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Does anyone have any recommendations of sites to host photography?
I'm now just getting back into it and would really like to post stuff not just to insta. I like to have a little gallery to look at for myself mostly but having an active user base is also a plus for me. I do want to net-work a little with other people around my level.
The least amount of automated censorship the better. I do costume-y things that can include some fake blood and I've gotten false flagged by algorithms because of it?? (current year problems.)
I know the obvious Flickr and that might work for me as a back up but is it cool? What is the coolest one?
I primarily listen to metal but I never call myself a metalhead because most of them are elitist assholes who will tell you the bands you listen to are 'not really metal' or 'not metal enough' because metal is basically an umbrella term almost and there are so many different types and people have soooo many opinions about the different genres and what should/shouldn't be considered "true metal" that they want to project onto you. I always hear people say goths are elitists but honestly metalheads are so much worse.
And just wanna remind everyone that metal and goth are 2 different genres, they get conflated a lot for some reason.
Idk why anyone would wanna do themselves the disservice of trying to pander to these gatekeeping faggots in subcultures. You gotta have low as shit self esteem to try and get into a circle that doesn't want you and doesn't consider you worthy.
"Normies" will accept your hobbies and maybe even join you in exploring them if they're good enough friends with overlapping tastes.
for metal standards being a sellout means being able to play something that isn't the pentatonic scale, for punk is knowing more than 3 chords and actually caring about music more than the costume and the posturing.
Metal is not just a subculture, is an age bracket. most people grow out of it and thats cool, most of the most amazing musicians i've ever met started out as metal fans who eventually got bored of playing the same compositions over and over. In retrospect my edgelord years were silly but also very fun, i'd just wish i hadn't cut myself from other experiences because of that tribal mentality.
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God, i wanted the nintendo switch so badly…dont know if i should pick up a job though since i didnt recieve any customer through commissioning my art.
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I lived in a third world country unfortunately. We do have mcdonals but those jobs kinda tend to get filled up quite quickly,so im trying to find one that would balance between schooling and other stuff.>>473612
Not my art but im flattered lol, i kinda knew the harsh reality of being an artist but i still wanted to be one, i dont wanna drop it either. Ill think this through tho, thank you. (pic related, this is what my art really looks like, kinda amateurish i know )
Just keep it up and do what you have to do to get there, if you want to open a bakery you would be doing the same, just saving money with something else and learning the trade until you are ready to make the jump. I too live in the third world and had to save for over a year doing odd stuff and doing graphic design stuff with a mouse before i could even afford a huion tablet and a budget pc, we have to make the best of it.
Open a cgpeers acount, pirate the shit out of book and courses and do whatever you need to get ahead.
Some were, including one pharaoh IIRC, but most were something else.
They were kind of a melting pot. People like to argue about this back and forth and get really pissy for whatever reason, but that's pretty much it.
Ate you telling me I'm not fat? I drink a lot of wine and have some pudge.
Are you telling me I'm fat?
I'm fucking 30. Shit happens to your body.
I was a gnat till i was 23, and had the same job since I was 16, on my feet mom stop walking. Muscular, skinny, amd fat all at once depending where my insecurities lie.
Regardless non of ya'll are helping me try to look sexy so nvm
You admit yourself that your insecurities twist your body image and expect us to give you advice with an admittly unreliable description of your body?
Just stay an equilibrium of just the right about of thinness, fat, and muscle, enough fat for feminine curves, enough muscles to tighten your body, and enough thinness to have a flattering figure
Yo bitch, I'm not asking for health advice. Maybe I disclosed too much
All I wanna know is how to take a sexy full body shot, regardless of thickness fatness or fitness
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This keeps popping up whenever I scroll down IG accounts. I definitely don't want to have to log into IG or make a new account just to look at some pictures. I resent that IG seems to be taking tips from Pinterest now. How do I get rid of it?
exactly. Tinder is the perfect example for this.>>473763
girl I feel you LOL
Chore stuff like dishes/laundry
Take photos of stuff to sell on eBay
That's a whole nother issue for me
Guys who want to get too serious too fast often turn out to be abusive
and psychotic. It's hard knowing what to trust or not these days.
They crack down on everything. I don't use Instagram, but I like it to check on random shit, which is now almost impossible because now you need to have an account for almost everything to access as checking on locations etc.
Tags are still fine, but who the fuck knows for how long.
there are a few, but i think given enough time, almost all of them become cheaters. the only difference is how long/how "bored" they get until they decide to go through with it.
if they don't cheat, they'll probably disrespect you in other ways. i am with a guy that i can't really see cheating given how crazy attracted he still is to me after all this time, and he's so sweet with me sexually, but is an unbearable, totally unaware douchebag in other respects. there's never "the whole package". most men are duplicitous freaks, but those few that aren't are going to likely make you settle in other ways that make you want to shoot yourself in the face out of frustration.
I love my Shark vacuum. I bought it while I was in college because I frustrated over the cheaper vacuums constantly busting on me and never doing a great job.
Five years later and it still works great, mind though that I do keep maintenance with it and clean it regularly. I think people who see a decline in the quality of their expensive vacuums probably just don't realize they need to clean it.
An ex bought one at a pawn shop for $50 because it "didn't work," but once I brought it home and flushed out the hosing it worked like a charm.
I know plenty of men that haven't cheated. I also know women who cheated on their man but yes, faithful people do exist from my experience.
Possible hot take, but many studies indicate that men who are particularly high libido are more likely to cheat so hanging on to one night stands and guys who generally want to get in your pants more than anything else (like having nice conversations lol) might not be the best idea.
How long does it take for you to put on makeup anon? I do find this a little weird, but then again, I usually put on a very light amount of make up (application time runs between 5min minimum to about 20-30min max depending if I'm just doing some eyeliner+brows or if I'm doing the whole shebang) so if something comes up spontaneously I can just smack on some makeup and leave. Even if I do have something planned, I tend to leave it as one of the very last things I do before heading out (usually try to leave about 30 min but if I end up misjudging time and rushing I'll just do basic eyeliner and brows to save myself the time).
It always feels like a waste to me if I put on make up and end up not leaving. I also like to relish in the freedom of rubbing my face/eyes without worrying about smearing anything so any chance I don't have to have makeup on, I won't lol.
You've just gotta befriend some. I wish I had better advice.
I feel twinges of that sometimes with new men (especially frat boy and male art hoe types but I have a fear of conventionally attractive people in general), but atm my only friends are straight men who aren't attracted to me and no one gives a fuck. When I was obese and gnc I used to work with mostly men and they also didn't give a fuck.
Chances are if a man is the type to post about or shit talk a woman for being ugly, if he was a woman he'd still be a shallow bitch and act similarly.
So…fear both, or neither, equally.
Glad I'm at least not the only one. It's the same for me, I have such a hard time working together with guys. I subconsciously think "if he hates me, at least he won't think I'm hitting on him". I really don't get how other women can just joke around or even flirt a little with their male friends.
If there's a couple at the shop I work at, I exclusively talk only to her, so that they won't get the wrong idea.
I don't know if that's the reason why I'm like this, but when I was in 6th grade one of my former friends lied to a guy and said I liked him, to which he reacted completely grossed out and I franctically tried to deny it. Back then I didn't even feel bad about it for long, but this is exactly what I fear will happen if I were to be friendly with a guy. Later on I also got in similar incidents, there boys insulted me, saying they would never like me, although I didn't even show any interest in them. I have a resting bitch face and talk very little, so no way that anything I ever did could be interpreted as flirting. No idea why this kept happening to me (or maybe that's normal and only I can't deal with that?)
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Who draws those pictures that Google shows when you search up a disease
>>474346>get all aggro
Nah, that's you famalam. >calm down
Says the person who wanted to report me for being a scrote. Sure Jan.
Where was I aggro? And, you do realize multiple people have replied to you, right? I never said to report you.
I'm starting to genuinely feel worried for your mental health. This isn't normal behavior over a failed joke.
>>474348>Where was I aggro?
Was it when you called me the scrote, the Neopets user, or the underage?
You're weirdly mad about this and an obvious samefag. This really doesn't matter, but it must've really hurt your feelings for you to have ran with it for this many replies.
I'm sorry my outdated meme made you upset. Please heal and move on from this.
I posted a Shrek picture. You seriously sound unwell. This website is not a conspiracy of one person samefagging to hurt your feelings, and getting mad and yelling about projection won't make this any less sad to watch.
Get help, seriously.
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i also wonder who draws those random wikihow articles. And how that bussiness model works. Its funny to just deep dive into retarded articles but what the hell is the incentive to do this pointless shithttps://www.wikihow.com/Cosplay-as-Shinji-Ikarihttps://www.wikihow-fun.com/Act-Like-Sasuke
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Honestly most of the time it just looks like someone has traced over existing photos and exaggerated parts a little, the results can be hilarious though
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Yeah unless you we're fucked up to the point your brain coped by feeling nothing you probally for some resilinice techniques. A lot of child abuse that doesn't leave physical scars, but only mental can also become an 'in the eye of the beholder' thing. Some people have been mentaly fucked over by being emotinaly neglected as a child while others can survive beatings. It depends on you and how you developed.
i wish i had a definitive answer but i have been dealing with varicose veins for years after pregnancies with little insurance coverage and no ability to get it taken care of. im hoping you can address it sooner than later. even with insurance and it being that i spend about a week out of the month unable to walk im looking at 5k initially to start treating the issue. i live in a state that has literally one of the worst overall scores for healthcare though.
sometimes resources are buried but maybe start with searching your states public health resources and then county health resources. try calling public health care lines for your county and ask what may be available. maybe if its available, call a state medical university to see if there is something they could do even for a reduced price. i live in a state that has a few big medical universities that offer discounted rates for training.
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Have any anons here been writing diaries for a while?
I admire people who write them dilligently, but it's too awkward for me to ask them anything about diary writing in person.
Whan kind of notebook do you write in? How often do you write? How do you write about you day coherently? Do you worry about someone reading it?
>>474591>What kind of notebook do you write in?
I still write in the one my mother gave to me on my 14th birthday. It’s custom made and leather bound. There’s golden music notes pressed into the leather and it’s so pretty! I play piano so it suits me. I think everyone should get a unique diary like that for themselves, like something that reflects a personal trait or hobby of theirs. I wrote in fountain pen in my youth, and now I write in those thin Japanese pens people obsess over. I kind of want to get a quill or something nice. I always write in cursive and it’s nice to see an improvement in handwriting over the years.
>How often do you write?
I write whenever I feel sad or extremely happy. I don’t feel the need to write a day-to-day chronicle on my mundane life. I also write when a big event happens in my life like going to college, establishing relationships, or going on vacations and experiencing new things. I still have to write about my trip to Europe over the summer but haven’t gotten around to doing it. A girl in the same tour group brought her diary and wrote on the bus and I got so jelly lmao. Why didn’t I bring mine!
>How do you write about you day coherently?
Honestly I just verbally vomit on the page. I make my writing like my thoughts, like free form or stream of consciousness writing. It’s nice to go back and see what my thoughts were like exactly.
> Do you worry about someone reading it?
I’m pretty sure my family read it growing up. I was always so paranoid so I repressed some of my thoughts and feelings in my diary. Now that I’ve moved away from home and living by myself I don’t feel as paranoid anymore and unleash my full feelings out
The boyfriends are usually also NEETs too, also cohabitation removes some standards since people are happy just to be sharing rent
idk how much you read lolcow but this site really opened my eyes to what constitutes a boyfriend, like a lot of people don't want to have sex with their bf or they don't touch each other for years. Relationships are usually not all sunshine and roses, bf means a different thing to different people and they will only ever show (outside of anon sites) the highlights.
I’m currently journaling in a really cute shiny journal with a girl in armor petting a big dragon on it. I fill up diaries so fast and always buy them when I see cute ones.
I’ve been using a journal since I was a child and then therapists continued to encourage me to do it as a teen. I also have been using it to document my tarot card readings and write about my deck and how I interpret it. I doodle in it occasionally, too but it’s mostly just me rambling. A lot of it is sad stuff I need to get off my chest. That depression life :)
women do have it on easy mode when it comes to finding a partner. Its the male neets that no one wants romantically or sexually.
Finding someone to date as an at least avertage looking girl is way easier than finding friendships.
Financial skills, understanding taxes, saving money, some sort of monetizable skill which is transferable, understanding of basic human psychology and politics.
You basically need to understand your "place" that being how others view you in society, figure out what you specialize in and sell your skill, and work around that boundary of how others view you (which you cannot change) how you represent yourself and interact/your personal boundaries (which you can change) and honing whatever you are adept at so you can monetize it. Hope that makes sense, it's a big topic but I'm trying to keep it short.
that's not even fucking true. i know a number of male neets that had numerous women clawing after them that wanted to help them. the thing is that most male neets are bottom of the barrel degenerate losers, and no one wants to get with a guy that fucks himself with a dragon dildo, and a lot of neet guys become this level of degen from having way too much time on their hands, or from just being the type of chris-chan tier creep that is more likely to become a neet.>>474597
as a few anons have already said, a lot of women WITH successful careers already settle for men that become little but horny ankleweights already, so a lot of neet girls are settling for trash bfs, but just because someone is neet doesn't mean they don't have something to offer someone, especially as a woman. honestly a lot of guys don't care about whether or not a woman has a career tbh. a lot of guys don't mind women being dependent on them, especially if they also have mental problems or whatever that they can either abuse, or relate to, not that many men actually treat these women so well. you have to remember that a lot of these neet girls have low self esteem from society beating them down for being neet, on top of whatever problems they had that led them to becoming neets, so honestly they're probably grateful for anything. women with their shit together praise men for doing the smallest shit that should already be expected of men, so i'm sure that's happening tenfold with neet girls. they're probably worshipping them for just treating them a little human, especially because people irl make you feel inhuman for being neet, or for being fat, or ugly, etc, etc.
and a lot of self reported "ugly" or "fat" women aren't. women blow out insecurities out of proportion while literally disfigured men criticize women's appearances and display the same level of male entitlement as attractive men.
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I'm just saying, if an anon asked advice on here about their neet crush or bf they would be told to love themselves and dump him, but guys don't tend to have big issues with being the one financially supporting their relationships and paying for everything, some would even prefer specifically to marry a stay at home mom who don´t work or be a suggar daddy for a thoth who admits straight up that she is a goldigger from the get go.
Women get less shitted on for being neets and an average looking woman has more romantic potential than an average looking dude and will have more options when putting herself out there , almost all of my neets friends are girls who spent a lot of time jumping between relationships were they never spent any money, and being pampared by their parents , to a point they became too used to a lifestyle of being lazy and only function when it came to leisure paid by whoever else. If your boyfriend comes over with cake, weed and gifts every other day of the week and your parents cover all your expenses while you play videogames and shitpost, no shit you become entitled and lazy.
Disclaimer, having a boyfriend doesn´t imply is a good bf, even paying for everything they can still be shitty boyfriends and paying for stuff is also a manipulative tactic to gain dependency, i am just saying a female neet has some advantages on that aspect over male ones and is more likely to find a couple should she look for one.
>>474729>if an anon asked advice on here about their neet crush or bf they would be told to love themselves and dump him
no, they really wouldn't. only if the guy was an annoying fuck AND neet, because why put up with male entitlement AND neetdom?
>Women get less shitted on for being neets
uhhh, not true at all. irl you get shit on for being a neet as a woman all of the time, the only time you're maybe given any leniency is when people want to fuck you? if women found a guy super attractive emotionally, physically, what have you, A LOT of them would be perfectly fine with looking over the neet shit though too, so it's not exclusive to women. people will overlook certain things if there are positives. i've seen it time and time again. people MAYBE will be nicer about women being neet if they're married, but even then, i see "stay at home wives" are shit on a lot irl. real life is not all about how men online treat women or how young men treat women. people who aren't considered to be "contributing" to society are not treated well, male or female.
>If your boyfriend comes over with cake, weed and gifts every other day of the week
literally like no guys even do this shit today, let alone for neet girls. your idea of neet women is weird. i've never had this happen. idk any women who have bfs who bring over cake and gifts and weed every other day.
I specifically mentioned that I saw many posts of neet farmers whose boyfriends were not neets or super trashy and that's what baffles me. Like guys who work and support a woman who doesn't contribute to absolutely anything. How did they even meet if she neither goes to school, nor work, nor has hobbies (besides gaming), nor is willing to go outside?
In the traditional sense a stay-at-home wife would at least cook, clean, buy groceries + other necessities and look presentable, but in those cases they're only sitting at home and are useless, why would anybody endure that? If you want sex, a prostitute would be a lot cheaper.
Same for parents who allow their "kids" (some of them are 30+) to not do anything. Everybody could at least work retail (and if your anxiety is so bad work a nightjob there you won't need to face anybody).
But how? All those farmers claim to do is lay in bed or play on their computer 24/7. That's not contributing.
And simply assuming that those working boyfriends are always worse than their neet girlfriends just because of their gender is whack. Being a neet is leeching off of others, that could be classified as a form of abuse as well, with the other party being to weak to leave. They're being essentially guilt-tripped into not breaking up, since they know that a neet wouldn't survive on their own and would likely end up homeless - and not many people could stand the thought of being responsible for that.
You'd be surprised how many men have a fixer complex when it comes to their partners. Plus a lot of guys still have it in their heads that they need to be the breadwinner so their gf not working is less of a deal-breaker, maybe.
Having been in the reverse situation with my garbage ex who decided getting a mild depression diagnosis was a good excuse to quit his job and become a worthless basement troll - which forced me to support him working full-time, while in school full-time, AND having to cook and clean because any time you asked him he'd start crying he was too depressed (also he claimed to have PTSD from a nightmare…) - I don't know how anyone manages that long-term. I tapped out after a year and had a complete mental breakdown afterwards. But I guess some people are more resilient.
What was so great about him that you couldn't leave him? After a year and a half? Kek
I don't really care about men who have girlfriends who support them because I'm not in that situation. I'm wondering why some women seem to have all the luck while I'm having trouble finding anyone.
>>474789>Just go for IT virgins with high paying dev jobs if you're looking to convert to NEETdom on your man's dime.
lol I seriously doubt that's what the NEET anons here do. Can it? That would be too simple. These NEETs also love their bf back so I really doubt that's what they're doing.
I've been frustrated at the fact that I can't seem to find a guy while people I know seem to have no problem finding providers left and right. But the truth is, I do have something even better. My parents are pretty well off and generous, so I can have them as my sugar daddy without having to resort to sex or anything gross. Still it makes me feel like a less worthy woman that everyone here seems to have no trouble snapping up someone who they love AND who is willing to pay a ton of money for them.
Spent my twenties dating 'fixers'. They would move me in and intensely plan a future with me, they'd pay the rent and pay for dates and convince me they were like a saviour. 2 or 3 years in they'd suddenly dump me as soon as my mental health started to improve in any noticeable way. In reality they wanted an isolated young girl with no life outside of dating them.
It taught me that a healthy power balance is important in a relationship, you need to feel like you could walk away and support yourself, otherwise you're trapped.
tbh I would gladly go back in time and work hard to pay my own rent if it meant I didn't date such shitty 'yet generous' men
I think the dumping thing happens to a lot of people but not all of them. There are plenty of relationships where a man is fine with being the provider for all of the relationship. Case in point, look at Pixielock's mom. The dad provides most of the income while the mom has a job as a hobby. There are plenty of other examples. Also look at the MLM boss babes who have a husband providing most of the income while they lose money on their "job".
Sure, plenty of these relationships fail. But relationships do in general.>>474804>tbh I would gladly go back in time and work hard to pay my own rent if it meant I didn't date such shitty 'yet generous' men
It's easy for you to say that now, but for me it seems like you got a nice deal
Should my brother be classified as a fixer ?
he met my sister-in-law when she was studying and working odd jobs but she a panic attack because of stress and interacting with people,ever since then he's been by her side always side going out of his to do what ever he possibly he can for her and from what I have seen she honestly seems okay with this lifestyle,they've been together for several years now and have a daughter together
I mean nobody knows what is truly happening between two people but what you describe sounds fine at least from an outside perspective.
I think the main point people are making is that it's important to feel like a break up won't leave you homeless or in serious trouble supporting yourself. If you're married and have a kid you at least have some fall back most of the time (financial support being legally required)
I know women who have stayed in bad relationship because they couldn't afford to leave. My parents died young so I used to put up with abuse just to keep a roof over my head
Show us the journal.
you can contribute by volunteering, by being a source of support for someone, doing work that doesn't make you money but still affects people or animals, for example. you sound crazy jealous. working is not a source of identity. people are still lovable without a job, wtf. men get into these relationships with neet women knowing theyre neet, and if they knew what came with the territory, i don't see how that's "abuse". it's something you really have to consider before jumping in, why they're neet, what their plans are, etc. no, it's not good to be reliant on anyone else, it's definitely not smart, but for a lot of people, neetdom is a stepping stone, not a life plan, so. a lot of neet women aren't neet for funsies, a lot are ill. male neets do it bc lazy though a lot.
>>475001>you can contribute by volunteering, by being a source of support for someone, doing work that doesn't make you money but still affects people or animals
Of course that would be possible but I haven't seen a single post of a neet farmer actually doing that. They only ever say that they're at home doing absolutely nothing.>you sound crazy jealous
Of what? Being a waste of space?>people are still lovable without a job
I never said you aren't. I said you are if you've got neither a job, nor hobbies, nor children, are too mentally sick to function at all and do literally nothing (which seems to be the case with most neets posting here). Why would anybody love somebody who's basically a vegetable void of any activity or personality (if it isn't their own child or parent)?>male neets do it bc lazy though a lot
You're not any better just because you're female, anon…
>>475009>Of what? Being a waste of space?
you're really unhealthy. again, it would appear that these anons are unwell the majority of the time. no one is a "waste of space" for being unemployed for a few years. we have no idea what their situation is that got them there and them being a neet doesn't put a cap on their potential.>I never said you aren't. I said you are if you've got neither a job, nor hobbies, nor children, are too mentally sick to function at all and do literally nothing (which seems to be the case with most neets posting here). Why would anybody love somebody who's basically a vegetable void of any activity or personality (if it isn't their own child or parent
you're like incomprehensibly dumb. not having a job doesn't mean they're "void of personality", wtf. your entire personality revolves around your job or career? you sound like a literal manila folder of a fucking person. for the millionth time, people don't date people for their jobs. people are more than their employment. you sound so unhealthy, it's unbelievable. you sound very noxious. no wonder guys aren't into it.>You're not any better just because you're female, anon…
i'm not neet. i never said i was a neet, never implied or suggested that i was.
>>475020>but about somebody who lays in bed all day, doesn't wash themself for ages, is only online, doesn't cook, doesn't take care about the house, simply doesn't do anything. Do you really believe that "living" like this can be called having a personality?
first of all, that sounds like depression. a lot of the neets you mention are clearly pretty depressed. are you under the impression that them cleaning the house will give them a personality? incredibly active people don't just have personalities because they go hiking or take up archery or pottery making. none of that is a personality. again, a relationship is about emotional labor, caring for each other emotionally, supporting each other emotionally, sex, i guess, having loving and affectionate company, etc. people don't typically date because of someone's job and whether or not they clean often or rock climb. for some guys and girls, having a gf or bf who games or does whatever that they can relate to, that is a source of emotional support and affection and care, etc, is plenty
Not who you've been replying to but I gotta agree with them.
Even though mental illness is no one's fault, it's still our own responsibility. Either by seeking a means to get some help, or doing little things for ourselves to at least improve the quality of living.
If you have the means to do something but you choose not to, that's a particular kind of laziness grown from the spoilage of knowing someone else will take care of you and pick up your messes.
I've known many mentally ill people who didn't have such luxuries. It was either they got a job, took care of themselves, and cleaned their living spaces; or face homelessness. Everyone can suddenly find 'inspiration' to do things if they're pushed hard enough. If the stakes are too great to risk losing.
The biggest problem with NEETs are the enablers of that lifestyle. Making excuses for them, sometimes for the enabler's own selfish reasons. Everyone needs a bit of empathy and compassion, but not to a fault. It's a disservice to humans to encourage them that they legitimately cannot do a thing besides sit in bed and browse the internet all day, and at best it does nothing to help break the destructive cycle of thinking that they cannot.
And a lot of homeless people are mentally ill, go figure. Stakes are too great, a neurotypical finds inspiration.
A depressed person fucking kills themselves.
Kek, why are you acting like finding a bf is a huge achievement? You don't think there are guys that go after rude and judgmental girls? I thought men were scrotes were no taste and constantly abused women but now they are arbiters of morals. Which one is it?>>474978
You sound delusional. As you can see from this very board, tons of girls with dogshit personalities can find boyfriends. I never said anything about fat or ugly girls. You're projecting.
lies. you literally said yourself in like 4 different posts that you're jealous you can't find a guy that wants to be with you and support you, while you also shit on them. then you went on to brag about your rich parents. everything you say is not motivated by having understanding and wanting them to better themselves, that's why you've said nothing but disparaging comments about them and keep insisting there's absolutely no reason for a man to want to be with them. you've said repeatedly that you think apparently depressed neet girls are vegetables with no personality, that they're abusive
, that they're "wastes of space", etc, but you admit you want to be neet and live off of a boyfriend.
>I don't have standards when it comes to attractiveness, I wouldn't ask for anything from a guy, I'd even be willing to a lot for him, yet it seems I'm doomed to die alone.
this is what your comments are motivated by, not depression. idk what your deal is, why you can't find a dude, but i'm sure it has something to do with your personality.
>Why would anybody love somebody who's basically a vegetable void of any activity or personality
>I kinda wish I had this since it is so low stress and it seems fine. A bunch of anons are going to screech about how a breakup is inevitable but it doesn't always happen. It just seems annoying that there's no guy like that willing to provide for me.
you're just salty, don't lie.>>475049
that isn't why anon is saying this shit. we've not spoken about bettering themselves. they should absolutely better themselves, but depression and recovery is not linear. people struggling with mental health often make strides and take steps back, etc, yet anon wants to define people by periods in their lives that we know nothing about. anon wants to be a lazy neet anyways so her criticism is dumb. you all are acting like so many neets are just neets for 30 years. often they're neet for a bit, try college, drop out, go back, get a job, quit or get fired, end up neet, go back, etc. depression is more than just habit. for people who struggle with suicidal thoughts or impulsive behavior, it's tough. i don't know what the circumstances these people are going through, but anon has spent the better part of all her posts saying all of these neets do absolutely nothing to better themselves, that they're unlovable wastes of spaces, etc, when we don't know that's the case at all. she doesn't know them or their lives. 1 or 2 self deprecating posts doesn't tell their life story.
Except right here >>474597 >I constantly read stuff like >i'm mentally ill/fat/ugly/disabled/never finished school/unemployed/messy/can't cook or do anything/depressed/cry all day/…and don't have anybody but my bf>Like how? How did you get one if you're unattactive, barely function and don't leave the house?
I know you're bitter you can't find anyone to wipe your ass so you can be a pampered NEET, but accusing anyone else of being delusional/projecting when you're the one who has whined for the past 24 hours how you don't have any luck with men is fucking hilarious.
I wanna bring up my sister-in-law again because thier situation is not at all ideal
In school she was smart and got good grades, she even was the type of person who was nice to everyone. when she was in collage she had a panic attack due to stres and she just stopped interacting with people. After that she quit going to school and started palyiing videogames all day and night.She eventaully moved in with my brother when he got his own place. that was 7 years ago
The worst thing about her is her hygiene, she lets her hair get so messy you can't even comb it without her going OW OW OW… Thier bedroom smells worse that a dead skunk, she leaves food, trash, paper, pads…, piles of clothes… etc etc etc…
She doesn't care, she sits on the floor all day playing her games,hell she barely takes care of her own daughter and just puts her infornt of the TV,she's a lazy lazy lazy person and I ask my brother why he stays with her and he says its because he simply just loves her and that she's the only woman he wants to be with
Y'all what buttons did people asking a normal question push? Obviously you NEET girls are sweet angels who deserve every penny they get and are too good for the world. >>475108>>475068
Can't you see there's more than one anon asking the question? It perplexes both of us.
You're confusing us together. I'm the anon with rich parents who never called anyone fat.
Yeah I am a little salty. Ngl. Just like you would be salty that I have rich parents. It's natural. >>475085
Nah, I'm fine with having a guy who makes less than me when I have a career. It's actually not that important. But I do fantasize about having a guy take care of me. Why not?>>475076>You sound like an incel.
Wow burn, you really got me bruh. I've never had sex or had a bf before.>>475113
Clearly your sister is just a saint and your brother is soooo lucky to be with her.
>>475118>Can't you see there's more than one anon asking the question?
Exactly, I was the one who asked initially and while I do want a bf I only mentioned that once, in this post >>474597
So no, I'm not jealous about not having somebody "to wipe my ass" like you do, I pride myself in still living a somewhat normal life despite being mentally unwell.
All you do is go on about having such amazing personalities and therefore being deserving of getting everything catered to you, but really? Have you read your own posts? You're fucking aggressive for somebody who claims to be an anxious baby incapable of leaving the house only waiting for her man to come home.
Why is it so surprising to you that people despise you, when you don't even respect yourselves? You can go on forever about this not being your fault and only a temporary thing, but in the end of the day you know that you're wrong and that these are only pathetic excuses you made up to justifiy you being a burden on others.
My mom this and has discovered there is something called h pylori bacteria which 60-70% people have and is the cause of a lot of stomach problems. You can get expensive counter bacteria tablets on Amazon which attack the h pylori. They are proven to work!
It sounds like you have the same thing. Also don't drink tap water as the chlorine can aggravate very sensitive stomachs.
Go to a doctor, my friend also had the mentioned bacteria and it was cleared up super easily.
Could also be like GERD or something, I have GERD and my symptoms are similar.
Until you can get an appointment, try to stick to bland, low acid and nonspicy foods and wear loose clothing.
I tested positive for this and people are usually given a combination of 3 antibiotics to clear it. Taking the 3 at once can be really rough in terms of side effects so I was sick for a week while on it but it works
I was tested for it in hospital and prescribed the tablets that cleared it in a week, I'd be cautious about non-prescribed treatments
Sorry for the late reply but I'm so sorry that that happened to you anon! When I replay the memories, his face is always blacked out so I don't know if I would suddenly recognize it if I was to see him. I've gone to therapy for depression a few times throughout my life but I never mentioned my rape to them since it was unrelated. I hope you're doing a lot better now anon.>>474456
I guess if I reeaaallly wanted to be nitpicky about it, I could contribute my weird hypersexuality from the age of like… 4 all the way up around last year (23) to it, but the puzzle pieces never clicked in my head. So many things have happened it's hard to say what caused what problem with me, but I think I'm a lot better off as a person nowadays and have grown past more recent traumas. My rapist was my first baby sitter's son, but I can't remember how long I was with them or how long I dealt with the rape and molestation, but I imagine now that it probably wasn't too long if it didn't really affect me. My parents changed my babysitter to my aunt when my first babysitter dislocated my arm, but to this day they don't know about the rape lol.
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Anon, I hope you'll start! Journaling/writing in a diary went from something I did to help my depression, to just being a really fun hobby to log my life into.
I started maybe about 4 years ago, because I saw one of my favorite artists constantly post her journal entries from her hobonichi. I picked up a random small spiral notebook and I would just jot down things that happened that day. I was living in Japan at the time, and to this day I regret not starting sooner because I think it really would've helped my depression at the time, and also I just want to recall things with better accuracy! It bounces between being a place to vent (I like to think that when I'm writing depressing thoughts down, that the feeling is leaving my body through me physically writing it, so it's kept in the pages and out of my body lol it's lame but it helps me!), to just a place where I record things that happened (mundane or not) because I think it's fun to read these in the long, long future! I decorate all of my pages with washi tapes and stickers (I have a pretty good collection of tapes and friends will frequently buy me stickers as gifts), I think it really makes the pages pop!
>Whan kind of notebook do you write in?
Aside from my first and third journal (I'm on my 4th one atm!), I try my best to buy from indie artists. I used to attend a lot of conventions and would buy there, but etsy has so many too. There's no real reason for it other than that sort of… special exclusivity that I like. Like, a notebook that's a bit harder for others to find and most people I'll run into won't own it, so it's very special and unique to me. Nowadays I'm thinking of buying from my local stationary store just to make my life a little easier. I'd love to write in a hobonichi, but the pages are too thin and I write too much lol.
>How often do you write?
I try my best to write daily! I went through a period where I would only write if something happened that day (an outing with friends or something very unusual) because I wanted to save pages in my current journal that's very nice but only 56 pages, but it feels like a waste. So many days unaccounted for!
>How do you write about you day coherently?
If it's a really mundane day, I'll write about what I did in the morning. I have a dog so I'll write down if she was being really naughty or really cute or something. Then I'll just sort of write out everything else that I think is worth noting/can bother to remember. If I actually did something that day, I'll only write about that. If it's a vent, I'll just write out my thoughts. Sometimes it can be a combination of all three and then that day's entry can span like 5 pages or something lol.
>Do you worry about someone reading it?
Absolutely. I write a lot of meaningless stuff, but I also write down a lot of things that others might think is concerning, or I'll write really ugly vents about friends or something that might make them upset so of course I don't want them to read it lol.
The attached picture is from the artist who inspired me to start journaling! I own a few of her washi tapes and my current journal is also from her.
It's flattering, but a huge red flag. I'd be pretty wary of someone like that.
The most you can do is use their attraction to you to get advantages or favors out of them, but that could very easily backfire if you're not careful.
the brain craves novelty. Is part of getting better at something to discipline yourself to stick to doing the same thing even after the initial dopamine rush wears off.
See how people get addicted to endlessly browsing their timelines on social media, the are hooked to focusing on something for a second, forgetting it then jumping to something else inmediatly. Cumbrains will have 30 porn tabs opened and they haven´t even finished watching the first video, the collective attention span is ruined because this exploit in our brains from the time we were hunter gatherers has been hacked into so hard for so long.
Damn I do the same thing but it has nothing to do with the dumb endless scroll timeline shit that >>475520
was going on about, because that internet stuff is specifically designed to be addictive, and I get addicted to things that aren't designed that way. I'll get obsessed with certain bands for a few weeks and listen to them nonstop and consume everything relating to them. I'll obsess over a film franchise and never stop talking about the lore and fun facts of it. I'll obsess over specific animals or celebrities or hobbies for a bit and then obsess over something else. It's like autism obsession on hyperdrive.
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We all know what kind of danger train autists can pose.
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Any old deviantart people on here? I'm trying to find someone who held a contest where the winner would be awarded a custom made figure of their OC. I'm pretty sure the winner was hellobaby (attached is a pic of her art) but I can't find the image she submitted or the person who made the figures. The winning picture that was turned into a figure had like wings or feathers coming out of the characters head, a really elaborate bunch of fabric around her waist, and the legs were drawn in a weird way that they had to be adjusted when the sculptor sculpted the legs. I used to always go back and check on the progress of the figure because that person used to post WIPs of it, but I don't think I ever got to see the figure completed. It might not have been hellobaby, but the style looks really similar to what I remember it being.
If it wasn't hellobaby, I'm sure the artist who won has a senior member badge and also has a few DDs their gallery.
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NEVERMIND I found it after some more frantic crazed google searching lol. This is the piece and finished figure if anyone was curious
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Watching a video on quantum mechanics that brought up this.
How is it known that Schrodinger's equation is obeyed when wave functions aren't being observed or measured? To verify that, wouldn't they have to be able to observe it happening (which would defeat the point)?
I don't get it.
Not sure where you are from, anon, but whenever I have a cold I use Sudafed's Blocked Nose Spray. It works instantaneously for about 6 hours and you can breathe almost normally with it. It has saved me many a sleepless night (I can't mouth breathe to save my life!) and has helped with the pressure I get in my sinuses whenever I get a cold.
If you can't find that specific one, the ingredient is Xylometazoline hydrochloride so maybe look for an equivalent? Just be aware you can only use it for 3 days! Get well soon.
im woo woo elderberry is good (and yummy) vitamin c might be a meme but I think it helps! I'm not woo woo enough for fire cider but it's an option.
if i have a cold I just pop a Tylenol for the fever and wait it out usually though
My cold medicine is room temperature water and some DayQuil. I try to stray away from medicines due to the drowsy side effects, but DayQuil and NyQuil are my last resort.
I also have a humidifier going in my room, especially in the colder months when it starts to get dry and my nose and throat become irritated because of it. Definitely invest in one if you haven't!
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I was looking into Sudafed! I'm not a big fan of sprays so I use nasal inhalers, but I might just suck it up and get the spray (my inhaler isn't working too well right now). I went down a rabbit hole of pseudoephedrine vs phenylephrine and found a website telling me "yeah pseudoephedrine isn't addictive but ITS IN METH SO BE CAREFUL!!!" hahaha >>476105>>476108
Oooh, I'll try to find some elderberry! I think I've previously bought zinc and vitamin c before and forgot about it until now.>>476106
I have an old ass humidifier that I sometimes use. Guess I'll break it out! I used to use some old ass medicine to put in it that worked SUPER well, but I ran out and bought some other random one at the store and it just doesn't compare ugh.>>476107
If my body didn't have horrific reactions to alcohol I would've already been a few bottles in to free myself from this stuffy prison.
Thank you anons! I think I have a pretty good immune system, but I turn into the biggest baby at the slightest inconvenience lol
surveys -though not livable money
I have the exact opposite problem. When I eat healthy food, I feel huge. Disgustingly full, and like I've sinned. When I eat shitty, carb-filled food, I feel just right.
High-protein meals make me feel like I've gained 900lbs. Grains, bread and sugar are what keep me doughy and gross, but when I eat them, it feels like I'm doing the correct thing for my body. It's probably because I originally lost weight by calorie restricting instead of just switching to healthy options.
It doesn't help that I noticed I actually gained 4lbs after trying to switch diets to be healthy (could've just been water weight, but it scared me into going back to my shitty diet, and right after that, I lost the extra weight).
Same with me. When I try to eat healthy, I think I end up eating too much fiber and/or water from all the vegetables. It makes me feel bloated rather than full and I'm hungry again in an hour. I really like eating fatty/protein-rich foods like cheese, eggs, fatty meats, etc because it makes me full enough to not eat for another 4-5 hours or so. It seems to just work for me. I'm satiated, I'm at a healthy weight, my bowel movements are daily and healthy, I have enough energy, etc. Maybe some people take to different foods better.
Fuck processed carbs, sugar, and vegetable oil though, people should stay away from that shite.
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What's fallout first and why are gamers mad.
I'm going to guess being down for sex whenever asked, willingness to indulge in whatever fetish shit, and (this is what I think is most applicable for Lori) that high energy that comes with manic batshittery.
I think high energy is the biggest thing. Maybe it's why they say crazy women are the best lays - it's because sex isn't a mutually enjoyable activity, it's part of them having to prove something, I think, so it isn't about fulfilling their own sexual needs but trying to prove themselves the best? Really dumb armchairing but those are just a few guesses lol.
So they still haven't added NPC's in or?
Hope they're using all that money and working hard on Starfield at least.
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>>476765>Can you even be a weeb and an sjw at the same time?
Yes, there are many animu personalities who are, like Mother's basement and pedantic romantic but i think its a weeb anglo thing, almost everywhere else weebs are massive right wing edgelords, specially in latam.https://kiwifarms.net/threads/mothers-basement-geoff-thew.49008/https://kiwifarms.net/threads/lachlan-still-the-pedantic-romantic.49248/
Assuming you're not asian yourself, no it's not reasonable to expect to fit in clothing that's not made for your body frame.
Why not set something far more measureable like a specific weight?
Rabid consumption of escapist media+ assburguers + online validation (by other assburguers).
It offsets any impulse of self awareness.
Do small people need less food to exist?>>476765
Yeah. You could be a troon or someone who likes anime, but hates the sexualized parts.
The perfect amount of caffeine>>476948
I've never heard of that
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How to keep my Totino's® Pizza Rolls™ from exploding in the oven?
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The explosion is indeed inevitable. That pic I posted wasn't even mine. Here are my Totino's® Pizza Rolls™. What do you think?
Is it hot in the room you left it in? If it's a newish container of creamer and the room isn't too warm it should be fine, just dump some into a cup or into the sink and make sure it looks normal.
*repost because typo
Men are complicated and a lot of times who they hit on doesn't necessarily have to do with whom they find attractive. A lot of times it has to do with how much of a chance they think they'll have with that woman (but that's not to say that more conventionally attractive don't get more male attention). Like they will hit on a woman with tattoos or who wears a lot of makeup, not necessarily because they find those things more attractive but they think it means a woman is more promiscuous and more likely to have sex with them.
I'm just saying it's not as simple as "men dont hit on me, that means I'm not attractive" because its not that simple.
I've always figured you've either gotta >be particularly attractive>be approachable
to get hit on irl. Hitting on someone is a risk, if she's very pretty the reward is high enough to justify taking that risk whereas a woman seeming like a 'sure thing' mitigates the risk. It's also just a numbers thing - the more time you spend around men and the fewer women there are around, the more likely you are to be hit on.
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Is there any safe public places I can use WiFi to torrent?
My bf has the internet in his name and is too paranoid for me to torrent at home. Is going to a coffee shop, Starbucks, or a library a really bad idea? I'm new to it so I'm not really sure where to start. I was just going to start with fitgirl
one of my local coffee shops had to put up a sign asking customers not to download illegal content or else they will have to get rid of the wifi entirely. Some providers will slow your wifi or cancel it entirely if you get too many strikes so it makes sense. Depends on how much you care about the establishment, anon.
also never seed your torrents.
I’ve torrented at Starbucks, mainly files from cgpeers or manga series but that stuff doesn’t usually attract attention
The one good thing about their internet though is that it’s incredibly fast
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I highly recommend Glossier. I use the lightest shade and it works wonders for me. You can add a little bit to get more coverage, but it’s never too cakey yet evens my skin tone. Add some concealer/contour if you want extra coverage you’re g2g. It’s only like $25 and lasts me two months at least.
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What kind of animal is this??????
anon this is why every american youtuber now has adds for VPNs kek i am not sure but i think Tor browser has an option for torrent downloads but if it has it probably runs slow.
I am a shitwolder so no one cares when we pirate, even offices and workplaces run on pirated software. Is actually interesting that first worlders only recently started getting into it, thats how i know millenials and zoomers over there are getting poorer.
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You now how cremes like this day 1% X? What would happen if I was like 100% X
I'd only maybe refrain from it if you know your friend is insecure about her size or looks or whatever.
I think your friend is glad to have you, I know I'd be happy to have a friend who's thoughtful like that.
Thanks for the input anons! I really appreciate it. I was totally on the fence about it. I think I'll ask if they got any use from the last batch and go from there.
And rest assured I would never ever be smug or teehee about it towards my friend.
It feels warm and like pressure inside. When having sex you feel rubbing kind of. Dick itself just feels likes skin. And erect penis is harder than expected and very warm from the extra blood. It's a good feeling, better than a cold sex toy but not really that special in terms of feeling. Also even though this isn't part of the question, you can't feel it when a guy finished inside. This always seems to hurt their ego.
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Are they talking about adolf hitler or some random dude called hitler in the magazine on the left?
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Are there Karen's in other countries?(the "I wanna speak to your manager" type, always calling the cops over nothing, harassing people much younger than her, etc)
Confidence and energy are hugely valuable in sex, and manic bitches tend to be both when it comes to that. Realistically unless you've had something significant change it, your vag isn't noticeably tighter or looser than another average woman without kids, but guys will keep coming back to crazy hoes who are exciting in bed. >>476599
If you feel like sex isn't mutually enjoyable, I feel really bad for you sis. Please find yourself someone who makes you feel like you can't control yourself at least once in life.
If you like to roleplay (like, describe in a lot of detail with or without specific situations and characters), you can use f-list and make a self-insert character.
For just sexting randos (which I don't know why the fuck you'd want that, since they're almost guaranteed to be knuckledraggers) you could try https://lewdchat.com/
which came up when I searched for places/apps. Seems like the modern day IRC for sexting.>>477903
Color isn't terribly meaningful without texture. You probably are fine but if they're tarry or runny you may have a mucus problem which can be indicative of some medical problems, and you should see a doc.>>478005
Personally, I have people I have "left on read" for months at a time before I jump back into a conversation and they (and I) have been fine and had no concerns or issues about it. I've also had people who I read their message, then go to get a glass of water, and come back to them sperging out about me ignoring them on purpose or some shit. I think everyone's boundaries on that are different and if someone is being overly pushy about it just try to reassure them that you aren't intentionally ignoring them, you just got busy/didn't have a good response/forgot etc and that you can't be expected to respond instantly all the time. If its something that needs an immediate, pressing response, they should call like an adult tbh.
I’ve had two and all seems to be in perfect working order. The vagina itself heals just fine, but something to be wary of is your pelvic floor - the hormone relaxin makes it quite soft and the immense amount of pressure it goes through due to the weight of pregnancy and then childbirth, it can take quite a while to get back into full strength and keep things ‘tight’. It’s why women might piss themselves after haven given birth, the pelvic floor is weak and isn’t keeping things in place.
So I guess to answer your question, yes and no.
Thank you so much. You have no idea what a life saver you are. This is pure gold. I was wary of it but man, I just had such a good sexting sesh. Maybe I was lucky, I don't know.
Thank you. This is going to be a long night, hahaha
just wow hahaha
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How does one write their fetish into their own work. I see it being joked around with, but does it actually happen and if it does how?
I'm glad because I literally just picked the one that looked the LEAST sketch. If you had a good experience I might give it a shot one of these lonely nights too.>>478224
Are you just curious or trying to squeeze that shit in? Because if its the latter you should EITHER make an effort to keep it subtle and more hinted at than focused on, or double the fuck down and just write some gratuitous shit you like, dgaf. DONT LIKE DONT READ as they say. If you're just wondering I guess if you think about something obsessively enough it can't help but crop up in things you do.
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Im curious how it happens. Like I see people joke about "oh this manga artist slipped in his bdsm fetish"
It's like awkward cringe humor. It reminds me of when you have to sit in on conferences for work or class or whatever and the speakers are terrible or there's weird drama going on behind the scenes. And usually it ends up spiraling into absurdity and the contrast of that with how normal the delivery is can be pretty funny if that's your sense of humor.
It's definitely not for everyone though. Dry and flat and if awkward social situations don't make you giggle you lose half the appeal.
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How can I take my anger out?
What helps you when you're frustrated?
Lately, I've been feeling so frustrated with everything in my life but I have no idea how to take it out in a healthy way.
Exercising, writing things down, killing things in vidya, punching pillows doesn't help enough. Listening to music helps a little but not long-term. It really sucks to have no outlet for frustration or anyway to stop things from bottling up.
1) more or less, the difference is in minerals
2) carbon dioxide
3) no, it helps you digest food better but if you drink too much you'll have violent burps and farts for a while
4) I think so, I don't drink coca cola or other sodas so I don't know what they contain
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anons how do you get a stomach like pic related?
like what kind of excercise, what to cut out of diet etc?
i'm not far off but mine doesn't look this nice and toned
I cried real tears a few months ago because a large banner outside the clinic I go to had come undone and was flailing in the wind. I felt bad because whoever put it up had good intentions for the banner but it came undone.
I cry sometimes when I see kids or kid stuff too like the other anon.
Group therapy was rough because I would cry every time someone told their story and it was embarrassing bc I would be the only one sniffling besides, you know, the person who went through it…
I definitely understand being annoyingly sensitive/empathetic. I'm glad to see I'm not alone.
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i don’t want to be the bitch hating on a guy for planting trees but what is this supposed to accomplish? how is planting 20 million trees going to help the environment?
Buying soles for this purpose is what I recommend most. I work all day on my feet in a warehouse and the first month it killed my feet - but after that it got better especially with soles.
idk if soles is the right english word, but it's what you slip into your shoes to even pressure on your feet.
I like someone but I'm not sure if they feel the same way. I'd like to ask and be sure before I get too emotionally invested in this but they have a big exam coming up in four weeks.
Should I wait, or should I just do it and avoid wasting that time?
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Does anyone know what brand of bread this is?
Thank you anons!
I wanted to know because someone in the replies of the tweet that posted this said the white bread version with the split top butter tastes like cake so I wanted to go buy a loaf and try it.
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Should people actually worry about eating too much fruit because of sugar?
It's something I've noticed youtube comments mention on what-i-eat-in-a-day videos, going "wooow that's soooo much sugar because of all that fruit!". Like, isn't it healthy? Isn't more fruit better? I'm so confused.
He's the kid who weaseled his way in to sit with the cool kids by sophomore year, so that nowadays no one really questions how he got there plus everyone knows he has it in good with the other cool youtuber kids now anyway.
The reputation just perpetuates itself.
Blogpost but you know what's crazy? I started out reading SomethingAwful and they always talked mad shit on 4chan as a cesspit of degeneracy so I avoided it my whole life. So when I came here like 10 years later it was babby's first imageboard. I feel like I missed out on the golden days of 4chan tho bc I took a look at it recently and it's fucking stupid. I know everyone always says that about 4chan but I can see remnants of entertaining communities.
I love lolcow too though.
Thanks for reading. Lmao
Arrogance and entitlement, men have always been taught that hot young women are their birthright and that men become more attractive with age. All lies but they don't realize it and never question a woman's inexplicable interest.
I'll never feel sorry for a single one of them, it's nothing less than what they deserve.
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I'm going to go back to the gym soon and I really need gym gear.
Do you anons have any recs for activewear brands/websites that are on the cheaper side?
Especially considering that it's getting colder now.
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>>479942>I get anons here are crazy and delusional but they're really arrogant over the stuff they try to pass off as fact
I used to ponder this, too. Then I lurked in some of the more personal threads in /ot/ and /g/, and I've come to the conclusion that many anons really are bitter and nasty. Not as an meme/insult, like for real.
There are tons of regular girls and women on here too I suspect. Otherwise they're trying desperately to raise their dogshit self-esteem and feel included by berating other posters over the slightest perceived infractions, starting brigades, flaunting "insider" knowledge of rules or jokes, the list goes on and on… It's kind of like farmers:cows but on a meta level.
I noticed posters on 4chan do this too– I think it's supposed to be funny and ironic but some people are too dense to understand that it's embarrassing to take this shit so seriously.
You can tell how miserable of a cunt they are here on LC by measuring the overreaction in relation to the percieved threat/violation.
All in all though it is what it is! They can totally be entertaining too in their own way, like our own little mini cows. Hope this helps!
>>479999>what should i do about this? will accepting their favors lead them on, somehow? or should i take advantage of this?
Don't accept their favors, most men do this expecting something from you, there are few men (or people really) that would give/do something for you without thinking you owe them something. Don't accept shit form anyone unless you're sure they aren't this kind of person.>i guess it's because i kinda act like a motherly figure by giving them validation or something.
I have seen lots of people falling for this and its always the same meme: lack of boundaries, you aren't a cheerleader or their mother you need to draw a line. You can act caring/supportive but don't make it personal unless its very necessary, don't ask too many questions or worry too much cause people WILL take advantage on you, you need to draw a line so people think "oh she's nice/friendly" without expecting you to be their counselor/mother. (Sorry for the typos btw)
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Farmers with depression: have antidepressants ever helped you?
yes they helped a lot. I started taking it when I was 14 and quit when I was 17. Made me not commit suicide. Keep in mind, it doesn't solve your problems, it makes you "neutral". No extreme lows and no extreme highs. I advise you to get weekly psychiatric help while taking anti-depressants. That way, you can actually solve your issues.
Some side effects for me was sluggishness. I slept all the time.
Of course it varies from person to person and what kind of anti-depressant you take. If one kind doesn't work, try something else. Most people who say that anti-depressant suck usually haven't found the right one for them.
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How do you know if you're a lesbian? I've been in relationships with guys but I've never been attracted to any of them physically. I get crushes on girls but none of them have ever liked me back. Girls also make me nervous and are intimidating to me while guys are really easy to talk to.
Sometimes I find the anime boys and dainty men cute.
Is there a test that can tell me if I'm a lesbian or not?
I agree about using that masterlist as insight, but some parts of it were pure cringe and untrue. >"If you are unsure or questioning, feel free to try on the lesbian label as well"
Try on? What is it, a shirt? Hell no. If you're questioning there's nothing wrong with it, but don't treat a whole sexual orientation as a "fun label to try on and see if you like it".
I think it even said somewhere in the file that "you can be a lesbian and still enjoy sex with men", nope.
Most of it was fine and relatable anyway, so I suggest anon to take a look at it while discarding the obvious bs
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AITA and thanks for this. This is weird for me because I fantasize about fictional men(usually the really feminine, anime twinky ones) but never have I been attracted to one IRL and I see that listed there. It's probably the only thing that I use to reconfirm my 'non-gayness'. I especially can never picture myself being happy in a long-term relationship with a man unless anime boys spontaneously become real.
I gave a woman my number because she asked for it after we had a long chat in the grocery store but she only wanted to hook me up with her brother and that made me so sad that I moped for a week or two. The girl in Starbucks the other day smiled at me and called me cute and I melted and I'm thinking about going back there to chat to her more.
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Yeah, seems like it. I had a similar experience.
I used to fantasize about anime guys or actors, men that I wasn't ever going to interact with. Any man I tried to date irl, I would feel attracted at first… then the moment they showed interest and tried to touch me, I'd instantly lose any interest like turning off a switch, and didn't feel any attraction anymore. It happened over and over again. Then when I finally put the pieces together and started dating women… all that weirdness just stopped. I was finally comfortable touching and being touched.
Obv I also stopped fantasizing about men, fictional or not. It happened spontaneously, because before I was trying to "cover up" and now I don't need to anymore.
Alright I know I'm gonna get permabanned for this but let me explain my self see I don't have a specific hatred for femdom,I think all forms of BDSM/Kink are shit and maledom is the biggest peice of while femdom is a much smaller piece of shit but its still shit
I call out anons when their into maledom as well If their into femdom
so you're worried about men being 'hurt' by women or dominated by women or something? it doesn't create an unhealthy dynamic, because men aren't pressured into it and they still have more power than us. if you think it's lame, whatever, but the delusion and concern that it's harmful to men is shoe0nhead shit. men are still able to control the framework of the 'dynamic'. they literally pay for it and seek it out. it completely subverts common thought, so a man clearly has to have genuine interest in it to want to get involved. men are not shoehorned into femdom by society. they're allowed to explore their interest into it freely. no such freedom exists for women and maledom. it's dumb to even have a bone to pick with it. and men aren't even actually dehumanized by it. it's an interest THEY are capable of choosing, whereas we don't have that ability.
men are going to crush their own balls while sniffing their gfs panties because they're into it, with or without the woman even doing it.
I don't know anything about necessaryspeed4 and didn't know it was her, but I remember when this was posted in one of the relationships threads and I was in the minority for thinking it was manipulative and toxic
. It feels validating to now learn that others see it the same way.
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My first thought was Nicolas Cage laughing, is this it anon? lol
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it's a meme from tiktok. It describes a girl who uses filters from the app VSCO, has a hydroflask bottle, wants to save turtles by refusing to use plastic straws, has a bunch of scrunchies, is usually white and wears oversized shirts.
Oh and they say "sksksks and I oop" a lot.
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Does anyone know why this show is stirring up drama? I keep seeing that this show caused drama but not what the drama was about.
I'm pretty sure anons discussed this in the art thread on /ot/ if you want to look there.
But what I've heard:>Vivzie having a pedo character in the past>Vivzie supporting shoe0nhead and Blaire White>Angel Dust supposedly being offensive>people just disliking the art
Maybe something else I'm missing idk.
I see a lot of sh0eonhead ~quirkygurl~ tropes in the main character, and it annoys me. Not to mention it gets too tryhard on the edge sometimes and it's barely self-aware. A lot of really dumb tropes.
The fag spider with tits doesn't make a lot of sense.
Not drama though, just personal tastes.
I think it's meant to be a laughing sound?
Anyway the first girl in this video is what started all the vsco girl memes lol
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Is it weird to follow people on Instagram that you never talked to but see almost daily?
I haven't had a social media account since 2016 and have no friends, I feel kind of weird following people that I never talked to and that aren't well known/famous.
Yes, BUT (big caveat here) not all of them, and not the same one and same dose forever. Because doctors can't really accurately guess what specific brain chemistry you have that will react well or poorly to meds, and psyche meds are serious business, they'll often start you on the most gentle, common ones first. If those do nothing (or obviously if you have an extreme reaction to them) they can use the kind of drug they prescribed previously to start narrowing the list down. Eventually you will likely stumble into one that works with minimal or less obtrusive side effects, and then you'll stay on a management dose for as long as possible. However, eventually your body will build up a tolerance to that dose and you'll need to either experiment with increasing it or try a new medication.
As properly trying and weaning off each singular med is at least a month long process, you're looking at sinking a lot of time into finding one that works for you, and more time in the future to maintain that. Depending on the kind of medication you end up on, you may need regular (up to monthly) blood testing and may have to be wary of certain foods or alcohol.
Its not something to take lightly and you need to enter into it knowing that you can only glean some help out of it by staying committed to working for it. Just take it step by step and don't treat it like a magic cure-all.
I'll condense it for you:>Vivzie is a diva, has an annoying style and pissed off people by having a bad attitude>Jealous vendettafag furries made up retarded "SHE SUPPORTS SHOEONHEAD/BLAIRE WHITE TWO RACIST HOMOPHOBIC TRANSPHOBIC YOUTUBERS" and "SHE IS A PEDO" claims to get their butthurt out of their system
I can't stand Vivziepop's art the slightest but cancel culture needs to fuck off.
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How do I hang a dress with no shoulders? I ordered my wedding dress online but it didn't come with a hanger, just a bag. It doesn't have any loops inside to hang with and the fabric is lace at the top so I don't want to use clips. I put it in the bag and have it draped over a chair for now but there has to be a better way. Pic isn't the dress but the lace/sleeves situation is similar.
Look for a transmitter, most of them connect to a headphone jack. You change the radio station to match it and it should play music or whatever from your phone.
I drive a 2009 car and used to have one that would attach to the bottom of old iphones.
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Are you allergic? i feel like that when i don't have my allergy meds.
Also when I have migraines i see auras (Gif related) do you see them?
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What are some good, well rounded Christmas gifts? I'm having trouble trying to figure out what to buy a good friend this year… we're close and I know his interests, but it's all mostly anime and games and it feels kinda one-trick ponyish to just keep getting him merch of that stuff lol. Last year I got him a picture book of cute cats because he lost his cat, but this year I'm not sure what would be good enough to say "hey this genuinely made me think of you and I hope you appreciate it" but not be like "hey here some fuckin anime merch cos I know you like this series so ofc you'll like this thing."
I feel like anime merch are always my first line of defense with gifts, it's pretty much foolproof and I usually get fanmade merch so it's a bit more special, but when I get closer to people I always want to try getting things that remind me more of them outside of some TV show.
Maybe something made by you that's still functional? I can make people stickers or fonts with my calligraphy pens. They seem to really like the effort put into either of them or just a written fancy letter. While at their place take notice of badly damaged house goods or little things they need. Headphones that hardly work, crap quality gadgets, pots or towels that are too old now. Slip in questions over time/mention 'i think i need a new….' to bate what they need new.
If all else fails I go to etsy a month+ ahead for custom little fandom stuff for friends. gl this holiday anon!
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I've had them like 3 times on my life and is really scary, plus i also get horrible headaches and my face starts tingling, once it happened while i was painting a room and i think that the smell of the paint was the cause and the others time it was only caused by stress.
Well he's cheated before and I only found out because I went and looked on his computer when I had the chance to. He's password locked everything now so I'd have to ask him. >>481310
Repeating old habits from the previous time he cheated.
It's a really long story that I don't want to get into right now, but I don't have the option to just dump him at the moment.
My real question is just, is it inappropriate to ASK for him to let me look through this time? I'd rather not sneak onto his phone again.
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Is dicemaking a good side business to start? Not trying to jump the bandwagon just because of the recent kickstarter, but I do like making resin crafts so I’m thinking it’d be something good to do that I like and can maybe make a little bit of money from.
Rather than that they're not soaping up the right places. You wouldn't believe how many people don't scrub their feet, inbetween their toes, or wash their butts. They simply let the soap lather and water wash over them instead of properly washing. Then they wipe their musty feet and butt on the towels and that's why they smell.
If they are washing properly, maybe they aren't washing the towels enough, or not letting them dry out enough. Bc when things are left wet long enough, especially in a humid, dark environment like a bathroom, they start to breed bacteria and mold
To TL;DR long family drama. I have a sister that's about 15 years older than me. She has a son, my nephew, that has just turned 21. I met them both for the first time half a year ago when she opened up her home to me when I was fleeing an abusive relationship.
So, I drink a lot. Sister knows this but doesn't really comment on it. Nephew is a shut-in manchild that plays video games all day and works at McDonalds but somehow has a gf. He has drank one (1) beer in his life, as far as we are aware, and that managed to get him drunk enough for us both to notice.
I just got my own place a week ago and nephew wants to come over and binge watch a TV show we were talking about. I told him point blank I was gonna be hammered if he stayed long enough. He said that he could drink too since he had just turned 21 and that he could just crash on my couch.
Now this kid is pretty naive but he can be manipulative and deceitful. Overall he's a good guy. I don't personally care if he drinks, but I feel like he's just using this as an excuse to get drunk in a non-judgmental atmosphere, because he still lives with my sister and she sure as hell wouldn't let him drink in her house. With this in mind, I think it would be really funny to have him try to match my drinking and get loose, since he's always so uptight, so I am down to have him over for this. I would also get a lot of joy for calling him out on his reasons and watching him be uncomfortable, since he should know to be less obvious by now at the age of 21 lmao.
My question is, would my sister be mad at me if I let my nephew come over and get drunk?
I've never really dealt with any family issues my life, as demonstrated by having a sister I never even fucking knew about, so idk if it is a faux pas or not. All I know is it would be funny if it happened.
She is definitely a tight ass but only because she knows how spergy her son is and that he isn't equipped to defend himself. Me and sister were both party girls who essentially ran off at a young age and became successful. Nephew on the other hand is more cowed to authority and non-rebellious, so if he were to enter the club scene or whatever now he would just be a laughingstock totally out of his element and taken advantage of, because he was bullied and has literally no life experience.
I honestly never thought about the boundary violation teasing aspect because I do that all the time to pretty much every guy I meet. Since I've never really had family I've done it as much to him as I have any other guy. He is 21 and I am 25, so not out of the pale for him to find me attractive, although he has never acted on it. He just ropes me into long conversations about Star Wars and other geek bullshit that I humour him for until I find a gap in conversation long enough for me to go smoke. He seems to lack anyone to talk to it about and me enthusiastically agreeing to these conversations could definitely be erotic and appealing to him, as a man, upon reconsideration. I had simply thought it polite.
And yeah, my life was definitely a mess, still is I suppose. I think sister would take it personally if I let him drink at my place, whether it's right morally or not, since he genuinely isn't the type of person that is ready for it. I could prove her reaction wrong 'objectively' but it wouldn't mean anything in terms of our relationship. But I value her more than I do him. Especially due to familial alcoholism susceptibility.
I have a much clearer idea of what I will do going forward with this. Thanks so much for your reponse.>>481453
Most definitely not.
Depends what they did and how the individual victim
wants to respond to that. I would say potentially yes since most abusers don’t even do anything to get help and genuinely change to be redeemed yet expect forgiveness anyway.
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Is this book a meme? I see it advertised to starting writers everywhere, but it feels like some maserclass tier shit
No, this is real, I'm actually using it to prop up a crystal lamp in my room. Don't ask.
It's essentially some anecdotes about his life, tips for aspiring writers and some philosophical stuff about the magic of writing. It's interesting for people who've read his works and talks a bit about Carrie and Pet Semetary, and the anecdotes are admittedly slightly funny, but it's not something any random person could pick up and enjoy without knowing a bit about him.
It's an IT trade program. Sorry, I forgot to mention that in my original question.
I live in a small-ish city so I don't think there's a ton of options when it comes to businesses who would train me, no community college either. There is a regular college though that I've taken a few classes at but it fucking sucks and I hate it. I don't have enough money for that either and I can't figure out how to get student loans.
"I didn't see the scale budge until I got rid of the extra calories in my morning coffee by drinking it black, and exercising at least once a day to make sure I was burning the calories I needed to meet my deficit requirements."
You don't have to be mean, but she needs to hear the choices and sacrifices you've made to be how you are. When it's not obvious to someone like her, she gets frustrated because she assumes it's some kind of luck or magic just because you haven't complained about your personal journey.
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Is it normal for your mom to accuse you're father that he's getting to close to his co-worker and might cheat on her on an unspecified date?
I have to write a short story about an dysfunctional family and like my friend said it would be a good idea, but like my mom did that all the time so it doesn't seem all hat abusive to me.
Depends on how it is expressed. I know people who are naturally kind of insecure and have those thoughts that they occasionally voice, but they never accuse their partner outright and will always acknowledge that it's a problem with themselves mostly.
OTOH, I've dated a guy who would screech and accuse me of cheating all the time even though I practically had one foot in a convent and was too autistic to talk to guys in the first place. Anything can be abusive
depending on how it's framed.
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Is there a draw thread on lolcow? Ive been trying to find one in /ot/ and other boards, but i cant find one.
I had the same thing with two different contraceptive pills. It was amazing going from heavy periods to a couple of light days and period over.
Idek why this happens because I could never be arsed to look for info, but my housemates had the same thing happen.
I only stopped taking the pill when I was 30 because I'm a smoker. I missed the light periods and not having to buy as many tampons.
Because feminism is an elaborate Jewish psyops for destroying all of Western civilization.
That's the /pol/ answer anyway. The real is is likely that Jewish women are in a higher income bracket, so have more time to focus on politics.
That's just proportionally.
There's still a hell of a lot more white women in higher income brackets, simply because there's a lot more white women, period.
Socialization and the fact men are easily meme'd into different sexual desires no matter how fucked up, combine that with the rapid sexualization of children and no consequences and boom pedophiles running through the nation
Of course is sexualizing womanly features was the norm (not just big ass and big tits) pedophilia would greatly decrease, think Japan where their ideal woman looks as close to a child as possible and pedophilia there is rampant, Compare to Italy, Ireland, Iceland, Sweden, etc. These countries have some of the lowest pedophilia rates in the world and their countries celebrate and appreciate womanhood. It's about conditioning and nobody wants to admit it
I'm agreeing with other anons, but I also think people who thirst for power are going to have sexual inclinations which are also centered around giving them the most power. And what gives more control than engaging with the most defenseless and innocent type of human? Not much.
And some may also pursue powerful positions entirely driven by their pedophilia since they know it will let them have access to kids and
pay their way out. Sort of like pedos who go for teaching, but x100.
So it's either nurture, nature, or premeditation. Just my 2c.
Depends on the size of the space and frequency of smoking.
My mom used to vape in the car and over time there'd be a sticky residue on the inside of her windshield.
But imagine doing that everyday, more than 15+puffs in that confined a space. I don't think it's possible to get residue on walls unless you are a super chainsmoker and the smoke is allowed to linger.
I smoke weed used to be daily
in my bathroom, usually with the window open, but I noticed that my walls sometimes get slight discoloration. My bathroom walls sweat when I shower bc there’s no vent in there, and sometimes I’d smoke while in the shower, so I attribute it to that bc the discoloration only happens where the wall has sweat. I just clean the walls with a sponge and multipurpose cleaner and it completely fixes it. Since I started smoking less it doesn’t happen anymore.
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Be honest, nonnies, what kind of animal would you be?
Me, I'm a bird. Selfish. Thoughtless. Flighty. Annoying. Would prefer to fly south for the winter.
Phillip Pullman (Golden Compass/Northern Lights/His Dark Materials) says that he'd be a magpie, because he takes people's ideas.
If I were an animal, I think I might be deer. Aloof, spiritual (not necessarily religious) and flighty!
Or a tiger.
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Some sort of hunting dog, I think.
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I was watching NFKRZ videos and stumbled on his collabs with some guy called bald and bankrupt who I don't know anything about. Apparently he's some travel vlogger. While browsing the comments I noticed people talking about this guy being accused of some pretty nasty shit? I can't find the proper videos or information about his scandals and honestly I'm too lazy to lurk moar but I'm curious to know. Has this been mentioned here on lolcow? Does anyone know anything about it?
It’s either for the aesthetic or they’re using it to indicate they’re into DDLG.
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A seal. All I want is to be cute and able to live by the sea again.
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Any freelancers here?
I get paid in various currencies and I use paypal to receive money. However, both paypal and all of the banks in my country have ridiculous conversion rates and I lose a lot especially when dealing with big sums. So, Revolut keeps popping up in my search for alternatives. Do any anons have experience with it or any other neobanks like Monese and N26? I'm in the EU if that matters.
Though if you have any other advice related to this, I'd love to hear it.
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Can any sewing anons please help me out? I'm fucking ass at sewing and have never used a pattern in my life but I really want to make a walking skirt using this pattern https://trulyvictorian.info/index.php/product/tv291-1898-walking-skirt/
but I can't figure out what the 60" wide fabric is supposed to be. Do I even need it? I'm assuming that the 45" wide fabric is supposed to be the main body of the skirt, that's all I need isn't it (besides lining and stiffener)?
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How do I get over my ex being abusive toward me? I don't want to get back with him and I'm glad it is over, but I feel really dirty. Like permanently unclean and marked. I feel like I am a disposable person and have no value, I deserved to be hit and insulted, and I'm never going to be clean and worthy again.
I'm in intensive therapy and my therapist said it'll always make me feel bad and I just need to learn to cope with it. It's too intense to cope with right now and I got better for a few months and then back slid. I kind of just want to save myself the effort of trying and failing and kms. I live alone in a city far from my family and I have no friends. I try and have been trying to make friends but it's very slow.
Should I tell my family that this stuff happened? I don't want to burden them. I did tell my sister but asked her to keep it a secret. She came to visit me to cheer me up but we haven't spoke of it since. I have a really good relationship with my dad. Would telling him help in anyway? He would tell the rest of my family, but he has always been really supportive of me. He might drop everything to visit me, and I'd feel a little guilty for that since he is taking care of my ill grandma. I did tell him I broke up with my ex and was sad but didn't go into detail. I don't really want to burden him with extra trouble
I feel so incredibly dirty and it has been over 6 months since we broke up. I have started hurting myself and I mildly want to stop before it gets really bad (I keep fantasizing about messing my face up and then offing myself). I don't know what would fix this.
I guess I'm looking for two things:
I'd like a short term fix that would help me today/right now and I'd like a long term fix.
Right now I'm trying to keep myself alive by reminding myself that my family would be upset, making a care package to send to my nieces, and buying myself a nice outfit and making elaborate plans for how I'll spend Christmas (going to Christmas concerts, going to gingerbread man exhibit, etc). This isn't fixing the problem but it's keeping me from drinking until I vomit and pass out in the bathroom again haha :/
>>483334>I'm in intensive therapy and my therapist said it'll always make me feel bad and I just need to learn to cope with it.
It's really weird of your therapist to say something like that.
How long were you in that relationship? I was in an abusive
relationship that only lasted for a couple months but it still took me several months to stop feeling so much pain over how I was treated by that piece of shit boyfriend.
Now it has been several years and I barely think about what happened but I admit I still feel a bit dirty when I think of the sex (and that time when he half-raped me).
One thing that helped me get better is that I got into sports not long after the relationship (whitewater kayaking and climbing specifically). Maybe try to find something that you've never tried before and that you could enjoy? Physical activity is very good, especially if it's something in which you can get better and observe progress. For me it helped because it took me outside, made me physically stronger and boosted my self-esteem when I saw myself getting better at these sports.
We dated for 4 years. Abuse started in year 2.
I have gone to meetups to play board games and that has been a new thing for me that I've enjoyed. It hasn't been a solid fix. Maybe I do need something more physical or intensive than board games.
These things really take time as obviously you know, but I think you've got to try to take care of yourself as best you can. What your therapist said seems a bit weird but I guess maybe they're sort of just trying to pinpoint
that even if it does continue to feel bad you can find ways to cope?
It must be really hard not having friends/family to talk to though. It might really help you to tell your family, because keeping it hidden for other people's sake can really drive feelings of shame and self-loathing further. If you can, it might be a really positive step to let your dad know what's going on. But whatever you choose to do, please know that you're not a burden. You went through something hard, and you're dealing with that, and you deserve support and love.
I really hope you can make some friends and focus on those little/positive things. Just keep going. You didn't do anything wrong, you aren't a burden, and you don't deserve to be in pain and on your own.
Good luck anon, it'll get better, but give yourself time and take care of yourself.
honestly ugly, but in a way that a lot of people appreciate and don't mind being around
very hard for me to breathe
don't like working out
poop on the ground and then someone picks it up with a plastic bag
I'm kidding, but still
said, height and hair, definitely. height bc you can't control it, you can wear those ridiculous manlet heels but if you're a 5 feet tall man you're fucked unless you're into women with dwarfism. hair bc it's also all genes, you could start balding at like 20 and look like an old man in a young man's body. sure hair transplants exist but those are expensive. anyway i've been observing scrot boards and they seem to complain the most about height and hair, even more than their dick actually.
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Why do so many people think it's a bad thing to stay friends with your ex, especially if the breakup was mutual, few years ago and you both moved on with your lives? Like why wouldn't you keep someone who's a good friend to you in your life? Literally just friendship, no flirting or whatever. Is everyone so bothered about the fact that we used to fuck?
I literally don't get it, someone please enlighten me because the amount of people giving me negative comments about it are honestly confusing and hurtful.
The only person who should reasonably care about you being friends with an ex is your current partner. Even if you know for a fact you have no romantic feelings towards them anymore and have made that clear, people getting back with their exes is pretty common so they might be afraid of that.
Personally I haven't stayed friends with any of my exes, including the ones where the breakup was mutual, because I just have no interest in doing so. I didn't even stay friends with the guy who was my best friend for 5 years before we started dating for another 3, even though we parted very amicably.
It depends on people's experience I guess. I ended amicably with an ex fiancé but once I started dating again it seemed weird to have an ex fiancé as a friend still. I also was only hanging out with him for comfort and stability in a friend group, when I started feeling more comfortable and making other connections our friendship just fizzled out. Its hard enough with work and adulthood to see friends you love, I didn't want my ex to be a priority still that was the whole point our relationship ended.
Then with my current partner I've had drama with his ex which was unfathomable to me as we are late 20s early 30s age range and I thought I was beyond this. She would periodically contact him solely to find out if we were still dating and always insulting me, I came across the fb messages inadvertently when my bf asked me to look up details from a friend in a fb message and I noticed his ex who had been shit talking me was top of his message list. Like with my ex fiancé we both remained friends with exs before us because during that time we were all still pretty present in each others social lives. The instance with my bf and his ex is that her intentions are not amicable as exemplified by her badmouthing me not only to my bf but other aquintances.
I think if there's an expectation you'll see your ex frequently being amicable seems like the decent thing to do. I think it's weird if a current partner would prioritise a friendship with an ex over their partner tho.
I don't think it's bad, you move on. I've stayed close friends with one of my exes from high school, but it was mostly possible because he came out gay to me lmao
People who police who you hang out with are no good, I mean unless the person doing so has a seriously bad experience with them, then it doesn't matter.
if you want to go the painkiller route I highly recommend Naproxen (Advil). It specifically lowers progesterone, the hormone which in excess causes painful uterine contractions. It's pretty much my go to for cramps. You can take it before you get the cramps, or during.
Ibuprofen and aspirin do absolutely nothing for me no matter how much I take
short answer yes
I was at cool training about the psychology of suicidality. don't know how legit it is or if it still stands. basically your brain get's used to having it as a coping mechanism in high stress and it becomes second nature for your brain to jump in and suggest it as the logical solution even if you just…break a dish or some shit. so you get this instant rush of relief when you think about suicide and it keeps making the association stronger over time.
basically prolonged depression and suicidal feelings mean you sort of train yourself to view it as your mental safety net. if you feel in control rn you are probably fine and it is normal for a lot of people but you might look into talk therapy to work on re-training your thoughts when you have the resources.
Oh. Interesting. Net of mind = basically personality, and in this context could mean personality disorder, right? Funny, because this means the people who like to glamorize lifelong depression wouldn't like to owe up their personality disorder as well..in this era of anti-bpd at least. I'm not diagnosed btw but I'm pretty certain that I have it the more I read about it.
Anyways, Idgaf about labels anymore since nothing worked but is it possible to give me your takes which other diagnoses that's not depression tend to idealize suicide the most?
I've never heard it put that way, but you're totally right anon.
Artists need to seriously step back, remember that art is subjective, and stop being so up their own asses. It's a problem we all have.
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Is the Tv show/comic any good? I have a feeling it's another "Edgy=deconstruction" show
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Sounds like you're talking about Kikuo's manga, 僕はお姉さんがほしい. Pic related might be the scene you're talking about.
Still waiting for an English translation.
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anon thank you so much, I was going crazy thinking about it. have a wonderful day!
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How do people get attached to others so fast?
I legit can't get myself to care deeply about someone I only recently met or known them for 1-2 months. Like sure, I'll help you if you need me, but if you disappear I literally don't give a fuck.
i don't think they really do. i think they just use people for time fillers or what have you, and move on quickly. people who "get attached" that quick generally lose that attachment that quick when someone else comes along. and seriously, you simply cannot develop serious, meaningful attachment in 1-2 months. reliability and trust can't be established so quickly, so the relationship is just not meaningful without that reliability being shown and proven by time.>>484262>>484313
same tbh the only social interaction i enjoy is like… this. i'm just too tired and bored for anything else and socializing is sort of boring and not worth the effort, even when it's "good". the investment/return ratio is absolutely abysmal.
that's not attachment though, imo. that's just being healthy and remembering people that you've known. attachment and thinking of people you've known fondly every so often aren't the same. i wouldn't say i get attached easily at all, but i still think about kind strangers or people id known or worked with for short periods and wonder about them, if they're okay, etc. this is kind of what I mean tho too like, when these people claim they're attached, I feel like it's mostly said to to guilt the other party, and that they're not, because that kind of thing (just remembering people) is what they consider to be attachment, when it isn't imo. the metric for "attachment" is very off imo. it's like, sociopathic to just forget about people forever. just remembering and thinking about people isn't being attached imo. that's just emotionally healthy behavior.
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Do you squish the macaron before you eat? i usually do that cuz i can tatse the filling better.
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is there a name for this specific style or font? I've seen this everywhere in the late 90's its even the same font for a game company called "purple moon". This is a really out there question sorry.
I like the Trader Joe’s ones! They taste better thawed out haha I always just ate them frozen like a dumbass. The merengue of course isn’t fresh and that’s something that really should be eaten super fresh for the best texture and taste but they do the job for a quick fix. They are expensive af to get freshly made
Ugh I’m craving some now.
I don’t squish mine before I eat them bc I like the yummy airy crunch of a good merengue outside
Mmmmm I love dessert. Had some dank baklava at ren faire this weekend.
>>484317> same tbh the only social interaction i enjoy is like… this. i'm just too tired and bored for anything else and socializing is sort of boring and not worth the effort, even when it's "good". the investment/return ratio is absolutely abysmal.
Absolutely the same. And I feel terrible about it because I can recognize that some people are genuinely nice and want to bond but I can't give that back to them whatever they're looking for. It could be that I have a sister that is my best friend at the same time so I don't have the need to seek others for company. But even then, I don't spend the entire day with my sister, I'm perfectly okay with being on my own.
On the other hand, sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. Maybe this isn't how I should be?
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I acknowledge that this might be really dumb but here we go:
I notice that there seems to be a lot of Japanese media/IG accounts where women in their 20-30s dress really feminine/soft and have like a soft aesthetic. I kind of want more of that soft aesthetic in my life (this might be unrealistic but I want my life to be pic related). Is there any other types of media that you guys recommend (YouTube videos, specific ig accounts) that have that? Is there a word for that aesthetic? Like soft feminine but not lolita-tier and meant for women in mid 20s-early 30s.
tbh any style that has a name is for teenagers only and not normal women. in japan they all dress like that, and in
the west it's not hard to find either. what's wrong with not being any "kei"?
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Ever since I saw an anon insist a layered tee and a pair of ripped jeans was "too much (unless you're in a band)" and witnessed other anons shit on this woman's appearance/style for being "too childish!!", I realized Lolcow is not the place to talk about personal fashion taste, lmao. It's just generally not a good idea.
I don't know who's behind it or what they wear, but there's always at least a bit of salt about anything that doesn't match the first few Google Image search results when you look up "woman clothing 2019".
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oh my god you drama queen. that was me and it was not the fact that her jeans were ripped and she had a layered shirt. it's the entire edgy tumblr ensemble that looks entirely too tryhard and manufactured for the grocery store. the chains, the boots, the layering, it all just looks like too much at one time for me. when you look like you spend too much time on j fashion tunglr or egirl tumblr, etc, it isn't cute. there's definitely something to said for a look that LOOKS organic and appropriate for daily life. being OTT for daily errands always looks lame imo. i see a lot of girls irl that you can tell spend way too much time on tumblr, imo, you don't want to be that girl.
i disagree with the sentiment that everything is too childish. i think you can do softness appropriately but it takes nuance, and people into any kind of jfashion can never understand that concept. all of these subculture fashions take subtlety to introduce properly to real life clothing.
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Isn't that a motekei style? Or Akamojikei.
Anyway, that kind of style is really popular in Japan. It's like a nice mix of feminine, soft but still mature style. Personally, I love it!
I also miss times where I could easily find scans of japanese fashion magazines online.
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The reason a lot of the clothing looks so soft is because of the fabrics depicted, it’s typically linen. Linen that is flowing yet still form fitting to lightly show off a feminine silhouette will achieve that look you’re going for, pic related. The key thing is for the silhouette to be simple, and accessories to be minimal - to achieve the correct balance, take off the last accessory you put on.
Plus I’d recommend you keep your hair a natural colour and style it simply, Japanese women are also keen on fringes (particularly blunt ones) so that’ll probably also help you achieve that soft look, and rather than full on layers your hair would be best off being feathered throughout with a wispy taper off at the end - this way it’ll be easy for you to achieve that ‘effortless yet put together’ look in a lot of such media
But honestly, you’re best off speaking to women either irl or in dedicated fashion spaces so they can better gauge what will fit your body and personality. Hope this helps!
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Ok so from what I gather - there was a channel called Nicodemus which attempted to expose Bald by identifying him with an account on the RooshV forum. However that video was taken down and there's been no mention pf this since. The only available videos which talk about these allegations are:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFNYmlUdkKkhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEYnu7sKSd4https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-d2oJzZVE7s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hp1jO9Fg1Qc
All of these videos being highly disliked - the first one is a recap on the Nicodemus situation. The rest are by are by a strange spiritual channel and if I have to honest I only skimmed them since they are very long and he predominantly talks about Harald Baldr.
Basically it's all speculation with no solid proof. There's no confirmation that the person on RooshV is bald and bankrupt. I cannot comment on Harald Balrd.
I'm Eastern European myself and I have a burning hatred for sex tourist and PUA scrots so this situation felt personal which is why I got into it. However since there's no evidence I can't point fingers and bald and bankrupt seems to be very beloved. I don't want to drag innocent men but this whole situation struck a cord with me.
Red Pill is also often used by /pol/ users and similar types. If you read something like "how can I redpill my [personal relation]" it's asking how to introduce the ideology (or "the truth about the world") to them. Same with something like "[x person/group] is redpilled", it means they subscribe to their ideology.
Blue Pill can also be a label that somebody gives themselves on purpose to mean they're against the ideology of the manosphere version of "The Red Pill" (see /r/TheBluePill on reddit)
Purple Pill is agreeing with both sides of Red and Blue Pill (usually the "manosphere" versions of Red and Blue Pill) or being unsure. Used most in the subreddit /r/PurplePillDebate
Pink Pill is either radfem like on lolcow or trans people on 4chan and Discord trying to get other boys to join them and "take the pink pill" i.e. go on HRT
Black Pill can be general nihilism or more specifically it's the word incels give to their ideology about things like lookism, hypergamy, etc.
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Whats that weird tingly feeling I sometimes get? Like when I'm sad or destress I feel this tingling feeling all over my body. The best i can describe it is as the pokemon stat lower. I can also react it by by breeding in deeply, opening my eyes real hard, and scrunching.
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Is there a list somewhere of which countries are currently having mass protests/riots?
Seems everyday theres a new one mentioned in the news.
I know of Hong Kong, Chile, Lebanon, Venezuela and Iraq but I know shit ton are also happening else where
You didn't choose to be born so it's her
job to unconditionally do right by you, not your job, and she obviously failed, so yeet her.
The term that liberal feminists use is TERF. Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist. Though this isn't entirely accurate since not all trans people are hated/excluded. Only those that are genetically male, that were also raised as male within a patriarchy. Because a better description for this sort of person is "man that is offensively wearing womanhood as a costume."
For future reference there's a gender critical/pink pill thread dedicated to the subject. Please direct all further related inquiries there.
Thanks for all the responses, ladies. I'll drink more water but I think I might have celiac disease cause I have other stomach issues on top of all that. >>484546
You should get a check too cause that can't be normal either …
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How much did I fuck myself with having paradontosis in the past without knowing what it is to let this be untreated? Will I sneeze at some point and all my theet will fall out? Is there any way of damage control? Should I start saving for some choppers?
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Why do adult men hate Fortnite so much ???
Don't worry too much about it, but do save some money for implants and procedures. Get your teeth professionally cleaned, gums checked and teeth inspected at least twice a year. My mom has it really bad and she is not toothless in her mid 50s although she's from a shithole country. You'll get some implants eventually, but there are ways to basically put a denture on the implant- and because implants grow into the bone that shit is like a third set of teeth. Up until then it's probably a couple of dental bridges for you, but those can last a long time and look great.
Also there is special tooth paste,you should use it.
because they don´t like seeing a reflection that is the spitting image of how retarded they looked themselves when they were playing counter strike or Quake or whatever the hell it is they played 15+ years ago. They like to pretend that theirs were the real manly man smart gaymes, not like dumb kids today.
What people hate the most is what exposes their own insecurities.
or pay for health insurance who ends up being a lot less than what you would spend on taxes if "free" healthcare was a thing
Not only is dental insurance a seperate thing and doesn't cover much beyond a root canal or filling and only by their own terms which could mean no coverage, but you are lying about the taxes costing more than insurance. The system isn't working, people need easy access to healthcare that doesn't depend upon a company to decide what is covered or not, it should all be covered.
>>484870>having paradontosis in the past without knowing what it is to let this be untreated
Which symptoms did you have that you ignored until it was too late?
t. hypochondriac (and poor) anon
I had pretty much all common symptoms that are listed when paradontosis is being described. I just thought that my gum was a bit infected and therefore felt different. My breath also didn't felt fresh (to put it kindly into words) and if I remember it correctly I also had a bit of bloody salvia while brushing my theet, but I just thought that it was nothing serious. (If I knew at this point, I would've went to the doctor ASAP)
I just heard about it by accident because they talked about it on the radio and ever since I freak the fuck out when I think about it tho. I do go to the dentist, I do my brush my theet and all the basic dental hygiene stuff that everybody does btw.
The fear of loosing my theet got recently really bad when my mum told me about the relatives and their loss but then again she said that they barely went to the dentist. I do have weak theet by nature and will always have, so the combination of all written above just won't let me sleep at night. I will go to the dentist again about my gum because I feel like I need to have another talk about this because I do not feel right about it. Who knows, maybe it's more of a mental thing after all the feat at this point, which does not help at all lol. >>484890
This reply calmed me a bit, so thanks for that. Wish your mum the best. >>484919
I always root for my fellow american anons for an easy access for a basic healthcare system tho. It's has it flaws where I live butyou won't end without anything here, so there is that.
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I'm laptop shopping, do you have any site recs? Something I can say has to be X to X dollars, certian OS, graphic card, and memory. While I'm here any recs.
>Want 1tb of memory, but 500 will do
>Has to be able to run krita bare minium
>Being able to run toonboom/adobe premier maxium
>At least 2 USB ports
>less than 1,000
Thats all I have down so far.
I experienced complete relief when I took Xanax. But I also felt impared and high.
In my experience with rx's you can find relief through essentially getting high/experiencing euphoria, or becoming like a zombie and not feeling anything at all, including anxiety. Neither are viable options conducive to healthy living for me. I guess it all depends on how severely you're suffering.
I have also taken a less acutely impactful medication that made it a little easier to get up and go outside (after the inital month -to-6-week waiting period for it to kick in), but definietly did not magically erase my symptoms. It felt like a little room opened inside my brain and inside was the strength/will to do small tasks that used to make me nervous, or even things I didn't realize were affected by anxiety like aversion and procrastination of chores or showering, etc. This is the spark that you can build upon, with therapy and work, into a healthier you.
Xanax was wild the first time I took it. I was like "wow, this is what I should feel like," and that's how I knew it was bad news lol
Good luck in your journey anon! You're not alone.
Not a website but I highly recommend looking into getting a Thinkpad. I've already shilled them to anons on here before and I will continue to do so, they're fantastic machines that you can find for a great price secondhand. I got mine for less than $300 and it's a beast, literally half the price of any other laptop I've owned and easily twice as good.
I'd specifically recommend the T series laptops, I think the T470 would fit all of your criteria. Definitely check out eBay because you can get some great deals there.
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This twitter topic made me think about my middle school teacher. I have one of his emails and used to contact him semi-regularly using it, but a couple years ago he stopped replying to my emails. I don't know if it's because he abandoned that account or if he's just fed up with replying to me (don't really blame him, I think my emails got a little much as I was going through being a teenager and becoming an adult lol). Part of me wants to contact him again but I'm scared he stopped replying for the latter reason. It wasn't an .edu email or anything the school would've given him- just a gmail account he gave to all the students to contact him through, so I find him abandoning it a little weird. I found a wordpress blog that he used for his students but it doesn't look like its been used past 2015. He no longer works at my old middle school, but his wife (who I knew because a friend was in her class, but I never had her) looks like she still works there and has an email address listed on the site. Should I email her asking for my teacher's email or would that be too weird? How would I even go about wording it? Like, 'hey I used to be in your husband's class in xx year and was just wondering if you had his current email'? I feel stalkerish, but going through a google deepdive trying to find his email also feels very stalkerish lol.
People like you are the reason why so many bi women get such a bad reputation.
As a normal bi women who is not like you let me tell you THAT YOU ARE SCUM, and that women are not sex toys for you or your predatory boyfriend.
People like you put other bi/lesbian women life in danger when you bait us or trick us to have sex with your possible serial killer boyfriend.http://www.newnownext.com/woman-tinder-date-disappearance-murder/12/2017/
yeah, it redirected me to ru paul's drag race. wtf?
Here's the actual link. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuiK2XdDcyAd7TS9ioMqx6A/
I even googled the link, the newnownext.com/…/ and it also yields the same result.
Try searching "sue dress up"
It's a pink haired anime looking girl with a pucca hairstyle
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How do you make new friends? I feel so lost. I am so alone and I miss my old friends I live very far away so we will never hang out like we used to. I am in a program with new fresh people but I think I waited too long to make connections and everyone cliqued up already. I feel so unlikeable and silly.
not how it works, but I get it
just try to speak up more when there's a conversation that multiple people seem to be joining (as long as they don't have their back to you, it's probably fine)
you could also employ some tricks to get people to open up to you
one famous one is to request something small from someone–having people do small favors for you apparently makes them like you more?
I'm probably butchering the explanation, but it's a great way to start talking to someone
Sorry, I mean to quote the >I waited too long to make connections and everyone cliqued up already
But therapy itself won't help. Only making relations with people, talking to a therapist about it and genuinely trying to change yourself can help.
You need social experiences to know what kind of mistakes you make.
Kinda in the same situation as you. I unfollowed all the sjw-type blogs that started having a gender-parade (which is, most of them) on their blogs, and began following women who don't subscribe to that bs. Sothere's not much fun, entertaining stuff on there for me either.
I feel like, it was a place for weird, obsessive fans, tra's and creepy men(lol they're basically the same) …and they all were staying for the porn.
Thank you anon!>>485708
I haven't gotten one only in Chinese but my office phone got a call that started in English from Bank of America and said something about a message in Chinese then played said message. Was really garbled and had no idea what was going on lol.
in US and I've been getting voicemails lately completely in Chinese. >>485779
interesting to know what it might be.
potstickers are a catch all term for pan fried dumplings.
Really? I don't frequent these threads really, that's why I assumed they'd have meaningful stuff to discuss lol
> I can give you a rundown
That would be greatly appreciated..>>485673
Thank you! I'll try to find it
Reminds me of my internship that was paid less than minimum wage despite the company barely training me and expecting me to working like a normal employee while I was working with some bitch who was my age, had a worthless degree from a worthless school (as in, not legal recognized and acknowledged by the government) that barely taught her anything, who was super condescending towards me and other interns because she thought I was younger than her, and she only got her super easy and well paying job thanks to her sister-in-law who basically gave her a similar job in the same company beforehand.
Meanwhile I graduated with a master's degree and barely anyone wants to hire me because I'd be too expensive to train or to pay but they don't want to admit it so they say bullshit like "we don't have any positions available for young graduates" (while posting that they do in their job offers) or "you don't have the type of degree we want" (which I actually do but they barely glance at my CV and don't even read my cover letter so they wouldn't know.) Many people who graduated with me managed to get nice jobs abroad because they got lucky and rich enough to move there, or in bigger cities where you get paid well but the cost of living is so high that you're actually losing money by moving there. Because of all of this I feel like everything in the job market depends on how rich your parents were to pay you an education in a school that can give you internships and a nice reputation or just total luck. And networking is based on sheer luck and sometimes money, don't lie to yourselves.
- anti porn
-for the liberation of women from men
-destruction of patriarchy at the root
-capitalist (some claim not to be, but they support capitalism with their action, such as genderism)
-aim for mild social change and the occasional law
Those are the big differences
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I had no idea about what you're describing so I googled it and apparently that gritty or fuzzy feeling is caused by oxalic acid, of which spinach has a ton apparently. This website calculates the Oxalate content of various foods & indicates that corn bread contains low levels of said acid (pic related). Hope this helps! https://globalrph.com/medcalcs/oxalate-content-calculator/
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Can someone please help me find this really short video? I can't remember if it's a tiktok or just a regular video uploaded onto twitter, it's probably around less than 10 seconds and it's off a Pomeranian who has her head shoved into window blinds and the owner says "Cookie, you can't see" and the dog pulls her head out of the blinds to look at the owner. The caption of the tweet says something like "she's blind"
>>486087>washing yourself and going to a doctor is the same as doing sports
Do you google the cheapest face wash every day and are you always looking forward to doing that after work? lol
If people like to exercise in their free time then of course it can count as a hobby. Every person should read and be active but way too few do, so if that's something you practise regularly and enjoy then again, yes it's a hobby.
I'd say music is more of an interest than a hobby, seeing as it is something you can do on the side during other activites.
tbh yeah to both of your assumptions, maybe not every day but every other day, def. would never in a million years consider it a hobby though. if "something you should do, however not many people do, unlike you" is the definition of hobby, going to therapist/any doctor honestly should classify as a hobby kek.
tbf i think hobbies are something hard to define/draw lines about just like what is sport and what isn't (like esports is allegedly sports but why aren't table top games also etc), but like if you come across some dude and he says his main hobby is gym when asked, you just know
his personality is a cross between oatmeal and kiddie pool.
oh yeah, unless you make music, that is also a lousy excuse for a hobby.
Nah anon, you put yourself out there and escaped. You developed tastes and opinions outside a small town culture and you have the right to stand by the insight you've gained.
You think the people who stayed are dim and simple, and that's because they are. I bet some of them would be proud of that too and defend it like an identity. That tribalism shit belongs to the past.
There's nothing good about living in a bubble for one's entire life.
Better than live-action, for sure, but it definitely still impacts the mind. Just look at all the popular stuff that can't exist IRL - inflation, vore, tentacles, etc. I would argue the psychological affects of cartoon porn are greatly increased as stereotypes and impossible to ever create in real life events play out regularly.
It also gives pedos an excuse to pleasure them selves to miniors by claiming they aren't real so it's just fine.
Honestly I wouldn't go anywhere to find an example. Media and the internet are almost always rife with shitty relationship representations, and everyone is different. Just because some couples have 3somes or hangout with their exes doesn't mean you're obligated to, or ~not~ to. The perfect relationship is where you both set boundaries and respect the other's, whatever they may be. Boundaries are always subjective. Personally, hanging out with exes is off the table for me. I would never enter a relationship with someone who doesn't share that boundary with me. Which is perfectly acceptable because it keeps me comfortable and happy. Some couples think it's fine and they are comfortable with it.
And that's also perfectly acceptable.
You should be a team, absolutely. However, you have to remember that your partner is their own person and you cant control them. And Visa versa.
Most people are very absorbed in this soulmates forever culture and it leads to unhealthy relationships where one party is toxic
to the other, or both. Always remember that no matter how connected you are, you are ultimately separate people. You should never make yourself uncomfortable, hurt, put in danger, isolated, generally out of your comfort zone for the sake of your partner.
If you want to move for a job and your partner wants to stay, you, individually, need to weigh the pros and cons. Is this job your dream job? Will it change the quality of your life? Would you be willing to give that up for your feelings for this person? Does that person increase your quality enough of life to compensate? Set the boundary that makes you happy.
If your partner corrects you/calls you out in public, consider if they were trying to maybe save you from an even more embarassing situation. Also consider if they were doing it to be malicious and damage your reputation with someone, or make you appear stupid.
If you set a boundary that says you see it as disrespectful to publically do that, then that's your boundary and they should respect that wholly. If you don't view it that way then its not a problem.
Some people can have very opposing views and be together. If you feel like your partners views not only counteract yours, but threaten the relationship dynamic or your existence as a whole, that's a problem. For instance, most women would have a hard time staying with someone who believes women shouldn't be allowed in the workplace, because that view directly reflects how he feels about them; Versus maybe you disagree about gun control or foreign policy, lots of people work around those types of things. ~however~ if even gun control or something more trivial makes you uncomfortable in any way at all, you are absolutely entitled to leave them.
Imo relationships are two people living in harmony and making a social agreement to tackle life and its throes together during their time together. They are not two people fused into one entity who have to do everything together. The narrative that relationships are about selflessness and letting your partner disrespect you or make you uncomfortable in any way is unacceptable.
TLDR(sort of): Boundries are subjective and you should decide what is ok and what isnt based on how ~you~ feel and no one else. You wouldn't ask someone their favorite color to determine your own, you shouldn't ask what someone else's perfect relationship is to determine your own. If your partner makes you unhappy, you are not their mother, you are not bound to them by some dystopian-esque soulmate program, and you are ~not~ obligated to try and fix it, "ride it out," etc, by causing yourself more harm. You owe no one nothing, and even if something dumb like the car they drive makes you uncomfortable in ~ANY~ way, you are absolutely in the right to leave, or to not if that's your choice. The perfect relationship is one where both parties feel respected and loved because their personal boundaries are followed, nothing more, nothing less.
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>>486434>>What is the "catalogue" for this website?
Each board has its own catalog and are linked at the bottom of the threads
I struggled with this a lot too anon. I’ve had a lot of relationships but not any that have lasted over a year, so I’ve learned a lot about myself and relationships in general, but I can’t help but feel like I’m doing it wrong because the couples around me who have longevity (friends who have been in relationships for 1-3 years) are all in pretty toxic
, codependent relationships. I know that I don’t want a relationship like that but ultimately from what I’ve seen it seems to be the key to longevity, and the Internet is horrible for looking for relationship advice, the only meaningful advice I ever get is from friends who know me, but again either they’re all not into relationships at all or in a long codependent, toxic
relationship. It’s impossible!
Don't think so. Maybe the occasion asshole Jake Paul types do that?… don't think it's an age thing, think it's more being a chauvinistic pig who watches too much porn and expects women to want to please them.
I do think with Instagram etc plastic surgery is becoming more common, but I find men usually don't approve of it.
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Is average, daily makeup (eyeshadow mostly) supposed to be visible in pictures with natural light? Or am I putting on too little?
I tried taking selfies today and the eyeshadow wasn't visible in the picture, but I can see it irl/in the mirror.
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Is it too much to tweet in support of my ex releasing their webcomic? I truly feel like this is the stupidest of stupid question. We broke up and ended on good terms, though we've obviously maintained distance and haven't held a proper conversation since we broke up. I feel like if I tweet in support it comes off as too much, like I'm invading a space I'm no longer allowed in. I feel like I'm constantly teetering between wanting to stay in her life because I'm still hung up on her, and genuinely wanting to show support for all of her endeavors because she is a good person and a good friend.
I should just shut up and stop because I know things will never go back to how they were before my it's like my stupid monkey brain can't help but maintain even the smallest, tiniest bit of contact with her lol.
Honestly it depends on how your ex is, like if she's reasonable or if she's the type to get the wrong idea.
I don't feel uncomfortable keeping some form of contact with my ex and supporting his endeavors, although we're not even close anymore and I'm in a new relationship.
To me he's like those distant friends that you don't really keep up with but that you know you can count on.
For about 2 months I was spotting and cramping badly, but after that I had completely regular and light periods. Completely worth it IMO.
Also, it’s obviously up to you but does a bit of blood really take sex off the table? Putting a towel down and taking a shower after is usually pretty standard.
Thank you anon! I do think she's a pretty reasonable person, my brain just turns into mush sometimes and I overanalyze things and start spiraling like crazy lol. >like those distant friends that you don't really keep up with but that you know you can count on.
I do think that this is a really good description of where our friendship has headed, and I'm okay with it like this, but my tiny mushy peabrain just sometimes won't accept it. I'm just trying really hard not to burn this popsicle stick bridge lol
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Nta, I use it too. This is how much I've made so far. Sure, it's for about 100 submissions total and over the span of months, but it's good for some extra money to buy a book, a videogame, something once in a while.