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No. 81182
>>81178This is why I started coming to lolcow desu.
I've browsed /r9k/ and a few other boards for years and happened to see a post about lolcow and I personally think it's much better. It's like a nice group of cool female friends.
The only thing I haven't gotten used to is how slow it is compared to some of the boards on 4chan, but it's definitely not as shit cluttered
No. 81183
>>81180I can relate, anon. I seem like I'm one of those "not like the other girls" types but I'm really not, and this ends up confusing (insecure, aggressive) girls who attempt to stereotype me like that just because I have brothers and am in a male-dominated major. When they see me being friendly with other girls, they're genuinely confused haha.
No honey, it's not that I don't like other girls. It's that I don't like
you.
No. 81186
>>81184I don't really hate them, but I've had a hard time bonding with girls and trusting girls, since I was very young, no idea why.
I've only had two girl friends in my life, each time it was a very strong friendship. I wish I knew how to approach girls better, they are kinda intimidating to me.
No. 81187
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In general, I'm very introverted. Being friends with guys is easier for me because there's less pressure in a platonic relationship with them. They don't constantly want me to hang out when I don't feel like it, they don't "compete" with me as far as looks and clothes go. Like, I can be my slob self around them. When I'm around girls, I feel judged constantly.
No. 81189
>>81186Girls are "intimidating" because you actually have to be a likeable person for other girls to bother being friends with you, and that's hard if you haven't developed your personality enough. You can't just giggle and simply exist while getting attention and favors like you can with guys. Girls don't give a fuck lol.
And eventually, those guys will all fade away as they get gfs/wives, or you stop dating their friend, or you get a serious bf. So male friends may be very low investment and low effort, but they rarely last like a good female friendship will.
It's okay though, most women realize this by their mid-20s, and by their late-20s, most women are a lot more tolerable as friends anyway.
No. 81191
>>81175Recently I've been chatting to this girl from dumblr for ages. She's ite' from my town, never met her. She's polish and something is off about her. Besides her saying how awful British people are.
She tells me about her days at work. How she gets on better with guys "less drama" and how she wants a boyfriend cos the last one was "too girly, i need a real man".
She has this new drama about this handsome* guy at her workplace who has crushed on her for agessss and he had a girlfriend of 10 years. But apparently all the guys like her because she "wears no make up apart from eye liner, she has a nice ass in her leggings" and she's just amazing.
But the handsome* guy likes her, he sent her a vday card and didn't break up with his gf. The girlfriend got pissed off because he was all dreamy over her and they split. But she had a feeling he liked her.
She brags on and on about me how much he likes her and "i pretend not to play along and care but i do rly".
Now the gf ex gf is going ape shit because she hacked the guy's fb account and found the convo of them flirting.
Girl doesn't even care about the ex gf's feelings, she's like "well shes getting obsessive and she's a crazy bitch and he likes meeee"
But it's sorta annoying because he should have broke up with that girl first instead of sending her cards and they have been together years so obv she loved him.
But she's so smug about it.
"All guys like meee I prefer guy frienddds"
It's not always a good thing.
It turns you into a cunt.
No. 81193
>>81189you seem
triggered, anon.
No. 81201
They settle for subpar company to fill time and then try to make it seem like it's not only out of desperation. Normal people aren't gonna spout that "friends with the guys" shit, they're just gonna consider having normal friendships with whoever they get along with, without thinking about it from a gender perspective. If they care so much that they're "friends with guys", these are probably only shallow friendships wherein the guys act like doormats in hope she will eventually end up putting out. And drop her when she doesn't. I'm friendless though, so fuck if I even have a right to talk.
>>81187kekking at your picture
No. 81206
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As a kid I always found myself having an equal amount of boy and girl friends, but I was a tomboy and had more "boyish" interests. That sort of persisted as I got a bit older, but once I hit 15 I started having more female friends because the guys I tended to hang out with/attract had awful personalities and were generally the unpopular geeks. Now I still talk to like, one or two guys but the friends I hang out with the most are female
The thing about girls is that you can pretty quickly judge one of them and see if they're fake or not. I have no beef or resentment towards the female gender as a whole but that's been my experience, at least
No. 81674
In my opinion, there are two types of girls who make OPs claim.
1) Tomboys/dykes/future ftms/actual nerds/legbeards
Genuinely interested in traditionally male dominated activities or in a "masculine" career path. Usually not "hot", could be autistic/greasy weebs, or maybe a "bro" type dyke.
Actually hangs out with males either incidentally or to discuss DnD, programming, sports, whatever. The male friends like her because she is fun to be around and adds to the group.
(If you're a woman and in mathematics/chemistry/physics/engineering, this is you, bio and medfags see below)
2) The whore/snowflake/token female
Unlike category 1, these girls happen to prefer male company because they want to feel like attention is being paid to them. They are probably attractive, or at least a ho, so other girls tend to resent them, either out of jealousy or disgust.
These chicks hang around with groups of males but don't add anything to the conversation or activity, instead they complain about their bf to the orbiters or shit like "these leggings/this bikini/my new kawaii seifuku are sooooo comfy :3" while everybody else is playing vidya or whatever.
These girls are tolerated by the males because of excessive male thirst and beta tendencies such as the tendency to orbit a slut in hopes for scraps of physical attention.
TLDR; could be legit, or attention whore. The test is- is she 6/10 or above? If below 5, def category 1. The more attractive the girl, the more suspicious her claim of preferring male friends is.
No. 81696
>>81692Guys like me more than girls*
I dont think a straight attractive man and a straight attractive woman can really hang out with each other as "friends". It would make the guy hard and the girl wet if they would watch netflix together in boxers and bras. You can do this shit only with the same gender tbh (assuming they are straight).
I admit though that its also impossible for me to hang out with a lesbian without fantasizing about her. Of course this shit doesnt happen to me when we're in public
No. 81710
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>>81696Why would you be hanging out with your friend half naked, girl or guy?
Watching shit does not require you to be in your underwear.
No. 81719
>>81204That sounds like it has more to do with the fact your female friends were cosplayers.
Cosplayers have an awful reputation in general: slutty, bitchy, trashy, camwhore on soc etc. Don't let that color your whole image of women. Cosplay is a whores hobby.
No. 81721
>>81170I haven't had a best female friend since primary school (about 11 years old, 24 now). I had two female friends since then, both turned out to be closet lesbians who liked me.
I pulled out all the stops to be friends with a girl who talked about shit you just wanted to smack her over, came to classes in a corset and gave me elaborate plans on how she planned on cheating on her bf with some guy in class. It was so exhausting trying to remain tactful but still myself with that. Then compare that to my male uni friend, where we just argued about irrelevant things you'd find in r/showerthoughts, and on Saturdays ordered a huge pizza and watched shit on youtube.
My current two best friends are male, have been for 9 years and we're very close, I'll come over and take a nap. I'm almost desperately trying to find female friends. I recently bought those lip gloss thing that peel off. I was super hyped, but obviously it doesn't hold the same interest for them, and it makes me a little sad to realise that I had no female to tell about them.
I hope to make some female friends this year, or at least figure out what my problem is.
No. 81727
>>81199I resonate with this so much. I'm autistic and I don't know what it is about girls but they are SO much more mean to me about it and generally less willing to accept me once I show any hint of my personality. Guys generally don't give a shit and so I sort of migrate to their friendship naturally at this point.
I do hate when girls brag about only having guy friends. I wish I could form a genuine, lasting bond with some other girls but even when I manage to get to "best friends" status with one, they eventually lose interest in me and move on to someone else.
I also find that I have more in common with guys and tend to be able to talk about my interests easier with them. I guess I'll have to settle with my bf and few guy friends being my friend group for the rest of my life because girls don't seem to want me around ;_;
No. 81756
>>81170I don't claim to be one of the boys or say anything about preferring them. I've just always been surrounded by men my whole life so I kind of became one of those girls.
As a kid, I had no female family members outside my mom, so I was really comfortable around my brothers. As I grew older, I felt like I was pretty gay. Girls seemed kind of intangible to me, and honestly, even though I really liked them, I also just wanted them as friends. I kind of had fantasies about us talking about various fashions and just being really sweet female friends to eachother.
When I actually did get a lot of female friends and female interests, they all got amazingly catty and literally all of them fought each other. I got burned so hard and backstabbed by them all, some of them oddly uniting in hate against me. I have no fucking clue why they hate me because those specific individuals made me the victim by sexually molesting me. I haven't gotten over it. I think lolcow is maybe a tiny bit like a healing process. I get to be around a lot of anonymous girls and call out catty monsters like I had to deal with.
Anyway, I got so depressed over the events, I naturally just went back to what was always comfortable for me: Just hanging out with men who respected me. Nothing remotely similar happened in my male groups. Whenever I try to go to cons and stuff now, even though my Facebook is female dominated, only guys show up to hang with me reliably. Every. Single. Time. I like them, but I still want to just have nice female friends.
So, I don't know what to say. Girls like that can be really annoying if they flaunt it, but some girls kind of have rough pasts with women and that's why they do it. I try not to be too quick to judge, because you never know.
No. 81904
I used to have a lot of male friends when I was younger (mostly because they're the ones that lived the closest to me), and it was fine up until like puberty. After that it's been pretty 50/50. However since I'm a girl, who likes men, there is more drama with men, 'cus they always seem to want their dick wet. This is especially awkward when these guys have girlfriends and try still try to get with you.
I've had to block a couple of guys out of my life, while with girls that's never happened (with girls we just drift apart or whatever, but they've never gone after me or made me feel super uncomfortable like some guys do). Here's 2 examples of these guys:
Good friend
> Often hang out and play vidya
> Watch movies
> He has a gf most of the time
> I get a boyfriend
> Good friend stops talking to me
> Blocks me or delete me off all social media
> No explanation as to why
2 years later
> Messages me on fb and says sorry
> Start talking like before but I'm like "y tho"
> Turns out he was in love with me
> "wanna go out"
> Nope.jpg
Classmate
> Depressed guy, but nice
> play vidya and usually just meet at school related stuff
> Starts messaging me everyday (I have a bf and it's all friendly, he apparently messaged a lot of other girls daily)
> He falls for our mutual friend
> Warn against it
> He ignores it
> She teases him for a whole summer just to drop him the moment she comes back to our town (sending pics of her belly button piercing, talking to him about being lonely etc.)
> He's sad about it
> "You should have listened to me… but whatever"
> I hear a joke someone at her high school school told about her (basically that she's a cock tease, which is fucking true, for perspecitve we're in our 2nd year of college)
> Someone (not me) tells him about the joke
> He rages
> Sends her anon messages on tumblr "hoping the rumors arent true"
> Ask him abt it, he denies it
> I say it's just a joke
> "HURTING PPLS FEELING ISNT A JOKE"
> He makes aggressive statuses on fb for like a month hinting that 'some people have no feelings' 'some people should thnk about others, happy x mas," -tags me and friend who told him about it and some others
> I end up deleting him because I'm sad due to other stuff happening in my life and he won't stop making those statuses (while still talking to me normally lol no)
> tfw he still keeps finding my social media and tries to follow me, it's been 3 years
Also had a lot of guys say they're cool with being friends and then the moment we're alone they try to kiss me, or when they're drunk they text me lots of shit they'd love to do to me sexually, also guy who was dating my friend tried to sleep with me when his gf(my friend) was in the next room. Idk, maybe I'm just unlucky with the people I meet. But there are some cool guys who actually are okay with just being friends, and those kinda make up for all that shit.
No. 81944
>>81904that "good friend" part ALWAYS happens to at least some extent with girls who have guy friends and then get a boyfriend, or vice versa, leave the girl out in the cold when they manage to score a girlfriend. Happened to me a loooot of times when I was still one of those "I only hang out with guys" girls in my late teens. Now I have more girlfriends than male friends and I feel happy to know I have friends who genuinely like me and not just in it for the distant hope of getting laid.
>Have a really close male friend, older than me, like a big brother>He listens to my worries, I listen to his, we talk about vidya, art, life in general>He suddenly becomes a lot more passive and doesn't reply to my messages>He tells me he got a girlfriend>4 years go by without any contact>He suddenly messages me on Facebook out of fucking nowhere>Asks me how I'm doing like nothing ever happened>We talk a bit>He nonchalantly mentions that he broke up with his gf and starts moving on to me>ignore himAnd this has happened to me with different guys a LOT of times. A ridiculously lot, actually. Which is why I now only make friends with females or my female friends' boyfriends because at least they can keep their dicks in control.
No. 82055
>>81170It wasn't my intention to have mostly guy friends but I don't hate it. My female friend experience has always been the classic inseparable Spice Girls experience for a maximum of 2 years. Which is obviously expected throughout being school aged, but I was very naive and didn't expect it to carry on through college.
I had a circle of 4 girl friends and we used to do everything together, we'd all live at one girl's house every single weekend, live blog our time apart in groupchat, etc. Then we all went to college (still live nearby) and 3 of the girls within a month dump me and my now only female friend for their own personal groups of tumblr-tier colored hair snowflakesexual SJWs and we're still trying to figure out how it happened.
My number one and I still hang out just as often, as if nothing happened, and we've only become closer because of it which I do appreciate. But it's been really disheartening. Now we bond over tales of hanging out with our respective boyfriend's dorky ass friends most of the time and having only eachother to do girl shit with.
No. 82109
>>82092Funny you even say that because all three are fully white (so are their new pals) and we're both half so we should have cool social points by default. We naturally ~struggle~ more than they do.
But in all seriousness, we don't even know.
They all gained weight, cut their hair to pixie length, one dyed it blue, got a bunch of facial piercings and tattoos, and they all yell at people in public and call all men that they aren't currently dating shitlords. If a guy asks them if they need help at the store it's patriarchy, if you listen to rap music it's cultural appropriation, etc etc.
No. 82214
I've typically always had boy interests (dad bought me up on vidya etc), and had equal parts male and female friends going up.
But then puberty hit and I got fucked over by my best female friend and she bullied me in an attempt to be 'one of the guys'. Made another female bestie, she also fucked me over by using the guy I liked to fuck with me.
Luckily through secondary school I made two groups of female friends, but they were semi-boyish too so that might have something to do with it.
Come uni though, made friends with boys, lived with four boys in second year and now live with two of those in third year. Course mates are equal parts male and female again. I play games online with a group of guys too.
I've never really considered myself 'one of the guys' that's just where I've fit. Board games and vidya. Distrustful of girls that do try and make blatant effort to be 'one of the guys' because thats what my sket friend did at the start of secondary. I'd love love love more girlfriends like me, i.e. boyish but have an interest in all things girly, but they're hard to find irl for some reason.
Only one of my male friends has ever tried it on with me, and thats only because he didn't know I had a boyfriend.
tl;dr, always fit in better with guys naturally, but have had girlfriends and would love more that shared my interests. wary of girls that actively try to be 'one of the boys'.
No. 82221
>>81721UPDATE:
I know it's not been long, but I'm a very proactive person and I've found a female friend (along with 2 males)! Only 2 years younger than me, and could really hold a conversation. I don't mean it in the judgmental way, but other girls I talk to seem closed off.
But she's literally your meme not like other girls girl.
Today she said (I'm paraphrasing) "other women must hate me because I actually treat men with respect and I'm not shallow". One guy talked about his ex and the way she talks about this woman she's never known! Just comments like "probably the cleanest her cunt's ever been" in some related story.
She's great other than this really immature mindset, but i don't know what to do about it. She seems almost hateful towards women
No. 82235
>>82221>"other women must hate me because I actually treat men with respect and I'm not shallow"Translation: "women must hate me because im popular with boys, and like its not even my fault its just them hating on me cause theyre women ya know" Also, not shallow? Harshly insulting a girl she doesn't even know? Not shallow?
Anon, yikes. Talking like that to somebody you not only just met, but about another girl
neither of you even know is a pretty bad sign. I truly wish you good luck if you continue that relationship, but tread lightly on that one.
No. 82314
>>82214You sound like a well adjusted, slightly tomboyish, girl. I wish there were more people like you that just said things like "I have a lot of male friends but still get in with girls" rather than the special snowflake "women are all dramatic bitches but not me amirite".
I'm struggling to find other girls with 'tomboy' hobbies who haven't decided to no longer be girls, too.
>>82221Stay guarded around her, agreeing with the other anon that bitching that much this early is shady.
No. 82803
>>82314>>82235Yeah, it gets pretty awkward when the guy who was bitching about her a minute before has to be like "well, I wouldn't say that really…".
I'm exercising caution but I'll definitely stick about, if she was internet famous she'd be a lolcow I'm sure. She's so unsubtle about liking one guy in the group, despite having a bf. Like she's always saying things like "for example if guy and I were dating", or saying she likes the traits he has in a man, unlike her stoopid bf etc.
Kek, yesterday she sent a photo to us, he replied and in the next one was a """sexier""" pose, with the shirt a bit more unbuttoned, with the excuse that she's now lying in the grass instead of sitting in the chair.
Can't wait to see how it turns out tbh.
Maybe this is why I don't have female friends.
No. 82823
>>82803So you managed to actually rub shoulders with an IRL snowflake/cow? Wow. That's…actually impressive I'm not gonna lie. Yes it sucks for you but holy shit what weird and awful goldmine.
Yeah don't be 'friends' with her but if you want some entertainment I guess she sounds hilarious enough. I think your luck in finding the worst females around is pretty staggering by the sounds of it. Where are you again, is it just the girls in the area?
No. 82837
>>81720not in my underwear? what the fuck
anyway my friendships don't last long with guys or girls, I dont know what my issue is but the girls i was friends with all had mental issues and the guys were… well they were cunts.
No. 84146
>>82823I'm from the UK, so a pretty good mix of types, but I always get lesbians or the mentally ill. I must give off some vibes or something.
She seems near obsessed with this guy. After I posted she started spending every day at his, and about 4 days in she slept over, for 4 nights in a row. I don't know how they managed it, and I don't know if they're fucking, but she's now had a huge argument with her bf and is still spending every day with the guy. It's a shame, because the other guy friend in the group (his childhood friend) is going out alone every day when they'd usually be together because he's with the girl.
He's a absolute doormat and she's pretty forceful, so I don't know how much of it is dickishness on his part, how much is just pressure.
Don't know what her motives are, but I fear that it's to split him up from his friend, and move into his flat. Every time the suggestion to meet comes up they're both reluctant, and turns out they're hanging together.
I feel like my life is halfway through a /cgl/ dramu greentext tbh.
No. 84160
>>83593Nah, that sounds like crap.
>>83594Seconding.
No. 106558
>>106556A lot of women have an issue with this though. We've had similar threads on /cgl/ once upon a time and lots of lolitas would get
triggered and start calling the OP a dumb catty bimbo who eats dick for breakfast.
No. 106579
>>106550I ignored this thread when it was posted, but the last two months have had me coming into my own and trying to start my life and I realized something very similar to your post.
It used to be that I was more comfortable around females, somewhat out of fear that males would give me attention out of intentions. But it switched at some point. I was also bullied by girls, and had girls shit talk about me (even up to last year, by coworkers) for no other reason than that was their hobby. When I was a kid one of my few friends really hurt me by pretending she didn't know who I was when she was with a different friend of hers from her grade (she was a year younger). Same year I was abandoned by the only friend I had left (that didn't move away) in a very hurtful-to-me-nonchalant-to-her manner. I haven't had friends in a decade. I find it difficult to connect with almost anyone, but females in particular, because there's always that worry that they don't actually like me and I'm just a convenience (or burden?), and that the moment I leave the room it's gossip time. While the actual actions those girls did to me don't bother me anymore, the repercussions still linger around to this day.
With guys though, I still worry about how they only talk to me because they think I'm cute, but I feel incredibly more relaxed around them. I work with a bunch of older teenage guys this year, while last year it was mostly 20 yo girls. The difference is astounding. The guys are a bunch of goofballs, their conversations are ridiculous and even if they're not trying to be funny, the context and the way they say and do things can be downright hilarious. It's easy to get on with them. They're friendly and welcoming. The girls from last year though, while they were pretty funny sometimes, it was more because of what they'd say during their infighting and gossiping. They'd talk smack about each other when the person on topic wasn't around. All they'd do was talk about how so-and-so is a bitch and they hate her. I can't connect with that, there's a reason why I only make simple comments on /pt/ and /snow/. On top of that, my sisters are crazy, and there is a fear that I'd end up befriending someone like them but I wouldn't know until it was too late. Even that alone is enough to throw me off the idea of having girl friends.
So I mean, I don't know. I don't have any friends or hang out with anyone anyway so I guess it doesn't really matter.
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I was heavily bullied in elementary all the way to my first year of high school by girls. I have serious issues because of this and I simply can't relate to any girls. Once I made friends with some weeb guys in high school, everything fell into place and I finally felt what it means to have real friends. Up to this date I have severe trust issues with women around my age and can't hang out/hold conversations with them without having social anxiety attacks.
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>>81170Thankfully I haven't met one in a long time, but I used to be that type and was a total tomboy/baby butch until late high school. Now I only have female friends. Mostly due to any guy friends save for one usually ended up liking me even though I'm gay lmao. My friends are great since they're chill and not big on makeup but not really tomboy/butch so I'm the ~beauty guru~ friend.
No. 106620
>>106607W2c cool girl friends
All the girls I know are 'sassy' gym bunnies who call each other babe and gossip 24/7 at starbies
No. 106676
>>81170They tend to be insufferable people. And the only reason why "BOIS R EZ R TUH B FWANDOS WIT" is because they want to fuck you nd probably want attention from a woman.
Trust, if a girl doesn't have girl friends, she is insufferable in one way or another, or does not do anything, and expects people(like fuckboys) to initiate everything.
But you know, as people find out about bad things regarding saying such statements, they just stop it and change their views to be different. I think you'll be doing that OP.
Of course, sometimes its like a legit thing to do with interests, but when you explicity say it I'm just thinking: yep, you an annoying bitch.
No. 106687
>>106676>Trust, if a girl doesn't have girl friends, she is insufferable in one way or another, or does not do anything, and expects people(like fuckboys) to initiate everything. This. To be honest,
>>106633 is 100% right in a way. The girls who keep saying that men are so much nicer and drama-free are usually the ones who have a rotten personality or underdeveloped social skills because with girls you actually have to be a nice person to make them like you, but for certain thirsty men it's enough that you're a woman. They're nice to the girl because they think they'll eventually have a chance to fuck her. And the girl gobbles it up, thinking it's just the girls who are assholes, thank god for these amazing men who want to be my friends!
No. 106692
>>106677I have female friends though
I just hate them
No. 106694
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>Im not liek the other gurlz!!"
>BOIS R EZ R TUH B FWANDOS WIT"
I honestly cringe so hard at this now and the 'adult' women who exhibit this behavior. Because this was exactly my line of thinking from middle school and halfway through high school. I was absolutely hated and annoying, and worst of all I objectively deserved it.
I remember moving and my parents forcing me to go to a religious school where the class size was only 20, mostly consistent of girls. I think by 8th grade there were only 3-4 boys in my class. But since I wanted to be such a ~*~TOMBOY~*~ I wound up making only but a few friends and most of them switched to public school or were not in my class. I alienated the "girly" girls (re: almost all) because they didn't share my interests, didn't get my humor, gossiped, and I thought lesser of them for the fact. They did bully me a little which didn't help my impression of girls at large. I remember getting mocked because I checked out a Pokemon manga from the library and made the mistake of reading it at school. They constantly embarrassed me for having a crush on 1 out of the 3 boys in our class. Another time my bestie accidentally (?) threw her locker door open in my face, and left a gash on my chin. Bleeding a bit. I started sobbing hysterically. One of the girls who bullied me the worst started to laugh at me and recorded it on her flip phone.
I had one girl best friend growing up, but despite her being introverted she was way more toned down and was generally liked. I was still alone, however, when she graduated and got new friends. She had a ~*~tomboy~*~ attitude like me, but the difference was that she was actually pretty and knew when to distance herself from me because she was socially aware.
So I tried befriending guys and, to make myself feel better, I labeled other girls as "dramatic." But even the guys didn't like me because I was an awkward girl that they weren't interested in whatsoever. Plus I was aggressive. I can't tell you how many rounds of nutball, baseball cards, and bloody knuckles watched just because I wanted them to give any indication that they liked me. I mean, I wasn't like those "other girls," right? I had TWISTED ass logic like spraying Axe for men on myself thinking it would sway them in my favor because it made me truly like "one of the guys." FUCKIN WAT I was yoonique. I was speshul. I shopped at Hot Topic and wrote poetry because I was 2deep4u. I pretended I was hot shit when the reality was no guy liked me, and that didn't change until high school. Even then I managed to annoy a decent number and made enemies until I grew out of that thinking. Tbh moving away and seeing what girls said on the internet gave me a lot of perspective.
Fast forward to my 20s: Done with grad school so I move to a new area.
I made lots of girlfriends and didn't judge everyone at face value. I actually have people who want to hang out with me. Oh, and sidenote: since having a stable bf for a couple years, all of my guy "friends" backed off or are clearly chomping at the bit hoping I'll be ~available~. Makes me want to puke how they all jumped ship when pussy was no longer on the market, and I feel like a tard for ever placing so much value in random validations from people who don't care…
I befriended this girl through my hobby community who acts like how I acted in middle school. Truth is nobody in our community can really stand her. Every time I'm with her I get so much PTSD because I want so badly to tell her to get over herself. But my conscience guilts me because all I can think about is how I used to be that way when I was a kid and all I wanted was friends deep down.
Oops, wrote a blog post. Sorry.
No. 106696
>>106694Girl. Breathe.
>>106693Same (I'm the autism anon from before). I'm not a tomboy, don't have much in common with guys, but I get fucking war flashbacks from talking to certain types of girls. With many of the 'alternative' ones I'm totally cool (and one of my friends is really into Wicca and stuff, which is actually really fascinating), but as soon as I have to talk to 'normie' girls I freeze up and overanalyse everything and just look like an idiot in general.
The worst part is, I had a male friend that was kind of a goofy nerd but he was really friendly and nice to everyone. My normie female classmates thought his friendliness was super cringy though (?) and kind of tarred me with the same brush because I hung out with him a lot. Once he said hi to me in the hallway whilst I was talking to a classmate and she (the classmate) looked confused and disgusted. I was honestly kind of taken aback, it reminded me of my days in primary school. I honestly had no idea being chipper and friendly was frowned upon, like what the fuck do you want from people? It's so childish but shit like that makes me so nervous and insecure because I used to be bullied for being the loser 'lost puppy' myself.
My cousin once told me I 'need to be bitchier and stand up for myself' to make friends but I honestly don't know how. Why can't I just be nice?
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>>106694You were trying/imitating a personality not your own, so of course your fake bullshit didn't get you far. That's why disgusts me about women like you, who think "Gone Girl" is like some Bible because you don't understand what it is to be like someone like me, but your idolization and imitation-personality BURNED you out. And when it didn't work out, surprise: You're soooo above it, right?
It's not about being better than other women.
It's that being me makes you automatically feel that I'm acting for approval.
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>>115299>because you don't understand what it is to be like someone like me…Replying to a two month old post like you're on a raging drug bender because what someone said made you incredibly assblasted? Yeah, I don't think many people could relate to being such a tart.
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>>115299> raging drug benderDone right there. What pretentious comments. Strike a cord with you, did I? What are you, 23? This is honestly embarassing for you. Please don't respond, for your sake, sweetie.
No. 115302
>>115301>whining about other people being pretentious when you just wrote a TL;DR "YOU PEOPLE DON'T GET ME" postI'm not the one trying to defend
muh personality against a months-old post, kiddo. Sorry your feelings got shook.
No. 115303
>>115302Why are you even here then?
Like, what the fuck is your point? Why did you feel compelled to reply and defend your honor? You're honestly not worth the effort.
No. 115304
>>115303>Why are you even here then?To mock your sensitivity.
We're anonymous here, maybe you shouldn't be so touchy.
No. 115305
>>115304I liked it better when you wrote
>TL;DRon my post. At least you were trying.
No. 115323
>>114100Wtf is a "beta orbiter"? I'm sick of hearing this Tumblr tearn fucking everywhere.
I'm going to google it, but can someone tell me where this retarded term originated? Tumblr, right?
No. 115369
>>115346Haha sounds good, thanks for the tip anon.
>>115366Lolz thanks for the explanation. I've been so busy this morning I haven't gotten a chance to look it up. I remember the first time I saw it, I was going through /cream/ looking at all of the hilarious marked princess doll posts & that chick was calling one of her guy friends a beta orbiter. Jfc.
No. 118832
>>118828>marrying someone they didn't want to because they thought they couldn't get anyone betterthis is fucking depressing.
polite sage
No. 118839
>>118832When you analyze their behaviour more deeply, you can notice most of these guys overrate simple achievements such as going to gym, being able to socialize, having a stable job and normal things everyone with a stable mental health are supposed to do normally. It's pretty fucked up they have some power fantasy involving being… normal.
Also it's pretty fucking sad the way they see relationships, they only see women as tools or assets so the lack of empathy is quite evident.
>After year+ effort into your transformation and taking responsibility for the problems between the two of you, It becomes more and more difficult to not see the remaining issues to be problems with her, or to grow increasingly frustrated with where she still resists the corrections you are implementingSo they start to realize they can improve themselves and people won't change easily and get mad about it. When they are in midst of a married life already.
It would be really sad if it wasn't hilarious. People are so fucking stupid sometimes.
No. 173438
>>173434i've noticed this pattern with my own friends, too. my family's ex-yugo. i think i only have one friend who's been here for generations, and i only know her because she's a friend of a friend.
but i'm not sure why i have such a hard time getting along with waspy north american girls.