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No. 248328
The good, the bad, the ugly. Share your experiences here, what are the best apps to use, your success stories, cringeist interactions, horror, etc.
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>>>/g/82463 No. 248648
>>248641Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. I don't know if it's because of the wall or if it's because men just decide to lose all sense of personality/style once they enter their mid 20s or if it's a gen Z thing. Zoomer men are probably awful in their own way, but they're more likely to dress nicely/interesting and be less boring on their profile.
I also connected my Spotify just to see what my top artists were, cringed horribly and disconnected my Spotify only to see that my top artists are still showing up on my profile. Fuck this is going to be so horrible and embarrassing.
No. 249016
>>248357I have to also agree with anon
>>248610 about Okcupid. So far the only guys that I've been on date with on dating apps have mainly been on Okcupid with one being from Tinder. I hardly get any matches on Bumble and I kept forgetting to create an account on Hinge.
I also recommend staying far away from Badoo, too many weird randos matches with me and send me messages before I can even see their profiles. I tried it out of curiousity and I regretted it.
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Am I being too picky if I consider these teams a red flag? Never had a good experience with a Raiders/Dodger combo fan
No. 249310
>>249285Had a similar experience a couple years back, short tech loving guy with pics of him next to a marvel statue. I had just moved to a tiny new town and knew nobody here. He mostly just looked non threatening so I gave him a chance. He went from being amazed that a woman actually messaged him to getting so lazy with responses after one day. I was leading the convo and he talked about himself without flipping the questions back on me. He wasn't interesting enough for it to make sense that he talked about himself so much. He made a couple comments that I think were attempts at seeming confident? They didn't land and I noped out. I've spotted him a few times since then irl. Always shopping with his mother. Never with anyone else. Small town boy who has never left home. Why did I even…
Any time I've gone near a guy that ticks those three cursed boxes (short, tech, marvel) they've been the kind to tell you you're their first date in years.. then they make you pay for your coffee separately to theirs and want date number 2 to be at your house. They certainly don't help themselves get out of their dating rut. I've been dealing with low confidence at the times when I attempted to date down… it's never gone well. Might as well aim higher if the 'grateful nerd' stereotype is a myth and most of them are as rude and cocky as anything now.
No. 249318
>>249287Are we shilling 4chan as a means of online dating now? I knew there were plenty of desperates on here dating 4chan moids but I didn't think we'd go full on retard mode recommending it.
Ladies don't go there for any contacts, it's full of misogynistic scrotes. Even if he appears to be a ""good"" one on the surface, he's still exposed to women-hate rhetoric on the daily basis. When that happens it's inevitable it's normalized to him in some capacity. As a woman you're only putting yourself in a bad position by contacting moids off /soc/. Don't be retarded and just go on normie dating apps.
No. 249626
I feel like I got so lucky with a cute guy I met on Okcupid a few months ago. He's only a few years younger than me and we have been on a few dates so far, I hope he ask me out.
>>249272To be honest I do match with a lot of weebs which goes nowhere. The previous date I did get from Okcupid was more like a normal nerd guy who has seen one anime. The guy I mentioned above is an anime fan but he's more of a shy awkward nerd. I rarely ever found poly stuff on my Okcupid.
No. 249763
>>249287I met my bf off this and tbf he is not a 4channer at all, just a bored normie who decided to use the site after hearing about it in media during pandemic when people were stuck online and couldn’t go out. Definitely use friend finder threads but you’ll still bump into coomers and mentally ill moids.
I’m very grateful to have him, he is the opposite of a 4ch moid, kind and considerate, respectful, beautiful (he looks like a crossbreed between Clint Eastwood and Timothy Chalamet), polite, dresses well (by my standards, he dresses vintage and posh which looks good to me), and he comes from old money too so he has all sorts of antiques and interesting historical knowledge, also reads poetry, enjoys literature and loves classical music. Very smart boy as well, knows in-depth knowledge about politics, geography, history, philosophy - can have all sorts of deep discussions with him. He’s always learning and feeding his big brain. I think that’s what I love most about him. And he’s incredibly hardworking and disciplined, hardly uses the internet because he’s always keeping busy. I’m a loser in comparison to him lol but my god I love him so much and this has turned into a rant I’m so sorry lol
Also I didn’t get scammed or anything. I live with him now and met his family. I still feel very much an outsider because I didn’t go to prestigious schools or met important political figures. Hoping that they don’t look down on me and think he’s settled, which they probably DO think lol - there had been some dramatics when we first started dating but they’ve accepted me now because I make him incredibly happy
No. 249777
>>249776Lmaooooo virgos are a trip. Idk man, at least the fatties are not catfishhing you.
I once met with a man for a date and he was using a photo more than 5 years old. I didn't even recognize him on the date- told him
I was saving that seat. That was fucking awkward and 20 minutes later i circled back to the fact it was fucked he used the old photos.
He got angry and rude and I walked away.
He proceeded to yell at me across the parking lot and blew up my phone for 4 hours straight until I blocked him (way back, like 10? Years ago?)
No. 249781
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>>249763I met my bf through KF and we’re set to get married soon. Granted, I’ve always kinda had a crush on him and would get excited if he liked my posts etc. I was surprised when he dm’d me on discord. Wouldn’t recommend finding anyone on KF though kek.
No. 249788
>>249781Aww! That's so cute
nonny! Are you nervous for your wedding?
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>>249781What r ur usernames?
No. 249796
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>>249788No, not really. I always knew we’d get married the moment when I felt he was a safe person. We’ve been together 4 years this July.
>>249793Sorry girl I can’t give that info out. We’re not trying to get the most coveted KF achievement lol.
No. 249812
All of these last few posts make me sick.
>>249781How would one even form a crush on a forum user? This larp is too weak.
No. 249957
>>249812It's weird and hard to explain but I always felt a connection??
>>249834No it's real, all of our friends know about where we met except the parents. We're long distance too but have met multiple times. I'm moving there this spring though.
No. 250428
>>249763i also have a bf of higher status than me as well. my bf is a normie type of nerd (not a 4channer) and probably never used image boards. i got lucky because i met him irl through a college course. he wanted to date someone smarter than him but he knows a lot of guys who would purposefully try for the opposite. be careful to all my single nonnies out there, apparently guys seeking out dumber women is common bc it's an ego thing but imo it's really worrying if you think about how many women get stuck in
abusive situations and are reliant upon a male partner.
No. 250793
>>249318I met my ex through there by his friend who is a soc user. My ex was instead a reddit user which is arguably worse imo. However, I rather not go on soc again to find a relationship, especially a serious one.
>>249763>>250428I am happy with being single, but nonnies I am SUPER jelly! Like how is it possible?? Of course all the guys I would be into are taken, but I am happy you found guys who made you happy! Good wishes!
I rather be single as I feel that most guys cannot catch up to me in conversation, ambitions, goals, etc., and the few guys I like… I get rejected because I get super nervous or eager so it never works out. It does not help that I am picky, but I rather die alone than settle.
No. 250819
>>250793Keep that mentality
nonny, never settle for anything less than what matches your ideal or goes above your expectations! But it also helps to put yourself out there, even dating apps. They’re exhaustive and what not but there are diamonds in the rough, it’s just a matter of right time, right place so it feels like fate. That’s what happened to me and I’m so happy I never settled and waited for the right one! I don’t believe that “love finds you” - it can’t find you if you are holed up in your room and never reach out and give it that opportunity to find you, so yeah, definitely do whatever you’re comfortable with to help that person find you, whether that be dating apps, in-person events, or the internet
No. 251019
>>250819Ayart and I do put myself out there on a whole bunch of apps. And if I have no interest then I am not afraid of telling guys that as well. I also ask them if they are interested in going out again to gauge interest. I am not afraid to voice my wants because it makes me feel more in control and I worry less about if a guy likes me or not. I am not going to waste my own time and attention on a guy with no interest in me.
I am still hopeful in finding love with a kind, and caring man who takes care of himself and respects me with similar interests and values.
No. 254285
>>254208>Is having a fuck friend better than having a relationship?why? so the guy can still use you as an emotional dumpster without actually having to give anything back?
>>254216 is right, fwb are so stressfull for women, don't bother.
No. 254614
>>254322I'm in my mid 20s and I also have no time for that either. so many of my friends either are getting married or had partners for 5+ years
>>254216>>254285yeah definitely can't do that, it's too emotionally draining especially if someone ends up getting feelings or feel like they are supposed to be exclusive with the fwb
No. 254696
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What kind of pics do you like best on dating apps? I want to set up an account but I have no good pics of myself recently. I never really take selfies and I don't have any interesting pics of me doing anything except like graduation pictures from like 2019… I would like to show myself actually doing things in my photos instead of just selfies bc I feel like that would attract people who would be interested in what I was doing rather than just looks if that makes sense
I could unironically have fishing photos like scrotes since I do that kek
No. 256704
>>254614I tried the FWB because I too thought maybe I should try it as most men don’t seem to want anything serious and let me tell you, unless I’m just extremely unlucky, it’s a scam of giving men what they want with very little in return and they will treat you like shit for it and feel 0 guilt as their excuse is they didn’t lead you on. After the deed is done they will distance themselves and be less friendly, and because of conveyor belt of women on dating apps men are spoiled for choice you become a pump and dump and there is no reason to really do it again with you on to the next. It wouldn’t be so bad if they were just honest and used the term “one night stand”,
friends with benefits is so misleading as they usually cut the friendship off as soon as things get intimate.
I’m a little bitter because I feel regardless of what path you choose - looking for friendship, relationships, fwb, the end result is going to be the same dealing with cumbrain moids.
No. 257148
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I'm going to stealth some subliminal cows into my dating profile somehow. If i ever meet any of you nonnies in the wild use the word 'anonitas' and then we'll both know we're farmers
No. 257375
>>257257thank you for affirming my belief that nothing is wrong with me :)
i do admit that my profile probably makes me look a little intellectually intimidating to men just looking for girls dtf. which i guess i am fine missing out on them since i don’t even engage in casual sex. i’ll try hinge in my area and hope i have some better luck!
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>sign up to lex
>it's all picrel
I hate Hinge and Bumble though so where do I go from here?
No. 259231
>>254696All the typical advice is bullshit imo. All I want to see are solo shots with different angles and lighting. "Hobby" pics are stupid, and so are group pics. Mirror selfies are fine. I swipe left on any profile that looks too "slick".
>>256987I also swipe left at any hint of negativity. It's a turnoff whether or not it's applicable.
No. 260438
Well nonnies, I managed to meet a non weird man on one of the most degenerate dating apps out there. Feeld is the dating app for kinky people and I made an account in moderate desperation browsing for softer (more submissive) men who looked masculine. A diamond in the rough sure, but sometimes I browse out of curiosity. Last time I checked it out it was full of fedora-wearing or spiritual or generally degenerate men but the profiles were good for a laugh.
Though I ended up chatting to this relatively normie guy who was told about this app through a friend and we went on a pretty good date tonight. He's very offline, a little older. I spoke fairly openly about sex given the context of how we met and he seems just… normal? Which I really like, it exceeded my expectations of the particular type I was looking for.
Surely there's something wrong with him, but given I'm not looking for anything too serious at the moment he seems like a nice person to chill out with, fuck relentlessly, listen to music and chat over wine. It's early to say obviously, but it's overall nice to feel respected and treated well on a first date, on top of them being interesting and hearing you out, let alone from an app like Feeld.
No. 260454
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>>260438Also I've compiled just some random profiles from the app to show you all what a true range of men (I have it set to women too but they're all the same type of alt poly coloured hair overweight women you'd expect) but here, enjoy
No. 260840
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Disgusting. The first thing my profile says is no single fathers.
No. 261180
>>261071His profile also said he got kicked out of Knott’s Scary Farm.
Wish I had asked him why but I was so disgusted about the 4 baby mommas I blocked him immediately.
Bet he thought he was a cool tough guy and assaulted a performer.
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Maybe we need a dating apps cringe thread
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Seggsy time
No. 261590
>>261300This
is the dating app cringe thread.
>The good, the bad, the ugly.99% of scrotes on OLD are bottom of the barrel, so most things here are "ugly."
No. 263146
>>262527Maybe once every few months to a year, it depends on how much of an impression you're trying to make.
>>262534A guy who I met on Okcupid, as well as matched with me on tinder too, uses photos from back when he was a university student with all his friends, he's currently 27. In his dating app profile he looked like a tipsy mess and was clean shaven. I went on a date with him last year and he looks quite different than his profile. He has a beard, mustache and he gained a bit of weight but he looks kinda better than his profile.
No. 263955
>>249813Misogynists are everywhere men are. Do you really think tindr and bars are misogynist-free lol?
>>249819NTA but this is correct
nonnie! Unfiltered talking let's you really know who someone is.
I get frustrated with empty profiles and the performance acts people do in person.
It's better to get as much information as soon as possible.
Especially because you can talk for someone for months or years without them ever opening up too.
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How retarded and delusional should i get before i go and try bumble premium just for travel mode to find my overseas crush. Also kinda wanna try ldr lol
No. 265812
>>265809Kek. I'm the one of those who replied and I thought you were joking. Ok so, don't use filters buut do a light makeup look and always take pictures using flattering lightening. Maybe do your hair and get a cute outfit, take some pictures outside with a friend or something.
Most people won't notice your skin issues so don't worry about that, just present yourself the way youll look on the date.
No. 265821
>>265809and this is weird, but How can I get on a dating site that will make it hard for just anyone to go on my profile?
I have a fear of my family finding out i'm on a dating site. I don't want to post pictures but at the same time, I know I won't get any attention unless I do. Whats the best sites to limit in a way WHO can view my profile/pictures?
No. 265875
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I thought Lex was a dating app
No. 266789
>>266779That sounds a bit silly to me anon. Of course if he’s on a
dating app he is going to be matching with and messaging other women, that’s the whole point. It would be a red flag if he sent your friend some gross low effort pickup line or bombarded her with messages, but writing a paragraph (that is presumably related to her interests) doesn’t sound desperate to me.
No. 266878
>>266874Censoring haram words that way like, may Allah forgive me for saying this,
twtter, predates twtterfags doing it
No. 266977
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I tried tinder for the first time that app is so messy. Why are they so upfront about their bdsm kinks
No. 266983
>>266979Totally fine with vegans as long as they don't try to convert me (I'd like to go vegetarian but no further).
Not sure what woke entails so I'm a little suspicious of that one. If you mean they're politically left-leaning but not a psycho about it, that's not a deal-breaker.
Would heavily consider dating an FTM or bi male if I really thought we could be happy together.
The rest are unappealing.
No. 266993
>>266979>PolyamorousHard no
>Conservative/republican/right wingDepends on how hard they lean into politics, I have some family that lean republican that are alright, but I'm not listening to Fox news or political podcast all day
>Woke (not extreme)Again it depends on how much they lean into it, I'm not listening to how every little thing is '
problematic'
>VeganPossibly if they weren't crazy or tried to convert me, I also own animals that eat other animals so idk if that could work
>Bi moidNo moids
>FTM>MTFI don't want to deal with gender bullshit…
>"nonbinary" womanI could possibly see this one working, if they were chill about it and not overly sensitive about gendie issues. I've know some nb people who are cool with being called whatever, they just see themselves as neutral I guess
No. 267017
>>266979>PolyamorousIf they're not too annoying, sure
>Conservative/republican/right wingNope, I matched with one before, she immediately started being misogynistic about the other women on the app. I can handle weird pronouns, I can handle some trans stuff, but I can't handle old school misogyny and calling other women harlots and making violent sexual jokes about women. Another one wanted to become a cop and I can't stand for that. That's also just a hotbed of misogyny and making fun of rape
victims.
>VeganI'm vegan, so would actually be a plus in my eyes.
>FTMYeah that's fine
>MTFI don't like dick
>Bi moidI don't like dick
>"nonbinary" womanYeah fine
No. 267291
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Not the worst bio but imagine wanting to date a guy who has a lot of female friends he got to know on tinder. And somehow the way he says he likes loyal curvy cute women and under that he talks about dogs is dehumanising to me.
Every single Slovakian guy I've met or interacted with has been full of neuroticism and red flags, what the hell happens during their upbringing, is it that traumatic? Kek
No. 267294
>>266979>PolyamorousHard no. I don't wanna get syphilis no thank you. And the drama.
>Conservative/republican/right wingNo. They're insufferable and I wanna work and not be a housemaid who has many children.
>Woke (not extreme)Yes if not extreme. I could peak them anyway.
>VeganYes. No problem.
>FTMMaybe.
>MTFHarn no. Fetishists.
>Bi moidI used to date one, I guess it would depend on how gay he'd act or how out he'd been. If he would only have faint attraction and wasn't likely to cheat, okay. If he dated men before, no because he'd probably cheat. Gays are easy.
>"nonbinary" womanProbably. Again I think I could peak her.
No. 267479
>>266979I wrote this days ago but don’t seem to have posted it, weird.
>Woke (not extreme)Realistically only this one, it’s also a dealbreaker. For the rest of them (00:55—00:58 vidrel).
No. 268994
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I've been playing "spot the personality disorder".
I find that in my experience "sarcasm" really means "disrespect".
No. 269018
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>>268994Found another one.
No. 269340
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I checked the HER app and all my new likes are from AGP's. I literally have the terf signal "vagitarian". Fuck off please.
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What does this mean
No. 269910
>>269902>police protecting vulnerable groupsThey could do fuckall for me when I was abused by my father. They also take a gender neutral approach and go "both sides" in DV disputes. They also accuse gay couples of provocation for walking hand-in-hand when they get bashed. They also have chat groups where they swap CP and bestiality porn. Any of their colleagues who complain about it, end up getting fired. There was a documentary recently about how everyone makes dark rape jokes about
victims and the female cops are pressured to go along with it and happily do so. They're the ultimate NLOGs. Women are discouraged from reporting rapes,
victim blamed, if a woman defends herself she's the one who is going to get arrested not the man, some women get raped and murdered by cops. It's a very tribalistic environment not unlike the military and I've noticed that female cops tend to cover up for their male counterparts and I don't want to fucking deal with that shit. I wouldn't want a cop in my life constantly watching me, it's about as retarded as dating a glowie and with my job I could actually be in opposition to the police at times, so that would cause conflict in the relationship for sure due to aforementioned tribalistic shit. No not because I want to represent violent men, but because I don't agree with evicting old ladies, bullying rape
victims and generally supporting the patriarchal state apparatus. They enforce the shitty laws I critique and hate. I don't feel safe around them at all.
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Polyfags are always so hostile. And ugly.
No. 270686
>>264960Just found out today that my friend who's from the UK is in an ldr with someone from the US. He's planning on flying over to see her in a few months, have no clue how long they known each other. All I can do is wish him luck.
The last friend I knew who had a ldr relationship never even got to see the person after 5 years of dating. And he was pretty broke, just like my other friend.
No. 270705
>>266979>PolyamorousFuck no
>Conservative/republican/right wingPerhaps
>Woke (not extreme)Perhaps
>VeganNo
>FTMNo
>MTFPerhaps>Bi moidPerhaps
>"nonbinary" womanNo, I'm not calling anyone a "they"
I would feel retarded talking to people about "them"
>>26992240% of them
No. 270708
>>266979>Polyamorousno
>Conservative/republican/right wingno
>Woke (not extreme)if he's gc and not annoying maybe otherwise no
>Veganugh preferably not but if i reaaaally liked him sure
>FTMno, i'm straight
>MTFew no
>Bi moiddepends how bi. like if he's effeminate or has ever taken it up the ass no
>"nonbinary" womanno, i'm straight
No. 270713
>>266979>Polyamoroushard no
>Conservative/republican/right winghard no
>Woke (not extreme)depends on what you mean by "extreme" and also what cause they're particularly woke about
>Veganif not too preachy I could go for one
>FTMonly if not on T, still has breasts (excluding mastectomies for actual medical reasons) and not too deep into gender shit
>MTFhard no
>Bi moidin theory ok, if not actually sexy, in real life usually tranny chasers and/or anal freaks and/or otherwise gigacoomers so I'd lean towards no, but only a soft no
>"nonbinary" womansame as FTM, they're basically the same except nonbonereees are less likely to actually go through the mutilation, also obviously much less likely to be the "male brained tru transsexual type" and can probably more easily be peaked with solid arguments that debunk TRA logic
No. 270714
>>266979>polyamorousfuck no and this easily the worst option. if i'm not the one special person to someone and vice-versa, what's the point. they're also literally never not obnoxious no matter how much they might insist otherwise.
>conservative/right wingthe furthest i'd go in that direction is someone with some edgy/anti-woke views. full on conservative, no.
>wokethis is very vague and could mean a lot of things. pronouns in the bio sex posi trans friendly Male Feminist? fuck no. a guy who just maybe sort of cringily talks about punching billionaires and whatnot? sure.
>vegansure, easily the best option here
>FTMno. nobody transitioning looks attractive/don't care for gender bullshit.
>MTFno. nobody transitioning looks attractive/don't care for gender bullshit.
>bi moidprobably not. recently talked to one on tinder and could only see him as a gay man. they also tend to be extra annoying about muh erasure and evul straight women who don't want to fuck them + want open relationships to ~explore~
>"nonbinary" womanno, i'm straight + tend to get annoyed by these types even platonically
No. 270744
>>266979I'm bi and
>Polyamorousabsolutely not
>Conservative/republican/right wingfox news conservative no but generally it depends
>Woke (not extreme)also depends
>Vegansure, if they were okay with me having eggs/dairy around them
>FTMno
>MTFno
>Bi moidI have dated a bi moid, but it wasn't something we really discussed a lot, I wouldn't date a man who constantly told me about his gay fantasies though
>"nonbinary" womanno
No. 270754
>>270753Also
>woke Depends how “woke”
No. 270952
>>266979Straight…
>PolyamorousEx wanted to be and I am not accepting that shit.
>Conservative/republican/right wingI cannot handle dealing with the amount of misogyny they will spout and even think of. Absolutely no.
>Woke (not extreme)If they are not extreme that is fine, as long as they respect my views.
>VeganI am massive carnivore so it will not work out…
>FTMNo, I want a man who is born male.
>MTFNever. I am sorry for my bi and lesbian nonnies who have to put up with this shit.
>Bi moidEx wanted to be a selfish bi and have it both ways with men and women, I am not putting up with this anymore in men.
>"nonbinary" womenNo because I like men. As for nonbinary men, I feel as if they more insufferable (and less attractive) than enby women.
>>270938Nonny, I dated a bi moid. Literally asked me if he can have sex with men to fulfill his desire and make him feel sexually complete and that because I was saving myself sexually for the right time. It was never enough to be with me, I knew it, and foolishly accepted it at the time. I will respect their sexuality, but I am not taking that risk again as I am afraid the next bi man I date wants to be a selfish bi and will make me feel inferior for being a woman who cannot fully fulfill their desire for a man.
All the options are difficult, but I think it is good to put to perspective what you and others find more difficult or dealable.
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I keep Lex on my phone for posts like this
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>>271047Another from someone else
No. 271062
>>266979Straight
>PolyamorousFuck no, petri dish
>Conservative/republican/right wingNo to conservative and right wing, can't talk on the republican thing since I'm not American and managed to avoid learning the meaning of that word ever since the first elections I witnessed back in 2012 and I refuse to break that streak.
>Woke (not extreme)Depends on what kind of woke.
>VeganSure. I'm unintentionally eating mostly vegan anyways, I wouldn't mind a last push or anything like that to actually pull through with it.
>FTMNot applicable, but no out of principle.
>MTFEw
>Bi moidI guess as long as he doesn't want me to stick anything up his ass
>"nonbinary" womanNot applicable
No. 271067
>>270938My bf is bi but tbh bi men are all just degenerate coomers, bf included. It's best to avoid them.
He is also "polyamorous" of course.
No. 271150
I've been dabbling back in dating apps again and I hate it. I don't even want a relationship, I'm moreso looking for a friends with benefits situation. But every scrote just seems to fuck off once they've gotten what they want from me. It feels like I can't have any sexual agency, men will always hold power here. I chat to each one on the first date and clearly describe I'm just after an ongoing casual thing, someone who wants to have fun but isn't looking for anything serious. Also that I don't like one night stands. I know it's stupid of me to expect that they'd see me after sleeping with me, but I also don't understand what goes through a moids head when an attractive, sexually veracious woman is essentially presenting them with the opportunity of consistent, no strings attached sex. Why would you turn that down? Why would you stop texting a woman who has told you she thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you on occasion?
I've been ghosted twice now, after two seemingly ok dates. I slept with them both because I'm fucking horny and just want to have fun with someone, but then feel gross days after when they just completely go silent on me. I realise this is partially my fault, but it's not even that I'm all invested in them? It's the fact that I want consistency without emotional commitment because a relationship doesn't interest me right now. I just want sex, and my vibrator just doesn't compare to the touch of a human. One night stands are terrible given you don't know each other's bodies yet, wouldn't these stupid scrotes want to sleep with a woman more than once? Boggles my mind that even just finding a regular lay is so hard in this day and age.
Years ago this never happened to me, I could meet someone and engage in a casual, ongoing relationship so easily. Things would peter out eventually, but we'd at least see each other every so often, connect sexually, have a bit of fun and stopped hanging out for other reasons. I swear the dating scope has completely shifted in a mere 10 years, and scrotes are only getting worse.
No. 271172
>>271161NTA but I know of more people who did "friends with benefits" thing than "one night stand" types so it's not THAT retarded to expect; maybe not on dating apps though, idk.
Also it's bound to get messy eventually at some point
No. 271368
>>266979>PolyamorousNO
>Conservative/republican/right wingNO
>Woke (not extreme)Depends, I've fixed handmaidens before.
>VeganYes, most lesbians in my city are vegan or vegetarian anyway.
>FTMSoft no. Some just wanna do pronouns and don't dabble in the rest, but they're rare.
>MTFI'm a lesbian so no, never.
>Bi moidSee above.
>"nonbinary" womanMaybe, if it looks like I can fix her. She'd have to be really beautiful or interesting for me to bother though.
>>269768>"Oh I'm training to be in the police/army/navy"Hard no. Fuck cops and soldiers.
No. 271372
>>266979Straight woman, so this applies to moids
>PolyamorousNo
>Conservative/republican/right wingMaybe, as long as not extreme or hateful of people
>Woke (not extreme)Perhaps
>VeganAbsolutely not, somehow all my exes have been vegan/vegetarian and they all tried to convert me. I just want to eat my meals in peace without someone giving me a dirty look, trying to make me feel guilty, or asking me to watch Dominion with them. They always struggle to find food and try to make me eat their shitty tofu chicken when we go out instead of the real thing. Then they dump me when I don't convert even though they say they're fine with it. Yes I'm mad. In males veganism is pathetic too.
>FTMNo
>MTFNo
>Bi moidNo
>"nonbinary" womanNo
No. 271390
>>271150>Why would you stop texting a woman who has told you she thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you on occasion?I'm convinced men are mentally crippled and the thrill of fucking a new chick overshadows any logical thinking they might entertain. Which they won't anyway, they're men and having a high bodycount is a huge flex for them. I'm sorry you had bad experiences.
>>271161Nice retarded opinion you have there. Seriously though, what's retarded about not wanting a serious long term relationship but still craving intimacy and sex? One would prefer a trusted partner for that sort of deal, not some rando, right?
No. 271428
>>266979>PolyamorousDrama, STD risk since there's almost always at least one bi manwhore in these equations, hard no
>Conservative/republican/right wing and Woke (not extreme)Depends on how open they are to discussing and actually explaining how they arrive at their beliefs and if their beliefs allow them to have a baseline of respect towards me and how I conduct my life. I never fully recovered from my euphoric fedora tipper days and enjoy casually debating people too much. I can fix him/her yada yada
>VeganSure if it's for non-ideological reasons. I think the vast majority of animals produced for food are unethically treated, but I think there exist ethical ways to care for animals that ultimately end up as food and I feel like a lot of vegans don't agree with that (otherwise they would eat animal products in which the animals were ethically treated). If the person is dedicated enough to commit to a vegan diet, then I think they believe strongly enough about animal welfare that they might resent my views over time. Also, eating out instantly becomes a pain in the ass with vegans.
>FTM>MTFI've peaked too hard and can't imagine myself entertaining their mental illness unless they were non-op (not just pre-op) and a personal 10/10. Only for a one night stand or a short-term fwb thing though. I'm too autistic to keep the charade up for long.
>Bi moidDespite being bi myself, I don't fucking trust bi moids to be monogamous when they say they will be. I'm sure there's good ones around, but I've been burned too many times to entertain the possibility anymore.
>"nonbinary" womanIf she was otherwise really great, then I would maybe try my hand at fixing her.
>>271422I feel bad for agreeing with this since I understand wanting the type of situation the original anon wants, but what was she expecting? Especially if she's as hot as she says she is, then not only did those moids get to empty their balls but their egos probably got inflated enough to continue trying their luck with other women
No. 271468
>>266979
>PolyamorousNo theyre always an ugly looking couple. Don't want to get into whatever issue they got going
>Conservative/republican/right wingNo.
>Woke (not extreme)Maybe. But I'll be constantly annoyed by them. I don't see a longterm future with these
>VeganSure. Just as long as they don't try to change my lifestyle. I love eating chicken and beef
>FTMMaybe. I want the normal ones not the aidens.
>MTFNo
>Bi moid50/50.
>"nonbinary" womanYes. I've been that nonbinary woman so I can safely say that these women will grow out of that phase and just be that lesbian/bisexual woman who's GNC
No. 271585
>>271422>>271521I get what you're trying to say but you're missing the point. Op isn't crying and having her heart broken by these men, she's perplexed that they don't have basic human decency to part ways properly instead of going silent. Read the post, she said it herself she didn't have problems getting exactly what she wanted in the past and no one was emotionally hurt in the end. It bothers me you're trying to paint her as some young bimbo who 'had it coming'.
>I swear the dating scope has completely shifted in a mere 10 years, and scrotes are only getting worse.Her own conclusion and I fucking agree.
No. 271694
>>271172>>271390>>271585Original OP and thank you for understanding my perspective. I agree that I don't think it's much to expect an arrangement that's casual while still being fun/respectful.
>>271422>>271161kek, I figured I'd get this sort of response. It might be hard to understand for you, but some women do want regular intimacy but may not be interested in dating. What else am I supposed to do? Fall to celibacy? And I don't want to go through a string of one night stands with average moids who play the numbers game. Hookup culture is a disease and I don't want to be a part of it. I'm not here to fuck men for validation, I want to get off for me. It's a frustrating situation to be in, but one I'm stuck with nonetheless.
>>271428>Especially if she's as hot as she says she isLol. I only mentioned that because I know I'm not ugly. I'm slim, I look after myself, I dress well, decent facial structure, etc. You're right though, it's infuriating knowing I've inflated a man's ego because IIIII wanted to get off, that's probably the part that pisses me off the most. I feel like that's inevitable in this sort of quest, like I can't escape the thought of men just using me for a quick pump and dump when I'M the one looking for sexual satisfaction. For the first time in my life I feel comfortable in my sexuality, my body and my overall self and I want to be able to explore that casually with someone I trust but doesn't expect things to eventuate anywhere. Moids, however, are all retarded and the other anon is right in that for many of them it's just a numbers game, quantity over quality, etc.
No. 271720
>>266979>PolyamorousNo, life sucks enough without jealousy
>Conservative/republican/right wingPotentially, but our conservaties are a bit different from american style republicans.
>Woke (not extreme)I would
>VeganNo, life sucks enough without having to hear about the ethics of my burger
>FTMNo, I'm straight
>MTFNo, life sucks enough without needing to pretend a bloke can be a woman. Also they look ugly.
>Bi moidPotentially, but the few bi dudes I've talked to considered their sexual attraction a free card for cheating, as long as it was with a man (while dating women)
>"nonbinary" woman (or man)No, life sucks enough without living with someone self-hating
No. 271850
>>271826I have a couple prospects for that but they don't seem all that viable. Mostly because I don't feel any chemistry with either of them and one has gotten fat lol.
>I even met a friend of a friend on a dating app and he wrote a paragraph to me on why a fwb is better than a relationshipsThis is so funny and it would turn me off apps for good.
No. 272400
>>272374>Full-contact sports athletes should be avoided too.In my limited experience martial artists are some of the sanest moids I've met. But MMA bros/boxers are always
abusive and scrotey. Maybe all that head trauma loosens their brains.
No. 272488
>>272475Anon fuck that, don't tell yourself he's out of your league. He's planned a date with you so clearly he's interested somewhat. I want you to tell yourself right now that you know your worth and you will not let yourself sabotage everything you've worked hard for to undermine and commit indirect self-harm like this.
Good luck with your date, let us know how it goes.
No. 272495
>>272456>Are relationships with attractive, smart accomplished men any better or? Abso-fucking-lutley
Watch some Chloe_ vids on YouTube
No. 273798
>>266979>PolyamorousNo, jealousy is natural and non-coomers can be satisfied by a single partner
>Conservative/republican/right wingConservative/ring-wing probably, republican no (might as well say I don't date Americans)
>Woke (not extreme)No, they still usually believe children should be trooned because "fee fees get hurt and suicide". I'm sick of showing them the Swedish study every damn time
>VeganNo, I used to be vegan and I know the lies. Almost killed myself over "saving animals" and I'm over that
>FTMNo, they believe children should be trooned and often coom to yaoi. Ex-FTM would be okay.
>MTFNo, they believe children should be trooned and are often coomers and/or pedophilic
>Bi moidYes, if he's genuinely based. If I could choose I wouldn't be attracted to moids myself either, so it's not his fault.
>"nonbinary" woman (or man)"nonbinary" sometimes means deep down GC because the lack of "feeling gender" can mean they do know gender doesn't exist and that it's all about facts and biology. It really depends.
Wouldn't if the person is all into the identity bs and doesn't believe clothes are just fabric to cover ourselves.
No. 274045
>>266979>Polyamorouspotentially id be ok with it
>Conservative/republican/right wingit really depends but not an automatic no
>Woke (not extreme)same as before
>Vegangod no
>FTMsure
>MTFprobably not, just had a family member come out as mtf (and hes clearly not) so itd make me uncomfortable. I guess theres a small chance though.
>Bi moidsure
>"nonbinary" womanpossibly? if they werent ridiculous about it then sure
No. 274273
>>266979>Polyamorousnever
>Conservative/republican/right wingprobably never but it might depend on the individual views. for example some conservatives are pro choice and some people identify as "conservative" when they aren't really, so I might consider it under certain circumstances, but in general it's a big no, especially if he's a registered republican (barf)
>Woke (not extreme)basically the same answer as above. a little wokeness is alright with me, but it depends more on the individual views. if he's pro troon then it's a deal breaker
>Veganagain I might consider it if it was the right guy, but probably not. and vegan men seem really rare, at least where I live, so it's probably never something I will have to consider
>FTMI'm straight, so no
>MTFHELL no
>Bi moidno lol. I do believe bi men exist but it's much easier for them to cheat on you, and being as I hardly trust straight men not to cheat, no thanks. also I truly believe a lot of "bisexual" men are just gay (or troon chasers) and afraid to come out fully. yes that's cynical, I don't care
>"nonbinary" womanI'm straight but even if I wasn't probably no
>>274045it's really strange to me that vegan is a bigger turn off to you than conservative, poly or trans but to each their own I guess
No. 274298
>>266979Pretty sure most women on here would only maybe get with the vegan like
>>266999 said. Even the vegan is a maybe for me because eating out with someone who's diet is strict or junk food ridden is a major problem.
No. 274299
>>274297much like with short men,
in theory, it would be good to give the rejected loser men a chance.
>maybe they're thankful? >maybe they were just unlucky and really have hearts of gold that everyone somehow looked past all along?no. men are not like us. the rejects, the uglies, the manlets and the virgins are always,
always horrible and jaded and will make sure to punish you for other women passing them over. they never forgive Big Women(tm) and will seethe until they die, while projecting all their faults onto us while retaining a massive ego larger than any of the "mean chads" they claim women are stupid for wanting
and yes, all men on dating apps have something wrong with them. they WILL punish you for stacy saying no to them when they were 15
No. 274304
>>274299I'm saying this as a rejected loser woman of course. after so many years I know I and all other femcel-adjacent women are much better than any "equivalent" male could ever be, and women were always right to be """hypergamous""". men are never happy you give them a chance, the lower their status the more they will chase 16-year-old stacy and the more they will turn up their nose toward normal women
these men on the apps think they are dating all the other women they swipe on and are probably internally comparing you to the hottest most highly filtered ones while being mad at you for daring to not be them, lol
I'd rather die alone than do "online dating" but everyone keeps pushing it on me and probably more so because I'm a weird nerd. the thing is, the weird nerds don't want me, and I don't want them (because male weird nerds are all porn addicted picky demons who will cite "statistics" at you)
No. 274306
>>274299Crotchworms have peanut sized brains. Maybe they put women down up front without a care to see if they will snag their perfect emotional punching bag pickme. Oh yes, male with a constant chip on their shoulder and a
victim complex, please give me your dick. I am eager for you to abuse me.
One of them even admitted to me when he went on his last date, he got emotionally volatile over a politically charged argument with her at a bar and the bouncer kicked him out. Charming!
No. 275157
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Self proclaimed alpha male on hinge
No. 275182
>>275157Men are so fucking ugly.
Takes me back to the hellish days of online dating, I swear I probably swiped right on 3% of the men on that app, simply because I refused to date down
No. 275560
>>271941I wish I knew the answer to this, kek. I once went out to dinner on my own and got friendly with the bearded bartender, he looked cool and masculine, told me his shift was finishing soon and asked if I wanted to grab a drink after.
So I did, and as we were chatting he tells me he's a trans woman but didn't want to go on hormones or change his appearance whatsoever. This was also the third or so man in a month to tell me he was either gender fluid or trans even though I thought they were just a regular masculine man.
I couldn't date a conservative man for the life of me but dating in a liberal area is literally all this and it makes me want to rip my hair out.
No. 276941
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>match with someone who's just your type and says they want a relationship in bio
>they lovebomb you pretty much from the get-go, shower you with compliments, text you a lot, even send nudes
>redflags.jpg
>after a few days they start showing their baggage, unloading and venting about their life, insecurity, depression etc.
>you respond trying to comfort them and offer some positivity
>they suddenly turn cold
>they ghost for a day, then come back and say it's best to end it because "you're not a good match" and that they'd rather date someone who's not "positive like me"
Sheesh, I mean, the red flags were certainly there, but I wonder what compels someone who's clearly mentally ill to intentionally seek, pursue and lovebomb people knowing they're too unstable to date?
No. 276945
>>276941Hate to drag up this stereotype but some of the most sexual people.. use that to reel you in because they know they're emotionally a mess (and alot of work) so they need to ramp up the nudes and the sex appeal to compensate and find their way in
Scrotes usually eat that shit up and then wonder how they 'ended up with crazy' but the flags are blaring red from the start.
No. 277002
>>276985yeah, which sucks because if he still did look like his picture, that would've been great, cuz he was super cute. But the trump thing and being addicted to games…it just made me sick to my stomach and I just blocked. My last ex was also a gamer and cheated on me with people he met in-game (then irl), and I know not every moid is going to do that, but I just didn't want to take that risk again. There's some things I could maybe put aside if the guy is attractive enough, but game addict and republican? no.
>>276993I agree. I kinda wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt (although I felt deceived with the old pic). I'm not much of a selfie taker either so I understand people that use one that's a few months to a year or two old. Definitely a green flag if they only take them when needed, like profiles.
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>>277072 > no wonder there's such much bitterness and misery in this and the relationship advice threadsOh god lol. We already know you hang out in the relationship threads. You didn't have to confirm it y'know? You repost the same old shit word for word like a true low functioning autist. Never changing the record. When questioned on why you're being retarded you just… repeat it again.
>you're all miserable and bitter > bitter and miserable > everone on here is miserable (yet you keep coming back for more) > contrarian statement followed by… calling you bitter and miserable! >misreads a post entirely… then calls you miserable > stands up for scrotes every time.. then calls you a bitter bitchIt's not everyone else that's miserable anon… you're a miserable sperg.
No. 277366
>>276941>>276944NTA but I used to do this and always end up depressed afterwards and crying my eyes out.
I knew something was wrong with me but didn't knew what BPD was at the time.
No. 277643
>>277642*isn't putting effort
I'd delete and remake but my browser doesn't save post passwords
No. 277660
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>>277651even offline, this is the case.
No. 277712
>>271081I was in almost this exact same position and I chose to leave cause the thought of him actually being poly and fucking his fat, danger hair "friends" made me ill
I'll stick to my cats you don't ultimately need a fucking moid so badly you'll let him disrespect you
No. 280153
I matched with a guy who is different from my normal type, but I thought I'd swipe just for the hell of it and was surprised when we matched since I didn't think I'd be his type. I know it's possible he could just be matching with any girl who likes him and is just looking to hook up. I realized he kind of reminds me of the types of guys I hated in high school (rich, preppy, Republican, really mean and judgmental lol) but it's mostly just the way he looks and he hasn't said anything that confirms he's that type of person (although he hasn't said anything that shows he isn't that type of person either). When I told him where I grew up, he told me he's actually visited there before and he 'loves it' lmao. Anyway, I found that whenever I do match with guys who seem to be my type/the type I'd be compatible with (brown hair, introverted, shared interest in something) they end up being kind of cringe and I never really end up liking them that much. I matched with this guy purely on looks lol and he seems pretty extroverted and straightforward, which is not what I'm used to. I can see all the different ways that this could fall apart, but since I'm not really looking for a LTR I don't really care if he's boyfriend material as long as he's cute and we get along okay. At least it's interesting trying something different.
No. 280531
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I feel like I’ve become completely disillusioned not just with online dating, but men and dating in general. It just feels like there’s no winning. I barely even like anyone on tinder anymore because it feels like they’re a fuckboy just looking for sex. Guys who would have given me butterflies once now just make me roll my eyes because I’ve been there and done that and I can’t un-know what I’ve learned about moids. There’s a cute guy in this professional development group I see via work every now and then, and I don’t even want to try getting involved with him because I already feel so defeated. Old heartbreak, FDS, the pandemic, poor self esteem and unrealistic expectations (mine and mens) have ruined me for dating.
No. 281099
>>280153I went on a date with this guy this week. It went really well. Mostly because I went back to his place after and we 'hooked up.' Not exactly, but I went farther with him than I have with any other guy (which probably isn't much for most people kek). It was really obvious that I was inexperienced, but it seemed like he didn't mind taking the lead(?) and he seemed to know what he was doing. He didn't pressure me into doing anything and mostly focused on what felt good for me, which was great.
When I left eventually, he asked if I made it home and that he had fun and I said I felt the same way and texted him goodnight. He hasn't texted me since then so I guess it's basically over? I thought maybe he would have been somewhat interested since he asked me to stay over and offered to drive me back the next day and when we were at his place he would say things like "next time we should do this" or "we can talk about this next time," but I get that moids might just say random things and not really mean it. I also wonder if maybe I gave off signals that I wasn't super into it since I was a fucking inexperienced autist and didn't say much or I would joke and say stupid shit implying there wouldn't be a next time. And when I was getting ready to leave he joked about how fast I was getting ready and that I must have been in a hurry to get away from him and I just didn't say anything because I didn't want to boost his ego lol. But he made a lot of jokes teasing and making fun of me, so I only did those things in return because again, I didn't want to boost his ego.
Ugh anyway… I know I probably shouldn't text him since I guess the rule is that if he liked me enough he would have reached out by now. I also know that the whole 'teasing someone to flirt with them' thing is kind of a red flag and he did that a lot so that's another thing. But it's not like I'm looking to date him and it felt really nice when we hooked up and maybe I could finally lose my virginity. But I know there's a lot of ways this situation could go south so I probably shouldn't reach out huh?
No. 281101
>>281099>it felt really nice when we hooked up and maybe I could finally lose my virginity.wat
what do you think hooking up is
No. 281290
>>281272I know… it's easy to want to give up because of how much work goes into it. Quite honestly the hardest part is finding men that I'm attracted to and the fact that I was attracted to this guy makes me question some things, but also what the fuck can I do. I've more decent guys in the past who fit my personality more, but I couldn't bring myself to get physically close to them at all because I couldn't be attracted to them no matter how hard I tried.
It's easy to give up, but in some ways I feel like I deserve to get what I want. I've been single and celibate for so long and learned to be okay with myself and being single and independent. After knowing how nice it feels to be that close to someone who I'm actually attracted to I really want to experience it again. I'll probably take a break for now and then go back into it later. I'm not gonna settle for someone who doesn't give a shit about me (like this guy seems to), but I'm also not going to resign myself to going after guys I'm not attracted to just because they're into me and treat me well. I'm also not going to resign myself to never experiencing intimacy like that again. It sounds like a tall order, but the only thing I can do I guess is take a break and then keep trying until I find what I want. If I try and fail I guess it's better than not trying at all. I wish you the best of luck nona, whether you decide to get back into it or not!
No. 281369
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The men on these apps are so fucking fat and ugly I want to cry in despair. I can't imagine any of these schlubs sweating and panting over me… or imagine washing shit streaks out of his underwear. I don't wanna date any of these males, even the rich ones. And that's before you go on the first date and you realize hes also retarded and he'll inundate you with baggage. On top of that they probably have ED or a small cock, often both. I'm DONE.
No. 282320
I recently met an interesting man on okcupid. I'm probably giving too much information, but he's american and I'm mexican (born, raised and lived here all my life). We share hobbies, music taste, like the same kind of films, don't go out much, etc. He's got a well-paying job as far as I can tell. A bit on the chubby side (even though he has as a profile picture an old photo where he was average in weight), and has a huge dick. I'm really attracted to him, but he suddenly stopped talking to me after we had cam sex last friday, or at least, he doesn't talk to me with the same interest. Before that, he said he'd come to Mex to meet me, apparently in september or october. I don't know if he doesn't want anything serious with me anymore after whoring myself out like that so soon, or if it's a cultural difference, or if he's busy with work or what. Although he says he thinks I'm worth keeping and if everything goes well, that he wants to be my boyfrind and maybe marry me. I think he's lying and have directly told him so. I'm mentally prepared to be an american's cum dump, because I think I only want sex as well, but I hate he's lying to me so much. Also, he really sounds too good to be true, and if he does come and something happens to me, a friend has his information (full name, phone number, address, how he looks like, etc). I honestly don't know what to do with him or what to believe. I feel like I can't trust a man who's told me he "effortlesly" gets his way with women and that he's actually trying this time because he wants me. Are all/most american men like this?
No. 282344
>>282322>This guy sounds like someone that assumes a Mexican woman would be easy because he's American, yes these guys existThe thing is, he's not wrong. Most of us are taught from birth that white american man = good, so no matter how ugly a white american man can be, he'd score lots of girls here. I even told him I wouldn't be surprised if he'd fucked tons of mexican girls before (he lives in a state that borders with Mex, where there's a big latino population), and he replied "just one", which I don't believe. Whenever he compliments something about me, be it my body or how cute or how sweet I am to him, I always tell him not to lie, to see if he eventually drops it. In fact, whenever he says anything that seems like a lie to me, I tell him. So I don't know if I'm just being too skeptical or if I'm right. After all, it's the first time an american has expressed interest in me, so I guess I'm being blinded by that.
And about him being manipulative, yes, he reminded me a bit about my first boyfriend, who was a piece of shit during our relationship. I've been thinking about dropping him, but I don't know where to start. I guess I'll stop replying little by little?
>>282338I wish it was.
No. 282351
>>282320>I think he's lying and have directly told him so.Stop. You are only teaching him how he needs to lie better, or where you can't tell he is lying. Why would you want to be with a liar? For your own sake of mind, if you can't accept he could be with another woman, possibly give you an STD at some point, god knows what else a sleeze is capable of, don't date him.
>Although he says he thinks I'm worth keeping and if everything goes well, that he wants to be my boyfrind and maybe marry me.Why are you letting yourself be dehumanized and referred to as possibly "worth keeping", like a pet? This sounds like future-faking to keep you hooked.
>I'm mentally prepared to be an american's cum dump, because I think I only want sex as well, but I hate he's lying to me so much.You don't even know if you only want sex? If you aren't 100% sure you only want sex and have no emotional commitment you are ripe for further manipulation. And please don't refer to yourself as a cum dump, even if you are only interested in sex men should treat you well.
>I feel like I can't trust a man who's told me he "effortlesly" gets his way with women and that he's actually trying this time because he wants me. You can't. He probably wants you to feel like you're in on his secret but you're special. You aren't.
>Are all/most american men like this?Sounds like he's specifically so manipulative because he's American, rich, white whereas you are Mexican. Most American men aren't so open about being manipulative.
>>282344>I even told him I wouldn't be surprised if he'd fucked tons of mexican girls before (he lives in a state that borders with MexWhy would you inflate the ego of a fat white man like this? Even if it's true because women have no standards you don't have to say it to the worm.
>I've been thinking about dropping him, but I don't know where to start. I guess I'll stop replying little by little?Just stop texting and block him completely if you want. You don't need to slowly do it, ghosting is fine.
No. 282372
>>282351Hadn't thought about how I was subconsciously giving him hints so he could be a better liar, thanks for telling me that. I'm okay if he only wants sex, and if by chance he really wants something serious, then so be it, but I'm not counting on it. In any case, I think he doesn't have to sugar coat it and call me by cute names or anything, he only has to accept he wants sex and that's it, I'm fine if that's the case but he went and:
>Gave me his phone number (which I googled and that's how I know where he lives)>Told me his last name (which helped me corroborate his address)>Told me he expects a raise by next year and how much it would be (85k, I think).I never asked him what he does for a living, or how much he earns, because it's something I simply don't care about. That he gave me that information so soon was a disappointment, because it quite possibly means he thinks that'd impress me. I didn't react to this information and have never brought it up again.
>Talked about us living together/marrying/having kids someday, even if he was "joking"I told him to stop saying that, since it's too soon for it. At least he hasn't said anything about it again, so far (except saying that I would be a good wife, which doesn't bother me)
>Said that he'd come to see me because he was already planning coming to Mex anyway and that he'd only make a detour from his original plans>>282354>>282355I'm a very insecure person. All the compliments he gives me (looks, education, hobbies, interests, etc) I've heard them before from my family, friends, ex-boyfriends and men who wanted to date me, but I still can't accept them. When I was in secondary school, boys were pretty cruel to me because I was very reserved and quiet, same thing happened during high school but to a much lesser extent. I know I'm not ugly, that I actually look good and all that, but I feel terrible accepting it, like it's wrong or that I'm thinking too highly of me. Even though I'm 28, I can pass easily as 18-20 years old, in part due to my short height.
No. 284462
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Male “humor” is so disgusting. Most of their “jokes” are just their actual misogynistic, perverted and violent thoughts expressed publicly under the guise of comedy.
No. 284940
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Let me preface this by saying months ago I made a fake tinder account out of curiosity, I just wanted to see how things were without any intention of swiping right on anyone, I grabbed a couple of stock pics of pets, used a female name that was not my own, added a couple of those generic preset interests just for the sake of it, my real age and the age range I'd go for. I eventually lost interest and didn't enter it for months til a couple of days ago out of boredom, this post it's just to ramble about it. So, fuck men are ugly, I know it has been said a thousand times here but it needs to be said again, why the fuck are men so ugly. My modus operandi on tinder:
>Be bored
>Log in on tinder
>No intention of chatting with or meeting anyone
>Still looking at profiles somewhat seriously
>God, men are ugly
>Start speeding through profiles because 98% or more of men are so ugly
>Start going insane from seeing so many ugly people
>Start relativizing
>This dude isn't my type but he has a better face than most
>This dude isn't my type but he has nicer body than most
>This dude isn't my type but we have similar taste in music
>This dude isn't my type but he claims to have a nice job
>This dude isn't my type but at least he bothered putting something in his profile
>This dude isn't my type but his dogs are very adorable
>Realize I'm going insane
>Worry about myself if I had been using Tinder seriously
>Eventually get tired of it
>Tinder logs out on it's own
>Can't bother to log back in
Now general complaints:
Most pics are fucking shit and right now I don't even mean they are unflattering or the guy looks like a creep, I mean more than half of them are deep fried, so many looked like the guy took a picture of a printed photography, with a shitty phone in a dark place. Even the ones who obviously stope the picture of some stock image model, like, you couldn't bother to download it in a decent resolution?
But so many pictures the guys look like creeps too, maybe it's because I live in a costal city, so many men put pictures of themselves in the beach wearing just trunks and so many of them are haf hard or completely hard. Thinking about this kind of idiot in a public space where there are even children makes my skin crawl.
So many profiles with literally nothing in the bio not even the generic Tinder interest tags, I don't know what goes through the mind of those people.
What's with people who @ their ig in the bio but don't just use the feature to link it? And what's with the demented fucks who say "oh I never enter Tinder app, hit me up on ig"? Dude, the whole point of tinder is to match, so you have at least some miserable level of mutual attraction going on. Plus if I were to hit on people online who have no idea who I am, I'd just do it with a youtuber I have a retarded crush on or something equally autistic, but still not as stupid as dming a guy from tinder who can't bother doing the bare minimum. And no, I wouldn't ask to follow you on your private ig account just for that, retard.
Motivational quotes make me violent, half the time they aren't even about meeting new people or love, just random motivational quotes.
On that note, no, you do not have a talent for comedy, or for prose in general.
Men trying to look serious and tough in pics just look dumb, leave that for professional models who have any idea of what they are doing and the faces to pull it.
Guys who aggressively say the woman (in this case you the other end of tinder) should be like this and that are hilarious because they are ugly, with no sense of fashion and cringe in their efforts to look manly.
Using filters to look whiter is just kinda sad.
Last but not least, I am wishing death on all couple profiles and cheating scrotes. I kinda wish tinder came up with a "poly friendly" feature that would allow normal people to filter couples out, but I'm sure they'd just ignore it and force themselves on the users who aren't interested.
A few amusing cases (while writing I realised they were all about troons in some way):
Case number 1:
>obvious fakeboi is obvious
>chubby but looks cute in a preppy suit outfit
>in the next pic, clear signs of hairloss (I bet it's the T)
>nonbinary transman
>non monogamous
Depressing
Case number 2:
>This person's face looks a little odd
>First thing in the bio: transman
>Oh, of course
>Nailed the dudebro surfer look
I hate dudebro surfers
Case number 3:
>Cute goth-ish twink
>Wearing makeup
>Pretty decent makeup
>Checks out his other pics
>Yep, cute goth-ish twink with decent makeup
>Pic of him in a shitty plastic wig and that poorly drawn agp eyeliner
How? Just how did the make up degrade the second he seemingly became an agp tranny?
Case number 3:
>Nice looking normal guy
>Spots the trans flag in his bio
>WTF, he doesn't look trans
>He is talking about moving here from another state
>State flag has the same colours as trans flag
>He can't tell tham apart
Kek, maybe it should count as a pro that he is so fucking oblivious to trans shit.
No. 284944
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I'm scared to open this one
No. 284951
>>284940I agree with absolutely everything you've said, down to despising couple profiles. I've seen many and there's just no way to word it without making it sound sleazy, even if it's just a simple "couple looking for a chill girl to smoke with and play monopoly". Like sure you do.
At this point I've given up and mainly browse Tinder to laugh at and judge men and becoming more pinkpilled.
No. 285293
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Why do i still use HER?
No. 287530
>>285295>>287524I recently downloaded Tinder after 10 days into my travel when I was to solely talk to someone, as by that point I was only "talking" to cashiers, servers, etc and I was dying for some actual human interaction. Met two cool people that I still keep in contact with. I came back to my country about a week ago and I kept my account because "maybe someone cool will be there". Wrong. Wrong. I was so wrong. There's no fucking middle ground on Tinder: hot """chad""" looking douchebags that are, like you said, only looking to get laid or just ugly men I have no attraction for. Deleted the app after two days.
What bothers me a lot is that some of the guys I saw last week, I saw them two years ago too. Why the fuck are they on there for so long? Why waste time on Tinder??
No. 287547
>>249287A few months ago I downloaded Hinge out of curiosity to see what the hubbub was about. I liked the questions you can answer and the video/voice options. It made the experience feel more human I guess? Not sure if that is a decent way to describe it.
However, a lot of scrotes simply swiped right. Like bottom of the barrel, couldn't spell "your" white trash men who think Busch Light is a personality trait. I found nobody attractive, but I am the type to like personality first. I only had two decent conversations with guys. The rest either ended from a lack of motivation for the guy to continue the conversation, or pure desperation. Like, becoming a bit obsessive that I like a song, so they listen to it all day.
I went on one date with a guy that I thought was nice enough. He said he had ADHD and could be a bit too extroverted for me. That date ended up being the worst date I ever went on. Basically went like this.
>meet up at fast food place>i show up early and hang out.>see his car (he told me the model) as it pulls up.>awkward introduction. happy personality he had sudden disappears>buys me a drink, himself a drink and onion rings>"anon you can have some onion rings">he proceeds to eat ALL of them, with his mouth open>food fucking falls to the floor>oh god oh fuck>try to make conversation. he looks at me as he speaks>i speak he turns his head to the right and completely avoids looking at me>god help me just let me get through this>woman comes around the corner>he checks out her ass>at that point i should of just left but since i am awkward and scared of men, i subjected myself to torture>date ends eventually and i never speak to him. i block his number.Really pissed me off since we were in a similar line of work and I don't have many people IRL who can relate to the stress.
Eh, without that experience I would not have met my current partner. Don't ask how I met him.
No. 288446
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>>>/g/177942Saged by accident whoops.
Well nonnitas I can safely tell you I never got cheated on. But the bad news is that after one year everything fell apart because I attract emotionally unavailable men who at the beginning treat you like a princess, only for them to let you down like an old toy when the adrenaline rush wears off. I think I'll just start dating women at this point…
No. 288508
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saw this and immediately deleted my profile bye. moids are not worth it
No. 290409
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Men bitch about basic as fuck "I like to travel" female profiles, when 90% of male profiles are
>I'm fluent in sarcasm
>Partner needs to have a sense of humor
>I like to have fun
>I like hiking
They're literally all blending together as I'm swiping, I can't distinguish one dude standing on a naked hill from another. Or a shot of them with beer.
The other thing that baffles me are the faceless profiles from cheating guys asking for no-strings attached because they just need an outlet. The whole app is full of fit single fuckboys that are happy to do casual sex, why the hell would anyone want some shady fucking dude while also going behind a woman's back for that.
No. 290747
>>290409this is why i deleted all my dating apps and havent been on in a while. (why am i itt??) everyone sounds the same.
>>290415i used to hate the "i love hiking types" but i genuinely love going on trails now and i see a lot of people claim they love it only to not want to actually go out. lol. and btw, i have a friend i go hiking with often who is overweight, being fat does not exclude you from enjoying the outdoors
No. 292998
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Nearly liked a guy on hinge who after a harder look I readied was a new acquaintance I met through professional networking. The only reason I recognised him was because I knew he and another friend of his I met at this event were in a band, and I recognised her in one of his group photos. The joys of being massively face blind while dating.
No. 293213
>>291530I always was a "one guy at a time" type of dater. I mean honestly I can barely find a single guy I'd actually meet lol, I guess people that paralell-date and constantly bring new people into the picture either have a much better quality network of people or have really low standards in men.
If I do find someone I usually start building up a type of inner hype, which is needed for me to even go through with dates and stay interested. If I multi-dated I feel like it'd be hard to feel like any date stands out, knowing my own psychology.
No. 295862
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I wasn't sure where to post this but I came across this brave and stunning that looks like that Shayna calf.
No. 296376
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There's a lot of drug dealers advertising nowadays on these apps. Pic related just had a bunch of gifs measuring weed and rambling
No. 298999
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Been on hinge since October 2020, about 12 dates, many more initial phone dates (most of which were horrible- one of them the guy was ignoring me to play with his dog the whole time, another talked about his boss for 20 minutes and one day asked me to drive him 40 minutes to a date… with someone else). Really liked 2 of them and one dropped me because I asked for one phone call a week to catch up in the middle of the work week which was "too much pressure " but gaming an hour every day wasn't. The other dropped me after I cried in front of him after dating for 2 months. Those 2 are the only ones I had sex with and I didn't enjoy it. They both seemes awesome guys initially but changed. The second guy shaved his back and it was very very pokey and sharp which disgusted me but insisted I wax. He was below my league but acted above it because he was rich (I didn't know that until after). He was initially sweet but did a complete change which is what initiated the crying incident. He also severely fetishized my race.
Anyways, I just give up and deleted my account. Getting a workplace crush and not acting on it, plus otome games, is literally 10x more thrilling than online dating. Honestly if I could go back I wouldn't even have tried it. The funny thing is how after 2 years, I can see the same guys remake their profile over and over, including one of the guys who mistreated me. Idk why he sent me a like too. Both of them were venting about having kids before they're old but piss away romantic connections because they require effort.
No. 299534
>>295986This still doesn't make any sense. I think you're just dumb, like to waste time and put your faith in one loser who's bound to disappoint you instead of exploring your options.
>>298999Hinge is a shit app focused on pictures. I couldn't use it and found it attracts people who don't have much to say. I don't care about your fucking pictures, I want to know who you are and what you're about. Different apps definitely attract different people.
No. 301170
>>297447For me it's having hot bubble bath while having my face mask on, then I would do my normal skincare routine to make sure I'm feeling refreshed.I sometimes shave depending on who I'm going on a date with, the occasion and how hairy I am.
When it comes to outfits and makeup I trend to pick stuff I like that makes me feel happy and confident in myself. If it's someone I have been on a date with for a while then I sometimes would add a piece of clothing or accessories that the person I'm dating likes on me.
No. 302647
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some zoomer scrote unironically sent this to me on a dating app. its the most vile and vomit-inducing thing i think i’ve ever seen, although hilarious.
there are soso many things wrong with it, the shitty amazon blue?? batman suit, the fact he edited this himself, the pose ih my fucking god.
whats wrong with them? im baffled
No. 302670
>>302633>>302665Yeah, most of the attractive dudes on dating apps know they're attractive, so they just want to sleep around.
That is, until said moid hits the wall, starts balding and finally decides to "settle down", and by then he probably has some stds.
Moids can never have an ego or know they're good looking.
No. 303692
>>303684Revenge but in a pathetic way in my case.
Love can't heal my heartbreak, only pounding a guy will do and i'm shy so i don't know if i will get there, but i appreciate the support.
No. 304028
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Had a dude on Bumble who said he was really not rushing into sex, because he thinks early sex ruins the early relationship dynamics. I said fair enough, I'm not looking for that either way. His first date suggestion? Eating pizza in his apartment. What kind of fool are they taking women for?
No. 306066
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Why do guys like this send me messages? The scowling military guys. I'm slightly chubby and my pics dont hide that, most are candids. All his prompts are about how he wants FIT and FEMININE women who never rest. He looks like a bridge troll so I guess his next best option is to neg a "good enough" chubby girl into working out and becoming his leanbeefpatty waifu stand-in?
No. 306086
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>25yo moid that's balding, actually he already looks bald
>5'5"
>for whatever reason has a photo of himself asleep in a hospital bed with a tube up his nose
>"choke you"
why would any woman want to pay for an ugly scrote? the overconfidence in that he thinks he'll get a sugar momma kek
No. 311091
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Lex is absolute trash in my area, the only things posted near me were cringe-ass poetry, ftms, and girls begging to be sugar babies. And this one post kept floating around, this is straight up a dude posing as a 'cis queer man' looking for pussy, not even trying to hide it. Wtf. I mean it was entertaining to see what kinds of post were there but I deleted it because I have no intention of interacting with any of these people. What a shame.
No. 313322
>>311091might as well report him, iirc Lex was meant to be for "anyone
but cis men" anyway
No. 313393
>>313387The only incel thing is believing women expire and can't date after 25. Most women only have serious relationships after 25 and I've never heard of a woman who couldn't get dates after 25. Stop acting like we expire then accuse me of being an incel. If you can't date, you're ugly and fat/skelly. Has nothing to do with women or biological age, don't drag me down with you.
>>313390Your theory would be correct if the number of men and women were equal but if there's 5 women per man, average woman gets 5 times more matches, kek. It's simple math.
I also did match with women, six or so cute women in just a few hours of having the app which means I got matched with more women than average guy. Do you know what that means? It means the reason why men get less matches isn't women being picky but men being shitty.
While it's true that with men I got a ton of matches, most weren't worthy of pursuing, that's the issue. If men get three matches, they're more likely to work out than my 50+ matches because women are less likely to be as mental or desperate to fuck as men.
No. 313398
>>313393If there's 5 times as many women on there, wouldn't that in theory result in more matches for men than for women because men have a 5 times larger pool of potential matches than women in that scenario? Or am I really this fucked at math. Aren't there more men on datingapps than women anyway.
I agree with men shooting themselves in the foot because they just swipe right on any woman for the mere chance at sex though and then they have the guts to complain about it
No. 313400
>>313398I mistyped, there is 5 men per women or so I'd say. It's more likely for men to use dating apps obviously so you're correct it was a mistake on my part.
And yeah, guys that matched me I'd say like half put in some effort and some wrote like three paragraphs and such while others… Eh… But yeah. Men are shit at online dating and they expect any woman to sleep/date them with them with no effort.
No. 313554
>>313393agreed because women spend their whole life having to vet out men. It's men with the mentality that women have an age limit that end up single, because they live like bachelors well into their 30s/40s and are not taken seriously by women their own age.
>>311091hinge remains the best app for lesbian women. my only problem is that dating pool is tiny and people take forever to respond.
No. 313639
I promised myself I would never in my life use a dating app, but caved in when I became single and overtaken by horniness. I’m in my early 30s and in ok physical shape but kind of homely looking in the face. I ended up paying for the premium feature where you can see the people who swipe right, then picked who I wanted to match with. I absolutely detest having an online presence, so I would only show my profile for short intervals every day, but still got a lot of interested guys. I know for moids it’s a numbers game so they’ll swipe right on anyone, but for many of them it’s still rare to actually match with someone, so when they do it sparks joy.
The guys who had swiped right on my profile where everything from bottom of the barrel to successful looking fuckboys and their age was also all over the place. I only went for the mid tier ones. Never tried any of the really young guys although I kinda regret it now lol. I did 4-5 dates/hook-ups but being newly single I didn't invest too much energy into it. Then I hooked up with a guy and the sex was so good we’re dating now. I think he’s great for a moid, but is an introvert so he was overjoyed to land a gf. Idk if I just got lucky, or if using tinder this way as a girl is a good approach. It felt kinda pathetic paying for premium, but I only used it for a couple of months. I don’t think using dating apps for longer periods of time is good for your emotional wellbeing, so I’m glad it turned out the way it did.
No. 313684
>>313644The app I used to get 50+ matches a day only gives men 5-10 right swipes a day, I know because I recommended it to my male friend, so you're wrong. Though I also got more than 35 notes, aka messages before matching and most actually put effort into it, describing their music and film tastes, the stuff they'd like to do, how they define themselves etc so answering the questions I had asked in my bio. If I were to go on a date, I'd rather date an average guy that showed genuine interest rather than the cuter guy who only messaged me hi. The reason why I'm writing this is to prove that incels who don't get matches or replies are the ones in fault, if the girl they're messaging already has 40 or so matches a day, why would she reply to their simple hi message when some guy actually put in effort and tried to get to know to the girl in question?
A lot of guys who post in tinder sub are ugly guys who believe making their profiles interesting will mean that the 10/10 18 year old chick they saw on their app will right swipe, buy him drinks and then fuck him - but I doubt that'd happen. There's too much competition and they'd be lucky if they even got a message back.
No. 314293
>>313297I texted with then and was able to deduce if they were normal or not.
I just want to say it's still going well with my boyfriend lol.
No. 314507
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>be a naive autist on tinder
>talk to a guy for a while
>he’s nice
>add each other on snapchat and ig after maybe a few weeks of talking on tinder
>continue talking there for another few weeks, feels safe
>yesterday evening he suddenly asks for bra/panty pics (we’ve never even met irl much less dating)
>freak tf out
>block him on everything
>get a notif on messenger immediately
>he’s tracked down my facebook and is messaging me all mad i blocked him when he was being a creep
i’m so creeped out like i still feel sick and this was last night. why are men so scary? why can’t they take a no? if i block him everywhere he should get i don’t want to talk to him again, ever. is it male entitlement? do they see it as a challenge? why the fuck are they like this.
did i do the right thing by blocking him immediately? i didn’t feel safe talking to him anymore.
No. 314514
>>314507Never doubt your instincts anon, you were right to block him and he only immediately proven you right by getting angry.
It's kinda a reason i'll never use dating apps, maybe i'm wrong but it really feels like the scrotes who use these are the worst, entitled kind.
No. 316112
>>314507You freaked out because he asked for panty pics? Why is that so bad, if we’ve been talking for a while I don’t think it’s a big deal
But you’re right it would’ve been better if you met up before
No. 318256
>>318115Just double down on stereotypes and say unhinged stuff about wanting to sacrifice his blood on a moon ritual and start writing in random characters/sending random creepy pictures.
Ask morbid specifics. It’s fun af.
No. 321945
>>284462ive never seen a man say he has a madonna whore complex in so few words
these apps seem so bleak from this thread, i was on them a couple years ago but it was a waste of time
No. 321947
>>321925why do you want to date rich men?
honestly nona you seem naive and out of touch, dating a guy for his money isnt a good idea. youre probably the perfect target for men with money who want to fuck you for what to them is pennies. you'd basically be a cheap naive prostitute to them.
those sugar baby sites set off your internal alarm bells for a reason.
you're better off making your own money. if you build a career you can meet "well off" men through social circles relating to your job.
No. 321965
>>321959i didnt say to date a hobo because of love lol
youre silly
No. 322255
>>322115Nta but if you don't put up a picture you'll probably get very desperate dudes or guys who swipe right on everyone. Men have a small amount of swipes and they usually don't get matches so unless they're very desperate, they don't swipe right on faceless profiles.
Source, I have male friends who use dating apps.
No. 328565
>>328541I'm starting to feel similarly. I've started to accept the fact that I hate most men. I feel like the Disney tale fantasies and shit really fucked me up because irl men can't measure up to the fictional heart throbs. I'm sure they'd try and say something similar about women, but idc. Most irl men are ugly inside and out. They want you to settle one way or the other and I'm just not willing. I'd rather play the Sims and fantasize about the type of romance I want, instead of trying again with yet another moid and it ends the same. They just don't seem worth all the effort they require. I've been single for a year and overall my quality of life improved exponentially once I stopped worrying or caring about having a boyfriend or whatever. Sometimes it is a little lonely, but then I remember my past relationships, or I come here and lurk the relationship advice threads, or I see yet another shitty boyfriend horror story on the normie net and I decide I made the best decision possible.
All moids swear they're soo different, and that "oh your last boyfriend was a dickhead/he didn't like you for you/you should have chose better", which sure… That's true. But now I am chosing better by chosing NONE of you. They're not all exactly the same, but all men have enough similarities to each other that I absolutely loathe. I've purposely upped the man hate by saying shit I don't mean so any moid who was thinking of annoying me with his emotions knows to look elsewhere and it works well. Except for the "I can fix her" brand of moid, which is even more offensive and annoying. Yeah, I have trauma but it's caused by men. A man's not going to be able to fix it, they just usually only make it worse.
No. 328573
>>322717100% this. I have lots of hobbies that I do after work every single day and I really just don't have time. I get all my social needs met with friends and other social groups I hang with frequently, I make good money, and I got my own place + car. Literally 0 reason to depend on a moid who can hold 'but I make the money' excuse over the head and exploit you to become their bangmaid baby oven while he could easily cheat on you because hurr durr man's natural instinct + watch porn and coom + look at other women like pieces of meat. Not to mention that most men don't even make more money than I do.
Moids in general are very out of shape and boring as fuck (no hobbies other than muh netflix watching the most normie shit like the office and video games all day and jerking off to porn) + have a terrible sense of personal hygiene or self care. Most men my age (late 20s) are hitting the wall hard, and they're all fat, ugly, wrinkly and balding. I work out 5 times a week, eat healthy, and stay fit so why the fuck should I even look at these men kek. Most moids at my gym are either manlet roidbros who's compensating for their height (they're all 5'5" or shorter kek) with insane inferiority complex and body dysmorphia, or dads and old men doing light cardio for 10 minutes and creeping on women.
I like the concept of having a boyfriend to cuddle with at night and go on cute dates with, but reality is moids rarely plan good dates / can barely hold a small talk level conversation and all they want to do is get in your pants at the end of the day. Moids easily chimp out and get violent if you refuse to have sex with them + an average male is stronger than a woman. Considering these factors, I don't even want to be alone with a moid. A shame really. inb4 'holy shit you sound sad' but I just use one of those heartbeat sounds to fall asleep while cuddling a pillow, I get good sleep like this and I can easily imagine a husbando cuddling me. I have a high libido but I just take care of it myself. I will never have sex with a moid who's unworthy to possibly pass their genes into the next generation. Too bad I'm straight, it really is a fucking curse.
I really don't think I'm asking for much, I just want a not bald, fairly tall (5'10"+), non-
toxic gym bro who can hold a conversation and eats fairly healthy. Don't care about income because I don't plan to depend on him for that, as long as he can pay his bills and he's living independently (not roommates or their mom's basement). But apparently in this market, that's asking for too much and I'm 'shallow'.
autosage for autism + sperging
No. 328585
>>328564You dont have to use dating apps, you can give it a try for a day and delete your profile afterwards if you're scared so much. Also if you don't put embarrassing stuff in your profile, you won't get made fun of, saying your fetishes or writing extremist political views are the kind of stuff you need to do to get made fun of, otherwise no one gives a fuck.
>>328573This is the dating apps thread, your post has nothing to do with it and no one will read your romanianon-tier 10 paragraph sperging
No. 328596
>>328585ayrt (romanianon tier spergfag) and I was replying to this anon
>>322717 and not this thread in particular kek, and I autosaged because I know I'm a blackpilled sperg
Getting back to dating apps I've tried all 'major' ones like hinge, coffee meets bagel, okcupid and they all have the same batch of men I sperged about. TLDR is they all suck in their own way. Okc has the ugliest and fattest ones, coffee meets bagel moids are somewhat decent but can't keep a convo + megaboring, and hinge is basically same thing as moids looking for hookups aka tinder.
No. 343975
>>328573Are you me? These apps have left me jaded. Literally all men want is to get pussy with no effort and it's so obvious. No one even has the balls to put that they're looking for a life partner. Long term + open to short sends out red flags for me immediately and makes me wonder how many stds they have. Long term by itself means they still have commitment issues. They are all painfully desperate and it's pathetic. Women with issues really need to stop damaging themselves and giving these moids sex for nothing. All men want is attention, an ego boost, and to waste womens' time without respecting us or caring about our feelings. You're right that men don't have any hobbies except video games and some type of drug problem. It's like they're all npcs. And if they're not the video game loser reject, they're some football bro who drinks beer. Same person, different body. Boring.
I'm talking to the one of the only hot guys I've ever seen in my state and he's autistically going on a tangent about how he discovered buddhism…a month ago! and now he's trying to convert. Dude is a fucking white European. Brain rot. He's pretty but has no hobbies despite being 32 years old and awkwardly sounds like he's still discovering himself. His hobbies included video games (shocker!), buddhism and doing stand up which he also just started a month ago along with the buddhism. Fucking weird losers all of them. Meanwhile, I have tons of hobbies I love to keep me occupied and am 7 years younger. What the fuck is wrong with moids? Even with a pretty face, I just cannot take them seriously or give them sex when they are out of this world retarded.
Also beware of flakes and attention seekers. I had some faggot ask to go on a date then cancel a few days later out of the blue after flirting with me. Fuck. That. There's a reason these men have to resort to these apps.
>>338781He used you. What were you expecting.
>>302665Ugly men on dating apps will fuck and leave too. I hope none of you think they will treat you any better or be "grateful".
No. 346860
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Just got a like from a guy on hinge and went through his profile and the caption on one of his photos is a link to his dads obituary
No. 350208
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Ladies, please understand these are the types of men that use dating apps. I've attempted to go on OKC to try to find something serious and it's just filled with men going "Wahh why no good women out there? Why won't one want to have a good time?" And they're the types looking for hookups and short-term relationships. They don't even have the decency. Too many of them are just there "to see what's up" and then some of the questions they answer, saying how they'll consider have an open relationship, but their profile says monogamous. I'm convinced there's only 5% good men out there who actually want something meaningful, and finding them online is going to be like finding a four leaf clover.
No. 350231
>>350208Dating apps provide you the ones who swiped right on your profile and your looksmatch. If you get fat ugly white men, chances are you're a fat ugly white woman.
Dating apps aren't magic websites to help ugly people get attractive boyfriend or girlfriends, complaining about only getting ugly people only exposes the fact that you're ugly yourself. You aren't entitled to any attractive persons companionship.
No. 350260
>>350235It means both hot and ugly guys swipe right, which is what usually happens. If it's only the uggos, that's the worrying situation.
>>350237No one even looks at the bio when swiping, even then, attractive people would neither sleep nor date unattractive people so it wouldn't change their swipe patterns as and would be attractive people looking for similar sort of dynamics - just not with you.
No. 350281
I've talked about this in the vent thread but I went on my first first date ever (using Bumble) and the guy turned out to be a proto-conservative sleazy psychopath in finance who can't keep a relationship and joked way too much and too vividly about people dying. The original post is here for anons who want it
>>>/ot/1708014>>>/ot/1708019I swear to god he made himself seem like a normal nerdy dude on the app with no partying pics, no fraternity clothes/vibes, said he was looking for a relationship, but then showed up looking like a creepy frat boy. He gave the same vibe that a serial rapist that I knew irl gave before he got caught.
After I got trapped at a two hour dinner with this guy, the whole experience makes me want to do coffee dates just so I can leave if the vibes aren't right. Can any nonas weigh in on whether coffee dates just for the first date might be a better idea? I knew immediately when I saw him in person that he was going to be a piece of shit but I chalked it up to me just being nervous since it was my first date.
Also I don't know if this will help anyone but I later wrote down some of the psychopath red flags
>>>/ot/1708565 that I got on the date from this guy in case anyone ever happens to end up with a low-functioning psychopath on these apps. It was fucking depressing because I had been on the apps talking to guys for a bit and this was the ONLY guy who I had interesting conversation with, the other conversations I had were bland af.
No. 350285
Also same anon as
>>350281 but has anyone had a guy have thoughtful, grammatically correct messages in the app and then once you give them your number they slack off like a total dumbass with spelling errors? Why would they do this? Should I wait to give my number?
No. 351053
>>351047I used a similar themed site, but specifically for Catholics in my country. I was religious at the time (mostly from being brought up that way) but I swear my date made me realize even the most "pious" men are somewhat sex-obsessed, but they never let on to it. Trust me, you can read the repressed thoughts behind those squint eyes. Particularly, I went on one date with this guy who seemed normal enough, though he was very cold to speak to, but I expected that from the chats. The conversation was extremely awkward and I never saw him for another, I remember praying that he was not a serial killer. Maybe I am being overly freaked out, but he had the face for it. He seemed like he had never spoken to a woman before and he was staring at my chest for the entirety of the date. We did not kiss at the end of the night, to my surprise. His stares were enough to tell what was on is mind. He was not bad looking, but I was not going to go crazy over him solely for his height. I made sure to cut it off before he stopped putting up the dork act. I could tell if we went out any longer, he would start acting depraved. If you're into dorky mega-virgins (not in an endearing way), go at it. I thought this is what I wanted, at least what I thought was the more approachable type of man. They are not ideal, but then again I think he was borderline-retarded. Most men in my country are religious, so it could depend on where you sigh up from. The site I used looked amateur and was not one of the major sites you think of when you think of typical Christian dating apps.
No. 351106
>>351047no
nonnie. a serious christian man wont want a non-christian girl. he will at best try to convert you, and at worst, hed be a "trad" twittertard larping as christian, ready to use you as a tradthot mommy bangmaid tool without seeing you as a person.
>>351054very true. mine ended up liking it up the ass. how catholic of him.
No. 351204
>>351047Anon's right
>>351106 take it from someone who was raised in a Christian community. As a generalisation, genuine Christian man will try to convert you (if he wants to date you at all, it's generally discouraged to date someone who you believe is going to suffer in hell and has "earthly" norms and values). Those who won't are generally the -Christian in name and out of habit only- who will want to have sex before marriage and will drink on saturday evenings and sit in the church the next sunday morning lmao. Also
>>351065 No. 351212
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Just got reminded about my dating app thanks to this thread so I went to check them out again after 6 months. Decided to check out OKC and look through the intros people sent to me and ended up finding this comment. Some guys are so gross and sexualizing.
By the way I'm only 5'11" and in my late 20s.
No. 351224
>>351218Yeah it's sick behaviour.
While the best thing to do is to just block those low-lifes, I would be really tempted to write degrading messages back to them. Like how fat and pathetic that moid was.
No. 352706
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what's even the point of dating men?
No. 352803
>>352737Apps are alright imho because they're convenient. On apps you don't usually have to go through gazillion stages of grief trying to figure out whether a woman you find interesting is even into women in the first place (which is sometimes the case irl). Your age is a non-issue too, I only first started dating and having sex with women in my late twenties-early 30s and I've found quite enough women to go on dates with. IME it's not really that uncommon for women to have very little or zero experience with other women at 30. I've found none of the women I've been with really cared when I was still kinda inexperienced at 30. Conversely idc if a woman I'm interested in is inexperienced at that age either, as long as she doesn't make a huge deal about it and act all weird and self-deprecating and constantly draw attention to her lack of experience (if that makes sense). Just roll with it, everyone has to start somewhere.
That being said, if you want to try apps, be prepared to wade through a lot of straight couples looking for threesomes, poly retards, bihets who just want to text forever and maybe hold hands at most but won't imagine having icky sex with women, ugly ass moids, women in het relationships looking for sidepiece bangmaids to make up for their unhappiness with their scrotes, and insufferable queers kek. Although I'd like to have a proper relationship myself so that's why I'm hyper critical, maybe it's possible to give some annoying aspects about a date a pass if it's only a hook up you're looking for.
I'm also going to use this opportunity to complain about how much I fucking hate dating kek. I'm sick of combing through the trash mentioned above to find women who seem relatively normal and interesting and are monogamous. I fucking hate the poly/open relationship trend that's prevalent atm and honestly I feel like 99% of people who meme themselves into that shit are just in unhappy relationships (but can't admit it), losers who can't find one partner they're actually happy with (a "three partners who are 3/10 each equal one partner that's a 10/10" type of situation if you will), or self-centered, immature hedonists who think they should have the benefits of a steady relationship while also being allowed to fuck around as they like. I hate it all. Basically I'd love to meet a woman who makes me go "wow, maybe there are still people I'd actually want a relationship, glad I stuck with these apps until I found her", but I'm honestly not very optimistic and I feel like I'm just gonna die alone at this point. But I also don't want to settle, because being by myself is still better than trying to date someone I don't really like, so here we are kek
>>352798I'm bisexual and I haven't dated a moid in almost a decade (I've only been with women for years), but I entertain the thought of giving moids a try on an occasion when lesbian online dating pisses me off (see my sperg out above). Realistically those fleeting ideas are something I probably will not start practicing though, because I honestly can't see what a scrote could possibly offer me if I'm being serious. Dick? I have dildos and sex toys and those can give me a certain orgasm and don't come with a stupid mouthbreathing moid attached to them. Emotional bond? Yeah, doubt it. Sorry. Maybe it's also my own attitude problem I have with scrotes, but I just feel like I can't form deep enough emotional bonds with them to consider them as potential romantic partners anymore. I feel like the risk of ending up doing heaps of emotional labor and the majority of chores and standing their scrotery is just too much for me. So it's either a girlfriend if I'm ever lucky enough to find a gem among the sea or queerio poly weirdos again, or the life of a spinster. I can't imagine how a moid could improve my quality of life, sorry kek
No. 352817
>>352782It really isn’t anywhere near the same. Fucking a real human being is a 1000 times better than a stupid sex toy and im tired of you
femcels pretending it is.
No. 352871
>>352817a "
femcel" cannot exist. women never have issues getting sex. if a "
femcel" is real, she is only in search of a deep emotional bond with a man that she cannot find, and that is not her fault.
No. 352878
>>352875I'm sure you can think of someplace where the volume isn't too loud, even if that means you have to eat something.
For the love of everything anon do not meet him at a trail
No. 353161
>>353158>>353155Well, I can confirm I'm not a philanderer or gay. The only Islamic rule I'm breaking here is gossiping.
>>353139Ah, okay. I knew that was the case for most but I assumed since it's harder for religious minorities to find one another, there may still be some good catches about.
>>353141Risky strategy. Learning Arabic and regularly practising would be a lot to ask someone to do. And applying conditions only after they've gotten to know me sounds a little misleading.
No. 353170
>>353161I was more so, aside from gossiping, thinking about how it seems funny/strange to me for a woman who has to tolerate misogyny from the religion she's (presumably) voluntarily practicing, and (presumably) agrees with misogynistic Islamic believes/views, to also browse LC where the userbase leans misandrist/is vocal about said misogyny.
I'm not trying to start an infight about misogyny in religion but it seems just about as weird to me as an atheist asking for dating advice on a Christian lifestyle forum. Just a weird clashing of general believes/values. (Yes I know LC users are not a monolith)
No. 353750
>>352875Update, went on the first date. It was at an arcade. Not really much to talk about, but it was awkward for me. I was pretty much the one leading him around the place. One thing that tipped me off was he thought this game using bb bullets was "lame" and the way he was holding the bb gun was incorrect. As someone who's armed, it didn't make me feel like he'd be someone to make me feel protected. After the date was over, I updated my Hinge profile saying I need someone to be comfortable with firearms.
I got a message from him last night saying he'd like to go to a cafe and he was comfortable with me, but at this point I feel like I'd be going on a pity date. My gut is telling me he's just a basic Nintendo autismo with not much experience with love.
Nonnas, it's so over.
No. 353769
>>353753I live in a place where it's more common to have a gun than not, and the ones that don't are really against it, and with me having 2 guns in my house, working with a gun attached to my hip, and target sheets displayed on my walls, they'd absolutely flip.
I work with a handful of gun nuts, so I have a basic idea of what to look out for in things they say and do, so that's pretty much covered.
My life goal is to have a homestead so finding someone who's into hunting would be a benefit for my wishes. I know the risks this is going to endure, but I absolutely cannot date someone who will have a panic attack when I'm in my work uniform.
No. 357007
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I’m talking with a guy on Bumble but he’s clearly too handsome for me, he look really interested in me but I don’t now, I can’t but talk back to him in an extremely defensive weird and awkward sarcastic way. I must look insecure af and I don’t want to seems fragile and being taken advantage at because of… I’m a big mean and feral sexy tiger fuck FUCK
No. 357545
>>356295I've been on a few dates with this guy already and he truly is a gentleman. He's paid for all our nights out. He opens the passenger door for me. He makes a very decent amount of money. He appreciates the simple life. He wants to have a traditional based relationship minus the need for religion to be in the equation. We discuss the lasting needs we'd want in a long term relationship rather than focus on mundane activities to try to bond over. He asks me if I'm feeling okay and what's on my mind when we get closer to each other. By the end of our last date, we were in each other's arms, giving little kisses and cheek to cheek, discussing what we were going to pack for our picnic date and already planning the next date after. He's such a simple man. It's so fucking refreshing to actually find a guy who doesn't want to turn the conversation into his gaming/social media addiction cope, he's so against doing things to an extent that don't benefit your overall health. He's emotionally available for a relationship. He wants to make our relationship official, but we have decided it's more rational to wait a bit to ultimately decide. But so far, no red flags on this guy for me.
I'd guess the only yellow flag is his excitement taking over and before we even met in person, he was calling me terms of endearment, but I was able to critique that and he apologized. He's overall a very mature guy and it is obvious he's ready to settle down, both of us are in our early 30s, so it makes sense because I genuinely want that for myself too. I want to give myself some discipline and not have sex with him until I get to meet friends of his and he meets mine, social vet a bit, and when we're able to say I love you to each other for a few days. I feel like the I love yous should come first before that level of intimacy is established, whereas I've had sex with previous partners before I even knew they had no actual friends and didn't get to fully realize how much of a slob they were at home. Trying to really take this slow, but I'm very comfortable with this guy already.
No. 360525
>>360524Are you retarded? I didn't go for ugly men, one of the stalker guys were so hot my friends were shocked he was into me because they thought i was too ugly for him lmao.
Both ugly and handsome men can take rejection badly and react violently. Stop
victim blaming me when you're retarded enough to search for something serious on a dating app. You can't lecture me on men and then try to meet your future husband/long term partner on a dating app people only use for casual relationships.
No. 360532
>>360531Thank you anon. I'm sure most women have been stalked to a degree whether that be online or an obsessed ex so I think we all worry about this.
And yes I give a second name I don't use and won't give my number. I'm being slow and trying to find someone I can trust before I actually meet up with them, anyone to obsessive, clingy or dysfunctional in another way is out of question for me.
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Why are all the men on dating apps so fucking ugly?
So. Fucking. Ugly.
Everytime I open a dating app it feels like I'm doomscrolling through hairy ugly down syndrome motherfuckers that have the nerve to make pictures with the most retarded lip sucking eye squinting poses then send me a message saying "Hey gorgeous". As if I want to even be within an inch of you you disgusting ugly scrote. Everytime I download a dating app I inevitably delete it just 30 minutes later because i get fugly-overload. It's enough to give me stomach poisoning and not leave my bed for a week. Just please for the love of God just once let me see a man who isn't a complete eyesore to look at.
No. 364671
>>364582It’s bleak, isn’t it? I thought maybe I was being too harsh, but the men in my age range (mid-twenties) are ugly as hell. On dating apps and IRL. So many guys are pudgy and have bad hair with moon faces. Are awful genetics just more prominent now? And as other anons said, anyone actually good-looking that I find on these apps just wants to hook up, because they can and know there’s slim pickings.
Those that say that attractive people don’t use apps, where do they hang out then kek?
No. 364680
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swiped right on my work crush last night, not feeling great about it lol
No. 364810
>>364752>SchoolAlready graduated
>WorkMy work is full of boomers.
>With friends in commonIt’s over kek
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Bi/les anons, how would you rank these apps from best to worst for meeting women?
>Tinder
>Hinge
>Her
>Bumble
>OKCupid
>Lex
>Feeld
No. 374555
>>374491Some of it is photoshop. I’ve seen on Reddit lots of men and women asking for their face to be photoshopped onto a dressier body or a more interesting background.
That and well there’s also just way more attractive women than there are men. The men either look suspiciously shooped or they’re complete slobs.
No. 375595
>>365517I've only tried Hinge and Tinder, and Hinge is much better by far.
I personally only found couples looking for a third on Tinder, but it could just be my area
No. 380992
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Lol
No. 380998
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Got complimented by a footfag once KEK
No. 381079
>>381036I've seen super rough people, especially troons, you never know.
>>381071I don't, I was just passing by, but you're right, I have autistic tendencies and I tend to take things at face value kek.
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No. 381091
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kek no comment
No. 381345
>>381331Male elementary school teachers are also pretty rare, and weirdly enough they're the ones normalfags think are nonces.
It also doesn't help that those men who do are the ones who get fast tracked for admin positions. Rooster in the hen house kinda vibes.
No. 382255
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LMAO
No. 382608
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I always love going on passport mode when I’m bored
No. 384006
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>>382608I've talked to a Japanese guy once who wanted a Western woman to give him enema. Like fucking why
Also the "hair not found" memes of using Tinder as a woman over 25 is no joke. I have no idea how women are targeted by beauty services when the true tragic tale of human beauty is male pattern baldness. No wonder they're obsessed with "the wall", it's very real for them.
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ohhhhhh nasty
barrrrrrf
No. 384549
>>382304Actually yes lmao. I'm going to therapy to work on my behavior. 4 months since knowing him and I got way into survival mode and started worrying way too much about losing him and worried about not meeting these life goals I've set for myself for TWO years. Realized I have anxious attachment tendencies from unprocessed trauma. He's been very supportive throughout all this, he's asked me what he can do to help, he's opened this bridge of friends he knows who'd love to hang out with me when I feel lonely if he's busy, and he's encouraging me to do things I want to do. I've said I'd understand if he wouldn't want to be with me anymore, but he says he understands why I would feel a certain way, but to also take things a day at a time and has put me back into being grounded with the reality. He's challenged my deranged thinking of wanting to leave, he's said he doesn't want to throw everything away because he sees potential. He's actually wanting to work on things and willing to be there for me and encouraging me to get the help I know I need and want. It was a rough couple of weeks, but it is taking a positive turn, he is still planning dinner to take me out to for our monthly anniversary, he's still asking me if I want to go places even for the upcoming year. He's been great at informing me of his schedule, which has been busy lately and a factor in
triggering me, but despite all that, he's so great to me. He doesn't watch porn, he believes in monogamy (he used to be ultra Christian), he works very hard in his career to do things right and eventually wants to get to a point where he's not working to build anyone's business and doing what he's passionate about. He's very dedicated and it's shown in his actions. He reminds me life is short, but ultimately to do things that will bring true joy at the end of the day.
No. 384613
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broke men gotta stop liking my profile
No. 384875
>>384802Not extreme, it is good to weed out the bad. If you're on OKC, it's best to only answer questions that truly matter to match with better people, such as things related to your core values like "How long do you want your next relationship to be?" Or "Are you ready to settle down and get married right now?" Do not answer mundane questions like "Pineapple on pizza?" or "Do you sleep with lights on or off?" Unless there's a question that you believe is DIRE to answer, skip it. You'll end up high percentage matches saturated with people who have nothing better to do, can barely function social wise, and usually have some kind of Internet addiction.
I also like the pointing out of compliments messages not really being custom. Men have more work to do, which is good in the long run.
No. 384971
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last time i used tinder
>texted guy for like a week before we met, seemed pretty sweet, cute, nice
>met him, he was nice, sweet, a few red flags such as whenever he saw anyone he was like ‘oh that person hates me’ and him telling me everyone hated him in his uni, also annoying interests such as lego. also find out he is bisexual
>meet him another time, this time go to his uni accommodation
>tells me that everyone hates him because they thought he raped a girl (definitely did)
>telling me how much he hates religion but is a satanist
>annoyingly socialist
>made me watch this 15 minute extremely unfunny film thing because he was one of those filmbro guys and i couldn’t even fake a laugh
>swipes through tinder profiles whilst his arm is around me on his bed
>starts playing fifa or some shit whilst i’m there, extremely bored
>tells me how he has fucked all his friends including his male friends and is addicted to sex
>cherry on top is before i leave he just starts kissing me. never kissed anyone before that so i was like wtf and i wanted the ground to eat me alive whilst it was happening i kept biting his lip kek
after this date i tried to ghost him, he told me more shit though about how he was too good to get a job at tesco because he did some work experience for the birmingham commonwealth games topkek. i knew i had to ghost him at that point
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wtf kind of first line is this?
No. 386931
>>384549That's great to hear
Nonnie, I hope you'll be better and you can be happily together.
No. 386951
>>386855It's not like he has to be a weeb
I guess I just don't want specifically a normie guy idk
I fear not actually being allowed to be myself because dark humor is really not everyone's cup of tea, or I guess degen 4chan humor maybe not just dark humor. I just wanna make fun of troons and minorities and cuddle while watching anime with a dude who isn't completely garbage. Are my standards really too high?
(racebaiting) No. 386955
>>386952Maybe I've gotten lucky, but I've been with my "weeb" moid for 6 years and it has been great. Unironically the most sane person I've met, unless you count insecurities as being insane.
>>386951I met mine on 4chan, but truthfully, you have to sieve through hundreds of vile porn addicts. You can check their archives for discord tags which speeds things up a bit.
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>>386951>and minorities why are we always getting dragged into this shit with trannies
No. 389157
>>389058That sounds awful, anon. How long have you know him for now, 5 months? I think it's good you've seen his true face this early, you'll forget about him in no time.
>>388318Samefag but catholic girl wants to be friends, it took 3 days for her to reply to my message but at least she was the one to suggest we meet. I feel like such an extrovert for talking to two women on this app kek
No. 389196
>>389157Yeah just about 5 months, I'm really glad it's over. Record breaking shortest relationship I've had. I guess it's a good indicator of me having better self awareness of what kind of person I need to be with to make a relationship work compared to before.
I'm actually going on a date with a guy tomorrow, he seems to have some self awareness, but only talking to him more would tell. I'll probably have to start asking men how they handle stress, because that's the basis of all issues. Conflict. Too many men out there in the dating world are dismissive avoidant.
No. 389725
>>389673This is very important advice because so many people don't understand this: if you feel like texting back immediately, do so. I give this same advice to men and women, gay and straight. If you want to text/call whatever and don't do so, you are playing games and that shit will never work out. Being genuine is so important
Now don't blow him up with texts either, but if he texts you and you want to respond, do it. Even if it turns out that this guy is just being an inconsiderate douche, you have to let it play out.
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yall what the fuck
i’m deleting this app
No. 389873
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Why do all britbongs look the fucking same regardless of their race/ethnical background. I've been scrolling through and feeling like they all are love island rejects. Literally every one of them dresses in the same (bad) way, has pics of them in a horrible looking suit, pics of being a menace abroad in spain/netherlands/france, and all have objectively unflattering haircuts. Don't get me started on the state of hairlines once they're over mid twenties. I can feel the inteste vibes of "mediocre sex" whenever I glance at them.
The only thing that makes it more bearable is the occasional foreigner that pops up. I don't know how other girls manage, I'm just looking for a boytoy but I kinda lost hopes, can't imagine what if feels like if you're looking for something serious.
No. 390636
>>389673I finally managed to unmatch this guy. It was extremely freeing. He ignored me for two whole days. I don't think this was a crush he probably
triggered my anxiety which is probably why I reacted like this because he isn't that great of a guy. The next time someone treats me like this I will instantly unmatch because it just really gets to me and I don't want to feel on edge all the time.
No. 390807
>>390760So he messaged me an hour after I made the update. He sent me a message saying he's been anxious all week. He enjoyed our first date a lot, but our work schedules are just incompatible. The days he works are inconsistent and because of that, seeing each other would be too much of a rush with the limited amount of time to figure out if we would work. Even texting each other, I'd have to go to sleep for work once he had complete free time to have a deeper conversation.
I told him thanks for being honest, because I did also think about how his work schedule was completely different from mine, combine that with the fact we live 30ish minutes away from each other, it's too much of an inconvenience. For him, at least, it's his loss. I was willing to see if we could figure out a compromise and discuss this on our second date, like I'd be able to relax with him once he's out of work or hang out with him weekday mornings before he goes into work, and decide if we want to commit to changing up our lives to be life partners, but it takes two to make it work as such.
So, no date. I just have to move on and find someone who I can connect to and has a similar mindset and availability.
Considering I'm in my early 30s, I wonder if it'd benefit me to considering trying to date single fathers, but that really makes me sad to think about, so I'm sticking to what I have. Maybe I should try to find a guy who's in his 20s? What difference would it make though?
No. 390843
>>390807>I wonder if it'd benefit me to considering trying to date single fathersMen with kids from previous relationships are expired goods, they're not worth the trouble.
Sorry this guy didn't work out, it kind of sounds like an excuse tbh. Going by his own logic he can't date at all because his inconsistent work hours aren't going to match with anyone else's yet he's still on dating apps.
No. 390845
>>390843AYRT yeah and thinking of it more, it's his own fault. He'll find a good love if he didn't stay at a 2nd shift retail job for 5+ years that from what it sounds like he isn't even making $20 an hour. So I missed that bullet. He said he was dating for marriage and on the date he was such a giving person, but if he wants a well enough rounded woman who values closeness, he'd have to make a huge change in his life. He told me his plan B is to go across the border with his family and make a life out there, I think that's been tempting him more and more as the days pass than making a huge sacrifice for someone he barely knows. There's always some fantasy or idea keeping a man from committing to reality.
Also yeah, the more I think of it I'm not going to date a single father. I see many single fathers at my job with their cute little children and I do get those what if thoughts when some of the dads are overly nice to me. I have to take a step back and just understand, their child is what brings me the most joy, not this man with child support issues.
No. 391627
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i went on a date with a dude 5 years younger than me on a whim and it turns out that cougars might have had a point because i’ve never had a man try so hard to impress me
his head was so empty he could only name 3 movies he had watched all the way through (forrest gump, spiderman (2001), and ratatouille) and yet he still made me cum! he was in fact so hype to have made me cum that he spontaneously nutted on my back without touching his dick at all and then got a boner again no more than 20 minutes later when my leg brushed up against his dick while we were cuddling. this dude was moaning THEATRICALLY while we were fully clothed making out. never in my life have i experienced this degree of enthusiasm to touch my honesty pretty mid body and he was not ugly. so idk if you are over the age of 28 and have the patience to listen to a himbo for a few hours consider fucking a zoomer tbh except be prepared to have a visceral reaction when they talk about how fat your ass is bc as a millennial it really took me a minute to process that this was a compliment and not a bizarrely timed insult about my body kek
dudes who are even slightly older than me have consistently acted like i have no standards and should/will settle for their bare minimum but every time i’ve hooked up with a guy younger than me it’s like they’re trying to prove that they are nice and good at sex and ~not like other boys~ which is laughable but like i’m not above taking advantage of this either so… maybe think about it as long as you don’t try to actually date them
No. 391657
>>391627Thanks for the advice
nonnie, I will definitely give it a shot.
No. 391813
>>391627>Fat ass is a compliment LORD I have heard from many moids that being obsessed with boobs is coomer behavior because they are still in toddler brain mode wanting to suck on their mommy's teet, while those admiring butts are thinking about child bearing. I learn a thing or two that benefits if one is immature or not.
My best friends husband is 10 years her minor and I've considered it. It's just that mindset of finding a young guy that'll work. So many of them have that broccoli hair, it just pulls me away.
No. 392170
>>391022Yeah it takes a lot for a woman to leave the father these days. Living single with kids is not very affordable these days even if you make good money. Daycare takes everything. for a woman to leave in financially volatile times would take extremely shitty behavior from the father probably bordering on
abusive behavior if not outright abuse. It’s too risky to take such a chance unless you are willing to spend a lot of time researching why the woman left or why he left her. It’s very rare for a man to initiate leaving unless he’s a deadbeat cheater so chances are the mother left for reasons that the man will never change within himself.
No. 392174
>>392129Millennial men are also pornbrained, but they do tend to hide it more. Zoomer men are more engulfed in Internet porn early on so it is definitely something to be weary of.
On the topic of older men, so many millennial men have that dumbass beard that looks like a cap and I hate it so much.
No. 392211
>>392129All men are the same
nonnie. Millennial men my age are also porn sick. Men from my dad's generation were also porn sick. There's no escape.
No. 392247
>>392212I have to agree as a zoomer. This is one of the reasons I've never been with a man despite being bisexual. They've grown up watching hardcore porn from an early age and I'm terrified of having sex with a man just to get strangled because he decided to enact Gonzo porn on me.
Whereas with Millennials, mainstream porn was more tame during their formative years. And for Gen X and Boomer men they had to have money to buy porn mags/DVDs or watch it in a theatre and the selection of what they could watch would have been more limited.
No. 392297
>>392212Idk
nonnie the millenial men from my country were also raised on porn. I know one that is so pornsick he masturbated in his uni bathrooms. He would choke his exgf too and would have done much more depraved things to her if she had let him. My ex and his friends had an instagram group chat where they would send awful porn and near naked insta women to each other. One of those friends would purposely seek out ugly women because they were easier, would cheat on his gf too. They called one of their friends something like "little sicko" because of the depraved porn he would watch.
Porn is supper normalized in my country and men would openly discuss porn and share it between them like trading cards. This was particularly relevant among older men. My ex was a gymbro and would constantly get approached by older men at the gym who wanted to talk fitness initially and then would start showing him porn.
>>392247>Whereas with Millennials, mainstream porn was more tame during their formative yearsSorry but I don't agree at all. We had the same porn websites we have today. I used to watch some porn as a kid after being introduced by a friend, and the stuff I would unwillingly run into was horrible. All the same fetishes you have today existed before. Maybe it was less of a meme, but they existed and men watched it.
Also my dad's generation might have had to buy it initially, but by the time I was a teenager they were already watching porn on their computers. I once walked into my dad streaming porn. I remember when photoshop started becoming well known, my mom would joke about how all my dad's friends were probably being tricked by photoshop into jerking off to fat women. They really are not any better.
No. 392590
I hope I'm wrong and it's just a coincidence, but why do keep getting ghosted the day before a date? I've been talking a lot with this guy from OKC. 99% match he hasn't seen before, we haven't even met yet, and he's been pretty forward this week. Wants to get married, have kids, etc. I'm glad for this because me too. We quickly move to texting from the app.
Friday night his night unexpectedly became free and he said "if we'd already met, I'd ask if you'd like to see each other, but we already have plans for Sunday." I responded, "yeah let's let our first date have plenty of time to get to know each other" and he told me I'm worth the wait. I haven't really asked about details of the date, but I trust enough he'd tell me. Yesterday morning, he told me he plans for our date to go well so I am expected to enjoy his cooking. Last night he had this big event to go to, he sends me a mirror selfie, so I decided to send him one of myself back. I also had a busy night so I said I'm hitting the hay early. Before I head to my bed, I decided to check OKC and he's not in my messages anymore. I was able to grab history of his OKC profile and it's still there. I'm just confused. Did he mistake my not complimenting him back as not being as interested? I've been still talking to him. I'm just not comfortable doing that until we see each other in person, after that then I'll go hard on the compliments. I can only guess if I am being ghosted is that some guys can't actually handle a woman with self respect. I want this to be a secure relationship. I'm not going to throw myself at just anyone over a couple texts.
I'll update in a few hours if it goes better than expected.
No. 392740
>>392671Not at all. I have other mirror selfies.
He got back to me, he said it's best we disconnect because we're not the same religion and I'm not as religious as he is and he sees it'll create too much stress when raising children. I'm mostly frustrated because my first message to him was telling him "I notice I'm not as religious as you are, if that's an issue, we don't have to continue." And he brushed it aside. A wonderful day to think of religion, Saturday night.
Not sure if that's the real reason, but I guess I'll accept it to move forward.
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I think I'm doing mentally good if I rarely see schizos on OKC. Came across this.
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Poly women are so obnoxious
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>>393286Same profile these people are insufferable so you want someone to put the same effort as a relationship but also want it to have no ties/labels.
Meanwhile they have a boyfriend, just ask him to do all that with you
No. 393313
>>393303>lingerie>blowout >bought him a giftJFL nona. I hope you didn’t pay for your own ticket too (you did, didn’t you?)
My advice is don’t even bother trying to impress moids like this. They won’t notice your hair and they don’t give a shit about expensive lingerie.
99% of men will happily simp for and fuck their long distance gf even if she turns up in a burlap sack and hasnt bathed in a week.
No. 393420
The online dating space feels so limited, especially when trying to find men who actually would want to also find a life partner. I know plenty of men are apathetic about what they're looking for. Too many looking for "long term but open to short" and their reasoning is like "I don't want to rush I want to make sure it's right." Isn't that just common sense?!? Not so much boldness in local men. I think I'm just more upset I did find a guy who I could've had a good relationship with, but his heart was at a point he was so ready to leave the country, it wasn't worth it to make this sacrifice.
>>393386Just let her know you're more comfortable giving you her number. I am okay with giving out my number pretty early on only because I know if anything were to go south I could just block.
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More of a long-ass vent than anything, is not having an active Instagram plastered with pictures of yourself and everything you do actually some sort of unspoken red flag? Am I the retard or just unlucky? I'm bi but mention that I am not interested in men. I'm using Hinge and Tinder. I have a few unobstructed, decent or cute pictures of myself on my profiles and lightly mention my hobbies (nerdshit but I don't get into specifics, as well as relatively normal stuff) and like two vague, 'quirky' one liners, but I've been ghosted twice by women in the past few days despite a somewhat promising start shortly after they ask me if I have Instagram and I preface it with something like
>yeah I do! but I don't really post on it fyi
The first time I didn't even get to the exchanging usernames part and the second time I just thought, "fuck it" and sent a link. It's pretty bare in terms of posts and has 100+ followers, but it has my name on it, obviously not some shady throwaway, and I've had it for years. I just use it to post random digital drawings on occasion, follow artists/musicians/college shit, look at goofy animal pictures, and keep up with old friends. I don't put pictures of my face or document everywhere I go on it because I don't feel the need to. Is this some kind of litmus test to measure how socially retarded you are? I just don't care too much about that kind of thing personally and I feel like the universe is punishing me for it.
I'm a dumbass zoomie and try to come off as fairly normal in writing and presenting myself, even though I'm spergy in person. (ie. not oversharing or self-deprecating, don't mention terminally online shit, and I'm genuinely interested in other women's lives, etc.) Further context, I think I range from decent/average to above average/pretty in terms of appearance (depending on personal taste and how much effort I put in), and I'm not a /beg/ tier chicken scratch pencil artist either. It's just fun sketches of shit I like. (Not overly animu moeslop, mostly normal TV shows because I know better than to reveal my cringe level. It's also a public account just because I like it when people find my fanart through tags.)
I'm just bummed because they both seemed fairly interesting and down-to-earth with no pronouns in bio and were my type. I feel like a mega tard. It's so over… maybe it's for the best rn, but it just hammers in the idea that I'm unlikeable or too off-putting.
Then what? All of the fun mildly nerdy women are TIFing out en masse anyways and I'm not attracted to anyone super extroverted, acrylic nails and lash extensions male-lean "looking for friends to smoke and make out with" women, or the "she/he/they queer pansexual I love DnD pls be patient I have autism" types. Maybe women who would be my type aren't on apps to begin with and I shouldn't force it. I wish I had zero desire for romance. I don't want to lose sleep over this. I am so done with this shit but I still cling onto the tiny chance of finding someone.
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>>395222I doubt it's because of your Instagram. Don't overthink it too much or take it personally, getting ghosted is par for the course with online dating. If they truly did not want to talk to you because you don't have countless selfies or food pics or whatever on your social media then they are retarded and it wouldn't have worked out between you anyway. I'd personally see it as a positive characteristic if my potential gf wasn't obsessed with taking pics of herself or documenting her every move to later post on the interwebs.
Tbh don't bother trying to seem normie. If you're looking for a long term relationship it's important that whoever you match with has an accurate perception of you instead of your Normal Spongebob version. Either they like your spergy personality or they don't, this won't change. Larping as normal will just force you to keep "catfishing" them or potentially make things awkward once you meet them irl because they imagined you differently. It's infinitely more charming to chat with a person who's confident about their quirkiness than someone who comes across as boring because they worry about being cringe. I've had the absolute best success with dating when I was basically just shitposting and being my true self instead of trying to make a good impression.
Also, don't put one liners on your profile. I used to have those too, and was then mortified to learn how bland and unoriginal they actually were the more profiles I looked at. A good format on Hinge is for your prompts to be 1. about yourself, 2. about them, 3. about you two together. This makes it easier to understand what you're like/want in a partner and strike up a conversation with you. It doesn't have to be anything super meaningful or interesting. For example, one of my answers to a prompt is that I want to work out again after having to take a break because I broke my finger in an unspecified stupid way. It's dumb and mundane but it shows one of my hobbies and is a conversation starter.
Lastly, just delete Tinder, that app is only good for hooking up and riddled with couples trying to find a unicorn. Try Bumble instead if you haven't. I'd say Hinge is the best for finding a partner since profiles HAVE to be filled out, but Bumble is nice because it gives you some options to filter what profiles you want to see for free (things such as height, age, smoker or non smoker, activity level, bla bla). It also gives you hobby and interest options, so if you put vidya or something as one of your hobbies it'll highlight it on profiles that also have it listed.
You didn't really ask for advice but I gave it to you anyway kek. Hope that's OK or useful to any other anons.
Anyway, good luck
nonnie. I hope you find a girlfriend soon! It's torture trying to find a normal female attracted woman who isn't a gendie, secretly bihet or otherwise retarded, but you sound really sweet so it's only a matter of time ♥
No. 395242
>>394939Went on a second date. He's sooo insanely sweet. We had sex. He wanted to make sure I had an orgasm, he even asked me before we went to bed if I had come, I said "No, but I'm very sore. Everything felt good. I'd try to masturbate myself, but it'd take a while." He said he didnt mind and held me while I touched myself for a couple more minutes, and when I came he wrapped himself even harder around my body.
He doesn't watch porn, he masturbates maybe once a month, he's not into anal, he doesn't like any kinky stuff.
Besides the sex aspect of him, he works out often, likes to be out in the sun. When I arrived, he opened my car door for me. He didn't want me to pay for anything. And when we talk, he just rubs his hands over my body to basically soothe himself.
He's told me he's never really pursued online relatioships so this is a first for him. It sounds like I'm in the clear for him.
No. 395253
>>395242He couldn't tell if you came but sex was vigorous enough to make you sore and he finished before you and he's very handsy? concern.jpg
I'm happy you seem happy but you should nip some of that in the bud. If you like being touched while you're talking that's fine. He shouldn't come before you. You should communicate next time with him on how to make you cum and make sure it happens before he comes or at the same time. Not to rain on your parade but don't let yourself get used. If every time you have sex you have to masturbate after he's finished to get yourself off, you are going to get very sad about that later on.
No. 395281
>>395253After he came, he was still making sure to touch me. He continued to have sex like 3 other times. He was trying and I was telling him how to do so. I was still sore from masturbating the night before so it's partially my own fault.
>>395259Fingers crossed. I was asking him what turns him on or something I could do that could turn him on and he basically just said if I'm touching him a certain way, he'd "feel" it. IDK an answer like that seems pretty innocent to me. I've had an ex who said he didn't watch porn and he told me he fantasized about throatfucking me.
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>>395239>>395240Thank you anons dearly for your insights! I truly appreciate it, seriously…
At the end of the day, I don't want to be straining myself mentally just to get a date anyways. I think I am going to take a break from looking at these apps for a while so I don't yank all of my hair out but I am definitely going to keep your words in mind going forward. May we all have wonderful dating lives in our futures ♥
No. 395729
>>395714i have no advice, but i was just about to write the same thing. i'm 28 so a little more dire than you. dating apps seem so scary to me, and i don't know if people around me use them or which ones.
i also have 0 relationship experience and it kinda worries me that i'll get creeps.
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Don't forget to report men you had bad experiences with. Do it for other women. Tinder, Bumble and Hinge (so far) did it no questions asked after I sent in a report with the summary of events. I was pleasantly surprised how easy it was because I had to report a moid who had already blocked me after our last date went sour and I just sent in a description of his profile and what happened and they asked me some further personal info of his to find him and then banned him.
No. 395762
>>395714>>395729i’m 29 and recently got back on the apps after not having used them since 2016 and, to be honest, it’s grim. i don’t think any of the actually attractive men are looking for a relationship on the apps, and, maybe because i’m in the midwest, everyone else is bridge troll ugly. again, i’m in a suburb near a relatively major midwestern city, so ymmv, but in my experience the only guys in our age range on the apps are worthless. no degrees, no prospects, shit jobs, boring hobbies, fat, ugly, bland, boring, and above all else, straight up braindead. if you’re looking for a hookup you might stand a chance, but other than that i don’t really think it’s worth it. i’ve met one great guy on tinder but he was looking for a normie and that seems to be the case with any of the reasonable men available, they want a very normal girl to give them babies and if you deviate from that they’ll just make you a placeholder girl until they find someone they actually want to commit to. if you have the patience to deal with a younger guy i have found that men below the age of 25 feel really compelled to impress “older” women (kek) which can be charming compared to the way men in their late 20s/early 30s tend to treat women their own age. but zoomers have the emptiest little heads so there’s no real chance of emotional fulfillment there.
tl;dr i don’t think the apps are a real option for adult women who are looking for an actual relationship with a man that isn’t bottom of the barrel garbage. being on tinder has only inspired more rage towards men for me lol
No. 395798
>>395762so where would i go to meet people?
all my hobbies are girly, all my friends and their friends and married or in long term relationships
No. 395805
>>395762Thanks for sharing. I’m the original ayrt and I’m wondering if there’s a difference between the apps. I’ve only found one guy that I ever liked talking to on Tinder. I’ve been on one dating app date with a guy from Bumble that was so comedically terrible I swore off the apps altogether. I also have girly hobbies like
>>395798 aside from taking my dog to the dog park where I see men oftentimes. Most of my immediate family met their partners through work but it seems like you can’t meet people at work unless you’re in sales or facing external clients often because making a move on someone in the same company/department carries too much risk. And like I said it seems like every decent guy is now engaged or married younger. Every insanely hot guy I have met lately is married by their mid 20s. I don't want to have a scarcity mindset because that will lead you to settle for anything but it’s hard not to look around at what’s available and feel like we’re fucked. I guess being forever alone is better than having some leeching pornsick loser legally tied to you for life.
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>match with first really cute guy after suffering through 500 ugly scrote profiles
>his views align with with some of my most important core values
>he's a redditor and programmer
Should I even bother? One of my exes already turned into a bisexual tranny, I'd kms if I go through that again
No. 397940
>>397910NTA but would you rather date a guy that spends "too mich" time on Lolcow?
Beggars can't be choosers.
No. 397979
>>397911>>397917Will do. One suspicious LGBT ally type of comment and I'm gtfo at the speed of light, his full head of hair and the niche shit we have in common be damned
>>397940Kek touché, it could always be worse I guess
No. 398318
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why is nobody talking about the bumble fumble billboard campaign drama?
I never really used apps until the last 2 years. needless to say - the worst experience ever. I took a break at the start of this year and then thought I might find someone to chat and meet up now for the summer. went on hinge and realised it feels so degrading to be there, the audacity of men on these apps… that I deleted it and the next day I saw this (pickrel) and everyone blocking the apps.
No. 398329
>>398318I think it is the answer. Men need to do better.
I went on a few dates a couple years ago, and the sex was awful every single time. Men are degenerates and half of them can’t even keep themselves hard. I was over it. Been celibate for 2 years and it’s been great. You don’t need to fuck scrotes to be happy.
No. 398559
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A guy asked me out on a date for Sunday today after we had been talking since earlier this week. Now, he went from asking questions and replying to my long messages with equally long messages pretty much instantly even though I usually took hours to respond (not because of mind game reasons or anything), to giving a really short reply and then leaving me on read after I shared something funny that happened during my day. I'm super embarrassed because my last message was a joke kek the worst type of message to be left on read on.
Is this some shit scrotes think they need to do, ignoring the woman the days before the date? Or is it a generally advised thing? The last time I online dated was like eight years ago, so I don't know the etiquette nowadays. Obviously I don't want to continue with the paragraphs of "getting to know you" messages, because then we'd have nothing to talk about irl anymore. I just thought little one sentence chats with maybe a pic or a meme or some shit would be a fun way to keep the contact going until we meet.
No. 398562
>>398561Eh, I doubt it, we are both
vegan so our dating pool is incredibly small.
No. 398588
>>398559Those long "getting to know you" sessions are usually bullshit we do when we don't vibe with someone. When you hit it off with someone, you don't have to sit down and tell your life story, that part usually just comes out bit by bit as your relationship progresses. Any time I went on a date with somebody and we didn't connect it just turns into the same boring information sharing session and eventually you ghost them because it's awkward and you didn't catch feelings.
Also, moids are usually very obvious when they are into you, especially when you haven't let them hit yet. If he's not instantly responding to you this early on I say drop him and move on
No. 398755
>>398584There's no way to filter for veganism which is what makes it difficult.
>>398588Yeah, I'm not really feeling it. I think I'll go on that date and hard focus on other guys the days leading up to it. I feel like every conversation on dating apps always starts as those infodumps and I honestly just want to actually CHAT with someone instead of writing them cringy novels. Men seem to think they need to reference every damn thing you mention on your profile for their first message to stand out as unique. Like my god, I don't want to have to respond to an essay every time I swipe on a dude because I'd be dtf him. Other than putting some negative nancy line on my profile about it, is there any way to make this clear?
No. 398806
>>398755No you can't filter that's why it's a matter of swiping. If he looked at 50 profiles every day for the whole week you've been talking together, that's hundreds of profiles and there's going to be vegans among that amount.
Again not saying he's talking to someone else but it's plausible. You're being obtuse.
No. 398922
Any time I come across an actually good-looking guy, they are only looking for "casual relationships" or hook-ups. It's annoying me. Personally, I don't want a one-night stand even if the guy is a little attractive. Is that weird?
Also, a guy being a hoe around town and pumping and dumping until he has hit the wall kind of ruins him for me.
>>398869I think the ratio is 1 out of 800 men are attractive on dating apps. And that's probably underestimating.
No. 399559
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>>398755Samefag update nobody asked for, but the date yesterday actually went amazing. We met up for a coffee and ended up talking for 4 hours. I think he was just nervous about this entire thing and that's why communication was kinda meh. Now that we met and I told him I had fun we started chatting like normal people. Also, when I asked whether he is experienced with dating apps, he said not at all. I fully believe him and doubt he's talking to anyone else, because he blushed and got awkward when I did that flirty "staaahp hehe" arm shove thing kek. I can't imagine this guy juggling conversations and dates with multiple women. Wish me luck nonas, I hope this develops into something good
>>398922ONS moids are disgusting. Women can do whatever they want (though casual sex is usually self harming behavior for them), but when a man is a slut I can't see him in a positive light anymore. It would be too hard for me to believe he will ever be capable of being faithful, and I'd rather die than be one of the women he fucks on the regular without committing to anyone. Also he would probably have every STD under the sun, no thanks.
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Was told to post a collage of ugly scrotes that have hit me up on dating apps here. Mind you this is only 4/10s and below, and I didn’t wanna sift through hundreds to thousands of profiles
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>>402795You don’t want to be Mrs. Kiwifarms anon?
No. 402938
>>402795Jfc nona. This is why I don’t use dating apps. Its horribly depressing.
I don’t even have particularly high standards but all these moids are fugly or look incredibly autistic and obnoxious.
I’d go on a date with the balding one with sunglasses in a white t shirt, the skinny mustachio one in the stripey shirt, and maybe the navy t shirt chud with glasses at a stretch. The rest are unsalvageable.
No. 404332
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>>402795Does anyone else just get enraged when seeing guys like this who purposefully make themselves as unattractive and goofy as possible? The posing, the mustache, the weird style…ugh. I hate men with this vibe so much it’s UNREAL. And it’s always the left leaning white guys with somewhat decent faces and socioeconomic backgrounds who insist upon acting like goofy liberal male softbois. Unless you’re a pickme hipster libfem, it really feels like humiliation for any woman to be seen with a man like this, yuck. All that white moid privilege and this is what you make of yourself, ew.
No. 405036
>>404995Don’t feel for bad for men, I promise they don’t deserve empathy.
All these scrotes jerk off to women being raped on camera, barely legals and god knows what else and would post your picture on imageboards and laugh at you too if you’re an ugly or fat girl. The reason they’re single is because they’re all 3-4s looking for a 10/10 virgin 18 year old Stacy.
No. 405052
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>>398318Bumble just decided to get rid of the shtick of lying to women saying they'll find a good relationship. Pandering to moids instead, who are retards on the edge of their seat to stick their dick into something. Women should delete all of their dating apps. Id love to see it reach ~90% male.
No. 405253
>>405036True anon, I had a scrote I was dating post my nudes on 4chan one time, friends found out and showed me
He was very unattractive btw
And was bragging about how he wanted to cheat on me, even disgusting 4chan moids called him ugly and said the only reason a girl like me was with him is I must have serious mental issues (I did)
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If you're wondering if it's better for lesbians: no.
>try tinder
>"looking for someone to have fun with me and my boyfriend (wink tongue out emoji)"
>tranny jumpscare
>obvious bot
>"BLM/Free Palestine/Ukraine flag/Communist"
>profile only mentions weed
>obese
>has kids, bonus if she calls them "crotch fruit"
>"only looking for friends"
>"poly and partnered"
>disgusting unwashed Shein goth aesthetic
>"You ran out of people. Expand your distance settings."
And the punchline:
>the only normal woman you match with doesn't reply to your opening
No. 405363
>>405348I think there are more unattractive women online dating in general (no offence, perhaps it’s because attractive women seem to have less trouble IRL) but when it comes to lesbian or bi women my anecdote is that in general, compared to straight women, we seem to be disproportionately either obese or anorexic. Every lesbian I know personally is either super fat or super skinny.
>>405352Which is… what?
No. 405584
>>405254Ugly men are more disloyal because
A) they missed out and always wonder if the grass is greener and B) they’re deeply insecure and feel the need to overcompensate by trying to get the most attractive woman they possibly can.
>>405253>dating men from 4chan Please for the love of god never do this
No. 405651
>>405584100% agree. Also, I didn't know he was a 4chan user, it's not like most men are going to willingly tell you that, they know how much of a red flag it is
In the same thread I saw a bunch of men start posting pictures of their gfs or exes, pics they'd taken of them, bikini photos and nudes, and asking to rate them or berating them for being a whore who broke up with them and is now dating a black guy or something
You never know what men are doing behind your back
No. 409949
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>Decide to try Feeld app, supposedly good for bisexual people
>Get shown unremarkable moid after unremarkable moid, feels endless
>"Hmm well I'm really here to meet women, guess I'll just turn off the option to see men"
>Only start seeing more women this way, still often partnered with men, TIMs or the odd regular bearded moid who's changed his gender to "genderqueer" to probably try to avoid women filtering him out
Is this why it's so hard for bi women to find each other on dating apps? I don't mind turning off the option to see men because I prefer women anyway, but for most bi women I don't think this is the case, in which case 90% of the profiles they'll be seeing will be men. It just feels hopeless sometimes.
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>>409950That was my ex-fiance. He looked unreal (worked out, swam, tan and well dressed) when he was in his "I'm so lonely" phase on dating apps. I met him on bumble and over a year later with me, he let himself go but said I was absolutley his dream girl and actually did spend a lot of money on me but couldn't for the life of him just not get fat. It's all I wanted since I can't get horny to fat guys and it was to the point people were DMing me if he is seriously my bf and I was crying comparing his old pics to his 280lb neckbeard self. The kicker was he sent me pic related before.
As soon as we broke up he went back to the gym.
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Nonnas, do you think it's a good idea to try to hook up with women on Tinder when you have almost 0 sexual experience? I don't mean strictly for sex but more like a casual relationship if that makes sense. I'm in my mid 20s and I used to date as a teenager but my only sexual experience was bad oral (we both sucked lol)
It just feels embarrassing to me when I think about disclosing something like that and I know I don't have to but it'd probably be very obvious kek. I haven't kissed anyone in years so I'm worried I'd suck even at that.
No. 412681
>>412670Yeah, you're right. I need to stop being a pussy, maybe there's a woman out there who would find my turbo virginity endearing or something kek
I'd probably feel more comfortable around someone older than me, it'd feel way too embarrassing for me to explain myself to a woman who's younger than me.
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nonnas i’m in disbelief over this retarded straight woman using a specifically lesbian dating app to look for lash clients. i knew the state of lesbian dating apps was bad but what the fuck
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Jesus fuck don’t go on taimi unless you want to get your day ruined. Idk what I was expecting from a ~kweer~ app but I wanted a hot mentally ill androgynous cutie I could bone but it could not be worse. I had 250 guys that they gave me and all of them were fucking hideous. Even worse were men telling me their disgusting fantasies of breeding or making me their sex slave unprompted, was fun shutting them down though. This actually ruined my day, I’m gonna touch myself to nu carnival to feel better
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So after more than a 1 year being single and not ready to mingle, I’m finally ready to try mingling.
I spent the last two weeks swiping left on hundreds of guys and swiping right every now and then, and now I’m overwhelmed by how to handle talking to more than like one guy at once lol
I never dated around much (I either had a long-term bf or was just happy and single) and I don’t know how this is supposed to be done.
I live in the US now (originally from Europe) and my impression is Americans love their dates with multiple people and the consequential situationships(?)
What’s the most respectful way of going on tinder/bumble/hinge dates?
I don’t care about free drinks or dinner. I do want to take things slowly/casually but if I do get a crush on someone… well, then I have a crush on someone and wouldn’t wanna go on dates with other guys.
How many dates do other American/international nonnies go on within a period of like 7-14 days? What do you after the first date? How do you decide if it’s worth going on a second date and how do you tell the guy if you do want/do not want a second date?
I have two first dates set for this week already and I have a few other ongoing conversations with other guys too (just regular bantering but I don’t want to ignore the convos, I guess, since that’s rude) and I need advice..!?
No. 415931
>>415867Don't pay for anything next time. If he liked you he would be tripping over himself to prove himself worthy of you like
>>415902 mentioned. Most women get the ick when being expected to pay because it's literally one of the bare-minimum things ever, and if a man can't even do that then he will be extremely stingy in other ways as well. Also "but aren't you a emancipated woman?" is so manipulative and disgusting. Men don't give a shit about feminism, they don't even see women as people, but they love twisting it in such a way to make women do whatever they want. Don't fall for that again.
No. 415965
>>415902or it means he doesn't buy into gendered stereotypes and will have a more egalitarian view of relationships
In Nordic countries, it is unheard of for the man to pay. Splitting the bill is the norm. Is it a coincidence that Nordic countries have the most successful and feminist relationships?
No. 416060
>>415965>>415986They have higher life satisfaction because of the work-life-balance. He invited me out on a date so he should have at least made an offer to pay and I would have appreciated the gesture. He should have put in some effort like
>>415931 said.
I called him out on it and now he is scrambling and backpedaling and saying that other women always suggested splitting the bill in the past but I'm not responding anymore.
No. 416188
>>416071what about those of us who
want a feminine man?
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>>415965nordic countries have uniquely bad domestic violence issues despite seeming so progressive called "the nordic paradox". it may be due to higher reporting rates but nonetheless it's not all sunshine and rainbows.
https://www.theperspective.se/2022/04/26/article/the-nordic-paradox-violence-against-women-in-gender-equal-societies/ No. 417069
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I broke up with my good for nothing ex who I was with for nearly 5 years at the beginning of the year. I’ve been on Hinge for four months, essentially re-learning how dating works, and I already feel so worn down and exhausted. I suddenly feel so acutely aware that the ratio of attractive men to attractive women in the world is absurdly imbalanced, especially at my age (30). It’s like single men stop trying to look good after the age of 26. Ive had several little flings with attractive men but I’ve realized that I can’t enjoy sex without getting emotionally attached, even if the guy is a total dipshit, so the flings have only served to hurt me. I always thought I was a reasonably attractive woman— not insanely hot, but slightly above average and well groomed— but this shit has really taken a toll on my self esteem. It has me thinking about plastic surgery, something I never thought I’d stoop to. I just want to find my person, but I feel so old and used and pathetic competing for the attention of the extreme minority of attractive, decent men. Picrel is the type of trash who makes up most of the discovery feed. I wish I were a lesbian or something, I’m so depressed right now.
No. 417153
>>417069I'm in the same position as you
nonnie, also 30. I also consider myself slightly above average. I haven't gone back to dating yet, but I wouldn't stress over looks. No moid is worth plastic surgery, and no moid worth anything would want you to get surgery. I think any decent moid our age is aware of their position and isn't just going to go for 10/10 stacies or waste their time. But tbh I've accepted that I might not find a new moid anytime soon or at all.
No. 419032
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>>409971>being virtually pawed at and slobbered on by 99% attention deprived lonely losers and 1% narcissistic psychopathsThis is what I find most bothersome about these apps
No. 419068
>>416266>Nordic anon here, it's not unheard of at all.Yes it is. In America, we even have the phrase "going Dutch" to indicate splitting the bill
>We're not some monolith where everything is 50/50 in every relationshipYes you are. Nordic men and women are both highly feminist. Nordic people even all look the same (tall, blonde, fit, etc.)
>in fact it's a huge problem here that men don't do enough chores at home since you're expected to work as a woman as wellThat's every country. Men don't mind living in total filth. If you don't want to have to pick up after a man then you should just stick to dating women. There is no such thing as a man who will do his full share of the housework
No. 420340
>>419032you wouldnt kiss those chapped ass lips
nonny??
No. 420862
>>413015Oh God Boo is terrible nona don't do it. Take it from me.
Just from the marketing alone they advertise it as the dating app where "looks don't matter" so that's already set up for disaster. You'll run into nothing but incel after incel. Especially on the "explore" tabs page where people make posts. Nothing but incels and red pillers talking about how women need to "submit" to find a good man
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I wish I was kidding.
At first I thought it was some retard saying shit to bait women into reacting and thats why I didnt give him any sort of reaction. This was from ages ago, I'm cleaning out my screenshot folder and found it lmao
No. 420998
>>420917Next time a nonna is wondering why scrotes act like they have brain worms, you can show her this and answer her question!
And you deserve a medal for interacting with these creatures. Good fucking god.
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febfems and lesbians: how do you do it? i started using dating apps again at 30 after being too mentally/physically unwell for a few years to properly bother (anorexia and bpd diagnoses). i was never doing amazing with women on apps but met a good number of them in my early 20s and hooked up with a few. currently bombing harder with them than ever before. when i used hinge recently i got a steady stream of moid matches but not any women which was honestly disheartening and made me sad as i strongly prefer them to men. currently using feeld and not having much luck there either. is there a chance they can tell i'm not 100% healthy from my pics and that puts them off, or would it be something else? matching with men has not been a problem
No. 424889
>>424609Same, anon. I don't know if my type is just very narrow or my standards too high (I have a heavy preference for long haired men for instance), but I'm attracted to very few people I see around. I find it helps to go to events that relate to my hobbies (renn faires, metal shows, other nerdy stuff) because the proportion of men my type is higher.
I got dumped recently which was honestly a relief because it was a dead end/empty relationship that I was too complacent to leave myself. It feels freeing. Now I'm trying Bumble and I swipe right on maaaaybe 1% of people. I managed to get a few matches in a couple days which seems shockingly fast. One seems more interesting and compatible (and more cute) than the rest so hopefully we can chat more and see how things go.
My last relationship has given me a complex around feeling like no one would ever want me, but screw it. I'll shoot my shot.
No. 424909
>>424904I'm not going to debase myself with hockey analogies but iykyk, point is:
1. people tend to be way nicer irl than online,
2. There are a million reasons somebody might not be interested, most of which will actually have nothing to do with you so you might as well cultivate a little detachment from the fear of rejection, and
3. Like applying for a job, you can either limit yourself to being another resume in the pile, flattened into one of a hundred two-dimensional summaries, or you can make a little extra effort and create an actual three-dimensional human interaction that somebody will remember, especially because that's a step that MAYBE 1% of people will ever bother to take so you're just statistically that much more significant.
But again, I don't even like men so feel free to disregard
No. 424913
>>424912If you believe that then the problem isn't how you go about meeting somebody — online, in person, with them making the first move, or you — it's that any relationship is doomed to be shallow and fleeting no matter what. The idea of hitting the wall at 30 may be bullshit, but guess what we all still age and all relationships grow out of the lust phase sooner or later. If you listen to any couple that are still happily together after decades they practically all say the same thing, and point to the need to progress beyond relying on physical attraction, and to develop a deeper bond with somebody.
If you choose to take the more pessimistic view and say moids are biologically incapable of doing that, more power to you, but don't pretend my earlier advice isn't still going to be better for anybody who wants to be more optimistic.
If he needs to find you hot in order to not resent you, what's going to give a more honest impression, your online dating profile, or the actual physical you? You'd still be more likely to end up with somebody who "resents you for being ugly and treats you like shit" by him liking you back and eventually meeting face to face based on a dating profile.
No. 425145
>>425133lol, have you ever approached a guy who doesn't have like top-level social skills? They like someone else doing the work.
If the advance isn't unwelcome.
No. 428065
>>428063I don’t have any LGB circles and the clubs that I know are full of ugly weirdos, the type that have pins, autistic , koreaboos or anime watchers (I do watch them too, but I’m not crazy about them) and who is into the genderwoo craze.
Dating apps are the next best thing I can do, but I can’t get anything. It’s so frustrating.
No. 428133
>>428103Oh god
nonny, you dont want Russian moids. I know some of them can be cute twinks, but they're all pedophiles, furries, schizos and rapists too.
No. 428175
>>428133>>428144I am pretty much aware of the risks, but please nonnies give me any alternatives that are out there.
I'm also curious if there's any websites or apps besides the large three (tinder,bumble,hinge)
No. 428179
>>428159This isn’t from personal experience (I don’t have a ton of experience in general), but from the friends I have who have met their boyfriends off of an app- they’ve met them from Hinge. I’m actually using it again right now after pausing my profile for like two years. I like it more than Tinder because you actually have to fill out prompts for your profile so it’s a little easier to
sus out the assholes (obviously they’ll still be there but at least you can filter out some)
No. 428294
>>428061Pretty much all dating apps are huge majority male, like 60-80% male depending on which one. So there's a rather tiny pool of women, whether straight or lesbian. You would be better off trying to find someone irl. Maybe lookup lesbian meetups or speed dating on the Meetup site.
>>428159I think it's the best one and has the largest amount of serious men, but it seems to have WAY less users than any other app as well. You run out of people really quickly. Tinder is fully hookup oriented and not somewhere you look for a real relationship, Bumble pretty much just has the same men as Tinder, and CMB is dead these days (used to be the best quality one)
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>>428159the people who you match with on tinder are way harder to match with on hinge. hinge gatekeeps attractive men. I know this cause I've matched with men on tinder who were "standouts" on hinge kek. More of my hinge matches have led to dates but nothing ever happened with them because people on dating apps just want an ego boost.
No. 429324
>>429076Bumble offered a day to see who like you for $3. I was a chump and bought it, and it confirmed my very obvious thoughts. Pretty much all of them were boring and not my type at all. At that point I'd rather have the "organic" way of liking someone, then if they eventually like me we match. I like so few people, but that's how it's gonna be.
I also put a line about wanting friends/connections first, then I'll go from there. Not everyone will read it or care, but I try to make it evident.
No. 429445
>>429345If you want friends I think that apps are decent enough if the other person is interested, but you have much more luck in finding same minded people by visiting places you usually spend time in, for examples your uni or workplace or even a bar you visit often.
I met one of my friends on bumble though so I think you should try it! She’s a sweetheart, she had moved here and she didn’t know anyone, just like you. We chatted for two days and then met up! We go to the same faculty so we have many things in common.
No. 429446
>>429345I’m not in America so I don’t know how things are there. But people here in my country list their height correctly when they do, even when they’re on the shorter side, I’ve never had a problem.
About the safety part:
>always meet up in a public place as a first date>don’t drink too much and remain vigilant, >reach the location on your own, don’t let them pick you up.>don’t share your address>share your location with someone if possible. >If you happen to want to have sex have your own condoms just in case too, you do you, but I prefer having sex later , when I’ve already gone out with them a couple of times already.>this is something I do out of my own discretion but I always say what I don’t want to be done immediately, no chocking, no slapping etc. No. 429777
>>4293451) Yes, it's very awkward. If you tell men on apps that you're looking for "friends", they'll think you mean fwb so definitely don't say that.
2) Tons of them do lie about it, unfortunately. They're straight up advised by other men to do so and told that women won't be able to tell the difference.
3) Stay in public. Do not go into any private space with a man you don't know well yet, including cars. Keep the initial dates to daytime only. Frankly, I would advise not sleeping with a man early on at all, until he has demonstrated commitment. Lots of men lie about wanting a serious relationship to lure women into having sex asap, then ghost them right after ("pump and dump"). The only way to avoid this is to just refuse it until later. Fuckboys won't stick around for long if you make it clear.
No. 431141
>>431138I do kinda admire this guy's honesty. Do you think he may have had some mental issues?
He prob is only interested in quick casual stuff and once he realized that you weren't down for that, he moved on
No. 431600
>>429795Moids think it's fine to cheat if there's a "dead bedroom" situation where they feel the woman isn't having enough sex with them (usually some unreasonable amount that they want). There's a whole giant subreddit dedicated to men defending that shit.
>>431118Go to therapy for your daddy issues before dating more people imo. That's gross af.
No. 431736
>>431118I went on the other date yesterday. It was fun, but I wasn't super attracted to him. He tried to fight some guy at the movie theater and then the other guy looked at me directly and said "you deserve better" which was funny. And then this morning the he texts me and says that he had fun but that I was "loud and obnoxious in public," which sounds like a massive cope. [/spoiler]At least he was my age this time around.[spoiler]
>>431600Don't have enough time or money for therapy sadly. But I don't usually date people that much older than me. He was just very attractive in his pictures.
No. 431816
>>431736what was the fight about? Who do you think would have won?
>then this morning the he texts me and says that he had fun but that I was "loud and obnoxious in public,"so do you only date mentally ill people?
>the other guy looked at me directly and said "you deserve better"This line has always bothered me: how tf does he know that you deserve better? Maybe you are actually a terrible person yourself. What does "deserve" even mean in this context?
No. 442158
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Back in the Bumble trenches
No. 442175
>>441203Going on a second date tomorrow. He has been texting me every day and asking me questions about my life and my interests and how my day is. I'm going insane with the knowledge that something could/will go wrong and all of this will be ruined. It's like too good to be true. I can't ever remember a time a guy seemed to display this much interest in me, while also being a guy who I thought was cute and easy to talk to.
But I'll try to have fun tomorrow and not psych myself out too much. Even if it goes poorly and I don't want to talk to him again, I will at least have had fun up until that point.
No. 442644
>>442277The update is that the date went okay, but I don't like him as strongly now (which is normal I assume once you get to know someone). I think things were not super well-planned and then on top of that, it felt like it was harder to make conversation and he made some jokes that I thought were kind of cringe. And all in all, I was feeling sort of bored.
That being said, I could tell that he liked me. He asked for a hug at the end, which felt really nice. I'm still willing to give it another shot to see if it was just a bad day, but this time I'm going to plan the date so that way even if I'm bored I'll still have something to enjoy,
No. 443640
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How are you supposed to find a Christian guy without them being retarded tier conservative, old enough to be your dad, or larpers who want a virgin wife?
No. 443642
>>443640Are you participating in a Christian community yet? Churches host events and groups/clubs centered around some activity. Not all of them center around bible study, there's plenty where you could meet guys in a more casual setting and get to know them.
I grew up Christian myself (though no longer in it so maybe it's changed a bit with dating apps) and from what I've seen that's how the majority of Christian guys got their partners.
No. 443653
>>443647I think anon means larpers who are in it for the virgin wife not for the religion.
Ime the younger generations of Christians who aren't ultra religious but are religious enough to go to church regularly, aren't as uptight about sex and living together as the older generations. It isn't that uncommon to have sex before marriage in serious relationships. But again that's my experience, I guess it probably varies per church/region.
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>>443640OP, my bad forgot to include that I'm fairly serious about my faith (waiting for marriage, regular going to church praying and fasting).
No. 443683
>>443682ngl, waiting for marriage is an objectively bad thing from a safety point of view because you are completely forgoing any preview of whether or not the person you end up marrying is trustworthy until it's too late to easily back out. that said, the answer is 100% through your church like
>>443642 said. the key to doing it safely is to have female friends in your church-related social circle who will watch out for you and who can spot red flags you might miss, will side with you if anything happens as opposed to pressuring you to stay together for god, etc.
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>>443683Idk how people try to convince women that sex is the only way to figure out if a dude is ok. Literally observe him when he's with others, what he says/does, don't rely on him financially, and maybe hack his computer/phone. Usually they can't keep the nice act up after a few months on consistent interaction.
>>443701What autistic literally asks someone if they wipe and wash.
No. 443720
>>443693>>443703>>443705I hope you guys posting "pump and dump" over and over are just too young to know how typical (healthy) relationships work and virginally scared of sex and betrayal, which is understandable, but that term doesn't refer to a woman dating a man for some number of weeks/months/years, having sex with him while in a monogamous relationship, and then voluntarily leaving him if he is a bad partner. as long as you're withholding a final step of the relationship that he wants to get to in order to incentivize him treating you nicely, then you are removing that incentive once you're no longer withholding, which is a bad foundation for a lifelong relationship. what's more, you can absolutely find very religious, normie, even conservative men who will be normal and respectful toward you as a woman while still having more modern views toward living together and sleeping together, but the "no sex until marriage" thing is a magnet for poorly adjusted people. date for a very long time before you have sex, only date men who seem genuine and trustworthy, only have sex when you feel like you really know a man inside and out: these are very good ways to avoid creeps while minimizing the risk of being used. even holding out to lose your virginity to a virgin or only dating virgin men is fine. however, waiting until you are legally entangled with a man to sleep with him is not an efficient strategy for maintaining your safety. I can tell from the tone of some of these posts that you don't think this is sincere advice (or at least that you're very unhappy to hear it), so I think I would direct you to have as many conversations as you can with trusted older female relatives in your life to hear more about love, sex, and dating as you start seriously thinking about finding a man to marry, just to increase the chance that you'll hear more about the reality of how things work and go into looking for marriage with more information than you have now.
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>>443720What if I have no interest in sex? Why care if they're small penised/quick shooting/just bad at it, because I'm never going to enjoy it anyways. It'll always just be an annoying thing I need to do in order to be married & have children.
No. 443734
>>443726I think that if you plan to have a sexually active relationship, it's still best that you do not wait until marriage. I'm not saying to avoid those men just so you can dump a guy if he is bad in bed. I'm saying it because your relationship dynamic will change immediately upon being legally bound to someone who may become a total stranger to you, and also because if you've only fucked one guy in your life and it's your husband and you have religious reasons to make it work and you believe that you're dirty once you lose your virginity, then you are heavily incentivized to put up with whatever happens and it is likely that it would be extremely difficult for you to leave if the situation is bad. thus, it's just way better to reach a point of stable connection, interdependence, and commitment in a relationship before marriage and not after. additionally, the sort of men who only want to marry a virgin are likely to have a sexist attitude toward women that you will not escape suffering from, not even if you measure up to all of his standards of what a good woman should be as a faithful religious virgin. they're just not quality men.
that said, I don't really know what the best thing for someone disinterested in sex altogether. I guess I really hope that you end up with a guy who is also not interested, or that you have a little fun when it happens even if you're not particularly interested in it now.
No. 443736
>>443720>as long as you're withholding a final step of the relationship that he wants to get to in order to incentivize him treating you nicely, then you are removing that incentive once you're no longer withholding, which is a bad foundation for a lifelong relationshipBut that's the exact opposite of what's really happening. Most moids are only in the relationship for the sex. If you wait until marriage, you filter out the moids who only wanted to use you for sex, and men who genuinely love you will wait. The point isn't to make a bad moid better, it's to dissuade a bad moid from being with you to begin with.
>>443734>they're just not quality men.Chaste men who save themselves for marriage are almost certainly better than sluts who have pumped and dumped dozens of women
No. 443739
>>443736>If you wait until marriage, you filter out the moids who only wanted to use you for sex, and men who genuinely love you will wait. The point isn't to make a bad moid better, it's to dissuade a bad moid from being with you to begin with.I understand that this is the logic behind your theory but I am telling you that in real life, it doesn't work out this way. I don't mean that no-sex-til-marriage guys are creepy and dangerous in theory, I mean that they are creepy and dangerous in practice.
>Chaste men who save themselves for marriage are almost certainly better than sluts who have pumped and dumped dozens of womenthe vast majority of men fall between these two categories of people, though, and that includes men who are virgins who are waiting to have sex for the first time in a meaningful, loving relationship, as well as men who have had one or two serious relationships that didn't work out and have only ever had sex with women they loved and respected and had very serious intentions toward.
No. 443748
>>443739>they are creepy and dangerous in practiceHow many irl men have you met who wanted to wait until marriage?
And I'm not saying all men who want to wait until marriage are worthy, I'm saying only men who want to wait until marriage are worthy. It's a necessary but not a sufficient condition.
While I agree that most waiting until marriage moids are awful, I believe an even higher percentage of premarital sex moids are that.
No. 443756
>>443751>the vast majority of them are creepy little freaksAs oppose to normalfag moids, who are generally saints and angels.
I think you're just jealous of me because you'll never have a pure one-man-one-woman romance and love. Like Aesop's tailless fox tempting others into amputation, you're trying to make me repeat your faults.
(bait) No. 446224
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I look at OKCupid once in a while and this nasty scrote liked me.
>no women like me
>women are shallow
>a woman should motivate ME to work out and not be fat
the damn entitlement of moids. "wahhh wahhh no women like me because I'm out of shape, unhealthy, and ugly". how about instead of waiting for a woman that likes "you for you and is going to help you diet (unrealistic, no one wants a fat fuck), get off your fat ass and work out. although he's into video games and dbz so losing weight will only do so much.
I always seem to get the attention of losers and goons just for looking vaguely asian.
No. 446385
>>442644Additional update- we're dating now! I know there's time to be disappointed, but so far everything has been going so well it feels way too good to be true. He has made it really clear that he likes me and enjoys spending time with me. I was sperging out about some random topic last week and recommended some documentaries and podcasts on the subject without even thinking and then this weekend he told me that he watched/listened to them, which completely surprised me because I wasn't expecting that from him at all. He comes with me to watch movies and do things that my friends aren't interested in doing with me. And when he took off his shirt, I was shocked because his body is actually pretty nice.
I'm so happy with things right now that I'm also constantly afraid for when things inevitably goes south. I don't know what to expect because this is my first relationship. I'm also surprised I was able to meet someone who I get along with really well on one of these horrid dating apps, but I never talk to men so I don't think I would have met him otherwise.
A surprise month of Hellmas is now in effect. For the rest of the month of December, VPN posting will be banned.