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>>>/g/475221>>>/g/429453>>>/g/418638>>>/g/409041>>>/g/378416>>>/g/363824>>>/g/199512A place for black farmers to discuss experiences and topics related to being a black woman and the black community. The positive, the negative, the rants, the raves - it all belongs here.
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No. 561050
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>>560996It’s all symbolism and even the advice we get in-group has this. You have to try to redirect yourself to what helps you in the physical world, actual concrete habits and plans. Avoid leftists, they’re the first to use you and throw you away the second you don’t fit their narrative.
No. 561069
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love not being anyone's political mule
love being self-interested
simple as
No. 561155
>>561107A good way to test how racist an indian is is by asking if they're part black and watching their microexpressions (there's YT videos that teach you this). if they pull down corners of their mouth even slightly, it's a sign of disgust. The darker
POC have to pass this vibe check before I can see them as human.
(racebait) No. 561164
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can't we just talk about normal stuff? Just because it's a black girl thread doesn't mean everything needs to exclusively be about the politics of being a black woman.
I'll start: whats a hobby you're into?
lately I've been spending a lot of time making art, like painting and crotcheting. very relaxing
No. 561173
>>561167what are you gardening? I just planted some tomatoes and peppers the other day and I'm so excited since I finally live in a place with enough space and sun for gardening. also have some strawberries and basil
>>561168pottery is fun, what have you been making? do you use references for what you make or are you free-balling it?
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>>561164I've been into making small felted animals recently, it takes ahile to get used to but its' calming.
No. 561180
>>561067Yeah no shit liberals can act this way it's almost like the unifying factor between both parties is they're both dominated by….whiteness. I'm still not going to give my support to the right tho and detaching yourself fully from the left leaves the right considering this country is two party. I would rather put up with a shady blue hair gendie than a trumptard any day of the week at least they're going to kiss my ass to not get canceled.
>>561164I got back into surfing since I moved back home and have been going down to the beach when I don't have to wage slave in the lab for 10 hours. Nothing on this planet feels better than being able to lay down on your board and just stare at the sky
No. 561200
>>561178are they expensive?
>>561179especially airbrushing painting, getting the details right is so difficult
No. 561255
>>561173Today was mostly setting up my new compost bin, filling it, and doing aphid management on my passionfruit vine and my spring onions. I also repotted some pepper seedlings that grew in my aloe pot after discarding the core of a bell pepper there. I have some fun new things like daikon that I'm hoping to plant over the weekend.
I'd love to do strawberries one day, but I feel like I'd end up with a crop that's all really mid and no particularly good strawberries. Seems like my kind of luck. Will you be planting any other herbs to go with your basil?
No. 561273
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Tried out a new cafe. Too small and the shop and sandwich was mediocre and not worth the price. At least I got a good walk from this
No. 561285
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>Moms side has large lower body>Women on dads side also have large lower body>Diet for nearly a year while averaging 20k steps a day>Lose fat on nearly every other part on my body except thighs(including boobs rip)Guys I don't want these thighs anymore. I'm 5'6 and 120 lbs and my they're still chafing nearly to my fucking knees. Is there a certain food I need to avoid? Is it dairy?
>>557962No problem, I have an entire pinterest folder full of pictures like this and saw my chance to break the cursed threadpic trend.
No. 561289
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>>561285Are you sure you don't have some kind of lipedema?
No. 561291
>>561285>I'm 5'6 and 120 lbs and my they're still chafing nearly to my fucking knees.Tried wearing more baggy clothing?
chafing is caused by friction, not diet.
No. 561296
>>561289I don't think it's lipedema since they haven't gotten any bigger since I started losing weight, and they're not very "jiggly." They're just kind of solid with extra fat making them wider. I'll ask my doctor about it next time though just in case.
>>561291Chafing as in rubbing together, I don't like the feeling of them touching or how obviously wider they are compared to my shins. Not trying to get a thigh gap but I want to walk without my skirts getting caught in between them. Gets really annoying after a while. I thought it might be a diet issue since I've seen other people immediately lost leg fat focusing on cardio.
No. 561350
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>>561345It’s like I see the beauty in black women and I want to share it with other women. If I was better at painting and drawing, I would share that body of work. Fortunately we have photography now
No. 561412
>>561408>>561345what about these
>>552485>>552493>>552451>>552430>>551835>>551593>>551281>>500564>>497760notice how none of the other x race generals have women in bikinis or onlyfans girls in them
No. 561438
>>561432It's the same "individual" who insists every image of black women is from 4chan and porn sites without a single shred of proof. Last thread, they claimed a photo somebody posted only came up with porn sites when reverse image searched here:
>>>/g/552437 Then, a screenshot was posted of actual Google search results showing that it actually leads to the woman pictured's IG or Twitter here:
>>552451Another reminder: If you're seeing porn as the primary source for every single photo of a black woman you find, even when they're just wearing dresses or it's from a fashion shoot, that means Google is reflecting your own search history and preferences. Moids are too dumb to understand when they're self-reporting, they love to project.
Also, idk if that "person" wants us to come away from this thinking that if black celebrities, singers, models or even just random black women have had their photos saved/stolen and reposted by some white 4chan scrotes, that means they're "whores"/"untouchables" and we can't discuss them even as other black women, but it's retarded either way.
No. 561453
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If your first thought upon seeing a black woman in a dress or at a beach when discussing fitness/beauty is "ebony", "4chan", "coom", or "porn", you have a problem.
Anyway, for relaxing hobbies, I've been trying to get into digital art lately. It's fun to just doodle while listening to music. It gets a bit hard to not compare myself to others, though.
No. 561462
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What hairstyle do you guys have at the moment? I have these two buns but they're neither space or low buns. I drew up picrel real quick to give an illustration
>>561461Noooo anon please delete this ur going to set off that retard who thinks that if you care about your physical health you're a Jew who wants validation
No. 561465
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>>561462I have braids like picrel. I'm kind of sick of them, but I'm lost on what to do with my hair next, and I know the tangles will be annoying lol
No. 561553
>>561466god forbid i made a typo
>>561462usually a low bun
No. 561596
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Stories like this always put a smile on my face
No. 561621
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>>561616I’m just happy when black guys who trash on black women get btfo by the white women they love so much
No. 561735
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Post cute black girls <3
No. 561736
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I wish the media would show soft black girls doing cute things.
No. 561745
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I'd do anything for her
No. 561769
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>>561760it's all so performative and neurotic no wonder the threads are like this. Its the same vibe as those girls who beg on race subreddits if they would date us. You want to post cute black girls go ahead but needlessly bumping the thread just invites racebaiters and trolls. Whatever. im not ever making another thread.
No. 561946
>>561908I agree. The
>wowwowowowowow black girls are soooooooo beautifulshit is so patronizing. As someone in the last thread pointed out, black women have the highest self esteem. We dont need pity points from fetishists saying 'I would totally date a black girl btw! See? You actually
can be cute after all, teehee!'
No. 561959
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I've come to understand that there's a sort of racialized trauma some women have that makes them associate the existence of pretty black women with this inherent insecurity and a desire to appease ooglay white men. It's like they've internally colonized black beauty to be "white man's territory", it feels a couple of steps back from outright claiming black beauty is "eurocentric". In reality, there have literally always been beautiful black woman, and for whatever reason, current media that bothers to include us (which is primarily produced and decided on by other demographics) typically pushes a different story. I don't think anons in here are wrong for posting photos of pretty women of our own race if they don't like what's put out in the mainstream (if you like it, that's okay, we don't all need to share the same opinion). Oherwise, half the threads on /g/ started and proliferated by white women to celebrate their own demographic's beauty should be closed on transbian allegations.
I suspect this is a very personal, touchy subject for some because this is still an imageboard, and I know some of the people posting here might have their own experiences. I wish them the best, but I also wish they'd get help, reflect on it or at least be nicer instead of projecting it outward and being weird whenever someone posts a pretty black girl. Why does it have to start an argument all the time?
No. 561972
>>561964I'm sure you didn't read my post judging by how quickly you responded, and you may not read this one either, but it's fine. Try reading the thread. I'm talking about posters like
>>561769 and
>>561943 and the person who's been infighting from here
>>561412 and the last thread about images of black women.
I'm sorry if what I said made you feel attacked in any way, but sure, we can remove the "white" and just make it about moids in general. White lesbians, if you like. Either way, it's fine to post pretty black women. It's bizarre to think black women being pretty is somehow linked to "insecurity" or moids or asking to be dated. If you disagree or just have no interest in those pictures, post other things you want to talk about instead. It doesn't need to be a fight.
No. 561976
>>561959nah some of us have just seen far too many black female influencers developing severe body dysmorphia, plastic surgery addictions, photoshopping themselves into a completely different person and going down the extreme asianfishing or whatever else route due to trying to look like belle delphine or kpop girlies.
this isnt just a black girl phenomenon btw. plenty of white and latina women also engage in this behavior and its so unhealthy because it's teaching them to fight against their natural features and all try to look one certain way. we even have fully black girls pretending to have monolids and larping as half asian and having identity crises now because they're trying to pander to some strange internet ideal.
(anyone remember the black girl who constantly wore ice white wigs and started photoshopping herself into a weird bogged alien? she's just one example of this gross phenomenon)
im all for black women embracing their natural cuteness. i guarantee you nobody is hating on minnie riperton or pat cleveland looking cute, soft and hyperfeminine in the 70s. when it becomes about trying to completely warp and fight against your natural features then yeah we have a problem.
No. 561982
>>561981literally mentioned other women doing this too if you bothered reading the post.
also its more political for us because black people have been abused for our looks and brainwashed since birth that our features are too 'vulgar' 'too much' 'over the top' 'overwhelming' 'too big' etc. i can understand why insecure black girls go down that route because they are confused and full of self hate, but it's not behavior that should be encouraged. and it undeniably also often goes hand in hand with trying to pander to white or asian moids too. trying to tone down our blackness to make us less intimidating and more palatable. btw its not even about eurocentric beauty standards anymore, asian beauty standards are the trend now with zoomer girls, but replacing one racist groups ideals with another doesnt make it any better.
No. 561988
>>561976I agree that the problems you mentioned are bad. My issue is that I don't think that's the focus for some of these posters, because the common complaint is insecurity or something about men, not mental health or the artificiality. I'm not confident that the fight would stop if all the anons who want to celebrate black beauty just posted Donna Summer or Minnie (love them and Pat), and even then, as long as it doesn't get to unhealthy levels, black women are allowed to try out and wear whatever style they like. I may hate kpop and its attached culture, but I'm not going to bash another black girl if she likes the makeup style or fashion or whatever. It's just not my thing, and if she's pretty, she's pretty. It's not automatically a problem, and from what I've seen, few to none of the women who've been posted in these threads fall
victim to those issues.
>(anyone remember the black girl who constantly wore ice white wigs and started photoshopping herself into a weird bogged alien? she's just one example of this gross phenomenon)You mean bratphobic? I won't post his photos here, but he turned out to be a Latino troon IIRC. Neither black or a woman, but he claimed to be blasian. I've never seen black female influencers lie about being half-Asian, though I have seen maybe two African girls get harassed and accused of Asianfishing (by white people) for having naturally almond-shaped eyes (one of the girls was a hijabi, and not involved in any weeb stuff), and one African-American girl get told she was "copying Belle Delphine" for having pink hair and fake freckles (Belle Delphine doesn't even have real freckles or dye her own hair pink). To be fair, I've seen a couple of mixed race women actually try to LARP as Asian and get flak after people find their original photos, and I'm not throwing them under the bus, I just think that comes from another kind of pain.
No. 562016
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i need a tutorial on this look
No. 562040
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>>562008Yes let's be soft and spineless so men can prey on us more easily. They hate that!
No. 562059
>>562057>allow criminal thugs into their livesAgain with the
victim blaming, JFC. No black woman ever asked to be beaten or murdered.
It's literally affluent white women who request their moids to beat them up for 'kink' too. Black women are trying to avoid that shit.
No. 562063
>>562058I genuinely don't understand why so many anons in this thread make it a point to be so stupid.
Anon A says that taking a step back and letting go of the Messiah complex that a lot of black girls have would be a lot more radical than being an sjw because that is how a lot of people see us. We are constantly advocating for whatever cause du jour so not stressing yourself and leaving it to someone else would be out of the norm for us which is why she called it radical.
Anon B says there is no point and we should keep being SJWs because we get killed or hurt or whatever her point was and thinks that being soft means that you're a pushover or something
My point is that we are killed and harmed anyways and we allow thugs and criminals to proliferate (saying it's racism to avoid them or lock them up) and generally, softer personalities are not well received in black communities so a lot of us adopt a more rough around the edge persona to fit in. We do this and still get hurt or killed so anon b is getting her panties in a bunch for no real reason
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>>562068Well being a soft black girly didn't stop Tamla Horsford from being murdered.
No. 562075
>>562069That's not what I said but continue along with your
victim narrative. I'll keep choosing to be around people who have a good head on their shoulders and you can deal with jailbirds and then act shocked when they eventually do what they do best.
No. 562081
>>562076Then why are you
victim blaming the evil mean 'tuff' black women. Even though most men admit to avoiding 'tuff' black women and prefering softer women they can break down more easily. You're dumb.
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Ugly man psycho is more intense in the black community, or black moids are simply ugly?
No. 562098
>>562051Some of these people want us to fight all these battles and be in the mud at all times to prove something, and I just don't care. I'm not super into the term "soft" because I feel like it's become a trend, but honestly, I think a lot of black women see the writing on the wall anyway. The economy is getting absolutely battered. People were warned, but they didn't listen. Nobody wants to be out on the streets protesting for trans freaks or scrotes while their femicide and maternal mortality rates go undiscussed and the rest of the country is burning. Nobody is buying this struggle love ride or die shit anymore and protecting violent men except the biggest, most remedial birds. Nobody wants to carry those men's babies, either. It's done. Proving girlbossery and trying to be the world's savior is so counterproductive it's unreal, and it never came with any real benefits, just more nagging and demands from others. We need to be quietly prioritizing education, make our money and put our own wellbeing first. If that means lattes and yoga and caring for our natural hair, based.
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>>562052>>562054Wow not wanting to be fat and not wanting to die by cop marching for a thug is regressive now? Gods forbid I want to seek peace and quiet in my life.
No. 562117
>>562113Yes divest from those evil fat black lefty mammies…and you still end up dead like
>>562074 so good luck with that.
No. 562118
>>562074Also I should force myself into being more tough and more of a
SJW, so I don’t get murdered? It’s not like their actions and their murder was the problem. They are the ones who chose to kill not her personality
No. 562130
>>562118She wont give u any solid advice. Her life goal is to be a turbo
victim and recruit as many people as possible.
No. 562131
>>562130>black women are to blame for their own murdersThere you go again.
Just be skinny, soft, vote republican and only hang with rich whites in nice safe communities. Oh wait, that STILL didn't save Tamla. Whoops.
No. 562132
>>562127Call it whatever. Name calling doesnt move me.
>>562129I'm not around fat people in general. I don't avoid them, just aren't that many where I live. Also being fat doesnt mean you have to be sloppy. You can still be attractive.
No. 562133
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>>562117NTA, but can you prove that woman was any kind of "divestor", looked down on any other black people, had any specific political views any black person would take offense to, anything like that? Or is it just because she wasn't super fat and hung out once with some white women?
It's gross to weaponize a black woman's death for the sake of an argument.
No. 562137
>>562112>disagreeing with me makes you whiteWhatever helps you sleep at night>>562113
I agree. So much bullshit has been caused by ugly women’s need for attention. If I knew how to separate us from the ugly and poor, we’d be better off. Sometimes I envy how white people can distinguish and disengage from poor white trash. No one would ever demand a PhD having babe from Connecticut uplift and March for an ugly white trash chick from Alabama. I hate seeing poor and trashy people in real life or online.
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>>562117>>562127Yeah fuck fatties and fuck moral fagging lefties
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>>562146I’m a normal person. You’re a fatty, you’re the bitter freak who complains about hot and soft babes
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The resident white tranny has gone nuts and is arguing with himself while pretending to be two different black women.
Anyway, who likes monchhichis?
No. 562168
>>562165No
nonnie. We were all born with diabetes and our fists in the air don't be silly. You were a little girl enjoying dolls? Like everyone else? Ha! Don't make me laugh
No. 562170
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Reminder that schizophrenia is strong among white devils. Never relax around them. Ignore report and do not engage with baiters.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
No. 562177
>>562167They're cute in their own little kitsch way. I'd love to have one I carry around everyone
>>562172Everything everywhere is made by bad people who cares
No. 562194
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>>561769>take a peek after a few hours>bait and infighting galoreI am once again vindicated
No. 562832
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Have you ever met someone from an Ivy League? Or at least a Tier 1 school?
No. 562877
>>561444Reporting works because when something is reported enough times it gets deleted regardless of what the content is. It’s very annoying to deal with.
Fight fire with fire is the strategy that black women have been using for years in social media and it’s made us a bigger target. This is exactly the type of mentality that makes you perfect for engagement farming. If a racist tweet can get three bots to engage with you immediately then obviously people will be racist more. I don’t think you understand what’s going on at all.
No. 562982
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>>562899>>562902I think you might mean me. I haven't seen videos or comments like that, but I have a degree of real life experience with this kind of thing. If you have long hair naturally, it's common for some people to say it's fake out of weird spite, or compliment you in a backward way like what you describe. IMO, it's because they're trying to remind long-haired black women that they're to be considered the "lucky exception", rather than living proof that the whole narrative that black hair inherently "does not grow" doesn't really hold as true as they might like. It's a way of "othering" black women who don't fit into pre-established stereotypes, and (if black women with shorter hair or wigs or weaves are possibly around) telling black women whose hair isn't as long to "know their place". It's very divisive and undercutting. There's also the whole imagined idea of like, Schrodinger's non-black ancestry having to be involved somewhere for a black woman to have longer hair, so yes, some of them are basically just saying "Thank god for that single drop of white or native blood you definitely must have somewhere down the line!
Surely, that's why your hair is long". If you are hearing this while
African-American (or perceived as such), it becomes more sinister when you realize what those people are saying is "Good for you, someone raped a slave somewhere in your background and that's why you have
nice hair." If there's anyone who doubts that there are non-black people with such evil thoughts, pic related was a comment left on a YouTube video about British soldiers gang-raping Samburu women from Kenya and leaving them with mixed race children. It's called The Rape of Samburu Women. If that isn't enough, understanding the mentality behind "mejorar la raza" is a testimony to how an unfortunate amount of non-black people view racial mixing.
I do want to say that I hesitate to argue that the
majority of people giving out this "genetics" compliment are
consciously doing the latter, because I don't think as many people of other groups conceive racial dynamics and ancestry the way black people are often socialized to in such a bare way, but it definitely exists as an easily deniable, thinly-veiled denigration of either your DNA, or the majority of it.
I've noticed they don't say these kinds of things to other demographics of women as often. They just compliment their hair if it's nice and go. I don't even think non-black people with woolly/delicate hair like ours are accused of having black ancestry very often, people just let it be. With black women, our hair is so heavily politicized that it seems like everyone has to say something negative somewhere down the line.
Another thing I've noticed is that even some black women say these kinds of things, and I think it's part of the whole issue of casual, internalized hatred for natural black hair. Historically, we were forced to cover it up because it made some other women feel insecure about themselves (tignon laws), and until somewhat recently, we were literally penalized for our own hair by employers and schools, which helped create the reliance on wigs, relaxers, and you know the rest. Since slavery favored utility over aesthetic and (black) traditional culture, I suspect that several slaves were made to shave their heads. Hair, symbolism using it and even specific hairstyles have always been important in many of our traditional cultures, and I think disrupting this, intentional or not, tied into more deliberate acts of cultural erasure (refusal to document the exact origins/specific ethnic groups and real names of enslaved people, disrupting language so that slaves couldn't plot revolts or have conversations that enslavers weren't privy to, etc). In African schools that employ the British colonial system, both boys and girls are often forced to have their heads shaved because of ideas of black hair being inherently "inappropriate" or "distracting" (again, this goes back to African-American people being denied work and schooling for their natural hair). In a bid to assimilate to non-black culture, a lot of female African-American celebrities have been, and often still sport weaves, wigs and relaxed hair, and I think this also made them take off and maintain staying power as a fashion trend both for African-American laypeople and for the entire black diaspora. The natural hair movement (which was based) was framed as "rebellion" rather than an inherently neutral, natural mode of existence, and though that idea kind of softened as it faced a degree of normalization, it is still considered subversive in a few ways, and some black people do get fired or harassed for it still. I think all of these things coupled with natural shrinkage (kek) have created a mass culture of neglect of our natural hair, and a perfect breeding ground for the thought that black hair simply cannot, or does not grow long naturally. It gets really easy for black women facing the brunt of this (especially those newly getting into actually caring for their hair and letting it grow) to fall
victim to this idea, see a black woman with long hair and say "Good for you, congratulations of your
genetics (I could never have hair like that and it's not because of my individual genetics or hair care practices, it's just because I'm black, you are simply lucky)". The whole thing makes me sad to think about, and I think about all that can be done is encourage natural hair, black hairstyles, etc as much as possible until they become fully normalized, and try to push for more black women whose hair is growing slowly to look to wigs or extensions that actually match their natural hair texture, rather than straight ones. I know that might necessarily create an even greater divide between ourselves and other groups and paint a target on our backs for a while, but I don't like the results of what we have going on now, or how it's made people talk about black hair/genes. I really don't.
No. 563231
>>562982Thank you anon!!!! You have such a beautiful way of articulating your thoughts. Gosh I'm so glad we have you in this thread. This has inspired me to keep going with taking care of my hair. I've reached my desired length and started neglecting it as a result but your response has made me want to go back to being super passionate about my hair. Cheers
nonnie!
No. 563279
>>562877non-racist people dont suddenly become racist, and racist people don't suddenly become un-racist imo.
racism goes beyond social conditioning, i think its largely an innate persoality trait that is strongly genetically influenced tbh. its been proven that racists have lower empathy in general, stronger disgust reflexes, get offended by smells more easily, have problems with abstract thinking and perceiving nuance, are more prone to paranoia and personality disorders etc. theyre basically just complainers, whiners and troublemakers, in every aspect of their lives. i know non-blacks who have been harassed and robbed by black people, but still arent racist, and tbh nothing will ever made them racist because its just not in their nature to be like that.
meanwhile there are people who hate and despise black people despite never even meeting one in person before (like a lot of slavs and asians for instance)
i think racist people tend to remain racist for their entire lives, and same with non-racist people. it goes beyond just skin color, racists struggle with being normal and well-adjusted in many areas of their lives. and of course, a lot of fake liberals are actually very racist in private.
No. 563404
>>561255Make sure you use fluffy soil, non clay for daikon. The last time I tried to grow it I lost half of the length of most due to the soil being too compacted. I did a lot of bed prep too, just a heads up.
>>562832One of my best friends in HS went to Harvard for grad school and then stopped talking to me because I'm poor.
No. 563430
Why do a lot of the posters have such negative energy. Nothing inflammatory has been brought up yet still you guys will find a way to be hostile.
>>563396Idk about therapy because I've never done it but I have the mindset of if there isn't anything I can do about a situation, there's no point being upset. But that usually comes after I've tried finding a solution. I don't immediately give up.
No. 563643
>>563281mostly out of curiosity
>>563286why? have they degraded in quality? A part of me was hoping to do my grad work in the USA
No. 564905
>>564878they are definitely harder to separate (which is why misogynoir is its own whole category of sexism) but i guess the most obvious example is when people say sexist shit that could be applied to all women, not just black women. especially when black men say misogynistic shit about black women because they have less reason to hate us based on our race.
when white people bash even beautiful and eurocentric black women, that's usually more to do with racism than misogyny. same with when other races of women shit-talk us. its more race based hatred they have for us.
No. 565161
>>563288I feel like catfishing any potential friends to vet them is a waste of time and effort. I just let people show their true nature as they talk to me. They tend to assume I'm white for some reason (never talked to anyone who demanded to see face first), and if they're racist, I just stop talking to them.
On the note of online friends, what's crazy to me is that there are groups that basically no one has ever heard of or cared about whose young members spend their days perma-seething about black people. I'm talking about people with unrecognizable names, zero historical figures of power or relevancy, and absolutely no currency on the world stage. They have to literally dig up excerpts from texts by forgotten scholars (or unpopular conspiracy theorists) just to find anyone mentioning them. They have no distinct features, no real cultural output, and no one would be able to identify them in a crowd of other miscellaneous hordes. People who fit in everywhere and nowhere at once.
I won't name them because I don't think they even deserve exposure on a relatively obscure anonymous imageboard. I'm just saying this because I ended up running into someone from one such group, and she said something about only caring about her ethnic group and its issues. I thought that was interesting and wanted to learn more, so I looked through her Twitter account, and basically all she does is insert herself into western political discourse, sigh over not being a white girl from 2014 Tumblr, bitch about black people and "mutts" (a quick look at her group's history unsurprisingly reveals that they themselves are conquered "mutts") and get angry whenever random white or other people offhandedly call her group brown because "My second cousin has green eyes and my uncle's great grandpa's wife had blond hair. We are white/basically white, no difference!!". She has a few mutuals and a group chat of people her age doing the same thing, so I quickly realized it wasn't just her. It's not even about being offended at this point, the whole thing just seems surreal and pathetic. It's not even the first time I've seen people of some non-notable (or even internationally disliked) group trying their hardest to insert themselves where they're irrelvant. Are some people's existences and history just so boring that they feel the need to jump into these kinds of racial politics? I'm not kidding when I say people you've literally never heard of are foaming at the mouth over you and crying over not being considered white. So many individuals are practically schizo. It feels like living in a black comedy. I don't let it make me paranoid of others, I still (kind of) give people a chance, but it has increased my sense of detachment from their suffering, and I kind of think that's how it should be.
No. 565165
>>563643No it's a high quality education it's just the environment is extremely
toxic. There is virtually no support from ombudsman/advisors so expect to be able to solve internal issues on your own. Also, sexual harassment is VERY widespread. It also has the typical issues with exploitation of the foreign students. Don't apply to Brown, high rates of suicide from shitty supervisors.
Given the state of the country I also wouldn't apply right now as they're revoking visas for IG's. You could easily get detained for being at the wrong place at the wrong time.
No. 565227
I feel like black women are becoming more victim blamey, I keep seeing in real life/online even some women in my family who think that ANY Woman who benefitted in anyway from a man who abused her, "Isn't as much as a victim" or needs to be "held accounatable." For example, Cassie. Firstly she worked for him. So he was techincally supposed to be helping her gain fame/get money. Secondly, so the fuck what that she gasp went into a relationship at a young age with a older billionare and wanted to gain fame/money from it? In between the rape, trafficking, threats, black male, beatings, being forced to stay, watching him blow up cars/threaten people etc. I'm sure she did enjoy his wealth. SO THE FUCK WHAT? Does that change anything? Also this idea that she didn't love Diddy and was just some gold digger (even if she was so what?). Even when women are getting very little and being abused people shit on them for that as well.
I don't care to discuss Cassie being "held accounatable" (Like the idiots on LSA keep whining about). The whole world knows her lowest points, she lived through that shit. Whatever fucking "punishment" you think she deserves for "Chasing fame" or not being the perfect victim she's gotten it.
Same goes for MTS, Halle etc. the whole world has to see what happens to them, the results of bad decisions or choices. They are fucking being held accountable, some way say more so than the person who did the shit!
Also speaking of LSA, I hate the way they talk about minors. They still talk about teenage girls as if they are equals/grown women.
I know victim blaming will always exist, but I do think maybe it's because a lot of us have seen our mothers/other women be abused and get nothing from a man. So seeing women being abused but gaining money/fame or whatever, to them is a slap in the face.
IDK but it's annoying. Theres a lot of weird Diddy defenders on LSA as well.
No. 565267
>>565227Not "becoming", IMO. It's always been like this. Dumb pickmes are allowed to be loud and wrong in the black community because they're black men's biggest servants and handmaidens. We had some improvement in the last year or two, but things have regressed. It probably has to do with the current administration. Just wait for the idiots to complain about how the whole Diddy thing is "just putting a black man in jail", much like with the Tory Lanez bullshit we're seeing now. I even saw some of them back when R Kelly was getting jailed all around the internet.
I agree with you on LSA, it's always had a nasty way of treating teenage girls like women, but saying grown-ass men are "just boys!!" too. It's full of catty gay scrotes, racist trolls, cleaners for celebrities (probably who the Diddy defenders are) and retarded boymoms. About the only thing they're based on is the tranny topic.
No. 565406
>>565227Well I don't buy Cassie's
victim act tbh. She willingly continued seeing and sleeping with Diddy despite knowing he was a weirdo. She went to all the freakoff parties, enjoyed all the designer clothes and jewelry, drank all the 100K champagne etc etc, even cheated on her husband with the Diddler. She had what 99.9% of abuse
victims dont have which was millions of dollars, powerful attorneys, a whole team of support, access to the best therapists, and the opportunity to leave and fly and restart anywhere in the world that she want. She chose to stay with him for years, and so no she is not really a
victim in the true sense that the average black woman is.
No. 566243
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>>566236I still find women who do things like this, but I agree it is dying out. The natural hair movement felt so much bigger in the 2010s
No. 566244
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>>566236We literally still have those. There was a semi-recent one sided spat between a couple of them on Tiktok because a zoomer claimed she was the one to popularise sculpting and that another creator was plagiarising her lol.
>>566243It's never been bigger in my country. I've never seen so many women and girls without relaxed hair to the point that it's the minority. It's so refreshing. We've still got loads of women in wigs 24/7 though.
No. 566421
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Anybody know what lashes I should get to achieve this look? Going to a tech for the first time and have no idea wtf I'm doing
No. 566554
>>566243>>566236there was a lot less policing of women on the internet back then. there were also just less people on the internet in general. i remember in the 2000s when it was seen as a loser hobby to spend more than 1-2 hours a day online. the internet was mostly nerdy moids and introverted nerdy or artsy girls.
then after the iphone came out, normalfags came and invaded it and hypersexualized everything and started policing and mocking and shaming everyone and it became so conformist and people started being afraid to show their creativity and for women it became more about marketing yourself and sexualizing yourself to make a profit.
No. 566851
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>>561164Using this as an opportunity to ask other weeb nonas what they've been getting into recently.
I've been catching up with the new season of the apothecary diaries and my happy marriage, highly recommend if you like romance. I also like watching a lot of hololive vtubers right now too.
No. 566954
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I dislike Azealia as a person but she sometimes hits the nail so right on the head.
I'm so sick of first gen white immigrants shittalking black people and acting as if we inconvenience them by existing, as if we haven't been here for centuries, as if we didn't literally build America. Many of our roots go back 400 years. But some Slavic hoes who didn't even learn English until school think they have a right to lecture US on racial dynamics. Hate these racist fucking cabbagehead scumbags.
No. 567187
>>566938>>566954Dr Claud Anderson warned about this 40 years ago. How Black Americans are going to be replaced with Latinos, Asians, Slavs, Muslim and Indians and our voices are going to be increasingly drowned out by these anti-Black groups who want all the attention and sympathy for themselves, and the establishment will cater to and coddle them while they're stepping on our heads.
Our population is stagnating while theirs grows.
As Dr Claud said, if we didn't get anything while being the 2nd biggest group in America, we sure as hell ain't going to get anything more when we become the 3rd, 4th, or 5th minority group in America.
No. 567323
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>>567311i was catfishing them as a sex worker. whenever i ask these men to rank races of women by attractiveness, 95% of them seem to put black women at the very bottom (the white men anyway). other races of men are a bit less harsh but still usually put white and hapa girls first.
>>567312its actually very satisfying telling them im black after theyve given me money lmao
>>567309i use both ai and pictures of sex workers.
these men are extremely horny but still call black women ugly and unattractive and unarousing all the time no matter what and its depressing.
No. 567339
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>>566851I like Kino's Journey and Shinsekai Yori.
No. 567409
>>567383You're talking specifically to men (likely in their 30s or older) who throw their money at AI "women" on Discord, not all men. They're typically also the type to routinely jerk off to the thought of raping and lynching their own mothers and sisters and send photos of them/their underwear to strangers. More than a few Indian and Pakistani men in the mix there, too.
There are no "normal or wholesome relationships" to be found with the kinds of men you've been interacting with, there are levels to porn addiction. What do you think happens to their wives if they're married?
No. 567453
>>567323>these men are extremely horny but still call black women ugly and unattractive and unarousing all the time no matter what and its depressingOther anons are gonna give you a bunch of stuff like, "it doesn't matter what these losers think" and while I will concede that's true, it isn't gonna help you out any because the fact is that it does bother you even though you yourself likely already get that it shouldn't
So instead I'll come at it from a different angle. White men outside of anglo countries loooooove black women. Not saying you should take up with them but white men in Russia and the Nordic countries definitely don't think black women are the least attractive. Chinese men are also known to be really into black women.
Secondly, even these American white men don't mean it. Men say all types of weird shit, especially when it comes to sex. Talk to any pimp or sex worker and they will tell you how sought after black women are by white men. You are stressing over nothing.
No. 567499
>>567476 >I’m worried I’ll live in a future where black women become baby mamas with mixed kids.NTA but aren't black women the most likely to abort? I don't think that'll happen. It's also not very hard to deliberately limit your dating pool to men who take you seriously, regardless of race. I think a lot of women have been shown that "race first" is a losing game. Men don't care, and it actually works great for them if the majority of women in their demographic restrict their dating options to them. Less competition, less reason to improve their behavior (this is also why Muslim men often try to forbid Muslim women from dating out). Even better if they can convince said women that they're only good for sex, or that no one in the world considers them beautiful or worthy of love, so they should just pipe down and take whatever bad treatment they're given. They can literally ensure low standard-having, easy dating/sex options for themselves by publicly degrading their own women and encouraging said women to internalize it and degrade themselves.
What they don't realize is that they're feeding into a cuckold mentality where they not only convince themselves these things are true about the women who stay, they end up thinking that the women who don't fall for it and successfully date outside their race are inherently more appealing or "high status" because "they got picked by the [non-black] man". Those women go from "rejects" and "undesirables" to "traitors" who stepped on their hearts or just "lost" women who "need to come back". It's all very weird.
Aside from that, a worrying number of black men just don't take women seriously. They very commonly leave black women to be single mothers, and even when they date interracially, they're infamous for making other women into baby mamas with mixed kids. Maybe it's a cultural issue, but I think it's a more imminent problem than a possible future of black single mothers with mixed kids. If you're a straight black woman, it just makes sense to put a potential partner's personality traits and his actual vision in life before his race. If not, it's better to be alone. I also find it incredibly unlikely to never have even a single decent person actually want to date you. If literally
everybody only wants sex, there's more than likely some problem. It's not just your race.
No. 567515
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>how i sleep knowing that racist hag from 10 years ago has only gotten older and uglier while i've grown wiser, richer, and prettier since then
No. 567550
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>>567363This is honestly why I think 99% of white women who date black men are dumb or losers. The vast majority of WW/BM couples have an obese, fugly white chick with a fugly black guy. Even if the white woman in question is actually pretty with high dating potential, it says a lot that she's wasting it on a scrote that gets even more likely to leave her a single mother than he would a black woman. Seriously, this type of interracial couple statistically falls out faster than every other type. Very little black men actually have an education and an income worth a shit if you're trying to "move up" in this world, and the vast majority of them never even get married at all. Even when they do get a degree and get a decent income, it doesn't knock the fact that black men create even higher domestic abuse and fatalities when in a relationship with white women. Again, you can look this up. When white women are in relationships with black men, they're even more likely to get murdered than if they were to just remain dating white men. That's why it's just funny to me when nonblack women try to rub it in our faces about "stealing our men". So you guys are stealing garbage? Thanks for taking out the trash, you dummies. I'm sure Danileigh can co-sign what I'm saying.
No. 567579
>>567570Nta but black women continuously malding over other peoples relationship is why we're given
femcel status. Nobody cares that you cry into your pillow when you see bm date other people. Idk why so many of us refuse to believe that our behaviour influences the way people see us. Being constantly
triggered by other women is not a good look
No. 567666
>>567579NTA but that post didn't sound
triggered about men dating out. The anon stated that other women going on about "stealing" black men is like "stealing" garbage, going by some less than fortunate stats. In general, men just aren't a prize in any race (white nonas discuss this a lot), and it's sad that some women try to compete with other women for their validation, even when they're
abusive and horrible.
Also, a lot of these black men are incel kings, if we go by how often they mald online about black women not dating them, and no one even needs to be dating non-black men for the butthurt to flow kek No. 567675
>>567453Ehhhh European moids (German moids especially) treat African women the same way white American techies treat SEA women.
I get that American moids are hateful and horrible from what I've seen from them online, but why would any (self-respecting) woman want to become the ExOtIc concubine/bangmaid of a loser?
t. dutch
No. 567734
>>567692Not what I meant exactly. I've dated since I was a teenager like my peers and none were weird about me being black, including my current scrote.
Over here, Most nonwhite women are rated fairly similarly when it comes to dating, unlike America where there is a clear cut non-white woman "hierarchy".
I just don't want us to get the reputation that other
WoC have. As a Kenyan woman, it's too common to see disgusting Euro moids marrying questionably young women just like they do in Thailand.
No. 567891
>>567692Daily reminder:
Moids treat all women poorly.
No. 567978
>>567971I always have queer people come up to me. Actually, scratch that, I have EVERYONE come up to me. It's weird af how we have this reputation of being super aggro, but the way the general public interacts with us doesn't reflect that. Pan handlers, shy people, homeless people, unattractive people, losers in general. Anyone that seems vulnerable, they always try cosy up with us first instead of anyone else. I had this lady hassle me for money late at night and I tried to tell her no, but she was so insistent that I ended up not only giving her money but also a free ride. I tried everything to get rid of her but she wouldn't let up. I wonder if I were from any other group, would she have left me alone the first time I said no. And it's so weird how people always try to dump their kids on us. I remember when the general consensus was that we HAVE to give a damn and care for any bastard half black child that non black women had. If we're so big and mean, why do they want us as child minders so bad? So strange
No. 567981
>>567971This happens to me constantly online because I have very male hobbies but hasn't happened IRL. It feels like they're seeking absolution for it like a pat on the head from a black woman going "nooo you're so brave!" will fix them.
>>567978I know you're probably aware already but you need to grow a spine. Don't let charity be hassled out of you instead of voluntary.
No. 567985
>>567971I've seen this. I feel like it's a mix of self-victimization, guilt, mammy-seeking and social retardation. They probably want you to handmaiden out and celebrate or absolve them in some way (again, like a mammy soothing a child). A lot of them still have the racist thoughts in the backs of their minds and are trying to do away with them by "dosing" themselves with examples of "POCs" basically being their cheerleaders and supporters in behaviors Nazis wouldn't accept. They might feel bad about how racist they were, but not enough to consider that hearing "I used to be a Nazi" would make you uncomfortable. A lot of trannies also just don't know how to make friends with non-white people because many of them have autism or some other kind of issue that could hamper their ability to undersatand, connect with or communicate with others, even within their own in-group.
The whole thing basically ends up being "Pander to me in my open sexual behavior, or you're helping create nazis", an indirect request (or demand) for special treatment. It seems like for some of these individuals, treating other people like human beings is contingent on whether or not they actively co-sign their bedroom activities or gender identity stuff (all very personal business). I can't understand such a male line of thinking.
No. 568067
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I wanna walk around with big hair, i'm sick of the sleek look. How can I reliably recreate this look? I have length but not volume
No. 568086
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This thread has been posted to 4chan as of late. Most of the people arguing back and forth with you aren't black or integrating. Report and go before arguing about desirability politics and white peen for the 70th time
No. 568216
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one of the underrated things about 90s fashion is bw could dress in tomboy baggy stuff and look gamine and still be considered cute/hot. I think the blowup doll bbl indian bundles look among bw is mostly a combination of 1. pornification of mainstream media 2. overcompensating due to having to compete more with global beauty standards as globalization expands 3. SM-fueled insecurity that came in the later 2010s to get all people insecure enough to buy more things. all of these things impact women of all races, but hateful BM add extra fuel to the fire because they insert their mommy issues from having a ratchet thot mom into everything. so it's normal overcompensation 10x.
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>>568216We can still bring this back, we just need to start putting out our authentic selves out there. There will be pushback for the ones who don't fit the mold of what they expect out of black women, but if we keep it up things will change
No. 568483
>>568097Can confirm. Bonus if the bantu knots look cute as a daytime hairstyle too kek
My dream is to make my bantu knots clean. As of right now it LOOKS like somethibg I do before bed.
No. 571139
>>571128Most of the troll bait topics like anti-black lookisim (colorism, texturism, featurism) have been covered in previous threads.
This thread is now in its on-topic era.
No. 571610
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>>571400Here we go for the third time. And learn to integrate
No. 571747
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How can I get glowing skin? I moisturise but I don't have that same shining from within effect. I've noticed that I mostly see this on women on the darker spectrum so does the colour play a part? Picrel is kind of what I'm talking about. I'd like to be just a tad more luminous. Side note but I love bria.
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am I too sensitive for being weirded out by farmers who complain about characters being imagined brown? Sometimes I feel like the discourse on raceswapping has this undertone of distance and revulsion at the sight of a black person "not being where they're supposed to be"
No. 572849
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>>572681That person sounds deranged. I don't care to dissect the second paragraph about "self-inserting" because it seems very personal to them and nearly schizo, but in general, if they don't also take issue with gijinkas being 90% white with only 1 or 2 being brown/black and "no Asians", they're basically admitting what it's really about for them. Personally, I can't imagine caring how other people draw gijinkas, it just seems pathetic.
My unpopular opinion is that fans can draw or write whatever they want of an existing work. I'm pro genderbends, I'm pro racebending, all of it. As long as it's made in admiration/love for the original work (not to bash someone else), and isn't hideously ugly, I support it. Even if it is ugly, the most I'll do is laugh at it.
Not sure why being a snowflake crying because the drawing was one shade too brown is considered normal behavior, I swear all these people who claim they're anti-SJW are just the same shit in a different direction. It reminds me of husbandofags who start losing their shit when someone else husbandofags the same fictional character "because he's mine!!!", or if someone contradicts their headcanon in any way. Let them cry, they'll never be happy.
No. 574630
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Nonnas, I'm so sad. I ordered some braiding hair from amazon. I usually wear color 30 (which is also what my natural hair is dyed to) but I guess I wasn't paying attention and ordered FIVE packs of color 4! It's so dark basically black, and I just dont like black right now. Do you guys think doing extra small braids would do a good job of hide the color difference between my hair and the braids? Im not too good at tucking, tbh.
No. 574933
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Have any other lesbians here felt like they've been masculinized by white or non-black lesbians? It almost like unless you present yourself as extremely hyperfeminine, they will just assume you're masculine by default and its fucking annoying.
No. 575363
>>575340I don't feel that way in my personal life but I don't want to speak over your experience
>>575350>>575357Oh sorry I forgot to say feel free to do whatever you want. Don't let a random internet stranger get you riled up. Alienate everyone you feel like or don't. Idrc. Just don't fall for the lie that these women will show up and show out for you if you do what they tell you to
No. 575367
>>575365I said
>please don't Not
>I forbid every black girl from doing it. And even if I did so what? Do you have a curse that forces you to do everything you read online? After they're done screaming 4b, they'll settle down with some scrote and have his kids while you have egg on you face because you bought into their lie. It has no bearing on me what you do, I'm just speaking my mind
No. 575635
>>574933I can relate, as a straight tomboy who has been mistaken for a stud. It's so revealing how limited people's thinking is. Black women can only be mammies, instathots or men. It's frustrating interacting with those people because they have such a narrow range of acceptable womanhood.
>>575307how is not fucking men "alienating". Why are people so offended by black women being celibate?
No. 575721
>>575363you say that as if scrotes will show out for us. If you actually build community with other like-minded women this shouldn't be a problem at all.
>>575367the whole point of 4b is to not rely on men and keep our distance from them, so how is it our loss when we get exactly what we wanted out of 4b just because someone else decided to marry a scrote? what point are you even trying to make?
No. 576052
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If anyone saw the "soft features" and "cutie patootie" posts on Twitter with photos of women like Aja Naomi King, this woman from Love Island or just random black girls from social media, and how that had a mix of black women happily sharing their selfies and feeling recognized, and some other black women getting angry, insisting the OP was "racist", "white supremacist" and "eugenicist" for posting photos of cutesy black women with "soft" features vs the "sharp features" post that had no such negative reaction, I just want to vent on that briefly. Ignore this if you don't want to read opinions about discourse from Twitter, or stuff about features in general.
Black people have multiple phenotypes, but we are often stereotyped as chiefly having more rounded/full, soft features and lips, not chiseled, pointy or angular ones. Even our hair is often coily, requires tender care and is cloud-like in appearance in its natural state. In contrast, the features most commonly attributed to European people are sharp, angular, defined and chiseled. Longer faces are also considered more common than shorter ones. It's a stereotypically Germanic standard and ideal, and has been reflected in racial propaganda posters, beauty ads, etc made by them, for them. Long, pointed noses and prominent chins/jaws are considered "Eurocentric". A lot of white high fashion models still have strong, sharp features like that. Up until more "foreign"/diverse and sometimes cutesy aesthetic influences took hold of the west through the internet, those chiseled kinds of features were what was preferred, and lacking those features wasn't considered a good thing.
I think it's interesting that the moment someone describes features commonly applied to black women with positive words like "soft" or "cute", a certain coalition of black women hop in to apply those features to white people (even if white people's own traditional conception and ideal of their looks flagrantly disagrees), call them "Eurocentric" and accuses black women of being eugenicist or white supremacist in mindset. Some of them tried to make their arguments seem less insane by pretending it was just about "makeup" even though they were complaining about the word "soft", and started posting photos of black women they felt were more reflective of traditional black features, but feature-wise, even their examples looked near-identical to the original set of images posted. Even on the makeup front, IMO makeup that enhances softer/more "neotenous" features isn't unnatural or at odds with your natural face if you already have those features, especially when it's natural type makeup. In contrast, the more Kardashian-tier drag queen makeup style with the extreme contouring seems more concerned with distorting (some) black women's natural features to create a more angular, "cunty" western high fashion look and elongate the face. I think it's astonishing that we can't even be happy with traits some of us have that were/are typically panned as "inferior" or too round in the past.
If they were serious about the feature discourse, they would've directed even more anger at the "sharp features" thread for shining a special light on those black women, because if we go by the featurism narrative, it's the black women who do naturally have "sharp" features that are more favored in a Eurocentric society, not "soft" ones (this is also no fault of their own, and it does not make them Eurocentric or less black, contrary to some people's beliefs). Instead, they were completely silent. The unspoken associations one might have with the word "sharp" vs "soft" are pretty apparent to me, and it just goes to show that some very stubborn types want black women as a whole to have this image of hardness and strength. Some of them are so forceful with the "racial warrior" narrative they want to push on us, and the only space they allow outside of that is this hyper-artificial, often pornified "hard" IG baddie kardashian look that not all of us like or even suit. It just won't work. We are a diverse set of people, regardless of whatever political stupidity others might apply to us, and I wish some of our own kind would understand and accept that.
No. 576067
>>576060Cut out anything or anyone
abusive or denigrating toward your beauty routines. Surround yourself with content that treats it as normal, because it is for you and a large chunk of the entire planet. Focus on nice-looking/pretty styles and tutorials.
Regarding questions, prep yourself to distinguish between abuse/insults and curiosity or lack of knowledge. IMO, tone and context and your existing impression of the person are everything. I understand the anxiety and hyper-vigilance of waiting for someone to be cruel. It almost feels like self-protection, but it isn't if it's causing you pain pre-emptively. Positive experiences will help alleviate that.
When I felt myself thinking back to when I was bullied, it helped me to look past the words and actually think of the person(s) saying them. I'm not going to explain who or what they were, but after I realized what they were actually doing, and properly considered them/their background, I realized it was foolish to internalize anything from them, and it became easier to let go. A lot of people have a tendency to assume the people who bash them are speaking from above, like they have the right to say anything or that they "have points", when so often, that just isn't the case lmao. The person(s) who bullied you don't have the right to your mind, they're pathetic and more than likely just latched onto whatever they could to bash you about. Consider if whoever attacked you over your hair even had basic protection from head lice? Anyway, good luck nonna.
No. 577193
How do I not let people bully me and morally grandstand at me if I don't want to protest? I am alone in life except for my pet. If something happened to me, no one would notice and she would starve. If I get disappeared, no one would notice or care and that's just depressing to think about in and of itself.
I am abysmally poor with a shit job and have very basic state health care. If I get tear gassed or shot by rubber bullets, I don't have the resources to deal with that by myself, especially if there are long term effects. I'm also in an extremely white city and very obviously black so I would be a huge target. I have immigrant parents, I am disgusted by the government, but I can't afford for something horrible to happen to me. I'm tired of the guilt tripping and finger wagging.
Latinos are also so fucking anti-black too and I regularly get treated like shit in my daily life by their community. Like even moreso than white people.
Most racist white people have the decency to not make eye contact and keep it pushing instead of giving me dirty looks and mumbling insults. Not always, but for the most part. I'm tired of being made to feel like a bad, immoral person. Not in black spaces online, but everywhere else there's an expectation for me to show up which I find really gross.
If they end up being completely peaceful, which I doubt given our police and local white supremacist group not letting that happen 5 years ago, maybe I'll just look dumb and paranoid in retrospect. I'm not wrong for wanting to protect myself.
No. 577236
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My hair finally grew back long enough to try and do the bantu knots routine. I want my cute curls back, so I'm excited. I was miffed I cut it all off to recover from surgery. (Low blood pressure made it so I couldn't raise my arms long enough to wash my afro)
Here's to hoping I don't look like a complete clown in the morning kek
>>577193>How do I not let people bully me and morally grandstand at me if I don't want to protest? My strat has been to agree to protest and
conveniently get "food poisoning" whenever they try to have something get done.
No. 577652
>>577193When "those" cops see black people at protests, they go insane and use it as an excuse to get even more violent. Black women are neither spared or protected.
I just point this out and move on, to be honest.