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No. 437641
This thread passes the Bechdel Test. Do not mention the opposite sex in any context.
If you need to vent about febfem, polilez, horrendous experiences with bisexual women, go to this thread
>>>/2X/17680Please keep posts focused on women and female homosexuality! If you want to talk about attraction towards the opposite gender it probably belongs in the bisexuality thread or questioning thread (check the catalog). Please ignore obvious bihet/troon/tradthot/fujo/etc ragebait as well. Remember that when we take the bait and infight, the trannies win! If you suspect a poster is XY, pls report and ignore instead of shitting up the entire thread with accusations. Newfags pls lurk and read the site rules before posting, and be careful to stay safe and anonymous (be wary of external links/discords, and be very cautious about the personal details you include in your posts).
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>first crush?>what’s your local lesbian scene like?>cute stories about your gf>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?>coming out stories>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?>bitch about being lonely>tips for coping with being lonely>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?>top? bottom? how do you feel about those labels?>what's your type?>when did you know you were gay?>f/f fanfic and book recs (pls)>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian? >get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc>best date/match? worst?>how homophobic are your family/friends? is it woke homophobia or old-school homophobia?>dating app horror stories>everything we hate about every other online lesbian community>lesbian friends, role models, or family members you appreciate>lesbian history, literature, and politicsprevious threads:
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Controversial opinion on lolcow, but I like strongfat women. I'm not talking roidpig or deathfat, I just like when it's obvious that she's very muscular, but she still has belly/thigh fat instead of abs. The hammerthrow woman in picrel is close to what I'm talking about.
No. 437958
>>437896Rip. Since she's a TIF she probably gets a kick out of you "chasing her" and making her feel like she's higher on the social ladder. Sorry anon, if she won't even talk to you she's a lost cause already.
>>437701She has to be smart, witty, and reasonably in shape or willing to work out with me. Being slightly internet poisoned tumblr- or imageboard-style is a plus. Also has to have a compatible music taste, hobbies, and a job. I'm not too picky about physical traits tbh, women are attractive in so many varied ways. She does have to be taller than 5'2" though.
>>437880Ooh, I check almost all your boxes. Would you say D cups are big?
No. 438004
>go on a date with an amazing girl but she's not over her ex, icanstillmakethiswork.jpg>>434887 happens
>that woman is her new girlfriendI want to kill people
No. 438089
>>437701I don’t really like makeup but self-expression can be attractive, otherwise the most I can usually take is like, eyeliner with nothing else. Slender figures are the most beautiful to me, on masculine or feminine women. Will probably get shat on for this but I love prominent collarbones, jawlines and hipbones, they’re appealing sensually and I just want to kiss them. Lithe shortish-haired women in a suit with no shirt underneath or an unbuttoned blouse is one of my biggest turn ons, or delicate women in turtlenecks or pretty dresses/skirts. But I do like softness too (much more than muscle). What else? I love pretty fingers especially if they wear rings, and I prefer dark eyes (especially if they’re large) so much it’s like 50% of whether or not I’ll like someone kek. I also prefer people who are healthy, healthy skin is very attractive. Personality-wise? I must have someone who embraces both masculine and feminine aspects of their personality, like one anon I saw mention some time ago. I do tend to prefer nerdy or tomboyish alternative women, or quiet creative women, or weird women. And someone I can have a deep conversation with. + think I’m attracted to rude personalities kek. Height doesn’t matter.
No. 438140
>>438124I relate a lot to this
>When I imagine myself with other women it never feels realistic because no women would look at me like that, would enjoy my presence and company, would want to feel my skin against hers. It leaves me frustrated, it's true that you can't even be happy in your own dreams. But in a way, I’m sort of like your opposite when it comes to this
>what makes me feel this way was more than just not being able to find a dateFor me, I was really comfortable in my ugly skin, I had come to terms with it and wasn’t that bothered, all the way up until I really fell for someone for the first time. Only after I had experienced what love and burning attraction felt like did my ugliness really start to make me depressed and suicidal because it sunk in that no one would ever feel that way about me. I’d never get to experience being mutually in love. After experiencing intense love, everything else feels dull and uninteresting by comparison.
My biggest issue though is that I can’t make friends because I get too painfully jealous of other people for going on dates or having relationships. All the talk about love lives makes me want to die, I get physically nauseated and extremely angry at the universe. It brings me so much pain that being alone 24/7 and never having friends is less painful than being reminded all the time of the normal life experiences I’ll never get to have. I spend almost all of my free time sleeping. At least sometimes I have dreams about cuddling my crush where I feel so happy and warm and unaware of the impossibility of the situation. I honestly live for those dreams.
No. 438209
>>438140>My biggest issue though is that I can’t make friends because I get too painfully jealous of other people for going on dates or having relationships. All the talk about love lives makes me want to die, I get physically nauseated and extremely angry at the universe.Another anon, and I feel this so much and I hate it about myself. I hate that I can't share my friends' happiest life experiences of finding love, getting engaged, getting married etc. because I'm too envious of what they have. I'm not ugly myself (I think), but I'm extremely emotionally damaged, have body dysmorphia and I'm unable to heal. From the already miniscule dating pool no woman my age wants to have someone who dissociates when touched and has practically no love language due to trauma I'm not going to get further into here or has the patience with me as I attempt to work through my issues. When I think about how I will keep coming to an empty home for the rest of my life I genuinely feel like roping, but I've buried myself in work and hobbies to have some semblance of purpose.
>At least sometimes I have dreams about cuddling my crush where I feel so happy and warm and unaware of the impossibility of the situation. I honestly live for those dreams.I have those dreams too and I love them. At least I can be confident and loving and feel loved in my dream form.
No. 438227
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I'm so fucking embarrassed. The cute girl at the gay bar asked me what my favorite Girl in Red song was, but I don't listen to that stuff, so my drunk ass asked if she likes Gangman Style. She and her friends looked at me like picrel, I will never recover from this fumble
No. 438309
>>438031I don't want to go too into detail, but she was just so funny, charming and beautiful. She has such an interesting life I wanted to get into so badly, but of course, I'd never be her type.
Really, I'm nobody's type. Never in my life has any woman been infatuated with me or wanted to court me, so it just makes me seem like a creep whenever I'm really into a woman. I was nervous and really awkward and too giggly and stuttery. The woman she's with now could be a supermodel and she flies her out to different countries and she's totally more normie than me. She's sensible, resourceful, responsible but fun and adventurous. She's just about everything I could want. She had a few things that made her imperfect, so I'm trying to focus on those to make myself feel better.
No. 438326
On this discussion, tbh being a lesbian has made me appreciate myself better. I used to be insecure but these days I look at myself and realise I’d find attributes of myself attractive if they were on other people.
>>438197On the contrary, I hope for it.
No. 438484
I am this anon
>>438227 and I'm going to the same bar after work today. What are some things I can talk about with other women that won't out me as a complete autist? So far, I know not to talk about Gangnam Style.
No. 438487
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How often have you guys been in a relationship where you were both shitty? Or relationships that were so bad you don't even consider them a relationship? What's your story?
>Be me, years ago, teenager
>Ask cute bi girl I've been friends with for years out
>She says yes
>The next day she immediately tells me she needs a "mental health break"
>I get upset but try to understand, so I brush it off
>See her throughout the week talking about the scrotes in her class sexually and saying she wanted to date them
>Get really pissy and start making sarcastic jokes about how she never said any of that about me
>She asks me to talk in private
>She admits she dated me out of pity because she thought i was going to kill myself if she said no
>mfw
No. 438559
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How do I stop myself from dating yet another insane BPD psycho? I know misery always follows, but the trauma pussy (the trussy) just hits different. I swear their tits are bigger too.(ai shit outside of containment )
No. 438563
>>438487She really thought she was hot shit, wow. So sorry anon. What did you say to her?
I have a somewhat similar story.
>late/post-highschool>ask out a girl who is claiming to be bi>she says yes, we do most of our flirting online and hang out once a week or so to cook together and watch movies>she calls me cute/wifey/love etc and sends me cutesy emojis and talks about moving away together one day but still hasn't tried to kiss me even a month into the relationship>constantly saying gay shit about me on tumblr and sending me couple memes but when we're together in person it feels like all the excitement and chemistry is coming from me>kinda just feels like I'm hanging out with a friend but I really like this girl and I think she's gorgeous so I decide to wait and see, maybe she's nervous?>one time she straight up forgets our 'date' and schedules a hang out session with some other rando instead>didn't know what to do so I just stayed and we all end up hanging out for a few hours kek>most awkward day ever>finally work up the nerve to kiss her but when I put my arms around her I could feel she wasn't into it so I hugged her instead>my heart is pounding fireworks going off just from hugging this girl and she could barely give a fuck>go home and be miserable>text her it doesn't feel like we're in a real relationship and that I want to end things>she says she's relieved because she feels the same>I get upset and we block each other>just a few years later I find out she married the middest scrote in existencenever again.
No. 438628
>>438605Aw, look who's trying to be smug. I know this is bait, but
>saggy breastsThere is no such thing as bad breasts. Yes, big floppy breasts are attractive as well. Crawl back to whatever hole you came from, there is no bad way for a healthy woman's body to be built.
No. 438724
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Anyone have experience dating older women? Like 10-20 years? I’ve been talking to this incredibly sweet woman on tinder but idk if I should pursue it, for various reasons but mainly I’m embarrassed what my family/friends would say
No. 438725
>>438715Just couldn’t get it to fucking work. Tried for 20+ minutes and just couldn’t align ourselves right. We even shaved beforehand and bought lube. Also neither of us are fat, I’m 174cm and 54kg my partner is 170cm and ~50kg as well.
We will try again tomorrow, although I’m already convinced it won’t work but my partner doesn’t want to give up. She thinks it’ll work next time but I’m doubtful. Any expert tribbers ITT can provide tips I’ll be happy to accept.
>>438721Then why the fuck do we have clits?!?! If a woman’s role in sex for evolutionary procreation is to take dick why not put all our nerve endings inside the vagina instead of a small fucking external nub? So fucking frustrating.
No. 438726
>>438725What you see is the tip of the clitoris, external part of it.
>why not put all our nerve endings inside the vaginaBecause it would make childbirth unbearable and probably impossible
No. 438741
>>438725>Then why the fuck do we have clitsPair-bonding, I don't know why people here try to say otherwise in the literal gay thread,
also don't get why retards itt are spamming "your only purpose is childbearing" "lesbian sex isnt real" garbage with ESL grammar kek.
No. 438821
>>438725>I’m 174cm and my partner is 170cmaaaaannnnddd that’s your issue right there. leg/torso length is extremely important, moreso than weight tbh. you can be anorexic tier models on ozempic but if you’re limbs/torsos are too long they will get in the way and you won’t have as much suppleness/leverage in your movements.
also are you an innie or outie? usually innies have trouble getting off by tribbing while outies are much, much more likely to enjoy it. also i highly recommend missionary over scissors, the latter is much harder to pull off and the former is much more intimate anyways.
if it doesn’t work out when yall try it again and your gf is still super adamant, you can always just defer to rubbing on thighs or sharing a vibrator. it may not be as intimate as pure clit on clit tribbing but it’s still tribbing nonetheless.
- expert “tribber”
No. 438865
Do you think the looks hierarchy that exists for heterosexuals exists in SSA spaces? Is there ever a feeling of people being “out of someone’s league”? I just found out a very pretty microcelebrity has a secret girlfriend and I sort of realised I usually see all lesbians with a sort of camaraderie, like we’re all equal - but I can’t imagining interacting with a woman like that irl thinking I had a chance, she would bully me kek.
>>438861Interesting, I’ve heard some women saying that having a large outer labia makes things feel really good. I can’t imagine it well since mine are practically nonexistent
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>>438836You have to evaluate yourselves and your parts and see which rhino beetle method you can accomplish
No. 438882
>>438870>>438871this interaction is hilarious to me
>>438869yeah, just realising i have pussy privilege.
when i open my legs my clit is just smack dab there kek No. 439186
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I just want to have sex like this and have it be pleasurable for both parties(/g/ rule 4)
No. 439307
>>439177In the world of tribbing there are thumpers and grinders, both anre equally
valid based on your sensitivity imho.
No. 439370
>>439356confession: Sometimes when I read posts like this I imagine it's a stranger I saw irl writing about me… I hope girls get horny when I wear tight shirts…
A girl in one of my college classes wore a lot of short shorts and low cut tops last month and it drove me crazy. I love when the shirt is just a liiiiittle too tight and the top digs in to the soft part a little. People who think there are ugly breasts just could never get it.
No. 439448
>>439307Yeah I was just thinking I kind of enjoy “thumping”, at least when I’m humping a desk or table or bed frame kek, to be fair it sometimes aches afterwards but a pussy can’t be worse than that.
>>439324Same, it’s unacceptable but I really just don’t like straight women, even some on this site.
>>439418Even when I’m inactive on LC I still go on these threads for anything pertaining to relationships or sex, this is like the only good place I know so it’s stuck. Can’t even find my brethren on lesbian reddit subs. It’s a breath or fresh air (especially female fantasies, you’re not allowed to express yourself like that anywhere else, when I found anons like me I almost cried tears of joy)
No. 439598
>>439548Most of the time, but like
>>439552 said, sometimes my body betrays me even if I’m into her. No clue why, just happens on occasion.
No. 439711
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>>439606Nta anon but I like flatties, I would choose them over huge breasts
No. 439719
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>>439717>locationyeah there are troons but their number is negligible. somehow westoid brainrot that is troonism hasn't fully infected us yet and hopefully it stays that way. are you a fellow SEA dweller anon
No. 439757
>>439739I agree with you, but
>>439750 is also correct in saying that there's a certain amount of fat that's too much. Obviously, women aren't perfect stick figures, so I don't mind if she has a bigger belly or any other higher body fat. In fact, I think people who complain about regular women being chubby are weak and will not survive the winter. But i draw the line at deathfats.
No. 439773
>>439739literally every here is a chubby chaser what are you talking about KEK. i feel isolated as a scrawny woman enjoyer. but a pretty woman is a pretty woman, it’s muscle i don’t like tbh.
>>439763fat “positivity” is what turns me off people who are chubby+ the most, way more than the body type in all honesty. it’s just the fact that it’s first world greed that makes you this way and yet you want sympathy for it… pisses me off. pisses me off more that outside of here lesbians are meant to be perfect people and saying you don’t like fat woman would be like a death sentence only second to saying you don’t want troons kek.
>>439767i don’t care what anyone’s type is but for fucks’ sake calling any woman’s body type like a “little boy’s” makes me want to alog soooo fucking hard. it’s a moid neg anyway, little boys don’t look like skinny women, and to even make that connection is freaky.
No. 439778
>>439767Yes anon, you are super duper special and the only lezzie to ever like women who look like they don't have health problems.
I don't like how many chubby chasers are here either, it's weird and gross. I hope for
>>439739 's sake that the women she's talking about are under 200lbs. Pretty generous estimate, so if she doesn't pass that bar then she's a lost cause.
No. 439783
>>439764…in what world is
>>439711 half naked?
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>>439767>>439763>>439757>>>/g/437107 This is a good example of a cute woman. Only women shaped like picrel try to call feminine women ugly fatties to cope.
(this thread now follows the Bechdel rule) No. 439805
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why do fatties think someone being attracted to thin/normal weight women is an attack on them? I don't like anorexics either but I'd take that over an obese whale any day. too many fat women taking out their insecurities on skinny women on this site
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>>439805No one is talking about whales, though. You're jumping to the most extreme end of overweight to try to win. Your picrel has to hide her body under ten layers of clothes (and dresses like a preteen kek) to not look like garbage when feminine Stacy beauties with a little bit of arm and tummy chub actually have nice bodies.
No. 439816
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>>439808Real curvy women looks like this fatass
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>>439808the fruits girl doesn't even look deadly skinny to be considered 'extreme' kek that's just how regular healthy thin women can also look like. Do you cope by telling yourself the more rolls you have the more feminine you are? Other girls looking cute doesn't take away your femininity but for some reason you have to put down thin women to push your own ideal. Your picrel doesn't even look chubby, that's just a woman with a normal weight, albeit not exactly slim. Chubby is more like picrel. At least try to use an accurate representation of chubs if you want to cape for them kek
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>>439808nta but ehhh. you can’t shit on women for having a different type from you, there is no “correct” type and shaming women who like certain body types or women who look like that is just weird. i don’t know where picrel is from but just like chub is hot to you skinny waists are hot to me and some others… even skinny curvy women look better than large curvy women to me (like tyla) but i don’t like lots of curves anyway. even then body type is only one factor, i find women of all body type’s beautiful
>>439816don’t know why this smells of moid to me
No. 439826
>>439821unironically looks like a femboy.
>>439813>fat fetishhahahahahaha cope skeletor
>>439819It's subjective, look at the replies above calling that picrel fat. Your picrel is what I consider on the upper end of attractive before it becomes unhealthy. She looks warm and soft. She's more attractive than
>>439805 to me.
>the more rolls the more feminineNo, I don't like actually fat or obese women, but that's not the point. Most people don't.
(this thread now follows the Bechdel rule) No. 439837
>>439832i dont see why she said she doesnt know where picrel is from the people have a right to the truth
>>439836random cosplayer 4chan moids constantly hebe over
No. 439850
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>>439845>eveilnsher tummy is so cute
No. 439859
>>439805>>439821>>439850but the real issue isn't the weight here honestly but the aesthetic sense of these girls btw these clothes look juvenile and ugly, you gotta be an ugly weeb yourself to actually enjoy this shit.
>>439855try eating something maybe you wouldn't be so pissy all the time, cures the brain fog too
No. 439872
>>439869you are the one being unstable. i just said "huh it seems like anachans really are in this thread" and your response is to yell fatty fat fat, get personally offended etc bone rattler antics.
see
>>439870 .
No. 439882
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>>439864if you genuinely think that anyone preferring nice looking thin women over obese women must be some bone-rattling anachan then it sounds like a you problem. you should solve your complexes about your own femininity instead of assuming we must be all pedophiles into eugenia cooney for liking normal women
No. 439902
>>439896what are you even talking about
honestly you guys should make yourselves less easy to bully making me feel like i am holding some kind of nuclear codes of infighting
No. 439918
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You're all so unhinged about weight holy shit
Anyways, I don't even have a girlfriend currently but I've been thinking about my wedding and I imagine a venue like this would be beautiful to get married in. Any nonnies that have wives want to talk about their weddings?
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>>439882I wish dressing like this was in fashion again. Very cute and attractive. I also miss when low rise jeans were a thing as i love waists. Baggy is undeniably more comfortable though and i see why more women are leaning towards it
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>>440041same, i love when women wear low-rise jeans with belts and there's also a bit of tummy peeking through in between the shirt
No. 440074
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>>440072im not onanon but she probably uses it to simulate pussy on pussy action such as tribbing. I remember one of the anons argument against it being "you need a wee wee to own an onahole therefore you're not a woman" and that was retarded to read considering you could easily say the same thing about a real vagina but clearly that wouldn't be true kek. Onanon most likely uses the toy to simulate some type of tribbing, vibrators are way better but to each their own
No. 440094
>>440087We do not goon
We will never goon
We have never gooned
There is no gooning on lolcow.farm
No. 440109
>>440072onahole anon here, it’s more for intimacy than anything. getting an ordinary fleshlight or a dildo is like getting a tool, but an onahole just looks and feels more real and soft yknow?
i didnt buy the onahole in the end so i wouldn’t know how it would actually be like but i’d imagine its much easier to fantasize that im having sex with a real woman rather than simply pleasuring myself with a toy to get my horniness out of my system whenever i ovulate. plus if i bought it i would probably cuddle my onahole to sleep every night
and probably even start speaking to it like im pillowtalking to a lover that doesn’t exist haha yes im weird kill me No. 440112
>>440104I like the new rule and I think it needs to be lightly enforced compared to the actual bechedel test thread as referencing redacteds could (unfortunately) be necessary to vent/tell a story such as
>>438487 or
>>438563. I think it's good for avoiding spergs obsessed with het dynamics, and sooo many infights on the basis of redactedfoiling have been avoided. This was such a necessary rule and I'm so glad it's here now. How does everyone else feel about it?
No. 440115
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>tfw no farmer gf to tend to the farm with
No. 440117
>>440114jokes on you I’m into
vore and
scat No. 440121
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She wants your adrenochrome, do you accept? Would you give it all up for an illuminati-connected reptilian woman?
No. 440126
>>440115i know how to tend to chickens
>>440121adults adrenochrome are tainted anon. they prefer extracting from babies/kids
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>>440109Wait so this entire time you were gonna hug it? I seriously thought you'd trib it or something. I don't use toys tbh, I find them kind of useless. As a lesbian you're supposed to be fast with your fingers anyways.
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Being a lesbian zoomer is exhausting
No. 440418
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Anyone else here get aroused really REALLY easily? I'll just see a woman with a nice body bending over and all I'll be able to feel is my clit and I'll have a strong urge to get off for like two minutes. I feel so perverted sometimes because I know that most women are grossed out by the thought of me being attracted to them
No. 440427
>>440418I'm like that sometimes, after I discovered I liked
bdsm I was absolutely feral for like two months and simply seeing a woman with a little bit of cleavage made my clit go crazy
No. 440428
>>440422No I'm like mid and I'm 6'0 so it makes up for the midness anyways but I'm autistic and that's even worse than being ugly
Also the average woman is straight so there's that too
>>440427I think it might be hormonal tbh
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>>440418yes
>I feel so perverted sometimes because I know that most women are grossed out by the thought of me being attracted to themthankfully i've never been directly told this but by god do i feel like the worst nastiest predator ever when i feel sexually attracted to a woman. i know anons here will say that it's scrotebrained or whatever the fuck but people in real life will think that too and worse. even many "allies" are like picrel or this dumbass post
>>440244 i can't fucking stand it. everyone else is free to thirst after strangers but when you're a lezzer you've got these moral expectations and obligations because you're "supposed to be better than men" as if we're not by virtue of being women. i do feel isolated tbh because i'm easily aroused like you, and sometimes i wish i really was asexual like other (actual) autist lesbians, but i'm just not. arrest me for actual homosexual thought crimes i guess. all that said i still can't shake off the shame and guilt, it's awful. i hate making random people i don't really know into the sub/object of my arousal who didn't and wouldn't ever ask to be… it feels invasive almost, despite knowing that other groups of people aren't held up to such standards and it's not like i'm actually hurting them. i don't know…
No. 440447
>>440439YES YES YES right on the money. People expect us to be the most conscious with our sexuality. They expect us to be asexual and shame us for any attraction we display towards woman, so that shame starts to become internalized. I see straight women constantly seethe over the crushes lesbians have or the things that we watch/like. It's so stupid, they want us to be polilez. They come up to me to ask for advice about THEIR relationships because they think I'm some feminist nun scholar. The constant surveillance we have, people making sure we're perfect and pure 24/7. I imagine that's what caused the cottagecore fakebian boom in 2020. I just feel like if I fuck up once I'll get treat like some antifeminist serial rapist. They literally expect us all to be like your picrel kek
>>440438I'm not het just because I get shit from straight women for my sexuality, retard. have you never been shamed for your sexuality before? Do you live in portland? You faggots throw around the het label like a cripple throwing around shit in a tardhouse
>>440435I don't get a "vulva boner persay" I guess I just feel really stimulated
No. 440481
I find it so hard to be closeted because I’m a loser kek. I pray whenever I’m out with my family that I don’t see a woman I find attractive because I will turn very visibly red and find it hard to act normal. There’s kind of no heterosexual explanation.
>>440477Damn is it really? I live in the UK, if I’m missing out that kinda makes me sad. My (internet) crush lives in NYC so that makes me feel worse kek, I’m jealous
No. 440487
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>>440483Because not liking a post by a lesbian means they must be straight somehow. Lolcow lesbian logic. "Everyone I don't like is a fakebian." If you want to see a real fakebian look at chappig roan
No. 440506
>>440494No? Seems like kind of a random conclusion. TBH from that discussion it seems like mostly bi nonas were thirsting, I’ve heard some mention they like the… blending? of the genders since they’re attracted to both sexes. Honestly I’m so shocked by that anon’s comment so I’m really curious who they think I’m talking about though.
>>440499This is so obviously the same baiter/sperg that I hope this is breaking the bechdel test rule enough to get banned.
No. 440544
>>440534I’m ayrt, idk I guess I just fell into a rabbit hole of consuming too much Japanese media at a young age, which led me to /a/ (biggest mistake of my life).
I’m not exactly a loser if you know me personally (have a good job, healthy social life, vacation with friends/family every year) but my edgy non-PC brand of humour, addiction to imageboards, and being gay in a very conservative but wealthy country that obsess over appearances to other strangers makes me a loser in my mind.
Every year my extended family always ask me when I’m going to find a man and get married (I’m chinese so this happens every lunar new year) and I tell them I’m not currently looking which draws a lot of judgement. My mother even broke down in front of me one time and said “why are you like this, I want my grandchildren”, which didn’t help either. Gay scene in my country is non-existent, in fact sex between men being illegal has just been repealed recently. So yeah.
No. 440547
>>440544KEK are you me nona I know exactly where you live
because I live there too. It's near impossible to find relatable women where that is, let alone SSA women. Have you tried dating apps? Heard it worked out for some normies
No. 440560
>>440544>ChinaHow does such a big country not have any LGB scenes? Also
>why are you like this, I want my grandchildrenWhy are handmaidens so fucking annoying holy shit
No. 440568
>>440547>Have you tried dating apps?I don’t want to out myself, I feel like I will get ostracised immediately if I do. I’m semi-comfortable in my current weird limbo of a status quo, where the only person giving me shit for not urgently finding a husband is my mother.
Also our small LGBT scene
(went to Pink Dot once) is full of extremely radical, fat, ugly queers and transbians. I honestly just want a socially adjusted, non-turbulent gf who has a normal job, is not fat or ugly, or super into complete socialist revolution in our country. If I can find someone to be secretly gay roommates with who I can build wealth with and then move to Europe and finally get married to, I’m happy. But at this rate I know I’m basically asking for a unicorn..
>>440560I’m ethnically chinese but I’m not from China (or any of its territories). In fact I grew up speaking English and only learned chinese in primary school. I don’t think you can find a chinese national with a command of English as good as mine tbvh kek.
No. 440573
>>440568>I don't want to out myselfI get that. I was afraid of getting recognized or noticed when I tried dating apps too. You really aren't missing out on much there. Mostly dead/inactive accounts. On more popular apps like tinder or okc, they're all bis who are more interested in looking for [redacted]
>is full of extremely radical, fat, ugly queers and transbiansKEKK I had no idea, I've never went. I want to hear your stories and pics if you took any nona. I've left my email on this post.
>But at this rate I know I’m basically asking for a unicorn..It's common for most women with that dream to not be out and about here, makes the bleak landscape look even bleaker.
No. 440591
>>440573I don’t have any photos of the event unfortunately, I didn’t really want to be there and I only went because my (first and only) gf at that time wanted to go, and we were in a huge uni friend group who also pressured me and her to go since we were openly dating. But it was mostly uneventful - a couple of bands playing queer songs, some skit by a couple of pro-LGBT local entertainers
eg I remember Kumar was one of them doing his usual crossdressing routine, some kind of sit-down talk between other local celebrities about LGBT rights. I went during 2018 if it matters.
Many of the people there were actually hets kek usually uni students trying to support their queer friends, only about 30-40% were actually LGBT and you could visually distinguish them because they were either fat butches, flamboyantly feminine m*n, or flat out troons. I remembered me and my ex-gf got mistaken for being a het ally by an event organiser because we looked too “normal” ahahaha.
Idk if the event is still the same now since it’s been 6 years but I can imagine the number of troons to be higher nowadays.
No. 440699
>>440681Oh gosh nonna. Get ready for your first bi woman heartbreak, it sounds like it’s going to hurt bad too kek.
There are genuinely bi women with good intentions who will love you well, but this one is just a crimson flag.
No. 440775
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on the topic of feeling aroused at random moments, i absolutely hate it whenever i am out doing my own thing and a woman looks good and is near me and i feel funny down my pants because it just makes me feel like a fucking creep for even having that reaction around her in the first place. on god the one time that felt especially retarded was when i had to show a woman where the time card machine was at our job and we walked side by side together. just seeing her smile and talk about how hard it is to find the stupid machine were enough to turn me on and if she asked me if i could please lick her clit just because, i definitely would. and it sucks because i do think i don't pass as straight at all even if i'm casually fem i guess, so i don't get to have a lot of opportunities for things like platonic hugs and cuddles with gal pals because women look at me and just KNOW, and keep their distance from me. i look at hets and seethe because they can be affectionate or close with one another without a second thought and i can't remember ever feeling comfortable enough to hug a woman without feeling evil afterwards.
whatever. i can just hug myself.
No. 440818
Anons with homophobic relatives, does it ever hurt you that you might not be able to introduce any girlfriends to your family? My family is very involved which might be a cultural thing, parents and grandparents usually know who you’re dating. From their perspective I’m never with anyone kek. It kinda hurts me, my parents had me young and I look at how close they were with each other’s families, always visiting each other in pictures even before they had me. They’ve not been together in nearly two decades and my paternal grandmother still calls my mum regularly, asks her to call her mum (a thing in her country) and everything.
My friends’ boyfriends all come over to the house often and know each other well, go to dinners together… it seems so cute. I’m really, really, really jealous. Maybe I just want that picture perfect fairytale romance, especially since I’m still living with them. There’s a girl I like, to be fair we’re not dating kek but I like her so much. She’s so good-looking, charming and likeable, she’s got the sort of personality straight women wish their boyfriends would be like haha. Buys me flowers and confectioneries and stuff, and she’s got such a good sense of humour. I daydream about being together, I know if you removed the prejudice out of those couple of family members they’d love her so much, I know she’d get along with them… I want her to go on holidays with us like my friends’ boyfriends do, come over for Christmas, for them to invite us both over for a weekend too, know her as a person and her habits - I think this is an extension of wanting them to know me better too because I find it hard to open up to them. Like they’re shopping and they go “on [anon] and [anon’s gf] would like that”. Ah… I want to be able to have a girlfriend and for her to be accepted as part of the family, basically. I know there might be enough pushback by the more open members and it could be accepted eventually/begrudgingly, if I do come out, maybe…. I probably will once I can support myself, and we’ll see what happens, but I’m scared for it. This turned into a bit of a vent sorry.
No. 440838
>>440818I used to feel this way but then I came out and everyone was so horrible about it that I hate them all now and I'd never want to bring my wife around for a cute family dinner.
>>440665I'm gonna be real with you guys, idk how you look, but this attitude is what's ugliest. I can't stand coming into this thread to see nonas ranting about what hideous beasts they are. Feel like it happens weirdly a lot.
No. 440847
>>440838>this attitude is what's ugliestI hate when they project their insecurities onto other women the most. Like
>>438605 >>438720 just sounds like a bitter incel trying to convince everyone that some features are "objectively ugly." No, xyz feature is not irredeemably ugly, it's your overwhelmingly negative, shitty attitude that repels women.
No. 440855
>>440838Yeah, and the doompostery waah waah shit like
>>440846. At least you can work on your personality but if you’re going to wallow in self-pity about that too then well just stay alone kek.
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Most lesbians like 3d girls over 2d girls and i have yet to be proven wrong
>>440861Yes that’s normal though for anybody to prefer attractive people of the sex that they’re attracted to.
No. 440865
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fuck my socially retarded ass i wish i was a normie stacy.
No. 440873
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>>440869i love it too its why i chose it i hope to experience this someday in the future, thinking of it makes me feel so lonely right now kek
No. 440924
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does anybody else feel extremely disconnected from people of both sides of the political spectrum and just consider themselves politically homeless? leftoids push the "sexuality is fluid" slop while conservashits love religionfaggotry and think that lesbians are simply mentally ill. I hate them both. I already feel like I need to be on high guard all of the time with these retards but post-pandemic it feels even worse
No. 440946
>>440847Seriously, I actually reported the post you linked too because I thought it was a scrote kek. If I heard a woman talking this way about herself I'd just assume she was nitpicking me in her mind as well.
>>440846>>440856Girl STAND UP oh my god
No. 440975
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>>440974Dude that sucks so bad, actually something similar happened to me before but she didn't say it to my face. just give her a big fuck you. that's so fucked up, worst feeling ever. especially when you're attached
No. 441052
>>440924Yeah. I hate conservatives with every fiber of my being, but even if leftism is correct on paper I cannot stand most leftists because of how revolting they are to lesbians, even a lot of radfems. Right-leaning LGB people are too obsessed with trying to LARP as straight and being "one of the good ones" too.
>>440938>I don't think we ever fully recovered from the damage political lesbianism did to us decades ago before getting batted by gendershit again which makes the entire scene so clustered, but I'm simply at the point where I'm willing to deal with the "sexuality is fluid!!11" bullshit to prevent my baseline legal human rights being revoked.Exactly. They're not leftist but I still grit my teeth and vote Democrat because I don't want things to get worse under Republicans.
No. 441071
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>>437701samefag to answer my own question i tend to be attracted to women who dress in a fashion that isnt the "norm". i was walking in lidl the other day and saw this very cute girl who was dressed in mori kei(?) i think, she had really pretty brown curls and big brown eyes. i wish i atleast said hi ugh
No. 441166
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>at some paint and sip art class full of cute women
>hot gym butch sits next to me
>we get drunk and start talking about anime, and I learn she's an autistic lesbian and her special interest animation
>"what's your special interest, nonnie?"
>autism activated
>I explain my obsession with 9/11, how it started, my theories, my fun facts, everything 9/11 that I can think of
>I'm drunk and autistic so I didn't realize how uncomfortable she looked or her trying to change the subject
>she starts shaking
>"what's wrong, are you okay?"
>her super abusive stepdad was a 9/11 conspiracy theorist and my rant reminded her of him
>she leaves crying
>mfw I blew my chance with this girl because of my 9/11 sperging
No. 441200
>>441166I can definitely see a world where I try to put myself out there and wind up doing this but just with the medical case studies I read about or have seen documentaries on. I have this one case about a man who started growing barnacles inside of his hand on his tendons after they got in through a cut while he was fishing and there's no medicinal treatment for it so they had to open his hand up and manually scrape all the barnacles off his tendons as best as possible. No one likes it when I tell them this story even though it's so fascinating. They always stop me at the part about the barnacles growing in his hand and I never get to the treatment part or the science of why they can survive in your body.
Also, I would have been interested in your 9/11 sperging.
Maybe this is a sign I have ass burgers. Anons, do I have autism?
No. 441267
since we’re doing greentext situations
>best friend of about 1 and a half years, were only online friends until recently
>really close even for the time we’ve known each other, she’s a weeby autist just like me, genuinely my dearest friend
>weekend, sleepover like usual, just got done playing some games and i shower first and get out
>since i left the door slightly open, i hear her say my name
>realise she’s masturbating
>run back to the bathroom, stay there for 10 minutes until i think she’s finished
>may have rubbed my clit to the sounds she was making before i did that though
>come back to her room
>pretend nothing happened
>adrenaline heart beating fast in true virgin fashion
i can’t believe people actually masturbate out loud like that kek it almost makes me think she wanted me to hear? because why? oh and also the kicker
>is in a relationship
i don’t know how to stay rational in this situation. i’ve been having terrible thoughts because of this. first of all, i had completely suppressed my attraction to her for several reasons i won’t get into because anons will just laugh at the shitshow i’m in since it’s hilarious, but i’m embarrassed. but also she’s been doing weird, out-of-line things lately that i thought i was just being paranoid about like:
>hiding pieces of my clothing so i leave them at her house
>seemingly trying to take upskirt shots of me??
WHICH i might be wrong about tbf. again i have really mixed feelings that are preventing me from being able to view the situation impartially. when i thought she was trying to sneak pictures of me i was kind of turned on but also i think she’s been being underhanded in some ways (always casually telling me i should wear a skirt/shorts in a way that’s innocent enough on it’s own but if it’s for her own purposes i should objectively be looking at her like a creep).
sorry if this is meant for relationship advice but i don’t like that thread so
No. 441285
>>441273See this is the thing right - the whole reason I shut down any feelings for her (other than self-esteem problems) is because she’s a TIF with a weird complex situation with her sexuality. I
swear she’s not as bad as she sounds and up til now has been awesome otherwise, she doesn’t poison herself with T or anything she just doesn’t want to be called a woman, and I have a feeling her
sexual abuse as a child has to do with her gender dysphoria. Basically she’s a “straight transguy” who only dates women but is a fujo (for anime and live action men). I kind of assumed she wasn’t reaaally interested in women and just larping a bit even though I know she masturbates to her waifus too. But the primary thing isn’t that, it’s the fact I’m openly lesbian. I’m… not allowed to like her? Since I’m undercover gender critical we’ve had a funny conversation about whether or not I feel anything for “transmascs” and I basically lied. Tbh at the time she straight up asked if I feel any sexual attraction to her and I was all “Mmm you’d be my type if you were a girl I guess” KEK
>>441280Yeah no, not a dyke I’d be cucking but still a woman. I’m kind of gloating since we don’t really get along
I was kind of territorial before they started dating ngl but she’s still quite sweet and has been friends with all of their friend group for way longer too so…
No. 441339
don’t know what this infight is going on about but
>>441296>>441300>she’ll neg you>just pump and dumpMy answer to both of these is that it’s hard to explain how close/special our relationship is that I can’t imagine either of these situations happening.
She is very accommodating to me and anything I think/feel. I can’t imagine her being unkind to me for actually being attracted to her and even during that conversation some months ago she explained she kind of understands lesbians being attracted to “transmen” logically (though she said she thinks some of them on hormones pass and that makes them just bi). Like I said I genuinely think her gendieshit is reactionary and she’s generally quite rational when it comes to most things, but has some “”
triggers”” mostly about how she’s perceived.
And being so close makes me unable to just use her for sex and leave. She’s very dear to me, there are just some friendships you know you’ll never be able to replace, you know? I want to know her for years to come.
This whole thing is scary to me because it’s so out of nowhere and could make things change. I have really bad executive control and I don’t know if I’d do something stupid. I think it’s obvious when I’m horny. After the thing happened I felt so weird. I saw her briefly earlier today and felt weird and couldn’t concentrate. I avoided talking to her while in bed like we usually do that night and idk how I’m going to deal the next time I sleep over.
>>441298Yeah in my head she’s in the “most likely bi”, category not lesbian. She thinks T would make her look ugly and not pretty so I doubt she’ll go on it though.
>>441311Kek I don’t know how serious this is but I’d never hurt her like this
plus she’s hotter and has a niche following of simps on a social media platform she would totally publicly cancel me on if we turned on each other. No thanks.
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>>441300
>Just pump and dump
We gotta stop talking like we got dicks lolol
No. 441359
>>441356What’s so funny about this is that bisluts can’t feel actual love for women anyway, ( see
>>440974) so even if anon did break them up they’d get over it in like a day. Anon is being offended for no reason.
No. 441360
>>441353who says nastiness can't be part of the beauty? once again, it is your personal problem if you think sexuality being nice and beautiful = non-sexuality stripped of all lust, hand holding, etc. you do not actually understand the conversation i am having here. you are being willingly stupid.
>>441354the exact shit displayed in this thread for example; calling women sexually violent names, writing weird fantasies about other people's gonorrhea crotches, etc, just being as disgusting as possible about sex and sexuality as a way to humiliate others. this kind of language is a reflection of the person, it is a reflection of the culture as a whole. words on the screen are part of the bigger environment, and nowadays, sex is violent, it is ugly, it is pornified. none of you are being edgy or clever. you are just a display of the porn riddled culture we live in. sad.
No. 441384
>>441383you are a liar. no one objected you not liking bi women or whatever your obsession with them is. i objected against sex pest language and calling women cunts. but you gotta shield your ego with acting like a little
victim that is unfairly persecuted against for not liking bi women or whatever even if you know that's not what this conversation was about.
No. 441390
>>441383Because bishits love to come in here and get
triggered when they're confronted with the reality of how lesbian women really see them. Just look at their recent discussion right now in their thread crying about a post an anon made about being heartbroken by a bishit.
No. 441393
>>441387ywnbam tiffany
>>441371i mean bi’s are bound to come up in any conversation revolving SSA because lots of lesbians end up dating bi’s. don’t be gagged when there’s women with shit experiences with them. Obviously there’s people with personality disorders in this thread. but after the pandemic you can’t say certain parts of our community haven’t been shat up by bis and fake gays
(scrotefoiling) No. 441399
>>441339>I can’t imagine her being unkind to me for actually being attracted to her>has a niche following of simps on a social media platform she would totally publicly cancel me onI was two of those anons. Ok sorry yeah, I was joking when I said to woo the other woman. But if she's the type who'd do callout shit and set strangers on you, I think there's your answer. Not that cheating doesn't deserve social consequence, but it's one thing to tell shared public spheres and another to set total strangers as sexually-motivated (for her, as they're simps) attack dogs.
Also, sure, maybe she won't get nasty about you being attracted to her but with her defensive/reactionary gendie-ism, she might end up associating your sexuality with her own baggage of being perceived as a woman. And there's imo a lot more wiggle room than you might think for her to complain that you're not perceiving her correctly, which
triggers her dysphoria, and maybe you're being kind of -phobic like some TER- sorry, lesbians - are, and her previous girlfriend didn't do this, etc. She's far from the first person where troonshit rotted their brains and flipped a personality switch when it comes down to it.
There's just so much potential damage here and it's not fair that she's trying to rope you into her mess at risk of your friendship just because she's horny. She should at least have the decency to break up with her girlfriend instead of trying to set up a fanfic-seductive real-life-creepy scenario. Judging as an uninvolved 3rd party, she's being selfish, impulsive, and willing to make collateral damage out of other people. Don't do it,
nonny.
No. 441407
>>441399For the record she’s not exactly the type to do that - I guess I’m saying it’s just another reason why I wouldn’t sleep with her gf kek, and tbf I don’t think that’s something crazy to do if you’re no longer friends with someone and they slept with your partner anyway.
As for the situation, yeah… I’m not exactly one to make a move regardless. I have no sexual experience and like I said there’s a lot about this that scares me since I value our friendship. My problem was never whether or not I should sleep with her and moreso what to like… do? Because how do I move forward? Just try to forget about it? Do I confront her at all or…
>Judging as an uninvolved 3rd party, she's being selfish, impulsive, and willing to make collateral damage out of other people.Well, yes… And I do think I need a 3rd party to properly judge this. It kind of hurts to hear her described that way though, I know you only know about her from this situation but she’s a really good friend to me. It’s not like I think less of her for any of this, at all, at worst it’s amusing, but maybe I have fucked moral standards
No. 441414
>>441407>I don’t think that’s something crazy to do if you’re no longer friends with someone and they slept with your partner anywayI mean I can get why someone might do it, but the scenario you described is so extreme to me in another way. It's like:
>broastcasting my moments of humiliation and deep pain to the world is an acceptable price to hurt people>my simps go after my ex and ex-gf only because they want to fuck me instead>friends see how I set strangers on two people I previously were very close to>despite the severity of their wrongs, people will think twice about getting close with me in the future because I've shown I'm willing to make and use a personal armyPeople with dignity don't do stuff like that imo.
But yeah personally I would ignore it and reframe it as funny. She wanted to fuck you so bad she looked fucking stupid kek. She was willing to throw away her morals for a hot second. Hopefully she got hit with post-nut clarity after that stunt and never repeats it again.
>she’s a really good friend to me. It’s not like I think less of her for any of this, at all, at worst it’s amusing, but maybe I have fucked moral standardsNo, I think your response here is the answer. Many people make good friends but terrible lovers. Personally I would say keep this incident in mind though, if she ever breaks up with her girlfriend and tries again. Whatever happened here might happen again if you two ever get together, and the other person might be too stupid and impulsive to assess the situation like you did.
No. 441481
>>441457No, I’m just curious as to how big of a factor pheromones play in attraction. I was in a heated discussion the other day with my brother because he was adamant that if I was truly a lesbian I wouldn’t complain about the female locker room in our local gym being smelly. He went into some sort of pseudoscience about how humans are attracted to the smell of sweat from the opposite sex, and how most heterom*ids love women’s BO.
I initially disagreed entirely but after researching a little bit more I found out that we do indeed release pheromones that are supposed to attract the opposite sex. And if that’s the case then my brother probably had a point about people who are homosexual being attracted to pheromones being released by the same sex. Idk was he right or am I just looking too deep into this shit??
No. 441488
>>441454>a key indicatorIt could be one of those, but it's not the end all be all
>if you’d smell the sweat of another woman and your first emotion is disgustSome people just stink like shit. Also, many factors influence a person's smell and sweat, like the foods they've eaten recently, any medication, hormones.
>does that mean you’re actually not a lesbian?I know it's not your point but how would bi people even factor in this tentative theory of yours? Disgust at both sexes?
There's some merit to pheromones and how they're transmitted by scent and how humans pick up on it. But your brother took that one thing and ran with it to oblivion. It's stupid. Come on. It's like when people learn the 'monkeys and humans are related in the vast sphere of the animal kingdom' and come up with 'did you know Big Science is trying to tell us that humans are descended from monkeys?'
No. 441489
>>441481He's right about the pheromones but if you're not willing to have sex with the other women right at the moment and just wanna get in and out, it's not really significant that the smell bothers you. sometimes bitches just stank!!!
>>441454>For example if you’d smell the sweat of another woman and your first emotion is disgust does that mean you’re actually not a lesbian? And vice versa?as I said earlier I like it when women are sweaty but homosexuality is much more complicated than pheromones although they are an aspect of it. As long as you know you're exclusively same-sex attracted you're gay. Don't worry about that silly stuff, you're only not a lesbian if you're not a homo.
No. 441563
>>441495No offense but I don't trust your self reporting about how smell is the most important factor in your own attraction, in much the same way that I don't trust people who swear that astrology is real because it always works for them or any other superstition. You have a hypothesis and that's going to affect how you interpret your life and interactions. Similarly, like,
>>441481>after researching a little bit more I found out that we do indeed release pheromones that are supposed to attract the opposite sexCan you link me to the things that tipped you in the direction of confidently asserting this? Because I'm ready to be proven wrong but I'm pretty sure the scientific consensus is that they might exist but we haven't identified them and reducing the social phenomenon of attraction to signaling molecules is a silly game to play for a lot of reasons.
Full disclosure, typing this all when I personally loved the way the only ex girlfriend I've lived with used to smell. I just think this is way oversimplifying a lot of things.
No. 441575
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as if the state of lesbian books wasn’t bad already
No. 441579
>>441575i was ok with it until the
>trans bi heroinewho asked for this ??
No. 441697
>>441581I love pseudoscience. I believe in astrology
>>441679True my guess is that the scrote was probably just trying to debatelord her sexuality or some shit. They all act like this on xitter, annoying as fuck
No. 441718
>>441581There have been studies that show straight men and lesbians respond positively to female scent, and respond negatively to male scent. Maybe it's not fully proven, but there is something to it. I find the smell of males off putting, but I love the smell of women, including sweat.
>The team gave 12 lesbians a sniff of AND and EST and used positron emission tomography to measure blood flow in their brains. They then compared these results to those obtained from their previous studies on heterosexual men and women.Much like heterosexual men, lesbians responded to EST but not AND.
https://www.science.org/content/article/gay-or-straight-nose-knowsIt's not perfect research, but it's not completely unfounded. I like hearing about research on lesbians.
No. 441720
>>441718Those aren’t pheromones though, they’re just chemicals.
I do think there’s truth to this but I somewhat think it’s learned; aka people learn to associate some scents with characteristics subconsciously, whether it be gender or other characteristics (eg fat people smell, old people smell) then connect the smell with the appearance.
No. 441760
>>441756I’m afraid of STDs.
Also on the topic of STDs, is it even possible for us to get them? I can’t imagine catching anything if I don’t go down or trib with another woman.
No. 441917
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What are your favorite lesbian movies/series?
No. 442046
>>442044but… I just fucking love boobies so much……
one day theyll fine me suffocated to death, with my lover’s boob in my mouth and nose
No. 442049
>>442008on endchan ? i'm sorry
nonnie…
No. 442199
>>442008What imageboards do you guys even frequent nowadays besides LC? I only ever used LC, CC (sometimes) and
4ch (very rarely and mostly just /a/).
No. 442224
>>442204My best guess is that she's a crypto who's a non-goldstar lesbian but says SSA instead for a loophole around troonshit. Or maybe the troons are trying to co-opt the phrase SSA as well and she's some mysterysexual. Or maybe she's questioning between bi and lesbian but know that she definitely wants women. The fourth, most optimistic guess is she's a lesbian and saying she dated transmen before in a most roundabout way to signal it.
Your guess is as good as mine.
No. 442354
>>442345Strong vag smells just mean that the person’s having their period, or their PH is extremely unbalanced due to poor diet, or they have a yeast infection, or maybe pheromonona’s brother was right all along kek.
Jokes aside either way, pussy is not supposed to smell horrible. My partner loves fruits and eats like 1kg of them everyday and I swear I could sleep with her vagina in my face.
No. 442414
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>>441917The Watermelon Woman is always kinda cozy to watch. I used to be really into Revolutionary Girl Utena as a young lass and should probably do a rewatch.
>>441917 No. 442572
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>>442548>I hit on so many women but no one is crazy over me.weirdly enough as soon as i stopped trying at all was when all of a sudden women started acting like they want to give their pussies to me. so if you want to play the game and actually win.. just stop playing
No. 442629
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Nonnies please help me I'm suffering so much. I'm the anon with the friend who I miss and I swore to myself I'd message her this month because I want to invite her to an event that's happening and I thought it was a good conversation opener but now it's the third day and I'm so scared, I can't do it. My hands are shaking so hard just from going to her profile. No I never went to her work, I had a moment of clarity and figured that was psycho. Her art reference posts are all photos of generically attractive men. I overthought this too much, there's no way she wants to hear from me. I need to leave her alone, right? I can't even bring myself to follow her. If she blocks me I'll never get over it.
No. 442653
>>442649I don't think any type of super religious people (Christian, Muslim, Jew or Hinduist) has ever cared of women's sexuality. Even a straight woman's sexuality is not really supported or cherished to be part of her faith. They don't want to match you with a husband so you have a fulfilling sexual life with him, they want you to become his baby machine/caretaker because they think that's what a woman should do as an adult. Some people may think your sexual orientation is a sin that you must bear forever, some may think there's really a
cure for being a lesbian. Whatever your personal case is, I wish you luck to be able to move out asap.
No. 442693
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>>442692maybe find another lesbian in the dog hate thread kek
>>442649I don't know honestly because I'm always open about my sexuality, I don't really care about the repercussions I guess. I've gotten a lot of shit, so if you don't want shit you could just play it like you don't like anyone kek
No. 442877
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this is not aimed at anyone in particular but i don't like how there's so many rules to lesbianism. i feel like it just makes it so much harder for some lesbians to finally come to terms with their sexuality, or it takes them much longer than necessary in contrast to, say, gay men. like wdym real lesbians look like this or act like this or believe in this political opinion or that? there's retards on other platforms who swear that if a woman doesn't do stereotypical shit like shave a line in the middle of her eyebrow or has a carbiner or endless rings on her fingers that she's not a true and honest lesbian. i wouldn't say i'm not the most feminine woman on earth, but its hard to be super into dressing up gender non-conforming or even feel as interested in butch/masc women like i do with more feminine women. i always felt fake as a lesbian because of that, among other things. but i seriously hate how other groups feel more lax and it seems easier for them to realize their attractions in contrast to the lesbian group and its like… why does it have to be like this?
No. 443198
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a girl i liked got a gf.
No. 443442
>>443436Bisexuals aren't the issue tho? or at least not the main issue.
On the gaybros community there are lots of bisexuals but they never talk about unless it's relevant information in relation to something.
No. 443503
>>443416I’m not jealous of gay men.
Their community is not very welcoming towards gays who are not your stereotypical white Chad. They are also very promiscuous.
No. 443523
>>443520Tbh as long as the toy isn’t shaped like a gross vainy dick I don’t understand this. Sexuality has nothing to do with the ability to derive pleasure from penetration, I think it must be a mental hangup for a lot of women because although it’s true some women don’t feel much from penetration, there’s no way 99% of lesbians just happen to have that, it makes no statistical sense.
It feels really good done right, tbh I’m kind of sick of having it stereotyped as a bisexual-only thing.
No. 443554
>>443551It's bait, or someone too chronically online to understand what women think.
>>443539I have normie taste tbh. Mitski, Clairo, and Fiona Apple.
No. 443583
>>443539I like synthpop-y type music, like Japanese Breakfast and Magdalena Bay.
>>443551I think this person has to be baiting, but there are a surprising number of people who conflate enjoying a specific sex act with an actual sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is such a simple concept to grasp I don't understand why so many people treat it like calculus.
No. 443614
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>>443523woah careful there, you just made a completely logical and sensical argument! in here we only schizopost about evil bisexuals lurking and poisoning our community with their stinky cock breaths.
Unfortunately we will have to execute you for this misdemeanor! sorry!
No. 443623
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Is going to a meet up with a friend a bad idea? my gay bar is having a small event for lesbians today and a friend asked to go with me so we're going together tonight. While I always have fun at these type of things I'm nervous about the scenario where she really hits it off with someone and I don't so I'm just left awkwardly sitting alone for a couple of hours until it's time to go.
No. 443634
>>443623Aaaah I love your picrel so much, Reiju is so peak!!
I think you should go. You said you always have fun at these events, plus there's a friend with you. Ideally, both of you drive there separately, but maybe you two can set a time to check in with each other and see if you want to go? Have a good time tonight
nonnie!
No. 443657
>>443656kek
>>443623definitely go, but don't plan to sit awkwardly alone! you should probably just casually mention to her that you might bounce early. do your best to mingle and call an uber if she ends up distracted by somebody else and you don't have your own distraction.
No. 443692
>>437641Hey lesbians, I need some advice. I met this girl on a dating app and she’s very my type but she’s really awkward (she told me this on our first date), but I don’t know if she’s awkward cause she’s not feeling it or if she’s just like that.
We’ve been talking for a little more than two months now and we went on a first date (I
asked but she paid and she basically took control). I asked her out on a second one but for three weeks now she’s just been saying excuses so I’m not sure. I really like her but I don’t want to feel like I’m forcing her to go out with me and I also don’t want to keep texting someone when I know it’s not going anywhere. What do I do? Should I pull the plug?
No. 443817
>>443749I think it exists but it’s just the way used muscles tense/relax the face. So it’s an actual vibe and not features. I come across as more stereotypically “masculine” despite having feminine features.
This isn’t everyone though because female-socialised lesbians still make up the majority probably?
No. 443865
>>443847Realistically if you NEED a girlfriend you will need to settle. But I think it's better to just be single because settling will always lead to misery down the line. Also I think it's pretty cruel to the other woman, she deserves to be free to find someone that doesn't secretly dislike her, I would kms if I found out my partner thought I was unattractive.
I think the happy medium is to just date casually because flaws are less of an issue if you're not married and stuck with eachother 24/7.
No. 443872
>>443847everything on your list i agree with and have them as my standards myself but the last two feels hard for me to place because like.. i definitely have my own mental baggage and its possible that i may come across as having a
victim mentality depending on who you ask or if i ever feel comfortable enough with someone that i let down my walls and talk about how i really feel about life and the world at large, you know?
like i don't think i deserve a woman who has pristine perfect mental health because i don't have that and it's not fair for her to take care of me in that regard anyway, but i think of it like this: if you have a standard, you better be that standard yourself. in other words, if you don't have a
victim mentality, then of course it makes sense to find a woman who doesn't have it. but if you do, it just seems hypocritical imo.
No. 443875
>>443847If music taste is a deal-breaker for you then you probably will be alone for the rest of your life. That kind of thing doesn't matter at all when it comes to meaningful relationships.
Honestly, obesity isn't even a deal-breaker for me anymore as long as she's currently losing weight.
>>443872I think you could say "incompatible mental baggage" would be incompatible mental illness as well. I have my own problems, but I could never feel loved by someone with ADHD, for example. I don't want to put up with someone with severe body dysmorphia or an eating disorder because it just feels like somatic narcissism, even though that's probably not true. I'm sure there are people who don't want to put up with my [disorder], either.
Actually, someone with no mental issues is a turn off to me. I don't feel like I could ever be understood by a normie with a fairly good life and no severe depression at any point.
No. 443895
>>443887I dont think butches go on lolcow
nonnie..sadly
No. 443907
>>443872That's a fair point that I also keep in mind. I want to develop myself into an upstanding character, and the only thing I need to put active conscious effort into maintaining is my mental.
Mental baggage =/= constant
victim mentality. I'm trying to keep on the up and up, but some people love to navel gaze into oblivion and take no blame in any situation, you know?
>>443875>>443876I know it sounds very nit-picky but the last women I started to catch feelings for would only recommend me animeshit and clubslop with nonsensical lyrics that repeated 'cunt' 40 times in 3 minutes. I even like animeshit and clubslop in moderation, but that was all she ever knew.
She was also a gendie. I decided to cauterize my losses.
No. 443919
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>>443887I'm a butch but I'm only interested in other butches/masculine women. Sorry, anon.
No. 443980
>>443887Sorry
nonnie, I doubt we live anywhere near each other
No. 444003
>>443723ayrt tbf she did ask me out on a study date but I said no because that didn’t seem like a fun thing to do together and I suggested something else which she rejected.
I think you’re right though, I’ll stop asking and just see how things go.
No. 444009
>>443930both retarded and new if that interests you at all, and a GNC poll would be interesting to see
>>443980seems like all butches are far far away its okay
nonnie distance is just a teeny obstacle
No. 444108
>>441267How dare she masturbate to you when you're there in person and she herself has a girlfriend. Not to mention that gendie nonsense. That's a red flag there, even though stupidly amusing as other nonnas have commented. I'm sorry to hear your experience and I hope that if it comes to that, you will firmly tell her to have some respect and behave.
>hiding pieces of my clothing so i leave them at her house>seemingly trying to take upskirt shots of me??Ok excuse me what. Girl. Big red flag. That's creepy and not respectful towards You at all. She's fucking nuts and you need to beware. Yeah sure she is your bestie for 1 and half years, and maybe that's why she's going Studio Killers Jenny on you. If she's doing all that stuff you have told us I don't see her stopping there unless you put clear borders between you and her. I was about to ask if she's mono with her gf or in the nonsense open-relationship but I don't think that matters here, because what matters is knowing that you have come here to ask for advice is already telling that she has made you uncomfortable and crossed the line. And nonna dear that's not ok.
No. 444231
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Is your Yandex anynonny's type?
https://yandex.com/images No. 444360
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>>444231Yes i have a huge forehead ty yandex for making that clear again
No. 444429
>>444108Thank you for your advice. To be honest things have already progressed for better or for worse kek. Regardless I think boundaries are the most important thing going forward - from an objective perspective. Idk how to explain it but we’ve always kind of had an anything goes kind of relationship if that makes sense.
>>444389I guess it says a lot about nonas in this thread? I’m not really friends with many regular people now that I think about it… lol
No. 444430
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>>444231I guess I look like a psycho tranny.
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>>444427KEK nevermind, figured it out. Here’s mine, I was wearing a red blazer in the left one and an off the shoulder red top in the other one.
IRL I was compared to Sandra Bullock when I was a brunette, and Shakira and Anya Taylor-Joy as a blonde. (So basically blonde hair and big brown eyes w/dark eyebrows rn)
No. 444433
>>444231>>444360>>444430Sameanon as above, all 3 of you look cute to me. Gotta admit I’m a sucker for glasses though,
>>444231.
No. 444439
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>>444231Surprisingly, they do sorta look like me kek
No. 444441
>>444439A QTPIE3.141516 AZN WAIFU IN MY LESBIAN THREAD???? AWOIIOOOOGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA PLS BE IN
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(retardation ) No. 444509
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>>444231lmaoooo yandex is glowing me up immensely. I swear I don’t look anywhere close to any of my search results kek
>>444441Get a grip. I can sort of understand hetero m*ids having yellow fever because of the whole “more docile” shitty stereotype and their need to “control” us but if you’re genuinely a female who also has it you’re inexcusably disgusting, or a terminally online weeb. Idk which is more disgusting, ew.
No. 444533
>>444520Ayrt, honestly idc if you have racial preferences or whatever but to sperg out about it is (like the other nona did) what defines “yellow fever”, at least for me. Or have retarded preconceived notions about how I should act just because I look a certain way.
>>444530Racial preferences is fine, but imho exclusively dating a race that’s not your own is weird and there’s something mentally erroneous going on with you if you do so. Either an unhealthy amount of fetsihization of another race or an unhealthy amount of self-hatred for your own (both of which a lot of western-born asian women are guilty of tbvh, gay or straight).
No. 444547
>>444542Meeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
and receive#
No. 444555
>>444543Because they're obsessed with idpol due to racism and they're gonna call you a literally Hitler fetishist racist for it (they still have no problem fucking wh
te mn when they hide their yellow fever though). Asians raised in Asia don't give a fuck since they didn't grow up in an environment that judged them for their race.
No. 444560
>>444547i don’t like to receive but i’m glad that you do
>>444552nah some lesbians irl get weird about it too. i don’t mean not liking them that’s fine it’s moreso that they think it’s not gay enough
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>>444231These things always think I'm more Asian than I actually am, but honestly, some of these do kinda look like me
No. 444744
>>444739Most of the more forthcoming gay women are butches, if you don’t mind them just hit any lesbian bar and you might get hit on by them.
If you’re looking for a femme though… good luck lmao
No. 444748
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>>444231not a scrote, just masc
No. 444832
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i had such a good dream last night, don't remember what happened but there was this girl who was quite tall and lanky, slight shitty posture, a little shy, fuck it was so attractive. i wish i could meet someone like that irl
>>444231 wish i looked that good kek
No. 444835
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>>444231Bottom right is the closest, I don't really look this… symmetrical.
No. 444867
>>444768Yeah yeah ik, this sounds stupid but I'm into goth fashion so sometimes I paint my nails black or wear raccoon eyeshadow, I feel like a fraud when I call myself butch. In my head it's a title I can only earn after I shop at home depot and finish a woodworking project.
Masc is easier since it's so vague
No. 444944
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I'm autistic so I made an infographic about this
No. 444960
>>444874>>444867I always appreciate the masc women who self-select out of using butch because there's a very clear difference when we stand together but not everyone is willing to name it. Butch, for me, names it.
>>444893I never see anyone take 'butch' as seriously as those who don't use it.
No. 445182
>>445023Yeah, I get it. It's especially bad in radfem spaces and happens on here, too. They'll try to make you feel ashamed for being attracted to women under the condition that it's "sexualization", but that is just how sexual attraction naturally works. They can't process that their attraction to men is equal and opposite to our attraction to women. I think many of them conflate this concept with "objectification" which isn't the same thing.
>>445038No disrespect to you anon but I hate that people have distorted the word "passing" to represent something outside of its historical meaning. Passing is a
verb and conscious decision. There is no societal benefit conferred to a woman for ""passing"" for butch—and any lesbian who makes the active effort to "pass" for "masc" is just butch.
>>445176I myself have never been to a lesbian club before, but I think it could go either two ways:
>older 35+ lesbians>younger gendy special/""queer"" Gen Z womenI think more likely it will be the first point because a lot of women in my generation (Z) do not identify with the lesbian label specifically, they're more likely to call themselves "queer".
No. 445244
>>445176Just go. There's gotta be at least one other person like you and you can
sus her out and make a friend if you try hard enough. You'll have to go to find out though, kek.
No. 445558
>>445023Sometimes yeah. One very casual friend used to keep me around for favors but would act so distant with me despite all the lipservice about how she wants to hang out more. It felt like she thought I liked her and wanted to use that as a way to get easy free transportation. I didn't even realize until it went on for like 6 months, I thought we were good friends and she was just extremely busy. It was so weird, why would she think I was attracted to her pre-pubescent-tier voice and constant emphasis of her childlike qualities?
She's mostly out of my life now, though we have some mutual friends. It's weird seeing her throw her time down the drain with her
hentai coomer moid bf and her brain down the drain with tumblr sjw talking points and cadence.
No. 445935
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Billie eilish makes me feel like an incel observing a Chad
I saw tiktok of some girls grinding up on her She actually pisses me off
No. 445964
>>445935You don't need to seethe
nonny I'll wear any panties you buy for me
No. 445991
>>445990I was in a similar situation, and our conversations turned into more eventually, us texting every moment and saying “I love you” and “good night”, sexting and sending nudes, and it was great. Until she actually found someone irl and moved with them. It absolutely broke my heart all over someone I was realistically never going to meet irl.
Even if your convos “grow into more” it won’t be worth it. I absolutely promise you it won’t lead to anything but the brief illusion of satisfaction if successful, and then pure heartbreak.
No. 446034
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>>444231I wanted to give it a try
No. 446320
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>>446288honestly this is embarrassing but me and my girlfriend started dating like… day one. But it was really casual at first because it was only really sexual shit at the start. So i guess if you find her attractive it could be romantic, on your side atleast.
No. 446341
Was looking up how female homosexuality has been portrayed throughout history out of curiosity. Found an interesting write-up in a reddit thread about Ancient Greece and Rome of which I have no one to share with so I’m just posting it here so I hope that’s ok kek.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/tu1qpy/comment/i3a8ru7/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_buttonVery long but such a good read. Even despite the homophobia, for some reason it makes me appreciate my sexuality more. Like, my feelings are completely normal and women throughout history have felt the same, persecuted or not.
No. 446406
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Another month of using dating apps and going club all to not meet anyone. I've accepted that I have too much internalized lesbophobia to ever be super flirty with a woman cause it always just feels creepy and predatory.
No. 446553
>>446510Would you even be annoyed if it was a woman? It only pisses me off when men approach me, especially if I'm out with friends. It's flattering when a woman does it, even if I'm not interested. That's why I considered it.
>>446526She probably doesn't really stand out if you're not specifically into her blend of features. Tall, slightly long ginger hair that may have gotten highlights at some point, angular features, black pants and black long sleeve shirt.
No. 446632
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>develop mild crush on girl in STEM youtuber
>they/them pronouns
Girls in male dominated fields internalizing that "woman" means "bad" and needing to identify out of it makes me so sad. Genuinely heartbreaking.
No. 446675
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>>444835Lmao do you have any idea of who that is? chanfags where slitting their veins when she died. 4 nonas (me included kek) got bans just last month foor sperging about her on the attractive women thread
And most of the others are Katya Lischina, who is also an angel. Really curious about what you look like now
No. 446679
I keep fantasizing about butch4butch sex with an older butch (can’t decide what she’s wearing…suit, leather, classic flannel/jeans, it’s all hot) sitting on a chair in front of me (like a nice old-fashioned office armchair) and telling me to kneel in front of her. Once I’m kneeling, she sticks one of her legs out and steps on my thigh with her leather combat boot and forces me to spread my legs wider apart, then grinds her boot between my legs against my (clothed) crotch. She then orders me to eat her out. As I unbuckle her belt and unzip her pants, she shifts so that I can pull her clothing down around her ankles, keeping her boot on me the whole time. As I pull her underwear down I see that she’s sporting a full, thick, curly bush, and before I get time to properly appreciate it, she grabs my hair and forces my face into her cunt. As I’m eating her out she’s pressing me harder into her, not letting me breathe, and just tasting her is making me so horny that I’m grinding against her boot. I cum before she does, but she keeps grinding her boot into me and making me squirm while I finish her off, sucking her clit and breathing her in. As soon as she cums she lets me go, puts her clothing back on, calls me a good girl, and lights a cigarette while I try to regain my senses. Maybe she blows some smoke in my face or something, idk. I’ve masturbated to this for like 2 months now and it never gets old. When will it be my turn…
No. 446806
>>446805*because of pity
not potty wtf. sorry i'm phone posting and autocorrect is retarded.
No. 446819
>>446807you could say that i am
why did she fucking accept to cuddle with me in bed when she knows i like her and says a bunch of shit to me and then goes to other people and says other stuff?
i've almost been sent to the ward because of this situation irs so humiliating.
No. 446848
>>446743Ciara Horan/Eliza? She OD'd in a hotel where she was meeting with a druggie for sex back in 2020.
No one know shit about Katya since she disappeared from the web, but tards kept creating all sorts of elaborate fake profiles for her, and that's where 90% of anything you've ever heard about her comes from. So you might as well think of it as she never existed to begin with.
>>446683I got a late ban for "infighting", but there were at least 4 casualties from
trigger happy farmhands. The Markyfag who started it, an Agathafag who engaged with her, a Ciarafag who I think avoided a ban, and then me. Someone else got banned, but I think they were actually stirring shit kek
I wonder if there's enough of us for a thread. I doubt it though.
No. 446854
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this is why we should go back to the old flag, i'm so tired of her e-begging and in general the stupid discourse tumblr kids try to start every few years. the axe design is way cooler anyway.
No. 446910
>>446805Anon you're not male brained, you're just being led on by a spicy straight BPDchan who likes the attention and validation you give her, but has no interest in you as an actual person with feelings. She can cast you as a sex pest or a pity project depending on how she wants to portray herself (irresistible, martyrly, and completely unaccountable), but make no mistake, she is definitely using her to feed her ego. Do not stay wrapped around her finger and think it'll change. Of course she doesn't actually want you to go away. She'd be losing a toy she can pick up and discard whenever she feels like it. You get nothing from this arrangement. People will think you're a creep because of her, you will not respect yourself, and it will never evolve into whatever you hope it will be. You should block her. Save all that energy, time, and affection for someone who is worth the trouble.
No. 446918
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>>446805>she kept telling everyone i was making her uncomfortable >there was this whole audio where talked in a really disgusting way about me saying shit like that she hangs out with me because of potty and she only started touching me because she saw me as a pet (wtf).And why are you still talking to and obsessing over this person. Is she a victoria's secret supermodel or something
>i'm pretty male brainedShut up.
No. 446965
>>446953Ignore her. Don't do favors for her anymore. Don't buy her gifts. Don't let her guilt trip you into doing her bidding. If she's retarded enough to gloat to others about how she's only with you out of pity or because she sees you as "a pet" while
having an online boyfriend she gets gifts and dick pics from, I'm sure at least some of your friends think she's a bitch and most definitely you're not the only one she's treating this way. Get a hobby to focus on. Or a new game if you're into that. Focus on growing a spine and don't let yourself be abused ever again like that because you don't deserve it.
No. 446988
>>446953As someone who was in a similar situation, stop worrying about the mutual friends and just get out. If they want to hear your side, they'll come to you, and if they don't, they were never your friends. Do not waste any more time on this girl than you already have. Block her, ignore her, and if she tries to rope you back in, stay rock solid and do not let her do it. She does not give a fuck about you, so you need to stop giving a fuck about her. Or at least pretend until the affection fades. You are being exploited by someone who will never, ever, ever return your feelings and only sees them as a means to an end. Is that what you want? No more excuses, you have to get the hell out of there.
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>>447324
wfaf is beautiful.
No. 447376
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>>447375
>Whitetoids btfo.
YP is a latina
No. 447388
>>447387Oi, you proper mug, who d’you think you’re chirpsin’ off to like that, yeah? You got any idea who you’re dealin’ with, fam? I’ll have you know I’m certified, top-level badman. Done bare secret missions, mate – SAS vibes, yeah? I’ve got more confirmed eliminations than you’ve had hot dinners, you absolute melt.
I’m trained in every kinda beef, bruv – unarmed scrappin’, knife game, and firearms, fam. I could take you out quicker than you can say "chicken shop special," and I wouldn’t even break a sweat. You think you’re hard behind that keyboard, do ya? Nah, mate. You’re nothin’ but a little wastewoman.
I’ve got a network, innit. Girls in every postcode, ready to light you up like a corner shop sign. I can get you clapped in ways you can’t even imagine, bruv. Bare subtle, bare effective. You’ll be gone before your mum’s even clocked you’re late for tea, yeah?
You wanna chat greazy? Try me, fam. I’ll end you, simple as. You don’t know me, mate. I’m the real deal. So pipe down and jog on before you get shanked with words or worse. Stay safe, init.
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i just wanna find a big beaked queen
(i'm not into tiktok thristing and this girl's nose is kinda comically huge but it just fits her so well and she seriously is one of the most stunning women i have ever seen)
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>>447530also her confidence with the nose job tiktok trends you tell them when you look at her comments you see people so angry that a girl with a nose like hers dares to be confident about her looks please world why did you make me be born somewhere where i am not with her
No. 447583
>>447530BASED SHES SO CUTE! I LOVE BIRD WOMEN
>>447559there's no shortage of cabbage patch kid face shape winged eyeliner tiktok filter women online if a real woman scares you
No. 447591
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>>447583>real women is only when uglymkay
No. 447700
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me being sandwiched between my latina and white queens
No. 447782
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>>447780It really is shit like this that reminds us of how small of a minority we
actually are. We barely take up any space in the LGB population so it's shit like you described that really hurts us. I really do think a lot of bisexual women who are same sex attraction heavy just call themselves gay because it's "easier". but it really hurts us when they FINALLY decide to embrace that part of themselves. They don't understand what kind of stereotypes they're spreading by never labeling themselves correctly and it's so fucking frustrating. Then people wonder why lesbians are so gatekeepy nowadays
No. 447787
>>447782>They don't understand what kind of stereotypes they're spreading by never labeling themselves correctly and it's so fucking frustratingayrt I don't want to get salty and become a bi hater but honestly I'm starting to think they don't even care if what they do harms us or not because they're too busy "living their true selves". So they craft a new persona according to whom they're attracted to each time. I've seen that irl so many times, they get really excited about being in a "lesbian relationship" and FucK tHe pAtrIaRcHy. Then they meet a moid they like and suddenly "fuck evil mean biphobic lesbians why they hate us for no reason?????" Even yesterday I was browsing r/biwomen and there's a recent post asking why lesbians and bi women often don't get along and most comments were just blaming it to "70s lesbian separatism" or simply saying we're hateful for no reason and gatekeepers because we don't like when bi women bring their moids to gay bars and "we don't get to decide who's queer enough for a gay bar".
Even this travel influencer I just mentioned, I just realised she has a podcast now and she has an episode about "bisexuality". I'm listening to it now and she's just RETELLING stories she told 7 years ago but differently. She's speaking as if she has always been openly bi when a quick youtube search of her name + the lesbian word in our language proves otherwise, including her doing a collab with a famous local lesbian, openly saying she's a lesbian. 6 years ago she said on a video she only shortly dated a boy when she was 13-14 and she didn't even like him and that was "comphet". But on her recent podcast she said she dated that guy 1.5 year and she has been with/dated many other guys before her ex female partner (I discovered she was actually married to her for 7 years as a "lesbian") but she had never mentioned that before! Why do bi women craft their backstories like this to seem more legitimately lesbian? Because of this shit we have no way to know if a lesbian is actually a lesbian. That's so fucking selfish.
>>447784>I'm convinced there is only five or six of us on this whole sitesometimes I think there's not much more of us in this whole world.
No. 447792
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>>447780>Being a lesbian is so fucking lonelyso relatable, sucks that my area has no meetup areas to atleast try meet others and dating apps are a dumpster fire for me
No. 447794
>>447780Funnily enough I've only followed a couple lesbians that are conventionally attractive, not specially obsessed with LGBT culture and none have turned out to be bisexuals so far. I think women who are GNC to the point of being fugly and women obsessed with the alphabet soup culture are more likely to be bisexuals in denial. The first because they might be extremely GNC/unkept due to sexual assault and the second because they see lesbianism as an aesthetic. All the lesbian friends I've known for over 10 years have also never turned out to be bisexual. They don't like any sort of man, fictional or not, they never caped for troons in any capacity and they seethe about other women a lot. So for me these are green flags even if the last one might
trigger some people here but it makes sense because someone who dates women would know about the shitty parts of that. The women who say all other women are perfect queens are just performing and a huge red flag. Now, I've dated bisexuals but they've told me they're bisexual and never hid it. The bisexuals I dated also never talked about men so I was sure they greatly preferred women. Even then I always know they could date or marry some guy and that would be okay because I know they are bisexual. If I saw one of my lesbian friends doing that it would indeed be soul crushing but dunno, I think I have a somewhat good lesbian radar and I'm really intolerant of any bullshit from "lesbians" so I think I know when I clock a bisexual fakebian.
No. 447797
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Dating apps when you’re a lesbian:
She was even cute kek.
No. 447799
>>447782It’s actually easier to be bi, they just want special
victim points. They’ll say they’re lesbians , but then say that they love dick, bilesbian, translesbian and other shit and once they find their scrote to marry off they run off and leave the community in shambles. I wish people just left us alone, it’s so annoying.
I got bitter and angry over the years , no one has our backs, not even the LGBTQ, we’re seen as a fetish to fucking scrotes too, I hate them all.
No. 448033
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>>448023 >The woman I was with is so pretty and gentle.fuck, my dream. this will be me one day once i actually get the courage to ask her out
No. 448364
>>448221The only thing that worked for me was meeting a spergy bi woman who doesn't want children (I'm more amenable to having kids than she is), doesn't treat men as immediately special, is very monogamous, and has a lowish sex drive to begin with (which matches mine). The #1 red flags with previous bi girlfriends was that they would prioritize any moid over me, like whatever generic guy #54218 had to say automatically overruled my opinions, even if he was "just a friend" or a total stranger. Mismatched sex drive was big too because they would cheat and blame me for not fulfilling their needs (even though they only wanted to have sex where I did all the work). They were also performatively misandrist and downplayed their attraction to men as if they had something to prove. A normal bi woman who doesn't pretend she's basically a lesbian but also decenters men is, in my opinion, a much safer choice, especially if she doesn't care much about fulfilling social norms related to marriage and family. Trust your gut, a bi woman who will break your heart will usually display a lot of warning signs that you ignore because you love her, but perpetual anxiety is a good sign you have something to be anxious about.
No. 448471
>>448450It might be a little weird to bring straight people to the gay bar, but if you're not comfortable going alone, it's still better than just not going at all. Your situation is fairly common (gay person intimidated by going to a gay bar alone and wants to bring straight friends), so I doubt anyone will be shocked or overtly rude about it. But I feel like it's hard to make friends with people at bars unless you're a regular and people start to recognize you.
>>448460Every bihet woman I've dated has been straightfowardly cluster B and has confused platonic codependency with sexual attraction, but I don't think it's possible that no bisexual women exist. I think what's really happening is that cluster B women are more likely to call themselves bisexual because they have a ton of identity issues and slap on labels like bandaids to patch up the empty void inside them. Saying they're bisexual grants them immediate access to a supportive community, makes them stand out as different and unique, lets them assume a
victim status, and also means they can fish for attention and romantic validation from anyone.
No. 448564
>>448339I think paying attention to all the small details in things she likes or might mention in passing tends to show you think she's special, i.e. "Here
nonnie, I found that specific woodworkimg tool you mentioned needing to finish a project at a garage sale and thought of you!"
No. 448651
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manifesting a lesbian romance in 2025
No. 448653
>>448650it's like she doesn't see the problem with it. she told me that even if it started as dating or even hookups, there was no physicality anymore and now they just give each other news sometimes but like?
at least she promised to be more explicit from now on
it's just that i'm so used to being told that i'm overthinking or overreacting that i don't know if me being upset is legitimate
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kek are you talking about this anon?
No. 449405
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yuripedo and her discord kitten derail threads doing exactly this. report and ignore
No. 449427
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>>449405>t. picrelwe will have people like this policing what lesbians should and should not talk about in their own thread to not hurt the bihets feefees while theyre shlicking to their h*sbandos behind the curtains and unashamedly inserting m0ids in the OP.
No. 449638
>>449575it's 50/50 between atheist and spiritualist in my experience.
>It makes me kind of wish I could trust something like that enough to believe. if you genuinely want to get into spirituality i think goddess stuff is very aligned with lesbian interests. check out the holy book of women's mysteries and the spiral dance. the former is more radical, the latter more liberal but maybe better for a first book. i feel you on not really being able to get "into" religion/spirituality but this was the closest i got personally and it's still nice to think about
No. 449749
>>449720A year ago I would've said situationships never work out but I've been in a successful fwb situation for over 9 months now. We were friends before that and we tried to seriously date for three months but it didn't work out, however sexual chemistry between us was great so we just continued having sex occasionally. I don't think there are any feelings other than friendship between us. However we don't tell each other about other people we date or fuck, idk I wouldn't want to hear about it cause it's none of my business anyway. I would feel weird, like why do I care?
Anyway make sure there are no feelings on either side and keep it friendly outside of sex, that means no kissing, hand holding or cuddling or any other typical couple-y things. That shit is why feelings develop.
No. 449984
>>449758Should've clarified, I meant kissing romantically outside of sex is a no-no.
>>449762I still want to find an actual gf, I would break things off with the fwb as soon as someone I could see myself being committed to comes along.
>>449776One of you is going to develop feelings if you keep acting romantic towards each other, sorry to say.
No. 449995
>>449936>In my mind, it felt like an obscene, filthy, and inherently pornographic labelI know people talk about “reclaiming” it but I feel like we just need something else other than lesbian and sapphic. I’m 100% fine with calling myself a lesbian now but I do hate that my orientation is a word that up until recently if you googled would only come up with pornography for moids. Google had to do something about it some years ago, says a lot. Funnily enough sapphic feels like the complete opposite direction, like it means you just want to hold hands with women and would
never think anything dirty about them. i associate it with the “ace lesbians”
No. 450398
>>450295In my experience, straight women either treat me like an exotic pet they can show off to virtue signal, flirt with me because they have self esteem issues and want to feel desireable (but will play the
victim if they suspect it's reciprocated), or just flat out dislike me and come up with a million rationalizations as to why the way I walk or talk or sit is offensive to them. I rarely meet straight women who are truly indifferent to me being a lesbian.
No. 450701
>>450314Yep, same here. Kinda annoys me that straight people are allowed to have all these boundaries (that we are also raised with) but we have to be more open. On one hand of course you'd want to avoid to be the
toxic jealous girlfriend, on the other, where do you draw the line?
>>450332Absolutely, but building trust takes time. All I can give for now is the benefit of the doubt.
>>450405It's not about the friends, it's the environment. She's quite friendly and tends to get very drunk, and I've once caught her lying about the theme of a lesbian party she went to - advertisement clearly pointed to a hookup vibe kind of party but she said she didn't think it would be the case, but to be fair to her, it was her friends who found and invited her to this event so she probably didn't know.
In any case, I'm not going to try and stop her or anything, just trying to calm my worries. If any party animal ITT can tell me of the times you went out partying with drinks and possible drugs and never disrespected your girl, it'd be helpful tbh
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>go on youtube
>watch videos of lesbian couples
>to live vicariously through them and make myself jealous
>"my name is ___ and my pronouns are she/they", "queer"
>close laptop
No. 451818
>>451590Thank you anon! Since my post I've had a heart to heart with her about boundaries and stuff, she was wonderful and reassured me, we are on the same page about everything and I feel that she is 100% genuine so I trust her and my anxiety is gone.
I love her, sometimes it really feels like we were meant to be
No. 453275
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>How do you define your fashion? What is a signature piece to your style?
During the past year, I started wearing waistcoats and vests. In general, I dress business to business casual, even out of the office. It's helped me feel more put together/confident, and I've been more active in general. I've also noticed that I've been getting more looks and compliments from other women, but I'm too shy to take it any further. I'm not sure if it's genuine interest or just compliments on my outfits.
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I vwant a super stud
No. 453910
>>453796did you have to make up your imaginary gen z lesbian opps to feed your
victim mentality
No. 454158
>>453910this is bad trolling. how do i have a
victim mentality when i’m saying that i pull?
No. 454300
>>454295You're reading way too much into just a single casual phrase.
>>454297Good to know. Most of my socialization is in hobby spaces but they've never really been for things that attract a lot of lesbians, I'm 100% willing to get into new hobbies for the sake of it. Getting into sports is one thing I've wanted to look into. I've always been cool with drinking too.
No. 455302
>>453808I got banned for baiting
and yes that was unintegrated my entire reality was breaking so I didn’t care but honestly it’s just making me realise bisexual hate from lesbians comes from a place of hurt. I genuinely never understood being so vehement about it and always caped for them on here but for the past couple of days anything pertaining to bisexuality has just
triggered my rage (irrationally I know) much more so than just heterosexuality… I’ve always said I’m glad for bisexual women because the majority of SSA women are obviously bisexual so I’m always just glad to meet another woman attracted to women. I’ve always thought if someone I was interested in was bi at least it would be a hooray! moment. But I don’t think I can do this. I am irreparably hurt and this feels like it’ll be a sore spot for the rest of my life. I think this is a special kind of relationship hurt and few things can replicate the kind of pain that can come from being a lesbian betrayed by a bisexual woman.
No. 455310
>>455302It's ok nonna, as a long time bihater I understand that capping for bisexual women comes from the goodness of lesbians' hearts, the type of female and SSA solidarity that only other lesbians have, and also a bit of inexperience and naïveté so I don't really blame any lesbian that defends bisexual women, I just hurt for them for when they inevitably get fucked over by one. I'm sorry that happened to you,
nonnie. At least you can somewhat vent here about it unlike most other lesbian spaces though if you need to vent hard just go to L Chat because a bisperg meltdown is getting you banned here too.
No. 455636
>>455456>I can’t wrap my head around whether I should be skeptical of it or understand it. >I technically felt like a “late-bloomer” myself This post reminds me of that reddit post
>>>/ot/2314236 where the girl was like "it's so weird that I masturbate while thinking about dick and men and sex with men all the time, but I'm definitely a huge lesbian, right? When you guys said that this isn't a lesbian thing, I agreed with you. But not when it comes to me, I'm different from all those other girls." You just need to come to terms with the fact that other women, occasionally, are just as complex or smart or good or worthy as you are. The posts that paint a picture of how all women (except the posters in question) are smug slutty attention whores in midlife crisis really fail to take into account how unique real people are. Some will be annoying or bisexual in denial or whatever and some will be just like you or have stories similar to yours.
No. 455855
>>455744I don't know, I just feel like I can't give as much pleasure as I'd like. My wrist and fingers cramps up when I'm trying to finger, I've never given oral before, I've never used a strap-on before. I want to be really good in bed and give a lot of pleasure, but I don't know how to practice. The last woman I was with finished when I was with her, but I don't feel like I'm doing a great job. I just feel unattractive and incompetent. I've had sex with close to a dozen women, yet I don't feel like I have any experience to show for it. A lot of the sex I've had was not great honestly and I feel like it was my fault.
I cried during some of those encounters lowkey. The stress got to me. Some of those experiences were with bisexual women who in hindsight weren't really attracted to me and just wanted an easy rebound between boyfriends. I have no idea what to do. I'm not going to pretend to eat out a mango, I'm not going to hump pillows with a strap-on, maybe there's wrist exercises I can do? No woman wants to be the sex tutor for some 3/10 weirdo, and I'd sooner kill myself than make an OLD profile stating I'm trying to build experience.
No. 455954
>>455855If it's any consolation nonna I'm the type of woman who doesn't like fingering/strap ons and only enjoys breast and clitoral stimulation
and can actually orgasm multiple times from that with just hands and kissing so you're not completely out of luck if women like me exist kek. Your past partners sound like a chore to be with, I would never be able to orgasm if I was so stressed out to the point of tears. You sound okay and like you need to be with someone who likes you just as much. It doesn't sound like these scenarios were balanced feelings-wise. Like these women were just using you/testing you/comparing you rather than wanting to be with you
because it's you, and your self esteem was/is low enough to believe that's all you're worth. I feel I want to say to you "maybe the problem isn't you?" because you didn't get like this over night, it makes me wonder who convinced you that you're not worth more than this.
No. 455955
>>455855Grip strength trainers look stupid but they work and are also protective against carpal tunnel and other repetitive strain injuries. Like any other exercise, start slow and don't do it much or you might hurt yourself.
Otherwise it sounds like there's an emotional component where you feel like you're not a good lover because you don't feel appreciated/you feel bad about yourself and the communication wasn't there. Feeling inadequate isn't the same as actually being inadequate, it sounds like you're still learning, but you're passionate and competent. Easier said than done but sleeping with a woman who is very attracted to you, comfortable discussing sex, and openly enjoying, appreciating and responding to different techniques will be helpful. Sorry you're feeling low, but this is just the beginning of your sexual adventures. Better partners means better sex and more learning.
No. 456291
>>455898This almost made me tear up kek, this shithole has shocking moments of tenderness
>>455954>>455955This is the first time anyone's told me it isn't my fault. I can only really get sex with women who don't really care about me because I can't get into a relationship. I'll look into grip strength trainers, it'll help my
gamer wrists>>456245Maybe masturbating on your own time and finding new methods that don't require a vibrator? I've found that not masturbating for like 2 months and then trying the new method is most effective
No. 456477
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>>456334>>456398>>456402You're all overthinking it… each woman has her own tastes, you know. Calling women who don't prefer shapeless skellies "chubby-chasers" is a bit telling. I think picrel has a perfect body, and she's neither a bony becky nor fat. If I had to guess, wouldn't the average woman prefer a woman who's decently fit but still has feminine softness? The anachan uwu smol littol breasts uguu fawn legs lanky gf thirstposting seems to be contained to this site, at least in my experience, women irl like curvy women. It doesn't really matter either way, the key takeaway is that there's women attracted to literally everything, so really, every body type is desirable.
No. 456484
>>456477anons saying "i love tall lanky women" is not
>"anachan uwu smol littol breasts uguu fawn legs lanky gf thirstposting"you know damn well no one means that. You just sound overly bitter that some people have a different preference than you.