/g/ - girl talk

I had a really bad depressive episode where I literally couldn’t even muster up the energy to lift my hands above my head to turn on my light, it was really bad. I didn’t shower, I stunk, and I went so long without showering that I started to bleed from the scalp and my entire body itched.

I felt like a pathetic child, and I called my mom in tears and told her everything about how I was so depressed and stinky and uncomfortable and I couldn’t take care of myself at all. She asked if she could come over and I said yes. We talked a lot, I broke down and basically said “I wish I could just not have to wash my own hair cause it genuinely is so painful to even do that.” And my mom offered to help me shower.

To be clear, this wasn’t a creepy weird thing, I was so sad and depressed that I had a little stool and sat down on it, with my face away from my mom. She was fully clothed, we’re not a weird type of family. My hair is really thick, and she washed my hair. I honestly felt so relieved, I hadn’t been clean in so long and I could feel the yuckiness washing away. I told her I could wash my body, but she offered to help with my back because she thought I would have a hard time reaching it, since I couldn’t even hold my hands over my head to scrub my hair.

She brought a sugar scrub to help exfoliate and I felt so clean. I shed a lot of skin, I never really was able to see how filthy I was until then. Afterwards, she left and I scrubbed where I didn’t want my mom to see or touch, and when I got out, she put a treatment on my hair to help the curls. I cried from happiness. My mom and I had it rough when I was a teen, I felt like she was never there for me, and I wish I could tell that teenage me that my mom is there for her. I know it seems weird that I had to be washed like a kid or grandma, but my mom genuinely helped me at least feel less disgusting. Today, we’re gonna clean my apartment, and do laundry. I’m so glad to have a supportive mom

>>355053
This made me really emotional. I’m glad your mama was there for you, nonna. Being that depressed is so soul crushing, and it really does help in an almost indescribable way when someone can be selfless and help you like that. That’s what a good mama does, and I’m glad you got your hair clean ♥ wishing you better days

my mum is the biggest thing stopping me from killing myself i couldn't live without her and her without me, i could go on about how close we are but sometimes i think about how much pain my SHing caused and the thought of her losing me makes my throat feel tight idk why i am even writing this

My Mom got dealt shit cards with an arranged marriage with someone in the second grade family.
If she had successfully ran away from my grandfather, I wouldn't be here almost 33 years later with CPTSD from 24-25 years of a mental abusive and neglectful, if not self-absorbed father.
Sure I appreciate what she's done for me, even if she was emotionally unavailable most of my teenage years due to my father escalating to real DV onto her, and she almost fell into alcoholism and definitely fell into a form of anorexia shortly after.

She's tried to stay the reliable parent who pushed me to get myself a diploma after graduation to finally stop spinning into depression. She's the bread winner, the one who taught me to read before primary school, the pragmatic and super housewife/mom who spends hours cleaning and getting shit sorted and that cooks yummy food too.

But I wish there had been more love shown, because as much as I know she always will love her children even without saying it, it still emotionally stunted me (plus what my dad's behavior, and my sisters' behavior against me). And I don't ever want to have children because I don't want to inflict the same onto them.

>>285878
I could've written this. My mother is so lonely…

>>354392
Honestly I don’t want to be eating random steaks, are milkshakes ok? Like whole milk and peanut butter? And sport will help me with low appetite, right?

>>354382
>if you’re not disabled and you struggle with weight loss even though you have a healthy diet, then go to a doctor.
this is exactly my case and getting any prescription is a pain. I'm on insulin which does jack really, metformin doesn't help and I have to jump through hoops to get ozempic because thanks Hollywood

I'm not even a hamplanet, Just like 20-30 lbs and I'd be considered skinny

>>354505
Nta that’s hard to answer. Depends on a lot of things. I wouldn’t recommend milkshakes and peanut butter as your main sources of protein lol but it’s your life. You should research protein rich foods and google how much protein you should be eating per day on a weight-gain diet.

>>354505
Yeah, exercising will make you feel hungry, at first it particularly doesn’t give me an appetite, but after a while, like a few days or a week, I feel very hungry after working out. It’s because you will spend energy and your muscles will work.
Also, you don’t really need to eat only raw steaks or raw eggs, you can eat any food that has protein, sure, milkshakes with protein powder and peanut butter can be a good starting point, specially if you struggle with feeling any appetite, but at some point you will need to eat chicken, turkey, beans, fish, seafood, and the sorts in order to actually get some protein in your body, because while protein shakes /can/ be useful, they’re still just supplements, and you need to let your body get some protein from natural sources, either animal or plant based, in order to actually gain weight in a healthy way.

>>354629
Have you tried going to a proper nutritionist? Sure, ozempic helps a lot, but you will still need to follow a diet that will change over time depending on your reaction to the medicines you’re taking.
Because in the end, the ozempic helps a lot with keeping your stomach feeling like it’s full, it also does other hormonal stuff, so it can keep you feeling normal, not like you’re constantly thinking of food and the sorts.
Like, I started a diet with a nutritionist while taking ozempic because I also have hormonal issues, and not eating didn’t help me at all, even just reducing the portions didn’t work, because in the end you kind of have to understand how your body works, which is why not all exercises and diets work in the end, because everyone just has particular needs.
So like, maybe you just need to eat more vegetables, maybe you have to reduce the amount of carbs per meal throughout the day. I particularly was told to basically only eat fruits once a day IF I was hungry after breakfast, because fruits are actually quite a bad thing for our bodies when you have insulin issues.
You need to get some blood tests done and go to a nutritionist to help you out.

>>325075
I think she would be pretty if she had big eyes, the small squinty eyes are her only bad feature.

>>325075
>thinking taytay writes or sings her own songs
Lol

Eminems daughter. Every moid I know hypes her up constantly but I feel like it's more about the novelty of being with eminems daughter than her attractiveness because she looks like a basic southern karen.

>>355093
100% its more about her being who she is than it is about her looks

>>353796
KEK SAY SIKE

Is anyone gonna make a new one? I’ve never made a thread before but if I do it it’s gonna be JDM edition kekkkk

New thread >>>/g/353833

>>353798
He’s sexy in a bird way

>>353291
So? It’s quite useful, and a rather interesting read

>>353294
You should have just posted in the books thread. This isn't 4chan or cc

>>353291
Do nonnies have any suggestions for books of this sort written by women? And sure I should have posted it in books. But it’s a bit late for that now, isn’t it?

I love the concept of seducer archetypes, the historical examples, the types of “victims” that can be seduced, the anti-seducer qualities etc. (In general it’s a great basis on how not to act if you want to be viewed positively by anyone, really).

48 Laws of Power is a bit sociopathic, but I’ve implemented it into my daily life, particularly work, and it’s extremely potent

If anyone has any suggestions for books like this that aren’t written by men, drop em here

In general, I think this thread would be a great place to discuss seduction and seductress qualities in general.

>>353180
I hope we get the bad deviantart husbando art threadpic

>>351567
well no. i have no government training and he would have no idea what to do as a regular woman. first thing i would do as Leon is masturbate however.

tbh it's oddly comforting to imagine my husbando quietly moaning into my ear

>>353191
my duty is my honor.
(i drew them from memory.)

>>353330
Nonna, this is beautiful. You really captured the beauty of this thread.

Looking for some advice here. I want to ask a string of questions to get a feel of what I may want to implement for my future dating life. Realized my ex I was dating for a year and a half was a LVM and I just fell for this delusion and let him live with me because I didn't have many boundaries to stick to other than the low bars like doesn't do drugs, drinks, or watches porn. I was on this whole ride because many things he said aligned with my own personal values, but he really was all talk and no show when it came to commitment. I realized I should write out a list of boundaries I have to present and expectations I'm looking for when it comes to dating.
My bigger boundary is what is a good approach to sex? I want to take it traditionally, but I also don't want to be disappointed later on. I think it's best for me want to wait until we do get married to have PIV sex, which with marriage brings the ability for us to move in together. Oral and other forms of mutual masturbation can come after a couple months, also depending on the frequency of dates we go on.
What boundaries have you set for yourself when it comes to intimacy in relationships?
>How long do you wait when dating to accept kissing? Would you kiss before you commit?
>Can a kiss turn into a french kiss, or do you wait to turn a kiss into making out until after a while?
>Do you include feeling each other up as part of french kissing?
>What's fine to do when you cuddle?
>When do you feel it's okay go under each other's clothes to touch each other? Would you limit to what areas you'd want to be touched?
>Would clothes be acceptable to take off if you want to touch each others genitals, or do you preserve that for a later time? What about dry humping?
>When would you accept he be able to see you naked, partially and fully?
>Do you think it's acceptable to be fully naked together and not have PIV sex?
Maybe I might be more strict with what's acceptable, to steer away a man who's just trying to cum from a blowjob and not care to reciprocate. If he can get me to orgasm by just feeling me up, I'll take it. I'm a sexual person myself and I want to know he's able to make me orgasm, but I can totally wait for PIV sex if hePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>282907
i'm so glad i started listening to the podcast after lilith left. is there any real fds community out there anymore?

>>349820
Late reply. I’m sorry about your ex bf but I don’t think dating a Christian man and abstaining from sex until marriage will necessarily guarantee you a HVM or whatever. If it’s what you truly want then it’s your boundary and that’s ok, but you come off as a bit mentally unwell and controlling with this post. You’re making essentially a check list of conditions that needs to be met before you can advance with this or that, instead of going with the flow and letting intimacy and mutual respect develop naturally. I’m sure it’s because you’ve been hurt in the past. I think abstaining from marriage can lead to you getting married faster with some guy if that’s your end-game, but it won’t necessarily protect you from being disappointed again. Like you already mentioned you should work on developing healthy boundaries in general and be aware of what expectations you have for a relationship. I may be out of line replying to this because I’m not into female dating strategy, but I’m in a relationship with a good, responsible and ambitious guy whose values align with mine. We had sex on our first date (not to say that this is the way to go either, but what can I say I love sex). If he had turned out to be sketchy I would have moved on. I think your ex essentially didn’t practice what he preached, as you said yourself. At least you have the experience now to be aware of some red flags and know when to next someone. Dating can be hard, especially when you know you want to get married, so I understand where you’re coming from.

>>351040
when did lilith leave? i don't keep up with them anymore but am not surprised to hear it.

I used to binge-read FDS but it was making me a more paranoid person. I agree with the values, but it just wasn't healthy for me to obsess about. Especially since no one has ever wanted to date me so I will rarely need to use these tips.

>>346771
This makes me feel very nostalgic as a bong. The lion the witch and the wardrobe

>>346771
kek I feel seen

>>346771
I always wanted to dom him, such a sweet creature. Oh, to be a hunter and kidnap him, I want to make him whimper but just a bit

I stopped getting them in like 2021, didn't really give a shit anymore. I don't really care what everybody else is doing.

>>349484
that is incredibly stupid, thank you.

>>349482
In addition to >>349484 a lot of lesbians have internalized lesbophobia and basically just think the word is 'icky'. I think it's because "lesbian" has so many negative stereotypes and porn shit attached to it so women give up and pick a new word instead of trying to reclaim the word lesbian. I had a brief phase in high school where I called myself queer because my first exposure to the word "lesbian" was people using it as an insult (like, kids going "ew you look like a LESBIAN" when I was in grade school and didn't even understand sexuality yet) so it made me feel ashamed to call myself one. Picrel, famous lesbian singer talking about how she thinks the word is gross.

>>349487
This is so sad and yet another unfortunate consequence of female socialization. Meanwhile TIMs can call themselves all sorts of gross shit despite their existence being nothing more than a porn category.

Sad reality for me is that I’m butch/gnc as fuck and the girls who chase me are the ones who want a strong masc gf to protect them, but I’m actually a fuckin weenie. Maybe butch-chan want to be little spoon for once, ya know?

>>349729
Same, or I mostly attract pillow princesses, even though I love women who can be dominant in bed