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No. 2507010

Discuss all topics pertaining to ADHD, ADD, or ASD experiences as a woman here.

Talk about the difficulty of diagnosis as a woman, the struggles that accompany ADHD/ADD/ASD, or share strategies that you developed to help cope with your diagnosis. Share your advice to cope with your issues related to your ADHD/ADD/ASD.

Or even discuss your thoughts on how recent attention to ASD/ADD/ADHD on social media affects those really afflicted.

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Anons with ADHD, ADD, & ASD should all be best friends. There is much strength to be gained through unity. The spergs need the ADHD crowd to tell them when they're being retarded, and anons need spergs to tell them when they need to focus. We unanimously refuse the balkanization of this thread. Our resolve is represented through the choice of thread picture.

No. 2507073

>>2506038
Autism loneliness is largely existential, it is about inability to connect and relate. I do go out to various events and hobby clubs but I feel like an outcast there and it hurts, but I largely go there just for the hobby part exactly so it doesn't inform my decision to go. I wish there was a place where I could interact with other autists, but I live in albania-tier country, and autism here is only ever discussed in pathological sense. I don't want to have friends with whom my only relatable part is that we are both mentally deficient.

No. 2507186

>>2507073
Same. I usually don’t feel all that lonely until I go out to socialise and I run into something that feels like an invisible wall between me and other people. The more I run into it, the more it hurts, and the more likely I am to go back to isolating myself. Then after a few months of that I forget about the wall and go out there again, all bright eyed and bushy tailed, certain that it will be different this time and I’ll be sure to have a good time this time, only to run head-first into the wall again. I’ve had CBT from a social anxiety specialist (who admitted she knew nothing about ASD) which only ended up making me feel worse in the long run because even when I’m at my most optimistic and confident, other people didn’t get the same script and still treat me the same way they always do.

Anyway, I’m wondering if anyone has some advice on how to deal with it when people are rude to you. For example, one thing that happens very often is when I’m talking to someone and a little circle of people forms, and then someone steps in front of me and cuts me out of the circle. Often they knock into me with their bag or even step on my toes. Usually when I say “hey, excuse me” or something along those lines, they just ignore me, and I don’t want to start shouting or physically shove myself back into the circle because that would be rude too. So I take that as my cue to leave.
Another common thing is that people start loudly talking over me when I’m talking. I used to think this was a sign I was going on too long, but they even do this when I’m only on my first or second sentence. If I stop talking to let them finish I never get another chance of getting a word in, and if I raise my voice (because maybe I was talking too quietly and they didn’t realise I was talking already?) they raise their voice too to continue talking over me. Again, I don’t like shouting, so this is my cue to shut up. The worst is when they start talking about me in third person like I’m not there, but fortunately that doesn’t happen very often. Usually they just act like they never noticed me there in the first place.
On one occasion a coworker sat down on my very small desk while I was trying to work and knocked over my (fortunately empty) coffee cup onto my keyboard. She didn’t apologise and no one else in there room acknowledged that anything happened either even though they all saw. When I told her to find somewhere else to sit everyone just laughed and she didn’t move, so I grabbed my laptop and went to work in the hallway.

We never covered any of this in social skills training. Instead we focused on recognising basic expressions on cartoon faces and learning how to be less of a nuisance. The assumption was always that if there’s some conflict between an autistic person and another person, it’s the autistic person’s fault for being socially awkward. So the only conflict resolution we ever learned was how to apologise, never how to effectively stand up for ourselves. Has anyone ITT ever had something like assertiveness training? Did that help?

No. 2507227

>>2507073
the existential loneliness is so real. the "nobody will ever understand you and you'll never fit in anywhere" thoughts i have everyday often feel suffocating

No. 2508243

God I hate love on the spectrum; the concept isn’t so bad but the editing, the way it’s narrated, the music choices and of course the fan base are all so condescending it makes me lose hope

No. 2508405

The Lion King ruined the entire generation of autistic girls

No. 2508422

>>2508405
I was super obsessed with The Lion King but I personally think Pokémon did more damage. It got me into anime for one and the stupid merch infected me with an autistic consoomerist mindset.

No. 2508454

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>>2508405
I finally found this

No. 2508463

Psychiatrist didn't up my low 3 month long starter dose because I hallucinated due to stress a month ago. It works a little and I'm trying it's just not enough and has never been enough and now I have to wait another 2 months should I try change doctor?

No. 2508606

>>2508243
I like the show and the participants, for the most part. But holy fuck the subreddit is actually the most cancer aids subreddit for a TV show i've ever come across.

No. 2508609

>>2508243
The latest season had a systemic footfag infestation. It made me so uncomfortable. Felt like some Dan Schneider shit.

No. 2508644

>>2508243
The other thing that annoys me about that show is how often the autistic person will show zero signs of wanting to date, yet they find themselves thrust onto the show at the will of their parents. I feel like nobody gives the show enough shit for that.

No. 2508703

>>2508243
I never watched it personally, but knew it existed and then hated it because of Katina. Could not stand her.

No. 2508734

>>2508463
Yeah
Can you just titrate the dose yourself? What are you taking?

No. 2508736

>>2508609
This is deeply disturbing. I don't watch the show. Was it just scenes of them talking about feet? Disgusting

No. 2508743

>>2508454
This is absolutely beautiful
>So I turned to a group that was hated by my original community, that is, the Narutards
Kekkk

No. 2508818

>>2508405
Huh, I've never seen a single lion king autist ever. What's the bad trajectory there, it goes to furrydom?

No. 2508827

>>2508818
You weren't there, in 2008, on deviantart, like I was…

No. 2508996

im the nona who posted about the generic medicine issue and feeling like none of my medicine was working, including the stimulant for adhd. turns out my ferritin level is 6, which i fear may have been the issue all along! all other bloodwork is great. will still be wary about my generics, though.

No. 2509069

>>2508827
For me it was warrior cats

No. 2509076

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>>2509069
The cover art is so intense and serious. I guess they have their own religion too? Kek

No. 2509243

I cant bear going to college anymore without wanting to kill myself. Has anyone tried self studying? I think I can pull 8+ hours of studying daily, but I absolutely cannot stand college.

No. 2509245

>>2509243
Just study online, I also had lots of issues going to uni physically, but when I studied online, I even got the best grades in all subjects.

No. 2509250

>>2509243
What's wrong with college? I used to enjoy the classes a ton, so long as I didn't take too many at once and get overloaded. I can study 8+ hours easy if I actually enjoy the topic but if I don't, giving me structure and deadlines I was forced to meet helped a lot

No. 2509298

>>2509250
Socialization is too rough for me

No. 2509379

>>2508818
>she doesn't know about all the Lion King themed forums where they talked about the backstories of the characters based on obscure comics and details and even uncovered secret tragic characters
>she hasn't seen the thousands of Lion King ocs (sparklecats included) and fan made comics
>she wasn't there when autits would roleplay Lion King inspired stories on Impressive Title and Feral Heart (also spawned by Lion King autism)
Are we that old?

No. 2509390

>>2509243
It depends on what problem you're having, but I like online classes better overall. For me, a big issue with college was the lack of a consistent everyday schedule. The alternating days was really hard for me to adjust to and I struggled to develop a routine the way I did in K-12. I also really hated sitting in giant classes that were full of distractions and just generally unpleasant. My hack was skipping classes and going to the quiet section of the library (where you're not allowed to talk) and self-teaching/doing all my work there, but then profs started docking my grade for skipping too much. I got attendance accommodations, which is a very subjective accommodation that depends entirely on how much leeway the prof wants to give you, so they still penalized me overall and hurt my GPA because I hated going to class. My Masters program is online and it has been going better in many ways, but it's still hard to build my own structure/routine. When I do fall into a rhythm with an online class, it's pretty ideal.

No. 2509566

>>2509379
I'm 28 and I remember all this shit

No. 2509572

>>2508243
How about the fact that it's all rich nepo baby autists and not actual autists? They're free to all be as kwirkee and kewl as they want because they live off daddy's money.



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