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No. 2022269

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Discuss all topics pertaining to Autism, Aspergers or ADHD/ADD experiences as a woman here.

Talk about the difficulty of diagnosis as a woman, the struggles that accompany autism or with being compared to male autists. For anons with ADHD/ADD, discuss your struggles, or share your advice to cope with your issues related to your attention disorder.

Or even discuss your thoughts on how recent attention to autism/ADHD on social media affects those afflicted.

No. 2022273

The last thread was filled up and I got tired of waiting for a new one so I made it myself, hope it's all good. I wanted to continue the animals in autism hat picture theme going so I edited this image together too. It's unique for us!
I like this thread because I feel a sense of solidarity and camaraderie with other autistic anons so it's always nice to know we have each others back itt.

No. 2023569

>>2022273
Thanks for the new thread!

No. 2026886

Does anyone else struggle with thinking they move weird? Whenever I'm surrounded by people I always become self-conscious of the way I move, I feel like I'm not doing it right compared to anybody else.

No. 2027000

>>2026886
You probably are. But take up space anyway, don’t apologise for what you are.

No. 2027008

>>2026886
What do you even mean by moving weird? If it's the fact that you move while standing up, it can't be helped, I do that all of the time and I don't even do anything to stop that. But if it's like, while walking or something like that, just don't slouch over and that's basically it.

No. 2028755

>>2026886
All the fucking time. I used to get made fun of for things like "sitting weird" in school, even. Many autists have hypermobile joints or other conditions that affect how our bodies move so for us weird movement is more normal.

Besides, plenty of "normal" people have fucked up posture and gaits nowadays because of sedentary lifestyles and phone/computer use, so you probably don't stand out that much.

No. 2033485

>>2026886
>Does anyone else struggle with thinking they move weird?
Some of my autist friends do move weird, though I feel it's easier to clock male autists from how they move than female and even then it's not all males either.
Like other anon said, just be you and move weirdly if you have to, nobody actually cares unless it's inconvenient for them.

No. 2033496

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Do you go to the gym, do sports or exercise in some way? Any tips for exercising that works for you autist nonas? Doesn't matter if it's weird, I wanna hear it all (ADHD answers also welcome)
I want to become more active and health.

No. 2033552

>>2033496

I am autistic + ADHD, I like to go on long hikes and have a physical job (survey work) but don't really like other forms of exercise

No. 2033553

>>2033496
I always feel worse after exercising

No. 2033555

>>2033496
I'm autistic, I've noticed I prefer having an instructor telling me exactly what to do so I don't worry about what to do next or if I'm doing it right or wrong.

No. 2033559

>>2033553
maybe you're doing it wrong? Or are you just really out of shape?
I used to feel worse afterwards when I was out of shape, but now that I'm in better shape I feel better.

No. 2033561

>>2033496
I have a stationary bike in the living room and pedal when I play vidya. Works great for getting a lot of exercise without noticing. I also go for short hikes in the woods, although that's more intended to get outside than to exercise. I'll try to do radio calisthenics a couple of times each day, vidrel is my favorite! Can't wait to hear about your own exercise journey nonna!

No. 2033562

>>2033496
I work with kids so my job is pretty active but not enough so i go to the gym. I struggle with my routine because it’s boring to use the machines so i mostly go to classes that last an hour from monday to friday but i always fail Friday. I went depressed two months ago so i quit during that time but I’m back at it again, it helps me to think it only last an hour and then i can go home. I recommend it or any type of sports nona, makes you feel good

No. 2033638

I was diagnosed with autism at age 12 and I'm still suspicious of their reasoning because it makes no sense to me. I think it really might just be that I was cold and quiet to the people who were assessing me, in a way they interpreted as social deficits instead of me not being acting like buddies with unfamiliar adults. To people I knew I think I came across as a normal person, they thought it was as bizarre as I did. I cannot think of any "stimming" that I did at the time. Oh and I also had interests like every other kid on the planet, gotta be autism. Also may have been to do with my lack of eye contact, which is funny because not looking people in the eyes was a habit I developed at a young age out of a misguided belief that people would be able to hypnotize me with their eyes.
I've known a few other girls who also got autism diagnoses that were a huge shock to me, who didn't even seem "off" at all. Funnily enough they all grew up to be tifs.

No. 2033652

>>2033496
I go to the gym. I used to work out at home, but never had the self control to properly do it

No. 2033734

>>2033638
>misguided belief that people would be able to hypnotize me with their eyes
Even if those doctors were wrong, you're definitely more interesting than the average person.

No. 2033832

>>2033734
I used to believe that looking at gold could hypnotize me also (saw a shitty tv movie in which someone was hypnotized by a gold pendulum and made the wrong connection)

No. 2033874

>>2033496
find some outdoor physical activities that you like to do! i love paddle boarding and hiking so i do those as often as i can when the weather is nice enough. i have a gym membership too but i don't use it as much in the summer when i can do the activities i really like, i mostly only use it in the winter months or during rainy/cold weeks just to get off my ass a little bit. i find it hard to motivate myself to go to the gym whereas i love hiking/paddling so its easy for me to get out there and do it

No. 2033905

>>2033496
>Do you go to the gym?
I really like exercising at the gym and at home. I think it's a good way to stay healthy. I think developing a good workout routine in one's youth and sticking through it is a great way to maintain one's strength, self-reliance, and figure throughout the ageing process. At the gym, I don't really look for extrinsic signs of progress (e.g., are my muscles bigger, is my figure thinner, etc.), instead I enjoy the intrinsic signs of my improving fitness and state of being like being secure in my ability to lift heavy things (like grocery bags or water jugs), being able to walk and run for prolonged periods of time without getting tired or sweaty, and feeling more in-tuned with my body. I'm one of the autists that struggle with the "clumsy" factor, so working out with weights is a really great way for me to improve my coordination and my self-esteem in terms of being in control of my body. I also think going to the gym is a great way to meet new acquaintances, especially if you do spin classes or yoga classes on a regular basis. I met two people I like to workout with that way, sometimes we go for drinks too.
>Any tips for exercising that works for you autist nonas?
Going to the gym shouldn't be a big issue, but when I first started going I was very nervous and I felt self-conscious. I think that's just the fear of being in a new place and not knowing all of the inner workings of gym culture and etiquette, and after a month of going I soon realized most people were too busy lifting weights or too caught up in their own workout routines that they didn't even notice if I had failed at something. So, if you feel self-conscious just try to remember that nobody is really looking at you. I still go to the gym later in the day (around 11PM or 12AM) just because I like it when the gym is a bit quieter and I don't have to wait for any machines, and it also limits any social anxiety I might randomly experience. Another tip is that you should already know what you wanna do before you get to the gym, most people separate their workout routine into three days that each focus on a different muscle group, and they do the same workouts every time but slowly increase the weight or the amount of repetitions. When I was starting, I went up to the gym counter and I asked the girl working if she could come around and name all the different machines and then I looked up how to use them later, after I looked up how to use them I just had to practice once or twice and then I got the hang of it. So, try to get an understanding of the machines (it's easiest to watch Youtube demos once you have the names of the machines) and try to get yourself into a good routine where you're using 3-5 machines per gym trip, alongside 2-3 exercises with free weights (you can also look up these, e.g., "exercise with dumbbells for shoulders" and a lot will come up). Sometimes it's hard to maintain a routine, but I think that's one of the pros of being an autist at the gym: once I get into a routine, I follow it through. A lot of my friends admire my dedication to go to the gym 4 times a week, but really to me it's just what I do all the time, if I don't go to the gym I don't feel bad about it but I'll follow along to a dance workout from a Richard Simmons' VHS. When you're working out, remember that the mind-muscle connection is really important. When I started going, I thought if I did heavy weights it would be more beneficial, but I ended up always struggling through my workout and never doing the right moves. Try to find a weight that works for you, i.e., a weight that you can use without straining yourself, that you can use to perform the workout action SLOWLY, and that after all your reps are done you feel a slight burn in the target muscles. It shouldn't be too light that you don't feel anything or that you can do double the reps. Performing the moves slowly with intent is important; a lot of gym newbs will slam down weights but that just means they lost out on a repetition because they let the weight go too fast because it was too heavy.
>I want to become more active and healthy.
This is really important and I think it's a great outlook for you to have. Our health is very important, everyone says so. Once you take the appropriate steps to start fostering your health and acting in accordance with the desire for good health, you'll quickly realize that it's not just a psyop by gym owners: working out really does make you feel better about yourself and aids you in maintaining overall health.

Sorry if this post was spergy but I always like to give informative answers when people talk about the gym because I used to struggle so much with it and now that I'm at a place where I feel confident and secure, I like to help out others the same way some special people helped me out when I first started. If you want nona I will even post my beginners workout routine in the health and fitness thread on /g/ (I don't want to spam this thread with something off-topic). Let me know if you want me to post it.

No. 2034010

>>2033638
do you have a copy of your report or can you get one? i got diagnosed as an adult, but i asked for my counseling/psychiatrist records once and these people misunderstood me so many times it was infuriating.

No. 2034253

>>2033905
thank you nona! (and other anons who answered too!)
>remember that the mind-muscle connection is really important.
What does this mean? I'm leaning towards going to the gym by myself because I like having a routine set (and I already like taking walks in nature regularly so I'll be doing that too).

Do you think not doing different muscle groups in rotation and instead doing like a general lighter all-over workout is bad? I think my goal is slow progress and general strength, so I don't need maximum immediate muscle gain and would rather not have my body aching so much I can't function afterwards. That's how my teen friends made me work out with them years ago and it's just not sustainable for me to lose an entire day afterwards because my legs/arms/something is in constant pain and shaking. They basically kept insisting if it doesn't hurt you didn't train well enough and aren't getting any effects from it. Those girls also had their own adult sports trainers encourage training until you throw up and that just doesn't sound healthy to me… but they were also sportier and in better shape than me doing all that.

Also how long are your gym sessions? How many reps do you usually do? I'd like to see that routine too!

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>>2034257

No. 2035049

>>2033638
>I cannot think of any "stimming" that I did at the time.
At the time? So you stim now?
I had a friend who is 100% autistic who doubted her diagnosis because they didn't get what she meant when she was 15-ish and being evaluated. After getting to explain herself to them she accepted that she was actually autistic, because all the signs were still there.
What you said reminded me of it, like "I didn't avoid eye contact because of social issues, but because I had this crazy childish belief that they could hypnotize me" not realizing that "childish belief at an age you should have grown out of it" can be a sign in of itself too. Not saying you are an autist tho, have it re-evaluated if you don't think it's correct.

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>>2033496
ADHD anon here, I take a weekly dance class right now. The gym never worked for me because I wouldn't go regularly and would waste money by not going too many months. But a sceduled class where you HAVE to be at a certain day and certain time? I can do that. Haven't missed a day in a while. It's also a lot more fun than the gym, and I can notice my leg muscles grew.

i also bought something like picrel for homeoffice and it might seem silly but it does help me concentrate better

No. 2036340

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How fucked am I? What should I do?
So I studied education (I had no other choice) and my face blindness is quite a problem. I just can't remember the faces of most students, and no, it's not that I see faceless beings like tiny slendermen, I just see generic faces that I forget completely about after a while. I also can't remember their names, the names just leave my brain, they disappear.
This has happened to me for years, I used to be in denial about this but I think this is it, it's actually going to fuck up my career for sure.
Like, I had to work with some groups of students for almost 2 years and I think I only remember the name and face of like 2 students out of around 120 students, meanwhile non-retarded teachers just learn who these kids are after a few weeks.
My parents say that I just don't care about them (which yeah, I don't feel like I truly care about them) but I should find a way to remember them, there must be a way.
I've tried so hard to remember names and faces, I even have a friend that keeps showing me her favorite actors and stuff but I even have a hard time remembering who they are.
I don't know what to do.

No. 2036355

>>2036340
Ok so I’m genuinely concerned that I’m slightly face blind or something. It’s happened to me several times where I’ve met people multiple times (without being drunk or otherwise inebriated) and they’ll come up to me and say hi and I just cannot for the life of me place where they’re from or how I know them. Or I’ll “sort of?” recognize them and know that I’ve met them before but I have no idea who they are. I can’t remember what most of my high school teachers faces looked like and I can’t remember a lot of their names, meanwhile my friends immediately remember funny moments from freshman year “when Mr. So-and-So said XYZ to this kid and it was hilarious” and I guess I was there but I don’t remember it at all?
It makes me feel insane. I’ve also done acting and I can memorize lines, no problem so I don’t know what my deal is. I took one of those online facial blindness tests that had celebrities as the faces and I passed and knew who they were so maybe I’m just self-centered and I just don’t remember people

No. 2036358

>>2036340
Honesty is the best policy. When you first meet the students, just let them know that you have a problem recognizing faces and it might take you a while to recall names even though you know who they are. I'm mildly face-blind as well, and most people are very understanding when I explain I'm just not good with faces or names. I could know a person well and talk to them countless times, but sometimes I just won't be able to recognize them or place their name. It's a fault that I've learned to work around.
>>2036355
It could be that you're just bad with names or faces! It's really not that big of a deal once you explain to people, just laugh it off and tell them you've been dealing with it for years and they'll understand.

No. 2036599

>>2036340
I agree with other anon, embrace life as a face blind person and tell people you meet about it

No. 2037881

Does anybody else struggle strongly with the ability to reciprocate conversations? It greatly hinders my ability to form any close bonds because i can't help but naturally be so disinterested in anything that isn't my special interests, which sounds to stereotypical, but it's so painfully true in my case. I often have to force myself to smile so i look engaged in the conversation and i am always at a loss for words as to how to reply to people almost all the time, so conversations die faster than they should have. I wish there was book that straight up taught me how to have conversations because everytime i go to a therapist, that's really what i seek out but i never get that help that i need because it's almost like it's something reserved for children. I've had speech therapy as a child before, but only because i was non-verbal, i sometimes believe hadn't my teacher forced my parents to seek it out that i'd still be non-verbal until this very day. Sorry for going off tangent.

No. 2038019

>>2037881
Have you gone to an autist therapist or a speech therapist for adults, or have you just tried general therapists?

No. 2039671

>>2038019
General therapists, i struggle to find any speech therapists for adults near me at all, but i think i will try again.

No. 2039695

>>2037881
>Does anybody else struggle strongly with the ability to reciprocate conversations?
All the time. It's easier to have deep conversations over text or when I know someone's conversational patterns, but very hard otherwise.
>i am always at a loss for words as to how to reply to people almost all the time
Same. Most of my conversation responses are nothingburger, but there's ways to make it less obvious:
>casually/supportively affirm what they're saying. "Oh, I understand xyz. That happens sometimes." This is helpful when people want to vent about lighter subjects.
>ask questions. Especially if you're not sure what they meant. Most people like to talk about themselves, so it's easier to talk less when you ask questions and let them fill the space.
>most people will answer "How's your day going?" with either a socially acceptable "fine", or with what they've done that day. If you hear anything that you're interested in (for example maybe they went snowboarding that weekend and that's something you're into), ask questions about it!
>sometimes it's okay to let conversations die off for a few hours/days if you've exhausted small talk options. If you need to do something else, that's a convenient excuse to take a break and then come talk to that person later.
Not all of these are 100% appropriate at every time, but they're okay as quick-n-dirty hacks to keep a conversation going. As for struggling to get interested in topics that aren't your special interest, the main solution is to fake it until you make it. That's the only thing that worked for me anyway. I still don't give a hoot about most acquaintances' personal lives, but I can at least appear engaged and ask them questions to make them feel better in the conversation, and that makes them happy. Good luck nonna, I hope you find a good speech therapist soon.

No. 2039983

>>2037881
They can be hit or miss, but have you ever tried a support group for other adults with Aspergers? I go to one semi-regularly and I've made a lot of friends through it. I know that autists and normies have different ways of communicating, and while I don't struggle as much with talking to normies anymore I still like to hang out with other people like me and sperg together about topics without feeling ashamed or making them weirded out. I find that I get on better with other people with aspergers and I can enjoy my conversations with them more than with normies.
>I wish there was book that straight up taught me how to have conversation
There are actually books for this! When I moved out on my own I actually bought a book to help learn the art of conversation because I thought it'd be a good way to hone my skills and it easier for me to talk to people. You can find a lot of conversation books online that will help out, even one's specifically aimed at people with aspergers. It's not just reserved for children, don't feel that way: in fact a lot of normie adults don't even know how to hold a proper conversation, so I think everyone can benefit from reading one of those types of self-help books and learning how to be more communicative and to hold better conversations.

No. 2040211

Is there a way to be undiagnosed with autism? I was diagnosed as a teenager, but now as an adult everyone around me has it (not sure if they are self diagnosed or actually diagnosed) and now I feel embarrassed to be diagnosed, is it possible to get a second opinion maybe?

No. 2040218

>>2040211
You can always go in for a second opinion or dispute a diagnosis. I felt strange reading your post though. Just because it's a social media trend right now doesn't mean you should feel embarrassed or ashamed of being diagnosed. I've also had to deal with a faker in my old office job, it really disturbed me. I don't usually disclose my diagnosis at my jobs, so seeing someone faking it in such a way seemed so obscene to me. Once he brought in "stim toys" and everyone was being so fake supportive and all I said was "Is this appropriate for the workplace?" Eventually this led me to leaving the company, in a the end most people at work were either angry at me for being so blunt with the faker and I felt too annoyed to go on working there any longer. Sorry for the blog post, I just wanted to share to illustrate that most of these social media addicts that say they're autistic really can make it worse for real autists, it can be disheartening but we shouldn't let it affect us. Eventually the trend will shift to another disorder, just like how it switched to autism from depression in the late 2010s.

No. 2040334

>>2040211
Do you really want to be undiagnosed because identifying as autistic is "cool" now? It's possible, but that's a dumb reason unless it's seriously affecting your life. In a few years these people with jump to the new "cool" thing like all the other mental illness trends. I remember when everyone was "bipolar", then "OCD", then "social anxiety", and then "ADHD/autism".

No. 2040547

>>2040211
You don't have to tell anyone you are autistic.
>>2039695
Thank you anon!

No. 2041708

>>2040218
>>2040334
>>2040547
Thank you for replying, I don’t tell anyone I’m autistic unless I know them well, I never mention it in professional settings. A lot of my co workers who claim to have it seem so normal though, even my little sister has been diagnosed even though she’s a far cry from what I was like at her age. I used to rarely bathe, eat the same few foods, couldn’t travel on my own or make eye contact with people, completely melted down over certain smells and noises but I have all of those under control now. I’m really at a loss as to wether I’m actually autistic or if it was just a misdiagnoses, especially since everyone around me seems to have it now and I’m nothing like them on the surface. Sorry for rambling, I’m just at a complete loss mentally.

No. 2042660

i rarely go out but today i decided id tag along to my boyfriends board game night with 8 other people neither of us knew, i walked in and i was fighting back tears and eventually rushed to the bathroom and couldn’t stop crying. for a while i thought i had a bit of a grip on my autism but i feel so defeated today, as if its a rude awakening that i will never be fully settled and comfortable in society especially being bipolar as well. i’m now a young adult and i don’t want to be a neet for any longer but government benefits give me access to partial health cover for doctors which i use twice monthly etc. i’m in australia and it’s definitely not enough to live on if i were to move out, and the biggest problem is that if i get a entry level job the minimum hours they’d want me to work would be beyond the cutoff point for the government money so id lose my safety net. i’m thinking of studying at uni but i dont know what i should go into in the future. im just wondering for those of you who work, what sort of jobs work for you and which ones dont? a lot of remote jobs such as IT are going to become obsolete in a while so id rather avoid that, i was thinking of nursing but there is absolutely no way id be able to handle it. i’m feeling very defeated and depressed, i just want to live in the european countryside and milk cows, grow food, do handicrafts and feel safe in my own world. i can’t help but feel like the world was not made for us even though its ruled by autists to some extent. sorry for blogposting i dont post much but its just really bothering me.

No. 2044224

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hi nonnas. wanted to ask for some advice, I hope this is the right place to put this, I'm not too sure if it would be better suited for /2X/ or /g/. wanted to ask how others deal with feeling like they are constantly existing "wrong". I'm pretty gnc: short hair (used to be buzzed), no make-up (makes me feel gross), nails as short as possible and unpainted (sensory/skin issues), legs/armpits unshaved. I feel like hearing other women talk about make-up and nails, and seeing women constantly irl with make-up/fancy nails/shaved/etc. makes me constantly feel like I'm gross and doing being female "wrong", or like, I'm immature and childish. I know I've seen (normie?) women online call women who don't wear make-up "crusty" or immature, but I'm very hygienic and I look after myself (definitely look after myself more than the average moid). even though I know logically that there is nothing wrong with existing as a gnc woman I can't shake the feeling that I'm constantly being judged, not fitting in, that I'm doing it all wrong, that I'm always been looked down upon as childish and/or gross. does anybody else deal with the same feelings? how do you overcome it? thank you for reading, it's really been getting to me and I feel like I can't be "logical" about just existing as a gnc woman because of those constant feelings that I'm doing it all "wrong" and not following the "rules" correctly. ily nonnas.

No. 2044238

>>2044224
>I can't shake the feeling that I'm constantly being judged
I don't have much advice for you, but I will offer one thing. Almost every woman feels constantly judged. Even though the most drop dead gorgeous model you can imagine looks in the mirror and finds flaws. I know because I hang out with them, and these supermodels never have anything good to say about themselves, they only either say nothing about their bodies or negative things. It is the female condition to feel watched and judged all the time.
The only way through is to realize that the people who's opinion you care about are not judging you, while the people who judge you are not the ones you should care about. Those judgemental people are shallow or unkind or have lives that are a mess. To feel judged by them is like being worried about like a pedophile think of you, just a total waste of time because his good opinion means nothing.

No. 2044245

>>2028755
I always did wonder if one of my legs being longer than the other had something to do with my tism. I've had friends swear up and down they can tell when I'm the one walking down a hallway because my footsteps sound very particular. I'd never make it as a ninja I guess.

No. 2044254

>>2036355
When I was five years out of highschool I had a glance at my senior year class photo, and I swear to god I've never met at least 8 of those people ever in my life. The rest I remembered the faces of but had no idea what their names were, the only names I remembered where those of the three classmates I actually talked to back then. Made me feel absolutely insane nonna, so I get where you're coming from.

No. 2044316

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I have autism and a lot of my coworkers have ADD.
I hate that my quirks (like preferring a definitive "yes" or "no" in writing) are opposite of theirs (like wanting to "hop on a call" and screenshare something while getting distracted ten times).
The shittiest part is that I can't just respond to their "I need to pace the room and talk to myself due to my brain" with "I need absolute silence due to my brain, so let's compromise" because every time I have revealed my autism, it has been used against me. For example, if I tell someone that it's against cybersecurity policy to host something on a public IP address, they will tell me it's just my "black and white sense of justice".
People talk a lot about not being able to be honest with those in their personal life, but I feel like I can't be real with anyone. Well, except lolcow.

No. 2044761

>>2044224
I don't really have advice, but i can offer some of my experience for a sense of solidarity if it will help. I don't necessarily present in a gender non-conforming way, but i definitely do not engage in female beauty rituals beyond skincare and have longer hair. For someone like me who is already conventionally unattractive, i typically see women who are aesthetically challenged as i am working overtime to compensate for their looks by wearing heavy makeup and hair weaves. I have given this stuff a try, but honestly, my adhd rather than my autism prohibits me from having such an extensive routine, plus i hate the way makeup feels. I've been living like this for all my life and have been bullied so much as a teen for my looks that i feel completely numb to a lot of negative comments i get from people for my appearance. The feelings that you feel can never go away imo, i still get self conscious when i am around women who are conventionally attractive because i just feel so gross in comparison to me and honestly a lot of women are extremely judgemental towards other women they feel who aren't following the imaginary rules of womanhood from my experience. I personally think it can only get worse if you cave into everyone's judgements of you or the judgements you think they have of you and start trying to appease them because you inherit a new set of problems, not that you were going to do that. The only thing you can do is try to find ways of distracting yourself when those negative thoughts appear in your mind.

No. 2044864

I can't tell whether I'm autistic, or just depressed and find it hard to socialise as a result. Or maybe the third option being some level of schizoid.

No. 2044909

>>2044864
not aimed at you but the amount of clearly (and reasonably due to circumstances) depressed people who think they're disordered in some way is really tragic

No. 2045101

>>2044224
I carry a very similar inferiority complex from being treated like the frumpy retard duckling. But as i get older, i get more chances to talk to conforming women individually about makeup/looks (well, they talk about it and i listen) and i've realized they're in a private hell. They deal with chronic overwhelming anxieties about their looks and care a lot about being attractive all the time. Some are just coquettish women who've been drawn to this stuff since a young age, but a lot of them picked up these worries with puberty, do it out of 'duty' and are miserable as a result. That's it, they're miserable. These are the kinds of women who cry themselves to sleep because they think they look weird in some angle. What's really sad and bizarre is that they can be extremely beautiful and conforming, but it's never enough. Ofc GNC/autistic women are susceptible to dysmorphia but it doesn't become all-consuming most of the time. Even at the height of my teenage insecurity i was okay with going outside while feeling deformed or really ugly, but i know women who can't go grocery shopping without a full face of makeup. It doesn't make sense for you to feel bad because a neurotic person wants everyone in the room to ease her own misery. Seeing women like you, the more hostile/sexist ones see a reminder of the pointlessness of it all. I know it's hard to let go of the need to fit in or the nagging sensation that you're doing it 'wrong' (especially if you feel you're lacking as an autistic woman), but it's fine and you're clearly better off. Maybe try to retort to critique if/when it happens, so it doesn't imprint itself on you. Just say something like 'oh well there is more to life than being pretty'. I was talking about this exact subject with an autistic friend who's really effortlessly GNC. We listed incidents where women we both know would make us feel like shit for not caring and noticed all the women were really unwell, were known to deal with lots of self-hatred and interpersonal conflict. It's a way for them to displace their inner anguish.

No. 2045516

>>2045101
nayrt, but the whole makeup thing is so odd to me. Maybe its because of my sperg brain, but I genuinely don't spend enough time looking at people to register the specific colors and shit on their face, and I can't imagine spending enough of your present awareness to notice if people have on mascara or whatever. I've been thinking on it lately, trying to figure out if normies really do notice that much, or if the women wearing makeup are just living in a paranoid delusion of how much others look at their face. And even if others do notice, how does it actually affect your life in any way? Really seems like a self-imposed prison.

No. 2045668

Who else can’t get their meds? I’ve been taking them for so long they’ve altered my brain chemistry and now without them I spend anywhere between twelve and twenty two hours asleep which makes it hard to call around and get them. This is such bullshit I’m so fucking mad at all the people who got diagnosed over quarantine and the doctors who handed out diagnoses like candy. My life is a mess with the medication but without it I’m essentially a coma patient who can take care of herself.

No. 2046143

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Having finally started to discuss gc on discord and a few other messaging servers, it becomes so clear to me how differently normies parse the world, and I don't understand why they are willfully stupid. It's like pulling teeth sometimes, trying to have them explain how gender and its ideologies can be rationally and morally brought out from what actually exists in the world, materially. It makes things so hard to explain, sometimes I feel like I'm talking to a five year old that goes off on tangents about what they had for lunch, and I have to keep reining them in. Can they not just keep to a single through line without bringing in "muh experiences" and their misguided empathy?

Also, dumb, but do any of you get weird earworms that aren't music at all? I've been having phrases from "talking cat" videos playing in my head the last few weeks and its so distracting. I'm terrified of being overheard muttering "I am Big Billy, the biggest wet willy
I'm gonna go clearly mh" by someone

No. 2047401

>>2045516
>And even if others do notice, how does it actually affect your life in any way?
People are nicer to good looking people. Pretty people take ageing a lot harder than ugly or average people too, it causes them a lot of distress. I recently heard an example of it where 2 middle aged women were at lunch and 1 asked the waiter for some change about the food and he just looked at her like "um no, that's not allowed" and she was disappointed and told her confused friend "I used to be pretty". She had gone her whole youth/life getting any mildly annoying and inconvenient change she wanted simply because she was pretty and people wanted to go beyond for her. As she aged out of it the "worse" (but actually normal) people started treating her, so to her the world had gone colder and meaner simply because she looks "worse" now.

No. 2047402

>>2045668
>I’ve been taking them for so long they’ve altered my brain chemistry and now without them I spend anywhere between twelve and twenty two hours asleep
That's likely just withdrawal nona, if you stopped taking them your body would go back to normal again. I had the same thing when I stopped my meds, I slept for days! I do fine fully without meds now, I'm glad I quit.

No. 2047447

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Never understood why people say ADHD is less stigmatised than other disorders when it’s clear most people just see people with ADHD as lazy junkies . I’m never going to tell anyone I have ADHD because they immediately stereotype and look down on you imo it’s worse for men when it comes to stereotypes.

No. 2047453

>>2047447
I see so many men with ADHD who somehow get a mommy bangmaid to take care of them. Women almost always get their shit together because like you, they don't want to be stereotyped as retarded lazy child who can't do anything for themselves and shids their diapers constantly.

No. 2047467

>>2046143
I get those earworms, right now I keep thinking of a video of a "parrot" guiding a blind guy (it's a guy talking instead of the parrot) it's so dumb but I need to listen to it a lot and I keep repeating that in my brain.

No. 2048133

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Why do people think you can "overcome" or "get over" ADHD? It's a freaking disability! I can be functional (most of the time), but I legitimately wish I could evaporate into thin air at least once every 3 days.

No. 2048163

>>2047447
men with mental conditions of any kind usually make it women's problem so judgment is fair on them.

No. 2048783

>>2047401
I'm not saying this is entirely false, but I've never observed it irl. It probably does happen in certain situations, but my biggest tinfoil is that people are paranoid about how they look and it colors their experience. So when they enter a social situation when they know they look attractive that day, they feel like they're being treated better than on their off-days, even though it's probably due to the happier vibe they give off causing more positive reactions from others. So related to appearance, but not actually a direct consequence of it. I'm sure this varies wildly by social milieu though, so my rural working class eurotrash town probably has a different dynamic than SoCal or some equivalent place.

No. 2049044

>>2046143
>Also, dumb, but do any of you get weird earworms that aren't music at all?
Yes and I actively enjoy it, which surprises people. Though it is mostly music, but sometimes I get sounds stuck too. The way I see it they only get stuck because my brain finds them interesting or calming, so I let my brain enjoy the sounds.

No. 2049050

>>2048783
I'm euro too. Good looking people do get treated better. Or rather, people who are considered "socially acceptable" get treated better. You can be the prettiest woman on earth but if you wear alt fashion people will still treat you a bit funny. If you show up in the wrong clohtes for the occasion you're treated as clueless and a bit dumb. How you look does have a massive effect on how you are treated as humans are very sight based in their communication. But if you manage to look "somewhat normal" you'll be treated pretty ok most of the time.
Older women here actively make themselves less "feminine"(/attractive) so they get less attention over their looks, it's kind of an interesting phenomenon to observe. Finding a woman over 50 with mid to long hair and/or makeup is near impossible.

No. 2049112

>>2048133
Because if you try hard enough you can be indistinguishable from normal people to basically everybody you interact with. Thinking of it as a disability rather than an obstacle is a self-imposed prison.

No. 2049523

>>2049050
AYRT, Most of the women in my family only wear makeup for special occasions, much of the crafting groups or union pensioner meetups they go to, they put on some rogue or mascara.

My mom has passed 55 this year and still has hair past her shoulder, I'd say it's about half her friends has the same thing going on. I've got a grandma whos 84 who has recently gotten into reworking a lot of the dresses she made for herself in the 60s, because she doesn't want her old handiwork to go to waste. In my experience there's a far stricter hold onto specific beauty standards and routines than among my cousins.I think the idea of pretty = life put together was stronger with old people.

Can't really use alt people where I'm from since metalheads have been ubiquitous for about 45 years, thats not unusual anymore. The women in the local scene do trend towards not wearing makeup though, which is what I originally referred to - none have been socially isloated yet.

No. 2052870

I have an ADHD evaluation next month, and I’m freaking out about it, it’s all I can think about. I’m terrified both of dealing with an ADHD diagnosis and with an exclusion of it (because that will mean more time in the psychiatry carousel trying to figure out what the fuck is wrong with me) is it normal to feel this way?

No. 2054952

Does anyone else with autism struggle with bright lights? In summer time, I can't go outside without sunglasses on otherwise I can't open my eyes for longer than a few seconds. I don't mind florescent light or anything, but the bright sunlight really irritates me. I was always so confused as to how people could go outside in the sun without sunglasses and keep their eyes open and not have to squint or close them, but after talking about it at my autism support group I was surprised that other people felt the same.

No. 2058482

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>>2054952
I do, I have a million pairs of sunglasses in my car, at home and at work to deal kek. I'm also noise sensitive and loops work really well for me.

Does anyone else have pathological demand avoidance? It nearly fits me to a T. It's why I have so many issues at work, especially dealing with micromanagers.

No. 2058509

>>2058482
Yes, it's awful. I don't understand why 99% of information and resources about it are for children as well. Do children with this type of autism grow out of it or are we all supposed to kill ourselves?

No. 2058528

>>2058482
That's the ugliest fucking infographic I've ever seen. It sounds interesting tho, an you give some examples of what symptoms fit you and how they play out? (other anons who feel it fits them are welcome to reply too)

No. 2058674

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>>2058509
They want us to kill ourselves, my main thing is, I'm competent and can get shit done unlike the people in my business. why not just leave me alone and let me function on my own?
>>2058528
kek, it is but it has a lot of info which is why I like it. I'm more sociable and people are surprised when I tell them I'm a sperg because I can carry conversation well. I have an interest in certain people and maybe can seem intense, I'm not sure if it comes across to others as obsessive though.I would say this image describes it best but it feels like I have a meter that just sets off when theres too many demands made of me. also excel best at filling roles, not quite role-playing since I'm not into DnD and stuff but like social deduction games where you have a role. It also in my long term relationship has shown up via sex, the more he wants it from me the less I want to do it even if I have the urge to, to the point where it just doesn't happen at all. Hopefully that all makes sense

No. 2058684

>>2058674
I feel like a toddler when reading this back to myself. I do the exact thing. I found it went so smoothly as to be unnoticeable when in certain environments, some jobs really do just fuck off and leave you alone as long as you get your work done and are important enough. The ones that just keep pestering you are impossible to me, though.

No. 2058749

>>2058674
>>2058528
PDA is really insiduous, especially when you don't even know it exists. In my life, it can look like anything from not wanting to get a menu item at a restaurant because someone recommended it to me, to actively avoiding work or even having trouble finding a job. When I worked in an office, I naively expected to be left alone for the most part because I worked efficiently, didn't really talk to anyone if I didn't have to, and followed up on things quickly. Unfortunately, all those traits meant my manager and even other team members saw no problem giving me even more tasks. Eventually the constant, unpredictable demands on my time, as well as the random fucking people popping by my cubicle and expecting me to entertain them with idle chitchat (and some other intolerable stuff about that place) made me break down and quit. It felt like I had no time for anything and that my time wasn't really mine, and I didn't know enough about setting boundaries or even managing my condition to understand why I was the only one working through lunch or stress-crying in the supply room with the lights off. Granted, that place was kinda shitty in general for other reasons, but with PDA tendencies it was unbearable.

Unrelated to PDA - does anyone get completely shut down from physical exhaustion? I swear some days I feel like a marionette with the strings taken out at the end of the day, or like the slightest movement requires overcoming an impossibly large amount of inertia.

No. 2058911

>>2058749
>does anyone get completely shut down from physical exhaustion?
I do (and have). Used to return home from work and crawl into bed as soon as possible.

No. 2059035

>>2054952
Yeah. It bothers me so much but i like not having anything on my face so i just face it outside kek. My curtains are almost always closed though. I open them for 10 minutes at a time so i get just enough sunlight for my mood

No. 2059041

>>2058482
i felt a twinge of rage reading this, it reminded me of the time I asked an ex-friend to move their tote out of the kitchen and they said they're demand avoidant so it probably won't happen that day. Just like how they never did anything to help at all, and then when I asked them to just do this one thing, they spiraled out and then kept asking me to reassure them I wasn't mad at them.

No. 2059043

>>2059041
>I asked an ex-friend to move their tote out of the kitchen and they said they're demand avoidant so it probably won't happen that day.

that's fucked up, sounds like just your classic dickhead who found a pop psychology term to justify continuing to be a dickhead. It took me forever to realize what my deal is and it's mostly things that negatively harm myself. Realizing this about myself would not make me want to double down on refusing to do something to help someone that takes no effort. It was also hell in school to be smart enough and capable but unable to do my homework or seek out help for it in most grade levels. I flew under the radar because I did just "well enough"

No. 2059248

>>2058482
Can someone explain to me how PDA is different from Oppositional Defiance Disorder? From what I've read about ODD, basically half the kids diagnosed with it "grow out of it" (aka they never actually had a disorder and were just spoiled brats) while the other half end up with antisocial personality disorder as adults, where they have trouble following laws and social conventions so they commit various types of crime or abuse.

No. 2059264

>>2059248
From what I understand, PDA is related to everyone, not just figures of authority like ODD. I.e., if a friend of a person with ODD suggests they do something, usually they'll do it whereas with someone with PDA will struggle with doing it even if it's a friend. ODD is limited to figures of authority, not everyone and anyone like PDA.

No. 2059312

I’ve been playing SpongeBob simulator on roblox for the past 6 hours. I am a grown woman and probably the oldest person on this game, wtf is wrong with me

No. 2059315

>>2059312
>wtf is wrong with me
You're awesome? There's nothing wrong about this as long as you're having fun and not being a creepazoid to younger players.

No. 2059323

>>2059315
Ew no, I just play it with my fellow womanchild friends

No. 2060560

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I just have autism and didn't get a ADHD diagnosis (which is fine with me) but taking ritalin before bed helps me sleep. I don't have anything smart to say I just think it's neat. I'd think stimulants would keep me awake.

No. 2062407

I have issues with alogging, like getting really mad and wishing physical harm on a group or a concept, or exaggeratedly wishing for their downfall. I never thought of it as an autism thing, thought it was just a failure of self control on my part. But I was reading about autistic anger and it made me wonder if alogging can be a type of autistic rage? I’m curious as to why I’m like that. I can tell it makes other people uncomfortable when it happens and I’d like to stop. It’d be helpful to read about other people’s experiences especially if there’s a better word for it than alogging.

No. 2062416

>>2060560
if stims are making you calmer I have bad news, noni

No. 2062571

Does any other autist have a "uniform?" Like, a certain outfit that you prefer to wear all the time. For me, I have this one outfit that I wear all the time and I like it so much that I've bought doubles of the clothes involved. I.e., I have 3 of the same sweater, 4 pairs of the same jeans, 2 of the same blouses. Some of my normie friends get weirded out that I'm always wearing the "same clothes," and I know it's a bit odd myself, but I just prefer having 2 or 3 outfits that I know I really like and feel good in rather than a bunch of random clothes that I'm ambivalent towards.

No. 2063090

>>2062407
I've had this since I was a child. I don't know what to call it and whether it even is an autistic thing, I've always just thought that I'm an aggressive person. Though my dad has this too and he's the one I inherited my autism from so it might be related to autism. I hate it, it makes me look like a deranged retard when I do it in public but I can't really help it. I first became aware of it as a child when I noticed my friends were scared of me when I got angry and went reeeeee, and also when I found out that my mom had bought a book about "managing a child's anger issues" kek

No. 2063162

>>2062407
My autist friend does this and it's so confusing to me because I'm the polar opposite despite also being one, it's near impossible to make me mad at all even when I should be. I do think it could be ADHD since she has both and I don't?

No. 2064975

>>2062416
Nona if you're referring to the myth that "stimulants only calm you down if you have ADHD" I've got bad news for you. It's a lie, they more or less work the same for everyone. It's especially insidious that they push it extra hard when it comes to medicating kids when in reality they have the same effect on non-ADHD kids, but since they don't give them to non-ADHD kids they always just go "see it worked! Means the kid's got ADHD and we did a good thing giving them drugs". Of course they can't ethically give stimulants to healthy kids in a trial setting to officially prove or disprove it either. It's currently the same as what is happening with "gender affirming care", hormone blockers and hrt - testosterone is a known anti-depressant yet when a tif is given it they go "see, she's happier now so that means she was a true honest transman all along" like yeah no that's literally what it does to everyone, they're just not ethically allowed to suddenly inject non-tifs with testosterone.

No. 2068460

i have to move every 2-5 years because of my husbands job, and i really did not foresee how fucking idiotically difficult it is to establish care and get my ADHD medications every time we move. i need to vent because the last move it was fairly easy, he just called my last doctor. this new one is making me send in all of my documents including my neuropsychiatry appointment documents from fucking 2010???? like i don't EVEN KNOW IF THEY HAVE THEM

it's just really exhausting and i want to cry, i'm almost out of my medication. i've been hoarding it and not taking it for six months because i figured it would be like this, but it makes me so angry that between the shortage and me moving i can't get medication that i have been prescribed for that is very low dose.
i don't trust myself to drive without taking it so it makes me feel super confined, and when i finally saw a doctor after a 3 month waiting period i think they thought i was drug seeking like WHAT THE FUCK it makes me really want to a log myself because why would i make this up??? why would i choose to have this? and why would i have 15 years of documentation and you think i'm CHOOSING MY BRAIN TO BE LIKE THIS. i have such bad doctor phobia now because of this. i had to do the whole neurosychiactry exam, my brothers also have it, and to have people question me makes me feel so fucking shitty because i did not choose this, i don't even take my meds unless i need to, but what the fuck why am i constantly berated for something i was born with?

No. 2068464

>>2068460
samefag but when i say not taking it, i mean i'm only using it 1/4 the time i should be taking it, and haven't been driving or applying to new jobs now because i've seen how much i fuck up in my job/driving/life when i'm not taking any medication. it's made me really agoraphobic because i can't even take my fucking medication i've been on for 14 years. i work in numbers and when i don't take it, i fuck up and ruin everything. when i'm medicated, i can keep on track and don't do 50 tasks at once and then fuck them all up instead of focusing on what is most important and working my way down to least important

No. 2068528

If you were to de-diagnose yourself, what would your signs be? Would you be able to convince a doctor?

I'm pretty capable and able to work nearly full time, and I feel I'm decent at reading people socially. I only have minor sensory issues, they barely come up because it's mostly unusual food or too much light. I feel like if I pushed for it and said the social issues I have had are/were due to anxiety I could maybe have them buy it.

No. 2068658

>>2064975
Nonnie what are you talking about? They have the same effect in the sense that the drugs affect the same neurotransmitters but it does in fact help with executive dysfunction, impulse control and hyperactivity for people with adhd which is WHY it's considered "calming" and does wire non-ADHDers up they don't have a deficit of dopamine to begin with.

No. 2068977

>>2064975
what is harmful about stimulants provided you aren't abusing them?

No. 2071073

>>2068658
i can say after 15 years of taking the same low dose of adderall that it has been night and day in my daily life. i can actually focus on one task without starting 18 other ones and never finishing any. people who think that adhd isn't real and that stimulants don't work differently with people with adhd are retarded. there are DECADES of research. this is why i can't get my fucking medication and have to send in decades of doctor reports just to get my fucking medication and i'm just so fucking tired. on medication, i can work with numbers and i'm really fucking organized and controlled; without taking it i'm a literal tazmanian devil of chaos. it fucking SUCKS having it and i wish my brain was normal, why would i choose to take this shit?

No. 2071174

>>2071073
I think some people are just too far gone with the Big Pharma Bad mindset that they don't wanna admit medications do help a lot of people.
>this is why i can't get my fucking medication
I once experienced this for Bupropion, where my doctor had faxed the request but there was some sort of issue and the pharmacist was treating me like I was a crackhead for needing the pills, like interrogating me and asking if I sell them, etc.. Eventually I called my doctor and explained what the pharmacist was doing and then my doctor called the pharmacy to yell at them and the whole vibe change and suddenly I was being called ma'am and people were apologizing. I really do think at a certain point, people should be given more access to pills. I mean, if you've been on a medicine for more than 10 years surely the system can trust you to have more of your medicine instead of just the monthly dose? I think it would be good because then we'd have a backup for when the pharmacy doesn't have any left.

No. 2071335

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I saw this post on the vent thread >>2071075 and it resonated with me because summer is hell for me too. Do any other spergs suffer from a similar fate? What are your tips for dealing with summer as an autist? I have to constantly wear sunglasses in the summer or else the bright sunlight irks me, sweating is something that induces tard rage in me so I have to use extra strength anti-antiperspirants, I like the warm weather but I can't do anything after it passes 20 degrees.

No. 2071343

Is being witty a ND thing in women? I have ADHD and the normie women at work are not as funny as me.

No. 2071513

>>2071174
PREACH and wellbutrin isn't even scheduled? i am so fucking exhuasted at this point. they just are giving me beta blockers (which is helping with my anxiety but i still need my adhd medication and i am NOT drug seeking) like i have six months of backups???? if i was abusing it i wouldn't have backups???

No. 2071599

>>2064975
As someone who works with kids, I can't stand people who think like you. Meds are a godsend for the ADHD kids who need it. It helps them succeed immensely. Whereas the ones with ADHD who go unmedicated fall behind both academically and socially, and become increasingly frustrated about it. It is nothing like hormone blockers and that's an insane comparison to make.

>>2071335
I hate summer. I'm very heat sensitive and become dehydrated quickly. Luckily chose a job where I don't work for much of the summer so I can just stay inside and be comfy.

No. 2071667

>>2071343
The ADHD women I've known are very funny now that I think about it, but not exclusively so. They just have a lot of energy for comedy.

No. 2071692

>>2071073
As sleepanon I wish I didn't have to take ritalin, I really didn't. I wonder every day what these pills are doing to my body, so I worked very hard to only 'have' to take wellbutrin and a small dose of ritalin and it has been years since I made it a point to never take SSRIs again and hopefully one day I want to be off those 2 too. I fucking hate having autismbrain and being unable to hold or maintain habits like at all. It's always 0% or 5000000% every 2 weeks and never a steady 5% every day. I keep reading that this is ADHD and possibly a wrong dose of ritalin but is this not just being an undisciplined lazy retard? It's not like I'm stupid or useless I get to be hyperfixation albert einstein sometimes instead of sheldon every day

No. 2071826

>>2071599
I'm curious, how many kids without ADHD have you seen on the same drugs? How do you know it doesn't help them too? I mean the same stimulants have been taken by (older) students for decades to help them focus before tests so I think there's merit to them having a calming effect on people without ADHD too

No. 2072680

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I had an actual meltie at work today. Thank GOD it was not too bad but it was certainly a loss of all control for a few minutes. I very loudly shouted some profanities and then sobbed into my hands for a few minutes and wasn't able to do any work for the next hour. I got purely lucky that I was with my closest coworker (also ASD) and no managers were nearby (extremely rare this is the case) when I screamed. It's terrifying to know I can still lose control like that, since I wasn't looking around to see if people were around. I could have lost my job if a manager just saw me sobbing, acting feral, and yelling "FUCKING SHUT THE FUCK UP" over seemingly nothing. It was just a perfect storm of over stimulation and I was taken over the edge. I've had public meltdowns before but I've always been a high masker at work and been able to keep my shit together, or at the very least take any aggressive stimming to the bathroom. But damn, I'm kind of scared now.

No. 2072701

>>2064975
I am so fucking tired of people like you. I've been unmedicated my entire life until my early 30s. all my life I've been a failure. I was hated by both students and teachers because of my inability to stay still and do what I was told. my parents just gave up on me at some point because they thought I was a lost cause. my academic life is a pile of failures and my self esteem is ruined after being told "she is intelligent but extremely lazy" year after year. I had no idea what was wrong with me so I just blamed myself for not doing better. I have literally punched myself on the face in front of my class because the teacher said she was just tired of dealing with me. my parents ignored any psychologist saying I had to go to a psychiatrist and/or needed medication, because they were people like you and thought medication was evil and harmful, oh they were "just trying to protect me". so I just went to a therapist once a week to be told "just don't do it" every single week, and every single week I would tell her "I tried but I couldn't" and she would just blame me for being useless. I was 11. I have tried to kill myself several times because I just hate myself and my inability to complete anything, my inability to just sit down and learn some skill, anything. I can only learn things by catching them on the air or when my brain decides I should obsess about something, but not enough so I can become actually proficient at it. it is so tiresome. 3 years ago I decided to give all this bullshit of going to psychiatrists and therapists a last chance before I offed myself and I was blessed with a doctor who actually listened to me, understood what I meant and offered me concerta. every doctor I've been too thought I had some type of bipolar because of the impulsivity. I was tired of being drugged with meds that did absolutely nothing and only made things worse. I can actually complete a task now. I don't feel so terrible about myself anymore, because of that. I don't feel addictive or impulsive urges, I quit drinking, smoking, imagine that. imagine if I didn't have those urges when I was in my school years. I could've done something with my life, instead of becoming a chainsmoker highschool dropout. but nooooooooooooo imagine giving amphetamines to kids, let them live miserable lives where they can instead get addicted to REAL drugs (not me saying that, studies say untreated ADHD patients are more likely to develop addictions, be in accidents, commit suicide, you name it) and just ruin their lives slowly so it doesn't bother you there are kids taking drugs YOU wish you were tweaking on. I hope you stub your toe every single day of your life. people like you denied me a fulfilled life. fuck you.

No. 2072720

>>2072701
>all that yapping
Average stimulant abuser texts be like(baiting/infighting)

No. 2072724

>>2072720
eat my ass full of shit(infighting)

No. 2072728

>>2072720
Found the zoomer newfag

No. 2072739

>>2072701
Ignore people trying to bait you into anger. I'm so happy you finally found what you've always needed & I'm sorry and disappointed that no one took you seriously, anon. I wish in general that adults could see "laziness" in children as a potential symptom of something bigger and not just take it at face value. It seems so fucking obvious to me that if a kid is distressed about feeling academically inadequate then maybe they are genuinely struggling and not just choosing to be avoidant. I'm sorry.

No. 2072756

>>2072739
thank you for your kind words nonny. I wasn't even actually lazy per se, I just had issues keeping up with writing, reading, doing math, etc and my teachers didn't seem to care if I or someone else stayed behind, they just wanted us to be quiet, so a lot of the times I was trying to pay attention but my mind wandered and I learned nothing. I had another classmate like me, but he was treated somewhat different, I feel like the teacher excused him way more often. his behavior changed completely around grade 7, I really think he started being medicated. I think I might have unsolved trauma about education settings in general because I really want to go back to school but thinking about it makes me petrified.

No. 2072902

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Does anyone have any autism whitepills? Staring down the barrel of 30 with this condition is really getting me down. There's so much I want to change and do with my life but I'm afraid it'll never happen for me

No. 2073118

>>2072902
idk if you consider this a whitepill or not. I think being NT would be very boring. usually NTs are not very imaginative or creative even if they have the most drive to keep going. I couldn't imagine waking up and having no thoughts except to do what I have to do. sometimes I think it would be nice but then I realize I would act like that for the rest of my life. like a NPC. I realize it's a huge copium but I'm willing to huff it. I can have a little optimism. as a treat.

No. 2073119

>>2072902
My biggest suggestion to other spergs is to join an an adults with aspergers support group. Most cities have them and it's really nice being around other people that are similar to us. It makes you realize life isn't so bleak.

No. 2073122

>>2073119
There's a meetup group for autists in my city but it required me to answer a bunch of questions before I could join it and I keep forgetting to actually finish them. It seems like counterintuitive to include a bunch of prerequisite questions for a sperg support group, we're spergs

No. 2073138

I have some friends I’m pretty sure are on the spectrum, and I hung out with them recently and it felt so nice. We are similar levels of ASD so it was easy to communicate. Finding people like you makes things easier. I know a lot of autists find other autists annoying but finding autists you can relate to is very validating, being able to talk and behave normally and weirdly without being judged or judging others. Wishing other nonnies the chance to find people on the same wavelength that make you feel normal and safe.

No. 2073142

>>2073118
Yeah I'm NT and all I do is stand by a water cooler all day and ask people about the weather and stare at flourescent lights.

No. 2073156

>>2073142
>I'm NT
Shoo! Get outta here! This is the autist thread shoo!

No. 2073192

>>2073156
What does NT mean? Not 'tistic?

No. 2073266

>>2072902
'NTs are boring NPCs!!' is incorrect and an annoying cope but i get why some think that.
My whitepills are
>You are an autistic woman, not a man.
That's noticeably better than being an asperger man, whether we're talking about pure social ability or presentation. Yes, a lot of it is due to socialization, sex differences and the fact that people are less forgiving of faux pas for women in general, but the outcome is beneficial.
>Being autistic shields you from extreme anxiety around norms and feminine scripting
This one took me very long to appreciate because i have a past with panic attacks and being slightly less compliant was harshly punished. But, hearing this from normal women made me appreciate my autism a little. Their way of saying it was 'you are less concerned with [bullshit] and i really like that in you' and i could see why when they'd describe the rest of their social life. Also, even if you struggle with anxiety episodes or a complex around autism, the fact is autistic women are much more likely to go 'kek don't care' when people around us try to get us to care about pointless social minutiae. I'm sure that if you look back, you'll realize that you were completely oblivious to a lot of things and that might sting, but it also means you have less of a mental burden on a day-to-day basis.
And yeah, hanging with other spergs does wonders. Even if it's very occasional, it feels like sticking your head out of water. If you end up befriending an autist you don't find annoying it's even better.

No. 2073355

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i haven’t had a single friend since i was 15. turning 24 soon. should i kill myself or does it ever get better?

No. 2073364

>>2072701
>because they were people like you and thought medication was evil and harmful
kek sorry you got triggered and felt personally attacked. Nobody said medication is evil. Harmful? Well yes, EVERY medication has negative side effects. The post was specifically about CHILDREN, not about fully grown adults in their 30s.
>I was tired of being drugged with meds that did absolutely nothing and only made things worse.
Mhm were you now, hypocritical much?
>people like you denied me a fulfilled life. fuck you.
I legit think your meds aren't working as well as you think they are, there is nothing calm or controlled about this post and it's filled with hyperactive rage and a lack of control of your emotions. If I contribute to your life sucking simply by maintaining basic safe-guarding for kids, then I'll happily let your life suck.

No. 2073369

>>2073192
>What does NT mean?
NeuroTypical. Non-autist/ADHD haver with a normal brain.
I don't use it and the matching "neurodiverse" which was used to mean specifically "ASD + ADHD" but much like trans it now means "anyone who says they are so" and iirc the creator of the term endorsed using it for all sorts of things like being trans, ocd, depression etc so imo both words have lost their meaning.

No. 2073666

Nona's I would like your input. Is it possible that I have just been an extreme procrastinator since childhood or that I may possibly have ADHD?

No. 2073668

>>2073355
I always get worried when people say stuff like this because I have been friendless for 5 years and this point I have completely adapted. It seems like the natural state and I have stopped suffering. The idea that after 9 years you would still be torn-up about it is extremely concerning, I think you're suffering for no reason and possibly headed for even more disappointment and pain

No. 2073726

>>2073355
you can always pick-up a hobby

No. 2073753

>>2073666
I am the same kek. I was diagnosed as a kid but back then everybody was so idk.

No. 2073768

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>>2073118
True I do think NTs tend to be boring followers
>>2073119
>>2073138
Yea I really need to make some aspie friends at this point. I'm way too isolated
>>2073266
The idea that I'm breaking rules without realizing it does make me feel bad though. I can't help being nlog but I don't want to be a freak either. Idk I guess I should just learn to lean into it if I'm going to be a freak either way
>'you are less concerned with [bullshit] and i really like that in you'
That literally sounds like some passive aggressive female NT bullshit kek

No. 2073807

>>2073668
nta but I wish I could accept it like you have. a lot of the hobbies I enjoy either involve other people or would be more fun with others. I don't want to be alone but at the same time, I am doing something wrong warding people off or I attract the worst people. I am still trying though

No. 2073825

>>2073807
You are right in the sense that the vast majority of things are more fun when you're doing them with other people. You are also right that you probably have bad vibes that are pushing other people away. That said, pushing yourself to find friends is like being an incel who scrambles to try and find a girlfriend. Desperation repels people. You might think your earnest attempts at connection are not desperate but they are, normie women have finely tuned systems that make them turn strange people away. Ironically you have more of a chance to make friends with men but they are never going to give you the same fulfillment of a female friendship, and you put yourself at great risk for harassment.
Is my tactic of keeping my cool and being as autonomous as possible going to work out in the long run? Possibly, or maybe I will die alone. But I'm never going to act desperate for other people to be around me, I will work on myself, be true to myself and hopefully rework myself in a way where I stop giving out a negative aura and I start to attract people.

No. 2073866

>>2073768
>That literally sounds like some passive aggressive female NT bullshit kek
You think? Lol
The women who told me this were close friends so i assumed it was sincere appreciation instead of subtle 'retarded pet' treatment but what do i know
>The idea that I'm breaking rules without realizing it does make me feel bad though
Right? I hate it and it's my default state but on a meta level, i try to picture a benevolent person who appreciates autism for these reasons (could be about autistic creativity or honesty, etc). Such people are rare but i try to imagine autists aren't annoying 100% of the time to onlookers. Okay maybe this is cope and not a whitepill. I maintain that autism in women can balance out negative socially-induced problems

No. 2073876

>>2073866
Samefagging but one last (better) whitepill is that meeting other spergs will make you see different presentations of autism. I used to think autism meant you were an aloof person, maybe funny or loud but always visibly uneasy and easily tired, because that's who i was (and the few other autists i met were similar). But meeting extremely outgoing/talkative spergs proved me wrong, it's amazing. You can just observe them rising above awkwardness and social disapproval of NTs by being fun to be around. Even if you don't give off this energy, it goes to show you can allow yourself to be a little more chill in social contexts

No. 2074002

>>2072902
Get to know other autistics if you can. I realize I just get along with most other autistic women instead of driving random people into (ironic) tard rage for standing around and doing nothing and giving off uncanny valley no matter how hard I try. If there's something I hate about autism it's that if I walk into a room, class, meeting etc and do or say absolutely nothing and people just hate me for no reason I know everyone knows I have the 'tism. So, since I can't hide it, I tell people I have the 'tism which they believe instantly (kek) then generally I find myself in less trouble afterwards. Save for
>creepy moids who see me as easy prey
>girl groupies who selectively exclude due to female rivalry
>that specific kind of boomer or gen x woman who's hobby is holding grudges against women half her age
The way other women can band around a single autistic woman is scary and I'm not surprised it has pushed many over the precipice of NLOGism and spawned a million of those retarded images. If you're getting ganged up on by other women for seemingly no reason I'll let you in on a secret, they're NT and have sniffed out you're a sperg despite your mask. just accept it before it becomes painful and you feel betrayed for being excluded
>>2073266
>the fact is autistic women are much more likely to go 'kek don't care' when people around us try to get us to care about pointless social minutiae.
>you'll realize that you were completely oblivious to a lot of things and that might sting,
I have no idea if that factoid about autistic women going through phases much later than their counterparts is real or just a meme but it really fits for me. It sounds stupid but I felt and acted like a complete child all throught my teens and only in my 20s did I start acting and feeling like a typical teenager. Now that I'm in my 30s, I feel like I'm in my 20s. I don't know how to word this without sounding like a flex because I actually really don't like it, I have a hard time talking to anyone my age. I only get along with anyone younger or older. This is not a good thing. It has never been a good thing for me.

No. 2074240

Adderall is demonic and I will never use it again but being prescribed vyvanse has completely improved my daily life. I have the cursed version of adhd (paired with my ptsd) where it’s constant vile, graphic intrusive thoughts 24/7. I almost never have any anymore, only when the med starts to wear off a bit. But it is still much more manageable now

No. 2074289

>>2074002
>I felt and acted like a complete child all throught my teens and only in my 20s did I start acting and feeling like a typical teenager.
I was the same with my emotional maturity lagging behind physical age. It wasn't until I was 21 that the two finally caught up to each other and I could act my age.

No. 2074380

>>2074002
>>2073119
>>2073266
Nta but I get so uncomfortable around other autistics, being around someone even slighty spergy raises my hackles in a way that takes a long time to soothe afterwards. It's even more exhausting than being around NTs.
Actually I do want to connect with other autistics for the solidarity and understanding but I have to get it through anonymous text on Lolcow because IRL I just want to scream in their faces. Idk what to do, does anyone else feel this?

No. 2074386

>>2071692
>Every 2 weeks
What's your cycle like? I do this but I've learned to lean into it because it's just how my menstrual cycle affects my executive functioning. I make the progress in the first half and then put my energy towards maintaining the progress in the second half. Doesn't always work perfectly but it works way better for me than 'every day' progress

No. 2074420

>>2074380
>being around someone even slighty spergy raises my hackles
you are part of the problem. they've done nothing to you besides exist. What do you even get out of disliking them? It's like being a self-hating minority upset about someone who is just like them who is happily just existing. awful

No. 2074421

>>2073825
Thanks, it doesn't sound like your issue is a negative aura, but rather an aloof and uninterested seeming one. I alternate between the 2 - overeager and scare off healthy people/attract bad ones and being so distant that I am unapproachable. patience and chatting online first has helped me with getting my closest friend. problem is now that I'm comfortable I might be leaning on overeager so it's a never ending balancing game that's exhausting and I might just give up entirely after I've given all my hobby scenes a fair shot

No. 2074432

>>2074380
>does anyone else feel this?
I used to feel scared and annoyed by other autists too but it was more a reflection of my own personal issues with my diagnosis and also a deep fear of actually being a sperg. It was basically just self-hatred that seeped out of me and influenced how I felt around others similar to me.

No. 2074437

>>2073668
i literally have 63726 hobbies to the point where i can’t make time for all of them and still wish I had company. yeah yeah i ward people off with my weirdness or whatever.
>>2073668
you should worry more. when i was 5 years into it i didn’t care. it started to hurt past 2 years or so. it will catch up to you one day lol

No. 2074625

>>2074420
Nta but why are you so angry? Autists are fucking annoying, especially the quirky types who barely have any symptoms (oh I'm sorry they must be masking then!!) and make stimming their entire personality.(bait)

No. 2074627

>>2074625
>why are you so angry?
>calling autists annoying in an autist thread
go away

No. 2074710

>>2073666
>Is it possible that I have just been an extreme procrastinator since childhood or that I may possibly have ADHD?
Rule of thumb, never assume you have a specific disorder (not just ADHD) until you've explored every other possible reason. Do not self-diagnose.
For example for ADHD, you could be intolerant of common foods that make you feel sluggish all the time, you could have sleep apnea and insomnia that make you constantly a bit tired, unchecked allergies, your family upbringing might have been chaotic so you were stressed all the time and had a hard time focusing, you were plopped down in front of tv, games, social media and it fried your dopamine receptors so now you only respond to immediate stimulation, you were born late in the year and/or were taller than your peers and were thus always expected and assumed to be older and more mature than you really were which made adults constantly disappointed in you and you took it to heart thinking you were immature and lazy (kids born late in the year are more often diagnosed with ADHD for these reasons).

You could also have ADHD, but first make sure at a very base you're good on 3 things: Consistent quality sleep. Regular healthy eating. A future goal you're motivated to meet.
You really need all 3 of them, it can't be just 2/3. If you've got all 3 and still don't function you can start looking into if you have a disorder. Speaking from experience, if you're healthy but have no aspirations or goals you will still be lazy and do nothing at all. If there is nothing on my schedule I get 0 things done at all that day. If I have things to do I somehow magically have 50 times more energy. I think a lot of kids/young adults are called "lazy" when in reality they just feel aimless and hopeless about the future and can't see the point in doing things like working when they know they can't ever afford a house anyway.

No. 2074714

>>2074002
>>the fact is autistic women are much more likely to go 'kek don't care' when people around us try to get us to care about pointless social minutiae.
This, but about bullshit like troon ideology. His feelings are hurt if I refer to him as a man who forces his way into female spaces? Too bad, I say what I see.
And also the way autists use science and proof instead of accepting lies at face value, because that's "nice".

No. 2075123

I have trouble speaking up and people think I say dumb shit. It sucks especially since I'm a wagie.
>anon, how many fluid oz is this cup
>I don't know, maybe it's 12?
>No, 20 is too big, it's probably 12
Like no bitch 20 is too fucking big why would anybody say that? Has anyone itt successfully made their voice louder without shouting?

No. 2075179

>>2075123
Yes, you just gotta correct them with "that's what I said, you misheard me" every time until you learn to be a bit louder. But do try saying it jokingly and not like you're annoyed with them, even if you are.

It's difficult tho because to me it always sounded like everyone else was pretty much shouting and I was the only one speaking normally, and I just couldn't shout. Speaking at their level mentally really felt like if you were to suddenly in a public space scream at the top of your lungs; you just know that's rude, startling and socially not accepted so you don't want to do it - you CAN'T do it. That's what it felt like.

Honestly one thing that helped me overcome it was meeting people who were as soft spoken and quiet as me. Then it became clear to me that "oh I can't hear this guy and it's making conversation really difficult. Huh I guess people really can't hear what I'm saying either and I really do need to be louder".
You always hear your own voice louder (and deeper) because your voice echos through your skull into your ears, so you're not as loud as you perceive yourself.

The way I've been able to make most progress is by recording myself speaking. I'd read from a book or article or anything. Then I listened back to get used to hearing my own voice and cadence. It feels super cringe at first but you get used to it. It allowed me to simply build confidence while speaking and then I could experiment with different tones or ways of speaking. I'd only do it when alone kek. Eventually I managed to speak a bit louder without feeling like I was shouting, and I haven't gotten asked to speak up or been misheard majorly in years now (used to be very regular). I'm still not loud but at least now people can hear me!

No. 2075872

>>2071826
Why would we give medication to kids who don't need medication…? That's like injecting insulin into kids who don't have diabetes. I really don't get what your point is, other than you seem to think ADHD kids shouldn't be medicated even though it helps them so much.

>>2073119
My local one is filled with troons/genderspecials and it really bums me out. I went just once and was so uncomfortable.

No. 2075997

i’m gonna go an adult course for autistic people to help us navigate adult and work life with autism. i’ve visited the school before i got accepted and all the staff and students were so kind and happy and positive. the mentor told me how one guy who struggled greatly socially made lots of friends and now dares to take the train instead of getting a taxi because he gets to take the train with his course friends.

i’m so excited, i’m sure some farmer would call me a special eds retard or whatever but i don’t care. i think this will help me greatly and i’m excited to make friends and learn strategies for living a more happy and independent life with my autism.

No. 2076212

>>2073364
>picks a fight in an ADHD / autism thread
>shares misinformation, people respond
>"U MAD!?!?? LOL!"(continuing 2 day infight)

No. 2076444

>>2072680
it's okay, anon. don't beat yrself up over it, it happens. and honestly if your managers aren't complete assholes they'd probably be fine with it-everyone snaps sometimes regardless of our diagnoses. i hope you aren't beating yrself up over this bc i've seen old adults have freakouts over literally nothing because they were just having a bad day. it happens and you move on, don't feel like it's bc yr on the spectrum. giving you a hug virtually

No. 2076449

>>2074380
>being around someone even slighty spergy raises my hackles
why? i have adhd and it feels like i literally attract other adhd and autistic people into my social orbit–and i love it. i love being around other people that i don't have to mask who i really am towards. adhd and autistic people have no filter and it's so freeing. i love all you super direct weirdos, it's refreshing

No. 2076479

>>2075997
That's awesome anon. Hope it helps you. I wish we had stuff like that here, but autism is considered a childhood disorder where I live and so all the support programs are only for children.

No. 2076809

>>2075123
>Like no bitch 20 is too fucking big why would anybody say that?
This is making me kek. I can hear the anger.

Like >>2075179 said, it's all about practice. I had similar problems to you, for a long time I was always so anxious to speak that I often spoke very quickly and stumbled on my words. I speak dialect accent different from most people around me besides, so it was difficult for others to parse what I had said. I ended up taking time every morning to read aloud phrases from magazines in the clearest way I could manage while looking at my mouth in the mirror. After a few weeks of practicing enunciation this way, I could speak much clearer but I still had the pace problem. Now when I talk to people, I have to consciously remind myself to slow it down, usually if I'm talking to someone I rely on their facial expressions to gauge whether or not they understand me. Over time, my confidence around others increased a lot.

No. 2076834

i just had my second appointment to reestablish care in my new city, and it actually went really well. what baffles me is they still haven't received my prior care notes so they won't refill my adderall prescription, but they prescribed me xanax for my anxiety? like?? i'm not complaining about getting treated for my anxiety but i'm perplexed as to why they won't prescribe my adhd meds until my next appointment? i've been on the SAME DOSE FOR 12 FUCKING YEARS.

and does anyone with ADHD who also has anxiety and depression been on lexapro? they started me on that as well and i'm so worried about my sex drive tanking/other side effects from SSRIs

No. 2076847

>>2076834
>Anyone else been on escitalopram?
It's one of the more common SSRIs, I think it's most doctors' first choice for prescribing an anti-depressant. I was fine on it for a year, but then I started gaining a lot of weight and having suicidal thoughts. My sex drive was dimmed. Once I switched off escitalopram because of the weight gain, I tried bupropion and it helped me a lot more than escitalopram did. With bupropion, I don't notice that anti-depressant "feel" like I did on escitalopram or fluoxetine, I just feel better.

No. 2076869

>>2076847
I take both bupropion and escitalopram, started maybe like in April? For sure escitalopram makes you gain weight. I actually bupropion alone because I felt it made me less “hungry” or focused on foods, too bad it was terrible at managing my moods. I was often crying or getting heated easily which isn’t typical of me, so I had to get escitalopram. It sucks though because it really lowers your libido, and mine was already lower than average. I also got Xanax prescribed but was told to only take it whenever I anticipate I will be in a situation that I know “triggers” me, so like conferences, meetings, etc. I usually only take that once a week; it really mellows you out. Makes me feel calmer than usual and I like it because the one day I go into the office and have to deal with the idiots there I can tolerate it much better. Just kinda wish I could go off the escitalopram but I know I can’t.

No. 2076886

>>2076869
If you're worried about escitalopram, you could get the doctor to give you sertraline instead. From experience, the two drugs augment themselves well. I never got the side effects of low libido from sertraline, and it didn't make me gain weight either.

No. 2076896

>>2074420
It's not happening on purpose, I'm not feeding into it by seething about how gross they are, it is a deeply uncomfortable gut reaction I'm trying to suppress. I would never say any of this to their faces. Did you read the part where I said I wanted autist friends?

>>2076449
Happy for you, but I don't know why it happens, that's why I'm asking.

>>2074432
Thanks for answering, it makes sense. What did you do to get over it?

No. 2076913

>>2076834
My sister has ADHD and was on Lexapro for awhile. It killed her libido and she lost sensation in her genitals for awhile (something that happened to me on Zoloft), so watch out for that.

No. 2076989

>>2076847
thanks anon, i was taking wellbutrin but i think it's fucking with my blood pressure now that i'm in my early 30s and taking adderall; it was fine at 22 but idk now. thank you for the rec re: escitalopram bc i will ask about that in two weeks, i appreciate you
>>2076869 thank you anon. i hope things have gotten easier. trying to navigate medication is so fucking hard
>>2076886 ty, she gave me a bunch of options and i said dealer's choice bc i've only ever taken wellbutrin, so she rec'd an SSRI and lexapro was the one she thought might work but if it doesn't, i'll ask for that next, ty
>>2076913 lol that's why i've only been on wellbutrin for SAD ugggghhhh i don;t wan't to be a sexless person but at this juncture i don't even have sex with my husband at all bc i'm so depressed and anxious so being alive is better than not having sex(integrate)

No. 2077935

>>2076479
thank you nona! i’m sorry there isn’t stuff like that where you live. (i honestly think i’m very fortunate, i don’t think it’s common here either but i happen to live close to this particular school that has the course idk if there’s anything like it anywhere else in my country.)

i hope you’re able to meet other nice autists anyway and have a nice support net, it sucks that autism is seen as a childhood disorder. we can all need help and guidance, regardless of age.

No. 2078009

>>2076896
>Thanks for answering, it makes sense. What did you do to get over it?
It's really dependent on the person. Like for me, when I was a kid I couldn't control my voice level and everyone always said I was annoying for being loud so I developed a neurosis about it. When I was in my teens I was always quiet because I was sort of afraid to be loud and feel embarrassed, so whenever I was around other spergs with trouble controlling their voice I'd always feel a deep sense of second-hand embarrassment. Eventually I got over this from introspection and figuring out why I felt that way, I realized that if the other person isn't embarrassed to be loud, why should I feel embarrassment for them? Then, if the other person can be loud sometimes and not be embarrassed, why should I feel embarrassed? And so on and so on. Now I don't have a neurosis about it anymore, I can be loud sometimes, others can be loud sometimes, I can even tolerate screaming more and I think it helped me become more assertive. You just have to introspect about what about other spergs makes you feel annoyed or scared, and how that relates to your experiences and feelings and how to navigate them.

No. 2078233

>>2075997
I'm so glad this kind of hopeful post exist in this thread. Now I'm deathly curious if there's any service like this where I live.
>>2074386
Sorry I didn't see your reply. My cycle is extremely irregular (every few months), and I've seen a gyno about it with a full round of exams, and it's mainly my protein and sugar intake, so I cut down hard on the carbs and sugars while attempting to increase my protein intake. It's still pretty irregular so I feel like I should go back. You've granted me an interesting perspective though. I'm trying to scramble for whatever medication or correct habits I can find when it could be a sign of unrest from my body. I sound a lot more hopeful than I actually am though. Should I go back for another round of exams?

No. 2078282

>>2074380
I don't feel like that towards fellow level 1s, but level 2s and 3s make me super fucking uncomfortable. Like seeing someone wearing noise earmuffs, flapping their arms, grunting and screaming at the top of their lungs. I just can't believe I have the same disorder as them.

Speaking of which, is anyone else annoyed that the Asperger's label was taken from us? I understand why it needed to be changed, but instead of changing it to something else, they just shoved everything under the general autism label. I really feel like I have something significantly different than these very high needs people and that it should have a separate name to reflect that. Is that just me?

No. 2078626

>>2078282
>Speaking of which, is anyone else annoyed that the Asperger's label was taken from us?
>Is that just me?
It's already been discussed here several times, most spergs (at least on lc) see nothing but negative drawbacks to the labels being merged and we all hate it. I still tell people I've got aspergers and not autism. That is literally what's written on my diagonsis anyway.

No. 2078810

My local university’s HR department has a special subdivision for working with disabled people (including high functioning autistic people) and they’re helping me find a job at the university. The lady who’s been assigned my case is really nice and says she has worked with tons of spergs like me yet she doesn’t seem to understand that I take things literally. Like she wrote “we’ll figure X out together in July after I’m back from my break” so I waited until July to contact her about X, and now she’s all surprised I haven’t already done X by myself. I’ve looked into it and figured out a plan but I haven’t taken any steps yet because she told me we’d do it together and she was on break. Was I supposed to disregard what she actually wrote and assume she meant something else? Why? Why not write what you mean?? I understand that taking things too literally is an autistic trait and I’m the weird one in this interaction but this shit drives me up the wall, nonnies.

>>2078282
I feel the same way. Like the other anon, I tell people I have Asperger’s instead of autism. The handful of times I have used the word autism people started acting really uncomfortable around me like they expected me to start screaming at any moment. The only time I’ve ever been “corrected” it was by a self-diagnosed munchie whose whole identify was wrapped up in being disabled.

No. 2078991

I am here to report that Wellbutrin is a great alternative to people who need ADHD relief but are also addicts who seem to abuse any source of pleasure until they go numb. You can't abuse Wellbutrin the way you can vyvanse or adderall, and it still provides you with dopamine, energy, and then allows you to be tired and sleep regularly. Of course, it's not for everyone but I'm just self reporting if anyone relates to this

No. 2079000

>>2078991
Just be wary if you suffer with OCD/bad anxiety. I tried wellbutrin but I’m too much of an anxious mess that after weeks of it working (I thought I was me again!) I became suicidal and paranoid and had a seizure. I actually got the courage to attempt suicide. But I have heard it working so well for others?

No. 2079054

>>2078282
NTA, interesting. I feel a mixture of sadness and empathy (unfounded or founded, i have grunted in the past kekk) for 'lower level' ones. But the ones who infuriate me the most are level 1s who almost seem perfectly normal, but fuck it up with autistic ego-centrism and a lack of social awareness. There's something about autists who can 'pass' as normal in many circumstances, but get cocky and display unpleasant cockiness. Like, if you're so proud of your 'masking' and assburgers, you can at least try to not be an insufferable dimwitted retard in every other way. These are the type who antagonize even though we have a similar presentation. Narcissism of small differences, i guess. I'm fully okay with autism if it's not paired with this weird superiority complex. Someone like Elon Musk fits this bill, i just want to punch this kind of asperger. A Zuckerberg is okay, because he lacks the inflated ego.

No. 2079124

>>2079054
>Zuckerberg is okay, because he lacks the inflated ego.
You are sorely mistaken. He was just smart enough to stay out of the spotlight after rightfully getting roasted constantly

No. 2079143

>>2079124
I can believe this. He has all the criteria for unpleasantness (male, successful in one specific domain, is dubbed a genius, etc)
Rereading my post and
>but get cocky and display unpleasant cockiness
KEK my bad

No. 2079148

>>2079054
>the ones who infuriate me the most are level 1s who almost seem perfectly normal, but fuck it up with autistic ego-centrism and a lack of social awareness.
They're male in 99% of cases

No. 2079326

>>2078233
For periods, i started taking inositol and it really helped making things more regular, please look it up. You don't have to have PCOS for it to work.

As for habits, I also really struggled with going all-or-nothing, even accounting for my cycle. What helped me was scaling back my ambition and focusing on doing things every day that were like embarrassingly easy, so much so that there was no reason not to do it, and keeping it at that low level for longer than it feels like you should. Like if you can't brush your teeth every day, can you keep some xylitol gum by your bed?
I found I couldn't bring myself to go through the trouble of getting changed to work out, make myself follow the routine, and then shower after, so I started doing 10 kettlebell swings every day. I focused on maintaining that for several months, until I was really bored and ready to add more workouts. Now I'm going to the gym whenever I can.
Obv I don't know what habits you're struggling with, and I don't mean to sound like I've fixed it for myself either, I still struggle. But the solution to the boom-and-bust cycles is to keep it as simple as possible even on the good days, and to see building consistency as the marker of progress.

No. 2080011

>>2079148
Definitely agree. The two male Level 1s I knew in high school both had superiority complexes and iirc were not well liked by staff and students alike. They weren't moids, thankfully.

No. 2080228

i miss my vyvanse

No. 2080683

>>2079054
Only somewhat related but just the other day I realized that I generally only struggle with male level 1s. Or in other words, that I‘m struggling with pretty much all male level 1s, regardless of whether they have inflated egos or narcissistic tendencies.

Because you can tell they never had to mask a single day in their life and get by just fine. Because they’re boys they get a free pass with every single fucking thing. Men do already lack empathy and social awareness as is, now if you put autism on top it makes it even worse. So even if they’re trying to be somewhat sociable/socially adapt, they lack any ounce of common sense.

Autistic girls can be obnoxious too, obviously, but usually they at least TRY to adapt and better themselves, while I‘ve never met an autistic male of any age that ever thought about trying to adapt to their social circle.

No. 2080861

Why are so many imageboard/forum users on the spectrum?

No. 2080876

>>2080683
Same. Some do better (level 1s with high neuroticism or conscientiousness) but they still betray their male socialization all the time.
>>2080861
SNS seems to be almost designed to terrorize spergs (everything is embedded in a web of frienships/rivalries (which are not always clear), mutual surveillance, screenshotting mistakes, limited capacity to add context so you can easily be misinterpreted…). Imageboards and forums are relatively much more relaxed. If you're cautious you can avoid becoming a recognizable poster, the focus is more on things that interest you or discussions that are more or less devoid of extra parasitic information. A long infight bears no consequences on a sperg's social circle. You don't have to repeatedly burn bridges after offending NTs and you don't have to worry about your image as an annoying tard. Forums combine both elements of IBs and SNS but still are slower, leaving more time to take in new info and reply without embarrassing yourself

No. 2080916

>>2080876
As weird as it sounds I found that as a sperg I get along best with psychopathic types
They seem to figure out that I'm an autist and just drop the social approval mask and don't care about me fucking up social cues or being inappropriate
Of course you don't want to trust these types of people but I find them easier to be around

No. 2081050

>>2080916
Are you sure you're an autist? You may be one of those "psychopathic" types yourself if you get along with them. They like to target spergs

No. 2081599

>>2081050
seconding this, when I see those types yes they will drop the normie pretence, however they will still target me for sadistic social behavior so overall they're best to avoid

No. 2082855

>>2062407
I'm not autistic (ADHD) but unmedicated i did a text with more than 10 pages explaining in detail to myself why troons were evil and i used to get extremelly angry and need to control myself or i would a-log about random things, KEK.

No. 2082857

Nonnas I have my first psych appointment after being diagnosed with ADHD and I'm really scared. What should I expect? I'm scared I'll be put on meds that make me flip out.

No. 2082891

>>2082857
Psychologist or psychiatrist? Psychiatrists are kind of encouraged by their field to prescribe meds, but you might have some luck telling your psych you'd like to try managing your condition without medication and see how it goes.

No. 2083172

One of my friends started hinting she may be autistic during the pandemic and this year she came out of the closet by calling herself autistic after reading a couple of books, doing research, and joining a subreddit and is driving me crazy talking about how "happy" she is for finding out and how that explains everything about herself or whatever that means. I'm not doubting if she's really autistic or not but it's upsetting to say at least that she defines it as a happy experience when she hasn't even been through a formal diagnosis.

I offered her some very good specialists to get her diagnosis since it seems that being autistic is something important to her but she says she doesn't have enough money (despite her worrying spending habits on her hyperfixation) and she's already convinced she has it and that's enough for her. And ever since this whole thing started during the pandemic then she's been acting really off, calling it she was "masking" before. To me is like a kid throwing a tantrum calling it "shutdown" or whatever.

I got my diagnosis for both ADHD and 'tism years ago after suspecting ADHD during college and despite feeling relief after my diagnosis, it would never occur to me to catalog the whole experience as something happy. After years I'm glad I went through that process because I'm medicated now and I can function like a normal woman my age so having these conversations with her it's infuriating to say at least.

Maybe I'm just bitter because my experience differs so much from hers but also I cannot feel alright with her acting like that. We meet in college and despite having the same age and academic background I feel she's regressing in age, leaving behind the self-sufficient somewhat social woman she was before. Again, I'm not doubting if she has it or not but she refusing to get a diagnosis plus acting like a literal child is really worrying.

No. 2083295

>>2083172
Im sorry I don't have any advice for you but I see a lot of people who are self diagnosed with autism act like literal children. It's so fucking weird. There will be 20 something year olds who have previously never had issues communicating buying communication cards like the ones literal nonverbal children use and having "stim attacks" on camera where they act like kids. Or the chew toy necklaces.
I think they want fewer responsibilities and just lean in hard to the autism self diagnosis.

No. 2083354

Tips for managing anger as a autist? I'm always angry and upset. I keep yelling at my family and friends over stupid little shit, like if they speak in a mildly annoying way or like, breathe next to me. It's getting so bad that I've been resenting and ignoring pets that I usually love because they want to sit with me when I want to be alone. I don't like being an angry person and it upsets me that I treat people this way because of ridiculous shit. I've started working full-time in the past 6 months so I'm worried it could be because of that. Thanks for any help

No. 2083372

>>2083354
Sometimes stress builds up and we don't even realize it. When we're stressed out, we can be quick to feel negative emotions like anger, despair, etc., so it's best to keep our stress levels at a minimum so we can be relaxed. You have to become better at recognizing the feelings of stress within you, and familiarize yourself with how you act when you're past your stressed threshold. Ask yourself, what stressors do you deal with every day? Figure out ways to handle stress and cope with your stressors. For me, this looks like planning my days better so that I don't have as many appointments or close together, I find having 2 days a week where I can be alone and sort myself out is great for managing my stress. Another way I manage my stress if by going on walks in a natural setting, like a park, and just absorbing nature. Being around trees and rivers and shit like that really helps calm people down. When I started working 40 hour weeks, I found it really difficult to be around people because I didn't give myself enough time every day to de-stress. It takes effective time management, but I managed to carve out an hour per day where I was alone and focused on "me" so I could de-stress.

No. 2083388

>>2083172
Ime, it depends on how long it has been since she had “confirmation”.
When I was diagnosed, I acted a lot like her. I was happy not because I was autistic but because I finally knew the roots of lots of suffering and trauma, I felt like I could finally reframe myself as a person, my experience and build my present and future with tools I needed before.
It’s common for autistic people to “regress” because of unmasking for the first time. I quickly snapped out of it when my husband made me notice I was leaving behind the part of me that could function (or try to) in society.
Try talking to her as a friend, without judgement. Good luck!

No. 2083685

>>2081050
>>2081599
Thirding this. Autists are obsessed with rules and justice, whereas psychopaths are the opposite and they blatantly disregard it. We wouldn't be fond of them even if they weren't targeting us.

No. 2083756

I suspect autism sometimes because I fit the little known symptoms that aren't diagnostic criteria kek. High introversion, autistic interests, attachment to shit like plushies, being awkward as hell and finding it difficult to talk to normies.
When it comes to actual criteria like sensory issues, rigidity/structure, etc. I score none or low on those whenever I suggest it to a therapist. But there's this deep distance I feel from other people that I suspect might be some form of nd. Would a diagnosis even be worth it?

No. 2083960

Out of curiosity, does anyone here have an autism diagnosis but never was outcasted/bullied in school? I've noticed people around me that have had no issues fitting in or socializing suddenly claiming they are autistic, and it especially bothers me because they seem like they would've been my bullies in school. Am I just being bitter or is this possible somehow?

No. 2083966

>>2083960
>and it especially bothers me because they seem like they would've been my bullies in school
Explain

No. 2083977

>>2083756
Try researching it more nona

No. 2083982

>>2083372
>Ask yourself, what stressors do you deal with every day? Figure out ways to handle stress and cope with your stressors.
I actually feel this too, I don't randomly yell at my loved ones but I'm constantly upset at my mom for the way she smells, the news she watches on tv, etc. I'm lazy to elaborate but I actually find her grating in very small ways even if I love her and I wonder if I'm an idiot or if it has to do with autism. Please don't judge me too harshly, I don't like being like this either

No. 2084054

>>2083966
Nta but she's probably talking about how the people that used to laught at the "weird girl" are claiming that are neurodivergent because it's popular now

No. 2084132

>>2083960
>Out of curiosity, does anyone here have an autism diagnosis but never was outcasted/bullied in school?
Me, a sibling and a friend of mine are all diagnosed autists and none of us were bullied (separately, didn't go to the same schools). It really depends on the place/culture. Bullying is very common in America compared to my European country. It's rarer, and where when it happens here is a lot milder. (There are actual studies comparing it all, I've worked with children and learned about it then.)

However! I knew one moid autist who sort of confessed (and I figured out out from context clues) that as a teen he was one of those cringe edge-lords who loved to make people feel uncomfortable for fun. I'd count that as being a type of bully.

And with all that said we were still seen as "the weird kid" on some level. Like people knew something was a bit off but they didn't care enough to bully us.

No. 2085164

>>2084132
>Like people knew something was a bit off but they didn't care enough to bully us.
That's so nice, I'm glad that didn't happen to you, sounds like an interesting study. I wonder why it's more commonplace in America.
>>2083966
Like the other nona said, I've noticed now a lot of people who seem like bullies or even try to exclude me as an adult claim to be "neurospicy" or "so adhd/autistic". There was this girl I briefly became friends with that I told I was a sperg and she was like "I think I might be too but my doctor said I have BPD" after spending more time with her it's clear she's not an autist and just a weird jealous person who is trying to skin walk me and simultaneously exclude me. That's just one example. The worst one I've come across is a therapist who claims to be autistic, from a support group I was in and she's just one of those twitterfag genderspecials, hated my guts and made sure I knew it.

No. 2085165

>>2085164
>The worst one I've come across is a therapist who claims to be autistic, from a support group I was in and she's just one of those twitterfag genderspecials, hated my guts and made sure I knew it.
Tell us more please

No. 2085211

What hobbies/interests do you have that screams “I’m a sperg”? For me it’s playing guess the anime opening quizzes in my free time

No. 2085213

>>2085164
>"I think I might be too but my doctor said I have BPD"
I think they're just BPD then but autism is a "nicer" diagnosis so they pretend it's that.
>The worst one I've come across is a therapist who claims to be autistic, from a support group I was in and she's just one of those twitterfag genderspecials, hated my guts and made sure I knew it.
Sorry you had to experience that, but god she sounds like she'd be such a hilarious lolcow to follow online

No. 2085223

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>>2085211
i'm a huge pokemonfag, and i swear at least 50% of women who are into it are autists too

No. 2085565

>>2083960
I wasn’t exactly bullied because other kids quickly caught on that partnering with me on group projects (which made up the majority of our grades) practically guaranteed them a good grade, so they had a vested interest in keeping me around. Many of my “friends” negged the ever loving fuck out of me, though. I thought it was normal and that I was the problem. And yes, the worst one is now claiming to be neurospicy. She also tried but fortunately failed at being a therapist.

No. 2085733

normie obsession with small talk and their subsequent offense at me being bad at it pisses me off. have you considered that i’m not trying to be a bitch i just literally have nothing to say. let’s get back to work

No. 2085750

>>2085211
neopets so many current players are autistic women kek

No. 2085985

>>2083756
Doesn't sound like autism to me. Being introverted and awkward =/= autism, it's much more intense and broad than that. You might want to get screened for personality disorders instead, since people with those often feel distant from other people as well.

No. 2086085

>>2085985
ayrt, I thought I had some kind of PD as well, but got screened twice and came out pretty much negative so I don't think so. I had a therapist suggest maybe it was just me being sheltered and outcasted from peers due to social status/financial and racial issues where I'm from, which adds up tbh. Probably just a lonely retard then and not autistic kek.

No. 2087381

>>2085733
many normies are based under the social chameleon veneer, I work at a reasonably sizeable company with a mix of blue and white collar jobs and you get to observe differences in approaches to social situations

No. 2087398

>>2085733
You usually don't even have to talk back, just nod and use filler words like: oh? Mhm. Yeah. Ok, sounds nice. cool.
And they'll be happy most of the time. I don't actually care about what they're saying, I've just mastered acting like I'm listening.

No. 2087399

>>2085985
>Being introverted and awkward =/= autism
I wanna ask a question to everyone related to this. Do you feel you are awkward?

Asking because my impression is that for the most part us autist don't feel the awkwardness, the awkwardness is what others feel because the autist unknowingly does something socially incorrect. You need a lot of social awareness to realize that others are subtly acting strange around you in response to something you did and to figure out you must have done something socially wrong and to internalize that as bad and feel awkward. I can only really spot it when it's my (also autistic) friends who do something off compared to the normies around us, and even then usually I don't "feel" that it's awkward I just think "huh, I guess she does that differently than the normies and they don't seem to like it".

No. 2087422

>>2087399
I have been acutely aware of my awkwardness since I was around 10 years old, give or take. Maybe it’s a cultural thing but in my experience, people (especially other women and especially teenage girls) are not subtle about it when they think I’m being weird. I have enough social awareness to tell when someone is sneering at me, or rolling their eyes, or turns their back to me, or makes a point of talking over me and changing the subject. When all of my school ‘friends’ suddenly drop all contact with me over the summer holidays but do hang out together during that time, I notice. When my workplace has a ladies’ night out and I’m the only woman not invited, I notice. I wasn’t diagnosed until my early twenties and had insane amounts of social anxiety as a teen because I could tell I was doing something wrong but no one could ever explain to me what it was or how to fix it. After my diagnosis I had social skills training, but that focused only on the obvious e.g. don’t interrupt people, don’t touch people, don’t sperg out about the same subject for 30 minutes straight without letting anyone else get a word in. My faux pas are apparently more subtle so the training was no help with that. Even nt people who know me well and regularly observe me in social situations can’t tell me what specifically I’m doing wrong aside from being rather quiet. It’s a “vibe” or something. I wish I could either be normal or more oblivious because this middle ground is fucking hellish.

No. 2087773

>>2087399
I think i was aware subconsciously as a kid that other people behaved differently than I did, that I there was something that I didn't understand, but I thought everyone felt like that. Other people would call me 'different', but I thought everyone was masking like me (and they were just better at it), and part of being in a culture was pretending to like hanging out in big groups and being catty. I didn't actually engage much with that type of socialising, and I thought how sad it was there weren't more people like me who felt comfortable being themselves. Surely if I was being super weird, somebody would helpfully explain it directly to my face, right? Lol.
I thought I was doing a great job masking until my dad got diagnosed in my mid 20s, and I started to question myself and other people about what was normal. Also I think I got burnout because my sensory issues went crazy. Looking back, now I know the signs of nt people signalling that you're acting weird, they were doing it all the time.
I think I got away with it because I was conventionally attractive in a cute way, and alt, so people put a lot of it down to quirkiness?

No. 2087790

>>2087399
Tbh, I only noticed I was awkward around my mid 20's, until then I felt like the hate I received wasn't in any shape or form justified.
It was only then that I noticed how awkward I am, and it makes me wonder just how much of a mess I am as of now.

No. 2087796

>>2087422
>have been acutely aware of my awkwardness since I was around 10 years old
>had insane amounts of social anxiety as a teen because I could tell I was doing something wrong
But aren't those different things? Do you actually feel awkwardness or do you just feel anxious because you know something is wrong but you don't know what it is?
>>2087790
Aw nona! I'm sure you're not that bad, and receiving "hate" is rarely justified unless you were straight up an asshole to people on purpose. And even now, do you actually feel awkward acting those ways or do you now just know that others may feel it around you?

No. 2087824

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>>2087796
I mostly feel awkward /after/ whatever I said made things really, really awkward or after I do my usual debriefing of the day with myself, then I feel really awkward and try to cope thinking that it may have not been that bad.
It's so annoying, I'm quick to see patterns or react to many things (ie: catching something before it falls on the ground) I can make stories and characters out of the blue and make up nice names for characters/brands/places, I can make slogans easily and think of businesses.
But the moment I have to engage in a conversation I blurt out the most retarded shit or zone out and then blurt out retarded shit because I don't know what to say or I somehow forget an important answer to a question.
Make it stop, please.

No. 2087931

>>2087422
>I have been acutely aware of my awkwardness since I was around 10 years old.
I relate to you a lot. I think I first realized I was different age 8 or 9, but only around age 14 did I finally realize my own awkwardness. It's weird because it dawned on me so suddenly one day, that the things that I was doing were wrong or strange or awkward. I think that's when I first really concentrated on developing an adequate mask. It was like I was totally on autopilot until I was 14, only then did I take a step back in my own conscience and realize.
>>2087399
>I wanna ask a question to everyone related to this. Do you feel you are awkward?
I feel very awkward when I'm amongst a lot of others, like when I'm walking on the sidewalk for example I feel very very awkward just walking. It's weird but when I'm around a lot of other people, I want to try very hard to blend in so I'll always be thinking say "Am I walking right? Too fast? Too slow? How are others walking?" On certain streets people speed-walk down without looking up, and on other streets people casually stroll while looking around. I always try to match the general mood of the atmosphere around me, that I can perceive anyway. I feel like I somehow take up space weirdly or wrong when I'm out and about. When I'm in a closed off space with fewer people, I don't feel this same anxiety.

I don't feel awkward when I interact with others though, especially one on one. I read a lot of conversation skills and communication skills books when I was a teenager and young adult, and I really worked hard on because more extroverted and out-going. I'm proud of how well I can interact with others. Sometimes I get overwhelmed or miss a cue, or make the wrong expression, but I've gotten very good at 'masking' so to speak. Most people enjoy conversing with me and I don't mind talking with strangers (although if they approach me I take an extra second to register what's happening kek). I don't struggle much anymore with that dread of "oh am I me or is my mask me?" anymore because I prescribe to the crystallized self theory. I go to an adults with aspergers support group too, and it's good to talk with other spergs about stuff and relate with them.

No. 2088227

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More of a vent than anything but tonight made me realise how much my autism actually affects me socially. Got invited on a night out with a few coworkers and their friends, everything was going fine then I just get hit with a massive wave of over stimulation to the point where I had to straight up leave. Also to mention we were drinking and the other issue with this is that I don’t want to rely on alcohol to help me socially so I set a strict 3 drink only rule which I stuck to. This is becoming a more often occurrence and I’m not handling it well. I want to get close to people and do fun activities with them, but how can I do that when I can’t even be with them for more than a few hours without wanting to runaway back home and hide in my room. They have made it very clear that they like me and keep inviting me to things but I feel so guilty I can’t give them my all without wanting to run away and feeling like I’m gonna crawl out of my skin.

No. 2089044

Seeing moids on TikTok whine about their empathy for the autistic boy who would get asked out as a joke by the popular girls in high school makes me laugh because this literally never happens kek. I know plenty of autistic girls myself included who were hit on and sexually harassed by the popular boys. It's the other way around

No. 2089195

>>2088227
Would it be feasible to explain your sensory issues to them? I had the same problem with people in college who only ever wanted to hang out in the context of clubs/parties/noisy pubs and like you, I just can’t function in those environments for long. Back then they thought I was just making excuses but I feel like nowadays there’s so much more awareness of sensory difficulties and overstimulation that there’s a good chance your coworkers will understand.

>>2089044
Every girl I know would avoid the awkward weird boys like the plague because you never know how a boy like that will react when he thinks he has a chance with you. One of them stalked a girl for over a year after she was assigned to do a group project with him. I wouldn’t be surprised if this trope is just a self-victimising role reversal wish fulfilment fantasy in the same vein as when moids thought succubi would seduce them to steal their sperm. Everything men accuse us of is something they (want to) do to us.

No. 2089973

>>2088227
Like >>2089195 said, you could explain the sensory issues to them. My best excuse for this is that I'm "prone to migraines," and that when I'm in a loud place for too long I risk "having a migraine tomorrow morning." I find coming up with little white lies for these sorts of things easier than trying to dump my life and my issues onto others. If you still want to go out with them, research lounges in your area. Usually they're much quieter and have less going on, so they're my go-to since I can't do the whole loud club atmosphere.

No. 2090031

>>2089044
Girls bullied autistic girls, they avoided autistic boys because they were creeped out by them. Girls used to bait me into saying weird things or making the same gross jokes as them and then tell teachers that I was saying gross things to get me in trouble.

No. 2090094

>>2089044
Such bullshit. A lot of the moids in school would think it was funny to be like "haha my friend likes you" thinking I'd care enough to get a reaction out of me.

No. 2090149

>>2089044
>Seeing moids on TikTok whine about their empathy for the autistic boy who would get asked out as a joke by the popular girls in high school makes me laugh because this literally never happens kek.
Yeah, I'm convinced this has never happened at any time in any place on earth. It's a made up mean girl trope, real girls avoid weird guys because they're a potential threat. And if they really are popular they're usually not an asshole because then people would dislike them.
And if they for some reason are both mean AND popular they still would be risking losing their social status by asking the weirdo out, and they'd potentially be stuck with him at their heels all day. Even us autist females know that! If anything all it would do is start rumors that she's so slutty she even tried to get with the weird guy.
And if she was so autistic that she didn't know that… let's just say she wouldn't be the popular one kek



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