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that really sucks anon and im p sure you know that she will not get help unless she actually wants it. people with eating disorders will make excuses for every little thing.
but that is stupid that she is putting her insecurities on you guys. sort of related but my sister had a huge drug problem, selling and making and stealing. she at least after having to sit in jail and deal with some other awful stuff got her stuff together and apologized for being angry we would let her sit in jail and deal with the legal ramifications.
youre not responsible for her suffering.
Brexit is driving me mad. I'll happily admit that I don't understand every single facet of the argument, but today the govt announced that they will be checking the status of every EU national in the country (3 million people). For the ones who have indefinite leave/permanent residency, the application process is free and is essentially ticking a box. For ones who don't, if they've been here 5 years+ they automatically qualify for settled status and can continue as before. Their kids born in the UK are British citizens and nothing has to change - they can even bring close family members here. If they haven't, they qualify for pre-settled status; bit more limited than settled but still able to stay, children born here have to qualify as British citizens through their other parent or will be automatically qualified for pre-settled also. The rest will be checked out for employment, family ties, criminal record, etc… Which is exactly what a lot of the British public wanted. But there's a ton of people now kicking off because their husband came over from Italy 35 years ago, they have kids here, and they're worried about the future, like why?? Nothing will fucking happen to them, which is obvious if you actually read the application page. So over-dramatic, Remainers seem to live in this fairytale land where millions of people moving around randomly apparently has no effect on society, the economy, the govt, crime rates, employment, school populations… But instead of thinking logically about it, of course all Brexiteers are just racist. Which totally explains why they want immigration from the EU restructuring. This hysterical screeching is really making me lose any sympathy I had. /Rant
Is your sister aware of how bad breast implants are for health, or does she do that weird orthorexic mental gymnastic where if the unhealthy thing is something she wants
, she validates her choice regardless of the implications?
she is better about not openly judging us nowadays at least but i just get concerned about how illogical some of her choices are. she is completely convinced that she is the healthiest person in the world. it’s honestly a bit infuriating when I think about how illogical her thinking can be.>>345012
we have all suggested she probably just needs to consume more calories in her diet instead of getting implants because her body used to look more normal but she just wouldn’t have it since she believes she’s extremely muscular even though her limbs are twiggy. so the latter basically.
Shit, I'm in the same boat as you but I can't even blame myself since I wasted too many chances
Men make me nervous as fuck at the point of having little panic attacks when I go out with them. I get paranoid as well
Lately I've been thoughts about being bi as well, life is pretty shit
I'm just scared of ending up alone. I'm 20 now and all my friends are happily dating
that really sucks bb. its stupid that people cant imagine that a widespread issue could manifest in different ways regardless of what mainstream media tells them it should. you matter.
my depression comes from keeping a tidy image and making sure that no insecurities slip. but i guess im wrong because i dont live in squalor and look like im homeless
NTA but same, I work very hard to hide my issues because I don't need the world to know I'm struggling. I sanitize my image a lot. But thanks to tumblr there's now this culture where not only is it ok, but encouraged to let yourself fall to pieces and wallow in your illness and never try to get better because uwu clout uwu
I don't think people should be embarassed about their illness, but that's not the same as showing it off.
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I'm pretty proud of the way I've changed my attitude and criticism towards lolcows so that I'm not being nearly as toxic in my judgement about other women as I was a few years ago. Tbh, some threads on pt and snow legitimately disgust me because of the excessive shitting on female bodies. So much that I sometimes wonder if some men aren't slipping in to make such hateful comments, or perhaps the years of internalized misogyny just got to some people. Who knows. Anyway, I know I can't say anything or else I'm a WK so I tend to avoid them.
What really helped me be fairer was thinking about flaws in terms of whether they can be changed tomorrow, next week, in a year(s) time, or never:
Ex If someone has poor hygiene/makeup I'm going to laugh because that's something they could fix by tomorrow or next week if they weren't being stubborn, lazy or ignorant.
Choosing not to mock someone for having saggy breasts or loose skin because it can't be significantly fixed with non-surgical means and surgery isn't something most people can afford. It can't realistically be better by next week or maybe even never.
And I guess the latter scenario bothers me because farmers nitpick the bodily flaws so hard meanwhile the actions and the behavior of the cow are why they're posted here and are way worthier of discussion.
Other vent is that my laptop was performing really slowly so I decided to do a purge to free up some disc space.
I'm talking thousands of saved reaction pics, screencaps that I never deleted, etc. I guess I felt I should keep a lot of it in case I ""needed"" them but the reality is I never click or check them out. What's the point in having something if it's not used?
I felt a bit toxic for having them because a lot of the pictures and caps were saved from 4ch lolcows going several years back including a shitty ex. I feel a lot better, plus now if I die suddenly I won't be nearly as embarrassed for what's left on my laptop for my loved ones to find!
>>345348>And I guess the latter scenario bothers me because farmers nitpick the bodily flaws so hard meanwhile the actions and the behavior of the cow are why they're posted here and are way worthier of discussion.
This. I've never been much into criticizing a cow's appearance unless the cows themselves shit on other peoples' looks on a regular basis (such as shoe and momo), and even then I prefer sticking to discussing the shitty behavior they exhibit. I hate how a metric ton of farmers seem to be more interested in nitpicking saggy tits and crooked teeth for all eternity instead of focusing on the behavior that makes the cow worthy of laughing at. It becomes frustrating how a cow can be a complete sociopath yet anons are more interested in reeing over their nasolabial folds.
I also think it's cowish behavior in itself to tell people to go under the knife to correct flaws in their appearance. If you can't correct it with self-help such as improved hygiene, exercise, eating habits and more fitting clothes, their appearance is not milk. Momokun having shit eating habits and going on food and alcohol binges with no exercise or sleep while lying about working out is something she can improve on, but her "boob vein" isn't worth ten replies of "ewww the return of boob vein-kun lmaoooo".
I recently got into D&D with my boyfriend. I've played 3 games so far, an adventure league and two homebrew. There are a couple of things that put me off, one being that when my bf makes a character, he doesn't actually make a character. He pores over the ability scores and shit for hours, trying to make the most OP combination of multiclass and not even giving the thing a name or personality. Last night, he was like, "I'm finally done! Oh, wait, I need to figure out a background real quick." Proceeds to copy some generic shit… Like, I thought the game was about role-play and getting creative. Having a different personality and doing fun things, not "winning." What the fuck is the point if you have no real character to imagine adventuring with, rather than cold, faceless stats on a page?
I can't enjoy D&D because every person I've played with takes it too seriously all around.
I've seen people get angry and end friendships over it, just seems like it defeats the purpose.
There Isn't much to it. Just someone that I thought was special for 8 years. We talked on and off with no special dialogue in between but, the 5 times we met in person It was emotionally intense for just me it seems. If they ever did feel anything they never let me know leaving me in this grey area for too long. They went on to do things overseas while I slowly reached my goals. they came back this time. I was excited to see them to be a friend for them since i knew they probably had a hard time where they went. they just want to use me cause they haven't gotten laid in a long time. after much hesitation and moving away from them I give in. nothing feels right. I realize I am no longer attached to them . If they even cared just a bit it wouldn't of been this way. They critique everything I've been proud of doing. I know I am no superhuman and I have many caveats but I accomplish a few things I never thought I would…..They see.. I am quiet not really being lively I cant help but glare at this person. they try to buffer the situation. they tellme a bunch of secrets and things…almost breaking down right in front of me I just cant feel anything I feel sad for them but refuse to comfort them as i once did.
so yeah person played me for a long time. I came to my senses. they realize they dont want to lose their connection to me. I dont fall for their game no more. I am really mad at myself and them. I am in this peaceful raging zen. nothing they say or do has an effect. later on they text me "lets not see each other anymore" I reply"agreed" they then reply " sorry I wasnt good for you" "tell them not to apologize" realize the arent for me If they have to apologize for the kind of person they have been now and not then when i was willing to work things out. right now i feel sad but free but angry at the same time I am quite idiotic.
How about work friends?
Also I know its difficult with your high school friends being carefree and you not being able but don't let that get to you. if they like you well enough they shouldn't be bothered cause they know your busy and such or at least have some understanding.
it's shit anon sorry
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having a top model's body is my dream since forever and i ALMOST achieved it, like, it was SO CLOSE man
i was 43 kg, my body was starting to be just the way i've always dreamed of but i was hella depressed and my aunt lured me into going to the gym with her, she's one of those healthy fitness persons and shit, so i started going and i was like so depressed at the time i had nothing to do in my life and once i started going to the gym i used it like something to fill my mind with, so i started with the whole - fitness lifestyle - without even noticing that and now, right now in this moment i just fell back into reality and i'm looking myself at the mirror and thinking what the fuck i did with my body
i was really really close to be the petite skinny fashion looking bitch i always wanted to be and now i look like a instathot
good side: i'm healthy now
but i miss my dying skinny body, it was my dream since i was like 14 and i ruined it, i just fucking ruined it because i'm a depressed piece of shit
i'm just so disgusted at my body right now i could kill myself
don't get me wrong, i know this is not healthy and one side of me really wants to get help and clean off my mind all of this ana chan bullshit , but this is way stronger than me and i just don't know what to do, i'm freaking the hell out
similar situation here anon. i dont work out tho
when i was 13-15 i was maintaining anachan tier weight and i'm 20 now and really miss it. i ended up binge eating one summer and gained like 40-50 lbs within a few months. boom, body ruined. stretch marks everywhere that are like half an inch thick, i cover up my body everywhere i go. it wasn't worth it at all.
people say we're supposed to like looking healthy and well but i don't really have a life, i obsess over how much i dislike my appearance now, all the time. no amount of compliments can fix my broken self esteem.
every day i wish i could go back. i gain and lose the same 10 lbs over and over again.
are you trying to go back to your ana days?
my plan in the moment is relapse, i'm so disgusted with myself that i see no other way out of this situation other than to go back to my eating disorder habits, i'm really pissed right now
i'm also in my 20s so i'm afraid that now i'm too tired for the pro-ana bullshit, i mean.. when you're a dumb teenager you have no responsabilities and your life is just all about yourself so its easier, but now…
anon you aren’t a teenager. if you starve yourself now you’ll be at risk for all other kinds of side effects your body may not be able to bounce back from. you need help for your body dysmorphia. i totally get your urges, i have them to and I haven’t been “small” since I was 11 years old, and I’m not lucky enough to have an instathot body now either. But I know now if I was >100lbs I might have tiny legs and arms but my face would look wrinkled and gross, because I’m a grown woman and not a teenager, we aren’t meant to be that size anymore.
I hope you can learn to like your body atleast a little bit anon.
don't worry, guys are generally too stupid to care about/notice minor differences like that
good luck anon!
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I had a really weird disinhibition episode today combined with severe dissociation. I ended up at the ER where they gave me a phenothiazine shot and I went home.
I did something extremely cringy while I had that comedown, I recorded myself saying weird stuff and then recorded myself in the bathroom naked saying some suicidal shit in the mirror and I sent the videos to a friend and my ex. I get the fact that I sometimes feel like I need attention or something but I don't know how the fuck I end up doing extreme shit like this that I regret afterwards when I get out of that weird mental state.
I should go back to sleep, the shot they gave me is making it hard to type or think. I'M THE BIGGEST FUCKING SPERG ON HERE.
If you suppose.
On the other hand I am fed up with being everyone's personal psychologist When i can barely handle my personal stuff.
She broke the door to the room she's been staying in, making it near impossible to open. Her daughter said she could take a nap without anyone bothering her, which knowing my roommate may very well be true. It was very clearly done so that people could not get into the room.>>345767
She is not a tenant. I call her a roommate because she has been living here for so long, but legally she is a guest. We sent her a certified letter over 30 days ago, despite it not being legally required where I live. Two of my other roommates went through an attorney to do this.
Regardless, they have all left and it seems that she won't return to collect the rest of her things until tomorrow and I plan on going out to avoid her.
ooh. i mean, i always try to go back to my ana days but my family just keeps buying food that enables me to binge. been years since i've been underweight clinically or nagged about it by doctors & strangers. i miss it every day. really miss my old body. i keep just gaining and losing and gaining and losing. i need to fucking move out and live alone.
i always manage to get borderline underweight before the holidays or some event fucking ruins it for me, and i cave in.
i fucking hate food. i feel so much better when i'm not eating much or even thinking about food at all. i'm pathetic and can't control myself and i'm stuck at a 20 bmi permenantly. this isn't what i want.
hopefully once i graduate i can buy my own place and finally manage to not get thrown off a lot. it was so much easier when i was in middle school/early HS. things just got so stressful as i had more to worry about. don't worry about being "too old", i used to be a frequent poster of r/proED for 2 years before it was deleted last month, most posters on there were well over 20, many had kids. it's unfortunate, but ed's don't just disappear into thin air once you're an adult. i'm pretty convinced it'll nag me the rest of my life.
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Same anon and I dropped out 3/4 years ago, i'm still getting worse
It feels pretty hopeless but we can both do it if we find and hold onto some hope :)
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I just saw on instagram that someone I know just got married and the first thing I instinctively thought was "can't wait until their divorce". Worse part is that she isn't a bad person or anything and we're cordial to each other. I have no idea why I'm so bitter these days and I need to calm down.
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I hate how immature my boyfriend acts sometimea, even if I'm immature too.
When I get cuddly with him, he pushes me away. When I want to kiss him, he bites me (arms, legs, fingers). When I'm walking in front of him, he kicks me. When he says something and I don't hear him and ask him to repeat, he makes fart noises, and then I have to beg him to repeat what I said.
I get stressed and in a bad mood really quickly so he loves to push my buttons to watch me get angry. I told him several times this shit gets me stressed and makes me feel like shit, but he keeps doing it.
The best part? He is more mature than me. When it's time to get serious and get shit done he does it better than me. Fuck.
Oh jesus I found his mother and then I found him. I found my childhood crush after years of searching. He has kids and a family and his mother is still a crazy old hippy. Not the type I would have pictured myself with but he's okay.
I can't believe both these men I have stalked for years and am only just finding out tonight their actual profiles. What is happening.
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Thank you, anons. I'm not gonna break up with him because I love him, but I was feeling like an ass for getting worked up over this stuff.
I don't know whether to laugh or cry at the fact I have bruise marks over my arms and legs because of this stupid shit.
Also, kinda ironic when I ask him to hit me while having sex he won't do it because he says he is afraid of hurting me.
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Stupid idiot here again to whine some more before I definitely stop posting about it, but just hours after I posted that my boyfriend jokingly threw a box with a hard drive inside it on my face and… right into my eye, which is now red!
Hey farmers, stone me to death I am tired of living!
This is the vent thread, not the "let's make major life decisions based on farmers opinions" thread. Either way, I'm grateful for posting about it and feeling better, since I have no one to vent to. >>346434
I'm sorry anon. Not computer savy dads should really just stir away from porn apps/websites. Hope it didn't scar you for life, yikes.
>>346434>feet pics app
There is really an app for everything huh.
There are much worse fetishes he could have anon.
(obviously you don't wanna know about any
, but uh just looking on the bright side)
True, he could be like that one anon's dad on /g/ with a father-daughter fetish.
Feet are super harmless, even if you didn't want to think of a parent as a sexual being lol.
>>346436>thinking you're going to be with your faggot boyfriend forever when you're only a baby
Cringe.>I have no one to vent to except a bunch of anonymous strangers online
I think anon is being pretty ridiculous about her loser bf but >you have no right to vent
That's a bit silly too. People vent all the time about shit they can't or won't change.
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Ugh. I got some kind of stomach bug and have been puking my brains out today. My brain has been too foggy for me to do any school work and I hate feeling unproductive…
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sigh.. i wish i could buy cute clothes online on international sites but they don't ship to my country and the ones that do are expensive af and i'm broke..
regular clothing stores here are so basic, i'm actually sad after seeing so many cute products
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LMAO ok, anon. you can do all the fun shit as a teenager and more when you're an adult. learn to cook, eat some great food, fuck and fall in love. hello??
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do something of interest so you don’t end up an antibacterial PTA mon with no life.
Would you like someone to cut your vagina to your anus whilst you tried to push the human equivalent of those creepy screaming plants from Harry Potter?
Ok do something else then with your life
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i keep falling for jobless video game loving neets who show no little/to no affection. i just think part of it is due to my low confidence and how i don't deserve anything slightly better. im a doofus.
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You decide to date unhigenic weebs that are unlikely to change and will ask you to microwave their tendies for them whilst they play video games.
>When/if you get married to one of them you will be expected to do absolutely everything for them whilst they complain that you are putting on weight/boobs not perky enough/ your body didn’t recover from the weight you put on during pregnancy as they sit on their ass scratching their balls playing COD or the flavour of the month.
Grow up or learn how to be a mommy to your future husband
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Can you calm down?
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Being a woman who isn't a self-hating tradthot on the right wing is very isolating and I'm left a very misunderstood person on both sides. I just wish I found a community of libertarian radfems just like me to talk about this stuff sometimes
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I'm so pissed at my parents and them "caring". I'm going out with my ex for nye and they keep making comments like "oh he still didn't find anyone new", "so you're still not over him", "why are you even talking to him", "he's holding you back", "you're running out of time". Like what the fuck? We're still friends, he was never abusive or used me in any way, we simply figured out we're better off being friends, there was no messy breakup and they know all this and yet they keep on shitting on both of us like this.
It's a huge deal when I go out with someone I know I'm safe with but when my brother goes missing for two days or just pisses off somewhere without telling anyone it's no big deal. Like fuck off.
I hate how they're pressuring me to get a new partner and have kids asap, while knowing well it's not affordable. It's not my fault your son is a pos and that you had me on accident, fucking morons.
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Damn, I knew there was at least one of you out there.
Having this mash of ideologies certainly does make you an outsider to the outsiders huh?
You can't fit into the right, but you also can't express some of your ideologies to the radfems either.
Feels weird man. I wish there was an avenue where we could talk without getting shit on from both sides.
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I've been obsessively watching the last of us 2 trailer ever since it came out multiple times per day with this woman in it. I so want to be her and I want to be with her.
And every time I look at myself in the mirror I'm afraid that I will never achieve that dream.
I started lifting among other things and I have a leaner body now, but I hate that I have a large cup size (not a humble brag, I hate my D cups). I still have a clearly womanly body and I'm afraid that I won't achieve the androgynous look that I badly want.
I've settled for a chest binder but I can't stand my thighs and hips. I wish I could stop hating every feminine feature on me but I can't. Why can't I just be happy being me? There are so many people that have it worse than me and I'm just hating my life for being born in this body. It's stupid and pathetic.
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>I have a twink cute at boyfriend
>he’s smart and nice and likes animals
>he’s really good with housework & other shit most guys are clueless about
He’s a fucking push over
He gets asked out by gay guys 24/17
All his friends are incel assholes
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I noticed I've been subconsciously leaning towards becoming a bitter christmas cake meme these past couple of months… I'm sort of tempted to fully embrace it these next two days and get shitfaced but I know that's not really a constructive way to go about my problems.
>tfw browsing online and come across a post from an old crush talking about his past relationships
>reading it just reiterates more and more how we never would've worked out, how little i come across his mind, and that i could never compare to his exes
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That's not fucking healthy. STOP looking at old memories and experiences because you're trying to create pointless new ones (fantasizing about how things would have went if you were still together now).
Seriously just block them on whatever social media you're using or better yet, just delete YOUR social media.
You know you should be constructive, so just DO IT.
Read a fucking book, write some fucking journal pages about the future, try to cook or bake something you've never created before (check out HANSE or honeykki for good desert/cake recipes), go hang out with a good friend and foster THAT relationship. I feel like women make a huge mistake in over-investing time and emotional energy into men/their romantic endeavors where instead they should be investing more time into their friends or their own female family.
You can go out and get drunk and wild, but don't do it in the spirit of being sad in regards to an old flame. Do it because you wanna celebrate your own talents and achievements and the relationships you have with the people you love right now.
They clearly refer to her as she in game. Admittedly, her model does look like someone copy-pasted a woman's head on a man's body.
And I can't feel attraction to men, no matter how masculine or feminine they look. Having a penis is an instant deal breaker for me, so I'm definitely not straight.
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>asked for one day off in December at work two months in advance
>got a text message two days before asking if I still needed that day off or not (yes)
>found out later my fellow managers were annoyed about how much work they had to do because I wasn’t there to do it
>we also discussed holidays in October, and no one cared about NYE so I said I would take it off and work Christmas
>the boss manager wrote my name on the calendar with NO PM
>three days ago asked me a loaded question about wanting extra hours this week and used it to schedule me to close on NYE
I know this was done on purpose because they or the assistant manager suddenly made plans for tonight. It aggravates me that I need to ask for a day off weeks in advance and still get flack about it, but they can screw around with the schedule whenever they feel like it.
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Just found out my dad has a 5 y.o kid that he neglected to tell anyone about. No I'm sorry. He neglected to tell me and my sister about it but apparently everyone on his side of the family already knew. Haha seems like I know shit all about this dude. I'm the same anon from >>340958
and I'm just learning new shit at this point. Wouldn't I want to know if I had a little brother out there? WHY WOULDN'T I WANT TO KNOW THAT. I ~GUESS~ it doesn't really affect my life NOT knowing. But fuck it just shows how secretive he really is. My little sister found out about this yesterday and she's hurt.
Not that it'll make you feel better, but my dad was a womanizer and similarly I found out I have multiple half siblings besides my bitchy half sister who I went no contact with when I was 13.
I have no earthly clue how many half siblings I may actually have. I haven't talked to my father since I was 13 as well, and my mom can only offer foggy details at best. Clearly she hopped into a marriage with him and didn't know shit about him. My mom kept many secrets from me I think out of embarrassment and not wanting me to pick the same types of losers by the example she set.
It bothers me sometimes, and the only thing I can guarantee is that if I have children I'll do better for a partner so they won't have to deal with such awful situations.
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Right when I think my friend who's gotten distant has finally ghosted me, she'll send me a message out of the blue asking me how I am, I'll say fine and ask her how she is, but she won't answer? Or sometimes she'll ignore my questions and say something unrelated then she'll disappear again. This has been going on for nearly 2 months. What is she doing? Is that some contrived way to get me to ghost her instead so she doesn't feel bad? I'm not even messaging her first anymore at this point, so what the hell. I'm confused and a little uncomfortable because of how off those interactions feel. I still care for her and was putting up with this because I thought maybe she was privately struggling with something but I'm fed up. I'll stop answering.
Honestly thought this was about me for a second.
I'm guilty of doing dumb shit like this to my very patient bestfriend.
We started chatting on mocospace about KHR when we were both 14 and had a lot in common.
We would message each other every other hour daily,tell each other we loved one another,had a shared deviantart account for an obscure crack pairing.
Then when we were 15/16 we moved onto facebook and around this time I was couch surfing and homeless.
I would see on FB that she was surrounded with really cool friends and she was already planning for college and I felt overwhelmed and unworthy to be her friend,like I would just drag her down if I opened up to her and let her know I was going through some dark stuff so I just deleted everything.
Then almost 2 years later I reconnected with a mutual friend of ours on tumblr and we all started talking again and planning to meet up at conventions.I told them about how I was homeless and depressed and didn't want to be a bother and everything was going great and I ghosted them a month after the convention meetup.
I would check up on their blogs a year later and recognize inside jokes and nicknames we gave each other and it all just made me feel like garbage and I didn't even think about contacting them again.
I hate rejection and didn't want either of them to realize how boring and clingy a person I was/am
Maybe your friend is going through something difficult but doesn't want to bother you?
My old best friends have done this. No warning. Just started ghosting me and would randomly reach out for some short, kinda awkward conversations via social media (centered around them, of course—never asked about me.)
Hopefully your situation is different and that I’m just jaded from going through something similar. Twice.
That's rough anon, I hope you're doing okay. There's a lot of stuff I left out because this isn't the memoirs thread, but it's not the same situation. Her life is the best it's been in years, she's been through shit and I've helped her before but it's different this time. She has a really specific way of typing when she's unwell and rereading old chats that's not it, I think I was just holding on hope and convincing myself she was depressed again and eventually she'd reach out and we'd clear it all up. I've already made up my mind to move on, I was just venting because today's weird reply felt like she was mocking me and I got unusually upset.>>346893>>346959
Sorry to hear that anons. May the coming year bring us new and better friends.
I hope you're feeling better after venting and what an ass move if she was actually mocking you.
Also oops my post was 100 percent a memoir as much as it was a vent
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I guess it really is majority of men on crystalcafe
I spent New Years alone last night (it's already New Years Day here) and I made a nice dinner, took a nice bath and fell asleep early to try and avoid being up for midnight.
I wish we could spend our NYE together, it's my first one alone too.
After a furry harassed me by constantly saying sexual things about me and then saying it was my fault for feeling uncomfortable after I asked him to stop, I feel the same way as you.
A lot of them are gross. I don't understand why they try to force their fetish on other people, especially those who are emphatically not okay with it. Makes me feel a bit ill thinking about animals suffering the same thing from them
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Found out my “best friend” at work has been talking bad about me to upper management and other people at work. We recently had an argument because she kept leaving her position to flirt with a guy at work and I got upset and confronted her. We got over it and started talking again even planned to go out and then that day i find out she’s been spewing bad stuff about me since i started working besides her pretty much all while we would go out and go to each other’s houses and such. I’m a very upfront person which a lot of people here take issue with so i’m not new to being disliked but what bothered me so much is how she pretended to be my friend this whole time while bad mouthing me to everyone under the sun. She never gets in trouble either and has gotten some people fired due to one of her parents working in management. Im trying my best to keep my cool but at the same time I really want to slowly tear her down and make her life impossible.
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HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE
THIS WILL BE YOUR YEAR
WHATEVER YOU CAME HERE TO RANT ABOUT
YOU CAN BEAT IT
SEIZE LIFE BY THE THROAT LIKE A HUNGRY WOLF
MANIFEST YOUR DREAMS
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drank like 3l of irn bru at work and had 4 bits of nicotine gum which was a big mistake bc I'm wide awake rn, it never feels like stimulants have an effect on me and then they do lmao
The zoosadist thing definitely reminded a lot of people of why the internet hated furries so much. >>347383
Dude anon I think you should continue meeting with your psych, your symptoms and history sounds a whole lot of anxiety rooted psychosomatic symptoms.
nta, but how is she being petty? When I hear young girls commenting on older women as old and therefore ugly, it's petty af. Why do you want to base someone's value, and usually someone that has done nothing wrong to you or is just minding their own business, on something they have no control of?
I know there are nasty people of every gender, age, race, etc. but when I hear young girls saying such things, they usually do it to a nice older lady. I've never understood that even in my teens. Though, tbh it's usually some street trash that says such things, you know, the type of a woman who will only work as a cashier or a waitress until she realises that her looks are long gone and she never did anything with her life or has any meaningful skills except for gossiping and being petty.
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I found out recently that my dad is still a piece of shit and not the person i thought he was. i've been openly gay all my life (lesbian) and he was okay ( i guess tolerated it… cuz he's hyper christian.) He was fine with me getting married, since i've been with the same woman for 10 years now, but once i mentioned wanting to have a child, he freaked out. He kept saying it wasn't because of his religion, but he would not allow it and i started crying on the phone.
I have a younger sister who was knocked up at 17 and had a kid and everyone praised her, but i want one child in a healthy, happy marriage and my dad hates me for it. My mom passed away unfortunately, but she was nicer than my father in every way.
It's not a new start but things can get better. It just takes time.
The calender, years etc is all just made up. Even the sun rising and setting is different everywhere. In Sweden in the summer it is light until 1am.
It's not even 2019- it is either several years earlier or later since the guy who invented the calender system got Jesus' birthyear wrong.
Just keep working hard on improving your life. There are no time limits to it.
There's no such thing as New Year/New You. Take shit at your own pace. it's why i choose not to go to the gym a week after new years since all the annoying 'new years resolution' people are there instead of doing a lifestyle change.
You have time, but you have to do it when you're able and make a commitment to whatever you want to do.
update on tinder date
it went so well he deleted his app, he said im just as adorable in person thank god
first day of 2019 and after 8 months of grieving my first ex, ive landed in a new relationship! oh well lol
I hope i dont become a slave to my feelings tho (become boy crazy again) and am able to achieve my own goals this year
My boyfriend who I've been dating since October ruined the night out on new year's eve by abusing me and now I know what I have to do, I'm just very…very sad, exhausted, and dismayed. It's TL;DR but I need this off my chest.
The plan was that we were going to go to my friend's birthday party and then meet up with my second group of friends in the city for dinner plus its version of the ball drop event. We bought flasks beforehand because we're both short on money so we didn't want to pay expensive bar prices, and I assumed like any adult my bf would be able to self-moderate and cut off if he had enough. After that, I was meant to drive back to his place to spend the night.
It was well established to bf that there would be a lot of people around and drinking.
The birthday party was fine. He was being social and didn't claim to have an anxiety attack around people like I've seen him do before. We had a drink and then left the party to head downtown to meet my friends for late dinner at a restaurant. I paid for my bf's cigarettes, bourbon, and dinner. I also drove. I'm a very considerate person and thought I was doing the right thing because his car broke down recently and he didn't have the money. It's the time of year to be selfless and giving so I guess I fell for that line…
The first half of dinner was fine. I ordered beer for everyone. But progressively bf got more and more rowdy, he was slipping sips from the flask before we were even out on the street. At first he was being a funny drunk (we were all a little tipsy and loud), and my friends didn't seem to be having a negative reaction because the atmosphere was generally lighthearted. I thought nothing of it, why hamper the fun?
Then he started to have a random panic attack when he decided there was too many people in the restaurant.
After this point, his attitude got darker. He started to get critical of the things the male friends in my group were saying and was taking innocent things as an affront. He got increasingly paranoid. He kept leaving to wobble outside and have a cigarette. One of my friends tried to be friendly and relate to him about the anxiety but it didn't seem to help. My group could tell things were getting tense and that we had stayed our fair welcome at the restaurant, so we left and walked towards downtown.
The walk was terrible. He grew belligerent and started shouting in the street. Not shouting goofy drunk things or like "Happy New Year!" but "THERE WILL BE BLOOD IN THE FUCKING STREET!" Someone would brush against him and he would scream "DONT FUCKING TOUCH ME!!!" And not just once, but multiple times. It sounded psychotic and it was embarrassing, it was going beyond having too much to drink and more like what the fuck was wrong with him? I tried to get him calm but no reason would be had by him.
Then he started manhandling me. He would randomly grab me by the head and constantly try to lean on/into me. He was annoying me because he was smudging off my makeup and ruining my hair. I was partially sweating from carrying a quarter of his weight as we walked (did I mention I was in heels?) I kept asking him to stop but he was too drunk to remember my admonishments or give a fuck. The more I rejected this "affection" the more dejected he became. So much that he started to shout at me. "WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU EXPECT WHEN YOU TAKE ME OUT DRINKING IN PUBLIC!!!" My friends at this point thought it was just the alcohol, but it was getting very personal. I'd never been in public with him before when he was drunk like this. In fact, I had "expected" him to be a fucking adult and not act like a teenager drinking for the first time.
He kept shouting, and shouting, and shouting.
We arrived in line for some bar my friends wanted to be in for the ball drop, but bf wouldn't stop escalating even in the line. It was $15 entrance fee per person.
I don't remember every single thing he screamed in my ear, but I know that I yelled for him to leave me alone finally. He walked away, so affronted that I dare tell him to piss off for treating me poorly. My hand was in a fist, I wanted to punch him across the face so fucking badly. I had tears in my eyes. I don't care how drunk someone is, there's something wrong with their head to treat someone like that! That's when my friends knew this guy was being a mega douche and greatly upsetting me.
He came back when we were about to go inside.
He berated me so much that I was on the verge of crying as I handed my card and ID to the bouncer. I couldn't look the bouncer in the eye, and the bouncer had seen how shitfaced and awful bf was being to me. Even the fucking bouncer felt sorry for me.
As he gave me my ID and card back we proceeded down the hall and bf said some shit to me that made me scream back "LEAVE ME ALONE I'M NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG TO YOU."
I rushed inside behind my friends.
It was twenty minutes before midnight, and I had a thousand yard stare into the ceiling of the place because I couldn't fucking believe this shit was happening. I was surrounded by friends, and seemingly had all these wonderful pictures already posted to social media but I felt so fucking alone and upset. Tears were rolling down my cheeks, I tried not to make a huge scene or be upset. My friends felt really sorry for me.
My phone lit up and it was my bf calling/texting me. Through the noise I gathered he had exited the bar and the bouncer, "the motherfucker," wasn't letting him back inside because of how shitfaced he was. My friends told me he was being toxic and that I shouldn't respond. Bf wanted me to come out because he was having a panic attack again.
Tbh, it wasn't that he guilted me, but I feared he would cause trouble for others outside if I didn't come out. I paid $30 for nothing.
As I exited the bar the bouncer saw me and was clearly concerned. He told me the reason why my bf had been kicked out, which I completely understood and agreed with.
It was a punch in the gut.
When he saw me he fell onto me and started to yell at me for "abandoning" him and started to ugly yell/cry into my shoulder. He kept saying how it was my fault for bringing him out there. I had a depressed expression on my face and strangers all around were giving me looks like "Oh shit, you poor woman." He wasn't calming down.
I spent midnight outside alone, with drunk bf as everyone cheered the new year. I wanted to disappear into the earth.
A street musician, about our age, came by and saw I was distressed and tried to deescalate the situation. He was an angel. He talked to me a bit about himself and we stood around to watch him play. Bf temporarily calmed himself as he found something to do, that is, dance like an idiot. People were filing past as the festivities were over, and I prepped to say goodbye to the musician and add him on facebook.
Turns out, he lived in the same area I did. Bf then gripped my shoulder hard and I could feel him getting angry. As we walked away, he snidely said "So what, is that your fucking new bf now?" It was ridiculous and my patience had run up.
I told him frankly that my feet hurt and all I wanted to do was find my car and take him home. He got angry. He shouted "YOUR FEET HURT?! WHAT ABOUT MY FEET I WORK 8 GODDAMN HOURS!" No, he hadn't worked that day. No, he never worked eight hours in heels. No, he wasn't thinking about how I'd worked 8 hours with tired feet before. None of it had anything to do with the fact that tonight I was the one in heels, with tired feet, with a drunk, and I was just trying to go home.
He got belligerent again as we walked. Except this time he would block my path. I kept telling him to get out of my way. He refused. He wanted to "talk," and by "talk" proceed to scream at me about fucking nonsense because he was a stupid ass drunkard.
He was scaring me and making me uncomfortable. He grabbed my arm and kept impeding my walk.
"GET OUT OF MY WAY!" I screamed. I called him a fucking kook, since he was skulking around me like a predator. He was causing such a scene with me. Complete strangers from apartment balconies were shouting down "HEY LEAVE HER ALONE!" People from cars were shouting at him to leave me the fuck alone.
I finally made it to my car and got him in it.
Looking back, I should have left him downtown, but I'm not that kind of person. I knew somehow that would only make me the villain even more.
Even though none of it was my fault.
I'm a female, shit is always the woman's fault even when it's not. I didn't want to do anything that anyone could throw at my face later, I wanted this douchebag unequivocally in the wrong.
He shouted at me the entire ride back. I kept asking him to not yell at me, but he wouldn't stop. He just kept on, and on, and on. Whenever I tried to get a word in, he would simply talk over me or shout higher. It was hard for me to concentrate on the road, I decided it was better to be silent. Then, he started to yell at me for being quiet because "THAT'S WHAT MY FUCKING EXES HAD DONE BEFORE THEY LEFT!!1!!" By the time I got to his house to drop him off I was crying hysterically. I told him I was never coming back because of the way he treated me, and that I was going inside to get my stuff.
He proceeded to grab me in my car. I screamed at him to let go, I said no, to get out. He restrained me in the car for what seemed like minutes.
I finally broke free and leaned on my car door sobbing hysterically. He was yelling at me so loudly that neighbors upstairs and from nextdoor came outside. They thought he was battering me based on the commotion and my disheveled appearance. I walked inside to get my things and he broke down on his knees begging me back. Although I knew it was just manipulation, I said to him "You can't honestly expect me to stay here after what you've done?!"
I went back outside to my car and a group of people had gathered, I was still crying and holding my face because it hurt. He said he wanted his cigarettes out of my car, which I allowed him to get. Except when he got to my car he kept asking for me to get in it and wouldn't leave. I pointed my finger and shouted for him to get the fuck out of my car! The neighbors told him to get the fuck out of my car. After several shouts he finally did it, and then I left.
I drove home so flustered I forgot to consider how much gas I had left in my car. During the car ride he called me three separate times to rant and rave. I told him he had ruined new year's and that I would call him if and when I would be ready to talk. He hung up. I made it home with 10 miles of gas to spare at 3am. I couldn't bear to tell my family what happened. I BS'd about how I'd had a great time.
What made it extra painful was that I knew because he was drunk, he wouldn't remember the half of how he abused me ergo feel no remorse.
I was right. He called me today to tell me everything was my fault. Remember how I said everything is a woman's fault no matter what? He said, and I quote: "Did you know you almost got strangers and my neighbors to kill me last night? My neighbors confronted me after you left for 2 hours! You caused me to have a panic attack downtown. You brought me out there! It's your fault! You didn't even care that I got kicked out by that bouncer when all I wanted to do was be with you!"
I told him to shut the fuck up for five minutes and I explained what had actually gone down. Whether he pretended to or not, he acted shocked when I told him.
"…So are you coming back to me today?"
I told him fuck no. I had no gas in my car and I was deeply uncomfortable by him. Why on earth would I do that? Again, I told him I'd call him if and when I was ready but today I wanted peace.
He acted like an entitled brat at that but I didn't care, evidently he had no problem breaking my boundaries so I didn't have a problem squashing his balls. My family overheard everything he did to me and he's on their shitlist now too.
He got his friend to call me and "apologize on his behalf." I understand the friend has good intentions, and told me a bit more about him (apparently has oppositional defiance disorder, etc.) but I don't care.
I'm not his punching bag.
I'm not his psychologist.
I'm not his parents.
I wanted an equal partner to enjoy my holiday with and instead I got stuck with a literal drunk teenager who only cared about his own feelings.
Once again, I've wasted my time, effort, and money on someone who turned out to be a selfish ass and I'm extremely upset by it when at my age I just want a sane partner who can handle their emotions.
I'm so angry and sad and now I have to start all over, and who knows, this may happen to me again with someone else. I'm losing so much trust and faith in people because being a kind person isn't getting me anywhere.
I wanted to say just this too! It's really reassuring that so many strangers paid attention, OP must have nerves of steel to have done all of that.
Hopefully she never has to do it again
shapewear is good for smoothing but most the time it's unflattering, especially Spanx that are just the shorts
I low-key like the Victorian waist training look and wish it would be more normalized to wear, minus the extremeness, I'm literally only able to be attracted to a woman's body if her waist is small
You managed to prove her point
Imagine if a woman did something like this to her boyfriend. That shit would be all over the news right now and all of the internet would be crucifying her, I just wanna wait for the one day a man gets abused by a woman and gets told to choose better girlfriends unironically, but it will never happen, since as you proved, it's always the woman's fault, never men's
Theres no point trying to make it your main income because unless you have other assets they can work with ie programming, 3D modelling, rendering, texturing and what have you theres not much use for you.
Maybe if you were decently known online it would be easier to get work, but not something you can live off of still without having to manage alot of other subcontracted stuff around it to make a viable ends meet.
Im happy I took art as an elective while sticking to programming as my core education because a resume / portfolio combo like that always gets you reeled into projects way quicker than just applying for artists positions (especially since anybody can be replaced or switched at the drop of hat, i mean christ in this day you can find artists that p much draw identical to one another that have never seen each others work cause they both derive their tastes from the same nerd shit)
However dont give up, you probably have some modicum of talent and learning new things arent that difficult so just keep expanding yourself. You would be surprised what jobs just land in your lap the more you just get to know people through trying new things etc,
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Hey anon, you're not alone. I'm doing the same thing but for a video game character which is waaaaaay more pathetic.
We're going to make it sis.
Normal men don't want to fuck 13 year olds, anon. It seems like it's common because you're on the internet, probably in fandom-dominated spaces, and those spaces attract men with severe mental health and social issues. And what do men with severe mental health and social issues find attractive? Non-threatening children who aren't confident or intelligent enough to recognize them for what they are.
This sounds mean but I mean it in a loving way: Go outside.
This, her irl friends sound like they're also robot types lol, not normfags.
Normies fap to indtathots, which isn't great but better than underage.
I want her to wrap her thighs around my head. I want her to spoon me with her big muscly arms. I can't stop thinking about her. She's my first thought in the morning and the last thought when I go to sleep masturbating
why is she so perfect?
Have you ever thought of developing skills, hobbies or meaningful relationships that go beyond discussing sex and romance?
You can do all of those without being pretty, popular or having "youth".
ok? a normie isn't less likely to be into teens than a weeb is
the original anon should find hobbies instead of crying because of worthless men
I doubt most men even know what tiktok is.
Doesn't it have the reputation of being pedo-central? I wonder why anon would be so interested in appealing to a place like that.
By "old" he means unable to be lured by manipulative predatory tactics in the same way a naive teenage girl would be. Not literal age, because…
When HE reaches 27, in a whopping two year's time, then he himself will no longer consider it old because then it would mean he's old used goods too. The goalposts will change and he will push his bracket of "old" to suit his own narrative. Don't take what he says seriously.
>>348059>>348059>Pretending it's about how they look
It's their age which is why men are attracted to them, you really think a woman who looks exactly like those tictok girls except if she's in her 20s will get as much attention? Not to mention pedos who run around fucking ugly girls just because they're young, similar to yellow fevers who date hideous Asian girls just so they can say they have an Asian girlfriend, even though not long ago men would never shut up about how ugly they are and how they don't date Asians, or black dudes who date fat white women just to say they have a thicc white girl, even if the fat is distruted horribly
Men are idiots
Thought i was going out with a guy, i mean we went to cinema dates, late dinners at mcdonalds, sent heart emojis.
Was just waiting for him to make it all official, we were going to spend christmas together.
I forced myself to have sex with him just to make him happy.
Guy dumped me on christmas and say he would never date me.
I never want to be touched by someone again.
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I'm really paranoid about getting pregnant even though I have an IUD and the past few weeks I've had some spotting, really tender breasts, and I've been ridiculously tired.
I'm really terrified and have no money for an abortion
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My best friend of what would've been 3 years now no longer wishes to be friends with me. I feel like I should be happy I'm not with some fake bitch like her anymore, but on the other hand it still hurts. I told her practically everything about myself, but I feel like what hurts the worst is that she couldn't even tell me directly. She went behind my back to say she wasn't my friend anymore, and that I was toxic. I wish she had at least told me what stuff I did was toxic. I've just been crying in bed for days, I feel so embarrassed and betrayed when she probably isn't feeling the same right now. Not to mention I'm still on good terms with everyone else in the friend group that we share, they even asked where I've been because I've avoided talking to anyone in fear that I'll make things awkward.
I wish I had learned the lesson that there isn't true friends sooner. I just want everything to be alright again, even if it's only been a few days.
You're probably not pregnant. If you're that freaked out about becoming pregnant on an IUD (or any kind of birth control really) then don't let men ejaculate inside of you. Get a pregnancy test to check just in case.
Plus if you became pregnant on the IUD there might be some kind of coverage for a medical abortion due to it being very dangerous to be pregnant with an IUD.
Creepy braindead guys who are attracted to snotty children don't like you because you are a young woman (still a child to most people's eyes at 20)
Do you really want attention from guys who fap to child rape? Really anon?
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update: waiting at the gate feeling like death
somehow misinterpreted the time I'm at the end (no sense of time and it's a transfer flight over 2 time zones) and it's like in 7 hours essentialy, hope i can sleep on the planes some ;-;
why can't we just teleport smh it's 2019
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I hate how the sexualization of children is so normalized amung otaku, especially males. I don't even mean the teenage idols, or seeing teens in general as the ideal but how literally having child waifus is totally normal or if you think it's creepy you're a just seen as "jealous" or "too normie".
Talk him into getting therapy or break up because lmao your relationship is gonna turn abusive real quick if hes already slashing his wrists around the house refusing to get help.
Sick people even when they don't want too, bleed that toxic shit out to the rest at some point if not already. Besides you're not supposed to be in a relationship to be a babysitter cause your SO can't handle existing.
this lol. went through the same shit with my ex. i told him either he get therapy and actually try what the therapist suggested or i'd dump him. he made a bunch of empty promises and never came through so i left him. now i'm with someone who values me more than his depression card.
dont waste your time if he wont help himself, no matter how much you love him, if he's just going to hurt you. if he actually starts going to therapy, support the hell out of him, but if he continues to refuse help, then fuck him.
We're having less and less sex with my boyfriend as time goes on and it's making me feel emotionally disconnected to him. His libido is naturally lower than mine (he used to jerk off 1-3 times per month before we started going out and even then it was mostly to relieve some pressure), so I can't really help it. I'm not a nympho, I don't have a stronge urge to have sex when I'm single and can easily just rely on masturbation if I want to get off, but I want to have sex with him because it intensifies my love for him so much, it makes me feel connected to him, it makes me feel wanted and loved.
I also have a hard time dealing with feelings of rejection and abandonment and him not wanting to have sex makes me feel like he doesn't want to have sex with me especially. So I'm starting to have pretty strong feelings of self-hatred, I feel like I'm doing something wrong, I'm anxious, I'm paranoid he finds me disgusting and is going to leave me, and when I feel like that I always have a very strong need to revenge the person causing me pain, even if I don't want to. I'm already noticing that I'm being really mean and cold to him when these emotions take over me.
I don't like being this way. I love him so much and he's perfect in every other aspect. It's stupid to feel like this over something like sex, I can't force him, and he is cuddly and makes me feel loved in other ways, I just wish I could adapt to this and feel as comfortable with him as I have in the past.
Anime and pedophilic males trying to convince women they have to be uwu fertile 10 yr olds forever or else they hit the wall, I've even seen mgtows claim the wall is at 19 and list "denial of the wall" as one of their reasons for hating women
Why they are this obsessed with women aging is beyond me, they scream more about walls than Donald Trump, seeing a mgtow forum is like looking at a mental patient group chat
Basically agree with >>348494
Too much time on imageboards absorbing what neckbeard lolicons and pedophilic mgtow and bots have to say seeps into your head after a while.
Regardless, I personally can't miss the past since I was a frumplet at my "peak" of 14.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years and he's done a lot of shit over the past few years that make me so angry and I've never told anyone, I feel like I'm at my breaking point right now and I want to find a way out but he's also very suicidal and I'm afraid that if I ended things then it would be the final straw for him. I still love him very much but I'm tired of the way he treats me. There are so many things I want to get off my chest but here's a selection of the shit he's done:
>Yelled at me in a very public, very crowded park after I told him I didn't want to go up to a couple of strangers who were rolling a blunt and ask if we could smoke weed with them, yelled at me when I started crying and asking him to lower his voice saying that "I was embarrassed of him", continues to yell at me while walking back to our car and as we're leaving the city, gets even more upset that I'm curled up in a ball sobbing, tells me I hold him back to which I was so hurt at that point that I tell him to go fuck himself. He immediately pulls over while we're on the freeway and tells me to get out, at which point I start having an anxiety attack. He starts driving again while I'm hyperventilating and the rest of the trip he's silent. When we get home I stay in the car, on the phone with my mom trying to calm myself down, he doesn't apologize until around an hour later.
>Find out from one of his friends of a party they had where they ended up playing a "dirty truth or dare" where he ended up stripping naked. He never told me of this party or the game, and then got upset at me for being upset. "Your idea of fun and my idea of fun are two different things" yet if the roles were reversed I know things would be different
>I struggle with pretty bad social anxiety, this sometimes comes out when we're going out. Despite this, I've worked very hard over to overcome it and know that it doesn't affect me nearly as much as it did when we first started dating. However, there are still some instances where my anxiety is too much, to combat this my boyfriend has always said to tell me when things are too much and we can leave no problem. Except for the fact that when it was a problem, he'd almost always get mad at me which would inevitably bring back the whole "you're holding me back" spiel. I can understand if I became anxious every time we went out, but it's not like that at all.
>Puts in very little effort when it comes to birthdays/holidays, he on the other hand loves gifts so I try very hard to make things special for him. I once overheard him talking on the phone with his grandma that my birthday was coming up, she was sending him some money to take me out for dinner. That never happened. Instead, he blew a large portion of that money on weed. He'll play up my birthday/holidays saying he wants to treat me and make it special but more often then not gets me nothing and then sulks about it saying that he feels bad. This past Christmas was no exception, we were laying in bed and I couldn't get it off my mind and I started crying. When he asked what was wrong, I told him that I was just disappointed, that I didn't want him to feel bad but I had given him ideas to help when he said he didn't know what to get me and that it wasn't the amount of money that mattered at all but the thought that counted. He became angry, told me "thanks I already felt bad enough about it" even though I had never complained about it previously and started yelling at me. I had another anxiety attack and he went into the bedroom next door to "take a nap" but apparently tried to kill himself. He comes out to tell me he's suicidal and just attempted to choke himself with a tie but it was hard to respond because I was still hyperventilating. He eventually tries to help me calm me down but I have to talk him out of his suicidal thoughts for the rest of the day.
>Frequently feels like his life is going nowhere, cites old instances of my anxiety to continue the point that "I hold him back". This is confusing because every time he says that I hold him back he always takes it back when he cools down, but then brings it back up when he's mad again. He says he "doesn't actually know". The problem? He wants to get up and move somewhere far away, with me. He has no money saved up, no connections and a car thats old and has its fair share of problems. I'm in school. I tell him that I want to move, but after I finish school later this year. "What am I supposed to do for a year?"
>I'm sad, he's horny. He starts trying to fuck me but I tell him that I don't want to, he continues taking my clothes off because "Yes you do, you do want to". I say our safeword, he stops for a second saying that we don't have to, but then starts back up again. I start crying and repeatedly say the safeword, he stops but is poking me with his erection as he tries to calm me down. I get up and he asks if I can help him jack off.
He's very loving most of the time but it's gotten to a point where I'm legitimately terrified to get him upset because he's very explosive when he gets mad. A lot of yelling, throwing things around, slamming doors, driving erratically. I have to mentally prepare to bring things up with him because it almost always is guaranteed to start a fight. He knows he has toxic traits and has tried to work through them but he said it's hard and there's a lot of times he doesn't want to try because it's hard work. He also said that he can't help how mad he gets because that's just how he is and he feels like he can't properly express that because of how scared and sad I get when it happens.
Anon, he sounds like a jerkwad and honestly his survival isn't your responsibility, especially if he's mistreating you. This isn't even a gender thing, if you were a guy with such a gf I'd say the same. Just what does he even do for you at all? Words of affirmation? He lies to you, disrespects your boundaries, and doesn't even put effort into birthday gifts.
And regarding his anger and mental health issues, he should be getting help and working through it himself. As an adult he's making a choice to spiral and if you need to escape for your own health I don't blame you.
>>348565> it's a shitty court dance song> song
It's not shitty and fyi it's a composition, not a song.
Discussing music with illiterate philistines is a huge mistake.
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How’s it look up there anon?
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came home on my lunch break to find my two year old cat laying in the middle of the floor and meowing loudly in pain. i rushed him into the emergency vet and they told me he had a clot in his back legs. nothing much they could do about it as it would be a recurring thing and just become increasingly painful for him until it eventually killed him. Of course i opted to have him put down but goddamn I didn't anticipate it being so painful. i stayed with him for upwards of an hour after he passed, until his body started getting cold. i feel so stupid crying this much over him but i loved him so much. he was the first cat that i'd raised from a kitten. i even bottle fed him when we first got him. i dont know what else to say here. I just really miss my cat.
Sorry for your loss, anon.
I don't know the feeling of loosing an pet but just thinking about my own cat dying makes tears come to my eyes so I can't imagine how painful it is for that to actually happen.
I'm glad he got to spend his years with someone who cared so much, he's quite lucky. Be well, anon.
I have had exactly the same experience anon; it's the worst near the start, when you don't really know if it's you, them, or another factor. I also felt very insecure, frustrated etc, but as time went on, I realised it wasn't my fault at all, and its likely the case with you too.
Some factors to consider:>men can't cum as much as women>if he's the dominant one, he's likely doing most of the work, so he can't be bothered "exercising" even if he is a bit horny>he may not think its all that important to you
The last one is usually the main cause, especially if you're too afraid to bring it up. The stereotype is that women never want sex, and its always the men pushing for it. He may even think he's doing you a favour by not trying for sex when he's horny.
Try to bring up the issue in a nonconfrontational way. Just tell him how you feel, and ask how he feels about it. If he loves you he will be willing to hear you out.
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I feel like my dentist is ignoring the cavity thats starting to form in one my molars so that it gets worse and i have to come back for more expensive treatment. I can see the discoloration but he says its not a problem.
I spend all day in front of a computer screen and i think its affecting my eyesight but i'm worried that if i go to an optician regardless of whether or not theres actually anything wrong with my eyes they'll tell me i'm actually pretty much blind and make me buy glasses needlessly
and i know i'm depressed but i'm sick of the massive circle jerk around depression and i feel like its seriousness in a lot of cases has been massively overblown to make us buy drugs for it
This, and the special snowflakes play along, nowadays everyone has something wrong with them, carelessly buying expensive and useless medications,which give us side effects making us buy even more medication
It's always depression and anxiety too, psychologists fucked the meaning of depression to the point where normal angsty teens are running around shoving their ~major depression~ diagonsis in front of everyone, it makes people who actually have depression seem undermined, or when it gets to people's minds and someone who may just be shy just started magically having ~severe social anxiety~ after a diagonsis, I've literally only met a handful of people who haven't had some sort of diagonsis
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The post-holiday sugar addiction is real.
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So my boyfriend is a fan of Cloud9 Sneaky and his cosplays. I know I shouldn’t be jealous or upset over it, but when I hear him talk about how good the cosplays look and how Sneaky looks “good” it really gets under my skin. It makes me feel like shit. Almost like he’d pick this costhot over me. Ugh… I know this is ridiculous but for fucks sake it drives me insane…
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Yeah. She’s a he. His name is Sneaky, he’s a cross-player. Here’s a “better” picture.
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Dump your fucking boyfriend. Maybe he should consider donating to the fucking relationship if he wants to save it
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I've been so close to suicide several times over the past year and I'm not handling life at all.
I've told my family and everyone repetitively that somethings got to change, that eventually I'm going to hang myself after a bad day and there will be no coming back. They're all worried sick about it, ringing me up and checking up on me. But at the other end, whenever I try and pack up my life and take time off through selling my house and downgrading on my expenses, they come out of the woodwork and shame me for 'throwing everything away' and 'giving up'.
I feel so stuck and just hate everything! I think about just getting in my car and driving away all the time…But I just can't do it, and I can't get a handle on my head and I'm barely making enough to cover my mortgage. I really do think I'm going to die, because I have a near foolproof suicide plan that is simple and gets around my survival instincts(set up a chair under a tree, make sure it's on uneven ground, hang a noose around my neck tight and drink back a full bottle of vodka with QuickEaze. Eventually you'll get so trashed you'll lose balance and hang yourself).
All it will take is ONE miserable day for me to snap and do it, and I fucking know it, and I've told them all, my mum was in tears just hours ago as I tried to explain it. But at the same time it's too much to put up with them shaming me, to watch all my assets be sold off, to see everything I've struggled for disappear.
I've been incarcerated twice over the past year for failed attempts, one was where I broke into a vet in order to steal their euthanizing agent, the second was when they seen me building up the courage to jump from a building. I'm forced to borrow money from them to keep on living, because some days I'm just too far gone to even function at work. I hate it, I hate everything, I wish I could fucking travel back in time and tell my 18 year old self to be a fucking NEET.
Same anon, I just threw away anything processed/sugar packed and have some grapes and bananas as the only sugar in my kitchen
All I can think about is making a loaf of banana bread though
It’ll get easier within like 3 days though, just gotta stay strong
He's extremely abusive. Sounds like a lot of my ex who stalks me.
He would do the exact same shit, always spin it around on how I'm the devil herself and he's trying his best. I was always making him feel bad and misunderstanding his efforts in his narrative.
I can guarantee your social anxiety will get 80% better after you dump him. I have a mental illness and was stressing a lot, but when I dumped him most of the symptoms of my mental illness cleared up and I stopped stressing.
Dump him, your life will improve a lot and you are NOT responsible for him and his well being, he is responsible for himself. He will not get better as long as you are with him and you enable him by putting up with it.
>>348532 >Frequently feels like his life is going nowhere, cites old instances of my anxiety to continue the point that "I hold him back". This is confusing because every time he says that I hold him back he always takes it back when he cools down, but then brings it back up when he's mad again. He says he "doesn't actually know".
If he thinks you "hold him back", set him free and let's see how well his half-baked plan to move with no money, connections or a well-functioning car goes for him. It's not your problem.>I'm sad, he's horny. He starts trying to fuck me but I tell him that I don't want to, he continues taking my clothes off because "Yes you do, you do want to". I say our safeword, he stops for a second saying that we don't have to, but then starts back up again. I start crying and repeatedly say the safeword, he stops but is poking me with his erection as he tries to calm me down. I get up and he asks if I can help him jack off.
This is approaching rape. He thinks what you want is irrelevant as long as he is horny. Your feelings do not matter to him. I cannot stress this enough.>He also said that he can't help how mad he gets because that's just how he is
Then you shouldn't have him in your life.>and he feels like he can't properly express that because of how scared and sad I get when it happens.
This is outright victim blaming.
Anon, the truth is, he is holding you
back from living life without being yelled at, emotionally abused, frightened and sexually harassed. Leave, or suffer more.
"I said you call me Mr Robinson or you don't call me at all and she said OK I'm sorry and next time she sees me she says hi Mr Robinson."
This is his adult neighbor he's talking about, not some twelve year old kid he babysits or whatever. Creepy.
I think he's full of shit for making a huge fuss like he's being disrespected
, but I don't see what's so creepy about wanting to be called your actual name with the typical "Mr/Mrs"?
I dunno, I've seen and heard too much shit about straight women stanning drag queens, having them perform at functions like weddings or bachelorette parties, being some of their biggest fans at bars/clubs, all the excitement over RuPaul's Drag Race, etc. This was before the explosion of Tumblrinas, even. The whole "fag hag" thing is weird, too. Just….why?
I know men are into it because they themselves are gay/bi tranny chasers, but your regular straight girl who has absolutely nothing to do with gay culture? I don't get it. What is the appeal of ugly, rude old men in heavy makeup and tacky outfits who call you, themselves and eachother "fish", "bitch", "dicksucker", "hoe", etc? How is that inspiring?
I'm bisexual and I hate drag but I'm what you would call a "fag hag" although it kinda happened just by chance. My best friend is gay and he dated a lot of guys so I know all his exes and we're all friends together. I'm also an art student, so a lot of gay guys around me in general.
Now, don't kid yourself, gay guys are just as homophobic as straight guys, but my best friend is legit the least mysoginistic/sexist guy I have ever met and I can't help but to link it to his homosexuality.
sage for blog
I called my mom and she just started talking about section 8 or me getting an apartment i can't afford while i crumpled on the floor crying that my car is broken and i can't drive it more than 20 miles and can't take it on highways because of my kids dad. he got away with not being liable for it by threatening to take me to court to argue i was liable for his $10,000 debt i didn't even know about and i was already running up a huge bill i couldn't afford with my lawyer because of his drama.
Only reason I'm not thousands in debt over the battle to get him to pay the correct child support is because my lawyer was such a good dude he ate 75% of the cost and only billed me for 25%.
I have no one close by that really genuinely cares and can do anything. People are getting sick of being a sympathetic ear because the drama is non stop between the shit my step dad and ex pull.
My kid deserves so much better than an obviously ill fitting, not meant for this world piece of garbage that can never get it together to protect him from those things.
But i don't know who will protect and love him like i do if i die.
Hate to sound reductive in what sounds like an obviously complex situation–but consider that other people are being the garbage ones and not you.
I think you could potentially teach your son a very important lesson in resilience and resolve if you managed to roll with these punches. Your son will be an adult one day himself, and he might also have to deal with the same reality you are, that is, being surrounded by predatory persons.
Protect him when he's young and vulnerable yes, but as he grows older he will not be so ignorant of what's happening around him. Sheltering kids can harm them all the same.
You sound like a very caring parent, and I think it would do more damage to your son if you weren't around for him in the bigger picture. Just my 2 cents.
You are right and i needed that…i know objectively i have to let the impulse pass and be resilient but I've been doing it for months and i think i just hit a limit
I don't know what to do though everyone irl is pretty unsympathetic and doing their own thing. I have no one to turn to that would show me anything compassionate which i need.
My mom is just at her limit and when she is she can't fake sympathy anymore and lashes out. I just don't know where else i can get any relief.
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Fuck, anon. I'm trying but it's so hard. I do all the things you said to a degree, and I've been trying extra to focus on other things whenever these negative feelings come up. So far I've been a lot more productive but the moments where all I want to do is lay down and relax, I catch myself reflecting on these past relationships (if you can even call them that) and it's such a bad spiral. It's something I've been struggling with for well over a year now and I feel so incompetent that I'm still having trouble letting go and moving on. I've tried nurturing my friendships, seeking new ones, but in the end I'm still all alone. My efforts are fruitless and only leave me more hurt. I want to keep trying but I don't know if I can anymore. Maybe I'm not trying as hard as I could still but sustaining the effort and will while fighting the urge to give-up is difficult.
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Am I weird for thinking my bf is a cuck when he says he doesn't care if I show my cleavage to strangers on the internet for money? Like those camwhoring gamers who dress like sluts and pretend to play games. I know it's not like showing my nudes but it bothers me that he's not annoyed by the idea. Thinking that he's ok with that gives me huge cuck vibes and it weirds me out a lot (and it gets me dry af).
I've asked this in other places, but I haven't gotten many replies yet and I need people's opinions.
Some men get off on their women 'showing off' to other guys knowing at the end of the day you won't actually put out for them.
I still think it's gross because it does reduce you as an object for a man's narcissism and ego. A man who respects you and the relationship wouldn't stand for it imo.
It sounds like the money troubles are overwhelming you. Selling the house and getting spare money seems to be a solution, life is not supposed to be hell. It kinds sounds like they want? Your money? And that's why they are averse to you selling.
I don't know the full story, but prioritize YOURSELF. You can have a happy life. Maybe away from these people, maybe living in a way that is more affordable for you.
It's bizarre that you think it's so black and white, those twitch zoomers giving money to twitch thots aren't a realistic threat to any relationship, and he's probably just happy you're bringing in money doing something so easy.
I personally would be more concerned with a guy that was driven insecure about a twitch zoomer seeing his girlfriend's cleavage, than your boyfriend, that's more 'cuck' (or at least irrationally paranoid about being a cuck) in my eyes.
That is the weirdest take I've ever heard. He's not overly possessive so he has a porn problem.
It's not like she's fixing to be a camgirl. I can't imagine any man who feels secure in his relationship being upset that their gf is wearing low cut tops while streaming video games.
Anon, I have a narc mom as well. It would be best to minimize all contact with her. You can still visit, but your quality of life will improve if you move out and don't fall for her narc traps when you do move out. She'll do anything to have you come back.
My narc mom emptied out my wallets without my realizing because she always had an excuse to "borrow" money. My best friend helped me see this wasn't normal. Things have been very good since I moved out, I don't feel trapped anymore.
I kind of agree. It's possible that he knows that despite his feelings, it's her body and she can do what she wants.
A guy can't really win in this case.>say something>"ugh what a possessive freak. it's only a hypothetical and he's already mad?? her body her choice">say nothing>"wtf? he's a cuck and doesn't really love her"
some women prefer a man who is more possessive, some don't, it's not some weird ebul ebin conspiracy theory so that men "never win"
if streamer anon wants a possessive man that's on her, if another anon wants a more lax and open man, that's her option, neither anons represent all women. Women are not a hivemind.
Your boyfriend has no respect for YOU either.
He sees you as an object to complete his desires/fantasy instead of a whole human partner. Has he never thought that his fetish might be incredibly disturbing and degrading to you?
I fucking hate the ridiculousness of male fetishes.
You are on a recruiter blacklist. Happened to me too after a jealous male classmate with connections told his brother (who is connected to one of the largest employers in my city, a company that makes billions), a lie about me being an illegal immigrant or something.
Use a different name on resume, nickname if you have one.
You look legit psychotic. What you're describing isnt love, it's unhealthy possessive jealousy. And I say this as a "sex negative" radfem. >>349565
Could you document the abuse and go to the police ?
hes already had the police called on him by multiple people, but they cant really do anything to him because hes 17. the most they could do is put him in a cell for a night and/or send him to the mental hospital for a while, but they will let him out if he and my mom sign some papers. its happened before.
i wish there was some kind of system where people could be put into a closed ward without their consent if theyre a danger to themselves and others. i think thats what they do in america right?
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I hate furries and I sincerely believe they should not be allowed to have children, be around children or have anything to do with children, ever.
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My boyfriend is depressed as fuck and super stressed and I feel so worthless. Nothing I do makes him feel better (and if it does, it doesn't last long) and I just don't know what to do. He's so distant and empty and I can't do anything to change it.
And when he's depressed, I'm depressed. I hide it pretty well but when he feels like shit I feel it too.
Sometimes I just think I should give up on having a relationship and live my life alone.
anon the key to attaining a large following is being in a big active fandom and drawing comics and ship fanart>>349746
enjoy yourself anon im 20 and a virgin i wish i had someone to dry hump lmao
I think she'd be more happy to see you working a job that you enjoy. She probably assumed the job is treating you right.
If I had a family member tell me they want to quit a job, I can only assume they're being overwhelmed.
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I feel like my bf is responsible for assassinating my character and it pisses me off how he doesn't give me credit for the times I've helped him out majorly or how I'm a person he wants to be with. Because doing so would call for him owning up to his mistakes, taking a bruise to his male ego, and asserting that his parents are incorrect in their assessment of me.
He turns around and tells me all the nasty, unfounded shit his parents have said about me and it really hurts my feelings because what they say isn't who I am at all and they don't really know me. I've asked him why he doesn't ever stand up for me and he says that "his parents aren't ones to be corrected." So he just allows this, I guess. It makes me feel that he's spineless, and furthermore, doesn't really care as long as it doesn't rock the boat of his own image.
As much as my bf has fucked me over at times, I've always wanted my family and friends to like him–can't understand what kind of person wouldn't want this for their partner.
Obviously, I don't trust his parents at all now and I no longer really value their opinions because of the unfounded things they've said. But it's too late for the things that have already happened, and now I'm anxious to deal with strangers who've got all the wrong ideas about me which, if I continue this relationship, will not make things easy in the future. It's like walking on constant eggshells.
Worst of all they act nice to my face, so if I say something they have a problem with they never politely tell me. They wait until I'm gone to turn over to my bf and say their piece.
Ex. I have an incredibly strained relationship with my narcissistic mom and it doesn't help that I've been living at home temporarily. Apparently bf's mom didn't like how I made a joke about my house feeling like a nursing home due to the sterile decor and the fact that my mom is in her 60s and is starting to exhibit senile behaviors. Bf told me she said I had threatened to "Put my mom in a nursing home," and for that reason I was an "angry" person.
When I said how she was twisting my words and clearly misremembering what I'd actually said, bf said his mom "never lies." Implying I do. I don't ever want to say anything to her again regarding my own life because I have no idea what kind of unfair judgements she'll cook up next. She's one of those assholes who can't conceptualize how not everyone has a great relationship with their parents and how that's not always the child's fault.
Ex. Bf acted out and was extremely aggressive to me over the holidays to the point where I was crying and dropped him off at his apartment. I was considering ending the relationship. He freaked out, and in a drunken panic, decided to unload by calling every single friend who would listen to his tirade and his family about how I was "abandoning" him among other things. All I said when I dropped him off was that I needed a day and I would call him when I was ready. He didn't even remember all the fucked up shit he said and did to me because he was so drunk. So when he ranted to everyone his narrative was that he was the victim bc he legitimately believed that.
He later apologized when I told him all the fucked shit he did to me, but of course, didn't go back to correct the story to everyone he ranted to because that would mean he would have to own up and be embarrassed by his actions.
He told me what his mom said when he cried to her, how "he could have anybody" and "don't even answer her call" (even though he's the one who wound up calling me early). I'm sure he's not telling me the worst of the stuff she said because for all she knew from his perspective I was some thundercunt who was ending the relationship for no good reason.
Ex. Bf always complains to me about how his parents never visit him. He claims they're racists, and because he lives in a rundown black neighborhood they won't come. It's true I've never seen them make an effort, but they get hurt if he doesn't go see them. I've been driving him out to them to visit recently because his car is out of commission. On our last visit they were mentioning how their new employment was really close by to my bf's place so I made an innocent comment "Oh that's great! Now you can go see him now." Bf later told me they took extreme offense to this because they felt called out.
I could give others examples about how I've objectively helped my bf out and how he never gave me credit in front of his parents, but those examples above are the absolute worst of how I've been getting crucified over stupid things.
I understand that Mama Bears™ have the natural instinct to stan for their offspring, but I don't want a second mom who secretly resents me and will blame me for her son's shortcomings while never crediting me for all the nice stuff I've done for him.
I don't want another familial enemy.
I told him if they talk shit behind my back, I don't want to hear about it again unless it's how he told them it's not true. My relationship feels so spoilt now and I'm not sure if I even want this anymore. It's fucked up.
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There are so many red flags here I don't even know where to begin. I'm just going to assume you're relatively young in which case you have many options. Why waste time on this crazy person if the end game would be that for a mother in law.
I would end it asap and give a simple reason that you don't feel you're compatible. Don't mention his family. Just please move on from this mess, there's no way it's not going to get worse.
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you're bf sounds like a spoiled asshole with bpd. dump him stat.
I know that's a stereotypical response but there are so many red flags anon.
homeboy don't trust you at all (based on the facts that he's willing to bend over backwards to believe his parents over you.)
he's an ungrateful asshole and you should run toots.
Sorry anon, I was mostly frustrated at seeing food dribble.
Not sure if this is normal because I mostly see these for ears, but I have other friends with lip gauges and they usually keep flesh colored plugs around for more formal events and everyone is cool with it, or they at least run it by the bride and groom beforehand to see if their gauges are okay. From what I understand, this dude didn't run shit by anyone and showed up looking like a swiss cheese asshole.
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I wish I could browse Bestgore without the ultra cringey woman-hating narrative latched onto every single post and every single comment. It all reads like out-of-touch unfunny boomers mixed with 4chan teenagers, and the whiney eagerness to screech "s-see women are violent too!" is so transparent when 99% of the content is male on male violence. I can't even go near videos that feature women because it's all so much more cringey to read. Too bad the manhate threads are ruined or I'd have so much content for it.
I'm probably a pot calling the kettle black here for consuming the same content these morons are, but god, can't they write /one/ article without their creepy biases.
to add on: i knew a lot of weebs in high school and most of them didn’t even know who she was until after the drama last year. BUT i can think of one thot in particular that i knew semi personally who still praised her despite being aware of some previous actions
also I know someone asked in the thread and she’s about 5’2, I had the displeasure of meeting her myself at one point and even snapped a pic kek
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Even though I'm doing all the things I thought was unimaginable to me a few years ago (going out, making friends, travelling, etc.), I still feel sad most of the time and can't stop suicidal thoughts from reoccurring.
I recently stopped taking antidepressants (I was on fluoxetine), which might be the cause of this getting slightly worse, but I don't want to start taking them again, I hate the concept of having to depend on some medication in order to function properly. For clarification I had these thoughts even when I was on them, only difference was that I had no random crying fits.
The other thing is that I can't stop comparing myself to others. Every person my age is already getting married, having kids and the fact that I'm not makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. Although deep inside I know that even if I had their lives and was getting married, etc. that wouldn't stop me from feeling worthless inside. I feel like I could have everything in the world and I would still feel like a miserable, worthless piece of trash.
It's ok anon, you're not the worst human in existence or you wouldn't even be caring.
Tonight you need to eat probably, do a little revision of the test even if it's just thinking about what is likely to be on it, and sleep.
After the test, we can help you work out a battle plan for that train journey and whatever else is attached to it. Right now, just the test and your own health matter, just eat, set your alarms and get your stuff ready for tomorrow, and sleep.
First of all, anon, you have a boyfriend. A boyfriend who brings you to meet his family. Objectively that means atleast one person finds you attractive.
You need therapy. There is no other way around it, your extreme body issues have been allowed to ester to a point where you're now actively missing out on life. I hope you get the help you need, anon.
How does her having a boyfriend have anything to do with her body dysphoria? Mental illnesses are irrational at their core, hence why even people with their lives together and seemingly everything in the world can end up with chronic depression or bipolar with extreme manic/depressive episodes. The whole idea of body dysphoria is that what you see isn’t what’s actually there - she’s seeing herself as hideous when we can safely assume from her having a boyfriend that she’s not. Whether or not she has a boyfriend has nothing to do with her irrational mental state, it’ll happen regardless to people.
Anon, you need to keep talking to your therapist and trust her - what is the fucking point of paying someone to help you if you don’t actually let them help you. And if you don’t trust her enough to help you, then perhaps you need to find a therapist. But my point is that. You. Need. Help.
Hope the best for you, genuine mental illness is awful and draining
Actually in my pov people with mental issues tend to rely on other to feel better so they get bfs or gfs
Meanwhile I literally can't get one until I go to a psychologist due to anxiety and panic issues, my mind is that fucked up
What did you need him for anyway? Extra validation? Get some self-love girl.
No offense, but it's kinda on you and I think you realize. Of course he was bound to leave eventually when he realized it was all about how he made you feel and that it was never going to be reciprocated. All men leave when they realize they have no chance, even the most pathetic beta orbiters.
Sounds like this one's mostly on you.
He moved on and is probably trying to forget about you, you should try to do the same. It wasn't healthy for either of you.
When I speak to my bf about ANY group of people (in this case, trannies) that I dislike, he's always playing the defensive for them, and ends up being sarcastic to me in defense of them, and ends conversations like that. Like, "Sure", "Right", etc. Is it me or is this unnecessarily rude? Am I allowed to be upset about this? Because, honestly, it really hurts my feelings.
For example, I said that they all have NPD (they do, obviously), and I told him about Blanchard's typology. He basically ended up telling me I'm cherry picking, that the typology probably isn't representative of anything, that they're just mentally ill and suffering, and that the NPD violent troons aren't representative of male troons.
I would think it's suspect and that he's a chaser if he didn't do this shit to over LITERALLY ANY group of people I complain about.
Anyways, so he then responds to me with a dismissive 'Right', and that's it, after I've said that you must have NPD to demand everyone cater to your every whim with the threat of suicide hanging over their heads.
Am I allowed to be upset at this? I'm honestly tired of being spoken to with disdain and sarcasm when I'm complaining about a group of people because he needs to preach about how "they're not all like that!!".
Do you want to date them, or me? Like, what the fuck. Disagree with me all you want, but why do you have to be sarcastic and rude about it?
Am I allowed to be upset about this? Why is everyone else important enough to treat me dismissively over it? I don't treat him like this over shit I disagree with him on
You know he can be your boyfriend without agreeing with every single thing you say right?
He’s probably bored of the topic and sick of it being brought up, hence the bored and dismissive responses.
He doesn't need to agree with me. If you just bothered to read my post, I literally said "disagree with me all you want". i just don't want to be treated dismissively and be given sarcastic answers simply because he doesn't agree with me.
I don't mind him disagreeing at all. What I mind is the sarcasm when it isn't called for, just because he thinks my opinion is too "extreme". Weird how you automatically fault me with bringing up trannies and assume I take issue with him disagreeing, when I literally said I don't, and he was the one who brought up trannies, but ok.
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I have a crush on one of my fwbs and I wish I didn't. I just think he's super cute, like he's at least 8/10 by my standards. I know I don't have the desire to ~date~ him, i just think about him a lot and I feel like I can't get enough of him physically.
I'll give it about a month before I'm in too deep and pining for him.
He doesn't think it's morally reprehensible, he just needs to be a moderate about everything and thinks I'm not being sensible. It has nothing to do with morality. He's just obsessed with taking a middle of the road approach to all people, but not all groups of people actually fit that.
And I'm just casually talking to him. I'm not chiseling a publicly palatable speech here. I don't feel that everything I say about needs to be interjected with "BUT THEY'RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT!!!!" and then be treated dismissively over it. He literally does the "BUT NOT ALL MEN!" bullshit about everyone, especially men, though he isn't an MRA. It's annoying. I'm not allowed to generalize about anything, and if I do, I'm treated with disdain for it. That's dumb.
In that case, that does sound annoying. Sorry for misunderstanding.
Even if he actually disagrees with you on those things there's a time (and doesn't just like arguing for the sake of it) there's a time place for when it's actually worth bringing it up. Doing it over everyday things or casual conversation sounds like a fucking pain.
Thank you! Exactly. Your response really makes me feel better. Like, if you're THAT annoyed or upset by my opinion that you're willing to upset me by rudely dismissing me like that, at least go all out and make a debate out of it. I can't debate for shit, but that's not the point. He just 'knows' I'm wrong and that he's right because my opinion is too extreme.
And he really hurt me very recently by telling me that talking to me is "a fucking chore" because I committed the grievous crime of missing him, which he knows I'm still really upset about (and yet he hasn't apologized for it), so I'm sure he had to have known I would be further upset by him dismissing me just to defend some group of people that he doesn't have any personal stake in. It's just rude, imo. I don't answer anyone I disagree with like this. If I don't care enough about the issue to formally make my case, why should I upset someone with a snarky answer? >>350686
Thank you. I agree. It just feels very much like he prefers to be 'right' over not making me feel dismissed and dejected, but even worse, because he doesn't even make a case for why I'm actually wrong. I just 'feel' wrong to him because it's an 'extreme' opinion and he thinks the law of averages dictates that these are just the few crazy people that end up standing out.
pure jealousy. no one is jealous of onion because he's a broke fugly retard in a half a million dollars worth of debt in the process of digging himself a very deep grave.
weebs and costhots are MAD jealous of mariah because she has money and gets to go to japan and buy expensive anime figures and shit.
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This person betrayed you. Cut them off immediately.
How could you continue anything with this person and trust their character?>>350704
This person does not respect you and he's literally telling you it. It's one thing to disagree but to tell you that simply communicating with him painful is fucked up. If your boyfriend can't handle debate and doesn't seem to be doing any actual research on the topics (thus having absolute trash information and stating incorrect things) I wouldn't bother to converse with him at all.
Like, what do you get out of this? What knowledge or insight do you get from being with this guy and having these dumbass conversations? How is this enriching your life at all?
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I'm scared of dying alone. I want a suicide pact. Even if the person survives and steals my identity, I don't give a shit I just want someone to hold my hand while I die.
Do you have the opportunity to interact with other people? Maybe your anxiety makes socialising hard but for me, just asking a person a dumb question about literally anything keeps me there. As does touching everything around me, hitting my feet off the ground to hear the sounds and vigorously rubbing surrounding objects like a true crazy person.
Therapy is definitely the long-term goal but being around others and focusing on something other than yourself with them sounds really helpful. Being around friends helps, but if you don't have many and you can afford a class then that's great, but if not, perhaps look into community events and check normie things like Facebook to see if there are any irl communities or events for things you're interested in. >>350782
The best solution is to have a caring, healthy marriage with at least two kids that love and respect you, so that when you're on your death bed in old age at least one will manage to make it there to hold your hand. It's no small task but building a life can be broken down into steps. Good luck anon.
I think it's because we didn't have permission to start a new one.
Also suspect a man may have started this one, but that's just a hunch.
just more proof we're nothing like r9k like handmaidens like screeching about
isn't it funny how woman-hate roams the internet freely, all the way from 4chan to youtube, twitter, reddit, even instagram and tumblr to an extent. and we are expected to just suck it up and anyone who says otherwise is oppressing men, but 1 man-hating thread on a mostly female, unknown image board? get locked a million times for no reasons reeee
I just wish men got a taste of their own medicine for once
they don't, another anon pointed out the scrot has a habit of leaving for 24 hours then magically coming back, it's been like this for almost a year now, the same scrot
not to mention the fact scrot posts and even gore and abuse footage will stay up for 8+ hours straight, but magically mods are able to come out of the woods and ban us in miliseconds if we have 1 or 2 posts disagreeing with each other
I used to peruse an imageboard (not 4chan!) through which I discovered lolcow, for which I'm grateful because finding a women centered site on the internet is really tough. But some of those anons had this sick fixation on anything related to women. We're talking here about guys in their late 20s, 30s, 40s having fantasies of engaging with young schoolgirls here and getting a thrill from having replies and making other anons here upset. Forward a few years and every time there's a raid, there's a high chance that some idiot made a thread there trying to "bring sense" into us or even calling for a raid. They like stirring trouble aka race-baiting and shitposting.
But those people are sick. Even sicker than r9ks. Not only is CP allowed there, but if you protest against it, you get banned. There are often mind disturbing women-hate threads that never get locked with lots of gore and porn dumping of women being treated in the most violent way and the users there encourage it.
These men lurk here so often but still think of themselves highly, giving patronizing advice on what they think is the best life for us aka getting married and pumping out kids even if they are in most cases neet or barely take care of themselves. I could go on and on but in short, they have this disturbing obsession with this site and spend an unhealthy amount of time here and other sites dealing with women's issues.
I wonder if the farmhands/mods straight up just can't be bothered with all the traffic. The scrote infestation has gotten worse, and they'd probably need a thread-specific janitor to keep it in check at this point.
On the other hand, now it looks like they're not even deleting male posts, just sticking the cute little robot pixel under them like in the early days when the site was slower/smaller. Why, I have no idea. Only a robot would really take issue with their worthless, sometimes disgusting (eg, rape, gore) posts being removed. I hope they have a good reason for this change of heart (like evidence for future reference?).
Also, if the whole thread as a concept is really "banned until further notice" (in a farmhand's words), screeching about "femcels" whenever anyone says anything even slightly not-nice about men should definitely be hampered in the vent, unpopular opinions, annoying, etc threads. Like it or not, farmers don't exactly worship men. This was never a space for them, neither was it created to be male-friendly (and they certainly don't afford us any of that respect on their sites), so I don't see why that should be an issue. As long as the response to anyone saying "My boyfriend argued with me today" isn't automatically "Dump him, all men are trash who must die", it should be fine.
Farmers post manhate in vent/unpopular opinions thread>REE DON'T POST THAT HERE!!!!
Farmers make a manhate thread to contain it>REEEEE I HATE THAT THREAD IT SHOULDN'T EXIST!!!!!!!
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Felt perfectly fine this morning but the second I get to work I end up getting one of the most painful UTIs I’ve ever experienced. Took some AZO and tried to indure through the pain but an hour later I stand up and ended up pissing myself?? I managed to make an excuse to go home, but oh god I’m so embarrassed anons pls kill me
Idk guys, the Farmhand legit said "its a banned TOPIC". But whatever.
I guess I'm just PMS-ing hard and cant deal with this dude who's supposed to be working with me (and a couple other girls) on a group project for uni. He hasnt been answering our messages and calls for two weeks while we were working and now he wants to incorporate his bit on the movie Tangerine in the group project. Something I have very explicitly opposed since day 1 because Tangerine is sexist as fuck and barely fits the subject we're working on (reenactment in independant cinema). The group project is due tomorrow and he refuses to change anything, laughs at my arguments and the two other girls are being super polite and nice to him.
On top of that, this leftist fb group I'm in that's pro prison abolition is suddenly finding 1000 reasons why it's "reactionnary" to hang/torture rapists like R Kelley.
It's so insanely unfair. We literally can't have anywhere to talk about men without men ruining it, and mods are making US suffer for it rather than just actively modding and deleting male posts. I only caught the start of that thread yesterday but it's obvious a man created it solely to start shitting on us, the spergy misogyny started the instant it was made. Why are we punished for it?
Can we at least have a feminism thread? Or specifically a radfem thread? The manhate thread was never just used to hate men, it existed to talk about all the ways in which men hate women. Same thing really, we hate men for murdering and abusing us, and they do those things because they hate women.
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no they didn't… they said they exact opposite of that. you guys need to drop the martyr act.
Take your head out of your ass and look at the farmhand's post on the thread made today >>350961
she probably meant thread topic, not topic as in all man hate will get you banned.
I hate men too and posted quite a bit in the first two or three man hate threads but I don't understand why it's so hard for some anons to go 5 seconds without reeing about them.
I’m so bored by man hating posts I wish they had their containment thread back. Most of it’s just harmless bitching but there’s always one mental patient who gets angry at women for not man hating and that’s retarded.
Maybe it should be put to a vote in meta?
Truly sad. Not a single man would consider or advocate for shutting down women hate threads, no women invade men's sites to ruin it for them, yet here you are coming to their defense and trying to get women to stop talking about our experiences. As always we're punished for male behaviour, and we're always the ones making concessions and being quiet just to avoid backlash.
I don't like trashy nitpicky /snow/ threads but I don't demand they get shut down to remove bitchy ana chans or nasolabial fold spergs or whoever I don't like, if you don't like the threads you can just avoid them. And mods can do their jobs to get rid of incels.
Where do you shop anon? Not being bitchy, I genuinely need some suggestions. I'm the OP and my big issue is proportions, mostly for pants. I have wider spaced hips but a small waist and wider thighs. When I do find small stuff it tends to be leggings or very tight skinny jeans but I can't find regular, work appropriate pants anymore. Kids and most juniors stuff is out because of my hip proportions and adult pants that hot my hips right are weird and baggy at the top because they're designed for someone with a bit of belly. J Crew's sizing is the worst for this. I don't know who they think they're kidding with their "00s".
5'3" 100 lbs so I'm also between petite length and regular length, but that's a generally easy hem fix.
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I agree with but at the same time I think the man hate thread is fair because it's women hate all over the internet. Like if we go on any website there is tons of women hate topics,even if a man doesn't hate women he doesn't care or feel the need to say "not all women" but everyone rushes to mens defense I think the question we need to be asking is why is making fun of women or bashing women so normalized? I can't even go in YouTube without seeing comments shitting on women
Holy shit no one said anything
about it being permabanned, you overdramatic bitch.
said. I actually rarely contribute to the man-hate thread but it's nice knowing it's there just in case. It's not about reeeing about men nonstop it's about being free to ree about men>>351079
Speak for yourself. You and other nonfeminists arent the only one here. Plenty of anons here want to be able to sperg about this shit. If you're tired of the "femcels" why don't you
This thread was only shit up because of this sperging >>351063>>351074>>351079>>351081
It was civil up til then. It seems the "anti man hate" anons are far more vitriolic, insulting, OTT and spiteful in this particular case. You're even insulting me now when I haven't said shit to you. I haven't seen man hate mess up the threads you've mentioned, either, can you post screencaps, links or even descriptions of instances?
this site isn't a "femcel" site. it's a drama site, you should feel lucky these off topic boards even exist. this isn't your
>>351105> you know you can hate men without wanting to discuss it
Just this isn't about "omg I hate men so much ugh". It's about issues that are specific to relations with men and it can happen in work and social environment. Since so few men and women give a shit about these issues, it's nice to have a corner to vent about it.
And I don't get why it's a problem now when it wasn't a problem when it started.
You can hide the thread, but we can't post in it. I don't even post there often but it's nice having it when I need to vent. Because god forbid if I vented about a guy here, I'd be told to stop being a man-hater.
>>351130>no one is insulting you.
Um…>>351114>NTA but it's happening now, ITT, retard.
I haven't called anyone a man or samefag. I'm just asking for some evidence to back up claims.
NTA, but it's a problem because of the people who are ruining the site. also your example is not what the issue is. the issue is when anons barge into other conversations with their unnecessary opinions. people vent about men all the time, but when i want to say something about how my bf that day is doing something annoying, i don't want to be bombed by shitty anons reeing about how i'm a handmaiden.>>351134
if you are that tilted by someone saying retard then please leave.
find me a single thread on whole 4chan defending women.
inb4 "they're a fringe society, imageboards dont represent real life"! newsflash, we're also fringe and an imageboard. >>351111
That's such a bad argument. Have you seen the spergs in ANY other thread of this fucking website? The vendettas on snow, the nitpicking, the ariana sperging… None of that is "mentally healthy" yet it's still here. >>351114
i mean it's happening right now ITT because the manhate thread is locked.
WOuld like to add now just 4chan, but 8chan and other imageboards in general.
I mean its was funny on topics not even relating men and women they would find any excuse to bash women-especially the DC movie threads on /tv/ there's so much salt lol.
NTA but please don't accuse people of samefag to try to prove your point, it just makes us look stupid. Accusing people of samefagging is
paranoid behavior, and it's not a valid rebuttal.
Welp, someones mad. And you manage to make yourself look stupid all on your own, you certainly do not need anyone elses help. Oh and look, using the same line you say you do not use, yep, you really convinced
I had worn F21 as a teenager and the fit was decent but the quality wasn't good. I might give them a shot again to try since I just need something to get through the spring at least. Most of the stores in my mall had one or two 2s that I could practically stand inside or just skin tight skinny jeans. I was told by the cashier in Land's End that they only ever get two 2s with each shipment because they don't sell enough to bother.>>351127
I'll try ASOS too, since they have free returns in the US. I like that they have the model's heights on there too, that's helpful.
yea so in the name of the origins of the site, we should also make Shoe mod again, right ?
I know why
maleposting is banned but that doesnt change the fact that it is now supposed to be an all female board.
The old threads were mostly shit and even when men weren't whorefagging you could still see that they were male and they made shit posts. There are a ton of places where you can shitpost about cows alongside male users.
It's sort of hard to interact with others, I live in a rural area and work night shifts. I know my living situation makes it worse, I've been trying very hard to find a job in a bigger city. I know it'll help me greatly, but in the meantime it's unbearable. The only place I can go to socialize is grocery stores and restaurants. I wish I had my best friend with me but she moved to a different state. A lot of people I used to be friends with have finally ditched this town.
I'm making it my goal this year to get one step closer to making the move, my boyfriend has been doing pretty bad too.
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>watching you goofy bitches argue when i have no horse in this race
There's that projection again.>>351169
Maybe address that to the anons who are trying to start an argument about my comments then.
I HATE how overly sexualized Bayonetta is. I'm replaying it and it makes me so sad because it's still like, the best hack and slash out there, but I can't stomach the unnecessary objectification, and even if this wasn't a feminist issue, I would NOT EVER like to see a male video game character sexualized and objectified like this. Like, half of the fucking game is dedicated to tit shots and body oogling and stuff. It's just a waste of time, and all of her moves are centered around her body/are sexual, which makes just trying to complete the game a nightmare itself. It's not even just cut scenes. It's literally everything. And when I try to see if people agree, everyone out there is like "it's not objectification or overly sexualized at all! she ENJOYS her sexuality, that's what makes her so feminist!! that's how sh demonstrates POWER! one of her designers WAS A WOMAN!!!". It's so infuriating. Like, deny more subtle objectification, sure, but this is COMPLETELY undeniable.
Like, I'm just trying to beat the crap out of foes. I'm so tired of everything being so pornified. I just wish everything was basically family friendly. This shit really makes me want to vote with the Christian right almost. I just want like basically all sexual shit censored and done away with in all media.
real question, does >>351189
really think everyone else ITT is only one anon? is she like a bot or something? all her replies are really off to me. i'm really legitimately curious.
>>351192>>351192>bayonetta is like the last character this should apply to. her entire character is based around the fact that she's a femdom. agree or not, the whole story revolves around her slutty attitude.>buying male excuses like this
Please, anon. She is the perfect example of unnecessary objectification. She can be a strong femdom type without literally half of the game, including literally all of her fucking moves, being porny shit. The sexualized shots and zoom ins and cinematics that are just pure ogling take up so much fucking time it isn't even funny. She can be strong and domineering without THIS much of the game dedicated to it. You and >>351195
sound male. Bayonetta isn't even necessarily a slut, and I think a woman wouldn't call her 'slutty'. She's 'seductive', but there's no indication given that she's actually super promiscuous or anything. Seriously, the story line would not suffer, AT ALL, if it was toned down by literally 95%.
Just because a woman "uses her sexuality" doesn't mean it's actually empowering. The fact that she's attractive doesn't actually kill her foes, like, you realize this, right? The 'taunts' are stupid and unnecessary anyways and it'd be fine without the taunt moves. Keep the excuses and the porn out of video games.
I said it twice calm down lol and as >>351204
said that's why I did it. That male-hate thread needs to come back holy shit
>>351190>I just want like basically all sexual shit censored and done away with in all media
Are you one of the ace anons?
You went into this knowing
she's a sexual character lmao, no one is holding you captive to play Bayonetta. Agree it's dumb your friends (?) are arguing it's not and denying reality though lmao.
Also would be all for objectified men in media, although I doubt they'd be the kind I'm into…
fucking said that they're not lewded in the same way because media incorrectly thinks that women don't like lewd naked men.
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There's a ton of female video game characters that aren't sexed up to hell for male audiences. We can focus on them instead with positivity of giving the sexed up characters recognition.
I'll start; Yuffie Kisaragi is the best girl.
but anon her stomach
is showing, too lewd!
wow, not even close. they really are nowhere near as sexed up. are you kidding me? they're SLIGHTLY sexed up so you think they're 'sexed up to hell'. replay both bayonetta games and DMC and you'll see that half of the fucking games are purely sexual shit. it's sexual to an unparalleled degree and does nothing for the storyline, it's just a waste of time. i don't want naked men in my video games. i want to play video games. i don't want to look at naked anyone while i'm just trying to kill shit.>>351211
there are no games that i've found have the same fighting style. the game would be better without the sexual shit. idek why you guys are so invested in defending what couldve been a 10/10 game if it wasn't turned into nearly a glorified interactive softcore porno. the unnecessary sexual shit detracts from otherwise great media. it does not add to movies or games to me. it detracts. it's a detraction from the storyline and is purely a waste of time. if i wanted to watch porn, i would watch porn.
they were responding to what >>351206
said and using my post >>351204
which was saying they only reposted a few times to link to the OP post after OP edited it. what's not to get?
cause the game isn't fucking for you. it wasn't "turned into" anything. this is like bitching about senran kagura or something. you being upset about part of the game you don't like, means you don't really like that game, you like the play style, find a different game
and let people play what they like.
that's not even remotely similar. the entire game is about killing angels, but is side-tracked by unnecessary sexualization. that's a poor comparison.>>351237
right, it was made for people who feel they need all their media infused with porn to keep their attention, and that's the general trend women's characters do take in video games and most popular media. why you feel the need to defend this is beyond my comprehension. i'd prefer most media stand on its own. again, porn should be in porn. video games should be video games.
Dude, this is the vent thread, like, what do you expect happens here. Maybe take your own advice and not be so triggered
or at least, don't bitch about people bitching in the vent thread. She can vent, you can vent, its all good.
this. vent thread or not, you can't just post something and cry "uwu no bully" if someone says something to you. especially if you are actively arguing your point with them
. people who do that are just venting for validation and getting mad when they get the opposite, otherwise they'd post their vent and move on.
And where exactly did I say uwu no bully
nta but she obviously meant "you" as in "posters", she's not stirring shit, you're just misinterpreting the point of the thread.
it's pray tell, i guess you're ESL which is why you think she's talking to you, but native speakers get it.
she's saying no one ITT should post if they expect people not to comment on it, referring to the crazy anon who continues to reee about us not thinking bayonetta is lecherous porn.
are you autistic too? no one is accusing you of literally saying stuff.>>351275
nta, but i think the point is more that some women can be into sexualized women.
Ok I made a grammatical error. >she's saying no one ITT should post if they expect people not to comment on it
Ok, what has that to do with my comments?
lol i'm all set with replying to you now, come back when you can into english.
"and so are you">>351262>>351280
Again I do not diagree, you are arguing with people on your own side but ok.
it doesn't make it not okay either. but we can agree to disagree
sexualization isn't a big deal to me and honestly i really value some sexualization in media. i hate that it oversaturates the market, but that's my only issue. some women value that personality type and really think bayonetta is cool while being hot and sexy and fucking shit up. think what you want but that's my and others opinions. and the only one trying to change other's opinions is >>351279
. it sucks that this game has something she doesn't like in it, and it sucks that there aren't other games she feels can live up to it, but she's not going to change any opinions no matter how strongly hers are.>>351284
i'm not trying to argue with you, you're just overly defensive despite not grasping the situation. i think that the anon called you retarded because the only person you seemed to be defending was the girl who is clearly upset that we don't agree with her. i just don't really want to argue with you, i just hate when people assume that the thread isn't going to be filled with people voicing their opinions.
All I said this was a vent thread and everyone can vent including the other poster, but then i'm called a retard? ok. Maybe you should stop assuming things then and attacking people agreeing with you if you say you do not want an argument because that makes you look triggered
. Anyway i'm out.
sorry for OT, but i just wanted to reply with a cool story that has to do with this.
composer yoko shimomura, the famed composer for all the kingdom hearts OSTs and SF2 original OST was basically laughed at and shunned for wanting to be a video game composer after she graduated college. but look at where she got! she's now the composer for one of the most popular game series.
just thought i'd share. sage for japanese vidya autism.
…women are dying because of Bayonetta's ass?>inb4 sexualiation causes rapes
tbh if all sexualization was of dommes this wouldn't be the issue. I do
dislike creepy sexualization of women in media, like in many anime where the girls are clearly uncomfortable (and underage).
God bless her, I love her so much. Yoko Shimomura is such an inspiration to me. People will laugh in her face and she'll show off her skill. I loved her work in the Punisher arcade game. I love the fact her work is really diverse as well.
Maybe OT but I'm really glad one of the main composers in the later Yakuza games are women. I think for the 6th game there were 3 compared to one man.
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i get wanting to tone down lara croft a little, but i hate how pretty much all modern iterations threw out almost everything that defined her original look. They couldn't even give her a turquoise tank top. I hate how they swapped out her duel handguns for a bow and arrow too.
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I need someone to hold me over the internet.
I'm smoking weed at bf's buddy's house, and the friend has a girlfriend. These people are older than us, but bf likes them because he sees the male as a mentor.
Anyway I'm talking to the lady and she starts showing me her makeup. It's bad but I'm polite, I don't squash people over shit they're passionate about. She was showing me how she disguised her black eye with purple eyeshadow this evening. I assumed she just had uneven makeup, but I said I was impressed–not doing it to be fake, just felt bad to be mean.
I tried shifting subject because idk if the eye bruise was going to set off a touchy subject, so I asked her if she wanted to see a picture of my goth makeup?
She said yeah. So I pulled up my Facebook and show her my profile pic with the full face o slap.
She's breathless. She runs over to her man and says "LOOK AT THIS MAKEUP! THIS WAS ANON WHEN SHE WAS YOUNGER!"
…I took that pic for a concert over the summer. I stabbed myself internally.
It occurred to me that my makeup and photos make me look beautiful when irl I look haggard. I meekly mentioned how I'd done the look over the summer, and she tried to soften it by saying "Oh, no, it's just–your chin."
I want to be a ghost right now. So I'm one of those people that people make fun of behind their back about how they look like shit. Jeeeesus. Like I admit I've blurred my skin and changed a color tone, but god damn it's not like I liquified myself into a princessu.
RIP I'm hideous.
(reposting because im retarded and deleted the original post) a guy friend of mine for like two years just ghosted me because i told him im still dating my boyfriend and im just sad tbh. we became friends because he was friends with my friend who died, and supported each other a lot throughout the grief (never anything sexual). but he just straight ghosted me. i really thought he was my friend. sucks. he even had a girlfriend and everything. am i reading too much into it? idk.>>351446
a week ago. is that too song to consider ghosting? he would always reply right away pretty much, within an hour or a few.
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Today is a shitshow for me, Christ. I always feel like a failure (for going to community college and not being able to drive - family problems and failures). I'm pressured by my parents to succeed, I'm always going to be grateful for what they've sacrificed for me and my siblings.
I was yelled at by my mother, to the point where I broke down crying and I'm 20 (on break from CC, disabled brother, emotional sister). I'm fucking alone. Academic rigors and my mental issues stagger me, I don't have no one to talk me… I'm alone and depressed. I work during school, took night courses this semester (9-5) – I feel like a burden. I don't know how anons strive and pick themselves up after being a failure like me, I feel so much pressure and anxiety. I'm privileged to have a decent family life and a nice childhood, don't get me wrong. The imposer syndrome is real and I feel super inadequate compared to my peers (I'm eldest and being the burden here).
I'm fucking exhausted, I'm only 20. I come from a Hispanic upbringing, the focus on pressures to succeed and academic excellence is strong.
I hope the anons reading this know that their not alone and seek help, unlike my situation (unfortunately). Thanks for reading and I'm pretty ambivalent about my life for now (I know that I'd likely move-on from this but I'm succumbing to my doubts and past).
If you have any experience like me, I hope you reply. I feel isolated and the motivation isn't there (counseling helped but only for a moment).
/sage for blogpost
i lied to my bf at the very beginning of our relationship while still dealing with my abusive family and very serious financial issues (family and i very near homelessness), mental health and body issues, etc. i spoke to guys that i didn't even like, to feel cared for and to be given positive attention because all my life i'd been bombarded with abuse and negativity from my family, and from everyone else, practically. the only people that treated me kind of nice were ones that were attracted to me, so it felt comforting, especially while still dealing with constant abuse, even if i wasn't attracted to them. i never liked these guys romantically or sexually. i really needed affection and positive attention during the time, but i felt very pressured to be somewhat sexual with these guys.
i guess this is an extra sensitive issue because i turned him down to just talk to guys for attention, because he was promising me too much, like, things i felt were too good to be true, and he said them too fast and promised too much, and i also felt he was very selfish, at the time. for someone that has been through a lot of trauma and feels cursed/chronically unlucky, someone coming to you, when both of you are very young, and quickly promising you the world and to save you almost feels cruel, because you know it's not going to happen, even if he had good intentions and truly meant it, we were both very young and i was positive he didn't know what he was promising me and how cruel it can feel to have someone tell you things you never thought were possible for your life and promise you them and them expect you to trust it for no reason.
i lied about things in relation to these guys because he assumes that i liked these guys so much, and that i genuinely wanted to be sexual with them, when i didn't, and now he thinks i am some kind of evil villain that manipulates to no end, and just lies constantly. i spoke to a lot of guys, but i truly was not attracted to them, and i didn't sleep around. the worst thing i did was show one guy a typically non sexual part of my body that he asked to see, and one other guy, my breasts. i have spoken about sexual things with guys, but i really wasn't into them, and would typically cut off conversation when they wanted me to show more and more, or when they wanted me to have phone sex or masturbate with them or something. i just really needed any kind of positive attention at the time. he acts like i'm a huge slut and that i've slept with or shown like a million guys my body or have done things with a million guys.
i lied about things because i was very, very insecure and afraid of his judgement, and his assumptions, and now i can't escape it. even inconsequential things, EVERYTHING, he refuses believe, many years on.
the thing that bothers me is that if you want to repair a relationship, you have to TRY to believe your partner in order to regain trust in them. he refuses to TRY. everything i tell him is automatically assumed to be a lie. because i told him this at the beginning of our relationship, it has tainted everything else in the relationship. four years on and he assumes everything is the same. it hurts me so much. he assumes like, all flirting means you want to fuck the person you were flirting with or are attracted to them. it did feel comforting flirting and stuff to feel desired, but it had nothing to do with attraction, but he refuses to believe that this kind of stuff can be motivated by anything but attraction, and he offers me no leeway in, you know, reasons why i might have lied to prevent him assuming too much, especially when he doesn't particularly understand me and especially when he has never been through the things i've been through and he doesn't understand how it's difficult just trying to cope with lifelong abuse and a barrage of other terrible crap life throws at you.
thank you for the response. i don't know if i phrased it right, but i never cheated on him or anything, and i didnt talk to or flirt with these people during the relationship, i did these things waaaaaaaaaaaaay before we dated, just saying. i agree with you, but i don't think this should be the way it is. all i did was lie a few times about how i spoke to these guys because he refuses to believe that i wasn't like crazy for them. i think that it should be salvageable but he obviously doesnt think its worth it.>>351530
the criticism against pewdiepie was legitimate though. i agree that people need to not just focus on just pewdiepie. they definitely call out so many people that are flying under the radar, but personally, i think the big fuss about pdp was fair. what he did was very dumb, and especially dumb considering he has such a large platform and such a large, very young following, and that he had that disney deal and did that really just cements in my mind that he is a huge dumbass
Yeah, I've vented about it before but I'm really tired of gender war bullshit. Maybe it's because I was younger at the timebut I swear it was more equal and less ridiculous in the early 2000s and even 2010-13.
I just want to get a bf with similar opinions to me (equal opportunity, judge individuals) and shut myself away from it all. It's tiring.
>>351555>I swear it was more equal and less ridiculous in the early 2000s and even 2010-13
Yeah I feel the same. Especially because I first discovered feminism in the early 2000s and people were discussing real issues that women faced like the pay gap, sexual assault, domestic violence, oppressive practices in other countries etc. Now I feel that if I brought these things up men would take offence or I'd be accused of being a radfem because I'm not including transwomen or I'd be racist because I'm not respecting people's culture. I even remember more men getting involved in the conversation and being open, now it's just "Yeah but what about the perspective of the man???" Men especially will take literally any arbitrary comment and act like it's a personal attack on them.
I somehow managed to hit the jackpot and found a guy who shares all my views. What spurred me to make the post is that he was complaining about the gender war this morning. I'd say find a guy who has more female friends than male friends because they tend to be more sympathetic and are probably more open to listening to your problems, rather than dismissing them as "SJW garbage". I don't think my bf knew of all the shit women face until he met me and now he talks about how shit all his male friends are lol. We constantly talk about moving to an island where none of this exists and just surrounding ourselves with dogs instead of people. That would be my ultimate goal in life.
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samefag but i hope this is trolling lol
Whenever I meet a fan who's into lolicon I play dumb and get them to explain it to me. Then I say, still playing the oblivious normie, "You mean… drawings of little kids having sex?????? :("
Never had a single person not get either very sheepish or hilariously defensive at that point.
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i gained six pounds during the holidays. i was LITERALLY trying to lose six pounds before the holidays started… but then those christmas dinners and new years… boi
and today i have to head back to work looking like this
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i used to be like this before therapy and treatment. anon you reek of desperation and people IRL will see it and stay away. change your attitude, if you can't, get some help for this self esteem issues you have. the world doesn't owe you anything or anyone. if you want things to change, change yourself first.
cue rupaul's quote
I'm a millennial, and supposing you are one too, don't you think that only because they make you feel old?
If that's not the case, or if you are one of them, why do you think they should be exterminated?
I'd opened a diary Twitter a few weeks ago to log down my daily activities. If I talked to my crush that day, I'd write about it, name included. Out of stupidity, I hadn't realized that my account wasn't private for a good two weeks, after mentioning him a few times already. Statistically, I know there's almost no way he could've found it, but the anxiety that he might have is killing me. He has a super unique name, so a simple name search would've had me in the top several search results. I think what freaks me out more is the fact that it's so blatantly traceable back to me. Like, one look at the account and it's so obvious it's mine. Again, I know the chances are super low that he saw anything (who even looks themself up on Twitter?), but his radio silence on Twitter is having me grinding my teeth. I'm just hoping to god he comes back to message me like he saw nothin'. Sigh.
I've seen mixed people attacked online for the exact reasons you said. It's really sad and pathetic that people feel the need to attack everyone they see for some imagined slight.
Also technically all babies are the result of a fetish, since sexual arousal is a requirement to breed. Just blonde hair and boobs is a more generic fetish, but it's still one.
Tl;dr people are idiots
Make choices to be healthy and happy, to make money, hone your skills and have better relationships with family and friends.
Men are all wildly different and have their own obsessions, so there is no "right" way to perfect yourself for them. Just be your best self and if something happens, it happens. Just don't be suckered in by lovebombers and narcissists, which is likely if you don't love yourself, see other anon >>351714
It's because of the one drop rule. In a sane world, mixed people would just be seen/described as mixed, but because they were passed off as black for so long, now there are autists who are determined to keep it that way and "claim" them because they think it makes their race look better or something. The issue is, they still want to "fight" other aspects of racism at the same time, so they either end up treating mixed people like shit internally, or pathologically worshiping them and fetishizing them like creeps. Everyone else is tired of it.
Also >mixed, but look mostly black with darker skin>can't ever acknowledge being mixed or you are "self-hating" and "anti-black">mixed, but look mostly like your other race>must still always acknowledge being black above all else or else you're "self-hating" and "anti-black"
I honestly feel like whenever I point this out, I get ree'd at by white people who don't want to accept mixed people as part of them and feel weirdly threatened by the notion that there's a difference between "biracial, with black" and "mostly black, with maybe one white/other non-black grandparent or great grandparent somewhere" (funny how they're allowed to differentiate themselves from mixed people, but black people aren't), or black people who really, really want to force mixed people to be one of them whilst also being uncomfortable, resentful or downright gross and dehumanizing to/about them.
people always get so weird whenever I point out some half white biracial person is, in fact, part white.
tho tbh I do it partly to troll whenever said half white biracial goes on one of those "i hate white people" tirades.
Oh God anon I feel you. Exercise doesn't do shit unless you plan to do it 2 times longer than anybody else. The only thing you can do is cut back on eating, which is already ridiculous.
I eat around 1300 calories a day and I can't lose ANY weight unless it's under 1000.
just send me an email to that email address with your discord name.
Yeah, I'm 5'. I'm also pear shaped with a short torso so everything that's supposed to be flattering on pears (cinched in waist) just bunches up around my chest making me look 1000x frumpier.
I did find something that actually fit pretty well but naturally it only came in the shittiest, most unflattering pattern and no other colors.
Yeah. It's that simple but for some reason most of the dresses I see have some kind of band around the waist that fucks up my silhouette. Idk about you, but any kind of seam at the waist just doesn't fit my natural waistline. And if they don't have a seam, it's like totally shapeless or bodycon. Bodycons fit, but I'm trying to find a dress for a wedding…
I was gonna complain some more, but I found that ugly dress online in a better pattern so !!! It looks really bad on the models though, I guess that's a reason why this kinda style isn't super popular?
Ugh, i'm glad you're okay anon. I work a job where they pull similar shit. Pretend they care about safety, but when I am bringing up actual efficiently, i'm ignored or shouted at.
I hope you find a better job. I don't shop at Walmart and I dont agree with how they treat their workers. it's awful
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Anon you know better.
Just block him and move on.
No, it was on r*ddit >>352732
You’re right. I’d fr the biggest idiot on the planet if I continue to talk to this guy
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I have to make an appointment with a dermatologist, dentist and now gyno but I hate calling. Been putting it off for two weeks now so today is the day
anon you should try and talk to your friends anyway, testosterone is irreversible, some women do have periods come back but after taking T you should prepare for the worst in terms of how youve damaged your body, though in genderspecial circles the first thing youre taught is that only your REAL FRIENDS would accept you and not question you and anyone else is a TRANSPHOBIC BIGOT, you should try to show them some experiences heres a good story from 4thwavenow https://4thwavenow.com/2018/01/18/i-hated-her-guts-at-the-time-a-trans-desister-and-her-mom-tell-their-story/
you should also show them stories from detransitioners and gender non conforming women its hard to feel normal when majority of media dont show women like you leading you to think maybe you were meant to be a man after all.
majority of ftms are women who dont conform to stereotypes in various ways like personality, clothing style, sexuality and more. some women also believe that they can escape the pain of their sexual trauma by becoming male and its their fault because they were female they were hurt (not true). its a dangerous mindset. you can also make sure your friends think very carefully and read every single side effect on T. im sorry your friends are like this anon, i hope they grow out of it soon and make peace with their bodies.
Oh I'm aware which is why I'm so concerned. I've already tried to gently talk about the effects of T with one of them who is more reasonable… the others would probably just brand me as a terf. I know one of them is a self hating lesbian… it's sad and I don't want to see them destroy their bodies… idk tho….
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Good luck anon, i also dread making calls but it does feel good not having to postpone it anymore once you've done it
sorry anon i linked the wrong story https://4thwavenow.com/2016/12/17/a-mums-voyage-through-transtopia-helps-her-daughter-desist/
its about a young lesbian and her mother trying to help her come to terms with that, the other link is not bad either
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Adults who rage and get angry over games disgust me. I can kind of understand when it's a kid or a teenager because they don't yet have a good grip on their emotions, but as an adult, they have options instead of automatically losing their shit over something virtually retarded.
I had to take a break from playing a nostalgic MMO because some asshat got pissed and started namecalling because I crashed and slew one enemy at a popular grind spot. I got the loot that I came for, but the entire time this bro was at my character sarcastically saying how "omg liek taking 5evurrr nuuub" because my low archery skill was taking a longer time to kill the enemy. Same combat skill as the bro too. I didn't say anything back, just did a few sarcastic emotes because what a fucking tweaker. What makes it extra retarded is that this person likely crashed the person before them, and would have crashed anybody else on any other server because the spot is too busy and popular. I world hopped bunches and people are always there, so it just becomes a game of trying to grab what one can–but of course people have to take it so damn personally because heaven forbid the pixels aren't reserved specifically for their character at all times!
There's children who are better at the concept of letting someone else have a turn.
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Saged for autism but Resident Evil 2 looks like absolute dog shit and I hate that I'm so torn up about it. The thing is that Resident Evil has been a near and dear franchise for me for over a decade with Resident Evil 2 being my favorite of the classic titles, and it feels like the remake is absolutely shitting on its legacy. That's not even going into the colossal disappointment that was Resident Evil 7 which shouldn't have been a numbered title in the first place.
Undoubtedly, though, the positive reception is going to give them incentive for a Resident Evil 3 remake. Sometimes it feels like I've been playing a different series when people go on to praise the new era of Resident Evil games.
Romance is a tool used by men in order to have access to sex and female bodies 24/7. How many men would continue their relationships with their female partners if they couldn't have sex with them whenever and wherever they wanted?
Romance is not real in a modern sense.
Who is directing all of the romcoms we're supposed to emulate?
Who owns Hallmark?
What companies profit from Valentine's Day and who owns them?
Who is profiting from all of this ~sexual empowerment~?
Who is profiting when they make women overwhelmingly desire heterosexual relationships?
Who is profiting when society dismisses and discourages women only communities?
Your body is trying to help you understand something. Romance and love with men is an illusion. Your anger shouldn't be directed towards the loss you feel from not finding it, but from being deceived about the impossible nature of loving men fully.
Spend your time making female friends and relationships and getting in women's communities.
Are you suggesting someone choose to be gay anon?
The only point of that anons post that I can see you misunderstanding is >Spend your time making female friends and relationships and getting in women's communities.
She’s clearly not suggesting that being gay is something you can choose, she’s stating that female companionship and friendship is where women should focus their efforts
In a way I agree, women should focus more on other women and make female communities very tight knit again. We should have eachothers backs as we can better understand each other since we have many of the same struggles (both biological and social) and at risk of generalising there are many female majority hobbies and interests that women could easily bond over
oh, I should clarify. he’s asleep next to me currently, we came home together just me and him eventually. by this time it was very early, we had sobered up mostly, and I was still in shock. he kept asking if I hated him; I don’t, of course. he kept apologising and just saying it looked ‘tempting’. he promised me pizza today. I vocalised my feelings quite well, I think.
for context both of us are on ssri’s, I’m in therapy and he is not. I wish he would go but I can’t for the life of me sway him. we are also both at university an hour away from eachother, so we visit on weekends. I recently finally persuaded him to stop binge drinking alone bc he hears shit sometimes.
I just feel at a loss.
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Ugh. Are polilez radfems schizo or something?
No. Like >>353161
said, I'm saying women need to spend less energy and time in their romantic male relationships and more on their female friendships and relationships, like I said at the bottom of the fucking post.
Does sexuality consume your life that much that you seriously think I'm saying "become" a lesbian? Don't you have any other fucking friends or hobbies?
I mean jesus, look at this thread. The suffering that results from having a romantic male partner is staggering. Instead of worrying about where, what or why a partner is doing something (because they can't show you respect or communication) you could investing more effort into your female friendships or literally any hobby.
I wanted to respond to anon about her feelings of loneliness and offer some alternatives to going back into a relationship.
Dw Anon, you're right, it's just typical lolcow strawmans, blowing everything you can possibly say out of proportion>>353170
Unless you can name a quote that anon said, word from word, that proves she believes straightness is a choice, then you're just a screeching moron, at least TRY to actually debunk it or come up with actual reasons outside "you sound like people who I think sound crazy xD"
I have no idea why you're being attacked. I don't hate men but I'm not oblivious to their nature. I see more long-term relationships being torn apart because of the guy cheating despite all the screeching by the mgtow and the mra that it's the women that do it.
> women hide it better etc.
What's so bad about thinking that maybe you don't need a romantic relationship at all? What if you are completely happy on focusing on other things like investing in your skills and your well being?
I don't think that there's an evil plan behind the romcoms but I do believe that the idea of love is a modern product and that they make women specifically more self conscious if they're single.
I mean, you wouldn't want to become one of those pathetic, smelly, sad cat ladies amirite?
Anyone who thinks female friendship = INSTANT LESBIAN is a huge handmaiden themselves. It's a male opinion that there is no friendship without SEX which is also why men watch so much incest porn, as they cannot understand the concept of love and compassion without SEX
Focusing on your female friendships is wonderful advice, and does not involve any sex despite what men and male-brained women seem to think
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I’m applying for the best art university of my country, and I’m shitting myself while I put together my portfolio. I don’t feel like I’m good enough to get in and my pieces are mediocre at best, and they have only graduate classes of 30 so it’s competetive. And if by some miracle I manage to get in I’m going to feel like an utter imposter because of my lack of skill
Doesn’t feel good
i'm the anon you replied to. like i said… i really wish i could be a lesbian. i just can't. i don't feel any sexual or romantic attraction to women in the way i do to men, unfortunately. i have no male friends but i have incredibly close, wonderful female friends who make my life worth living, but i just can't see myself in a relationship with a woman.
proof that sexuality is not a choice i guess.
same anon and i see you didn't mean "become a lesbian" or anything but to anyone who thought that might be it. yeah. maybe i'm just asexual?
anyway i'm very satisfied with my female friends, i just wish i could experience romantic love. the stuff that makes people write songs and make movies and things like that.
The men I see online are disgusting, the guys that went to school with me were openly racist and sexist, lots of those I met had issues with body hygiene. Now online again I see "feminist" men that talk over women and worse.
I still believe there are good men, I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and am incredibly happy. But I hate the current low standards for men and people not being willing to call them out on shitty behaviour, because they treat it as a big joke.
Trust your intuition, we often pick up subtle cues and mannerisms that rub us the wrong way but aren't obvious. And try to meet somebody through a shared interest, that helps I'd say.
can someone pls explain this handmaiden thing? i've been under a rock for a while
i get that it's referencing handmaid's tale but i missed out on the meme
I know its very ayyenyion baity to talk about committing suicide online…like lol jusy shut up and kill youself, right?
But not really. I think during this month or the next i am going to go through with committing suicide. I feel so stupid, crying as i type this because i still have strong fears of not knowing what is after death. I believe know they must ho SOMEWHERE. I've died twice during medical operations and it wasn't peaceful or calm. It was like impending fucking doom and like my deceased friends were yhere both yimes trying to tell me something very urgent, but i was revived bofh those times and never got the message they were so desperately trying to tell me.
Ive tried talking to people i know about it and how i still feel signs they are trying to speak to me through them, but you'd be surprisedat the cold responses people will give you to this and how it's apparently just PTSD from the operations and their deaths, but i dunno man….i just wanna leave here. I am not fully a human anymore. Im a 26 year old with too many disabilitys to take care of myself physically or financially, my partner who i live with makes fun of me for this and calling me a dreg of society, starting shoving me and choked me two days ago. This all happened after i started standing up for myself and pointing out how he was treating me was wrong..gets even more agressive and pushing me onto the floor while saying oh suck it up a barely pushed you…thats not the point. It hurts my feelings. And i can't leave. My familys health insurance just ended and he will be paying for mine and because i have a lot of thinga im always ending up at the doctors or psychiatrists for, i would be a fool to not take the offer. I have nowhere else to go and i have no way to pay as I'm having trouble getting my disablity processed.
Speaking of family, my parents cast me out from their home after they snooped through my brothers phone and found out i had an abortion so i had to go back to my now partner fhat i mentioned earlier who i had just broken up with because he wanted sex right after my abortion and it hurt and i said no and he kicked me out at that time. So getting back together was weird. And has currently gotten to the point where he is so cruel in what he says and does that i know he does not love me and is just using me constantly for blowjobs and sex, he made me cut off all my friends because I'm bisexual, my family won't speak to me, i don't leave my house because im scared to go outside. I'm too ugly and everyone is always staring at my body covered with huge scars. I miss my friends that passed away terribly. Especially mason. I miss you buddy. I hope i will have the strength to pull through with my plan this time so we can see each other again
definitely, there's men like your stepfather out there. they're pretty rare, so appreciate their presence as long as you can.
my boyfriend is sort of similar, he gave up smoking cigarettes because of me. i have trauma where the smell of cigarettes can give me a terrifying flashback and when i told him this, he immediately threw out the rest of his pack of smokes.
not even just a man being truly loyal to a woman, but treating women in general like we aren't different. i have a cousin like this, never makes a "lol women!" joke. he hangs out with women and men equally, there's no romantic feelings drama or anything.
also to note, my boyfriend is completely straight and my cousin is bisexual. i know some anons probably think to find men like this you have to look for bi/gay men in general, but i think doing that is just going to upset you more.
I'm on felony probation for another three years. I have a 7-7 curfew and can't even leave the city lol>>353366
I know. Which is just one of the many reasons to end it. I'm literally out of options and without my medical stuff if i end up on the streets I'll end up dead sooner ir later. The only place i want to leave is this planet anways. Humans hurt and they hurt uou bad. At the core of your being. No remorse>>353367
I know right there was a reason i didnt want them to find out but they stick their noses where it doesnt belong constantly and i can't stand it. My brother cried because they found out through his phone and he was 16 and knew how traumatizing that was for me. That's how it runs when were born into a baptist family. They don't care when you date a girl almost 4 years but kick you out over what was literally a clump of cells at the time
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I agree, took me a while to realise why the male feminist thing was a meme-hes an example. This pedo quite happily bashes lady gaga and gets rounds of applause and yet brags about doing…well just read it.
MTE he sounds triggered
I know this feel anon.
For me it stems from the fact that I usually try to save and hang on to a relationship, because hello I care and I get invested even if I think the guy is being a jackass.
Yet the way some men move on so quickly makes me think they jump ship as soon as things get uncomfortable, unlike how women are conditioned to forgive and excuse men plus sacrifice our emotional well being for them all the time. Also they probably don't work on what made them shitty in the short time before they hop into someone else's life and continue with the same shitty behavior.
It bothers me because I know most women are genuinely reflective and considerate when they deliberate the end of a relationship, but it's not necessarily the case for men.
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I know some anons here don't like LSA since some people from there started cropping up here without even trying to fit in, so I'm not expecting sympathy, I just need to vent. I personally only started using LSA semi-recently, but I've been a farmer since Lolcow began. This still made me sad, though. I know there are a handful of /pol/ spergs and LARPing robots here who will probably get a kick out of this, too, but I can't be arsed to care. I just wonder how many of them might have come from LSA, on top of the ones who come here because /r9k/ keeps talking about us.
It's just been revealed that one of Lipstick Alley's mods may be a male /pol/tard. And I mean actual /pol/, as in people found an archived thread from 2018 where the person admits to what they've been up to, laughs about how easy it is to infiltrate black forums because the mods are typically useless and won't police themselves, and asks for some help to pass down his account to other /pol/tards, not some "The hacker known as 4chan" nonsense. They claim to be a mod on three different sites (LSA being one) and that they've been posting under a fake identity for each one for at least 6 hours a day every day for 3 years. He outright said he was trying to "subvert the forum" using mod powers. A year back, it was revealed that David Duke, grand wizard of the KKK, lurked LSA, and it caused a bit of a shitstorm. A user made a thread about it, and the admin (Condi) replied to it, denying any white supremacist presence. In the end, she said she "felt neutral" about David Duke. This is already kind of weird, because LSA is a forum mostly targeted at black women. It's like the admin of a site for Jewish women saying she "feels neutral" about Adolf Hitler, or like if the admin on LC said she "felt neutral" about those two women who were murdered and beheaded by men in Morocco.
A thread was made about the mod issue yesterday, demanding answers about how how this could happen, how modding even works and what would be done about it. No moderators were named, attacked or harassed, but a lot of us were shocked and wanted answers. Instead of addressing it, the admin (or a mod) locked it without comment, in stark contrast to how the David Duke thread was handled. This thread made it to 3 pages of users speculating and waiting for an answer before getting shut down.
I always felt like LSA was off, and it wouldn't even be the first time someone there was "exposed" (though it was never someone on the moderation team) but this was still a hard pill to swallow. You'd think the worst of it was celebrities and their shills lurking, monitoring things and paying the site to make certain things "go away", or information getting sold. The fact that they were retarded, incompetent or possibly malicious enough to let some mentally ill /pol/tard become a mod is wild. I know (or hope) that no matter how bad Lolcow gets, they'd at least never let a fucking /pol/tard male catfishing with three different identities become a mod, then censor discussion and go silent when anons want an explanation.
It feels like soon, there really will be no safe place for women to speak freely online. Certain men just can't resist invading any "girl's club" they find, doubly so if any racial elements are involved. It's like ants to sugar. I hope at least Lolcow and CC will continue to exist without being compromised, no matter how much we may fight or bitch about moderator decisions.
They shut down man hating threads a total of 10 times, out of those 10 times, only 1 or 2 did they legitimately shut them down because of bait
Man hating threads were some of our most popular and loved threads here, it was a way for anons to escape especially due to all the misogyny that runs through the internet and the rest of the planet (and the fact people still deny blantant misogyny even happens despite hoards of evidence or treat it like a non-issue), if lolcow loses traffic because of this, they deserve it
Gaslight all you want, the fact that it started with leaving male posts up,including gore and rape videos, for several hours straight, only banning spergy violent males for 24 hours, but other anons for weeks simply for disagreeing with other anons, just to later ban the threads and topic all together for no reason at all, screams male, and there's definitely shady shit going on with the mods
samefagging without saging, incessantly, does not a popular thread make>loved
I am oh so skeptical. If anything it's been the most divisive, toxic and absurd thread on /ot/.
The mods do not ban males for 24 hours, it's been repeatedly stated that they ban them permenantly.
The man-hating threads have been getting locked because there are not enough hands to moderate and referee that shitshow.
Are you so unhinged that you can't wait a couple of weeks patiently for the admin transition to take place? Is posting meme images from random males twitters and facebooks to get off to outrage and victimhood so important to you?
Wait until the mods say it's okay to make the thread. Take your grievances to /meta/. Accussing the farmhands and mods of being male is one thing, why don't you apply for a janitor/mod then?
You caught us anon! Clearly no other woman on the face of the planet would ever have an issue with pure perfect men, all the man hating threads are samefags
>If anything it's been the most divisive, toxic and absurd thread
Oh, besides the threads that openly talk about wanting to abuse animals, the amount of race baiting threads here, thinspo threads, clearly the one thread that allowed women to vent about their issues with men, was ebul crazy wahmen huh, the entire internet is a woman hating thread but God forbid we ever have a man hating thread
>The mods do not ban males for 24 hours, it's been repeatedly stated that they ban them permenantly.
They stated it once over a year ago, and the same exact scrot has a habit of leaving for 24 hours and coming back, it's been this way for MONTHS, if he was ban invading there would be no need to do that, but I guess I'm just an evil unhinged man hating woman what do I know
>Are you so unhinged that you can't wait a couple of weeks patiently for the admin transition to take place?
That makes literally no sense at all, especially since mods just left it at banning man hating band not a mod transition like you claim, I'm assuming you're American because they're the type to snap at anyone who demands change for better just to wonder why everything falls to shit when they rely on everything to fix itself
>Wait until the mods say it's okay to make the thread. Take your grievances to /meta/.
That's the thing, no one knows if mods will ever say it's okay again, you drew this conclusion from literally nowhere especially since mods have a habit of banning topics and never reallowing them, hell even the Lilly thread is banned and it's been 2 years, although you'll probably be happy us ebul crazy wahmen aren't calling pure innocent men out ever
Also this is a vent thread, therefore I'm allowed to vent, don't like it then leave, don't like people insisting change instead of just "waiting for it" and wondering why it never happens, leave, your whole philiosphy is a joke, do you have a lot of participation awards?
>Accussing the farmhands and mods of being male is one thing, why don't you apply for a janitor/mod then?
I have, several anons have and several of them haven't heard back, but magically they can have all these mods who defends men to no ends, hmmm
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I said some shit to my wife without really remembering what I've said that hurt her so deep. I have experienced psychosis so lapses in time are frequent for me if I'm angry or agitated.
It was the day before our 5 anniversary which I wanted to surprise her.
Since then she blocked me on social media almost everywhere and refuses to talk elsewhere (we live separately for now)
I've been crying for two days straight, she's the one, the love of my life. My actual fucking soulmate.
I promised myself that if she ever officially break up with me, I would kill myself. She's the only thing good about my life.
And I fucked it up and I don't even remember what I said to her.
I'm in so much pain.
Now I just wait. Cry and wait.
I used to be, I have access to a free one too.
But I don't feel like telling the whole story to him so I just had a couple sessions.
I need to. I know I need to. But I can't talk honestly even to a therapist who is supposed to hear the weirdest stories ever
What, I'll walk up and say "Hey Doc, 4 different people live inside my head since childhood?" "I've also attempted suicide 5 times and I will try again if you put me in a ward"
Sorry to say, but you are incredibly selfish and are better off being alone.
You keep saying what she does for YOU. How she's YOUR soulmate. How she's the love of YOUR life.
Then you go on to say that you're a mentally ill slob that isn't in therapy and has frequent episodes of psychosis and rage in which you hurt your partner.
What the fuck do you contribute to this relationship other than negativity and neediness? It's not her responsibility to save you and sacrifice her mental energy bringing you up. You already use so much of it when she has to deal with horrible periods of emotional abuse where you get to forget about it.
Seriously go see a fucking therapist and cut yourself off from other people until you get your shit fixed, fuck. Other people in this world do not exist for you to dump your mental problems onto.
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I don't know the reason she's with me.
She sais she loves me, that I'm her soulmate too, but I just keep returning to that depressed cocoon of "you're a bad person everyone hates you"/
She actually told me that I was stunning and capable on multiple occasions, but my condition prevents me to see myself in objective light.
I just hate myself a lot really, anon. And that's the reason I don't want therapy, I don't deserve an hour of talkingabout mu shitty disgusting self.