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No. 81170

How do you feel about girls who claim to be "one of the boys"?

I'm guilty of saying this cringy shit pretty often, but the thing is I really feel more confortable with guys and I hang out a lot with my boyfriends pack of friends. A band of guys is just very cosy imo, we eat shitty take out and play card and board games all night long it's sweet.

I have to say that if you are a 100 % pure hoe and all you do with your group of friends is get it deep in your booty hole, you are cumdumpster and that's it. Nothing wrong with that, I love me some hoe.

No. 81171

This thread's picture irrationally irritates me. Could you please spoiler it?

No. 81172

>>81171
Just hide it.

No. 81173

>>81171
It's funny though because Ken dolls are famous for being completely flat down there

No. 81174

it annoys me when girls say it. my housemate is guilty of saying it all the time, she's one of those girls who frequently says 'I'm not like other girls' and it's like so ??? do you want a medal or what??

I can't help but feel sorry for her as well because she never experienced the joys of having a really good bunch of close female friends. I personally think she missed out on a lot.

No. 81175

I find that the "Im not liek the other gurlz!!" is generally just a cover up for insecure, catty girls who can't form proper relationships with other girls because they're too obsessed with getting all the attention from guys all the time.

No. 81176

>>81175

Dis ^

No. 81177

>How do you feel about girls who claim to be "one of the boys"?

I don't see a problem with it, unless her actions contradict her words.

No. 81178

>>81174
I wish I belonged in a goup of cool girls…

No. 81179

I also have just been around boys my whole life. Normally when I had a girl best friend shit went sour. The last one actually moved in with my ex and they're constant fuck buddies. I have maybe 2 or 3 girlfriends that I actually care about but they have to be very similar to me or else I can't get along with them. A part of me really wishes I had tons of girl bffs but I always end up getting lazy with friendships I start for the sake of having a new friend. There's also the fact that I don't have a shit ton in common with most of the girls I try to make friends with.I noticed in high school I would gossip a lot with other girls and that would be the only way we were friends. Boys are easier but some can be real little bitches. Sorry for so much text.

No. 81180

I'm not one of those 'one of the guise' types but I do seem to attract them. I have few close friends in general, and tend to be a bit closer to my exs, but I'd say I have equal amounts on both sides. However, those types of girls seem to flock to me, only to get butthurt that I don't feel the same and give them asspats. They do bother me because their attitudes are bad. Even if they all have just had shitty luck/experiences, that doesn't mean they should close themselves off from everyone. Ultimately they end up stereotyping everyone around them, including themselves and it's pretty shitty. I find people in general suck, so you need to wave through shit and find good ones, I guess they don't really know that. I'm very close to my close friends and that's really all I need.

No. 81181

>>81170
I have two girl friends and the rest are guys. I've never cared about it and don't care what other people think of it either. It's not like I activately seek more male attention than girls (i'm fucking bisexual hello i would love more girls in my life) but it just happens.

No. 81182

>>81178

This is why I started coming to lolcow desu.

I've browsed /r9k/ and a few other boards for years and happened to see a post about lolcow and I personally think it's much better. It's like a nice group of cool female friends.

The only thing I haven't gotten used to is how slow it is compared to some of the boards on 4chan, but it's definitely not as shit cluttered

No. 81183

>>81180

I can relate, anon. I seem like I'm one of those "not like the other girls" types but I'm really not, and this ends up confusing (insecure, aggressive) girls who attempt to stereotype me like that just because I have brothers and am in a male-dominated major. When they see me being friendly with other girls, they're genuinely confused haha.

No honey, it's not that I don't like other girls. It's that I don't like you.

No. 81184

If you just genuinely enjoy the company of guys then that's fine, but if you also hate on girls for no reason you have a problem.

No. 81185

My group of friend originally started out as guys+one's gf and me, then eventually expanded to an equal group… and I also have a group of girls I hang out with aside from my central group.

Growing up, I also hung around guys a lot because I was into the more 'nerdy' things at the time, like Pokemon, YuGiOh, video games… that sort of shit before it was popular to be a nerd. But this kind of was a bad thing in the end… since I was friends with all of these guys since grade school, by the time we got to high school they all kind of thought of me as a sister sort, so I wasn't ever able to date any of them.

No. 81186

>>81184
I don't really hate them, but I've had a hard time bonding with girls and trusting girls, since I was very young, no idea why.
I've only had two girl friends in my life, each time it was a very strong friendship. I wish I knew how to approach girls better, they are kinda intimidating to me.

No. 81187

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In general, I'm very introverted. Being friends with guys is easier for me because there's less pressure in a platonic relationship with them. They don't constantly want me to hang out when I don't feel like it, they don't "compete" with me as far as looks and clothes go. Like, I can be my slob self around them. When I'm around girls, I feel judged constantly.

No. 81188

>>81184
This. Nothing wrong with having mainly guy friends, but openly hating on your own gender because you want to be seen as 'one of the guys' and not a 'dramawhore' is beyond bullshit.

No. 81189

>>81186

Girls are "intimidating" because you actually have to be a likeable person for other girls to bother being friends with you, and that's hard if you haven't developed your personality enough. You can't just giggle and simply exist while getting attention and favors like you can with guys. Girls don't give a fuck lol.

And eventually, those guys will all fade away as they get gfs/wives, or you stop dating their friend, or you get a serious bf. So male friends may be very low investment and low effort, but they rarely last like a good female friendship will.

It's okay though, most women realize this by their mid-20s, and by their late-20s, most women are a lot more tolerable as friends anyway.

No. 81190

>>81189
You are reading way to much into it. Nothing that you said is true in my case.

No. 81191

>>81175

Recently I've been chatting to this girl from dumblr for ages. She's ite' from my town, never met her. She's polish and something is off about her. Besides her saying how awful British people are.

She tells me about her days at work. How she gets on better with guys "less drama" and how she wants a boyfriend cos the last one was "too girly, i need a real man".

She has this new drama about this handsome* guy at her workplace who has crushed on her for agessss and he had a girlfriend of 10 years. But apparently all the guys like her because she "wears no make up apart from eye liner, she has a nice ass in her leggings" and she's just amazing.

But the handsome* guy likes her, he sent her a vday card and didn't break up with his gf. The girlfriend got pissed off because he was all dreamy over her and they split. But she had a feeling he liked her.

She brags on and on about me how much he likes her and "i pretend not to play along and care but i do rly".

Now the gf ex gf is going ape shit because she hacked the guy's fb account and found the convo of them flirting.

Girl doesn't even care about the ex gf's feelings, she's like "well shes getting obsessive and she's a crazy bitch and he likes meeee"

But it's sorta annoying because he should have broke up with that girl first instead of sending her cards and they have been together years so obv she loved him.

But she's so smug about it.

"All guys like meee I prefer guy frienddds"

It's not always a good thing.

It turns you into a cunt.

No. 81192


No. 81193

>>81189
you seem triggered, anon.

No. 81194

>>81191
Why are you talking to someone like that?

No. 81195

>>81189
>they rarely last like a good female friendship will.
This sounds right to me. Ive always had guy friends but they just sort of come with whatever else i was doing and when i move on they just get put on hold. But the one relationship in my life i can't shake is with a women. She just persists. Our friendship is entirely her doing and we're not even fucking. Been friends for 10 years.

No. 81196

>>81189
This. Honestly half the times I developed a friendship with men they ended up asking me out/wanting to fuck me. I tread with caution when men want to be friends now.

No. 81197

>>81195
Agreed that analysis is 100% spot on. Guys come and go, and I'm in a relationship right now. Love him to bits but it's my best friend who's been with me more times than any guy ; at the hospital, doctors, whatever. Usually when shit gets heavy the only guys who'd consider doing that stuff were the guys who wanted to fuck me. It's that one female friend that makes us both go "if one of us were a guy, or if we were more bisexual. Why."

No. 81198

For me, my friendship with my guy friends have been pretty great. They told me they consider me a guy. Which I don't mind, I take it as a compliment.

No. 81199

I'm too autistic to hang out with other girls, I can do it at first but once they get to know me they lose interest in being my friend, so I'm kind of stuck with guys.

At first I had this group of guy friends (+1 girl who was the definition of "im not like the other gurlzzzz") who were all perma-virgins but honestly there was more drama there than there would have been in any group of girls.

Now I have a small group of guy friends, most have girlfriends and none of them are into me (im like a 6 physically and my personality kind of brings me down to a 3 tbh) so theres no drama there. Overall I don't really like having friends in general because I do a lot of solo activities so I find guys better because they're less obsessive about hanging out all the time, which seemed to be a problem I ran into with the few girls who could tolerate my absolute autism.

Funny enough, I work in an all female workplace and my co-workers all turned out to be the same kind of weird that I am, so we all get a long great and go for drinks every now and then.

No. 81200

>>81189
>Girls are "intimidating" because you actually have to be a likeable person for other girls to bother being friends with you

Motherfucking spot on. I've always had a 50-50 gender ratio with my friends and I'm a tomboy but I still cringe when a girl says that they'd rather hang out with men because there's "less drama". No bitch, it's because you're a catty asshole who keeps stirring up trouble with girls but your beta orbiter gang of guys let you pass as their princess because they all want to fuck you.

No. 81201

They settle for subpar company to fill time and then try to make it seem like it's not only out of desperation. Normal people aren't gonna spout that "friends with the guys" shit, they're just gonna consider having normal friendships with whoever they get along with, without thinking about it from a gender perspective. If they care so much that they're "friends with guys", these are probably only shallow friendships wherein the guys act like doormats in hope she will eventually end up putting out. And drop her when she doesn't. I'm friendless though, so fuck if I even have a right to talk.


>>81187
kekking at your picture

No. 81202

A lot of you seems extremely butthurt.

No. 81203

I've always been considered one of the guys by my friends and I didn't have much female friends for a long time (I dunno why, it just happened that way because I had more shared interests with guys I guess)
I guess since I was always fat and ugly and wore men clothes it was easier to see me as one of the guys? I've lost a bunch of weight since then and started wearing nice feminine clothes by now but they're so used to me being one of the guys by now so it doesn't matter.
It's not for attention, it was just always easier to talk to guys and girls made me feel shy. Also there was never any sexual tension or anything (maybe very rarely when we were really really drunk)
I'm glad to have more female friends now too though since some things guys just don't understand. I've also made a lot of great friends from their girlfriends.

No. 81204

I'm trying my best to overcome my autism with other girls. I used to have a lot of female friends in high school but I always had very insecure, unstable girls cling onto me so I would stress over all of their problems and be forced to socialize with extended, equally awful friends. It's taken me a long time to just be myself again and just relax and have fun. One super sad fact is that most of the girls who drained my soul were allllll cosplayers. They would circle jerk non stop but still talk shit but never want to do anything for themselves. I'm finding "normie" girls are way less maintenance and can have a good time without having to be carried through the party/event.

I do think it's healthy to have female friends but I also think it's a way overrated thing, in the same way seeing "Lol be nice to ur mom she's your mother!!!" and "Sisters are so special tbh, cherish!!l images make me laugh. Some moms are garbage narcissistic assholes and some sisters are fucking trash too. Bond with women for the sake of womenhood seems a bit patronizing. Why do I need to be sold so hard on it? Why does it make other girls so salty?

No. 81205

all my life until the last few years of high school it was always 50/50 with me, but it just seemed like no girl hung out with guys as much as I did. I think it's simply because I had interests in both "girl" and "boy" things. Not a lot of girls were into video games or the ninja turtles growing up. I was very social at that time though and made friends with everyone.

When I moved in high school and got culture shock I started being very shy. I made a few girl friends, but I mostly bonded with guys and played games with them on steam and skype calls with the occasional irl hangout as well. It's not like I'm super hot or anything but a few of them did end up liking me, which kind of sucks because I didn't have many friends and it was nice to think I would finally make a good friend. I never say "omg I'm just like the guizzzzz" but I'm just scared of girls with a full face of makeup and nice nails, I can't be on their level and they just have different interests than me so I don't go out of my way to embarrass myself and talk to them. I think the girls who do say that are just try hard and are probably just sucking a lot of dick and want to make other girls envious that they get sooo much male attentiun.
Some girls are really fucking cool and I hope I can make friends with some later on, but my school was filled with a lot of petty girls who would make disgusted faces when other girls would do something weird or something that isn't deemed as "cool" in their books. I guess they just gave off really bad vibes and I didn't want to try making friends with people who are so judgemental. I think the best guy friendships are the genuine ones where you're sort of like a sister to them, not a possible hookup. Once you let guys know you're only interested in friendship they start to fade lmao.

No. 81206

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As a kid I always found myself having an equal amount of boy and girl friends, but I was a tomboy and had more "boyish" interests. That sort of persisted as I got a bit older, but once I hit 15 I started having more female friends because the guys I tended to hang out with/attract had awful personalities and were generally the unpopular geeks. Now I still talk to like, one or two guys but the friends I hang out with the most are female
The thing about girls is that you can pretty quickly judge one of them and see if they're fake or not. I have no beef or resentment towards the female gender as a whole but that's been my experience, at least

No. 81207

I think the "omg girls are so catty, guys are soo much better" attitude is bullshit. I know a girl that thinks ANY female is in competition with her. The only girls she will hang out with are ones that are butt ugly because she feels like the pretty one and therefore no man will talk to the friend while she's around. She runs to men for attention at the drop of a hat even though she's in a relationship because thirsty guys give it out like halloween candy. Any female friend of her boyfriend is instantly hated, but she'll kiss up to them when she's around. As soon as the friend is gone all she'll do is mercilessly shit on them for the tiniest thing to make herself feel better. If you call her out on it she gets extremely defensive and accuses you of hating her and liking the other girl more. It's fucking insanity.

No. 81208

>>81201
Martin Shrek-li is my husbando

No. 81209

>>81194

She wasn't always like this… well she was but I didn't know until she started to get with that guy :|

No. 81210

I feel autistic in front of girls, with dudes I'm more casual but in this case they are the ones that either act autistic or think I'm flirting with them.
How tragic. The only long-lasting relationships I have had were with a gay/bisexual??? guy and a lesbian girl that is basically my soulmate.
We are a bunch of weirdos, when together is like time hasn't passed since school. We laugh at stupid shit when we are together until we forget the problems that each one has.
For a loser like me that never had friends before them and didn't even believe on friendship, something like this seemed impossible even in my wildest delusions.
We still hang out and I couldn't be more happy tbh.

Now I'm having a hard time trying to make friends at uni. I know that no one there is going to make me feel the same way they do, regardless of gender. Man I miss them so much, when something happens in class I imagine how we could have joke about that, what I would say to them, their laughs…

>no1cares I just needed to write this


cheesy clannad video related, shows pretty well the kind of friendship we share.

No. 81674

In my opinion, there are two types of girls who make OPs claim.

1) Tomboys/dykes/future ftms/actual nerds/legbeards

Genuinely interested in traditionally male dominated activities or in a "masculine" career path. Usually not "hot", could be autistic/greasy weebs, or maybe a "bro" type dyke.
Actually hangs out with males either incidentally or to discuss DnD, programming, sports, whatever. The male friends like her because she is fun to be around and adds to the group.
(If you're a woman and in mathematics/chemistry/physics/engineering, this is you, bio and medfags see below)

2) The whore/snowflake/token female

Unlike category 1, these girls happen to prefer male company because they want to feel like attention is being paid to them. They are probably attractive, or at least a ho, so other girls tend to resent them, either out of jealousy or disgust.
These chicks hang around with groups of males but don't add anything to the conversation or activity, instead they complain about their bf to the orbiters or shit like "these leggings/this bikini/my new kawaii seifuku are sooooo comfy :3" while everybody else is playing vidya or whatever.
These girls are tolerated by the males because of excessive male thirst and beta tendencies such as the tendency to orbit a slut in hopes for scraps of physical attention.

TLDR; could be legit, or attention whore. The test is- is she 6/10 or above? If below 5, def category 1. The more attractive the girl, the more suspicious her claim of preferring male friends is.

No. 81676

>>81674
>The test is- is she 6/10 or above? If below 5, def category 1. The more attractive the girl, the more suspicious her claim of preferring male friends is.

nice meme you fucker

No. 81678

>>81674
what the fuck is this memery.

No. 81681

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>>81674
>This bait

No. 81687

I used to mostly have male friendships because I was usually either rejected by girls for being a weird/awkward late bloomer with no stereotypical "girl" interests or was friended by girls who just used me as a pet. But then every male friendship I had always ended because they wanted to date me and I didn't want that. I have both kinds of friends now, but I'm still paranoid as fuck about my male friendships panning out in the same way.

No. 81688

I'm just really masculine

No. 81689

>>81688
is that why you're posting on a gossip site that's 95%+ female

No. 81692

>>81170
I cannot hang out with either genders although like me more than girls tbh but damn gurl the pic related hurt my sides kek

No. 81696

>>81692
Guys like me more than girls*

I dont think a straight attractive man and a straight attractive woman can really hang out with each other as "friends". It would make the guy hard and the girl wet if they would watch netflix together in boxers and bras. You can do this shit only with the same gender tbh (assuming they are straight).

I admit though that its also impossible for me to hang out with a lesbian without fantasizing about her. Of course this shit doesnt happen to me when we're in public

No. 81710

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>>81696
Why would you be hanging out with your friend half naked, girl or guy?
Watching shit does not require you to be in your underwear.

No. 81718

I used to say this when I was younger, but then even I got on my nerves.

I just get along with guys better because not a lot of girls are into vidya and comic books without being the stereotypical #gam8rgirl xD#.

I wish I had an irl group of cute girl friends who smelled nice and want to wear dresses and makeup, but I'm too autistic for that.

No. 81719

>>81204
That sounds like it has more to do with the fact your female friends were cosplayers.

Cosplayers have an awful reputation in general: slutty, bitchy, trashy, camwhore on soc etc. Don't let that color your whole image of women. Cosplay is a whores hobby.

No. 81720

>>81710
You never had sleepovers? …

No. 81721

>>81170
I haven't had a best female friend since primary school (about 11 years old, 24 now). I had two female friends since then, both turned out to be closet lesbians who liked me.

I pulled out all the stops to be friends with a girl who talked about shit you just wanted to smack her over, came to classes in a corset and gave me elaborate plans on how she planned on cheating on her bf with some guy in class. It was so exhausting trying to remain tactful but still myself with that. Then compare that to my male uni friend, where we just argued about irrelevant things you'd find in r/showerthoughts, and on Saturdays ordered a huge pizza and watched shit on youtube.

My current two best friends are male, have been for 9 years and we're very close, I'll come over and take a nap. I'm almost desperately trying to find female friends. I recently bought those lip gloss thing that peel off. I was super hyped, but obviously it doesn't hold the same interest for them, and it makes me a little sad to realise that I had no female to tell about them.

I hope to make some female friends this year, or at least figure out what my problem is.

No. 81726

>>81721

>I'm almost desperately trying to find female friends. I recently bought those lip gloss thing that peel off. I was super hyped, but obviously it doesn't hold the same interest for them, and it makes me a little sad to realise that I had no female to tell about them.



I know these feels, they're all too real.

No. 81727

>>81199
I resonate with this so much. I'm autistic and I don't know what it is about girls but they are SO much more mean to me about it and generally less willing to accept me once I show any hint of my personality. Guys generally don't give a shit and so I sort of migrate to their friendship naturally at this point.

I do hate when girls brag about only having guy friends. I wish I could form a genuine, lasting bond with some other girls but even when I manage to get to "best friends" status with one, they eventually lose interest in me and move on to someone else.

I also find that I have more in common with guys and tend to be able to talk about my interests easier with them. I guess I'll have to settle with my bf and few guy friends being my friend group for the rest of my life because girls don't seem to want me around ;_;

No. 81732

>>81720
As a child but I was never in my underwear. And if anon is talking about getting wet and hard then we are entering teenage years to adulthood, so no, as a teen I wasn't allowed to sleep over anyone's house. Even then, don't know anybody comfortable enough to be in just underwear for an extended period of time.

No. 81747

>>81732
Thats okay I wasnt either, they are stupid anyways. I mean I did once had one but her mother couldnt cook for shit!

No. 81756

>>81170
I don't claim to be one of the boys or say anything about preferring them. I've just always been surrounded by men my whole life so I kind of became one of those girls.

As a kid, I had no female family members outside my mom, so I was really comfortable around my brothers. As I grew older, I felt like I was pretty gay. Girls seemed kind of intangible to me, and honestly, even though I really liked them, I also just wanted them as friends. I kind of had fantasies about us talking about various fashions and just being really sweet female friends to eachother.

When I actually did get a lot of female friends and female interests, they all got amazingly catty and literally all of them fought each other. I got burned so hard and backstabbed by them all, some of them oddly uniting in hate against me. I have no fucking clue why they hate me because those specific individuals made me the victim by sexually molesting me. I haven't gotten over it. I think lolcow is maybe a tiny bit like a healing process. I get to be around a lot of anonymous girls and call out catty monsters like I had to deal with.

Anyway, I got so depressed over the events, I naturally just went back to what was always comfortable for me: Just hanging out with men who respected me. Nothing remotely similar happened in my male groups. Whenever I try to go to cons and stuff now, even though my Facebook is female dominated, only guys show up to hang with me reliably. Every. Single. Time. I like them, but I still want to just have nice female friends.

So, I don't know what to say. Girls like that can be really annoying if they flaunt it, but some girls kind of have rough pasts with women and that's why they do it. I try not to be too quick to judge, because you never know.

No. 81882

I'm honestly suspicious of any girl with a lot of guy friends because they are always crazy and manipulative and desperate for attention. I only have girl friends, I just can't really relate to guys and they can't seem to ever be platonic friends with girls no matter what they might have you believe.

No. 81896

>>81747
I've had two best friends in the past, each have just up and left out of the blue. It really hurts when it's people I cared about. That and I met them online due to not leaving the house because sick so finding quality chics online is hard. I only recently started getting out of the house because I've been getting better and making female friends but none of the closeness bond or someone I'm really compatible with. Sometimes I wonder if it's me that makes them leave but it isn't me personally. Just dunno, guess they just got bored of the friendship. Sucks mayn.

No. 81897

>>81896
Oops, meant this for >>81727

No. 81904

I used to have a lot of male friends when I was younger (mostly because they're the ones that lived the closest to me), and it was fine up until like puberty. After that it's been pretty 50/50. However since I'm a girl, who likes men, there is more drama with men, 'cus they always seem to want their dick wet. This is especially awkward when these guys have girlfriends and try still try to get with you.

I've had to block a couple of guys out of my life, while with girls that's never happened (with girls we just drift apart or whatever, but they've never gone after me or made me feel super uncomfortable like some guys do). Here's 2 examples of these guys:

Good friend
> Often hang out and play vidya
> Watch movies
> He has a gf most of the time
> I get a boyfriend
> Good friend stops talking to me
> Blocks me or delete me off all social media
> No explanation as to why
2 years later
> Messages me on fb and says sorry
> Start talking like before but I'm like "y tho"
> Turns out he was in love with me
> "wanna go out"
> Nope.jpg

Classmate
> Depressed guy, but nice
> play vidya and usually just meet at school related stuff
> Starts messaging me everyday (I have a bf and it's all friendly, he apparently messaged a lot of other girls daily)
> He falls for our mutual friend
> Warn against it
> He ignores it
> She teases him for a whole summer just to drop him the moment she comes back to our town (sending pics of her belly button piercing, talking to him about being lonely etc.)
> He's sad about it
> "You should have listened to me… but whatever"
> I hear a joke someone at her high school school told about her (basically that she's a cock tease, which is fucking true, for perspecitve we're in our 2nd year of college)
> Someone (not me) tells him about the joke
> He rages
> Sends her anon messages on tumblr "hoping the rumors arent true"
> Ask him abt it, he denies it
> I say it's just a joke
> "HURTING PPLS FEELING ISNT A JOKE"
> He makes aggressive statuses on fb for like a month hinting that 'some people have no feelings' 'some people should thnk about others, happy x mas," -tags me and friend who told him about it and some others
> I end up deleting him because I'm sad due to other stuff happening in my life and he won't stop making those statuses (while still talking to me normally lol no)
> tfw he still keeps finding my social media and tries to follow me, it's been 3 years

Also had a lot of guys say they're cool with being friends and then the moment we're alone they try to kiss me, or when they're drunk they text me lots of shit they'd love to do to me sexually, also guy who was dating my friend tried to sleep with me when his gf(my friend) was in the next room. Idk, maybe I'm just unlucky with the people I meet. But there are some cool guys who actually are okay with just being friends, and those kinda make up for all that shit.

No. 81937

It's different if you just happen to get along better with guys.

The annoying thing is when girls bitch about other girls/say really inappropriate things to gain approval from said male friends.

No. 81944

>>81904
that "good friend" part ALWAYS happens to at least some extent with girls who have guy friends and then get a boyfriend, or vice versa, leave the girl out in the cold when they manage to score a girlfriend. Happened to me a loooot of times when I was still one of those "I only hang out with guys" girls in my late teens. Now I have more girlfriends than male friends and I feel happy to know I have friends who genuinely like me and not just in it for the distant hope of getting laid.

>Have a really close male friend, older than me, like a big brother

>He listens to my worries, I listen to his, we talk about vidya, art, life in general
>He suddenly becomes a lot more passive and doesn't reply to my messages
>He tells me he got a girlfriend
>4 years go by without any contact
>He suddenly messages me on Facebook out of fucking nowhere
>Asks me how I'm doing like nothing ever happened
>We talk a bit
>He nonchalantly mentions that he broke up with his gf and starts moving on to me
>ignore him

And this has happened to me with different guys a LOT of times. A ridiculously lot, actually. Which is why I now only make friends with females or my female friends' boyfriends because at least they can keep their dicks in control.

No. 82055

>>81170
It wasn't my intention to have mostly guy friends but I don't hate it. My female friend experience has always been the classic inseparable Spice Girls experience for a maximum of 2 years. Which is obviously expected throughout being school aged, but I was very naive and didn't expect it to carry on through college.
I had a circle of 4 girl friends and we used to do everything together, we'd all live at one girl's house every single weekend, live blog our time apart in groupchat, etc. Then we all went to college (still live nearby) and 3 of the girls within a month dump me and my now only female friend for their own personal groups of tumblr-tier colored hair snowflakesexual SJWs and we're still trying to figure out how it happened.

My number one and I still hang out just as often, as if nothing happened, and we've only become closer because of it which I do appreciate. But it's been really disheartening. Now we bond over tales of hanging out with our respective boyfriend's dorky ass friends most of the time and having only eachother to do girl shit with.

No. 82092

>>82055
Sorry to hear that, I had similar experiences myself. Hmm this is an interesting angle to observe the SJW process from, and seems to match many other stories. Do you suppose they felt you werent namby-pamby or "socially aware" enough?

No. 82105

Idk, I just feel way more relaxed around guys than girls. This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately and I think it's because I don't care too much if a guy doesn't like me so I feel more able to ~be myself without worrying about being rejected. Where as with other girls I feel like there's this unspoken pressure for us to get on and be "friends", I'm super awkward so I just tend to subconsciously avoid it.

No. 82109

>>82092
Funny you even say that because all three are fully white (so are their new pals) and we're both half so we should have cool social points by default. We naturally ~struggle~ more than they do.

But in all seriousness, we don't even know.
They all gained weight, cut their hair to pixie length, one dyed it blue, got a bunch of facial piercings and tattoos, and they all yell at people in public and call all men that they aren't currently dating shitlords. If a guy asks them if they need help at the store it's patriarchy, if you listen to rap music it's cultural appropriation, etc etc.

No. 82214

I've typically always had boy interests (dad bought me up on vidya etc), and had equal parts male and female friends going up.

But then puberty hit and I got fucked over by my best female friend and she bullied me in an attempt to be 'one of the guys'. Made another female bestie, she also fucked me over by using the guy I liked to fuck with me.

Luckily through secondary school I made two groups of female friends, but they were semi-boyish too so that might have something to do with it.

Come uni though, made friends with boys, lived with four boys in second year and now live with two of those in third year. Course mates are equal parts male and female again. I play games online with a group of guys too.

I've never really considered myself 'one of the guys' that's just where I've fit. Board games and vidya. Distrustful of girls that do try and make blatant effort to be 'one of the guys' because thats what my sket friend did at the start of secondary. I'd love love love more girlfriends like me, i.e. boyish but have an interest in all things girly, but they're hard to find irl for some reason.

Only one of my male friends has ever tried it on with me, and thats only because he didn't know I had a boyfriend.

tl;dr, always fit in better with guys naturally, but have had girlfriends and would love more that shared my interests. wary of girls that actively try to be 'one of the boys'.

No. 82221

>>81721
UPDATE:
I know it's not been long, but I'm a very proactive person and I've found a female friend (along with 2 males)! Only 2 years younger than me, and could really hold a conversation. I don't mean it in the judgmental way, but other girls I talk to seem closed off.

But she's literally your meme not like other girls girl.

Today she said (I'm paraphrasing) "other women must hate me because I actually treat men with respect and I'm not shallow". One guy talked about his ex and the way she talks about this woman she's never known! Just comments like "probably the cleanest her cunt's ever been" in some related story.

She's great other than this really immature mindset, but i don't know what to do about it. She seems almost hateful towards women

No. 82235

>>82221
>"other women must hate me because I actually treat men with respect and I'm not shallow"
Translation: "women must hate me because im popular with boys, and like its not even my fault its just them hating on me cause theyre women ya know" Also, not shallow? Harshly insulting a girl she doesn't even know? Not shallow?

Anon, yikes. Talking like that to somebody you not only just met, but about another girl neither of you even know is a pretty bad sign. I truly wish you good luck if you continue that relationship, but tread lightly on that one.

No. 82314

>>82214
You sound like a well adjusted, slightly tomboyish, girl. I wish there were more people like you that just said things like "I have a lot of male friends but still get in with girls" rather than the special snowflake "women are all dramatic bitches but not me amirite".
I'm struggling to find other girls with 'tomboy' hobbies who haven't decided to no longer be girls, too.

>>82221
Stay guarded around her, agreeing with the other anon that bitching that much this early is shady.

No. 82803

>>82314
>>82235
Yeah, it gets pretty awkward when the guy who was bitching about her a minute before has to be like "well, I wouldn't say that really…".

I'm exercising caution but I'll definitely stick about, if she was internet famous she'd be a lolcow I'm sure. She's so unsubtle about liking one guy in the group, despite having a bf. Like she's always saying things like "for example if guy and I were dating", or saying she likes the traits he has in a man, unlike her stoopid bf etc.

Kek, yesterday she sent a photo to us, he replied and in the next one was a """sexier""" pose, with the shirt a bit more unbuttoned, with the excuse that she's now lying in the grass instead of sitting in the chair.

Can't wait to see how it turns out tbh.

Maybe this is why I don't have female friends.

No. 82823

>>82803
So you managed to actually rub shoulders with an IRL snowflake/cow? Wow. That's…actually impressive I'm not gonna lie. Yes it sucks for you but holy shit what weird and awful goldmine.

Yeah don't be 'friends' with her but if you want some entertainment I guess she sounds hilarious enough. I think your luck in finding the worst females around is pretty staggering by the sounds of it. Where are you again, is it just the girls in the area?

No. 82837

>>81720
not in my underwear? what the fuck

anyway my friendships don't last long with guys or girls, I dont know what my issue is but the girls i was friends with all had mental issues and the guys were… well they were cunts.

No. 83537

"I'm not like the other girls!" says the girl who's exactly like the other girls that are not-like-the-other-girls

No. 83584

I don't know if anyone feels the same way as me, but I always had mostly guy friends because I grew up in a small town and I had very "boyish" interests. I loved video games, art, anime etc I guess just really geeky interests and none of the girls liked that stuff so I made guy friends. All of the other girls were really mean to me and made fun of me for my interests so I started to dislike girls because I just thought they were all like that and all they seemed to do was bitch about everyone.
Then when I went to secondary school I made a few female friends as well as male friends and they had the same interests as me and weren't bitchy at all so we got along great, they were my best friends for years. Obviously then I realised not all girls were like that and it had nothing to do with gender, I just had to find "my people" so to speak. But maybe some of those "I get on better with guys" girls just had similar experiences to me without ever finding "their people", idk.

No. 83593

The other day, one of my older male friends told me that no guy (who is straight) who is my friend does not want to have sex with me. He said guys are only friends with girls who they want to have sex with.

I'm not sure if I believe ALL, but I can think that a lot are like that.

No. 83594

>>83593
Sounds like he's only saying that to make himself feel better. Seems like a creep.

No. 83595

I was bullied by my group of female friends as a kid, and now all the girls I know are too normie and think I'm weird.

> "oh no anon you're not one of those people that like chinese cartoons are you!?"


I'm desperate for female friends, and I've managed to make two so far but it's a constant struggle. I only predominantly hang out with my partner's friends though as of present, but I hope to change that.

No. 83607

>>83584
Yeah I agree and relate to this. I think the main differences between men and women in general is just interests. My normie friends are mostly women and my online nerdy friends are mostly men.

No. 83612

>>83593
Nah that's bs. I had a friend who started all that red pill bullshit and used to say things like that (got in to a debate about it before) and years later he told me that wasn't true and he didn't know what was going through his mind that possessed him to say things like that.

No. 84146

>>82823
I'm from the UK, so a pretty good mix of types, but I always get lesbians or the mentally ill. I must give off some vibes or something.

She seems near obsessed with this guy. After I posted she started spending every day at his, and about 4 days in she slept over, for 4 nights in a row. I don't know how they managed it, and I don't know if they're fucking, but she's now had a huge argument with her bf and is still spending every day with the guy. It's a shame, because the other guy friend in the group (his childhood friend) is going out alone every day when they'd usually be together because he's with the girl.

He's a absolute doormat and she's pretty forceful, so I don't know how much of it is dickishness on his part, how much is just pressure.

Don't know what her motives are, but I fear that it's to split him up from his friend, and move into his flat. Every time the suggestion to meet comes up they're both reluctant, and turns out they're hanging together.

I feel like my life is halfway through a /cgl/ dramu greentext tbh.

No. 84160

>>83593
Nah, that sounds like crap.

>>83594
Seconding.

No. 84689

>>81170

Chances are you're probably just intelligent.

No. 84708

i'm like that but not by choice, most girls get annoyed by me. I don't know why though, guys never seem to mind.

No. 84711

I used to be that way until I realised I'm just completely socially retarded and shouldn't have any friends.

No. 106548

>>84146
Why do women do this shit?

No. 106550

Tbh I feel more comfortable around guys because I used to get bullied by girls in primary school all the time. They'd be all nice to me when they needed something but once they got it they would laugh at me for being lonely and gullible and keep on ignoring me. I've had trouble befriending girls since creche, I remember my first day there - I'd asked them if I could play house with them and the queen bee just sized me up and said 'no'. I begged her because I was 5 and not even my parents gave a fuck about me and she said 'okay so, you can be the dog'.

Maybe I have autism or something but guys have never really acted like there was anything wrong with me and my best friend for years was my older gay cousin.

That said, I've made one or two female friends since, but I always have trouble showing affection and have an irrational fear of them thinking I'm a lesbian (I'm not), or trying too hard, or whatever else there may be.

I don't really know why people get so triggered about it on the internet, there's a plethora of reasons as to why someone would prefer guys over girls.

No. 106552

>>83595
I'm literally trying to figure out if you're a different anon or if I wrote this 4 months ago and forgot about it…

No. 106553

>>81170
When will these stupid, slut shamey threads end. Do you realise you have to be 18 to post here?

No. 106556

>>106553
I always assume that threads like these are made by robots or trolls.

No. 106558

>>106556
A lot of women have an issue with this though. We've had similar threads on /cgl/ once upon a time and lots of lolitas would get triggered and start calling the OP a dumb catty bimbo who eats dick for breakfast.

No. 106559

>>106558
The first part of the thread is hella jellyposters if they're not maleposters tho.

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>>106553
>>106556
>>106558
>>106559
>unironically using the word slutshaming

No. 106579

>>106550
I ignored this thread when it was posted, but the last two months have had me coming into my own and trying to start my life and I realized something very similar to your post.
It used to be that I was more comfortable around females, somewhat out of fear that males would give me attention out of intentions. But it switched at some point. I was also bullied by girls, and had girls shit talk about me (even up to last year, by coworkers) for no other reason than that was their hobby. When I was a kid one of my few friends really hurt me by pretending she didn't know who I was when she was with a different friend of hers from her grade (she was a year younger). Same year I was abandoned by the only friend I had left (that didn't move away) in a very hurtful-to-me-nonchalant-to-her manner. I haven't had friends in a decade. I find it difficult to connect with almost anyone, but females in particular, because there's always that worry that they don't actually like me and I'm just a convenience (or burden?), and that the moment I leave the room it's gossip time. While the actual actions those girls did to me don't bother me anymore, the repercussions still linger around to this day.
With guys though, I still worry about how they only talk to me because they think I'm cute, but I feel incredibly more relaxed around them. I work with a bunch of older teenage guys this year, while last year it was mostly 20 yo girls. The difference is astounding. The guys are a bunch of goofballs, their conversations are ridiculous and even if they're not trying to be funny, the context and the way they say and do things can be downright hilarious. It's easy to get on with them. They're friendly and welcoming. The girls from last year though, while they were pretty funny sometimes, it was more because of what they'd say during their infighting and gossiping. They'd talk smack about each other when the person on topic wasn't around. All they'd do was talk about how so-and-so is a bitch and they hate her. I can't connect with that, there's a reason why I only make simple comments on /pt/ and /snow/. On top of that, my sisters are crazy, and there is a fear that I'd end up befriending someone like them but I wouldn't know until it was too late. Even that alone is enough to throw me off the idea of having girl friends.

So I mean, I don't know. I don't have any friends or hang out with anyone anyway so I guess it doesn't really matter.

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I was heavily bullied in elementary all the way to my first year of high school by girls. I have serious issues because of this and I simply can't relate to any girls. Once I made friends with some weeb guys in high school, everything fell into place and I finally felt what it means to have real friends. Up to this date I have severe trust issues with women around my age and can't hang out/hold conversations with them without having social anxiety attacks.

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>>81170
Thankfully I haven't met one in a long time, but I used to be that type and was a total tomboy/baby butch until late high school. Now I only have female friends. Mostly due to any guy friends save for one usually ended up liking me even though I'm gay lmao. My friends are great since they're chill and not big on makeup but not really tomboy/butch so I'm the ~beauty guru~ friend.

No. 106620

>>106607
W2c cool girl friends
All the girls I know are 'sassy' gym bunnies who call each other babe and gossip 24/7 at starbies

No. 106625

>>106620
Are you fucking 14 or something?

No. 106633

Men are much easier to make friends with than girls so it's not hard to understand. But girls need to have some self awareness about it- it's not easy because you're such a cool, chill girl, it's easy because men are automatically nicer to us, try harder to make us like them, and work to keep us entertained, and they do it naturally even when they aren't that interested. With girls, you actually have to be cool to get them to like you and you can't just ride on their default appreciation of the opposite gender.

I find that I like boys as either casual acquaintances (no feelings involved, just fun interactions), or as very close friends that will develop into a romantic relationship. It gets awkward in the middle.

No. 106635

>>106625
No, just in a sorority

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>>106633
It you

No. 106676

>>81170
They tend to be insufferable people. And the only reason why "BOIS R EZ R TUH B FWANDOS WIT" is because they want to fuck you nd probably want attention from a woman.

Trust, if a girl doesn't have girl friends, she is insufferable in one way or another, or does not do anything, and expects people(like fuckboys) to initiate everything.

But you know, as people find out about bad things regarding saying such statements, they just stop it and change their views to be different. I think you'll be doing that OP.

Of course, sometimes its like a legit thing to do with interests, but when you explicity say it I'm just thinking: yep, you an annoying bitch.

No. 106677

>>106620
You seem like a judgmental bitch,. no wonder no one wants to be friends with you, (lol).

No. 106687

>>106676
>Trust, if a girl doesn't have girl friends, she is insufferable in one way or another, or does not do anything, and expects people(like fuckboys) to initiate everything.

This. To be honest, >>106633 is 100% right in a way. The girls who keep saying that men are so much nicer and drama-free are usually the ones who have a rotten personality or underdeveloped social skills because with girls you actually have to be a nice person to make them like you, but for certain thirsty men it's enough that you're a woman. They're nice to the girl because they think they'll eventually have a chance to fuck her. And the girl gobbles it up, thinking it's just the girls who are assholes, thank god for these amazing men who want to be my friends!

No. 106692

>>106677
I have female friends though
I just hate them

No. 106693

When I was a kid my family moved countries so I had to adjust to another culture as well as trying to learn English so communicating with other kids was pretty hard.
Fast forward to highschool and I was also ugly and a nerd on top of that in a pretty low class school so things didn't get any better for me. I was literally that 'weird kid' that every school has.
Different groups of girls were the worst of my bullies, they would do all sorts of horrible to me that I will not elaborate on. The whole five years of that must have fucked me up pretty bad because even after that I was terrified of other groups of girls. So I sort of avoided interacting with them (I was ok talking to girls online through.)
Plus now in Uni I'm studying a very male dominated subject (150 guys and 4 girls) so making friends with guys is sort of normal. We share similar interests and just generally have fun like all friends do.
I have made a few girl friends recently through, but I'm still paranoid things will go wrong.

No. 106694

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>Im not liek the other gurlz!!"
>BOIS R EZ R TUH B FWANDOS WIT"

I honestly cringe so hard at this now and the 'adult' women who exhibit this behavior. Because this was exactly my line of thinking from middle school and halfway through high school. I was absolutely hated and annoying, and worst of all I objectively deserved it.

I remember moving and my parents forcing me to go to a religious school where the class size was only 20, mostly consistent of girls. I think by 8th grade there were only 3-4 boys in my class. But since I wanted to be such a ~*~TOMBOY~*~ I wound up making only but a few friends and most of them switched to public school or were not in my class. I alienated the "girly" girls (re: almost all) because they didn't share my interests, didn't get my humor, gossiped, and I thought lesser of them for the fact. They did bully me a little which didn't help my impression of girls at large. I remember getting mocked because I checked out a Pokemon manga from the library and made the mistake of reading it at school. They constantly embarrassed me for having a crush on 1 out of the 3 boys in our class. Another time my bestie accidentally (?) threw her locker door open in my face, and left a gash on my chin. Bleeding a bit. I started sobbing hysterically. One of the girls who bullied me the worst started to laugh at me and recorded it on her flip phone.

I had one girl best friend growing up, but despite her being introverted she was way more toned down and was generally liked. I was still alone, however, when she graduated and got new friends. She had a ~*~tomboy~*~ attitude like me, but the difference was that she was actually pretty and knew when to distance herself from me because she was socially aware.

So I tried befriending guys and, to make myself feel better, I labeled other girls as "dramatic." But even the guys didn't like me because I was an awkward girl that they weren't interested in whatsoever. Plus I was aggressive. I can't tell you how many rounds of nutball, baseball cards, and bloody knuckles watched just because I wanted them to give any indication that they liked me. I mean, I wasn't like those "other girls," right? I had TWISTED ass logic like spraying Axe for men on myself thinking it would sway them in my favor because it made me truly like "one of the guys." FUCKIN WAT I was yoonique. I was speshul. I shopped at Hot Topic and wrote poetry because I was 2deep4u. I pretended I was hot shit when the reality was no guy liked me, and that didn't change until high school. Even then I managed to annoy a decent number and made enemies until I grew out of that thinking. Tbh moving away and seeing what girls said on the internet gave me a lot of perspective.

Fast forward to my 20s: Done with grad school so I move to a new area.
I made lots of girlfriends and didn't judge everyone at face value. I actually have people who want to hang out with me. Oh, and sidenote: since having a stable bf for a couple years, all of my guy "friends" backed off or are clearly chomping at the bit hoping I'll be ~available~. Makes me want to puke how they all jumped ship when pussy was no longer on the market, and I feel like a tard for ever placing so much value in random validations from people who don't care…

I befriended this girl through my hobby community who acts like how I acted in middle school. Truth is nobody in our community can really stand her. Every time I'm with her I get so much PTSD because I want so badly to tell her to get over herself. But my conscience guilts me because all I can think about is how I used to be that way when I was a kid and all I wanted was friends deep down.

Oops, wrote a blog post. Sorry.

No. 106696

>>106694
Girl. Breathe.

>>106693
Same (I'm the autism anon from before). I'm not a tomboy, don't have much in common with guys, but I get fucking war flashbacks from talking to certain types of girls. With many of the 'alternative' ones I'm totally cool (and one of my friends is really into Wicca and stuff, which is actually really fascinating), but as soon as I have to talk to 'normie' girls I freeze up and overanalyse everything and just look like an idiot in general.

The worst part is, I had a male friend that was kind of a goofy nerd but he was really friendly and nice to everyone. My normie female classmates thought his friendliness was super cringy though (?) and kind of tarred me with the same brush because I hung out with him a lot. Once he said hi to me in the hallway whilst I was talking to a classmate and she (the classmate) looked confused and disgusted. I was honestly kind of taken aback, it reminded me of my days in primary school. I honestly had no idea being chipper and friendly was frowned upon, like what the fuck do you want from people? It's so childish but shit like that makes me so nervous and insecure because I used to be bullied for being the loser 'lost puppy' myself.

My cousin once told me I 'need to be bitchier and stand up for myself' to make friends but I honestly don't know how. Why can't I just be nice?

No. 106708

I had my fair share of girl friends in high school but as we got older they started growing out of their nerdy hobbies. I was a late bloomer and had severe auts so I never stopped playing video games or watching anime. Next thing you know I only have guy friends left.
I wasn't patting myself on the back for it or anything but aside from the occasional creep nerdy guys are good company

My mom was the only one thinking that I was only hanging out with guys because I was a some sort of sex doll for them, but that's because she's a terrible person.

No. 106726

>>106696
Definitely on amphetamine when I posted. Sorry about that, the thoughts wouldn't stop flowing.

No. 106746

I have more guy friends than girl friends right now, and it's not for any snowflake-y reason, that's just the way things turned out. I've had good friendships with girls before and we didn't fall out, we just grew apart and are on good terms. That's part of the reason I come to this board lol, to fill the need for female interaction in my life.

I think it's a huge red flag when girls hate other girls (not uncomfortable or intimidated, straight up dislike). A friend of mine in high school always said "I hate girls" (she once said this about a girl who was in an abusive relationship…she thought the girl was stupid because "why don't you just leave him???") and that's when I realized I needed to start distancing myself from her a bit.

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No. 106770

>>84146
I want to know more about this situation.

No. 114100

I stopped being friends with all my guy friends because I realized they were all beta orbiers. I miss talking about games and music with them, but relieved that I'm not kept around just so they can potentially fuck me.

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>>106694
You were trying/imitating a personality not your own, so of course your fake bullshit didn't get you far. That's why disgusts me about women like you, who think "Gone Girl" is like some Bible because you don't understand what it is to be like someone like me, but your idolization and imitation-personality BURNED you out. And when it didn't work out, surprise: You're soooo above it, right?

It's not about being better than other women.
It's that being me makes you automatically feel that I'm acting for approval.

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>>115299
>because you don't understand what it is to be like someone like me

…Replying to a two month old post like you're on a raging drug bender because what someone said made you incredibly assblasted? Yeah, I don't think many people could relate to being such a tart.

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>>115299
> raging drug bender
Done right there. What pretentious comments. Strike a cord with you, did I? What are you, 23? This is honestly embarassing for you. Please don't respond, for your sake, sweetie.

No. 115302

>>115301
>whining about other people being pretentious when you just wrote a TL;DR "YOU PEOPLE DON'T GET ME" post
I'm not the one trying to defend muh personality against a months-old post, kiddo. Sorry your feelings got shook.

No. 115303

>>115302
Why are you even here then?
Like, what the fuck is your point? Why did you feel compelled to reply and defend your honor? You're honestly not worth the effort.

No. 115304

>>115303
>Why are you even here then?
To mock your sensitivity.

We're anonymous here, maybe you shouldn't be so touchy.

No. 115305

>>115304
I liked it better when you wrote
>TL;DR
on my post. At least you were trying.

No. 115306


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No. 115323

>>114100
Wtf is a "beta orbiter"? I'm sick of hearing this Tumblr tearn fucking everywhere.

I'm going to google it, but can someone tell me where this retarded term originated? Tumblr, right?

No. 115327

>>115323

4chan or maybe reddit.

No. 115331

>>115323
As far as I know, it is a term from reddit's the red pill subreddit.

No. 115341

>>115327
>>115331
Thanks. I've been on the red pill a bunch of times because I kept hearing about it and I didn't know what it was. It looks fucking retarded. I don't get it at all. Just a place for neckbeards to fucking circle jerk and act like they can become "alpha chads" or whatever the fuck just by changing how they act/their personality in to something douchier, without actually putting effort in to their appearance, bathing, and losing weigh (which I'm sure everyone on there is in desperate need of). Ugh.

No. 115346

>>115341
That sub is batshit. You should look up "married red pill" if you really want to rage.

No. 115366

>>115323
Beta orbiting is a term considerably older than redpill, not that I know where it came from but it's been used commonly way before the whole Xpill business came around. Beta orbiters are guys that try to stick around a girl who hasn't any interest in dating them, but the guys hope that eventually she'll date them anyway. It tends to be associated with the betas giving the girl free shit, ie buying videogames or whatnot, but it's not a necessary criterion.

No. 115369

>>115346
Haha sounds good, thanks for the tip anon.

>>115366
Lolz thanks for the explanation. I've been so busy this morning I haven't gotten a chance to look it up. I remember the first time I saw it, I was going through /cream/ looking at all of the hilarious marked princess doll posts & that chick was calling one of her guy friends a beta orbiter. Jfc.

No. 115562

As a decent-looking individual, I suspect one of the reasons I get along better with guys is because they'll treat and respect me better out of politeness/chivalry/what have you. Not gonna deny that. I'm completely okay with it, however. It's harder to meet girls irl with the sense of humor that I have (or perhaps it has to do with the job field I'm in).

My closest friends are still girls, though. I think that it's just easier to warm up to guys in a casual social setting.

No. 118820

Every girl I've ever encountered who claims to be "one of the boys" or "I have guy friends because girls are drama" were always insecure and always ended up getting dicked down by one of her "friends" and brought drama to her life that way. The ones who didn't say shit and it came to light through deductive reasoning were cool as shit. Also, a couple of the "one of the boiiiz" girls ended up cheating on their bfs from all the guy attention….

No. 118828

>>115346
Good lord, I took a quick look in this group and it's a bunch of betas that are trying to be alphas after marrying someone they didn't want to because they thought they couldn't get anyone better. So pathetic.

No. 118832

>>118828
>marrying someone they didn't want to because they thought they couldn't get anyone better

this is fucking depressing.
polite sage

No. 118839

>>118832
When you analyze their behaviour more deeply, you can notice most of these guys overrate simple achievements such as going to gym, being able to socialize, having a stable job and normal things everyone with a stable mental health are supposed to do normally. It's pretty fucked up they have some power fantasy involving being… normal.

Also it's pretty fucking sad the way they see relationships, they only see women as tools or assets so the lack of empathy is quite evident.

>After year+ effort into your transformation and taking responsibility for the problems between the two of you, It becomes more and more difficult to not see the remaining issues to be problems with her, or to grow increasingly frustrated with where she still resists the corrections you are implementing


So they start to realize they can improve themselves and people won't change easily and get mad about it. When they are in midst of a married life already.

It would be really sad if it wasn't hilarious. People are so fucking stupid sometimes.

No. 118856

>>118855
Reminds me of feminists who slather on makeup and then complain that the patriarchy forces them to.

No. 118865

IDGI… having a lot of male friends gets weird fast. Almost every single guy friend I've had (except for two) got creepy or stepped out of line eventually. One in particular did not respect friendship (with ANY woman) for the sake of friendship and end up trying it sooner or later. As in, he literally broke our group apart because he got crushes on all the girls one after the other, and then after they ditched and stopped hanging out with us as much, he moved on to me. No thanks lmao, I told him to fuck off.

Girls that only hang out with guys and brag about it love the attention and get off on stringing them along.

No. 118882

>>118855
Tax benefits?

No. 173278

I used to be friends with only males until I realized that they only wanted me around as a potential sex partner. Even my childhood friend of 12 years couldn't handle just being friends as we entered our 20s. Over a decade of friendship thrown away just because he couldn't put his dick in me!
I'm autistic with other females because I was socialized with only males, so I either have to choose between being reduced to a potential sex object or have shortlived and awkward friendships with women.
I've also realized that straight men and women can't just be friends. It's also why I agree that straight couples shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex. This is because men are always going to develop sexual feelings for their female friends.
I have a husband now so things are not as lonely but sometimes I wish I could have a female friend or a male friend to confide in but I know now that its unrealistic.

No. 173294

Can't get along with other women. I've never been able to get close to any. I always feel like an alien. I've only had good male friends in my life. When I was younger I had three interests: video games, heavy metal and pro wrestling. I probably wasn't going to find a lot of girls who loved all three things enough. I was the big gamer. Any girls I knew didn't really want to play much. But I think a lot of this can boil down to location and who is around in your area. You might have interests that are generally seen as more male oriented but find female friends that really like them too. Or your luck with that can be terrible. I think that if your friendships with people flow organically then you are just friends with those people because you like them.

But I don't go "I'm totally one of the gaiz lolz!". That's just stupid. You are friends with people because you enjoy their company. This doesn't have anything to do with their sex or race or anything. I think girls that say they are one of the guys like that are trying to be "not like those other girls". Trying to show men that they can hang when they are just looking for dick or fake bro creds. And it can sour guys platonic relationships with other girls by proxy. Who wants to be stuck with a "friend" who only hangs around you to fuel their own snowflake status? It's like those girls that claim to be major gamers but only play the latest big budget AAA titles and the most recent indie flavor of the week. Or at least they claim to play them. I dunno about some of those newbie Tracer fans.

No. 173339

>>173294
Same here. I've always had a harder time making female friends rather than male friends. Of course I have a few girl friends, but it's mostly been guys. I don't know, I think the problem is that girls get way too competitive with each other and that fucking sucks. I love meeting other girls with the same interests as me because sometimes I do want to have "girl talk" conversations.

No. 173346

The only females I've managed to maintain good friendships with are those who are completely different from me. I've always had a hard time dealing with girls who are very similar because somehow they start getting competitive, fake and weird.

No. 173434

I've begun to realize that all my female friends have one or both parents immigrated from another country. I'm not sure if it's just where I live, but I have never really managed to create a real rapport with a girl whose family has been here for generations. It's not a race thing, I think. I'm nonwhite but have a very good friendship with a Hungarian girl, and have also been very unable to decode certain kinds of not recently immigrated nonwhites either. But it's not like I'm drowning in female companionship either, since a lot of immigrants tend to stick to their own.

Might be a cultures/values thing. All my guy friends are online friends. I don't think I've made an irl guy friend in my life.

No. 173438

>>173434
i've noticed this pattern with my own friends, too. my family's ex-yugo. i think i only have one friend who's been here for generations, and i only know her because she's a friend of a friend.

but i'm not sure why i have such a hard time getting along with waspy north american girls.



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