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I try to feel around it and I always feel like it's alright but then it still leaks, so I must just absolutely suck at this.
TSS is apparently caused by just air being inside the vagina where it shouldn't be, so cups don't help here at all.
Nah, maybe it’s the shape/size or your flow is too heavy and you’re not changing it enough? Doesn’t work for everyone.
Also, I think tss caused by bacteria growth. I only really hear about it because tampons made of certain fibres/anything left inside long enough encourages rapid growth.
People with burns and cuts can get it too.
Never heard of it being because of air in the vagina but considering how many things can and do go wrong, that’s probably a factor.
I boil mine every two days or so to be safe and don’t leave it in for longer than 8-10 hours.
>>113721>I only really hear about it because tampons made of certain fibres/anything left inside long enough encourages rapid growth.
Yeah I think cotton is more bacteria-friendly than silicone. Plus, the string may be a source of bacteria as well.
I‘ve talked to a girl who almost died of sepsis from using the cup (and only had it in for like up to 7 hours) though, so I think neither of the methods that require you to insert anything into your vagina is really safe. The cup has less risks though. If handled correctly, that is.
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TSS is rare and you guys should really not be as worried about it as you are. I posted a substantial rundown about TSS in a previous thread but I can't find it unfortunately so I'll rewrite it.
Basically there was a TSS "outbreak" (obviously it can't be spread from person to person, but in a short period of time there were many cases) in the late 70s and early 80s because of a new tampon brand called Rely, which were marketed as ultra-absorbent and could be kept in for hours and hours. Carboxymethylcellulose and polyester, which made them super absorbent, caused dryness in the vagina and lead to a higher possibility for ulcerations in the vagina upon removal. This, combined with the fact that they could be left in for an extended period of time, led to an abundance of cases of TSS.
Rely tampons were eventually taken off the market because of the extreme volume of TSS cases associated with them and they were found negligent in offering the product. Carboxymethylcellulose and polyester can no longer be used in tampons. The FDA now requires that tampons are regulated as medical devices, absorbencies are regulated, and pamphlets warning users about TSS are included in boxes. The rate of contracting TSS is now 1 in 100,000 - very low.
TL;DR: the chance that you will get TSS is very low and the reason that people think TSS is so widespread is because of FDA regulations stemming from super-absorbent Rely tampons in the late 70s.
I‘ve been using tampons for about 10 years now. I sometimes (but only like 5 times in all those years) had to leave it in for 8+ hours and nothing happened. Wouldn’t recommend trying it - at all - and avoid it as much as possible, but it’s supposed to show that it’s not happening as quickly as it sometimes seems.
Wash your hands before changing your tampon, use the smallest possible size and only leave it in for up to 6 hours and you should be fine.
Also: I noticed that in most stories (at least in the news etc) of people who (almost) died from TSS it’s also people that ignored unusual symptoms like fever, throwing up, etc. and thought they had the flu or similar. It’s mostly people that aren’t aware of TSS and its symptoms.
If you go see a doctor as soon as you show flu-like symptoms, get an unusual rash or similar, you’ll be fine. It’s not a death sentence.
It’s more likely you’ll catch the flu (which could also kill you), yet you won’t stop going outside or seeing people.
wow this is my actual nightmare.
i've heard enough horror stories from female nurses in my family about women not even knowing they needed to take tampons out to last a lifetime.one story involved maggots
Bacteria can grow because of the air introduced into the vagina. No air, less growth. That was the problem with these super-absorbant tampons they had in the 70s or 80s as well. Here's an interesting article: https://vitals.lifehacker.com/everything-you-think-you-know-about-toxic
> “Menstrual blood can multiply Staph. aureus organisms from 1,000 to 10 billion,” he said. But in order for all that bacteria to result in TSS, “you just need something to turn on the toxin.”
>That something, Schlievert said, is air.
>Anytime a woman inserts a tampon—or anything else, like a menstrual cup or a diaphragm—she risks introducing oxygen into the normally anaerobic vagina.
I quite like the cup actually, even if I have problems with it fitting (it doesn't overflow, just flows past it, my period isn't that strong) because it feels less intrusive than a tampon with the string etc. Maybe I'll go back to the cup and period panties on my next period. I unfortunately get skin irritations from actual pads.
I've had this before - always just assumed it was a yeast infection. Mine clear up easily on their own - don't shave dont there for a bit, drink plenty of water, make sure you're wearing loose fitting trousers and knicks, no sex for a bit either. It really sucks anon, I know how painful and uncomfortable you must be. I think pads are better than tampons so that you're not touching the area as much?
If you've had a yeast infection before and it seems different, you should go to a doctor if your symptoms keep persisting.
How many people did you receive oral from? Are you sure they aren’t just bad at it?
I used to really dislike oral too because I didn’t feel anything either. I thought oral is just not for me and it kinda made sense since I didn’t feel anything from sex either.
Then I met my current boyfriend and oh boy was I wrong. Him eating me out was the first time anyone ever gave me an orgasm. I mean, it’s not like I’ll definitely come whenever he eats me out but it feels significantly better than everything all other guys have done.
Many guys just really suck at it.
Not saying that this definitely has to be the case for you, though.
Do you go at it for long durations?
These things can contribute to it
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I went ahead and bought some Japanese pads because they looked like they were really high quality and held a lot of blood. They were measured by centimeter too instead of being small, medium, large, XL which was awesome because more variety of sizes.
Well, I finally wore them. They suck. I seriously thought the pad was going to start to rip apart. I only wore it for about 6 or so hours. They were nowhere near the same quality like the generic ones I get from Walmart and Aldi. I could wear those practically all day and overnight.
I dunno maybe it's just this brand. I'm glad I got a package of them for only $1. I feel sorry for all the women with a heavy flow and this is all they have. Is there a better brand out there? I'm the type of person that has to wear overnight liners all day and the ones out here in America are way too short for my ass crack.
Feels like absolutely nothing. I’ve had all my partners go down on me just in case they are different but I think it’s just my tiny stupid clit that gets nothing from it. (Sorry I get so frustrated thinking about it)
Two of those guys are supposedly pretty good at it too from what I’ve heard from other girls. One guy went at it for an hour before I thanked him and gently pushed him away lol. I felt like such an ass
I just looked up how often I should be changing it.>Every 3 to 4 hours
Really? I'll run out of pads so fast… I go through 3 to 6 during the duration of my period now I gotta bump it up to like 12. That's over half a bag for one period cycle… Jesus this sucks.
Holy shit 3 to 6 for an entire period is WAY too little.
Sorry to be this harsh but I feel sorry for the people around you. I mean, unless you have a really, really, really light period (so, basically just spotting) that shit must reek.
You gotta be glad you didn’t get any infections yet. Please change them more often and get over being so gd cheap.
Oh my god, Anon…. you have to change it.
Once you get your first UTI, you become extremely susceptible to future ones.
Take it from me, chronic UTI stranger.
It's usually really heavy for only one day where I'll sometimes need two and it only lasts for 4 or 5 days really light.
Anons, I honestly had no idea I had to change the pad that many times. My mom never told me how many times to change my pad because she mostly used tampons. She never complained about the smell when I still lived at my parents. Only my boyfriend complains sometimes when I'm in the bathroom but I thought it was just because it's how we naturally smell during our period. I've learned something good today so thank you.
I think anon uses 3-6 pads for her entire period, not just for a day.
Also yeah I use the same amount as you and am actually uti prone, but I've never gotten an infection from it.
I also do the toilet paper thing >>113947
mentioned on my heavier days though.
There are other ways to be intimate with someone. Are you asexual or just not into this guy?
You need to be aroused to have PIV, no wonder you're experiencing pain.
You can't fake it until you make it, you're fearing pain so you're unable to relax, unable to get aroused and you're tensing up and that's exacerbating whatever issues you had to begin with. Honestly don't put yourself through this, talk to your partner and put penetrative sex off the table until you're ready. If he loves you, he'll do whatever it takes to make you comfortable and confident to have sex again. If he whinges, kicks up a fuss or acts like it's your fault, then he's not worth having and you kick his ass to the curb.
Seriously anon, love yourself
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I saw this post on /r/godpussy yesterday, and I swear to god if I've never had vagina envy before, I have it now.
it looks like they photoshopped it into a tiny hole lmao? how could anyone look at this and consider themselves attracted to women
(and not children)
As if the anon posting their “pussy envy” isn’t a grubby bloke anyway.
It’s like when incels larp as women. So stupid it’s obvious.
It's like >>114060
said, why is there a weird blank space above her clit? Looks like she'd have trouble peeing.
Look at all this frustration, kek. As if anyone who doesn’t love hairy big labia is automatically a dude. Get over yourselves. >>114057
Feel you. It’s not like I hate mine or that I have large labia, but whenever I see a really pretty looking one like this I’m like… oof
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This anatomically just looks very off? I'm going to be honest I've never looked up vaginas or ever truly gazed upon mine except for shaving. I found this photo of a "stripper" local to me on twitter that men were all going nuts for and again this body looks off spoilering image. The tits look fake and idk Wtf is going on with her vagina.
You want to look like a baby or a fgm victim
? Okay. That's your problem but it makes you sound like you got extreme body issues or are indeed a dude.
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I don’t mind hair on the pubic mound, but yeah sure, preferring clean shaved labia over pic related sure makes anyone a pedophile on this website.
Btw are we still talking about preferences, not ‘I can exclusively be attracted to X/like X’. If I say I think that muscular men or brown haired women are pretty, doesn’t mean I loathe any other body type or hair color. Jfc.
That's pretty gay, vagina-envy anon. Perhaps your envy is…something else?
Anyway, in general I don't think anyone should feel ashamed of their genitals. This includes men wrt penis size and foreskin. Making a hierarchy of privates isn't where it's at for me. I'm kind of an ugly-people-deserve-love-and-acceptance type though, so perhaps my thoughts are moot.
I‘m not the OP.
I do like other vulvas too and do find them pretty. It’s just like saying you like every single dish equally. I just don’t believe that there’s anything you do like more than others.
And as I said, my preferences don’t make me see other people or parts of them as unattractive or makes me treat them differently. (>>114073 for example is just really uncalled for, because the labia looks perfectly fine imo.) In fact, I don’t fucking care what other women’s vulvas look like if they’re comfortable with them. I just have an ideal for me (although not in a way that makes me want to change mine). And I think that’s what the original vulva envy anon wanted to express, too.
All vulvas are beautiful and deserve the same amount of love and appreciation tbh.
That being said, this whole topic would’ve been over much faster if you just had ignored the OP.
let me assure you you are fucking weird and none of this is normal.
>I just have an ideal for me (although not in a way that makes me want to change mine).
um, tf does this even mean? are you using your mind's power to make your fanny morph into that fleshlight one you posted earlier then?
just go hook up with a woman or something, hoarding hd pictures of vaginas is so bizzare whether you are a larping scrote or a self hating female.
>>114082>um, tf does this even mean? are you using your mind's power to make your fanny morph into that fleshlight one you posted earlier then?
Wtf where is this even coming from? I do not want to change mine, as I said, but I wouldn‘t mind if it looked different? Like, the same way that one might say ‘I would like if my stomach was a bit slimmer/more muscular’ but it doesn’t bother them to the point of actually attempting to change the stomach they have? Why is that so incredibly hard to fathom?
And, still not OP.
I have posted one single picture that took me approximately 10sec to google. Yeah, so weird.
The recent contributions to this thread have made it reek. It reeks of jealousy, misogyny, homophobia, internalized misogyny, internalized homophobia, internalized jealousy, and externalized jealousy, misogyny, and homophobia.
>Eww don't post close up pictures of vaginas. They're gross.
>Wow I really don't need to see anuses
Uh, sweetie? Hello? Its 2019? We eat ass. If you don't like that then how about you fuck off back to whatever racist, sexist, and homophobic time period you came from. If you haven't eaten a few of your friends asses you can't say for sure that you're straight. You can say "I like to think I'm straight because I'm homophobic, but I can't say for sure because I've never had a lesbian experience so I don't know if I enjoy it, or not.".
Can we PLEASE get back to the current year now? Thanks.
I can't decipher if this is satirical or not.
Poe's law, I guess. Farmers are pretty angry and batty so by making fun of us we'll just believe you are one of us.
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>>114084>jealousy, misogyny, homophobia, internalized misogyny, internalized homophobia, internalized jealousy, and externalized jealousy, misogyny, and homophobia.
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Jfc, I jumped because I thought I was looking at CP.
You do realise that labia minora exist for reason? Life without them as an adult woman would be extremely uncomfortable. They protect the vaginal and urethral openings and stimulate the penis shaft during sex.
Why would you want your vag to resemble a loli onahole?
questioning asexuality honestly, but I'm getting everything that can affect libido tested.
also if that's true, how can prostitutes have sex with gross dudes if you have to be aroused? >>114004
well we're using a boatload of lube. nah never been turned on before honestly. I know what the situation sounds like, but i'm not just having painful sex for him or anything. I only started having sex recently and we have PiV sex occasionally to check in and see where we're at or see where/quality of the pain so I can relay it to my gyno. He's a great dude and I'm glad I have someone I can trust to help me try and get through this. Obviously I don't want to be asexual. Recently found an issue with my thyroid that's developing, but I don't know if that can make someone feel completely asexual.>>114037
I do love myself. Read comment above. I'm the one initiating because I want to experiment with different positions/see if anything makes it better or if anything has gotten better. I've told him all my concerns and he's really sweet about it.
I'm just so happy my vaginismus was resolved. I was googling the pain and it can be consistent with banging your cervix (d/t not being aroused maybe?) or ovarian cysts (i have a history of them). Thanks for the concern though girls I appreciate it.
Loads of women browse subreddits for “god tier pussy” sure. Definitely not just bringing up your porn for kicks, because women totally sit around and discuss other women’s vaginas with photos to compare who better suits men’s porn fantasies. Much legit. >>114084
Shoving your sexuality in peoples faces because some mingers on twitter talk about analingus for attention doesn’t make it cute or woke to bring up your fave porno in casual conversation. Nobody is afraid of an asshole. It’s just that what you think is sexy and interesting is exactly the same as a 15 year old boy.
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Vaginal health is such a nightmare. I felt like I had a UTI for 2+ years straight, and no one could tell me why and my tests kept coming back normal. After being shuffled around to different doctors that would just shrug their shoulders at me a urologist sent me to a physical therapist that dealt with women's issues. Turns out pelvic floor dysfunction was my issue (high tone to be specific, basically the physical therapist said "it feels like you're trying to break my finger" when examining me). All I've had to do is some minor stretching, and I almost instantly felt better. I have a set of dilators I'm slowly trying to use, but even just my fingers worked fine.
The fact that it was such a simple fix and it took years to figure out, even speaking to more than one gyno makes me so frustrated. Just feels like just when I think we have Women's Health figured out, something like this – something I had never even heard of in all of my years of trying to figure this out – was the problem. Took finding an ultra-specific specialist to say "pussy 2 tight gurl, you're basically permanently clenching"
idk, just wanted to throw it out there in case someone out there was experiencing something similar. pic related was exactly what I was feeling: desperately hoping for a positive uti result for years so I could just finally fix my issue with an antibiotic. ugh.
I've been getting brazilians regularly for the past year. The initial awkwardness never really fades, but just remember its their job and they see lady bits every day.
I WILL say, the first time (or if you wait a months between waxes) is always gonna hurt more than any regular appointments afterward. Be sure to let them know its your first time and they'll tailor their process to it. And for the love of god, DONT go to a nail salon to do it, most of the people at nail salons aren't professionally trained for waxing. Make sure their licenses are displayed or available on request.
Oh my god, anon.
Mine's so small I have trouble finding it.
Update: I used the Organicup for the first time today.
Here's what I learned.
1. I bleed way more than I thought.
The first time I entered in the cup it must've not unfolded properly. I couldn't tell cause my fingers wouldn't fit in with it as it was too deep. Anyways, I bled through a lot. Honestly the cup filled up too and was half full, so it did it's job despite the mess.
2. The recommended C-fold the instructions recommended hurts and is hard to enter.
I discovered the push method works much better. I attached the video for anyone interested.
3. It's such a pain to get out. If I can reach the cup to pinch it, then it's too low (and the stem sticks out).
If the cups too deep I can't reach it without yanking on it (feels like a vacuum cleaner attached to my cervix).
4. Despite everything, I am converted now. Tampons good bye, cups for life. When it's entered right - it's honestly perfect. I can't feel it. It stores so much blood and it doesn't smell. I don't have to change it as often and when I need to re-enter it, it's not impossibly dry. I'm excited I don't need to blow cash on tampons anymore (especially since I have a irregular every 2 week cycle). Also it's better for the environment. I can't believe the amount of waste we produce from tampons and sanitary products alone.
> tfw used to be completely anti-cup / critical
I have a mole on the hood of my clit, where my inner labia meets my outer labia and no gyno has ever said anything about it so I guess it just happens. If you’re too unsure or it keeps growing I’d definitely see a doctor though.
And I also have a very irregular period, too. In 16 years I’ve had less than 10 4-week-cycles and I don’t show any other irregular symptoms either.
I am, however, quite thin (only close to being underweight though) and not living a healthy lifestyle at all, so that might be it for me.
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How do I shave my pubic area without causing little red blood spots? This only happens on the front area but not underneath my vagina near my lips. I use conditioner on my legs to shave, would it be okay to put conditioner on my pube area? Obviously I wouldn't put it underneath. I just want a clean shave!
Period stuff. I never really got clots until a few years ago (I'm 27) and they are HUGE! Seriously, I just bled through a super tampon in 1-2 hours and when I pulled it out there was a gigantic clot that wrapped around the whole tampon. This happens every period and I sometimes have periods where I use 10-25 super tampons a day for 2 days (I'm serious. One period I bled through them in less than an hour for at least 8 hours straight).
It doesn't really hurt too bad, the worst part is I get bad mid back pain, which I tried looking up info on but it seems that women normally have low back pain. I don't have pain in my low back, only in my mid back. And I get bad digestive issues but I have IBS so I just thought the period made it extra bad.
I'm just getting worried because I was reading online and this is supposedly not normal. I read that on a normal period women only have 2-3 TABLESPOONS of blood for the entire period????? WTF? Even when I was a teenager I started using super tampons. And clots bigger than a quarter are also abnormal? I really am getting scared because my mom had to get a hysterectomy when she was 40ish because she had similar issues for years and ended up having her period for months straight, extremely heavy.
Should I go to my doctor? Or do you ladies think that I'm overreacting and Dr Google is just making it worse?>>115031
Don't shave that part totally. That's really the only way to avoid those nasty bumps. A bit of hair looks better than a bunch of pus filled boils on your mons. I don't use a razor on my VULVA or pubic area at all because of this, I trim it up with scissors or a trimmer. I only use a razor in the bikini area so that pubes aren't sticking out of my underwear. An easy way to thin out the hair on the mons is to shave with the hair instead of against it.
Also can we all as women stop referring to our entire genital region as our "vagina"? This shit is so annoying to me like…your vagina is a very specific part of your crotch and it is on THE INSIDE. Call it a pussy, cunt, vulva, lips…something! But don't call the outside area your vagina.
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Truth be told anon, I haven't figured out the trick to banishing them completely either. What does work for me though, is using tiny bikini razors (pic related) and trimming first. Shave with the grain. I use coconut oil, but there are different options. After shaving I use something with alcohol to disinfect the open follicles and moisturize as well. It's not perfect but has helped.
I know it's "dangerous" but to be honest I just use hair removal cream and shave to touch up, it takes a while to grow back and I don't get ingrown hairs.
No matter what you choose for hair removal it's a lot easier to deal with if you trim first. And cleaning the area and the razor first probably helps prevent ingrown hairs.
Seriously? Okay have fun making more girls and women confused and uneducated about their own bodies and saying shit like
>>This only happens on the front area but not underneath my vagina
I know grown ass women who don't know the names of basic parts of their own bodies and think that piss comes out of their vagina or their clit. It's sad.
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I usually only shave the outer few centimeters on either side of my pubes but when I do, I use this method and I don't get bumps at all:
-exfoliate the area first using a rough washcloth or shower brush
-use a new razor every time (or as close to new as possible. If I've used the razor more than 3x on other parts of my body I will use a new razor and shave my pubes first so they get the sharpest of the blade.)
-use shaving cream or conditioner every time
-swab the area with alcohol and a cotton ball immediately after exiting the shower.
I trim the rest of my pubes with hair clippers… lol
I hope this helps!
On the topic of shaving: does anybody remember this cow named Asha?
I remember reading in one of her threads and somebody posted that she likely has some illness (can't remember the name) that makes it difficult for her hair to break through her skin and therefore her body was littered with ingrowns.
I fear that I have the same thing.
My armpits are fine, on my legs it's also still somewhat okay, but regarding my pubic her it's so bad, that I don't dare to shave it at all.
I'm "blessed" with being extremely hairy, so the hair on my inner thighs, around my crotch is also already very pube like and whenever I shave, 2 days later it's so itchy that I can barely keep from scratching in public and not a single hair breaks through. Like there's always at least 30 little pimples that contain a hair. Sometimes I can't pop them to free it and it turns into a nasty big bumb and scar.
I already tried so much: shaving cream, normal shaving, shaving foam, shaving gel, shower gel, shampoo, conditioner, shaving dry; then afterwards different lotions, baby powder, toner, aloe gel,… I also tried whether to exfoliate before or afterwards, but nothing helps.
Maybe waxing would be better, but I'm too much of a chicken for that.
God, I haven't shaved in over a month and I keep getting ingrown hairs. Could their be another reason why? Or is it just from the random hairs that fall out?
It's only one or two at a time and usually only on the right side of my pubic area. Popping the ingrown hairs feels so weird, like there's a bit more pus still in there I'm not squeezing out, but it usually goes away a day or two after I get it to pop instead of get bigger.
Also I have a slightly itchy area where my clitoris is, the thing is I'm able to scrape some dead skin off every couple days. I happen to have psoriasis and my crotch used to be really itchy and flaky over 8 years ago, it slowly went away out of nowhere. I was wondering if that might be a reason why? My gyno has never said anything was wrong with how my pubic area looked.>>115156
From my knowledge it's either folliculitis or psoriasis.
same here i never was able to have an orgasm in my life without the showerhead (and i discovered the showerhead when i was 21)… are there more of you who have the same problem? Is there any way to fix that… i love my bf and he tries his best but… i cant and i often fake it because i dont wanna hurt his feelings and i love him…
Oh before him i had another relationship and 2 make out sessions and there was also nothing never…
Im nearly 27 now and still not able to orgasm outside me being by myself in the shower its frustrating.
since some anons are on the shaving topic: if u get razor bumps or ingrown hairs easily i have found that using peppermint oil before u shave is a good idea. just dont get it u kno… on ur actual vagina its hell.
i also like to mix a lil bit of shaving gel, water and soap while to use while i shave.
using aloe (like REAL plant aloe) on your coochie after shaving is really a life saver also. >>115168
fellow anon with psoriasis. i have to shave VERY often cuz of the ingrown hairs. it's prob flaring up cuz of sweat depending on the weather where u live. i have found also it's easier to tweeze out the ingrown hair (if possible) then pop it. not recommended when ur pubic hair is still super short tho.
buy some peppermint oil. apply it before u shave, wash it off in the shower and after you shave and wash it off with soap in the shower. repeat it a few times after u shave too.
Who cares if it's normal or not, if it makes you more comfortable you should do it. I'm sure the guy won't care at all since he's getting sex regardless, he might even be happy to know you'll be extra clean.
It is expected in Japan, if that helps.
Ok, girl, don't worry too much about your inner labia, unless it's very uncomfortable doing daily stuff there's literally nothing wrong with them. People who say otherwise are ignorant, misogynist or both.
And with your incontinence, I suggest doing some kegel exercises, as it makes your pelvic floor muscles stronger so at some point you won't accidentaly pee yourself whenever you sneeze.
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Yep just the regular stuff from your drugstore! Use 70% isopropyl instead of 90%, which may be too drying.
Even if you were raped with an object it's still rape. Like wtf, don't downplay what happened to you.
Secondly, you really need to see a doctor, this sounds scary.
Thanks for the responses. I was told by police that it's technically sexual assault and not rape because he didn't use his penis. I did not press charges because I didn't have time since I was in the process of moving, but also because I felt the police were downplaying what happened. I feel very guilty about it.
I also feel very discouraged to see a doctor. When I was assaulted he also forced oral on me (him performing it, not me), so I decided to get tested for stds while I was at the doctor. It was not covered by my insurance. I finally paid off the bills last night, almost $500 for the blood work alone. I have no faith in police or doctors at this point. I simply can't afford to go to a doctor anytime soon.
And yes, I do post in the man-hate thread now.
You need to see if your boyfriend can leave you alone/no PIV for however long it takes to completely heal. The guy who raped you is a piece of shit…I'm so sorry Anon.
But you really need to let this heal or even see if you can get a loan from someone to cover the medical expenses for it to be stitched up. Don't continue having sex and breaking the wound because you could end up getting seriously infected.
I have the same problem, anon. I started making my boyfriend wash his hands every time we fool around and it's helped a little bit. I haven't had a uti in a few weeks, I think the hand washing helps. That and I take two azos everyday. My doctor also suggested taking an antibiotic after each sexual encounter but that seems really overkill. What if we have sex daily or twice a day? That's a lot of crap to ingest.
You said you were fine with your other boyfriends, right? I was thinking maybe your bf isn't washing as well as you think he is. Also, this is obvious, but don't let him put his dick anywhere near your ass, not your asscrack, nothing. Just keep him away and if you have to try showering with him and see if he's doing a thorough job. One person I was with insisted he was cleaning, but when I watched him he merely rinsed his penis with water for like 2 seconds even though the rest of him was very clean and washed. You never know what's going on in there. Also make sure your bf's underwear are clean. That helped me as well as the obsessive hand washing.
I was with a guy who would give me UTIs. No sugar added cranberry juice was my go to. Just chug like three big glasses a day. Avoid sugar and alcohol as that will make a uti worse. A warm wash rag can help alleviate that "I have to pee" sensation.
I dumped ole dirty dick dude and the utis stopped. Consider a new boyfriend. Is he especially large. My uti guy was, and I hated it.
I fold mine in half to get it in. Then like this anon says, >>115659
I sorta jam my finger in up to the rim of the cup, trying to break the seal of cup and vagina walls and allow air in to fill the cup, thus unfolding if.
It cannot go past your cervix.
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To be clear, it's just deeper in the vaginal canal. It cannot go through your cervix.
Thanks for all the replies, anons! I ironically got my period right after posting this so let's see if it works!
BTW do you guys follow the instructions and 'boil' your cup in between cycles? What is the best way to sanitize?
Oh man this is embarrassing. I didn't know about boiling it.
I wash it with antibacterial soap every time I take it out. I will boil now. Thanks Anon lol.
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My inner labia is probably less than a centimetre long I'm an innie. The only way that I've ever enjoyed masturbating is by rubbing my vulva through my panties. I stopped because I got anxious that maybe that's why I have any labia protruding at all. Once I found out a lot of girls including other virgins who have really long labia artist were in that way I realised that's retarded. My question I really need help with is I'm still scared to keep rubbing so is there any way that continuously rubbing my vulva really roughly and fast is going to lengthen my labia?? What do I search to find sources that can reassure me or inform me because I don't even know what to search take it any relevant information
If you were actually permanently stretching your labia it would hurt and be extremely uncomfortable. Look up labia stretching, people do it in African countries and it's a painful process.
There is nothing wrong with visible inner labia. Most of the women in porn are not naturally innies, the majority have had labiaplasty, so don't compare yourself to them
I don't masturbate much but my inner labia has grown a little bit over the past few years (i'm 27).
I don't think it has anything to do with whether or not you touch it though.
I think it's more about hormones and how they change with aging.
I have the same issues and have the same problem with pain in certain positions and I found that it's better when i'm flat on my back or stomach but if i'm at an angle with my legs lifted up it hurts too bad.
maybe see if you can go slow trying out certain positions to see if one type will be okay but if nothing is working i would just recommend using toys and things besides penetration and eventually u might be able to ease back into it
It has a very distinct smell. I wouldn’t say it smells like fish, though. I had BV for three years and the only things that helped me were this: https://de.iherb.com/pr/Renew-Life-Women-s-Vaginal-Ultimate-Flora-Probiotic-50-Billion-Live-Cultures-30-Vegetable-Capsules/13115
and a proper antibiotic. Does your discharge have an unusual color, too? Because that is another symptom.
I missed my period for a week and also had a really weird sensitivity in my boobs, even that early. Take a pink dye cheap test when you are 1 week late, they are better than the expensive tests
For those of you with an iud, I've just seen a photo of the size of it in an actual uterus and it's really put me off getting it done. I'm really freaked out by the idea of getting it inserted and also I have seriously rough cervix thumping sex so I'm afraid it'll cause me pain during or after sex, or that it'll accidentally get pulled out or some shit
I had an IUD a few years ago, getting it inserted didn't hurt at all but as soon as I got home and sat down, I felt like I'd been stabbed and started bleeding. I had it taken out a week after that, the bleeding didn't stop and the pain was getting worse.
Male doctor said it was normal, but a nurse gave me codeine and some of those huge pads for women who've just given birth. It didn't feel normal to me, but idk.
Thank you, I've had a baby so youd think I wouldnt be afraid of this but ugh>>117518
mb I always forget, thank you
Yes, some women have (very) irregular cycles. Can be a hormonal unbalance, or your body is just wired like that. It can also be linked to a mental trauma. Sometimes after your first child it suddenly changes to regular cycles.
If you don't have any period in a month, then you didn't ovulate.
I do know a a lady who had 3 children, and she has her period every 40 days. Might be related, she has very long pregnancy every time (nearly a month more than a normal pregnancy).
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I wanna start shaving my pubes. Any advice so i don’t accidentally cut myself or make it itchy down there?
Last time I tried it, it got super itchy and I kept discharging because my vagina was irritated. Especially when the stubble started to grow in. Last time was the first and only time I ever altered body hair down there.
I just wanna shave now because I got a super cute bikini but my very hairy bush always peeks out of it. ~sigh~
>get safety razors for the delicate areas
they market them as "bikini line">exfoliate and moisturize the area
i use a sugar scrub with coconut oil in it, which does both,but exfoliating with hot water and then moisturizing keeps itching and razor bumps to a minimum>don't rush
i've only cut myself a few times and it's always important to dedicate time to doing it>>118081
are you high mami?
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I recently decide to switch to reusable pads, and I'm in love with them. I'd love to see what anons who use them have to share.
Do they show under clothes?
Those are pretty but I wouldn't wanna bleed all over pretty artwork of a girl's face.
I have some double gauze reusable liners, though I mostly use a cup. I love how they breathe.>>118287
Some show under some clothing. An overnight pad would probably show under thin, white leggings. The liners I have don't show under medium or lightweight pants. It's similar to regular pads, really.>>118289
Precious Stars Pads ships to the EU, but making your own like you have is even better.
Yeah, what >>118339
said. Tbh, I‘d find it more abnormal to change your panties several times a day every single day (the amount of laundry…) instead of just wearing panty liners.
Has anybody used female condoms for period sex? I'm thinking about trying it out, but buying them requires a prescription.>>118338
It's not abnormal, but it isn't recommended because it doesn't let the area breathe. [Source: https://www.womansworld.com/posts/wear-panty-liners-every-day-129580
] However, if you don't have any problems wearing them every day, then it is perfectly fine. It's best to stick to cotton liners without added scents, but again if what you use works for you that's what matters.>>118315
They stay in place unless I'm wearing very loose panties or synthetic panties. Normal cotton or modal panties keep them in place for running, sleeping, etc. One thing to make sure of is that the gusset in your panties is wide enough. If it doesn't cover your whole vulva sans liner, you're going to have a bad time with a liner.
So you wear every single pair of pants just once before washing them?
And what do you do when you’re on your period? Even when I‘m wearing tampons there will be some light staining.
I‘m genuinely confused by women who don’t wear underwear and are comfortable with it.
okay so update, everything is good lol. i just had to wait another day and the flow started.>>118591
i'd like suggestions for ingrown hairs as well. i haven't shaved in like 4 months and i still get ingrown hairs to this day, i think it's just from stress and just random hairs falling out. how to avoid that?
your hormones might be fucking with you, look up pregnant woman care and see what they do to ease it incase you are having nausea or pain, sounds like your body is simulating a pregnancy for some reason
if you're american go to that one free clinic that conservative boomers hate they might help
i have regular unprotected sex with my LDR bf that i see once a month, and every time i have sex with him for the first time he tears the vaginal opening open on the spot closest to my anus. its relatively normal, but if it itches on the labia and all around you could get some Clotrimazole, as its OTC and pretty cheap.
sidenote ask him to get tested
ldr anon here
sorry, i didn't mention the severity of the issue. it's not really a tear, like open flesh, more like tiny micro tears due to friction. i guess it is due to not being super soaking wet, but in my case i hardly am crazy horny, if at all. any tips for that?
This happened to me one time. We go through bottles of lube crazy fast bc i'm a bit tight, so this one time we tried applying lube only to the top half of his dick (we use condoms though) because also i was very wet that day. Never again. Now i know i always need to apply lube all the way to the base, and reapply mid way.
So maybe give that a shot.
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Anon what the fuck are you doing posting that. To answer your question it's your hymen or vaginal corona.
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HEY YEAH, MODERATOR HERE. I EXPERIENCE THIS SALTY TASTING GREEN DISCHARGE FROM MY VAGINA WHENEVER I BAN SOMEONE HERE. NOW DESPITE ME NOT HAVING BEEN FUCKED EVER IN MY ENTIRE FAT LIFE I DID EXPERIENCE 14 YEAST INFECTIONS AND 8 ABORTIONS THE PAST YEAR ALONE. MY CUNT SMELLS LIKE SAUDI ARABIA GOT SHOVED IN TO AN OLD MANS SCROTUM, AND WHENEVER I BAN AN IP HERE THIS GREEN SPLIT PEA SOUP JUST RUSHES OUT THERE LIKE A SPRINKLER. IT LOOKS LIKE THAT SPLIT PEA SOUP REGAN PUKES OUT WHEN HER HEAD SPINS AROUND IN THE EXORCIST, EXCEPT IT COMES OUT OF MY VAGINA.
I NEED SOME ADVICE HERE BECAUSE I HIT MY LANDLORD IN THE FACE FROM MY UPSTAIRS BEDROOM AND NOW HE'S THREATENING TO CALL THE HEALTH INSPECTION AND HAVE THEM EVICT ME. COPS CAME TO MY DOOR A WHOLE BUNCH OF TIMES THINKING SOMEBODY DIED IN MY APARTMENT.
I TRIED PUTTING A CORK UP THERE BUT ENDED UP ACCIDENTALLY SHOOTING MY POMERANIAN WITH IT. ADVICE PLEASE.(epic trole)
Which signs? Early pregnancy and PMS have a lot in common. Also your hormones going a little nuts can also make your period late.>>118612
You might not have been properly turned on or too nervous. Try giving yourself time to heal and have an orgasm before penetration so your body is more ready. >>118702>he pushed it in even when i was almost crying and telling him i was in pain so idk.
Yeah don't let him penetrate you if it hurts.
Breaking out, morning sickness, breast soreness, constipation, cramping, cravings, discharge which I found weird because usually my only pms symtoms are breaking out and being emotional
The thing is I have pcos and not to get too TMI but my husband has been cumming in me literally every other day, I did however get my period unless it was a miscarriage which wouldn't surprise me because I have miscarriaged before
Any tips on getting pregnant?
I sometimes get a weird pain when I have a loose (pubic) hair stuck under the hood of the clitoris. I usually can’t get rid through it just by wiping etc because it’s stuck really weirdly. I’ll have to pull everything back as far as I can to be able to see/get rid of it.
It stings really weirdly, not just a stinging sensation on the surface as you would expect and causes a discomfort whenever I touch myself, wipe etc.
water-based lube is your friend. if you're uncomfortable breaking that out, the key is definitely to try to relax. if you're still a virgin, expect some discomfort your first time, but it really is about trying to keep your muscles as relaxed as possible. muscle tension from being nervous can really hinder your ability to enjoy it.
most importantly - as is always mentioned in these kinds of threads - don't force yourself into something that hurts or makes you uncomfortable
Are you overweight and/or do you have a crappy diet?
I used to have a super heavy flow when I was a bit overweight (like just 10 lbs) and eating crappy. Once I started eating healthier and loss the excess weight I noticed a huge difference.
But even now if I happen to give into period cravings or something and I eat crappy for a few days before my period I notice it gets heavier again.
Are you on the pill? I am and mine is pretty regular I can always count 4 days back from my next tablet, but stress and diet can have fluctuations.
If you're looking to start on to the pill for the first time iirc you take it the first day you bleed.
I second most of this.
Few things I do differently:>shaving against the grain doesn’t bother me/my skin too much >I don’t use shaving cream or gel at all, as it usually irritates my skin a lot, instead I’ll use regular hair conditioner on the mons and let it ‘soak’ a few moments before shaving >men’s disposable razors (3 blades or less) work best for me (Gillette Venus and cheap alternatives were by far the worst and I always got irritated skin, even when using fresh blades)
Another few things:>let my razor sit in some isopropyl alcohol for a minute or so before shaving>always do it before going to bed so I can avoid wearing (tight) underwear (but if you have to wear some, use something light and made of cotton)>let the area air dry and use skin- and wound-friendly desinfectant afterwards>a little while after shaving I’ll use some hazelnut or coconut oil on the area>when it’s really hot I’ll use baby powder in my bikini area in the morning because I’ll tend to get irritations from sweat and friction there
It's just tissue from your womb mixed with mucus and old blood. Trying to think how the best way to describe it is, is it sometimes like little blobs and gobbets and also a bit like viscous snot or phlegm, but brown? Does it spread out into a little brownish slime streak on the paper when wiping after going for a pee?
It's very normal anyway, this used to be what every breakthrough period I had while on the mini pill looked like (no bright red fresh blood at all) and now this stuff is what the end of my periods look like I'm off hormonal contraception. My personal theory is it's what older shed endometrial tissue looks like if it's been hanging around for a while and has had a chance to oxidize (go brown).
Hey, sometimes periods do just be like that. The more I read about it and hang out in female spaces the more I learn about how wild each woman's menstrual cycle can be. Did you know doctors only consider the absence of a period to be notable if it's been 90 days
since your last menses? When I read that little factoid my mind was a bit blown, that's literally like, a quarter of a year lol, anything under that can be considered within "normal range" apparently
But I do not recommend it, learn to love yourself first.
That's too expensive anyway.>>120417
I doubt putting random creams on my labia is safe tho
Does anyone else feel a tingling on the bottoms of their feet when they masturbate?
I get so distracted by this weird feeling in my feet. It's like that tingly, almost burn-y sensation you get when you first move your foot after it's been asleep. It's not pleasant or sexy to me– it just makes it hard to focus on masturbating.>>120412
Shit like this is why porn infuriates me. Vaginas are not supposed to be pretty, and I hate that porn has created an unreasonable expectation that vaginas be 100% pink and have no minora showing. Ridiculous.
Your vagina is fine, anon. Any guy who bitches about what your fucking junk looks like needs to be dumped asap.
Also, hemorrhoids are common and incurable. If it's not bleeding, painful, or obstructing anything, don't worry about it. I would advise against anal sex if you have hemorrhoids. Anal sex is a meme invented by men anyway, and is always more pleasurable for them than it is for women. Plus it's unsanitary and requires a lot of preparation on the reciever's part.
light-skinned innies are kinda cute though..
well my hemorrhoid is uncomfortable but when I finally went to the doctor she told me it's a skintag and didn't do anything besides telling me to put vaseline on it so I guess that hemorrhoid is my partner for life now lol. I've already had it for years as well.
never i usually pass out right after i come so
it's not like it's a mess afterwards anyway
My dad used to say pussy in front of me, like in the trump manner which was super weird considering my age.
Now I can't find a good way to say vagina that doesn't cringe me out.
I have one next to my vagina, too, that worries me sometimes. Growth itself isn't indicative yet of anything bad. I feel you though and it's very stressful to think about and the internet only amplifies that fear. I'm sorry that you can't ask for help because of insurance. Did it change otherwise in appearance? Like shape/colour/border? If not, I'd say you're good. Even wonky, lifted moles are usually healthy. It just sucks if you can't get them checked and have some relief. It's also normal to have moles literally anywhere on the body.
Asking PP for help sounds like a great idea!
You could also get a friend's opinion if you dare and if it could help for starters as a non-professional first opinion and maybe to vent some of your frustration.
Good luck and I'm hugging you from afar!
Sage cause anecdote, but I also had a mole down there and accidentally shaved it off and ever since it's an ugly ass scar.
That said, get it checked out.
I would also like to know if anons have suggestions. I've been looking at niacinamide creams for intimate areas and wondering if they work?
I get a lot of results for papaya soap too but I've a feeling it's just a physical exfoliant.
I think though, some darkness is inevitable and normal. I'm whitest white with no friction down there and I'm not even sexually active right now - but still have slightly dingy, dark fanny skin. So if there are no suggestions, it's probably worth us both just coming to terms with it.
call me a weeb but fuck it. megami elis.
>pure cotton, nice and soft and breathable>cute package design, looks like magic circles, being a girl is suffering>kawaii heart design on the pad itself which also lends to keeping moisture locked in>fairly cheap considering the nice material
You guys were really supportive and I really appreciated it, so here's my follow up if there's any interest! Doctor said it was just a skin tag and I am SO relieved. She said it was nothing to worry about health-wise, but if it gets irritated because of its size, my pcp would probably have something to prescribe for it to help it go away.
I am so thankful for Planned Parenthood as a resource for this kind of thing. They're so well trained on how to make you feel comfortable and they really do take care of you. Thank you, PP! I'll pay it forward when I get financially stable!
DEFINITELY agree with other anons, Always Infinity. I recommend the extra heavy/overnight pad to anyone who has a very heavy flow like myself. If someone isn't using this brand and is having issues (like I did) with leaking and a heavy flow. I'd 100% recommend it.
While i'm here do any anons have lube suggestions for someone who has an allergy/sensitive problem? I have a sensitivity (possible allergy) to lube and no luck on a replacement. Any reputable brands?
The issues I have been having every time I use lube is burning/itching then swelling. The swelling happening over time not immediate.
Any recommendations would be great!
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YES lube is very gentle.
Hey anon, from what the lube says in ingredients, no it's a water based formula. No silicone.>>121744>>121745
Thank you anons! I'll check them out.
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(warning spoilered pic is SUPER GROSS!!! not mine but looks the same)
has anyone here ever passed a decidual cast before? it happened to me today for the first time and it was the most painful, traumatic moment of my life. i felt like i was birthing an egg sized thing, paired with the most intense period pain i have ever felt. it was followed about 10 mins later with a blood clot that was the size of my hand. now i'm still experiencing quite bad period pain but nowhere near what it was before getting that thing out. i've also had the heaviest flow that i've ever had (filling up a night time pad every couple of hours). am i going to die? i'm going to the drs tomorrow but the feeling of having to birth that thing out on the toilet was so freaky and painful. :(
I've shed parts of one, but not the whole entire thing in one go. I remember a lot of pain, different pain than usual (like, cervix-y? I'd hazard a guess as to it being what the beginning of contractions feels like tbh, it happens sometimes when I pass a really large clot, too), then freaking the fuck out when I went to the toilet to go sort myself out and finding whatever the fuck it was, lmao. A photo and a flurry of "holy fuck, am I dying???" texts to my mum later, she told me it was probably parts of a decidual cast.
I can't tell you whether increased flow/clots and pain is normal, because I have PCOS and ?endo/adeno, and super overnight pads on the hourly and bad pain is my usual, but you're probably not dying. It's a good idea to see your doctor though, just to get checked out, and to talk about it. It's absolutely really freaky, I empathise with you there.
If the pain and bleeding get appreciably worse I think you should consider more urgent medical attention, though. In the mean time, just look after yourself anon! Get a hot water bottle/other heating method of your choice, some painkillers, some chocolate, a cup of tea maybe? Do some of that good good self care.
Same, how do our bodies still seem to hold endless untold horrors? I feel like by now I should know everything I have to fear but they keep coming.
You anons are incredible for not just dying of fear
I've seen women convinced they've had a miscarriage after passing regular old clots.. this thing is a whole other level
What kind of conditions cause this? birth control, pcos?
hi i'm original anon that posted about birthing one of those things. google tells me it can come from the pill, pcos, endometriosis and cancer of the uterus. i'm not on the pill and not diagnosed with any of the latter but i have suspected i have pcos for some time as i have had issues with fluctuating weight in the past and i'm super hairy (on my chin and neck, sideburns and tummy. sometimes on my boobs too. lucky me!) i also have had period pains so bad before that i've been vomiting from the pain or almost fainted if i stood up too quick with them. i know there are other symptoms so i don't want to self diagnose, but i'm going to mention it to the doctor today so hopefully they can do tests or whatever to find out!
me and my boyfriend use condoms religiously right now as i have been avoiding the pill due to one making me really crazy for the couple of months i took it around a year ago, but i'm hoping to go back on it to make things easier. i was really freaked out though and genuinely thought i miscarried when it came out cos it just looked like a bloody lump of tissue, followed by really heavy blood and big, beefy clots. i really wouldn't wish the experience on anyone! i'm just worried this is going to be a regular occurence during my periods now and i don't think i could handle that pain again without heavy drugs and i try to avoid super strong pain meds due to addiction issues in the past. i still have cramps today so that's over 5 days of pain now (i usually just have pain on the first day of my period) so it is a little out of character, but my doctor is a super nice and understanding lady so hopefully i will get some answers and help today! sorry for the massive post, this has been a super weird experience as i don't have a lot of female friends to run these things by!
ugh, end me. I guess this is half vagina related, but my problem started there. I've been so ITCHY the last two days, but, like… it's migrating around my body? I thought it was excessive itch from my shaved pubes growing back in, but when I got a mirror, I saw two tiny white bumps on my labia. I thought they might be ingrown hairs, but I've since gotten individual itchy bumps on my lip (thought it was a cold sore), behind my ear lobe, on a knuckle, inside my other ear canal (??), and now I'm laying here in bed with an itchy was. What the fuuuuck. Google isn't helping me at all, either. Fortunately it seems like a specific area is only itching for a 24 hour period? But I don't have the money to go to the doctor. I just want the itching to stop.
You know, I was wondering if it was this. I won't discount it, but I'm not seeing any "trails" on my skin, plus my husband hasn't been dealing with any itchy bumps.
After sleeping on it, I'm wondering if I'm just dealing with an allergic rash. The bumps are reminiscent of the after effects of my last case of poison oak. Like, I got little bumps on my lip and genitals then, too, despite doing the appropriate cleaning at the first sign of poison oak. My body is stupidly sensitive that way. It just really wigs me out that this all started on my vag, you know?? I have no reason to have an std or something, but wtf
It can take several weeks to develop symptoms after having contact with someone infected.
But nonetheless, you should go see a doctor. No one here can really help you with it and there’s a ton of possible causes. It might be as little as stress induced hives, it might be dermatitis, it might be an allergic reaction, it might be scabies and the list goes on. it’s impossible to tell.
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I haaaaattteeee my vagina SO MUCH. >Spent an hour and a half trying to put in a tampon.
>Finally get it in and it hurts
>Taking it out hurts
>can’t even finger myself without it hurting
>want to lose my virginity bc tired of being a pathetic loser but can’t even insert anything by myself without it hurting
>looks ugly too
Alot of the time virgins have no problem using tampons. Could you actually be dealing with something like vaginismus?
That comes to mind cos you seem to have a negative view of your vagina.. that negative view mixed with past painful experiences could be causing your muscles to involuntarily tighten
I used to have that too. Still cant wear tampons comfortably (havent really tried a lot tbh)
It gets better when you have regular sex with a good partner who spends enough time at foreplay.
If it still hurts a lot when he inserts, you're probably still dry and he's not doing a very good job "preparing" you
Not saying the first time won't hurt (it probably will) but it helps.
You're not alone, anon. >>122861
I've had something similar happen to me after heavy and uncomfortable periods. It's always just gone away after a few days. I think >>122863
is right that you're probably just tense.
Thanks for the advice and reassurance anons. I did it last night and tried again this morning and its really freaking me out but I think freaking out about it might just be making it worse. I did try with a vibrator earlier and it got me relatively wet but unfortunately made no difference when it came to insertion. I don't think was originally making me any more tense than usual, I was excited to masturbate now my period was over, but now this whole issue is probably making me tense, I don't know how to get past that.
Also its a relief to hear that it could be related to the period itself as that makes sense with the timing.
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No, they don’t grow back. How is that an idea anyone has?
Update, gave it a break for a while and tried again last night. I took it really slow including some shallow masturbation when I couldnt get it in all the way. By the end I almost had it fully in but it still felt different and kind of painful and closed up compared to usual. I'm just hoping if I keep this up things will go back to normal.
Should I invest in lube? I havent used it before since I produce plenty of moisture pretty fast but I think it might help my situation now.
Idk, if it doesn't break all the way, won't it just heal?
It's been years since I've had a hymen lmao
Is there any good info online about hymen? Now I'm curious. What is it for?
Really? Because if I break skin anywhere else on my vagina or body, it grows back. If the hymen isn't toally obliterated and only gets injured, why wouldn't it repair itself? Stop getting caught up in the Almighty Virginity and think rationally about this literal piece of flesh. That's all it is.>>123193
How about we stop shaming others for being ignorant of something no one bothers to teach us about?
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Whoops, dropped pic, lemme try this again.>>123175
Interesting, I didn't know there were different types!
I did a lil research I'd like to share! See pic related;
>there are different types of hymen but the most common is a "half moon" which allows for tampon insertion and menstrual blood to escape>biologists npt sure what the evolutionary use a hymen has– probably to keep bacteria out of the vag>hymen can be stretched and usually when it "breaks" it's really just stretching open for good>other mammals have hymens who don't give 2 fucks about virginity so it's probably not about that>all girls are born with a hymen, see pic related for different types. some girls have super thick hymen.>apparently if you get water blasted in your cooch or accidentally jump on a pole in a pool (? Lol I'm sure it's happened) it may bust/stretch the hymen
I'm probably older than you. It wasn't covered in sex ed.
We were also taught blue balls were a myth but I've had a lot of guys confirm otherwise.
the reason people think hymens break during sex due to virginity is because american christians didn't historically use lube during sex lol. nothing more nothing less. also >>123196
is wrong, it doesn't grow back cause it never left, it's supposed to stop covering the opening after puberty. if it rips it heals, but it doesn't regenerate.>>123205
fair enough, i forget that sex ed was retarded even just a few decades ago. learn on, oldanon!
>>123209>123196 is wrong, it doesn't grow back cause it never left>if it rips it heals, but it doesn't regenerate.
I'm that anon and I never said it regenerates. See:>>123144>if it doesn't break all the way, won't it just heal?
I even said in >>123196
that if it get injured it will heal, NOT regenerate if it is broken (aka permanently stretched open according to my research in >>123199
I'm still on the fence about blue balls.
Has anyone else ever felt the ache when they get really horny? It hurts a bit. I figured it feels like that, maybe a little worse at worst and men use it as an excuse to guilt women into banging sooner rather than later.
What does he say causes it? Not ejaculating for several days? Or literally just getting a boner?
I have read tons of material about all manner of nofap autism and edging degeneracy. You'd think it would be a huge topic of discussion amongst communities centred around these things.
i used to get blue balls as a teenager. When fooling around with my gf i was hard 100% of the time. After fooling around my balls felt like someone kicked them very hard.>>123217
yes, as a precaution. After getting blue balls cumming won't ease the soreness.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
I use washable cloth pads - have done for about 8 years I think now! they're great, I used to hate sticky sweaty plasticly pads.
the amount you need all depends on how heavy your flow is really. I have, I think, 6 but I alternate between pads and using a menstrual cup during my period. 3 of my 6 pads are technically liners too which are just for discharge and very light bleeding.
if you have a heavy flow you'll need more as you'll want to change them more often. you could buy a few more and see how long it is before you run out of clean ones and then buy more accordingly until you have enough to last through an average period. for some great info I would recommend checking out precious stars on youtube. that's where I started for info on RUMPS (reusable menstrual products) btw, welcome to the club!
I have them. Never even gave them a second thought.
Here's a weird thing about my vagina. It was one lip fused my entire childhood until puberty. I didn't think anything of it and it never affected me. (unless that's why I have an innie clit cause if so… that sucks)
if it legit smells (vs you just being insecure/not knowing how normal vaginas behave), go to gyno, it is probably bv. excessive discharge could also be due to bv or it could be you just produce more discharge naturally (most likely the case if the exact amount/texture varies throughout the cycle). otherwise maybe leave your vag alone for a bit so the pube situation can calm down, do not
use hair removal cream bc they are really
harsh chemicals and the thought of anyone putting them anywhere near their vagina honestly makes me shiver. used that shit on my legs once and my skin got so fucked up and dry and went back to normal only in a week or so. and those are legs!
try looking up "proper" shaving techniques but tbh i think it is all a meme/down to individual person's biology as I personally always end up with red bumps and ingrowns anyway, even on my legs. i recommend just keeping everything nicely trimmed (scissors or clippers), imo that's the most comfy colution and if you are so concerned about your (btw very normal) labia, a little amount of pubes will hide them a bit as opposed to a complete baldie look just making them more on display.
then that's probably just the way your vagina is, I am also quite discharge heavy, usually have to change panties twice a day or else i feel like a slug lol, nothing wrong with that!
You describing your bf as "pushy pervert" does rise red flags, you should feel comfortable enough in your relationship to be able to ask your partner for his input into things but also hold your ground if it is something that pertains to your
body but he has different wishes on than what you feel comfortable with. does he not shave his pubes? has he ever implied that he finds pubes on women gross? positive answer to either voids request for a bald vagina imo.
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Don't know if it's the right thread to ask this, but has any of you tried IPL hair removal?
Does this get rid of the hair for good or it's just the usual marketing ruse?
I am very lazy so I trim my bush like twice a year, but if this really works I might invest some money in it to keep the area less hairy in a more permanent way.
No but I also never tried to have sex with him in the first place. I'm still a virgin and his behavior has only made me feel more put off by the idea of even attempting to have sex. It makes me feel gross and anxious. And yes I told him that. Different subject tho>>123546
Sorry I don't understand the last sentence.. you mean if the answer is positive I should shave my pubes if he wants me to?
no, the opposite, if he either doesn't shave his own or thinks women with pubes are disgusting then leave the bush firmly on. 1st indicates hypocrisy and 2nd immaturity/porn sickness/inability to comprehend women are human too etc etcdo not
have sex with anyone that makes you feel gross or anxious, it will only make you feel worse and create negative associations with sex, which will hurt you in the long run.
is it available in Europe?
so you did get rid of hair with it? did you use it on your pube too?
>>123576>is it available in Europe?
>so you did get rid of hair with it?
did you use it on your pube too?>my hair is super black and coarse unless you are tan/black skinned I highly recommend it
get rid of shaving bumps by wiping down the area with 70% alcohol after shaving and patting dry. then moisturize.
use a NEW razor every time you shave, use baby oil to shave with.
buy caplet probiotics on amazon (candefence is what i use) to stop your vagina smelling. this will stop the discharge too, if it's bacterial vaginosis.