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to the girl that i met at the beach when i was 12 years old who talked and swam with me for hours, laughed at my stupid jokes and told me that i was being cute, told me that she wanted to be my "very very good pal" then winked, held my hand, said i was cuter when i told her i found her very pretty, told me that she wanted to point blank kiss me, and made me promise to return back to the same beach because she wanted to see me again the next day but i didn't because i was way way too nervous.. where are you at now queen? no other lesbians have been that blunt to me and this memory still makes me feel like the simulation was glitching to help me realize i'm gay as hell. wtf. :(
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I'm curious, what kind of women are you all into? Any particular features or styles you go for?
Looks-wise, I tend to notice women's stomachs/abs and arms/shoulders, odd as that may sound. A nice pair of abs or some muscle definition in their arms really does something for me. My girlfriend thinks it's a little strange; she's very much into round booty and long legs, kek. I also have a weakness for black hair + tan skintones.
Girlfriend and I are also a bit divided on style preferences…she likes those sharp polished femme girls, but I really go for 90's grunge/skater/punk girls, tattoos, dyed hair, piercings, anyone who looks a bit rebellious. At least my girlfriend and I are united in our love for goth ladies and soft butch tomboys like picrel.>>174121
This gave me feels. Also reminds me of my best friend in high school who was drop-dead gorgeous, and also had black hair and tanned skin, ugh
. This friend decided that I was her "daughter" and she was my "mom" and this meant it was OK for us to be hugging and kissing each other on the cheek and generally being super-affectionate. I figured out I was gay about a year after she got switched to another school and we stopped seeing each other.
I do, although I do live in a violently homophobic country. I also have economic and religious reasons that make me want to leave but homophobia is the main one. The only thing that made me cope with living here was the hope of finding a country where I can finally live instead of be in a constant state of survival. The entire TRA situation in the west kinda crushed that hope though. If that ideology keeps getting more popular there then I'd just leave a country where I'm called a deviant degenerate for one where I'm called a bigot for being a lesbian. What's the difference?
The fact that there's no good place in the world for lesbians has kept me up at night more than once. How do you girls cope with it?
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>>174131>I'm curious, what kind of women are you all into? Any particular features or styles you go for?
I prefer chubby women, as long as she’s healthy enough to like go for walks with me without dying. Big plus if she’s shorter than me too. I don’t really care about abs but strong arms make me melt. I love body hair on women too, I think it’s really cute.
Style-wise butch and GNC women own my heart. Especially if they’re a bit alternative. I love tattoos, especially sleeves. Also I know we’re supposed to find it cringy but I kinda love it when they dress like teenage boys lol. Like sneakers and band tshirts.
Lea DeLaria is pretty close to my ideal. If she dressed like a metalhead she’d be perfect.
>>174139>Also I know we’re supposed to find it cringy but I kinda love it when they dress like teenage boys lol.
Hehe same here.
Lea looks good for a woman in her 60s, she must be a happy lady!
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I get you, and had similar fears (mostly was afraid of some tranny going apeshit on me) but the reality is like the >>174165
said. Transgender ideology mainly exists online and for many of them it is a roleplay/fetish.
I just looked up related stats from Canada, because it is one of the countries I think of at least trying to live in and because everyone paints it as some transgendered hellhole where everyone gets puberty blockers on their 12th birthday. Granted, the survey was from 2018, BUT >First, these results can be compared with the results from the Survey of Safety in Public and Private Spaces (SSPPS) conducted by Statistics Canada in 2018, which also contained questions about sex at birth and gender. According to that survey, 0.24% of the Canadian population was comprised of transgender men, women or non-binary individuals.
Less than 1%. In real world you would be interacting with straight normies that don't know anything about twitter gender wars that are happening every day. They would not be calling you a bigot for not sucking dick. You should look at it from another point and start thinking about normal people, not terminally online retards
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About the same 2018 survey from https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/200909/dq200909a-eng.htm
. You can see non-straights are around 4% of population compared to <1% gender people. So reality isn't as grim as it looks on the web.
Yeah I know, that's why I haven't given up on leaving. It's just that I'm not as optimistic about it as I used to.>>174169>>174168
Thanks for the stats! That does give me some relief. My only exposure to the west and gay communities is online so I have no idea how it is irl. Honestly it's not the straight normies that I'm worried about. If you want to meet women irl (bars, meetups, etc), you'd eventually have to deal with wokies and gender specials wouldn't you? Unless you only try to online date or get really lucky and find a sane woman through other means. At least that's how it seems to me from what I gathered (for example: I hear that GSA assocs at school are mostly gay, trans and some bis nowadays).
How is it in your experience?
From you first post I thought you were worried about the general public calling you bigot, so that is why I found some stats to show that gendies are a really small population
I can't give you an advice rooted in experience because I am the anon that asked the original question about moving.>If you want to meet women irl (bars, meetups, etc), you'd eventually have to deal with wokies and gender specials wouldn't you?
I worry about that too. Also, moving countries doesn't mean I would find a relationship (though chances would be higher) but my thoughts are - if I don't at least try, I will regret it. I know if I stay my chances at a happy romantic life would be lower not only because of being closeted and potentially lonely, but also because of my legal status. I couldn't just sit and try to build life with another woman while I know that legally we are two strangers and have to either jump through hoops or pay enormous taxes in some cases (inheritance, buying property together etc.). You can forget about having any children too.
>I hear that GSA assocs at school are mostly gay, trans and some bis nowadays
From what I've read, GSA is full of straight girls and gendies lol that don't shy away from witch hunting gays. Or maybe I am thinking of another association.
You could look into being an international student for example, and working at your destination country afterwards for couple of years and see how it is.
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I used to be a nonbinary and my gf peaked me. We're both farmers now. Literally living the dream
I'm a tomboy, the kind with sneakers, oversized t-shirts and snapbacks and defined muscle. I'm either into really femme-presenting cute girls that have a mischievous side and can be brutal when in trusted company. My dream gf would be a femme girl with small stature but a foul mouth, a good sense of humor, a relentless manhating terf
who's into smutty sex. Always been a huge weak point for me and I dream about someone like her all the time.
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Great thread pic and I like your prompts in the OP as well, cheers.
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
lmfao love this, though i got no cows i'm that fond of. Dasha Nekrasova is cute to me but she is upsettingly retarded.
>bitch about being lonely
I AM LONELYYYYYYYYYYYYY the woman i want seems to reciprocate but it's complicated. i wish i had a magic wand
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I feel the labels are unnecessary and cultish. I particularly dislike the sorta butch that larps as a fuccboi, though I find them hot in general. Just not into anyone that wants to meme themselves into male socialization. I'll take any fit/slim woman with nice skin and a good brain really, it's not about the butch/femme scale for me.
>how did you know you were gay?
I've always known that I was attracted to women but it took falling in love with one in my mid 20s to realize men aren't included in my sexuality. The way I felt for her romantically was just completely above and beyond any man I thought I loved. I realized I only felt close friendship to men.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I rant about how gross and useless men are when drunk. Is that a stereotype? It certainly makes the men in the room uncomfortable which is a good thing.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Pretty girly in style early on, though I began to wear baggy male clothes once my body developed and men started to give me too much attention. Tried to hide it.
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I really love the soft gamine style with some punk elements. Dresses and long skirts sometimes are cute, but I'm not really into heels and long hair. Buzzcuts make women 100% more beautiful and noticeable to me. Someone similar size to me, maybe a little shorterBonus points if she's short with a fiery temper kek
My other type would be someone slightly chubby and taller than me, I think it'd be nice to cuddle.
My style is pretty basic, a lot of turtlenecks, oversized sweaters and pants, and boots almost all year. So basically Daria
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>>174139> I know we’re supposed to find it cringy but I kinda love it when they dress like teenage boys lol. Like sneakers and band tshirts.
Is that cringe? I'm very cringe then, kek.>>174240>gamine
Love it. I really wish there were more tomboys and gamines out there in the media; I know they exist IRL. But scrotes can only fap to femme
lesbians so that's what we've mostly been getting. And I'm worried that a whole lot of young girls see all boyish women as fakebois in denial. Like girls are having a whole gender identity crisis over wanting to cut their hair short and stop wearing makeup or smth.
said it was some kid on TikTok who did. The people smearing it with Nazi shit are probably angry troons themselves. Not an uncommon strategy of theirs
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Maybe he started it but 4chan helps spreading it and they even made the colors of the "flag" that's now used on Reddit
I think most people behind this movement with a working brain understand that 1), being same-sex attracted is not even in the same universe as being a troon, and 2), lesbians aren't forcing anyone to sleep with them or trying to convince people to "unpack their genital preferences", or call people "genital fetishists". People have created the "LGB drop the T" movement for a reason, and i think most straights understand that being gay is a natural state, while being trans-identified is a mentall illness.
People that used to discriminate against the lgb community will continue to do so old-fashioned style, why do they have to have a 'super'-movement to prop up their hatred? Besides, I dont think people who support homosexuals will suddenly 'peak' and stop supporting, we've done literally nothing except for exist.
Which lesbian want straight men to fuck her, lmao?
Because that's the whole point of the superstraight thing. It was caused by trannies insisting that everyone must validate them sexually. No one else in the LGBT does that shit, only the Ts.
>>174527>Normies do not see a difference between a lesbian, gay man or a troon.
Stop acting like sexuality and gender are the same. >the LGBT acceptance rates are dropping, you really think this has nothing to do with you
Yeah it has to do with the people telling others that if they like bio men/women they are "genital fetishists". Or the people getting women's shelters closed down because they don't want to accept men. Or the people giving hormones to kids who aren't even old enough to drive but can apparently make life changing decisions.
Anon don't be obtuse, don't try to waterdown all our issues into the same thing like this is "all lives matter". this superstraight thing has plenty of push from both lesbians and gay men who saw their spaces being coopted.
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I don't understand why we should ignore woke homophobia. My life doesn't revolve around straight people who were never supportive in the first place. I'm not staying in a toxic social alliance and ignoring homophobia just to have woke points.
a strong number amongst gay men that specifically want to sleep with straight men but yeah, largely I agree.
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Monday night, getting drunk and watching Strawberry Panic. Yeah I know its scrote shit but I'm lonely and a weeb. Haven't watched this shit since middle school so kind of excited to see how much my taste has changed.
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That was the first yuri anime I ever saw. I hate the main couple too much to rewatch lol but Amane is still waifu material
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Anons, do you believe in love at first sight? Somehow I instantly knew that my GF was the one— or at least she immediately piqued my interest. I couldn't stop thinking of her and made any excuse to talk with her. Of course, after getting to know her I've come to love her even more, so much that the initial spark can't even compare. But I do believe it was love at first sight.
No, I just think that type of argument is as shallow as the notion popular/mainstream is automatically vapid and inferior to "high art".
It's also naive to think that coomers can't like something that isn't even trying to appeal to them and base your in relation to theirs. The whole point of them being coomers is that they sexualize everything. I'm not going to stop liking something just because they do too.
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This is really sweet and I really wish to experience it . Idk about love at first sight thing though, I more believe in a spark at first conversation>Somehow I instantly knew that my GF was the one— or at least she immediately piqued my interest
But maybe the red thread of fate is real though. This will sound stupid, but I know my soulmate exists. I don't know if I will ever meet her but I know she is somewhere there and I am pretty sure she is aware of me.
I love tomboys/butch/masc/androgynous women so much. Undercuts and alternative fashion are huge pluses but teeters into weirdo territory pretty fast. Someone who's active and will indulge my impulsive need to go on long walks and maybe take a trip out to go hiking or camping. I love women who are taller than me but it's not that hard since I'm short lol.
I like to dress really feminine and "proper" (e.g. long skirts/dresses) and like the contrast of alternative vs traditional fashions. I feel like liking more butch women while being femme plays into traditional gender roles, it doesn't look the best on me as someone who thought she was bi for most of my life but I like what I like (and it definitely is not men).
This seriously sounds like a joke. That sub only makes me depressed because those women call themselves lesbians and in the same breath talk about how their husbands are the love of their lives and soulmates. Ew. While there are several lesbians that have come out, the majority are middle-aged women that spend all their free time on reddit and twitter, so they think liking She-ra makes them lesbian or something>pretty void of girldick uwu troons
True, so I guess it is one of the best spaces for lesbians on reddit. Only you need a lot of patience for all the married women.
Anyways, I love saidit.net Lesbian sub, only it is really slow and has small amount of members. It was created after truelesbians were termed.
I mean I agree, but I find it way easier to ignore the married women as opposed to ignoring troons. I've yet to find a lesbian space online that's not infiltrated by troons and/or straight/bi/questioning women to at least some degree.
I'll check out the site you mentioned, thanks for the rec!
I got married in my early twenties back when I was hoping to just supress that shit. The marriage lasted all of two years as we never even consummated it so one day he snapped and broke free of our non-relationship. So I can understand covering shit up but how do you cover it up THAT well and partake in a lesbian space all with no intent of actually leaving him?
It's like when 'proud asexual' women have marriages with regular sexual relations for the mans sake…like get out of there. Sex you don't truly want will fuck you up for years to come. Are we normalising that?
I used to think me seeing women as more beautiful than men had to do with men being utter slobs. >>175127
asexual has lost it's meaning. It used to people who didn't have any desire for sex. Now it's anyone who isn't a coomer. I blame the media for painting out the general public as sex-obsessed when most people aren't. This wouldn't be such a big deal if so many straight people who aren't asexual didn't keep using asexuality as an excuse act up.
It is true though, men are less attractive than women on average, which makes everything even more confusing.
For me it was understanding the difference between seeing an attractive woman and attractive man. For women I have instant pull, sometimes it is sexual and sometimes it is straight up thirst
for men - I can look at them and anything beyond 'huh, nice' has to be consciously created in my mind. If we went by the everyone is bisexual ideology, then I would say my attraction to men is a lot more cerebral and has to be actively created and maintained by my mind.
She is aware, so hopefully whatever (probably weird) first impression I made can be made better over time. I'm the kind of person who has to warm up to people.
I'm seeing her again this week, I'm so excited but still nervous. At least now the initial first meeting is out of the way.
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I believe in you! One day soon you'll live in the Coffee Shop AU version of your life.
i dunno if i'm posting in the right thread or not considering i'm questioning if i'm a lesbian but still like 80% sure of it. so i'm 19 and i've dated probably like 7 guys. none of them i've been happy with. i've talked to guys as well and hooked up and whatever but genuinely never felt anything, i felt uncomfortable and i always get this feeling of like .. just aching in my stomach. i feel like i'm being forced to do something i genuinely have no interest in. i only like guys when they play ''hard to get'' but as soon as i get them, they're out and i feel disgusted by them. i can't fathom being in a relationship with a man and i've always been more attracted to women and the concept of dating a woman, but i've been repressing it in a form of internalized lesbophobia because while i didn't grow up religious or anything, i just feel ashamed. i won't be able to bond with my girlfriends with 'boy talk'' or whatever and i feel like i might lose a lot of friends when we sort of lose that grasp of bonding in the form of ''boy talk'' it sounds genuinely stupid but i'm just scared that people might not be accepting. i'm just so confused because i've heard of comphet and stuff but i've only slightly considered myself to be lesbian, i'll see myself as lesbian one day and bisexual with a strong female lean the other day. i just don't know what to do because another guy is interested in me but i just can't provide to that, this is all so much to process and even though i'm an adult granted, i just turned 19 last month i still feel fucking scared. like i'm supposed to know what to do, i'm supposed to know how to handle this but i just can't. i just fucking don't know what to do. sorry for sperging and kind of a blogpost, i don't know anyone who's felt this way before so any reply, like literally any reply is appreciated.
>>175708> i've been repressing it in a form of internalized lesbophobia because while i didn't grow up religious or anything, i just feel ashamed
Yeah, I understand - was always accepting of gays until started to think that I may be one of them. It is harder, because now you will have to experience all the negative parts of being homosexual too, not just the fandom tier acceptance and fetishization>i won't be able to bond with my girlfriends with 'boy talk''
A real fear for me too, but I am afraid I won't be able to pass as a straight woman in front of acquaintances. As far as friends go, there are het women out there that are are not men-obsessed. And yes, I think there will be people that will leave you because they can't accept your sexuality, sorry
Idk, if you don't want the guy, don't do it, really. You are only 19 and one missed dick is not going to ruin your life.
And>as lesbian one day and bisexual with a strong female lean the other day.
I think the distinction doesn't matter here, if you are so much more attracted to women. Like, even if you are bi in this case you would still be happier in a relationship with a woman; a possible occasional male attraction is not going to save you.
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thank you. like seriously thank you because i have been thinking of losing friends for being lesbian because they'll think i have a crush on them or something but i think me being happy and comfortable with my sexuality matters more than some straight girls stereotyping me and thinking i'm in love with every girl i see. i'm going to think about it for a while, but at this point i'm sure. so, so sure that i am a lesbian. and even if i'm not i still appreciate you replying and helping me out. ty anon
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>>175708>questioning if i'm a lesbian but still like 80% sure >i've dated probably like 7 guys
For fuck’s sake anon.
All my friends are the straight, "normie", slightly religious type and they've all accepted me when I came out. Best of luck to you nonnie
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Went to Reddit because I was curious just how bad it had gotten. Incredible
Any good lesbian romance novels out there? I'm lonesome and looking for something mushy.>bitch about being lonely
All of the lesbians I meet are either fuckbois, too young, or taken. >butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I've never been fully either one, my casual clothes are very butch(I have a manual labor job) but I like to dress up femme from time to time>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I have a drawer full of flannels and drive a subaru. I have a high voice and like "femme" crafts like lacemaking and sewing>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
I ran around in the woods in boy's clothes, but also liked to wear dresses. I did make my barbies kiss and played out fantasies of them running away together to live in a cottage in the woods. I didn't really think of clothes as masculine or feminine, my parents didn't really care as long as they were clean.>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
My wife is tan and muscular, her breath smells like the sweet mint gum she chews while we spend the day working on our farm. We're sweaty and filthy from work and take a water break under a tree. She falls asleep on my shoulder and her hair is warm and smells like sunshine. At the end of the day we walk back to the house and eat crockpot stew while listening to folk music.
Thanks anon, I hope I'll meet her one day.>>176270
This, I was an out and proud tumblry type in high school but once I went out in the working world I had to be much more cautious.
Kind of related- I hate how coming out is portrayed as this big event done once. You never stop having to come out with every new person you meet. When your co-workers talk about relationships or ask if you have a big you have to read the room every time, and usually in my case, deflect the questions if you're not sure. Sometimes you can be pleasantly surprised by acceptance but sometimes people you thought were accepting actually aren't. As an adult there are more consequences.>I don't have time for a bf haha >Oh I'm picky, you know how guys are >I'm taking some time for myself before I get back out there
I feel ya. I'm in some gay and some supposed female-only spaces but they have trannies in them and I'm not sure who else is like me but I personally pretend I'm pro-trans just to get by. It is my hope that many of us are merely pretending to humor these sick scrotes but it's frustrating as shit having our already tiny spaces invaded like this. It saddens me further that maybe someone who also hates tranny presence in our lesbian spaces thinks of me
as a handmaiden just because I'm hiding my true feelings. Anyway, getting rambly. It sucks.
I don't really care if people wanna self mutilate, doesn't affect me and I'll use the pronouns regardless of context but I want my lesbian spaces back. It's too much.
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I want to be the buff, protective, 6'+ tall girlfriend, but I am just a 5'4" midget. feelsbadman. I want to know what the air up there is like
You can still be my protective gf
What it comes down to is very straightforward, but for some reason acts as a huge point of contention both ITT and every other LGBT community. Lesbians don't have sex with men. Simple as that. Keep in mind I'm a fairly young woman (early 20's) who has known about and accepted her attraction to women since childhood, but seriously. This is not rocket science.
Honestly, I could only believe that a late bloomer of that sort is actually a lesbian under very extreme circumstances. For example, if the marriage was forced or otherwise arranged, the husband was abusive
or otherwise difficult to escape, and she lived in an extremely homophobic area all her life. Personally I can't fathom having a prolonged romantic relationship with a man, much less having sex with one (on even a single occasion!)– and God forbid I bear his children. I would rather die a loveless, KHHV than suffer that fate. And to be honest, that'd be only slightly less hellish than dating a self-proclaimed late bloomer "lesbian."
Like, God. Nobody will hate you for being bisexual, so there's no need to pretend otherwise. I wish they'd just hook up with each other and leave us out of it.
>>176823>I would rather die a loveless, KHHV than suffer that fate
Funny you say that, because historically many homosexuals ended up being celibate. And both Christians and Muslims kind still say stuff like>being homosexual doesn't mean you have to act on your sinful desires, you can just dedicate your life to God
Also would love to know once and for all why so many bisexuals unashamedly call themselves lesbians while they have been with 0 women in total but have several ex-boyfriends. First cross that pussy bridge and then start calling yourself a raging gay bean
We can definitely tell you're not male, don't worry dog. PCOS looking like trans is just a tranny cope.>>176823
The vast majority of those closeted straight marriages have completely dead bedrooms. The children are made for the purpose of having something to pour your love into (or whatever other reason people have to spawn em, idk) but they're not like, accidents from having hella sex. But yeah the odds of a gay woman that grew up in a non-homophobic family/community that somehow ends up in a straight marriage for most of her life are very low.
Not sure if I'd date one with kids but without kids, I wouldn't mind at all. I do believe a gay woman can have a ltr with a man. There are a ton of reasons a woman might feel pressured to date/fuck men, and from what I've seen latebloomers are usually women who got married and had kids really young and are then essentially trapped in a sexless relationship with a dude they only love platonically. There's often stuff like financial dependency etc that makes them stay in the relationship even years after they've realized they're actually gay.
Also, unpopular opinion here, I do think a persons sexuality can shift over time. Maybe they were bi to begin with and over time, as they get older and experience changes in hormone levels etc they find themselves more attracted to women than before. But that's just how I see it. As long as they're women in relationships with/pursuing women and they eat pussy they're gay enough for me and are allowed to call themselves lesbians, I don't have any weird hangups over them having had sex with dicks before even if I haven't.
Anon your ex is terrible I'm sorry. She doesn't get to redefine your sexuality just because she can't cope with being female, that's insanely narcissistic.
>I'm scared I'll get stuck in a victim-savior relationship again or that my next gf will troon out.
I feel this so hard. I'm mainly into butch/masc women and it feels like they're all ticking timebombs now for transition. I won't date anyone who's not openly terfy.
Thanks anon, I'm mostly into femmes and even then I've met a few he/him/theys with cleavage and makeup. I don't get it.
We broke up a while ago but I stayed friends with her because I still felt responsible to make sure she was okay and because I still had feelings for her
, so I've been dipping in and out of the dating scene and running into the same thing. There are no real lesbian only spaces left online or off it seems. Some of my close friendships are actually with gay men, partially because they don't accept this nonsense either. We can chat without some weird tangent about validity or checks to see whether you're woke enough. Gay men get away with ignoring those types more than women. They have apps like Grindr for men only, but any women's sites have to be "queer" and accept everyone. I hate the word queer, and don't understand how quickly a reclaimed slur became a standard term.
Nta but you mentioned grindr which reminds me I just downloaded her dating app. It has a million gender options to choose from but no woman. Only womxn. Like enbies get their special genders but women cant just be women in lesbian dating app? Also trans man was an option, not trans mxn. >>177535
Im more masculine myself and one girl I dated said it would be "so cute" if I was a trans guy. Now Im worried I attract trans chasers when I am not even trans.
Me too, but it is better now than it was a couple of years ago. Still wish I was bi though and have a hope that my sexuality is just a phase that will end with the lockdown.>>177405
Wait till you get to the 'homophobic homosexual' phase, though imo I have a good reason to hate American lgbtq activists since they are setting back our rights big time
I'm sorry you went through that. Someone trying to redefine my sexuality because they started calling themselves a boy would piss me off so damn much. I'm not usually open about how TERFy I am (except around my gf, since she is too) but I'd get a lot more open very quickly if someone tried to convince me that I'm "bisexual" because I'm into soft butch tomboys who also might someday think of themselves as dudes.
We're not attracted to "gender identities" or the fantasy roleplay alter-egos that some people hold in their heads, we're attracted to the physical reality. >>177589
I swear I'm not some kind of lesbian fuckboy (fuckboi?) but I fantasize about a lesbian hookup culture more like what gay dudes have. Lez bathhouses and the like. I'm sure IRL it's actually pretty loveless to go around screwing random strangers but hey, it's a fantasy. Besides, if something like this existed IRL it would be colonized by gurldick in less than a week, ugh.
You're lucky to be a virgin, no matter how old you are. It gives you the chance to experience your first time with someone you really love who loves you in return. Sex is not something you have to try just to get it over with and join the sex-havers club. Look at the "losing virginity" thread on here. So many Anons feel disappointed in themselves for being impatient, getting pressured into it, going for hookups, etc.
I never intended to wait till marriage and I don't care for the "purity" narrative, but I feel enourmously lucky that my first time will be with my fiancee who loves me so much. (Honestly, we'll probably bang before the wedding, but I digress.)
Are you sure you not just very picky? I see conventionally attractive femmes on dating apps all the time.
t. ugly fuck
Going into lesbian thread and starting off with the>why are all lesbians fucking ugly
and thinking you will find support here was really not the brightest decision. Hope you are pretty enough to offset that retardation
Good advice. I'm not really looking for hookups rn because I'm not single, but I have nothing against bi women either. (Current gf is bi.) I did hook up with several bicurious mostly-straight women when I was younger, all fun and good times.
Now, I would absolutely hesitate to hook up with a bi woman who's currently
involved with a dude somehow, because you just know he's going to try to butt in at some point, even if she swears he'll stay far away and is cool with her exploring herself and so on. Seems like a number of women on dating apps are like this; they're not openly unicorn-hunting but they're not 100% single either.>>177719TERF
anon here, I met my gf at an anime convention. kek
I'm also not up to your soft-pretty-femme standards, though my gf might be. TBH I peaked because I look so butch/dykey that I got constantly mistaken for a fakeboi, saw lots of butch acquaintances troon out, and it got to me.
Absolutely based post. Tired of these coomers thinking they're entitled to the lesbian fantasy gf who looks like a breathtaking porn star or a runway model simply because they're "femme and not ugly" themselves. >>177737
It's called the useless lesbian syndrome. Lesbian women know how scrotes creep on women and how awful it is, so they're scared of being the predatory homosexual. After you've grown up in an environment that doesn't encourage same sex romance and fetishizes lesbian relationships to exist only for sexualization purposes it's hard to care about having relationships. Also because a lot of us didn't have the chance to explore the romantic and sexual side of our personalities during our teens for obvious reasons we never got to find out our needs and develop the necessary skills for relationships.
Imo it is just a one facet of a bigger problem - lesbian spaces being overrun by political lesbians. Also would explain why comphet is so popular, since you can claim that you had relationships with men because of le ebil society and not because you willingly engaged with them. Gold stars disprove the argument that every single woman is violently pushed into het relationships (and women have no choice but to submit to the pressure), which makes polilezzies seethe since we are ruining their larp.
If you look at the ones that are mad at gold stars, it is never lesbians that had sex with a man once/women with actual gay experience, it is always women with an extensive history of dating men that now want to retcon their lives
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Wasn't Rich one of the feminist activists that basically invented political lesbianism? And comphet is a polilez term? Therefore women need to actually read the work and educate themselves on what comphet actually is? I don't understand what you meant exactly.
Picrel quotes from the pdf, where Rich implies that being a lesbian is a political action and more of a refusal to marry than inherent sexual orientation. Associating lesbianism with political choice and movement opens a whole new world of spergs that inhabit lesbian spaces
Agree with this 100%. For me, comphet was about having "crushes" on fictional anime bishounen or otherwise unobtainable male pop idols. (Bonus points: I got to gossip about these guys with the girls I had actual crushes on.) As a teen I concluded that I was asexual because all IRL men were beyond revolting to me, with the purely theoretical exception of certain androgynous-looking celebs who were safely out of my league anyway. I never felt compelled to date or sleep with a guy at any point.
I've got nothing against bisexual women, and I'm not going to take away someone's gay card if they tried dick a couple times just to make sure they really hated it, but JFC you're not a lesbian if you've got a string of ex-boyfriends.
I think some of the anti-gold-stars are bi women who have sworn off dating men due to multiple bad experiences; they might even prefer
women, but that doesn't erase their past history of apparently finding men attractive enough to date and sleep with multiple dudes.
This is probably gonna get me banned for blog but but I need advice. How do I get my mom to accept that I'm not going to ever have grandkids? I came out to her as a lesbian when I was about fifteen and she's been telling me to "try to have an open mind when it comes to men for her sake" ever sense. She doesn't mind my female celebrity crushes or my wiseacre misandristic remarks I make from time to time but whenever I vent about my experiences as a woman who isn't into men she starts acting weird. I've got a lot of straight girl friends and a lot of the time I feel like I don't fit in with them because they've all got boyfriends. All the time I end up fading into the background when they talk about the guys their seeing and the guys they wish they were seeing, it's isolating as hell and it makes me feel awkward about myself but there's nothing outright wrong with it so it would be irrational to ask them to shut up about it so what else can I do but vent about it in private? Or sometimes I feel like the reason I'm so lonely is because I refuse to date a bisexual woman, not because they're "tainted by men" or whatever. I've been put through a lot of traumatic experiences by men who try to challenge me based on my lack of interest in dick and I can't imagine myself connecting with anybody who doesn't know what its like which obviously someone who's bisexual never could.
But she just starts playing with her hair and avoids looking me in my eyes while she tells me "Oh, well couldn't you just play along just to humor them or something? What about so-and-so from that show you like, you gotta admit he's really handsome" or "They like girls too so they're still discriminated against, there isn't anything wrong with being attracted to men". It's like she's trying to sell me this diet brand of homosexuality so that she can continue her bloodline. I have no doubt that's what this whole thing is all about. Most of the time she's more than accepting of my lesbianism if not downright happy. She's been post-menopausal for quite some time and she's talked to me about how she's realized what shitheads men are since she's lost her sex drive so she's glad I don't date them. Its an old straight lady way of looking at it but hey, at least she likes it! Aside from this one thing. "Maybe you end up with a girl, maybe you end up with a guy" and "if you decide to find a man and settle down and make some babies", she's always saying shit like that. If she knew about some of the things that have happened to me by guys who ALSO thought I should be more open-minded she would probably stop right away but those things involve some pretty credible anonymous rape threats, groping, and being flooded with, like, a thousand unsolicited dick pics all at once (that last one at the tender age of 14 all from boys I went to school with I might add). Its an uncomfortable topic and I've only ever told my ex girlfriend about it whose reaction was surprisingly less than compassionate so I'd probably have quite a bit of trouble going over that again.
I've been staying with her until I get back on my feet for almost two years now and with all the COVID bullshit going on I don't see myself moving out for awhile so I really want to fix this. I'm growing increasingly and increasingly more uncomfortable with her bringing up the prospect of me "settling down", even unprompted. It isn't just that though. As pathetic as it sounds she's one of my best friends and I want her to fully accept who I am. What do I do?
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so what's the verdict. real or fake? also
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i want what they have
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That's pretty hot, good taste anon
bro just give me boob already. I am begging you.
Do you guys think after the lockdown era they'll be a lot more meetups and efforts for us to get together?
Quite pessimistic, but - it either won't change or everyone will become even more autistic and reclusive. Might be my country's culture, but after the first lockdown I didn't see any changes in the amount and type of events organized (I'm talking generally, not lgb-related)
I also think that lesbians aren't actually motivated to create lesbian-only events and spaces. On average, lesbians are content with sharing everything with the lgbt community and being ~inclusive~. Even if you think that there are many secret terfs out there, they are just that - secret and silent, while still engaging with tras on main
>>178573>I also think that lesbians aren't actually motivated to create lesbian-only events and spaces.
problem is that they get invaded by troons immediately. nobody wants to suck girldiqué but you aren't allowed to be vocal about it so you just keep quiet and to yourself instead of dealing with harassment for being an evil terf
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Anyone feel kind of scrotish in their dating and attraction habits sometimes? I always used to shit on scrotes for only befriending women with relationship/sex on the mind but I recently fell for a really good friend of mine. We were getting super close and I thought I had a chance until I learned she was in a relationship of 5, almost 6 years with another woman. They're basically a forever couple and it drives me insane talking to her and dreaming of what they have so I've been trying to keep my distance. I feel just a little gross knowing she probably is really concerned about our friendship imploding but it's really because I can't stop the gay thoughts. Sucks.
Women I get along with perfectly are so rare AND she's gay but she'll never be single. Feels sad man. I feel like a dumbass incel just typing this, but I really hope one day I can get over her in a romantic sense and just be genuine friends with her.
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i'm so sorry you're going through this, sister. i get it though. when i meet a girl and i really vibe with her there's always this thought in the back of my head like what if she's the one? like you just never know when you'll find someone so just considering it instead of being a useless lesbian 24/7 is a good thing.
just remember that it's okay to have crushes and, no matter what you do, you will never be as despicable as a scrote.
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>>178595>you just keep quiet and to yourself
I would have agreed with you a while ago but then I noticed how many lesbians are vocally pro-trans and how trigger
-happy they are to harass another woman for thoughtcrimes. There is a difference between keeping quiet to avoid confrontation and crying TWAW and many are in the second camp. So,> they get invaded by troons immediately
because many women are happy to invite these ~poor, oppressed uwu~ troons themselves. Yes, nobody wants to suck girldick, but that doesn't stop TRA's from going full troon-train. Case in point - MichFest, that many radfems love to talk about as some Promised Land, has always been open to trannies, it's just TRA's are retarded enough to not do any research and just jump on one event where TIM was ejected from festival in 1991.
Img not related, but just another example
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How do I cope that I’ll most likely end up with a girl who likes dick? It’s such a turn off but most girls who are into girls are bisexual or pozzed trans-inclusive queer types. The only ones that I know who aren’t accepting of dick in their lives are butch and I’m just super not into that.
goldstar lesbians still exist, but yeah
speaking from experience you will need to date/hook-up with a few bi women in your life before finding a goldstar. bi women are a lot easier to find and date, so I'd say as long as you don't get invested with them you can gain some experience until you meet the woman you want.
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>>179380>this is some redpill tier shit, like sleeping with "whores" until you find your traditional waifu.
it is what it is nonnie
. most bisexuals do not end up marrying the same sex, so you might as well keep things casual instead of getting invested in someone who's gonna leave you for a man anyways.>do you not realize you're being contaminated by dick that way?
I was simply offering her solutions. I've dated bi women before, so I'm not really hung up on the purity thing she is.