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No. 985

Could you ever forgive a man who had done shitty things to women in his past? Nothing violent or abusive but generally just take them for granted, take anger out on them after a long day at work, and at my worst cheat on them.

I love women deeply but because of this I find it hard to make a relationship work. I don't treat the women I've supposedly loved very well. And I fall easily for other girls.

Honestly I'm not even sure how to sort this out.

No. 987

Did you cheat oe something?

No. 988

>>987
I've cheated in my past yeah.

No. 991

>>987
I could forgive if a partner cheated on me depending on the circumstances, but I'm not a doormat so I wouldn't be able to forgive him if he was a serial cheater. Reading what you said you're probably not ready for a serious relationship, unfortunately

No. 992

>>991
I've had serious relationships. I just seem to fall too easily for other girls. I'm a sucker for girls with a bad past because I like being a white knight.

I also get bored of girls I'm dating too easily and have a bit of a Madonna whore complex.

No. 993

No prob not.

No. 1000

If he's treated other girls bad? Yes, because people can of course change. If he treats me like that? Yes, but only if it's not a frequent thing. People have bad days.

Cheating however is not something that can be fixed imho. There's always fear, resentment, paranoia and it usually never works out. Plus you look like a self hating loser if you're the person that got cheated on and you stay. My rule is if your partner or even yourself cheats, you walk away and just let the relationship die. It's pretty much already dead.

No. 1009

>>985
Personally, I could forgive.
However, my anxiety is baaaad. Like bad bad. Which would mean I would need a lot of extra love an attention to quell my worries and fears afterwards.

I would be constantly afraid of it happening again.

Anon, if you're having trouble being faithful, when you do get in relationships, make sure to come out and say it's nothing serious, you're not exclusive, etc.

If they're not into it, they'll move on and so can you!

No. 1012

Hell no. If he treats other people like shit (even if it's just in the past), it's a good indicator of who he is overall and how he'll eventually treat you. Men shouldn't get a free pass to treat women like shit all their life and then settle down and have a happy family. Women deserve better than that and should realize it.

No. 1016

>>1000
Yeah, I agree with this 100%.

Everyone has shitty days and sometimes takes things out on others that they probably shouldn't, that's just human. As long as it was an occasional thing and doesn't range into abusive territory, then I don't really see that as an issue at all.

Cheating I think is always a deal breaker, and I don't understand why anyone would cheat except for being a selfish prick anyway. If you're that unhappy in the relationship, just leave it.

No. 1024

Fuck no. People do not change(at least not often), and once a horrible person, always a horrible person. I will never date a dude I know is shitty again, its not worth it.

And there is no point in forgiving cheaters, they will just cheat on you again. I have way to much self respect to forgive a cheater.

No. 1025

>>1024
>People do not change(at least not often), and once a horrible person, always a horrible person

How could you possibly convince yourself to believe this? People change all the time, you just have to want to do so and make an effort.

Are you really arguing that who we are at say 18 is going to be who we are at 50?

No. 1026

>>1025

Because most people who abuse and cheat on their parteners, continue to do so.

No. 1027

>>1026
I mean, it's a decent risk factor, sure, but I don't think people here are saying date chronic cheaters or abusers, just people who are kind of shitty sometimes.

Sometimes a relationship can just be unhealthy and end up shitty, but others can be much better and healthier.

It's a red flag, sure, but I don't think it's fair to say that people are identical in every relationship.

No. 1028

>>1027

No I wouldn't date someone who just cheated a couple of times or treated their ex like shit a couple of times. Why would I give someone who treats people in their life like shit a chance, when I can date a guy who has respected their partners?

No. 1033

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I would never forgive anyone who cheated on me, ever.
Girls who let that shit go are stupid and have no respect for themselves.

No. 1034

>>1028
Cheaters I get, for sure, I agree.

But treating someone badly a couple times? We fucking all do that, there's not a single person alive who hasn't had a shit time and taken it out on someone who didn't deserve it.

No. 1035

Double post, but I forgot to answer your question.

No, I wouldn't. I'm already picky as fuck, I would never play myself like that and let a scumbag near me lol

No. 1036

>>1034

Nobody would make a thread asking if being a prick sometimes is a deal breaker. When you have taken your anger out on someone, it has been a lot more severe than that, and you are trying to downplay it because you feel guilty about it.

So yes I would date someone who is a prick sometimes. No, I wouldn't date you because its obvious that how you treated your exed is a lot worse that that.

No. 1045

>>1036
What are you even talking about? When did this conversation turn into personal insults?

Arguing a topic doesn't necessarily mean you're trying to defend yourself, tard.



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