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No. 239880

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No. 239884

i recently tabled my crafts at a con and made a ton of money, but i have no fucking clue how to sell/post online to get a following. i've been looking stuff up and it's all just kind of inane and it's frustrating the fuck out of me.

No. 239890

That sounds super frustrating anon, you must be feeling very lost.
I never sold anything online, but about the following, I've seen some people getting a kickstart in exposure by posting their craft at a subreddit, if you do fandom or niche stuff.
You could also look up on facebook marketing, you can show ads to a very specific public that would be interested in what you have and the first tests would only cost you like 10 bucks.
Good luck, it's awesome you are trying to get your art out there.

No. 239891

thanks anon, i know i was being kind of vague, but like idk this whole, advertising thing is hard, like my stuff sold like hotcakes at the con and it was a real motivator, but selling online is just so different. not to mention the market for what i make is saturated with hastily made crap.

i've considered just renting a mall kiosk off season, since most of it is jewelry/accessories. but idk…i just don't know where to start.

No. 239898

It's ok, I also wouldn't expose myself much, specially about business, here.
There are some guides online, but tbh it seems like you would benefit a lot more from talking with someone irl about figuring out your plans, be it online or at a kiosk, and maybe clearing out your fears on the matter.
Do you know of any craftsman or small business guilds or organizations near you?

No. 240074

I run a side business online where I buy stuff from wholesale suppliers and resell them in small quantities online. If I can do it then you can do it even better. Especially when you produce your own merchandise and there can be nobody else to copy your product or compete with you.

When I started I used the ebay equivalent of our country but eventually I stopped because the fees would eat up 30% of my profit margin. So instead I signed up on national portals where you can post ads for free. Then I set up my ads and wait for people who are interested. I prepare pre-written emails so I can copy paste most of the things I need to write them.

I think you should put your stuff on a similar site. When the ads are free you can just leave them online and they will not bother you even if nobody is buying. On ebay you have listing fees that can be quite high (or at least back in the day they had them).

Good luck!

No. 240076

This guy in my math class who is like 10 years older than me drives me nuts by always trying to prove me wrong. I work pretty fast (we have to work as group) so I tend to help other people because I finish early and he has to debate me on like… every single one of my answers, to which is he generally always wrong. But today he was right and I had overlooked part of a question and he just wouldn't stop rubbing it in my face and saying he "got me". Why are men like this?

No. 240077


Small dick syndrome. I fucking hate “negging.” Sorry you gotta deal with that. He just wants your attention and to get a rise out of you. Don’t feed the beast

No. 240079

Yeah, I just looked at him like he was crazy and continued helping the other people in my group. It's just super annoying. I did worse than him on the test today and he was super happy about that too.

It doesn't help that (I mentioned this in the last vent thread) one of the other guys in my class is creeping on me. My class is small and there's only 4 guys so literally half the guys in my class are driving me nuts. I gotta deal with the stupid comments from one and the stares and being followed by the other. I can't wait until this semester is over.

No. 240094

Anon that sounds rough, I'm cheering you on all the way over here

No. 240098

I was followed through the subway in New york today by one of these old, rent control apt failed artists/writer in their 60s+ ( carrying of all things a chihuahua in a tote bag) because I walked through the door behind him as he was entered the station. BG INFO: that station, Grand Central, is one of the biggest in the city and the doors are literally two feet wide and have a mechanism that makes them slowly drift close instead of slamming. So if someone enters it's fully possible to walk in behind them through the door while maintaining a good foot of distance away from them, which is what I did.

He started yelling sarcastically at me " Thank you sweetie, thank you" as I walked away because….I should have held the open door for him? From the back? As I made distance and thought he was gone, I got in line at a kiosk to buy food and suddenly he was leaning over me and whispered " your're an entitled bitch" in the most malevolent tone possible. I was on my way to a job interview as a hostess and went out of my way to look nice, wear high heels and curl my hair which I truly believe is the real reason he was so enraged.

No. 240104

I got stuck in a group project with a bunch of college students that go off track constantly and are mostly failing our class. It really sucks because I’ve been saddled with doing the bulk of our work every week, and after finally saying no and getting a break this time I realized….if I’m not the one in control they don’t do anything, period. So it feels like I have to act like a domineering bitch for the sake of my own grade.

No. 240107

I hate my bf mother and step dad. He is a fucking snob and she is a gold digger that only married him for the money. They treat me like a piece of shit that's too stupid to understand anything.
His step brother gf is treated like an angel and is praised for everything although she is a picky bitch. We date for 4 years now and I did so much for them but they don’t give a shit and love to humiliate and put me down in front of the whole family. During a family dinner I was so close to cry in front of half his family because his step father thought it was not good that I have no job. I study and try to deal with it somehow but apparently that's not good enough and I’m just a lazy loser.
I’m just not good, smart and polite enough for them. I'm tired of being nice to them.

No. 240116

Welcome to group projects. Have fun shepherding idiots who will leech out of your work ethic and basic organizational skill.

No. 240127

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I'm working at an ICU unit in a hospital in a very large city. It's influenza season, so a lot of beds are full in the other wards, so we occasionally get less critical patients as well. And this one guy (girl? who knows, s/he's AFAB according to the data) drives me fucking insane because he's been on the ward since three days, is basically healthy and good to go but keeps clogging up a single room b/c his parents are rich. His complaint?
> muh anemia
> muh vitamin B12 deficiencies

And it's clear to every fucking doctor and nurse on the ward he's not that deficient. His levels are fine, he doesn't have spasms or drastically abnormal bloodwork. He's a tiny bit anaemic, but even his B12 levels are a little low, but FINE. But no, it's muh chronic anemia, while he's happily telephoning and smoking and walking around the ward, making a fucking nuisance out of himself. Meanwhile I've seen chronic B12 deficiencies and it's highly myolytic and neurotoxic. Those people are suffering and this munchie/spoonie is doing all that for the lulz. He's fine and every other doctor says it's probably something psychosomatic, but noooooo he has to stay in the fucking ICU ward and disturb some of our VERY VERY VERY SICK PATIENTS, some of which are critically immunosuppressed and don't need him traipsing all over the corridors and spreading his germs. And to top it all off, he constantly rings for the poor nurses to bring him shit because that ICU status apparently means he's too weak to get himself a coffee. The hospital's understaffed, FFS.

I just have zero tolerance for those kinds of people and it pisses me off. If those people were really sick, they wouldn't make such a production out of it.

No. 240138

TMI but my bowel movements are pissing me off, i've been pretty constipated my poop is only tiny balls and it never feels like my bowels completely empty, then sometimes i get diahrrea lite. I drink around 3 bottles of water per day and I think I eat enough fibers I even added psyllium to my oatmeal IDK what else to do, maybe more fats? ahhhhhhhhhhhh

No. 240145

I know there’s social norms that says you HAVE to be around and in contact with step-family but seriously fuck em’, don’t buy into it. Don’t be around them more then absolutely necessary or just avoid them entirely.

No. 240146

Tell the professor while doing a fantastic job on your part of the project. I did that. Everyone else in my group failed the project.

No. 240154

my roommates give me so much anxiety. they are constantly having sex in the kitchen/living room area, the girl leaves her Michael Kors crap all over the floor, they’re both serious slobs. the constant sex makes me scared to go downstairs. the girl ignores me whenever I speak to her. I’ve been here for 3 months and she’s never said a word to me. basically I lock myself in my room and I can’t eat until my boyfriends home so I can ask him to get me some food. I’ve lost 13 pounds within the past 2 months or so. I’m constantly fatigued and my mom has commented on my significant weight loss. I actually enjoy being skinnier even though I’m starting to look a little spoop but I’m really scared of health problems down the line. Im constantly lightheaded and tired. It doesn’t help that we don’t have a lot of money so most of the time we only have bread and orange juice. Idk i don’t have anywhere else to go but I get more and more frustrated with my roommates everyday

No. 240156

Wtf is wrong with them? That's so rude and selfish, in a shared house. You should do some strategic, planned attack. Set up shop in the living room, spread your books and laptop and some clothes around you, put your stuff on the coffee table, put the tv on and SET THE FUCK UP in there for 6+ hours a day. If they start carrying on just turn the tv up, start doing hopscotch in the middle of the floor, start dancing and singing to your favorite music. Set up an easel in there and start painting. Fuck them.

They can fuck off and use their bedroom. You're sharing the house and they're acting like rude lunatics. Beat them at their own game.
Eventually they'll get the message that they're not gonna get this shared space to use for sex while you're hiding out in your room and LITERALLY starving.

Btw another tip you can do right away is buy some food that doesn't go off, and keep that in your room along with some plates, cutlery, a kettle. You can make some food and drink in your room instead of having to work around those fucks.

No. 240163

Anon, why are you letting yourself be the one inconfortable with this situation. Your health is way too important.
Turn the tables on the horny bitch. Make a point of getting food exactly when they are having sex.
Make them unconfortable by cooking fucking macarroni and cheese while they are trying to hook up.
Ask them to move to get some kitchen utensils or something at the fridge.
Ask them while they are kissing to take a look at some half rotten fruit and ask "do you think it's still good to eat?"
Heck, even call your friends and boyfriend to hang out at the same place where the whores have sex, pick a time that will bother them enough that they have to go to the room.
Don't be a victim, and stop this stupid anachan ideation.

No. 240165

Also, if your room mate complains after your agressinve campaing make a point of ignoring her like she did to you.

No. 240167

thank you for the advice! i think i will try to set up in the living room next time they leave. i know i sound like a prude for not just walking past them but i have sexual trauma and I don’t know really think I can handle seeing other people fucking. it’s gross enough hearing her squeal like a pig from the upstairs

No. 240174

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I wish I had a girlfriend, really I wish I had female friends. I'm a very lonely Lesbian girl, I thought I was Bisexual for the longest time. Realized I am not into men sexually or romantically, my dumb ex would " teach " me into finding his anatomy pleasurable to look at. Well I came to terms that I'm not actually into him, I was simply lonely. Now it's been a while since we've broken up,I don't miss him, but I do miss having someone care for me. Didn't want to ever date a guy, but now I feel like a fake lesbian. I see how other wlw treat girls who've been with a man before. I feel dirty, despite never having a sex life with him. Maybe I'm exaggerating, but the idea of rejection because of that makes me very depressed.

No. 240178


Plenty of lesbians have had sex with men, either because they had to as they were pressured societally, or because they were figuring shit out. And you’re saying you didn’t even do that much, so it’s really not a big deal.

Don’t sweat it, anon. You gotta learn that judgmental bitches who wouldn’t give you a chance because of that aren’t worth your time anyway.

Its like the weird virgin fetish in straight circles. Not everyone buys into it. And most mature adults understand and even expect the opposite. Lesbians aren’t a homogenous group, they’re individuals. Think of it, you’re a lesbian. Would you discount someone romantically because they’d been with a man? Hopefully not lol. Ignore the toxic culture and focus on individual connections. Or just sort your head out with what you’re attracted to before jumping in the lesbo pool, there’s nothing wrong with taking your time.

And enjoy exploring your sexuality. You’re finally free! Good luck :)

No. 240180

Many lesbians in real life don't care that much if a girl has been with a guy, so don't worry too hard about it. It's not uncommon for young lesbians to attempt a relationship with a man due to societal pressure. A lot of the backlash over bisexual women/women that have been with men comes from a place of frustration towards the type of woman that treats being with other women as something 'quirky and hot' but ultimately forgets about it and ends up with a man. Many lesbians (myself included) have had bad experiences with that type and unfortunately some become jaded enough to immediately denounce every woman that's been with a man no matter what. But it's important to remember that they're a vocal minority that you see mostly on the internet and the vast majority of lesbians you'll meet won't judge you for that. Good luck anon, good on you for getting out of an unhappy relationship.

No. 240187

I'm freaking out with anxiety right now.
I fucked up my "calming" diet today, ate a bunch of things that I know make me anxious because I was too lazy to buy the food I needed.
Have a freaking job interview that I actually want in 10h from now, need to sleep, can't stop pacing and eating.
Tryed talking with my dad about the interview and was utterly ignored, he never cares about my work in general and still complains about money, fucking asshole wants to me to live with him until he dies while complaining non stop about what a pain in his poor old ass I am.
Tried to talk about my anxiety, in hopes to diminish it, but was shut down with "But you are ALWAYS feeling like that"
Tried to call my mom, but apparently talking, sexting, with her scammer Indian boyfriend 20 years younger than her is way more important than my anxiety atack and I was told to wait half an hour.
>tfw no friends or other family members to talk with
>tfw my worries and feeligns are systematically shut down my whole life and yet I keep hoping someday they will care about what I feel and tell me shit like "everything will be ok" and hug me, but that's expecting too much
I'm so alone and fat from the stress eating this last month.
I just want someone to hold me and make me feel safe and loved ;_;

No. 240191

Ewwwwwwww if you want lesbians to like you, using that term unironically is a leap in the wrong direction. It's the biggest red flag of a bihet outside of "transwomen are women uwu."

Anyways most lesbians aren't goldstars, let alone goldstars who only date other goldstars. It's really easy to find another one that isn't or one that doesn't give a fuck. Maybe you should spend a little less time on tumblr, hun.

No. 240193

>Maybe you should spend a little less time on tumblr, hun.
You don't have to be an obnoxious judgy bitch about anons worries, bitch-chan.

No. 240195


oh anon, don't be so hard on yourself. start hanging out in gay bars, meet new people. if you're too anxious for that, online dating is a good way to meet new faces. you probably won't meet the right girl on the first try, but making lesbian/bi friends in your area can help you. the dating pool for lesbians isn't all that big, so making friends makes it easier.

it is true that a lot of us lesbians don't date bisexual women. but that doesn't mean all lesbians want girls who've never made eye contact with men before. a lot of them will be cool if you've had ex boyfriends or ex girlfriends or if you considered yourself bisexual for a long time. what matter is now and if you have moved on from that or not. it sounds like you're still hurting from your last relationship so i wouldn't advice dating just now. but making new queer friends can help you a lot. and when you're ready to start dating, you'll know tbh. also keep in mind that tons of gay people don't start dating till they get older. eg while all my straight friends started dating once they were like 13, i didn't get with a woman till i was like 19. and my gf started dating when she was like 14, but didn't get in a gay relationship till she was 20. its super fucking common, i promise. especially in small towns, gay people start dating a lil later and its fine.

focus on yourself, getting over him and making new qt friends. its gonna be worth it. hell, maybe join a sport/facebook group for a hobby in your area/gym/just start going out more and start meeting other people. give it the time you need, anon. but don't get too caught up on your head and on how lonely you are, its bad for you ;-; my gf was pretty much in the same spot as you are right now btw. so that's why i'm giving you this big ass lecture. i believe in you, anon!

also the cake looks delicious

No. 240196

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Thank you for the comforting advice kind anons, I am very inexperienced as you could probably tell.
Sorry I didn't know.

No. 240203


>tfw using "bihet" unironically

Calm down there, angry anon.

I second everything that's been said above. You can do it! We're rooting for you and you WILL succeed, inexperienced-chan!

No. 240256

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I think I have an ear infection. It hurts so bad, I can barely sleep.

It's really scary for me every time I get one as an adult because my ears are permanently fucked up from having really severe ones regularly as a kid. Now whenever I get one, I worry that it's adding more damage even though they're not nearly as extreme as the ones I had back then.

No. 240267

After I finally did the laundry this morning and put it out to dry of course it suddenly pours and I have to do the whole shit again. Goood fuck this.

No. 240274


I am sorry anon. Ear infections suck, I am also traumatized by them. I hope you get better soon.

No. 240282

I want a baby so fuckin badly it’s making me crazy

No. 240286

I’m this anon I really hate complaining but I’m honestly shocked. I woke up this morning to get a tampon and my female roommate hid them. I’ve had it up to here I feel like crying.

No. 240288

I'm sorry you have such shitty parents. try to slowly fade them out of your life, it will make room for people who care for you.

how was your job interview?

No. 240295


> Having sex in the kitchen/living room

> Shared house

This is so fucking gross I nearly gagged. You can't live like that, it's so unhygenic and disgusting. His dried mouldy spunk could literally be on your kitchen counters.

Could you talk to your landlord? Say she's behaving erractically and hostilely towards you? If she doesn't stop after that then I'd even go to your local police station and ask for advice. If she's doing that on purpose then I'd count that as harrassment.

No. 240296

On Monday the new semester will start and i'm so scared…

I initally planed to lose weight to gain some confidence, but didn't manage to. I always wear lose shirts and sit hunched over to hide my rolls, seems like this year will be no different.

I'm so socially stunted that i'll probably end up sitting alone in the backrow again and skip half of my classes completely.
Also, i've never dated before so i don't even dare to sit near a guy, even less talk, in fear of him somehow thinking i'm flirting with him. I know that sounds so irrational, but i can't help it…

I don't even need to be super attractive or popular, i just want to be able to go there without feeling sick out of anxiety.

No. 240297

Same anon, and I have to wait five years at best. When I go out with my bf we can't watch baby clothes without thinking about having our own.

No. 240299

I have come out of a bad breakup and a loss of a family member and I've gained a third of a stone and I feel fucking horrible I can see it on my face

What foods and routines help quickly go back on this?

No. 240307

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The crazy vegan in my class is now feeding her dog vegan food from a shop that has recipes on their website on how to make vegan cat food out of….only flour and a wee bit of supplements. Or beans and soy sauce. Sure sounds like a good brand and her dog will definitely not get malnourished.

Like why even get a carnivorous pet, get a bunny or a hamster.

No. 240336

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Why is it, that every time. Without fail. Whenever someone needs a favor, I willingly help at their beck and call. But suddenly when the one rare time I need help, crickets. No answer. Ignored.

I fucking hate it. This happens to me all the time. I made friends with a girl in college last semester. We’re the same class this semester but we’re not the same schedule. So we have to call or text more now instead of seeing each other in person like last semester when our schedule was the same.

We split the cost of the book rental and shared it. I went out of my way to scan the entire book just in case we might need it again and we won’t have to pay for it again. Well lo and behold. We did actually need it again for this new class. So she calls me all the time whenever she has an issue with her computer (she’s not tech savvy) , or needs me to print out an entire chapter of the scanned book on paper. I of course don’t mind. But it got to a point where she would insist she needs it last minute. And there would be days where I literally just got home from work and didn’t even have time to change or eat. So she INSISTS to come over and I try to politely ask if it could be tomorrow because I just got home and I have nothing to do tomorrow. So then I’d feel bad and say okay just come. She ended up showing late which pissed me off even more. I thought to not bother to cook because then then she’d show up in the middle of me eating and then my food would get cold. She didn’t even let me know wtf was going on and why she was late. So I had to call her and ask. Turns out she decided to stop at the pharmacy before coming here ???????? And apparently they ran out of her prescription so she was waiting. I got fed up and just grabbed a snack , changed out of my clothes and waited.

When she finally gets here, I have her packet ready and she asks for help on her computer. She says she can’t get into her school email and she forgot her password. Had to show her how to reset it and all this other stuff. ( this has happened multiple times)

She makes promises she doesn’t keep. I appreciate her gratitude to an extent but she always says stuff like “oh hey anon! Can you help me print something? I’ll take you home from work if you need!” (I don’t have a car). And of course she never did. I didn’t bother to bring it up. I had someone picking me up anyway.

Now I can’t get ahold of her. I only wanted to ask her a question regarding the exam. The professor said it would be emailed to us as a take home exam over Easter break. I never received anything. I wanted to ask her if she got it. That’s literally it. That’s the only time I’ve ever asked for something from her. And suddenly my texts are ignored. My calls go to voicemail. She’s online her Facebook but ignores my messages / doesn’t open them.

There’s other instances but my blood is boiling and I just feel so sad and upset that this happens to me. It’s not the first time with other people. I literally want to cry. I feel like such a baby, i hate it.

No. 240388

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im really down that some guy i like found a gf. by the way i have a bf already.
i've liked this guy for awhile way before i met my bf but i guess we were to dumb to figure that out until it was too late.
i love my bf very much and i would never cheat on him. i dont think harboring feelings from unrequited love is even cheating.
it's just lame that we both liked each other and we never got to see what could have been

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>bf starts crossfit in January again
>gains A LOT of muscle mass and it's really visible
>been going to the gym for 3 years now
>still basically a stick

I just want to be a buff gf :(
I can't eat a lot of food or afford it.
Recently I found out that (normal) pasta makes my face break out so I kind of avoid it, but it's super cheap and has high cals. Jesus I can't wait to start a job again and somehow make myself eat more. If I didn't have this shit ass depression/stress issue I would've reached my goals years ago.

God fucking dammit.

No. 240409

I've been researching and listening to documentaries, watching Leah Remini's show, and a podcast on cults a lot lately and have come to the conclusion that my family has a lot of the red flags of one.
>brainwashing and manipulation
>STRONGLY following every new extremist religion
>anti vaxxers, anti doctor anti hospital. "medicine" is chicken soup and fermented raw milk
>hatred of anyone gay or not our race
>protecting child rapists and pedos
>no school or jobs
>extreme child abuse, i've seen one toddler thrown down the stairs and hit with a belt
>ive had bones broken in a beating in high school (no hospitals)
>living in remote woods of a tiny town
>no outsiders (anyone met after 1990s)
>only the leader is respected
>disrespecting the leader or any men gets you shunned and excommunicated forever
>no women have any amount of power or control. we are just treated like living baby machines and can't leave the house without a man

I obviously want to get out and asked on reddit for advice on leaving but still keeping close enough to protect the kids, but the only thing they could say was "holy shit call the cops right now or you're an abuser too!!" after I explained MULTIPLE TIMES that the cops can't do anything because there is NO evidence. the time that I did call CPS ended all visible forms of abuse and was I shunned (completely ignored, very little food, no electronics or outside contact) for 2 years. I try to stay positive and keep trying but it just feels hopeless at times.

No. 240415

Goddamn Anon, that's horrible. Can you inform us more about the situation? What country or province/state are you living in? And whose kids are you worrying about?

No. 240419

how much protein are you getting? iifym puts me at about the same g of protein as my bodyweight in lbs

No. 240421

How close is the nearest town anon?
Is there a way to check? Maye if you find some kind of shelter there after telling people why you are running an get some help to become indepent you can take legal actions to protect the kids.

No. 240423

Look up intermitent fasting if you have some good willpower to make it.

No. 240428

SoCal. Between the 9 "founder" siblings, one died as a baby, two physically cant have kids, so 6 of them had 50 kids over 25 years. they have as many as possible starting at age 17 (abortions and condoms are never an option). I'm worried about all of them because they dont have any chance to enter society or have a normal life or enjoy the world outside of the internet.

I don't want them to end up like me and the rest of the first batch of kids, in our 20s and mostly still stuck here (only 3 have gotten out and they were all excommunicated, I havent seen them in years). my childhood was one of the worst cases as my mother is vicious and abused me in every way, but my dad (who would break my bones) was excommunicated after cheating 5 years ago. I'm most worried about my younger sisters who live about 50 miles away, and plan to take them once I get out but I feel like by the time I can it's going to be too late.

my town is a 3 miles walk away on a really busy highway. the closest shelters are in LA 30 miles away, but they're notorious for being horribly crowded and dangerous. the law didn't give a shit about me. the CPS respondent laughed on the phone while I was crying and begging for help, the cops were mad I wasted their time, the social worker came in my room, saw me starving with no furniture or electronics and limping on one broken leg that I tied up with socks, and told me to deal with it. Trying to get legal help is useless AND I will never see any of them again after getting excommunicated.

No. 240429

90-110g at 50kg

It wouldn't be an issue at all if I could actually eat. I have a normal appetite when not too stressed or deprrssed, but the smallest shit throws me off and I just can't eat without feeling like I'll throw up

No. 240431

It's awful that no one, that should have legally helped you, did a thing.
I was thinking more on the terms of nonprofits, those might be more reliable, heck even a church if you can find one with a trust worthy community. But I can understand if you want to avoid religious organizations considering your situation.
Do people couch surf near there? It might be a way to at least get some contacts on the outside, even future allies.

Best of luck anon, you are a survivor.

No. 240435

thank you anon. i will research that, i dont have any problem with religions that arent absolutely bananas.

No. 240440

I feel so weird cause I really feel like I'm in love with my BF but he has borderline and I'm just v scared he won't or can't ever really return it for me and it makes me not want to allow myself to love him, but when we're together or when he's being sweet to me it's just this overwhelming feeling or love and it drives me crazy I can't just look into his mind and see if he's feeling it too. I hate that I can't just go with the flow or tone myself back. I hate that I'm venting this here too I just it's just on my mind so much and I don't have anyone I can talk to about it

No. 240479

having borderline doesn't mean they can't love. it just means 9/10 times they don't.

No. 240489

It’s bad atm b cause my SIL I’m pregnant with the first grandchild of the family and I’m pretty close with her and my MIL. We’re all crafty and making itty bitty booties and blankets and I’m a hormonal wreck.

She’s not even happy about it and I keep getting weird because it’s like no no you should spend this time learning about Piaget and nappy changing and basic baby stuff. I’m qualified as a daycare teacher and social worker and acted in the role of my nieces dad because he was a junkie shit, so forgive the humblebrag but I’m great at babies. Ive been with them for 12 years. I resent her for not giving a shit about how to burp a gassy baby or how to offer options to toddlers that don’t become a tantrum. I feel like you should want to know that stuff if you’re having a baby.

No. 240510

i hate my life and i think about killing myself everyday. i know people have it worse and endure much greater hardships, but i just am so malcontent with everything about my life.

i live with my unemployed and depressed boyfriend who does nothing but play video games and sleep all day. i lost most of my friends to live with him and moved thousands of miles away from my family. i’ve gained 80 lbs since starting my relationship with him. it’s my fault but i won’t lie and say his constant rejections of my sexual advances (since four months into our relationship(!)) hasn’t played a part. i just quit my miserable retail job that i only took so i could pay the rent for the both of us. i haven’t been able to get a job relevant to my degree (in a STEM field to boot) because of its weird niche applicability. sometimes i think i love him, and that’s why i stay but… this isn’t the life i want. however, everything will be for naught if i leave him, so i’ll stay like the idiot i am and remain miserable. i keep feeling like the only way out of this stupid position i’ve gotten myself in is to just die. i know i sound like a dramatic teenager, but it is what it is.

i relapsed for the first time in 10+ years and had a self harming episode several months ago. this was after i did some snooping and realized he kept checking up on hot girls’ facebook photos and IGs from his home town. i haven’t self harmed since then, but i keep having intrusive thoughts. i don’t really think about how he looked at their photos anymore, but there is a strange compulsion in the back of the mind to just pick up a kitchen knife and slit my wrists ever since then.

i don’t know why i don’t just have the balls to pick up and leave. i’ve technically done it once before, and we went back to being a long distance relationship for a few months. i ended up coming back, “closing the distance,” just to be in this situation. i do care about him and don’t want to hurt him, so i’ll probably end up just continuing to hurt myself like a fool.

No. 240514

I still think about and have a lot of sex dreams about an ex hook up. We would have super intense bdsm sessions and he would never provide any aftercare for me. He would just finish, call an uber, and send me on my way. It still hurts to think about because I did have feelings for him although I realize now it was only because the intense dynamic of a D/s relationship. I don't know why he's still on my mind because I've been in a committed relationship for 3 years now. He is a piece of shit and I really want to get him out of my head.

No. 240517

Oh anon. Have you tried talking to him? I know it might sound like condescending advice, but my SO was miserable to the point of suicidal two years ago because I was a shit girlfriend for pretty much the same reasons your boyfriend is. He had a very serious meltdown where he made it clear how my shittiness was destroying him, so I got myself mostly together and now he's super happy and we ended up getting married. Sometimes the person just needs a wake up call to how much they're fucking you up.

And if that wake up call doesn't happen… stop wasting your time and drop him before it's too late.

No. 240549

well now you will get banned from lolcow altogether you moron

No. 240554

how about you leave women alone you freak? go back to /r9k/, literally no one wants you here

No. 240559

>hurr durr I'm a dude
No one cares faggot, saged.

No. 240561

Read about complex ptsd anon. Trauma takes time.
Also, fuck that asshole.

No. 240562

Who are you replying to?

No. 240564

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because girls who think you are a nuisance are all lonely whales kek

No. 240569

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tfw the only way you can get female attention is by provoking girls on imageboards kek. You must think this website is full of lonely cuties begging to suck on your micro penis

No. 240576

are you retarded? 95% of girls here have a boyfriend (or gf)

No. 240577

For fuck sake, stop feeding the narc.
Report and sage.

No. 240580

>3.5d Male posters: Do not announce your gender or post in a "male here" way. Don't post simply to point out if you're attracted to the subject or not. Nobody cares about your preferences.

No. 240582

just fill sage in email once.. you don't need to write it again

No. 240587

Take the 2009 tier bump it out your hair

No. 240588

eliott rodgers has risen from the dead kek

No. 240592

I wanna sugar mama you whats your discord

No. 240593

I can't believe you guys are engaging it.

No. 240595

I have a question… I've been bullied hardcore from 12 to 15 and now at 19 i get called pretty a lot and have a lovely boyfriend. I still feel fugly though ): Is it possible that your face goes from ugly to pretty in puberty? I also take care of myself much better

No. 240617

>Is it possible that your face goes from ugly to pretty in puberty?

Of course anon. Think about what you're asking ffs. Going through puberty is like when caterpillars go through that weird melting phase in the coccoon before transforming. Your face is under construction and wierd and if you do look cute you're just lucky. Ugliness isn't some inherent quality, just a result of your individual features and how they go together, so when puberty jumbles up and resizes them, of course you can come out prettier or uglier or just different. And despite society's youth obsession, conventional attractive features are based on attractive adults. There are many features that are coveted in adults but would look weird and out of place on a child, making for an ugly kid.

No. 240618

Yes plenty of awkward looking people grow into their face at puberty, I personally only started looking "beautiful" at 23+ yrs old. 0n the other end a lot of very cute childs and teens end up looking dull or weird.

No. 240631

Maybe you're never been ugly and they just said stuff like that to hurt you, anon …

No. 240641

It's not possible. You just stole the body of a deceased model and gonna turn back to your true self at 40.

No. 240656

I can't believe you had to go through that. Utterly disgusting that a social worker and others treated you like that when you were desperate. I'm on the other coast but I do know some people in SoCal…
I assume you're worried about your sisters because they're with your father?

No. 240682

Is it just me or the amount of bitter and hateful people tripled in last two months here?

No. 240684

It's mostly robots trying to stir shit up recently. But I agree somewhat

No. 240719

Shitty patients are the worst. I also work at a clinic and due to it being spring, all the munchie/spoonie patients are blowing up our lines with 1000000 questions and requests so all the drs and staff are incredibly overworked and the time that could be spent on helping patients who actually need help is cut. They also don't want to come in for an appt, but expect to get treated. So sick of these bullshit patients acting like they're dying when they are perfectly healthy or think the rules don't apply to them.

No. 240721

They aren't perfectly healthy though, they are mentally ill. Someone needs to invent a psych ward dressed up as a 'unexplainable conditions' ward

No. 240730

After years and years of my twenties trying to do modeling and acting and not really able to break in a meaningful way, I finally decided to be realistic and accept that while I'm pretty I'm not photogenic and to just keep the good memories, and focus on doing what I'm good at. Then all of a sudden, I gained a little bit of clout in with some friends in nightlife and fashion and I'm getting offered opportunities to model and just recently got asked to play the female lead in a kind of high budget music video.

The problem is I'm old enough to the point where my looks are starting to age, and it shows on camera way more then irl. I have bags under my eyes that look"cute" irl but horrible on camera if the light isn't perfectly even , the beginnings of crows feet around my eyes when I smile, severely flared front teeth because my wisdom teeth are growing out. It kills me to know I actually have good genetics which are finally starting to come out and a great metabolism but I need that shit corrected which isn't even that much cosmetic enhancement. But I can't come close to afford it. My parents think this whole thing is a joke. Even to get my teeth fixed, which is actually a health issue (I get food stuck in my teeth constantly because their so spaced apart) I get a ton of shit for being "stupid" and "not having the right priorities".

No. 240731

Lolcow /ot/ and /g/ used to be so comfy not to long ago, now it's badly stressing me out, especially with all the anon obsessed with their appearance, all the thread bashing beautiful women calling them ugly or disgusting, the man hate too. I should probably step back for a little while.

No. 240732

same, anon. i can detach but its still a bit sad to see a place that used to comfort me decay haha. these days i have most threads here minimised, idk where people find the energy to fight about stupid shit loůl

No. 240734

I've been a neet on and off ever since I turned 16 and i'm 22 now. For the past 3 years I have done absolutely nothing and at this point I don't even know how I would get out of this position I put myself into. At the same time I have everything I need and don't really feel lonely or sad, I just kind of am and every day is the same

No. 240735


Man hate thing came out suddenly too, I mean there was always a robot hate but now it's in every fucking thread.

No. 240739


This is a girl oriented imageboard, one of the kind on the internet and if you read through the man hating thread OP it says it's there for venting about negative experiences with men, it doesn't necessarily mean that everyone hates ALL MEN!!1 I personally had a few struggles at my workplace which is a male dominated field so it's nice to have a dedicated thread to see how I'm not really alone in this. I don't even post there regularly but one would think women should have a place on the internet to vent without men and their handmaidens playing the martyr Olympics.

Out of all things on lolcow, that thread is the least problem that's going on so just minimize it. It certainly doesn't diminish any purported comfiness that you're implying.

What pisses me off to no ends is now there are a bunch of farmers ruining threads by posting in them while being against whatever the idea of the thread was. For example, the losers thread has a bunch of anons with holier than thou attitude and asinine advice like "just use makeup lol". Okay, then don't post at all?

Also, the robot menace can be cured by simply NOT replying to them and banning them on sight.

No. 240745

Why can't we vent without being called handmaiden?

No. 240748

I was obviously referring to handmaidens and robots that go into the man hating thread knowing very well what the OP is about and derail the thread with stale arguments, same thing with the losers thread.

No. 240749

While I agree that a few have mental illness (or could have it and just not be diagnosed yet), the majority of them are not mentally ill and just incredibly entitled and self-important. They also forget to stick to their plan and then get mad that they didn't get the results they wanted.

No. 240765

I went through that exact same spiel not a month ago. I didn't even meet him on 4chan, I met him through a mutual Discord that he is now trying to bully me into leaving. I missed my period for 3 months and lost 5kg due to stress, he called me all sorts of names 'jokingly', would act really shady with his phone and electronics in general, call me his "friend" online, actually said these exact words to me when I had a pregnancy scare and needed to be comforted: "I need to be there to make sure it gets done, but I can't stay to take care of you cause I'm busy (he's a NEET, definitely not busy) and have to go home". Yesterday I saw him post pictures of his dick in 2 separate threads and found him soliciting girls on /soc/ for nudes. Throughout the relationship I've caught him flirting with Asian streamers on Twitch, chatting with some random Korean teenager who was "just a friend" on Snapchat. Whenever I confronted him he called me paranoid, asked if I was PMSing, whenever I told him to treat me better he'd give me the silent treatment, block me and make me apologise and grovel, then "think about it" and leave me hanging. After he broke up he told me how the things I said to him "were very hurtful" (I never said anything that wasn't true) and told me that I'm an adult and I 'chose to be in that relationship so I shouldn't be playing the victim'.
He was an insecure piece of shit through and through, to a point where most of his reddit comments are in the negative as he just can't not be a contrarian asshole for one second.

Anon. Please, please, please drop him. He will continue doing that shit to you because he obviously doesn't have an ounce of remorse in him. He is only ever sorry that he got caught. You keep coming back and he continues to treat you like crap, he can get his rocks off and inflate his ego while also having a steady source of poon so why should he change when he's got it going for him?
Be careful when you date guys on the internet, especially those in 'outcast' communities. At the very least, go on a normie-only diet for a while, talk to some friends, I'd even go so far as to block him and cut off contact without an excuse because he frankly doesn't deserve one. If you want you can drop your discord or a throwaway and we can talk, I'd genuinely like to hear about your experiences.

Sorry for the weird ponctuation btw, I'm ESL and guys like this really butter my baguette.

No. 240782

i feel that way too.

anon i think you misread what anon said, she was saying that anons are more freely talking man-hate in other threads too. like in the anti-kpop thread someone keeps trying to focus the thread on hating men and it's getting fucking annoying. i come here to get away from men i don't want to hear about how much people hate them in every thread.

No. 240789

What? I never noticed how anybody in the kpop thread complains against men, just that old fans fawning over minors is creppy af

No. 240811

nah there were a few anons who did and got dogpiled to stfu. saying shit like "men only want x" and even earlier claiming japan and korea are just 100% pedos and sperging out.

No. 240823

There's a friend of mine who is very attention seeking and fishes for compliments and I want to cut her out of my life but she's well loved by the friends I do want to keep and it's driving me nuts because I have to wait for her to fuck up in front everyone before they'll finally see she's selfish and childish.

No. 240825

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Fuck off you stinky ex. Finding my Tumblr, liking one of my selfies I posted on there, and then having the audacity to follow me on there as a sick April Fool's joke sickens me. I have you blocked on everywhere for a reason- sure, you have a flourishing stupid Facebook shitposting page and a lot of people are your "fans", but they'll never experience the horrors I went through when I dated you for five years. All of the gaslighting, the verbal abuse, and shitty things you put me through. I'll never fucking forgive you and sure, people fucking love you and people see me as a vile whore but I don't give a shit anymore. Someday people will see the truth of how much of a cold-hearted narcissist you are that only cares about leeching off from others.

Go fuck yourself.

Anyways, I'm just annoyed. I just want to pass my classes this semester, be able to graduate from college and find a decent job and continue my education. I have so much shit I want to do, but my anxiety/depression ghosts from the pasts keep haunting me and I'm fucking tired. I'm fed of life in general overwhelming me. I suffer from anxiety and depression but I have a string of bad luck when it comes to finding decent mental health professionals. Fuck man. I just want to live a comfy life where I can pursue my hobbies. I don't ask for much, but I feel like I am. I'm a mess right now and I just want people to move on, and to forget about me. I just want to pursue what I love. I get it, I was a shitty person but to harass me over months when I'm trying to keep myself private? It's both aggrandizing and tiring. I fear I may be some narcissist too, but I try to reassure myself that I was just a fucking doormat. I don't fucking know anymore I'm tired. I just want some clarity and structure in my life where I feel fulfilled. I just want to live a new life and not be fucking anxious about people judging me for my past when I'm trying hard to grow here.

No. 240829


1) Consider staying off tumblr and facebook. Seeing that seems to make you feel really shitty. Can you unplug for a bit and take a sociala media break?
2) Most people who wonder about being narcissists don't really turn out to be narcissists. Those who always blame others are much more likely. But-
3) If you're worried, go get some professional help. Talk about what you experienced and how you're stressed out/what bothers you.

If your healthcare doesn't cover it:

4) start a document to write down:
X happened
I had Y feelings about it
It might have Z consequences
I could consider doing S about it
*additionally anything that might help. It's not only good for showing it to your therapist, it's also good to write it down so it doesn't spiral through your head. Proverbially get it off your chest.

5) Meditation. Sounds fucking stupid, but try and download an app. There are guided meditations for resolving panic attacks, anxiety and sleeping issues.

You sound like you don't want to be in this situation any more. Those are some of your options.

No. 240831

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I appreciate the advice, thank you. But how do I stop giving a fuck when these people are trying to annoy me when it finally seems like I'm gaining momentum into trying to have a decent life again? Maybe I'm just being hypersensitive as fuck, but I don't know. I just hope in time they'll get bored and leave me alone.

I agree on the social media stuff, but I pretty much rarely post on it anyways. I just got really aggravated over my ex doing that. But I can see how keeping social media can be a burden on the time being. But for some reason, I just want to keep a Tumblr for when I post my art and stuff like that.

But either way, I'll look into those options.

No. 240841

The best way to stop giving a fuck is to realize your time is better off elsewhere. It doesn't matter what it is, just doing something else and not caring or at least showing that you don't is enough to get you going. Fake it till you make it.

Also as a bonus if these are the types of people who want to see you giving a fuck about them this is a good way to piss them off because all they'll see you doing is basically getting your shit done/doing fine and thats enough to snub'm with.

No. 240842

>on a 13 hour long bus trip because all plane tickets were sold out
>Sleepy as hell and can't sleep because I'm panicking like a mofo from anxiety
>still have 7 hours to hs

No. 240861

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Met a guy a little while ago and we hit it off but we're both pretty shy (and I am a pussy and couldn't tell if he was interested) so nothing much happened. Now I know from mutual friends that he's interested, and recently we've been talking a lot, but there's less than two weeks left until school ends and we both leave for summer jobs in different parts of the country, him without cell service most of the time. Shit hurts, do I go for it anyways?

No. 240868

If you can do long distance/minimal contact then yes. If you can't or be too busy at the time then no.

Basically if you think it won't work out it probably won't. Hope you can manage it tho.

No. 240891

One of my "friend" keep telling people I've never met that I stole 5 euros from him and that I'm a kleptomaniac, Idek wtf is his problem.

No. 240898

The only thing that motivates me is the fantasies I make up in my mind.
The only thing I ever look forward to are the times I can be alone in the house without my bf around so I can listen to music and fantasize about my fav characters from whatever series I'm into at the time.

I love my bf, I really do… but I almost feel like I love my "alone time" more. Like I'd prefer to be in my own ridiculous fantasy world where I can impress the people that I look up to, etc.

No. 240907

Don't discourage him but do not encourage either. This way, if you're both still in the mood you can try again when you're back. But getting into something vague that'll hold you back and maybe fall apart because of limited contact isn't worth it. Who knows, maybe you'll meet someone great at your summer job.

No. 240935

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My co-workers always think that my office is a fucking free space for their shit. We have an employee leaving to go to a different company and one of the fuckheads decided to put her going away gift in my office and told everyone to go in there to sign it. He did this while I was out so I've had people coming in and out of my office, even though it's supposed to be locked.

Fuck you guys. I may not get paid as much as you but I have a lot of sensitive financial and HR related documents in my office. Granted, it's all in locked cabinets but I just don't feel comfortable having people coming in and out when I'm not around.

No. 240950

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I got invited to a company dinner as an honor for being a top sales employee. It's coming soon, so I scheduled an appointment with my dermatologist for a short antibiotic regimen to clear up my acne. Because who wants to look like shit in front of an international company banquet?

After two days, boom, clear skin. I'm not even washing my face like I usually would and I'm still not breaking out.
I've been on this antibiotic before and the good results lasted only as long as I was taking it. It sucks and makes me angry that I'm gonna go back to shit skin as soon as I stop, since being on antibiotics long term isn't safe.

For now I'm just enjoying the clear skin like how normies must enjoy theirs ie. not having to be as strict about my washing and skin treatments. Feels good to have no unfair consequences!

No. 240967

thanks for the advice anons, you're sweet. I think I'll keep talking with him because I at least enjoy being friends, but hold off pursuing anything romantic just yet. I'll see if we're both still interested by the time september rolls around.

No. 240969

My boyfriend is really pushing my patience to an extreme level.
He gets emotional and spergs out whenever we discuss my past, especially when it's my sexual past (which he usually brings up or gets sulky about).
I refused to tell him the number of people I slept with because I've had boyfriends who eternally tormented with me that information (regardless of how many people it actually was) and just because I don't feel like I need to share that information.
It doesn't bring anything positive to the relationship or make it stronger, and I have no diseases or issues.
Does your partner really have a right to know the extreme specifics about your sexual history? It's not like I haven't talked about my relationships before, so this dogmatic attempt at getting a specific number just seems like another bullshit shaming setup.

No. 240970

Basically it is, its normal to wonder about that for a partner but if you already explained and there is no room for concern then its your biz what you want to share further. He's clearly insecure and rather than face that is trying to gauge a number out of you so he can take that insecurity out on you.

I'd honestly dump him if I were you, this type of behavior isn't likely to change.

No. 240971

Have you asked him WHY it's so important for him to know? What relevance/significance this will have in your relationship? If he can give you a good answer, you can always consider telling him. If not, it ain't any of his business.

No. 240972

I wish I didn't have to do that but I always lie about my sexual past, only because if you admit to having done something they'll feel entitled to it and they will hold your body count over your head. Once I told a guy that I had anal sex before and enjoyed it, a few days laters he tried to stick his dick in my dry butthole without even asking because "I wanted to surprise you since you said you liked it!!!" of course I didn't want to have dry anal sex and I was really turned off, he acted like I didn't saw him as a real man and like I liked my ex better.

No. 240974

Depends on how long they've been together IMO. If it's less than a year, dumping. If it's like four years then I wouldn't say that so hastily since they have history/a life together.

Oh God, that's disgusting, what a dick. I can't imagine what I'd do if my partner pulled that. My first boyfriend did some fucked up shit I was too young to really protest and stuff like that would freak me out so hard. I'm so sorry. Is he out of your life now?

No. 240978

don't know your situation but this is how I felt back when I was at my most depressed. Hang in there anon, I hope you can realize real life has good things to offer too.

No. 240979

Yes he is out of my life now, and as you said I was so young I didn't know how to stand up for myself, I don't think I even realized how wrong it was back then.

No. 240981

I mean yeah, I'd want to know how many girls my boyfriend has been with. I don't want anyone giving me STDs or cheating on me when they get bored just because they have a high libido, and the length of relationships they've been in tells me a lot about them as a romantic partner.
Why not just tell him and dump him if he starts acting out? I mean it's not like it's any different for you now, at least then there'd be a possibility of him shutting up about it.

If a partner wasn't open about it with me I'd see it as a red flag. Both good relationships I've been in were always based on honesty, followed by trust, whereas if you just insist someone trust you from very early on just because you're officially dating, there's nothing to base that trust on. I've had boyfriends get pissy when I asked them what they jack off to (because I wanted to make it better for them in bed, silly me) and say it's none of my business. That kind of behavior is kinda childish and implies you've got something to hide.

No. 240984

She already told him about some of her previous partners and has stated being clean and such. It just sounds to me he's being insecure and will likely hold whatever else she tells him over her head so I'd be really careful to tell him any further.

No. 241006

He pretty much just said because he's my partner and he has a right to know. He completely dodged my question about what the benefit telling him would be (beyond indulging himself in his own satisfaction about his insecurities and view of me).
Pretty much. He knows my past was shitty and I've had abusive boyfriends, so honestly it's hilarious to me that he's really making a big deal out of this, because this is exactly what my exes did. He's already had a hard time dealing with some of the stuff I've told him and considers it slutty behavior, but because he loves me and wants to be with me he says he won't judge me or hold it against me.

Reading this over just makes his behaviour seem more and more manipulative, lol.

Fuck it just makes me so mad. I'm just tired of being judged or evaluated to his standards which are clearly different than mine (he was a virgin/is much younger than me). I'm not saying I should never be judged for my actions, but it's shit in the past that I can't do anything about anymore; why isn't there more of a focus on the present relationship and actions…

No. 241007

I know some people don't like hearing it but if you really can't get him to back off or even able to have a conversation without it turning circular then you really should consider breaking up.

No. 241010

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Yeah, it's a definite possibility.
He basically said because I couldn't tell him something "this small" he couldn't trust me, and subsequently blocked me on the apps we use to communicate.

I dunno, it's just a weird situation right now. I'm going to graduate soon and I sold my car/all of my possessions to go and live with him in about a month. I feel kind of cheated he hasn't been able to let this kind of shit go after everything I've done for the relationship lol.

Sorry for multiposting. Here's hoping to a positive outcome to this LOL

No. 241023


Since he's younger I'm assuming he's had less sexual partners? The fact that you were "slutty" with abusive partners could make him insecure of being potentially abusive or demanding or just uncomfortable in general

No. 241035

I'm biologically female but I can't stand the shame I feel in my "boyish" body to the extent where I feel like I'm feeling something similar to what MtF trans must feel. I WANT to look female on the outside, I want to have curves and feminine features and noticeable breasts. My face is somewhere between androgynous and female but my body feels like a prepubescent female or a 12 year old boy. It drives me to terrible, dark thoughts knowing that puberty has passed and there is probably no hope for me. I feel anger and jealousy when I see women with womanly, feminine bodies to the point where I can't even look at them without getting upset. My thoughts are occupied with this feeling almost 24/7.

No. 241037

get some human growth hormone and estrogen like AV stars do in Japan, then you'll be plenty busty

No. 241039

>subsequently blocked me
>sold my car/all my possessions to go and live with him in a month

It's not looking good Anon. >>240972
>surprise anal sex
I think you have more than enough reason to withhold the information considering how your exes have behaved. If current guy cares about you, why does it matter?

No. 241042

different anon. JAV girls take estrogen? doesn't taking estrogen when you don't need it cause problems.

No. 241044

they take it with HGH so it makes their bodies seem like they're going through puberty again

No. 241048

Wtf, don't do that anon.>>241035
Taking growth hormones and estrogen increases the risk of cancer in the future.
Try some exercizing, the type that shapes the body, and please don't take any crazy prostitute/trans meds.

No. 241050

HGH doesn't actually increase risks of cancer, just taking estrogen alone does. HGH and estrogen are safe and only illegal in america because of the shitty plastic surgery culture here.

No. 241056

Yeah, because risking some more aesthetical fat right now is totally worth having cancerous tits tomorrow.

No. 241061

After coming across a fellow employee's paystubs, I learned that he made $1 more/hour than I do for being in the same position, despite me having more responsibilities, more drive, and more common sense (he's literally been told to ask me questions about shit instead of someone higher up because there's a 90% I have a solution/rationale for it, despite him being there longer).

Unfortunately, how I came across this information was when I stayed over at his apartment with a group of people. Majority of them went out for a liquor run, said coworker got sick and was sleeping in his room, and a girl I just met stayed back and during that time, we were looking for where he kept his PS4 games because we couldn't get anything to load on his console… so we were looking through every cabinet/drawer/whatever to try and find them. One of the drawers I opened was one his girlfriend made of basically every finiancial thing in their life for the past 3+ years, including his paystubs. Fast forward to the morning where I wake up hours before everyone else who stayed over, and I couldn't contain myself and looked through the drawer and found this shit.

So I'm pissed that I know he made more than me in my current position and pissed at myself that the only way I can say anything about this to HR is because I was a nosey Nancy. And don't get me started on the fact he now makes $4/hr more than me with even less responsiblity. He has to be micromanaged by his superiors to get things done and has zero initiative to pick up slack when we're down a person. He'll literally come find me or my manager and say "Hey, we're low on X." instead of taking the same amount of time to just prepare whatever it is himself.

No. 241062

Sue, anon. If you can collect proof that he has been told to ask you for directions, even better.

No. 241063

We have quarterly employee interviews with HR coming up in the next month, so I'm really tempted to bring it up at during that meeting.

No. 241064


If he's been there longer, it makes sense he makes a fraction more. That's usually how it works. Rather than addressing the confidential information you shouldn't know, address his lack of work ethic and his distracting your work. Be tactful but make yourself heard about how he comes to you for a lot of basic shit.

No. 241065

I'm pretty sure this person reads my friend's discord messages and other things when she's not around but I haven't been able to prove it. I feel like she's doing something sneaky but there's no way I can think of finding evidence that doesn't end up making me the bad guy.

I know she's manipulative but I just want to find a way to protect myself and friends somehow.

No. 241067

He was making the $1/hr more when he was first hired on. I made sure to look the dates on the stubs. We have the same educational backgrounds (BS in related science fields, but I come from one with a stronger math background which, incidentally, is something he frequently comes to me to check on, because he's messed up things in the past because he isn't as proficient)

I am really bad at being tactful because I'm mostly a blunt person. I can work around some things, but I have a really hard time with lying.

No. 241068

A lot of time people get paid more at the same company despite doing less. I've heard that the best solution to this problem is to try to get hired somewhere else where you can renegotiate your salary.

No. 241069

Which is why I'm currently looking for other jobs since I now have over a year of experience in the field outside of graduating. I almost had luck at another place (they raved about my resume and the owner liked my interview and personality, but they opted to promote internally instead rip).

No. 241070

she can't sue because that person negotiated higher pay in their job interview and she didn't. She needs to ask for a raise, without saying anything about other people being paid higher

No. 241071

Seconding this, I read an article not too long ago that basically said company loyalty is dead because you're guaranteed to be paid less if you stick with a single one. As opposed to finding a new job every few years and negotiating your pay raise subtly when you switch, and go with the highest pay you had last as the start negotiation.

No. 241072

this. anon is just pissed cause it's a dude. i started making $5 more than my peers at a job before cause i negotiated it up, but i didn't realize it till a coworker and i were talking about pay and she got super salty at me. people need to start doing more for themselves instead of complaining about others doing so.

No. 241073

I actually already asked for raise last year when I got signed off on training for one of our major tests and was told that raises are mainly done at the start of the year… guess what didn't happen when January rolled around lol.

It sucks because I started on as an internship through the college I graduated from and got moved up. And with internships you were only allowed to be paid x amount to begin with.


I really do ask about any chance I get with HR. We get inconsistent bonuses, which are nice, but I would rather have a solid financial situation to build off of than hit-or-miss shit.

…is it bad to throw this fact the my coworker is a minority in the fact that he's a minority in both race AND gender? Would that have anything to do with it?

No. 241075

>he is a minority in gender
how can that be? unless… anon if your coworker is some kind of transbomination i suggest you call the whole thing off because your company is paying them more solely due to blackmail by the current climate

No. 241076

I'm in this weird situation where my mildly drunken rants get responded to, but they also give good advice. So thanks you guys! <3
(and I mean this in a sincere way. The advice my parents gave was basically to be confrontational about the situation because they've heard me complain about said coworker not stepping up in the past and hey— you guys have, too. I'm just hella salty because I really do try to be the best employee I can be. He's always 10-30 minutes late while I'm there 5+ minutes before the work day starts.

He's latino/male. I'm white/female. There's only one other latinx on the workforce and 2 other guys in our building. Like, I know the gender thing is surprising because where we work is a STEM-related field, but outside of the VP and our head mechanic/maintenance worker, he's the only other guy.
(I hope you don't think this is a quick reply; I had been typing up my other post when you responded lol)

No. 241078

Like, I really do appreciate all of the advice I'm getting on this thread and I hope that maybe other farmers could get use from it as well <3

No. 241122

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Apparently, me using using or eating my sisters' stuff is bad, but them borrowing my stuff without my permission, destroying it and deleting stuff that I paid REAL MONEY for is ok. I didn't sync any of the apps I paid money for (like a dumbass). So I lost 51 dollars because my sister dropped her phone in the toliet. It's not your tablet, it's not "our" tablet. It's our grandmother's and I just happen to use it. I never said it was mine. And you aren't entitled to shit. Fuck you hoe give me my fucking money back.

My little sister put a virus or some shit on my laptop and it was SO SLOW that I could barely use it. What the fuck type of website are you going on for this to happen? I only go on like 10 sites max nowadays and I'm mostly on Youtube. I'm spending time trying to clean it instead of doing my work.

My little brother is a cunt who made me late to class because he let our puppies loose and one got stolen the day before because of him.

Thanks guys.

No. 241124

Sounds like they're being brats. DW, soon you'll be able to leave and live by yourself. At that age they won't listen to any reason, especially if their sibling tells them.

No. 241126

you need to be 18+ to use this website.

No. 241127

Holy shit anon. I know how you feel, I have three sisters and two of them wouldn't stop breaking, stealing and damaging my stuff for years. I lost so much money because of them. They kind of stopped being reckless with my things that they're not even allowed to touch because I decided to remind them everyday that they should give me back my money or replace my consoles (among other things) and it legit offended them.

No. 241133

I'm 19 years old you fucking retard.

No. 241135

well you sound 12. go bitch somewhere else about how your sister fucked with your shit on your grandma's property. it's your own damn fault.

No. 241136

also, you clearly didn't buy your own shit so fucking sit down.

No. 241142

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Nigger this is the fucking VENT thread, where the fuck else do you want her to go?
Fuck off with your shitty backseat modding.

No. 241143

Not that anon but
>not nigga
How very edgy of you anon.

No. 241146

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>>241135 >>241136

So it's ok to gatekeep someone else's property and take people's stuff while getting mad at others for doing the same thing. Got it. Thank you for your helpful advice. I really learned alot from this.


And by the way everything I have I bought it with money I earned. You're making alot of assumptions about me you look like an idiot trying to defend someone you don't even know.

My sister has beaten me and called me autistic and verbally abused me everyother day after coming back from college. I had to jump through hoops to earn a scholarship while she just got it for having a high GPA and she thinks that she deserves everything everyone else has because she grew graduated from college. She haven't been through shit. She thinks that she had suffered because someone said something nasty to her. She never had to work to get what you had. Someone GAVE her a $3000 a month job and she quit it just to hang out with some hood nigga that didn't want her. She can't take opinions and berates anyone who gives her the slightest bit of critism. She takes about wanting me to "grow up" and "live and the real world" honey people kissing your fucking ass isn't realistic and people aren't going to bow down to you just because you exist.

I'm the fucking bad guy because I was calling her out for being a hypocrite and an asshole?

"You sound like you're 12"

And you sound like a cunt. Good bye.

No. 241147


No. 241149

* she never had to work to get what she had.

I messed up left left and right. I hate having big hands and fingers.

No. 241153

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Does anyone else find the concept of moving on unfortunate? That all the time you've spent with someone, all the memories, the connections you've built, all the feelings you've associated with a person could be undone and forgotten in just a matter of time? That you'll become nothing but a forgotten memory? And that the only thing you have to remember someone is increasingly unreliable, stale memories? It's so sad.

No. 241158

That's not moving on, that's hiding and running away from your past. I get if they delete your photos out of respect for their new SO but if they straight up pretend you never happened that's either guilt or them hiding something.

Besides, moving on isn't just that, it's also a learning experience, and you get to keep all the things they taught you, showed you, places they took you, gifts they gave you etc.

No. 241161

yeah when you've actually moved on you CAN look back at the good memories fondly and recognize what the person meant to you without wishing you were back together. If it hurts to even remember the positive aspects you haven't moved on yet.

No. 241162

Anon, I'm talking about how imperfect our minds are in general (not exclusively talking about break ups) and how tragic it is that time can easily undo so many things. I don't see how that's "hiding or running away" from anything but it seems like a hard fact of life that I'm trying to come to terms with.

>Besides, moving on isn't just that, it's also a learning experience, and you get to keep all the things they taught you, showed you, places they took you, gifts they gave you etc.

Definitely. I'm still trying to figure out and understand what exactly I've learned myself these past couple of months but I can't put it into concise words yet. Maybe I am running away from in-depth reflection because it hurts.

No. 241163

come back when you grow up.

No. 241164

>dat wall of text
Jesus anon, get a hold of yourself.

No. 241166

>my sister got a scholarship cause she had good grades
>but i'm a fucking mess so i had to try really hard

lmao anon stop being so fucking salty. go work on your grades instead of bitching about nothing.

No. 241174


So wait, you're upset because your sister was using something that's not even yours? I mean I get the laptop thing but the tablet, you say it's not even yours, and why are you spending $ on a game when you clearly should buy your own things?

Not even going to touch the 2nd post…You seriously sound just as bad as you're making her seem.

No. 241179

>I'm still trying to figure out and understand what exactly I've learned myself these past couple of months but I can't put it into concise words yet. Maybe I am running away from in-depth reflection because it hurts.
You might still be healing, despite however many months later. And you don't just "get" it all right away either. I still sometimes happen upon realizations of how much I've grown from my even my first ex because situations present themselves in time.

>imperfect our minds are in general (not exclusively talking about break ups) and how tragic it is that time can easily undo so many things

Eventually forgetting the details of something isn't an imperfect process imo. For every good thing that it hurts to forget details of, there's a thousand bad, annoying, and inconsequential things that we would also vividly remember. No matter how much I loved a person or relationship, I wouldn't want it's memory to be a constant shadow over my life either.

No. 241325

I've been diagnosed with anxiety but wondering if I have some kind of paranoid issue or if it is just part of having anxiety. Today I've been awake for 3 hours and already worried about the possibility of my phone never turning back on when it ran out of charge, concerned that I have cancer for little to no reason and convincing myself someone has tried to push a bomb through my letterbox and refusing to touch the mail. These things all worried me to the point where I had to get back into bed and try to clear myself of all thoughts to forget. I'm aware that all of this is insane and I feel like it has to be something deeper than anxiety.

No. 241361

I have to go to a job fair tomorrow and honestly I'm depressed as shit and don't want to. I've been looking for a job for almost 5 months now and had like 10 interviews and testings. I'm tired of getting rejected or not getting an answer.

I hope I'll be able to shake off that bad feeling so I don't end up sitting outside like a loser

No. 241364

How do you make friends ffs? Before I used the interest guys had in me but I've been in a relationship for a long and realize how shitty this is.
I go to class but I rarely meet new people and have no idea how to. I feel fucking lonely and like a failure.

No. 241368

Have you asked a professional? I have severe anxiety and I don't get paranoid about stuff that have a really low chance of happening.

No. 241386

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My Japanese snack/gacha order came in the mail yesterday.

I binge ate all my snacks.
Three different squid snacks, three different fried/dried snacks, some Meltykiss chocolates, a curry, soy jerky, one bad melon pan, a Cheeza bag, and a couple candy kits.

Only the half eaten box of Meltykiss, a curry, a candy box, and a Cheeza remain.

No. 241391

Can I be your tomodachi so you share the snaku with me? It'll help you halve your binge intake :3

No. 241408

The tomato I was planting on my balcony fell off.
Sorry I couldn't protect you.

RIP tomato plant 04/01/18 - 04/11/18

No. 241413

>Only the half eaten box of Meltykiss, a curry, a candy box, and a Cheeza remain.
I'm glad you added this bit, I thought you had eaten the curry straight for a second.

You sound cool, anon, would pool snacks and binge together/10.

No. 241471

It's probably anxiety. It really manifests in different ways for different people. And paranoid people people usually don't question if they're paranoid too much. That being said, you'd be doing yourself a disservice to not bring up your thoughts about this to whoever diagnosed you, or whoever you're seeing for help.

No. 241475

I feel like the stupidest person alive. I'm aware that I'm in an unhealthy relationship where I'm neglected, insulted, constantly being spited, feelings disregarded or made fun of, made to feel uncared for and I cry over it every day yet I stay.

Once I packed up the shreds of self love I had and discarded my feelings for him completely and left. He pestered me constantly until I believed he really must care and returned and now things are worse than ever on a daily basis and I'm stuck here mentally because I developed feelings again.

Why is it so hard? Why can't I leave? I ask myself these questions every day and the same happy, old memories replay in my head. Nothing like how it is today.

No. 241477

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>having a jolly good time playing games with oneitis
>he mentions anything even vaguely related to his own crushes or exes
>instantly spiral from feeling a sense of contentment or even happiness into a full on suicidal episode that leaves me crying and ruminating on how much of a disgusting failure I am until at least 4 AM
every fucking time

No. 241482

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Anytime, anons! If teleportation were real I'd suck in my fat rolls just so you'd both have some space on my sofa to partake in the greasy chinese delivery binge I'm bout to have as well <3

No. 241485

got a call from my dr after some ultrasounds on my thyroid and remaining ovary. said she needed to see me asap to discuss the results. i can't deal with having cancer for the second time… this is so fucking tiring. i feel so sick thinking about it.

No. 241486

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>tfw know that feel
Goddamn it hurts. I recommend you find someone else to crush on so you don't prolong your suffering any further.

No. 241488

My allergies are killing me, and I feel like it's going to fuck up my finals. Is there anything I can do? I've already tried taking claritin.

No. 241490


If you’re suicidal cause a guy doesn’t romantically like you, you need therapy anon. That’s not normal or healthy.

No. 241497

Air purifier helped me a lot

No. 241499


Been there, done that. The guy I was in love with felt the need to tell me how much of a hero he is for 'censoring himself' in order to spare my feelings. He still felt the need to tell me that some random girl met on OKCupid is hot as a first thing about her.
Taking into account he was a thirsty AF bedbound NEET (due to permanent illness), I wonder how he is doing.
We have ended our friendship on a bad note, as I was going crazy with how he was treating me (I love you! I mean, as a friend… but I would like to fuck you, no attachments necessary… and also fuck every other girl who will let me…I will use you to vent about that hawt OKCupid thot that does not give a fuck about my loneliness and uses me emotionally). He ended up cutting all contact with me as the friendship went toxic. Note that he dropped me only once he found a suitable replacement. lol
While thanks to him first treating me like shit and than losing him, I found my bf… it was cruel how he cut me off knowing that I was full-blown suicidal at the moment.

Some people have different priorities than you, anon. It might not be healthy, but if you are lonely as fuck and have been for your whole life it hurts like a bitch when the thing you want the most might never be yours. Some people need to love and be loved (romantically) to be truly happy. If you are already low and depressed (which anon probably is), a reminder of your loneliness in form of rejection is like a bullet wound.

No. 241525


>Some people have different priorities than you, anon. It might not be healthy, but if you are lonely as fuck and have been for your whole life it hurts like a bitch when the thing you want the most might never be yours. Some people need to love and be loved (romantically) to be truly happy. If you are already low and depressed (which anon probably is), a reminder of your loneliness in form of rejection is like a bullet wound.

I'm not trying to judge OP. But it is really not healthy to rely on romantic love that much, to the point of feeling suicidal without it. I get that it hurts, but its scary and dangerous to be that wrapped up in one person.

I can't really relate to the loneliness aspect because I was in a relationship from 14 to 21. But I definitely get being so wrapped up in a person you feel as though you can't breathe without them. After that relationship ended, I focused on my self and self-improvement, I made a shit ton of friends, and tbh I felt really free. I subscribe to the cliche "you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else." My relationship wasn't as healthy or fulfilling as it could have been because neither of us had learned to be happy on our own or to love ourselves first. I don't feel lonely being single, now, I feel independent and liberated. I get everyone is different, but its always good to re-frame your situation and to find human connections outside of that one romantic obsession.

I don't say "get therapy" as an insult, I genuinely think that you should get professional help if another person has the power to make you seriously consider suicide.

Also check out "limerence." Reading other people's experiences and how they cope with that intense form of love/lust can be helpful.

No. 241531

(I excuse in advance for my shitty english, not a native)

Since I was 8, I knew this friends, let's call her Vanessa.
Vanessa and I grew in the same little town in the countryside, aways from our country's capital and shared (and still share!) common interests.
We didn't have friends outside of us two.
Eight years ago I knew people online and we talked and talked and talked until five years ago, they moved in our capital.
I decided to risk it, one day, and tried to met them.
They're my friends now and I love them very much!! And they love me! When I'm with them I feel so happy and I cannot describe my feelings but they're really the best.

Back to Vanessa, when I go to the capital to meet my friends, she throws a issy fit because "YOU NEVER INVITE ME!!"
I don't invite her because

1) I know she's a socially awkward mess who just greets people and stays on her phone
2) She would drag me time from time to speak only to me because "I'm shy!!" and honestly I don't need that kind of stress.

When I told her I lost my virginity, that thing became a fucking race and since then she ALWAYS says that she cannot stand being a virgin at 22.
I told her "The friends that you have online, just meet them! They're not far! They're in the same city as mine! Maybe you'll find your future boyfriend in them :)"
"B-but I'm shy ;_;"
Ok then…

A couple years later, I found my boyfriend (before I had some love-problems so i never got with no one, only sexual relationships) and she became livid with rage because
"….You just go out and met people?"
Ok then x2
(Keep in mind, I'm shy too, but sometimes I suck up my shyness to try to have relationships)

I really want her to get a normal life with friends and maybe a boyfriend too, so we can relate better to our "adult life" but at the same time I'm fucking mad because I don't want and can't babysit her.

Talk to people, met up, download tinder, jesus christ.

No. 241535

I have a feeling your friend is a closeted, or in denial, lesbian that's harboring a secret crush on you for years anon.
Good luck remaining friends with that one.

No. 241537

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I know the term limerence and have experienced it in the past. However 'loving yourself' is not an answer to everyone. I was feeling like a piece of shit when I was alone despite ~loving myself~, meeting friends and the like. It just felt like the most important part of my life is tragically missing. I was not even pining on a specific person.
Yes, it's not healthy to get wrapped up in another person before you know who you are and what you want, but some people DO need happy romantic relationship to flourish.
I'm so tired of current culture pushing the 'alone you should feel as happy as with a loving partner!' bullshit (understood literally). No matter how much you accept yourself (a much better term than love, IMHO), we are wired to need companionship.
It's like… yes, you can still have fun, play video games and go shopping, but imagine how amazing all that would be if you had someone to share it with. Someone to hug you once you come home and interested in hearing how your day went.

Pick related made me feel so validated about my priorities.
I recommend this book, it's very helpful in finding someone right for you and accepting yourself.

No. 241542

Shit, anon. I hope you'll be okay. Stay strong and go that doc appointment asap. Maybe it's nothing too worrying but the sooner you find out the better.

No. 241545

Slavs are fucking trash

No. 241546

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I've been channeling a lot of my energy into making hats recently, since I lost my job and have had a ton of free time. I posted a story on insta showing my work in progress and a guy who ghosted me after I spent almost 1k to travel to see him for New Years texted me this out of nowhere. Learning millinery has been keeping me occupied when I'm at a very low point in my life and I'm so upset that someone who mistreated me would criticize this creative outlet.

No. 241548

What a dirtbag, that guy types like he's a mentally chalenged robot.
You deserve way better anon, just block the dick, no need to read dumb shit when you are already feeling blue.

No. 241549

Also, keep learning millinery.
I'm sure you'll be making amazing hats in no time and also get an awesome new job.

No. 241550

What the fuck? Why are you allowing this bastard to talk to you? He would've been outta my life after $1000 of my dollars went down the tube.

Despite what your hats are/aren't, this is a classic case of negging. I'd ignore him from now on.

No. 241551

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Ty! I definitely plan to keep at it, it's just sooo discouraging to have someone outright say to stop (not that he knows anything about millinery anyway)

I was in love with him for a long time so I let him walk all over me but I stopped talking to him in January and unfollowed him on everything. He also said he would pay for half the trip and he never did of course. Also right on the nose with the negging thing, he sent me this and I never replied.

No. 241552

Yeah nah, ghost his ass. The audacity of this guy to screw you out of money and then backhand you like that. Wow.

No. 241557

That's how abusers get you, anon. They always love you until they have you back, then you're just their toy again. I wish I had some advice to give you, but I'm stuck in a very very similar situation with my own mother and idk how to get out either, since she stole all of my money, ruined my credit and caused me to lose my job. Sadly there are barely resources for single mothers and abused women out there, much less help for women who just need a new place to go and don't have the finances to just take off by themselves and have everything they need. There's a huge gray area when it comes to abuse and most of society want to simply ignore anyone who isn't being actually beaten or stolen from.

No. 241558

Literally an awful piece of shit, this guy

Actively terrible, deserves to be abandoned in a dark cave somewhere. Ghosting you is shit, but to come back with this pathetic negging?

No. 241559

yeah I blocked his number after this. He kept spam texting my name before this too.

No. 241561

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oops dropped my pic

No. 241562

Wtf he seems socially retarded.

No. 241563

It’s amazing to me that a grown man thinks acting like a retard who can’t spell and has no reading comprehension is gonna get his dick wet??

I wish there was a site where girls everywhere could upload screenshots of convos with guys like this to laugh at all in one place.

No. 241566

/r/creepyPMs is full of gems like that, bitter guys acting like dumbasses, piss poor attempt at negging and sometimes plain old abuse.

No. 241574

how old is this guy

No. 241582

I keep getting night time depression spells and ended up cutting again, I don't even know why, my life has improved a lot, any other anon has these issues as well?

No. 241586

Me. I wish I had advice but even though I'm in a good spot right now I feel terminally sad and cutting is the only thing that breaks it up for awhile.

No. 241593

I'm in the same boat but I stopped cutting and switched it for benzos, fuck.

No. 241596

I've got that feeling too but time from time she developed two crushes on internet boys, which one was already with someone (and she called his girlfriend "a total whore" because for one time that she gets a crush, he's with someone) and now with a gay person, which she cries everyday.

No. 241597

NIanon here and we recently had a highly public rape trial involving rugby players and two of their mates and a 19 year old girl. The trial was bullshit. The boys got aquitted even when they all had conflicting stories and had endeavoured to hide evidence by deleting whatsapp texts and one of them wiping his phone. The girl had a fractured elbow and lacerations to her vagina from the act.

The men defending the boys and demanding criminal action against the girl is ridiculous and I can't stand reading the shite anymore from them. I don't understand how the men don't see anything abhorrent about the male behaviour.

It's literally so vile and toxic here at the moment, more so than usual.

No. 241610

And so are you for stereotyping a wide group of people because of some bad apples that you met (I assume).
Plenty of slavic people are incredibly brave, talented and hard-working people that challenge themselves to rise above shit situation in their countries. It's sad to see you shit on so many great people because of some bad experience. One person, two or even three people are not representative of a nationality, not to mention an ethnic group.

No. 241640

>Fat ugly fuck at uni
>On his 9th fucking year
>Uses every fucking drug available
>For some reason he has girls with him everytime I see him
>Beats his girlfriends too
>For some reason every girl in department chases after him

Jesus Christ what the fuck is wrong with this world?

No. 241641

I feel lonely and useless. I suck at everything and I feel like my clinical depression is taking over again.
No wonder nobody likes me, I'm the worst even when I try my best.
I wish I could die painlessly.

No. 241643

Because you don't need to be a good person to have women (or men) chasing after you.

No. 241644

24 and from a different country than me. He sent me a twitter DM this morning apologizing lol

No. 241646

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Hate us cause you aint us

No. 241648

Ngl if you hadn't said you spent New Years with him I would've thought it was my ex. Is he into the whole Twitch culture? That place harbours a lot of manchildren

No. 241661

Last 3 weeks:
>12 people move into main house, making 25 total (mostly kids under 10)
>have to give up my room
>Atheletes foot, body dirt, piss all over my bathroom and shower even though I clean daily due to OCD
>the elders diapers changed in my bed (where they physically can't move from) and it smells faintly of fecal matter permanently
>kids break my only goddamn laptop and free my hamster 3. Times.
>Can't sleep because they scream and play constantly from 3pm to 3am and never leave the house
>Have to do 1000% more heavy chores or else the house is absolutely disgusting because I'm literally the only one here who isn't extremely lazy and complicit in the filth piles
>I filled 2 10 gallon bags with garbage in one day
>My part of the food/bills go from 100 a month to 300. can't pay phone bill or bus pass or vegan food
>dairy and meat is making me extremely sick so I just eat rice and bread
At least sleeping on the floor is helping my scoliosis I guess….

No. 241665

I'm 18 just in case I need to say it. Just finished a call with my teacher…In the program that I'm in for homeschooling you have to do Discussion Based Assessments, which is basically where you call your teacher and they ask you questions on the lesson.

I studied and wrote down notes, etc and I felt somewhat prepared, this was my first time doing this with this particular teacher so I wasn't sure what was gonna happen but when I called her she seemed annoyed.I have pretty bad anxiety so I was sweating really bad and struggling to remember my notes. During the whole thing she would make comments about how she wasn't going to hold my hand through the whole thing and stuff, when I was just taking a minute to remember the answers. With a written test, I at least don't have someone waiting on me for every single answer like these. My other teacher who I had done these with had been a lot nicer, and I'm not looking forward to doing more of these with this one. I know it may seem small but this subject seems really hard to me so I just don't feel as confident in it right now….I will try and prepare even better next time, I suppose. Maybe, if anything these assessments will force me to get more comfortable talking on the phone. But for now, I'm just going to spend the weekend over-analyzing this stupid interaction for no god damn reason….

No. 241666

Dear god anon. Run.

No. 241670

Anon you need to do something, are you the only one who want to escape? Can you try to get some of the abuse on camera so you'll have something to show the cops?

No. 241677

>almost 23
>think about going to college
>look at my old grades
>the majority are Ds and only one A & B
>see the price
>think about all the posts and threads about suffering college students
>remember how shit my mental health was back then

Uuuh yea. I feel like I'm running out of time but at the same time I'm worried I won't have a clue what I'm even studying since I graduated HS like 4 years ago… and I'm terrified of my mental health going down. Then again there are a lot of pros to it…. damn.

No. 241681

My socially retarded self is going on a tinder date after so long..

No. 241695

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I'm from a small town in a very rural area of Europe.
Today in Uni was the third time i ever encountered a tranny.
At first i thought it's just an ugly girl, but no, it was a dude. He had red nails together with red tumblr glasses, the typical mtf hair style with bangs and he wore some neon hoodie that was way too tight (i could even see the outline of an extremely ill-fitting bra underneah). Together with the studded belt he wore, it made im look like some 13-year-old from the Myspace days.

If he just looked like that it wouldn't have been much of a problem, but of course i tranny can't behave like a normal human being. All the time he was speaking in some whiny childlike voice pouting and all, complaining to boys (in a flirting manner) that he raised his hand first, that it's too difficult for him, that's he's sooo tired etc. - shortly, he acted like some dizzy anime character would.

And the worst is, the biggest nerds in my class, the ones who don't even talk to girls and probably prefer 2D over 3D like him. That just confirms that many men respect even some sicko who badly disguises himself as women, more than actual girls…

No. 241697

Could you take some classes at a local community college to ease yourself back into schooling? It wouldn't put you in thousands of dollars of debt and you could try out different courses and see what you like, without risking too much.
Also, I wouldn't worry too much about your high school experience. College and high school are night and day, and I'm sure you've grown a lot since then. It's even possible that going might improve your mental health, instead of bringing it down. I don't know your life so I can't say, obviously, but maybe forcing yourself out of your comfort zone, meeting new people, and learning new stuff that interests you could bring some spice into your life.

No. 241698

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>I feel like I'm running out of time

Home girl, you are not running out of time. A TON of people don’t begin college until their late 20’s. You’d be shocked.
Also, I have a bachelors and work at a damn grocery store. University is a huge financial commitment (assuming you live in the US) and doesn’t always guarantee your success in a field. And as far as your grades in high school, I wouldn’t worry too much if you’re serious about college. I was also a D average student, but I think it was more environmental— university classes are more focused and engaging, without the social pressures/distractions of high school.

whether you choose to go or not, don’t ever feel like it’s too late to change your mind.

No. 241699

I slept over at my boyfriend for 3 days (it was the first time I ever slept over at a partner's place ever.) and these were the most amazing 3 days. Finally gone from my parents, into a warm and loving home. I'm back again at my parents today and I feel like shit. I miss my boyfriend and I really don't want to live with them anymore. I want to move out, but I really don't know how to tell them. A week ago, I had a conversation with my mom about how convenient it was to still be living at home. But now, I really feel intense need for my personal space. My parents are classic helicopter parents and they try to watch every move I make. I just want to leave.

No. 241701

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STEM subjects are so painfully uninteresting and unenjoyable. I want to fucking die.

No. 241702

Move out.

Just change your major.

No. 241703


There’s a woman at my school in her thirties with a kid and she’s excelling like crazy. She’s not obsessed with boys, she’s got her shit together, she’s confident and experienced in the work force. She’s running like two clubs and a slam poetry thing.

Honestly, there’s a lot of benefits to waiting for the college experience. Being a dumb teenager surrounded by other dumb teenagers and copious drinks/drugs is not exactly great for health or education.

Everyone has a different pace and a different life. Do whatever is right for you, not what you think you’re supposed to do.

No. 241706

do something you like, anon. it's kind of weird you find literally all science and math uninteresting, that's like hating all colors or something.

No. 241709

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I'm so jealous of this one girl in my class.
She looks like a western version of Yoona and is so popular.
Even though she never wears makeup her skin looks so bright and her eyes so big. She never wears extremely stylish clothes, yet still looks cute because she's tall and skinny.
Whenever she enters the room some friends of hers will immediately yell at her, saying that they kept a seat free for her. She's always smiling happily and seems so kind, that i can't even hate her.

On the other hand when i enter the room and try to find a space to sit, i often get "Oh, sorry, but my friend will come later, i still need this seat for her" etc…

I know that she's also popluar for her personality, but i can't help but think that if you're ugly people won't even give you the chance to show whether you might also be nice…

No. 241721

Seriously don't sacrifice your happiness for external validation. Idk what your motivations are of course, but I'll just say there are plenty of other lucrative careers out there, and muh more women in STEM means jack shit unless it's women who are genuinely interested and motivated, and those women DO exist, so you don't need to force it. Working hard and persevering during tough times doesn't mean forcing your entire interest and motivation.

No. 241722

it bugs me that's there's two goddamn snowflakes that carry my name, and I think I have some sort of pride in being named Bailey but I have no idea why, it's just a name

Baylee doesn't bug me as much because despite being annoying she's harmless, it's really Tea's Bailey that puts me on fucking edge, she's terrifying

And she's adopting the name Bailey, it's not her birth name. That makes it even weirder for me. It's not ~exotic~ or some generic weird spelling of a boy's name. I mean sure it's gender-neutral, but it's definitely girl-leaning.

Someone tell me to knock it off this really shouldn't bother me

No. 241723

>anyone who isn't me is weird xD
Those two analogies aren't at all comparable and made zero sense. After reading that retardation, I highly doubt you're actually in STEM yourself unless you're doing biolomeme.

Anon might be interested in the arts and society rather than a bunch of boring bullshit that isn't fully developed nor understood. Grow up.

No. 241728

uh no, chem, but whatever. anon sounds like her idea of stem comes from hs, yours too tbh.


sorry about your autism

No. 241731

I know this is an old post but the misandry threads have been around for over two years
>>>/ot/21625 was the first one

No. 241732

Gonna be honest I don't even like Bailey as a name.

No. 241736

It's okay anon. Taylor Nicole Dean and I have the same first/middle name. People have showed me her before like "Omg you have the same name!!1!" Like… Taylor and Nicole are two of the most basic white girl names especially from the 90's. (And I'm guessing she was probably named after the singer Taylor Dayne like I was.)

No. 241746

I've been trying to leave for years, but no one else old enough has the means or sanity to come with, so I'm going to be on my own until one of my friends need a roommate.My student loans and grants will be dispersed May, but I definitely can't go anywhere until then.

The child abuse is a lot less brutal since 7 years ago when I started to call the CPS which really scared all the adults, but the cops thought I was a huge annnoying waste of time, the social worker told me to stop being an irrational teen, the corespondent kept laughing "that isn't abuse." My broken bones that I set by tying up socks and crawling around the house for months and only being 80 lbs from the starvation and heavy cleaning weren't enough evidence, so the small spankings and invisible abuse the kids get now aren't anywhere nearly enough. The pedophile is usually in the side house now.

The adults have money, power, and a lot of social respect, so this needs to be taken down slowly and internally. finishing up college and escaping on GOOD terms is the best possible way for me to really help the little kids.

No. 241748

I thought it was just a surname but murica gonna murica I guess

No. 241771

I can respect that. I don't know how it became a first name in the first place – I was told there was a lawyer TV show with a Bailey as a character but nothing comes up via googling so idk

lmao oh no I'm so sorry. At least noone has shown me other people with my name. LOTS of pets, though. Lots of pets..

No. 241773

>And the worst is, the biggest nerds in my class, the ones who don't even talk to girls and probably prefer 2D over 3D like him.
Maybe they're just shy around girls?

No. 241774

I actually really like the name Bailey, so apologies on behalf of people like me and your mom for naming you. It's a cool name

No. 241784

Aw thank you, my mom thought it was a totally awesome name so I think it's pretty neato too?

I just wanted to complain about idiots besmirching the good name of Bailey. On behalf of non-surname-Baileys (phonetic spellings included), I apologize for them being cows.

No. 241794

I've been wanting to break up with my boyfriend since at least feb but I can't because I know he will lose it and say horrible things to me and about me to all of our mutual friends. He also knows a lot of personal information about me.

He isn't the worst person I've dated but his is so shallow, self-absorbed and into himself half the time I feel like our time together is just him doing what he would do alone but with an audience. He expects me to travel to his house every single time we see each other ( we live 40 min by train) using the excuse that he works full time and I don't and I can afford to waste the 2 hours and he can't. When we have sex he always, without fail, complains that I do not talk enough even though I explained to him multiple times I find all sex talk cringy. He says that it makes him feel good to get "feedback" which knowing him as well I do now, I am convinced is really covert way of saying he wants to be praised. His insecurity about money, looks, prestige ect and complementary pettyness and vindictiveness is exhausting to deal with and makes any kind of constructive criticism basically impossible.

He refuses to let me post photos of him on any social media because he claims he doesnt want drama with his "unstable" ex, which I could understand, cause I do know she does hate him intensely and has cyberstalked him, but they broke up in fucking september. Enough is fucking enough. I know for a fact after he broke up with her he talked shit about her to every single one of his friends so I'm sure he will do the same thing to me.

If it wasn't about that I would long be done with this bullshit.

No. 241795

does he have any redeeming qualities?

No. 241801


He can be fun guy to spend time with and we do like basically the same stuff. He also makes a point to stay in contact all the time even its just sending a meme which is really nice because I live kinda far from most of our social group and half the time they don't even bother to invite me anywhere.

No. 241810

He also has a stable income, that's the best part. :3

No. 241815

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Anon, if it helps, imagine "sharing" your name with this individual…

No. 241818

I had a crazy nightmare where I could see on my phone some sort of live feed of my ex with his gf. They were really happy and I was gutted but couldn't stop watching.
I'm still upset hours after waking up, feeling all nauseous and sad.
Maybe I should stop talking to him, it's probably my mind telling me this is not healthy. But then again, I would have no friends.

No. 241819

I just realized how disconnected I am from the outside world as a hardcore shut-in and it's weird, it's like being an alien almost.

No. 241839

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According to /meta/ this is lolcow's userbase.

Yet if you go to /g/ most girls being critizised for having bad makeup, looking ugly and old or being overrated are white (same for men).
Most cows also happen to be white, and some black, but you rarely ever see anything about Asians (besides the Anti-Kpop thread).

Does this mean that lolcow is full of Asians bashing Whites and Blacks?

No. 241840

whatever automated guess algo this uses is guaranteed to be wildly off. Do a real survey

No. 241843

I have a hard time believing most of lolcow userbase has children and is in a $150k+ household.

No. 241850

Yeah, I'm not buying it either. I'm betting a large part of the lolcow userbase is low-middle class, early to 20's white weebs.

No. 241855

I'd say probably because there aren't many Asian cows for some reason. Most online attention whores are white. Even if you go on 4chan the most common attention whores are white.

No. 241858

>only white people can be evil attention whores

No. 241863

>Yumi King
>Emzotic (?)
>Pick your Twitch titty streamer
>Kim Dao
Probably others I'm missing but that's quite a large representation still

No. 241869


Look at the blue part, not the gray part. The blue part represents lolcow users.

No. 241878

Instagram makes me so envious. It's not that I actually believe girls live perfect aesthetic lives, I know it's all for show, but damn I wish I even had the ability to make my life look that good.

No. 241884

I've been putting off going to the hairdresser for month and my hair is way too long now. It's an unkempt mess but I still can bring myself to go. I just want the most basic of haircut but the idea of having to look for a new hairdresser and having to endure them trying to be nice and making conversation turns me into a nervous wreck.
It's so stupid.

No. 241893

do you live in or near a large city? i solved this issue by going to a nice asian hairdresser, make sure you have a photo though. language barrier makes them not talk to you.

No. 241907

Whenever I mention my envy of certain girls on IG people always say ~but anon it's so exaggerated ~. Maybe some things are, but you can't fake shit like trips to Paris or Chanel hauls.

No. 241922

anon have you heard of tagthesponsor?

No. 241925

It's who pays for those trips that they don't tell you about… For a reason.

No. 241936


I saw tagthesponsor linked on /Snow and it opened my eyes, bless that person and the guy who made the site. It's incredibly obvious now I "know" but I guess we want to think the best scenario was what happened (people hiring these women just to model)

No. 241948

Dude, glad you opened your eyes. Instahoes, even really pretty ones are a dime a dozen. They do some fucking nasty shit to keep up the appearances.
I honestly think they would live better lives by being by the book escorts. Fewer pretty pictures by the beach for sure but also no beastiality or scat.

No. 241955

I've noticed even when things are improved I still sometimes fall back on depression habits. I'd say if this was a common thing you did before then you can either change it up with some self-care bedtime stuffs or check to make sure you aren't holding something in before you go to bed that would have you fall back into that habit. (Like if you're stressed or angry or unhappy about something, a journal can help here too actually)

No. 242023

>get really anxious and nervous around people, not just the shy kind, I feel physical pain when around way too many people
>because of this when I go out I try going at times where not many people are out
>wake up early to go grocery shopping
>store is fucking crowded, people can't seem to keep their eyes to themselves, no one has manners or decency of others
>well whatever.jpg
>finish shopping
>want to go to park
>find obsecure empty chain park in the middle of nowhere
>head there
>fucking crowded again with little boys who cant keep their eyes to themselves
I hate myself

No. 242031

>can't seem to keep their eyes to themselves
What the fuck does this mean anon?
You feel people are staring at you?

No. 242072

Yeah, but its not so much what I feel, it happens so much wherever I go even other people have pointed it out before .-.

No. 242115

My insomnia has been unbearable lately, I haven't gotten proper sleep in 2+ weeks and it's affecting my work and my relationship. I went to the dr yesterday and got put on 15mg Remeron.

I took half last night, slept 14 hours, and I'm SO groggy. I don't know if it's because of the meds or sleeping so much. It's nice to finally have gotten some sleep I guess.

No. 242214

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>tfw high libido
>bf has a heart condition so he can't really keep up
It's frustrating because we love eachother a lot but most of the time I feel unsatisfied after sex
I've been considering getting a dildo but he's kinda of against it because he thinks it'll replace him which is fucking stupid
I just want to get off gdi

No. 242232

they make these dildos for ldr couples that your bf can control with his smartphone.

No. 242335

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oh wow
I'll look into that

No. 242344

I'm mad at my young self for letting my family hype me up for being a good artist
I used to just trace or copy draw picture I saw then color them
I have no real style of my own and I think my actual art is horrible

Depresses me when they ask if I still draw or show me old art….it was all a sham and I never did anything with it

No. 242369

tracing is ng but copy-drawing is how you gain skill, but i'm assuming you pretended they were OC. still, i show off some of my stuff from hs that is literally just copied anime.

No. 242402

i dont belong anywhere i dont think. ive had the same friends for almost 15 years now and theyre slowly including me less and less. no one at work gives a shit about me, which is fine. i only have one online friend anymore, but we only talk once every month or so. i make my mom sad because of how sick i am and i think ive lowkey disappointed her. she would never ever say that to me though. my life is trash and most days i fantasize about just fucking killing myself but no one would be around to take care of my cat so i guess i'll hold off until something happens to him.

No. 242429

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currently trying to grow as an artist, I have my own original style and have been posting what I draw everyday for 3 days in a row I've had my insta account for half a year and barely hit 100 followers, my art isn't even bad it's pretty good, I see other people who draw shitty traces and they get a bunch of followers. I'm frustrated, and I wish I could get more exposure

No. 242435

>bf and i go out on a nice date at an italian place
>he talks all night about how he can't wait to get home and play games together and watch anime
>he asks if we can stay up all night
>am tired but excited about a comfy night at home
>order espresso at around 11pm for both of us
>we watch some youtube videos and he lies down and says his eyes hurt
>uses a heated eye pad for a few
>caffeine does not effect the boy passes out almost instantly
>mfw 9am and i got no bloody sleep

Fuck man. I just want death to take me now.

No. 242453

Why are my friends so unreliable holy shit

No. 242455

Same but different art medium pretty much just got to not compare and keep doing art that you enjoy envy will eat you alive

No. 242492

I can't stand one of my closest friends.

She always challenges me, loves to argue. I feel like sometimes she just pretends to have a different opinion to quarrel with me.

She's probably, like, physically incapable of saying she's in the wrong. Even when it's clear she is, or I outright say - I don't care, it doesn't matter, whatever - she'll talk talk talk in circles until I have to fucking mute her, because it tires me or the negativity impacts me mentally.

I can't vent without her giving me unsolicited advice and she's so condescending about it always.

When I tell her she hurt me, she says "I thought you appreciate honesty", which is a quite primitive attempt at manipulation.

She often shames me that I don't want to "explain my stance" (which would lead to, surprise, endless circles of how wrong I am and how right she is) and just tell her to google something (for some reason this pisses her off the most lol), but who am I to do free research for her? She thinks she's entitled to explanations about every little opinion of mine, or even a joke (she doesn't get 3/4 of my jokes and I have to constantly demystify them or mention I'm not serious/I'm sarcastic, it's cringey as hell).

Sometimes we go weeks without arguing and then it happens and it's as vicious and, in the end, unresolved, as always. And then I promise to myself to never vent/tell her anything again… then we're fine, I forget about it and confide in her and… yes, you guessed right.

Jesus, I typed this all out and now I wonder why am I even friend with her? I must be really fucking lonely.

No. 242493

My bf is feeling insecure about a fling I had before meeting him. The guy was a typical "normie" into partying and drugs and I guess my bf doesn't like the idea of me being into guys like that. Idk what to do, our relationship is good and I don't want this bs to end it.

No. 242494

Tell him to get over it. You can't go back in time and remove the fling. So whats the point of being jealous of something in the past

No. 242508

i cant stand the thought of my boyfriend even having a female in his peripheral vision, let alone talk/chill with one no matter how ugly, not single or not straight they are. i don't have any abandonment or daddy issues, i'm not insecure about my looks or personality, i've never gotten cheated on or picked second. i'm 21 and i've been with my current bf for 3 and a half years, and i have had this problem ever since i was 13-14 (when i got into my first relationship which lasted also around 4 years). i've been getting different kinds of therapy (on and off) for this alongside my actual diagnosis for 6 years now, and no its not a personality disorder. no therapy has helped even though i really dedicated so much of my energy into getting rid of this problem. its ruining my life, when my boyfriend says he wants to watch TV or youtube or something i get sick to my stomach thinking that he is definitely seeing other females and my only objective then is to obstruct him somehow. when he adds a girl on facebook i can't stop obsessing over it for weeks. i would never admit this to him but inside its eating me alive and physically hurting. its really confusing because i've never been envious or jealous of anyone, ive always been happy with what i have and happy for other people. i've never had terrible experiences with girls. all my other issues i was able to stabilize but not this one. its really fucking with me and i'm losing hope that i will ever get better in this department. i feel like ive wasted so much time in therapy trying to find a root of this problem and couldn't even get close to an answer for 6 years. i also tried letting it go and distracting myself but after a month or two of getting better, it just comes back with triple strength.

No. 242510

I used to trace when I was in middle school and would get compliments when I'd color it because people would think I'm a good artist
I just find it hard to find a style when my art is just me redrawing some anime character

No. 242515

Maybe you have trust issues and/or afraid of getting hurt?

I know I still, sort of do and I felt the same for a long time until I finally realized that he's not being shady behind my back

No. 242522

>i feel like ive wasted so much time in therapy trying to find a root of this problem and couldn't even get close to an answer for 6 years
>Maybe you have trust issues and/or afraid of getting hurt?

smacks head doyyy! why in six years didn't the therapist think of THAT?

for fucks sake lmao

No. 242523

Sounds like a lack of trust, whether it's being caused by him (consciously or not) or your inner thoughts.
I had it with my first LT boyfriend (4.5 years) and it went away when I started trusting him more. With my second serious boyfriend it never went away because he was constantly spurring it on by hiding shit, keeping secrets and getting angry when I asked him about certain female friends. My gut feeling ended up being right on the money, even though I don't think he cheated whilst we were together, I just got suddenly dumped and found out he was being a slut not two days later.

Is your bf doing anything remotely suspicious? How does he respond when you talk to him about it? Have you tried? It could help.

No. 242532

Gee, sorry for trying to help and you not mentioning that part, won't happen again

No. 242546

I (who mocked you) am not the OP but the therapy line is a quote from their post

No. 242562

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>be gyaru
>gaijin gal groups dead
>friend tells me there's active gal thread on /cgl/
>check it out
>it's shit /cgl/ is shit
>cringe off the site

I really just belong here with you guys. ILY guys.

No. 242563

I feel that, I've since stopped browsing cgl for quite some time. That place is a cesspit.

No. 242564

Is anybody else genuinely scared because of the attacks on Syria?

No. 242566

Russia won't do anything. As high tensioned as it is, as of right now it's a one-off strike so I doubt much will escalate unless something happens otherwise. Like Assad doing another round of chemical attacks.

No. 242569

Yeah, there's been random terrorist attacks in my country since the attacks on Syria and the ISIS shit first started, and for some reason our brilliant government decided to get involved, again. We also get fucktonnes of Syrian (and other assorted) refugees begging in the metro and harassing locals, and SJWs are pushing to open up the borders even more, and Germany is pressuring us to accept even more and even posting sympathetic news articles about European-born Jihadis who "mistakenly" found themselves in Syria (like… how do you 'mistakenly' choose to join a terrorist organisation?).

I'm frankly fed up and am just praying that my town won't become the next Super-U hostage situation.

No. 242572

I legit came to this thread to ask the same thing anon kek. The fact that it’s out of my hands and that there is nothing anyone can really do besides sit and wait is what gets me the most.

No. 242575

It's not like our government asked us Germans before if we're okay with this…

I'm just scared because France and Britain act like Trump's obedient little lap dogs. Europe is so small, if Russia really took revenge, we could also get hit or if they and America clash, it most likely also happens in the middle, over Europe.

Hopefully Putin is more sensible than Trump and doesn't risk WW3…

No. 242576

I'm afraid there are going to be more terrorist attack in my country, I live in a big city and we haven't had any "real" attack, I'm getting paranoid.

No. 242578

>tfw have to move to Paris for work in a few months
>tfw work at an airport
light a candle for me anons

No. 242605

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>I just lost my third phone yesterday.
>I can't afford a new one and I really don't want to dig up my go-phone from the 7th grade.

No. 242608

how quickly have you gone through these phones?

No. 242636

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I'm sad I'll probably never live in a huge house and will have to settle in a basic neighbor hood for the rest of my life

I love searching for million dollar homes and seeing how beautiful they are, I have such extreme house envy

No. 242642

Same anon. House envy sucks.
Where I live, you have to be wealthy just to afford a dumb suburban house.

No. 242664

What fucking morality police sperglords rolled through here lately where we can't even have threads without a fucking argument happening?

No. 242666

One of them is a multiple offender, but idk who the other ones are. They've been in our midst and are rearing their ugly heads, or perhaps summerfags coming early. Who knows.

No. 242704

IKTF, I always regret looking up expensive real estate. There's a house going for 2.2 mil nearby me and they have a dance studio. I'm so jealous.

That said, in reality I actually would hate to live in a big house. I live in a 2 storey place at the moment and even that annoys me. I kind of want all my stuff in one room so I don't have to walk far to access anything.

No. 242709

i miscarried last year and i've been trying to get pregnant over and over and i just took a test and it was negative again. i don't know what's wrong with me, anons.

No. 242711

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I feel like cutting myself again after about 5 years of being clean and not doing it and it makes me feel stupid and edgy as if I were a teenager again. As an adult I should have my shit together, right? I feel so numb and nihilistic all the fucking time since I don't have friends or even family or anything to do and I get jealous of my coworkers when they talk about what they're doing after work which I know is petty and unhealthy and straight up miserable.

How can I help myself? I feel like such a shitty person and I always have thoughts in my head telling me to kill myself, nobody will ever love me, i'm unsalvageable garbage, how much i hate myself, comparing my life to others' etc. and it's scary. I'm afraid of myself when I hear those thoughts because I always have vivid images of hanging myself and I get stuck in intense thought about the dying process as I'm hanging full-suspension in my daydream. I was thinking of trying therapy again even though it didn't work 5 years ago. Maybe it could help now since I am not a child anymore though and can understand my thoughts/illnesses better. Life for me is like being stuck in a never ending void, there's just nothing memorable going on whatsoever and the only thing on my mind lately is self destruction.

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I know this is nothing new, but I am so tired of men invading women's spaces and lives all the time. Both regular men and "transwomen". Like, fuck. Just let us live in peace. That's all we want.

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I think it's a robot larping as a girl.
I've seen in multiple threads this anon say something like "no wonder robots hate us farmers are cringe."

When did any of us start giving a fuck about robots? Pretty sure 1. They hate us by default on the basis of being women who won't fuck them and 2. They've raided our board for years and they already think we're ~bitchy female website~ so that didn't start yesterday or even last week.

The weird lolicon post in the unpopular opinion thread?
This person showing up in information gathering threads to insult farmers like the loser, beauty standard, and karma thread?

This is either a robot or one severely new and autistic girl.

No. 242718

Why does it seem our bipoplar depressions synched like periods? I noticed that myself as well as so many others are getting depressed out of nowhere, despite my life being better than it ever was before now

No. 242719

>The weird lolicon post in the unpopular opinion thread?
This person showing up in information gathering threads to insult farmers like the loser, beauty standard, and karma thread?
I've been noticing this for the past few months as well, I passed it off as just the mental state of people here but holy shit, maybe its a bot obsessed with instigating infighting against each other?

No. 242720

Samefag but id also like to add mods called out an anon in the surgery(?) thread for starting several infights with random people for no reason

No. 242726

I won't disagree that farmers are trash, but to insinuate we're worse than robots is laughable. On the trash scale, we're like a 7, robots are an 11.

No. 242727

There's also the confirmed robot invasions that are so common in the man-hating threads

No. 242728

Where do I find a qt gamer bf who will love and cherish me forever?
Tinder is shit, and so are most other dating apps.

Asking for a friend, of course.

No. 242730

Gamer guys are losers, don't date one.

No. 242732

Ok but I still want a girlfriend-free boy to be my sweetheart

No. 242741

Also the anon who randomly pops in to say
When nobody's been fighting for awhile or that telling them to shut up isn't the same kind of infight bitching with an air of superiority added on.
I might just take a break until these asshats leave.

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Shouldn't be hard to find one unless you're a tranny or normie… Just go on tumblr. The least repulsive ones usually play rhythm games and Persona or some other relatively-mainstream weeb games. They still probably won't love you since they're gamers.

pic unrelated, touken ranbu just has some very nice figures

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My significant other went out to hang out with his friends and I really wanted him to stay with me and just sort of chill for the night, since I don't like to be alone in the evening, because I've been dealing with suicidal thoughts and panic attacks. He didn't know I felt this way but knows of my issues, and I got so mad at him and we had a huge argument. Besides this, he's always been so nice and understanding, unlike all of my other exes. It feels like I'm forcing myself to hate him for no real reason, and I fucking hate it.

No. 242759

Hmm, maybe what I need is a husbando.

No. 242769

was gonna post in the weight loss thread but

I think I might kill myself over this. I'm starting to really think there's no way out of being fat. Exercise is really my only option (large variety of unmedicated health problems that limit diet options & fucks my metabolism, and no health insurance. yahoo) and I've been walking 6-7 hours on the days I don't have class w/ pokemon go for a little under 3 months now and I've only lost 11 fucking lbs.

Am I supposed to just live like this through college? This is my only and last chance to form lasting relationships and nobody wants to be friends with a pig. I made it 6 years without self-harming but I fucked that last month. I keep trying to make myself puke after I do eat too but I'm a coward. I hate being a virgin, I hate being alone, I have literally not a single friend and my family is shitty and distant. I won't be passable by the time I graduate, if I ever even make it there at all. Fuck lol I just don't wanna do it anymore I can't even look at myself in the mirror without having to go fuck my legs up

No. 242771

Are you obese enough to qualify for bariatric surgery? If not, I don't think you can really say you're at the point of hopeless fatness.

No. 242773

Samefag. Didn't mean to sound harsh btw. I know what it's like to struggle with weight and mental illness. Weight comes off slow if not any at all and I know how frustrating it is.
All I meant is that you really shouldn't consider suicide if there are options to get help if you really are that fat.

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I highly recommend TKRB for that. Dozens of lovely male thots, it is very satisfying to forge a sword men.

No. 242776

Idk this is probably not what you wanna hear but w/e. Just eat less calories. People always want to exercise forever trying to burn off the calories that they could've just avoided in the first place. Exercising off calories takes a long time and is not as effectiveas merely having a lower calorie diet. I'm surpised by the amount of people who resort to exercise for wieght loss. Sure it can help, but not much if you're not burning a lot. Exercise for your physical and mental health. Diet (with exercise for a boost) if you want to really loose weight. Or you can just be like me and become bulimic, and then poor lol.

No. 242780

i went to the mall today and i wore a black camisole and black shorts with a fishnet top and normal fishnets and my black boots i usually wear goth fashion so it was nothing new but i lost 170 pounds recently and i bought myself a new wig because i'm bald so i was really nervous about how i looked but still felt pretty the entire time i was at the mall everyone was staring at me like couldn't even take their eyes off of me..they were whispering and pointing and my sister caught this table of girls laughing and taking pictures everyone kept looking at me..i got a few compliments but other than that it was just weird looks everyone staring even when i caught them they'd look away then look back again and again..i left the mall crying it was such a terrible feeling i don't know what i did..i was thinking maybe it was my piercings since i have a few (both nostrils a vertical labret my medusa and my ears completed) but i don't even know if it was that..i also assumed maybe it was just..funny for some people to see a black girl in goth fashion because i don't go out often in my town and shit and i don't ever see anyone else really dressing like me..it just really really sucked i'm still really sad about it..just needed to let it all out

No. 242781

Does walking really burn that many calories? There is a website/youtube channel called "fitness blender" that has a ton of free workout videos that I use daily. On the website you can sort by difficulty level, time, equipment, targeted area, etc. (If you want a workout plan/program then you have to pay, but I think the free videos are more than enough to get in shape.) I think these types of workouts are a more efficient way to exercise while also building strength and flexibility. If you're concerned about the difficult level, the level 1 videos are really easy, and even just trying will burn calories. Not trying to shill, I just found it a lot easier to start exercising myself by following along a with a video each day. Good luck anon.

No. 242783


>This is my only and last chance to form lasting relationships and nobody wants to be friends with a pig.

Wrong on both accounts. My dad’s best friend is a coworker he’s had for ten years. My mum’s best friend of over two decades is someone she used to work for. You meet people after college and there’s better odds of them being people you will get along with based on interests/chosen fields. Also, people generally don’t make friendships based on the weight of the other person. I’ve been heavier and I’ve been lighter and I was able to make friends equally at either weight. The fattest person I know is also the one with the most friends.

Friendship is about putting yourself out there, joining clubs (how I met most of my current friends), being personable in classes and on the street. People want to hang out with others who make them feel good. Be kind, be open, be positive. If those things are too difficult because of your mental health right now, then please please seek professional help. I did in high school and honestly it changed my entire world. I went from being an awkward shut in playing Fable 3 all weekend in high school to being unable to fit all my friends into one weekend in college.

It’s not too late, it’s not your weight, and it’s not impossible. I believe in you. Trust me, you’re not the only overweight person in America.

Would you rather die friendless, alone, young, and overweight now… or work on improving yourself and die happy, old, healthy, and after you’ve achieved something? The only permanent way you could fuck up right now is if you do kill yourself. Your weight isn’t permanent, your social life isn’t permanent, but death is. Don’t give up.

Pick up a hobby. Read a book, sketch a picture, watch a movie and then watch an analysis on YouTube, go to the park or a local creek/river, go to a farmers market, an art museum, join a club at your college (I met my two best friends at a club), join a fitness class at your campus or local gym, act like a tourist and sightsee wherever you live, volunteer at an animal shelter, lean to play a musical instrument, make sure your room is spotless, go to a thrift store and get new furniture and then renovate it… live your life! Along the way, friends will come. Don’t focus on your weight obsessively, instead just count your calories and be patient.

And please, get professional help. Your campus should have resources for you. You’re paying for them in student fees, take advantage of them.

Good luck, anon. I believe in you.

No. 242785

I was having a really horrible day so I ordered a pizza to try and make myself feel better, it was an hour and a half wait, turned into 2 hours, turned into 3, and finally 4 hours later it showed up. I called a bunch of times to ask about my order because I didn't want to make food and then have it show up and nobody was helpful and I got really frustrated. I ended up yelling at the delivery guy (who was pretty old, like 50ish) and now I feel like a piece of shit. Sorry this post is pretty stupid I just feel really guilty about it (the pizza was cold and shitty tho)

No. 242795

I’m sorry anon, that sucks. People are stupid. Dress how you want, you probably looked like a badass.

No. 242796


Also congrats on the weight loss, that’s a huge accomplishment.

sorry for samefagging

No. 242797

Well yeah people tend to stare if you're in fishnets and have a bunch of metal in your ears and face. Do you not normally dress this way? The more you go out this way, the less you'll care what ppl think. You said you felt pretty, so just fuck em!

Also how did you lose 170 lbs? That's an amazing accomplishment, you should feel proud!

No. 242801

I do normally dress this way I always have on fishnets but the stares and comments were more than usual today..it made me sadder I guess because I have a lot of past trauma with bullying and it just brought it all back to me..I usually feel more confident just the wig I felt like I would look more normal than I usually do and I'd be able to be like other women that have really nice hair instead of being bald but it didn't help

also! just a lot of exercise and changing my diet..I gained it all from depression after a suicide attempt but I started with walking then running and I got this like..fitness app (it's has like seven minute workouts and shit) and that helped a lot as well..it was mostly fruits and veggies for a year

No. 242804

Maybe not the right thread but I had unprotected sex with this guy, i'm not on BC but i dont get my period either. Should I take plan b?

No. 242807

Yes. How long has it been since you've fucked? If it's been more than 48 hours you might even need a double dose.

No. 242812

Fuck, around 24 hours. We did it 4 times, 3 times pull and pray once he came in me,

No. 242814

Yeah anon you need to get a plan b asap
(Make sure to watch out for the ones that have weight limits)

No. 242815

You don't wanna push this past 72 hours anon. In fact, I'd say by that time your odds start getting pretty fucked. And it sucks to pay out for those pills only for them to not work and get stuck with a pregnancy anyway. Take care of yourself.

No. 242819

There's no pharmacies open rn so I guess I'll have to wait fuck. My doctor said I'm likely not ingesting enough calories for my body to bear a child (but idk how true that is, im at a healthy weight for my height) and I was too drunk to care :(

No. 242838

Bloody VCAL kids, they still piss me off. Although you can tell who they are just walking down the street. I had to do exam prep with them running and yelling through the study rooms, ask the teachers to do something “they have as much right to be there as VCE kids do”.

No. 242852

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I hate what cosplay has become in the past few years with Pateron.
I've been cosplaying for fun, since i was 14 years old (i'm 21 now). Cosplay used to be something i was proud of (even when i looked like shit) because The characters i cosplayed always meant so much to me.

What triggered me to rant is an old "friend" wants to do lewd/nude modeling for patreon. ONLY in cosplay. She's a shit-tier cosplayer and got about 10k followers from cloning and harassing jnig in to following and unfollowing her.

When people figure out i cosplay the FIRST thing said to me is;
>oh, so you have sex in cosplay?
>do you have a patreon?
>so you do lewds?
>do you do ~sexy~ cosplay? thats kinky

no, i don't. Nothing is wrong with doing lewds or sexy cosplay in general but thots these days use cosplay as their excuse because they're just ~ugu nerds~

I know the community has evolved and will always have jnig sexy clones but this new patreon theme is really driving me out of my passion to dress up like a freak for a few weekends a year.

I'm sorry for this woe-is-me post but this just pisses me off so much. I wish people like Kamui cosplay and the like would get more money/recognition for putting real time, effort, and money into clean impressive builds and not cunts like MomoKun.

No. 242855

What is VCAL and VCE?

No. 242862

Victorian Certificate of Applied Learning and Victorian Certificate of Education. Straya.

I mean the vcal kids do have the same right to be there..if they’re really a disturbance get some headphones or go study in the library. Dickheads will always be dickheads and no teacher is gonna try and shush a group of dumbasses who only respond by being more obnoxious.
Tbh it seems more like you just don’t like vcal kids because they aren’t doing vce as well.

You’re better off learning to deal with an annoyance than getting judgy over them. You’ll do better in uni and work if you don’t get cut up over it.

No. 242868

I'm trying to somehow motivate myself to start driving again. I had my license for 3 years now, but never sat behind our family car because it operated completely differently than the one I was using in driving school.

One of my biggest issues is that I tend to go into "auto pilot mode" when I'm under a lot of stress, and that's not a good thing for driving, not to mention I'm suicidal and having access to a car kind of makes it easier. I could just drive of a bridge or some shit on a bad day.

I wish I had someone who would sit down with me and teach me, but one of my parents doesn't drive and the other is a nervous wreck and a nightmare to be around. No friends either and the only person who could do it would be my bf, but he works fulltime and live 2 hours away.

I'm planning to go back to driving school. Last time what really killed my confidence was that my instructor was actually slowing/speeding up the car without telling, so I thought I was doing alright, only to find out I wasn't and they were actually doing it all for me, which just made me more self conscious.

Man this sucks.

No. 242869

I didn't know instructors had the ability to speed up or slow down the car. I thought the only thing they could do is brake…

Good luck anyway anon. Driving school is the only place I got any meaningful driving experience.

No. 242880

Trannies are 10x worse than men. Holy shit those fuckers are so crazy and deranged.

No. 242882

Try Sublingual Immunotherapy. Allergies are awful and can seriously make life hell.

No. 242883

Maybe you could try driving on Sunday mornings with your non-driving parent? It's what I did when I finally bought a car 1.5 year after having obtained my driving license. I felt much more relaxed driving when there was no one on the streets and with my mom next to me so I didn't feel alone even though she doesn't drive.

No. 242888

Not really a vent but I live with my dad at the moment and the man is a control freak. He needs to touch everything WHEN he wants it and is fucking incapable of throwing anything out, giving something to charity or respecting others boundaries.
Just now I noticed one of my books was in his huge, mostly unread, bookshelf and commented about it with him.
As I exited the kitchen he followed me into my room, his bookshelf and a lot of his stuff is in my room because of his hoarding habits, asked me to show where the book was. I picked the book and then, without asking, he went to grab it from my hand because he "just wanted to take a look".
I pulled the book back because I'm done with his bullshit, he does this pulling from your hands without permission or refusing to let go of things like a toddler or dog a lot, and said he could take a look later after I came back.
He kept insisting, saying I'm neurotic, that he wanted to look now, jumping around to try to grab it from me, as we are of the same height.
A lot of time that would annoy the fuck out of me and I'd give in or feel awful about his insults, the ass even used the fact I commented I was looking for a therapist to "stab" me with "You should tell your therapist about these insane things you do" and acted like I'm the crazy one while running after the book and raising his voice, but this time I had none of that.
It was glorious, I couldn't stop laughing at that crazy little man acting all hurt he couldn't just take what he wanted when he wanted. Trully pathetic, now he won't even look at me because "muh hurt feelings", I can't believe I was afraid of this little bitch.

Anyhow, as soon as start my new job I'm out of here.

No. 242896

i have health problems that make me really skinny and i’ve always wanted to a have sexy curvy body, so when people make comments about my weight it hurts. People seem to think it’s okay to make comments because they aren’t calling me fat, so it must not be insulting, right? I recently ran into a girl i grew up with, she was my best friend for a long time in childhood. She was out shopping with her mom and I stopped to say hi. They were looking at me really weird and I didn’t know why until later that night when she messaged me on facebook straight up asking if i had an eating disorder and if i was okay, saying she and her mo were really worried. It really fucked with my head. I mean, if I was really fat and she messaged me saying “hey you look really obese and i’m worried about your health, are you okay?” that would be really awful so why is it okay to do the reverse? I hate looking like this, i’m even ashamed to be naked in front of my boyfriend.

No. 242898

Idk if this is help but my boyfriend has ocd and has to touch things sometimes. I didn't understand it for a while until he told me he has ocd and it made me patient with him.

No. 242902

Oh anon, I have no sympathy left in me.
I legit didn't have a room growing up because it was more important to hoard stuff inside his "office", I couldn't touch my kid magazines and could only read them if he was the one reading for me, got all my cards oppened while I was travelling wihout asking me first and blocked the access to a bunch of my old toys and books.

No. 242905

anon it sounds like he has a fucking problem, but it's not worth it to hate him for it. he should have been told to get help, but it's like not something he's actively doing in an enjoyable way because it's obvious disordered behavior.

No. 242907

>obvious mental issues
>anon being a baby about it and calling her dad crazy


No. 242909

Lost one every year (all in Spring too).

No. 242910

I think I have body image issues. I know a lot of people focus and hate on one part of their body but my thing is I don't feel I look the same day to day. One day I will look at myself in the mirror and my nose will look gigantic, the next it will look "normal" (I don't know which one is true lmao). I have days where I see myself with manly shoulders and no hips and other were I only see huge hips and a skinny upper body, sometimes I see someone who look normal and even beautiful but most of the time I only have a disgusting image of myself in the mirror and it can fuck up my whole day. It's really distressing and I don't know if there is anything I can do about it. The weirdest thing is it does it to picture too, I have a pic of me and my friends on the wall and depending of the day my face doesn't look the same to me…

No. 242911

Anon, I lived with him for almost 25 years.
I know he has a problem, but he refuses to go therapy and it's not my role as the daughter to be his counselor, trust me I tried that in my teens.
Besides he was an emotionally abusive fuck up and probably closeted narcisist.
I don't hate him, but I don't have to give up ownership of my things, brake my bounderies, that I'm still building, because "poor sick old man". He always acted like the victm, called me crazy and the "biggest mistake in his life, a literal devil that makes poor dad suffer, poor old man should just kill myself because awful daughter" while acting like I was his personal feelings toilet and shit talking my mother to me all the time.
I'll not back down or act like a child anymore. I deserve respect.

No. 242916

Try growing up with someone with mental issues to see how much you like it then.
I also have a lot of mental issues, partially caused by his emotional abuse, but I don't define my whole being by them or expect to be treated like disabled, he is not at all, because of them.
I don't buy the "respecting your parents even if they are jerks that don't respect you because they are your parents" meme.

No. 242917

Lmao, oh wow.

Anon I feel bad that you have such a manbaby for a dad, but at the same time I can't stop thinking of all the ways I'd mess with him. Like putting everything in 'wrong' spots, hiding stuff underneath hoard piles, etc.
But meh, I think it's ridiculous that he threatened you over your own book. Is there no way you can move out of that house?

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I swore into the army literally the day before the attacks on Syria fml. I only have two friends and I put off telling them about my enlistment and now I'm afraid to tell them at all, particularly one of them. He's honestly kind of a "weak" person, in that he's very easily swayed by echo chambers – he went from being openly misogynistic and saying "nigger" whenever he thought he could get away with it (he's white) to being super liberal and identifying as non-binary within a couple years because he stopped using 4chan and his new friend group is very liberal and many of them identify as non-binary/trans. (I don't call him "weak" as an insult, he's been struggling with his mental health lately and I know it's easy when you're not mentally healthy to mistake echo chambers for support systems).

Because of this, he's gotten really swept up in anti-military sentiments after the attacks. Completely understandable and I don't hate him for having certain beliefs but it was still shitty seeing him liking posts on twitter that explicitly said that anyone who joins the military for any reason hates brown people and loves the death of innocents.

I don't regret joining (yet, who doesn't regret joining a little once they're in lol) and I don't feel guilty about it because I know I'm not doing it out of blind nationalism or because I love war or whatever (plus my job will involve lab work and medicine). I'm just trying to get my life in order. I wanted to tell the two of them so they'd at least know why I can't contact them for a bit (we only talk online because we live in different cities now) but now I'm thinking I should just shut up, ship out, and worry about his feelings later.

I know I should suck it up and just tell him (because honestly if he flips out and just ignores everything he knows about me in favor of stereotypes he read on twitter, not to mention if people like me weren't volunteering it's his ass that would be drafted…do I really want to be friends with someone like that?) but I've known him since middle school so it's tough and I'm losing sleep over it anyway.

No. 242924

You don't have to tell him anything, and frankly, his opinion on it would be his own even if you did. It's not your problem if he couldn't mentally deal. Smarter SJWs know that people join the military to help pay for school, housing, etc. and it has nothing to do with hating the darkies.

No. 242927

Just tell him what you told us. If you weren't going on your own he would be drafted instead.

No. 242958

I've just left my brand new phone in the train.

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Excuse my first world autism, but do y’all ever get like legit intensely depressed, like there’s a gaping hole in your heart because your 2d husbando will never exist in real life?

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Today is my birthday and I spend it with just my mom and my sister, it was nice but I wish i had people other then my family to be with. I feel like a fcking loser but im too anxious to talk and make new friendship even tho I desperately want to.

No. 243001

I really hate being a cry baby…I cry way too much over small things, and I can't control it, not matter what I do I just end up bawling. Once it starts I can't stop. Many times in high school I would end up crying during presentations and would have to excuse myself to bathroom to calm myself down, might be related to my anxiety or something I'm not sure. It makes me even more upset when people tell me to just stop or get thicker skin, almost like they think I WANT to be crying over these things, It makes me so frustrated. I wish I couldn't cry at all.

No. 243006

It's completely fine to feel and express yuor emotions in your own way anon. You are not a crying baby, some people are naturally more sensitive than the averege and that's ok.
If some situations are too overwelming for you maybe you could try some mindfulness exercises when faced with those situations and tell the people close to you how much you feel hurt when they call you crybaby or imply there's something wrong with you.

No. 243010

I feel u anon. I uncontrollably cry when frustrated, angry, really tired, or really scared. Got to a point where I just excuse myself, explain my eyes cry even when the rest of me in uninvolved, and carry on while dabbing my stupid eyes with a hanky. Weird thing is when I’m genuinely devastated or sad I’m not a crier. The tears won’t come when it’s appropriate, only when debating or telling my dumb dog to stop scream-barking at the neighbour.

No. 243011

>bf asks for pics of my outfit
>send them
>"why do you think you're fat?"
>he acts like it completely didn't just happen and ignores my message when I ask him when I said that
that's… so weird, I never said I was fat nor did I make any comments on my body at all, that's so confusing, maybe im overreading it though, should I be worried?

No. 243019

I spent my birthday alone, and I try not to discuss it with others. I don't want anyone to feel compelled to celebrate it.

No. 243029

Cynical me says he has a girl on the side and mixed you guys up. Cause why wouldn't he just explain himself?

No. 243030

Thats what I thought as well but I don't wanna be crazy gf and accuse him of cheating straight up over that, I also thought either
A)he thinks im fat "but actually likes it" or whatever
B)some weird way of negging
C)some weird teen novel savior complex fantasy of "saving me from insecurities"
Its so little but just… Odd, and then i bring up and he completely ignores it and acts like it didnt happen, its so weird

No. 243035

If I were you I'd hound him about it until he told me lol

No. 243037

Agree with other anon, we can speculate all we want here but only he holds the truth!

No. 243038

A question about venting

How and where does one vent without looking like a moaning piece of shit? I was locked up in a psychiatric ward a few weeks ago and found that most people in my position, more so the women, define themselves and talk about nothing but their health issues. It was there that I realized how infuriating venting can be when done wrong and now I have a distaste for any form of venting at all in real life even though I instinctively need to do it from time to time.

I'm really worried I'm going to do something stupid through either desperation or rage. I will be locked away for a long time for any misbehavior next time but as it currently stands I am having trouble regulating my emotions. Some of my family have cut me off in a dramatic way because I'm basically in the 'too hard to deal with pile', which cut me up pretty bad, but I did lash out at them in moments of intense weakness so it is justified I guess. I honestly don't believe I have the necessary abilities to regulate my emotions at this point of time, and with my brother saying he will wait outside and smash me over the head with a baseball bat the next time I upset mum, has me a bit concerned I am running towards a drama I can't avoid. I have expressed that I am willing to not talk to my mother anymore but the rest of the family is 'oh no man, no, your mum is sick and you can't just abruptly cut her off like that'.

Some of my family is doing a lot for me with covering my mortgage while I'm unwell. And my brother is checking up on me. I'm definitely a risk to myself and others but I can't bring myself to return to the ward because I don't trust that modern psychiatry and mental health services have progressed much beyond One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest and Lobotomies, I don't want to become a statistic that is lives in a semi conscious state due to whatever substances they force into me. During my brief stint there a nurse was always on my back trying to get me to take anti-anxiety pills, I can't bring myself to trust them.

No. 243040

Try calling to suicide prevention hotlines and other emotional support ones when you really need someone to talk to. They have people trained to help you or just listen to you if you say you just need to vent and have no one else to talk to.
Best of luck anon.

No. 243048

I went to see a Star Wars live concert today but I couldn't stop thinking the whole time about how I feel like the Last Jedi ruined the series for me. I tell myself I can always enjoy the originals but I cannot stop being a sperg.

Thanks for the tip anon. I think I'm doing better but I'm so behind on my work.

No. 243052

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I have exams in 2.5 hours, have not slept all night and now my ex is sending me messages at 5AM REEEing about something I said on the internet that wasn't even about him and the fact that I saw his dick online and crying about how I hurt his feefees by saying that he didn't care about me (he himself said I loved him a lot more than he loved me and refused to hold hands with me, amongst some other awful shite).
He seems to be getting increasingly buttmad and has resorted to sending me SMS messages after getting blocked. He is the one who dumped me, he is the one who wanted to be alone, yet he is now also the one bothering me and acting like a manbaby.

I finally got over him for the most part yet here he is being a twat, making things worse and acting like I was the one who did him dirty. Why are men so dumb Jesus please give me an answer.

Sorry if I come off as super negative and sorry if I've already ranted about him too much but this guy just can't drop it and I'm tired.

No. 243056

god girl fuck him focus on your exams you live beyond his reach now

No. 243057

lol don’t you love when you post something and then you get some screeching manchild assuming it was all about him when it wasn’t?

No. 243064

I’ve found a formula.

XYZ is upsetting to me because ABC. I am doing this about it but it feels overwhelming. Ask for advice if pertinent.

The key difference between bitching and moaning or just venting is mainly what is being done about it. The worst moaners are always presenting themselves as victims of cruel circumstance/people and aren’t doing shit to improve the situation.

No. 243112

>tfw you call suicide prevention lifeline one time and the lady was new af and made me feel worse and made the call extremely uncomfortable
There's incompetent dipshits everywhere.

No. 243117

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I miss my friends a lot… but when i see them they don't give a fuck about me, their personalities and interests changed a lot since we entered college (not in a bad way), they're bored when I sit with them but I can't ditch them and find new friends because they are very nice and we've been together for so long, I also don't want to change myself just to please them.

No. 243127

I had a similar experience.

It wasn't so much that my lady was incompetent or new, she just had nothing for me. It was kind of like talking into a wall, I don't remember her saying anything. Lol.

That's fine for some people I guess. But if I wanted to shout into a void, I would just post anonymously here about it. I remember putting down the phone feeling less suicidal because all I could think about was "is this really how that hotline works?" Lmao.

No. 243129

I love my boyfriend, but I'm afraid he will string me along without realizing that I don't want to wait forever to get married and start a family. I know this is something he also wants, but I don't think he's as concerned about timing, because his fertility isn't going to nosedive within ten years.

No. 243132


Yes it will. Idk why there's this prevalent misconception that men stay young, healthy, and fertile forever. They don't.


>The volume of a man’s semen and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80.

>Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.

No. 243142

Men who are obsessed with fertility are a redflag, and theres higher chances of birth defects as the men get older, don't listen to revenge fantasy tier shit

No. 243159

>bf: I HATE being constantly on my phone and carrying it around ugh also sorry I don't use my phone at the gym
>also bf: is almost always on whatsapp but doesn't bother to respond to my messages on the other app

Sure thing…guess it depends who's messaging him (:

No. 243190

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I had a nightmare last night and it left me with a serious question I've been asking myself since I was a child: what will I do when my parents will die?
I'm not even very close with them, my mom has NPD and is abusive and my dad lives with his new gf and we see each other twice a month or so, and yet the thought of their death makes me cry and seems such an impossible thing to overcome. I had an orphan girl in my class, and I was seriously wondering how did she overcome that. It just seems impossible to me.
When my grandma died 2 years ago I was devastated, and I still am whenever I think of it. The thought of not seeing/hearing from someone you love again in this life is too hard… I think I could even kill myself when the time comes. Same if something had to happen to my sibling. Why do living beings have to die?

No. 243207

The book "The five invitations" is pretty good in discussing grief and preparing for death in general, other than that dunno how you feel. Call me edgy but I've been kind of hoping, not sure why, my parents die for a while tbh.

No. 243241

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>working in a group of around 9 people.
>they send me useless information that was based purely on copy and paste and some incoherent bs.

>I end up doing everything, I did 20 pages.

>They get angry at me for not taking into consideration what they send me

>called me rude for calling them incoherent through a fucking text message

>one of them is extremely disrespectful and has zero manners in a daily basis, she is stuck up in her annoying 17yo psycho punk girl uwu

>one of them literally wrote a fat paragraph ranting about it

>next morning they don't say nothing to me

>some of them ignore me and glare at me in class

people are sickening. I hate myself for actually feeling bad when I did nothing wrong, I did them a FAVOR and yet I'm the bad guy. fuck off

No. 243247

Paying money just to be able to fucking see sucks.

No. 243248

Cheers to that, girl.

No. 243252

Word. Especially when you're short-sighted and the glasses you need make you look like a fucking cartoon with beady eyes.

No. 243266

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>Going places where you need eyes to see
Lmao get on my level

No. 243269

I always found it weird that in my country (don't know if it's the same everywhere) glasses, the frames and the lenses, are expensive even though they're a necessity for many people, and not even fully reimbursed. Saying this as someone with a perfect eyesight, when I learned it wasn't always reimbursed I was shocked.

No. 243278

>not even fully reimbursed
lmao, in my country glasses are never reimbursed. You pay or no eyesight for you.
And people still say "socialism" is ruining this shithole, kek

No. 243280

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>parents are going into pension soon, which means our already small income will be cut in half and they'll depend on me
>can't find a job that pays more than minimum wage bc no college degree and only a year of experience
>can't get into college because my parents won't be able to finance me, employers avoid (future) students like the plague + unstable job market, "student jobs" don't pay enough to support both family and school
>realizing I'll stay in this shit and dying town forever, possibly ending up homeless once my parents die and if I don't find an okay paying job

>have no friends and connections because retard me thought I'll be dead before I turn 18 (nope, I'm 22 now)

>ltr/ldr is falling apart because bf had "high expectations" and is now barely talking to me instead of doing fucking anything to help (actually posted it on /g/), I'm just waiting for him to leave

>can't afford therapy anymore

Well…shit. My anxiety is probably making some situations seem worse than they are but I have no fucking idea what to do anymore. I'm so stressed I haven't eaten properly in a week and I can't fall asleep before 5am, waking up at 8am. I'm stuck in a fucking rut and I just want to fucking die.
If I could at least get out of this town, but I can't leave my parents behind, no matter how shitty they were. Or if I could make friends, but the majority of my peers are mostly out of town/country already (since it's a tiny place).
I also had high hopes for this fucking relationship… the ONLY thing he has/had to do is pay some fucking attention to me. That's literally IT, it's the simple motivation I need. But no, despite me telling him that over and over again he still chooses to ignore me and barely talk to me.I suppose he's over it already, considering he doesn't know how he feels after the break we had. Fucking hell…

No. 243283

Wth, you're only 22, yet your parents already retire and want you to support them?!
Even if they had you when they were already 40, they're still not old enough to do that…

No. 243287

They both have physically demanding jobs and have been working them for years, can't blame them for wanting to leave. And me supporting them was kind of always a thing, ever since I started to work, so I'm kind of used to it?
Tbh I'm not really sure what to say

No. 243308

But how old are they?

No. 243311

I hate it when you spend a lot of time and effort on a paper and it comes back with a bad grade. I don't want to sound entitled but it's really annoying that this happened to me when I put more work into a paper and it came back with a meh grade than some paper I worked less on. I even spent a lot of time talking to my friend who graduated with a major in the subject to see if the paper would be ok.

The prof even wrote in the comments "the conclusion should have been xyz instead" but that was the entire point of my paper. I feel like the professor thought I wrote the opposite of the point of my paper because he assumes because I have certain beliefs, I couldn't believe that xyz would be true. It's like if I told the professor I was Republican which meant I could never be for gun control. Really frustrating. I'm going to talk to my professor tomorrow but it would suck if he misread my paper.

No. 243312

This is why I studied engineering. Fuck betting your grade on how somebody else interprets what you write. Just give me boring equations with a single correct answer all day.
I know what it's like, this song is pretty much me IRL these days

No. 243319


I can promise you he skimmed it and read the conclusion. Definitely take it in and ask them for more feedback. Don’t explicitly ask for a regrade but ask them for more assistant and guidance. They’ll usually bump it up in my experience if you’re polite enough and persistent.

No. 243326

Nah I'm actually 100% confident he didn't just skim it and read the conclusion because the prof actually left me a bunch of comments throughout the entire paper. He also does regrades for the class normally.

It's just that I have a lot of other stuff due and I didn't want the extra work.

No. 243327

Father is 60 and mother 59

No. 243329

Happy late birthday Anon!

I spent my birthday two days ago alone too, mostly because I had schoolwork to do, but I don't see it as anything special. Celebrate when you want to, no need to put importance on specific days!

No. 243332

I hate struggling with mental illness in a town inhabited by mostly old people. None of the doctors care and there are little to no resources. I just want some fucking help.

No. 243333

I have the sane issue, it's like an automatic response to any stressors and I can't control it, similarly to blushing or the like. no idea how to control it, just hoping I'll grow out if it kek

No. 243338

I thought girlschannel was just another girl's forum where people could trade tips and stories but I actually visited it today for the first time and holy shit it's rife with shitposting.

No. 243358

So my cat has a tumor on her tongue that can't be removed and I have to prepare myself for when I'll have to put her to sleep since she is soon going to be unable to eat. I'm very sad about it, she is the best cat.

No. 243367

Retiring at (or even before) 60 is an insane luxury, that nearly nobody can afford.
You really need to talk to them, they should at least be able to go for 5 more years until you're a bit older and more stable.
You're at an age there your parents still should be supporting you - not the other way around.

No. 243376

I've connected with a girl recently and we became really good friends. She just got rejected (by a female professor who was leaving lol) so I thought maybe she was trying to rebound when she started flirting with me. I'm pretty straight but she keeps wanting to sit really close to me when we're alone and finds excuses to touch me. Why does this always happen to me? A previous girl friend crushed on me before, too. I really like this person as a friend so I'm so scared she's going to make things too weird and we'll end up hating each other.

No. 243378

Guess it's worth trying to talk to them and see how that'll go, thanks

No. 243381

I’m sorry anon, that’s a horrible thing to go through. As an owner of an elderly cat, I can relate.

No. 243383

Im sorry for your loss anon, hopefully your kitties last days will be as happy as they can

No. 243405

>trying to find the song that often plays in our gym
>no lyrics tho
>browse around for like an hour on youtube
>click randomly on a video because I was getting bored
>found the song, turns out it was Darude - Sandstorm


No. 243413

the company I work for went bankrupt and was bought out by liquidators so I'm out of a job in a few months. It was a shitty retail job but I've put a few years into it and loved my coworkers. I don't want to look for a new job, I hate being new and I was so comfortable. I'm not too upset, but I just wish I could have gone to school (even though with my sister going, I doubt we could have afforded it) instead of being stuck with shitty dead end jobs.
At least I'll get my 500 dollars of retirement I had saved up there.

No. 243435

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Some teen smartmouthed at me today "Who the FUCK are you?", which got me pondering on how to answer that question. The definition I decided upon was simply me in the context of my environment, having nothing to do with my likes or dislikes, my hobbies, my work, my life. After so many jobs, so many hours volunteering, so much time spent at the guitar, I still can't answer that question.

If I wasn't philosophically opposed, suicide would look a lot more appealing.

No. 243440

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Having this realization doesn't need to be depressing. Ego doesn't exist independently, it's just an approximation of countless unique concepts and feelings and ideas, but it exists functionally and dependently, so you have the potential to mold it and dress it up or abandon it at will.

Most Buddhist sects focus on this concept and perfecting it as a vehicle to liberation instead of a depressing thing.

No. 243442

In which context did they ask you that?

No. 243452

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I've been doing pretty good lately recovering from years of self hatred related to misogyny/hating myself for being a woman but then I read this and allowed it to ruin all my progress.

I've wanted to write/direct my entire life. It's all I've ever wanted to do and all I've ever fucking cared about. The fact that people will just see me and see A WOMAN and think that this all that I have to offer makes me want to fucking kill myself. Why is the world like this? Why are women so hated and belittled?

I know it's my problem if I let this bother me. But it does fucking bother me, and as much as punish myself physically for being 'weak' it STILL bothers me and I can't stop that. It may seem like I'm overreacting and I probably am but that comment is just one comment on top of millions of other people saying shit similar or worse than this and I don't see a silver lining here. I've tried to find one. And I don't see a single fucking point in trying at anything at all anymore. Shit like this is never ending and I'm so fucking TIRED. I wish I could finally get the courage to blow my fucking head off.

I mean how many times are you supposed to hear that you're dumb and worthless and deficient and have nothing to offer the world before you finally get the hint and fucking take yourself out? How long can someone actually be expected to cope with that?

I know I'm opening myself up for incessant ridicule here but I just need to get this out. Because I really don't see the fucking point in continuing on with anything. I just want to sit on my ass and read books and watch movies so I can stop thinking about who and what I am and how the real world is forever. And I probably fucking will, and I'll accomplish nothing, and I'll be forever sad and miserable a failure, and I'll have no one but myself to blame. I'll have nothing but the kind of sentiments in pic related floating around in my head for eternity. I can't go back to a time when I saw myself as a capable human being and not just some inferior animal who shouldn't even try because I'll never be good anyway. Now I just see myself the way men like that see me and it hurts so fucking much and I can't break out of it. I'm stuck like this forever and I'm going to ruin my fucking life.

And at the end of the day it doesn't matter why. Nobody fucking cares. And it's no excuse, regardless of how much it fucking hurts and how much it makes me feel like I'm getting buried underneath this shit and there's no avoiding it.

No. 243460

This guy I really like and who really likes me used to be a manwhore and it makes me feel really weird because I was a KHHV

No. 243461

I kind of understand, I work in a majority male area and I worry that when I make a mistake or say something stupid out of nervousness the first thing my coworkers will think is "stupid woman". I wish I never had to deal with men, I avoid them as much as possible in my personal time.

No. 243475

First of all: why is this affecting you? Is he right? We you going to write and direct a movie about babies, clothes and gossip? I imagine the answer is "no".

But let's say that's exactly what you want to do: so what? Have you seen the amount of complete shit movies men make every year? And even then: why must a film about such subjects be bad? Because things related to womanhood are seen as inherently inferior, even though they objectively are not?

Third: fuck, girl, how fucking low is your self esteem? I used to echo and believe a lot of misogynistic shit back in my /b/tard days, but that was because I was a shut-in NEET who didn't believe sne'd ever amount to much, and "they're right, it's because I'm a woman" is a great excuse to feel sorry for yourself and stop trying. It isn't true, though.

Last of all: guy is a fucking pleb. Most men who say this kind of thing are. I'm a language-literature major, and I once believed the plebs that said that only males write good literature and all women writers were Stephanie-Meyer-Marian-Keys level YA chick lit bullshit. That academics were all males because women couldn't into science. But when I actually started studying it beyond a high school level, I found out there's a shit ton of good female authors. Great female linguists. Most of my professors are women. It's the same thing in pretty much every area: women aren't given as much mainstream attention because they're women. It doesn't change the fact that these women are great, and their work is great, and their contributions are real, and people who actually care about such subjects DO value them and their work.

Don't let a fucking pleb who thinks he knows the first thing about film making because his ex gf once forced him to watch Lars Von Trier discourage you. Actually, from the examples he gave, I'm 100% sure he never even watched a non-Hollywood movie.

No. 243491

As someone dating an ex-slut, I feel weird as well. It makes me anxious as hell whenever I think about their past partners or how they've just had way more sex than me, and I basically went up to having missionary sex and that's it. I'm disappointed because I feel like I'm missing out on the "sexual discovery" part of the relationship where you find yourself sexually. For my girlfriend, it's basically good as long as she gets off; she's interested in doing things to fit my kinks, but it's really hard to figure out my kinks when I date someone who's been through literally all of it from her exes.

At the same time if you're young, just be faintly afraid of getting played or dealing with someone who used sex to cope with other mental issues.

No. 243492


> women aren't given as much mainstream attention because they're women. It doesn't change the fact that these women are great, and their work is great, and their contributions are real, and people who actually care about such subjects DO value them and their work.

You sound jaded because "good" female authors can't become famous intrinsically based on their gender; this is just wrong. Like, people value their work and they may write well, but that doesn't make their material more relatable or evoke emotion to the masses. Like it's the goal of publishers to publish shit that people will buy and read. And the reality is that men don't relate to women, they don't understand a lot of the emotional plight and burden and simple shit even like having a period.

>and people who actually care about such subjects DO value them and their work.

lol obviously not since every srs female writer is a nobody or beating dead horses

No. 243494

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I have a great boyfriend but his sex drive is way way lower than mine. I went to hang out with him tonight and even though I brought up that I wanted some action he declined, and while I was understanding towards him I was a little miffed internally because I completely shaved from the neck down and wore a particularly sexy outfit in an effort to woo him.

I ditched the two vibrators I previously owned at the beginning of this relationship. After my frustration tonight, I decided it was time to get a new one. I high tailed it to the nearest 24 hr sex shop, only to see that everything was massively overpriced. I thought it best to suck it up and just get one, it'd all be worth it in the end. I got one for ~$35 and anxiously headed home.

Well I got home and it absolutely will not turn on. I've tried putting the batteries in every way imaginable, trying different kinds of batteries, the works. Nothing. I don't really like using toys that have no vibration so it was a complete waste, the $35 I paid for it as well as having to suffer through a seedy adult store.

I know it's far from tragedy but man am I annoyed lol

No. 243508

>The weird lolicon post in the unpopular opinion thread?

No. 243510

Female pedophiles are just as disgusting if not more, I don't get why some girls think its cute to like child porn, especially considering most the fanbase are fat white trash

No. 243514

I don't think it's cute to like it or being a girl makes anything more/less okay, and I don't like actual childporn by my own definition of it (which is surely different from yours).

Let's stop this conversation before the thread gets derailed.

No. 243515

>naked children being sexualized isn't child porn because its drawn a certain way but depictions of children getting molested is totally hot!
Okay whatever you say,see if anyone agrees

No. 243532

I mean, you're speaking of the best seller market there when I'm clearly referring to real literature. And by their work I mean academic women. You'd be hard pressed to find people who would refrain from reading or referencing a good paper just because a woman wrote it. You sound like you're still in high school.

No. 243543

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I honestly just want to start my own pop up maid cafe.

I work as a professional illustrator so I can easily design the logo and art, I can design/sew the costumes or coworkers from past jobs who could(or good places to buy costumes), could easily get my sister to make me a couple of baked goods to sell at the event (as she studied in Paris)

I just simply do have any friends who would want to be part of it and honestly it just sucks. I know I could make a quality maid cafe but I just don’t know anyone willing to join or where to start to find people.

And the people I do find are either shady as hell(pass workers from arcane cafe) or just too young.

No. 243546

If you can't take this basic level of criticism then you're never going to succeed as a writer.

No. 243548

I wish I could join. Sounds like fun, anon! You could put up hiring posters in your area and see how many people respond. Ask friends of friends, get the word around, and good luck!

No. 243553

This is the kind of thing I would love to be part of. One of my ideal jobs actually. I'm sure it won't be hard to find people who are willing.

No. 243564

How much and who you have to pay to get data erased from institutions like politicians?

No. 243570

high school robot begone

No. 243574

Thanks for the response anon….and to get it out of the way, yes I have low self esteem and I admit that and I have been working on it. I feel less suicidal today so I will try to explain why this bothers me.

I don't know this guy or what he knows about film, it was a conversation in a thread I was in but was not said to me. It's affecting me because I see things like this all the time, constantly reminding me that the entire world thinks I'm inferior or somehow incapable of thinking about anything but vapid shit because women are dumb, worthless, only for sex, only for babies. As someone who wants MORE than that, much more, it hurts to be reduced to that and it feels as though it's CONSTANT. I mean, this is tame compared to the shit I read and hear about women every single day. This:
>Because things related to womanhood are seen as inherently inferior
is pretty much my point. And it can't be changed. I will always be seen as lesser than regardless of what I do. I feel like EVERYONE thinks this way and simply humors women and lets us think that the world doesn't hate us or see us as trash. I feel like the punchline of a joke, constantly. And I'm tired of being seen this way, and I'm tired of getting angry and being sad when it's completely out of my control. I acknowledged as much. But I can't help it, I'm so sick of seeing men say 'well women are like this and like this and like this' and 'women are only intellectually or emotionally capable of X.' I really can't handle the fact that the world sees me that way, before I've evened opened my mouth. It's useless to agonize about shit being unfair, but it's fucking unfair. I'm tired of automatically being viewed as deficient or less capable.

And it doesn't matter how much people prove them wrong. It doesn't matter how many female directors make strides, or how many women are incredible authors. This idea of women being some worthless mistake who is just a deficient male will never go away. This shit will NEVER end. I'm barely 21 years into it and I'm so fucking sick and tired of it. I don't WANT to be seen or treated this way based on something I can't control. It has nothing to do with me, as a person, but still, that's what everyone sees first and foremost. A woman. And therefore, they see someone who has nothing to offer but sex/cooking/cleaning. Someone who is intellectually incapable. Someone who's main goal in life is to sit on her fucking ass waiting for some man to PICK ME so that I can fulfill the one thing that women are seen as decent at and pop out a bunch of babies that I don't even want because ~that's all women are for.~

You're right, I won't succeed as a writer. But this was not a personal criticism of me or my work, which is the fucking point. It's just being written off based on something I can't control by at least half of the population. And how many times do I really have to express that this particular sentiment is one fucking brick in a million mile long wall of similar or worse sentiments.

No. 243586

You sound like you have some anxiety problem and are extremely insecure. There's a lot of successful women out there and they worked hard to be where they are, not complain online.

Female directors are less common but there are a lot a lot of female editors. Tarantino's main editor has been a woman. (Until she died) But a lot of talented people, male or female don't succeed in the film industry because it's so competitive.

No. 243598

This is a vent thread, which is why I vented. I thought the purpose was for 'complaining.' I work very hard but my point is that it doesn't matter, because people still see me as just a WOMAN and therefore inferior and have nothing to offer the industry or the world in general. BECAUSE they're women. I'm just tired of seeing this shit everywhere and I just want it to stop. I'm so so so fucking tired of it and there's nothing I can do about it because I can't fucking change being a woman and I can't hide it and everyone can fucking see it. Read his fucking post again. It feels like fucking SHIT to be written off and reduced to 'children and clothes and gossip about coworkers'? And people constantly saying men are superior in everyway and women are only good at having babies and serving men. Who the fuck wants to go through life constantly being reminded of that?

Sally Menke was literally mentioned in that post he is responding to, along with a lot of female directors. And men STILL think that way about women. Even when they are presented with successful women who have contributed to the industry, somehow those women's successes don't count and women are STILL seen as incubators and fucktoys to them. Women are STILL seen as incapable of doing anything good and making great art even when they do. The point is it doesn't fucking matter what I do, at the end of the day I'm still a woman and people see that and automatically have this idea of me being an inferior piece of worthless fucking trash that is lower than an animal and should just give up and go back to the fucking kitchen and do the only job I'm worth doing.

I've already mentioned I have low self esteem and I'm trying to work on it but is it really any wonder why I have low self esteem when I constantly am inundated with ideas that I'm inferior and worthless because of circumstances of my birth that I can't control? If I could control it obviously I would have been a fucking man, why do I deserve to be punished for not having that choice? Why the fuck do women have to be shat on constantly even when they do good things or are good people? All because they're women. Why is "woman" something so fucking terrible that it's the most undesirable and reprehensible thing to be? Why?

I wasn't born thinking this way about myself and my gender, it was fucking beaten into my head my entire life. And it never fucking ends.

It doesn't even matter. I regret writing the post and I regret writing this post and sorry for everyone that read it.

No. 243601

I'm really fucking mad at myself. I'm pretty sure I completely failed my interview for a simple retail job. I should have told her what she wanted to hear instead of the truth. Fuck me

No. 243602

Diff anon, here. I completely understand how you feel because I have days where I feel the same. Although, I think men treat great women as more like exceptions to the rule. Not that they "don't count," more like they're a rare/lucky exception. It still sucks either way, but that's my view.

No. 243603

I skimmed this post because TL;DR but this person who wrote that screenshot is a retard or a troll. Sophia Coppola for example is very acclaimed.

No. 243604

Thanks, I knew there would be someone who knew what I meant. But even when women are the 'exceptions' they are still seen as worse than men, even if the men haven't done half of the good work she has done. Women are seen by default as inferior and worthless. And it hurts and it fucking sucks and I'm personally at my breaking point with it.

No. 243605

Yeah i also wanted to chime in and say that I don't agree with what you're saying conceptually, but I feel this way all the fucking time. I'm so fucking sensitive to misogyny and it makes me hate myself and feel disconnected from my body.
You probably already know what you have to do. You have to get away from ideas like "if i could choose i'd be a man!!!" and get angrier. Get angry at the masses who think you should be punished for something you can't control and accept the fact of women in all their forms, not just the ones who have proved themselves in a losing game. You know believing these people is bullshit so you have to stick with that conviction and stop asking yourself 'but what if they're right?' They're no more right than you and they never will be because it's just their stupid opinions.

It's so much easier said than done and I hate that in order to not hate myself I have to be stubborn and intense with my views. I'm sweet and sensitive and I don't feel like fighting, but that's how it is on this bitch of an earth

No. 243608

if you dont believe in yourself first nobody is going to take you seriously.

No. 243610

People alreayd don't take me seriously for the reasons I stated, so who the fuck cares how I feel about myself? Nobody.

Thanks I know that's what I have to do too and I try really hard to but sometimes it gets too much and I feel like I'm back to square one with how depressed I get about it. I feel just like you, I'm sensitive and quiet by default and I don't want to have to be FORCING myself to stop feeling things. It's very hard to do and it doesn't come naturally to me. But I guess 'fake it til you make it' applies here, but I don't think I'll ever make it.

But I will stop shitting up the thread with my 'complaining' because it doesn't matter in the first place. And I guess people who are hurt by misogyny and feel hopeless about it are worse than actual misogynists.

No. 243612

you sound like you want attention btw

No. 243613

No. What did I do that is different from anyone else that's so wrong? It's a vent thread so I vented like everybody else has, and I'm not sure why it's a problem. I thought that's what this thread was for. I thought it was a place to talk about anything that is bothering you, so I posted it here. Of course I wanted people to talk to about it, I have nobody to open up to in real life. I mean I guess yeah I want attention in the sense that I want someone to talk to. But whatever I won't post anything again, it was a mistake.

No. 243614

>who the fuck cares how I feel about myself? Nobody.

Uh yeah, that's kind of the fucking point. SELF-confidence and SELF-reliance. The only thing that matters when you're alone and when you die. In an extreme case, believing in yourself lets you keep your sanity when literally everyone hates you and is against you, but luckily, there are plenty of women on your side, and even some men.

>And I guess people who are hurt by misogyny and feel hopeless about it are worse than actual misogynists.

That's just ridiculous. You're doing it again. You're basically saying "what if they're right?!" and what if you're the stupid and crazy one and the people that hate you are reasonable. It's not true. It's reasonable to be hurt by people that say things intended to hurt you. The women who aren't affected by it at all might just not be that sensitive or they might have not been exposed to as much hate or they're naturally more tough and confident but whatever it is it doesn't matter. It's still ok to feel the way you do, but you need to work hard to save your life.

No. 243621

>This is a vent thread, which is why I vented. I thought the purpose was for 'complaining.'
Sure it's good to vent but you are going on for way too long. That's a sign that you are not venting but you have some deeper rooted issues.

> I work very hard but my point is that it doesn't matter, because people still see me as just a WOMAN and therefore inferior and have nothing to offer the industry or the world in general. BECAUSE they're women.

This is BS. There are plenty of successful women. My mom is the breadwinner in the house and she is very successful. I have a friend from high school who is super airheaded and feminine but she has an ibanking career, and I have another friend who is doing the same. Idk those are just some anecdotes but there's plenty of well-off women these days.

>I'm just tired of seeing this shit everywhere and I just want it to stop. I'm so so so fucking tired of it and there's nothing I can do about it because I can't fucking change being a woman and I can't hide it and everyone can fucking see it.

Maybe you need to see a professional

>Read his fucking post again. It feels like fucking SHIT to be written off and reduced to 'children and clothes and gossip about coworkers'? And people constantly saying men are superior in everyway and women are only good at having babies and serving men. Who the fuck wants to go through life constantly being reminded of that?

Who cares? I don't care what random men or women on the internet have to say. A lot of people in the US think that because I am a racial minority I can't do xyz but I don't give a shit. You're overreacting to random internet comments and that's not good. You sound like an incel who say "nothing i do in life matters because i'm ugly". Or some BLM person who constantly complains about race.

If you are so worried about your gender you can go to some women's oriented fellowship.

>The point is it doesn't fucking matter what I do, at the end of the day I'm still a woman and people see that and automatically have this idea of me being an inferior piece of worthless fucking trash that is lower than an animal and should just give up and go back to the fucking kitchen and do the only job I'm worth doing.

You're overreacting

>I've already mentioned I have low self esteem and I'm trying to work on it but is it really any wonder why I have low self esteem when I constantly am inundated with ideas that I'm inferior and worthless because of circumstances of my birth that I can't control?

You sound like you have more than low self esteem. Maybe a personality disorder

>It doesn't even matter. I regret writing the post and I regret writing this post and sorry for everyone that read it.

No you're not sorry. Stop lying and be honest.

I really doubt you were going to accomplish anything in life regardless of your gender so who cares.

No. 243623

Why are you so fucking mean about it? in a vent thread? what did i actually do wrong here? I said I would stop posting go away and I promise I will but why is
>I really doubt you were going to accomplish anything in life regardless of your gender so who cares.
even necessary? Please explain what I've said that warrants that. You could have just not replied or reported me so that I will get banned and then you don't have to read it anymore instead of saying something like that. I really don't understand and why I'm specifically so much worse than anybody else in the thread.

No. 243624

>Why are you so fucking mean about it? in a vent thread? what did i actually do wrong here? I said I would stop posting go away and I promise I will but why is
You are taking this way too personally. I am really annoyed by people who think it's impossible for them to succeed in life because of their race/gender/looks/etc. You are acting really emotionally manipulative and passive aggressive just because I decided to criticize you. I even gave you some advice. At least you could try to work on your own before deciding that it's impossible for you to succeed.

No. 243627

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I hate my race.

If i never learned English or had no internet access i probably wouldn't have turned out to be the self-hating wee- and koreaboo i am today…

It really affects me in how i see every single piece of my body: i'll never be as tiny and thin as them, my hair is way too frizzy, my facial bone structure makes me look old and manly in comparison and i've gotten absolutely crazy about skin care and no tanning (but still no results…)

Is there anybody who feels/felt the same? Any tips on how to get over this?

I know that many idols get plastic surgery, photoshop etc, but it's really affecting my confidence so much and whenever i see an asian girl i instantly admire her, no matter how often i try to convince myself that she's actually just average, there's nothing special about her…ugh

No. 243628

Why would I not take it personally when you said I won't accomplish anything in life regardless of gender? How is that not personal? How should I take that?

I didn't mean to be passive aggressive so I'm sorry, and I'm sorry for pissing you off, I truly am. An I don't want to annoy you further but I do want to defend myself because I just feel like I never personally attacked anybody in this thread, I was trying to vent about my own problems because I have nowhere else to do it like I mentioned. I took it personally when you said I was attention seeking when all I was doing was what everyone else in this thread has done which is vent about what was bothering me. How is that any more attention seeking than anybody else? I just don't get why I was singled out and now you are just saying mean shit for no reason.

And I think I made it clear in my post that I already know what you said is true, I'm worthless and won't accomplish anything, so it just seems like kicking someone when they're down and I would understand why you would do that if it were a different thread with a specific topic and I started complaining about something tangentially related but I got the impression this thread was more anything goes and anything that is bothering you is fair game.

No. 243631

What the fuck, anon? You sound so unwell and I feel sorry for you. You need to focus your energy and desires on something healthier and realistic. Focus on your hobbies or try new things and see what you enjoy doing.

Here's an idea for you too: the things you mentioned that you hate about yourself, have nothing to do with race so you can spare yourself the heartbreak.
I'm sure you look fine no matter your race and are overly self conscious with weeby photoshopped beauty standards.

No. 243632

nta, but just because this is a vent thread doesn't mean that no one will reply to you, especially if you just come here to beat yourself up. and i think what anon was saying is that you'd have a shit attitude whether you were a woman or man or anything.

No. 243633

>Why would I not take it personally when you said I won't accomplish anything in life regardless of gender? How is that not personal? How should I take that?
Sorry dude, I don't know very much about you. If you really are capable then it doesn't matter what I say. You've just been displaying a poor attitude in your post that's not conducive to success. You're also posting on a board where people nitpick all the time and you expect to be immune to that? lol

>I didn't mean to be passive aggressive so I'm sorry, and I'm sorry for pissing you off, I truly am. An I don't want to annoy you further but I do want to defend myself because I just feel like I never personally attacked anybody in this thread, I was trying to vent about my own problems because I have nowhere else to do it like I mentioned.

I feel bad for you now because it's clear you have some problems and no friends. You are letting your insecurities and anxieties get in the way of you achieving anything.

> I'm worthless and won't accomplish anything, so it just seems like kicking someone when they're down and I would understand why you would do that if it were a different thread with a specific topic and I started complaining about something tangentially related but I got the impression this thread was more anything goes and anything that is bothering you is fair game.

You're continuing to be passive aggressive again. I'm not saying you are worthless, you just seem to have a lot of problems and a bad attitude.

Of course anything people want to vent about is fair game but there's no rule from criticizing anyone's posts.

Yeah that's what I meant to say.

No. 243639

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You need help. And I'm not saying that in a rude way. Please find someone to talk to, a therapist or something. I don't know which race you are and how old you are, but in some ways I can relate. I'm about 12.5% ethnically mixed, and even though its little I got the dark genes.. which makes me more hairy and darker than others around me. A few years ago I hated this (being hairy lol), and I don't particularly like it now. But that's just how it is, and I have learned to live with it.

Please realise that you're not Korean/Japanese and you'll never be. Find women of your own ethnicity to look up to as well. It's fine for you to admire these Asian models, but you also need someone similar to you that you can relate to.
I agree with >>243631 also remember that looks really aren't everything, you should spend your time develpoing your skills, interests, and again admire someone that you're more similar to.

No. 243640

Yeah that sounds super unhealthy. It seems like you have a low self esteem and use this Asian idealization as an outlet for your insecurities.

I think you should "unplug" a bit from this world you've created for yourself. Unfollow any idols on social media, etc. I recommend looking at girls who are the same race as you, and observe the features they have. Maybe they're not cutesy and pale like Korean girls, but I'm sure they have their own unique qualities that make them beautiful in a different way.

You just have to accept yourself the way you are, which sounds cheesy as fuck but I don't know how else to say it. Like >>243631 said, focus on yourself and what you like to do, not what you feel pressured to become.

The internet can very easily become a weird echo chamber and warp your ideals. The thing is, though, nobody in real life cares about these Asian beauty standards except for you (I'm assuming you live in your native country and not in Japan/Korea). Nobody is looking at you and thinking, "Ugh, her face is so old and manly." Yeah, maybe it is in comparison to a baby-faced Korean idol, but in real world scenarios, you probably look like a normal girl, especially when compared to girls of your ethnic background.

No. 243664

Why blame it on race? Women of all races are petite with feminine bone structures all the time, pinning it soley on race rather than insecurity is ridiculous

For your insecurity, I'd say stay off of 4chan, they think any woman that doesnt look like an ultra feminine but somehow curvy kpop idol "looks masculine" realize beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and differences between masculine and feminine, hell some of the most famous models are often coined as masculine and yet they're making millions just for looking pretty, i bet you're not even bad looking, just fucked from 4chan

No. 243665

I'm really mad at myself. I wish I could restart my life.

I've completely lost the will to do anything - going out, drawing, studying, working out etc. all of which I know will screw me over soon cuz I'm already feeling guilty for not pursuing art but ending up at one of the hardest colleges which might not work out cuz I have this one exam which might expell me.

I've tried opening up to several people, but they all just told me to snap out of it and do what I need to. Then all got mad at me when I didn't magically cheer up.

No. 243669

but anon didn't even mention 4chan. also asians look in general younger because of the recessed nose bridge which is more common among asians than others.

No. 243672

Ah my bad, I'm just too use to seeing "WHITE ROASTIES ARE JEALOUS OF ASIANS" meme, I wouldn't be surprised if that's what made them think that or some other cancerous yellow fever corner of the internet

> also asians look in general younger because of the recessed nose bridge

Eh, subjective, I don't think they necessarily look younger on average (naturally at least), nose doesn't really affect how old you look unless you have a huge with honker, even then girls with ethinic noses can still look p young

No. 243673

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I think I somehow fucked up my ability to feel things like a normal person does. I obviously experience feelings, I just… don't seem to experience them very well, if that makes any sense.

I was a lonely, awkward kid, so I spent my entire childhood reading, watching movies, cartoons, whatever form of media I could get my hands on, and I think that might have been the issue. When I read romance novels I felt so many emotions, like it was actually me who was going through everything. Sad stories made me feel real heartache and would leave me sad for weeks. Doesn't matter the genre, I always felt something. I made up my mind and became a social butterfly expecting to go through all those things by myself… but I felt nothing? Love was boring, I did develop feelings for the guys but I swear I feel more watching a romance movie that actually going through it. Sad stuff doesn't really affect me. My family is ok but I don't feel any form of deep connection or love towards them, nor to my friends. I don't know what's wrong with me, I almost completely stopped consuming any sort of media in hopes that my issue was that I was "addicted" (wtf) to it like people addicted to porn, but it didn't work. It's not that I'm depressed or want to kill myself or anything, it's just that this life is incredibly boring when you're like this.

No. 243687

i mean the nose definitely does, the reason is because babies and young children have a recessed bridge as well, i'm not pulling this out of nowhere. asians also tend to have thicker skin so they look more youthful without makeup, especially with japan's natural makeup trend and the namida bukuro trend makes it worse.

No. 243688

They also tend to wear a fringe because they tend to have fiveheads.

No. 243692

That concept is called neoteny.

No. 243693

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I’ve had 5 anxiety attacks over the last three days, along with paranoia (mainly health related), loss of appetite and insomnia. This behavior isn’t normal for me these days, I’ve just been under incredible stress this week. I have a bad habit of pressing my tongue against the roof of my mouth when I’m stressed. Last night I did it so hard I felt a pop and suddenly I could breathe clearer and my whole face felt like it shifted, I also had some broken blood vessels on the roof of my mouth. I went to the ER this morning (no primary care in place), and I was told I shifted my sinuses a bit, I’m in no danger and it should be okay. Some general sinus/allergy problems are probably going to happen because it’s related to my sinus. The thing is though I’m still feeling a lot of anxiety about this and am paranoid I broke something or it’s more serious and the doctor didn’t know what he was talking about or something. I acknowledge that I’m probably just being paranoid, but if any anons have any input or kind words I’d appreciate it. I’m purposely not googling it to avoid triggering myself right now so I’m at a loss of how to change what im thinking it is.

im setting up an appointment to start therapy again tommorow. I’m feel like I’m driving my boyfriend crazy by being paranoid so im trying to not talk to him about it anymore. I’m so scared I’m dying or broke something in my face or something. Right now I’m just having post nasal drip and relatively tame sinus pressure/pain, along with feeling like my voice sounds weird

No. 243696

I thought thinner skin = more youthful? Imo the average everyday asian doesn't exactly look younger or more neotany than any other race, then again I see them all the time where I live vs someone who doesn't see them as often or only sees them on the internet would probably think so

No. 243697

Yes, thank you. There are quite a few studies that cite east asians, Japanese specifically as neotenous looking in general.

No. 243699

I also see them all the time where I live as well and I don't really agree. Also thicker skin gives a more youthful look because it hides bluing from veins etc.

No. 243700

There are studies for all kinds of crazy stuff from curvier women being more intelligent next minute theyre saying women with smaller breasts make better grades, I don't really trust studies that revolve around looks since its so easily manipulated

Depends, if its china town vs downtown south korea where tons of surgery happens then its easy to disagree, i mean im not saying they look haggard or hideous, I just dont think they're all ugu baby faces everyone makes them out to be

No. 243719

Sometimes I don't know if im a fucked up unlikable human being or i just have shitty luck, i honestly don't know how I haven't killed myself yet, the only thing that's stopping me is my boyfriend

No. 243723

Got a respiratory infection for 6th time in three months fml

No. 243726

Guys with alopecia are fucking hot to me UGHHH I don't know what is it

No. 243735


>liking balding dudes

Way to ruin your future son's life

No. 243738

I feel like I’m wasting my youth. There’s so much beauty and happiness to experience in this world and I’m still a total sack of shit. I mean I could get out there and finally do something but I don’t know if I just have issues within myself that I still need to fix/deal with, or maybe I am just a lazy bitch who makes up these stupid excuses for being so unmotivated and dull. I am never getting anywhere in life.

No. 243739

>maybe I am just a lazy bitch
Calling yourself that makes you seem like you have issues within yourself.
I have traveled quite a bit and seen a lot of beauty. But I still feel empty and unhappy. Once you manage to go out and see what you want to see you'll soon figure out if its an issue within yourself or not.

No. 243740

men inherit their tendency to bald from their mother’s father so no

No. 243743

Either way I'd just like to fuck one, it's not that deep.

No. 243756

You're retarded.

No. 243758


What do you like about them anyways? They look so sleazy.

No. 243762

about guys with alopecia? idk i think its because ive met quite a few of them in my life and they were all nice, well dressed/rocked the totally bald look with confidence etc.

No. 243782

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I used to love this website a few years ago, visited every day and loved having a community of like minded women in /g/ and /b///ot/ but holy shit it's turning to an actual pile of steaming cancer and it's actually sad see it go down like this since i spent a big chunk of my (late)teenage years chatting with anons on these boards.

The threads reek of underage people, everyone seems to infight for fucking the tiniest most minute thing for hours, everyone resorts to calling everyone a fatty if they are not ana-chans or vice versa, it's full of pedophiles and shit, people here sound fucking mental and super underage at times (like killing yourself over eye colors or not having an underweight bmi), if anyone is not an edgy cunt or disagrees about this board culture at it's current state anons resorts to go back to "x" or no1curr instead of trying to have a civil discussion about it, petty nitpicking about everything, no one is willing to listen to anyone and everyone seems to only like to complain, etc.

I cannot even remember the last time i saw a thread that did not derail for the most petulant bullshit into everyone calling each other names like this is some kinda high-school cafeteria or some shit.

This went from a chan full of picking apart shit and cattiness contained on the gossip boards while simultaneously being able to communicate bluntly with one another in non gossip boards (which i enjoyed) like fucking adults to a board full of edgy underage sounding people projecting their insecurities on everyone and reeeing about everything at any chance they get.

This whole board basically turning into a bunch of /manure/ tier posts and i'm sad to see it get to this state as an oldfag.

>inb4 go back to cc or no1curr

No. 243786

Agreed, I miss how it was a few years ago, even in pt and snow people have to infight, then again the internet was just better in general pre 2016

No. 243787


I'm not saying I necessarily agree with you, but what would you suggest for changing the current mood?
I can cede that derailing and infighting seems to be a major problem, but even in the early Kiki/Tumblr/Yukapon threads we had people shitting up the threads. I think the vent threads/relationship advice are generally good and that it's actually mellowed out a bit in ot/g.

No. 243798

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Agreed, the average farmer insanity has reached unbearable levels. Some Anons are so insecure it's painful.
ex :
>The one who said she wanted to off herself because of her small breast
>The one who regularly vent about how much she hate being a woman because she KNOWS that nobody will ever take her seriously and everyone think she is worthless
>The one who said being anorexic skinny is the most beautiful body type and the ONLY elegant one and anything else is vulgar.

No. 243804

I agree too, I think the main issue is that people are stewing in bitterness and it's becoming cancer because of that. Like I'm almost sure most of these anons are literally only spending their time here or on other chan boards, obsessing about shit they hate and making themselves feel worse. Like all these people >>243798 mentions, are stuck in this chan board bubble. And we have so many threads geared towards self-deprecation or bitterness. Vent threads are fine, but the hate threads and loser thread and this new 'beauty trend' thread, just stop. The first rule of growing up and loving yourself is to fucking realize that other's opinions of you are basically meaningless and to care about your own true feelings, but if you're stuck on a site being fed shit like EVERYONE HATES FUCKING WOMEN 100% or telling you GIRLS WITH SMALL BREASTS ARE FUCKING WORTHLESS, how the fuck can you do that? And the worst thing is that these people don't want to be told wrong, they want validation for their insecurities. It almost makes me sick to come here… (but then i go to crystal cafe and it's worse).

No. 243826

What board is /b

No. 243840

Apparently this cosplay photographer that I've known forever is having a problem with his reputation again.
Basically people are accusing him of being a creep, and extrapolating word of mouth rumors like saying he's a child predator too.

Obviously certain rumors I don't believe, but I 100% believe he had been creepy towards the wrong person and now they have it out for him. He's a pretty bad autist and doesn't strike me as socially intelligent. Like he can't read people properly and his interactions are inappropriate. Maybe because he presents as a normal (albeit ugly) guy, people are shocked when he behaves how he does.

Even when he would chat with me, he'd make these really offhanded, sexually-charged comments and jokes. Of course I knew better, because the truth is he's too beta/autismo to ever act upon them. Yet other women don't know that. Nor do they have to! He shouldn't be making these comments to people when he doesn't have that kind of relationship with them.

Anyway, he's completely stuck in this victim mentality now because of how far this other party has taken the shit talking on social media. And I'd hate to sound harsh but he kinda deserves it for not laying low and just maintaining professionalism with his clients.

I can't say anything though. He's already giving me a list of 'suspects' on his fb and they're according to these trivial slights. He's practically behaving like a cow.

No. 243892

>but if you're stuck on a site being fed shit like EVERYONE HATES FUCKING WOMEN 100% or telling you GIRLS WITH SMALL BREASTS ARE FUCKING WORTHLESS, how the fuck can you do that?
I totally agree. That's why I got frustrated with the farmer who complained about the former. I think people need to get outside more and realize things are different outside of the internet and their heads.

No. 243898

>The one who said being anorexic skinny is the most beautiful body type and the ONLY elegant one and anything else is vulgar.
Except that anon only said skinny, not anorexic skinny and then a bunch of blatantly insecure people attacked her. The rest of the examples you listed are fucked up though.

No. 243900

that was me, I did say anorexic-skinny.

No. 243915

I wanna kill my fucking dad. He convinced me growing up that my mom was the abusive one so I hated her and I regret that so much. Now I'm in college two/three hours away and he treats my little brother like shit. I love my brother so much, I'd do literally fucking anything for him, he's such a good kid and my dad treats him like he's the biggest mistake he's ever made. I can't even be there for him because my dad shuts off his phone when he's mad.

It makes me feel so fucking guilty because I want to love my dad and I do but I hate him so much. He's very clearly mentally ill (was literally diagnosed bipolar but refuses to believe it) and when you just let him do whatever he wants he's actually a good dad. But then he does these unbelievably cruel things to my brother, he expects so much more from him than he did from me (because he's projecting onto him my guess) and the guilt is so much

I feel like the only way I can actually reach him is to do something really drastic. I can't stand seeing him hurt my brother and treating him like shit. I wish my brother could go live with our mom it's not fair that he has to live like this he deserves so much better I don't know what I can do

No. 243917

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I feel stupid for taking nearly 4 years to complete my CC courses despite my good GPA (like that even matters). I resent my parents because they set me back by forcing me to be homeschooled and never actually being taught anything. Being this old and barely getting started on my education embarrasses me and I want to cry.

No. 243924

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if it's any consolation I went to public school my whole life and made it to university at 17 and then failed out of my major because I'm retarded so at least you have a good GPA!

it's really easy to play the comparison game and feel like you're stuck playing catch up though, i feel you on that one.

No. 243946

My uni has been on strike for about 2 months now and it's not looking like it's ending soon. Now I'm hearing they might cancel the entire summer semester. If that happens then I suddenly can't get a few credits I need to take courses next year and to do a co op. The other local uni stopped accepting transfers and there is absolutely no way I can afford to go to a uni in another town. The uncertainty of the whole situation is really starting to make me depressed and I feel like my whole life is just crumbling apart.

No. 243961

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I’m convinced my mom might actually be a narcissist. I always knew she had an incredibly toxic personality but never thought it might be an actual disorder until I lurked the Margo thread for the first time. Only found out was gaslighting was a few days ago and to my surprise, my mom attempted to gaslight me earlier today. Pic related.

For context, we were having a heated conversation about a recent fight I had with her and my sister that started with my mom talking shit about my cousin’s weight, saying she thinks he’s bulimic because he’s “so dangerously thin” (implying 6’2” and 160 lbs is anywhere near sickly). She constantly talks negatively about other people’s weight, fat or skinny, because she’s always been insecure about her body and feels the need to put down people who are fatter or thinner than her to feel better. I did a dumb thing by telling her his weight was none of her business and that he’s fine, which led to her throwing a string of uncalled for, incredibly hurtful insults at me because any kind of criticism drives her insane no matter how minor it is. Then she put all the blame on me because in her eyes I was the aggressor for criticizing her, so in our text conversation I tried telling her she acted like an asshole and I was tired of taking the blame.

In the text you can see she tried convincing me that I’m the one who talks about people’s weight first, not her, and that I don’t realize I do it (all absolute bullshit). Last I saw her I overheard her discussing how fat her best friend had supposedly gotten over the past year to her cousins in a different room than me, which I overhear her do all the time, so I know she’s full of shit. She also brought my insecurity with my own weight into it as “proof” that it’s all me bringing up weight issues, because I mentioned to her a few times that I’m trying to lose weight.

I’m kinda devastated right now thinking that my mom is probably a narc, it would make so much sense because of what a horrible, manipulative person she is. She’s always tried to put the blame on me for everything whilst pretending she’s a loving mother who only wants to “help me” not be the worthless fuckup she’s always painted me to be. And for the longest time I believed her. Smh.

No. 243962

Also wow, sorry for the extreme tl;dr.

No. 243963

Try reading "The emotionally absent mother" anon. She probably does what she does because she doesn't know any other way other than projecting on you. My mother does a similar thing regarding others appearance and weight too, she never understands why that kind of converssation makes me unconfortable.

No. 243968

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Are you in France? I only have a semester to complete and I'm supposed to have an internship for that so I'm fine (well no, but that's because I don't have an internship) but some friends are in the same situation. It's fucked up, I hope it'll work out and you'll pass your exams on time.

No. 243971

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I think she's from Canada, I have a Canadian friend in the same situation (also I'm French and that's the first thing I asked as well lmao).

My vent:
I have an internship left to complete as well, but absolutely nobody will have me because I lack experience due to studying abroad for a long time in a non-English speaking country. I was so close to getting an internship at Citibank but they blew me off at the last stage and I'm sad.
Right now my parents are trying to find me something abroad through the Lizardman Diaspora Network (tm) but I'm scared nothing will come up.

Fuck, I'm a good student, why does nobody want to hire me? Been applying since January and nothing.

No. 243986

There is nothing sadder and more entertaining than an ugly girls trash talking a pretty one without realizing that everyone can see how jealous she is. I thought it only happened in shitty movies .

No. 243988

It's the same shit in Canada too? Isn't it even worse since tuition is super expensive like in the UK and the USA? Damn, imagine paying thousands of dollars for litterally nothing.

Also I know I shouldn't say that but it's nice seeing I'm not the only one who can't get an internship. In my case I'm too poor to leave my city for an internship and there's almost no opportunity where I am, and mine is supposed to be long so it's a paid one and no employer wants to spend money. Even though they look for students who already have years of professional experience. Go figure.

Worst part is that I'm a good student too and I'm ready to work hard and all that, meanwhile a lot of people in my course got really interesting internships and they do a horrible job (their words, not mine) and want to stop because they don't have enough free time to party.

No. 244021

>anon is talking about literal evolutionary science
>you start mentioning bs about "looks"

what the fuck get out of this conversation. lmao.

No. 244037

Feeling very anxious about meeting up with someone who wants to repair a relationship that was crummy and took a lot to get over when it was done.
Plan on telling the person that it would not be in my best interest to let them back into my life.
Extreme anxiety about their possible reaction.
Must get it over with because it would be better to do in a controlled situation than one where they can ambush me.
I never wanted a weekend to end as much as this one.

No. 244043

lol i'd just ghost them

No. 244049

How do you girls feel about targeted misogyny from men of your own race?

I realize a lot of you are thick skinned enough to brush it off, but it honestly affects me quite a bit because asian men bashing asian women is very common online considering men have fragile egos and interracial dating is common for asian americans.

At this point I'd outright say I despise asian men though not all are like that but I feel a deep resentment towards them collectively.

No. 244051

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I am really glad I got my IUD, but this heavier period bullshit is so annoying. I am on my 4th day bleeding like it's my first. Also, I am way more bloated than usual and it's particularly bad when I am currently trying to keep track and lose weight.

No. 244052

I'm asian I can relate. I just hate other asian guys. They hold us to such ridiculous standards and they are just losers or neets themselves. That's probably why so many of the asian guys I know are still virgins. They all expect us to be perfect and not even have a single flaw or wrinkle when they have acne or don't even work. I can't deal with them so I don't.

No. 244053

Men of all races
1)hate women of their own race
2)think women of their race give as much of a shit about interracial couples as much as they do so go out of their way to glorify women of another race, then when they realize no one gives a shit they scream about how women of their race are all cheating filthy ugly fake whores and how women of x race are cool, classy, loyal, traditional, attractive, etc, then when people get upset they scream about how "UR ALL JELLY UR GETTING REPLACED AND CUCKED!!!" When they don't realize its not interracial dating is not the problem its how they put false ideas in their head about different races and treat women of their race badly over their own delusions
3) Even after all this time they spent ranting about how awful women of their own race are and how they want nothing to do with them, they get pissed when women of their race date outside their race, like if you think theyre so awful and like x race so much then why the fuck do you care? It just is major hypocrisy and makes it sound like they dont even like x race and are just pretending to like them for their revenge fantasies when in reality no one gives a shit

Its not just with white guys either, I've seen it a lot with black, latino, asian and arab men who fetishize white women, white men who fetishize asian, latin arab and black women

No. 244055

I'm a black girl (with a white boyfriend) and this is so true, lmao. There's a subset of black guys who bash black women all day and talk about how other women are better, but then lose their temper if black women dare to date interracially. They make such disgusting comments, too.
It's funny how this sort of psychosis seems so innate to men, across all races/cultures.

No. 244058

It really does, im white and like racially ambiguous looking guys, I've dated asian and hispanic guys before and they'll bash women of their own race so much, one even told me about how all his brothers and dad would date and marry white women then get mad if they brought home women of their own race but next minute whine about their sisters dating white guys

No. 244060

my boyfriend just found out that the only father figure he's ever had died yesterday and i have no idea what to do. he texted me from work freaking out, and then his mom texted me and basically said that she's glad he has me because he is going to need me and that she's very worried about him, and i am similarly very very worried. he used to have a pretty bad drinking problem before we started dating and throughout our relationship he has developed a much healthier relationship with alcohol but i'm scared he's going to relapse after this. my boyfriend never met his dad and this man was the closest he ever got to having a dad and he died with no warning, no chance to say goodbye. he had seen him the day before he passed and had no idea he would never see him again.

i just feel so, so horrible. i know he is in agony, emotionally, and i feel like i can't do anything to help. like i keep trying to think of ways to make him feel better when he gets home from work but the only thing i've thought of is getting his favorite candy and rolling a blunt to hand him at the door but that's like… that's like shit that i do for my friends when they lose their jobs or get dumped, y'know? that doesn't feel like appropriate or enough for the love of my life basically losing his father. i've never experienced this kind of loss though, and i just want to be there for him but i have no clue the best way to be there for him and take care of him and help him.

i'm very sad about his passing as well, for different reasons, and i feel like i have to keep that to myself because i know my boyfriend can't handle consoling me right now which is completely understandable, but this is such a heavy, awful feeling and i don't have anyone in real life i can talk to right now and i'm just very scared and sad and having The Worst 4/20 Ever lmao

No. 244069

My bf got into these generic stupid moe anime and ever since it has driving me up the wall, I fear he will never drop this phase. He is wasting stupid amounts of money on figures of high school teenagers and he listens to shitty weeb music and talks about it all of the time. One particular character he basically acts like its his "waifu", a sexualised high school girl no less. The behaviour is as cringe as being a brony (who ironically he makes fun of) or worse in my eyes and he wasn't like this when we met. It feels like I can't say anything but this is going to drive me up the wall, I don't want to lose him over this.

No. 244071

Show him abby brown's thread and ask him if that's what he wants to turn himself into, because if it is you'll be gone.

No. 244072

I got nexaplanon (the arm implant) and Ive been bleeding for a solid two weeks
and im still spotting

My Vent/Rant:
My first boyfriend said he was bisexual before we got together, and now he says he might be asexual.
Which is fine i guess because vaginal intercourse isn't the most appealing thing to a virgin like me BUT FOR FUCKS SAKE why didn't he come to this conclusion before I got a hormonal rod jammed up my arm thats been making me bleed forever.

Also have been meticulously planning my first time w him, including buying a dildo to pop my own cherry beforehand. IT WAS ALL FOR NOUGHT

Im also just hurt that despite how cute i am, he's not sexually attracted to me. Makes me feel pretty unattractive. He says he likes looking at my face, but my boobs are just a soft pillow to him. Feels bad man

No. 244073

if it makes you feel any better anon, one time a boy decided he was asexual after hooking up with me once but then continued to sleep with me and didn't tell me he was asexual because he "felt bad" kek

No. 244074

I don't know what I want for my love/sex life.
On one hand I would love to live a cute romance without sex for a while (multiple month of flirting would be awesome, I've never done that), on the other I wish I could meet a cute guy and have sex with him on the same day. I have a difficult time waiting… I always want to go right to the sex, and I'm not sure I would get anything out of waiting for it.

No. 244076

Well on the plus side you are prepared for the next 3 years to lose your virginity.

And two weeks isn't forever, at least not compared to the 3-6 months it is normal to constantly bleed/spot :')

No. 244079

>nexaplanon making you bleed

I wish there was a better explanation for why this happens to some and not others. I've had this since 2013, on my second implant now and I didn't bleed once, except some spotting towards the end life of my last one.

My biggest issue is that it's much harder for me to lose weight, I've gained a ridiculous amount and I don't remember it being such a chore until I went on this bc specifically. I've read articles of women gaining upwards of 100 pounds on it. It's been a great bc, but this aspect of it makes me anxious.

Anyway, I relate a bit to you anon because me and my bf aren't fucking hardly at all. We're in the 4th year of living together and I'm honestly tired of putting my health on the line for something I'm not getting use from.

No. 244084

yeah, ive gained about four pounds from 112 to 116 and its been making me anxious but ive been going to the gym more to rein it in
this uninterested bf business is making me emotional eat tho so i gotta b careful

he told me he's up to have sex if I want but ive been on the fence since its a very unusual situation, ive always thought the guy would b the more enthusiastic one
Its nice to hear from someone else in the same bc boat, do u use condoms w ur implant anon?

No. 244085

did u break it off w him? ive been considering if me and my bf are better off as friends if he isn't going to give me the intimacy i need, but its so hard to think about my first relationship ending

i dunno he says hell talk it through w me tomorrow, but i don't wanna force him to do anything against his nature or just bury my needs

No. 244087

>I'm not sure I would get anything out of waiting for it.
Same thing you'd get from edging while masturbating: the increased time you wait before getting satisfied is enjoyable in itself and it also makes it more intense when it finally happens.

Some people like it, some don't. I particularly like edging because I can stand five minutes of almost-cumming, but I could never stay with someone for months in horny agony. I don't think it's worth it.

No. 244088

i did, altho there were other reasons aside from just the asexuality thing but that was definitely my nail-in-the-coffin dealbreaker. he said that he would be fine with continuing to have sex for my sake but at least for me, there's zero appeal in having sex with someone who is just doing it as a chore or a kind gesture and isn't actually into it.

sex is something that i know that i, personally, could not live without in a relationship tbh. obviously i don't know yr relationship so take my advice with a grain of salt but: the end of your first relationship is terrifying and devastating but it's always for the better if you're not satisfied. if your needs aren't being met or are not able to be met and that's causing you to be unhappy then you can't let that stop you just because you're comfortable and it's scary.

but!! y'know again i don't know you guys and it's totally that possible you guys could figure out a way to make things work and both feel comfortable, i'm just speaking from my personal experience.

No. 244089

Is this normal?

I got one of my dream dresses in the mail today. I happen to pass by my friend on the way to the campus mail center. I tell her about getting it in the mail, and she begs to see the dress even though she usually doesn't like how I dress. No big deal.

Walking somewhere else, we run into our friend who is working so we stop and chat. Since I have my dress with me I go ahead and show him it. Then a customer comes up and is ordering something. While the guy goes behind the counter, my friend turns to the customer and out of nowhere asks what she thinks of my dress. I just feel so awkward that I say sorry and I start walking away.

Don't get me wrong, I love talking to strangers and I don't feel self conscious wearing lolita in public but I felt really put on the spot there, and I feel like the customer did too. There's a good chance she was going to feel the dress was ok, but what was she supposed to say if she didn't like the dress?

I told my friend it was weird to ask a stranger that but she insisted that it was normal.

I feel like I'm really awkward and I bother strangers too much but I feel like my friend takes it to another level. For example, during last Halloween, we were standing in a dorm lobby and she overheard some people talking about going out the next day. Even though she didn't know them at all, she asked if she could go out with them. I felt super embarrassed and I told them that my friend had been drinking too much, but I don't even think she was that drunk.

No. 244094

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Woc fetishists in a nutshell tbh
, I couldn't find the entire scene though

No. 244095

I’m starting to realize that no man is ever going to love me, I’m ugly, chubby, and guys only talk to me until they manage to find an actual girlfriend worthy of love and affection and then they pretend I don’t exist. This has literally happened with the last 4 guys I’ve spoken to so obviously the problem is me, I’m ugly and crazy and unwanted and unlovable. I shouldn’t never left my last boyfriend, he ignored me and probably cheated on me but no one else will ever want me.

No. 244098

Why are you trying to pop your own instead of letting your boyfriend do it? I mean I lost mine accidentally but I wish I could have "given" my cherry away. Seems pointless to do it on purpose unless he would hate the blood but its only a tiny bit.

No. 244100


By pop your own cherry I assume you mean your hymen. That’s not how it works. It’s a myth. People bleed because they’re not turned on enough/loose enough and they force it in. You don’t have to bleed your first time.

No. 244103

no guys i just meant i was stretching myself out at my own pace so that i wouldn't get the jamming treatment most girls get their first time

like being pressed down into a split forcibly vs training yourself to do a split by yourself

No. 244105

Update: we broke up!~
we're gonna say it was mutual but i would've stuck around if he didn't admit he wanted to go back to being friends\ this sucks but oh weell

thanks for everyones advice! <3

No. 244116

I don't really use condoms, only because I've been with my bf for so long. We both are clean and we both have the same ideas about accidental pregnancy–not that we had to worry.

During the year that I was single I did wear condoms with some guys I was dating, because it still won't protect against stds of course. I never worried about pregnancy.

I will say that for me, it made me dry down there and I noticed a decrease in my sex drive.

She sounds super extroverted, maybe to the point where she doesn't realize that public scenes make you uncomfortable.
I prefer to think optimistically about this and say that perhaps she wanted people to notice how you looked in the dress and was fishing strangers to give you compliments. It sounds well-intentioned, just not your cup of tea.

No. 244117

There's a guy who loves me very much. I used to have feelings for him, but he never really made me feel happy. He didn't fit my standards, in emotional ways, he couldn't satisfy me. We had a falling out once in december, lost contact, and he contacted me again one month later. He is clinging onto me emotionally, though I don't have feelings anymore. It's a special case, he's never had anyone who could ever relate to him, he thinks I'm his soulmate and the only girl who is worth dating in this world, the only one who understood him. For additional context, he went through a lot of hardships in life, I liked him because I felt like how depressed he was evoked an emotional response to me. However, he's really fucked up and mentally ill. He tried to cut contact with me multiple times and we've hurt each other but it was mostly him hurting me.

It's no longer a toxic relationship, but because we don't talk anymore. it's been a month, he's on my discord, but he just wants to know I'm there. I want to completely cut contact out of selfishness even though it seems he needs me in some way. The reason why is because I've found a man who was better than him for me in every way, and I don't feel comfortable having him around when I have a perfect boyfriend now. It reminds me of my past, maybe I'm slightly ashamed I was so intimate with a person who wasn't good for me. I guess I want to erase every trace of him and everything to do with my past.

I once told him I'd never abandon him. I've also told him that if I got a boyfriend I'd never tell him so I don't hurt him.

Should I cut him loose?

No. 244118

Uh… I was wet AF and extremely turned on, but it still hurt a fuckton and I bled the first time. Maybe it's not super universal like people are under the impression of, but it's definitely a thing for at least some people.

No. 244119

I'd leave him. He turned into a degenerate. People change and grow apart, don't feel pressured into accepting his bullshit. I've talked to plenty of these weeby guys who are into memes, vidya, and obsess over moe anime and they are absolute scum with horrible taste. The geek community has fallen and "ironic" moe little girl anime types is the root cause. There's so much better anime out there he should be into.

No. 244120

>he's never had anyone who could ever relate to him, he thinks I'm his soulmate and the only girl who is worth dating in this world, the only one who understood him.
That's what at least 3 of my exes said. Then they got bored and fucked me over or continued acting like dickbags.

Do not trust words, look at his actions. If I were you, I'd cut contact and block him.

No. 244126

>suicide attempt late 2015
>visited parents
>glance at bills on counter as i was getting some soda
>its my 3k ambulance bill
What do I do anons? I feel so weird, I wanna pay for it but I dont have the funds, I dont even know why they just got the bill now

No. 244130

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I just wanted to say I know how you feel (kek) and it makes me feel a little better knowing I'm not alone. Thank you.

No. 244131

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I hope It's alright to post this here, I was looking for advice, I guess? But also to vent. What should one do in the case of someone liking you a whole lot more than you like them?

I made an online friend a few months ago whose a very socially isolated person. She doesn't have any friends (even online) outside of her family and was bullied throughout school, which has left her with low-self esteem and very socially anxious. I'm a naturally very friendly and encouraging person. So I've been there to listen to her problems from time to time and to encourage her to try to go out, make new friends and reassure her that she's a person that people would love to meet if she got over her shyness. Anyway, I think somewhere down the line she got the idea that we're totally besties and I just don't have the heart to break it to her that we're really not. The reason we talk so much is because we have the same interests and are online at the same time a lot. The other day she even told me she (platonically) loved me. (pic related) Maybe that makes me a cunt? I don't know, but I just don't feel what she feels towards me.

Anyway, this all came to a head when I was telling her about this anime con I was planning on going to. She was saying maybe she should fly down to go to it too, I told her that was fine if she wanted to go for the con itself, but that It's not a good idea to go just to see me. (I go to cons to meet new people and I don't want someone clinging on my arm the entire time) She admitted she'd only want to go to see me and I told her straight up that I didn't think that was a good idea. That clearly upset her and she signed off in a bad mood, we haven't really talked since and I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for in terms of advice, I guess this turned out to be more of a vent thing. Is it possible I'm an asshole for somehow … Platonically leading her on?

No. 244134

Honestly just tell her the truth. You can't force your feelings and shouldn't feel too guilty about that. I've been in a similar position to the other girl, when you're socially retarded with no friends it's way too easy to get attached to anybody who is a little bit nice. If it were me, I'd much rather know if somebody didn't like me as much as I liked them because I don't want to be a burden and I bet that girl feels the same. You're going to hurt her feelings and likely stop talking either way but it's better to outright say what you're feeling instead of dropping contact out of nowhere.

No. 244137

It's definitely not media as normal people consume a fuckload of it. I would recommend both of you look into schizoid personality disorder and see how well you identify with that, especially OP.

No. 244138

save up? it's a bill from 2015. it's already late. i doubt your parents expect you to pay it in full, but eventually paying a good part of it would be kind.

No. 244139

Nah I (the second anon) think I can safely say I'm not schizoid… I think. There's a couple of people I feel very close to enough to warrant genuine emotion. Except sometimes my emotions will flip-flop if they do something my brain disapproves of. I guess I'm a little crazy. I'm also jealous of people having cozy friend groups; all my friends were back in college and now they're scattered across the country. A lot of them are from small towns where everyone's known each other from like kindergarten and settled back comfortably. I'm from a big city and it's never been like that for me. The kids I grew up with are either pushers or never grew out of high school because they stayed in the city.

Not really a vent, just hurt feelings (I'm not so emotionless, I guess…!) bubbling up to the surface… I want to have friends other than my SO. I'm quite boring so it makes it difficult and I'm easily mentally exhausted.

I think some of us were just programmed to be mostly alone… ow the edge

No. 244140

Im going to save up and pay part, it blows my mind they even still have it, I dont know if it was part of the payment plan or thats the total, i dont even know if by the time i am able to pay it off they still need it and im scared to bring it up again because of how much i know it bothers them and i hate to say but my parents are both extremely mental unstable

No. 244141

You're totally right, I should just be honest with her. Thank you for the advice, anon, I really appreciate it!

No. 244142

After 1 month and three intervews I didn't get the job ;_;

No. 244152

>I'm also jealous of people having cozy friend groups
do you actually know any real adults who are like that? In real life everyone has fewer/few friends as an adult. tv shows are lies

No. 244161

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Ugh. I’ve been thinking a lot about my love life recently….and that I basically ruined my first relationship which happened earlier this year, I am 18 btw. I was friends with this guy for a couple months or whatever, he ended up getting feelings for me. At first I was sure I didn’t want to be in a relationship right then, because my depression was really bad due to me having to be homeschooled this year. Obviously, I was really lonely since I was by myself 24/7, so I was glad to have made online friends with people, him included. He told me that he couldn’t just see me as a friend anymore and that he would have to stop talking to me if I couldn’t be his girlfriend. (I know this seems like a red flag but I had prior relationships so I was very naive). I stood my ground for a bit, but eventually I could tell he still wanted more, after a couple weeks I decided to give it a shot.

Meanwhile, all this happening I am extremely behind in my classes, forcing me to feel like complete shit and seek out comfort/reassurance. (I know it’s my own fault but I did get my shit together so pls no bulli). He was there for me and even offered to help me, but would get frustrated that I wanted to do it on my own, he also got annoyed when I wasn’t affectionate with him, I’m….not really the affectionate type and I kinda have trust issues when it comes to guys. I did mention this to him before we even started dating, so I wouldn’t feel as guilty if he knew what I was going to be like. He would make comments about me having an eating disorder, which didn’t help with my already low self-esteem. I have really bad phone anxiety, so when he would call on discord I would just type in chat instead of speaking, I did speak every once in a while though.

Shit hit the fan when I decided to move for a couple months to a different relative, so I could focus on my schooling. I told him beforehand that I was going to be busy, things got really tense after we had an argument about it, I couldn’t handle it so I ended up shutting him out. I just did my school work and sometimes talked in the group chat, but barely talked to him, since leaving him unanswered would make him upset, so my logic was that I couldn’t leave him on read if I just didn’t talk to him when I can’t have a full conversation. I got really close to being caught up and one day he blew up at me, calling me cruel and comparing me to his friends girlfriends, etc. It was heartbreaking, and I just wanted to be done with it all, it was too much to handle. We discussed it and we both had different sides to our stories, but I did apologize for just shutting him out and not talking to him about it.

We agreed on a break and eventually he broke up with me when it was “too long” for him to wait. I felt really sad at first, and still do sometimes like today but for the most part I am relieved. We we’re only dating 3 months but there were some good times, but I sometimes worry he thinks I’m a terrible person. He recently re-join my group chat after a couple months and….I kinda wish he wasn’t in there, but I can’t kick him out since he’s friends with my friends. And I watched some of my favorite animes with him, but now when I watch them I think of him and it makes me sad. I wish I could go back and never have said yes. I can’t tell who was worse in the relationship, but at least I don’t have to worry about it as much as when we were together. THIS IS REALLY LONG I JUST NEEDED TO GET IT OUT…

No. 244164

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If your obsession is this false idea of azns being the epitome of perfection look at Korea 80 years ago, look at pre-imperial Japan. Korea was literally a giant mudflap settlement before colonization and its sudden emergence in the mid 20th century.

Asians idolize europe because they were late to colonization and have always been inferior in development to european countries. They aren't magically dainty, they actually have denser bone structure and skulls than their european/african counterparts. If you have a problem with frizzy hair get it perma straightened once a year, learn to work with your facial structure and see other perspectives on beauty outside the infanticized image of Asian shit, you may actually have great facial bone structure to others and be using shitty makeup techniques that make you look bad. I'm not big on tans either and am mixed azn whitey and actually have trouble finding foundations that fit my yellow-pink undertone so I just use the obsessive white people tan tones, just settle for shit.

I hate to get too racially invested but your outlook is unrealistic to the true reality of race, i'd be more worried about recent findings in genetics proving asians to be higher IQ on average to their racial counterparts.

I implore you to do some research into your own race whatever it is, and some into asian races. You'll find shit and things you love about all races there really is no such thing as a perfect people.

No. 244169

wtf is this picture??

No. 244170

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Its a meitu-fied version of fucked up Brendan Fraser kek

No. 244175

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Around december I had a friends with benefits type of relationship with a guy I met on a Discord server with some mutual friends. Not everything went well but we didn't break off contact, the server we're in is quite nice, it isn't worth it to spread drama there. He kept playing with my feeling though, and he was still asking for nudes and to meet up quite often. In February I got into a great relationship, I'm happy together with my boyfriend now. I told the discord guy, in the hopes of him leaving me alone. But yesterday I got messages from him again, asking for nudes. He hasn't stopped since I've got into a relationship. I want to break off contact, but I don't want to leave the discord server. Btw; the server consists of about 20 people, so it's quite small.

No. 244176

I've been in a similar situation a while back. I wasn't behaving well in my previous relationship (neither did my ex) and my ex is spreading bullshit about me online, but I know better. I'm not what he's telling everyone. It's best to break contact with him for a while, you don't even have to come back to him, not even on a platonic level. Do your friends know that you're in this emotional situation? I'm sure they'll understand you'd want to break contact with him in this situation. As for the anime, try to avoid watching these for a while and find some other anime you really enjoy. Time really fixes a lot, especially when you use it actively. You can come back to the anime later, the associations might be still there, but it's probably easier to rewatch them after a period of time. I hope you feel better soon, anon!

No. 244177

Politely tell him to stop asking.

No. 244179

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I think I'm an alcoholic.

No. 244182

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>thinking she hasn't done that already
Oh, anon. So naive.

Just straight up tell him to fuck off and never talk to you again, damn. If he takes that drama to the server, that's on him and not you.

No. 244209

First step is admitting anon

Next step is getting help

No. 244212

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Literally why do people outside of impoverished backgrounds want to become models? It's literally just labor, but with added sanctions on your body. I can understand if you're a young Slavic girl from a very poor family who wants to make money without resorting to out and out prostitution, but I feel like everyone else romanticizes it. The vast majority just work and work with little to "meh" pay unless they make it big (which is rare), and then there's the issue of creeps in the industry who will try to take advantage of you.

If it's about the aesthetic, validation and vanity, what's stopping you from getting skinny, putting together cool outfits, hiring a photographer (or even just learning how to pose and having a friend take pics), and putting yourself out there online? If you have something about you worth looking at and cater to a niche, the fame, money and attention will basically gravitate to you naturally. At that point, you could actually get asked to model for some shows. You could cater everything to fit you and your taste instead of having to work hard to fit someone else's vision.

I really just don't get it.

No. 244217

Thanks to my depression and general privilege in life I've never had to do much. I am incredibly lazy and my only obligation right now is class twice a week for four hours. I spend every waking moment laying in bed online. I know it's super unhealthy, but it's practically all I've ever known, and I recently got a job and will be working 8 - 16 hours a week (with a chance for more, especially in the summer) plus I'm starting college full-time in the fall. I'm already ridiculously stressed out about how much it's cutting into my free time… but I know having the amount of free time I have is ridiculous to pretty much every other person alive. I'm also sad because I know they're going to make me work mostly weekends which are my boyfriend's only days off so that cuts into our time spent together now, even though we live together. It just sucks but I know I had to grow up and do something with my life someday. I'm such a failure for being upset that I can't be a 24/7 potato anymore. Shouldn't I be glad that I'm gonna be studying and making money? Why am I so upset I have to give up my mindless Internet browsing?

No. 244219

>mom: I don't want to put any pressure on you to start driving or force you
>also mom: but if you'll ever need a ride and won't be able to get to work don't look at me or cry, you'll be sorry you didn't start sooner and listened to me

Gee thanks you cunt. I stopped driving after getting my license because I have major anxiety and it stresses me the fuck out. Not to mention the screaming when she was with me in the car. I used to be pretty confident (but still a bit scared) and she pretty much killed all the confidence I had. She'd literally yell at me for not holding the wheel she wanted me to, for going "too fast" (in an empty fucking parking lot) and constantly criticized what I was doing.

I wish my job was closer or I could walk there but there isn't even a sidewalk or anything. For now my cousin will drive me and tbh I hope he'll help me re-learn how to drive.

No. 244224

Avoid driving with your mum, find someone whether it be an instructor or your cousin to teach you who is able to make you feel more relaxed/confident.

It is horrible learning to drive with someone who makes your nerves worse or who makes you feel less confident, would recommend paying for a driving instructor if you can afford it.

No. 244225

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Had my university entrance exams today.
I really really hope I did well. They were so hard though… I did quite well on my mock exams but I don't feel too confident right now. Maybe I left too many questions blank? But that's better than getting them wrong…
I'm getting my results in 9 days, can't wait.
is it bad that i hope others did badly? these exams are scored on a percentile rank, so if a lot of people did badly, I have more of a chance of scoring well and getting in (and feeling good about myself)

No. 244229

So an interesting thing happened to my friend. You see, she has a few stalkers and they claimed to have found her email via her youtube and pictaro channel. It is weird because they have everything hidden on both accounts, even on youtube they have no videos up, just a blank account to watch videos. Do you guys know what could have possibly happened for such info to be leaked?

No. 244234

Has she clicked any suspicious links lately? Does she know anyone who might have knowledge of her email (bosses, coworkers, friends, even store owners if she buys stuff online)?

No. 244251

Yeah, my SO has a large friend group in his home town & they're people he's known since childhood. Like I said it seems to happen more for people from smaller towns/suburbs… I want to live in suburbia someday, I think, and know my neighbors. I can't wait! I hope it happens. Thank you for your reply.

No. 244259

i thought this was a corpse ngl lol

No. 244265

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lol this is a big one.

i'm on about a week and a half of new meds for bipolar, which i had NO idea that i had (this came after a first meeting with a psychiatrist at my school and she was basically like…you're describing hypomania to me. you're not just depressed). so now i'm on lamictal, am newly processing my past through the lens of bipolar disorder (a LOT of shit makes sense now), and am honestly kind of freaking out. i slept through my scheduled therapy appointment (second one!) last friday and i hate myself for that, because i really needed it. couldn't get another til the 30th. and i'm so in the habit of using my best friend as a rant receptacle/emotional crutch that he definitely hates me. and i have to stop, anyway, because that's no way to treat anyone and also because his beloved dog died and if anyone needs comfort it's him. which he won't even accept because he's "fine" which like. he's not. and i'm afraid that he won't want to reach out to me or anyone when he gets to the part of grieving where he needs someone. also i'm probably in love with him and everyone knows it and i hate myself so much for not being able to stop. it's not a big deal anymore but i just feel safe around him and i don't feel that safe around anyone else at college or like. anywhere. besides a few other people maybe.

and i'm in this big-ish friend group, him included, and a lot of us are living in an apartment together next year, and some of them are starting to get on my nerves. lately i've been feeling really restless and unsatisfied, like i want to go live a different life. which sounds really cliche when i type it out, but whatever. i went to a show tonight and realized that's what i'd love to be doing, being in some shitty band and touring and making like. just enough to keep doing it. or not really making enough and working some shit day job that i don't mind too much. and having really cool friends who i feel like i can connect with more. but i can't really play any instruments, and i was a tour groupie tagalong once a long time ago and kind of hated being crusty and tired from shitty sleep in a van and always smelling like cigs.

maybe i don't want to be in a band, then, but i like going to shows. and now i feel restless. i want to be a writer sometimes when it doesn't feel so unrealistic but i'm not that good and i can't tell the difference between my poems (yeah, ugh) that suck and the ones that don't suck so bad.

in a year i'll be graduating college. my loose plan is grad school and then some psychology career. i don't know if i'll be happy doing it. sometimes i think if i do it just right i'll get into the niche i'm aiming for and then i'll be okay. but who knows? maybe i'll graduate and then just go home for a couple months and then just wander off. just drop off the face of the planet. go west or something.

and i have so much work to do this week, and so many deadlines, and i have to fit in 20 hours of work somehow because i don't have enough money yet for a security deposit for my apartment next year. but all i want to do is be in another place and time or cease existing all together. the only improvement is that i'm not actively suicidal right now. i'm gonna stop now what a bitchfest. my fault for sleeping through that therapy appointment

No. 244274

joining the military is honestly a really good thing to do as a young adult, you'll save a lot of money, have valuable skills and it will look great on your resume when you're out
your friend sounds like a little weenie

No. 244282

Today’s my birthday, I went out drinking with friends but didn’t get too drunk cause I didn’t wanna feel like shit before bed. I guess I didn’t drink enough water before bed even though I felt fine because I just woke up and am trying not to vomit.
Praying it’s the alcohol and nothing else to ruin the rest of my weekend plans fml

No. 244288

Happy birthday! It's mine too, we can celebrate together :)
Sorry for the vomiting, I've heard taking a bit of baking soda (tip of a teaspoon) dissolved in water is good for nausea, have you tried that? It basically makes you burp a lot.

No. 244295

i was always taught to never leave any questions blank even if your know they're wrong. Shows that you tried and there's a possible chance you were right, but i'm not sure what kind of test it was.
Best of luck to you anon i hope you pass with flying colours!

No. 244464

>get new job
>nothing like description/interviewers/tour/company reviews/recruitment made it out to be
>basically the opposite of how it was sold to me
>can't just leave because my previous jobs were fixed term and leaving this one so quickly would make me look like a job hopper on my CV
>applying to other jobs is difficult because I'd need a reference from my current job

No. 244465

Broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years today. It wasn’t even because he did something or we were hurting each other it’s just been bleh for the last few months. I know I’ll get over him and move on, it just hurts at the moment. I wish it could work out but we are the complete opposites of each other and our life styles collide.

No. 244524

I hate how it's hard to find a decent ASMR video. There are tons of ASMRtists that pander to lonely men and make this cringy gf roleplays and a lot of them make sexualized ASMR videos that give the wrong impression what ASMR really is. I miss the early ASMR era when it was still not popular and people making ASMR videos were doing it because they were into it. Now so many people start their "ASMR" channel and start begging for Patreon/PayPal donations from day one or after a few vids. There's also this stupid trend of ASMRtists giving their subscribers a pet name.

No. 244533

I am just so fed up at times when it comes to being a black woman. Society already assumes the worst about us and puts us all into one single category based on the majority. If you’re dark skinned and have nappy hair, but bleach your skin or wear weaves then you must automatically hate yourself. But, if you keep those natural features and embrace it, people call it ugly. If you’re thick, people call you fat but if you want to lose weight and be skinny, people call you a crackhead or tell you it doesn’t look right. If you want to go to college and be somebody, you are told you’re bougie. But, if you don’t then you’re called stupid and another ‘statistic’. I feel like we always have to be perfect and if we aren’t we are put into a category to be criticized no matter what we do in order to get society to accept us.

No. 244535

There's lots of good ones out there. WhispersRed, Fairychar does makeup videos a lot, GentleWhispering, ObviouslyASMR if you're into guys, ASMRSurge who is I believe an Eastern Euro dude and doesn't do talking videos. You seem to have just stumbled upon one of the gross ones and the suggested videos took you on a wild ride.

No. 244538

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People are assholes and assume the worst based on other people's looks, if they're going to judge you and criticize you no matter what you do you might as well do whatever you think is the best for you. You could literally be perfect and some people would still try to find something wrong so they can criticize you anyway.
>If you want to go to college and be somebody, you are told you’re bougie.
Not black but I've been told similar things and also that I was trying too hard to act like I'm white for trying to become successful. You really think you should listen to people with such stupid arguments? Others should shut up and mind their own business.

No. 244539

Man so many anons are bitter as fuck towards asian women. Like, if you think they are all ugly and only the pretty ones are fake, why do you care if some men find them more attractive than white women? Doesn't that just weed out the bad men for you? And why care so much about the stereotype that asians look young and have straight hair, is it that enraging? Why make a bunch of posts about how there are europeans who look young as well and have straight hair? Why does stereotypes that do not affect you in any way bother you so much?

Like I don't whine about how there are asians who are curvy, not only black people or latinas!!! Or how some asians are tall, not only white people!!!

No. 244542

Fairychar is awesome, I also follow Latte, and Art of Sound ASMR. GentleWhispering and WhispersRed changed a lot for me, I used to love them but now the magic is sort of gone. They both make an immensely tingly vid from time to time but that's rarer now. There are great ASMRtists for sure I just don't like this new trend. It pollutes my queries so I don't bother searching for new asmr vids anymore like I used to.

I know it's not a big deal but I'm an insomniac and ASMR really helped me deal with that and it lowers my anxiety.

No. 244558

Why don't you go back to post your point there and argue like a real adult, instead of running here like some triggered little snowflake?
That thread is about girls who envy people like you, so shouldn't that be enough for your ego?
Just so that you can stop whining, yes, only asians look young and have perfectly straight hair, also, you are curvy and tall as well.
Are you happy now?

No. 244559

Lol I haven't posted in any of the threads you angry sperg. And I'm not even curvy or tall, those were just examples.

No. 244563

Oh, so it was just a coincidence that there was an argument about asians girls having straight hair in another thread at the same time you decided to post here?
Then please pardon me.

No. 244564

Wow it is almost like I skim through threads on when I scroll down on the site I frequent? I actually pay attention to what is posted on this site that I use? What a weird thing right?

No. 244565

So in the end you admit that your post was a reaction to what was posted in the thread kek

No. 244567

Yes, it was obviously a reaction to the sperging that has been happening on this site in the last couple of months. You know, since that was what my whole post was about.

No. 244568

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I procrastinated literally all day long on the internet because I don't feel like writing this paper. The sources are all there, just staring at me.

I'm the worst. Never again.

No. 244581

once you get out and do stuff and meet people you will realise how miserable your 24/7 couch potato life was and that you clinging to it as you are just now was a Stockholm syndrome of sorts.
source: have been in a similar situation

No. 244587

I actually just came back to update to my OP post, my orientation went really well and I had a lot of fun with my new coworkers. I still have another week before my first shift but it's only 4 hours and during great times so I have no idea what I was so upset and paranoid about. I'm looking forward to it!

I hope my life is looking up for the better. Although my coworkers are all younger than me and super successful… it's a bit disheartening. But I will get better. Thank you for replying, I think you're absolutely right.

No. 244620

omg anon I've been in the exact same situation as you it's uncanny. I also hoarded free time and just sat on the internet with it because to me free time=freedom and I also had to work or do chores as a teenager so it was also just my normal.

I was also scared of my first part time job/jobs for the exact reason and I was so fucking pleasantly surprised. Having some structure and working part time hours just made my still plentiful free time feel more luxurious and I even had more motivation to work out and do art and read books in my free time because I already had momentum from waking up and working. Working part time either gives me more energy to keep doing productive things, or it makes me tired enough that vegging out feels nice as fuck instead of just the needed requirement. Part time is the shit once you adjust to it.

I'm still kind of scared of the lack of free time if/when I have to get a full time job for years, but hopefully I can adjust to that too.

No. 244621

shit i replied to the wrong person

No. 244622

fuck i'm a mess. *didn't have to work or do chores. last time.

No. 244625

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I’m very mad at my body in general. I’ve been doing so well in terms of living a healthy lifestyle like cutting out red and processed meats, eating veggies, and minimizing added sugar intakes to the point where I only consume 30g of sugars a day just due to fruit. I do weightlifting 3 times a week complete with a kickboxing class and two times cardio. I control my caloric intake and got down to a nice weight and generally have been good.

So what does my body do? Breaks down and contracts shingles, stops producing periods for about five months, and causes me chronic pain in my shoulder. All this fucking work and time and effort put into my body and all it does is break down and get sick. I’m so mad I’ve been binge eating on and off this past week where I put out more than 2000 calories in a day. Honestly what’s the point if I’ve been sicker than I’ve ever been while doing all the right things??

No. 244626

I've been in your situation before but you need to stop lazing around. You need to try to start working out or something or otherwise you will fail your classes and/or graduate with a shitty GPA. But since your family is so rich maybe they can just take care of you like Pixie.

It's considered glamorous

You don't need your cousin driving you around. You need to be driving your cousin when he picks you up.

What's up with so many people on this board not being able to drive? Do y'all live in some place where it's really shitty to drive but there's no public transport like Atlanta?

No. 244630

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Holy shit I was such a fucking degenerate today.

>woke up

>smoked a leftover bowl
>got tired
>decided I didn't want to work today since it's my friday
>pay someone $65 to cover
>go tits deep into another bowl
>decide I'm hungry
>raid bf's cheese stash and slice off a thick cut of pepperjack
>smoke some more and watch youtube
>hungrier still
>pathetically call sushi joint to ask if bogo applies to takeout
>it does, realize I don't even have to call again cause I can order online
>buy 4 rolls and 2 hand rolls for $39
>save half for later, generously saving it for bf
>smoke a bowl
>get hungry again for dinner and decide to eat bf's portion too
>disposed the evidence

Feels good to have /no control/

No. 244690

I doubt anyone is going to sympathize with me on this, but I'm not happy how my professor responded when I tried to talk to him about religion and homophobia. He said that religion caused homophobia, which I think is true, but I also think that there are other factors. I told him how my atheist Chinese mom was not happy when she heard that I was bisexual. My professor's response is that she was worried about me because gay people have it hard in our society. That actually upset me that my professor thought he could know more about my mom and my culture than myself.

I don't think it's true at all. I think a lot of atheist Chinese people are homophobic for non-religious reasons, especially as gay rights in China are going backwards right now. I understand that my situation could be way worse if my parents were super religious Christians, who frequently disown their kids, but I don't think my mom's attitude is correct either. But to a lot of people like my professor, only Christians can be homophobic so there's no way that an atheist like my mom could dislike gays. Or people say things like "Communism is actually a religion" which is bullshit.

My professor is an expert in his field and I respect him for that. But I don't think he knows anything about Asian culture.

No. 244693

why are you even talking about your sexuality with your professor lol. Arms length

No. 244696

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I moved countries almost three years ago and I haven't made a single friend. I feel lonely as fuck and I only have my husband here. I don't want to put the burden of dealing with me 100% on him. He got friends and I don't feel comfortable talking to his friends.
How to appear more friendly, be less weird and approach people in a way that people might feel comfortable?

No. 244698

How is it different than talking about your race or gender with your professor?

No. 244706

A little story here about a transgender person I met in fortnite.

We start the game and launch out, I'm confident this person is a troll because they keep mentioning their gender, that they're a girl etc. I think it's a troll trying to get a reaction from guys. They won't stop saying things about their gender and made it a point to even give their snapchat out when no one asked for it, at this point I'm sure it's a trap so I laugh and say "Are you a troll or something? You sound like someone trying to do a voice impression of a girl, you sound like a very feminine gay guy. You have to be a troll or something, you keep mentioning you're a girl and every female I met here so far just plays the game and doesn't have to point out they're a girl." this person gets offended and says "Wow that's very rude I just started estrogen." they went full victim mode after that.

This just annoyed me because no one acknowledged the gender thing. They just kept having to bring it up until someone finally said something about it. I just don't understand why they had to make it a point for the squad to know they were a girl.

No. 244717

I'm really happy for you that it went well! hope that's the start of a lucky streak!

although you misreplied to me i completely agree with your points about having to work then making your free time more luxurious, that's a good way of framing it!

I also currently work part time (bc student), the prospect of working full time scares me a bit. like right now I can distance myself from the workplace drama and what not by knowing that it isn't my entire life and just a part time job (and honestly my immediate coworkers are great) but I won't be able to have this mindset once a job will become my entire life you know? I'm sure it'll be fine I just can't help feeling bit bleak seeing the older coworkers getting fired up over petty stuff just because they have noting else going on.

No. 244741

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It isn't a big deal but I've been feeling weirdly inferior/unusual as a lesbian lately for not being attracted to masculine looking girls. I know it doesn't matter much but a group of girls I talk to (mostly bi though there are a couple other lesbians) often post about how much they love butch women and honestly a lot of the girls they post are basically indistinguishable from men. I don't normally care since it's just preferences but recently they've been making fun of me for having tastes in women 'like a straight man' because I like more feminine looking girls. And every time I meet a feminine lesbian online she'll always only be into butch girls. It's so minor but it's been irritating me a bit lately getting told that not liking masculine girls makes me the same as a straight guy or otherwise not a 'proper' lesbian.

Also a small female gaming group I'm part of is now letting in trannies who talk about their 'girldicks' and fetishes all the time but nobody is allowed to complain because 'they're real women too uwu.'

No. 244744

Tbh, if they want to date someone who looks like a man, is that not the same as being like a straight girl?

No. 244748

I'm bisexual and tbh I can't stand lesbians. They're absolutely fine individually, but fuck they have the absolute worst group dynamic I have ever come across. The gatekeeping is fucking insane and they have a us vs them mentality strong enough to put robots to shame.

No wonder so many of them fall for the tranny bullshit, both have the exact same, identical "if you deviate however minimally from our norms, you're a pariah and excluded from the group" mindset. I'm pretty sure the "femme and butch" phenomenon is a direct result of this peer pressure, too, thank god for other bi girls who have actual personalities and aren't walking stereotypes

No. 244750

I’m a 7/10 qt with a big ass I’d date u fam

No. 244758

I know this white passing latina weeaboo and she has the biggest ego she prides herself on being once doxxed by r9k and thinks that soon her new Instagram selfies will be posted on 4chan cute girl threads she is so fake deep and says that she hates herself but is clearly very in love with herself also she claims that she has the power to make every man obsessed with her these things aren’t affecting me in anyway but I guess they are just annoying to see

No. 244772

Are you the same person who was sperging about them in the unpopular opinions thread a while ago? Kek.

Why do so many bi girls have homophobic superiority complexes like this? Are they just pissed off because some lesbians don't want to date or fuck them?

No. 244777

I don't think I want to live anymore. I don't want to kill myself but I just wish I could stop being alive. I don't get to enjoy anything anymore. I had a passion for drawing and it was the only thing that used to make me happy. But now I have no time to dedicate to it and I feel like I'm years behind in art skill because of school. This makes me not want to draw anymore. I'm in grad school and it's sucking up my life. Nothing I ever do is enough. I try to make the best grades I can and tack on other activities but my classmates are always doing more and better. My confidence has never been lower. The last time I remember being happy was…2 years ago? I want to quit. I'm weak and not confident and it's been that way for 25 years. I have no time for self improvement. It feels hopeless. I'm tired of not being able to truly live my life. Why am I living if I can't enjoy my life? I'm just really tired. I don't know if I should see someone about this or not. When I talk to other people about it they usually say how everyone feels that way and that I'll feel better in time. I'm scared I wont.

No. 244779

No, that wasn't me. Happy to know another anon feels the same way.

>Are they just pissed off because some lesbians don't want to date or fuck them?

Lesbian women when bi girls want to date and fuck them
>ewww she likes dick, that's so disgusting, lmao bihet bincels will never touch my precious lezzie vag they always leave us for males anyway, bisexuals don't exist they just kiss girls to appeal to men
Lesbian women when bi girls DON'T want to date or fuck them
>why don't bi girls want to date or fuck me you're so homophobic omg there's nothing wrong with being lesbian stop thinking you're like totally superior, lesbian women totally don't think they're superior or talk about how touching dick makes you a disgusting het

Make up your fucking mind

No. 244783

Lol at this projection. I'm not whining about bi girls not wanting to fuck me, I'm whining about bi girls who shit on lesbians for no reason.

>>you're so homophobic omg there's nothing wrong with being lesbian stop thinking you're like totally superior, lesbian women totally don't think they're superior or talk about how touching dick makes you a disgusting het

You sound extremely bitter.

No. 244787

lol you sound like the crazy anti-bi lady.

No. 244790

Damn anon, that's too real.
I feel the same about drawing, or all my other aspirations for that matter.
I feel like with every year I'm losing myself more and more and I don't even know what I want, or if anything has any meaning, considering I can't even make friends or any kind of relationship. I don't feel that "doing it for myself" is a good enough motivator to get in shape, save money, get back into school.
I hate that you are feeling the way you feel but I also don't know if you, or me, will ever be alright. Maybe some people just have to work a little harder, or struggle more to be happy, or just content.
I hope you feel a bit better some day anon.

No. 244807

From my experience it's mostly lesbians who berate bi women. They act like bi women are enemies for "siding up" with men.

No. 244816

well i relapsed on self harm after 1 year of being clean, seems like although i dont do it often i always end up having a mental breakdown that leads me to doing it yearly
i'm just so angry with myself and upset

No. 244826

I wonder why this site is currently filled with loonies crazier than most of the cows featured on this site. It wasn't this crazy a year or two ago.

No. 244830

Who you being jelly about

No. 244832

4chan raids, infighting, humblebragging, nitpicking, etc etc
So much infighting goes on, it's almost like they're trying to see who's the craziest, even worse when people gang up on random shit like they did in the unpopular opinion thread just because the girl said loli was wrong and shouldn't be encouraged

It drives people insane, I wisb crazies were permabanned so they'd stop shitting up everything

No. 244846

Please stop this humblebragging meme that keeps going on here whenever an anon just so happens tl mention something positive about themselves in a post. This buzzword here is also new and screams insecurity for anyone using it. 4 years ago, you would have been called out on your bullshit but we have so many children browsing now that people just go along with it.

No. 244859

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I finally have enough money to travel a little in my country for the summer and I would like to travel with friends who also have the means to travel a little. I'm trying to plan ahead because otherwise it won't be possible to book for an hotel or to buy train tickets. It has been months since I've been trying to talk about it with friends and they either don't answer or want to go somewhere with me but don't want to book anything yet for some reason. If this keeps happening we won't be able to go anywhere and since it's the first time I'll be able to travel without my family dragging me along, I'd rather be with people I know and trust. It's so annoying, I'd rather have my friends say no directly, they don't want to travel anywhere instead of waiting for their answers or expecting them to tell me they don't have enough money for that (which is wrong) or any other lie.

It's frustrating because they actually don't want to do anything in general. I ask them if they want to hang out anywhere when they're available and they dodge the question. If I ask them if they want to go to a bar, a restaurant or go shopping they say no because they dont want to spend money (fair enough, they want to save money for other things or just in case after all), but if I ask them to do free things that I know they'll like they'll tell me that no, they're too lazy to do anything, another time maybe. For example I want to go to the beach this summer and told them that because I want to travel there. One of them started acting like she was too good for swimming in the sea and like it was for peasants or something. It was weird and honestly at this point I don't know of I should even bother trying to hang out with them or leave them on their own and wait for their propositions.

I only have one friend who wants to do anything but she doesn't live in our city anymore and she works full-time so it's hard to plan anything together, and yet I see her way more often than our other friends. We talked about it and she's even more exasperated than me because she feels like she's wasting time and money when she takes the train to see our friend group and only half of them show up everytime. This post is a mess but whatever

No. 244860

you meant no offense by it. that person is just being over sensitive. If they really want to be MTF, then maybe they'd try to "fit in" with other girls by not mentioning they're female every 5 seconds. I mean, its a pretty well known stereotype about girl gamers who game for attention whoring by announcing and flaunting the fact they're a girl. idk. people are stupid, transgender or not.

No. 244867

We've always had shit like that here. Maybe not as consistently apparent like as of late, but if y'all are trying to imply there's never been any cows or crazies posting here until this past year…lol.
Imo, people are way less vicious than they used to be and I prefer it.

Need I remind you of Spoony, Wildchild, Kiki, Mystery.jpg, and all of the other crazy posters that have been exposed over the years.
It's just the nature of this website, being that the majority did migrate here from 4chan. Although I will say, about a week or so ago I saw a lolita secret on livejournal explicitly mentioning this website, not to mention the cowtipping going on in /snow/ from places like Jill's fb fanpage.
So maybe we've got an influx of newfags regardless.

No. 244877

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It's the opposite for me, anon. I'm a hapa and I have this really bad complex towards asian men.
I always feel like they find me lesser than white/asian girls just because I'm mixed and therefore not the pure blooded waifu they want. Sometimes they're so fucking full of themselves just because they're pure Japanese/Korean/Chinese and it pisses me off. I've never been with an asian guy and I find them very attractive but in the back of my mind I always think they despise me.

I went to a party some time ago and saw a real cute Japanese guy. I gathered all my courage and decided to go talk to him (since they never approach me, only the fugly ones) and when I did, he started showing me off to one of his friends saying things like "she's mixed" "half-Japanese" like I didn't know if I should be flattered or embarassed, maybe just being treated like a normal human being?

I know they can be very mysoginist too. It's just growing up around asian men made me want to date one, even if it's only to see how bad they really are.

No. 244892

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I'm 23 and have nothing going for me, I'm losing my grip on time, my days are getting shorter, soon I'll be dead.

No. 244895

Stop being so dramatic

No. 244910

Same here tho. Hug me, brotha.

No. 244917

Did you read my post? It's not "for no reason", tons of bisexual girls think you and your weird hivemind are insufferable and so is the shit you pull. And you even made sure to prove us right by responding with a typical "u jst mad bc we wont fuck u" because you're so convinced bisexuals want you that you can't possibly imagine any other reason why we would dislike you.

Reading between the lines isn't projecting, btw.

No. 244943

I was a huge weaboo, loved Japanese media in general, learned Japanese for years and even saved up to visit there but I now realised I don't love it or want it anymore.
I can't watch any anime or drama without noticing how sexist Japanese society is, it's so disgusting and retrograde. I don't think I enjoy it anymore, but it sucks so much because it was a huge part of my identity and I spent a lot of time reading and studying that shit. It just feels like a waste to drop it and I don't really have any new hobby to replace it with.
I know part of me doesn't want to grow up, and that's not very smart but I hate how I can't enjoy dumb animus, otoges, variety shows and shitty music anymore.

No. 244950

"Because they're weird and insufferable" isn't a valid reason kek, all your doing is highlighting the unwarranted homophobia coming from bisexual cunts like you.

No. 244956

I feel the same even though I know it's dramatic. I've always been rebellious and didn't think I cared much about aging but now I do as well as feeling bad that I'm not successful enough by some arbitrary standard I set for myself. Are we having quarter life crises?

No. 244991

I've been really struggling with my degree and did so much better in the previous years than this, final year, and only this year counts. I messed up a first semester exam and have demotivated myself. I had a verbal assignment today worth 15% and completely fucked it up. asked to start again, skipped the middle because of stuttering and rushed the end. I left a company I had a comfy job for 6 years to pursue this and was so determined but I have not achieved anything I wanted. I'm 28 and I'm going to never hear the end of it if I don't get a job in my field. I feel out of my depth it's a STEM field. I'll end up getting another desk job rendering the whole 4 years a complete waste of resources, time and money. I just don't think I'm cut out for the field. And on top of that I lived off savings and an inheritance to focus to ensure success and it's not going to happen. Everyone will just think I'm lazy and maybe they're right. :(

No. 245038

>criticizing a homosexual group's dynamic is homophobic
At this point you're just grasping at straws to make yourself a victim. Typical lesbian behavior, as I said. By all means, keep responding and proving me right.

No. 245055

Your explanation of that "group dynamic" is literally a shitty strawman. And how is generalizing the entire lesbian community not homophobic?

>Typical lesbian behavior, as I said

Bitter, homophobic cunt, as I said. Most Bs are just as pathetic and disgusting as Ts.

No. 245095

I find lolcow to be very entertaining, especially snow. I also think it's nice to discuss some topics such as culture, traveling, fitness/weight, and share your own life experiences. But no matter which thread we're in there is always someone that needs to start racebaiting or talk shit about people who look okay or normal. For example ageing.

It creates a dark angry feeling inside of me, and I think it's not only unhealthy for me, but for others that come here. I don't even bother to read threads that I know will contain this shit, I just find it extremely unbearable when these anons need to go to threads where those topics has no logical place.

I wish that people would get permabanned if they nitpick, and racebate, so anons that come here for the actual milk and advices could do that in peace.

Honestly, why is it so god damn important if someone looks old for their age, is too tall or too short, if they're 3cm taller than what they say they are, or if their skin is not perfect. And what the hell is up with everyone hating men it's designated thread, but absolutely SHIT on girls that haven't done anything wrong or milky in other threads?

I assume they're 15 years old or something like that, so hopefully they'll soon learn that looking young thin and beautiful forever, is not a thing no matter what your race. But that even if it is, it will not give you happiness. How do they expect a men to respect women for our talents and intellect, when the only thing they care about in themselves and other women is looking the youngest, and prettiest.

I also have a question for oldfags. I've been frequenting this site for around two years now, but only at PT and Snow. have these racebaiting and nitpicking anons been in OT and G for a long time or do you think its migration from PULL?

Sorry if this is written poorly, it's night and I'm very tired. Good night anons.

No. 245097

Also one last thing before I go to sleep. I scrolled down OT a few days ago and saw an anon absolutely berate a beautiful KPOP idol about how she looked like a pig and how she was botched etc.

I don't understand any of this shit to be honest

No. 245099

dude, whether you like it or not there is a fuck load of humblebragging, especially in the surgery thread you see a bunch of girls coming claiming to have perfect round tits, tiny waists, wide hips and big butts and claiming how it causes problems for them or they "actually hate it", that's literally what humblebragging is, there's tons of examples if you don't believe me

true true, given the mystery, kiki, wildchild,etc etc, they were crazy but not as obsessive as a lot of anons, it's def not good for peoples mental health who are already crazy, I also noticed in an infight in the plastic surgery fraud thread over marilyn monroe, an anon was picking fights with people over how "if marilyn monroe was alive today u bitches would be tearing her apart and calling her skinny fat and a hoe!", it leads me to believe a lot of the infighters, not only have the same typing style, but are also cows who shit up the place, especially since the same anon was exposed as picking fights with other posters as well, there were theories earlier about who the infighters are

No. 245111

I really hope you don't get into (if you're not already) the Korean media in general because it can be as if not more fucked up than the Japanese one.

No. 245115

>part of my identity

try being part or even full japanese you weeby shit.

No. 245116

Yeah, I almost got into that hole some years ago. Not happening thankfully.
You appear to have missread it anon. Being into that stuff was a huge part of my days, and thus part of my identity. I never wanted to become Japanese or anything like that. Also, you seem kind of angry buddy. Need a good vent?

No. 245117

>bawws at at lesbians being generalized
>generalizes bisexuals

The lack of self awareness is astounding.

It's not a strawman when it can be observed everywhere, when 90% of the lesbians I met were like that, when most other bisexual girls report the exact same thing, and when you yourself are here saying these exact same "u mad bc we wont fuk u, Bs are the worst" things and embodying the stereotype I described to a T.

No. 245118

I wish I worked with people who actually gave a fuck…or at least put in effort

My coworker is such a little bitch and decided he wasn't coming in early to help me with a catering. Like fucking me over because he's a little piss baby
I'm never helping him ever again, he's a fucking joke

It would be nice to have semi reliable people to work with
Not stressing out all the time would be great too

No. 245137

>90% of the lesbians I met were like that
Like WHAT? Picky? "Weird and insufferable," avoid at all costs?

>it's not a strawman because personal experiences


>generalizes bisexuals

I don't think I'm generalizing, there's a why reason Bs and Ts get along so well. You're the main ones pushing their shit, after all. So much in common there, especially the cluster B drama.

No. 245189

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>tfw you hate the thought of destroying your body through pregnancy and your life through raising kids but you realize your race is depending on you to ensure its survival

No. 245192

being into anime and shit doesn't make it part of your identity. and being pissy about japan's culture is cringy to anyone with japanese blood in them.

No. 245194

Your kids could just end up in interracial relationships and you will have ruined your life for no reason

No. 245198

You sound like an white supremacist anon.

No. 245202

Why though? My country's culture is also shit in those aspects and it wouldn't bother me too much if someone else brought that up.
Anon, I sorry you find it cringy but it seems that we are using the word "identity" with diferent meanings, nothing to argue about besides semantics.

No. 245204

anon, you were just bawwing about how japan's culture somehow personally affects your ability to enjoy anime, as if the two things should have anything to do with eachother. also it's almost insulting that you're bitching about something so trivial, when me, a haffu is barely accepted among any of my family members there. honestly i am personally upset by some shitty weeb getting so put off by the reality of japan. just enjoy the media and stop acting like the country is some amazing place and then maybe you won't be so disillusioned.

No. 245205

My friend has been really distant lately and now my mind is going crazy. I just asked if she’s okay, cause we saw eachother on the weekend and it was a really good time, but since then she hasn’t been replying to anything I’ve sent. If she does it’s like one word. My paranoia is growing so I’m just venting to hopefully let it go and relax

No. 245206

Whats with people jumping to insane conclusions to derail and infight?

Apparently thinking people overreact to cheating to much = "you think cheating is okay and support it cheater! Not everyone reacts the same way as you!!!"
Thinking a photoshopped girls body is unattainable = "you think literally any woman capable of having hips and boobs are unattainable!!"
Thinking loli is wrong and shouldn't be encouraged = you think cartoons are offensive
Thinking there's clearly a problem with a lot of people here when it comes to bodies = you're just jealous fatty chan!!!

Now before someone twists it around and accuses me of being whoever I was not involved in all of these infights, but I can definitely see why people are getting annoyed with everyone here, yall jump to extreme conclusions way too much despite that person saying nothing even closely related to what you're claiming they said, or sometimes they'll literally say the opposite but you'll still insist they said whatever just to infight more

No. 245214

I noticed I can't say much on this website lately without some fucker shitposting about what's been said.

Maybe it's best to lurking cow threads, since it appears some in the anonymous community here are hostile faggots.

No. 245221

So we have an insane anon going on an "STOP SHITTING UP THE THREAD REEEEE" rampage, please calm tf down you spergy mini mod.

No. 245224

Not an attack at you anon, but reading this in your vent has brought something back on my mind that for some reason really gets on my nerves:
I hate the use of certain words or slang (that in my experience only americans use, at least some of my 'friends'), for example
>y'all, folks, you guys, dude, honey
I know it shouldn't bother me, but nevertheless…ugh

No. 245225

No. 245226

Mini mods are the worse, the ones that come in hours after infighting stops to tell people to stop infighting, or the "she's crazy, don't reply" anon in the unpopular opinion thread that kept shitting up the thread even hours after infighting stopped just because they thought it was infighting anon,don't get me wrong I do like some ot and g threads but people have been shitting them up lately, I don't know if its the same few people or different but it's getting on everyone's last nerve

No. 245229

My body is changing shape and it's fucking me up, I'm 5 ft and currently I weigh 56 kg. My ass got bigger and my boobs too I know I should be happy bc finally I have a nice body but I was fat and lost a lot of weight and I'm terrorized I'm gaining it back.

No. 245230

Idk if this is the right board for this but my MIL told me shes been giving her ex blowjobs for money and doesn't want to and I have no one to talk to about this for obvious reasons not to mention she is insane as fuck and has tried to get our kids taken away but this isnt the first time I've known her to do shit for money and immediately after saying this starts harassing me about what we did with our taxes like are you serious

No. 245231

And I thought mini modding was a bannable offense now? Or is that only on /pt/ and /snow/?

No. 245234

You should really check out reddit's justnomil sub, it's full of people who deal with crazy ass mother in laws.

No. 245239

no clue tbh, I hope they start doing it here

No. 245247

>anon, you were just bawwing about how japan's culture somehow personally affects your ability to enjoy anime
Ok, anon, you really got me wrong.
It's not that Japanese culture itself is preventing me of enjoying anime.
It's that I'm noticing way more how a lot of the tropes presented in the media, including anime, have a lot of characteristics that I don't find healthy and quite "problematic" for women.
Japanese pop culture was a huge Hobby for me while I was growing up. I was a socially awkward and repressed kid and I realy only enjoyed myself when I could immerse into the anime/manga world. Learnign Japanese and planning a travel were only an extension of the hobby.
It's like I was a hardcore cross-sticher, that spent all her free time stiching, and suddenly realised she doesn't like cross stiching anymore and there's no craft to fill the gaps of her free time.
I'm grateful for the artists that made what I used to love, and look fondly on all the fun I had, and how my hobby helped me endure some rough times. But I just can't enjoy the media anymore, and I find it sad.
It's kind of hard to really get into another hobby as an adult.
>when me, a haffu is barely accepted among any of my family members there
I'm very sorry to know about that anon. I can imagine how that must hurt you. I'm a mix myself and the part of my family with "European blood" is quite racist. I heard an uncle forbade his daughter of playing with me while I was 5 years old, lmao.

No. 245263

oh gawsh and the person running around to each thread calling anyone and everyone the "crazy anti-loli bitch"

No. 245270

Lol anon, that only happens when it's clear who is posting, she gets pissed off the same way every time. I was in the fucking unpopular opinions thread. Whoever is in the thread on /g/ is clearly the same anon. I'm more pissed off about her, she clearly thinks it's her duty to clear her name and insists on responding and claims that it should be everyone else not responding to her.

No. 245272

I saw it soo many times, there are tons of people who get pissed off the same way, if you really think that you can detect the exact person throughout an imageboard where most people act alike then..
if you think it's her, then don't reply, I don't know why people insist on shitting up threads insisting everyone is crazy anti-loli bitch, especially since everytime it happens the thread goes to shit, hell how do we not know the person constantly accusing everyone of being her isn't the batshit crazy loli one? they do get mad in all the same ways, both obsessive, both samefag a lot

No. 245273

and accusing everyone of being "anti-loli bitch" is literally the exact same obsessive and insane behavior

No. 245275

I agree tbh, I don't really care about the "hi x" shit, but man the poster it's directed at is obnoxious. They were obnoxious when they were bawwing about how much they don't care about cheating too. So tryhard.

>both samefag alot

Uh, we don't know that, and that anti-loli bitch has been in multiple threads and is like Spoony at this point, really easy to read, easy to piss off starts using the word crazy alot, accuses people of calling her insane even before anyone does. Spoony was easily detectable through her posts, even on crystal cafe she was found out. It's not to say it's the same person, but it's not impossible.

No. 245276

I don't really agree? It's annoying, sure but it's just like saying "hi cow" essentially. Minimodding maybe? But the bitch reacts to it quite angrily.

No. 245277

>Spoony was easily detectable through her posts

This. Anons who have a similar typing style and attitude can be identifiable. I think we should just report them and move on though, hopefully the girl on /g/ will get permabanned.

No. 245279

>Uh, we don't know that, and that anti-loli bitch has been in multiple threads and is like Spoony at this point, really easy to read, easy to piss off starts using the word crazy alot,
that's half anons here, especially the ones always accusing others of being anti-loli bitch, and then later demanding them to stop infighting, it's as annoying as in the lily thread where almost everyone who came in was accused of being lily
>easy to piss of, uses crazy a lot
still most anons here lmfao
>accuses people of calling her insane even before anyone does.
when did this happen? I have yet to see this, unless you're talking about when she was talking about the person who was shitting up the thread with constant "she's crazy, don't reply" posts, which even other anons agreed was annoying

No. 245281

>hopefully the girl on /g/ will get permabanned.
There's no reason to permaban her, I hate to say but she was right about it taking two to tango, you don't fight with others then turn it on them for fighting.
>Anons who have a similar typing style and attitude can be identifiable.
Eh, I'd disagree, but props to you if you think you can find out who a person is from a certain typing style.

No. 245283

She did it right in the /g/ thread. Anyway the point is that either there is one or multiple anons with huge chips on their shoulders that try to defend their point down to the gills and then sperg out like fucking loons when people tell them to calm down. Either way, it's bad and they are much more annoying than the people baiting them because they keep fucking replying to shit bait.

No. 245286

She's being baited, no one is turning on her, I'm inclined to believe that the OP who mentioned her was baiting her from the start. She acted a fucking mess in the thread where she was talking about cheating, she needs to get a different hobby.

No. 245287

I've been there to lurk, but said MIL has a pretty extensive online presence. Pretty sure it doesn't extend this far, she's old and all but she is definitely on reddit. Even if I made a throwaway, she'd know and punish me in some way. She is insane and fucked up allll the time and tells me disgusting things. I just needed to get it out somewhere

No. 245288

I genuinely didn't think my shitty joke would attract and upset her, I was baffled when I came back to the thread to see the mess I started.

No. 245289

>She did it right in the /g/ thread
Did what?
>sperg out like fucking loons when people tell them to calm down.
Then don't get involved, mini modding is annoying as fuck, if you see two people infighting don't come in telling them to calm down, especially if they're both having a shit-flinging fest and you only tell one to calm down, of course it will piss them off even more.

> OP who mentioned her was baiting her from the start
I believe it, she sounds like she needs serious help, but I wouldn't exactly pin it soley on her since the anon who baited her clearly knew how bothered she would get and most likely fought with her before.
>she needs to get a different hobby.
So do the people fighting her.

No. 245290

Don't fucking talk to her then. FFS where do you girls get these shit men, my fiance fucking knows his mom is crazy and is cutting her off as soon as he finishes grad school. None of that 'who would he save if you both were drowning' shit for me.

Sure his mom raised him, but if she's ruining his chance to continue his life and get on what's the point?

No. 245291

It seemed to me she was just trying to make herself clear then other anons baited her and drove her through the roof with all kinds of no1curr shit. If you look in the cheating thread, she said she didn't support cheating, when she tried making herself clear anons went bezerk on her.

No. 245292

I didn't get involved? And by did I meant she already accused people of calling her insane from the beginning.

In any case, I'm not pinning anything on anyone the people baiting her are fucking shitposting, there's no talking to them. Of course they're in the wrong, why do I have to go out and say it, but the reality is you should be smart enough to shut up and not get baited, both people get banned.

No. 245293

Why did she need to do that though? No one does care, it's an anon board, she came in to make herself known and stand up for herself like it was necessary, but the whole thing would have just been a one-off joke in a shit thread if she didn't act so important.

No. 245295

I'm looking at the thread in /g/ now
>Uhh no, that was me, I even said several times I didn't condone cheating I just hated how overhyped it was
>what? I'm not saying I didn't sperg out, ironic especially since you mention it in another thread days after it happened
>you could have just said you didn't think it was that bad but you couldn't stop fucking replying.
oh noes, you mean if people attack me I fight back? what an odd phenomenon, I don't know why it blows your mind when you have anons ganging up on and insisting you're a cheater, you're this this and that and putting words in your mouth, clearly jumping to conclusions and not understand a word I said, then suddenly I'm a big bad person and in the wrong for replying to people who were replying to me and wanting to make it clear what I was trying to say (even though people are still insisting I'm some big bad cheater just because I think cheating is overhyped in society, which it is and how people reacted to me saying its not the worst thing ever literally proves it), stop jumping to conclusions
Is all they said before the other anon said:
>no one was attacking you they were saying your opinion sucks. but you can shut up and then people will stop calling you out.
Of course it pissed them off when they were told to "shut up and people will stop calling you out" when they were literally called out after not even talking.
>And by did I meant she already accused people of calling her insane from the beginning

No. 245296

Forgot to put a ">" before the word "oh".

No. 245297

Anons trying to defend themselves is just as annoying as the baiters and trolls.

No. 245298

Lol he could give a fuck less about her. He hates her and does not talk to her but it's me with mommy issues and she knows it. I don't have one and blab blab blah. Our older kid likes her a lot unfortunately so give a narc a weapon and they shoot you with it

No. 245299

Dunno, she is crazy but so are the anons fighting her, if not even more crazy than she is.

From what I've seen, she just wanted to make herself clear then got baited.

No. 245300

My fucking MIL will not see her grandchildren or even know they exist. Be fucking responsible. I would never let my children around some crazy bitch.

No. 245301

Ish, infighting always happens here so, while it is annoying, I wouldn't underestimate how far people will take infighting here.

No. 245302

Okay, I agree with you, but I don't want fucking crazy people who reply to everything shitting up the board.

No. 245303

No one is doing that, but it's getting worse, and responding to people trying to get a rise out of you is worse than people taking shit out of context.

No. 245305

Then don't reply, if it gets out of hand let mods take care of it, it's even more annoying when other farmers pop in and only tell one person to stop, which does nothing but piss of that person and encourages more infighting.
Doing what? It's definitely getting worse, but pinning it on one person will do nothing but make matters worse and drive her even more crazy, especially since it was more than obvious the person she was fighting was crazy as fuck themselves.

No. 245306

Lol be responsible? She doesn't have anything to do with them except facetime occasionally. This is about what she does to me specifically, and since you aren't even married or have kids yet you should chill out on the holier than thou shit because lol you don't know what you're talking about. She was not always this bad, it's been a lot worse since we had kids. But you are the expert here clearly with your vast experience

No. 245308

You're misunderstanding me somewhere, but I'm not pinning anything on her, I'm just saying people like her are a huge problem on the site. I didn't mean specifically her.

No. 245309

You sound like you deserve her treating you like shit then.

No. 245310

Yeah, they're a problem, she sounds mentally unstable, but so do the people fighting her, as well as the person who's always popping claiming how they "know" it's anti-loli anon here and there, I don't even know why people are only calling her out.

Assuming the same infighters are always the same few people like others have speculated, I wish they'd all get perma-banned. They clearly need a break from this place for the sake of their mental health.

No. 245311

Yes, all of them do, this was my point the entire time.

No. 245312

I feel like infighters are where ever I post now. It's not peaceful here lately, like someone is really angry and shitposty.

I've posted stories the last few days, I got:
>anon nitpicking the story and blowing it out of proportion even after I clarified, doesn't apologize for misunderstanding and insists their original interpretation is right anyway
>anon accusing me of off topic even after other anons step in to say the story is relevant
>anon saying story is boring
>"You're blogposting!"

I don't even understand the last one? Most of these threads on ot are about personal topics so of course we're going to talk about ourselves and experiences. And even if someone goes slightly ot, when did anyone start being angry instead of scrolling past it?

It's not like I myself don't ever clap back at an infighter, but I try to ignore it as best I can yet it's just been really extra.

No. 245316

This tbh, especially the point about people blowing it out of proportion, especially in the weight gain and plastic surgery thread, or what >>245206 said, it's like you can just make a calm point and if you have shit luck you'll get attacked.

>Most of these threads on ot are about personal topics so of course we're going to talk about ourselves and experiences. And even if someone goes slightly ot, when did anyone start being angry instead of scrolling past it?

No clue, I feel like they're getting shits and giggles out of infighting, and it drives people nuts and creates more infighters, especially the ones bringing up old arguments. It's shitting up OT and G for sure, after seeing some infights I'm convinced a lot of infights are literally driving people here insane.
>but I try to ignore it as best I can yet it's just been really extra.
Same, I saw someone try to do this before just for the other infighter to continue shitting the thread up and sperging, even to others who weren't involved in the argument.

No. 245318

I already knew that but thank you for your insight

No. 245319

It's been months since I last spoke to the guy I liked yet I still think about him constantly, on an almost superficial level. I'll tell myself "I miss him" but I can't even say why anymore. I don't know how else to move on as focusing on myself doesn't make the thoughts go away, and I've been having such a shit time trying to talk to new people. I feel so useless and worthless. I'm struggling to see the point in most things anymore.

No. 245334

Wait who anti loli? and what's wrong with being anti loli?

please don't tell me this place is filled with cancerous lolicons.

No. 245352

it annoys me so much that there’s anons in this website that seem to misunderstand the idea of “anonymous image board”. in the end, unless you’re delivering milk, we’re not all going to be buddy buddy. if you’re being ridiculous or you had a shitty opinion, we’re not going to coddle you and tell you you’re fine. in the end, this is a website where none of us actually know each other so don’t take shit so fucking personally. (here’s looking at you, /g/ anon.)

No. 245354

> if you’re being ridiculous or you had a shitty opinion, we’re not going to coddle you and tell you you’re fine. in the end, this is a website where none of us actually know each other so don’t take shit so fucking personally.
oh for fucks sake, just shut up
and no, I didn't have a "Shitty opinion"
anons were just taking what I said out of context and instead of looking for themselves they just see other anons saying "YOU THINK CHEATING IS OKAY??!?!!??!?" instead of actually fucking reading for themselves and if they did they'd see I never said that
again, I don't know how many times I have to repeat myself, I just wanted to make myself clear since anons clearly took my point out of context just for other anons to sperg at me then blame me for infighting
hence why the tumblr text post was posted, you fight with each other, fight with me, god forbid I fight back I should have just ignored it etc etc etc!!!
even other anons earlier in this thread pointed out why it's retarded as fuck to pin it on one person and does nothing but cause more infighting
just stop , it's not a mystery why this shit stresses people out, just stop

No. 245355

i said we weren’t going to coddle you and this is what i meant—you overreacted and so did other anons but you are the one who continuously seems to want to defend yourself. you could just go on a separate post and write as if nothing happened, it’s not like that one comment would have followed you on this entire site. you kept going back to the thread and replying. i’m not going to feel bad because other anons began responding the ways that they did because you acted the same way in the original thread on /ot/. you don’t have to reply to e v e r y anon, it’s not like you even have to post here at all of the others seem to bother you this much.

literally none of us would have said anything if you didn’t try to defend your original “people overreact to cheating” point.

No. 245356

>i said we weren’t going to coddle you and this is what i meant—you overreacted and so did other anons but you are the one who continuously seems to want to defend yoursel
I never expected to be coddled, no fucking shit it drives people mad when people are fighting with you and then people come in telling YOU to stop and not them, it pisses everyone off
> you could just go on a separate post and write as if nothing happened, it’s not like that one comment would have followed you on this entire site.
this is exactly what I mean, if you see two people fighting, you come in, face on person and say "hey you should have just ignored them dumbass"
yes it will piss people off
>i’m not going to feel bad because other anons began responding the ways that they did because you acted the same way in the original thread on /ot/
then.dont.feel.bad. I'm not asking you to, wtf is wrong with you, you insert yourself into this mess hours after it ended just to make a bunch of comments how "We wont support you i dont feel bad youre crazy you should have just ignored them"
> you don’t have to reply to e v e r y anon, it’s not like you even have to post here at all of the others seem to bother you this much.

I want to, it's a pet peeve to have my points misunderstood, again, stop pinning this on me

>literally none of us would have said anything if you didn’t try to defend your original “people overreact to cheating” point.

and no one would have said shit either if they just saw where I made my point clear, thought "oh my bad I misunderstood" and moved the fuck on
stop pinning this soley on me

No. 245357

if those other anons came in here or continued sperging, i would say something. YOU are the one who keeps going to each thread and arguing with whoever points it out. i even said the other anons also overreacted but THEY are not in here sperging out like you are.

No. 245358

>YOU are the one who keeps going to each thread and arguing with whoever points it out.
you say, as you continue to argue with me
>i even said the other anons also overreacted but THEY are not in here sperging out like you are.
oh? then who made >>245352
clearly targeting me
>(here’s looking at you, /g/ anon.)
I don't know what you expected, you baited and cried when I bit, if you wanted to avoid this you wouldn't have came to this thread at all to call me out, rant about how " if you’re being ridiculous or you had a shitty opinion, we’re not going to coddle you and tell you you’re fine."
then when I respond you cry about me sperging?
Don't want me to sperg? then shut up about me, I made it clear multiple times I reply to posts to me and about me, and no I'm not gonna "shut up" on command

No. 245359

this is a vent thread, i came in and vented about what was annoying me and it just so happened to be you. sorry (kind of).

No. 245361

>>>>(here’s looking at you, /g/ anon.)
this is exactly what you said
and now you're crying because I respond
what did you expect? sorry the world doesn't revolve around you and you can't call people out without having them do anything about

No. 245362

i'm not crying at all? i openly stated that your sperging annoyed me, and yet here you are making it out as if i'm upset that you saw it. i'm happy you saw it, i meant for you to see it. you're annoying, plain and simple. i ANONYMOUSLY posted something, you decided to respond freely and openly once again. this is the last time i'm responding because i'm not going to take part in what was annoying me in the first place, especially when the other person involved sounds like they're probably too young to be on this site with their behavior.

No. 245364

> i openly stated that your sperging annoyed me
and I replied back, as I made it clear I would, and now you're ~complaining~ about arguing
>yet here you are making it out as if i'm upset that you saw it.
what did you expect? you called me out then started complaining when I started arguing you
>>>>YOU are the one who keeps going to each thread and arguing with whoever points it out
>you're annoying, plain and simple.
you acted as if i wanted to be "coddled" for having a "shitty opinion" which I sure as hell know you don't mean what I explained a billion times what my opinions are.
>this is the last time i'm responding because i'm not going to take part in what was annoying me in the first place
again, don't wanna be annoyed? then shut the fuck up
>especially when the other person involved sounds like they're probably too young to be on this site with their behavior.
oh you mean like you?

No. 245365

What the fuck I come back 5 hours later to this shit? OMG.

No. 245366

I'm convinced it's a troll, I can't imagine anyone genuinely being like this lol. The thought of anon violently refreshing thread after thread scouring for some mention of themselves to reply to is too sad to picture

No. 245367

half the posters here are trolls
>The thought of anon violently refreshing thread after thread scouring for some mention of themselves to reply to is too sad to picture

No. 245368

Sorry you don't like being called a troll.

I think it's just a teenager with nothing better to do than to get triggered. Is school out for summer or something?

No. 245369

I know I'm gonna get shit for this but maybe the "hi anti-loli-chan" anon was right…

No. 245370

>I think it's just a teenager with nothing better to do than to get triggered. Is school out for summer or something?
yawn, get a better response instead of making up shit claiming I'm underage
and you'd still be wrong but I'm not anti-loli chan

No. 245371

Nah, anon. There's just this one really crazy anon who has bitched at people for hours for mentioning lolicon. I don't think the issue is them being anti-lolicon, but more the fact that they always flip shit. The last thread they were in involved them saying that people who like incest porn (not loli or anything, just incest fantasies) were as bad as IRL pedos.

No. 245372

I feel sorry for you that you're not underage.

No. 245373

again, half the infighters here are worse, dunno why you're pinning it on me
I've met a girl like that before but except loli con it was pedo jokes, due to the fact she got raped as child, I'm not saying this for you to feel bad for them but keep in mind that stuff like lolicon does piss off people who've been affected by pedophilia to take it to the extreme
>The last thread they were in involved them saying that people who like incest porn (not loli or anything, just incest fantasies) were as bad as IRL pedos.
what thread was this?

No. 245374

It was the unpopular opinions thread. They actually got mad about lolicon in a similar way before too. I feel for them if they're being triggered, but their ideas of sexual attraction were warped as fuck. They kept saying stuff like aesthetic and sexual attraction are the only kinds of attraction you can have and if you don't do your fetish IRL you either are only aesthetically attracted to it or are a poser. It was really lame and weird.

No. 245376

It's the same anon, no questions asked.

No. 245377

looking at it rn, from 11 days ago?
umm anon I think I know who I am but okay

No. 245378

See, that's what I think too, they are trying to hide their typing style, but it's obvious.

No. 245379

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christ, I go in and this is one of the first things I see, no wonder the bitch was spazzing out
even after she said she wanted to ignore them they kept coming in and flipping her shit and insulting her, I'm not excusing her behavior she def said some crazy shit, but it's definitely not just her fault and shouldn't be only pinned on her

whatever makes you feel better paranoid anon

>but their ideas of sexual attraction were warped as fuck. They kept saying stuff like aesthetic and sexual attraction are the only kinds of attraction you can have and if you don't do your fetish IRL you either are only aesthetically attracted to it or are a poser.
kinda odd but doesn't really matter, sounds like some freud level shit, people were definitely overreacting though and this screenshot proves it
then you said >>245371
> There's just this one really crazy anon who has bitched at people for hours for mentioning lolicon
again, after seeing what people said, don't just pin i soley on her
>but more the fact that they always flip shit.
you're right, but most people here do that
>who like incest porn (not loli or anything, just incest fantasies) were as bad as IRL pedos.
I'm failing to see where they said this, but I did see someone say "incest is vanilla" and….

No. 245380

She did this before though in another vent thread. It started out being somewhat justified, a creepy male lolicon came in, but then she sperged out replying to him baiting and fucking took all the bait, wouldn't stop responding and was a fucking mess.

Also it was her fault, because she's the one responding to literal bait. That's like saying if a bully tells you to hit them and you do, it's in self-defense just because they pissed you off. Come off it.

No. 245381

>She did this before though in another vent thread
which one?
>ut then she sperged out replying to him baiting and fucking took all the bait, wouldn't stop responding and was a fucking mess.
she sounds mentally ill, but holy shit lets not pretend she was the only crazy in the thread, especially after the shit people were saying to her, and then annoying anon comes in being super paranoid about everyone being an anti-loli it makes it more annoying and only proves this place is filled with loons

>Also it was her fault, because she's the one responding to literal bait.

I guess, but getting nowhere by pretending like she was the only infighting psycho who was bitching at everyone
>That's like saying if a bully tells you to hit them and you do, it's in self-defense just because they pissed you off. Come off it.
that makes no sense.

No. 245383

Why does it seem like all of these anons sperging throughout the different vent threads and fetish threads are the same person? Same typing style, same layout of posts, same bad attitude.

No. 245384

I don't remember, but you need to stop giving people credit, there's no reason to just be like "oh but did you see what they said to her?" who cares, she's not a person, she's you or me or both of us hypothetically, it's really embarrassing when people try to defend themselves as if people actually know or care who they are, it is her fault because that type of high-defense infighting is what kills board culture.

No. 245385

there's been theories of all the infighters being the same few people, not just in vent and fetish threads but also PS and weight gain threads

No. 245386

Here's hoping the mods get in and ban them–it's getting annoying having all the /ot/ threads ruined by a few immature users.

Sometimes I wonder if anons want to become cows themselves.

No. 245387

People keep getting mad when we're asserting it though. I think that there are a few very crazy anons here that keep coming back. The, who is it, anti-loli who ever admitted to using VPN and even ban evaded and harassed the mods alot. I was thinking they were a troll but nope. I think there are just some nutters on the board.

Honestly, I've been wondering if this stuff is coming from crystal cafe.

No. 245388

hm? I was just trying to see why she would sperg like that and if what people were saying was actually true, which it was to an extent, but you talked about it like she was just going after random people and screaming about lolicon for no reason, turns out they were all batshit crazy as well as baiting her to the point of insanity

No. 245389

>baiting her to the point of insanity.

You need to be a pretty dumb fish to get baited that much, anon. She should have backed away like an adult instead of fighting on an anonymous website with people who will never have any hold what-so-ever on her life.

No. 245391

>I think that there are a few very crazy anons here that keep coming back.
um I was accused of being anti-loli anon, but I would've just laughed it off, but instead they were insisting "it's her!" and claiming I'm trying to change my writing style, she's crazy, but also the person insisting everyone is anti loli is too
>You need to be a pretty dumb fish to get baited that much, anon. She should have backed away like an adult instead of fighting on an anonymous website with people who will never have any hold what-so-ever on her life.
she just sounds mentally ill tbh, I don't know what people expected, especially since it was several after several replies sperging at her even after she wanted to ignore them

No. 245392

do you know what baiting is?

No. 245393

And if you hadn't responded to those anons and continued to visit the website, none of us would have known that you were the one who was being accused. We would have forgotten about it and ignored it.

>she wanted to ignore them.
So she should have logged out, lmao. It's not like anyone was forcing her to use this site.

No. 245394

>they were all batshit crazy

they weren't though, she got mad at people telling her to chill. she's not fucking innocent, i don't know who you're trying to virtue signal to, defending this nutjob so hard, but give it a rest. you and her both have shit board etiquette and need to learn that you don't have to keep responding, and that if you do, you are shitposting and that means you are part of the problem no matter who started it. continuing it is worse because no matter who starts it, if you ignore it, it will end immediately.

No. 245395

This is the same anon who has been jumping from thread to thread responding to every single anon who even mentions them or 'anti-loli', which is what makes me assume it's the same person.

No. 245396

yeah, I'd hate to compare it to bullying and I'll probably be made fun of for doing so but if people are constantly baiting someone who's clearly mentally ill, it's kinda obvious they'll eventually flip shit
> none of us would have known that you were the one who was being accused. We would have forgotten about it and ignored it.
what do you mean? I was just pointing out how crazy some of the users here are, idc if you know who I am
>So she should have logged out, lmao. It's not like anyone was forcing her to use this site.
you're right but she was also clearly mentally ill
>she got mad at people telling her to chill.
Been there, it does kinda get on your nerves when everyone is fighting you then when you fight back people tell you to chill and not them, as said before in the thread if you see people fighting and only tell one to chill it will only cause more fighting and piss them off
>>she's not fucking innocent
did you even see the screenshot lmfao, if you seriously think she was the only crazy one involved then…
>continuing it is worse because no matter who starts it, if you ignore it, it will end immediately.
eh, I kinda like infighting, if you don't like it then don't continue it then claim to hate it

No. 245397

>i like infighting

well then why are you here? you're just going to get banned, you're ruining the board.

No. 245398

why would people tell fucking trolls to chill, they're obviously trolls. i hope retards like you kys.

No. 245399

I don't fight with random people like some people do, I just fight with people who fight me

No. 245400

>i like infighting

Nice to know that you're probably the same one who was shitting up /g/ all day.

That's still infighting, dumbass, it doesn't matter who started it.

No. 245401

That's sad, you're really pathetic you know, why not get a life? I just came back to this mess and you're like cringy as hell it's almost painful.

No. 245402

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Woah shit. Are farmhands asleep? Look at this state.

No. 245403

It's in two fucking threads anon! I don't know which is worse, this one seems like someone is wking someone else, and the other thread is just shit slinging apes at this point.

No. 245404

>why would people tell fucking trolls to chill, they're obviously trolls.
not everyone can magically read minds from across the internet? especially when they're being so serious about it and spamming the thread with posts about how ~crazy~ the anon is
>Nice to know that you're probably the same one who was shitting up /g/ all day.
1, it wasnt just me
2, thought we made it clear
>That's still infighting, dumbass, it doesn't matter who started it.
never said it wasn't, dumbass
could ask you the same :*
I don't come here often, just once or twice a week

No. 245405

idk the infighting with me ended in the /g/ thread, now theyre just fighting the random girl who thinks people shouldnt say retard

No. 245406

Same :* emoji, same writing style, poor punctuation, and the fact that you've been responding to every person who mentions you just as they did says differently.

>I don't come here often, just once or twice a week

Don't come here at all if all you're going to do is start fights, lmao.

No. 245407

>Same :* emoji, same writing style, poor punctuation, and the fact that you've been responding to every person who mentions you just as they did says differently.

nigga what? I said I thought we made it clear, don't waste your time trying to prove I am myself
>Don't come here at all if all you're going to do is start fights, lmao.
I don't starts fight I fight people who fight me

No. 245408

I last posted ~2ish hours ago and I honestly have no idea who's fighting who or what's what. This is really outta hand, I can't believe the amount of replies! This is the most active fight I've seen in awhile. Wish I wasn't on mobile at work.

No. 245411

I don't know either. I left on a date and came back like 6 hours later to this mess still happening. It's a wild ride.

No. 245412

just stop fighting. just because people instigate doesn't mean you should to respond, we don't want you here if you're going to respond to trolls. you;'re going to get banned (hopefully) and please let the mods know if you use a vpn.

No. 245413

to fill you in:

cheater defense anon was mentioned in boyfriend stealing thread

cheater defense anon feels the need to reply

cheater defense anon replies to every single post mentioning her

multiple anons join in, big ol' infighting happens

now they're fighting over someone censoring the word retard

lots going on in the good farms of lolcow

No. 245414

>we don't want you here if you're going to respond to trolls.
what trolls and I responding to?
>you;'re going to get banned (hopefully) and please let the mods know if you use a vpn.
again, I'm not loli-anon
and this is what grinds my gears, only pinning it on one person and putting them at fault, hence why I kept saying it takes two to tango

No. 245416

this thread is more amusing than the cows rn

No. 245417

you're also leaving out them misunderstanding me then flipping out when I correct myself and throw a huge tantrum about how I need to "get over myself"

link for reference and where it started, feel free to actually read through it unlike other anons who just jump on and start bashing a random person without know what they're talking about

No. 245419

Why not also link to the thread that started it all? Where you said that people overreacted to being cheated on and that there were worse things than having an s/o ruin your trust? You can't put one thread without putting them all, anon.

No. 245420

bro, i'm not implying you're loli anon or whoever, but you are participating in infighting, you will get banned because you are shitposting, it' doesn't matter who started it, you're continuing it and it's against the rules to do it at. all.

No. 245421

>Why not also link to the thread that started it all
>Where you said that people overreacted to being cheated on
if you think drugs, murder and cutting over being cheated on isn't an overreaction then..
which is what I was referencing
>and that there were worse things than having an s/o ruin your trust?
there are, what's your point? yes they broke your trust but all i was saying its not the worst thing ever and anons got their shit in a twist over that because "they didnt actually mean its the worse thing someone could do its just the worse thing someone can do" whatever that means
>You can't put one thread without putting them all, anon.
because we were talking about a certain thread that happened today and not the other? lmfao, you act like im hiding something simply for only linking the thread that was being discussed and not a timeline of threads

No. 245422

you say as you're infighting/minimodding

No. 245424

also I liked to add I only put one thread because it was current, if you jump to conclusions because I didn't dig up an old useless thread then

No. 245425

lmao, and? i'm just pointing out that you seem to think you're fine for just responding cause you "didn't start it" but you're in for a rude awakening, you're the main reason this happened because you couldn't deal with being made fun of.

No. 245426

Throughout the whole thread, you were calling people who are upset over being cheated on "weak". Anons were getting pissed off at you over that, not because you said that drugs, murder, and cutting is an overreaction to cheating. If I remember correctly, multiple anons even agreed with you on that but disagreed with you calling others weak over their own emotions with adultery.

No. 245427

>inb4 you say literally anything

it's definitely your fault, because the anon doesn't owe it to you to not talk crap about you, you don't 'need' to defend yourself.

No. 245428

I'm not saying I'm fine wtf, I just point out I never start shit
>but you're in for a rude awakening
oh? and what is that? it wasn't me jumping to crazy conclusions and putting words in others mouths
>you're the main reason this happened because you couldn't deal with being made fun of.
two to tango, I can easily turn it on the other person for flipping their shit when I pointed out it was dumb and entitled to tell me if I shut up no one will talk about me when it was literally brought up before I even responded in the thread

No. 245429

you're really just clinging to this 'don't start shit' but making fun of a random anon, was not a pass at you, because you're nobody. it's not her responsibility to protect a rando's feelings, but it's your responsibility to not turn into a butthurt mess.

No. 245430

So do you know any other sayings besides "two to tango" or is it the only thing you can come back with?

Also, everything leads back to the fact that you decided to respond to a comment in a thread even though it had no barring on your life–you already said you enjoyed infighting, if that's all you wanted to do from the start just admit it.

No. 245431

>you were calling people who are upset over being cheated on "weak"
uhh no, I even said, and I quote
>>m not saying they can't, yeah they can get upset but acting as if its life destroying and getting addicted to drugs or cutting is just dumb and weak especially if its just over cheating, and filling peoples minds with how cheating is the worse thing ever and that they're supposed to go nuts if they're cheated on only harms people and encourages this behavior
>I understand screaming, crying, fighting, cursing, especially when you first find out, but there are people acting as if its going to make them depressed forever over it, people who think cheaters are the worse people in the world, people who literally wanna kill cheaters they dont even know, in fact if you watch any murder or abuse case, the second they mention the victim had an affair almost all attention is fixed to how much of a scum the victim was nevermind the murderer, to say cheating isn't being overhyped in society is crazy, now im not saying people cant get upset over it, What im saying is that its not the worse thing ever and people shouldn't be told or made to feel like they have to feel a certain way and be depressed forever and feel worthless, etc, yes there are people who react that way and im not saying they cant im saying it shouldn't be encouraged

I said if someone takes it to the extreme and ruins their life over getting cheated on it's weak
>Anons were getting pissed off at you over that
then anons were dumb and misunderstanding my point because thats not what I meant at all I even said several times people can get upset
>, not because you said that drugs, murder, and cutting is an overreaction to cheating.
…but that was my point, the entire time
>disagreed with you calling others weak over their own emotions with adultery.
if you lose emotional control, fuck yourself up over getting cheated on, unless your relationship was all you had and you've been married for years I don't wanna hear it, weak means easily broken, if getting cheated on breaks you you're weak, idc if it offends anyone

No. 245432

Seriously, anon acts like she was an innocent uwu angel but she clearly was trying to fight (apparently she enjoys it but she never ever ever starts it!!!) and was being a total asshole over literal opinions. Not to mention her idea of cheating seems to come from someone who hasn't been in a relationship since highschool and doesn't know that adults and shit move in and sometimes change jobs to do so.

She's obviously just immature.

No. 245434

>So do you know any other sayings besides "two to tango" or is it the only thing you can come back with?
I do but I'll just repeat it since no one understand it
> respond to a comment in a thread even though it had no barring on your life–you already said you enjoyed infighting, if that's all you wanted to do from the start just admit it.
if we are only allowed to respond to posts that have "a barring on our lives" now then why don't you shut up?

No. 245435

Careful anon, she might start sperging again.

No. 245437

> it's not her responsibility to protect a rando's feelings, but it's your responsibility to not turn into a butthurt mess.
what even are you on about? are you even responding to the right posts? I just said it shouldnt be a surprise if youre baiting a mentally ill person to that extreme

>Seriously, anon acts like she was an innocent uwu angel but she clearly was trying to fight (
>admits to liking to fighting
>"y-you think you're an innocent angel"
which one is it anon? do i like to fight or do i think im an innocent angel? I even admit to my wrongs way more than anyone else did
>was being a total asshole over literal opinions
yeah man like how I threw a tantrum on that person simply for pointing out unearned entitlement, oh wait
>Not to mention her idea of cheating seems to come from someone who hasn't been in a relationship since highschool and doesn't know that adults and shit move in and sometimes change jobs to do so.
sigh, again with putting words in my mouth, are you capable of having a debate without making shit up

No. 245439


See guys, don't worry, only the people who she deems emotionally scarred enough can react, regardless of their own emotional threshold! I'm so glad she cleared that up, I didn't realize we needed to all get the OK from her to be upset about our lives.

FFS I can't believe that this person, who seemingly can't stop responding to people for 7 hours, but totes wants to, is trying to chide people about being weak. What a joke!

No. 245440

Anon, I said seems I'm not putting words into your mouth, I'm making assumptions, it's my opinion that you're a mentally stunted autist who hasn't been in a relationship since your high school bf who was dared to date you for a week. I am not at all saying you said that, just something I'm assuming based on your really retarded behavior.

No. 245441

>only the people who she deems emotionally scarred enough can react
>shes crazy
>im not excusing her actions
>I said several times its okay for people to get upset about cheating


>I didn't realize we needed to all get the OK from her to be upset about our lives.

if you find me a post where I said that people arent allowed to get upset about cheating ill admit you're right but i have yet to see it and i only founds posts of me saying its okay to be upset so…

are you doing this on purpose?do i need to find you and use a megaphone in your ear for you to understand what im saying?

No. 245442

>it's my opinion that you're a mentally stunted autist who hasn't been in a relationship since your high school bf who was dared to date you for a week
and that's a retarded assumption to make and you have yet to explain yourself especially since I said several times I don't cond-
you know im not even gonna retype that, you can read, I spoonfed you quotes I said, if youre too illiterate to read thats not my fault

> I'm assuming based on your really retarded behavior.

so much insulting, so little explaining

No. 245443

>if you lose emotional control, fuck yourself up over getting cheated on, unless your relationship was all you had and you've been married for years I don't wanna hear it

>i don't want to hear it

what do you think that means you fucking nutter?

No. 245444

Lol I don't really care to explain cause you have no self-awareness at all. It's pathetic how chained you seem to be to these arguments. On a fucking image board.

No. 245445

this proves nothing but my point, this was referring to people who destroy their lives with addiction over cheating, which you even said yourself "we weren't talking about people who get addicted to drugs!!! u said people cant be upset over cheating!!"
where the fuck is the post i said people can't get upset over cheating
and saying "I don't wanna hear it" just means no excuses unless the one I've given, which still proves nothing but my point
no it's because you can't find shit, I know what the fuck I said, but you clearly don't and resort to shoving words in my mouth and I ask you to find me one post where I supposedly said things you're accusing me of saying and now you're backpedaling about how you "don't care" but cared enough to argue for hours but no evidence

No. 245446

I'm not the same anon you idiot. You're so paranoid. You're also talking to two different people and acting as if it's the same post, but it's not. I never accused you of saying anything, I'm just talking shit about you because you're an easy target but I'm leaving because you're clearly not well.

No. 245448

>I'm not the same anon you idiot. You're so paranoid.
I don't care who you are, i assume you've been here since the "U SAID PEOPLE CANT GET UPSET OVER CHEATING" argument since thats who i been replying to, do you know what paranoid means?
>You're also talking to two different people and acting as if it's the same post, but it's not.
I'm not "acting as if its the same post" sorry I don't make two different posts? wtf
> I never accused you of saying anything,
you were accusing me of saying people can't get upset over cheating on which I have yet to see, I don't know what anon you are but both of these started because they insisted i said people can't get upset over cheating, which I still have yet to see

>I'm just talking shit about you because you're an easy target but I'm leaving because you're clearly not well.

then…whats the point? im not well because I ask for evidence of me saying shit people are accusing me of saying? you were baiting and now you run out of shit to bait because you cant find evidence, go troll someone else

No. 245452

Lol, you don't understand. I didn't accuse you of saying anything, I was just telling you you are an immature twat, it's not related to any specific thing you said, just your constant MIGHTY NEED to reply.

You seem to be confusing me with someone who gives a shit about the content of your posts, and about your issue with cheating. I do not. I have no 'evidence' because my post wasn't related to what you said, just an opinion, which, I don't need evidence to have. I'm not validating my opinion to you.

No. 245454

>Not to mention her idea of cheating seems to come from someone who hasn't been in a relationship since highschool and doesn't know that adults and shit move in and sometimes change jobs to do so.

Is what you said, word from word, but refuse to explain what you mean from "my idea of cheating", claim you didn't put words in my mouth, and now you claim to not care enough, and since I know what the fuck I said, I still have yet to see what about my "idea of cheating" makes me immature just because I think its weak for people to fuck up their lives or even murder people over cheating

No. 245455

Just for perspective, you've been fighting about this for at least 8 hours now. Fucking take a valium it's not that serious

No. 245456

*you've all

No. 245460

It's gotta be more than that. They were fighting well before I left for work and they're still at it nine hours later lol.

No. 245462

11-12 hours I believe, not even counting when it happened in the other threads too

No. 245465

Exactly, I feel like I can't even post anything without people blowing it out of propotion, and farmers who jump in defending the post that was blowing it out of propotion without even reading it
Its like people
A) purposely misread it to start ranting/baiting/victim complex or whatever
B) have a reading disability and/or experiencing delusions
C) don't even bother reading what the poster said, or just read one word and assume what the post is without even reading it, like the anon in the surgery thread who was talking about the fat girl and how unhealthy she looked but also mention she was mexican and a random anon popped in saying "oh well you're Mexican we can't trust your ideas of health everyone there is fat that girl looks unhealthy"

I feel like I can just post "my favorite color is green" and anons will pop in saying "what? Why do you hate other colors" then the anon will say "no i just said i like the color green other colors are nice too" and then anons will pop in saying "what do you mean why do you hate other colors so much anon""chill out with your hate of other colors" "oh but anon by saying that your favorite color is green youre actually putting other colors down""are you that crazy anon who hated other colors in the color thread""gosh anon stop hating other colors so much"

I don't know if its one person or several but people here seriously need to work on their reading comprehension or stop baiting

No. 245479

>you're strawmanning because you're basing your opinion off personal experiences
>but when I do it it's not a strawman at all, my superior lezzie experiences are truth

No. 245489

It's not just my personal experiences though, it's a fact that bisexuals are the ones pushing gender politics the hardest. Maybe they bond over victim complexes, their bs not being embraced by gays and the resentment they have towards them because of it, and melodrama?

No. 245491

My personal experience with lesbians is that they're just as gross if not worse as men.
Just because you're a woman doesn't mean you hitting on (back then still underage) me isn't creepy. At least men pretend their not just after sex, yet those lesbians i met immediately went down the route
>If you have sex with me you'd always cum. Do you always cum when you do it with a guy? Come on, be honest!
(Thinking back, since me and my friends were just students and they in their late 20s, we should definitely asked somebody for help because they wouldn't leave us alone…)

Now you might say "not all lesbians!", but so far that's my only experience with them, so i will base my opinion about them on it.

We should accept that you're only attracted to women, yet you won't accept that some people are attracted to both genders…?

No. 245495

>My personal experience with lesbians is that they're just as gross if not worse as men.
>Now you might say "not all lesbians!", but so far that's my only experience with them, so i will base my opinion about them on it.
So if a woman sexually harrassed a man would it be okay for him to brand all women as creepy perverts who are just as gross if worse than men? Would his opinion have any validity? I shouldn't even have to explain to you why this is fucking stupid smh. You sound like kooter.

>We should accept that you're only attracted to women, yet you won't accept that some people are attracted to both genders…?

Nigga, who the fuck is denying that you're bisexual? That's not the bullshit, it's the legit homophobia and victim complexes which you yourself have exhibited.

No. 245496

It's true, I'm a lesbian magnet even thought I'm straight and 99% of them have behaved in really gross inappropriate ways. I especially remember an old lesbian (around 40 yrs old) groping me and making comment about my body during an apartment tour when I was a lost 17 yrs old in a new city.

No. 245498

>So if a woman sexually harrassed a man would it be okay for him to brand all women as creepy perverts who are just as gross if worse than men? Would his opinion have any validity?
If this was the only time he ever met a women and the experience was a 100% negative, like it was for me? Then i'd say yes!

>Nigga, who the fuck is denying that you're bisexual? That's not the bullshit, it's the legit homophobia and victim complexes which you yourself have exhibited.

I'm straight. I just saw you (or another lesbian) shitting on bisexuals.

No. 245499

Using the word 'Nigga' while calling others out for 'homophobia' lol

No. 245502

>Then i'd say yes!
I don't know what else to say other than you'd be wrong. Un-fucking-believable.

>I'm straight

No wonder you sounded so clueless; you are.

I'm 3/4 black, even if I wasn't, who gives a shit? It isn't ~raycist~ in the slightest. If someone said " My opinion of black people is that they are violent gangsters because the only black person I've ever seen was a violent gangster," that would be racist, but that's just like what the person I was replying to was saying, hmm…

No. 245512

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>You straighties don't have no clue about anything!
I bet if some men creepily hit on you and didn't respect your sexuality you'd also be quick to run to the man-hating thread to brag how bad all men are and that you're so lucky to be attracted to pussy.
But at least you're totez not as entitled as bisexuals, no!

No. 245523

Don't understand why saying that a straight girl who has extremely limited experience with LGB people doesn't have room to speak on this topic triggered you. And lesbians aren't the ones committing 98% of all sex crimes, so that's a pretty wild false equivalence on top of that projection :^)

By the way, how does some random polilez from tumblr reflect normal/real lesbians at all?

No. 245570

nta but give it a rest.

No. 245606

Get back to your ghetto and stop posting here. I've been able to pick out way too many of your posts with your minority speak. Black Twitter is where you belong.(infighting; derailing)

No. 245647

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>got time off mid shift at work
>decide to get dinner fast food
>call bf to see if he wants anything since he's had the past few days off
>he doesn't answer
>figure he's being lazy at home and order something for him anyway
>$20 of fast food
>realize on my way home that he actually did work today

>surrounded by $20 of fast food that's getting cold and I'm really tempted to eat a bit of his share

No. 245648

I'm not the one going on about racism in the other threads, you psychotic bitch. The only thread I've argued about political shit in is this one. Take your crusade agains le minority sjws back to /pol/ or whichever loony bin you crawled out of.(infighting; derailing)

No. 245681

anons, how old were you when you started doing shit on your own (ie getting your own snacks or drinks at home if you want them)? my nephew doesn’t seem to do any of it on his own, and he is nearly 13. i don’t know if he doesn’t want to or if he doesn’t know how but he asks for everything. tell me why a near teenager can’t pour his own drink?

No. 245682

I'd guess that his parents always do that shit for him and haven't made or taught him to do it

No. 245685

>nearly 13
Yeah, that doesn't sound normal at all. By that age I had been long using the microwave and was attempting to cook basic meals on the stove. It's not uncommon for a lot of kids that age to walk or bike to the corner store for snacks with some pocket money. Somebody is coddling him far too much, maybe his mom or whoever else. You have to start refusing to do basic shit for him if you want him to actually mature and grow some independence. He will probably whine at first but eventually he'll get up and do it.

No. 245687

i make it a point not to do anything for him and i try treating him like an adult and/or teenager in most cases because he acts like a toddler otherwise. i don’t know if i see it differently because i was really independent as a kid—shit, he won’t even eat dinner that the rest of us eat he HAS to eat something else. i wonder a lot if he’s undiagnosed on the spectrum but i don’t want to assume.

No. 245689

Maybe your race doesn't deserve to survive.

No. 245690

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13 is much too old to be unable to make himself a drink, or even a meal. Legally, in most places, he’d be allowed to be left alone for an entire day. Developmentally, he should be able to take care of himself fully, including doing chores like laundry. Many 13 year olds start getting their first jobs, whether that’s mowing lawns or walking dogs.

No. 245700

>that battery life
I see you too like to live on the edge anon

No. 245712

I’m a pos & deserve 2 die

No. 245721

…i was 5

No. 245723

>he won’t even eat dinner that the rest of us eat he HAS to eat something else
He doesn't HAVE to, though. If he doesn't eat the dinner that his parents provide for him then he can be sent to his room to go to bed hungry, and turn off the wi-fi or whatever he does for pleasure, maybe even slapped if he's being rude and disrespectful enough. People get really pissy and judgmental when it comes to child discipline nowadays, but kids need to actually feel that their parents are a dominant authority over them. The concept of 'shit tests' applies, your kids will constantly test your boundaries to know the extent to which they can take advantage of you. It's literally just power dynamics, people in a lower position of power are trying to get into a higher position of power, even if it's ultimately not good for them at all. Your kids need to know that you stand firm and will exert your power in a consistent manner. In turn, that will teach them good relationship skills for the future and ultimately set a good example for how they should lead their lives. You just can't treat your kid as an equal if they are acting like a toddler – I imagine that's how 'act your age' became a saying!

No. 245735

if you can’t tell it isn’t MY KID. he isn’t blood related to me at all so i’m not going to overstep my boundaries by trying to raise him. when i say he has to eat something else, i mean his parents will willingly go out and buy him something else because he doesn’t want what we have. the second you try to discipline him, you get daggers stared at you. when i treat him like an adult, it’s the only way i can TRY to instill some responsibility to him without being judged by his family.

No. 245736

Im ready to walk out of my job. It's a shit eikaiwa job and they yell at me for being on time (they want me here OVER 1 hr before my lessons but don't pay me for it. I'm just sitting around. I check in at the 1 hr mark but they want me here at least another 30 minutes before) they make me pay for my taxi home when lessons are done late and the final bus is gone. You're supposed to attach the taxi receipt to your transportation cost sheet but my supervisor told me she would "fill out the transportation costs for me" and just took it. The kids are chaotic and the other teachers literally grab them by the arms and toss them around when they misbehave. My schedule is 6 days a week for the next month even though it's supposed to be 6 day week followed by a 4 day week.
I'm so done. After being berated yesterday for checking in at the 1 hr mark I just can't do it. I'm supposed to give 3 months notice but I can't even stand another few weeks. I'm just going to send them an email and jump ship. I feel like a whiny pos for doing that but this job is not worth it. Everywhere I search for advice pretty much says give 1 months notice but I just don't care anymore.

No. 245737

I know that he's your nephew, sorry. I got so carried away on another train of thought that I forgot to actually address your post.

From your position I don't really see much that you can do. 'Un-spoiling' children can really only be done by the parents, and that's already a difficult task considering the child already thinks of the parents in a subservient role to his whims. If treating him like an adult and trying to get him to step into a role with greater responsibility isn't working, then I really don't know what you could possibly do. It kind of sounds like he's destined to be a manchild unless he gets a harsh dose of reality.

If you babysit him or are one on one with him in your own home, maybe you could treat him kind of like he's autistic and write up a set of rules that he has to agree with, and be extremely clear with what you expect from him while he is with you. If you are only interacting with him in his own home then I would say to when he asks you to get him (x) food, make it a game that you do together, like if he wants instant noodles you make it for yourself while explaining it step by step, then he has to repeat the process by himself, with you helping him verbally if necessary but he is physically performing the actions on his own. Make him repeat the instructions after you. It's learned helplessness; he is hoping that if he acts pathetic and unresponsive that you'll just give up and do it for him. Maybe you could convince him to do something like cooking with you? Something simply like making pancakes or scrambled eggs. You can watch a video of like Gordon Ramsay making scrambled eggs and then repeat the process with him.

I don't know your nephew but it really sounds like a frustrating situation. But yeah he should definitely be more advanced than he is and it sounds like it's completely his parents' fault.

No. 245738

Wtf you would slap a kid because he refuse to eat? What kind of crazy person are you. Just send him to his room and let him pout and cry.

No. 245739


>maybe even slapped if he's being rude and disrespectful enough. People get really pissy and judgmental when it comes to child discipline nowadays,

Haha yeah people aren’t really fond of physically harming children in this modern world of ours, shocking, I know. It’s almost like slapping a small child isnt okay.

No. 245740

No, I wouldn't. I said specifically 'if he was being rude or disrespectful enough.' It goes with what I was trying to say about power dynamics; if your child starts bucking your authority, he is essentially baiting you to punish him. Ideally the punishment is letting him 'pout and cry,' but if he tries refusing to do that, then I don't think slapping your kid is out of the question. There is an implicit threat of force in the very idea of punishment. Otherwise, what possible motivation would a child have to give in? Hence the 'wait until your father gets home' meme. People nowadays are just sheltered as fuck.

Honestly I legitimately forgot that most people are so opposed to this idea now, going to stop responding to not derail this.

No. 245741

I wouldn't slap an adult unless he did something REALLY terrible, same for a child. I was only slapped once as a kid and it was very light (didn't even hurt) it was because I disobeyed my parents, put myself in great danger and almost drowned. The look of worry of every adult's face plus the very small slap helped me realize how bad what I did was, but if you start slapping your kid around because they're throwing a fit and being annoying at diner you should probably not have one to begin with.

No. 245744

lately all I do is picking fights with my friends and I cry almost every day. I feel like I can't do anything right and I'm a shitty person.

No. 245798

I appreciate your response none the less ands apologize if I was rude when I responded! I just get so overwhelmed when he's over because he will not leave me and my s/o alone but I can't say anything because it isn't even my house (staying at his parents until we find somewhere on our own) so I feel like I'm already overstaying my welcome, it'd be worse if I was suddenly trying to discipline him when they pretty much refuse to.
>'It kind of sounds like he's destined to be a manchild'
THAT IS WHAT WORRIES ME. I am so worried that he's going to be bullied and end up like Chris-Chan or something because no one is trying to toughen him up or help him deal with his issues, they're just glossing over them with rose colored glasses. I love the kid so much but it's irritating when he comes over and it's suddenly like he has free reign of the place and we all have to bow down to him. I also apologize for the essential novels I'm given, it's just something I can't say to his folks so it's nice to say here anonymously.