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No. 174105

Please keep posts focused on women and female homosexuality! If you want to talk about attraction toward men it probably belongs in the bisexuality thread or questioning thread. Topics of discussion may include but are not limited to:

>first crush?

>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
>cute stories about your gf
>favourite lesbian media?
>lesbian media you hate?
>coming out stories
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
>bitch about being lonely
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
>how did you know you were gay?
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
>best date?
>worst date?

No. 174111

Oh my god, thank you OP for keeping the photo vintage. Haha this made my day.

>first crush?

Phoebe Belle Cates

No. 174121

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to the girl that i met at the beach when i was 12 years old who talked and swam with me for hours, laughed at my stupid jokes and told me that i was being cute, told me that she wanted to be my "very very good pal" then winked, held my hand, said i was cuter when i told her i found her very pretty, told me that she wanted to point blank kiss me, and made me promise to return back to the same beach because she wanted to see me again the next day but i didn't because i was way way too nervous.. where are you at now queen? no other lesbians have been that blunt to me and this memory still makes me feel like the simulation was glitching to help me realize i'm gay as hell. wtf. :(

No. 174129

Do any of you plan to emigrate partially due to your sexuality? I have been thinking about it but sometimes I have doubts, since I am not from violently homophobic country and because of that my reason is not valid enough. I just want to live a normal, quiet life with a shot at marriage and without getting dirty looks from neighbors or pretending to be a straight woman that needs no man in front of everyone, somewhere where you don't get shit on for being gay. I would probably be also a lot more happy and less anxious. And yeah, I know nowhere is perfect, but there are better places.

No. 174130

I think that when I’m finally interested in dating (especially for the long-term) I might want to settle in an area where people won’t look twice if I’m holding hands with my wife.

No. 174131

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I'm curious, what kind of women are you all into? Any particular features or styles you go for?

Looks-wise, I tend to notice women's stomachs/abs and arms/shoulders, odd as that may sound. A nice pair of abs or some muscle definition in their arms really does something for me. My girlfriend thinks it's a little strange; she's very much into round booty and long legs, kek. I also have a weakness for black hair + tan skintones.

Girlfriend and I are also a bit divided on style preferences…she likes those sharp polished femme girls, but I really go for 90's grunge/skater/punk girls, tattoos, dyed hair, piercings, anyone who looks a bit rebellious. At least my girlfriend and I are united in our love for goth ladies and soft butch tomboys like picrel.

This gave me feels. Also reminds me of my best friend in high school who was drop-dead gorgeous, and also had black hair and tanned skin, ugh. This friend decided that I was her "daughter" and she was my "mom" and this meant it was OK for us to be hugging and kissing each other on the cheek and generally being super-affectionate. I figured out I was gay about a year after she got switched to another school and we stopped seeing each other.

No. 174135

I do, although I do live in a violently homophobic country. I also have economic and religious reasons that make me want to leave but homophobia is the main one. The only thing that made me cope with living here was the hope of finding a country where I can finally live instead of be in a constant state of survival. The entire TRA situation in the west kinda crushed that hope though. If that ideology keeps getting more popular there then I'd just leave a country where I'm called a deviant degenerate for one where I'm called a bigot for being a lesbian. What's the difference?

The fact that there's no good place in the world for lesbians has kept me up at night more than once. How do you girls cope with it?

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>I'm curious, what kind of women are you all into? Any particular features or styles you go for?

I prefer chubby women, as long as she’s healthy enough to like go for walks with me without dying. Big plus if she’s shorter than me too. I don’t really care about abs but strong arms make me melt. I love body hair on women too, I think it’s really cute.

Style-wise butch and GNC women own my heart. Especially if they’re a bit alternative. I love tattoos, especially sleeves. Also I know we’re supposed to find it cringy but I kinda love it when they dress like teenage boys lol. Like sneakers and band tshirts.

Lea DeLaria is pretty close to my ideal. If she dressed like a metalhead she’d be perfect.

No. 174141

>Also I know we’re supposed to find it cringy but I kinda love it when they dress like teenage boys lol.
Hehe same here.
Lea looks good for a woman in her 60s, she must be a happy lady!

No. 174143

You would fuck your pic related? Damn. The gays are not alright

No. 174161

Agree. All women are beautiful but God I wish the fat ones would lose weight. It's depressing just looking at them.

No. 174165

>The entire TRA situation in the west kinda crushed that hope though.

You could still come somewhere west and find sanctuary. There is a lot of TRA stuff, but it’s still relatively “online”. You could find someone without the fear of violence or death…

No. 174168

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I get you, and had similar fears (mostly was afraid of some tranny going apeshit on me) but the reality is like the >>174165 said. Transgender ideology mainly exists online and for many of them it is a roleplay/fetish.
I just looked up related stats from Canada, because it is one of the countries I think of at least trying to live in and because everyone paints it as some transgendered hellhole where everyone gets puberty blockers on their 12th birthday. Granted, the survey was from 2018, BUT
>First, these results can be compared with the results from the Survey of Safety in Public and Private Spaces (SSPPS) conducted by Statistics Canada in 2018, which also contained questions about sex at birth and gender. According to that survey, 0.24% of the Canadian population was comprised of transgender men, women or non-binary individuals.
Less than 1%. In real world you would be interacting with straight normies that don't know anything about twitter gender wars that are happening every day. They would not be calling you a bigot for not sucking dick. You should look at it from another point and start thinking about normal people, not terminally online retards

No. 174169

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About the same 2018 survey from https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/200909/dq200909a-eng.htm. You can see non-straights are around 4% of population compared to <1% gender people. So reality isn't as grim as it looks on the web.

No. 174170

I spent a long time thinking I wasn't into butches, turns out I'd only really been exposed to the fat white ones kek

No. 174171

Yeah I know, that's why I haven't given up on leaving. It's just that I'm not as optimistic about it as I used to.

Thanks for the stats! That does give me some relief. My only exposure to the west and gay communities is online so I have no idea how it is irl. Honestly it's not the straight normies that I'm worried about. If you want to meet women irl (bars, meetups, etc), you'd eventually have to deal with wokies and gender specials wouldn't you? Unless you only try to online date or get really lucky and find a sane woman through other means. At least that's how it seems to me from what I gathered (for example: I hear that GSA assocs at school are mostly gay, trans and some bis nowadays).

How is it in your experience?

No. 174175

From you first post I thought you were worried about the general public calling you bigot, so that is why I found some stats to show that gendies are a really small population
I can't give you an advice rooted in experience because I am the anon that asked the original question about moving.
>If you want to meet women irl (bars, meetups, etc), you'd eventually have to deal with wokies and gender specials wouldn't you?
I worry about that too. Also, moving countries doesn't mean I would find a relationship (though chances would be higher) but my thoughts are - if I don't at least try, I will regret it. I know if I stay my chances at a happy romantic life would be lower not only because of being closeted and potentially lonely, but also because of my legal status. I couldn't just sit and try to build life with another woman while I know that legally we are two strangers and have to either jump through hoops or pay enormous taxes in some cases (inheritance, buying property together etc.). You can forget about having any children too.

>I hear that GSA assocs at school are mostly gay, trans and some bis nowadays

From what I've read, GSA is full of straight girls and gendies lol that don't shy away from witch hunting gays. Or maybe I am thinking of another association.

You could look into being an international student for example, and working at your destination country afterwards for couple of years and see how it is.

No. 174177

>I'm curious, what kind of women are you all into? Any particular features or styles you go for?
i like all types of women, but the average/healthy female body is absolutely beautiful. i wish more girls with that body type learned how to love themselves.

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I used to be a nonbinary and my gf peaked me. We're both farmers now. Literally living the dream

No. 174181

I'm a tomboy, the kind with sneakers, oversized t-shirts and snapbacks and defined muscle. I'm either into really femme-presenting cute girls that have a mischievous side and can be brutal when in trusted company. My dream gf would be a femme girl with small stature but a foul mouth, a good sense of humor, a relentless manhating terf who's into smutty sex. Always been a huge weak point for me and I dream about someone like her all the time.

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No. 174185

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Great thread pic and I like your prompts in the OP as well, cheers.

>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?

lmfao love this, though i got no cows i'm that fond of. Dasha Nekrasova is cute to me but she is upsettingly retarded.

>bitch about being lonely

I AM LONELYYYYYYYYYYYYY the woman i want seems to reciprocate but it's complicated. i wish i had a magic wand

>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?

I feel the labels are unnecessary and cultish. I particularly dislike the sorta butch that larps as a fuccboi, though I find them hot in general. Just not into anyone that wants to meme themselves into male socialization. I'll take any fit/slim woman with nice skin and a good brain really, it's not about the butch/femme scale for me.

>how did you know you were gay?

I've always known that I was attracted to women but it took falling in love with one in my mid 20s to realize men aren't included in my sexuality. The way I felt for her romantically was just completely above and beyond any man I thought I loved. I realized I only felt close friendship to men.

>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?

I rant about how gross and useless men are when drunk. Is that a stereotype? It certainly makes the men in the room uncomfortable which is a good thing.

>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?

Pretty girly in style early on, though I began to wear baggy male clothes once my body developed and men started to give me too much attention. Tried to hide it.

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No. 174204

So uh… where do you live anon?

No. 174230

I like tomboys/butches and femmes as long as they look natural (not much make up, fake lashes or stuff like that, dont get me wrong it can look really pretty and cool but isnt sexually attractive to me.) Dark hair and being shorter than me are also common on the women I find attractive.

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I really love the soft gamine style with some punk elements. Dresses and long skirts sometimes are cute, but I'm not really into heels and long hair. Buzzcuts make women 100% more beautiful and noticeable to me. Someone similar size to me, maybe a little shorter
Bonus points if she's short with a fiery temper kek

My other type would be someone slightly chubby and taller than me, I think it'd be nice to cuddle.

My style is pretty basic, a lot of turtlenecks, oversized sweaters and pants, and boots almost all year. So basically Daria

No. 174243

so i'm mostly butch (buzzcut, wear men's clothes, no bra or a sports bra/binder + boxers) i don't shave or wear makeup, and i'm 5'11'' so people think i'm male 90% of the time until i speak.

recently i caved in and bought a few dresses for when the weather gets warmer, as i used to love wearing dresses as a kid and it gets pretty warm here. i haven't worn one in years now, i trooned out at 15 and then desisted a few years ago, just when i was about to get approved for HRT.

anyways idk i'm just worried people are going to stare at me a lot and think i'm a transvestite. or even worse that someone's gonna attack me because i live in a homophobic country lol. any girls went through something similar?

No. 174247

I haven’t had the same experience as you. But maybe accessorize when you wear a dress? Like add on a hat or scarf. People might not think of you as a transvestite, but rather just fashionable and edgy. But honestly do what you want and fuck other ppl. You sound cute btw lol

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> I know we’re supposed to find it cringy but I kinda love it when they dress like teenage boys lol. Like sneakers and band tshirts.
Is that cringe? I'm very cringe then, kek.


Love it. I really wish there were more tomboys and gamines out there in the media; I know they exist IRL. But scrotes can only fap to femme lesbians so that's what we've mostly been getting. And I'm worried that a whole lot of young girls see all boyish women as fakebois in denial. Like girls are having a whole gender identity crisis over wanting to cut their hair short and stop wearing makeup or smth.

No. 174292

Anon, your pic… they look like they are about to bully me. I'm scared

No. 174441

I know this SuperStraight thing is mostly satire and all, but dae think that this tactic has potential to help out lesbians? It has already made the cotton ceiling crap a bit more visible to straight normies. We could also take advantage of this loophole if normal means don't work.

No. 174448

And give nazis from 4chan who started it the satisfaction? Nope. I don't believe in "the enemy of my enemy is my friend" rule

No. 174450

It was actually started by a 16 yo kid on Tiktok…

No. 174453

As >>174450 said it was some kid on TikTok who did. The people smearing it with Nazi shit are probably angry troons themselves. Not an uncommon strategy of theirs

No. 174454

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Maybe he started it but 4chan helps spreading it and they even made the colors of the "flag" that's now used on Reddit

No. 174456

4chan is right sometimes. This is one of those times.

No. 174459

But it's the same people who would want to kill all gay men, rape lesbians to fix them and take voting rights away from women lmao I don't care if a nazi is able to notice that a male tranny is not a real woman, such observation is as obvious as poiting out that water is wet. Doesn't mean I should enable anything that comes from those subhuman men.

No. 174460

Regardless of who started it and for what reason, it's pretty obvious that people from all walks of life are sick of tranny shit and this makes it way more visible. So yes, I think it absolutely can help out lesbians, even if only to make it obvious to everyone how prevalent and awful the 'not wanting to fuck me is oppression' party line is.

No. 174468

of course twitter hijacked the hashtags and are uwu upset… can everyone just peak already, im tired.

No. 174484

not everything on the internet is from 4chan. you give that site too much credit.

No. 174485

they did not make the flag, that's not even the official flag and radfem lesbians are active on that sub too. you're giving 4chan way too much credit. the only thing they did is their usual mediocre thing of slapping nazi symbols on everything.

No. 174527

Do Superstraight stans actually think that once trans are taken down, straights are going to leave the rest of LGB alone? Are you seriously that naive? After mass peaking they are going to come for us because we are from the same community. Normies do not see a difference between a lesbian, gay man or a troon. Ffs, the LGBT acceptance rates are dropping, you really think this has nothing to do with you and after dropping the T we are going to enter gay utopia?
And yall who are ready to jump on the enemy of my enemy is my friend bandwagon, lmao good luck sweetheart, but straights are never going to fight for lesbian rights.

No. 174528

I think most people behind this movement with a working brain understand that 1), being same-sex attracted is not even in the same universe as being a troon, and 2), lesbians aren't forcing anyone to sleep with them or trying to convince people to "unpack their genital preferences", or call people "genital fetishists". People have created the "LGB drop the T" movement for a reason, and i think most straights understand that being gay is a natural state, while being trans-identified is a mentall illness.
People that used to discriminate against the lgb community will continue to do so old-fashioned style, why do they have to have a 'super'-movement to prop up their hatred? Besides, I dont think people who support homosexuals will suddenly 'peak' and stop supporting, we've done literally nothing except for exist.

No. 174529

Which lesbian want straight men to fuck her, lmao?
Because that's the whole point of the superstraight thing. It was caused by trannies insisting that everyone must validate them sexually. No one else in the LGBT does that shit, only the Ts.

No. 174531

Replying here because the thread got locked.
>Go lick some tranny gash or suck some meat sock cock nonnie
That's funny you say that because the majority of "lesbians" here (and "lesbians" in general I bet) sucked dick in the past out of their own will and they believe that "compulsory heterosexuality" is a thing, even though it was a term made up by a polilez. So what we have on "SuperStraights" Reddit is a bunch of fakebians and hetties wanting to feel special and MAYBE a small group of genuine homosexuals lmao

No. 174548

>Normies do not see a difference between a lesbian, gay man or a troon.
Stop acting like sexuality and gender are the same.
>the LGBT acceptance rates are dropping, you really think this has nothing to do with you
Yeah it has to do with the people telling others that if they like bio men/women they are "genital fetishists". Or the people getting women's shelters closed down because they don't want to accept men. Or the people giving hormones to kids who aren't even old enough to drive but can apparently make life changing decisions.

Anon don't be obtuse, don't try to waterdown all our issues into the same thing like this is "all lives matter". this superstraight thing has plenty of push from both lesbians and gay men who saw their spaces being coopted.

No. 174553

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I don't understand why we should ignore woke homophobia. My life doesn't revolve around straight people who were never supportive in the first place. I'm not staying in a toxic social alliance and ignoring homophobia just to have woke points.

No. 174563

There is a strong number amongst gay men that specifically want to sleep with straight men but yeah, largely I agree.

No. 174567

From experience more people disagree with this stuff than they let on but they don’t speak up because they don’t want to get attacked over it

No. 174573

I think most sane people think "If someone doesn't want to fuck/date you move on" but that means you're transphobic now. It's the same shitty argument the body positivity people made "You not wanting to fuck an obese person is fatphobic. Fuck them until you like it." Yes they said that and it sounds ridiculous. So why do they think this argument works just because the topic is trans people.

No. 174590

>Normies do not see a difference between a lesbian, gay man or a troon.

Wtf they absolutely do. A lot of straight people like opposite sex homosexuals (well fetishize them or want a gay bff) but dislike homosexuals of same sex. And even my ultranormie dad knows gays and trans apart. (His opinion on trannies is "cant they just be gay?" though.) LGB people arent denying basic biology and demanding everyone to play along, calling you a nazi for using wrong pronouns or not dating them, spending your tax money on hormones and plastic surgery.

No. 174599

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Monday night, getting drunk and watching Strawberry Panic. Yeah I know its scrote shit but I'm lonely and a weeb. Haven't watched this shit since middle school so kind of excited to see how much my taste has changed.

No. 174601

>you really think this has nothing to do with you and after dropping the T we are going to enter gay utopia?
No but we’ll have our community to ourselves again and that will be a big improvement

No. 174602

>we’ll have our community to ourselves again and that will be a big improvement

I'm afraid that will never happen again due to the huge amount of gay trans men (codeword straight women) and transbians.

No. 174606

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That was the first yuri anime I ever saw. I hate the main couple too much to rewatch lol but Amane is still waifu material.

No. 174635

wow, this character is very cute…

No. 174660

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Anons, do you believe in love at first sight? Somehow I instantly knew that my GF was the one— or at least she immediately piqued my interest. I couldn't stop thinking of her and made any excuse to talk with her. Of course, after getting to know her I've come to love her even more, so much that the initial spark can't even compare. But I do believe it was love at first sight.

No. 174688

I honestly don't understand why so many anons care about scrotes and what is pandering to them and what's not. If you enjoy some piece of lesbian media shitty or not then just enjoy it and if you don't then don't? why let scrotes live rent free in your mind?

No. 174719

> I think anons forget that some of these "scrote pandering" shows also have female writers behind them. Some people think that disliking something only because a certain group likes makes their taste better (it really doesn't).

No. 174747

>(it really doesn't)
Why do I get the feeling that you think coomershit is a high work of art and everyone else has "shit taste"

No. 174758

No, I just think that type of argument is as shallow as the notion popular/mainstream is automatically vapid and inferior to "high art".

It's also naive to think that coomers can't like something that isn't even trying to appeal to them and base your in relation to theirs. The whole point of them being coomers is that they sexualize everything. I'm not going to stop liking something just because they do too.

No. 174761

It's one of those things where I'm not opposed to believing it, but I'll only say I believe it when I actually experience it. Happy for you, though!

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This is really sweet and I really wish to experience it . Idk about love at first sight thing though, I more believe in a spark at first conversation
>Somehow I instantly knew that my GF was the one— or at least she immediately piqued my interest
But maybe the red thread of fate is real though.
This will sound stupid, but I know my soulmate exists. I don't know if I will ever meet her but I know she is somewhere there and I am pretty sure she is aware of me.

No. 174804

Really sad that r/superlesbians was banned too. It was actually a really nice community, they had already started non-troon related discussions and sub in general felt cozy. Wanted to visit it today and the ban kind of ruined my morning. Oh well, men really hate lesbians

No. 174819

Orange is the New Black

No. 174824

Did they ban the straight one too?

No. 174828

nta but yes

No. 174849

i just want gf. ok not just any gf. her.

No. 174857

I love tomboys/butch/masc/androgynous women so much. Undercuts and alternative fashion are huge pluses but teeters into weirdo territory pretty fast. Someone who's active and will indulge my impulsive need to go on long walks and maybe take a trip out to go hiking or camping. I love women who are taller than me but it's not that hard since I'm short lol.

I like to dress really feminine and "proper" (e.g. long skirts/dresses) and like the contrast of alternative vs traditional fashions. I feel like liking more butch women while being femme plays into traditional gender roles, it doesn't look the best on me as someone who thought she was bi for most of my life but I like what I like (and it definitely is not men).

No. 175022

Went on a date last night after talking to a girl online for a bit.
I'm falling so fucking hard for her it hurts.
She's way out of my league. Charismatic, talented, experienced a lot in life… And I'm just some socialy awkward autist. I'm already afraid I screwed up yesterday, I know I'm overthinking it, but oh my god, this woman is amazing, it's intimidating. I couldn't even sleep at all last night, I just want to see her again.
Ugggh please give me advice on how to be more confident. I've never actually dated before.

No. 175030

Good for you! Even if it leads nowhere, you will still gain experience and some confidence from finally being on a date! Does she know you are inexperienced? If so, she probably expects you to be awkward. Also have you talked after the date?

No. 175099

Just popping in to say that if any of you are looking for lesbian spaces online, I've been lurking r/latebloomerlesbians on reddit for a few days now and it seems to be pretty void of girldick uwu troons. It's full of women that are married with kids and have no intention of leaving their husbands but while it's sad, at least they're not obnoxious. Seems like a chill sub for actual lesbians.

No. 175101

I feel like I've trapped myself in the closet. I'm in my 30s now but spent my early to mid twenties dating men because I don't know how my family will react to me dating anyone else. I have a dad who still somehow puts fear into me even though I rarely visit him. That's just the dynamic he set up. I'm scared to tell him about other aspects of my life too but this is the big one.

Both my relationships were sexless/near sexless disasters where I basically brought trauma on myself by staying in such unhealthy dynamics where the guys resented the lack of sex so raged out at me, or they forced sex on me. I blamed myself for their raging and their abuse because 'well I shouldn't be dating men' The funniest part is I had moments in each relationship where I blatently stated that I was gay and that didn't even end things or concern them? I played that out twice and then I just up and moved to the far end of my country to either be forever single or to have the chance to secretly date women if I want to. I've never come out to any family members and I feel stuck now because those relationships will only be used to discredit my gayness. I played myself.

I haven't had sex with a woman in ten years, I chose a really poor path. I could've just kept secret gfs that whole time (or stayed single) and avoided the insane amount of pain I went through.

No. 175109

This seriously sounds like a joke. That sub only makes me depressed because those women call themselves lesbians and in the same breath talk about how their husbands are the love of their lives and soulmates. Ew. While there are several lesbians that have come out, the majority are middle-aged women that spend all their free time on reddit and twitter, so they think liking She-ra makes them lesbian or something
>pretty void of girldick uwu troons
True, so I guess it is one of the best spaces for lesbians on reddit. Only you need a lot of patience for all the married women.
Anyways, I love saidit.net Lesbian sub, only it is really slow and has small amount of members. It was created after truelesbians were termed.

No. 175110

I mean I agree, but I find it way easier to ignore the married women as opposed to ignoring troons. I've yet to find a lesbian space online that's not infiltrated by troons and/or straight/bi/questioning women to at least some degree.
I'll check out the site you mentioned, thanks for the rec!

No. 175123

That sub is "My husband is bad at sex, am I gay?", it's bi women in denial at best.

No. 175127

I got married in my early twenties back when I was hoping to just supress that shit. The marriage lasted all of two years as we never even consummated it so one day he snapped and broke free of our non-relationship. So I can understand covering shit up but how do you cover it up THAT well and partake in a lesbian space all with no intent of actually leaving him?

It's like when 'proud asexual' women have marriages with regular sexual relations for the mans sake…like get out of there. Sex you don't truly want will fuck you up for years to come. Are we normalising that?

No. 175240

I used to think me seeing women as more beautiful than men had to do with men being utter slobs.
asexual has lost it's meaning. It used to people who didn't have any desire for sex. Now it's anyone who isn't a coomer. I blame the media for painting out the general public as sex-obsessed when most people aren't. This wouldn't be such a big deal if so many straight people who aren't asexual didn't keep using asexuality as an excuse act up.

No. 175259

It is true though, men are less attractive than women on average, which makes everything even more confusing.
For me it was understanding the difference between seeing an attractive woman and attractive man. For women I have instant pull, sometimes it is sexual and sometimes it is straight up thirst for men - I can look at them and anything beyond 'huh, nice' has to be consciously created in my mind. If we went by the everyone is bisexual ideology, then I would say my attraction to men is a lot more cerebral and has to be actively created and maintained by my mind.

No. 175270

Every time I go and get coffee, I feel nervous thinking about the cute girls there. Before covid I would frequent cafes and chill there with a book or my laptop, I would dress up a little bit but I was too autistic to engage with other people. I was pretty much a "regular" and there was one barista who I had a few good interactions with. She remembered my name and was really nice to me. I complimented her glasses and I think that was the most bold move I made. Later found out she was engaged to a man, ofc every girl I've had a crush on is in a committed, straight relationship. I just want a cute barista gf

No. 175367

She is aware, so hopefully whatever (probably weird) first impression I made can be made better over time. I'm the kind of person who has to warm up to people.
I'm seeing her again this week, I'm so excited but still nervous. At least now the initial first meeting is out of the way.

No. 175375

Anyone struggling with confidence when it comes to women? Men are of course horrid I'm not surprised when they like me but women? I can't imagine a confident lesbian woman liking me, I don't look very lesbian and I'm not super up there in looks but I think it might just be because of how gorgeous women are?

No. 175380

I struggle with it too. Granted, I always had issues with self-image. Now generally I have more motivation to look after myself be it through fitness or my clothing because I want women to find me attractive. I still think that no well-adjusted lesbian will like me, but a lot of it comes from not knowing what women actually like…like wtf do I do with my personality, idk. It is easier to know what to do to attract men and what they like. It doesn't help that a lot of lesbian spaces on the internet have very idealistic and skewed perceptions of f/f relationships because of lack of experience (the ~~uwuuu women are perfect and gorgeous queens and lesbians never argue and have perfect sex~~ crowd)

No. 175447

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I believe in you! One day soon you'll live in the Coffee Shop AU version of your life.

No. 175708

i dunno if i'm posting in the right thread or not considering i'm questioning if i'm a lesbian but still like 80% sure of it. so i'm 19 and i've dated probably like 7 guys. none of them i've been happy with. i've talked to guys as well and hooked up and whatever but genuinely never felt anything, i felt uncomfortable and i always get this feeling of like .. just aching in my stomach. i feel like i'm being forced to do something i genuinely have no interest in. i only like guys when they play ''hard to get'' but as soon as i get them, they're out and i feel disgusted by them. i can't fathom being in a relationship with a man and i've always been more attracted to women and the concept of dating a woman, but i've been repressing it in a form of internalized lesbophobia because while i didn't grow up religious or anything, i just feel ashamed. i won't be able to bond with my girlfriends with 'boy talk'' or whatever and i feel like i might lose a lot of friends when we sort of lose that grasp of bonding in the form of ''boy talk'' it sounds genuinely stupid but i'm just scared that people might not be accepting. i'm just so confused because i've heard of comphet and stuff but i've only slightly considered myself to be lesbian, i'll see myself as lesbian one day and bisexual with a strong female lean the other day. i just don't know what to do because another guy is interested in me but i just can't provide to that, this is all so much to process and even though i'm an adult granted, i just turned 19 last month i still feel fucking scared. like i'm supposed to know what to do, i'm supposed to know how to handle this but i just can't. i just fucking don't know what to do. sorry for sperging and kind of a blogpost, i don't know anyone who's felt this way before so any reply, like literally any reply is appreciated.

No. 175741

> i've been repressing it in a form of internalized lesbophobia because while i didn't grow up religious or anything, i just feel ashamed
Yeah, I understand - was always accepting of gays until started to think that I may be one of them. It is harder, because now you will have to experience all the negative parts of being homosexual too, not just the fandom tier acceptance and fetishization
>i won't be able to bond with my girlfriends with 'boy talk''
A real fear for me too, but I am afraid I won't be able to pass as a straight woman in front of acquaintances. As far as friends go, there are het women out there that are are not men-obsessed. And yes, I think there will be people that will leave you because they can't accept your sexuality, sorry

Idk, if you don't want the guy, don't do it, really. You are only 19 and one missed dick is not going to ruin your life.
>as lesbian one day and bisexual with a strong female lean the other day.
I think the distinction doesn't matter here, if you are so much more attracted to women. Like, even if you are bi in this case you would still be happier in a relationship with a woman; a possible occasional male attraction is not going to save you.

No. 175743

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thank you. like seriously thank you because i have been thinking of losing friends for being lesbian because they'll think i have a crush on them or something but i think me being happy and comfortable with my sexuality matters more than some straight girls stereotyping me and thinking i'm in love with every girl i see. i'm going to think about it for a while, but at this point i'm sure. so, so sure that i am a lesbian. and even if i'm not i still appreciate you replying and helping me out. ty anon

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>questioning if i'm a lesbian but still like 80% sure
>i've dated probably like 7 guys

For fuck’s sake anon.

No. 176045

All my friends are the straight, "normie", slightly religious type and they've all accepted me when I came out. Best of luck to you nonnie!

No. 176082

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Went to Reddit because I was curious just how bad it had gotten. Incredible

No. 176083

so if im bi and fucking men i can still call myself a lesbian? awesome, words have no meaning anymore fuck leddit

No. 176142

Any good lesbian romance novels out there? I'm lonesome and looking for something mushy.
>bitch about being lonely
All of the lesbians I meet are either fuckbois, too young, or taken.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I've never been fully either one, my casual clothes are very butch(I have a manual labor job) but I like to dress up femme from time to time
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I have a drawer full of flannels and drive a subaru. I have a high voice and like "femme" crafts like lacemaking and sewing
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
I ran around in the woods in boy's clothes, but also liked to wear dresses. I did make my barbies kiss and played out fantasies of them running away together to live in a cottage in the woods. I didn't really think of clothes as masculine or feminine, my parents didn't really care as long as they were clean.
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
My wife is tan and muscular, her breath smells like the sweet mint gum she chews while we spend the day working on our farm. We're sweaty and filthy from work and take a water break under a tree. She falls asleep on my shoulder and her hair is warm and smells like sunshine. At the end of the day we walk back to the house and eat crockpot stew while listening to folk music.

No. 176150

I love your dream relationship. You made me feel all fuzzy and warm!

No. 176270

I really don't fucking get WHY they want to be gay so bad. It come with way more drawbacks than it is worth to larp as one irl. Once you are out of your kweer safespace, people either don't care or don't want to be around you. Do those wokesters have so much social capital, that their opinions and acceptance matter so much? Do they just have a Peter Pan syndrome and don't want to grow out of their tumblr phase? I don't get it

No. 176288

Thanks anon, I hope I'll meet her one day.
This, I was an out and proud tumblry type in high school but once I went out in the working world I had to be much more cautious.
Kind of related- I hate how coming out is portrayed as this big event done once. You never stop having to come out with every new person you meet. When your co-workers talk about relationships or ask if you have a big you have to read the room every time, and usually in my case, deflect the questions if you're not sure. Sometimes you can be pleasantly surprised by acceptance but sometimes people you thought were accepting actually aren't. As an adult there are more consequences.
>I don't have time for a bf haha
>Oh I'm picky, you know how guys are
>I'm taking some time for myself before I get back out there

No. 176299

I feel so lonely. I don't know any other lesbians irl, and I'm not out due to homophobic surroundings. I think some people realize (I'm butch and also hilariously bad at pretending to not be completely disinterested in men) but everyone is polite and acts like I'm not. I had a lesbian friend online who lives half a world away and she was my everything, but we had a falling out some months ago and ever since I've been so lonely. I don't know where to find others like me. Every space is either completely political or it's filled with TRA ideology where saying you're a lesbian gets you dick pics and death threats. It's so lonely. I thought that if I focused on work and hobbies I wouldn't feel so bad about it but it affects me to the core. It feels like I'm gonna die closeted and lonely, and like lesbians around me either don't exist or somehow manage to avoid me personally. I don't want to live like this, how do you deal?

No. 176307

Date and date until you mate

No. 176329

I'm in a relationship but I think about this a lot. I'd be afraid if my fiancee died or left me somehow and I were forced to start over again. Society has gone totally batshit with TRA and other political nonsense, I can't imagine what it'd be like to date nowadays. The stuff my exes and I said and did to each other 10+ years ago would get us cancelled today.

No. 176480

I feel ya. I'm in some gay and some supposed female-only spaces but they have trannies in them and I'm not sure who else is like me but I personally pretend I'm pro-trans just to get by. It is my hope that many of us are merely pretending to humor these sick scrotes but it's frustrating as shit having our already tiny spaces invaded like this. It saddens me further that maybe someone who also hates tranny presence in our lesbian spaces thinks of me as a handmaiden just because I'm hiding my true feelings. Anyway, getting rambly. It sucks.

I don't really care if people wanna self mutilate, doesn't affect me and I'll use the pronouns regardless of context but I want my lesbian spaces back. It's too much.

No. 176482

anon be the change you want to see! i met my gf by being openly terfy

No. 176485

The risk of being shut out of my communities is too daunting for me at the moment unfortunately. The leadership in these groups happen to be very handmaidy.

No. 176739

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I want to be the buff, protective, 6'+ tall girlfriend, but I am just a 5'4" midget. feelsbadman. I want to know what the air up there is like

No. 176768

5'4 isn't short, you're literally average height

No. 176769

Just lift and get a 5'0" gf.

No. 176776

Maybe she's nordic.

No. 176787

Trojan horse, anon. They're straight white males who got mad over being called out for being the most privileged group in the western hemisphere and saw gays gathering together to gain power. Slap on a shitty wig and change your pronouns to she/her and now you're there to drive the LGB community into licking your boots and pampering you instead of fighting for their own rights. Whether they're doing it consciously or not is up for a debate but that's basically the reason. Porn brainrot plays a role as well but without the troonism shit they would be just nasty fetlife crossdressers.

No. 176797

y'all can tell the difference between a woman with facial hair and a troon right? I’m fairly tall and usually have stubble because waxing hurts like hell. It doesn’t bother me if women find it unattractive but sometimes I get really nervous they’ll think I’m MTF and feel afraid/threatened by me. I feel like it should be obvious that I’m biologically female but the constant “IF WOMEN WITH PCOS CAN BE LESBIANS SO CAN MALES!” gets to me I guess.

No. 176805

You can still be my protective gf
t. 5'9"

No. 176808

women with pcos don't have a dick, so

No. 176818

What do you think about dating born again lesbians aka late bloomers? Would you date one/see dating them once you are older? The 40+ year old women that have several children, at least one ex husband and extensive amounts of baggage suddenly going lesbian once their white-picket fence dream has shattered rubs me the wrong way. They have spent their entire lives being with men and now that they are tired of them, suddenly other women are good enough to date and be in a relationship with. These women not only are supported on every feminist space I see, but also told that actual lesbians would looove to date them and help raise their children. And I seriously question the last part.

No. 176823

What it comes down to is very straightforward, but for some reason acts as a huge point of contention both ITT and every other LGBT community. Lesbians don't have sex with men. Simple as that. Keep in mind I'm a fairly young woman (early 20's) who has known about and accepted her attraction to women since childhood, but seriously. This is not rocket science.

Honestly, I could only believe that a late bloomer of that sort is actually a lesbian under very extreme circumstances. For example, if the marriage was forced or otherwise arranged, the husband was abusive or otherwise difficult to escape, and she lived in an extremely homophobic area all her life. Personally I can't fathom having a prolonged romantic relationship with a man, much less having sex with one (on even a single occasion!)– and God forbid I bear his children. I would rather die a loveless, KHHV than suffer that fate. And to be honest, that'd be only slightly less hellish than dating a self-proclaimed late bloomer "lesbian."

Like, God. Nobody will hate you for being bisexual, so there's no need to pretend otherwise. I wish they'd just hook up with each other and leave us out of it.

No. 176832

>I would rather die a loveless, KHHV than suffer that fate
Funny you say that, because historically many homosexuals ended up being celibate. And both Christians and Muslims kind still say stuff like
>being homosexual doesn't mean you have to act on your sinful desires, you can just dedicate your life to God

Also would love to know once and for all why so many bisexuals unashamedly call themselves lesbians while they have been with 0 women in total but have several ex-boyfriends. First cross that pussy bridge and then start calling yourself a raging gay bean

No. 176873

We can definitely tell you're not male, don't worry dog. PCOS looking like trans is just a tranny cope.

The vast majority of those closeted straight marriages have completely dead bedrooms. The children are made for the purpose of having something to pour your love into (or whatever other reason people have to spawn em, idk) but they're not like, accidents from having hella sex. But yeah the odds of a gay woman that grew up in a non-homophobic family/community that somehow ends up in a straight marriage for most of her life are very low.

No. 176897


Fuck no is your answer.

No. 176927

I wouldn't date someone with kids just because kids aren't something I want in my life. But I married a man when I was 21, spent a lovely 4 sexless years together before we split and I would of course date someone with a similar experience to that. My marriage was entirely sexless though, entirely. I would think that any woman partaking in m/f sex for years is maybe bi but I would happily date a divorced bi woman too so doesn't make much of a difference to me.

No. 176928

Not sure if I'd date one with kids but without kids, I wouldn't mind at all. I do believe a gay woman can have a ltr with a man. There are a ton of reasons a woman might feel pressured to date/fuck men, and from what I've seen latebloomers are usually women who got married and had kids really young and are then essentially trapped in a sexless relationship with a dude they only love platonically. There's often stuff like financial dependency etc that makes them stay in the relationship even years after they've realized they're actually gay.
Also, unpopular opinion here, I do think a persons sexuality can shift over time. Maybe they were bi to begin with and over time, as they get older and experience changes in hormone levels etc they find themselves more attracted to women than before. But that's just how I see it. As long as they're women in relationships with/pursuing women and they eat pussy they're gay enough for me and are allowed to call themselves lesbians, I don't have any weird hangups over them having had sex with dicks before even if I haven't.

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No. 177350

did any other anons have a hard time coming to terms with the fact they were a lesbian? I knew when I was very young but it was beaten out of me when I first came out at 13, I was 100% convinced I was straight for years until I dated a girl as a dare and realised I'd been pretending to like males. sage in case it doesn't fit here, there are very few places for lesbians to discuss this stuff these days it seems

No. 177405

me. To the point where I just tell myself I'm asexual. Which I know is ridiculous. But living in a pornified socitey is my personal scapegoat as to why I'm attracted to women. Being a lesbian seems like it's always been bleak on this planet. Sorry for the self-homophobia anons, I'm working on it.

No. 177481

>lesbian meetup comes up in a convo with women
>cishet asks "can i come too?"
fucking.. no.

No. 177488

wow how cucked am i in masking my peak that i said cishet in the one place i can just say het. kms i want out.

No. 177493

kek it’s okay anon. Embrace normiespeak.

No. 177502

maybe she is not so het

No. 177516

She asked if straight women can come, I don't know why she'd phrase it that way if she were merely closeted.

No. 177525

My ex came out as a "femme FtM" and called me bisexual even though I am not and got pissy when I told her I was a lesbian because my sexuality is now invalidating. I don't care about what she wants to be called now but I fucked a woman not a man. It's like she wants to change my past along with her present.
I felt sorry for her fucked up upbringing and abuse and refused to allow myself to get pissed off with her but I've had enough. It's not my job to save her anymore and it's not my job to validate her. I've been waiting for her to snap out of this shit but she's only dug even deeper. I'm done.

I'm scared I'll get stuck in a victim-savior relationship again or that my next gf will troon out.

No. 177529

There’s got to be cute fluffy /lesgen/ approved GL manga right? Sorry if this has been asked before, I’m jonesing for soft love stories.

No. 177532

i kind of wish dating ftms made us truly bi in other people's eyes. it's pretty obvious from the way people talk about lesbians that they don't think we deserve respect unless we sleep with penis havers.

No. 177535

Anon your ex is terrible I'm sorry. She doesn't get to redefine your sexuality just because she can't cope with being female, that's insanely narcissistic.

>I'm scared I'll get stuck in a victim-savior relationship again or that my next gf will troon out.

I feel this so hard. I'm mainly into butch/masc women and it feels like they're all ticking timebombs now for transition. I won't date anyone who's not openly terfy.

No. 177536

There is Tamen De Gushi but it struggled with censorship because China. There's also Gentle Flutters, also by a Chinese artist but quite nice.

No. 177549

Thanks anon, I'm mostly into femmes and even then I've met a few he/him/theys with cleavage and makeup. I don't get it.
We broke up a while ago but I stayed friends with her because I still felt responsible to make sure she was okay and because I still had feelings for her , so I've been dipping in and out of the dating scene and running into the same thing. There are no real lesbian only spaces left online or off it seems. Some of my close friendships are actually with gay men, partially because they don't accept this nonsense either. We can chat without some weird tangent about validity or checks to see whether you're woke enough. Gay men get away with ignoring those types more than women. They have apps like Grindr for men only, but any women's sites have to be "queer" and accept everyone. I hate the word queer, and don't understand how quickly a reclaimed slur became a standard term.

No. 177555

Nta but you mentioned grindr which reminds me I just downloaded her dating app. It has a million gender options to choose from but no woman. Only womxn. Like enbies get their special genders but women cant just be women in lesbian dating app? Also trans man was an option, not trans mxn.

Im more masculine myself and one girl I dated said it would be "so cute" if I was a trans guy. Now Im worried I attract trans chasers when I am not even trans.

No. 177561

Me too, but it is better now than it was a couple of years ago. Still wish I was bi though and have a hope that my sexuality is just a phase that will end with the lockdown.
Wait till you get to the 'homophobic homosexual' phase, though imo I have a good reason to hate American lgbtq activists since they are setting back our rights big time

No. 177586

Nah, I’ve already gone through that phase when I first realized my homosexuality. It was mostly out of envy though. thanks for responding.

No. 177589

What aspects of the gay(males) community do you wish we could steal and incorporate into the lesbian community. What aspects are you glad we don’t share with the gay community?

No. 177598

the "token gay male friend" trope

No. 177615

Check out Ring My Bell

No. 177623

kweer people seem to expect gay men to cater to everyone less than lesbians, so that

No. 177654

I'm sorry you went through that. Someone trying to redefine my sexuality because they started calling themselves a boy would piss me off so damn much. I'm not usually open about how TERFy I am (except around my gf, since she is too) but I'd get a lot more open very quickly if someone tried to convince me that I'm "bisexual" because I'm into soft butch tomboys who also might someday think of themselves as dudes.

We're not attracted to "gender identities" or the fantasy roleplay alter-egos that some people hold in their heads, we're attracted to the physical reality.

I swear I'm not some kind of lesbian fuckboy (fuckboi?) but I fantasize about a lesbian hookup culture more like what gay dudes have. Lez bathhouses and the like. I'm sure IRL it's actually pretty loveless to go around screwing random strangers but hey, it's a fantasy. Besides, if something like this existed IRL it would be colonized by gurldick in less than a week, ugh.

No. 177656

I want there to be lesbian hookup culture only so that my status as a virgin can end before it gets embarrassing.

No. 177698


Bicurious/straight leaning bi women seem to be looking for hookups a lot. Why not try them if just sex is what both want? (I hope this doesnt start les vs bi infighting again.)

No. 177701

You're lucky to be a virgin, no matter how old you are. It gives you the chance to experience your first time with someone you really love who loves you in return. Sex is not something you have to try just to get it over with and join the sex-havers club. Look at the "losing virginity" thread on here. So many Anons feel disappointed in themselves for being impatient, getting pressured into it, going for hookups, etc.

I never intended to wait till marriage and I don't care for the "purity" narrative, but I feel enourmously lucky that my first time will be with my fiancee who loves me so much. (Honestly, we'll probably bang before the wedding, but I digress.)

No. 177709

Not that anon, but I observed that women tend to look for someone with experience. So many women I talked to straight up consider it "sus" or weird if you're a virgin/don't have enough sexual experience past the age of 20.

No. 177719

sperg but why are all lesbians fucking ugly? feminine lesbo here who specifically likes very feminine, soft looking pretty girls, but all the girls on dating apps and the such are so… ugly. on top of the fact they're all hyper-woke, vegan and holier-than-thou. or trannies

terf anon how did you find your gf

No. 177724

>asking terfs where to find women that blindly follow patriarchal beauty standards

oh the irony

No. 177726

Are you sure you not just very picky? I see conventionally attractive femmes on dating apps all the time.
t. ugly fuck

No. 177727

go outside then narc chan

No. 177728

Not saying you think like this or pointing any fingers at you Anon, but that just seems so shallow to me. I can understand some suspicion if all your past sexual experiences were with moids and now you suddenly want a taste of pussy before heading back to Scroteland… But virginity is seen as a red flag too? Is it based on the assumption that a lack of romantic/sexual experience means you've got some fatal, undateable flaw? I just can't understand that, especially since society is so homophobic and many lesbians grow up closeted. I wish we wouldn't hold ourselves to such standards. It's like we can't win no matter what.

No. 177731

Oh no, I don't share that opinion at all, and I agree it sounds very shallow. Just reporting what I've heard from lesbians around me and on different online communities. I wouldn't be prejudiced against a virgin and I'm sure there are others who think the same way, but I've heard that prejudice from normie lesbians in a particular way.

No. 177737

Anyone in here struggle with giving a shit about relationships? I always read internet lesbians whinging about not being able to find a girl and I wonder how much of that is just not trying? I know I'm not trying and can honestly say my "not giving a shit" is more a fear of intimacy at this point lmfao. Anyway I'm lonely too but seeing as its self imposed loneliness I feel like I should suck it up, since I don't actually want/actively sabotage relationships when they potentially pop up.

No. 177738

No. 177742

Once you’re about 21 people really expect you to have lost your virginity except men fetishise it so it’s not a problem for women who do fuck men. I lost mine at 21 from a girl hookup and can remember just feeling so relieved.

No. 177751

i've only ever met narc bis who misidentify and think they're hot shit among lesbians because they're "so much more feminine" even though they're completely average and expect their partner to look like 90lb hyperfemme plastic surgery popstars. try not to project whatever damage you have with yourself onto lesbians. it's offputting. if you can't find your preference then date bisexuals or move because hyper-woke vegans is a location issue, not a lesbian one

No. 177752

wasn't gonna comment on the obvious bibait but this.

No. 177767

Damn are you me?

No. 177769

Have you been single for five years and cringe at the idea of sharing your feelings with anyone besides total strangers on the internet?

No. 177772

Pretty much yeah.

No. 177774

Going into lesbian thread and starting off with the
>why are all lesbians fucking ugly
and thinking you will find support here was really not the brightest decision. Hope you are pretty enough to offset that retardation

No. 177778

starting to think most terfs on here are just libfems who draw the line at sex work, but still depend on increasing their attractiveness to solidify their value and pull that "makeup is fun, being feminine is fun and just for meeee" bs

No. 177785

does anyone else feel uncomfortable with the way people seem to shit on women who haven't slept with men (not going to unironically use the term goldstar because i don't want this to devolve into wank) at any opportunity? if there's ever any post criticising certain lesbians someone almost immediately brings it up even if the original topic is entirely different. GOLDSTAR SUPREMACISTS, SLIPPERY SLOPE TO GOLDSTAR LESBIANISM etc. as if it's some ideology. is only having fucked women really so terrible that people deserve to be constantly snidely shit on for it?

>inb4 goldstar supremacist

no, i'm not one, i've fucked men. it's still disturbing behaviour.

No. 177787

Is there a good app or site to find mainly online/distance relationships that's relatively troon free?
I'm afraid of intimacy so I though maybe starting something purely online could help me get past that.

No. 177789

In the kindest way possible, go outside.

No. 177792

don't dating apps have something akin to an elo score system? if you're getting matched with uggos then.. sorry anon

No. 177794

Don't fret anon, probably an internet thing.

No. 177799

Good advice. I'm not really looking for hookups rn because I'm not single, but I have nothing against bi women either. (Current gf is bi.) I did hook up with several bicurious mostly-straight women when I was younger, all fun and good times.

Now, I would absolutely hesitate to hook up with a bi woman who's currently involved with a dude somehow, because you just know he's going to try to butt in at some point, even if she swears he'll stay far away and is cool with her exploring herself and so on. Seems like a number of women on dating apps are like this; they're not openly unicorn-hunting but they're not 100% single either.

TERF anon here, I met my gf at an anime convention. kek I'm also not up to your soft-pretty-femme standards, though my gf might be. TBH I peaked because I look so butch/dykey that I got constantly mistaken for a fakeboi, saw lots of butch acquaintances troon out, and it got to me.

No. 177825

That's fair.

No. 177844

Madonna's arms in this are doing things to me omfg

No. 178007

Absolutely based post. Tired of these coomers thinking they're entitled to the lesbian fantasy gf who looks like a breathtaking porn star or a runway model simply because they're "femme and not ugly" themselves.

It's called the useless lesbian syndrome. Lesbian women know how scrotes creep on women and how awful it is, so they're scared of being the predatory homosexual. After you've grown up in an environment that doesn't encourage same sex romance and fetishizes lesbian relationships to exist only for sexualization purposes it's hard to care about having relationships. Also because a lot of us didn't have the chance to explore the romantic and sexual side of our personalities during our teens for obvious reasons we never got to find out our needs and develop the necessary skills for relationships.

No. 178028

Oh I thought the trope was “whaaa idk how to talk to women and initiate romance” nvm that’s what you said.

No. 178094

Imo it is just a one facet of a bigger problem - lesbian spaces being overrun by political lesbians. Also would explain why comphet is so popular, since you can claim that you had relationships with men because of le ebil society and not because you willingly engaged with them. Gold stars disprove the argument that every single woman is violently pushed into het relationships (and women have no choice but to submit to the pressure), which makes polilezzies seethe since we are ruining their larp.
If you look at the ones that are mad at gold stars, it is never lesbians that had sex with a man once/women with actual gay experience, it is always women with an extensive history of dating men that now want to retcon their lives

No. 178104

Agree with this. However comphet is undeniably a real thing, but I think it's more like "I thought I had no sex drive or there was something wrong with me as a heterosexual because I wasn't able to find men attractive, then I realized I was just gay" a la celibate nuns and not "I had multiple long-lasting, fulfilling heterosexual relationships and then poof suddenly I realized I'm a lesbian in my late 20s! #JustCompHetThings!". I think your ship on blaming comphet sailed a long ago, it's okay to just be bi for crying out loud.

No. 178110

comphet turning into this mystical term is weird. fuck the lesbian masterdoc or whatever it is. women need to actually read Adrienne Rich's Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence. It's only around 20 pages ffs.

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Wasn't Rich one of the feminist activists that basically invented political lesbianism? And comphet is a polilez term? Therefore women need to actually read the work and educate themselves on what comphet actually is? I don't understand what you meant exactly.
Picrel quotes from the pdf, where Rich implies that being a lesbian is a political action and more of a refusal to marry than inherent sexual orientation. Associating lesbianism with political choice and movement opens a whole new world of spergs that inhabit lesbian spaces

No. 178139

Thank you for putting into words what's been frustrating me for quite some time. The thought of being with men has always been disgusting and unnatural to me even in a straight, strongly religious environment.

No. 178149

Agree with this 100%. For me, comphet was about having "crushes" on fictional anime bishounen or otherwise unobtainable male pop idols. (Bonus points: I got to gossip about these guys with the girls I had actual crushes on.) As a teen I concluded that I was asexual because all IRL men were beyond revolting to me, with the purely theoretical exception of certain androgynous-looking celebs who were safely out of my league anyway. I never felt compelled to date or sleep with a guy at any point.

I've got nothing against bisexual women, and I'm not going to take away someone's gay card if they tried dick a couple times just to make sure they really hated it, but JFC you're not a lesbian if you've got a string of ex-boyfriends.

I think some of the anti-gold-stars are bi women who have sworn off dating men due to multiple bad experiences; they might even prefer women, but that doesn't erase their past history of apparently finding men attractive enough to date and sleep with multiple dudes.

No. 178161

yea women should be aware of it's polilez association and usage for all women not just lesbians, so lesbians can find a term to describe their experience without all the baggage. Ignoring the polilez stuff I thought it was a good essay how women are pressured into dating men.

No. 178166

idk i thought csa made me gay and if i have sex with a man that will turn me straight? like i thought that just because i masturbate to women that doesn't mean i am actually sexually attracted to women, that it is common in straight women and just a trauma response that will go away when i have a positive sexual experioence with a male. that didn't happen but that's how i ended up not being goldstar, it's kind of dumb in retrospect.

No. 178235

This is probably gonna get me banned for blog but but I need advice. How do I get my mom to accept that I'm not going to ever have grandkids? I came out to her as a lesbian when I was about fifteen and she's been telling me to "try to have an open mind when it comes to men for her sake" ever sense. She doesn't mind my female celebrity crushes or my wiseacre misandristic remarks I make from time to time but whenever I vent about my experiences as a woman who isn't into men she starts acting weird. I've got a lot of straight girl friends and a lot of the time I feel like I don't fit in with them because they've all got boyfriends. All the time I end up fading into the background when they talk about the guys their seeing and the guys they wish they were seeing, it's isolating as hell and it makes me feel awkward about myself but there's nothing outright wrong with it so it would be irrational to ask them to shut up about it so what else can I do but vent about it in private? Or sometimes I feel like the reason I'm so lonely is because I refuse to date a bisexual woman, not because they're "tainted by men" or whatever. I've been put through a lot of traumatic experiences by men who try to challenge me based on my lack of interest in dick and I can't imagine myself connecting with anybody who doesn't know what its like which obviously someone who's bisexual never could.

But she just starts playing with her hair and avoids looking me in my eyes while she tells me "Oh, well couldn't you just play along just to humor them or something? What about so-and-so from that show you like, you gotta admit he's really handsome" or "They like girls too so they're still discriminated against, there isn't anything wrong with being attracted to men". It's like she's trying to sell me this diet brand of homosexuality so that she can continue her bloodline. I have no doubt that's what this whole thing is all about. Most of the time she's more than accepting of my lesbianism if not downright happy. She's been post-menopausal for quite some time and she's talked to me about how she's realized what shitheads men are since she's lost her sex drive so she's glad I don't date them. Its an old straight lady way of looking at it but hey, at least she likes it! Aside from this one thing. "Maybe you end up with a girl, maybe you end up with a guy" and "if you decide to find a man and settle down and make some babies", she's always saying shit like that. If she knew about some of the things that have happened to me by guys who ALSO thought I should be more open-minded she would probably stop right away but those things involve some pretty credible anonymous rape threats, groping, and being flooded with, like, a thousand unsolicited dick pics all at once (that last one at the tender age of 14 all from boys I went to school with I might add). Its an uncomfortable topic and I've only ever told my ex girlfriend about it whose reaction was surprisingly less than compassionate so I'd probably have quite a bit of trouble going over that again.

I've been staying with her until I get back on my feet for almost two years now and with all the COVID bullshit going on I don't see myself moving out for awhile so I really want to fix this. I'm growing increasingly and increasingly more uncomfortable with her bringing up the prospect of me "settling down", even unprompted. It isn't just that though. As pathetic as it sounds she's one of my best friends and I want her to fully accept who I am. What do I do?

No. 178276

You accept your mom is a lesbophobe like 90% of straight women and learn to compartmentalize? I can imagine it's hard living with her but just avoid the topic. It makes her uncomfortable and her discomfort hurts you (rightfully so, it sucks). My mom "fully accepted" me when I came out at 17 but I can see her almost cringe when she makes the mistake about asking after my personal/romantic life. It lead to me keeping almost every gf a secret from her and never getting more than a brief talk and awkward back patting after a break up. Find comfort and support for this part of yourself elsewhere, confronting or brow beating homophobes doesn't make them see the error of their ways it just makes them more defensive and uncomfortable.

No. 178371

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so what's the verdict. real or fake? also


No. 178373

scrote larp. no woman types like this

No. 178379

Fake, even a bishit wouldn't post something like this on r/actuallesbians. I hope, anyway.

No. 178403


>"when my hormones got the best of me"

anon's right, that's a dude larping.

No. 178426

this is 10000% a gay man(transbian)

No. 178481

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i want what they have

No. 178508

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That's pretty hot, good taste anon

No. 178565

bro just give me boob already. I am begging you.

Do you guys think after the lockdown era they'll be a lot more meetups and efforts for us to get together?

No. 178566

esltard there'll*

No. 178573

Quite pessimistic, but - it either won't change or everyone will become even more autistic and reclusive. Might be my country's culture, but after the first lockdown I didn't see any changes in the amount and type of events organized (I'm talking generally, not lgb-related)
I also think that lesbians aren't actually motivated to create lesbian-only events and spaces. On average, lesbians are content with sharing everything with the lgbt community and being ~inclusive~. Even if you think that there are many secret terfs out there, they are just that - secret and silent, while still engaging with tras on main

No. 178591

Yeah your take is realistic. Majority like to pander. I kind of hoped during quarantine a number of them peaked and wanted to focus on themselves for a change.

No. 178595

>I also think that lesbians aren't actually motivated to create lesbian-only events and spaces.
problem is that they get invaded by troons immediately. nobody wants to suck girldiqué but you aren't allowed to be vocal about it so you just keep quiet and to yourself instead of dealing with harassment for being an evil terf.

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Anyone feel kind of scrotish in their dating and attraction habits sometimes? I always used to shit on scrotes for only befriending women with relationship/sex on the mind but I recently fell for a really good friend of mine. We were getting super close and I thought I had a chance until I learned she was in a relationship of 5, almost 6 years with another woman. They're basically a forever couple and it drives me insane talking to her and dreaming of what they have so I've been trying to keep my distance. I feel just a little gross knowing she probably is really concerned about our friendship imploding but it's really because I can't stop the gay thoughts. Sucks.

Women I get along with perfectly are so rare AND she's gay but she'll never be single. Feels sad man. I feel like a dumbass incel just typing this, but I really hope one day I can get over her in a romantic sense and just be genuine friends with her.

No. 178841

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i'm so sorry you're going through this, sister. i get it though. when i meet a girl and i really vibe with her there's always this thought in the back of my head like what if she's the one? like you just never know when you'll find someone so just considering it instead of being a useless lesbian 24/7 is a good thing.

just remember that it's okay to have crushes and, no matter what you do, you will never be as despicable as a scrote.

No. 178856

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>you just keep quiet and to yourself
I would have agreed with you a while ago but then I noticed how many lesbians are vocally pro-trans and how trigger-happy they are to harass another woman for thoughtcrimes. There is a difference between keeping quiet to avoid confrontation and crying TWAW and many are in the second camp. So,
> they get invaded by troons immediately
because many women are happy to invite these ~poor, oppressed uwu~ troons themselves. Yes, nobody wants to suck girldick, but that doesn't stop TRA's from going full troon-train. Case in point - MichFest, that many radfems love to talk about as some Promised Land, has always been open to trannies, it's just TRA's are retarded enough to not do any research and just jump on one event where TIM was ejected from festival in 1991.
Img not related, but just another example

No. 178886

Why some wlws (esp form US) express interest in Russian/Eastern euro women? It is something I have noticed several times on the web. I have even seen
>I would not date a white woman, except if she is Russian
I get it when men say that, but why women?

No. 178887

Where did you see this? I can't think of any good reason. Maybe they think we need saving? Anyway if anyone needs a eastern euwuropean gf i'm here nonnetes.

No. 178890

I've seen it in passing on lc, the greentext in question is from lsa, here and there on tumblr. There are no overt displays of simping kek but it is something that sometimes happens. And more often that with other white ethnicities. Just came into my mind in passing. So maybe someone could answer, if they know it personally. If you don't notice it, it's ok, maybe it is just wishful thinking that we have a big appeal in lesbian world lol

No. 178896

Hoping it's not for predatory reasons US men seek Eastern European women; maybe it could be a belief if you're a lesbian from a known homophobic country you really MEAN it, not just claim to be a lesbian because it's trendy? IDK.

No. 178905

I try not to fetishize and be gross about it but I'm definitely into (my idea of, which I admit might be off base) Eastern European women. For me they just seem a lot less likely to be retarded about troon and libfem shit, since they grew up in a more misogynistic society. And less "spoiled", I'm a poorfag and I get along a lot better with the immigrants at work, they're a lot less whiny and consumerist than poor people from my country.

also I think early exposure to tatu had something to do with it, Russian accents drive me wild

No. 178924

Idk you guys seem less meek in posture. But that’s a generalization hehe.

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How do I cope that I’ll most likely end up with a girl who likes dick? It’s such a turn off but most girls who are into girls are bisexual or pozzed trans-inclusive queer types. The only ones that I know who aren’t accepting of dick in their lives are butch and I’m just super not into that.

No. 179353

Why is it a turn-off?

No. 179368

goldstar lesbians still exist, but yeah
speaking from experience you will need to date/hook-up with a few bi women in your life before finding a goldstar. bi women are a lot easier to find and date, so I'd say as long as you don't get invested with them you can gain some experience until you meet the woman you want.

No. 179373

Maybe irrelevant (not bragging or anything), but I'm a goldstar and looks-wise am kind of like an average college girl. So maybe not a lot, but there are women like that out there that are not butches

No. 179380

this is some redpill tier shit, like sleeping with "whores" until you find your traditional waifu. do you not realize you're being contaminated by dick that way?

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>this is some redpill tier shit, like sleeping with "whores" until you find your traditional waifu.
it is what it is nonnie. most bisexuals do not end up marrying the same sex, so you might as well keep things casual instead of getting invested in someone who's gonna leave you for a man anyways.
>do you not realize you're being contaminated by dick that way?
I was simply offering her solutions. I've dated bi women before, so I'm not really hung up on the purity thing she is.

No. 179492

I came out to my Turkish, Islamic mom and she accepted me. I can't stop crying anons, all my emotions came out and I am so relieved. She responded very normally and rational. She said if I get a gf she would love to meet her.

No. 179498

So, so happy for you, anon!!! Better days are ahead!

No. 179499

Thank you so much. It does feel weird, like I feel sorry for her or guilty that I'm a lesbian… But, I know that she loves me unconditionally.

No. 179518

Yaaaaay, I'm so happy for you!! I wish I could hug you through the screen.

No. 179531

>lesbians are just scrotes in women's bodies

were the radfems right?

No. 179549

Just keep going, it's high time lc lesbians get redpilled on what radfems actually think of them

No. 179612

but are they wrong?

No. 179622

Hard power, soft power, and everything in between.

No. 179623

what does that even mean lol

No. 179713

>pointing out an objective fact is scrote behaviour
lol, girl….
bisexuals don't take us seriously at all when it comes to relationships, so why should we keep fighting for crumbs? sorry to crush your uwu 'i'm such a hopeless romantic!!1!' world.

No. 179734

and yet you continue to behave like a scrote, who the fuck says this shit if not scrotes "uwu silly girlies take their harlequins and disney cartoons too seriously"

just go and get a phalloplasty already

No. 179738

>women can only behave in predetermined ways that I deem acceptable
TRAs are right then, huh?

No. 179739

just stop being a misogynistic fool, it's not that hard

No. 179740

the real misogynist (and lesbophobe) here is you, hun
go back to your bisexual thread

No. 179741

you see women as resources for you to use, you obviously view me as some sort of silly uwu little girl, you are misogynistic. me pointing it out that you behave like a scrote is not me saying that every women should behave the same, it is me saying that maybe view omen as fucking people, that's all

get on t

No. 179742

>i'm not a misogynist, you are!
>you should go on t and get phallioplasty because you don't act like a "real woman"
>stop using facts to counterpoint my feelings, that's misogynistic!
you must have holes in your shoes from running in circles so much

No. 179743

yeah, truth is that i am not misogynist, you are.

you view women as resources, you do not view group of women as bunch of invidicuals but as a hivemind, you are condescending towards other women based on the idea that other girls that aren't you are some silly vapid little girls.

me hurling some jokey take t-shit on the internet isn't the same as your behavior which extenctd to real life

No. 179744

oh yeah by they way booohoo hooo you are a lesbophobe since you think lesbians can only act in one way boohooo

No. 179745

MENSA-levels of intelligence being demonstrated here

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No. 179750

Developed feelings for a straight girl again
Anyone have a routine for shaking off those feelings?

No. 179752

whatever the fuck that's supposed to mean…
i'm sorry you were dropped on the head as a baby, but I wish you a speedy recovery and good luck with getting your GED

I find the best thing is to just let it go away on it's own. the more you obsess with getting rid of the feelings, the more they consume you. there will be times where you are around her and feel like you're being "obvious" but 99% of the time you're not. in my experience, straight women aren't attuned to picking up same-sex crush vibes anyways.

No. 179756

Aren’t you all tired of bickering?

No. 179775

Whenever I'm attracted to a straight girl I imagine her being an annoying pillow princess in bed and I get over it. Like no matter how great she is actually being with her would be a miserable experience for you.

No. 179777

your mom is an angel. Send her all the love from your fellow sisters, I am so happy!!

No. 179890

off the top of my head,
Lily Love by Ratana Satis
Everyday Lily
Doughnuts Under a Crescent Moon
Magan & Danai(discontinued because they broke up)
Handsome girl and sheltered girl
About a College Girl Who Gets Picked Up at a Mixer by an Older Girl

No. 179891

forgot to tag

No. 179924

i don’t know where to put this but here i am. i identified as a lesbian for the longest time. i had virtually no attraction for men and the only men i had in my life, i would string along for attention until they started trying to get close to me.
i identified as a lesbian and then this girl majorly broke my heart. like we were in love with each other and there was this huge situation and i ended up heartbroken and kind of lost it. after that experience, i started identifying as bisexual but i don’t know if i’m actually bisexual. like having sex with men seems like a drag and men’s bodies look really odd to me. like they don’t look right. and i can’t imagine a future with a man that doesn’t end in divorce and relationships with them in general seem like a fast track to misery. i tried talking to a guy romantically and i was completely miserable. i don’t know. reflecting on it, the main thing i appreciate about men is having someone to like have me as their number 1 and sometimes their faces can be nice. thoughts?

No. 179925

ive hung around in bisexual spaces to see if they were like me but most of them were obviously man worshipers and think dating women is a cottagecore experience. like my attraction is nothing like theirs and i get annoyed seeing their boyfriends and them being superficially like in love with girls and stuff.

No. 179976

This. I don't get crushes on straight girls solely due to this, I always reckon that even if she found her inner gay side she would be one of those girls who would treat a lesbian as her lapdog for receiving head from, running errands and nothing else. Same goes for the "bi" girls who only have experience dating men but consider themselves "bi" because they don't get grossed out by the thought of being in the proximity of a lesbian.

Honestly, just the thought of the woman being attracted to men is a major turn off for me. They have bad news written all over them.

And on a related note, >>179924
Why does this thread have reoccurring posters talking about having sex with men? You can be a manhating bisexual all you want but getting unsatisfying shit sex from scrotes doesn't mean you're a lesbian.

No. 179979

I relate to what you're describing but it might be better discussed in the bisexual thread, some anons get fed up with the amount of male talk on here.

No. 179981

>Why does this thread have reoccurring posters talking about having sex with men? You can be a manhating bisexual all you want but getting unsatisfying shit sex from scrotes doesn't mean you're a lesbian.
This a hundred times. There's a whole "questioning sexuality" thread in the catalog, just use that.

No. 179982

i don’t have sex and will never have sex with men. i said i identified as a lesbian for the longest time so i didn’t associate with or have sex with men. but i’ll move the post.

No. 179998

Hey, I've been in my first relationship for more than a year now and our sexlife is degrading. I'm a top and at first it was very exciting to make my girlfriend cum but now I'm just tired. Sometimes I just wished I was a man so I could also have pleasure while fucking her. It's so frustrating.

Is there any toy or position where both of us can simultaneaously cum ?

No. 180001

She should be doing something for you too anon, is she scared of pussy or something?

No. 180004

Theres those strapless strap-ons that vibrate on your end too but they tend to be expensive and most are awkward in use. Are you just not taking turns manually/orally doing stuff both ways?

No. 180013

She does, she's not the problem. But taking turns breaks the intensity imo because we can't be on the same level of excitement; and I hate being passive. We tried scissoring and fingering each other simultaneously but it's quite uncomfortable.

Any of you have tried these strapless trap-ons ?

No. 180064

i get where you’re coming from. my girl and i take turns with each other, typically i focus on her first and then she finishes me. it’s hard to make the pleasure happen at the same exact time for sure, but it can be done. try flicking your bean while going down or fingering her, thats better than a strapless dildo imo

No. 180132

do any anons here have experience dating and being in a long term relationship with someone who is closeted to their family (and has no plans of ever coming out)? this is my situation with my girlfriend right now and i’m feeling a little lost.

No. 180133

How long have you two been dating? Is there any talk of marriage or living together? If she refuses to come out, then I just can't see you two having a future unless she goes no contact with her family.

No. 180134

we’ve been together for two years. she’s met my parents. at this stage we haven’t talked seriously about living together and right now we are long distance due to covid wrecking some of our plans. i think she wants to move far away from her family to have a life with me but i still have my doubts about how exactly this will work because i am aware that once our lives become more entwined and we become “partners” more than just girlfriends it will be hard to hide this part of her life (me) . back when we first got together she said that she doesn’t want to get married because she wouldn’t want to have a wedding without her family there. i didn’t think much of it at the time because we had only just got together but now that we’ve been together for a while i’m looking into the future and it’s like looking into darkness. i don’t know what will happen. and i do want to get married at some stage.

i feel so selfish for wishing she could just tell her family that she’s gay but her family come from a very conservative culture and its very likely she would get legally disowned if she were to do this. so she’ll most likely lose something either way.

No. 180136

I think this is something you can resolve only by talking to her. You need to be honest with each other about your wants and needs and goals and where you see yourselves headed, whether that's together or apart, with family support or otherwise. I don't mean to shame you Nonita but it's kind of insane that you could date for two years without discussing this concretely. That said, you're not selfish for wishing that you could be open about your love. It sounds like your girlfriend is very important to you and you want to make it work, so any obstacles will of course become frustrating. My main advice is to think of yourselves as a team confronting a problem with your joint effort, rather than opposing sides with a point to prove.

I really hope that an Anon with experience in this situation can offer more support. Until then, I wish you and your girlfriend all the best.

No. 180216

>at this stage we haven’t talked seriously about living together and right now we are long distance due to covid wrecking some of our plans.
LDRs with no serious talks or means of living together in the near future (as in within a year or less) are a waste of time and often just a bandaid for not being alone.

>i feel so selfish for wishing she could just tell her family that she’s gay but her family come from a very conservative culture and its very likely she would get legally disowned if she were to do this. so she’ll most likely lose something either way.

Unless she's in a country where you can get killed for being gay, I really don't think this is a valid reason to place YOUR life on pause for her. You only have one life. All time you have wasted in an LDR with someone who refuses to come out is time you could've spent finding someone in your local area who doesn't have all that baggage. If I were you I'd move on and tell her that maybe things could work out once she's out to her family and both of you have the means of starting a real life together instead of just being penpals.

No. 180220

yeah that’s the thing, we were in a normal relationship for one year and it’s become indefinitely long distance due to travel restrictions where i live. at the time when we had to make a decision about whether to stay together or break up because we had already been together for a year that seemed like a sufficiently long time that breaking up would be kind of pointless. but now that we’ve been long distance for an entire year and i don’t think it’s going to end anytime soon idk.. i’ve been more preoccupied with the future and where exactly our relationship is headed. if i picture breaking up with her i don’t think i would date someone else for a long time. my life is very small. i study i work and i have a few friends so it’s not like i’m turning down better relationship chances by being with her. long distance relationships are hard and they require a lot of effort and i guess i’m just worried that we could be doing everything to keep it going right now only for it to get even more difficult when we are physically back together and more needs to be done to hide our relationship from her family.

it’s at times like these i wish i could be straight

No. 180226

This relationship is a dead end. Right now, you're her "dirty little secret" and that's really no way you should allow someone to treat you. I don't care how hard it is to find someone, never let yourself be a doormat just to avoid being single. I also come from a conservative family and am only officially out to my mother and siblings who have met my wife (but I'm sure other family members have figured things out) Still, I wouldn't deny being gay if asked. I definitely wouldn't be trying to get into a relationship without sorting my own life first, as your girlfriend should be doing. You mentioned that she doesn't want to get married but you do. That's a fundamental difference in values between the both of you, which I'm sure isn't the only one. It's just that you're too reluctant to move on. The time you already wasted is gone, yes, but you can't get stuck on a woman who doesn't value you and the relationship you're supposedly in. Rip off the bandaid so you can heal and find someone who actually loves you

No. 180385

Matched with this girl on Tinder and the second we exchanged numbers and started texting she made me send a timestamped photo and a voice note. She said a man had catfish her on the app before, pretending to be a woman. I felt so bad for her. The absolute state of lesbian OD.

No. 180421

there’s so many lesbians at my new uni. i feel so happy knowing that i can find someone outside of my direct friend group. maybe even someone i can spend my life with building a family. no offense to my friends but none of them are emotionally in the place where i could trust them in a healthy long term relationship.
things are really looking up.

No. 180482

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Does anybody read any good Webtoons/gl manga that doesn't pander to SJW type shits? I prefer ones w/ lots of drama and character arcs.

Reviews for citrus are negative or mixed and I can't find any webtoons that haven't fallen into exaggerated stereotipes .

No. 180484

You could try reading "Ouji-sama nante iranai". It is shoujo ai & about an all girls boarding school, very slow burn, has about 200 chapters and is already finished.

No. 180530

So how do you actually come out to you parents? I have been thinking about it, and i only have the balls to do it over the phone. And either way I will do it when there is a reason to. Rn my mom is the closest person and basically the sole support system, if I come out now, I will lose her

No. 180581

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Korean and Chinese webtoons have become my favorite medium for f/f romance kek. They're neither sjw nor scrote pandering, lots of them have adult main characters as well, unlike Japanese yuri. Here are some I enjoy:
Mojito (picrel): Established couple between a model and a lawyer. The model gets outed and they have to handle the outrage from the public as well as homophobia from family, it's mostly light hearted though. We also get super cute flashbacks showing how they met. My current fave
Opium: Set in 1946. Korean American doctor goes back to a ruined Korea as a medical advisor. She meets a local doctor and discovers some nasty secrets I'd rather not spoil. The art is fantastic and the story is very intriguing. Highly recommended
Her Shim Cheong: Set in historical Korea. Beggar woman attracts the interest of a powerful minister's wife. Art is excellent as well. I haven't caught up to this one in ages but I heard great things about it.
Soulmate: 27 y/o MC switched bodies with her 17 y/o past self. She tries to save her girlfriend from illness. Sounds depressing but it's mostly adorable fluff.
Honorable mentions (aka I love this but too lazy to write descs):
- Ring my bell
- Getting to know Grace
- So, Do you want to go out or? (manga)
- Still sick (manga)
- After the curtain call
- Pulse
- It Would Be Great If You Didn't Exist
- Lily
- Beloved
- Moonlight Garden VERY nsfw lol

No. 180601

Thank you so much for the recommendations!

No. 180619

Thank you so much, anon! I've gotten so wary of contemporary lesbian fiction because I'm too wary of running into a mention of trannies/enbies. These are a relief and I'm reading Mojito right now.

No. 180652

I've never written out a preference like that but I absolutely am a freak for slavs. Their culture is close to mine and they look stunning to me. Especially all the Russians I've met have been well-read and educated. I also quite enjoy that they tend to have strong characters and are able to have difficult conversations without resorting to passive-aggressive shit or getting offended. Strong, hot women.

No. 180954

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I really am the type to say "lol imagine liking men." I just cannot fathom it. In fact I really pity women who depend on men for love and intimacy because it must be so exhausting. Meanwhile in lesbian relationships, both partners actually understand and empathise with each other, and see themselves as equals. Plus, compared to men, women are infinitely more beautiful, intelligent, interesting, and funny. I love the way women walk. I love female humour. The sex is better too. Women who exclusively love and date other women are the true queens of society.

No. 181061

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ladies if you haven't checked out maxineharlow's work on please do so.

No. 181072

Is she a genderspecial though?

No. 181081

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I love her art! Thanks anon

No. 181083

i think she's not but keeps it on the downlow. check out her responses to asks.

No. 181089

Nice, I’ll check out this based artist then.

No. 181134

Same annon as >>180482
thanks for the recs :)

No. 181243

I love these! The world needs more dyke content. Thank you for sharing.

No. 181330

I love your post and I love your unashamed love for women, mwah

No. 181367

Coming out is so overrated. Either show up with your gf one day to introduce her to them or casually correct them if they ask if you've been seeing a guy. Don't say anything if they are crazy homophobes though.

No. 181782

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Why is visibility day a thing?

No. 181784

Because people think lesbians don’t exist?

No. 181789

because the transbians need attention, just like on all the other 364 days of the year. i checked the tag on twitter and the first thing i saw was some bald hulking troon talking about being valid kek

No. 181819

Right. I just think holidays are redundant since social media created a hundred useless ones i.e National Coffee Day. Is there a historical element to today though?

No. 181823

no actual lesbian gives a shit kek

No. 181993

>blindly follow patriarchal beauty standards
Lmao, anon no one is going to pick what they wear based on something they studied in women studies. There is no blindly following or having awareness, people just get up and choose what they think looks good to wear.

No. 181994

I wish we got sales like on real holidays and special deals.

No. 181995

Korean webtoons are always better at the spicier content. Even in het stories mangas have adult characters acting like middle schoolers experiencing their first crush. I'm reading Opium right now, the main leads are so hot.

No. 182056

anons how did you find your first girlfriend?? i need hope

No. 182075

and they just so happen to choose the exact same things, i wonder why

No. 182141

tfw transguy just looks like a cute butch woman to me

No. 182262

same, until i find out they have a gender identity and i lose any and all attraction i felt initially. there's nothing more unattractive than a gender identity.

No. 182283

almost like there are trends? even people who follow "alternative" styles end up looking the same.

No. 182351

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and guess who pushes these trends?

No. 182530

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this has to be satire….

No. 182535

First one through school but second one through social media. Go hit on your mutuals sis.

No. 182543

No. 182551

Are these meant to be different pride flags? I don’t even recognise most of them…

No. 182566

Yay commodifying sexuality! Collect them all kiddos!

No. 183146

Nonitas, are you scared of aging?

No. 183162


Every year I get older I do less objectively stupid shit.

Fucking excited to see where I’ll be. Old lady queendom sounds like a dream

No. 183167

what i'll never understand is how sexuality and gender came to be such a huge trend. make something actually cool a trend, like playing an instrument or something. not who you fuck

No. 183170

>make something actually cool a trend, like playing an instrument or something
Nah, that requires actual effort

No. 183176

No, yet I don't like body pains
>Old lady queendom
based lezzie. Can't wait hehe

No. 183192

but then they don't get their complexes, personality disorders, and paraphilias enabled and validated, nonny. they are getting unhealthy psychological "needs" met and that's a hard drug to quit once they start

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Not afraid, would love to embrace it with someone I loved

No. 183832

How does your dream gf look like? >Clothes
Basically anything you can think of

No. 183834

Dream gf is a stupid and unfruitful concept for me, I don't like to daydream of an ideal waifu.

That being said if I had to pick it'd be:
No Forever21 type seasonal trend shit, no embarrassing weeb style
I don't care at all besides it being clean and flattering her.
Interesting features, I am fond of eyes that are far apart and mouths that are on the pouty side. Big ears are cute. Clear skin.
Someone who listens and shares. I don't need her to be an extrovert at all but it's just essential to have that kind of communication if you're looking to build a relationship that lasts. Besides that, honestly probably no personality disorders. I can't deal with it.

No. 183836

>Dream gf is a stupid and unfruitful concept for me, I don't like to daydream of an ideal waifu.

No. 183911

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someone comfy to be with, introverted and a lover of nature. If we could talk about horror movies together it would be even better kek.


No. 183925

Picrel is my dream

No. 183928

Me too I want to cry hard

No. 183964

Someone who's alive and likes me back would be ideal 10/10

No. 183982

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is it kinda weird that i have the hots for Camille Paglia

No. 183991

I hate that she called herself a lesbian despite fucking men and saying that all women admire/desire dicks

No. 184003

In an interview with bill maher she said she was bisexual, not even lesbian

No. 184017

i somehow couldn’t imagine her with a cis man….maybe she’s into trans men? lmao

No. 184033

Appearance-wise I find just about anyone cute as long as she's not super hyperfeminine. Personality-wise I like introverts and it's a big plus if she's a bit of a sperg. I just want to go live in a cabin with another adult weird girl.

No. 184038

Where are the women like you around me? Life is unfair.

No. 184045

Hiding. I'm too scared of getting murdered by a troon to use dating apps and I imagine any other lesbian I'd relate to/get along with feels the same way :(

No. 184054

healthy weight and not conventionally attractive ideally, looks a bit weird(?) either chapstick or butch ideally

personality wise i'd like an artsty fartsy/creative type who hasn't drunk the SJW coolaid, wants to take out the trash and pay taxes together. likes cats. bonus points if she is fujo

No. 184103

she the greatest political pickme AKA libfem. she a disgusting, vile beast.

No. 184143

I’m getting ready to start the process to become a nun but TBH if I met my dream girl I would give it up
Modest dresser. I don’t really care about style but I’m tired of the woke feminist idea that it’s empowering to dress like you’re going clubbing 24-7, especially on lesbians. I don’t really like hardcore butch women but I do like chapstick lesbians, maybe a soft butch who can coordinate outfits with me for Mass
>Hair & Face
Honestly if she just takes good care of herself that’s what matters. I dated a girl who slept in her makeup before and it stressed me out on her behalf. I take care of myself, I want my partners to take care of themselves too. I’d prefer someone plainer as opposed to someone drop-dead gorgeous, I just really like women who I can make smile a lot. If her smile is nice that’s what I like most.
Has to go to church with me. My religion is hugely important to me and I would want her to be able to participate in that spiritual life. I like nerdy and shy girls, mostly, librarian or school teacher types. Girls who just wanna hold hands at a museum with me and have that be enough.

No. 184149


What you said about getting mistaken for a fakeboi spoke to my heart. Some people in my workplace and acquaintances I know outside of work have started referring to me with they/them pronouns and I am pretty sure it's because I have short hair, don't wear makeup, and like science/philosophy. It makes me want to scream, especially since we've been told to be inclusive by sharing pronouns so "she" is literally in my email signature. Really woke me up to this refreshed "inclusive" way to police women (especially us lesbians) who aren't super femme.

No. 184157

God I just love seeing other Christian lezzies in the wild. Idk if I’m your type though kek but power to you and I hope you find that dream gf.

No. 184179

I'm looking into different denominations of Christianity at the moment because I'm contemplating conversion, this is really lovely and affirming. Ily anon!

No. 184188

it's always the bis insanely insecure about liking women because they think it's unfeminine which triggers them since that's all men ever valued them for. so they cope by pushing their selfhatred onto lesbians

these women sucked dick all day then changed their tune after signing up for twitter and think they're feminist queens just for projecting issues with their ex boyfriends onto lesbians

>"uwu silly girlies take their harlequins and disney cartoons too seriously"
>just go and get a phalloplasty already
>you see women as resources for you to use, you obviously view me as some sort of silly uwu little girl
>you are condescending towards women because you view them as silly, vapid, little girls
how many boyfriends treated you like this to have a public ptsd flashback episode so hilariously unhinged. all she said is bisexuality isn't attractive and you really wonder why LMAOO

No. 184193

No offense intended, only curious because it sounds like you are Catholic: how do you reconcile with the church's teachings on homosexuality?

No. 184205

The church actually doesn’t teach that homosexuality is a sin at all. A chaste gay person is considered to be a Catholic in good standing. Only the sexual act is considered “disordered conduct,” because it can’t result in reproduction (same classification as anything that’s not PIV sex), and there are entire schools of Catholic thought that think it’s a little funny to cling to that teaching when many, if not most, cishet Catholics have violated that doctrine. I personally found peace in meditation and prayer, and know in my heart that my love cannot be a sin. It’s not lust; it doesn’t make me want to turn from God or His teachings. Moreover, I have taken refuge in the story of Christ allowing the sinful woman to wash His feet and listen to Him: even a woman like her, broken and left desolate by the world, was still worthy of His attention and love. We are taught that God is both infallible and full of Divine Mystery, which means my identity was no mistake. It was the human leadership of the church who led me into self-hate, not God.
It’s part of my drive to become a visibly religious lesbian woman. I want others to see that God’s Grace extends to all of us. New Ways Ministries in fact runs a conference exclusively for lesbian women religious, and they’ve published a book of essays from their members. It truly helped me on my journey.
I hope you find your peace, anon! It took me a while to find my own but it is so wonderful to have. Catholicism isn’t for everyone (I reverted from Quakerism after trying a few different churches and denominations), but I know you’ll find the grace and light you’re looking for.

No. 184223

Your post is beautiful and informative, nona.
>New Ways Ministries in fact runs a conference exclusively for lesbian women religious, and they’ve published a book of essays from their members. It truly helped me on my journey.
What is the title of the book? Sounds interesting.

No. 184227

Love Tenderly is the book! And their website is full of helpful articles, and has a list of avowed “safe” churches for LGBT Catholics.

No. 184283

I clicked the video for the content but I didn't expect the girl to be so fucking hot and cute?? Who is she? It's sad that the character she plays is an aiden, but still, she's like my idal type. I love her square jawline and almond shaped eyes. Fuckkkkk where can I find a girl like that irl

No. 184287

It looks like she's also a lesbian irl but she "identifies" as non-binary and propagates trans bullshit, it's breaking my heart

No. 184327

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I had such a huge crush on that character. She dates Jenny for a couple episodes as a normal butch before she troons out and she's so cute. I was in high school and had never really seen a butch lesbian before so it blew my mind lol. There should have been a butch on the main cast, Shane doesn't count.

Ivan was cute too, she gave me a thing for drag kings.

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I know the bisexual thread is a dumpster fire in general but this in particular made my brain hurt. This is the most ridiculous cope I've seen and one of the reasons why I'm wary of dating bisexuals, I don't want to be a stand-in for a male that gets dumped the second someone with a dick walks in.

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basically what >>183834 said
>Dream gf is a stupid and unfruitful concept for me, I don't like to daydream of an ideal waifu

but i love butches, love their confidence and strength, especially in the current climate that forces butches to transition because they are seen as men lite. i also love feminine women though, especially chubbier ones like in picrel (_yumi_nu on ig).

i think in general my dream woman could be anyone, as long as she's confident and comfortable in her body and doesn't give a fuck about societal beauty standards.

biggest turn off is a gender identity. terfiness is sexy.

No. 184394

We get bis' noses up our asses over there and in here on the daily. You're today's "I don't check up on you but I know you don't want to date me and am checking up on you to make you aware I'm a pissed off victim, but I'm not checking up on you, I said I'm not". Hi!

No. 184396

Anyway, I wouldn't date a bisexual

No. 184400

Why can't we be friends

No. 184406

I also have a taste in chunkier feminine women. Something very romantic about putting my head on a soft tummy

No. 184411

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Zzzzzzz stop bumping your thread to have your daily moan and bitch abut the mean old bi-bis oppressing you with just our existence every day and maybe I wouldn’t have bothered with your trash ass seethepost lol.
To prove a point, I’m not even going to bother looking up at the other no doubt seething lesbisponses to my initial post, because they’re not on the front page of /g/ right now. As they shouldn’t be. Your sperging should always be hidden, it’s shameful otherwise. ♥
Stay obsessed!!!

No. 184416

The projection. That's 100 words at least

No. 184417

begone, cockbreath

No. 184428

>I'm a virgin
The meltdown just keeps getting funnier

No. 184430

What are you implying here? That lesbians must secretly have attraction to men they’re trying to repress? Take your blatant homophobia to another thread.

No. 184449

What the fuck. Leave

It sounds like an unhinged troon mad that lesbians won't fuck him tbh

No. 184485

The sad thing is that I genuinely believe bisexuals exist but about 60% of girls who claim to be bisexual are the same owo edgy dyed hair BPD riddled thigh sock egirl who only say it to pander to pornsick scrotes. Idiot moids think its sexy when girls bang girls for their entertainment so of course these bisexual girls fuck every man ever but either wont give girls a second glance or they simp over a female videogame character

No. 184486

This shit's exactly why Bisexuals dont exist in my book ♡ keep embarassing yourself sweetie.

No. 184487

**Fixed grammar error

No. 184501


Why would you admit that.

No. 184513

>Oh no, anonymous image board users will know that me, another anonymous image board user hasn’t fucked a man
Scrote mindset.

No. 184528

Well you could exclusively fuck women and not be a virgin. Do you think anyone who hasn't had PIV sex is a virgin?

No. 184534

I have difficulties signalling to other lesbians that I'm a lesbian and it occured to me now, at 04:26 in the morning, that I could easily just wear a bracelet that says "Lesbian" on it

No. 184538

Anyone else feel nervous to come out if they haven't had a girlfriend yet? I feel like my family is the type that wouldn't take me seriously unless I was literally dating another woman.

No. 184557

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It feels selfish to want a girlfriend. Maybe it’s because I’m butch and I’ve been told by countless peers and partners that I’m just “so much like a man”, which hurt and confused me at the time in its own way, but I feel as though my desire for a partnership with another woman is self centered and egotistical. So I’ll just yearn here for a moment; I can’t wait for the day I meet a woman I get along with who sees me for more than just a fun accessory or an intriguing and exciting fling. I want to be one whole part to a two part recipe, I want to be seen as an equal and I want to be loved but the feeling of wanting to be loved come with feeling guilty for that desire. I hope to find someone who feels the same way I’ve felt before when I’m in love, I’m worried there’s something wrong with me and I’ll never feel like I’m loved in the way that I love others. Who knows maybe I’m a narcissist, oh well all in a days work

No. 184562

I understand this feeling, nonnie. Butches and other GNC women are often told they're just male lite and going on a tinfoil tangent even on this site people force the narrative that they "act like scrotes" just because they have a mental image of a sexist evil bulldyke strawman in their heads, a traditional way to shame gay people into believing they're all preying on innocent, confused individuals. I've talked about this with my lesbian friends and a good share of them feel ashamed for desiring for a woman's love due to not wanting to be seen as one of those "predatory lesbians". Does this mindset ring a bell to you?

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Definitely, but I’m not sure how to get past that mindset. I catch myself before I compliment other women on their looks in fear of being seen as hitting on them, and don’t get me started on women I’m actually attracted to and want to pursue, I treat every interaction as if it’s a job interview. It’s hard to express my undying love for women when I feel like I may be inappropriate in feeling undying love for women.

No. 184592

Would love a powerlifter gf one day i would totally love to prepare their meals. Or a classy older woman. Would love to be their trophy housewife.

No. 184599

you could try butching it up?? people are receptive to stereotypes

could be just me equating closet = safety but people not taking you seriously could be a plus.

No. 184608

/lg/ can you post some cute butches/soft butches?

No. 184613

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Idk if that's considered soft but she's perfect to me

No. 184615

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No. 184751

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No. 184891

Prison bi? sounds like you're lesbian but have incredibly low self-esteem and you don't want to be alone

work on yourself and the gf will come

No. 184904

I've only recently figured out my sexuality and this is all so strange to me. I'm pretty anxious to start dating women. Something I'm kind of afraid of is sex. I have this thought in my mind that I'll end up hooking up with a girl and I'm going to be embarrassingly bad at it.

Am I being retarded? God, I hope the first girl that ends up with me will understand

No. 184932

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>first crush?
my childhood bestfriend… i told her i liked her out of the blue and she got creeped out so i told her i was just joking and "couldn't believe she actually bought that". i came out to her in sixth grade and i promised i wouldnt develop a crush on her
>favourite lesbian media?
Carmilla by Sheridan Le Fanu and MLEwL by Kabi Nagata
>how did you know you were gay?
i was a misandrist in my childhood always thought men and boys looked strange and unattractive but i thought i would grow into it but i never did… so i forced myself to like a boy but really i was just larping. after a lot of thinking and going back and forth between being bi and lesbian i have found that i couldnt imagine myself ever being genuinely attracted to a male like emotionally and sexually ( but what would i know im a virgin !!! )
also ive never genuinely liked a person that wasnt female
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
i was a tomboy at school and clothing wise but i was a girly girl at heart ( and online lol on every game i played my avatar was always pink )

No. 185104

yay im so glad little floral patterns are coming back in style. lucky me!

No. 185293

>3 lesbians on server I joined, nice
>oh, two are transbians
>oh, the third one is dating one of the transbians

No. 185436

kek can't trust any "lesbians" online anymore

No. 185506

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Coworker: "are you gonna be ok with her calling you wife though, anon? 'cause you dress and act like a guy so…"

I really hate being butch sometimes. Fucking trannies get more respect that this, make the suffering stop already.

No. 185508

The server I joined has 2 lesbians, one is a horny AGP transbian and one is an obvious bihet turned "lesbian" after breaking up with her last boyfriend kek. Actual hell trying to meet lesbians online

Every time a hettie asks, in all sincerity, "which one of you is the male" I want to end it. And fuck all of this "butches are just men lite" mind rot, men really can't understand anything beyond the "she wants to be with me/she wants to be me" dichotomy because that's how their own broken chromosome brain works.

No. 185511

I feel like it's fucking impossible to escape this mindset. My mental health really improved after dumping my bihet ex who pretty much saw me as Diet Man, and meeting my fiancée who loves my butchness and acknowledges that it's who I am and not me trying to fucking imitate scrotes was a genuinely healing experience for me. But then I step outside and there it is again, it's just so pervasive. And yeah, dudes really do be thinking butches want to be them when more often than not it's scrotes who want to be lesbians lmao. Their lack of self-awareness is incredible.

No. 185521

It's very hard to communicate that I'm a lesbian to other women unless I dress like a lesbian or wear a bunch of lesbian themed accessories

No. 185523

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Get one of these bad boys and carry it around with you all the time.

No. 185525

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yeah, I'm afraid you will have to commit to living in stuff like pic related

No. 185533

try to find terf lgb servers through radblr or radtwt. even if you're not a full rf, as long as you're not overly edgy you could find one

No. 185536

Growing up a butch I grew so bitter about bihet girls who thought of me as "like a man but safe and with emotions and better manners" they could hold on to before meeting the Nigel that doesn't treat them as badly as he could. The fear has prevented me from pursuing romantical relationships which I know is on me and my trust issues but that's probably just the Universal Butch Lesbian Experience.

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>raging because all the butches or sane tomboys that I know exist are only on this site
>I’ll probably be forever alone

No. 185543

Honestly my experiences with bi women have been atrocious. Granted they were libfems so that did not help matters in any way lmao. Towards the end though my last ex got really fucking weird. Started talking about strap-ons with a jizz-hole that can jizz lube. *"no, anon, I don't think of you as a man omg how could you say that? I just want you to creampie me". That killed my libido right on the fucking spot. The fake jizz thing is bad enough but the pornsick terms like "creampie" she was starting to use made my clit invert so hard I nearly spat it out. So yeah, I completely understand why it's hard to trust bi women. Definitely a universal butch experience, unfortunately. There's good ones out there for sure, I just think you have to be upfront about your fears with them. Easier said than done, I know.

I'm using my butch pseudo-man magic powers to manifest a butch for you in your area, nonita. Godspeed.

No. 185546

ty .. I'm really hoping that this year is the year anon.

No. 185551

>I just think you have to be upfront about your fears with them

you will be accused of biphobia

No. 185567

I don't think we can get cancelled for biphobia so we'll sweep it under the rug

No. 185585

I wouldn’t be too sure about that. Bisexuals have a lot more power than us lezzies do, even in LGBT circles. There’s a lot more of them then there are of this and they tend to go batshit when you call them out on their heteronormative nonsense.

No. 185587

I'm not sure of it's because I don't really partake in online LGBTQ spaces (because everyone inside is an insane faggot who makes up reasons for a lesbian to be a bad gay so I dont even try) but with the real world it seems more like lesbians are just gay women and bisexuals are notoriously straight girls who are "not like the other girls"

No. 185613

I was trying to be positive when I said mention your fears lmao. For sure, 9/10 will immediately crucify you for it. Even though bi women get away with chatting way more shit about lesbians.

Bisexual women definitely have more power. For one, there's more of them than us. Are they all actually bisexual? Probably not. But they are loud and they will cancel for breathing. I think the het partnered ones/actually het ones are more over the top to compensate for being intruders.

No. 185618

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This is the funniest article title I've ever seen

No. 185619

Het partnered bihets should not be allowed a say, ever.
>I know I've had like 10 serious boyfriends and only one girlfriend whim back when I was a teen and experimenting but that doesn't mean I'm not oppressed and the victim of homophobia just like you lesbian folks! Stop trying to gatekeep me you nasty goldstars! btw me and my Nigel are looking to go poly and would love to have a young woman join us

No. 185620

Back when I was in school, the gays would bully those kinds of fakefag loud types

No. 185626

THANK YOU. People make me out to be a demon when I say this like bro… why go and talk to gay people about their business when you're settled down with the opposite sex? Like I'm not saying don't involve yourself at all but goddamnit, you are not on the same level as us. This goes double for conventionally feminine women who try to act like people can read their mind and find out they're bi and somehow they're oppressed for it.

Reject modernity, return to bullying fakefags.

No. 185637

>be me
>lesbian becoming a nun
>”all lesbians are witches!!”
Gonna start a convent where we all can platonically live together in sisterhood and serve God together through charity for struggling gay and lesbian teenagers at religious schools, instead of complaining on imageboards

No. 185646

Is the witch thing for real? I thought it was just memes like the "may your womb be barren" twitter girl and girls who like the "aesthetic" of it joking but I grew up in a very strict religious environment and am still a quite religious person, albeit in my own way. It's not something I've looked into.

No. 185647

It’s a meme. I only see this crap online. Dunno anyone irl who spergs about witchy shit.

No. 185648

I'm pretty rf but what I'm wary of is joining a group whose express purpose is to circlejerk about how much we hate trannies. It feels like doomer mentality, I don't wanna spend my time constantly sharing articles on them and obsessing over everything they do. If I'm wrong and there are rf communities who mainly just focus on keeping trannies out but the interior discussion is completely divorced of tranny discourse, I'd love to check it out. I'm just wary of the brainrot because I really don't wanna spend time on these freaks.

Disgusting. What makes people think we wanna simulate straight sex and pretend to impregnate each other?

No. 185653

I live in one of the most diverse cities in the world and I can't find a gf due to most being "queers" and probably because I am also ugly

No. 185654

there are different pockets of the community. some lesbians as you worry do spend time venting and hating on trans shit because genderists are lesbian hating fucks, but otherwise talk about other feminist topics or their lives on the social media or discord accounts. might take time to find a group you click with and isn't dead.

No. 185674

Has anyone here had difficulty with having a more butch presentation and being aware some people will just treat you weirdly because of it?

In the past I found myself adding more feminine pieces to my wardrobe out of sheer pressure to be liked. I feel pathetic admitting that but I live in an area where opinions on gays are mixed. I've definitely noticed that my different phases with clothing affected how warmly I was generally met by others. Its all unspoken but it becomes painfully obvious. Short of moving.. how do you process that without developing a chip on your shoulder?

No. 185677

I feel ya, nonita. I clung on to my long hair as the last bastion of my femininity for years. I literally only had it all shaved off for surgery and then slowly grew to realise I actually like short hair despite how differently I was treated for it. Other things like mannerisms and clothes I just eventually tired of. I preferred the treatment I got for looking vaguely less butch but I hated that I wasn't being true to myself. I'm sorry that I don't have any helpful advice here and I'm too autistic to phrase things right but eventually you just gotta let go and dress and act how you naturally want to. You will be bitter about your treatment, it's hard not to be. I sure as hell was bitter, still am a bit. But again, you just gotta let go. It's like anything else in life - holding onto negative feelings never does you any good. Just focus on being yourself; personally I feel so much more confident when I'm dressed up and feeling sharp. I would never be able to feel that way if I kept on trying to appeal to normies.

No. 185708

You have every right to feel bitter about that, nonners. I do think that you should stick to what represents you rather than trying to be liked because it's just a lie otherwise. The warmth they show femme presenting women is just a reflection of their misogyny anyway, they think a woman is acceptable when we stay in our "place" and behave the way that is prescribed to us. It's a charade, that warmth they offer to those that conform. Forget it, their willingness to acknowledge your dignity is entirely conditional. Focus your attention on people that do accept you and let them nurture you. The rest of it does not matter and will never be yours anyway.

No. 185736

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How do you cope with the fact that there’s so many other lesbians who feel completely at home in the queer community and don’t see trans people as any sort of threat? I’ve been thinking how even in a big city, even some place supposedly “accepting” I still feel as isolated and menaced for being a lesbian as when I lived in a little hick town because of the community where I’m supposed to feel most seen and safe when there’s plenty of girls who can be totally calm and detached from all the homophobic bullshit rampant in it, some of them even participate!! I don’t know if anyone else feels this way but it makes me feel so weird. Sometimes I wonder if I’m just old fashioned with an outdated backwards view on what the gay community should be like. Kind of like pic related. Just some weird bitter dyke whose living in the past that can’t handle change and wants everyone to feel as shitty as she does by complaining about this kind of thing. It’s not like I live in some third world country where gay marriage isn’t legal or something, so what’s my excuse for being so angry all the time? Why does it feel like I’m the only one who feels this way? I need a real community!

No. 185739

I hear you. I feel like I get more and more jaded and done every year. In 2015 I used to be able to internally roll my eyes and ignore the TWAW queer bullshit. I'm so exhausted now though. Telling a lesbian to put a dick in her mouth is blatant homophobia and I'd rather hang around traditional rightwing homophobes than woke queer homophobes. At least the rightwingers are honest, it's a whole new fucking level of insulting to have a het woman and her TIM husband lecture you about girldick. I could never date or even be friends with someone who wasn't GC at this point.

No. 185746

I could honestly deal with roleplaying and weird jizz strapons and whatever because it's not "real" but the fact that in everyday life they make it so apparent that you have to be on your toes ready to pack your bags. It's hard to explain but the overall vibe you get from them making it clear they resent you for not having a dick, not being able to be a trophy hunk husband or them being lowkey ashamed of you being a "non-lady". In the previous thread an anon described this situation where some bihet girl slowly starts making the butch wear makeup and do her hair and wear girlier clothes so that they can be a sexy femme couple and that's about what I'm trying to say.

A lot of gay people keep to themselves and have no contact with the rest of the "community" or at least the worst part of it so they're able to shrug troons, stupid straight allies and other community leeches off. My only other lesbian friend legitimately wasn't aware of most of the tranny shenanigans like pressuring lesbians to date them until very recently.

No. 185748

Oh yeah I had to stay on my toes too. Even if the jizz cannon wasn't a deal breaker the fact that she constantly reminded me I was punching above my weight and that I was so "mannish" completely eroded my confidence. She used to talk about men she found hot a lot too and if a man so much as looked her way she would tell me all about it to make me jealous. It was like psychological warfare. I'm finally over it and healed now and I recently saw a pic of my ex and I stg I saw her through new eyes. She's… kinda ugly and if I'm being completely honest she has the horsey face of an inbred posh girl. I feel like I was gaslighting myself to find her hot lmao. I'm no 10/10 but damn I'm better than that. I do think upon reflection it was her insecurity that lead her to constantly talk about me landing someone I didn't "deserve" so I would agree with her and make her believe it but it's such a shitty way to act. She's not the first woman to feel insecure ffs. Just tell self-deprecating jokes like a normal woman and move on.

You're not alone, nonita. I'm completely divorced from the "community" irl and this thread is the only place I talk to other lesbians online. I had the exact same feeling of being a cranky old woman behind the times but tbh I think a lot of people in the community are just lying to themselves or secret terves who don't have the balls to say it. Fuck living like that. There's definitely tons of women like us scattered about like pariahs. If you are looking for irl meets try tumblr or twitter and start networking. Personally I've just made peace with it but I'm an autist that's happy to have no social life beyond my fiancée, family and work. Good luck, nonny.

No. 185749

>She used to talk about men she found hot a lot too and if a man so much as looked her way she would tell me all about it to make me jealous.
nta but I had this with my bi ex too. Every time she saw an attractive guy or had a sex dream about men I’d have to hear about it in detail and like reassure her that liking men is valid. I think she was trying to bait me into saying something she could twist into biphobia, we were both on Tumblr and she really internalized the whole “bihets are systemically oppressed and abused by the big mean dykes!!!!!” narrative. ironically I was originally a huge fucking simp for bi women but dating one made me pretty biphobic lol. I could date a febfem maybe but that's it.

No. 185757

Your ex was definitely baiting you, when I had the courage to actually tell mine that I don't want to hear about whatever ugly moid she's into this week it IMMEDIATELY got turned into "oh so you're shaming me for being bisexual?!" instead of her realizing that a conversation about attractive scrotes with a lesbian is gonna be a one sided conversation. We were on tumblr too and she also bought into being a pwecious widdle persecuted bisexy despite being conventionally feminine and hiding me from most of her friends, her work and her family. She got called gay a few times at school for being a nerdy autist and completely ignored that "gay" was/still is used out of context as a vague negative insult by bullies and went straight to "I am oppressed for my sexuality that nobody knows about". She got really mad at me any time I reblogged a post dunking on troons too lmao. I feel the same way now that maybe I could date a febfem but I'm done giving bi women a chance tbh.

No. 185759

Right wing people have been more accepting of me as a lesbian due to the fact they don't even register it as homosexuality. They actually devalue lesbianism so much that it comes full circle and they almost start accepting it, and that's more than woketards have ever given us

No. 185791

I was sort of fooling around with a bi girl at one point and she was simping hard over male celebrities and her hot male professors, the ones she was really into were those extremely masculine, burly ones too. It sounds so childish but made me feel inadequate a lot of the time and I couldn't relate to her sperging about them so the relationship obviously went nowhere.

>she also bought into being a pwecious widdle persecuted bisexy despite being conventionally feminine and hiding me from most of her friends, her work and her family.
This makes me seethe so much. I'm sorry you had to go through this nonna. Like a lot of others here I would date a febfem just fine but a bihet with a track record of male only crushes and relationships is off my list.

They accept it because they don't see it as a real thing. That's not really a very valuable allyship to us, it's the exact same thing as what woketards are doing but in a different flavor.

No. 185794

Honestly simping for randoms while dating someone is never going to be okay, ever. I don't care about their gender (though scrotes are so gross I don't get it) it's just inappropriate as hell to constantly put your partner on edge like that. Sounds like some kinda personality disorder.

No. 185824

Thank you, nonita. ♥

Honestly, I never really thought about it too much but yeah. It's certainly odd. My fiancée and I have spoke about first celeb crushes as baby gays and laughed about how clueless we were as kids but that was a totally different context. I would never straight up say to her that I'm drooling over XYZ celeb because there's no reason for it, unless you're purposefully trying to be a bitch.

No. 185827

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reminds me of this

No. 185830

I mean that post isn't wrong. Talking about men =/= fawning over them

No. 185833

do other people feel really guilty in female spaces? i was at an onsen the other day to relax and the most beautiful woman was there at the same time as me, i made sure i didnt look at her really at all (obviously that would have been creepy) but i still noticed her and got a glimpse of her face and she was seriously stunning. and when i felt that i instantly got so guilty. like shed come here just to chill like me, to a space where she wasnt going to get watched or objectified, and i went right ahead and did that. i feel horrible about the whole situation.

No. 185834

Relax nonny. You did nothing wrong.

No. 185835

Literally why talk about people you find attractive to you partner? Male or female that will cause some problems. I know OP is being dense on purpose to maintain victimhood but c'mon. Like I said here: >>185824 and anon said here: >>185794 it's something you just don't do. I was perfectly fine when my ex talked about her personal experiences with men as that was part of her life, it's just a dick move to be like "hey I think this man is sexy, what do you think?". And yeah some lesbians will complain about them going back to men, just like some bisexuals will complain if you on to date a lesbian and not another bi woman. But if your actions have made someone to feel like they're inadequate for not being a man and then gone on to date one then they have every right to bitch about it. Also how the fuck is bisexuality "nuanced"? You fuck both sexes, I get it already. It would be the fucker with a Spock profile pic too lmao. Thank fuck I deleted my tumblr account.


Yeah, when I was last single I had tinder for like, a day before I deleted that shit. I've done the whole experiment thing before and I'd rather have zero pussy than go through that again. Had I not met my fiancée in the most unlikeliest of places (fucking AA lmao) I think I would just end up a spinster because navigating gay spaces gives me a fucking headache.

You did nothing wrong, nonita. I promise that the vast majority of lesbians and bi women have all had at least one experience like that in the past. Noticing beautiful women is completely natural and it happens subconsciously. We don't choose to do it, our brain does it for us. It's how you act that counts and getting a glimpse of her is fine, it's no way near objectifying, I promise. I'm random anon on an imageboard so I have zero reason to lie to you. Besides, straight women check out the "competition" all the time so I'm sure that woman turned quite a few heads that day.

No. 185840

I have this autism too but it's just autism, nonna. We can never objectify women the way scrotes do, because we know what objectification feels like. You did nothing yet you feel regret and shame. A man would never, even if he actually did harass someone. You're just projecting onto the situation what you know random male attention feels like. Also straight women generally don't even consider lesbians when they see another woman looking at them. Staredowns sans lust are common among them lol.

No. 185849

thanks guys i feel a bit better about it now. im glad i could get it off my chest ive been ruminating on it for the past couple days and making it worse and worse in my head. it really isnt that much of a big deal. but i really do feel like im betraying women when i find them hot

No. 185851

It's really common with lesbians, seriously. Everyone I've talked to knows this and exactly how it feels like. You can barely give your best female friend a platonic hug without feeling guilty about it because you don't want them to interpret it as groping or sexual harassment. The predatory homosexual is such a deeply ingrained fear-mongering stereotype that we're going to autistic lengths to avoid contact in order not to make women feel uncomfortable because we know how horrible it is to be objectified and sexualized.

One hundred percent based post, anon.

No. 185858

In the last year or so I had a whole series of uncomfortable incidents where men acted gross with me and I think me wearing leggings (or some call em yoga pants) was a part of why it was happening. The last time it happened I went home and threw out every tight pair of pants I own.

I now feel really bad any time I see an attractive woman wearing yoga pants because sometimes you just have a passing thought. Simply noticing that someone looks good doesn't compare to staring at them, following them around or saying gross shit though. It's not the same.

No. 185864

But how do you meet GC girls in real life? I’ve only seen them on tumblr and on lolcow. It’s very isolating being on the younger side and being gender critical and all that. Judging from media I’ve consoomed the 90s/2000s seemed to be the golden age of lesbianism. Sure, the world was ugly but we had our own spaces and our own culture, like a nice little bubble full of Subaru’s and angry girl music that we could live in to stay away from it all. I was born too late though so I never really got to experience any of that. Now I feel like I’m just part of some endangered species and we’re all gonna be extinct in, like 10-15 years cause of how “inclusive” everything is becoming and how much everyone seems to shit on girls who openly aren’t into schlong.

No. 185867

>Judging from media I’ve consoomed the 90s/2000s seemed to be the golden age of lesbianism.
Maybe it was in America but certainly not everywhere

No. 185871

>Judging from media I’ve consoomed the 90s/2000s seemed to be the golden age of lesbianism.
Based on what? Back in the early 00's I was a teenager and all I remember is t.a.t.u tier fetishization and sexualization, lesbians being depicted as two hot chicks making out and men getting their dicks hard over it. Sure you got a ton of bicurious girls wanting to kiss their equally straight friends to impress scrotes but being an actual lesbian or even a febfem was very much looked down upon in our society. I guess the bright side is that AGP troons weren't trying to force themselves into lesbian spaces yet and if you met someone legitimately identifying as a lesbian she probably was 100% authentic one but you could never be (in a general sense) out and proud going out with her like you would now, never. I guess we lost some and gained some in that way. A lot of the humor in the early 00's was based on bashing gays and revisiting stuff from that era shocks me how insensitive it is by today's standards and would absolutely cause an uproar of controversy.

No. 185979

Yeah people have such a stupid view of that era and it could only be because they are too young to actually have known what it was like living back then. I've seen people claim everything from being gay being easier to having an ugly body being easier. None of it is true but zoomers and millenials with amnesia love to say it.

No. 185998

RIP, does anyone have had a decent experience dating a Bi girl? I want to get into a serious relationship with a girl? I don't care if she's Bi or a lesbian as long as we Like each other tho.
Any pitfalls to avoid?

No. 186000

It’s not that I think it was better in terms of homophobia, people were definitely more open about it now. But now it’s hidden by rainbow Oreos in pride month and same sex couples on insurance commercials. It’s like being gaslighted on a mass scale. People think because they aren’t calling people fags or advocating conversion therapy then they couldn’t possibly be homophobic when a lot of the time they are, just in much sneakier ways. So because of that our community was a lot stronger back in the day, the B and the T were hardly part of it. Nobody else wanted in on it to seem cool or different aside from, like, Lindsay Lohan for a year or so. But now that’s all the girls there are. A bunch of girls who want this cutesy little Girl In Red aesthetic but save all of the actual relationship stuff for a man and brainwashed butch girls on T. Excuse me if I’d rather go back to a simpler time because even if nobody acts like it nothings really changed except now we’ve been pretty much kicked out of our own community. I just wish girls like me still existed outside of this thread.

No. 186001

I'm too young To remember such times anon but I come from a country that legalized homosexuality recently so I feel you.
I meet like only two bi girls and one Lesbian in my whole life at my old school. Though the Bi in question was with a boyfriend and the lesbian had a girlfriend already in college

No. 186016

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Have any of you ever owned, or currently own, any lesbian lgbt flags/paraphernalia? To me it's like a catholic decking out her room with candles, crosses, Jésus art, and incense. No ill-will to our resident catholic lesbo here<3 You can decorate your space how you like obv, but I guess I just don't get the outward expression of this kind of thing?

>me: zero

No. 186026

Nope, though I've considered wearing a little pin sometimes to signal it to strangers in case they wanna hit on me lol

No. 186033

I was only thinking about this lately. I don't wear flags on myself and never would but I have a space above my bed that's begging for something to brighten it up.

But then a couple days ago I had workmen at my house and I didn't even know they'd be going into my bedroom too..but they did. Had a moment where I suddenly felt glad that my room is boring with no clues about that. Where I live it's a mixed bag. Some people will turn very cold if they suspect that about you.

I'm also just glad I didn't have a dildo sitting out anywhere lol

No. 186034

Flag merch is so fucking tacky, but also as a very visible butch I don't have to worry about people mistaking me for straight so I guess I can kinda get people like >>186026 getting something subtle, but a big ol' flag on your wall is just tasteless. That being said, if I were going to get a flag it would be the labrys flag because it makes genderspecials who call it "the TERF flag" butthurt kek.

No. 186035

I'd may be get something subtle alluding to the Bi flag but never would deck out a flag or stick in my room.

No. 186045

>>185998 Bisexual women are lesbians in denial or straighties with daddy issues.

No. 186047

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I just looked up 'lesbian wall art decor' to see if there's anything tasteful or pretty subtle that I could get

This isn't what I want

No. 186048

Regardless of what you think I would like advise lol

No. 186049

LMAO this is so bad it almost loops back around to being good. I'm so tempted to stick this on a pinterest board for interior design ideas my fiancée and I share, just to see how long it takes for her to notice it kek.

No. 186051

Reminds me of the times I would make my barbies kiss but grown up

No. 186054

I can actually see myself buying this in a semi ironic way instead of buying the tasteful slightly erotic lesbian art I've always wanted to hang in my livingroom

No. 186059

I think people choose the worst gay paraphernalia. I don't like the trend of decking the gaff out in flags and rainbows. It looks gay but not in the way it's supposed to. I would like a small lesbian flag somewhere in my room as a novelty though, or maybe some decorations that had lesbian flag colour theme for subtlety

One of my closer friends is a gay guy and he deadass has smallish statues of ancient Greek style men "wrestling", I wish I had something like that but with women

No. 186060

Samefag but what I'm trying to say is that I wouldn't want an owo LGBT house but I definitely want people to know that inside my walls is lesbian territory

No. 186063

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>tfw no homoerotic statues of women "wrestling" for me to buy.

No. 186065

My goal in life now is get good enough in art to draw semi erotic female pictures

No. 186070

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No. 186071

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These would look nice on a wall. Not super expensive either. https://www.etsy.com/listing/621221733/pair-of-female-garden-wall-plaques-water

No. 186077

Me too anon. I want have nude statues of gladiator women wrestling.

No. 186079

Kek. I mean, it's the proper way to do it, right? Like I'm in my early 20s so I don't want to start hag barking about people needing to do this and that "properly", but I feel like the whole gay flag everywhere shtick is so tacky and immature. Lesbian themes have existed in art for centuries, and almost all of it is beautiful, why on earth are people NOT buying this stuff if they want gay themes houses?

Can I just say I love these suggestions? Very elegant, and I can totally see thise white wall hangings above a table decorated with light purple or rich pink flowers. It would be so feminine and just a fuckinf delight to have set up

No. 186083

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Guilty of samefagging twice now, but I threw this together. These are art pieces I really want prints of. These, in my opinion, are far more comfortable and elegant than a fagflag

No. 186085

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Maybe Klimt stuff that isn't The Kiss? This painting is literally called Water Serpents (Girlfriends). He paints a kind of reverence for women that I vibe with.
I unironically love this but probably on a mug, not the wall lmao

No. 186087

It's lovely anon, I love the pegasi kek. Those dresses at the bottom look uncomfortable to wear.
Love Klimt.

No. 186094

absolutely hate flag shit, especially when worn as a cape and even more so when it's dumb shit like asexy pride and the asexies feel so brave for coming out as spergs. pins and stuff are alright, but i'd prefer a double venus symbol over a flag. that's just my personal preference though. i do like >>186034 's energy about the labrys flag too.

honestly the least people could do is iron their cheap flags after ripping them out of the aliexpress plastic wrapper.

No. 186108

I challenge anyone to tell me why they would rather have a creased up flag instead of this. It looks wonderful, it looks mature, natural, gorgeous, like you actually appreciate femininity and the lesbian experience instead of just "I'm gay haha, look, you can see my flag in the background of my selfies. Did you guys know I'm gay haha"

No. 186121

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Really love the current topic. If anyone prefers a more modern style in their art decor I recommend Tamara de Lempicka. She was bisexual and clearly appreciated the female form. All I have is a cheap little postcard set of her artworks, though. I'd love to have some high quality archival prints to frame and hang in the future. Picrel is a collection of a few of my faves of hers

No. 186125

This is so beautiful! I want a gf with eyebrows like the woman on the far right kek

No. 186126

Cooool, thank you for introducing me to her art!

No. 186149

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I put together some paintings others may like!

La Confidence by Elizabeth Jane Gardner
Promenade Médievale by Jacques Clement Wagrez
Giornata di Pioggia by Gaetano Bellei

L'Inverno by Edouard Bisson
The Silence You Hold Between Us by Soey Milk
A Thorn Amidst Roses by James Sant

Two Fairies Embracing by Hans Zatzka
Der Liebesbrief by Hans Makart
Sous les Tonnelles by Louis Icart

No. 186161

Does anyone know of unusual lesbian themed photography compositions, a little bit like the ones created by Jaun Paul Gaude using Grace Jones as the model?

These are stunning. I especially love rice colours in art, so these Lempicka pieces are really doing it for me. I'm actually gonna try and find some good quality art prints to buy online

No. 186168

Not that anon but dating a bisexual girl is the pitfall you should avoid. Almost every lesbian has a horror story about a bisexual ex girlfriend and how dick-obsessed they were or turned out to be. Spare yourself the heartache and hold out for an actual lesbian, it’ll be worth it.

No. 186175

thank you, these are adorable

No. 186183

People telling you to avoid bisexuals, the largest dating pool, just so you don't run into one with dick obsession are so off base. Cool yeah hold out only for a lesbian and maybe she'll be one of the ones that contribute to our weirdly prevalent domestic abuse statistics! Oh wait, that's no good. You can't discount people expecting them to turn out to be the shittiest possible incarnation of their identity group. With lesbians as you can see, avoid the ones with brainrot that gave you advice in this thread. They're incel adjacent, entirely bitter. With bisexuals avoid ones that are dick crazy, they will let you know very early on and you will have a way out. They can't shut up about men and will talk about them at length.

No. 186186

not a lesbian but just scrolling past this thread- you know the lesbian abuse statistic is false, right..? it's been discussed here before multiple times?

No. 186187

Those domestic abuse stats were deboonked. IIRC it included all female/female cohabitation. Not just romantic.

No. 186189

it asked self identified lesbians if they had ever been abused by a partner- not a female partner, just a partner. and something like 70% said yes. well it turned out that these lesbians had been previously closeted and were dating men in the past, and it turned out that only like 19% had been abused by female partners or something like that.

No. 186190

Thanks, I wasn't aware of that. I do think my point stands, you can't label people as garbage based off some people's bad experiences.

No. 186191

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Back on topic: I bought a print of picrel a while ago. It means a lot to me because it was the first picture of a butch woman I saw in media, let alone a butch woman being intimate with another woman. I've not yet hung it up on a wall but it's motivation for me to finally settle down as I've moved about non-stop since I was like 15. I'm currently looking for my first house to actually settle into and I can't wait to get more lesbian art like some of the pictures shared in this thread.

Ah, thanks. I might've been thinking of another survey that mentioned violence in cohabitation but yeah, it ain't stopped people thinking we're all violent yet.

No. 186195

Does anyone have lesbian romance recs? I need some trashy summer reading. Fanfic/amateur work is fine too.

No. 186196

Any of the random low tier lesbian werewolf smut books with the embarrassing "graphic design is my passion" style covers are fucking gold if you want an easy trashy unintentionally hilarious read

No. 186197

Wee woo wee woo bisexual dick obsessed girl detected wee woo wee woo

No. 186200

Nonita, I love you. I'm fucking cackling lmao.

No. 186203

smh I've had bad experiences with bis too but to escalate that to mental illness is just a whole other level

No. 186205

I have always loved this photograph.

No. 186209

Excellent taste, nonita. Vintage stuff like this really is the best. I'm hoping to get a few more photograph prints for my tastefully stereotypical decor. Any anons with suggestions for vintage lesbian photographs that would look good hung on wall feel free to post some recs here.

No. 186210

Where are you buying them from?

No. 186211

If it's something I really love I'll get a custom print like I did with the KD Lang photo. I prefer doing it that way to getting cheap etsy prints. Plus I can pick the frames then to keep it in the style that I'm going for.

No. 186212

Except bisexual girls are notoriously dick obsessed straight girls with a hate boner for lesbians. If pretty much all of us have had a shitty experience with a bi girl then it isn't just a generalization, it's an actual problem with bi girls and only bi girls

No. 186213

Sweet, I might look into doing that.

No. 186214

why are lesbians so interested in having sex with strap-ons and dildos? the only things that are capable of doing that are scrotes, I thought lesbians were attracted to female genitals? so why simulate the act of penetration that can only be given from the opposite sex? it still will never make sense to me

No. 186216

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No. 186220


Because our gspot in internal. Go back to the bisexual thread before I get the wee woo siren on your ass a second time, you salty dick obsessed fuck

No. 186222

No point in telling her about the G spot. Clearly none of her Nigel's have ever hit the damn thing.

No. 186223

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So, anyways, brushing aside the bisexual retard shitting up the thread because we revoked her LGBT card for just being in the category who just pretends to like women because men think it's hot, look at these cute plant pots from the plant addiction thread. I think they fit nicely with the subtle lesbian art for the house

No. 186224

Haha that's a funny one, but well constructed. Love the pose too. I would plant some type of viny plant instead though.

No. 186225

Omg I love this. Do you know where you can buy them? My fiancée has a green thumb and I think she'd love it too.

No. 186226

File: 1621278715120.jpg (127.05 KB, 496x496, 20210517_200606.jpg)

Imagine building a sexual identity that panders to mens who fetishize lesbians and getting mad at lesbians for actually having good penetrative sex

Anyway, heres the tits pot

No. 186227

But anon why do you like butts…when men have butts!!!!

No. 186228

No. 186229

It's almost as if women…

Wait, hold on…

As if women… women have asses

No. 186230

>Feminist Decors

Those are lovely anon.I want a stylish medieval fairy tale romance like in the second pic.

No. 186231


Thank you so much! I just ordered one of each. Can't wait to give them to her, we are gonna have the best damn tastefully dykey house ever. All we need now is a Subaru.

No. 186233

Hmm ok I'll let this one go but if you date a short haired woman I'll start poking around again and accuse you of secretly being straight, ok?

You know I'm joking?

No. 186234

I was joking too ya damn autist.

No. 186235

Speaking as a plant mom, your partner is going to love these. There's nothing a plant person loves more than plant paraphernalia, and nothing a lesbian loves more than women, so combining the two is like meth for plantfags

No. 186236

Well there's an anon floating around saying this stuff in all seriousness. You almost do have to point out when you're just someone mocking them lol

No. 186237

>because the g-spot is internal

The clitoris is the general female g-spot which is why scrotes suck at reaching adequate sex through penetration. Come on now I literally just asked a question I just genuinely don’t understand?

No. 186238

I hope so! She does love her kooky and different pots so this should go down well. I'm not into plants myself (because I'm too forgetful to keep them alive kek) but I definitely see the appeal in collecting plant paraphernalia. It's like crack.

No problem, buddy. It does get tough when people are shitting up the thread. I'm an autist myself so I say it with love. ♥

No. 186239

>Come on now I'm literally just trolling and making everyone fall for the weak ass bait

No. 186240

The clitoris and g spot are two seperate body parts. If you don't know that, then you're worse than a bisexual woman who doesn't understand same sex attraction, you're a male wondering why we don't fuck you.

WEE WOO WEE WOO moid detected

No. 186241

>The clitoris is the general female g-spot
Hell yeah

No. 186242

I truly wasn’t trying to bait or troll

No. 186244

File: 1621280584902.jpg (12.38 KB, 330x341, clit.jpg)

Ntayrt, but they're not seperate body parts. Vaginal penetration simply stimulates the internal parts of the clitoris.

No. 186246

File: 1621280901380.png (90.99 KB, 540x264, dickclit.png)

Just to confuse that anon even more

No. 186247

>Go back to the bisexual thread
Oh please she's probably straight.

No. 186258

I made an ugly laugh at this nonny

She's currently in /ot/ having a meltdown over lesbians ITT being gatekeeping incels who scream "if you don’t want to suck my clit then you are a confirmed heterosexual" (her words). At this point it has to be an unhinged troon.

No. 186259

People like her are magnificent for my self-esteem. I should thank her, really.

No. 186260

what are some signals to let people know aside from the usual rainbow pins and flags? any pride merch is just trashy to me now. i would go present as butch but it's just not me.

No. 186263

I don’t think you understand the irony of what you posted because you’re not very bright

No. 186264


No. 186265

Gosh, the only thing I can think of is the "butch nod". Obviously doesn't apply to you and even that is a dying tradition. Lesbians seem to have lost our ways of communication. Gay guys have quite a few ways of subtly putting themselves out there but we have nothing beyond being obviously butch or badges. I hope you find something, nonny.

No. 186294

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kek I've done that without knowing it was a thing. Gay men seem to have a system of signals that still works for them today. Tell me, elder lesbian anon, what are the ancient ways of lesbo communication?

No. 186299

A ring on your thumb used to be the signal for "lesbian and looking" at the alternative gay friendly bar I used to go to, never got to try it because I was closeted to my friends. This was a few years ago, not sure if it still happens

No. 186307

using that. nonnies if you see a frantic gal with a ring on her thumb, that's me hmu.

No. 186314

Sappho used to wear a garland of broccoli around her neck, and gor a while it was a leabian thing to present another women with bowls of broccoli. Learned that other day. So if you see a woman wearing broccoli

No. 186317

using that. nonnies if you see a frantic gal with broccoli around her neck, that's me hmu.

No. 186327

File: 1621306746516.png (987.57 KB, 757x1516, 1621307294710.png)

That scene in Twilight where Edward walks into the cafeteria for the first time but you're all Bella and I'm Edward in this outfit I made

No. 186330

6/10, strap not big enough

No. 186332

that's a tumblr misinfo meme

No. 186342

please be my wife, anon
this makes me want to buy broccoli earrings. i dont even have my ears pierced but maybe for broccoli earrings i will let someone desecrate the flesh of my precious lobes

No. 186357

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Alright nonnie, let's get this LGBT (lesbian girl broccoli time) wedding going

No. 186367

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"Monocles were popular in lesbian communities in the 1920s because fashions that denoted “daring,” “rebellion,” or the reclamation of masculine garments were generally popular attire among lesbians."

No. 186369

>dildo with a dick tip and balls
Do y’all really?

No. 186375

Those things always creep my out. I always go for the non-descript ones that are designed with the vagina in mind (like the ones curved to hit the G-spot), rather than being brightly coloured dick replicas.

No. 186381

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It's the size of my arm and made of blue jelly…I wouldn't get too freaked out by it's 'realism' lol. Actually the fact that it's jelly and therefore porous is more offputting than anything else.

This is muh dong. The head shape has its pros

No. 186384

The veins are gross though it looks like a real dick. But I like the curve.

No. 186386

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I just use what feels good. It's not like I sit back and look at it much. Nearly bought a cool looking rainbow themed toy lately but then I realized I was picking design over performance so didn't get it in the end.

No. 186387

Imagine going back in time and showing a Suffragette the genderfluid (I think that's what the flag is for?) butt plug and explaining that the colour scheme has been stolen by a bunch of weirdos and yes, people shove that up their ass.

No. 186391

Finally, someone who understands. Realistic dildos don't work for me at all. I need artificial colours and shapes to better fit my pussy because a realistic penis just turns me off

No. 186399

My ex was very disrespectful over my desire to NOT want a realistic strap, she didn't get it at all and was very pushy on want us to use a realistic one, in the end we got none and we ended up breaking up. This small (read: huge and disrespectful) detail really put a dent on our relationship if I'm being honest.

No. 186403

AYRT, even though I'm exclusively a top, if I looked down and saw a realistic dong between my legs it would kill the mood for me.

I've had quite a few women not understand it before because I'm not the one receiving it. They just acted like I was being a stick in the mud, instead of viewing me as an actual human being with boundaries.

No. 186404

Why did she want a realistic one?

No. 186416

File: 1621349224524.jpg (39.18 KB, 640x638, 1617107182991.jpg)

>dildo with the lesbian flag is the only one that looks like an actual dick

No. 186417

File: 1621349253155.jpg (206.44 KB, 1000x1000, gayshiiit.jpg)

Found this yesterday and didn't know which thread to dump it in.

Looking for an unrealistic sex toy?.. need some clit sucking, tail fuckin rodent themed goodness in your life? Unspoilered cos it's just a cute horny squirrel

No. 186418

Perhaps the internet has ruined me but all I can think about is how much babyfurs would love this so I can't find it funny

No. 186425

Is that a polyamory colored buttplug? Fucking yuck. Where can I find a good G-spot strapon though?

No. 186430

What kind of pets/livestock do you all keep?

I feel like "farm lesbian" is a meme at this point since most just have an herb garden and cats, but its honestly my goal after I've made enough money to get a little ranchette or something. Right now I just have a dog and a kitty,but caring for animals brings me so much joy.

No. 186431

You know that plug has been up all 17 of the relationships assholes

I have 3 dogs but I'm starting to grow vegetables. I live in the suburb of a capital city in Europe, so a full on farm isn't an option for me, but my back garden has space for ground vegetables and my porch is an adequate greenhouse I guess

No. 186436

shit anon that sounds like a dream. one day i hope to grow more than just basil

No. 186450

>that plug has been up all 17
Every second tuesday of the month is my turn with the family butt plug

No. 186460

anon my sides

No. 186466

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Had my first meeting with a wedding planner today and things are now officially in motion. If I can make it, then you all can. Godspeed, ladies. I love all you anonymous bitches. ♥

No. 186468

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grats nonni–i mean BITCH

No. 186493

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Grats, nonnie! Are you planning a more traditional wedding ceremony or something different? Tux or dress?

No. 186500

My landlord doesn't technically allow pets but there are a couple neighborhood stray cats that I look after. Someday I'd like to have a cute garden and like 10 kitties.

No. 186501

God I wish that were me

No. 186510

so happy for you. sending all the best energy♥

No. 186539

Thank you! I think the ceremony is quite traditional in the sense that it's a lowkey ceremony mostly focused on close family. We're having it outdoors in a wooded area as we're both big fans of ceremonies surrounded by nature. I'm gonna wear a suit and my fiancée will wear a dress (we are the heteronormative lesbians the troons warned you about), ngl I'm almost as hyped about getting my own custom made suit as I am about getting married lmao.

Thank you so much, ladies! ♥

No. 186547

>we are the heteronormative lesbians the troons warned you about
Kek based
What kind of suit are you planning on wearing nonita?

No. 186573

Congrats anon to you and your wife! And keep on being based, troons screeching about muh heteronormative lesbians can die mad about it.

On a related note, where exactly did they get this retarded "heteronormative gay couples are regressive and not ~real gay~" narrative? I've seen it around so much and it's almost exclusively meant to shit on the butch/femme dynamic and I don't get it.

No. 186609

Idk where it came from but I've never heard an actual lesbian say this. Ever.

No. 186619

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nonnies, i am so pathetic and i hate that i fell for the same shit non stop

>date girl 4 years and some more

>propose to her
>slowly realize she's been cheating on me for at least three months
>completely destroyed, thought she was my soulmate
>try moving on, meeting new people
>every couple of months ex gf contacts me for stuff
>"hey anon, i just wanted to let you know i love you and if you ever need me we can talk"
>i am weak and catch up with her every few months… she says its okay, "cause we love each other as friends". i tell myself that too.
>she gets cheated on by the girl she cheated on me with wow fucking shocker
>she shortly gets with me four months later
>my idiot ass:
>"god this is it, i feel in love again… i am so happy. god i am so glad i never cut her out off my life completely. my best friend was wrong. this is what is meant to be. she is my soulmate ive always known…"
>on march she left me and immediately got back together with the cheating girl again
>in a few months its going to be 3 years since we originally first broke up
>we lasted 4 years
>and its been 3 years…
>how low can i fucking be?
>why am i fucking crying

god, i feel so stupid. when it ended my best friend said i needed to cut her out of my life entirely cause she was a liar and manipulative. and i didnt cause i still had feelings. look at me now, still thinking about someone who doesnt love me and texts me every time she fights her gf to feel better about herself. i just want someone to actually care for me. bumbble and tinder didnt really work on me and everything is closed in my city. i am so alone and i am literally in tears thinking about all of this again, i just want her out of my life, for real this time, and to find someone who actually fucking cares, jfc.

yes i have not spoken to her since march but it still feels too recent, ive been in and out of love of someone for seven years and they stopped having feelings for me after like the third year… they just refused to leave and i couldnt let them go… but now i finally did. and i am so alone and it feels so late

No. 186621

I hope you actually blocked her ass this time nonna. Loneliness is better than being her emotional thrall to fall back on. You need to close this chapter of your life permanently and you'll be ready to let someone else in when the pandemic is over and done with. It will get better. Just make sure she has no way to talk to you again.

No. 186637

Nonita, bisexuals do not exist. They are sexually confused straight women looking to take advantage of lesbians.

No. 186641

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That’s a win for all of us. I hope you both have a happy healthy marriage!

No. 186649

Being butch and pretty much only being attracted to other butches.. I noticed a while back that the kind of lesbian wedding photos that get shared around and celebrated are usually the 'one femme, one butch' ones or two femmes. Rarely two butch women. That makes me a lil sad but then I kind of get it. People love a dress.

No. 186666

> On a related note, where exactly did they get this retarded "heteronormative gay couples are regressive and not ~real gay~" narrative?
My armchair analysis is that it's "queer" heterosexuals projecting. I'm literally homosexual, anything I do is homo, including if I settle down in a suburb with a femme. Queer heterosexuals (transbians, fujo FTMs, etc) literally are not homosexual. They're straight people who fetishize the "gay lifestyle" and see us as a collection of stereotypes. When LGBs act like normal people who just happen to be attracted to the same sex it ruins their LARP.

No. 186673

It's unsurprisingly crushing on straight girl hours over here. I'm self medicating with wine and watching her stories. She's so cute it kills me, but she's married with three kids. In my fantasy world her husband disappears and I comfort her, she falls in love with me, an I become the cool lesbiab step mom to her children. Is that weird? Don't answer, ofc it is.

No. 186680

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I keep trying to not hate religious people but they've been such a huge part of my misery. I can't be who I want to be or love who I want to love and everyday I have to deal with shitty homophobia and trad retards. My brother won't even speak to me or let me see my niece and nephew because I'm an evil atheist dyke trying to corrupt their perfect little nuclear family. I hate living in this stupid ass country. I just want this covid shit to be over soon so I can get the fuck out. I want to get a girlfriend and stop being so lonely. I want to actually go on a date with a woman and not fear being outed, harassed in the streets, and fired from my job. I'm so fucking done with this tired ass shit.

No. 186682

I hate my body so much it gives me anxiety attacks and I can't sleep. My girlfriend has work tomorrow and she's sleeping already - it's 3 am in where I live.

I just hate everything womanly in my body and it has been this way since my puberty started. I've always been scared of having big boobs or butt, and when all that became fashionable I was honestly BAFFLED and I still can't believe some people want to have breast augmentations or butt lifts. I'm not very curvy, but sometimes when I hang around with myself I can just feel my body all around me and it makes me feel like I want to die. I would never kill myself, because I love my girlfriend and I think there are so many amazing things in life just waiting to happen. But what it comes to my body - I would rather just hide it from myself, and I'm so sad that it is not physically possible to do so.

No. 186684

anyone got an id on the middle left painting? beautiful

No. 186685

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This one? Portrait of the sisters Malvina Anny Louise and Hilda Sophie Charlotte Reventlow by August Heinrich Georg Schiott

No. 186687

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Cute beachy lesbians gif

No. 186688

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No. 186689

I found a blog on tumblr recently that posted pics of butchxbutch weddings. Seeing those photos gave me lil hope.

No. 186698

Fellow curvy-and-hating-it anon here, I felt the same way as you for most of my life after puberty, sometimes still do on a bad day. For me it started with scrote attention as well as my family who loves to comment on people's bodies. My hips and breasts developing brought a lot of unwanted male attention and that made me resent my body a lot. I ended up not being able to see my body for what it was, instead saw it through disgusting male eyes almost. I didn't want to perceive that perspective ergo I didn't want my body. It helped me to frame my body as my tool and not someone else's anything. Your body exists for you to experience life with. I hope you can grow to see your body in a way that serves you instead of making you upset. Don't let anyone trans you btw, I've had people try to tell me I'm actually a man inside before.

No. 186713

time to drunkpost in the /lg/ about how lonely I am and blame my being in a wheelchair for it instead of like being brave or whatever and trying to make connections with women so I am not lonely anymore. idk. I'm in my late 20s and feel so far gone lol.

No. 186717

I'm not in a wheelchair, drunk, and alone if it makes you feel any better anon

No. 186729

Thank you for your words. I think I might also suffer from these feelings because how I was brought up and the fact that I turned to sex work because of financial despair a few years ago. I don't do that anymore, haven't done since I met my girlfriend. She honestly saved me - we've been together for four years and she would never let me go back to sex work. She has been providing for us both when I haven't been able to. And there's something really, really healing about being loved like that. I couldn't be more grateful for her and for love like this.

I've also been told that I'm trans, which I 100% am not. I just struggle with body image. When I was a little girl, I used to get anxiety attacks about the thought of having to have children when I grow up. I cried and told my mom that I don't want to have kids and she always just responded with a really pushy "you will change your mind eventually" which made my anxiety eevn worse. My family isn't even religious or anything. I remember barely hitting puberty when I was told that I'm "soon going to be a woman" and it made me really anxious. I was literally just a child, and the whole "young woman"-thing being pushed onto me just felt alienating, weird and pushy.

When I was 14 years old my grandmother told me that I look awfully fat, which was absolutely not true. I started to lose weight and developed anorexia which turned to bulimia which I still suffer from, just not every day.

It's no wonder I feel like this now that I think about it. and no wonder so many young lesbians today feel like they hate their bodies or that they'd rather be men. The whole image of womanhood that is pushed to us even as children is very narrow, sexist, sexualized and unrealistic. I hate it.

No. 186738

I'm drinking rn and I'm thinking about how my inferiority to women growing up impacts my ability to get with women. Inwas a weird child growing up and the pretty girls would always talk to me in that fake nice way that they didn't know that I knew they were making fun of me. Like one would girl would ask me questions and her friends would be snickering and I never understood because they never knew me or anything about me and I always feel like women taking an interest in or being nice to me is fake and I dont know how to deal with that. I've been a closeted lesbian for years and I think part of it was me not saying it to myself because I couldn't want me in a position where I constantly feel like romantic potential is fake making fun of me

No. 186739

Growing up in a country where catholic is just the default title that's passed down to you.. I've always been weirded out by the amount of people who are homophobic, who say it goes against god but then if asked whether they truly believe they'll go to heaven after their life ends….they're unsure if any of that stuff is real. So you're parroting the same old homophobia that staunch believers do when you deep down don't even buy into any of it? Cool.

No. 186740

I come from a Catholic country where the people are everything except holy. The people who hate you for being a lesbian are the same people who knowingly scramble for a loophole to defy their sky Daddy. Fuck them, they're not better than you, and they only think they are because it's the thing they canr justify

No. 186742

I feel you anon, though I live in a Muslim majority country. I wouldn't dare ever come out to anyone in my family, the only people I've told are close friends who I know aren't very religious/are atheists. I can't wait to gtfo.

It's so fucked up when you think about it. They genuinely believe that people will be tortured for eternity for the most harmless things. The description of hell in Islam is horrifying, I remember having nightmares about it when I was as young as 7. It's one of the main reasons I left that cult.

Kinda related to >>186739 I was quite disheartened recently when I found out that a lot of exmuslims in my country still think that homosexuality is unnatural/disgusting. Is it because the indoctrination hasn't been fully washed away or do straight people just dislike homosexuality by default?

No. 186744

Catholics despise homosexuals but look the other way when priests diddle little boys and all the nuns are fucking eachother. Catholicism is all for show. You out a cross on your wall and look down on people because ie saves you from the guilt of being a human

No. 186788

There’s an animated independent project about lions and the main character is a lesbian. It’s called My Pride. It surpassed my expectations but admittedly the bar was very low.

Looking into the crew behind the project is very cringe though since the gender special kool aid and furry bullshit just drips from the majority of them. Unfortunate.

Has anyone else seen it?

No. 186790

based anon is based

No. 186796

I hope you are able to still enjoy the show even after that nonnie

No. 186797

I feel like i can't be in a relationship with a girl, like i've had plenty of crushes on all types of girls, I always find them cute even when I know scrotes wouldn't rate them 10 but I'm ugly and I feel unworthy of these cute girls (mainly because of coomers fetishisation of lesbian relationships). Even if they wanted to pursue a relationship I wouldn't them to be seen hand in hand with me because i've never seen (in media or irl) an ugly lesbian couple.
I just to kiss a girl without feeling like an impostor

No. 186799

I'm so happy to read that your girlfriend is supporting you so staunchly. It's extremely encouraging to hear positive accounts like that.

The story of your family members making shitty remarks and pushing the heteronormative idea of womanhood sounds so alike mine. I've tried to make peace with it but I keep noticing ways in which my parents took for granted that I'd marry a man and have children (two things I detest) and never once stopped to question themselves, ask themselves whether I actually want those things. The possibility of having a child that is gay or childless did not cross their minds at all. That their remarks would then do psychological damage to a divergent child did not cross their minds. I struggle with accepting that I have to either level with them and get them to realize their thoughtlessness or just keep them at arm's length. I want to let them in more since they're not completely bigoted, they are just not on the same page as me. They'd accept me being gay but I want more from them. What more do I want? It's irrational entirely. I want child me to not go through what she did. It's not possible to take it back, that makes their "crime" worse to me. They can never undo the damage they did.

Ah yes, fear of women fueled by girls that i was into rejecting me from their social groups. Does not go away in adulthood either, it's just coded into my mind now, that women cannot and will not accept me. Even worse with the knowledge that sexualization feels horrible when unwanted, and I'm aware of my own interest in women which makes me feel like a predator. Etc etc etc classic gay guilt shit.

No. 186806

Hi, it’s me, Soon-to-Be-Postulant Nun Anon. I’m so sorry for the things the church has done to you. I could recite the church’s canon law stance (which is that no, gays and lesbians aren’t going to hell, even a sexually active lesbian can be a Catholic in good standing if you confess after you have sex, even under the strictest and most conservative interpretations) but it can never undo the harm that it’s caused, nor take away the damage its left in its wake.
At its cruelest, this is still the only world we have, and there’s no ethical or moral reason to decide to make the world worse for some people because we think they’re “habitual sinners” or whatever BS reason the more conservative Catholics give. It’s not exactly Christlike to tell women that they’re gonna rot in hell because they don’t want to touch a dong.
(Also, I’m not boning any other nuns. Most of them are well over 80 and I have never had a thing for GILFs. That said, there are A LOT of celibate lesbians in religious life. Like, I’ve met more lesbians in convents than I did at gay bars.)

No. 186844

>Like, I’ve met more lesbians in convents than I did at gay bars.
For some reason this fact saddens me. But I'm aware that it's not a bad thing.

No. 187186

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>favourite lesbian media?
But I'm a Cheerleader is my favourite lesbian movie of all time. Also I'm pretty sure Bend it Like Beckham made me gay, whoever wrote the script is a fucking coward because they were clearly in love. I can't think of any other lesbian movies I've enjoyed though, everything else is either too sad or too oversexualized.

No. 187463

Anons, how shallow is the dating pool for lesbians? I wanna find a girlfriend but it feels like the pool is flooded with transbians or 'woke' queer types which I'm not into. I'm afraid I might just settle for the first real girl that even gives me attention even if we aren't really compatible.

No. 187483

being in the closet and so repressed is affecting me. i feel kind of sad these days, i can't even come out to my own roommate who considers herself an ally because i'm worried about word somehow reaching my parents. i don't want to end up 25 and having zero experience being in a relationship

No. 187495

I'm gonna be brutally honest with you, anon. It's as shallow and filthy as a fucking puddle. There's an overabundance of woke womxn and transbians, sometimes it feel like there's no normies at all. But you can't let the bastards get you down though. Keep getting filthy in that puddle and eventually you're find yourself a shiny penny. I'm aware this metaphor doesn't work but I'm committed to it now so fuck it. Just keep your standards up, you are looking for a shiny penny NOT a clump of mud. You are worthy of that shiny penny. Do not settle for anything less.

No. 187787

Have any anons played the visual novel Lady in Mystery? It's on steam and the characters look good. I'm thinking of buying it.

No. 187797

No, but you've got me interested. I love visual novels and the music gives me huge Shenmue vibes.

No. 187815

I really relate but in my case ending up 25 and like that is extremely realistic and how it is going to turn out in the end. For myself I hope that I will get at least something before I turn 30, I don't have any hope for more. And yeah, nobody knows and in my case there is nobody to come out to so it is eating me up from the inside

No. 187827

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No. 188069

I could watch something actually good or, OR I could watch The L Word for the nostalgia. Imma do the latter.

No. 188117

I literally rewatch The L Word twice a year lmao. Do people actually think it’s bad? Aside from the oftentimes cringey epilogue sketch things and that random whispering every so often I honestly love it. Gen Q on the otherhand…

No. 188118

Did I say epilogue? I meant prologue. Whatever, you know what I mean. The thing inbetween the “previously on The L Word” and the theme song.

No. 188119

This is a bit of a weird question but do you guys feel like your vocal preferences(musically) relate at all to your sexuality? Like in the way that I've always loved listening to female voices and singers and pretty high notes and I'm wondering if it's at all a lesbian thing.

No. 188121

It's mainly bad because of Jenny, she's an absolute psycho. To the point where people made "I killed Jenny" shirts after the ending. The fact that she's apparently based of the creator too makes some scenes even more questionable.

No. 188122

Yeah, I'm not a fan of high pitched voices and my music taste reflects that. Women with low and kinda husky voices really get to me.

No. 188138

Honestly, not in my case. I've always preferred lower singing voices so I mostly listen to male singers (female singers with lower voices are my favourite but there's not a lot of them). They just sound more pleasant to listen to. Ironically, it's the opposite with speaking. I love most female speaking voices while male ones annoy me lol Couldn't stand listening to male teachers at school

No. 188159

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Came home to find my fiancée surrounded by vitamin bottles. She sat me down and explained what they're all for and told me she's "grinding xp" ready for when we start trying for a baby. It's a while off yet as we want to get married first and we gotta browse through more sperm bank catalogues but I'm so happy. Like, can't-even-put-it-into-words kinda happy.

No. 188164

Hope you two continue to have a happy relationship. Wishing your fiance a safe pregnancy if it ever happens.

No. 188299

Passed by a flyer in my town lately, I moved to this fairly small rural town a few years back and while I'm fairly butch and probably obvious.. I've never actually told anyone here that I'm gay. It's too rural for me to feel comfortable. But this flyer was advertising an LGBT group for teens aged 13 to 17 and I just.. I'm old and bitter lol

I grew up in a city and even there I've struggled with this. I definitely wasn't about to open up about this at 13 (and I would've been told to stop being silly if I did) I'm twice the age of these teens that now have a whole social group there from the start. I never had that and don't even feel comfortable now. I guess attitudes are changing here but I can't let go of the tension I've always felt.

No. 188303

I'm genuinely curious why you moved there, especially if it makes you uncomfortable? I'm not trying to be rude, I think your feelings are totally valid.

No. 188322

How do I find a terfy girlfriend? Please don’t say tumblr…

No. 188328

Anon half of them are going to be aidens and the other half genderqueer enbies. If any girls there are gay they'll be told they need to transition. Have you tried looking online?

No. 188487

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mfw gf gets me a promise ring
im never taking it off

No. 188488

That’s beautiful anon, best wishes!!

No. 188589

tfw no femme dua lipa to my mullet miley cyrus

No. 188687

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Have you ever read something that isn't yuri but feels better than yuri? I read this one-shot called 1-day idol, it's about two women who go viral after a trip to Taiwan. They are so wholesome. I can see them growing old together and traveling with each other for the rest of their lives.

No. 188689

This is lovely anon, thank you!

No. 188696

Sorry for blogposting but I just want to get this out of my system and maybe someone can relate or give me solace. Sometimes I honestly wish I was straight or at least bi so that I could live a normal life. I would be able to be perfectly happy with the person I love and proudly bring them to my family without having to stress the reaction of my homophobic family members and I wouldn't have to avoid talking about my SO with people I don't know that well, I wouldn't feel so ashamed to interact with women in fear of coming off as predatory to them etc. I know people say homophobia is over because we got equal rights you can't get rid of it during barely a single generation. Being gay was considered a mental illness just a few decades ago, straight and straight passing people don't know how great they have it.

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realized there's a cis lesbian general on /lgbt/. weird… for some reason I assumed there wouldn't be enough lesbian women on 4chan for this kind of thing

No. 188719

Women who call themselves "cis" ain't worth talking to imo. I'm sure those ones are close to peaking as /lgbt/ is generally a troon infested hellhole but still.

No. 188724

I wanted to say I understand how you feel - in fact I feel very similar. So you are not alone, even though we will never meet each other. While the only visible gay representation are people who are out, have their shit together and are happy, it is calming to know that there like me and you out there <3 Feelings of isolation have made me feel quite bitter, especially towards other gays because I doņ't think they have any compassion towards self-hating gays. But I understand you and I have also cried many time about wanting to be normal, to be at least bi, to live a normal life, to not have this huge thing looming over me and demanding to uproot myself and change my life for it, so that i least have a tiny chance at being like everyone else around me
Sorry, I couldn't me much help or give any advice. I am struggling myself

No. 188779

You're not alone in feeling this anon. Straight or bi people do have it better, i have considered some types of therapy conversion or just celibacy since i was a teen because it feels like life won't ever be normal for us. Everything you said is true and just the weight of carrying this secret around everywhere is so damn stressful.

No. 188789

To me it doesn't really matter what type of equal rights laws get passed. I know the people who I love(my family) won't accept it and the people who do would judge me for being a hypocrite/fake. Sometimes I feel like just completely disappearing and cutting off all ties with everyone I know.

No. 188793

>the people who do would judge me for being a hypocrite/fake
Why would they think you’re a hypocrite or fake?

No. 188797

Because I stayed in the closet for so long and I grew up in a christian family. All my friends already think religious people are lying hypocrites. I'm not even religious but I don't feel like being example no.1795.

No. 188798

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God same here anon. I don’t know what to do..

No. 188800

Do your friends not know you well enough to know you’re not religious?

No. 188808

I think you're spiraling a bit there. Nobody in the lesbian community is going to think you're a hypocrite, even if you tell them you've considered conversion therapy.

No. 188922

>i have considered some types of therapy conversion or just celibacy
Me as well. I have been thinking about celibacy and feel sad that I am not religious and can't go full Jesus' Bride. I think when you are religious, if you dedicate that part of you to god, there can be comfort in all the pain. Without it, you are just random celibate who struggles on their own
Tbh, I feel that lesbians & gays have a very different views on closeted people. I will preface saying that lesbians are a lot more understanding and there is less of a pressure to be completely out. As far as gay men go…if you are in a bad headspace, do not go to them for encouragement lol all I've seen is them saying how closeted gays are flushing their years down the drain and general complete lack of compassion
I'll also say that lgbt community is a shit place for finding support. All the positive PR is just marketing

No. 188999

>gay men and women have different views on closeted people
And yeah, I wouldn't go to anyone but a lesbian for support on my sexuality, especially on closetedness. The trauma of being a woman in this world is amplified immensely by being gay on top of it.

No. 189003

do you nonitas ever watch lesbian tiktoks?

No. 189009

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Real or larp?

No. 189015

This seems super larpy

No. 189030

This is without a doubt a man larping his sex with lesbian fantasy.
>He had sex with me
Why not "we had sex" or "I had sex with him?" This sounds like a male describing sex with a woman as assisted masturbation, or a woman describing herself being sexually assaulted.
>I appreciated (list of sex acts) a lot
Talking up the male as a great guy and appreciating what a gift he gave her by fucking her and being fairly nice while doing it? Only a man thinks the bare minimum is brag worthy. He lists mundane things such as the places he kissed her and telling her it feels good as good boy points because it runs counter to his pornsick idea of 'normal' (abusive) sex.
>Brushing my hair
This phrase implies use of a hair brush. Could be ESL, but probably a scrote who has never had long hair and is too retarded to know the difference between brushing hair and stroking it or brushing it out of one's face.
>It felt a little weird but I loved how he treated me and didn't hate it… I was really happy I got to experience it with him.
If you're a lesbian this is not how you describe sex with a male.
>Female friend is worried she hurt his feelings by letting him fuck her
Only a man would twist this scenario into "she led me on."

No. 189050

voming because I think I'm actually a straight up lesbian and not bi like I originally had thought. the signs point to lesbean express but ive been in so many fucking het relationships i think my brain is rotted towards sexualizing/prioritizing men in my relationships even though i never truly enjoy being in relationships with them. grew up in a conservative household and watched lesbian friends get thrown out for being gay so I think I've just been hardcore suppressing whats been reality this whole time. been over a year since I've dated anyone at all and I've realized I am super uninterested in penis even for a quick fuck. any other older nonettes who came to terms with being a lesbian later in life?

No. 189053

Yep, I figured it out in my late twenties after having my first sexual encounter with a woman. I always thought I was asexual but turns out sex with men did nothing for me because I'm just not attracted to them. I'm a happy definitely not asexual lesbian with a beautiful gf now.

No. 189058

God knows if it's real or not but anyone can buy a dual density dildo and essentially get the same feeling a dick would give you. I think men are way more inclined to think dicks and dildos feel so different on our end…sensation wise they often just don't. If you're not even attracted to men and if you have access to toys then you're not missing out on anything there.

I mean I've been there myself (had a very 'meh' ONS with a gay guy years ago) There's no mystery there to uncover, sex without attraction is meh and the physical sensation isn't vastly different from a toy. All very underwhelming but at least I didn't find myself thanking him and fretting about his feelings afterwards.

No. 189071

Yeah, I was deep in the closet and married to my male best friend. We had a dead bedroom besides the rare few times a year where I'd let myself essentially be raped. He did not know what was going on at all and I was too cowardly to tell him the truth. Losing financial stability and my best friend was too scary. Anyway what woke me up was falling for a woman (who knew I was married and identified as bi at the time) who reciprocated my feelings. But the way I felt for her was so different from what I was conditioned to feel all these years. Biggest giveaway was I wanted to fuck her. I had never actually wanted to fuck a male I supposedly fell for before. Ever.

The woman and I never ended up getting together but she did become the catalyst for my divorce and life a a lesbian. We had both agreed that we would not cheat so nothing happened when I fell for her at the start, just goes against my principles.

I've always had a fixation on women and wanted to be the male cartoon/fiction characters in the things I watched. I've gotten in trouble for being too touchy with a female friend as a kid and had some lesbian encounters with my peers in school but never thought much of it because I was "bi" so I dismissed it. When I was old enough to fall in love I was already socially an outcast from the female friend groups due to difference in hobbies (I'm not hella old but where I'm from women my age didn't have nerdy hobbies and didn't dress alt). So that lead to being around men a lot more and being accepted a bit more by them. Of course they start having crushes and I go with it. Some shit like that.

Yes I thought I was asexual as well.

Could be real only because her best friend is male and with male best friends you are the therapist, mother, part time gf. I bet she's conditioned to obsess over his wellbeing in every aspect over hers.

No. 189078

>Could be real only because her best friend is male and with male best friends you are the therapist, mother, part time gf. I bet she's conditioned to obsess over his wellbeing in every aspect over hers.

Could you expand on this? I've dated girls with male best friends that act like this and now I'm wondering if this is a thing that actually happens and if it's something to worry about

No. 189090


You sound a lot like me <.<

I've been celibate for almost 3 years now and I have this intuition that I'm going to have a lesbian flowering. I have a lot of internalized misogyny and was worried about not having kids and if that would mean my mother would not accept me. I'm getting older now though and really starting to be ok with the idea.

No. 189093

NTA but this happens a lot in any place whose dominant culture socializes men to expect women to take care of them, e.g. the Southern US. As someone who got sucked into that dynamic when I was younger, I didn't even realize what I was doing til my family and some friends pointed out I was wasting time and energy on male friends who weren't doing anywhere near as much shit for me as I was for them. If you're concerned about someone you're dating having parasitic male friends like that, I'd gently ask her what she's really getting out of these friendships and how they make her feel. Usually, they know they're getting a raw deal but they stay out of obligation or a fear that their friend will "get worse" without their influence, aka typical toxic relationship shit.

No. 189117

I relate anon… I dated a guy for 5 years who basically raped me weekly. Only dated him out of obligation and low self esteem. I wasn't into men but that didn't compute - I thought I was asexual or broken. He would basically whine until I gave him sex. Basically he used my body to masturbate with. I would just lay there and wait for it to be over and I would usually cry afterwards, and he didn't care. Before I dumped him, he would masturbate in bed beside me if I said no, and otherwise would pout and be an incredible piece of shit.

I have a girlfriend now and it's so different. She's so much more emotionally intelligent. I won't ever be with a man again. I pity straight women. I don't think there's a man in the world who can get women the way lesbians get each other.

No. 189128

the meme ones can be funny, but overall..they are meant for 15 year old girls and 40 year old straight women with no personality (yes, there are women on /latebloomerlesbians that think they are gay after watching tiktoks). cringe. but i have only seen the compilations on yt

No. 189302

With my ex husband he would make do with masturbation (not in front of me out of spite like your scrote, jfc)since I made it pretty clear I had no interest in having sex with him but eventually he would always hit a point where he'd start getting snappy, visibly depressed, in general really shitty to be around. I'd let him use me and he'd suddenly become extremely loving and patient again. Perhaps the chemicals released after orgasm had to do with it. Unspoken entirely, we just did this song and dance for years. He did not know he had been doing this the entire time too, the slowly growing cold with me until I fucked him. It was only me that was aware. The relationship was a mess, a platonic friendship I valued that turned into me exchanging my body a few times a year for financial and emotional support.

And yeah, I pity straight women immensely. They will never ever know true companionship.

I'm so tired of people over the age of 20 talking about TikTok. It's not meant for us at all, let the kids have their thing.

No. 189334

only youtube compilations. I have one because friends will send me ones they find amusing but I have never posted to it

No. 189454

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Baby gay here, has anyone noticed a shift in lesbian stereotypes over the years, especially in the wlw scene? I dunno something feels different, like an emphasis on youth. Maybe because people are able to be open and come out earlier in life?

No. 189458

I'm not a huge fan of two "stereotypes" I've seen around on twitter and tumblr the past few years: "lesbians never make a move" just seems to me like a cope for young lesbians half out of the closet or, worse, kweer trenders who don't have the guts to actually take the steps to get into a same-sex relationship. I see "useless lesbian" thrown around a lot, which ostensibly refers to lesbians who can't function around attractive women, but it also gets used by your typical ~anxious~ twitter user who can't be productive or make phone calls. This is sort of a tangent but I'm not a big fan of the more general jokey stereotypes in the form of "gays can't drive/do math/sit properly", it's so infantilizing. Not to mention the older lesbians and gays I know irl are all very practical and independent.

No. 189470

>Only a man thinks the bare minimum is brag worthy. He lists mundane things such as the places he kissed her and telling her it feels good as good boy points because it runs counter to his pornsick idea of 'normal' (abusive) sex.
This is exactly what gave away the larp to me. Oh wow a man kissed me during sex and played with my tits, what an amazing lover. Didn't even attempt to choke me once! I honestly feel bad for straight women.

This is so sad anon, I can't imagine how horrible it would be to be married to someone you really don't love or feel physical attraction towards.

It's because the sexualization of lesbians has really kicked into gear during the last few years and now the only "real" lesbians are young, beautiful, ultrafeminine schoolgirls and instathots. For example you see AGP transbians constantly demonizing older women and they're currently put in the position of being the spokespeople for Lesbian inc. I'm not even trying to GCsperg/derail here, it's just sincerely a gigantic factor in how the shift happened and where it went.

No. 189475

I think the first one is due to not wanting to be seen as a creep if anything.

No. 189549

just a throwback
i fucking love this mv

No. 189636

i feel so lonely and hopeless, girls. i'm turning 30 next year and i just wanna find a woman to settle down with and be well-adjusted adults with normal jobs and hobbies and friends together. i feel like it's never going to happen, that i'm never going to experience what it's like to be in a relationship with another woman again. my last relationship ended almost ten years ago, both my exes trooned out. everything is just so hopeless in this current political climate. before that i thought i just have to be more proactive, use more dating apps, go to LGBTQRSTUVWXYZ+ meetups, etc. now, even when you find actual lesbians that you find attractive, they are infected by libfemmy brainrot.

how to cope with being alone forever??

No. 189649

Dedicate yourself to 2D, nonny. At least it won't troon out on you. t. another 30yo foreveralone lesbian

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My covid vaccine was administered by a really cute woman today. We were both wearing figaro chains as bracelets… Was it meant to be? I love crushing on random strangers for a couple days.

No. 190020

who’s that in picrel?

No. 190027

Not her, but the asian lady from that Netflix show called Maniac

No. 190034

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Sonoya Mizuno, love ha

No. 190170

iktf, earlier this week at the gym i kept making eye contact with this incredibly cute girl while she was benching and part of me is convinced it was intentional

>tfw no energetic muscle gf who spots you while you squat

why even live

No. 190183

last week my crush was this 6'0 goddess i saw in the grocery store. she was tall and in shorts and her legs went on for days. she was also really polite to the cashiers. she doesn't know me but i hope she's doing well.

No. 190199

All of this fashion talk made me wonder, how's your style like?
What's lesbian fashion in your opinion.
To me is undeniable to say we do dress different than the norm, even the most femme lesbian do

No. 190202

A stereotype ( at least for lesbians more my age) is that we are more keen to dress alt, more likely to have body mods/ dyed hair and may have fashion choices that look Non conforming or " Garish" for a lack of a better word. Possibly because lesbians and some bis don't go out of their way to dress for dudes or it's not really/always in their minds so they dress " different " if given a choice or allowed to.

No. 190203

Ex /clg/ poster here, most of us have long abandoned the thread that's now just low level shitposting (and most posters left aren't even lesbians). We're all in the discord.
We called it "cis" because the old lesbian general was infested with trannies, it was merely to differentiate them. Not that it keeps them away, but yeah. We don't like them.

No. 190211

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Does anyone feel extreme pressure to be better than men at sex? How to cope with it? I'm not a virgin nor a gold star but I'm clumsy and anxious. I'm so scared anyone with experience will think I'm useless and a fake…

No. 190212

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I'd love me a punk/alt gf not gonna lie, especially if her hair looks a bit like picrel. The shaved side does things to me for some reason.

No. 190213

I mean a good partner will be patient with you. Also sex may be awkward with someone as you're getting to know that way so I heard. You won't click immediately with everyone that way and communication is key.

No. 190216

I'm not super into the alt look myself but she's really pretty!
Girly girls are more my thing ig? I don't want to say cottagecore lesbian but close

No. 190217

i thought most men can't even get women to orgasm

No. 190220

I like to wear patterned (non-plaid) button-up shirts, silver jewelry, high rise lightwash denim cinched at the waist. Usually layers so I can shed my clothes as I get overheated easily lol. Generally like to mix streetwear with nature-adjacent patterns. I'm not sure I look gay on the outside but I probably do.

No. 190221

Nta but I've never seen a cottagecore lesbian in my life
Feels bad

No. 190222

Sounds pretty gay tbh

No. 190225

why would you conflate being a gold star with being clumsy and anxious?

No. 190226

The less I care about my looks the more attention I get from girls. I don't get it.

No. 190234

the most "success" I've had was at some goth-ish bar in austin while dressed like a business casual liz salander and a bunch of cute girls complimented my outfit/makeup, including some woman who was either trying to hit on me or just aggressively advertising her vintage costume shop

No. 190236

I wear japans version of goth/punk, have colorful hair and my wardrobe is 99% black. I feel very seen right now

No. 190237

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I like to wear classic style, lots of dresses, does this mean I scare off the ladies by looking too normie? Is being into vintage weird and homo enough? kek

No. 190242

Let's date

No. 190245

Great, let's be vintage nerds together anon-chan!

No. 190259

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Went on a first date, we ended up hanging out for 12 hours and I have never felt happier. I haven't been a lesbian for very long (thank you internalized homophobia) but everything just felt right going out with her. Anyone else go on dates recently, be it with someone new or a regular partner? What was the cutest thing that happened on your date? I think the cutest thing that happened on our date was I picked a flower for her and she kept it the entire day as a memento, it gave me warm fuzzies.

No. 190277

> I think the cutest thing that happened on our date was I picked a flower for her and she kept it the entire day as a memento, it gave me warm fuzzies.
This is adorable and I'm very happy for you. One time I gave a girl I was out with my sweater because she was cold and I still think about it. I love cute shit.

No. 190350

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Vintage fashion makes some sort of gaydar go off for me. I've met more bi or lesbian vintage fashion aficionados than straight ones. Plus open air cinema, getting milkshakes + burger at retro diner and going to an electro swing night is usually a safe bet for a date.

No. 190461

This is adorable, congrats nonna!

No. 190475

Hnnng I want a vintage looking gf so badly. But it'd be a bit peculiar for her to wear that gear today. sigh

No. 190488

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This explains a lot. As much as I dressed “girly” when I was a tween/kid. It was never trendy pieces of clothing that’d I see normie made-up girls wear; I myself was never too fond of makeup. I mix-matched “garish” colors and wore flowery or “old women” patterns. I wore all sorts of flowy, frilly mid-height skirts and dresses. I have only recently realized that, I was just dressing for myself and for friendly weirdo girls who’d make small compliments on my wacky accessories hehe win win.! Then I went through my awkward teenage jeans + t-shirt phase kek.
>immuh revert back to my roots and dress like picrel as I grow older.

No. 190514

there are several vintage influencers who are gay, that jessica lady (although she's into woke/tra shit, sadly) and a girl with short blonde hair that I can't remember the name of. I think bernadette banner might be gay too but she's never really come out that I know of.

No. 190524

Oh god I hope Bernadette is a lesbian. Why do you think she is btw?

No. 190585

Bernadette is bi/het I’m 99% sure, she has or had a boyfriend for a long time.

No. 190619

Well one time on her insta story she said she was "queer" though I guess that doesn't really mean anything. Also her interactions with Cathy Hay it felt like there was something between them. But i guess maybe i am just reading way too much into it lol.

Wow i didnt know that, ive been following her for a few years now and ive never seen her mention a man.

No. 190624

Didn't Bernie say she identifies as asexual in a video? She's very cute though and I'd love if she was one of us

No. 190662

>long term bf
yeah could be gay ngl

No. 190725

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Taking a stroll around town and I’m sitting on a bench. I just saw this chick who’s a bit above average height with a long-ish torso—but to my surprise her legs weren't stumpy. I think she had a thigh gap but her legs weren’t skinny—they were fit but not THICK or SLIM. A weird Goldilocks zone I’ve never seen before that is really appealing. Her bum wasn’t dramatically plump but it was not flat. Oh my god I can’t believe I’m detailing this the way I am lol sorry anons.
I’m voicing this because I don’t really favor any body type. But idk her proportions were so striking to me. And I could STARE at her for hours, but she was walking away with her mates. :( I only have a 5 second memory of her looping over and over and I want her to run back and scissorhead me
Haha and just now I saw a lady bicycling with a small pooch in her basket.

No. 190763

Unusual proportions are exciting and sexy to me! People shit on Lily Rose Depp for her cankles and no ass but I love her legs when she was """""fat""""". I have so many little looped memories like you described too, of just random women I thought were hot as hell.

No. 190900

is it bad to be a gold star? do you judge women who are?

No. 190905

why would it be bad? being a gold star is peak lesbian.

No. 190909

As long as they don't assume superiority and don't throw their sisters who weren't so luck under the bus there fine.

No. 190911

what about women who think they're superior for fucking men?

No. 190917

Bait, do not respond

No. 190920

t. woman who feels superior for fucking men

it's not bait you retard

No. 190925

It's bait because if you read up in the thread even a little you'd see that we've been over gold star shit 800 times and it always devolves into shitflinging. Please talk about literally anything else.

No. 190939

>As long as they don't assume superiority and don't throw their sisters who weren't so luck under the bus there fine.

Literally how often does that happen? Gold stars just want to be left alone most of the time. What's next, you are going to call us privileged? Too ugly and retarded to be fucked by men? How about you get out of the tumblr woke crowd echo chamber that hates all women that weren't fucked by men and see that gold stars aren't oppressing anyone? Grow up, it's obvious your only gs exposure have been through queer crowd

No. 190944

>What's next, you are going to call us privileged?

yeah i've seen people say this

>Too ugly and retarded to be fucked by men?

seen people say this too even though there's literally no such thing. men will literally fuck dogs and children

>How about you get out of the tumblr woke crowd echo chamber that hates all women that weren't fucked by men and see that gold stars aren't oppressing anyone? Grow up, it's obvious your only gs exposure have been through queer crowd


No. 190946

Yeah, this. 9/10 times when Gold Stars are brought up it's them being shat on. We don't have any advantage over other lesbians, we're not fucking oppressors. On the contrary we usually get more shit for it because "how do you know if you haven't slept with a man?!?!?!" is a VERY pervasive line of thought, even within the damn lesbian community itself. Gotta love the "too ugly for men" line though, like they wouldn't fuck a hot pocket fresh out the microwave if there wasn't other people around to judge them for it.

No. 190950

imo, may be a hot take, but I think that the alleged lesbians calling goldstars ugly are not lesbian at all. It's actually a huge sign that she is a faker. Think of it, straight and bi women have been using the word "lesbian" as derogatory and synonymous to an ugly, undesirable woman for decades. So why would an actual lesbian act as if women that haven't had dick in them are at the bottom of the totem pole? That's peak het thinking

No. 190964

animals and hot pockets are okay but a LESBIAN is too ugly. i'm sure that must be why "lesbian" is one of the top porn genres among both men and women…

No. 190990

THANK you.
Microlabels don't matter. You won't care about it at 40 years old, so why stress yourself about it now and over other's perception of your fucking sex life. Fucking grow up. love you

No. 190997

You sound mad because you hopped on a dick

No. 191037

I sure wish I could post in any lesbian space online without trannies or some clg cunt around, but I guess not, you assholes are everywhere!!

No. 191053

>bi girl adds me on league of legends after a silly match
are we married now?

No. 191058

Yes. The lezzie thread & bi thread users will put aside our differences to attend the service

No. 191071

yes I am ordained and I proclaim it so

No. 191091

There really aren't inherently superior. If there bi like me it's Ehh, but I just feel bad for the lesbians that either dated or fucked men because they didn't know better/ didn't really know what lesbian was outside of a abstract porny concept or felt pressure to do out of conformity. If the lesbian never felt pressured or didn't cave in, good for em.

Though I sometimes do low-key wonder if some of those gold stars are just insecure girls who are trying to prove their "queerness", but like I said I'm alright with the ones that don't assume superiority or judge women for their experiences too bad. Because we literally already have that in the hetero world so let's cut that bullshit down shall we?

No. 191093

>bi like me
>let's cut the bullshit down
You said it, sis. Now get back to your own damn thread or learn to fucking sage your shit.

No. 191094

I do post on my thread as well tho, I wonder if there's a general thread for both bis and lesbians to hang tho

No. 191099

There isn't. If you want a ~ wlw sapphic ~ hugbox try twitter or tumblr. Gtfo and learn to sage.

No. 191100

I didn't though, otherwise I wouldn't have been Here.

No. 191102

can you elaborate on cgl, I see it mentioned constantly around here, but I still don't get it what is so special about it?

No. 191107

tfw I find a cute girl on youtube to watch and she has a video with her bf who is the ugliest troglodyte

No. 191109

A tale as old as time itself. Sorry, nonita.

No. 191121

>clg cunt
Literally who hurt you anon

No. 191143

At least have the sense to sage your biposting.

No. 191186

Same, also when you find a cute girl on youtube, she becomes relevant and couple of months later she has gotten the full la-influencer plastic surgery pack. Feelsbadman

No. 191194

4chan cosplay and gossip board

No. 191198

Anons are talking about clg, not /cgl/ which is the cosplay/lolita board on 4chan. the clg they're talking about is cis lesbian general, the thread found in 4chan's /lgbt/. /lgbt/ is also often called /tttt/ because it's full of troons.

No. 191304

What does /lg/ think about general androgyny, women who bind and stuff like that? I try my best to not go the way of the fakebois but I still like presenting myself in a more masculine way. I've even considered breast reduction surgery to make my clothes fit a bit better.

No. 191308

How do you get rid of comp het? It’s just too fucking overwhelming to be a lesbian that I feel like no girl could ever be worth all the bullshit that comes with me being true to myself. Every so often I just fall into this line of thinking where I’m like “Oh this guy is good looking and he seems sweet and he makes me laugh, why don’t I try and date him? He can just sing me songs and kiss my forehead and when we have sex he can just go down on me and nothing else” but that’s not realistic or fair. I know a lot of girls on here think comp het is just some bullshit political lesbians made up but I don’t think bisexuals have to work to be attracted to men like this. My sheer disgust of penis is the only thing holding me back from actually pursuing men in real life so basically it’s just a big stupid cope that I use from time to time to avoid thinking about how I’ll never find a girl to date who isn’t a bihet or a tranny or uses they/them pronouns or is just obnoxiously liberal and so waking up everyday and feeling like the world hates me because of all the lesbophobia in society as well as LGBT spaces is all for nothing so I might as well just live a lie and be with a man instead. This kind of pops up every couple of months and goes away on its own but I feel like one of those “raise your hand if you’re a lesbian with comp her who wants Adam Driver to rail them!” girls on tumblr when it happens and it just makes me feel like shit. What do I do?

No. 191312

by realizing that comphet and dating men because of it suck

sure you can date a man and do all the stuff you described, but do you really want to put up with some loud, annoying guy who won't ever understand the feelings you're talking about, or why you can't seem to return his affections? as fun and justified as it is to bag on scrotes and say they deserve to be used and shit, if he really is the type of person who'd be fine with that arrangement as long as he gets to be with you then it wouldn't be fair to him at all. more importantly, does dating a guy with whom you can't engage sexually while being more attracted to the women you see online, in media, and on the street sound like a good time to you?

No. 191313

You only framed it in terms of sex. But what about romantic love? Can you love a man romantically? You're not gay if you can.

No. 191315

NTA but what's the difference between romantic love and platonic love? Genuine question. Is it just kissing or cuddling or whatever the fuck? I know you can cuddle with friends too.

No. 191316

Define romantic

No. 191338

good, hope she keeps thwarting away you absolutely shallow, deranged male larping psychos. how dare a woman have a sexual orientation different from my mine!

No. 191340

oh don't tell me you're the same brainlet bitch on snow in the fakebois thread calling lesbians radfem dykes and campaigning for men's rights because i refuse to believe there are more than one of you infesting the board

No. 191341

>how dare a woman have a sexual orientation different from my mine!

that's actually what bi and straight women think though.

No. 191350

Your post was a wild ride but honestly exactly the issue I struggle with. When I meet a man who doesn't make me gag I'm still hopeful that maybe I could be attracted to him and be normal but the thought of being physically or emotionally intimate with a man is horrifying and kills my interest instantly.

> it’s just a big stupid cope that I use from time to time to avoid thinking about how I’ll never find a girl to date who isn’t a bihet or a tranny or uses they/them pronouns or is just obnoxiously liberal and so waking up everyday and feeling like the world hates me because of all the lesbophobia in society as well as LGBT spaces is all for nothing so I might as well just live a lie and be with a man instead.

Hits hard, anon, hits hard. As another one who will probably never overcome her internalized homophobia and the fear of how the society and even the lgbt circles support us and will live in celibacy for the rest of her days due to this, I understand completely.

No. 191352

I think it's really hot tbh. Everyone I'm attracted to on dating apps has pronouns and it's awful. If you're masc/androgynous and not genderspecial you're a huge fucking catch. just be careful. there's technically no way to bind safely and it's not worth hurting yourself for the perfect aesthetic

No. 191358

Seconding the binding caution, even sports bras that are too small are dicey. I've gotten broader in my lats since I started training more frequently and now my sports bras that fit when I was peak skelly literally suffocate me. Not wearing a bra gives me a more androgynous silhouette in shirts anyway, and I recommend ditching them in general because fuck bras. Also, I've seen a lot of butch/gnc positivity on radblr, so presenting as an androgynous or masculine woman who is emphatically not a fakeboi might attract some of the more based lesbians if that interests you.

Unrelatedly, why in fuck is it so hard to talk to other lesbeans? Literally every single time I've tried talking to a girl I'm interested in I seem to fuck it up so bad they want nothing to do with me afterwards. Either I just have rotten luck and go after really busy people, or I've been projecting skeevy vibes without even realizing this whole time. Obviously no one has any obligation to keep talking to me and I've made peace with "the ones that got away", but I just really wish I knew what I've been doing wrong.

No. 191361

I think homophobe-chan is back from her break

No. 191369

Is there really no safe way to bind? I'm sick of my boobs getting in the way of everything but I don't want a reduction because they look awful 99% of the time.

No. 191370

As someone who binds a lot for gnc aesthetics I doubt wearing a comfortable, well-constructed binder every now and then does permanent damage. Troons who have had their binders fuck up their chest have usually had an ill-fitting, cheap one (or even bandages) they wore every day around the clock with no breaks, even while sleeping. If you keep smart about it and only wear it every now and then (i.e. not every day) it's not going to be damaging. Depends on your breast size though, for smaller tits you get away with longer wearing times and with bigger ones it's naturally riskier. The worst side effect is usually body acne since your skin doesn't have any room to breathe under a binder.

No. 191386

I've been binding every day since 2018 and before that I was layering sports bras and I swear it's made my boobs saggier

No. 191394

I could have written this. It fucking sucks I feel like I will stay deep in the closet unless by some miracle I find a like minded woman aka not psychotic liberal tranny sympathizer bishit

No. 191401

You're a bishit and anyone who relates to your post is a bislut too. Now go to your gen please.

No. 191433

breasts sagging over time is natural. our boobs are breast tissue and fat, and as we get older we lose breast tissue. some people are genetically predisposed to have more breast tissue than fat and vice versa, but it happens to everyone nonna and im sure your boobies are lovely

No. 191482

dw, you're not a lesbian at all. No real lesbian fantasizes of dating or doing shit with men. You're better off dating a dude and leaving lesbians alone.

No. 191491

That makes me feel less guilty about binding kek, thank you

No. 191515

I've never fantasied about men in a sexual context but I have fantasied about how easy life would be if I was straight and could be in a hetero relationship, if that's what anon is referencing. I wouldn't be anywhere as lonely or bitter if I felt comfortable taking advantage of the abundance of straight men for companionship. Letting them go down on you is a bit much though, the thought makes me want to gag.

No. 191521

>Letting them go down on you is a bit much though, the thought makes me want to gag.
I don’t necessarily think about them doing that so much as I think about what I’d let them do. Like, would I let them make out with me if I had my eyes closed? Would I let them penetrate me if they used their fingers instead of their penis? It’s stupid of me to do cause it’s not like even if I would any dude irl wouldn’t be satisfied with just that and it’s not like I’d be turned on by it either but my retarded ass keeps thinking “b-b-but what if I was okay with this?” like it makes any fucking difference.

No. 191524

You're bisexual. Just be febfem or whatever, but stop posting about you what you want to men to do you or go away to your own thread. We're tired of your bi-cycling bs in every single lesbian space. Seriously f off already

No. 191533

> it’s not like I’d be turned on by it either
This doesn't sound like bisexuality to me. In general, I think bi women are attracted to and can get turned on by men, to some degree.

No. 191537

>Keep fucking and fantasizing about getting railed by men but it's not like I enjoy it!!! damn you comphet!!!!!!!11

No. 191538

>I've never fantasied about men in a sexual context

No. 191541

>Thinks about men going down on her every few months
>Only reason she won't date men is because of penis meaning everything else is fine
>"I feel like one of those “raise your hand if you’re a lesbian with comp her who wants Adam Driver to rail them!” girls on tumblr when it happens"
>wants to get railed by dogface Kylo Ren

Sweetard, you're struggling because you're a bisexual that ~doesn't want to be like the other bisexuals~ now go away, lesbians don't deal with this shit

No. 191543

I'm not the anon, I just don't think she sounds like she's actually attracted to men irl in any real capacity.

No. 191545

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A few old timey wlw photos for my fellow lez nonnas, have a great gay day!

No. 191547

NTA but this is something lesbians who grew up in a homophobic environment have to deal with. You've been indoctrinated with heteronormativity, having to be available to men and "gay people bad" since birth and never had a support network for your sexuality, why is it so outlandish for you to have intrusive thoughts like "maybe I could finally be normal and allow a man to take advantage of me even though I hate it and don't feel attracted to them"?

It boils me inside that discussion about something so reoccurring is killed immediately because women who were dealt better cards and allowed to accept their homosexuality can go "ew get out bihet" even to someone who's a textbook defined goldstar. I've only dated women, only been with women, I don't fantasize about men, I find them increasingly repulsive but never having the chance to really come to terms with being seen as a freak in everyone's eyes and even in the current age lesbians being lowkey pressured to transition and mutilate their bodies I have my moments of wishing I was straight so my life would be so, so much easier. It's important that people can speak up about this because otherwise they'll go "Oh I guess I'm not a lesbian then, time to go dead bedroom with a husband I don't love but maybe I'll learn since I'm actually bi!".

Really sounds like you're projecting or you're underage, anon.

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No. 191550

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love this one

No. 191555

I grew up in a country where you can get raped and killed for being a lesbian with parents that still pretend I'm going to marry a man someday, so no, stop making excuses for yourself. If you're still struggling with "comphet" after 20, then you're literally bisexual and retarded which is redundant, I know.

No. 191561

Everytime this fight happens, you angry bitches are from the most opressed backgrounds. Somehow I don't buy it, if you really were you'd have a shred of empathy.

No. 191563

You'd think maybe it's because we're tired of your bullshit first world problems? Empathy for what? For the bishit anon who can't make up her mind about getting railed by men or not? lol, ridiculous

No. 191564

Can we stop being so hostile towards bisexual women? It's autistic. Literally just giving the neighborhood bisperg free ammunition at this point.

This. I also grew up in a third world shithole and I 100% understand the pressure to date men when you've been indoctrinated into doing so for your entire life. Not everyone is a late bloomer of course but we should be respectful to those trying to figure it out. Admittedly anon might be better off in the questioning thread though.

No. 191565

Anon admits to wanting to get railed by Kylo Ren, literally no one is pressuring her to do that

No. 191572

I’ve been staying out of this for awhile because I don’t want to get into trouble for derailing or something but I never fucking said that lmao. I saw a screenshot of a post some lesbian Facebook group saying that and it made me feel embarrassed that some women use comp het as an excuse to be as blatantly bisexual as they want and claiming to be 100% lesbian at the same time while lesbians who really do have comp het are actually struggling.

No. 191575

liar you've been samefagging the whole time lmao

No. 191578

Every time I come here you're fighting…

No. 191581

>20 as an arbitrary "old person age"
>spergy rage against anyone who's not a super confident sapphic goddess uwu and instead has to deal with guilt and shame over their sexuality like what a lot of single lesbians in their 30's face when people are expecting them to raise a family like a good 30-year old woman should
Spotted the 16-year old twitter polilez

No. 191591

She hasn't anon, I know it's hard for your pea brain to comprehend but people can disagree with your shitty views.

No. 191592

you're just churning out buzzwords and seeing what sticks at this point every lesbian faces the pressure to conform believe it or not you aren't especially oppressed for banging a dude you're bisexual

No. 191593

Cope harder bishit

No. 191606

Not any of the other anons but people really need to stop coming here for validation when they’re questioning, there’s a questioning thread already and it’s literally put as a note in the OP to not bring up man stuff here. Yeah maybe some people are overreacting but it’s inconsiderate to constantly post man discussion in a lesbian thread.

No. 191653

Agreed. Idk how many more times we're gonna have this fucking argument in this thread. If you wanna mention men in the current and future tense, go to bi or questioning threads.

No. 191659

I'm straight so I might cop a ban just for posting this here but whatever, I'll take it. I used to question my sexuality too, thought I might be bi or gay even, until I realized that I only feel fulfilled from being with a man and was just having a hard time accepting how awful most men are. the harsh reality is that if you can imagine any life with a man, even without being penetrated, you are almost definitely not lesbian. I swear every time I scroll past this thread there's another post going "I've dated a bunch of guys, but am I lesbian??" I made the same mistake of bothering lesbians about it when I was having my doubts, but the reality is that it isn't lesbians' responsibility to validate us, and if you have to grapple with whether you might be gay that hard, you are probably not gay. besides, there's already a questioning thread for that kind of discussion. lesbians are a rather small portion of the population and they have already been pushed out of most online lesbian spaces and already face enough other challenges in life, and no they're not being unreasonable for being annoyed with constantly being hounded by straight/bi women to be validated by them. can we just let them have this ONE thread to themselves PLEASE.

No. 191672

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Thank you for being the first good straight woman to ever post in the lesbian general. Please accept this award on behalf of the community.

No. 191755

Are you people projecting in fear of bishit being contagious or being intentionally dense? None of the anons above are talking about questioning, being attracted to men or wanting to be with men, but instead being conditioned to be ashamed of being a lesbian in a world where they're hated and fantasize not about men but having a sexuality and by proxy a life that's considered normal and non-restrictive. Jesus christ grow the fuck up and learn some reading comprehension.

No. 191764

>None of the anons above are talking about questioning, being attracted to men or wanting to be with men

>>191308 said that her "sheer disgust of penis is the only thing holding me back from actually pursuing men", not that she isn't attracted to them or doesn't want to be with them. if she was actually a lesbian it would be the fact that she's only attracted to women that's holding her back from pursuing men.

but yeah, we're the ones with reading comprehension problems.

No. 191766

>“Oh this guy is good looking and he seems sweet and he makes me laugh, why don’t I try and date him? He can just sing me songs and kiss my forehead and when we have sex he can just go down on me and nothing else”
>sheer disgust of penis is the only thing holding me back from actually pursuing men
kek everything >>191659 is 100% fact go to the appropriate thread lesbians obviously don't want to read your millionth explicit fanfic about a man regardless of the sob story behind it

No. 191768

please can the samefagging bishit fuck off to another thread, even the straight girl can see your bs

No. 191791

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Is-is the biposting infighting done? Can we go back to posting wholesome lesbian media?

No. 191814

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>wholesome lesbian media?
Has anyone watched Gentleman Jack? I liked it a lot and am in love with Anne Lister.

I've also been rewatching The L Word and it holds up pretty well. I enjoy it more now than I did in high school honesty. It's extremely refreshing to watch the Lisa episode in current year and have him be a joke character.

No. 191815

I saw it a long time ago and genuinely adored it. It's a great show.

No. 191817

I watched one episode and never finished it, but I really liked it! Seeing this just made me want to finish it

No. 191818

can we bitch if we feel like it about being lonely? im single with a kid (ex was bi and ran off with a dude- fucking shocked, im an idiot) and now I feel im too old to live the dream of being bullied by a cute younger woman because im a single working mom. i dont have time to go out and meet girls on the scene because i either have to work or take care of my kid. life sucks

No. 191825

Ah shit I was meaning to watch Gentleman Jack but forgot all about it. I think I got distracted watching Ammonite that night. I'm definitely giving this show a watch!!

No. 191846

It seems like the L word is underrated nowadays? It almost feels like a postmodern effort with Jenny being an unreliable narrator and when she starts writing Lez Girls, making the creators of the show unreliable narrators too, commenting through the show on the process of making one (meta referencing). Post modern media which appeals more often to scrotes gets elevated to masterpiece status all the time, meanwhile the L word just mainly get shit on for being unrealistic (same happens with 'Marie Antoinette' movie even though in both cases it's intentional) and for the fairly gratuitous sex.

No. 191930

How did you get a kid? IVF? Were you married? This honestly sucks, I guess your ex doesn't visit the child either?

No. 192073

i'm so sorry this happened to you, nonny. how old is your kid? maybe you can go back into the scene once he or she is older.

No. 192146

i can't get over how cute these two are

No. 192157

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It’s time to yearn! I am excited to be finally at a point in my life I’m not fighting being a lesbian. I’m not young and no contact with my family where I feel I need to find someone in their vision of who I would be with iykwim, and I’m not quite at the age where I feel a rush to settle down and find the perfect match right away personally. A sweet spot if you will! I am excited for an adventurous chapter in my life of being honest and kind to myself and in turn pursuing the relationships I desire seeking out other women to date is both scary and exciting, I feel selfish desiring & seeking a partnership with another woman but I’m done allowing that fear to stop me from likely necessary rejection and subsequent self acceptance. I hope I meet a woman who is on my frequency and who I can share the life I’m building with. If a younger me saw me today, living not only out of the closet but out of my own head, she would cry. I would have done anything to have someone like the person I have grown and furled myself to be to tell myself growing up, “it’s ok and this is temporary, you will gain your independence and you will not feel ashamed for the way you are, you were not meant to and I’m sorry you were discouraged from yourself”. thanks for reading if you did

No. 192362

Love you anon. I'm so proud of you.

No. 192366

I know this post is a few days old, but is it possible you're having intrusive thoughts? all this "what if?" sounds … similar to a kind of OCD with intrusive thoughts. Where you keep thinking of things that might or could happen, and you can't really stop it even if it's bothering you. idk I admit what you described is not the common type of thoughts people describe having, but that doesn't mean much.

I can't comment on your sexuality either way (still figuring out whether I even have one). But there are techniques for dealing with intrusive thoughts if you're struggling with that.

Please don't "let" anyone do anything to you. That's not how a relationship should be.

No. 192488

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Anyone here seen "Feel Good"? I'm thinking of checking it out.

No. 192505

It's really good for like 5 episodes in, but then it goes downhill and becomes something else, which is still kind of entertaining and enjoyable in a different way and not as good.

No. 192513

What are you referring to? I don't see how it becomes something else.

No. 192516

OH I was partway through episode 5. Um… where is this going

No. 192520

Ok I just finished season 1, I still like it just as much as I liked the start.

No. 192524

Wait ugh why is she bi. Why is everyone bi in this show.

No. 192566

Basically that, I don't want to spoil, but there's more of that and stuff in season 2.

No. 192567

Also Lava best girl

No. 192583

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Yeah I guess the writer/actor actually doesn't identify as lesbian, she "doesn't do labels". Exhausting but I get it. I still loved the show. Lava is best girl.

No. 192754

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I usually only lurk, but I need somewhere anonymous to vent. My ex girlfriend has been villainizing me terribly on social media even though she was the dumper and our relationship was comfy and with 0 conflict until the very first conflict at the end which was caused by communication issues over something important to me (she was conflict avoidant type, I'm bad at expressing feelings type). I found out about this 2 days ago and I feel so hurt and anxious about this. She has dehumanized me, posted a vulnerable text I had sent (to ridicule me with her followers?) and is creating this narrative like if I was a terrible and crazy person. The worst one was a post about how her therapist said "I sound like the worst", and that just broke me. I don't know what to make of this.

I considered maybe I'm actually crazy and unaware? But to be honest, she's never had anything nice to say about any of her exes and has made posts saying that she has only dated unhinged women because of her low self-esteem.

This is actually making me terrified of dating again because I feel so blindsided and never expected this of her. I keep thinking what could I have done to make her hate me this much, but I'm coming up blank. She's met my best friend and parents and they're coming up blank too.

No. 192764

In sorry anon. That must really hurt especially when there's no obvious catalyst. Heart goes out to you.
She sounds really insecure and is using your relationship as narc supply to gas herself to the utopia she thinks she deserves because 'shes not the confrontational partner'.
Usually they are the most toxic because they are blind to their own shit behavior.

But private texts shouldn't be on blast… That's fucked up and I hope you find justice/peace

No. 192816

How do I rail a cute femme?

No. 192830

How to spot narcs? I fear to be charmed by one, and find myself in an abusive relationship.

No. 192832

Therapists sometimes say shit like that to comfort the person they're talking to. It wasn't even her impression based on fact, just shit your ex said about you. Don't worry about it please you're not professionally deemed "The Worst" or anything like that. You might have some problems as a partner of course but don't beat yourself up over the comments she makes online, she's coping. Try to communicate better each time with your next love and take it easy.

No. 192964

I feel like a shitty person because I missed her so much and I had written to her. After being ignored, I found her personal blog like some disgusting stalker (I don't know if it changes anything, but it only took 2 seconds after typing her two biggest interested in the search bar). I found out that she had been writing these things about me not too long after we broke up.

She'd tell me how I made her feel safe and loved before, and now this. My brain goes back and forth between "maybe I am a monster" and just being hurt and upset about it.

No. 192969

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Matched a girl on tinder because she was cute + I was horny and barely anyone in my country/area is open to fwb/ons (also on the evening I did match her I've had unexplained flow of optimism I guess). A day or two after she asked me around 10PM if I want to go for a stroll and I did because why not + took some cake I've just baked today. We did walk like that for over 3h, talking about what we do, life and trauma, because apparently we have extremely similar life experiences. We did meet for the second time yesterday for another walk + she did mention we can go to her place after that. And the thing is while talking:
1) I did learn I'm completely opposite of her type (her type are women who are smaller than she (5'5) is, while I'm myself 5'11.
2) She wasn't sure whenever to go into this because she's pissed off that she has to deal with so many inexperienced people, and I've had only one partner before, who wasn't experienced either.
And I think it could take part in why I wasn't able to open too much to a person. We did cuddle for hours and yea it turned me on, but I feel a little broken because when asked "what I like" I couldn't give an answer - my boobs aren't that sensitive, I thought my neck is but guess it works when a person you love kisses it, the only places that give any reaction from my body is the back of my thighs, butt and lower back because it gives me such a nice tickle. I like being tied up I guess, so if it even works out again we can try it?? But I still don't know how to feel about that and myself and I don't want to be someone's 'another bad experience'. Sorry if it's autistic I'm neurodivergent.

No. 192974

My ex was similar, although she would contact me occasionally anyway despite telling people I was awful. I was(am?) immature and a poor communicator, but so was she. For yourself stop lurking her blogs. Everyone is the hero in their own story.

No. 193059

i live in one of the biggest cities in the world for lesbian communities and every fucking girl younger than me is a sub. i just want to be dommed by a cute younger girl and its fucking ridiculous

No. 193108

I caught feelings for a girl from work. She’s definitely my type and also a lesbian as well!! But we have no shifts together and I’m not sure that I’m her type either…

No. 193198

tops and bottoms are cringe. most of the time when someone describes themselves as a bottom or a sub it just means they are lazy fucks who want the other person do everything in a relationship. sucks that this bs is encouraged in online lesbian communities
i'm not specifically targeting you anon, but this is a pattern i have noticed and wanted to vent.

No. 193209

Is it queerbaiting when straight women constantly refer to their SO as their "partner"? I was following this cute GNC girl for a while and she always said her "partner" without using any gendered pronouns so I assumed she was lowkey gay. Then she recently showed her husband on camera and I was super disappointed. Why not just say your husband?

No. 193211

Agreed, top/bottom is so fucking played out and boring. Why would you
1. box yourself in to a role like that
2. limit your dating pool even more than it already is

No. 193212

I wouldn't read into it as gay usally. It's a handy word for people who are serious about their relationship but who arent striving for engagement or marriage. Saying 'this is my girl/boyfriend' can feel weird past a certain age or certain number of years into dating. It's a more grown up feeling term for that scenario.

But when married people use the term it can feel a lil off. I get you on that part.

No. 193215

Agreed with the other anon but also she could just be bisexual and prefer gender neutral terms.

No. 193229

Lmao anon, "partner" is a completely and utterly normal way to refer to SO regardless of your sexuality.

No. 193297

I was just having a discussion about this with another lesbian. You get all excited thinking you met another of your gay kind at the office but turns out it's just a straightie trying to be woke. Fuck you that's our code word reee

Honestly how the fuck do you even date as a lesbian, especially with a fwb setting? I live in a major city and I'm only open for fuckbuddies because I'm not looking for a relationship at the moment but the only women looking for that are bi couples looking for a threesome. Or trannies

No. 193377

I half agree with you guys as top and bottom is flawed to start with, given that it doesn't cover all the things you can do that don't involve penetration and it's definitely over emphasised now retards think it relates to your personality and behaviour outside the bedroom. But as someone who considers two fingers full penetration and can only allow someone I love and trust 100% to do that, referring to myself as a top to someone I want NSA sex with is helpful. I don't have to give an in-depth explanation about why I don't like certain things to some random I probably won't see again, and they instantly know what I'm offering. If you're someone who's more adventurous and switches things up it's pretty redundant, for sure. But I think for certain people it's still handy as a way to say what you want without having to go into why you want that.

No. 193436

Ah yeah I see your reasoning. I don't do flings and take my time with explaining myself so I did not consider that the short-hand (no pun intended) would be useful for someone in your situation. I do sometimes worry about baby gays learning some hard lines from older LGB people and potentially complicating their lives or some shit but then again who the fuck cares about The Children. I'm not gonna be there to date em, they can navigate their own mess.

No. 193450

I worry about the babies too, but I also remember what I was like as a 15 y/o baby dyke drinking underage in gay bars - I thought I had everything figured out. Well meaning older LGB people gave me advice but I barely listened to any of it. Unfortunately you just have to live and learn, that much is true whether you're gay or straight. I do think however there's more to worry about now. When I was 15 and out in the community the main worry was alcoholism, drugs and being taken advantage of by older people. Now there's the push for BDSM to be seen as healthy and normal and vanilla sex as "boring" with shit like the normalisation of choking and beating your partner. A similar trend where monogamy is painted as "boring" and "heteronormative" is happening where polyamory is painted as cool and rebellious, never mind the mental and often physical toll of sleeping around. Then there's the radicalisation of the culture in general pushing people into echo chamber hiveminds. And of course you still have alcoholism, drugs and older people taking advantage to worry about on top of that! And that's not even touching on tranny shit. I hope to god none of my sisters are gay or bi, because the "community" has gone to utter shit.

No. 193486

Bleh. You're so right. Even as an adult I keep finding myself undecided on whether the "community" is even worth participating in sometimes. At my age the kinkster stuff does not intimidate me (I can just abstain and move on) but I am not interested in open relationships and trannies (harder to avoid) so the spaces we used to have for us have begun to completely go extinct.

On a related note, is Bumble BFF a good place to look for some lesbian/bi friends? I've uprooted my life by moving across the continent and lost my IRL friends, was looking to rebuild in 2020 but corona isn't gonna make things safe enough anytime soon.

No. 193500

e u r o p e a n s do this shit

No. 193640

>it's just a straightie trying to be woke
What? lol. Where are you from? Because >>193500 is correct, partly. It's usually used by heterosexual couples who either don't wish to disclose their relationship status (married or not) or consider it juvenile to call themselves girl/boyfriend when they're 30+. It's never been a term used exclusively by homosexuals.

No. 193646

Bumble is hit and miss, but I quite like it. It's nice talking to people where it's strictly platonic and you can meet women from all walks of life. My fiancée and I use it looking for like minded women to chill with and we went on a double date once with this other couple and it was going great until my fiancée called me a "himbo" after I said something ditzy. One of the women pounced on it like "omg what are your pronouns, anon? I'm so sorry if I referred to you the wrong way!" and I had to explain that, no, it's not that deep, I'm just a big muscle butch with a tiny brain and my partner and I use "himbo" as a little inside joke. I told them I don't give a shit about pronouns as a 30 y/o woman because it's silly and their faces immediately changed. I put my foot in it and outed myself as a "terf" I guess. The rest of dinner was kinda awkward and none of us contacted each other after that. Lately though my fiancée has been talking to another woman on there with similar interests and luckily enough she asked my fiancée early on about terven things to make sure she wasn't a libfem kek. We're gonna meet her and her flatmate at a barbecue soon. So, mixed experiences. It's like online dating in that you just gotta be upfront about your beliefs and what you want from a friend.

No. 193682

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I hate being a lesbian and I wish I were straight.

No. 193699

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Me too anon. The world is a cruel place to us, it would be so much easier. I also can’t help but love it because I’ve never felt more myself after coming out. Women are beautiful and so are you.

No. 193727

I actually ran into someone who put "gender critical" in their bio, was really impressed. I wonder if she ever gets harassed or reported for muh hate. We'll see if she swipes right or left on me I guess, I don't have pronouns in my bio but not ballsy enough to advertise terven shit lol

No. 193730

Me too. I'm a GNC bitch too so it sucks the double for me.
>Grew up in a homophobic environment, never got to experiment and learn the basics of relationships growing up
>Ridiculed by men, grossed out straight women, the only lesbians I knew were vegan political lesbian types who grew out of it and married men, in the end only got along with gay men
>The dating pool is ungodly small and borderline incestuous, can't date a girl who hasn't dated someone I already know
>Preyed on by bihet girls who wanted a nice lesbian lapdog they could abuse while going after "real" men
>Due to being a social outcast growing up I'm now too weird and square to really connect with normie lesbians
>Being a butch cis lesbian is now considered a terf dogwhistle, literally all of the gnc lesbians I grew up with are now enbies/transmen who side eye me for not following suite
>Men keep shitting on me because I serve no purpose as a failed woman to them, at least it keeps me safe from AGP transbians but being despised by 50% of the population isn't all roses
>I'm in my early 30's, people think it's weird and suspicious that I'm not dating or in a relationship
>My family would probably disown me if they knew about me being a lesbian
>Now I only hang around with straight/bi girls and gay men who really can't relate to my life but they're nice and accepting of me so good enough I guess
I'll probably be alone forever nonnies but I've already accepted it

No. 193737

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I got so sick of libtards on bumble I put "STOP ASKING ME ABOUT MY PRONOUNS, I'M A FUCKING WOMAN!" at the top of my bio and I've had significantly less messages since then kek. However the women I do talk to, especially butches and GNC women, commend me for it. I've had a lot of vent-y conversations about how you're not allowed to look too masc or else the begendered will interrogate you. My inbox atm is basically picrel and I'm loving it. If you don't want to go full terf maybe try with something more subtle like "stop asking about pronouns", "I don't care about pronouns", etc. You might get taken for a non-binoid but I think women who "get it" will understand what that means.

No. 193738

Based anon, we should all be doing this.

No. 193782

You have to date a cow from our very own farms for one month, or no woman will ever be attracted to you again! Who do you pick & why?

No. 193792

Shayna because I'm an alcoholic. Wbu anon?

No. 193833

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>opening up Hulu’s Pride Never Stops collection and seeing Chasing Amy
I wanna fucking die bros

No. 193843

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I have this fantasy where I get her off the internet and turn her into a based radfem also I had a huge crush on boxxy in high school so

No. 193845

Any of the tradthots. We could wear cute 1950s dresses and I could gently show her how it’s desperate men who market traditionalism knowing they have no place in the world if women like her realize their true value. And then we could live chastely as a pair of preschool teachers wearing coordinating outfits and going to church twice a week.

No. 193866

Dasha. I can change her.

No. 193899

What the fuck? Did the people who curated that collection even watch the fucking film? Tell you what, nonny. We can off ourselves together if you bring the kool-aid.

No. 193902

Either Shayna for the same reason as >>193792 or gimpgirl.
She's a bit of a wildcard though. Gimpgirl would either be insufferable to be around (especially as another woman) or I'd be able to crank up her self worth and self respect a bit. Most of all I just want to understand how exactly her thought process works and I'd be willing to date her for a month for that.

No. 193920

Does Pokimane count if anons bring her up in snow?

No. 193967

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continuing my pattern of falling in love with straight women, im in love with a french painter who died in 1895 who fucked one if not two of the manet brothers. sigh

No. 193972

I first read that as the "manlet brothers" lol

No. 194009

>you will play ff14 with erin painter and larp as the femroe to her uwu tiny catgirl
>you will never have erin painter suicide bait and post fake self-harm scars on twitter(dot)com when you start having relationship problems
why even live

i'd also date holly brown. we could write a really bad webcomic together

No. 194011

I would actually date Momokun, we could sperg about anime together and be cringey weebs. She could buy me dinner with those patreon bucks too.

No. 194015

God same I'm such a sperg for her. She's my weeby autist dream girl. I could take or leave the Patreon bucks, Moo could be broke and desperate a la Lori and I'd still date her and marry her and live in an ugly house with her.
I dated a woman like Erin Painter before and I don't think I could do it again. Crytyping insecure gf is cute but suicide baiting gets old fast. I could totally handle it for a month tho. She's a cute lil porker.

No. 194018

Nta but which Dasha

No. 194034

either one but mostly the one that wanted to wear mina's skin. to me she is gorgeous and i kinda like crazy.

No. 194131

I love all the “inherent” aspects of being a lesbian but I do get resentful of the social pressure and awkwardness it causes. I don’t view that as a problem with me or with lesbianism though, I view that as a problem with other people.

No. 194162

No idea about these girls, but pls play ff14 with me

No. 194175

Maybe one of the animation cows if they count like Dana or Noelle's wife Molly the poly, or one of the FTMs

No. 194185

If I was str8 or even bi then I'd be sorted forever romance wise, I could finally like the dude who's liked me for years, he'd literally be perfect if only he was a woman..

No. 194196

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Same. I never understand it when girls wish they were gay. It's such an incredibly lonely existence sometimes, especially in 3rd world countries…

Anyway tfw no gf

No. 194198


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No. 194226

>Me every time a girl I have a crush on starts dating a worthless moid and I'm reminded that I'll never be able to compete because I don't have a dick
It's especially painful when they've baited with "I'm bi, I'm into girls too" and then always, always end up with men. You just know they're straight but with traces of woke who would be disgusted if a lesbian was legitimately interested in them. Yeah I'm bitter about this, it's no wonder why so many lesbians troon out. Just let me out of my misery nonnas

No. 194246

No. 194297

Same. I want to be married and have kids so bad. I want my parent to meet the love of my life.. I'm tired of living in hiding.

No. 194314

I hate that I'm seriously attracted to this one FtM I frequently talk with. I know that if I dated him I'd be dating him "as a female" if that makes sense, it would be disrespectful to do that wouldn't it? They're just so perfect through and through I can't help it.

No. 194339

Yeah I don't think a relationship where you don't accept something fundamental about your partner would go very far. I agree though, I can't see FtM's as men and I'm attracted to them as butches. Some don't care as long as you use their pronouns but some do.

No. 194375

Anyone here sometimes struggle to tell whether you want to be with someone or just admire them and want to be like them?
Most of the time it's obvious that I'm crushing on someone but every now and then I'll discover some woman online or a celebrity or something, and I'll think she's so gorgeous and pretty and just want to kiss her, but at the same time I think she has the perfect body or style that I'd ideally want to have. Idk how normal it is but I feel like a narcissist occasionally not knowing the difference between who I want to be and who I want to bang.

No. 194385

It can just be both, if you think their super sexy and you also wanna be super sexy it's just a natural takeaway, being a lesbian just has the added on yeah I'd also be with them it's nothing weird.

No. 194408

I had this issue too until "he" transitioned and the ftm frog voice killed it for me. I think most wouldn't have an issue with you dating them since deep down they know they aren't literally the same as cismen, they do care if you're a terf tho.

No. 194410

so long as he knows that that's how you're attracted to him i don't think there's an issue. just put everything on the table so there's no deception and see how it goes.

No. 194433

Yeah the croaky teenager voice is a complete turn off. It's worse than an adult male voice even.

No. 194436

Same here. I knew I wanted to be married but now I also think I want children as well. Fuck. I hope this is covid loneliness talking. Also I wish I could enjoy having a wife and a family sooner than idk when I am 50+, but I know that as a lesbian what are the chances…

No. 194477


Just when I think not to think about it anymore and to try to move on, it comes back and hits me like a truck. You think you know someone, but then you learn that you really don't. Finding out that someone you respected and loved so much you considered marrying them, despises you so much to even lie about you to strangers online, and you can't even figure out why? The way she writes about me like nothing I did for her ever happened. I sound like some crazy abuser even though she never mentions anything specific or any detail of what I might have done? Our relationship was literally 99% wholesome, loving, being supportive and helping each other be better, with an amazing physical connection. Now I don't know who this person is anymore. Hell, not even her other exes (who have actually done really bad things if she wasn't lying) get as much shit as me.

SHE gave up on us after the first "fight" which was barely a fight. I've never said anything with the intention of hurting her, never insulted her, always tried to put her first, etc. All I can think of was calling her immature and refusing to be friends with her after she gave up on us so easily despite still having feelings for me because her friends told her to.

I know I should not let this affect me so much, but it's honestly breaking me. I feel like I can't talk about this with anyone, I can't even tell her how I feel because I'd just be giving her more ammo - I just have to swallow this feeling and pretend I'm fine and I'm fucking not.

No. 194484

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You'll be okay nonny, I promise. It's only been a couple weeks since your last post right? It's just gonna take a little more time to heal. Your ex sounds nuts, unless you literally abused her posting your vulnerable texts on social media is insane BPD behavior. I'm really sorry you're hurting but I think in a couple more months/weeks you'll look back and feel like you dodged a bullet you know? Just try and be gentle with yourself for the next little while, buy yourself a treat and take lots of hot baths or cozy naps or whatever you find physically comforting. You heart will heal in time.

Also maybe commit to going no-contact with her if you haven't already. It's tempting to stay friends because we've all been socialized to be nice at all times but your ex sounds fucking nasty and you're not gonna heal if you're still interacting with her or checking her social media.

No. 194489

She completely ignored any messages I sent her early this month (shown as having been received) to which I said basically apologized and said okay, I understand, won't message again. Then I find on her blog that she's going to respond via physical letter for some reason instead? So I'm here, like an idiot, trying not to, but waiting for a letter which will likely never arrive because knowing her, sometimes she procrastinates and just doesn't do said things.

Anyway, I'm sorry, thank you for your message, kindness and advice. It really means a lot.

No. 194499

She sounds bi

No. 194527

Going no contact means you block her and don't check her blog either nonnelle. You need mental space from her fuckery and you need to resist hurting yourself like this. She might even be continuing to fuck with you by posting on her blog that she knows you read. She's never going to give you an adequate explanation for why she did this, so you need to work on finding peace separate from her. You and her are no longer a 'current' relationship in any way

No. 194544

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I wish all of the lesbians in this thread a very seethe when your cute bisexual friend dates a scrote <3

No. 194545

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>why they no date me!?

t. frustrated biphobic lesbian(Bait)

No. 194547

She sounds like a self-sabotager who nuked your relationship due to her own problems. Or maybe you're blind to your own behavior. Either way, block her and stop paying attention to her shit. You're obsessing, let it go. I say this with love, you need to stop and move forward. She is gone, you are done with her. It doesn't matter what shit her twisted mind conjured up. You can ofc vent but I feel like you're at a point where you're dwelling, not really letting steam out. Stop stalking her socials.

Do lesbians show up in the bi thread to farm attention? I think not. Sounds like a bisexual problem.

No. 194549

hi sperg!

No. 194584

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No. 194604

She's a lesbian.

You are both right in that I need to learn to separate and move on. It's really difficult and I have been working on keeping busy and not thinking about it, but then it just suddenly creeps up on me and really messes me up. I don't actually check her blog anymore, but remembering what I have seen already still eats me up inside and I can't help but feel a lot of emotions when I think about it and her. I also mourn what our relationship was and what could have been (her being as she was before), but I'm working on stopping that because I know it's just a fantasy at this point.

I just wish I could understand why, or what was it that I did if I did something so wrong? But I guess I have to stop wishing for that too.

No. 194614

I get sad when that happens but then I remember they've got it worse because they will inevitably be cheated on and/or beat up by the man they chose to date. Then I just feel sorry for them.

No. 194655

this thread really goes to shit whenever bisexuals get involved huh

No. 194656

Yup. Without fail, every single time.

No. 194680

I should've asked earlier considering pride month is almost over, but should I have worn a small lesbian button or mask at work? There's another girl there that I think is also lesbian and I wanted to kind of signal that to her in a subtle way but I didn't want to be super obnoxious about it. Also dunno how I'd feel about everyone else at work knowing I was out, but maybe they wouldn't even known what the lesbian colors were kek

God I remember this embarrassing time when I used to work a food service job and I took this cute girl's order but I was so distracted looking at her face I fucked up making her food right in front of her. I really should have known it then

No. 194681

Wear the button now, who cares about pride month. Subtly signaling your orientation is the easiest way to score a date not just from acquaintances but also out in the wild, don't listen to the bitter hags complaining about pride flags. Do the lesbian flag, if she is any kinda queer she will know what it means and the hets won't really know what the pin is even for, since it's not a rainbow. I'm partial to the labrys myself, I wear a pin.

No. 194697

>if she is any kinda queer
Go back

No. 194730

>any kinda queer
Kill yourself twitterfag

No. 194738

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I'm a lesbian and I can't help but feel some kind of thrill whenever my bi gf does something to stir up my jealousy. I feel like I would be into cuckolding, idk maybe me watching a my gf have sex with a guy will destroy me but i like when she makes me feel small insignificant(MALE)

No. 194739

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Wouldn’t be surprised if this was written by that scrote who was spamming here earlier

No. 194742

>come into the lesbian thread
>post about women having sex with men

every single time

No. 194759

It's normal to feel like this, sometimes I want a strong butch dyke to take my bi gf for the night while I wait in the basement. but I know it will make me breakdown crying.

No. 194805

I need help learning to tune men's existence out in public. I've become good at socially rejecting them in a conversation, alienating them by bringing up topics they hate etc but on the street I am hypervigilant around them and I can't relax when I know one is looking at me. I want to get better at seeing them as neutral background props, like I can tune out dogs or children or w.e.

Anyone else with trauma or otherwise unwanted male attention know how to approach it?

I'm also working on not being ashamed of making eye contact with women. I'm doing well so far…

No. 194812

>Alienating them by bringing up topics they hate
What sort of topics do you bring up anon?

No. 194821

>not ashamed of making eye contact with women

Do you mean random women on the street or ones you’re actually talking to?

No. 194827

It the hyper vigilance mental or physical?

No. 194828

Prioritize women for sure, block out confirmed creeps or any flirting but what you're describing is just going to get you a reputation for having a clear chip on your shoulder. Maybe you're on the spectrum too and struggle with extremes? but this reads as a childish cope for a serious mental health issue. Trauma requires certain treatment. Playing weird social games of alienation isn't going to serve you in life. It will only make your trauma more obvious to people.

Resolve it in private and you won't have to feel like this forever. I've been there and you'll only come across as weird and unwell to people if you follow this line of thinking.

No. 194834

I feel like men always think their opinions and presence matter the most and I don't really see an issue with not indulging them. I hear you on focusing on the constructive thing but I don't think I come across as an unhinged psycho for not laughing at their lame jokes or talking about astrology to annoy them lol.

No. 194838

Shitting up the lesbian thread by talking about men as usual

No. 194858

just ignore them tbh putting so much energy into blocking out men aka hypervigilance is draining and shows they have control over you. seeing strangers as neutral background props is actually normal so you need trauma therapy to function a little healthier. if you don't want to talk just say you're busy and learn how to grey rock

depending on where you live street harassment and catcalling can be effectively reported so try not to worry about it and wear headphones when safe. maybe start reading feminist authors? like you could become involved in some kind of feminist activism and put your energy into that sort of understanding over your trauma so you're less isolated in your isolation if that makes sense because generally women with trauma are taught it's their problem and to just get over it which might not suit you

No. 194874

Bring up some women or whatever other topic you want then you petulant retard. The thread is slow as hell, nothing is getting "shit up" except your mediocre brain. Chat away.

No. 194885

Trying to find a lesbian bar in current year is so impossible. Any female presence in a gay bar tend to be straight tourists, too, which is depressing.
If you had a lesbian bar, what would you call it & what would the theme be? Mine would be a chrome retro-futurism spaceship interior. The bar counters would be like control decks complete with flashing neon lights, and the bar tenders would be dressed as different species of reptile. Costumes aren't mandatory, but you do get free drinks if you turn up in a good one.
I'd call it Lezard People (it would get shut down in a month, as the bar tenders repeatedly tried to sneak mealworms into the drinks of stray male patrons)

No. 194888

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That is an adorable premise! Retro-futurism is one of the cooler aesthetics AND there is a pun in there. A+

I'm not a bar person usually so I'd make it a lesbian cafe. Maybe it's set up so you have to be seated like a bar and socialize with strangers during a light brunch. Not sure about the name… Yolk?

No. 194891

only 10 people would show up, they need to make bisexuals bars because you just know all the white women would flock to the lesbian ones because they’re le experimental~ kek. bisexuals stay winning!

No. 194898

Llangollen Lodge, would look like a bar inside of a 19th century railroad tycoon's summer home in the mountains. Dark wood, timber framing, leather, low lighting, smoking room with cigars and hookahs, secret sororal society meetings in the basement, poetry readings upstairs. Attached to a brewery that funds it.

No. 194903

what has your experience at bars in general been like? i'm considering going to one but right now i don't have anyone to go with and worry it would be weird to go alone.

No. 194912

definitely don't go alone if you're introverted/socially inept or you'll end up with very drunk old ladies talking your ear off as you look wistfully at all the pairs and groups of women who are actually your age

try using a dating app's "looking for friends" setting if you need people to go with

No. 194913

I'd go to your bar anon that sounds rad.

I had a dream once I was going to a mystery bar/strip club but I never made it inside. The only thing I remember was it was called Qunts.

No. 194917

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Rural country dive bar please. All the bar stools would have saddles on them and I'd exclusively hire cranky old working class dykes to bartend. Open mic night every Friday for lesbian folk music and Saturday would be drag king cowboy night. I'd call it something obnoxious like Fillies

No. 194919

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Well howdy there pardner! That sounds like a mighty fine establishment, if it were a thing I'd be sure to saddle up my old gal, ride on up to your saloon and spend my days hootin and hollerin with the fillies over a glass of cold whisky.

No. 194938

How do anons feel about dating inexperienced women? I've only had 1 gf and it was 3 years ago and I haven't dated since then. I'm in my late 20s and afraid it will put women off.

No. 194940

Are you me, anon? I've only had sex with one woman and I'm in my mid-twenties and the women I talk to seem genuinely surprised by that…I think it's ideal for me though. Someone with a lot of experience seems kind of intimidating, I'd prefer a relationship where we can learn together.

No. 194943

Sometimes it can be hard to find women to have sex with if you’re not very social and not open to straight couples

No. 194972

can someone please tell me what this gif is from, I've seen it so many times but I have no idea where it's from

No. 195017

It's from an Australian sitcom called Kath & Kim

No. 195020

Imo the ones with experience will be put off and won’t go for you, but the ones that are similar will be more understanding. I think there are several splits in the community where two sides just have completely different worldviews and rarely see eye to eye - those that dated a lot and those that barely did. Those that run around waving pride flag and those in the closet. Queers and normal people kek. etc

No. 195022

Agreed, though imo if you just date within your age group it's not a huge deal.

No. 195052

If you feel it might be an issue, lie about your level of experience.

No. 195069

Lying is a really dumb fucking idea. It's not good to start any sort of potential relationship by lying. IMO asking how many partners people have had is kinda a red flag. There's literally no reason anyone needs to know that. If you don't want to discuss it, don't. Tell them politely not to pry. If things get serious down the line then yeah, maybe tell them if it worries you. But right off the bat no one needs to know that.

No. 195088

No. 195100

I work in am elementary school in the rural western US
I'm a custodian, I'll spare you details but I live alone and am completely broke. I WAS living off cambells condensed chicken noodle soup until a week ago.
enter Sarah, a lunch lady my age who I don't know much about except she dresses cute, has cool hair, and her entire fucking face lights up when she smiles. IM SUFFERING.
so because I work in a small elementary school, word travels fast and somehow Sarah found out I'm living off soup. she started saving me a portion of summer school lunches, nothing serious. just setting aside a portion of breakfast and lunch. she started doing the same thing for Lisa, my coworker. so I didn't really think about it.
That went on for a few days but TODAY she gave me double portion of lunch and apple slices instead of a pear. I made one off hand comment about not liking pears, I didn't even think she heard it because I said it to Lisa.
thats not all though. she was playing music I recognized so I told her that I loved that song and she did that smile where her whole face lit up. Now maybe it's because I'm a touch starved lesbian in a small town but I was compelled to write a thank you note for her, super generic. I signed it "your favorite custodians" so it wouldn't be clear that I wrote it.
I don't even know if Sarah likes girls or if she's just being nice but my stupid brain is telling me apple slices mean something. they weren't even on the menu today, only fruit served to everyone else was pears and bananas.

No. 195101

SHE MIGHT BE!!! Anyway, feel the fuzzies, anon.

No. 195111

if this works out, apple slices will have to be a new lesbian symbol (at least for farmers), like broccoli / violets.
good luck anon!! rooting for you

No. 195161

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What do you girls think of girls that are flat chested? Sometimes I feel bad about my body, even to the point of feeling like a total troon for posting this. I’m tall and scrawny and my tits are pretty much non existent. Like they just look like nipples on a chest, it sucks. Usually when I see lesbians talking about the girls they think are hot it’s thicker curvier girls or butch girls. Now a butch girl could definitely pull off the tall, skinny, puny-boob thing if they’re Shane McCutcheon but that’s just not me. I’m probably overthinking this and I’m DEFINITELY rambling but I don’t see a lot of love from wlw about this particular look/body type so… thoughts? Sage for stupid

No. 195163

damn girl i wish i was you. both my gf and i always complain about having tits and prefer small breasts in general. i guarantee there are others like us and that plenty of potential partners would love your body too. really though, in a longterm relationship it's not the looks that matter anyways. hopefully you'll find someone who loves what's underneath your flat left tit too ♥

No. 195171

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Ime butches aren't all that popular, we're probably all insecure about some shit.
Also I thought I sperged enough about Keira Knightley in other threads

No. 195191

I love flat chests and wish I had one. Femme or butch, beanpole bodies are my favorite. I'm curvy myself so maybe that is why I'm so drawn to someone different? Either way not every lesbian is obsessed with ass or tits. I like long limbs, personally.

No. 195198

i'm so jealous of the tall thin flat chested body type it's unreal, i'd kill to be you, this look is sooo pretty and dainty and the pic has great style, you don't have to be butch to pull this body type off at all! it's super cute! tbh my body is really curvy and i feel like i can't quite be as cute in girly clothes like skirts, dresses or even oversized clothes OR as cool in androgynous clothes as i could with your proportions. it limits my style and vibe to "hot thick curvy sexy" even when that ain't what i'm going for. i just want a cute girl to think i'm cute aaaaa

No. 195299

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>meet girl irl
>immediately hit it off
>have loads in common
>bond over lesbianism
>casually mentions she slept with her cis male roommates 'out of bordem' during lockdown but still considers herself a lesbian
um. am i overreacting to be really put off by that? (the 'cis male' bit is her distinction, not mine)

No. 195312

bi visitor here no, you're not overreacting. it would put me off too, perhaps for different reasons but nonetheless.

No. 195314

absolutely keep updating anon, ily and i love your stories. we will see your success!!!

No. 195325

The girls I'm attracted to are overwhelmingly on the slim side, so yes.

No. 195330

Drop her, anon. It’s only gonna get worse.

No. 195334

I am just quietly replying so I can find this later on, nonny

No. 195358

lol that ain't a lesbian.

No. 195385

she sounds like a PinkNews reader

No. 195569

Run, nonny, run!

No. 195593

Question ladies, since bachelorette parties are always very penis-centric what would a lesbian bachelorette look like? I don’t think there’s many vagina decorations, straws and party favors in the world so where does that leave us?

No. 195598

Bachelorette parties from my experience are only penis-centric in american movies, almost never irl. Just be normal, have fun without throwing genitalia in there.

No. 196008

yeah, not going to pursue it. i have no issue with bi women, but i do have an issue with using language incorrectly. we can't all be like ms apple slices
met another girl tonight though and i got her number, so here's to hoping she's more normal. she's way cuter, too

No. 196061

Send help anons, I'm falling for a woke twitter she/they. We've only had one date so far, and she's really lovely in person but I worry that eventually I won't be able to relate to her because I refuse to make a twitter/insta/etc for tinfoil reasons. She has an actual personality and interests beyond this shit, so I'd never have suspected a thing had I not found her Twitter. Fortunately she doesn't seem to tweet/retweet TRA things other than the most boilerplate-level shit and mostly talks about her online hobby community, so it could be a lot worse. Am I making a mistake in pursuing her anyway?

No. 196064

I've never been to a hen party (what we call them here) and seen much penis/sexual stuff sitting out. I've seen that stuff in sex shops before so someone must be buying them but it's not every hens night that has them.

Afaik that tradition just links back to the fact that you used to be losing your virginity after your wedding. It was you entering into the world of interecting with a penis. It celebrated and light heartedly made fun of that fact. The mystique that was once lost on our wedding night. The novelty has passed now given we're nearly all sexually active for years pre wedding. Add in that it's a same sex wedding and there's even less mystique or novelty to putting genitals on decorations

No. 196065

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