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No. 199512

Being a black girl is frustrating as fuck. Being a girl in general is infuriating at times. There's really nowhere to vent about it so I thought I'd make a thread for the black girls who wanna vent and the girls who wanna ask questions or are curious about the black community and all of the fantastic sexism within it! Lol.

No. 199513

One thing I hate about black mothers is the business of humiliating their teenage daughters for clout. Fucked up. Black mothers do this more than anyone. Instagram is there main platform to do this shit. Like black mothers, specifically hood ones,lick the ground their sons walk on but if their daughter so much as sneezes they're main mission is to emotionally break her. It's sick, honestly.

No. 199514

I kinda wish that there was more of a distinction between Black American/Black European/Black Caribbean/African/etc. People on the internet are extremely American-centric and it seems like Black is just short for Black American. I grew up in America but my family came from Ethiopia and I can’t really relate to any culture or experiences expect racism I suppose. Growing up was rough though, I don’t know about the rest of you but I have always struggled with styling my hair. I default to straightening it and I’m bad at taking care of it naturally.

No. 199515

This is an interesting thread, I hope anons don't get weird and race bait. Due to all the racism compounded by the sexism black women face, it seems like you're forced to either find internal confidence or self destruct. I think a lot of black women have risen to the challenge though; this has even been shown in studies where black women (in the U.S.) typically have higher levels of confidence compared to latinas and white women (https://www.glamour.com/story/black-women-more-confident-other-groups-females-survey). For those who feel they've mostly become immune to criticism and pettiness from racists/sexists, how would you say you got there? Was there anything in particular that really opened your eyes or lessons you held close? Did you get to that point on your own or with the help of others? I know being a "strong black women" is a shitty stereotype at times, but for sure the world pushes you to find self confidence and I was wondering how that has worked out for you (or not).

No. 199529

This thread is for sure gonna get locked (a lot of newfag-y threads have been popping up on /g/) but I'm gonna reply anyway This isn't all that related to your post, but your post just reminded me that I actually dislike the term "African-American". It just makes no sense to me. Most black American people don't have any recent African relatives, have never been to Africa, our experiences are different from African people, and to be honest, we don't know much about the continent as a whole. Anyway, I relate hard to the hair part. I cannot my own hair for shit, and I'm super tempted to just relax it but I shaved it all off 2-ish years ago, and I really want to commit to growing it out and not put too many harsh chemicals on it.

No. 199531

OP here! Sorry I should've been a bit more clear, I'd love to hear about what black girls in other countries are going through too

No. 199532

Sadly, I feel like son-worship is pretty much common all around the world, with some exceptions in America and Europe. Even then, religious places in America and eastern european still have this problem

No. 199534

No. 199542

Do you guys use social media? I avoid shit like TikTok like the plague because I've seen so much bullshit and racism/sexism stemming from it. I just don't want to make myself angry or upset. I lurk Twitter accounts, but I see no value in posting "to the void", and I haven't found any community I can feel 100% comfortable participating in.

No. 199543

had my hair relaxed since i was 13. 23 now and i never really had a problem with it. I've heard everything from praise for my choice, to being questioned on why i 'rejected' my natural hair but I don't really care either way. While I didn't have much of a choice in getting it relaxed, I wasn't unhappy with it. It stayed healthy and kept pretty awesome length. but, im getting kind of tired on having to rely on a stylist just to do my own hair. i have to keep it from getting wet, I can't wash it as often as id like, its just… annoying of all the hoops and lack of control I have with it. So, after mulling it over for some time I decided I want to cut it all off. So I guess it'll be going natural. I kind of like the idea of starting over. trust me, it makes me nervous. But it gives me a chance to learn my own hair from the ground up and really take control. wish me luck anons.

No. 199544

Model's name? She looks Asian.

No. 199546

I hope it goes well and you can feel at peace anon that does sound frustrating to not do what you truly wish with your hair.

No. 199548

I'm not black, I'm latina, but I love this thread idea!! just came here to support it

No. 199570

Thanks for your support,anon!

No. 199572

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No. 199573

Never being able to have cute straight hair without relying on relaxers.

No. 199583

I'm sorry! I thought she was black because of the photo. I wish I'd looked into the photo before using it,my mistake!

No. 199670

My hair really fucks me up sometimes. It's relatively long, but that's because I keep it frankly shitty protective styles all the time. To clarify, they're shitty not because I think the style looks bad, but because I'm doing it myself and am not very good at styling my own hair. I wish I could regularly do interesting/pretty styles that didn't require so much time or that I had the $$$ to pay someone else to do it for me. I constantly think about shaving it and just keeping it short and it's mostly because I don't want to deal with the level maintenance I have to do with it at it's current length. I really really wish it was because I liked the short haired look (I think some women can look really pretty like that, but I don't think I'm one of them), but I'm just a lazy fuck lmao.

No. 199671

Lol it's ok anon. It's actually kind of funny. Someone should make an Asian Girl Problems thread with a black girl as the thread pic.

No. 199677

Are farmers lipstick alley members?

No. 199681

I was thinking about joining but the site seems kinda hard to navigate…

No. 199685

I was for a while, but I had to stop using it because of that shitty update.

No. 199692

I only lurk

No. 199693

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Anon,have you tried putting your hair in cornrows and then having someone put in crochet braids or hair of any sort? It's so much easier! You can keep it in for a couple of months too and it actually looks good if you take care of it. Crochet saved my life lmao. You get to have it in a protective style with little work and still keep a nice appearance!

No. 199698

God this, I also dislike how the black american twitter types constantly speak in "we"s as if everyone is a hivemind and no other black people outside of burgerland exist.

No. 199699

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Get into japanese Straightening nonny

No. 199701

This is the 3rd samefag and I promise it's the last, but I want to take advantage of this thread as long as it's open.
Did any of you try african black soap? If yes, can you recommend any onlineshop selling genuine ones? I keep reading that everyone gets the good ones from their relatives, but that's not an option for everyone.

No. 199706

Sorry if thats ot but is it okay for me as a non black person to compliment black girls hair? I love your hair styles but bc of the internet it feels weird and fetish-y as if it's exoticizing

No. 199712

Yeah, it's fine to compliment our hair. I don't really know what you mean with the last part, but the internet doesn't represent real life. Just compliment black people the same way you would any other race And don't try to touch someone's hair without permission, but that's pretty obvious

No. 199713

Just say "your hair looks nice"/"i like your hair" or something. If you're worried about seeming fetishising keep hair talk short and move on

No. 199715

Of course it is! In fact I'd encourage it,it really makes my day when someone complements my hair. Don't worry about fetishization it's pretty easy to avoid,just don't anything weird like "God I love your African hair chocolate queen" and you'll be okay.

No. 199720

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I HATE the way black women are portrayed in media so much. I can't stand it, honestly. Me and my boyfriend watched the Winx club remake out of curiosity and it was so annoying. First of all they white washed Musa for some reason? I guess they couldn't find an Asian actress?? They did Aisha so dirty. She follows Bloom around like a lost dog and plays mom of the group,she barely has a character of her own or a love interest. I know it's shallow but I wish they'd cast a cuter dark skin girl to play Aisha. Also why do they dress the girls like middle aged moms?

No. 199731

I haven't, but I'll definitely look into that. Thanks!

I'd say that it's fine to do that if you genuinely like whatever style you're seeing as long as you're not overemphasizing the blackness of whoever you're complimenting like >>199715 says. I might be in the minority that still finds it flattering at the same time as finding it uncomfortable as fuck lol

No. 199741

The pain knowing that no matter how much time and effort you put into your appearance your race will always be a determining factor on how attractive you are, it’s so exhausting. Also depression being extremely niche and taboo in certain black communities

No. 199746

All the things that made Winx great (fashion, diverse characters with own personalities, fun whimsical setting) is gone in the new one. Honestly I think they made it that way just to spite us. That director was so sure of himself he didn't even care or do any research about what the fans liked. You know how triggered men get when women have a show all to themselves.

No. 199753

I remember this being a talking point of black women online as we moved into the 2010s. I never cared then because I was an ugly teenager, race notwithstanding. Now it's harder to ignore how political people make their attraction/lack thereof when experiencing it firsthand. Always a mention of black people's political troubles, how long did it take to get your hair like that, you're well-spoken, rinse and repeat. There has to be a script when talking to us and it feels like life drifts on in a feedback loop. I think it's better when you speak to less men though. My sympathies for those attracted.

No. 199754

I've heard that it can be extremely damaging…

No. 199760


Aisha was the most annoying character on that show. And it annoyed me even more because ofc it had to be the black chick.

I also wish they chose a cuter dark skinned black chick to play her, but since all of them look like soccer moms from the 80s with the exception of bloom (sometimes), I guess it's okay

No. 199836

Growing up I always found black girls extremely beautiful. Then as an adult I realized a lot of people view them as ugly, especially white guys, which was insane to me. The weird thing is, you see guys fawning over girls, who a lot of the time basically just look like depigmented black women and have black features but on a white face with white skin. But as soon as those features are on a black woman; they get called vulgar or ugly. It’s crazy to me.

No. 199845

oh god can we please have a thread on black women without this shit.

No. 199852

Tiktok is just a platform for pedos to jerk off to barely legal blonde chicks twerking, the humor is trash too, black girls have no business using that shitty app you aren’t missing anything sis trust me

No. 199853

I love black e-girls and some of them are incredibly creative and gorgeous, but it really does feel like they have to spend 10x much time and effort on their appearance in order to get noticed, whereas white or Asian e-girls can just throw on some wonky winged eyeliner and a polyester aliexpress dress and still get millions of views or hits. Meanwhile the black girls I see put so much more effort into their hair, makeup, styling, outfits etc and come up with tons of new trends, yet only get a fraction of the credit or attention. It’s unfair.

No. 199856

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It's rare for a white girl to look like a depigmented black girl. Having fuller lips or a bigger ass than the average white girl won't make a white girl look black. Also, they almost never have features as large as the average black woman and when they do it's usually disliked. Look up any conversation online about Angelina Jolie and white men are complaining about her lips.

No. 199859

I'm surprised no one has posted any racebait in this thread yet

No. 199867

Do you know where you are lol

No. 199879

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When I was like 15 I got groomed by a racist swedish man and remembering that pictures of my underaged body are in that man's hands makes me wanna die. I was so insecure back then. Any dude showing me any attention back then made me do stupid things. When I got older I kind of grew into my looks. I just remember being young and seeing men say horrible things about women that looked like me and it tore my confidence to shreds at a very young age. Honestly the internet is so toxic to little black girls or atleast it was back then. I really wish my parents were more attentive about that. Just a quick PSA.

No. 199880

Yes? It's not like racebait on LC is unheard of.

No. 199882

Threadpic considered, I thought this was a bait thread tbh. Something about it is weird.

No. 199883

I’m so sorry that happened to you, and i completely agree with you. my mom wouldn’t let me have a phone until 10th grade, but gave me unrestricted access to the internet on my personal laptop at 8 no less…

No. 199889

How is this thread racebaiting? Are you seriously going to fucking deny that it’s hard being a black woman? Fuck off and hide the thread I have no patience for people who are like you.

No. 199890

They get attention but the problem is that they’re always overly complimented. Whenever some black person is on Tiktok the comments always overdo it and it makes it seem like that black person is just an object to oogle at and it a human being, it’s really weird. People only do it to virtue signal and it’s really sad

No. 199891

The pic is literally an Asian woman in black paint. It does look like bait.

No. 199900

Maybe that’s the point anon. Asians are pretty fucking racist towards black people and mock darker skin tones

No. 199903

I feel like as a black woman, you're held up to a certain high standard that you have to uphold and act out otherwise you're seen as just ghetto trash or stereotypical rachet.

No. 199904

Nta, but I don't think it was intentional. See >>199583. Seems like an honest mistake from OP, imo

No. 199934

White men love Russian women and a lot of Russian women have naturally large lips, flat broad noses, round skulls like black women do. But they only like those features on white chicks. It’s weird.

No. 199939

I think is kinda sad and frustrating that everytime I'm browsing through Instagram searching for 4C hair tips or models, the algorithm starts suggesting me misogynistic/racist jokes by scrotes or child abuse references, i hate it here so much.

No. 199957

to me, what helps the most is keeping a clear perspective. i will always be black, i'll always be a woman– of course, i didn't choose to be either of these things, but i'm making the best of it. so if people criticise me for things i didn't choose… how is that my fault? why should i even care? it's not like i can control the thoughts and behaviours of others, just like they can't control mine. it's not my job to cure anybody's bigotry, nor defy their preconceived notions of black women.

you know what my job is? focusing on the shit that actually matters, shit i have some influnece over. i wouldn't describe myself as a "strong black woman" by any means; i don't even know if i'd consider myself confident. what i can say for sure is that, while prioritising my own, i only really care about the opinions of one or two people. everyone else is irrelevant.

i hope that helps at least a little bit, and that maybe some other anons will chime in with their own experiences. at risk of sounding cheesy, i have a message for all the black women in this thread: no matter what other people say about you, you deserve to be happy.

No. 200006

Anon,there's no need to be aggressive. You're free to hang out but you can't be a psycho or anything, alright?

No. 200009

please don't take it the wrong way, I've been on lolcow for a few years now, so I assumed it was just a racebait thread but I am pleasantly suprised there are genuine posts so far.

No. 200224

Russian women have a variety of looks, but big lips are not common. Also, most Western men have never met a single Russian or Eastern European woman anon, nor do the majority of Western men give them a single thought. They have become a meme so you'll see a lot of internet chatter but incel talk is not reality. I think the uncomfortable truth is most white men don't like dark brown skin. It's not so confusing when you understand this.

No. 200364

Struggling to understand how the fact of dark brown skin/brown skin general is viewed unattractive worldwide?

i just find very funny that when you think of how black/darkness it's always associated with something negative then bam here we are…shits irritating

No. 200366

it's unattractive especially in women because it's a masculine trait. no man regardless of race wants a woman darker than he is(racebaiting)

No. 200425

NTA, but no it's not lmao. There's nothing "masculine" about dark skin, this is such a pathetic cope.
Pale women often tan their skin to sometimes extreme levels to look youthful and less wrinkly, and melanin literally increases with estrogen levels.

No. 200443

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Men are weird. I don't necessarily think that's true because let's be honest men will fuck anything. Men just like to neg women. They do it with pride when other men are around. Dark skin women are just an easy target. Especially black women,at least in the US.

No. 201187

Weird coincidence that the woman considered the most beautiful white woman in existence has black features but white skin

No. 201199

lmao have you ever been to eastern europe

No. 201235

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Yeah, as a tiny-mouthed Slav I call bullshit.

No. 201237

Can you stop saying this tbh it's embarrassing and I really think it's going to attract race-baiters and trigger infighting. Just knock it off. Slavs don't look like us and we don't look like them.

No. 201466

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Albanians on the other hand… KIDDING

No. 262092

>As a tiny mouthed, flat-assed black girl, I also call bullshit
anyone can do this

big lips are definitely more common on Slavic people–obviously not to the extent of Black women on average, but definitely larger than anglo europeans or even some other ethnic groups.

No. 262102

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I can't believe someone necroed this thread to talk about this again.

No. 262122

love the catpic

No. 262263

just a reminder: nobody, of no demographic, is entitled to some kind of quotas of such and such suitors. There are many legitimate variables that will freeze you out of dating whole segments of society, especially religion comes to mind

No. 262277

Kill the thread

No. 262332

Those are plastic surgery production lol venus angelic looks slav go off of her lol(internet explorer moment)

No. 262345

women aren't

No. 262353

I love how you posted this in the black women thread because they really need to hear this, most of them are even worse than trannies when it comes to sexual entitlement!(bait)

No. 262355

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>>262353(ignore bait)

No. 262557

Anyone in an interracial relationship? I'm not insecure or anything, or at least, I try not to be. My bf is white and I saw a pic of his ex recently and goddamn… she's fat and ugly but white. Here I am being insecure becasue he told me he didn't want a relationship in the beginning after a while he did. I was like, you were with her but here I am starving myself for what? It's so infuriating living in a world where white women are praised for doing/looking like the bare minimun, but bw and other WOC (esp. dark skinned women) have to jump through hoops just to be treated the same. I'm not shaming this girl for her looks, I don't even know her, but I hate that I feel this way.

No. 262565

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Please don't starve yourself! If people aren't appreciative, they just have bad taste and they're brainwashed.

No. 262876

I'm a bit slavic and know a lot of slavs, they definitely have huge noses and small lips compared to black people. I'm not saying this to put down black people either as we both know big noses and small lips are considered unattractive. Slavs are only attractive because they have light skin, hair and eyes. They're also very lithe compared to people of color who tend to be curvier or have broadest figures.

I also don't understand why people think black women are unattractive. They're not seen so in my country and most black men and women in my country look like models because they're very beautiful and tall, although it's a middle eastern country so it's given. I think this whole issue is caused by racism as black women are quite beautiful just as any woman and people who tend to disagree are almost always mysteriously racist incels.

No. 262913

Omg thank God I found this thread anyways I would like to give a very massive fuck you to the creators of invincible. The way they handled ambers character was God awful. As soon as that gay character said she was a fourth wave feminist I KNEW that she was going to be a sapphire and I was right. And I don't even need to go looking on the internet to know she was dragged from hell and back cause she's a black girl especially. I think I'm going to write the creators of that show a very angry email. I'm just so pissed. I'm not even finished. Layla from winx should honestly leave the group. She goes blind, her family is turned into fish lizards and her fiancee dies but oh noooo sky didn't reply to a text from bloom how could such evil exist??????? I also think tecna is too good to be in the winx and should move on to better things honestly but that's another convo for another day.

No. 262920

ALSO I hate black girl characters in Hollywood stuff. They're always used as walking psa's for whatever opinion the creators have on black women. I was going to watch lupitas New movie the 355 but when I saw that the other girls got dresses but she got pants I couldn't do it. Ik this seems nitpicky but honestly it's a way for Hollywood to subtly drag black women. I was also going to watch the new batman movie but apparently someone I was talking to online told me not to bother because the black girl character is beyond stupid and is like she was created so that the watchers wouldn't root for her because the decisions she makes are just awful. Lol lemme jog my memory so that I can puke out all my thoughts

No. 262922

Don't get me started on black girl erasure in the media . Whenever there is a chance to get a normal black girl character she is always of mixed race it's so annoying we can never have anything. I hate how people (and it's even more disheartening when it comes from other black women) always say black people can look like anything to further help this erasure. You will have a woman who's great grand dog was black and somehow she's qualified to be a black girl but it's never the same for the boys. Unless you're near charcoal black you aren't a black man. OMGGG and apparently in the new wonder woman comic thing they finally gave nubia her time to shine but they completely ruined it by adding transgender amazonians into the story which to me was honestly a bad idea because it feels like whenever a black girl character is involved in a story it is always politicised and people are going to blame us as if we have anything to do with anything.
I have a love hate relationship with the princess and the frog because I would absolutely poke both of my eyes out for Tiana but her story and movie sucks ASS. it makes zero sense. So they made her struggle her butt off because it was more "realistic" but then her bff in the movie is the daughter of a sugar baron? On top of that her Prince is broker than broke and they didn't even bother to make him from anywhere he is just ambiguously brown. They make her work day and night just for her not to get her restaurant through her own merit. It was the magical crocodile man who intimidated those guys to give her the restaurant.

No. 262924

I miss the 90s. All those black girl groups were sooooo good. I'm sad we don't have that anymore.

No. 262925

Just make it all one post, what are you doing

No. 262929

Sorry for blowing up this thread lmao but being natural was the best decision of my life my hair is so thick and fluffy now and I hate that the only time it's shown in the media is when some dude who wouldn't even pee on them if they were set alight gets killed and it's time to protest with their fists in the air. Why attach such a militant image to yourself when your image is already being dragged through the mud ugh. I'm so proud of black women recently standing up for themselves. That kapernig guy basically said that black women and girls were basically going to fight the system or whatever and the comment section was not having it so I'm glad we're not as brainwashed as we were 10 years ago. Also why do they have so many damn movements in their name. All they do is make noise and no real progress why even bother.
I'm starting college this year and I'm so scared that I'll either get a bunch of micro aggressions or people thinking they're doing charity work by talking to me.
Sorry to be so flip floppy but when I first went natural my mom acted like I had just killed someone and she still does but now that I've gotten past awkward length and have a full fro she wants to parade me around her friends like "look how long my daughter's hair is!" "Shes natural, it's all the rage these days, you know?" Every time someone comes over she always brings up my hair for no reason. Rant over unless I think of something else

No. 262930

Sorry I don't know how this place works I thought there would be a limit or something

No. 262931

How do I put up pics(you're not ready for it)

No. 262933

fuck off back to twitter you gd normie.

No. 262936

I don't have a Twitter.

"Being a black girl is frustrating as fuck. Being a girl in general is infuriating at times. There's really nowhere to vent about it so I thought I'd make a thread for the black girls who wanna vent and the girls who wanna ask questions or are curious about the black community and all of the fantastic sexism within it! Lol."

You came here on a black girl vent thread but you're mad that a black girl is venting.

No. 262938

Anon, read pls
The links don't work so just copy and paste them.

No. 262939

A new thought has popped into my head. What is up with black girls nowadays praising the most mediocre looking white men? There is nothing attractive about Pete Davidson, Ryan Reynolds or Jack Harlow (esp him because he's a wigger)

No. 262940

Thank you <3333(<3333)

No. 262942

I just read the rules and it says that you can't have threads dedicated to specific races? How is this still up?

No. 262943

Targeting specific races. Basically, no racebait threads. That same rule also says no nationality threads, but we still have a ton in /ot/.
The rules are outdated anyway.

No. 262944

I don't mind how natural hair looks but ime it's a pain to comb through and gets tangled too easily. Idk what else to do with it besides shave it off.

No. 262949

Honestly for me it was trial and error. I use olive oils when I do hot oil treatments and use acv with water when I wash it. At night I will either put it in a bun or do cordelettes/ African thread stretching, open them back up in the morning and use a water bottle to revert my hair but not shrink it to my scalp. To get a full rounded fro I use a blowdryer on the strands of my hair closer to my scalp and leave the outer circumference of my hair untouched by heat so that I don't change my coils. When detangling I just use a leave in conditioner and water and brush from tip to root. A lot of the time my hair is in braids especially during colder seasons which helps unload the work load lol. I hope this helped <3

No. 262950

Ah ok thank you for clearing that up.

No. 262971

No biggie

No. 263122

I'm not in an interracial relationship (yet) but I have been in an interracial relationships before. Normally when I saw old pics of my (now ex) bf's ex girlfriends I normally think of how better I am i.e how nice my lips are, how curvy my body is, how fun I am with introducing my exes to new activities and my hobbies etc.

Don't down yourself anon, you're probably an amazing person and the fact that your bf is dating you is an improvement compare to the exes he had. Also dont spend too much time dwelling on his exes, just move on and don't think about it.

No. 263137

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Does anyone have any advice about how to feel less insecure about my natural hair?

Back in school I used to be made fun of for my hair and hairstyle, I used to either have it in an afro or cornrows. I did ask my mom a few times about getting my hair relaxed and she refused and I'm glad I didn't get it done. Since high school I always been wearing wigs when out in public.

I'm inspired to wear my natural hair out but i have no clue on making it look nice. I also have another problem of my sister pulling my hair every now and then, its too complicated to go into detail, so some parts of my hair is shorter than other parts.

Side note, I kinda relate to the character Missy from Big Mouth. I never really did anything nice and fancy with my hair. My cousin introduced me to wearing extensions but it takes way too long to do and take out.

No. 263141

Ew, please don’t compare black people to those snow barbarians. I think this gets misunderstood often, a lot of black women do not have facial features in common with white people but we look weirdly similar or share facial features and characteristics to those from ethnic groups on the Asian continent. I’ve seen other black girls and women get accused of “asian-fishing” because of this fact, it’s really annoying like the reality is that we don’t resemble or look like nasty ass Russians or Eastern Europeans and if there were why would you ever want that? Stop that anon lol, love yourself

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Kek get fucked angry racist moid

No. 263157

Are you the anon who had a ragefit and spammed weird videos because Russian women were brought up on the beauty standard or whatever thread? Get help. All women are beautiful.

No. 263193

lmao cope, I'm so happy I was born a european woman. we're the gold standard for a reason.

No. 263194

even though you think you're being a hero, you can't racebait in reverse either anon.

No. 263200

>gets compared to slavs
>mistaken for a european
I don’t think that would ever be a compliment to anyone living on this planet except for people who sadly hate their own race.

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I wish I knew how to be more confident in it. It's a fucking journey, and the way other people (including black people) treat natural hair makes it more difficult. It's like I feel like natural hair is beautiful on everyone but me.

No. 263204

>thinks i'm annoyed because i want black anon to think we and blacks look the same
>ignores the "hehe ewwww who would want to look like them"
black women don't have the privilege of looking like us(bait)

No. 263205

Are you done pretending to be a Russian woman?

No. 263207

im nta, I just saw this this on the home thread. Responding to racebait with more racebait is just retarded

No. 263208

My apologies anon, I thought I clicked on >>263193. They've been doing this in another thread.

No. 263210

Its definitely not a woman posting. Whats funny is im a slav myself and I honestly couldn't give two shits, I think women are beautiful to each culture they're from imo

No. 263217

I'm not russian, but i'm eastern european. and thank god for that! our women are beautiful, really any european woman.

No. 263219

>hehe i'm slav, you can call me an ugly snow barbarian tehe, only a moid wouldn't be ok with that
you're embarrassing lol

No. 263222

The interracial topic upthread has me thinking, I've been seeing a trend where black girls with white boyfriends will call them "master" as a joke and it's like…wtf are you doing? Maybe I'm just being sensitive, but I find jokes like that so tasteless and and demeaning. Just be normal and not weird about being with someone who isn't black. I say this as a woman who is into white guys.

Anyway, sorry if this is veering off into racebait territory. I just wanna get the thread back on topic.

No. 263228

go back to /pol/ scrote

No. 263230

chink defence force

No. 263231

No black women wants the privilege~ to stink like shit from their gaping wound hole. Go 41%

No. 263411

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I've had my braids in for 3 weeks and I really should re-do them but I don't want to

No. 263416

internalized racism.

that's what happens when black girls grow up in majority white suburban schools. black people in general, tbh, since black boys in this dynamic are also weird and let their white gfs call them nwords and slaves.

No. 263647

Yeah same here! I got judged by other black girls when i was in high school and it was them who tried to straighten my hair. They ended up burning my hair and i was even more embarrassed of my hair because of it. Even the basic afro is difficult for me to style and make it look beautiful

No. 263708

Same anon, except I have two stranded twists so it makes me feel even lazier that I don't feel like redoing them lol

No. 265374

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I hate how black women (usually older ones, ime) will put down other black women for their natural hair. It's like they hate the idea of other women feeling good about their natural hair.
>When are you getting your hair done?
>Your hair is nappy
>Do something to your hair
Let me wear my low-effort fro in peace damn it! Having it out doesn't mean it wasn't styled or isn't "done". No I will not be getting it chemically treated, there's nothing wrong with coils betch.

No. 265386

This hair style is so cute

No. 265392

I personally think that natural curly/kinky hair is really cute and beautiful, although obviously the most important thing here is that you're happy and comfortable. Don't let people bully you into hopping on the latest bandwagon.

I used to get bullied in school for having really thick eyebrows (this was back when tweezing your brows down to tiny sperm shapes was popular) and I'm so glad I didn't give in. All the girls who bullied me permanently ruined their eyebrows by overtweezing them, so now all those girls are dropping tons of money for microblading. Stay true to yourself, and don't let bitter bitches rope you into fads.

No. 265464

Hyperpigmentation, I look horrible , I have it on the side of my face and neck. I just look horrible.

No. 265477

yeah. I have it all over my entire face and body. I've just given up at this point

No. 265495

here’s a video that helped me finally get rid of mine! it’s a routine specifically for us

No. 265499

My mom said it's because me and my sister's necks are dirty, it's annoying. It's not dirt, I'd think a lot of black women would understand this but sadly now I think everyone thinks I look unclean, I also have acne and I'm 27. It's just so sad, I feel so unwanted and ugly.

No. 265582

Wth is wrong with this thread???? You can love yourselves without putting other people down or you can kindly stfu. You'll find beautiful and ugly people anywhere so stop

No. 265591

Who put someone down? This is just a thread for women to talk about their issues.

No. 265599

Anon haven't you learned yet? Kek

No. 265615

You have eyes. Time to put them to good use.

No. 265620

Why not just directly address whatever posts you're talking about instead of being vague? The last few posts before yours were on-topic and just talking about "Black girl problems", which is what this thread is for.

No. 265621

Because this thread isn't that long? Just scroll up if you're that desperate to find them

No. 265622

I'm not desperate to find them, I just don't get the point of vagueposting.

No. 265786

I checked posts and didn't see anything wrong. I don't think that anon saw anything but she(?) dislikes seeing non-white women proud about themselves. There have been a lot of unhinged race baiters lately, probably one of them.

No. 266284

Anon,can you shut the fuck up. I made this thread so black girls can vent wtf do you think you're doing? Filling it with arbitrary racebait like a drooling retard? Fuck off back to lipstick alley or whatever. This isn't for dunking on white women you idiot. By doing that you open this yourself up to aggressively racist responses and then the thread gets filled with people shitting on black women turning it into a really unwelcoming place for black women specifically. So annoying when you do shit like this. Who does it benefit?

No. 266765

Lipstick Alley rant & Lack of black female spaces online rant-

I'm so sick of fonts who become groupies towards other women for having a decent or rich man. I worry about the self esteem of some women on that site, because they genuinely think the biggest accomplishment in life is getting a "high value man" and judge women only on whatever scrote they have and how he treats her. Then I'm not even sure if it's fake "black women" or real black women making some of the most disgusting and discouraging posts anymore.
I'm sick of the constant threads focusing on children.From people justifying why it's okay to call/imply North West is fat, or pretending to be "concerned" about her weight. To freaking out over LeBron's son prom date (while claiming they don't care) and the fact there's a whole thread talking about celebrity children's looks like fucking creeps.
I feel like the site is slowly getting worse. There seems to be a lot of TRA who suddenly popped up. Then there's the gay men who say whatever they want to/about women but get mad, when people talk about troons, gay or bisexual men.
I feel like everything is so male focused. Some fonts don't even hate non-black women because of racism or ill-treatment, it's purely based on them thinking, BM "prefer" them. it's getting to the point where light skinned women with monoracial parents get hate when a bm dates them. Kendrick Lamar's wife is black, but light skinned, yet fonts were dissecting her race & she's not black enough for Kendrick to be "Woke"..
I'm sick of going into threads where the woman is attacked for being chosen by a black man. Almost every non-black woman who dates a BM despite her background or if she's ever said anything about black women, is always getting called, "Basic" and insulted.
I'm sick of seeing young black women being picked apart for the smallest of shit. Or only being praised when they are chosen by men (Lori Harvey) or disliked because they are treated badly by men.
It's becoming the female version of the Coli.
The difference here is I feel solidarity. Even when we don't agree, I know this place is "woman first". Even if we are all different colors and have different opinions. I never feel bad as a black woman or get told, "You'll never be this or that".
It's not scrote based hate if that makes sense.
It's sad because it's not even the scrotes ruining the site for me. It's other women. I wish there was a better place for me as a black woman to discuss shit, without focus on troons or expecting me to be okay with that. It's like the ONE place you can express yourself freely about certain things besides here. I hate the lack of black female spaces online where you can say what you want. Maybe I'm just getting too old.

No. 266766

If this thread gets a second installment, I hope it can be more of a black girl general. Not that I don't like this thread (I've been contributing and posting), but it feels kind of bad to have a thread strictly to talk about negative aspects of being black.

No. 267098

Just to piggyback what you said, I wish more black female youtubers put out content on how to navigate the world as a black girl. Videos about what you can do to spot colourists and how to act accordingly or how to do hair other than lacefronts and fashion advice that isn't fashion nova inspired would be much appreciated. Heck even a 30 witty things to say when someone is being misogynoiristic(?) Video would be a big help but instead omg black man is dating non black woman reee. I was honestly much better off before knowing that type of content because now I feel like everyone is out to get me.

No. 267099

Someone definitely should. I might when I figure out how to

No. 267667

I’m so glad I’m getting braids next week. I’ve been natural for some years now and it’s gotten frustrating as hell having to wash it every week and doing the same style, the LOC method/twist outs being my staple style. I’m thankful that it grew thanks to my routine but I’ve gotten tired of maintaining it and I haven’t washed it in two weeks and I’ve been wearing up in a bun during that time, only spritzing it with water and putting some oil and moisturizer in it. I’ll be washing it for my braids and go back to blowouts or flat ironing it when I take them down.I’m not giving up on being natural, I think I just need a break from it for a while

No. 267697

Is there any black women who got adopted by a white family? If so, what are your experiences (do you have siblings, are they also adopted or bio, did being raised in a white family made you confused regarding your ethnicity)
I'm white and would want to adopt in the future as I don't want to have bio children

No. 267733

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I'm not but there are a lot of books on this topic you may want to check out. Take a look at
>Surviving the White Gaze: A Memoir by Rebecca Carroll
>In Their Voices: Black Americans on Transracial Adoption by Rhonda M. Roorda
>Raceless: In Search of Family, Identity, and the Truth About Where I Belong by Georgina Lawton

No. 267741

Why would you adopt a black child specifically? I'd understand getting along with a child and adopting them regardless of race but choosing to adopt a child of a specific race irks me. I'm not black but I'm brown by the way.

No. 267743

NTA but I think she is wondering this in the event that she adopts a black child. It doesn't sound to me like she is saying she wants a black child specifically.

No. 267744

.. why not just adopt a white child? you realize how many poor white kids are in the foster system?

but you gotta virtue signal and adopt a black baby lmao

No. 267749

nta. That's not necerssarily how it works depending on where you are. Where I am from the best adoptive parents are chosen for a child not the other way around so adoptive parents don't get to pick and choose a skincolour. You get matched with a child and it's take it or leave it.

It was obvious anon was talking about a potential scenario, not that she's actively looking to adopt a black child specifically for their skin colour. So unnecerssarily catty.

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>so adoptive parents don't get to pick and choose
that is quite literally not true at all. There's a reason why people complain about the number of kids/teens/disabled/etc stuck in the system without ever finding a home.

No. 267753

In the U.S. 49% of adoptive parents are white yet black children are overrepresented in foster care (23%). Why would it be a bad thing for a child to go to a home that wants them and get out of the abusive foster care system? She's also clearly trying to prepare and be considerate of the child's situation and the confusion it might cause instead of pretending being "colorblind" is a thing.

No. 267760

> This isn't for dunking on white women you idiot

nta and unrelated but god do I wish we could do that in this thread without getting banned

No. 267765

There's always lipstick alley, uwu

No. 267770

nta but did you even read?

>Where I am from the best adoptive parents are chosen

Its the same here, you can't pick and chose a child, you have no say in skin color or sex

No. 267773

sometimes I forget that I lurk there kek

No. 267778

I love when people dunk on me solely for my race, really dehumanizes me

No. 267813

Do what? Be racist?

No. 267833

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>tfw this thread will probably be locked because every 5 posts is someone coming in to racebait
Pls nonnas, keep it civil. We're all farmers at the end of the day!

No. 267860

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Any black nonnies that love their hair but hate how much work they have to put into taking care of it. I love my hair on its own but i don't like how it gets dry and tangled easily. It makes combing and styling such a pain. I'm over styling it in braids and cornrows because removing those is also a pain.
I think dreadlocks are the easiest because they do need moisturizing but you don't have to comb your hair and you can dye it without worrying about hair breaking. Planning on getting locks and dying it like picrel

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Wish I had a normal, non-woke black female therapist to help my with my problems. I feel embarrassed to even speak to a white therapist. I know most therapists and doctors make fun of you behind your back, but I have this belief that black therapists are more likely to see you as a normal person with struggles than as spectacle to be mocked. Crazy thought.

No. 275484

I was talking to a friend i have online, she's mostly woke and she said to me The amount of black men I run into, that I find out are into trans with penises or like gay/trans porn on social media scares me".
It just made me realize that while We don't have to worry about black moids trooning out unless they are gay, a lot of black moids are either bisexual on the low. I don't know if it's a "pornsick" thing, or if it's just the community CAN be homophobic a lot, but I don't think it's all that. Men can kill, rape and cheat, but they can't come out about their sexuality? I'm so sick of coddling black Downlow moids. Homophobia isn't an excuse anymore, when some of them freely do whatever they want towards women anyway. If you are brave enough to cheat, beat and kill, then you should be brave enough to be honest about your sexuality or date/fuck your "preference" in public.
Dating for some black women in certain areas already is shitty, now I feel like every other dude is a trans chasers or DL in general. Or has multiple kids etc.. I wish I could talk about this more, because I DO believe different women have different unique situations when it comes to navigating the world/men of their race/ethinicty. It just turns into race bait so much and nonnies are rightfully put on alarm, because they think it's a racists moid/women venting.
I just feel like the way I am, and with how pornsick & disgusting men are, I just wish they'd be honest. Let me know whose into what so I can avoid. Where I live has the most bottom of the barrel MOC & I wish I could be attracted/open to other kinds of men, but I know what I truly like. I need to move.

No. 276951

>whites complaining about wokes in a black girl thread

No. 296385

I fucking hate snow bunnies and ppl who get into relationships with black people and make dating a black person their personality.

No. 296399

You mean non-black women who try to emulate the characteristics they associate with the black people they date? Or non-black women who think they're special for dating black people because it's basically a fetish for them?

No. 296400

sounds more like the latter but i guess it can also involve the former

No. 296703

Believe me, white moids don't like the snow bunnies about as much as you do. They call them mudsharks. Horseshoe theory in action.

No. 304132

The Megan thee stallion thing is disturbing me to my core. It is a black issue this isn't just simply, "oh a woman being treated like shit because she's a woman"
True. The people attacking her has been the black community. Simply because she's not the perfect victim but get this, Torey isn't the perfect person either.
I'm watching today some rapper who was apart of a a criminal organization get happy responses because he got out, despite the fact the gang he was on being linked to multiple deaths of black people, but meanwhile MtS is a hoe and she lied about sleeping with Torey. So that means we need to not believe her, but a man connected to deaths of black men even if he didn't do it, oh that's okay. Whatever, free young thug! Even if people said he tried to kill someone, free Gunna. Even a confirmed killer, who rapped about the death of a underaged black boy. Was mourned when he passed. Doctor Dre beat black women, who cares.
Da baby killed a black mam and slapped a woman? Who cares.
People can look past their flaws because they like their music but MTS flaws cannot be ignored. Even if she's a pick me, I do not care.
I just feel like crying. Nobody cares about us, even other black women don't care unless we are perfect.
But will throw on a cape for a dick haver. Nonnies got mad at the person in ot who said that black female pick me-ism is different. IT IS.
You know how people look at women who thirst after serial killers? We have confirmed killers who create music or are in violent gangs who are looked up to and idolized. Yet a black woman says she's shot by a man with a violent past and she has to PROVE to us she deserves sympathy and respect. R keys biggest supporters are black women. People don't understand how much support men get in our community and how much women suffer from our brains of pick meism.
I can't describe It but I know what I see and feel.
I know the community I grew up in. It's getting worse for black women. The only community is the black male community and the women who defend them.
You have to find those who want the best for you. I feel so bad.

No. 304205

It disturbing, but not surprising. I hope black women never forget this incident and peak. Holy shit do we really need black women to wake the fuck up to this bullshit, it's been too long!

No. 317447

sis same. pictures of my 16 year old self with my face in them are on some turkish bastard's hard drive to this day. i was emotionally blackmailed into dating his mid-20s ass because he'd "kill himself if i, his only love, dont give him a chance and be his girlfriend". obviously he didnt kill himself when i broke up with him soon after turning 18. i wish he did. wasted my youth and innocence.

No. 321971

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Sound like a such cope(global rule #7)

No. 322060

my biggest struggle right now is not knowing how to cornrow. cornrowing unlocks so many different hairstyles/crocheting but I can't do it! Did anyone else struggle and learn how? any tips? I've watched so many YouTube videos and I just can't get it

No. 322997

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I get so tired of discourse about how other women do their hair. Literally who cares if you're natural, or if you relax, or if you wear weaves, or if you wear wigs. WHO CARES! When when black people get tired of criticizing and scrutinizing other black people for how we do our hair? You can't win either way. Just do what you like. There was a time in my life where I was so deeply insecure about my hair because of stuff like that, that I shaved it completely off. I'm glad I learned to ignore the BS and do what I please. Live and let live.

No. 323094

Nice try, you’re very obviously picking the least attractive people from one race and then picking the most attractive from another race. And you put women with albinism also there, you’re a complete fool.

No. 323104

I'm neither black nor white so I'm not biased but girl, we both know this isn't true. Judging from the foreigners I've seen in my country, most white people are objectively more unattractive and look nothing like the photos you sent. They look MUCH worse than the average black foreigner in my country. I've only seen one or two obese black women in my country for example but %70 of whites I see are obese and literally a disgusting shade of red because they're sunburnt.
It's ok to be proud of your ethnicity or whatever but if you have to pick models for your race and random people with albinism(although fetishized by white supremacists, it's still a birth defect that leaves people vulnerable to skin cancer and such) for black people while arguing about attractiveness, you're probably not attractive.

Also I bet the black women with albinism you posted to mock look 100 times better than you. Even when placed next to literal models, they manage to look cute while your mug would probably look deformed when compared to models.

No. 323131

That post is from a week ago, replying to a post from a year ago, and already got redtexted for racebait. Why is it so hard to fucking ignore instead of continuing the BS?

No. 323441

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>Has to wear fake hair to even compete 
Cope and seethe(global rule #7)

No. 323460

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>random people with albinism
They're literally
professional models
>fetishized by white supremacists
it's joggers who spread the "whitez iz dravidian albinoz we wuz real euroz" drivel and afrikangz iz the most diverze, right?(racebaiting)

No. 323462

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I agree. I am so grateful for the natural hair movement and for all the education and brands that we have now. My hair is longer than it has ever been in my whole life. But looking at a lot of straight naturals on youtube, they still get a lot of hate for no reason, they all seem happy. I hate that changing something about ourselves so harmless as hair is suddenly self-hate or anti-black. smh. I still view relaxers as the devil though.

Week late, but my cousins always practised them on those doll heads. I really wish i knew how to cornrow myself, so many possibilities and doors close when you don't know how to do it as a black woman and hair dressers nowadays are getting very bougie. Ngl, i only want to know so i can fit a wig on my head lmao.

No. 327776

Sometimes I feel like companies purposefully make the price of beauty products (especially hair products) for black women super expensive cause they know that we're willing to shell out the money for it.

No. 327788

They definitely do. Black women have a lot more spending power than expected, but these hair cair companies and such are aware. And they're also aware of the attitude lots of black women hold towards our hair..double whammy.

No. 327790

This post is old as hell so I'm saging but lurking white women wondering: please don't unless you have a lot of black friends or something. Black kids raised by white parents almost always have weird ass complexes and identity issues from it and when they become adults they become extremely unbearable to be around.

No. 327797

that's worse than aging out of govt programs with nothing and no one?

No. 327815

This isn't a black issue but issue for anyone who's not white/from a western culture. There used to be a lot of Germans who adopted muslim kids for example and made them eat pork and drink alcohol against the children's wishes, making a child drink alcohol alone is child abuse. Some parents are just not fit for it but a good adopter family who's willing to learn about a children's culture and such can be a good parent imo.
Is right and nonwhite kids already have a hard time getting adopted(I'm nonwhite as well) so a white family adopting a child is probably better than a child never getting adopted.

No. 327838

Honestly I think adoption is all around predatory and gross. A black kid never getting adopted and ending up alone in the system vs a black kid growing up in an environment where literally no one looks like them or knows what it’s like to navigate life black and what that does to the psyche early on is like being asked to pick between regular shit and diarrhea. But I’m just anti adoption as a whole especially if you look into adoptions origins and how transracial adoptions actually impacts the kids into adulthood. Spoiler it impacts them extremely negatively.

I honestly can’t imagine being forced to be raised by a white family I don’t care how well off they are personally. You’ll never truly feel included even if they do everything right because society will remind you every step of the way you are different from the time you are a kid. Hearing testimonials from transracial adoptees I just can’t condone it. Also I just don’t trust white people who take it upon themselves to adopt black children because it’s rarely black American children they are adopting they would rather wait DECADES to adopt an “African child” than a black American living in equal amounts of squalor here in the USA. They literally adopt Africans or Asians from Asia because it makes them sound like super heroes at dinner parties. It’s gross. Especially when one look into adoption you can see that there are so many black American kids who end up alone in the system anyway because white adopters would rather black children from Africa. Not only are blaxk american kids competing with white children to be adopted they are also competing with black children from Africa and Asians from Asia etc etc. it’s disgusting duck adoption!

No. 327839

Another thing to your final point I don’t believe that. Especially after hearing thst case of the 2 white lesbians adopting a bunch of black kids, treating them like slaves and then killing all of them by driving off a cliff. I’m sure those kids would’ve rather stayed in the system then be subjected to that trauma and terrible death. Again FUCK adoption

No. 327840

Wouldn’t even NEED adoption fr if the government actually helped parents with their children instead of taking them away for daring to be poor and giving all the money to strangers to take care of them lol. Weird behavior!

No. 327855

>You’ll never truly feel included
I don't know, I feel very included. I'm not black, I'm Peruvian/Mestiza but my family is white. I live in a country full of blonde white people and my parents were very honest with me from the get go about what happened and why I look different. They didn't treat me like a circus freak or have any racist motives, they just wanted a child. If your parents aren't crazy, there's no reason why you as a child of a different ethnicity would suffer more than an orphan.

Do you have any idea how traumatizing it is to be all alone with nobody to care for you? And on top of that imagine living in a shitty orphanage where you may or may not be bullied by kids who were left there for god knows which reasons. And imagine you get really sick, and you're just a kid and can't take care of yourself. And you don't know if you will ever be happy. I have terrible abandonment issues and don't know how I will cope when my mom and dad and older siblings die, I'm so grateful to have this family because only someone lucky and privileged enough to not know otherwise would think orphans fare better on their own.

No. 327923

I'm the poster you're replying to, yeah I agree with you on the matter that adoption is predatory. I've literally seen white women say they'll adopt from eastern euro/asian countries so it'd be harder for the parent to try and reach out if they wanted to. White people who adopt nonwhite children sometimes have really bad intentions and government can take children away from their homes for very minor issues just for the child to get abused/traumatized/etc. much worse in the adopted family or the system.
Wtf that's evil. I've also heard of cases like that but didn't know of any that led to murder, adoption is such a dangerous industry, especially for minorities.
Fr! They'll take kids from families away because they're poor, place them with abusive families and think they fixed an issue.

No. 328421

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If any of you do your own hair, get one of these mirrors.

No. 328657

I'm the original person who said white people should avoid adopting POC kids. I think I should have explained better. Don't adopt any POC kids unless you're willing to understand the culture and help that kid navigate growing up through it. And yeah, there's actually a heart breaking amount of cases where a white family adopts the black kid to be the "servant" child/treat them like a lesser and don't help them navigate life as a black child. Tbh adoption as a while is fucked and should be an absolute last resort.

>I'm not black but
Respectfully, your experience in the system won't be the same as a black kids, because you weren't one. I don't think all white families adopting POC children are ill meaning, but even the most well meaning ones just usually aren't equipped to help a black kid navigate through life as a black person. Unless they have a black friend or spouse or something around. There's a social hierarchy to race, and blacks at the very bottom. Not to be a pessimist or race bait or anything, and this doesn't mean that I feel like a lesser being because I'm black, but I'm definitely aware of the sheer amount of people who believe it and want me to believe it. The whole concept of "code switching" for example.

No. 329913

thank you you're a life saver!

No. 332100

How do you anons feel about divestors?

I personally think the overall message of only giving time to men who will treat you correctly and not being a servant for men is good, but I think a lot of divestors are actually pretty toxic and parrot trad shit. It's like a lot of them don't think "stop being a handmaiden for men" they just think "stop being a handmaiden for black men" and also blatantly ignore problems with men of other races. I also notice that a lot of them talk down on other black women, and while I think some black women do deserve criticism, I can't really get behind it. I exclusively date interracially so I don't have a problem with that, but I can't vibe with the divest community. But I'm here for more young black women realizing that they don't have to take a bunch of shit and also I hate the people who are anti-divest even more.

No. 332116

I’m sorry but I’ve been living that way my whole life, both my mum and dad have taught me to disengage from the “black community” yes, group with fellow Africans and protect our name, but never make it your one sole goal. We as black people are really on our own here, it’s literally fight to survive and as much as I feel betrayed by black men and their constant scapegoating they do to black women I can’t help but pity them and pray they heal. Beloved by Toni Morrisons really did shift my view on this whole matter

No. 332591

I can see the appeal but, some of them are so bent on completely disengaging from the Black community that they delude themselves into thinking that cheering for far rightoids is their ticket to salvation because they’re, “one of the good ones”. It makes divestors look like a bunch of naïve, hurt women who just want to prove they can bag a non Black guy.

No. 332595

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I have a question for you all
>I am white, my husband is Brown (South Asian) but I have several close Black friends that I am embarrassed to bring my husband around because he identifies with Black culture

My husband loves all things Black American and for the most part it's harmless but when my Black friends are around he does not shut up about how brilliant Jordan Peele or childish Gambino is, and stuff like that. It's honestly kind of embarrassing and I'm worried my Black friends are going to hate him. It's especially annoying when he acts like being Brown in America is the same as being Black when it comes to discrimination. His brothers are the same way and I think it's because they grew up in a town with only white people.

My question is, do I need to talk to him about this or am I over thinking it? Is this a known issue that exists and has a name?

Image for attention, he is luckily no where this bad

No. 332708

A lot of nonwhite women believe a random white man is going to come and fix it all because white men aren't as bad(misogynistic) as men from their race, it's not true though. I don't think white men are anywhere as good as most make them out to be. Don't forget that white men have always committed the worst crimes against nonwhite women, don't you know that double eyelid surgery for asian women was literally invented and practiced without any proper painkillers by white American men because they wanted the Asian war slaves they kept to have bigger eyes? Don't you know that they still travel to third world countries to rape underage girls in disguise of sex work? That there used to be an epidemic of white single man coming to Thailand alone and leaving with a baby/kid?
Don't you know how many nonwhite women get hurt by white men and they never get their justice? Yeah black men might be bad but don't trust white men either. Men of all races are dangerous.
I agree with you, the far right weird white men are really insidious as well and I wouldn't trust one of those guys.

No. 333470

it’s cringe seeing them interacting with rightoids and parroting they way they speak for internet points. Their racism to Africans and worship of European culture makes me uncomfortable tbh

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