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>first crush?>what’s your local lesbian scene like?>cute stories about your gf>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?>coming out stories>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?>bitch about being lonely>tips for coping with being lonely>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?>what's your type?>when did you know you were gay?>f/f fanfic and book recs (pls)>which lesbian stereotypes do you fit? which ones don’t fit you at all?>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? a girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian? >get mushy and describe your dream relationship/date/etc.>best date/match? worst?>how homophobic are your family/friends? is it woke homophobia or old-school homophobia?>dating app horror stories>everything we hate about every other online lesbian community>lesbian friends, role models, or family members you appreciate>lesbian history, literature, and politicsprevious threads:
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FUCKFUCKSHITFUCK
I got her a Christman present
No. 459886
Forgive me while I answer some of the thread questions in my boredom.
>first crush?
Catherine Zeta Jones in Chicago
>what’s your local lesbian scene like?
Terrible but we make it work.
>cute stories about your gf
She's an athlete and sends me daily videos of her lifting weights and flexing just cause I told her I think it's cute when she does that like a year ago
>favourite lesbian media? lesbian media you hate?
Water Lilies, Carol, Fingersmith
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I have always considered myself somewhere in between, I do like to be the more femme in the relationship but these labels don't matter to me at all really. I think overemphasis on them as an identity marker is completely regressive.
>what's your type?
Clever, will argue with me, tall, not too sensitive, can have a good laugh together, mind of her own, nice tits, shy, introvert, passionate, driven
>when did you know you were gay?
Since I was around 12 or 13. I guess I struggle to understand how it takes some women so long to find their sexuality because of this.
>what were you like as a kid? tomboy? a girly girl who made her Barbies kiss?
Complete tomboy, even though I was always pretty feminine.
>what do you wanna be like as an old lady lesbian?
Sexy wife who I have sex with everyday. House full of books. Maybe some kids. Well travelled. Healthy. Good lesbian community.
>how homophobic are your family/friends? is it woke homophobia or old-school homophobia?
Not homophobic even though I am from a religious background. We never speak about it but it never bothered them.
>dating app horror stories
Woman I hooked up with on Tinder a few years back bit my labia while eating me out and I had to go to the ER so it wouldn't get infected. Never used them since then.
>everything we hate about every other online lesbian community
Reddit lesbian community is vomit inducing.
No. 460136
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would you go here kek
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this woman in red is a qt ngl. her face reminds me of charli xcx
No. 460293
>>460270Same nona she was the one I was looking at kek. So pretty. I could never go there because I’d be the only one visibly aroused kek
>>460276You might want to delete this with the Bechdel Test rule
No. 460353
>>460310Maybe this is a weird one but I’d be willing to share porn of myself with people I know? Like online. I don’t consume porn especially because it’s a turnoff that it doesn’t usually feature genuinely SSA women.
>>460347If it was in school I don’t think it’s necessarily bisexuality. My sexuality hit later than everyone else’s and I think if a moid was pressuring enough + I felt uncool I could have ended up doing sex I didn’t want, especially since I had homophobia ingrained into me at the time.
No. 460359
>>460305Shitty things that happened in the past could never taint you for life. You're a human being, not a car with a broken window, and you deserve the world. Even if you had a wonderful relationship at that time, it would still be over now, because time passes and things come and go. You have to remind yourself that the past is over and gone forever and all we'll ever have is the present and the future. You're completely free from the past.
>>460310Make better decisions than that so you aren't haunted by the potential for this to bite you in the ass, dude.
No. 460396
>>460376It’s like you didn’t read my message. I’m not even talking women here, I’m talking girls, do you really think girls can’t get pressured into sex? Reaally? And it’s funny you bring that up, a faggot could talk about having sex with a girl at 14 and how horrible it was and their community wouldn’t bat an eyelash. I’m not that anon but my friend group was very concerned about appearing cool and teased each other for being virgins to the point I lied about having sex. If they had pushed it I would have probably caved to whoever wanted to take advantage of me, and I know coming to terms with my sexuality would have been 10x more distressing because people like you would make me feel like I must just be a deluded straight girl or something.
I’m more suspicious of someone who dated one as a teenager than someone who had sex with one honestly, because then it’s more than that.
No. 460415
I'm kind of convinced the only women who give a fuck about "gold stars" are virgins. Someone makes one mistake or god forbid experiments and it defines her for the rest of her life?
>>460305It really doesn't matter. If you tried stuff with a man and didn't like it, and you know you only like women, then you don't need to give a fuck what turbovirgins on imageboards think. No lesbian I've ever been with has ever even questioned me on my sexual history. Some women hold the belief that men can permanently taint a woman, and that's on them.
No. 460478
>>460415At the same time gold star lesbians make everyone seethe outside of this space kek and I think it’s a testament to how captured lesbian spaces are right now.
It’s a non issue for me, if a woman had the luck and safety to be that good for her, I’m happy.
No. 460487
>>460415not even virgins, these
>>460376 /
>>460347 are just ragebait posts written by someone trying to make lesbians look cruel and irrational. everyone who's ever had a single female friend in their life knows that unwanted sex is a frequent staple of the teenage girl experience. lots of women vastly prefer women with more female-focused experience, whether that means goldstars over late bloomers or lesbians over bisexuals, but they don't talk like a poorly written feminazi antagonist in a shitty movie about it.
when I was a teenager, gold star discourse never looked like this. the term goldstar lesbian wasn't a huge controversial thing until recently and it's really obvious why this happened. as lgbt stuff has become more accepted in america, a lot of older bisexual women have come out of the closet, but coming out of the closet at an older age brings up in them this insecurity over their lack of experience, and some of the more annoying women who've done this become hyper aggressive whenever people point out that hey, not everyone in the lgbt community has the exact same experience, and a married woman with a couple of kids really isn't living the same life as someone who's been bullied for being gay since she was 14. this is why you see women lose their shit over the term goldstar–it was never thrown around in a supervillain
victim-blaming sort of way, but it makes some people feel less cool so they lash out over the mention of a woman who's never slept with a man like you called them a cunt or something. this is also why wlw and sapphic and queer have become more popular, obviously: bisexual women want to emphasize what they have in common with lesbians.
No. 460684
>>460305I'm so done with people looking for validation in lesbian spaces just because they had sex with a man. You're all exactly like the trannies asking over and over and over and over "am i enough of a lesbian guise??? im
valid rite???? PLS TELL ME IM
VALID FEEL BAD FOR ME BECAUSE I FUCKED A MAN!!!!" I don't give a fuck! Fuck off!
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 460692
>>460684>>460376You're right. If you weren't literally forced to do it by your religious parents or ended up being drugged by some shithead then simply stop trying to insert yourself in lesbian spaces when you had a choice to not fuck them. I am tired of going into lesbian spaces and constantly hearing if non-gs are
valid or not. Go hang out with bisexuals.
No. 460699
>>460692Nooooo
nonnie you don't get it, lesbians are the only stupid fucks stupid enough to fuck someone they don't like, sometimes even for decades! It works in mysterious ways because, you know, ~~~~sexuality~~~~ amirite. So so weird and confusing, and lesbians keep being the only ones overwhelmingly fucking the sex they don't like because they're just dumb like that! Stupid lesbos.
No. 460703
>>460684real women can tell the difference between being pressured into sex as a kid before you knew yourself and deciding you've only been straight because of comphet after a dozen happy straight relationships. this is just another troll attempt at sounding like a crazy evil lesbian like
>>460376 but come on.
No. 460711
>>460703Honestly that's a
valid complaint because I have it too. Not everyone fed up with that is a "crazy evil lesbian", what the hell? It's funny how you guys will be like we need to gatekeep lesbian communities harder but not if it's stuff you like lol. Gay men have been complaining about people like this for decades, why the fuck can't we.
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>>460715The non-goldstar OP didn't even specify when it happened and you all already made a headcanon that it happened when she was 12 or something. I agree with the anon that says unless you come from an hyper religious family or a third world country, it's very likely you already had an idea of what attracted you at 15+. You may disagree with me and that's fine, I disagree with you. At the end I won't be the one entertaining these people, and it's not our fault you or them are mentally unstable. And I will also point out that all the people who claim to have "OCD" about their sexuality are coping too hard. If you don't have any signs of OSA then what makes you think you might be OSA? 99% of people who say stuff like this don't even have an official OCD diagnosis, it's all internet self-diagnosed, so I can't come to believe this easily. If you think about men and sex with men on a daily basis to think it might be OCD I got news for you bro. Pic related is your average HOCD dumbass.
No. 460738
>>460720Ayrt, in my personal experience which I think I did bring up sometime already I just hit feelings late, as in like 18 late. I had already dropped out of school by then and was a NEET so even when I started getting feelings I assumed I would like men too when I resumed normal life. Just didn’t come. And I was in denial for a long time. Sorry for not realising earlier, sorry for not having the horny teen years you did, and sorry for teen me being dumb enough that I could hypothetically imagine a reality where I do felt pressure to be straight just like anon.
>>460723I think most teens have an idea but kidding yourself isn’t exactly strange? If it goes deep into adulthood I get the apprehension but you’re acting like this happening as a teenager is odd. It… really isn’t. Also, you may have an idea of
who you’re attracted to, but not rule out the idea that it could change. I really assumed at one point I would just find a man I like, I really had it in my head that it was just a matter of time and would surely happen.
That being said, it’s true I don’t know OP’s age, but they sounded young and said it was a decade ago. I would be curious to know when it was though
>If you think about men and sex with men on a daily basis to think it might be OCD I got news for you broI don’t know where you got that from…? You’re the only one bringing it up. I don’t know how else to describe it but OCD behaviour but yeah I’m not actually diagnosed with it so sorry for using the term. But discussions like these stress me out and I find myself going through every event in my life to try and figure out why I didn’t get it earlier or if I have some mental illness that’s deluding me into not realising I must be OSA or something
No. 460753
>>460748I’m talking about faggots who are gay but didn’t know from their tender toddler years like lesbians are meant to I guess
>>460752>Do you eat it?Anon… you are so fucking funny. I’m not the best person to ask because if I give oral when my love is on her period I always eat the clots ngl
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 460761
>>460758To be fair I said "something". Implying either or but with an example.
So in the case of one or the other, what do?
No. 460804
>>460802Tissues nearby
That makes sense, somehow I thought that wouldn't be allowed or something
I think I'd avoid eating it, I don't imagine it would have much of a taste but I feel like I'd choke on it like long spaghetti or something
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>>460804Vaginal lubrication is nearly identical to fresh aloe and not spaghetti anon. But safety should always come first, you do whatever you feel is best
No. 461155
>>461147Maybe she was close to her period?
An unrelated vent: I just want to hook up. I hate that this is so hard to find. I don't have the time or energy for a relationship and I don't want one. I just want sex every once in a while but that is apparently too much to ask for and everyone seems to hate it and be against it.
No. 461162
>>461051Madohomu isn't lame
But caitvi is
No. 461165
>>461051Sarah Waters is amazing! I can't recommend her enough.
>>461127I wouldn't normally consider myself terribly ugly, but my recent streak of only getting likes from obese women and trannies on Hinge is making me feel bad. I never really take photos of myself, and the issue is that I don't know how to present a photo of myself that feels authentic.
Actually, what are some good ways to open up a conversation with women at bars?
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I haven't been able to fully confess this to anyone but me and a longtime friend have hooked up after I've been trying to carefully curate no sex for myself this year and failed. She said I was good at it and that was cool but I also just wanted to see if I could not have sex with anyone for the challenge and I failed last second. Is there anyone else here that is a lesbian and trying to be celibate? I'm trying to do it to help fix my relationship with sex and I think I did on the most part.
No. 461299
>>461281I saw another woman put exactly that - "biological women only" in her bio. She was hot as fuck though, I doubt she has any trouble getting a gf quickly.
While researching if putting this in my bio can get me banned, I found a lot of people saying that unpopular accounts are sifted into the same pool, away from popular accounts. The more I learn, the more cold and loveless dating apps become. Maybe I am just that ugly…
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I'm butch and I need a butch gf so so so bad…I just want to be loved by a nice hardy woman. I think I'm fated for friends with benefits at most.
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>>461431You know, today I've been shown only beautiful, interesting women, but no one has liked me back yet. I guess I didn't know my place… When Hinge goes on a spree of only showing me obese women and they/them women, I close and reopen the app. Shows me normal women again. I really don't even think I'm that picky… I wish I could get someone to look over my profile. Maybe I just have weird prompts?
No. 461715
>>461708You're a fucking retard that thinks your enjoyment should be diminished by the other people that enjoy it.
With that logic, stop eating food because men enjoy it and they continue to exist and cause misogyny and objectify women when you support food business.
Stop watching Netflix because men subscribe and like Netflix too.
Dumbass.
(this post does not pass the bechdel test) No. 461720
>>461718I don't care, I'm still going to enjoy my games while you sit around seething that they exist for an audience that isn't you.
I love how you think that playing games directly hurts women too. Lol
Stop dying your hair blue and go outside.
No. 461727
>>461725Being a picme is liking games with hot girls?
Damn, those are some low standards.
No. 461736
>>461730Arknights is great,tower defense gameplay is top tier, plus the base is fun too
I love gravel
Good waifu choices
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>>461685>waaaaah must purity policeAnyway I also love Infinity Nikki, and used to like Dream Girlfriend, but Infinity Nikki is way better for dress up… I loved Love Live in its heyday. My problem with gacha games now is that they're mostly Japanese, so all the female characters are just the same tired archetypes.
>tsundere>serious girl>stoic girl>nice girl who likes cooking or animals or something >shouting annoying girl>bratty girl>recently, mommy dom girl>shy insecure girlAlright got em all that's literally just about every gacha game in 2024. Just the same uninventive bland safe garbage for an audience who is too retarded to comprehend anything but the most surface level personalities they've already seen 1000 times before.
No. 461748
>>461746True with the archetypes
Most of the story is shallow and it's mainly about collecting waifus and the gameplay, so they'd probably completely ignore anything deep because of that
No. 461771
>>461685I used to play games like Dream Girlfriend but I was more in it for the dress up than actual waifu-ism since I'm kind of a retired weeb.
I mostly yume sometimes and femslash ship characters from media I watch/read, usually just imagination but also some writing.
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>>461730i miss arknight anyway anyone uses c.ai?
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>>462020that's true sis let's share our favore yaois to chase these waifutroon creeps away
pic related is mine i watched when i was 14 still my fave forever if you squint your eyes they even look like girls lol no wonder actual lesbians are actually reading and watching bl like no self respecting woman would want to see some triple d boob monster or 5 year old loli in her media plus those characters in their waifu media are not even written well they solely exist so that moids can masturbate while in bl there are many cute boys that just look like tomboys and you can easily imagine them that they have a pussy and the fandom isn't full of tims and the creators are female the waifutroons seethe so much because this is the truth
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>>461685I have dreamt that Ruan Mei from Honkai:Star Rail kissed me the other night, so probably her. I love mad scientists
No. 462224
>>462213lesbians are people who are exclusively sexually attracted to women. it's possible to have sex with someone you are not sexually attracted to. therefore non-goldstar lesbians are still lesbians as long as they are genuinely only sexually attracted to women. what is difficult about this for you?
this obsession with goldstars and having these purity arguments about lesbians every day feels like its breaking the bechdel rule tbh
No. 462449
>>462314I looked up the differences between crush and limerance and found that what I have actually fits the definition of crush better, oops lol. The gist of it was crushes are less permanent, non-disruptive of your normal life, and you don't idealize them into some icon that will fix your life's problems.
I asked my original question because I feel like I keep catching random feelings for women I'm not even that close to, and then I end up pissing myself off over it for every day that I have it due to all the (not disruptive… yet) daydreams I have about random shit regarding them. I feel like a massive sperg in how so many thoughts loop back to the women I'm obsessed with for the moment. And sometimes I just have straight up bad taste but I can't seem to make the "ick" I give myself over them stay. One of the women I'm crushing on who pisses me off is a "I am a gay man(bisexual woman)" TIF who horseshoe-theoried her way into misogyny. This describes like all of them, I know, but I like everything else about her and we're honestly pretty compatible save for everything regarding the troonism, which keeps reigniting the crush. I'll be having loveydovey daydreams about her in one second and then start malding on the inside at the reality of her homophobia and misogyny. By this point she definitely caught on to my crush but also how I go hot and cold, which grates on her as well (honestly fair).
Maybe all this is actually normal? Sorry if I sound like a massive sperg, I'm just rusty in this area.
No. 462489
>>462482Don't be sorry, I'm just glad I'm not alone kekk. I was worried for a second that some chadbians would bully me relentlessly for my shit taste.
Does your gendie take T too? Mine's a weedy nerd who takes the gel because she's scared of needles. She's so cute. She is SUCH a loserrr. I'm really sad that she lowkey
victim-blames women for taking protective measures against predatory men, I feel like she would therefore hold my bad experiences against me. We have so much fun just talking about jack shit. I hate her music taste. I need to benchpress her entire weight to imagine being able to literally sweep her off her feet. I want to gently bully her in bed and shove her stupid face that I haven't seen yet in my boobs.
No. 462534
>>462489Kek don’t worry. I’ve brought it up before and anons rightfully shat on me tbh. Mine seems to take T on and off, a smaller dose since she doesn’t seem to want to look too masculine. When she takes it regularly she has more muscle particularly in her hands but she’s not taking it right now, she looks really good either way.
Sorry I could sperg about it so much but her hands look so nice whether they’re slightly muscley or slender and delicate. Mine is a big loser too but honestly she seems to be moving in a better direction (not using strictly he anymore and this long period without T).
>I feel like she would therefore hold my bad experiences against meThat sucks, maybe you could convince her? Because if she can’t respect women’s precaution even then, you deserve more. Though it’d be hard to bring up so maybe not. I think they do this because they see themselves as the men in question and can’t separate themselves from it to look at it logically. They think being a man is just an identity and that since they can identify as a man, men aren’t any different.
Your current friendship with her seems sweet at the very least. Can’t relate to the hating her music taste, I listened to every song on her spotify kek, powered through it. Good luck on the benchpress goals.
No. 463056
>>462099Me and and my girlfriend dressed nice and she took me to Gardens by the Bay and held my hand the entire time through the beautiful night full of pretty lights. When we sat down for a bit, I commented on how romantic the whole thing was and how I could envision couples proposing there, to which she responds with "wait, did you know I'd do this??" and pulls the prettiest promise ring for me. I tear up a bit and kiss her and tell her I love her and she tells me she loves me.
That or the time she took me to the Aquarium and we honored the Yagakimi aesthetic. Or the time we got lost and ended up at a beach right before a pretty sunset took place and we watched it together as I'm holding her hand.
>pretty views>adventuring and getting lost finding new places>being with her literally anywhereshe's my ideal date nonas, I can't believe she's finally mine
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DAE worry they will never get a GF because of autism? I probably sound like a whiny incel but it makes me mad because I want a gf but my social skills have exponentially degraded since middle school and i have no relationship experience despite being 20.
Im not even ugly just my autism prevents me from being a normal person no matter how hard i try.
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I hate that I am naturally very friendly and happy go lucky with everyone at parties so men take it as me flirting. I keep getting mistaken as bi just because I'm nice to everyone and it's highkey pissing me off. Wondering how to look more lesbian as a hyperfemme. Every girlfriend I ever had swore up and down I did not need to change a thing but it's getting to me.
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>>463108One of us one of us
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can't really tell if you're incredibly assblown by a bad experience with a bi woman in the past, but as an actual goldstar lesbian, holy shit please don't stop seething, it's extremely entertaining to me
something about a mix of almost understanding where you're coming from, but ultimately choosing to laugh instead since you're wasting energy on a losing, invisible war
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>>463422no please nona do keep delivering
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>>463459Yuu a shit btw Sayacuck is best girl.
No. 463465
>>463461actual based taste tbh, though yuu makes for best face reactions
I can't believe nakatani stopped yurifying my life, what a disaster
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>>463465I know right? I'm reminded of it each time I go to the bookstore because I see her gross /ss/ manga there every time, makes me want to burn everything to the ground. Gross.
No. 463481
>>463451and do you live on planet earth? or maybe you're on some magical planet elsewhere, where lesbianism is not only accepted, but a ubiquitously good thing? and everyone around you can take one look at you, no matter what, and they just sort of intuitively know exactly who you are and what you want? and do waiters know your order before you even look at the menu…? and cars screach to a hault when you want to cross the street? and do the seas part for you too? must be a beautiful world, nonna, but it's not the one i live in. in my world, where even the butchest women i know still get hit up by people they're obviously not interested in, and everything that signs you off as a bona fide dyke is not enough, that doesn't really happen. must be nice
if i wanted to post in the new thread (which just seems to be people arguing about topics that are banned here) i would. maybe the new thread is just shit, have we thought of that?
No. 463522
>>463498The gold star discourse itt started because of this anon breaking the bechdel test
>>460305And then the sperging in the gold star thread started when an anon made the gold star are lescels comment. Like why are you even mad at lesbians who try to label things correctly when most of this was started by non-lesbian baiters breaking the bechdel rule??
No. 463592
Maybe the next thread can go back to a hard enforcement of the Bechdel test, and not allow posts that merely aren't "centered" around the opposite sex or any experiences with them. I feel like this would cover most of the repetitive sperging about bisexuals that get tired and unproductive fast, no matter your stance on the topic.
>>463535NTAYRT, it started out as seething before I kicked things off with a proper prompt about how anons were like growing up. The constant fighting just shows many anons (even excluding baiters and trolls) in both threads don't have anything to say that isn't about anyone-but-us.
No. 463617
>>463585Yeah but it doesn’t stop me from being a goldstar lesbian, does it? It’s not a fucking club.
>>463535So what about now? They’re still infighting, or is that all bishits, and if so which side is?
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Bait posted on Stupid Questions on /ot/. Proof that homophobic baiters are the ones participating in the conversations on the Goldstar thread. No surprise to anyone.
No. 463744
>>463639The answer is obvious from a sociological anthropological perspective. In pretty much all human societies, women cannot get by in life without partnering with a male. It’s only within the last like 50 years (if that), and only in the most progressive countries, that women have been able to reject male partnership and still have food to eat and a place to stay and social life. Before, you needed to be married to a man to get any of that. In most places population wise today, it still is that way.
Meanwhile, men can make names for themselves and have money and a career and social life pretty much unimpeded as a bachelor. And even if they marry for beard reasons, they’d have the freedom to go by themselves and cruise for male ass. They’d have more opportunity to meet men outside of the house and family duties, unlike women who would only be able to socialize within relatives or her husbands friends wives, keeping your childhood friends was not even a guarantee because you got dragged over to your husband’s home base.
Conclusion I’m getting at is there is no way we have accurate numbers on the unbiased rate of homosexuality in the sexes.
not a lesbian but a social science major No. 463760
>>463636this is a really dumb correlation lol and really highlights the difference between tradfags LARPing as radfems v actual radfems. Tradfags always resort to (no, not the tumblr definition) bioessentialism and think that because homosexuality is more common in males it means it must be a degenerate trait..?? That's like saying liking the color blue is somehow violent because males are more violent and like blue more than pink. both sexes are different, so sexuality manifests differently in both men and women, this tard also leaves out the fact that women are much more likely to be bisexual than males, infact, most lgbt women are bisexual. The fact that female homosexuality is rarer than male homosexuality doesn't prove anything other than the fact that sexuality manifests differently in the sexes. not to mention homosexuality in the modern day is still extremely rare in both sexes and I'd argue there isn't even
that much of a difference when considering how many gay men there are compared to lesbians. I don't see what that has to do with sexuality being immutable or not. This person clearly has no idea how sexuality works and is trying to do some retarded trad psyop to make retards think that being homophobic is woke
No. 464116
This is very small potatoes and not even a full complaint but I always see other lesbians saying "I want an older woman to do this and that and xyz to me" and it makes me think like ok is 1 year (our age gap) enough??? Or are you only looking for 5+ or even 10+ gaps…
>>464093Yesssss. The counterpoint is I also want someone to fix me back. But there are also lesbians who just want an entire project.
No. 464256
>>464093What's the best is two women who can both accept and give care being together. When she feels worse, you take care of her. When you're down, she'll take care of you. When you both feel good, you'll have an excellent time just being together and taking care of your life a day at a time. Yes it can be an appeal to want to fix or be fixed, but that's not a real partnership that can stand the test of time very often. Wanting help to grow, or needing support (even a lot of support) yes, but "fixing" is something else entirely, and you assume a position of brokenness.
Toxic dynamics are addictive and alluring but if you can overcome your desire to be in one you can find something much better.
No. 464276
>>462534>she seems to be moving in a better directionAhh congratulations anon! Not to count chickens before they hatch, of course, but that's a huge step up from mine who thinks T alone isn't enough to "fix" her. You two sound cute, I hope she peaks!
Speaking of muscles, does your TIF work out? I'm lowkey envious of you if she does, that's hot and she's basically just a bodybuilder at that point.
>maybe you could convince her?She's like kind of feminist, but then the troon logic always swoops in at the last second to garble her line of thought. She'd be sympathetic to my bad experiences, but if the conversation turns to extending that precaution on a sex-based class-wide scale, I think she'd start back-pedaling or start going "it's more complicated than that" no matter how careful she'd be to not put the blame on me.
The odd thing is, she recognizes that TIMs/nb-straight TIFs view SSA TIFs like her as the lowest tier of trans and also expects her to be their guard/attack dog, but she calls that transandrophobia. She recognizes that het TIFs make a mockery of gayness through things like het-tif-ying gay ships in order to fulfill their self-insert misogyny fetish, but she stops right there or swerves hard into left field.
I did bitch about this really hard to my supportive IRL (all straight) friends and they agreed I should find someone else to naturally redirect my attention to. Maybe my TIF will peak and change, but right now it's too far-fetched, and I'm better off just treating her as a friend and constantly reminding myself of her bad opinions.
…Ugh, but she's so cute though. I'm not going to "wait" for her but there's no harm in staying friends with an otherwise cool woman.
No. 464931
>>464929>My pettiest thing is a British/Australian/New Zealand accentPut that in your dating profile and set the location to
Melbourne. Post results hahaha.
No. 464933
>>464929Cool question nona. Pettiest… I think I wouldn’t date a woman who wouldn’t play video games with me at least sometimes kek. I enjoy them so if she just sat there bored I feel like it would make me feel bad/disconnected/cringe.
I also feel attracted to women through music taste, I feel like it’s so beautiful to find more about someone through the music they like. I love to fall in love with someone’s mind. Sometimes you can have really romantic moments to music that deeply affects the both of you too. I love it both when they share music taste with me or alternatively when they listen to music I’ve never tried; it opens my personal horizons while also making me feel close to them. I have a shameful but slightly impressive habit of, when I have a crush, online stalking them specifically to find their Spotify and/or Soundcloud account and I make it a goal to listen to every song on there… kek. Perhaps I’m overkill on things like that, if I see them reading a book I haven’t I might end up reading it too.
Other than that, other inconsequential attributes that make me interested… hm. Perhaps their items? A little odd but I find the things people collect very endearing. A cute scarf, a pretty brooch… stuff like that
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>>464929Putting something really boring in her dating profile on whatever app. No, I don’t expect everyone to have esoteric advanced taste but if you’re boring enough to say that you like Taylor swift or the office in your bio you probably aren’t a very interesting person.
No. 466299
>>466206An anon said it before pretty concisely, “Being homosexual is being exclusively attracted to the same sex, and it is possible to have had sex with someone you are not attracted to.” It didn’t happen to me but I can see how it could happen to someone else, ESPECIALLY since irl and even on here people will recommend “experimenting”. Kek a straight woman who’s had sex with a woman isn’t not straight either. Really not that difficult to understand.
>>466211Do they even have a “goldstar” equivalent? It seems like only an us thing.
No. 466316
>>464929>Pettiest thingWell I once broke up with someone because she looked eerily like her dad in a wig, had the same height, haircut, mannerisms and speaking cadence too and I just could never fully unsee it. But I think that was a one time thing kek. Most commonly I can’t stand women who talk with only their bottom teeth showing, makes my skin crawl.
>Inconsequential attraction I have a lot of these…good vocabulary, pretty nail shape with deep nail beds, messy baby hairs, like a general carelessness with handling their own belongings if that makes any sense
No. 466319
>>466299>Do they even have a “goldstar” equivalent? It seems like only an us thing.I'm pretty sure it's only seriously used in lesbian circles, gays might use it but only as a joke. Once again it's only women who suffer from purity spiraling
>>466211Not to mention the men who literally have whole marriages and children before randomly coming out. You see it way more often with men but no one cares somehow because men always get a free pass
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>>466299Are mods retarded? I got banned without even violating the rule, yet the post above me
>>466211 didn’t. Sick of retarded newfag mods, they can’t ban the baiters plagueing the SSA threads but powertrip over random shit. Fuck’s sake
(take it to /meta/) No. 468284
I feel like I will always see women differently to everyone else. Differently to … them and differently to OSA women, who see themselves through the lens of who they’re attracted to, and whose opinions are considered the end all, most important. Even their own opinions are always formed secondary to theirs, around theirs. I will admire a beautiful woman’s features, but I’ll always see her beauty in a different way to how she sees it, and how others see it. I see her trying to make herself smaller, phrase herself as more demure, and to my eyes it doesn’t seem like her. I like feminine features, and I like prettiness, cuteness, but the nature in which I see it isn’t the same as how it feels like they want to be viewed, in a sense, almost in a self-infantilising way? It’s this fellowship that I feel like other women grace each other with as mutually aspiring to this ideal, but it doesn’t really feel true… when I admire a woman, I see the fire she has, the “handsomeness” in her femininity, I can imagine her in more than what she wears and behind the makeup on her face, perhaps as a warrior, an uncivil human from the far past where she is truly liberated in conduct. But instead it feels like she cloaks herself, fulfils a role misattributed as inherent. Maybe this doesn’t make sense, I don’t know…
No. 469707
>>469610you're probably just overthinking it. maybe spend more time warming up via foreplay instead of spending too long feeling around in the dark. the more space you leave open for the right/wrong thing to happen, the worse it'll feel when you do miss the mark.
>>469696is that weird?
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what lesbian symbols do you like/use?
No. 470182
>>470108Love the labrys, and I've come to like the pink-orange one for its colors. Lavenders also came to mind for me, and I plan on growing a few soon. I also like the swallowtail versions of flags to symbolize cutting out tq+s, but that one's more for the general rainbow flag.
>>470174I never knew about the lambda thing till now, that's interesting!
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>>470236>a tumblrinaCan I just say that it's really milky how that person acts like taking the lipstick kiss off a tumblr pride flag was a monumental act in Lesbian History and is constantly e-begging for donations "as the inventor of the Lesbian Flag"
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Does anyone have any advice for dating etiquette for women? Online or not, it doesn't matter. I in general know very little about dating and am autistic.
Also if you have any advice on meeting women, it would be appreciated. I was thinking about dating apps, but I am not sure how to present myself on there.
No. 471150
>>471141Thank you nonna, I wasn't being specific enough
I would like to get into a serious relationship one day where we would build a life together. I worry about talking with and meeting women, because I don't want to come off as too pushy or cross a boundary, but I also don't want to act like I am talking to my straight friend and not a potential girlfriend. I only have experience with making friends
Also if you have any general dating advice, I would appreciate it a lot
No. 471293
>>470481Just let them wallow in their misery anon. They're sad to see.
>>470108I like the double venus and the rainbow flag. The sunset flag looks nice but it's made for the "queer" community so it can burn.
I don't use flags for anything though, even if I do own two pins with them, that I keep in a box. If I wore them, I would only want to attract the attention of normal SSA women anyway, not gendies and their affiliates.
Do any of you ITT walk around with lesbian pins or patches?
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>>470108I love the labrys and the purple, not so much the black triangle, because I think it's ahistoric to be used as a lesbian symbol specifically. It was mostly used for Romani people in the Nazi contraction camps, while lesbians were very rarely labeled with a black triangle for being a lesbian specifically. Usually it was used for political prisoners, and them being a lesbian was added just as an aggravating offense. I like the flag in the picrel, it's perfect imho.
I also love the double Venus symbol and the rainbow flag.
The Emily Gwen sunset flag is meh, one of the orange colors looks like piss from a dehydrated person, which I am not a fan of.
No. 472397
>>471788Kek I'm a weeb too but I'm glad this thread is more chill now. We don't need the constant infighting.
What do you like to read/ watch nonna? I always go for weeb shit by default but I wouldn't mind a rec for non-weeb media
No. 472458
>>471788Phrased badly but I agree, I think it says more if you’re non-GS but actually have actively had sex/relationships with multiple women, than someone who has never been near other women and has zero experience entirely.
>>472397Nta but seconded, I need more non-weeb media to consume tbh.
No. 473104
>>473102I can relate to finding most female characters boring, especially ones in anime or other shows for kids and immature adults. I do like crazy chicks though kek. Cate Blanchett really did it for me as Tàr. Asuka is too fem for me (also she's 15? I guess that didn't matter when I was a kid, I wasn't into her then either) but I can appreciate her batshit antics and aggressive ambition. The fact is that she wasn't made for people like us. She's a scrote fantasy, as most female characters are. It's frustrating but it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with lesbians for feeling dissatisfied.
I've only gotten celeb crushes as an adult now that female roles are expanding and I see more women of my race on TV. I don't always give a shit about the character she's portraying. I focus more on the talents and body of the actress, her voice, hair, clothes, choices while acting. I'm considering getting into women's sports to see more beautiful and talented women around.
Tldr is maybe fictional women rarely meet lesbian standards and that's not our fault. Good for the nonnies who have found ones they like but it's not a personal failure if you don't have any.
No. 473740
>>473648Seeing the shitfest lolcow has been in the past few days, you can't even expect lesbians to not be homophobic to one another, let alone straight women.
Watch as this posts gets copy pasted to the other thread, wildly misinterpreted, and taken as proof I'm bisexual somehow.>>472793What dating apps do you use? I don't have any advice regardless, I'm just always curious about lesbians who use dating apps since it seems so intimidating with all the queer bullshit going on.
No. 473787
>>473709disregard
>>473781. flirt obliquely in increasingly intense ways, then get drunk and make it messy.
No. 474190
>>471788>It's like they're only GS because they never go outside kek.That's precisely every seething weeb obsessed with goldstarism I've met in my life tbh
>>474141Yeah. I love my straight girlfriends who are understanding of my struggles but even they don't really "get it". And they're the "good guys", I feel like losing my mind when conversing with a straight woman who has no sympathy in her heart for lesbians and openly considers them either "degenerate predators" (conservatives) or "evil terfs" (liberals) by default so they choose to be combative towards us. Our entire being is an insult to them and I often wonder if it's due to jealousy, for we're free of the chains male attraction they can never shake off.
>Not to mention their narcissism, for some reason they think every lesbian on this planet is absolutely dying for their pussy specifically.You know how many times a straight girl has suggested drunkenly making out because "her boyfriend gave the permission"? Enough times to make me want to give up my pride and just do it since it's free makeout session with no strings attached but you just know they're going to accuse you of rape and coercion later when it comes to bite them in the ass.
No. 474237
>>471788i'm a goldstar but the infighting and constant weebtardation is so strong in that thread that i've given up on it kek. i'm dying to know if anyone in that thread has ever fucked a woman or had a meaningful relationship with one, they all seem too bitter and fixated on being terminally online so i doubt it.
>>473102i never had crushes on any female characters or celebrities. i had girlfriends at a young age but my attraction could never extend to the hyperfeminine caricatures i saw in media or on TV. for that reason i never related to other girls growing up (all bisexual) who said they found x celebrity or y female character hot.
No. 474338
>>474237That thread is fucking weird. All they do is lurk here, make a snarky comment about us, and then project their flaws on us as if we're the ones being bitter. They can't even have a single conversation without it being derailed about non goldstars.
We should ignore it, I'm gonna stop bringing up the gs discourse and thread. It doesn't do us any good to dwell on it.
No. 474348
>>474338I agree. And they refer to posts here calling us “non-goldstar bihets” when some of us are perfectly “GS” just don’t agree with them and/or prefer the chiller thread. They’ve talked about a post of mine calling me a fakebian and I’m like… I’m in a loving relationship with a girl I’ve had all of my firsts with, I don’t think those bitter people can say the same. I’m the happy one here. When I realised this one was still going on and actually felt sane and not antsy I felt relieved.
When I occasionally check there and they’re still on loop I chuckle a bit, like the last few posts being all the same kekk. I agree that there’s no need to sink to their level, so I’m just ignoring it from here on out.
No. 474434
>>474301AYRT and having thought about it more I feel like the thing that always prevented me from having those crushes was that the girls were always shown in an explicitly heterosexual light. Always pandering to straight men, portrayed with their boyfriends, even the characters were always very obviously made for male tastes like
>>474237 sort of mentioned with the hyperfemininity. Even today I couldn't crush on a straight girl, being heterosexual is an immediate turnoff and I lose all romantic and sexual feelings for a woman once I find out she's into men. For the record I find a good looking celebrity woman hot of course, but I wouldn't call it a "crush" like the kind where you day dream and fantasize about them. I don't know. I have dreams of the girls I've been smitten with in real life but celebrities and fictional characters just don't do it for me.
No. 475504
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Does anyone in the thread have artistic hobbies, like drawing or writing, on the topic of romance and sex? What are your influences and how does your romantic life affect your work?
No. 475556
>>475533Why don't you report and ignore instead? Or actually contribute.
>>475504I like to write! It's my dream to author graphic and visual novels with some talented artists doing the illustrations. It would be fun to write an RPG as well someday. My stories only have female characters but not in a CGDCT way, more like I don't see the need for males to exist unless they're just somebody's dad offscreen. I'm really into the dynamics of female relationships and how, when they're really intense, the lines blur between friends, sisters, lovers, mother/daughter, "I want to be with you" vs. "I want to BE you." Those complex feelings get even deeper when mixed with more traditional roles like master/mentor, rivals, colleagues, enemies… Admittedly, I don't have much social experience and that's why I'm not writing anything ambitious yet. Right now I'm enjoying writing short wish fulfilment stories with only two major characters. My fave media always have a large cast of characters with conflicting worldviews and goals, so I have many old projects that fit this mould. I like to write each woman so she's layered and unique, then mash twenty of them together to watch the drama unfold. Many American TV shows excel at this, one example from my childhood being Twin Peaks. I admit I'm mostly inspired by weeb media and tropes but I don't actually think that's a bad thing. I just really like those art styles and I'm attached to the "unreality" of it all. My fave genre is speculative fiction. I enjoy it more and feel more immersed in the world when it's 2D, not 3D, because it helps me suspend my disbelief. My other fave genre is romance I guess, or at lease I include romantic subplots and messy relationship history in all my stories. I tend to write
toxic and
abusive relationships, and unrequited, forbidden, or "doomed" love, probably because that's been my IRL experience. Over the years, my small-scale wish fulfilment stories have gotten much healthier though. I'm proud of that as it's proof of my recovery. I want to become strong enough to pursue my dreams and bring my stories to life. What a rambly answer kek I'm sorry nonnies. I promise this post does not indicate my overall writing skill.
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>>475533Oops sorry
nonnie. Let me fix that.
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>>475619doesnt seem like it
No. 475762
>>475533AYRT, what the fuck? Is no one in this thread allowed to say anything? I'm trying to start an interesting conversation.
>>475556That all sounds really cool. I love the concept of men just not existing in a setting lol, sometimes I want to forget they exist. Making a setting with a lot of intertwined characters and relationships seems really hard though.
I admit I only know All tomorrows as far as speculative fiction, what are some of your favourite works in the genre?
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>>475569>JotakakBased nonna.
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>>475504i draw and write, though i'm definitely more skilled in the former field than the latter. i have a lot of ambitious projects stewing in my mind, but the current ones i'm working on are an nsfw vn and webnovel. homestuck and 17776 have influenced my webnovel to be less linear and webtoon-ish and more chaotic, silly, and experimental. i'm a perfectionist at heart but being able to reference those two comics keeps me from getting in my head about needing to do things a certain way or agonizing over everything i draw being perfect quality. for nsfw subjects i try to find real life sex partners who are down to enact what i'm trying to write about
to varying degrees of success or who are at least willing to tell me about their experiences.
this gets me into really freaky situations but it's worth it for the firsthand knowledgei like to write non-canonized will-they-won't-they relationships the most, and it goes without saying that my works only depict gold star manhating lesbians. i get very bored of people (women) saying that overt feminist messages are "too much" and instead, i like to feature as much heavy-handed misandry as possible. i like
toxic relationships between messy women, but i like a healthy amount of fluff as well and i'm trying to find a good balance of it in my writing.
No. 476001
>>475960ayrt, since you're asking, the most fun/cringiest ones were
a sadomasochistic situationship with knifeplay and hot wax, a woman cheating on her boyfriend with me and another woman and my favorite
a theater kid level larp where we were playing medieval royalty characters. we ended up tribbing in the grass at night, which would've been hotter if we weren't freezing our asses off kek. i've forsaken hookups with bisexuals which has made it harder to find women willing to do weird shit with me lately
but i pray i find some weeby dyke nerd to do story scenarios with again No. 476206
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just finished fun home by allison bechdel, curious to hear other nonnas opinion on the book. ItS interesting how much more she relates to her father. Do other lesbians in the thread relate more with their mothers or fathers? not to get too Freudian but my mother impacted my lesbianism a lot of course. Moreso than my father
No. 477148
>>477043Never trust a fag and never let them get emotionally close to you. Their misogyny runs deep and it
will rear its ugly head at some point. Even the "progressive" ones who talk about things like the dangers MTFs pose to women are only doing so to dunk on trannies and score brownie points. Misogyny is ingrained into male homosexuality like a tick, and the disease has spread like wildfire.
Hey, at least they like diseases though! No. 477192
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What kind of women do you get crushes on? Just curious. I hardly ever hear a female perspective on feelings for the type of women I end up falling for manic pixie dream girl types, unfortunately… or honestly just female crushes on other women in general, it makes me feel… weird. When I like someone, it’s like, I’m the only woman around that feels this way towards her, even though it’s normal for redacteds to get flustered around a pretty woman. I don’t think I’ve ever seen other women have a a crush on another woman, at least that I know of, so it really makes me feel like the weird one. Growing up until now, I’ve only really been friends with bisexual girls, and they never crushed on girls either; they’d just very occasionally end up dating them, but I’d only hear them gushing about OSA crushes. Ever since I was in school I would do things that weren’t so unusual for straight girls to do like writing about crushes in diaries, absentmindedly doodling their name with hearts - which I still embarrassingly wind up doing sometimes kek - and I always wanted someone that would listen to me get excited over girls I like, like how I would listen to them. But I always just kept it to myself, because they never seemed that interested, they never related enough or understood the type of feelings I had for girls. And even though I’ve dated, I never got the feeling they were ever like this for me either, even though I don’t doubt their feelings. I just can’t imagine anyone else feeling all giddy or nervous or daydreaming this way like I do over other women… Dumb I know. So, any experiences with crushes, past or present, I’d love to know.
No. 477492
>>477192Not necessarily book smart or learned kind of smart but just smart with common sense and a good wit to them. Along smartness I've found myself always falling for women who have a very sharp tongue and a good sense of humor. My biggest turn off is being a pushover, so it checks out.
>>477043I haven't personally met this from gay men (who are largely just indifferent towards lesbians IME) but bisexual men do it all the time and they can go fuck themselves.
No. 478363
Anons, among yourselves and the women you know who are genuinely exclusively same-sex attracted, have you ever encountered anyone who actually likes Chappell Roan? Every time I see a """lesbian""" claiming to like her, I find out that she's actually bi, or a febfem, or a LUG, or fucks TiMs, or polilez, etc. The non-poser, old school lesbians I know IRL all seem to like either female adult alternative pr folk artists from 20+ years ago, or rap music (typically by male artists), but not Chappell or the pop slop she makes. Frankly? I've never met an old-school lesbian who likes drag, either, but maybe that's just me. The ones I know irl are ambivalent or hostile towards it.
I personally have an extreme allergic reaction to Chappig because she reminds me of a horrible theater-kid, clusterbee LUG I dated in high school. She dated a string of guys before I got with her, was obsessed with drag, and called herself lesbian while we dated even though we never had sex together. What Chappell's doing now reminds me a lot of when David Bowie claimed to be gay in the 70s (which wasn't true either). I'm not looking forward to the day she gets busted for having current relationships with men, because it will send retard normies the message that lesbians can be "turned." I truly do not believe Chappell ever has or ever will eat another woman out, and I hate that the internet and the music industry is trying so hard to gaslight me otherwise.
No. 478383
>>477192I've always been into bookish feminine women. Like no or little make up but long hair and little sweaters and stuff. The librarian/English teacher style. Sadly they're most often than not straight, but I've not done too bad for myself.
Also very into the Bernadette Banner style. Crafty and autistic about clothes.
No. 478389
>>478363Nope. The only CR fans I've met have been bisexual or "lesbians" who fuck TIMs.
>or rap music (typically by male artists)As a long time rap enjoyer myself I wonder why this is though kek, hate all the misogynist shit but the genre is far, far wider than the kind of American gangsta money/bitches flexing of the mainstream.
>I personally have an extreme allergic reaction to Chappig because she reminds me of a horrible theater-kid, clusterbee LUG I dated in high school.To be fair I think we all know a person exactly like that. My ex used to date a girl fitting this description and she (the ex's ex) ended up marrying a man in her mid 20's.
No. 478396
>>477192Women who are vibrant/confident, funny, and match my banter. I joke with a few friends that I'm the bad bitch women pull by being autistic kek.
I don't think I'm much of a stickler for certain aesthetics or looks, just as long as the woman's not fat or has absolutely terrible styling.
It's really cute how you did the whole she-bang about crushes wrt writing in diaries, doodling their names with hearts, etc. The closest I got is domestic daydreams.
No. 478575
>>478363Funnily enough I know a lot of redacteds that like Chappig Roan, usually bi and are the yass kweening type but probably gooning behind the scenes. Personally I find her kind of trashy and she
triggers this kneejerk defence mechanism I learnt from the theatre kid “i looove all women” OSAs I’ve dealt with in the past. She clocks as that fucking immediately.
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>>476206>Do other lesbians in the thread relate more with their mothers or fathers?Me and my father are both aspies so I do think I relate to him more than my mother, especially hobby wise. That's kind of it really, I think I'm pretty different than both of my parents on most things. I love both of my parents, though.
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What do I do if I have a crush on someone older than me that would probably feel uncomfortable with my feelings? We have an exactly 10-year age gap, I’m 20 and she’s 30. We’ve known each other a couple months now and are kind of friends: we get along really well and share interests, but also she keeps her distance from me a little more than she does with people closer to her age. I think with how much we click, we’d probably have been close already had we been peers. It probably doesn’t help that she met me along with my dad - he had me young and is thus exactly halfway between our ages kek, 40 and doesn’t help that he looks younger too. I also still pass as a teenager at first glance unfortunately, so I had the feeling she saw my dad as more her equal than me. But these days I’m more worried about how our relationship will move going forward. How do I navigate this? I really like her as a person so I’d like to get closer to her… But I don’t know if people appreciate this from someone a decade younger than them, even if non-romantic. I want to remain friends at least… but I’m worried she will catch onto feelings I have and if that will spoil everything / make her uncomfortable. I do get very flustered and red around her sometimes so she might already have a clue even.
If you were in this position, would this make you uncomfortable? How would you prefer the other party navigate this? I believe she is a lesbian or bi, btw.
Obviously I would love to pursue something romantic or even just sexual with her but the risk of rejection or making her uncomfortable is enough for me to never bring this up I think. I know this is somewhat generalised advice-seeking but I don’t find that other threads give better replies on this topic tbh, especially if it’s a SSA nona not a heterosexual one.
No. 479080
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>>479078Had to look her up. She’s straight…? Fuck. She would pull so hard if she was a lesbian, Like Freja Erichsen. That being said I think 70% of “chad lesbian features” is just how female faces look with low body fat kekk. Maybe striking eyes too
No. 479131
>>479078same especially since I have a baby face I just wanna look like a princely butch, is there any way to achieve sharper and more striking features like
>>479080 without plastic surgery or do I just accept that I lost the genetic lottery?
No. 479879
This feels really embarrassing, so I would like to hear some supporting words lol.
I've had a bunch of reciprocated crushes in the past, but making the first move terrifies me to no end (guess internalised lesbophobia / being seen as a gross predatory woman is to blame lol).
There's this friend of a friend I've met a few times, and we ended up talking a bunch at a party last month. I felt like there was some chemistry, she called me hot, stuff like that. We exchanged socials and I gained enough courage to text her a few days later, telling her I liked talking to her and that I'd like to grab a coffee with her someday. She answered immediately and told me she had felt the same. Since then, she kept texting me weekly and whenever I posted a picture of myself, she reacted with a heart.
I just went out with her, and… well. She made several references to female celebrities she used to have a crush on, but when I called her pretty, she just kinda froze. The flirty vibe was definitely there, but an hour in, she casually mentioned her boyfriend (and it turned out they were together when I first thought we had hit it off). I acted pretty nonchalant, but, honestly… I feel like complete garbage lol. It feels like I was blatantly obviously being on a date when this whole time she obviously saw it as a friendly hangout.
>she definitely knows I'm not straight
>kill me now
No. 479968
>>479879I think she's just a friendly straight girl. I respond with hearts in my professional emails
ffs. Either she's fucked up and using you for attention or you're reading too much into it
>>479966>threesome/poly/open thingGross. Your post makes you sound like you're the female in creepy predatory couples
No. 479971
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Any nonnas here into the show Hacks? I want Deborah Vance/Jean Smart to be mean to me with sexual intent so bad. I've always found older women so goddamn attractive.
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>>479968NTA but straight women literally try to trick lesbians into threesomes all the time, ESPECIALLY on dating apps. There’s even cases where the lesbian ends up getting murdered because a straight woman baited her into it. it’s extremely fucked up and i don’t blame the nona for being cautious. It’s why i just ask out friends i’ve known for a long time instead of succumbing to any woman who flirts with me
No. 481301
Nonnas. I am dating this coursemate of mine, it’s been three months. It’s my first ever relationship and I’m so happy. We’ve been going slow, met for tea, for movies, went to Florence together etc…I am really happy and I can’t believe it yet.
But I’d like to initiate more intimacy, but I don’t want to be too pushy. We’ve only made out so far. Should I outright ask?
Also how do any of you nonnas feel about assholes? Not in that sense, but I’m deeply insecure about mine. I sometimes have hemorrhoids when I have episodes of constipation , but they tend to go away in a week or so, but my asshole looks kind of strange, it has a small hypertrophic line, it’s not too bad but if you concentrate on it you can notice it. Am I fixating too much kek?
Should I prepare beforehand in any manner?
No. 481936
>>481841Again, I've never slept with a woman whose hair situation down there I've cared about as long as it was hygienic and vice versa. I really don't think it's weird to talk about it either if it bothers you that much, she's not going to break up with you because your asshole is hairy kek
Actually if I'm being honest I'm not crazy about shaved pussy because it's irritating for my skin to rub against.
No. 482007
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>>481864anon i just went through the same thing last year and let me tell you, it's still the most embarrassing thing to ever happen to me, even though we never spoke to one another. i didn't even have it as a possibility in my head that i would ever meet a non tif tranny in my country, as you're jailed for even being gay here.
[redacted]was straight though with a (female) girlfriend i would later find out i was really hoping it was a tif at most. to this day i can't believe i fell for it. after all my time in lolcor, and i failed to clock someone when it mattered?!! my spirit is still in pieces…
you're probably way better off than me because
i involved people in my uni to find out with/for me, and someone directly told the tranny that i thought [redacted] was cute, obviously without my permission. and that was after i found out the truth. omfg. i wanted to KILL MYSELF! i literally didn't sleep a wink that night from embarrassment. lesson learned though, don't ever engage in middle/highschool level activities past that stage…
No. 482192
>>482083No shit. It's scary how males will perfect skinwalking women like that to the point it tricks lesbians like me and
>>482007. And he was acting so nice to me the whole time to lower my guard. He knew what he was doing. I hate men so much.
(This post does not pass the Bechdel test) No. 482596
>>482440Yeah I don’t agree with the retard baiters trying to start bihetsperging shit now (still think that word should be banned itt) but I’m
very surprised anyone can fall for TIMs. They don’t look female at all. Especially their frames. It almost makes me wonder if the anons saying they fell for one are making shit up, but they sound genuine. Honestly very occasionally I’ve considered it ambiguous because I’d feel bad if it they were just an unfortunately masculine-looking woman but I’ve never found them attractive… maybe it’s because even on butches I prefer feminine features. Idk, I just feel like trannies look so obviously male …
No. 482655
>>482596The ones who tend to pass are the gay ones and even then they have that extreme bimbo plastic look. Transbians always look overly male to me, even when they perform femininity, just take a look at “lesbian fashion advice” on reddit.
Their voice and the mannerism gives them away anyway , at least for me.
When someone passes it just ends up being a “this person looks weird, there’s something about them that I can’t pin point” kek.
No. 482657
>>482653I know I know, not my thread, but your post hurt my heart so I want to give you some perspective from the other side. I don't know the inside of your gf's head, but if she's telling the truth and if she is like me, than it's 100% nothing to do with you at all. Some bisexuals (of both sexes) have these random switches without any identifiable
trigger. It is very difficult to deal with. The reason I say it has nothing to do with you, is that even if she was dating a man instead, she would still have the same thing happen to her when she swung hard towards women, so please don't let this tank your self esteem. As someone who goes through this, I decided early on to never date because I know this would always be a problem for me, because any potential partner who would understandably be very hurt by it.
>I feel guilty because I’m basically getting mad at a part of what she isI think it's natural to feel hurt and upset. I would also feel hurt and upset, even as a person who bicycles myself, as illogical as that is. I think you need to prioritize yourself in this situation. I don't know that there is a good solution for people like your girlfriend and me. It's really hard and very sad but ultimately I don't think it's your responsibility to figure out for her.
No. 482667
>>482657I feel just so sad and confused nonna, I think I definitely need some time to think about it.
> Some bisexuals (of both sexes) have these random switches without any identifiable trigger. It is very difficult to deal with. But I mean what is even bi-cycling? Do you just get strong urges? I can’t really understand it. I am fine knowing that she’s attracted to men, but I don’t think that I would be able to stomach my girlfriend having this random sprouts of urges where she feels a cosmic pull towards the opposite sex. And I know that that makes me insecure, but I know my limits.
No. 483080
>>483067Had to search up what you meant and tbh the original question was bait-y to begin with "I don't understand how straight women don't see butches/tifs as hot" no shit lol because they're heterosexual. Tifs aren't even hot anyway and that's why they transition because they're escaping moid abuse by being unattractive. Anyway if it's any consolation I'm best friends with a straight nonna irl and we had a conversation on the train once about 6 months ago about the hostility of straight nonnas vs lesbian nonnas and we agreed bait gets posted on either side but it's like both sides suffer from generalising each other in the first place and that's what causes infights to happen so often. Also another nonna on a server I'm in noticed bait gets posted in /ot/ in a cycle, and in summer it happened every morning at 6am her time. Sexuality baiting & shaming pointed at straight/bi/lesbian nonnas is a popular one because it's such low hanging fruit. Considering there are multiple lurkers on this site who get off on
triggering any nonna they can as weekend enjoyment I wouldn't take it seriously. Anyway what I'm trying to say is: don't suppress your sexuality because it's inconvenient to supposed homophobes on lolcow who got what they wanted which is you all upset. It IS upsetting but that's the point. It's not worth it and your future gf is out there waiting for you.
No. 483584
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I want a girl who is ambitious to care about me, so we could achieve peak academic performance together. I think this wagie job and my life circumstances drained my soul and killed dozens of my neurons. We would start out as study buddies and our relationship would develop further into something bigger. I would take care of her and her spark like she was the last drop of water in my hands, because I know what it means to lose it. Maybe she can help me get it back.
No. 484345
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>>483845Insanely cucked, you gotta let her go nona
No. 484810
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>>484744Same thing happened with me actually. You should pour sand in her gas tank. It's not your fault for getting cheated on, you trusted her to be faithful and she betrayed you. You gave her your entire devotion and love and she wasted it. Ruin her life, make sure she knows that what she did doesn't go unnoticed or without punishment. Hopefully we cross paths one day so I can show you the real way a woman should treat you.
No. 485367
>>434887>>438004>>438309I'm this nona checking in to say she dumped her gf and said she was never into her and that she likes me more. We have been going on dates all this past week and even had
sex. She's still traumatized by her ex but I think she will come around and commit to me. Victory!!!
she didn't like her ex bc she was autistic and mean to her kek No. 485583
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Do ladies like retarded wet cardboard box gf?
No. 486649
>>485499I know this is horrible and shouldn't be enabled but I snorted all the way through reading this kek, you have a way with words
nonnie.
As for the question, I get jealous when my crush is getting cozy with someone else but not in an abnormal way really, I would imagine everyone gets a bit jealous and possessive if someone they're trying to bag is romantically involved with someone else. Love is a strong emotion that's really hard to get under control even if you don't have BPD or other emotional problems.
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>>486656Ok…. Sorry for bothering, mistress
No. 488150
>>487678>Also, straight and bi women peek at other women’s bodies in changing rooms tooThe fuck? No I don't you bloody creep
Stay at home and order clothes online if you can't act civilised and must "peek"
Ew
No. 488183
>>488150>>488171Hang on a second…
>Stay at home and order clothes onlineShe’s talking about a fucking public locker room, like at the gym, dumbass. Not closed try-on stalls at a store. Context clues and basic human logic should have clued you into that.
No. 488188
>>488183Same shit
I have never ever sneaked a peek at Karen from the gym's boobs out of ~bAsiC cUrIoSiTy~
If you're "curious" about other people's bodies grab an anatomy book, don't be a sleaze at the gym
(baiting) No. 488494
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I randomly developed a crush on some girl i knew from highschool and formed a parasocial relationship with her online.
She isn’t perfect shes slightly chubby but i love her nerdy personality and think shes cute.
She only has 3000 followers but i sometimes interact with her for crumbs of attention and get pissed off when i see simps in her comments flirting with her because it feels like competition and also shes suppose to be niche where the fuck are they coming from?
I feel like a beta orbiter. I need to go outside.
No. 489584
>>488149>The thing is, she says she's a marxist feminist in her bio, and I'm slightly worried she'll be a hardcore TRA. Should I be concerned? In my experience, it's 50/50 on if she's TRA or not. I distanced myself from these politics but I used to identify as that and it was lowkey a "dogwhistle" to signal that I'm not a libfem. If her interest in Marxist feminism is focused on critiquing capitalism, working class women, men as class traitors, and anti-porn/prostitution, that's a green flag. Some Marxfems unfortunately are somewhat gendie and will give lip service to TQ but not prioritize it and acknowledge that misogyny is sex-based, so you just have to ask. Ask what this means to her and why she identifies this way, if you aren't versed in theory you can ask what her favorite writings are on this subject and search to see who they are. If she brings up known radfems who were communist, that will tell you.