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No. 71573

Last thread was about 2 years ago and it's almost at its limit!

First Thread >>>51836

No. 71592

How come rubbing my clit during penetration is damn near impossible ?! I orgasm from clitoral Stimulation only so when I’m with my boyfriend I try to rub my clit during sex but it’s hard as hell. Especially cuz his girth stretches it out. I tried to use a vibrator while he was on top And I was face down but it didn’t really help much. Felt like I was very close but then nothing would happen. And I’ve done it myself with a thick ass dildo by bending it so it’s rubbing against my clit and it was amazing. I’ve also done it with makeup brushes (had them angled up towards the g spot) and again, amazing. Just can’t seem to do it with him.

No. 71599

It's a weird question and I tried to google it first but since it's very specific it didn't work.
I'm technically a virgin as in my hymen is still there, and sometimes when I'm really aroused or in certain positions, like sitting on a chair with knees up to my chest, I feel a slight pain on the inside. It's so slight it ends up being somehow pleasant. I've always assumed it was my hymen stretching, am I correct?

No. 71600

>>71599
yep. your muscles expand when you get aroused so the feeling is of stretching and tightening of the hymen.

No. 71601

>>71592
is you clit lubed up? i find that helps. also, unfortunately this doesn't work that well with circumcised men since they don't have the loose skin that needs to be there. so idk if that's your problem too. dildos work cause you're manipulating it yourself.

No. 71602

>>71600
So after 3-4 times of PIV sex, since the hymen will be torn enough I won't feel that sting anymore, right?

No. 71607

>>71592
And just pressing your clit against the moving benis during fuggenings doesn't suffice?

No. 71608

>>71599
>>71600
damn I was wondering what that was, thank goodness for this thread lol

No. 71609

>>71602
yes, once your hymen is torn all the way it basically disappears. then you won't feel that. you basically will only feel arousal.

No. 71616

>>71609
Ooh understood. Thanks! I've had this question in my mind for a while.

>>71608
I know right? Hopefully all that stretching has torn apart the hymen at least a little bit, so that we will be able to enjoy benis with no pain from the first time

No. 71621

>>71592
I have the same problem. It just doesn't work or feel good during sex. I just orgasm a few times before, and if I'm still horny, after.

No. 71649

I'm not sure if this is the place for this question, but it's related enough. How can I make sure I get all of my bf's cum out of my vagina? I know douching is bad, so I get in the shower and use the shower head to kind of squirt water up there, but in the morning, the smell is so rank because I can never seem to get it all. He cums A LOT more than normal.

No. 71651

>>71649
that's also bad, anon, you shouldn't be really trying to get it out like that. wear a pad or pantyliner after sex so it comes out naturally. by putting any water in there you are removing the bacteria and could get a nasty infection.

No. 71652

I had PIV for the first time (If you exclude the time we put it in and I quickly took it out my first) and It was really painful, I was on top as that was the only way I can get it in. It was a different pain other than penetration pain….
I also made me wanna shit, I’m not sure if that’s connected

No. 71654

>>71649
Go pee right after sex. Avoid douching, even with water. Try to push out what you can. You can also use your fingers to scoop some out. If the scent bothers you, I suppose you could wear a menstrual cup to try to catch some of it before it hits the air.

No. 71655

>>71649 use condoms. it will protect you from STDs and rank

No. 71658

>>71655
I'm allergic. Not just to latex, but I think also to the lube they all have on them (even the synthetic and animal skin kind.) Plus, not pulling out is our shared fetish.

>>71654
Good advice, thank you! It's occurred to me that maybe the bad smell is a yeast infection because of they way I've tried to clean down there.

No. 71661

>>71658
It might be a yeast infection. See your gyno about it, if you can. Treating it on your own can exacerbate it if the problem is not what you think it is.

No. 71662

How do I make my vagina really clean? I know this sounds gross but I feel like I have a constant bad smell and I know it isn't my "normal" smell. I also get this weird heat coming from down there when I have the smell and I've gone to a gyno and she said it's fine? (I know it isn't). I get the nasty cottage cheese and I have tried to use products to clean it and in general I clean it and shower every single day and I'll use warm water after peeing to clean it a bit sometimes but I cannot seem to feel clean or smell clean down there. I feel really uncomfortable and I just feel like a disgusting person because of it but I really don't know what to do.

No. 71663

>>71662
Go to a different OB GYN. Even if it is fine a good one would tell you why there is a change.
Could be also stress, hormonal changes, diet changes and so on. Your vagina can smell in many different ways.

No. 71666

>>71662
I second this: how does one properly clean down there while showering in order to prevent any kind of infection?

No. 71670

>>71666
No much rocket science. Dont lather it too much and for gods sake dont insert anything inside. A delicate soap/lotion dedicated to it (loads of them on the market) with a quick cleaning does the job. The less I run irritate or focus besides a fast clean the less problems I have.

No. 71677

>be 26
>never had a gyno visit before
>still don't plan on it because no insurance
How fucked am I by not going? I keep track of my health and I visit doctors for general problems when it's bad enough to see one, but I just can't afford to see one

No. 71690

>>71677
Are you in the US? If so, Planned Parenthood works on a sliding scale.
How fucked you are depends on luck, and if you are sexually active.

No. 71694

Is no hair on the labia and only on the mons pubis really a thing? I have hair all over and I've always thought it would be weird for people to only shave one part

No. 71695

>>71666
Plain water. The vagina is a self cleaning device.

https://pelvicguru.com/2015/01/10/your-vagina-is-not-cussing-good-simple-vulvovaginal-hygiene-tips/

I have never had any vagina problems, never had a yeast infection etc… Vagina does not smell nor apparently taste like anything(lol) when it is left on it's own, it takes care of itself.

No. 71699

>>71677
As >>71690 mention PP is great, they can even see you for free if you are low income. If you are healthy enough, don't need bc and do safe sex you're probably okay. I put it off for years because of a mix of no insurance, being healthy, and only ever having had sex with one person and using condoms. When I finally got insurance my doctor made a big deal about a gyno check up and everything was fine, I actually feel like it wasn't really necessary. But for the sake of safety or peace of mind if you can get one for free at PP you should.

No. 71703

>>71694
oh i do it all the time, shave the bikini line and labia majora and leave the mons alone, because the hair on the mons pubis is always horribly stubbly and painful growing back. 10/10 for me, it has a smooth shaved feeling but none of the pain and discomfort. highly recommend it anon

No. 71706

>>71607
Lmao nope not at all! Even on top I get so so close and then nothing!! I think the closest I got was in the backseat of his car cuz of the angle and my clit rubbing against his skin and joggers. We could’ve had a big one at the same time but my body just flaked. Still bummed about it cuz I could feel the buildup and everything.
>>71601
No, we actually avoid lube if possible because we believe it causes me BV/makes it worse. But I can definitely try it on the clit only idk why I haven’t thought of that.
>>71621
I try to after but my clit gets swollen and tender as hell. Also, my vagina gets tingly and twitchy when we’re done so I’ve been assuming I have been orgasming, just not in the way I’m used to if that makes sense. It kinda feels like my vag is convulsing and that randomly happens for me after an intense climax from Masturbation.

No. 71711

>>71599
i came to the thread because i experienced something similar. If i dont have sex for a while and i get turned on after nothing for three weeks, it starts burning a lot until it gets wet and starts to dull out

it just feels super wierd

No. 71750

>>71666
Summer's Eve wash, or something similar. Only Externally. If you have a detachable showerhead, rinse with that. If not, use a portable bidet.

No. 71753

has anybody here had labiaplasty? i'm strongly looking into getting it. i used to have the pink innie kind of vulva you usually see in porn, but over time i've noticed it's not as pretty as it used to be and i'm also worried that there might be an underlying health issue bc the change is so drastic to even how it was a year ago… i'm interested in hearing from anyone who's had experience with it or know women who have and can tell me how it affects things down there in the long run

No. 71754

>>71753
If you think that you are having an underlying health issue, I advice you go to the gynecologist first instead…

No. 71755

>>71753

You can lose sensitivity by severing the nerve endings in the inner labia. At worst you could develop tough scar tissue.

Don't compare yourself to what you see in porn or look to porn for affirmation of the beauty of your body, anon.

No. 71756

>>71753

How old are you? The size and color of the inner labia, hood, and clitoris can change throughout a woman's lifetime.

No. 71757

Is anyone here dealing with post-menopausal changes?

I developed breast cancer at a younger-than-average age when I nowhere close to natural menopause. Because of my cancer's estrogen and progesterone receptivity, my ovaries were removed as part of treatment. I experienced menopause practically overnight.

I am unable to take hormone replacement because of the risk that it could contribute to my cancer recurring.

Now, nearly four years later, the walls of my vagina are so thin I cannot insert even a q-tip without drawing blood, and I have developed pelvic floor dysfunction. Granted, I have also pretty much lost my formerly very high sex drive, so…no great loss?

I don't know how I feel about it all, really.

No. 71767

>>71757
Can't you ask your doctor about topical estrogens like Promestriene, anon? I think you can use them.

No. 71768

>>71753
do not get it. >>71755 is basically right, only you -do- and will lose sensitivity. the scar tissue will also become numb and dark anyways. it's a totally cosmetic surgery but it has many side effects and depending on how short it goes it can give an increased UTI and even yeast infection risk.

No. 71807

>>71768
i only advocate for labia surgery if its actually a real problem, i'm talking some HUGE flaps that get in the way/make things uncomfortable. a lil bit of beef is normal ladies, unless its actually a problem in your life theres no need to hack your privates off. guys don't really care as long as its clean, but there are still some dickholes who believe women should have non existent labia (like in porn ofc) the solution is simple: don't sleep with these assholes and if you do, cut all contact and tell everyone you know how rancid his dick was.

No. 71819

>>71807
i just in general don't advocate surgeries that change the body for the male gaze. breast enhancement, genital cosmetic surgery, butt implants. all of which are constantly defended as being 'for the woman' despite the fact that insecurities and discontent about those areas stem from men's view of women. even >>71753 said she wants her vag to look like porn vag. but why lose sensitivity just to look good?

No. 71838

I don't mean to come off as someone whos like "teehee I'm so tight it hurts to put anything in" but everything hurts to put in. When i try to finger myself it will hurt really bad and it seems like I can't get off with any simulation at all (vaginal,nipple, clitoral, etc) anal feels kind of okay if the object isn't too big, it just seems nothing can get me off and I can't put anything in there, i know where my hole is and everything but when i try to put a tampon in it either wont accept it or feels very unnatural like its in the wrong hole? I want to enjoy sex, it seems like I can get myself off with fantasies but when I actually touch myself it hurts or i feel nothing

No. 71842

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>>71838
If you're having trouble with tampons, see a gynecologist.

No. 71843

>>71838

are you making sure you're adequately turned on before you try putting anything in? using lube and being as relaxed/comfortable as possible might help, it could just be an issue of you being too tense rather than too tight. but ultimately you should see a doctor about it so you can figure out what's causing it and go from there, some tightness is normal but if putting even small objects like tampons in causes you severe pain that's worth getting checked out imo

No. 71844

>>71843
the thing is I get turned on but when anything touches my vagina or nipples I get turned off? I can easily get riled up by thinking about sex but I turn off when something touches my vagina, I don't have dysphoria or anything, it just feels.. weird?

No. 71845

>>71844
Huh, vaginismus comes to mind when I read whats happening with you. Might be worth looking into.

No. 71846

>>71838
You sound like you have a hormonal imbalance, maybe you have too low progesterone, your doctor can prescribe a cream or bc

No. 71867

>>71838
I used to have this exact same issue, even a pinky finger would cause excruciating, burning pain that felt like being fucked by a hot knife. I have always been able to get off through clitoral stimulation though orgasms were painful. I also have endometriosis and had excruciating abdominal pain during periods. Go to the doctor, turns out I had a type of vaginismus and abdominal myofacial pain syndrome. Basically, my muscles inside and out lock and go into overdrive. I was sent to a gynecological physical therapist that helped a ton, I can now wear a small menstrual cup or light tampon, though it may be a year of work before anything nearly penis sized can go in. It's pretty cool though, I forget the name of it, but I got to use electrodes near my vagina to see the muscle tension and learn how to fully release muscles that are tense all the time. She taught me different muscle exercises and it's made a huge difference, though I still don't know if I'll be able to get off vaginally.

No. 71869

This probably doesn't belong here but it also doesn't belong in the masturbation thread either.

I'm pretty much only ever sexual with my boyfriend, not really on my own. Sometimes, I do get horny and want to do things wit him ASAP but can't, and porn sounds interesting for an alternative. But as soon as I lay eyes on anything porn related I instantly lose any hint of sex drive, I'll even just dry up. I'm not sure what it is about needing the actual physical act of sex, if it's mental or my vagina is just picky. Does anyone else have anything like this?

No. 71883

Does anyone else ever have cramps after orgasm? Maybe half of the time I orgasm I end up getting cramps that feel just like menstrual cramps, ranging in intensity from "This is uncomfortable" to "This is horrible I'm never masturbating again." It happens after clit stimulation, penetration is no issue. I'm on birth control so idk if that could be a potential reason?

No. 71917

>>71869
Yes. I don't masturbate often, but when I do, I just replay memories of things I've done with my boyfriend.

>>71883
I have a copper IUD and it happens sometimes. Staying hydrated and paying attention to electrolytes helps me.

No. 71928

>>71755
>>71768
>>71819

i think i'm okay with loss of some sensitivity from getting it, i admit i do mostly want it so i can feel confident about my vulva's appearance again but it also causes some physical discomfort as well, especially when i exercise or move around a lot during the day

No. 71934

>>71652
i recently lost my v-card and the first few times i felt like i had to shit too. i asked my friends and they said that they feel like that sometimes.

it happened when i was on top tbh. very uncomfy as i like that position :/

No. 72584

Getting my first session of laser today, nervous as fuck. Has anyone here completed their recommended amount of sessions for an area?

No. 72639

my bf and i had sex today for the first time in over 10 days due to visiting family. usually we go at it 4-5 times a week with me initializing half the time. when we were done there was this insane burning leftover in my vag. i don't think it's an STD because there are no other symptoms and i think i've felt similar sensations before.

i have a fear that my ability to enjoy PIV sex has been decreasing over the last few years, which started even before i started dating him. i don't know if it's because my bfs have been increasing in size and girth or what. he hits my cervix occasionally but that's not where the majority of the bad sensations are. like sex still feels good but after a while i have little pricks of pain / dull aches along my walls. lately when i cum it's more often despite him pounding me not because of it. i'm really sad because i really like having sex with my boyfriend and i want to enjoy every part, but the thought of PIV is starting to make me squirm a bit.

i don't know what's going on, have i developed a sort of vaginismus or something?

No. 72654

>>72639
Do you use lubricant anon? Sometimes your natural lubrication isnt enough, that would be my first suggestion.

No. 72670

>>72639
Sounds like you might need a good lube. Sliquid was my altime fave but currently I feel in love with an oil based lube called The Butters. It’s amazing. I used to have similar problems I would experience like mild to intense stinging sensations and general sores during and especially after sex which made it suck. I basically found out that I needed to invest in a really safe and slippery lube and better condoms to prevent extra friction.

No. 72715

>>72639
i was with an ex for a number of years and stopped enjoying PIV sex with him. it hurt like hell and he couldn't even get it in anymore, he googled it and said i have vaginismus or something and wanted me to go to the doctor. it didn't help with lube either.

long story short, i ended up dumping him because he was physically abusive as well and we weren't intimate anymore so really it was a very shite relationship.

i was scared about dating again because i thought my vagina was broken but when i met a guy i really fancied sex was an absolute pleasure again and no issue. i literally think with my previous ex he made me so tense i took a physical aversion to him.

i'm not sure about the details of your relationship but sometimes i think the body can tell you things you're consciously suppressing. like i just didn't fancy my ex anymore, he repulsed me in most ways (i got tense after moving in with him and seeing how unhygienic and lazy he was 24/7)

sometimes it is the guys. my ex tried to say i was damaged but he was just a massive turn off

No. 72716

>>72715

Similar thing happened to me. PIV sex has always been difficult for my fiance and I as he's pretty big (not a humblebrag, it's honestly mostly inconvenient) and it takes a LOT of foreplay for it to feel good for me, or even fit it in. This started to make me anxious–like, if we couldn't do it, I'd feel like all the pressure was on me because we physically could not have PIV if I wasn't 100% into it, and of course that made me MORE anxious, MORE tense, and MORE incapable.

Seriously, never underestimate how much your tension can affect you physically. What worked for me is talking it out with my fiance, figuring out non PIV things we can do together, and learning to be okay with trying it, even if it doesn't go well. Also, buying a Hitachi Magic Wand. Those things really are magical. And lube, as everyone has said!

A good dude will listen and be eager to help discover things you can together that'll feel good for both of you.

No. 72742

>>72715
lmao, did we date the same person? I went through almost this exact experience, down to being really repulsed by how lazy and unhygienic he was, and that making it even harder to get into sex when I was already having problems. My ex didn't even bother telling me I had a problem and needed to get help for it. Pretty much just shrugged it off as being entirely my issue, and not to bother him with my sexual needs until I was "better."

after we broke up, I was really scared to date again because I thought my vagina was just fundamentally broken. Eventually started dating my now bf who gets me off almost every time we're intimate. PIV has never been painful or uncomfortable with him. Worst that happens is sometimes we have sex when I'm too tired or not fully in the mood, so it won't feel AS good.

imo, the key to consistently good sex is love and trust. I didn't have that with my ex, who simply did not care at all about my needs, so our sex life was awful to the point that I was having constant pain and discomfort from PIV.

No. 72768

>>72654
>>72670
>>72715
he slides pretty easily so i thought i was wet enough. though maybe i just dry up quickly.

i have been really stressed lately because of an interview. our relationship's also been strained because of my anxiety, the small distance (since he wouldn't answer me for long periods), and a breakup a few weeks before. i'm really into him physically but i haven't liked the way he's been treating me…i see how all of this could make me tense up subconsciously.

i'll take it in steps and see how finishing the interview, talking about our issues, and then lube will affect PIV sex. thanks everyone!

No. 72807

>>72742
And I think we dated the same person too. Fucking hell. It seems pretty obvious where the blame lies with this kind of issue then, doesn't it?

No. 72857

>>72807
i'm op of >>72715 and it is honestly so nice to hear people have been in similar situations i had felt so embarrassed by that and i had friends that had told me how great looking my ex was etc so i never felt comfortable to tell them how much he turned me off lol.

he was honestly such a piece of shit, i dumped him in 2014 and have been with my current boyfriend since 2015 and we still haven't slowed down from the initial honeymoon period with sex and he makes me cum multiple times. he takes care of himself and lived on his own for a few years so knows how to clean etc, he is also very attentive and doesn't even mind period sex, my ex was always very quick to let me know how repulsed he was by me at that time of the month.

it's so funny to me because my ex like prided himself on being a good guy (aka a nerd that sat and played video games while i worked a 40hr week to support us both) and my current bf would be seen as a bad boy but he treats me like a princess were the good guy treated me like his fucking mother

No. 72971

>>72742
I had this experience too, where piv would be so painful etc, but the difference was that my ex did actually genuinely spend all this time going down on me and saying it was fine if we couldn't etc.
After I broke up with him, I never had the problem again. Turns out my vagina just hated him.
I think it all came down to WANTING to love him rather than actually loving him. You don't need a reason to break up with someone.

No. 72976

>>72857
Seriously, stop being me, it's freaking me out! I am in the same boat as you are now. Sex has been great, with it's natural peaks and occasional troughs. Nothing has felt fake and there's no pressure to perform if you don't feel like it. We're happy to just cuddle and snooze sometimes instead of having crazy, fun sex!
Really pleased for you and I seriously hope you guys have a great life together. Life's too short for shitty lads and even shittier sex!

No. 73183

This isn't vagina related and it's embarrassing as all hell so sorry in advance, I couldn't find a better thread to put it in

I used to struggle a lot with interstitial cystitis, never got am actual diagnosis but that's the only thing that suits what was going on. It was like having a constant uti discomfort so bad that all I could do was sit on the toilet and cry. It was a million times worse if I was stressed and I actually had to leave a job over it. Fast forward, it's for the most part better now (this went on for years) except.. I have a leaky bladder going on. Throughout the day things will get damp down there so I have to wear feminine products or whatever shit. And when I wake up in the morning it's the same. Not like I've full on pissed myself but like my bladder is always leaking so subtly that I don't notice. I'm worried that it's linked to the cystitis thing and that it somehow did proper damage somewhere in there.
I've never had kids and every resource online says this is a post-kid thing. I didn't go to the doctor with the cystitis thing because I was broke at the time but now I can go I'm just fighting the embarrassment haha kill me

No. 74606

myths aside, does having sex/masturbation/tampons/etc change your vagina? I find it hard to believe constant sex doesn't change your vagina

I'm a virgin and have always been weird to avoid putting things in there because I'm afraid it will stretch me out, ik its dumb and everything but have you guys noticed changes in your inner labia after having sex?

No. 74607

>>74606
If it can go back to normal after a baby coming out of it, no dick is gonna stretch it out.

Your vaginal walls will open up with arousal but even if you’re having sex twice a day every day, your vagina won’t somehow lose its elasticity. Have a look at the anatomy around there and the type of tissue. Your mouth doesn’t get permanently stretched out if you puff your cheeks out or from chewing everyday does it?

No. 74608

>>74607
well I know it can feel tight despite sex but I mean more about the appearance/labia
like I find it hard to believe those vaginas with really long inner labias got that without stretching having anything to do with it

No. 74609

>>74608
The size of inner or outer labia has absolute nothing to do with having sex.

No. 74611

>>74608
Okay, now I'm certain you're a robot. Shoo.

No. 74612

>>74609
how do long labias get that way though? I'm not saying specifically sex, in fact I had a friend who had a long labia due to getting several surgeries on her urethra when she was younger despite her being a virgin, I just don't understand ygm ? like does elasticity differ from person to person?

No. 74613

>>74612
It's genetics you retarded ass male.

No. 74616

>>74613
It's true. Most vaginas will enlarge to do puberty, some don't enlarge that much. But even when we are small, our lips have pretty much the same shape.
I.e I was curious and have looked at my vagina when I was 5.

No. 74619

>>74606
…it's muscle. it's not just a flesh tube.

>>74612
the labia have nothing to do with the inside of the vagina. inner labia is for protecting the urethra and vaginal entrance and outer are for protecting the inner things, which aren't regular skin.

No. 74620

>>74612
the labia is so unrelated to the actual vagina and having sex and i dont know why im bothering to respond to your fucking robot self but god yall could benefit from an anatomy lesson

No. 74635

>>74612
I don't understand what kind of retarded brain process you need to have to think that long labias come from sex. They vary from person to person like many other things on the human body. Shouldn't be hard to comprehend.

No. 74638

>>74612
Yeah and men's penis get skinnier the more they have sex too (like a pencil sometimes!). That's just how life is… That's why women avoid incels and robots like the plague because they want to protect their precious dick.

No. 74639

Man, I love when incels come in and express their self-taught stupidity. This is just another one of those things they use to try to make themselves feel better (like how women won't date short guys or guys with thin necks?) hilarious.

No. 74701

>>74639
>women don't date guys with thin necks
I too am only attracted to people with downs syndrome

No. 74953

>>74701
it has been 4 days and I am still fucking laughing

No. 74961

I donated eggs last Tuesday, and while they told me in the clinic that my period would come two weeks from then, I had it today, 5 days after the retrieval.
Am I going to die?
Google doesn't seem to give me a satisfying answer and I won't be able to see a doctor until Wednesday.

No. 74994

>>74961
I would take advantage of a nurse hotline (24/7 hotline) if it is really bothering you. And you can always check into urgent care too.

No. 75028

>>74606
like others have said, your vagina is literally two walls of muscle pressing together, and like all muscles, activity only makes them stronger, it doens't wither them away. vulvas may be delicate, but they're sensitive to things like infection and pain and small surface injuries, the actual structural integrity of your vagina is very strong. vaginal birth can damage the muscle in some cases, but even big dicks are nothing compared to what your vagina can handle without long lasting damage.
if you ever feel "loose" it probably means your muscles have weakened and you could stand to do some kegels or get more exercise in general, nothing to do with how often you have sex.

No. 75108

>>74606
>have you guys noticed changes in your inner labia after having sex?
Not from sex, but I noticed that the labia on the "side" of the clit I touch most often while masturbating has a different appearance from the other side.

Other than that, no changes. Been a almost labialess innie all my life and still am, and I've had sex regularly for almost 9 years now.

No. 75192

This is really embaressing but here goes nothing.
So I used to masturbate a lot as a preteen and a teen (even before I got my first period) and now that I'm masturbating way less I'm really embarrassed about my labia. Like a few anons mentions I think the tips are darker like scarred or something and the flaps are relatively long and like the other anon I'm considering surgery or something but I can't cough up the money for a while. Is there anything else I can do, like cutting off all sexual stimulation until it might just shrink or…?
I'm really insecure about this and I broke up with my bf because I didn't want him to see my vag and be grossed out about how long and dark it is and I really don't know what to do anymore.

No. 75193

>>75192
You can't change your vagina but the good news is that most men actually don't care they just want to see a vagina no matter how it looks. Your vagina isn't different from most other women, it is just different from what you see in porn.

Keep it clean and groom it in the way you like. And don't worry about how it looks! Seriously, that is not something to feel bad about. In fact, there are some men who even prefer vaginas that look the way yours does.

No. 75194

>>75192
>>75108
the discoloration of the labia comes from exposure to friction/clothing. especially if it's peeking out, it dries out and thickens from touhcing your panties. it can't stretch from sex or anything. only way is if you literally put weights on it.

No. 75196

>>75192
That's normal, mine are so long and dark my mother took me to the gyno when I was a kid because she thought there was something wrong with them. I was told by the doctor that they're perfectly normal but if they become uncomfortable they can be trimmed. I can't wear tight jeans comfortably but the idea of anything being cut down there is so terrifying I'm not bothering with it. It has nothing to do with sex or masturbation: I didn't masturbate or have sex until I was an adult.

No. 75199

>>75194
[Citation Needed]

No. 75201

>>75196
good thing you're not a boy…

>>75199
??? what do you mean. that's literally why it happens. inner labia, is made from semi-permeable membrane which isn't supposed to come into contact with anything.

No. 75202

>>75201
>good thing you're not a boy…
lel, I've joked about this with my mom, I have to adjust myself like a guy when I wear pants.
Or do you mean circumcision?

No. 75203

>>75202
i meant the pants!

…i feel sick now though. ugh…

No. 75209

>>75194
lol what are you talking about
the inner labia turns dark because you’ve gone through puberty, fucking kek

No. 75212

>>75209
no you idiot, we're talking about areas that are darker not the whole thing. i have long inner labia and the areas that stick out are less sensitive and even darker. same with scars. go ask your gyno.

No. 75218

Any anons here using non-hormonal contraception, like the copper IUD or the cap? I have a family planning appointment today as I’m 8 weeks post-partum and I’m not sure what to ask for. After 10 years on the pill/implant and nearly a year of pregnancy I want to give my body a break from hormone rushes for a while.

No. 75222

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>>75218

I got my first copper IUD (Gynefix) in 2012. It's better than being on hormones, but it's not perfect either. Mine (or rather its thread) often poked my bf. The thread was trimmed several times and it still sticks out right after my period.

It really depends on the person, though. My friends never had this issue with their IUDs. I know of some women who lost it, that never happened to me. So, tl;dr there are some issues you should be aware of, but still, it's better than taking the pill in my opinion.

No. 75223

>>75218
>>75222
I have the gynefix as well. Since 2015 and it’s going quite well. I’ve had problems in the beginning (an infection) but ever since that passed I’m good. My period cramps almost disappeared and although my blood flow is stronger, my overal period only lasts for about 5 days. I don’t think it’s for everyone but it’s a good alternative to hormones if you don’t mind having a foreign object being attached to your womb.

No. 75230

>>75222
>>75223
Thanks anons, I’ve had the copper IUD fitted. See how it goes, wish me luck!

No. 75233

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>>75230
I hope you find it to be the lesser evil as much as I have!
One thing that helped me (everyone is different, though) with the initial issues of spotting and cramping was taking vitamin E every day. [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed?term=Vitamin%20E%20(alpha%20tocopherol)%20in%20the%20management%20of%20menorrhagia%20associated%20with%20the%20use%20of%20intrauterine%20contraceptive%20devices#]
A hot water bottle and black panties were also nice to have while my body was adjusting.

No. 75248

>>75913
Ah thank you anon. That really makes me feel a lot better about myself. :)

>>75916

Thank you anon
Besides the horror having your labia cut, wouldn't it still scar? Not to mention how painful it would be to walk for a while…

No. 75249

>>75193
>>75196
I'm terrible at tagging sorry.
>sage

No. 76051

I started birth control as I got diagnosed with PCOS. I specifically asked about mood changes since I have severe depression that I only just managed to stabilise last year. She told me very few women have mood side effects, something I know is complete BS. I figured I'd ignore her and try it anyway and just had two weeks of being the worst bitch ever to my poor housemates. I couldn't do my coursework, socialise or be happy at all.
I came off pill because of this and have a appointment with my regular male gp on the 17th. I should have gone to him in the first place, he at least listens to my needs. Anyway I started my period now and holy hell it's the worst. My periods have always been a little rough but I spent this afternoon hunched over a hot water bottle moaning in pain. I had to dig out my old cocodamol tablets to even make a dent in the pain. It's much heavier than usual and has so many gross clumpy bits, it's nasty. I presume it's because I'd been months without one but that's happened before and never been this bad. I could honestly kill me Dr right now.

No. 76064

>>75248
My gyno told me if it was done well there would be minimal scarring and due to the kind of skin down there it heals fairly quickly, you can be back to normal in about a month. There is a risk of nerve damage and surgical risks like infection, though so I don't want to mess around with something that's not life threatening. Honestly I'm glad I ended up being gay, because I would probably have to have it done to have sex comfortably with a man. I have to spread them to insert anything otherwise they get pinched up inside lel.

No. 76066

>>76064
your gyno is a liar. the scar tissue down there tends to be way more sensitive than other areas and doesn't always heal quickly at all. i still have an issue with an area outside that got torn in childbirth 10 years after the fact.

No. 76072

>>76066
Damn, I guess she was trying to sell me a labioplasty…Good thing I didn't take her up on that

No. 76076

>>76072
Definitely. Nta but they do try a lot to sell cosmetic procedure to women, and men, and to get women to circumcise their sons still. I actually injured my own labia with my nails before and was told it would heal like in a day and it didn't need stitches but it's still scarred and it burned when I peed for 2 weeks.

No. 76086

I have rather large labia minora, with the one on the left being slightly larger than the one on the right.
Right at the top of the bigger one (like, right where the labia connects with the clitoris) there is a dry spot that doesn't really go away. Sometimes it peels off and then it's gone for a day or two, but it always comes back. I have had this issue for like a year now and I'm wondering what this could be? I've tried putting several creams on it but it doesn't go away.

No. 76097

>>76086
this might sound weird, but have you tried using a sex lubricant like "astroglide" it has helped "cure" my vaginal lip dryness applied daily but very lightly. I apply, dab some off, and then later re apply. its moisturizing and meant for your sensitive bits :)

No. 76103

>>76097
Thank you for the tip anon, I will definitely try that out!

No. 76109

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>>76103
Yes lubricant also makes a vaginal moisturizer, if you want to try that.

No. 76721

So, lately, I've been bleeding after sex. I started NuvaRing about 3 weeks ago and it's nearly time for me to replace it, so could that be related? My boyfriend and I don't have very rough sex or any thing, but after I wipe, there's always blood. Sometimes fresh, sometimes brown.

No. 76753

>>76721
Sounds like spotting, totally normal when you start a new birth control.

No. 76836

I'm gonna experiment my first time with a dick real soon. I'm tight as hell, i can fit two fingers halfway in at the very best and only on a good day. Any advice to make me less nervous? What pain should I expect to feel? Is it going to feel good after? How does it feel? It's an "average" size dick apparently in case you were wondering (it looks big to me tho but that's because i litterally never saw a dick irl before)

No. 76839

>>76836
Be super turned on! Lots of foreplay, and take it slow. Maybe try being on top since that lets you have better control of how much is going into you. Also for me personally when I'm on top I feel like my vaginal canal is more… straight? So it goes in easier. Slightly TMI but hope it helps, good luck!

No. 76840

>>76836
Tell him to do LOTS of foreplay, feeling you up all over, rubbing you, all focused on you and nothing to do with his dick for as long as he can manage, your body should do the work for you and make it easy 2 insert. It's designed for dicks to go in.

No. 76841

>>76839
2 perverts over here independently typing the exact same phrase out at the same time, whoops

No. 76855

>>76836
You don't have to have sex right away. Fool around first. Explore one another's bodies. Ask him what does/doesn't feel good, and be vocal in your feedback, too. You'll be more relaxed this way, and he'll have a better idea of what you like, so it shouldn't hurt.

No. 76857

>>76839
>>76840
>>76855
Thank you lots anons! My partner's exes were both virgins too so that's comforting to know. I hope it won't hurt too much (aka hope i won't be a nervous wreck and get to enjoy some of it) and that I'll be able to pleasure them properly.
Also lel at romantic slugs

No. 76884

>>76857
Bring extra lube! Number one reason sex hurts is due to lack of appropriate lubrication.

No. 77031

Hey everyone. This is kind of awkward, but I can never really orgasm during sex. Actually I can't get much pleasure at all when I'm actually doing it with someone else, to the point that jerking off to my the idea of having sex with someone is more sexually gratifying. I really think there's something wrong with me, or at least that I'm doing something wrong.

No. 77032

>>77031
*the idea

No. 77033

>>77031
Welcome to being female. Orgasming from PIV is very difficult for a woman. A man needs to do a lot more, touching, oral, toys, the problem is finding a man who will go the extra mile

No. 77035

>>77033
I've had a few partners and tried some stuff out, but nothing really clicked with me… Any advice on what to try with my current partner?

No. 77038

>>77035
I can't really advise because I have the same problem. But I can show solidarity…
If you trust him, he is prepared to dedicate time to trying things out (and you can separate yourself from the concern of pleasing him during that time) things may work out better.

I am kinda worried that if I did enjoy sex I'd be super devastated if the relationship broke up…so maybe my own worries also get in the way. Also if you're worried about money or other issues it's gonna be harder. Try and create a completely fantasy environment between you two where you forget all your worries and all about daily life.

No. 77050

>>77031
I used to only get off on clitoral stimulation, but since getting with my boyfriend, I can only cum from PIV now. Or at least a dildo/some form of penetration. Not only is he a very good lover, I'm also insanely physically attracted to him and I think that's what has helped immensely. My exs weren't ugly exactly, but my physical attraction to them wasn't this intense. Not even saying my current boyfriend is hot, but he's attractive af to me. Sorry, I know this advice probably isn't helpful at all because you can't make yourself be more attracted to someone than you are.

No. 77053

>>77035
Explain that you can't get off from PIV, so he doesn't think he's doing something wrong. Work together on other stimulation, and be very vocal about what you like. Show him if you need to. It's fine to say "higher, slower, right there" to help him out.

No. 77158

>>77050
I feel this. I'm hugely attracted to my current boyfriend and this makes sex feel way better by default. He isn't even objectively better at sex or hotter than my ex, but attraction is a little bit more complex than that.

No. 77195

>>77031
I also can’t orgasm from PIV, I never have. I can’t even cum from someone else stimulating me alone, so technically I’m the only person who’s ever made me orgasm.

I tend to masturbate while my SO gives me oral so I can cum before sex. Sometimes he puts fingers or a small vibrating bullet in/around my vagina too. Occasionally he lies on top of me, with his dick inside me, and I masturbate to orgasm like that… but it’s awkward AF so I don’t do that often. It’s nice to cum with him inside me though.

No. 77196

>>77035
Samefag but being relaxed and honest with your partner about what you want is essential if you’re going to try and cum from PIV. He needs to be willing to take instruction, basically. It does also help if you’re very attracted to your partner. (I have all this with mine and it’s made sex far more enjoyable even if I can’t cum from it.)

No. 79864

Does anyone else queef when they orgasm? Happens even without penetration, but only with a partner. It's not really an issue, I'm just not sure if it's normal.

No. 79904

>>77158
Same. I didn't get the appeal of PIV at all until I found out what it means to be intensely romantically AND physically attracted to someone and now just thinking about my bf penetrating me makes me red in the face. I don't think it's fucking demisexuality or anything I just think girls (and maybe guys sometimes?) feel compelled to fuck for the sake of it before they actually WANT to fuck someone and it ruins the appeal

No. 80070

What is the best way to shave down there?
I'm always afraid I'm gonna hurt it if I use a razor so I just try to cut the hair really short using small scissors but it takes such a long time and grows back so fast.

No. 80078

All these posters who don’t cum from PIV sex, why do you have sex then? I don’t like being penetrated either, I try to try it out and insert things into my vagina and it really hurts and I can never get anything more than one finger in there before it stings and I stop. I’ve never had a penis in there, I don’t really see the point in ever having one in there.

I’ve only ever had clitoral orgasms. But I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything, I enjoy my clitoral orgasms.

I don’t really enjoy being eaten out though, a few people have gone down on me and it was never a good experience.

No. 80080

>>80078
Because it still feels really good and it conceptually turns me on a lot while it's happening, it's just not usually quite enough to put me over the edge and cum, so I add or switch to clit stimulation.
It used to be only painful for me and I hated it but I explained it to my gyno and apparently I had vaginismus from a spasming/tight muscle and I was prescribed dilators and natural muscle relaxers which changed everything. I used to think sex would only ever be painful and that's just how it was but now it's only a little painful if it goes on and on and starts to chafe.

No. 80567

When I workout my vagina gets so sweaty it feels like I've peed my pants. The rest of my body is sweaty too but it never gets anywhere near as sweaty as my vagina gets. Anyone else experience this or am I just the weird sweaty vagina girl?

No. 80811

does anyone know what causes vagina pimples? yesterday it hurt when i wiped so i inspected and this time i got one on my labia minora wtf is there any way to prevent these?

No. 80818

>>80811
Are you getting them from shaving?
I keep getting bumps on my butt, not a lot, I think its heat rash though since i shave there

No. 80972

>>80567
I get a lot of discharge sometimes out of nowhere and it feels like I got my period, maybe that's what's happening to you?

No. 80978

not sure if this place is the right one to ask this but here i go.

my gf is really, really tight and my dick is bigger than average. we've had oral before and when i finger her i can barely get 2 fingers in but then there's no space left. my dick girth is like double that.

how can we have sex? don't want to hurt her(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 80979

>>80978

actually turn her on, and use lube.

No. 81016

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This is probably an asinine question, but: *Is it possible to be allergic to one man's sperm?*

For context, my current bf and I have been dating for ~9 months now. I had the Skyla IUD when we first started dating, and shortly after we began regularly having sex, I would get UTIs with an alarming frequency. Like, 2 or 3 in a 1-month period. It got so bad that the doctor that usually saw me at urgent care ended up treating me as though I had BV. When that same doctor prescribed me Macrobid, my BV/UTI went away within a day or so.

But then about a month later, I started bleeding with the Skyla still in. By that point in time, I'd had it in for a year and a half and had stopped having periods after the first month I had it. So with the bleeding and the frequent UTIs, I had it taken out. This was 2 months ago.

For the past 2 months I have not been on birth control, but have not allowed my boyfriend to cum in me, though we still had sex just as frequently as before. I did decide last month that I wanted to go back on the IUD. So I got the Kyleena one inserted on Monday morning (it is now Thursday).

My boyfriend and I have been having sex every day since Monday, but he's only cum inside me this morning. And this afternoon I wound up with another UTI that I went to urgent care for. The doctor did tell me that the IUD most likely isn't causing the UTIs, but that there is a chance that I'm allergic to my boyfriend's sperm.

The only confusing thing about that statement of hers is that I had 1 other fling before meeting my boyfriend, with a guy I only slept with once. And that guy came inside me when I had the Skyla IUD and his sperm didn't cause me to get a UTI.

No. 81017

>>81016
Does he wash his dick regularly? If he's uncut, does he clean under the foreskin?
You never know with men.

No. 81018

>>81017
Yeah, he washes his dick every time he showers. And he usually showers twice a day since he works as a contractor. And he's circumcised.

No. 81026

>>81016

are you using different lube? anything in his diet you could be allergic to? anything in yours? Make sure you consider all options. I think it was pretty reckless of her to suggest that as its extremely rare to be allergice to sperm. Do you itch, burn, swell, etc after contact within 10-30 minutes? Or is it hours later?

Sperm allergy can 100% be for some partners and not others, but again, its very rare.

If you can cross out other factors, go to your gynecologist and ask to get tested for it.

No. 81038

>>81016
this is highly unlikely. are you peeing before sex? that's a bad plan, peeing after will help prevent the utis. are you cleaning yourself after sex? you should be, many women think it's up to the man, and since he's circumcised his dick doesn't get dirty if at all. also make sure to use lube, unscented and non-oil based.

No. 81048

>>81016
IUDs can make you more susceptible to infection, but it is certainly possible to be allergic to one man's semen, and that seems to be the case here. Unless you are using condoms the other time, everything points to a semen allergy. Keep an eye on it an perhaps see an allergist.

No. 81050

different question about sperm allergies, i've tried asking friends before and nobody really knows what i'm talking about. anytime my boyfriend came inside me (only a few times because of this) within about an hour i'd start to get horrible cramping pains that lasted for a couple of hours, and it almost kind of burned. a couple of times any contact with my skin would make it really red and inflamed for a while too. i found out a while ago i had cervical ectropion and i assumed maybe the face thing was from using different acids and stuff that made my skin more sensitive, but has anybody without those circumstances felt this? it's never been agonising, just a lot more uncomfortable than i've heard other people say

No. 81061

>>81050
I get a similar thing, if came inside it doesn't sting or burn as such but you can tell the sensation is my body not agreeing with it. If on my skin, then it'll tingle and become red for a while - swallowing makes my throat tingle also and close up slightly but nothing worrying or that stops me. I've had this with two boyfriends except my last one, the difference being that he is vegan. So God knows what's cracking off.

No. 81065

>>81050
>>81061

I get the same thing too. Had it with my last 2 partners. They've both been clean and checked regularly and so have I. My doctor says I'm physically okay vaginally and there's nothing going on in there, so I am just assuming I am allergic to sperm. Within minutes of contact my fanny burns and feels like it's cramping around my hole, it's really odd. I find it's lessened when I am really, really turned on, which I am putting down to the fact I might have more of my own discharge going on in there and preventing as much sperm/vagina contact? I really don't know, but I can live with it.

No. 81136

I really hope this doesn't come across as a humble brag: so the issue i've been having is I can only orgasm from PIV, and I cum really really easily so with my bf I will orgasm like 6/7 times before he finishes. It honestly gets so painful for me, plus I squirt (so gross) and it's embarrassing as fuck. how can I control this/not orgasm so easily?

No. 81138

If I don't masturbate at least once a week, I get a strange feeling. Its not like being turned on or anything, but just an awareness? Kinda like how I feel on my period sometimes. I don't even really know how to describe it. If I masturbate, it goes away and I feel totally normal and fine. If I don't, I become progressively more aware of that area in general. Is this normal? What even is the name of this? I guess it would be the female equivalent of blue balls but not as painful? I don't even know

No. 81189

>>81136
I'm on the same boat anon, in my case It happens also with oral and even just by rubbing it. The squirting part is really annoying and I can't help but feel ashamed of myself because it looks just like urine.. I have never had a partner before for that reason

No. 81196

>>81136
I have that same problem. I've never been able to cum from just oral, and it takes a while for me to cum if someone's fingering me. But I can come in seconds if my bf's fucking me PIV.

No. 81201

>>81138
Same with me, anon, except even a bit shorter (unfortunately). I get really tense and fidgetty if I haven't flicked the bean at least once every day. Sometimes it's accompanied with arousal, but sometimes not. This is why I have a hearty laugh whenever men mention jacking off daily being a thing women could never understand. Maybe I don't 100%, but definitely to some extent.

I also have a ridiculous sex drive, so I'm not sure if it's the same with you.

No. 81217

>>81201
>This is why I have a hearty laugh whenever men mention jacking off daily being a thing women could never understand
Ahh yes the ol'
>da wimminz are incapable of comprehending the 2intense4u nature of the male sex drive
At my peak I used to masturbate 2, maybe 3+ times everyday on average. I've never been able to go for more than a week, even since I've tried consciously limiting how much I fap.

No. 81231

>>81136
Talk to your boyfriend about this so he can be aware of what's happening and how you feel about it. Try other positions, practice not letting yourself go over the edge, and see if you can/are okay with having ruined orgasms. Your bf is probably fine with the squirting, but you can talk to him if it bothers you.
I find that I can do PIV or clitoral stimulation, but not both at once, or the orgasm goes away. You could see if that works for you?

No. 81237

>>81189
It is urine…that’s why.

No. 81238

>>81237
it's not urine. lmao. it may have some in it but it's not pure urine.

No. 81242

>>81238
Then why doesn’t it come from the bartholins gland?
Why does it leave the urethra just like pee?
What is this mystery fluid with the exact viscosity of urine spurting from womens urethras?

No. 81243

>>81242
i don't know anon why don't you fucking google it and find out instead of acting like a gross incel shit.

No. 81244

>>81243
Cause I don't want to see a million images/videos of women peeing while orgasming. I'm not an incel because I don't pee during sex but whatever helps you sleep at night.

No. 81245


No. 81247

>>81243

>like a gross incel shit.


So if you don’t like squirting and believe it is pee (due to scientific studies) you’re suddenly an incel?

No. 81248

>>81247
Must have hit a nerve for peepants-chan. Only incels have bladder control and no piss fetishes.

No. 81253

>>81243
Better hope your bf never googles what squirting is because he'll probably dump your ass once he realises you're giving him a gold shower every time you fuck.

Also go to a gyno because that shit doesn't sound normal or healthy at all.

No. 81255

>>81253
I’m genuinely freaked out about how many women piss during sex and think it’s not just normal, but desirable.

The entire squirting phenomenon is fucked up and theres women out there teaching others how to piss themselves because they think it’s empowering, not weak pelvic floor muscles.

No. 81261

From what I understand squirt is pee but not day old smelly yellow pee. What happen is the bladder fill up very quickly during sexual excitation and is then released as they orgasm.
That's why a lot of squirter have to let go of their inhibition or push their pelvic floor muscle, they kinda have to force it since we're used to hold our pee in. For the one who don't have to push I guess they either have weak muscles or are extremely relaxed.

No. 81262

>>81261
It’s pee no matter how old it is. Pee does not become yellow and odorous because it sits in your bladder, and urine expelled during orgasm is exactly the same as piss they’d hold until going to the loo at work. You can try and force a distinction between types of piss if it helps you deal with it but at the end of the day piss that recently entered and evacuated the bladder is still the same smelly yellow piss in your toilet.

No. 81264

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>>81262
Yeah I agree it's piss no matter what, but it seems like your morning piss and squirting piss is not the same (less urea), it's way clearer.
Not a squirter btw, just my 0.2 cents.

Also, it made me remember this reddit thread by a poor guy who wish his gf stopped pissing on him lmao.

No. 81276

>>81264
Eeewww that poor dude. Honestly I can’t believe so many people convinced themselves that women can magically ejaculate despite lacking the equipment for it.
It went from an embarrassing thing nobody mentioned unless to their doctor, to being a fetish, to Golden showers being an American sexual norm.

Seems like more and more women are learning from porn that it’s normal, not a major malfunction, and there’s literal lectures on learning how to piss all over yourself. Stranger still are the men who claim it’s desirable or attractive.

I get that it’s embarrassing and sufferers wanting to normalise it but honestly ladies need to stop forcing the claim that it’s normal to spray piss like an ocelot and do some kegels.

No. 81279

It is hilarious the amount of people that don't know squirting is just pissing yourself. I remember this girl use to boast about being a squirter. Then she hooked up with some guy they got mad she spoilt his mattress lol. Woof.

No. 81280

>>81279
There was like a two year period where people got really vocal about it and insisted anyone who said it’s pee is just ignorant about female anatomy. If you didn’t squirt you were some pitiable little lamb who’d never had an orgasm. Oh the irony.

No. 81299

>>81261

>not day old smelly yellow pee. What happen is the bladder fill up very quickly during sexual excitation and is then released as they orgasm.


Hahahahaha what. Do you think pee gets stale and smelly in your bladder or something?

No. 81300

>>81299
I guess I didn't express myself properly. Your morning pee tend to be really yellow and smelly because your kidneys are still working during the night but are not getting any hydratation so your pee is highly concentrated in urea, whereas the "fresh" pee you make during the day is clearer and not as smelly, because there is more water and less urea. (when you're well hydrated)
I was trying to find an explanation why all those people think they're not getting peed on when their gf "squirt" on them, and the fact that it's often very clear pee probably help their delusion.

No. 81303

>>81299
anon is trying to say the pee has less waste in it. it's mostly water, pee is sterile anyways for the most part so it's not a problem. it's not the same as taking a piss on someone purposely because it's a muscle spasm thing. tbh i think everyone should get over it, like if you eat a girl out or suck a dick you're gonna get a bit of pee.

No. 81310

>>81300

Ah that makes more sense, sorry for laughing. The image of someone thinking pee gets old and stale in the body made me chuckle.

No. 81312

>>81303
Time to bust another myth: pee isn't even remotely sterile. Even before it comes out of your body it's contaminated with the low levels of bacteria in your urinary tract (yes, even healthy people have this).

Ya'll this shit is just a google search away, there's no excuse to be pissing all over your man and think your magic squirt is totes sterile and normal. See a doctor.

No. 81313

>>81303
>>81310
There's no such thing as "sterile for the most part." There is sterile and there is contaminated. You better hope your surgeon isn't cutting into you with tools that are"sterile for the most part"

No. 81315

>>81313
>>81312
you guys are fucking retards i meant that it's not toxic, you know you can drink it and not fucking die and the bacteria isn't dangerous.

anyways i wasn't even arguing that it's not pee but it's not that gross. some people lick assholes too.

No. 81318

>>81303
All pee is mostly water. There’s no distinction between normal pee and organs pee. It’s not sterile. It’s not a drop or two intermixed with other bodily fluids like there is during oral sex.
It’s a bladder-full of urine expelled on you, your partner, and whatever surface you’re having sex on.

No. 81320

God bless lolcow, I like that none of you believe bullshit. I'm pretty sure I've had an argument before about this topic (someone who believed it wasn't urine)

See also: Men who think hard nipples means you're turned on and not just cold kek (another argument)

Why they tryna project hard= turned on and orgasm=ejaculation on us… and worse, why do women humor it

No. 81322

>>81253
Some men know it's pee and still think it's hot. Could go either way.

>>81280
>If you didn’t squirt you were some pitiable little lamb who’d never had an orgasm. Oh the irony.
I remember a friend bragging about how his girlfriend was a squirter a few years ago. I didn't have the heart to tell him.

No. 81330

>>81320

Or that all women like intense pressure on their tits, or having their nipples sucked. Like no thank you. I like gentle touching, not you trying to jack my tits off. They’re not a cock. Don’t treat them like one. Same for getting fingered too aggressively, I know some guys like to wack off with a death grip but I don’t want my poor clit hammered. It’s not sexy, it doesn’t feel good, and it’s painful.

No. 81334

>>81320
Or guys who think you’re “already wet” because you’ve got discharge lel. It’s like, “nah bud, that’s just happening constantly. I’m only 30% invested in this and I’m thinking about what I wanna eat later.”

No. 81335

Men are training each other to enjoy getting peed on, I just saw a bunch of them circlejerking in a thread about a girl who not only pissed herself but also SHAT herself while orgasming from oral sex. They seemed to be very happy about it and instead of advising her to go the doctor or to do some kegels they circlejerked about her bf being a beast for managing to have her piss and poop on him.

>>81330
I don't understand how women in porn can handle their tits getting slapped, bitten, violently pinched, etc. Mine are extremely sensitive I can only enjoy caressing and gentle sucking/nibbling. Men also all started to do this rock hand motion to finger you, since a bunch of videos popped on the internet claiming this is how you make a woman squirt and give her the strongest orgasm of her life, but I hate it. Porn really is the doom of a good sex life.

No. 81339

>>81335
That's just fetish shit at that point, those guys are beyond saving if they think shitting during sex is not. The guys who think squirting is orgasm and not piss are the ones who need training.

I agree tho, porn ruins men and women alike. My virginal boyfriend used to get so upset I didn't come during PIV and thought he was bad at sex to the point where he didn't want to do it. It was only when I told him that women coming to PIV is pretty uncommon did he get over it.

No. 81340

>>81335
Well, most porn actresses are probably drugged out of their minds to be able to handle the abuse. So. That’s probably why. Porn is seriously ruining so many people and it’s sad. If you try to point any of this out, you’re viciously attacked.

No. 81342

I'm still a virgin so i don't really know much about this, but i remember a friend telling me that her bf always was upset that she didn't squirt… seeing as it's just pee, why the hell would he want that…

No. 81346

>>81342
Men are dumb and have no idea what a normal female anatomy is. They think because they ejaculate when they orgasm, women must too. Same as why men are extremely rough with fingering. They like jackhammering deathgrip, so they assume women like it as well.

No. 81354

>>81342
Men are imbeciles. I had a fight with an ex over squirting. He was being an ass and brought up this girl he fucked and how amazing he was because she squirted (I think I was telling him he was shit in bed or something, he was). Began to explain that squirting is piss, congrats on fucking a girl that pissed herself. He defends by saying his best mate also fucked her and that she is a known squirter and it's hot. Congratulate him again on scoring with the common whore who marks the beds of all she fucks. He also identifies her with further stories. "LOL I CAN'T ANYMORE STOP BOASTING ABOUT GIRLNAME PISSING HERSELF OMG" He goes red in the face because this dynamite he is describing is this known fat mess, finishes with - you just wish you could perform better!

Personally I don't get it. I don't understand how some ladies are pissing themselves when cumming. A female orgasm function is to increase conception, the muscles contract to encourage sperm to flow to the egg, opposite direct of pissing. It sounds like this girls think the sensation is pushing a stream of piss out. Please love yourselves and learn how to get off properly. The only wetness should be coming from your vagina and that's to lube yourself up. Remember the vagina can widen to let a skull pass through it, but it cannot contort itself to fire a stream of piss.

Porn is a fucking nightmare. My ex was into porn. I found granny porn on his history too. He was shite at fingering too.

>>81320

100% this. It's easy to spot those that are ruined by porn. My nipples get hard from stimulation, the cold or even fabric irritating it. I'm not turned on, why is a breast sexual, it's for feeding an infant? Is this why so many men have matron fantasies, my ex with the granny porn really scarred me lmao.
Women do not ejaculate. Some appear to piss themselves, even poop! They must think the sensation to push out is an orgasm. How? How did you get so stupid?

No. 81356

>>81354
sorry to be a bitch but you sound fucking stupid.

>why is a breast sexual it's for feeding kids

…because the only things that are sexual have to do with child rearing/bearing because that's what sex is for.

No. 81364

>>81354
I think we should all have a minute of silence for the girls who think pissing and pooping is an orgasm.

No. 81371

>>81346

A lot of men are also violent. They want to slap and pinch a woman, but have to tell themselves its for her pleasure so they don't feel like monsters.

No. 81374

>>74608
>>74612
Late to the party, but anyway.. I have a longer inner labia, or what robots refer to as 'roastie'. Its has ALWAYS been that way. Even when I was a pure virgin teen that didn't get anything near my vagina (also always used pads for my period). It's just genetics, really. Vice versa I'm stunned how people can have their outer labia covering their inner labia, like how?? My outer labia is almost non existent. I'm convinced that at least some porn stars had 'lip injections' down there to make them look full.

No. 81379

>>81356
lmao, i guess kids sucking on tits is sexy to some. I was more going with at least focusing on my vagina could make me orgasm, but yeah, sexual reproduction whats dat

No. 81380

>>81356
on that topic, does anyone else get a mild sensation in their nipples when they're horny sometimes? It's hard to explain but it's somewhat nice and the fact that it often happens when I'm horny makes things like nipple sucking appealing. I don't think it's psychosomatic/porn brainwashing either because it would even happen back when I was a young fujo and generally uncomfortable with the concept of straight sex

>>81354
you know a lot of girls also find breasts really genuinely sexy right? sexual attraction doesn't need to follow perfect direct reproductive logic all the time. It's all there for reproductive purposes, but it doesn't all work out perfectly literally.

No. 81382

>>81380
I was originally agreeing with the poster that mentioned how erect nipples mirror the thinking of an erect penis and that our breasts and vaginas must work the same as a male penis.

read context. I like when my boyfriend sucks my nipples too but I'm not going to kid myself and say my breasts get horny for him.

No. 81383

>>81380
i do, my nipples are a bit tingly when i get aroused, though they don't look any different.

No. 81588

I have no idea what the hell is happening and it's kind of scaring me.

I am swollen and red and in pain (not severe pain), I tried checking for a yeast infection but there is nothing to indicate it.
My discharge is watery but I am drying out fast like my vagina is having troubles lubricating itself there is also no foul odor.

Yesterday is when I swelled up on the last day of my period, the lips did not swell though. Just kinda around the opening and inside feels swollen. I'm not sexually active. There is no itching or burning.

I'm not experienced in this stuff and don't want to go to the doctor just yet. The swelling went down through the night but it's still there and quite red.

Any idea to wtf happened? Just happened out of the blue last night.

No. 81592

>>81588
if your discharge is watery you can still have a yeast infection or a bacterial infection. Did you have your period?
You could also react allergic to tampons or a washing detergent.
Visit a gynecologist.

No. 81595

>>81592
Yes I did have my period.

I don't use tampons but I'm thinking it could be the detergent as I'm trying a new one. I never had this happen before but I do tend to react to soaps and cosmetics easily. I started to swell and redden up within the few hours of not have a pad lining anything. I'm not going to turn my head to an infection though. I'll try booking an appointment if within the next few days it doesn't get better. I'll try using a different detergent too to eliminate that possibility.

I want to add on here as well that I frequently change my pads as well because I have a very heavy period.

No. 81777

I've been feeling more itchy/sore on my clit and bikini line. I burned myself with nair some time back, but this already was happening before. I've been moisturizing with plant-based fake petroleum, coconut oil, sometimes argan.

I've laid off a little in concern I am overmoisturizing but it helps soothe a bit. I don't know if my clothes or panties are putting a lot of pressure on my bits and causing discomfort, because I feel better when I'm in looser clothes. I don't seem to be excessively dry, but sometimes seem to be so when I'm most irritable, maybe soaked up by undies.

Am I sensitive, dry, or need bigger panties??? I've considered maybe the top bump where they sew in the "pad" in the middle is rubbing on me because I'm getting them wedgied.

No. 81784

Any other girls experienced a mental orgasm?

In my young teen years I experienced them a lot when I had sexual fantasies/looked at porn (usually hentai/fujo shit) since I didn't masturbate until I was 14. The way I experience it, it's like a lighter rush of ocytocin without any other physical effects. It's not up to par with an honest-to-god actual orgasm, but definitely different than just being aroused. I still get them sometimes when I'm fantasizing about someone I'm physically AND romantically attracted to and can't/don't touch myself.

So what's with that?

No. 81785

>>81588
this used to happen to me regularly before i started birth control. i heard it has something to do with the ovulation cycle? it was annoying.

No. 81786

>>81784
Not while awake, but I have them semi-frequently in dreams. It feels similar to an orgasm but without the release if that makes sense?

No. 81826

hey, so is there anybody here that just like… cannot masturbate? i've been raised my whole life to think masturbation is bad (i don't even live in a christian household lmao) and i very very rarely get turned on, usually around the time my period strikes. i've tried rubbing my clit, nothing. it probably doesn't help that porn repulses me, believe me i've tried watching porn and flicking the bean. nothing works. i think my clit may be really tiny? or i'm asexual or something? (i really hope i'm not…) i'm an 18 year old virgin, is this normal? thanks

No. 81848

>>81826
Grew up the same way and had the same problem until I figured out that the only way flicking the bean felt good was if I laid facedown while doing it. Also had the same problem with porn, but after a while I figured out that the only thing the turns me on is lesbian porn and regular heterosexual porn turned me off even though I’m straight. Maybe you just need to keep looking until you find something you like?

No. 81894

>>81826
It's the same for me minus the christian household part, I've never been able to masturbate using my hands. The only thing that works for me it putting a piece of cloth between my legs and start rubbing against it while I fantasize about something. I'm pretty creative setting up scenarios too. Maybe it can help?

No. 81915

>>81784
This is how I feel when I'm _really_ turned on

No. 81929

>>81826
Have you tried written porn instead of video? It tends to be aimed at women more with an actual plot and lets you use your imagination.

No. 81931

>>81826
I'm sorry you were raised that way. Like the other anon asked, have you read any pornographic lit? There's a lot of fanfiction out there that is actually really effective. Also, for some women, the mood really matters. Maybe turn the lights down, light some candles, run a bath, and get settled in to the warm water. Or have a glass of wine to loosen up and prop yourself up on pillows. Try different positions, take it slow, don't stress out and try not to get frustrated. Is there any celebrities you've crushed on before? Any men in your life you could visualize?

If all of the above doesn't help, you should go to your doctor just in case.

No. 82010

my vagina is way too tight.
fingers won't go in. tampons won't go in. i tried to stick a cotton swab up there and it just would not go, it hurt. felt like i was hitting a wall or something. has anyone experienced this?

No. 82020

>>82010
It's called vaginismus and it isn't that your vagina is too tight. It's that the muscles aren't being relaxed that allow penetration to be possible.

t. someone who suffers from the same condition

No. 82021

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>>82020
Same anon here, here is a good representation of what it looks like:

For me, it's likely psychological because I was abused as a child and I had strict parents. Also, it only occurs for me when I've tried penetrative intercourse and it's the same thing; it's like a wall, even with a fuckload of lube (not that my vagina doesn't get wet). I once told the person penetrating me to try to get past my vadge anyway and he ended up with a fucked foreskin that was all cut up.

For you, it could be you have oversensitive vaginal nerves near its opening since it happens with anything inserted in your vagina. I'll post more useful graphics related to this :^)

No. 82022

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>>82021
also, it hurt like hell for the guy, obviously.

The cycle of why vaginismus is difficult to treat is pictured. It can be treated, though; go to your gynecologist and she will likely recommend you to use dilators that increase in size over time so you can insert a tampon in.

No. 82024

>>82022
yup, i got prescribed some natural muscle relaxers and "dilators" that just look like small plain dildos lol

No. 82039

>>82021
the first time i tried to have sex his dick wouldnt go in at ALL not even the tip. not only was i nervous as hell but also getting frustrated and embarrassed about the whole thing, which made it worse.
the second time we tried it did go in after like a whole hour of trying but it hurt like a motherfucker for me the whole time, he also did the same thing i just told him to push anyways but he was circumcised. i think if he werent the same thing as that guy would have happened because it was tiiiite as fuck. and the pain was unbearable.
now when i have sex it does hurt at first, like it almost burns but then it subsides a bit and can have sex with minimum pain (it doesnt really goes away)

my issue with sex is that i dont feel pleasure, i just feel nothing except the dick going in and out and that little amount of pain. i do notice my mind going "somewhere else" while in the middle of it, like i feel disconnected. idk it's pretty frustrating to say the least. i dont have trauma of that kind, i dont think. but i always had issues with sex and intimacy so idk.

No. 82045

>>82039
Anon a lot of women, even without vaginismus, have a hard time enjoying penetration. Don't rely on it. There's so much more to sex, talk about it with your partner, he can pleasure you in different ways. Voice your needs. But yeah, check yourself for vaginismus anyway.

No. 82088

Most of the time it was difficult for me too. It hurt and he couldn‘t get in. Only worked with 2 guys who were super sweet and took it slowly

No. 82266

So I watched a bunch of amateur squirting video for the love of science, and there is no way around it ; it's 100% piss.
I don't even think those women are cumming since the only muscle movement you can catch is them pushing hard their pelvic floor muscles to piss all over their partners. Do they even know what having an orgasm feel like? Or do they genuinely think releasing themselves on their loved one is the ultimate pleasure one can experience? I guess we'll never know.

No. 82274

>>82266
It's a weird thing for sure anon. I wonder if they hold their piss in for a harder orgasm haha.

No. 82282

>>82266
Why did squirting become so mainstream and normalized? I was reading smut the other day and it had the girl ejaculate. Took me right out of the story because ew, why, how? It’s like the female orgasm isn’t good enough so we have to make it more male like? Or men had to have a physical thing as proof that a woman came? Or what??

And then it just infected porn and Internet forums to the point where women are writing stories for other women and including it. Which makes no sense whatsoever to me because you’d think they’d know what was going on down there, unless they’re turned on by it too?

So many questions.

No. 82284

>>82282
as someone who's squirted before because an ex liked it, it doesn't feel the same as peeing normally. i guess i can see why people would like doing it.

No. 82294

>>82284
IA, it doesn't feel like pissing, it doesn't come out of the urethra, and it doesn't smell like piss. It smells exactly like Scotch tape, kek. Also, it's completely clear like water, and slightly… viscous? Like just a little tiny bit slippery. Less so than a water-based lube or something, but more so than piss or water.

I have no doubt that there's fake squirting in porn though.

No. 82301

>>82294

This. I don't even squirt myself but it has been proved that it's not piss and it doesn't come from the bladder. Piss and squirt share some similar elements, but so do coffee and water and they are completely different. But I am with you, there are probably a lot of fake squirting videos that is just piss because well, that's way easier anyway. No wonder a lot of dudes (and girls) confuses it for actual pee.

>>82282
Some people just like it. Also, some people like to visualize things, not necessarily because it's more "male-like". Like seeing their partners faces and body language and whatnot. I guess squirting is a big visual thing after all lol

No. 82303

>>82301
>it has been proved that it's not piss and it doesn't come from the bladder

No, it has been proved squirting empty your bladder, it's 100% pee.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12799

No. 82305

>>82301
There are so many studies which prove it is pee. Idk why this is still up for debate

No. 82306

>>82301
It’s been proven multiple times to be urine. If you’ve got actual studies more recent that 2012, cough up, otherwise don’t straight up lie to make someone feel better about peeing all over their partner like a tomcat.

No. 82307

>>82282
Insecure women fetishising it and pretending it’s some special fluid from a nonexistent gland and they just orgasm better.

Ten years ago it was a weird anomaly and now it’s a staple in porn and you’re treated like a Victorian prude for not doing it. There’s even tutorials out there as if it was a desirable skill.
Typically dudes know even less about female anatomy than women donand totally believe that women have the anatomy required to shoot fluids and probably assume it’s the same fluid as ones natural lubricants.

Similar to fat activism but not as socially acceptable to discuss. Cam girls had a lot to do with it iirc.

TLDR ignorance and shame made it a hobby.

No. 82310

squirting is disgusting. moving on.

No. 82311

>>82307
>Similar to fat activism

Haha omfg, even though I completely agree with you about squirting being peeing it's so obnoxious how some of you have to squeeze your thinly veiled hateboners for ~thicc womminz~ into everything you talk about. Even though that makes absolutely no sense and there isn't similarities between the two.

No. 82319

>>82311
I don’t have a hate boner for larger women, just groups of people that try and turn insecurity into a movement that primarily shames anyone who doesn’t share their insecurity.

I’m saying the groups are similar in that they seek to normalise, and make desirable, a trait that is typically not normal or desirable, and that the most vocal of them do so by layering false pity or straight up cry ignorance to anyone who disagrees with their little agenda.

Sorry your feelings got hurt the minute the word fat was used. It’s a descriptor not an insult fam.

No. 82330

>>82294
you're trying to say you ejaculated from your vagina and not your urethra. That's amazing. I'm just trying to understand how you were able to contort your vagina that it was able to make a piss stream lol

No. 82331

>>82284
People are also into scat porn anon. I wouldn't call shitting yourself an orgasm.

No. 82339

Anyone else who is just grossed out by the way your labia lips look?
My labia is just extremely visible. They are huge and I hate looking at it. I know that everyone has different forms and what not and I haven't even watched many porn movies to get the idea that mine is just plain ugly (heard that most porn stars have minimal labia lips).
Its fucked up that I feel ashamed by the way it looks. I wish that they would be smaller so it doesn't look like a small bulge down there when I am just wearing my panties.

Still a virgin and I think one reason for that is because I feel ugly down there so I wouldn't want to show it to anyone in the first place.

No. 82351

>>82311
Tf? Lmao hamplanet detected.

No. 82357

>>82331
i didn't call it that. i just said it doesn't feel like pissing normally, so i understand why people would like to do it. it's like an uncontrollable reaction.

No. 82358

>>82357
yea it's called incontinence lol

No. 82365

>>82358
you're fucking retarded.

No. 82366

>>82339
Yeah, I have long gross labia, had it since 12 or younger. No guy has ever commented on it, and I've fucked scumbags who would have used it against me if they thought it was gross.

I'm getting labiaplasty one day, because I can't deal with it even if others do not care.

No. 82371

>>82365
did u wet the bed or something? incontinence is involuntarily urinating or defecating yourself. These girls need to work on their pelvic floor muscles, they've got old granny issues.

No. 82374

>tfw arousal has been fucked since teens bc of meds

I just want to have a fucking orgasm. I'm edging on 23 and I'm, like, pretty ashamed that it hasn't happened. Not even ashamed tho. Super fucking annoyed.

Masturbating bores the shit out of me. I have never been turned on by fantasizing. I can touch myself for an hour and just be so fucking bored by it. I just don't get aroused by being touched (hard, soft, whatever- none of it is sexy ((bc meds fucking up nerves))). Visual porn doesn't turn me on either. Reading is better- but, then when I go to touch myself, it takes me out of the moment I had and godfuckingdamn I am so annoyed.

I've had sex- I fucking love PIV… like, I may not be super aroused enough but lube me up and fuck me and I'm instantly hot. PIV is great. BUT. Like, it ends up being something that kind of hurts? Not in the way that it's too dry or too hard or anything– more in like, it's too much stimulation? Maybe? I don't fucking know. But, then when it gets to that hurt-y/too much place, I obviously stop PIV and end up annoyed because then arousal drops to the negatives.

Is it possible to have orgasms without knowing? Like. I don't want an earth shattering pornstar moment- I just want to know wtf an orgasm feels like. ugh.

meds are so good for my brain but so bad for my sex life and it makes me angry and annoyed and goddamn I just want to cum. I want my nerve endings to respond properly and I want PIV to stop being so overstimulating.

tldr; nerve endings are so dull bc of brain meds from early on except vaginal, but when doing any kind of PIV I get super overstimulated and need to stop- and then become insta-unaroused.

No. 82387

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>>82366

Top row, second from the left is most similar to how I look except my outer lips are a bit puffier… and I still hate how it looks tbh. I know there is no surgery to fix my dislike, I just don’t like how vaginas look in general. As long as I’m healthy down there, I don’t think about it. Are you sure you’d be happier with it looking different?

No. 82389

>>82387
I mean, you have the perfect vulva then, if you had a huge fluttering bat-winged vulva like me, you would know. Same as someone with a huge honking beak of a nose knows they will feel better after rhinoplasty, or someone with rock-in-a-sock tuberous breasts knows they will feel better after breast augmentation. If your appearance borders on a deformity, you just know that having it fixed will make you feel more comfortable.

I do not find all vulvas ugly. My issue isn't because I have a vulva, it is strictly the appearance of mine. Seeing before and afters similar to how mine looks and knowing what is attainable makes me happy. So yeah, I'm pretty sure it would make me happier in that aspect of my life.

No. 82404

I'm so sad that I can't enjoy PIV, I do it because I know that's what feels better for men, but it literally does nothing for me except irritate me after 15 min of action. The worst thing is I love anal sex and I can have very strong orgasm from it but it require a lot of preparation and contrary to what many people believe most guys don't want to do it in your butt. (I get it, it's were poop come from)
I wish I wasn't a degenerate and I could get off from PIV, it's extremely embarrassing to bring up to a new partner that you don't enjoy it and that you need them to either eat you out or fuck your ass to cum… I guess I have to abandon the hope of having orgasms on the regular.

No. 82419

>>82404
I think you've got a mental block on PIV because I can't fathom how you can get off via anal but not when the dick is in the vagina where the stimuli is.

I had a terrible ex once, started out fine fucking, he could get me off fingering (he wouldn't go down) and that was it. After a while I couldn't even take his dick, he told me I had vaginismus but I didn't. I was just not into him and my body could figure it out quicker than my head.

I've had plenty of amazing PIV and PIV orgasms away from him. I think a lot of an orgasm has to just do with how you personally feel.

Just by your saying it's sore after 15 minutes of action, sounds like the dude is just going ham on you and you're letting him. Try and adjust his rhythm and slow him down by using your own body. It's usually when I slow my partner down that I'm about to cum and he's use to it now that he knows not to get too excited and start thrusting like a mad man but ride it out lol.

No. 82423

>>82419
Tbh I do think I'm kinda scared of PIV, because of my miserable sex history, my first bf had a really big penis and he would never do any kind of foreplays so my first sexual experiences were very painful. Luckily it was a LDR so I didn't have to have sex too often.
My second relationship was with a guy willing to do a lot to please me but unfortunately he was shit at everything (would lick me for 40 min but not take instruction and I never came), he also never washed his dick and constantly gave me UTI, I begged him to get his penis checked for some sort of infection but he refused because he didn't want a doctor to touch his penis… So yeah I think I have this idea of PIV = pain / UTI. On the other hand I masturbated analy since I was a teen and I guess it's a safe space for me? It doesn't hurt and I can't get any sort of infection from it so it's not stressful.

Idk what to do about it tho.

No. 82425

>>82423
I mean…you CAN get many infections from anal, aids being one of them, infected rips/cuts being another. But, I totally understand your aversion to PIV after what you wrote. I think other Anon >>82419 is very correct and it's all about the right partner. It isn't supposed to hurt. If it does, it's the partner's fault, as he's the one servicing that part. It's designed for peni to go in and baby to come out. It's super functional. Just a shame men don't know what to do with it sometimes.

No. 82437

>>82387
Me, too, anon. Most people say they like my "puffy" lips, but I feel like it's gross. I wish I could deflate them, ugh.

No. 82693

Back when I was 13/14 I'd have vaginal discharge that was thick, sticky, and rubbery. I'm now 21 and my discharge is strictly creamy white or clear. I also don't expel nearly as much of it as I used to. Back then when I'd stand up after sitting for awhile
or pee it would feel similarly to a blood clot coming out during your period. Anyway, I was wondering why my discharge has changed both in amounts and texture. Was it just my body adjusting to all the estrogen and other puberty stuff?

No. 82709

>>82423
If you have another partner, be open and honest with them about your history. That said, maybe try masturbating yourself in a way that's not too uncomfortable. over time, you can teach your body that PIV is not bad.

No. 82710

>>82319
>turn insecurity into a movement that primarily shames anyone who doesn’t share their insecurity

Except it doesn't and you are just projecting your insecurity onto a group that did nothing to skinny women. As far as I know body posivity goes to all sizes and it includes people who have warped views of their own bodies and hate themselves a lot such as you.

No. 82712

>>82710
Five days and you’re bringing it back up. You dig through five days of posts just to show how mad you stayed over a throwaway comparison in a meaningless thread.
Who’s insecure here?

No. 83238

Mine kind of always smells really bad?
I get checkups regularly and am still a virgin, so there's really nothing wrong with it, but after just one day I feel like my trousers stink already. I shower everyday and use a normal soap.
Is there anything I could do?

No. 83240

>>83238
Those tea tree oil/neem oil liquid soaps on amazon makes my kitty smell minty. Just search "body odor soap".

No. 83267

>>83238
I had the same issue and then I noticed I had a stronger smell with only certain underwear. The synthetic fabrics really made things stronger down there versus the 100% cotton. Not sure if you've taken that into consideration yet or if it pertains to you anon but that and diet is all I can personally advise. What you eat and drink has a role in smell.

No. 83334

>>83238
Wear only cotton underwear, and avoid skintight pants and synthetics. You also might try washing your clothing with ALL free and clear and using white vinegar in the fabric softener compartment.

No. 83346

>>71662
Make sure you are wearing cotton underwear. Don't wear polyester leggings constantly or nylon.

No. 83373

>>71573

Not sure if this belongs here or in the masturbation thread but here goes: I can't (or very very rarely) climax during sex unless I am masturbating. My boyfriend is great in bed, but I can't get off unless I 'help out'

Any ladies experienced this?

Some background: I have a weird relationship with sex and was molested when I was younger (surprise, surprise) My speculation is that I still need to be "in control" in order to feel comfortable enough to climax. It makes my bf kind of insecure but it's not about him lol

No. 83393

>>83373
Most women can't orgasm from vaginal sex, it is normal.

No. 83519

>>83373
Not orgasming from PIV is normal and nothing to worry about. It might be good to teach your partner how to bring you to orgasm with his hands. Be very specific about what works for you so he can learn. If hands don't work, he could also employ his mouth.

No. 83529

>>83373
Like the previous anons said, it's normal. Kind of sad that this still isn't common knowledge, but the majority of women experience sexual pleasure this way.
I've never been molested or anything and as long as I have been masturbating I have absolutely never been able to orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone though I can make myself cum in just a couple of minutes from rubbing my clit.

No. 83768

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Does anyone have any tips for preventing UTIs? I feel like I'm always on the verge of getting one, especially after sex. I always pee and clean myself up after sex (and I make my bf do the same). I drink at least 3L of water daily and I take probiotics. I only wear cotton underwear. Nothing seems to help and I'm not sure why.

No. 83772

>>83768
If you are on birth control it can make your mucosa drier and weaker, which makes you more suseptible to utis. I has them constantly until I stared using estrogen cream.

No. 83777

>>83768
Finally my bitch of a chronic illness is useful
I have interstitial cystitis and there would be times where I would knocked the fuck out for months by it. Is your uti like, do you feel it up in your abdomen/bladder or right down by your opening?

Mine is the latter and I recommend cystopurin, peeing for a second longer than usual to make sure it's all out, but strictly not sitting on the toilet any longer than that even if it feels helpful. Also, sitting on a hot water bottle or ice pack, and the best relief ever for me is to just fucking turn my vibrator on and sit on it and read a book. Distracts from the horrible sensation down there enough to think straight.

No. 83795

>>83772
>>83777

I am on birth control which does dry things out down there. My typical early symptoms are discomfort in my urethra and cloudy urine coupled with that weird 'drop in pressure' sensation while peeing. I nip it in the bud by drinking tons of water but it's definitely annoying to deal with in the first place. I will look further into estrogen cream and cystopurin, thanks girls!

No. 83916

>>83768
I actually came here to pose that same question! I feel like I just have these chronic, recurring UTIs these days. It feels like I can just breathe the wrong way and get one. Just the other day, I was thinking about how I haven't had one in about a month or two, and this evening I got that burning, tugging feeling when I went to pee. Thankfully I have some leftover antibiotics from my last UTI to tide me over until tomorrow when I can go to the doctor.

Does anyone know if women with IUDs are more susceptible to UTIs? Because during the 2 months I went without birth control between getting my Skyla taken out and my Kyleena put in, I didn't have any UTIs. Then I got another the same week I got my Kyleena put in.

No. 83918

I have to take antibiotics long term and have a bad yeast infection, did a monistat thing and it made it worse… it's so so itchy and burning, there are legitimately lumps from itching it so badly. can't use the difclucin pill or whatever because i'm on antibiotics for at least another 2 months… what can I do to make it better/not come back again?

No. 83920

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>>83768
I can attest to coconut water. It's a natural diuretic and very popular in the philippines for preventing utis.

Here's an article explaining a little bit about it: www.thevirgincoconutoil.com/articleitem.php?articleid=280#ixzz1xF4a5k3X

Another one that I've had success with when I already had a uti is oregano oil. I just read about it on some home remedies list and I happened to have some and my uti cleared up faster than normal for me. Googling it now it seems it can also help prevent them.

No. 84162

>>83768

Are you using soap when you clean up? I made that mistake when I was younger and basically washed the entrance to my vagina and urethra with soap and I got so many freaking UTIs. Also are the probiotics ones you actually need? Because they can do more harm than good if they conflict with your own personal bacteria which, like the soap, is a surefire way to land yourself a UTI. Not to mention that it's a very broad term among consumer products and could mean basically anything

No. 84349

>>84162
I never use soap internally or around my vaginal opening or urethra, don't worry. But you've actually made an interesting point about the probiotics, I take them every day but that seems a little excessive now that I think about it. I'm very concerned with gut health but I never realized I could be throwing things out of wack. I'm going to cut down on them and see if it helps.

No. 84449

This isn’t purely vagina-related, but still female anatomy. I went to the gyno today to get ultrasounds (ugh) to check on something, and she discovered that my right ovary is buried deep behind my uterus. Like, it took some serious digging and probing to find it and it hurt so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

No. 84453

is it bad to wear panty liners all day, every day?

No. 84454

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>>84453
Probably not, but I'd be a little concerned about the lack of breathability caused by the adhesive and plastic backing.

Would you ever try cloth liners? I use them daily and they are not only breathable, but super fun and cute. And you'll save money in the long run.

No. 84505

>>84454
i suppose you can make them yourself? but how do you keep them in place?

No. 84506

>>84505
Buttons. And you can buy them online.

No. 84508

>>84454

How do these things feel? Do they feel big and bulky like a normal pad? I've not worn pads in years and I don't like the idea of tampons any more. I'm nifty on a sewing machine and was thinking of whipping some up and trying them out, but I'm worried I'd make them and they end up feeling like a regular pad.

No. 84511

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>>84505

They have wings that are held together by plastic snap buttons, k-snaps to be exact. You can also get metal ones. Snug underwear is a must for keeping cloth pads in place.

>>84508
They feel amazing and way more comfortable than normal pads because they are breathable and made of the same material as your underwear. You won't get swamp crotch in hotter weather, and they're great for anyone prone to yeast infections or sensitive to the bleaching agents used in regular pads. You can get them in amazing materials like bamboo velour, crushed velvet, minky, cotton, jersey knit, pique. In any pattern, any absorbency, any length, even custom shapes and sizes to suit your particular needs. They can be incredibly thin if that's your preference, not bulky at all, and they don't show through your clothes.

I love cloth pads and can't recommend them enough.

No. 84512

>>84511
Excuse me for sounding dumb I'm not very knowledgeable when it comes to fabric pads.
But how long can you wear them before changing? Same as regular pads?
Just wondering what to do with them if you gotta change it while at work. Where do you put them? Asking myself the same question when it comes to moon cups.
I mean I would feel really uncomfortable washing the in the sink when there is a risk of coworkers coming by.

No. 84513

>>84511some of those fabric options sound like crotch swamp waiting to happen. Velour against your labia isnt exactly getting good airflow.

Also, the snap buttons add 2-4 lumps on your crotch that will look weird unless you have loose pants on. Snaps are bunkhouse enough to show through denim

Fabric holds odors and moisture, so there’s no chance that these will not smell. Make sure you have an airtight baggie if you need to change them at work of your handbag will smell like vaginas.

They aren’t dirty but they aren’t quite as amazing as the shills for them say. There’s a lot of obvious downsides if you know anything about fabric.

No. 84517

>>84512
I don't use cloth pads, but for moon cups, most people don't have to empty them at work because even the smaller sizes generally hold 25ml, and it's safe to leave them in for up to 12 hours.

No. 84518

>>84512
You can wear them for as long as you're comfortable, they hold as much or more as regular pads. For work/public spaces, you just carry a waterproof wetbag, fold the soiled pad in half and pop it in there until you can get home. And no, it won't smell at all, nor will it make your purse smell.

>>84513
Synthetic fabrics (minky, velvet, suedecloth) are not recommended for hot days, but they can be quite nice in cooler temperatures. Bamboo and cotton velours are organic and breathable, they won't lead to swamp crotch at all. That said, generally in hotter temps you'd stick to cotton, jersey or pique (the latter two are moisture-wicking).

The snaps do not show through clothing, least of all jeans. And they smell far less than regular pads, which are made of plastic and allow for no airflow at all. I'm not 'shilling' btw…they're certainly not for everyone and I know that. To be fair, I will list some downsides: high upfront cost, not knowing what works for you and having to deal with lots of trial-and-error, the hassle of reselling pads you didn't like, and the chore of soaking and washing pads.

If getting up close and personal with your own blood squicks you out, cloth pads and especially menstrual cups are not for you.

No. 84535

>>84518
Synthetic fur is never going to be a great thing to have on your crotch all day, even if it’s chilly outside. Fabric does not make odors disappear so they are going to smell exactly like a pad. Again, if someone wants to use them, get a Tupperware box or a ziplock baggie.

Snaps will absolutely show through leggings unless the woman wearing them has very little or no space between her legs. If you’ve got any sort of gap, there will be bumps. That’s how little hard lumps of plastic are.

You seem almost personally upset that there’s been criticism of fabric pads. I’ve had to use them for menstruation before because of growing up very poor. It’s not that great. A heavy flow will absolutely leak through because they have no plastic lining.
As a panty liner, sure. Save your money and the environment, but buyers should be aware that very thin fabrics cannot absorb much, and that cotton, jersey, linen, or flannel cannot prevent any sort of odor any more than a regular pair of panties.

No. 84536

>>84535
Not that anon, and I don’t wear reusable pads, but if someone ever ever noticed a small bump on my vagina area while I was wearing pants, they’d be the ones with a problem. If you wear jeans, or skirts, or dresses, or like you said: don’t have a noticeable gap there; you’re fine. And anyone who is looking at your vag close enough to notice (through fabric) a button the size of a fingernail, well they’re the weirdo

No. 84550

>>84535
I agree. Cloth pads have the same issues as normal pads, minus the trash and plush all the washing and carrying soiled pads around. I have some non-waterproof gauze pantyliners I got from a now-defunct etsy shop and I love them for discharge so things can always be dry down there, but even flannel suffocates the area.

No. 84551

I MISS MY PERIOD :( feel so unfeminine

No. 84559

>>84551
What?
Why have you lost you period? And why would that make you miss it? I don’t feel feminine when I’m on mine. I feel my worst.

No. 84571

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>>84535
I'm not personally affronted at all, I conceded that cloth pads are not for everyone and they absolutely have disadvantages when compared to normal pads. The snaps really don't show through leggings, the snaps go right between your legs, not near your butt or your front…so unless you're wearing very sheer tights with your crotch near someone's face, they're not going to see anything, lol.

I think you had a bad experience and thus a bias against cloth pads due to the options available to you while growing up. The ones you used were probably bulky and uncomfortable compared to the options available from luxury brands like Novel Red or Etsy sellers like Yurtcraft or Beach Bottom (pic related). It doesn't smell like anything, regular pads smell far worse.

You can get heavy and post-partum pads with waterproof lining. Also, the fabric topper is not the absorbent part lol, you can choose from a variety of absorbent cores. Common ones are Zorb (used in cloth diapers), heavy bamboo fleece, cotton flannel, terry, and hemp fleece.

Anyhoo, I'll be around to answer anyone's questions about cloth pads if they have any. Happy to discuss the downsides as well.

No. 84577

My periods haven't come in 2 months and I made a billion tests and I'm supposedly not pregnant, got doctor next wednesday, what do you guys think it could be? The anxiety is killing me

No. 84581

I started taking the pill back to back and I think it gave me a yeast infection or something?
My discharge used to be clear and now it's almost fucking GREEN and it smells disgusting.
I also do not get intermenstrual bleeding which kinda worries me?
I'm going to the doctor soon but what can I do in the meantime to make it less bad?

No. 84582

>>84577
It can be a multitude of reasons. It could be a lack of nutrition, over exercising, stress (ironically), or a hormonal imbalance as the most common ones. If you can I say talk to your doctor and get a blood test to double check nutrition and hormone levels. Also to look at your exercise schedule and see if you're pushing your body too far.
The final thing it could be, which I hope it isn't, is you being very underweight. Anorexic girls for example will miss their period or potentially lose it all together. I hope this helps a bit and you can figure out your issue soon. Hopefully it's also nothing serious which it totally can be, I just wanted to list the serious stuff as well just so you had the information and do potentially get it checked out

No. 84589

>>84582
I think it is probably stress since it stopped coming around some time I was quite stressed about class. However it scares me because it couldn't be malnutrition because I eat well, couldn't be because of overweight or over exercising because I am a bit overweight but exercise regularly and don't push myself too much, just do enough. I never thought I would have hormonal problems since my periods used to come every month pretty much the same day. I am pretty scared to be honest. Almost wish I was just pregnant so I could have an abortion and get over it already.

No. 84601

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Does anyone else notice during their most fertile week that a lot of discharge comes out during bowel movements?
It's only during that one week each month, and there is no infection or other issue as far as I know.

No. 84607

>>84601
gross, but yeah… i mean it's the same as when you're on your period. if you are pushing something out then you're also pushing blood or discharge out while you poop. during your ovulation i know many women will discharge regularly so it's tottally normal

No. 84664

SO wants to cum inside of me from now on and I'm into it too.
I'm on birth control and my SO is pretty much unfertile. What should I do tho? I'm so scared of anything bad happening. So what precautions should I take (we're both STD free btw), what should I do once I get cummed inside, how do I make double sure nothing bad happens…
God I feel like such a slut to ask that but it's my first time around such things and I wanna make my SO happy

No. 84665

>>84664

C'mon girl, don't slut shame yourself. I love it when my man cums inside. First time was weird because when I stood up, everything started dripping around my thighs and the sensation was kinda awful to me. The smell was strong too. My advice is to have ready something to whipe yourself after. About risks of infection, worry not, just have your normal higiene routine and go to the gyno as usual.

No. 84666

Maybe a little off-topic but does anyone else have trouble feeling arousal? I used to get turned on but after being sexually abused when I was in my early teens I've never been able to feel it as strongly, only very faintly at the most. Have any of you had success with therapy or any other methods of restoring libido?

>>84664
There's nothing to worry about, really. You just have to learn to trust your birth control and like other anon said just keep up with regular hygiene. You've already taken every precaution you can, enjoy yourself!

No. 84667

>>84666
If I mix powdered maca root in my coffee on a regular basis it shoots my libido through the roof, along with helping my overall energy. Downside is it makes you more fertile and tastes awful. If you’re on bc I suggest talking to your doctor before taking it since it will mess with your levels.

No. 84668

>>84667
I thought maca root was something invented in Arrested Development. Sage for irrelevance

No. 84692

>>84664
First off, you're not a slut. If it would make you feel better, get tested together. You could also have him go in and get his sperm checked if that would put your mind at ease, depending on health care in your country. One thing that would help is having an open and honest conversation about what you would do if, against all odds, you got pregnant. It's important to be on the same page here. This is good because it lets you know what the worst case scenario is. You could also look into doubling up on your birth control methods if you're using something that you don't feel is effective enough.
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_

No. 84694

>>84666
I do, too. I think it was because I was taking anti-depressants when I was pubescent, my libido was suppressed and I didn't even have a sexual awakening until I was 18. Even now I only really feel aroused when I'm ovulating. I'm not sure how to fix it, maybe therapy or something like >>84667 suggested?

No. 84847

I saw some other posts about dark pubic areas in these threads, but no real info on if theres anything you can do to lighten the skin. I have a fully innie-vagina and I try to exfoliate and moisturize the area regularly but my pubic areas are SUPER dark and I'm really pale so it looks really gross (to me). I have the dark skin around my butthole, on my inner and outer labia, and where my outer labia meets the thigh. Is there any safe way of making it less brown/black?

No. 84914

>>84847
try any gentle face cream that contains niacinamide. it's a natural bleaching agent that discourages the growth and spread of pigment cells/melanin. it should be safe to use externally, such as the inner thigh area, but i wouldn't put it directly on the labia because who knows if the cream will migrate internally and cause irritation.

alternatively you could just learn to live with it…pretty much every human has darker skin on the pubic area and around their butthole, and who is going to be looking at your labia and butthole anyway? just your partner and your doctor, both of whom won't judge you for a little uneven skintone.

No. 84915

>>84847
That’s so normal it’s sad you want to “fix” it.

No. 84960

>>84847
Papaya soap can lighten the skin over time, plus it smells great and feels amazing.

No. 85064

>>84665
>>84666
>>84692
Well,the thing is,my SO is a transgirl. I'm reassuring myself since she is taking eostrogens and the likes,which makes her,well,pretty unfertile. And given I take birth control I should be good for good but i'm just always anxious. Thanks for the help gals!

>>84847
Seconding,I got the same kind of vag but boy is it dark on the lips

No. 85065

>>85064
(also she's gonna have her surgery next year so i guess that won't be a problem after that)

No. 85080

>>85064
out with you, handmaiden.

No. 85086

>>85065
I don't suggest she has the surgery if she is expressing an interest in cumming inside you. Plenty of transwomen deeply regret SRS. You also sound quite young and inexperienced to have never had anyone cum inside and be worried about it. If you're on the pill and take it at the same time every day your chance of pregnancy is nearly zero. The priority is taking it within the same hour every day and not missing a day. With your partner on hrt brings your chance of pregnancy to about zero as long as you are taking the pill correctly.

No. 85097

My gyno appointment is in a month, but I was wondering if anyone knew what could cause burning while peeing but only during menstruation? Kind of want to know what to expect

No. 85107

>>85097
could it be irritation from pads? i get irritated down there every time my period is about to end (it lasts 6 days for me)

No. 85109

>>85065
Oof enjoy having sex with a putrid hole I guess.

No. 85152

>>85064
>transwoman
>wants to cum in SO

My mind is full of fuck…

No. 85182

>>85086
>she

it's a man who wants to use his dick to cum in his girlfriend before he chops it off for his fetish. that's some gross sissy shit

No. 85188

>>85152
>>85182
Whatever you guys say.
Not a fetish. Just ok with using her D but not really liking it. If it was a fetish she wouldnt be on transition since her young teen years. Sissies and shit just discredit real transpeople (which are like,1% of the whole trans comm). I used to think like you guys before i met her tho so heh.

>>85109
She'll be going to the best surgeon. Those other just settle for cheap shit and end up with an axe wound.


In any case, not gonna shit up the thread any more. Thank you for your advice.
And yes, >>85086 I am quite young and inexperienced still. I guess I'll learn.

No. 85189

>>85107
Could be. The burning lasts maybe a day and the doesn't come back until the next period.
I loath tampons but if the testing doesn't show anything, I'll try them.

No. 85193

>>85188
She is a man, it's a fetish.

No. 85194

>>85188
sorry, but if your bf is okay with using his dick to fuck you, he's not trans. even if trans is legit like you say, that alone makes him not trans. stop being blinded by your affection.

No. 85196

>>85188
>I used to think like you guys before i met her tho so heh.

Are you trying to say you're proud you regressed? Most of us thought that trans was legit when we were younger and peaked because we matured.

No. 85224

>>85188
Not the best surgeron in the world can turn a penis into a healthy "vagina" replica. Their body is still gonna treat it as an open wound and react accordingly.

No. 85256

>>85188

Serious question. If he doesn’t like penetrating you, why does he do it ? If it’s because you like it, understand he won’t be able to do it anymore after chopping it off. I can’t see your sex life not tanking girl, but go off

No. 85257

>>85256
nta but i'm starting to wonder if that anon is actually the tranny tbh. they're drip-feeding info and acting kind of odd.

No. 85274

>>85064
>Well,the thing is,my SO is a transgirl.
Logistically, it doesn't matter. A penis is a penis is a penis.
You should still talk about what you would do in the case of an oopsie, and don't rely on your partner's assumed infertility for contraception.

No. 85276

>>85188
How in the world could somebody who claims they feel like a woman and would be dysphoric from their penis, have no problem with using said penis? Why would they have no issue with ejaculating in a woman when that's something that literallh only men can do.

You're dating somebody who has some serious mental illnesses and is takng their fetish way too far.

No. 85295

>>85097

i think that happens to most women, it's most likely just irritation from tampons or pads. you can try cups or cloth pads if you feel comfortable enough doing so and see if it's of any help, a lot of pad/tampon companies have harsh chemicals in their products

>>84847

this won't be what you want to hear probably but i don't recommend doing anything to it, anon. it's completely normal for skin to be darker there than it is on other parts of your body and most likely isn't a sign of a health issue so it'll do you more good to accept it the way it is

No. 85446

>>71573
>>83768
cranberry pills can help
also: clean your genital area with water only, dry with a blow drier, pee every 2 hours aprox. never hold in pee!
And when you pee, make sure every drop is released… if there's residue it can contribute
If you do all of these and still get many (confirmed and separate) UTI's, maybe you need to see a specialist.

No. 85670

Can anyone recommend a free, easy to use and cute period tracker app for android? After being on depo for a while I'm due to have a period again soon and I want to keep track of them this time.

No. 85671

>>85670
Clue has been my go-to for well over a year now! Idk if it's "cute" exactly but it has a very clean and pleasant interface.

No. 85822

Will using nair ruin my vag?

No. 85823

>>85822
Depends. You technically aren't supposed to use it around your genitals. However, I use sensitive skin nair there all the time, like once every few weeks. Only one time I had issues because I left it on too long (longer than 10 min, NEVER leave it on longer than that, I advise 5 min and give yourself an additional 5 to wash it off completely, this is where I fucked up) - nothing happened to my vag, but outer labia was kind of oozing blood for a few hours after. It healed up fine but it sucked.

So, YMMV. I won't recommend other people do it, I've just been doing it for years so I know how my skin reacts to it.

No. 85830

>>85671
I like Clue, too. If you don't make an account, you can still use it, and they won't use your data for research. It's very clean, in terms of design.

No. 85836

>>85670
i use flo. its pretty cute i like it. it gives you advice sometimes too.

No. 86231

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has anyone here ever been so unsatisfied with the appearance of their labia that they have literally contemplated mutilating themselves over it? because they couldnt afford surgery? i remember a few years ago i read this odd article/blog post about a body modification artist doing a labiaplasty on herself (though she said she could barely walk for a few weeks)…

i hate how mine look, mine are bigger&darker than average. it doesnt even matter if they're technically 'normal' because men are exposed to so much porn nowadays that i doubt mine would look normal or attractive to them in comparison. what if i were to become intimate w/ a man but he saw how it looked and backed out? has that happened to anyone?

pretty sure this self hatred that has been with me throughout childhood prevented me from ever developing a sex drive

No. 86232

>>86231
This really shouldn't be "comforting" but always remember that while men talk a big game about how picky they are, they will fuck anything. Regarding porn, I watch it on and off and see plenty of different varieties of labia/vulva. If it helps, you can look around (especially at amateurs/cam whores) and even women with really big, dark labia have fans and positive comments.

No. 86234

>>86231
In my experience men don't really care, chances are you care more about it then they do. I don't consider my labia to be the ideal but I never received any negative comments about it and I even had some who complimented it. If you're about to get intimate with someonethey're probably horny and just want to fuck so I doubt they'll care that much about your labia. Sure, big labia may be considered unattractive by someone but at the end of the day it's really going to affect sex that much. And lastly, if a guy won't have sex with you because the appearance of your labia then you probably dodged a bullet.

No. 86246

>>86231
Anon this sorta makes me sad. You could have labia longer than your fingers and you’d still deserve to feel okay and not be held back sexually. Tbh if a dude watches so much porn he’s freaked out by labia that aren’t porn perfect he’s probably spent so long watching porn instead of being with humans that he’s not worth the time.

Labia aren’t ever exactly pretty, but you’re not deformed or a freak or hideous and I really really hope you never act on the desire to mutilate.

No. 86251

>>86231
Men will fuck you anyway.
Imo it's a bit like the saggy boob issue; sure there's a lot of perky, fake boobs in porn but plenty of men are realistic about what the average pair of boobs are like. They don't really care if your boobs sag, just like how they don't care if you've got some extra vag beef.
And usually the guys who squeal and judge about those things are neurotic as fuck.

No. 86829

How many of you take the hair off? Do you feel like men prefer it with or without, or don't care, in your experience?

No. 86832

>>86829
This is worded pretty cute so I’ll indulge you anon, I’ve been taking the hair off since it first started cropping up. Personally, it feels very itchy and uncomfortable when I let the hair stay, so I prefer it bare, and so has every guy I’ve been with. It’s also so much cleaner than with hair, no sweat or body odor, just feels better all around. I shave with a men’s razor, really makes a difference after years of using shitty women’s razors.

No. 86894

>>86829
I used to shave everything, and it was awful and I just ended up with ingrowns. Now, I just trim for comfort and shave the bikini line. My boyfriend is fine with it; he's realistic about hair removal's practical elements.
Someday, I would like to get laser hair removal to cut down on how ling my showers take.

No. 86897

>>86829
I don't shave anything and trim occasionally. My boyfriend cares more about my armpit hair witch begrudgingly epilate now.
fully bald just seems very infantile to me, If a guy only found that attractive it would creep me out.

No. 86909

Porn has ruined mens minds about the female body

years ago men were more than happy and felt lucky if they had sex with a womam with decent propotions and looked healthy, now it seems the only way for men to be satisfied and pleased with womens bodies is to have insane anime propotions with perfect round perky boobs and an anime pussy, obviously men would still have sex with the woman either way but I avoid ever having sex with men due to how many cry about how ugly a womans body is if she doesn't look like a porn star, hell even most porn stars bodies arent enough for most men nowadays

No. 86911

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>>86829
I find bald pussy extremely weird looking and bald dick are downright ugly IMO. So I trim my hair and shave / wax what goes past my pantyline but that's it. From time to time I'll take the hair off my vulva but I will keep a little triangle on top (I think it fits perfectly with a woman body shape), but that's it. I'll never be in a relationship with a dude that has any kind or requirement regarding my body hair, I'm super anal about it because I'm sadly prone to UTI and shaving down there make them appear more often, I would get so butthurt if I shaved my genitals to please a man and got a UTI right after, and probably would hold it against him.

>>86909
Speaking about men's taste and expectation, every single subreddit dedicated to pussy's top post are bald innies and it makes me feel like shit about me body. I don't even have big protruding labia minora but I stil get upset everytime I read or hear someone say they prefer "clean" looking pussy. Do they realize they're implying having some lips down there looks dirty? It's so cruel.
Pic related .

No. 86915

>>86911
>a little triangle on top
This is the best. Nobody sees me naked so my choice in pubic hair is solely to please myself, and my preference is shaved everywhere except for a trimmed triangular patch. It prevents me from looking too bald for my taste and it's also the section of hair that is most difficult to shave, the skin there irritates really easily for some reason. In terms of aesthetics I think of pubic hair as like eyebrows for your body. None at all and it looks weird, but it needs to be kept neat and shaped properly.

No. 86916

>>86829
i'd prefer to leave some hair but i'm terrible at shaving and can't make it look even and tidy. i don't find a completely bald pubic area that attractive but it's better than a lopsided patch left, so i always end up just shaving more and more until it's all gone. if i go to get waxed, which i hardly ever do, i ask her to leave a patch still

i find it uncomfortable on myself but i love the look of a real 70s style bush. i hate those "real women have _____" style memes but the further out of my teens i get, the more womanly and appealing i find not being fully shaved

No. 86919

>>86909
>tfw ex porn and hentai addict and even I think women shouldn't have to be perfect and prefer """6/10""" women
Men are useless.

No. 86921

>>86915
>it's also the section of hair that is most difficult to shave
Literally how? That's the only part you can see, shaving the other parts always makes me scared like shit of accidentally cutting myself…

No. 86974

>>86915
I can't seem to get anything resembling a good shave or wax on my labia majora. How do I do this?

No. 86978

>>86921
Like I said, it irritates my skin, it's not a matter of physically struggling to remove the hair. I don't know if other people are the same. It's probably because the hair is thickest there and the way the grain lies, I'm more likely to get razor burn there than anywhere.

No. 86986

>>86921
>>86978
diff anon but I have the same problem, it's just that the hair there are much thicker and somehow no matter how hard I try I get horrible ingrowns when shaving it off. Versus the hair near the vagina is much thinner and "fragile" and removing it has never caused me any problems.

No. 87046

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does anyone here have like a fat pussy? a fat mons pubis? Even when I was at my skinniest 60kg 132lbs it was still fat. I really fucking hate it and get depressed and confused when I see completely flat pussies. Men probably think its horrid

No. 87047

>>87046
>Men probably think its horrid
Maybe the ones who expect porno pussies. And when are guys like that not douches about everything?
Other than that, no.
Plenty of guys have a fat pubic region as well, it doesn't make them automatically disgusting and it doesn't for you either.

No. 87048

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>>87046
When you say fat pussy do you mean a simp? Meaning pussy lips so thick that they look like homer simpson's mouth? (pic related)
If yes, know that a lot of men are into it.

No. 87052

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>>87048
no this area

No. 87070

>>87046
I know exactly what you're talking about, I have the same thing. I've never had a guy complain about it. Sometimes I'll squish it around if I'm alone, no idea why. Anyways, it probably looks worse to you than it does to anyone else. We're always more critical of ourselves. If you do run into a guy who has an issue with it there are way more issues with him than you having a fatty mons pubis.

No. 87072

>>87070
thanks

No. 87077

>>87046
I have the same thing. I was super self conscious when I was younger before I lost my virginity but as I got older (and more slutty lol) I learned to just not give a fuck. I do wear bikini bottoms a little big so I don’t have a pouch but other than that it doesn’t affect me or my sex life at all. It doesn’t really go away with weight loss or gain (from 120-155 and back) although it’s a little more noticeable when I’m smaller. I mean if you REALLY hate it you can get Lipo but most dudes (and girls) are just happy to see a vagina much less care about its fat distribution. Plus its SO SOFT when I’m fresh shaved and oiled up

No. 87079

>>87046
I have this too and I used to hate it (and to make it worse, my mother used to mock me for it), but strangely enough men seem to like it. I don't feel so bad about it now.

No. 87088

>>86986
I have the same, I absolutely can't shave there or I'll get so many in-grown hairs, cuts, and then it'll grow back fast enough that it's beyond uncomfortable. I've instead started using hair removal creams (nair shower power extra strength works, just don't leave it on for too long!) and I occasionally go get it waxed. The waxing and cream I think has made it much thinner, it's still probably pretty thick for the average woman but less horrible. I still wouldn't shave anytime soon though (for other reasons too though)

No. 87158

>>87079
Thats so rude of your mother. when I was 13 one of my friends said I looked like I had a "dick bulge". That really stuck with me. KMS. probably gonna lipo or kms

No. 87277

>>71706
Do you have short or stubby fingers? I am the same way, I can masturbate just fine but when I'm having sex the angle and the space between our bodies make it damn near impossible to get a good "grip" and stay in place lol. I also can't finger myself like shove a finger inside, because of how short my fingers are.It probably can be done but only when you're banging slowly and gently

No. 87278

>>71807
I know this is my own fault, but I went on r9k a few years ago and they were talking about how the only attractive vaginas are the smooth, puffy, pale and white with pink small symmetrical lips, it has to be perfectly tight and small and always shaven/waxed and don't have any sort of discolouration and sag. That really stuck with me and it fucks with my head even though I know it's not true, I just feel like if I had a perfect vagina my boyfriend would wanna fuck me more

No. 87282

>>87278
A cake is cake. You wanna eat it even if it’s a bit smushed or it doesn’t have pretty decorations.
Same with your vagina.
Sorry to rely on food as an analogy for a woman’s body but the same goes for dick too tbh. Superficial things about how it looks matters far less than how it feels and tastes and performs. Guys who care so much about how it looks are probably virgins using a flesh light which is manufactured to be “perfect.” Dont take them seriously.

No. 87286

how do you get rid of red spots from shaving on the bikini line? been there for 5 days

No. 87322

>>86231
this is messed up but it actually makes me feel comforted that someone has felt the same thing as me. every time i look at my labia i think about how i should literally cut them off myself (i won't, don't worry). i've thought about that since i hit puberty..

i have had a meltdown in front of my partner because of the way my inner labia look, can't even enjoy oral because i'm too caught up in my own head. its totally irrational because no one cares that much about it, but it's my biggest body insecurity

No. 87773

TBH I feel lucky to be an innie, I had no idea that the outside labia lips can be a thing till late teens.
At the same time, it literally does not matter how your pussy looks

No. 87778

>>87286
It's a late answer but nappy creams and medicated creams in general work wonders. I'm an UK anon so for me it's stuff like Sudocrem or Bepanthen
You just have to reapply it pretty often for the first week after you shaved

No. 87781

>>87286
Does it happen every time you shave there?

No. 87784

>>87286

a few bumps here and there are normal, wash with cold water and try to mostly wear cotton underwear. if it happens every time you might wanna try a different hair removal method

No. 87792

>>87773
Same here. I'm thankful because I imagine having outie labia makes shaving pretty difficult. I also always wonder how girls with big outie labia deal with bikinis and other clothing items where you can see the details.

No. 87800

Does anyone else wax? I bought parissa wax kit from the drugstore and used it twice, omg I love the waxed feeling so much! But I got my first ingrown the other day, in the form of a pimple and I popped it and now it's making me think maybe this isn't as easy breezy as I was hoping it would be? I'm gonna hopefully go buy some salicylic or glycolic acid later and maybe it will help

No. 87801

>>87792
you can tuck them in a bit

No. 87825

>>87781
this was actually my first time shaving, before I always used Nair. considering going back if this happens every time

>>87784
>>87778
thanks anons!

No. 87836

>>87825
If Nair works for you, you can keep doing that.
For shaving, shave with the grain, with a sharp razor. If you are ok with a less close shave, you can use an electric razor.

No. 87857

Last month my period didn't come, for the first time ever. It was just a tiny bit of blood on day 1 and nothing else. I've been eating regularly and have a healthy life, but I brushed it off as the result of stress from my job so okay.
Now I'm back home and my contract ended so I don't have any source of stress right now, and this month's period is still not coming. Also since last month I started getting cystic breakouts on my chin, when my skin was pretty clear before. I've read that this could mean that I'm having some hormonal imbalance and low oestrogens, so how do I increase them?
(P.s: I'm not on BC and definitely not pregnant)

No. 87861

>>87792
Well we live in shame and constant fear of being mocked due to men (and other women) constantly going on about how gross it is, giving us horrible self worth.

No. 87866

>>87861
lmao, i think she meant dealing with them looking lumpy in tight swim bottoms but okay.

No. 87888

>>87866
Its a stupid question because they just go about it normally. Unless you have like a super fat pussy with super fat lips it doesnt really look different in bottoms.

No. 87908

>>87857
Have you been dieting? This can cause amenorrhea, even without malnourishment.
There are plenty of foods that can do what you want. https://healthwholeness.com/healthy-foods/estrogen-rich-foods
I've used lavender tea, too, but that working might just be dumb luck. If you have white shorts or something, try wearing those out to a social event.

No. 87962

I know that most of you advices to not to get such surgery, but in the case my labia is really huge to the point I can't even wear jeans or other not-even-that-tight clothes comfortably because it hurts, do you think I should consider doing it? I'm a bit scared of surgeries in general so I don't really wanna do it, not even one person complained of its look so far and I know it isn't a hige deal to guys so I don't really care about the looks of it, but it's somewhat uncomfortable and for that reason I wanted to have them smaller.

No. 87963

>>87962
*huge

No. 87965

>>87962
I think if the issue for you is comfort and not just looks, surgery is worth discussing with a professional.
It’s not something to take lightly, but if you’re experiencing daily discomfort or pain then the benefits may outweigh the risks.

Your situation is pretty much the most legitimate reason to get this type of surgery, and it’s worth researching it.
It really depends on how you personally weight up and benefit/risk ratio but at the end of the day constant discomfort is a good reason to look into surgery.

If it was for purely aesthetic reasons most here would absolutely advise against it because it’s uneccessary.

No. 87980

>>81374
honestly my inner labia are extremely small and tucked in to my outer labia, they dont even come close to showing. i've never had surgery this is jusgt how they've always been. everyones anatomy is just different; you're beautiful no matter what just focus on being healthy

No. 87985

>>87980
Mine too. But I hate my outer labia. I feel like they’re too long, and I feel stupidly insecure about it.

No. 89117

How do you know if your hymen is still intact?
I'm a virgin but I'm also an avid masturbator. Although I've only fingered myself a handful of times and each time was pretty shallow. I never had a moment of "oh! there's my hymen."
So it's got me wondering if I lost it some time before I started masturbating and didn't notice, or if it's still intact but I just haven't reached far enough to break it.

No. 89123

>>89117
The hymen is a myth, there is nothing to break or that goes away. It is just a ring of mucosa that should strech with the rest of your vagina, but that often tears because of a lack of patience and lubrication. There is no such thing as an intact hymen. Just an unstreched ring of mucosa, a streched one, or a torn one. Literally nothing to think about.

No. 89135

>>89123
uuh…no…it's not a full seal or something, but it's size, shape, and coverage varies from person to person.

No. 89136

I popped my own cherry while masturbating, I was really upset over it at the time but in hindsight am thankful that I didn’t give any guy the ability to say he did it for me lol. that sounds bitter but I would hate the idea of the first guy I slept with being able to brag or grossly reminisce about it

No. 89171

>>89136
Same here, I used a dildo for awhile before ever doing it with another person. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it helped me with anxiety as well as helping me find out what I like and don't like doing.

No. 89197

I have a very tight vagina and it makes sex really difficult and painful even with average sized guys. My boyfriend is 6.5-7" and girthy and we struggle a lot, usually I orgasm once or twice then we pull out because it's too sore and I blow him until he finishes, which sucks because he lasts a while and other women would kill for that stamina. My hymen is torn and we do use lube so that's not it. I own two vibes, a bullet and a 4"rabbit and the bullet totally fills me girthwise, I can't even get the rabbit in.

bf suggested he just push his way in and let me sit on it until it feels comfortable enough to move but I don't know if there's a better approach? The toys were meant to be helping me stretch because we live a few hours away from each other and it takes a couple days for us to have slightly comfortable sex.

No. 89199

>>89197
Go see a doctor. You should be able to fit your boyfriend and some DIY solution could easily injure you.

No. 89217

>>89136
How was it? I wanted to do the same, I'm just too chicken shit though because I'm afraid of the pain and it's easier when someone else does it to you because they don't feel your pain.

No. 89244

>>8919
I am able to fit him, we just have to work up to full penetration or its too painful I am going soon anyway though so if its persistent I will ask, but I've not had PIV sex much. Thanks for the response

No. 89265

>>89217
It happened on accident lol. TMI, I was trying a larger toy for the first time, it just felt uncomfortable/tight and I couldn’t really get it in. I noticed the blood I stopped and waited a few days before getting off again and then was fine. There was no pain. I wasnt giving my hymen single thought, I was just horny/wet and had been masturbating for a while before I tried, so that probably helped ease into it or something.

No. 89268

>>89197
obviously going to the gyno yourself is ideal, but if you want a cheat, i went in for vaginismus that ended up being caused by me clenching my muscles too much, so i was instructed to buy natural muscle relaxers from a vitamin store and get silicon dilators. they're basically dildos except they make really small sizes. dildos designed for masturbating are only going to be so small, but that's not helpful if your whole issue is being too tight. i feel like an ad plugging this but the ones i was told to get were from soulsource.com

No. 89429

I'm a virgin in the sense that I've never had PIV sex, because until recently, I've not really had the chance or desire to. I'm now at the stage where I do have the desire to, and the guy I'm seeing atm wants it too, but we're struggling. I've never fingered myself before because, idk, it just never occurred to me to do it. Additionally I've never used tampons because I'm quite small so as a young teen I didn't want to hurt myself.

He wants me to loosen myself by fingering myself, but I can't do it. I struggle to get wet enough to do it and when I am wet enough, I can't get a finger in because I don't like the feeling. When he's fingered me, using just 1 finger, it's hurt, but I didn't mind because it was him doing it and not me. But now he's getting upset with me because we both obviously want to have sex but he says we can't until I'm regularly fingering myself. So I'm not sure where I can go from here.

No. 89431

>>89429
WTF that's stupid. Your vagina doesn't get bigger/wider from fingering anon. Does your boyfriend get you wet? Because if not that's his problem. No one will be able to push a penis inside you unless you are wet.
Let's be honest, he probably sucks at sex and wants to put it in way too early. Is he a virgin too?

No. 89432

>>89431
are you 10?

No. 89433

>>89431
Your bf needs to slow down. Just keep fooling around and engaging in non-penetrative foreplay until your body wants to be penetrated. What you should try to achieve is "tenting" where the vagina expands during arousal, in the same way that a man gets an erection.

No. 89437

>>89429
Foreplay. External clit arousal until you're wet will make you much easier to spread. If he just pushes his way in it's going to be painful. Giving you head is also a great way to work you up but if he's that dumb he probably won't go down on you either, let alone well.

No. 89453

Has anyone had any experience with bartholin cyst? I've had them recurring on the same side for about 8 years now. Researched so many remedies and tried most of them but it always comes back and It's really taking a toll on my life. I've been to the doctor to have it drained once when it was really bad, and since then I've had to drain it myself a few times and just kinda wait it out. It seems as though my only choices at this point are to either have the gland removed, or have them cut it in a way that opens it permanently for staying drained. But I'm terrified of doing that and getting damaged in the area. Its So depressing and there seems to be no end to this. And on top of that, I've now noticed that I don't get wet anymore and I'm afraid its because the gland is too damaged. I also suspect I may have a hormone imbalance, but not having insurance and a steady income anymore has stopped me from going to the doctor. Anyway, I guess I'm just hoping to get some advice I haven't come across yet? This all really sucks.

No. 89455

>>89453
i've been misdiagnosed as having one. i was told to do a sitz bath and take serrapeptase, which i saw has a lot of rave reviews on amazon from women who have them. chances are you already know about this but i figured i'd mention. i'm sorry you're dealing with it anon. how awful and scary.

No. 89460

>>89455
Thank you for the response! It definitely is scary. And I've always heard good things about serrapeptase as well, but I had a terrible reaction to it. The 2 Times I tried to take it, it gave me stomach virus symptoms. Diarrhea and not being able to hold anything down for at least 12 hours. I can't remember the dosage I had but I do remember I bought the highest I saw, assuming it would be more potent. Maybe it was just too much and I'd have better luck if I bought something with a lower dosage?

No. 89480

>>89431
He does get me wet, but not all the time. The first time we saw each other was amazing, there was a ton of build up, he started out just resting his hand on my leg and slowly moved towards my vagina, so the anticipation got me so wet. However since then he's tended to go straight for my clit, which doesn't do much for me. He rubs my clit quite hard as well, and doesn't keep the same rhythm, which is not only frustrating, but it hurts. He's not a virgin, and he's super sweet and always wants to make sure I'm enjoying myself, but he doesn't seem to grasp that I'm not wet enough most of the time.

>>89433
Thanks anon, I will take a look at that video. I feel like we need to take it slower in the way I described to the above poster, but atm it feels like he just wants to make me cum without doing any of the foreplay.

>>89437
He has actually given me head twice, but it didn't do anything for me, and I've no idea why? I know it's something I would enjoy that would feel good, but I think it was the way he was doing it? He was sort of just flicking at my clit with his tongue which does nothing for me, he didn't go anywhere else. So consequently I wasn't really wet.

No. 89482

>>89480
Have you communicated these specific problems with your bf?

Also, I used to have vaginismus. You shouldn't have problems with 1 finger even if you're completely dry. I think him asking you to get comfortable fingering yourself alone is a fair thing to ask.

No. 89507

>>89482
I mentioned to him that it hurt when he was rubbing my clit that way, but he seemed to think that I'm just sensitive, not that the way he was rubbing it hurt? I think I need to tell him that I need more foreplay and I guess..anticipation, like the first time we were together, which was amazing. I think he's just eager to make me feel that way again, and so rushes into it. And I think it's a very fair ask, as it would make both our lives so much easier, which is why I'm so frustrated that I just can't do it. He says it's okay but it's not because I can't just not ever have sex, it needs to happen one day, I just don't know how I can get there.

No. 89567

>>89453
It sounds like you're in the US. Planned Parenthood might be good for a second opinion.

>>89480
> However since then he's tended to go straight for my clit, which doesn't do much for me. He rubs my clit quite hard as well, and doesn't keep the same rhythm, which is not only frustrating, but it hurts. He's not a virgin, and he's super sweet and always wants to make sure I'm enjoying myself, but he doesn't seem to grasp that I'm not wet enough most of the time.
Try giving instructions. It's easiest if you tell him what you want him to do instead of what you want him to stop doing.

>>89566

That's totally normal! How much lubrication a woman makes depends on all sorts of things, like medications, genetics, hormones, hydration level, etc. There's nothing wrong with not being dripping wet, but you might feel better if you tell your partner you don't get very wet in general, so they don't take it personally. Keep good lube around and stay hydrated. Pedialyte or similar electrolyte beverages also help. I try to drink a minimum of 40oz of non-caffeinated, non-alcoholic liquids beforehand. But from what you describe, there is nothing wrong with you and you have nothing to be ashamed of.

No. 89584

How do I get over my extreme insecurity of the look of my vag? I'm mexican so its brownish purpleish and shaving n waxing hurts so badly but i like the look and feel of it and I feel like my flaps are HUGE. Would a labiaplasty be worth?

No. 89585

>>89584
no do not get labioplasty. it is not worth it to reduce feeling down there when no one cares but you. men won't care about the look of it unless they're super weird. same with the hair.

No. 89589

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>>89584
It might sound weird but maybe seeing other vaginas (not porn-perfect vulvas or labia, just everyday women’s genitals)
You’ll probably be surprised how many women have genitals like yours and have totally normal sex lives.

If a guy gets disgusted because your labia aren’t a specific shade of pink, he’s probably watching a lot of porn and has little, if any, real sexual experience. A man worth fucking knows that odds are, your pussy won’t look like a neat little coin purse.

Labiaplasty is expensive, wont change the pigment, and can leave you with reduced sensitivity and scarring. There’s also a risk of post surgical infection, or developing keloid scars.

No. 89592

>>89585
this. even if a guy did care, what's the point of doing something he prefers if you're not going to enjoy the sex?!

No. 89616

>>89584
I have had a labiplasty anon. No joke, my flaps were at least 2cm past the entrance. I was a virgin until then because I was so afraid of my future partner being disgusted with how “ugly” my vagoo was.
And I would still say it wasn’t exactly worth it. The scaring is unnatural and strange feeling. The lack of sensation isn’t as bad for me as others, but there is definitely some. The recovery is nightmarish. Using the bathroom was agony, and getting the stiches removed was so painful I passed out and they had to stop to finish another day.

Most guys honestly don’t care what your vagina looks like anyways. I’m lucky to have found someone who loves my “mess”, and so should you. There is someone out there who will worship your body anon.

Sage for blogpost

No. 89640

>>89584
Have you seen what penises look like? Genitalia are weird. It's fine, you're fine, and you're normal.
>>89566
>Do all women have different degrees of wetness? Like, some women get very wet while some don't? You only hear about this in black and white terms, you're either wet or not. It's never been an issue for me during sex but it still makes me insecure, since I feel like it's expected for women to be dripping. Also, is it abnormal to only get wet during oral/fingering/penetration but not during foreplay/kissing? I read things all the time about girls getting wet from just having their thighs touched and I can't understand how that could happen lol.
Yes, and it's normal. Keep some body-safe lube around.

No. 89650

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Wow, it truly astonishes me that there are women who are so self-loathing they'd resort to mutilating their genitals. Like it's almost unbelievable, how does someone get to that point? That surgery sounds like it has zero benefits and is just another way for plastic surgeons to cash in on people's insecurities. I'd take meat flaps and being able to fully enjoy sex over losing sensitivity in my cooch and possible health risks anyday.

No. 89723

>>89616
Anon did you get the sugery because of discomfort or insecurities?
What method did your doctor go with?

No. 89797

How often do you anons masturbate, if at all? I recently learned that most males my age masturbate multiple times a week if not daily, and I was semi-shocked. I tried it once and felt indifferent too it. It slightly hurt, too (maybe I did it wrong?).

No. 89799

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>>89650
Memes like these (and the male commentary which would come with them) are what made younger me start analyzing how my vag looked. Around that age I also started to explore porn and noticed that mine didn’t look quite like the others. And since I’ve matured my insecurity has reached the point to where I’ve held a razor to myself. I know I shouldn’t care what men like that think, but it gets to you.

Sorry for samefagging

No. 89802

>>89799
I understand that societal pressures can be difficult to work through, but if the feeling is that extreme I doubt a surgery would fix the underlying issue with your self-esteem. That comes from within, not from validation from an outside source. Therapy would probably be a better investment than a vaginoplasty.

>>89797
I naturally have a high libido, so I tend do it daily, sometimes twice a day or more. Though recently I've been cutting that down to once every few days.

>It slightly hurt, too (maybe I did it wrong?).

Lol how did you do it? Did you rub your clit or finger yourself? I doubt there's a "wrong way" to masturbate but your body might have a preference for one of the two, if you get what I mean.

No. 89803

>>89797
i really love masturbating but i'm inconsistent. sometimes once a day, sometimes multiple different times a day, sometimes i can go weeks without it. i think it depends on my health, my cycle, stress levels, etc.

No. 89809

>>89650
I´ve had labioplasty and the main reason apart from the way it looked was because it was painful. Womens clothes like jeans and shorts are made with no extra space around vaginas, so my longer labia would sometimes be just sort of squished between my body and the clothes when i was sitting and it was extremly painful.

No. 89812

>>89797
I do it daily, before bed or after getting up. If I'm hanging around the house all day, maybe 2-3 times or 1 time for an extended period. Multiple orgasms are a blessing.
I'm a horny bitch though (probably comparable to the average male's libido, down to thinking about sex all the time) so I may be irregular.
From what I've heard most women do it a couple times a week.

No. 89818

>>89802
What is the point of therapy when afterwards you will still hear the same fucked up roastbeef/outie/sloppy pussy jokes? It isn't a self esteem issue as much as it is a societal issue where men are allowed to be as demanding and horrible as they want about women. As long as men will talk about it, we will be reminded about how horrible others think our body looks. A small snip and a bit of recovery is better than years of bad self worth.

No. 89832

>>89818
Who gives a shit what men think? The entire point of SELF-esteem is that you acquire it from YOURSELF and not by other people's petty judgments and opinions about you. Can you just like - consider the fact that it's possible to be secure in the knowledge of who you are without needing others to come along and validate you?

No. 89833

>>89818
You don’t get what therapy is do you?

No. 89863

>>89797

I used to do it twice daily before I got on meds that killed my libido. Now that I've ditched treatment it's 3-4 times a week.

No. 89880

>>89797
Between zero and three times a month, generally around ovulation. Being in a relationship has greatly increased my libido, but I generally have my bf get me off because I prefer that.
My bf generally masturbates in the morning and before bed most days, unless I'm over, or he's intentionally abstaining. He used to masturbate more as a teenager.
As for it hurting, do you use lube? Do you give yourself time to warm up before going at it?

No. 89882

>>89799
>>89818
Tbh I think most guys who make these jokes mostly do it because they want to seem cool in front of their friends/ other males, not because they actually find outtie vaginas gross. Also most of the time they are still pretty young and insecure themselves and have probably never seen a vagina in real life, so they don't know any better.

Aside from that most dicks are kinda ugly too tbh so it's not like these guys are in a position to judge your private parts anyways.

If a guy likes you and thinks you're hot, he won't give two shits about what your vagina looks like (as long as it's clean and healthy obviously), just like you won't give a shit about the looks of his dick. He probably won't even look at it too closely because he will be too distracted by other things during sex anyways.

Don't let these stupid memes made by stupid boys make you question your self worth.

No. 89886

>>89818
Only tangentially related but how often do you hear jokes about pussy shapes…? I have never heard anybody irl make beef curtain jokes in any context, only online. And even then it's almost exclusively limited to places like r9k where garbage tier men congregate.

No. 89918

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>>89882
>Aside from that most dicks are kinda ugly too tbh so it's not like these guys are in a position to judge your private parts anyways.
Never forget.

No. 89934

samefag from a few weeks ago but my vagina legitimately makes me wanna kms. I have a fat mons pubis and it makes me want to die. I'm never going to have sex. I refuse. I'll just get laughed at and the man will be repulsed. I will have to get liposuction on it, (yes its a real thing) How embarrassing and I'll have to get the money for it somehow.

No. 89935

>>89934
By fat you mean fleshy or do you mean the bone stick out?

Anyways I understand that you feel insecure about it, but I promise it's not a big deal at all, I don't even think most guys would notice something like that and if they did they would probably compliment you and want to caress it and kiss it. When people are horny they tend to get turned on by the particular things of their lover's body. I know I do and all of my partners did.

No. 89937

>>89723
Actually, believe it or not, it was covered by my insurance completely. The doctor called my labia “redundant”. Don’t go through a plastic surgeon, go through a gynecologist if you’re 120% you want and need it. They will let you know if you do or not. My labia was so long, it would rub against my leg, and sometimes swell. It would get caught on things and was incredibly uncomfortable.

No. 89940

>>89935
fat as in fleshy FAT. like just grab a load of it.. it confuses the hell out of me. I actually feel tears in my eyes when I see normal mons pubis'.

No. 89942

>>89940
It's really not that bad anon, I think it can even be very sexy and sensual. You're only hurting yourself by focusing so much on that body part.

I really don't like my stomach it sticks out and since I have digestion problems it tend to get bigger after I've eaten (I look pregnant…), my bf has found a way to find it sexy, I don't get it but I think the fact that he loves me and is attracted to me makes him like even the ugly or weird things I have.

No. 89963

>>89942
must be nice

No. 89982

BF and I fuck like rabbits and have done for a while. BF has just informed me of a genital herpes outbreak having never experienced one before. Neither have I. Research tells me that basically it could have been either one of us first if we were asymptomatic, from any past partners despite condoms. It's difficult to swallow and we've both been emotional, can any farmers provide advice or experiences regarding the situation? I'm just worried our sex life will never quite be the same having been so shaken by this, that we might not feel sexy any more.

No. 89985

>>89982
Samefag to add that obviously we're getting checked and treated, and also that there are no concerns of cheating. At least 1/8 adults are positive, I would think someone here can relate.

No. 89997

>>89886
Irl, I only hear roastie used as a way to mock incels for being ridiculous.

No. 89998

Hey, any of you know what this could be? Whenever I try to masturbate I get intense stomach cramps and feel like vomiting, so I have to stop. I don't insert anything, it's just outer stimulation. What is wrong with me?

No. 90000

>>89982
I'm sorry to hear you guys are going through this, anon. Happy to hear you both are handling it in a mature way though. I'm not on the same boat but offer my sympathy. It's a big pill to swallow and will probably take a bit for you both to come to terms with it emotionally. But like you yourself said it is fairly common and doesn't make you an "outcast" or dirty or anything. I think all in all this may bring you two closer together once you've processed it. As for your sex life just give it time. You both need to focus on your physical/emotional health first, those feelings will more than likely come back when you're both more at peace if your relationship has a solid foundation. Just try to remember that it's definitely manageable and even though it sucks, it isn't going to ruin your life. Good luck.
Last year I went to PP and found out my boyfriend gave me chlamydia. He hadn't been tested or been to a doctor since he lost his V card so he had no way of knowing, and he felt really guilty. It made me feel really dirty and I cried a lot, but we got the meds and got cleared up. The experience really made me lose my personal stigma around STDs, it's kinda just a part of life as a sexual species. It also brought us closer together after dealing with the emotional part of it.

No. 90062

>>89942

I have a belly like yours and my bf loves it too. He's really into it and I find that so weird. Makes me feel comfy tho.

No. 90423

is anyone else's vulva like really enclosed? Even when I'm spread eagle, the farthest I can buss it open, you still have to like pull the lips apart to feel/see the clit and everything else :(

No. 90424

>>90423
Congratulations, you have the ideal female genitalia according to men.

No. 90427

>>90424
umm…what…. well, that confuses me greatly. I think its irregular, weird and gross plus I have a fatty mons pubis which completely overrides and ruins everything that MIGHT make me have the cumbrains ideal female genitalia.

No. 90445

>>90423
I do too anon, it's like a "slit" and a little puffy. Everything is kind of just tucked away in there, I used to be worried that it was strange but I'm alright with it now and I don't think it's abnormal

No. 90506

>>89934
Yes anon I also have a fat ass vagina (or rather the upper part of it) and no guy (or girl) has ever commented on it during sex. I used to be insecure and wanted lipo too but it seems it's more normal than you think.

No. 90508

>>90445
me three. I figured this is what is meant by an innie and is preferred by many.

No. 90544

what is a normal vagina supposed to feel like inside? mine has like a point protruding from the front wall and over the point it feel smooth, google says its some kind of prolapse but idk how trustworthy that is.
can anyone help? ive been losing sleep over it

No. 91105

Heads up this is really TMI
I’ve had creamy medium-brown discharge for 5 days now. First two days it was almost nothing, on the third day I had sex and there was a bit more and it was darker, past two days it’s only really when I wipe except there’s been 2-3 instances of a glob coming out while doing physical activity. It hasnt been enough to fill a panty liner, it’s only really when I wipe. My period is due in 4 days. This started 7 days after my estimated ovulation. I’m scared this is implantation bleeding but from what I’ve read that’s supposed to be more watery and only last 2-3 days max. I haven’t had any other symptoms like nausea or cramps (I don’t cramp until the first 1-2 days of already having my period). Should I wait to see if I get my period before taking a pregnancy test? I did just start a new job and am apartment hunting so maybe stress has thrown me off a bit. If you’ve experienced implantation bleeding does this sound like it? Any advice or input would be really appreciated.

No. 91108

>>91105
Implantation bleeding is usually pinkish and watery but it can differ and not everyone even has it, I had none when I got pregnant. Definitely wait until your period is about a week late and get some cheap pink dye pregnancy tests, don't blow your money on a clearblue or any blue one cause they're shit. Seriously 40 euros worth of them came out invalid for me when 2euro of pink dye sticks confirmed I was pregnant.

It really is probably just stress but I just wanted to let you know the above just in case. Good luck nonnie

No. 91110

>>91105
i get that too, it's likely stress. are you on birth control? if so then it's 100% stress related.

No. 91119

>>91108
Ill wait and see before getting the test then, thank you for the input and well wishes. I really don’t wanna blow money unnecessarily either lol.
>>91110
Good to know I’m not alone. I stopped my BC a few months ago because I had to start other medication that would interfere with it. I’ve had a lot going on and have put off finding another method. My boyfriend and I use condoms 95% of the time but besides that pull out I know that it’s stupid and unreliable but I try my best and only do this when I’m not ovulating. I also could afford to abort if necessary but would really rather not have to deal with that atm.. Getting back on BC will be put on the top of my priority list now.

No. 91262

>>91119
Going off of BC probably threw things off, tbh.

No. 93690

I'm trying to generate less waste from menstrual products, since realizing how much we have to throw out when using disposable products. I'm considering getting a cup and use tampons without applicators, but I still have to use liners in case I leak…

Would the "period panties" work for what I need? I literally just need something in case my tampon leaks, and it usually only leaks a tiny bit if it does at all.

Also, any other tips from ecofags or anyone trying to just use less?

No. 93699

>>93690
Plzzzz try a cup anon, I have endometriosis and periods are a fucking horrible ordeal and even for me they make it so much more bearable. I just use panty liners with mine.

No. 93700

>>93690
use a cup and get some of those reusable liners. that's what i did! throwing a few liners in with the rest of your wash every week has way less of a footprint than using tampons and regular lines.

No. 93735

>have vaginismus
>even trying to put a finger inside me hurts, but I'm able to orgasm in other ways so it's fine
>have no desire whatsoever to get penetrated, I know it would only hurt and I don't need it to cum
>get bf and tell him about this
>he's very sweet and understanding but seems to expect that I'll get treatment one day and talks sometimes about "one day after you get treatment I'd like to try this"
>I'm a wuss against pain and the idea of dilation freaks the hell out of me
>But this will be the elephant in the room until I do

No. 93736

>>93735
The sad reality is, no matter how sweet and understanding a guy is, hes probably not going to give up the act of penatrative sex in the long run. So unless you give him permission to fuck others and then maybe only get blowjobs from you or whatever, its probably not gonna last if you dont get treatment. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

No. 93737

>>93735
Just tell him that you have no intention and that it would only hurt you. I told my boyfriend I wasn't interested in penetrative sex because even fingers hurt me, and he was completely fine with it and never tried to pressure me into it at all. Eventually I tried on my own after a year of being together. I lost my virginity to him, and it still did nothing but hurt me despite trying multiple times. We never did it again after, he never asks or pressures me. He even told me he likes sex, but he would rather never do it if it hurts me. You guys may just be sexually incompatible and he needs to figure out if he could deal or not. You should tell him directly.

No. 93741

I have to get real about this. I have the most emberassing issue, my vagina smells. I go to a gyn at least twice per year and two years ago I was diagnosed with PCOS. I was on the pill but it gave me a blood clott after only one month of use and I chickened the fuck out. After that experience I completely changed my dietary habits and some of my symptoms got better but the smell is still there and the white yeasty discharge is still there. I also got treated for yeast infection multiple times. Is there such thing as chronic yeast infection or an yeast infection that's resistant to most of the treatments? Or maybe my hormonal imbalance causes it since my vagina becomes even smellier and the discharge becomes even thicker one week before my period.

No. 93742

I don't know where else to ask since I'm fucking afraid of gynecologists.
I rarely ever get my period. Before it was maybe once in a couple of months, now it's been half a year without it.
And the truth is, I don't experience any problems with that. I hate being on my period,so not having them is a godsend.
My question is. Will/do I have some major problems if I don't get my period once a month?
I think it's from me both being very thin and having some kind of hormonal imbalance, but I don't want to get treated since I'm afraid I'll gain weight. I don't have penetrative sex and I don't plan on having children ever, so not having a regular cycle is not a problem for me.
But should I really look into getting treated or is it fine as it is?

No. 93746

>>93742
Lack of nutrition can most certainly cause you to miss periods but with your attitude towards weight gain I would worry more about other things. Once you consume enough nutrients your period will return but I'd be more concerned about the health of your heart at this point. If your body is already so stressed and deprived that you stopped menstruating I wouldn't be surprised if you're already developing other problems with your organs.

No. 93749

>>93741
discharge is supposed to change in consistency according to your cycle. as for the smell, are you cleaning properly? are you cleaning with harsh products that are fucking your ph balance? remember, don't clean inside your vag and clean with a damp cloth in between all of your folds daily. nothing less and nothing more.

No. 93750

>>93742
If it is due to weight, not having it can lead to(? or be a sign of impending?) osteoporosis. I was anachan for years and didn't have one, now I have osteopenia. Could also be due to low iron intake. It can also lead to infertility though not getting it right now doesn't necessarily mean you can't get pregnant.

You don't really need to go to a gyno about the things it could be due to. A blood test and bone scan will more or less figure it out. Not getting a period was one of the big factors in me staying ill so I get that right now it doesn't seem too bad, but it will have future consequences.

No. 93751

>>93749
Yeah anon I clean myself properly, I use a special gel with balanced PH and no perfumes or irritants and I don't clean inside my vagina and I take two showers daily.

No. 93755

>>93751
have you thought of ditching the gel? you really need to get to a gynaecologist if you have constant yeast infections anyway

No. 93769

>>93746
I don't think I'm that malnourished actually, my bmi is 17,3 which is close to normal 18,5. My lack of a period could also be due to me taking antipsychotics and antidepressants, I read that can be the cause.
But yeah, my heart is not the best, I should probably get it checked out.

>>93750
Wow, that sure sounds scary. I'll check that out too, thanks.

No. 93774

>>93769
When I was on antidepressants I started skipping my periods and missing months. I'm on the pill and never changed my diet so it was always alarming. Not to mention antidepressants literally put me up 2 dress sizes even though my diet and activity levels did not change. I srudy pharmacology and honestly people they think it's vain to stop antidepressants because of metabolism defects are morons.

No. 93775

Anyone else here who doesn't particularly enjoy their partner trying to make them cum? I love having sex with my bf but I really don't like him rubbing my clit or anything, I prefer to do it myself. I know a lot of women complain when their boyfriends don't put effort in making them orgasms but I just don't find it important at all.

No. 93789

>>93775
i mean i don't like to receive pleasure, instead i like to take it but i don't fall for the
>lel i dont need to cum to enjoy sex
meme

No. 93792

>>93755
It gets worse if I don't use any gel, these kind of gels are made for washing your private areas, so I think it's fine. I did go to my gynecologist 3 months ago and told them I keep getting yeast infections and they did a pap smear and some other tests from my discharge to see if there's anything wrong and I only had an yeast colony, so they prescribed me antifungal ovules and some other oral medication and it went away for a while and after a month I had to come back for a check up, I had the test repeated and the yeast colony was gone but a few weeks ago the yeasty and smelly discharge came back and I didn't even have sex or anything. I think I get at least 6 yeast infections yearly.

No. 93793

>>93792
well you're doing something wrong because that is not normal

No. 93803

>>93792
Gels and feminine washes say they're okay to use but for some women they can still fuck up their natural pH which leads to yeast infections.
So go to the doctor again clear up any current infections you may have. Don't use the gel, wear breathable underwear (like cotton) that's not too tight. Don't wear pants that are too tight either. only clean in the shower with a wet rag.
Dampness also leads to yeast infections so dry well after the shower and if your a sweaty person then throughout the day, wipe yourself dry down there.

No. 93863

>>93735
Anon, I had problems too, and I was afraid I had vaginismus, but idk if I did or not. I spent a while actually afraid of my vagina. I dated (well still am) a sweet guy who was basically the same about it.

It's up to you, entirely. I ended up working all the way up to sex, and at times I think I'm a bit sensitive or tight still, but it's usually comfortable and pleasurable.

For me, it was something for him, and for myself, and it was scary. I had him with me through it, starting from essentially a fucking pen to a regular dildo/dick. In the end, I thought it was worth the pain, discomfort, and tears to be able to do that.

It is entirely up to what YOU want from everything, and if you're willing to try fighting past your fear and anxiety. That alone may be what's causing the pain.

No. 94063

Has anybody here tried to use an epilator on their pubic hair?
I really want to try it out since I already epilate my legs, but I'm kinda scared.
What should I look out for? Should I try it in the first place?

No. 94072

>>94063
not sure if you are talking about epilating the full on bush but i epilate my bikini line (i have very fuzzy ass cheeks ok) and it works out great! no stray hairs for good 3 weeks and i can just throw on a swimsuit and go swimming whenever. i'd say the pain level is comparable to armpits and the regrowth feels the same as if you'd shaved.

No. 94093

>>93803
>>93792
I honestly feel like most "feminine hygiene" products are made to make the issue worse so you keep using their products trying to lessen the problem. It's okay to have an odor down there, vaginal gels and creams and cleaners literally make the issue worse. You can give yourself an imbalance which makes odor worse. I had BV for like 6 months because of OTC yeast infection products and I thought I had fucking gonorrhea lol. It smelled so bad. And these OTC products can't fix it. It is totally natural to have a scent. But a scent that can be smelled by you when you're just sitting around is not natural and means you should see a doctor. Using a cloth or your hand in the shower with no soap is sufficient to cleanse the vulva.

No. 94094

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>>94063
Been using pic related, works like a charm

No. 94098

Is there any dear anons that could give any tips on going fully porcelain? I have been trying to look for different hair creams and strips, but everyone of them says to avoid going to close the genitalia. I would go to a get full Brazilian, but its not an option this time.

No. 94099

>>94094
Male razors are so much better than the woman ones. lel.

No. 94108

>>94098
Shave. Slowly, carefully, in a hot shower. Get a mirror if if helps. Imo it’s easiest to shave with one foot on the bathroom sink and one on the floor because you can see.
Most important thing is to just go slowly and carefully.

No. 94119

>>94093
>honestly feel like most "feminine hygiene" products are made to make the issue worse so you keep using their products trying to lessen the problem.

Supply & demand. Use soap andnwater and a wash cloth to clean the labia/vulva, but never put soap inside the vagina. It's self cleaning, unless there's an infection or other problem. All that Summer's Eve bullshit is a marketing gimmick like Proactive (only works if you keep using it). You don't need a specially designed and formulated product for every single bodily need and function after all.

No. 94131

>>94119
>soap and water

no anon, you shouldn't use soap and water on your labia or anything. just water is sufficient.

No. 94132

>>94131
Ive never had an issue with soap and water for cleaning. I do notice a difference in smell when I wash without vs with soap. It's especially helpful on time where there is dried blood from my period, or discharge.

No. 94134

>>94132
That doesn’t mean that regular application of soap to the vagina are good for people. You may be find but it’s still not recommended for good reasons.

Your anecdote is meaningless.

No. 94137

>>94131
On your outer labia it's fine. As in, the places where nasty bitches collect toilet paper bits and dead skin. If you don't understand the difference between putting soap in your vagina and cleaning the area around it then I'm sorry for you.

No. 94140

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>>94131
>>94134
I bet you smell like stale tuna. How did your mother not teach you to wash yourself??

I made a diagram to help everyone ITT who may be unsure of how to wash their pussy.

No. 94141

>>94140
don't smell like fish but you smell like a robot.

No. 94142

>>94137
yoy shouldn't put soap near your urethra you idiot.

No. 94143

>>94140
Yeah, nah I smell like nothing because I bathe daily? But keep putting soap in your vag and enjoy your eventual yeast colony.

No. 94144

>>94143
UTI too!

No. 94145

>>94140
Sure I'm going to follow what a random farmer (maybe even a robot in disguise) said rather than what my gyno said. No soap near the vagina, if you smell like stale tuna it's because you have an infection.

No. 94147

>>94137
What's so difficult about aiming the showerhead at your genitals for a bit to get rid of anything dirty? Way safer and more PH friendly. Have fun with your incoming yeast infection caused by the soap messing with the PH balance.

No. 94149

>>94147
or even using your hand, not hard.

No. 94782

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sorry if this is really autistic but is it normal that my period is very irregular? it's more than two weeks late now and i'm getting kind of paranoid even though i'm a virgin

No. 94785

>>94782
PAranoid about what?

No. 94790

>>94785
paranoid about something being wrong health-wise, i only mentioned that i'm a virgin to clarify that there's no way i'm pregnant. i hope that makes sense

No. 94793

>>94782
Mine's the same way. It could be that way if you're young, or really skinny. Sometimes it has no cause, or it's stress. Mine vary by weeks, its really frustrating, iktf.

No. 94794

>>94790
It’s very common.
What changes have occurred in diet/medications/sleep/stress/physical activity?
It’s almost definitely one of those things. Go see a gp if you skip a third cycle in a row.

No. 94796

>>94793
thanks for your response anon! i'm 19, so yeah that might be it. it really is frustrating, and super annoying to keep track of even with a tracking app.

>>94794
i have a pretty shitty diet so that's nothing new but i've had a ton more physical activity in the last month than before, maybe that contributes as well. thanks for the advice!

No. 94798

>>94796
It’s a pain. From 14-20 I’d get mine every two or three months, then lost it totally for almost a year. I got into the habit of keeping tampons, pads, and painkillers in both handbags, schoolbag, and stashed a box of tampons in friends bathrooms just in case.
Way easier to have stuff on you all the time than trying to guess a cycle that is as arbitrary as clothing sizes. Plus it’s sorta nice to be that lady with the spare tampon when someone is caught out at work or the mall.

No. 94801

I feel like my vagina is weird. I've tried to look up pics to find something similar, and never end up with it. I asked more than one gyno, they've all been female, and they all just tell me "it's fine" but they don't tell me what it is or why it's like that.

Basically when I stretch my lips apart and try to look into my vaginal opening, there's nothing but this odd flap of skin in the way. I don't think it's my hymen? I'm far from a virgin, I've had regular sex for nearly a decade now, with dicks and dildos of various shapes/sizes. No pain during sex but guys have universally marveled at how "tight" I am, saying it's unreal, surprised it doesn't hurt me, etc. Dicks/sex toys don't hurt, but the smallest speculum at the gyno DOES hurt like a motherfucker. Could my hymen just kind of be there hanging out like the flap of a cat/dog door??? It's so weird.

No. 94815

>>94801
fun fact, my cervix is sideways and pushes up to the front so all those little nerve endings are basically right at the front instead of further back

pros- i cum super easily, and am even more likely to have inner vaginal orgasms than clitoral which i dont care for

cons- it takes a little bit longer for my boyfriend to find the right angle to stick his penis in me without it being uncomfortable and almost painful

apparently its more common than people know
tldr it could just be your cervix is tilted or further down thus causing some of the skin or nerve tissues to be pushed up more towards the actual opening
no big deal

No. 94819

>>94815
I specifically asked my last gyno if this (tilted/tipped uterus/cervix) was what it was and they said no. Also, it's definitely not nerve endings, because it doesn't have much sensation (the skin flap) beyond normal skin. Also all angles for dick are good angles for me.

No. 94821

>>94801
idk i think i have something similar? it almost looks like a half of a doughnut hanging in front of my vaginal opening (but like there is just a slight dip where the hole would be on a doughnut and no, it is not urethra). none of the generic "this is how a hymen could look like" graphics ever look even remotely similar and idk what else that flap could be. i mean it doesn't bring me any discomfort besides confusing me.

No. 94822

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>>94821
The donut shape, I've actually seen diagrams like that, for leftover hymen tissue. Pic related. Mine doesn't even have a donut hole or any hole, just skin, can't see inside at all unless there's a sepculum involved. From my pov when just spreading my inner labia, it looks most similar to the imperforate hymen in this diagram, but if that were the case I'd have serious issues like an inability to menstruate normally, and I don't have that issue.

No. 94823

>>94822
I have the same thing! I used to be super freaked out when looking with a mirror and thought I had some kind of vag tumor

I can feel it push against my finger and so on but it's never caused pain

No. 94825

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>>94822
i don't think i explained it in an understandable manner so i drew a diagram, hope that's better. it's like this fleshy semi-circular flap with a dip in the middle. is that maybe like the hymen but scrunched up and with an almost-perforation in the middle?

No. 94831

>>94823
DUDE I thought mine was a tumor too when I was younger. I remember asking the gyno if it was some horrible abnormality/cancerous when I first went forever ago and they assured me it wasn't, just never said what exactly. I guess we're vag sisters lol! It's cool to know there's someone else with the same thing!

>>94825
This is really illustrative. I've never seen that in any diagram. I'm gonna guess it's all leftover hymen, like for all three of us talking here. But wouldn't it hurt if it WAS a hymen remnant? Why is this so hard to figure out? I'm guessing you both have seen a gyno at least once for a pelvic exam.

It's really irritating that it's apparently so common to have stuff like this, but also so common for gynos to just keep us in the dark about it. Just hearing "you're fine and normal" really isn't comforting when all images you see everywhere tell you otherwise. Are they afraid to be more specific with patients about this sort of thing or what gives?

The fact that there's 3 of us here, all confused about our genitals, is kind of bullshit tbh.

No. 94870

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>>94831
wow i tried to do some research for you guys and check this out. no, she's obviously not asking if it's normal to have labia, you condescending boomer.

No. 94878

WHERE TF IS MY CLIT. EVEN AROUSED, I CANT FIND IT.

No. 94880

>>94831
diagram anon here, realistically it must be hymen remains unless we all have spouted mysterious novel tissue kek but would be nice to actually know. tbf i haven't had a pelvic exam as I'm too young for my first mandatory one and also too retarded to go ask for one so I guess this mystery shall wait on an experts opinion for 3 more years.

i thought hymen tissue should only hurt if it is injured though? are all of us just that well lubricated lol

>>94870
lmao how tf could you read the question and gather she's talking about labia? the answering person sounds straight out of 1910s not 2010s

No. 94884

>>94878
Same tbh. I checked multiple times and I just don't see it.

No. 94886

How come I bleed after sex?I have PCOS too,if that counts.

No. 94887

>>94825
Wtf, I have the exact same thing. I remember searching for it years ago and came to the conclusion that it was leftover hymen tissue. Recently I was feeling it post-sex when it was swollen and the "dip" you mentioned felt like another hole. I put my finger inside it which hurt and when I tried to search for info, I found out people can have two vaginas so I joked with my bf that I have a second vagina lol. Other than that people mentioned it being the urethra which is fucking stupid because your urethra doesn't protrude from your vaginal opening. You're probably the first person to draw this diagram, thanks for that because there's way too little information out there about female anatomy.

Another detail is that mine hurts when I pinch it, so it must be important skin. I also have really heavy periods and hormonal problems with my skin and weight etc. Maybe that's relevant idk.

No. 94888

>>94782
Happened to me too recently, I missed my period for two months. It was most likely because I was in an extremely stressful situation, now it's back and regular as ever.
Don't worry about it, unless you miss it for months

No. 94904

>>94878
mine is super small and i only know where it is because its pretty uncomfortable to touch it outright

No. 94930

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Does anyone's labia minora look this way? (pardon the terrible photo edit). It bothers me so much. I'm considering labiaplasty to make the sides just a solid straight shape. The bump/curve part is more sensitive than the rest, and not in a pleasure way. I'm scared though, that the procedure is super painful.

No. 94932

>>94930
the bumps are more sensitive because they stick out and rub up against stuff. while a labiaplasty will get rid of them, it will not fix it and instead you'll just have uncomfortable scar tissue. t's not worth it. it's purely cosmetic and doesn't help with pain/discomfort because it creates it's own.

No. 94933

Is it weird that my labia is uneven? One side is flat. I had no idea until i shaved for the first time..

No. 94948

>>94932
not original anon, but I also experience this same issue. is the scarring really that bad?? bc I am in so much pain and discomfort all the time as it is and have been considering sugery

No. 95084

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This is gross but I'm too anxious to care much!

About a week ago I accidentally fell asleep wearing these tight mesh bastards, and since then I've been in itchy burning cottage cheese hell. This has happened before (generally whenever I accidentally run out of laundry and resort to this backup pair), but usually it just clears itself up in a few days. Yesterday I started noticing slightly bloody discharge when I wiped, and today I noticed a lot more of it, even though the other discharge has p much entirely cleared up and the itching is going away.

My tracking app estimates that I ovulated two days ago, and I've read that this kind of discharge can happen at this point in the cycle, but I've never experienced it before, and it could mean this itchy hell is worse than I thought. It could also mean cervical cancer, but I'm trying not to think about that.

I have a doctor's appointment on Monday, but I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation, since that's a long time to spend with only my anxiety to talk to. Also if someone could come here and smack me for not throwing these panties out already that would be great!

No. 95086

>>95084
Throw out fancy panties! They're cute, but they hate your vagina!

You're probably going to be fine, I sometimes have bloody discharge at random times during my cycle. You already got a doctor's appointment, so that's great!

No. 95094

>>94831
awww lol. I've never gone to a gyno but a long period of my tweens I was extremely distressed about it and planned a visit for my "vag cancer"

I wish this kind of stuff was put in sex ed, not just penises&periods

No. 95126

>>95084
yep i always have that happpen anytime i wear thongs or g strings or anything where the underwear goes up in my vag

No. 95141

>>95086
Fancy panties are going in the trash! Did it freak you out the first time it happened?

>>95126
It's such a pain! I wish I could find cute cotton briefs that aren't immediately destroyed by my washing machine.

No. 95247

Ugh. I hate even asking this but I’m lost trying to google it. Last weekend something went wrong while having sex with my boyfriend and I ended up bleeding due to a tear I guess, now there’s a small, but painful bump right where my vag ends. Nothing really hurts until I brush up too hard against that. Should I be going to the doctor or is there something else I can do? We’re hanging out for the weekend together and I hate to be like “Hey my pussy is still fucked up”

No. 95282

>>95247
its fine just let it heal. why would it be awkward to tell your boyfriend that?

No. 96469

>>89918

Tru

The men i have been with have been insecure about the randomest things

one was insecure about the fact that his penis arched a bit when erect (even though it was pretty big)

another one was insecure because his foreskin was very wrinkled

another one was insecure because he had a bad circumcision and he had a "weird" looking tiny foreskin

another one was ashamed of the color of his "head" being too dark

to name a few
men can also be very insecure about their junk

No. 96498

>>95247
it's not like it's a yeast infection or even your period so why be shy? put some polysporin on it and tell him the tear from sex is still healing

No. 96499

>>89918
lol anon this image is either fake or not even about humans. dicks can be weird af but not like….that….

No. 96667

>>96469
But all penises are kinda ugly. It shouldn't matter.

No. 96680

my medication makes my vag not get wet when im horny idk how to fix it.. when i masturbate i only get that thick white mucus-like discharge… i hate it i have to use so much lube

No. 96681

>>96667

Honestly i find all genitals ugly af but I think it's because we live in a non nudist society lol

No. 96824

>>96680
Try drinking a lot of water, and maybe some electrolyte drink? Also try an oil-based lube under a water-based lube so that the water-based lube doesn't get absorbed as quickly.

No. 96843

Has anyone else ever had abnormal pap smear results?

No. 96850

i'm due for a pap smear, and i'm honestly kind of terrified of the idea. so i ask for your honest thoughts and experiences of them. like, what to worry about, if anything, how it feels, how i can make it better if it's unpleasant, etc. i really, really don't want to get it done but i know it'd be irresponsible to keep putting it off. so some honest accounts might soothe me so i at least know what to expect.

No. 96857

>>96850
Don't worry too much. I was a virgin when I got mine done, and I can assure you that it was not anywhere near as bad as I've always heard. In my case, since I told the doctor about never having been sexually active before, she used the smallest speculum. She got it slicked up, inserted it, then widened the tool to make me stretch out all at once. This wasn't too bad since I was completely relaxed the whole time. Being stretched that wide so suddenly was shocking but it wasn't awful. Actually, I'd say it burned more than ached. Now, so far as I'm concerned, when she took the sample was what I'd qualify as being the worst part. When she swabbed, the feeling made me reflexively jump BUT it was over super quickly! The feeling lasted probably no longer than two seconds total.

No. 96862

>>96850
Just try to relax,the more you clench your muscles the more it hurts but if you manage to relax it feels only slightly uncomfortable. Just breathe and take it easy, its over in like two seconds anyway.

No. 96893

>>96850
i was terrified too but pleasantly shocked that it was nothing. i guess the cervix itself doesn't actually have much feeling (just everything around it does) because when she actually swabbed it i legit couldn't feel it. i couldn't even feel a little pressure or anything. the only painful part was the speculum which they use in almost every gyno exam. if you've never had a speculum used before just know that it's kind of cold and very hard so your vag will be like "wtf is this? can we get it out of here?!" so you need to really focus on relaxing and not clenching up because that'll make it more uncomfortable

No. 96912

>>96850
It's not that bad. It's similar to a throat swab.

No. 96914

>>96857
What is the point of having a pap smear done if you've never had sex before? Because cervical cancer is caused by certain strains of HPV, and there's no way to catch those HPV strains unless you've been sexually active.

No. 96920

Is anyone else experiencing more trouble with gyno exams and speculums the older they get? I remember having almost no issues when I was a teen, but now when I'm 30+, it's getting more and more painful for me, to the point that I'm almost shaking with pain and have to breathe through it as if I was in labor in order to withstand this terrible ordeal. I don't know what could be the problem here? Ale we losing some elasticity down there as we're aging or something? The doctors are unable to help or explain anything, so I really don't know what's going on. The only potentially related thing is that I've been on birth control pills for a long time. I also had no kids.

I always ask them to please use the smallest speculum on me, but it doesn't seem to play much of a role - the pain is still pretty terrible. And I'm not clenching my muscles as far as I know, I think my overall behaviour is still the same as it always was.

This has been causing me quite a lot of distress, to the point that I feel like I'm getting raped every time I go to a gyno.

Does anyone have a theory of what the problem could be and what to do about it, apart from maybe having more sex (but then again, even virgins don't seem to feel such extreme pain during exams)? It would be great to see that I'm not alone in this…

No. 96945

>>96920
If you're breathing heavily like during labour and experiencing pain, I can pretty much guarantee you that you're clenching up. Did you change doctors? Shit always hurt with my old doctor, but my new one is a lot more gentle.

No. 96948

>>96945
Well, I'm breathing like that partially because it's something else to focus on, but I still feel the pain anyway, unfortunately. When these pain issues started, I still had the same doctor and I think I was in the same mental state as always (which is slightly nervous, I guess) - I don't know if she suddenly did something differently or used a different speculum on me, but the pain shock was pretty bad (I started shaking, etc.). She just continued with the exam like nothing was happening, which I found quite disturbing, as it was obvious I was in severe pain. I have changed doctors since then because I didn't want to experience that ever again, but even though the new doctor is supposed to be more gentle according to women's reviews, I'm unfortunately not seeing much of a difference. It seems like this pain is also getting worse every year.

No. 96950

>>96945
Also, I always try my best to relax (even though it's kind of difficult to do that with my legs in stirrups and all that), but the pain is there no matter what I do. I'm not aware of clenching any muscles, which makes this whole thing even more confusing. I don't know what could help at this point… It would be great if the doctors helped me figure out what's wrong instead of just shoving their tools in there like it's not a problem. It's making me more and more traumatised every time.

When I was younger, all went pretty smoothly and the exams were only slightly uncomfortable, but never painful. That's why I thought the issue might have something to do with aging and something physically changing down there.

No. 96961

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Sorry if this is a dumb question but why is it that when I orgasm, I have multiple mini orgasms afterwards and keep sort of convulsing? Like, I just get turned on all over again and instantly get a string of littler orgasms in a row. Is this normal? Am I sensitive or what?

No. 96963

>>96961
that's pretty normal. orgasms are essentially spasms, but in a good way, so it doesn't always feel like one big thing happening.

No. 96992

>>96920
It would be good to know what kind of pain you're getting. It could be that you've developed vaginismus which is super common. Also because you have a lot of stress around these exams it can make the problem much worse. Relaxing makes a whole world of difference, so perhaps talk to your doctor about ways to make yourself feel more comfortable. It may not feel like you're clenching, but if you're distressed then you will be.

Also I have pain with exams because of vulvodynia, which is two very sensitive glands at the opening. If it feels like more of an outside pain then it's definitely worth looking into. Even understanding what the problem is can help pretty much instantly, and a lot of the time there are things that you can do to help whatever it is. Perhaps speak to a psychosexual therapist to see if you can get to the bottom of it. But don't worry, things like this are super common and normal.

No. 97014

Not entirely vaginal related but kind of. I get horrible intestinal issues during my period. I actually have a small Hemorrhoid from the disaster that is my intestines during my cycle, does anyone have any advice or experience?
I'm embarrassed to see a doctor here, I'm temporarily overseas and don't have an OBGYN I trust.

No. 97017

>>97014
you can probably see a GP where you are, your gyn isn't going to really know wtf to do about your ass.

No. 97026

>>96992
I used to have something that could probably be described as vaginismus when I started having sex (I think it was caused by me forcing myself to have sex when I wasn't actually mentally ready; also the whole relationship dynamic was pretty fucked up on many levels). It went away with time (after about half a year) and I then had no issues during gyno exams. The current pain problems started suddenly and with a doctor I'd had since the beginning - I have no idea what could've triggered the pain, as everything seemed to be the same (my feelings, how relaxed I was, etc). It's possible that she did something wrong (used a wrong speculum size?) and now I'm reminded of this every time I go to a gyno, even if it's a different person who's supposed to be more gentle…

It's hard to describe the pain - it basically feels like I'm getting ripped open down there. It does seem to be located a bit deeper inside. It's the worst with the speculum and especially with that move that's supposed to expose your cervix. I also had vaginal ultrasounds done and those are also painful, but bearable, at least. I'll definitely need to research vulvodynia, I had no idea a condition like that even exists.

Thank you for your kind words, btw., they honestly made me feel a bit better about myself. I've been feeling pretty broken about this. The start of my sex life wasn't exactly nice and now I'm reminded of this fact every time I go see a gyno. Because of this whole issue, my relationship with my body hasn't been good and my sex life is pretty much dead. It's strange that gynos don't mention what we can do to alleviate the pain or don't say anything about vaginismus if it's so common… It should be in their own interest to make the whole process painless and not something that we would want to avoid.

No. 97037

>>97026
Just wanted to let you know anon that I experience this pain too. I had no sexual problems before but they gave me a speculum in a check up at the start of my pregnancy and I was chill about it but then it hurt like it was ripping me and completely frightened me too. It's really not fair that gynos are so jaded they don't give a shit

No. 97071

Kind of a long post but I need to get this off my chest bear with me please

I’m really really unhappy with my birth control and I’m worried I might be pregnant. I’m really phobic about pregnancy so I’ve tried to be as diligent as possible with my birth control pills, but I’ve had rocky insurance coverage and now that my mom lost her job I’m uninsured. Before this happened I saw a new gyno and she prescribed me lo loestrin fe which doesn’t have a generic so now that I’m uninsured it’s <$150 every time I refill it but I can’t afford to see my gynocologist and to ask for a different brand out of pocket so I’ve just been having my boyfriend pay for the prescription because I’m flat broke. Another problem with this brand is that instead of having a last week of placebo pills, the last week has a low dose of hormones and it’s supposed to give you shorter and lighter periods but it’s made me incredibly irregular and I haven’t had my period on time for the 4 months I’ve been on it. Sometimes it would happen in the middle of the pack and be super light and this concerns me as I really need my period to assure me I’m not pregnant and I panic every month and end up taking a pregnancy test.

I didn’t get my period so far this month (I’m 2 weeks into the pack) but I’ve had some spotting for two days. Other than being constipated I haven’t had any classic symptoms but it might be too early to tell? I’m really scared that I’m pregnant but I have no idea how to tell my boyfriend because I’m so broke and afraid to take a pregnancy test cause this is the most frightening scare I’ve ever had. He has a really busy schedule a panic disorder so I don’t want to tell him until I’m absolutely sure it’s legit- but I’m also too scared that I’m actually pregnant to buy more pregnancy tests. I’ve just been paralyzed with fear.

If I’m not pregnant, I’ll have to put my foot down and enforce using condoms and stop taking this birth control cause I just can’t afford it. I don’t even want to have sex ever again at this point but I don’t know how to handle this.

No. 97088

>>97071
Unfortunately anon the main thing to do here is take a test so that you can know. Most tests are good to take at the point you're at now. I recommend cheap pink dye ones and not expensive blue dye because when I was pregnant the pink ones were the only accurate ones and were like a twentieth of the price lmao.

You're just going to have to pee on a stick either way, whether you do it now or put it off, you can let us know how it goes. Good luck.

No. 97090

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It is true that drinking or eating stuff with lots of vitamin c like lemons gives you more cramps when you are on your period?

No. 97098

>>97090
Nope, actually it's the opposite! Vitamin C can be used to induce and regulate periods and relieve menstrual cramps.

https://menstrual-cycle-calculator.com/can-vitamin-c-induce-your-period-or-reduce-menstrual-cramps/

No. 97102

Weird question, but does anyone else here have issues wearing lacy underwear? My labia minora are slightly bigger than my labia majora, and every time I wear lace panties my inner labia & clitoral hood sort of push through the tiny holes in the lace material (sorry for the shitty description) and it hurts a lot. I'm wondering if there is any way to prevent that since I love cute underwear so much

No. 97103

>>97037
Oh no. Sorry to hear that, anon. Thanks for sharing.

Do you also have no idea what could have suddenly caused the pain? Had you also had no issues with gyno exams before this happened? I'm really starting to wonder if the doctors are the ones who are doing something wrong and then we are traumatised by it and clenching something without our conscious knowledge.

No. 97104

>>97103
The thing is I had only had 1 gyno experience before that and that was fine?? I have no idea what caused it either. I definitely think that once you have one painful experience with it though it tenses you up every time you go after that, what a catch 22. Reading your story made me feel not-alone so I appreciate you posting it. Starting to wonder if I suddenly developed vaginismus out of the blue too

No. 97109

>>97071
How much would it cost you to see your doctor about a prescription for a different, cheaper birth control? That should count as just a consultation, so it shouldn't cost you as much as a regular check-up. I would suggest giving them a call and asking beforehand.

Is your birth control creating a financial burden for your boyfriend? If not, he may as well continue to pay for it, as it's an issue that's involving him too, frankly, and you don't currently seem to have financial resources.

Of course, if you don't want to continue using birth control pills, that's perfectly OK too. I just want to tell you that slight bleeding or spotting at random times is pretty common, especially when you've just started taking the pills. Your organism has to get used to all these new hormones before everything gets regular. But I know it can be pretty annoying.

No. 97111

>>97102
This has happened to me before, but I bought an XS instead of a S. Try sizing up or buying a pair where the laces holes aren't so big, or where the lace is only on the band/not near your labia.

No. 97126

>>97102
Boyshorts are good for this.

No. 97127

>>97071
Do you live near a Planned Parenthood?

No. 97243

hopefully this is the right thread for this.

i've never had an orgasm, though i've been masturbating all my life. i've been on different psych meds since i was a preteen, and assume this is why. i'm sure when i was younger it was just a matter of me not knowing how to "properly" masturbate, but now that i'm grown and have a boyfriend, i'm pretty sure it's the meds. i have a magic wand i use personally, and have pretty good sex with my bf, but i still can't orgasm. i can get close, i think, but never can orgasm. is there anything i can do? i'm on quetiapine and sertraline btw. also thinking about starting birth control, so i'll definitely ask my doctor about this as well, but in the meantime was wondering if anyone here could relate

No. 97277

>>97243
There are some women that are unable to orgasm (like, ever, no matter what they do… they just aren't physically capable). It's possible that you may be one of them. But the meds can definitely be a culprit too.

No. 97289

>>97243
Sertraline absolutely killed this ability for me

No. 97310

>got a copper IUD
>First month I get my period normally
>Now my period is weeks late
>Got a bit of bright red blood drip yesterday but then only a trickle of brown waste (like old blood) since
I don't get it. Is it possible the IUD is plugging my cervix and preventing blood from properly flowing? That'd be weird as fuck considering I got completely normal period since putting it in.
Can't really go to a gyno since I moved abroad and the IUD isn't used here at all so a gyno wouldn't be competent anyways. I'm thinking maybe my period is just late because travelling always fucks my cycle BIG TIME but I'm also imagining my uterus is filled with old blood and kinda freaking out lol.

This is more of a vent than anything but if anyone had a similar experience please tell.

No. 97311

>>97310
Travel can mess with your period. I have a copper IUD and experienced a lot of spotting, especially at first. It's normal and your cervix isn't blocked or anything.

No. 97321

>>97243
Genital numbness/drynesss, unability to orgasm and/or underwhelming orgasms are commom side effects for psych meds, especially SSRIs. And unfortunately,the effect still lingers even after you quit the meds. If you google 'ssri sexual dysfunction' or something,tons of research articles should pop up.
I have the same issue and I quit my meds 4ish years ago. Shit sucks, I wish I had known before going on the meds.

No. 97334

>>97243
Anhedonia is the most common side-effect after nausea and somnolence/insomnia.
You use dopamine for arousal and anticipation of gratification, but you use serotonin for the actual orgasm.
SSRIs are molecules that bind to the enzymes that are responsible for the reabsorbsion&degradation of neurotransmitters in the synaptic ion channels. SSRIs selectively inhibit the degradation(reuptake) of serotonin.
Now think about what happens when you basically force serotonin to stick around in the synapses and bind over and over to the 5-HT receptors in some very specific neural networks, in order to combat the symptoms of MDD for example.
The different networks that are responsible to drive home the message to initiate the orgasm (communicating via serotonin) are in long-term depression and irresponsive to your (low) serotonin levels and upregulated degradation enzymes. Their satellite cells are hogging all the action due to the effects of the SSRIs. Neurotransmitters typically need to be "cleared" from the synapses before the neuron can attempt to communicate again.

Here's the kicker. There is always the chance that the neural networks that are responsible for climax (from the serotonergic pathway to the nucleus accumbens to the parasympathetic system) can become repurposed after a prolonged period of time without relevant stimuli. You don't lose your ability to orgasm outright, you just have to reinvent the wheel all over again.

Ingesting synthetic estradiol/progesterone on top of being on an atypical dopamine agonist plus an SSRI that has an absurdly high affinity for DAT already. It will be interesting.

No. 97339

>>97310
Uh, where did you move if doctors there don't know anything about IUDs?

No. 97714

I can't seem to find my clit. I don't know if I'm retarded but I swear when I pull back my vag to look, the area is just flat.

No. 97743

>>97714
ngl i want to assume youre a troll bc ive never heard of anyone not having a clit

No. 97744

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>>97714
It's above the urethra.

No. 97746

>>97743
anon, im not even kidding, i am not that anon, but i still cant find my clint. I assume when erect, it's just not there

No. 97747

>>97746
you were probably circumcised at birth

No. 97756

>>97743
Maybe her clit is just super small?

No. 97758

>>97756
And or really hooded, but you can usually feel the "spot" where it is.

No. 97769

Anyone else get that period-like pain after masturbating? It seems to happen randomly and it's annoying.

No. 97771

>>97743
alright

>>97746
>>97756
Oh my god I found it! Excuse my retardation, I don't really touch myself and never looked at my genitals before. I thought my clit was my urethra (yeah ik ik) all these years. It looked like a hole until I pulled that part back and found the clit under there. It isn't way at the top like in >>97744 but its more in the middle like where the urethra in this chart is so that's why I was confused. Maybe you're having the same problem, 46.

No. 97773

>>97771
I'm glad you found it.

>>97769
Occasionally, orgasms give me cramps.

No. 97809

>>94796
Mine are irregular too, I'm thin and I get stressed out a lot. I think my body fat is too low most times to get it, so I usually get a really big craving around the time I am supposed to bleed and will eat like, pasta and cake and chips all in one day, no joke, it happens around the same time every month. And then I gain like a pound and I get my period lol. It's definitely probably not the healthiest thing but I just thought it was weird, it's better than not having a period at all.

No. 97831

>>97771
oh god, anon, sorry for tmi but hearing that made me recoil cause my urethra is extemely sensitive!

No. 97878

I stopped taking birth control after 7 years and my body is freaking the fuck out. I stopped in April and it took until the end of September to start up again. My super light period came for like 3 days and for the last week it's been old blood and tissue with really intermittent fresh blood. Has anyone else stopped long term BC and what was your experience? Is there anything I can do to force my body to either start up a full period, or at least just clean myself out enough to stop this nonsense?

No. 97891

>>97878
You could try taking Maca root powder.
It is supposed to help after getting off birth control or if you have PCOS because it helps evening out hormonal imbalances.
Personally, I take about 10-15 grams/day except when my period sets in I pause for 7 days. My period was not completely unregulary but the cycle was too long, like 30 days or even 35 days due to low estrogen/PCOS. I'm now down to 21 days!

No. 98017

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I feel like I'm running out of birth control options. Nexplanon made me bleed heavily, non-stop. I've been on 8 different birth control pills…all of them gave me yeast infections or BV.

It seems like my last effective option is an IUD. But I'm really fucking TERRIFIED of it. I've never even had a speculum done, due to panic. My OBGYN even asked me if I was raped as a child. When I read about the procedure I start getting nauseous. Wtf can I do?

No. 98019

>>98017
Nuvaring, Depo, there's non pill forms. BC pills themselves don't give you yeast infections, but it can upset the hormones in your body that lead to overgrowth and yeast infections.
Have you never had a PAP before? You should really get checked up internally just to make sure nothing is wrong.

No. 98022

>>98017
Ask if you can get a one-time prescription for a single dose of an anti-anxiety medication for the procedure.

No. 98034

So I tried clitoral masturbation for the first time tonight (I'm one of the anone who couldn't find their clit) it started well until the bottom of my feet started burning like fucking hard. Apparently it's not common but through my searching I didn't see a true really cause and reason behind this.

No. 98035

>>98034
Mine usually do that if I had like 3+ clit orgasms in a row. I don't think it's anything concerning, i had just assumed it was just my body reacting to the (over)stimulation

No. 98037

>>98034
Try wearing warm socks.

No. 98043

>>98017
Well, an IUD is out of question for me too, as placing an IUD is supposedly painful/uncomfortable, and when even speculums give me quite a terrible pain, then that's no, thanks. Don't force yourself into something like this if you don't actually want to do it. You'll only get more tense and traumatized from it. Not every birth control method is for everyone.

Btw. it's rare to see that the OBGYN respects your wishes, doesn't examine you when you don't want them to and doesn't deny you birth control. What country are you from where this happens?

No. 98111

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How do you deal with severe mood swings during periods? As I’ve gotten older my periods are shorter, but right before it starts and during it I get very depressed and irritable. I tell myself that it’s just a few days and I’ll be back to normal but I’m worried about how it could effect work or relationships.

I read articles that some people take a iron/calcium vitamin during their periods and they help a bit

No. 98116

>>98111
Iron definitely helps with the fatigue, which was a problem for me on my period. I also take B vitamins regularly and that seemed to help a bit.
I've heard evening primrose helps with with mood swings and basically all other side effects of. I have yet to try it though since iron does it for me.

No. 98126

>>98111
I've been taking iron fairly regularly and it seems to be helping with my fatigue in general.I also take niacin daily which is a B-12 and I'll sometimes take extra for my periods. It's not a huge emotional shift but it is helpful!

No. 98196

>>98111
Iron, evening primrose and bananas helped this for me.

No. 98201

so, dumb question incoming…

how the fuck can you tell if you've had an orgasm? my bf thinks i finally orgasmed last night, and while it was really good, i'm not sure. i've been on psych meds for most of my life so i think that's why i've had trouble climaxing. when i look it up, you get a lot of articles of people saying "when it happens, you'll know for sure, there's no mistaking it!" though i've also heard that some women have underwhelming orgasms, and that some women just aren't physically capable. please help me.

No. 98203

>>98201
That's not a dumb question anon. I was on anti depressants for years and it took me a long time after coming off them to experience a legitimate orgasm. To me, it feels like that distinct build up sensation you get in your body before you sneeze, but really focused between your legs. When it happens, to me it feels like a rush of sensations and emotions but physically it's an internal throbbing wave. Like, you would know when it's over as it is normally a definitive stop afterwards. I hope this makes sense!

No. 98232

>>98201
The vagina clenches up and contracts a lot, and it feels really good, like almost too good that it's kinda weird.

No. 98238

>>98201
It's like there's this build up of pressure that culminates in a burst of more intense pleasure than what you've been feeling up to that point. I've definitely noticed that my orgasms are weaker since I've been on SSRIs, and I have them less frequently.

No. 98249

>>98203
Nayrt but this is a great description of an orgasm, but mine kind of slowly fade as they "pulse" away instead of just stop. Orgasm is like, a that tangible, full body feeling of "ah, relief".



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