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Ooh understood. Thanks! I've had this question in my mind for a while.>>71608
I know right? Hopefully all that stretching has torn apart the hymen at least a little bit, so that we will be able to enjoy benis with no pain from the first time
I'm allergic. Not just to latex, but I think also to the lube they all have on them (even the synthetic and animal skin kind.) Plus, not pulling out is our shared fetish.>>71654
Good advice, thank you! It's occurred to me that maybe the bad smell is a yeast infection because of they way I've tried to clean down there.
Go to a different OB GYN. Even if it is fine a good one would tell you why there is a change.
Could be also stress, hormonal changes, diet changes and so on. Your vagina can smell in many different ways.
Are you in the US? If so, Planned Parenthood works on a sliding scale.
How fucked you are depends on luck, and if you are sexually active.
Plain water. The vagina is a self cleaning device. https://pelvicguru.com/2015/01/10/your-vagina-is-not-cussing-good-simple-vulvovaginal-hygiene-tips/
I have never had any vagina problems, never had a yeast infection etc… Vagina does not smell nor apparently taste like anything(lol) when it is left on it's own, it takes care of itself.
mention PP is great, they can even see you for free if you are low income. If you are healthy enough, don't need bc and do safe sex you're probably okay. I put it off for years because of a mix of no insurance, being healthy, and only ever having had sex with one person and using condoms. When I finally got insurance my doctor made a big deal about a gyno check up and everything was fine, I actually feel like it wasn't really necessary. But for the sake of safety or peace of mind if you can get one for free at PP you should.
Lmao nope not at all! Even on top I get so so close and then nothing!! I think the closest I got was in the backseat of his car cuz of the angle and my clit rubbing against his skin and joggers. We could’ve had a big one at the same time but my body just flaked. Still bummed about it cuz I could feel the buildup and everything. >>71601
No, we actually avoid lube if possible because we believe it causes me BV/makes it worse. But I can definitely try it on the clit only idk why I haven’t thought of that. >>71621
I try to after but my clit gets swollen and tender as hell. Also, my vagina gets tingly and twitchy when we’re done so I’ve been assuming I have been orgasming, just not in the way I’m used to if that makes sense. It kinda feels like my vag is convulsing and that randomly happens for me after an intense climax from Masturbation.
i came to the thread because i experienced something similar. If i dont have sex for a while and i get turned on after nothing for three weeks, it starts burning a lot until it gets wet and starts to dull out
it just feels super wierd
You can lose sensitivity by severing the nerve endings in the inner labia. At worst you could develop tough scar tissue.
Don't compare yourself to what you see in porn or look to porn for affirmation of the beauty of your body, anon.
do not get it. >>71755
is basically right, only you -do- and will lose sensitivity. the scar tissue will also become numb and dark anyways. it's a totally cosmetic surgery but it has many side effects and depending on how short it goes it can give an increased UTI and even yeast infection risk.
i just in general don't advocate surgeries that change the body for the male gaze. breast enhancement, genital cosmetic surgery, butt implants. all of which are constantly defended as being 'for the woman' despite the fact that insecurities and discontent about those areas stem from men's view of women. even >>71753
said she wants her vag to look like porn vag. but why lose sensitivity just to look good?
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If you're having trouble with tampons, see a gynecologist.
Yes. I don't masturbate often, but when I do, I just replay memories of things I've done with my boyfriend.>>71883
I have a copper IUD and it happens sometimes. Staying hydrated and paying attention to electrolytes helps me.
i recently lost my v-card and the first few times i felt like i had to shit too. i asked my friends and they said that they feel like that sometimes.
it happened when i was on top tbh. very uncomfy as i like that position :/
i was with an ex for a number of years and stopped enjoying PIV sex with him. it hurt like hell and he couldn't even get it in anymore, he googled it and said i have vaginismus or something and wanted me to go to the doctor. it didn't help with lube either.
long story short, i ended up dumping him because he was physically abusive as well and we weren't intimate anymore so really it was a very shite relationship.
i was scared about dating again because i thought my vagina was broken but when i met a guy i really fancied sex was an absolute pleasure again and no issue. i literally think with my previous ex he made me so tense i took a physical aversion to him.
i'm not sure about the details of your relationship but sometimes i think the body can tell you things you're consciously suppressing. like i just didn't fancy my ex anymore, he repulsed me in most ways (i got tense after moving in with him and seeing how unhygienic and lazy he was 24/7)
sometimes it is the guys. my ex tried to say i was damaged but he was just a massive turn off
Similar thing happened to me. PIV sex has always been difficult for my fiance and I as he's pretty big (not a humblebrag, it's honestly mostly inconvenient) and it takes a LOT of foreplay for it to feel good for me, or even fit it in. This started to make me anxious–like, if we couldn't do it, I'd feel like all the pressure was on me because we physically could not have PIV if I wasn't 100% into it, and of course that made me MORE anxious, MORE tense, and MORE incapable.
Seriously, never underestimate how much your tension can affect you physically. What worked for me is talking it out with my fiance, figuring out non PIV things we can do together, and learning to be okay with trying it, even if it doesn't go well. Also, buying a Hitachi Magic Wand. Those things really are magical. And lube, as everyone has said!
A good dude will listen and be eager to help discover things you can together that'll feel good for both of you.
lmao, did we date the same person? I went through almost this exact experience, down to being really repulsed by how lazy and unhygienic he was, and that making it even harder to get into sex when I was already having problems. My ex didn't even bother telling me I had a problem and needed to get help for it. Pretty much just shrugged it off as being entirely my issue, and not to bother him with my sexual needs until I was "better."
after we broke up, I was really scared to date again because I thought my vagina was just fundamentally broken. Eventually started dating my now bf who gets me off almost every time we're intimate. PIV has never been painful or uncomfortable with him. Worst that happens is sometimes we have sex when I'm too tired or not fully in the mood, so it won't feel AS good.
imo, the key to consistently good sex is love and trust. I didn't have that with my ex, who simply did not care at all about my needs, so our sex life was awful to the point that I was having constant pain and discomfort from PIV.
he slides pretty easily so i thought i was wet enough. though maybe i just dry up quickly.
i have been really stressed lately because of an interview. our relationship's also been strained because of my anxiety, the small distance (since he wouldn't answer me for long periods), and a breakup a few weeks before. i'm really into him physically but i haven't liked the way he's been treating me…i see how all of this could make me tense up subconsciously.
i'll take it in steps and see how finishing the interview, talking about our issues, and then lube will affect PIV sex. thanks everyone!
i'm op of >>72715
and it is honestly so nice to hear people have been in similar situations i had felt so embarrassed by that and i had friends that had told me how great looking my ex was etc so i never felt comfortable to tell them how much he turned me off lol.
he was honestly such a piece of shit, i dumped him in 2014 and have been with my current boyfriend since 2015 and we still haven't slowed down from the initial honeymoon period with sex and he makes me cum multiple times. he takes care of himself and lived on his own for a few years so knows how to clean etc, he is also very attentive and doesn't even mind period sex, my ex was always very quick to let me know how repulsed he was by me at that time of the month.
it's so funny to me because my ex like prided himself on being a good guy (aka a nerd that sat and played video games while i worked a 40hr week to support us both) and my current bf would be seen as a bad boy but he treats me like a princess were the good guy treated me like his fucking mother
I had this experience too, where piv would be so painful etc, but the difference was that my ex did actually genuinely spend all this time going down on me and saying it was fine if we couldn't etc.
After I broke up with him, I never had the problem again. Turns out my vagina just hated him.
I think it all came down to WANTING to love him rather than actually loving him. You don't need a reason to break up with someone.
Seriously, stop being me, it's freaking me out! I am in the same boat as you are now. Sex has been great, with it's natural peaks and occasional troughs. Nothing has felt fake and there's no pressure to perform if you don't feel like it. We're happy to just cuddle and snooze sometimes instead of having crazy, fun sex!
Really pleased for you and I seriously hope you guys have a great life together. Life's too short for shitty lads and even shittier sex!
If it can go back to normal after a baby coming out of it, no dick is gonna stretch it out.
Your vaginal walls will open up with arousal but even if you’re having sex twice a day every day, your vagina won’t somehow lose its elasticity. Have a look at the anatomy around there and the type of tissue. Your mouth doesn’t get permanently stretched out if you puff your cheeks out or from chewing everyday does it?
well I know it can feel tight despite sex but I mean more about the appearance/labia
like I find it hard to believe those vaginas with really long inner labias got that without stretching having anything to do with it
It's true. Most vaginas will enlarge to do puberty, some don't enlarge that much. But even when we are small, our lips have pretty much the same shape.
I.e I was curious and have looked at my vagina when I was 5.
…it's muscle. it's not just a flesh tube. >>74612
the labia have nothing to do with the inside of the vagina. inner labia is for protecting the urethra and vaginal entrance and outer are for protecting the inner things, which aren't regular skin.
like others have said, your vagina is literally two walls of muscle pressing together, and like all muscles, activity only makes them stronger, it doens't wither them away. vulvas may be delicate, but they're sensitive to things like infection and pain and small surface injuries, the actual structural integrity of your vagina is very strong. vaginal birth can damage the muscle in some cases, but even big dicks are nothing compared to what your vagina can handle without long lasting damage.
if you ever feel "loose" it probably means your muscles have weakened and you could stand to do some kegels or get more exercise in general, nothing to do with how often you have sex.
>>74606>have you guys noticed changes in your inner labia after having sex?
Not from sex, but I noticed that the labia on the "side" of the clit I touch most often while masturbating has a different appearance from the other side.
Other than that, no changes. Been a almost labialess innie all my life and still am, and I've had sex regularly for almost 9 years now.
You can't change your vagina but the good news is that most men actually don't care they just want to see a vagina no matter how it looks. Your vagina isn't different from most other women, it is just different from what you see in porn.
Keep it clean and groom it in the way you like. And don't worry about how it looks! Seriously, that is not something to feel bad about. In fact, there are some men who even prefer vaginas that look the way yours does.
good thing you're not a boy…>>75199
??? what do you mean. that's literally why it happens. inner labia, is made from semi-permeable membrane which isn't supposed to come into contact with anything.
>>75201>good thing you're not a boy…
lel, I've joked about this with my mom, I have to adjust myself like a guy when I wear pants.
Or do you mean circumcision?
i meant the pants!
…i feel sick now though. ugh…
lol what are you talking about
the inner labia turns dark because you’ve gone through puberty, fucking kek
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I got my first copper IUD (Gynefix) in 2012. It's better than being on hormones, but it's not perfect either. Mine (or rather its thread) often poked my bf. The thread was trimmed several times and it still sticks out right after my period.
It really depends on the person, though. My friends never had this issue with their IUDs. I know of some women who lost it, that never happened to me. So, tl;dr there are some issues you should be aware of, but still, it's better than taking the pill in my opinion.
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I hope you find it to be the lesser evil as much as I have!
One thing that helped me (everyone is different, though) with the initial issues of spotting and cramping was taking vitamin E every day. [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed?term=Vitamin%20E%20(alpha%20tocopherol)%20in%20the%20management%20of%20menorrhagia%20associated%20with%20the%20use%20of%20intrauterine%20contraceptive%20devices#
A hot water bottle and black panties were also nice to have while my body was adjusting.
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Yes lubricant also makes a vaginal moisturizer, if you want to try that.
Thank you lots anons! My partner's exes were both virgins too so that's comforting to know. I hope it won't hurt too much (aka hope i won't be a nervous wreck and get to enjoy some of it) and that I'll be able to pleasure them properly.
Also lel at romantic slugs
I can't really advise because I have the same problem. But I can show solidarity…
If you trust him, he is prepared to dedicate time to trying things out (and you can separate yourself from the concern of pleasing him
during that time) things may work out better.
I am kinda worried that if I did enjoy sex I'd be super devastated if the relationship broke up…so maybe my own worries also get in the way. Also if you're worried about money or other issues it's gonna be harder. Try and create a completely fantasy environment between you two where you forget all your worries and all about daily life.
I also can’t orgasm from PIV, I never have. I can’t even cum from someone else stimulating me alone, so technically I’m the only person who’s ever made me orgasm.
I tend to masturbate while my SO gives me oral so I can cum before sex. Sometimes he puts fingers or a small vibrating bullet in/around my vagina too. Occasionally he lies on top of me, with his dick inside me, and I masturbate to orgasm like that… but it’s awkward AF so I don’t do that often. It’s nice to cum with him inside me though.
Because it still feels really good and it conceptually turns me on a lot while it's happening, it's just not usually quite enough to put me over the edge and cum, so I add or switch to clit stimulation.
It used to be only painful for me and I hated it but I explained it to my gyno and apparently I had vaginismus from a spasming/tight muscle and I was prescribed dilators and natural muscle relaxers which changed everything. I used to think sex would only ever be painful and that's just how it was but now it's only a little painful if it goes on and on and starts to chafe.
Are you getting them from shaving?
I keep getting bumps on my butt, not a lot, I think its heat rash though since i shave there
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This is probably an asinine question, but: *Is it possible to be allergic to one man's sperm?*
For context, my current bf and I have been dating for ~9 months now. I had the Skyla IUD when we first started dating, and shortly after we began regularly having sex, I would get UTIs with an alarming frequency. Like, 2 or 3 in a 1-month period. It got so bad that the doctor that usually saw me at urgent care ended up treating me as though I had BV. When that same doctor prescribed me Macrobid, my BV/UTI went away within a day or so.
But then about a month later, I started bleeding with the Skyla still in. By that point in time, I'd had it in for a year and a half and had stopped having periods after the first month I had it. So with the bleeding and the frequent UTIs, I had it taken out. This was 2 months ago.
For the past 2 months I have not been on birth control, but have not allowed my boyfriend to cum in me, though we still had sex just as frequently as before. I did decide last month that I wanted to go back on the IUD. So I got the Kyleena one inserted on Monday morning (it is now Thursday).
My boyfriend and I have been having sex every day since Monday, but he's only cum inside me this morning. And this afternoon I wound up with another UTI that I went to urgent care for. The doctor did tell me that the IUD most likely isn't causing the UTIs, but that there is a chance that I'm allergic to my boyfriend's sperm.
The only confusing thing about that statement of hers is that I had 1 other fling before meeting my boyfriend, with a guy I only slept with once. And that guy came inside me when I had the Skyla IUD and his sperm didn't cause me to get a UTI.
Does he wash his dick regularly? If he's uncut, does he clean under the foreskin?
You never know with men.
are you using different lube? anything in his diet you could be allergic to? anything in yours? Make sure you consider all options. I think it was pretty reckless of her to suggest that as its extremely rare to be allergice to sperm. Do you itch, burn, swell, etc after contact within 10-30 minutes? Or is it hours later?
Sperm allergy can 100% be for some partners and not others, but again, its very rare.
If you can cross out other factors, go to your gynecologist and ask to get tested for it.
Same with me, anon, except even a bit shorter (unfortunately). I get really tense and fidgetty if I haven't flicked the bean at least once every day. Sometimes it's accompanied with arousal, but sometimes not. This is why I have a hearty laugh whenever men mention jacking off daily being a thing women could never understand. Maybe I don't 100%, but definitely to some extent.
I also have a ridiculous sex drive, so I'm not sure if it's the same with you.
>>81201>This is why I have a hearty laugh whenever men mention jacking off daily being a thing women could never understand
Ahh yes the ol'>da wimminz are incapable of comprehending the 2intense4u nature of the male sex drive
At my peak I used to masturbate 2, maybe 3+ times everyday on average. I've never been able to go for more than a week, even since I've tried consciously limiting how much I fap.
Talk to your boyfriend about this so he can be aware of what's happening and how you feel about it. Try other positions, practice not letting yourself go over the edge, and see if you can/are okay with having ruined orgasms. Your bf is probably fine with the squirting, but you can talk to him if it bothers you.
I find that I can do PIV or clitoral stimulation, but not both at once, or the orgasm goes away. You could see if that works for you?
Then why doesn’t it come from the bartholins gland?
Why does it leave the urethra just like pee?
What is this mystery fluid with the exact viscosity of urine spurting from womens urethras?
Better hope your bf never googles what squirting is because he'll probably dump your ass once he realises you're giving him a gold shower every time you fuck.
Also go to a gyno because that shit doesn't sound normal or healthy at all.
I’m genuinely freaked out about how many women piss during sex and think it’s not just normal, but desirable.
The entire squirting phenomenon is fucked up and theres women out there teaching others how to piss themselves because they think it’s empowering, not weak pelvic floor muscles.
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Yeah I agree it's piss no matter what, but it seems like your morning piss and squirting piss is not the same (less urea), it's way clearer.
Not a squirter btw, just my 0.2 cents.
Also, it made me remember this reddit thread by a poor guy who wish his gf stopped pissing on him lmao.
Eeewww that poor dude. Honestly I can’t believe so many people convinced themselves that women can magically ejaculate despite lacking the equipment for it.
It went from an embarrassing thing nobody mentioned unless to their doctor, to being a fetish, to Golden showers being an American sexual norm.
Seems like more and more women are learning from porn that it’s normal, not a major malfunction, and there’s literal lectures on learning how to piss all over yourself. Stranger still are the men who claim it’s desirable or attractive.
I get that it’s embarrassing and sufferers wanting to normalise it but honestly ladies need to stop forcing the claim that it’s normal to spray piss like an ocelot and do some kegels.
I guess I didn't express myself properly. Your morning pee tend to be really yellow and smelly because your kidneys are still working during the night but are not getting any hydratation so your pee is highly concentrated in urea, whereas the "fresh" pee you make during the day is clearer and not as smelly, because there is more water and less urea. (when you're well hydrated)
I was trying to find an explanation why all those people think they're not getting peed on when their gf "squirt" on them, and the fact that it's often very clear pee probably help their delusion.
Time to bust another myth: pee isn't even remotely sterile. Even before it comes out of your body it's contaminated with the low levels of bacteria in your urinary tract (yes, even healthy people have this).
Ya'll this shit is just a google search away, there's no excuse to be pissing all over your man and think your magic squirt is totes sterile and normal. See a doctor.
you guys are fucking retards i meant that it's not toxic, you know you can drink it and not fucking die and the bacteria isn't dangerous.
anyways i wasn't even arguing that it's not pee but it's not that gross. some people lick assholes too.
All pee is mostly water. There’s no distinction between normal pee and organs pee. It’s not sterile. It’s not a drop or two intermixed with other bodily fluids like there is during oral sex.
It’s a bladder-full of urine expelled on you, your partner, and whatever surface you’re having sex on.
Some men know it's pee and still think it's hot. Could go either way.>>81280>If you didn’t squirt you were some pitiable little lamb who’d never had an orgasm. Oh the irony.
I remember a friend bragging about how his girlfriend was a squirter a few years ago. I didn't have the heart to tell him.
Men are training each other to enjoy getting peed on, I just saw a bunch of them circlejerking in a thread about a girl who not only pissed herself but also SHAT herself while orgasming from oral sex. They seemed to be very happy about it and instead of advising her to go the doctor or to do some kegels they circlejerked about her bf being a beast for managing to have her piss and poop on him. >>81330
I don't understand how women in porn can handle their tits getting slapped, bitten, violently pinched, etc. Mine are extremely sensitive I can only enjoy caressing and gentle sucking/nibbling. Men also all started to do this rock hand motion to finger you, since a bunch of videos popped on the internet claiming this is how you make a woman squirt and give her the strongest orgasm of her life, but I hate it. Porn really is the doom of a good sex life.
That's just fetish shit at that point, those guys are beyond saving if they think shitting during sex is not. The guys who think squirting is orgasm and not piss are the ones who need training.
I agree tho, porn ruins men and women alike. My virginal boyfriend used to get so upset I didn't come during PIV and thought he was bad at sex to the point where he didn't want to do it. It was only when I told him that women coming to PIV is pretty uncommon did he get over it.
Men are imbeciles. I had a fight with an ex over squirting. He was being an ass and brought up this girl he fucked and how amazing he was because she squirted (I think I was telling him he was shit in bed or something, he was). Began to explain that squirting is piss, congrats on fucking a girl that pissed herself. He defends by saying his best mate also fucked her and that she is a known squirter and it's hot. Congratulate him again on scoring with the common whore who marks the beds of all she fucks. He also identifies her with further stories. "LOL I CAN'T ANYMORE STOP BOASTING ABOUT GIRLNAME PISSING HERSELF OMG" He goes red in the face because this dynamite he is describing is this known fat mess, finishes with - you just wish you could perform better!
Personally I don't get it. I don't understand how some ladies are pissing themselves when cumming. A female orgasm function is to increase conception, the muscles contract to encourage sperm to flow to the egg, opposite direct of pissing. It sounds like this girls think the sensation is pushing a stream of piss out. Please love yourselves and learn how to get off properly. The only wetness should be coming from your vagina and that's to lube yourself up. Remember the vagina can widen to let a skull pass through it, but it cannot contort itself to fire a stream of piss.
Porn is a fucking nightmare. My ex was into porn. I found granny porn on his history too. He was shite at fingering too. >>81320
100% this. It's easy to spot those that are ruined by porn. My nipples get hard from stimulation, the cold or even fabric irritating it. I'm not turned on, why is a breast sexual, it's for feeding an infant? Is this why so many men have matron fantasies, my ex with the granny porn really scarred me lmao.
Women do not ejaculate. Some appear to piss themselves, even poop! They must think the sensation to push out is an orgasm. How? How did you get so stupid?
sorry to be a bitch but you sound fucking stupid.
>why is a breast sexual it's for feeding kids
…because the only things that are sexual have to do with child rearing/bearing because that's what sex is for.
on that topic, does anyone else get a mild sensation in their nipples when they're horny sometimes? It's hard to explain but it's somewhat nice and the fact that it often happens when I'm horny makes things like nipple sucking appealing. I don't think it's psychosomatic/porn brainwashing either because it would even happen back when I was a young fujo and generally uncomfortable with the concept of straight sex>>81354
you know a lot of girls also find breasts really genuinely sexy right? sexual attraction doesn't need to follow perfect direct reproductive logic all the time. It's all there for reproductive purposes, but it doesn't all work out perfectly literally.
I was originally agreeing with the poster that mentioned how erect nipples mirror the thinking of an erect penis and that our breasts and vaginas must work the same as a male penis.
read context. I like when my boyfriend sucks my nipples too but I'm not going to kid myself and say my breasts get horny for him.
if your discharge is watery you can still have a yeast infection or a bacterial infection. Did you have your period?
You could also react allergic to tampons or a washing detergent.
Visit a gynecologist.
Yes I did have my period.
I don't use tampons but I'm thinking it could be the detergent as I'm trying a new one. I never had this happen before but I do tend to react to soaps and cosmetics easily. I started to swell and redden up within the few hours of not have a pad lining anything. I'm not going to turn my head to an infection though. I'll try booking an appointment if within the next few days it doesn't get better. I'll try using a different detergent too to eliminate that possibility.
I want to add on here as well that I frequently change my pads as well because I have a very heavy period.
I'm sorry you were raised that way. Like the other anon asked, have you read any pornographic lit? There's a lot of fanfiction out there that is actually really effective. Also, for some women, the mood really matters. Maybe turn the lights down, light some candles, run a bath, and get settled in to the warm water. Or have a glass of wine to loosen up and prop yourself up on pillows. Try different positions, take it slow, don't stress out and try not to get frustrated. Is there any celebrities you've crushed on before? Any men in your life you could visualize?
If all of the above doesn't help, you should go to your doctor just in case.
It's called vaginismus and it isn't that your vagina is too tight. It's that the muscles aren't being relaxed that allow penetration to be possible.
t. someone who suffers from the same condition
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Same anon here, here is a good representation of what it looks like:
For me, it's likely psychological because I was abused as a child and I had strict parents. Also, it only occurs for me when I've tried penetrative intercourse and it's the same thing; it's like a wall, even with a fuckload of lube (not that my vagina doesn't get wet). I once told the person penetrating me to try to get past my vadge anyway and he ended up with a fucked foreskin that was all cut up.
For you, it could be you have oversensitive vaginal nerves near its opening since it happens with anything inserted in your vagina. I'll post more useful graphics related to this :^)
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also, it hurt like hell for the guy, obviously.
The cycle of why vaginismus is difficult to treat is pictured. It can be treated, though; go to your gynecologist and she will likely recommend you to use dilators that increase in size over time so you can insert a tampon in.
the first time i tried to have sex his dick wouldnt go in at ALL not even the tip. not only was i nervous as hell but also getting frustrated and embarrassed about the whole thing, which made it worse.
the second time we tried it did go in after like a whole hour of trying but it hurt like a motherfucker for me the whole time, he also did the same thing i just told him to push anyways but he was circumcised. i think if he werent the same thing as that guy would have happened because it was tiiiite as fuck. and the pain was unbearable.
now when i have sex it does hurt at first, like it almost burns but then it subsides a bit and can have sex with minimum pain (it doesnt really goes away)
my issue with sex is that i dont feel pleasure, i just feel nothing except the dick going in and out and that little amount of pain. i do notice my mind going "somewhere else" while in the middle of it, like i feel disconnected. idk it's pretty frustrating to say the least. i dont have trauma of that kind, i dont think. but i always had issues with sex and intimacy so idk.
Why did squirting become so mainstream and normalized? I was reading smut the other day and it had the girl ejaculate. Took me right out of the story because ew, why, how? It’s like the female orgasm isn’t good enough so we have to make it more male like? Or men had to have a physical thing as proof that a woman came? Or what??
And then it just infected porn and Internet forums to the point where women are writing stories for other women and including it. Which makes no sense whatsoever to me because you’d think they’d know what was going on down there, unless they’re turned on by it too?
So many questions.
IA, it doesn't feel like pissing, it doesn't come out of the urethra, and it doesn't smell like piss. It smells exactly like Scotch tape, kek. Also, it's completely clear like water, and slightly… viscous? Like just a little tiny bit slippery. Less so than a water-based lube or something, but more so than piss or water.
I have no doubt that there's fake squirting in porn though.
This. I don't even squirt myself but it has been proved that it's not piss and it doesn't come from the bladder. Piss and squirt share some similar elements, but so do coffee and water and they are completely different. But I am with you, there are probably a lot of fake squirting videos that is just piss because well, that's way easier anyway. No wonder a lot of dudes (and girls) confuses it for actual pee.>>82282
Some people just like it. Also, some people like to visualize things, not necessarily because it's more "male-like". Like seeing their partners faces and body language and whatnot. I guess squirting is a big visual thing after all lol
Insecure women fetishising it and pretending it’s some special fluid from a nonexistent gland and they just orgasm better.
Ten years ago it was a weird anomaly and now it’s a staple in porn and you’re treated like a Victorian prude for not doing it. There’s even tutorials out there as if it was a desirable skill.
Typically dudes know even less about female anatomy than women donand totally believe that women have the anatomy required to shoot fluids and probably assume it’s the same fluid as ones natural lubricants.
Similar to fat activism but not as socially acceptable to discuss. Cam girls had a lot to do with it iirc.
TLDR ignorance and shame made it a hobby.
I don’t have a hate boner for larger women, just groups of people that try and turn insecurity into a movement that primarily shames anyone who doesn’t share their insecurity.
I’m saying the groups are similar in that they seek to normalise, and make desirable, a trait that is typically not normal or desirable, and that the most vocal of them do so by layering false pity or straight up cry ignorance to anyone who disagrees with their little agenda.
Sorry your feelings got hurt the minute the word fat was used. It’s a descriptor not an insult fam.
Yeah, I have long gross labia, had it since 12 or younger. No guy has ever commented on it, and I've fucked scumbags who would have used it against me if they thought it was gross.
I'm getting labiaplasty one day, because I can't deal with it even if others do not care.
>tfw arousal has been fucked since teens bc of meds
I just want to have a fucking orgasm. I'm edging on 23 and I'm, like, pretty ashamed that it hasn't happened. Not even ashamed tho. Super fucking annoyed.
Masturbating bores the shit out of me. I have never been turned on by fantasizing. I can touch myself for an hour and just be so fucking bored by it. I just don't get aroused by being touched (hard, soft, whatever- none of it is sexy ((bc meds fucking up nerves))). Visual porn doesn't turn me on either. Reading is better- but, then when I go to touch myself, it takes me out of the moment I had and godfuckingdamn I am so annoyed.
I've had sex- I fucking love PIV… like, I may not be super aroused enough but lube me up and fuck me and I'm instantly hot. PIV is great. BUT. Like, it ends up being something that kind of hurts? Not in the way that it's too dry or too hard or anything– more in like, it's too much stimulation? Maybe? I don't fucking know. But, then when it gets to that hurt-y/too much place, I obviously stop PIV and end up annoyed because then arousal drops to the negatives.
Is it possible to have orgasms without knowing? Like. I don't want an earth shattering pornstar moment- I just want to know wtf an orgasm feels like. ugh.
meds are so good for my brain but so bad for my sex life and it makes me angry and annoyed and goddamn I just want to cum. I want my nerve endings to respond properly and I want PIV to stop being so overstimulating.
tldr; nerve endings are so dull bc of brain meds from early on except vaginal, but when doing any kind of PIV I get super overstimulated and need to stop- and then become insta-unaroused.
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Top row, second from the left is most similar to how I look except my outer lips are a bit puffier… and I still hate how it looks tbh. I know there is no surgery to fix my dislike, I just don’t like how vaginas look in general. As long as I’m healthy down there, I don’t think about it. Are you sure you’d be happier with it looking different?
I mean, you have the perfect vulva then, if you had a huge fluttering bat-winged vulva like me, you would know. Same as someone with a huge honking beak of a nose knows they will feel better after rhinoplasty, or someone with rock-in-a-sock tuberous breasts knows they will feel better after breast augmentation. If your appearance borders on a deformity, you just know that having it fixed will make you feel more comfortable.
I do not find all vulvas ugly. My issue isn't because I have a vulva, it is strictly the appearance of mine. Seeing before and afters similar to how mine looks and knowing what is attainable makes me happy. So yeah, I'm pretty sure it would make me happier in that aspect of my life.
I think you've got a mental block on PIV because I can't fathom how you can get off via anal but not when the dick is in the vagina where the stimuli is.
I had a terrible ex once, started out fine fucking, he could get me off fingering (he wouldn't go down) and that was it. After a while I couldn't even take his dick, he told me I had vaginismus but I didn't. I was just not into him and my body could figure it out quicker than my head.
I've had plenty of amazing PIV and PIV orgasms away from him. I think a lot of an orgasm has to just do with how you personally feel.
Just by your saying it's sore after 15 minutes of action, sounds like the dude is just going ham on you and you're letting him. Try and adjust his rhythm and slow him down by using your own body. It's usually when I slow my partner down that I'm about to cum and he's use to it now that he knows not to get too excited and start thrusting like a mad man but ride it out lol.
Tbh I do think I'm kinda scared of PIV, because of my miserable sex history, my first bf had a really big penis and he would never do any kind of foreplays so my first sexual experiences were very painful. Luckily it was a LDR so I didn't have to have sex too often.
My second relationship was with a guy willing to do a lot to please me but unfortunately he was shit at everything (would lick me for 40 min but not take instruction and I never came), he also never washed his dick and constantly gave me UTI, I begged him to get his penis checked for some sort of infection but he refused because he didn't want a doctor to touch his penis… So yeah I think I have this idea of PIV = pain / UTI. On the other hand I masturbated analy since I was a teen and I guess it's a safe space for me? It doesn't hurt and I can't get any sort of infection from it so it's not stressful.
Idk what to do about it tho.
I mean…you CAN get many infections from anal, aids being one of them, infected rips/cuts being another. But, I totally understand your aversion to PIV after what you wrote. I think other Anon >>82419
is very correct and it's all about the right partner. It isn't supposed to hurt. If it does, it's the partner's fault, as he's the one servicing that part. It's designed for peni to go in and baby to come out. It's super functional. Just a shame men don't know what to do with it sometimes.
Five days and you’re bringing it back up. You dig through five days of posts just to show how mad you stayed over a throwaway comparison in a meaningless thread.
Who’s insecure here?
Not sure if this belongs here or in the masturbation thread but here goes: I can't (or very very rarely) climax during sex unless I am masturbating. My boyfriend is great in bed, but I can't get off unless I 'help out'
Any ladies experienced this?
Some background: I have a weird relationship with sex and was molested when I was younger (surprise, surprise) My speculation is that I still need to be "in control" in order to feel comfortable enough to climax. It makes my bf kind of insecure but it's not about him lol
Like the previous anons said, it's normal. Kind of sad that this still isn't common knowledge, but the majority of women experience sexual pleasure this way.
I've never been molested or anything and as long as I have been masturbating I have absolutely never been able to orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone though I can make myself cum in just a couple of minutes from rubbing my clit.
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Does anyone have any tips for preventing UTIs? I feel like I'm always on the verge of getting one, especially after sex. I always pee and clean myself up after sex (and I make my bf do the same). I drink at least 3L of water daily and I take probiotics. I only wear cotton underwear. Nothing seems to help and I'm not sure why.
Finally my bitch of a chronic illness is useful
I have interstitial cystitis and there would be times where I would knocked the fuck out for months by it. Is your uti like, do you feel it up in your abdomen/bladder or right down by your opening?
Mine is the latter and I recommend cystopurin, peeing for a second longer than usual to make sure it's all out, but strictly not sitting on the toilet any longer than that even if it feels helpful. Also, sitting on a hot water bottle or ice pack, and the best relief ever for me is to just fucking turn my vibrator on and sit on it and read a book. Distracts from the horrible sensation down there enough to think straight.
I actually came here to pose that same question! I feel like I just have these chronic, recurring UTIs these days. It feels like I can just breathe the wrong way and get one. Just the other day, I was thinking about how I haven't had one in about a month or two, and this evening I got that burning, tugging feeling when I went to pee. Thankfully I have some leftover antibiotics from my last UTI to tide me over until tomorrow when I can go to the doctor.
Does anyone know if women with IUDs are more susceptible to UTIs? Because during the 2 months I went without birth control between getting my Skyla taken out and my Kyleena put in, I didn't have any UTIs. Then I got another the same week I got my Kyleena put in.
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I can attest to coconut water. It's a natural diuretic and very popular in the philippines for preventing utis.
Here's an article explaining a little bit about it: www.thevirgincoconutoil.com/articleitem.php?articleid=280#ixzz1xF4a5k3X
Another one that I've had success with when I already had a uti is oregano oil. I just read about it on some home remedies list and I happened to have some and my uti cleared up faster than normal for me. Googling it now it seems it can also help prevent them.
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Probably not, but I'd be a little concerned about the lack of breathability caused by the adhesive and plastic backing.
Would you ever try cloth liners? I use them daily and they are not only breathable, but super fun and cute. And you'll save money in the long run.
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They have wings that are held together by plastic snap buttons, k-snaps to be exact. You can also get metal ones. Snug underwear is a must for keeping cloth pads in place.>>84508
They feel amazing and way more comfortable than normal pads because they are breathable and made of the same material as your underwear. You won't get swamp crotch in hotter weather, and they're great for anyone prone to yeast infections or sensitive to the bleaching agents used in regular pads. You can get them in amazing materials like bamboo velour, crushed velvet, minky, cotton, jersey knit, pique. In any pattern, any absorbency, any length, even custom shapes and sizes to suit your particular needs. They can be incredibly thin if that's your preference, not bulky at all, and they don't show through your clothes.
I love cloth pads and can't recommend them enough.
Excuse me for sounding dumb I'm not very knowledgeable when it comes to fabric pads.
But how long can you wear them before changing? Same as regular pads?
Just wondering what to do with them if you gotta change it while at work. Where do you put them? Asking myself the same question when it comes to moon cups.
I mean I would feel really uncomfortable washing the in the sink when there is a risk of coworkers coming by.
You can wear them for as long as you're comfortable, they hold as much or more as regular pads. For work/public spaces, you just carry a waterproof wetbag, fold the soiled pad in half and pop it in there until you can get home. And no, it won't smell at all, nor will it make your purse smell. >>84513
Synthetic fabrics (minky, velvet, suedecloth) are not recommended for hot days, but they can be quite nice in cooler temperatures. Bamboo and cotton velours are organic and breathable, they won't lead to swamp crotch at all. That said, generally in hotter temps you'd stick to cotton, jersey or pique (the latter two are moisture-wicking).
The snaps do not show through clothing, least of all jeans. And they smell far less than regular pads, which are made of plastic and allow for no airflow at all. I'm not 'shilling' btw…they're certainly not for everyone and I know that. To be fair, I will list some downsides: high upfront cost, not knowing what works for you and having to deal with lots of trial-and-error, the hassle of reselling pads you didn't like, and the chore of soaking and washing pads.
If getting up close and personal with your own blood squicks you out, cloth pads and especially menstrual cups are not for you.
Synthetic fur is never going to be a great thing to have on your crotch all day, even if it’s chilly outside. Fabric does not make odors disappear so they are going to smell exactly like a pad. Again, if someone wants to use them, get a Tupperware box or a ziplock baggie.
Snaps will absolutely show through leggings unless the woman wearing them has very little or no space between her legs. If you’ve got any sort of gap, there will be bumps. That’s how little hard lumps of plastic are.
You seem almost personally upset that there’s been criticism of fabric pads. I’ve had to use them for menstruation before because of growing up very poor. It’s not that great. A heavy flow will absolutely leak through because they have no plastic lining.
As a panty liner, sure. Save your money and the environment, but buyers should be aware that very thin fabrics cannot absorb much, and that cotton, jersey, linen, or flannel cannot prevent any sort of odor any more than a regular pair of panties.
Why have you lost you period? And why would that make you miss it? I don’t feel feminine when I’m on mine. I feel my worst.
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I'm not personally affronted at all, I conceded that cloth pads are not for everyone and they absolutely have disadvantages when compared to normal pads. The snaps really don't show through leggings, the snaps go right between your legs, not near your butt or your front…so unless you're wearing very sheer tights with your crotch near someone's face, they're not going to see anything, lol.
I think you had a bad experience and thus a bias against cloth pads due to the options available to you while growing up. The ones you used were probably bulky and uncomfortable compared to the options available from luxury brands like Novel Red or Etsy sellers like Yurtcraft or Beach Bottom (pic related). It doesn't smell like anything, regular pads smell far worse.
You can get heavy and post-partum pads with waterproof lining. Also, the fabric topper is not the absorbent part lol, you can choose from a variety of absorbent cores. Common ones are Zorb (used in cloth diapers), heavy bamboo fleece, cotton flannel, terry, and hemp fleece.
Anyhoo, I'll be around to answer anyone's questions about cloth pads if they have any. Happy to discuss the downsides as well.
It can be a multitude of reasons. It could be a lack of nutrition, over exercising, stress (ironically), or a hormonal imbalance as the most common ones. If you can I say talk to your doctor and get a blood test to double check nutrition and hormone levels. Also to look at your exercise schedule and see if you're pushing your body too far.
The final thing it could be, which I hope it isn't, is you being very underweight. Anorexic girls for example will miss their period or potentially lose it all together. I hope this helps a bit and you can figure out your issue soon. Hopefully it's also nothing serious which it totally can be, I just wanted to list the serious stuff as well just so you had the information and do potentially get it checked out
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Does anyone else notice during their most fertile week that a lot of discharge comes out during bowel movements?
It's only during that one week each month, and there is no infection or other issue as far as I know.
Maybe a little off-topic but does anyone else have trouble feeling arousal? I used to get turned on but after being sexually abused when I was in my early teens I've never been able to feel it as strongly, only very faintly at the most. Have any of you had success with therapy or any other methods of restoring libido?>>84664
There's nothing to worry about, really. You just have to learn to trust your birth control and like other anon said just keep up with regular hygiene. You've already taken every precaution you can, enjoy yourself!
I do, too. I think it was because I was taking anti-depressants when I was pubescent, my libido was suppressed and I didn't even have a sexual awakening until I was 18. Even now I only really feel aroused when I'm ovulating. I'm not sure how to fix it, maybe therapy or something like >>84667
try any gentle face cream that contains niacinamide. it's a natural bleaching agent that discourages the growth and spread of pigment cells/melanin. it should be safe to use externally, such as the inner thigh area, but i wouldn't put it directly on the labia because who knows if the cream will migrate internally and cause irritation.
alternatively you could just learn to live with it…pretty much every human has darker skin on the pubic area and around their butthole, and who is going to be looking at your labia and butthole anyway? just your partner and your doctor, both of whom won't judge you for a little uneven skintone.
Well,the thing is,my SO is a transgirl. I'm reassuring myself since she is taking eostrogens and the likes,which makes her,well,pretty unfertile. And given I take birth control I should be good for good but i'm just always anxious. Thanks for the help gals!>>84847
Seconding,I got the same kind of vag but boy is it dark on the lips
Whatever you guys say.
Not a fetish. Just ok with using her D but not really liking it. If it was a fetish she wouldnt be on transition since her young teen years. Sissies and shit just discredit real transpeople (which are like,1% of the whole trans comm). I used to think like you guys before i met her tho so heh. >>85109
She'll be going to the best surgeon. Those other just settle for cheap shit and end up with an axe wound.
In any case, not gonna shit up the thread any more. Thank you for your advice.
And yes, >>85086
I am quite young and inexperienced still. I guess I'll learn.
Could be. The burning lasts maybe a day and the doesn't come back until the next period.
I loath tampons but if the testing doesn't show anything, I'll try them.
>>85064>Well,the thing is,my SO is a transgirl.
Logistically, it doesn't matter. A penis is a penis is a penis.
You should still talk about what you would do in the case of an oopsie, and don't rely on your partner's assumed infertility for contraception.
How in the world could somebody who claims they feel like a woman and would be dysphoric from their penis, have no problem with using said penis? Why would they have no issue with ejaculating in a woman when that's something that literallh only men can do.
You're dating somebody who has some serious mental illnesses and is takng their fetish way too far.
i think that happens to most women, it's most likely just irritation from tampons or pads. you can try cups or cloth pads if you feel comfortable enough doing so and see if it's of any help, a lot of pad/tampon companies have harsh chemicals in their products>>84847
this won't be what you want to hear probably but i don't recommend doing anything to it, anon. it's completely normal for skin to be darker there than it is on other parts of your body and most likely isn't a sign of a health issue so it'll do you more good to accept it the way it is
cranberry pills can help
also: clean your genital area with water only, dry with a blow drier, pee every 2 hours aprox. never hold in pee!
And when you pee, make sure every drop is released… if there's residue it can contribute
If you do all of these and still get many (confirmed and separate) UTI's, maybe you need to see a specialist.
Depends. You technically aren't supposed to use it around your genitals. However, I use sensitive skin nair there all the time, like once every few weeks. Only one time I had issues because I left it on too long (longer than 10 min, NEVER leave it on longer than that, I advise 5 min and give yourself an additional 5 to wash it off completely, this is where I fucked up) - nothing happened to my vag, but outer labia was kind of oozing blood for a few hours after. It healed up fine but it sucked.
So, YMMV. I won't recommend other people do it, I've just been doing it for years so I know how my skin reacts to it.
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has anyone here ever been so unsatisfied with the appearance of their labia that they have literally contemplated mutilating themselves over it? because they couldnt afford surgery? i remember a few years ago i read this odd article/blog post about a body modification artist doing a labiaplasty on herself (though she said she could barely walk for a few weeks)…
i hate how mine look, mine are bigger&darker than average. it doesnt even matter if they're technically 'normal' because men are exposed to so much porn nowadays that i doubt mine would look normal or attractive to them in comparison. what if i were to become intimate w/ a man but he saw how it looked and backed out? has that happened to anyone?
pretty sure this self hatred that has been with me throughout childhood prevented me from ever developing a sex drive
Anon this sorta makes me sad. You could have labia longer than your fingers and you’d still deserve to feel okay and not be held back sexually. Tbh if a dude watches so much porn he’s freaked out by labia that aren’t porn perfect he’s probably spent so long watching porn instead of being with humans that he’s not worth the time.
Labia aren’t ever exactly pretty, but you’re not deformed or a freak or hideous and I really really hope you never act on the desire to mutilate.
Men will fuck you anyway.
Imo it's a bit like the saggy boob issue; sure there's a lot of perky, fake boobs in porn but plenty of men are realistic about what the average pair of boobs are like. They don't really care if your boobs sag, just like how they don't care if you've got some extra vag beef.
And usually the guys who squeal and judge about those things are neurotic as fuck.
I used to shave everything, and it was awful and I just ended up with ingrowns. Now, I just trim for comfort and shave the bikini line. My boyfriend is fine with it; he's realistic about hair removal's practical elements.
Someday, I would like to get laser hair removal to cut down on how ling my showers take.
I don't shave anything and trim occasionally. My boyfriend cares more about my armpit hair witch begrudgingly epilate now.
fully bald just seems very infantile to me, If a guy only found that attractive it would creep me out.
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I find bald pussy extremely weird looking and bald dick are downright ugly IMO. So I trim my hair and shave / wax what goes past my pantyline but that's it. From time to time I'll take the hair off my vulva but I will keep a little triangle on top (I think it fits perfectly with a woman body shape), but that's it. I'll never be in a relationship with a dude that has any kind or requirement regarding my body hair, I'm super anal about it because I'm sadly prone to UTI and shaving down there make them appear more often, I would get so butthurt if I shaved my genitals to please a man and got a UTI right after, and probably would hold it against him. >>86909
Speaking about men's taste and expectation, every single subreddit dedicated to pussy's top post are bald innies and it makes me feel like shit about me body. I don't even have big protruding labia minora but I stil get upset everytime I read or hear someone say they prefer "clean" looking pussy. Do they realize they're implying having some lips down there looks dirty? It's so cruel.
Pic related .
i'd prefer to leave some hair but i'm terrible at shaving and can't make it look even and tidy. i don't find a completely bald pubic area that attractive but it's better than a lopsided patch left, so i always end up just shaving more and more until it's all gone. if i go to get waxed, which i hardly ever do, i ask her to leave a patch still
i find it uncomfortable on myself but i love the look of a real 70s style bush. i hate those "real women have _____" style memes but the further out of my teens i get, the more womanly and appealing i find not being fully shaved
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does anyone here have like a fat pussy? a fat mons pubis? Even when I was at my skinniest 60kg 132lbs it was still fat. I really fucking hate it and get depressed and confused when I see completely flat pussies. Men probably think its horrid
>>87046>Men probably think its horrid
Maybe the ones who expect porno pussies. And when are guys like that not douches about everything?
Other than that, no.
Plenty of guys have a fat pubic region as well, it doesn't make them automatically disgusting and it doesn't for you either.
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When you say fat pussy do you mean a simp? Meaning pussy lips so thick that they look like homer simpson's mouth? (pic related)
If yes, know that a lot of men are into it.
A cake is cake. You wanna eat it even if it’s a bit smushed or it doesn’t have pretty decorations.
Same with your vagina.
Sorry to rely on food as an analogy for a woman’s body but the same goes for dick too tbh. Superficial things about how it looks matters far less than how it feels and tastes and performs. Guys who care so much about how it looks are probably virgins using a flesh light which is manufactured to be “perfect.” Dont take them seriously.
this is messed up but it actually makes me feel comforted that someone has felt the same thing as me. every time i look at my labia i think about how i should literally cut them off myself (i won't, don't worry). i've thought about that since i hit puberty..
i have had a meltdown in front of my partner because of the way my inner labia look, can't even enjoy oral because i'm too caught up in my own head. its totally irrational because no one cares that much about it, but it's my biggest body insecurity
It's a late answer but nappy creams and medicated creams in general work wonders. I'm an UK anon so for me it's stuff like Sudocrem or Bepanthen
You just have to reapply it pretty often for the first week after you shaved
this was actually my first time shaving, before I always used Nair. considering going back if this happens every time>>87784>>87778
If Nair works for you, you can keep doing that.
For shaving, shave with the grain, with a sharp razor. If you are ok with a less close shave, you can use an electric razor.
Have you been dieting? This can cause amenorrhea, even without malnourishment.
There are plenty of foods that can do what you want. https://healthwholeness.com/healthy-foods/estrogen-rich-foods
I've used lavender tea, too, but that working might just be dumb luck. If you have white shorts or something, try wearing those out to a social event.
I think if the issue for you is comfort and not just looks, surgery is worth discussing with a professional.
It’s not something to take lightly, but if you’re experiencing daily discomfort or pain then the benefits may outweigh the risks.
Your situation is pretty much the most legitimate reason to get this type of surgery, and it’s worth researching it.
It really depends on how you personally weight up and benefit/risk ratio but at the end of the day constant discomfort is a good reason to look into surgery.
If it was for purely aesthetic reasons most here would absolutely advise against it because it’s uneccessary.
I'm a virgin in the sense that I've never had PIV sex, because until recently, I've not really had the chance or desire to. I'm now at the stage where I do have the desire to, and the guy I'm seeing atm wants it too, but we're struggling. I've never fingered myself before because, idk, it just never occurred to me to do it. Additionally I've never used tampons because I'm quite small so as a young teen I didn't want to hurt myself.
He wants me to loosen myself by fingering myself, but I can't do it. I struggle to get wet enough to do it and when I am wet enough, I can't get a finger in because I don't like the feeling. When he's fingered me, using just 1 finger, it's hurt, but I didn't mind because it was him doing it and not me. But now he's getting upset with me because we both obviously want to have sex but he says we can't until I'm regularly fingering myself. So I'm not sure where I can go from here.
WTF that's stupid. Your vagina doesn't get bigger/wider from fingering anon. Does your boyfriend get you wet? Because if not that's his
problem. No one will be able to push a penis inside you unless you are wet.
Let's be honest, he probably sucks at sex and wants to put it in way too early. Is he a virgin too?
He does get me wet, but not all the time. The first time we saw each other was amazing, there was a ton of build up, he started out just resting his hand on my leg and slowly moved towards my vagina, so the anticipation got me so wet. However since then he's tended to go straight for my clit, which doesn't do much for me. He rubs my clit quite hard as well, and doesn't keep the same rhythm, which is not only frustrating, but it hurts. He's not a virgin, and he's super sweet and always wants to make sure I'm enjoying myself, but he doesn't seem to grasp that I'm not wet enough most of the time.>>89433
Thanks anon, I will take a look at that video. I feel like we need to take it slower in the way I described to the above poster, but atm it feels like he just wants to make me cum without doing any of the foreplay.>>89437
He has actually given me head twice, but it didn't do anything for me, and I've no idea why? I know it's something I would enjoy that would feel good, but I think it was the way he was doing it? He was sort of just flicking at my clit with his tongue which does nothing for me, he didn't go anywhere else. So consequently I wasn't really wet.
Have you communicated these specific problems with your bf?
Also, I used to have vaginismus. You shouldn't have problems with 1 finger even if you're completely dry. I think him asking you to get comfortable fingering yourself alone is a fair thing to ask.
It sounds like you're in the US. Planned Parenthood might be good for a second opinion.>>89480> However since then he's tended to go straight for my clit, which doesn't do much for me. He rubs my clit quite hard as well, and doesn't keep the same rhythm, which is not only frustrating, but it hurts. He's not a virgin, and he's super sweet and always wants to make sure I'm enjoying myself, but he doesn't seem to grasp that I'm not wet enough most of the time.
Try giving instructions. It's easiest if you tell him what you want him to do instead of what you want him to stop doing.
That's totally normal! How much lubrication a woman makes depends on all sorts of things, like medications, genetics, hormones, hydration level, etc. There's nothing wrong with not being dripping wet, but you might feel better if you tell your partner you don't get very wet in general, so they don't take it personally. Keep good lube around and stay hydrated. Pedialyte or similar electrolyte beverages also help. I try to drink a minimum of 40oz of non-caffeinated, non-alcoholic liquids beforehand. But from what you describe, there is nothing wrong with you and you have nothing to be ashamed of.
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It might sound weird but maybe seeing other vaginas (not porn-perfect vulvas or labia, just everyday women’s genitals)
You’ll probably be surprised how many women have genitals like yours and have totally normal sex lives.
If a guy gets disgusted because your labia aren’t a specific shade of pink, he’s probably watching a lot of porn and has little, if any, real sexual experience. A man worth fucking knows that odds are, your pussy won’t look like a neat little coin purse.
Labiaplasty is expensive, wont change the pigment, and can leave you with reduced sensitivity and scarring. There’s also a risk of post surgical infection, or developing keloid scars.
I have had a labiplasty anon. No joke, my flaps were at least 2cm past the entrance. I was a virgin until then because I was so afraid of my future partner being disgusted with how “ugly” my vagoo was.
And I would still say it wasn’t exactly worth it. The scaring is unnatural and strange feeling. The lack of sensation isn’t as bad for me as others, but there is definitely some. The recovery is nightmarish. Using the bathroom was agony, and getting the stiches removed was so painful I passed out and they had to stop to finish another day.
Most guys honestly don’t care what your vagina looks like anyways. I’m lucky to have found someone who loves my “mess”, and so should you. There is someone out there who will worship your body anon.
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Have you seen what penises look like? Genitalia are weird. It's fine, you're fine, and you're normal.>>89566>Do all women have different degrees of wetness? Like, some women get very wet while some don't? You only hear about this in black and white terms, you're either wet or not. It's never been an issue for me during sex but it still makes me insecure, since I feel like it's expected for women to be dripping. Also, is it abnormal to only get wet during oral/fingering/penetration but not during foreplay/kissing? I read things all the time about girls getting wet from just having their thighs touched and I can't understand how that could happen lol.
Yes, and it's normal. Keep some body-safe lube around.
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Wow, it truly astonishes me that there are women who are so self-loathing they'd resort to mutilating their genitals. Like it's almost unbelievable, how does someone get to that point? That surgery sounds like it has zero benefits and is just another way for plastic surgeons to cash in on people's insecurities. I'd take meat flaps and being able to fully enjoy sex over losing sensitivity in my cooch and possible health risks anyday.
Anon did you get the sugery because of discomfort or insecurities?
What method did your doctor go with?
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Memes like these (and the male commentary which would come with them) are what made younger me start analyzing how my vag looked. Around that age I also started to explore porn and noticed that mine didn’t look quite like the others. And since I’ve matured my insecurity has reached the point to where I’ve held a razor to myself. I know I shouldn’t care what men like that think, but it gets to you.
Sorry for samefagging
I understand that societal pressures can be difficult to work through, but if the feeling is that extreme I doubt a surgery would fix the underlying issue with your self-esteem. That comes from within, not from validation from an outside source. Therapy would probably be a better investment than a vaginoplasty.>>89797
I naturally have a high libido, so I tend do it daily, sometimes twice a day or more. Though recently I've been cutting that down to once every few days.
>It slightly hurt, too (maybe I did it wrong?).
Lol how did you do it? Did you rub your clit or finger yourself? I doubt there's a "wrong way" to masturbate but your body might have a preference for one of the two, if you get what I mean.
I do it daily, before bed or after getting up. If I'm hanging around the house all day, maybe 2-3 times or 1 time for an extended period. Multiple orgasms are a blessing.
I'm a horny bitch though (probably comparable to the average male's libido, down to thinking about sex all the time) so I may be irregular.
From what I've heard most women do it a couple times a week.
Between zero and three times a month, generally around ovulation. Being in a relationship has greatly increased my libido, but I generally have my bf get me off because I prefer that.
My bf generally masturbates in the morning and before bed most days, unless I'm over, or he's intentionally abstaining. He used to masturbate more as a teenager.
As for it hurting, do you use lube? Do you give yourself time to warm up before going at it?
Tbh I think most guys who make these jokes mostly do it because they want to seem cool in front of their friends/ other males, not because they actually find outtie vaginas gross. Also most of the time they are still pretty young and insecure themselves and have probably never seen a vagina in real life, so they don't know any better.
Aside from that most dicks are kinda ugly too tbh so it's not like these guys are in a position to judge your private parts anyways.
If a guy likes you and thinks you're hot, he won't give two shits about what your vagina looks like (as long as it's clean and healthy obviously), just like you won't give a shit about the looks of his dick. He probably won't even look at it too closely because he will be too distracted by other things during sex anyways.
Don't let these stupid memes made by stupid boys make you question your self worth.
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>>89882>Aside from that most dicks are kinda ugly too tbh so it's not like these guys are in a position to judge your private parts anyways.
By fat you mean fleshy or do you mean the bone stick out?
Anyways I understand that you feel insecure about it, but I promise it's not a big deal at all, I don't even think most guys would notice something like that and if they did they would probably compliment you and want to caress it and kiss it. When people are horny they tend to get turned on by the particular things of their lover's body. I know I do and all of my partners did.
It's really not that bad anon, I think it can even be very sexy and sensual. You're only hurting yourself by focusing so much on that body part.
I really don't like my stomach it sticks out and since I have digestion problems it tend to get bigger after I've eaten (I look pregnant…), my bf has found a way to find it sexy, I don't get it but I think the fact that he loves me and is attracted to me makes him like even the ugly or weird things I have.
Implantation bleeding is usually pinkish and watery but it can differ and not everyone even has it, I had none when I got pregnant. Definitely wait until your period is about a week late and get some cheap pink dye pregnancy tests, don't blow your money on a clearblue or any blue one cause they're shit. Seriously 40 euros worth of them came out invalid for me when 2euro of pink dye sticks confirmed I was pregnant.
It really is probably just stress but I just wanted to let you know the above just in case. Good luck nonnie
Ill wait and see before getting the test then, thank you for the input and well wishes. I really don’t wanna blow money unnecessarily either lol. >>91110
Good to know I’m not alone. I stopped my BC a few months ago because I had to start other medication that would interfere with it. I’ve had a lot going on and have put off finding another method. My boyfriend and I use condoms 95% of the time but besides that pull out I know that it’s stupid and unreliable but I try my best and only do this when I’m not ovulating. I also could afford to abort if necessary but would really rather not have to deal with that atm.
. Getting back on BC will be put on the top of my priority list now.
If it is due to weight, not having it can lead to(? or be a sign of impending?) osteoporosis. I was anachan for years and didn't have one, now I have osteopenia. Could also be due to low iron intake. It can also lead to infertility though not getting it right now doesn't necessarily mean you can't get pregnant.
You don't really need to go to a gyno about the things it could be due to. A blood test and bone scan will more or less figure it out. Not getting a period was one of the big factors in me staying ill so I get that right now it doesn't seem too bad, but it will have future consequences.
I don't think I'm that malnourished actually, my bmi is 17,3 which is close to normal 18,5. My lack of a period could also be due to me taking antipsychotics and antidepressants, I read that can be the cause.
But yeah, my heart is not the best, I should probably get it checked out.>>93750
Wow, that sure sounds scary. I'll check that out too, thanks.
i mean i don't like to receive pleasure, instead i like to take it but i don't fall for the >lel i dont need to cum to enjoy sex
Gels and feminine washes say they're okay to use but for some women they can still fuck up their natural pH which leads to yeast infections.
So go to the doctor again clear up any current infections you may have. Don't use the gel, wear breathable underwear (like cotton) that's not too tight. Don't wear pants that are too tight either. only clean in the shower with a wet rag.
Dampness also leads to yeast infections so dry well after the shower and if your a sweaty person then throughout the day, wipe yourself dry down there.
Anon, I had problems too, and I was afraid I had vaginismus, but idk if I did or not. I spent a while actually afraid of my vagina. I dated (well still am) a sweet guy who was basically the same about it.
It's up to you, entirely. I ended up working all the way up to sex, and at times I think I'm a bit sensitive or tight still, but it's usually comfortable and pleasurable.
For me, it was something for him, and for myself, and it was scary. I had him with me through it, starting from essentially a fucking pen to a regular dildo/dick. In the end, I thought it was worth the pain, discomfort, and tears to be able to do that.
It is entirely up to what YOU want from everything, and if you're willing to try fighting past your fear and anxiety. That alone may be what's causing the pain.
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Been using pic related, works like a charm
Shave. Slowly, carefully, in a hot shower. Get a mirror if if helps. Imo it’s easiest to shave with one foot on the bathroom sink and one on the floor because you can see.
Most important thing is to just go slowly and carefully.
That doesn’t mean that regular application of soap to the vagina are good for people. You may be find but it’s still not recommended for good reasons.
Your anecdote is meaningless.
On your outer
labia it's fine. As in, the places where nasty bitches collect toilet paper bits and dead skin. If you don't understand the difference between putting soap in
your vagina and cleaning the area around
it then I'm sorry for you.
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I bet you smell like stale tuna. How did your mother not teach you to wash yourself??
I made a diagram to help everyone ITT who may be unsure of how to wash their pussy.
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sorry if this is really autistic but is it normal that my period is very irregular? it's more than two weeks late now and i'm getting kind of paranoid even though i'm a virgin
It’s very common.
What changes have occurred in diet/medications/sleep/stress/physical activity?
It’s almost definitely one of those things. Go see a gp if you skip a third cycle in a row.
thanks for your response anon! i'm 19, so yeah that might be it. it really is frustrating, and super annoying to keep track of even with a tracking app.>>94794
i have a pretty shitty diet so that's nothing new but i've had a ton more physical activity in the last month than before, maybe that contributes as well. thanks for the advice!
It’s a pain. From 14-20 I’d get mine every two or three months, then lost it totally for almost a year. I got into the habit of keeping tampons, pads, and painkillers in both handbags, schoolbag, and stashed a box of tampons in friends bathrooms just in case.
Way easier to have stuff on you all the time than trying to guess a cycle that is as arbitrary as clothing sizes. Plus it’s sorta nice to be that lady with the spare tampon when someone is caught out at work or the mall.
I feel like my vagina is weird. I've tried to look up pics to find something similar, and never end up with it. I asked more than one gyno, they've all been female, and they all just tell me "it's fine" but they don't tell me what it is or why it's like that.
Basically when I stretch my lips apart and try to look into my vaginal opening, there's nothing but this odd flap of skin in the way. I don't think it's my hymen? I'm far from a virgin, I've had regular sex for nearly a decade now, with dicks and dildos of various shapes/sizes. No pain during sex but guys have universally marveled at how "tight" I am, saying it's unreal, surprised it doesn't hurt me, etc. Dicks/sex toys don't hurt, but the smallest speculum at the gyno DOES hurt like a motherfucker. Could my hymen just kind of be there hanging out like the flap of a cat/dog door??? It's so weird.
fun fact, my cervix is sideways and pushes up to the front so all those little nerve endings are basically right at the front instead of further back
pros- i cum super easily, and am even more likely to have inner vaginal orgasms than clitoral which i dont care for
cons- it takes a little bit longer for my boyfriend to find the right angle to stick his penis in me without it being uncomfortable and almost painful
apparently its more common than people know
tldr it could just be your cervix is tilted or further down thus causing some of the skin or nerve tissues to be pushed up more towards the actual opening
no big deal
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The donut shape, I've actually seen diagrams like that, for leftover hymen tissue. Pic related. Mine doesn't even have a donut hole or any hole, just skin, can't see inside at all unless there's a sepculum involved. From my pov when just spreading my inner labia, it looks most similar to the imperforate hymen in this diagram, but if that were the case I'd have serious issues like an inability to menstruate normally, and I don't have that issue.
I have the same thing! I used to be super freaked out when looking with a mirror and thought I had some kind of vag tumor
I can feel it push against my finger and so on but it's never caused pain
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i don't think i explained it in an understandable manner so i drew a diagram, hope that's better. it's like this fleshy semi-circular flap with a dip in the middle. is that maybe like the hymen but scrunched up and with an almost-perforation in the middle?
DUDE I thought mine was a tumor too when I was younger. I remember asking the gyno if it was some horrible abnormality/cancerous when I first went forever ago and they assured me it wasn't, just never said what exactly. I guess we're vag sisters lol! It's cool to know there's someone else with the same thing!>>94825
This is really illustrative. I've never seen that in any diagram. I'm gonna guess it's all leftover hymen, like for all three of us talking here. But wouldn't it hurt if it WAS a hymen remnant? Why is this so hard to figure out? I'm guessing you both have seen a gyno at least once for a pelvic exam.
It's really irritating that it's apparently so common to have stuff like this, but also so common for gynos to just keep us in the dark about it. Just hearing "you're fine and normal" really isn't comforting when all images you see everywhere tell you otherwise. Are they afraid to be more specific with patients about this sort of thing or what gives?
The fact that there's 3 of us here, all confused about our genitals, is kind of bullshit tbh.
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wow i tried to do some research for you guys and check this out. no, she's obviously not asking if it's normal to have labia, you condescending boomer.
diagram anon here, realistically it must be hymen remains unless we all have spouted mysterious novel tissue kek but would be nice to actually
know. tbf i haven't had a pelvic exam as I'm too young for my first mandatory one and also too retarded to go ask for one so I guess this mystery shall wait on an experts opinion for 3 more years.
i thought hymen tissue should only hurt if it is injured though? are all of us just that well lubricated lol >>94870
lmao how tf could you read the question and gather she's talking about labia? the answering person sounds straight out of 1910s not 2010s
Wtf, I have the exact same thing. I remember searching for it years ago and came to the conclusion that it was leftover hymen tissue. Recently I was feeling it post-sex when it was swollen and the "dip" you mentioned felt like another hole. I put my finger inside it which hurt and when I tried to search for info, I found out people can have two vaginas so I joked with my bf that I have a second vagina lol. Other than that people mentioned it being the urethra which is fucking stupid because your urethra doesn't protrude from your vaginal opening. You're probably the first person to draw this diagram, thanks for that because there's way too little information out there about female anatomy.
Another detail is that mine hurts when I pinch it, so it must be important skin. I also have really heavy periods and hormonal problems with my skin and weight etc. Maybe that's relevant idk.
Happened to me too recently, I missed my period for two months. It was most likely because I was in an extremely stressful situation, now it's back and regular as ever.
Don't worry about it, unless you miss it for months
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Does anyone's labia minora look this way? (pardon the terrible photo edit). It bothers me so much. I'm considering labiaplasty to make the sides just a solid straight shape. The bump/curve part is more sensitive than the rest, and not in a pleasure way. I'm scared though, that the procedure is super painful.
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This is gross but I'm too anxious to care much!
About a week ago I accidentally fell asleep wearing these tight mesh bastards, and since then I've been in itchy burning cottage cheese hell. This has happened before (generally whenever I accidentally run out of laundry and resort to this backup pair), but usually it just clears itself up in a few days. Yesterday I started noticing slightly bloody discharge when I wiped, and today I noticed a lot more of it, even though the other discharge has p much entirely cleared up and the itching is going away.
My tracking app estimates that I ovulated two days ago, and I've read that this kind of discharge can happen at this point in the cycle, but I've never experienced it before, and it could mean this itchy hell is worse than I thought. It could also mean cervical cancer, but I'm trying not to think about that.
I have a doctor's appointment on Monday, but I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation, since that's a long time to spend with only my anxiety to talk to. Also if someone could come here and smack me for not throwing these panties out already that would be great!
Throw out fancy panties! They're cute, but they hate
You're probably going to be fine, I sometimes have bloody discharge at random times during my cycle. You already got a doctor's appointment, so that's great!
awww lol. I've never gone to a gyno but a long period of my tweens I was extremely distressed about it and planned a visit for my "vag cancer"
I wish this kind of stuff was put in sex ed, not just penises&periods
Fancy panties are going in the trash! Did it freak you out the first time it happened?>>95126
It's such a pain! I wish I could find cute cotton briefs that aren't immediately destroyed by my washing machine.
The men i have been with have been insecure about the randomest things
one was insecure about the fact that his penis arched a bit when erect (even though it was pretty big)
another one was insecure because his foreskin was very wrinkled
another one was insecure because he had a bad circumcision and he had a "weird" looking tiny foreskin
another one was ashamed of the color of his "head" being too dark
to name a few
men can also be very insecure about their junk
Well, I'm breathing like that partially because it's something else to focus on, but I still feel the pain anyway, unfortunately. When these pain issues started, I still had the same doctor and I think I was in the same mental state as always (which is slightly nervous, I guess) - I don't know if she suddenly did something differently or used a different speculum on me, but the pain shock was pretty bad (I started shaking, etc.). She just continued with the exam like nothing was happening, which I found quite disturbing, as it was obvious I was in severe pain. I have changed doctors since then because I didn't want to experience that ever again, but even though the new doctor is supposed to be more gentle according to women's reviews, I'm unfortunately not seeing much of a difference. It seems like this pain is also getting worse every year.
Also, I always try my best to relax (even though it's kind of difficult to do that with my legs in stirrups and all that), but the pain is there no matter what I do. I'm not aware of clenching any muscles, which makes this whole thing even more confusing. I don't know what could help at this point… It would be great if the doctors helped me figure out what's wrong instead of just shoving their tools in there like it's not a problem. It's making me more and more traumatised every time.
When I was younger, all went pretty smoothly and the exams were only slightly uncomfortable, but never painful. That's why I thought the issue might have something to do with aging and something physically changing down there.
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Sorry if this is a dumb question but why is it that when I orgasm, I have multiple mini orgasms afterwards and keep sort of convulsing? Like, I just get turned on all over again and instantly get a string of littler orgasms in a row. Is this normal? Am I sensitive or what?
It would be good to know what kind of pain you're getting. It could be that you've developed vaginismus which is super common. Also because you have a lot of stress around these exams it can make the problem much worse. Relaxing makes a whole world of difference, so perhaps talk to your doctor about ways to make yourself feel more comfortable. It may not feel like you're clenching, but if you're distressed then you will be.
Also I have pain with exams because of vulvodynia, which is two very sensitive glands at the opening. If it feels like more of an outside pain then it's definitely worth looking into. Even understanding what the problem is can help pretty much instantly, and a lot of the time there are things that you can do to help whatever it is. Perhaps speak to a psychosexual therapist to see if you can get to the bottom of it. But don't worry, things like this are super common and normal.
I used to have something that could probably be described as vaginismus when I started having sex (I think it was caused by me forcing myself to have sex when I wasn't actually mentally ready; also the whole relationship dynamic was pretty fucked up on many levels). It went away with time (after about half a year) and I then had no issues during gyno exams. The current pain problems started suddenly and with a doctor I'd had since the beginning - I have no idea what could've triggered
the pain, as everything seemed to be the same (my feelings, how relaxed I was, etc). It's possible that she did something wrong (used a wrong speculum size?) and now I'm reminded of this every time I go to a gyno, even if it's a different person who's supposed to be more gentle…
It's hard to describe the pain - it basically feels like I'm getting ripped open down there. It does seem to be located a bit deeper inside. It's the worst with the speculum and especially with that move that's supposed to expose your cervix. I also had vaginal ultrasounds done and those are also painful, but bearable, at least. I'll definitely need to research vulvodynia, I had no idea a condition like that even exists.
Thank you for your kind words, btw., they honestly made me feel a bit better about myself. I've been feeling pretty broken about this. The start of my sex life wasn't exactly nice and now I'm reminded of this fact every time I go see a gyno. Because of this whole issue, my relationship with my body hasn't been good and my sex life is pretty much dead. It's strange that gynos don't mention what we can do to alleviate the pain or don't say anything about vaginismus if it's so common… It should be in their own interest to make the whole process painless and not something that we would want to avoid.
Unfortunately anon the main thing to do here is take a test so that you can know. Most tests are good to take at the point you're at now. I recommend cheap pink dye ones and not expensive blue dye because when I was pregnant the pink ones were the only accurate ones and were like a twentieth of the price lmao.
You're just going to have to pee on a stick either way, whether you do it now or put it off, you can let us know how it goes. Good luck.
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It is true that drinking or eating stuff with lots of vitamin c like lemons gives you more cramps when you are on your period?
Oh no. Sorry to hear that, anon. Thanks for sharing.
Do you also have no idea what could have suddenly caused the pain? Had you also had no issues with gyno exams before this happened? I'm really starting to wonder if the doctors are the ones who are doing something wrong and then we are traumatised by it and clenching something without our conscious knowledge.
How much would it cost you to see your doctor about a prescription for a different, cheaper birth control? That should count as just a consultation, so it shouldn't cost you as much as a regular check-up. I would suggest giving them a call and asking beforehand.
Is your birth control creating a financial burden for your boyfriend? If not, he may as well continue to pay for it, as it's an issue that's involving him too, frankly, and you don't currently seem to have financial resources.
Of course, if you don't want to continue using birth control pills, that's perfectly OK too. I just want to tell you that slight bleeding or spotting at random times is pretty common, especially when you've just started taking the pills. Your organism has to get used to all these new hormones before everything gets regular. But I know it can be pretty annoying.
hopefully this is the right thread for this.
i've never had an orgasm, though i've been masturbating all my life. i've been on different psych meds since i was a preteen, and assume this is why. i'm sure when i was younger it was just a matter of me not knowing how to "properly" masturbate, but now that i'm grown and have a boyfriend, i'm pretty sure it's the meds. i have a magic wand i use personally, and have pretty good sex with my bf, but i still can't orgasm. i can get close, i think, but never can orgasm. is there anything i can do? i'm on quetiapine and sertraline btw. also thinking about starting birth control, so i'll definitely ask my doctor about this as well, but in the meantime was wondering if anyone here could relate
Genital numbness/drynesss, unability to orgasm and/or underwhelming orgasms are commom side effects for psych meds, especially SSRIs. And unfortunately,the effect still lingers even after you quit the meds. If you google 'ssri sexual dysfunction' or something,tons of research articles should pop up.
I have the same issue and I quit my meds 4ish years ago. Shit sucks, I wish I had known before going on the meds.
Anhedonia is the most common side-effect after nausea and somnolence/insomnia.
You use dopamine for arousal and anticipation of gratification, but you use serotonin for the actual orgasm.
SSRIs are molecules that bind to the enzymes that are responsible for the reabsorbsion°radation of neurotransmitters in the synaptic ion channels. SSRIs selectively inhibit the degradation(reuptake) of serotonin.
Now think about what happens when you basically force serotonin to stick around in the synapses and bind over and over to the 5-HT receptors in some very specific neural networks, in order to combat the symptoms of MDD for example.
The different networks that are responsible to drive home the message to initiate the orgasm (communicating via serotonin) are in long-term depression and irresponsive to your (low) serotonin levels and upregulated degradation enzymes. Their satellite cells are hogging all the action due to the effects of the SSRIs. Neurotransmitters typically need to be "cleared" from the synapses before the neuron can attempt to communicate again.
Here's the kicker. There is always the chance that the neural networks that are responsible for climax (from the serotonergic pathway to the nucleus accumbens to the parasympathetic system) can become repurposed after a prolonged period of time without relevant stimuli. You don't lose your ability to orgasm outright, you just have to reinvent the wheel all over again.
Ingesting synthetic estradiol/progesterone on top of being on an atypical dopamine agonist plus an SSRI that has an absurdly high affinity for DAT already. It will be interesting.
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It's above the urethra.
Oh my god I found it! Excuse my retardation, I don't really touch myself and never looked at my genitals before. I thought my clit was my urethra (yeah ik ik) all these years. It looked like a hole until I pulled that part back and found the clit under there. It isn't way at the top like in >>97744
but its more in the middle like where the urethra in this chart is so that's why I was confused. Maybe you're having the same problem, 46.
I'm glad you found it. >>97769
Occasionally, orgasms give me cramps.
You could try taking Maca root powder.
It is supposed to help after getting off birth control or if you have PCOS because it helps evening out hormonal imbalances.
Personally, I take about 10-15 grams/day except when my period sets in I pause for 7 days. My period was not completely unregulary but the cycle was too long, like 30 days or even 35 days due to low estrogen/PCOS. I'm now down to 21 days!
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I feel like I'm running out of birth control options. Nexplanon made me bleed heavily, non-stop. I've been on 8 different birth control pills…all of them gave me yeast infections or BV.
It seems like my last effective option is an IUD. But I'm really fucking TERRIFIED of it. I've never even had a speculum done, due to panic. My OBGYN even asked me if I was raped as a child. When I read about the procedure I start getting nauseous. Wtf can I do?
Nuvaring, Depo, there's non pill forms. BC pills themselves don't give you yeast infections, but it can upset the hormones in your body that lead to overgrowth and yeast infections.
Have you never had a PAP before? You should really get checked up internally just to make sure nothing is wrong.
Well, an IUD is out of question for me too, as placing an IUD is supposedly painful/uncomfortable, and when even speculums give me quite a terrible pain, then that's no, thanks. Don't force yourself into something like this if you don't actually want to do it. You'll only get more tense and traumatized from it. Not every birth control method is for everyone.
Btw. it's rare to see that the OBGYN respects your wishes, doesn't examine you when you don't want them to and doesn't deny you birth control. What country are you from where this happens?
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How do you deal with severe mood swings during periods? As I’ve gotten older my periods are shorter, but right before it starts and during it I get very depressed and irritable. I tell myself that it’s just a few days and I’ll be back to normal but I’m worried about how it could effect work or relationships.
I read articles that some people take a iron/calcium vitamin during their periods and they help a bit
Iron definitely helps with the fatigue, which was a problem for me on my period. I also take B vitamins regularly and that seemed to help a bit.
I've heard evening primrose helps with with mood swings and basically all other side effects of. I have yet to try it though since iron does it for me.
I heard some stories of it happening just when the wrong nerve is triggered
during sex (although the cause is apparently usually psychological or from brain/spinal damage).
I'm always stressed about health issues in general though.
It's been an hour since I posted this and I had a session with myself before then. I…still have that sensitive near-orgasm feeling.
Have my fears been realized? Of course this would happen to me.
Is this normal? Has anyone else ever felt very aroused even an hour after the fact? Or is it just in my head because I stressed myself about it and I'm tired?
I'd call bullshit on your bf trying to tell you
when you've orgasm'd. Other anons described it well.
I slept and now that I'm sane I realize I probably have a UTI. It's just the more likely issue lmao.
I haven't had one in a decade so I forgot what they felt like. And my hypochondriac ass wanted it to be incurable! As always!
I think I can answer this. I had this going on for years and was shamed into thinking I had an STD despite tests saying I didn't, which I don't. I stopped having sex because it seemed to aggravate it. Went to my doctors last year after being sick of being scared of them reappearing and he told me it could be to do with my contraception. I'm on the implant and as my periods are very on and off with it, he said it could be due to a spike and drop of hormones causing me to get dry and wet and sensitive down there. He gave me some steroid cream and they haven't been back since. It is called Daktacort which is a mild hydrocortisone 1% cream. Maybe see if you can get your hands on some.
If you get some, don't wash with soap or anything overly fragranced to give your skin some time to calm down, dry yourself off and then apply the cream. Stick with cotton underwear and see how you go. Took me about 2 weeks for them to completely go but it has seriously helped!
nah, i’ve started just dabbing after i pee as a habit since when they’re really flared up it hurts to wipe normally.>>98974
and that i’ll def look into. i’ve wondered if it’s hormone related before cuz i do feel like i’m dry a lot of the time. i’ve thought about trying those vaginal moisturizers just to see what would happen. i feel like at this point anything could be worth a try.
sounds like what i get from my iron deficiency anemia. it gets bad around my period cause i'm expelling blood. some women just get it during their periods too.
that'd be the first place i'd look if i were you though.
I have the same thing, it's normal i guess? I never mentioned it to my gyno, but she told me everything's fine
Are you using lube/lubed condoms? I noticed it balls up when mixed with lube
says basically. The consistency and colour of your cervical mucus varies depending on the phase of your cycle. The Billings ovulation method focuses on that so if you're interested in it, you could search for that.
You probably just happen to have a bit more discharge. If there's no unusual smell to it and it's white and you don't have any other symptoms, it should be fine.>>99192
Might be due to muscular tension. Many women get shoulder pains after an laparoscopy of the uterus because the gas puts pressure on a nerve in the uterus that's connected with the shoulder.
Is it like a sharp pain that you get while taking deep breaths? Or is it more like a constant pain?
Ah yeah, I've had friends who had period specific anemia too but we never really got into conversation about it so I hadn't thought of that possibility just from the pain.>>99201
I tend to have trouble breathing in general while the pain is there, so until it happens again and I observe, I couldn't tell you for 100% sure.
The pain tends to come on suddenly, stick around for anywhere between 5 minutes to a couple hours. While it lasts, generally feels like the inside of my chest is being clenched tight and breathing deeply is difficult.
Actually, yeah. We don’t use condoms. Just lube and go.
This could actually be it because I’m not really experiencing anything alarming. It never really happened before I started dating my boyfriend, so I thought maybe my flora has been upset or wacky or something weird. I’m also late 20’s so maybe my body/hormones changed altogether and it is just what it is.
For the longest time I just thought something was wrong.
I had the same problem a while ago
It stopped after my diet became much less acidic/ caffeinated
I dunno if this is any use to you, but this is my reply to an anon who asked something similar only a few days ago >>98974
I've been told by my doc it can be hormonal. Try a topical steroid cream if you can. I used Daktacort and it cleared up all my irritations immediately!
this. dicks get made fun of all the time, and men are most certainly insecure about it, they just don't act it cause "muh masculinity".
the human body isn't pretty, but no one really cares.
by literally everyone? media has tons of dick jokes all the time, people constantly joke about men's dick size and make creepy jokes about foreskins/circumcision. hell some comedies are centered around dick jokes as the main plot.
men are constantly joking about their own penises when they're clearly insecure about it. especially when it comes to race. semi-constant jokes from white men about asian dicks, and berating themselves in regards to black men.
it's all over the media, and not just in a lighthearted way.
do you know where you are? people on here are constantly doing that. i'm not even saying it's a bad thing, but you'd have to be bilnd not to see that dicks are made fun of just as much as vaginas are, men just pretend they think it's funny cause muh masculinity.
most men and women don't actually care, the only ones who care about either are incels, and they are constantly talking about how women only want a dick that is x,y,z. but they're crazy, and they are also the only ones talking about vaginas.
fuck, some of you need to take some time off the internet for a while because the average person does not care.
I'm just wondering what sources do you consume where people constantly mock women for their genitals… Doesn't seem normal to me. Are you a regular visitor on 4chan and similar boards? It seems to me like something triggered
you (and I don't mean it in the mocking sense, but in the actual sense) and now you see yourself in the worst possible light just because of the genitals you were born with. That's wrong. If you're visiting websites that are so negative towards women, then please stop and change your habits, for your own sake. Some places definitely have the capability of destroying you mentally, especially if you're already vulnerable.
I bit the bullet and scheduled an appt to talk about getting an IUD. Does anyone have experience with them? I'm nervous about the insertion.>>100163
Is his penis dirty?
I'm interstitial-cystitisfag so I know this general pain well although it is completely random besides after having sex. I am also your age. How long has it been happening? For now, always pee after sex, and sitting on a hot water bottle can help the discomfort. Mine is also not pain in my bladder but directly at the front of my urethra (lol gross), is there a possibility that's where yours is coming from? Mine is much worse if I consume a ton of sugar and don't drink enough. Doctors are for the most part fairly useless about it but often offer antibiotics or whatever. Not much long term investigating.
It isn't always to do with your partner's hygiene like people are saying here, my partner is pristine with his and it still happens whether we're fucking or not. Can't hurt to see if it subsides by for example, showering together beforehand, or somehow making sure he washes his hands before playing with you though, just to rule it out.
Does cystopurin or a similar medicine help at all? You can also eat a pinch of bread soda and drink a lot of water with it. Sorry for the giant post this is just a condition that lost me a job and bed bound me for a long time so I am sympathetic to anyone dealing with anything similar
Thank you anons <3 Do you feel it at all anymore? Does it interfere with sex at all? I know the hormonal one can change your menstrual cycle, is your cycle the same with the copper one?
Thanks in advance.
What size tampon and is this at the beginning, middle, end of your period or all the time?
I've gone through super tampons in less than 1h on the second day of my period, but my doc says it's nothing to worry about as long as it lasts less than day. Generally it's just a giant clot or something making it leak.
Everyone's different, anon. I have kind of this weird … delayed wetness? Like I can get really aroused and orgasm but then half an hour later I'll feel a sudden gush in my panties. It's weird. But there's nothing wrong with my vag and I'm sure there's nothing wrong with yours either.
Just use lots of lube. Invest in some quality stuff and don't be afraid to reapply it. It will feel good for both you and your partner.
I don't know why some people have such an aversion to lube- it's like they're convinced that using it is admitting to not having a good enough dick or whatever? I've been with both men and women who felt that using lube somehow was hurtful. But that's not it at all. It's there to make sex easier and more fun for you. Who knows, maybe when your body starts learning how enjoyable it can be, you'll start getting wet on your own. But I would recommend using lube anyway, to anyone. I use a ton of it and my bf's dick has never ever chafed me, bruised me, or made me uncomfortable in any way, thanks to the lube. He has fun too because I'm enjoying it. Look into it anon, it could change your entire view on sex.
>>100328> I had likely been chemically burned on the inside of my vagina by the fucking toy. Literally burned.
The absolute state of women.
Yikes, that sounds terrible. I’ve definitely been tempted by the cheaper stuff before, but you’re not the first one to have a story like this.>>100333
I actually get this too. So inconvenient. Nothing worse than soaked panties when you’re not even horny anymore.
Checkup with your obgyn and talk about dryness, there's a tooon of reasons outside of you not being turned on that can cause dryness. It's actually more of a problem than you may realize, because the vagina needs that moisture to self clean and stay healthy.
Are you on birth control of any kind? or any meds?
Plus, what always helps me whenever I have to talk something that I am embarrassed about: They don't care.
So, the doctor will know you used a sex toy. So what? Why should he care? At the end of his shift he'll probably have forgotten about it. It literally has no effect on your lives.
Do you masturbate with a strong toy or with your hands? If you're doing it with a strong toy then it can desensitise you a fair bit to normal sex>>100458
Don't soap your toys friend!
do you take hormonal birth control?
i used to get this way in high school, the hormonal birth control really helps alot. now i use it to skip my period and just deal with 1 or 2 days of light spotting.
She said in her post that she used to take birth control, but it made her angry…
What about trying a birth control with different combination of hormones than the one that gave you trouble, anon? I also suffer from very painful periods and birth control is the only thing that helps, sadly.
What sort of pain and discomfort? Is this during sex or just a day-to-day to thing?
I have large-ish labia and switching to underwear that wasn't an single inch wide at the crotch fixed that particular discomfort, at least. It's not granny underwear either, just switching to slightly more expensive brands.
I was looking through this thread and I just had the discovery of a lifetime. I am literally a 23 year old grown woman at an Ivy League college who has had sex and I have only just found my clitoris. I thought this whole time that the urethra and the clitoris were the same thing! I think it might be the same issue as the anon this responded to, that I've got a pretty pronounced innie vagina and the clitoris is just hidden under the hood/flat? Idk, when I was told it was button-shaped and next to the vagina I guess I just assumed it was this?
I suppose I haven't really spent much time looking under there; it always felt sort of wrong to do so. I'm still mortified that I've missed something so obvious as where to find the clitoris. I cannot believe I have gone through my life not knowing where my own damn clitoris is.
Oh ew. My bad.
That’s really weird. What woman thinks that much about how their vagina looks?
Nah I see why you’d get riled. It’s bizarre.
Sort of reminds me of the guys who jump into any conversation about FGM to make it about make circumcision as if the two were comparable. Neckbeards will always wriggle into topics about vaginas to loudly make it about them.
You’re the one reeeing. Calm down.
I really didn’t think anyone took the roastie meme seriously aside from incels.
I’m not shitting on women who are insecure about their labia I’m saying that the descriptors used were weird and that generally nobody is obsessed with the smoothness or puffiness of their vagina.
It’s not roleplay, I really had labiaplasty. The inner labia aren’t all gone, they were laser cut down to the length of where my majora extend.>>100748
I will admit that I have bad ideals of my vagina, and I probably wouldn’t have done PS if my ex didn’t constantly make fun of my vagina. The internet warped my image honestly and I wasn’t happy at 19.
Okay okay if it’s this important I believe you.
I totally agree with it in cases where the woman genuinely suffers with discomfort or pain that surgery would alleviate anyway, just never for aesthetics.
Haha just don’t like been accused of being trans or a man >>100763
What’s a DownLow man?
lol you have your head so far up your ass…
You personally don't have huge labia minora, I assume? Because let me assure you, guys do care.
Nta but I've had men talk to me about how their exes or girls they had fucked had beef curtains and how it turned them off a little. Beef curtains have become almost as much of a subject of meme-mockery as fat women. So how is it still so unfathomable that someone would be affected by that if they already have issues because of how it feels physically?
Heck, even to my underwear sometimes feels uncomfortable because of the friction and my vagina is far from having beef curtains.
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Then find a man who loves it? I promise, there are plenty of them out there. Even porn boards on 4chan, I'm assuming the main imageboard where the roastie meme originated, have threads specifically for posting women with larger labia because they're attracted to the way they look. This thread was the very first fucking thread when I opened up /s/.
Yeah, it was my pubes curling in and tickling. I trim them to about a cm and no more problems. Seriously convinced myself I had herpes because of scratching the skin open. >>100782
So stop looking at roastie memes and paying attention to the retards who think labia are some hideous malformation.
If you look literally anywhere outside of porn, you’ll see that labia are wildly varied and it’s normal.
I get that it’s hard to be self conscious, but looking at incels posting roastie memes and listening to a bunch of virgins discuss the “perfect pussy” theyve imagined on their waifu pillows is dumb.
Can't you read? Don't you understand English language or are you just too stupid to understand what people are writing?
She did NOT want to remove the entire hood. She wouldn't even expose it enough to affect it.
Also, still not the one that got the surgery kek. Just someone who's sick of people being like >muh stop catering lolicon fetish
when at this point several people wrote that it's not exclusively for aesthetic reasons, but because it cause serious discomfort on a regular basis. Are you gonna talk people out of breast reduction because of back pain, too? Because that's exactly the same.
Maybe she would even have overcome the self-consciousness about it, if it had not had a physical discomfort connected to it. But a combination like this is just awful. And again; since the aesthetic was not the only reason for it, what's the fucking point of trying to talk anyone out of it? >muh you can live with pain if you just learn to love your body <3
Fuck off, seriously.
If the aesthetics of your vagina take up more than a moment of any given day you need a shrink. Your mum was probably raised by a generation that acted like vaginas and labia are Satan’s purse and cause degeneracy. You could spend ten minutes online and find out that having outie labia is about as significant as having an outie bellybutton.
Anon got surgery because a teenage boy told her some roastie memes. That’s either mental illness or bad rping. >>100804
Anon states they want more work done to make the clit hood look like the rest. They were the one to talk about how they wish their labia were all perfectly smooth and puffier and the rest of the ‘muh loli labia gotta have that porn puss’
If you care so much about what guys want, why don't you go for guys that like vaginas like this >>100796
, or something balanced with some exposed labia minora (like a lot of porn stars have)? Instead of going for guys that like hentai smooth "puffy" vaginas like you described. Believe it or not everyone has different tastes/preferences…
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I've had this problem for about a month now. Hours after I masturbate, and sometimes just randomly, my clitoris remains swollen and bothers me. I'm not sure why, but it's annoying as fuck.
>doctor diagnosed a UTI with a quick test after this started, but antibiotics haven't stopped it
>waiting for more recent thorough test results to see if it's just stubborn
>she also says it may be a bladder stone
>I didn't tell her about it mainly being the clit (I will next time), just said generally swollen
>there shouldn't be any damage, I've never used a dildo or a vibrator in my life
Has anyone ever had this? Any idea what it could be? Stubborn infection/stone/nerve damage?
I've come to cope with it anyway, although it was very distracting in the beginning. I just miss masturbating daily.
No, I put nothing foreign near/in my vagina. Just my (clean) hands.
UTI was from pee holding lmao.
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Okay, I'm about to get gross, so if you don't want to read a gross post, stop here.
Has anyone here ever had an experience where you're masturbating and you can like. Feel the contents of your rectum through your vaginal walls? And then you get grossed out and have to stop?
This diagram shows how close the vaginal wall is to the rectum.
I've gotten to a point where I can't masturbate if I know I'm constipated. It just ruins the whole thing for me.>>100966
Tell your doctor the truth anon, there's no reason not to. She's heard it all before.
Since I sometimes finger my anus while masturbating and occasionally will slightly touch some poop in the act… no, not really.
I'm actually a bit bewildered by how much this affects you, considering you're not even actually touching anything besides your vagina. I mean, I totally understand not being enthusiastic about feeling it but to the point of having to stop or not being able to even start just because you're constipated sounds really unhealthy.
You're a human. You have bodily functions. And as I already said, you aren't actually touching your feces.
I've never fingered myself bc I don't need it to get off but that sounds offputting and I would be skeeved out too and totally stop.>>101146
Wtf, you sound gross and I hope you're a troll.
NTA but what is an enema?
You're gross and just trying to play it off like everyone deals with the same shit (literally). This is the vag thread not the asshole thread.
are you a guy? you're being pretty vulgar and also rude as hell. most people can clean our assholes to the point where anything we stick inside comes out clean.
>inb4 there are particles
microscopic particles aren't "specks".
(haven't commented since btw) and I do apologise if what I said was crass, off-putting and seemed a bit harsh. I didn't mean to come off like that.
I'm just genuinely confused as to why something like that would put someone off this much. Maybe I do feel so different about it because I also enjoy anal stuff in general and therefore - as the other anon(s) already said - you know what to expect if you go there.
But anyways… you aren't really touching anything besides your vagina so this entire disgust about it is genuinely confusing to me. I also feel like this is a really unhealthy relationship to have with your own body. Sounds a bit like a result of the whole >muh girls having bodily functions is so gross
You don't have to have a full-on scat fetish to come to terms with the fact that the food you put into your body comes out very close to your vagina.
Sorry and sage for blogposting but I'm a bit tipsy and still very confused.
What it seems like to me is that this entire discussion sprouted off from one comment about feeling poop through your vaginal wall. Which is a thing, and I've done my fair share of pushing things out that way myself.
My confusion is why some anons are suggesting that your asshole/rectum is nasty if it has any trace of poop despite it being it's natural habitat. Maybe I'm missing something but I don't make it a personal habit to perform enemas or finger myself with soap.
. It's not the concept of pooping I take issue with.
I can only feel the stool through the vaginal wall if I'm constipated. And when I can, it feels weird and wrong bc it's this random hard spot while everything else is soft and flexible. It's like having a rock in my shoe.
, you're not cleaning your ass thoroughly enough if that's happening. Use an enema and eat more vegetables.
Yeah I'm gonna be completely honest with you. I'm not gonna use an enema just to stick a finger up my ass anytime I masturbate.Also I feel like some anons got the wrong idea. It's not like I'm shoving my finger up there no matter what. I feel something, I'll just stop or go less deep. No big deal. I just don't see the point in freaking out about it.
And my diet is fine. I'm not constipated, I just have naturally solid stools.
The way you're describing it now makes it a little less bewildering to me. Genuinely thought it was some 'the existence of poop grosses me out so much I can't continue masturbating' kinda bs. I still can't relate, but then again I don't use vaginal penetration for masturbation. So maybe that's why.
Hope you can find a way to solve this issue. (? if you're looking for that? idk.)
My mom did the exact same thing to me, anon.
She also called in my grandma to look. It was pretty scarring and I'm still extremely insecure even though they haven't caused any issues sex-wise.
Also, the gyno was so confused when she couldn't find the "growth" I was sent in for. Grabbed my labia and said "…Do they mean THIS?"
It's morso just embarassing that the women in my family know nothing about female anatomy.
how does one tell the difference between regular period moodiness and PMDD? i've suffered from depression and self harm my whole life, so the degree of emotional pain i feel during my periods never seemed too abnormal: right before my period, like one or two days before, i get super depressed. my self harm urges go through the roof. i don't let myself give in the urges since i've been clean for a while, but then i just get suicidal. on my actual period, i'm depressed, feeling sick, and fighting self harm urges. the suicidal thoughts are more passive. i'll be so restless and anxious yet all i can do is lie down and cry. last night while waiting to fall asleep i kept tossing and turning, eyes perpetually weepy, feeling this restlessness and anxiety right in my stomach that makes me wish i could tear it open and dig it out, a kind of anxiety i haven't felt since i was unmedicated as a teen. i ended up hitting myself to stop the anxiety long enough to actually get tired so i could sleep. i know hitting technically counts as self harm but my issue was always with cutting so i'm gonna throw myself a bone here… by the end of my period i'll still feel down but i will have mellowed out a lot.
what do you guys do during this? i'm tired of laying in bed panicky and googling variations of "suicidal on my period" "self harm urges on my period" every month without fail
It's normal. Something about how when estrogen levels shift, they retain more water.
It always freaks me out when I gain weight suddenly (3-5 lbs) but then get relieved when it's just my period a couple days later and I go back to my normal weight.
Afraid I can't help you with that question. I was on the pill for only a month in my teens which was a decade ago so I can't remember what effects it did on my body (and probably wasn't on it long enough to notice)
But I did find this article, it does say it can cause weight gain:https://hormonesbalance.com/articles/pill-can-seriously-affect-womans-health/
It definitely does. The weight you lose during your period is 100% just water weight. You know how so many people say birth control makes your boobs grow? It's water. If you stop taking birth control, it'll all go away.
However, birth control can mess with your thyroid hormones as well, so there's that.
If it's possible for you I'd try to go off birth control for about 3 to 6 months and get your blood levels checked. (It actually takes fucking forever for your hormone levels to get back to normal, if they ever do, but I think 3 to 6 months will do.)
Please be a troll.
You can't really… achieve that kind of thing? You could get labiaplasty and get your outer lips puffed up. But if you don't have a simp by nature, you won't likely get one after surgery either.
Plus, what >>101782
no, I'm not a troll unfortunately. And idk, I just took a look at mine recently after I overheard some girl bragging about hers (yes openly in public)
and I was like dang they're kinda thin. I thought that weight gain had to do with it, but now that you told me it's genetic and not achievable without surgery I guess I'll just pass and live with it than ending up with botched labia lmao
This might become kind of explicit/graphic so I feel like apologizing in advance. I'm also not very good at filtering rn, so sorry if it's half venting, half actual advice-seeking.
I can't seem to come from PIV sex. Which isn't unusual so far. I am aware of that. But I can't seem to come from it in general.
My boyfriend is really good in bed. He's very well hung, has stunning stamina (he can fuck for like an hour without any problems and needs to recover for about 5 min before he's ready to go again), really pays attention to the sounds I make, puts my pleasure above his own etc.
However, in our 3 years of being together and fucking like 3 times each day (unless I'm on my period) I've only come three times. Twice from him eating me out and once from anal.
He is extremely good at eating me out and I only rarely orgasm from it because I don't like it as much due to trauma and insecurity and therefore can't let him do it as much.
But anyways, back to my actual problem: PIV sex.
I know most women need clitoral stimulation to come and I feel like I am one of those women. However, even if I do exclusively masturbate by rubbing my clit, I can't come from doing it while having sex.
The movement of his dick is so overpowering that I don't feel anything while rubbing my clit. The only way I feel anything at all from it is if he stops moving. Which is just… no.
I just don't know what to do anymore. Even when I was on the pill and I didn't have sex or masturbate for like 6 months, there was literally no difference.
I can easily come within a few minutes when masturbating, but whenever something is put inside of me, my clit seems to become numb.
It's frustrating and I feel even worse for him since he's really doing his best and he IS good at it. I'm just really dysfunctional, I think.
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I don’t know how willing you are to regularly use vibrators, but I’m really really similar to you and the Tenga SVR has helped me immensely.
I find that my hands just absolutely don’t work for clit stimulation when my boyfriend is inside, but this thing fixes the problem 9 out of 10 times (even when everything was numb and basically sensationless down there from a shitty birth control). You don’t even necessarily have to use the ring portion; depending on the position, the texture of it holds it in place fairly well.
Image isn’t lewd, but spoilering so there’s not a vibrator on the front page.
As I said, oral doesn't work for me mentally and fingering doesn't work because he has some dried skin from nail biting etc that hurts me.
But the thing is, I'd just like to come with him. After he's come it's not as passionate anymore. For me at least. It's not like he didn't offer or try.
I don't mind if I don't always come from sex or come several minutes after him or anything. NEVER coming during sex is what's so frustrating.
Like, yeah, he can make me come or I can make myself come afterwards and that's nice but for the love of god I want to orgasm during sex for literally just once in my life. I feel that shouldn't be so much to ask for.
try different positions, anon.
stuff like missionary doesn't work for me but doggy or anything from behind usually does.
the pressure and impatience you have in regards to cumming during sex could be the problem? it might be hard to cum while youre so stressed about wanting an orgasm.
maybe try having him edge you with his fingers, then right as you know you're about to cum, switch to penetration?
Anal stimulation also only makes me come if it's exclusively anal penetration. I already tried anal stimulation and also anal penetration during sex but even though it feels good, it's way different than actual anal sex.>>102128
I didn't really get frustrated until like a month ago though tbh.
Also tried the edging thing so, so many times. Masturbating as well as for sex. The arousal will just fade off.
Actually it totally is true. I didn't say it was impossible or that both clitoral and vaginal orgasms felt the same. It's just far less common, and research backs that up. >>102128
Agreed. If you focus on it not happening, it probably won't happen.
just sounds like bullshit semantics to me. there's no scientific reason those tiny contractions "are" "actually" orgasms. if it feels nothing like an orgasm and it's not what most women would describe as an orgasm, then it's not an orgasm.
Literally that's like saying a guy having a little drop of precum when he's aroused is "ackshyually a really mild type of orgasm." even if you can force an argument for it, that's not what 99.9% of men want when they think of an orgasm, so it doesn't matter.
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Yeah definitely sounds like a UTI, if you can't see a doctor right away these pills can work wonders in the meantime. Drinking cranberry juice can also help but it's not a cure. Hope you feel better soon!!
Yes, soap and water is fine. The only thing I can think of is that wet cum will become a weird sticky consistency when you mix it with water, but if you clean well enough it all comes (hurr durr sex pun) off.>>102396
I've found pills like Midol helps but you probably need more than that. Try stretching or exercising, I know it hurts like a bitch but it helps with body aching. But definitely see a doctor because you shouldn't be in that much pain.
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So I'm going to a gyno tomorrow because I'm pretty sure I grew up with dysmenorrhea and now I'm having some new issues :(
Growing up, every second day during every other 2nd or 3rd period (the other periods would pass by painless), I'd get so cold I'd need 2-5 blankets, a heating pad, a room heater and still freeze. Anything sensory would be overwhelming (sounds, foreign touch, light) so I'd lie down in my bed in darkness. I'd be in intense pain for a couple of hours and then finally throw up (regardless if I had eaten that day or not. If I didn't eat my body would still go through the same motions). Finally, I'd pass out. Back then I'd take pain relief after
it had started and then it'd be too late. Nowadays I make sure to snack on pain relief way ahead so I don't go through the same crazy misadventure.
Now, the past two-three months I've had some pain on the left side around my hip and kinda elsewhere around the lower abdomen. I have no idea what's wrong with my body. I'm not pregnant, I've tested it at the doctor's office. I don't have UTI (although last month when this was happening I did have a teeny tiny amount of blood and leukocytes in my urine) but I've had UTIs before and I know what they feel like. >>102458
is what triggered
my to make my post because last time I took an antibiotic treatment (my previous doctor was an idiot btw) for rosacea, I got a UTI from it loool¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I don't think what I'm having is an inflammation either because a couple of years ago I got an inflammation around my left hip (same area-ish) and at least last time I could physically feel the inflammation. BTW this wasdue to mixing antidepressants with Cerazette / birth control (I didn't make this connection until a year later where I read that someone here on lolcow or reddit had the exact same problem!) My doctor claimed it was "growing pains" (bitch, I haven't grown in 10 years!)¯\_(°⊱,°)_/¯
In any case, I'm just wondering if anyone has ever had anything similar to what I'm currently experiencing. It's been twice now that it's happening about 1-2 weeks before my actual period. I can't handle stress that well either while it's ongoing. Sorry about the length!
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Wouldn't say I'm numb down there, but I only have a real orgasm through heavy clitoral vibration too.
The hottest orgasm I ever had was when a hookup tied me down and forced me to cum with one of these. He put this right on my clitoris and blasted the highest setting. I came so hard I turned red. I can never produce the same result from penetration or masturbating with my fingers. You're not alone.
You're absolutely NOT alone, Anon. I'm exactly the same. Didn't masturbate until I was 17. Although not from shame, just didn't feel the need.
However, I can't handle the frustration very well and just thinking about this numb ass clit makes me angry cry. I don't own a vibrator, but I get off to shower hose on highest setting.
your gyno can tell you more but ovulation pain maybe? maybe even a cyst or polycystic ovary.
with the episodes you mention, there's a type of migraine called 'abdominal migraine', just one example of the types but you don't need to have a headache to have a migraine. the timing with your period, sensory changes and sensitivity, vomiting, all happening in an episode, these kinda do sound like migraine. a neurologist is best placed to determine that if your doc or gyno can't figure it out.
It just never does anything and i dont feel the want?
I feel abnormal because it seems everyone is, but i do want and have had sex
pull the hood up & shine your phone flashlight on it. you should be able to see and pinch it off.
if that fails take a bath and pull back your hood underwater
I don’t grow hair there but my bf has a lot of hair so during sex every once in a while a hair will get stuck in the hood.
The first few times I thought I had an UTI as well because masturbating etc caused such an intense stinging sensation. But thank god I took a closer look and found the hair before seeing a doctor.
About the removal, what >>102841
That doesn’t even sound like a mild case but normal vaginismus to me.
Have you talked to your OB/GYN about it?
I've never been to an OB/GYN, hah, maybe it's time.
I was under the impression though that vaginismus was muscle cramping so much it made it impossible to insert anything?
I would definitely see an obgyn, things used to hurt me so badly and be so tight they couldn't get the speculum in. I was referred to a physical therapist that specializes in gynecological issues and it helped me a lot. The pain and muscle tightness from my endometriosis kept everything way too tight all the time and fucked up my abdominal muscles. I'll probably never insert large things for fun but now I can get a tampon in with no pain and get examined, plus it improved my posture and my periods hurt less too.>>103070
It sucks but knowing what it is and when it'll be over helps. Do you track your nutrition? I was doing research on PMS to try and find something to help and ended up figuring out I didn't get nearly enough calcium in my diet. Once I got that where it should be my mood improved and it was shorter. Still not entirely gone, but now I just vaguely consider suicide for a day instead of actively planning it for 3. It may not work for you but it's worth tracking to see if it is.
said. It’s incredible how big of an influence your diet has on hormonal issues. Whenever I become lazy and start eating more sugar and processed foods, my pms symptoms and period cramps become immediately worse.
A plant-based diet (or at least cutting out dairy and eat less but better quality meat) has also helped me a lot.
I recommend reading the woman code. I don’t agree with anything written in it, but it did help me see what I do wrong.
Also blood levels. Calcium, magnesium, vitamin d, b12, b6, C and K are important and can affect your menstrual cycle.
If none of this helps, maybe think about trying agnus castus or hypericum perforatum. (shouldn’t be combined with hormonal contraceptives though, as it can make them ineffective)
What exactly do you mean by light period?
Is it just lighter than usual or really just like spotting?
If it would still classify as a period (like, deep red blood not just pinkish discharge, maybe tiny chunks of the uterine lining, etc) you shouldn’t worry and it’s probably just some hormonal issue. Any changes in your life lately? Have you been stressed or sick, changed your diet, worked out more/less, gained/lost weight?
You could also track your temperature and cervical mucus (make sure to do it right though, maybe read up on NFP) to see if you ovulate which would be a sure sign that you aren’t pregnant. But even if you don’t ovulate it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re pregnant, just that there’s probably some hormonal imbalance.
If you feel like it, maybe take a pregnancy test. But usually the only real bleeding that happens when you’re pregnant is an Implantation bleeding which is nowhere nearly as strong as a period.
It's so different for everyone. You could be having orgasms that aren't that strong or you are getting close to orgasm but stopping before the full climax. The pre orgasm convulsions can be confusing.
Have you tried gspot stimulation? I get much better orgasms by that instead of my clit. Take your index and/or middle finger, put them inside with your fingertips facing toward your front and then curl your fingers upwards. You should feel something ridged or wrinkly, that's what you want to focus on. If masturbation isn't doing it then next time you're with a guy have him do the same thing. A lot of guys are bad at fingering simply because they are aimlessly poking around inside your pussy instead of focusing on the gspot.
Don't be surprised if it makes you feel like you have to pee. Put a towel down the first couple times because you might pee a little bit during orgasm.>>103170>>103175
I second this. If you're in America you can buy $1 pregnancy tests at Dollar Tree. It's the exact same thing as they use in the doctor's office so don't be afraid of the price. I still take two every month because I'm paranoid.
OT but that store is amazing if you need dishes, cleaning supplies, shelf stable food and candy for the movie theater.
Really stupid question but what do you do with that ridged spot?
I think I can spot my g-spot very well but I feel like it does absolutely nothing for me.
Do I maybe need to apply more pressure? I’ve seen a bunch of people do a very fast, jerky motion but it looks so rough (also I don’t think I have the strength for that).
I tried g-spot vibrators but I just can’t tell whether or not I’m touching the g-spot and it feels almost numb-ish?
Only ever came from clitoral stimulation so I don’t even know if I can come vaginally.
You can try putting your palm on your clit and moving your hand up and down if that makes sense.
Your vibrator could be too powerful but honestly I've never enjoyed gspot vibrators at all.