/ot/ - off-topic

Nonna with the radicalized partner again. I've been in shambles for the past two days, unable to eat or sleep much because i've slipped into depression. It's not that i'm afraid he'd hurt me, but i'm afraid that within the next 2 years he'll join some terrorist faction and die for his misguided beliefs. I wish it was an exaggeration, but he's headed down a bad path. Advocating for violence against the government because, and I quote, "politicians enact violence indirectly against civilians with their policies all the time". I resent the disinfo campaigns and psyops present in politics that leads people to this line of thinking. He shut me down the other day and refuses to discuss politics with me because it clashes with the echo chamber narrative he's enmeshed in. I tried to convey, in less words, that the whole "Both sides bad, so voting doesn't matter!!" take was one propagated by Russian bot farms and disingenuous rightoids posing as leftist/centrist to encourage apathy in the American public because the CCP, Putin, NK and other shady players that Trump's been openly involved with stand to benefit from it, but because he is a tankie, he is so far left that he's gone retarded and won't listen to reason because "America bad, so that means these are actually the good guys!".

Even though he assured me he doesn't hate ME, I feel like it's only a matter of time before he turns against me with all this bullshit in his ear. Before all this he was a loving and intelligent partner but it just shows it can happen to anyone, although I guess moids are especially susceptible. As for whether it's worth saving, I believe so. Even if not for the sake of the relationship, seeing someone I deeply care about be mislead down such a bad path is awful. I was able to snap him out of co-dependency from his last toxic relationship. Showed him what healthy love looks like and that it's okay to put ourselves first sometimes, but there's only so much I can do as someone who's not a therapist. As I said before he needs therapy so he doesn't continue to seek his worth in extrinsic causes like this.

Because he's extremely busy with work and we're long distance, there aren't many chances to talk to him. We call once a week and talk anywhere from 15 mins to an hour if i'm lucky, when before we would talk and text every day or most days. I've been trying to think about how I should approach him to discuss my concerns, because heavy topics would add to his stress. He's often exhausted but still tries to make some time for me which I appreciate but at the same time it adds an extra layer of difficulty in getting through to him when he's absorbing misinformation or disinfo and not being able to think critically about things.

I let what exes did to me bother me for years.. Someone I dated when I was 17 and they were 20 or something online, he wanted a reason to dump me. He ghosted me at first when I made him a video for his birthday. I made it on my own. He didn't ask. It was just a lighthearted birthday video, nothing sexual at all. He told me it was thoughtful. I replied. Then he blocked me off of everything after that. I freaked out. Blocked on everything. The true meaning of ghosting. I was heartbroken. That was his way of breaking up with me. On his birthday. I was left extremely hurt and bothered by it all. I ended up signing up for a dating website and meeting up with someone in the next year. I did have sex with this person but I guess they were not into me. Oh well.

I had a friend message them and ask for him to unblock me and finally talk to me. He was reluctant but gave in. He dances around the whole subject but I am just glad he was back after abandoning me. I want to get back together with him so bad.

And as I try to weasel my way into that conversation, I feel weird and guilty about the time I slept with that person from the dating website while we were broken up and after he ghosted me. So I tell him.

He used that as an excuse not to get back together with me. I was so distraught and I didn't dare tell him that was during our breakup and him ghosting me so I had no idea he was going to be mad at that. So I take it all as my fault and beg him to be in my life because he left before. He would still be following me online today if I did not wake up one day and block him years later.

But I let this scrote poison my brain with this. I was spineless and let a lot of men ruin my mind. Plus, he ghosted me and did not want to be with me because he found somebody else that lived closer to him and he wanted to be with HER. When he stayed in my life he told her I was his "best friend" oh gross. He later on ended up breaking her heart too.

All in all. Like Doja Cat said "It was not cheatin if I wasn't with your ass" If you dumped them AND ghosted them, they're free. If you guys were not official, it was not cheating. If you wanted be with someone and they tell you "no" or decline your offer in any way, they CANNOT get mad if you choose to still date or be with someone else, or have sex with other people. And you also don't owe them that information.

>>2105648
> Even though he assured me he doesn't hate ME, I feel like it's only a matter of time before he turns against me with all this bullshit in his ear.
Your moid is basically in a cult, nonna, this is only a matter of time. I know it's easier said than done when you care about someone, but I recommend that you leave him before he breaks your heart further or worse. At a certain point you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Moids have main character syndrome and will put their quests for "muh justice and self discovery" above literally everything else.

>>2110322
Also there's a good chance that when he inevitably does do something stupid, he will suddenly "realise" how important you are and turn on the sweetness to ask for a favour (like bailing him out of prison or some shit) and you do not want to deal with that.