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No. 2088507

This is a thread created for anons who are current, recovering or former stans (obsessive fans) of celebrities and other public figures to air out and discuss their feelings and frustrations having to do with their obsessions. This is also a place for stans to support and give advice to one another on how to overcome these behaviors.

As per usual, follow the board rules and be civil!

No. 2088533

Thanks for the thread nonna

No. 2088617

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the fact that the sonic movie was the start of it all is shameful, that and the nona who posted the smug picture of him from liar liar. The sheer fucking audacity of my 12 year old self to have flecher reede be one of my sexual awakenings. I had no recollection he was my dad's age.

I've always had daddy issues and awful taste in men (fictional and real) and I felt like my history doomed me like a moth to a flame

I think what annoyed me the most is that during my fangirl phase people bullied me, usually for his looks over his actions (everyone should've been bullying me over the latter). Robontik didn't matter, the pickings of people to talk to were slim. He's not really fanned over. Doesn't have many stans. Not conventionally attractive. His fansites run by ancient fucking boomers with distractingly awful typing. Some of them were annoying! not psychotic, not deranged… just annoying. The couple nice people I'd met within the fandom and would mssg, we lost contact. It was a pretty lonely place. all of my fan or stan spaces were ix-nayed by the time he made his cringeworthy Slapgate speech.

The ways I utilized him as a coping mechanism for my abusive environment at the time was what I needed to prevent me from killing myself, but it went too far, for too long. instead of begging for help, my embarrassment recessed me into isolation piece by piece. I was like, and am still like "why did I ever lose my mind over this crazy schizo dweeb", and that's what I'm trying to fucking therapy and medicate out of myself at the moment. Ofc it goes much deeper than that, but the surface level insecurity was the fandom and the stan culture surrounding him sucked in its own individualistic, painfully solitudious way and quickly became unhealthy. What is sad is that when I was in it at its best, there was a part of me for a time that was creative, productive, and happy, it inspired me, I don't know where she went.

No. 2088685

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Nice thread, this is something I've wanted to talk about for a while. I've gone through many standoms and noticed I had the same harmful habits throughout all of them. Social media being the number one. Even if it's not necessarily an account devoted to them it still helps expose you to a constant stream of their content and their stan community. Suddenly you feel like their goals are your goals, their flubs are your responsibility to explain and defend, etc. When you make a celeb your identity, and people attack that celeb, it can feel like your own character and safety are under attack. Looking back it's embarrassing I lost sleep and felt anxious over my millionaire fave being deemed problematic or untalented or whatever. They're going to be fine kek.

No. 2088707

>>2088685
This happened to me. My self esteem is exponentially worse not just from feeling like I was probably too ugly to even have a one night stand with my favorite celebrity and how I'd be snubbed (meanwhile scrotes would fuck a ham sandwich) but also because people would call him hideous. We do have a few similar facial features despite not being the same gender and I guess I sought comfort in it. Makes me feel narcissistic, freudian and dirty in hindsight though? I have an awful tendency already to be crushed by self defeating blame and it only broke me further establishing an obsession with a person who probably sees young women as dog food

No. 2089307

There are some female pop stars I like, but I'm not as bad as other stans honestly. I don't have a "stan twitter" account, I don't buy 54 editions of an album (like certain fans of a certain celebrity), and I don't defend them online.

No. 2089408

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i was a hardcore 1D stan in my mid teens and only have fond memories from that time. now, however, i'm mainly into sports and god moids are a thousand times worse when it comes to fan behaviour. whether it's a 35 yo football fan or a stan twitter fag, they all are horrible and i wish they were shamed for their insane behaviour to a larger degree and then lobotomised. even the most unhinged female fan spaces are less toxic and hateful than the spaces men occupy. the parasocial relationships moids have with athletes need to be studied.

No. 2089417

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What I miss the most about being chronically online in my teen years is the seemingly endless amount of smut and fan-made content I'd consume. Life seems so bland and boring now, Dan Howell is a geriatric faggot, and the world has lost its spark…

No. 2090352

>>2089417
Tumblr was great back in the day (and also terrible). Now it's felt like it's sold out like the rest of the sites. I hate the new format for blogs, I remember customizing and toying with the html code on my old ones and how fun it was

No. 2090353

>>2090352
You can still customize the HTML nonnie, it's just that most people aren't going to see it nowadays

No. 2090357

Mostly just because I'm in a weird chatty mood anyway - in my early 20s I became infatuated with Toby Turner and Matthew Brian Brown. And managed to have interactions with both of them. A decade later and I wouldn't say I'm obsessed anymore… But I still wonder from time to time what would have happened had I pushed even the teensiest bit harder. Story of my life…

No. 2090358

>>2089307
Then you're just a fan, not a stan

No. 2090361

KEK the threadpic

No. 2090369

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>>2090361
It was between that and this pic

No. 2090372

>>2090353
atp I don't think it's worth the effort because so many users will be scrolling on the default or mobile format anyway. also I hate how the sites riddled with ads now

No. 2090374

>>2090369
This is the weirdest thing ever. I was literally just watching the mv a few mins ago.

No. 2090377

How are ex-Swifities coping right now? It feels like everyday something worse about her keeps getting out.

No. 2090379

>>2090377
Were you a swiftie?

No. 2090410

>>2090377
Kek Taylor is like the "cleanest" celeb in the game right now, her only mishap imo is the ratty Healy incident. What else has been coming out?

No. 2090413

>>2090410
Just generally the public turning on her and calling her a greedy capitalist plus her possible weird rivalry with wanting to block other female artists from the charts by releasing new pressings of Tortured Poets (her worst album IMO)

I'm a blind item and gossip connoisseur who's been collecting since 2020 but there's not a lot abt her out there. Most of what I find just says behind the scenes she's a bitch.

No. 2090418

>>2090410
She is not clean, she just has a good PR team and knows how to sweep things under the rugs. Plus her fans silence and threaten anyone who tries to call her out.

Never forget the brazil concert and how due to Taylor and her teams greedines it lead to people getting injured and…dying.

No. 2090419

>>2090413
I was hoping for something milky damn

No. 2090421

>>2090418
That also happened with the astro world fiasco didn't it? I wonder if any lawsuit still stands

No. 2090427

>>2090419
If I did find anything overly milky Tree Paine would find a way to wipe it from the internet I'm sure

No. 2090430

>>2090421
Nothing happened because Taylor took a picture with the family of the deceased girl (she did this to save face and for PR after she was caught lying that the fan died outside her concert when it was proven that she was inside the concert).
Other fans who were also injured at the concert and posted proof of their injuries got attacked by western Taylor fans who proceeded to attack them with with racial insults such as "these dirty third worlders don't deserve taylor" "taylor shouldnt go in these third world countries anymore" "shut up third worlder" etc etc.

Nothing happened out of it because Taylor did PR with one of the family of the deceased and the ones injured were harassed by the western fans.

No. 2090432

>>2090421
When it comes to hollywood and lawsuits the goal is to quash it as fast as possible. That's why most payoffs from celebs are done in civil court with prejudice meaning nobody can refile. And hollywood lawyers are paid well (nearly $1000 an HOUR well) to ensure their clients get their dirt swept under rugs

I remember reading somewhere that Taylor would send cease and desists to music journalists if they reviewed her too negatively, she's very media savvy and media manipulative

No. 2090437

>>2090357
Knowing how things went with Toby Turner assuming it's that Toby Turner I send my condolences

No. 2090438

>>2090413
I've been reading blinds about her for a while and most of the rumors I've read say she's professional. She is intense in her relationships though (especially with women). Not kind but not a total cunt. Ot but are you the nona wanting to start blind item page? I would like to do that too.

No. 2090449

>>2090438
If you wanted to start one together we could find a way to exchange emails (maybe I can link you to my friend finder listing? I've been so slovenly about checking the email but I'll get to it I swear). On my days off I get very bored and im wanting a new project to do kek

No. 2090456

>>2090449
>>2090438
If you both do that I'll be an avid frequent reader of anything you find

No. 2090459

Is there anyone else here who is a ex-kpop fan? I started in 2010 as a fan but i slowly started disliking it around 2018, by 2022 i felt that kpop is not for me anymore and i don't feel that spark that i felt in 2010. By 2024 i am basically over kpop and every new kpop song sounds extremely mediocre and bland to me both visually and musically wise.

Kpop back in 2008-2017 was so fun and creative. I wonder if it was the sudden popularity of kpop due to bts in 2018 that caused the music and visuals of kpop to downgrade so much.

I don't regret stanning kpop groups but i do feel disappointed how all the groups i stanned have disappointed me in the end. Either they have become complete sellouts, got into major scandals that were criminal, or had a forced rushed disbandment that broke my heart.

I am currently not into the music anymore but I still keep up with the kpop news and tabloids from time to time.

No. 2090467

>>2090459
I only sparsely keep up with releases and follow gossip on it these days. I like some releases but I've felt like the quality has dipped significantly.

I started listening to the genre in 2010 so I witnessed it skyrocket from something only nerds consumed to being an international sensation. It was so fucking surreal. I'm glad I never stanned any boy groups cuz I witnessed women I knew lose their mind to stanning them, and the burning sun scandal was an eye opening look into how sexist korea is against women.

No. 2090469

>>2090427
That would explain why no one gave her heat for wearing Balenciaga at a Travis Kelce game

No. 2090478

>>2090469
Her publicist directly went for deuxmoi's throat on twitter once, who knows what she does in private

No. 2090482

>>2090459
I was very into it for years until last year. I turned 24 and I just think I'm too old for it now, especially when people born in like 2007 keep debuting.
I still haven't even listened to my ult's new song that came out a week or two ago even though I have a bunch of their albums and their posters on my wall.

No. 2090483

>>2090449
Sure. You can post on the friend finder thread and I will email you. It would be a fun collaboration.

No. 2090486

>>2090478
Keeek no way, now that I think about it, all this extreme control she excerpts onto her critics also extend to her diversity hire backup dancers and vocalist choices.

No. 2090493

>>2090467
>I started listening to the genre in 2010
Oh cool another anon who discovered it in 2010, my first song was lollipop by 2ne1 and bigbang. I ended up finding out about that song because it was used in a anime amv so i looked the song up and thats what started it all.

Its ironic how much more fun and creative the music was when only geeks or nerds knew about it but once it skyrocketed into the mainstream and became cool with normies then it went to complete shit.

I knew the music went to shit when this extremely unlikable fat girl who was rude to me and was hooking up with her younger sister's boyfriend, all of a sudden got interested in kpop in 2018 despite previously viewing it as something weird and uncool.

>>2090482
Yeah being a kpop fan as you get older is awkward because all your favorite groups either disband or go on hiatus and all you have left is new groups being pumped every 2 years by chodlings.
Also we all know the music has gotten worse but the videos too have also become disorganized and forgettable.

No. 2090498

>>2090459
I feel I have outgrown it. I'm also busier now, so I don't have as much time to check up on news and updates. I still listen to the comebacks of one group because I like their music, but other than that, I don't care. Also, as >>2090482 said, I have a hard time "stanning" a teenybopper born in like 2007 or 2008. I do listen to older groups like f(x), Baby Vox, T-ara, and Red Velvet because they have some good records. 

No. 2090499

>>2090483
I'm in the friend finder thread already, I mean to get back to emails I've received sometime this week between my wagie hours. Hope this link works

>>>/g/411246

No. 2090500

>>2090493
2ne1 was the only good k-pop group that ever existed. They were interesting and not focused in being the samey uwucutesy aegyo shit everyone does. I miss them. Nothing compared after.

No. 2090503

>>2090499
Oh shit kek nta but I left you an email and you never responded so I thought you weren't interested kek

No. 2090507

>>2090493
My first song was Girls Generations Run Devil Run because I ran across it through the Kesha demo version! I also used to be a humungous weeb so I feel like I'm in the outskirt remnants of how I remember kpop and weeb shit back when it was uncool to enjoy it.

>>2090503
oh my god I'm sorry I am, I've just been busy with work and dealing with some personal shit! I'll email you back within the next few days!

>>2090500
YG has been trying to recreate 2NE1 with blackpink and babymonster but none of them measure up

>>2090498
Anytime I see groups who are 10 years younger than me (I was born in the mid late 90s) I feel fossilized.

No. 2090511

>>2090507
>Anytime I see groups who are 10 years younger than me (I was born in the mid late 90s) I feel fossilized.
That's how I feel when I see anything k-pop kek and I don't even like it. I know blackpink because everyone is obsessed with but it never gave me 2ne1 vibes. I don't know what babymonster is.(no kpop)

No. 2090512

>>2090511
> i dont know who babymonster are

That's a good thing, they are basically a copy of blackpink who was a copy of 2ne1. Basically a bootleg of a bootleg.

No. 2090515

>>2090512
Not to mention YG screwed over soloist Lee Hi and shelved an entire album of hers and repeatedly blackballed 2NE1 back when they were still under yg management. I don't understand why people stan entire agencies, as if stanning a group isn't artificial enough, imagine stanning corporations(no kpop )

No. 2090517

>>2090515
Reminds me of people stanning the company HYBE (mostly because of BTS) when they keep debuting talentless groups with concepts that pander to creeps.

No. 2090521

>>2090515
Oh i forgot about Lee Hi, that poor girl. She was so talented and if YG gave her regular comebacks and promotion she would be close to IU or Ailee level.
I do notice a weird pattern in YG and that's them treating their female soloists and groups much worse than their male ones. The way YG handled Park Bom's scandal so badly and basically abandoned 2ne1 meanwhile bigbang was getting into all sorts of scandals and YG still stood by them, even during burning sun YG was on bigbangs side, also im pretty sure YG got exposed for being a criminal too.

>imagine stanning corporations

The only company stans that currently exist in the 4th generation are hybe stans. >>2090517
I was thinking the same thing. Also its so funny how hybe stans defended Min heejin over that sexualised song "cookie" back when she used to be in good terms with hybe. But now that she is in bad terms with hybe all of a sudden that song is wrong kek.(no kpop)

No. 2090538

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>>2090521
yg hates women and probably groomed his wife. I'll never forget that clip of him on a talent show ogling that korean-swedish trainee girl who had to be 10 years old. he gives me the creeps

>min heejin

I like some of newjeans songs and think their bunny mascot and collaborative efforts with the powerpuff girls concept was cute, but MHJ has been unapologetically using pedo pandering imagery ever since she was under SM entertainment. I'm still not fully understanding of the scope of the drama between her and HYBE over the girl groups but the fact that she wanted "younger" members for newjeans just screams weirdo to me.(no kpop)

No. 2090549

Another thing that pesters me about fandoms for celebrities is the jealous nature of male celebrities fans towards their girlfriends and wives, and how the aforementioned go insofar as to spread false rumors about them or their relationship.

No. 2090573

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>>2090549
Agreed, reminds me of this pic kek. Some fans also try to act like the girlfriend/wife is downright evil and go on about how the male celeb deserves better or whatever even if he's a legit abuser, while oftentimes the worst thing his girlfriend did was be slightly mean.

No. 2090651

>>2090573
The discourse surrounding hating Henry Cavills girlfriend is fucking bonkers considering how incel-ish Henry is

No. 2090708

>>2090573
KEK I got flash backs to the 1D fandom era

No. 2090851

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>>2090573
This reminds me of how upset fans of this French rat were when he was first seen with Kylie Jenner because they’ve deluded themselves into thinking he’s intellectually above her for some reason kek

No. 2090860

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Samefagging but Club Chalamet is the prime example for a stan. I think once you’ve started investing in stocks solely because of some random actor you’ve gone way too far kek

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>>2090860
>>2090851
(Samefag) She also takes every chance she gets to enter his personal space. Top left is his sister or something. It just gives me the creeps.

No. 2090868

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>>2090851
Who’s gonna tell her?

No. 2091078

I liked this one specific singer so much but I found him as a person just talking kind of boring so now he's my oc and appears in almost every single daydream I have. At least I'm not harassing him but he hasn't been off my mind even one day since I was 14, he's just such a unique beauty.

No. 2106998

How do you deal when you hate seeing someone praised because you used to stan them and because you used to stan them you know they're basically a scumbag and that's why you no longer stan them? How do you like get over the annoyance you feel when you see the general public be retardedly oblivious to their ways?

No. 2107011

>>2106998
You close tab and watch a movie or something

No. 2107026

>>2107011
god I need a new therapist



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