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No. 516912
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JUST LET ME MAKE MY COLLEGE ACCOUNT
No. 516941
>>516611lol, anon. imo it looks bad, I think it makes the fingers look shorter by emphasizing the ends. Clear acrylic is okay just because my mother does that (she thinks it protects against brittle nails).
But what really activates my almonds is the nail art industry. It's wasteful, a complete waste of time, resources and money to stick a bunch of crap that gets removed every day and so many women are wasting their time becoming nail """artists""" when they could actually be advancing the world. Instead they're playing with glitter and stickers. Once I was helping a younger girl with her resume and she asked me to type it all for her because she "can't" do it because of her inch long fake nails.
No. 516944
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>questionable mombie profile with a newborn as their pic gets into argument with me
>goes off topic to say some weird shit about my self esteem and how my pic is filtered
>mfw my pic actually isn't filtered and in any event that's coming from someone who uses a picture of a baby as theirs
Who hurt them?
No. 516949
>>516611I like that it's something fun/non-permanent I can actually look at throughout the day as opposed to lipstick or eyeshadow which I'll only see if I look in a mirror. Idk if it makes me look less feminine but that's not really the goal for me. I don't expect other people to notice my nails, especially not men kek.
That being said I only think relatively short painted nails look good, and find long painted nails disgusting. No amount of cute designs or color can make me not think about how dirty they probably are inside.
No. 516959
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no matter how I do "full" makeup (or even when i've had professionals do my makeup) I look worse than with minimal/no makeup. I always try to do cute eyeshadow looks but they just make me look like a hooker… the only makeup I look good in is mascara, clear brow gel, lipgloss, and sometimes with blush/bronzer/highlight. I think my eyes/lid space are too small or a weird shape or something. but also I have freckles so when I put foundation on I look stupid. and contour looks ridiculous too.
at this point I can't tell if:
a. i'm used to how I look with no makeup and thus am shocked by how I look with full makeup
b. everyone looks this stupid with full makeup, but in pictures/videos online it looks good
c. I genuinely just look bad
also, when I was googling earlier on how to make your eyes look bigger this popped up. like yeah they put a giant fucking lens in her eye of course her eyes are going to look bigger
No. 516964
Anyone else feel people expect too much and give nothing in return?
Las year i decided to start being friendly by advice of my psychologist (a mistake). I did my best to be the best friend possible, i wasted so much time listening to albums i didn't care, watching anime they recommended, listening to them sperg about stupid shit, being with them and having to deal with their "tfw no gf" fake depression. What treatment i got in return? getting told i am annoying when talking about something that annoys me, ignoring my anime/music recs, getting ghosted for a concert, forgetting my birthday, coming unannounced when i told them i wanted to be alone (and getting an anxiety attack thanks to it), getting blocked for not wanting to be their gf. I now realize how i wasted one year on my life for absolutely nothing, one entire year of talking and i can't rember ONE meaningfull conversation. I feel so bad at myself for doubting me and wasting so much time for nothing, but at least i am now 100% sure and happy of myself. I don't need to force myself to be "friendly" or sacrifice myself for others happiness, i am a person that dislikes people and socializing and it's totally fine.
No. 516970
>>516964>being 'friends' with scrotsI don't know what you expected. It also sounds like these are online friends, which don't really count.
Nothing wrong with not wanting to socialize, I'm not big on it either, but you were definitely experimenting on the wrong group of people to make a generalization about how friendship works.
No. 516984
I had to call the cops tonight because my bf of 5 years has been screaming at me for 5 days straight all because i said no to a THIRD blowjob at one in the morning when I am already sleeping and he was out with his friends. And then he resorts to calling me a whore, a slut, a cunt and i said if he didn't stop (because he know how bad verbal abuse hurts me-the whole no one will ever love you but me shit) that i would revoke the more than half of my adderall prescription because he "works" and all i do i stay home and clean everyday, take care of our three cats, cook 3 homemade meals a day and provide sexual gratification usually on WHIM unless i am sick oe tired…just blew up. I don't live him. I have no empathy. I am a lesser person and not an equal, and also! I'm a child! Who got laughed at for calling the crisis hotline because i needed to talk about past online grooming! Saying shit like i probably led him on, i was a horny child probably, i deserved it, oh look he apologized maybe he reformed!!
Fuck this i am packing my stuff and leaving tomorrow morning. Years of him bringing up me sleeping with someone and calling it cheating and then holding over my head, saying i will never be forgiven? What have a been this whole time, a wet hole?
PEACE. OUT.
No. 517030
>>517000I left this morning because he tried asking for adderall that he owes his friend while also insulting me and hoping i realize what a shit person i am and that's why none of my friends stay (when really he groped every single one of them in the bed with all three of us in it, but each time i would be the only one sleeping…) so because i have really no other choice i went to my moms…but at this point anons idk I'm losing hope. Disability failed me because i am "too young for fibro", my foodstamps cut off months ago because i can't drive to the office to renew it 1)because my car anxiety is so bad i can't fucking drive without blacking out and 2) i still have no way to get there…no subways. No money for uber or taxi. 27 years old. No insurance. Not a cent to my name. Not a person to talk to in any aspect. Friends, acquaintances, none. I relapsed hard with the cutting and ED, swallowed 90 ibuprofen last week and i am still here for some fucking reason. It's just…the words he said cut so deep…
Nobody will love me…
I deserve this…
I am a terrible person…
I am crazy and no one will believe me….
No. 517041
>>517011I can relate so hard, except in my case it was vintage My Little Pony.
What exact figures do you collect, anon?
No. 517072
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Why do people like this actually exist?
This is such a retard take I can't believe it's serious.
No. 517078
I type out a huge vent like twice a week on here just to see if I can pinpoint why I'm so bored and upset. I hate dating my boyfriend, it feels like the love died a year ago but I feel guilty leaving someone who has no family or friends, or anything to his name. Every time I get the guts to leave him, I think "it's too close to his birthday", "his dog just died", "it's too close to valentine's day", "when I leave he'll no longer have the foundation of my extended family to lean on for comfort or security in life", "what if he kills himself" and these are all shitty, guilty thoughts. I'm not even a good catch or anything like that, I'm not implying that WITHOUT ME HE CANNOT LIVE but these fears are based on things he's said. It's just getting so tiring navigating a relationship that I don't know if I want while still having to say "yes dear" and have sex with him. The whole relationship power dynamic was destroyed once I left my job (encouraged by him) where I made double his wage. I think that's when shit started to change. For years before that we'd never even argued about mundanities or anything. It's hard to find a job now for some reason despite my efforts and position-specific cover letters. So I remain dating a very boring but otherwise OK guy who doesn't yell at me or hit me or anything. Maybe I'm just a huge selfish cunt in thinking I deserve to have fun but I certainly don't feel like I've done enough bad to be punished with this level of boredom.
You ladies have full permission to rip me a new asshole for this post, don't hold back. If I'm being a stupid cunt, I'll try to fix myself/my expectations instead of the relationship. I appreciate when people set me straight, but I also don't expect advice or anything by this. It just felt so cathartic to type, so thank you
No. 517080
>>517072I hate planet prudence. All her comics are I'm not like the other girls trash. Not only that she resembles a normie girl more than she does the purple haired hairy avatar she uses in her drawings.
I was surprised to find out how young she was since her stuff seems boomer-esque. I feel like all her content comes from a place of insecurity.
No. 517093
everything is stressful right now. my gf has to move out in march bc her roommates decided to move back home and they don't have a lease so they can just do that. so she'll have to pay $2100 if she doesn't move out. there's no options we've found yet for her to move to in such a short time. i want to help her move so badly but i'm extremely weak and lazy and i'll be annoyed the whole time even though she helped me when i was in the same position. it's sad watching her toss things she really likes bc it's likely she won't have room when she finds new roommates if she does. she won't really accept that she can put her stuff at my parent's house which is easy bc my mom is moving out, which is a whole nother can of worms and my family is really nice and told me i could do the same with my stuff.
next, i went to finally get a horizontal license bc i've been putting it off and they gave me a class C license…they didn't make me take any of the tests you have to do to drive fucking tractors and livestock and trailers lmfao but that's a funny story i guess and i wanna put it to use somehow. my picture looked bad anyway so i'm going back to get the regular license and hope i look sickening. i love how they didn't judge or question a 22 year old getting a class C license
next, my apt complex hasn't supplied me heat since last november despite constant phone calls and maintenance requests and they label it all as "fixed" when not a thing has changed. it's snowed and i have to wear jackets inside my own apt. i finally sent them an assertive, aggressive email about it supplying all the receipts of the emails and whatever else that helps my cause and the next day someone came out. he said he has to find a certain piece so it might be on that day or the next and nope nothing, no one has showed up. can't call the office bc they aren't open either
then i lost a refill that's extremely important and the side effects are so terrible i feel like i need to be hospitalized and no one cares how urgent this is. i called my doc office and they said my practitioner doesn't work fridays and i'll have to wait til monday just to SEE if she'll approve it or not and i might have to make an appointment to get it. i hate that office so much, my other doctor isn't helping, i might have to go 45 minutes away to the doctor by my family to get help bc they actually care so much. city doctors ain't shit. btw i have all these doctors bc i've moved a few times recently. i get it's my fault for throwing it away the same day i got it but i know it's not the first time a patient has done that.
tl;dr: i'm stupid and make mistakes but no one helps make it easier.
last thing, being an adult child of divorce is really difficult and no one in my family is being transparent, they just keep saying "it's okay" or "it'll be fine, don't worry". bitch i need help. sorry if i've posted this part before, i really don't remember bc my life is chaotic rn
No. 517110
>>517100I want to help her move so day by day we’re trying to buy packing materials, packing the stuff and getting rid of stuff. should have clarified I can’t do the physical stuff but can and am doing everything else I can, like looking for places in her budget along w roommates, being emotionally there for her. The physical stuff I’m trying to do at my own pace. I’m losing weight rapidly but I just want to vent and not think or add stuff in detail but I’m doing that right now anyways
I’ll admit I’m not a functional human being but am really trying my best
No. 517142
>>51713That sounds so cute! You nust have a lovely collection.
I wish I could be your friend, anon! You sound like such a nice person. I have the same issue as you, I'm currently in therapy due to my shopping addiction and hundreds of other mental health issues. I adore cute things as well.
I highly recommend keeping a shopping diary where you write down your wants and actual purchases. This allows you to delay the purchase and judge how you felt about the ones you went through with. Apparently you should also write down where you were and how you felt when the shopping urge striked you. It really helps!
Also get this book
>>>/g/124132 from libgen. It helps if you can't go through with therapy for any reason.
No. 517152
Sometimes I wish he did something terrible. I wish he'd physically hurt me instead, so my damn mind would convince itself about how toxic he actually is. He doesn’t, obviously. He calls me all type of names, he laughs at myself and even when I’m just having anxiety and panic attacks he reminds me of worthless I am as a person.
And then I have to listen all people saying what a good boy he is, how much he loves me and I can’t breathe, I can’t fucking breathe because every little thing I do is the worst ever, every little thing, while he has always an excuse for his behaviour.
I’m desperate to get out but I have no place to go, no one for me at all and it’s not something I’m saying because I try to convince myself, literally there’s no one for me.
Love shouldn’t hurt this way. I don’t deserve to be laughed at. I deserve someone who loves me, at least someone who doesn’t see me as a failure in life.
No. 517154
>>517152 > even when I’m just having anxiety and panic attacks he reminds me of worthless I am as a personHad an ex do this. A whole year after the (nasty) breakup he emailed me to say he'd had a panic attack for the first time and how he suddenly felt bad about berating me while I couldn't breath.. girl run. Every moment you stay with him is one you'll want back. Feeling this shit isn't normal
Similarly I was trapped by having no place to go.. the sad thing is guys like that know they can just treat you badly given you feel stuck, they know what they're doing. I hope you can find a way out anon.
No. 517160
>>517154I feel like I gave him something that’s not replaceable. I don’t have the same body I used to have, basically he destroyed my personal image and I will never be the same, even if I dump him, my body will always be broken.
And how I start again and I explain to someone what I had to go trough. He knows me more than anyone and he absolutely took advantage of this, he reduced me to someone who’s full of scars, guilt and shame.
I can’t understand why my mind won’t stop me from loving him, I can’t understand why it hurts thinking about life without him. I’m pathetic.
No. 517170
>>517160I had to reach a point of crisis before a switch flipped in my head with my ex. I realised I would self destruct if I stayed and let him break my spirit any further. Then it was like he sensed the shift cos right after reaching that point he got a mistress and made the decision for me.
You have to fight for yourself here anon, and by fight I mean leave with a little bit of self esteem still intact. I felt a huge weight lifted as soon as I got out. I thought I'd be distressed but I was elated once I was out of that
toxic mess
No. 517176
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I think I may be dying from a severe bacterial infection spreading into my bloodstream, but I can't afford medical care for it. I'm mad. Fuck Canada.
Guess I'll die instead of being in crippling medical debt and losing my home!
No. 517184
>>517166He does realise that if you're going to have an online affair you'd probably do it when he's not in the room? lol
Being serious though, this is not healthy. You will never convince him that you are faithful and can be trusted. You'd be better off leaving now than seeing how nasty this situation usually gets. He has a problem you can't fix.
No. 517215
>>517176literally what? if you were actually dying from a blood infection you wouldn’t be able to post on lolcow, but secondly, go the hospital you dumb walnut wtf. you don’t need insurance to call a cab and sit in the ER if you’re worried about the ambulance cost or whatever. if you are seriously dying, you’ll be taken care of, insurance or not. and
>>517207 is correct. everyone in canada has public insurance and the right to medical care, even people who are undocumented immigrants.
No. 517218
>>517180i can empathize with you anon. my upstairs neighbors are the fucking worst. i dont mean to commandeer your post but mine make me so angry i kind of want to get it out of my system too.
i literally never hear or see the people next to me, but theres like 4-6? dudes who all share the huge apartment above me and they're fucking awful. they're sketchy as fuck, at least one is definitely a drug dealer. im convinced a few of them are tweakers. it seems like some sort of sublet situation because they all are really different demographics and seem to invite different groups of friends over. they love having loud ass parties on random weeknights. and im talking like LOUD music, tons of people, at 3-5am on a wednesday. how fucking inconsiderate can you be? if you see them on your way out or something and say hey or wave and they just stare and keep walking. the guy whose room is directly over my bed stays up all fucking night and has wood floors and a rolling desk chair (i can see it from the side window) and he will literally NOT GET UP AND WALK, but will WHEEL ACROSS HIS ROOM all fucking night for everything like a fucking toddler. also, every night, multiple times between 12-3am, he drops what sounds like a fucking bowling ball on the floor hard as fuck. maybe they're heavy boots or weights? but he makes no effort to set them down softly.
all of this isn't even the worst part though. the worst part is that me and these dudes share trash cans. any normal, polite adult would probably assume alternating "trash duties" where i take the cans out one week, they take them out the next. but no. almost every fucking week. im talking like 3 out of the 4 weeks a month. they make me take the fucking cans out. im a single student and produce maybe one bag of trash and some recycling and compost per week. they're like 5 grown fucking men and they're disgusting pigs. they produce so much nasty garbage and put a little bit of trash in EACH AND EVERY CAN instead of filling up one at a time so every trash day im lugging 4-6 cans out to the curb. sometimes they bring out a trash bag and prop it up against an empty can. this absolutely fucking perplexes me. was opening the top and putting it in the can too difficult? are men just physically incapable of completing a task? its infuriating. and im too afraid to complain to them or my landlord about them because they're so sketchy and they know when im home/gone (based on my car) and im a small female who lives alone.
for a while i tried to just not take the trash out and wait until they got off their lazy fucking asses and did it for once. but if i dont take it out they just let the cans overfill in the backyard, which attracts ANTS!!! IN MY APARTMENT!! because they live on the second floor and arent affected by that shit! but the trash is right outside my fucking kitchen window!!!! anytime i talk about this shit to someone, they think im insane and getting too angry. but ive lived here for over a year and im at a boiling point. when i move out i want to hide a fucking raw fish in the vent in the ceiling or like just write a long ass a-logging manifesto and leave it at their door so they can be embarrassed about what lazy, disgusting, pathetic excuses for grown men they are.
anyway sorry for going completely unhinged. i think i raised my blood pressure considerably just talking about this shit. im gonna go take a fucking bath. i hope both your and my shitty neighbors all collectively contract polio.
No. 517222
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Our doggy just died. Asphyxiated by a chips bag. Undoubtedly suffered. And alone.
No. 517226
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I went to a party last night, I was a bit nervous but I had fun since I was with a few close friends. A guy approached us and started talking to us, I thought he was really sweet. I hate this so much but I started feeling jealous since he was so obviously flirting with my friend. I'm very touched starved IRL and I'm a 20 year old kissless virgin, and even sitting next to him made me imagine how it might feel to kiss him. I had to remind myself that I'm not actually attracted to him, and that I just want affection. Of course I would never let my friend know about how jealous I was. This whole thing is just so silly, I hate feeling like this!
No. 517238
sometimes I feel like my rape isn’t really that. My therapist and best friend keep telling me it was coercion but maybe I forgot details or something. I do remember saying no until I finally gave in. But it wasn’t like all these other stories I hear. But I was completely traumatized and ended up being 89 pounds at one point due to depression and my abusive ex who ill get to but I still feel like it isn’t as valid as others. However I wouldn’t say that to anyone else who has been coerced, its just self hatred I guess.
This was when my girlfriend was nonconsensually trying to open our relationship. I felt I should do it first to have it be easier and that was my experience, with that guy. And when my girlfriend saw the pregnancy test in the garbage, she laughed (both negative btw). She Never picked up on why I was crying all the time, or rather I think she didn’t care. We lived together by the way. Once, out of many times, I told her I needed help while crying in bed with her back toward me, and she’d say “I’m watching Netflix” on her laptop.
Later on, I told her being poly was a hard no because of what just happened to me. She didn’t really care to hear and was like whatever. Then a month later, her and my roommates threw a sex themed party and my ex basically told me I’m ruining the fun when I was expressing my discomfort. She flirted in front of me with guys, did all the stereotypical emotional abuse shit like gaslighting and crazymaking.
I found out she cheated on me twice with a ginger marine who had a “SAD AF” tattoo and I grew a backbone and told her to get out of the house. (Her lease was up anyways and I was letting her stay in my room/bed until she left which I was heartbroken about before I found out). She wouldn’t leave, said we could talk about it and this was the first time she was trying to make things for me better but it was probably to ease her conscience. Also, I know that there was no way in hell she wouldn’t do something on her own terms. Instead of leaving when I told her to, she left the next morning as I was crying to my sister at a diner texting me how pissed she was at me.
The reason she was moving out was to travel because she’s one of those people. She said she didn’t want me coming with her and her/our friends because I’m not fun to travel with (I had UTIs both times we took road trips, UTIs I got from her because she’s disgusting)
She’d brag about all these things she was gonna do without me bc she had so much money she got from a lonely guy who only gave my ex bitcoin so she’d talk to him. She had like $6k + along w sex work money. So to flex on everyone bc her image is all she cares about, she sold her minivan and bought a more travel friendly one (huge, lot of money), a motorcycle, traveled to Australia and western US, and “toured” with a shitty band.
Karma came around and now she’s living in her mom’s trailer and on EBT all because she’s a selfish bitch who doesn’t think of anyone else
No. 517244
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>hanging out with cousin who is about 10 years younger than me
>she's just breaching into college, first year
>we go to the mall, etc.
>she tells me allllll her fucked up shit and secrets and mfw here I'm thinking I need to set an example for her innocence hah I done played myself
Makes sense, her parents were/are control freaks. Hippies who strangely are morally adherent to the bible. Weird combo. She was a vegetarian just because they forced it on her, and now she loves meat but can't bring herself to actively eat it cause of the brainwashing guilt, God style.
So I guess my point is that she's rebelling in some facets of her life. The scary part is that she's saying she has baby fever just because she's been babysitting and thinks she loves babies and how she really wants to drop college and have kids I'm just like NOOOOOOO.
>mfw she tells me she hates sweet fruity girl drinks and will only drink vodka and hard liquor and no she is not of age
No. 517264
>>517252I would murder him and make it look like an accident, negl
or ghost him (move out if you live together, without talking to him) and when he texts you just text him the picture
No. 517275
I love my parents truly, I truly do. They're amazing people and care so deeply for me, but … I'm so fucked up from my childhood and it's still like, fucking me up in my daily adult life.
I was assaulted by a babysitter when i was very young, I don't know what happened after that and I don't want to know, after that starting from at least 5? I got sexually addicted to abuse, violence and even death. I learned how to masturbate and got off to fantasies of being abused, or things dying.
I never went to school, never really was homeschooled. My parents let me learn what i wanted, which meant reading animal books while watching TV all day.
I got molested by my cousin when I was 9-10, who got me addicted to porn on new grounds and it got worse from there, pleasing weird guys on the internet throughout my teens, genuine sexwork, drugs, literally every FUCKING trope
Now I have a huge list of mental disorders, and am VERY uneducated to the point where people accuse me of acting dumb. It's so humiliating, people think I'm lying about my suffering for attention which I can kinda get because I have Histrionic, in a sick way I wish I made everything up. I live a good life, dealing with my issues surrounded by love and care, but I wish I could restart my life starting after 20.
No. 517276
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>>517275I wish I could give you a hug, anon. I'm sorry you had to go through all that abuse as a child.
No. 517361
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i'm so sick of feeling so ugly. it sounds vain, but i know i look fine to others and even pretty to some yet some irrational part of me is constantly bothered by the way i look and it really consumes me. i'm constantly checking myself in the mirror to make sure i look okay/passable, or looking for some part of me that i find pretty that i rarely seem to find. it makes me feel more upset than any of my real problems that i actually should be worried about do.
i know it's rooted deeply in myself since i've seen a few counsellors and realised i was bullied/abused a lot growing up based on my appearance, my skin was darker as a kid and my own family would constantly berate me about it. i didn't feel pretty growing up and didn't feel like i ever could be pretty so compensated by putting on this tomboy act for years, acting like i was too cool for looking pretty or something.
i've changed a lot since then, i've figured out how to style myself well and wear makeup and get compliments from people yet i still feel like my younger self inside. boyish and awkward and ugly, and like i could never truly be pretty. i know it doesn't even matter, there are so many more important things in life, but it just won't leave my head. i get suicidal feelings about it often, i used to have other worries or insecurities but it's completely taken over.
there are conflicting sides to it. on one hand i want to be absolutely gorgeous like a young anna karina, and on the other hand, i know it doesn't matter and being beautiful is not everything. i should just see a psychiatrist at this point, i don't know if i should open up about this to my friends. my mum knows and thinks its ridiculous of me, which is valid. when i've hinted to my friends that i hate the way i look, they've always been surprised.
i just needed to type this all out somewhere, it was getting me super agitated
No. 517384
>>517348>>517380Said the same thing in the Pink Pill thread a few days ago. How can a heterosexual artist singing about her heterosexual experiences be a gay icon? This is bizzare.
I kek when I remember when Lana said she wanted to connect to other women with her music/writing and men were so
triggered. Good for her!
No. 517409
>>517395Oh god, I completely understand. One of my coworkers at my former job was this very sweet and shy Mexican girl and she had spoken before about feeling insecure about her English but sometimes I would have trouble understanding her which made me feel so bad. She did have a fairly thick accent but her English was fine and I would die of embarrassment needing extra time to process what she said when everybody else could understand her without any trouble.
It's dumb as fuck that I struggle with people's foreign accents considering I'm a first generation American and hear my non-native family speak accented English every day. Idk what the hell my problem is but I feel your struggle, anon.
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>>517389Maybe im biased because my ex was emotionally
abusive and mentally ill but he would never make the effort to do anything. Looking back he was more in love with the idea of having me than actually being with me and maintaining the relationship.
Although to be fair, I think in most relationships the girl tends to be more organized. My current partner is so enthusiastic about hanging out and doing stuff but I still majorly plan out what to do because I'm fairly busy but proactive with organizing activities and offering solutions to fit our schedules.
A normal boyfriend, however, should still offer at least some ideas of what to do, when to hangout or maybe even asking if he can pop in for lunch or something (idk if you're a student or in your career). maybe I don't know shit, but anon if you're feeling bad and unloved, find someone who will.
I found it to be much healthier being by myself than waiting for someone to want to be with me. sorry for longpost
No. 517544
>>517536Thor being a lesbian Icon is a dumb inside joke started on tumblr
basically a guy who looks like thor politely asks a woman out on a date, she say's not intrested because she's gay and she expects the guy to become angry but instead he's cool with it and helps set her up with a lesbian friend of his
so basically the meme is that thor helps lesbians find good girlfriends
No. 517575
>>517544That's so retarded.
I wish I still used tumblr. I miss those days.
No. 517580
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I remember my mother chatised me for people approaching me IRL saying that they're all evil and I shouldn't interact with them. I really really hate her. She destroyed the relationship with the only person I ever considered my friend because he didn't like her (or my dad but he's a different story).
I really hate my parents but I have to do what they say or I get beat.
Also, I wonder how well this picture aged because I didn't follow any of these people.
No. 517597
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I'm probably retarded, but I'm still confused about my sexuality. I've never had sex with a man, nor have I ever been really romantically interested in men in my entire life. (I've made out with a men once or twice as a teenager but that was it) I've had plenty of romantic and sexual experience with women, but I've always felt kind of awkward/uncomfortable with the label of 'lesbian'. I never felt like it really fit me, but I didn't really like 'bisexual' either because I have absolutely no desire to date or have sex with men and as a young girl found the idea upsetting.
But when it comes to pornography, I'd masturbate to women with women, men with women & men with men, it makes no real difference to me. But at the same time outside of when masturbating to pornography, I have no real attraction to men or the male form. When masturbating alone, I fantasize of women. Is it just porn has rotted my brain, or what? I did discover/look at pornography at a very young age.
No. 517603
>>517256I just got my BA at 31. You can go to school at anytime. The only thing that sucks is talking to GenZ. During class discussions I definitely dated myself, but you come into classes with so much more knowledge than you would've if you came straight outta high school like everyone else, you can use these experiences to your advantage.
If you have a community college you can take a few classes and see what interests you; some colleges will have sites that explain degrees and what potential careers you can get out of them.
No. 517647
>>517627Men know exactly what they're doing. He knows he should help you, he just doesn't give a shit and assumes if he pretends he's unavailable that you will quietly do everything. So far, you have.
When are you gonna say enough's enough with this guy? You're not being fair to yourself. You're the one being responsible and competent so you shouldn't say you want to die, if anyone should want to kill himself it should be your useless bf. Zero pride as a man to let his woman be the breadwinner and doing all the work.
No. 517656
>>517647 > Men know exactly what they're doing. He knows he should help you, he just doesn't give a shitThis exactly. Too many discussions on here where people agonise over whether a guy is actually shitty or whether he's just somehow entirely 'unaware' of the very situation he's living in ..
He's shitty and taking advantage
No. 517680
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i Just need to go on a fucking date and hold hands with someone and kiss them and eventually fuck like jesus christ I'm 22 what's taking me so damned long?? I still feel like a teenager emotionally and istg this hurdle is holding me back, at least a little.
No. 517686
I know people will tell me to dump him but here comes my vent anyways.
Been with my bf for six years now. He’s a narcissist, always thinks his opinion is the only valid one. Poor sense of humour. All he does is smoke weed, play video games and every once in a while he tries to draw commissions which of course don’t go well because 1. He takes forever to reply. 2. He takes forever to draw it. 3. He didn’t end the half of them.
Since we began he made me feel like I was crazy. I was young, naive and stupid. I gave up everything for him, my friends, my family, even my studies. I have a very fucked up like so I thought he was the only one who could love me anyways. He turned me into someone he loved and I thought this was it, the love of my life.
But then he turned into someone resentful, someone who calls me all kind of names when he’s angry, someone who laughs at me while I’m crying and starts to throw things and basically threatens me to leave if I am the way I am at that moment. An emotional abuser. He’s an emotional abuser and I can’t wrap my head around the fact that I still love him and how desperate I am every time he tries to walk out the door of our home.
He told me very hurtful things through the years but one that hurt the most was that I always ended up alone because no one could ever love me or stand me because I know it’s partly true. As I said, my life wasn’t easy and I tend to absorb people into my sadness. He told me he wished he was dead instead of being with me, that I’m the worst thing that ever happened to him.
He got me begging on my knees, screaming that I didn’t want him to leave me.
We were in a trip to another country and he did the same, we had everything planned for the last day and he decided that he didn’t want to do it, so instead of changing our plans, he stayed in the bed all day, calling me fat, boring and a piece of shit for wanting me to go to another place with him.
Even in front of the family I had left back then, he screamed at me, startling everyone and telling me everything he thought I did wrong that day.
Last thing he did, he got angry at me for suggesting a way to improve his drawing skills. Just suggesting. Hasn’t talk to me for days and every time I approach him he only answers with monosyllables and of course that look of disgust on his face.
And I told him more than hundred times now, why he doesn’t dump me, why he doesn’t leave if I’m that bad, if I’m such that terrible for him but I know why, it’s because no one ever will stand what I’m standing just for him and that makes me feel disgusted with myself.
I can’t have my time back, I have literally no one right now (they hate me at this point too, they told me) and even if I was alone, I wouldn’t have a place to go nor money to pay for things, I wasted my opportunities and even when I know it’s never too late, the future that will be waiting for me is just as terrible as my present is right now.
No. 517688
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I hate the pervasive culture that is "you must change your password semi regularly but you can't write it down, someone will hack your email!" I've been using the internet since the late 90s and have never been hacked before and I just keep fucking forgetting my passwords to things I infrequently use but still need. Two factor authentication is a joke and I've changed my phone number pretty regularly the past 15 years so I can't just have a authentication thing via text anymore. Tl;dr I'm mad I forgot a password again and I can't get into an old gaming account I've spent a lot of money on. I've saved/written all my newer accounts down because I'm so bad at remembering the XdQ134!~ shit sites make us use to make our account more "secure"
No. 517709
>>517707luckily i should be moving in with my bf soon.
>>Finally being able to have people over without concern is also amazing.god, yes. my mom actually asked me the other day why i never invite my bf to spend the night over here… why on earth would i, are you not embarrassed?
i feel so ashamed about it. my bf even admitted to me that he felt a bit hurt by how i almost never let him come over. he said his family is also embarrassing, and i see them all the time. i don't know how to explain to him that his family members being a little dysfunctional while still being rich and successful is a lot more "acceptable" than my family members being unhygienic and disgusting because they're lazy slobs…
No. 517711
>>517686Anon you need a plan. Your narcissist WILL either cheat on, hurt, or leave you. It's not a matter of if, but when. I've been here so I know.
Loneliness is daunting but I cannot describe what a huge relief it is. I love that I no longer come home to pick up and tiptoe around a man who doesn't love nor desire me. I love that I can have higher standards for the next person I choose to be a relationship with, and that now I have the independence to walk away at the first sign of mistreatment.
It's no longer a question of "But who will love me?" because I know as a baseline I am deserving of love. The question now is "But who will treat me right and elevate me as an individual?" I love this question cause there's no implication that I am unworthy.
Your self-esteem has been beaten away by this narc but you can get it back! Like other anons said it's not too late to recover this situation. Find a job, save a bit, and then find a roommate. You'll feel great about yourself and this creep will be left in the dust that he deserves.
No. 517729
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FUCK OFF HIRO THIS IS MY HOUSE ROUTER
No. 517781
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I was fired yesterday because i was slow and not finishing orders as fast as they want me to. I feel bad and useless because im always slow on social cues and everything even though i always try my best to be quick and focus on my current tasks, the employer was someone my mom knew and when she didnt see me go to work as often she become suspicious and ask the employer out since they gave me the silent treatment. My mom was the one that break the news to me and i was deeply hurt and offended so i had a fight with her for some stupid reason because it seems like i cant blame anyone but myself, i just want things to be normal again between us and i just want myself to be faster, im not stupid but i dont really have much experience working yet since this is only my second job at a very different field of work. I just want to be useful and quick minded like everybody else and not let anyone look down on me anymore…
No. 517789
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>>517776You'll be fine anon.
No. 517801
>>517600>>517608to make it worse, she "apologized" in our group message, saying she was thinking about #yummy and pizzagate because of a conspiracy video i texted her the other day about justin bieber's new song. so now the group probably thinks that's somewhat plausible and mildly excusable. but in the conspiracy video i sent her, it was only about justin bieber's lyrics being about his abuse, video made no mention of #yummy or anything else. that's evil to me, trying to save face like that. entirely false
i don't know how to go about replying. it's been a day. she apologized both in the group and personally. i haven't spoken to anyone from the group in or outside the gm
idk whether to not reply for days and say i needed to process that more because that was really vile or rn expose her for trying to save face. or a mix of things
No. 517842
>>517818Consider it a bullet dodged.
I slept with a guy who turned out to be waffling between me and a mtf, made sense cause turned out he had a tiny dick which made vaginal penetration pointless so no wonder he wanted numale ass.
No. 517860
>>517858Agree. Dramu boards been dry af anyway.
POST /m/ AND /g/ MORE SLUTS
No. 517892
>>517891I'm 24 almost. I didn't do it to be innocent, I just knew that I'd be bullied since everyone picks up on me no matter what I do because I'm weird and unpleasant.
>>517890I mean I agree but that's because they have seriously bullied me into hating myself.
No. 517899
>>517896Oh fuck
Back in September, huh?
No. 517945
>>517936kek it's always the same
>I, personally, have a degree, as do my parents and my partner and all my siblings and everyone in my friend group, but my cousin's husband is a self-made entrepreneur who jumped onto a very niche opportunity when he was 18 and now he's doing well without a degree! just goes to show you don't need an education to get a good job!thank you so much uncle bob for that life-changing deduction.
No. 517958
>>517955Demanding all the passwords is a huge nogo.
>>517957Stop projecting
No. 517988
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Ive been in one certain community for four years just to then realize that all those people who were "my friends" were being friends with me only because I am popular and really like helping people. I had few of people who I thought were chill and close friends of mine, just to later find out theyve been talking shit about me on daily basics, especially when I had to go through difficult problems in life that led into me being depressed (a bonus note: 98% of people who i talked to and took care of always run away from me whenever I am the one doing bad even though a simple 'its going to be okay" was enough for me during that time). The entire community turned into one huge toxic mess (even tho deep down it was one, but i still brought the light in it and would make people feel safe and welcomed when they join us). I have decided to leave this community when everything turned into a mess and that I found out close friends were talking crap about me, all because I am a kind person who never gotten in any drama. Anyways.
I feel horrible I have wasted so much time just to realize that all of my friends were pretending to be ones and now I am too scared to find or meet anyone new. I havent met any new friend in four months now and I feel horrible about it. There is a good part of not being around people, i agree; my art is ten times better than it used to be and I am truly proud of it, but I still have the urge to meet new people but I am completely scared of it. I am feeling lonely everyday and I believe that I will be either used either backstabbed by others. Or they will just hate me. I feel horrible that I barely talk to my oldest friends now and I havent voicechatted for fun for four months now, whenever I join any voicechat I just mute my mic. I miss being energetic, cheerful and never afraid of anything, supportive girl.
And it works the same way with meeting new people IRL. Right now, I am not able to meet any new person IRL due to other reasons, too.
Just wanted to get it off my chest. Sorry anons.
No. 517991
>>517990Thanks a lot. The thing is, that people whom i thought were trustworthy and close friends of mine were my own small group of friends outside of community. I still cant believe it sometimes, and I am always wondering what I done wrong. The only good thing I could appreciate from them is that two of them confessed that they have been talking crap about me. First time they confessed was before I left this community… I forgave them, saying that the smartest thing they could do here was that they could just talk to me if anything about me is making them feel uncomfortable, and we could fix it. We all are different people after all… They talked and made fun of me during their first confession because during that time I had to be back to
abusive household which turned me into a depressed person who wouldnt be as cheerful as I always am. In this
abusive household I was beaten up roughly for years because my mother never raised me in a first place and they would starve me. So of course I felt horrible.
And second (and last time) I just found out trom our third friend of group, this time he said it himself (when i left the community) that they never treated me as their friend anyway and always screenshoted me out of context, saying how cringe I am, etc. And he showed that too. I felt heartbroken.
All of the other people from this community, they (like i said earlier) talked to me only because I was popular and would help everyone out. When i left i became useless. I still talk to good people from that place, but really rarely. And this whole thing affected me a lot.
No. 517997
>>517991Hi anon not sure how to word this but I'll try
There was probably someone out there who had a vendetta against you so they started the idea of showing your messages in a negative light. This spreads to others with no backbone who are easy to influence into doing it themselves. It doesnt even matter what the messages are as long as it's coming from you.
I have good news tho in that these communities, the person who started it chips away the users till no ones left. Theres also no sense of safety and acceptance because of other users simple messages getting leaked. I agree online places wont replace actual friend bonds in the long run. Maybe you can take comfort in knowing your vendetta user will end up alone from all their own malice.
No. 518001
>>517997To be honest, that is exactly what happened to the community. This person is neckbeard incel who studied in online school. I don't feel angry about him, only pity because he is that insecure. But it still does sucks a lot, because I though Ive had friends. This guy is destroying the community completely if he already didn't, all of the good, calm people stopped talking there and now its just him, mods who are as
toxic as him and his friends. He and his friends started bullying people out of voicechats, or would make fun of them in public but mods never wanted to do anything about it because they are friends with this person. I knew it was a red flag anyway, but I still enjoyed this place even though he decided to change everything. I feel like he has a huge hateboner for communitys creator, which has abandoned this place three years ago. That is also why the active mods in her community are insecure and
toxic.
I really wish to find a good friend group, but all these events have affected me a lot. I understand I am the only person who should deal with it and overcome the fear, but I feel like a complete noob at it. I don't even know what to do or where to start. At least I like that I have created a good universe for my new OCs, basically turned all of my loneliness and fear into more productive things, writing more and improving my art. I am planning on trying out blender soon since I have achieved my goal, being good at animation now. I thought of going into art places, but I really do not like them because of obvious reasons. I am really good and competitive at videogames, I still play overwatch and going to get to Diamond Two in League of Legends, but my fear of becoming friends with people which turned into also me not being able to feel comfortable in voicechats is destroying everything. I do not know what to do.
No. 518065
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Learning a foreign language is hard as a burger with a public education and I'm unfortunately the type that is easily discouraged and gives up because I get so stressed out over messing up. I wish my brain wasn't like this and I could just keep trying but I seem to go through bouts of giving up and slowly picking it back up again after a few months of not practicing at all. I don't want to have to spend 7 years in a language school to become fluent in whats suppose to be one of the easiest languages to learn for english speakers.
No. 518080
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>>518076too bad I live in france now with a frog
No. 518084
>>518075French is a pretty hard language though. Lots of weird grammar that can be hard to learn. I have a gamily member who grew up learning french as a child and she would cry doing her homework because she struggled with it a lot.
German also has some difficult grammar but makes some more sense to the english speaking ear. I think some of the easiest languages to learn as an english speaker is probably the scandinavian ones.
No. 518089
>>518075>>518080As someone who had to take four years worth of French courses in high school as a third language, it's definitely not easy. Pronunciation and spelling can be pretty counterintuitive. Especially since you live in France you've probably noticed that actual French people tend to speak very fast and kind of melt all the words in a sentence together, making it even harder to follow what they're saying.
My bf knows French at a very high level and has to communicate in the language a lot for work, and even he often has trouble understanding what's being said. Living with a native speaker is a huge advantage though, and if you're not afraid to mess up when talking to them (as opposed to someone you don't know as well) by all means practice with them as much as you can. Even if it's just a short basic conversation, doing that every day is basically half the struggle. Especially with a language like French where speech is the aspect most people have the biggest issues with.
Other than that it's very important to not be afraid of making mistakes or not being fluent yet. I get stressing about it but practice, even if you're not doing perfect, really is key as long as your conversational partner corrects you on your errors.
No. 518109
>>518099the worst part is that I my self feel that I don't deserve him, we can't have normal PIV sex, I can' ever have children with him without some form of medical complication, I can't do any chores around the house and I can't work
I feel like a failed human being at times
No. 518110
>>518098I'm really sorry anon, people are absolutely ruthless towards women who are on reduced hours or cannot work.
Similar situation happened with my ex. I was in an LTR and we split rent down the middle. I took on a call center job that paid decent but the work was stressful and I'd have panic attacks and tears every day before I'd go in. I thought about suicide every day. I felt like I couldn't get any other work as a post-grad stuck in customer service. Also there was pressure for me to keep the job for health insurance and perks that both me and my ex used. Inevitably I took time off and gave up my shifts whenever I could for my sanity, which reduced my income. I even went to doctors to try medications but the nature of the job was just so shit that they never helped.
This all infuriated my ex as more onus got put on him to make rent by himself. He went behind my back and vented to his female friends about how I wasn't working, and those bitches all nodded heads right along with him. They were in my social media watching to see if I'd purchase anything so I blocked them immediately. Everyone had criticism but not even my ex offered to help me look for better work. Either because he was lazy and could barely help himself, or because he knew he wouldn't be able to take advantage of my job perks anymore if I quit. I felt so pressured to keep that dumb job, but heaven forbid a man would be expected to provide for his temporarily unwell partner!!
Joke's on him. Not long after I broke up with him I ditched that shitty job too. My mental health came back, I stopped gaining weight, and now I have an office job that pays more and is chill. Too bad he couldn't keep his indigant pissant mouth shut.
No. 518118
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>all kinds normal facemasks completely sold out, wether it's irl, amazon, ebay or all onlineshops, even the non-reusable ones
>the only ones left are those by scalpers who bulk puchased them and now sell one for 100 Euros, 170+ euros for actual reusable ones
>tfw I know they used to be about 10 euros by the actual distributor
>tfw there are people who actually bought them
>tfw the corona virus doesn't even have a death-toll in my country yet
I hope those greedy cunts die by it within this year.
No. 518121
>>518115>>518116>>518119Nta but how so? If the job is making her miserable should she just continue to stay miserable and suffer? Your partner is not simply a roommate you split rent with. They should be understanding of your situation. If my partner was having panic attacks every day I would want her to find something else or reduce her hours, even if it meant losing some benefits. Then again, I would have enough of an income to support the both of us, and even if I didn't, I have money saved up because I don't waste my money on retarded trinkets like men love to do. My partner's mental health would be far more important.
She sounds mad and rightfully so. Men are always quick to blame or abandon a partner when they are hurting. I don't think it's
abusive or crazy to expect your partner to give a shit about you
No. 518124
>>518115>>518116>>518119Because I was picking up for him in areas where he slacked ie. him not having a car nor a license despite being older than me. Who drove him to work? Who paid for the groceries and essentials then hauled them home? Who did he call when he wanted to go hang with his buddies or locked himself out of the place?
Who was picking up after his messes because he was a slob? Or cooking his food because he'd never do anything besides come home and play video games? Who was the one paying extra for funsies that he couldn't afford?
And anyway, your accusation doesn't make sense as I now have a job that I regularly attend that doesn't drive me literally to madness.
Thanks for proving my point, that women are put down, and apparently "
abusive," the second we aren't available to honeypot funds for our men to dip into.
>>518121Thank you. No one understands partnership anymore, women are the only ones held to account meanwhile men shittalk and abandon us the second we can't provide.
No. 518132
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(Trypophobia Warning)
AHHHHHHH I never knew what tonsil stones were AHHHHHH Last night I thought I had a bit of food/gunk stuck on my tonsil AHHHHHHH I went to wipe it away with a q-tip AHHHHHHhhhhhHhHHHH white things poking out of holes on my tonsils when I push down!!! Wtf wtf ew ew ewwwww ew AHHHHHHH there were like 15 of them AHHHHHHHHH I really want to forget
Reminds me of bugs or eggs coming out of holes ughganghgnghgh I want to forget. In pic related they are readily visible but wretch on my tonsiks they only emerged when I pressed on the tissue around the holes vom
On the bright side I can legit hear better since removing them. Wow human bodies are disgusting. How am I supposed to carry on living knowing I have a holey nightmare happening in the back of my throat. Throw the whole mouth away
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I told you ninnypoos that the coronavirus is legit, but I got called prepperchan… I wonder if it was worth it to look “cool” and unfazed.
No. 518142
>>518132Are you sick or coming down from an illness? Sometimes gargling with salt water helps prevent them and knocks the old ones loose.
I got my tonsils removed but sometimes when I'm sick I get them a little on the leftover scar tissue. They smell gross as well.
No. 518143
Oh my god, my mother just told me in all seriousness that I'm forced to wear a Hijab and when I told her that I don't want it and my aunt doesn't wear one either, she just said that I'm "turning into a Christian and not being one with my faith" like bruh what. I'm not even religious in the first place and she doesn't know that, but still.
It's so funny to me how they act like the biggest Muslims ever like wow you don't pray on a daily basis, you only wear a hijab, don't eat pork, fast when it's Ramadan only and pray when it's mandatory because it's a holy holiday from time to time, but that's it. You're always gossiping and abusing your children mentally and physically and my father is the same but he drinks alcohol too but then they wanna preach about faith this and how I am "losing touch with my faith" like imagine being 40-50 years old and saying shit like that despite yourself not even doing things you're talking about.
Ugh, why is moving out so difficult when you're a part of a Middle Eastern family with strictly religious beliefs who also want you to be the perfect housewife and marry a lazy bum of a man and have kids with him? I wish I could see their faces when they find out none of those things will happen because I don't want kids and I'm actually into girls but that would also result into a beating and them forcing me to go to the Mosque for 4-5 months straight again and I am avoiding that like the plague.
>>518132Had the same issue when I had a gastroesophageal reflux disease and ended up removing it with my finger and nothing really ended up happening afterwards except for me having now a bunch of weird holes inside my tonsils. Didn't get sick or anything. But I still recommend going to the doc and getting it checked out. Good luck!
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>>518076>>518084>>518088>>518089thank you guys for the encouragement. it means a lot knowing im not crazy and it is actually a little difficult to learn. i guess it's just one of those mopey days for me, im definitely going to try
No. 518151
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>>518114ugh I'd be sweating like crazy. I'm a week behind in my french course because I've skipped class because illness and I've already broken down in tears twice today trying to study and not retaining anything and beating myself up for skipping the homework after having my brain fried, I think thats why I'm so discouraged
No. 518155
>>518147Not any of the anons you replied to but I'm absolutely fucking losing it at the image. It's so fucking accurate. I never understood what people meant when they said la croix tasted like if you drank plain seltzer and someone shouted out the name of the fruit/flavor from the next room over until I had it myself.
But good luck with your language studies anon!!
No. 518160
>>518158Sounds like he has an issue with rage. I lived with a gamer for 5 years and he drank and smoked a little weed. He was annoying af on the weed but without it he was always in a rage.
Another guy I know has rage issues from party drugs and drink.
Does your bf have any issues like that? I was naive about drugs in my early 20s but once you learn about their very real not cool effects you'll realise a lot of people have rage issues.
No. 518161
>>518158Train your boyfriend like a badly behaved dog.
He screeches for something in the kitchen. Why? Because he's conditioned you to respond to the screeching and knows you'll baby him, or that you'll cave to help if he keeps the tantrum up.
When dogs bark you're not supposed to yell or give them attention because you're only reenforcing that barking will get them what they want.
I'm not sure who's responsible in your household for putting away cups and spoons and things, but if that's your duty, announce that you have a designated drawer where you put them. Do not help him further after that. Make him behave like an adult and hunt down things he needs on his own. There's no reason that he should get so worked up for something temporarily misplaced in a kitchen that would've been found in under five minutes anyway. Put in earbuds, but don't get yourself involved. If his screaming and yelling makes you uncomfortable, tell him so in a matter of fact voice. If he blames you, remove yourself from the situation.
Do not reward him with your presence and help if he mistreats you. That's a bad dog.
No. 518162
>>518107I relate 100℅.Top 5 things that annoy the shit out of me, I've ghosted people out of my life for this, like "My favourite flavour is peer pressure" tier people.
>Hype undertale to friends>Lol it looks lame>2 years later>Omg x talked about this amazing game check it out anon!!あああああああああああああああああ
No. 518167
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>one leg has been feeling weird lately
>thinking about getting an ultrasound to check for a blood clot
>asked my mom how much they cost and when she did one to check for cancer it was $1000 because her insurance didn’t cover it
No. 518169
>>518141>>518142>>518143Thanks for the support anons it really did freak me out. I haven't been sick in a really really long time, actually. I smoke a lot of pot, maybe the smoke has something to do with bacteria forming back there? I look inside my mouth fairly regularly so they must have formed within the past 8-12 months? Or maybe they just started to surface now but have been forming for a while… Interestingly, I have been stretching the muscles in the front of my neck for the first time ever in my life and massaging the general area and I wonder if that didn't help loosen some of the inflammation or something and push the stones up/out.
I'm just glad they are out now! And my nasal passage and ears feel ever so slightly less impacted.
Should I really see a doctor? when I first discovered them late af last night I almost called the nurse hotline bc I was so freaked. My internet searches have told me I don't need to see a doctor for tonsil stones and they can be removed at home but I can't tel if it's weird to find so many at once in both tonsils. I'll keep an eye on them and see if they return. In the mean time I will def do salt gargles. Whew
Also to
>>518143 I just want to send some strength your way. It must suck so badly to be controlled by such hypocritical people in your family. I don't have any advice but I hear you.
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>>518181I saw him in person and he is this white
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>>518182Same guy
This is what Koreabooism does
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>>518181>>518182>>518183mans out there looking like the biggest and ugliest clown
No. 518196
>>518192Idk why
Asians are lifeless
No. 518203
>>518181>>518183Sorry your friend hates himself jfc
>>518177I think a factor for this in America is burgers having a complex about being a breakaway England. You see people cling to European ancestries, easier and less controversial to LARP as those. Japan and Korea have long been obsessed with western cultures too or different reasons. Globalization just happens on a much bigger and faster scale now.
No. 518209
>>518201This. For example my younger sister (14) tells me that most kids in her school read manga and watch anime casually without bringing up japan or japanese people ever, and they really couldn't care less about them. However the kpop/kdrama fans are absolutely OBSESSED with korea and koreans and never stop talking about them, to the point where one girl told a chinese classmate after assuming she was korean, "if only you were korean then I'd hang out with you, cuz' koreans are my people". Yikes
I also think that there are way more koreaboos now than there ever were actual weebs, and this is coming from someone who's never been either.
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A ""friend"" made up a bunch of excuses yesterday as to why they didn't want to hang out but super pinky promised they'd hang with me tonight. I suspected they'd flake, but whatever. They ignored me the entire day even after I got out of work, so I sent a sad emoji bc it's obvious they were just avoiding me.
So they call me as soon as I sent the emoji. First to small talk but mostly to vent about their day to build the scene for not wanting to hang out. Wahhh they overshot going to the cell phone store by five miles wahhhh (dead serious). So I finally ask if they were coming over or not, in which they respond with this tirade that they're having a meltdown and are up to their ears in shit. Not that I could read their mind. Certainly not a yes or no to my direct question. After they were done I respond "Soooo I take that as a no?" And apparently they were so assblasted by my "tone" they hung up the phone and later blamed me for "pushing" them to hang and had I not been so pushy they would have hung out! Um, no bitch, I asked you once if you were coming over because you said you would and now you want someone else to blame.
How can anyone feel so comfortable being this fucking petty and childish? Imagine framing someone else for supposed wrongdoing because you can't take the heat for your own! And flaking isn't even that big a deal, but they can't handle feeling guilty so they gotta point the finger at me somehow. I can't believe this bullshit.
The worst part is that this person plays nice and cool, but obviously deep down they're selfish as hell, can't take responsibility, and are downright mean. They'll ignore me now for days, and then text me a non-apology later. I feel like blocking them, this isn't a friend.
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My dad "accidentally" unistalled my tablet, i installed it again and checked the drivers but now everytime i try to "click" it doesn't work, i mean, the pen moves but when i try to execute programs by clicking icons (or anything) it doesn't work. I'm so angry and frustrated, i spent so much time learning to draw digitally and i needed money, this was my only chance, i can't even buy a new one.
No. 518221
>>518107I agree, anon. It's frustrating when they won't even try it or even look up anything about it. ESPECIALLY when they're actively looking for something new to get into and they turn your suggestions down. I also hate the opposite of this, where someone tells me I'll like something and I try it and don't like it, only to come around to it and like it on a second try years later, and they proceed to be extremely smug about it and say "I TOLD YOU IT WAS GOOD, PLEB". A friend of mine got really smug when I started watching and enjoying an anime she tried to get me into eight years ago (when I was 14 years old). I never even said it was bad, I just couldn't get into it because my taste was different then.
>>518132anon if it's affordable for you I'd advise getting a water flosser (I have a waterpik that I've been using for 12 years and it still holds up). put some warm water in it on the gentlest setting and you can "rinse" out the tonsils. It's less gross as well.
No. 518226
>>518217>this was my only chance, i can't even buy a new one. It's going to be ok anon, your issues are drivers etc, nothing is actually broken so this is fixable. You need to be googling your specific drivers, tablet, operating system etc for more specific help but if you have a Windows pc check when your last system back up was and maybe do a system restore? A techie friend or even a decent computer repair shop will be cheaper than a new tablet.
These things happen all the time unfortunately. I have a Wacom and every couple of months all of the tablet settings will just reset or I'll lose all of my keyboard keybinds on my programs, I have yet to figure out why this happens but all I can do is just pick everything back up and power on.
It's not my place to say however if you're counting on digital drawing to get you out of financial stress, you're probably bound to have some worse rough patches even when your equipment is behaving, a McJob is more secure. You must have your reasons though, and I wish all the best to you
No. 518234
>>518192>>518203I don't think that's the case, the thing is Japanese them selves view themsleves closer to the west then the rest of east asia, they were isolated for over 250 years, until americans forced them to open up trade
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bakumatsuand seeing the humiliations of other east asian who were being colonized or influenced by the western european powers they choose to emulated the west spefically Imperial Germany and Britain, so I feel its eaiser for a western audience to relate to a Japanese content rather then chinese
Chinese content is not at all popular, even all of china's biggest allies don't like chinese music of chinese films
No. 518258
>>518233In the end we all die alone.
The difference is in knowing you're leaving loved ones behind and they cannot follow you into the dark. Then nothing. Don't be scared.
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>>518284>>518286Samefag, but the average lifespan of an outdoor cat is 2-5 years, while an indoor cat is 17. This is basic knowledge any cat owner should be aware of.
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>>518288Well no because a cat isn't a child, it's a domesticated animal. Would you put your child on a leash or in a cage just to take it outside? Your humanizing of cats is a little appalling to be honest. Full adult awareness and understanding of the world? They aren't human babies.
>>518291I don't live in a place where psychopaths roam free and shoot every little animal in sight and feral cats are practically non-existent because people are quick to call the right instances and have them taken care of. I understand that it might be hard for you to understand that people elsewhere in the world take some care of their animals. If you let your cat develop it's sense of locality it's really not that big of a deal at least here anyway because most cats are descended from european wildcats. Besides it's not like it's gonna stop spending most of it's day sleeping inside.
>>518292They were cave dwellers because they are nocturnal animals that sleep most of the day. I don't need to imagine it, I used to run into my cat on the way to school when it was heading home from whatever "adventure" it had been on, mostly just satiating it's curiosity exploring and roaming to piss in places it hasn't been.
pictured here is your virgin cats destined to a life of solitude
No. 518305
>>518300Same. Me and my families cats have always been outdoor cats and most of them have become 10+ years old. I live in a country where there are no strays or agression against outdoor cats and I don't live in an urban area so I don't see a reason to keep an average no-breed cat inside especially since they want to go outside.
Anyway Americans declaw their cats so I don't really feel like they get to say anything about people having outdoor cats
No. 518307
>>518299there are an estimated 100,000,000 stray animals in europe. this does not include ferals. your fairyland does not exist by the numbers and by the books. the fact is that there will always be predation by other animals and the spread of disease. felv and fiv are not the only diseases transmitted amongst cats, only some of the most common spread between cat to cat. zoonotic disease spread from species to species is still alarmingly common. i also doubt that there are so few psychos where you live that wouldn't enjoy causing an animal pain. you're just trying to excuse your laziness.
>Your humanizing of cats is a little appalling to be honest. Full adult awareness and understanding of the world? They aren't human babies.how is it 'humanizing cats' by saying they do not possess adult human understanding of the world and so they shouldn't be treated like creatures that do? even if humans weren't making huge changes in their environment, these animals are still not cognizant of the risks they face and the suffering they are likely to experience. absolutely irresponsible that you think it's unreasonable to want to shield anything you love from suffering.
>>518305americans rarely declaw their cats anymore. the practice has largely fallen out of favor.
No. 518309
>>518307nayrt but what the fuck, where do you live for thinking about psychos wanting to harm your cat ? in little villages there are tons of strays and everyone lets them hang out /collectively gives them food once in a while and the town hall had an initiative to fix them, which I'm sure is not an isolated thing.
as you said there are risks when you let your cat outside, that's the cost of freedom. and I would rather have a cat that lives seven years roaming the woods rather than one who lives double that locked in a bedroom.
I first worry about the wildlife that they kill, which is actually the main issue, but the solution is literally a collar with a tiny bell.
don't get a cat if you don't live in a place where it can explore without ending up as roadkill. I know some people who can walk their cats on leashes, but not every cat has the temperament to do that.
anyway the good news is that at least mutilation by declawing is falling out of fashion, maybe in 30 years you guys will allow them outside.
No. 518319
>>518164Prepping is a good idea to be honest, even without corona.
I don't mean hoarding 9000 Facemaks, but having a bit of water and canned food and toilet paper in your basement/attic for tough times is a good idea. If you can survive on your stash for 2 weeks you're already golden.
No. 518322
>>518300First anon and yes absolutely this, mine lived to be 18.
>>518306There's 50-100000 out of 800000 or between 6 to 12% strays here, most of which are vaccinated and castrated before they end up as strays which leads to practically non-existent feral ones. We don't allow importing of strays from other countries either which helps reduce risks of disease. Of course there are possibilities of disease, but fiv and felv are a bigger issue in places with a large population of strays.
They don't have much in the way of predators outside of shitty trained dogs, wolves, foxes and maybe a large bird or two.
As for your humanizing of cats, you're the one who compared it to a child and is making your cat completely dependent on you by not letting it roam free and acting like it's self-preservation instincts won't kick in if a car is incoming. You're making cats out to be glorified babies with some fuzz
>>518315>Cats don't really give a shit either waySo you're one of those "cats are cool because they don't give a fuck" people? A bird in a cage forgets how to sing.
>You're the only one that thinks this.Apparently not.
No. 518323
>>518311you're acting like a cat is a kid, what's wrong with you? all cats wanna do is eat meats, naps and play with strings. part of having a pet means protecting it from dangerous things that are outside (things that aren't in the wild like trucks and cars and shit), but not only that, domestic cats are not wild animals, and while they do retain their instincts for
survival domestic cats aren't apex predators, whether or not wild cats are. them wanting to be outside doesn't mean it's not extremely dangerous. birds also want to be outside. just don't have pets if you want them to be like they are in the wild.
No. 518326
>>518323she's acting like the cat is a cat
>all cats wanna do is eat meats, naps and play with strings. this is acting like the cat is a kid
>>518325it's more embarrassing that you resort to calling it samefagging because you can't grasp that people can agree on something you disagree with
No. 518345
I would like to know if people who complains here have a cat or ever had a cat tbh.
Had two cats in all my life and the second one is still alive. First one died when he was 12 years old and you know what? He could go outside whenever he wanted. If you keep up with their vaccines and medication, sure there’s always the possibility of them getting killed by another people / animals but you know…they have survival instinct? People is literally making me laugh out loud with some of the things they’re writing.
Someone said all they want to do is to take naps and play…well, my second cat got anxious because he had to stay at home, literally threw himself at the door so many times in the night, started to mark his territory everywhere even when he was castrated, and doing his necessities in the most weird places.
What changed his life forever was to be outside, as my other cat, whenever he wanted. My neighbours tell me they can’t pet him because he wouldn’t let them, he runes away from cars but not from ours (and he basically acts like a dog when he sees us, following us around). The first time I listened his purr for more than one year and a half of having him, was the way we let him outside. And of course he spends more time inside than anything because this is his home and he understand that.
I love him to pieces and I worry every time he has to go outside because I know something bad could happen to him but when you have a pet you know what’s best for them, so I did what I had to do, put him his vaccines and consult the veterinarian (who basically told me there was no problem with him being outside apart from what I already told).
I get why you wouldn’t want your cat outside if your neighbours are psychos or there is a potential danger out there but taking away from them their freedom just because you’re worried…yikes
No. 518347
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No. 518357
>>518330Literally how am I acting like cats are smart? Just because I don't keep it inside 100% of the time doesn't mean I don't care about it or believe it's some super smart animal, I just know for a fact that they enjoy being outside and I won't deny mine that freedom.
Again you're drawing parallels where there should be none, of course I'm not gonna give my kid the same agency that I would a fucking cat. I presented you with actual facts and you just called me a samefag
>>518347If it isn't samefagging it's anecdotes and not that there exists places in the world with smaller and less dense populations, different fauna, multiple active charities promoting animal welfare and a lack of psychos that want to shoot your animals
No. 518368
>>518367YES PLEASE
I came here wanting to vent about my work but know stubborn people who think their opinion is the only
valid one made me get an headache.
No. 518376
>>518364Having other animals trapped inside is bad too. It's the worst with birds.
At least with dogs, good owners will walk them for several hours a day.
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I'm so fucking upset, all I want to do is make my own cosplays and clothing, but I'm so shitty with a sewing machine. It just seems like everyone can use one and I'm just absolute trash. All of my seams are so crappy, and I'm not really sure how to learn. I've been borrowing m,y boyfriend's mother's sewing machine, so it's not like I can just practice often. I'm just so sick of crying over completely fucking up basic seams because I don't know how to properly operate the damn machine AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
No. 518487
>>518482I've fainted once in my 20 years of menstruating. I had plans afterwards and never chased it up with a doc. Years later I still wonder what exactly happened that day.
Definitely not normal
No. 518498
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God I am SO fucking sick of public transport.
I have to take two busses and two trains to get to university and it takes me a total of 4 hours every day. Been doing it for nearly four years now and fuck do I hate it. It's not the wasted time that bothers me the most, or even the fact that I miss class if even one of my trains is delayed. I've actually had to drop out of courses because of it before.
The single thing that I despise most about it is the loud ass people that surround me for those 4 hours. Apparently it's unheard of to just calmly ride the bus or train without bothering anyone. Why do people feel the need to constantly keep yapping and coughing everywhere and taking their screaming kids with them? Or, god forbid, taking out a lunchbox filled with food that smells like vomit and noisily eating it while sitting across from me. Especially on the way back when my people tolerance has already dropped I can't help but visualise elaborate revenge fantasies for every single person there. Everything about sitting in public transport gets on my nerves and I can physically feel my stress levels going through the roof.
I can't wait to finally be done with it and get a job and place to live somewhere quiet.
No. 518552
>>518545I brought this up to my stepdad, who lets their cat outside, and he was like "whatever, that's just evolution".
… Except, no it fucking isn't because outdoor cats are an invasive species that humans introduced and not native wildlife.
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>>518516Honestly, this would be enough to convince me.
>imagine your lovable furball contracting cat AIDs and slowly dyingIt couldn't be me.
No. 518613
I'm jealous of those super valedictorian academic kids. All their family, friends, and tutors set them up to pass the SAT, AP exam, and college admissions while my parents forced me to go to the worst high school in my state that didn't even have a single AP course until my senior year. Those kids had parents who cared about them so much they designed the perfect high school curriculum for them while I had to explain to my dad what the difference between ACT and SAT was. I know this sounds bitter and an over simplification, but my dad likes to think he was super involved in my high school classes and did the best for me while that could be further from the proof. I just snapped when he saw my high school GPA of 3.3 and asked 'thats good, right?'. He likes to pretend he was the perfect dad who was always there, he was either at work or on his phone, but he literally doesn't even know what a good gpa is. I'm also stressed because looking closely I just relied my high school transcript I've been sending to colleges was recorded wrong and is missing 3-4, most likely all, honor credits. My only hope now is to get good scores on the ACT/SAT, but I assume that's out of reach. I'm starting community college classes to get a better gpa, but I'm so scared I'm going to fuck them up to the point I can barely do anything. I feel this doom like I'll never get good grades. I can't do any college research without falling into this angry void because they either assume you're A. A loving parent or B. You want to get into a top 5 school. I'm trying to get over this dumb victim complex, but listing to my dads delusions about how making go to a wedding instead of studding for my 9th grade physics final was a good idea
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being a floor nurse sucks a solid 70% of the time. The pay and benefits are brilliant and i'm lucky enough to work with wonderful nurses in general but it's exhausting (even for someone that's baseline athletic) and mentally/ emotionally draining. Some patients are absolutely wonderful I feel so happy and honored to be able to care for them, and some are verbally abusive and manipulative assholes. Not to mention doctors (not all ofc) that don't communicate or put in orders properly, CNAs (again, not all) that don't do their fucking jobs and leave all your patients dirty and wet so you have to do their job and yours, and management that hounds you to discharge patients asap/update your stupid white boards boards/ect when you have to like….actually treat and care for your fucking patients that need meds/blood/procedures/ect when your floor is understaffed and you're saddled with 6 total care patients. It's ridiculous half the time and it makes me want to change to night shift or maybe become a clinic/outpatient nurse, but night shift schedule would probably fuck up my physical/mental health and clinic nursing seems boring af and the pay isn't as good. Moving to a specialty seems interesting but working in ICU/ER with critical patients on the verge of death makes me cringe and so does working with moms and babies in L&D…I really do love so many aspects of my job (working with mostly healthy chatty nice old people rly is the best)and being able to comfort and care for others is a blessing but some days I leave feeling like fuck this shit. Still, I can't imagine doing anything else. I feel like a 9-5 job 5 days a week would leave me so bored and mentally under-stimulated. IDK shit be sucking, my apologies in advance for how unorganized and word vomit this is.
No. 518701
>>518683I thought we were done with this but since you failed at reading comprehension and browsing through the thread I will reiterate that I don't actually keep it outside at all times and I only let it out when it wants to go out and it spends most of it's time lazing about indoors
>is eaten by a foxfoxes are more likely to be scared by a cat than it is to eat them unless it's a kitten, which you shouldn't let outside unsupervised
No. 518728
>>518723This. The "my cat is smart and won't get killed!!!" people are just living a lie. The cat might enter a yard with a loose dog that can attack it, it might eat poison left out for pests or by someone deliberately trying to get rid of cats peeing on their patio, it could get run over, it might fall from a great height and get hurt, another cat could attack them, it might catch a disease or parasites, they can get caught/stuck in something, some crazy animal hater could harm them, someone might even steal the cat for themselves which actually happened to a friend who insisted on letting her cat roam free. A lot of these examples have happened to people I know who have let their cats out to wander around. Cats are animals driven by their instinct, they don't think over what they do like humans would. Unless you live in a house literally in the sticks with no driveways or other people/buildings around there are multiple threats to your animal's wellbeing. Even outdoors dogs are kept on a fenced yard or on a leash.
And not only the cat being hurt, it's also harmful to the ecosystem. Outdoors cats kill small birds (estimated over 3.7 billion birds per year) and reptiles and impact the ecosystem around them, in some areas destroying the population of endangered species. There are multiple studies and articles about this, cats hunt and kill even when they're well fed. It should be fucking illegal to let your cat out without supervision.
No. 518730
>>518719You seem to love using "more likely" as an excuse, but "more likely" suggests you're aware there IS a risk of these things happening to your cat. Why take that risk when cats don't actually need to go outside?
>>518720You sound like a fucking hillbilly. Of course you'd be in favor of outdoor cats.
No. 518733
>>518723NTA but it is bizarre that you think having an outdoor cat is what the OWNER wants. It's an inconvenience for owners but it's what the fucking cats want, they are the ones who are 'hellbent' on getting out. They sit crying at the door/window, stare at the garden all day and take any chance they get to try and escape. Do you live in an apartment where you cat doesn't even know the outdoors exists? I tried to have an inside cat and it kept VIGIL at the door until it was allowed out regularly. And what kind of cat wants to be put on a leash? They hate that shit.
Like, the arguments against outside cats are legit and reasonable, it is far from ideal. But the reality is, being indoors or going on 'walks' makes cats miserable and they fight it. And eventually you stop panicking about your cat being hit by a car or whatever when all they wanna do is lie around in your garden or on a patio chair 12 hours a day.
No. 518735
>>518730>but "more likely" suggests you're aware there IS a risk of these things happening to your cat. Of course I'm aware of the risks of disease but you are seemingly not aware of how a cat functions on a basic level as evidenced by your pants on head retarded question asking if a car would be afraid of a cat just to prove some inane point about the possibility of roadkill
>Why take that risk when cats don't actually need to go outside? Because it does have a need to explore something other than the confines of my house and I allow it because I don't like seeing it stressed out
No. 518738
>>518736They do care, at least
abusive men would rather have an unemployed uneducated weak girl which they can control and manipulate. It's a good filter.
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Just found out Abe decided to shut down all schools starting Monday until the end of spring break, so almost a month! Nooooooooooooooooooo
No. 518748
>>518741>Foxes pose little danger to cats. But, like any other dog, foxes will chase cats. Generally, though, when faced with the claws and teeth of a cat, foxes will back away, knowing they will probably suffer a serious injury in any fight>It’s possible but very unlikely. A typical urban fox home range can be also occupied by upwards of 100 cats, and most of these are out at night. Foxes and cats meet many times every night, and invariably ignore each other. When a fight does break out, it’s often the fox that comes off worse in the encounter.>The chances of a fox for attacking a healthy adult cat are very rare. The reason behind this is the sharp claws of a cat and its pointed teeth which generally are enough to scare a fox away.>Cats are not scared of foxes because generally, the size of an adult cat is enough to defend itself against a fox.>On average only 3 in every 10,000 cats are believed to be involved in fox fights per year.>A search of VetCompass clinical data identified 79 (5 in 10,000 cats) confirmed and 130 (9 in 10,000 cats) suspected fox fights with cats from 145,808 VetCompass cats since Jan 1st 2010 until last week (14 in 10,000 overall).not gonna bother sourcing this shit because you can google it yourself
No. 518754
>>518749Also samefag but I'm not stuck on it I just wanted to drill into your head how much more likely it was since you wanted to compare it to a cat being ran over which is very much more likely than it being attacked by a fox and which I consider a real threat but thankfully I don't live in a densely populated area with abysmal infrastructure, I haven't ignored the other threats because I went over this yesterday
Not that there's much to expect from someone who calls someone who treats a cat right a hillbilly as if farm cats haven't been a thing since ancient egypt
No. 518767
>>518761you said
>learn how to care for an indoor cat properly so it won't be stressed out?I'm sorry it wasn't clear to me that you understood I had an outdoors cat from this.
>learn how to care for your cat as an indoor cat INSTEAD of letting it go outside unsupervised it wouldn't be stressed out by being confined to your living space.I'm a slave to my cats wishes.
>Also, outdoor cats can become indoor cats, but I guess that's too much work for youThat's usually what happens when they get up in age but I guess you wouldn't know about that because yours is stuck inside all day everyday
No. 518771
>>518767Hello animal abuser.
I hope you wholehearthly support fur industry and ritual animal killing. You have to support those or you are massive hypocrite, you are single-handed responsible for dozens of thousdands animals being skinned alive or tormented while crawling around with their guts dragging behind them. You LOVE to abuse animals and you spend time praising animal abuse and convincing other people to join you.
Just remember to follow your cat and pick up blooded cracasses it's leaving in its wake, because other people do not like to see birds and mammals in a pool of blood and intestines first thing they leave a house in the morning. Also disinfect your invasive species, they love to play with guts of their
victims, their paws are covered with salmonella and serious parasites. Did you know they're catching brain tapeworm from foxes and spreading it on people? Hopefully you will get infected and not little kids in neighbourhood playing on a backyard covered in your cat's piss and feces. Hopefully your cat will kill litters of stray cats and curb their population, male cats do it quite often. Be careful tho, they eat them sometimes and are infected by diseases.
ib4 "just attach bell" No, collars with bell do not prevent your cat from killing animals. It allarms only a percentage of birds, and many of those birds are either too young to escape or will chose to stay and try to protect their young. Same with mammals, newborn squirrels won't escape.
No, outdoor cats are not a good natural vermin controll.
There NO excuse to let your cat outdoors. Absolutelly none. Hopefully goverments in more countries will ban outdoor cats and heavily controll population of strays.
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>>518767My cat isn't "stuck" inside all day, she's safe and content inside all day. I really hope your cat actually gets the chance to grow old. I just don't understand how one can justify putting a beloved pet in harms way. If neither the health risks nor the environmental impact will deter you from keeping your cat outdoors unsupervised there's nothing I can say that will change your mind.
No. 518775
>>518771I feel like this a massive over reaction but I get what you're trying to say. I am sick to death of having to clean up bird and small animal carcasses off my driveway and back garden because someone can't be fucking bothered keeping their cat indoors. I've often thought of collecting them all up and posting them through the letter boxes of the owners houses, along with the mounds of turds I have to pick up to stop it ruining my garden/crops and avoid tracking it into the house.
I'm sick of free-roaming cat owners doing the bare minimum to look after their pet, basically doing all of the 'nice' things like cuddling it, feeding it and giving it somewhere to stay, whereas people like myself are forever picking up after it, whether that be the animals they've killed or shit. I get just as angry at people who let their dogs shit outside without picking it up too, except these dogs aren't coming onto my property, ruining it and getting away with it. I like house cats and think they can be quite cute, but the ones that strut around in my garden and on my car need to fuck right off.
No. 518781
>>518771Now this could be considered the post of a schizophrenic.
>>518774It's been said before in here but it stays inside most of the time because like you said they're not very high-maintenance, you let them out for like 3-6 hours so they can get antagonized up into trees by crows and magpies, chase bugs, avoid cars, hustle food from strangers, attack foxes, shit in your yard and mark their territory and then it comes back for some sweet leisure time
No. 518788
>>518786Whatever, won't get my money back anyways.
Guess I have to enjoy drinking and getting chinko then
No. 518799
>>518791>people stuck in infected areasMfw I have nothing to lose in life, being stuck in tokyo wouldn't be so bad
>>518792based
No. 518818
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>>518814>people are just too attracted to disastersTHIS
No. 518856
>>518619Gosh that is so embarrassing and cringy, I can't wait till this kpop trend is over.
>korean obsession gets a passYeah its weird, maybe it's because a lot of money is made off koreaboos?
No. 518866
>>518740>You just need to read a few relationship thread to notice a lot of our resident NEET are in healthy relationships. Things aren't so black and white.I hate how so many people here think we need to feel sorry for all NEETs even though their relationships are fine and they're being provided for
>>518736>Don't go thinking being self sufficient and accomplished will bring you a bf because I guarantee 99% of men don't care.Totally agree. That's why I kinda hate doing my degree because there's so many women who are getting more money doing nothing. Wish I was more attractive and/or had lower standards.
>>518738>They do care, at least abusive men would rather have an unemployed uneducated weak girl which they can control and manipulate. It's a good filter.Sounds like cope
No. 518885
>>518740Lately the relationship advice thread has its share of NEETs that are staying in shitty relationships because they have no job and also one that's broken up with the guy and is still stuck awkwardly living with him cos she's unemployed.
Having no income of your own doesn't make for a healthy power dynamic.
No. 518901
>>518866>>518894>>518896Unfortunately there's not a lot you can do ladies.
Abusive men gonna abuse no matter what you have or have not.
When I was a teenager and had nothing, I had men groom and try to control me. Now that I'm an adult who's got her shit relatively together and would love a genuine relationship, I now attract men who see that they can get something outta me and want to take advantage because they think I'm gonna hand over half my paycheck and then do all the domestic and emotional labor myself.
Always be prepared to walk. That's all I got to say…
No. 518998
>>518985This was also pretty commonplace where I grew up. Can’t speak for everyone, but for me it was definitely a mix of dumb youth, inexperience, and insecurity. Getting compliments from older men made me feel special. They’d always compliment my maturity, “wow you’re not like other girls your age,” etc. I was naive and didn’t realize they were preying on my inexperience. Some older men are so convincing, especially when you’re too young to really know better. It’s easier to fall
victim to romantic manipulation tactics when you’re a teenager.
No. 519000
>>518993She's been manipulated. An adult man has repeatedly told her that what they share is a true and everlasting love. He's turned her against anyone who wants to protect her by saying that they're jealous/wish they had that kind of love/just don't understand such a deep and complex relationship. Before you know it he's telling her to run away from home and stay with him so he can "care for" her.
That's it.
No. 519004
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I don't know why I did this to myself but I invited a friend over for the night because I currently have the apartment to myself. I work tomorrow, why did I do this to myself knowing she's a friend I can only handle in small doses?!
I was trying to make the best of it, she was doing her whole inconsiderate/aloof/obnoxious schtick. I put on a true crime-esque series for us to watch on Netflix but we had a brief exchange of small talk after commenting to her what a relief it was to have the place to myself. I said how my dad was going through a midlife crisis while taking his life frustrations out on me. How the empty space was at least helping me considering everything else bad that happened to me recently BUT THEN SHE INTERUPTS ME MID SENTENCE TO TALK ABOUT A FUCKBOY WHO BY ALL ACCOUNTS SHE SHOULD BE OVER SINCE HE STABBED HER IN THE BACK AND DEFRIENDED US MONTHS AGO!
Oh she saw him serving at the Starbucks so teehee the woman he picked over her must not be sugaring him so well. It's baseless first of all, and second of all it just proves she's still so desperate and obsessed with the loser. We ALL told her how this guy was a slime shit who was never going to commit to her, like they never called each other bf/gf even. She tried to play it cool at first. Like she justified him sexually using her by saying she was moving soon anyway, but later she wanted more with him as she grew attached and obviously he gave her every excuse why not. He just liked her cause she put out, never made demands, and acted like a coolgirl to fluff his narcissist ego. He used her as a homebase but went to fuck around non-exclusively while she remained loyal. Ugh, the way she talks about every little interaction and detail you'd think they were dating and in love for years. This whole situationship barely lasted a year and only ended when he cut her off for the other woman who apparently has clout. Ugh, and the way she insults the other woman's looks because she's seething jealous is so despicable and makes her sound conceited af. She never jabs his looks even though he's pretty dorky, only the woman who never did shit to her and probably doesn't even know her name.
Not that I cared, but she told me how their interaction at the Starbucks went. Pure cringe. She showed me her 'monotone stoic' reply she gave to him after he asked how she was, but she's too retarded to realize she came off as emotionally bothered and combative. She's so transparent when she's upset normally as well.
He used a fuckboy trick on her: He asked her if she'd told anyone about their situation because apparently one of us had contacted the other woman to bitch her out. Obviously, this never happened but the fuckboy's objective is to try to gauge how obsessed his target still is for him by getting her to confess who she gossips to about him. She proudly said that she replied she's only told me and another friend so his new chick must be a liar. It's like…honey no, you should have said how you haven't told anyone because he isn't worth the mention. Now he knows how much he occupies your mind, and how jealous you are that he didn't pick you. He lied and you took the bait.
She is so fucking delusional that when I pointed out this fuckboy tactic she played it down and went about her rambling. And to reiterate, none of this is fucking serious and worth interrupting me as I'm trying to tell her how my life is in shambles at the moment!
No. 519041
>>518909If I were you I would not even give them 1s of your thoughts. They have their tits all over IG and Youtube since sex sells and that's all they care about.
They are "performers" making money off of dumb incels.
No. 519059
>>518914>>518918>>518922Ouch. Some of the meanest comments i've had posting here. I mean we both agreed to not dating, and I said if he was going/wanted to date this wasn't going to be any kind of break where we would just distance and work on ourselves, but a full on end with no reconciliation, and he was on board with that.
If it was the end end, yes I'd still be annoyed since it was so soon but since we talked about it his actions just oozed apathy and disregard to what we were working on.
Well either way it turns out I have boundaries and that was it, there's no hope and I won't be in his business anymore.
I'm just sad because I tried my best.
No. 519068
>>519055I wish mine was writing a paper
Prof just posted on wends that we have a test due friday (today) done at the testing facility. Though may give till next wends to get it done. I was expecting some easier workload to be due not an entire EXAM! I fell behind last week so I wanted to go over concepts this week in practice. This is the highest level of math ive reached no one can help me outside actual math professors rn since everyone I know didnt get to this level fuck
Lord save me I'm just not ready
No. 519081
>>519059You broke up. You didn't secure a job or place to live before making this decision, which makes me believe your suggestion to have a "No dating"-rule was actually mostly about keeping your ex from moving on and realizing he doesn't have to provide for you anymore. If you genuinely wanted to work on your relationship you would have done so while still being a couple. Also, taking a break to give each other space and re-evaluate is a fool's errand if you're still living together.
What would you have done if he'd said he wanted a full on break up with no reconciliation? Was this re-evaluation period something he could realistically decline when he knows you're financially dependent on him?
No. 519086
>>519004>Ugh, and the way she insults the other woman's looks because she's seething jealous is so despicable and makes her sound conceited af. She never jabs his looks even though he's pretty dorky, only the woman who never did shit to her and probably doesn't even know her name. This brand of
toxic behavior is way too normalized among women and seriously needs to be called out more.
No. 519155
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It's been a month now but I don't like living with room mates (or house mates? idk). I'm lucky mine are adorable, none of them smoke, are disgusting or noisy and we're all young women but I don't feel comfortable going to the toilet and knowing that one of them could hear me taking a shit.
No. 519166
>>519156Same anon, but I only ever watch documentaries, certain youtube channels and listen to audiobooks, I'm too dumb to ever read a book but my peers think of me like I'm this historical bookworm who spends of thier time reading,
have you ever listened to the stuff by will ane ariel durant by chance ?
No. 519199
>>519196ntayrt but yeah actually. maybe small studying for some courses and one bigger one for another
>>519080i second this
No. 519239
>>519166no i haven't! is it worth checking out? and is it on youtube or smth like that?
>>519193very glad that we all have the same passion for history anons!
No. 519241
>>519223I did half of the things on that list and my life is absolutely fine. It's sad that you're unhappy with where your life is at but people thinking women are worthless for having a few sexual partners or daring to get tattoos is retarded. You can have sex and tattoos and not be failing at life.
You sound depressed though so I think you're seeing life through that depression filter.
No. 519244
>>519223>my life turned out to be like the MRAs said >btw I'm getting married and my spouse is supporting me since I'm in the low paid job plus up to my gills in debt Lmao sis, fucking what?
An MRA says you're supposed to wind up a lonely cat lady not out of choice. Wake the fuck up, EVERYONE HAS DEBT! Everyone has baggage. Everyone has shit they regret.
You don't fit the bill to be so self loathing given your present circumstances, sorry.
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>>519242i'd appreciate that so incredibly much anon, i cannot thank you enough! if you end up creating one then feel free to infodump on it all you want, i'm pretty sure you have so many interesting things to share. i also wish i was a history student like you and not stuck in an office job 24/7 lol
No. 519312
>>519302Why does this girl have so many friends leave her? What does your other friend say about having friends-dumped her? Maybe you just don't click with her, maybe she's fully
toxic and insane and you need to get away. Either way you can spend your time with or without whomever you like.
No. 519316
>>519312The first few friends who aren’t friends with her were my friends that I cut out of my life in solidarity to her. At the time I truly believed they were terrible people because they were slowly distancing themselves from her and not giving her any explanation no matter how many times she tried to talk to them to pull their weight in the friendship. Now I sort of get why they did what they did. A lot of the friendships ended on a sour note for more specific reasons per person (straws that broke the camels back), but the latest person to friend dump her even took me by surprise. I considered talking to this person about it, but I don’t know how she views me since she knows that I’m very close with our friend and didn’t want to make her feel like I was coming at her for it or I was just trying to scope out info to send back to our friend behind her back.
She has a lot of other friends too, but it feels like she thinks drifting apart from people is a crime against humanity and MUST maintain contact with everyone, ESPECIALLY best friends. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but it’s just that fine line of “do I give in to her needs and does that make me a doormat? or do I stand my ground and does that make me selfish?” I went with the latter and felt bad about it, but I have other friends who I can reach compromises with just fine so I think it’s just a matter of not meshing as well as we used to.
No. 519320
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There’s so much to legitimately hate about my dad but most of my anger right now is because every fucking day when I come home, the ENTIRE house smells like his farts. It’s this potent, moist fog of fart that just penetrates literally every room in the house. Thankfully I can avoid it sleeping into my room if I keep the door shut, but even if I leave the door just cracked I can start to smell it. This shit lingers for hours and he gets mad if I leave open windows, because of course. I’ve told my mom and she just says I have to suck it up because if I call him out it’ll just hurt his fucking ego and he’ll scream at me.
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My “boss” (I use the term lightly) chimping out b/c I decided to deactivated my Instagram for a week for a mental health break (partially so I can better concentrate on an event we are doing) during a job she contracted. I’m assuming she wanted to tag me in some random post and realized she couldn’t and that was how she decided it she wants to be mad at me(she knew I was deactivated already for like 4 days and didn’t say anything). Lmao this is the person who told me to meet her in front of her storefront at the 10pm downtown, wasnt there when I got there, never did get there or text me to cancel, then never apologized the next day or ever. well I’m only obligated to work with her till end of March but I’m really pessimistic about how this is going to go, I have never in my life worked with someone so disorganized with so little insight. Wish me luck farmers
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my therapist told me i have a bunch of pent up anger from PTSD bullshit and i didnt believe her until now. i'm always mad (especially at men lol) but i repress it for weeks until it's so much that i self harm or blow up. i rarely take it out on others but i get so fucking cruel and take lowblows when i do and i hate it… literally like i become the anger itself and i can't hold back from tearing myself or whoever annoyed me down. i can feel my wheels turning to figure out what they fear hearing most and i just have at it.
it's embarrassing as hell, i need to learn anger management now that i've processed the trauma and stuff. from abused to abuser, i don't want it to keep going
No. 519396
>>519393Its gonna be hard not talk to him.
He's just started acting that way recently .
I just wish i wasn't so attached.
No. 519401
>>519396I had an obviously shit relationship where a man did this to me MULTIPLE times. He literally tried to purposely get you pregnant what the fuck. When this fucker did it to me he said it's because I didn't need to go to school anymore.
Anon please avoid this sicko, what more is he capable of really?
No. 519406
>>519401Well I cant completely disregard him as bad (even then i know its dumb of me to defend him) I'm just going to keep distance. It just sucks the way it was. everything about it was just wrong. such a long time being chill and all and not really hurting one another and you know being i guess close. but then he decides to do that………now i get why his ex left him maybe he's a different person when it comes to more personal relations. but it just sucks to end with a realization like this anon. but thanks.
als I'm glad you are away from that guy he sounds like those misogynist losers that are abundant from where i am from. I hate the idea that we can't have the option to do what we want after getting pregnant according to men. Its just so stupid.
No. 519419
>>519233>stupidest post on lolcow>instantly confuses conservatism with being right-wingSpot the American
>>519237>>519244>>519241Thanks for all responding to me to essentially tell me I can't feel the way I feel about my own life. There's obviously reasons why these things are relevant, but okay. Hope you expect the same energy if you ever express negative feelings out of sheer desperation.
No. 519440
>>519433>I’m scared I’ll end up losing everything and being like 28 with no hope of having kids soonBecause everyone's a hopeless spinster by 28. What business do you have with kids right now? They should be the last thing on your mind as you have no job and no stable living situation. It isn't about when you want to have them, it's about when it's best for you to have them if at all.
Btw your new boy toy even under the best of circumstances would probably come to resent you for wanting to be married with kids because you'd be bogging him down from his chance to be famous.
You really should have stayed with your milquetoast ex if you feel you've got an expiration date to start a family. Dumb move.
No. 519445
>>519433Does your boyfriend know you want a stable life and family? If you really do have a lot in common, and he loves you, he'll buckle down and find a way to make it all work. If not, you're just wasting your time.
It sounds like you know the real answer already, and it sucks, but you're young enough to get away with mistakes. The sooner you dip, the better. Both guys sound bad, anyway.
Find a young, attractive man who might not have the best job, but is actually getting there, or at least living comfortably, who loves animals and children, has a good heart, and also wants a family one day.
Also, make sure he can support you long-term. This "I'm okay with going 50/50" logic is exactly what got you into this mess with a guy with no life stability.
Smart women don't actually date those guys, they just occasionally enjoy their company. The quote "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife" applies to men, too, but we have way more to lose if we take male hoes seriously.
No. 519449
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A friend of mine is a huge Trump supporter. She is also very scared of the coronavirus and basically did some prep and followed a bunch of info pages for it on social media. Yet now Trump is now saying the virus is some Democrat exaggeration for liberal nerds and I'm just laughing that finally he's attacked her interests in a way she can't deny. I wonder if she'll still cup the balls while she sucks his dick.
No. 519461
>>519428Honestly yeah it feels that way……I have to ditch him because i feel he understands better than anyone just how fucking pathetic I am. and uses that to his advantage instead of caring or just being there …..he pushes for things just to see how far he can get with hurting me it seems. I think I'am glad we dont live close to each other anymore…..It will make it easier.
>>519432funny that you say he'll ghost me….he has a tattoo of one as if that wasn't enough warning .
No. 519495
>>519489She doesn't put effort into her appearance and is sexually a very "visual" person. Which seems minor but is the biggest difference between her and my previous afab partners in that department, she has the male gaze when it comes to people's bodies. She also has no feminine hobbies, which is something I would be fine with on a cisgirl of course but because she doesn't put effort into her looks it's the combination of factors that makes it more difficult.
She does have feminine characteristics, she's very nurturing and caring and empathetic and has feminine mannerisms, but it's out contrasted by certain parts of her personality like the male gaze, her lack of effort into her appearance, and crassness. I wonder if a lot of my problem with this is internalized misogyny as well, because I know ciswomen can have these characteristics but it doesn't change my feelings about them.
She also doesn't work on her voice which is a major aspect because this means at her worst when she isn't trying at all there isn't much externally feminine about her.
No. 519503
>>519495This is the kind of stuff that gives me dysphoria. Relating to this type of person.
Ignore my post anyway.
No. 519514
>>519509I really love her as well, she means the world to me so I wouldn't end the relationship over nonsense like this. It's just dealing with the guilt of knowing I don't entirely see her as a woman when I know it pains her when people don't see her as one.
I've tried to tell her before I find her more attractive when she puts efforts in as a form of encouragement, and I tried to help her, I picked out clothes for her and attempted to do the best I could do to be a good influence about it but she was just so unreceptive I wound up mostly giving up. I even looked up voicetraining guides and tried to help her do it a little because I thought it would make her more comfortable with herself.
She's such a beautiful person and I deeply enjoy being around her, I can't spend to anyone as freely as I can speak to her and we share many mutual interests, so I think it's worth dealing with these struggles for the sake of loving her, but I can't shake off the feeling that I'm inherently bad for sometimes being unable to fully rationalize her as a woman.
It came up most recently because I wasn't comfortable adding her to a server with my female friends while I was comfortable adding a close friend of mine who was also mtf because she wouldn't fit in and I couldn't see it as morally correct to add someone who has the male gaze about female attractiveness to a server where girls post pictures of their bodies.
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i only come back to lc when my mental health is in decline, so lol hi
No. 519517
>>519514may i ask if she's ever planning on transitioning? or is she planning on staying like that forever aka male presenting? if it's the latter then she really has no right to get all upset or offended when people tend to misgender her or be rude to her because she kinda comes off as someone scrote or someone like jessica yaniv who is using their "transness" as an excuse to be a creep/fetish or something like that.
i wish both of you best luck though, i am glad you are happy with her (even if it's difficult right now).
No. 519518
>>519514>blaming yourself for not being able to self-brainwash into thinking blue is red, 2 + 2 = 4, pigs fly, etcAnon, trying to force this will just hurt you. The best you can do is outwardly pretend so your partner can feel comfortable, but don't self-flagellate just because you notice the reality of things. That simply can't be helped, and from what you've said, he doesn't have much interest in trying to pass.
It sucks for him that he wasn't born female, and it sucks that he has something in his brain that makes him feel wrong in his body, but that's all it is. Something in the brain that has to be coped with to live comfortably. It's not some intangible reality we all need to switch over to and accept if we truly have good hearts. If your partner is as kind and empathetic as you say, he knows this, and appreciates you for trying, and even respecting his preferred pronouns in an anonymous space.
Love is making sure that he knows you love and accept him regardless, not trying to break your own brain.
No. 519524
>>519517She boymodes but is out to our friend circle,and mostly expresses sorrow at our friends not viewing her as a girl. Sorry if that came across incorrectly, it's not strangers,it's moreso people in our friend group and she normally doesn't get mad at them to their face over it, she just gets depressed and insulted because she knows they don't see her as a woman even when some of them are trans themselves. She hates fetishistic people more than anything, I don't think it's as much as a fetish and more she doesn't want to girlmode unless she efficiently was able to pass to the majority of people, which at the moment she can't even when presenting and she would require surgery to do so which she can't currently afford. Which is understandable to me, she's afraid of being associated with people like Jessica Yaniv and other people who insist on being treated as women in every walk of life. But I don't think it's healthy for her to not even want to try in her own apartment or among people she's comfortable with, she's currently NEETing so I don't think there's any reason for her to not try girlmoding at home.
Sorry if I seem inconsiderate, just sometimes I get fed up with the contradictions in the situation.
>>519518This actually helped me feel a tad better even if it was brutal. I suppose society acts as if it isn't a mindbreak.
No. 519527
>>519519Lol how many cats have you put in a harness and walked like a dog? I have never seen someone do this succesfully IN MY LIFE. A cat thrashes, jerks, and bolts when it wants to get away from a stimulus and it will kill itself trying even if you did manage to get it to peacefully walk about in the harness the slightest provocation will have it breaking its limbs and choking itself.
I keep my cat indoors period because I dont want it to be lost or run over but I tried to walk a previous cat who longed to be outdoors and I wound up having to cut her out of the harness with how irrevocably she twisted and turned herself up in it not 2 feet from my door. I dont know why you are so passionately screaming cats can be walked I'm going to bet you've never witnessed it either
No. 519567
>>519527>I'm going to bet you've never witnessed it eitherI own 4 cats, all of which are harness trained. 3 from kitten, 1 from adult. Inspired, in fact, by my neighbor that I saw walking his cat down our lane. It's really not that hard, it's a matter of patience and effort.
I bet you put the harness on for the first or second time and tried to take him right outside. Its gradual, like a few months of introducing the harness/maybe walking in the house, but 1000% possible. My cats love it and never has it "broken its limbs" or "thrashed and tried to bolt" because I trained them correctly.
My neighbors cat loves it just as much if not more, they take daily walks and his cat is the most precious thing I've ever seen. She leads him and they just meander the street while she plays with leaves and stuff. She looks up at him every so often like she's asking where to go or if it's okay. She's such a darling lol
>I dont know why you are so passionately screamingThat's ironic considering you replied to a vent of 3 whole short sentences with a novel..
No. 519577
>>519514>It's just dealing with the guilt of knowing I don't entirely see her as a woman when I know it pains her when people don't see her as one.Hate to go all reeeee transppl on here but your partner is very much a man. Feminine mannerism/looks/body parts will only soften his dysphoria but never truly make him a woman.
It's up to you whether you want to view him as a woman, but he'll never be one and you don't have guilttrip yourself for not accomplishing seeing him as something he is not, even more so when he makes little effort in presenting female.
No. 519579
>>519524This really isn’t the place. This unironically boymode/girlmode shit chips away at my lifespan. Your whole issue is your SO has brain damage and just wants to be called a girl and have the magical girl pass. And forcing you to play along.
>imagine thinking being nurturing and empathetic and having faggot mannerism is female-only thing Meanwhile being a depressed emotional vampire NEET, objectifying others, being hypocritical cumbrain, subjecting you to mental anguish all the way in typical pathological male manner. Not being into shoujo anime and hand embroidery is the least of your SO’s problems. Maybe try a subreddit for women in relationship with mtf instead because truly, no one GC can relate here.
No. 519594
>>519524>>519514>>519495>>519483>why am I unable to fully embrace this male presenting male that has autogynephilia as a legit woman Please get over it, send your 'girlfriend' whose dick gets hard when creeping on their 'fellow girls' to therapy (do therapists that do not buy into transition bs even exist nowadays?) or breakup with them.
Vid related is literally you and you are not being tortured into accepting nonsense as reality.
No. 519603
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I hate how my dad is ashamed of having us (I'm the only daughter)
He kept ranting about how we are more like our mother because accordingly to him,she is selfish, inconsiderate and dumb like her (which is false) that he regrets marrying her and regrets listening to my grandma about taking her across the border,he wishes that she would have stayed back in her homeland and married an ugly man instead.hes so pissed off that none of us support him financially I have given him money brfore but he is still an ingrate not my fault my older brother doesn't know how to manage money.he is also threatening my mother with kicking her.shit like this makes me wish I was a millionaire so I could stay away from my shitty dysfunctional family forever
No. 519620
I didn't understand why people compared femcels and incels until I actually interacted with some femcels outside Reddit. They are aggravating, and I'm realizing I'm not as similar to them as I once thought.
It's so bad I'm starting to believe that your DNA can turn you into a shitty person. Let me explain why.
I'm not going to name the specific group I've seen this with, but the ones of the American variety seem to have some sort of psychosis that renders them bitter and tryhard all the time. I only see it with the American ones. It's like they can't even help it. They are obsessed with hierarchies to the point of mouth-frothing madness, they ooze insecurity from every pore, and they're generally just embarrassing. They're painfully envious of other women, to the point that it blinds them.
The worst part is, I'm pretty sure they're just ugly, and that causes roughly 50% of their social problems. They try to make that into a woke sexual, racial, class, etc issue instead of a personal one, and it's shameful. You can tell that's the case, too, because most of their complaints have to do with other women being perceived as better than them, or men disliking ugly wmen. It's not even pink pill or misandry at this point. They don't care about what women actually go through, and they only pretend not to like men because they're upset about not being the first choice. They're just failed Stacies.
No. 519645
>>519632Same anon, the people I thought were femcels in highschool I later learnt were fucking wild and dirty bitches. I find it very hard to believe there are women out there trying to get laid but can't, especially if they act like pickmes?
There's one girl at college I can think of that might not have much luck but she strikes me as a sexual idk
No. 519698
>>519440Sorry if it wasn’t clear but I do have a job myself. How else would I have paid for food and my shopping sprees as I said? And I do have a stable place to live. Just it’s really small. My boyfriend does completely know how I feel about having a family. We talked about it pretty early on. He actually told me first that he only wants to date me/anybody if they see a future in marriage. And he wants 2 kids as well. My fear about ending up like almost 30 and childless and husbandless is like if I date this guy few years but we break up. Then I’m pretty fucked, whereas if I stayed with my husband yeah there’d be no passion or love but it was pretty comfortable in terms of finances and the fact I doubt he ever would have broken up with me or cheated. So my whole “nice house where I can cook and garden and have kids in the future” thing would have been guaranteed.
One thing I should mention that really put resentment and doubt into my mind about my husband. I snooped on his phone once and found his search history. He had searched for child porn. Just on google or safari or whatever so I doubt he found anything but he searched stuff like “naked 12 year old girl” or something. And a few other searches. I think beastiality too. i kinda resent him because as I’ve said a million times I want kids but I would have been scared to have kids with him. I could never leave him alone with them.
No. 519712
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I'm venting about an ex friend. I know I shouldn't care about her anymore but I guess I have a slight hate boner for her still. In our school there was kind of a social hierarchy where everyone bullied each other. I was bullied so I bullied others including this friend, and they bullied others, etc. Anyways I hated my friend but I didn't want to be alone so I just accepted that she was my only friend. We would fight a lot because deep down I was sick of her. She was a massive condescending bitch who only cared about herself. She would never back me up when I got bullied, while I basically fought her battles for her because I really did care for her at one point. When I asked why she never helped me she just said she didn't want to get involved or get on their bad side. Nobody at our school liked her because she thought she was superior to everyone else, and acted like a straight up cunt. She stepped on others all the time to get what she wanted but when they stood up for themselves she cried. Every single time. A new student ended up transferring in and we became friends instantly. She hated my friend just as much but we could never fully ditch her because we felt bad. Nowadays she goes on social media to vent about how much she was bullied and ostracized by everyone because they were big meanies. She acts like she did absolutely no wrong and constantly victimizes herself. I know I'm no angel either, but I also don't say I'm a complete victim who only deserves good in the world. I wish I could stop caring about this delusional bitch but the more I think about the fucked up shit she did the angrier I get.
No. 519727
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>new girl at party in friend circle
>keeps going on about her 4chan usage and trying hard to be edgy and cool
Kinda weird seeing this from someone in an older age bracket, honestly.
No. 519756
>>519747I don't think they're hateful of women who didn't insult them in the first place.
IME, I was insulted by people in my life very early in life and I turned against them later, but I don't hold grudges against randos.
You never know, maybe those people did something to them.
No. 519767
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I have a new neighbor downstairs in my apartment building who has been smoking nonstop all day every two fucking hours for 3 days straight. It's so fucking GROSS and against the rules of the building to do it and I'm so angry and bummed that this is now a regular thing. I can't complain because sometimes I sneak a joint on the porch which is obviously also against the rules. It's so gross though fuck it's making my stomach churn and making my allergies flare up. I just renewed my lease for another 12 months and this guy is a new tenant. Yay. So glad I chained myself to this shithole where I get to enjoy the stench of cancer every two hours.
No. 519774
>>519761You're putting that imaginary relationship on a pedestal while assuming it would have turned out for the best.
Guys who get rich quickly tend to get rid of the things that remind them of their humble roots. How do you know he wouldn't have ditched you for an upgraded woman in his eyes when he got the money?
What if mister multinaire still acted low value and got you something crummy for your bday despite having the means to do better?
I'm trying not to laugh because I know you're hurt anon and you think you've missed out, but I can tell you haven't exactly interacted with a lot of rich dudes with money if you think they actually carry over love or date women below their socioeconomic class. Unless you're trophy wife hot and got rich family, it doesn't really happen. That's fairytale shit.
No. 519777
>>519775I know what it's like to feel this pain, I'm really sorry. A friend once tried to hook me up with the son of some millionaire and he was a low value and entitled menace. He had come onto me at a concert which I took as a green light to try to pursue something romantic with him. He later went behind my back to tell my friends how I made him uncomfortable, while he was secretly fucking me and leading me on. Turned out he had a relationship with some homely girl from out of state who despite all the horror stories about her, he wouldn't give up. She was from a family of billionaires. He was attracted to her money, because this bastard had no education and worked under daddy for peanuts. He once got whiny at me because I told him my shitty hourly pay and he had the audacity to bitch about how his dad didn't pay him as much as me for basically doing an expensive hobby all day that other guys would kill for. Poor him, he lives in a mansion rent-free and has two luxury cars but he doesn't make more than me, a lowly person who did several years of college and retail abloobloo.
I fucking hate them.
No. 519865
>>519860It's like you read the first two sentences of the post and then got too mad to read the rest. The reasons were given and it has nothing to do with hate.
Quit asking your friends for free work.
No. 519867
>>519866She wants me to rewrite it and tailor it for a completely different field. This isn't "Can you sit down with me and help me brainstorm?" or "Hey I've made this can you review it and makes some notes?" She's literally handing me some info and telling me good luck. Do you realize people pay to have this done? Do you realize this is a task most people struggle with in writing their own even though they know themselves best?
You sound like an asshole.
No. 519881
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>hearing my stepdad get defensive and snarled out on the phone by my narcissist mom who's pissed that he might not be compelling me enough to have a relationship with her again since I haven't opened her gifts he brought over, or have broken my no contact despite her provoking me with letters, voicemails, and social media pings
I mean I'm glad she's seething, but she's also too blind to see she's proving my point of why she's toxic and why I shouldn't have a relationship with her.
No. 519903
>>519896I feel you, anon. It sucks when people think they have the answer easily just like that.
I don't even know if I have PCOS because none of the health professionals I've talked to can agree on it or not but I struggled with heavy periods when I was young. I was dizzy, tired or fainted all of time. Could hardly walk up stairs. The pill was a life saviour to control my bleeding so I don't even know if it's worth it to try to live without it.
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I was put on wellbutrin for depression and not only do I have constant headaches but I've been having suicide ideation for a week when I haven't experienced being suicidal for over 3 years. Really love trying to get help and only getting worse. Very cool.
No. 520032
>>519984Same anon. I felt really disgusted and angry. I don't even know how someone can hate a child so much. Apparently the mother suffered traumatic abuse, drug abuse, and has brain damage which can at least explain her psychotic nature. People with brain injuries tend to be more aggressive. But the man? No excuse, he was a security guard and they're known to be domestically violent and love to feel powerful. Had a thing against gay men and got shitty at the boy because he was sweet and not hard.
It especially broke my heart when
they were performing the autopsy and found cat litter in his system, he was starved. No one believed him.
No. 520064
>>520032Fucking sociopaths, I hope the guards and inmates beat their asses after watching series. That bitch showed more emotion at the guards confiscating her makeup than showing remorse over her dead and living children.
As for the cps workers, who’s gonna hire
them after it came to light that they sucked at their jobs and two of them got their licenses back.
No. 520076
>>520038The fact that he has said you aren't his type is totally shitty. The fact that he wants to fuck cartoons is, to me, more laughable than it is bad - but he should respect your boundaries for what bothers you and what doesn't.
That being said anon don't feel challenged by anime characters. No woman looks like that (because they are drawings) and if you judge yourself based off of something THAT far from reality, you'll always feel bad. They're barely approximations of human beings so don't compare yourself. Its almost like saying "I'm not as cute as this puppy!"
Seriously though, saying you aren't my type but I love you regardless is weird, and seems shitty. And drooling over anime girls or whatever is lame AND shitty if you said you feel bad about it.
No. 520085
>>520075It sounds like she's miserable and takes it out on everyone else, but I think you should wait until you're done with school and able to be financially independent. If you already know she's defensive and has mentioned paying for your shit before, she's absolutely gonna use that as leverage to just shut down the conversation.
You could cut the contact down to just pleasantries for now, be busy more, have less time to talk, etc. Steer the conversation to generic small talk. Don't engage in petty bickering.
No. 520088
>>520069>He's really, really fantastic besides that.People who say this ALWAYS have the lowest standards. They consider fantastic the bare minimum "oh he says he loves me" "oh he wants to have sex with me that means he cares!!"
Bitch, if he actually cared about you or your feelings he wouldn't do shit to hurt you. His eyes wouldn't even wander in the first place. Have some god-damn self-respect.
No. 520148
>>520136If you're unsure of your sexuality, remember that there really, truly is nothing wrong with not being attracted to men.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1I6qGAzzibnRJFin_c8U2OBm0588M-V0NmfobQnRii44/edit?usp=sharing Consult this if you think you might be gay.
However, speaking as a bisexual woman who's had a little bit of a weird time with that too, sometimes you're just not into someone, or penetrative sex, or maybe your libido's low or whatever- and that's how it is. Just gotta think about what the beef is and accept it for what it is, if it can't be fixed.
No. 520154
>>519620Having interacted with both I think you're right in that they're very similar in terms of bitterness and self loathing. The main difference I see is femcels are more likely to express their anger through various forms of self harm whereas incels are more likely to lash out at others. But then I guess that's a difference between men and women in general.
You're kinda wrong about their looks though. Most are in the typical 4-7 range which implies that almost all of their problems are in their heads. There are way uglier women that still manage to land good partners because they don't scare off everyone with their aura of black hole energy.
No. 520160
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God I'm so fucking unstable. I almost just cried because I left the milk out for a few hours.
Side note, is lactose-free milk okay to drink after being left out for four hours? Some physics guy on Quora said being out for four hours shaves a day off the milk's shelf life, but I'm not sure.
No. 520163
>>520161>>520162The milk was also unopened, so there's that.
My point was that
I know it's a retarded thing to cry about. I'm pretty sure something's wrong with me if that's all it takes to upset me.
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What I'm about to say is terrible as hell, but… I need to get it off my chest.
So, coronavirus only kills old people. And a certain American news organization is telling their viewers, who are mostly elderly, not to worry about it. They're literally going to kill them with misinformation.
And the worst part? I don't care. I think I might even be glad about it. Yeah, I'm probably going to hell. But this shit? It's a combination of karma and Darwinism, and it's really hard to feel bad about it.
No. 520190
>>520181It's funny how people weren't on an anti-racist virtue signalling crusade like this when Ebola was a thing.
Anyway, your friends are full of it. There is no defense for how China spread this disease, and some of the practices they partake in, even to this day. Hygiene is paramount.
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>>520190Bit of a digression but I think it's interesting both Ebola and this strain of coronavirus came from bats.
Bats are so cute. Why do they have to do this to us.
Honestly maybe bats are going to take over the world. They deserve it more than human do tbh
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>>520195Agreed. Idk how we keep getting their diseases, but whatever it is, it needs to stop. We need to stop trying to develop their habitats, stop trying to take them as pets, and stop trying to eat them.
Why can't humans just enjoy nature without trying to mess with it? Why can't we just let a cool animal exist?
God I'm on my period and I'm just angry about everything. I'm angry that women are being legally sex trafficked because of Germany's retarded law on prostitution. I'm angry that companies are destroying the planet. I'm so fucking angry at the world and I just want to cry. Why is the world so fucked up. Why does a horrible cunt like me get to live comfortably while innocent people are dying, animals are getting poached, and little girls are getting raped in Germany. I hate this world. Sometimes I wonder if I'm in hell, if my eternal punishment is to be forced to watch everyone suffer while there's nothing I can do.
No. 520199
>>520152IS it? I found it getting thrown around on radfem tumblr, albeit with the "ugh trannies" disclaimer- I don't even feel like men can really feel half of this shit though. I can see it anyway, since they love lying to themselves… but jesus.
It does still hold up pretty well from what I've seen, though, I guess you just have to take some parts with a grain of salt. We don't exactly have many comphet resources floating around.
>>520197Oh I fucking feel this so hard. The whole thing with the planet and billions of animals getting destroyed makes me want to actually scream. We have to live here forever and these stupid fucking people are out here KNOWINGLY ruining everything for profit? I hate this so goddamn much. We might all die in like 50 years just because these retards want to make a quick buck. Literally demented.
No. 520212
>>520211Yeah it’s not like a puff up like a frog and die allergy, just a mild itchy vomity kind but fuck..I just feel so totally unimportant and unwelcome. I wish they’d just tell me ‘provide your own meals’ if they don’t want to waste money on food for me.
Sucks that your parents are doing it to you. Wheats in practically everything, must be hard to keep the cupboard stocked with basically nothing and then get left out of dinner.
No. 520213
>>520205No, they’re inconsiderate af and probably couldn’t care less about your feelings because they still have their stomachs full.
I used to watch how my parents arranged dinners and lunches with relatives and close friends and I wasn’t invited while being in the same house kek (I stayed in my bedroom for the whole time)
No. 520220
>>520212Nah I moved out just a bit ago so it mostly lasted a few years from when the allergy started giving me problems-move out.
My only advice is going to the grocery store with whoever so you always have your own food to fall on. Also finding food your family members dont like so it's not gone in less than a week. If they're lazy, food that needs cooking is an easy go to.
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I wish people took part in the true crime thread in /m/ or any of the threads in /m/
No. 520230
>>520227I had the same thing. People literally prefer to write about an anime or a film they've just seen in a random thread in /ot where it gets ignored instead of a dedicated thread in /m where actual discussion could be had.
Even worse that mods didn't close the two dupe True Crime threads in OT. It drives me mad that people are ignoring the best board.
No. 520235
>>520230>People literally prefer to write about an anime or a film they've just seen in a random thread in /ot where it gets ignored I thought I was autistic for thinking this, posts like
>>520137 are always ignored just because people only ever use /ot/
No. 520267
>>520258Honestly it's even easier to deal with because you can just show them what you like once and they'll accept it. While most guys will throw out excuses like "b-but other girls loved x!!" oblivious to the fact that all those girls probably faked their orgasms to save his ego.
I swear the only women who hate virgin men are insecure as fuck and hate communicating what they want. They just want to lie there passively like an onahole
No. 520323
>>520318Do you not know how STIs work?
I mean yeah I guess you could catch something from a virgin if they were also a drug addict or something. Do you think a guy who's had types of sex other than PIV is a virgin? Because that's not a virgin. When I say virgin, I mean
virgin. Are you one of those people who thinks that you can get STIs from a toilet seat?
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I've got a whole bunch of shit going on in my life weighing on my mind and although each thing is pretty minor on its own the fact that they're all coming at once is kinda killing me. There are positive things to look forward to coming up too, but I'm scared that the negatives are gonna outweigh the good or that I'm just gonna fuck up everything for myself and self-sabotage like I always do. But what can you do?
On the bright side I'm finally going to get therapy after years of trying to grit my teeth and "get over it" and I'm really looking forward to making positive progress in my life instead of settling for misery. So there's that, at least. Oh, and Animal Crossing New Horizons, of course.
No. 520344
>>520333Why I should check them anon?
Also, I suffer from fatigue all my life. I just write here to vent because fuck my life.
But thanks for response anonette!
No. 520358
>>516907Ugh stupid fucking reddit.
I'm learning to draw porn and I've been posting it on a subreddit. Usually I get a decent amount of points and comments, both compliments and critiques, but suddenly my last couple posts got like nothing.
Honestly I think it's because I'm not doing a traditional anime style and they're a bunch of weeaboos. All sorts of anime crap gets attention and now suddenly I'm not.
Sorry for being a whiny bitch, it just got me frustrated.
No. 520365
>>520360I mean it is for money eventually, but I'm getting comfortable with posting and feedback. I've never posted anything online otherwise.
But generally I like drawing the nude figure, both tasteful studies and porn
No. 520410
>>520381>>520378most men are bad at sex, virgin or not, but ok femcel.
>>520392i was agreeing with you until
>I don't mind if he watches vanilla porn/hentai tho. No. 520434
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From the documentary trailer. I wanna believe this is true because #justiceforgabriel
No. 520441
>>520374>Today was her first day of work too.Anon, why are you so nervous about your sister complaining? Your post made me feel anxious by just reading it, I can tell how much you judge your sister based in past experiences…phew
Just let her be and decide what's good or not for her, as you said she'll probably get better with time, just because you worked in the same place it doesn't mean she has to be like you or something, those are your expectatives and it's kind of weird tbh
No. 520471
>>520447People think it’s funny because most of their experiences are something like, “Oh, when I was little I woke up to get some water and when I walked by my parents room I heard them having sex!”
What you experienced is definitely not normal and I assume you parents thought, “Oh they won’t remember this”. This kind of situation is made for a therapist to dig into.
No. 520474
>>520440Homie, WA was just the first state to say “fuck you” to the CDC and do their own testing. The virus is all over the country right now, it’s just no one is doing tests.
Also, you’re probably young so it will just make you sick for a few days and you’ll be fine.
No. 520483
>>520447Doing sexual acts in front of your kids is a type of subtle sexual abuse, I think. Since you say your family was otherwise
abusive, this may have been part of it. For most people it's funny because they saw it accidentally and they know their parents didn't mean any harm, so in the future they can look back and laugh. I'm sorry that happened to you.
No. 520512
>>520509Rip anon, there’s really nothing you can do as long as he’s still surrounded by that sort of people
>>520511Anon likes girls with bpd
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>>520434>>520435I believe it too. Here are some screenshots I found. (1/3)
No. 520524
>>5205145% of them are currently cheating.
15% of them have cheated in the past.
25% of them would cheat if they could get away with it.
80% watch porn without shame.
10% watch porn, but feel bad about it.
~10% Never think about other women.
Source: What I think.
No. 520545
I love my dog but I hate dealing with her in the mornings now. She started barking again in the morning, so I’ll get up and give her pats and snuggle with her or see if she wants to play. Usually she’ll accept a little snuggle before she walks away, usually towards the kitchen, so I get up and make her food. She gets really fancy and nice dog food that I know she likes, but recently when I set it down, she just sniffs at it and walks away. If I sit there and wait for her to hopefully eat, she’ll usually have walked back outside of my room to bark again. I try to take her out and she usually gets a bit more excited and I think “oh this must be it” but EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. when I take her outside, I set her down on the ground and her tail always droops and she just sniffs the spot out front before trying to run back in. I got her a coat to help with the winter cold and it seemed to make morning walks better at first, but now she doesn’t want to walk at all? I take her back in when she starts to try getting back in, and then she just sits at home, still doesn’t want cuddles or to play, still doesn’t want to eat. Dog what do you want????
No. 520635
>>520601You're being a pushover and he's taking advantage of it.
>I get I'm not always the best girlfriend…>I fucking hate being the weakest link in my relationships…>I'm trying to do my best but it's really hard…>I can never seem to be a good girlfriend.All examples of terms pickme cuckquean phrases you should never use again.
No. 520645
>>520601Walk away from anyone that uses the silent tretament. It's a way of punishing you but really it's just plain emotionally
abusive and it fixes fucking nothing. He wants you to feel like shit, nice guy!
No. 520667
>>520635>>520645>>520605Yeah, I know ignoring me for this long is immature on his part. We live apart and he works a lot so we usually only have time to see each other much during the weekends. Sometimes my health or other plans with friends I rarely see get in the way so I have to cancel or replan when we meet sometimes which I think he takes personally. My body image and/or health has been really bad lately so we don't have a lot of intamicy either which I feel bad about. He always respects me saying no. So I feel like I can't be mad at him either because he is generally a nice guy. He's doing well in his job and hobbies lately and it just makes me sad that I'm really not doing great at all in almost any aspect of my life. Not contacting me for literal DAYS isn't right though.
Update: an hour ago he texted "supsup" lol.
No. 520688
>>520682He doesn't criticize or berate me though. He gets silently frustrated which I think is understandable but not texting me for this long was not right. If he does something similar again I will call him out. I just hope he realizes that due to my health and the things I've been through in life I will likely always struggle more than him. I'm doing my best to get help and become better but it isn't easy.
He's now told me that he's been stressed at work and his mother had an episode (she has memory issues) on Friday so that along with not seeing me really fucked him up. I still think he could've sent me some short message explaining he was stressed earlier.
No. 520699
>>520688A few mins of googling will show you that berating someone isn't the only way to emotionally abuse someone anon. He certainly sounds
abusive but here you are making excuses for him. Has you twisted around his finger
No. 520707
>>520358I'm probably in the same subreddit as you,what I have seen was ridiculous
Some stupid crappy furry art with their dumb OC done on ms paint gets more than 12 upvotes a few comments
Whilst a flawless beautiful self portrait gets only 3 upvotes and zero comments
Yikes
Supposedly it's a beginner artist subreddit where I am
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It’s stupid to get upset about but I wish my bf posted photos of me to his Instagram. He did it a lot with his ex and those photos are still up. He’s over her (and she doesn’t live anywhere near us) so I’m not worried about that. I just want to be shown off, I’ve never had any bf post photos of me and show me off.
This is stupid bc we are adults and none of this shit should matter to me.
No. 520716
>>520695Most of the guilt I feel in the relationship is my own doing. I have a very low opinion of myself so when I do things to disappoint people close to me I feel even worse. He obviously gets frustrated due to my issues and the relationship not being the best it could be which I think is human.
>>520699I just think he puts me on a bit of a pedestal (in his mind) that I can't always reach since I'm ill.
No. 520718
>>520711I’ve hinted at it but that just makes me feel more stupid. Then he’ll just be doing it because I said so and not because he wants to do it.
He said when he was with his ex he really “lost his identity”, and I just feel like he’s holding back with me. He was way more lovey/affectionate before we were officially together or shortly after. That was a few months ago and Ever since then I feel like he’s gotten a little complacent and I’m the one putting in the effort now.
This always happens with me. I keep a guy at arms length for a really long time, I finally return his feelings and then he pulls away and gets less affectionate. It makes me feel like an idiot. I’m too old to fall for this bullshit.
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>>520748Pretty sure I remember reading your post. Congratulations anon!
No. 520808
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>about to graduate from college in three months
>the first thing every adult in my life asks me is "have you found a job yet?"
>"have you been applying anon? you really need a job. oh you've applied to multiple places in multiple different areas? well try harder. time's running out, you need to find a-"
FUCK OFF! I'm perfectly aware that I need employment, no need to bring it up every time you talk to me! I know everyone gets this nagging from their relatives but god it's getting harder to not tell them to shut up. It wouldn't be as bad if they didn't treat me like I was stupid. Today my grandmother asked me if I knew that I "couldn't wear sweatshirts and jeans to an interview"…what the fuck? I'm fucking 22 and have work experience, of course I know to dress professionally in a professional environment!! I swear to god, they talk to me like I'm retarded. My family also keeps giving the most common sense advice and expect to me to act like they're so wise. I'm sick of the older generations acting like young people are helpless and can't function in society.
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While I'm happy and beyond thankful to start my career, I'm crying every day thinking about how long I'll be without my boyfriend. He has to finish up his semester in our current city while I move in two weeks to another one. Not to be like those "im baby" memes but god do i feel too emotional and in love for my own good. It's odd because I'm super independent but thinking of almost three whole months with only 1 visit per month breaks my heart. I want to give this man all of my love, support and care and have my efforts reciprocated. It doesn't help that I crave physical affection and I feel so at peace around him.
I feel like I'm being a gigantic baby, and that being single would almost be smarter at this point because at least I wouldn't be longing for someone. I can't wait to get my first apartment with him.
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i went to church today for the first time in a decade. i don't think i believe in god, or at least if he exists i don't agree with some christian ideas (e.g. why can people who rape kids go to heaven just because they "repent"? what's the religious justification behind innocents being hurt? etc etc)
but the people were SO DAMN NICE and i have no friends and it felt so nice to connect with people my age in an entirely wholesome way. i feel so conflicted… i don't think my mind can be changed about god and christian morality, but i still want to be around these people. is it wrong to keep going just to hang??? if i take the jesus part out of the sermons some of it was practical advice
i wish i could believe like they do, i really do, but i just can't wave away bad shit happening because of original sin or because it's ~god testing me~. i feel so strange please help
No. 520885
>>520875He really came here a year after all this was over (and after their supposed breakup) to try and convince us she was the one in the wrong when
he posted a photo of her on /r9k/. And then he tries the exact same "you're just emotional", "you are deranged (not me)" shit he probably pulled on his ex. Crazy.
One more reminder to never take pity on mentally ill incels. Also, imagine accusing users here of being "racist" while being an /r9k/ user. I think I remember the ex posting about him making racist comments about black women who don't want to date Indian men, too. The hypocrisy.
No. 520896
>>520891This sounds autistic, but try making lists of things you like and referring back to them.
Listography is a good site for that.
No. 520906
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HOLY SHIT the way this currycel is arguing just gave everyone in this thread flashback to their abusive ex. They truly all speak like the same person.
I hope mods delete all his posts but I also want them archived so women can see what textbook manipulative language to bait you into defending yourself looks like.
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>>520909
No. 520913
>>520908I noticed he never posted any proof of any of his claims, especially not the one that she physically hit him. At the same time, he's arguing that
she has no proof, despite her previously posting multiple screencaps of him being a dick.
He said "I'm done" long ago, but keeps going. And all of this is about shit that happened a year ago. Can you imagine how unbearable he must be IRL, on a daily basis? This is not a sane or trustworthy man. I hope ex-anon stays safe, and I'm glad she's out of this situation.
No. 520927
>>520923Meant family member for some reason I read uncle.
>>520924No, I haven’t l. It’s happened before while i’ve just been at home sleeping and didn’t go out at all or anything. Plus I was with two trusted friends and according to my mom I got home fine and on time again didn’t really seem off or anything according to her just tired. This isn’t the first time it happens just the most “severe”.
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>>520819I wish you good luck anon!
No. 520939
>>516907My saggy boobs annoy me a lot, they've almost never been perky, could be possibly because I was fat and lost weight while I was going through puberty but everytime I see a woman with perky breasts I feel sad and ashamed, even educational illustrations draw boobs that define gravity whereas mine are sagging to the point that I have a prominent collarbone and rib cage on my chest then comes my sagging sack of tits, they're large (38C) full of stretch marks.
I really hate my body but if there is one thing I'm insecure about the most then it is my boobs. fixing them is difficult since it needs lots of money, i could get huge scars as a result and the nipples will look off, I already have large breast size so I don't think I would go the implant/enhancement route plus I'll never have enough money to do either of the plastic surgery options, all I can do is wear push-up bras and feel sad and insecure to the rest of my life
No. 520943
>>520939I feel you. I have saggy tits as well and one of them is even much bigger. I also have stretch marks on them since puberty. I usually avoid beaches and stuff. It's really sad and I can't do anything about it. I am also afraid of surgery not that I have the money for that. lol
I hate it when people say love and accept yourself. I doesn't help at all. How can I ever love myself if there is a part of my body I hate so deeply?
Having saggy tits isn't just about how they look and feeling insecure about them but also it's uncomfortable as hell. It so hard to find a bra that fits.
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Feels surreal and downright fucked up that my abusive dad who ruined my whole ass childhood is just gonna get burned to ashes in a few days. What the fuck. I have had other relatives cremated but somehow this angers me, this asshole will just get to disappear like that? I need therapy, anons.
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No. 521150
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>>521144I always thought the point of meme faces were that they were purposefully exaggerated, does anon think they go about life with their faces stuck this way?
No. 521187
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bought a whole dildo and was so excited for it to come in the mail and it doesn't even feel that good. idk maybe i'm just a dumb virgin. My vibrator does the job quick but I don't wanna kill my clit by vibing it all the time so I wanted to switch things up and it wasn't even worth the (low) price smh.
No. 521208
>>521201I realise how dumb this comes off but I eat a lemon when I'm in those situations. I'll also set aside 10 minutes to just stand in front of a window or outside and take the time to examine my surroundings and let myself be in the moment.
I do get what it's like to be overwhelmed with obligations, but it doesn't make you any more productive to be doing what you're doing AND worry about what you'll need to do. Prioritise, because doing little bits of everything will stress you out and you'll end the day feeling a failure (in my experience). So it might be you acknowledge you can only go to the gym every other day, but at least then your goals will be more achievable and you can go to bed knowing you've accomplished all you set out to do.
No. 521235
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Resident insufferable cunt of the office didn't believe my coworker when he told her how the building wants us to dispose of certain electronics so she made me call building management THREE TIMES and now the building lady is obviously annoyed at me. She decided to use the upstairs kitchen now so she has to walk by my desk every morning to get to it, which means I have to listen to some stupid ass rant (usually some variation of someone on the same subway as her sniffling or some shit) first thing in the morning. I'm so tired of this anons. I'm tired of her buying into the fearmongering, I'm tired of her racist and ignorant remarks (the coronavirus is the latest, but before this it was different stupid shit every week/day). I just wish she would shut the fuck up. I'd tell her to shut the fuck up myself but it's a teeny tiny office and she's HR so I'm just stuck faking a smile and nodding like I actually give a fuck.
No. 521245
>>521135the fuck is wrong with some of yall
>>521239you're the same anon from before sperging about fat and ugly people, aren't you?
No. 521259
>>521245please, you're on lolcow. Every single one of us comes here to sperg about fat and ugly people..
Claiming anons are the same anon from x post is cringy, especially about something so characteristic of literally every poster on this website.
No. 521264
>>521239I’ve seen inane nitpicking but I think context is important too. Especially in cases of cows using excessive shooping, like Mickey Deer and Erin Painter, those bitches are fat with big noses
in direct contrast to their lies online. No one would shit on farmers with those qualities who just mind their own business and not being a lolcow. Same with nasolabial folds and eye bags or whatever.
No. 521334
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Lmao after the big Australian bushfires, the government reluctantly admits months later the $2billion bushfire recovery fund doesn't exist. No help for people and communities to rebuild and get back on their feet.
As well as closing down the only bushfire research center we have.
These fucking huckster piece of shit cunts.
https://twitter.com/FocusNewsNow/status/1235304645943271426?s=19 No. 521419
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I made an order with an online chemist for some numbing cream (emla) to use before plucking out hairs. I got a reply saying they would not be sending the numbing cream as it does not meet the guidelines for usage from the manufacturer. this numbing cream can be used before blood tests and before tattoos where the skin is punctured but not plucking hairs apparently. I'm pissed because I couldn't find this cream in any shop!
can anyone even see why using it for hair plucking would be an issue? the reason I wanted this cream is because I read others use it this way and plucking hairs underneath my nose/above top lip hurts like a bitch
No. 521485
>>521423Fuck that's so true anon. I was one of these people but eventually accepted I was never going to magically get better. Therapy is excruciating, forcing you to confront stuff you do not want to. Im in the middle of it, its dirty, confusing, hard, but I feel like I'm getting better and better…
Just like you say, I don't think its enjoyable but it does help.
No. 521604
>>521187The shape, size, and material makes a huge difference with those kind of things.
It might take a little bit of trial and error to find the right one and right technique to use it.
No. 521680
>>521670Yeah I've probably vented about it before. Like I said it's been happening for months and I feel trapped by politeness because it's such a small town and I'm here for the long run
>>521665Thanks, headphones might be the best non-confrontational option
No. 521692
>>517457Well I had to face her for the first time in a year yesterday. She had to sign something at the bank with me and her ex husband/my stepdad and there was no getting around it.
It was as aggravating as I expected but I managed to grey rock fine despite her pulling every trick in the narcissist handbook. She was very happy to get me as her captive audience and fake being a good mom in public, giddy even. Even if I wanted to react I couldn't without it looking unprovoked and aggressive for no reason, fortunately I was wearing a facemask so at least my mouth expression was disguised as she pushed my buttons. She kept trying to be affectionate and touchy with me which evoked deep feelings of disgust. This is the same
toxic bitch who screamed and yelled at the top of her lungs about how I was a backstabber, a mean daughter, etc. when I stopped taking her shit. Later writing me letters of non-apology and blaming everything she said and did to me on past husbands, my shitty stepdad, and myself. Just goes to show how she wants everything to go back as they were on her terms. She had no tentative caution for my boundaries at all and wanted to cozy up quick to hoover me back in her clutches.
Quite frankly I started to hate the bank fags because they took an unnecessary amount of time to process the request because they didn't know what they were doing. So I had to stand in that building and have her smile and hiss in my ear for over an hour.
Of course even though my stepdad is the one who cheated on her insufferable ass and dragged me into this drama, he feels immense guilt because he thinks their divorcing was the catalyst of my falling out with her. Maybe it made her more hysterical than usual at the time, but the same remorseless psycho bitch who treats me like her personal puppet had existed since I started to develop opinions and an identity of my own that spans back to when I was a child. I just didn't know about
toxic parenting and narcissism until a few years ago when I posted my stories online and people told me it wasn't normal.
I'm side eyeing him right now too because before I told my mom he was cheating, whenever she would cause a fight that would make me flee the house for example, he would use it to manipulate me against her. Never told me I was wrong back then for feeling how I did. He wanted to feel justified in cheating at the time and so validated my feelings hoping that when he dropped his bomb on me later, he thought I'd cape for him lmao! Of course now since the cat is out of the bag, it's all "BUT SHE'S YOUR MOM!" and "SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE SHE REALLY CARES!" He's transparent as hell, and it disgusts me that both of them think this is a "pride" issue and not a lack of respect from them issue.
Oh and about those damn presents? Well she brought it up again in this fakey sweet tone asking if I wanted them for the umpteenth time.
Again I denied them. She hemmed and hawwed and wouldn't take my no for an answer so I finally cut to the point and asked if there was anything practical.
Because her narc hallmark is to give me a bunch of useless clutter junk, shit I don't like, and clothes she wants me to wear in huge sizes. She answered in this baby talk voice "Well you'll just have to open them to find out~" Ha. Ha. No. Just tell me or it's a hard no. Well the most "practical" items to her were an air fryer and seafood cracker utensils that she picked up for a bargain at her retail job. The rest must have obviously been clutter junk as I suspected but I literally laughed out loud when she told me about the crab pickers. LMAO! When does she think I'll have the time, the money, or the room to entertain a multi-party seafood feast in my tiny poverty apartment where my guests will be served crab legs?! What the fuck am I gonna do with an air fryer? I don't eat potatoes or fried things at home. I'm pretty sure even people who like air fryers don't use them more than a few times a year.
What the fuck. What the actual fuck lol. I told her politely to just return them for her money back but she scoffed "I CAN'T DO THAT NOW!" Okay? You should have taken them back the first time I said no but sure go ahead and blame me I guess and call me stubborn because I don't feel like throwing your guilt gifts into my storage.
Fucking narcs.
No. 521701
I’ve been on two dates with this guy who I don’t see myself being serious with due to where he is in life right now, but whatever, it’s fun, we’ve known each other for 8 months (used to work together) and had pretty intense crushes on each other. So last night after getting dinner when I was dropping him back off at his house, he’s in my car with his elbow up on my seat (like, his elbow near my shoulder) leaning in over the console while talking to me, so obviously I thought he was going in to make a move so I kissed him. Right afterwards he said “I wasn’t expecting that!”, we kind of awkwardly said goodbye, and now I’m worried I Fucked Up in some way. I personally don’t think kissing is a big deal, (I usually kiss on the first or second date, I used to sleep with guys on the second or third date tbh) but I don’t think this guy has experience with a lot of people, like he just had one girlfriend he was with for 6 or so years, and now I rushed it or he’s going to take this way too seriously. Fml but also I don’t think I goofed too much?
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>>521727Go wash your hands anon and stop trying to pick fights, dumbass.
No. 521738
>>521732Damn can someone start a Corona megathread ? I'd do it but would mess it up, never started a thread before
We could exchange some information, tips, debunk rumours etc (and panic in unison in one place kek)
No. 521777
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This came up on my timeline because one of the friends I follow on there liked it, but it's funny because I tried to set boundaries with her months ago and she flipped and didn't like it. All I asked for was not having to talk to her every waking moment of the day because she becomes so desperate for any sort of interaction as validation of our friendship that it just turns into 99% small talk.
No. 521783
>>521777I love how people use quotes from their therapist to paint themselves as
victims. Like cool apply your therapists wisdom to your life and stop bitterly subtweeting under the guise of 'ooh I'm just sharing tips from therapy'
No. 521826
>>521717that last sentence of yours reveals the ugly fucking nature of you and everyone like you. you think places like milan are too clean and rich and pretty to get sick, but china is a shithole, so of course everyone’s sick there! go fuck yourself you paranoid fucking retard. i honestly hope you get covid so maybe you and people like you will either shut the fuck up and leave everyone alone already or learn an important lesson about why your retarded perceptions of the world are extremely indicative of your prejudice and bias.
id cough on you, ugly.
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THE CORONAVIRUS IS NOW IN HOUSTON
No. 521855
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>>521826Did you deadass just wish illness on someone just because they wondered allowed why their country was hit so hard by it?
No. 521971
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This bitch I know keeps posting autistic shit like this (pic related), hashtagging antifa and calling herself a "feminist Marxist". She's literally the pinnacle of self entitled welfare brood sow who hates men because her failure of an existence can be easily scapegoated by blaming the opposite sex. Every one of her children has a different father and she lacks self awareness to the extent that she can't possibly comprehend being the problem… despite the multiple father's figuratively running for the hills. She's even addled her children as well by brainwashing them with the spastic amount of ~genders~ and using BuzzFeed as a legitimate news source (I shit you not). At this point I'm sure personal responsibility is a concept that I'm sure they have never, and will never be exposed to. Extreme left indoctrination is so pervasive, if you don't bow down to their moral superiority you're automatically labelled a "biggot" or "fascist" indiscriminately. What's worse is we're not even American, but apparently if you want to subscribe to divisive cancer you'll sure as hell find it. You just need to step foot on a university campus and when you return you'll become a radicalised autismo NPC… I'm getting pretty tired of this retarded ideology that has literally no founding in logic or reality. How have we even got here? I'm so beyond disappointed in humanity. /End rant
No. 522027
>>522004Thank you for replying, anon. I know he can stop smoking from one day to another (it’s not the first time he did it, I saw it happening myself) but usually he smoked about one month or so, maybe two weeks…I know he’s doing it to relax himself and apart from that he’s the best partner I’ve ever had, nothing changed about the way he treats me at all but I grew up with alcoholic parents and I told him already how I can’t help myself but feel scared about him doing the same thing with drugs. I know it’s different but I hate feeling deceived with him. We’ve been together for years now and it hurts me to think that if he did this since the beginning we wouldn’t be together right now…
>>522009He’s here but I feel like he’s not here. He gets pretty mad about small things which usually wouldn’t be a trouble (i.e. he gets pretty paranoid about me doing things to piss him off, like asking him twice if he wants the lights on or off), when he gets into out bed he’s totally sleepy and not even talking with me but gets pissed off if I don’t want to talk with him at that moment…he’s starting to forget things I asked him to do with hours in advance and then I have to repeat myself over and over again until I feel like a burden (he always apologised and of course tries to make it up but I’m getting pretty tired).
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My fave food place just upped the price on my fave item REEEEeee
No. 522140
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I don't know what to do with my hair anymore, I'm so frustrated it makes me want to cry just thinking about it.
It's thin and flat not even hairspray/mousse can make it have any volume. I thought about cutting it short but since I wear glasses I'd look like a 40 year old mom trying too hard to look "hip and young" again, bangs give me acne breakouts on my forehead thanks to oilier skin but I'd need them since I have a 5head. So I'm stuck with the same shitty middle/side part for years. I wish I had a nicer head shape so I could buzz it off but not even that is an option.
No. 522265
>>522077sorry about your shitty friends
anecdote here but in my experience this only happens if you don't establish that there will never be a possibility of anything besides a friendship and if you couldn't tell them about the guy before it became public they were never your friends anyway
No. 522445
>>522423> He makes me feel bad for showing any attraction to men.> "you're counting down the minutes till you have to leave me?"> Like, I can't walk around the house without him patting my shoulder or touching my head, when I frown and turn away from him, he gets offended/madAnon…do you have a Mother? Your father seems obsessed with you the same way a husband would get obsessed over his wife…I’m truly worried about you and how the people close to you can’t see how
toxic is his behaviour…creepy af
No. 522448
>>522423Yeah like another anon said, this is called covert incest where the parent is treating their child like a romantic partner. Him getting mopey or mad when you place boundaries or don't do exactly as he wants is a telltale sign.
It's definitely not normal, but more than a few people deal with it unfortunately.
No. 522468
>>522423he treats you like a girlfriend. he may not be meaning to, but you need space from him in a major way.
>>522443 is right. he also sounds like he has major bipolar or something.
No. 522545
>>522467I'm so sorry you’re going trough this, anon.
> None of my friends have fathers so my dad is like their hero and think I am ungrateful when I complain about my dad.Don’t feel bad for feeling the way you do about your father. When your friends tell you these things they’re being selfish, just because they don’t have a father it doesn’t mean your father can’t be the bad one here. I don’t know how to explain it better but your situation is the one you’re having to live, they don’t have to feel the way you do and even if they did, I’m sure in your position they would feel like you. You’re not guilty for feeling uncomfortable, you’re not ungrateful, your father does some things that may distress you and no one should judge you about your feelings.
I don’t think your father is a bad person too, they way you’re describing him is like he’s acting without controlling it, without wanting you to hurt but he does. I’m sure he doesn’t want you to feel guilty, he only wants you by his side and that’s the problem because I know you love him and that he will always be your father but maybe you can set up some boundaries and distance in the future, some day he will have to accept you have your own life and that he can be a pet of it, just not the essential one.
I wish you the best, anon. <3
No. 522581
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My stepdad is growing increasingly entitled and rude with age but it's like he can't see it. So he presumes it's everyone else who's being rude to him because he either doesn't know or doesn't care–or both–that he's the one in the wrong. Whenever we go out to do anything that requires a kind of exchange with a service employee, I get very embarrassed by his behavior. He just expects to be treated like a sheik because he's a paying customer and they're the lowly wage slaves. After his rampages, I sheepishly apologize to the employees after he's stormed off. I wish I could correct him as he's committing the behavior but bruising his ego only escalates the situation and will come back to me later when it's over. I hate him because he reminds me of all the terrible male customers who used to have a go at me when I couldn't give them what they wanted either. He's very quick to take offense and be angry, in general, anymore.
I used to love my dad and really look up to him. I remember thinking of him as being charismatic. Sometimes he still can be (with good looking women and people who give him exactly what he wants), but for the life of him he can't handle it when others disappoint him or treat him less than flowery. He's very short and abusive with me too, and of course whenever I stand up for myself he just finds ways to verbally nail me back into my place or find some way to prove I'm just as bad as him.
This whole post is because he came back from trying to go get KFC for dinner at a location he's had a bad time with before. To his credit, that location is bad but he should be extra wary and check his order before he leaves. He never learns. He absolutely FREAKED OUT that they forgot his popcorn chicken when he unbagged everything. He came barging into my room just to throw a conniption about it, not that I was surprised as I heard his frustrated yelling long before he did. It was actually my popcorn chicken but it wasn't enough to make me mad. I tried to be reasonable and asked if he had the receipt, or if he wanted to call or go back to get his money refunded. He told me no on all accounts and in addition how rude and how slow they were and how he can't believe they want $15/hr to constantly get his orders wrong. Then he says how he got into it with a lady at the gas station because she was a rude bitch too and so he wasn't in a good mood for anything at that point.
He's so difficult to live with. I can't wait until his new girlfriend asks him to move in with her so I can just get a normal roommate to split rent with so I don't have to deal with narcissistic rage. I wish I could laugh, but it's not funny.
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>>522620End it. Why would you want someone who is more interested in porn than you?
No. 522724
>>522697Here's a support thread
>>114320 for you. Hope you can accept yourself soon.
>>522701No it's not fucked up to have boundaries.
No. 522761
>>522755Fuck anon, I wish I could give you a hug right now. I hate seeing stuff like that. I'm sorry you feel that way.
You're only in college though ? Believe me, plenty will happen and there will be plenty of changes ahead. Drive those changes, believe in yourself and you might surprise yourself. I was the overweight, unremarkable girl in college. Year reunion +2, I've lost a bunch of weight, learn make up and hair, and clothes too, got myself a high paying job in a fancy big company abroad, nobody recognised me. Like, literally they did not and asked who I was. And I would tell myself exactly what you wrote when I was still in college.
Fight for yourself anon. If life drags you back down, take it by the neck, punch the bitch square in the face, dust yourself off and try again. Don't give up in believing in yourself
No. 522771
>>522757Sometimes I get severely angsty over the idea of working 5 days a week for at least another couple of decades, it feels like staring down the barrel of the most tedious gun in the world. I don't even really hate my job, it just takes up too much time.
All I can do to alleviate it is lower my expenses, save and invest, and daydream about having enough to retire early or at least drop to part time hours sometime in the next 20 years.
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I'm just tired of literally everything
No. 522814
>>522757>>522771This and I dread that most office jobs require you to actually go to the office. We have internet every fucking where and my job could be easily done from home. Plus we have large periods with nothing to do and I could use that time to do chores or something.
I hate having to commute just to sit here and warm up the chair.
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>threw up in the middle of the night like a week ago because I ate something disgusting
>diarrhea at the same time for a whole week because of my periods
>feeling super uncomfortable eating since then so I'm eating less without even realizing it
>feeling like shit ever since
>job interview tomorrow
How fucked am I?
No. 522865
>>522857May I medfag a bit anon?
Please resume your treatment asap. You stopping it will only make things a lot worse. It's bad when you start it, which is normal, it's worse if you abruptly stop.
I know it's hard right now - been through that too. Had the worst breakdown when I thought I was making progress.
share it with your therapist. There are techniques to help you discuss things and process trauma or whatever is going on without you breaking down so badly.
Also, resume appointments with your gp asap and tell them you need to review medication. If you only started, they might have put you on a lower dose, they might want to up it progressively- like any other medication, it's trial and error.
Above all OP, please please try and fight back. Your depressed state might be giving you tunnel vision. You need to fight it. That's the only thing nobody can do for you, you have to do it. Therapy is harsh, uncomfortable, difficult, it's a lot (especially on top of uni work).
You've done so well finding help (early in your adult life I assume). Please don't give up because depression is like an infection of the mind, if you don't treat it now, later you might be treating something far more ominous.
My heart is with you OP. I hope you find the strength.
No. 522877
>>522875Can you give some examples of the bullying? I used to have a
victim complex and although people were sometimes shitty I often blew it up because I was convinced people just disliked me.
No. 522881
>>522873You get hospital bills and no paid sick leave. No federal response as to what to do to help
victims. Idk what compensation is necessary but something large
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I’ll move onto the virus thread after I post this just to update on the conversation
No. 522923
in 2018 i was “orbited” on r9k, as in people took my selfies from my instagram and posted them onto r9k because they thought i was attractive or something. this only happened because i was friends with this cute goth girl and she was getting orbited too. it seems like the 4chan guys looked through her following and found me. when i found out the extent of this i shut down my account permanently because people were looking for my irl information. a little while after i had a falling out with a friend who knew about this r9k orbiting situation. they decided to get back at me by posting our private conversations, my private information, and old photos of me from when i was 15 onto 4chan and 8chan and even some weird board called agatha2 which is dedicated to this orbiting phenomenon. now those people know my real name and how i look and much more shit about me that i don’t want those degenerate freaks to know. i did make
one huge mistake during all of this, and i reaches out to an owner of an orbiting board and coaxed him into giving me his private information. i talked to him for a couple weeks and for some reason he trusted me enough to give me his address, real name, and photos. but somehow i just felt like i couldn’t betray his trust and i never ended up doing anything about him. i thought of reporting him to the police but.. there’s no crime in posting selfies of random girls online. it would have made it worse. i cut off this guy and moved on with my life, that’s the only time i ever entertained one of those weirdos. out of curiosity the other day i looked up my nickname on the 4chan archive and just recently someone posted something about me. apparently there’s some rumor made up about me that i fucked some drug dealer or something and got pregnant, which is far from true and i have no idea how they made that up. i had an anxiety attack and quickly closed the page, i didn’t bother clicking on the thread. i don’t know why they give such a shit about me, seeing as i don’t ever post or look at 4chan. this board here is the only one i use really. it makes me so nervous and scared that even almost 2 years later they’re still talking about me and my photos are going around. i’ve even dyed my hair a different color by now and moved away and now my accounts are all strictly private.. but still i’m afraid. i sit in bed and wish i could just round up all these guys that are posting about me and stalking me, and just shoot them all dead.
No. 522983
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I'm graduating in May and I regret choosing my major. It has a great growth outlook and there's a lot of places in my area hiring people for those majors but I feel no passion for it whatsoever.
It was my safety net choice and I already switched my major twice and felt cornered because I didn't have many options. I suffered from a very bad mental breakdown in my sophomore year so I had to quit school which pushed back my graduation date.
I'm just so depressed about it now and not even excited about graduating. It's taken me months to realize this and I feel so lost.
No. 522987
>>522974It's normal to be a virgin at 22, but I wouldn't say it's normal to not have fingered yourself. Not to get too personal, but do you masturbate at all?
I thought that I had some kind of problem with my vagina because penetration hurt. I had to buy a dildo and experiment to realize I actually do enjoy penetration, I just wasn't enjoying it with the guys I had sex with. I spent a long time thinking I had a medical problem when I don't.
For you, it sounds like a mental thing. It was a mental thing for me too. Something I had to figure out on my own. If you end up not liking it even though you try it, that's fine, but definitely don't let fear hold you back!
No. 523017
>>522930Oh please anon. Wtf would this anon come here sperging at length attracting
more attention to their case. Not smart on a site like lolcow don't you think.
No. 523023
>>523012at least there's some mutual benefit there even if it's shallow
with people who don't even make art there's nothing there for me but disappointment
No. 523072
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I lost $100 dollars on PayPal
No. 523094
>>522987Well I mean not really cause it hurts. I did some research and I think I might be asexual.
Thanks for the advice tho.
No. 523112
>>523067yeah
i guess i just wonder if these non-artist friends i talk to would still be around if i stopped making art
No. 523132
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the girl i like has been in a long term relationship with another girl for like 6 years and i wanna kermit why did i fall for her so hard and so fast she's such a great friend and we get along so well it's just like my stupid gay ass to finally fall for someone who's kind to me and she just so happens to be unobtainable.
No. 523139
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>get a call from an unrecognized number
>I like to call back just to verify it's not something important bc I have a few things I'm juggling atm
>it rings which indicates it might be a personal phone
>w/e I don't care that much, hang up
>a second later the number calls me back
>I raise an eyebrow and don't answer it, figure it's a robo call thing and it pinged me cause I tried to call it
>notice my phone is blinking which indicates a text message
>it's from that number
>my phone pulls the last conversation
>it's some dude I had a tinder fling with like back in fucking October
>long since deleted the convo cause he never pursued after we banged
>nice cock, seemed like a scumbag though
>"hurr hurr sorry I accidentally called you while unloading groceries, how r u?"
Lmao, blockkkkkkkkkkkk. He was totally trying to test me.
No. 523179
>>523156Are you cute? It honestly sounds like attention seeking/misguided flirting, not that it excuses their behaviour. But it might not necessarily be because they think you're a bulliable weirdo who deserves to be mocked over nothing.
Anyway, you're dealing with young men, literally the shittiest demographic of humans. Remember that you're older and wiser, and there's no need to let them affect you when it's just immature nonsense.
No. 523193
>>523186Slightly worse.
Like vcal for adults.
No. 523332
>>523312You can, 25 is so very young man. I'm 33 and about to start medical school, from a business background. Everything is possible.
Just do it.
No. 523465
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>>523448That's what I thought since I don't regularly keep up with her but I did check her Twitter earlier and saw she posted this. I'm not sure if she's being facetious since she is known for trolling, but it's possible that she has a genuine interest? She also posted a video about pornhub and sex trafficking yesterday. I'm pretty sure she's a farmer too since she used a lot of our receipts and memes in her videos and livestreams on Shuwu.
Hi Brittany. No. 523527
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Can't have ONE nice conversation with my mom without her inevitably saying some fucked up boomer shit about how fatter I look, whether I still like girls and how I'm "not 18 anymore" like wtf does that mean.
I tried to disengage when she had the audacity to bring up how I don't talk to her enough and how she could die from corona any day. BIIIIiTCH.
She fucked up my entire childhood so compared to then, she's now basically a saint; this is as good as it's gonna get. My mom will always be amazing at making me feel sorry for her and shitty about myself. And yet I will always want a relationship with her.
No. 523529
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Today I realised I can't imagine what it must be like to have a family, like a real one, not this traumatic bullshit I have. Stung a little. I guess it's some defense mechanism that I can't even imagine that shit. Not even in a pity party way but my mom is the only one gives a single fuck about me and even that is 90% pity and guilt for making me go through shit.
No. 523575
>>523556Hey, fellow extremely scarred anon here.
People will understandably shocked by self-harm which is why I personally still find it hard to walk with my arms out amongst strangers. Friends and acquaintances my own age might be surprised but generally understand as almost everyone knows someone who has struggled with self-harm.
Just know that those scars don't change anything about the positives of who you are and anyone who truly matters will get past them. You can definitely still have intimate relationships - you just have to be wary.
Also most of the time self-harm is not a cry for help, but it is almost always an impulsive way to cope with emotions. Being drunk lowered some inhibitions you had and made you act to get a form of release. I don't think you were simply "bored".
No. 523604
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>>523529anon i'll adopt u.
No. 523607
>>523529I realized my "family" wouldn't even be my friends or friendly to me if they weren't shamed into the obligation on the basis of being related. They've always treated me like a blacksheep, and to this day they downplay family trauma and think I'm weird and too sensitive for their tastes because I no longer allow them to treat me however they please.
There's only a tiny sect of family left, who aren't even blood relation, who I feel at least a bit cares for by still but I often wonder if that's not out of pity as well. I guess this problem is common, I had always hoped that as I grew older I'd fall in place and fit in but it appears not so.
No. 523653
>>523599I posted about the link between childhood sexual abuse and being ftm lately and people were quick to say "nah transtrenders are just dummies looking for attention lool".
I spent a year on T. Had sexual abuse in my childhood and had anxiety so bad I couldn't leave the house for years. I thought I'd be safe living my life if I appeared male. I've followeed detransition stories for years now and it's always the same thing but yeah there's often an eating disorder going on too.
There's also a link between autism and developing 'gender feelings' that pass. Autistic women are particularly prone to hearing about ftms and thinking that's why they 'never felt like they fit in'
No. 523665
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why does this year feel as if we have been spat by the universe?we were supposed to enter "the roaring 20's" and it seems like globally we are going to shit as soon as the year began.
And ofc the life of the people around me and mine isnt better either.not that shit didn't happen before,but it being combined with a global crisis like the coronavirus and the events before it makes everything seem worse.I even managed to muster up courage to start a new hobby to go out more and improve my social skills and mood,but it's pretty likely the place I go to will close down in the coming days or weeks to prevent the virus from spreading.I wouldn't actually proceed with the hobby due to the virus and being concerned of spreading it to my grandparents especially,but my social life is almost none and I can't take any of the personal bs at home so I need a place to totally forget what goes on for a couple of hours.I dread the posibility of having to endure my family any longer due to a potential-yet unlikely for now-quarantine as I already see them for the biggest part of the day since I work with them.It would be easier if communication was easier but I've tried a lot and it seems impossible.If I have to tolerate this shit any longer I'm gonna get depressed or feel physically shit and Im so over this shit.And even if I was able to leave,I can't due to the virus
Im honestly disappointed in the world,the people around me and mostly myself.even if I know that I can't change the people and proceed on my own,Im not autonomous enough to make the step.I was planning to do it slowly but everything is so fucked up now.I don't feel scared but done with everything.it will hopefully be over in a few months if things go well,but I HATE having to go through the cycle of being a totally depressed fuck to be a minimally depressed one and try to cheer myself up while it feels like everyone is trying to bring me down.I wish I was stronger.I wish I was more skilled and independend but all I am is a socially inept fuck who cannot deal with her circumstances and is always too late.i am sick with myself can't i just disappear
plz suffocate me corona-chan
No. 523698
>>523652Same, except for the fact that i'm in uni cause higher education is really important in my culture, and i don't wanna be dependent on anyone.
I was doing ok when i was younger, despite shitty home situations but things kept getting worse and now i'm here: lazy and depressed, don't have an ounce of energy, insecure and anxious all the time, keep fucking up, think i'm annoying and that everyone hates me…
Hope it helps you to know that there are many people (like me) who feel that way…nothing is over, ok?
No. 523734
>>523727 > I feel like I have no choice but to crawl back to my shitty retail job > Why can't I just kill myself > wish I could just get hit by a carThis sounds way more like a chemical issue, depression making you think that working retail is somehow the worst thing imaginable. Like I work a shitty retail job with no other options and am pretty content overall.
Depression is putting a dark tint on everything for you. Dunno if you're diagnosed with anything but hope you address it more as a mental health issue than a job issue. Wanting to die cos 'working in a shop would suck' isn't a normal reaction to those circumstances.
No. 523770
>>523734AYRT. Sorry, I didn't mean to put down retail work. My period is approaching and I get into bad depressive episodes because of it, coupled with the fact that job hunting is one of the worst soul sucking things anyone has to do, wasn't a great combination.
I worked retail for a few years, and I met tons of great people and really learned how to be a good employee there, but the environment and management was fucking awful, so I left and found myself an office job. I'm doing so much better mentally, but my current place is a temporary position and despite all my job hunting efforts for the past few months, I haven't even gotten so much as an email back. It just feels as if the universe is telling me to just get fucked because no matter how hard I try to make things better for myself, everything is truly hopeless for me.
Of course, I know this is just all period brain talking, but it doesn't make it feel any less real or awful. I'd go to therapy or some shit but I don't have health insurance and it really only rears it ugly head once a month-ish so I don't even know if doctors would even bother helping me.
No. 523781
>>523770I mean I wasn't offended by the retail thing, just wasn't sure whether you thought it was your cicumstances driving you to that extreme thinking or if you were addressing an underlying issue with mood.
Been there in the past too. Sounds like you maybe have PMDD. Docs aren't always great at taking it seriously but they recommend SSRIs as treatment. I had it and after a few years (roughly when I hit 30) my cycle changed slightly in length and at the same time my monthly moods calmed down