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No. 253921

Like the title says.
Previous Thread: >>133562

No. 253937

Bf keeps losing his erection with condoms and it's draining our sex life.. He says he wants to get those boner pills like Viagra but I can't help but feel a 22 year old taking erectile dysfunction medication is extremely off. This wasn't happening before because I was on birth control but I'm thankful to be off that mess and don't want to risk it. What do people do when it's almost impossible to have sex? It's not that there isn't other things but none of them feel as intimate, and I don't like the idea of never being able to do it with condoms. It doesn't seem to matter what brand or size he tries either..

No. 253944

>>253937
He needs to stop masturbating. Erectile dysfunction in a man so young can only be caused by pornsickness and death-grip syndrome. He grips his dick so tight during his coom-sessions that a vagina doesn't feel tight enough for him and the excitement of being with a real woman does not compare to the over-acting porn stars.

No. 253945

How can I deal with vaginismus without visiting gynecologist?

No. 253946

>>253937
I'm going to say condoms aren't the issue and that there's other factors at play when this shit happens to a 22 year old man. If you've tried thinner condoms and they're still enough to do this it's not the condoms fully causing it. He's either already desensitized from pornsickness and that was just the tipping point or he's mentally too attached to the fantasy of rawing and cremapies and again that could be from years of porn setting his expectations. Reality isn't porn and his skewed idea of what counts as hot sex is being let down.

I've only had this experience with one guy and it wasn't a serious relationship so him blaming the condom was enough for me to say.. no condom, bu-bye then. I don't know if I'd have the heart to work through this issue with a man or picture a future where we've to get his dick to work again when tbh they often just deny the porn issue outright and without that honestly you can't move forward.

No. 253947

>>253937
Assuming he doesnt plan on children any time soon, consider vasectomy.

No. 253948

I don't know why, but I just can't seem to feel horny ever … I feel like when I'm having sex, I'm just going through the motions and it isn't very enjoyable to me. I love my boyfriend very much and he is a handsome sexy man who takes care of his body and eats well, but I feel disconnected for some reason? Sex doesn't excite me and I fake being excited so it doesn't ruin his fun. I guess I'm not a horny sexual person, sex doesn't excite me and tbh I was grossed out by it when I first started having it in the honeymoon phase. How can I get into it more? I'm not on any meds for depression or anxiety, I am on birth control though which makes me dry down there. I guess I should also mention that I lost my virginity at 24 and never had a boyfriend before then. I didn't grow up kissing boys but I have fantasized about them and crushed on them before so I know I'm not asexual. I guess my libido just disappeared once I hit 23? It seems too soon.

Also, I want to learn how to swallow. The taste isn't that bad because he eats well and exercises. It's just that I have a small mouth and he usually has a LOT of semen. I feel like I'm choking or drowning and I don't like the texture. It's like a wet booger or phlegm. Any advice on that?

No. 253949

>>253948
Don't push yourself to swallow, he's already had his orgasm so apart from ego stroking it's no big deal what you decide to do with it. If you have to 'overcome' something or 'learn to like it' then don't do it. That's rule number one of sex imo

No. 253956

>>253948
Consider dropping the birth control for a time to see if there is any change.

No. 253965

>>253948
Put it in the back of your mouth and start swallowing as it starts to come out, like when you are chugging water. That way you also don't taste it as much cause it doesn't touch your tongue.

Personally I prefer to swallow it rather than spit it out because you already have the stuff in your mouth anyways and spitting it just swirls it around your mouth more and makes the taste and texture stay in your mouth longer.

No. 253967

>>253948
Anon have you told him about any of this? If he is a genuinely good guy he'll try to understand and you can both discuss possible solutions. I had the same problem in a 5 year relationship and I didn't tell him for a long time. When I did tell him he felt awful about having sex when I didn't really want it. In the end we broke it off because he couldn't do something to me that I didn't want, and I couldn't force myself to just do it to make him happy. We're good friends now and we're happier that way.
Also you really shouldn't force yourself to swallow if you don't like it. He's already getting an orgasm while you don't.
> I feel like I'm choking or drowning and I don't like the texture. It's like a wet booger or phlegm
Don't indulge his whims just because you love him. Clearly this disgusts you so you shouldn't do it.

No. 253971

>>253967
Unpopular opinion, call me a scrote or whatever, but if you want to have a relationship with a man you gotta do a little bit of give and take and that includes sometimes doing things that you are not 100% enjoying yourself. Men need sex a lot more than women do because that is how men bond emotionally, this is scientifically proven. They also just have a much higher libido than us, imagine how you feel on your horniest day, that is how men feel all the time. While for us it is enough to cuddle and say nice things to each other, for men the sexual aspect is extremely important for the health of the relationship and for their bond with you.

Obviously don't force yourself to have sex if you don't want to, but I'm gonna be honest you will probably have a really hard time finding a man who is okay with not having sex or very rarely having sex and especially if you have sex a lot with them in the beginning because you want to keep him around and then once you are in a steady relationship you slowly start to taper it off cause you feel like you don't need to make yourself do it anymore, you are gonna have a failed relationship every time. Either be honest from the get-go and hope to find a man with a very low libido, or just don't have a relationship.

No. 253981

>>253951
He always does foreplay and kisses, massages and cuddles me before sex. We make out and grope each other. And I usually warm him up and get him hard by stroking it or sucking on it. He always eats me out before he puts it in because that's the only way I can get wet (I have never used artificial lube before). Once I orgasm and he puts it in, it feels really nice and that's the only time I ever get horny.
>>253956
Yeah I think that might be the cause that killed my libido. I don't want to get pregnant though and condoms aren't that nice. I like feeling physically connected to him without a barrier in the way.
>>253965
Thanks anon, I will give that a try.
>>253967
I've only done it once and it was something I've never experienced, so of course I got shocked and disgusted by it. But I'd like to overcome my gag reflex and be able to do it.
>>253971
That's exactly my reasoning and logic. He obviously fantasizes about me swallowing a lot and finds it hot, and I'd like to please him in that way because I love him very much. He is a very good guy. When I ran to the sink choking and spat it out, he hasn't asked me to swallow ever since or dirty talked about it. He looked genuinely concerned too and his boner went away lol. He told me I could skip that part and he can just cum in me the other way. Men have an obsession with having their sperm inside a woman - it's like the pinnacle of male sexuality, whether it be in the vagina or the mouth.
I can't really say what his libido is. I think once a day is ideal for him - 2x a day is too much. We do it once a week now that we're both busy with school and are in a long-term relationship. When we were in the honeymoon phase, sometimes we'd do it everyday, once to four times a day. I did force myself at the time but that's because my hormones were on a high for my first ever boyfriend and sexual encounter.

No. 253995

>>253981
There is nothing wrong with using lube btw and if you think it might be awkward to apply it in front of him you can just do it in the bathroom before you get it on, you can use a little syringe (with no needle) to get it up in there. Trust me it makes sex a lot more enjoyable for both. I was also very dry when I was still on the pill and it helped a lot.

No. 254026

I was about to make a new one of these and also use a cat as the picture lmao. you beat me to it.

>>253971
in theory I agree, but the thing about men's desires is that they're often gross and influenced by porn. I don't mind giving blowjobs, I think of it as pleasuring my partner because I want to make him feel good, but their obsession with swallowing is really offputting to me. it's like they care more about making you swallow cum than the actual orgasm they get from a blowjob. it almost feels like it's more about humiliation or it's some kind of dominance thing. when I asked my ex why he wanted me to swallow so bad he couldn't even come up with a reason. it's kind of disheartening when you want to pleasure your partner but he cares more about making you swallow his bodily discharge than the actual pleasure.

No. 254033

> Once I orgasm and he puts it in, it feels really nice and that's the only time I ever get horny.
This makes no sense.

No. 254040

>>253948
Spit the cum onto his face

No. 254044

>>254040
Or better yet, cumkiss. You never know, he might like it.

No. 254048

>>254033
I'm not horny mentally, it's a physical reaction when I orgasm from getting eaten out/fingered. I only get horny after that, only when he puts it in. That's when I get emotionally/mentally turned on.

No. 254051

>>254040
That's what my best friend did when one of her exes came without a warning. Apparently he never did it again kek.

No. 254052

>>254048
Anon have you ever had an orgasm for real. What in the fuck are your posts.

No. 254055

>>253944
This a tons of other underlining psychological issues. Any traumas maybe?

No. 254073

>>254044
Or as others like to call it, snowballing

No. 254125

>>253945
Buy a set of vaginal dilators/ pelvic floor trainers and read up about pelvic floor training with them. You start with the smallest size, relax and breathe, and train your muscles not to clench upon insertion.

No. 254129

>>253921
Kek I’ve never had a boyfriend in my life but I want one who loves eating me out and facesitting, how do I find a non-pornsick guy like this

No. 254142

>>254129
I haven't met a man who didn't enjoy the idea of facesitting and eating pussy. The real issue is finding a non porn sick man.

No. 254164

>>254129
Well you just have to know the red flags of a porn sick guy and see what his fantasies are. If it involves domination, swallowing cum, cum shots, or any other porn influenced ideas, then you know you’re with a pornsick guy.
What are other ideas men get from porn?

No. 254177

>>253937
Assuming that he's losing his erection because of the condom, either it's too tight or it's a weird fit (this has happened with partners of mine who weren't pornsick) Then you can do a couple things:
>switch condom brands, doesn't even have to be size wise just some brands fit nicer than others
>use a diaphram/spermicide combo, which is about 93% affective at preventing pregnancy, moreso if he pulls out. It's a bit more to think about but if you're not an overly fertile woman this could work for you.

No. 254181

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I want to get a clitoral toy for the first time, and I was wondering should I buy Satisfyer Pro Penguin next Generation or Pro 2 Next Generation? I don't know if theres any difference, as to which one would be better, so for me the only difference is the price, the penguin is 10€ more expensive.
sorry for bad eng

No. 254185

>>254181
not sure how it would compare with the penguin but i own the pro 2 next gen and would recommend it

No. 254192

Hey anons, I got an issue with chafing. If I have penetrative sex with my boyfriend on a regular basis, about every 15 hours, the friction causes my inner labia to chafe. It feels dry and it stings a bit, when this happens I take breaks from having penetrative sex and it goes away within a day or two. I am not sure if it's an issue with lube or how wet I am, since we wait until I am very aroused until we have sex and the condoms we use have lube on them. Or if it's due to the fact that we do it so frequently and he tends to be inside me for quite some time as well. Not sure if taking breaks and adding more lubricant would help, as he needs quite long to orgasm due to the fact that we use condoms now.

Let me know what your tips and solutions might be. Although I'm fine with other sex acts penetrative sex is my favourite and it kinda sucks since I get chafing if I do it too often.

No. 254194

Not really a question but fucking non pornsick guys really opened my eyes as to how fucked up my standards was. Someone not wanting anything painful, asking me if things are okay before doing them, telling me just cuddling is just as good, not wanting me to swallow, not wanting anything porny or bdsm.

No. 254196

>>254192
Try using bottled lube cause you don't get that much volume of lube in the condoms. Like use as much lube as you need for the skin not to rub but instead to like glide against each other.
Also make sure you are thoroughly washing (with water) and drying yourself afterwards to minimize skin irritation.
Also try the extra thin condoms so that it helps reduce the lack of sensation condoms can induce for men.

No. 254197

Open question but how old were you when you properly got off from partnered sex and how many years had you been active for? I’ve been with awful pornsick scrotes but also guys who really cared about making me feel good but a man’s never gotten me off before. I masturbated a lot during high school/college and now I’m scared my body is too used to the way I’ve been doing things for 10 years for anything else to work.

No. 254204

>>254197
I started having sex when I was 14, didn't have a proper orgasm with a guy for a year or 2 and it was only via oral/fingering and using sex toys together.
I didn't have an orgasm from just penetrative sex until I was about 20-21.
I still find it much easier to orgasm via oral or using toys whilst having sex with a dude.
Penetrative sex orgasms depend a lot more on the mans equipment and how he moves his weight during sex in my opinion so I think some men just can't hit the spot due to anatomical reasons out with their control to some extent (heavier men can exert more pressure/power during sex so it's not just a penis thing either).

No. 254213

>>253937
A guy i'm seeing told me of a situation like that before, he was telling me that he got soft while fucking his ex but this was mainly because he was tired. he felt so bad about how she felt afterwards so he avoids having sex when he's tired even if he's hard in that moment

No. 254214

>>253948
why would you want to learn to swallow if you don't even enjoy having sex with him?

No. 254219

>>254197
I lost my virginity at 16 and it hurt at first but didn't take long to get into it. The guy i lost it too only could get me off a few times from pentration. Some guys haven't been able too and one ex had a load of partners before me and he would get me to have multiple at a time. He was honestly great experience, he didn't make you feel self conscious and was patient for me to learn what I want. I met him when I was 24. I never even masturbated solo before him but I never told him but he like sparked my sexuality and I now can get myself off no problem, even with lackluster partners.

No. 254221

>>254197
maybe 18? i have a boyfriend of five years and it genuinely took me two years for my brain to like… let me have it. it was by no lack of trying on his end and i think part of the psychology that finally let me get there was how hot it was to see him beg for it lol. i can still only cum from like 30 minutes of oral

No. 254222

>>254221
samefag, forgot the second part of the question kek. i lost my virginity a couple days before i turned 15 and started dating my current long term boyfriend 5 months later

No. 254226

>>254194
Are there any notable signs before having sex that lets you know if they're pornsick or not?

No. 254228

>>254226
Ntayrt but ask them about their masturbation/porn habits, this can be done in like a flirty way if you don't want them to feel like you are scoping them out.
Talk to them about fetishes and kinks too, this can be done in a jokey way or by commenting on like someone elses sex life if you don't wanna be direct.
Usually this will give you a good clue about what kinda shit they are into an if it's hardcore crap they have picked up from porn.

No. 254229

>>254052
Yeah I have, orgasms aren't that great to me tbh. I guess I"m just not a sexual person. I can physically get off but not mentally when he eats me out. It feels like he's far away when his face is between my legs licking my clit/fingering me. I like it when his body is aligned with mine and we are kissing with our hands on each other because it is romantic and feels like we are intimate and bonding. My libido is non-existent when his head is down there and the orgasms aren't mindblowing as a result. It gets mindblowing after I'm done orgasming, when he is holding me and he is inside me. That's when I'm mentally and emotionally horny. I wish I could have a vaginal orgasm even if they're not real because when he has his penis inside me,that's the only part where I feel mentally/emotionally horny.
>>254214
I want to enjoy having sex with him. Maybe participating in more sexual acts will make me more sexual and awaken something in me. And I like pleasing my partner. He's always expressed swallowing as a fantasy of his, and I like to get him off in whatever way I can.
I'm also very inexperienced and have only done typical sex positions.

No. 254231

>>254228
I think that's a good idea for the most part, but I'm afraid they'll hold back anyways, especially if they get the impression you're more innocent than them.

No. 254233

>>254231
Yeah try and not give too much away about what you have and have not actually tried but you can bring up lots of more out there kinks and talk about friends or influencers/celebs that are into that shit and watch his reaction.
Lots of men will be super interested in a girl bringing up kinks etc and honestly you don't even need to say it's something you have tried or would like to try to get them to talk about their own preferences.
Usually you can tell if they are holding back, try bringing it up when they are tipsy if you feel they are the type to hold back that information.

No. 254242

>>254229
Anon it's OK to not really be a very sexual person. Why are you trying so hard to change yourself and do things to please him when you don't even get much enjoyment out of it? And is he willing to compromise at all or is it just his pleasure alone that matters? Doing something you don't like often won't magically make you like it.
>>254190 is right. Please stop doing this to yourself.

No. 254248

>>254226
If they have good female friends since childhood(view women as people not objects), good friends in general they spend time with(not having time to sit and jerk off, not having internet brain rot), if they are affectionate(not only focused on sex) and give you plenty of genuine compliments not only on your looks(not porn induced standards and comparing you to filtered and shooped models).

Although one of the best I've slept with was a complete coomer man whore, but didn't mention other girls at all, only focused on pleasuring me, didn't want anything in return, stopped the second he suspected I didn't like something, asked before doing anything, but I think he was a unicorn.

No. 254253

>>253971
My boyfriend has a high libido but he uses it to eat me out and rub my clit out multiple times a day if I so desire. He never expects me to make him cum, and if I do he knows it's because it's something I felt like doing and not because he emotionally bribed me into doing so. Women set the tone and pace and frequency for sex. You let men do it and you get pornsick shit, guilt tripping, and endless coercion.

No. 254299

>>254197
I also lost my virginity at 14, and didn't orgasm with a partner until maybe 17? I had a bf I didn't know was a virgin until after we had sex a couple times, but I ended up training him to make me orgasm and he was keen to do it.
I'm very lucky though in that the partners I've had want to make it a priority.

No. 254343

Kind of want to try hooking up with this old friend from highschool who I met at work. The thing is, I've never hooked up w anyone and I don't even know if he felt that way about me, I think we're about the same hotness so its not.. like unbelievable. Idk, I'm retarded

No. 254367

>>253937
My boyfriend didn't watch porn and that still happened to him. He's healthy, active, and muscular, but his testosterone levels still came back low. He got on testosterone injections and the problem is gone now.

Endocrine disruptors are a rabbit hole that's worth investing time into and unfortunately they affect testosterone more than estrogen because of the fragility of the molecule. Maybe your bf is simply a pornsick scrote but hormonal issues are worth considering. No 22 year old should be suffering from ED.

No. 254548

>>254343
>I don't even know if he felt that way about me
You are talking about a guy, unless he is in relationship he is 100% down to fuck.

No. 254562

Virgin here, how does facesitting actually work? Isn't it dangerous for the person that's being sat on, and how can they stimulate their partner if their face is being pressed on? Sage for no advice, but it's really been bugging me for a while lmao.

No. 254595

>>254562
I'm also a virgin but I don't see that it'd be dangerous unless you were significantly overweight. You're straddling his face, not bearing all of your weight down on it completely.

No. 254686

>>254562
You as the face sitter have to be mildly conscious of the weight you're putting on them, though if you're slim/don't weigh much it shouldn't be an issue. Plus if you're grinding on their face you're applying pressure to various points and they won't feel too suffocated

No. 255054

>>254562
I thought suffocating was the point of face sitting, I would ask, then can always tap out

No. 255430

>>254125
>live out tranny practice without being a tranny
What did I do in my past life to deserve this

No. 255447

I can't orgasm with my sex partner, only if I masturbate. He'll give me oral as long as his jaw can stand it, he'll finger me and apply any constructive criticism and tries very hard to pleasure me (although he's careful to never put any pressure/expectation on me) and has bought all sorts of toys for me to help.

What's the problem? I get horny, sex feels good, great actually! But I can only climax by myself. It would be nice if I could do it with him.

No. 255460

>>255447
Sounds like a psychological thing. Do you feel some sort of insecurity concerning your body, sexual performance or anything?

No. 255465

>>255447
There might be some hang up that you have. Have you had this issue with other partners?

No. 255467

>>255447
Wasn't able to orgasm with my partners if they had a nasty attitude or bad hygiene. Does he have any habits outside irl that bother you?

No. 255476

I've read about people trying things to purposely lower their libido, but has anyone had any success with the opposite (raising it)? Please don't just go "just accept yourself, everyone is different". I've tried a ton of supplements, I'm not on antidepressants (although I used to be on Bupropion for years and it did nothing) or birth control, and my hormone levels are okay, same with my anatomy down there. But I just don't get horny, I don't feel nothing anywhere, and it bums me out.

No. 255505

>>255447
I honestly don't think this is exceptionally unusual. I'm the same way. (Unfortunately in my case it's led to me identifying as greysexual.) I guess I don't have much useful advice besides keep working on enjoying sex as a shared experience of intimacy & pleasure rather than a means to achieving orgasm.

No. 255521

>>255505
Graysexuality isn't real.

No. 255548

>>255447
I'm the same and never actually cared. I really enjoy the penetration part and I am fine with masturbating after. My current boyfriend has a hard time ejaculating cause of his medication, so most of the time when I'm over it, I just tell him that I want to stop. We then masturbate together. The only time I managed to have an orgasm (clit) was when the guy was sitting on the couch and I was riding him. My clit rubbing on his belly did the job. It never happened ever again.

No. 255560

>>255476
Lifting weights. It made mine go crazy. Took a couple months but it definitely made a big difference. There’s also herbs and stuff that act as aphrodisiacs if you want to use them. There’s yoga for opening your hips and helping strengthen your pelvic floor too which might also boost your sex drive if your really tight and constricting blood flow, in general.

No. 255652

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Okay so, I just started dating this guy, and from what he tells me it sounds like he has a very curved downward penis (I haven't seen it), to the point where he thinks that intercourse simply will not work (he is a virgin). It's so sad because he's really attractive but from what I read about Peyronie's disease (and because his dick has always been like this), it doesn't seem like it can be cured? Like at this point he would definitely be in the "Chronic" stage. He's still able to get erections and has a really high sex drive and high stamina however. He was already skittish because of the whole virginity thing. I don't know if I should pressure him towards going to a urologist or just accept a relationship with him will be penis-less. What softens the blow a lot is that he is very generous and eager sexually but I just want it to be more equal. Either way I want to stay with him, I adore him. It's just this one thing. Do any anons have experience with this? Advice?

No. 255665

>>254248
Prolly the most useless post itt lmao

No. 255669

>>255560
That's interesting, do you have like a certain routine with it (how long and the size of weights)? I've also tried various supplements, and I've tried those so-called "libido boosting" ones that apparently have aphrodisiacs in them, but taking them is akin to a sugar pill. I've done pelvic floor relaxation to try to make penetration less painful for me (kinda worked), but still no arousal feelings, unless I have to do that too for months?

No. 255675

>>255669
I have a routine. I focus on full body and core/lower body. (Not get a huge butt but because glutes are important to support your pelvic floor. The bonus is not peeing yourself later on in life.) I do ten pound kettle bells and hand weights, focusing on squats, swings, and basic lifts. It takes probably like an hour three or four times a week. It took a couple weeks but the building muscle and change in hormones that comes with it made a big difference. I also started sleeping more and drinking more water and it helped a problem I was having with wetness my bc was causing so make sure you’re in general taking care of yourself.
With pelvic floor there’s relaxation and there’s kegels. You’re pelvic floor is like a shelf that supports everything down there but like other muscles it can get too tight or weak. If your doing too many kegels and no stretching you’ll over tighten it and can lead to tightness, pain soreness, blood flow issues, and bladder issues. If it’s too loose it can be difficult to have proper muscle control and lead to bladder issues later too. Does that make sense? Essentially you’re trying to build a solid foundation in general in that area and working out and building muscles increases testosterone which leads to a high libido.

No. 255733

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i'm going to be seeing my long distance bf soon. we only got close and started dating once he moved away so we've never had sex with each other before.
he's made it clear that he is very into riding which is something i am not really confident with (i've told him and he's still excited). i'm not a virgin but every time i've tried to ride in the past it hasn't felt right. the guy will always need to put his dick in me cause i can't get it to stick in correctly and i just feel really awkward until we switch positions. i really like this guy a lot so i really want to learn how to do it right (especially since it seems like a lot of women find it super pleasurable) so are there any good tips for a complete noob like me?

No. 255743

>>255476
Have you tried shatavari? I definitely noticed a difference on it, and one of my friends told me she had to stop taking it bc it made her too horny lmao

No. 255762

>>255733
Honestly I think if you're not comfortable with it, you shouldn't do it just yet. Get comfortable with him doing things you find comfortable and pleasurable and maybe you can build up to it. Otherwise just tell him no, that you'd like to be comfortable.

No. 255855

>>255743
AYRT, no, I never heard of it but pro-sexual supplements tend to not affect me. What brand did she try?

No. 255888

how do i properly give head? it seems like i never get my bf close to finishing unless we do piv..ive tried going faster, playing with balls, going deeper etc but nothing seems to work? am i just bad or is he not sensitive to it? hes cut and afaik that can reduce the feeling..

No. 255912

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>>255888
Every scrote is different and you'll have to try different techniques to find what he likes the most. There really is no "proper" way to give head.

However, I do think there are some things you should do and that is definitely using enough spit. Don't be afraid to get it all over yourselves. I personally think the sloppier, the better. If it's too dry, he won't have any pleasure from it. Also, a lot of girls don't realize this, but you also need to be in a comfortable position to give him head. Find a position that's most comfortable to you. Otherwise, you'll get tired more easily before he can come or you'll interrupt it constantly trying to reposition yourself. I find it best to have my bf laying down on the bed, with me sitting up between his legs.

As for things that maybe will work: My bf really likes how enthusiastic I am to suck him off. Act like you're hungry for it. Moan and hum while you're sucking him. My bf has told me the vibrations from it feel really good. Try sucking his tip while stroking the base of his dick. Some guys prefer that you don't change the pace, so maybe try that. Maybe try teasing him too. My bf gets pleasure whenever I make him beg for my mouth. Don't give it to him right away. Kiss and lick his tip over and over. Talk dirty to him while you do it.

But also nona, it's ok if he can't come just from oral. It doesn't mean you suck at it. I don't always get my bf off with just oral. Sometimes he needs more stimulation. There's nothing wrong with treating bj's as just foreplay. Good luck.

No. 255916

>>255912
god I hate implications of that pic being used for that response…

No. 255918

>>255916
it's just a meme, chill

No. 255932

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I'm very into CBT and dick stepping but my boyfriend is unwilling to meet me halfway and is scared, is there any way I can make him accept my fetish?

No. 255936

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>>255932
This is similar to my situation. Basically I love boyfeet and my bf gets self conscious whenever I try to suck on his toes. He says they're smelly and ugly or w/e. He's paranoid to the point he's always wearing socks and slippers when he never used to before. it's like he is hyper aware and gives me a weird look if he knows I am looking at his feet. What should I do nonnas? Should I explain that a foot fetish is uncontrollable and part of my brain chemistry? Should I suggest something to him that meets me halfway?

No. 255937

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>>255936
So I was thinking he could keep the socks on? Maybe it's the skin contact that's making him especially apprehensive. The thing is if the stocks stay on they have to be musky and smelly (and somewhat dirty, like he's been on a run or to the gym) otherwise it does nothing for me. So I can give him the option of having naked clean feet or musky socked feet.

I know he's self conscious about the smell two but maybe if it's one or the other he'll feel more relaxed.

No. 255938

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>>255936
have you tried removing his socks and doing it without prior warning? i think he would be very turned on by such a bold move and warm up to it. you may start doing it in his sleep to condition him. he really should let you though, he sounds ungrateful as hell

No. 255941

>>255938
Yeah I have tried getting to his feet by force but he gets really defensive (he even cried once) saying I was breaking his boundaries and trust. But I just don't see any other way I could have done it. I keep asking and he keeps refusing so I thought maybe forcing him would make him actually realize it felt good, but… I guess not. Maybe I should have mentioned it earlier. I have forced sex (and other fetishes) on him multiple times already and he eventually gives in but I can't get him to accept the feet thing.

Maybe I should educate him on how beautiful his feet really are? Like he wouldn't be so self conscious if I described how I loved his arches, sole wrinkles, and optimal toe length in detail- because then he'd know I'm serious and I know what I'm talking about.

No. 255942

>>255936
>>255937
>>255938
Footfags truly have no chill
I'm dying at the thought of your poor boyfriend wearing socks around the house because you're like a hungry goblin obsessed with his feet
If he's not into it, you're not compatible, you lil freak.

No. 255943

>>255942
It's literally how my brain works and its harmless. What is wrong with boyfeet? Explain.

No. 255945

>>255942
Oh no the poor bf!1!1 kek fuck off

No. 255946

File: 1649751320875.jpg (32.54 KB, 350x708, 1624013205494.jpg)

>>255941
Begone scrote

No. 255948

>>255946
Women can like feet. I thought nonnies of all people would understand. I'm tired of being called a scrote when I'm not one. There literally nothing wrong with boyfeet, if more people were open to the idea my bf wouldn't even have this prejudice against me.

No. 255950

>>255948
seconded, why can nonnies discuss how to suck their boyfriends best but other women can't discuss how to live out our own fantasies? much to think about

No. 255952

>>255943
>>255948
please stop calling it boyfeet you sound like a fucking pedo tranny

No. 255953

>>255932
Men can be conditioned to be aroused by anything. Maybe try sneaking in some videos and references when he happens to be turned on? Or reward him with sex after you watch "nutshot fail" compilations on YouTube? Just make sure it's not TOO obvious otherwise he might catch on. Eventually with enough training he'll be more receptive.

No. 255954

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>>255952
Manfeet are always associated with nasty bara males drawn for gay men. I may like feet but I still have standards.
Bishiefeet sounds too weird.

No. 255955

>>255950
Right so it's ok to gag on your bfs chode but not ok to enjoy some delicate boy toes?

No. 255956

>>255948
Take it to fujochan

No. 255957

>>255954
they’re only associated to that by weird scrotes or fujofags who spend too much time looking up gay footfag porn. nobody else here is going to assume you’re into shitty bara art. i support your endeavour to get your boyfriends you-know-what’s in your mouth but stop referring to it as ‘boys’. i can’t emphasise enough that it sounds seriously either like you’re a tranny twitter coomer groomer or as though you’re playing danny devito in always sunny. god bless

No. 255958

>>255957
you gotta pay the troll toll if you want to get to the boys toes, you gotta pay the troll toll to get feet

No. 255960

>>255954
There’s literally no such thing as cute pretty “boyfeet” anon… they’re all nasty i’m starting to doubt you even have a boyfriend cause that’s the number one thing you’d notice if you were looking at his feet

No. 255961

>>255955
>>255941
>chode
>teehee yeah I rape him sometimes
Sure some women like feet but YWNBAW

No. 255962

File: 1649753283482.jpg (16.06 KB, 480x360, squidsponge.jpg)

Ok since we are already confessing weird fetishes and reluctant bfs I finally gathered the courage to ask my bf to RP with me a few months ago. It started off mostly vanilla like dr/nurse and a little brat taming and segued into RPing as fictional characters.
So I need you all to know my first sexual awakening was to SpongeBob. It's always been a secret of mine but I felt comfortable enough to bring it up to my bf and ask if he could RP with me. Obviously it was awkward to talk about and reveled a lot of uncomfortable and embarrassing childhood memories, yet somehow he agreed.
The only problem is that he won't be SpongeBob. He says SpongeBob is too effeminate and it would be too "gay" for him to act like him comfortably. But, he's ok with being Squidward and me being SpongeBob. I told him that just having fake gay sex is already gay and it doesn't become more gay if he's the "bottom" (though I'd let him be a SpongeBob top). The thing is, I am attracted to SpongeBob primarily so I want to have sex with SpongeBob, not Squidward, and not any other character.
I just wish he would be more understanding. I do a lot for him and I RPed situations with him I wasn't completely into.

No. 255963

>>255962
Maybe watch episodes with him where Spongebob is in a more masculine role?

No. 255964

>>255962
Honestly nonnie the most concerning thing here is how weirdly misogynistic his aversion to RPing as spongebob is.

He doesn't want to be spongebob because he thinks he's too effeminate? It sounds really scrotey to me. He obviously thinks femininity is beneath him and humiliating. Were you always playing the role as a fem/sub in other scenarios? idk it's a huge red flag to me.
>>255963
That's just avoiding the deeper issue here which is her bf's misogyny.

No. 255966

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No. 255969

>>255962
>>255966

I'm sorry to be laughing at your misfortune but I'm laughing so fucking much, I really hope this is not a copypasta

No. 255975

>>255962
Girl, I'm too embarrassed to even ask if the guy I like is single you got this

No. 255987

>>255975
same kek I'm trying to find the courage to text him meanwhile anon's negotiating spongebob rp. teach me your ways nona

No. 256036

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>>255962
Why not rp as Sandy so he can no longer say it's gay to rp a spongebob because you're roleplaying heterosexual sex.

No. 256042

>>255948
>>255942
There's nothing wrong with being into feet, but if he's not into or comfortable with it (him literally crying is such a red flag that you need to stop) then you need to break up and not figure out ways to "make" him tolerate it. Most people don't even like how they look, I'm personally kinda into massages but if my partner didn't want to even do that I'd just drop it and do something else. Footfaggery is more common in men anyway so it might not even be hard to find a new BF who is into it.

No. 256061

>>255941
>>255942
lmfao i refuse to believe women are capable of being as degen regarding feet as men. this is fucking bizarre. having been with footfags in the past it is a nightmare honestly. not a moid defender but if anon is truly as degen as male footfags i almost feel for him

No. 256066

File: 1649795482803.jpg (12.47 KB, 320x276, 9y2122.jpg)

>>255941
>I have forced sex (and other fetishes) on him multiple times already

No. 256109

>>255953
not to sound like a men's rights activist, but actually imagine if someone said this with the sexes reversed. sounds fucked up right? some of you bitches here are straight up schizo. lmao get help.

No. 256111

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>>255962
mfw reading this post

No. 256121

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>>255962
I have so many questions, wdym role play Spongebob? Does he imitate the voice? Do you quote Sponebob memes? How was Spongebob your sexual awakening please nona I won't sleep at night until I have answers

No. 256125

>>255962
Nona can you please keep us updated with what comes out of this?

No. 256127

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No. 256128

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I just started dating a guy and he's perfect in everyway, he's totally focused on being a sub to service me and i have loved our chemistry fooling around. But we finally had sex for the first time after fooling around for a week and he has a pretty small dick… i prefer oral and foreplay and he is so eager to please. But bc i have never been with a guy who was fully erect at like 4.5-5" i kept putting myself in positions he kept slipping out of? And im like trying to figure out if hes just an inexperienced otaku or if i need to lower my expectations for what small dick can do??

No. 256130

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>>255962

>>255963
This. Compliment him on his anchor arms

No. 256132

>>256128
isn't 5 inches about average tho? i've never seen that as small personally. although i'm pretty small myself so it has worked out for me. in my experience, performance and technique matter more than size. what's a size you wish he was?

No. 256137

>>256132
NTA but I consider anything under 15cm to be small. Above 18cm is big.

No. 256139

>>256132
I honestly dont care that hes small/average, bc i prefer clitoral stim anyways. It was just kinda annoying that any position (other then from behind and me sitting/ grinding on) didnt really work for him, he kept slipping out. Hes also a bbm and its my first time being with a guy w/ a belly and thighs.

Idk maybe it was awkward bc it was our first time having penetrative sex and i genuinely think its been YEARS since hes slept with a woman (he wouldnt say) But i kind of love that hes this servile inexperienced nerd boy. Its just my type, i just need to train him i guess…

No. 256145

>>256139
tbh he might just be a virgin. at least concerning piv.

No. 256153

>>256109
Men say this about women though. And much worse. Most men would even argue rape turns them on especially on anonymous sites and that anything where the man torments the woman it's natural because it's her role or something. Men will be conditioned to get turned on by anything, though. That's how chasers and cuckolds are created, most men go down the porn addiction rabbithole and also become pedos because of it.

No. 256155

>>256153
no shit men also say fucked up things about women. that doesn't give you an excuse to also be a degenerate like them. what is this argument lmao. take your meds.

No. 256162

>>256109
It doesn't work with the sexes reversed because women aren't coomchimps with lightswitch brains.

No. 256167

>>256109
>>256155
Cope and seethe, men and women are not the same, nobody here gives a fuck about respecting moids and their retarded brains

No. 256169

>>256155
Go back to reddit. Men do weird abusive shit to their gfs and their gfs let them do it just to satisfy them. A guy being uncomfortable is enough to make you have a meltdown but men wanting and actually committing rape crimes is something you can brush over? Kek. He won't pick you, instead of caping for men's degeneracy, lose some weight and get some self respect.

No. 256170

>>256169
Absolutely based

No. 256184

>>256109
no1curr tard

No. 256188

how do i get better at enduring anal sex? i tried it for the first time with my boyfriend and he really liked it but for me it felt weird at first and then it downright hurt, i couldn’t keep going and i felt sore for long after it was over. (he didn’t just go ahead, he prepared me first so it’s not a matter of him being inconsiderate.)

he’s not some degenerate weirdo i just “settled” for, i love him and want to do things he likes.

No. 256189

>>255962
>having fake gay sex is already gay and it doesn't become more gay if he's the "bottom"
my sides have gone into orbit

No. 256192

>>256188
is this bait? Girl how can he like something that causes you pain? Have you told him that? If the roles were reversed would he be asking this question?

No. 256193

>>256188
You also have no physical way to get pleasure from that. Is he just into doing stuff you don’t like and degrade you’s?

No. 256195

>>256192
it’s not bait, i’m just socially and sexually retarded

i said that it hurt and he stopped right away but it still seems like he wants to do anal again, he’s brought it up several times since we did it. like talking about how great it was etc.

>>256193
i really don’t think he’s into it for that, he treats me like a princess in all other situations (and like i said, he stopped when i said it hurt). he’s really good to me and always has been.

No. 256197

>>256195
Ask him why he wants anal. Is he pornsick in the past? Does he think it's better than vaginal sex? Does he want it because he thinks it's hot? Next time he ask tell you would think it's hot if you put something in his ass and see if he sings a different tune.

No. 256198

>>256195
Nonna you told him it hurt and he continues to bring it up and tell you how he enjoyed it, what’s not clicking here? If you don’t want to do anal don’t force yourself to, there are plenty of other things he could like that wouldn’t hurt you. It’s not worth enduring, and no man who actually cares about you would tell you he wants to do something to you that causes you pain for his own pleasure.

No. 256200

>>256197
> Does he want it because he thinks it's hot?
yes he’s told me he thinks it’s hot, to my knowledge he has no history of pornsickness. he also often talks about how perfect he thinks my ass is, which might be related? he really likes vaginal sex too, i don’t think it’s a matter or preferring anal over vaginal.

>>256198
thank you nonna (and everyone else who replied). i’ll tell him it just really hurt if he brings it up again, i think he’ll respect it because he’s really kind and selfless.

> there are plenty of other things he could like that wouldn’t hurt you

i know he likes oral but i’m not a fan of giving it, maybe i just need to get used to it because sometimes when i fantasize about it i find it hot. but then when i try to do it it feels really gross somehow. i guess i’m just really vanilla as a person. do you know any other things i could try?

No. 256209

>>256200
>He said he's not a porn addict
Anon…

No. 256210

>>256195
>i said that it hurt
>he’s brought it up several times since we did it. like talking about how great it was
You told him it hurt… and he's forgotten that part and just talks about it being great. Jesus anon. Take off your rose tinted glasses and see that this is fucked up (closet) pornsick shitty bf behaviour.

Stop trying to do things that don't bring you pleasure. I promise you'll have much bigger regrets if your bend over backwards in bed than you'll ever have for putting boundaries in place.

No. 256211

>>256200
>i’ll tell him it just really hurt if he brings it up again, i think he’ll respect it because he’s really kind and selfless.

Anon there should not be an again even, the first time was more then enough, the fact that he brought it up again just means he's trying to test out your boundaries like if he can whine enough about something that is pleasurable for him solely then maybe he can have the chance to use your body as no more then a mastrubatory object. Anon please realize we're saying this out of concern for you and as outsiders we can see the writing on the wall much more clearly with no feelings of love clouding our sight to see what's happening here

No. 256235

>>256188
if it's not something you find arousing then why are you trying to 'endure' it? there's a difference between doing something he likes vs putting yourself through trials and pain just so he can stick his dick up your ass.
"doing things he likes" would be like giving him normal head or maybe tying him up - both of those things you can do without having your body be sore afterwards. having your ass fucked and then being in pain afterwards is not acceptable, and honestly who gives a fuck if he's interested in it or likes it? are you willing to put your literal butthole through pain and uncomfort just because he's seen this shit (no pun intended) happen effortlessly in porn? if you are, ask yourself: would he do the same for me? chances are he won't, not on the same level as anal you're describing here.

>>256195
you are not "sexually retarded" but you seem socially inept enough to not understand that this man is pushing your boundaries. the only way he should ever bring up anal to you is if you personally enjoy and get aroused by it - and you haven't mentioned being that way, and considering it hurts a lot I'm guessing you don't. stop doing these things for the sake of pleasing him and thinking that he "treats you like a princess" because guess what, he isn't. If he really treat you like you deserve to be treated, he would have stopped as soon as he clicked you aren't interested or find discomfort in doing anal. But he's not doing that, is he? he's pushing you and bringing it up again despite the fact it visibly hurt you.

>>256200
>i’ll tell him it just really hurt if he brings it up again, i think he’ll respect it because he’s really kind and selfless.
If this happens again it's proof that he ain't listening to you, nonna. If it does happen again - and for your sake I'm hoping it won't - you need to be firm. Don't be shy or try and "like, I think, I don't know" your way into this conversation. Your body was uncomfortable and in pain for a reason, and you evidently didn't enjoy it thus you need to be firm on your stance of not wanting to do it again, no matter how much he might whine at you. If he does object, then you might want to reasses how kind and selfless he is.

No. 256260

i’m >>256188 and i want to thank everyone who replied to me. you have all given me a lot to think about and i’m glad i asked you guys. thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me and telling me what i needed to hear.

love you, nonas.

No. 256294

>>256128
>it keeps slipping out

nonna are you sure he's hard enough to begin with? i've been with a 7 incher who kept slipping out because his dick was never at 100% erection, and a 5 incher that didn't because he was diamonds the whole time.

No. 256296

>>256200
Noni not to be a degen but my boyfriend loves my ass too. I don’t like things in my ass and I can’t get pleasure from it so instead he grabs my ass consensual and he likes to eat it while touching me. There’s way to enjoy ass that are respectful and feel good to everyone. Anal literally can’t feel good for you even if you can tolerate it.

No. 256371

File: 1649914370095.jpeg (90.71 KB, 500x707, 5753785689446.jpeg)

I'm reluctant to have girl go down on me. I can get stupid wet but hold it together with clit play but when I'm close to finishing I just start gushing and I can't control it. I don't want to accidentally piss on her face pls how do I not do that?

No. 256385

>>256188
I’m getting warning signs that he kept bringing it up, that’s one way guys can coerce and manipulate you into feeling bad for them and going through something because they keep nagging you and mentioning it. Tell him it fucking hurts past the point of any pleasure, not worth the aftermath, and you don’t want to be in pain obviously. Then if he’s whiny and bitchy about that, there’s an answer about your future and his true priorities

No. 256401

>>256371
You shouldn't piss yourself unintentionally anyway but just piss before you start having sex if you want to reassure youreself

No. 256409

>>256371
um i don't think that's pee nonnie

No. 256459

>>256371
thats hot tbh

No. 256461

>>256409
I'm worried it's not just wetness, but like when women say they 'squrit' it's just peeing a little, it doesn't really smell like pee but I'd be mortified if it came out

No. 256462

>>256371
I doubt you're actually peeing anon. That sounds hot and I'd happily eat you out.

No. 256465

>>256371
This is a good thing nonna trust me. I wish I was like you, I'm dry as hell no matter how excited I get and it makes me feel like shit because of it. Enjoy your natural wetness, never be ashamed of it.

No. 256470

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>>256465
I just don't want to be a box of gushers, at least a bad box anyway

No. 256482

more of a vent i guess but i have a reverse foot fetish, i really hate that word actually so nevermind. its not a fetish i simply find the idea of someone cumming on my feet to be cute. anyways im big on cardio, running etc and my feet are disgusting with calluses and any footfag scrote is gonna be pornsick to death with a glut of unnaturally smooth weirdly drawn anime girl feet and will probably be repulsed by mine

>>256371
this picture…

No. 256484

>>256470
I’m a gusher and leave wet spots. No one has complained. Lots of people think it’s sexy. Just have an extra set of sheets for bed.

No. 256492

>>256482
Noni. You’ll be fine. I won’t be weird but there’s loving not weird feet people who will love your feet because their yours. Got to just find someone actually into feet and you and not porn.

No. 256505

>>256482
anon i am like this too! it is really hot to me to have my feet touched/licked or cummed on or just admired in general. luckily my husband is into stockings and feet so we are really compatible.

No. 256506

>>256482
also i thought i had ugly feet and my husband loves them so im sure yours are fine

No. 256519

>>256482
I mean there are ways to moisturize and scrape off callouses if you want to do that, but otherwise there are footfags who either 1. don't care or 2. can accommodate that.

No. 256700

>>255652
hi nonna, sorry that this is so late but my partner has peyronies but the kind where it curves upwards. he's always had it but it's diminished over time. we cant do everything someone with a normal penis has (for example, its not versatile in that going 'against' the scar tissue makes his dick sensitive to pulling his penis too far in any other direction) due to the tissue we can't do for e.g. reverse cowgirl and oral but the curve makes missionary and doggy very good.

firstly, i would say that if you like this guy you could very well keep it up with him and if you get to the stage where you're comfortable having sex you could just try and see how well his penis could work in reality - it is hard to imagine but don't listen to how a virgin think sex works. there are definitely articles online about positions that can work for people w different types of curves.

secondly, if it does get bad, and you want to keep trying with him, refraining from masturbating can help lessen the effects of peyronies, and it also makes them more pent up and better at fucking. encourage him to get better with his hands and mouth to make up for the limitations of his dick.

No. 256817

My new bf is much more experienced than I am. I tried giving him a bj 2 times now and he never came at all. At times he lost his erection. Even so, he thinks it's great. I wish he'd tell me what I'm doing wrong because he gives great head to me. I did everything that I have read/watched: focus on head, shaft, massage the tests, use lots of saliva.

No. 256819

>>256817
Your shitty bf is just addicted to porn, retard.

No. 256837

>>256819
Well this is aggressive. Maybe, or maybe or he’s just a little nervous.

No. 256846

>>256817
Is he on medication or otherwise struggles with orgasming?

No. 257163

>>256817
he's either porn addicted or on SSRIs. he tells you everything is great because

1. he doesn't want to offend you (but even with shitty technique, scrotes should still be able to stay hard)

2. he's one of the two things i mentioned but he doesn't want to tell you the truth because he's scared you'll see him as "less of a man" (most likely option by miles).

No. 257189

>>256817
You don't have to be the best of the best at bjs just to keep a man hard. His dick being in a mouth should be enough to acheive that. Especially with a new lover. Him not finishing is one thing (men get used to finishing by hand) but going soft.. he has a problem he's not telling you. I highly doubt this is on you or that looking up bj tips will do much to fix it.

Like another anon said SSRIs and I think some antipsychotics affect things but if it's not on them he's likely pornsick. Whatever the cause is it's on him to be straight with you and address it and most of all to stop putting you through the experience of sucking on a limp dick.

No. 257315

>>257163
>>257189
I've read that guys who take stimulants or benzos recreationally have similar issues when they develop a tolerance or go through withdrawals. If he's a rare unicorn man that legit doesn't watch porn, he might be a former addict who recently stopped (I knew a guy like that).

No. 258951

>>256819
You’ll die alone

No. 263445

I'm 26 and my bf of two months is 29, we haven't had sex yet and he's being really patient and hasn't asked me to yet. Problem is he's my first boyfriend and I'm a virgin and I just don't know how to ask him about getting tested,yes I'm that inexperienced, don't bully me etc, it was because of cultural reasons. This would give me some peace of mind where my mother's only advice was 'you'll be okay because both of you aren't supposed to sleep around anyway' like she trusts in my trust? I got this idea to ask him if he's ever had cold sores to cover herpes and that's about it. How do I talk approach the subject? Say what you will about HSV1 being harmless but I don't have it and don't want it.

No. 263447

>>263445
>Hey I'm interested in taking our relationship to the next level but it would give me peace of mind if we went and got tested for STDs together at a clinic. Is there a date and time that works for you?
Don't beat around the bush asking about cold sores and shit, just make him get tested. Any man with half a brain cell will not care about taking one minor step in good faith when sex is on the line. Don't let your shyness/embarrassment put your health at risk anon. It's not at all something you should be reluctant about requesting.

No. 263448

>>263445
Exactly this >>263447, just say that.

No. 263452

>>263447
Ok, I had no idea what words to say to make it sound natural and you did just that, thanks

No. 263458

>>255560
You are absolutely correct anon. Lifting does wonders for me. I think it is not only the hormonal changes but also the overall self esteem boost that you get when you feel your muscles tighter.

No. 263471

Hi anons, my boyfriend always wants sex after we shower and that is cool, but we both shower together (and he always washes me, yey) after I get home from work which means I take off my makeup and get on my skincare/Vaseline and it just makes me feel ugly. I mean, we have sex, but it is so unenjoyable when I feel so ugly. How do I overcome this? I just hate how ugly and young I look without makeup, I don't look sexy at all.

No. 263484

>>263471
This is barely a sex related question, you need to go to the BDD thread to figure out why you have such an issue with your natural face.

No. 263497

>>263471
Is showering after sex not an option?

No. 263520

>>263471
Consciously accept that he finds you just as attractive without it. He's being intimate with you regardless, so it obviously doesn't make a difference.

I used to feel this way too but eventually I just stopped wearing makeup and it made me realize how much I made my self confidence rely on it.

No. 263530

>>263471
Do you really want to wear a full beat every time you have sex for the rest of your life? How do you not feel like a fraud. Shake off your shackles my lord.

No. 263661

>>263484
I know why I have such an issue with my natural face, it's because it doesn't make me think of sex at all, it looks too innocent and it makes me cringe to imagine it having sex with someone

>>263497
Sometimes I try to keep my makeup on after the shower. But I wish I could deal with the issue itself.

>>263530
I am unfortunately fucked up in this department, my face isn't even absolutely beat.
>How do you not feel like a fraud
I don't because I see myself as I am with makeup on if that makes sense. Me without makeup looks like she doesn't have sex.
>Shake off your shackles my lord.
I guess they feel comfortable to me.

>>263520
>Consciously accept that he finds you just as attractive without it.
I feel like this shouldn't be. I feel like he doesn't care how I look like at all. I get it, but sometimes I wish I knew his favorite outfits or looks or whatever.

No. 263725

>>263661
>it looks too innocent and it makes me cringe to imagine it having sex with someone
That's legitimately retarded, are you pornsick enough to think being sexual means looking like a made up porn star?? Or have you convinced yourself you're babyfaced? I promise you don't look like an infant and have a normal adult face like everyone else.

Having sex with makeup on is gross anyway, that shit rubs off on the pillow and melts and ugh, yuck.

No. 263768

This isn't technically about sex but more about masturbation and orgasm.

I recently started SSRIs and immediately I noticed a change in sex drive. I usually masturbated 2-3 times a week and was able to bring myself to orgasm multiple times in a sitting. I could also make myself orgasm relatively quickly. Since taking the SSRIs, I haven''t felt horny in the last 8 days but tonight I felt a little horny and decided to try. It took a long time to reach orgasm and it was actually really hard maintaining. My arm hurts and trying to reach orgasm just felt tedious. I was able to bring myself to orgasm twice but the whole session took nearly an hour. Before SSRIs I can reach orgasm around 3 times in 30 minutes.

I know its only been a week since I've started antidepressants but this is sort of freaking me out. I like my quick and easy Os. Is the fact I'm able to orgasm a good sign my body will adjust to the antidepressants and my sex drive will resume to normal eventually? Or is it too soon to tell since the SSRIs are still building up and my sex drive will get worse before it could possibly get better?

No. 264035

I want to stop feeling shy during sex. I've been sleeping with the same person for 10 years but I still just find myself freezing when he gives me prompts (very simple ones like "how does this make you feel?") I hate being on top, I hate receiving oral. Anything that is focusing on me causes me overthink. I still like sex and being close, and he's happy but wishes I was more open. Lmao at this point me saying "that feels good" makes him want to cum immediately since I'm quiet usually. I like seeing the kind of power I have over him like that, I don't think there's anything he would say no to if I asked and I want to utilize that kek. I just need to get over myself. I guess this was mostly a vent but felt like the most appropriate place.

No. 264047

>>263768
You might permanently lose it

No. 264058

>>263768
The SSRIs fuckeing you up this quickly indicates it will only get worse. Switch medications asap or get off them altogether.
>>264035
Do you have a history of sexual trauma? Do you have low self esteem? Is it hard to trust your loved ones? Are you ashamed to exist, take up space, have wants/needs, feel pleasure, etc.? If you struggle with any of that, those are the things to work through.

No. 264076

>>264035
> I like seeing the kind of power I have over him like that
I'm not trying to be harsh but that's such a strange conclusion to come to. It's like opposite land. It makes no sense to break into talk of power and all the lmaos and keks after what you just shared is strange. You're first describing a reaction that sexually traumatized or just highly uncomfortable or insecure women have to intimacy.. and that dragging on for a whole decade with a partner and then next thing you're talking about your power over him? It's never too late to seek therapy and find out the root of your issues but you have to stay grounded in reality if you want to get help for it. Ten years of this as your intimate life is going to take a toll on him whether he's too nice to show it or not. Nothing short of therapy will make a breakthrough if this is going on for ten years already with the same partner. And part of seeking help might include him breaking the news to you that it's been hard to be on his end and to pretend everythings fine. Be open to hearing that. This isn't hot or powerful or a fantasy but you can make strives if you take it serously enough.

No. 264212

>>264076
I can see where you're coming from but it's not really a power fantasy so much as it was just fun to get a reaction out of him. Any hang ups he has with our sex life I'm aware of and isn't really the issue here. We have a dynamic that works so it's not like I'm some timid traumatized log just bearing it. It's still fun and something I seek out. I just can't stand being the focus.
>>264058
All of the above, am recently in therapy which is what had me thinking about this stuff in general. Trying to advocate for myself makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong.

No. 264244

How do I tittyfuck? Bf really wants it but I have no idea what to do to make it feel good

No. 264247

>>264244
Get the inside of your boobs really slippery with spit or preferably lube so it won't be drying out constantly then use your hands to squish them together around his dick like a hotdog bun while he does his thing. You can move up and down for him but I always find that awkward since you have to move your entire chest where the guy can more easily use his hips to thrust. Either look up at him and encourage him along or you can occasionally lick him. Most important thing is just the wet skin so the motion is smooth and his dick isn't uncomfortably dragging. The pressure for him is obviously not going to be as intense as your mouth or vagina but that's the point, the softness and visuals

No. 264275

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reposting from the vagina thread cus it's not really active, but I struggle to locate my clit, so trying to get my bf to find it is even harder. I was wondering if any anons have any suggestions for affordable but strong clitoris-specific vibrators? I've never had an orgasm but I also think I'm not very sensitive either because I once bought a cheap mini bullet and it did nothing.

No. 264278

>>264244
Boobjobs are a fucking porn (hentai) meme and I don't think anyone is for real doing this shit irl more than once. It's extremely awkward even if you have large boobs (if you have small ones don't even bother) because you have to hold them together so tightly (makes your boobs look ugly) and the dick still wants to slip out the entire time. Boobs aren't ribbed or anything either so the sensation for the guy isn't really exciting. It also works only in extremely limited amounts of positions, I suggest with him on his back and you on top of him pushing your boobs down on him. The fact that you have to use lube or oil to do it means you can't even easily switch to a blowjob cause you'll get a mouth full of fucking lube/oil. 0/10, just do it once and he'll see how awkward it is irl.

No. 264294

>>264275
Maybe instead of a vibrator you could invest in a hand mirror? Look at diagrams to get the general location and then feel around. Or have your bf do it. It's not particularly sexy but if you want 100% confirmation of where it is, that's how you find it.

No. 264305

>>264275
HOW do you struggle to find your clit??? It's right there! It's not somewhere inside you nona

No. 264353

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>>264294
>>264305
it's either very small or very hidden, because I can't really "see" it, but I can feel it like a lump under my skin, but I can't move my fingers or hand fast enough to reach any sort of climax. I definitely know it's there, but she's shy I think. I heard that sometimes you can see it when you're aroused, but I haven't seen it. It feels like a waste to task my bf to do it when I can't even tell him what to do because I don't even know what I like or how to direct him to find the silly thing.

No. 264387

>>264353
Hi anon! From 1 small clit to another, direct stimulation is not where it's at. My clit doesn't pop out the hood and it looks non-existent. I don't enjoy oral or the clit being rubbed in the typical "porn" way. Trying bunching up a blanket or pillow and grind on it with your stomach facing the bed. Basically I use my labia to cover the clit and that's how I stimulate her. You can also rub your labia over where your clit is and that can feel good as well. Cowgirl where you lean forward and grind on the man's pubic bone may also feel really good. My favorite position is pronebone with something to grind against underneath me. I hope this helps!

No. 264401

>>264353
One of the reasons you may not be able to see your clit is because you haven't had an orgasm yet. Imo, once you have a few orgasms it will be easier to spot it, so to speak. So, learn to masturbate. This will help you know your own body, it's fun, relieves stress, and it will help the sexual part of your relationship, once you know what you like. Use the advice anon above gave you!
That aside, there may be some medical condition?? I'm not a doctor, so try googling it, see what you get.

No. 264413

>>255932
look I know this is late but the way I've gotten men into it is to start pressing down on their cock with your feet. Like, under the table footsies kinda deal. Press firmly but only enough for it to feel good. Do that every so often but each time get a little harder.
After a while of doing that you get it hard enough he'll start to like it. Then I'd start to get rougher. Grabbing his crotch when you're horny, getting harder with that over time, maybe playfully and lightly slapping his cock or balls during foreplay. You're essentially just trying to condition him to associate that pain with pleasure. Soon enough he'll be asking for it.

No. 264469

>>264353
Nonnie I'm sorry I really don't understand how one can't see their clit. Do you have lots and lots of labia??? I've eaten a few and the clit was always just right there, right in my face. Is it weird if I ask you to post your vagina? Or a pic/diagram of a similar vagina?

No. 264472

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>>264469
I'm >>264387 and I'm assuming the anon you responded to has a similar deal as I do. Basically, it looks like the labia minora join up at a thin line and there's no bulge for a clitoris. The clitoris does not pop out the hood because it is so small, even when very aroused (I have verified this because my labia fill with blood, etc. but the clit still doesn't pop out because it is too small). The hood on mine is also very small, but the main feature is again that my clit is still proportionately so small it can't be seen.

For me, direct stimulation is painful and all touching needs to be done around the clit. I think this is because all the nerves are packed into such a small point anything bothers it.


I attached a screenshot. Basically, it's just a line is what it looks like where the minora meet.

I hope this helps.

No. 264489

Sometimes when I have sex I need to fart so bad and it doesnt help when they wana switch positions so much. Usually I pretend like theyre going in too deep and push them away when in reality I am holding in my fart for my dear life. Anyways how do you avoid being gassy during sex?

No. 264507

>>264472
>i have a very small

that search is sending me anon kek

No. 264536

>>263768
Seconding that they’re fucking you up. Nobody ever warns you just how much it can affect your personal life. I thought I understood when I read the warnings that said ‘can lower libido’ but didn’t until it actually happened to me. Really consider changing yours or stopping them if you can manage that and it doesn’t endanger you. There are an invisible amount of people who find they can’t orgasm anymore or get aroused like they used to long, long after they quit the SSRI (for me it took two years and I still have issues after 5) which you should think about if you’re not okay with being asexual and celibate. I don’t place my worth or esteem on sex and would still say not having the drive anymore feels frustating and just dysfunctional.

No. 264549

nonnies, listen. i've always been pretty comfortable with my sexuality but i've always felt slightly disconnected during sex, maybe a tad repulsed by the guy i'm sleeping with even if he's a long term bf. i never understood why but i realised that i've been connecting healthy intimate and sexual interactions between two consenting adults, with the idea that all men are pornsick coomers. and that's why i feel a slight disdain for the guy after i've slept with him, especially if we did especially "dirty" acts (finishing on my boobs, deep throats etc). i just feel slightly disgusted by him… when my ex tried to titfuck me i felt significantly less attracted to him.

was also raised catholic so maybe there's a bit catholic guilt associated. i've also been sexually assaulted by coomers in the past so maybe it's also trauma related. has anybody else related to this? i just want to be able to have hot sex without getting the ick. just to be clear i don't think guys shouldn't be sexual, i guess i just hate hate hate the idea of these disgusting coomer degenerates who have no idea how to "make love" and treat you like you're a pornstar and i guess i'm afraid all men are that way.

No. 264553

>>263768
SSRIs are basically asexuality pills. I wish I never took them because sex isn't fun anymore for me because even when I stopped taking them it's hard to get horny and not even good porn or a hot person IRL can arouse me. Please taper off slowly and try a medication with fewer chances of sexual effects, like Bupropion or Buspar (it's technically an anxiety med but a psychiatrist told me that it can raise libido in some people).

No. 264554

>>264549
Unfortunately a lot of men are pornsick coomers, you aren't wrong about this. That's why it's important to find a guy who puts your pleasure first and makes his pleasure secondary. A guy with those personality traits won't want or even think about titjobs, deepthroating, anal, whatever because he knows you won't get any pleasure out of it. Imo a good way to figure this out is if he lets you bring up anything sexual first, lets you set the pace/lets you guide him during sex until he knows exactly what you want, etc. And when you talk about sex, a good sign is that he's into sensual acts (mentions kissing, caressing, eating you out if you're into that), instead of talking about pounding you or choking you or whatever.
Honestly, I absolutely hate how sex for most men revolves around their dick and how their partner can pleasure it. If I get any indication a man is like this he goes straight to the garbage bin.

No. 264559

>>264507
Kek, i was really hoping to see actual pictures of what I mean.

Obvious clitted anons are so blessed and they don't even know it. 1) it's hot to have an obvious clit and 2) it seems like it is more easy to pleasure from what I've seen

No. 264562

>>264387
Thank you for the advice, I get exactly whay you mean and I'll give that a shot, thanks nonna
>>264401
I considered it possibly being a medical issue, but I can get stimulation from it once I find it, but it's very difficult to get anywhere with it because it either gets too sensitive in a painful way or my hand just gets exhausted. I agree that not having an orgasm probably hinders my relationship with my clit.
>>264472
I don't have a lot of labia, but definitely more than a labiaplasty result looking amount, the layout is like what >>264472 said, when I pull my labia minora back I don't really see anything that resembles a normal clit. I found an image that's kinda similar, but I have more inner labia than that.

No. 264564

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>>264562
(pic didn't attach and I forgot to spoiler originally)

No. 264641

I have chronically clammy hands so thought I'd never be able to give a good handjob. I was buying a new vibe and picked up some basic lube at the same time. BF asked if he can use some while jerking off and asks me to help him. I go at it hard until he cums and he has to lay there for 5 min because it was so intense and told me it was the best orgasm of his life. Moral of the story is use lube.

No. 264652

>>264641
Is this a circumcised thing?

No. 264656

>>264652
Could be, he got cut as a teen bc it was too tight

No. 264657

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This is a really stupid ramble but it's been bugging me all month. My current bf and I have a good sex life. Him and his previous partner only had anal sex (she was "Christian" and couldn't afford birth control) and on one occasion it ended in her "expelling faecel matter" over him. When I found out about this from a friend, I was repulsed and it kind of put me off anal for life. Despite this, I seem to get the impression he wants to have anal sex as he really enjoys sex from behind and is fixated on my ass. At one point while we were in the shower he asked if I wanted him to finger my ass and I had never once expressed any interest in this. I can't say anal appeals to me but I don't know how to get over the feeling of being inferior for not wanting to have anal sex and now whenever we have sex it consumes my mind. I don't know what to do, I'm open to expermentation but I'm scared that if I did agree to do it - I would be doing if for someone else and I'm not sure if it would help me get over the insecurity I feel.

No. 264661

>>264657
Noni anal is a meme. It can’t physically feel good for you. Your boyfriend shouldn’t be bringing it up after the initial lack of your interests. Would you want to do a sex act to him he wouldn’t like and would make him at worst be in horrible pain or extremely uncomfortable and gross after wards? If he likes your ass so much there’s non anal shit he could to appreciate it.

No. 264671

>>264657
When I was younger I felt the need to be more adventurous (and kinda was curious too) so I found myself trying anal, both giving and getting. tbh it's not surprising that someone having enough anal will eventually have a mishap. I've heard similar stories from most guys who go for that. It's also not unusual for scrotes to still be enthusiastically into anal even after being shat on in a big way. I don't get it. I kept hearing these stories and while I've never had a mishap myself I felt like I was fucking with scat fetishists based on some of the fun lil stories they shared. I stopped liking it over time and my bf still nagged for it knowing I wasn't into it. Anal fans are charming like that lol

If its not appealing to you then don't go there full stop. Men who get anal just want more and more of it. That is a boundary to protect.

No. 264672

>>264661
This is how I felt about it when i started to look into it. He told me how you can't eat for a day, you have to empty your bowels and douche etc etc the whole process just sounds horrible. Idk how or why I would want to do that but he still seems fixated on it

No. 264677

>>264672
People who are into anal and into large insertions (fisting, above average toys) might do the fasting part but most don't. Most of the time you pick a day where your bowel movement was good and you might use an enema bulb beforehand. You're notba porn star planning your life around sex. The fact that he'd even expect a partner to fast for a day for him to get his kicks is an insult on top.

No. 264684

>>264657
Don't wanna do it? Don't do it. You're clearly resisting the idea of it. Remember you have a perfectly fine vagina where his dick is made to go which is also pleasureable for both of you.

No. 264694

>>264672
If you don't want to do it and you're not doing it for yourself, don't.

I like anal, but I've told partners that want to do it that I won't do anything to clean myself out beforehand and if it goes to shit thats the risk theyre taking swimming up shit creek. No way am I starving myself for a day or disrupting my intestinal flora so a man can fuck a shithole and not worry about shit happening. No accidents yet though.

No. 264773

>>264047
>>264058
>>264536
>>264553
Ok so i'm taking generic lexapro for depression and anxiety. I have come to a point where I can barely function. I knew I needed help and had to get medicated to get better or on better footing mental health wise. Like I literally lost 25 pounds because I was too lazy to get out of bed and eat. Anxiety is worse than my depression however.

I see that some people are prescribed wellbutrin to counteract the negative side effects of SSRIs and it can help with libido. I'll ask my psyciatrist about it when I can see him and hope to god it works.

I have masturbated twice since my last posting and each session only resulted in one orgasm. First one was somewhat quick but hard to reach, second session took a while. Lots of arm work thats obviously distracting.

No. 264855

>>264773
It varies, personally I was given Wellbutrin for the sexual side effects and it was like a sugar pill. And psychiatrists told me that's the only antidepressant with little-to-no sexual issues, so there isn't anything else to try. So I think you should keep your fingers crossed that Wellbutrin and possibly slowly tapering off Lexapro (long term use of SSRIs is bad, the longer you stay the less they work). If not maybe learn coping techniques for living with asexuality in therapy, which is what I tried to do.

No. 264935

My boyfriend asked me if he could film me sucking him off since we're going to be apart for a month. Part of me finds the idea hot but my gut is telling me it's a bad move. It's not that I don't trust him, it just feels weird.

Any nonas been in my shoes?

No. 264937

>>264935
Don't do it. Men keep those and then put them online once they dump their girlfriends.

No. 264939

>>264935
Absolutely not, that would mean your face is in it. Maybe if he was your husband, but definitely not for a boyfriend. The chances of that video getting around and eventually being shown to your future employer or your parents are way too high.

No. 264943

>>264935
Absolutely don't do it

No. 264953

>>264935
Another vote for hell no.

No. 264970

>>264935
To really get the message across, absolutely not. There's a big chance it'll be uploaded online w/o your consent.

No. 265061

>>264935
It's just a month, he's not going to die having to use his imagination or something for that bit.

No. 265064

My boyfriend wants me to squirt but I just can't manage to do it. The only time I have been able to is when I was with a very well endowed guy a couple of times. I can't tell him he's too small to make me squirt, but it's honestly true. The worst part is that he keeps bragging that he is big, because he says he is 6.5".. but honestly, I don't believe he measured correctly. I never measured anyone, but his dick is definitely completely average.

No. 265065

>>265064
Personally I prefer more average dicks, but it is so weird to me guys make a fuss about their penis size when they are average. My boyfriend loves to joke about having large dick problems, but his is definitely average. My ex definitely had a huge dick and we genuinely did have issues. His dick would literally get stuck in me (we'd had to wait for like 10 minutes for my vaginal muscles to relax so he could soften a tad), I had a lot more pain during sex, etc. I don't fight it, but it seems a little silly. My boyfriend is one of those chronically convinced guys that thinks he is ugly so maybe it is to make up for it. Sad if so. Anyway.

No. 265071

>>265064
Even if he is 6.5 inches… that's average

No. 265074

>>265064
be honest with him and say you can only squirt from bigger penises. there is nothing stopping you from saying this unless you feel he may get abusive or violent from it, in that case it's understandable.
any man who brags about how big his dick is never actually has a big dick, they're just hyping themselves up and they need to get put in their place. it's the same as men saying they're good at eating pussy but it just feels like porridge being slurped off a table.

idk i just feel like if you aren't honest with him soon then he's just going to carry on pestering you about this stuff and maybe eventually assume it's a problem on your end even though it isn't.

No. 265124

>>265064
you must have a loose af pussy kek(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 265133


No. 265135

>>265124
t. pencil dicked moid

No. 265138

Retarded question but can vibrators desensitize your clit? My ex made me cum twice a year and ive been using vibrators since i was 16. I havent cummed from a person's touch since 2015 and i started fucking this new guy and he gives really good head and touches me really well i just find it really hard to orgasm. I masturbate maybe 4 times a week but im taking a break cuz i really wanna see if i can orgasm from another persons touch.

No. 265156

>>265138
Some pseudo/pop articles will say yes, but no. Many women can only orgasm with toys or vibrators, it all depends on how sensitive your clit is. I personally rarely, if ever orgasm from someone giving me head because I like a lot of pressure, and that's not bad nor is it abnormal (I don't watch porn either). Why not just include toys in the sex you're having with this guy atm?

No. 265166

>>265064
Squirting isn't real, holy shit are you all pornsick or something? "Squirting" is what happens when you have a full bladder and a dick is hammering on it from the inside and some pee squirts out cause you can't hold it in. It doesn't come out of your vagina. It's pee. That's why they tell you, you have to "relax" to make squirting happen, cause otherwise you won't piss yourself. If you want to "squirt" for your coombrained pornsick boyfriend just let loose and piss all over him.

No. 265177

>>265166
No one said it isn't piss kek but it still feels good for some women. Stop crying about it

No. 265179

>>265177
Then just piss yourself during sex, what is stopping you?

No. 265210

>>265138
Yes but it is temporary. If you use hard pressure and strong vibes its gonna be harder to orgasm from lighter stimulation, but just go a few days without masturbating and the sensitivity increases.

No. 265916

>>264661
I don't understand the "you can't physically orgasm from anal" argument, you can't physically orgasm from stuff like blowjobs, kissing, rubbing, spanking etc. but people do these things because a lot about sex is psychological.

No. 265919

Nonnas i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I never felt any pleasure at all from penetration alone, I have a small vibrator but when I insert anything, it feels like there is nothing inside there. I can cum from clitoral stimulation but penetration just gives absolutely nothing.
I love him very much and he is very considerate and tries his best, I would say I feel aroused enough until we try to put anything inside.
I don't know if I have like a physical reason for this to happen, but we grew up catholic and in the beginning of our relationship, I had lots of concerning thougts about sex, that's why when we started having it, we just masturbate each other. Maybe we did this too much and now I can't feel pleasure like a normal person.
Is it 100% a religious thing or should I go to a doctor or anything?

No. 265925

>>265916

I agree. Call me a pickme if you want, but I actually like anal. I can't orgasm from PIV either without clit stimulation and it's the same for anal. It's not like you don't have nerves down there. It's pleasant, and when I'm rubbing my clit I definitely cum. Probably even harder than PIV. Here come the accusations that I'm a scrote.

No. 265926

>>265919

I also feel nothing from penetration. I mean, I feel it happening but it's just a neutral feeling, like inserting a tampon. Just embrace it and stimulate your clit during sex. It's fairly common from what I understand.

No. 265927

>>265916
>>265925
I agree, I probably wouldn't do full blown anal but I don't think it's weird for women to like it, as long as no one pressures you into it.

No. 265937

>>265926
nta, but I don't experience pleasure stimulating my clit. I've never truly masturbated. I tried it three times, but each time, it was like scratching out a booger. If my boyfriend does it enough, I'll physically loosen up and get wetter, but there's literally no feeling. If he does it too aggressively or for too long, it's like the same nauseating jitters from too much caffeine, plus slight pain. I've never orgasmed. My body climaxes, my thighs shake and muscles begin to give out, but there's no feeling and mentally it's neutral and begins to feel like a chore, so there's no finish line.

No. 265942

>>265937
>i've never orgasmed

goddesses are weeping

No. 265944

>>265925
Same.
I have been insterting things in my butthole since I was a child. Nobody forced me into enjoying it. The first time I did it with a man and with most men I've done it, I was the one to suggest it. I can give myself a clit orgasm very easily when doing anal. Some women can truly enjoy anal sex without the influence of men or porn, get over it.

No. 265953

>>265944
A warning to other anons to practice anal at their own risk; some have lost rectal functioning with just one sexual encounter and have ended up in diapers or disabled. It may be pleasurable, but is it worth it?

No. 265954

>>265937
Jesus… have you tried vibrators?

No. 265958

>>265954
Yes, they're awful, the over-sensation of my bf rubbing my clit but multiplied by 10.

No. 265960

>>265958
Have you tried over clothes/underwear? I have an annoyingly sensitive clit but things can feel pretty good with some layers.

No. 265965

>>265958
Have you tried lightly squeezing the area around your clit, like the attachment that forms into your labia minora? Or even just squeezing your legs? Direct clit stimulation is tricky but it's a pretty large organ so it can be stimulated in other ways too. Not sure if that'd do anything

No. 265968

>>265960
>>265965
I have tried everything mentioned. It doesn't. At least as a positive it doesn't hurt.

No. 265975

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i'm tired of having no libido. i'm gonna try doing pelvic floor exercises and take supplements.
the only time i actually managed to have sex i was drunk out of my mind so maybe it really is related to my general anxiety. i'm not anxious enough to be medicated but i think i've just grown up to be tense and overthinking at all times. early life trauma also made me very apathetic towards myself and the world around me. i want to change nonnas…

No. 265986

>>265953
I don't like the idea of anal either, but this sounds like such a massive overstatement. People are not THIS fragile.

No. 266129

>>265986
nta but a lot of pornstars have had those things happen to them after anal

No. 266143

>>266129
They were probably being raped by a monster cock and not relaxed. I would never do it with someone I didn't trust 100%. The porn industry is horrible.

No. 266637

>>265975
Just as a note, if you think anxiety contributes to having no libido, then I'd stay away from most medications since they tend to make it worse and the issues can continue even after stopping the medication. Therapy (I found CBT and other things like that more helpful than altering brain chemicals since my anxiety stemmed from irrational thoughts), exercise, better diet and supplements, and experimenting with toys can help. Good luck. I have no libido either and have been doing these things and I really hope I develop something.



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