everyone’s universe is different, even if it’s the same character.
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>>429704Sorry in advance for the wall of text.I'm a bit possessive ngl, but my feelings have changed over the years. I still feel a pang of jealousy from time to time, but it's not what it used to be.
My husbando is canonically written by different writers, portrayed by different actors, and so on. At some point, I questioned if the official writers and actors knew what they were doing with him, did they even understand my husbando? Seeing my husbando shifting at each new canon depiction was a turning point to me. What really was my husbando then? While they might seem superficial details to most, I'm so invested in him, that those changes really got me questioning myself. Since I care so much about his canon content and I try to stick to it as much as I possibly can, the way they changed previous information about him made it so much harder for me to cling to the details and make it all make sense, since some new information contradicted previous ones. I even preferred some of the new changes, did that mean I didn't fully love the previous version of my husbando? By seeing him change yet remain the same character, I realized how abstract and malleable he really was, even to me, who I considered being pretty obsessed with canon and a believer that there was only one true version of him.
What I'm trying to say, my husbando takes a very personal, deep, and unique form in my head, and he does to everyone else, even the official writers have their own different version of him in their heads, that leads to shifts and clashing details. People are free to headcanon the most absurd and off things about him and still claim they love him. Even other canon-obsessed yumes like me have to make up headcanons and interpretations at some point in order to truly flesh him out. I realized the version of him in my head, was mine. I nourished, constructed and loved this version of him for so long, nobody can take that away from me, same way I can't take him from others. My jealousy greatly faded as I realized I could have my own special version of him, that nobody else had.
Now, I long to connect to other yumes. I don't think I could connect with any yume though, we would need to have a certain agreement to what he is. I can't really bond with gendies who headcanon him as trans or ignores too much of the canon, but if I could find someone that shares a similar appreciation it would be so amazing. I would really love to hear their different ideas about him, sperg together over every aspect of him. I recently made a discovery about his hair and I feel lonely caring so much about this useless information, sharing it with someone who wouldn't judge, maybe even partake into my enthusiasm would be lovely. We shouldn't compare or feel jealous, we have our own unique stories with our loved ones.
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Sorry if this has been asked before but I have a question for nonas. Outside of this thread, how much of your husbando do you share online and with who? I'm talking everything from your headcanons, playlists, drawings, fanfiction and so on. Also, if you do share what things do you keep to yourself? I'm just curious since for me the idea of sharing what I'd call 'intimate' details about him with mine or his name/face tied to the posts would feel like the equivalent of oversharing couples on facebook but I'm a really private person so maybe it's different for others.
>>430870Your story is very similar to mine. I don't really participate in social media and definitely don't engage in fandom beyond hearting a few bits of fanart here and there and leaving kudos/brief comments on fic and as a result didn't even know what self-shipping/'having a husbando' was until recently. As for my husbando, he is also very popular and is widely yoomed. Once I realised self-shipping was a thing I got the tiniest bit jealous seeing what other yumes had created for him, insecure that I wasn't as dedicated as them. Luckily I adopted a mindset like yours and reminded myself that we're not sharing the same person - he exists in millions of different forms in millions of people's heads. There are plenty versions of him to go around and thus since we all have our own version we're not competing for his love and affections. Their version of him was so different to mine too so how could their creations even apply to my husbando? I thought to myself that what they were creating was cute but they don't have what I have with him, nor could they ever have what I have. I don't think it's self-centred to believe no one is on your level either, I feel the same way too about my husbando. What we have is perfect because I crafted it to be that way, how could anyone elses idea of him compare?
No. 431082
>>431063I'm very much like you, reserved, and spent most of my life not knowing that being a yume was a thing. I instinctively did it but hid it because I thought it was super cringe and shameful behavior. So my devotion was very much a secret, and still is. I only use this thread to talk about it. I'm trying to find another outlet, I feel my posts stick out and get too personal even for this thread standards. I can't lie, I would love to find some yume friends to talk. I thought nobody else would understand, but reading all other nonnas posts made me believe there's someone out there thar could relate and instead of judge me, I love reading all your posts.
I agree with your mindset about other yumes. I'm repeating myself, but I truly believe your husbando is perfect for you and nobody else, we shouldn't compare ourselves or our versions of him to others. I'm sure you love him very deeply and in your own special way, don't compare your dedication to others, just do what feels right to you. I find it endearing seeing other yumes, even for my husbandl. I got new ideas from others here, I'm so thankful for this space.
>>431066That's such a lovely way of seeing it, even if I sound sort of schizo and funny when you think about it kek, but you described it in a much more romantic and beautiful way. Thank you.
No. 431876
Considering buying a print of my husbando from an artist I like and then getting a nice quality frame for it. I can visualise how it'll look on my wall in my mind's eye already and it makes me smile.
>>424295I have some really nice (but impractical for every day) underwear I bought with the intention of wearing for some moid but now they're just stuffed away in a drawer. I kind of want to get them out and wear them for my husbando now kek at least he's deserving
>>431717I'd like to know this too.
No. 432118
>>432035>wrapI looked that up before, but from the time those tutorials were made to now it became some big industry standard software that no way I'll buy, but also I'm not really in the mood to figure out how to safely pirate that kind of niche stuff now.
At least I got a decent GMod rigged model to mess around with, and maybe I'll figure out how to edit DAZ stuff.
No. 432241
>>429279Late but yeah anon, that's literally what self-inserting is. You don't need to make an OC, but I see where the confusion comes from since people will call this OC "a self insert". Some might choose to make a character that's different from themselves as a sort of "vessel", or even different self-insert OCs to explore different possibilities, but not all self-inserters/yumejoshi do it, and some imagine themselves directly interacting with their husbandos instead.
I'm just like you, I use my own name, personality and appearance when I daydream, but since I insert myself into his universe, I have to come up with some explanation as to how I ended up there. Sometimes it's isekai, other times I adapt my own life so it fits into that universe (i.e. my birth place and backstory change) but in essence it's still me.
For me it's also fun to come up with different ways our relationship evolved, but I think I'm starting to see one of those possibilities as the definitive "timeline", and the rest as either AUs or fantasies within my husbando fantasies.
I even imagine myself telling my husbando about them and him wanting to act them out with me hahahah>>428760>before it was closedWhat?? Noooo what happened? It was the best place to talk about husbandos I've ever been in, when I was in that server it was pretty good and chill and they had lots of group activities. It's a real shame they closed it, I'll miss it.
All my closest yume friends have also been people from imageboards.
No. 432244
>>429704I have come to accept that there are other girls out there who like him (especially these days, he seems to have become popular with a particular breed of gendie zoomers lately because of his appearance in a recent spin-off). It used to make me depressed but now I just accept it and move on. There's no point in exposing myself to his other yumes (if they exist; I've seen other possible husbandofags but not self-shippers) and getting bitter, so I simply try to isolate myself from his other fans as well as his source material's fandom, but even if I saw another shipping herself with him in passing, I don't think it'd bother me that much, since I'll continue loving him and he cannot cheat on me as he's fictional (she also can't stop me from having him in my own imagination so there lol). They will exist regardless of whether I'm aware of them or not.
And also I'm pretty sure there's no one in the world who has had this kind of relationship with him and for this long. Plus, I feel honored to be known somewhere as [husbando name]fag for reasons. That was unexpected, but it makes me feel more legit kekActually, what I'm finding harder to deal with now are his fujoshippers who make entire shrines dedicated to them. I just don't like how they're fully convinced that he's totally gay for the other guy for real. But aside from that, it's only natural he'd be shipped with someone just like any other character out there. It's nothing to be taken personally.
Plus, it shows that they don't get him and ignore certain things about him that don't fit their ship's narrative. No. 432261
>>430813This is how I felt about one of my husbandos too. His source is decades old and it's a pretty serious story, so I felt insecure about self-shipping with him as I was afraid of going against his canon personality and "defiling canon" by doing that. Also, when you start to husbando a character from a source that old, you sort of understand beforehand that you're not gonna be the first. In this husbando's case, I learned that he became extremely popular with the female audience, so of course I'm not gonna be his first or most dedicated yume.
I think I'm more bothered by the way others treat my husbando than by them liking him, tbh. What really makes me upset is the way they treat my husbandos as a joke, flanderize them for the sake of fandom memes, forcing them into "trope" boxes with total disregard for their actual personalities (I want to sperg about a Reddit comment where someone did this to the aforementioned character), or just say or draw something about him that I don't approve of, since I try to stick to canon as much as possible, like many others here. I once saw fanart someone commissioned of herself with this husbando and although I felt a little bit jumpscared/upset for a second, there's nothing wrong with the way he was depicted, I even thought that's totally how he would act around me too.
>>430870>my own universe with it’s own yume loreI love how you phrased this. This should be the term for it, "yume lore". Anyway, I totally agree with you (NTA).
No. 432351
I have a dream of creating a inner yume circle that I can do art trades and talk about husbandofagging. When I see nonnas complaining their husbandos are too niche and don't have fanart it makes me sad. I would draw them for free if I could.
>>432118I just used their free trial kek, I looked up pirated version of it but haven't installed it yet, but I'll say the free trial lasts enough time for you to take a shot. I don't know why Gmod is so hard for me, maybe I'm too fucking dumb. I'm redoing my husbando's rig by hand. His face has been giving me nightmares, but I want to believe I'll make it work. Hope you figure it out for your husbando and render cute photos/videos of him.
>>432250Popular husbandos suffer a lot from the shallow interest and mishcaracterization unfortunately. The shit I've seen of mine over the years makes me sick. I don't wish that on anyone's husbando.
>He's extremely special to me and nobody will ever take that from me.Absolutely, your story with him is unique and special to you. I think it's cute that you got into your husband after years of consuming his media, like a slow burn fic.
>>432261>I want to sperg about a Reddit comment where someone did this to the aforementioned characterWished you would sperg about it. I hate current fandom's obsession with tropes and boxes. My tinfoil is that it's somewhat related to current obsession with aesthetic cores, everything is now put into a limited category for easy consumption, but I'm digressing.
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You guys I have had this crush on this one character for a few years now. Today I met up with this one girl I get along with great in school. She knows I'm into cringey and weird stuff and we were discussing our favourite characters. I felt like it was okay to say that I like Lilia Vanrouge a whole lot. Then she said He looks as though he is 12 and that I'm the female equivalent of one of those weird ass redditors/ discord guys who Love child like characters. I feel so disgusted by myself. Am I a weirdo/ pedo? I really hate myself right now. Sorry for the vent I'm new and usually just lurk around. I'm afraid I am a huge creep. I'll try to Put Up a picture so you can See who I mean.I really Hope I saged correctly
No. 432523
>>432351Spent all afternoon figuring out how to fix the major things. But now I have to figure out how the Daz materials work, or just transfer poses into blender I guess.
But man I hate how Daz deals with clothing, I'm actually gonna have to learn how to sculpt. And I actually have to finish building his apartment scene.
The stuff I do for husbandos.
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How do I cope with the fact that I’ll never be able to produce good yume art/fanfic? He’s very popular and has professional artists/writers (some even work on his source material) who are yumes of him ffs.
No. 432642
>>432241Yeah that's exactly where my confusion came from. I'd always thought self-inserts were exclusively OCs who often happened to resemble the person that made them, or was an 'upgraded' version of themselves - more attractive or successful or whatever. I try and change as little as I can about myself in my self-insert. I like to keep my flaws (he's flawed too so it's only fair) then perhaps if my husbando can accept and love me with them then I can do the same.
>but since I insert myself into his universe, I have to come up with some explanation as to how I ended up thereThis is interesting! I always just imagine I was born there in his world but imagining somehow being transported there and how he'd react to me is kinda fun. I'm completely the same when it comes to my various timelines, I also have one definitive timeline (it happens to be the most romantic and sweet. it's my happy place kek) and everything else is more 'what ifs'. I use those timelines/AUs to explore themes that are more angsty or gritty as well as his 'darker side' kek. I write about all of my timelines in a note-taking app and it's a nightmare keeping it organised when there are multiple divergences per timeline. Sometimes when inspiration hits I'll just write in a note I use for 'brain dumping' and hope to fit it in to some timeline somewhere. I'm now imagining telling my husbando about my AUs.. I wonder if it'd put him off me kek
No. 432731
>>432523I prefer transferring to blender for rendering materials. I hate how Daz's clothing bugs with some poses in their simulation. kek I can't complain, learning 3d because of my husbando has been a fun journey. Are you making up an apartment for him or recreating it from the source material?
>>432563Art skills improve the more you work on them, other artists will never have your unique feelings and ideas for him, so don't let those die. You can always improve your skills and revisit your old drawings. Don't post it if it makes you second-guess yourself.
No. 432782
>>432731Recreating it from in game. Thankfully most of the architecture is lined up, but I still have to get the windows/roof/furniture arranged. And figure out which textures go on what and at what scale. And then lighting.
Though I want to build an apartment from scratch for some characters from another game sometime.
No. 432865
>>432563It literally doesn't matter if you're not the best writer or artist. I planned a comic for one of my husbandos and ended up "using" just the shitty notes I took, describing each panel to the best of my ability. That was more than enough for me. Still haven't drawn that comic to this day, but I loved what I did express in writing. What matters is that it pleases you, not others. Will you stop loving him if you're not the best artist in the world?
But your husbando can be a huge motivator for improving artistically, so please don't be discouraged from learning art, if that's what you want.
No. 433019
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I can't help it, I'm so jealous when it comes to him. I was so lazy and so afraid to draw him for so long that I haven't made enough merch or designed that one thing I wanted to make and someone ended up manufacturing one before I did. I follow an artist who draws him everyday and has made so much art and models of him and all I can think about is how much I wish I had that amount of creative output. On top of that, that artist is friends with a girl who selfships with him and part of me wants to be friends with both of them, they've even retreated my artwork before, but I just can't do it. I'm so retarded for pining for friendship but also feeling jealous over my husbando at the same time. That should be me!! I need to be better for him! My contributions aren't enough! At least everyone in my personal life knows how much I love him… But I'm still shy when it comes to showing off on social media online, I've even been putting off making his shrine on my personal site. Thanks in advance if anyone reads my retarded ramble, I need to go calm down.
No. 433052
>>433037I understand I had to mute and block a few accounts that gave me the same feelings. I found a few accounts that align with me and stick with them now. If it makes you feel any better, the worst I've felt was when I found content of my husbando made by a moid. Visually it was almost impeccable, but my husbando looked soulless and dirty, the content was obviously pornographic. After being disgusted and jealous for a few weeks, I decided to learn and make my own version. Initially, I feared I'd never reach that moid's skill, I spiraled and almost gave up, but now that I'm getting into it, I'm actually enjoying the process a lot. It may not look nearly as good, and maybe it never will, but it's been an oddly endearing and fun creation process. I've come to terms with my own limits, I might not convince anyone but me to see any value in my own lame attempt, but I'm happy with it and that's all that matters. Don't get discouraged
nonnie, believe in yourself.
No. 433258
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Is there anyone else who can’t relate with other yumejos/fans of your husbando? Not necessarily out of jealousy, but you can’t stand how they completely mischaracterize him? Ironically, the only people who don’t make my husbando OOC are his haters…
No. 434127
I'm getting crazier with my husbando merch collection. I pre-ordered an official plush, but I'm considering getting 2 or 3 extra ones. I tell myself it's just in case the first one gets dirty from being taken outside the house with me, but I would never even let something like that happen to him. I think I just like the idea of being surrounded by his merch. Even if it's the same product multiple times. I feel insane and financially irresponsible.
>>433834My husbando is also suspected to be homosexual and he is part of one of the most popular yaoi ships in existence. I run into yaoi art of him everywhere I look which is unfortunate as a self-shipper who is completely not into that kind of stuff. I cope by solely appreciating how beautiful my husbando looks in pretty yaoi art while ignoring the rest. I tell myself that fujoshi just think it's hot to see him that way and that's it.
My self-ship stories with my husbando are special and I like to think he simply cannot resist me. He's not confirmed to be gay, so it's all fine. I support the idea that our husbandos always choose us.
No. 434304
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I recently bought a rather expensive figure of my husbando and it's been an experience. Some cute stuff includes me bringing him with me to my setup and watching movies together, imagining his reactions to different scenes and such. I will leave him on my nightstand to "watch over me" when I sleep and it genuinely makes me feel way safer and I feel like I've had more dreams of him after I started doing this. However… I can't stop thinking about things like "What if this figure is a way for my husbando to see into the real world and he is actually observing me through it?" It's embarrassing and I know he's not real, but I can't stop having this idea of my husbandos soul being trapped in the fucking figure.
No. 434776
>>434314I have multiple characters I consider my true husbandos (about 3-5), and several others that are just minor crushes, or characters I find very attractive, but aren't on my chart or taken seriously. The ones I actually call my husbandos are characters I've seriously been in love with, for years or even decades. I used to be very strict about having only one at a time, like real relationships, but a couple of years ago, I started to freely enjoy them whenever I feel like it.
A self-inserter having shipped herself with 60+ characters doesn't sound that implausible, to be honest. Being a yumejoshi just means self-inserting/daydreaming about interacting with fictional characters, not being a hardcore waifuist who only has one husbando her whole life. But she does sound like a trend hopper, and trying to gatekeep your husbando even though she doesn't talk about him is ridiculous. She might keep that list as a record of which characters she's self-shipped with in the past but doesn't want to let others self-ship with characters she's not even interested in anymore.
>>434304My husbandos' presence fills my room and is in my notebook drawings of them and my computer screens. I don't even believe in spirits or supernatural stuff, this is so retarded but I can't help feeling watched by them. Hanging posters of them would actually be my ultimate nightmare.
No. 434790
>>434320I had this too, I understand how painful it is I’m sorry you’re going through it rn
Personally, realized that my husbando falls in love for women’s kindness the most in his show (He falls in love but never end up with any of them, it hurts to see it but it’s a blessing to know what he cares about)
He is a very kind man who always helps people and makes the world a better place, so he always values things like kindness and justice more than anything
I also thought he might feel offended that I think of him as a shallow guy who can’t care about something deeper and more important than looks
So believe that your husbando would appreciate your deep love and happiness with him than looks, he would see your love being too valuable to be be abandoned because you can give him so much happiness
I’m sure that if your husbando had consciousness he would rather be together with you having fun dates and having good times than to miss out on these possible realities
I hope I helped
No. 434919
>>434314I have two husbandos, however I definitely have a favorite lol I don't really get how you could dedicate yourself to more than like 5. My main husbando is extremely popular and loved very superficially, so I'm used to annoying people "claiming" him. I no longer partake in my other husbandos fandom, so I luckily haven't seen anything like that about him yet.
>>434884Definitely seconding Tomodachi Life. I've had a blast recently making me and my husbando. We just had a baby.
No. 434933
>>434790Thank you for your reply, it makes me feel a bit better. I dont know what his type of women would be since he gets no love interest so at least it remains open. As for me it's not a look issue, I don't think I'm bad looking but I see the kind of men I attract irl and my husbando is their polar opposite, I also don't get noticed and get asked out like once every two years, which just fuels my "there's no reason he'd be into me" thoughts.
At the end of the day it's nothing to worry about and it'll go away eventually.
No. 435001
I don’t usually get jealous of other people who share my husbando. My husbando has a few yumes and I don’t mind it since I like their art and they seem to keep to themselves. It feels like a small community, and I like it when people make art of him, no matter their skill level. One of them however, is especially annoying. She’s a zoomer and she’s the progressive gendie type too. Cares about fandom discourse, DNI proship, calls herself husbando’s number one fan, things like that. It’s like she’s never off twitter. It’s her account so she has the right to do whatever she wants, that doesn’t bother me. What bothers me is that she headcanons him as being some feminine lesbian in a polygamous relationship. My husbando may look feminine, but he’s still firmly an adult man. My husbando suffers from being treated as a gay femboy by porn addicted scrotes and being treated as uwu trans rep by zoomer gendies. Both sides feel shallow. I don’t mind it when people have their headcanons for their husbando since I have some for him too, but this person is the type to add so many headcanons that the character deviates from canon significantly. At that point, is it even the same character?
I’m sure she’s a nice person and I feel a bit mean for saying this, but every time I see her on my timeline (I don’t follow her, she’s nonsharing and I respect that) I can’t help but want to roll my eyes. It’s like looking at a bizzaro version of myself too, since she’s a bit younger than me, we seem to share music taste, we share the same husbando, same heritage, and we both draw too. It’s the strangest coincidence. She’ll pop up on my timeline every once in a while and that makes me want to get better at art to make me feel like I’m a better yume than her. Like my version and understanding of him is the “correct” one, even though it’s just my version of him and her version is her version. Again, I feel bad for saying that but it’s how I feel. I’m sure she’s a nice person and her shrine to him is cute. It just sucks to see that one of the most well-known yumes for him is so… annoying.
No. 435004
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Ngl looking at anne rice's deranged rants makes me want to become an off the rails oc husbandofag too
No. 435012
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I wish I was her, but with a giant plush of my own waifu. But plush making is hard and I broke my hand punching a sewing machine while trying to make my Bratz some dresses.
No. 435031
>>435012Who is your waifu
nonnie?
No. 435041
>>435004somehow I never knew that Anne Rice was literally in love with her vampire OC husbando. Good for her tbh
>>435012holy based, kek. Allan is my favorite on that show
No. 435043
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>>435012Husbandofags are proof female autism is superior.
No. 435104
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Feeling woefully inadequate after seeing what JP yumes are posting for my husbando's birthday. Like I know it's not a competition or anything but my little cake slice and merch collection have got nothing on these kinds of set ups KEK. They really take being a husbandofag to a whole other level, I feel like I need to step up my game considering this'll be the 3rd birthday of his I'm celebrating now.
No. 435122
>>435061He would love you anon, he would adore you. I've had similar feelings before since my husbando gets married in his series, and his wife is hot but they don't have very good chemistry together. Don't compare yourself to his love interest, that has nothing to do with how he would love you. If it helps, you can also make an AU where he never met her or even one where you take her place, I do that with mine.
>>435121It's been a few years since I read the manga/watched the anime but didn't it have a happy ending with the two of them together? I think there was some weird ritual involving reincarnation though.
No. 435187
>>432465a bit late but i am an enstarsfag and i get the same type of comments despite only having a year on my husbando and he is a legal adult. stupid fans infantilize him because of his looks and don't see that he is mentally mature, probably the most out of his classmates. also isn't lilia thousands of years old? just ignore them and keep loving him nona, i see you and stand with you. also, there's no need to sage on off-topic boards
>>435104i felt the same and i would be upset and go offline on my husbando's birthday, but i got over it by really thinking about how my husbando would react to seeing these types of birthday celebrations. i don't think mine would like it. my husbando is the type to comfort others so he would probably tell me not to spend this much on him and get upset. all that money could be spent on a vacation which i think he would appreciate more. i think the majority of people would feel the same if they were celebrated like this kek
No. 435243
>>435104Eh, the behind-the-scenes of this level of shrinery is often a woman making below average pay while funneling all of what she does earn into merchandise/renting out a room and decorations to set all of this up for the photos/etc because she's mentally unwell and this is her lifeline.
I think that if someone is at the end of their rope, it's always the better choice to do what will make you happy instead of killing yourself, but at the same time these aren't people you should feel competetive with because you'd be competing to be more mentally ill.
Not discounting husbandofagging itself because I'm in this thread and a husbandofag myself kek. Just some perspective.
No. 435401
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>>430020i am the op-nona of this post, I just found out that there is a shitty ONE AND ONLY R34 drawn by a retarded scrote from 2010 of my husbando and his best friend blood brother (they became brothers by a pact) i thought there were no NSFW of the comic but found out bc the orthograph of his name in the tags were badly written. I'm devastated, some ugly moid drew him jerking off his blood brother. Oh well, at least he is still kinda cute on the pic kek (not kek at all, kill this guy!!)
No. 435444
>>435104These pics are nice to look at but I never took them as a sincere proof of their love, honestly. It feels more like a competition to see who can spend more on a popular character they all like, so I don't take them too seriously. Who knows what they really think.
I rarely engage with my husbando's fandom, but one day I saw a fujo on Twitter that had a shrine dedicated to my husbando's most popular ship. I admit it initially made me jealous, I wondered where the hell she got all that nice-looking merch because I'm pretty sure it wasn't official, so she probably made it herself. Then I realized she probably doesn't "get" my husbando in the way I do (even if she were a yume). It's better if you don't think a lot about it, neither your life or your love for him depend on your ability to build a big shrine and make a lot of custom merch. Doing what you can for him is fulfilling enough.
>>435243This. Some husbandofags might not like to be told this, but dedicating your entire life to a fictional character, to the point that it negatively affects your real life (you don't want to talk to your loved ones anymore, you splurge on husbando merch even though you're earning minimum wage, and so on), isn't healthy and it's nothing to be proud of. You don't need to make your husbando the sole focus of your life and you don't need to compete with people that do.
You will keep loving him, even if you can't afford or aren't willing to spend money on a $500 figurine.
>>434884Thirding Tomodachi Life, and I'd also recommend Miitopia on the Switch, since you can build relationships between your characters and those with high level relationships get adorable bonus interactions. Also, the Switch version has a very complex customization system where you can practically redraw your Miis' faces as you like, people online have shared impressive Miitopia Miis that look exactly like the characters they're based on. I've been playing it, but I'm still too embarrassed to add my husbando's Mii to the game, kek.
No. 435464
>>432351>Wished you would sperg about it. I was going to write huge rant about it, but since it's been several days, I'll just say that I accidentally found someone who keeps calling my husbando a "greasy asshole", even though there's nothing "greasy" about him. Do some girls use that word to describe a particular kind of personality, or is there something else I'm missing here? Why would he ever be greasy? What are they even trying to say? If you know him well, you just know that he doesn't give the impression of being unwashed or pathetic. Maybe she thought some of his personality traits make him similar to other characters she happens to like (tumblr sexymen? Idk). I hate it when people, even other fans, stereotype or meme-ify my husbandos like that. He's not even that much of an asshole, I think if that's your main takeaway from the story, then you didn't get his character at all.
>>432642One thing that helps me come up with new timelines and AUs is that I just put myself in the place of the player character in his game, and from there, it's easy to think of different ways the events of the game could've played out. But in my main timeline, we start out as enemies, and then he starts to see me as a rival (almost the same as in canon), and eventually we fall in love, which kind of fits the way I fell in love with him IRL, as well. This is also the most "normal" timeline, but there are other timelines that vary in tone.
>I'm now imagining telling my husbando about my AUs.. I wonder if it'd put him off me kekOMG that's what I've imagined too. It's a particularly horny alternate scenario and it doesn't make a lot of sense, so he's like "you know that would've led to our deaths, right?".
But then he proposes that we go back to that place and act out my fantasy.>>432377Oh, fuck. She was so nice and the person who told me about the server in the first place. She even drew my husbando for Secret Santa. I hope she's doing relatively well now. If the server does come back, I hope I won't be too busy with work to participate.
No. 435477
>>434884I can recommend Miitopia as well! Like
>>435444 said, the switch customization is really good! I was able to find surprisingly accurate codes online for my non-human husbandos and it’s a really fun silly game.
No. 435589
>>435568NTA but I think she meant the friend finder thread.
>>435542I need at least two hours of husbando time a day to keep myself sane.
No. 435647
>>435542Usually save it for a random day in the week so I can engage in yume activites for the entire day
>I'm a little envious of the yumes who make fully rendered stuffSame, shit takes forever. Especially if you want it to look perfect compared to your usual art
No. 436312
The more I think about my own struggles and feelings, the more I realize how my husbando is literally me and that's probably why I'm so into him. It's like my subconscious saw this and made me latch onto him without me ever realizing, and everyday I understand myself further by understanding him or vice versa. He means so much to me because of this. He'd understand me and we'd fit together so perfectly. Can't elaborate on the details because I'm a bit uncomfortable with talking about it, but one of these details is how I feel abnormal and how I could never fit into normal society at all sometimes, and then I think I should just make up with this fact and live my life my own way even if I'm abnormal, there's nothing I can do about it. And this reminded me of him and his story, since he technically started to live outside of society's boundaries and stopped being normal eventually, and it's by choice, he never showed any signs of wanting to go back, je just accepted himself that way and lived with it. I always find myself attracted to characters like that, and it makes sense I got attracted to him very much because of this without even knowing I did so.
No. 436424
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>>436404That's such a cute Idea! I have been contemplating something similar. My husbando has official ring merch and there is that one ring that I think looks good enough to be a marriage ring. It's pricey and it's I have No experience with the web site but I'm saving towards it. Maybe your husbando has some ring merch too? Good luck nona!
No. 437089
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after constantly reading, drawing, and imagining romantic scenarios with my husbando…it is starting to make me wish for a relationship irl. but no man can ever live up to the standard of my husbando, looks wise and personality. it even more painful because my friends are all in relationships and i am the only one single, i feel lonely because i can't even tell them why i am single in the first place. the truth is, i really want to be in love with someone and start a family etc, but i want to do it with my husbando not anyone else. its feels isolating.
sad hours.
No. 437324
>>437089It is pretty solitary and I understand your sadness. I feel the same, but sometimes I see my friends who daydream about real men and they also know it will never be as they dream it would be, then I feel less alone in my desires, even if mine are even more impossible. Maybe the fact your friends are all in relationships
triggers that feeling in you, sometimes you need to meet other single friends. Maybe with some luck, you could make some other yume friends.
No. 437446
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>>437441This happens so often, especially in western cartoons. Not to be weird but I think teenage steven universe is cute, for example, and his older version is apparently just as gross as his dad. Finn from adventure time also has a shit adult design, what happened to my swedish blonde twink. This is what happens when you let moids and stupid women create cartoons
No. 437456
>>437441Kinda understandable, because the art work is technically canon. My current husbando was my childhood husbando, and there was a scene between him an a woman that got censored, so for the longest time, I thought he was interested in her, so I got so jealous I stopped husbandoing him and trying to find a new one, it was like experiencing heartbreak or something. Flash forward years later, and I rewatch his show and see this scene without censorship, and it turned out he punched this woman because she was law enforcement trying to stop him, after he punched her male work partner, so it wasn't a romantic thing neither was it because she was a woman, just that she was in his way. And I know this sounds pathetic, but it was a huge relief to me that he didn't have a canon love interest, so I can have him all for myself.
There's nothing I can suggest to soothe your pain, you'll either have to accept the design and force yourself to like it, or ignore it and act like it never existed and continue loving the young version of your husbando. Either that or move on to a new one, unfortunately. I don't know if this would help, but usually, I find myself nitpicking lots of things about people's appearances, especially males, whether 2D or 3D, and I know what I dislike, but when something I dislike is on him, I sort of don't care and find it good on him, because it's him and he's perfect to me nothing about him could ever make me dislike him. Maybe try thinking about him that way? You can also adjust the design inside your head and come up with your own art style for him, that's what I do with mine.
No. 437463
>>437458As you should, it's very embarrassing and pathetic kek. I am mentally unstable and need him like an addict needs coke, but my brain had to be too logical and serious about this and only want him if he's emotionally available. Mental illness.
>>437461I'm glad I was able to help! Hope you're feeling better.
No. 437578
>>437089Same. Every friend I have is in some type of long term relationship. I'm not jelaous of the moid
ugly but the relationship.
No. 437736
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A question to nonnas with dakis. Do you sleep with your daki while you're on your period? I would like to sleep with it but I'm afraid of staining the cover with blood, should I just not take the risk?
No. 437761
>>437089I could never go after guys irl who are like my husbando. I'd end up in some nerd's basement eating slop for the rest of my life. Nope, I'm perfectly fine rping with a bot with demented fetishes.
>>437736I kinda wrap a blanket around it where it meets me crotch, but I haven't had any spills yet luckily. Remember to regularly give your daki a gentle soak and wash, You'd be surprised how much gunk they can collect.
No. 438924
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>>437356I'm not sure I'll ever get that far, but LADS really inspired me to want POV stuff with my real husbandos.
Pretty into DAZ lately.
Got so into editing 4 different hairstyles together to make his silly anime mullet that I fucked up my sleep schedule again and forgot to do my dailies lol.
But it's worth it, it's always nice to get such a good feeling just from looking at a picture.
No. 439026
>>438837This year I found some TIFs that (predictably) like the boys in my husbando's series, and sure enough, some of them liked him and drew horribly OOC fanart of him. It surprised me a little, because he's from a decade-old game and these girls seemed too young to have played it back then. He has a Tumblr sexyman wiki article, which proves that he's somewhat popular with a certain kind of TIF.
I once met a kinnie of my husbando on Tumblr, but I don't know if she also identified as trans.
Luckily, I don't interact with the fandom much, and I don't search for fanart or fanfiction of him at all. I guess I've been accidentally dodging that bullet all this time.
But I have another husbando who has also experienced a new surge in popularity, and sadly, I have seen cuntboy porn of him.
And genderbent pregnant fetish porn by the same artist, who, unfortunately, is definitely female.>>438924>Got so into editing 4 different hairstyles together to make his silly anime mullet that I fucked up my sleep schedule again and forgot to do my dailies lol.Kek, I get it. This whole week, I've also been staying up late because of my husbando. And now that his game's source code has been leaked, it'll be easier to make the self-ship ROMhack of my dreams.
>But it's worth it, it's always nice to get such a good feeling just from looking at a picture.True, this week was also the first time I've drawn him/us in months. It felt cathartic and I fall in love again every time I look at it.
No. 439193
>>439185I always used to tell my mom about my husbandos if the husbando in question was very important to me. She teased me a bit about it, but not in a mean-spirited way.
I've told her I'm done with real relationships, that I don't want to get married or kids, and that I want to enjoy imaginary relationships with my husbandos instead. She seems to accept this.
All my friends and family know about my husbando. The only ones I'm ashamed to show are my bosses and coworkers (the ones who aren't my friends).
No. 439195
>>439185Mine don't care because they just think I'm super into 'the character' but nothing beyond that. I don't want them to know and I would never sit them down and explain husbandoism or self shipping to them. I don't think they would ever be able to understand that I honestly have feelings for him and besides, they don't need to know. It takes nothing away from how I feel, nor would it add anything if I told them. I want to soon build a little area in my bedroom for him with some art of him and a few trinkets that remind me of him and his source material as well as items I think he'd own but I'm nervous to do it in case they react weirdly. But then again, I've done far weirder things throughout my life and ultimately I don't think they'll think too much into it. It wouldn't be hurting anyone and they have bigger thing to worry about lol.
Do you think she might ask you about it once the shrine grows?
No. 439198
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Sage for retarded blogpost but I wanted to know if other nonas have every experienced anything similar. I've had an interesting experience involving my husbando happen, well interesting to me kek. Basically last month I regressed into bad habits and began eating a lot of junk food. I've had a kind of binge eating disorder for a long, long time (which I use as a way to 'deal' with my feelings, by eating lots of sugary foods) but earlier in the year went through a spell of about four months where I didn't binge. I was eating healthier foods and looked and felt a lot better, I also got into my husbando in a big way around this time. Then after a stumble I binged one day and everything came crumbling down. The binging behaviour came back and I've binged a bunch of times and been snacking on shit food most days for about a month. I feel disappointed in myself and I look and feel pretty dreadful as I'm not eating well. I'll cut to the chase: what's weird is that my husbando has disappeared! What I mean by that is he doesn't enter my thoughts as much and when he does I disengage or push it away, like I'm ashamed. It's so weird. Like when I was engaging in healthy habits he was there on my mind and now I'm eating shit and binging and feeling gross in my body and mind, he's less in my thoughts. I guess I don't feel worthy of him at the minute. It's as though I feel he would be unattracted to these behaviours, like even to look at art of him, I feel unworthy and that if he could see me he would be disappointed in me. He would find my gluttonous, lazy behaviours quite sad and contemptable. I know it. It's like I can't face him! What's weirder is I've found myself gravitating back to an old husbando who I know would tolerate me in this state. I want to pull myself out of this hole. Perhaps then I can embrace my husbando fully again.
No. 439273
>>439198Did you really enjoy thinking about your husbando back then? Maybe your mind is punishing you by not allowing you to have this reprieve because of your lifestyle change. I understand it's normal to punish ourselves for our mistakes but I think you're being to strict. Maybe it would help if you thought your husbando loved you in many ways. There's adoration, of course, but there's empahty, understanding and companionship. He would be there for you in every way, he loves you for you and these bad moments are still part of your story and make you who you are.
Ime my husbando helped me in my high and lows. Thinking of a way he could love you and show empahty through this could be a great exercise for your own mental health too. Not diminishing how hard it can be, but it's easier if your starting point is that your husbando truly loves you. I'm telling you that so it helps you start it.
No. 439333
>>439198I guess something similar also happened to me a few years ago. I do think theres a psychological reason for this. In short thinking about your husbando gives you dopamine hits: he's the object of your affection and desire and obviosly it makes you happy to think about him. Binge eating also gives your brain dopamine hits. Obviously you feel like shit after but binge eating often happens in the first case because your brain is lacking dopamine/ your lacking stuff that naturally makes your brain happy enough to funktion. It makes sense that you're brain made your husbando dissapear from your thoughts because you don't need to think about him anymore to make you happy since you've replaced him with food. But your sense of shame is also probably a reason why you don't think about him anymore. A lot of binge eaters experience shame and don't want to face friends/ family anymore for the same reasons you don't want to face your husbando.
So you kind of psychologically/ biologically switched what gives you dopamine hits.
No. 439377
>>439362Might wanna check out creator/author interviews and q&as, they usually at the least have fun trivia about the character.
Also save any interesting scenes and quotes of him, might be easier to get a better picture when you see everything together like that.