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No. 200981

Please keep posts focused on women and female homosexuality! If you want to talk about attraction toward males it probably belongs in the bisexuality thread or questioning thread (check the catalog, they're usually not on the front page but I promise they exist!). Please ignore obvious bihet/troon/tradthot/etc rage bait as well.

Topics of discussion may include but are not limited to:
>first crush?
>what’s your local lesbian scene like?
>cute stories about your gf
>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?
>coming out stories
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
>bitch about being lonely
>tips for coping with being lonely
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
>top? bottom? how do you feel about those labels?
>what's your type?
>how did you know you were gay?
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian?
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
>best date/match? worst?
>how homophobic are your family/friends? is it woke homophobia or oldschool homophobia?
>dating app horror stories
>f/f fanfic recs (pls)

previous threads:
#1- >>>/g/132141
#2- >>>/g/174105

No. 200990

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Again? I wonder if we've had an influx of male users or something. Nta btw. I did report it though.

No. 200991

>>200990
Pretty sure there is. The chris schan drama was all over reddit so if people looked him up it could've easily led them here

No. 200998

>>200990
Imagine talking shit about bisexuality and then get surprised when people are angry at lesbians for being biphobic. Sexuality isn’t static or pure I don’t know what goes through your fuckheaded mind that women must be lesbian or btfo, does that make any sense?

No. 201002

>>200998
It's the fact the poster immediately assumed it was a lesbian who said it (when it wasn't, apparently). When you flip your shit like that and immediately fire at lesbians it just sounds like you've got something against them.

No. 201011

>>200990
What thread was this

No. 201012

>>201011
Celebricows

No. 201016

>>200990
I’m bi lol but I hate this trend of being homophobic to lesbians so much and calling them incels because they don’t sleep with men. Men will stick their dick between two hotdog buns and lesbian porn is the most popular genre but lesbians are the incels because they're not attracted to men? When was the last time this anon licked a pussy? Sometimes I think “bi woman” is code for homophobic on lolcow.

No. 201018

has anyone been to the last surviving lesbian bars in the USA? there's a lesbian bar in a nearby city and i think it's been rebranded to be "inclusive/lgbtq++" i'm thinking of giving it a shot since i've had no luck on dating apps. i've never been to a bar tho, lmao

No. 201019

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Anyone have a similar experience of being a teen/preteen and being abnormally obsessed with an actress, watching her filmography, collecting pictures, etc, and your mom allowed and even encouraged it because she thought “aw, she has a style idol/role model.” Well guess what Ma, 13-year-old didn’t keep a plastic binder of printed out Nicole Kidman movie stills because I wanted to dress like her. (In the year of our lord 2021 my mother has since looked back at that time and connected the dots. Bless her)

No. 201032

>>201016
I think he called lesbians incles because of the idea that some lesbians may be angry at bi women in the sense of 'why would this bi girl rather fuck a man than be with me'

No. 201034

>>201032
just to clarify, I don't agree with that scroteposter. This is just my interpretation of what I think he was trying to say in regards to calling lesbians incels

No. 201043

>>200998
Yes because it's only lesbians that are pissed off by some bi womens antics. It couldn't possibly be that maybe straight women are sick of your shit too.
>>201016
>Sometimes I think “bi woman” is code for homophobic on lolcow.
It's starting to look that way. I genuinely think if it's not scrotes it's homophobes lying about being bi so they can start shit.

No. 201044

>>200981
I've been celibate so long but my best "move" was offering a massage to the girl I was interested in. If we were watching tv or whatever, I'd just lightly rub her back or shoulders and ask if she wanted me to massage. So she'd sit on my lap or lay on her stomach while I did it, which usually led to her taking her shirt/bra off for me to reach better. I just love having someone relax under me and feel taken care of. god i'm lonely

No. 201047

>>201032
>>201034
that's exactly the meaning of the lescel term/meme. a kiwifarms thread will confirm that and provide many examples.

No. 201053

>>201047
leswhat? I searched the term on Kiwifarms and it's only one sperg in the shipping thread obviously projecting his/her own insecurities into lesbians and how they're seething over straight/bi girls not being into them. Lesbians don't even want to date straight/bihet girls for obvious reasons so this "lescel" concept just stinks of the good old "y-you must hate me because you WANT me!!!" predatory lesbian meme straight people push. How tiring.

No. 201055

>>201053
I think she means the Nice Gals thread. But honestly KF seems to generally hate lesbians so some of the recent nonsense here is a possible result of migration. They even have beef with women shipping female characters together too much.

And honestly I don't enjoy being called a whore/slut or cockbreath as a febfem, but if it doesn't apply bisexuals should just keep scrolling. Lesbians are shit on and should be able to lash out if they need to.

No. 201056

Not a lesbian, just popped in to say that I love the consistently vintage thread pics OP always picks. They are very atmospheric

No. 201059

>>201055
Other bi anon here (not a febfem either) and I agree with you, but I think another likely scenario is that /tttt/ posters visit these threads to troll similar to the /clg/ on 4chins like the bait posted here > 201044 I think there are definitely some homophobic bi anons on lolcow but some of the really obvious stuff reeks of /tttt/

No. 201063

>>201059
Sucks because these threads stay untouched for the most part (compared to snow or even ot.

I think lc has a lesbophobia problem about as much as it has a biphobia problem tbh. People are able to say what they want here and that's gonna result in people shitting on each other, like I hate to shrug it off like that but it's just site culture.

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>>201055
Thanks for the thread "recommendation", I think the opening post alone gave me brain damage and made me unironically heterophobic. A collective of non-lesbians seething over a girl making a "straight people am i right" meme or a "you might just be gay" joke on Tumblr. I'm sorry someone on Twitter headcanoned your favourite childrens' cartoon character as a lesbian I guess. That's totally on the level of incels shooting up a sorority because stacey didn't fuck them.

Imagine posting pic related as some "proof" of how awful and milky these "lescels" are when it's the exact opposite of wanting to fuck straight girls and on manifesto-chan levels of based, kek

No. 201072

>>201056
Agreed, I love them and they make it easy to pick out the lesbian thread at a glance too. Hope we continue the tradition with every thread.

>>201063
Yeah especially the dating related stuff clearly attracts a lot of extremely bitter people. wlw dating pool is tiny, we all struggle with dating to an extent. I try to take anons with a grain of salt and just report bait.

Speaking of which, I met a woman who doesn't do the stupid ~queer~ shit and looks incredibly beautiful. She's around my age and single (Feels like the single women in my city are always too young or too old). I'm so excited about her!

No. 201084

>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
I've spent my entire shift so far imagining this very specific scenario where this really sweet, shy butch woman tries to take me to a bar for our first date but it's closed so instead we go to the grocery store and get a bunch of snacks and booze and have a picnic in the back of her truck and we spend literally the entire evening together and then at night she goes down on me under the stars and it's perfect.

No. 201119

>>200981
I feel like I'm developing a biphobia problem but I can't help it. I'm surrounded by young "bi" women who talk to me like we're the same but they literally all have boyfriends. I live in a very "LGBT friendly" area, but it's all gay men and bi women dating men. A smart part of me hates that being "gay" has become cool, I know that makes me a bad person. I'd almost rather be seen as an other and have a real community with people like me than be culturally accepted with no community other than spicy straights who infiltrate every gay space

No. 201124

>>201119
I'm having the same problem. My partner and I are trying to make more lesbian friends as we've both had some heavy stuff going on that's made us recede from former social circles so it's very hard going back into "queer" spaces in search of lesbians. Firstly, half the fucking dykes have trooned out. A butch like me is starting to be seen as a bit of a relic from the past. Then of course there's the influx of wlw sapphics who can only kiss women when drunk and never actually have sex with them. There's bihets screeching about how they're still part of the community and how it's totally ok to bring Nigel along to the gay bar, he's not fetishising lesbians or anything, it's allyship! He's showing you his support! Oh and how could I forget the newly trooned out midlife crisis men and their poor handmaiden wives. It's bleak as fuck. We use bumble too but mostly get butthurt messages from bi women who don't like that we're seeking lesbian friends only. How dare we desire sisterhood with women who share an intimate understanding of our lives and our struggles! Fuck me, just shoot me already. At this rate I think my fiancée and I will just become hermits again. Gay becoming cool was a fucking mistake. This is not acceptance, this is commodification and fetishisation.

No. 201129

>>201124
I keep seeing lesbian couples on Bumble BFF but they never match with me. Maybe I need to put LESBIAN in my bio instead of just the rainbow flag but I am not fully out and some of my relatives use the same app, don't want to spell it out too much yet… I thought the flag but no pronouns would be enough to signal.

No. 201130

>>201129
Honestly we do look for specific mentions of lesbianism but no pronouns is good. Pronouns are an immediate red flag to us and other lesbians we have met on there say the same thing. Everyone and their mother has the rainbow flag in their bios so it's getting hard to spot each other out there. Maybe slip in something from a Sappho poem or something? It's a very lesbian thing to do but if your relatives see it you can just say you like the poem. Any other ladies in here got ideas about subtle ways to flag other lesbians down?

No. 201131

>>201130
> Any other ladies in here got ideas about subtle ways to flag other lesbians down?
Labrys flag maybe? Straights generally don't recognize it and imo it's the only good lesbian flag.

No. 201137

>>201130
I actually had mention of sappho on my bio before but then thought maybe it looked too "sapphic" rather than gay. I won't be fully out until I sort some things out and maybe I just don't deserve to meet the cool lesbian friends of my dreams until I do…

No. 201143

>>201130
imo, when it comes to the pronoun thing it varies, i know a lot of normies who aren't deep into gender stuff but want to be supportive will have "oh, i'm a she/her" but if it's anything deeper like she/they i'm out

No. 201161

I'd definitely be interested in making friends with other lesbians. I'm married, but I don't have any other friends, and since I'm an artist I am constantly swimming in a woke hellhole since most artist spaces have been taken over by those types.

I have a pride flag but no pronouns in my twitter bio in the vain hope that another lesbian will see it like a bat signal and we can be friends. kek

No. 201173

>>201161
I'm an artist as well, same with my bio. Maybe we'll run into each other in the wild!

No. 201209

>>201130
Pride flag + peach?
A literal "gay ass".
Probably silly though, it's just the first thing that came to mind.

No. 201211

>>201130

I keep a line from one of Sappho's fragments in my bios, along with stating that I love lavender and violets. Subtle, but unmistakable if you know of lesbian imagery and poetry.

Also, where to find normie lesbians online? I'm tired of only meeting highly political women who focus on discourse and activism. It sucks that everything has to be so fucking deep all the time, I just wanna go for a walk together in the woods, watch a movie, go for coffee, talk about our day… That kinda stuff.

No. 201229

Fuck yes! The tradition of vintage op pics lives on. <3

No. 201230


No. 201258

>>201119
Same and it's so depressing. My gf will come home and say "so and so from work is bi! She has a boyfriend…" and it just feels so obvious, but it's biphobic to point it out so I just don't say anything usually lol. Every time I casually mention a girlfriend, some normie looking straight girl will mention how she's queer 'too' and then quickly add "I have a bf rn tho lol", it's like the no homo of wannabe spicy straights.
>>201124
I literally refuse to participate in all forms of lgbt groups bc it's exactly how you said. Literally the only other lesbian in my circle trooned out a year ago and just got on hormones. There's transbians lurching through the shadows. And so many mushroom complexioned they/thems and their bf's and their matching neon undercuts. It's just so tiresome. Why bother? At least I can be gc online.

No. 201259

>>201258
>some normie looking straight girl will mention how she's queer 'too' and then quickly add "I have a bf rn tho lol"

You could innocently ask if they’ve ever banged a woman, with or without the bf present pls no lesbophobic trolls in response to this i’m a febfem who finds it cathartic to vent here

No. 201282

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>>200981
you guyyyyys, any of you see the movie Ammonite on Hulu? It's so hot omg.
Also there's a lesbian Molly Shannon romcom about Emily Dickinson called Wild Nights With Emily that's cute and honestly pretty hot to meeee.
My sexy, beautiful wife of 8 years is out of town :(
I need more hot lesbian media to make these 2 weeks go by faster :((:()

No. 201289

>>201282
integrate better newfag

No. 201291

>>201282
Lurk more before you post or you'll get banned. But check out Gentleman Jack, it's a TV series based on a real historical lesbian

No. 201294

>>201282
You type like a transbian trying to sound ~ uwu femme uwu ~. Lurk moar and integrate or dilate and seethe.

No. 201298


No. 201300

>>201282
dilate

No. 201624

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Love this picture of her, dunno why though.

No. 201636

>>201624
are you attracted to her?

No. 201654

>>201636
Yeah, but I like femininity usually. Never expected to find the off duty masc vibe appealing

No. 201688

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>>201019
Yes! looking back, I was way too interested in Gillian Anderson and Tilda Swinton kek

No. 201971

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>>201019
Kinda the same but with t.A.T.u., especially Yulia (picrel, the one with short hair). I remember having an HDD dedicated solely to photos, videos, and music of them, which I proudly showed off. Took my mother a few years to realize too lol, she genuinely thought I just really liked their “rebel” style or something

No. 202004

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I have no idea how to flirt with other girls or when women are really flirting with me. It sucks cause I see girls I think are really cute and my type but I always hesitate to say anything to them because I just assume they're either straight with a andro leaning style or in a relationship already or sum. I don't want to come onto them or pester them like scrotes do. Usually the only compliments I get are from older ladies but I wonder if other girls also just keep compliments to themselves if they see someone they like?

No. 202021

Is there an appropriate thread for me to post cute vintage lesbian pics?

No. 202049

Nonnies I need to vent and I don't want to do it in the vent thread because I don't need homophobic hettie bullshit in my face for this. Any other GNC lesbians just fantasizing about trooning out to not feel like a freak, it's a fact that "straight" FTMs are socially much more accepted than masculine lesbian women. Every time I so much as smile at a woman I feel like a borderline rapist but at the same time I just wish I had someone I could be intimate with because I haven't felt physical human contact in ages sans friendly, platonic hugs.

I truly can't stand how I've been memed into believing that no other lesbians than beautiful femmes need to apply and that I might as well go full Aiden instead of continuing to live as what I am. And it's not like I don't have any appeal because women do find me attractive but I'm apparently more suitable for a fleeting girlcrush than a serious partner. Especially after a bihet girl proudly told me that she'd fuck me if I was a man, apparently believing it was a compliment. I hate my life and often wish I was straight instead of a fucking novelty.

No. 202050

>>202049
I know how you feel, anon. I'm fucking 30 and STILL I consider trooning out. I've always been butch, and combined with being well over 6'0, fridge bodied and muscular it's painted a target on my back my whole life. Even here where I come to escape I see the same lesbophobic sentiments, I hate it! If it weren't for my fiancée I think I would've done it by now. Having someone love my masculinity as a woman is very healing. But it's also not a miracle cure. I can't tell you that the desire to troon out will go away, but it can get better. It just takes a lot of fucking effort to find the right surroundings for yourself, the right people. It's not much, but as a fellow GNC woman let me tell you I fucking love masculine women. We're a gift to the world, let's be real. The attractive elements of scrotehood on someone who isn't actually a scrote? Perfection. Keep on being you, anon. Stay strong. We're in this together and we gotta keep fighting the troonpill. Sorry if this reply doesn't make sense, I'm whacked out on medication.

No. 202052

>>202050
This definitely helped out to hear that I'm not alone because I don't know a lot of GNC women myself. I'm also 30 and by this age most of them either trooned out or gave up and feminized themselves to make their lives a bit easier. I understand their decisions but neither works for me, I don't want to live as a balding manlet with a frog voice and whenever I try to present more femininely I instantly become uncomfortable with the attention I get from men.
>The attractive elements of scrotehood on someone who isn't actually a scrote? Perfection.
Totally, I love GNC women and I've always found them super inspirational while I hate moids which is why I find it so sad that I've had to come this far without anyone to share these feelings with.
>6ft fridge body and muscular
Kek anon that's literally my dream body, I'm only like 5'5" and wish I was able to build muscle. You sound awesome.

No. 202061

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>get a message from cute girl on Tinder
>Happy someone else writes first for once
>"Anon you look so much like xxx and thats the best compliment i could ever give"
>I dont recognize the celebrity she is referencing so i Google the name
>Its a troon
>Mfw

No. 202103

What's with zoomer (I'm a zoomer myself, but on the older side) lesbians and embracing gay male stereotypes? It's weird as hell seeing young lesbians calling themselves fruity or making limp wrist jokes. Even worse when those stereotypes are just offensive (usually straight) female tropes applied to men like weak, can't drive, can't do math etc. On the other hand, I'm also seeing more and more often gaydens trying to imitate lesbians while clumsily appropriating gay male culture (like insisting bear/twink are the male version of butch/femme, creating terms like mlm, vincian, achillean as male counterparts to wlw, lesbian, sapphic). What the hell is going on.

No. 202115

>>202049
I often wish I was a male but I refuse to troon. I know I will be even more dysphoric about my appearance(feminine body, short, round face) and I'll never look how I want. I love gnc woman and I think we are important, but it's just fucking hard not being accepted anywhere as your true self.

No. 202131

>>202103
Fellow older zoomer here, it's tumblr/twitter/tiktok disease at work. Pure poison.

No. 202174

>>202103
dont forget the weird obsession with top/bottom labelling even though it doesnt make sense at all

No. 202184

Can someone console me pls. I saw my old school friend for the first time in 2 years and it turns out two of the friends she made at university (who I met too) are a really cute lesbian couple. Now I'm a) immensely jealous of them, imagine being able to live together and share a bedroom with your gf at an elite college at only 20/21, ideal lifestyle, and b) irrationally a bit pissed about being replaced as the 'lesbian friend', bc it sounds stupid but I always imagined bringing MY future gf to meet this group of old school friends instead and being the one in the group in a happy relationship, and now I feel like they're living out my dreams in real life before I've really had a chance to get started or to have an adult social life (locked down for a year while they had in person uni, will be at home for another year, no driving license so can't meet women properly for months rn until i have the chance to get one)

They were doing a lot of PDA out in the open and had my ideal relationship dynamic pretty much, I felt like a pervert for even looking and envying what they had even though others looked and openly commented. It didn't help that my friend wasn't really interested in catching up with the rest of us. It's making me reassess the way I treat reality/fantasy atm, so something good has come out of this…

Sorry didn't know whether to put this in vent thread or lesbian thread, but hopefully this group will be able to connect to it a bit better? How would you feel about this situation, am I being irrational rn?

No. 202189

>>202174
I guess it comes along with the strap-on obsession. Good for those who like them, but it's annoying how you can't even talk about pussy anymore because "not all women have vaginas!!!"

No. 202200

>>202174
I kind of like the top/bottom thing because it makes it easy to avoid women who don't reciprocate kek. Normalize bottoms disclosing it on their dating profiles so we can block on sight.

No. 202249

>>202200
Yeah, I have the same opinion, but one anon in the prev thread said that it is also helpful for strap on sex to find out compatible partner. I believe her but I also believe that majority of “bottoms” rn are not talking about straps but being lazy in relationship in general, just listen how they talk about their perfect dates and girls.

No. 202274

>>202200
thanks for the kek anon, switch supremacy is truly the way forward

No. 202290

>>202184
Oh, I can understand you anon. This is kinda why my fantasies about future are set in like 20+ years from now. Idk if this is relevant but I both have felt jealous towards many lesbian couples (esp if they are my age) and also felt left behind..like in a way where I had people both irl and online “on my level” as in people with messy lives but once they move on and get better without me I feel like I will forever stay in this dark hole but now completely alone..um I think I went a little off with the last one kek
Anyway you can feel jealous of them and you can feel sad and left out, the modern culture of “if you feel a single negative emotion, you are toxic” is stupid as fuck

No. 202668

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“A lesbian is a non-man who is exclusively attracted to other non-men”

So men get gay but lesbian has to be shared with all the transgenders and gender specials? The comments are full of “meanings of words change and you can use whatever label you like”

We really can’t have anything, and if we try to say it’s putting us in danger they cry bigot. I’m not into TIMs. I’m not into they/thems. I’m a woman who is exclusively into women. All the way to those two X chromosomes.

I’m tired ladies.

No. 202669

>>202668
why isn't everyone coming down on men who say they won't fuck tifs

No. 202670

>>202668
Bleak shit like this makes me want to become a trans4trans he/him transman with no HRT or surgeries who only dates other pre-everything transmen. The only loophole to avoid this shit, I now understand why so many of my lesbian friends took this route.

No. 202671

>>202668
We need to go back to calling ourselves homosexuals. The word itself directly references same-sex attraction so there's no way to argue about the definition.

No. 202701

>>202671
I've been doing that for a couple years now. No gay, no lesbian, just homosexual. Nice clear definition. I only call myself a lesbian among other lesbians once I know they're sane and not TRAs.

No. 202712

sorry if wrong thread but I have a question for butches, if you catch a femme/straight looking woman you don't know staring at you, do you usually assume she's being judgemental or that she's attracted to you? Is it obvious if shes staring with thirst or not, if she's around your own age?

No. 202719

>>201019
not an answer to your question but nicole kidman is just too fucking hot in that movie. great movie too, very cosy

No. 202727

>>202712
I always assume it's disgust because it usually is kek. There is a certain look though, a general "longing gaze". Thing is I'm autistic so I barely recognise it, let alone have the capacity to explain it, but I'll give it go for you. I would look at how the women smile, if they do, that's very important. When women who are attracted to me have stared at me some give me an almost mischievous grin, their eyes light up with it too. Sometimes the more brazen ones will nod their head at you or even wink. If it's a woman who was judging you the smile will be very stiff and reserved, something she's just doing to try and diffuse the situation because you caught her staring. Also I would say take note of what you're doing or wearing when being stared at. When I have the confidence to dress like a butch himbo and show off my muscles I get a lot more appreciative stares. But when I'm in stuff I lounge about in it's generally stares from people either disgusted by butch women or can't tell if I'm male or female.

No. 202744

I'm really gonna miss these threads if/when the site shuts down. This feels like the only comfy place for lesbians on the internet right now. Ovarit has a lesbian board but Ovarit is pretty NO FUN ALLOWED in general. Are any of you guys planning to migrate to CC? Might start a general there and see how it goes.

No. 202773

>>201688
fuck, Gillian is my forever waifu. She gets better with age too

No. 202780

>>202744
How is CC with lesbians? If it's more lesbophobic than this place then fuck it I ain't migrating. But if it's roughly the same or not as bad I'll definitely give it a go. I know there's meant to be trannies there but transbians are laughably clockable like >>201282 so I know I won't be conversing with any. I'd give another /lg/ thread a go there. Like you said, this feels like the only comfy place for lesbians online.

No. 202832

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Does anyone remember Alex Parks winner of Fame Academy? She signed a record deal and at the peak of popularity suddenly disappeared from the public eye and no ones know what the hell happened to her lol. It was pretty odd.

No. 202839

>>202832
Damn, anon. You're really taking me back a few years here, I feel old as hell for remembering Fame Academy lol. I googled her and found this gossip rag article: https://heatworld.com/entertainment/tv-movies/fame-academy-where-now/
>Since the show she's fallen off the face of the planet. The star - who apparently now goes by the name Lexi Parks - released her second album Honesty in 2005 and rumour has it she was last spotted at the Music Sales Film & TV Songwriters Week with none other than The X Factor's Joe McElderry. Hmm.
Also found her twitter here: https://twitter.com/alexparksfa?lang=en
But no posts for a few years. Looks like she just faded into obscurity. Probably flipping burgers for minimum wage by now.

No. 202846

>>202780
It's roughly the same and they have terf threads and such.

>>202712
I assume it's disgust or discomfort unless she goes out of her way to smile at me or give me one of those knowing 'looks'. If it's someone my age I'm more likely to assume that she's into me or a fellow lesbian who's flagging.

No. 203315

Do you gyns think dyke voice is a thing the way gay voice is for men? The other day my neighbours had this woman visiting and I could hear them talking because the windows were open and her voice was really hot to me. Then I caught a glimpse of her when she left and she was pretty butch.

Idk if I can describe it and maybe I'm just crazy but it feels like dyke voice is a thing. Like speaking in a more direct/confident tone than het women tend to, less fawning/being nice, word choices that remind me of how working class men in my area talk.

No. 203357

>>203315
Mmm yess, I like Katie Herzog’s voice for that reason. It’s a thing.

No. 203359

>>202744
Can’t we all just start a thread on CC and migrate? I don’t want to lose you guys. The vibe here is pretty unique (albeit still being a bit less active) compared to other lesbian spaces online.

No. 203378

>>203357
kek I would pay good money to hear her narrate the mtf thread. Especially manifesto-chan's posts.

No. 203380

>>203315
I've always thought the way Laura Prepon talks on That 70s Show and on Orange Is The New Black is very dykey, I haven't seen how she speaks candidly in her interviews so I don't know if she sounds different in real life.

No. 203388

>>203359
Make a thread

No. 203409

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Crossposted from mtf thread.

They really do just despise women and lesbians completely

No. 203410

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No. 203411

>>203409
>"lesbians" who don't like women
so… gay men?

No. 203413

>>203380
She's my ultimate crush and I'm so happy to hear she's no longer a Scientologist. If she comes out as gay it'd be very dangerous for me, my simping would know no limits.

No. 203415

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>>203409
I have no words

No. 203429

>>203409
Maybe it is a flag for transbians, they clearly hate women deep down

No. 203438


No. 203443

>>203409
>lesbians who don't like women
like goldfish that ride bicycles

No. 203445

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if you don’t look like this don’t even speak to me.

No. 203880

sage for the rant-like post but tired of some users here just keeping waiting for a breach to be homophobic and type in "dyke" five times per post

No. 203889

>>203880
I'm tired of people throwing that word around in general. Also women who just recently came out and instantly latch onto it. Chill out for a sec, you can't reclaim a word that was never even thrown at you while you lived as a straight woman for 20 years Mary. Earn it.

No. 204531

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Do anons know any lesbian movies with the same vibe as My Beautiful Laundrette?
I binge-watched Why Women Kill, April and Beth Ann are the best lesbian period piece couple.

No. 204675

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I told my mom about my tubal litigation surgery I’m going to have soon and her first response was “Why? Don’t you like women anyway?” It was hard for me to even bring up the conversation to her because she’s the foaming at the mouth for grandchildren type but oh lord it took everything in me not to laugh.

No. 204730

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I have a confession.

I see so many lesbians gushing about how Miss Honey was their childhood crush. Now I’m not sure it was a crush but… I was always more into Miss Trunchbull.

Am i fucked up or just into super scary butch women?

No. 204732

>>204730
Tell us more

No. 204738

>>204732
same anon.

i want her to yell at me like that.

goddamn. butches are great.

No. 204758

So I found out my work supervisor is also a lesbian via infertility jokes. Not ideal but definitely a win overall.

No. 204970

Any ideas for terfy dog whistles I can include in my Her profile? I see a lot of girls with neopronouns and "queer" included on their profiles so I wanna do what I can to attract like… lesbian-lesbians without getting myself banned for being exclusionary or "disrespectful" or whatever

No. 204985

>>204970
>JK Rowling is my favourite author.

No. 204994

>>204985
But then you might attract harry potter fans

No. 205036

>what’s your local lesbian scene like?
abysmal, I live in california

>bitch about being lonely

honestly I'm a slightly older gay so I'm married, but I really wish I had lesbian friends or even a place to meet up with other lesbians and chill. It's so bad here that this online thread is literally the only place I can find. If you have any online spaces that are for real lesbians, please tell me nonnas… I've considered those radfem discords that need voice approval, but idk I don't want to hang out in a charged political space.

>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?

I love plaid (gingham in baby blue or pink especially), I own three cats, my wife wants to get a subaru (so that's in my future I guess), and recently I found out that even my fucking love of Hozier is a stereotype. god

>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian?

Unapologetically misandrist and poisoning the minds of impressionable young girls with how wonderful women really are, while also giving away cookies.
And probably being a writer. I think I'd really love that.

No. 205172

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>>204531
The sweetest. I watched it because of your comment, I was deceived though, considering they're not really a couple. (Though in my head they're very much together of course)

No. 205173

>>204730
I was always so fascinated by beautiful women in cartoons as a child but never in a "yeah female representation" way but instead I found them attractive. Didn't realize until much later what it was about even though I knew I was a lesbian by the time I hit puberty.

>>203880
>>203889
Agree. A slur's a slur. The only people I actually see using the word "dyke" unironically these days are genuine homophobes and trannies which makes it even more offensive.

>>204970
Honestly at this point I feel like simply not listing your pronouns is enough of a mating call.

No. 205179

>>205173
i'm still bothered by how mainstream queer has gotten. especially now that it's being used by straight kids who just want to feel different.
>>205172
in my head they raised April's daughter together in a boston marriage.

No. 205191

sage for tardposting but i have the biggest crush on someone who is off-limits in every way. shes straight, on the team with me, and shes crushing on a guy rn. im going to hang out with her tomorrow and i just hope we have a good time, platonically or not.

No. 205192

>>205191
As long as you're aware of it, anon. It's okay to enjoy her company as a friend but don't expect anything else and set yourself up for heartbreak. At the same time, platonic female friendship is incredibly rewarding so good luck!

No. 205229

To the anons who have ONS and hookups with women you don't know: how do you protect yourselves from STDs and STIs?

No. 205258

>>205229
Only use fingers and hands.

No. 205357

>>205192
thanks anon, we ended up having a lot of fun, and i'm trying to accept the fact that we'll stay friends

No. 205381

How do you deal with feeling like lesbophobic stereotypes might be true? Like the one that lesbians are only lesbians because they're ugly and men don't want them, that lesbians only want to just date girls because they've been sexually traumatized by a man. Those two kind of get to me because all through my formative years puberty made me ugly as shit and I was always sort of resentful towards guys not because they wouldn't give me attention but because they were always my cruelest bullies. And I've never been raped but I once had a stalker who threatened to rape me, groped me, and flashed me. I can't imagine myself being anything other than gay but I've had people say these things to my face and I just don't know how to feel.

No. 205390

>>205381
If either of those things were the case, literally every woman on the planet would be a lesbian. There isn't one woman who hasn't been sexually traumatised or made to feel ugly by men in some way or another.

If you haven't already done so, you should probably get some counselling to help process your sexual trauma anon. It could help you come to better terms with your sexuality and make you feel less ashamed of yourself. It sounds like your self esteem is in the toilet

No. 205434

>>205381
I don't feel like the stereotypes are true because to feel that way I'd have to have an overly-negative, distorted view of myself. I bet you didn't deserve the bullying in school. Men pick on women that are GNC or gay or just disinterested in them, it's the only way they can stoke their egos. It wasn't your fault and it was not because you're ugly. Even if you were ugly, nobody deserves to be mocked for it.

No. 205450

>>205381
I actually experienced the opposite in a way, I'm conventionally attractive and very feminine so I always got a lot of male attention and eventually that became the base of my self esteem. Even now that I'm completely certain that I'm a lesbian and not bi I still feel like I need male validation to build my self esteem, and at the same time I feel like pretty much all the women I'd like to date are too good, too beautiful, too x for me.
I wish the world in general could be less male-centric, but as lesbians it's insane that so much of our identities and self-worth is determined by men.
Anyways like >>205390 said, counselling is the best you can do for yourself in this situation.

No. 205489

>>205381
the ugly one literally makes no sense because at least ugly women can get boyfriends easily, meanwhile getting a girlfriend is almost impossible already, add on being ugly and you basically have to resign yourself to being a cat lady

the sexual trauma part I cannot say, but I've read it can affect people to go either direction (your case is not uncommon with women and I don't think this would have affected your sexuality)

No. 205596

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Just want a normie masc girlfriend oh my gooooood.

No. 205614

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Hi, clown reporting in.

For the past two/three years I tried conversion therapy on myself. Clownery such as:

>Subliminal brainwashing tracks to become heterosexual

>watch straight show instead of gay show. I went cold turkey on my vampire yandere yuri manga etc
>Changing my inner monologue, so I would say "wow, man, so handsome" when I saw a man so I would start finding them attractive
>Not looking at women who are attractive or thinking about women in the wrong way
>If I accidentally got put into a mood by seeing a woman I would instantly replace the mental image with what I thought was a 'sexy' man, so I could associate males the feeling and become male attracted.
>Finding 'straight role models', inspirational straight women, romanticising straight relationships and finding examples of terrible gay relationships
>Kinning straight women fictional characters
>Acting feminine, wearing dresses (upon advice that this would make me more straight)
>Not thinking ANY thoughts of a sexual nature
>Trying to justify why I was this way
>stopped listening to homosexual music and media

Now I know none of you ladies asked for a blogpost (so this is saged), but two months ago I got tired of self hating and self fighting. I used to pretend to be girls' boyfriends as a kid, and drew women (in that way), and never saw anything interesting about men, but only saw them as a duty towards family building and a status symbol. It's been nice to stop fighting myself, to realise that I want to do nothing with men and regret hiding myself as a homosexual.

But the thing is, it doesn't feel real. I have felt like this for a long time, and never used to question it, or label it. But even now, I look at any man and feel nothing, only the feeling 'you're secretly attracted to them', or get the feeling 'it's just a phase', or 'it's a mental illness you're choosing not to recover from' or 'homosexual relationships serve no purpose'. Because of spending so long trying to 'find my straight self', I still feel uncomfortable with who I am. It feels fake, even though only women put me in a daze, I feel like a liar and that I could turn around and go back to trying to be virtuous. And I feel like I'm less of a woman, but someone pretending to be a woman. I feel cut off and know nobody like me, aside from the ex girlfriend I ignored because of guilt (it was very mean of me).


I'm not sure what I'm asking for here, neither are you, probably, in this word salad. I just know who I am, but have that residual feeling that I'm a fake, and that remaining guilt that tugs at me from time to time. It's a little uncomfortable, accepting a life that not everyone I know will like, and may not be as comfortable for someone who wants to build a family one day. There's also a greater chance of loneliness, and the feeling of being cut off from other women, belonging, and womanhood. I don't know how to finally feel at ease with myself. No more guilt, self doubt, self disgust. And I'm scared too, I can't lie.

I appreciate having this space as I have nowhere in real life to feel understood in this way, and have got just as much wisdom as idiocy from this website. I'm sorry if this was offensive to those who have similar burdens as me.

tl;dr self conversion therapy left me feeling confused for no reason, and guilty when i logically do not believe i should be. i feel lost and alone.

No. 205639

>>205614
I don't relate to the whole self-conversion thing but I'd like you to know you're not along in feeling anxious, isolated, misunderstood. Most of us go through feelings like that and I want you to know it gets better. It all gets better. You will grow stronger in time and forge deep connections with people you trust.

The feeling like less of a woman bit was interesting to me. I wonder if fakebois get made that way.

No. 205682

>>205639
Thanks queen. I hope it does, and I really appreciate knowing that it's not a unique experience for us, seeing as I can't tell anyone irl oops

interesting and believable idea. the idea of having characteristics associated with the opposite sex making you one of them is so regressive and harmful though, i always get sad when i hear about younger girls going fakeboi because we're all less sure of ourselves at that age

No. 205695

Is it normal to feel isolated as a femme because I feel like everyone assumes I'm straight? I don't even know how I'd go about meeting anyone, but I'm happy being femme. Why isn't that allowed.

No. 205722

>>205695
i looked very femme for a while and i got so sick of people telling me “you don’t look like a lesbian” i feel u anon.

now i’ve cut my hair but instead of looking butch i’ve got girl face and worried people will think i’m a gender special.

No. 205729

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being a lesbian is so hard i have a crush on my best friend whos straight and dating this guy but she still does those flirtatious "just girly things" like buying matching necklaces,'slow dancing' in the locker room, and hugging me all the time oh my god just kiss me already

No. 205745

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I've recently admitted to myself that I like to suffer. I gravitate towards women that make me act like an idiot and I get to suffer pining for them. I love the melancholy, I love the rush of hope when she graces me with her attention. I am a confident person but I want to be disarmed by her.
It's even better when I also kinda hate her. I go nuts.

No. 205751

Do you any of guys have any experience with incurious straight girls? I never meet any other lesbians in LGBT spaces so I figure I might be able to just invent one instead

No. 205756

>>205745
That sounds fun but also mentally taxing. How do you keep up with it?

No. 205795

>>205756
It's mentally taxing but i'm never gonna be able to retire and the planet is becoming uninhabitable for us so fuck it. I'll take love as torment as a cherry on top the pile of shit sundae that existence is.

Also it's sexy.

No. 205819

>>205751
If you mean bicurious women then I'd advise staying the hell away from them. They're almost always pillow princesses who have a rigid heterosexual or pornsick idea of lesbian sex who will usually refuse to reciprocate or they'll do it so badly you'll give up before one of you gets friction burn. Also I've heard a lot of horror stories about other lesbians catching feelings and the girl ends up being straight. Don't get me wrong, some of them genuinely are bi or even gay. But the vast majority will be straight and simply looking to tick this experience off their bucket list.

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staying on topic my fave lesbian media is the yuri amv tribute i saved to the family storage by accident and now can't look at again out of embarrassment. but also writing fanfiction is underrated for making and getting content that speaks to you.

>>205695
Yes, you will probably even feel like a fake gay sometimes, but at the same time I like to think that being a femme lesbian is like Among Us because you're an imposter (gay) whilst taking the appearance of a perceived straight, which makes me feel like an among us imposter if that makes sense, which is kind of fun. But yeah, stay true to yourself, and enjoy feeling like you blend and belong a little better. I would love a gf like you no homo x

>>205729
rip but I would be so happy to have a 'best friend' like that but I can understand if it hurts too.

>>205795
you sound like picrel lmao

No. 205846

>>205751
If you want to torture yourself, at least don't go for women on tinder. I've read several horror stories where the curious woman was dating a man but hiding it from the lesbian and those women have no qualms about whoring you out. Women going on dates while their bf sits across the bar watching, women pestering to come over (to her apartment) for some coffee, later it turns out that she is living with her bf…once again just be careful because many bihet women treat lesbians as fetish objects

No. 205858

>>205821
>no homo

No. 205918

After covid restrictions got lifted here I went to a lesbian bar for the first time and it was really fun but I lost my purse and glasses at one point and the bartenders laughed at me for being dumb and I felt so embarrassed that I'm scared to ever go back even though that probably happens to a million girls every night.

Anyway, I suck at dancing but I got to dance with a beautiful girl grinding on me for a while so it was nice…

No. 205936

>>205846
I have a lesbian acquaintance who meets bisexual women at the bar and then immediately goes to their place, it always seemed really stupid and unsafe to me. One day she's going to get a big surprise.

No. 205959

>>205918
My city's lesbian bars have all closed. The only one still open is a cocktail bar owned by a lesbian but isn't exclusive to us. A lot of the LGB spaces got decimated by covid but I'm hoping they'll be back in the future.

No. 205996

>>205959
I'm sorry to hear, it really sucks how many lesbian bars have been closed. There are so few compared to gay bars, I feel like it really plays a part into why so many lesbians struggle to find people. We have so few spaces to safely meet each other.

No. 206022

>>205996
Yeah, it's extra frustrating that our spaces are often just places to get drunk at as well. I'd much prefer a cafe (maybe one with a seating scheme that has you mingle with random people) or something. My stomach is fed up with me trying to keep pace with people that enjoy drinking. I hate the way alcohol makes my body feel…

No. 206030

>>205936
Trust me, something bad will happen one day. I met a bihet at a local bar years back when I was a dumb teen who didn't know any better. She tells me she's living with her ex but he's out of town so she invites me to hers. I figure fuck it, why not. We get there, get in bed, and about 30 minutes in I hear someone come in the front door and immediately start climbing the stairs. She tells me to be quiet and she'll get rid of him but once I hear him ask "are you ready?" I know what's happening and I'm taking no fucking chances. I slip on my underwear, grab my clothes, climb out the window and shimmy down the fucking drainpipe to get away. It scared the absolute shit out of me. Who knows what his plan was? I started carrying a boot knife after that, even to hook-ups.

No. 206031

>>206030
holy shit

No. 206032

>>206030
That's terrifying wtf. I'm so sorry that happened.

No. 206033

>>206030
What the fuck. I'm so happy you got out of there safely. Women who help their men rape other women and girls are so appalling. How do they justify their actions? "Better her than me" ??

No. 206039

>>206030
man this shit and troons make me way too scared to try the only lesbian bar here or any dating apps. I'm mostly happy being single but god damn it would be nice to have an actually safe lesbian space outside a tiny image board. Makes me really sad other women just treat us like a fling or object for their secret guy.

No. 206041

>>206039
It really is not that surprising, considering that pandering towards men a lot of times benefits a lot faster than some lofty feminist ideals or consideration towards other women. Just look at all the couples where the bf is fine with the woman having lesbian hookups (with her telling all the juicy details afterwards ofc) or the woman proudly talking about how they both talk about women’s bodies in an obviously objectifying way. On top of that predatory behaviour from het-attracted women towards lesbians is completely normalized, and couples looking for a third in lesbian spaces are even expected. In the current political climate it is not even allowed to say anything about it since that would be considered biphobia which ((((obviously)))) is a worse crime than bringing a man into a female ssa space. Bringing a lesbian straight to your boyfriend is just the logical escalation of this behaviour

No. 206052

>>206030
I wonder how common this is. It's as if everytime I'm hanging out with other lesbians, at least one of them will have a similar story to tell.

No. 206072

>>206033
I'm not sure if I would've been raped had I stayed. I've heard from a lot of other lesbians who've had boyfriends "suddenly" appear during sex and we've discussed it and think they're trying to re-enact porn scenarios and are so pornsick they think the dyke will just go along with it. With scrotes you can never be sure though, given how angry they can get when rejected, which is why I ran.

>>206039
Don't be discouraged, just be safe. Like I said I carried a boot knife when I was single and hooking up with girls I didn't know. I would always explain straight away that the knife is purely for my piece of mind because of a situation gone wrong and I'll only be using it to castrate any man that tries anything. The vast majority understood me, lesbians especially because they usually had a horror story of their own. Quite a few ended up showing me their pepper spray in their handbag like "same!" which is kinda funny but fucking depressing.

>>206041
Yeah, this. Thinking back on how my bi "friends" have acted it's not surprising at all that bihets try and pull this shit. I used to know a bi couple who would have affairs with the same sex and then tell each other the details and get off to it. The wife was always trying to flirt with me because her bi husband liked how masculine I was, fucking freaks. I had to cut contact. These people really do just throw all manners out the window when it comes to lesbians and will say the most vile shit to you without so much as a "hello".

No. 206088

how many lesbians are actually on this site? Every thread i go i see some moid talk and i'm sick of it

No. 206093

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>>206088
It's a bummer to talk about men when I'd prefer to ignore their existence but then again the site is a mixed community so it's normal that hetties/bis will shit up every single thread with pictures of the scrote they masturbate to or WKing their Nigel. It's just how male-attracted people are, they can't stop sperging because if they stop, their cope ends. They have to convince themselves over and over that their scrote is worth it.

ANYWAY fuck that noise. I'm contemplating going to the one lesbian cocktail bar in town but I'll be alone and you can't mingle with covid rules… It's probably not even worth it but I want to be surrounded by people like me rn. I've been trying to make new lesbian friends (previously surrounded by "queers" and bis) and lockdown has not helped in the slightest. The cute butches I see on Bumble are all the worst fucking conversationists, it's like they're larping as fuckboys. I've not met butches like that irl so maybe it's just what the dregs are like on the dating apps idek. Femmes are even harder to come by, my luck is wack. I'm gonna go look at some lesbians IRL while sipping on an overpriced waste of calories. I'm doin it.

No. 206098

>>206093
I know exactly what you mean, I hate dating apps because nobody actually uses them to meet and date, just to fill up their fragile egos of "ooh am I hot enough? I'll let my 78 matches tell you" like fuck off and stop wasting my time

Going to gay clubs is pointless in my opinion because you could be dancing with a girl but it just turns out she's drunky, daring and straight.
We don't have spaces to go to anymore where it's exclusively lgbt

No. 206102

Saged because bent but part of being a lesbian that I fucking hate is that TIMs won’t fucking leave me alone cause they’re so make brained they think any interaction is attraction.

Or when I find a cute lesbian she’s actually an “enby” they/them with a binder.

and I fucking love butches so I keep getting bloody bamboozled by gender specials who seem to be brainwashed into thinking femininity and womanhood is a goddamn curse.

a masculine woman is still a woman and i want one to hold my stupid hand and kiss my stupid face.

No. 206104

>>206098
So I'm at the bar and it's full of bisexuals with their bfs lmfao. I really wanted to be surrounded by gay woken tbh but in my city we don't have women only spaces to hang. There are gay bars but they're full of men and drag shows which I don't care for. Sipping a good cocktail though at least.

No. 206108

I have to remind myself that if she wanted to talk to me, if she actually missed me and wanted me, she could, but she chooses not to. I need to move on.

No. 206110

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>>206108
Same. Fucking same. I texted her tonight even though I had decided not to do that just hours ago. Same anon as the one that went to the bar >>206104 so you know why I texted her. I deserve better but I can't move on just yet.

No. 206214

>>206110
Those scrunches look like a huge anus

No. 206224

>>206102
I keep running into hot enbies but they're so exhausting to be around. Seems like almost all of the lesbians in my area are gender special or poly. It hurts, I see my gay male friends having normal same sex relationships but I have to tiptoe around trans shit whenever I try to date to not fuck up my career. I just want a butch gf to go backpacking with.

No. 206260

i desperately need more lesbian friends i wish friend finder was back

No. 206293

That's it I'm officially tapping out of the dating game. Trying to find a gf I click with and who shares my political views is impossible because the lesbian dating pool is tiny and filled with gender specials. I've had enough of lukewarm relationships with women who kinda sorta fit my criteria and whose criteria I kinda sorta fit and there's no spark but we try to make it work anyway because there's no one better out there. I just had a mutual break up with my gf of 9 months and all I feel is relief. I don't want to settle for anyone ever again but the prospect of finding someone actually compatible is so miniscule that it's not even worth the effort.

No. 206297

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Have any of you noticed an increase in non-lesbians, particularly straight men, appropriating the term 'U-Haul lesbian'? I heard it come out of a dude's mouth the other day to describe himself and it really rustled my jimmies. It reminds me of those gross genderspecial straight couples that claim they're more '''queer''' than actual gay people just because the girl has short hair and the guy paints his nails while they both enjoy pegging or some shit.

No. 206309

>>206297
“queer” is just fun and quirky to them.

people literally have no clue what it’s like for us. i’ve been told to fuck off because i deleted my dating apps cause i was tired of troons, genderspecials, people looking for threesomes or bi polyamorous looking for another gf.

“That happens to everyone” “that’s just online dating”

It happens to us most though. I’m so fucking tired. i get told i have privilege cause i’m white but nobody talks about how rejecting men gets you fucked over entirely.

people can’t wrap their heads around us. our existence is purely female. even our masculinity is female.

No. 206341

the more i read the thread the more i realize ill die alone

No. 206356

>>206341
Not necessarily, anon. I met my fiancée at work. I had already told myself I was done dating in a similar fashion to >>206293 because I was sick of degenerate liberals, bisexuals and troons but then… well, I met her. It really does happen when you least expect it. I think there's quite a few lesbians in happy relationships here you just don't hear from us so much because… well, we're happy lol. As much as I'd love to shit up the thread talking about the silly little things I love about my partner I think I'd bore everyone in here to death.

No. 206397

>>206356
I think reading some positivity about your partner would actually be good for the doomers posting in here anon. Do gush, I can definitely use some hope right now.

No. 206403

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>>206022
A café you say? :^)

No. 206407

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>>206397
Ok then, but if anyone objects to my gushing then please direct your complaints to this anon for giving me the go ahead. :P

>I love how nurturing she is. I'm currently going through treatment for cancer and she's been such an incredibly brave yet tender warrior by my side. On my bad days she does everything for me: helps me shower, helps me dress, bundles me in blankets and keeps me fed and watered while I rest. Hell, she even watched some YouTube vids on how to give massages just to give me some relief from the pain. I can be a real grumpy asshole and say some pretty mean things when I'm in pain but she knows I don't mean them. She even waits until I'm better to call me out on it. I'm doing my best to bite my tongue though, I don't want to take things out on her when she's my biggest ally.

>I love how we share our passions. We're currently re-writing the Skyrim canon to fit our OCs and I'm loving it. We even have our own self-insert Mary Sues who get married in the story. After finishing tweaking this we're gonna re-write some of the Fallout canon in the same fashion and fill it full of lesbian OCs and self-inserts. Even if I'm autistically fixated on something she's not particularly into she'll always try it for me. Like when I depression binge The Sopranos for 678735th time she'll always watch some and talk to me about it. I do the same with her programs and I have to admit I've come to love some of the trashy reality shows she watches. There's nothing I love judging other peoples lives and calling them stupid with her.
>She loves me for who I truly am, faults and all. My ex was ashamed of me for being working class and "too butch" amongst other things and it really hurt me deeply. But seeing my fiancée happily introduce me to everyone she knows warms my cold dead heart.
>She's so fucking hot. Call me a scrote, I don't care. When I first saw her my jaw nearly hit the floor. Everyone else in the room was practically blurred out by my minds eye and it was just her.
>I love how we can live together seamlessly no matter what. We can be super involved and joined at the hip or both doing our own thing and there's no friction. It was the easiest U-Haul of my life, it just felt so right. The morning after our first night together at my place it felt so empty there without her. Like my relatively small apartment had doubled in size and there was just so much unfilled space.
>Ok last point because this is getting long but I am so excited for the future. We're getting married by the end of the year (if my health stays on the up) and I've bought some land where I plan to have a house built for us and I can't wait. We're also planning on having a kid once I've been in remission for a decent amount of time and it's so exciting. Any time I see parents out with their babies I get all sappy and excited because one day that'll be us. Pic very much related.

No. 206414

>>206407
ntayrt but this was so sweet to read, thank you. I especially loved the part where you talked about rewriting skyrim canon? I have similar hobbies with my wife, we've been writing stupid fandom nerd shit together for like a decade now, and I had no idea it was so common (I felt kind of embarrassed about it before reading your post tbqh).

Anyway I hope your treatment kicks cancer's ass, nonny, and that you and your fiancee have many more years together. You both sound so sweet.

No. 206415

>>206407
>We're currently re-writing the Skyrim canon to fit our OCs and I'm loving it. We even have our own self-insert Mary Sues who get married in the story.
this is so nerdy and stupid I love it
Getting well and healthy, nonnie, and get that dream house built!

No. 206416

>>206414
My ex-friend was doing text roleplay (not sex shit but fantasy RPG) with her ex-gf. Not the same, but similar, so it looks like women love writing fanfic shit together

No. 206421

>>206414
Oh that's so awesome you write nerd shit with your wife too!!! What fandoms are you into, if you don't mind me asking? My partner and I don't post publicly, just share it with our nerd friends occasionally. We keep big google docs we collaborate on. I'm trying to convince my partner to post her fanfic though, she's genuinely very good at it. Thank you for the kind words, nonna. ♥

>>206415
Thank you, nonny. ♥ And I'm gonna get that house built if it's the last thing I do! We recently converted our pinterest boards into actual scrapbooks to show builders and decorators. We're also playing around on The Sims building dream houses but I keep antagonising the neighbours on there with my sim, hehe.

>>206416
Yeah I know a lot of women who are into nerd shit but I think because we're used to pushing down the urge to sperg because it's not "socially acceptable" we just kinda explode when amongst fellow nerds.

No. 206438

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>>206403
Damn I got no original ideas huh…

>>206407
I was the one that requested the gushing, no regrets. The headcanon thing really got me for some reason just like this anon >>206414
, I love how you two are doing creative things together like that. I'm definitely suggesting the idea to my next gf if she's into fiction.

>When I first saw her my jaw nearly hit the floor. Everyone else in the room was practically blurred out by my minds eye and it was just her.

My heart! I totally know how this feels. While the women I felt that way for are gone from my life it's pleasant to remember how the world stopped when I first met them. Makes me grateful that I even got to feel that way about someone.

I'm wishing you two the very best anon. I hope your treatment goes as well as possible and you live the rest of your lives together, doing the things you both want to do.

No. 206444

>>206421
We love fantasy!! We play a ton of videogames together, so we also tend to get into fandoms like TWEWY, Ace Attorney, etc. We've been really into Fire Emblem 3 Houses for awhile. I've played Skyrim, but she wasn't super interested beyond snuggling on the couch to watch (it did spawn a lot of fun jokes, though).
I hope I come across any of your fiancee's fanfic in the wild someday! I'd love to read them, lesbians write the best fic, I swear. <3

No. 206477

Butch bitches make me fucking sick. Is that a woman or a man, no it’s just some ugly cereal box built bitch who has a tongue that smells like wet salmonella. Y’all sick af(a-logging)

No. 206482

>>206407
yall cute as hell. I’m rooting for you and I hope you get well soon.

No. 206524

>>206416
>women love writing fanfic shit together
This is how I've met the majority of my lesbian/queer friends.
I even fell for my crush because we wrote OCs and lesbian/gay fanfiction and roleplayed together. and then she trooned out

No. 206538

>>206524
>>206444
how do you all meet women this much? especially homo women?

i just want a gf to play basketball with me again and hold hands and make gf necklaces and pretend to be vampires with. i admire your fanfiction stuff so much, it's literally the cutest.

No. 206542

My own dream is to have a gf that is into writing. I am not good at creating the plot but I would love to draw illustrations for her stories, maybe write together if she would want to. My craziest dream is writing a comic together but I know it wont come true (but creating a short strip is realistic)

No. 206546

>>206542
I would love that so much. I love writing and I wish I could draw but I'm tragic at it. I especially like writing fantasy yuri and reading it too. Otherside Picnic is a really awesome light yuri sci fi novel and the novel illustrations are pretty too. So I would love to have an artsy gf to create with.

tl;dr pick me, choose me, love me <3

No. 206548

Does anyone else's family members talk about men to them with the absolute certainty that they'll end up with one someday? Three years ago I was sixteen I came out because I had a girlfriend at the time I brought to this New Years shindig at one of my uncles. The responses were lukewarm, most of them are republicans, and according to my mom some of my aunts and uncles said some things like "Don't you think she's a little young to make a decision like that?" or "If she doesn't want to date men why does she date a girl who looks like one?" when I wasn't around.
Now it's all "So are you and that guy you've been hanging out with boyfriend and girlfriend or are you just friends?", "Have you seen any boys you think are cute at your school yet?", "When you get a boyfriend make sure you blah blah blah blah". I don't go "No, I'm not interested in men, I'm a lesbian" because I don't want to make it awkward or for them to think I'm scolding them, I just say no and change the subject as quick as I can. I didn't really want to come out to them in the first place, it was my mom's idea she thought it would go better but after that I've made a point to not mention anything about my sexuality ever again. I don't know if they say those things now because they forgot since I don't bring it up anymore or if thats their way of telling me they don't accept me and their trying to push me into a "better" direction. Is this a thing that happens with you guys too?

No. 206552

>>206542
I'm also an artfag who's interested in this exact setup. It's comforting to know there are at least a handful of us out there.

No. 206556

my crush is coming over tmrw morning to exercise together and then after school/practice we'll make a cake (with her bf too fml) im very excited

No. 206558

>>206556
not sure if trolling but for your sake let it go and don't talk to her

No. 206561

>>206538
one of the ayrt, I wish I knew. I've known my wife since we were kids, we grew up together and then married each other as soon as it was legal. If you find a way to meet normal lesbians I'd love to know. I'd love some idk, writing or art friends. It would be really fun to exchange art or writing.

No. 206566

>>206558
im not but i assure you ive let go of any romantic hopes between us; we can still interact as friends

No. 206567

>>206566
if i were you i'd say the bf can't come, it's a totally reasonable boundary to have

No. 206578

Elvira has been dating a woman for 19 years it’s like my lesbian childhood awakening slapping me in the face over and over again

No. 206596

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>>206542
>mfw writerfag who dreams of an artfag gf

No. 206603

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>>206546
>>206596
I love finding out that there are not only other lesbians like me but also writers that want the same thing!! You anons gave me hope. When I will be ready to enter online dating, I will be adding "trying to find writer gf" text for sure hehehe

No. 206607

>>206407
>>206414
>>206416
>>206524
This is genuinely one of my favorite things about relationships with other women. Even friendships with other lesbians, we spend so much time talking about our passions and creative interests, I'm not sure why it's so prevalent with us but it feels like so many lesbian relationships include some kind of shared creative outlet and it's so beautiful.

Someone I follow on twitter who has been running a niche fan site for the past 2 decades met her wife through it and they're honestly my couple goals. They barely even post anything coupley but there are regularly posts like "I was just talking to my wife about xzy and…" and it's so encouraging to me that they still, after so long, are able to both enjoy that kind of thing with each other.

Maybe we're all just a little autistic but honestly it's very fun and freeing.

No. 206608

>>206607
Oh also, I just remembered one of my favorite stories about an older lesbian couple. I can't find the source for it any more, but they met through Kirk/Spock fanfiction in the 60's and stayed together for decades. If anyone knows what I'm talking about, I'd love to find the article about them again.

No. 206633

>>206607
Which fandom nonna? I was thinking of building a small rp/fan group myself, it gives me hope that something like that has survived 2 decades and won't immediately flop.

No. 206676

Speaking of artfag/writerfag couplings, I'm >>206407 and a former tattoo artist, for the past decade I've been trying to produce my own graphic novel but I'm a lousy writer so my fiancée has been helping me tweak the plot and characters. I haven't been drawing much because of my illness and severe art burnout from tattooing but I'm slowly getting back in the groove. Even if I never show this to anyone it's just great to have a shared project with my fiancée. Lately it's been hard to talk about my feelings or talk at all, really, so having this little graphic novel baby of ours is a good way of both distracting me from real life but still spending time with my partner and not isolating myself. I do think shared creative hobbies in general are good for relationships.

>>206608
I remember hearing about those two!!! I can't remember their names but man, good for them.

No. 206738

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When I match with people on Bumble BFF (not in a dating place in my life atm) they usually mention their partner pretty early on in the convo while it's not relevant to the topic at hand. I'm not flirty and I don't even mention anything gay but my bio says that I am a lesbian. Am I being too sensitive? I feel like they're trying to nip it in the bud, even though "it" isn't even happening.

No. 206741

>>206738
People just like letting people know they have a partner. Most people I newly meet let me know they have a bf/gf in the first conversation. I guess it sort of makes sense, especially when you're making friends, I mean a partner usually plays a big role in one's life so it makes sense to mention him or her. And I bet it's sort of showing off for a lot of people too.

No. 206742

>>206738
My fiancée and I are on Bumble BFF and we've both had people ignore our bios that state we're engaged and flirt with us. I expect those people you've been talking to have probably gone through similar situations since a lot of queers and liberal types on there are cheating bastards polyamorous so it's most likely them just taking precautions to avoid uncomfortable situations. I do it myself, so don't sweat it, nonny. I'm sure you're fine. ♥

No. 206743

>>206741
But their profile already says they're in a relationship…
>>206742
Yeah I guess this addresses my above point. I can understand their concern but it still turns me off the notion of friendship with them, that they'd get defensive when I have not even flirted. Like at all, I don't behave flirty. If anything I should be sketched out since hets love to try to recruit us for their 3somes under false pretenses.

No. 206756

>>206567
sorry for the late reply but we were all close friends beforehand, he's not a total stranger kek

No. 206767

Need some advice. Apparently the easiest way to find gc lgb people now is to 'make' them (by peaking your friends yourself essentially), but how do you do that in a subtle way? If I just went in guns blazing they wouldn't listen and I would just get blacklisted from my friend groups.

No. 206768

Do you guys have any practical advice for asking girls out? Most girl advice online is meant for dudes & tends to draw on that weird alpha stuff & I don't want to treat a girl like that. What little there is for lesbians though is like "Don't worry! Just be yourself!" which is not helpful.

No. 206769

>>206767
There's a good reason why people will cut you off if you honestly think it's your place to try and change their beliefs on something. Let people be. Nobody likes this overbearing 'I'm right, you're wrong' shit.

If they're young then they'll maybe sway sides at some point by themselves. I've seen people switch sides in both directions but it's not your place to do that for them. Just like how it's not their place to change your beliefs to suit them either.

No. 206776

>>206768
Depends, do you already know whether she's into women? How perceptive is she to your flirting? What are you having trouble with?

No. 206786

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Getting back into dating and why is every "lesbian" on dating apps a troon or a bisexual (but was with a man for 15 years and is scared of her own pussy) bitch looking like picrel. Don't mind me, I'm just seething and falling asleep on my vibrator until my country opens up and I can meet cute fit girls at the boxing gym again.

No. 206787

>>206769
You’re right, I didn’t wanna come across like that. I guess I said that wrong because I’m not looking to convert them necessarily, just wish I could broach the topic without them shutting me out completely. Also just tired of hearing how only terrible exclusionists turn people down because of their genitals lmao

No. 206791

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>>200981
>tfw no gf
>No lesbian bars in a 100km radius
>apps full of agp's, bicurious women and unicorn hunters
>the rest is looking for a tik tok acessory
>I'm undesirable af butch, not that I think other butches are unattractive, I'm kinda considered a faggot, I just can read the scene
>butchphobia from all sides makes making new friends difficult
>can't even lift the feels away
>consoom media with butches to cope
excuse the tumblr gif, Maxine Harlow is an evil pussy worshipping artist so you can rest easy about the source

No. 206792

>>206787
Cringe but my girlfriend peaked me by hyping up that she was a bad person with evil opinions and feared that I would drop her once I found out whatsoever it was. Then all she said was "I don't think transition is right for everyone," to which I naturally agreed. She said some surface level stuff about hormones and surgeries being dangerous especially to people who don't research them. And at some point she either suggested I read terf blogs or I just went ahead and did it on my own. Needless to say after reading radfem opinions for a few hours, I realised they were right all along and renounced trannyism for good. This specific tactic may only work on the terminally online and "desperate to see the good in others" type, but it can certainly be reworked to fit your situation. Just ease into it, I guess, and encourage them to read opinions from the other side.

No. 206793

>>206791
Fellow butch here and I feel you about making new friends. Lesbians are mostly ok with me unless they're tranny stans (in which case they think I'm a closeted straight man kek) but bi and straight women look at me like I'm a freak. Try looking for butch/GNC social groups online that meet IRL. I've met some fantastic friends that way.

No. 206796

>>206776
I don’t like taking social risks at all, and I’m worried about coming off as awkward/creepy since this is totally unexplored territory to me. To be honest I want to learn how because I had the realization recently that if I keep being so passive about dating I’m gonna die alone probably since our dating pool is so tiny lol. There is this girl that I know is gay for sure, but I’ve never gotten the nerve to approach her really.

No. 206808

>>206791
>>206793
There is a serious lack of butches in the world. I hope you ladies find someone who can appreciate you for you. Love you nonnas.

No. 206819

>>206793
Thanks for the tip, I'll look into it! Sadly enough I've had the issue with some (supposedly) gc lesbians too, who consider butches to be a harmful stereotype standing in the way of acceptance by straight people. Maybe that's true, but it also ironically enough doesn't sound very gc.

>>206808
Thank you, it sometimes feels like asking for a fantasy or fairy tale when it comes to wanting acceptance/appreciation.

No. 206824

>>206819
Ayrt I'm so sorry you've had to experience that, don't take anything they've said to heart. You don't exist to please straight people nor get their approval. I find it enraging they even suggested that. Homophobes will never accept us, no matter how we present. It has fuck all to do with it.

No. 206827

>>206819
>>206824
Yeah that makes no sense. If they don’t support women being gnc, what are they even critical of?

No. 206831

>>206819
man fuck those women. what should we care about acceptance from straights. butches, bulldykes and gnc lesbians have been a part of out community since day one.

Not to “all women are queens” but butch and ngc lesbians are amazing as any femme lesbian. I love butches. From miss trunchbull to cute girls who look like justin beiber.

No. 206832

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>>206791
I follow Maxine on insta, I love her work so much. She even responded to a DM of mine once, she is so cool.

Also I'm not a butch (just kinda GNC but not masc enough to count as butch) but I think they are super hot as long as they don't try to emulate fuckboys. Maybe you're too hard on yourself and that colors your perception? One thing I'd like to encourage you to do is strive to be neutral towards your own looks. People can sense it when you hate yourself and it can affect their impression of you. Even disregarding the social impact, it's not healthy to care too much about your looks. Your body is your one machine that lets you interact with the world. Don't reduce it to fuckability. It's yours and it needs acceptance.

Body positivity imo is a garbage concept that conditions people to place all their faith in looking good. Looks aren't forever, our bodies are not sex icons. Be neutral. Be kind to yourself. Apologies for patronizing, just putting some words out there in case someone will benefit from lessons I've learned myself.

>>206796
Start with holding eye contact and smiling. Get yourself used to being intimate in that way. It'll open up some flirting for you, trust.

>>206831
Agreed, gays that give a fuck about respectability politics are annoying retards. We don't need straights to like us, at all. I appreciate all lesbian women who don't cape for non-lesbians.

No. 206844

>>206832
>Looks aren't forever, our bodies are not sex icons. Be neutral. Be kind to yourself
Nta but this is sweet and wholesome anon ♥

No. 206852

>>206832
It doesn't come across as patronizing at all, it's really sweet. I think it was easier for me to just accept my body as is, when I was able to do sports/weightlifting all of the time, because I could be proud of the things my body could accomplish, instead of the way it looks/is perceived by others. I know it'll pass when things get back to normal and I'm busier. You're a saint.
>>206824
Eh shit happens, just annoying how small the pool of possible friends gets
>>206827
I guess they're conservative and just call themselves gc because they hate troons

No. 206855

>>206852
Where do you live where there are openly gc lesbians?

No. 206859

>>206855
The community in the biblebelt is different from the progressive urban one. Won't say much more than that.

No. 206861

>>206791
based maxineharlow fan

No. 206862

>>206861
you can’t tell me the “she said i looked to gender-y for sex” isn’t a dig at people assuming all gnc lesbians must be trans or “genderqueer”.

women are women.

No. 206868

>>206862
100% I get crypto vibes from her. I hope she's as good as wwe think she is anons.

No. 206870

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>>206868
tumblr hate her cause her followers are all “terfs”. she gets messages from detransitioned lesbians.

she calls herself masc king.

i love her cause she’s masc as fuck but clearly still a proud woman. they probably hate her cause she goes against their narrative.

that and her pussy fixation. pic rel “evil pussy worshipper” is apparently a terf dog whistle cause it excludes trans girldick lol.

What’s hilarious to me is she’s so gnc they can’t even call her female in their call outs. it’s they/them. they literally cannot accept that a woman can be masc.

No. 206874

>>206791
>>206870
I love her art so much, there’s really not much out there like it today. I hope she starts making zines or something because I’d buy the shit outta that.

No. 206875

>>206870
yeah they legitimately think she's "transmasc", they can't compute gender nonconformity

No. 206887

>>206870
>pussy worship is a dog whistle
I'd say it's pretty overt lmao the only acceptable genital attraction for them is towards """girldick"""
This has been brought up in this thread before but I want us to have more solid dog whistles. Radblr seems disinterested in crypto signaling IRL but it would be extremely useful imo. I live in an extremely liberal city and it's pretty much impossible to be even remotely candid about your views on gender without being totally crucified.

No. 206893

>>206887
This 100%. Kinda sad that we're back to subtle signals to avoid ostracization from our own communities. Still, I need to find some cryptos IRL soon or I'm gonna go crazy.

Any suggestions?

No. 206894

whenever i feel like i’m unable to feel things for people, i love meeting a butch woman and forgetting how to function. tried talking to this butch player at a meet and greet after a game about a week ago and i started hyperventilating and had to get my friend to ask for a picture for me.
it was super embarrassing but i love being reminded on how much i love butch women and how much i want to give one my love for the rest of my life. i guess that starts with me not being too flustered to actually have a conversation with one…

No. 206898

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>>206887
>>206893
I >>206791 use the vagitarian option on HER and refuse to pick pronouns, to try to dogwhistle on there. It surprises me that they haven't removed the vagitarian option yet, in light of the whole 'we need to pander to AGP's more!'. I might hide an ovaries patch on a denim jacket, but other than that, I'm all out of ideas. Doing the Hogwarts house thing is probably too obvious or easy to confuse.
>>206894
Iktf. I went on a date with another butch once and thank fuck she was a tourist so I don't have to face how awkward that was. It's like I lost 50 IQ points on the spot from being flustered.

No. 206902

>>206768
Either be confident, or if you can't pull that off, be polite and courteous.

A healthy amount of confidence is very attractive, especially because it's somewhat rare coming from women. Being direct about your feelings and knowing what you would like to do on a date, looking after her needs, etc, is always great.

Of course, if you don't really… have confidence, then this will feel like a farce, so don't push yourself. If you don't feel confident, just be honest and polite. Don't put yourself or your feelings down, but word things in ways that lets her know how you feel while also still giving her options. You're not creepy for liking her, and being like "ugh sorry if this is creepy but-" just feels… sad to be on the receiving end of. If she's also gay, she most likely won't think you're creepy and worse case scenario will just reject you but still feel flattered.

If she already knows you're also a lesbian a simple, "hey, I wanted to let you know I think you're really great to be around and I wanted to take you out on a date some time" is effective. Honestly, sometimes the hardest part is the second date. Even when we like each other I sometimes find it hard to find time to follow up… Be earnest and consistent if things go well, just don't be a pest or anything.

I personally avoid complimenting just looks because I feel like it sounds shallow, so unless there's something about her style that you really love, try to stick to more genuine compliments and lean into her interests. Some people love being complimented about their appearance though, so it depends on the person. Hope this helps! Good luck!

No. 206930

>>206894
God me too. Seeing butches in the wild makes me so happy. Christmas Eve 2019 this gorgeous butch woman needed help finding mushrooms at my store and I still think about her. She was the most polite customer I've ever had and I spent the rest of my shift daydreaming about marrying her and the whole experience made holiday retail a lot less hellish than usual. The guy I had before her was an asshole and yelled at me for something that wasn't my fault too so it felt like a miracle when she was next. Butches provide valuable community service every time they go outside looking like that.

No. 206994

>>206898
Oy vey, I relate to that comic so fucking much. Idk why but with feminine women, especially femme lesbians I'm great at flirting. I flirt so damn good you'd never even know I have the ass burgers. I know what to say, how to compliment them, how to be respectful. Put me in a situation with another butch woman though and I clam up. I can barely speak and come across as a total sped. At most we'll have a cordial conversation about where I buy my clothes from, what tailor I use, or what aftershave I wear and that's it.

No. 207021

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>>206994
I have the opposite thing, I flirt easily with butches but have a hard time with femmes. I fit into neither category but I think that I'm decidedly punky/unpolished looking makes it so I find femmes kinda unapproachable. I don't really get what women see in me, especially femmes, though I don't let that get me down. Just kinda weird to me that they wanna date!!

No. 207043

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>>206994
That's better or more useful than just talking about weed and spilling spaghetti in the form of having to empty your pockets to find your card.
I'm getting over my predatory lesbian complex by flirting with and complimenting random feminine women on small details. It's like I randomly became a sperg later in life, because I remember being a casanova in my teens and not giving a shit. With butches, idk even where to start. I know that 25% is into other butches too, so it's not even that rare. The few times I did give it a shot, my attempts were viewed as an invalidation of their masculinity, discouraging me even further. Though it's also flattering and ~validating~ that they thought I was too masc. The only date I did get from it, she probably thought I was a retard.
>>207021
What's your secret? Spill the beans! It's like something changed culturally around here 4-6 years ago, I went from desirable and being approached randomly, to it now feeling like nobody is interested. It could be that I was only approached because I was visible and really everyone is f4f and now apps are more popular there is no need to settle for someone like me. Or maybe they view me at risk of trooning out? Do they think I'm a fuckgirl with toxic masculinity? I know the insecurity and self doubt vibes I probably give off aren't exactly attractive either, it's like a cycle.

No. 207114

>>207043
I don't have a secret, I just don't feel nervous for some reason. It's frustrating to me that people are super big on having one super narrow thing they're into. Women from the masc to femme spectrum all look attractive to me.

No. 207140

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>>207114
Guess I gotta just chill. Yeah I'm not exactly sure why many people seem to be so specific, it doesn't really frustrate me because everyone is allowed to have their turn ons and turn offs. What does frustrate me is that there's a taboo against certain pairings, so even though more people are into the whole spectrum, it's off-limits anyway.

No. 207168

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>>207140
I should find the rest of that essay and read it, thanks for sharing that bit.

Butches together is actually preferable to me than femme/butch pairings because the latter reads as a hetero-ified pairing to me. Especially the way some butches are so gender-y (and femmes are so interested in performing hetero-approved femininity), I can't help but read it as internalized homophobia making them meme themselves into emulating a straight dynamic. I don't think much of it but that is my somewhat-problematic perception of that, though I mostly tune it out. At the end of the day I know my lens regarding this topic is too political, I don't pay much mind to it. Kinda like how I think makeup is a scam but I still wear mascara and blush when I wanna look particularly good, I can't be assed to be a perfect lez with no trappings whatsoever.

Generally I gravitate towards people that are relaxed about their gender and dress in a way that is comfortable but unique to them in some way. I don't want to navigate a super difficult relationship where I'm always in danger of invalidating someone's gender identity, it's too much work.

No. 207177

there's no hope :)

No. 207221

>>207177
Fuck off tranny doomposter. There's no hope for you but we'll be just fine.

No. 207225

>>207221
Based. Trannies should go back to attending to their chronic UTIs instead of trying to socially engineer lesbians, who they will never be btw XY

No. 207240

>>207221
>>207225

cool off, it's just the doomed reality I'm in. might as well accept it with a bitter smile. i appreciate the watchdog response tho kek

No. 207258

Fuck, I know I shouldn't miss my ex, but, fuck, I do and I can't stop. This is killing me. I miss her so much. I can't even bring myself to even want to move on. What I'd give for a chance to do things right.

No. 207268

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>>207168
Yeah it's kinda difficult though to be a butch and not be considered too 'gender-y'. It's an accusation which has been levied since the 70's and it hasn't really done anything positive, other than push butches further to the fringes. I don't know why being ~relaxed about gender~ often has to entail letting more conforming women try to get butches play dress up, trying to put make up on them, trying to change the hair etc. It especially feels like a betrayal, after being subjected to and resisting patriarchal society and all the punishment for being ourselves. Yeah it's difficult to get out unscathed with no side effects. I'd prefer dating another butch,because we'd then both get it and maybe appreciate each other on a deeper level (also other butches are really hot imo). Instead of a 'femme' who will later complain and who would've been better off in a F4F pairing. I've got nothing against butch-femme pairings, but the fulfilling, healing ones seem to be a relic of the past (kudos if anyone still happens to be in one!). /rant, not really directed at you personally

No. 207291

>>207268
>I don't know why being ~relaxed about gender~ often has to entail letting more conforming women try to get butches play dress up, trying to put make up on them, trying to change the hair etc.
Yeah that is not what I'd define as being relaxed about gender but you're right, a ton of people use that as an excuse to try to change their partner. It's not right. The eggshells I find tiring about people that appear gender-y to me are definitely not fashion related. I meant more in the vein of having to avoid invalidating adjectives, not being able to service them in bed due to mental blocks they have, maybe even pronouns. Those kinds of things are not inherently bad either, I just don't want to navigate gender identity turmoil personally. And I'm certainly aware that looks are not conclusive so I'd observe the person before I pass on them. Definitely not based on their outfit, though. That's some bizarre shit.

The butch/femme pairings I see around are almost always black people. White lesbian couples I see around are mostly f4f or "soft butch"/[either]. I've not seen lesbian couples of other demographics around town but now I'm curious to know what their common dynamics are.

No. 207295

>>207291
>The eggshells I find tiring about people that appear gender-y to me are definitely not fashion related. I meant more in the vein of having to avoid invalidating adjectives, not being able to service them in bed due to mental blocks they have, maybe even pronouns.
Oh yeah it's understandable that the pronoun thing can be very annoying. I think the not wanting to be serviced thing is more often trauma related than gender related. Many also get pushed into it. I personally made the mistake of sleeping with bicurious women when I was younger and now I feel insecure about letting anyone go down on me. I could probably get over it in a relationship tho. I understand that a lot of people don't want to deal with that kind of baggage and they are well within their right.

>The butch/femme pairings I see around are almost always black people. White lesbian couples I see around are mostly f4f or "soft butch"/[either]. I've not seen lesbian couples of other demographics around town but now I'm curious to know what their common dynamics are.

Here the white ones are all F4F and masc lesbians are a rare sight, with or without pronouns. Black people tend to be in a (black female only) polycule around here with all sorts of aesthetics, no hate, they seem happy.

No. 207323

>>207268
> I don't know why being ~relaxed about gender~ often has to entail letting more conforming women try to get butches play dress up, trying to put make up on them, trying to change the hair etc.
I'm more GNC than butch but I feel weird about dating feminine women for this reason, it always hits a point where I need to 'just try' dresses and makeup and I'm always the unreasonable one when I refuse. It feels like being in a relationship with my mother.

No. 207326

>>207323
This is so awful. I can't help but read it as scrote pandering because they're pressuring GNC/butch women to conform to conventional beauty standards.

No. 207361

>>207268
>>207323
Holy fuck I thought I was the only one who had noticed this. I'm not even on the most bulldyke side of the spectrum and more of a futch/tomboy yet even I have experienced my share of this "Just try a dress on for once, you'd look so pretty!" coaxing and people obviously assuming that me being masculine is somehow a cope and sign of insecurity that I need to get over despite me being like this since I was a fucking toddler. Seeing how femmes are never pressured to "experiment" with masculinity it should be telling enough what's the motivation behind this.

Not to turn this into another bi shit flinging thing but it's almost always insecure bihets who have to have the option to pretend to be heterosexual so they need to make their partner look like a "regular" woman and not like a "disgusting lesbo".

No. 207405

I recently found a super cute lesbian couple who work as a sheep shearing team and travel around the United States for their job.

They make fun informational videos for TIKToK about shearing and I love that they are just normal ass people with content on real life shit instead of brain rot.

No. 207429

>>207405
i love seeing lesbian couples. the equal partnership is so refreshing.

also it warms my cold lil heart to see women who have found happiness together. one day that will be me and my beautiful wife maybe. i’m still holding out. there are women in their late 20s/early 30s that aren’t handmaidens or they/thems. right???

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>>207361
Yeah with bi women the risk is even higher that the pressure to conform gets turned up. Or they want you to perform as a scrote, so they can get off. Obviously #notall and I got a couple supportive gnc bi online friends and febfems seem to be better with this stuff. It's just a very broad category.
Though conservative, religious lesbians can be really bad with gnc stuff too. They also happen to be more likely against the troon thing, but it doesn't exactly come from a truly gc perspective. They view gnc as no different from ftm, both an embarassment/barrier to mainstream acceptance. Again #notall, heavily depends on which religion etc.

No. 207530

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Instagram is such a turn off for me and all the women my age are absolute freaks for it. I can't bring myself to enjoy this stupid app but I have to use it if I want to communicate with the new people I'm meeting. I feel like a boomer rn.

No. 207542

>>207478
>Yeah with bi women the risk is even higher that the pressure to conform gets turned up. Or they want you to perform as a scrote
This is why I won't date bi women anymore; not even as a one night stand. If I were to become single again I would rather be alone than settle for someone who is also settling for me. I never got too many women trying to dress me up as with my tall and muscular build I'd look like a hon in a dress but a lot definitely got me to play the role of a man. I actually conned myself into thinking I was stone butch because penetration is often painful for me and I prefer to give oral and top. I should've never let myself be boxed in like that. If I deny my dysphoria the option of trooning me out; why was I letting it dictate my sexual desires? Vidrel honestly changed my sex life by driving me to unpack why I was the way I was.

No. 207546


No. 207566

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i'm so sad. there's a women's union in my city and i thought they might consist of like… older women? normal women? then i saw that they had a 4 days long lesbian only event and of course it had a giant disclaimer about how you should respect and ask about pronouns and that there is no place for twansphobia at their event. like i know this is just The Society(tm) we live in nowadays but i'm just heartbroken all over again.

No. 207592

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>>207530
I haven't caved in yet, is it worth it?
>>207542
>If I were to become single again I would rather be alone than settle for someone who is also settling for me.
Yeah I've been single for years now for this reason.
>I never got too many women trying to dress me up as with my tall and muscular build I'd look like a hon in a dress
I look like a hon when I try to wear dresses too, but that doesn't stop people from trying to get me in them, because to them femininity = attractiveness, sexiness etc. Even though personally I feel I look more feminine with short hair and in men's butch clothes. It allows my female body to shine through and not be outshone by the drag.
>I actually conned myself into thinking I was stone butch because penetration is often painful for me and I prefer to give oral and top.
Oof, it hasn't gotten that far with me. I mainly just stopped hooking up with bi(curious) women and decided to wait until I could find someone I would dare to work through my hang-ups with. Easier said than done though, especially in this climate. It's like even lesbians nowadays put me in this role and only women with pillow princess pins on Her and shit like that like me (besides the regular barrage of AGP's thinking we have so much in common). Even though I try to signal pretty hard I'm closer to being a (aspiring) faggot butch than a stone butch. It's like all those apps made the bars disappear even faster too. The rest gets cancelled out of existence. It's been getting lonelier and lonelier.
>>207546
Thanks for sharing! The capitalization of the L does make me pause though, usually a sign of polilez stuff, but still a good blogpost.

No. 207594

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Is there a subreddit for cis lesbians? Seems like all lesbian subs are full of troons wtf

No. 207596

>>207594
>Posting moe anime lesbians while asking for cis lesbian subs to avoid troons
look anon I'm a weeb too but you have to realize the discrepancy here

No. 207598


No. 207601

>>207594
Giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming you're not a troon: Stop saying cis. Just say women. Stop playing their game and using their stupid words.

No. 207606

>>207598
Just be careful about going full TERF on there. The sub has to technically remain inclusive of troons or they'll get banned but the userbase is mostly real women fed up with woke shit and the occasional not-like-other-AGPs AGP. It's not a new r/truelesbians unfortunately.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ActuallyButch also exists for anyone interested and is much better than r/butchlesbians. It's run by some women from ActuallyLesbian and so far has had no masc AGPs who call themselves butch lesbians.

No. 207617

>>207594
There used to be r/truelesbians but it was #cancelled by the tranny mods and it no longer exists.

No. 207637

ladies, get The Club Monocle app, it's strictly lesbians only and has potential

No. 207643

I've finally set a date for my wedding and booked it all in! I got the go-ahead from my doctor that I'm healthy enough to proceed last week and thanks to our wedding planner it's finally all systems go. The only thing to decide now is where we're going on honeymoon but I honestly don't care. I'm getting married! I'm gonna finally be able to call my fiancée my WIFE!

No. 207674

>>207643
Awwww congrats! Bless you and your soon-to-be wife.

No. 207679

>>207637
>ok weird name but i'll bite
>check app
>weird ass graphics in the google store page
>100+ downloads!
>wait… just 100+? that's all?

So did you make this app or what.

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>>207679
nta and sorry for possibly schizoid tinfoil but my gut says it's sketchy. I've seen it mentioned on Ovarit and all the lesbian subreddits the same way it's mentioned here >>207637, short plug from an empty/low activity account about how amazing it. Likely the dev themselves because nobody is actually using the app.

It has a sister app for trannies so the dev probably isn't a GC/radfem woman. And to get approved for posting you need to submit video and audio of yourself. Which yeah to be fair is the only way to keep troons out but you're sending video evidence of yourself applying for an account on a 'terf app' and fuck knows what the dev is gonna end up doing with that information.

No. 207708

>>207674
Thank you!

>>207703
Nah it's not a schizoid tinfoil, anon. It sounds shady as fuck to me. The fact there's a tranny sister app and you have to submit a video of yourself sounds very suspect. Trannies always talk about wanting us on a fucking list, just look at that Shinigami Eyes extension. This app seems like a perfect way to lure us in. "Oh look, we're referencing Le Monocle! It's lesbian only!". Now this probably is schizoid tinfoil but the fact it was plugged not long after >>207594 posted makes me paranoid. I mean, how often does someone come here using the word "cis" seriously? Pair that with the fucking weeb shit? Idk it's just got my back up.

No. 207712

>>207703
Yeah, strikes me as a honeypot as well, even before knew about the tranny sister app. We can't trust any non-anon platform anymore. Maybe someday it'll be okay to love women again.

No. 207714

>>207594
r/actuallylesbian is the only one that's mildly real homosexual woman aligned. it's pretty slow and still clamps down on overt rejection of trannies though. i'm pretty sure the mods aren't twansphobes based on a myriad of their comments, but it has a decent amount of posts by actual (actual) lesbians.

No. 207733

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I don't want to start a flame war again, but I have some serious questions.

For context, my only vaguely 'right wing' beliefs, are in wanting a smaller government and protecting personal freedoms. I don't want morals forced on anyone. But in liberty oriented spaces online, sometimes there's a conservative influence too. And it makes me question what is right and wrong.

For instance, there is discourse on the subject of whether homosexuality is a result of negative influences. Such as molestation, absent parental figures, or hormone imbalances. And when I look at gay men, and how promiscuous and mentally unstable they seem, I think 'yeah adds up', but I'm not sure if I feel that about homo women, because that's me.

I was never molested, and I always felt funny about this teacher who wore tight skirts even when my family was fine and loving. (so I was a little homo way back lol)

But sometimes I wonder, especially from what others say. Were many of you here molested or unloved by a parent? Is it possible to be a girl who was loved by her family and had many friends in childhood and no trauma, autism or mental illness, and to be a lesbian? Is that any of you? Because I'm on the fence about whether being lesbian is ok, but I'm pretty sure homo men are kind of off.

No. 207736

>>207733
This is the first time I enter to /lg/ because I'm new to lolcow and I'm hetero. I'm also puzzled by the reasons/causes/origins/basis of homosexuality because it seems that there's some correlation between being molested as a young boy and ending up as a gay man. And there's also the idea that some gays and lesbians know from a very young age that ''they're gay'', althouh this sounds like those claims HSTS make about ''feeling female'' since childhood, it really seems that vague emotions and fixations can be easily misunderstood by children and if bad parenting or society reinforces those misinterpretations children will grow up confused. I don't know about lesbians having a particular disposition for having been sexually abused. Wouldn't it be weird that when boys are molested by men that makes them crave for more dick while girls being molested by men turn out to be repulsed by them? One would expect the same result, or not?

>I was never molested, and I always felt funny about this teacher who wore tight skirts

But would that really count as a sexual preference if you were only a child? Did you have any romantic thoughts about her? As a child I was in love with young Nicole Kidman because of how pretty she looked to me and how charming some of her characters were, and the same with other actors/actresses but I never had any romantic feelings for them. I didn't have them for classmates either until I reached 13yo but now I see that age as the starting point of getting to develope sexual preference and romantic feelings towards someone, something that has reached a decent level now that I'm 21yo but that hasn't ended. Do you know that V for Vendetta scene where the actress is talking about a phase during high school were girls have ''girlfriends'' and she gets caught and is told by a teacher that that's just a phase, then she explains it didn't end for her? That makes me wonder if it's an actual hormonal thing amongst females because I had something simmilar that passed.

I have to admit that gay men and lesbians feel like two very different concepts to me. I don't know if there are ''true'' gay men that haven't suffered from any type of trauma of don't hold an extreme feeling of mysoginy (that hypothesis abou having many sons in a row) but everyday I'm more convinced that lesbianism comes from a totally different ground.

No. 207747

>>207736
I mean when I was trying to self convert to heterosexuality I saw a YouTube video of a girl who was molested by a woman and it made her gay but then she found out that it was wrong and a trauma response. So I think there are some lesbians who are responding to trauma, but if I exist then maybe it's something you can just be, like being autistic. If that makes sense. I would try to change if I thought it was a trauma response, as I know that can happen, but I think when a girl/woman is molested it's either usually hypersexual trauma responses to men, or male aversion.

I think a sign of being gay was that I pretended to be a boy so I could pretend to be girl's boyfriend when I was younger, and thought I fit in with boys too because I was like them on the inside. I'm glad I'm not a child in 2021 because I may have been convinced to go ftm kek. And I never had unrestricted internet access because my mom's great and based, but when I was twelve I did cringe gay stuff. Like drawing big booba women, and secretly dating a girl 'ironically' who i went swimming with, or wondering when I would begin to like men at like 16, because obviously it's just because I'm young and not fully developed that I don't know what it's like to lust over a man yet, even though I forget to breathe when this one girl in class looks at me.

For sure it can be a phase, and I'm happy for you that you got to be heterosexual. Also, I think women are more able to love someone for their soul and spirit, and aren't as visual as a man is. So even if a woman is straight, their heart has so many depths and layers that they may feel connected to a woman who makes her feel a certain way, and feel in love.

I can understand how homo men and homo women can seem different- homo men seem hyper promiscuous and traumatised, but not homo women. And if the many sons theory is right, I may believe it. But if I was a gay man, I would just try to exercise and take testosterone if that theory is so correct. I heard someone on 4chan say testosterone worked on his gay brother. Because imagine being like 'mm man ass' and being likely to have diseases and get cheated on? If I was a gay man, I definitely would want to change.

Do you think you could still change at 21? I'm 18 and I still wonder if by 25, when I'm more of a woman, I'll know what it's like to feel the way for men that I do for women. I don't feel grown up because I don't like men, but I'm in the acceptance stage now and am not trying to change, just feel an underlying and constant guilt. I'm wondering, as they do say in those 'libertarian' spaces that homosexuals are likely to change their sexuality.

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>>207733
Can we maybe not debate about the existence of homosexuality in the lesbian thread? Fuck off. Especially you little miss Hettie Bettie >>207736

No. 207749

>>207748
okay lesbian incel

No. 207752

>>207748
I understand why you feel annoyed that I'm derailing and maybe invalidating you when this is your place to be understood and connect.
I was only wondering if there are lesbians here who grew up without trauma, autism, or anything, so I can know if there's a cause. I believe homosexuality exists, because that's me. Like if you can be a normal girl, and a homosexual. Then I will believe that it's just something you happen to be.

Can you be a completely healthy normie girl who happens to like women, and if so, is that any of you?

No. 207756

>>207752
You do realize you're in a gossip board right? Besides if you're a normie lesbian you can go on the limb and presume you're not the only snowflake lesbian in the world and you sure as fuck won't find " normie" lesbians here.

No. 207760

>>207749
You're the Het that decided to post here; at least the lesbian incel belongs more here then you.

No. 207764

>>207747
> So I think there are some lesbians who are responding to trauma, but if I exist then maybe it's something you can just be
That makes a lot of sense, it's completely normal that you want to analyse your sexuality in order to see if it's rooted on something healthy and non-traumatic. Each day I'm more convinced that lesbianism, because it doesn't involve men, could be the purest for of love and attraction.
>I think a sign of being gay was that I pretended to be a boy so I could pretend to be girl's boyfriend when I was younger, and thought I fit in with boys too because I was like them on the inside.
Whad does that even mean? You felt like a boy on the inside? Don't degrade yourself like that, you could never possibly feel like a boy on the inside because you weren't a boy.
> when I was twelve I did cringe gay stuff. Like drawing big booba women, and secretly dating a girl 'ironically' who i went swimming with
Okay this seems more reasonable.
>For sure it can be a phase, and I'm happy for you that you got to be heterosexual.
Well, I repressed the hell out of it because of internalized mysoginy and I wished for biological children with my future partner.
>Because imagine being like 'mm man ass' and being likely to have diseases and get cheated on? If I was a gay man, I definitely would want to change.
Fucking kek
>Do you think you could still change at 21?
Yes, it could happen, I'm fighting my internalized mysoginy. It doesn't help that I had an absent father figure over which I was obssessed with, seems like there was no other option for me than turning out straight. On the other hand, you had a happy upbringing, that shows you how much conditioned I was to obtain my sexual preference.
>I'm 18 and I still wonder if by 25, when I'm more of a woman, I'll know what it's like to feel the way for men that I do for women. I don't feel grown up because I don't like men, but I'm in the acceptance stage now and am not trying to change, just feel an underlying and constant guilt.
Don't feel any obligation towards males, don't measure your maturity on the level of appreciation you have of them, on the contrary, the maturer you are, the most you'll despise men. I understand your struggle. Nowdays people talk about sex and sexuality 24/7 but it's ridiculous, time and experience will tell us what we need to know. There are millions of more interesting things out there than ourselves, we've become too much self absorbed, people whant to put themselves in categories.

>>207748
>>207760
Anon, those aren't me.

No. 207765

>>207764
Apologies I meant to reply to the dumb het anon.

No. 207766

>>207764
>I think a sign of being gay was that I pretended to be a boy so I could pretend to be girl's boyfriend when I was younger, and thought I fit in with boys too because I was like them on the inside.
>Whad does that even mean? You felt like a boy on the inside? Don't degrade yourself like that, you could never possibly feel like a boy on the inside because you weren't a boy.

NTA but I get this. I also imagined being a boy all the time and I self inserted as the male character in shows because of their romantic proximity to female characters that I was crushing on. It's not troonery, it's just not having a good reference point for what it's like to be a lesbian so in your kid brain you try to make yourself fit into a picture with a woman and the het setup is all that computes. This is also why I'm so happy kids get to see gay people being gay more readily these days, though there is also pressure to troon out unfortunately. I lost years of my life to lack of access to information.

No. 207772

>>207766
Okay, now I get it, it makes sense.
>>207765
( ˘ 3˘)♥

No. 207788

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I've still yet to make a single lesbian friend in this town and I'm so fucking over it. I can't date atm so I'm limited to platonic relationships which makes it extra hard. Where the fuck are the lesbians of Toronto????

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>>207788 I've never tried it but I have friends who have met friends on tinder

No. 207797

>>207791
There are some people that I should not see me on a dating app, at all. I guess I can risk it with the stealth mode or whatever it's called… Are people even okay with someone only looking to connect platonically on there though? It feels shitty to invade a space where people are looking to find love in.

No. 207831

>>207733
Look, I don't have the big answers for you. All I can tell you is what I know that is true to me. No one diddled me as a kid. I grew up in a strict religious environment and felt immense shame for my sexuality, but still, I fell in love. It wasn't enough to stop it. Not so long ago though, I had a mental breakdown, I put myself through conversion therapy. Over a month of navel gazing with other self-hating gays and solo "therapy" sessions where I was drugged and forced to watch lesbian porn while I puke my guts out and some guy yells at me that I'm a disgrace to god. They try to rewire your brain to associate homosexuality with sickness, nausea and distress. After being propositioned for a relationship by a guy from the group I came to my senses though. I left town, ran far away from it all. All the trauma in the world could never make me want to be with a man in any capacity: romantic or sexual. The trauma from conversion therapy was still there of course, but when I met my fiancée I fell in love hard and fast. That's when I knew that whatever homosexuality is, it is not something we can control. I don't believe you can cause it and you sure as hell can't stop it. If you're genuine with this, take this as a sign to stop. I know it's hard, but just stop. Stop reading those stupid sites that theorise and pathologize us. Don't watch those fugazi "ex-homosexual" testimonials. Follow your heart and fuck what anyone else thinks.

No. 207959

>>207733
I was never molested or sexually assaulted in any way at all and my parents are ultimately very loving people, even if they have their flaws. They're immigrants so they had a difficult time and came from a country with different social norms, but they do love me. My dad is actually pretty great and I have a good relationship with him, and he has never crossed any boundaries with me. Or even so much as made a negative comment about my appearance. I can't say I'm not mentally ill, but I chalk that up to living in current society, of which I think we have differing political beliefs on because I definitely do not want a smaller government, but that's neither here nor there. I don't believe my mental illness has anything to do with my sexuality.

I know normal (relatively, considering they are still male, and most if not all males are deranged and misogynistic regardless) gay men. I think the reason many gay people can come across as unstable is because of the extremely homophobic environments that they were raised it. It's very sensible that it would have an impact on their development, and result in people who come across as erratic.


>>207736
I really want to say shut the fuck up hetero, but I'll humor your for a second. Would you similarly compare a woman reminiscing about a crush she had in the 2nd grade on a boy to an HSTS talking about how he always felt female? Probably not. Plenty of gay people report having crushes at young ages, like heterosexual people do, and for those who don't, it's quite normal to not be able to recognize a crush when you're only ever told those happen towards the opposite sex. It's also relatively normal to not have any crushes at all until you're older.

For the record, I actually don't remember having much crushes on well… anyone, as a child. But I'm also very unromantic as an adult and rarely wish to pursue romantic relationships, so that's not very surprising. I definitely have never felt any amount of romantic or sexual feelings towards men.

I'm of the opinion that most humans lean bisexual and completely exclusive heterosexuality/homosexuality is the rare one, but a substantial amount of people who are capable of having bisexual tendencies heavily repress it and are not inclined enough towards same-sex attraction to bother un-repressing it. So it's not surprising to me that some straight women can report having strong feelings for other women, and it's explanatory of the homoerotic behavior that many purportedly straight men display towards each other.

I'm of the subset that is exclusively homosexual, though. I don't think it's all that odd, considering we probably exist as a form of population control or something. Homosexual behavior is rather common throughout the animal kingdom. For a species where childcare is very time-consuming, it's not surprising that there would be a subgroup who don't have their own children.

No. 207963

>>207733
Samefag, but when it comes to hormonal imbalances, I actually had my T levels tested because I suspected they might be abnormal for this + other reasons, and it turns out they're completely average. It was actually my estrogen levels that were in the slightly upper end, although still not in the range of abnormal, so I don't believe it's as simple as hormonal levels leading to a particular sexuality.

No. 207967

>>207797
People are using tinder for anything nowadays, don't worry

No. 207983

>>207733
> And when I look at gay men, and how promiscuous and mentally unstable they seem, I think 'yeah adds up'
imo the problem with gay men is not that they are gay, it's that they are men

No. 208014

>>207733
Damn sis u okay? i’m not even memeing when i say get yourself a vibrator and love yourself.

No. 208024

>>207983
nta but absolutely. men dating men don't have to reign in their degen sides at all so they go apeshit. while i do prefer the company of gay men over straight men, they're still all male and should be kept at arm's length. they feel similarly about us tbh, we just have some shared experience being marginalized and can bond over it but our differences show once we move to literally any other facet of life.

No. 208054

>>208024
samefag, i'm so ashamed of my typo. i meant "rein in".

No. 208069

any other lesbians live somewhere that it fees impossible to find other lesbians? dating apps suck so bad around me, and it feels like lesbians don’t exist in my area. i just want to kiss a girl once in my twentys

No. 208095

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Anyone here hates trannies? Would like to have cute gf and talk about how much we both hate trannies(bait)

No. 208096

>>208095
no one here likes trannies lmao. lurk more. also i don't think you can have a fulfilling relationship merely based on hating troons.

No. 208097

>>208095
Fuck off shitposting tranny.

No. 208156

>>208095
You stick out like a sore thumb you dumb moid. Fuck off back to /tttt/ before you get your sensitive male feelings hurt and make the suicide rate go up again.

No. 208211

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Why do I keep seeing these type of posts? I don’t go looking for them at all

No. 208216

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No. 208231

>>208211
What thread is this?

No. 208240

>>208231
Nta, its the fakeboi thread

No. 208241

>>208240
>>208231
>>208211
As much as I hate the fakeboi thread and all the assmad MTFs, Aidens, scrotes and hetties posting there it's still autistic to go pick a fight with them and complain afterwards. The person saying "tbh you should be ashamed for liking men" and posting about "dykes seething about bisexuals" seems like some samefagging infight psyop to me in all honesty.

That said, the whole thread is lesbophobia central. The last time I checked anons there did not believe any girl would be bullied for having boy toys in her childhood and it just reminded me of how butches and GNC women in general get the shit end of the stick all the time and their experiences can only be understood by someone who lived through it.

No. 208244

>>208241
Half of them cannot even tell the difference between an Aiden and a butch. I'm just waiting for them to start posting pics of butches and dunking on them. I realized quite a while ago that their disgust for Aidens comes from the same place their disgust for butches comes from.

No. 208253

>>208244
>>208241
I hate it when they nitpick Aidens about their appearances. It's fine when it's stuff like rainbow hair and retarded outfits but nitpicking women for being fat/hairy is part of why so many girls are trooning out in the first place. Let them be fat and hairy in peace like men are allowed to be ffs.

> I realized quite a while ago that their disgust for Aidens comes from the same place their disgust for butches comes from.

Same with most online radfem/GC type spaces tbh. I lurk Radblr and Ovarit too and an uncomfortable amount of women are clearly just social conservatives who have issues with GNC people in general.

No. 208255

>>208253
>Same with most online radfem/GC type spaces tbh. I lurk Radblr and Ovarit too and an uncomfortable amount of women are clearly just social conservatives who have issues with GNC people in general.
RF/GC discord servers are like that too. Every time they start with a big group of detransitioned and gnc women, but slowly over time an exodus starts over all the bashing of GNC features, the analyzing of actual women for 'trannie traits', the globohomo sperging and ironically enough the accusing of GNC lesbians of being exactly like scrotes. I almost got more ~dysphoria~ from being in there, than from just existing in patriarchy. Such incredibly toxic environments.

No. 208258

>>208255
ayrt
>Every time they start with a big group of detransitioned and gnc women
This drives me absolutely fucking insane because it's true. It's not even a new phenomenon, lavender menace 2.0.

sometimes I think we would have better luck forming solidarity with TIFs, half of them are already peaked from close contact with AGPs and would be on board with radfem ideas if they're framed as 'AMAB vs AFAB' instead of 'man vs woman'. idk I'm just paranoid that as GC belief becomes more popular it's gonna become more and more generic anti-SJW, openly hostile toward homosexuals/GNC women/etc

No. 208260

>>208253
It really pisses me off whenever they're posting comparison pics of girls before and after trooning out like a bunch of scrotes bitching about how they "ruined themselves", not because they went on T and got their tits chopped off but because they don't look like a conventionally attractive girl anymore. I get laughing at Elliott/Ellen Page's Shinji look and ridiculous ab implants but only because it would look dumb on anyone.

>>208255
This is why despite aligning with radfem ideas I still don't feel welcome in most radfem/GC spaces. I think trannies are insane but I also understand why so many young lesbians troon out and sympathize with their struggles as someone who almost went down that rabbit hole herself. People keep pigeonholing radfems into being just "anti-trans" to the point their communities have been overran with thinly veiled conservatards and weird WLW polilezzies who, like said, think butches are "just as bad and rapey as scrotes", "pickmes who lick male boots" and "men-lite", being completely blind to the irony. To them the cure for FTMs transitioning is just for them to learn to put on lipstick and a dress, literally no better than troons themselves.

No. 208264

>>208258
I agree with your assessment, I've seen several TiFs have very gc-like rants about 'transandrophobia' coming from AGPs. Or how they feel silenced by not being allowed to say they experience misogyny or else it hurts AGPs feefees. The divide between TiFs and other GNC women is an artificial one which is being fueled from 'both sides' and has been observed by cuspers since at least the 90's. They are often automatically ignored, because they fall under ~queer theory~, but after actually reading shit of Jack/Judith Halberstam, it really does feel like we're being played from both sides. One side wants you to ignore anything vaguely anti-trans and the other wants you to ignore anything vaguely ~queer~.
>>208260
>To them the cure for FTMs transitioning is just for them to learn to put on lipstick and a dress, literally no better than troons themselves.
I think this has been fueled even more by the fact that one of the most popular detransitioners is an 'ex-lesbian' who is now a wannabe tradwife. It's not Keira Bell who is being invited to talk everywhere, that's not enough of a success story according to the thinly veiled conservatards.

No. 208265

>>208260
>To them the cure for FTMs transitioning is just for them to learn to put on lipstick and a dress, literally no better than troons themselves.
Sometimes you get conservative mothers posting about their TIF daughters/nieces/etc and I need to physically log off and walk away because it's too much.

>I-I tried to explain that she'll never be able to maternally and motherly breastfeed her babies with her big beautiful womanly woman breasts and it just made her want top surgery even more!!!!!!!!

GEE I WONDER WHERE ALL THAT DYSPHORIA IS COMING FROM.

No. 208266

>>208255
RF/GC discords are the bowels of hell. As a butch I was either looked down upon or got a lot of uncomfortable sexual remarks (even though I talked frequently about being in a relationship) when I would mention weight lifting or my fitness regime. A lot of so-called "radfems" only have those two modes of treating butches: objectification or disgust.

With regards to the FTM thread: I browse it because I enjoy tranny cringe that doesn't make me want to an hero like the MTF thread. That said as a butch lesbian I feel like I'm walking a tight rope in there. A big chunk of the users here, and yes I'm going to say it - especially the borderline homophobic "bisexuals" - just hate any gender non-conformity. Doesn't matter if you're butch or a full blown Aiden they'll hate you all the same.

No. 208268

>>208265
Kek too accurate nonnie. While a lot of feminist mothers are proud to have butch daughters you still get these pieces of work every now and then.
>My daughter used to think she was a boy had crushes on other girls but now she has at long last found her femininity wearing dresses, heels and putting on nail polish! Why, just now she's going on a date with her wonderful boyfriend and I couldn't be happier!
Makes me a-log every time. Not that girls can't turn feminine from being a GNC, of course they can, but that attitude boasting how she got "fixed" into a heterosexual femme in the end is what devastates me.

No. 208275

>>208244
They're already doing that to some extent, at least I've seen a couple of times when they've just posted some butch girl to ridicule with no proof of them ever mentioning being trans.

>>208266
Incoming bitchy rant but naturally the only butches they accept have to be a tall, very attractive and incredibly buff so they can treat as a sufficient replacement for a man without feeling "too lesbian", and even them only as something to objectify. Shorter, skinnier/average butches are the ones they're disgusted by and often are so hostile they attempt to paint them as pedos due to "wanting to look like teenage boys" for wearing sportswear or a snapback. It's all so transparent and I'm not even talking about attraction, just the general treatment received.

No. 208276

>>208275
AYRT and:
>the only butches they accept have to be a tall, very attractive and incredibly buff so they can treat as a sufficient replacement for a man without feeling "too lesbian"
is a perfect description of my bihet ex lmao. Realising I was literally just Diet Man to her was one of the reasons I got the hell out of that relationship and stopped dating bi women. I wouldn't necessarily say I'm attractive but I am over 6' and muscular and that seems to be the two main things bi women always comment on. It was nice at first but now it's just annoying. I am not your Nigella.

No. 208280

>>208275
>>208276
Dating/hooking up with bi(curious) women gave me a weird complex around my height. Like I'm some sort of manlet, while my height is super average for a woman. I can't even get therapy for all my issues without them trying to troon me.

No. 208294

>>207959
Thank you for being honest with me anon.
>>207831
Where do you live for such 'therapies' to be legal? They're banning it in my country but I heard it's legal in the US, Montana specifically.

No. 208299

>>207959
>I think the reason many gay people can come across as unstable is because of the extremely homophobic environments that they were raised it. It's very sensible that it would have an impact on their development, and result in people who come across as erratic.
This is something people forget about all the time, either intentionally or not. Gay men are what moids are for sure, but they also have a hypersexual culture because that's where they sought support from and learned from their elders as impressionable teens with nowhere else to go. Lesbians generally were treated like garbage and ridiculed as the butt of the joke or as sexualized pieces of meat to perform for heterosexual men's pleasure or even correctively raped/assaulted. Gay people tend to lack healthy social networks and peer support due to not following the norm so it shouldn't be a surprise that they turn out unhinged. Like you, I doubt my depression and anxiety has nothing to with being a lesbian but instead being ostracized for it.

Growing up the only other lesbian I knew from around where I lived was the target of countless rumors from whoring herself out to older women to being a criminal despite being a completely normal girl next door, but because she was a homosexual it meant she had to be an all around degenerate. It's going to fuck you up in the long run.

>it's quite normal to not be able to recognize a crush when you're only ever told those happen towards the opposite sex.

I fully agree about this as well. Some anon mentioned self-inserting more into male characters as a kid and I sure as hell did that too, I always thought it was a crush because god knows my baby brain could not comprehend that I was only doing so due to wanting to be in the romantic proximity of women and my best option was to project into the male character. It still continues to this day for me personally, but now I'm just aware of why it happens.

No. 208300

>>208280
>I can't even get therapy for all my issues without them trying to troon me.
Same. The one time I discuss my issues I get diagnosed with "gender dysphoria", fucking quacks.

No. 208312

>>208300
Nta but I went to therapy after a break up and the loss of a parent all happened very close together.. 3 or 4 sessions in we were talking about my gender identity for some unkown reason. I was trying to say I was secretly into women.. got diagnosed with GID? (twice over because my country was working on some system of needing it backed up by another professional too) I took T for a year and one day I just stopped and thought… wait what the hell am I doing here?? I was also on meds that numbed me when I went along with this.

I had no desire to transition before this therapist. I was a lil bit butch and closeted but nothing more. My one surviving parent hates me because of it. Now I'm not an idiot but I was in the middle of a mental health crisis at the time so fuck me.. I was vulnerable and just going with what she said. I'm less annoyed about the effects of taking T and more upset that I lost my dad to it, spent a couple of years concentrating on such a non issue too. All when I had bigger issues that I needed to get help for.

No. 208329

>>208312
AYRT, I'm so sorry that happened to you, nonny. These people prey on the vulnerable. I was staying in a psych ward when I got my diagnosis. I never took HRT seriously considered it and had a trial period of close friends calling me by a male name though but I slightly relate to women who did as my PCOS gives me a taste of what that's like and it's fucking awful. I hope you're doing better in life now, stay strong.

>>208294
Don't really wanna say where as I'm paranoid but it is illegal here, it just doesn't really mean shit. Campaigners are well meaning but very foolish to think that making it illegal will make it go away. All I had to do was ask around to find a place that gives "talk therapy" to gay people and then badger them into trusting me. It was very cloak and dagger at first and they literally checked my walking stick to check there was no recording equipment in there and gave me a pat down but once they realised I was genuine they were fine. I don't even know what drug they give me and if that's legal but I heard them talk about other churches doing this "service" so it seems like the law isn't holding them back.

No. 208373

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>>207679
>>207703
I'm the anon that originally posted about it and nah, it's not sketchy, the creator is a bit of a boomer so the ads for it really suck, the app itself is not perfect, the verification process (the stuff you read out loud) is kind of cringe, but otherwise, it has potential in that it literally does have real lesbians posting on it, no tolerance for trannies (terfy users, including the creator who seems GC/radfem but I didn't want to out her so that the transcult doesn't harass her and the app). I was not trusting because she had plans for trans and bisexual app, but I think she only made those to keep the transcult and bisexuals off her back for the lesbian exclusive app.

I tried it myself because I just stopped caring about whatever people are going to do with a video of me saying something random in order to use a lesbian app, went in with extremely low expectations, but was pleasantly surprised that actual lesbians do use this (including some boomers). It does get boring because the dating section hasn't been added yet and it's usually the same active users you see so far, but it's literally the only app we have now. Giggle was going into the lesbian exclusive direction, but it completely turned into just a woman's app, so not only it doesn't work, you see women complaining about men and their boyfriends every day basically.

Anyway, worth checking out. I'd like to see it grow because there's nothing else at this point and I would like a wife tbh

No. 208375

>>208373
To add, it's kind of like a small community/social media thing going on, so after you sign up, you can post anonymously. I'm pretty sure the app creator would probably be legally responsible if she leaked the videos of the people reading the phrase out loud? or at least it'd be a dick move? I don't know, but it's just a lesbian app, not promoted as a terf app, but I think once you join you'll see that everyone is on the same page

No. 208411

>>208264
i've noticed all the detransitioners who manage to cobble together any amount of a platform are usually either the vaguely socially conservative or outright conservative ones. like helena lacroix who's mustered together a bit of a following on twitter, then goes around sperging how women these days are never pressured into becoming mothers and gender roles are real, actually.

it just makes me think all this tranny shit is going to lead into a massive social conservative backlash, because the most prominent voices speaking out against the matter are hardly ever radfems or at least people criticizing it from a leftist perspective. i almost can't blame TRAs who think the only people who are critical of the trans movement are conservative, when they try to poke into it and find benjamin boyce getting his dick sucked.

No. 208414

>>208411
>i almost can't blame TRAs who think the only people who are critical of the trans movement are conservative, when they try to poke into it and find benjamin boyce getting his dick sucked.
Same, which is why I side eye the anons who not-so-subtly attempt to steer GC discussion to bitching about gay men for being gay and use words like faggot liberally. While there's truth to them being men and coming with the regular baggage of male misogyny baked in it's still obviously these people testing the waters to see how far they can push the envelope to proceed from "I think gay men need to respect women more" to "Actually all homosexuals are degenerates and should be sent to the gulags, lesbians included". You give them an inch and they'll take a mile, conservatards are on the lookout all the time to sneak into radfem/GC spaces due to mutual hatred of trannies and they're only a few slurs away from attacking lesbians and pro-choice.

No. 208417

>>208411
>like helena lacroix who's mustered together a bit of a following on twitter, then goes around sperging how women these days are never pressured into becoming mothers and gender roles are real, actually.
Yeah she's the popular 'ex-lesbian' wannabe tradwife I was talking about. She is also invited on a lot of podcasts and to do a lot of interviews. Her exgf is poc, so the sudden pandering to racists and coddling of her nazi brother is a bit eerie. She also said on her curiouscat that gay couples shouldn't be allowed to adopt and that it's unethical.
> i almost can't blame TRAs who think the only people who are critical of the trans movement are conservative, when they try to poke into it and find benjamin boyce getting his dick sucked.
Nevermind that WOLF accepted money from anti choice nutters or how the only well known RFs are either polilez or hets who recently jumped on the 'maybe divine femininity should be pushed' train. Almost feels like both sides collaborating to get rid of us, tankies never liked lgb either, considering it bourgois decadence. This shit has been apparently predicted since at least the 90's.

No. 208442

>>208414
agree, hatred about gay men (which i wholly don’t disagree about when it comes to calling out the misogyny they’re sometimes given a free pass for) quickly devolves into sperging about how homosexuality itself is degenerate. which even more quickly morphs into lesbophobia.
and its genuinely insane how the conservatards consider homosexual men to be more degenerate, considering the history of behavior that straight men have towards women. heterosexual men will always remain the most disgusting fucks.

>>208417
helena is an ex lesbian? holy shit, didn’t know that, definitely makes me hate her even more than i already do. i thought she was just a straight ex ~transmed.~

i also despise the divine femininity stuff. it’s all misogynistic bullshit geared towards indoctrinating women to be submissive and view themselves as secondary to others.

No. 208446

>>208411
>>208417
>>208442
Someone redpill me on who's this Helena Lacroix character, I can't find anything by googling.

No. 208454

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>>208446
Aka as Helena Kerschner https://twitter.com/lacroicsz
I wish I actually took screenshots when her curious cat was still up, because it was milky af. Lots of pick-me prose about how she's the perfect tradwife, dunking on lgb (not just T) and coddling of her nazi brother. Her ex-gf wrote a Medium article or something to defend against the weird shit Helena was saying about the relationship, but I can't find it atm. Maybe someone more autistic than me can. Helena really is held up as the perfect detransitioner, not only did she become (hyper)feminine again, she also 'realized she wasn't a lesbian'.

No. 208459

>>208454
This is why I hate spergy political lesbians, you know it takes one Perfect Nigel to turn them into homophobic tradwife larpers overnight spreading their "dick cured me of lesbianism uwu" story conservatards will take as true gospel and weaponize.

No. 208476

>>208417
>>208454
What the fuck, she's become an ex-lesbian tradwaifu now?? That's fucking disappointing, I remember when she started that detrans podcast with those other detransitioned girls. Never would've expected this.

No. 208502

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>>208446
she is insufferable. she seems to have scrubbed her CC clean where she went into depth how she thought gender roles are largely biological and also the tweets where i recall her saying dyke more openly, but heres some choice tweets to laugh at.

"if you take the most /cynical/ perspective possible on the year 1921, barely two years into (some) women getting the vote, one could say they were only taught to be babymakers." she is delusional, lol. and apparently she is oppressed as a woman for wanting to talk about "loving men."

do you guys think she's a self-hating bisexual? i wonder what took her down this route.

No. 208503

samefag but i love the complete self-awareness she lacks when she says "without being descended on by a mob for loving men" when it's her, and not any lesbian radfem, that has managed to acquire a platform.

No. 208516

Quite frankly we're not hard enough on polilez women. I'm so sick of these bitches! This is why it was so important to keep the Q in LBGTQ (should be LGBQ, I know) as questioning; it's a very important title IMO and it needs a revival. There's nothing wrong with not knowing your sexual orientation but it's super fucked up to call yourself a lesbian because you only date women or you prefer them or you're only doing it for political reasons. This is why I like to state I'm homosexual these days, lesbian is getting watered down by these bored dumbasses who play pillow princess for dykes until Nigel comes along.

No. 208520

>>208516
The queer label is quite accepted now and it basically means "questioning" (tbh it means anything you want) and yet still these women call themselves lesbians. Or if you talking about radfem polilezzes - they won't call themselves as questioning, since many of them like to pretend to know everything about female sexuality. And political lesbianism and lesbophobia is a core part of radical feminism since the beginning - they literally invented polilez. They will always be like that. But overall I agree with you and lesbians in general should stop being spineless doormats with het women in hopes of getting accepted in some ratched cannibalizing community

No. 208522

>>208520
AYRT, polilezzes are why I distanced myself from radical feminism. I hold many of the core beliefs but I can't associate myself with these women, they drive me fucking nuts. The lesbophobia hurts a lot more when you believed that the person who's doing it is just like you. I really don't like queer as a label personally. Might be because I'm an oldfag (nearly 31) and have heard that word mainly used in a derogatory sense, but also because when queer can mean anything… it can also mean nothing. When I was a baby dyke I was welcomed with open arms while calling myself questioning. It's a clear label and people know what you're about. When someone calls themselves queer I just get confused. Could mean they're straight but consider having a fucking pixie cut some sort of daring act of gender non-conformity, could mean they're a troon, could mean anything. Also it's original use was to mean "weird" and I refuse to label my homosexuality as weird, as rough as my internalised-homophobia might be I will never "other" myself like that again. Problem is nowadays when you say "please don't call me queer" you get a horde of Aidens and bihets telling you that you're literally committing an act of violence by policing their identity despite the fact I've never told people not to use it for themselves.

No. 208532

>>208522
what i hate about the polilezzes is how repulsed so many of them are by actual female homosexual attraction. they want lesbianism to be this pure uwu refuge from men where all women desire to do is hold hands and bake cupcakes together. sorry ladies, i think women are hot and i want to fuck them. it doesn't make me less radical or feminist than you.

No. 208574

>>208532
NTA but I loudly agree. I hate that they're making lesbianism about some infantilized poetic sapphic moon goddess female bonding shit, I'm an adult woman who likes other adult women who like adult women and want to have a romantic relationship and sexual intercourse with them. It's not deeper than that and trying to mystify homosexuality is doing it more harm than good, it's shitty enough to maneuver in a sea of "WLW" bihets who would never touch pussy and we don't need more.

No. 208580

>>208532
>>208574
THIS. When I was in a radfem discord I got tut-tut'd for simply stating my attraction to said actress or musician or whoever-the-fuck was being discussed. "yOu'RE oBjECtiFYing hEr!" Oh please, have they never heard men talk about women? Saying "I wouldn't kick her out of bed" is hardly in your face but I guess I should've worded that better and said I wanted to braid her hair and bake bread with her, maybe then my homosexuality would be acceptable. I got so angry and escalated the argument so much that I may as well have said I wanted to go down on her 'til I grew gills kek.

No. 208582

>>208580
Honestly there's an art to being respectful when expressing attraction, "I wouldn't kick her out of bed" is a pretty scrotey and objectifying line and I'm not surprised that women are on the edge seeing how badly men treat them, especially in an open discord space and not a very private, small group who knows and trusts you enough not to have their feelings hurt over locker room talk. The infantilized "w-we couwd howd hands and bake bwead togethew" is the other extreme and makes me uncomfortable as well, but personally I'm not a fan of being outright told by a stranger how much someone wants to fuck me worded like I was a piece of meat, even if it was a woman I would jump in bed with at the snap of her fingers.

No. 208584

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>>208275
>>208253
I don't know which brave anon posted this (picrel), but I'm already worried about the response. It's true though, I have very bad muscle envy. Yet when near a scrote with my goal arms or something, no attraction, just envy. I always wonder what I would've been like if I saw things like Gentleman Jack at a young age. Would I have been more normal? I hate that I on one hand have an extremely deep hatred for scrotes, but on the other they're imprinted on my brain as my competition.

>>208516
>>208520
>>208522
After being told to be repulsed from the queer label through endless repetition, I have actually started to warm up to the label. It's not a word used in my language and some important (to me) authors like Jack/Judith Halberstam and Ivan E Coyote (author of Tomboy Survival Guide and the poem 'butch roadmap', which also helped women detransition) fall under queer theory apparently. I don't want to have to avoid books reflexively just because it happens to fall under queer theory. I really liked Female Masculinity, I thought Jack/Judith did a great job showing how both sides feel about the debate (in 1998 no less!), how radfems feel about it and actually took everyone's concerns into account. I have a feeling that a lot of TRA's haven't even read what they are (supposedly) preaching. Like a bunch of Christians who don't even know what their supposed bible says. Queer wasn't supposed to be for straight women with boyfriends, who think they are a part of the community because of their pixie cut. Queer was originally supposed to be more referring to 'outside of heteronormativity', in academic circles, but that went to shit. It feels culty to have to avoid everything related to 'queer' and go anathema to you, you and you. Not referring to you specifically, but I think some RF spaces can be equally culty to TRA spaces. Meanwhile Dworkin having lesbophobic rants and endorsing incest and pedophilia in some of her books apparently isn't a reason to immediately throw them collectively in the trash, so they should be capable of nuance by now.

>>208532
>>208574
>>208580
>>208582
Only wholesome handholding, or off to the gulag, you male-aligned abuser! I even got shit for pointing out that it's kinda weird for a supposed lesbian to go on a rant about how disgusting it is to even kiss another woman, but instead I was the devil for pointing it out. Polilez are unironically the source for third wave feminism being full of bihets larping as lesbians and for the association of female masculinity with privilege and abuse.

No. 208590

>>208582
NTA but c'mon, I really think it's quite tame, and I've seen bi/het women say similar things about men (not that I believe men can be meaningfully objectified in our current society, so even if when women do say very objectifying things about men I do not care at all). It's an offhand comment about a celebrity in a non-public discord space, so while not the same as saying it to a private inner circle, it's not as if she'll ever read it.

I mean, I've definitely said more vulgar about celebrities. Must we always be restrained and classy about our attraction where the people in question will never see it? I know scrotes would make the same argument, but the difference is that theirs is backed by actual societal power and true disrespect for women.

No. 208592

>>208582
It was a small discord group of alleged friends. I'm not so stupid I would say that in a large group where I didn't know people. If you think saying that about a celebrity who will never know I even exist, much less that I "objectified" her is scrotey then you must know some real gentlemen. Men seldom express attraction without vulgar details.

>>208584
As a butch I've experienced a lot of envy towards men too. Not so much now as I've basically told myself that I'll be my own damn inspiration but when I was younger it was pretty bad. I would never admit it off anon though because the absolute geniuses in the FTM thread would think I'm a bi in a denial who's gonna troon out. True, I have a dysphoria diagnosis but really all that is issues nearly every woman struggles with and my desire to look a certain way that is seldom seen on women (at least in heterosexual society).

I don't get the Dworkin thing either, lady was fucking nuts but she's their Christ on a cross. Find it hard to believe that any real lesbian could be a fan of hers once they found out what she said. Sure, you look her up on social media and see some nice lil curated quotes but if you dig deeper it's not so great. I think that goes to prove that a lot of radfems are either homophobic polilezzes or don't read a single fucking book on the topic, or sometimes both I guess.

No. 208593

>>208592
I like Dworkin and I think her book on pornography is genuinely worth reading for everyone, regardless on how you feel about her. She wrote most of the really batshit bestiality/incest stuff when she was drugged out of her mind early on in life and walked back on it later. I find her polilez antics annoying, but other than that and the aforementioned coked up insanity, I generally agree with her. I don't disagree that many RFs haven't read the literature though which is why they'll blow up on you if you criticize PIV as the primary form of heterosexual sex.

No. 208594

>>208593
AYRT, as much as I hate some of the things she said I actually don't mind some of Dworkin's work, especially the stuff about porn. It's just that I don't get why people put her on a pedestal like she never did wrong or said some fucked up shit. Seeing memes of her and weird little edits of her as profile pictures is so fucking surreal. It's essentially stan culture imported to RF/GC circles.

No. 208595

>>208593
This is the kind of nuance I mean. If we can have nuance for Dworkin of all people, why does everything with the label 'queer', have to be thrown into the trash? Even though it doesn't have nearly the reprehensible shit in there, compared to what Dworkin wrote. Almost all the positive things about butches and female masculinity is under queer theory. 'Boots of leather slippers of gold' has an entire introduction included about queer theory. It's like this thought stopping technique preemptively stops any gnc lesbians from being able to read about their own history, outside of the carefully constructed framework which polilez provide, so you cannot find out about what polilez have done to the actual lesbian community. So you cannot find anything positive about female masculinity, because you're supposed to hate yourself for being 'male-aligned'. Hell, dr. Finn Mackay has been cancelled in radfem spaces for having sympathy. Meanwhile Posie Parker is still vehemently defended, while openly admitting she's not even a feminist and harassing lesbians.

No. 208597

>>208595
Any chance you have a list of books/etc on female masculinity that aren't too troony? I really love that Ivan Coyote poem and Tomboy Survival Guide. sorry for sperg but I love you and the other anon(s) having this conversation. I grew up dysphoric and had I been exposed to Tumblr at a younger age would have 100% been FTM. It's hard to be a lesbian in general right now but it really especially sucks to be GNC because both sides assume we're just broken male-brained freaks

No. 208600

>>208597
Seconding this request for books on female masculinity. I quite liked Tomboy Survival Guide for something I thought on first glance would be troon adjacent BS. And don't worry, nonny. You're not alone with these struggles, women like us are more common than you'd think. Stay strong. ♥

No. 208601

>>208595
I agree with you that rejecting any and all literature from someone just because they're termed a queer theorist is dumb and jumping the gun. I think many of them have said worthwhile things. I would rather seek alliances with many of them than I would conservatards like Posie Parker or even Megan Murphy who seems to have gone down that route, honestly. And I suspect more of them would be far more willing to reach out to us if it weren't for the males, who benefit from stifling these conversations.

As an aside, if we're being fair here, advocating for incest has also reared its head in some queer theory, so we can't pretend Dworkin is the only perpetuator of that one, unfortunately.

No. 208606

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>>208601
Sure, but I don't think Halberstam or Coyote are the specific perpetrators of that. It's others under the label of queer theory who have done so. Those two are not really comparable to Dworkin being both the person who had horrific takes and good takes. Judith Butler would unironically be a better comparison to Dworkin. Before I get crucified over this, she's just really bad at getting her thoughts across in writing and she's against the concept that anyone has an intrinsic gender identity, like some sort of internal truth. TRA's are reading things into her writings, which aren't there. She said as much in the recent Guardian article, but everyone focuses on her supposedly dunking on le evil terfs, when she's seemingly talking more about gc conservatards and blatantly saying that TRA's misinterpreted her. Even her 'biological sex isn't real' thing is more related to a thought experiment of a planet where sex is seen similarly to height, so a real thing, but just not so emphasized and we wouldn't have patriarchy. She was probably very high while writing these things and it's so convoluted it confuses most people. I swear if TRA's actually understood what she was saying, she would be cancelled as a terf.
>>208597 >>208600
I'll sit down and make an actual in-depth recommendations list with descriptions and how much if any troon adjacent bs is in there. Sometimes it feels more like it's just a forced-in paragraph or chapter to keep them from being cancelled, which can be easily skipped.

No. 208643

>>208582
Not a scrotey thing to say, that's as sanitized an expression of attraction as it can get while still being normal

No. 208739

>>208643
i'm glad the thread seems to agree there's nothing wrong with it, i was like damn… if that's scrotey, then well.

No. 208740

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i find it weird when people think butches look like men. even male-passing ones have different faces that distinguish them from guys. like i cant put my finger on it but this lesbian for example: she's probably mistaken for a man a lot but she still looks so female to me? what is it?

No. 208743

>>208740
Heteros are obsessed with gender expression and can't see past it. We see sex characteristics.

No. 208746

>>208740
Most men have more bulgy prominent brow ridges than her for one thing.

No. 208756

>>208740
>>208746
Scrotes have more skin on the eyelids, hairline follows a female pattern, small ears etc.

No. 208757

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>>208740
I also think it's weird. Do people just look at the hair and clothes and not the person? Male and female heads and bodies have noticeable differences.

No. 208758

>>208757
Not the best pic but there are a ton of differences big and small. Like, no adam's apple. Smaller hands. Rounder eyes and face etc

No. 208763

>>208743
This. I'm butch and get sir'd and mister'd quite a lot. It's like my haircut and clothes just fry peoples brains, men especially I've noticed. Granted my height does make it tricky as I'm way taller than the average female height and I'm fridge bodied with a flat chest to boot but my face is still quite feminine, as is my voice. When I go to gay bars I never have that problem though, I get people ask my pronouns, sure, but that's more of a "oh you're female but you might be a LARPer so I better be polite" thing.

No. 208766

>>208763
This is why it kills me when I see other gc butches say they are okay with lesbophobic hets throwing them out of public bathrooms now. The problem is gross AGP's trying to get in there, who aren't exactly going to dress or look even close to a butch woman. If they still try to throw you out after the first 5 second confusion, it's lesbophobia. Hets will do that even to visibly pregnant butches. It's really not THAT difficult to figure it out

No. 208773

>>208766
nta but God my least favourite thing in GC spaces is that weird self-flagellating shit butches do like "unlike TIMs I would NEVER want to make a woman uncomfortable and would gladly remove my hideous threatening butch self from a restroom if Helen McTradwife felt uncomfortable!!!". And then 20 comments from het women like "YAAAS thank you for being so supportive of real women this is definitely a reasonable expectation for us to have!!!".

I just don't believe that het women actually read butches as male, maybe at first glance but once you get a good look and especially if you hear her voice butches are clearly female. Maybe I'm a cynic but I think 99.9% of the time when a het woman feels unsafe around a butch woman it's because she's homophobic, not because the butch actually passes as male. Butchphobia/lesbophobia is misogyny and I wish more butches were brave enough to say it.

No. 208778

>>208766
>>208773
Part of me feels bad for those butches as the whole "oh no, it's ok, I'll leave!" schtick absolutely reeks of internalised misogyny and homophobia but on the other hand I wanna scream at these women that they're spineless traitors. Wearing mens clothes and having "unladylike" mannerisms doesn't make butches anything like male trannies and if straight women can't handle that fact then they can fuck off and campaign for a hettie betties only toilet. They can paint all the walls pink and have a nice Acceptable Female time in there. Like I said in >>208763 I understand that at a glance I might look male, but if you actually look at my face for more than two seconds it's clear that I'm not. I've had women get spooked by me in the toilets before and I used to apologise profusely but not anymore. If anyone stares at me now I just smile and say hi, no more apologising for my existence.
>Maybe I'm a cynic but I think 99.9% of the time when a het woman feels unsafe around a butch woman it's because she's homophobic
Same tbh. That's why I've become more assertive when these situations do happen because I know what these women have a problem with and it ain't that I'm some sort of magical fucking unicorn whose sex is completely indiscernible.

No. 208780

Can't find a man hate thread to post in so here goes.

In Hong Kong a man pretended to be a butch woman and hooked up with a lesbian online. They met irl to fuck and it wasn't until he whipped his dick out and penetrated her that the lesbian realized it was a he, and she called the police on him for rape. The kicker is that the scrote was found not guilty. All that agreed with the verdict are scrotes.

Piece of shit society I live in, as if the Commies aren't making life hell enough. Thank god I'm a lesbian and don't feel attraction to a gender that is mostly scum.

No. 208786

>>208780
Jesus Christ that's awful, that poor woman. I actually lived in HK for a couple years and I really loved a lot of things about the place but a lot of the men I met and worked with were absolute scum. The things they said when they found out I was a lesbian made me want to punch them.

No. 208787

Going to my first gay party, wish me luck nonnas!

No. 208788

>>208740
No idea who she is but she's gorgeous.

>>208787
Good luck anon!

No. 208790

>>208773
I'm not butch but I agree with this. It's hard to accept a woman would be unable to clock another woman's sex, it's gotta be homophobia at least in most cases. Butch women are amazingly masc but they're still built like women, even muscular ones. And that's one of the many great things about them lmfao

>>208778
I love your energy, never change. I hope there are other people around you that can follow your lead on this. I want us all to stand our ground, especially against het women who we can reasonably defend ourselves against.

>>208780
Manhate, pinkpill, GC are all banned on lolcow now and have been for a while unfortunately. Hopefully our thread is okay to post about that kinda thing still, idek. The news story itself is harrowing… I didn't know Hong Kong was that much of a shithole.

No. 208796

>>208786
Some just don't get the idea that lesbians are lesbians not because they haven't had dick, nor would change their minds after being dicked. And they have the gall to call Hong Kong girls bitchy.

>>208790
Between the death of democracy, the discrimination against East Asian minorities, discrimination against LGBT, and blatant sexism, Hong Kong really isn't the place to be right now. Half of my friend circle are BNO holders and are planning on fleeing to the UK, and I don't blame them.

No. 208815

Yeah! transitioned lesbians just look female.

No. 208819

>>208773
Absolutely based post nonnie and completely agree. Literally nobody reads butches as male and it's all about homophobia and misogyny, it's just an indisputable fact. But butches sadly are conditioned to believe they're comparable to men and should be super self conscious of everything they do to avoid offending tradwifes, more of them should be made aware of this.

No. 208839

I don't know if anyone remembers me, but I'm the one who was blindsided by my ex going on a smear campaign about me. I almost let that destroy me, but I have come to terms that my ex is 100% a narcissist and the signs were actually always there. I will not let her get in the way of my own healing.

No. 208853

>>208839
I don't remember the specifics as I have memory issues but I do remember you talking about your situation here and I'm glad to hear you're doing better, nonny. I went through something similar with my ex and finally letting go of that grudge and accepting that the people who truly know me will know what to believe made me feel very peaceful. Sometimes you really do have to take the high road.

No. 208865

people here are so much chiller compared to the clg lesbians. does cc have a les thread btw.

No. 208888

the inner rabid feminist in me makes me feel so guilty for being attracted to women. I feel horny by thinking about women being sexy and I instantly guilt-trip myself by convincing myself that only coomer-brained scrotes think those types of thoughts. being raised catholic isn't helping much either.
unrel but a lesbian coworker/friend loves to tell me about her hookups and is a butch fuckboy (fuckgirl?) but i want to have sex with her so badly

No. 208890

>>208888
You should go for it

No. 208892

>>208780
men and communists ruining our beautiful island, we should train the wild boars to eat party members

No. 208926

>>208780
There was also a case recently (I think it was in the UK) where a lesbian hooked up with a TIM. When she found out he was a TIM she sued him and he dressed super masculine in court so that no one would believe she actually thought he was female. He won of course.

No. 209006

>>208888
sleep with her, do it.

No. 209015

>>208888
go see what she's got and then come back here and tell us about it.

No. 209018

katie herzog has a twin sister oh shit

No. 209019

>>209018
>>209018
God Herzog is hot. I know it's not very feminist but I wanna be in a polycule with her and (alive) Magdalen Berns

No. 209020

>>209019
based anon, i hope you spend time with them in your dreams

No. 209033

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I had a really sweet, beautiful dream last night where I had a butch gf and we were fucking and cuddling and fucking over and over and the light shining through our bedroom window was so soft and warm… I'm losing my mind I need to get out there. Thinking about that dream makes me feel all sorts of wistful. picrel show was a gendery bisexual mess but dream gf had short blonde hair and I can't be assed to find a different pic that will fit the post rn.

No. 209041

nonitas how do i go about fucking a woman. i'm so irresponsibly horny these days i can't handle it. i understand the answer is dating apps like tinder but what do i say. i feel so awkward. every conversation either dies so fast or it's revealed the girl has a walking fungus of a boyfriend.

No. 209067

how are we all so relentlessly horny ITT, goddamn

i have a ridiculous crush on this cute butch cashier because she helped me get my keys unstuck from the bottom of the shopping basket once and then she also recognized me from it a week later and was really nice about the whole thing. i feel like trying to ask her out while she's on the clock is scrote-tier creepiness however so i will sit and pine and do nothing as usual (plus with my luck, she's probably married or something)

No. 209088

>>209067
Try flirting with her a little bit, next time. That way, if she doesn't respond, then you know you have no chance. Also, if you do get to ask her out, it won't come out completely out of left field.

No. 209101

Feels like everyone likes femmes or butches, but no one who's in between or "chapstick". Feels bad.

No. 209102

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>how do you feel about labels?
Feels like everyone defines themselves by the clothes they generally decide to wear. You have to fit into /this/ specific box of manly or girly girl for some reason.

Does no one ever like to dress in fun girly clothes one day and practical clothes another? I feel like people expect you to be one archetype and stay that way. But for me it depends on where I'll be and how I feel. Also, I guess when I dress girly it's because I think people are more forgiving of how awkward I am, so I'm cute awkward instead of creepy awkward. And it might throw people off radar so I can seem straight to other girls and my family. If I'm dressing manly/practical, I want to be left alone and escape the prison of femininity (lots of harassment to lots of girls here). But dressing for me would mean big boots and glittery stuff and a skirt that's puffy. Anything that's comfy, flouncy and fun.

>>209101 You're really heckin' valid, I specifically love that in between of manly and girly girl. But do you dress like that every day? Do you think other people can tell if you're homo by your style and mannerisms?

UNRELATED but the thread pic doesn't look like a couple. They both have the same curly hair, strong nose and level brows. It looks like siblings playing dress up.

And not to dig up old feuds, but are there actual homo women who watch homo men animes and think 'yummy scrummy'? How can a fujoshi who wants to see men that way be a real homo woman? Are they not just bi in denial at least?

No. 209112

>>209101
I'm between both in style and mannerism and I feel really comfortable with myself this way. I haven't noticed a lack of attention from lesbians/bisexuals but I do look GNC. If you're "straight passing" I can see why you'd be frustrated.

>>209102
Please don't open the fujoshit can of worms anon, I beg you.

No. 209115

nonnies, i work at a hardware store and the most beautiful woman walked in for some light fixtures. She had the kind of raven black hair that looks blue in some lights and the most striking icy blue eyes and her teeth were perfect. She had this alto voice and by her accent i figured she was german and like a grade a tool i started stuttering trying to speak german even though i know german. She said that my german was good and after i rang up her stuff she gave me a sweet smile and a "tschüß". I could have died right there.

Why does it hurt so much?

No. 209116

>>209101
fuck i chuckled cause in finding the comfy space between butch and femme i started wearing tinted chapstick cause it’s easier than lipstick.

No. 209136

>>209101
Both me and my wife are this way, anon! I had dreams of being a butch when I was younger, but I'm just not masculine enough to pull it off. So I'm in the middle.

No. 209138

>>209102
to be fair i've noticed some lesbian fujoshis headcannon male characters as more feminine. A lot of them make fanart or write fanfic involving crossdressing and use feminine adjectives to describe them. I guess they project on male characters.
Either that or they're scrotes.
I might fall under fujo because I like some mlm media but I've never been attracted to the characters. I just like the themes fujo related media often have, e.g. angst, yearning, internalized homophobia. There are some wlw media that have those themes but not nearly as much as the mlm ones, because too many scrotes write wlw. I'm not a fan of fujo media that involves crossdressing, it feels scroteish.

No. 209146

>>209102
>Anime skirt go spinny gif
>girly girl girly girly tee hee
>"I guess when I dress girly it's because I think people are more forgiving of how awkward I am, so I'm cute awkward instead of creepy awkward"
>heckin' valid
>Weird baby talk all over
>Randomly starts shit about fujos not being true and honest lesbos
Honest question, are you a troon?

No. 209148

Had a shit night, got like four hours of sleep and did not feel bright and rosy when it was time to grab a bag of leftovers and get on the commute to work. Then all of a sudden my day is turned around when the train ticket controllant is this gorgeous butch in a suit. Her smile when she checked my ticket made me forget the question about traffic I had so I had to flag her down later to ask and all that same time she's just smiling and being so god damned handsome. My slight stutter broke out a little, I think, which I truly hope she didn't notice. I felt like crap hiding inside my huge black hoodie with music blasting in my ears to try and wake up and suddenly the world is all sunny because she's so fucking radiant. When I got off at my stop I looked back and caught her eye again, we both smiled. Shitty morning turned around entirely. It's crazy how sudden and strong attraction can be and how deeply it can affect you. I'm still on an oxytocin rush. I love women, I love women so much.

No. 209151

>>209102
>How can a fujoshi who wants to see men that way be a real homo woman? Are they not just bi in denial at least?
Fuck it, I'll bite.

I love the complexity and beauty of real, live women. Every women I've ever met, even the worst of them, will have something I find inherently interesting or wonderful about them. 2D men are like funny little barbie dolls I can make kiss for my amusement without having to feel guilt for watering down or objectifying other women.

I thought I was bi for around 10 years because I loved 2D boys so much, but the second a real man even looked at me I'd feel physically ill. I was the type of person who would be like "my taste is feminine boys and all women" but when I actually got into a situation where a feminine man was interested in me I was literally physically nauseated at his attraction towards me. I was pretty much only dating or crushing on girls during all that time, but I struggled to call myself a lesbian in part because my fujo tendencies became such a huge part of my hobbies. It helped knowing that I had other lesbian friends who were also fujos, idk why this is common but it is.

I still prefer 2D media with male character focus and m/m ships, maybe because I like that there's little to no chance for misogyny to suddenly appear in the middle of the romance, or because some f/f stuff hits way too close to home. Sometimes when I want to scratch that romance itch, it's hard to pick up a lesbian series and not be hit with longing or old memories, or to pick up a het series and be grossed out on behalf of the woman. With m/m I can just zone out and watch some pretty anime people that barely resemble real men and barely act like real men be happy together.

No. 209154

>>209146
Kek I was going to ask the same. Talk about serious tranny vibes
>>209148
That's so cute nonny! I hope you get to see her again

No. 209161

>>209151
Your last paragraph summed it up perfectly. I'm a degenerate when it comes to m/m but I can't stomach anything m/f, I always start feeling bad about what the girl character has to go through or get mad over how she's given the worst, objectifying writing possible. Being a lesbian I also can't relate to these het romances at all, whether you want it or not there is always a male to female power imbalance between them, even if fictional.

And as for f/f representation, most seen in fiction are either sexualized ultra femme/femme created by and for scrotes and bihets or woke-pandering, performative, infantilized ~sapphic~ garbage for snowflakes so there isn't much left to enjoy - even if it was a good, interesting lesbian couple there's still a possibility of some moid masturbating over it. They sexualize every inch of being a woman and especially being a lesbian, so you're never safe. But when it comes to m/m material they're absolutely repulsed, especially when it's two female-created men who act and look like nothing like IRL males. A perfect escape, so to say, you're just supposed to read between the lines.

Like you, I also thought I was bi because I liked these fictional 2D anime men. But the thought of being with an IRL man has always been disgusting, unnatural and weird, I thought I just hadn't "met the right one" because why else would I be so attracted to fictional men? When I realized how many lesbian fujos there are and how a large part of the "attraction" was actually me self-inserting into the male character instead of crushing on him or straight out reading the character channelling the female author it all seemed to click.

Too bad so many autistic lesbian fujos are brainwashed into believing it's ~gender dysphoria~ and that they're actually gay trans men attracted to other gay trans men. Butch4butch relationships need to be popularized more.

No. 209163

>>209101
I'm butch but my fiancée is "chapstick" or "futch" or whatever the hell you wanna call it. I love her versatility, she's confident in tomboyish stuff (and she loves to steal my clothes but I don't mind 'cause she looks better in them than I do) and confident in traditionally feminine stuff and confident in anything in-between. I really do admire the fact that's she not held back by any norms. I think women like that are the majority nowadays, given that most butches and GNC dykes have trooned out and femmes seem to be dying out too for some reason. I guess the lack of a concrete label makes it hard for women who are "in-between" to actively communicate with each other.

>>209146
That anon is a troon and no one here can convince me otherwise. Males are a special kind of retarded when it comes to impersonating women and I can spot them a mile off.

No. 209164

>>209161
>Butch4butch relationships need to be popularized more.
This, I genuinely cannot think of any popular butch/butch couples or stories outside of that one autobiographical manga about the butch girl talking about how hard it is to date other butch girls, pic related. I'm femme myself and even though I also like other femmes, there's something so… sanitized? artificial? about how EVERY major f/f ship is either femme/femme or like "comparatively butch"/femme. I love butches, and I feel like the vast majority of lesbians I know irl aren't nearly as femme as are often portrayed in media and I feel like that really negatively affects the perception that some young lesbians have of other lesbians.

No. 209165

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>>209164
>pic related
>drops pic
Good job, me.

No. 209169

>>209102
Seconding that you sound like a tranny. But for humor reasons, I'll entertain the fujo question too.

>>209151 nailed it pretty well. I was also one of those "I like feminine men and all women" people, but thought the reason I was never attracted or interested in any RL men was because they weren't feminine enough for my tastes. At some point, after encountering a decent amount of feminine men IRL and trying to look for pictures of men that I was attracted to, I realized that the level of femininity was not the issue, but the maleness altogether. Any time any man expressed attraction to me, I felt completely and utterly repulsed at the idea of being on the receiving end of their affections, even if they allegedly were my "type." I despised the thought of ever having sex with a man and came to understand that my m/f "fantasies" were just me self-inserting as the man.

But anyway, back to the fujoshit. I can't stand m/f ever for the same reasons as other fujo anon, because I can't tolerate when misogyny seeps through into the relationship and it disgusts me to see men attracted to women, lol. It never feels like just two people in a relationship, because the societal implications of such a pairing constantly linger. In retrospect, I've realized the reason I use to avoid f/f when I was younger was because it hit too close to home and the attraction to the characters felt far too genuine.

M/m lets you ignore all the societal power dynamics and just construct a relationship between two individuals without all the accompanying issues. I think I'm different than other fujo lesbians in that I actually heavily prefer f/f to m/m these days, there's just far more trash f/f than there is m/m, or at least garbage in a way I cannot handle. The issue is I'm a complete degenerate who wishes for the content I consume to have some sexual elements, or at the very least erotic, and most 18+ f/f is dogshit made for scrotes where you're supposed to voyeuristically look at two hyper-feminine girls having sex, instead of portrayed in a way where it actually feels like there is a dynamic between them.

There's also considerably more variety in settings and tone when it comes to m/m. Even the best of f/f tends to be of the upbeat, slice of life nature. I enjoy reading characters in an array of times and places, and am also quite fond of (intentionally) twisted & complex relationships, the second of which is exceedingly rare. In any f/f I've found, at least. The most twisted you tend to get is incest, which I hate.

I can get by on m/m erotica because the panels I prefer are the ones where you're not really looking at a male body, but closeups of hands, face shots where the person in question bears zero resemblance to a real male, or anything that's focusing on the words they're saying to each other rather than what they look like. And when they're clothed, any similarity to a real male drops to subzero.

>woke-pandering, performative, infantilized ~sapphic~ garbage for snowflakes

Kek, exactly, I hate that shit. I'd literally rather read f/f for scrotes than the sanitized "let's wokely uwu then hold hands" mind-numbing dross that sometimes gets recommended as an alternative.

Anyway, I think it tends to be fairly obvious when a fujo is actually a lesbian vs the comphet masterdoc addled bisexuals who read "lesbians sometimes like fictional men" and ran with it. In my experience, fujo lesbians are more interested in the dynamics, whereas the bis fixate on lusting after a specific male character.

No. 209172

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>>209102
Also, the thread pic definitely looks like a couple. Look at the hand placement. It's not as if tons of hetero couples don't sometimes resemble each other.

After doing some googling, it seems to be a promo shoot for Lily Elsie & Adrienne Augarde for a play called the New Aladdin. So not actually a couple, but intended to look like one. Picrel, obviously.

No. 209173

>>209169
It's also funny how people keep insisting that characters in fujoshit "don't even look like real men" yet still accuse lesbian fujos of being "closeted bisexuals" because the characters just don't happen to have female sex characteristics. Make up your mind.

>>209172
Kek tranny-kun probably needs them to be sloppily making out to be a "real lesbian couple"

No. 209174

>>209173
>Kek tranny-kun probably needs them to be sloppily making out to be a "real lesbian couple"
Exactly. Men have a hard time conceptualising female homosexual intimacy because straight women are typically quite tactile with their friends so if we're not shoving our tongues down each others throats it's just gals being pals.

No. 209175

>>209173
Where am I accusing lesbian fujos of being bisexuals? They don't look like real men so you can squint and work with it if you like the dynamic. Doesn't mean the bis who talk endlessly about fucking a male character don't read as bisexual to me, because they're actually focusing on the male sex characteristics. Those people aren't even fujos, so I wasn't calling fujos closeted bisexuals. I guess my wording wasn't clear but I was trying to differentiate between fujos and the people who talk about sucking the dicks of ten thousand male characters but say its comphet.

No. 209176

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No. 209177

God, can't at least this thread be free of sperging about fujos and fictional scrotes?!

No. 209178

>>209175
It was referencing to the initial tranny post above sperging about muh closeted bisexuals.

>>209177
Sorry anon but seeing how being a fujo is almost synonymous with being a lesbian in Japan and how many nerdy lesbians started realizing their sexuality when talking about sexual things with other girls using boy characters as stand-ins it's a pretty integral part of their identity and bound to come up every now and then. Especially when the thread gets baited by some spinny skirt troon.

No. 209179

>>209148
Lesbians just fukkin chug the “all women are queens” juice don’t we.

The staff member at my local boots who handled the flu and covid jabs was a dream. fauxhawk, helix piercings as standard. she was wearing a suit and i was swooning.

No. 209180

>>209177
Hey man, I said I preferred f/f. So if you have good f/f to talk about, be my guest.

>>209178
Yeah, for whatever reasons anyone wants to theorize about, it's a phenomenon. So it's going to come up sometimes.

No. 209184

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>>209169
>quite fond of (intentionally) twisted & complex relationships, the second of which is exceedingly rare.
I actually really liked early Orange is the New Black because of this. It had it's own slew of issues overall, but I really loved Piper and Alex's relationship in the first two seasons. They were so messy and toxic but so interesting and sexy. My friends gave me shit for liking Piper because she's such an awful person, but she was so entertaining to watch because of it.

No. 209187

>>209184
The first few seasons of OITNB were my guilty pleasure as well. My favorite was whoever Natasha Lyonne's character and her love interest were. They had a very messy relationship too, iirc.

I just wish we had a female version of Hannibal/Will Graham. It's one of my favorite twisted dynamics. I know Killing Eve hits some similar beats (and I do love that show, not fully caught up yet though) but Hannigram has more of Hannibal mentally fucking with Will directly and huge abuses of power, which I like.

No. 209190

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I see people sperging about Supergirl (?) on Tumblr and I can't bring myself to watch a capeshit show just to see a lesbian. It looks like they're not even actually dating. Currently debating whether I wanna ruin my nostalgia for The L Word by watching the new qweer~ season. I hear they're gonna pair Shane with a tranny and it's keeping me from watching. Why…

I was super excited about the Locked Tomb book series because it has tropes I like but I discovered the author is a "lesbian" who is happily married to a man. Her cope is that she was a Homestuck back in the day and bought into the idea of non-sexual romance and the quadranted poly bullshit that comic came up with so she married her best friend… for some reason? I hate that. The books are still good and I'll read them but I wish I could erase from my memory the information that she is a fraud.

No. 209191

>>209190
I used to have a few friends in the Supergirl fandom on tumblr and they're all high on copium. It's not canon and never will be and the show fucking sucks anyway. I love Katie McGrath but even she can't make that show watchable.
>she was a Homestuck back in the day and bought into the idea of non-sexual romance and the quadranted poly bullshit that comic came up with so she married her best friend
The shit bihet women come up with to defend their attraction to men lmao.

No. 209197

>>209191
Yeah… I wanna hold out hope that it was an immigration/tax reason or something but I can't let myself believe that kinda bullshit when she has made no effort to explain herself. That she identifies as a lesbian and not just bi is an insult.

No. 209199

>>209190
what's the point in marrying your best friend, why not just live with them long-term? especially if she's an actual lesbian who'd want to leave the door open to marry a woman someday.

being literally married to a man is going to be a massive turn off to any woman looking to pursue real relationships with you. bihets are so goddamn annoying and i don't understand why they're so desperate to call themselves lesbians.

No. 209204

>>209146
Can't believe you would say something like this to me. Literally shaking in my aliexpress platform boots rn.
I meant I try to appear feminine because I want straight women to accept me. I used to have girls suspect I was gay, and as soon as word got round it was like fake niceness. Being held at a distance by close friends and girls asking you personal things or 'testing' you. I became really paranoid about appearing homosexual so I feel as though feminine appearances would throw people off.

I would wear a puffy skirt but I hate the way makeup feels and it feels like I'm insulting myself by wearing it. I don't shave but I would love to wear nail polish that makes me happy. I don't think that makes me a 'troon'.

I said 'heckin' valid' ironically, but it seems as though we both have autism seeing as you didn't get that.

And the fujo stuff, I don't know if they watch it lustfully or because there are no women involved and it's 'distant'. I don't get yowee anime but if you do that's ok.

>>209168

I believe you more because you believe that there are some masterdoc readers who think that lusting over men (b-but they're just drawings) doesn't make them bi. There's nothing wrong with being bi anyway, unless you built your identity over being a homo.

However, fujos who enjoy seeing dynamics between two people and relationships unfold from a removed standpoint, I understand, that doesn't necessarily sound lustful. I'm a severe yurifag though and I don't get how it can be better then yuri (I understand the 'troon' comments for me now lul)
>>209173
im crying i just said they look similar

No. 209218

>>209204
I honestly also thought heckin' valid was said in full seriousness. Tism strikes again.

Anyway, like I said I do prefer f/f, it's just that the pool is rather limited. So I guess these days I'm a fujo by circumstance.

So many lesbians in this corner of the art scene are fujos that it actually makes me feel a bit scrote-y for liking yuri sometimes. Especially since I tend to get bored if the entire thing is PG (would probably apply less if most yuri wasn't slice of life). I'd like to talk about yuri with more lesbians but troons overrun absolutely any discussion of it. And have shit taste, because they're moids.

I also like yuri VNs but I wish more of them were dating simulator style instead of kinetic novels with a set story. It sort of contributes to the feeling that the experience is meant to be from a voyeuristic, male perspective rather than one where you relate to the characters. It feels very lame to admit that I wish more f/f media was styled in a way where you're meant to self insert but I don't interact with any other media I consume in that matter and I suppose it's alright to be indulgent sometimes.

No. 209247

>on the train, kinda crowded
>standing sheepishly in front of two women sitting down
>one looks at me and says she likes my flannel, calls it cool, holds eye contact
>itsjustaflannel.jpg
>t-thanks
>look down awkwardly after catching a glance at their name tag thingies
>some kinda church
>I'm holding one of those rainbow Ikea bags for gays
>avoid the gaze of the one that spoke to me till they get off

I was never smooth but I'm spilling criminal levels of spaghetti because of lack of social contact in lockdown.

No. 209258

>>209190
I feel the same way anon. I love the Locked Tomb books but Tamsyn Muir being a bisexual larping as a lesbian killed my hype for the series. I think what bothers me most about this is that the majority of Tor's/Tamsyn's marketing for the books focused on her experience growing up as a lesbian. The fact that they very carefully refer to her husband as her 'partner' is super shady, like they're trying to hide the fact that she's married to a whole ass man.

No. 209266

>>209169
I've definitely noticed this and I'm not even really into m/m. Often f/f is written either totally uninteresting and passionless or grossly pornified (and somehow still also passionless). On top of that, look at any website people publish slash on (AO3 for example) and the m/m and m/f categories are vastly larger than f/f. So not only is there a lot of bad to filter out but there isn't even much to begin with… the number of good f/f that I've read is probably in the single digits and it's not for lack of trying.

No. 209339

>>209204
>I hate the way makeup feels and it feels like I'm insulting myself by wearing it
That's exactly how I feel. I love feminine fashion but the idea of women being judged as not good enough to just exist, and needing to "make up" (see what I did there?) for it by jumping through extra hurdles because by just existing without the fuss women are "trying to be men" or something, really pisses me off to contribute to. It's so interesting how, when you're feminine enough to pass as straight, women (even bisexuals and some lesbians who know you're a lesbian) think putting the word butch before lesbian gives them the right to unleash their unhinged homophobia because they assume you'll agree if it's not about femmes.

No. 209340

>>209190
>>209258
Sauce on this? I thought I was the only one who did research on her, read the article where she talked about being a lesbian and then saw in her bio that she was married to man. What the fuck.

No. 209351

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>>209340
So there are a few sources. One was her Wikipedia, the other was her old Tumblr blog, the third is her Twitter. The tweet announcing her marriage is still up on her Twitter, though the Wiki page has been scrubbed. Her old Tumblr might also still be up, it was all about Homestuck.

https://twitter.com/tazmuir/status/650396880682250241?lang=en

No. 209354

>>209351
No her wikipedia page as of right now states that she is married to her husband. Although if you look at the page's edit history, you can see edits back and forth adding/removing info pertaining to her marriage.

No. 209357

>>209339
Yeah. It feels like there's no 'just exist' for women. A guy puts on a pair of jeans and a shirt, fine, nobody cares. A girl does that, it's 'trying to be different'? And it feels like you can be called nlog for not wanting to fit into a tiny box of femininity that many other women don't want to be in either. But to fit in that box would also make you frivolous and girly, vain.

For us there's no winning unless we stop caring and seeing ourselves through other people's eyes. I always feel more human surrounded by other women because I'm seen as a fellow, a human, a soul more than a body.
Around men, I feel I become an 'other' either an interest, a nuisance, or something silly. That's why I'm sad places like Michfest may be gone for a while. It was a place for women to be human, to thrive, be safe, freely expressive. It wasn't anti man, it just didn't involve them- and that's why it was so freeing. I hope this website stays up.

No. 209362

>>209357
I get you, I don't get how my aunt and sister can claim to like men better as friends lol. I almost want to reply that it's great as long as the man doesn't want to fuck you winch is chances are that he does.

No. 209403

>>209247
Embarassing encounters on public transportations? Count me in.

>on bus, standing back against wall

>tall short haired woman standing in front of me
>bus does fast u-turn, woman lets go of handrail and leans forward, right hand pressing on the window next to my ear
>didijustgetkabedoned.jpg
>she chuckles and says sorry, doesn't stand back up
>oh no she sounds hot
>face is so close wtf
>it-it's ok
>voicecrack
>woman still not standing back up
>praying for her to remember social distancing
>ears flares up, face turns red, eyes darting everywhere to avoid looking at woman
>position kept until I get off the bus
>facepalms once I get home

No. 209420

>>209403
ngl this was hot and your pathetic squeamishness was a contributing factor.

No. 209450

are there no good lesbian dating apps? i feel like there are no lesbians where i live anyway, so maybe i shouldnt even try.

No. 209526

>>209357
You put it into words perfectly anon. Why can't women just BE? We're always being put into categories even when it's not our intention - she's too girly because she likes makeup and skirts, that one's too masculine because her hair is short. Why does there have to be a bigger and deeper meaning to normal things we do and wear? Why can't we just live like a human without getting labelled over the littlest things?

No. 209530

I wish there were more '"loser" women in the world. It feels like everyone on the apps has their shit together, has a decent career, travels. I just wanna meet another lesbian poorfag. The only women in my league financially are bihet single moms looking to try a woman this time.

No. 209544

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Jannies redtext that like it's a bad thing.

No. 209545

>>209544
>red-pilled lesbian
nothing redpill was even said if anything the post was criticising men, that's just their pearlclutching way of calling anon a manly dyke because the truth hurts

No. 209547

>>209545
I feel bad for laughing really because if I got that ban message I'd be fuming but I thought I'd screenshot it for posterity. Case #54586593469 of lolcows lesbophobia problem. Redpill-chan was responding to an unhinged anon who called Seth Rogen a "sexy dad", she was right and she was saying what we were all thinking.

No. 209555

>>209547
Sexy dad is such a cope lmfao

No. 209556

>>209555
The whole "dadbod" trend is just copium for fat dudes. Women are the ones that actually carry the baby for 9 fucking months and have their bodies changed permanently but no, never mind the mothers. Let's cut men slack for getting fat. Fucking ridiculous.

No. 209577

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>>209403
kek nonnie, you reminded me of this webm

No. 209579

>>209556
Hmm 'dad bod' is literally my ideal moid body type so some people do find it attractive. Even the whole concept kind of turns me on like I wanna fuck a moid who's realised his life is kind of meaningless & hasn't had anyone pay attention to him as a person for a bit or something idk. Sorry I just realised this is the lesbian thread saged for straightfagging

No. 209580

>>209530
im also a lesbian poorfag, if that helps anon. everyone has their lives together and i’m just the broke one.

No. 209589

>>209545
>if anything the post was criticising men

Her post didnt say anything about men, it was just shitting on straight women. Seth Rogan is not remotely sexy and never was but still.

No. 209593

>>209577
The girl on the right gives me weird vibes but the energy is incredibly hot

No. 209607

>>209545
I usually roll my eyes when anons say heterosexuality is an illness and such, but the anon thirsting for Seth Rogen needed to be shamed for her own good

No. 209612

>>209403
i agree with other anon. i wish i could manifest the energy of that woman but i'm a short awkward dykelet

No. 209618

>>209530
>>209580
Poorfag solidarity. I want a gf so bad but every time I think about signing up to an app or going out to meet someone, I'm instantly reminded of my sad ass bank account and the fact I still live (closeted) with my parents. I'm trying to just focus on my career right now but I wish I was better at making money so I could be more available and meet someone.

No. 209620

>>209618
do it anyway anon. you don't need to be wealthy to date someone. don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself or making excuses. download literally every app and start looking. it'll take a while to find a good match anyway.

No. 209627

>>209620
It's not really about being wealthy, rather, I have literally no expendable money right now, also no car, I'd be a complete leech if I met someone right now. I have confidence in some aspects of my life, but I find a deep shame in having to ask people to cover me for basic things like food and drinks if we go out. Ideally, I'd love to be the person treating my date, so not being able to cover my own ass lately is rough. Thanks for the encouragement but I want to get myself reliable income in my field before I can think of myself as ready to date.

Also because my parents are religious, I want to have some money in the chance they decide to kick me out or something if I have a gf. I hid my relationships when I was a teen and I don't want to do that any more out of respect for the girls I'd be dating, but I don't want to come out while still being dependant on my family and risk losing a home. Sorry for blogging, it's just been on my mind a lot lately.

No. 209638

>enter gay cocktail bar
>3 older lesbian elder goddesses already seated at the bar
>they see me coming in and all look and smile at me
>we nod at each other, there is such kindness in their eyes
>feel extremely good about it
>get flustered and sheepishly sign in to the bar's covid contact list thing and be seated at the opposite end of the bar
>eye them all night betwixt my zoomer phone addiction looking situtation
>truth is my friend bailed on me and i drank alone and texted with other friends instead because of it
anyway that was my night.

No. 209639

>>209627
This post just reminded me of how my longterm gf hides our relationship from her mother. I honestly really hate it, but her mother is retarded and for financial reasons we have to stay at her place at the moment.

It just feels really bad whenever she pulls away from me when her mother comes into the room. Hate that woman.

No. 209641

>>208766
part of what peaked me was troons getting into the ladies room at the bus station while old ladies eyeballs popped out of their heads as they yelled at me once my butch ass turned toward the womens side of the entrance

No. 209642

i think idris elba's wife is perfect and i love her and he looks way older than 49 and she should divorce him and come to my garden party

No. 209647

>>209530
I'm not even necessarily a loser, but my past keeps haunting me. I sometimes feel like one of the few single women in my area who has a poor working class background. I don't want to be pitied or looked down on or be treated like "not like the other poors" or have the constant implication that the rest of my family is just lazy. It becomes very difficult to relate to middle class born with a silver spoon in the mouth types. At the same time I've changed, my vocabulary changed due to being lucky enough to go to university. It wouldn't surprise me if I've become difficult to relate to too, but just because I know a couple fancy words, doesn't mean I've stopped being white trash.

No. 209650

I met a really cool lesbian when I went fishing this morning. We were both out to catch something to cook for lunch for our partners and I love that. It was really nice to share some coffee with a fellow butch and talk about domestic stuff and weddings and kids like it was the most natural thing in the world. Usually I just meet sketchy moids when I'm fishing.

No. 209655

>>209647
>but just because I know a couple fancy words, doesn't mean I've stopped being white trash.
I think this is part of it for me too. I don’t want to be dirt poor forever, I’m planning to do community college and at least get out of retail hell. But I’m not ambitious, or career driven. If I had more money I’d want to move to my parent’s hometown and help out my family and smoke pot with my cousins, not live in a nice suburb/city. I could never have a relationship with a woman who didn’t get along with my extremely trashy (but very sweet and not even homophobic) family. Idk I want someone who sees the value in my background because there's a lot I really love about it.

Sorry for blog I just have a lot of feelings kek. I yearn for a woman who will build me a time machine and take me to prom on a tractor.

No. 209666

>>209655
Same, I >>209647 just want to get a trailer or build my own cabin once I have the money for some land, the city is too chaotic for me and I just don't fit in. Grow my own weed and some edible crops. My degree probably makes others think I'm looking to be some sort of powercouple or climb the ladder.
>Idk I want someone who sees the value in my background because there's a lot I really love about it.
Same, I'm not American or in/from the US, but I feel kinship as a fellow southerner. There is something relaxed about it, an acceptance of chaos and imperfection within families and people which city folk don't seem to understand, even though cities themselves can be quite chaotic. The food too.
>Sorry for blog I just have a lot of feelings kek. I yearn for a woman who will build me a time machine and take me to prom on a tractor.
Sounds like a wonderful dream anon, hope you can realize it!

No. 209668

>>209639
Does the mother think you are just friends? How did you explain you having to move there? Sorry just curious.

No. 209671

>>209650 i love the feeling when you meet someone like you and you stop feeling like an outsider for a short while. Always wanting to get into fishing too (i want to be a pirate) so maybe fishing and vintage fashion can be like homo dogwhistles lol.

>>209351
Maybe she became bisexual later in life though after starting off being gay. I heard you can change with age.

No. 209688

>>209671
It was nice to meet another lesbian organically too. Usually I have to put up with shit like bumble to try and find lesbian friends but there was literally one right under my nose at my local fishing spot. My fiancée actually bought me a "women want me, fish fear me" cap that I always wear when fishing now so I'm trying my hardest to claim this hobby for the lesbians kek.

No. 209698

I really wanna wear a fucking suit and tie to my cousin's upcoming wedding but my dad already insults and disapproves of me for getting a "gay" haircut and my family is Catholic. I think going in a suit with this hair would just end me but I wanna do it anyway. I'll probably be sorry if my family cuts me off for this but I hate I'm in this position in the first place. With nearly everything in my life I'm like no fucks given do what I want. But because of some homophobic assholes I feel pressured to wear a fucking wig and dress. If it wasn't obvious no I'm not out. Just venting in anguish.

Anons feel free to say what you would do in my position, I'm curious.

No. 209699

>>209698
I've been in a similar position to yours. I caused a lot of arguing by wearing a shirt and tie (was a poorfag who couldn't afford the full suit back then) to my Bat Mitzvah and my deeply religious, deeply homophobic family still hate me to this day for it. Thing is I wasn't even out my family back then but they already sensed I was gay due to my GNC ways so I was just burning that final bridge. It was tense at the time and I've had moments where I thought I did the wrong thing but I know now I took the right path. There's no pleasing religious fanatics, if you're already getting shit for a fucking haircut then I say go all out and wear a suit too.

No. 209703

>>209671
>heard you can change with age
Not gonna touch that, another can of worms.
However she still identifies as lesbian, markets her books as a lesbian author, and wants people to think she is same sex attracted and only platonically married to this man.

>>209698
Maybe just don't show up to the wedding? While I want you to be able to just wear what you want and not be judged, another perspective on it is that it's someon'es wedding and you showing up in attire that will cause drama is probably a bigger fuck you to your cousin than not showing up. Don't make someone's wedding about you. Just don't go.

No. 209712

>>209703
Idk my mom said i can change for the right guy and an anon in the bi thread said she used to be gay until her early 20s, so it seems possible. I think it’s super dishonest of that author to do that though and market herself as something she’s not.
>>209688
Kek i love your fiancée for that, we had better colonise fishing so we can congregate. For some reason gay girls end up finding me anyway even though my hair is long. Still don’t know how they can tell. I imagine finding girls like us on the internet to be a nightmare.

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>>209712
That anon didn't use to be gay, she just didn't realize she was bi the whole time. You keep referring back to your mom, are you a child or something?

No. 209743

>>209707
fuck off

No. 209777

>>209703
>>209698
ayrt, that's a good point. It was selfish to not consider how they'd feel if I caused a scene at their wedding. No I'm not in the wrong for wanting to dress and appear as I want to, but the potential conflict it would bring would be uncool to inflict on them. The bride and groom aren't even among the homophobic one, it's just the retarded boomers.

No. 209778

>>209668
Sorry for the late reply anon. Yeah, the mother thinks we're just close friends/roommates. We live in a high cost of living area, so it's pretty much impossible to live on your own unless you have a high paying job, so it's acceptable to her for us to be together to split rent and bills.

I have no idea how she hasn't figured it out yet. I guess if there's anything I've learned it's that straight people can very willfully view anything kinda gay as 'they're just friends!' lol.

No. 209800

>>209778
Is your mother going to find a shared bed and you’ll just have to say it’s to save a cost on beds and use body heat to save on heating?

No. 209809

>>209778
The one good effect of people viewing female intimacy as devoid of sexuality and just a "gal pals" thing is that it's pretty easy to stay in the closet when you gotta. My first gf used to come watch my boxing matches and one time after the match she didn't think and gave me a peck on the lips and I was waiting for the aggressively homophobic mean girls to pounce on me for being a dyke and nothing happened. My gf just awkwardly followed it up with "I'm so proud of you, best friend!" and everyone seemed to buy it kek.

No. 209845

>>209809
noo i need a ‘best friend’ to watch my matches and give me pecks ahhh

that is very cute

No. 209864

>>208890
>>209006
>>209015
Update:
We hooked up but now she won't stop flirting with me and acting like an ass during work. RIP though the sex was worth it

No. 209872

>>209809
>My gf just awkwardly followed it up with "I'm so proud of you, best friend!" and everyone seemed to buy it kek.

lol anon, I guess there's one benefit to the sexualisation of women
>gay people being gay
>everyone: just normal friend stuff, nothing to see here

No. 209929

>>200981
I'm probably going to have to give up on dating, but it's a hard pill to swallow. Idk if I'm just THAT ugly or it's bc of the butch thing, but 9/10 likes are from agp's and couples, the last 1/10 is always someone 4 years younger than me, which makes me feel icky and wouldn't even work as friends. There are no lesbian bars near me and I have never been approached by a woman as an adult, that supposed butch ~privilege~ is nonsense. It's been years and my looks can only go downhill at this point. Do I really have to perform femininity to have someone interested in me besides agp's? Is it just my face? Are they all worried I'm going to troon out? I know insecurity isn't attractive, just a bit difficult to feel confident nowadays

No. 209947

>>209929
I'm sorry nonny. You're probably not ugly, dating just really sucks right now. Even without the AGP/couple bullshit, lesbians are rare so it's always gonna be a challenge to find someone.

>Are they all worried I'm going to troon out?

This might be part of it unfortunately. Maybe try including a TERF dogwhistle in your profile? If it's safe for you to do so of course. Also are you into other butches/GNC women too? Or just femmes? I sometimes feel a bit intimidated swiping/hitting on butches because I'm not a femme. If you're into GNC/other butches you could try including a line about that in your profile.

>It's been years and my looks can only go downhill at this point.

Also don't fall for this, The Wall is scrote bullshit and women just get more sexy and interesting with age. Especially butches you're gonna be a silver fox.

No. 209949

>>209947
>I sometimes feel a bit intimidated swiping/hitting on butches because I'm not a femme. If you're into GNC/other butches you could try including a line about that in your profile.
I included B4B in my profile and that I don't have a type, so open to different aesthetics. It's a difficult balancing act to dogwhistle being a terf, but also not scare off some of the hot nb's. I have found out about the concept gender nihilist, which is apparently accepted in queer circles, but idk if that would be too obviously crypto.
>Also don't fall for this, The Wall is scrote bullshit and women just get more sexy and interesting with age.
Logically I know you're right. It's just difficult to believe it when it seems all interest in me evaporated once I grew up. It's as if nobody was ever really into me or into butches, but I was just visible and available. Now I'm obsolete. At least it feels that way. I'm also just not as attractive as other butches, I hope lifting can make up for it.

No. 209951

>>209929
I'm butch too and like >>209947 said you should try and include some TERF dogwhistles. There is a fear of butches of trooning out but to be fair it is frighteningly common these days. The dreaded "wall" is bullshit though. Women love the naturally grey stripe through my hair that caused me so much anxiety when I started greying. Honestly, I'm very average face wise but as a butch it's easy enough if you keep in shape (not to sound big headed but all the women I've been with have loved my muscles), dress well and smell nice. Not to state the obvious but your personality is what truly matters in the end, especially if you're seeking a relationship. Good manners and a sense of humour go a long way.

No. 209961

>>209929
Ditto on the dogwhistle. I still swipe right anyway if it's unclear that they're not a gendie but there have been profiles I hesitated with because it's hard to tell if someone's NB or butch lately. No pronouns, mention of being GNC or some second wave feminism reference (libfems don't know anything about feminist history so it'll fly past their radar). "gender nihilist" seems okay, you can just play dumb. Again most libfems are not living on Tumblr looking to cancel people, the people you meet outside of the internet are not gonna clock a damn thing.

>>209947
>women just get more sexy and interesting with age
Big agree. Working out does matter to me personally but wrinkles? Nope.

>>209951
You're 100% spot on for me.

No. 210070

God damn it god fucking damn it I love my best friend. Even if we never get together, I just KNOW I'll never have this kind of relationship with anyone else. We've known each other for 10 years through the most turbulent and formative years of each others lives and it's only made us closer. Yet even though we're both gay she told me multiple times that she wasn't attracted to me. It was comforting before I developed feelings but now I can't see myself with anyone else and I have no idea if her opinion of me has changed. We lightheartedly kiss on the cheeks/hands sometimes but we kissed on the mouth recently and she just said "that was weird" and we never talked about it again. Fucking kill me.

No. 210075

>>210070
I'm saying this to be kind, not cruel. But you need to start emotionally distancing yourself now, before she gets a gf. This women isn't interested in you and never will be. As much as it hurts to swallow that pill now, it's going to hurt 10x worse later.
>I just KNOW I'll never have this kind of relationship with anyone else.
Not with that attitude you won't! This woman is not your soulmate. You have a malignant case of oneitis and if you don't start the chemo today you're going to both ruin your friendship and miss out on your actual soulmate.

No. 210094

>>210070
Bonds of love are chosen. You can choose to invest time into someone else, make memories, and grow just as close if not closer. If you never put in the effort to have something special with someone else, you never will. And you'll be stuck pining for someone that didn't choose you despite all the right pieces being in place. Move on babygirl.

No. 210233

Nonas I need to vent for a moment. I'm so done with straight people. I know it's beating a dead horse saying "heterosexuals am i right" but I'm so tired of them always failing to understand homophobia and acting like they have any idea how it is like to feel ashamed for falling in love or finding someone attractive, or full well knowing that your family will disown you if they knew. The trauma of growing up as a lesbian is so severe I don't want to have a relationship at all and I'm probably doomed to be alone for the rest of my days. I considered trooning out for years to escape the shame and guilt of not finding men attractive. I saw myself as a broken woman, a defective woman, someone who shouldn't exist and someone who is universally hated, even in circles that consider themselves "woke". Literally nobody gives a shit about us, especially if you're GNC. >>209339 described it with perfect accuracy.
>It's so interesting how, when you're feminine enough to pass as straight, women (even bisexuals and some lesbians who know you're a lesbian) think putting the word butch before lesbian gives them the right to unleash their unhinged homophobia because they assume you'll agree if it's not about femmes.

So taking all this into account, while all women get harassed and discriminated against for their sex it's in such poor taste for straight women to claim that in fact they are just as oppressed as lesbians are. Acting as if lesbians aren't below straight and straight-passing women in the societal hierarchy. Acting as if our struggles don't exist, or at least aren't worth explicitly mentioning as a separate issue. Listen, you might know what experiencing misogyny is like but you don't know about homophobia. Nobody will ever systemically shame, ridicule or belittle you for being attracted to men. Never will you know how it is. Someone making a "ugh imagine being attracted to men" jab has no power over you. Having a meltdown and threatening to revoke your allyship due to "heterophobia" tells more about you than the mean lesbian. I will forever defend women and their right to exist as equals to men as a feminist but as a lesbian - fuck your fragile heterosexual feelings and entitlement. Fuck it, keep it out of my face. How the fuck dare you be offended over something so insignificant.

No. 210246

>>210233
There was something like this in the vent thread in /ot/ this week. Some idiots getting triggered cause a lesbian called Seth Rogen ugly and said women should have higher standards when it comes to men so obviously she got called a lescel by some girl virgin

No. 210267

Will you take the pill when homosexuality is cured?

No. 210270

>>210233
Honestly I may be done building friendships with heterosexual women. So often they are completely blind to the idea that maybe their oppression as women doesn't give them insight into all kinds of oppression that they don't experience. Most are unwilling to learn, to humble themselves. I still care about all women in the feminist sense but I may just keep hetero women at arm's length at this point as there is always some bs lurking underneath the surface.

No. 210320

>>210233
>>210270
Ever since I pruned my social circle and only kept close friends with lesbians my social life has been so much better. I don't mind having work or gym friends who are bi or het but I'm not letting them get close because I'm sick of covert lesbophobia poisoning my friendships. I get a lot of shit when I talk about this, mainly from bi women who think it's a personal attack on their "queerness" but I just want likeminded friends who get me; it really is that simple. I'm nearly 31 with a serious illness, I'm done wasting time being the token lesbian friend who gets shat on. I encourage any lesbians who are struggling with their social circle not understanding them or being outright lesbophobic to do the same. It's freeing.

No. 210338

>>210267
I think so, but then would I enjoy yuri light novels the same? I feel a little ill with myself for being this way and really hope to be a mother one day, but just can’t bring myself to go primal for a man like I do a woman- so would I raise kids without any natural father figure
just because of my lusts? I didn’t choose to be this way, so it’s not an ill intentioned choice, it just doesn’t go with my values, furthermore, I feel so othered to other women and disappointing to family who don’t like the lifestyle (even though i doing choose it) so I think being straight would be less mentally burdening. Like >>210233 said, the ‘broken woman’ feeling is real.

>>210320
I hate the words ‘queer’ and ‘queerness’, it feels like people treat it like a hogwarts house or personality type.
People who would fit into society and be able to live normally just desperate for a spicy little label. Whoever said ‘when everyone is queer, no one will be queer’ was wise.
>>210246 I don’t like lesbophobia, experienced a lot of it, but sometimes I think lesbians can be a little misogynistic because they feel so othered to other women due to being different. So I understand the ‘lescel’ label, but hate being treated like a kind of foreigner by other women.

No. 210341

>>210267
i'm repulsed at the thought of being attracted to men, so nah. as frustrated as i am being a lesbian sometimes, i think the alternatives are much worse.

No. 210351

>>210338
> I don’t like lesbophobia, experienced a lot of it, but sometimes I think lesbians can be a little misogynistic because they feel so othered to other women due to being different. So I understand the ‘lescel’ label, but hate being treated like a kind of foreigner by other women.
I mean. Straight women being raging lesbophobes is also misogynistic, lesbians are still women even if other women think we're icky. And acknowledging that Seth Rogan is gross is not heterophobia or misogyny. Idk I feel like a lot of lesbians fall into a trap of giving straight women too much credit and assuming that if they hate us it's because there's a valid reason. There isn't though, lots of straight women are just normal homophobes who give gay men a pass because they're sassy and fun. I'm not saying it's impossible for lesbians to be assholes but honestly 99.9% of the time when a straight woman is complaining about lescels it's because she's a homophobe, not for any deep reason.

No. 210353

>>210351
the way straight women treat us is a lot like how straight men treat gay men. tenuous tolerance aka plain old homophobia.

No. 210362

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i'm so sad that she's got deep internalized lesbophobia/misogyny smdh https://that-stone-butch.tumblr.com/post/657511481532989440/i-like-my-accessories-to-match-hehim-butch

No. 210363

>>210267
>when
But sure. No, because I don't want to vet my potential life partners to make sure they actually see me as an equal human being.

No. 210364

>>210362
>lesbian
>he/him
Why

No. 210365

>>210351
>>210353
I've had troubling experiences where straight women started to accuse me of trying to come onto them or have a crush on them AFTER we became acquaintances. Even after knowing that I'm already engaged. I dunno if it's because I'm butch or what but they talk as though I'm a predatory dude just waiting to jump them. It's bizarre and awful.

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>>210364
But wait, it gets dumber.

No. 210369

>>210365
When I was in middle school a girl confessed her feelings to a straight girl and the reactions were insane. Straight girl told the whole school and acted as if she had been literally assaulted. Using words like “disgusting”, “pervert”, “I just don’t even feel SAFE anymore I had NO IDEA she was even a DYKE.” to describe the experience of an 12-year old girl asking if she wanted to be girlfriends. It didn't even happen in real life it was an MSN conversation I just do not believe this girl felt legitimately threatened by an nonthreatening nonsexual MSN message.

Even now my pathetic female-socialization instinct is to be like "that being said I definitely have sympathy for the straight girl because hey from her perspective we ARE disgusting monsters and the 12-year old lesbian really should have been more mindful of that #solidarity #supportourstraightsisters.". But that's retarded right? Like I can understand feeling awkward if a lesbian asks you out because yeah unreciprocated feelings are always awkward, but it's the automatic jump to 'predator' that makes me cranky. Sorry for rant. Idk it's really hard to integrate wanting to always make women feel comfortable and safe with the reality that lesbophobia exists and sometimes it actually isn’t our fault if they’re uncomfortable.

>>210362
She's stunning holy shit. Why do the hottest butches always have to be the most retarded.

No. 210370

>>210267
I would never. Even with the shame, homophobia, religious trauma, etc, I love being a lesbian. I love women and I love loving women as a woman. I'm glad I'm not a man and I'm glad I never have to live with one or let one touch me for the rest of my life.

No. 210371

>>210351
>99.9% of the time when a straight woman is complaining about lescels it's because she's a homophobe, not for any deep reason.
Based and truthpilled. Never have I seen an abundance of these fabled bitter lesbian incels who try to pressure straight women into dating or sleeping with them or trying to shame them into homosexuality. Complaining about the small dating pool or wondering out loud how straight women can take the bullshit men give them isn't trying to homorape them. It's all about them being disgusted with lesbians and seeing them as the predatory homosexual trope, nothing more, nothing less.

>>210365
Homophobic straight women lose their minds over butches and give their best effort to frame them as rapey Men Lite who will assault you the moment you turn your back around. It was discussed upthread how they try to pass it as them just "being afraid of males and reading them as such" or they "had bad experiences because a butch tried to hit on them once" yet simultaneously are completely comfortable being around with men.

>>210369
>Even now my pathetic female-socialization instinct is to be like "that being said I definitely have sympathy for the straight girl because hey from her perspective we ARE disgusting monsters and the 12-year old lesbian really should have been more mindful of that #solidarity #supportourstraightsisters.".
Yep, it's bleak as fuck. Couldn't count the times a "straight sister" has been absolutely disrespectful to me and my boundaries yet I'm supposed to be the assigned pervert and constantly apologize for existing.

No. 210373

I feel that a lot of you guys spend a lot of time in radfem spaces (eg calling het women “straight sisters”, continuing to care for homophobes because of “feminist reasons”, constantly feeling bad for being part of female spaces etc etc). As someone who has also done that, I want to say that leaving feminist discourse has been one of the best things for feeling better about my sexuality. Most of the times radfems use lesbians as bullying targets and scapegoats because they know we will always bend over and apologize for existing. They don’t have any sisterhood towards us. Just my 2cents

No. 210374

>>210373
>It's actually the radfems who booly lesbians!!
Just what in the ass are you talking about? The worst female-induced homophobia I've experienced has been from normie, non-feminist women who say shit like "now I'm not a homophobe but I just don't want to be around lesbians you know, they might come on to me". Tradthots are the next worst but they're rare and often unhinged to the point they're easy to spot and avoid, but regular people just blurt out homophobic crap out of the blue. Lesbophobia definitely exists in feminist spaces too but it's usually the "gendercrit" tradwifes who complain about muh heterophobia, not radfems.

No. 210375

>>210374
it's all of them lmao

No. 210377

>>210373
Yeah true, I feel like I got catholic tier shame from that. Sure normie non-feminist straight women aren't much better, but they don't literally say that you are objectifying women in exactly the same way as scrotes do and using all the feminist lingo to make you feel like you're bad for feminism by being actually attracted to women. Not just in the wholeseome handholding on a Tuesday, "choice", way. For some reason it hurts more after all the platitudes of how radical feminism is the only safe space for lesbians and butches in particular, when in reality it's just… not at all. I've been out of those groups for a while now, but I definitely internalized some shit. Being a safe space for polilez in polilez uniform isn't the same thing as being a welcoming space for us icky "lifelongs" and ~male-aligned~ butches.

No. 210383

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When I was first introduced to my home town’s lesbian/qweer scene as a teen like 15 years ago basically no one ever talked in terms of top/bottom stuff and even strongly identifying as femme or butch was kind of seen as somewhat cringy or at least really old-fashioned. It was seen as a given that gender roles are ultimately bs and that everyone’s allowed to do and wear and be whatever the fuck they wanted without further ado. I guess I thought this was like the standard or something but it must have been just a very brief period in time where this sort of culture was normal because it turns out a lot of lesbians are absolutely obsessed with their soft girly asexual powerbottom megatop stone butch pillow princess yes we exist micro identity shit, and suggesting women aren’t genetically wired to desire wearing frilly pink dresses is now troonsphobic and offensive and idk. I thought this obsession with top/bottom talk and who opens the jars and who’s the big spoon was a troon thing as well but maybe it’s not. It still makes me cringe though.

No. 210384

>>210383
It's weird how the top/bottom dynamic made its way to the lesbian sphere like that and people made being a sub or a dom their entire personality. Way back me and my then girlfriend were asked which one is the "male" in the relationship so I guess heteronormativity just has to be implemented in some other form when both partners are the same sex.

It's retarded, I don't want to be a "top" or a "bottom" because I don't live in a 2deep4normie vanillas BDSM relationship. I get preferences like leaning towards more submissive or more aggressive type but it shouldn't be the status quo. Really telling when you have to make up redundant labels like "demisexual" in our pornified society, everyone has to be defined by their sexual behavior first and foremost.

No. 210387

>>210362
>>210367
>"terfs DNI" in bio
>can't see the irony of her own posts
christ, she's retarded…
she'll troon out soon. guaranteed.

No. 210390

>>210373
Based and 100% accurate in my experience. Leaving radfem spaces was very healing for me as a "privileged" butch. It's not just the lesbophobia though, surrounding yourself with reminders of all the awful shit that women have to through is a sure fire way to depress yourself. I agree with most radfem opinions, but I cannot stand to be most radfems. Most of the online ones are frauds anyway and when you suggest they actually volunteer and help women in real life they get all bitchy and insist that dunking on troons on social media is praxis, actually. Lazy fucking NEETs.

No. 210394

>>210246
>lescel by some girl virgin

This is exactly why you’ll never get any pussy lesbochan you have the etiquette of a disrespectful scrote

No. 210399

>>210246
Maybe next time that anon shouldn't use a single example of a woman to shit on all bihets. Looks like she was just looking for an excuse to do that. Legit incel behavior. Anyway some lesbians are fucking hamplanet butches, so the "straights have no taste!!!" argument doesn't hold water.

No. 210400

>>210390
NTA but the particular accounts I follow on tumblr are mostly other lesbian radfems and lesbian separatists. I haven't found any lesbo or butch phobia in my feed in the few months I've had my Tumblr account but I'm not gonna say it doesn't take place elsewhere. I do avoid straight radfems for the most part but I follow a few still. My feed is consistently lesbians acting naturally, celebrating our attraction to women and getting no hate from the radfems for it, notes included. I don't think it's right to paint with such broad strokes, for me joining radblr was such a huge gain, it helped me feel normal in my libfem pornsick shithole of a city. Radfem discord servers all seem cancerous though, I'm guessing they're thoroughly riddled with cancer like most discord servers are. The only thing I wish radblr did less is dunk on trannies as their main form of praxis, as you said. They also share resources but a lot of it is doomposting and seldom any real volunteer opportunities. I do see it sometimes, but it is primarily a tool to radicalize yourself and others. Radblr is not an activism group. I unfollow accounts or mute tags that annoy me and use it that way, if it ever comes to that.

As with all online spaces, the block button is your friend. I haven't had to use it because just following the right accounts was good enough for my timeline but in case you do need an online community and are negatively impacted by random users, abuse the block button.

>>210399
No matter how fat she is, a woman will always have a better personality than a man and thus is appreciated outside of her appearance. Something a scrote lacks the capacity for. If you're gonna date a man, date one that hasn't given up on being in shape especially given their biological advantage when it comes to staying fit.

No. 210401

>>210246
Feel like adding that being rude back to a seething retard isn't lesbophobia or ending allyship. One can support lesbian rights irl but still bitch out a sperg. Don't whine about that if you want to be a ~mean lesbian~. If you can dish it out, you can take it.
Also lesbians will never understand what it's like to be in a romantic relationship with an oppressing class, just like heterosexuals will not experience homophobia.
>>210246
Who was talking about dating? I 2
100% agree with you though.

No. 210424

>>210401
Seth Rogen isn't going to have sex with you, Jessica.

No. 210428

>>210399
>>210401
check out this loser

No. 210429

>>210399
i am always looking for an excuse to shit on bihets because they're fucking annoying

No. 210490

>>210075
You're right, but it sucks. Somehow the idea of her finding someone else is less painful than us both being single and not being together. Like, "you're complaining about wanting a gf but I'm right here? Hurry up and find someone then before I get my hopes up." That said, even small ways of distancing myself hurt. We're so close that something like not sleeping in the same bed when I visit feels so sad and lonely.

>>210094
Bonds of love are chosen and she's the one that made me realize that, but I thought I was choosing platonic love until it was too late and I realized just how intense things had gotten. You and the other nonnie are right, that I should find a way to move on, but it's so hard when she's such a big part of my life and she's one of the only people so far I've ever wanted to make the effort for. I want to find someone else eventually, but it's too confusing and painful right now. A pathetic part of me just wants to wallow and pine for as long as I can.

I know I'm just whining and blogging, but I don't have anywhere else to put this because we have the same friend group and follow each other everywhere online, hah.

No. 210494

I had a mild argument today (or yesterday, rather) with my bisexual friends about if it's possible to sleep with the sex that's not within your sexuality. I had been complaining about people who declared themselves "lesbians" but still opted to sleep with men because they were horny/bored, and my friend jumped in to say that it was possible to sleep with someone that you aren't attracted to because of the physical sensations. Which I don't disagree with, but when you're homosexual or any exclusive sexuality, the sex that you're not capable of feeling sexual attraction to is… beyond just a vague sense of unattraction. I could not find pleasure with a male body, at all.

I literally am repulsed at the thought of sleeping with men. Even if I were to close my eyes and focus purely on the physical sensations, I just hate the thought. It's different than just having sex with a woman that I'm not particularly into. I attempted to explain this to her, but she dismissed it as me being "especially man-hating." Most of them agreed with her, and when I tried to suggest that perhaps their perspective is skewed because they're bisexual they brushed it off.

It was a petty argument at the end of the day but it's just so frustrating to me how bisexual people sometimes don't understand the concept of an exclusive orientation. Like, if someone is capable of seeking pleasure with a man, even if they don't prefer it, they are just… not a lesbian. She could be a very female-leaning bisexual, and that's perfectly alright and fantastic, but she has a distinct experience to me and other homosexuals. After realizing I'm a lesbian (and even before, but I don't dismiss the experience of some lesbians who have been pressured into having heterosexual sex) I would never, ever sleep with a man, no matter how bored or horny I am. My sexuality just doesn't operate in that manner.

I suppose I just had to rant a bit, kek.

No. 210498

>>210494
It's not that your friends Don't understand what being a lesbian is, there just kind of a bit retarded.

No. 210503

>>210494
>she dismissed it as me being "especially man-hating."
And this is why I don't discuss sexuality with straight people, that includes bis. Every time I try it turns into hetties legitimately becoming frustrated with me for absolutely not finding men attractive and accusing me of """misandry""", then bisexuals make it a whinefest about not being considered "real gays" for being attracted to men. While both refuse to even attempt to respect the fact that I do not want to fuck men under any circuimstances. The whole existence of lesbians seems be offensive to most people.

No. 210504

>>210494
your friends are retarded. please find new ones

No. 210509

>>210401
you just know a hettie or a bislut wrote this

No. 210510

>>210509
Is that you, yaoi anon?

No. 210517

>>210490
It's okay nonita. I know what you're going through and this kinda venting is welcome in our thread. We're here for you!

No. 210526

I'm so tired of one of my sisters pretending she's any form of bisexual or lesbian when she consistently goes on about men, actors, dick just everything. She harassed me for years with disgusting sexual comments about lesbianism because a different family member blurted out I had a girlfriend. She molested me for a year when I was a kid because I didn't know what the hell she was doing. She has absolutely no place within any lesbian spaces or relationships. She's considering getting involved with some lesbian couple because she's bored now that her boyfriend broke up. I hate it, I hate that I feel like I can't talk about this stuff anywhere. I don't care for bisexual, pansexual triplesexual whatever they say these days. Don't care to hear straight women say how liberating it is to dress scantily for men's eyes. That creepy troons invading every women specific space is just fine. I feel like I missed out on the generation of lesbians a bit before me who probably had their own tight knit community before this all blew up. I think I want a gf and maybe get married but it would take so much walking on eggshells. One girl I like right now is bisexual but I refuse to open that can of worms because I don't know her core beliefs and only want to date other lesbians which is something else I can't seem to say without someone flipping out.

No. 210532

yaoi fans or fujofags are all bisluts or annoying hets who pretend to be lesbian as a defence so they can reee if they ever get called out by others for their degeneracy and sheer annoying behaviour and pretend that their idiocy is valid bc you are totally oppressing the female gaze of the yaoi hole

No. 210533

>>210532
dilate

No. 210545

>>210532
Take it to the fujo thread, you'll be popular there.

No. 210577

>>210504
They're mostly fine, just painfully male attracted sometimes. One of them who wasn't there at the time regularly makes fun of the self proclaimed lesbians who go on about how deeply they desire to suck male celebrity dick while maintaining that it's just comphet. I just had to vent, kek.

No. 210625

>>210503
>While both refuse to even attempt to respect the fact that I do not want to fuck men under any circuimstances. The whole existence of lesbians seems be offensive to most people.
This is so painfully true. I cannot even begin to count the number of times straight women have shown me dick pics of their boyfriends and lovers to either antagonize me or "tempt me" in some way. They display their weirdest coping mechanisms around us.

No. 210630

>>210503
You took the words out of my mouth, anon, holy shit. The amount of times that people have verbally doubted my sexuality to my face is astounding, and then they continue to pressure me to give men a try or that I just haven't found the right one yet. It feels like people genuinely believe there's no such thing as a lesbian, and the only lesbians are women who are too butch to be considered attractive to men. It's irritating to think about how I've had gay male friends "come out" and nobody prompts them to rethink their sexuality and break down their lack of attraction to women, but when I come out, it's unthinkable. My lack of attraction to men is just as valid as a straight male's, but somehow people fail to grasp this.

>>210526
Your sister sounds genuinely awful, anon, I'm sorry that you have had to deal with this. I also wish that it was easier to find lesbian spaces that don't necessarily include every other letter of the gay community. I just want lesbian friends that aren't lesbians because they're mad at their boyfriends or just straight men who like yuri porn. But I hope that everything goes well with the girl you like, things might turn out better than expected!!

No. 210740

>>>>210494
idk what category I fall into. I consider myself a lesbian, but I had het sex 5 years ago when I was on this acne medication that was fucking with my endocrine system and making me lose it mentally. I can’t really relate to bisexual women because I find men, even celeb or fictional men, to be unattractive. And I have zero desire to date them. when I think back to that year it’s like I was in a fugue state or something. can anyone relate?

No. 210758

Apart from lesblr and this thread, are there any places still left where you can find actual lesbians to talk to?
Lesblr is so interwoven with radblr and imo the focus is men and feminism. Not saying it's not important to be able to vent about men and trannies and the ways homophobia and misogyny affect us, but I really want to find a space where I could meet other lesbians and just have casual conversations, focus on stuff that isn't activism and injustice… There are some LGBT meet ups starting up in my city again now and while that seems like the obvious choice for meeting new friends, from experience I know that the "lesbians" there are either a) MtF or b) bi girls who lust after said MtFs while fetishizing femme lesbians. Every butch I know is some flavour of Not A Woman and I genuinely don't know how to navigate these spaces as a lesbian. I just feel so lonely.

No. 210762

>>210758
Just go to the meet ups. There's always 1 or 2 normal people who feel the same as you.

No. 210882

I swear I'm not baiting but does anyone have experience with lesbian bed death or does anyone know why it happens? I'm extremely sexual myself and afraid of hooking up because I'm not looking for a relationship for this reason to be honest, a lot of my lesbian friends seem to have a completely asexual long-term relationship and it's scary as shit. Why is it even a thing so well known it has its own term? Is it just a meme?

No. 210886

>>210882
Recent studies show that lesbians in long term relationships do have sex less frequently, but for longer when it does happen. Also it's more a general long term relationship thing, not specific to lesbians. The term first came into existence because in 1982, sociologists Pepper Schwartz and Philip Blumstein published American Couples: Money, Work, Sex, the first major study of its kind to compare gay male, lesbian, and heterosexual couples on basic issues such as sex, communication, and money. Among many other findings, their research showed that lesbian couples had less frequent sex than anyone else. And thus was born the meme of lesbian bed death.
Personally I haven't experienced this in the one long term relationship I had, we had an equally high libido, but the meme does make me pause before entering another relationship.

No. 210908

I've made a big step in my career recently and I'm now making the minimum salary we've both dreamed of. We haven't spoken in a long time, but she's still somehow the first person I wanted to tell this to.

No. 210946

>>210882
I think it's a bit of a meme because declining frequency of sex seems to be a feature of many long term relationships, not specifically lesbian ones. Dead bedrooms can happen for a variety of reasons, including the most obvious which is that a relationship has just over-stayed it's welcome.

I have a really high libido as well and I'm mostly just interested in casual relationships, kek, but I wouldn't be too worried about it if I ever decided to enter a serious relationship as long as me and her had similar libidos to start with.

No. 210976

i come here looking of advice, horny advice.
I've been talking to a girl that says the only way she feels something with sex is when it's rough (no hitting or slapping tho she hates that) she keeps saying things like she likes it hard and if it isn't like that she gets dry or bored.
she also mentioned she has trouble getting an orgasm during sex let alone come.

how can I successfully be rougher? Listen, I can be rough but I feel she wants something more than what I'm familiar with, also while you're at it just give me all the sex advice you know. I feel compelled to show her she can come and it's great.

No. 210977

>>210882
LBD is nonsense. My longest relationship was 7 years long and sex was very regular throughout. If you and/or your partner find your interest in sex diminishing, it's time to check your stress levels, hormone levels, and whether you actually want to be in a long-term relationship with her. Too many lesbians have a hard time letting go of dead relationships, especially the toxic ones.

No. 210978

>>210976
If you're feeling a bit out of your depth now, imagine what it's like when you have to perform this rough sex with her several times a week. Is that something you want to commit to?
Speaking from experience, I'd stay clear of getting involved with her. I dated a woman like that and her sexual preferences were an extension of her outlook on life. Nothing was ever good enough for her, everything had to be amplified so she could "feel something", and when her standards weren't met she blamed me for all sorts of things that had nothing to do with me.

No. 210982

I'm still young, but honestly I have no hope in ever getting a gf. I've already talked about internalized homophobia and being in a 3rd world country, whatever. Besides that to unpack, I've come to terms with the fact I'm never meeting any lesbians any time soon and I won't ever get a gf because of the aforementioned issues. Not only because of that, but I have no idea how lesbian sex works, I imagine eating pussy a lot of the time. But like, what's next. I just want to eat pussy. I tried looking stuff up on the internet and end up getting disgusted at the lesbian porn and then the other things Google gives me is lesbian sex positions. I feel very stupid and sad. I will never get to eat pussy.

No. 210986

>>210978
anon, i feel like you're projecting a bit. this woman other anon was speaking to just expressed her sexual interests at what seems to be the beginning of a burgeoning relationship, not displaying dissatisfaction at a lack of escalation when they were already a bit in.

although it is good, of course, to ask yourself if you're interested in routinely having rough sex, because if you're not particularly into the idea yourself and merely as a function of wanting to please her, it will eventually wear on you.

>>210976
i don't exactly know the framework you're working from because you said more than you're familiar with and i'm unsure of what you are familiar with, but the obvious go-to is to pin her down and not let her move too much. try biting her inner thighs while you finger her. slide your hand to the back of her head to grip her hair. cover her mouth, but be sure to not restrict her breathing. if you're eating her out, keep your hands on her hips to control how she squirms.

No. 211125

have you ever cheated or being the other woman?
how was it like?
do you feel guilty about it or you would do it again?

No. 211148

>>210982
Porn with studs is a lot more realistic and not male fantasy shit, if that helps.

No. 211149

>>211125
When I was a teenager I made out with two friends (on the same occasion) while in a LDR with a much older (+9 years) gf. One of them was amazing and the first time I felt actual lust while kissing, and my regret was not seeing that as a signal to break up my LDR. I told her as soon as it happened and that led to a couple of years of her being controlling every time I wanted to go out even to a friend's house (she'd bring back her fear of me cheating and I'd feel bad). I was stupid and would never do it again, too much turmoil.

No. 211167

>>211149
I hate age gaps and I feel like some women in the community think it's no big deal just because we're all women. Even a woman who is interested in someone a decade her junior is suspect. Especially women in their 20s need to stay away from people who are more than like 3-4 years older.

No. 211248

>>211149
I thought sleeping with older people was a gay male thing?

No. 211249

>>211167
I'm 29 and I'm in the process of getting a degree which means I'm around a lot of younger people everyday, there's these two girls who are barely 20 that are currently really into me and keep insisting on something happening saying age doesn't matter, no matter how much i explain it to them they really can't grasp the concept i don't find an almost 10 year old gap attractive or exciting.
to think there are older women who are actively looking for it it's weird as fuck tbh.

No. 211278

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Recently caught up with an old artist I used to know and she's """queer""" now and has been posting shit like picrel. I'm so disappointed. I used to look up to her

No. 211279

>>211249
Yep. And yes younger people, much like teens, think they're super grown and can handle it but the person with the developed brain needs to have some responsibility here and not get into something they can easily manipulate. Glad you're a normal person nonita.

>>211278
Seasonal lesbian, that's new.

No. 211316

>>211248
To be fair we barely slept together. We lived very far from each other. Nowadays I have the age she had when we started talking and I cannot imagine myself with someone younger, let alone that much younger and in high school. I also constantly try to talk people out of age gaps, especially other lesbians.

No. 211496

I hate how 99% of "lesbian feminists" (both historical and contemporary) have been just polilezzes instead of actual lesbians who are also feminists.

No. 211499

>>211248
It's more popular with gay men but lesbians do it a fair bit too. I started going to gay bars when I was 15 and at the start things were good, the adults who were regulars knew me and my friends were underaged but they also knew that A: we just wanted a community and B: getting us kicked out means we'd just go to another bar, so they looked out for us. They never let us drink too much, they walked us to the bus stop or taxi rank, made us call to say we got home and most importantly they chased off anyone hitting on us. This was people of all stripes: gay guys, lesbians, bisexuals, hell even the drag queens would tell me off for going over the agreed two alcoholic drinks limit. Thing is that not everyone was so protective, older women frequently hit on me and I actually had a "relationship" with a woman in her 30's when I was 15. She was 17 years older than me but groomed me by telling me how "mature" I was. I genuinely believed we were dating though, I actually thought I loved the bitch. I know at least 5 other girls who were sleeping/having relationships with women 10+ years older than them at that time. As much as those wonderful people looked out for us, they couldn't keep an eye on us 24/7 and I was so stupid I found the sneaking around to be part of the thrill. Things also changed drastically when I hit 16 as that meant I was legal, because hey who cares about morals, amirite? I was only drinking two drinks a night, it's fine that a woman nearly old enough to be my mother is taking me home! Don't get meme'd into thinking women are that much better than men, trust me we're not. I have mother issues and have been a magnet for these kinds of women. The woman I mentioned wasn't the only one I slept with either. I also slept with my ex-teacher when I was 16, she said it was ok because I was the age of consent and I had dropped out of school by then. I think a big part of why I was so easily groomed is that the gay community loves to harp on about how the rules are so much different (read: noncier) for us because of how we're treated by heterosexual society but it's bullshit. It's no excuse for fucking barely legal teens who aren't mature enough to know any better.

Tl;dr: women are shit too and gay bars will always harbour inherently predatory people and they'll blend in so well with the "good" ones that you won't notice it until after they've took advantage of you.

No. 211500

>>211167
>Especially women in their 20s need to stay away from people who are more than like 3-4 years older.
why? i'm almost mid 20s and i have a mutual crush on someone in her 40s. i'm genuinely curious why it's a bad idea since it somehow seems like a better idea to me than dating a woman my age

No. 211508

>>211500
>i'm genuinely curious why it's a bad idea since it somehow seems like a better idea to me than dating a woman my age
Now think about it from her perspective. If you want someone older because they're more mature or stable, why is she not also dating people her age who should be at her maturity/stability level?

No. 211537

>>211496
the biggest thing that confuses me is some polilez are actual lesbians but they think it's possible or a good idea for str8/bi women to "choose" to be lesbians

No. 211554

>>211537
How can you tell a political lesbian who's actually a lesbian from a political lesbian who isn't?

No. 211571

>>211554
that's a good question, but some are actually homosexual and always have been, compared to how a lot of historical polilez were celibate str8 women who saw "lesbian" as a state of politically abstaining from men

No. 211617

>>211554
You can tell by whether they scold lesbians for "objectifying" women. And whether they spend most of their day sperging about men instead of focusing on liking women.

No. 211637

>>211617
>You can tell by whether they scold lesbians for "objectifying" women.
This. Every lesbian has had a "damn, she's hot" moment, even if it's with an actress. So watch very closely the "lesbians" who berate you for expressing your attraction. They'll try and guilt trip you with the "objectifying" schtick but unless you were barking like a dog and drooling or describing a sexual act in detail there's nothing wrong with it.

No. 211638

How bad is it that I am kissless virgin in my 20s. Pretty bad isn’t it. I have never even kissed a girl, makes me want to give up on trying to date already, since it makes me a freak

No. 211639

>>211638
It's not that bad, anon. I was a promiscuous young woman and now I'm 30 I regret it deeply. You are not a freak, I know a lot of lesbians in their 20s who are kissless virgins, it's more common than you'd think.

No. 211653

>>211617
My checklist for polilez
>"I know I've only dated men in my life and only had sex with dicks but t-that was just comphet!!"
>"Asexual" only because she would never touch a pussy
>Either obsessive, consuming manhate she can't shut up about or belittling lesbians for their male trauma and bragging about considering transbians women
>Spergs out at lesbians (especially GNC ones) for "objectifying" women i.e. finding them attractive or flirting with them
>Likewise hates butches and sees them as "rapey men lite"
>Isn't interested in average women, only finds photoshopped models, actresses or 2D women attractive because they're distant enough to not commit
>Hates gay men not because of their indifference towards female rights as men but because of homophobia

No. 211677

Question for lesbians: do you get the "I want penetration" urge right before your period? I'm wondering if it's just hormonal or has to do with orientation + hormones.

No. 211678

>>211677
On birth control now for heavy periods but when I was menstruating that's exactly what I experienced alongside a strong feeling of broodiness. Pretty sure it's just a hormonal urge kicking in where your body is like "I want a baby, do the thing that makes a baby". My fiancée experiences it too and she's also a lesbian so I don't think it's anything to do with orientation.

No. 211686

>>211677
Not when I'm PMSing but I get that really strongly when I'm ovulating.

No. 211690

>>211677
God yes. Still wouldn't fuck a man ever but right when PMSing I want to be penetrated hard. It's just been this unexplainable phenomenon when I wish I was being boned with a strap. Never connected the dots until now.

No. 211691

>>211677
I enjoy penetration but only from a woman's fingers or a toy she's using on me

No. 211699

>>211678
>>211686
Hmm maybe it depends on whether you want a baby? Like your hormones change based on if you're afraid of pregnancy. Bc if you have sex right before period it's low chance of pregnancy, vs. during ovulation high chance of pregnancy.

No. 211712

>>211677
i used to, which is weird to me since i tried it by myself in the past and didn't like it, so i don't know why my brain and hormones used to go "i want this" about it once a month

No. 211745

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>Flirting with a cute girl who's completely my type
>She comes out as bi
>Catch feelings over time
>Find out she has a boyfriend
>Boyfriend is the biggest fuckboy ever
>Seethe because this happens every time
The life of a lescel I swear. The lesbians I know have all trooned out and the "bisexuals" are just spicy straights. Put me out of my misery nonnas.

No. 211749

>>211745
I'm technically bi but exclusively want to date women and I experience the same thing. I hope there is hope for us.

No. 211766

Butch women are extremely attractive to me.

When I attended an "inclusive" event a while ago, there were quite a few women who looked very hot and butch. I wanted to approach one of them, but in the end I chickened out because I wasn't sure - what if I was mistaken and she was something like ftm? I rarely meet other lesbians in real life and there were mtf people and even drag queens all around us so I was a little unsure on how to spot other lesbians.
Maybe I could just have asked about her orientation, if the conversation had allowed it, but I don't want to hurt her feelings with unnecessary gender bullshit either.

Are there any butches here who can tell me how they'd like to be approached? I love you so much!

No. 211794

>>211766
You can't be this precious about people's feelings about being found attractive. Just approach them like normal and if they say they're not interested/ftm then just move on. It's not that important and you're not meant to ruminate on it this much. Troon feelings don't matter and women are generally appreciative of other women who think they're attractive, regardless of whether they reciprocate. It doesn't have to be this delicate thing.

No. 211813

>>211766
Like >>211794 said, troon feelings don't matter. If you really wanna be careful and not be ostracised for terf crimes then ask for pronouns or something although that's a double edged sword as some butches might think you're the genderspecial for asking, maybe try including the word "butch" in your compliments. "butches have the best fashion sense" or whatever; trust me you'll know if they're FTM or non-binary because they'll look at you like you just spat in their face for you using the B word kek. It's a very confusing thing to navigate, I know. I'm butch myself and flirting is so fucking weird unless everyone's put their cards on the table. I will say that a lot of GNC women like myself are worried about ye olde predatory butch stereotype so it might take a bit more effort from you to get the ball rolling. Godspeed, nonny.

No. 211839

>>211813
>I'm butch myself and flirting is so fucking weird unless everyone's put their cards on the table.
Kek if this isn't true. I literally have to be 100% sure that someone is a lesbian to even do slight flirting and even then I'm often afraid of coming across as the predatory butch which is why I sadly usually let the other party initiate more intimate contact. But as for the tranny question I'm usually the one who makes it known that I'm not a genderspecial myself and to be honest I feel like a lot of butches do it these days since they'll be booked as he/him theybians if they won't.

No. 211898

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I went to an LGBT halloween party recently. Was my first time going to an LGBT event and the most adorable girl was there. She was super petite with a gothy/alternative style, unironically kind of looked like picrel. She kept dancing with me and smiling at me, initiating contact and stuff.
So of course I end up being way too spergy and awkward to actually ask for her phone number or take any initiative and the party ends without me even knowing her name. I guess I couldn't really believe a girl that cute would be legitimately into me and didn't want to embarrass myself. Still, good feels even though I was a dumbass.

No. 211953

>>211677
is it weird for lesbians to want to be penetrated? i orgasm best with internal and external stimulation.

No. 211962

>>211953
Lesbians with a g spot

No. 211963

>>211898
Why don’t you ask in the group for her number? Maybe she would appreciate it.
Unless it’s some Facebook stuff, then you could try finding her through the people following the topic or something.
And I’d you got friends who went to the party, you could ask around for her.

No. 211976

I went to a Halloween dinner party and talked to a very attractive gnc woman who had a very quirky costume. I think she's a gender special, since she was referred to with an unambiguous guy's name. She was talking with her friend about going down on women and I just kinda kept quiet, I didn't expect that so suddenly. Then quickly her and her friends were talking about how they went to a party the other day where they all choked each other and played spin the bottle (while several also claimed to be asexual?). Then talked about how they are all poly and then avoided me the rest of the evening, because I probably came across quite awkward. I'm not a virgin, but I'm not used to this weird crap. How am I ever going to date again in this strange climate? It happened all so fast.
>>211766
I second >>211813 compliments with "butch" in them are a safe bet. I think people tried to figure it out with me by asking for my name or showing me a woman on Instagram they thought looked like me and watching my reaction? Also someone has to really make it clear to me that they're interested in me, I don't want to be like a scrote who sees signals where there are none.

No. 211984

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Why is half the thread talking about bisexuals, men or trans?

Let's talk about us instead and share some pics.

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No. 212059

>>211953
Why would it be weird? Penetration doesn't mean hetero sex, you can use fingers or toys. I love being penetrated because that's just how my anatomy works but I'm still repulsed by men.

>>211989
Bless you anon, we need more butch4butch material.

No. 212075

>>212059
They keep trying to imply that penetrative sex is some kinda evidence that women aren't real lesbians. I've been seeing this all over the feminist internet and I can't fathom the kinda retardation that induced it. Prob some polilez drivel but not sure. Fundamental misunderstanding of what homosexuality even is either way…

No. 212078

>>212075
lmao that’s so dumb. i won’t even use realistic toys.

like it’s not even about the dildo. it’s about the girl wearing it.

No. 212083

>>212059
>>212075
I've actually seen retarded lesbians say stupid shit like using a strap-on is "heteronormative"

No. 212085

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kek

No. 212092

>>212085
Ot but this is terrible data visualization. I wonder if they did it on purpose to minimize Troon violence.

No. 212101

>>212083
I've seen that too and it's always from the polilezzes. Blowing Nigel on the side is comphet that you should totally get a pass for but two women fucking with a piece of a silicone is heteronormative. Seriously dangerous levels of copium kek.

>>212085
Troons? Violent? As the kids on twitter say, "we been knew".

No. 212183

>>212075
I guess they didn't see those ancient dildoes carved from stone then. Gspots aren't soley designed for dicks, but good luck convincing straights. It's like they've meme'd piv into being the only appropriate sex act on a vagina.

No. 212200

Sorry for being such a loser but

>18 year old senior highschooler

>lesbian
>highschool zoom event to help with career choice
>wanted medicine but too stupid for entrance exam
>choose art
>meet super cute korean girl
>happy to see another asian girl
>interact with her through zoom chat
>mfw I have nothing in common with her
>she has american fandom brainrot
>am I socially retarded? can't understand half the shit she says
>get her phone number and her ig
>continue convo through whatsapp
>get invited to roleplay group chat

How do I make her like me? How do I talk to her? I'm crushing so bad and I have no convo topics

No. 212207

>>212200
Anon for the sake of your sanity you have to run. Will the time you sink into befriending her really be worth it with the brainrot

No. 212208

>>212207
I’m so hungry(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 212209

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>>212183
The time I talked to a polilez about it, she said that if men never existed, nobody would have ever thought of putting something up there. Which is why they aren't just against straps, but also against fingers, anything up there. When I said that it underestimates the curiosity of humans and that surely someone would think of trying it, my feminism got called into question and I was yet again considered "male-aligned". Tribbing is also just an invention from porn according to them, even though there are clear mentions of it in Anne Lister's diaries. Liking tits was also bad, because it's a cultural phenomenon and evidence that we're just as coombrained as men supposedly. They probably have found something to make oral taboo too, because only handholding on a Tuesday is allowed according to polilez. I've already seen some who were proud that they thought kissing is gross.
Pic to pay tribute before anyone complains that there's not enough talking/posting about lesbians?

No. 212210

>>212183
>>212209
Pretty sure there's a can of psychological worms to be opened up about polilez and their repulsion to penetration, my bet's on overcompensating or genuine repulsion towards the thought of lesbian sex since anything but gentle kissing seems to be off the list for them. Someone please tell them that g-spot is real and part of the clitoral neural network and that it's actually way better stimulated with fingers or a well designed dildo than an actual dick.

No. 212218

>>212085
Sort of related but is there anything to debunk that myth about lesbian domestic violence being super high as opposed to straights? I find that hard to believe but I would really appreciate some stats to back up my arguments.

No. 212220

>>212218
To make a long story short, not enough reliable research, not enough definition for what counts as domestic violence, the additional stress placed on gay relationships in general due to societal or internalized homophobia generating more conflict (i.e. minority stress). A lesbian couple might practice more psychological abuse which counts towards domestic violence stats while in a heterosexual couple the husband can beat the wife senseless and the stats won't show the levels of severity. And naturally being a lesbian isn't just sacred, wholesome female bonding and picking flowers for the moon goddess, many LGB people grow up traumatized and unstable after being ostracized and abused growing up as gay youth.

No. 212231

>>212220
Okay, thanks! I think I've seen somewhere that the stats were exaggerated partly due to the thing you mentioned about not having a strict reliable definition for what really counts as domestic violence. I don't pretend that women can't be violent physically or psychologically but the amount of shit I've seen women go through with men almost seems incomparable to the lesbian couples but my experience is limited and I might be biased too.

No. 212236

>>212218
I remember a debunking link going around, it basically showed that the study referred to women in lesbian relationships that have been victims of DV in the past and surprise, many were abused by men.

No. 212238

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>>212218
People usually refer to one particular study, with a tiny lesbian sample size, which was about the percentage of people who experienced DA. For lesbians, it included male ex lovers. Here's a deboonk from a previous thread

No. 212241

>>212207
Same anon, since I got her phone number wouldn't it be too awakward to just not talk to her? I'm already in the roleplay groupchat too. I guess I'm a little bit invested because she has openly lesbian posts on her ig and it's rate to see another lesbian where I live.

No. 212249

>>212200
>>212241
If you got nothing in common, maybe it would be best not to date. It would just feel awkward and forced. You can find another girl anon.

No. 212252

I’m like a chubby butch femme type but i worry people will think i’m gender-y. and i want a stone butch terf gf.

am i resigned to my bed just being me, sighted blanket, ikea shark and my rabbit vibe?

is putting “same sex attracted” on my dating profile going to get me reported?

No. 212272

>>212252
> butch femme type
What?

It's 2021 can we let go of these terms? They're becoming more meaningless by the day. That aside, I hope you find your dream gf anon.

No. 212276

>>212272
I agree that the other anon sounds confused, but can you stop the campaign to get everyone to not use the word "butch"? Especially with how rare it is and how it's also under fire by TRA's. We really don't need everyone to pretend they have no clue what a butch is. People have been trying to stop women from calling themselves butch since the 70's and all we got from that is a rise in TiF's, so please, stop it.

No. 212277

>>212276
That wasn't my point, because I was not even aware that it was an issue. Must be an anglophone problem. Still I think it's stupid having these labels in our current times. Evidently, people who dress or act "butch" have not and will not disappear. Maybe I've outgrown the community. Kisses nonny.

No. 212278

>>211989
What a nice picture! The hammer tattoo the woman on the left has is the cutest thing ever.

No. 212283

>>212252
>and i want a stone butch terf gf.
kek that's also my current fantasy gf. I think it's mainly just because my last gf was a pillow princess and it was hell so now I'm drawn to the opposite. I don't know if I'd really be able to never ever touch/eat pussy again. most of my fantasies involve melting the stone at some point so I probably don't actually want a relationship with a stone woman.

No. 212288

>>212252
>butch femme type
>gender-y
>ikea shark blahaj
hm

No. 212289

>>212283
Why would you want to be with someone who wouldn't let you touch them??

No. 212290

>>212289
some people want to have different dynamics? stone butches only give and stone femmes only receive, some people don't mind that kind of thing

No. 212293

>>212249
Thanks nonnie! I guess I'll just ghost her

No. 212309

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>>212288
Just once I'd like to come in here and not see trannies or tranny adjacents speaking in tongues. Just once. I swear a lesbians over 25 thread would help mitigate this.

No. 212323

>>212288
>>212309
it’s not that deep nonitas. sharks are nice and i don’t want to look like a tif.

No. 212340

>>212323
>i don't want to look like a tif.
Then stop contradicting yourself with shit like "butch femme" then. Just be you. I'm butch and the one thing I have that no Aiden does is the fact that I'm truly comfortable in who I am. Well, a good sense of fashion, natural coloured hair that isn't cut into something stupid like a mullet or an emo cut and hygiene helps too. But you get what I'm saying. I get tentatively they/them'd and even he/him'd by workers who are being polite/trying not to get fired but the majority of lesbians I meet read me as a butch based on my body language. I can't explain it properly because I'm a sped but just relax and embrace yourself. Other people will pick up on it.

No. 212360

Are any other anons here stone (or anyone who likes being with someone who is stone that wants to chime in)? I feel like the manifestations of my sexual desires are irregular and borderline pathological, to the point that I can't imagine a woman who would want to be with me long-term.

I don't even know how I ended up this way, because I've never experienced any direct sexual trauma that could result in a resistance to being touched. I even like things that seem stupidly "porn-y" and unrealistic to me, like getting a strap-on blowjob.

I don't know. I can't escape the sensation that my sexuality is horrifically twisted and predatory, because the only thing I really get off to is pleasuring another woman who is whimpery/sensitive and at least a little submissive to me. And the actual lesbian community is so non-existent these days that I feel rather isolated. Sorry nonnies, I just wanted to talk about it somewhere.

No. 212365

>>212360
I'm not stone but I'd have no issue dating a stone woman.
>because the only thing I really get off to is pleasuring another woman who is whimpery/sensitive and at least a little submissive to me.
I would never call this "horrifically twisted and predatory", not at all. You aren't fantasizing about beating and raping women right? "I wanna pleasure a woman until she's a whimpering mess" is a pretty vanilla fantasy. Even the strap blowjob isn't too bad, it's a bit porny but I don't think it's inherently degenerate or harmful to women or whatever honestly I'd probably try it as long as the strap was as non-phallic as possible.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you as long as you're upfront about it with potential partners. However I also hate the meme that like being stone is a sacred innate identity that must never be questioned or changed. Do you want to be stone? I think that if you personally want to open yourself to being touched there might be things you can try. Cutting out porn, dealing with body image issues, etc. But I don't think it's like, an inherently terrible thing that you're morally obligated to 'get over' if you're happy with yourself as you are.

No. 212372

Seeing all of the girls here talking about wanting to connect with other girls like us through apps that are supposed to be for lesbians but are afraid of having our accounts terminated… because we're lesbians????
Would anyone be interested in a discord server we all could mingle in? I've heard of groups like this that use voice verification to make sure everyone is who they say they are. I haven't used discord before but I'd be happy to make one.

No. 212404

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I am so lonely. Should I just get a dating app acc? I heard they're filled to the brim with scrotes, and bicurious women.

No. 212405

>>212372
i don't want to get doxxed…

No. 212412

>>212360
Anne Lister was stone and she didn't have any access to porn like that nor described any traumas or whatever, so you're probably fine in that regard and she eventually found a long-term partner centuries ago. So technically it should be even easier nowadays. I've seen enough women on apps who identify as pillow princesses. So from what I can tell, stone butches are quite wanted, especially if you're into feminine women.
Personally I'm mainly a faggot butch/butch4butch, which is also looked down upon in the ~community~, there is no way to win really. There is always someone who thinks your sexuality is wrong when you're a female homosexual. because I slept in the past a lot with feminine questioning women, who never returned the favor and expected me to always be dominant, I now prefer to be dominated? by other butch women. But it's complicated, because me indicating my attraction is often viewed as an invalidation of another butch's masculinity and just nooo I like you BECAUSE you're masc. Beat me in a wrestling match and have your way with me, that's all. I'm not exclusively butch4butch, but due to my past experiences, I don't think I could be vulnerable with a feminine woman without A LOT of coaxing and reassurance and I'd be practically situationally stone.

No. 212415

>>212404
They are.

No. 212416

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>>212404
They definitely are but get it anyway. Don't limit yourself to one channel to meet new people. Participate in fandom if you're creative (upthread has examples of people meeting their gf's through creating together), go to larger group LGB(prob also gonna be T depending on your city) meetups IRL and also use apps. Do it all if you really wanna meet a woman.

No. 212446

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>>212412
>faggot butch
Man, I miss the good old days when butch4butch women - although still frowned upon - were easier to find. I miss intentionally towering over other butches and subtly flexing to get them all nervous and tongue tied or having a homoerotically charged arm wrestle or play fight. I've had some great times with femmes, don't get me wrong. But faggy butches rile me up like nothing else on this planet. Sad to think they're a dying breed, along with the rest of us butches.

No. 212458

>>212372
i agree with the person who replied to you, i don’t want to be doxxed, but i’d also like to meet a lesbian who thinks like me/the anons on this board, it’s a lose/lose

No. 212463

>>212462
tifs have daddy issues

my dads awesome. i fuckin love my dad. even as a dyke i’m still his best girl.

No. 212469

>>212458
>>212405
Why would you get doxxed?

No. 212470

>>212469
Not only why but how would you even get doxxed?

No. 212472

>>212470
I'd be more worried about some troon masquerading as a woman on here and getting access to the server.

No. 212474

>>212472
Even with selfie/voice verification?

No. 212481

>>212474
NTA but no goddamn way anyone with a brain would post a selfie on anything even remotely tied to lolcow. Are you nuts?

No. 212485

Trying to organize a discord for this thread is retarded. In terms of sheer numbers there are probably more troons/handmAidens lurking here than actual IRL homosexual females.

No. 212494

Hi anons, at the tail end of the last thread I talked about that girl with a bf and how I didn't want to talk to her again and I did go through a months long stretch of doing just that but I caved and messaged her again and somehow got her number out of it. I know I should have committed to dropping her but it's really fun to text her as a friend. Anyway, thank you nonnas for the advice back then.

No. 212515

>>212446
I read your post several times already and I'm only responding now, because what you wrote alone already gets me riled up. Fuck, why am I so easy? I also miss homoerotically working out together, tension building while spotting each other. Or hiking and going for something impromptu behind/up against a tree in a secluded spot.
Yeah seems like many who would've been butch4butch in the past are now transmasc4transmasc or something like that.

No. 212588

How does one deal with the bitterness of being an unlucky in love lesbian?
>Jealous of straight girls because they can freely express and experience love due to conforming to the mainstream sexuality
>Jealous of bi girls who can always go straight passing and still find men attractive
>Jealous of straight men because they can flirt with women and express masculinity and be celebrated for it while you're seen as a freak
>Jealous of gay men for being the popular, most appreciated type of gay
>Bitter about growing up as the only dyke in a small town and missing out on romantic and sexual experiences most kids had in their teens and early adulthood
>Tried even being straight by force, hated it and found men so repulsive
>Butch4butch is just troon4troon now
>Being a non-trans butch is an evil terf dogwhistle
>Femmes are being pressured into accepting girlcock
How does one continue without wanting to escape it all, I just don't understand.

No. 212592

>>212588
I've just tried to come to terms with the fact that I'm going to grow older and die alone.

No. 212593

>>212588
There is no way to escape, so you can want all you want, but it's just not an option.
I'm seconding >>212592

No. 212622

>>212588
I relate to some of your bitter feelings here, I dealt with it in the past. I personally ended up thinking about the kind of person being so bitter makes me. I thought of a future opportunity I will squander to eventual deep insecurity that will eat away at me. I decided to focus my energy on the positive things that come with being a lesbian and just enjoy my perspective in life. The only perspective I am capable of having, my own experience. I've grown to love being a lesbian regardless of whether there is someone in my life right now, it matters but it doesn't matter that much. Straight people don't stop existing when they're not dating. They don't stop being straight. I don't either, my existence as a lesbian is all of me, not just the me who has a relationship. Someone on here actually helped steer me towards the right mindset, you can't move through life to something positive by being a bitter fuck.

No. 212623

>>200981
>>212588
it'll be a cold day in hell before i accept girldick, cant believe this is the state of the dating world for lesbians though. can you imagine if transmen starting pressuring gay men into accepting their vaginas as a 'second male anus'? im so mad

No. 212626

i think i am bisexual so goodbye lesbian general you will be missed

No. 212646

>>212622
nta but I really needed to read this, thank you. I'm still gonna make peace with dying alone but I'm also gonna keep a profile on a couple dating apps just in case. Even if I only check like once a week maybe someday a non-retarded lesbian will move here and I'll be able to snap her up before anyone else does kek.

No. 212666

>>212592
i feel the same way because the dating scene right now is not great for lesbians. i want a partner but i dont realistically see it happening

No. 212684

>>212626
I envy you.

No. 212712

ot maybe? but anyone know any good lesbian media, like books,movies, graphic novels? gideon the 9th was written by a fake gay bi women but i have to admit it was half decent.

bonus points if you can rec one where nobody tragically dies. that’s a can of worms i’ll open another time.

No. 212723

>>212446
>>212515
dammit reading both of these posts inspired me to write the gayest fucking song about unrequited butch4butch crushing

why are we all like this

No. 212733

>>212723
post it

No. 212761

>>212372
I'm so lonely and desperate lately I would actually join, fuck it.

No. 212769

>>212761
same honestly but ive only ever seen discords be the absolute diminishing fall of any community or just completely dead

No. 212773

>>212723
Don't leave us hanging, you gotta post it!

No. 212856

>>200981
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
Today I ordered my kitty a pack of plaid collars so he can match my flannels. We're gonna be very handsome.

No. 212866

>>212856
That's so fucking cute.

>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit?

I'm a man hating crazy cat lady.
>which ones don’t fit you at all?
I'm like, the opposite of a uhaul lesbian. I'm so overly cautious and have avoidant attachment issues, it's so hard for me to fall for someone let alone actually commit to a relationship. I fall in love at a snail's pace.

No. 212874

>>212866
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit?
I'm butch, vegan, love cats, hate men, I come across as aggressive etc.
>which ones don’t fit you at all?
I don't do uhauling (also avoidant), I'm more into other butches than femmes, I'm not stone, I like baking

No. 212890

>stereotypes I fit
GNC in general. "lesbian voice", RBF/aggro to male strangers, flannels and weird print shirts, carabiner and no purse, love cats, leftie, eboy-adjacent hair, very short nails, carry a knife, leg hair. Realizing how superficial most of the stereotypes are as I type them out. What I love about us is that we're complete people with many facets. I'm kinda into the fact that hetties aren't even capable of seeing us as we really are, it's like a secret between us, how vibrant each lesbian is inside.

>stereotypes I don't fit

Not a vegan, was though.
Not a Uhaul specifically in terms of moving in together. I don't want to live with anybody else, ever. I'd prefer to be neighbors with my gf until the end of time. We can cultivate our own private spaces and visit each other. Spending the night or staying over a few days isn't a problem but long term I really need to be able to stay completely alone. It's not an easy sell I guess but idc. I commit fine romantically though, I actually don't like to beat around the bush and avoid things like that. I just need my nest to be mine is all.

Autumn reeeally made me wanna get a gf and be cozy with her but I'm too swamped with multiple IRL things to make time for someone properly atm. Next year around this time I'm gonna be spoiling my new gf though, trust.

No. 212906

>>212481
Fine then just voice verification.

No. 212955

>>200981
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit?

Sporty, obsessed with playing ball sports since I was a toddler. GNC dress. Obsessed with cats. Hate men. Dislike children or at least don’t want any. Is that a stereotype? Idk. Drive a Subaru and only ever will drive Subarus. I love combat boots. I also love camo.

>which ones don’t fit you at all?

I have long hair and wear makeup. I don’t have visible tattoos or piercings. My friends are all straight women. Apart from my sports teams, I’m not involved in the lesbian “scene”.

No. 212958

>first crush?
I would just crush on friends at school, my first kiss and sexual experience was with a girl
>what’s your local lesbian scene like?
Active but low-key, in my time it was filled with "straight" women who would do obviously gay things and claim they were just joking around or that it "didn't count"
>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?
The cute cottage core lesbian Pinterest ladies, I hate lesbian media that encourages full on dykiness because it feels like being gay somehow strips you of your femininity which scares a lot of gay women into straight relationships
>coming out stories
I never really came out per say, I just did my own thing and people minded their business
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
June, Yumi king, Mrs Midwest, Belle Delphine and graveyardgirl
>what's your type?
Taller than me (4'11) fairly fit/skinny, small breasts, long limbs, small butt, pretty face and long hair, good complexion
>how did you know you were gay?
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
I'm very girly so femme would be it for me, I'm also a huge man hater and refuse to associate with anything masculine and don't associate with the LGBT community due to it being filled with troons and misogynistic gay men who act obnoxious about it
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Yes, definitely made Barbies kiss, I really hated men, refused male friends and when my friends had boyfriends I would try to separate them. I also beat other boys a lot


One of my biggest issues is that it sometimes feels forceful to me to act more masculine when I'm not like that at all, or the pressure to be with butch women. I'm literally so feminine that I want to share my life and love with a woman who's just as feminine as me and we can do cute stuff like sew dresses and have ultra girly bubble baths together with tea and put makeup on each other and do cute Pinterest garden crafts but so many lesbians often get pressured into acting more masculine than they really are.

No. 212960

>>212761
same unfortunately. got nothing to lose, would join

No. 212961

>>212372
I'd join

No. 212962

>>212958
>lesbian media that encourages full on dykiness
Where do I find this, it seems kind of rare

No. 212963

>>212958
>I'm literally so feminine that I want to share my life and love with a woman who's just as feminine as me and we can do cute stuff like sew dresses and have ultra girly bubble baths together with tea and put makeup on each other and do cute Pinterest garden crafts but so many lesbians often get pressured into acting more masculine than they really are
lol you really NLOG'd huh

No. 212964

>>212962
lesbians are always depicted as athletic, manly and it's uncommon for them to be girly and if they are girly then they aren't depicted as a total lesbian but bi or just experimenting

>>212963
My bad I forgot some of you have tradthot ptsd. Just replace "feminine" with "girly" and you wouldn't have said anything

No. 212975

>>212958
>so many lesbians often get pressured into acting more masculine than they really are
KEK. I know you're desperate to be oppressed for being femme but you really gotta come up with better lies than this.

No. 212978

>>212964
>lesbians are always depicted as athletic, manly and it's uncommon for them to be girly and if they are girly then they aren't depicted as a total lesbian but bi or just experimenting
Majority of lesbian couples in tv shows and movies have been femme4femme lesbians, so idk what you are on about. Entire books have been written about this phenomenon. Everyone thinks it's more subversive to only show feminine lesbians, to the point that every gnc woman on tv always has this big reveal that she's straight (like Brienne of Tarth or the one butch character in "But I'm a Cheerleader").

>>200981
>first crush?
P!nk, Texas (the singer) and irl my first gf
>what’s your local lesbian scene like?
Dead, full of agps
>favourite lesbian media?
Leasebound, Maxine Harlow comics/cartoons, If These Walls Could Talk 2, Take My Wife, Killing Eve, Gentleman Jack, Jack & Diane and The L Word (guilty pleasure). Singers like KD Lang, Amy Ray and Renee Phoenix.
>lesbian media you hate?
The majority. Fried green tomatoes movie literally erased the butch character. Most of the recent lesbian themed movies were period dramas with two feminine women quivering from handholding. One of the most well made lesbian themed movies was made by AGPs (Bound), just why. Blue is the warmest color is shite. The rest is filled with the bury your lesbian trope.
>coming out stories
I didn't really get to come out, I was in a glass closet. I got called slurs before I even realized it about myself.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I have noticed that more conforming lesbians hate labels, because to them femme is just standard and what everyone should be. Just because it's not labeled, wouldn't stop people from hating on masc/butch/tomboy lesbians and as long as we're a minority, it's nice to be able to find your tribe by having some sort of shared word. Whether it's butch, kesser vater, marimacha, Tom, Rekkalesbo, sapatão, etc. There are words for this concept in a lot of different languages, all over the world. They started as slurs oftentimes, but many have been (partially) reclaimed. I'm getting sick and tired of people using the "only the Anglosphere uses labels" excuse. The idea that it's new even in the Anglosphere is such fucking bullshit too. Butch/femme was popularized before 'lesbian' was the standard word for female homosexual (read Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold). While 'lesbian' was in use with the upper-middle class crowd, Sapphic and the like were used equally often, but both not really known with the working class. Kesser Vater comes from 1920's Berlin, Germany.
Polilez in a lot of different countries have worked really hard to stigmatize butches and bar them from feminist meetings, if they didn't give up butch and took up the 'androgynous' uniform. Then it was further stigmatized in the 90's. All that got us is the rise of ftm and your average enbie/trutrans not knowing of the concept butch or thinking it's backwards. So no, getting rid of the label doesn't cause lesbians to become more feminine and ~fuckable~ to the femininity worshippers. It just causes them to think that there's no place for them in lesbianism, because lesbianism has been portrayed as two feminine women holding hands now for 5 decades.
>top? bottom? how do you feel about those labels?
Makes sense as a verb, silly as an identity, but I'm not going to sperg/chimp out at people for it.
>what's your type?
I'm attracted to a wide variety of bodytypes, but I do have a preference for muscular (not necessarily skinny and defined) and other butches.
>how did you know you were gay?
I kept ~experimenting~ with other girls throughout puberty, while ignoring scrotes. Also people around me kinda told me.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Tomboy, was never indoctrinated into it by the mean scary dykes, don't you worry. Actually my family is fascist, as in literal Hitler stans, always watching documentaries and speeches. I regularly had to hear how I would have been gassed "in the good old days" and that if Hitler was still around, I wouldn't have turned out like this. I got my ass beaten on the regular for being like this, I wasn't pressured into it.
>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian?
Badass, with a motorcycle, lots of cats, in my self built bungalow, lots of tattoos, growing my own food and still working out.
>get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc
I want my partner to also be my best friend. Travel the world together, go camping, work out together, have play fights and arm wrestle matches. Build shit together, tend to a permaculture garden or farm, catify everything and build our own catwalk and catio for the cats we'll adopt. Never have a dead bedroom. Dance silly together, paint with Bob Ross, bake bread, participate in a mud run together and be the best team ever. Make each other feel safe enough to talk about our feelings and to encourage honesty. Make sure to also have our own friends, so we don't just hangout with each other. Go to concerts together, play music instruments together, maybe start a band. I could keep going.

No. 212993

>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I lean more masculine, I don't prefer labels but I lean butch I suppose.
>what's your type?
I am attracted to all kinds of women. But I especially like shy bookish types. I come out of my shell easier when I'm around people more shy than me. But I also love the high femme, domineering, confident type. As for body type, I love chubby or muscular girls.
>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?
Ones I fit: Wears either birkenstocks or combat boots, no makeup/grow out body hair, wear "male" clothes and wear cologne, short unpolished nails. However I don't own a cat but would if my gf wanted one), don't own a suburu or jeep, don't like "lesbian music"

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>>202049
>>202050
I feel you nonnies.

I'm also 30 and have considered trooning out since my college days. Back then I had short back and sides hair and dressed like a punk. I was misgendered constantly and other times had "faggot" yelled from moving cars. I decided not to troon but I can't really remember my reasoning then because this was pre-peaking and becoming gender critical.

I got so sick of being intimidated by scrotes at the gym for being an obvious lesbian and GNC. Or in public or at my workplace, wherever. I grew my hair out and feminized my appearance a little solely just to get some peace and fucking quiet as I go about my life.

It sucks that that's what it takes. I want desperately to go back to being more butch in my presentation but I don't miss the harrassment. My hair is going white young, I have dark hair so it's noticeable. I don't want to dye it I don't think so when it's over 50% grey I will probably go back to short hair and butch styling.

I see a lot of unapologetic older butch lesbians and I've always admired them and felt like they truly are the happiest demographic. They just seem happy with themselves and their lives. That inspired me as a young closeted gay and I want to be that for the younger generation if they see me in public.

However one of my idols, lesbian musician Sara Bettens trooned out to become "Sam Bettens" a couple of years ago. Depressing as fuck nonnies.

No. 213147

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I made a lesbian friend IRL that seems just as radfem as I am, or at least gender crit enough. I'm fucking ecstatic.

No. 213225

>>213141
just looked up Sara Bettens. such a shame, she's made great music.

No. 213271

Is it a choice to fall in love? Can you choose not to fall in love with someone?

I met a girl recently who I will be near frequently. I didn’t know this could happen so quickly, but when I first saw her it already felt so strange. It felt wrong to look her in the eyes after while, it just felt too intense to look at her. Even the sound of her breathing uprooted me a little, and I felt drunk and giddy the rest of the day. The way she stands like a tree that can’t be uprooted, her voice, the softness of her face were all in the back of my head.

It feels embarrassing, as I don’t usually like to express myself very strongly, and I am almost skeptical as the reaction to her was so quick, it’s almost whorish of me. I don’t want to like her because I feel I will embarrass myself, and I don’t want my whole body to tense up when she’s near me.

As we will be in the same place working on the same thing, this thing requiring much attention and skill, I don’t want to be a stupid giddy girl around her. I don’t want to want her this much, I need to focus on this project and not embarrass myself.

Is there a way to control myself? Can I stop having these thoughts and feelings if I try hard enough? I

No. 213303

>>200981
>first crush?
Eastern Euro straight girl I was friends with
>local lesbian scene
butches who have a harem of women they string along, normie lesbians I'm too friendly with to really have a crush on, and straight women trying to reinvent female sepratism
>favorite lesbian media, lesbian media you hate
It's so rare to be interested in lesbian media due to scrote visuals but portrait of a lady on fire is a personal favorite
>coming out stories
I came out to my mom but she didn't believe me, though my parents did catch me looking at naked women several times before
>cows I would u'haul with
possibly momokun, shoe, a lot of trad cows because they're pretty cute and I want to show them the light
>opinions on labels
basic labels that were used in the 70's were okay, but the whole sapphic stuff these days are really annoying and I'm not going to keep up with them
>top bottom labels
anyone who would use that are minors so pass
>my type
soft butch women, all of my previous crushes were big nerds who were quite androgynous
>how did you know that you were gay
it was a slow realization, i gradually found out and when i finally knew it was when i had sex with a woman
>lesbian stereotypes i fit
being a total disaster, hating men
>what i was like as a kid
i didn't mind being girly because i loved being "normal" and fitting in with other kids but i was already showing signs of being gay with my curiosity for searching up naked women on the family computer
>old lady lesbian inspo
hopefully happily married and having a safe space for other lesbians to talk to and meet up
>homophobic family and friends
My family is fine as long as I don't tell them about my hookups and don't date any women. Ex-friends tried to convince me I could troon out or I was bisexual.

No. 213316

>>213271
You can't really choose. I fell in love at first sight too and it is actually what made me realize I'm a lesbian and not an asexual with weird fixations on female friends in early life. For me I knew instantly when I first saw her and we worked together which made things difficult. I knew I was going to fall hard and be cringe, and I was. The friendship could have turned into something more but I completely blew it. Anyway no, you can't choose not to fall in love but you can try to navigate it in a healthy way.

No. 213334

>>213316
Damn, I was hoping if I thought hard enough I could stop liking her too hard. Also, how did you ruin the opportunity for ‘something more’?

No. 213337

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I don't actually want kids but I think this gave me baby fever.

No. 213338

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My crush hugged me yesterday. I don't know if she's gay. I am on cloud nine.

No. 213340

>>213334
We were both attracted to each other, said as much, but I was in a bind for private reasons and I also got insecure because she was an aloof bihet. Got in my head and lost sight of myself a bit, the person I came across as was embarrassing because it was so unlike me. If I could go back in time I'd at least conduct myself better but it was a doomed relationship anyway, I knew I'd be broken-hearted by the end regardless.

>>213337
Beautiful even to my decidedly child-free eyes.

No. 213349

>>213337
Oh boy this hit me hard. I'm butch and my fiancée and I will begin trying for a baby next year (when we're married I will be recognised as a legal parent of the baby from birth). "I want to mother your child made only of us, of, you: no borrowed seed from any man." YES, THIS! My partner will be carrying the baby as I can't due to health reasons and the fact I have nothing to give makes me feel so useless. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a narc; I'm not looking to further my genetic line here. I know from my relationship with my step sister that I don't have to share blood with someone to love them as family. But getting some random dude involved just feels wrong. Like it's a sin, to bring someone else into our family, even if it's anonymously through a sperm bank. Straight people don't know how good they've got it.

No. 213390

>>212978
>Everyone thinks it's more subversive to only show feminine lesbians, to the point that every gnc woman on tv always has this big reveal that she's straight (like Brienne of Tarth)

A lesbian or bi Brienne reveal would have been very interesting to see.

No. 213391

>>212978
>every gnc woman on tv always has this big reveal that she's straight (like Brienne of Tarth or the one butch character in "But I'm a Cheerleader").
I fucking hate this trope so much kek. They just can't make a double whammy with a GNC lesbian or men will feel threatened, she needs to be feminine and a lesbian or a masculine woman who's actually straight. Don't know what that anon is about though, exclusive femme4femme representation for lesbians is such a well-known thing that there are multiple articles about it. I remember the article that actually listed almost all lesbian couples in media from the recent two decades and only a handful out of all of them involved a butch/GNC. If anyone finds the one I'm talking about that would be great.

No. 213396

I want to change my name to a slightly uncommon typically male name but I'm afraid I'll come off as a tif even though I've been going by every other name but mine since I was in my early teens and I've never come out as anything other than a lesbian. I'm butch looking so I feel like I'm at a disadvantage already. Most people irl already call me by this name, coworkers, family, etc. I'm going to change my name no matter what but I've been considering choosing a generic female name as a legal 'placeholder'. Is that stupid, am I putting too much thought into this?

No. 213400

>>213396
if you arent going to change your name to the one that you want to be called by, why change it at all?

No. 213406

I just wanna say that you're all very lovely ladies and I wish everyday I was born lesbian. Have a good day!

No. 213415

>>213396
I changed my legal name to my nickname what was not a "real" name at least in my country until I got it. It's pretty sexless and I must say that only after I had changed it and it got approved I realized that it's kinda gender-y when thinking about enby names in my country.
I'm also pretty butch/GNC but at least anyone hasn't said anything about it, at least not to my face.
I'm pretty openly GC tho and don't shy away from stating that I am in fact a female
Getting a female placeholder name sounds pretty silly if you ask me.

No. 213424

>>213406
honestly i hate being a lesbian i can’t understand why anyone would want to be one

No. 213441

>>213406
Oh do fuck off. You have no idea how good you got it.
>but men bad
Do people yell slurs at you in the street for holding hands? Does your family feel shame and cast you out because you dared to love someone of the same sex? Do your female friends think you're predatory and that you're gonna hit on them?
Lesbianism isn't all hand-holding and talking about our feelings. If I could, I would choose to be straight. You won the sexuality lottery, be happy about it!

No. 213449

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>>213406
Thanks lovely anon!

No. 213453

>>213424
>>213441
Can you doomers grow the fuck up and learn to appreciate your own existence? I get the hetero woman intruding to say some saccharine shit is annoying but get a fucking grip. Yearning to be straight is pathetic.

No. 213456

Actually, I love being a lesbian and think it's entertaining that so many people wish they could be us, even superficially. It's not all rainbows and sunshine, but the love and appreciation that lesbians, or at least I, have for other women is unparalleled by any hetero. If I could choose my sexuality I would stick with lesbian every time.

No. 213465

>>213453
>>213456
NTA but I personally hate the "I wish I was a lesbian I'm so mad at my Nigel that I just want a wholesome waifu to hold hands and bake cookies with!!" shit because it's infantilizing lesbians just like AGPs fetishize it. Lesbians can be unstable partners because a lot of them are traumatized by the homophobia they've experienced in their lives and even if they're not you still can't just exchange kisses or apply for housing together with your partners, even western society you still have bigots who think you're sinning against nature. Straight girls who treat lesbianism as some girl coven to escape male bullshit are exactly what political lesbians are and they're a cancer on par with the aforementioned transbians, only instead of demanding lesbians to suck girldick they're perpetuating harmful tropes and belittling shared lesbian experiences. It's just as tone deaf to say "god I wish I was black so I could be a credible rap musician" to a black person.

No. 213472

>>213453
>Yearning to be straight is pathetic
You must be really fucking privileged to say that, embarrassing

No. 213477

>>213453
I'm one of the "doomers" and I am grown up. That's the problem. If I saw this as a young woman I'd react very differently but I'm 30 fucking years old and I've seen enough and experienced enough to not tolerate polilez adjacent bullshit. Wishing to be a lesbian is creepy and infantilising. >>213465 hit the nail on the head perfectly. I also wish I was white due to the trauma of racism. It's very common for minorities to wish for the ability to be part of the majority, not because we hate ourselves and don't appreciate the good things that come from our communities but because it can be really fucking hard and drag us down. This goes double if you're butch/GNC as that paints an even bigger target on your back. Saying it's "pathetic" and calling us "doomers" is ridiculous, just say you're privileged and/or inexperienced and go.

No. 213479

>>213477
Bold of you to assume a bunch of shit about me when you don't know me at all. I'm GNC and got myself out of a muslim country and went through hell to get to where I am today. I called you a doomer because that's the literature you spewed and continue to spew. It's so unfathomable to you apparently that some of us don't want to wallow in self-hatred. Stop letting bigots control how you see yourself.

No. 213505

Joined bumble. it’s full of couples, tims, straight up dudes and poly people.

However also full of stone butches who play sports. Cautiously optimistic for the time being, hoping the terf shit in my bio doesn’t get me banned.

No. 213531

>>213477

Oof , you're 30 and still on lolcow? Yikes.. also instead of crying about being a minority, go where you're the majority.(big oof)

No. 213535

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>>213531
>Oof , you're 30 and still on lolcow? Yikes..
I also think the doomer stuff is retarded but fuck off women aren't required to log off and have babies once they hit 25.

No. 213536

yikes, I didn't once say 'men bad hurr hurr' but I can see why that would come off that way and do apologize for that. Was just absently commenting something, didn't realize you guys would get so angry at something so innocuous but have at it.

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>>213505
Congrats and best of luck anon! Praying you don’t get banned before meeting a good match. I recently reached out to a match from a dating app I unfortunately ghosted years ago during some personal craziness, and to my pleasant surprise she responded and when we hung out she & I hit it off phenomenally. Sometimes dating apps aren’t all bad! I can’t wait to see her again

No. 213547

>>213531
NTA, but Where is the lesbian country then? Also is this just a thinly veiled "go back to x continent" sperg?

No. 213557

>>213531
>oof
>yikes
>think farmers are only allowed to be between 18-29

No. 213575

>>213531
lmao anon. go back to playing minecraft if you think 30 is too old.
>>213538
bless u nonnie. i’m an awkward mess around other women so i need that luck.

No. 213606

>>213479
NTA, but you're incredibly immature. Grow up. Learn that not everyone processes traumatic experiences the same way you do and stop silencing other lesbians with your shitty internet term only terminally online people use.

>>213536
Why are you still here if you're not a lesbian? Imagine an adult young white woman going up to a group of black women and being like "omg I wish I was black too!! :)" I hate using other black women for this kinds of examples, but please have enough self-awareness to understand that this is what you sound like. Coming back to also make this comment is just plain disrespectful.

No. 213608

>>213400
>>213415
You're both right, thank you for responding! I get too in my head about how other people perceive me and that's ridiculous, it's my party and I get to pick the name!
>>213479
I don't have a horse in this race but I can't fucking stand the word spew in this context. My geiger counter starts going off when I hear it, it's the fastest way to tell me you spent your formative years on twitter and tumblr. >>213606 you nailed it, terminally online lmao.

No. 213771

>>213606
Idek what internet term you're mad about you little shit. I did not grow up on Tumblr or Twitter but your paranoia about the identity of the person you're speaking to is more "terminally online" than anything I've seen in this thread. Maybe if you tried to understand people's perspectives instead of trying to label them as this or that you'd be able to reach people who don't hate themselves and maybe just maybe you wouldn't be so out of place.

No. 213820

>>213771
nta but holy sperg batman

No. 214180

I have something I'd like to ask but don't feel like asking non-lesbians on the relationship advice thread. Nonas who went through a breakup with someone you thought was the love of your entire life, how long did it take for you to get over it? Or, alternatively, did you get over it at all?

No. 214212

How do you guys deal with creepy comments from guys? The typical “lesbians should make out for us” i fucking hate it everytime i hang out with my gf this shit happens i hate moids

No. 214215

>>214212
"no" or "kill yourself" will suffice. Especially the latter.

No. 214565

did you guys came out of the closet ? If so how did it go ? My parents are homophobic and I'm so scared. I want them to be at my marriage, I want them to be part of my life. I feel guilty for not being normal.

No. 214567

>>214565
As Morticia Addams put it, beautifully and simply:
“Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”

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>>214567
how very quirky! how very pinterest! how completely unhelpful when someone is asking for advice dealing with familial homophobia!

No. 214607

>>214565
Here's the thing though, if their love is conditional then is it really worth holding on to? You're (presumably) an adult now and don't need unconditional parental love. I mean we all do to an extent but you have to grow out of craving it. If they're really gonna disown you over something you were born as, they just don't deserve you. It's that simple. You don't need to come out until you get engaged or w.e. but it's messy and a bit unfair to your fiance to put her through that. Imo do it now and just face the music. If they suddenly hate you for something you can't control, something natural, then you need to learn to live without their approval. It just can't be any other way.

No. 214608

>>214565
I haven't come out of the closet aside from some close friends. I'm waiting until i'm fully financially independent before i come out to my family. I'm super close with my family too, especially with my mom, she's like my friend. But she's also incredibly homophobic and I don't think that will ever change.
Don't feel the need to come out when you're not ready anon. I also feel guilty about being lesbian but moving away from my family helps me feel more comfortable with myself.

No. 214615

>>214567
what a shit saying, it's normal for the fly too that's nature, go buy some killstar

No. 214618

>>214565
Yes, I'm out. Lost some very close (very religious) friends and my parents basically stopped speaking to me for several months. I moved across the country and was homeless for a brief period, they never had a clue. My mother was/is abusive and my father never did shit about it, I don't want them at my damn wedding but I can't stop grieving the parents they should have been. I wish I had a real mom and a dad that loves me. I'll probably never stop being sad about the friends I lost. But the important thing is that I can grow as the person I'm meant to be and live at my fullest, making new connections with people who already know me as myself, no hiding. That's more valuable to me than hanging onto old, conditional connections out of fear. It will be very hard at first but ultimately it will get better, and your life will be better for it. Don't light yourself on fire to keep them warm, they won't thank you for it.

No. 214784

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I met such an amazing woman but I'm so in my head all the time. I need to learn how to appreciate every second I have with her. Still, full of hope rn nonnas. Gonna make her feel like a goddess.

No. 214896

i know dating apps suck but i don't really have much free time to explore in other ways, does anyone have any tips on how to at least find someone to talk to (i'm open to hookups but i'm not holding my breath on it) besides don't use them (lmao), avoid troons and hardcore liberals, unicorn hunters, etc.?

No. 214941

>>214896
Make peace with swiping left on 90% of the profiles. Only swipe right on ones that don't have stupid pronouns and any mention of overly libfem ideas in general. List no pronouns on your own profile, make references to second wave feminism stuff if you care about that kinda thing. Swipe left on every bisexual or "queer". Only swipe on people who openly identify as lesbian women. You will still need to meet up with some or even many women before you find someone that clicks with you but it will happen.

No. 214951

at this point, i’m willing to date any of the anons in this thread.

No. 214966


No. 214988

>>214951
i feel like this too kek

No. 214990

>>214988
>>214966
like if this site ever goes down i want to at least find my girlfriend on here first.

No. 215006

Every now and then there's this anon or maybe more of them that have a hateboner for lesbian and bisexual women. The posts really look as if they're written by the same person, it starts off as a pickme tirade and then it divulges into a fullblown spiel about how lesbian and bisexual women are evil and predatory. I know it's just a literal who online but it fuels my own fears of being perceived as predatory.

No. 215014

>>215006
I feel like it's more than one person tbh but they're retarded and will need to lick dick cheese for decades of their life. She deserves out pity and not much else.

No. 215022

>>214941
this is good advice for anons in liberal areas but i think the issue is i found out i don't have a compatible lifestyle with the non-lib lesbians, i'm not into normie butches who just love dogs, the femmes are looking for studs, dorky tumblr fandom types (they don't seem super queer, just nerdy), nor do i find any of them attractive either. i'm not a hardcore feminist besides not agreeing with libfem/trans stuff, so i don't want to lead anyone on by liking every lesbian i see or lying about my political views. i might just try meetup or bars when i have free time to meet someone casual

No. 215024

>>214990
god yea. but i feel like im an idiot and stupid when i admit i want a lc gf

No. 215030

>>215024
me too, but it would be pretty hilarious telling ppl we know that the two of us met our gf on lc.

No. 215051

>>215024
I just want an autist gf so bad. It's okay if she doesn't post here but I want her to be the type of person who would post here. I wanna be schizoid hermits together.

No. 215059

>>215022
The main advice still applies. Swipe left on anyone that doesn't fit your very narrow tastes and only make exceptions for people you find extraordinarily appealing despite the misses in criteria. Signal the right things and only be open to matching with the ones that signaled the correct things themselves. Going to meetups IRL is fine too, though the apps give you a far greater ability to filter out the chaff. Ideally you should do it all. Spend a few months doing this and you can find someone you vibe with as long as you aren't in a small town.

No. 215085

>>200981
I’ve been feeling really lonely lately. There aren’t a whole lot of lesbians around me and my girlfriend and most of our friend groups are “bi” women that basically exclusively date men. I’m really tired of these women going on and on about how cute me and my gf are and how they just wish they had a relationship like that. I had one friend in a long term committed relationship (they’re thinking of getting married) with boyfriend tell me she was jealous of what me and my gf had. But they’ll also defend their shitty boyfriends all the time. I just don’t relate and I’m tired of being treated this way.

No. 215111

>>215051
i feel this more than anything. i want a gf who is off the walls bonkers just like me, and dating apps are not help. maybe i will join that lc lesbian discord server if one is ever made…

No. 215119

>>215111
nta but i really want to make one…..i could make it and just tell people to add me over friend finder so i dont get banned or something

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>>215051
oh god, me too anon…

No. 215152

>>215059
i mean i know you can filter on apps but i realized from using them this weekend its actually kind of the same as real life since i only get unwanted attention on both. i don't live in a small town but it's not big either, there aren't many lesbians here it seems and i don't have the energy to have semi-LDRs across state and meet up sometimes. i'll stick to my toys until i move lmao

No. 215158

>>215152
I literally can't with lesbian dating apps
Literally 50% trans, 20% women in relationships, 20% women in relationships looking for a threesome

That being said #I don't care if I'm dating a married women in an open relationship or cheating on her husband## why can't the threesome people list in their bio what they're looking for instead of wasting time conversing with me?

No. 215162

>>215119
i think it would be fun, but like you said we’d have to figure out how to get people on it first

No. 215200

>>215006
I don't give a shit about that schizo anon but what really gets to me is seeing regular pickmes with their own names and faces writing that lesbophobic nonsense and scurrying to kiss testicles whenever anyone is attacking lesbians. I know so many women who hate lesbians out in the open, accusing them of being predatory and outright nefarious and more often than not it's the she/they trojan horse type identifying as some flavour of bihet who's supposedly a kweer authority. It plays way too well into my irrational fear of coming off as some crazed sex-hungry rapist if I do so much as say hello to another woman when I see them gaining more and more recognition for saying lesbians bad over and over again.

No. 215214

>>215158
i really wish someone would make a threesome hookup app or something so couples wouldn't clog tinder. HER is garbage because it caters to TIM feelings but at least they have a rule against unicorn hunters (that doesn't stop them, but i've still reported a few)

No. 215223

Guys im just checking

Is gay when you can only get off if you think of women or touching women? And when you feel a romantic connection to women?

Just because I thought other women found women hot, and men were boring to look at too, and intercourse with men was more of a chore.
When I see women with the right body or voice, it feels like I need to pee and I can’t think like a civilised person. I don’t get this from men, but I thought other women were the same for a while. I told my friend and she said I should give men a try, and I am considering- it’s just that touching them the way I want to touch women is either boring, or a little gross to me. But maybe I have to ‘discover’ men as part of growing up? Because I’m 18 and do feel as though I should do these things for my family. But the idea of living my life with a man sounds so empty, especially compared to with a woman.

I felt a sense of shame about liking women because I used to draw them without clothes on and mom found out, and was horrified. But I just wanted to see breasts because they activate my neurones. Also I got called gay a lot and girls never yelled at me for it like guys, I just began to feel a distance forming between my friends and I, as if the rumours of my homosexuality made me a predator although I would never even look at them too long, let alone violate them. I have felt this way for a long time, but I heard age will change me. But right now, the thought of being with a man is comparable to chewing ice- uncomfortable and not nice. But I feel like a guy would fix me.

All girls go through phases I think. Although I don’t know why, a few girls have liked me before, but only one of them is special, it’s like I love the way she speaks and her genuine manner and gentle face and body and it feels like finding the yin to my yang, except another part of me says ‘woah, that’s unnatural’, and drives me away.

Sorry for bringing retardation to the thread. I’m not at ease, as I know some of my family is against this and I want to be a mother one day, and I feel isolated in being this way as I’m starting to realise that I’m maybe different. I have felt funny about women alone for a very long time, but sometimes I think ‘woah that’s gay’ or ‘don’t worry everyone’s a little bi’ except men do nothing for me. And so many girls say they’re bi and go on about loving women but end up dating men, so I think- yes, women can be straight or bi and feel nothing for men and everything for women. It’s normal, right?

No. 215229

>>215223
You need to have sex IRL to find out. Masturbation/porn are too loaded to know for sure.

No. 215234

>>215229
I don’t watch pornography, I first noticed women the day I saw a teacher wearing a tight skirt. Also I’m not sure hooking up is an option, I don’t want to touch a man, can I find out without doing that? Also I promised my mom not to have premarital sex.

No. 215237

>>215223
> because I used to draw them without clothes on
word, i used to do this. but my mum never found out

No. 215252

>>215223
Stop perpetuating the stereotype that all women are a little bi.

No. 215257

>>215234
The lesbian thread isn't the place to make the post you made in the first place so you should go to the questioning or bi thread but before you go: do not fall for the celibacy before marriage meme. Don't do it, it's a great way to end up in an abusive or sexless marriage.

No. 215297

>>215223
Why can't bisexuals bother reading the thread before posting? Fuck off

No. 215301

>>215297
Ayrt, I posted because I don’t feel for men but wonder if it’s an age/inexperience/woman/mental block thing, esp as I find it easy, involuntary to burn towards women. Most of all I hoped to find out how lesbians ‘knew’. So I label myself straight/bi but I’m starting to think I’m actually full fat homo, not even semi skimmed bi. Sorry for posting in the wrong thread.

No. 215303

>>215301
you just sound like a virgin teen lesbian to me. most het/bi women don't have some mental block with their attraction to men and only like thinking about women (except rare individual cases). don't experiment with men to find out though, i think that last comment meant trying something with a woman. if you're really 18 though don't mess with anyone (man or woman) 1-2 years older

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is this kikomi or just a spicy troon?

No. 215318

>>215315
it's a spicy troon, too late to delete too fml

No. 215349

>>215301
As someone who considered myself bi for a long time and spent a long period of time questioning and flopping between bi and lesbian, I think the ultimate kicker was getting a boyfriend who was, on paper, everything I should have liked in a boy, but kissing and touching him made me feel physically queezy and disgusted with myself. I still got anxious when kissing past girlfriends at times, but it never came with the feelings of regret, shame, and nausea. You're still young so spend some time without worrying about labels, casually date some girls and see if you feel happy or comfortable with them. A lot of bi women end up with men simply because it's just easier, being a lesbian is a lot more difficult to navigate, but if you don't like men there is zero benefit to being with one. When I imagine my future, I can never imagine spending it with a man.

No. 215703

>>215297
Hold up anon, she sounds more like an inexperienced young lesbian than a bisexual.

Anyway as for original anon >>215223 I want to share my story. I used to be like this growing up in a conservative environment, I thought I was going to grow up, find a husband and start a family just like everyone else. I thought me being attracted to women and repulsed by men was just a phase everyone goes through and tried my best to manipulate myself into finding a man. Years went by and every time I had a crush, it was on a woman. Every time a man showed interest in me I felt nothing but visceral disgust and kept making excuses for why he wasn't "the one".

It wasn't until my late 20's when I had a life-altering experience and realized that I'm not going to "grow out of this" and that it's not a phase. It was a very, very painful thing to realize that I spent my best years going after men in vain, trying to convert myself into a prim and proper straight woman who could look back on her cute girl crushes and laugh about them. Being bullied growing up for the predatory homosexual meme certainly did irreversible damage to my sexual health to the point I'm probably going to be alone until the end of my days. So my advice to you would be to allow yourself the option to be attracted to women and reprogram the internalized lesbophobia out of your system. Don't force yourself to be straight or bi if it doesn't feel right.

No. 215817

>>215200
>>215006
>>215014
Thanks for mocking my rape, lesbian girls. Not gonna lie this shit hurts.

No. 215818

>>215817
Nta and not a lesbian, but they didn't mock your rape. You said horrible things about all bisexual and lesbian women while saying that men were innocent and can't sexualize women, and that was why some anons had an issue with your post. Besides, if you hate les/bi women then stop lurking their threads.

No. 215820

>>215818
I don’t hate lesbians, I vented about it because I can vent and hate everything in existence without doing actual harm. But the replies only proved my point more btw. And they literally did, by calling me a schizo in a pool of schizo ramblings, when all I did was getting disappointed by my own gender.
>while saying that men were innocent and can't sexualize women
And why did you take my stuff out of context? Look, it doesn’t matter, but every time someone on here mocks me, I will keep venting about my lesbian rapist. Carry on with your lesbian thread, though.

No. 215824

>>215817
>>215820
You're a rando on the internet, how do we know you're not some psycho homophobe who's making shit up? Plenty of troons unironically lie about cis lesbians raping them to justify their lesbophobia and homophobic straight women think a lesbian making moves on them is rape, most of us are pretty desensitized by this "predatory homosexual" trope by now to the point you camping the lesbian thread to blog about your sexual assault sounds like an agenda. Especially when you're being so petty about it saying "every time someone on here mocks me, I will keep venting about my lesbian rapist".

No. 215827

>>215820
>I don’t hate lesbians
>ever since I got molested by a female bitch I hate all lesbians
Obviously what happened to you is horrible and I'm not saying you're not allowed to talk about being raped by a woman, but why do you expect gay women to comfort you while you say that you hate all lesbians and "bishits"?

No. 215840

>>215824
You have a point but
>Especially when you're being so petty about it saying "every time someone on here mocks me, I will keep venting about my lesbian rapist".
I bombarded my (male) rapist’s phone with death threats until he changed numbers and my lesbian rapist blocked me because she was afraid of me. Or maybe they felt sorry for me. I have no agenda I just need help.

No. 215844

>>215827
I honestly didn’t expect it. I wish you were in my shoes to see how even when I talk like a normal human being people are mostly shit to me about my rape. Even when I was a kid and got raped by a 40 year old man, I was called whore and slut by social worker, police etc…

How can you not expect me to be a sperg?
Well my rage is over anyways I cooled down. Mostly because my lesbian rapist came out on her fb just now as a troon transman lmfao. Anyways i will shut up now i just want to sleep and stop rambling.

No. 215845

>>215840
>both male AND female rapist
>spammed male rapist with death threats
>female rapist blocked anon out of fear
>going around lolcow writing unhinged posts about your "lesbian rapist" and her "fish-smelling vagina" in multiple threads
Anon you should've just stopped dishing it around 50 posts ago, you sound crazy and full of it. Now leave already.

No. 215846

>>215845
Lol. Go fuck yourself retard.

No. 215850

For the anons who don't know this "lesbian rapist"-chan, the summary: she wrote barely coherent posts in the vent thread in /ot/ about how she used to defend lesbians but was apparently molested by another woman and as a result she now hates all bisexual and lesbian women and only likes gay men for "protecting" her. And according to her this "lesbian rapist" has molested little boys and has sex with men but she's still apparently a lesbian. Plus strange derailments about how men smell like shit and her rapist's vagina smelled like fish.
>>>/ot/978844
>>>/ot/979268
>>>/ot/978862
>>>/ot/978856
And now she returned to /ot/ to write about rapists being stinky. Mods please ban this weirdo.

No. 215851

>>215850
Honestly worst thing that can happen to me. No justice, just mockery. All my life. I thought the vent thread was my safe space where I could say these things because I saw all the other weird posts. God. I didn’t even respond to the posts in the lesbian thread until I reread it a few times during a ptsd flashback. Why does it offend you even though I sticked to the vent thread? I was venting. Omg. I typed incoherent because I was distressed and venting. Fuck you. I only came to your thread because you came to my post. And harshly. Maybe it’s a good thing I get banned, this is just disgustinf.

No. 215852

>>215851
When you say you hate all lesbian and bi women, of course lesbian and bi anons are not going to like you.

No. 215856

>>215852
I’d still get backlash, in fact I got in such a low point in that vent thread precisely because I was getting victim blamed. Anyways no point discussing this anymore everything sucks and I know better now to no longer use the vent thread.

No. 215857

>>215856
I meant to add: Even if I didn’t say it*

No. 215859

>>215858
Who cares about a bunch of anons I mean to say that I was victim blamed irl lol. I am not coherent when i’m hurt. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger i guess lmfao. And I understand, when you vent meaningless stuff like I hate X you’ll get those retards coming up to you no matter how much more serious the actual problem really is. Gotcha. Whatever, thanks for making me stronger I guess.

No. 215875

What is the general consensus itt on The L Chat forums?

No. 215889

>>215703
Thanks anon, I really spent a long time hating myself and doing mental gymnastics to see myself as normal. I simultaneously swoon over lesbo romance novels and dream about having a gf, whilst seeing myself as straight, because for a long time I convinced myself that lesbians don’t exist, or lesbian is what you are when you want to be a man.
I hope you don’t end up alone. If you’re just finding yourself out, that means a lot is left to look forwards to. And in the void of a relationship and closeted loneliness, great friendships, new things to do and personal projects can help.

No. 215896

>>215875
I lurk that site sometimes. Kinda feels like a site made up of the instagram-butterfly-filter femmes and the studs with one facial expression on all 5 pictures on Her. Basic is the word for it I guess? Basic lesbian, not a phrase I thought I'd put together.

No. 215905

>>214951
at the point where i would join a lesbian lc server for real

No. 215919

All the women I end up liking are bi, it's like I never end up liking other lesbians romantically. Is there a name for this phenomenon …? Or is just a case of lesbians being rare in general?

No. 215931

should i just take the ban and make a discord

No. 215935

>>215919
idk about your town but in mine I can just look at how a woman presents and tell if she is bi or lesbian with very high accuracy so sounds like you like the male pandering aesthetics and mannerisms of bisexuals, subconsciously. that'd be my theory.

No. 215956

>>215919
I agree with >>215935. Initially I was gonna say that lesbians are rare but I personally have met plenty of other lesbians yet I never, ever seem to click with them, and so I used to think the exact same thing you did. I wouldn't instantly say that it's the male pandering aesthetic that is more ""attractive"" about bi women, but at least in my experience, it's easier for me to get along with them since we're more likely to be into the same shit and share the same interests. Sorry for the blog

No. 215983

>>215905
>>215931
I wish we had an LC lesbian server or even a les/bi server. Someone be brave and make one please

>>215935
What do you mean by male pandering aesthetics, like being more feminine in terms of style and mannerisms?

No. 215997


No. 216006

I just wanted to say that I appreciate all you butch lezzies. Stay strong and keep fighting the good fight against the genderspecials.

No. 216062

>>215875
It’s pretty based.

No. 216080

>>215875
i miss Kathy Belge

No. 216157

>>215875
Average user is immature, aggressive and the topics are dull.

No. 216159

>>215875
I love hearing perspectives from old and young Lebaneses, from around the world. Feel understood there. But yeah they are a little politically correct and celebrity obsessed tbh

No. 216167

>>216159
>Old and young Lebaneses

I know it's autocorrect but I still kek'd

No. 216174

>>216159
>l chat politically correct

now there are two phrases i never expected to see paired together.

No. 216178

>>216174
right? i think it depends what threads you’re in nowadays, i used to post in fan threads and there would be outrage if somebody had a controversial opinion but everywhere else still seems a free for all

No. 216217

>>215875
Femme4femme central, unironically butchphobic and hates gnc women in general (they think they're all unwashed and fat).

No. 216246

>>215983
hard to explain, I'll try to make a list of stuff that tends to give it away when I have time. sorry nonners

No. 216259

>>215983
NTA but I've noticed that compared to lesbians bisexual women usually tone their behavior and feminist takes down and restrict themselves in order not to lose their appeal in the eyes of men. Lesbians are much more free-spirited in a way because they don't have to give a shit about men finding them too boisterous or generally un-ladylike.

No. 216263

>>216217
lol the top post atm is 'Femmes who love dominant femmes?'

No. 216266

>>216263
sounds like troonspeak and i hate it cause i actually do want a dominant gf cause i’m naturally submissive.

i like butch women though. sporty women are hot.

sage cause kink and butch sperging

No. 216296

>>215852
I'm surprised any of this kind of self awareness is itt because all I've seen for several threads is butches whining that they're victims because someone doesn't think that spotting each other at the gym is an ideal date. I didn't know that we were so far gone that being a femme now either means you're a troon or too basic for somebody to be with. I'm a femme and I do like butches, but guess who hates that I'm femme? The butches I've interacted with.

>>216217
>butchphobia

Oh, the fucking irony.

No. 216298

>>216296
I'm sure you're oppressed as hell for being gender-conforming, anon.

No. 216306

Does anyone here abstain? Like no action with someone or alone?
I feel ashamed when I want to touch women, I feel dirty when I even get a little too close to another girl, and touching myself makes me feel like I’ve disrespected women by fantasising about them and I’m impure. I think it’s either a problem or my spirit telling me it’s wrong, like instinct - but maybe there’s a middle ground of not being addicted to any pleasure and enjoying closeness with women but waiting for commitment to do anything touchy instead. I can’t believe I’m gay sometimes, it feels like hiding a dirty secret whilst pretending to be a nice normal girl. And if I like women, why do I look normal? I thought I was supposed to look manly and it would be more obvious. I feel like a sussy imposter,

I’m so tense about my gross secret I try not to think about it- because when I do, I see my mother disgusted with me, girls condescending me or treating me like a predator, I see men hating me, hellfire and judgement, loneliness, and sharing close and intimate moments with girls just to feel like crawling out of my skin moments later in self disgust and never talking to her again except in my dreams. Is this how you guys started out?

>>216296
Yeah, I think people can be condescending to feminine women- misogyny is a cultural phenomena. And femmes can be hated too, in a similar way. And many lesbians can be misogynists after being mistreated by women and feeling the bitterness of being an outsider. I think they may see you and think ‘normie/faker’, and find it hard to believe you are with them. I think some lesbians are misogynists used to rejection and shunning but still, it needs to change. And if you’re feminine and like stuff like comfy dresses or expressive fashion, don’t let other lesbians make you feel dumb for it. I usually get myself a little girly if I’m seeing family just to blend in.
Masculine women on the other hand may feel pressured to change, feel seen as more predatory, and feel lonely in their difference.
I don’t think it’s a victimisation competition, we all have stuff to deal with.

No. 216308

>>216306
>I don’t think it’s a victimisation competition, we all have stuff to deal with.
NTA but I fully agree about this. I'm sick of hearing about how butches have it the easiest because they're not "treated as weaklings" or accused of being trannies on imageboards as it shows a clear lack of perspective and understanding how shitty it actually is to be a masculine women men don't respect. Being a non-gender conforming lesbian isn't at all the same as the desirable result of being a pantsuit wearing girlboss who doesn't mind being called a bitch and a whore because she's "not a drama queen bimbo like other girls". It's about having a long-lasting trauma of being treated as the disgusting rapist preying on women since middle school, it's about feeling pressure to transition to be "normal", it's about feeling lonely growing up with absolutely no role models or anything telling you you're fine as you are. As I was considered "not a woman" in my adolescence I got beat up all the time by boys and abused simply for being unfuckable to them.

And the same goes for femme lesbians like my girlfriend. They don't radiate the "ugly mannish lesbian" energy so they can go stealth and they're treated with more courtesy and pleasantries because they're not considered disgusting by men. But then again they're fetishized to hell, men try to make moves on them because they consider them the ultimate virginal prize who can perform for their sexual pleasure, troons obsess over them and coerce them to have sex with them, people doubt their sexuality because they don't look like the bulldyke stereotype and expect it to be simply a phase before the cave in and birth children to the one man who conquers them. All lesbians have it bad, trying to make it into a competition on who's fucked over by society the worst is pointless because there are no winners.

No. 216317

>>216306
>I feel ashamed when I want to touch women, I feel dirty when I even get a little too close to another girl, and touching myself makes me feel like I’ve disrespected women by fantasising about them and I’m impure.

coming from an ex fundie who was made to feel ashamed about sexuality that sounds like personal baggage. youre assuming that your feelings on touch and closeness coincide with your partner. you can bring politics and gender issues into it all you want but at the end of it, if youre not comfortable with a level of intimacy that involves another person then why push it? you cant even be intimate with yourself without a blanket of guilt. spent some quality time alone with your needs and wants anon before you attempt to include another.

its really cute to say you dont care what your partner looks like or their success level or personality or sexuality but really at the end of it, if none of that jibes with you then yes it does matter.

No. 216320

>>216298
Except that its not a competition, but way to flash that victim complex even more.

>>216306
>>216308
>All lesbians have it bad, trying to make it into a competition on who's fucked over by society the worst is pointless because there are no winners.

And it'd be nice to actually see more of that itt because as it stands, for three whole threads, I have seen less unity and more anons like >>216298

No. 216332

>>216320
That reply wasn’t really divisive considering it was in response random hostility over literally nothing lmao.

No. 216333

>>216332
This. Anon literally comes out of nowhere being snappy and bitchy about butches being mean to her in every thread with absolutely nothing to back it up with and it's the other anon who's being divisive for flinging it back at her kek, I smell the bisexual thread leaking

No. 216368

Do you have gay male friends?

No. 216382

>>216333
>with absolutely nothing to back it up

Dude, if anybody posted compiled screenies you'd tell them to stop obsessing on an imageboard and to touch grass. Its a general thread, but grievances aren't allowed unless they're ones you agree with?

No. 216408

>>216368
I don't. Bi women mostly in the past, a few bi men, a few lesbians and maybe one straight guy I'm a bi lurker though. I actually think I know the least about gay men of any part of the LGBT including the T kek

No. 216412

>>216368
I have some. They're normal, average people sympathetic towards women and lesbians but then again we're all in our 30's so at this point everyone has stabilized a lot. I've met the misogynist drama queen ones too but frankly said they're basically hating women as a cope for being too ugly and insufferable for other gay men themselves.

No. 216432

>>216368
Some that I keep at arm's length, not true friends. 95% of my friends are lesbians; just got tired of being around people to whom I'll have to explain myself or whose male partners I'll be forced to get to know. The gay men I've allowed to be in my circle have the sense not to be disrespectful to women at least in front of me, though who knows what they say behind closed doors. Can't obsess too much, tbh. I don't get invested in them cause scrote gonna scrote.

I do slightly prefer gay men over the bi women I know simply because at least they understand being exclusively same sex attracted and don't yap about drag race to prove "queer" cred like bisexual women tend to do lol. I'll still always prefer the company of lesbians over anybody else though, even libfem ones.

Confession time: I'm starting to be actively grossed out by makeup and it's going to limit my dating options severely. I don't know, it's just been increasingly unattractive to me in the past few months. I don't mind some mascara or a little blush/tinted chapstick but skin makeup, eyeshadow, false lashes, penciled in brows, matte lipstick etc look horrible to me. I think even high femmes look far better with little to no makeup, it looks so much more womanly to me to be bare faced.

No. 216454

>>216432
Agree. Some makeup is ok but at a certain level it feels like I’m not looking at a face but at a template or something drawn on. Plus, it just seems kind of gross to fill your pores with gunk every day. I want to look at a real person, not an Instagram template face. Likewise, fake tan generally looks weird on European girls, but to some it’s basically mandatory for glamour. I like dark skin naturally, but if someone’s naturally pale they probably look better pale, just embrace your vampirism.

But then I think it’s us who appreciate natural beauty more, a man would probably want an Instagram looking girl whereas we would appreciate natural a lot more. And I’m glad we have this website so I can sperg about makeup without being called out for ‘bringing women down’ who completely ‘do it for themselves’ which means only when they’re going to be seen.

No. 216459

>>216368
Not exactly friends, but we chat about working out and complain about TRA stuff together. They also help me out with stuff like fashion or cologne, because my butch ass is clueless (and women try to force feminize me, so cannot ask them for advice, I wish I knew other butches).
>>216432
>>216454
I have a thing for alternative women, so I like eyeliner, but that's about it. The instabaddie, or however it's called, trend freaks me out. Looks like Bratz irl. I also worry they'll try to put make up on me. I'd probably be accused of toxic masculinity everywhere else for not liking that shit.

No. 216512

A nice girl called me pretty last weekend and I'm still riding the high. Wishing all you ladies a lovely rest of the week.

No. 216544

>>216512
I don't remember the last time someone called me pretty

No. 216557

>>216512
kek I still think about when I dressed myself up all feminine, did my makeup and all that, and made a straight girl pause and process at how much prettier I was (since I usually dress like shit). That was two years ago and I still haven't come down from it.
>>216544
Stay strong nonna

No. 216602

I just want lesbian friends who aren’t troon handmaidens. I made a lesbian friend recently and she would make vagina/pussy jokes so I thought there was a possibility she didn’t care about all the tranny shit but I just found out she’s dating one. Every lesbian in this city is dating one it’s so disgusting even my gf’s ex is a fucking tranny I hate it so much. I love my gf but it bugs me she dated one of those freaks. Sorry to vent about it here i don’t know where else to go I have no one who shares the same views as I do and it sucks

No. 216835

Going to the thread questions I haven’t answered, things I live in a girl are

> genuine manner

> being white (not racebaiting i just feel more connected to them as i am also white)
> soft body, kind of thick thighs
> healthy
> deep voice
> a little assertive lol
> minimal or no makeup
> being chill and funny

>>216602
Are they dating FTMs or MTFs? The phrasing makes me think there are many trans in your city. Can I ask what country you are in? Because the only trans I have seen in mine is just a middle aged man who wears a school uniform for girls and speaks in a squeaky voice.

No. 216840

Fucking hell. All the cute girls I meet who are weird and into weebshit like me always end up being straight/bihet, TRAs, or nonbinary. "Normal" lesbians/bi girls are always so fucking boring as well. I know I should just settle I guess with the normal lesbians/bi girls but is it really that hard to ask for another autistic weeb to date? Like shit man

No. 216841

>>216840
How old are you and are you also a fujo? lmao

No. 216843

>>216841
20 and yes, anon! Also a yumejo if that makes any difference.

No. 216845

>>216843
Fuck it, here's a throwaway discord if you want to add me and talk about anime or being a lesbian or whatever nona8888#7982
I'm also partially a yumejo so that's completely fine lmao.
I'm 22, and while that's pretty close in age, sometimes things get weird around the drinking age barrier so no pressure or anything, even just making a new friend who is also a lesbian with similar interests would make me happy.
Other nonas are free to add me as well but I'm boring and only like talking about nerd or otaku shit.

No. 217030

>>216368
I randomly met one in college and we're best friends now. He made me meet other of his friends, whom some are gays, so yes I have gay friends.
This is such a weird question though. Who cares about sexual orientation when it comes to friendships ?

No. 217032

>>216835
Lmao same. I see many anons complaining about troons, I mean 50% of this thread talks about them (WTF?), while I don't see any IRL and only a few on Tinder. Seems like an obsession.

No. 217047

>>216840
>Me feeling blessed with my long-term fujo gf and us being fujo gfs together with tastes aligning almost perfectly
Nah but seriously anon I feel for you, all of the weeby lesbians that I know have trooned out or only like scrote-aligned weebshit because teehee sapphic
anime mommy milkers.

>>217032
How nice for you that you don't have to deal with crazy trannies on a daily basis but keep in mind that not all of us are as lucky.

No. 217127

>>217032
maybe it's because i live somewhere conservative but i've only seen a handful of troons irl and all were female, only one was annoying. the majority of the ones on dating apps are pretty bad too, but i know in more liberal areas they can be everywhere, so i don't blame people for complaining about them. it does get depressing to be in groups that talk about troonshit nonstop when i don't want to be reminded that AGP transbians exist lmao

No. 217139

>>217047
Where do you guys live, in USA I guess, but which State ? I live in Paris and I barely see them.

No. 217169

I don't usually wish I was straight but my male coworker asked me out today and I'm spiraling a bit. I don't know him very well but he seems alright and would be my type if he were female. Quiet, kind, really into horror movies, seems a bit autistic, nocturnal. But he's male and I don't feel any kind of romantic/sexual spark. And I know I never will. I would never want to fuck him and even the thought of kissing/cuddling with him feels viscerally wrong.

I'm so lonely. It feels like the Universe punishing me for being gay, sending me someone who's so close to what I want yet so far. It feels like I can either go out for coffee with him or be celibate for the rest of my life. And if those are my options I'll take celibacy. I would rather be single for the rest of my life and I feel so grateful that I live in a country/culture where I'm allowed to be a single woman. But celibacy still sucks and I need to be held so badly. I would sell my soul for a coffee date with a weird night shift dyke who's obsessed with horror movies.

No. 217171

>>217139
NTA, but I'm a Europoor, datingapps are full of AGP's and every lgbt meetup at least has one of them. It's not an US-exclusive problem.

No. 217172

>>217139
I'm planning on studying in Paris next year. You have no idea how happy reading this made me kek. I live in a 3rd world shithole where they don't exist so I was worried that I'd have to start dealing with those turds after moving

No. 217176

>>217171
How come ? Isn't that frowned upon in your country?
On dating apps here I would say the real problem are couples and "cis" men who put their profile "woman" to appear higher in the swipes of bisexual women (they're so ugly that when they put their profile "man" they are last in the list and never appear in the swipes of bi and straight women).

Concerning LGBT meetup I guess there would troons here too but I distance myself from LGBT stuffs.

No. 217178

>>217177
You thought you did something

No. 217181

>>217139
I'm in northern Europe and I don't hang around LGBT spaces because they're filled with spicy straights and troons. Most lesbians I know keep to themselves and don't interact with the community because of this reason alone, and naturally the LGBT clubs tend to attract the worst of the worst people. I don't think we have a problem with trannies forcing girldick down our throats because the community is largely driven by female enbies and HSTSs. Gay men have completely separated from them and I'm hoping that lesbians would pack up and leave soon enough.

No. 217202

>>217032
Eh it's just a matter of where you live and when you open the app tbh. I was getting little to no troons on HER for a month and now my likes and swipe pool are absolutely full of them. IRL I see them relatively often, as I live in a large liberal city. My city is trying to revive its lesbian scene right now, not many spicy straights or trannies in the lesbian meetups I've been to but they do come to the more general "queer" ones.

No. 217255

Do you think gay men are as opposed to troons (FTM not MTF) as we are or are they more neutral? You hear nonstop about the evil terfs who won't fuck AGPs but don't often hear about the reverse happening with gay men

No. 217285

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I have a girlfriend!!! After talking for months on Instagram we finally met in person. We met at her work and held hands and when I left she kissed my cheek after I kissed her forehead. I’d move in if it weren’t for her dick landlord.

No. 217293

>>217285
>we held hands and kissed each other on the cheek and forehead
>i wish i could move in with her
could you be any more of a stereotype

No. 217325

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>>217293
>could you be any more of a stereotype
please don't look into my closet or my music tastes, I'll only disappoint you further…

No. 217357

>>217285
This is incredibly stereotypical in the best way haha
> i touched her hand and felt the coup de foudre shake my very being, i am now on my way to purchase three cats for our