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My stupid fucking dog is driving me up the god damn wall. I barely got any sleep last night because I had a bad stomach ache and kept getting woken up to go shit. I woke up this morning and she was barking around the time my alarm went off, fine, this usually happens. I give her her medicine and her breakfast, opt to skip breakfast myself so I can sleep in for an extra hour because I’m sleepy as fuck.
I live with my parents and my dog prefers to sleep in their room, it’s fine, they like her and raised her for the majority of her life (we got her when I was super young). I have to get up and take her out of the room when she starts barking because my parents dont get that you can’t just THROW PILLOWS at a dog to get it to shut up, especially now that she’s got a bad back and walking issues, so I swoop in and take her out and close the door. She’s also on orders from the vet for NO WALKS (shes housetrainer) because of her back, fine whatever, she doesnt really have any interest in going outside anymore anyway.
She made me get up from trying to go back to sleep SIX FUCKING TIMES to open the door to my parents room for her, only to immediately walk back out. I couldn’t just open the door and walk away, I did it the first time and she started barking at my dad and woke him up- bad sign, so I took her out and closed the door. She just kept fucking barking. I open the front door so she can walk around in the hallway, maybe she really wants to get out of the apartment, NOPE. She took like two steps outside and her tail fell down and she walked back in.
Holy shit I love my dog and we just went through a big scare where we thought she was dying, but she drives me up the fucking wall every god damn morning.
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I had to move temporarily to my parents' house since Friday and I'm already losing my shit.
If I wanted to cover everything wrong with them from the beginning, I'd write a long-ass post in shitty parents thread, but long story short, I moved out as soon as I graduated high school. When I had to briefly move back three years later, I ended up in mental hospital. Since then I avoid spending more than 3 days in a row with them.
They're helping me with furnishing my apartment now and I actually genuinely appreciate this. However, I'm constantly bullied into doing whatever they want and I keep getting ignored, talked over, gaslighted and treated like a dumb teenager. Just today my stepmother called me while I was at work to berate me for something I was supposed to do and literally didn't let me have a word in my defense, then hung up when I tried to say something. My colleague came to my room while I was talking with her, and was visibly disturbed by this, especially since my stepmother was very audible despite loudspeaker being off.
The sad thing is, plenty of people, both strangers and acquainted, notice this shit, but nobody evered dares to point it out to them. I'm a nervous wreck whenever I need to confront my parents over anything, so I avoid any conflict or even discussion altogether.
said, basically. Which one applied to you?
I had a crush on a self proclaimed "nice guy" in high school. I really liked him, but he seemed to have crush and ask out literally any other girl but me. After they all rejected him, he jokingly asked if I'd date him and I basically told him to fuck off. It hurt. A lot. To this day, I'm still wildly fucking attracted to him. He's very sweet on a personal level, actually very politically liberal. He doesn't have very many friends, and chases off most women because he shows very clear signs of Aspergers. He has a tendency to respond to everything literally, with random facts. If you mess up a movie quote, he'll correct you no matter the context, with the most serious face. It annoys the shit out of even his closest friends after a while, but I like being around him and enjoy our conversations. I feel like I can be myself around him. He's very intelligent, has interest in the most stereotypical nerdy careers like code and computers. Unfortunately, it also comes paired with an obsession with vidya and anime. When he's not with friends or at work, he's in his dark room all day playing video games. He's pays for hentai and follows insta cosplay thots. I wish I was attractive to him and that we could have a normal relationship, but it is what it is.
Are you that anon who asked about things you should visit in Nice in another thread? I don't know how guys are in the USA so I can't really compare but I wouldn't be too surprised if some guys are behaving that way because you're a tourist and it's obvious to them. It's almost always obvious when someone is a tourist from outside of Europe without them even talking or doing anything special most of the time. They may think they can get away with being assholes or perverts because you'll be gone eventually. At least you're not alone and you're with your boyfriend so your bf will prevent a lot of guys from talking to you with bad intentions. >>429687
Not really from the south but I don't get why all the disgusting old farts are always playing pétanque together while drinking beer.
Yeah, this is true. I've found "classical" nerds in that sense can still be mouthbreathing assholes as well. Honestly unless they're mildly charismatic or you like the same things they will be definitely boring, there's a
reason for the stereotype.>>429692
They exist, in smaller numbers. Hate to say it but most male nerds like that are older and sometimes married with kids. My boyfriend is still into some weebshit and has a few games he likes but mostly partakes in those things because of me, otherwise probably is the epitome of the old-timey engineering nerd minus the overinflated ego. And he's in his 20s. So I mean, you can find them, if it's absolutely no anime/vidya it'll be harder since there's so much hobby overlap and usually people at least like a few, but non-braindead hentai-vidya addict male nerds exist. It's just slogging through the mountains of shit to find them.>>429685
Sure he's smart, but you're better than this. Stop running after a man who doesn't want you, he's probably got stupid standards from his fap fantasies, tries to run after any girl with a pulse from the sounds of it (other than you.) and doesn't deserve your anguish. Does he have any actually constructive hobbies other than playing vidya in a dark room? Please try to move on.>After they all rejected him, he jokingly asked if I'd date him and I basically told him to fuck off.
This story here was enough to write him off. If he doesn't apologize and actually make an attempt to make good, why should you waste your time? Try to think with your self-worth.
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>is there such a thing as a positive vent?
OMFG I'm so proud right now, my S.O. and I were discussing the kpop industry and he brought up the "female porn" industry, I'm on cloud nine, and I wanted to share this little thing that made me very happy.
PS: boyfriend had problems with porn before, and he is getting better it seems
Falling in love was the best and worst thing to ever happen to me. Ever since I started this new relationship, my views about everything from love to politics have changed and I'm worried that I'm losing myself in this relationship. I moved across the country away from my abusive family to live with my boyfriend.
He's awesome and supportive, but I realized that he isn't always receptive to things that he can't understand, and not in an intellectual way, but hobbies, political beliefs, etc. different from his own. I know I'm beginning to agree or play down some of my opinions. I'm a radical feminist and I don't support trans theory, but he doesnt like "TERFS" so I don't mention that his insistence on calling men women is fucking crazy, even though I know for a FACT, he would call me out and probably curse me out if I said something clearly incorrect about something, especially Trump.
I feel the same at times because I wouldn't be showered with presents and compliments.
But I want to reassure you that every individual is different than the other, some like to use their words and some don't prefer it, you might ask him to change that occasionally or change yourself into accepted that your man isn't an affectionate lad.
nta but you better start saving what you can for if it doesn't work out and you need to leave. Try to save toward first months rent and security deposit. Don't fucking tell him either.
Just be realistic.
Shame I didnt know that, but I did notice a lot of the guys here are really shameless and Im from a southern part of the US where street harassment and catcalling is common yet somehow this topped it lol. Me being an obvious foreigner or tourist looking person doesnt help>>429697
Im more near Toulouse not Nice: But yeah you are completely right. The guys in my boyfriends family are perverted too ugh
This shit is really depressing as hell lmao my mood is horrible
I'm so annoyed at myself right now even though it's silly. I'm a very hairy woman, have been ever since I was a kid; I have dark excessive body hair all over, and it seems like more than the average woman. I've tried various forms of hair removal (shaving, waxing, creams, etc.) to find what works best and it's always a struggle. Shaving can take nearly an hour, especially if I'm not consistently removing the hair on a daily basis.
Until I randomly decided to try a men's electric shaver…and it worked so fucking well! It literally only took me about ten minutes to shave my whole body, a fraction of the time it took me with women's razors. No pain, no cuts, smooth shave. Why the hell wasn't I doing this before? It's like I had this subconscious mentality of "oh I'm a women therefore I should obviously only buy products marketed towards women" (plus I like the cute packaging lol) but now it seems so obvious the shaving products for men would be so much better-especially when my body hair is probably more on par with a man's. Can't believe I wasted so much time and money on crappy pink plastic when the answer was right next to it.
Same thing happened with deodorant. As a teen I only bought female deodorant until I noticed it wasn't strong enough during the summer, tried a men's one and it worked perfectly. But my mom made me feel embarrassed for needing to use a men's product ("You use MEN'S deodorant anon? Why would a girl need men's deodorant, you sweat that much?!"), and made me feel like my body was gross and wasn't very feminine since it need "men strength" products. It's so fucking dumb; if it works, it works, who cares who it's made for?
TL;DR: Gendered products suck.
Anon, I don't think it'll change unless you mention that it bothers you. Tell him that you feel kind of bad that he doesn't compliment you very much or go down on you, etc, because you need to feel appreciated. If he shoots back with some bullshit, say that many/most women need that, or say it's how you communicate/receive affection. >>429772
is also right in saying people express themselves differently.
I'm lucky in that I crave that and get a lot from my boyfriend, I would feel very emotionally neglected if I didn't. Honestly, is it worth staying with someone who doesn't appreciate you? Even if you're "ugly" I don't see why you can't meet a man who likes to have sex with you.
No one will really care. Or, people are usually polite enough at cons to not say something. If someone actually makes a rude comment within your vicinity to you, punch them lol. No one really has the gall irl to make shitty, unnecessary comments knowing full well they might get a well deserved punch to the face. Sometimes I might look at someone's costume and think not the nicest thing, but I keep it to myself, and I feel like most cosplayers I've come across are like that. Unless youre some big name bitch, people probably won't even remember how bad your costume might be in like 5 minutes.
I have this fear all the time, and even after making costumes and attending cons for the better part of the past decade, it always crops up. Once you put on that costume and start chilling around with your friends, it's fine! Have fun anon! Are you going to AX?
My bf literally can’t get a boner unless I start touching myself. Literally the only way he can get turned on is if I start rubbing my clit and acting like I like it. The problem is that I don’t feel much from rubbing my clit? Like, it pretty much does nothing for me. Nothing feels good enough on my clit except vibrators, I don’t like touching my clit during sex because I can’t do anything with my hands that feels good enough to actually do it. If anything it’s distracting. Once he gets hard and starts fucking me he always tells me to rub my clit and it’s just annoying and distracting but he apparently needs me to do it THAT BADLY to cum. I have told him multiple times that it doesn’t do anything significant and he seems to doubt me every time and/or doesn’tIt take me seriously. Or, he believes me and just expects me to do it anyway for him. He won’t compromise with me about doing other foreplay either. I LOVE pleasuring him and that’s what turns me on, seeing him pleasured. Bjs, handjobs, ANYTHING, but he doesn’t like those apparently except occasionally. Fuck, I get way more turned on from HIM touching my clit or fingering me because ita not my own hand, but nope he’d rather me do it most of the time.
In the beginning of our relationship, he could get hard all the time and this was never a problem, I know the decrease in sex is something that happens naturally in relationships(we have been dating for almost a year) but this is really fucking frustrating because he doesn’t even want to try most of the time to have sex with me. I have to initiate all the time and his attitude in general just seems really lazy and indifferent towards sex which really turns me off. It makes me especially mad because I feel my desire for him sexually has not changed since we started dating. We used to have sex every day and now it’s like 1-2 times a week. I know that might not sound that bad to some of you reading this but this is coming from 2 people who have high sex drives. He said before he had a girlfriend he jack off up to 4 times a day, and when he got with me initially we would sometimes fuck up to 2 times a day or atleast 4/7 days of the week.
I’m angry because I feel like he’s just to lazy and complacent to actually try to do anything about it. His job isn’t a demanding job at all so I know that’s not it. He treats it like it’s something he can’t do anything about and just tells me to go masturbate and that will solve the problem but ITS NOT THE SAME THING LOL. I want to have sex with someone I love I don’t even care if I don’t cum because I don’t NEED to to enjoy sex? If I want to cum I can just use a vibrator literally ANY time I want. I like feeling attractive and I workout and lift(glutes only) 5 days a week, I’m very attractive and it know It because of my appearance. I am in perfect shape and I literally have nothing I would change about my body right now. I am very confidant. But I don’t turn him in enough somehow to give him a boner.
This is making me more and more angry and resentful of him each time I get turned down. It makes me want to cheat but I don’t want to do that because I love him and he has been cheated on in the past by his ex. Masturbating doesn’t ent help, it needs to be sex, with two people involved. I want that intimacy so so so so SO FUCKING BAD. I feel like if I had it I wouldn’t be so fucking stressed all the time. Every time I think about how he used to jack off for times a day everyday before he met me, but now apparently doesn’t require sex except once a week has got me really fucking angry and confused. I know he’s not watching porn because I check his history frequently, he doesn’t know i even can see it. I check a lot because my ex had a porn addiction that really fucked up my trust in men when it comes to porn and admitting to watching it. I feel like I’m going insane and that I’m being crazy and selfish but I don’t know. I’ve talked to him many times and he never has anything to say for it except excuses (I’m too tired, work stress, depressed). I hate it.
He could be, but I trust him. We see each other every day and have similar work schedules. Most of the time he is home I am home(we live together), I know his routines and he never does anything suspicious (like disappearing for a long period of time, taking long in the bathroom) I know all the signs because my ex was very badly addicted. I have accused him of using porn behind my back multiple times out of frustration from being turned down for sex, and every time he gets angry saying to me that I’m not your ex and not to compare him to him. I don’t have a reason to believe he’s lying, and if he is lying he’s hiding it very very very well. The only thing keeping me from not thinking that is the fact that when we are not at work we are usually together, I would know if he was watching porn. The only time he is not with me in spare time is a couple hours in the morning that he gets up before going to work and while im sleeping. I fall asleep before him every night.>>429855
I’m with him because he is the first bf I’ve had the most in common with morally, personality wise, interest wise, hobby wise etc. he treats me amazingly and I literally have no other complaints about him. He is supportive and not emotionally manipulative like some of my ex’s.
maybe he just thinks you being hot is implied and that he doesn't need to say it (though it's always good to hear and be reassured of). unless his body language suggests otherwise or he doesn't seem
enthusiastic while having sex, he could just be reserved about saying stuff like that
Almost a year, I have scoured his all his social media before dating him because I wanted to screen him for possible porn addiction, not wanting to repeat my last relationship. He doesn’t follow and porn or nsfw models on any of his accounts. We have talked about it and he said he agreed with me doing that because he thinks guys who do it are cringey. He said he only ever used pornhub for porn. He doesn't use reddit.>>429861
Honestly I’m beginning to think this is what it is. I was so thankful to find a man who wasn’t pornsick but I guess the catch is we aren’t compatible sexually..idk
I think this anon is confused and mistakenly thinks you responded to her sex issue rather than to the other anon who is worried about her missing boyfriend.
not everyone ITT is talking about you, anon, check what posts people are replying to before assuming they're talking about your boyfriend's dick problems
6 months but I've known him for much longer, we just never shared friends with each other.
I've found his roommate's facebook account and tried to find his best friend's account but there is a facebook bug right now so I can't look at the pictures to confirm that it is indeed his best friend as I only know his first name. My bf isn't in good terms with his roommate and they work opposite hours so they barely see each other and I don't think he would know if something had happened.
Anyway I tried calling again a couple hours ago but this time it didn't go straight to voicemail, it ringed briefly and then went to voicemail so it looks like he or whoever was on the other side just hung up.
I also tried looking for his mother's phone number on the web, I found an old number out of order but at least I also found her address, I'll check on her if I still don't get any news.
It's weird because he never acted weird like this before. I don't know if I should be mad or worried and it's killing me.
>>429881>6 months, known for longer, never shared friends
um, what? I suck at dating, but this isn't normal is it??
You're a side chick he doesn't gaf about anymore.
I can't say I know all of them but he talks often about his friends and his colleagues.
I'm starting to think his dog died and my bf is shutting in… I guess I'll have to wait and see.
sounds like the Cotton On group. never, ever work for them.
sorry your job sucks anon, is there any way you can transfer or something?
aw I hope that's not the case for many reasons. maybe shoot him a text and just say something like "it's completely okay if you don't want to talk, but I'm worried about you and just need to know you're safe. If you tell me you're safe I'll leave you alone for however long you need."
I don't think it's fair of him to ghost you like this without a single word, even if it is because his dog died. You're allowed to be worried, I would be freaking out in this situation, especially if he missed plans with you and gave no notice. I hope everything is okay and if you care to/remember later I would love an update, on him and on the dog lol. Good luck anon
>>429955>"I'm not a child anymore!">is 16
lol you just reminded me how I love everything about the Broadway show except
the main character. It's like catcher in the rye. it could be good if the main character wasn't such a whiney baby. If it were told from Ursula's PoV I would be HERE for it. Waiting for that remake.
Stick to your guns, you're doing the right thing as long as you're employed or soon will be (maybe it wont be as an actor or artist though). Degrees are expensive on their own, not to mention the lost income from not working all those years.
Christians are fucking nutters, dont let their nonsense dictate your life choices.
As happy as I am for you to see your stupid ex's downgrading, you shouldn't focus so much on it. The fixation is unhealthy.
Like for example, how do you know your ex has less sex? If the answer is 'we still talk' then that could be the reason these guys don't take you seriously.
You sound like you are probably too nice and give them more than they deserve. This includes talking to them or being friends with them after breaking up.
There's no need to have anything to do with them after the relationship unless you have children.
Don't look them up on social media, don't message them, don't worry about who they are currently dating.
Anyway, all the best anon, I'm sure you'll find someone who doesn't act like a douche.
I don't know what you want to major in but, can't you go to a less expensive college nearby? Or maybe a community college then transfer. Also, have you applied for financial aid? Even if you think you don't qualify for any, you should. You would be surprised. Once you get to a certain age too your parent's income doesn't matter. I personally think it's insane to go to an out of state college and pay out of pocket.
You really don't have that many options as far as finances.
1- You pay them out of pocket
2- you receive financial aid
4- a combo of some/all
You will have to get on this if you actually want to go that school.
You can defer again. I doubt they would rescind your offer over any of this. You really should call someone at the school like the financial aid office. Good luck.
I used to think dating virgins would help with that entitled attitude that men have about who they date, but now I'm actually dating one and am in a similar situation to you. He was so lonely that I thought he'd be more grateful to have someone who finally loves him but it feels like all he does is compare me to other women like he thinks they'll actually give him the time of day. They are more deluded than normal men.
I hope you can move on from him and enjoy the fact that the man who used to call you fat is now fat himself. There's some justice in that.
Not that anon but I think there's a difference in how most female artists treat drawing sexy girls and how men do.
Lesbians/bi women usually draw even conventionally attractive women with a personality, a narrative, something that goes beyond shallow male gaze shit. When I draw conventionally attractive women I'm interested in their facial expression, the way they wear clothes, the personality they convey ; that's what I deem to be "sexy". I've never met a man who was aroused by that rather than the typical brainlet big titted anime gf shit.
nta I'm a lesbian and I don't mind you drawing that. In fact, having big tits myself it's nice to know other lesbians are into it because when I browse lesbian subreddits it's mostly kristen stewert type of body and it makes me feel a bit down.
sorry for the blog post
her character design is tragic and you have bad taste. her head is pathetically tiny. she has a literal pinhead. she's totally anatomically fucked and the games suffer because they use her unnecessary sexualization as crutch. >>430118
i think you're being too generous. the only real difference i see when it comes to lesbians or bisexuals who draw big boobed women all day is that they're more artistically skilled and understand anatomy. they highly internalize the male gazey shit when they do do this stuff and it doesn't deserve a pass just because they get turned on by it. it's one thing if their art wasn't primarily consumed by men, but it will be and it is
Anon you replied to and kindly fuck off, just like >>430118
said all my sexy female characters have a developed personality, different styles and character histories. I fucking hate the narrative that lesbians have to only enjoy wholesome quirky neighborhood girls, butch warriors or mature mommy kink types. I like beautiful, sexy girls with big tits and that's that. It doesn't equal perfect harem stereotype big tiddy goth gf meant for male gaze. >>430120
Big tiddies are my favourite kind anon, I just always feel like it's shamed because the sexualization of breasts is so male-oriented. I don't find the Kristen Stewart type attractive at all.
I'm a Kiwi lurker because I like people watching, but it seems like the user base has grown so much that it's attracting these /pol/ mgtow self-obsessed edgelord types that are just insufferable. A lot of threads are now getting the plague tag because people can't just fuck off to their own corners of the internet anymore.
And yes, I know they were never a beacon of righteousness, but I believe that if you want to be a stupid tool on the internet then people should be allowed to discuss you on the internet. Free speech and dark humor, mate. Unfortunately, sites like that will always attract some forms of cantankerous garbage.
Personal rant ; I'm so sick of people making everything about gender and generalizing.
"Oh, this one woman did a horrible thing, bitches be crazy!" Uh, no? She's a horrible person regardless of her vag. "OMG you did this? Of course you did, you CIS man!" Uh, no? He did it because he's a thoughtless twit regardless of his penis.
Gender politics are important, don't get me wrong, but can more people just see others as… you know, people? The same can be said with any form of stereotyping and judgement (racism, ageism, albietism, ect) - I'm just noticing the gender thing more and more IRL.
Oh no, I didn't realize every piece of art you create needs to be a fucking political stand. Why would anyone ever use art for self-expression and creating something you enjoy and see as beautiful and desirable? How vulgar!
Honestly, you can call me a nasty pervert making the world worse all you want, you can't make me care. I don't owe anything to other artists. I'm not even a professional myself and do something completely different for my day to day job so there's no need to pander to whichever crowd feels offended by my work. I just don't give a shit. Save your pearl clutching for someone who is threatened by bleeding heart moralfags on the internet. Or your socially aware hugbox.
Oh, and I absolutely objectify sexy men too. There's just no stopping my degeneracy. In the end all it boils down to is ~le real artisté~ being salty that shallow, sexy artwork sells a lot better than ~true art~. It's not my fault the big crowd is just as horny as I am and loves fast food garbage that is sexy art.
Hi! I'm the Anon of the original post and I appreciate what you're saying!
But I moreso mean I do want to diversify myself SOMETIMES, but when I do I feel judged.
Because I am fat! I just don't like looking at my body and having to face that shit when I draw!! Donuts like double oof
for me do I'm prob gonna stay in my sexy art corner lmao.>>430082
Aw man thank you!! It means a lot to hear that, I just get really down a lot when I think about progress I missed out on by focusing on sexy stuff!!>>430107
Know this convo has died down (and generally sorry this caused a ruckus) but I personally really like Bayo! She's one of those REALLY fuckin cheesy and awful personalities that I grew to love.
When I was younger, still not fully sure if I was a lesbian. I defended the SHIT out of her not getting the problem.
Now that I'm older and more aware - I do see why people wouldn't like her and her design. Her proportions, even if passed off of models, were pretty weird the first game!!
I like hot girls, but I also like non conveniently attractive girls a lot too.
I think there is a convo to be had about lesbians and how sometimes they do contribute to stigmas(?) maybe. But the male gaze, in my opinion, is going to happen no matter what. I think it's a little heavy to push blame on lesbians as if they're on the same level as men if that makes sense??
Honestly, men will find a way to make every thing appeal to them and their fetishes even when they're not being catered to. Just look at how even Animal Crossing characters have disgusting porn made of them, or how Shadman manages to ruin everything under the sun for his retarded audience.
We can't judge whether anon's art actually caters to the male gaze without seeing it, but at least she's drawing something she enjoys. I think encouraging women to produce work according to their own tastes (regardless of whether we ourselves like those tastes) is the best way to have the art scene (and specifically NSFW art) be less saturated with men all drawing the same shit.
it's not a complaint about anon and her art, exactly, really. it's more about women's art that does end up getting really famous>>430193
your reaction is disproportionate to my criticism. this is what i mean with every single lesbian or bisexual woman that makes and publishes her 'sexy' art or anyone that complains about sexy art. if it's ever made by a woman, no matter how popular, it's always fine. the conversation can't even be had without lesbians or bisexual women getting overly upset. like, disagree with me all you want, but don't act like i just attacked you with a machete, it's totally ridiculous. i really don't expect anyone to change or anything, i'm just saying, the conversation can't even be had or the influence acknowledged, small as that impact may be, without people blowing up about how much they like it, so it's a huge affront to them and their sexuality
I love you! I wish I could support your art (and enjoy it myself)>>430175
>>430193>getting this defensive over masturbating to your own tiddy art
Suck a titty and calm down, oppai crusader.
I draw lewd art of women too, I just don't spread it around 'cause it's not what the world needs. It's not drawing big tits that I'm mocking, but anons acting like they're heroes for doing so and reeee-ing when it's (rightfully) pointed out that scrotes are gonna crank their chodes to it anyway.
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I might escape NEETdom soon, I'll maybe even work in a super cute environment selling fancy cosmetics.
First thing I'll do once I get a stable job is get a little (rescue) dog
>>430190>as a scapegoat to not think about the impact of their work
The absolute nerve. As if everyone had a strict duty to address this, and needed to scapegoat or excuse anything. Do you have even a single drop of self awareness? Pushing duties on people who don't care and attacking them for not caring (for the actions of OTHERS, no less) is a quick way to make enemies and create animosity. A quick way to make them want to do the opposite of what you say. >>430193
Rock on, anon, keep drawing whatever the fuck you like
I went through something similar a while back, and I just want to say I know giving up on someone that important to you is hard, but I also think you're doing the right thing.
If she can suddenly put you down like that, you aren't really her best friend. Or, maybe she has a very different idea of what friendship is. Either way, you can't have meant as much to her as she did to you, and she doesn't sound like someone who deserves to receive your friendship.
If you were as important to her, as she clearly is to you, then she wouldn't have been able to think these awful things about you. She would have resisted such an idea. So, I don't think she can have respected you, and even if it hurts, of course it's better to know.
Maybe she has a new vocabulary to put you down with, but I think this was always there within her, and I think it always will be there. As you grieve for here (and it is grief, and the fact you feel it for her and not the other way around shows who's in the right), you'll realise more and more that she wasn't as good a friend as you wanted her to be. You'll realise you were doing a lot of work, in your own head, to justify her behaviour towards you. You'll realise you're grieving for the girl you thought you knew.
I might sound edgy, but from the time my former friend told me she wanted me to burn in hell for all eternity for liking girls, until now, I've learnt two things. Firstly, it is not worth the effort to stay friends with someone like that, especially not when there are new friends to be made, who will accept you for who you are. And if you're brave enough to decide that you deserve them (and that's hard to do, I know it sounds cheesy, but it took me years,) you will find them.
Secondly? If someone tells you that they don't respect you, believe them. They mean it. If you wait for them to change, if you make excuses for their behaviour? They will hurt you, again and again, until you decide you've had enough. She's showing you her real self. If you let her, she'll make you feel like human garbage for the rest of your life.
You are not human garbage.
Sorry for multiple posts, this just felt really important for me to say and I wanted to get it right. Guess this was a lot off my chest too.
anon i failed mine twice and my mom had to drive me to fkn college for a while. it was embarrassing. i feel you. what made you fail?
the first testers i had were pretty rude to me and made my cry for making really small mistakes. sometimes you just need to let RNG take its course and give you a nice instructor who will treat you like a human being.
keep trying. i'm really glad i didn't give up, i love driving now.
Just wanted to say sorry for your experiences anon. I'm nowhere near "mannish" but I too have to step back from lolcow at times because the comments get to be too much. Depending on how much a cow is hated, they can never be good enough, and it's hard to keep seeing that on a website that mostly makes fun of female lolcows. I realize every post is behind an individual with their own issues and insecurities, but I don't see how they can't even feel a little
bad about their comments sometimes. Sometimes when I post something mean about appearances, I cringe. I'm not cringing over being mean towards the cow in question (clearly most don't care), but being mean towards whoever is reading it, relates with the flaw, and feels attacked by what I posted.
It just feels like collateral damage and I feel shitty for doing it, esp knowing I've felt that way before by posts that I've read.
I guess if I were an unfeeling chan bitch I could play it off like it never bothers me but I do think about it quite often. I try my best to watch what I type.
Most driving instructors are major pricks. And don't get me wrong-I know why they have to be sometimes. Their job is to be passengers in vehicles with new drivers who sometimes do undeniably ignorant shit like swerve into oncoming traffic or floor it into yards.
I just wish they wouldn't be rude over the small shit. I didn't fail my first driver's test but the guy who was my instructor made sure to let me know that I almost had. I even took driver's ed and this asshole acted like I needed to reread the literature on driving because my parallel parking wasn't good-a fail actually-and because I sped up to 17mph in a 15mph zone.
Don't give up, there are just people in this world who when given a little bit of authority tend to abuse it.
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>go to Lidl
>see loose cherries on sale
>hell yeah, haven't had cherries in like 5 years
>sun seems to be shining brighter, birds seem to be louder etc
>go home with the purchase
>get ready for feasting
>they fucking taste like peaches or something, no cherry taste whatsoever
also they're yellow on the inside instead of red? are like western cherries different or something?
I'm sorry, anon. I realize it comes with the territory but the sperging about women's appearances here is ridiculous sometimes. (It's extra ridiculous in the Kpop thread where they shit on Koreans for having high beauty standards and then immediately pick apart female idols looks.)
I would recommend staying away from the "women shilled as attractive" thread if you don't already, it's pure cancer. I would also recommend keeping up with the pink pill and gender critical threads to remind yourself that others don't get to decide who gets to be a woman, or decide your value.>>430234>honestly it's easier to read mean comments from men that mean comments from women
I feel the same.
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BurgerAnnon here and I have never seen a cherry thats 'yellow on the inside'. By some quick googling I found this. Maybe you got a jamacin cherry?
it's lidl so I don't think it's anything THAT fancy, also these almost look like hawthorn apples? so cute! honestly not even bothered with the colour, they just taste NOTHING like cherries! like they are juicy and fresh, the right texture etc but just the taste is absent.>>430237>>430239
that's probably what it is but I'm very disproportionately stumped as I was so excited for that ~chldhood taste~ lol, have never had cherries like these so I thought it could be a regional difference maybe. had a similar disappointment when i first bought store-variety of blueberries and they tasted nothing like the forest ones, major deja vu rn
Because all lgbt care about the rights of poc and all poc care about the rights of lgbt, amirite?
It's only those ebul womenz who solely care about their own problems.
Isn't this how anyone who is/was sheltered would become aware of social issues ? They'd either learn about it from others and their experience, or experience something themselves. The latter is more likely to stick with them because of the personal aspect.
I really don't see the issue unless they never evolve past shallow "this affects me personally so it's bad, everything else is fair game" shit, and the original post didn't imply that to me.
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I think I was after sweet cherries? back home they're all called chereshnya (not sure if that's Russian for cherry or just the most popular soviet cultivar of cherries), they're big, very dark and on the sweet side but with that cherry taste still. legit thought it's like bananas or corn where altho different varieties do exist, there's only one mainstream one/not much deviation. serves me right for trusting lidl!
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hope yours taste better than mine! I think they were from Spain, they did have that slightly lighter colour like bing does tho, pic related was the insides. maybe it's the same sort of sitch as with tomatoes where they choose the more firm and easy to transport cultivars and loose out on flavour as a trade-off? getting some educational moments out of my disappointment kek
Rainier cherries are yellow on the inside and taste different from the typical cherry. But I’d be surprised if you managed to find them sold loose like that if you don’t live in Washington state, and they’re golden and pink on the outside, which probably would turn you off if you were looking for red cherries.
Minor tangent, but everyone keeps managing to buy out all the Rainier cherries before I can get my hands on them. I’m gonna be pissed if I don’t manage to eat any before they go out of season,
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I always hate visiting family because of my mother. One of my aunts was telling the story of how her son almost died because they started developing seizures and one happened while he was showering. Once she was done with her story my mom had to chime in with her usual pseud-science.
>He needs to form his diet around his zodiac sign
>The sezuires are a way of his body trying to fast naturally
>Have you tried out 'my MLM'
>He should become vegan!
Its so annoying because I think I was the one who started her descent into all that hippy health stuff. When I was diagnosed with diabetes as a child she turned to natural cures to cope with it, but she never out grew the cope so she's insufferable.
Also she believes in zodiac signs to the point she's zodiac-ist.
>Its because they're a (zodiac sign)
Like she blames everyone's failures on their zodiac sign to the point it isn't even funny. She'll assume your entire personality on your zodiac sign. Also before anyone asks her zodiac sign is super spiritual special snowflake of the bunch.
I'd love to meet your mother, I'm a triple leo (sun/moon/rising) and am the most introverted, stage-frightened, don't-look-at-me bitch ever. everyone I know agrees I'm nothing like my zodiac. it's bunk.
I love being a triple leo I just wish I had literally any of the traits
Geez who pissed in your coffee? Just because she didn’t mention it doesn’t mean she’s bothered by it.>>430046
KF has been garbage ever since Trump got elected and it became another alt right platform. The Events and Article subfourm is by far the worst thing on that site and that’s saying something. A lot of people there are straight up racist too. At this point it’s Stormfront lite
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There was a woman I worked under in a company that was basically the head of the HR department. I felt like she had it absolutely in for me because I had previously had inappropriate relations with a coworker before she even joined our company but hung it over my head. Anything deemed inappropriate she would drag me into, saying that I had a history of such behavior, I was a bad influence on newer employees, and should know better as an established employee when I literally did nothing but work in the same section as the alleged perpetrators. No one liked her and she ended up having to leave her post very early. Everyone assumed she was fired for doing a poor job and only having the bosses back even though she was suppose to be there for us. Find out later from someone in her section that she actually got breast cancer and had to take a leave of absence. I feel absolutely no sympathy for her since she made it her goal to get as many people as possible fired or on the chopping block (myself included) just to appease higher ups when that literally wasn’t in her job description. I hope all her hair fell out and she’s miserable for making us absolutely despondent and walk on eggshells for a year and a half and wrecking my career and many others with false accusations. Fucking gossip monger, go eat a cockroach.
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Officially not a NEET anymore! I just got the job. I'm so fucking happy guys, I was really sick of being the huge loser of my group with no job and no education.
Can't wait to finally adopt a dog, it's been my dream since I was a teen but I was always either leeching off my parents and / or financially unstable.
Imagine being so toxic
you wish someone has horrible chemo. No one wants or needs you anon. Fix yourself you're clearly damaged
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>date girl with vitiligo
>start getting obsessed with it
>Lesbian dating pool is already very small in rural south and it's hard to find lesbians I consider physically attractive
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Only sort of related to your post, but I wonder about this. In the same way that some people use melanotan to darken their skin, or glutathione to whiten their skin, has anybody tried to induce vitiligo? Is there even any substance that can do that?
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My dream dog is a cute maltese. But I plan to adopt a rescue dog so I'm open to every and any dog, I'll probably end up with a mutt.
you should look into breed specific rescue groups! I got my purebred golden retriever from a rescue. https://www.americanmalteserescue.org
is one for maltese or look up your specific state/region!
If he knew you in the least it's very simple to buy something thoughtful or useful. Most people even enjoy a birthday card with a meaningful message with something like a gift card someplace. He didn't need to ask, and it almost sounds like a copout. Most friends tell friends to not get them anything as a polite gesture.
He sounds like an ass, not you.
>>430384>Go to hospital please
Popping in to emphasize this. I can name three people who hit their heads, felt fine afterwards, and then died later that day.
Obviously you have't died, but head injuries are a big deal. Physical trauma to the head especially insidious because your ability to gauge the severity is nullified.
Please please please see a professional. And dump your bf, ofc
anon thats just russian for cherry… your lidl probably just had them imported from somewhere
and maybe it's just a bad harvest, kinda with how you sometimes get strawberries that are very watery and tasteless
just bad luck
NTAYRT but congrats on getting a job! I hope you'll find the dog right for you. Malteses are so fucking cute, but if you do get a mutt, at least you can live with the knowledge that they'll hopefully not have as many genetic health issues that purebreds tend have!
My dad wants a maltese so bad. We have a pekingese right now, first dog I've ever had and I didn't even know the breed existed before we got her, but I'm fucking obsessed. Never though I'd be a breed loyal bitch (especially for such a pain in the ass dog), but here I am lol.
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I started talking to a cute boy at work, nothing serious just casual "who are you" sort of stuff. why he moved to the area, where he came from, etc. etc. (First interaction was him asking my age and I swore I thought i hear him say "Me too" but it was loud. I spaghettied and asked his star sign then) He's about an inch or two taller than be and Strong and sometimes i get to see him when he's worked up a sweaty glow.
He calls me over one day and we work together for an hour or two. He's even got a cute accent. And Tattoos.
But since I'm not an idiot I go home and put on my Miner's Helmet.
Boy's nine years older than me. Boy has a marriage cert from 2010. Boy has "Married to …" in his facebook. Boy references "two kids" in once facebook post.
Kill me now
I've read too much into his niceties
me again lmao. I did a shift today with different people and jfc.
- The shop was a fucking mess. There was a pile of like 30 clothes stacked up on the only till, but I get yelled at for having a few silica packets on the floor?
- One person had their phone on loud (we aren't allowed our phones on the shop floor) and ther ringtone went off 3 times whilst they were serving. They then took all of the calls on the shop floor (they weren't work related)
- The shop wasn't closed properly at all. So many jobs weren't done, but I get yelled at if I don't do everything 100% perfectly?
- Several people made the same mistake I made the other day with the receipt log, but none of them were given a formal write up.
- The till was down A LOT, but they faked the paperowrk
I know I'm being picked on, but jfc I didn't realise it was this crazy. I don't understand why I am held to an impossible standard.
Also many customers made comments on the fact that our stuff is never full price, which is misleading because people aren't getting the deal they think they are. We've been told to tell everyone we comply with the law. We aren't even trying to pretend we aren't a scammy buisness at this point.
All of this wouldn't be that bad, but I have a terrible home life. So I have a shit day at work, then come home to more shit.
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You're both wrong, pomeranians are the best dogs.
But still, I hope you enjoy your puppers.
I decided a long time ago that I wanted to have my pet dog interred in this beautiful pet cemetery just a little bit outside of the city we live in. I knew it was going to cost me a couple grand for the cremation, plot of land, gravemarker, urn, and the one time perpetual maintenance fee to make sure her grave would never be disturbed even after my entire family passes away.
My dad decided that he wanted her buried whole. I didn't argue with him too much about it because my grandmother was cremated and he didn't get any say in it, so I feel like this is the least I could do, but it's getting ridiculous. He wanted the nicest, most expensive casket and gravemarker, and to have her picture engraved on the gravemarker. It's going to be more than double how much it was already going to cost. He said he'll cover the costs of everything else and I just have to cover the maintenance fee (still a very, very hefty amount of money), but I think it's fucking ridiculous to do so much for a pet that's not even going to be alive anymore. He constantly spends money like it's water, and my mom has to sort out how to pay for all of his stupid shit, and he's going to do it again with my dog's funeral. What's the point in driving yourself further in debt for a pet that's no longer here?
I picked out this cemetery because I wanted a place where I could come back and visit no matter where I would move to in the future, and so I didn't have to worry about moving with her ashes. I know that that's already ridiculous, having my dog interred in a cemetery, but it's what I wanted. Blowing so much extra fucking money on a stupid fancy casket and gravemarker is a whole other level. Holy shit she's a dog. She doesn't give a fuck. I'm pissed that he's okay with spending that money AFTER she's gone, when he always complained about how much her vet bills cost and was always reluctant to take her. We just had a death scare the other week, but she's doing much better now, and it'll probably cost me a couple hundred to redo all the testing and possibly more medication, but that's fine with me because the money I spend with her now to keep her healthy and with me is nothing to me. After she's gone though? What's the point other than just some basic niceties on her grave spot?
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AYRT I love poms too! But damn, put me in front of a peke and I won't be able to help but want to take it home.
Have you ever seen Oaksoosoo? Fuckin' love this pom so much https://www.instagram.com/oaksoosoo/?hl=en
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family never liked me that much but they hate me for withdrawing my medical school application after I got accepted
This is me but with law school. For some reason I'm more reviled in my family for getting an MA than my cousins who don't have any education with one literally having a criminal record.
Suppose I don't kiss and manipulate enough ass to appease the narcissists. Oh well.
Reminds me of someone I know, they quit their stable job with a comfortable salary in hopes of becoming a film dierctor at the age of 32 with no past experince or projects done before except for some video edits for their seflies on imovie… now their partner is spending on them and they're literally begging for everything and won't get a minimum wage job because they're better than this.
Share the link to his channel though.
What a fucking idiot.
But you know what? I hope the new job opening for professor goes to a better hopeful who will be grateful for the opportunity.
>>430727>in hopes of becoming a film director at the age of 32
Dear god, why do some people want to live mediocre lives.
And sure anon: it's https://www.youtube.com/user/aragusea
. It's a cooking channel; one of his videos went viral and he basically got a bunch of subscribers overnight. Like I said his stuff gets a ton of views and he seems to have a decent fanbase. I just wouldn't quit my job over it.
(Not sure if this is against the rules or not but just in case: this all public information, even him quitting his job since he announced it in an article about himself that's available to the public online.)>>430729
I hope so too anon, honestly after seeing how non-committed to the job he was it seems like future students are better off with someone else.
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My boyfriend lied to his parents to close our LDR (long distance relationship) gap and now they're pissed off at me.
We met online almost 2 years ago, and we've been planning to meet up and eventually live together after 14 months. Everything went smoothly- I transitioned easily into working in this new state and he had two jobs and his own apartment already. He's 20, I'm 22.
I recently made a facebook to talk to my family after being homesick and he mistakenly posted our relationship status publically and his mom had seen. He didn't realize she would see, so when she did and texted her, it turned out he lied. A lot.
About where I'm from, how we met, what I've been through. Everything. She confronted him about this and he expected me to completely play along as if I knew anything about it at all. I'm pissed and sick to my stomach because I've been completely open and honest about our relationship to my family and friends. Not only has his lying made me seem untrustworthy, but now neither of his parents want anything to do with me because of it.
It hurt my feelings a ton, but he's not understanding why. He ruined what could have been a good thing but now I just want to go home.
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Sorry in advance for the long post
>from shitty third world country, living abroad since I was 19 (am now in mid-20s), consider new country my home, home country is unlivable
>Stayed long enough to technically qualify for citizenship, passed language test etc, but they always give me short term visas and you can't apply without already having a long-term visa (family or stable work)
>need one document to renew visa this month, long wait because it's a court process, need family member to request it in my home country
>this time it will be a long-term one and I'll finally be considered an equal and able to work full time, get healthcare and qualify for citizenship
>my mom completely fucks it up and now I have to wait even longer
>might not get new visa on time before this one expires because mom fucked up everything and has to be babysat for everything technology related
>if visa expires I'll have to wait 4 to 7 more years to qualify because I would be in the country illegally for a short time
But wait, there's more
>Need money to pay for visa fees
>Invoicing issues delayed my salary
>Have less than 10€ on my bank account because bf works at a startup that can't secure funding and hasn't been paid for 4 months, I had to use the last of my money on rent (because his boss promised he'll be paid "maybe next week" for some weeks now) and he promised me we'll be fine and he'll pay me back
>used up all of my savings (for doctors, rent, small fund for a japan trip I've been wanting to visit for 11 years) on bills and rent for the both of us because he supported me in the past
>We both eat only once or twice a day and go to bed hungry so we can sleep it off
>My job is very physical so I'm very slow and tired because I have no time to eat in the morning and I'm always hungry
>Do a poor job and have started getting bad reviews, which can lead to getting fired, plus I'm very slow and clumsy by nature so I know I'll never be really good at what I do but I have no choice but to do it
But wait, there's more
>have no experience in my field because I've been stuck cleaning, cooking, wiping asses etc for years to support myself
>applying for jobs since January and have not once been even called back while all my friends and classmates get decent to good jobs, my CV is all over the place because I have creative hobbies and projects but studied physics, and little experience
>Everyone's saying "why don't you have a good job lined up yet, you were the smartest girl in class" as if I want to clean, cook and wipe asses all my life
>My teeth hurt a lot but I can't afford to get them fixed so I have to take paracetamols on an empty stomach
Someone stop this Kafka ass shit right now.
His family sounds shitty. They obviously believe anything he does. I would never automatically dislike my son's gf.
Save money to get your own place some day if need be.
god, i feel you so hard anon. it's like, no matter how much you reach out or what kind of attempts you make to either keep friendships or make new ones, it's all fruitless and leaves you at the place you started: alone.
sage for not adding any real contribution or advice, i just came here to vent about the same thing and saw what you posted.
Thanks, but I'm not american. We do have a lot of rescue group here but breed specific rescue groups are unheard of.>>430572
Thanks ! That's what I tell myself to, I was very shocked when my uncle adopted a purebred dog and he ended up blind after developing glaucoma in both eyes and almost died due to kidney failure in the first three years of his life. >>430711
That shit all absolutely blows anon. I am truly sorry. Simply reading all that, I started clutching my head in anxiety.
I wish I could throw a couple hundred bucks at you
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My mood has been all over the place.
One moment I'm running around, dancing and laughing. The next I'm just feeling like shit and laying in bed all day wanting to just cry. why is this happening to me. I wish it would stop.
This is incredibly bizarre, with some differences this is incredibly similar to a situation I was in once (LDR, new country, learning new language, living with parents who have a weird relationship, and sociopath druggie brother)
Idk where you are in your relationship with your bf anon, but time, securing our work lives, and moving into our own place helped. I get that it’s stressful to be in the middle of someone else’s shit (especially when you already have your own), but unless you can make yourself independent you’ll be trapped. Ask yourself if it’s viable for you to make yourself independent in the country you’re already in, or if it makes more sense to go back to your home country and prepare there. Be honest with yourself and don’t let idea of “being wrong” about your previous decisions stop you.
It’s your life and your sanity. Don’t let someone’s (i.e. your family’s) opinion about the choices you’ve made for yourself stop you.
I think you're right but it's more about issues in general. Absentee parenting, abuse, trauma, etc. Women and girls are always expected to cope quietly, lest we be called attention seekers, while men and boys are coddled and called brave for opening up about it.
It makes me extremely pissed off.
I see this a lot and if you look at (incel)sites like Reddit you see a lot of men blaming their failures in life on the fact that they had no male role models and didn't get to learn how to be a ~real man~ and they get so much sympathy, as if they were tortured by their mothers or something.
But of course the struggle of the mothers and the sisters aren't even discussed cause who cares right?
blogpost: I grew up with a father figure, but one who is mentally ill and whose issues showed up in my teens. My father had a horrible childhood and people excuse that a lot, but it feels like no one like those incels would excuse mine or my paternal aunt's even if I told them some of the horror stories I've gone through and would just blame "daddy issues" because I was older when they happened or because it "wasn't that bad" which I'm not saying is wrong, my dad definitely had it worse, but it matters. Like oh lol you have daddy issues, that's why you dated an older man, not that I was a mildly naive shit who tried to judge based on character and managed to land a manchild, or that maybe it's fucked up for that man to have reeled me in instead of rejecting me. We have a complicated relationship because I ended up feeling like my brothers' father figure due to some of the situations, and people tell me I didn't need to be or I'm not, but what am I supposed to do? Just let my mom handle everything? My aunt did all of the "daddy issue" shit like having babies, hard drugs, being a prostitute, and it's just sad, no one in my family would ever mock it like that, but I'm sure there are people who would mock her but praise my dad because my dad made it mostly out of the cycle at least externally, his issues are just what we see and stem directly from maternal abuse and abuse from father figures and not having his father in the picture.
I don't have it nearly as bad as a lot of fatherless people or people with really abusive
fathers, but the cycle of abuse trickles down and makes broken people if they don't become horrid abusers themselves. It's fucking sad, not something to mock in girls who try to come out about it. Do they really believe not having a good father figure is a tragedy for men but pornographic and just whiny for women? It's a fucking tragedy regardless.
sorry sage for doubleposting/samefagging, IATA: I forgot to mention, the mother in his case was abusive
and kept being abused by subsequent fathers of her children, boyfriends, etc and she wanted men like her father, who I think was gone a lot in the military, she was chasing after him through men my parents think. The father of her child/children left her for her close friend, leaving her with the kids..how isn't that heartbreaking? How is that just daddy issues? Fuck those men, let them live the life of someone who has had someone's child and ended up repeatedly abandoned and abused. I'd love to see them live with a uterus and have to carry babies to term only to have the father leave them and beat them, maybe then they'd fucking understand. How can women who have never had children get it, but they can't?
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I'm the anon you replied to and I'm really sorry that you had to go through all of that. I was dealing with a lot of emotional abuse too and you just tend to carry that shit with you alone and it takes you almost your entire life trying to get past that but I truly hope you're in a better place now- physically and mentally.
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I don't know what's wrong with me. I feel empty and bored of people and I feel like it's a lot of trouble keeping up with them and don't really care about getting to know new people. If I didn't have sexual urges a lot, I'd think I was schizoid.
It probably has to do with how I've grown up. I never had a family since I was born, it's just been me and my mom and my mom neglected me and when she didn't, I was the victim of her anger and stress. I didn't have any friends growing up except for one really good one online that lived across the country. Loved her the most, took her for granted and lost her. Miss her everyday and feel like I'll never bond with anyone like I did with her again. I was harshly bullied at school and when I came home, it was the same thing. I always thought I wanted a boyfriend, I got one, got another one, they didn't make me feel anything special either.
I don't know if it's because I'm not meeting the right people or what.
I sincerely wish I could feel connected to others.
That sounds especially annoying and gave me a bit of anxiety while reading it. I'm very sorry anon.
It makes me thankful that my parent's lived in LA while Richard Ramirez was at large lol
…Dump his ass, anon. I know that's the stock answer here but it is also usually the correct one.>tranny porn>tiny dick>everything else
My bunny just passed away only about 2 weeks after I got her. I took great care of her, gave her proper food, hay, and water, she still died. It was my dumbass fault for buying her from a shitty pet store when I know damn well they all get their bunnies from breeders. Not sure if this is the right thread for this but I needed to get it off my chest.
Anyway RIP Mia.
Fuck… why are you with him in the first place?>>431222
Rip Mia, she is in a better place now
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My whole family is mental but this one in particular is the worst.
>Always in the victim mentality
>Married 3 times
>Threw her kids from previous marriage on her parents who are old
>Married to a younger man with 7 years age gap
>Wants more kids from her current husband to fix her failing marriage
>Damaged body image
>No sense of self
>Had work done
>Thinks she is one of those Instathots
>Aggressive 98% of the time
>Teases people all the time
>When someone fights back she does what she is good at: playing the victim
>Can't take care of animals despite always bringing them to die in her flat
>Has a depressed cat who is fur on a skeleton
>Refuses to do therapy or get any form of help
>But SHE is the victim and will fight you if you say otherwise
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I want to desperately leave my NEETdom. Been shut in for 5 years and I have a very big fear of men. Last time I went outside which was in November 2018, I caught a man smiling at me and the second I got home I threw up from fear/anxiety. I want to be normal so badly, but I don't know how to help myself.
Wow what a cow!>>431253
Oh anon, I'm sorry you are stuck. Find a female therapist that you can visit maybe. Just avert your eyes and wear a baseball cap to the appointment. Or ask a woman to drive you. Eventually she will help you learn ways of coping with the anxiety you feel.
Please don't let men keep you from living and experiencing the world.
You should go away for your birthday.
If your boyfriend won't go with you, go somewhere to visit a friend for a couple of days. Reclaim your birthday.
Cantonese. I'm learning Mandarin but I don't know enough to understand their conversations, and they don't know enough English to talk to me much.>>431305>>431311>>431319
Thanks anons, I was a bit worried I was being selfish. I'll ask my boyfriend if we could spend just his mom's birthday with them instead of the whole week-end, and go on a date the next day. All I want is to spend some quality time with him on my birthday.
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One meal a day is super easy to do EXCEPT on weekends when I'm home and food is readily available, plus having the time to go out and there's literal food places across the street. The temptation is always around. It's not even that I have much in the way of snacks, my hungry ass just wants to get up and cook a full meal.
I've already had canned kippers and two slices of bacon. I was hoping the protein in me would stave the hunger. That was three hours ago and I could already eat again. It's not even noon.
The weekend has been exceptionally long due to the holiday and I'm actually alright with going back to work tomorrow.
At least when I'm at work I sip black coffee and tell myself the food there is shitty and also expensive for what someone gets. Of course there's work to do so my mind is occupied on anything other than food.
I guess it wouldn't be a bad idea to go to the gym today but I hate struggling so much.
>mfw compulsively looking at shit online that I can't afford to take my mind off it
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I moved to a new place and I'm trying to decorate my room based on some old stuff I had plus some newer things. Everything seems like a hodge podge of shit at worst and vaguely related at best. I wish I had a more cohesive theme, but the problem is I'm so attached to the stuff I have that I don't want to get rid of anything and to replace anything with something new costs money that I don't have.
Weebshit in one corner, girly antiques and witchy shit in the other, pastel rainbow crap, cheap Target chic, pet tank; and it's all tied together with that generic apartment complex beige-faintly-yellow walls that I'm not allowed to paint over and the god awful carpeting.
One meal a day just sounds like you're fucking up your body though, I can't think why you would do that?
Snack on vegetables, keep busy, drink water, move your big meal to lunch and instead have fruit or yogurt for breakfast
Brainless desk job where interact with people and do chart entries. It's not stressful.>>431331
I've had a lot of weight loss success with it. I take vitamin supplements in case I don't always have a good day but >>431334
is right. Someone mentioned omad on here awhile ago so I went to a subreddit to learn more about it. tl;dr there's no such thing as starvation mode and unless one dangerously undereats there aren't issues.
I was the type of person who'd take advice like yours and run away with it. Like I'd eat the yogurt breakfast, veggie snacks, fruit, drink plenty of water, yet still want to binge at the end of the day. This diet works for me because it gives me a stricter structure and a goal to focus on.
Typical day is vitamin supplements before work with water, a couple cups of black dark roast coffee at work, more water, and then 1200 calories to work with at dinnertime. If I have
to cheat like what happened today, I do all protein and low carb.
I'm laughing because that anon thinks cheap produce
are going to be the only result of cheap labor.
What she ought to be concerned about is the flux of educated, desperate people fleeing their home countries who don't mind working under what we would consider terrible conditions in fields that aren't just agriculture and manual labor for sub $15/hr.
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I turned 24 a few days ago and I'm so frustrated and embarrassed that I have nothing to show for it.
No college education, good job or my own place. The only thing I kind of have going for myself is a nice body that I worked hard for.
Having no money fucking sucks.
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hey all, it's >>430185
anon again with a small update: i haven't reached out to that now-ex-best friend since that text exchange i mentioned, nor have i heard from her. i will dip into even more blogging territory for this post to vent some more.
our friendship actually began when we were freshmen in high school – she was deeply immersed in her anorexia and after i'd confessed to her that i was struggling with eating disordered habits as well, that's mainly when we hit it off. not to mention me having dated her older brother the year prior and him having told me she was anorexic over summer break. i've always been naturally thin (extremely premie baby) and she ended up telling me i was who she'd wanted to look like when she began her "diet" the year before.
my relapses into my ed have always been tied to her since i'd learned that she idolized me, but our positions would be flipped. whenever she was doing poorly, i would be almost at a healthy weight and vice versa. it's like we'd trigger
after we graduated high school and i knew i wouldn't see her every day anymore (she goes to school out of state) i had the hardest relapse i'd ever experienced. she came down to see me that christmas and kept on about my kidneys failing if i kept going; i ignored her and continued on until she cut me off. i only recovered for her.
i've been what i'd consider "recovered" for the past year or so until the shit that happened with her the other day. this is why i say my relapses are tied to her – she abandons me and i immediately revert back to behaviors, worrying my partner who is now the only reason for me not to completely give up.
i'm beginning to realize that i always base my reasons to recover entirely on others and the fear of them abandoning me if i don't change, and never do it just for my own sake. i should talk to my therapist about it next session but i guess i just wanted to know if any other anons have ever been in a similar boat or had advice. i know now that my friendship with that particular woman was never healthy to begin with and i'm probably truly better off, but it still aches.
Well I had the same thoughts and told him similar thing (although in a nicer way), he got even more butthurt.
I don't know why he would straight up ignore something like that. Sounds like >>431399
is right. What does your bf do?
i've experienced this EXACT reaction to voicing displeasure at the way a conversation went with my bf. i think it's a defense mechanism for them to start calling you irrational because they can't handle being accused of carelessness. everyone is careless sometimes and steps on toes etc etc. it's difficult to resist letting them blow the argument up to be all about their feelings.
and they say women are too emotional lmao as if.
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I like diffusing essential oils because I like the smell. It drives me bonkers when I'm trying to find oils and the label says stupid shit like "Nighttime Blend" and "Relax" wtf no, just tell me what bullshit's in it. I feel like it's a sneaky way for manufacturers to add synthetic and cheap perfumey stuff.
it seems like its just water weight, anon
dont worry too much about it
its good to have a goal weight anon, but fluctuation is normal and inevitable, especially depending on what you're eating, how often you're eating, how much water you're drinking and at what point in your menstural cycle you're at. even if you reach your goal weight, you're still going to fluctuate a bit day to day and thats fine. like >>431471
said focus on how your clothes fit, your measurements and how you look visually.
is the problem that he's more in love with you or is the problem that he's obsessed with east asia? because it seems like the latter to me, and i can understand why that's a problem for you. why is it that all guys are that guy, gymbros, or elitist music/art assholes that are really emotionally abusive
? there are only 3 guys
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similar situation…very isolated childhood with neglectful parent, never shown affection in any form, other kids were freaked out by me, never learned to properly socialize.
moved in with my other parent at 15 who ended up being a womanchild who let me do what i want and so i just did drugs and hung out with loser drug nihilists and ruined my chance at a better future (i was a straight A student before this but fam is dirt poor and i dun goofed by not focusing on school more) my first experiences of socializing were with these dysfunctional pill popping hillbilly punks and that didn't set me up for social success.
decided not to die in the deep south with lortabs in my gut so i crawled north and went to art school (kek), didn't make a single friend. realized years later it was probably because i unconsciously alienated myself from others from the get-go and only other disordered people could put up with that. in retrospect all my occasional female friendships were toxic
i genuinely want to connect and with age i get better at talking to people/pretending to be normal and not a feral unsocialized tard like i truly am deep down, but the reality i dwell on at the end of every night is…i fucking hate these people. even if i do want friends, everyone my age is unbearable to be around. esp in the art hoe crowds.
had a hot bf who understood me but he went crazy from untreated schizophrenia and i couldn't deal with his retardation on top of my own so now i'm alone again lol. i think it really says something about me that the only person who could see me for who i am is batshit insane and the only people i draw in are weirdos. it also says something about me that i have no friends my age to vent this to and finally succumbed to blurting my ruminations out on a lolcowfarm vent thread after lurking /snow/ for a year and maybe posting 2 things ever.
maybe every single person on earth is crazy not just me and all the people i know and i shouldn't beat myself up so hard over it.
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I have problems with feeling neglected most of the time, if someone doesn't give me their 100% at any given situation I would feel hurt and sad for days ahead, I even lose my sleep at times.
I'm in a constant fear of losing people/people turning on me, I feel like I'm certain that I'm going to lose everyone eventually so I'm always on my toes when any minor thing happens (at some point I was fixing my makeup in the mirror and saw the in the reflection my friends at the time whispering and I felt in my guts it was about me and I was never the same with them again), I just crave constant attention and love and that is extremely unrealistic since everyone has their own shit going on too. I feel this way even with the closest people to me, and I sometimes push people away to the point they finally leave and I would feel happy that I "discovered" their true colours but surely I would feel regret later, this is complicated and I need to believe in myself again, I need to realise that I'm not as foul as I believe myself to be and people don't necessarily hate me if they didn't laugh at my jokes… I don't know how to do that though.
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being mixed race and looking racially ambiguous is so tiresome. i'm west african and north european, but look southeast asian. i don't identify with a racial group as people judge you based on what you look like, and don't feel like i "fit in" anywhere. people (mainly ~woke~ ppl on tumblr) constantly talk about mixed people having some sort of privilege, which might be the case, but our negative experiences tend to get ignored. in lots of cases, mixed people don't get fully "accepted" and end up feeling ostracized. the fetishization of mixed kids doesn't help either.
i'm not trying to make it seem like i am a victim, i just get upset sometimes as people constantly ask about my ethnicity or ask if i'm adopted when they see me with my family. i'm also tired of random guys w yellow fever on social media liking me because they think i am asian/part asian or because i look "exotic" lol. at least i can relate to meghan markle on some level i guess.
Anon is exaggerating but the USA does have a very skewed perception of race. They mostly care about a black vs white narrative, only care about Hispanics once in a while, and SJWs particularly have a weird vision of Asian Americans where they're basically second class white people who must atone for the sin of being the most successful immigrant group. They like big, broad categories that they can simplify to the max, and anyone who doesn't neatly fall in a category is going to face a lot of bullshit.
In Europe we have a bit more understanding of smaller categories like specific ethnicities, especially in countries that used to have colonies and have some specific historical groups resulting from that. I do think Western Europe is shifting to a more dumbed down, caricatural vision of race because of American influence though. A lot of people here stay updated on American politics yet know nothing about what's going in our country.
I’ll take “That’s bullshit” for $400, Alex>>431722>”Europe has a much more mature understanding of race in comparison to those stupid Americans”
I can smell the smugness from your post. America has a lot of issues with race, sure but to act like Europe doesn’t (and if it does, blaming it on American culture) is just ignorant on so many levels. They’re stuff you can do in Europe that you wouldn’t get away with that you can’t in the U.S in regards to race. And a lot of Europeans seem to have this elitist attitude towards anyone that has a different ethnicity than their nationality even if they were born and raised in the same European nation.
TL;DR: America has fucked to views on race but so does Europe
america: beginner level babby's first racism
europe: advanced level professional big boy racism
how come some people in the latter group are so proud of this?
>>431739>america: beginner level babby's first racism
>>431722>In Europe we have a bit more understanding of smaller categories like specific ethnicities>especially in countries that used to have colonies
Since when? The French are so retarded that they don't even know the difference between Berbers/indigenous North Africans and Arabs even though they colonized Maghreb and Algeria was a French colony for over a century. France still has influence over there and in other ex-colonies, and there are a lot of North Africans in France but they still think that just because people speak a specific dialect of Arabic suddenly they're Arabs. I'm sure they also don't know shit about other African countries, and your average French adult will mostly just know about Québequois having a weird French accent. I could keep talking about it for days but European countries can be really racist, just in a different way than the USA. And in France at least they're insanely passive-aggressive and they will definitely make you doubt yourself if you're a victim
of very blatant and illegal racism because of it. Then again, French people as a whole are insanely passive aggressive, I've noticed that Americans and Canadians are way more direct when they want to say pretty much anything.
>A lot of people here stay updated on American politics yet know nothing about what's going in our country.
You're right, but I have a feeling it's because online at least everyone is bombarded with news about the USA whether they like it or not.
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>yall is better about
>i aint gonna
Is this aave…?
>>431814>the fact that she won’t break up with him gives him the right to be racist
I mean, I agree that anon should stand up for herself more (at least judging by the post) but that still doesn’t excuse his behavior
Puhlease. Americans are so racist that the White guys rarely date out and if they do, they go for the lightest East Asians and nearly white passing Latinas. They dont even touch the Arab and Indian girls here because they tend to be brown more often than not, even if some of them are pretty white looking. The only time you see a white american guy with a Brown or Dark girl is if he divorced his white wife and got a import from SEA.
Meanwhile in Europe especially in places like France and Spain its not unusual to see white guys with dark skinned non white women or the children of those unions having white fathers whereas in the USA its always white mothers with dark skinned men
Good luck anon! I've suggested it several times to different anons here, but check out your school's clubs! You're bound to find something you like (knitting? cooking? international club? etc), and GI meetings are usually low commitment and super chill. See if your school has a club fair (they usually do!). Club members will usually be really nice because they always want new members, but don't be embarrassed if you don't want to return (it's expected). If not clubs, maybe something more active like a socially proactive group (not sure how to word it- my campus had a lot of volunteer/politically active groups that were sort of like clubs but a bit more of a commitment to a bigger cause than just a hobby/general interest). Maybe go on trips if your school organizes any (mine did to a big mall so we could pick up any supplies we needed, but a shopping trip is a great way to bond with people).
It's definitely a lot easier said than done, making friends is super difficult, but I believe in you anon! There are plenty of people out there who are just as nervous and scared like you. I went 2 hours away to college and living on campus was TERRIFYING at first, but once you settle in, it's an amazing experience! If you're living on campus on a dorm, maybe try to make friends with your dormmates! I would usually leave my door open and a girl popped on by on move in day to say hello and we actually became friends because she saw my wall decor (weeb shit lol) and started talking to me about it! See if there's even a facebook group for incoming freshmen that you can join and post on! That's honestly how I met my best friends who I stayed with all throughout college (we genuinely clicked! it wasn't just a survival thing haha- though nothing wrong with that! I have plenty of friends who I still keep on contact with and are nice people that I became friends with purely to survive classes/college at first).
Worst comes to worse, visit your professors during their office hours and befriend them! You might make friends with other visiting students, and if you don't, you've got faculty who you can rely on for future recommendations/someone to just talk to (I became pretty close with one of my professors/major advisors and he gave me so much life experience advice lol it really made me feel better).
I'm an awfully shy and introverted person but I miraculously came out with a couple of strong friendships and a lot of really vague (but still nice!) friendships with various people I met through the program I was admitted through, classes, other extra activities. Making friends is endless. Honestly, all you need is like one person and then hopefully your circle will expand through that person or you'll build up confidence to approach new people.
I hope you'll have a great time anon.
i really hope we're not measuring the egregiousness of racism by who white men want to fuck, anon, lmao.
that's some broke shit
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I fucking hate the summer time so much. Every day it's been 95-100+ degrees which wouldn't be so bad in it's own of it weren't for the humidity making the air feel like soup. There's literally no time of the day I can to out and relax or so any of the fun things that are portrayed as summertime activities without being drenched in sweat. Plus I feel so unproductive this time of year without school.
I just wanna wear sweaters and breathe again man.
No, I don't think a dog would have been all that attached to you within a year especially if it received interaction from your ex. If both of you were out of its life, maybe.
The dog is fine and is probably doing dog things.
you guys know there are different types of workouts that yield different results right?>>432191
this is because of overall fat loss. if you gain more fat in certain areas it's going to take longer to look less bulky and slim down.
anon should be trying to work out different areas to slim down first.
I'll try and get some exercise in. From what weight should I start lifting? I had some but they where the classic old lady weights lol should I start from there?
BTW has anyone experienced the same growth in their 20s almost as a second puberty? I had no ass or tights but they got bigger and fuller as I got older. After a big weight loss my lowest weight was 48kg but now I'm in the 55kg range and look ok I think. I couldn't keep up with the way I used to eat.
no, not until recently it wasn't really fat loss. it was just working muscles I never did before. i didn't diet, sometimes ate more due to the exercise, and still saw tangible results.
also, I never said I got slim, just that my shape got more attractive. I went from a sad flabby skinnyfat to a 'soft' kinda thicc body. it's the same, maybe even more fat, but it holds more attractively due to muscle underneath.
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TFW you're still struggling with your uni but trying to take care of people around you from the ages of 14 to 45 mental well-being…
I'm okay with the teens but lord the 25+ ones, why didn't those people deal with their trauma and insecurities yet?
Thank you so much for this sweetheart. I'm currently a bit anxious and was about to start crying since I'm looking at uni stuff right now (like the Welcome Week timetable - there's a lot of lectures and a social event that I'm already feeling shy about) and I'm just getting so scared. I really needed to read this. My mum's been super supportive too and says that we should just aim for me to try up until Christmas. If I really can't manage it, I can come out and it's fine - we'll try something else.
I'm unsure if there's orientation, I think there might've been but I've likely missed out now.
I'm hoping the best for you anon! It's okay if it doesn't work out. I knew some people who ended up leaving after the first semester, some things just don't work out. Just don't hole yourself up away from people! That's just asking for an isolated, miserable college experience. I really made it a point to talk to anyone who struck up a conversation with me (a lot easier to make friends if the really extroverted people approach you first lol). There are obviously weirdos to be wary of, but most people are nice! Maybe lowkey advertise your interests (like TV shows or games) via keychains on your bag/tshirt/etc or comment on someone's elses if you like the same thing. Easy way to open up a conversation and you'll be starting on common ground! Go to the social event even if you feel like it'll be awful. At the very least you'll have tried! I never made friends this way, but a lot of girls would compliment my outfit on some days and it's a nice feeling- I'm sure if you're stuck on line for something it's a good way to possibly open up a conversation. Up your social skills and step out of your comfort zone because the sooner you do it, the easier it'll be to make friends, and the easier it'll be to fake your way into being an adult in the real world (or at least for me it worked out that way).
The days before classes started were some of the worst for me, and honestly they might be for you too, but classes open up common ground for students (light chatter before class (introduce yourself!), invite someone to grab food at some point to study, organize a study group, etc). Don't get down if you don't make friends immediately. It might even be halfway into the semester before you make any meaningful friendships! If your course doesn't interest you, maybe take some other random classes that vaguely interest you until you find something that clicks. Maybe some intro art classes, I always feel like those are fun lol.
By the way, where are you located? I would check to see if there's still orientation! My uni didn't let us skip it because they had some pretty important (though very boring lol) info in there (or maybe that's all in your welcome week?).
guh my university has been posting stories on their insta about orientation and it all makes me feel so nostalgic for it lol. My first year was rocky (made good friends but had weird/shitty roommates) and pulling the memories loneliness I felt during the very beginning was something I honestly forgot about, and it got far outweighed by the years that followed. I hope you'll have an equally fulfilling experience anon. Those years were some of the best years of my life, truly!
I'm sorry anon :( hugs
you deserve so much better
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i started EMDR therapy as a last-ditch effort to reduce the hold PTSD has over my life. i've only done one session so far, but had my first night terror that night and a shitton of traumas i forgot about are resurfacing. i know it's part of the healing process but goddamn, i literally forgot a decade of my childhood where i was repeatedly exploited and sexually abused by adults and other kids alike. i'm worried there's more and idk this post is pointless i'm just scared
You are a brave and strong person. You can make it through this. You will be able to help yourself in the way that you feel like you need. I wish you the best, and I hope it gets easier for you soon.
EMDR is one of the most effective therapies.
He ended up ghosting me yesterday so I'm not hopeful.
I'm not sure what I was hoping for, maybe that we'd really hit it off and somehow have a successful ldr lmao? He's posted about some interests that I'd enjoy talking about, so the looks aren't the sole
His problems are mostly in that he's obsessively body dysmorphic and had a shitty childhood.
Please end the pain anons.
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years. I am in my early twenties, he is in his late twenties. I chose him because he has some decent morals and values. He doesn't watch porn, he's not a selfish lover. Men like that are hard to come by. The only downside is that he's a bit of a fix-up project. Even though he is older than me, I have always been more successful and further in life despite me coming from a less privileged background. He's already come pretty far and has worked on himself a lot, he's even planning on going back to university.
Now the problem is that he doesn't like conflict, or thinking about difficult things. I get that, but now all hell has broken lose. With going back to uni there is bureaucracy to be dealt with, finding a new place, moving etc. I have been asking if he's alright for 6 months now, and he always says yeah I am fine. Then at the most inopportune moment, it comes out that he hasn't done anything towards it. He freaks out, he is afraid of change, and tries to break up but he cannot go through with it. Obviously after that I have been a bit shaken up, if someone tries to break up with me yeah I feel pretty unloved and unappreciated. He hasn't put much effort into mending the relationship. Meanwhile he also hasn't been taking care of his own responsibilities. My last few interactions with him the last few weeks mainly have been him moping and being depressed and calling himself a fat piece of shit and then not doing anything about it. It's not like he cannot change his situation, he used to be more active and take better care of himself.
Then today, he was playing video games online. He hadn't even eaten breakfast, he couldn't be bothered to take care of something he already missed the deadline for. And he wondered why I was pissed off that he decided to play video games before even eating anything, and it was already 2 pm. It's like I am the mother of a teenage son. He thinks I just don't want him to have fun with friends, while really I just want him to take care of himself and his responsibilities first. And now he flip flops between breaking up and not breaking up. If it wasn't so special for a man to not be a porn addicted perv, it would be an easy judgement. But he has enough special qualities that even make me consider to keep going.
Honestly I wish I was a lesbian. This shit feels so exhausting and hopeless, and looking around at all the other options there really just isn't much there.
a man in his late twenties who's so cripplingly paralyzed by the mere idea of change or difficult choices isn't entitled to take out his lack of responsibility and accountability on you, anon.
what the fuck is wrong with your bf? he's scared of change, you care about him so you try to encourage him to do better and ensure he gets his shit done, and because you're not babying him like i'm sure his parents and former gfs have done his whole life he holds a breakup over your head all the time?
unless he gets his fat piece of shit ass into a therapists' office and actually holds himself accountable for his anxiety and inability to perform, then you're wasting time, energy and likely your money by staying in that relationship. seriously, who the fuck strings their partner along with "oooh i wanna break up with you…but also i don't…maybe…" because you're demanding he put on his big boy panties and get his shit together?
you said it yourself: you're his mommy he can stick his dick into. either you put your foot down and demand he goes to therapy and gets his act together or you stop covering his manbaby ass and leave.
This is rough, anon. I'm usually the person that says "dump him sis" but what you said about him not being a porn addict is kind of huge. The bar for men is truly so low lmao. You could try going on a break to take time for yourselves and come back to the relationship when you're both in a good place to start giving again rather than collapsing in on yourselves? Well, sounds like it's more him
than you that needs the break but it sometimes helps the other person if you pretend you relate to their problems. There's a certain support angle to doing the same kinda self work, like dieting together or working out together.
Anyway, he's gonna need therapy if he wants to pick up the necessary skills to overcome his own shit. Without therapy is extremely hard and taxing on both his loved ones and himself to navigate his issues on his own.
tbh that sounds very creepy and like there's some motive behind it. why the fuck wouldn't you just call your child your child, son or daughter? what was wrong with those terms?
it doesn't help that "lo" is reminiscent of the intro of the book "lolita">"She was Lo, plain Lo, in the morning, standing four feet ten in one sock. She was Lola in slacks. She was Dolly at school. She was Dolores on the dotted line. But in my arms she was always Lolita."
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i literally am unable to eat food at this point, i get beyond nauseous and sick if i eat more than 2 bites of something, drinks upset my stomach too
i'm eating like 300-400 calories a day and dropping weight like mad
this morning my mother told me i looked anorexic and that just fuels my ED behaviors
i'm not trying to lose weight, i just can't eat because my body rejects it and i have no appetite at all, but hearing that makes me want to lose even more weight
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>>432602>Oh. I guess I'm having a day where I have no idea what my face looks like and want to rip it off.
Are you okay?
If you live in the US oral surgery isn't even covered by health insurance, you would need separate dental insurance. & You have to have it for several months before you're even allowed to use it for stuff.
Recovery would be around 2-4 days tops. You swell the most around day 3 then you're fine. Many oral surgeons will give you a 10-20% discount if you're paying out-of-pocket. It will cost less if it's just the one tooth and if you have it extracted using just local anesthetic instead of general anesthesia. General anesthesia is hundreds of dollars more and will make your recovery take longer.
God what the fuck. My parents dental plan was pretty great but I got kicked off because I made too much from my job (I didn't). My dental plan through my workplace covered 50% of the costs after I made the $2k deductible, but when I called up an oral surgeon close to my primary dentist to find out about out of pocket costs, she said it would roughly be $600 per tooth with local anesthesia. Like what the fuck lol. I left that job though, so whatever, fuck their insurance.
I figured I might as well get both of my impacted wisdom teeth out (I think they said they'll knock off a bit of $$ or some shit if I do that, plus I just don't want to deal with it if it acts up in the future). General anesthesia is an extra $650 and I don't want to pay it but god I'm such a little bitch even when it comes to getting my cavities filled. I've had my mouth numbed before to extract all of my back baby teeth (they weren't falling out on their own) and it didn't hurt but one tooth had a particularly deep root and I felt it despite the anesthesia and I have a fear that I'll feel them extracting my wisdom teeth despite local anesthesia ugh
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Here anon, this is what I paid for 1 severely impacted bottom tooth to be surgically removed and 2 normal wisdom teeth on the top to pulled. All out of pocked with no dental insurance and only local anesthetic (which was ez pz). I already had x-rays from my primary dentist so you can get those transferred over. Otherwise they will need to take xrays for about $150. There was also an initial consultation fee of $120 just to look at my mouth before the surgery day. I got the antibiotics free of charge from my local grocery store chain and the pain pills were $8.
I hope this helps you plan your finances a little bit and good luck.
Thank you anon! Thankfully my old dentist is in the same building as the oral surgeon I was looking into so I can get x-rays transferred over easy, but I think they said they would knock off whatever x-ray/consultation fee from the overall surgery fee if I decided to go through with it.
Did you really not feel anything from the local anesthesia? How was dealing with the needles poking into your mouth (another thing I remember hating so much from the time I got my back teeth pulled)? I also read about some people hearing their tooth being broken up for more easy extraction, did you hear/deal with that? Sorry for all the questions! I'm so freaked out about dealing with it all.
Also, a really weird question: what if you have to sneeze and you're only doing local anesthesia?!
It genuinely did not hurt at all, aside from the initial needles which you're already familiar with (a deep uncomfortable pinch). Also sometimes they have to wedge out a stubborn tooth/piece so they place pressure on your face/cheeks/jawline. But zero pain from the teeth being removed. I've had more painful cavity fillings tbh.
They do several rounds of injections to make absolutely sure you're all numbed up. So when you first go in you gargle some sanitizing mouthwash and the nurse gets you all comfy in the chair. Checks your blood pressure and gets all the instruments in order. Make sure you ask for a blanket or bring your own small throw because the local anesthetic makes you tremble. Then the doctor comes in. You get the easy first round of injections in your gums and they give you 15 minutes for it to numb everything. Then they come back again and give you more serious injections in your palate if you're having top teeth removed. This is also a test for them to make sure all of your nerves are absolutely numb or they'll give you more, and wait again. Repeat.
They are professionals. My doctor did upwards of 3 surgeries an hour, all day only surgeries. Took 5 minutes for each normal tooth and about 10 minutes for my severely impacted one. All you hear is the drill cutting the tooth in pieces. No doctor worth their degree would ever perform surgery until they are absolutely sure you are anesthetized fully.
If you're worried about the sounds, bring some headphones and something to listen to music on. It'll calm you if you're nervous as well.
I find turning off my internet for an hour as a good way to concentrate. You could also try a dopamine detox
That's fantastic anon, I'm proud of you! Dental fears are very common to have- the mouth is a very intimate area.
I have generalized anxiety but don't mind medical settings myself. What helped me a ton was becoming familiar with the dental profession, watching youtube videos about the procedure I was having done, etc. Demystifying the unknown removes it's power a bit.
We all know ~Le Reddit is a cancerous place but their /r/Dentistry subreddit is quite useful and informative on a good day if you have any questions.
Good luck! You got this!
my boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, don't even know where to start and I'm very sorry for how long this is but I'm just really upset.
we were only together a few months total. started having problems about a month/month and a half ago. I found out he liked porn of lolis. I was really disturbed and upset. he first told me that he had to look up hentai of lolis to see small tits and ass because all of the non-loli women in hentai had large tits and ass (I have large tits and ass just fiy). Later he confessed that he actually liked lolis because of the height difference, and how he thought it would be really fun to fuck someone significantly shorter than him, and that it was part of a "protector" fantasy (he said being shorter supposedly means weaker and that's where the protective part comes in). this hurt my feelings because I'm 5'9" and have always deeply hated my height and desperately wanted to be shorter. and every time I expressed disgust for loli porn he would whine that I was making him feel bad/making him insecure. he had a waifu pillow and tons of posters of anime chicks on his wall and 70% of the time when he opens his phone he's looking at erotic images anime chicks. one time he was scrolling through the downloaded images on his phone and there were literally hundreds of erotic/borderline pornographic pictures of anime girls, a lot of them were "monster girls" and lolis (also, this was right after I gave him a blowjob).
he saw nothing wrong with talking about things he thought were attractive that I didn't have right in front of me, I told him it bothered me and acted like I was fucking crazy for being bothered by it. in his words "I wouldn't expect one person to check all the boxes" which like, yeah, true, there are features that I like that he didn't have- the difference is that I didn't need to look up porn and erotic images day-in-day-out of those things to satisfy a desire. again, don't care that he liked those things, it was that he had to constantly seek them out that bothered me. also he watched porn 2-3 times a day every day and I just… began to feel like I could never satisfy him.
we're both overweight amerifags and had talked about dieting together. he made several comments over the course of our relationship of how I would be more attractive if I lost weight (which didn't bother me because the same was true for him). when I would bring up that his constant looking at porn etc bothered me he would say I shouldn't be bothered by it because "that's not what matters in a relationship" (I'm guessing he means sexual attraction) and "you think you're just something pretty to me and you're more than that". however, I felt like becoming more attractive for him was pointless because he has to get so much of his sexual satisfaction and porn that why would he need any from me? if sexual attractiveness and "being something pretty" isn't what was important in a relationship then why was it important for me to lose weight? I asked him and he was like "I want to look more attractive for my partner, I hope they would want to look more attractive for me". and I was like, I do, but it feels pointless because you have to look at porn so much and you keep saying that it's not what's important in a relationship. and then he said "well it's about self improvement and I value self improvement". so I was like, okay, it's JUST about self improvement? and he said no. and it was this circular argument that felt like he was purposely misunderstanding my questions. I'm pretty sure he just wanted me to be as attractive as possible and still consume tons of anime porn (in other words have his cake and eat it too).
also we had almost nothing in common, which is something I knew and brought up BEFORE WE EVEN GOT IN A RELATIONSHIP because I was concerned about it and he always dismissed it completely. but then when he broke up with me he said he realized that having things in common is really important to him which fucking infuriated me. I don't like drinking which is like the #1 thing he does with his friends. I don't like anime or marvel either which is mostly what they talk about. also they always talk about the highschool they went to which is how they all know each other. I have a hard time socializing with more than 1 or 2 people and he wanted to me to be more social with them. also when I mentioned that his constant gawking at erotic images/porn bothered me he said something like "well and ideal partner would accept you completely". yet he was always trying to get me to socialize with his friends more? why couldn't he accept me for not wanting to be social?
when it came time for his days off he would pretty much always choose to be with his friends and not me. he said he didn't want to put his social life on hold for me- not the exact way he said it but he did say he "didnt want to put his social life on hold" and that he "couldn't combine the two" (me and his friends) and that he didn't have enough time to make time for us separately. so basically he chose his friends over me. he said he broke up with me because he felt like he was making me miserable (which he was a bit) but I think he also knows he could have easily made me less miserable by choosing to spend time with me a lone a bit each week and not look at erotic images in front of me but he didn't want to do either of those things. which like, fair play, I know I should be glad he broke up with me but I'm just thnking about how happy I was when we were first together and it's making me really depressed. we're supposedly "friends" now but he hasn't texted me so much as once. and oh man there's SO MUCH MORE I could rant about but this post is already too long.
so basically he chose his friends and 2D women over me which hurts my feelings. he's probably off watching hentai of lolis, and cuddling with his waifu pillow. I'm sure they're better than me in every way, and can make him happier than I ever could have.
Count yourself lucky that you doged a bullet. He sounds like a miserable human being. Real men don't favor anime porn of little girls over a real woman.
He sounds like trash.
Lowkey dude sounds like an evil pedo ngl this is textbook manipulation.
~Addendum to add that I know you feel vulnerable and worthless and lonely as fuck right now anon. Suffer through it and leave him as a part of your scary past you can warn your kids/nieces/god children of one day.
Focus on yourself, lose excess body weight through hobbies where you'll meet other people like yourself and regain your self esteem. Running/Jogging/Bouldering/Climbing/Yoga/Weightlifting/Etc. Stay safe, love u.
Yes it is pathetic, but 1) we were friends for about 2 years before we got together and he always seemed like a wonderful person, and 2) I have poor mental health and get super attached to people easily and have a hard time getting over them, I'm seeing a therapist right now but it hasnt helped much.>>432759
Thank you. It means a lot to me.>>432760
I never asked for your sympathy, I was just venting because I feel depressed about it. Coming to terms with the fact that he's not who I thought he was.
Tbh youre shit for staying with some wannabe child molester. You sound very young. I can't imagine an adult woman dating some weeb chomo and falling so much in 3 months.
Please grow up and make better choices.
legit i hate people that are the type to go to conventions or any alt people at all, actually. they're always people who have money/come from some money, but are tragically tasteless, like, they will spend $400 on bodyline tier garbage (not that actual nip shit is any better; lolita everything is so tryhard whimsical and/or tryhard elegant and no one with any sense thinks it doesn't look hot topic tier, i don't care how what stupid prefecture it came from or if it was handwoven by walking, talking japanese field mice, it's always low quality and poorly designed) or 'nerd'/'geek' garbage, and despite having money, they are the literal walking personification of wood panelling. i hate that these people have money. some of you guys are like this and you need to stop, it's really embarrassing. i can't escape these people
Agreeing with >>432943
, also keep in mind thah you thinking you're "acting" like you're depressive is a very common symptom - look up "impostor syndrome". I'm in treatment for years, diagnosed and everything, and even I sometimes think "I'm just acting up. There's nothing wrong with me, I'm just lazy".
As I've gotten older I learned to immediately remove a guy as a dating prospect if he has a female best friend or describes a woman as being "like a sister." It's all a big delusional front. They would drop everything if the girl wants to be with him, full stop. I don't argue or express my feelings on it any more, I just dump them from my life because otherwise I would basically be the other woman.
I'm sorry for being so bleak, but it might not be worth it.
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I feel weird about my sexual orientation. I love women. I hate men. That would make me a lesbian, sure. But.
I don't experience sexual attraction. At all. I can see a person and say "well, they're pleasing to the eye", but I never want to fuck people. I am completely fine not having sex ever. I rarely masturbate and when I do, I don't fantasize or think of other people or sexual organs/acts, the closest I can compare it to is giving myself a shot. It's almost clinical, detached. Not exactly sexual gratification, more like a button you can push so the brain releases happy chemicals.
Tumblr logic about romantic and sexual attraction being different things makes sense to me really, but calling myself "asexual lesromantic" fucking blows? Also I am pretty sure that's not really actually a scientifically proven thing so it makes me sound like a snowflake AND an idiot.
I love women. I would love to kiss women, hold hands, go on dates and all that. I would love one day to live with a woman and marry her, maybe even have kids together. I would have sex with a woman if I was in a relationship with her and she wanted me to. But I won't feel sexually attracted. And it makes me feel like a failure of a lesbian. Because being a lesbian is literally "being a woman who's sexually attracted to other women".
And because I don't feel sexual attraction I was completely fine having sexual experiences with a man too when I was a teen who didn't know that men are cancer and poison. I really don't like most of the "heterosexual" sex acts though, but I am not exactly repulsed by the sight of a dick and all. Men can be aesthetically pleasing to me just as women are.
Just… ugh. I shouldn't question myself, I'm 24 for fucks sake.
And how do I even go about dating people? Tell them outright "I like you, but I am not sexually attracted to wou or anyone and while we can have sex, I would only do it to please you"? Sounds like an asshole thing to say. Lying though seems even worse. Would anyone even be willing to date me if I'm not into sex that much? Most of the lesbian scene in my country is dating apps and clubs and those are for the explicit purpose of sexual intercourse.
I feel like the embodiment of a "useless lesbian" stereotype and I often doubt that I even deserve to be called a lesbian.
I just wouldn't like to come off as a predatory lesbian. I know it sounds stupid but I've heard and even read here on lolcow, anons complaining how lesbians are aggressive so I dread making the first move or even making a girl uncomfortable by assuming her being flirtatious and more touchy equals her being interested in me.
I don't want to give lesbians a bad name. It sucks because I really want to know whether she's into me or not and it's not that everyday I get a girl who has things in common with me and be so into me at the same time.
I'm in southern europe and live in a small town, so it would be awkward if I made a wrong move. I was unpleasantly surprised when a few girls told me that they think gay people are sick and they'd have no problems having them 'removed' from the society. After a few talks like that, I really like to keep a low profile as much as possible.
No, I know how you feel, about the predatory lesbian thing. I'm just frustrated that we're supposed to cower in shame of ourselves when straight women can continuously "be flirty and more touchy" and then demonize us for responding to it. It sounds incel-tier, but it's how I feel. I'm sorry to hear that you live in a place like that though, I hope attitudes change for the better soon.
Maybe start by asking her views on lgbt stuff?
Yeah… one day I wont be a fucking doormat and just do it…>>432952
He has only female friends, which isnt really bothering me too much because men are fucking exhausting so I get it, but the way he just talks about everything great she does is really really annoying. She literally called him after having sex with her bf for the first time to tell him about it and I just really really hate that. She even once called him to ask what kind of birth control I use and ehat lube he would recommend. I havent talked about our sex life like that with anyone becausenI think its rather tasteless and kinda because i dont have friends lmfao>>432948
If I find out he ever tried fucking her I will break up with him in a second. Even if it was before we met each other. He tells me he had feelings for the bitch and still wants me to be cool with her in my own four walls, its over.
>>432975> I'm just frustrated that we're supposed to cower in shame of ourselves when straight women can continuously "be flirty and more touchy"
Yeah, sadly it's the way it is. I'm not sure if they're aware of how much pain they inflict when they play such games. I've been used by a girl in uni who made me believe she was into me but in fact did it for attention. She apologized later and we're supposed to be cool now. The memory of that still hurts. But I was stupid and blind. Live and learn, I guess.
btw you don't sound like an incel at all. It's extremely difficult to date as a lesbian even without the homophobia. I've had my share of these situations where you're not sure if they actually mean it or are just doing it for whatever reason, but this stigma of being perceived as a predatory lesbian is so strong that I just can't straight up ask them to clarify that.
> I hope attitudes change for the better soon.
It's mostly small places like the one I'm in right now. Big cities aren't that bad and very few will care. Though knowing that there's still a lot of young people that think gays should be shot is scary.
> Maybe start by asking her views on lgbt stuff?
Good idea. She wants us to go out together (again, might be just a friendly invitation) but I'll have that topic in mind.
Thanks, anon! Sorry to hear that you have the same frustrations.
Why would you want to waste your time with someone who even thought about breaking up with you? Obviously his feelings for you aren't there anymore.>>432999
>>432976>She literally called him after having sex with her bf for the first time to tell him about it
What the fuck? Fucking leave, anon. There's red flags all over this. And >>432978
is absolutely right. Get out of there.
Anon are you me?
I have no real answers to your questions, but I understand where you're coming from. I want a qt gf but don't really care for sex, but unfortunately it's just something I'll have to figure out how to deal with when/if I ever get a gf. Life sucks.
I was actually came to lolcow just now to post the same thing, except I've had romantic feelings for men, women, and trans/nb alike. However, I'm starting to realize I have more of an inclination towards women just because they're friendlier and understand your struggles better. I just got back from /fit/ on 4chan and I just feel upset to my stomach because so many replies in the threads dehumanize women and state they're only good for sex and they're not even attractive enough for that. I've fallen in love with so many of my male friends, only to be heartbroken because I got to know their more vile opinions as time went on. I can't keep up with their libido and lust for sexually exaggerated features like large breasts and hips either. I always feel inferior when I'm around a man because they always neg you down, never quite listen to you intently, and always just seem mentally somewhere else. Tell him something important in several paragraphs, and he'll reply back with an unrelated meme or "lol, ok." I just feel unheard, and I want an equal partner. If all the lesbians/bis that flirted with me weren't the stereotypical teal haired SJW type, I'd already have a girlfriend and would completely renounce men. Being conservative and into chicks is a curse.
This is a really old vent, but something made it come back into my head again last night.
I lost my virginity to a boy about 6 years ago when I was 18. It was consensual, I was really hypersexual at the time, and he was attractive- it worked out, sorta. I fell head over heels for this stupid fuck boy, let him fuck me without a condom ("because it doesn't feel as good anon!"), and let him drag me around for nudes and videos until I was completely mentally and emotionally wrecked from it.
We were good friends and chatted about non-sex shit a lot too, but eventually I did confess my feelings to him. He returned them, but said he didn't want to date because he didn't want to do LDR. Alright.
I studied abroad in Tokyo for a year, I was still chatting with him until he ghosted me out of nowhere. I was completely and utterly alone, struggling to make friends, thousands of miles away from my friends and family back in the states, and now I felt completely unlovable and worthless because this fuckboy I liked for so long decided to ghost me for another girl. He apologized about a year later, saying his gf knew we fucked and didn't want him talking to me. We don't talk anymore, and now I'm a lesbian, and I'm so fucking mad at myself for letting this boy play such a big part in ruining what was supposed to be a fucking great experience abroad and letting myself get strung up in all of that. I developed major body image issues and started restricting my food intake, I was basically going down the road of becoming anachan. I almost took my own life at some point.
It's been years now and I've slowly gotten over that waste of an opportunity. I dated a girl for a while, years after I stopped talking to this boy, and wow, it feels great to be treasured and loved by someone you treasure and love. I realized what good kissing felt like, I realized that I'm worth someone's time and effort, and that I'm cute! It felt good to date someone who wouldn't stop talking to me just because I didn't bend over backwards to accept their opinion and their opinion only on things. Men have truly set the bar on the fucking ground. I can't believe that I'm so amazed by the fact that someone treated me with some fucking decency.
Also mini vent about the same boy but when I told him I wanted to get an IUD he insisted I get the pills instead because they would work out to the same price. I wanted the IUD because I like the low maintenance (I have the hormonal one now and thankfully it works absolutely wonderfully for me), but I guess he was upset because he'd have to feel it poking his dick if I rode him. I fucking hate men. Being a lesbian sucks sometimes, but I'd really rather be a lonely lesbian for the rest of my life then settle for a man ever again. Fuck. I can just hear him taunting me if we ever spoke again about how I have shit taste in men and that's why I'm a lesbian now, or that I'm not a real lesbian because I prefer butch/andro girls. Like fuck off, your dick fucking stank and you sucked at foreplay.
my boyfriend has a female friend like this. I befriended her. me and her talk now, and those two dont.
I'm also very close with the girl my first ex/the fuckboy who took my virginity left me for. also the ex that came after me. we're all tight, nobody speaks to him and he's dating an 18 year old now (he's 30)
you never know what's gonna happen, anon. play your cards tight to the chest and play them smart. or dump him. those are your options.
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>tfw bf is annoying me again about how he wants to do it without a condom
>hurr hurr pull out method hurr lets do it on your period
He does it "jokingly" but Jesus Christ shit is getting old. I get that condoms can get annoying but earlier this year he started pressuring me to get on birth control, specifically the implant. I literally had to chew him out about it, so he could get it through his thick skull that I wasn't comfortable with the possible side effects. (I knew a few girls who had the implant; one got pregnant anyway and the other two had growths forming in their breasts.)
He dropped it after that but I'm still steamed about how he only seemed interested in cumming inside instead of what it could do to me. ugh I feel like im being dramatic but w/e
I'm a shut in with terrible anxiety myself. I haven't left the house in two months except for groceries and a doctor's appointment. I'm routing for you. As other anons said, you'll need a female therapist in which you can explain your circumstances to. She'll guid you thought what you're feeling and may reveal why you feel anxiety around men. She can help with recommending medication for you that improves symptoms. If you don't want to leave the house just yet, there are online therapists you can talk with via webcam.>>433039
You're not being dramatic; he's being an asshole. It's your body, you get the say. >>433044
Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. You can desire to have non-sexual intimacy with someone and still aesthetically appreciate them, hence romantic orientations, but not have that magnet urge that makes you flutter for interaction with someone's genitals.
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Today I had a panic attack while showering because it's already july and I still haven't gotten a grip on my life.
I spent new years eve alone, driving around for hours despite the weather being horrible, because I couldn't tell my parents that I don't have anybody to spend the evening with.
I wanted to find friends but I'm just so shy and awkward and ugly (and autistic) that it hasn't worked out, for years. As a solution I thought I'm going to lose weight, improve the way I look, sign up on a dating app and hopefully find a bf. But so far I haven't made any progress.
I don't want to be alone on new years eve again… My future just looks so sad, I really don't know what I even live for.
Afterwards I made the mistake of looking at the facebook profiles of my old classmates which made me feel even more depressed.
Many of them have graduated already, travel, have friends and a bf, they stayed in contact with each other, but my life for the last 5 years was just shit.
I know this sounds stupid af, but I don't want to graduate, because I don't have any friends at uni, meaning I would be alone during the graduation celebrations. All the others take pictures together, are proud of their achievement, afterwards write cheesy stuff like "Thank you so much my darlings for the awesome past 4 years we spent together" - but I would be completely alone, feeling like shit, standing out as the loser I am and making my parents feel ashamed, disappointed and sad.
She wouldn't care, she's just doing her job and why would anyone jump to conclusions based on cars in the driveway? 3 people can use one car.
Also when I worked at a pizza place I was eating my weight in garlic bread at the end of a shift and getting jealous of all the customers having pizza so eh.
One of my best friends from high school committed suicide a bit over a year ago. We kind of grew apart in the years leading up to it. I know it's not my fault, but that guilt is still there. I'm doing okay, but it hurts a lot and I think about it every day. I feel like I had just gotten over a rough patch of my life where I was battling suicidal ideation, and now I suddenly can't imagine a future with this person anymore. It sucks. It's getting better though.>>433039
god, not dramatic at all. It's incredibly inconsiderate of him to even "joke" about unprotected sex. My ex would do this constantly with me (casually bringing it up, "joking" about it, etc.)… it's all fun and games to him, until one night we were having drunk sex and he came inside of me, all the while I was repeating "no". One of many reasons why we broke up.
if he's aware of how scary and life-changing a pregnancy can be for a young woman, and he still can't treat you with respect, then put that caveman straight in the garbage.
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I'm so stupid anons. I've had a crush on a coworker for about a year now. I haven't had one this intense like ever and I was almost sure he liked me back. Anyway this week I tried to make small talk and it was horrible. Now I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm a complete weirdo. Thought the crush would just fizzle out but its just not going away. I hate my piece of shit brain!!!!
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I’m going on vacation in a couple of days but I feel like I don’t “deserve” it.
Wanted to go somewhere in Europe against but didn’t have enough money so I’m going to Southeast Asia instead. I thought I was going to make a good amount of money this summer but so far, it hasn’t been living to my expectations. I still want to go but doing packing/buying stuff/researching is so goddamn exhausting. I think I’m depressed again. Sometimes I feel like I should’ve spent this summer getting my shit together.
i feel similar, but i think it's mostly just very low sex drive so i still call myself a lesbian
also calling it just low sex drive instead of asexual or some bs is a lot more accepted
if you're still romantically attracted to women i'd say you can still call yourself lesbian, it's what you're gonna look out for in dating after all
I'll already turn 24, so it feels as if it's too late, I've graduated 5 years ago already and still haven't done jackshit. >>433077
I'm probably the most boring person on the planet, I'm neither a nerd, nor have I any normie interests.
Plus I live in a town of maybe 5000, meaning the choice of clubs we have is very limited.
If he's so miserable not being with you, how the fuck would a break help him? That would mean he doesn't get to talk to you OR be with you, it makes no sense to think that would improve his mental health. Too much space is literally the problem, more space won't help unless he wants to break up or fuck other girls with the excuse that you were on a break and then crawl back for emotional support later.
Sorry for the pessimistic attitude but dramatic, emotional men are not typically selfless and considerate. They think their feelings are the be all and end all.
I feel like my bf's friends don't like me much, and that compared to all the girls he's friends with, I'm the worst choice.
He used to be with another girl for 3 years when they were students, and then she broke up with him. Most all of his friends are from that time, and none save two want to add me of FB or even talk to me when we meet in person. I feel like next to him I don't exist, I live in his world and I don't matter. He doesn't believe me and keeps making excuses as to why this is bullshit.
This makes me very insecure so I keep comparing myself to all the other girls he knows. Most of them have stable careers, can drive, have friends and go on holidays. I am an immigrant in a foreign country (he is too, but he's a local) with a shit physical job, very few people know me here, I had a boyfriend for 4.5 years a few years ago and dumped him because he was a deadbeat, then his family said they "hope I never come back", then another one who called me ugly, whiny and immature and then cheated on me.
My bf insists he loves me a lot and wants to be with me but I feel like he's tired of me too, or at least getting there.
I always feel like I'm a villain in everyone's story, someone who came to fuck their lives up and someone who nobody likes and is never as good as the droves of well-adjusted, mature girls with jobs who are always happy and never whiny and insecure. I can't talk to anyone about this because everyone I could talk to is a mutual friend of ours so I'd just be airing out our dirty laundry, and I can't afford therapy.
It's up to him to make you feel more involved and get to know his friends better. Obviously you can't try and improve the situation alone as trying to advance relationships with other males is gonna look bad. He needs to put more effort in so you don't feel like a third wheel all the time.
Are you studying or working? You should also seek to improve yourself/your life so you don't feel as insecure in comparison to these random other girls. Obviously I'm missing context, but what's stopping you from learning to drive or having a job/studying?
A lot of them dont tho and have such racial autism and sperging that would make hitler proud. Or they do it only in secrecy.
I lived in the US for 20 years
I'm so tired of being such a doormat, everybody always continues stepping over me.
My whole life my parents ingrained in me to never talk when others do, to always be polite and helpful, I rarely talk at all and yet my father often calls me arrogant and an asshole, no matter how my siblings treated me, I was always only told that I as the oldest need to look after them. Whenever I complain about costumers mistreating me (and me not doing anything) he ends up scolding me "Is it really so bad, can't you just suck it up and be friendly?!" (even when I told him that I was). I constantly work extra for my collegues, I even secretely give costumers discounts because I'm scared of how they would react if I told them how much it really costs.
Today again, I wasted over 4 hours in a class, because I was too much of a chicken to stand up for myself. I only wanted to ask the teacher 1 question, yet she chatted for ages with others, helped the girls sitting next, behind and in front of me, always only skipping me, until there was only another student, her and I left. I waited til 20 minutes after class, yet she still wasn't finished.
I should have just said "Hey, I only have one question and I have to go to work soon". But instead I didn't get my question answered and nearly missed my train.
Now I have to go again next week, just for something that wouldn't even take a minute to answer.
Driving lessons are super expensive where I live and I use public transport so I don't have an excuse to spend 1000€ on driving lessons since I can't even afford a car.
I do have a job (I did say I had a physical job) but it's a typical low wage immigrant job (cleaning, kitchen etc) whereas all of them have office jobs in their respective fields and have time to look nice and take care of themselves. Recently I had to attend a wedding in a wrinkled sweater because it was the only thing I could put in my backpack to change into and I had to attend straight after work. Of course I had to take photos and looked like hot shit with messy hair and greasy face next to everyone. But I can't get any other job (I'm applying left and right) because I lack experience and I'm foreign.
I can't speak for the other anons, but for me, I know what I ultimately want isn't just friendship. I do want to kiss and hold and cuddle a girl in a romantic sense, in a way that would definitely overstep the normal boundaries of female friendship. No matter how close I am to some of my female friends, the way I give them a friendly peck on the cheek or hold their hand while going out just isn't the same.
For me, the "whatever I have with men is more sexual in nature" (but I'm not that anon) is more like… I'll deal with it. I don't particularly mind sex with men and I'll accept it if I'm in the mood, but outside of sex, I don't want to hold their hand or kiss them or cuddle with them. I can't see myself settling down with a man, I can only see them as a temporary person in my bed.
You're wasting your breath explaining yourself to your shitty parents. They're in the wrong here and won't understand that you have boundaries and can't just exist to please others. As for your instructor and whatnot, you can definitely teach yourself to interrupt people (politely) without completely steamrolling. Apologetically interject and people will let it slide. Especially if it's a question to a teacher you need to just speak up, no way around it. Same in your career, you're going to have to learn to act confident to get yourself heard. It's a "fake it till you make it" thing, go through the motions even if they're mortifying and feel wrong, and you'll eventually get used to it and do it without issues.
Much love, anon.
Hahahaha no, I'm not Rick Astley. But I have sampled him before. >>433353
I'm not famous by any means, I just happen to have a song that's been memed to death. It's a situation where people know the song name, but not the person who made it, I guess.
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My exes mother is being threatened by her brother. The whole story is a bit complicated, but the already well off pos war vet wants 200k€ from them because of a piece of land their mother owned.
Ex wants to sell his car to help his parents to pay it all off. I offered him to come over for a few days (I live in a different city) so he can try to relax and take his mind off of this but since his mother could be in danger he probably won't. I'm really worried about his mental health at this point.
I already told him to record if anything happens, I really hope his pos uncle fucks up and ends up in jail.
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For fuck sakes, I can't get the song Pacman fever out of my head! Even when I'm having sex, all I can think about is pacman fever.
I can't get a fucking job, I've been unemployed for so long. My last job lasted 2.5 years and I finally quit because it was fucking abusive. I worked in a gas station kiosk at a huge chain grocery store (chafe way). We didn't get breaks. We could technically take sick days BUT since they would only schedule one person at a time (the gas station was open 16 hours a day and they would have 3 consecutive shifs one person each if that makes sense) and so they would make the person who was working before you work a double shift (again, with no breaks). Our salaries could never go above 11$ per hour (and I didn't even make that) plus we didn't get the same benefits as the cashiers who worked in the store (who made more than we did, and got breaks). And yet we were "union" and so I still got union fees taken out of my paycheck. There's a MILLION other reasons why I quit though.
My coworker quit (there were only four of us, now 3) I worked 6 days in a row for 7 weeks straight. I was in a college class at the time. I kept being told they couldn't find a new person to hire and they were SUPER hesitant to bring regular cashiers to the fuel station for some reason. And we were pressured to sell these stupid fucking bags of these nasty ass covered pretzels. I COULD NOT for the life of me sell these things, customers DID NOT want them (understandably), kept getting yelled at for not being able to sell them. My boss then threatened me "if you can't do your job, we'll find someone who will, and cut your hours". And I was like oh really???!?!!?!? I WISH A BITCH WOULD. I might actually get 2 days off a week then and work less than 45 hours!!!! God Forbid!!!!! And that's only scratching the surface of how shitty it was to work there. One of my coworks was an autistic manchild who I really want to go on a side tangent about but won't.
I live with my parents and my dad gave me a ton of shit for quitting, even though he knew all the reasons I quit, and didn't care. Failed the class I was in because of work, and was paying out of pocket for it. I've applied for 2 walmart locations, 2 costco locations, 9 starbucks locations, a local coffee shop, a ticket office at the performing arts center and other places I can't remember. None have called me back. And most places REQUIRE at least 3 references that aren't friends or family. I don't have any of those. And almost all jobs on craigslist require experience that I don't have. People in my life keep telling me to "just get a job". Well you know what it isn't that fucking easy, bitch I've TRIED and they shut up when I ask for suggestions. Working gives me SO MUCH anxiety but I'm still trying anyway.
My parents piss me off even more because they're extremely neglectful people and "homeschooled" me for religious reasons but didn't really school me at all beyond basic reading, writing and very basic math. Didn't make any effort to socialize me or make sure I had any remotely valuable skills or education/experience beyond religion. And now they just expect me to be a high functioning adult who can support myself. They really shouldn't have been allowed to have kids.
I can't get a college degree because I was rejected for student loans, plus I kept failing college classes and I think I might have an undiagnosed learning disability. Not to mention I have no fucking idea what I want to do. I keep thinking about how more and more jobs are becoming automated and it's making me really depressed.
I'm so fucking depressed and angry about all of this. I don't know how I will ever get a job again.
Are you a VA who does joke songs?
To my knowledge, the only songs that get memed are jokes to begin with, like making songs out of cringe posts online
Not a VA. My song isn't supposed to be a meme, but someone made a meme video out of it which caused its popularity to skyrocket. I guess I didn't actually explain why I'm annoyed. The person who made the meme video is someone I respect, because they're very talented. I really love their video. However, I keep seeing people repost the video and crop out the creator's watermark, then add some dumb caption to it. It frustrates me to no end seeing someone's work modified to remove their unobtrusive watermark. I would have no issue with people making new memes out of that video, so long as the original creator's watermark is kept in.
Another one of my songs was featured in another meme video, and the only place the song was uploaded in full on Youtube was on an artist's speedpaint video (I don't really upload my stuff to Youtube). I saw a comment on the video shitting on the artist because "this is the only video that features this song in full on Youtube". It legitimately frustrated me, I don't condone that shitty behaviour at all.
On my end, because of the popularity, people have reposted the song on websites that I already have the song uploaded to. Most people have removed the song when I asked them to, but there are a few that just ignore my messages. And I don't want to file a copyright claim because I'm not willing to give out my personal details to a website where my personal details might be forwarded on to the person I'm copyright claiming. It's hard to go into detail without giving up my identity, but everything I'm saying here is what happens to any remotely popular artist, I guess. Some people have absolutely no respect, it's super frustrating.
I'm starting to really struggle to deal with one of my housemates. She is easy to live with, and not a bad person at all, but I just find her personality hugely draining and annoying.
She doesn't seem to have any interests outside her appearance, so all she talks about is clothes,boys,her diet, the gym, skincare, etc and on top of it being hugely boring and shallow, I have finally just about managed to be okay with how I look (or at least I can deal with it and not think about it too much) and the constant body talk makes me really uncomfortable.
We just don't have like, a single thing in common and I'm tired of spending time with her, and now I'm getting the thing where you admit to yourself you find someone annoying, and suddenly everything they do is annoying.
We all have decided to live together for another year so I'm going to have to find a way to deal with her and not be a bitch, cause she hasn't actually done anything wrong, she's just not someone I'd choose to spend my time with.
Why are you spending time with her if you don't even like her? It's the same as a work colleague, you can just be nice enough to do what needs to be done with her and occasionally eat a meal together but you can spend your own time doing whatever you want. Go be with your own friends, if you don't want to talk to her let her know you're busy with something and slowly dissolve the social side of your relationship. You can say you don't want to talk about body stuff because of your issues, and offer alternative topics you know? Just don't be a jerk to her.
You played yourself by agreeing to live with her again and pretending to like her, you can only blame yourself.
He sounds like such a bitter bitch. Why should you suffer just because he does? He should either find a similarly-paying job with more flexible hours or days, or he can suck it up.
If he doesn't like the way you clean, he can hire a cleaner to solve all the non-existent problems and show you how it's done, or do it himself. Simple as.
It does not. It's samey all throughout until maybe the last third where it picks up… and drops everything immidiately.
I didn't like the characters myself, but I quite enjoyed the more mature feeling of a classic shounen story. I'm a sucker for those.
I don't get what's so particularly good about it too. It's a solid show with consistent quality and fairly consistent tension. It has a good balance of humour and drama. But I wouldn't say it's a masterpiece everyone is required to watch. If you're into darker while still very obviously shonen-type stories, it's great. But certainly not a must for every anime watcher.
It can be a moving coming of age story or "fragile balance between human and monster" story, but if you're not really into that, you can skip it.
Reiko is a goddess though.
Oh, I try. He does like some good stuff, but then he also likes shit. He also gets frustrated in me disliking and uncomfortable.. It has slavery and is overall grossly misogynistic but "He later treats his basically-a-child slave better! he sees her as a human but she's still his slave"
Not to mention the main story plot is that the MC has a false rape claim and later gets his revenge on her by having her renamed "Whore", and in the novel, she's raped to death while people excitedly watch.
>>433856> It has slavery and is overall grossly misogynistic but "He later treats his basically-a-child slave better! he sees her as a human but she's still his slave"
Not to mention the main story plot is that the MC has a false rape claim and later gets his revenge on her by having her renamed "Whore", and in the novel, she's raped to death while people excitedly watch.
What the fuck, people who enjoy this shit are truly subhumans. Consider if you really want bf who watch this shit. Fucking respect yourself girl.
I've noticed this cognitive dissonance too. I mean, yeah you can shit on other women's looks, nitpick and make fun of them but that's not really very feminist
, if that's what you like to spend your free time with- it's pretty much the opposite of that. So idk why those people claim to be feminists in the first place…maybe to feel better about themselves and things they say.
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We're not official but it still makes me mad. Happens with friends sometimes too and I just don't understand it. It would be one thing if I were trying to make everyone hang with me all the time, but these people are literally the ones approaching me with requests for plans and things.
I make sure to reserve the time and wipe my schedule for these people, and for what? So they can, on a whim, throw me like a piece of garbage when they find something better to do or are just "not in the mood."
I just don't have the patience. I'd rather people leave me alone completely than keep up this annoying ass pretense like they're my pals or care about me in a romantic way when they can't even be assed to come have fun and swim in a pool with me for an evening. Fuck me.
Why the fuck should anyone have to be 'understanding' of that? It's disgusting and disrespectful, no daughter or wife would be okay with it.
You should confront him. It doesn't matter how great he is to you when he's treating your mother like trash and being a nasty pervert.
I wouldn't give them a second chance unless they initiate AND host. Also any guy who is whiney and tired after a day of errands or chores is inferior anyways, personally after I get my shit done I get a second wind by evening and wanna see my boyfriend who has enough energy for 1am MtG nights but no time for me after work at like 5pm, not even for nice dinner or snacking and tv reeeEE
noot freaking noot
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Several months are taken off of my life expectancy every time a farmer makes a "My bf uses porn/cheats/treats me like shit. Thoughts?" post, and we get two or three-a-day around these parts.
Like, I get that they want to vent, but what kind of response are they expecting?
You know what you have to do. Dump him. Cut his bepis off, Karen. It's not even worth replying with "dump him" because you know they aren't going to, they're just gonna keep letting their fucking doughy, ugly, limp-dick, pornsick boyfriends fart on their couches all day.
I still want to shout "dump him" from the mountaintops, though.
That's fucking depressing. Why are men such useless pigs? No, scratch that. That's insulting to pigs.
Stories like this are why I don't trust men and don't want to get married.
If I were you I would cut off all communication with your dad and tell him you'll only talk to him again if he is faithful to your mom again. At the very least I hope your mom divorces him and takes all his money and valuable assets.>>434073
Probably because they know that that's what 90% of men are like and the men who aren't like that are very rare and almost always taken but they still don't want to be alone.
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I'm pretty sad about TiMs and male shitposters shitting up Crystal Cafe.
I used to kind of like it as a more laid-back, sweet alternative to Lolcow, but honestly? I think I prefer Lolcow's general saltiness, disdain for any excessive foolishness, and the way mods ruthlessly bring down the hammer on anything that smells even vaguely of inceloid trash, since that's apparently the only truly effective way to create a free space for women.
I'd rather talk here and get comforted (or called an idiot bitch) by a majority of other actual women, than get worthless replies from some unhinged male who believes women need to hear his input by force. There's a very good reason we're not making "Femanon General" threads on /r9k/ and hanging out in them, so why do they feel the need to try and make any imageboard with even a whiff of female users into their personal dumping ground?
The peak of a high-tech, self-censoring, data-collecting dystopian internet can't come soon enough. I can't wait until there's an app that automatically detects the gender of anyone you interact with online, and allows you to block their posts from your sight in advance if you just don't feel like reading any scrote garbage on a particular day. I'm just so tired of it all.
Picture dumps can be done by anyone, gender doesn't really matter in that case
Just ask for something and you can receive it
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I'm pretty sure I've already seen some of them get offended by that AI that can accurately guess your sex and age.
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I'm so fucking mad that every time you think you've found a platonic male friend you're having a good time with he either hits on you and/or suddenly drops you like a hot fucking potato when he starts dating a girl. Why does this fucking meme exist, I hate losing male friends to this and this dumb bitch ends up being hopeful despite it happening literally every time. Every time. I wish I had a close brother so I could have one male friend to keep me from 100% pinkpilling and believing that men have some small redeeming qualities and aren't all inhumane garbage.
It's super annoying. I can tell whenever this tranny will be in the vc it's going to be centered around him sperging about something or insulting others. For some reason the friend who created the discord thinks this is highly entertaining, I find it obnoxious and unfunny. It's really hard to have a conversation or get to know any of the other members because everything is constantly redirected towards the awful shit tranny says.
Sometimes my friend mutes the tranny on purpose just to get him riled up, so when he gets unmuted he unleashes a verbal tirade that's apparently oh so hilarious.
Just "jokingly" bully the shit out of him until he goes into a hilarious narcissistic rage and either shuts up or leaves the chat whenever you're around. Your friend being owner (or mod) gives you a bit of immunity if you're close to them, doubly so if you can sweet-talk them into giving you mod powers yourself.
If the tranny complains, just fake-apologize, but make sure the constant subtext is that he needs to chill out and stop being so sensitive all the time.
I have a few male friends I've known for years, but I've accepted that we won't be as close as they get girlfriends and wives.
A few of them I only talk to maybe a few times a year but it's not like it makes them my enemies or that I've lost them.
Try not to take it personally because it's really nothing to do with your character or how they see you. If you were getting married to a man, wouldn't it feel a little inappropriate if he had a slew of female besties that he kept on a pedestal and told everything to?
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I mean, holy fuck. This is how comfortable they've become on CC. How could it have fallen so far? What the fuck happened??
Word. Out of all my girlfriends only one has been emotionally stable and after a mutual breaking up she ended up with an emotionally high maintenance possessive psycho bitch who destroyed her. I'm a bislut too and even though I love the fuck out of women I can't date them anymore because it seems the WLW scene is a mine field of mental issues and unstable people. I hate it.
The U-haul streotype (I love that term because it's too accurate) is a huge turn off to me too but it always seems like WLWs are always looking for massive amounts of emotional labor and commitment instead of casual dating and FWB sex. I recognize it's just because of how women are socialized from birth though (fooling around is a no-no for a fine lady!) and a lot of lesbians/bi women are traumatized by their upbringing as a gay teen and because the LGBT scene just seems to encourage drama whoring but it still pisses me off. I wish straight girls would date me, I'm extra pissed off by shitty men who don't treat their girlfriends right because they have the privilege of actually dating a stable girl.
He said something slightly shallow before we met up. When I suggested the pool he joked about being shy about his dad bod so I jested back that it would compliment my mom bod. He replied in no uncertain terms woah, woah, woah he wasn't looking to hook up with an actual fat chick. So I sent him a full body pic and frankly told him to decide if I was anyone worth the pursuit. He backpedaled and prattled about me not being fat and gave a bunch of heart faces and such.
Maybe my pictures just don't convey my candid appearance that well, even so, I just find the whole ordeal very rude. He's just a below average guy who thinks he deserves a model and acts like a cunt to women who don't please him.
Who invites a first date to grilling with your parents?
You are out of touch, it's so absurd he probably didn't think you were serious. IDK, if I were him I'd totally bail as well.
It was a nice day for pool and grill and I live with my stepdad.
Would you have at least let the other person know you suddenly were not comfortable before bailing? I mean, I would have. >>434331
Gee, I guess.
you soung legitimately autistic, did you
wanna just hang out w him or did you wanna fuck?
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Wow, lots to consider here.>unironic use of the troon-term WLW>I'm needy (but DAE sick of these needy lesbos?)>un-ironic preference for shallow relationships with scrotes because women be complicated amirite>get your u-haul the fuck away from me, I want casual sex but also monogamy and commitment but not that much
and the cherry on top>a dead-serious insinuation that the "WLW" dating scene is full of crazy bitches, compared to the straight dating scene which is full of well-adjusted men who aren't crazy at all, no sir
I know you guys are just venting, but you couldn't sound like more stereotypical flakey bihets if you tried.
I don't know why some anons are calling you clueless and autistic, I don't think inviting him for a grill was weird. I'm a Eurofag so it might be a cultural difference though.
Yeah, it does sound like the guy was just expecting a quick lay and not actually getting to know a girl.
On the plus side, at least you didn't waste much time with him!
Of course I wouldn't say anything, that would be extremely uncomfortable.
My point is that you probably shouldn't use tinder if you are this sensitive and naive, while some people are may be looking for a relationship and stuff, the vast majority won't care about you and your feelings and maybe even take advantage of you.
I think you're right in that I don't understand current dating culture where this level of cowardice is acceptable. You may have a point that Tinder isn't for me despite being honest and stating what I want upfront. Seems like men on there are sociopaths. >>434352
I don't get it. But considering what other anons said about him just wanting to fuck and me being naive, I'm kind of glad my stepdad was home.
Literally never had this problem with any Discord server I've joined but then again I actually join the conversation and bring in something to discuss instead of waiting for someone to notice me. Any group is bound to have a core block that interacts with each other way more than others, but do you think people get in by never partaking in the conversation? No, they've been active for some time and bonded with the other people because of that. Discord servers aren't really for people who expect to have a message board instead of an interactive real-time discussion.
I'm glad that Discord servers exist because back when I was a teen chat rooms and irc channels were popular, you just picked a channel and joined it, met new people and after a few months you had integrated into the group. People have been so pampered by Facebook groups for the past 10 years so that they expect a slow-moving discussion they can jump back in the next day or start a thread and get reactions as they please.
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There's the homophobia I knew was bubbling just beneath the bihet surface! I'm not even a lesbian, just feel sorry for lesbians having to deal with allegedly "bisexual"
women who don't take them seriously as partners whatsoever.
I already had to leave 2 servers, because despite me being there since they started and basically texting with them every day, I still never managed to get into the "friend group".
I wonder if it's because I wasn't enough of a queer special snowflake or whether I'm an asshole (or autistic) lol
>>434349>unironic use of the troon-term WLW
did you know that troons didn't invent nor did they monopolize these terms? tf>I'm needy (but DAE sick of these needy lesbos?)>un-ironic preference for shallow relationships with scrotes because women be complicated amirite
way to misrepresent what I said, asshole. I AM needy and because of that I have insecurity about my ability to be a place of stability for other women… Not that I think all women are dramatic unstable bitches. I just have the misfortune to run into those types.>>get your u-haul the fuck away from me, I want casual sex but also monogamy and commitment but not that much
God forbid I don't want to move in with someone immediately after sexing them?? Monogamous relationship IS what I want but they seem to move way too fucking fast with women and I'm put off by that (intimacy issue). Burn me the stake for being a bad gay.
You beat me anon, I was going to post the same. The hypocrisy is too much kek>>434595
I bet your bf is into some of the shit you just mentioned, probably all of them.
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Why is reddit so often the embodiment of a guillible 30 year old man? Why do they believe this shit is real? I'm just amazed at this point. Does anyone even use kik anymore?
Hey anon I know it's shit and it hurts a lot that men are coddled into getting away with feeling like they're owed our bodies even as children, but please don't let him win. I know you're tired and I know it's so fucking unfair, because we were kids and we didn't get to decide what happened to us, but a tiny part of you keeps going despite him to have gotten you this far. There is a light that never goes out. And that's not just me admitting to still being afraid of the dark too. Somehow we got here and that's the important thing, don't discount how you did it. Pretend I'm you, if you like. You'd probably never tell me to end it. We're always much kinder to others than we are to ourselves.
I'm so sorry. I know it hurts. I'd hug you if I could.
In 2 weeks I will write my final exam and as somebody who's already anxious on a normal basis, I'm of course super scared about it.
Now my mother told me that they plan to go to vacation the days before and the day of my exam, asking me if I'd prefer them not going.
I told her that I of course can't and don't want to stop them, but that I would prefer not having to be alone the evening before since I'm likely a crying mess.
Now my mother said they won't go, but she's also pissed at me. I told her that I don't want her to be angry at me, that they should go if she wants that so much, because now I feel guilty over having ruined their vacation and I can't exactly concentrate on studying when she's angry at me. But then she told me that I always say everything is her fault and that I always try to guilttrip her? But, I am the one feeling guilty right now? Why ask for my opinion if you only accept one answer?
She constantly does this, being angry at me, never relenting no matter how often I apologize and always making herself out to be the grand victim who sacrifices things for my sake - even if I never asked for any of that in the first place.
I'm not some type of master manipulator, I only said how I honestly feel about it.
Now she's super angry, going around slamming doors. What should I do?
big congrats on your graduation, anon! im sure you'll make an amazing lawyer/whatever other job law school qualifies you for.
is there a chance you can trick your parents into not going? i mean, they already suck and have apparently told you, verbally, that they're not proud of you (wtf), so maybe they wont be mad if they miss it? tell them they changed the date or sth and go to graduation alone on the day of. it sucks being alone on such a big day but by the sound of your parents you're better off alone.
even if they have a narc meltdown about how its UR FAULT WE MISSED IT BC YOURE TOO STUPID TO EVEN TELL US THE DATE RIGHT maybe its a better shot putting up with a private narc rage than a public one in front of your teachers, classmates & their families
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I'm tired of living in the arctic circle with its dumbass weather.
The people are lovely, the country is great otherwise, but fuck this weather. Summer lasts for 3 months but it rains half the time anyway, spring lasts for a week and everything blooms and then dies as soon as you look away, nothing fucking grows here and if it does it tastes like styrofoam. Tomatoes taste like nothing, shops sell watery milk, chicken looks like it's been injected with saline to make it heavier. Berries are the only thing worth buying or picking here and you can do that in 2 measly 2-week windows after which they disappear from the shelves or there's like 2 boxes of rotten fruit left. Then as soon as it came, summer is gone, giving way to a week of nice autumn, then 9 months of misery, snow, sleet, ice, everything looking straight up like downtown Chernobyl. Fuck off.
Sever anon. Fuck those people. Lie about the date and time and never talk to those pieces of shit again.
Do you think campus/school security could help keep them out? That's a stretch but idk much about graduation/event security procedures lol
Congratulations on all your hard work and achievements! You'll go far in life and how exciting to continue the ascent! Godspeed
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My ex is a piece of shit, def don’t get why I tried to be friends with her
Invited me to stay at her place but has phone sex loudly both mornings I was there. Then lied to my face when I confronted her to like tone it down because I could hear.
Her house is a disgusting mess and I honestly don’t understand how she could live in it.
I should have just stayed in the hotel like I was planning too.
She also has her own discord and let’s underage kids post porn and doesn’t see an issue with it because if they get in trouble it’s their own fault
She lies about being Japanese when she’s actually Hispanic and even changed her name legally to a Japanese one
Lies to everyone around her and will never stop
She’s gross and I’m sooooooo sad I gave almost 10 years of my life to a disgusting piece of shit
Spoilered the image of her fucking freezer door
Stop being a sad faggot and train your body and get some skills.
Learn how to grow your own food, build your own shelter, defend yourself with weapons and the body.
Learn about the local flora and fauna around you to see what you can do with it.
If you're going to live for yourself you need to refine your body and mind. Challenge yourself physically.
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if you're in the US, you can postpone your jury duty. read the entire summons and there should be information regarding postponing somewhere on there, sometimes there's a perforated bit they want you to fill out and mail back, but there should at least be a phone number or instructions or something.
I went to their website and submitted a date I can appear, but I won't know if it got approved for two days, and the date I requested is next week. I'm wondering if that's too soon, but the entire week of, and before my summons, I have dentist, therapist, and doctor's appointment, as well as piano lessons and a sports team I just signed up for and can't miss. I can't move any of the appointments because they were made months ago and they'll be rescheduled months out. Why can't jury piss off; my city is ultra left wing and they let the criminal go most of the time. Some guy exposing his junk was let go, and wound up in prison two weeks later because he did it again. Just, urgh.
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Being on this site has made me so self-conscious of my laugh lines. I know the whole "nasolabial folds" thing is sorta a meme and dumb nitpicking but I can't help checking for them in the mirror every morning. Mine are barely there but I still looked up anti-laugh line creams even though I'm only 21. Being insecure about aging sucks.
i had this feeling when i began to notice small ones beginning at my nose. it's probably completely false, but my mom told me this: laugh lines and smile lines (the ones near your eyes) mean you've expressed joy many times in your life!
flip it and reverse it, anon. it happens to everyone, but now when i notice those little creases near my nose i smile even more. don't nitpick yourself for things you can't control.
You're only 30. The world is enormous and that's truly an understatement - I am sure there's something out there you can find purpose in. What parts of your life are you dissatisfied with? Your career? Perhaps you could consider a career change. Feeling bored in general? Try taking up a hobby. Your social life? Maybe try getting closer to a coworker, reconnecting with old friends, or register for fitness classes at your gym. Not everyone is "out to get you" and you are not a "burden". And I am sure there is someone out there that will like you for who you are. And I promise you are not as "awkward and annoying" as you think - other people are usually caught up in their own business to notice. Plus it's lucky that you have loving parents. Not everyone can say that. You could spend more time together with them.
I hope you find peace in your life.
Yesterday I went to a friend’s birthday which usually invites all the people whom he knows because we live in a pretty small town and everyone knows each other.
There was this kid, he’s not exactly a kid but his mind is. He’s 20 but he has the mind of a 12 years old. It’s not very noticeable, people may also or not notice it. It’s just that when you start to know him, you notice that he can’t keep a smart conversation about lot of topics. Also, he has some kind of habits like repeating the same questions over and over again, or having to touch everything because otherwise he gets anxious.
His parents feel ashamed of him. I don’t know how to put it in other words.
You see, as I said, we live in a pretty small town so everyone can notice that whatever this boy has, it’s not perfectly fine. Except for his parents.
They never told anyone about it, not even their family and I never thought how bad it may be until yesterday.
When birthday boy was blowing the candles, this boy got all excited and started clapping and laughing. Then he got really serious and turned to his mother (I was close to them) and asked her “is my retardation showing?”, and then the excuse of a mother he has smiled at him and said something like “no, darling, and don’t say these things here or people will notice it.”
I wanted to cry. How can you educate your son to feel ashamed of who he is? I get that everybody wants to have perfect children and nobody likes to have some troubles while parenting but this? Make your own child think there is something to feel ashamed about himself? For what? So people won’t talk behind your back (they do anyways!)? So people won’t think your son is “special, different”? What’s wrong with it?
I felt so bad for him, I couldn’t believe what he said. He seemed very quiet afterwards.
I can’t comprehend how can someone have the courage to make his own son think it’s okay to hide something that he is, basically because they seem ashamed of his behaviour.
what the fuck, that's such childish behaviour
she could've asked you before planning too, or at least not write it off as your fault when it's not
don't make this another thing to stress about, the exam is hard enough
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can feel myself slowly being replaced and forgotten by someone i thought was really into me, so i’m starving myself because hunger pangs numb out the heartache i feel. i hate being 19 and inexperienced (never had a bf only puppy e-dating). it’s rare that i get crushes on people, when i do i get in to deep, put all my eggs in one basket, and get sad when i see that it’s not reciprocated the same. i know that adults usually like to keep their options open when it comes to dating by mingling with other people or just continually searching for something better, not being invested in the first person they’re into. but i’m not like that, at all. i like someone, and they’re the only person i can kline and show romantic interest in, that’s it. and i know that most of what i feel is due to low self esteem and inexperience but it’s still a bitch to come to terms with. i know i’ll probably grow out of it as i get older and get over it but right now i just feel so worthless, undesirable, and invisible
I relate. Some days I thought I had a fake smile on my face and people still asked if I was OK. My depression has been running strong now for nearly 2 decades and some days it's gone and some days (like today) it's present and I skipped an important lab I shouldn't have with no excuses until I turn up tomorrow.
I was in therapy but I had a change of address and couldn't attend any longer this was nearly a few years ago. I was on anti depressants in the absence of therapy NHS accepted that I had been in therapy so just gave me 40mg and that was it. I hated the tablets complained switched around dosages, tablets, ballooned in size, already had social anxiety became more anxious. Took myself off antidepressants had a bad few months. I've isolated myself a lot from people.
But. The fogginess of the antidepressants lifted a few months ago and I've been working out, forcing myself outside and going places I normally wouldn't and I feel better as a person and lighter. Today is a bad day and this morning felt like everything was impossible but I can already feel my mood lifting a lot. It ebs and flows. And I find exercise has helped me the most although sometimes there can be days with no motivation. It's just always a battle it seems.
Thanks for sharing, anon. It's "nice" to have someone understand you for once.
The whole medication thing sounds pretty exhausting. It's good that you're trying different things though, I hope better days are coming for you…
NTA but you lose a LOT of baby fat by 21ish and a 22 year old in a completely different world than a high schooler, while the gap is small the difference in power is huge
Plus teenagers are all gangly and unstable, I don’t trust adults that pursue someone too young to be trusted with voting power
So you think that I am the one who's in the wrong for thinking it's creepy? I could never imagine dating somebody her age, I already felt guilty for liking him even though our age difference is not that big.
It just sucks, back then I never made a move because I thought I'm not his type (he dated a very small, cute and babyfaced girl before), but his gf now is more like I me - just nearly 7 years younger and better looking…
I don't think you're wrong, anon. My own experience tells me there's no way a man won't take advantage of being more mature, having more freedom and being more knowledgeable about the world than his girlfriend. Adult men who are willing to date underage girls are seeking a power dynamic that will allow them, at best, to flatter their own ego and get away with being a prick, and at worst, to be outright abusers.
I don't think you should be focusing on pining after this guy and feeling envy, though. He sounds sleazy and gross.
I only recently found out so probably not for long.
I just dont know how to talk to him about it or approach it and i dont know yet if he knows but from what the victim
has said, he doesnt know.
It terrifies me to imagine he is a rape apologist but its probably going to be the case.
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I fucking had enough of life, I don't even wanna bother talking of it but everything seems dull and meaningless.
My long term relationship is failing too, he has like 0 interest in me, all the compliments/ dick pics I'm getting are from men I'm scared of.
I would honestly appreciate it if I die right here right now, every consequences seems bad.
No im saying you thinking you are some old hag at 22 23 is stupid and that you are extremely youthful and fresh faced at that age too>>435314
Im talking purely physical differences.. I was contesting anon who thinks early twenties is a hag or visually visibly older than teens and its not true.; its the same reason that makes exlusive or reoccuring ephebophilia retarded because its about control and power rather than aesthetics most of the time
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Me being dumb goes on tinder to find a boyfriend. Every guy I talk to ghost me after making every attempt to keep a conversation going and appearing interesting.
I also have this insecure feeling that if I am the one starting the convo after getting a match. It meant I am ugly and they swipe me on accident.
It's okay anon, I drank the dumb bitch juice too and signed up for Tinder as well after ending a LDR. Every guy I have met up with has either taken advantage of me or ghosted me. At first I didn't mind because I was legitimately just trying to get over my ex. I always viewed Tinder as a meat market, but in the back of my mind I always heard those stories about people finding their boyfriends or girlfriends on it so I was hopeful I'd click with someone or they'd consider me special.
I deactivated it two days ago. Good riddance.
Anon you replied to and >Career
I have a great career in the field I have a degree in. I make good money and worked really hard to get where I am.>Social life
I have a lot of acquaintances that I'm mutually cordial with but not that close.>Hobbies
I have a lot of (solitary) hobbies because if I didn't I would probably lose the last sense of purpose I feel like I have.>Parents
My parents are busy with their own life with their own problems and goals. Despite loving me we're not very close and understandably they don't live for their adult children's sake.>other people are usually caught up in their own business to notice.
Exactly. I don't matter to people at all. I'm not a part of anyone's life. I have no value because a person who's not a part of a social network isn't a person at all. That was my point.
I'm too damaged to ever have a boyfriend and I'm lowkey afraid of men due to my past experiences. I'm too damaged to feel like I belong somewhere and I always end up thinking that outside of professional environments, I'm a burden and can't contribute anything worthwhile. Literally all I have is my career and my introverted hobbies and that's what I've been dedicating my life to. It just gets crippling when I realize that if I died tomorrow, only my parents would care. This came to be some years ago when I almost died in an accident and it traumatized me, mostly because I received zero to no sympathy from the people around me. I try not to think about it by drowning myself in my work, hobbies and escapism. Didn't think my life would turn out this way but it did, so I just have to make do like >>434904
suggested. Just here for the ride and living for myself.
It's hard being this age because you're expected to stand on your own two feet and just deal with it. Reaching out is troublesome because I have a great career and some skills I've perfected over the years, so I'm often met with hostile envy which only contributes to my cynicism and indifference (You know, the "you can't have real problems" sorta stuff). I guess I just wanted to vent here because I don't have anywhere else to go and had to get it off my chest to see if anyone else felt the same way. First time I've vented about my life and it'll be the last, sorry to be such a sperg.
I always assume that the gossip threads are filled with men. Some of the comments are so fucking vile and insensitive (also nitpicky as fuck) that I can't really imagine a woman would write that. I mean, the possibility of course exists, but I also think men take advantage of the general bitterness of those threads to talk shit about the cows all they want, without nobody yelling them to go back to 4chan or whatever.
Mariah's thread in particular I'm pretty damn sure is full of guys who are bitter at the fact the can't fuck her, so they nitpick on every single physical thing they can to feel better about themselves.
Again, not saying every single comment is made by a man, but don't doubt they are writing the nastiest shit in those threads while we keep calling them "mean girls".
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I have no idea how the anons that are independent adults able to sustain relationships, hobbies anb jobs do it.
In theory I should be able to do those things, I'm fairly smart and not that autistic but it feels like whenever I get a minor set back, usual involving other people and social interactions/expectations, or get some negative vibes from the group I'm involved with at the time my whole world crumbles and I become an anxious mess unable to keep my routines and getting out of the bed, if I try really hard I end up getting a compulsion to hide inside bathrooms stalls or to run away from all.
It sucks, I've done therapy multiple times, taken meds, read self help books, tried keeping a journal and exploring my childhood traumas, yet I can't get out of this damn loop.
Shit, I'll be 27 in like three months and I have nothing, no friends, career, degree, gf/bf, and it's all my damn fault.
Some times I legit wonder if I have some sort of mental retardation because I've read about a lot of people that have worse traumas, history and Asperger's, and still manage to become somewhat functional. wtf
>>435518>Sounds more like insecure women shitting on other women
I think that's the case, especially when seeing how camwhore lolcows attract anons who brag about how much better of a camgirl they are, or the alt thread has those anons writing lengthy posts about how they're true goths.
It's a shame because those threads can have great milk and legit fun discussions when they're not a clit-measuring contest.
>>435518>Sounds more like insecure women shitting on other women to make themselves feel better.
Momokun's thread has been outed before as being populated with rival cosplayers because they forgot to crop out their own profiles in screengrabs.
Dolly threads are full of camgirls who constantly boast about themselves and nitpick over other camgirls doing it wrong.
Pet YouTuber threads are full of pet hoarders who think they're veterinarians and experts.
Sh0e's thread is full of pickmes (Venti) or ex pickme cool girls who are mad that someone like Sh0e reached e-success with that persona.
The anorexic scumbag thread is full of "recovered" ED farmers or farmers with ongoing ED who try to medfag or blogpost out of experience.
I could go on. What's also really annoying is whenever any type of infrequent "outsider" makes a comment about the lolcows that doesn't fall in line with the typical nitpicks and insults, the farmers get supremely off-color and angry because they feel like you've interrupted their flow. It's their
Probably because the rejection of women would sting worse than the rejection by males, right?
It's okay anon. Just remember that everyone has insecurities and anxieties deep down. If lolcow should teach you anything it's that lots of farmers here struggle to make new female friends.
If you keep in mind that common ground, women seem a lot less intimidating. Got any hobbies you could branch out in?
I’m less nervous around men (beside when they act a certain way that triggers
trauma-based fear) because I guess I know I hold a certain kind of power as a woman? I.e. they wanna smash, young or old. Also society did a good job grooming me to play the charming flirty dumb bitch act.
Women tend to be intuitive and see right through the bullshit. So I feel more scrutinized because I feel like I wasn’t socialized to be in as tune with other women’s emotional needs… and worry I will accidentally come off like a bitch. I found it helpful to remind myself that most women aren’t evil bitches who are constantly trying to one-up, dominate and sabotage you. They’re also trying to gage you as well, that’s the awkward feeling we get sometimes. And those heavily afflicted with internalized misogyny make it obvious rather quickly and thus their approval is unneeded.
Men treat you like shit if they're not attracted to you
If they are, they basically worship the ground you walk on
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All my friends, who are 25+ mind you, are fucking obessed with tiktok. I know i am being a no-fun-allow bitch, but i find the app incredibly childish. I wish the app fucking disappear. They are all so fucking cringy. I can't even watch them. You all are 25+ year old. Stop acting like teenager lip syncing to old memes. Your story time are worst on video then in person. What worse they exaggerate every story. Even the ones i was there.
How do I end my internalized misogyny
for a good chunk of my life I have had an extreme feeling of bitterness, frustration, and sometimes hatred towards my own gender. I have always had my trust most betrayed in my life by women. Lied to the most by women, and have been abused and bullied by women, including by my own mother when I was a child. Now the problem lies with my extreme desire for male acceptance even though I am well aware now how stupid it is. I have been through terrible situations with men,yet I still don’t have this wall around me when it comes to making relationships with other men. My father was in the picture,and was a good dad but was almost never home because of his job. I am bisexual, so dealing with this has always been a pain for that aspect as well. I hate how judgmental I become, and my male friends will often laugh at me for having so much distrust for other girls. I really want to fully call myself a feminist. I love hearing about strong, smart, and talented women conquering their fears and achieving their goals, yet I struggle to let any girls in my life get close to me. I’m always afraid of getting hurt or not being enough of a woman. A fear I had developed from other girls in my life calling me too masculine and a dyke. I overthink it so much, and makes me upset to tears that this is such a problem for me. I compliment girls daily on their talents, their looks, or just being awesome moms or pet owners or great at their job. Yet this hatred won’t leave my brain, and the male acceptance can sometimes affect the state of relationship with my current male partner. I haven’t made a true female friend since middle school, and that hurts just to say. I just want to know what I can do to try and make this disgusting part of me go away and move forward with the women trying to make the world better.
There are so many bi girls in heavy music scenes, even if you aren't finding them on tindr they exist, you'll find one eventually anon!
Make an effort to talk to people at gigs, try and go to see bands that have a lgbt fanbase such as smaller intersectional leaning punk bands if you can get into that, and if you can deal with it then maybe try and look a little stereotypically gay at those events. It's going to be harder to find girls without their wonderbread attachments at metal gigs, but if you find a girl at a more niche punk gig then you might still have enough musical crossover that she can come to those gigs with you in the future.
Side note but as a bi girl I can't imagine putting my music tastes on my tindr bio because it would just invite annoying guys to quiz me on being a poser
Don't know what you are talking about.
I just want to vent about my adult frienss using a kid app.
I had my sleep interrupted with this dull aching chest pain and shortness of breath, and it's physically sickening, but I have no idea whether it's severe or not? It feels like hell and my chest feels horrible, I'm lying down and short of breath but I'm breathing, it's like this very dull but hellish heaviness in my chest that feels like pain
been experiencing cycling shortness of breath the entire day today (or should I say since yesterday evening), took aspirin at work to try and help it, it's not debilitating enough to be life threatening so going to the ER might be a waste of time / money… unfortunately I haven't gone to a practitioner doc in like 4 years and I have really no other resources to go to if this is an actual problem, am I just being a hypochondriac or what
I was off my psychological meds for 5 months, have been back on them for 5-7 weeks now with no symptoms, and never experienced reactions like this so I doubt it's my meds that are making me physically sick / short of breath, only one of them gives me physical symptoms and I don't take that one till tomorrow morning so it's definitely not that (my antidepressants that I take in the morning make me queasy, I take anti anxiety at morning and at night, mood stabilizer at night, the latter two never caused me any problems), I am currently on day 2 of my period but I doubt shortness of breath and chest pain is a symptom of that
I've had mild symptoms of asthma my entire life, never been an actual asthmatic, sometimes I have terrible allergies and shortness of breath that strains my voice but nothing that's ever given me this intensity of chest pain. like I said I was experiencing it yesterday during work no less and it dulled my voice down a lot, took two aspirins, inhaled some smelly herbal stuff to try and clear out any allergy blockage, that worked temporarily, and now that I've woken up at like 3am it seems to be back and even more relentless.
I'm fucking retarded for venting wondering what could be causing this chest pain, at what point should I drag myself to some kind of doctor, at what point does it become an issue I wonder. Maybe I'll just end up fucking dying or maybe it will dissipate and never be an issue again after tonight
I've had abnormal sleep interruptions without chest pain for weeks on and off (sometimes they happen, sometimes they'd don't) because I have been trying to alter my sleep schedule after staying up till 3-5am for the five months when I was off my meds, and it's been hell, but this is the first time I've experienced chest pain and shortness of breath after waking up (it's gottten a bit better since I posted but it's still uncomfortable). I've been in a new environment for weeks now and I don't think there's any excuse for me to be experiencing this that isn't medical, completely separate from all my issues at hand I've had people tell me over the course of yesterday that it could be anxiety induced, but there's no reason anxiety would be making it pop up twice in the span of less than 24hrs like this. If I've been regularly taking my meds again for 5-7 weeks it makes no sense for this to be induced by them and it makes no sense that it would happen at two unrelated points in the day (evening and very early morning) or stress, I've had moments of very high stress on some days in the last 3-5 weeks and nothing like this has ever occurred before recently… ofc I have the right to be scared
Not sure it'll help, since right now we don't get along the best (dealing with internal family drama that was spurred on by me moving out of my dads house and into my moms after an incident happened and my dad completely shattered 5 years of trust he'd built up in me, it fucking depresses me to think about) but i will tell my mother tomorrow about this and tell her I might need to make an appointment with some kind of doc/clinic even though I don't have a general practitioner right now, this isn't normal and I'm not going to hide it no matter how much I hope it kills me, there's a lot of things I need to resolve and hiding my problems only tends to make them worse so might as well admit something is wrong while it's happening… or it will be too late and go unchecked and the last time that happened, it didn't end well
thanks for your concerns, I'm going to try and get back to sleep now and see if it's still there when I wake up
Stay safe, anon. You know what you have to do. I don't know what country you're in (assuming America bc it's night here and you mentioned hospital costs lel), but if you think it stems from a physical issue, don't let your physician tell you the problem is stemming from mental issues, and don't let them keep turning your attention away from your physical pain because you're dealing with mental stuff. You're there for one specific thing and you're already being treated for your mental health so your physician should not be so focused on that. Don't answer the bullshit depression questionnaire if you don't have to.
Just speaking from personal experience. Went in for gastrointestinal pains once and my doctor ended up wanting to admit me in a ward for my depression. Ridiculous.
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while i used to feel shittier in the past and more self conscious,now that im feeling better im loosing hope that i will truly be understood by anyone.i feel like i cant be truly honest because i will either be judged or the others will take my words too personally.i know i have no place to judge people,but having gone through a bunch of therapy and introspection,i see how blind others are to how they truly are and their issues.i spent most of my life being borderline agoraphobic and i barely have friends and the few i have now seem to be drifting away because i relate to them less and less or they have other more important people in their lives.whenever i try to do something better for myself,i feel as if i should have expectations of myself i will never achieve and i feel burdened and pressured so i give up.there are times i have hope for the future but at other times i feel that nothing will get better and that we all are truly alone in the end
the image is taken from reddit and is slightly modified by me.we need more doomerette memes man
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the depths of my soul,fellow doomerette anon
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This entire post could've been written by me tbh; you summarized it all perfectly.
Hope you'll feel at least a bit better knowing you're really
not the only one feeling like this.
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>Upstairs neighbor will bitch if anyone sneezes in the hallways.
>I live right under his apartment.
>He moves heavy shit around his apartment at 7AM.
>His grandchildren gallop around his apartment like draft horses.
>He slams doors like he is trying to break the door frames.
>Seriously beginning to tinfoil about what the eff he keeps dragging around on the floor at 7AM so often!?!?!!
That's stupid but doesn't make you a bold racist. And neither does it make non-English speakers unsafe. Isn't your official language English?
I never sympathized with Americans complaining about foreigners/mexicans, but since witnessing the situation first hand I kind of understand them. Tourists learn English, travel to the US, and then get people serving them who can't or can barely speak English? Wtf? Makes you feel dumbfounded lol
I forgot I wrote that post but coming back and finding your reply makes me want to cry. Hang in there, kiddo. I'm proud of you.
Completely cutting someone out of your life is also a very valid
way to deal with the trauma, too. I do live in fear of what will happen when my parents die and I may have to confront the person who abused me but then I remember that I can just talk to him through a lawyer. I haven't had any form of contact with that subhuman scum for 6 or 7 years now and every single extra day added to that number feels like a fucking achievement.