/g/ - girl talk

>>390165
i wish it was bait. its completely ridiculous

>>390170
How did you unironically think that a twink was a girl? They have different voices, different bodies, etc. you're such a liar. Probably a troon.

>>390169
NTA but every story I've heard about people "turning" straight irl were obvious closet cases in denial who thought jesus cured them lol.

>>390173
I saw him for a few weeks in my class and he was 5'1" he wore makeup and feminine clothes like long skirts or baggy dresses and coats that covered his body. i never heard him talk until i asked him out. Then i noticed the voice and realized he was male. He wasn't trans, just a crossdresser. I had recently gotten cheated on by a bi girl so i was having a bit of a "ill date a male and show them all" moment.

genunely considering becoming an ex-lesbain due to my semi-traditional homophobic muslim family and not by my own want. Thinking about a future with a girl feels so fufilling, but my family will never understand that. They view homosexuality as nothing more than a dirty sin or political propaganda that is corrupting young people. I feel super upset to my stomach when they bash us. What if I gave up and became a celibate. There's still time to "be saved" I guess (I never came out). Maybe being single is better than being disowned by a family who loves me or wondering if I'll burn in hell for being happy. Why is something so normal viewed as so shameful?

I don't even know where this idea of homosexuality being a sin came from in middle-eastern culture. population control maybe? the only reasoning i can think of is moids wanting women to be birthing machines.

>>398528
I really should have..
He did say thank you and that it was nice how we could hang out and do different things
Yuck

>>398531
>He did say thank you and that it was nice how we could hang out and do different things
Typical moid behaviour, he takes advantage of your kindness then sits on his ass playing video games the entire time and ignores you. What a dick, sorry nona

>>398537
Thank you
Hopefully I’ll grow a spine and find better friends soon

>>398527
>I have a chef over for dinner
Wow he implied you were hired help, that is very rude. I would have snuck out.

>>398517
Lol why are you so pathetic? grow a spine

>>159724
who is this?

New thread >>>/g/397215

>>397211
Kiki Reed

>>397182
I don’t actually care about her politics or personality at all but she is ugly. She’s considered attractive in America because everyone there weighs 400lbs.

My cutie patootie based feminzai GF. I wish unhinged women were more common in this world.

>>404486
same, nona

Some questions for nonnas to answer for fun
>Do you want to lose weight? Have you lost weight already?
>What's your fashion style like?
>Where do you buy clothes?
>Do you struggle with self image?
>What are your "problem areas" and how do you dress them?

>>396625
I have gotten labiaplasty (on one side) like 7 years ago and it was one of the best decisions i made. In my case they were very asymmetrical and it could get uncomfortable when i was wearing tights. i remember i had to fix „it“ often when i was on a walk. during sex one side sort of swallowed the other and it could get painful if i didn‘t „fix it“. of course i also didn‘t like what it looked like. now they still stick out but i just notice how much when i shave my pubes. it doesn‘t look super pretty but at least somewhat symmetrical (the doctor said 100% wouldn‘t be possible but i didn‘t expect it anyways, some asymmetry is natural) and they never bother me or stick out when i‘m not spreading my vagina. i wish i would have done it sooner and spare me a lot of mental stress.

>>396741
penis enlargement is getting quite popular where i live, it‘s possible to pull it out 2-4cm and i assume that filler is also getting more popular. i don‘t mind them being under similar pressure like women, that‘s the only aspect about korean ps culture that i like. we should even encourage them more kek

>>396741
>women don’t bash each others labia
May I introduce you to the Shayna thread

>>396625
Okay so it’s officially been about a week.

Right after surgery, my friend drove me back to my apartment. The Demerol and pain meds wore off, and the pain was…very bad. I have a low pain tolerance so maybe I was being a baby about it, but I took some of the oxy given to me because the OTC stuff did fuck all.

Just fyi to people who are like me and have little to no experience with pain medication…you definitely feel it the day after. And quite possibly the day after that, too. I only took the pain meds the day of the surgery, but the effects were very similar to the meds given to me following my wisdom tooth removal a few years ago. Just super dizzy and nauseous.

Okay onto the week. Every day the swelling and discomfort has decreased. The stitches are dissolvable and a few have fallen off on their own, although most are still intact. I’ve felt the most discomfort while driving and sitting for long periods of time. I haven’t bled at all. I’ve also been using this postpartum numbing spray every other day to avoid the itching that is caused by everything healing. My doctor said to use the spray very sparingly though so I’ll quit using it soon. I had some bruising. I started taking little arnica tablets but idk if that’s had an effects. For soap, I use this antibacterial stuff that comes in a teal bottle and only wash the outside, not the mucosa.

I really like how it looks so far. I don’t regret it at all. I wish I’d just done it sooner. For the people that said I’m approaching this as a “lib fem” - lmfao. When did I ever say that I am immune to societal pressure? This is a plastic surgery thread. Like it or not, most people get things done due to external forces, and a lot of us aren’t in situations where we literally need to go under the knife because of a deformity or disfigurement or wtvr. I think like 99% of most elective procedures are due to caving to beauty standards rather than it ever being “for yourself”.

>>398402
It has officially been three weeks! The results look really good imo and almost all the swelling has resolved. My labia are very slightly numb. The dissolvable sutures are almost totally gone. I haven’t experienced a lot of itching. There’s some dryness but I think this is normal as the area heals. Overall I feel very satisfied with my choice, and if I could do anything differently, I wouldn’t have driven for long periods of time the way I did in the first two weeks.

What surgery can be done to fix a jaw shape like this? V line surgery? I used to think it was my nose that was masculine because it wasn’t a cute little ski sloped nose, but I realized that did actually my jaw.

>>375845
Dove makes a really nice hydrating cream wash, I like the coconut one but there’s lots of good scents that aren’t too overpowering. If you don’t already, try putting lotion on in the shower right after and without fully drying off. I’ve found it keeps my skin from drying in winter better. Olay and Dove like the other nonnas said are also good options, with a wide range to choose from of products and scents.

I'm pissed because I switched to natural deodorants and had great luck with Curie, which actually blocked my sweat and smelled great but wasnt super chemical-ly.
Then I got curious and tried Native which was a huge mistake. It made me stink a lot quicker than Curie. I noticed it had some kind of bacteria in it that I assume was meant to modify your pit flora?

Anyway I went back to Curie and now it's not working as well as it did before. I fucking reek. I feel like Native is what did it. Now I wanna try Lume but I hear it's made some people stink more, so I'm afraid that'll happen.
Has this happened to anyone else?

>>396104
How long did you use Native? Any diet changes? It may be a combination of a different diet, a chemical imbalance in your skin caused by that deodorant and minor hormonal changes. I haven't used the deodorant you mentioned but I used to buy a brand that had a very gentle line for sensitive skin and yet it made my armpits smell very strongly of sour lemons. It took me a while to get rid of that smell, even after switching to other brands, so I guess it destroyed my skin ph. It helped me a lot to eat less garlic as I used to and also not shaving my armpits anymore while always avoiding non-breathable fabrics.

>>396104
The natural deodorants are hit or miss. I never experienced what you describe but keep in mind we are entering summer. Unless you're south of the equator

I only had luck with roll-on crystal and wild

>>396281
Used Native for a few months. I just dealt with it and used the stick till I ran out, because I didn't want to let it go to waste and spend money on another stick of deo. No diet changes really.
Interesting that not shaving helped more than shaving. My pits get pretty hairy so I'm always worried about smelling bad but maybe I should go natural. Shaving messes up your ph?
>>396293
It's still pretty mild here honestly. I tried crystal in the past but made me really moist in the pits. I'll look into Wild if Curie doesn't cut it by the time I'm done with it, thanks!

>>393057
4C is not a myth. I have 4C and I want black people to stop fucking gaslighting 4c women that are hair isn’t in 5C/6C because it’s always just so fucking dry and kinky and coily. That’s the one thing I hate about being black and it makes me seethe seeing other black women with nice, softer pliable hair textures because it’s so fucking hard trying to style it, idc how much these natural hair enthusiasts try to convince us that it isn’t hard to upkeep and maintain with a modern western lifestyle. It pisses me off so fucking much, tired of 4A and 4Bs pretending their hair is 4C and shitting up the tags with their own hair that they damn well know isn’t the “bad” hair.

>>393068
I’m not convinced it only applies to certain ‘4c’ hair though, because in my experience (and in some anecdotes) my hair was completely indistinguishable from any other 4c. so what would be the distinction? if everything is the same i think it would be odd to assume they’re any different.

i have the time so i’ll spout my theory. i’ve put an autistic amount of effort and research into my hair because of how much trouble it was giving me and came to the following conclusions: 1, all moisturised and detangled hair, 4c or otherwise, naturally inclines to clumping waves/curls together; 2, the curlier the individual follicle the more moisture it needs to hold itself into clumps; and 3, curlier hair types are dryer because less hair clumps means less moisture retained.

basically what i found is that the more progress i made with my hair the more follicles bunched together and followed the same direction. it ended up progressing from typically 4c to reminiscent of 4a/4b to curl bunches the size associated with type 2/3 hair (but the curl shape looks different, more random meandering and coils upward at the tips, sort of water-like). picrel is not my photo but looks exactly the same as how my 4c hair looked when i first noticed the curls clumping after a veryyy long couple of hours trying to wash a hair mask out.

i’m simply convinced people are too busy putting money into wigs and extensions etc to experiment with research around our natural hair. current hair science is geared to caucasian hair types, from shampoos to conditioners - we don’t have the luxury of products scientists have literally researched to work for us, i would even argue this for ‘black hair products’ (like greases, they seal out moisture that just isn’t in the follicle). as a result all we have are anecdotes when there could be concrete science on this matter, especially since it seems so disputed.

saw the last reply so disclaimer - while i think locking moisture into hair is probably beneficial long term i don’t consider either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ hair. i dislike when people get trigger-happy over this topic regardless of what you say, and as i said i prefer ‘4c’ texture for certain styles. but this is my experience and, once i shared what i’ve done with my hair to friends and family who also have 4c hair, the Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>393077
What did you do to your hair anon?

I have super thick and dense, 4c (or maybe 4b. Or maybe a mix of both, idk) hair and it's always been super difficult for me to manage. Haircare has always been a confusing and mystifying topic for me. I've shaved it off multiple times out of frustration and insecurity from other other people judging my hair. The most recent being only a few months ago, so I'm currently in a phase of wearing lace wigs. Once my hair grows out a bit more though, I want to dedicate more time and effort into understanding my hair. Stuff like moisturizing, keeping it healthy, styling, retaining length etc…

The best resource on black hair in my opinion:
https://www.reddit.com/r/vindictanoir/comments/oid62r/everything_ive_learned_from_black_hair_care/?rdt=54536(this is an imageboard)

>>394293
do it if you want but do not do it because of pressure or fertility scares. There's nothing wrong with single parents if you socialize them correctly. My cousins baby was basically raised by our friend group and is an amazing kid

There’s an “enbie” mom in my daughter’s Girl Scout troop, and I’m tempted to pull her out, but all her friends are in this troop, so I don’t want to be the bad guy

>>394271
Thank you that makes me feel a little bit better. I’m sorry you had hyperemesis, I feel like I can’t really complain because it’s not that bad for me but man being pregnant is still annoying as hell!!

New thread >>394551

>>393414
>>393421
The weather there is terrible imo but I have a strong hatred towards heat and earthquakes so idk it depends on the person

>>393421

Kek yes I definitely want to pass through socal since its basically most of the famous parts of CA anyway so thank you. I think I can live with the fact that its car-centric because its also like that here in PA, so I guess nothing would change in that way.

>>393425

At this point, I think I'm done with the cold. If I ever do miss the cold, I can just vacation out to Oregon or a nearby northern state to chill out. You've ever had to live in a cold, damp place like the UK or Ireland? I have and it made me want to off myself.

I've been through earthquakes before so no biggie.

>>393426
If you are going from PA to the west coast be prepared for some work-culture shock. Maybe in California people are cool but I massively preferred the work culture in Pittsburgh to that of Oregon. It was like people do not understand the function of a union on the west coast, they have it completely confused with the job of management. I really disliked this aspect of living there.

>>393414
I was born and raised there, and just six months ago moved out to another state (had to move closer to my sister after she was widowed young) but I think about moving back every single day, I miss it so much. I’m biased because I was raised there but not even “cool” states like Colorado compare

I’ll be upfront with you though: cost of living is insane. I clear 80k a year and I still wouldn’t be able to afford a one bedroom apartment by myself, unless I want to live somewhere gross like the inland empire.
Buying a home in a beach accessible city is impossible unless you have a budget of $800,000 or more. In fact, if you don’t make at least 6 figures, you’re either going to have to live inland, have roommates indefinitely, or live in a really rundown, possibly dangerous area.