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No. 879738
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ALL LIT UP AND I START TO SMILE
No. 879831
>>879740>>879817And skipping alcohol will help in the long run. I've gained as much weight as Shayna the past two years because of stupid alcohol addiction.
Also, your body type isn't ugly, don't worry, Shayna dresses so stupid, every body type would look like shit in those style choices.
No. 879919
>>879740I don't know how anons like yourself will take this but, unless you're also a camwhore who needs to profit off your body, literally no one else cares about your body shape except yourself.
Everyone's too caught up in their own problems irl to even notice your own. And the ones that do tend to be busybodies anyway.
No. 879950
>>879817>>879831Sugar is my real weakness… I can’t have alcohol because it makes me sick so I’ll take it as a blessing in disguise kek. I’ve been trying to work on my diet but living at home with parents who eat like shit makes it a very uphill battle. I’ve been trying to get in some more walking by getting off a stop earlier and walking the rest of the way to work/home! It’s a small change but better than nothing.
>>879919>>879936Thanks anons. I have issues with my body image because of issues in the past where I equated love with sex and sex with body image so it’s something I’m trying to work on. I won’t be sharing it anymore with people who don’t recognize my worth past it. It does kind of suck to see my old weights and measurements and be so much larger than I was before but I have to constantly tell myself I was underweight from literal lack of regular access to meals. It’s a slow journey but I’ve worked through a lot of my other self worth issues so I hope to make it through this one and come out with a strong and healthy body (and the goal is to also not care about whether that body still looks like Shaynas or not). I’ve been so used to catering my body to the “male gaze ideal” while also being a lesbian who is repulsed by men and don’t want their attention on me so it’s also just straight up dumb and I’m trying to rewire my thinking about it too.
No. 879963
>>879952Same
nonnie, everything just seems like so much work without any of the reward. Quit my job recently because I was having breakdowns everyday in the bathroom. It feels like the world is ending so might as well have fun and live for now.
No. 879974
IDK but I'm kinda losing hope on getting outta this country completely, my physical health is worse than I thought it was, I always thought I had very bad physical pain that was induced by my mental health, but it turns out I might lose my ability to walk in 5-10 years. I'm so angry I've got such a shitty draw at life, life is just so unfair and I don't even believe meritocracy exists because very skilled people are put in the dark or overwhelmed by narcissists. I can't even complain about my issues anymore to anyone at all, not even on lolcow. People think I'm either lying or they get upset at me because I ruin their mood for complaining that I was raped, I come from a completely dysfunctional family, lost my family members, come from poverty, from a country with no support system. Never got proper health care, never got anything, just beatings, rape, cold words and hunger and the aftermath of extreme childhood abuse and neglect. I tried my best, I tried everything since I was a child I had to be the adult and I'm just tired. At this point I'm just waiting for it to end peacefully. I want peace for a minute and then the eternal release of nothingness. I've always kept high moral value as well trying to read, study, go to college and so on, tell the truth, be true to myself, be analytical. When my grandpa used to beat me with his fists and kick me in the head and tell me I need to be more "diplomatic" I should have listened. My life would have been much better if I just kissed the asses of people and told them what they want to hear when they want to hear it. I want my story to be a wake up call for everyone that is lazy or that is lost in fake drama and not taking advantage of their resources. What if you were born in Eastern Europe with retarded parents? When you think you have nothing just look at those that have less and become aware of the privilege that you do have and stop wasting it away on your egoistical pursuits of self worth, stop hurting yourself.
I really do wish that humanity will have a prosperous future that we will rise, that everyone will be given equal opportunity, that nobody will have to starve, or not be able to afford health care or not be able to afford getitng out of an abusive situation. Resources define the outcome of your life. I don't even wanna know people exist anymore. People are so selfish honestly, not even on lolcow I can post in peace anymore because some anons know who I am and they keep on making very personal jabs at me after I vent just because I disagreed with them so they use my personal information to hurt me and post it on here in posts that seem innocent. I've also had this done by multiple people in my life where they would make continuous jabs at me then act as if I was being schizophrenic and guilt trip me.
Also the whole mental health thing shit is just bullshit. A lot of people act like they will accept and love people with mental health issues and they trivialize mental illness and everyone has DEPRESSHIUN but when they actually have to interact with someone with depression they immediately get put off and call them an "emotional vampire" or some shit, like the mentally ill person is responsible for the feelings of the mentally healthy person. I'm tired of this world honestly, I even tried finding people like me "doomers'' or some shit like that but after exchanging a couple of sentences with them I had conlcuded that they just loved to complain and make issues out of non issues. I recently talked with this guy from my country that kept complaining about how he's depressed and wants to kill himself and he has upper middle class parents willing to send his ass to study abroad and he's just a lazy fuck with a victim complex that thinks not having a GF is a form of oppression, I tried to explain to him how that is not really an issue and he seemed empathic towards me initially, but after I attempted explaining to him that not having a gf is not something to be depressed over he threw a small fit at me and suddenly he lost all empathy for me and he called me a narcissistic stone cold bitch. I think 70% of humans on earth are narcissistic and one might call me narcissistic for this belief, but I have pretty good proof and reality keeps making my theory real, people constantly lie, decieve one another, step on each other to get on top and so on and these are just personality traits of the average human. It's funny because when I'm the most honest and truthful I get called manipulative and a narc and when I'm being nice and telling people what they want to hear I am suddenly the best. Isn't it the opposite? Isn't being nice and telling people what they want to hear a form of manipulation?
Nobody cares, everyone is living their own life and if you have a shitty draw at life you're just left there to suffer into eternity with fake glimpses of hope and with crumbles of empathy thrown to you by strangers. Crumbles of empathy that are even conditioned by those people feeling good, they even use your pain to make themselves feel good. People don't give beggars money cuz they feel bad for them, people give beggars money cuz it makes them FEEL good. Maybe I shouldn't post such things on a gossiping board but where am I supposed to go vent? On reddit? On /lit/ no fuck that shit this is my place. I will only post in the vent thread from now on probably once or twice per month. I don't even read threads on here because they give me brain rot and they just reinforce my idea that people are sociopaths that love to laugh at individuals that have it bad when they're probably as bad as the person they're laughing at. I will also not read any of the vents on here. So, you can go on and try to hurt me like everyone else does, it doesn't hurt me because you are completely removed from my mind, you don't exist.
No. 880035
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>>880025If you're unmarried and not pumping out kids, yes. Honestly you will never hear the end of the bullshit even if you follow a "traditional" life trajectory because the world just hates women nonnette. Keep living your best life and a-log them instead
No. 880039
>>880026yeah just wanted to vent about how stupid people who think like that are. judging by their insane rhetoric, i just wonder if these sickos want women who live past some arbitrary "hag" age to stop existing altogether.
>>880026ty
nonny you're right, we just gotta stay true to ourselves. i just want a wife and a nice cottage somewhere, maybe we can raise some frogs and a cat or two. bonus points if it makes bitter scrotes cope and seethe lmao.
No. 880057
>>880039lmao just realized i meant to reply to
>>880035 with that last one whoops
No. 880058
>>880025>>880035This, if you're unmarried and without kids at 30+ then you're practically useless to society.
>tfw I have a nice career making nice money>tfw I have plenty of friends I love>tfw but despite this people are shocked when I say I don't desire a relationship>tfw it gets harder and harder by each passing year to tell people I'm single because they think there's something wrong with me>tfw siblings have kids and lowkey bug me about getting my own>tfw I'm a lesbian anywayHowever despite all of this I just can't bring myself to care. I like my life the way it is and plenty of my friends are childfree and most likely staying that way since we're all in our 30's. I like kids and if I had the chance I probably would have one or two but it's not something that I require to be happy and fulfilled unlike women are often told, however the general consensus seems to be that after women turn 35 they're spoiled goods and might just as well die because they're not "fertile enough" (i.e. able to fulfil their only assumed purpose in life) or attractive as they don't look like teenagers anymore. Why else would men be allowed to live the "playboy bachelor" life but women are deemed selfish dead egg cat ladies if they're living for themselves?
No. 880067
I know it's dumb, but I used to wonder how some anons would be able to type fatass hateful paragraphs with poor spelling, grammar, etc. The fact that they could care so much, particularly more so if they were on their phone, made no sense to me. Just scroll and move on. But now I'm using my actual desktop/laptop again, and it's even worse. Like damn bitch, you really wasting your time being spiteful and extra nitpicky. With a keyboard?! Go hate on literally anything else that really matters if you need to use your energy like that, although all along it's possibly another version of self-hate or poor self-reflection. It's best when people speculate and have semi-discussions about some really interesting people, not just calling people ugly or making up their whole life story online to support why you hate them but not caring about how any of it happened in the first place. Just observe and move on, but with the kind of cowtipping and harassment that goes on at times, it's so fucking crazy.
It reminds me of how much some people hate that recent adage going around of "go touch some grass", but swear to god, a lot of y'all need that unironically. Go for a walk, drink some water, pet your dog.
Even this took me too long to write because it's hard to encapsulate the type of craziness you can see on this website daily, but what the fuck. There's no point to be upset when I have time to do so much else. But I had a little rum and tried to have a good evening, and seeing this shit over and over is fucking pointless. It's definitely not as bad as 4chan trash in terms of derailment; however, I hate how upsetting it is at times. In that same vein, I feel like a hypocrite and maybe I just need a new type of hobby due to not agreeing with the behaviour. But I enjoy the research aspect or as previously stated, the discussion side of engaging anonymously with others who are curious or need to know information about something. It's only the fact that a few very vocal people who try to engage really ruin it. I love the rest of the ladies here who can keep it together. It's just getting harder to hold on to this website, if you know what I mean.
No. 880073
>>880060Random, but always have a small portable charger for situations like this in the future if you can! I do or have a tiny solar charger, and when my power went out or a cord stopped working, it came in clutch when things seemed dire.
>>879988>>879991Take care of it ASAP. It will sneak up on you and possibly get worse. I thought it was cool the first months I was in a new apartment because it was few and far inbetween, and now there's an army in my house at all times. I'm setting off bombs tomorrow to finally take care of it so they don't terrorise me/food/pets anymore. You never know where they could be hanging out or where they came from. It's so gross. Spray only worked for so long since roaches are some resilient motherfuckers. Best of luck to you
nonnie.
No. 880163
>>880158i'm sure your friend loved that you took her out and spent time with her, even if she couldn't drink her smoothie. please make sure to cherish the time you have left, even if it hurts.
i know it's hard. i'm sorry, anon. these kinds of things are never simple.
No. 880177
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Anons I'm so pissed. I finally get the house to myself for the first time in a year and can finally do my mckenna style heroic dose of shrooms I've been planning for a while. I had fasted for 48 hours beforehand so I measure my 3.5g (it's a lot for me) cut them up and down them with some ice tea like a champ. So I go to my room, sit comfortably on my bed, blindfold on, and start meditating. I wait and wait and at some point open my eyes to put my phone on do not disturb. 40 mins have passed so they should start kicking in soon, I figure they lost some potency so it might take longer. I get really into my meditation waiting for my enlightening trip to start and it just doesn't. At some point I check the time and 1.5h have passed and still nothing. Eventually I got up and dropped any hope of tripping. I've had the shrooms for a year stored in a mason jar they shouldn't have completely lost potency. I've heard of people who've had 3+ year old shrooms and they were fine. I didn't even get the weed-like high you get with low doses. When I took them last year they were fucking crazy and I grew them myself too I was so proud. Ended up smoking two spliffs instead to cope and today I woke up with a sore throat and stuffy nose fml.
No. 880223
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This is going to be dumb, but I’ve been seething about this stupid guy for months. I’ve cut him off from most of the platforms he follows me on, but my brain won’t give up and I can’t stand it. He put me through so much emotional stress with his cow worthy bullshit (I considered posting him in the personal cows thread since he has somewhat of a following, though right now that would be a pretty juvenile thing for me to do imo and it won’t help how I feel). He had so many qualities that reminded me of the guy who abused me growing up so maybe that’s the reason I’m having a hard time forgetting about it, but I don’t know why I’m still angry at him and the people around him who enabled his manipulative, self-destructive behaviour. I wish I had never met him, I’m tired of venting to my friends about him and I wish I could just shut up and never speak about him again. I feel like the biggest clown for wasting my energy on caring about him and his stupid community.
No. 880248
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I was scrolling through a tumblr and came across an extremely heart breaking post about a swan that had her little nest of eggs and some piece of shit teens came along and threw a brick at them. The brick crushed every egg except for one and the swan mom was so devastated she ended up dying. I really don’t understand how some people can be so cruel.
No. 880420
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I literally cannot function as a human.
I have AVPD and I cut off everyone around me so I don't get hurt (or abandoned) and even though I sometimes crave emotional intimacy I just cannot feel like myself when I'm with people. Like I either accidentally hurt their feelings or I say something stupid or I just generally feel like I cannot be myself, I'm not gonna be accepted and people around me must have some sort of ulterior motive or they secretly hate me. And whenever I perceive criticism I isolate myself even more and regret I've ever talked to anyone. I also go through these cycles where I convince myself I actually don't need people.
I also haven't had a job in half a year and I recently have been accepted to a place and already dreading it. I know I'm gonna hate it, gonna suck at it and they are gonna see me as the socially awkward loser that I am. Also I'm at an age where people have families and kids and I have literally nothing, noone.
Sometimes I think I should just stop trying and wanting to be a normal human being and I should just kill myself, because this is not living, it's just existing. I feel like a freak. I hate myself so much
No. 880535
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I get bans for the stupidest shit but someone derailing a thread or posting their tinfoil goes unchecked? I can’t win.
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What did i click on to get this shit in my recommended
Why are her weight stats even relevant lmao Koreans really be doing way too much and being annoying
No. 880701
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>>880699Huh. I don't think that's what it is tho that's kinda bizarre
No. 880709
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>>880701I think it's mostly because of how women look in sundresses (picrel is one of those sundress memes), but I guess easy access could also be a reason why
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>>880555I thought it was an anime thing, like, because in anime pictures the characters wearing “sundresses” are always showing the silhouette of the legs when the sun reflects the dress, since it seems like it’s often white and made with some really shitty fabric.
It’s funny how nobody knows what the hell is a sundress supposed to be, because for anime pornsick scrotes, they’re frilly, but for normie pornsick scrotes, they’re bodycon dresses.
>>880709The term is retarded and the men who fall for the “sundress” meme should be put in cages for everyone to point at them and laugh.
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>>880561ugh same, thankfully the ones trooning out are ugly as shit and also like
>>880592 said, misogynistic.
>tfw no cute autistic plant nerd will ever name a mean green mother from outer space after youwhy even live
No. 880767
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>>880746Why and how are humans still alive?
No. 880780
I think I unlocked a new feeling in my life, anons - actually missing my ugly, racist, misogynist groomer. There's no reason I should be feeling sad that he isn't in my life anymore, every fucking time we disagreed he suicide-baited me or chimped out at how "foids" can't think for shit, and asked for feetpics "as a joke". Of course when the charismatic cult leader of your discord group thinks you're hot, you'd be elated, especially if you're someone that was bullied for being ugly as a child. He's like a shitstain on my memory that won't come off - we "dated" for 4 years, and depressingly enough, he's the only man in my life that spoke to me like all the childhood fairytales told me some man would, one day. I know I need to find someone worth his salt, I'm too old for this shit. Fuck me, man, I feel worthless.
No. 880815
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>today is my birthday
>turned 19
>getting raging diarrhea because digestive issues hope I’m lactose intolerant because dairy is kind of nasty
wasn’t a bad day, it was kind of uneventful but I got lots of sweets and food, but oml the discomfort, drinking water as we speak to hydrate. I kind of feel a little disappointed that it’s ending, not like I wanted a huge birthday bash but something existential is happening in me today and before I woke up today I saw this weird dark figure that looked like a unicorn demon near my desk, closed my eyes and it faded. sorry for blogging nonnies but today was shitty in a good way
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>>880817
No. 880843
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>>880380 I can relate. I want it so bad but I struggle with showing my emotions and being open about my feelings. Getting shamed as a child for having emotions seriously fucked me up.
No. 880860
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I'm impressed at how unhinged teens these days are. They rival the cows of the deviant art days except worse.
No. 880867
>>880860I just don’t get it, bitches will get unhinged if you don’t like what they like or if you like something they don’t like. But then they will put “twiggew wahnings” because they can’t read about someone talking about whatever random shit
triggers them.
I honestly think that the
trigger isn’t something like “oh, this makes me want to cut” or “this makes me want to kms” but more like
>I will got apeshit and it’s justifiable because it’s my twiggew uwuThe fun part is that I usually try to report anyone who goes full retard like that, but Twitter and even fucking Pinterest are cesspools full of weird ass kids that need to get their phones confiscated for a really long time.
At this point, I hope such things bites their asses in the future when they’re trying to get a job or when a new woker crowd cancels them for being unhinged.
No. 880870
>>880860Which way, western woman?
bunself/kittyself-bilesbian-daughter or school-shooting-nonbinary-femboy-son
No. 880890
>>880888Nta, but it's a vent post, what's your problem?
>stop ruining the vibe It's the vent thread, dummy. The vibes on this site are already off, but they are worse here, cause y'know, people are talking about stuff that upsets them.
No. 880930
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I'm slightly annoyed that I have to plan my day by the hour so I can function. If I don't I end up scrolling for hours, wasting time.
No. 880934
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>been drawing for 10+ years
>have months long artblock
>get out
>artblock again (1 month so far)
Autism? Am I losing the spark?
No. 880954
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>asks how to not burn out
>ends up getting lashed at by a random person
>"y-you are bragging about doing so much work!!111"
>"i just wanted to ask for an advice, sorry"
I am sitting with 13 works for my channel, because I am a poorfag that can't commission anyone. I always have this strong feeling that time is my enemy, feeling too scared of not doing or posting anything for too long. I spent five days this week feeling sick after the vaccine, unable to talk much, let alone do anything. Sometimes I am jealous of people who can do nothing but tweet around and make people do every other work by just paying them, no wonder a lot of content creators spend half of their time on Twitter. I feel stressed out everytime I don't draw, and this week I was unable to because of vaccination.
No. 880965
>>880963Same here. I even get a headache and brain fog when it's too hot so I can't sleep or really do anything.
What worries me is that this shit is only starting, it'll get a lot worse.
No. 881090
>>881048> the only way I can imagine my f*ing life being worst was if I was sexually and physically abused by some man in my life. Luckily that never happened.Says the rage filled 22 year old who wants to fuck teenaage girls… did he not see the irony there?
And yeah a whole lot of women aren't out here giving out sympathy fucks to oddball men given we've been abused in some way already and we're not diving in for more. Wah wah though you haven't had sex by 22.
No. 881101
>>881092"…all developed Western countries and not some obscure nations the average American hasn't heard of, speak English as their native language just like them?"
Is this supposed to be bait?
No. 881297
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Think I just saw cheese pizza on here for the first time Im going to kill myself
No. 881303
>>881297thanks for the warning
nonny, thanks to your post I managed to stop scrolling just in time and only saw the top corner of the pic. Your post helped me! Feel better soon.
No. 881308
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Anybody else losing interest in social medias because of all the garbage that seems to fill them?? I know it's always kinda been like this but now every tard is in the internet and has an account somewhere and everything is political and everything is coronavirus. I like anonymous boards but I'm tired of the infighting and grotesque raids. I just need to finish this semester of school and I will have a degree and I can maybe do something more worthwhile after that. Idk. I'm so depressed, nonas. LOL.
No. 881316
>>881308Yes, absolutely. Social media is a cesspool, unfortunately. I still use it but don't engage with other people, just do my thing (example: finding local stores and restaurants on facebook or posting my art on instagram).
I recently got a job and my internet usage has been reduced by 70%. I watch youtube to relax but I only ever watch channels that I like and don't sperg about current topics or politics. I think getting a job will help you as well.
No. 881329
>>881297I'm sorry anon. Thanks for posting about it since you helped other people avoid it.
I think from now on I'm going to revisit threads from my history since I only look the same ones anyway, because I keep going to the front page instead of doing this, I have stumbled upon CP threads 3 times already.
No. 881331
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>>881297they posted the same picture on cc's /b/ too, so i came here to escape that but i guess they're raiding here as well. i just wish i could live in a world free of moids and their vile, rotten perversions. they will never leave women and girls alone. there will never be a moment where i'm allowed to forget they exist, and they never let us forget how putrid they are.
No. 881364
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i'm complaining about this again because i'm a one track record, and it isn't an important enough issue to take offline, but to see people be so supportive of "enbies" and other gnc identities yet loathe the very idea of a femboy (and claim a feminine man is automatically a fetish) annoys me. i just h8 hypocrisy
that being said, i do get a retarded sort of pleasure for calling folks out on it whenever they try to bitch at me/bitch about them in general.
No. 881369
>>881364Femboys are doing it for the fetish and enbies are either doing it for the fashion statement or because of unresolved trauma.
Why do you need to label a person that just wants to wear what they want? gnc isn’t a fashion style, it’s just not giving a fuck about what’s supposed to be masculine or feminine and wearing/doing what you want.
No. 881371
>>881364Most femboys act and dress the same way as troons anyway, the only difference being pronoun shit.
ot but god I fucking hate fleshfangs and I hate astolfo
No. 881377
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I feel like I've spent the majority of my life online, and It's only gotten worse since I've gotten older. I want to finally escape the confines of the internet and live in the real world. I'm just not entirely sure how, or what path to take to escape. I feel like every day is the same cycle that I can't seem to break and I'm slowly going insane. I hate internet culture, I want to become a normie and leave this life behind.
No. 881380
>>881369a feminine man is a femboy, anon, that's what it means. same with tomboy referring to a masculine woman. idk words mean things to me
>>881368ya, they're ~genderqueer~ or ~genderfluid~ or whatever then. much better lol
>>881371>ot but god I fucking hate fleshfangs and I hate astolfook
No. 881387
>>881380Tomboy was used to describe kids that wanted to play sports, now it’s a category for anime porn. Femboy has always been used as a category for anime porn.
Maybe stop trying to put a name to everything and go outside for once.
No. 881394
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>>881364>>881369>>881380we've discussed this in the MTF threads but I think it bears repeating, No matter how beautiful a male is he can never look like a convincing women, let alone a "cute girl", Only closeted scrotes think picrel or anyt other "trap" looks attractive(this is with AI female filters mind you and he still has an unquestionably masculine male face)
the funny thing is if this guy just presented himself in slightly alternative fashion or even as a regular guy he could have attracted both girls and guys, but as a "trap" the only ones who will even approach him will be cumbrained, closeted homo scrotes
No. 881399
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>>881385i mean…? yeah, it does have bad connotations, but it still refers to a feminine man. i mean, that's it…it's shorthand for "feminine boy". this is such a weird thing to try and deny.
of course i don't expect femme dudes irl to go about calling themselves "femboys" bc of said connotations (nevermind that some do, and that's perfectly ok, it shouldn't be auto-considered a "coomer" thing) but for the sake of my complaint, that's the best word to describe them.
>>881387ok
>>881394see this is part of the issue. women don't wear pants to attract other women. if a dude wants to wear a skirt to look nice, then he should be able to do that, w/o people thinking it's for the sake of getting [eventually] fucked.
then again, in my og post, i was mainly thinking of fandom/forum rp/fictional shit [e.g. everyone who loves butch characters like haruka tenoh, or praises "enbies/genderfluid characters", but shits their fucking pants over astolfo & treats him like the devil] and not irl. so oops
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>>881398>>881394The way he's trying to position his chest forward so it looks vaguely feminine but it only draws more attention to his clearly flat male chest, also his super noticeable massive jawline
No. 881525
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A 23andme relative is ignoring me. Our great-grandparents were siblings. I thought I hit the jackpot, as I know nothing about most of my family. I stupidly told him this in a short, friendly email. I was careful not to pry, didn't ask any personal questions, just said how delighted I'd be if we spoke. He's been online almost daily for the last three months now. Fucker couldn't be bothered to make up some dumb shit to spare my feelings and essentially tell me to get lost? Being ignored really hurts my feelings and I feel so embarrassed.
No. 881537
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>>881501 >Apparently anger is not an emotionThis. I hate when men are angry and lash out and get petty with people and are desperate to control a convo and then when someone reacts to their raging by being sad or scared or crying out of sheer frustration… god you're so emotional!
I've spent my whole life surrounded by it. If you dare to tell them they're getting heated or emotional…
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I usually avoid my own image but my bf's mom sent me a photo she took of us today and now I am legitimately considering suicide why did nexaplanon and mood stabilizers make me so fucking fat and pimply I don't even recognize myself
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praying for a car to magically land in my parking garage. want to have a car…………………
No. 881633
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Somehow between moving from my last place to here, I lost my macbook with over a decade of pictures and memories on it. I'm not sure how this happened, but I suspect it was either thrown out or misplaced by my husband or ex roommate.
It's my fault for never backing up all that stuff, truthfully the macbook had died a couple years ago and I kept putting off buying the part I needed to try to export all the files. But now it's gone forever and there's no hope of ever doing it now. All I have is the shit I ever posted to facebook, which definitely wasn't everything.
I'm not actively upset about it but I am extremely bothered by it.
No. 881683
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Recently dumped a guy just because I noticed I just stopped liking him and I just didn't see a future with him. Our plans just didn't match up and he was very 'lovebomb' at the beginning which is always a red flag to me. He blocked me because he didn't want to be friends, which is fine of course. But a mutual friend sent a link to his stream where he talked about not "dating below his standards" and "becoming a fuckboy". All because apparently of the 'shit he just dealt with'.
I can understand being upset, but I felt me breaking off a relationship that lasted less than 5 months would be not a huge deal? Why do men act like such babies over shit like this? I didn't cheat, I was very clear this was purely no malice. Just wanted to cut it off without wasting any of our time anymore. Yet apparently I'm an ugly whore who he wasted his time on lol. Men are so pathetic.
No. 881728
>>881722This place is too harsh in general, so I don't want to bark at you. But you need to start going to the gym on your own. It is great for your mental health and, in general, it is incredibly healthy for human begins to deliberately allocate time for their own self-improvement. In fact, it is what separates people who "bounce off" what their partners do, and people who set the agenda for their relationships. It looks like your current boyfriend is doing his own thing here, so you need to do yours.
By the way, not that this should be your aim, but men are fairly predictable and once you start going to the gym and you get your noob gains after a fortnight, he will notice how hot you are and start tagging along as he will be jealous of other men at the gym etc. etc.
No. 881740
>>881728You are right. I have a gym down the road but my social anxiety just stops me going in so bad. I do love swimming though, and I have a local pool so I may join that once lockdown is lifted.
>>881731He does know the benefits, he used to play volleyball and hockey. I think he's just gotten lazy with age.
>>881733I know.. Thanks anon, I know you're right.
No. 881811
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we have all this knowledge about men, yet we still make them lawmakers, give them more income, not give them a curfew and restrict their freedom? this is true, no male has an ounce of care or empathy in their bones. don’t believe in the false narrative that they’re soft baby bois beaten up by the patriarchy men will always inherently suck ass because of evolutionary reasons, so stop trying to fix them.
No. 881993
>>881979this reveals the man thinks of himself as disgusting, therefore ypu're dirty for touching his disgusting self. Theres a sex and the city plot where i think charlotte is dating this guy whos nice but during sex every time he nuts he yells "ugggh you dirty fucking whore", passes out, and denies he did it afterward.
It's very fucking warped and very fucking common. Idk how to treat it, maybe guys like this need to stay at nudist colonies until theyre comfortable with their body.
No. 881995
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I have an interview coming up and I'm scared I'm going to faint or puke when I get there. I briefly talked to one of the managers last week and I had to collect myself and rehearse my "lines" in the car for about 10-15 minutes before I could walk into the place with confidence that my brain wouldn't short circuit as soon as I open my mouth. I don't know how the fuck I've survived my entire life like this. I feel so stupid.
No. 882157
>>882147The only good thing that I hope to come out of this is the possibility of the whole "liking harry potter is a
TERF dogwhistle" thing mass peaking people.
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This peaked me
No. 882243
>>882199Yeah, I had to have my appendix removed as a kid and my grandma had to bribe a retired surgeon she knew to come operate on me because the ones in the hospital didn't know how and 'accidentally' sliced a boy's bladder open just days before. They also wanted me to walk from the children's ward to the surgical ward and back each day for check-ups by myself. After an abdominal surgery.
I also wasn't fed for a month and the surgery might not have happened at all if the old doctor wasn't brought in, I would've died there from a ruptured appendix because it took them three weeks to figure out what was wrong. I stayed with some gypsy kid who kept running away and they beat him in front of all of us whenever they brought him back. At least the sheets were clean, even if the bathroom looked like something out of Silent Hill.
Anyway I hate this government and the world in general, hope your mother's ex pulls through anon.
No. 882252
>>882248NTA, not this shitty but shitty regardless. I'm
>>882243 and live in a rich EU country now, healthcare here is a lot better but they still make you wait months to years for essential surgeries and procedures. I go private whenever it's serious because my employer pays for it, it's only going to get worse as time goes on.
No. 882275
>>882248I’m in the U.K. which loves to brag about its healthcare service but it’s shit in my own experience and others I’ve heard. Better than the Hungarian anons (my heart goes out to you all) but still shit. All the waiting lists are so long, staff routinely fuck up and don’t face consequences, major issues are missed. In hospital you’ll generally be fed and have basics needs met to a decent standard but I’m hearing more and more stories of people having such bad experiences they refuse to go back or want a DNR.
I have a few friends who work for the NHS so I hear the horror stories first hand. Probably the worst medical thing I’ve heard is my friend’s boyfriend having his cancer finally diagnosed after months of doctors visits… only to be told that the waiting list for treatment was long and he’d probably be at the next stage and likely to die by that time.
I have a particularly bad personal experience but I always feel like I shouldn’t complain because I’m alive. People get touchy about “free” healthcare being criticised but it’s not free (if you pay tax, it’s actually around the amount you’d pay for some private healthcare plans here) and if it’s not fit for purpose we should say so. I understand the worry about privatising healthcare but allowing this to happen isn’t helping.
No. 882276
>>882264My mom is 65
>>882243This sounds horrific, I'm glad you survived that ordeal
>I hate this government and the world in generalRelatable heh
>hope your mother's ex pulls through anonThank you.
The whole system is so fucked, you pay your social security all your life only to have the nurses and doctors shit on you, ridiculous
No. 882297
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Allegedly 4channers are reporting women that have onlyfans to Taliban which, if true - and I wouldn't put it past them - is a death sentence to them. A journalist from my country who's been in Kabul for years is getting threats from scrotes coming from my country's chan-like board that they'll report her to Taliban too because she "betrayed our race and should get raped and killed by Arabs like she deserves". I know scrotes are vile but it still surprises me how vile exactly they can be. It's so depressing what's happening in Kabul right now, I can't imagine being there, especially as a woman.
It's a bit too much for a vent but I don't know where I could post it.
No. 882302
>>882300I plan on changing it soon! I’m really excited because I finally found a name I like and that means something to me.
Have you had any issues with paperwork and legal stuff after changing your name? Or has it been pretty easy to deal with?
No. 882329
>>882323I think it's beneficial to get exposed to anonymous male discussions because it's a wake-up call for women who are convinced men aren't that bad. It's a hard pill to swallow but we need to be aware of just what men think of us.
It's only useful to a certain extent though, once you've accepted reality it's best to go back to all female sites. Sometimes I go on 4chan for specific hobbies/discussions unrelated to women but we always get brought up and shit on. I end up thinking 'wtf am I doing here, I don't need to hear this'.
No. 882338
>>882311Report them to who? The fucking CIA? Who can do something about this? Is this even breaking a law?
Could always send a tip to a journalist, I guess.
No. 882357
>>882351Scrotes literally NEVER defend women in their spaces. It's insane that so many women think they need to do it for them, especially when most manhating is just 'boy, I wish men would stop raping and murdering us'.
It's admittedly hard to reconcile with real life, I have a few nigels of my own and I can't imagine them saying such horrible things. But I've never heard them defend us either, they're passively accepting at best and I don't hold back my misandry for their sakes.
No. 882368
>>882351I used to browse /tv/ for discussion about tv shows, movies and industry/youtuber drama but now literally all of the threads devolve into sperging about the jews and feminism ruining the western civilization, posting underage feet fetish pics or "would you fuck this actress". Literally all of them, I'm not even kidding. The anons on this site complaining about manhate sperging don't know how good they have it.
>>882357They do call out the blatant misogynist dudebros in some leftypol-leaning spaces but only to get closer to that spec of elusive whiteknighted pussy themselves. Not out of sincere empathetic goodwill like a lot of Nigel wranglers here.
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Feeling scared and vulnerable, am having a pretty hard time opening up to friends and family of what I'm going through. Waiting for news from the doctor, and all I can do sit around and wait. I nervous ate a bunch of chocolates and feel awful about it, stupid actually. I rarely feel like I want someone to hug me but now would be a good time for a silent, long hug.
No. 882382
>>882357Even if a good nigel understands when something is clearly unfair/shit for a woman, he would never defend with his whole chest the way a woman would. Especially if there are other scrotes around. He'd just take the backseat and try to appease both sides.
The minute they're in that "bro zone" the XY defect kicks in and every scrote in the room, thread or comments is, quite literally, INCAPABLE of disagreeing with the status quo. Just remember that scrotes never have any original, nuanced thoughts.
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>>882368This
tbh even the spergiest of anons on here are nothing in comparison to the male autists on 4chan. The "thirst" on here isn't even that bad and for the most part is contained in their threads.
On 4chan however, weird sexual shit is everywhere and almost unavoidable even on the fucking blue boards. Same with
le casual misogyny. Even their tranny memes are more brutal and they'll run forced memes into the ground faster than you can say Nagito Komaeda.
LC has it's issues but at least the mods bother to regulate the autsim.
>>882422Same a lot of them are super ugly.
No. 882518
>>879729The only time in my 27 whole ass years of life where I’ve felt sexual attraction and a genuine need to kiss and hold hands with somebody, it’s over an e-friend I met on tumblr and who’s likely to be trooning out soon. I hate that some virtual concept I’ll likely never meet has evoked more emotions in me than long term relationships I’ve ever had.
If you ever feel pathetic remember you’re at least not this pathetic kek
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sometimes I feel like I just want to start screaming and going fucking nuts and this weird feeling always seems to happen at night where I feel very overwhelmed and mentally trapped
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I hate that I make great friends when I still have enough social 'battery' and energy but when I go on longer trips, I start being so drained and tired. By the last two or so days, it becomes so hard to follow the conversation, social clues and say the same funny or friendly shit. I always feel like I'm mentally challenged and socially retarded by the end. The people who I become super close to the stop being eager or really wanting to talk to me like they did before and I feel like I disappointed them. The change in their behaviour is so obvious to me. And I get horrible shameful flashbacks after I get back home and feel like shit because I regret how I ruin my good relationships like that. I really don't know what to do, only schedule short stuff and leave prematurely? But I don't want to make the trips and meetups short just because I suck…
No. 882608
>>882569Maybe be upfront and tell them in about 2-3 days time you'll be a bit withdrawn because your social battery will run dry? Then maybe you could schedule a day to be alone and explore stuff at your own pace to recharge. Maybe the change in their behaviour is not because you disappointed them but because they thought they'd done something wrong to cause you to act differently around them and they're annoyed or confused? Talk it out
nonny, I'm sure most people understand extroversion-introversion is on a scale these days.
No. 882627
>>882609anon, you are my sister! this has happened to me on so many occasions and now it has caused me to become super introverted in a sense and it took out the joy of my life which was sperging about my little interests and thoughts. It felt like I was plagiarized in a sense, but I didn't get credit for it. Now, I'm super paranoid about sharing myself to the world at all in any form, even talking with friends. I know a lot about MBTI and I taught it to my friend and then she went around teaching it to her friends and getting attention for it and acting like a PRO even if she just came across it and I was studying it for literally 6 years and then she began arguing with me even if she did not actually properly understand the system.
Then, I used to have a Twitch stream and two girls began impersonating me and stealing my ideas but they had much bigger followings than I did so they got praise, while I was talking to the walls with barely any followers. One of them even guilt tripped me by saying she thinks I;m schizophrenic for assuming people are copying me when she was clearly getting a bit more inspiration from my streams. I hate it so much and it is one of the factors that has influenced me to become a shut in again. Also, if you try talking about something like this a lot of people will side eye you or accuse you of being paranoid, jealous or lying. Thank you for sharing this, although it is a traumatizing experience it feels like I'm being understood.
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I learnt something recently which I never really considered.
Don’t let anyone be involved of the big parts of your life if they have no interest or care in you. Sounds obvious I know, but this person is a friend if my husband.
I never realised I was doing this until really recently, but I was inviting this misogynist to be a huge part of our lives to try and get acceptance from him. Made him our best man at our wedding, always brought gifts for bdays, Xmas and more, always tried to match his vibe and completely shift mine so he would like me… just feel so stupid. Of course he won’t ever put the effort in back. Of course he’s just going to make subtle digs and proclaim incredibly sexist opinions and not see the problem with what he is saying. Best of all, he is gay but fucking HATES that he is. He says how he won’t associate with any gay that is slightly effeminate, because he sees people that act slightly like a woman as the weaker sex.
I hate him. And I hate men that think like him. Whenever I talk about an issue related to sexism he would always bring up how men have it bad too. This is so stupid but this was the final straw for me last night… he really loves Jim Carey and all I said was that he was a bit ‘creepy’ and he mentioned because Jim was dating an abusive girlfriend, he was anti-vax. Like, I’m not taking away the fact he was in an abusive relationship, but just assuming that was really evident to me that he just blames women for everything. Even a woman’s fault when your favourite movie actor has different opinions to you.
I hate how he makes me feel and now I just want to cut ties with the entire friend group, though it’s not that easy since he’s friends with my husband. Worst of all he’s made me feel utterly pathetic.
No. 882651
>>882639I'm really sorry
nonnie, he sounds horrible.
>Worst of all he’s made me feel utterly pathetic.Is that what you talked about that made you feel like that or something else ?
Also, I think that
>>882642 is absolutely right
No. 882654
>>882651What’s made me feel so pathetic is that I have been stuck in this cycle with this friend for 8 years… it’s taken me 8 years to realise he will never like me, and he will never try to.
I have spoken to my husband about it this morning and he understands. I just hope some change comes out from this, if not from my husband then at least from myself. I clearly need some self respect…
No. 882676
>>882654It's a great first step, nonni.
In the past I had friends who clearly wasn't any good, it feels shit to have had those relationships going for long but now they're dumped and I know better.
No. 882731
>>882704You can clone your OS drive and then move it to a bigger drive without needing to reinstall anything
Use this software
https://www.macrium.com/reflectfreeand this guide
https://www.pcmag.com/how-to/how-to-clone-a-hard-drive No. 882747
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Im tired of moids in geeky environments, I just want to do my thing and chill and not constantly have to deal with someone treating me clearly like his "potential date". I'm not even hot or interesting and I'm definitely not coming remotely close to flirting with anyone but usually just responding with basic kindness or sharing one (1) interest is enough to activate their pursue mode and it's just so annoying to deal with.
No. 882776
>>882757I feel like I'm being scolded and I kind of appreciate this, thank you
nonny.
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I feel like feminism is doomed with the upcoming generations with the increasing amount of incels and pickmes.
No. 882910
>>879729talking to this guy about junji ito and he ruins the conversation mentioning he also likes shintaro kago. Of course, the mangaka who made a comic about a man forcing decapitated and dead woman to suck his dick. Fuck that guy he's a disgusting degenerate with his edgy shit.
Junji ito has great horror elements and he never sexualizes or crosses the line with his female characters. Don't compare him to that shit.
No. 883015
>>882639He wants ur husband
Jk but that's fucking irritating how have u not told that self hating retard off already..why is ur husband even friends w him?
No. 883058
>>879729A really close male friend of mine just confessed he was in love with me when we were having a heart-to-heart while drunk.
I can't say that it surprised me, I've been suspecting it for a long time, but I was speechless.
The hard part is that I have no idea what I feel for him. I can't say that I do not like him, but I do not have strong romantic feelings for him like he does for me. So I just told him I didn't feel the same. Since we're both adults he took it well and said he was happy just being friends.
For some reason I'm still really anxious and sad over the situation though.
No. 883108
>>883100Low-key, I feel like it's some weird way to keep people who consume American media mentally ill and tense at all times.
Imagine constantly having a slur repeated to you (usually temporarily divorced from its offensive nature as a slur by a small subset of the people it's affected by), but you have to keep in mind that it's still a slur and you shouldn't throw it around, even though you're only thinking the word so often because pop music/culture forces it everywhere.
No. 883143
>>883097Same. Remember when Kendrick Lamar got that white girl up on stage to sing along? And when she sung "nigga" people got mad as hell? Dick move by Kendrick IMO. He wrote the song, he KNEW that word was coming up because of course it was, he can't go 5 seconds without saying nigga. When you're singing along to a song it's
very easy to forget about the weight that word carries, if you know a song off by heart the word flies out your mouth faster than you can think about it, it's not a big deal and people shouldn't be so heavily punished for it. If artists like Kendrick are gonna get butthurt at non-black people singing the word "nigga" then maybe they shouldn't put it in their songs so fucking much. Gotta admit though it was funny as hell to see posts from people at that concert saying white people who were previously singing along to that word booed the girl on stage for doing the same thing lmao. Doesn't surprise me at all.
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I want to die so badly. These are the last days, I'm in the endgame, I can feel it in my tired aching bones.
I came home from hospital to find out I'd been let go from work for being long-term sick a few days.
I used to be a lecturer. I was a bright and promising young researcher. I was doing so well and I worked so hard, but then I got poorly.
It doesn't mean much to me anymore. I'll never know what it's like to be loved. I won't know how it feels to build a life with somebody. I won't come home to a loving embrace or feel safe and content in somebody's arms. There isn't any purpose or reason I'm alive. I can't look after myself properly anymore. I don't want to.
No. 883183
>>883173Moids are gonna moid unfortunately, and middle eastern men are some of the worst, most selfish moids on earth. Women rank lower than cattle to them.
t. middle eastern woman who learned the hard way
No. 883188
>>883173The women and children are kept at home as slaves, and any bored scrotes fuck off to better countries because they don't want to have a family & bc refugees get preferential treatment in some places. I remember Poland banned single male refugees, they got so
triggered.
No. 883194
>>883193And wait for the next terrorist attack and then the twitter leftist cunts “NOT ALL MUSLIMSSSSSSSS” but never give a shit about the
victims.
Fuck these cunts
No. 883199
>>883195Agreed.
Fuck the men.
No. 883201
>>883173Exactly. Almost no one talks about this fact. Women and children should be first priority for any sort of refugee/immigrant situation, 100% of the time.
Instead, it's always scrotes who do nothing but bring violence and shit behavior wherever they go. Women certainly aren't the ones doing that, and yet, it's men who get priority. Why?
No. 883218
>>883198It's already happening in Sweden, but ofc the women are being silenced bc "that's racist uwu".
>>883206A ton of these scrotes lie about their age so they can get tons of benefits. They look 30 but write that they're 16.
>>883209The porn has rotten their brain through, they think all white women are porn whores. Combined with a misogynistic culture, there's no reforming them.
No. 883224
>>883218White women.
From a woman of colour, I’m telling you. Do not procreate with these men. Please. We do not need more kids indoctrinated with madness. Hopefully Afghan women if they ever come here will marry out and these men will die out.
No. 883225
>>883195I think Poland is not taking anyone in at all, no? Canada only takes full families and women and that seems to be the best approach; although I'm not Canadian so would be nice to hear canadanon input here.
I used to visit Koln in Germany a lot, never felt unsafe there, and I remember it really shook me when the year after increased immigration there were these reports of multiple assaults and rapes during I believe it was New Years Eve? Family friendly, safe and social event I'd never think of being afraid to go to. Of course all perpetrators were refugees. Or, less dramatic but equally telling, some smaller German city wanted to welcome poor refuge kids coming to seek shelter in their community, there were members of the community waiting at the train station with gift bags of toys and stuff for incoming children and everyone that came were very clearly adult males, no one to give these gifts too, and they didn't give a fuck about the welcoming party. Deperssing.
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>>883216Lol reminded me of this. Mistake or not, good idea kek. Iranian asylum seeker Mohammed Bagher Bayzavi picrel claimed his home was attacked because of the red front door and neighbours without red doors were not targeted. (Untrue)
>Doors in Middlesbrough were not deliberately painted red to highlight where asylum seekers live, a government investigation has concluded. A row erupted last month over claims easily identifiable doors made refugees targets for racism and vandalism. Contractor Jomast used the same standard paint on a number of properties, the review found. Home Office Minister James Brokenshire said what happened to the refugees was "inadvertent" but should be avoided.>Mohammed Bagher Bayzavi, 58, said he asked for a different-coloured front door after being plagued by disturbances. "Everyone here knows the red colour is Jomast. Change the colour - anything but red," he said. The government launched an investigation into the homes, owned by Jomast, a subcontractor of services giant G4S. Jomast boss Stuart Monk said at the time that the properties had not been deliberately painted red to mark out asylum seekers, describing the idea "ludicrous". Work began to repaint the doors last month. Giving an update to MPs, Mr Brokenshire said the use of a "predominant colour" was down to simple maintenance management, not design.>Inquiries to police revealed no reports of links to anti-social behaviour or stigmatisation, he said. No. 883257
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>>883173Photos from a plane that took over 600 refugees, thankfully some women manage to get out of there. As of now though I think it's only people connected to USA and European diplomacy, not regular civilians. The photo you've posted is a regular civilian flight from a week ago - I mean they're still fleeing the taliban, but it's not how things look right now. Just to clarify the situation because there's no denying there's so much more men than women and children trying to flee.
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>>883173From today kek someone shoot the plane down or else we're all getting 2016 cologne'd
No. 883354
>>883334Why be on dating apps just to chat? Anon, the types of guys skulking around for women to perpetually breadcrumb on dating apps are not the kinds of men you want, re: the types of men willing to give you attention and are quality to date.
Guys who are only on dating apps to chat are likely cheaters, looking for the attention themselves, or they're losers.
I'm not saying to accept pointless coffee dates from scrotes, but surely a guy who proposes a thoughtful date and follows through is way more likely to show return conversationally as opposed to some dude making the lowest possible effort, no?
No. 883366
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Got my 2nd dose of pfizer today and I'm not feeling good nonners, exhausted and want to sleep but the fever and nausea is keeping me awake.
No. 883367
>>883363What's preventing you from stating your preference and the feelings behind it? You don't have to show your hand by admitting insecurity, rather admit you enjoy the intimacy better because that's what gets you off. Which is the truth.
I have great normie vanilla sex with my husband multiple times a week and he never asks for stupid positions and degrading shit like blowjobs.
No. 883380
>>883379I wish wealthy females would unit and work on getting as many women and young children as possible out there, maybe giving them jobs at their mansions for a start, until they can stay in a saver country forever.
And the men could go home and don't know, do the work of all the women that would be gone then.
No. 883396
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>be Swede
>society getting fucked over by immigrants
>the worst groups in general is afghans and Somalis.
>taliban shitstorm happens
>Afghan shit-stirring violent rapist moids probably getting shipped over as I’m typing this.
GOD FUCKING DAMN IT
No. 883405
>>883396Oh, don't worry, Germany will take some of them, too, so you won't have all the fun for yourself.
Well, more potential guys to ask me, while I'm alone outside, minding my business, if I have a boyfriend and only disappearing when I tell them I have and that he is tall and doesn't like me talking to other men.
Truth is, I don't have a boyfriend, but there is no other way to get rid of them and I'm lucky that there aren't as many of them in my part of town than in other parts.
No. 883410
>>883406The frustrating part is that they all acted like nothing will happen if they leave. German politicians told the press that they didn't saw this coming. How stupid can you be if it's your job to think about possibilities and "normal" people told you that this will most likely happen and they were right.
I'm so tired of people not thinking about any consequences, especially when they get paid for exactly that, thinking about consequences.
No. 883412
>>883367NTA but is it bad if I like going down on a guy? I liked watching my (now ex) bf squirm and making him beg me to let him finish.
Sorry for the dumb question, I've only had sex with one person because i can't sleep with anyone other than a serious boyfriend.
No. 883461
>>883445>>883446There was a video of people trying to climb a plane that was about to take off. By people I mean only (young) men, not a woman in sight.
The "comments" explained that it's because the men would get shot on sight if the Taliban saw them but the women would be forced to marry. Idk about you guys but I'd rather be dead than raped, beaten and basically tortured on a daily basis.
No. 883497
>>883495Sucks,
nonnie. I think I might be and am waiting on an appointment. I have so many symptoms but my period is always on time and short (though still heavy and painful)
No. 883549
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another day of going to work at my dead-end job where the manager hates me on 0-1 hours of sleep and deteriorating mental state/mental illness despite being on numerous medications + benzos while living with my abusive and shitty family
No. 883566
>>883565he made a fucking playlist with one song on it and I think its about me
I was doing alright blocking out the fact this dude fucking ghosted me out of nowhere until I saw it like the retard I am please give me advice I know I cant text him anymore
No. 883591
God where do I fucking start?
I'm starting uni again in a few days, and I feel so out of it. I failed a majority of my classes during online learning, and I'm not sure if I'm ready to face the professor's who's lectures I've failed in person. I feel so incompetent and embarrassed, I should have dropped out 2 years ago, but I kept pushing and now I feel stuck as a senior. Sunk cost fallacy is a bitch.
It just makes me so anxious that I haven't been doing anything. No packing, no eating(properly). Just video games and day dreaming in some low ass effort to feel some type of calm in my life.
On top of that I also have to deal with a terminally ill parent, and I've been so sick with stress about it. Because what if he passes while I'm at school? What if this is the last time I'll see him?? I'm trying so hard not to stress about it but I haven't slept properly in days because I keep getting random anxiety attacks keeping me up at night.
And in trying to find some normalcy and calm I've been turning to old habits and pass times. One of them being gossiping about internet personalities, but most places I used to frequent seem to be more or less dead. PULL is dead-dead, gurugossiper is dead, 4chan stopped allowing gossip threads a long ass time ago, kiwifarms is having a moment, Reddit is too good for gossip apparently (they're not, they just like to act like it)–Where tf did everybody go? Did everyone suddenly get a life in the few years that I've been out of the loop, or did they migrate somewhere that I don't know about?
At least here is somewhat active I think, which is good. But idk who tf most of these newer people are, and the people I am interested in knowing the dirt on aren't interesting to anyone else.
Sorry if this is way too fucking long. I also haven't spoken to my 'friends' in months due to my low social need, and I'm too afraid of being an emotional dump truck after basically going ghost for so long. It's nice to finally find a vent thread somewhere I can type it all out.
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even though it’s been a few years, jonghyun’s suicide still makes me emotional and is enough to reduce me to tears on a good day. it makes it hard to listen to his solo work or even some shinee songs because some of them are so happy and infectious and i just remember how neither them nor the fans knew what would happen in the future. i’m more of a casual shinee fan but jonghyun’s death hit me hard. i remember crying for about 4 days straight after it happened. i was inconsolable. i’m not even a massive fan of him or shinee but something about it was so sad. shinee is definitely one of those groups that has been around forever and they seem so well respected in the industry and among kpop stans. jonghyun also seemed like a very genuine caring and considerate man. anyway i know it’s dumb to be so upset about this still but i can’t help it.
No. 883602
>>883568>>883567so you gals are saying not to continue messaging him that im worried and then scream loudly until he eventually replies?
yep yep got it
No. 883603
>>883597i'm a sex trafficking abuse
victim and grooming
victim and I will be honest with you I want to physically hurt these people they give me PTSD when I hear them and I wanna smash their heads with something. I think I will go to prison because I will end up hurting some pro porn retardd
No. 883621
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>>883600>>883607And Sulli? Can you imagine the levels of abuse you have to go through in order to kill yourself after you literally have everything like money, fame?
No. 883671
>>883654I don’t even understand why he did that. He was trying to start a conversation and then made fun of me and when I got out he went, “You’re not upset right hahahaha”
It ruined my mood a bit but it’s not the first time someone did that, especially random guys. People mock me all the time when I’m trying to speak all the time for no reason. I’d ask a question and suddenly some guy I barely speak to repeats it after me and laughs like he’s the greatest comedian ever
I’m just hoping it’s not too late to try and learn through the internet, I really don’t want to sound like this forever
No. 883681
>>883672I just ignored him and left. I don’t know what else to do. Last time I was talking with guy for a project we were working on for college and I tried to make a suggestion and instead of trying to argue he just mocked my impediment and laughed. Whenever someone does this I pretend I didn’t hear it and go on
you’re very sweet though, no one told me that before. Usually people either make fun of me and straight up tell me I speak weird. This is kind of the default mode though ever since I was a kid, so I’m pretty used to it. But sometimes I worry if I travel in the future I’ll be mocked by English-speaking people, and now I’ll be mocked in multiple languages. Not as impressive as it sounds
>>883675Oh no, disgusting shit being posted again?
No. 883724
Did anyone here grow up in a misogynistic household that delayed their “growth”? I grew up in one and I feel “late to the party”, with regards to life. I couldn’t play sports, take any lessons outside of school, or even go out like boys do. My parents would constantly talk about how the majority of female gender is inherently deceitful and cunning and evil and blah blah blah, and how most of us women will bring about our own downfall, and how we’ll deny the kindness and service of men. I was also discouraged from any creative interests because creativity = whoredom. I’ve always been broody and depressed, but since my 20th birthday is in January and I keep thinking about how I did nothing with my life and I’m really embarrassed. I’ve always been broody and depressed, but this makes me even more depressed. Like it’s too late to try and make something of myself now, and strive for greatness.
It’s been making me really sad. I’m looking for a job rn and I don’t think I’ll be able to find one easily. Even if I have the money, I don’t think I’ll be able to spend it on myself, and try to engage in hobbies. My teeth are rotting and fixing them will cost a lot. Which makes me more sad.
No. 883830
>>883812They don't know either,
nonnie. They also never go after men, only young women. It's just a virtue dick measuring contest. Also probably in response to American consumerism specifically, so for us here, it's mostly irrelevant. Your strategy seems sound, dw.
No. 883900
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don't know who needs to hear this, but to say that a man is heterosexual implies only that he maintains sexual intercourse exclusively with the opposite sex, i.e. women. Everything or almost everything that is of love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people they admire; they respect; they worship and worship; they honor; whom they imitate, worship and with whom they create deeper ties; to whom they are willing to teach and with whom they are willing to learn; those whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor , reverence and love they wish: these are, mostly overwhelming, other men. In their relations with women, what is seen as respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what is seen as honor is the placement of the woman in a dome. Of women they want devotion, servitude and sex. Male heterosexual culture is couples; she cultivates love for men.
No. 883925
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I think I want a divorce. My husband complains that I am always on my phone and I don’t ever want to have a conversation with him, but when I do talk to him, he always gets angry about something I say. Or dismisses what I’m saying entirely. At this point, I think it’s safe to assume that my husband doesn’t want ME to talk, just listen to him ramble about whatever is on his mind. My thoughts and opinions are met with “well, that’s stupid,” almost every time, no matter what it is. From philosophical theory to something I found funny. I’m tired of constantly being met with hostility and/or indifference. Yeah, I’m on my phone, because there are people out there that include me in conversations.
No. 884044
I've started to more or less grey rock some coworkers. My friend, upon seeing this, called me a doormat.
This same friend said that I need to calm down when in the past I was seething about this or that unfair or hypocritical thing that my coworkers did that day. I was advised to not be stubborn or argumentative because I could lose my job (which is true, favoritism really isn't working in my favor in this place).
So now my go to responses are "mhm", "yeah sure" and "oh, strange" to whatever their complaints or "advice" may be. And if my coworkers are foaming at the mouth about whatever issue I may or may not have caused but am certainly blamed for, I mean…that's their problem, not mine. Funny how it seems like I'm so so super incompetent to these nitpicking peers, yet my manager perceives me as neutral/doing well.He was outright confused when I came out and asked if he had received any complaints about me. It makes no difference what they say. None at all.
To me it's miraculous that I'm spending next to no mental energy now when I get an overtly passive aggressive DM, but this guy calls me a doormat. I kind of feel he just wants me to fail, to be honest.
No. 884060
>>883461Same no offense to rape survivors but if I had to choose between violent rape and death I'd pick death.
The reason that men prefer rape is because they don't fear the possibility of it happening TO them at all. They know that they themselves are likely the ones to be doing it. And even when women rape them while drunk PIV rape is nowhere as near traumatic for men as women. The only way to possibly traumatize a man as much as women are traumatized by rape is if it's ass rape by another men. Just as trans and pedo shit is pushed in porn, porn needs to amp up the gay shit and get men out there raping their own. Start showing would-be-straight-rapists abused twinks and making them associate their coom with that.
No. 884096
>>884060also, these women have to stay with their abusers and they will most likely get pregnant. That is a hell no man could ever imagine, having a kid from your rapist, not being able to do anything about it and stay quiet until the day you die.
Rape is probably traumatising for most people, but knowing that you could get pregnant and have to care for a child (or more) that reminds you every day of what happend, that is only a thing women have to fear.
No. 884116
>>883724I feel you anon. My mom never let me enjoy feminine or girly things, never let me listen to female pop stars or watch tv about girls. I wanted to do gymnastics or cheerleading but my mother said those women were whores. She’s not even religious, just a shitty bitch.
Since I got away from her I’ve been enjoying feminine things, girly music, makeup and pretty dresses, stuff I missed out on.
I definitely feel “behind” though, I feel like I don’t know a lot of things about being a woman that I should know.
My mom tried so hard to make me hate women like she does but it had the opposite effect and made me lesbian af
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tired of being a hooker and i wanna quit
No. 884137
>>883724Not exactly like that, but my mother always told me how much she hated being a woman and that her life would be so much better as a man and that being a woman isn't just good enough. She was overbearing, so I wasn't allowed to do shit and at one point she started to assume that I'm whoring around and getting pregnant. Only thing she was good at was yelling at me for hours. She also hated being a woman so much that she never showed me anything about basic women stuff, like how to do my hair and why I should see a gynaecologist. When I was younger I wouldn't want to be friends with girls, therefore I had never any role models and until today I didn't learn shit about make-up and hair.
My teeth are also rotting and I will have to fix it soon, but being unemployed won't help with the costs. And I'm beyond the point of being sad, I'm angry that most of my childhood, youth and young adult life was stolen from me because I was raised the way I was.
Please find yourself a nice creative hobby you enjoy, you deserve it and creating something is very good for your mental health.
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I am a salt mine because I went on photobucket for the first time in ages to grab my stuff off of there and there's a huge paywall to even view MY photos. I get it, signing up you agree to a lot of things and the host site can do as they wish but there's just something so viscerally gross and dystopian about locking away people's personal photos behind a paywall. I half wonder if I should even bother at this point.
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>>884127I thought I watched a vid on a Danish tornado from a few years back. I must have misremembered and confused Denmark with somewhere else. I apologise.
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I can't stop thinking about conversations I had with my only friend before I cut her off. I hated that she didn't understand me at all. I explained to her that even though I obviously love her, avoidance and withdrawal from socialization is like an addiction to me that I can't stop, that's why I had periods where I didn't pick up the phone or answered messages. Also emotional intimacy is difficult for me. I don't think these are hard to understand.
But in her head everything was black and white and simple: if you love someone, you text them back, call them back and hang out with them. If you don't, you obviously hate them. And she asked me why did I hate her that much. And then the conversations went in circles because I tried to make her understand me again and explained that no, I don't hate her. Rinse and repeat
No. 884170
>>883724You’re only 19, right? You literally do have your whole life ahead of you, though I get that it’s hard to get going when your foundation is absolutely utter shit.
For now you should focus on three things:
Job, fix teeth, and if you’re still living with your family, move out and become financially independent. Having better health and freedom is the foundation you need right now to achieve anything else.
Makeup and hair can be learned from YouTube and you can learn by observing some social skills, if you need to. It’s no ideal solution but you’re way too young to give up on yourself
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nta but are you one of those 16 yo twitter "radfems" +? I get what you mean but
>makeup and dresses aren't girly
Is such a weird oversimplified take. Yes they are in our society, even if you think they shouldnt be
No. 884241
>>884124What would those feminine things marketed to women be considered to you Anon?
Feminity is more than dresses and makeup but you cannot deny that stuff like this has always been marketed and created with women in mind. (And not transwomen)
No. 884244
>>884215This 100%. I honestly don't understand what men could possibly provide nowadays for women. They're too cold and get off on being "mysterious and edgy" for emotional support/basic friendship and companion needs, too lazy and uncreative for lovely dates and women are almost always the ones who have to do most if not all the organizing to do things as a couple, they can't provide and most women I know are supporting their bfs and you'd be lucky for "50/50" type dudes where he gets cheap rent and a live in maid/chef. The best I can think of is sex but they are all butt ugly and have horrible hygiene and don't even bother looking handsome half the time and porn as broken their dicks. Hell the bare minimum to ask for is faithfulness but you can't even ask that for men nowadays with how many men think monogamous relationships are abuse or the obsession with threesome's and the constant need to be with every other female that isn't their wife or girlfriend. Men have literally made themselves useless
Being with a man is emotional abuse towards yourself
No. 884287
>>884282They're literally hand maidens for the most anti-feminist religion of them all.
Kek
No. 884291
My NHS therapist is discharging me from structured clinical management because I was misdiagnosed from the get go, so that's a year of therapy down the toilet. I spent a whole year being told it would change my life, and when it made me worse they said that I just wasn't trying hard enough. Gaslit by my treatment team lmao
They don't know what to do with me. They said the other option is general psychology, but that I'm too high risk for it. I'm too poorly to get help? Then what's the point of it?
My therapist identified a treatment that could help me, got my hopes up, then revealed they don't do it on the NHS and asked me if I could afford to go private.
No. Obviously not, nobody can afford that shit. Otherwise we wouldn't be trapped in the purgatory that is NHS mental healthcare.
To recap, I'm not the right fit for the programme they put me on, so they recommended a programme which isn't available. Then they said I was too unwell for general help, but not ill enough for hospital or day hospital.
So I guess that's it then, isn't it? No help. Through the cracks again.
The kicker is that every time I get close to death to finish it, even if I make my DNR wishes clear, the doctors still revive me. I'm not allowed to die apparently, or to make that choice - they'll force me to live and suffer alone instead. It's a cruel joke. I won't be free until I do something unstoppable, like jump in front of a train or off a building, but I just wanted to die peacefully with dignity in my own bed. I just don't want to be in pain anymore.
No. 884298
>>884291I'm really sorry
nonnie, I don't know what to say, I really hope that you will find a solution that doesn't involve putting yourself in danger, I'm wishing you the best. Do you have family or friends to help you through this ?
No. 884313
>>884298Thank you, anon. That's very kind of you. I did have close family and friends, but they have understandably distanced themselves from me because I keep trying to kill myself.
They're just bracing themselves for emotional impact. I get it, and I'm ashamed for causing them pain. Equally, I wish they could understand that a death on my terms would be the good ending in this story.
No. 884321
>>884310Ty
nonnie. Let’s hope I don’t get “””canceled”””. I’ll report back with updates
No. 884325
>>884309>friends with a misogynistplease
nonnie, you need to get out of this, he probably enjoys the attention and shares the same sexist opinion with his friend. there is so many red flags in what you just posted
>>884313I understand that every human should have access to death on their own terms, and I'm just a random person on the internet, but please you need to find the force to just keep going, one day at a time. You are probably still in the very begining of your life, maybe you will find a way in the futur to acess to this treatment.
Do you have some small objective that you wish to acomplish, or even a passion that you could focus on? You should tried to recontact your family and friends sometimes, I'm sure they would love to hear from you! Sending you love
nonnie, I'm sorry if everything I said sounds like platitude but I truly believe that you can do it !
No. 884330
>>884309
>How can I make this man obsessed with meYou can't. He either is it he isn't. And it seems like he isn't. You should dump him over the fact that he'd rather hang out with a sexist 4chan scrote than you.
They're probably touching each other's dicks because I'm not sure how many straight men would turn down an opportunity to get laid. Also, dudebro is a sexist so your boyfriend probably holds at least some of the same beliefs, he's probably calling you a dirty whore behind your back.
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I can't stand the way my life has turned out. I always wanted to be an educated and accomplished career-driven woman while I was in high school and then college was so difficult my mental health took such a nosedive that I dropped out and now I'm 27 and can't even hold down a part-time retail job without having panic attacks and quitting on the spot. I can't even drive and I'm afraid to leave the house. I know I sound really irritating and woe is me I'm sorry. I'm just really suicidal and don't know how much longer I can last.
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Fuck anti vaxxers and fuck anti-maskers. Please isolate yourselves to a remote island and leave society if you can’t even respect people’s right to wear a mask.
No. 884392
>>884356I'm too far along for that unfortunately. Missed it by like a week.
>>884357Idk what you expected dating a black guy tbh. He's either like that one or the weird guy that used to perm his hair in highschool. You're a fetish for him so he's going to make everything about race no matter what. But he also probably hates white people so he'd make the mean stuff about race too
No. 884405
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Oh my god I feel the dread coming into my life even more. I’m 19 and I don’t even have my driver license yet and my college class in far away from where I live an DC I absolutely hate taking transportation that is longer on bus rather than car. I feel like such a fucking idiot and I’m terrified of my future and I’m definitely not ready to talk to other people when the delta variant is around and of fucking course they don’t give a shit and they’re still making this class in-person. I hate my life and every day I feel even more detached from reality. Please pray for me or something I feel so stressed for my own dumbassery this is all my fault ff fuck
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my friend is so trashy and it's embarrassing. at some point she decided she was into "fashion" but it's all designer stuff with no rhyme or reason and atrocious price tags. expensive clothes doesn't translate into the clothes actually being nice or attractive or appealing. wtf
No. 884459
>>884405I got my license at 23 so don't worry about that too much. Just practice as much social distancing and general hygiene as possible. If you're comfortable with the vaccines you should start the first one asap so you're covered for the school year. Be sure to take tests often, but there's also online classes, where at least you only go in every so often instead of on a day to day schedule. Since you're just starting take the easiest classes on your schedule for online.
It's probably too late to switch your fall term classes to online unless people drop them and you happen to be notified, but keep it in mind for spring. You'll make it
nonnie No. 884516
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people that have kids who aren't ready to have kids kind of disgust me, i can't even lie. i don't even care if they're working through college while balancing child care: yeah, it's respectable that you're not just floundering – that you're trying – but why have a kid before you have a good nest to raise them in, i mean…
and then you have the nerve to bitch and moan about how much your kid cries/moves around. why did you have a kid if you're just gonna complain about them
we need restrictions on childbirth fr fr
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Well this can't be good
No. 884559
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God god god I want to SCREAM
There's this 17yo girl at work who is friend with a 25yo woman who also works here. The 25yo very openly discusses that she's a "swinger", she's in an open relationship, she does threesomes etc…
The 17yo finds it quite cool and " Doesn't judge". Yesterday I heard (they always talk very loudly) her ask if she could join her and her boyfriend and the 25yo said yes???
Also the 17yo has been with her 24yo bf for two years. It's awful, I don't know what to do. I'm not friend with either of them so it's not like I can interfere, I'd just be seen as a judgy stuck up bitch who should mind her own business.
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>streams at least 4hr a day
>gets no time or energy to keep drawing things for the channel
I wish I could have had more than 24 hours in a day. I keep overworking and the only way for me to relax is watch one episode of a sitcom and head to sleep. Too poor to commission anyone and even if I had money, I'd be too stubborn to spend them when I could be the one drawing everything. Life is hard and I am pathetic.
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>have acquaintance
>hear through the grapevine that acquaintance had huge fight with some mutual friends of yours and they've cut ties with her
>acquaintance asks you to do some freelance video editing in a rush job
>take pity on her because it wasn't your beef anyway and you know she's stressed with work
>don't draw up a contract because rush job and also because you're a fucking dumbass
>get editing work done in record time, she is thankful
>no update on payment for a week
>follow up, she says she's buried in work, promises to pay that weekend
>silence for TWO WEEKS
>she's left my latest messages on read
>no contract so I can't use it against her
I'm too fucking nice for my own good. I'd cut ties too if I wasn't so greedy for the money
No. 884610
>>884602If you say you don't like being a short, skinny woman for any reason (people don't take you seriously especially in a professional setting, it's hard to find clothes your size, etc.) you're also accused of humblebragging in general or fatphobia in any SJW space. I've complained about looking for a formal dress for months for a friend's wedding and not finding one my size and I vented about HAES bitches complaining about complaining about similar shit despite having bigger wardrobes than mine and a shit ton of anons accused me of humble bragging on /ot/. After that I saw several arguments of this type in other threads too. Basically if you're petite or even just short regardless of weight you need to stfu to not
trigger other paranoid people.
No. 884613
>>884610>I've complained about looking for a formal dress for months for a friend's wedding and not finding one my size and I vented about HAES bitches complaining about complaining about similar shit despite having bigger wardrobes than mine and a shit ton of anons accused me of humble bragging on /ot/. To be honest anon that does sound like some "you fat cunts don't understand how hard it is to be a smol dainty petite size 0 bean like I am" level humblebragging kek
Also let's be real most of the actual humblebragging is done by girls who aren't even that short or petite but believe themselves to be and make it their identity, the actual short and small-statured women I've met never complain about the weirdly specific things emphasizing their fetishized smolness like "I hate being carded because I look like an irl loli, tee hee" or "I can't find clothes that are small enough for me, oh my!". It's more like not being taken seriously at work because they're short, furniture not being fitted for someone their size, pant legs being too long, not being able to walk as fast as their partner, not reaching the upper shelves etc.
No. 884638
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>>882297when i see how utterly inhuman and cruel males are it just reminds me all of the world's societal problems are caused and persisted by males alone. I wish there was some way women could casually do what they're doing to her to men
No. 884645
>>884618Anon unless you look like Tess Holiday I'm not referring to you at all, calm down. HAES bitches wasn't a hyperbole.
>your struggle with smolness I guess kekKeep proving my point by yourself.
No. 884646
>>884622I'm tall and I've definitely complained about my height kek. I think I'm finally learning to stop caring, might buy some high heels just to make scrotes feel insecure
>>882297this is making me fucking sad and sick, I wish there was something I could do
No. 884647
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I'm tired of my mum treating me like a teenager even though I am in my 20's
No. 884648
>>884622I do though, irl and online. I see them complaining about very similar problems like having problems finding clothes their size or being treated like adults when they were still in middle or high school.
>Even though it's much harder for them to find suitable clothingI'm not gonna comment too much on that, it all depends on what's the average size where you live and what brands are sold in your country. And it also depends on weight a lot.
No. 884652
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The dog hate thread makes me want to alog. I haven't seen it in a bit and I've got it hidden but just the thought that there are people who hate an innocent animal just really gets to me. If a dog has an issue with its behavior it is all on the owner. A dogs mind is the equivalent of a 3 year old child, they don't hold responsibility for how they turn out. People who get dogs and neglect them or treat them like toys and property are the issue, not the animal. Dogs take work, they take training, they need understanding and patience, you are their entire world and they deserve the most you can give. I don't give a fuck that you don't like how dogs bark at doorbells, and you're an ignorant and disgusting person if you think any of the "bully" breeds should be euthanized. How do you hate a beautiful, innocent animal? Like, what is wrong in your mind? Are you a psychopath? Nearly every breed of dog has been bred into having serious health issues because of us, the reputations of big dogs are because of us. Stop blaming the fucking animal.
No. 884655
>>884652as someone from a country where Pitbulls are put down on sight: thank fuck. No one needs one of those dogs and they should all be fixed and not allowed to breed anymore. Sperg all you want but not everyone likes dogs, yet because of giant retards like you that think dogs can do no wrong and are precious little angels, instead of you know, literal animals, we have to deal with them.
Wahhhh precious little pibbies. Why do they commit 65% of all dog bites then? You're right, because humans bred them into killing machines for dog fighting. And now you want us to pretend they're just misunderstood angels. Fuck off. The animal is defective. Nothing can solve it but a bullet. My neighbor has a pitbull that he likes to let run around sometimes. I'm ready to shoot that thing dead the next time it runs at me. Cry about it OP. Some of us live in the real world.
No. 884660
>>884657That's your average pitbull hater lmao
Not a fan of dogs or pits either but yea
No. 884676
>>884652I agreed with you because I thought you were talking about the actual psychotic dog haters who want all mutts put to death no questions asked until I saw the pitbull in your pic and realized you're talking about people rightfully hating them. Sorry
nonnie but that breed should be outlawed, it's a danger to humans AND other dog breeds. As someone who loves dogs more than everything I want to protect them by getting rid of the pitbulls and subsequent killer dog breeds. I've seen way too many headers of a small pet dog get brutally killed by precious family nanny pitty who was supposed to be super docile and nice.
No. 884687
>>884652I posted in there once to agree with an anon who rightfully A-logged them, said they were Isabella Jankes tier, then dipped out without waiting to read any replies.
Every time I run into a dog hater outside of LC, they are either extremely mentally ill, a scrote or both. Dog haters are always deeply dysfunctional, and the fact that they don't want to acknowledge that even if pitbulls are all shot/not allowed to breed, humans will just shit up another breed of dog, proves that it's never been about "muh safety".
Hatred of any animal is a red flag, but I think with dogs, it's especially concerning. Really think about it: These are people who hate an animal that's been specially bred to be man's best friend. The animal that's been picked out to be most compatible with us as a species, as friends and protectors. There is something very wrong there, and in reality, they're probably the ones who shouldn't be breeding.
No. 884693
>>884670I'm a fan of just letting people vent away so I wasn't saying anything against that. Was just wondering what brought it up after months of not seeing the thread. That's all.
I'm in a park with plenty of passing dogs today, some big, some lil breeds..Im not great with big dogs but the only thing to bug me so far was a scrote choosing to sit inches away from me when there's at least 5 empty benches in sight..ie every other bench in the park is free. And I was worried about dogs jumping on me lol
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I just had the realization that I will never be able to afford an apartment in my dream city - buying or even renting thanks to the economy and other shit. What's worse it's not even a big city, not even by the sea side or anything fucking special, nope. Even a fucking shitty ass 35 m2 place costs 400€. That's about 2/3 of the average salary.
Fuck me for having fucking dreams of living on my own. I don't want to be in a relationship and roommates are not really a thing so yey, even fucking worse. Fucking fuck I'm so mad.
No. 884833
>>884827I remember years ago while living with an ex I would watch this (kinda trashy) true crime channel because most of the tv channels we had were crappy anyway.
The most horrific stuff was covered on there with an awful lot of it being pedos raping and killing little girls or non pedos raping and killing adult women. One day I was watching it and a story about a 6 year old sexually abused boy came on and my ex wanted to talk about how terrible it was..and it was, but in our 2 years of having that channel on as background noise he never piped up once when it was the hundreds of girls being covered. I didn't say anything but that always stuck with me.
No. 884881
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>>884627That's what I do too and post picrel as a warning. If you see that it means there's cp on the board. Maybe others want to adopt the usage too? But anons I think we should stop talking about how we're going to stop using the main pages because then they'll start putting it inside threads, including meta if we all adopt that system and talk about it. Avoiding seeing it itt will be much more difficult.
No. 884905
>>883635This
All those muslim feminists and woketards are just against Natives, won't say a word against islam or muslims
Never seen a muslim criticizing jihadis and terrorists
Infact i am seeing they are pretty welcoming of taliban
Go to any social media site
No. 884936
>>884357Once dated a guy who was half Lebanese half white, I'm full Italian mind you, and he made the biggest deal of 24/7, lied about race when we first started dating, and then constantly tried to make up weird scenarios about how my parents would kkk style lynch him and then complained that my mostly black and Hispanic city looked like a kkk town. It's like he was a
victim player on roids
No. 884945
>>884357Shit like this is why I've always been single, I'm not white so I sometimes get random weird comments from coworkers or people I just met and I'm sure I'd get even weird comments with a bf. I'm not gonna date guys from my race though because most of them are Muslims and we tend to have nothing in common AND they also tend to say weird lowkey racist and sexist shit about women from my race.
I also had a friend in university who was dating a Turkish guy and she asked me advice about cultural differences despite me knowing nothing about Turkey, she was very invested in that relationship but he dumped her because his parents didn't want to have a potentially white daughter-in-law. Another girl from uni did the reverse of what happened to you, she went to Japan for a year thanks to an exchange program and once she came back she bragged about dating yellow guys, shit was so off-putting I stopped talking to her after that.
No. 884955
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>>884928Sorry you experienced that anon. I've always felt as if we should keep vaw posts in containment threads. A lot of women have experienced it and what's the point of a female space if we can't escape being reminded of awful men?
No. 884988
>>884357That sucks, and I get you, I was talking to this moid, I’m not white. And he suddenly started saying stuff about “oh, typical Latin women” and saying that I wanted to steal his kidneys? All because I told him that drinking was retarded and that his kidneys will die at some point for drinking too much.
People are stupid and I’m starting to believe that there’s no such thing as a non-racist person, talking to others and knowing how they look just makes them start creating these weird stories or ideas about you from stereotypes they either read about or create from thin air.
If only everyone stopped being so full of dumbass complexes, everything would be better.
No. 885016
>>884687>Every time I run into a dog hater outside of LC, they are either extremely mentally ill, a scrote or both.careful, you will
trigger dog haters sperging how only scrotes love dogs cause apparently dogs are mind slaves that obey no matter what. Cause either you are a catfag or you want an animal that will let you abuse it
/s>>884690count me in
No. 885018
>>885005I love tatts unless they're absolute the worst of the worst so I was going to ask what they are but then
> He does all his own tattoos, he’s 20Say no more lol
No. 885051
>>884988Lol I was talking to this black man in a professional setting and out of the blue he gave me this look and told me “white people created slavery” Okay Tyreese explain how my great great grandmother contributed to colonization when she was busy leading a miserable life tolerating her
abusive husband. I hate all these moids, race doesn’t matter kek
No. 885062
>>884708You’ve said it: fat old ugly receding hairline
They’re projecting their insecurities
No. 885067
>>884516Tbh we need to remove the stigma around abortions and male birth control.
Vasectomies are reversible, more men should get them, especially since most of them don't want kids anyway. But they won't because that's for cucks or something. And abortions are for whores and not reasonable women who fucked up (it happens). Lots of rational sane women make their lives so much harder by having kids before they're ready, I understand that you may not know you're pregnant before it's too late but if you're in the safe zone and you know you aren't established yet, you're not a whore or irresponsible for taking control of your reproductive health and aborting. You're irresponsible for bringing a baby into your struggles though.
No. 885072
>>884636I'm bang on average height and I would hate to be shorter because I feel like people treat you a certain way already when you're female, even more so when you're young and when you're short that adds to it again. That's the trinity of incoming condescending treatment, esp from scrotes.
Maybe I have a chip on my shoulder (I do, and alot of anxiety) but being small is definitely something I'd hate given I want people to treat me like a woman and not this childlike thing. Some women who're short are plagued by that treatment and I feel for them on that. The same happens when you have a baby face. Complaining about condescending treatment from people isn't a thinly veiled humblebrag about being 'young and cute' it's women wishing to be seen as anything other than those things for once.
No. 885084
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Bf keeps trying convince me that there's no reason for me to be jealous of his coworker
>she's pretty
>she's single
>He bums cigarettes from her all the time
>Takes breaks with her all the time
>Mentions her name to me all the time
>Randomly invited her to our day trip tomorrow
I try not to let it show or even think about it, but I know jealousy's always there and I deal with it. My bf thinks being jealous at all of her is something I can reason away despite all these facts above. Thanks, I guess I'll pull out my magic un-jealous-fy wand and stick it up my ass
No. 885090
>>885072I wish I would be small sometimes, I'm above average, not as tall as other women, especially if I look to our neighbours in the Netherlands, but I'm tall and it sucks sometimes. In school I would fight boys because I was the tallest in my class and I wasn't that cute little girl boys would like, people online are like "oh, you are a giant, being this tall isn't very feminine, etc".
In the end I sometimes have the feeling that you can't get it right if you are a woman, you are either too small or too tall and if you are tall, you are She-Hulk and if you are small you are something like Lolita, you will always be a fantasy of some idiot man.
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>>885084
>Invited her to our day trip tomorrowGirl … The other stuff can be excused I guess but uh, they're crossing lines and boundaries with this one.
No. 885103
>>885096kek
yes, in most parts of my country I'm taller than the other women, since moving back to the north I'm in good company with my height. But mostly, men are the problem, they hate it when you are taller and I am often taller than them, add some heels and they die. I'm just torn between wanting to be small sometimes and not seen as a tall strong blond northern woman (yes, people told me that shit) or being even taller to annoy them even more.
No. 885111
And here I am, crying again, don't think I have ever cried this much in a year. I just, I don't know, I'm so tired of it all and sometimes I regret that I didn't kill myself the last time I tried and now it's too late. I thought life would get better when I get older, but to be honest, it got worse. I'm only waiting for the 700 days mark of being free from self-harm to relapse if nothing changes until then.
I just don't know anymore, I have no friends, my family sucks, I've got an alcohol addiction, I gained 25 kg the last 365 days, I'm poor, it's always loud in this flat, there is no one ever caring about me or what I need or helping out and soon I will be going back to "school" and I wish I could just quit.
Sometimes I could use a hug, but there is no one, so back to crying and hating myself for having hope.
No. 885112
>>885084>Mentions her name to me all the timeI always thought people were paranoid for being worried about this and then it happened to me one day and I just didn't see it happening right in front of me. He kept randomly bringing up that this woman had been dumped and he felt so bad for her and it was weird. We'd be hanging out on a sunday just the two of us and he'd start talking about her being depressed and her struggling on her own. Ok?
He dumped me for her and didn't feel at all bad for my (cheated on) ass tho lol
The last on list is pretty weird too.
No. 885178
>>885125That sucks
nonny. There was a lesbian bar in my town that got so overrun with troons that the actual women stopped going there, I didn't bother finding out where the lesbians go now but I'm sure they didn't just disappear. Are there any other queer spots in your town where you may have better luck?
No. 885182
>>885091anonita I tried to be ~cool~ during my early 20s but now that I'm 30 I know I'll always be jealous. It's irrational but I acknowledge it. I don't freak out or get to the point of a crisis cause I'm an adult who can manage her feelings, but my bf is convinced that being jealous at all is a deeply rooted problem that needs to be reasoned out of at all costs. I was basically like, "hey bf, I don't think going on daytrip with coworker is a good idea because it might
trigger these issues in me." "what, you have nothing to be jealous of! Don't you trust me?? I thought you liked her"
I do, bf, but like, I'm not looking to put myself in an uncomfortable situation to test myself. I can be friends with her without going on a daytrip and spending a hours with this woman.
>>885092>>885093>>885112my "excuse" for him is that we were going with another couple friend, but they couldn't. So naive bf thought it would be a great idea to invite her because we "seemed to like each other." I love him but he's an idiot
No. 885189
One thing i hate about trannies is how fucking privileged they are. Mostly they are white and rich, because only rich people worry about fucking gender. But the fact that they have people accept them and coddle them pisses me off so fucking much, because it's unfair.
I was bullied in school, and asking to be ignored by my peers or listened by my teachers was asking way too much. I had to change all of myself to be accepted (ie not beaten). And at home my mother would rather break me into her mold than allow any kind of self expression. Now on holidays i have to wear the clothes she buys for me, eat the food she wants me to eat, do what she wants when she wants and have the opinions and likes she wants me to have. I fucking hate her guts, for dropping on me all the hate she has for my father, while still simping for him and putting him above me and my sister. How can i not hate someone who gives me spoiled food to eat, throws a fit when i refuse, and cooks always fresh meals for my father? HOW?
But trannies no, they are just poor people born in the wrong body, and we should respect their names and pronouns and identities. One of her students is ftm, i met her today, and bitch, i pass better (as a mtf, fml i'm ugly) than her. Oh, but i have to look at this fucking small handed, small headed waif and call her a man. because that's her identity you see, and you should respect her. Poor thing has no fault about her body. But if i deviate from the idea my mother has for me i'm a fucking ungrateful monster, a fucking beast. And oh, i'm so lucky my family deals with me and has not kicked me out. I'm so lucking for having my father leer at my and grope me right in front of my mother. So fucking lucky to be fed spoiled food and having to wash my father shit stained underwear, otherwise i'm the worst person ever.
How is this fair? How can she respect a literal who's joke of identity and deny her own daughter basic respect? I hate her so fucking much, and my fucking sister for defending her (while hiding behind my ass), and my father for existing.
Fuck trannies and fuck my family.
No. 885199
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Through this pandemic I've been pretty optimistic - mostly kept an eye on positive news and developments, made plans for what I want to do once we get to travel and party like normal again, etc. Kept my eyes looking forward towards the future.
But now I'm starting to run out of steam and feeling exhausted, I just want to lock myself inside and wait for all of this to blow over.
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Sometimes I wish it would say how many posters are in a single thread because I am convinced that it’s always the same three people in some threads.
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I was looking at my bookmarks in Ao3 and noticed that someone deleted their pegging fanfic. Why?
No. 885340
>>885256I'm just a really fucking ugly woman
nonnie: big head, board shoulders, no hips, square hands, a bit taller than average. And people say that i've my fathers stern (and masculine) face.
I'm obviously an ugly woman irl, but if i were to post a pic here or on reddit i could pass as a mtf.
I thought that was funny, because this ftm that i met is way more feminine (smaller frame, shorter, leaner, and a pretty face) than me.
No. 885354
>>885340same
nonnie when I was young and dumb I posted selfies online and got "clocked" multiple times kek. Nearly every ftm I've met is short, dainty and not even close to looking masculine. I wonder why you don't see as many tall, broad women troon out
No. 885385
>>885364Basically what this
>>885370nonnie said. It's pretty much impossible to establish yourself in a professional setting and scrotes will never take you seriously, even if you're their boss and have better qualifications. I'm cursed with co-workers who don't care about deadlines, so anytime I tell them to stick to it and do their fucking job, they just pat me on the head (yes, some of them do actually pat me on the head when I'm angry because they think it's cute) and act like I'm some cute little girl that's just a bit grumpy. My boss had to come in a few times to explain to them that I'm in charge of our department and that was a really embarrassing experience for someone who's almost in their thirties. Going out to bars and such is an absolute nightmare because I'm always the one in my friend group who has to show an ID for entering a club or buying drinks (people don't usually check on that when you look over 16/18 because certain types of alcoholic beverages are allowed at that age here) so yeah it pisses me off when I get mistaken for under 16 when I just want to order a beer. Sometimes I'll get a "are you even allowed to drink that?" comment by bartenders as well. And the way most of these people talk to you is in a tone that you would talk to a toddler to. Also, being hit on by either teenagers or old weirdo's who are clearly into teens.
No. 885389
>>885354My guess is social pressure. Ftm are usually fujos, closeted lesbians, women who don't identify with over sexualized femininity, and women who want to escape harassement and sexual attention.
Ugly women get more disgust and mockery than sexual harassement. Otoh, when you are ugly and mannish femininity and being pretty is kind of locked. Ugly women are mocked wheter they groom themselves or not, and big women have trouble finding fashion that flaters them. And when you are really ugly there are things that surgery can't fix (and not all have money for it).
So i guess most ugly girls just accept that they will be ugly women and they can not escape that. They can transition, but there is no advantage in taking T and changing your name. They cannot escape sexual harassement, because it happened even when the world told them they were undesirable. They can't obey beauty standards, so they have no need to escape them.
And they know they will never pass, because when you are fucking ugly the world likes to remind you of it. Ugly women don't get coddled, they get told to fuck off and cope. The world will treat them always as shit, might as well stop giving a damn and accept their bodies as they are.
No. 885417
>>885389I seriously considered becoming a ftm, but ultimately didn't because my hips are literally 2x wider than my chest (and no not in the bragging teehee I'm thicc way, nothing fucking fits and black scrotes are always staring). I wish I could have been a tall linebacker woman, atleast they can pass and men are less likely to fuck with them.
>when you are fucking ugly the world likes to remind you of it. Ugly women don't get coddled, they get told to fuck off and cope. The world will treat them always as shit, might as well stop giving a damn and accept their bodies as they are.No offense but fuck this "accept your body", accepting my body won't do shit. If anything it will
trigger ppl more into shitting on me. If I had the money I'd 100% get plastic surgery. Anyone who wants to shame me/women for thinking like this has never lived the constant grind of being treated like shit everywhere you go no matter what you do or say.
No. 885425
>>885421Question: Have you ever taken a single course on documenting history, or anthropology in general? Or watched a video? Like, anything?
This is an argument/debate that's been deconstructed and basically bodied multiple times by anyone with even a bit of experience in the field. I don't feel like spoonfeeding, but you can Google Alessandro Portelli's content on the subject to start, good luck.
No. 885429
>>885427>to startDid you actually read anything of the debate on the subject within these 2 minutes? If so, can you address anything stated?
I know you didn't and can't, it's just sad that you clearly have the passion to seethe about this, but not the brain power to actually learn something.
No. 885433
>>885430I'll give you a clue: How do you think written history was recorded?
Ironically, you could do with reading a book about how historical documentation. Or even just a paper. But like I said, since this isn't really about history ("m-muh primitive tribes!!1"), it's kind of pointless.
No. 885436
>>885435So like, on some level, you actually do get that you're full of shit with what you've been saying? That's good.
It's not even just me saying this or comparing anything, it's actual scholars on history from decades ago who have looked at more than one culture and explained this multiple times. Yours is a dated, dead point of view that's been discarded by anyone who's serious about historical documentation.
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I live with my Fiancée and he travels for work (which he’s doing as we speak) and obviously I love him but I enjoy my alone time too and he’s taken to driving 3 hours after his shift to come home, then 3 hours back in the morning instead of staying in the hotel because he hates traveling it’s just so fucking stupid JUST STAY PUT LET ME HAVE THE APARTMENT TO MYSELF FOR A FEW DAYS JESUS he works a blue collar, hard hat job with a bunch of other men and I can only imagine how they must think he’s some clingy weirdo……I mean honestly……they wouldn’t be wrong lmao
No. 885477
>>885474He probably got off to your abuse, I'm sorry anon.
Never tell moids personal shit like that.
No. 885526
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feeling like absolute crap tonight ladies. time to overshare.
i've been dating my long distance gf for a year and a half now, and this is our first summer together in person. 95% of the time it's great, it's fantastic, i'm so in love and i know this is the woman i'm going to marry. but the other 5%? i feel so confused, it's like i've woken up in someone else's life.
like me, my gf has asperger's, and so she somtimes gets frustrated and has a meltdown. i've only known her to direct the physical aggression at herself or at objects, and occasionally at animals. the verbal aggression she saves for me. 99% of the time, i haven't done anything wrong. it's something else that upset her. when she apologises afterwards, she often admits that i was just bearing the brunt of misdirected anger.
that much i can handle. i'm also emotionally volatile and oversensitive. i get it. i mean, look at me! i'm ranting about her on lolcow right now! it's just that every once in a while, the meltdown seems to flick a switch in her brain and turn her into a sadist. in this state of mind, she actively antagonises me with threats, insults, and, at her worst, she destroys my things. tonight was by no means the worst example, but for some reason i feel expecially angry and hopeless.
let's set the scene.
our day went really well. we had the usual number of mishaps– miscommunications here and there, always quickly resolved, with plenty of affection in between. (fun fact: healthy couples don't have fewer conflicts than unhealthy ones; they just repair the damage more quickly, more preemptively, and more often. t. Gottman Institute) we walked home side by side, undeniably in love. for several days now, we'd planned to make a homemade pizza, and finally the stars aligned.
>initial prep goes well, but the dough is really uncooperative
>gf says "pizza's gonna be crap"
>disheartened, i say "don't say that"
>she repeats the same line over and over and over again, despite my repeated and increasingly distressed orders to stop
>it's not even about the pizza
>her tone and choice of words remind me of the older brother who bullied me all my life
>trying to tell her why it's important/hurtful to me, but she won't listen
>i storm out of the kitchen to sulk like a child
>she says "yeah, go cry" and i yell "STOP" one last time
>gf finishes and puts it in the oven without me
>i come back with intent to make up and help clean
>she won't even look at me
>instantly transported back to my childhood where no one noticed or had time for me
>i don't know what to do
>unmoving, stare at her like "she's just killed my entire family" (her words) and hope she will acknowledge me
>15 minutes of silence
>pizza looks ok, but gf burns her hand trying to serve it
>this time she storms out
>i manage to cut it up for us both
>she accepts her plate
>we watch our fave show
>gf even says it tastes "fine actually"
on a normal night, that would be the end of it. most likely, we'd talk about why i felt so upset over something so seemingly minor. i'd tell her that i understand her frustration when things don't go as planned, and thank her for finishing the pizza without me. i know that her past self would have given up on it, maybe even destroyed it out of spite. i'm really proud of her for continuing on and glad that it came out well. we'd apologise to each other– me for yelling, her for her coldness, and go to bed feeling properly listened to and understood.
but tonight was not a normal night. almost immediately after the credits rolled on our favourite show, she turned mean again. i don't know how to describe it, but it's the same every time. something in her voice and her face changes, and the air around her becomes cold. at times like that, i can't help but feel terrified that she will do her worst to me. usually, i cry a lot and she enjoys my distress. i can always tell when she turns into this other person, even when she pretends that the mood has passed and she wants to make up.
>"anon, are you mad?"
>"no, i'm sad"
>"how can i make you feel worse?"
>"anon, are you still crying?"
>"yes"
>"you're so goddamn sensitive, i feel like i have to walk on eggshells around you. i don't think we're going to work out."
>"i feel really really scared of you"
>"why? i haven't hit you. i'm not going to stab you. there's nothing sharp enough in this house, anyway"
>"that doesn't make me feel any better"
>"God, you are inconsolable"
>"anon, do you hate me?"
>"i don't hate you"
>"what would you do if i broke x?"
>"…"
>"would you scream?"
for the record, she did destroy some gifts that she made for me. as i was looking at them for comfort, she repeatedly asked me what i would do if she broke them. for the most part i ignored her, including when she ripped them up while i sat 3 feet away. by that point, i'd moved on from terror to anger, so even though it hurts like hell, i was determined to not let her get to me. afterwards she compared this destruction to the protective measures i've put in place to minimise the damage she does to my life.
a few months ago, over the course of a 3 day meltdown, my gf:
>defaced my digital journals
>spammed me with upsetting images specifically chosen to reignite childhood trauma
>texted my boss while pretending to be me, hoping to sabotage my job
>tried to get my family to institutionalise me
>and threatened to call the police on me unless i told her i hated her
the last two were the worst, because we've both had traumatic firsthand experiences with mental hospitals and i would rather die than go back. so naturally, going forward, i'd like to protect myself from these things, for both her sake and mine. (i can only lie to my family so much.) i do this by having my own accounts with my own passwords that she is not privy to. this, somehow, is comparable to her destroying the gifts she made for me becasue she, quote, "doesn't want me to have them anymore."
i feel like i'm losing my mind. writing this has helped a lot, and i can feel myself moving through the stages of grief, as i do whenever we fight. i just want to talk to her, but when she's upset, it's impossible. even when she isn't in evil-mode, if she's feeling badly, all i can do is wait for her to come to me. she needs time and space to process her feelings, which i am happy to provide, granted that i know she will come around eventually. at times like this, where i can see on her face that she is gleefully soaking up my despair, the wait is unbearable.
to be fair, she did ask me why i had gotten upset earlier… but then ignored me when i answered and disaffectedly proclaimed that she "didn't actually care." that attitude cuts me the deepest and she knows it. she knows about my brother. she knows about my childhood neglect. she knows how to hurt me because we've shared our entire life histories with each other. i give her unrestricted access to my heart, then she turns into someone i can't recognise and uses it against me.
she's not a mind reader. obviously she can't divine my feelings nor their causes as they happen, and everybody gets frustrated sometimes, but all this? because i asked her to stop and felt angry when she wouldn't? she was committed to spitefulness and stonewalling me, and it all started over a fucking pizza? several times tonight i felt so angry with her and so afraid of how she might hurt me that i didn't even want to be under the same roof, but i'm in a foreign country with nowhere else to go. thank God she's been asleep as i wrote this. the anxiety only abates when she's unconscious. usually, by the time she wakes up, her mind has done a hard reset and she's back to being the woman i love so much.
i'm scattered. i'm oversharing. i pray that i can sleep tonight and that morning comes quickly. this is so fucking long, i really ought to just put it in my diary, but i feel so lonely and i NEED to be heard. even if it's just by one or two Anons scrolling past my gargatuan post and thinking "what the fuck, i ain't reading that."
No. 885538
>>885526It's not normal to want to make your partner more upset, destroy their items, try to get them institutionalized, and try to
trigger them no matter how angry she is. That's
abusive behavior. She sounds like a nightmare and I couldn't imagined being married to her. Also, keep in mind she could become physically
abusive in the future even if she isn't right now. She should either get some kind of help, or you guys should break up.
No. 885539
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I can’t do this anymore and I just started!
Come on Anon, get back on track, you know what to do! You know what you should be doing! What do they know? No one can tell you who you will become, only
you can. Yes, time is passing away, all the more reason to START NOW- but don’t just start working. You knew it all along. You were meant to start LOVING life now, for what it is… now! You have a beautiful life, you are so lucky. You have so many people to be connected to, so much curiosity, so many lucky things.
You have the power to say no, not my monkeys not my circus! You must remember this. Only you can control your destiny.
No. 885542
>>885526like said before, dump her. Sorry, but your whole post is a big red flag and somehow it feels like you stand this abuse just because you are used to it.
There is not really a future for you both if you are afraid that she might physically hurt you. Please, for your own safety, play along with her until you can get back home and then leave her. Having a mental illness is in no way a reason to be cruel and an asshole. You have excused enough of her behaviour and she doesn't seem to be able to change, she doesn't even seem like she wants to change.
You will find someone that will love you more and treat you like you deserve.
No. 885546
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When I look in the mirror and see a glimpse of my brother in my own face I get emotional. I want to hate him for being a shitty person but I can't forget when we were both innocent kids
No. 885582
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I always know I'm PMSing when I intentionally look up threads where I know for sure everyone will be hating on the things I like. Why am I like this???
No. 885636
>>885618Samefag, of course rollerskating is wishful thinking. Doc got back to me and said only stretching exercises. Sigh…
Enjoy your youth anons, life without back problems is such a blessing.
No. 885641
>>885526Skimming this post from the bottom up was a trip. A bunch of psychotic shit greentexted and then at the very top
>i know this is the woman i'm going to marryJesus christ anon. I'm not gonna read that whole thing but I feel like you can just assume she has BPD and move on.
No. 885647
>>885526You really really need to cut her out of your life. It's never gonna stop being like this. I know it's hard to accept but you gotta do it for your own sake.
Trauma Bonds are a hell of a drug
No. 885652
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why is it so hard to go on a slightly longer leave as a full-time employee? there are so many things i have to do and everyone is throwing last minute tasks at me.. at this rate i might have to bring my work laptop with me on vacation. man i just need to rest, i haven't rested for 2 years
No. 885655
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I've been spending like half of my workdays just browsing the internet and not doing the job I'm supposed to while also sleeping in since I'm working from home. The pandemic has made me so demotivated about life in general because I have nothing to look forward to and everything is still being cancelled as we're in a lockdown where I live. 1,5 years of this shit, I'm having a major depressive doomer episode just thinking about all the wasted time and the experiences I've missed because I was finally beating depression and learning to be extroverted again and travelled a lot pre-pandemic. I thought the vaccines would bring an end to this purgatory but people are being little bitches and refusing to take it because they saw a youtube video telling them it'll turn them gay or something despite like 90% of all patients in the hospital currently being unvaccinated. I fantasize about going full NEETmode to just sleep all day and never getting out of bed until I can start living again.
No. 885661
I'm freaking out a little because I'm sort of revisiting some repressed memories (not to the degree of victims of severe trauma, I think I just intentionally avoided thinking about these) of a friend in high school who was physically abusive to me. Out of nowhere she would stamp on my foot and didn't react when I screamed. I was already kind of a pushover and would tell myself, she's just that "weird" kind of friend, so I never made a big deal out of it. Once on the bus I told her she could sit beside me; she just tossed her bag onto the empty seat next to me and sat with someone else. One time I asked her what she was doing after class and she said "I'll be consulting (Male Teacher) about the assignment" and I jokingly said "You whore!" and she slapped me hard in the face. Another time, we were partnered for an assignment, and I'd gotten a detail wrong (which rendered maybe half an hour of our work unusable), as a reflex I nervously tried to laugh it off, but she kicked me so hard in the shin it left a bruise, then didn't speak to me for a whole day. I later wrote her a letter apologizing as sincerely as I could about the mistake but I never mentioned how she'd hurt me. I was desperate to maintain our friendship because I found her so smart and accomplished (she was salutatorian), someone to emulate. Whenever she so much as said a nice thing to me I'd forget about all the bad stuff.
I'm in a group chat with some old high school friends I'm still in touch with and she's part of it. Now I can't even look at her name without tearing up. It feels weird to bring up again 10 years later. I don't think I need to go the length of dming everyone else in the chat to discuss or process this, much less talk to her about it, but I'm starting to think I need to talk to a therapist.
No. 885665
Samefag as above comment but
>>885655God I could not relate harder. Also working from home, extremely depressed by the lack of live human interaction. Also had a sliver of hope after I got my own vaccination but the delta virus closed everything down again. A friend and I were chatting about how we've missed out on over a year of what could've been going out, watching movies, attending cons, etc. I feel like life will never unpause. Let's keep hoping, anon
No. 885671
>>885538>>885532>>885542>>885641>>885647i knew everyone would say "what the hell, dump her" and that's precisely why i didn't go to the relationship advice thread, lol. i know it's not normal. i know it's
abusive behaviour. i know she has the potential to get worse. hell, if you told my younger self that i'd be engaged to a dog-kicking smack addict, i'd rope right then to avoid it. regardless, i will continue to make excuses and lie for her. i will love her, care for her, and support her for the rest of my life. she'll do the same for me, interspersed with moments where i unravel into a non-person at her instigation.
at the very least, she is not frequently evil. i don't find it exciting nor energising that my most precious person may suddenly turn on me, but it clearly is not a deal breaker. and based on descriptions of her past relationships, i have it way easier than her ex-girlfriends. she used to flip back and forth between the lowest lows and the highest highs, over and over, 24/fucking/7. it seems that with age, she has mellowed out a lot. lately, i've gotten at least one month to recover between episodes of sadism.
in romance, people obviously look for compatible personalities. according to psychologist Alain de Botton (vidrel) that search criteria includes the ability to reenact childhood pain. my gf hurts me in exactly the right ways and, even though i wish she wouldn't, that's exactly why i will never leave.
thank you for listening, and for reading the initial post as well, despite its length. my gf woke up right as i finished writing and by then, ,i didn't care to actually post it. i only hoped for her to read it and understand what i was going through. it appears that she wanted to see what everyone would say, so it's nice to have gotten any replies at all.
please pray for both of us today, i'm exhausted and she's phsyically ill. the linked video is really interesting too, just in general, if you like TED talk type videos and have a half-hour to spare.
>>885529thank you
No. 885679
>>885671>i've gotten at least one month to recover between episodes of sadism.Wow lucky you, she is so generous
Stockholm.
No. 885687
>>885671Anon, vidrel is great and all but it’s not an excuse for continuing an
abusive relationship.
No. 885691
>>885673it all depends, there is no easy answer here. College is mostly free and health insurance will help you with your basic needs, you won't get glasses (as an example) and have to pay for some stuff, but nothing like the US.
You get unemployment benefits, but they can cut your money if you don't do what they tell you and what you get isn't much more than as little money as you need to survive. For example, I'm looking for a new flat, I'm unemployed, they won't even answer my e-mails, because everyone getting benefits won't be a good tenant and there are huge prejudices towards people that don't have a work (sry, I'm a little bit salty about that).
Also, it depends were you are moving from and where you are moving to in Germany. It can also be hard if you don't speak German or have the wrong skin colour in the wrong part of Germany.
Overall, Germany is an okay country, but I can't tell you if it's a good place to immigrate to for you. Personally, I'm thinking about leaving sooner or later and with the upcoming elections this thought grows stronger by the day.
No. 885693
>>885671Have you posted about her before? I'm either thinking of you, or another anon who, for whatever reason, is in love with their
abusive gf who clearly hates them
No. 885698
>>885693Samefag, but
>please pray for both of us todayWhy the hell would we pray for her?
No. 885701
>>885671She's a smack addict too? Mother of Christ, anon. RUN. I'm a former heroin addict and I went through hell to recover. I was an awful person on smack, I'd tell my ex that I'd love her (I did) and that I'd always pick her over drugs (I didn't). A junkie will never pick their partner over drugs, not until they've gone through recovery and that ain't easy earlier. I've been to two rehab facilities and restarted NA more times than I can count. It took me the best part of a decade to defeat that demon. Thing is though, your gf is
abusive. So even drug free she'll still be a cunt! My anger went through the roof after getting clean because I wasn't sedated half the time. So on top of recovering from drugs I had to get anger management. I'll tell you one thing though, I never destroyed my girlfriends stuff, I never bullied her - as cruel as I could be your gf makes junkie me look like a saint - and I sure as fuck never hurt no animal. You can link all the goddamn videos you want, anyone with two brain cells to rub together knows you're in a shitty situation that will not improve without intensive therapy and programs, and I know what you're gonna say, you'll stick by her through all that, right? Guess what? You think she's mad now, take away the heroin and she'll be hell on earth. There is no way to factor in a relationship when you're going through such changes in your life. And quite frankly she sounds like she doesn't want to change. It won't end well, anon. Do the right thing for you, not her, and leave.
No. 885702
>>885695Eastern Europe should work just fine in Germany, even though people here have sometimes strong feelings about countries in Eastern Europe and the people immigrating to Germany.
Make yourself a list, what do you want to do for a living, what climate do you like, what language would you be able to learn, etc.
If Germany will be your choice, you have to see where in Germany you would like to live as there are some big differences between the people in different parts of Germany and the costs of living are also very different.
I consider moving to Norway, Denmark or Scotland, but my reasons are quite simple, it's too hot in Germany for my liking, we have not enough rain and I love snow.
No. 885705
>>885703Then Germany isn't for you, our minimum wage is so low that you will have to take social benefits just to survive. And if you become disabled it's a hell on earth to get help.
If you are in for the money, look for another country. Economic inequality is very high in Germany and being from Eastern Europe would make it even harder, except you have a very good job profile.
Please let me know, if you find a good country, so I can move as well.
No. 885711
>>885679>>885687>>885701thank you for your concern, but you don't have to explain what i already know. i'm not ignorant, just stupid. i've said several times already that i know what i've gotten myself into, i'm not blind to the abuse, and i don't think that it's normal. i shared that video not to justify what she does to me, but maybe help others understand why people choose
abusive partners or stay in unhealthy relationships.
shout out to
>>885701 in particular, i'm glad you got clean, and it's always nice to hear stories from the other side. unfortunately i won't be taking your advice. i hope you can understand.
>>885693>>885698>Have you posted about her before?a couple times, yes
>Why the hell would we pray for her?because when she's in a shit mood, she takes it out on me? i thought that part was obvious.
No. 885714
>>885707Depends on the part of Germany. Rural area Southern Germany can be very tough, especially if you aren't catholic, so, I would avoid that. Eastern Germany is in many parts very racist and that would also be a problem, yes, even for you as a white person.
If I had to choose, I would go to Northern Germany in your case, people there can be cold, but I think with your heritage you would fit there better than in other parts of Germany.
After all it's not easy at the moment because of the Brexit bullshit and especially males like to think in soccer. You might consider going on holiday in different parts of Germany and just see how you feel there and if the people treat you right.
In the end, please nice anons, come to Germany, I need some good friends and I don't like most Germans, kek
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I keep doubting my experience of assault. Before, I used to stand by the fact that I got raped and it wasn't my fault now I keep thinking that it really was my fault. Logically, yes, I was a visibly mentally ill teen who a middle aged man took advantage of and made me do something I didn't want to. I said no and he didn't listen, he even recorded it. Logically, I see it. But… I had had sex with him before, and I could've shouted at him more and I should've taken his phone from his hands. Maybe I should've struggled more if it really bothered me. I feel like I wasn't a victim, I'm just trying to make myself one. I'm trying to make the incident worse than it was maybe. I mean, I was whoring around online already back then I was 16, what did I expect? I don't know how I feel anymore. All I know is that if I told someone about this in real life, I will be getting blamed and shamed and maybe that's what I deserve and I've been fooling myself, deluding myself thinking I wasn't at fault. I was molested for years when I was around 9 years old and I sort of blame that period of time into making me who I am now, an almost asexual person, and who I was as a reckless, hypersexual teenager. But it all feels like an excuse. I keep blaming everyone else but me.
No. 885725
>>885720You were a teenager, he was an adult, he did the wrong thing and it's his fault. Stop doubting the assault, it did happen and you being a teenager making stupid decisions doesn't mean you deserved it.
Please look for some help and stop blaming yourself, many of us did stupid shit while being a teenager, there is no reason an adult is allowed to take advantage of that.
No. 885737
>>885720Anon please.
Victims of childhood sexual abuse do experience hyper sexuality and he was a crusty middle aged man. He should have known better than chasing teenagers. It’s not your fault and he’s a pedo. I hope he burns in hell..
No. 885738
>>885733I'm aware that anon will eventually have to learn German but it'll be a lot easier for them in the beginning if they find someone who they can communicate with as they learn. I'm from a rural town in south Germany and I visit my parents from time to time and I've noticed that most young people (18+) move to the city because of job prospects and such while families and elderly people, many of whom don't speak English at all, live in rural areas,so I'd recommend
nonnie to move closer to the city because it'll be easier to start from there, or else they'll be lonely for quite some time. It's also more likely that they'll meet expats to connect with because German adults like to keep to their own circles.
No. 885906
>>885904it's never "out of nowhere", you're just pretending whatever it is that's causing it isn't the reason.
ie when i was with my ex bf i would get a panic attack out of nowhere like that, i'd call him up and attempt to fish a response out of him to make me feel better and stuff when the entire reason i was having it is because i felt like he didn't give a shit about me (he actually didn't kek)
No. 886108
>>886023You're right. There are so many people outside of Afghanistan who have to watch their loved ones be subjected to this vile hell. May death be quick to those who have no other escape
>>886080You're fighting a tough fight and hope your situation gets better, anon. Hug.
No. 886113
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>>886108Thanks anon. The admin for the exterminator contacted me after I posted this and said she's going to try emailing them and getting the insurance information out of them again. I also passed by a coworker who shared a chocolate snack with me. I'm not gonna let this get me down, I'm determined to live in a bug free home again!!!
No. 886318
>>886288I'm a bit of an adhd fag (not really hyperactive or impulsive but extremely chaotic and prone to leaving a mess) and I sometimes worry that my friends might feel that way about me too.
How can I tell if people I know are annoyed about those aspects of me but are just too polite to tell me? And what kind of things could I do to make my chaoticism less irritating towards others?
Idk how bad exactly the person you're writing about is, and I don't know how bad I really am either, but I'd like to know what I could change.
No. 886345
It makes me genuinely depressed how many women come here to White Knight for men because of the man hate that happens. Like not only does man hate not really result in anything irl but it's still is less vile than men's hate for women on their image boards/forums. And yes there are good men out there but even they don't care most of the time when they see misogyny.
Like seriously these women complain about how we think most men are pedophiles but they dont give a fuck at the sheer amount of cp out there being spread by men. Like the hatred for women that goes on on 4chan and PUA/incel forums they just let slide but women complaining about moids on lc is unacceptable to them.
Probably gonna start infighting which is not my goal but whatever I'll take my ban.
Delete repostes because of spelling.
>>886342Um, what? Ive never done that
No. 886360
>>886353What the fuck are you trying to say?
>>886354>dark corners of the internetWho represent a teeny tiny minority of men. How do you manage at life?
>>886352It is annoying though, so many of you are trying to be as bad as males and it comes off as pathetic.
No. 886369
>>886360Some of them do try to be as bad as men and it's cringey, but most anons will admit they don't do anything to hurt men irl. Also it's not just the dark corners of the internet, its murder/violence statistics, person experiences etc.
And if all the incel forums talking about how they want to raise baby girls to be their sex slaves doesnt bother you because its a teeny tiny minority of men why are you so bothered at us femcels whining about moids?
No. 886371
>>886345My problem with the constant man hate on this site is not that men aren't shit, it's that it's boring and repetitive. If an anon has bad experience with men then by all means post about but the majority of man hate posts are just the same pseudo intellectual wankery that has been posted hundreds of times before. The result is always the same. Someone reads a wikipedia article, makes a three paragraph post and two people reply "based" and one person posts "yes, queen!" It's like an autistic ritual.
The other issue with some man hate posts is that if you were to replace "men" with "blacks" it's no different to being on /pol/.
No. 886374
I hate how my parents and all the bullying in kindergarten and school destroyed my life and never gave me a chance to grow up properly. If I could go back in time I would start therapy with 16, not that I had the chance back then, but I would run away and care for myself and not assume that I will be dead by 21. Damn, I hate myself for wasting so much time of my life and I'm still doing it, because I'm basically afraid of everything, I'm even afraid to look for a therapist right now, because I'm afraid of calling people. And if I find someone I think would fit, he isn't covered by health insurance and I don't have the money to pay for therapy sessions and all the ones covered by health insurance have a waiting list for months or years.
Honestly, who needs such a stupid brain, can it please shut up and be normal? And now I hate myself for whining anonymous on the internet while other people have it far worse and I really don't deserve help, like I said, my brain is stupid.
No. 886381
>>886378Yeah the ol "racism is just as bad as sexism!1!"
I wish theyd give it a rest.
No. 886391
>>886369>And if all the incel forums talking about how they want to raise baby girls to be their sex slaves doesnt bother you because its a teeny tiny minority of men why are you so bothered at us femcels whining about moids?The thing is only a small % of men have to think this way for the world to go to shit, the rest of the so-so men are too lazy to stand up to this small %, and are willing to accept this small % taking over society because they too want a bangmaid (they just don't want to make the effort to get one, forcibly or willingly). Look at Kabul.
>>886371This is the only place I can manhate in peace anon, it's therapeutic. If it bothers you go to the 1000000 sites where manhating isn't allowed.
No. 886393
>>886369Because I expect better from women.
>>886371This.
>>886378There are actual unhinged takes where you'd think they took it from an alt-right forum and replaced blacks and jews with the word men.
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I don't have a pair of blue suede shoes but my neck and head feel like a pair that have been a-stepped upon.
No. 886465
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anons I feel hella miserable. I had a lot of mental health issues this year during my year at grad school and was granted special circumstances for my final piece of work (my 8000 word thesis). we do our dissertation research experiments in small groups, but the written thesis is ofc done solo. I can essentially hand it in whenever I want but I'm really struggling to push myself through it, I have barely scratched the surface and seeing that the other girls in my thesis group have handed theirs in just makes me feel so ashamed. I know I was granted extra time because I've been unwell but I just wish I could function normally, I wish I could focus long enough to finish it, I wish I was smart enough to do well. I'm also juggling thesis work with my new job because obviously I still need to pay rent, and if I hand my thesis in TOO late I won't officially graduate until January which obviously isn't the end of the world but I'm just so overwhelmed and disappointed in myself for not managing to get through it on time like everybody else.
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>mfw watching SWs and trannies lose their mind over the Only fans thing
No. 886504
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>be me, finally working in academics in a field I love, after years of hard work
>have a virtual meeting with important people in my field
>meeting is going well
>suddenly a woman who has barely spoken a word asks to speak, even though everyone has taken turns speaking the whole time without asking
>"I just wanted to let you know I am nonbinary"
>(silence)
>my boss thanking her, visibly uncomfortable, and trying to get the meeting back on track
I am so fucking done with these attention whores. The whole time I felt blessed for having chosen a masters that's unattractive to the gender fandom.
For years, I have been sympathetic towards friends who had all their classes filled with troons and gender specials.
And now this, while talking to some of the most important people of this field in my country, I have to suffer through this shit.
Nobody even talked to or about her and she really had to ruin the entire flow of the conversation because she needed some attention and validation.
It's been hours and I'm still so mad about the audacity of that bitch.
No. 886519
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why the fuck are all the men in my class so retarded? one dude starts talking to me about his history with cutting and suicidal tendencies out of nowhere and someone else starts bitching to me about his unwanted divorce and we're only three classes in. like just because i'm a woman that means i'm going to have empathy for your dumbass problems nah let's just bang out these projects and get a good grade so i can go home and fuck my girlfriend in celebration
No. 886530
>>886509I was tempted to look up her twitter both to see if she's brgaging about her big moment and lowkey to cyberbully but I think I will explode if I see her smug ass face again any time soon kek
>>886511We all had webcams on and you could see the confusion and discomfort in everyone's faces.
I got a RBF so I don't think anyone clocked me as a
TERF. I am just so fucking embarrassed because it's always hard as the youngest person in the room to be taken seriously when it comes to academics.
And then the only person who's around my age does this shit?!
My boss apologized to me after the meeting via email and I can only hope that she won't invite the gender special bitch again or i have to commit neck rope.
No. 886538
>>886525I read a lot about women having heavier or more painful periods after the jab and was super concerned because I was due a week after I got vaccinated.
The only thing that changed was that I got spotting suddenly and I've never had that happen before?
It happened both after the first and second vaccine and then never again.
No. 886562
>>886525That's one reason I didn't get the vaccine until now. My period has always been very reliably, even to the hour of the day and the fact that women aren't taking serious when they tell people that the vaccine messed with their period is making me so annoyed that I just don't want to get it. If a woman tells you that her period is very different then before and you tell her it's because of "stress", well, no, you don't understand anything and you don't want to.
Also, I don't meet people, I don't go outside much, I wear my mask everywhere, I'm no risk for anyone at the moment, so I don't need the vaccine. Might need it soon because they are discussing that you aren't allowed back to university if you aren't vaccinated.
No. 886664
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I hate this guy
No. 886671
>>886630Then why has there been so much defense of the simmering male ego lately? The conversation type I've been seeing lately is
>man does tangibly repulsive thing in the real world>anons want him and likeminded men to suffer for their cruelty>other anons say men aren't really like that when the initial topic was a man being exactly that amongst other men who have done the sameWhat makes one prize them so highly that a criticism of both has to be hashed out equally? I don't understand this desire and would like to.
No. 886685
>>886664Why tf are his socks like that. Actives my immigrant mom senses.
Makes me want to beat his ass with a wooden spoon.
No. 886742
>>880317get good microblading
I never looked back it was so liberating
>t. former nobrow No. 886763
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I find this incredibly amusing
No. 886775
>>886531Multiple women have reported this as a side effect. I'm not anti-vax, I'm gonna get my second jab and whatever fucking boosters we need after that. But yes the vaccine absolutely did fuck up my period. I haven't had a period that late and that heavy since puberty and there's no way it's a random coincidence.
So fucking sick of anyone with a negative thing to say about the vaccines getting automatically dismissed like they're hysterical. That's my second vent for today. Rabid pro-vaxxers are getting just as fucking retarded as anti-vaxxers.
No. 886783
>>886520my take from reading only a little is that (most) banks/investors aren’t into supporting companies whose primary income is porn. that + OF is based in the UK which has some pretty restrictive porn laws. i’m actually surprised nothing has happened sooner
people are losing their minds but like… it makes sense. i’ve worked for a few big firms and none of them touch “vice” businesses like porn, tobacco, etc with a 50 foot pole because it would tarnish our image. i see where the banks are coming from.
No. 886886
>>886881Samefag but
especially indigenous women.
No. 886895
Well anons. I found out that my husband has most likely been cheating on me. I found pictures of a woman he had been seeing behind my back on his phone along with one of those hidden text apps. On top of that, I found pictures he had taken of me while I was in bed crying which is just…so sadistic. He wouldn't even fess up and dodged every single question. He claims nothing happened and I'm blowing it out of proportion but if it really was nothing he wouldn't have hid it from me, right? He claims he hid it because he says I'm "too crazy and jealous" and poorly tried to justify it by reminding me of a time I got mad over girls "just complimenting him" when I wasn't even there so HE was the one who told me they were strongly coming onto him?? I knew something was wrong when he showed zero concern over me having a nervous breakdown and increasingly worse health problems. It solidified in my mind that everything was about to fall apart when he randomly decided to start staying at hotels in the city he works at with no warning and abandoning our plan to buy a house. Just a sinking feeling that something unsavory was going on. He said over and over that he wasn't cheating, that he never touched her, but he has no proof that nothing happened. Even if he didn't physically cheat, it's so beyond obvious that the intention was there. After I confronted him and said I don't think we can be together anymore, he just left the house and I don't even know where he went and he won't answer his phone. To rub salt in the wound, he didn't seem to care that our relationship is essentially over and even laughed when I told him I wanted him to think long and hard about what he did. I'm just completely devastated. I know anons here will tear me apart for this, but I had my whole future planned around the life I wanted us to have together and now I have to lose all that on top of losing the person I love most. I'll admit I wasn't always the best partner, but I would never do something like this and now I'm left with nothing but unanswered questions. I know I will probably have to leave him but I'm terrified, everything in my life is going to change now and I'm fucking terrified. I'm going to have to basically restart my life on my own, without the person I've depended on for love, comfort and safety. He is my best and only friend and it is absolutely insane seeing someone you thought you knew do something that shatters your perception of them. It's so disturbing to see the man I always thought was so loving and caring do a 180 and become someone else entirely out of nowhere. How much of it was all a lie? I wish I knew. All I know now is that putting your trust in anyone or anything but your gut is a huge fucking mistake.
No. 886899
>>886885I mean it is sex discrimination. I am not saying it's wrong, just that it's not something legal in the legal framework of most Western nations.
>>886886I really don't know anything about indigenous women in Canada. Didn't you guys kill all the natives?
No. 886910
>>886080Update again. I went into my dad’s phone to just read the email to myself. Yes the property manager says they don’t provide sample COIs BUT!!!! he told us what the exterminator can put on their insurance paper (the name of our coop/management company). So it was “heres the name to put, we just dont give sample cois” and instead my dad relayed it to me as “THEY SAID THEY DONT GIVE OUT INSURANCE INFO!!!”
This fucking retard has no reading comprehension at all. I should’ve just made him show me the email to begin with. There is no problem at all my dad is just a fucking retard. Holy shit.
No. 886911
>>886895> I found pictures he had taken of me while I was in bed crying which is just…so sadistic.Whether he's sending them to his friends/fam or whether he's sending them to his other girl to paint you as a mess.. that's so incredibly fucked. Like cheating is fucked enough but thats a whole other level on top. The questions that leaves you with.. I'm sorry anon.
I dated someone before who was so cruel he'd bring you to tears and then mock you for 'trying to manipulate him' because he thought women only ever fake cried for attention?? That the tears werent just obvious frustration. He'd switch from arguing to being so calm and cool while I cried for a while afterwards and that shit was exactly what I worry he might've done to me too. To actually know a guy you trusted (and even married) did that… there's no question of whether you should stay or not. That's clear.
No. 886926
>>886911Yeah, I have no idea what he could possibly be doing with those pictures. There were multiple. One was also of him holding antacids (I have issues with stomach ulcers) while I was crying in the background?? He claims he took them by accident but I don't know how that's even possible. It's so fucked.
I'm sorry you had a shitty experience too. He was never really mean to me at all until now, but he did similar things as well. Like trying to act so calm and collected while I'm crying out of frustration to make me feel like I'm being the unreasonable one. It fucking sucks.
>>886913I would love to do that but I doubt he'll try to come back. Avoidance has always been his thing. I appreciate it though anon.
>>886914I know, I'm driving myself insane thinking of what the fuck his intentions could possibly be, taking pictures like that. It's so fucked that I always told him that I'm glad he wasn't a creep like most men but I guess I was wrong.
No. 886933
>>886926He could be sending pics of his "totally crazy bitch wife" to a mistress, could be putting that shit on reddit and adding a similar twist so that other scrotes can pity him. Generally you do that to paint someone in a bad light. Someone out there was being fed that "she's nuts, poor me" version of events by him.
The absolute piece of dogshit he is to run away when caught too.
No. 886955
>>886926I agree with all the other nonitas. You deserve someone who puts as much effort into a relationship as you do and you'll end up lonely and miserable if you stay with him any longer because he seems to not feel sorry at all. I'm so sorry it happened to you
nonnie and I know it's going to be hard and painful to separate but please put yourself and your happiness first,no matter how much he tries to swoon you over.
No. 886962
>>886933I have a horrible feeling the pictures were for the other woman but I saw a text from one of his friends saying "has your wife killed you yet lol" or something along those lines. Makes me so suspicious of what else he was doing. Can't believe he just fucking dipped after I found out but at the same time I'm not surprised.
>>886938 Yeah, I told my mother everything last night and I might talk to one of his family members today if I can work up the nerve. I wish I had the guts to do exactly what you said. I know closure is a scam but so much of my life is tangled up with him that I can't see this being a clean break.
No. 886967
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My best friend just broke up with me and I'm devastated. It's because of a mismatch in our expectations for friendships and I just feel so hurt and empty even know I know she's right. It took a lot to heal from the last time I got dumped by a former best friend (but this girl was actually toxic) and I don't know why but I put a lot of emphasis on my friendships over my relationship and it just hurts a lot. I don't know what I'm going to do, I've never met anybody else who understood me so well, and maybe that's why I was holding on so tightly even though it was apparent I'm the one investing more of myself into it than her. You know when you like someone better than they like you, kind of like that. I don't think I will find someone else I feel as close to ever again. I'm fucking devastated, anons.
No. 886970
>>886962Glad you told your mum, mum's are pretty based at spreading news so she might do a lot of heavy lifting for you. I really hope you are able to not speak with him, the fact he laughed at you and walked out on you should not be taken lightly. He cheats and gets to control the terms on when and how you communicate? Fuck that. I ended a 6 year relationship last year and I've 0 close friends so I was very hesitant to bite the bullet. It's been a year this month and I've slowly gotten a real genuine friend to depend on, my family help and sometimes I cry and be sad but I'm better off and you will be too.
There is so much happiness to be had on focusing on yourself and your pets. He's the one that broke the marriage. Divorce and handle him professionally. Look out for yourself. Do whatever the hell you want, you can step off into any direction now. You were loyal to the end, and that'll serve you well for any future relationships. You can hold your head high and know you deserve love. He can get fucked and be plagued by insincerity and distrust for the rest of his life.
No. 886974
>>886837>>886845What this anon said.
You'll have to make the time somehow. Even contact your landlord about the situation and tell your manager that you're expecting phone calls, etc. for the time being. If that's too inconvenient, imagine how much more it will be when you have to completely move and not be near work.
Or another option, literally stop cleaning and straight up start packing your belongings. Don't get a useless bitch of a roommate next time. And if you happen to do it again, start documenting from the time of moving in if there's any signs of shit going south. You can get more legal support that way in the worst case. Good luck
No. 887155
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WHICH board is CP on? Has it gone? Could someone try to be even remotely helpful when this occurs instead of screaming BLEACH MA EYEBALLZ. Here's some cats! Pic unrelated.
No. 887163
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WARNING! I think there might be a cp video in Dumbassshit thread. I minimized the thread instinctively and I do not want to check.
No. 887165
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>>887155i love this genre of old photos
No. 887194
>>884516oh my god update but apparently this fucking retard let her baby fall directly onto her head. and as she's fake-crying about it probably the baby fell again
i hate this lmao
No. 887197
>>886870>>887172I can't even find a proper flat, where I can relax and refuel for work, why should I work for minimum wage (won't get anything else in my job field) for rich people when I have to live in a shithole and will still be poor when I'm old?
I've been discussing moving to a quiet piece of land with my brother (he is one of the few good men) very often in the past months and I think in the next 5 years we will go for it, we just have to decide in which country.
No. 887205
>>887164But nonna, it's just a problem women can have, so why should men care? We are just hysterical and it's the stress.
I haven't had the vaccine until now, but if my period will be heavier and different than the last 24 years after the vaccine, there would be no other explanation to it as the vaccine. I've had so many stressful episodes in my life, never has my period been late or different, except the one time I went vegan for a month.
No. 887242
>>887233For the first time ever I'm arguing with him about this now. Idk why this is such a big deal to him that I want to put some extra effort to my looks if it makes me feel better. Just because in this society women are expected to be polished and a certain way it doesn't mean it's wrong to do it jfc.
>You're so aggressive about this, there's clearly something there, you're defending a viewpointNo bitch I just want to be pretty let me be vain in peace.
No. 887338
>>887292I've had inorgasmia from taking ssris and my then-bf just didn't care about my 8 month orgasmless streak. As long as he still got his.
Shitty memory but I came off of the meds, slowly got more feeling back. Wasn't an instant thing. One saturday morning we're in bed and I get a vibrator out to see if I'm ready to get there yet…8 month streak to try and break. I'm laying with my head against him. He's kinda holding me at first. I close my eyes and concentrate hard. When I finally get there hes got his phone out and he's playing clash of clans. I turn to hold him because it's a kind of big emotional release… he shouts at me not to interrupt his game. I went to the bathroom and cried in the shower. He saw my red eyes afterwards and whinged about me needing meds again.
No. 887356
>>887338nta but damn anon, I feel for you
scrotes will be scrotes but that's especially cold and nasty, hope you're doing better now
No. 887428
>>887229I think men spend more money on 'fun' items while women spend more on 'looks insecurity' items. That is a lil sad to me. I remember watching a doc about marketing and sales and they broke down the percentages on that, was depressing. Then they talked about how we're advertised to in a different way because mens ads are about seeking pleasure and womens are about 'feeling good enough' or just measuring up to expectations.
That's probably more so make up than bath and shower stuff, though I think body shaving is some bs. Women in adverts for razors run the razor along their already pre shaved leg because it's that fucking taboo to see stubble. I'm rambling now but I saw an advert lately for razors that showed hairy pits and talked about hair being your own choice. Where were these ads when I was a teen? lol
No. 887440
>>887429you are doing good, don't beat yourself up. It's been a year and those feelings will still be strong for some time. Your brain needs some more time to rewire and that is possible. Don't throw everything away, you have been so strong until now and you deserve those good people in your life and a happy future.
I've never been addicted to heroin but you are an inspiration for every addict, because you fought back and didn't relapse. These thoughts are just normal bullshit your brain is annoying you with, it will go away over time.
No. 887525
>>887515This!
>>887523Seriously, I used to work my ass off until I realized it gained me nothing compared to almost everyone else who did the bare minimum. In fact I was only losing because of the immense amount of time and energy I was putting in. Now I do the bare minimum unless there's direct benefit (such as promotion) in sight.
Anyway, sorry this happened to you. Hope you find a job where you're appreceited after this.
No. 887546
>>887292I used to think this when I was a young pick-me who was hypersexual and based worth around sex. But you choose real quick when it's life or death. If you can still decidedly choose the instant gratification of coom over "being happy" then you probably don't need anti depressant lol wait til you get the adult depression.
Btw SSRIs don't usually break women like they break dicks. Also non-SSRI antidepressants exist. Also most women can still orgasm even if it takes more effort, depending on sex/masturbation habits. Most men have death grip syndrome to begin with so of course they all end up with crippling ED. Personally, I cum harder and longer and had my first exp with multiple orgasms when I was on prozac. Not being depressed allows you to feel positive emotions more clearly like excitement and arousal, allows you to connect with a partner more. Literally, if your depression is managed but you still don't feel like fucking your partner, it's because you don't like them sexually anymore. In which case, break up and enjoy the new happy life with someone hotter.
No. 887569
>>887292I think you should work to achieve self-satisfaction that doesn't hinge on male validation and anons like
>>887546 are giving destructive advice tainted by their own trauma/baggage
No. 887635
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>>887523>>887525Thank you so much anons. I'm on wait with HR. I'm leaving tomorrow regardless, but it definitely feels a bit defeating. I refuse to cry. And i will leave politely on good terms and not sink to their level.
No. 887656
>>887555Anon I feel you, I wish there was a way to travel without having to pay for stuff
I think airbnb was advertising at some point that they're recruiting people to travel and test out some listings on their site? Or maybe you could choose a job that involves a lot of travelling, like ecologist or maybe food blogger? You could start local and maybe you'd get some traction.
Either way, I think that instead of contemplating a huge mistake, you could try making a bucket list with all the places/experiences you want to visit/have before you die. They don't all have to be out there, you can write down some mundane ones as well, like geting takeaway from the most northern chipolte or visiting 3 roadside attractions near your town. It kinda worked for me, wish you all the best
nonnie!
No. 887661
>>887651I'm exactly the same at my job. We're not retarded or disordered though, we're just shy, it's not that dramatic. If they ask my why I'm quiet, I tell them I'm shy and naturally quiet. They might not like me but I'm not there to impress them, it's my personality and I'm not doing anything wrong by keeping to myself.
It really does blow my mind how they constantly come up with things to talk and joke about with people they don't know well though. It's not like I'm a boring empty person with nothing going on in my head but I just feel like most of my thoughts aren't something people need to hear. Vocalizing them just doesn't occur to me the way it seems to for other people. And tbh, a lot of the time I genuinely just don't want to talk to people. It's not like I'm an extrovert dying to get involved in conversations but just struggle with confidence.
No. 887721
>>885396I just went to take a piss and discovered another fucking bug on the piece of toilet paper I wanted to use for wiping.
For fuck's sake.
I wish I could get a cat, but I'm allergic.
No. 887732
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Today I went to get my covid vaccine alongside some friends and I saw some egirl getting her shot. I said "I hate egirls they look fucking ridiculous and attention whoring, big tittie gf style" and my friends were like "how can you be so judgamental". I hate men and I don't want to see said friends in a long time now. I'm pretty sure if I was with a female friend she would had agreed with me.
No. 887737
>>887732with all due respect, do you have bpd?
why does someone disagreeing with your fashion opinions send you spiraling so?
No. 887747
>>887732your friends sound boring if you can't judge other people with them, especially when it's something innocuous like e-girls
>>887745i don't want to live in a society where we can't mock people who dress up like clowns in public
No. 887758
>>887732I think e-girls look stupid but you sound super childish
Very Ebony Dark'ness Dementia Raven Way judging all the preps, and you were even expecting applauses. I hope you're 18
No. 887768
>>887759Lolcow is anonymous, and I don't expect people to agree with me here and get super bothered if they don't.
>>887761You sure act like one, though
No. 887773
>>887759lmao that logic… imagine if people acted irl the way they do on an anonymous website with a fairly hostile and gossipy culture. Spilling your heart out about your deepest secrets to total strangers, posting in-depth descriptions of your sexual fantasies, nitpicking women's appearances and expecting people to agree instead of (rightfully) thinking it's mean. We can get away with bad behaviour on here because there are no consequences, and it's more like your private thoughts than publically broadcasting your opinions.
Talking shit about other girls to men is particularly gross, that is some pickme shit because anon just wanted them to agree and validate her. They probably wanted to fuck her anon, sorry.
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i get angry pretty easy and whenever i'm in my angry mode, i feel kinda hard to breath and just wanna scream and destroy all the stuff in my house
No. 887887
>>887875Society is set up to discourage female friendship. I found an excellent essay that talks about it.
The first factor being, I think, the capitalist nuclear family model becoming much more the single primary unit of socialisation for women, where we are left completely on our own to deal with children and domestic slavery, with much less access to support, community or regular female presence from the “outside world”. Western individualism has reduced some amount of control/surveillance on women by the surrounding group (control by neighbours, relatives outside of the nuclear family (brothers, male cousins, aunts etc), which is the downside for women in less individualist countries), but has increased our emotional dependency on our male-owner and reduced our possibilities of creating sustainable bonds with other women.
The second thing is the ongoing disappearance of sex-segregation in all our major places of socialisation such as schools and workplaces, which means nowadays entire generations of women in Western capitalist countries have never experienced interaction that wasn’t physically monitored by boys and men, where surviving and adapting to their sexually
abusive behaviours takes up all or most of our social efforts, where we are kept in all ways possible from bonding to women. Almost two generations of women have been conditioned to despise and fear women-only spaces, to view them as a threat to our social existence, as something backwards, revolting, from a dark distant patriarchal time. This has immensely contributed to destroying our capacity to socialise with and to identify to women early on in childhood and to increasing our trauma-bonding to men / idealisation of maleness, and self-hatred.
Going through our comparisons with friend A, she added a factor I hadn’t quite seen: that Western women tend to be more absorbed by their professional work. She said women she knew from Western countries were always busy, always working, and had very little life outside of work.
Well that was an interesting finding to me, as I had always assumed that because the level of women’s occupation by work was similar in all places, it had similar effects. But it’s very obvious that the kind of work women are expected to do differs from place to place (and social class) and this affects our social relations too. It’s true that here, our outside work and “career” has taken a similar function or status as that of marriage / coupling with men, as we are also expected to sacrifice our lives for it, including our local networks which are essential to our social survival and take many years to build, especially as a woman.
What’s even more interesting is that as I began to write this post shortly after my discussion with friend A (excited about sharing all these new insights), and halted at precisely this stage because I didn’t know how to formulate it — another friend (which I’ll call B) responded to one of my emails with the most amazing analysis of how busyness and work divides women in Western capitalist societies. Answering her question of how I spent christmas, I said (in part) this: “I was a bit frustrated that my friends from my town weren’t available (or even responding) as this time of the year is usually when I have most time, and I was hoping to catch up with them. It’s been a bit frustrating lately that many of my friends are so busy and taken, and not to be able to spend more time with them. I realise how in Western countries adult women aren’t supposed to prioritise friendships at all, and how difficult it generally is to become close to women.” to which she responded this (forgive the long quote, but I thought everything was worth sharing! with her permission of course):
“I can totally relate to what you are saying about your friends. […] I find that other radfems tend to prioritize their friendships more, but I have found it very hard since [..] I have a lot more time on my hands than other women so I am wanting to be in touch more but they are often too busy.
I think a lot about busyness vs not. I know this guy who is happy to work weekends on top of the week because he wants the extra money, and he lives in this incredibly cheap place and doesn’t do a whole lot – I wonder what the hell he spends it on. And him and this other guy I know – both of them struggle to use up their holiday! Can you imagine? I mean why on earth would you want to spend all that time working? I think about the SCUM manifesto, what Solanas says about men not being able to be alone with themselves, and it’s true.
There are two things to think about this. One is that for all this talk about capitalism being alienating, it seems like men like it that way. The world is like this because they built it that way and it suits them. I mean, whenever I’m out in mensworld, I need a lot of down time to recover, it’s always been that way and it was that way too for some of my other women I used to know, nonfeminist ones. Men don’t need to recover from it because it’s their homeworld, it nourishes them, in fact they feel empty without it. In fact married men often work more to avoid their families too.
The other thing to think is how entering into the capitalist workforce was supposed to make women less dependent on men, but in some ways it has increased the dependence and has worked very effectively to divide women further from each other. Firstly, women are overburdened in both the workplace and the home – they do more work for less pay, shittier work, and they work a double shift of domestic labour if they are living with a man or children. So they have less time. I am currently reading The Women’s Room by Marilyn Frye and her account of suburban housewives, it really struck me how much more emotional support and friendship the women had among each other than they could ever hope to have if they were working. The housewives’ community was a women-only space – something which working women rarely have. The mensworld was like a foreign country to them. Today it feels more like women’s world is a foreign country because entering into the male workforce means being around men all the time and it means having to absorb their ideologies to get ahead.
In the home, the women were left largely to their own devices and were in charge, at least of the children. They had a sphere of influence. Even though the man ruled over them, he wasn’t there for a large quantity of the time and also didn’t care about many of the decisions women had to make. Now, women don’t have time to create a local community of women since they are working and child-rearing at the same time. So in both spheres they are isolated from women and alone.
On top of this, since women always have to try harder to get ahead in the workforce, they have to do all this extra training and always feel like they have to be doing some kind of self-improvement activity, endless accumulation of ‘human capital’. Men have to do this too, to some extent, but they can bond with men in the workplace while women can’t bond with women, because if they bond too much with women and stand with women the men will reject them so they will never get ahead. You have to be male-identified to get ahead. Additionally, capitalism says we should move with our jobs, which hinders building a local community of women. And we are indoctrinated into this ideology early on – and it’s not just ideological, it’s legal too. I mean, you might expect your family or your partner to move with you, but to prioritize your friends over your job when deciding where to be? It’s basically unthinkable.
I know probably most of your friends do not have men or kids, but we absorb this mentality early on. I remember living in the US and how hard it was to make friends, everything was so superficial. It seemed like there would be no more friends, only acquaintances to have dinner parties or drinks with, now and again. I thought, is this it? Is this what adulthood is supposed to be? It was horribly empty. But everyone was so busy, all the time, all the time accumulating internships or volunteer work. Not that I really liked those people, but still.
Anyway the point is that while women were largely shut out from mensworld, they had much more opportunity to bond with other women. A lot of that has been destroyed by women’s entry into the workforce, and it has resulted in women becoming much more male-identified. In the book the main character gets divorced and goes to graduate school, and she talks about the contrast between being a housewife, where at least in some sense she was in charge for large swathes of time, and the way she gets treated like a child and an idiot by male professors.
It’s so obvious how relational deprivation, isolation from one another and more generally, the promotion of individualist ideologies are a very deliberate repressive strategy against women: to prevent any form of bonding which is the precondition for concerted rebellion against men’s control. Since the 90s and even more so in the last few years, with the global, massive taking over of neoliberal capitalist politics, it has become harder than ever to mobilise anyone even for non political activities, as the oppressed have so integrated that we have to compete with others and focus on ourselves in order to defend our own interests, and that our interests and life conditions can be separated from those of our class. Yet only members of the dominant class can further their interests (as oppressors) purely through individualist pursuits, because their egocentrism is congruent with their actual dominance.
Men define long-term social isolation and relational deprivation (when used against men in “real” political repression with “official” prison cells of course), as a method of political torture. It is recognised as affecting
victims in most durable ways, destroying their ability to socialise even long after their liberation, causing them to lose their jobs and ties with family…
Indeed, destroying our relationship to ourselves and to women is probably the worst, most deeply traumatic effect of men’s oppression. Intentional male violence is essentially relational, as in, their actions deliberately annihilate our bond to the world and to ourselves, which, when it doesn’t kill us, is an act of spiritual killing — as they need us emptied of our selves in order to be useful for them for very large amounts of time.
In the same way, an essential part of healing from trauma caused by male torture is through reconnecting to women and to ourselves. My own healing largely progressed along with my ability to form stable friendships with feminists, as well as reconnecting to my body, my soul and making cognitive connections about men’s necrophilic system.
It’s more and more obvious to me that there is no such thing as individual freedom and identity outside of social context, social relations and even natural environment. It’s illusionary and absurd to think that our lives and pursuits for improvement can be done entirely on our own, abstracted from social interaction and change.
Our raised consciousness, our leaps, our movements of liberation and solidarity networks are inherently relational. Feminism is entirely dependent on the bonds we create with women, on our continued interactions, and nothing of this would exist if we didn’t meet and spend time together, away from male surveillance. The more we do this (and learn how to do it in healthy, respectful conditions obviously), the stronger our feminism.
This is also why I eventually chose to structure my post according to the genesis of its creation, to show how each new connection and feminist understanding was very directly stimulated by all these spiralling exchanges with women, as well as by my own thoughts, readings and analyses of my social experiences with women. To quote friend B again:
“Isn’t it funny how these things are happening at the same time? i think this is like, the wormholes Sonia Johnson talks about. Because I feel you have been working on these issues a lot longer than me, so you can help me shortcut to where you are, and then I can add to that too, and you can add to that, so we all advance more quickly. I’m sure the same is happening with your other friends too, and then I benefit from that too even though i don’t know them because it works through you”
The constant stimulation and discussions I have with other feminists are my life force. Creating an alternative world can’t be done in isolation, it can only develop and evolve in relation to other women.
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This guy has such a punchable face. The amount of people simping for him just proves that men can do the bare minimum and get clout.
No. 887931
>>887892>>887906It will get easier over time, I promise you. You have to find a method that works for you and no one else but you will know what works.
I'm on my way to 600 days without and for the first time in over 15 years I don't have fresh red scars on my body. I won't lie to you and say that it's easy, it's not, I have my regular breakdowns when I want to relapse so bad, but it's been such hard work, I don't want to ruin it again and to be honest, I feel too old to keep on self-harming and I already ruined enough of perfect healthy skin.
You both will get there one day and find a reason to stop, not matter how hard it will be. Until then, don't beat yourself up that you have a hard time to control it at the moment, that makes it even worse to recover.
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>>887937What helped me was taking my time and sitting it out. I told myself "15 minutes" and when I felt like it after that time, I would allow myself to act on it, but only a fixed number of cuts. Sometimes I would tell myself "15 minutes" again and would go like that for a whole day. I also promised myself I would never self-harm again because of outside reasons like me being angry at someone or failing a test, etc.
And the last method is, I'm in my 30s, someday it's just time to stop and I hate that people assume that I have bpd, when I don't have it, so I rather have healed scars and appear "normal" than fresh scars and people think I'm the worst person on earth.
Time really helped with that, don't know how old you are, but you will be free from it one day and you will be able to forgive yourself for doing something stupid in order to survive.
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i never write anything personal anymore and i realised that the reason why is because my bf once found a private journal entry that i wrote about how his infidelity affected me, and he shared it with the woman he cheated on me with and they both made fun of me
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>>887967You mean ex bf, right?
Nonna, get yourself something safe, an app with a password, you seem to miss writing your personal stuff down and no one should hold you back on that.